I'm having some probs with a coworker. This is a new employee, very young....?
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Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.\n\nbefriend this person, don't complain about them any more, and wham when ever they say  bad - you can casually mention to the boss which is negative about the job or your boss let your boss know :)  Yeah be a backstabber/brown noser
1010809
The 'rude' thing is one matter--that should be something that your boss can settle if they're any kind of boss at all--let him or her know that this has been going  on for some time and it is making doing your job really difficult-------It's this "grabbing"thing that is soooo out of line that it reeks--when someone touches you without your giving the liberty THAT my dear is unlawful--and it is so whether the jackass is male or female and needs to be dealt with as such---and if this "grabbing" has sexual overtones--it immediately ups the antee to a whole new level and can be considered assault if not sexual assault or even sexual harassment---don't let it slide--report it and end it NOW--whoever this squirrel is --they do what they do because they've been getting by with it and sooner or later someone is going to be hurt big time--I personally know a couple of gals that would send this girl to Jesus
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=sounds to me like she has a serious attitude problem or has a lot on her plate going on right now.  You could drive her crazy with your kindness while having a good laugh inside and perhaps the two of you will end up being friends at some point.  Invite her out for a couple of beers after work, just as friends and you may be surprised at what you learn. and find out she is really a nice person after all.  Bottom line here is that you need to adjust your attitude toward her as well if you are to continue working with her.  Good luck.
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I used to work for a person like this.  You can prepare all the e-mails and action lists you want, but it's very difficult to get the person to read them and make decisions.\n\nMy recommendation is to try and schedule time with this person, AWAY from his desk (so you'll get his full attention) and let him know that the office help position needs to be replaced.  Try to give concrete examples of the times that projects have fallen through the cracks due to lack of support and project management.  We all know it's HIS lack of project management, but you might use the passive voice here to avoid offending him.\n\nNext you need to make up an action plan with him, on how he wishes to handle situations like that in the future. This way, you will not be blamed for mishandling things if you're following what you both agreed to.  Try to write up a summary of what you decide at this meeting (bulleted, keep it brief!) so you can refer to it later if necessary, and give him a copy.  Unfortunately, it is very unlikely this person will become organized in your lifetime, and if you can help bring a little structure and order to his office, he may appreciate you more than you know.  Just talk to him to find out how you can be a better employee.  This will guarantee your job, since you're showing a good "problem-solver" attitude instead of complaining.  Good luck with this, I know it's difficult to work in this environment!
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Ask him once, if you get the attitude, ask your supervisor to get involved. You're not being a trouble maker, you're just trying to get the job done.
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If that person truely is mentally impaired,then be compassionate that they really don't mean to be a problem for you, they are just trying to fit in the only way they know how to ...oddly.  If they ask weird questions and you have the time to listen ask them what they mean and to explain why they thought what they did.\nIf this person is just plain ignorant of his responsibilities, then I'd talk to the manager about giving that person a less complicated job, preferrably not right next to you, but even so if he a success he'll be less a problem, and every now and then tell them they are doing a good job. that will be worth more than his paycheck.. because no matter how awkward that person is.. they can always find a way to make money, but getting approval from their peers is always where they have lacked, you may find this person will want and thrive to do the best job for you just to be rewarded with your praise of a job well done.
270803
You are probley too nice. Show them you wont take anymore mess in a way that wont get you fired.Call off a couple of times. If they feel you are a valued employee they should cut you some slack. If not quit.
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I would say your boss already knows this coworker is negative.  Running to the boss only makes you look childish.  The reality is that we are powerless over how other people behave and this individual may just be a negative person period.  You nor your boss can change that.  Actually most of us will never really change unless we have some overwhelming and huge life experience or spiritural experience.  With all life problems we have 4 choices: "do nothing", "change it", "accept it", or "get out of it".  Since you are asking the question, I assume you are unwilling to "do nothing" and just grumble about your co-worker and be miserable.  Since you can not "change" your co-worker, you are left with "accept" them just as they are and practice kind tolerance, or "get out" and get a new job.  Your happiness is your responsiblity.  Oh and also, you can't help your co-workers either.  They have to decide which of the 4 options they want.
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Arrange a meeting with her. Explain that you find her manner unprofessional and inappropriate. Just because someone is the boss does not give them the right to be (as you put it) an SOB. Every time your boss berates you or behaves in an unprofessional manner, be sure to point it out in a mature, calm way. \n"I'm sorry, but I find your tone offensive/unprofessional/rude/ out of line/etc. Do you think we can discuss this in a more productive manner?"\n\nHope this helps, good luck
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I agree that if what she wears is not up to code with the office dress code, then it should be brought to her attention. Without involving the district manager. Unfortunately, the bare-midriff styles have been in for too long a time (okay, I wore a tube top in the 70's and 80's too)and a blurred image of what is proper and not proper for work has come out of it.\nI would suggest striking up a conversation (more than a few in this forum have suggested it) and while praising her work, if applicable, then bring up gently that you've noticed her wardrobe violates company policy. Admit that if the manager had to handle it he/she would be very likely to embarrass you coworker. If she tells you to bugger off, then let things alone and let them take their inevitable course. Make certain you're doing it for the reason of her well being and not because she's on the pudgy side.
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Wow it's amazing that there are still people so simple. \n\nI think "leaperpup" really said it best. If she won't respond to diplomacy that's I'd embarrass the heck out of her, and spray Lysol, and other anti bacterial sprays around, and encourage others too also. \n\nGetting up and walking away is definitely an option, so is waving your hand around and turning on a fan. \n\nIn the end I think I just might ask her, "are you so annoyed about being sick that you insist on spreading your contagious germs?" \n\nAlso check on company policies, if you work for a large place she is definitely violating something. In the end your best bet will probably be to ask for another place to sit, perhaps even an "upgrade" showing her that in the end, the mature always come out ahead.\n\nI wish you the best with this!
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Why do you feel like shes going to get in serious trouble? As in shes asking for trouble? Or her boss may find it inappropriate for her co workers to be distracted by someone who is open about what she is or isn't wearing under her clothing. Take her aside one day when she is mention the comments about her "smell" and tell her politely that they are not joking and you've noticed it but you didn't want to offend her, but now it's become a problem and a distraction for you and your co workers.
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There is a book I bought a long time ago called "Coping with Difficult People" which is like dealing with difficult people. You can buy it at any bookstore under the self-improvement section. Also, talk with your boss and maybe he can resolve your problems you may have with a co-worker. Don't worry, we've all been there. I sympathize with you. However, just a suggestion, you may not want to use that kind of language on Yahoo Answers.
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IF this person is your equal or subordinate, cheerfully say, 'I really have to get going right now, but I'll have that for you first thing Monday morning.' If they say they REALLY need it now, explaint that you're sorry (as you're walking out the door), but that you dont have time, and that they really need to ask you earlier in the day on Fridays (so that this wont happen again in the future).  \n\nWow, your coworkers are rude!  You could wind up in the office all night!
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I work in a small office as well sounds to me that she doesn't look at the possitve side of things negativity and whining can spread like wildfire. Just say oh that is too bad and say something cheery. All problems should be unloaded at the front door. Work is work and to perform up to your best ability you have to do that and pick up the problems again at the end of the day. Don't ask how are you just say hi move the convo to t.v or a joke you heard. Isn't a pretty day so forth good luck.
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Your concern for your fellow employee is very noble.It could be several things.I think you are wondering if he has a communicable disease(one you could catch)If he continues to be sick and won't help himself,you could express your concern to your human resource manager.There is only so much you can do.Good Luck
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Gone unchallenged, this problem will not fix itself.\nIf your friends are content with this...do nothing, but if it unacceptable behaviour by someone at work, then talking to your boss without being confrontational is absolutely appropriate. Sometimes a boss is unaware of all that goes on so give them the opportunity to hear your concerns. \nAlways document incidents/dates/times/who is involved just in case you require future reference though.