Has anyone had the problem of wanting to wait for a good guy but then that sex drive gets in the way ?
952453
This question is soooo me!  I couldn't have written it better myself!  I have to say i've made several resolutions to wait til i meet a good guy, but then my hormones start calling, and well... the rest is history.  Now, I'm at the point that I still want a good guy, and try to hold out for him, but I don't beat myself up for satisfying my sexual appetite.  I think it's healthy, and keeps me from being sexually frustrated!
70822
I use to until a great guy came along but i dont think i fantasized about he because i wanted him but just because i wanted some one there to hold me like he did her.
57422
I think those who waited until they found someone they believed cared for them had the least problems.  Obviously there are no guarantees; even waiting until marriage doesn't mean "happily ever after".  However, I think that being patient and waiting for the "right" one is more intelligent than letting hormones control you.  I believe this is true for both men and women; there are plenty of guys who think of themselves as "players" but are just scared of ending up with the wrong person.\n\nI think this a good time to point out that it's not just women who risk in a sexual relationship--it's just they're usually the only ones willing to talk about it.\n\nIn the end we all have to risk making the wrong decision to find that happiness we all want.  I did, and have a couple pretty nasty scars to show for it.  But, as the saying goes, the third time's a charm.
1100595
go slower and more foreplay and just enjoy yourself and be glad you have someone to have intercourse with...i could of course but i want to love and care about someone before i go there...
490546
Personally, I like a guy to come up to me first, I guess maybe that's because I'm a little shy myself. They say good guys finish last and I guess as the saying is also for girls that is why I am still single myself, but in reality although women may seem attracted to bad boys so to speak I think that all they really want at the end of the day is a nice good guy. Perhaps consider being more forward, I know it feels hard but women will respect you for that. If you're good looking and are really a nice guy then you don't need to worry about a thing, she'll come along soon enough.\nHey, if I had met you myself already I probably would have taken the need for you to ask that question straight out of your mind ;o)\nGood luck, relax and try to have fun out there. x
645659
i could see how you can think it would and it might, its easy  to please yourself but at the same time it makes you sad if you have to do it too long because your wanting that intimate sexual relationship with someone so ya i can see how it would make you depressed, just hang in there and dont stop looking for that right person but dont go out and be premiscious either to many deseases out there! hang in there youll find someone!
50004
There are many women who can handle this.  Those women are the ones who respect and share your values, love you for yourself, and aren't so shallow that sex would overshadow your good qualities.  You will know that woman when she comes your way.  Be sure to express yourself well enough so she understands why you want to wait, then she won't feel it's because you don't desire her.\n\nGood Luck!
311830
Having sex before I was ready, and not waiting for the right guy.
195202
For one YOUR A GOOD GUY. Ima girl and I dont always want a good guy.  I dont want him giving me everything I want. I want to feel like "I" have to work for it not them.  I promise thats exactly what they are lookng for. If they cant find it in you they end up finding it in someone who does do it. You know what that's telling you..?  They arent your soulmate. When you find a girl and you treat them how they want and yall r perfect for each other then she wont do you wrong.  But stop being so lovey lovey and stuff. Be aggressive!!
353699
I think that if he truly does like you for you he will appreciate that you are not ready.  Now, something similar happened to me, and i was pissed, (i will be honest, I was rather horny, and expecting some gratification that never came.)  If he does get pissed just let him know that it is not him, it is you.  If you do not want him to enter you, is there anything else you might be willing to do that will satisfy him?  If not, let him know.  But in the end, you have to do what feels right.  If deep down you really want to have sex, but you are getting cold feet or butterflies, i suggest you go for it.
490166
I have a history of long-term relationships but lately have had trouble finding someone interested in something long term.  Hard to find a good man sometimes.
698964
Depends on the age of the guy.  Wanting a good body and sex never goes away.  But someone who says that's all they want is probably still immature and just isn't getting enough on a regular basis.  Once they realize that sex is available to everyone - then they'll start also looking for things like intelligence, kindness, fun-loving, and good sense of humor.
1123306
yes.....First, take a look at potential libido-killers in your life. These can take a bite out of your sex drive. Anti-depressants, alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs can do the same. \n\nNext, take a closer look at the emotional stuff. Is it possible that a relationship problem is expressing itself this way? Maybe you're not aware of some issue that's affecting you nonetheless. \n\nLastly, people do have different sex drives, and it's possible that yours isn't a strong one (beyond the initial excitement of being with a new partner). But it sounds like you want to be having sex, so maybe repetition is lulling your libido to sleep. Try exploring new sexual adventures: read sexy books, watch sexy movies, and see if you get inspired!
201799
Nothing's the matter with you. Don't rush it and don't lower your standards! He will come along, just be patient and don't give up looking. Have some fun in the meantime so you don't get bored, but never settle for second best.
503886
Any time there is a controversy in a sexual relationship, it is normal to think that one or both partners need help. The fact of the matter is that most of the times, disagreements are not serious when you disagree of what type of sexual method you would want to practice, or where, or if you would want to experience situations perceived as out-of-the-ordinary...The issue that stir problems is almost always the quantity of sex between the partners. When one partner does not show as much willingness and desire to "do it", the inevitable rejection issues arise, the misunderstanding, the lack of communication, the feeling sorry for one self, etc. I believe two good partners are those who share the same sexual drive and/or are both willing to experience new things together. There is nothing wrong with being a nympho. Nothing wrong with being a prude or having minimal sexual drive. The clue is to find a match that can correspond with your genetic sexual instinct. Most mistakes we make take place when we fall in love. In fact, when we fall in love we act sexually like we don't do all the time. We become more active and show a superman and superwoman image. Once the falling in love period is over, our sexual drive goes back to our natural status. That is when you need to see if you are compatible with your partner, or make a decision if you are willing to be in love with a partner who may have sexual stimuli way different than yours (be they more frequent or less frequent). Overall, I believe in our life, sooner or later we all reach a point when we think we may need help for our sexual behavior, but most of the times the answers are within ourselves. It's not bad talking it over with good friends, though. Therapist like to get your money. Just think, and make a choice you can live with!
54511
I have to kids and one on the way. Let me let you ladies know that my husband complains about my sex drive being too high..I'm 23 and he's 26 and I always want sex. So when I get it usually its good if not I tell him that he sucked in the bed and i'm sleeping downstairs. To answer the question.. every chance I can get it, but usually every 3 days.
1175444
no. sometimes its better to take things slowly, and get to know each other really well. then when you know you trust them, you can go ahead and do the things that you wanna do. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and we havent had sex yet. he knows i want to wait, and he respects that. but if your man does'nt want to wait, then he is'nt worth your time. no guy should have to be that way.