I need help, I'm 16 & argue with my boyfriend all the time for no reason! how can i calm things down a bit?
954352
Ok well some of these answers are just plain stupid. Geez arguments happen in every relationship people if you break up everytime you encounter an argurment or disagreement you will be looking for that right guy forever.\n\nFirst off, both of you need to just lighten up. I don't know what you are fighting about but many times arguments happen because of stupid disagreements (this is most often the case in younger relationships). Listen to what he has to say, have him listen to what you have to say. Try and find a compromise. The best couples are the ones that are willing to compromise (give a little to get a little). It doesn't always have to be one person's way or another.\n\nSecondly, he is 16, he is going to be immature. Some girls are too at that age. Hell I know girls that are in their early teens that are immature and some guys too. Just remember he may be 16 but he is still a youth. Give it some time and try and help him along rather than confront him on it.\n\nFinally if none of this works, weigh the pros and cons of the relationship. Can you see yourself with this guy in 5 years, 3 years, hell 1 year from now and more importantly do you want to.\n\nBEst of luck with everything.
890557
Well sounds like you two need to sit down together and have a long conversation about your relationship, and why you are fighting over things.  And decide if maybe your lives are going in different directions and its time to end it. Or fight through it. All relationships have tought times. Its up to those involved to decide if they want to work through the problems or not. \n\nIf he is unwilling or uncooperative to sit and discuss this. I would say its time to move on as difficult as that may be.
663986
Ohh god u really need some help. Firstly dont be scared for whatever he says, he knows u r decent enough and tolerate whatever he says for the sake of good reputation. So just make him look like a fool to himself. Do this step by step. Firstly when he scold u just say how much u want to scold me just do it, and l am just keeping my phone on my desk and do my work when u finish just hang out. Like this will make him gradually feel stupid. Always be nice with words to him this will make him clam down coz from ur question l feel making him angry is no use at all. Finally having a bf like this for ur future will be a big problem, so slowly get out from him even u loves him. This will be a big problem to u in future as no  trust nor any support to u from the man.
1044301
Well you could try explaining to them how it makes you feel and how it affects you. You may need to speak with them separately and when they are calm, Tell them how it makes you feel and that it hurts to hear them fighting and arguing as you love them both. It may help calm the disagreements, but it probably will not eliminate them.
616335
First of all, U need to more of a woman and step up in this relationship and take action tell he neeed to get it together or u will move on with ur life. Instead of argue with a complete wall, u need to focus on ur own life and get ur self together and be independed and stand on ur own. I bet u r young and still got ur whole ahead of u, and need to get into colleges and job to find ur way back into reality. I know u got ur head on ur shoulder and also have dream of ur own. Focus on ur dreams and stop trying change a man that dont wanna be change. U need to change ur situation and like I said: "focus on u."  Now men comes and goes, but for one thang U have ur self to fall back on. If u have kids then u need to focus on u and ur kids.  That man u have right now, is a grow-a*s-man. He is not going change for u or any body els. So quit trying to change him. If he wont have sex wit u then find somebody else. Now its up to u to decided if u want out of this relationship or not!!
453354
Try and talk to him. tell him that you don't like it when you guys fight and it really bugs you.Also, you can just avoid him or try and count to 10 and start being nice to him.
710503
You are not different.  Every 16 year old on this planet stresses, just not over the same things or in the same ways.  Some hold it in and never say anything.  You are normal.  You just need to learn where your safety valve is so you can let some of that steam out!  Talk to your school counselor about stress management.  Or, if you can find a class on stress management in your community, take it.  It will make all the difference.  Can you talk to your parents?  They may have some good suggestions.
383881
You can't.  Period.  Sorry, but if you went into the relationship thinking you could, don't ever do that again.  Let him know that you won't tolerate being controlled, and if he can't live with that, than walk away as soon as you can.  He could turn violent.
9154
Right in the middle of an "argument" jump in & point out to both of them that they fight & argue constantly. Point out the fact that it is very childish & how tired you are of it. Whatever the underlying problem is between them should/will surface....once that surfaces, it can be resolved & harmony restored.
489421
Depending on the argument, usually though it takes me an entire day and night to calm down from an argument. The next morning I'm pretty cool down than the boyfriend can talk to me.
243665
i think you should talk to him. both of you need to find out what is the problem that has both of you too constantly arguing. Maybe you can both see about having like a couples therapy thing.  sometimes its best for someone from the outside to see whats going on. I think if both of you love each other so much you should do what you can to make it work if after all that your still arguing more than you not arguing well than maybe you two should go your seperate ways. it wont mean you two dont love each other just that you to aren't meant for each other. but i would do what i can before saying its over definitely. good luck and best wishes.
326041
just talk to him about what makes you mad...my boyfriend does the same things, and when i tell him something i don't like, he stops, or if he does it by accident, he's really sweet about it and makes up for it...also, if he's pissing you off, make sure he knows it at that time, cuz if he doesn't, he'll keep doing whatever he is doing wrong...make sure he knows you really want it to work, and you'll do whatever you can
659537
16- Never acts his age, unless it's serious, I think I'm about to break up w/ him....
968032
Do you want to be in a relationship where you always argue or just argue occasionally?\n\nIf you're not happy and fighting all the time just move on.\n\nIf you can do better you should.
109758
Are you scared, because he might harm you? If that is the case, you should bring someone with you, like an older brother, or a friend..You don't want someone, who is going to make you scared all the time..Best thing to do, is call him on the phone, and explain to him, that you are going to break up with him..If he is going to hurt you, tell your mom or dad, they will know how to handle it..Good Luck, to you, I hope everything works out for you..
512698
BUT NOTHING! There's no sense and no reason to go through life arguing and unhappy! Gurl, life is too short! You need to figure out WHY you two argue so much! Figure that out then find out how to eliminate it. Second, no one ever accomplished anything arguing. As women we know men know how to push buttons (and visa verse), but we make a mistake, by giving them what they want a retaliation against them, they win! Next, time you two get into it, if it person walk off on the phone say you know what I'm going to talk to you later and hang up. If you still continue to argue after taking this advice. I don't know what to say except maybe it's best to split. Some ppl just can't be together. Communication is essential and discovering out the root cause of the problem and eliminating it is key. Good Luck to you both!
815050
If anyone ever tells you that they do not fight in a relationship...do not believe them.  As long as your communication is there and you work through the arguements - you will be fine.  Just do your best to not bring up the past, no name calling, no physical abuse, no destroying property.  It's OK to argue just do it constructively.  You both need to listen to what the other is saying.  You will be fine.  Good Luck!