How do you find lesbians w/o having to go to a gay bar?
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Oh, no, don't try chat rooms! I'm begging you - I can tell you very bad experiences about that. How large is the town in which you live? Is there a gay community center? They often have singles groups. Is there an MCC church? Even if you are not a religious person they may have activities in which you could participate or opportunities to volunteer. Volunteering on any lesbian related project is always good. Do you like sports? That can be a good way to meet girls, too. (And if you are a terrible athlete, like me, remember that they always need a right fielder!) Are you in college? Does your school have a gay alliance? Are you in high school? If there is a gay community center in your town then they might have a youth group. And, yes, Home Depot is always good! (and in Denver so are folk concerts for some reason) And be nice to all the lesbians you meet, even if you're not interested in hooking up. Some one who is way too old and in a couple might have a wonderful friend, niece or daughter.
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Court a lesbian and leave your friend alone! You are the reason that gays and lesbians have a hard time wanting to come out to their friends because they don't want them thinking that they are automatically going to be attracted to them.
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If I absolutely knew, I would be there myself! But seriously, you have to go where they are going, which is anywhere and everywhere. But what I know is that bars and clubs are quickly becoming the places NOT to meet women. Some good choices may be:\n\nAt Work (though this is chancy depending on the type of environment you work in)\nSubway/Bus (I am in NYC)\nDuring Lunch at restaurant/diner\nBookstores\nSupermarkets\nCoffee Shops\nGym (though this is becoming a bad place also)\nOrganizations/Affiliations\nGroup/Charity/Hobby Group Meetings
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go to yahoo chat room, Underheading romance, click friends and then select Lesbian women lounge.......\n\ncu there
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Since you don't like bars, I would say network with other lesbians through groups that might have meetings and get involved.  You can go to the bar's even if you're not "out"; big deal.  I would join a softball team or something athletic.  Go to a church for gays and lesbians.  You'll find a new girl when you least expect it.  God Bless.
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www.gay.com is a good place to look. Also, if you go into Google, just type in Gay Clubs Orange County.
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it would help if you put down where you live but, my space is a great place to meet other lesbians-sounds dorky but, i know some couples who have met and even married!
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Well, it's really easy. Finding them, or her, is simple. Many or most young women don't think about it, so they are not looking for an older man. \nNow I've only done this a few times, and all the younger women fit a profile. Usually mature. Well educated. Self-confident. Have had a few relationships. \nBe yourself. Be open. Listen. If you get involved, do it only with a young woman that you like. \nTo find one, well unless you're really objectionable, here are the places: through your employment, girls you work with or contact.\nAsk for their ideas and be willing to meet their friends.\nIf you're in a restaurant or an upscale bar suggest that one or two ladies should join you, BUT, don't "hit" on them. In fact in all cases, never "hit" on them, forget pick up lines. Treat any young woman that interests you as a friend, only.\nSometimes the real problem is one that you didn't mention.
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Any gay bar or those online dating services.
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theres bars and clubs were you can find some ladies. trust me there out there your just got to get out thhere and look hunny....
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Well dear, as Pop and I always say, "It takes all kinds." Those no account close minded bigots who can't deal with you being a lesbian can just go and... MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS. Now go get you a piece of apple pie...
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Find a lesbian bar or a female basketball game. I'm sure you'll find what ur looking for.
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Go online!  Honestly for women that is one of the few places to meet other bi/lesbian women....you can't exactly go up to some chick @ a bar or restaurant and say "hey, you're cute...wanna come home w/ me?"  Lol...go on myspace or yahoo personals or some other dating website...good luck!
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go to local gay bars, clubs.
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I once approached a young lady unaware of her alternative sexual preference. When she told me she was gay, I told her that the club I wanted to take her to had a "Bring a Lezzy to The Dance Floor" night. She laughed, we went out, and had a great time.
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Go to a lesbian chat room.
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Turn the knob, open the door and walk out! lol, just kidding. Only tell the people closest to you for one thing. No one else needs to know... well maybe except for the one you have your eye on. You can choose to invite them all over for coffee and tell them all at once. Or talk to each person privately one at a time. I would prefer to get it all out at once. I have a very open family.... and community for that matter, so it wouldn't be a problem for me. Heck, I live in the Lesbian capital of America! I'd fit right in if I decided to go that direction!