How do you know if you are unapproachable to guys in the case of them asking you out?
954410
When it's obvious that one is into you, but doesn't make a move. Personally, I'd rather be unapproachable. It's so much more fun to shoot guys down than date them.
207974
I can't say i've had that experience. but i'm very sorry you've had to experience it. Asking someone out makes you vulnerable to rejection. people should really try to put themself in the other person's shoes before they do something like that.
767345
Well usally  that is when people generally ask people out. If you have a fear of being rejected then i would make sure she is interested in u first. But if she is i think u should ask her out!
912571
Hell yes ask him out!  How are you going to know if you dont try?
856411
Take a deep breath, it will all be fine, if he's not interested big deal. He's not going to walk around telling everyone you asked him out and he turned you down. You know what my personal moto is- Glory to the brave. When ever I want to ask out a girl or approach a girl and I start to fear rejection I say to myself Glory to the Brave and do it. I've got rejected before, but in a few days you'll never remember and I've also gone out with some beautiful girls, and that wouldn't have happened if I didn't have the balls to make a move
213500
A) Maybe You are intimidating. Make the first move on the guy you like. Young or shy guys have a big fear of rejection.\n\nB) Be more friendly. Hint on the guys you like. Flirt a little.
316397
ok if they talk to their friends about you that's a DEFINITE yes to whether they like you or not. flirts with you? this doesn't always mean that they like you. i flirt a lot and i don't always have a crush on the person i'm flirting with. invites you to spend time with them= obvious yes. unless they try to get in your pants or something. asks you out= well they MUST like you at least a bit if they want to be your gf/bf. rumors should never be counted on for accuracy so i'd say ignore those.
77625
Oh, it can be hard to tell sometimes. Some guys are very shy and afraid of rejection. They can be so afraid to let their feelings show. \n\nIf they get kinda tongue-tied and quiet around you, that might be a sign. If they keep calling and asking you to do things with them, that's a pretty big sign.  If they give you gifts and remember your birthday, valentine's day, etc.... well, he's yours! Even married guys forget that stuff.\n\nSeriously, if you think he likes you, and you like him back, TELL HIM YOU LIKE HIM! If he isn't into you, he'll let you know. But don't wait for him to ask you... some guys are so shy it may never happen!
508596
isn't it terrifying? guess what, THATS WHAT YOU EXPECT US TO DO!!!!!! thats why women made it up that guys are suposed to ask you out because you chics are way too fragile to deal with the rejection. tough crap sweety. ask the dude out and if he says no then take the hit and move on like any guy would do. it's a huge blow to our ego to be rejected but we cope. so if he says no simply say "thats cool." and keep on with the conversation. wow thats tough isn't it?
284568
He's hoping you either say noone or..him. He's afraid to be rejected. Shock him. Tell him you've been waiting for him to ask. And tell him it's him you like. You'll be back in a few minutes to ask us what to do now that he asked you out, so I'll just wait a few. Enjoy.
248578
You can really tell if he spnds time with you.  But if he constantly blows you off for his friends or other girls, then it's probably a sign that he's not that into you.  If i were you i wouldn't nessisarily ask him out, but invite him to church or something and and if he says yes, then you at least know he likes you somewhat, then work your way from there.
498741
Just be yourself, stay happy, and dont let it show that you are too worried, just a bit and the person that asked you out should be able to see and understand, most people have ways to make others more comforatable, so talk, be honest, and i hope it all works out for you!  :)
910160
People who are shy are usually shy for a reason. You know that rejection is by far the most likely outcome if you were to ask women out. \n\nShyness is nature's way of stopping a guy from making stupid mistakes like the one you did in the club.\n\nYou'll most likely be alone either way, so you need to decide is it worth the prospect of many many rejections on the slim chance that somewhere along the line there is a woman desperate enough to not only have any interest in the first place but to want any sort of a relationship?
301991
Absolutelly not go for it, from a guy we are very chicken at times especially the nice guys the more agressive guys that would ask you out without breaking out in a sweat are probably not nice guys. Being confident is a sign of knowing what you want and sure of yourself a rare thing. I wouldn't say it would come off as desperate. Just knowing what you want and going for it!
216790
Just ask him and be confident in yourself. Don't say you don't look good. Have faith in you because nobody else will. If he isn't interested its not the end of the world, trust me. I've been turned down myself and it didnt kill me. It might hurt for a while, but you'll move on. So cheer up and just be straight up with him about how you feel and see where his mind is.
69154
Men are more afaid of rejection than women...so if you see one you like...go up and ask him...#1 Are you married,engaged,living with someone or gay? get a no...Then go to #2 Then whats wrong with you...You havent asked me out yet? This should get an AAAA answer...and give him your phone# on your card...and go on to next guy DO NOT WAIT TILL HE CALLS
708491
Try not to worry about what his friends will think. \nIf he's worth it and you have an interest in him, go for it. \nJust keep it a casual invitation, it will be hard for him to say no.\nHonestly, there are worse things in life than being turned down for a date.