No sex for newlyweds?
952684
I understand he might have fears about the baby, but other than that, I'm confused.  My husband actually requests more sex when he's stressed out.  It relaxes him.  I think he's being selfish personally.
157359
No I do not believe in sex before marriage. I got married when I was 24 (a little more than a year ago) and that's when I lost my virginity, and I am damn proud of it.. no regrets, extremely happy about :o) People should try it out, it's not like they're NEVER going to have sex... besides, it's more special.
566714
Dear lady,\n\ni really simpathize on you! one-  what did your husband tell u if he is not fit for intercourse did he just keep quiet ignore or suggested you of something? second- talk to him  about your feelings and more over its your life and u have a huge life in front of you don you wanna have children in future how will u b satisfied without sex... just by being with his family and him, unless you are not at all interested in it u may continue,if u think u break this marriage can u support yourself instead of being on yr parents if yes go ahead support yr self then marry someone else coz this is no good to b with a person where there is no future. your inlaws are very good bcoz they cheated u and yr family hiding their sons fact...and so they will remain good. If you wanna continue u may with him being a nurse yr whole life. If not have an extra affair to fulfill yr needs talk to him about it. or just hide it..
935955
It could be a number of things....maybe they have kids and the woman is too tired?  Maybe her husband doesn't do the same things to/for her as he used to before getting married, for example, lighting candles, romancing, going out for drinks etc.  I think for me personally, I love having sex with my husband, but we have limited time to f**k around anymore, we have 2 small children.  We're both exhausted.  Maybe you need to make a date with your wife, compliment her all night on how beautiful she is, then ask her to go down......can't hurt you know?  Wow, I think I need to run home and have oral with my husband tonight ;o)
183508
When you know a person without sex first, and you really want to be with each other all the time, the sex will come naturally and be mindblowing.  Courting use to be the way it was done years ago.  I believe that's why older couples have remained married for so long, because they got to know each other first and decided to committ the rest of their lives to each other before they had sex.
57769
Interesting to hear the female side of this one...I was 25 and she was my good friend at the time.  She was experienced and we were both well liquored.  Afterwards I wished I had started a bit earlier since sex is very nice.  I had one additional partner before getting married and still feel lacking technique-wise.  Looking back it did impact our relationship but after some time passed we got back to almost normal.  But the one night was not a topic of discussion (yes only one night..I don't know what I was thinking when I said we should chalk it up to experience and stop there).
248598
Coming from an Indian background (but not Hindu), I can only tell u this:\nIt depends on how well u know each other before the wedding, esp if it was an arranged marriage.\n\nMaybe u will only talk! It's best that u wait until ur wife is ready to have sex with u. If she's shy, maybe just kiss and cuddle the first night so she gets used to u. And bear in mind she probably doesnt expect u to be a sex god! It's nice to learn the ways of love together.\n\nTalk to ur parents or a marriage counsellor in the community, if ur still unsure.
469178
No I never have. Married twice, 2 kids, never had sex. Of course silly. Maybe that is a question for a close friend, or sister. Don't ask that kind of question here. You may get some answers you really shouldn't. Better try someone you know and trust.
795225
There is no normal amount of sex per person or couples.  Everyone is different.   Sex is a very important part of marriage and those who think not are those that end in divorce or unhappy.   I have been married for 22 years and our sex life has increased if anything.   We cant keep our hands off each other.  We play head games and flirt all the time.  By the time we are alone we are all over each other.   As my wife says sex is 24 hours a day.  Phone calls, emails text messages and flirting  never stops.   \n\nStart flirting with your husband, Grab his butt when he goes by and just smile.  When you walk by him rub up against him slow and sexually.  Just smile.   Give him a kiss for no other reason than because you want to.   Say something about wanting him to yourself really bad.\n\nIf you want a sex life then you both need to live it.   Do your part and I am sure he will start doing the same.
865367
sex is a very important part of a marriage. Without sex many marriages will end. Accidents or medical problems that causes the problem of not being able to preform will affect many in different ways. So I guess it will depend on how strong your love is.
29217
If neither one of you is willling to make an effort then you've already lost this one, 50% of your married life is spent in the marital bed, more than any part of the household. If you cannot find sanctuary, salvation and more importantly fullfilment in the bedroom, then what else is there to hope for?
164988
you need to relieve yourself by thinking of her or even better ask her to help you. You can do it without having sex. Ask her to watch you. It's fun!!!Or just ask God to help you until you are ready for marriage.
56971
You cannot win.  Any sex before marriage and you are a sinning sl*ut.  Any sex after the first date and some will call you a prude.\nSex involves intimate physical contact with another human being.  First talk this over with that other human.  This is your relationship, not ours.  If you can not talk about sex, you shouldn't be doing it.
36867
It is hell on earth.\n\n1. You live with someone but never have sex\n\n2. You can't, can't, can't just simply walk out the door after a fight. \n\n3. Wives become nags, husbands become lazy slobs\n\n4. Both you and your spouse will end up putting on an extra 50 lbs, just because you can.\n\nIn other words, don't bother. You can still have the sex and the joy of a relationship without complicating your life.
1063158
Sex in marriage is a perk.... and no matter what eventually it will wane between two who are together for a long time.... \n Sex when someone is ill can be very difficult for both partners and sometimes it is in the best interest of both to just stop doing it. Not that they are not intimate, there is so much more to marriage... we have been together for 20 years now and my illness has made this impossible for the last year. My husband loves me enough to have given that part of his life up. Sad to say because that fun is gone but  there is always other stuff....
450107
i'm a spouse and i think that sex is very healthy for the marriage. And when you get married it should get better because there are no rules , you are married now and you should do more than you used to because thats you partner for life in the eyes of God. And God says that when you get married the bed is under file nobody's watching and you can get nasty and dirty as much as you want, thats the beauty of beeig married, there is no sin in it.
626980
With the pics it does depend how recent they are, old ones don't worry about, new ones could be an issue. Being open about sex is not a sign of lack of commitment, but of comfort with it. Being open about sex and sexual interests is very freeing, and is only taboo because of the religious fundamentalists that run the world are a bunch of frigid nutters who think anything beyond missionary with the lights off on your wedding night is wrong. Chill let her be herself, unless she really crosses the line give her the benefit of the doubt.