he's planning on leaving... what should i do?
967557
I sincerely hope you aren't confusing toughness for indifference.  I was married to someone who didn't express his feelings.  We did stay together for six years, but knowing how I felt and how similar it is to what you are going through, I hope you aren't in store for a world of hurt.\n\nPlease talk to him openly and let him know your concerns.  You should definitely do this sooner than later - when it would hurt even more if it isn't what you want to hear.  \n\nI wish you all the best and hope everything works out for you.  Just remember that sometimes when we look back it's the unanswered prayers that we are grateful for...
623542
this is not something simple. i've been through something similar to what you are talking about and got stuck in a 5 years relation just because i was afraid of leaving. By time he might get more and more agressive and possesive. My advice is to leave now and not to postpone but you should also learn how to stand up to what you think is right and where your benifit is. you should not leave your job because he's there, ignore him and if he does not like it then let him leave the job not you.... My heart is with you take good care
814623
Perhaps be grateful for the child you have and respect that he is honest enough to say he doesn't want anymore and start planning the rest of your life together.\n\nI don't want to discount your desires.  However, what does this say about your comittment if you are considering leaving because you are not getting your way.\n\nIn some respects, it sounds like he already has another child, and she is threatening to leave if she doesn't get his way.\n\nYou've got to either find a way to convince him to be enthusiastic about having another child, or he has to find a way to convince you to be enthuisatic about keeping the family size just as it is.\n\nWork on that, and leave the childish thoughts about leaving to the kids.
1109151
Do what's best for yourself.  People will come and go all your life, but you'll always have you.  If you think the relationship is stronger with the one who is leaving, that's who you should stay with.
301568
Dont go.It makes it worse. If you dont want to be with him end it.If you go on holiday and you end up falling out its much worse as your alone in a foreign country
650990
It will go on for as long as you allow it.  He obviously has intimacy issues and since it's unlikely that he'll change, it's up to you to decide if you want to put up with it.  Tell him that if he leaves again not to bother coming back.
998473
Leave him. You can do better.
987309
leave while he is at work.\nhave a girlfriend come by and say you are going out with her.\nsay you are going home.\nhave the cops escort you for your safety.\ndont come home from work.\ncall his parents and have them come over. leave with them.
1126153
Wake up.  You need to leave him alone until he does leave.  And another thing, how do you know he won't leave you too?  Step back and check out your situation really close before its too late.
689453
We both know what will happen if the two of you stop having sex.......most likely, he'll be gone. If that's what you want to do, then , by all means do it, but just be mentally prepared for the consequences. I applaud your decision myself! You seem very mature. Good Luck.
640588
Dear you are too young to decide on these issues. But you want to move away from him you have a reason to move away. U have studies as priority and concentrate on that. If he really loves you then breaking away is always not so easy and you have to go through that ache. Make up your mind and there is lot of life ahead and tell him about your decision with the positive note.
631226
Leave him, chances are you will be next This is how alot of domestice violence begins. \n\nBut call a family member and plan it ahead of time.
252331
It just depends on how much you are willing to take from him.If you can't take anymore then leave.He obviously isnt going to quit doing whatever he keeps doing. Its been 5 times. Maybe you should seperate for awhile. Just to get away from the crap. I
1096082
you already know the answer. you will leave him or start cheating yourself to get even. your decision is to leave with your dignity or not.
669391
Be away from him for a little while (like take a family trip or something) then he'll want to spend much more time w/ you.
526858
it will be best for you to leave him now as you dont have kids
978842
Either move back home where you have family and friends, or find some new friends who can keep you company while he is away.  Depending on the type and closeness of the friendship, all your needs could be well satisfied.  :)  Enjoy!