I have a fear of going out to places alone/without company, why?
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i think u may faced a try of rape from someone to u \nor a friend to u faced rape \ni agree with u , u have to take ur causion \ni think that is all because of movies and news that show rape and murder to people \nits the effect of media and some idiots who do crimes\nwhatever its hard to overcome it because u have to take ur causion
791600
Girl, you have courage...or you're just desperate! I wouldn't go alone if i were you! He is a stranger to you! I would be so scared!! Good luck!!
611596
That is a hard time for you. Been there, 3 times\n1/ list things you like doing, or are interested in\n2/ look up clubs and groups that do these things, \n3/ if you have at least 1 friend that you can persuade to go to any/all of them, go.\nif not, go yourself, you don't have to stay if uncomfortable, remember, some of the people there possibly went for the same reason you did.\nGive it time, Parents Without Partners are good places for your age group. There are others, look up the net\ngood luck.
36238
Not really.  Be careful.  If you feel you MUST go meet someone, never meet them by yourself.  Take a friend with you.  Someplace public.
108166
If you are having difficulty going outside of your home to grocery stores, driving on highways, or general everyday social activities than you might be suffering from a disease called anxiety.\n\nI call it a disease due to the fact I to have this disease and the more I tried to wish it away it wouldn't go away.  I had to seek professional help.  When I admitted to myself that I had a problem and got help my life got so much better.  \n\nSo many individuals, men and women suffer from anxiety disorders that you would be surprised.  After I got help for my problem and came out of the closet per say, friends of mine spoke openly of there personal problems they to suffered from.\n\nIt's not a moral issue.  Not everyone with social anxiety has to take medication, but there is something inside of you that has surfaced that you alone need help with.  Surrender and ask for help.\n\nYou'll feel better in the long run for it- I do and I'm free to go anywhere and be with anyone today.
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Try going alone when you know there's hardly anyone around like early mornings. When you do go, reward yourself with something nice besides food. Work on your postive self-talk. I had the same problems with being self conscious when I'm alone but I went and did it. What helped was having a radio or cd/tape player to distract you from your own self-defeating thoughts.
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That sounds normal to me.  I am not moving but I think that you would want to see your friends and the comfortable familiarities of your life because you will be going to a new place. Good luck.
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I think everyone is afraid of being alone
337888
I never used to have any fears when i was young.  As im getting older i seem to have loads.  I tend to be too overcautious with life nowadays!  It seems mad but crossing a bridge and looking over the wall to see the ducks in the rivers water is more of now a nail-biting experience.  The only thing i can suggest is a slow step, by step to conquer the fears.  It hasn't yet worked for me, the river that is by that bridge i dread, brings alot of insecurities for me.  A friend died near their from hypertherma and think its a case for me digging up the griefing part of things..  You never know but there could be a reason behind the lift you dread to take to fifth floor.  Theres a lot of emotional tree branches that our brain tend to keep a lock onto...!  Release the locks with the keys you hold in your hand.
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I'm 24 F, not married, and I might go out twice a month, but usually not at all.
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i think its both... independence and fear, but mostly fear. i have been one of those people. sometimes when u feel that ur getting really close to someone you get scared... this might sound weird but you think that it would be easier for you to hurt yourself by taking yourself away from that person then that person leaving you. it took a while for me to notice what i was doing. hang in there with the person that you are talking about, you just need to show them that you're not going anywhere and that there is nothing to be afraid of.
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Its never easy once you have your walls up so high no one finds them worth climbing to get in anymore. Fear is only one part of it for myself there are many reasons for locking yourself away from others. Give yourself time and learn as much as you can about yourself while spending this time alone. The better you know yourself the less likely you are to be mistreated again if and when the times comes that you are ready to.\n-NmD!
27704
This sounds like claustrophobia - a fear of closed spaces, or fear of being in a place you can't escape. There are many places you can get information on this condition. Try doing a Yahoo search on "Claustrophobia" and see what you find. One example is this site:\n\nhttp://www.pe2000.com/pho-claustro.htm\n\nGood luck!
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Everyone i guess, always gets the feeling of being lonesome. It usually happens when you tend to act on your own and it seem that you don't wanna trust outside. You lock yourself in your own world. TRY TO OPEN UP TO LIFE; TO THE WORLD itself.Celebrate life at the moment, by seeing the presence of others. Once you do this , you will find people around you who accept you, recognizes you and loves you just the way you are.
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What a great question! In fact, I think sometimes the ones being social might be the ones with the disorder! Half the time they're out and about cos that way they don't have to deal with their issues or look at themselves.  I used to feel guilty and worry about not being "normal" because I like my own company, I enjoy solitude and I don't want to go out every single time someone asks. I'm with you and I say there's something wrong with the dingbats who make such a big issue out of it.
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There is nothing to fear,but fear itself.I'm sure you have heard that saying. What you need to do is sit down and figure out what it is that you are really afraid of and why. You need to learn to love yourself and realize that you can be your own best friend and that you would never leave you,now would you. Being alone is most likely what you are really afraid of. There are some people and I personally know a few,that just cannot stand to be alone. I used to be one of them.Then one day I had to face one of my worst fears,a person very close to me died and I was then truly alone. It was during the pain of the experience that I learned alot about myself and I found that even without this person in my life,that I was o.k. I started exploring the many different things in life that I always wanted to do or learn to do and started doing them. Life can be a great adventure if you let it be,but fear of the unknown or fear itself stops one from growing and sometimes living life to the fullist.During that time in my life I learned to like ME.The person inside of this body,the inner voice I sometimes hear,my conscience,myself.I learned to like ME.Then I wasn't afraid of anyone leaving me or abandoning me because I was always going to be there for myself,even if everyone else in my life were gone.Because "ME"goes everywhere I do. I now enjoy what I call quiet time when no-one else is around. It gives you time to think about things you'd like to create,explore and maybe even places you'd like to visit right by yourself.Even though you are alone there are always new people to meet. Putting all your eggs in one basket or totally depending on someone else for your happiness is never a good idea. Another person can always leave you for one reason or another and not always by choice. So learn to love yourself and your spirit and you will see that the fear of abandonment will leave you forever.
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I am a loner at heart also. I don't mind being in social situations, I just find that people tend to piss me off. I find that i would rather spend my time on the internet, playing with my dogs, cooking, or watching tv. I do like to have dinner parties though. I find that if small groups of one to three people are the best way to have fun. But i would rather sit at home alone then go out to a bar or club.