Just a little relationship help. (Guys answering would be nice.)?
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The two questions center around the same line of reasoning. It doesn't affect just guys. Everyone in a relationship is always wary of their partner's family. The In-Laws (actual or "would-be") are always judgemental of the partner.\n\nIt draws on the old primal instinct to protect your own kind. All this originates at the genetic level, but I'd bore you with the details trying to start there and work up, so I'm just gonna jump to near the end and how it manifest on the family level... basically this primal instinct causes family members to attack the partner and force them to prove that they are the best person suited to be with the key family member they are in the relationship with. It may be very subtle (an off-hand comment every now and then) or it may be obvious ("How are going to take care of my daugher with that kind of paycheck?") and either way the effect is the same. Everyone is wary of the In-Laws (or potential In-Laws) because of their ability to destroy the relationship.\n\nIf your parents don't like him then they will try to get you to dump him in the hopes that "you can do better" and they will do this by continuously pointing out his flaws, plant doubt of his commitment by saying they saw him talking to "some girl", and bring up the names of other guys they "just happened to meet" in the hopes you get interested in moving on. Guys are more worried about meeting the girls parents because overall girls will give in to family pressure more than guys.\n\nYou may be just as worried about meeting his family because they have the same ability to influence him and destroy the relationship. If they don't approve of you the will employ the same tactics your family would use. They will point out flaws, plant suspicion about your loyalty, and mention other girls to him in order to get him to dump you and move on. Technically girls have less to fear when it comes to meeting the guy's family. Fact of the matter is if the girl is decent looking, loyal and true, cool to hang out with, doesn't nag him or make him feel like crap, and gives him all the sex he needs whenever he needs it... there is NO WAY he's dumping her and it doesn't matter what his family thinks or says.\n\nOn a similar note this is also why meeting friends are not particularly comfortable situations. Friends have the same ability to destroy the relationship, just as actual family can.
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Please, if you can see him this very moment, go and tell him all your mind. I mean tell him the way you feel for him. Many gurls have missed their right guys by simply obeying this "un-written" rule that a guy should make the Ist move. I'm not, and will never be, part of that conservative idea. Do you know, if that guy is being restrained by his background? That is, culture and religion, which in most cases are responsible for many guy's timidity. I was once a victim but a nice, loving, caring, and fearless gurl bailed me out. I'll never forget her in my life, NEVER. Please, I beg you, help this guy out, I assure you that he will never forget you. Cheers!
566613
Don't worry about the cause, just get out of the situation. If you're just dating and you fight, then it probably wont get better as the relationship continues. Sorry, but at this point in your lives, he's not the one for you.
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Your right to be concerned.  It sounds like this guy is all talk and no action.  If he really loved you and wanted to be with you then he would.  Right now it sounds like this is just a game for him with you being his back up.
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definitely try to communicate!! it will probably help your relationship, but, even if it doesn't, it'll help YOU in the future, trust me.
479146
jus..b d same as u r right now....but try...2 hav much closer relationship..wid him... make urself nd dat guy very much comfortable..wen u hav each others company...enjoy... his company... nd plz... dont go 2 deep into dis...u neve knw...he may dump u any time..but let ur friendship go on...
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explain to him that you feel you are ready to try taking your relationship to the next level to see if your really ready. thats what I like to hear though, that a girl will set a boundry thats cool.
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I can guarantee he doesn't get it.  Subtle hints do not work with guys.  Just tell him (is that so hard?)
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Been there.  Uhh, well the girl i like eventually just found out, she didn't act that weird though.  You could try asking him to something simple, like the movies.  Think about how important your friendship is and how important it is that you want to be with him.  Try asking some of your girl friends.  I don't want to say anything to "out there" because i don't want my advice to hurt anybody.  If you really want a longer answer, just email me. thump713
484144
Be glad and treasure this part of your relationship. Never pick a fight. Just continue to be yourself and see where this leads. He may be your one. Good luck.
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First thing is, DON'T go overboard! Guys think they need to impress a girl with gifts or flowers or something. AFTER a relationship has started that's okay, but most girls are scared away by that kind of stuff from a guy they're not romantically involved with when the stuff is given.\n\nKeep it simple -- words are the best way to communicate what you want, and along with straightforward words goes confidence and eye contact.\n\nFind a time when you have a little bit of privacy. Then say something like "I hope you're not offended by me saying this, but we've known each other for (however long), and I just wanted you to know that I think you're a really great person." When you tell her this, say it with confidence and make eye contact (which reinforces the confidence). Girls are impressed by confident guys who don't come on too strong.\nGood luck!
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wow i'm in a very similar situation right now and its tough.  if you are having a conversation with him, try to touch his arm as your making a point.  it also wouldnt be a bad idea to simply say "you're really cute".  its better to let them know that you like them than to never try at all.  good luck, e-mail me if you have any more questions
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be completely honest with him...it helps you guys to understand each other and now each others mind...he really really helps..trust me...especially telling him when he does something you don't like...it really tightens the bond
918759
Hey if you can find a social scene, like a party or something where you can just walk up and kiss him and not have it happen in front of 100 people, go for it. It's flattering. Otherwise, try and talk to him more often and build up a relationship that way!
104256
Hmmm, a little vague on the informastion giving.  First of all I'm assuming you are a girl.  How do you know you are not his type?  Do you really know what type of girl he goes for? Please, send me some more info if you need help ;-)
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I can sympathize because I fell for an amazing guy friend. The single caveat? He's got a girl friend. Since you guy is free then I would go for it. Touch his arm, try subtle flirting (should work b/c he knows you well enough to know that it's not the usual banter), if that doesn't get a response do the usual flirting routine, wear attractive clothes, a nice perfume, let him see that your into him. DO NOT DO anything different b/c you like him, like don't start acting like a ditz or all lalala bc guys get freaked out if ppl they have relied on start acting strange. Spend time with him alone and see how it goes.
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Remain as friends with the sweet guy... You never know his flaws unless you get to understand him better. He might be just sweet to all girls around him. Afterall, you have a boyfriend. Stay faithful and you shall be rewarded.