What do you do when you've hurt the one you really loved?
965225
I think the fact that he likes you is a good sign that he may want to go out with you again. Just make sure you apologize and make it up to your loved one and give him time, you don't wanna push. He needs to feel that you can be trusted and since he was the one hurt, he needs to feel sort of in control. Make sure that you show how sorry you were, prove how much you care about him with actions and keep the communication ongoing and strong. When everything simmers down, if he still doesn't ask you out again, try opening up how you feel and what you wish to happen.
372145
If you love someone, Let them go if they return they was yours if they don't they never was. I believe in this whole heartedly. I wouldn't want someone making me feel guilty just because I didn't feel the same way they did. You can not control how you feel. And if you get hurt then you still have to go on. And that doesn't mean that you don't still Love that person. You just can't tell them everyday.(at least not outloud). Just don't hate that person.Because he/she can't help how they feel either.
669574
It takes a long time to heal a broken heart. Take it 1 day at a time. Allow yourself a certain time every day to think about him, cry laugh whatever.  Think positive happy thoughts about the 2 of you. Lean on your friends for support. Remember him with love.  Try to get on with your life the rest of the time, keep busy so you,re not always sitting around feeling sad. It will take time , but you'll get there.
187184
cheer up shinny star,shit happens but we must mourn our losses,dust ourselves up and move on with our lives.a wise person once told me that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all,if it was really meant to be he'll be back,but if it's not dry those tears and brace yourself cause love is hard babie.4yrs is a long time,take your time to heal don't jump into anything on the rebound,forgive yourself cause you're blaming yourself.life goes on and that dreadful feeling will fade away with time,most importantly,forgive urself
114388
You can get over the pain of them hurting you,but its alot harder to get over actually loving them if it was true love!(Its been 3 years for me and i've forgave them for hurting me,but i can't stop loving them even through the other guys i've seen)
820589
WELL YES I HAVE....YOU JUST HAVE TO PUSH ALL THE HURT TO THE SIDE AND CONCENTRATE ON YOUR SELF AND HEALING YOUR SELF...AND THAT CAN BE A LONG PROCESS....BUT YOU NEED TO LOVE YOUR SELF FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE ANOTHER....I KNOW THAT YOU HAVE HEARD THAT BEFORE BUT IT IS TRUE...AND THE OTHER THING IS TO NEVER BLAME YOUR SELF FOR ANY THING AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH....JUST KEEP BUSY AND TRY NOT THINK ABOUT WHAT HAS HAPPENED......FIND HOBBY'S TO GET IN TO AND JUST TRY TO STAY BUSY...EVENTUALLY IT WILL BE EASIER BY THE DAY AND BY ONE NIGHT YOU WILL BE READY TO GO BAKU OUT ON THE FIELD AND PLAY BALL ONCE AGAIN....HOPE ALL IS WELL FOR YOU....KEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH.....
18229
Chances are you are going to hurt them, so just accept that.  Best approach is quick, swift, straightforward, and make a clean break.  Tell them it's time for you to move on, and that you will always wish them the very best. Don't answer all their questions, just tell them it's not a love match for you, and leave it at that.  Do not try and stay friends, you will only hurt them more.  Just move on and cut off intimate contact.
634527
WELL get over it, and think and ask yourself, did he do his best to get you back, and does he really deserve you,OF COURSE NOT OTHERWISE YOU WOULD NOT BE DIVORCED\nHE DOESNOT LOVE YOU, YOU BETTER FIND TO YOURSELF SOMEBODY ELSE WHO REALLY LOVES YOU;
200792
becuz UR LOVE WAS TRUE AND UR STILL IN SHOCK ABOUT WHY THINGS DIDNT WORK OUT. U CANT BELIEVE THAT THIS DIDNT END IN A FAIRY -TALE LIKE MANNER...THE WAY U EXPECTED....u still care abt him ...and maybe the truth is too hurtful and u cant let go.....just try to relax...get involved in activities outside ur home...go out with friends...share ur problems...sharing is the best thing to do at this point.... it will help u reach CLOSURE.......BEST OF LUCK!
123247
dear broken hearted,you have to understand the difference between a lie and actually physical harm.i know what physical harm is.i loved someone and because of this i trusted him.but i really found out the hard way.i was almost killed due to an accident he caused because i was letting him go for his lies.so be thankful you only have a broken heart to deal with.i forgave him but i can never be with him again .my life is worth more than that.so you will heal in time and find someone who will treat you good and you can trust.i have .so anything is possible.take care and move on.
1049859
You have to want to, and let time heal your wounds.  Try counseling, whether alone or with him.  Talking out your feelings is the only way you will truly ever be able to process them.\n   Do not listen to these people who say give up and move on.  We do that too much today.  Give up to easy.  If you really love him, try to work it out.  You will probably never forget the hurt he has caused you, but you may be able to forgive, move on, and both of you learn a valuable lesson.  It may make you stronger in the long run.\n   I would suggest counseling before you give up, but if the pain is too great, then maybe you should seperate for awhile (not give up, just seperate) and work on things at a distance where you both have your space to heal, grow, and process.\n\nGood luck.  peace and love
1124675
How sad .......you lost the very first love you ever had because of someone you trusted ......... someone you had been kind and loyal to. You not only lost your first love, you lost a friend : two deaths.\nI think that it will be hard to resolve your feelings because there is no way to resolve the issue. You can't change the past.. Your relationship was interrupted. In order to heal from this tragic wound, you need to approach it the same way you would a death. You need to go through the stages of grief. There are some good methods outlines at : http://www.elderhope.com/e_class/new_grief/grief_2_2.html\nI am so sorry for your losses. \nI carried the unresolved loss for over thirty years, and then I called my childhood boyfriend (I found his phone number on the internet). I told him what had happened and we talked about it. We talked about our lives and families and things in general. About two weeks after our conversation, I woke up one morning and realized I was no longer thinking about him. I realized how happy I was that we never married. I was thankful my life had taken a different direction.\nI still feel pain about my friend who betrayed me. Her actions caused me to distrust people throughout my life. I wish I had had someone to help me go through the grieving process when I was young. Good luck. There is a different, better ending to your story. One day you will be happy about it because, if your boyfriend had been a purer person, he would not have abandoned you because of gossip.
40252
You have to follow your heart.  if you don't have feeling for the person you're with, it's time to move on.  It's near impossible to not hurt who your with now, but in the long run you're going to feel better for it.  Plus, it'll spare the person your with of even more grief in the future.
36297
yes love hurts i do not care how in love you are it just really hurts . when you are dealen wth a broken heart you first need to find out if you ever have a second chance wth that person or not and if you have no chanch you just program your self to forget that person and you just tell yourself that you are beter off wthout him. its the hardest thang to do expecialy when you are still in love wth them but you have to realize that its not going to do you any good to sit around  feelen sorry for your self you get out there and act like you have every thang in the world going for you do not let yourself get depressed over it go out there and do somthing it will help you and the other party involved
1028307
Take her to the park or a quiet serene place and say: \n\nI'm sorry I hurt you - it has been on my mind since I did.  Please accept my deepest apology. I will never deliberately hurt you again.  Tell me how can I make it up to you?'.  \n\nSay this with all the sincerity you can muster and she would reconsider.
997150
Sweetheart.. you will never "get over" that one that you love... The only thing you can do is try to learn from your mistakes and move on.\n\nAs much as you loved him.. you must face the fact that he did not love you the same way............  if he did he wouldn't have been cheating on you.   You did the right thing by leaving, now be strong, hold your head up high and don't let someone hurt you again.   Right now you are like....... "what the fukk is going on"\n\nTake time to heal.. take time to remember.. take time to prepare...  never to go through this again..\n\nKisses and Hugs.... BE strong!
61389
You take it one day at a time. Get involved in other activities & hobbies & force yourself to ignore any of this person's attempts to get you back. You deserve better...just keep reminding yourself that you don't deserve to be hurt anymore...\n\nGood luck!