My brother has been released from prison.  How can I help him be a better person than what he was?
969759
Teach by example...the very things you do that make you a good person are the simple things he too should do...work hard, save money, educate himself where appropriate...\n\nThe important thing for your brother to do is set goals for himself...what does he want out of life?  both long-term and short-term...then figure out what he needs to do to obtain those goals and break it down into tasks...\n\nMake sure each task has some sort of short term goal that will act as a reward...\n\nAnd just love the heck out of him too...be patient and never, ever, ever give up on him...even if he gives up on himself...your brother might just be that cross you're expected to bear...\n\nBest wishes,\nBilly!
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You can find some great input on this issue at\nWWW.prisontalk.com. It is a support and information group for the friends and families of inmates and those who are facing trial/sentencing.\nGo check it out!
550732
he's in jail now what can he do for you while he's in there. you need to think whats best for you & ecspecially this child. i know a couple guys that did the same thing to their girl so they had support while they were in jail than once they were out it was like screw you. You deserve better good luck!!
321499
Give him time and space to get over what you told him.\nI'm sure that one day he will return .. as the brother you've always known him to be.
449892
uuum, what's the question and how does your 20 year-old brother in jail fit into this?
25236
There is a wonderful support and information group at http://prisontalk.com\nSomeone there will have your answer.\nI've got a "someone special" locked up, too, and this group has helped me a great deal.
530807
The best thing that can be done for your brother is to let him have to get himself out of trouble.  Don't bail him out if he gets arrested.  Don't give him money to cover his bills.  Don't talk to anyone that he has wronged, make him do it himself.  Making him face the consequences for his actions is the only way he will learn that it really doesn't pay to get in trouble.
549223
Girl - are we related???  My brother is the EXACT SAME WAY and has done the same thing to me.  He's been this way since he was around 20 as well but he's freakin 31 now and still a bum.  However, my mother is still alive so he's lucky - and that's where he lives.  She enables him and that is why he will never change.\n\nI say you have to show him TOUGH LOVE.  Do not enable him to be unemployed, jobless, etc. or else he will never change. Some people have to learn the hard way.  Let him fend for himself.  Help him at a distance.  If you feel you need to let him live with you - place strong conditions on it - such as he must respect you and speak to you accordingly and the first time he doesn't - he's out.  Do not bend on that.  Then make his butt get a job and go back to school to get his GED.  Have an agreement with him before you let him back in that those are the conditions and if he does not do them - he will have to live elsewhere.  There are shelters in every state. Be strong and firm.  And pray for your brother as well.
815763
Give it a few years. Your brother is very aggrivating right now but after a few years, perhaps you will be the best of friends.
653384
To tell you the truth you may want to wait till he is in prison.That way you can hold hands hug kiss and have a Little more family and friends there.You will have to wait till he gets out of coratien but i think you both would be happier.Good luck.
667842
If you were a victim of this person, contact the police for advice.\n\nIf not, I say stay away from this person for your own well being.  By the time that a person is old enough to be sent prison, they are already pretty much set in their ways, and rarely change their thinking, habits, or life styles.\n\nFind someone who has better values.
69841
become a prisoner for someone .
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You need to do WHATEVER the prisoner and his sister tell you to do, because they really OUGHT to be running your life.\n\nYou obviously lack the ability to control yourself, so let others control you.\n\nOr-- you could grow a backbone and put and end to it.
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Sorry to say this -- but LET HIS REAR END SIT IN THE JAIL CELL and ROT ... \n\nThat is the ONLY way he is going to GROW UP ... and if YOU or others continue to cover up and enable his abuses (and he is NOT held responsible for his conduct), then he will NEVER grow Up!\n\nYOU need to be strong -- and say NO!  NO! I will NOT post your bond.  NO! I will NOT cover up for you anymore.  NO! I will NOT pay your bills.  NO! I will NOT pay for your attorney fees.  NO! I will NOT take the cost of the Phone Calls you make from Jail pleading and cursing at me for the Bond money/  \n\nNO!  YOU, my son, are on your OWN -- and YOU will be RESPONSIBLE from this time forth.  YOU totalled the car, YOU destroyed Privat Property, and you do Drugs.  \n\nDO THE TIME NOW ... and get yourself clean.  The pocketbook is dry, no more will I be the VICTIM here, and no more will I enable your irresponsible conduct.
1033157
Umm details please? You can help by being supportive and kind to him. Don't treat him like a retard.
48730
First of all, I wanted to say that I'm sorry about your situation. Sounds like ur in a hard place because you love your husband and even though he did wrong, your family should let you be happy and if being with him makes you happy, they should accept it. I think, however, you may never get them to fully understand or accept the situation until he is out of jail. It probably won't matter to them how sweet or lovable he is behind bars. They will have to see for themselves if he continues to be the great guy you say he is once he is released.  If they don't accept him after that, I don't know what else you can do about it but pray they will and continue to have a healthy and blessed marriage. Best of Luck!
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Let my brother deal with it on his own.  He's an adult, let him work it out.