How does a shy girl communicate with an outgoing guy?
958381
find something that you both have in common and that you know you can talk about for long periods of time w/ out being/ sounding weird. start a conversation and work your way up. it all takes time. once you think that youre ready, take things to the next level with him all you have to do is pre- think things through before you talk to him and youre confidence will boost up.
465608
First thing is, DON'T go overboard! Guys think they need to impress a girl with gifts or flowers or something. AFTER a relationship has started that's okay, but most girls are scared away by that kind of stuff from a guy they're not romantically involved with when the stuff is given.\n\nKeep it simple -- words are the best way to communicate what you want, and along with straightforward words goes confidence and eye contact.\n\nFind a time when you have a little bit of privacy. Then say something like "I hope you're not offended by me saying this, but we've known each other for (however long), and I just wanted you to know that I think you're a really great person." When you tell her this, say it with confidence and make eye contact (which reinforces the confidence). Girls are impressed by confident guys who don't come on too strong.\nGood luck!
721837
let the girl be shy not you. u do what u want.
84608
For the shy male, start with the internet. This type of forum lends itself greatly to those who lack social skill. True personality decides how the relationship works. The level of safety depends on what you are willing to reveal about yourself. If someone is interested in you, you may have major keyboard time ahead of you. \n\nRelax and be yourself. People can sense when you have bad intentions or if you're not being genuine. Start off with friendly conversation. Don't force your way into someone's personal life. If they want to talk about it with you, they will.\n\nThink about what you have to offer in a relationship. People who can make people feel good about themselves have a better chance of maintaining a relationship.
185453
she isnt gonna say much cuz shes shy. u need to just ask her. she'll get nervous around u and try to get away if u talk to her like that. when the guy i like talks to me like that it makes me feel like an idiot and i always leave really quick cuz its embarrassing. just ask her. when ur talking. instead of saying dont be shy if u already are friends then ask her if she wants to go out sometime.
997741
Let me tell you from someone who suffers from shyness.  It gets you nothing face up to it and just tell him next time you are alone with him and he will tell you his feelings. (I know it's easy to say, but all you have to do is get it started and the rest is easy)  Tell him you have something to say and just say it let him know your nervous and he will understand if he's a decent person.
565928
Sounds like she's shy too.  Ask her if she'll like to hear a story about something funny you did (as a child perhaps)then tell her.  \n\nOr talk about a scene in a funny movie you've seen or one of those Freddy teenage movies.   \n\nOr you can be honest and upfront and say to her - I'm normally talkative, but when I'm around you I feel shy, she'll open up as well.  \n\nYou'll be surprised to learn most people think they are inadequate in front of people they like and they feel more comfortable if you tell them you do too.
804711
sorry but that is the answer, you have to fight that shyness and be bold.  it doesn't have to come out as forceful.  Maybe your hints were too subtle.  Just casually mention, 'i really like you,' and just go on with the conversation. it doesn't have to focus on that issue. just be calm.
712017
Just smile at him...\nhe will go up to you and try to talk to you. It happend to me..so yea...if hes not shy he'll talk to you
177956
Well you're shy, so then the confidence thing will only work if you're slightly cocky.  So we'll ignore that approach.\n\nYou're best bet is to find something in common with the girl you're interested in.  If you can't strike up a conversation with somebody, it's not going to happen, YOU GOT to be able to casually strike up a conversation.  If it's someone you 'sorta' know, be able to say hello & find something that relates to her & you.  If not, then say something random that you like & see if she responds (NO PICK UP LINES!!!)  It really doesn't matter what you say, just the fact you said it.  \n\nNow from there you can ask for casual dates, if you are not comfortable asking for 'dinner' or 'going back to my place'  You need to be able to find out what she is interested in & then find something that would interest her in doing it with you.  If you're talking about movies, find a great movie nearby & ask if she wants to go.  If she like coffee, go for coffee, if she likes plays, find something like a play.  IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE AWKWARD!  All you need to say is 'Hey you like ______?  Me too!  They're showing ____ at the ______ on _____!  Would you like to go?'  If she says no, than move on.  If she says sure, casually ask for her number so you can 'coordinate' it & give her one phone call so she knows it's all arranged & off you go. \n\n* Important at the end of whatever you're doing don't just go straight home, find something else that can detain her for awhile, so you can talk about whatever you chose to do.  This'll show your interest & then you can plan (Or run away) for what happens next*
329573
I am a shy person too, and most shy people want u to take it slow with them and don't push thing to far. Talk to her\nas a friend first and see what she enjoy. You might have something in comment with her and you may hit it off. Don't rush nothing
204113
I find it easiest to flirt in a competitive situation.  Like talk smack during a game of bowling.  it doesn't matter if you get all gutter balls.  The guy will see that you have confidence.  After that, I can usually do alright talking with them.  They still have to do a lot of the talking and asking questions, but I am learning.  \nFind something you have in common, and go from there.  Or read news headlines before you go out.  Something that you can discuss.  Don't go empty handed!  \nMost important, just do it!  It's tough.  I know! I am a really shy person.  But sometimes you just have to push that aside.  Practice makes perfect!
61933
say these words to your self\n\nI can talk to a girl\nwhat do I have to loose??\nwhat's the difference between me and "a name of the flirtiest guy you ever know!!!"??\n\nso you think that when you talk to a girl you will get shy and screw everything up?? in fact some girls really like it when a guy get shy while he is speaking to them.
187649
DEAR,\nMOST OF GIRLS FACE THESE PROBLEMS THEY WAY TO GET OUT IS:\n1. TALK TO HIM {IF POSSIBLE TRY AND IGNORE YOUR SHYNESS}\n2. TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY ABOUT IT\n3. IGNORE HIM\n4. SHOW YOU HAVE SOMEONE ELSE IN YOUR LIFE
501402
You don't have to call yourself pathetic. It's ok to be nervous when talking to the opposite sex. I used to get nervous talking to guys when I was younger, but somehow I learned to manage and now I have a boyfriend. I'm still a shy person and I guess that's part of my personality. I guess you have to give it some time. Think before you talk. What is it that makes you stammer? Think of interesting topics to talk about with girls. If it helps,write some of the stuff down that you think you'd discuss with a girl. Then rehearse it so it'll prepare you for next time. I know it may sound stupid but you can give it a try and no one has to know. The key is making yourself comfortable when talking to girls and talk to them like you casually talk to your friends. Once you get the hang of it, I'm sure you won't feel nervous anymore. It's just a phase and it'll go away with time. Don't worry, just relax. Good luck!
42658
you need a good balance between the two. there are a few reasons for that:\n\nif she is shy: conversation is terribly hard to make and feels awkward\n\nif she is talkative: she doesnt listen enough which makes conversation too one sided.
785708
i can relate to this.\nwhat i suggest is that you try to open up a bit. it's hard, and takes time, but if you become more outgoing, he won't be too intimidated if he was too approach you. in situations like this, it's YOUR turn to make the first move. start small talk, ask him how his day has been, smile (rather frequently), and just don't think about what you're gonna say. let it out. a friend of mine suggested this to me, and it worked, i suggest you try this yourself. usually if he's staring at you, he in fact, DOES like you.\nyou go girl, get out there and get that guy ;D