My grandfather has been sick for 6 months, as a result both of them are now deprerssed....any advice??
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My aunt passed away this past year from breast cancer, and I don't know if this is something that it unique to the city they live in, to breast cancer, or to terminal patients, but there was a hospice that helped them (her, her husband, my cousins, and my grandparents) through the entire thing, providing counseling for her and for her "co-survivors" (the people in your life whose lives are affected during diagnosis, treatment, and possibly death), being an advocate for her with the various doctors and hospitals and treatment centers, helping them find financial resources when things got really bad financially, and when the end was near, she went to live there and was cared for in a really kind, peaceful, gentle way (unlike at a hospital, where understaffing can happen, the hospice is small, and the people are trained for that particular work...  they became close friends through the whole ordeal).\n\nIt's not just with the elderly.  Depression in cancer patients and families of cancer patients is understandable and common.  If you don't know of any resources, start out talking to his oncologist (or a nurse at the oncologist's office, since a lot of times, the doctors can be rushed and not all doctors have a great bedside manner, while nurses are the ones who are actually THERE for the whole thing).  Express your concerns and ask if there are any centers, hospices, or other resources available to help them work through this time in their lives.  I'm sure they'll be able to get you to SOMEONE who could help, or who could tell you what the next step towards getting help would be.\n\nAll that aside, when my own grandfather had cancer, he was very trying to be around.  I say that, and I hope you realize that I love him very very much, and I understand that it's COMPLETELY normal for him to be upset, and all that, but realistically, yeah, he was difficult to be with.  Basically, for 65 years, he had been a robust man, working two jobs at time, a manager or supervisor in just about any job he had, he loved to be around people and to travel and to work out in his yard and all that, then he got sick, and was dependant on his wife (a woman my husband likes to tease about being the only 65-year-old woman to maintain her birthweight...  she's TINY) and his daughters and doctors, and he didn't have the energy he wanted to keep up with grandkids and go to church and he couldn't travel anymore.  Basically, he just had to hand over his "I Can Take Care of Myself" card, and I think his pride was hurt more than his body at that time.  So we'd bring him food, or help him across the house, and he was grumbling the whole time, not because he was bothered by us or he didn't think we were taking good care of him, but because he didn't want to be taken care of at all.  That frustration on top of everything else came out loud and clear.  Understand that your grandfather is a grown man (even if at times he has to be cared for like a child) and try to find ways to respect him that way.  In some ways, taking care of an ill grandparent is like taking care of a three-year-old.  They have to reliquish control, but they won't do it happily.  Sometimes the best thing to do is to let them think they have control, even over seemingly small things.  \n\nI'm sorry to hear of your grandfather's illness.  Take care.
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My dad had autopsy and they took aabout a month to give out results. I think it depends on how busy they are. Obviously this is distressing for you. Maybe you or other famiy member could contact them to see how much longer you have to wait...Im sorry for your loss and will send some long distance healing for you
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You know i have that same problem.  Don't know my DAd and my Mom passed 7 years ago.  Maybe someone in your family can help you out.  I wish you the best of luck.  Or maybe call the Maury Show.
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tell them no. that's what he wants you to do serve him. find an agency that offers 24 hour care or you can also contact hospice they are trained to help the family with respite and other situations were it is impossible for the family to care for the terminally ill.and he can afford it if they are well to do. i know you are a good person just by reading your story, but he hates you, not dislike or slightly annoyed, just mean. explain to your husband that after all the years you just wouldn't be comfortable taking care of such a mean spirit. i know him and his family will come up with another idea. and the elderly and sick need more attention and care.good luck and forgive him and pray for him.
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"Dying relatives" is usually a pretty good excuse. Just be sure they recover, so you don't have to provide documentation afterward.
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First of all, my condolences to you and your family.  I know first hand how difficult a time you are going through\n\nI'm confused about his prior tests; he went through "many heart tests" and no one picked up on his CHF?  What was tested?Was your dad persistant in following up with the doctor when the over-the counter meds didn't work on the supposed acid reflux?   Over how long a period of time was this going on?  Did he have other symptoms?  Did he tell everything to the doctor?  \n\nI don't mean to sound offensive, I know doctors do make mistakes, BUT we also have to be responsible for our own care as well.  So if, in fact your dad did everything he could have done and the doctor ignored him, then yes, you might have a case, but that still won't bring him back.
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My Mum & Brother I did`nt have time to greave for my Mum before my Brother found out he had cancer and then from him finding out I only had 10 months before he died in fact I lost both of them within 18 months
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It took me over a year of solitary struggle before I wised up and contacted my local (150 miles away!) Alzheimer's support group... It was the best thing I could have done for both of us! They have excellent information on every aspect of caring for you, your family and the one affected. \nIf it is a close family member (in my case my mom) who lives with you, this disease will impact every facet of your life and can rapidly become overwhelming. The support provided by others in the same situation can be priceless.\nThere is so much you can do to make everyone's life so much easier... from learning how to prevent inadvertently making your loved ones mental outlook worse to helping your children deal with the changes and irrationality. (I have provided a link below to a Chapter search.) They have a good information packet they can send and meetings you can attend if you are close enough. \nMy heart and prayers go out to you... This disease can be devastating for all involved. It can also have moments you will forever treasure as you help your loved one through this final transition with compassion and understanding.\nMy mother is gone now and though it was the most difficult and traumatic 5 years I ever endured, I don't regret one day of the experience.
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So sorry to hear about your grandpa. I will pray for him.\n\nIt is one thing to not believe, but it is another to come and write hurtful and insulting things on this Question. If you do not agree, then please click your mouse and go away if having nothing other than respect for another human being.
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Contact Social Services asap, they WILL be able to help you, even the very same day in most cases, especially as you are also becoming ill and stressed with all the pressure being put on you. CPN's are not very good in my experience (I have had a lot of experience)
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I've never heard of this, so first of all my thoughts are with your family.  I knew strokes, heart attacks and those types of things didn't only happen to "older" people anymore, but that they were also happening to people as young as their 20's.  I had absolutely no idea, I am going to try to look this up tho, as I have two young children.  Were there any symptoms, something long coming that didn't get noticed because it was also considered a normal thing?  I hope he stays strong and has a great turn around back to good health.
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What a terrible situation!\n\nThere is a site you can visit that will tell you what your rights are in your state.  The link is:\n\nhttp://www.grandparenting.org/Grandparent%20Visitation.htm\n\nHere is some of the advice from that site:\n\n"If you have specific questions concerning rights in your state, contact:\nwww.grandparentsforchildren.org \nG.R.O.: Grandparent's Rights Organization, (248) 646-7191.\nThe National Coalition of Grandparents at (608) 238-8751\nwww. grandparentchildconnect.org \nThey'll give you up to date information concerning the laws in your state.\n\nGeneral Suggestions:\n\nYou can find out about a local contact by logging on to \nwww.grandparentsforchildren.org, Learn about the laws in your state by logging \non to www.aarp.org. or www.gu.org, or calling GRO at 248-646-7191. Also \nsee www.grandparentchildconnect.org.\n\nIt's always a good idea to consult a local lawyer to learn about your specific rights \nin your state. Try legal aid or the local bar association if finances are a problem.\n\nAlso consult Dr. Kornhaber's book "The Grandparent Guide" for specific advice, \nsupport and guidance. You can get it from your local bookstore or library or \non-line at www.amazon.com."\n\nGood luck to you and your family.
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Although it is hard to come to terms with what is going on at the moment you must keep in mind that your uncle will reach a place where most of us could only dream of being. My cousin whom was 22 just past away with CF which is a lung disease and i took it pretty bad.. but i knew that when he went it was gods plan to make him healthy and happy and not to suffer anymore here on earth. Also you will too one day meet up with him and be a family as you are now here on earth. Keep your chin up and be strong for him as he has gone though so much with his chemo and the pain. You will be able to say your last goodbyes and when you do you will feel a sence of calmness in you. I will pray for you and your family.
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hiya!! just dealt with the same problem at home...if you contact birth deaths and marriages,for a small fee you can get a copy of your original birth certificate!! good luck
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I was 40 when my mom died. Today I'm 46 and still every once in a while I become very sad and even cry on occasion.  You were only 8 and you are now only 15.  The point I am trying to make is that the death of someone very close to us is difficult no matter our age at the time. But when you are a child you really don't understand all that is happening. Now as you mature and approach your adult life there are probably some issues about your grandfather and/or his death that were unresolved.  When you were 8 you were not prepared to deal with them.  Now you are able to and so your mind is letting them come up again. Our minds are strange things sometimes at night they dream things that scare the hell out of us. At other times they protect us from the things that really will hurt us.  I know that this is troubling for you and feel you need professional help to deal with it. Like others before me, I suggest you seek that help. Your parents and your doctor are good places to start.\n\nHope this helps you and Good Luck!
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get the book "natural cures they dont want you to know about" by kevin Trudeau book number 2 it has alot of stuff that you can do.. my grandfather has been doing it and hes had cancer for like 3 years and he stopped his kemo last year and he seems to be doing better with what the book told him to do.. now i am not saying do what the book says and itll go away.. or even dont listen to the doctors but i am just telling you what my granfather did.. please do what you feel comfortable to do..
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First of all, my condolences go out to you. Try remembering fun things you did with your pappaw. I do it quite frequently, as my grandfather passed away just before Chritmas. Did you fish, go to the movies, go to the park, have dinner at your favorite restaurant, anything memorable with him. If so, try to think about the most exciting things you did together. If you are religious, try prayer or meditation, depending on your religious preferences. If he was suffering before he passed, think of how comfortable he must be now that he is not suffering. If you have a pastor, mentor, or close friend, try talkin about your feelings with them. I truly hope you gain some comfort in the time to come.