Guys, Please Help Settle A Dispute...What are Guys Thinking When They Are Staring Down A Married Girl....?
958576
you should know this answer, everyone likes looking at a yummy mommy ... i think you should be happy that guys find your wife attractive! The best thing to do when guys stare at your wife is to give her a little kiss in the neck ... (kinda like marking your territory!!)
256124
I stare at a lot of women's rears and it doesn't always mean that I want a relationship with them.  You need to find out more about him and his current situation before you jump to any conclusions.
669005
I would find out what he is saying to her about her comments of you not being good enough for him.  Take his attention away from the computer during the times you know he is on it with her if you can.  Keep reminding him of why you guys got married in the first place.  There is such a thing as an "emotional relationship" and this will lead to other risk taking opportunities if you don't get a handle on this quick!  ONlY your husband is responsible for his actions not her...so don't be mad at her.  He has the choice to defend you and not let her take control of his own emotions in your relationship.  Good luck and remember you still love him.
824901
AK,\n  This is ALOT like the situation I was in before, ONLY reversed------------------- I can't speak for "your girl", but from a gal's point of view, I'm seeing from all you described, SHE is confused and she got caught up in you, probably feels guilty, and is in a tough spot about what to do with her marriage..............................\n  She is going through alot emotionally and I'm sure she does love you.  It's a confusing time for her with alot of emotions going on.\n  Don't drop her, 'cause we all need someone in our lives who care and if you disappear, she would be lost, I can tell you that!\n  I'd say it would be good to get out there and date, but stay in touch with this girl too.\n\nWhat you "should do" is all up to you.  You said she is the girl of your dreams, THEN, stand by her--------------LOVE is PATIENT.\n  That;s it right there, how much she means to you!\n\nNext, I'm wondering maybe "your girl" doesn't exactly know where she stands with you.  Does she know you love her?  Have you offered her a future with you?  Maybe she needs some reassurance so that maybe she can have that strength to leave her husband, if she knows she "fits in" your life!\n\nDivorce isn't easy as you already know, and maybe for "your girl" she is having a hard time with the idea of fully "letting go" of her marriage for whatever reasons, SO I wouldn't take her hesitation personal cuz she is dealing and going through alot all at once!\n\nTalk to her, be there for her, just be her friend right now, and you might be ok with that if the both of you are secure in your love for each other, see?   Please don't turn your back on her.  That's all I wanted to say.\n\nGood luck to you both and with your support she will get through her problems, you will see!
457326
She could be like a lot of women...meaning that eventhough she's in a sh*tty marriage, she's still gonna be faithful to him because the bond of marriage does mean something to her. If you try and push the issue with her you're only gonna make her uncomfortable and she'll push you away. I say just bide your time cause eventually she'll realize she's with a d*ckhead and leave his *ss. We all smarten up at some point :D.
744736
Would you like to come home to a new wife?\n\nIt's like sleeping with somene new, except you're not cheating.\n\nWhen the guys see her photo in your wallet, do they stare?
370084
As of right now, she is technically single so if you are going to find out if she has mutual feelings, it should be done right away before the wedding, but you should only do this if you are sure of your feelings. You are right it's wrong to try and get her when you know she has a man...did you ever question why you were attracted to her?  Could it be the fact that you know she has a man in her life?
139381
One thing you've got to understand about men.. We will always look.  Touch? that's another story that depends on the man.   But look we will.\n\nI cant' speak for your man, because I don't know him.  But I know in my own personal experiance, that I love my wife to death.  But I still look around.  It's not a form of dis-resepect in my (or her) eyes.  It's a natural thing. \nand it's just LOOKING.  Like walking though the mall and looking in the clothing stores for shoes.  Doesn't mean you're going to buy.. your just looking.\n\nTo me, it sounds like you're upset about him looking because you are hung up on your own looks.  Respect yourself.  You're choices make up who you are.  Not your looks.  He thinks your hot,  He respects you enough to, at least, try to hide the fact that he's looking.
245341
depends on how you look at them. if you stare, i'd suggest not staring. if you're just looking around in a natural way, ask yourself if you really want to be with somebody that tries to control where your head turns.
607330
well why do u think she's not interested?\nobviously she was intrested at some point if u 2 are married, so just try to rekindle some romance
1095075
Psst....it's a coy act, flattering to your ego: but it's still a classic female act.  Simply spend a bit of time around her.....show her POLITELY you're interested; if she's interested--you'll know.\n\nThe rest from there should unfold naturally.  Pray the clothes DON'T unfold off naturally; that tends to complicate things in the long run.  However, if they do, pratice common sense and safe sex.\n\nCourse I'm getting ahead of things, aren't I?  Then, there's the wedding to plan.........
891114
It sounds like he is interested...If you're interested in him or think that there might be something there, I would ask him.  If you don't like him, I would still approach him anyway because staring is just plain rude! :)
570506
Before examining your wife, lets take a look at this dude.  If he was a friend of hers, he wouldnt be making underhanded comments about you, doing things behind your back, etc.  If he was a friend of hers, he would want to be friends with you as well.  I mean, he is a dude.  He knows it is shady to do things behind your back.  Plus, he is putting your wife, his supposed friend, in a compromising position.\n\nNext issue, it is 100% your wife's responsibility to do the right thing.  You probably have a hot wife so you cant blame dudes for wanting her, but you can hold her accountable for doing the right or wrong thing.  She is the one that is married.\n\nSomeone else said this and it is absolutely correct, approach your wife with your feelings in a nonthreatening or emotional manner.  You gotta tell her how you feel and let her know that dismissing your feelings as jelous or irrational is not acceptable.  If this guy is truely a friend, he would hang out with both of you.  Tell her that you trust her and thinks its positive to have lots of friends of both genders, but texting, meeting behind your back, etc. is not something that wives and random dudes do if they are on the up and up.  If they are such great friends, he should come over to your crib to eat steaks and have beers with both of you.\n\nDont accept her acting shady.  You know as well as I do what is going on if she is shady.  Also, don't bite your tongue and be permissive because others tell you too.  You know in your gut if you are right or wrong.
401724
Your question makes me wonder if there are really differences between men and women and the way we think?\n\nOkay I've been married to the same blond haird girl for the past twenty years. we still carry on like newly weds.\nNever cheated on her never wanted too.\n\nBut I still look and still wonder what if?\nI think were all wired that way.\nbut at the end of the day and it's time to find something soft to cuddle with\nWell for me there's only ever been one person to go home with!
1020751
How old are you? And why are you even thinking of having sex with a g/f when you should know that sex should be between a man and women that are married? What had happened to you people these days?
292302
Look this is the deal.. I understand you all have been best friends from some time and you just broke up. But she is getting married and there is really no reason you should interfere with this girl and her fiance... But I can tell you this if she is getting married to this guy and still attempting to keep ties with you. Well then it is obvious that she still cares for you. So knowing that you need to make sure that your not the reason that there marragies breaks up or does not last. And I belive you still have feelings for her as well so if your love is real then it can withstand what has been done. But this girl seems to mean to be unstable if she is planning to get married and then wanting to keep ties with you still. I mean she knows if she does this that she can have you and this guy. And then what she gets married and then later to you. I am sure this girl is sweet and kind but you need to protect your own heart...
545720
This is normal male behavior.  Be honest, you looked and noticed she was "hot" too.  We all look at other people.  Don't make a big deal out of nothing.  If he's doing more than looking, or looking online and in magazines then, I might move on.  If he's not happy looking at you, the real thing, then you don't need to stay in his sights.