I need some male opinions, would a man lie and swear on his children if it would benefit him in the long run?
953654
All men aren't the same and don't react the same way. I always say that actions speak louder than words. Watch his actions...is he coming home late or having private phone calls, etc. These are signs that he is cheating. Only you know if you need to worry. Take a good look at the relationship and how he treats you and you should find the answer.
341765
Only if he is a good person to be around the kids.  Any jerk off the street could financially support someone, but that doesn't mean he's a good role model.
899349
Let the slug go.  Why do you want a man who has no character, who would leave his children behind for a new squeeze?  \n\nFile for full custody of the kids and file for child support.  Get tough.
637139
LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOUR OWN CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Get out of that marriage.  How can you let any man verbally abuse your child?
1080787
Honestly!  As a parent, I can tell when a young man is lying or being honest, because I was young once and know the games young people play.  Don't just say what you think they want to hear.  Speak the truth boy!
185933
Why, children involved?..if not and there is no legal reason for them to talk you should be at least questioning.. No I don't think that's unreasonable and if he were any kind of man then he would be considerate of your feelings on this subject... I'd tell him to get lost and don't come back until he figures out his azzzcrack from a ho in the ground
570187
Hey I've been in that situation.  Sounds to me like the guy has a very big control issue.  He doesn't want you to have a life other than the kids and him.  I am telling you from personal experience.  It doesn't get any better.  The question is, are you willing to have no life at all, or are you ready to spread your wings and fly.  You are not doing anything wrong, so either he is doing something wrong to put the thoughts in his head that you are doing something wrong, or he wants complete control and when you go out, he is losing the control.  You need to be very careful in this situation, because it can and probably will turn violent.  Protect yourself and your children.  Right now, it is only verbal and mental abuse, but it will turn into physical abuse with not much provoking.
1143367
Fathers that you speak of is sorry men. A real man takes care of his children. He speak into their lives and guide them so that they will be successful in life. He sees things in them others don't see. I have two sons and they mean the world to me.
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I think you know he's lying, and you are here, hoping for either someone to back you up, or someone to tell you it's ok.\n\nGo with your gut instinct. He is lying and he isn't the person you want to start a family with.\n\nEven if he were telling the truth, and it is for his friend... His friend is married and he would be helping him cheat on his wife. Obviously he doesn't think much of commitment and responsibility.
121789
Tell him that his kids need him. Statistics show that children with father figures in their life are far less likely to become criminals then those without. If all else fails find a better man
670005
As an elder of a congregation, I believe that I can answer this for most men.  I believe that most men would answer "no" to the question.  However, if men were being honest in their answers, they would probably say "yes".  You see, man by nature, is sinful.  And "sin" is in everyone's life somewhere.  I would like to believe that a Christian man would be honest enough to admit sin, but also to know that if they've asked for forgiveness, then that sin no longer exists in their life.   Hope this sheds some light.
931263
That's an interesting question! I think responsible men should be caring and thoughtful towards their wives/children. They should try to provide a stable home in terms of income, but I believe women should contribute to this, too (working outside the home whenever possible in order to show children, girls in particular, that a woman doesn't have to stay at home). \nMarried men should be mature enough to not spend too much time with the "guys," concentrating more on their families instead. This doesn't mean don't go out and have fun with male friends, just that there should be a balance between that and family time. \nI believe that men need to provide positive role models for their children and demonstrate to their sons that it's ok to show emotions (what some call their "feminine side")...that it's not a sign of weakness. \nNot trying to be the boss, but allowing that the wife has a right to exercise her authority and place as co-head of household. I don't believe in "lording it" over one's family. \nI believe men need to learn to listen, and actually "hear" what is being said to them. Some men talk too much and aren't used to listening. I don't want my husband to "fix" problems for me, just hear me out when I need to talk about them.\nShows of physical affection...hugs, kisses...in front of the kids is also a good habit to have.
7436
If you can't tell your husband anything of that nature then there's a problem. A man, boyfriend, or husband shouldn't have to be told to be more loving to his children. If he gets mad b/c you want him to be that way to you and yours then a divorce will come soon b/c eventually you will get fed up.
251773
Lying is a very serious character flaw.  Other words for this are "untrustworthy" and "dishonorable".  This lack of integrity is a very shaky basis on which to build a lasting relationship.  He lies to manipulate you so he can get away with doing whatever he wants without having to be responsible to you.  He is not likely to stop.  I hate to say it, honey, but if you continue a relationship with your "almost perfect" guy, you are going down a path you will greatly regret.  Don't do it; Let's face it; HE IS A LIAR, plain and simple.  Whatever other great qualities he may have do not, and cannot, ever make up for this serious lack of integrity.
622100
QUALITY ATTENTION. That's the biggest gift you can give to your children to let them know they are loved and special. Truly listening to them when they talk, answering their questions, playing with them, giving them meaningful interaction. Never belittle them or make them feel they are stupid or bad. Their behavior may be bad, but the person is not, and don't lose sight of the distinction when you have to discipline them. Say I love you, say it often, and mean it. Don't lie to your children, it breaks their trust in you. Pick your fights carefully - are you saying no to something "just because"? That's not a fair reason and your children deserve more respect than that. Follow your heart, treat them with the love and respect you expect to be treated with. Teach them, share with them. Raising children is a full time job and requires sacrifice.
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It is sad, but true. Men are concerned about dating women with children, and mostly due to insecurity. I am a 41 yr old man and give you a full perspective so read closely please. A man who can date a woman with children is rare, but there is also a little alarm. Why is he looking for women with children?? Is he sincere or is he trying to be a white knight that turns into a control freak. I have met many guys who do this. Is he really doing it out of pity, or is it out of respect and admiration? Is he looking for someone who might be desperate in his eyes? I married a young lady many yrs ago who had a child and I raised that child as if my own. Is the guy you are looking at going to do this?  To this day that child knows me as Dad and knows nobody else would have ever provided the way I did. Some of us guys are just looking for a non committal type relationship, and others are real Men and will do right by the single and divorced Moms and the children as well. I just hope that if you are in this situation, you understand that you need to protect the child (ren) at all costs, and slowly introduce the man to the children. Don't rush into anything, and if he is trying to rush, leave him because his intentions are not honorable.
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In my opinion, you are giving this guy way too much control...what makes him think he has the right to add on after saying 'I love you'..'thats how i feel at the moment but you probably wont hear it often'.\n\nI read your other questions like you requested, and there is only one thing i can't work out...have you slept together before? If you have did he know about the kids? or has he only just found oout about your kids? \n\nIf the latter is the case then i think give him time bc he is obviously trying to adjust to the fact you have kids. Some men find it very difficult to handle as they see it as more commitment. Even so, do not put up with any shit from him, like over the love issue, or birth control and even sex. He either needs to take time to decide if this is what he wants or he resaures you that he does love you but is just finding it hard to cope with.\n\nHowever if he did know about your kids previously and has just started having a funny turn, i would seriously consider ending it with thiss guy. These kinds of men become very possesive and not very nice men in general. It is nothing to do with the fact that you had children with another man, its the fact he does not want to share you. And the only thing that concerns me is that you are already reffering to your children as a mistake in one of your Q's. Please do not be one of those women who put men before your children. You have to remember and he especially has to remember that you did not cheat on him and have these children, you were in a relationship with another man, the same way he has had relationships with other women. I mean he says he does not like the idea of you sleeping and having kids with that other man..can he look you in the eyes and say he has not had any other sexual relationships?\n\nI really think you need to consider what kind of man you want in your life...\n\n1. someone who makes you sad, on edge, uses love against you, uses your children against you, makes you feel guilty about having your children?\n\nor\n\n2. A man who loves and respects you unconditionally, who will accept your children, makes you happy and genuinally loves you.\n\nThe decision is yours, are you a weak feeble woman or a strong confidant woman who will put her children first in her life 100% and no matter how hard it is to leave someone you love, if they are not treating you right leave. Remember your children will copy the type of relationships and people you go for as you get older. let them grow up in a happy family environment. \n\nI wish you all the luck and let me know what happens x