MEN I NEED YOUR INSIGHT! My hubby and I have been together for a couple of years we have a 15 m/o son?
969402
why u scared to nag! u have every right ur not being unfair HE is.
152892
well im 34 and my hubby is 40 been with him since i was 18 going on 19 and he was 25 going on 26.i dunno how long ya waited to get married but for me we lived together for years building our trust and relationship before we married . actually i was 26 when we married and he was then 32 . the point is some say age doesnt matter  well in some cases it does. men that are with us younger girls seem to like to keep small tabs on us where we been and with who and how long ya been there all because the age difference makes them feel insecure . perhaps hes noticed  men ur age  looking at you or saying helo or just a friendly smile. thats enough to make any guy jealous.. heres what i did.. id assure him hes the best thing evr happend to me and he should feel proud that other men look , smile, say helo to me when im with him because  that should tell him he has something special right by his side and  that something special is you and he has  you to love, to hold, and to cherish the rest of his life because you married him not for the piece of paper but for the man you met  and fell in love with and their could only be one man like that for you and hes the one. now i dont mean  ya have to be exact in that way but i would just reassure him the luv between yas is still there no matter how much probes. and if all fails  just ask him right out what changed in 2 years time? doesn't hurt to ask sometimes that all  it takes..
189055
my husband is 8 yrs younger than me and we are happy...I hope we always are. Been married for 3 yrs now. He is my second husband. My first was right out of high school, had one kid and 11 yrs of marriage. If you ask me my first husband was immature, cruel and mean and he was 5 yrs older than me....I wouldnt trade my current husband for an older man or any man for that matter. Im 37 and he is 29 and i am so lucky to have that...i guess its different with everyone but just because they are younger doesnt mean they do drugs and alcohol;they can do that too if they are older...
716784
It sounds like your relationship is great but one thing that worried me - you said you were worried his family wouldn't like you - you should meet them first, and make sure he meets yours first.  \n\nWhen I first started reading your post I had my doubts, BUT \nI don't think the age difference matters in your case.  In some it does, but your relationship does seem more mature.  People always think I am too young also.  I'm 19 and getting married next summer too.  I love this man and he is my best friend and my life partner.  We've been together since I was in middle school and we've grown up together and are still growing together.  I think it's amazing to find a love like this when you are so young.  Don't worry about what everyone else thinks - count your blessings that you have something that some people NEVER find.  \n\nJust be sure you have the same goals, and plans for the future.  For example, in a few years you are going to want a son or daughter with him also.  I am sure you love his son like your own but the time will come when it will drive you crazy that he is not your own and you need to make sure he will be willing to have more children.
56368
If this guy hasn't cam around in over two years he has no interest - best to work on what you can do for yourself and the baby.  You would have better odds finding someone new and better for your family life.
191982
Are you fairly young? If so, I think he most likely is trying to achieve longevity. He wants to stregnthen the friendship first, then will move on to a more intimate relationship. When you are young you go through many relationships, or bfs/gfs. I'm sure he realizes this & wants this relationship to last. So, he is trying to create a stable foundation for a successful & lasting relationship. My husband "loved" me since we were 15 yrs. old. I refused to be more than friends until the age of 18. I loved him, but I knew the likelyhood of it lasting forever at 15 yrs. old was not good. The result...we've been happily married for 8yrs. now! Good luck!!
1171842
You hit the nail on the head with "mid-life crisis". He needs validation that his manhood and virility are still intact. This is however, a breach of his professional ethics. His marriage may not be unhappy ... just stale. It happens in the very best of marriages.
907490
Honey, he ain't gonna walk down the aisle.  You were not very wise to get into this, having babies together, knowing that he wasn't completely committed.  You are right to want it, but you should have seen the warning signs a long time ago.
1182083
Dude, I am 16 yrs older than my husband and we have a very healthy relationship. He keeps me happy and I allso keep him happy. Of course there are some differences,but communication is the best way to keep your relationship Strong and fulfilled.
624601
If he is now your husband, that boy deserves it.\n\nGive it to him!
1111364
First, I am very impressed that he respects his parents enough to end the relationship and be just friends. 15 is young and from his parents' point of view there son is growing up too quickly and doesn't need the added pressures and heartache of dating yet. They are only try to do what they, as parents, think is best for their son. It is their job to protect him. You need to understand and respect that too. \nHonestly, his parents may do their best to keep you two apart, afraid of how their son feels about you and the strength of the relationship at such a young age but if it love and if it is meant to be, you two will find a way. Time. Just back up a bit, make it easier on him to respect his parents' wishes and show that he can be responsible, mature and earn their trust. You can still be friends, they can't really stop that but for now you have to let go and let it be. It will hurt but it's the right thing, for you and for him and if you have any hope of having a future with him. (Pissing off his parents will put a nail in that coffin really quick)
1056108
I know it doesn't feel like it, but you have a lot to learn about yourself still. It doesn't sound like you have been in a relationship with this boy very long, and it also sounds like you are still learning what you like in a relationship, and in a partner.\n\nIf your goal is a long term relationship, I would definitely go slow with this. Rushing won't give you any benefits, and it can get you into trouble if your feelings about this boy are still so new that he turns out to not be as great as you think. Or if you just change your mind or find someone better later.\n\nIf you don't care about a relationship, if you are just looking for fun without commitments, you also need to be very careful because if he thinks this is serious and you don't, he could end up very hurt. then again, it could be the other way around, and you could end up the one being hurt.\n\nRemember, boys at 15 tend to care more about sex than they do relationships.\n\nYour best bet is to move slowly so you can be really sure you are seeing things clearly before you make any big decisions about what to do.\n\nI am sure a lot of people will tell you that 15 is too young to be thinking about a serious relationship, and it is easy to say "they don't know my situation"  That's true.  If you have any female friends that are older, ask them about their relationships when they were your age... and how they feel about them now. It could be that your perspective on this entire situation will be very different in a few years. It can't hurt to ask.
233338
Speaking from experience, my current husband (32 yo) is the same and his mother....well I'm sure you understand .... bascially, it's not his mother, please listen when I say this...IT'S NOT HIS MOTHER....IT'S HIM! If he doesnt want to an adult and think and do for himself as an adult....he WILL NOT change. Do yourself a favor......move on!
1071121
I think that you should get sterlized for the simple fact that you are almost to the age where you should be enjoying raising your children-not having them. Tell him how much you look forward to "you and him" time when the kids grow up and get out of the house and you both are still at an age to where you can enjoy life like take cruises or buy vacation homes or something. You are going to have to tell him you are deeply sorry that you've prior children and this is just something your partner is going to have to deal with. Definately encourage their honest feelings to be out in the open and make sure you go into this together-not seperated by feelings. Try some quick counseling or even reading a book together about it......good luck!
722571
Hi. I looked at your old emails and discovered that  you are 16. That is the age I was when I was involved with a 24 year old man. Boy was it a journey! I could write a novel answering this question...\n\nfirst of all this guy was WAY beyond where i was in my life. he had experienced so much more than me. everything we did wasn't that big of a deal to him but it was to me. I thought it was really cool that he'd take me out to dinner and we ordered wine, he had a really nice car, money and a cool appartment... i only wished i didn't live with my parents. of course all of this eventually led to sexual intimacy. and of course it meant more to me than him. and then that led to me having twins as a teenager. then becoming a single mom. i did all this sneaking around behind my parents back after they found out we were interested in eachother because my dad literally drug me away from him and forbid us to see eachother knowing that he was 24!\n\nthe other thing is that if he's 24 even if you consent it is called statutory rape. your parents can have him thrown in jail without your agreement and at any time they want to.\n\nmy suggestion??? don't get involved with a 24 year old. i know it sounds coooooll. and maybe it is but it's not worth it!!!!!!!! it took me 15 years after that to finally start dating one man my age. and when i did i finally felt at peace in dating and a relationship. the connection between someone your age is quite different. and well, i married that guy.  \n\nnext..... a 24 year old guy should know better! if he is interested in you he's doesn't have it all quite together up in the old noggin. or he is extremely selfish and not thinking about anyting except his selfish desires to be with a very young woman! run! you don't need a guy like this! \n\nif you are lonely or just looking for friends the best way to do it is to think of something that interests you or something you are willing to try and get involved in it. it's the easiest way to meet new people... there should be a teen center in your area check them out this summer and see waht kind of activities they have. or volunteer working with kids this summer or..... volunteer anywhere you'd like to learn something about...... get involved in a hiking group or sailing or tennis or art or film making or ????? if i knew what you were interested in i could help point you in the right direction... but get out there! hope this helps. if you want to talk more email me, k?
529036
Is your husband a lot older than you? It seems like you might be so attached to him, sure because you love him, but because he's the only real man you've known. You've been married since you were fifteen? I had posters of boys on my walls when I was fifteen ya know? If he treats you good, if you love him, if he loves you, there's no reason not to be with him. But don't think that you HAVE to be with him or that he's the only one you could love or would love you back, because there's A LOT of men out there. You just need to think about what would be best for you AND your kids, you should definitely be thinking about them.
39998
Just be completley honest and open with your man and tell him how you feel and ask him questions that are on your mind such as how he feels, if he agrees, or is he upset. Be very sweet and word things nicely with out affending him or blamming him for anything. When you decide on your decision you both should talk to your children about it cuz it will effect them too. Kids are smart and catch on fast!