is it too late to ber really outgoing and sociable at 36?
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For the sake of us older men, PLEASE be outgoing and sociable.  Most single older women are completely twilight zone.  It would be nice to see some normal older women who are still available and not afraid to let people know about it.
1062368
I'm 31 and I attend classes 3-4 times a week sometimes more. You just have to push yourself. Just because you have entered your 30's does not mean you have entered old age!
960428
I would like to try to help you, but I don't know exactly what you need guidance in. I'm a bit younger than you, but I am wise beyond my years. I was born in 81. I am assuming however, that you are not stating your situation, yet your age in hopes of someone with a sixth sense responding..can't help ya there. Only thing I can leave you with is to follow your heart and let God help guide you to the right path!!
955241
If you are a good person and areal friend dont worry about anything you cant be friends with everyone. The saying is true the older you get the less friends you have because you cant have time for everyone also you can not have things in common with everyone. I am 32 now and I remember your age it was so hard you feel depresessed alot. Think about the good things about your self the things you like and focus on those things and be confident. Good Luck
551043
Well that depends upon you and what you want out of life.  Some 31 year olds act like their 21 while others act like they are 61.  At 31 your in that age where your still young enough to do a lot of things and yet old enough to know you shouldn't.  The main thing in life no matter what your age is simply do what is right for you and makes you happy and don't try to be anyone but who you are.
983524
The same way you enjoy your 30's, 50', 60's etc. A number is just that. It is who you are and how you feel about life in general that effects how you enjoy anything. Just because you turn _____ age does not mean you are over the hill, it means you mature, you know more of what really makes you happy, you are in tune with yourself more than ever, and don't worry about what everybody else thinks. You are a special individual, decide to enjoy life no matter what your chronilogical age may be. If you sit around and worry about it you are wasting valuable energy you could use living La Vida Loca.  Grab the gusto and give it all you got. You only go round once.
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33 years old as of today
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Hi Sunshine!\n\nI was married for twenty two years and then divorced, so I can absolutely relate to your situation. I will share my experience and maybe it will help you - I sure hope so. (I married my high school sweetheart so he was the only person i had ever dated- talk about culture shock to start dating again).\n\nAfter my divorce, I felt the need to take a little time to adjust and get to know myself. Felt kind of like I had lost myself in the marriage so to speak. I spent the first 6 months after my divorce alone - it was a conscious choice i made. After that time frame, I started going out with my friends/socializing. Everything from going out dancing, traveling together, attending sports events, outdoor activities, etc...In doing these things i made more friends and when someone asked me out - I went. Dating alot during that time frame helped me to see what i really wanted in another person and it got me used to the dating scene again. I let the person know i hadn't dated in a long time and tried to have a sense of humor about the situation, but I would definitely not go on and on about your ex, your marriage, etc...no bigger turn off!\n \nI think sometimes it is hard in the beginning to think about dating because you are afraid things have changed drastically in the dating world after 25 years, but actually it is pretty much the same. Women just have more choices now, then they used to. We can ask guys out, make the decisions, etc...One difference i did find is alot of younger men asked me out. At first, I wasn't comfortable with this, but my friends said, that i needed to realize that age doesn't matter as much anymore. People look younger than they are and younger men seem to like older women because we are more secure and know what we want out of life. It seemed men my own age were interested in younger women after their divorces and older men are too set in their ways or couch potatoes, so the younger guy thing is an alternative - not that you can't find someone great who is a peer or older...\n\nI set some rules for myself as well: No guys too young - just wouldn't be right for me personally, and I have sons that are grown so i did not want to make anyone uncomfortable. I was 42 at time of my divorce and dated men mostly in 34 to 42 age group. I also decided to set limits for sexual activity as well.\n\nDon't be afraid to try internet dating svcs. It is the new way to meet people - you do have to be careful. Don't give out personal info at first, write to them, talk on phone and then finally meet them in a public place. I dated for eight years after my divorce had a great time, met wonderful people and not so wonderful people and just six months ago met a guy online first time i gave yahoo personals a try and we are getting married this year!\n\nHave fun, be adventurous and don't take life too seriously.\nMaybe the first few dates will be hard - getting  used to the dating thing again, but it will get easier and easier. Oh, and if you have kids that are concerned about the dating thing - communicate with them\n\nGood Luck!\nalaska friend
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I AM SINGLE \n60 YEARS OLD
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no ...too young. you have lots of time. be patient
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There's a trade-off for everything. I moved a lot for career purposes and in my experience, you make new friends whenever you go somewhere. It really expands your mind because you get to know so many different kinds of people.  My family was a 6 hr flight away. The second move was a 12 hour flight. That was hard, but nowadays there are webcams with free voice, etc. Re the love of your life. If she really is the love of your life, marry her and take her along.  I also have a flat in my hometown that I have rented out. Today, I'm 45 and don't have to work anymore, whereas most people have to work until they're at least 65. That is the trade-off.  Whatever decision you make, consider this: Imagine you're 60 years old and looking in the mirror and asking yourself what your life was like. You don't want to be in a position where you'll say: oh, I wish I had done this and that, because then it'll be too late.
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Gee Libby, there is so much to say to answer this question, since I am in my sixties and very stylish, well read, sexual, not boring, attractive and able to earn money.  I guess the real secret is: When you are in your 20, 30, and 40's you must be stylish, attractive, hardworking, sexual, not boring, well read, and able to earn money.  If you start any other way you won't make it in your later years.  So start young, take your vitamins (flintstones at first and then Centrum and finally Geritol), stay away from things that can harm you, (Brittany Spears songs, Jessica Simpson movies, pictures of Paris Hilton (hard to avoid) and never, never, never read old copies of Teen Beat magazine, also if you are alone do it left handed it is like a stranger.\n\nGood luck
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,  you are not off to a late start-your timing is great .with modern medicine advanced the way it is ,women can start families in their 40's .please wait!-at least until you are in your thirties. establish your career -your own identity. Make sure you have yourself financially established -great credit , etc. . invest your own money in   property (houses). pay off student loans, then enjoy being a couple ,take trips and really build on your friendship with your boyfriend.
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I am of the opinion that as you get older you are not as naive and much more close-minded than you are when you are younger.  As a younger person the qualities that you look for in companionship is not as important as much as having companionship Today you are looking for qualities in a person that you relate and not as tolerant to those that do not.  As you get older time is precious and you don't want to waste trying to change a person into something you are looking for or to adapt to someone so they will like.  You are generally more discerning than younger people and know what you are looking for in a friend.
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dude, when I was 26 I dated a 36 and 37 year old within a 6 month timeframe, and it was the best time I ever had.  unlike 25 year old girls, they were so much more comfortable with themselves, their sexuality, and what they want.  they didn't play games at all and they were so much fun to hang out with!\n\nin terms of how to get them?  I didn't do anything special, I would say try not to be too eager.  you may want to approach them, but do it in an easy going style.  women in their mid to late thirties are entering their sexual prime like we were when we were 18 (im 34 now and married).\n\na women in her 30's is more interested in confidence, maturity, being layed back yet fun and having interests, and just being a nice guy . . . .. as opposed to a girl in her 20's who is more interested in looks, cockiness and whether the guy ismarriage material or not . . . good luck!
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must b in his early thirties
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im suprised 40 should be a level of maturity where you dont lookfor random people online. if its online dating you want go to an onlinedating site like e-harmony or something. not here!!