How do I stop being cowardly and antisocial?
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A lot of people feel the same way you do. I understand what you go through.   Stop thinking so negatively about yourself and seek some professional counseling.  Ignore any advice that does not involve professional help or group therapy.
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Act as nothing has happened OR talk about it in a fun way. As long as you don't show your embarassment and you are self confident, the others might not judge you as harsh. Hey, it happens to every normal once in a while, right? I'm not talking about freaks trying to live healthy under a glass bell and following strict rules here.\nIf you manage to do that, in a couple of months you'll all be joking about the incident - you'll go "Man, was I wasted that night!", and no one will look down on you.
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hey just be confident and outgoing if u stay quiet n dont talk to ne body then ur just going to feel worse n idk wht ur situation is but take some advice from some one with the same feelings n stay positive n stop thinking of ur self as a loser
1160628
hide.  Seriously, though, the key is self-confidence, if you're confident about yourself, or even if you pretend to be confident and ignore the people who are bullying you or even laugh at them.  I used to be bullied at my old school, I realise now that most bullies are motivated by bad feelings about themselves and they try to boost their ego by making other people feel bad too.  It's pretty hard, but don't let them see that they're making you feel bad.  Stand up straight, ignore them, laugh at them, and don't let them see that they're hurting you.
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What helped me was someone telling me that shyness is really a form of self-centeredness. If you think about it, people you encounter don't really care even a fraction as much as you do about how you come across. They have their own problems, concerns, etc. to think about. In fact, many of them are probably shy themselves but may be a little bit better at hiding it. \n\nIn group situations, shyness is a form of selfishness. You've got a lot to offer (your unique outlook, life experiences, advice, etc.) and to withhold it from others is selfish. So resolve to share more of what you have instead of keeping it to yourself...thats one way of overcoming it.\n\nOne of my friends joined Toastmasters International. Its an organization with social events in which people take turns giving toasts--its good practice for public speaking, especially when you realize how many people are also nervous and shy about expressing themselves! Similarly, you can sign up for acting/improvisation workshops. You can learn techniques there to get over your self-imposed inhibitions as well as how to be and project an image of being open and outgoing (one tip: learning to listen to others and respond accordingly.)\n\nGood luck!
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Do some introspective thinking and find out what *you* want. Let loose and party for hours without caring about a thing. Learn to accept people for who they are and find people who accept you for who you are, not what they expect you to be. Surround yourself with things/people/surroundings that make you feel at peace. Never forget that you only live once, and anything you've been dying to do, or think of spur of the moment, don't let fear stop you, go do it. All in all - live lively.
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Learn about yourself. We all have special gifts and talents that we can share with others. Celebrate yours. If you have flaws that you think you can change, take steps to change them. Choose to be ok with what you cannot change. \n\nEvery day, take little steps to appreciate being alive. Yesterday, I saw a pretty painted piece of wood, I had a lovely conversation with my neighbor and I had a tasty piece of bbq chicken. Look for your little joys.  Smile and say hello to everyone you see. Make it a point to go out and find people to be near. \n\nLove and be kind to yourself.
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lack of integrity and too much fear and ego
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Well your obviously seriously lacking self-esteem, which means that you need to start building some. Here is a magic trick with socializing... 90% of the time, if you have complete confidence in yourself as you are saying something, people will simply see you as cool simply based on your attitude and the way that you carry yourself. But the biggest weapon of all is to not even worry about how others judge you so much. \n   Maybe you didnt say the coolest thing in comparison to the other hotshots around you, and maybe you dont have the latest athletic shoes or the newest video game, but it doesnt matter. Most of the men and women within our American society are heavily influenced by the latest fad or the newest trend. You have a champion within yourself, and you need to locate it. Find self confidence by discovering something that you are passionate about, and then challenge yourself daily. Let the other chumps follow a trend, you will follow your dreams. \n   When you find self-confidence, you really wont care what others think of you, and you will naturally attract people and convince them that you are a "cool" person. Good luck.
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Take baby steps, if your shy, then decide what would really bother you and try a small dose of it. we all have our little things about us, that we have a problem with. I used to have a problem going to a cafe by my self, so i decided one day to just go in and stay a few minutes, i stayed 5 minutes and left, next time alittle longer, until it doesn't bother me at all now. Another thing you got to understand, is life begins, when you learn to make fun of yourself, if you make a mistake, don't worry about it, real people won't make fun of you, the only one's that will make fun of you, are the very one's you don't need in your life anyway.
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Although it is important to be nice to everyone, you need not try to be friends to just any one. Rememember, it is better to have one or two close friends that share your values than to have many friends that might want to use or exploit you. \n\nDevelope your hobbies and interest that will bring you into contact with others that share your values.  If you are the new person in a school, church, neighborhood club,etc  and you feel left out of the group, seek out another new person or others that do not seem to have friends and start your own click. Always choose your friends rather than having people choose you.  Be happy doing things alone until you do develop friendships. You don't need friends to go out to eat, go to a movie and such.\n\nAs far as being courage to be friendly, "fake it 'till it comes."  Tell your self everyday, "I am a wonderful person. I can be friendly. I may not be perfect, but no one is. Others may reject my friendship, but it doesn't mean that anything is wrong with me."   Also, make a list of the things you are fearful of doing such as smileing, saying hi, inviting someone for lunch etc.  Start by doing the least fearful on your list. Do it while afraid until you are no longer fearful.  Than move on to the next item. Do that until you gain confidence. In other words, take baby steps.  \n\nIf you continue to have trouble making friend, you might want to seek treatment for social phobia.
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if you wanna stop being shy, socialize as much as you can! you'll observe others, imitate them at first, and in time get enough courage to do whatever you wanted to.
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i used to be so shy, until i found my now best friend. she was so confident and encouraged me to do the same. maybe try and find friends on your own, so you aren't relying on your now friends to have a good time. Make conversation with a person in a bar or pub, thats usually a good way to get more confident, and if it doesnt work out then you can just leave it at that!\n\ndo things in public that you wouldn't normally do, like singing and dancing when messing about with friends.  Most of the problem is that you are thinking of what others think of you.  Dont worry what they think, theyr the ones having a boring time not you! and anyways, you wont see these people again, so let them think what they think!
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It's great that you acknowledge your problem and want to resolve it. First you must reprogram yourself (so to speak). You have to learn how to control how you react to people. I think you may just need to feel like you are being listened to, and if you don't that could cause frustrations to mount and fuses to become short. Try to address something before it becomes a big problem. Change your approach. If you're losing your cool with kids, try getting on their level and look them eye to eye and sincerely talk to them and tell them why certain things are important and that you don't want to get upset or yell at them but if they don't respect your wishes it could cause you to get upset and that they can help prevent that by showing that they are listening and respecting you. Just remember you can't control other ppl but you can control how you react to them.
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Shy hmm ppl are mostly shy when they think the other ppl will make fun of u if u say something wrong, or u dont have really good things to talk, or u think that the person on other end is much smarter than what u are.\n\nnaah first thing u BE what u are infornt of everyone. \nDONT try to behave like someone who u are not.\n\nsecondly if u say something wrong or u make a mistake ITS NORMAL.. everyone does... u are no different than others\n\nand the ppl whom u feel shy from THEY ARE ALSO HUMAN BEINGS LIKE U ... THEY ALSO LAUGH , CRY ,  MAKES MISTAKE, FEEL DEPRESSED, they too have some weeknesses and some strong points ==> just like u\n\ntill when u dont start talking and knowing them better u will never know that they are no different from u and that it could be u will feel that in many things u are much better than them.\nSHYNESS will keep u away from reality of ppl...if u lock ur self inside a room and  think that everyone else outside the room is better than u ... u wiil never know the TRUTH\n\ntalk , and smile .. and BE WHAT U ARE ..GET WHAT U NEED. have that guts to GET IT .. shyness will go in a sec
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The best thing is to walk away to avoid confrontation and give yourself time to calm your anger. \n\nIt's better to be a coward then hurt someone and or yourself. One day you'll beat up the wrong person and end up in jail. If that's the case,is any one of these kids worth going to jail over?!!\n\nMy suggestion is walk away and take a good look at yourself and ask yourself why these people mess with me...could be your clothes, your attitude, etc.\n\nChange one or more of these and you may stop getting messed with and no longer have to beat anyone up.\n\nIf none of these works, seek help, before it's to late and you wind up in jail. Then you will REALLY GET PICKED ON AND PEOPLE WILL BE BEATING YOU UP!! Think about it it!\nGood Luck
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Everyone feels shy sometimes, but being too shy can hamper many aspects of your life.\n \n \nSteps:\n1.  Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.\n \n2.  Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.\n \n3.  Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.\n \n4.  Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.\n \n5.  Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.\n \n6.  Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.\n \n7.  Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.