Leaving my husband for another man?
969892
I think that you are crossing to a home-alone process... And the new guy is filling that blank, but if I was you, I better wait till my true love comes back to put all my feeling together and make a real decision, out of true fellings...
6654
It may not be wrong.  It may be socially acceptable.  You are the one who made the marriage vow.  The real question might be why did you go looking for another man before you terminated your relationship with your husband?  You are the one who must live with your choices.
809905
Sounds like you need space for yourself. Dump the husband since he isn't working with the reconciliation. Then give your self space. Don't let this other guy enter your life too quickly, sounds like he did just that when you were separated. When you are stable from the finalized divorce, then look at your prospects.
931171
Its a couple ways to look at this situation - 1st - is your husband seeing or sleeping with someone else?  b/c if he's not, then u fucking or seeing someone else is gonna cause him to do one of 3 things:  he's gonna do it b/c u are or he's gonna come running back b/c he doesn't want to lose u or he's gonna kick every ass in sight b/c he' hurt and pissed and possibly feels disrespected.  - 2nd - Are u doing this b/c u just need some release or do u feel u can potentially make a new life with this person u want to date.  \n  There is no time limit on how long u should wait when you are separated but be aware that there could be some consequences, I'd say if you are sure that your marriage is over then go for it, even if its not,  the bottomline is he's not there with you, seeing to your needs but neither are you for him. \n     This is tricky, b/c you dating could be a good thing for your marriage or it could mean the end.  I think you, still love and respect your husband and marriage b/c if you didn't this wouldn't be a hard decision for you.  He's not there so he shouldn't get upset with you for dating but that doesn't mean that he won't.
276969
No, he isn't.  I think it would be in your best interest to look into getting a divorce.  He has basically abandoned you for someone else.  You deserve better than a guy who walks out on you.
17670
Actually Im having a affair right now-Iam a Christian women who is a leader in my church and have been having a on an off again affair with the same man for almost 3yrs  It has come to the point that I am considering leaving my husband for this man.  Its a very confusing feeling.  My husband and I have been rocky for about 4yrs and I actually met this man when we were seperated and a I was going to another church.  This other man is now in jail and I am sooo considering being with him as DUMB as it sounds.  Dont be fooled my husband is not a innocent bystandered he has cheated on my on three occasionsw and its been about 2yrs and now he wants to put 100% into our relationship but Iam very tired of making it work and just want out. I have never been unfaithful before and I would of never considered having a affair before I feel in love with this other man
827179
he was never yours to begin with. You need to find happiness in your own backyard. find out what you need to make your own marriage happy, and filled with the  passion that you shared with this other man.
344145
Hmmm...I can not advocate that cheating on your husband no matter what the circustances are is right because if you are unhappy you at least owe it to him to voice your emotions and to move on. Just because you don't have a good relationship does not mean that his feelings should be neglected just to satisfy your own. Since you two have been together for quite some time don't you think that you owe him that much to be honest? You say that he treats you badly and that you are unhappy but I'm sorry that doesn't justify your cheating in anyway especially considering that you have no children involved that might cause you to be stuck in staying. As for the guy that you are seeing now, maybe you are in love and perhaps a future with him will be great but you are more or less in that fairytale stage of a relationship where they can do no wrong and this will fade. If this is something that you honestly feel is worth pursuing in order to make yourself happy then go for it by all means. Just remember that your happiness does not need to be based on a man and that you can find it yourself no matter what the outcome. I think that the betrayal and hurt is going to be worst for your husband who has no idea of what is about to surface and that for you it might be hard but that you'll make it since you have realized that this marriage is no longer what you want. I'm in no way trying to put you down or belittle you for your actions because it happens to the best of us since we are all only human but I would definitely consider your situation a little further and make sure that this guy just doesn't look like a better option because you dont really have the repsonsbilities and obligations that you share with your husband. There are no stings attached at this point with this new guy so it makes it all light-hearted and fun and if you do both embark on a relationship (especially a long distance one) there will be difficulties that will eventually come along. I would suggest taking some time out for yourself once you get a divorce and not rush into anything too quickly. I think that you need to hash out somethings with yourself instead of seeking comfort from a man that is merely supplying what is lacking in ur current relationship. Obviously if you decided to get married to your spouse, these feelings at one point or another were there with him and look at what has become of that. I think you need to just really spend some time with yourself and getting to reaquainted with your independent single self before finding an identity in someone else. I'm sure you are a good person and I hope that whatever choice you make that you will find the happiness that you seek. Just remember the feeling of everyone else involved and don't let your heart do all of the thinking for you during a time when you need to use your head. Best of luck to you:)
66434
um - divorce him obviously and set you both free to find another man each!
930671
Well, ideally a husband and wife are soulmates who act selflessly for the good of the other.  If you were in an ideal relationship it would seem fitting and right for you to help your husband achieve success by coming back to the USA.  However, your situation seems far from ideal.  It sounds as if you are well within your rights to end the relationship based on his past and current behaviour.  Perhaps you are unhappy with the situation and are toying with the idea of moving on, but you feel a little guilty about it.  You might consider a trial period of seperation and see how things go.   He apears to be the selfish one, and does not seem to value your marriage as much as you do.  \n     \n    The days and months to come may be painful and difficult.  But do not lose heart.        \nMay wisdom, strength, and peace be with you.
921165
Well, you made the move so you will need to end it with the man you love. Why the move though? Why leave the man you love behind? I'm sure it was a real good reason to leave him. You can try to continue your love but there will be difficult times ahead. Prepare yourself. It's is time to move forward. Good luck.....SAM
515100
although you seem to be going through a lot of pain, and i do feel for you, the problem  is still the same...you want two wives! can't do that man, sorry. there is no way that you can fully love two people the same. you have to let one of them go. you might not think it's fair to you, but that's selfish. have you ever thought about what the women want? stop being selfish and let one of them move on and find someone who is willing to be with only them.
211446
First off, dont leave your husband for someone who would cheat on their girl. He'll only end up doing the same to you. Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. The same goes for you. If you cheat now, you'll only do it again. IF your boss wants to leave his gf b/c he's been meaning to, then let him. And You should only leave your husband, if you were going to do it regardless of your boss. Once you are both free for the right reasons, you can also be together for the right reason - because you both want to be together & be happier than you BOTH were than before. It has to be equal for both of you, or one of you is going to be making a mistake. Hopefully you'll both be happy together...Good Luck!
175221
Yes its cheating.  Your vows said in sickness and in health.  Just enjoy as much time as you do have left with him, take care of him as long as he lives.  I Don't see why you can't enjoy the other man's friendship though.  After all, friendship is what makes the world go round.  That and our polar axis, gravitational pull or whatever, LOL.
497532
Love is a tough thing.  Be sure you are truly out of love before finalizing it with your husband.  And if you want to continue the relationship with the other man, please make sure to be divorced with the husband.  Since the relationship is long distance, you may need to spend more time together before deciding marriage with the new one.
117844
Probably not...He has no insentive to move on because he has you on the side and still gets to stay married to someone else.  If he is having problems with one of you then there is the other so why would he need to ever choose.  The longer this goes on though the more likely it is he will break it off with you and return to his wife.  In the end your the odd one out and the easiest to get rid of.
164260
If your marriage is mostly stable, consider the outcomes that are possible. What if the person you divorce your husband for doesn't return your feelings? If you know you'd be happier divorced, with or without this other man, then you should take the divorce. Otherwise, I'd try marriage counseling, because it doesn't sound like you're very happy with your marriage right now.