My b/f has started learning my mother tongue...?
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I try to keep my mother in law out of my relationship as much as possible,
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You should get an American or English girlfriend - always the fastest way to learn!  If you're already married/involved, sorry, hope that doesn't offend you ;)
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I doubt there is a true "Right" answer to your question, but I offer some thoughts.\n\n  First I applaud you both for being wise enough to have learned from your history, but I suggest it shouldn't be a burden you have to carry for the balance of your lives.\n\n   Fear of the "L" word isn't so much the issue I think, as fear of the definitions it encompasses in what it usually leads to.IE: Another marriage.\n\n   Certainly you can LOVE another and NOT marry them, or you can discuss "L" and pace yourselves in its effects and growth.\n\n   You already show enough intelligence to be able,,hopefully, to "NOT make the same mistakes, but that isn't promised. What is pretty clear is that those mistakes will offer RED FLAGS should either of you slip into those situations or behaviors with each other.\n\n   I suggest you might begin by saying,,,"How would you feel, if I said, "I Love YOU?"\n\n   I suspect HE won't faint away, or run screaming from you after hearing it. He might even go,,"Whew,,, Me Too YOU!"\n\n   Communication usually brings clarity. SAY IT. Then after you've both stated it, believe in it still, you can discuss what it means to each of you and not always wonder, what if, and actually make a plan for life,,, with or without instantly marrying after professing Love.\n\nRev. Steven
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I think if I were you, I'd just let her have fun with the language.  Just have the letters of the alpahabet out and just make some fun words with them.  I really understand how she feels, even though I am not Japanese or learning English, but I am learning Spanish, and I think of it as a bore.  English is one of the most complex languages to learn orally, because when you say something, it never, or hardly ever is the same on paper, and all of the vowel sounds make it really difficult.\nA tip might also be to watch some English TV shows, with Japanese subtitles if she needs them, or like pick a movie she really likes in Japanese, and switch the language to English so she hears it that way.  Ears are where a lot of a language is learned.
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Well, I wait a few moments to listen and figure how great their grasp on my language really is.  Appearances may deceive.\nYes, I'll speak slower (since I go fast easily) and more deliberate, and definitely use proper English (no slang, sometimes no contractions, and generic terms).  \nI might ask them to teach me something from their language (thank you, or hello, or some blessing).\nSounds like your husband provides a little entertainment!
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If you will listen to most people talk, after a while they will misuse a word in such a way that makes you realize that MOST people seem to not know the actual definitions of a lot of the words they say... it is kind of funny...\n\nMy girlfriend has an issue with colloquialisms... she can never quite get the meanings right, and I try not to make fun of her but sometimes I cannot help but laugh, but I don't bring it up over and over again... that is kinda mean, I think.\n\nNo doubt, your boyfriend has a few things that he thinks he knows but is wrong about and should think about that when he makes fun of you. You just need to find one and then you can even the playing field.
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Hi, Dina, I am from multilingual family as well - I am Ukrainian and my husband is British. Currently we live in Ukraine. We have 6 years old son. My husband doesn't speak Russian. So I can share our experience - my son used to understand and understands both English and Russian. When it came to speaking - he was mixing the words (half of the word is English and another in Russian) . It was OK with me, but it was difficult for him to speak to other kids of his age. By the age of three he refused to speak in English as everybody around  here speak Russian, though he spoke in English to his grandmother and uncles from UK. It took a bit of efforts to explain to him why both languages are important for him and now, when he is 6, he speaks both without any problem. Though sometimes (but very rarely) he is confused if certain word is Russian or English. But I am sure he is doing great. So don't worry, this is great training for him and when your son goes to school he will be much more prepared for learning new things than other children.\nI know other families with such situation and  it is only a plus for their children. Actually it is the matter of taking responsibility to support and guide your child. E.g., we sometimes play such game: today is English day - so whatever we discuss, read or play, it's only in English. Then the other day is Russian time. Anyway, if you have other questions feel free.
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Hard to say without knowing your boyfriend.\nThere is a book called "The Five Languages."  In that book it talks about everyone having a different love language.  Some people express love by doing things for people, some by touch, some by spending time, for some they show love by buying things for ones they love.\nIf that is his love language it would mean that he is trying to tell you that he loves you, however without knowing any other information about your relationship than that, I can't say for sure.
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you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
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i think your best bet is to find a newcomer so that you can teach him english and u can teach him chinese. that way you can both benefit.
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No you have needs as well and you have to make him aware of them. Sometimes guys we don't catch on to sublte hint then three months from now we come home she's crying and we can't figure out why. Then you unlaod everything that you've had bottled up for the last 5 months and the whole time he could really be clueless. Let him know what your thinking and why and see what he says, but assuming is never the way to go. You just moved in so establishing communication is key. Here is you first chance to do so. I hope it all works out well.
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I have to say that my boyfriend is from a differant culture as well and he is a wonderfull guy. I think you will adapt to it,it might take time but just do some research and see if there is anything you can find on his culture.  My b/f is from Africa but know live in Philadelphia has for 17 years and we have been daying for 4 months know.  But when I am on here I do what I can to find out about his culture.  Best of luck!
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:}\nAre you saying that he said inappropriate things because he did not know you could understand?\n(then be upset, be firm and let him know firmly that you do not appreciate his language.)\n\nor \n\nAre you saying that you find it insulting that he could not understand your English?\n(then try to be a little more tolerant, some people do not understand how offensive that can be.)
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There are about 500 languages spoken in Nigeria today.  This means that even if someboy would speak one of them, probably will not be the one you are looking for.\n\nIn any case I hope you get the meaning of what your mum said.  Good luck.
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It is a privilege to be a United States citizen and the official language of a US citizen is English. If your mother truly wanted to become a citizen she has had the last 15 years to learn English and unless she is incompetent she should would have learned the language if she wanted to. I understand this is your mother and I would be upset if someone talked down about my mother but you are wanting to bend the rules for yet another immigrant. I think even to live here you should know English because I'm tired of going somewhere and everything is written in 3 or 4 languages, it's ridiculous. Invest some time and money into her so she can learn the language, you obviously speak the language so you and everyone else have just been enabling her not to learn the language by continually translating everything for her. When I learned Spanish, why you may ask because I was going to Mexico and they shouldn't have to speak English for me (what a concept learn the language of the country you are going to and not expect people of that county to cater you) back on track in my Spanish class a single English word could not be uttered it was full submersion. Quit speaking the native language to her and force her to learn English if becoming a citizen is what she wants to do she'll learn.
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Sorry to say, but u shouldn't try to get him to say it...he'll say it when he's ready....Don't you want him to actually mean it when he says it??? If he really feels that way, then sometimes you just know!!!! Be patient...and it might happen when you least expect it...What a nice surprise!!!!
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how about try English first....lol!