What Should A Mother with a Drug Abuse and  Crimal History do to....?
969035
You don't say how old your son is.  I think that one day he will want to meet you and have you be a part of his life.  I can't even imagine how you must feel not being able to see him and get to know him, but he's been with this family for so long, I'm afraid that it might really confuse him if you showed up out of nowhere.\n\nIs it possible for you to wait until he's an adult, and then send him a letter?  I applaud and admire you for getting control of your life.  I'm sure you've been in recovery long enough to know that sometimes the family members of addicts are so fearful and distrustful of the addict that the bridge can't be repaired.\n\nI hope this is not true for you, but in any event, you have proven yourself and done well for yourself.  Continue to do everything you can to live a better life, and for the sake of your son, wait until he's an adult and then contact him.\n\nI wish you the very best.  You've accomplished a lot.
201406
Beth, Starshotdown, and BadKitty1969 seem to have a good idea for a solution to your problem.\nThe behavior that you describe does complement the 'life of a drug addict,' and his desire to near a zone that is deviant are his inclinations to continue this lifestyle.\nThe closer that an addict is closer to illicit drugs the better they will feel, although this is a vague sense of reality.\nIt may be the best thing for you and your children if you did initiate legal proceedings against him.\nIn this manner you will help yourself, family and even the 'junkie' man.  Jose
403939
Honey, you don't need this and neither does your son. This is the role model you are choosing for your child. Is that what you want? If your guy had stayed in NA and had really tried to work this out, then I'd say to stick with him. But he really doesn't sound like he's giving it his entire effort. Maybe he does not want to give up drugs. So you have to tell him to make the choice... you or the drugs. I'll bet he chooses the drugs, thinking you won't walk out. But I know you will leave becasue I'll bet you love your kid a lot more than you love this drug addict.
738915
check with ur local free clinics.... they  can either help her out  or direct her to where to go...  for one thing... at least they will check her out.. which will establish  a documented history for her.. which in turn  will be  of assistance
820797
Well we are glad they are off the drugs but I do understand what you are saying.  Having a daughter who is a recovering addict, it is hard to keep up pats on the back for doing what?  the right thing that the rest of us were doing all along?  The addict is special because they decided to finally get it together and do the right thing?  I know what you're saying.  Sorry I don't have a better answer.
42694
I think its best if you personally help her--if worse comes to worst scenario happens.\n\nAs of the moment, try to ask your nearest government office and present her situation.\n\nI do hope you mother will get through all these trials. Good lUck!
948691
the first thing you need to do is pray, and ask God to guide you and give you direction on a sound thing to do. your second good thing was asking for help from your yahoo family. Talk to your mate and remind him in order to stay clean you must stay away from people, places, and things that relate to your old drug habits. Next you should try and remind him that these were the same friend that were with him in his addiction and three years later they are still there. Have him to revisit his past mentally, than look at his present too see how far God has brought him. Lastly, stay supportive he may be at a vulnerable point in his life, try to help keep him focused and away from the bad influences. Sometimes we do not see out of the corners of our eyes that something may be approaching, that is why you walk by his side. keep your head up and your eyes open.
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Sometimes the living situation of the mother and or the history of her living like drug use lack of jobs or work placement and just not a structured home for times of home visit possiblemistreatmentof the children violence alcohol abuse and many other reasons \njail time, seedy boyfriends, I would recommend you get a list from your local social affairs dept. and one from family affairs some Law offices may have info on this as well.
504568
There are other children who have had this problem, maybe they can give you a good answer! As a rule one drug can lead to other drugs. you need some one to intervene, you will not be able to prevent the child from using, especially if child is not ready to receive help! There are drug induced mental illness. You may want to go to a meeting for parents of users, AA, alateen for kids, adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families. You can seek out facilities for these problems. Get a hold of \ndr. phil, he will have info on how to deal with this. wHATEVER, YOU NEED TO SEEK HELP FOR THIS CHILD ASAP BEFORE THE CHILD IS LOST FROM USING.\nGOODlUCK. Take Action, THERE IS HELP! kEEP ASKING FOR HELP TILL YOU FIND IT!
700657
If she really is a drug addict take her to court and get full custody of the kids. Then you can just rid of her. A judge won't allow kids to be raised by a drug addict. If she went throiugh treatment to get better, she could get to see them again. I would recommend doing what's best for the children.
668803
Just be supportive..be there when she needs someone to talk to. If you think he's being abusive ~ which most men are when they have an addiction ~ tell her to GET OUT!!!! There are all kinds of places she can go if she doesn't have a friend or relatives home to go to. She needs to know she can not change him or cure him, it's up to him to seek help. I've been down that road before and i endured 10 yrs of abuse, mentally and physically.
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If you are using a substance. coke, meds etc.  You need to go to the clinic and get clean.  Most woman who are sexually abused take substances to make them forget what happened.\n\nMy best friend went through the the same thing for a long time and she was a coke addict.  She been clean for years. \n\nI asked her this question  and I want you to think about it closely.  If the problem existed before you get high, doesn't exist while your high, and when you come down.  Why would you give that other person the satisfaction?  Why would you give someone else your hard earned money. \n\nNow that is suggest you need to go to a clinic that deals with detox and tell them what you problem is they will help you but you have to want it.
1157104
I think both parents should undergo an initial mental health assessment, as well as an initial drug test.  From that time on, perhaps only on an as needed basis.
926924
Get her out of there.  I'm sorry about the money, but you don't sound like you're having that much fun.  Alcohol destroys brain cells.  You want to see her sober again while it's still possible.  Like you said, she has a problem.  You don't.  How fortunate she is to have a compassionate son!  It's not your fault that she's drunk.  But, this is a situation you might be able to do something about.
684172
my mom's side is allergic to anything alcoholic and my dad's side goes overboard to the point of killing themselves. it is not a chance that i feel comfortable taking. i don't have any friends that have a "problem". however, in high school they used drugs. they don't now. hubby used for a bit. before we met he said that he had a "drinking problem" and stopped. very seldom he has a drink.\n\ni know of a girl that has a severe drug problem, i don't think that she will admit it to herself. she would rather buy drugs than food for the kids, lives with her mom-at age 31, doesn't know how to drive and mooches off of everyone that she can. people are getting wise, thank goodness. she's on he 4th kid, now and her 3 year old knows how to use the word "bong" correctly in a sentence. scary, huh?
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It seems to me that this person has a lot of faith and trust in you if they have confided in you. Also if they have come to you they are really reaching out for help. I would look in your phone book under drug abuse and call the hot line and ask them what you should do. They are usually well trained volunteers that will be able to give you advice on how to approach this personality type without scaring them away.
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I would certainly get help from the organizations that offer help. You must go and seek help even if the husband does not (or cannot) go. YOU must go and find out what CAN be done to save your marriage,your family, your life!You have to make up your mind that you have had ENOUGH the "lifestyle" of a drug user! MAKE UP YOUR MIND AND THEN MAKE A MOVE!