What do you do when your husband avoids you alot?
955107
Just stop him, hug him, and look into his eyes at close range and say, "what is hapenning to us? i have to know because i care so much about your well being. you are always at work and it is damaging our relationship. tell me why you're there all the time so i can support you.'\n\nif he gives you some bullsh*t answer, he's probably cheating. check cell phone and credit card bills.\n\nbut he could be stressed out - a big project with a deadline, a new boss, whatever.\n\ni did it for 3 straight years when we had a bunch of layoffs and i was nevous about losing my job. i was there every second busting my ass. fortunately my wife asked the way i described and i felt like she wasn't just being untrusting. \n\ni told her - as difficult as it was - about my fear of losing my job and she totally supported me - she'd come by with little dinners and call and send e-cards and it just was this great thing that really made my day. now i make a great salary and i have time away from work. dang i used to wake up nights worrying about it. if he has that then you can hopefully find out and help him out. \n\nif you present it as you care and want to help, he might be more willing to talk. if he's cheating asking him kind of by surprise should help you see what's in him at close range. good luck!
289298
probably he is used to these stuff that you ask him to do for you. make him miss you ;) by keeping away from him for the meantime..
1075075
You think you have problems....My husband won't leave me!! LOL
482923
go to him and say sorry .. what if later on he shows up the same way u did and does the same to ur wife ?
28468
i suggest that you sit down and  talk to your husband.  this may cause many mnay problems down the line if your not already feeling a certain way towards him now, marraige is a HUGE responsibility, and it is not something to be taken lightly,youe need to discuss this with him and try to find a way to resolve these issuses.
940513
I'm in same boat with my hubby i'm lucky i'm on computer now to answer this the way he hogs the computer.   Give him errans to run and if you want to spend time with him find things you know he'll want to do like go to a guy flick.  I finally got hubby off to go see saw 111.  Try creative things he may be feeling bored and games are is only outlet.  I try and play games with him i hate it but at least we;re together.  Also be open about how you feel i did and he cut his game playing in half lol i'm working on the other half now lol
470233
tell him you don't want to hang out with him.  \n\nOr lie to him and make up some bull-shite excuse.  This is what every woman does.  So, do you take the road less traveled, or you yourself fall victim to the trap.
360781
The best thing you should do at this point is to give him some breathing space. TAI (Temporary Avoid and Ignore) technique works most of the time because you will get him thinking what exactly is going on. Just stay away for a week or so. He will, just like all men, sense the lack of attention and regardless of how he feels about you, will feel compelled to get back to you sooner rather than later.
405825
Nothing - you guys are finished and he probably hates you.\n\nmove on, get another man, i'm sure you'll be able to.\n\nAlso depends on what you've done. But remember Men hold grudges.
684934
I understand completely my husband and I have a very similiar situation. And I too do not trust him and he does not trust me. I think to make things work you have to learn to let go of the past mistakes and learn to forgive even though that maybe in order to go on together you must try to trust. But if he continues to betray you then you need to do what is best for you and your child.
626257
Sweetie, what the hell good is a apology going to do you?  He's not sorry in the way you want him to be, but he is sorry.  You don't know he knows he's wrong, you are wrong.  He has no idea that he's wring, he he did he would not be doing these things.  Get rid of him. baby or not, he is not a good husband and he will only get worse, certainly he is not going to be much of a father.
404790
I have the same kind of neighbor, I just started shutting my doors, windows, and totally ignoring her for about a week, I wasn't rude about it, just acted like I was always busy.  I think she finally got the hint, doesn't do it as much anymore.  Just always act like your getting ready to do something, or how about when your husband comes home, if he has a cell phone, call him and make it ring, so he can walk away and take his call, what else can she do if he's busy as well.
228668
i have a hard time encouraging my husband to do anything but you can't really make him go, he has to go on his own.  just keep on going yourself, and set a good example
655066
The scorn that 'The Pilot' has just poured out on you in unjustified.  Your husband made marriage vows, you have needs, if he were in your shoes he would probably have done something about the situation long ago.  I think you need to take a complete break from routine, say go to a hotel, order in dinner, and talk to each other.  Remind him of the times he chased you around, tell him how lonely you are, how hurt you feel, how you need more than the nothing you are being given.  With his health problems, I'd be bothering my wife as if every day were my last!\nYou deserve to be loved, more than the love for a piece of furniture, which is all he is showing you.  He loves having you around, wouldn't know what to do without you, etc.  It's very difficult to think of leaving someone you have so much history with, and who is in poor health, but DON'T let guilt keep you unfulfilled.\nTALK!
410736
if you want your marriage to work you are going tohave to draw a line under it. i know its easier said than done. try and think of the good things in the relationship whenever you feel yourself distrusting him, thats what i did.
147374
Your first option is to ask him.  Make sure you don't do it as an attack, or he'll probably cover it up.  Also, if you do it as an attack, and he isn't cheating, then he'll feel resentful and feel like any trust you two had, is gone.  Another option is to ask a friend {or PI} to watch your husband for a while.  Call him at work to see if he's there, find out what he's doing if he's "working extra hours"  Check emails, internet history, phone calls in and out, and so on.  Don't be afraid to pop in at lunch to surprise him with a home cooked meal.  This will give you extra time with him, make him feel special, and also thwart plans if he's trying to cheat.  Also, see if there are people that are with him often, that you feel you could get an honest answer from.  But honestly, I think asking him first, in a very soft and subtle tone, is your best bet.  But remember, never ask a question you can't handle any answer too.  I don't mean don't get angry or mad, but make sure you're at a place with yourself that you can hear what he has to say to you, no matter what his answer is.  I wish you all the best, insecurities, whether real or not, always hurt.
87815
I believe you should try to talk to your husband upfront and explain your worries. Men think differently than women in most things and he might just not notice that he's actually hurting you with they way he's been acting.\nIf he really loves you he'll rectify the situation, or at least try to make compromises if the problem is that some situation has changed for him. He might even open up and explain what has been going on with him and why he's acting that way. Everything is possible!\nThe thing is... communication is the key. What's behind the door is a whole different topic.