How can I tell if the woman I am talking with is not a scammer?
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These posts paint a worse picture than there really is.\n\nFirst, you have to consider several things. \n\n1. How did you meet this girl?\n\nWas it an unsolicited email from her? Or did you find it on a "free" dating website? Or a forum posting, "looking for a man"?\n\n2. How long have you written to her?\n\nA month? A couple? A few? 6 months? Do you talk on the phone at all, or just email?\n\n3. How old is she and how old are you?\n\nUkrainian women from 17-22 usually don't care about age difference. Beyond that, 10-15 years age difference is prefered, but nothing more (usually).\n\n4. Help bringing her here if you marry. It's not so hard, yet the most difficult is the US Embassy in Kiev (the only US Embassy in Ukraine).\n\nI'd be happy to talk to you in Yahoo regarding this. Don't waste money on lawyers. They charge too much for what you can do yourself.\n\nYou can view a good topic on what to look for, to tell a scam, at http://www.elenasmodels.com . She runs a reputable dating site, and has a whole section of tips regarding scams.\n\nIf you want a cursory check to see if she is real, contact me via email (it's available in my profile). I live in Ukraine with my wife, who I met on the internet. \n\nIt's not so scarey.
82766
Just tell her that she is really beautiful and she is exactly the kind of woman you'll pay for, make that as a joke but look fro her reaction. She'll get back to you on your next visit
675765
They may be just people he met befor you on the service and he just wants to keep in touch. Its the hardest thing in the world to imagine and to confront when your not sure, you dont want to make yourself look insecure, but obviously your feeling that somthings up and once you feel that you always be judging your own intuition.Id create a fake person on the site and try to see if he falls for the bait> if he mentions you everythings probably fine if not you better run
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If you know there last name u can try googling her or buy a dectective or sumthin.\n\nThats the best i can say.\nHope you find her cause she sounds nice. :)
1047153
Is this really a question or is it a solicitation?
940758
When she is honest with you and does what she says she is when she say she is in a consistent timeframe. Notice the little stuff like a phone call or visit. Shoot if you brave enough just come out an ask her dont be left in suspense. She will answer you straight up without hesitation like I dunno or maybe or any BS like that.
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It does seem a strange thing to do for a few hundred dollars, but she may be repeating this scam hundreds of times at once.  Then again she may be real, maybe she just wants to come to America to have a better life.  If this is case she is probably looking for someone to marry so that she can stay.  Either way, I think that you are right to be cautious.\n\nIf you can't get her out of your head, why don't you offer to buy the ticket for her (i.e. pay for it on your credit card, so she doesn't get any money directly from you).  If she accepts then she is serious.  If she doesn't she probably just wants you to send her a few hundred dollars!
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Is she acting different than when you first met her? Is she being secretive about certain things? Mostly it sounds as if there are some trust issues involved.
54703
Your best bet is to simply ask . You can not tell just by looking at someone thats for sure .
85259
no, that has scam written all over it. Please remember that there is nosuch thing as a free lunch and if it seems too good to be true, it often is...Please exercise extreme care in dealing with this lady.
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Did you get the name of the woman who said you could bring cash? If so , relax. If not, you can still tell them that these were your instructions from the lady you spoke with. ALWAYS a good idea to get the name of anyone you speak with on the phone.
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Look at their profile.  Send an email and ask.\n\nIf you have an email from that person, look at the headers. It can contain some info.
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OH YES,  when you get pics from this person, ask them how recent they are!!  I would get pics from guys and there were old pics and when I met them they had put on like 100#.  I've heard of people sending pics that aren't even them.  so yes there can be some deceit, but just ask and follow your gut feeling.  if you feel like they aren't being honest ask them or don't bother to meet them.  If they are being dishonest on the net then they will cont to be in person and why waste your time on that.  good luck
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Hmmm - is it her computer? Then why is it your issue? \n\nCould be she has imaginary friends or knows you pry and doesn't want you to know the names of who she is really listing. Either way, if it's her computer it's her business.
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Check all your credit cards and your accounts.  Check your credit rating.  Advise your bank about what is happening.  Respond to all these offers by letting them know that there is no such person at this address and that someone is using your address without your permission.
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reply her calls\nu will find out
722624
I'd be upfront and ask her abou this other person. It also depends I guess on what your intentions are towards this woman.