is it wrong to turn some one away when they come to you for support?
953856
I'd be more worried that you think cutting someone's throat is appropriate.  If that's how you feel, please get help.  And don't give your opinion to other people, it could mess them up, too.
550926
Tough I know. Stand up for yourself, even if you fall out with them... Stop talking with them for a while if that's what it takes, but make sure they know why. They will come to you and try to make nice, when they do they'll know that you won't take any more nonsense in future. If they don't you are better off without them!
559584
If u have tried n not sucessful in saying no.... next option is to avoid such people as they r not geninue in their relation they just using u and taking ur advantage... this is actually happen with me and i am telling u with my own experience... just have few friends rather have bulk who just take things for granted
387769
I tell them I was not expecting you! I am really not up to company right now. ____day would be much better. Could you come in the morning or afternoon?(smiling):)\n\nSomething along those lines. I don't like to fabricate stories and I am not afraid to hurt feelings as it is extremely rude to stop by any ones home unannounced.\n\nGuarantee it won't happen again.
483384
Feel sorry for the other person, who is unwilling to return their feelings. for they must be egotistical and self-centered. BUT if you knew or know that this person is seeing someone else. then maybe you should look at the selfish mirror. it's true we want what someone else has and if you try to lure someone your way,. It's just as easy for someone to lure them away from you.\nlook for someone who is interest in YOU .
497008
Mind your own business and let your friend handle it.  If she or he needs your help, they'll ask.  Then you have all rights to kick that persons *ss for messing with your friend.
646020
Off course - no harm in doing so. At the most it can be wrong judgement on your part but then if it's a right judgement think how much a timely help is worth!
224638
Its tough when other people are manipulating him.  Best thing is to make certain he knows that you are there for him but you won't be there forever if he doesn't come back to you.  Its hard but it is his choice to make even if he under undue influence.
146640
yes but dont try to make the person go way out for you and think will you do anything for that person
759421
Well she obviously has mental and emotional problems and it's probably because of her disorder. There is a dependency there however that isn't healthy.  You are a stranger and she's attached to you an obligation to keep in touch with her.  If you feel comfortable continuing this back and forth communication then that's your choice but I wouldn't because of her reaction to your advice and direction. I have found that when a person tries to help someone who doesn't appreciate it they will get turned on. I have helped battered women one day and the next day they are right back with the man and not speaking to me. One man attacked this womans children and I took them all in and he was arrested and a few days later she's spread it around that I am the reason that her man was in jail and she's not speaking to me anymore and won't let her children either. It's just insane!
629556
you don't need to be right next to the person to give them support. \n\ncall him and talk to him, let him know you are concerned and care for what he is going through. \n\nlet him know if he wants to talk you are available.
490000
It seems reasonable to conclude you believe they wouldn't approve of this relationship.  You should at least respect them enough to be honest with them, if you don't respect them enough to honor their wishes.
112513
It depends on who you're offering it to. Sometimes, it is best to just say you're there for them and listen. Sometimes a good ear is what they need. And sometimes too many "i'm sorry for your loss"es can be too much. Just offer your support.
791859
You don't help them at all. You support them and be there when they need a friend but if you try to do more than that it could be counter productive to their recovery process. It's not suppose to be easy.
670113
Self respect says you got to take a stand, or you wouldn't be asking this here.  Think of it this way, would you want friends that can't be brave unless they have back up? or the one that stands alone, and cares enuff about you to keep coming back for more?  Choose sides, then, side all parties down, and tell them straight out what you just said to us, we used to be kewl, now we are not, I can't take it anymore, lets work it out, or I got to choose sides.  And don't let the 2, lay all the blame on the one.\nPersonally, I wouldn't even try talking, I would take the loner's side, and just see what happened.  If they left, fine, I expected it, but who knows, might scare them into backing off.
35879
Some people actually think that they are helping.  There are the types of people you can tell to stay out of your life, and those that just wont no matter what you say.  Its part of life.  When dealing with others you have to do just that, deal with it.
752703
If they are not coming anymore, then let it be. They are sulking. What you did ie telling them and insisting that they call is a very brave thing to do. Keep it up and do not allow them to bully you.