How has being single negatively affected your professional livelihood?
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I have to keep an eye on the bottom line.  I can't branch out or try new things because I have to make rent every month. \nI think if I had another income to rely, I would be farther along.\nOffice parties are awkward.  I hate going alone.\nBut, directly, no, I haven't had any problems in the work place being single.  I tell everyone that I fully intend to be the "Crazy Cat Lady".
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Hmm it's hard to answer why a single person is single. I'm single too and I'm just as frustrated that I can't find someone and be happy like the rest of my friends. I think what it comes down to though, is you need to be happy with yourself first. When you're not, people will see that and it becomes a turn off or people become afraid of dealing it. Just from reading your question, you sound angry at the world. But really, you're the one that has to make it happen. Work on yourself first and I'm sure that person will find you, notice you. Good luck.
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i can totally relate. i am the only single girl in a group of 10 girlfriends-they're all in long-term relationships and getting married. i haven't had a boyfriend in 2 years, and in the past i've had my share of no-so-great men. but i'm happier alone than unhappy. we just have to realize that we are still young-we still have lots ahead of us and we will find that 4% of good men in this world to be good company with:)\n\nps i look at half of the relationships my girlfriends have and i'd rather cut off my foot than be in some of their positions, anyway. some are stuck with emotionally abusive/selfish men, selfish lovers, drinkers, or just herpes and scared to move onto another relationship because of fear of rejection (woo hoo! yeah, i'm sure your man isn't cheating, the disease just showed up!)... you name it.\n\ni'm sorry about your divorce and about how one man found it appropriate to break it off with you in a pretty cowardly way. i think time for you will wear things off a bit.. hang in there! you know you will end up with someone who is GOOD for you\n\ngod bless
875651
Does society give single mums a hard time? The amount of single mums is increasing all the time, I think they were given hard times in centuries gone by, but it's decreasing a lot now.
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I'm a single mother, but I don't consider myself to be poverty stricken.  But I can tell you when all the financial burden is on one individual instead of two, it can create financial hardship.  Even if a single mother works and meets all of her obligations, clearly it's a job that was meant for a mother and father.   Just do an engine search and type in single mothers, there's plenty of resources and information about single mothers.
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what an option.\n\nI guess your wealth is independent on whether you are married or not.\n\nIf you stay single, you can date and have "fun" with alot of people. Some might be deep and good relationships, others may be superficial and wacko. You might have a baby or two - who knows, and you'll be dependent on your surroundings; family or friends to babysit if you want to keep up your happy life.\n\nIf you marry, (for love that is) you can work on a relationship. You can deepen your feelings for each other and this will maybe make you more happy on a long term - who knows. If you have babies, it or they will be borned in a family and this makes a more secure structure if one of parents for instance die or ... something.
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The key is to accept the fact you are single, and not be bothered by it. \nLet other things make you busy, like work or family or friends.. love will come along without you'd even notice. \nBeing single is not something bad, it's not something you need to learn how to handle.. It's temp situation, don't let it bother you too much.
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Not at all.\n\nIn fact, keeping an active sex life while you are single is very important for men.  Studies have shown that men in their 40s' that are divorced, often have erctile disfunction after being dormant for extended periods.\n\nKeep the blood flowing.  You're not obcessing over something/someone.
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Yes, I did once.\n\nIts all down to the risk factor. Do you have the confidence and knowledge to run your own business? Are you prepared to forfeit a regular and safe income for the dangers of not having that safety net? \n\nBeing out on your own can be a pretty lonely place. I failed miserably. It wasn't for me and I finished up with a breakdown, however, it did give me a chance to re-evaluate my career and change direction. I've gone from working in a commercial environment to working with vulnerble and excluded youth in a charity. Less money but so much more job satisfaction! \n\nI wouldn't rule out going into business, but check out all other options before you make up your mind. If are really finding the situation you are in too stressful, it would be a good idea to consider change. \n\nGood luck\nMartin (42) and finally found my vocation!!
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I have been there, done that.  I was always able to act professionally and separate work for personal life, but not the women I chose, except for one - my wife.  \n\nSome companies don't care, but two I worked for frowned upon it to the point if you married, one would have to quit (these were office positions) due to they could possibly lose two employees if one were fired or took another job.  Also, with the level of the positions, two can manipulate more than one and that could lead to embezzlement in the company's eyes.  \n\nIt's not worth the headache.
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For me it's good.  Me and my husband used to work in the same company when we were young and he was still my boyfriend then.  When we're in the workplace we just do our jobs and act professionally.  It is also good to share the same problem and solve it together.  I think the best thing to do is set aside personal feelings whenever you're inside the workplace but once you're outside you can do whatever you want with each other.
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Hey,\n\nits not the end of the world. you have to take it as a learning point and move on. its going to hurt, i can honestly say it will definitely hurt a lot, but you have to look at the bigger picture, its not the end of the world and now that you're single there's more that you will be able to achieve\n\nyou can fulfill your dreams and live life single for awhile, party like a rockstar, and eventually you will end up meeting the right person one day, it could even be the person that broke up with you but at this moment in time maybe you two are not meant to be together but might be together in the future\n\ni'm going thru a similar situation but i realize that i need to move on and do something with my life its not worth to cry everyday, and the quicker you realize that, probably the faster you'll meet someone else.\n\ni hope this helps
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Work relationships are bad news.\n\nFocus on someone that is not in your business world.
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In a new relationship, most people are very happy.  As the relationship goes on, and especially if it hits hard times, most people think they'd be happier single.\n\nI'm currently single and looking after 2 long-term relationships, so I recognize that both have pros and cons.  The grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence, but the reality is that it's usually the same.
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i hate being single it sucks, i just feel like a piece of s&%t b/c i dont have a g/f and other guys do, what i like is having someone to talk to and spend time with and to care for
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You're correct: being a single parent is one of the most difficult jobs in the world, particularly if you have few or no marketable skills. \n\nYou need to get very, very honest with yourself. Some key questions to which you need answers from yourself are:\n\n1. What's changed between us since we first married?\n\n2. Has either of us been unfaithful?\n\n3. Have we been making time to be alone together since the children were born?\n\n4. When did our problems start?\n\n5. Have we both taken good physical care of ourselves since the children were born?\n\n6. What are the stresses in our lives that might make us cross with each other? \n\n7. How can we simplify our lives so we can unload some stresses and have more time for each other?\n\nThat should get you started on thinking about what has caused the deterioration in your relationship. I strongly urge you to seek out a qualified marriage counselor. The two of you should go together if at all possible. If not, then go by yourself.\n\nRelationships are the most difficult thing you'll ever do, and this one is badly in need of help.\n\nGood luck. :)
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Ocean, first off, don't listen to your friends. Just because society pushes the idea of being involved or married doesn't mean you need to buy into it. Being single is fast becoming a popular alternative lifestyle.\nNow, I will say that if you desire to ALWAYS be alone and live like a hermit, then yes, you might have some form of social anxiety disorder.  However, this does not sound like the case.  If you are fine, happy, and truly comfortable with the lifestyle you have chosen, then stick with it.  Don't let others push you into a lifestyle you are not happy with.