What do I do if my child is getting bullied at school and the no one in the school will help?
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I taught at a school in Ca.  It is true that the schools are limited in what they do to protect other kids from being bullied.  Several of the answers were very appropriate.  Most important thing would be to document each and every incident.   I would then (as someone said) write a letter to the school with pictures of marks, along with any statement of your child.  Send it registered or certified mail to the school, the teacher, and the superintendent.  If there are marks on your child, I would immediately file a police report and send that in the certified letter.  Request a response to the letter and a meeting with all parties involved to find a way to solve the issue.  What many people do is complain and try to resolve it on their own, but nothing will happen until someone gets really hurt.  You need to demand that a  plan be put in place to protect your child.  If this does not happen, you will file suit.  Make sure everything is in writing.  Have your child seek counseling (not through the school).  if you do not have the money to pay for it, then find a place that charges on a sliding scale or will give free services.  Bring the counselor to your school to represent your child.  Do not wait for the school to take any action.  It could take forever or not happen at all.
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It depends on what they are doing to you. If they are teasing you ignore them.  If they are physically hitting you tell your parents, tell your teacher tell everyone and fight back.  Tell your parents you want to take up karate and then make sure everyone around you knows that you know how to fight.  They will mess with you a lot less.\n\nEven if you can't do any of this just remember they are probably being bullies to you because you are probably a very good natured, sweet, kind girl and you are probably very sensitve too.  These are good traits to have, don't let anyone make you feel that they aren't.   \n\nWhen you grow up you'll probably do a lot better then those bullies.    \nI know it's really hard and it hurts, but just remember you aren't alone, let everyone know what is going on so that the bullies can be punished.  \n\nI went through it too growing up, and it's hard but try your best to not see it as them making fun of you, because they aren't, not really.  In reality it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. They are the ones with the problems and they see that you have what they don't have, that makes them angry and they take out their problems on you.  Don't let their problems become your problems though.  \n\nThis will help you out though, it will make you stronger and wiser then they can ever be.  Trust me on that one.
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Is this happening at and around school?  Most bullying seems to happen as part of going to school and while in school.  And how old is your daughter?  Those are important factors.\n\nDo try to teach your daughter be assertive, but she is probably not strong enough to fight the bully physically as some posters have suggested ... bullies don't pick on kids who are stronger than them. Bullies don't go away. It is true that bullies are cowards, and tend to back down when people stand up to them, but bullies also seek revenge. I don't know how old your daughter is, but this problem needs to be dealt with. Unless bullies are stopped, they tend to get worse and worse, not better. \n\nIf this is happening at school, most schools have someone you can go to so that some adult there will know about what's happening and can begin to stop it - a guidance counselor, a teacher you and she both trust, the principal, someone. If this bully has actually attacked your daughter, go to the police. The bully can be charged. No matter what the bully has said about not telling anyone, TELL someone else. \n\nHere are some well researched tips, designed for the kids, on dealing with bullying that may help you and your daughter:\n\n1. If you are bullied, TELL. Telling is not being weak or being a coward or tattling. It is helping to protect everyone from that bully.  Your daughter is brave to tell.\n\n2. Tell someone you trust who can do something - teacher, counselor, parent, some other adult. You CANNOT handle this yourself. \n\n3. Do not retaliate or get angry. This could make things worse.\n\n4. Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.\n\n5. Develop good strong friendships and support each other. Bullies tend to pick on kids that they think don't have many friends or kids they think others won't hlep.\n\n6. Act confident.\n\n7. Try to stay away from places the bully will be if that is possible. For example, take a different route to school.\n\n8. Avoid unsupervised areas of the school.\n\n9. Try not to bring expensive items to school that might attract the bully's attention and that he might try to take or break.\n\n10. To gain confidence and feel stronger and feel that you can take care of yourself, enrol in a self-defence program if one is available, or a martial arts program or something like that. Self defence programs teach you some very good skills, very quickly.\n\n11. Join a group, such as Scouts, a cadet program, or something like that, so that you have a special group of friends who will support you. \n\nGo to the website www.bullying.co.uk/ which has lots of information for parents and for kids about bullying and about some things you can do. I think this website might really help you figure out some good positive things you and your daughter can do to deal with this.\n\nI hope this helps you. Good luck with sorting this out. Don't give up. There is help out there. Take care.
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since you are at school for all of this... and yes you arent going to like my answer but it is the truth... you should talk to a teacher or guidance counselor about the bullies... after that eventually if they do anything else to you, tell on them and they will have to stay away from you... if they have to stay away from you then you can walk right up to your friend...
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Usually the child will become withdrawn, refuses to go to school or puts up a fight. You should do unannounced visits and observe without being noticed. Ask the child if possible, look for small unexplained bruises, talk to the director about your concerns, ask to see the security tapes, do what ever it takes to protect the child.
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first off if you were my child I would tell you to not talk in class,\nbut I would make an appointment and go talk to this so called teacher.\nwhat she did was much worse than what you did..\nshe is an authority figure and the students are suppose to follow her lead( learn for what she, she says and what she does )\nI can guarantee she would not like to be treated in this fashion in front of students or her teacher friends..\nyes if I were you I would think it through before you talk to her, but I would make an appointment to talk to her..\nyou can start off by saying you are sorry, this way she can't get on you...\nif this does not solve it go to her boss.
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hi Karon.....  my advice......find out who the lad  is, then go up to him and  introduce yourself as such snd such's mum and  you  heard  that he liked  younger  children to play  with....suggests  that  he  goes  and plays with lads of his  own age or  you'll come and  speak to him again....speak to him in a  way thats  slightly intimidating ...dont issue direct threats as he will play on this...  but  do it in such a  way that he'll suss  what  you mean ...if  he  plays  up  with your nice chat, then invite him round to your  house where he  can play nicely ....  failing  that .....  go  and speak to  your lads teacher ( i take it this is  happening  in and around  school) and  say  you want something done  about  it.... if that doesnt work ...  make an appointment  to see the head  and ask for the schools anti bullying policy to be explained and then  explain about whats happening to your  son .. ....  if  all this  fails to  produce results  in a  couple  of  weeks ... take  it  to the local education authority .\ngood  luck
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You need to contact the school principal and have a sit down meeting with the girl's mom, yourself and the principal. No one should feel threatened at school. If after the meeting things don't improve than it is the school's responsibility to take action and possibly suspend the child. After that the mother has no excuses but to start taking some responsibity for her child's behavior.
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A good teacher will seek additional help for the child as well as work as many interventions into the classroom as possible.  Discussions with parents and other school staff would also be happening.   Also, talk with the student, sometimes knowing you have someone trust worthy to talk to can help a lot!
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I would seek help from your administration. Perhaps a meeting with your administrator is needed. Usually, students follow their parents lead. \n\nMost importantly, don't take it personally. One bad apple shouldn't make you get down on yourself. You are so valuable to our children's future so please don't let it get you down.
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You sound like a kid, with the bus stop thing, so I would talk to your parents.  They can then talk to the girl's parents and explain the situation.  You could also look into talking to the bully's parents, and see if they won't make him pay for it
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if this really bothers u, transfer her to the other school.  u cant really blame the principal for bullies but if she didnt do anything about it then u can report her to the department fo education.  but u can always try to talking to her again.
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i don't know how old you two girls are but if you think she is being abused she needs help and may be to scared to get it. if you are still in school tell your guidance councler about. they can get it check into by the right people.
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I know what it's like. Always being picked at, Laughed at, and even shoved out. But I learn from them. I know it sounds crazy but it's true. anywayz, my advice to you is first you need to tell someone about it. whether it be your teacher or your parents. if the bullying doesn't stop, take matters into your own hands. i'm not saying to fight the guy (although that is an option for a much, much later use) but to sorta use your head to out smart him. If he still continues, take a stand and MAKE the school move him to another class and to keep him away from you or else you sue.\nI'm pretty sure that you'll won't have to go that far but just try and find out what's his problem and try and help him. Hey who knows maybe you'll actually become friends.\n       Good luck ;)
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You are right about being bullied.  You need to go and talk to someone you trust at the school who wields some power and have this behaviour stopped.  If it makes you feel any better this boy probably has been mistreated during his life and this is the only way that he knows to behave for attention.  Having said this you do NOT allow him or anyone else to victimize you or anyone else.  By staying silent you are as guilty as the bully.  Put a stop to this right now and speak up.
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I'm a teacher in the UK and very aware of bullying in my class/school.\n\nThis is such a big issue. I never suffered bullying as a kid, but I am suffering as an adult at the moment. What has helped me is a special phone line and friends that I can talk to about it. I have also told my union and human resources and they are giving me help and support.\n\nI try to instil in my classroom ethos a sense of respect and rapport for others. We use circle time to tackle issues and I am known as a teacher that will listen to both sides of an argument. I do not have favourites.\n\nThat is not to say that I do not have children in my class who are not being bullied. It is unfortunately a characteristic of human behaviour.\n\nRecently I noticed a child behaving out of character, very withdrawn and depressed. When I tried to talk to him he would not share his thoughts with me. Later that day I was told by the head that the parent had complained about her child being bullied. I was upset to think that: 1) one of my children was suffering. 2) neither the child or parent had confided in me.\n\nHe did confide in me later and we eventually were able to work on the problem.\n\nWhat I have learned as a teacher is:\n- that the victim needs support as soon as it is noticed, but it may take some time before they are ready and willing to face the situation/name names/admit there is a problem.\n- that the children need to have a way to communicate with you. They need to know that they will be listened to and taken seriously.\n- that the children need to know what true bullying is. They need to try to avoid the 'cry wolf' syndrome as it leads to parents/teachers/adults not taking the true cases seriously.\n\nIt does help to have an overt school policy that has a no tolerance attitude to bullying.\n\nIdeas that have been suggested in out school are:\n-playground buddies\n-school councillors/mentors\n-bully boxes (this tends to be abused)\n-assemblies about bullying\n-secret buddies (where the children pick someone's name randomly from the class list to be nice to them that week) At the end of the week the children try to guess who their secret buddy was. They suggest the name of someone that has been nice to them that week. Names that are mentioned over and over again are praised and rewarded).\n\nThere are no easy answers to this. We have to be supportive and patient with the victim and firm about what is acceptable behaviour and what is not to be tolerated.
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first: pray hard\n\nsecond: teach your child confidence and skills to help her protect and defend herself and make sure she feels safe to tell you about anything and everything.\n\nthird: stay involved. Know what is going on in her school, talk to the teacher, principle, school nurse etc. now and whenever you have a concern and be aware of the curriculum\n\nfourth: pick a good school, find out what schools around you are the best and try to get your daughter into one. If you are not zoned for a good school you may be able to get a variance.\n\nFinally: if you still feel concerned you could consider homeschooling for a while, but remember in your child's age group problems like you have described are extremely unlikley. Hope this helps