Breakup Question...To call or not to call?
971186
Yeah, she needs to be strong and NOT CALL him!! I know it's difficult, but she needs to see the big picture here.  It's very simple really what you chase will run away from you....so tell her to wait...even though it's hard.....and then when he does call (and you know he will...even if it's just wondering why she hasn't called him...lol) she needs to let him know that she's getting on with her life and that she's doing GREAT without him....going out with friends, having fun, not giving him a second thought...This will get his attention and make him think twice....it will  make her more valuable in his eyes....It sounds to me like he had it really good and took it for granted....If there is anything real there....this is the way to save it.  Sorry it's so lengthy...hope that helps! Best wishes!!
112024
i wouldnt call if he doesnt answer it will just hurt u more how often do yall email each other? id just try to move on if your ment to be hell come back
553022
If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
670567
Move on is the best answer. You broke up for a reason. Always remmeber that reason.
560607
I think both of you need a serious talk. If he says his feelings decreased but he says he made a huge mistake you need to ask how he feels now. Cause if he doesn't want to be with you in that way, you're only torturing yourself by hanging out with him and talking to him on the phone. If he feels that he wants to get back together then he should tell you when both of you have your serious talk. If he says he needs to think about it and you want to wait then don't pressure him. Show interest but not insecurity. I know it would be hard to stop talking to someone that you love if it wont work out. But sometimes you need your heart to hurt a little bit so it would heal. Just keep yourself busy. If it's meant to be then it will happen. There's plenty other relationship experience's that you will go through and not all of them will work even though your certain they're the one. And yes, I'm telling you this from personal experience. Good luck...
762749
Just b/c your the one who broke things off doesn't make it any less painful for you.  You are still going to go through the "missing him" part...  Just make sure you don't go back and forth on your decision and get back together with him.  Stick to your guns.  You made your decision, now stick with it.
1112252
That would depend on what your intentions are. If your just looking for a piece of a**than yes! Unless she is the kind of girl that likes to get it too. In which case its not so bad.\n But If your calling because you miss her and want to see if you can pick things up where they left off, than I dont think there is anything wrong with calling. Is she single? That might be an issue to consider also.\n If your just calling to talk to her because she is more of a friend than should be ok also.\n Either way, dont call if dont have good intentions. I think that everyone deserves to have a happy life and if you broke up maybe the reason was enough to just stay away from each other. But maybe it was just a mistake that can be overlooked with time and another try at love.\n Good luck with your decision!
1178801
if you two broke up for only her reason of 'being too comfortable', I would not phone her. It would set you back a bit I think- it does for me anyway. She obviously didn't treasure and revere you or the friendship/relationship you offered. I think your line of thinking is best for you right now, she did in a sense throw you away and you need to be surrounded by people who treat you better than that. Maybe some day you two could be friends, but it might seriously take you years to get over her. Don't waste anymore time and let her keep reeling you back in- go on with your life!\n\nGod bless
835628
you have to come on here for an answer??? Leave the relationship behind if it isn't what you want anymore. Move on.
902403
have nothing more to do with him .. when he calls just dont  talk to him .. the more you communcate with him the more he will see it as you may want to get back together
903443
I think it is too soon for you both to be in contact with eachother as you say it's too painful right now.  The best thing to do for the moment, until you get your own head sorted is cut all ties.  I know it might be hard but you need to straighten your own head and heart out first and be strong enough before you can be friends with him.  You are not in the right frame of mind now, it is too soon since you broke up, and staying in contact might only cause more pain.  I broke up with my ex in June and we haven't been in touch since.  I know at the start it was very hard as I went from hearing from him everyday to nothing but, now I'm a lot stronger.  I'm happier now that it's over as we weren't right for eachother but if I stayed in contact with him I know I'd probably be still hurting and in the same situation right now.  Time is a great healer and WILL make you stronger.  Just give yourself some "you" time.  Hope it works out for you!
303693
You yourself said it was a fling..leave it..talking to this guy wont make any difference.. if you need it off your chest..post a question on yahoo answers!! As for closure..he is with another woman now..is that not closure enough.. the thing here is your expecting some form of logic in this situation..relationships..even flings dont work this way..live and let live...spend your precious energy on someting and someone worthwhile..including YOU..\nGood Luck..
732013
I would give it a little bit of time and then ask yourself. Are you ready to give this another try or are you starting to feel better and are able to move on?\n\nSomeone once told me people break up for a reason and that they should always stick to their original idea. Of course this is not always the case but just do what you feel is right deep down. \n\nHope everything works out!
148042
There is no good way to break up with a person. No matter what,  if the person still cares for you, they will be hurt. My advice would be to either call him, write to him or go and see him and be as honest with him as possible. Give him the reason why you wish to break up, tell him you are sorry and then end either the call, letter or visit. If you can remain friends that is always the best.
448515
Well u went a yr,,, some people can't even go that long without wondering if they should call the ex, \n\nBut if u want to call just 2 say hi it's cool, if ur calling because ur hoping may be u can get back together with him  be prepared, it's been more then a yr he could have a girlfriend by now. And if u find that out it could hurt all 3 of u, hurt u because u were hoping u could get back with him, u her because his ex is calling after more then a yr and she'll know why your calling, hurt him because  he will having some explaining to do.\n\nSo think about it first.
597256
Always remember that an ex is an ex for a reason. Obviously you two broke up for a reason and she nees to see that. You should just simply call her and explain that you arent trying to be mean but you dont want anything more with her. It sounds like she has codependency issues as well if she is going from you to a gf so soon. Just simply tell her so that it doesnt get out of hand. Dont ignore her because that can send mixed messages and it could be hard for you to stop later.
1059929
Get's better in time. Just do yourself a favor if you want it over. Don't contact the guy you need to heal so does he.