he has a girlfriend,i love him, i know she doesen't make him happy..what should i do to make him understand?
954470
It doesnt sound like your making him happy.
689255
Well he seems happy to let her treat him like dirt, so he must get off on it somehow. He may know he deserves better but be finding it difficult to extricate himself from her. Just treat him as well as you can, be very kind and supportive and freindly so he sees how good it would be with you. However, dont start dating him until he dumps her - if you do it will just take him longer to get round to it.
1177456
First, talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and what you think could be better. If he's really serious about the relationship, he'll be more than happy to work on things. Don't out it all on him, you both should work things out together, even if it's on his part.
430928
Dump him.  hahahaha just kidding.\n\nMaybe a few nights out with the girls will get him to stop taking you for granted, which is what I think you are telling me is going on.  When he starts to notice, don't be stubborn, don't deny it, say plainly, "Why shouldn't I?  You are taking me for granted!"  You might even walk out of the room to drive your point home.  Stay gone.\n\nGet in touch with him the next day and apologize for your "tantrum".  (if this is unlike you, all the better).  Let him know that you care about him and let him know you still want to do "special" things for him, but you can't be expected to stick around if he doesn't demonstrate his appreciation.\n\nDon't make a habit of fighting like this.  If he gets it, he gets it.  If he doesn't... well, I'm single. =)
82464
If he doesn't love you enough to be with you and only you regardless of anyone elses feelings then this isn't really love.  He is just being a player and your his girl on the side.  Nothing can stop two people who really love each other from being with each other and only each other.
493961
First issue its nice that you want to make him happy, but don't completely get rid of who you are to completly cater to him.  Ask yourself this question... While your sitting up here asking you could do to be perfect for him, is he asking what he could do to be perfect for you?  You cant make someone else the complete focuse of your life, ive seen it happen so many time where girls definition of herself is her relationship and the shits not healthy.  Make sure you love yourelf before changing yourself for someone else cuz if he loves you for you thats all you need to worry about.
94088
well if you love him tell him. If he would rather stay with his girlfriend then he is just using you. Sorry to say it but it's true. Although the guy may beg to differ.
310494
you should find time.. and catch him in a good mood... you should talk to him.. talk about the things you agree on... and what you do that take up his time... tell him your true feelings about him.... talk about the things you agreed on... ask him.. what he found in her and didn't find in you... if he really loves her more than you... dont spend time crying over him.. there are a lot of guys there waiting for their juliet to come... you have to enjoy life now... and have fun! i guess he already moved on.. and so do you.... so go ahead! keep your head up high and smile... dont waste those tears ever again! :)
418871
Well, to behonest with you, i'd suggest that you just sit back and relax. Who told you that you don't make your boyfriend happy, hm? Was it him? No..\nJust listen to your guts, not to your brains :) And, just in case you should ask yourself if your boyfried loves you or not: well, he's together with you, so why bothering yourself with this additional question :) Stay cool, relax, listen to your heart and never mind making him happy - you'll never know how, if you don't ask him directly :)\nAnd if you both want to 'spice up your life', I guess you don't need any advice, cuz men response directly to one thing - and you certainly know what I mean.\ntc, marifa5970 from Austria/Europe
176852
No, he doesn't know how to treat a girl friend.  He is probably just trying to play it cool and all.  Some time when your alone tell him your not impressed with his actions and that if he love you he needs to learn how to treat you properly.
68055
it sounds like he is realy immature,or playing games, or looking for the best of both worlds... either way don't let yourself be treated like a basketball. have the self worth to say "i deserve better" and let him know. IF he really does love you he will follow his heart. all you have to do is tell him your not going to be some second place when he says he loves you and only likes her. \ni know this doesn't really answer your question, but sometimes the best answer is to a different question, that you havn't asked... good luck
970802
Have you just asked him.  Ask him how he feels for you than ask how he feels about her.  Then ask if he had to choose who would it be.  if he says he don't know than maybe you should get some space but don't disappear.  If you can't handle his feeling for her than you should give ur self some time. Don't be with a man who loves someone else.  but if he tells you his feeling for you are stronger than his feeling for her than you stay and fight for him.  He seems honest considering he let you both know about each other, so I think he'll be honest about his feelings for the both of you.  You Know, even when people love each other they do grow apart and even though they have nine years he may not be the same man and may actually be the one for you now.
1987
The truth is this, there is no way to satisfy your girlfriend, or anyone, for that matter.  Men and women, it seems, have this belief that they can "please" each other or "make" each other happy.  It is a nice thought, but it doesn't really happen that way.  Think about this, you are upset and your friend tells you a joke that makes you feel better...right?  Wrong.  You chose to feel better by seeing the humor in the joke and allowed yourself to open up enough to be influenced by the humor, losing your grip on those negative thoughts and feelings you had previously.  It is the same with women, in this case, your girlfriend.  \n\nYou can't satisfy her, but there is something you can do to improve the situation.  First start with you, being the best person you can be...to yourself, to others, and to her.  Be confident, be yourself, be all the things you want to be when fear and self-consiousness set in, and be true to who you are.  Then be selfless, helpful, caring, compassionate, diligent, and patient with those around you.  As for your girlfriend, you should follow your heart, care for her, give her yourself, be WITH her when you are around her, share, be thoughtful and kind, and show her that you care.  Although you cannot "force" or "make" her do anything, you can still be the best person possible, making each day you live worth living, making yourself a person of value, and creating a certain magic in your life.  All of these things will not only draw better people to you in your life, but your girlfriend will be more "open" to your influenc and "willing" to share whatever you wish with you.  \n\nA last note.  Women "feel" rather than "think" their ways into better relationships.  Men are mostly the other way.  If you love her and care for her, you should take the risk and tell her what is in your heart as often as you can, show her what you feel without the "act", and do for her what you would want done for yourself.  The best advice in any relationship, including the one you have with yourself, is this: "If you don't want people to treat you like an @ssho!e, then don't act like one".....in your case it would sound more like this "If you want to satisfy her, then let her satisfy you".  Do all the things to her that you want her to do to you (or have done to you, if you are content in the relationship).  Relationships are a balance, and if yours needs some adjustment, then make those adjustments.  Don't worry if you think you are working too hard, when she realizes what you are doing, she will be more than willing to do her part as well (if she is right for you, that is....and doing this will give you a good indicator if she is or isn't "the one"....)\n\nI hope this helped.  Good luck!
401323
if your boyfriend dosn't make you feel loved and happy.. WHY THE HELL ARE YOU STILL WITH HIM!?!?!?\n\nyou are better than that. you don't deserve to be treated that way. Get rid of him and find someone worthy of you.
215704
It seems that you two don't see your relationship on the same level. You're looking for some sort of attachment, or commitment maybe, and he's just looking for...fun. \nMy advice is to talk to him and try to get him on the same level, or at least let him know that you aren't on the same levels.\nBecause as of now, it seems to me that he's using you when he doesn't feel like going to other girls. \nUnless you really want to take that, I suggest you talk to him and tell him how you feel about him for one, and tell him how you feel about him going to other girls when you love him and he loves you.\nBest of luck.\nCommunication is the key.
475151
He's feeling threatened and vulnerable. If my girlfriend told me that, I'd start wondering how long until the interest in women grows stronger than her interest in me and she leaves me. And this probably made him feel inadequate, like he wasn't good enough to satisfy you himself. It may not sound logical, but our emotions often aren't. The fact that he got upset is likely a sign that he cares deeply for you. If you care about him, make him feel manly and make it clear to him that you need his manliness (unless you don't, in which case there is likely a break-up in your future).
80017
That isnt the way a mature individual reacts to a normal relationship problem. He may have some problems or he may be cheating or something like that. Either way, someone who deals so badly with a girl he said he loved is not someone worth your time.