Are Feminists and Parents who don't teach their Kids Morals and Values your Heroes?
967183
This has made more sense to me than most questions I`ve read today.
499159
People now-a-days have no morals. It's sad really, a lot are influenced by media, and everyday life. But if people consciously know right from wrong, then it's all in their mind and their decision whether or not to do wrong-doing.
992307
Parents aren't being mean, just teaching their child a lesson and the facts of life. Many things parents do are for their children's health and help. I mean you have to teach discipline one way or the other right.
1180773
They died out sadly, there are few of us left and its a lot of parents faults for not raising their children with morals, though some parents did, a lot of the children chose to not have any. It is a question of morals and now a days people say morals are whatever you want it to be or your right im right no one is wrong, people just don't realize no morals is bad. \n\nAt least there are a few of us with morals left.
178287
They do this in part because they are not mature enough to deal with the real world.  I'm not being critical of them. I have too many problems of my own.  These "kids" were not taught a great deal of personal responsibility as children.  That rests squarely on their parents shoulders. Now they are having children and have less chance of teaching their own children responsibility.  It will likely get worse before it gets better.  Some day maybe parents will step up to the plate.
513972
girls these days seem to be thirsty for love and way too naive! i was telling my mom the other day that i'd wish there was a mandatory class for girls to learn how to not stay with abusers, throw their bodies around, and make stupid idiotic choices.\n\ni think parents aren't doing a great job these days, either.
263153
My real life heroes are my parents because what we have become are attributed to how they are as parents. There never was a day that they failed to give us wisdom, knowledge, support, care and love. I remembered there was a time that we need to separate from our parents because they need to stay in our hometown because of their jobs and we need to stay to another city (to protect us from war in Mindanao) but they always make it a point to visit us every other week and spent quality time. I am proud to say that none of us, their children have tried or hooked up to drugs, alcohol and other vices. We have finished college w/ flying colors (our youngest is still in school though) and we have remained humble, kind, generous and respectful. My parents are not just a blessing to us but they are also a blessing to other people. Both my parents are active in Marian Movement for Priest and have founded a chapel in our place and I am very proud of them because they have big hearts esp to the less fortunate ones. They are my inspiration and my heroes!
565769
I think they are because they wanted to do stuffs in their own way because when they were a kid they cant do ir so they want kids to be good but they don't show themselves as a good model so they are basically hypocrites.. If im gonna be a parent someday I'd be the best parent so the generation/tradition/culture of being a hypocrite will stop. and oh yea stupidity has also something to do with it.
373501
They are in some private schools.\n\nC'mon...you know the answer to this.  We can't teach anything that helps kids be better people.  That would be forcing our beliefs on them.  We can't teach ethics because someone would raise hell about it and we are cowards and would give in to the loudest voice instead of doing what is right.
14660
It's very obvious that boys aren't being raised that way anymore.  I find that it surprises women when you show the old fashioned respect now, such as holding a car door open or letting them go first in anything, or even picking something up that they drop.  But I agree with you, and I find it's better to carry on that tradition than to let it go.  I still believe that men should work and be the one that supports the family, but my wife doesn't agree with that because she doesn't like staying home so I'm letting her have her way until she regrets it.  I have it ingrained in me to take care of the woman and it bothers me not to, but it's not that way commonly anymore.
680654
Actually I became a parent in my late 20's but I will give up anything and everything I want and sometimes what I need to give my children what they need and deserve.  I have also given up any and all extra time I used to have to myself to go back to school and further my education to be able to continue to give them the life they deserve and the education they deserve.  It's all part of being a parent, wouldn't trade it for the world and I wouldn't really consider it a sacrifice either. :)
656162
because feminism says doing what men do is better than doing what women do.\n\nthis sexism must stop. the tasks of the female role, such as raising the kids and being a homemaker, are just as honourable, useful and downright important as financially supporting the family.\n\ni agree that Western women, at the moment, have less power than men because the church and our society's institutions are so patriarchal. this is because of the church, which, as detailed in the da vinci code, has targeted women - trying to banish the sacred feminine and the goddess from legitimate spiritual experience. the best thing therefore, is to return the sacred feminine and the goddess to society, and particularly women. then they will feel equally powerful, just like men feel powerful having the god and masculinity celebrated as being good in society. \n\nonce this has been done, perhaps western women will feel more willing to engage in their normal roles, instead of trying to do what men do - which are the only respected ones. i can actually think of no more important a task really, these days, than raising fine children though. i think having both parents work and sending the kids off to daycare is not the best way to go about this. the best way is to have either the mother or the father stay home. i think the mother would be the best, as mothers are better generally at raising the kids and caring for the home and maintaining social networks. men are better at going out and doing dangerous and stressful work, or boring, grinding routine work (however you want to put it both are valid) to make sure there is 'bread on the table' (well, the resources to get it/make it at least... the mother puts the bread on the table literally lol, although my dad did make a fantastic loaf of bread... i'm by no means a fundamentalist when it comes to gender roles, as some other answerers make you out to be.)\n\ni really encourage your honesty about the way you were brought up to look at what men and women are supposed to do. all too often we are afraid to raise this point. there is an identical question about men. however, no masculist movement has gone and made men feel valuable only if they do what women do. the prevailing belief in society is, still, unfortunately, that it is shameful for a man to appear like a woman (physically and by doing what women do, like nursing/homemaking).\n\nfor inspiration about this, look at http://www.glennsacks.com he is a major men's activist in america. he is a househusband. i know, it's not what he's supposed to do as a man, but, as some other answerers have said, it's what he and his wife have worked out is best, and best for her (not to mention the kids.) \n\nbasically though, i admire you for having the guts to ask this most fundamental of questions - 'Why isn't the world like it is supposed to be?'\n\nWell done for not being guilty at being disappointed that the world isn't as you expected it to be, based on how you were brought up, and asking a question about it.
761711
well first off we are taught certain morals by our parents, such as "do not steal" "obey your parents"  as you get older you develope a feeling called empathy which is your ability to feel anothers pain. though everyone has empathy to a different extent, (some murder and ignore it, others cry at the slightest thing and others can handle more). the thought that "i do not like pain why should i put another person in pain"  is quite a basis for morals. i do not wish to be stolen from, raped, abused, lied about, what is my motiviation to do that to someone else?\n\nwill people commit those without motivation?
211225
Though I hesitate to call myself feminist (mostly due to an internal debate over whether a man can truly be a feminist); I do try to uphold some of the beliefs of both the early suffragette movement, and the change in social mores in the 1960s and 1970s. That is, gender (and racial though that is a different topic) equality in matters of politics, socio-economics, and spiritaulity.\n\nAs for reconciling attitudes between my own beliefs and those of the patriarchal religions; quite frankly, I couldn't. Experience with my extended family gave me an extremely biased view of leadership dynamics. Due to my mother's family, I began to tie the presence of strong female influence, leadership and direction to long-term stability and strong ties within a family. This idea was reinforced over the course of three generations: my mother, my mother's mother, my maternal grandmother's mother and sisters, as well as my maternal grandfather's mother and sister all presented strong female role models and true partnerships with their husband. It is interesting to note that while a good number of my maternal great-aunts and great-uncles (sisters/brothers of grandparents) do affiliate with the (Roman Catholic or other Christian) church, the majority are FWEC Christians.\nMy father's family, on the other hand, had a strong paternal influence within the household; or rather, the influence of my paternal grandmother was purposefully muted due to prevailing influence and ideals of the Catholic Church during her childhood. Their family dynamic, in the past twenty years, has been punctuated by arguments, divorce, and what can only be described as very poor judgement.\n\nI never truly had to reconcile my own learned beliefs with those of the church for two main reasons: first, I was not raised in the church. I sought the church on my own around as a pre-teen and chose the Congregational Church specifically because of it's stand on female clergy (allowed).
876151
Lack of morals caused by the failure of parents to instill morals in them during the time they are growing up.  Great Grandma did it, Grandma did it, Mama did it, Daughter did it and Grand Baby will do it.   Black have the largest rate of unwed mothers AND it IS a big deal.   Pops
955586
No I don't think people love their children more than in the past.  It takes a lot of selfless love to teach your child to do the right thing no matter what.  Over protection is not love.  In my opinion it is parents giving in to their own fears and neglecting their duty to their child.  I think todays children have overwelming things to fear and the parents job is the same as it always was.  To give them the tools to overcome these fears.  I love the tv shows that teach parents how to parent.  The love has been and always was all a parent had to give.
620282
I think this has been an occurence that has progressed with each generation.  You know, parents have always wanted to be able to give their children everything they feel they never had.  Additionally, they have tried to assure each had an education so that they would not have to work so hard and have an easier life.  Things seemed to have started changing with MY generation.  Minorities fought for basic equality in education, housing, jobs, and in doing so it seems like family values and even common decency got pushed aside to achieve these goals at any cost.  \n\nIn the next generation, we saw more and more divorces, more children born into or raised in single family homes, and even more startling are the number raised by grandparents because the parents cannot or will not.   You have an alarming amount of runaways and homeless children.  When a child has depend on his own resources, how dare anyone condemn them for instant gratification.  I can't answer to what today's "youth" is thinking.  I can tell you that "sense of entitlement" is a very poor choice of words!  Entitled to WHAT exactly?\n\nA child should be entitled to feel loved and wanted and an integral part of a family unit.  A child should be entitled to eat when hungry, have access to medical attention when the need arises, a home...nor matter how simple...that is their safe place.  They are entitled to go to school and to playgrounds or a friend's house in safety.  They are entitled to BE the child...too often you see even six and seven year olds trying to take care of the parent.  \n\nLook around at the mess the last couple of generations has made of the world.  Is it any wonder kids are contemptuous or supiscious of adults?  I remember the "cool" saying when we were younger was "don't trust anyone over thirty!"  Now we have to teach them in preschool not to trust ANYONE.\n\nThe values kids learn are taught from us.  If you think them selfish and only after "instant gratification" then ask WHO taught them that?  It's like everything else...we can complain and point accusing fingers or try volunteering in one of the programs for these kids and be part of the solution!