Why do Gays think they need to wear thier sexuallity on thier sleeve i mean most straight people dont?
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I am not one of those kind of guys who wears makeup or acts overly effeminate.But when I first came out I did do those things.Well at times anyway.For me, it was about coming out and being part of a community.It was about having fun and not being limited to a gender specific "role".We could be ourselves and have fun.Sometimes we would have that "in your face" attitude just because we wanted people to know that we were not afraid of them and were both happy with who we were and not going to hide under a rock just because people want us to.\n\nBut as I got older I grew out of that and became just another 'Joe'.I don't define my sexuality by my behavior and I don't allow my behavior to be based on my sexuality.I am who I am.I like some sports and I wear jeans and T shirts.I don't talk with a lisp and I carry myself like any other guy does.The only time I have to throw my sexuality out there is when the ladies want a date.\n\nBut I would like to point out that a very small number of gay men act flamboyant and effeminately.And some do so because they honestly can't help it.Either because they have low amounts of testosterone or because their psychological chemistry is set with an effeminate nature.So, in the numbers of gay men who behave as you mentioned, only a small amount of them, like me, chose to behave that way and usually they grow out of that.Those that don't more then likely never will because it is part of who they are.\n\nI would also like to point out that there are some heterosexual men who also behave in the manner that you describe.They even have their own term.It's called "metrosexual".And in the same way I described why the small amount of gay man behave that way, so do the heterosexual men behave that way for much the same reasons.
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Because currently, it is a very taboo subject.\nPeople are scared of the unknown and things they don't understand, so to cover up for their ignorance they mock and disrespect gays.\n\nPeople can be real dumb sometimes.
415429
That's the way gays naturally act if they are effeminate. Not all gays are that way. Many are people you would not suspect. They don't do it to draw attention. They do it because that's the way they are.
480119
It's called a sleeve.  Kobe Bryant and Allen Iverson and Lebron James and some other players wear them too.  They are used to keep muscles warm to prevent injury.  Lately though, ever since Kobe started to wear them, a lot of players wear them and it is now considered more fashion than a safety precaution and they will probaly be banned from the league next season.
1081539
Everyone telling you that you need therapy are wrong. They're probably got issues themselves for criticizing people. Having a fetish is normal and healthy for people, whatever that may be, unless it is against the law or whatnot. To answer your question is does not make you gay. Obviously to be gay you would have the desire to have sex with men. Even kissing a guy would not make someone gay. There are plenty of straight men, who might not admit, but are into guys feet as well, not that you are, but the tickling is no exception. Don't listen to those who put you down, it's hard enough to come out and ask that sort of thing. They obviously cannot accept people as they are, and that's sad.
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I agree with no offence to gays or lesbians . I remember when I was a kid I had a tshirt with a rainbow on it ...if it was now they woudl of though I was a lesbian ..lol
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Gay guys are often the first guys larger girls/women feel safe around.  Maybe because:\n\n- they know you won't use them for sex\n- they know you understand what it's like to be discriminated against or called names or harrassed\n- if you're "out" you can hang out with them in public places and you won't feel the need to do and say things to let people know "we're not dating" like some straight guy friends might who are worried about their reputation\n- if you're not interested in them sexually, it's nothing personal, so there's no real insult to hurt their self esteem\n- you're usually pretty fun to be around\n- you often have a better handle on sensitivity and emotional literacy than straight guys do, at a much younger age\n- less macho or sexist B.S. to put up with\n- at least a dozen other reasons\n\nTake it as a compliment.  Girls like gay guys.  \n(As for the marriage piece, that part I don't get and haven't noticed.)
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Well secondskin, I have been wearing for many year in secret.  I love the feel and look.  I just recently shared this with my wife and after some thought she is now ok with it.  I do not wear in public view but see nothing wrong with that if it is your thing.  I am totally straight just have a thing for the feel and look.
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I think others are misunderstanding your question.  Your point is an interesting one: that gays currently have to pretend to be straight, and therefore they have heterosexual sex and reproduce, against their natural inclination.  If they did not have to hide their sexuality, they would be much less likely to reproduce.\n\nThe only weakness in your argument is the assumption that homosexuality is entirely genetic - this has never been proven.
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I think it is partly the fact that the wome feel safe with them.  Thay know that the gay guy is not mentally undressing her as they talk.  Aslo there is a bit a a common ground they share (at least the straight girls and gay guys).  They can talk about the other guys they like.
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Just because you wear small shirts doesn't make you gay.  Usually when a straight guy knows a lot about fashion, he's called a metrosexual.  It has nothing to do with being gay :)
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No there is nothing wrong with it. Its just who you are. Just like rockers show and dress like they lke rock and the same with rappers. If thats what you like than wear it. Plus no one will truly know unless you show them how gay you are and then they might even aproach you
473708
Because people fail to understand being gay is who we are.\n\nWhu are people straight?\nWhy are people people?
179482
Yes, I've known gay men who have boyfriends that dress in women's clothing.  There are also straight women who have boyfriends or husbands that occasionally dress in women's clothing.  It doesn't make them "women" because they like to cross-dress, they still enjoy sex with their original equipment.\n\nSista is talking about transsexuals, not transvestites.  Transsexuals are in the wrong body, transvestites just like to wear the clothes sometimes.
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People are always looking for something to blame for their problems. It's more than easy to say that their problems is a result of their chosen sexual orientation.Some straight people blame their problem on other things also...poverty, ethnicty, or other things. Good question...why should they be allowed to 'throw fits' and get all the attention?
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I think it's just that now it's so much easier for people to actually come out and say to people "Hey.. I'm gay!" but the problem with that is that it also makes it easier for people to decide to be gay because it's so widely accpeted. I'm not saying it's a bad thing at all.. all it means is that there are alot more gay people these days than before.\nHowever, there is a side to it where some people think it's 'cool' or 'in' to pretend to be bi.. such as Britney Spears kissing Madonna and hinting that she may be bi.. or whatever.. people like that annoy me and there are alot more people like that in society because they think it's 'hot.' \n\nI hope this answers your question <3
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Because we want to attract the kind of people that we want to attract (does that make sense)\nalso i think because we need affirmations among gays and lesbians, we need to hear that its ok for us to be the way we are.... i'm saying this, not in a negative note co please do not get cross.\nits just that we get soooo much $hit from straights that we need a place to go to (an outlet) talk about our feelings without being judged..... you know how we instantly feel more connected to a fellow gay person in the midst of straights? i do believe, this is the reason for gay pride to be such a big hit....lol\n.....we just want a sense of belonging, a "family" to go back to,at the end of the day....\n\ni hope this answer doesnt sound too "mindless" to you....\nhope this helps! good luck