Is it Lust after 4 years.......?
954650
you should do your husband, the man you pledged your love and life and faithfulness to, a favor and let him go and get on with his life because you're really disrespecting him.
644688
The age thing alone can be a problem....because he would be in trouble since you are so young... But besides the age difference, there could be other problems. I understand how you feel about his and the masochism. I have a strong masochistic nature too. Regardless of the age, this type of relationship can be unhealthy. There is alot of psychological manipulation behind it.....some negative, and in your young age you may not be able to cope with some of that. I was 23 when i was in a relationship like this...i even married him, but it is very tough on your emotional and mental state.....be prepared. My hubby and i aren't together any longer, and i am struggling to maintain a life with some of the psychological "results" of my past relationships..... just be careful....please!
1013419
Yes I meant it. 12 years of a not so great marriage, but now it is better than ever. I am glad I have the commitment and morals that helped me hang on for 12 years to where things are better. You are a great guy don't sell yourself short for anyone. Keep your morals and you commitment, you may not know it, but, they mean so much to you and always will.\nCongratulations and keep up what you have.
339857
My answer to you... don't do it.  Think about what you have with your fiance.  And think about your child.  Physical attraction always fades with time, but LOVE is forever.  It only grows with time.  What's your priority?
1051162
yup and been together 7 yrs..married almost 5
702845
We all have those feelings at one time or another.  We call it lust!  It fades with time...sometimes a lot of time.............-LOL  she must be something!
431916
yes, for 4 years, no effect
6852
Hun, i know what you are going through, I have been there done that and get this, i am not even married....my fiancee and i have been living together for almost a year now, engaged for almost 2 and yes, the sex drive has gone from 100 to 0...for him, not for me, it's still strong as ever. when i asked he always told me he was tired or just wanted to cuddle or something like that, so yeah, i know how you feel. i am sad to report however that he was hiding something from me....his addiction to porn....he'd rather look at pics and vids than be with me...pretty low huh? well anyways, we are still together and trying to work through the issues and yes things are looking up....so just hang in there and hopefully things will start to get better!
309542
*Gulp* I technically just reached the 7 year together mark a few eeks ago, and so far, things are awesome!! 7 year marriage anniversary coming up in July, so I think everything foe us is great....\n\nThe Itch happens when a couple gets bored with each other , but its no excuse to get someone else to scratch that "itch" for you, its your wife/hubby's itch to scratch...LOL
93078
Yes..it happened to me when I was 12 years old.  I am now 54 and have been married to that girl for 24 years.  Chemistry plays a big part in this love game
625536
Love is more overriding than lust. If the above statement were true, then no man or woman would bear to stay together for so long. They would always be craving for new pleasures and would just be insatiable.
620665
What you're doing is correct...  Marriage before sex.  It has been 4 years with this man...  If you are ready for marriage, I would sit down with him and ask him what and where this relationship is going..  \n\nIf both of you love each other, I don't see what you are waiting for....\n\nGod Bless!
269047
This Q has come up many times on here. Try looking old ones up. Love is stronger than lust. It controls your thoughts and feelings. It is powerful and you are willing to do anything for the one you are in love with.
267503
No!\nMy wife and I have been together for 8 years and I think we can safely say that we are more in love than ever. Most people find, however, that over a period of roughly 4 to 7 years of marriage, the intensity or sense of romantic passion fades and is replaced by a sense of comfortable security that can sometimes seem somewhat uninspiring. Security in love can make people “lazy” in certain way. Relationship therapists can suggest various ways to liven things up and put the “spark” back into married life, but I’m not sure how successful these strategies are in the long run. A related issue is that a lot of people find that marriage ruins their sex life. Personally, I think this is pretty much natural for long-term monogamous relationships. I suppose you can always come up with some examples of a couple who has been married for 40 years and still have a hot monogamous sex life, but at the risk of sounding pessimistic, I think this is incredibly rare, and I think that a lot of people unnecessarily beat themselves up over their inability to stay sexually interested in their spouse. I think the high rates of cheating and divorce provide good statistical support for everything I’ve said so far.\n\nMy wife and I have a lifestyle that works well for us (tho I don’t claim it will work for everyone!) We have an open marriage. This has several amazing effects. For one thing, I think it keeps us both “younger” in some sense. We can openly explore erotic and/or loving relationships, and this means that life can be periodically charged with what is sometimes call “new relationship energy” (NRE). This is that energetic feeling of “walking on air” and everything seems bright and beautiful in the world. Most married people are afraid of this sort of thing, and of course for some people it can lead to jealousy, but in our case it is good for BOTH of us. I find that my freedom to love others increases my love, appreciation, and erotic attraction for my wife.\n\nOf course a lot of people put us down and claim that their love is better than ours because we are missing something or whatever, but they don’t know us, nor do they have any deeper clues than we do about the true nature of love, meaning of life, etc., so I don’t let this bother me – although I do sometimes (like now) get on a soapbox because I think more people need to realize that healthy, happy people can explore alternatives to the standard monogamous marriage script.\n\nIn any case, I don’t see marriage ever killing our love-life.
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Just because your marriage of 25 years is "ok" doesn't mean you can't have a strong attraction to someone you describe. People change throughout their lives and it sounds to me like you're gay.To reiterate, that you have spent a pleasant 25 years with your wife says no more than this time has been tolerable. If you're saying (sounds like you are) that you've been feeling earth shattering passion and obsession about your married friend, it's fairly obvious.
1030429
4 years is not a lifetime, i don't see that much of a difference
711749
hey, youre heart isnt in the right place man! you have a lifetime to wait but a lifetime to waste. your will must aligned to the will of God in your life. The woman you love 8 years ago will not be the same woman you love at this very moment. Put yourself in a mirror and tell yourself what a handsome guy like you wasting your life in waiting. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all..Go back to the basic.