I am horribly jealous with my boyfriend, even to the point where I slapped him acrossed the face.  Any help??
966372
I have the same problem and I am working on it. First, you need to apologize to your boyfriend for slapping him on the face, and tell him that you have a problem, and that you are working on it. \nNow, you cannot get "cured" in one day, or even one month from something like this. Prepare for the long journey. The key is to become a rational thinker. You will have to undergo the whole thinking and behavior modification process. Fear is the greatest motivator of human behavior. Try to think what is that you scared of most. If the unbelievable happens and your boyfriend does commit the cheating, what the worst that can happen? How exactly is it going to affect you? Will you die from it? Will your life be over after it? Will your head fall off, your spine break, etc. Sorry for being so graphic, but really, what is that so tragic and awful that is going to happen to you? Nothing of that. If the cheating in fact will take place, you will be hurt for awhile and that get over it and move on with your life. You are not that jealous of your first husband now, see? You see, when you were a child you learned from your mom that something REALLY bad is going to happen to you when your spouse will commit the act of cheating. Children always learn by fear. They think they are going to die if things happen the wrong way. You have to first identify and then face your fears. NOTHING is going to happen to you or your life if you will be cheated on. In fact, your life will only improve from it because it will help you to get rid of the cheater.\n   Also you need to learn how to unconditionally love yourself. Once you see how totally sweet you are, you will realize how in the world your boyfriend can possibly cheat on you??? Not a chance! He is not stupid. He knows how exactly how lucky he is and there is no way he is ever going to jeopardize his future with you. \n   Everytime you are feeling jealous try to get away and breath in a paper bag for few minutes. Absolutely let your boyfriend know that you have this problem so he can be a help to you when you will need it. Also you can start going to gym daily and exercising, this will help big time.
819162
You MUST figure out why your REALLY angry and fix it. You probably have a pattern of doing this in relationships. I know I did. Something underneath has truly hurt your feelings. You must Learn to be 100% honest. You have to tell him when you are mad and work it out on an adult level.  I was able to pinpoint mine to abandonment issues. I was cold towards people. I pushed them away. You have to realize that one day he will be fed up with your crying wolf and let you leave. Love is such a great thing. Appreciate what the two of you have.
1156108
You sound jealous to me!  You need to let him have a little bit of freedom!  If not, things that are bad, could happen!
680766
That's sad & dangerous.. Sounds like you need a hobby; not a boyfriend. You need to respect yourself a little more before you victimize yourself.
273428
Number 1--the words Bf are not nice and anger will not alove your problems--leave them alone.   Let go, and let God.  Unless, you are willing to really forgive and stay together, from your tone I do not think that will happen, you can kill more flies with honey than you can with vinger, hold your head high, the best way to deal with that is to take care of yourself and do better.  Ignore them and keep moving on
932667
i think you seriously need to tell your boyfriend how unhappy this is making you, and if he cares about you, he will listen and tell her to f**k right off
243831
Your best bet it to dump him before he hurts you because of his jealously. No one should control you like that. Also he could have a guilty conplex for something he is doing behind your back.
941957
What a totally bogus kick in the teeth. Of all the low down rotten disrespect. It's not a question of who to be mad at as the anger and resentment  seething inside you is plenty for the both of them. You have every right to be mad at both of those two miscreants. Your first reaction would be that you probably would like to ring both of their necks and I don't blame you. This is all so terribly sad.\n  Anger aside you should reevaluate your relationship with with this so called "boyfriend". He seems very controlled by that idiot rat-friend of his. Him you can write off as a bad influence, a clot headed loser who doesn't even deserve the right time of day.  \nBut your boyfriend. Because of the money spent on the booze pay special attention to his use of alcohol. This should serve as a warning to any future interaction with him. You will never have any positive relationship with a drunk. Take some time for yourself and get your feelings sorted out even if it means not seeing him for a while. You may need a break from him. He really needs to make some kind of a decision as to how he feels about being with you. Guilt or no guilt this little escapade of his may illustrate his true feelings.
724887
i am a very jealous person ,some times it is hard to deal with it but i find the best way is to talk with my partner and try to keep things out in the open . if you can't find any counseling then try to find some one that you can talk to that wont go around telling every one your business. it is hard ,so don't give up good luck  stay happy
231755
I think you are the one who is not in love with your boyfriend.  You should leave him.  And no man has any right to beat anyone, but you make it worst staying with him after he has beaten you
674147
I'm sort of confused on this question.  Who are you talking about?  Is your boyfriend for the past 12 yrs the 19 year old.  I hope not!  Who gets jealous?  The boyfriend or the 19 y/o?  You are looking for an answer to something I can't decipher.  You need to try again.
426623
You might consider getting right back on the horse as they say.  Find another boyfriend, (hopefully one with some fidelity and honor).  I don't think revenge is the answer, and I don't think that you could get revenge anyway.  Just dump him and move on (which is hard i know) but honestly sweetie, there is sombody out there who will love you for you.  Just hang in there.
119238
think about why u are angry with him.Is it really worth being mad at? Are u angry at him so much that you wouldnt meet him on Valentines Day, which is by the way, the "Holiday of Love" (i made that up...doesnt it sound cool, lol) For real, you need to think about it and just go meet him and talk to him about the situation.Once you talk it over, you'll feel a lot better. Always talk to your partner, don't keep stuff from him or it will build up and probably ruin your relationship. Ain't I a good physiciatrist, lol. Everyone knows it!
1029669
please don't talk about it, please. my boyfriend went without  me and has spent the past day telling me every little detail. i am very very jealous.
107848
Slapping or hitting another -- especially male versus female -- is completely wrong no matter what the circumstance!  Do not let him bully you -- that isn't love -- it's control!!!\n\nIf he loves you, why is he causing you pain?!  \n\nLet him go -- and leave him alone!
1059182
Sounds like a loser to me.  The more comfortable he gets with you, the more likely he will start to abuse you, physically or verbaly.  It doesn't sound like you are in a very good situation.  You should get out of it.  Nobody should tell you what to do all of the time and the jealousy thing, it kind of makes me scared for you.  Good luck!
1089700
I dont think there is a way to stop being jealous, it is something that you cant help, but you CAN control it. I get jealous with my fiance, because he is hot, and well, I am not, and sometimes I feel like I am not good enough for him. But I dont make my jealousy get in the way, I dont want to fight with him over nothing, because I do trust him with all of my heart, so that is the only thing you can do, just trust, and keep it to yourself. Now if you have a reason to be jealous, just talk to your girlfriend or whoever about why you are jealous!!