How can I work in one state and leave my daughter in another and not lose custody?
960331
you cant. you either want to be a mother or you don't. pick cause she should be your whole life
288671
Go to your court house and file a complaint for visitations, and go to court and well go from there.  If it is something that you want then you will do what it takes.  I have been through similar things and the best thing that I can give you as advice is go to your county court house and file for visitations.  If you are fit and stable then you will get visitations through court and she will have to let you see your daughter...if she don't then she will be in contempt against a court order.
343393
Unfortunately I am going through a very similiar situation with my ex-wife.  We seperated a few years ago and she started by pulling a few shaningans like that off.  All I can suggest purely as one dad to another is to maintain the best contact that you can and when you do contact your children let them know you love them and always want to see them. \n\nMake it clear that if they were expecting you, that their mother must have made a mistake because you had not planned on being there that day, not because you do not love them but because you have work or necessary things to do.\n\nLegally stopping someone from slandering you with your children I dont believe is possible.  It is truly more of a question of guilt tripping your ex and explaining to her though her intentions are against you, they are more then likely more likely to harm the children.  Children with seperated parents that do not get along are more then likely to be involved in crime, or have poor grades in school as well as a plethora of other things.\n\nMost of all, I feel for you completely.  Maybe if it is possible file for custody?  If you can somehow accuse your ex while on the phone and record some admittance of slander the courts will surely find in your favor?\n\nFinal thought.  Do what is best for your kids forget about getting back at your ex or doing what she wants you to do (which is probably run away and never see the kids again).  Your kids need you in many ways, and writing to them constantly and contacting them VIA phone and visiting as often as possible are the best things.  Be so much a part of their lives she cannot lie to them.
859810
I think your problem is a "good problem". She has two good choices to pick from, so, in either case you will have a good outcome. \n\nThink about (a) location (b) working hours (c) promotion possibility and (d) what kind of bond/contract they have. Some companies have one year while others have a two year bond. The person-culture fit is important, but  it is difficult to find how well your daughter fits in the culture without working there first. \n\nMy advice is, pick the company on the location/working hours/promotion possibility and bonds/contracts. Remember that switching jobs is pretty easy if you have worked in any good company for a couple of years, and sounds like your daughter will do just fine with either one she picks. \n\nGood luck!
18133
You need to have a job which could support you and the child, and file for the childs custody through the court. \n\nYou will need to prove that you are fit to keep the child and have overcome the problem  because of which they took the child away in  the first place.
245086
Let her go.  She will come back.  I went through this with my daughter for the same reason yours want to leave.  It didn't take her long to figure out it wasn't so bad at home afterall.  I didn't rant and rave just let her go.  She found out for herself just what kind of dad she has and I didn't have to say a thing.  Kept our relationship on an even keel.
312175
I think that you are either in a different country or from some extreme ethnic background because the fact that they are not letting her out is kidnapping and forcible confinment! \nIf you are in America call the local police or hiatus house!\nIf you are in a different country I'm afraid there is nothing you can do, because a daughter has to listen to her father in many countries and may be killed for dishonoring her family if she runs off with you.
162015
I dont live in your state, but maybe able to tell you a few things..... If your girl is now 13 yrs old, then when going to court, she maybe able to speak her mind to the jugde.. Tell the judge that when you gace your parents temp cust. that you planned on getting her back when the time was right for yourd daughter, and for you... Always put your girls name first when tlaking to the judge... Tell him that you have a good place to stay, and have an income...And that you are able to care for her now. And that she has told you she wants to live with you. Go get the papers from court and start filling them out. Dont tell your parents that you are now filling. Let them find out when they get served.... That way you have a fighting chahce at getting her back. Catch them off guard. Have your girl write a letter to the judge telling him why she wants to live with you now. And that may help too. Find out from your county court house what is the age that the judges litsen to kids.. in cases like this... Bring anyone that is on your side to show that you area ble to care for her now. Just having to prove that you are a fit mother is all you have to do.
179964
Okay, this is a tough one.  Legally, you can petition the courts for a change in custody from your ex-wife to yourself.  The reason would be, of course, that your ex-wife is doing a lousy job parenting by not actually parenting your daughter.  This puts your daughter in your custody in your house in New York.\n\nAnd here's the problematic part because a 17 year-old generally does not go anywhere she doesn't want to go.  So if you take her out of that situation and bring her to New York, she'll just run away and turn up (if you're lucky) back in Florida.  Moreover, when she turns 18, she can go any place she likes and no Court can tell her differently.\n\nSo there's actually very little that you can do.  One thing, of course, is you probably don't have to pay your wife child support anymore.  If you are paying, you should petition immediately to stop.  Otherwise, you may have very little room to maneuver.
1004329
Read your divorce decree or custody documents.  There should be a clause in there that pertains to where the child is to reside.
107187
Are you bound to the state you are in because of being the custodial parent and your divorce decree states you must get permission from the court? I would suggest you speak to your divorce lawyer for correct advice. \n Or If you are on probation or paroll or something like that, in which you would need very specific permission from the correct authorities .\n Otherwise, I don't think there are any prison states... at least not yet, so we are still 'free' to move anywhere in this country, reguardless of our maritial status...
270981
Go to court.  If your wife is healthy and able to work you have a good chance of getting the amount you pay significantly lowered.  These are different times.  As a matter of fact my ex and I have joint custody but I pay him.  Because I am capable to work.  Even when I wasn't currently employed.
1134864
Some tips that have work for me:\n\nAgree on joint custody of the kids. That way, you both can decide over the children'f future together and both of you can be involved making importatnt decisions in your kids lives.\n\nBe generous on visitation. That way the kids can have a fair share of both parents.\n\nHave an agreement with your soon-to -be ex about NOT badmouthing the other when not present, That hurts the kids. Make that solemn promise that you will not talk bad about the other one during visitation.\n\nHave a conversation with the kids, Explain what is about to happen and how much you love them and how daddy an mommy still care about each other. \n\nWhen visitation comes, try to make the transition an easy as posssible. This NO time for arguments or sour faces.\n\nRemain in friendly terms.\n\nAlways allow your ex to talk on the phone with the kids. ALWAYS.\n\nSend father day/birthday cards sign by the kids.\n\n\nCIVIL is never using the kids to get back at one another. Good for you that you are willling to do this.
811641
DEFINITELY discuss with your lawyer, but... \n\nRegardless of joint cutody or not, your ex will have say in whether you can move.\n\nIf you can PROVE hardship if you do not move, then the court is more likely to approve, but you must also then be able to PROVE your move will not cause financial hardship to your ex. \n\nif you believe you might move out of state, have this written into your papers NOW!\n\nDo not leave it to chance when the time comes. \n\nMy ex and I split and she moved out of state with my two daughters, but I agreed to the move and thus avoided a long court battle. \n\nProtect yourself, and consider what is best for your child...period. \n\nHope that helps.
327184
Talk to your church or business in the community.  Draw up a flyer to give them, giving the details of the trip and why it's important to go.  Offer to have your daughter come back and make a presentation afterwards about what she learned (especially good for a church that has kids' classes).  Check with your local politicians - city, county and state and make a pitch.  Have your daughter get ACTIVELY involved in finding her own sponsor.  It will come across better (i.e. she has an interest in getting there herself) and will teach her some responsibility.
191352
ISthat what you want to teach your daughter together,on how to deal whith that situation,talk to your ex and him together  let them know whats up,If your daughter wants to move in go for it having your kids around you is time well spent
795958
There is nothing in law (at least in any state of which I'm aware) that prevents parents from leaving a house to one child and not another. Without writing your book for you, one twist could be to have the parents aware of the daughter's problem before death, and therefore leave the house to the son...but have CPS, unaware of the drugs, make the daughter the guardian...