i like a married man and i don't know what to do! help!?
953176
I know it's very hard, but you have to distance yourself from him. He's married, you're with someone...just picture his wife and how she would feel, and how you would feel if someone did that to you.
469598
My best advice to you is to tell him how you feel. I told my best friend that and we have now been married for 2 years. If they dont feel the same, you can still be friends, you telling them might just get them to look at you in a different way. Good luck.
961495
Same thing happened with me and I mentioned this really great resteraunt in the area that I had never been to before but everyone had raved about and he mentioned that we should go sometime. It worked and we're married, (not saying it has to go that far, but you get the idea) Just mention something like that and see if he bites. If that doesn't work then talk about some 'guy' you've been talking to (whether he's real or not doesn't matter) and see how he reacts. This way you can get a good feel for where he is at in your relationship without risking anything. But if you feel like you couldn't just be friends with him if he didn't like you romantically you might as well risk it.
201273
Give it some time. Love at first sight is just that, sight. Find out everything you can about this person and let them do the same with you. Once you have done that if that feeling is still there then think about the big Married thing. Whats the rush? If you love them today and it's real you will love them tomorrow.
1072494
Let him go. He's married. What about the wedding vows he made?\nIf people can break these vows whenever they wish...then they meant nothing.  How would you like it if you were married to a guy and he left you like that?\nSomeone wonderful will come along for you. And you'll be glad \nyou waited...
163220
i have the same problem.. try talking with him .. flirt a bit and see how he reacts.. that's what i've done.. but still i?m not sure 100%
663853
I think you need to listen to your heart and make a decision. Don't stay married if you aren't TRUELY happy, it isn't worth it. Take some time to just think without any outside distractions. :)
534156
Talk to him - open up and just tell him how you feel.  Tell him that you think he's nice or attractive or that you want to get to know him better because he seems like a great guy... whatever.  If he's not interested he'll tell you.  If he is then he'll probably ask you out right there on the spot.  Either way, you'll know how he feels and, yes, this is what I would do in your place.  I did it, once, I was 26 and I told a man that I was very attracted to him and that I wanted to get to know him better.  He told me that I was beautiful but that he had to focus on his career.  I told him that I understood and went about my business.  I'm now married to a wonderful man that treats me like a queen, who isn't a workaholic. *smile*  God bless!
1062139
as long as someone is not married, anyone is feel to give it a try and who knows you might be the winner. so give it a try and tell the person how you feel, and when it gets out of your chest you will feel fine whether he will give a no answer, but be sure that he will live a space for you to be good friends with him end and you will be happy at least.
561757
Now I got your problem- Sweetie... You have to move on your life.. for all you know he might have been married all the time you had chatted with him.. And you dont love him... this is not love... love is when you actually let go of the person whom you say you love and when that person comes back to you... you can say its love. Right now its nothing more of an attraction. Get out and meet new people.. try n get over him... if he doesnt want have a relationship with you stop pusuing him...!!!
632151
Yes call him he may have been wondering the same thing!\ndont wait for the reunion and be surprised to find you still have feelings for him!\ncall him! now!\ngo on get off of here and get on the phone! dont be afraid whats the worse that can happen?\nHe will be married with 6 kids!\ncheckit out you never know!
1071178
Just because the "L" word came out doesn't really mean anything Bad. Like you said you guys have known each other for awhile already!\nAnd telling him that you haven't felt that way in long time... \nWell, that's like telling him that you are not sure if you are ready for that step in your relationship with him... But, this could be a good thing! If he really loves you ... you will know! \nHe will still show interest in you and you and him can get closer in your relationship. Just don't rush it..  I have been married three times and all of them we're great at first! Ya' know? Just can't wait to be with them... all you think about... and that's great!\nAll I'm saying is to take your time if you want it to last... \nPay attention to the bad sides he may have and see if you really want to spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON...\n\nI don't think you really pushed... if he loves you he will stick around.    If you think you pushed... just go talk to him.\n"What should you do now?"  \n(1)Take your time...\n(2)Let the love grow...\n(3)Spend time together and talk<<< \ncommunication must be open. \nSharing your feelings with the one you love is very important!\nIf you are serious about this guy then try these steps and God Bless...\n later.
293632
That is good you got it off your chest an guess what he feels the same way let it be can be taking two ways first of all we both are with someone so lets not do anything about how we both Feel. Second its like this if both of us are to get together let it happen lets not push it you have more to lose in this fling being that you are married just\nstep up to the plate and ask him about how he feels about what you said an what ever his answer live with it
890565
go for it. \nTell him how you feel\nor else you will just keep yourself wondering "what if you did anything different"
355443
There's some boundaries people shouldn't cross. That's one. Try not to be around him often,you can still be nice and talk to him,just don't so often. And if he's flirting with you then he's crossing a boundary. Don't flirt back & tell him it makes you uncomfortable cause he's married. And most importantly,find a guy that's AVAILABLE & loves you for you & you love him & I promise you'll get over Mr. Married. :)
1059086
Honestly, I'm not a marriage counselor or even close to it.  To me though, it sounds like maybe you and your husband aren't as connected on an emotional level if you ask me (which you did, haha).  Maybe the reason you feel this way for someone else is because you've lost those feelings for your husband.  I know it's hard, after marriage and two kids, but it's important to stay physically, emotionally, and mentally involved with each other.  Just try things like going on dates with your husband.  Try to reconnect with him and remember all of the reasons why you married him.  Maybe your husband has a great personality, wit, and a beautiful mind also.  Maybe you just need to remind yourself of it.
778693
If you feel comfortable enough to date and you know that your marriage is not going to get back together, then I say go for it. Only YOU will know the right time to get back out there and start dating. If you like a guy and want to go out with him... go for it. Your husband has moved out and will probably move on soon (if he hasn't already)... you need to do the same!