Rude to tell mom not to bother?
958406
I don't think it was rude, if it was she was rude to you first, even being your parents you are an adult and should be treated with respect as well.
1124955
I think you already gave yourself the answer.  Stop doing favors for someone who is ungrateful.  Don't be giving her money anymore.  Hang up on her if she is unpleasant on the phone.  Leave if you are together and she gets mean.\n\nIn other words, make it clear you aren't her doormat and you won't take it anymore.\n\nYes you can ignore her if you have to.  Families have a way of healing in time but first you have to break this bad pattern.\n\nDon't let your mom guilt you into putting up with it.  If your sister tries to use your parents to guilt you into doing what she wants, explain the situation to them and tell them you aren't going to be her dog anymore.\n\nYou are only suffering because you allow it to continue.
338284
Tell her next time "I'm sorry but, it is difficult for me to here you in the other room." When she says "I don't mean for you to get up" Say " You can try buzzing me on the phone" In other words state the problem offer a solution. Instead of getting frustrated.
993783
Yes it's rude! It would be one thing if her family didn't know any English but if they do she shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable.  I'm hispanic and my bf is american when my family that doesnt speak english talk to me and he's around i translate for both of them so everyones in the conversation and if we start laughing i tell him right away why so not to make him think it's about him.  Tell her to stop and include you in the convo and to translate.
683269
buy a nice card and then make some "vouchers"(paper, colored pens) and have them say things like, "I will do dishes", "i will cook dinner". anything that you can do that will give your mom a well deserved rest from her never ending chores. only do things that you wouldn't ordinarily do. this only costs the price of a card, but you could alway make the card too. i'm a mom and i would like this as my buttheads, oops, i mean kids never offer to help me unless i ask and then it's iffy. you can tell her that all she has to do to redeem her "gifts" is to give you a voucher. the vouchers could always be generic and say ie."any chore" and then she can choose.
1130127
hmmm....everyone too including me have this problem, but mine is not serious adn my mom treat me very well. ur mom want the best of u, u should not be angry to her. She just worried about u. okay, this is my opinion.\n1. if u really want to go to the party even without her permission, then i suggest that u shouldn't tell her anything about it that means dont quarrel with her. tell her u want to go to school or friend house, or etc. dont wear pretty clothes but put them in ur bag so that she wont doubt of where u r going if u wear pretty clothe in front of her.\n2. ask for daddy permission politely. if yes, ask him to advised ur mom and talk to ur mom again that dad support u but politely even if she reject it again dont be rude, just be normal. if no, let it be.\n3. get suppport from ur grandpa, grandma, aunty, uncle and etc politely. example, grandma, do u support me to go parties? polite even they dont allow. if they support u, ask them to advise ur mom too. do the same way as 2.\n4. make ur mom happy. like study in the house, cooked for her, made a card for her even mother's day is over.\n\n   that;'s all. hope that help. and hope u got the right company otherwise i m sorry to help u. in my opinion, even if u she dont allow u, u should not go unless u really want to. for me family is more imprortant than friend. friend will hurt u whereas family wont hurt u very much. if u didnt go, ur friend will thought that u have pride and wont simply go out
49325
Tell her no. Is there something else very special she could do besides that? Then you don't have to hurt her feelings and she doesn't have to hurt other peoples ears
147536
You haven't given us enough inforamtion to be as helpful as we might be otherwise.  The answer depends on how old you are and what it is your mom is doing that is annoying you.  Is it that you are doing something she doesn't agree with and trying to stop you and so you are annoyed?  Is your mom extra stressed or tired right now?\n\nI agree with other posters.  YOu need to think about what you are doing too.  Moms don't usually change and become  annoying for no reason.  Talk to your mom and see what the problem is.\n\nYOu will only ever have one mom and she won't be around forever, and someday you may look back and wish you had been more understanding.
1121860
I went through that stage too. I dont really know how to explain it lol. I just grew out of it. Sometimes she still gets on my nerves lol. Moms like to be nosey and ask random questions and I think sometimes I was just like seriously leave me alone lol. Try to be patient. She loves you!
181633
First of all I would get my 17 year old sister out of that situation,if your Mom wants to be stubborn,let her be,but get your sister out! She didn't ask for that. Nothing is free in life,if it was,trust me I'd be first in line!!! Its time your Mom puts the needs of your sister first instead of her own!!!
759384
Your cousin is right, ignore her.  As long as she knows it bothers you, she'll keep up the mess.  Once she sees that you could care less, it'll get old real fast!
757192
Yes, very insensitive of them. Just say "I don't want to talk about that if you don't mind ".
441602
My dad used to say something that I didn't understand, but BOY DO I UNDERSTAND NOW!\n\nHe said, "I pay to have a telephone for MY convenience, not others'.  If I want to answer it, I will; if I don't, I won't."\n\nI now drive my kids nuts with this saying.  \n\nWhat also bugs me is when people want to call, and talk for hours, about nothing at all, or spend half the time talking to people in their home.  If you want to call me, do it, state your business, chat a little, ok, but then, WE'RE DONE!\n\nNo.  It's not rude.  Maybe they should consider it is rude of them to think, even though you already stated you don't like the phone, that you want to stay on.\n\nYou probably would go ahead and answer if people would realize the irritation, and only call when it was important, right?\n\nPS>>>To the other folks who replied: If I were to guess, this asker probably has to communicate all day.  She, like me, wants to go home to a quiet haven, and have some down time.  The telephone can be an irritating nuisance.  It's not that she doesn't like her friends, it's just that she probably feels overwhelmed.\n\nAN IDEA:  Try asking your friends if they NEED to call, to please only call between, say, 6 and 7 pm.  Explain that you are needing time to unwind.  Maybe this would be a way to show them that you still care about them, but also about your sanity.
484292
Ignore her. She isn't doing anything to you.
306780
thank her for loving you if she didn't care where you were going or who you were with she wouldn't be a mom. I am now a mother and thank god my mom cared enough to CARE good luck and if your not doing anything wrong what does it matter if she ask???
697104
you poor thing. no parent should treat their kid that way. or act that way around their kid. tell your mom that you love her, but your relationship is being strained. you are acting as the enabler. if the roles were reversed, would she seriously let YOU "mooch" off of her?
941859
It doesn't look rude if you throw a baby shower for yourself. I would hold my own shower and not invite the mil.\n\nShe sounds rude and selfish.