i cant comfort my bf. what should i do?
965954
Umm, why is this guy who is supposed to love you so much getting listening to what other people say about you and taking his relationship cues from that advice?  He shouldn't be listening to anyone else but himself.  Moreover, he's being unreasonable with this whole move thing, but that's characteristic of men--they can be selfish.  Still, if you have explained to him that it's difficult for you and he still doesn't get it, then stop explaining.  Nothing is served by you constantly having the same discussion/argument with him about you two living together and you moving to the USA.  Moreover, if what you're doing to comfort him about his grandmother isn't working, then stop.  My experience has been that it's hard to comfort men when a close relative, friend, etc. passes away.  My ex-husband's father died after we had been married for one year and I had no idea how to comfort him except to remind him of what our religion says about death.  Other than that, the only people who could comfort him properly were other family members (i.e. siblings) because they were going through the same thing.  Just be there for him, call him to check on him, make sure he's not slipping into depression and if you can, pay a personal visit to him just to reiterate that you care and love him and will be there for him in his time of need.
774948
seriously i think that both of u are really messed up and confused at the moment. give each other some time to calm down and think properly. wait for him to initiatiate, but if he doesnt then u need to learn to let go. it is much easier to let things go than to hang on regardless the mental and emotional pain.
999789
You should explain to him, and yes, first a hug..And remember, ever, promise only what you can do.That's very important.
840137
He needs to get more comfortable with you. try talkin to him. Better yet, when you are together just kiss him or massage his ego a bit by telling him how sexy he is.
1004769
WOW Ok i will give this a shot at!  First thing that came to my mind is , Don't Change anything. If you start to cuddle him more or start changing due to this news, he will feel like you feel sorry for him, and he will feel worse. Stay the way you are, The second thought is,,,He JUST  found out TODAY! So yes allot is going threw his head and will for awhile. Just be yourself, the women he fell in love with. Be there when he needs you. Stand by him. Don't make it the TOPIC everyday, let him bring it up. He will talk when the shock of it all has settled abit. JUST LOVE HIM AS YOU BEEN DOING! My prayers are with him & you.  Peace.
967305
Show him that you care for him and that you are there for him to help whenever he has a prob. Then you would see how he reacts differently. He will probably even get in touch with you more frequently because he will understand that you care for him. When you will get the feeling that he knows that you care for him, then try to start a conversation with him and try to give him some hints that you like him and want him to be your bf. Hopefully he will respond positively to your needs. Good luck and hope that this helps you.
590928
in a relaxed setting, when there calm, etc. if you know that your bf is a good guy i wouldn't worry about your family not accepting him. if its otherwise, i'd think of some crafty way to do it.
613252
I know how it feels and its really hard, but you got to be straight up with the person. Tell him how you feel ( as nice as possible) that way you don't bruise his feelings. Try to be as calm as you can and tell him why you can't be with him, or why you need your space... or whatever the problem is... remember to be yourself and as open and REAL as possible, thats ALWAYS the best way.
619202
If you don't have any problem, let him hug you. Else analyse your problem yourself and keep a distance. I don't know which country you are from. That will be helpful giving you the solution.
478654
Make him feel comfortable, because if he isn't, he won't admit anything.  Tell him it's okay to share his feelings, and that you're there for him.  Be sure to tell him that you just want to help, and you're not asking to poke fun at him.
855262
NO NO NO, YOUR NOT WRONG FOR BEING ANGRY, YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE ,WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU SHOULD SUPPORT AND UPLIFT ONE ANOTHER NOT TAKE PEOPLE FOR GRANTED. STOP TAKING CARE OF HIM SURPRISE HIM AND DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING
1111484
its not ok but all u can do is comfort him n try n show him dat she is no gud. he will realise in time he just has to get over her n find someone else. take him on a nite out dat shud cheer him up
689885
You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
394283
It is a hard thing to do I would be able to give better advice if I knew more of the situation. Just tell him you are sick of being hurt everytime you go out and end it before things get worse. Or talk to him about what he is doing and maybe he would be willing to fix the problem
176841
(Oke this is a silly question though)\nwhy you and ur b/f are alone, tell him all the thing you've d liked about him. Lift him up. Be sure you both are in a serious mood. As you tell him all the thing tell him that you really do not appricate the "ickling to death". Tell him politly that its oke till a certain extent or sometimes!!
936707
well u should make ur bfriend feel taht u give him attention and he is the soul love in all over the world to u\nu should make him smile by any way \ntry to make him love u more and more\nchange from urself to the better \nsee what he dont like on u and try to change it
387200
Truth is give it some time...i know how that feels you may feel like "this is it" "my relationship is over" but he'll come around....give him some time to vent....and when he's cooled down you'll know and then you two should sit down and have a civil conversation and explain to him what you meant and what upset him and talk about it...look at it as a learning experience.....how else would you know what your boyfriend likes and dislikes if arguments don't happen...good luck