Married People, What Do You Think About Your In-Laws?
961205
well my ex inlaws were EVIL! (my 1st marriage)  they told my best friends sister we were getting married cause I was pregnant.. I wasnt.  They were suppose to bring food for the reception.. we counted on them.. they didnt, they walked out of our reception WITH thier gifts.. and gave them to my brother in-law (thier other son) and his girlfriend.  When our baby was born, 22 months later.. they flew to Ca to visit other family and go ski-ing in tahoe.. but wouldnt come to our house..... so we packed up everything and our 2week old baby and drove 2+ hours to see them.  They never gave a gift w/o leaving the tag still on it.  They dont talk to thier grandaughter but maybe once a year, but thats my fault (!?!?)  most recently, they sent her a birthday card and didnt even sign it.  do I detest them.... thats putting it mildly!\n\nI dont know my husbands parents as they were both deceased before I met him.
188466
That is why they are called in laws..just ignore them back if they won't accept you. Try your best with them but if that isn't good enough for them than leave them alone...Lady
410199
If my husband ever treated me with that much disrespect that would cause a lot of problems. We don't HAVE to check in with one another but we choose to because it is respectful so that there is no worries or confusion. \n\nGrow up!
705421
this is so NORMAL my mother in law used to HATE ME before we get married , dont worry she dont know u thats why she dislike u but believe me when she sees u she  will love you ;)
1083760
The root to your problem lack of conversation,....If there anything not right goin on , the best way to solve it is to talk openly to each other. Say your husband is up set over something that happen between his in-laws & him sometime ago, n he's not happy being with them....but for me at least he's willing to join you guy for a week. For me that's fair....Talk to your husband n make him feel good for his sacrifice....Then your job is to tell your family that your hubby has something to do........Time will heel things.....But never ever compare anybody with the past or with another person....Things can go very bad.
877569
Unfortunately, I do think that's a very poisonous relationship to hold onto.  Can you imagine being married to her and having to deal with the in-laws and her brainwashing?  She's 38!  She should be able to stand up for herself.  \n \nJust my opinion.
583272
Will you have a little talk with MY husband for me?\nLOL\n\nSounds like your wife is a very lucky woman, with a wonderful husband!
911060
{sigh} probably just as well...the in-laws would never get along and that's not to mention the children and the terrible harassment they would get once they were old enough to go to the office organizer up in the drawer....mixed relationships are just so hard!
50132
Of course you should feel free to express your opinion, but, remember they are the mom and dad of your spouse.\n\nDon't act hatefully towards them.  Accept a level of responsibility that is equal to the task out of love for your spouse.  Just do it.  Get it over with.  Then move on.
405097
If it bothers you then correct them but technically speaking since you are living together he is your common law husband.People do that to me all the time too I just go with the flow.Congrats on the engagement.
735538
Some families are just close. \n\nAs for me I can tolerate my inlaws in small doses. Its good they live a couple of hours away.
926365
In laws are funny people, just assume they are lazy, not that they dislike you.
1055586
Well, I am an alien to my mother in law! I am from a different country, different culture, and the worst thing: I'm independent!!! She thinks that my husband (her little baby!!!) should control every single thinking I have...   What I do: as I can't change her, I just Play the role!!!!!! Visiting her once a week, and sometimes inviting her to go out.. Thing that she'll never do, but ok, I did my best.  As much as I can, I keep her "apart" from my relationship, as well as avoiding mixing, even when we are together!!!! Consider that my husband was living abroad and he understands my way - it's more than enough!!!!And of course, praying to Allah to keep me on the right way....
1111223
My mother in law feels sorry for my husband. He thinks that I don't do anything at all..and that I should have a job so he doesn't have to work so hard. \nThe truth is..she was Missing In Action for most of my husband's life..having to work all of the time at menial jobs. He has very few memories of her being there at all.\nSoo...I have learned to avoid her, and shrug off her unsubstantiated criticisms.
1073750
I am in a similiar situation.\n\nMy someday soon-to-be sister inlaw is very irritating to me.  She is Very judgemental, opinionated and I wouldnt be surprised if she hates the idea of us someday getting married.  So, needless to say, I really understand your situation.  Now what to do... I will give you the best advice I can, even though I havent yet solved my own situation.   \nFirst of All ~ Always remain focused on your man and on your relationship with him.  He is the one you are with.\nAt family Events ~ Try finding someone else that you can hang out with and/or relate to.  Or, spend extra time in the Kitchen helping with food preps or other busy work.  Be Helpful.  If she is mean to you then she will look like a real loser.  You will look great cooking, helping etc.\nHope these tips help.  Best wishes to you.  Be yourself I am sure that is good enough.  OH & don't worry too much, most of what we worry about never actually Happens!!!
249513
I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!
1002425
Different strokes for different folks. My guy and I are as opposite as they come. We been married 13 years with four children. I hope you are as  lucky hun