What the best way to heal from a brake-up if friendship is an option?
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For me its cold turkey all the way.  If we didn't work out we didn't work out.  Why do we have to be friends ? We didn't meet to become friends.  Do we really want to stay friends and then double date with our new partners ? Will our new partners be ok with our ex being our friend ? Nothing good comes of it.
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okay , if you value her friendship, you need to withdraw from her and give her some room, don't keep on pushing and pushin coz all you'll do is push her futher. obviously she is hurt. \n\nwrite the following:\n\ndear\n\nI have been really upset about not having your friendship and realized what a jerk i have been, if i could undo time , i wud turn theclock back and restore our friendship, i do not expect you to forgive me , however i would feel heaps better if you did and i am sure you might too. give it a shot.\n\nif that fails then try\n\n\n"dear ...\n\nlook you slimy little bi*ch, i said i was sorry and all you do is lift your nose each time I talk, i think you can get fu***, and in doing so i hope you get fu*** real bad, now go crawl back under that rock you crawled from under!\n\nyour's ...\n\n( how's that ? ... not good )
442377
Alright, slow down and write down what it is that you did or you think you did. Then, write down what you should have done. If you did something bad then you need to ask for forgiveness. Communicate to your friend. Sometimes, we do stuff that is hard for someone to forgive. Your job is to ask for forgiveness. Don't expect forgiveness right away. If you care about the friendship then give it your best try. Wait, and then see what happens while taking care of yourself.\n\nOne of life's meanings is that you learn from your mistakes. You will grow from this if you choose to learn.
376842
It takes time to heal all wounds.\nAccept the fact that you hurt your friend, you did the right thing by trying to talk to your friend, You have appologized, now wait.
436796
"But we can still be friends" is a myth. Just stop all contact; it is kinder that way. if you happen to meet in a hallway, nod but don't smile. It's over. The sooner you both move on the sooner your hearts will heal.
187184
cheer up shinny star,shit happens but we must mourn our losses,dust ourselves up and move on with our lives.a wise person once told me that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all,if it was really meant to be he'll be back,but if it's not dry those tears and brace yourself cause love is hard babie.4yrs is a long time,take your time to heal don't jump into anything on the rebound,forgive yourself cause you're blaming yourself.life goes on and that dreadful feeling will fade away with time,most importantly,forgive urself
299700
seize the day \nyou'll never know unless you try so what if you get shot down better that than wondering for the rest of your life what it was and could have been... what do you have to lose... if you are not accepted tell her you are sorry and try to salvage the friendship.
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Recover by turning around and walking away.. then wait for her to call you to apologize.\nif she never calls, she's a c**k tease. don't waste your time.
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You have to take the next step, which is the hardest, that is accept it, in it's entirety...unfortunately that means allowing yourself to feel that emotional pain and self-control is key. The process isn't an easy one, but a doable one, and sometimes all we have the strength for are moments at a time, and courage strengthens them into hours, and then days...but we heal.  Friends are a great support system to help you cope, and keep busy, and sometimes just getting away for awhile is also helpful.  I found what helped me the most through a similar situation, was getting back into what I enjoyed doing that I had forgotten all about, which was pertaining to the arts, and I got involved with helping the less fortunate people in my community.  It took time, but as each day passed I regained hope, and strength with the help and kindness of what were once strangers, but now good friends.  A healthy diet, and rest is also very important because sometimes we forget to take good care of ourselves in stressful circumstances, which rob us from being able to focus properly, therefore make sure your daily routine starts with a healthy meal and ends with a good night rest.  Beleive it or not it does make a difference rejuvenating us almost, such a simple task to make an impact on our mind and body who figure?  A check up, with your doctor is very helpful, let him/or her know what you're going through.  Hope this is helpful, wishing you strength towards your steps to moving on forward.  Good Luck!
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I recommend one, become the person you would like to have as a best friend.\n\n#2 Volunteer, give back to the community, this way you will reap rewards that can't be quantified by money but by the joy it brings your heart.  It will change you for the better.\n\nOnce people start seeing these changes, then people will come around.  Remember most people have short memories and are very forgiving.
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Well first of all give yourself space from him. I know you dont want to but it is impossible to heal when the wound is constantly being reopened.\n\nDo things for yourself make yourself feel good. Long baths with nice music,shopping trips,good books,funny movies etc.\n\nAlso give it time. It will feel better!!!
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Sorry you have so much bummer stuff going on in your life you do often get upset. It is time to think of yourself before others. By what you say it is likely you have a weight you would prefer not to have. \n\nIf you stop now and say to yourself that person or problem is going to be my fuel for self recovery then you are on the correct self healing path.\n\nIf you are physically and mentally balanced no one and no situation will be able to upset you. \n\nTake a walk, go for a swim, as silly as it sounds place a bucket of cleaning solution on the ground or floor, bend over to rinse out a rag and wash the inside and outside of your home windows, it is great exercise and your windows will sparkle. \n\nusually people upset people - screw um think of yourself
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Take it slow... tell her that you really want her to listen to you and that you seriously want her to take the time to listen to what you have to say, if there have been many times when you've had a heart to heart and no results, tell her that it'd be best if you get everything out of the way so you can both make up your minds about whatever it is. Tell her you miss her, tell her being 'just a friend' isn't what you want but if it's all you're going to get then it's fine. If you don't think hat way then express how you really feel. Ask her why she wants to be your friend so badly all of a sudden. Maybe she really wants you back or she's trying to start all over again or she misses how you were as a friend. Let it all out, relieve her and yourself of your issues and you can go on from there.
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Yours?  Get involved in something else.  Do not dwell on the past.\nA friend?  Listen.  Help keep their mind on something else.  Hugs do wonders.\nStay away from tear-jerker movies, songs and book.  Go for the light hearted.\nHearts can be broken, but they do heal.
496247
be the best friend that you would want if you were in that situation. just do extra little things like opening the door and little hugs and you might turn a bombed day into a sunshiny bright day.
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Give love and you will receive love.\nWhat goes around comes around.\nSo, be friendly and friendship will be returned to you.
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If you have this sense to reconcile; submit it to G-d. If/when the time is right, your paths will cross. Also, pray for a divine connection. Until then, forgive yourself. Ask G-d to forgive you. And pray blessings on your friend.