Why are most people so disappointed in their relationships?
956242
#1 = Unrealistic expectations.\n\nWorks like this. I think this person SHOULD _______ (fill in the blank) but they don't - what's the matter with them??? Meanwhile the other person is thinking the same unrealistic thing about YOU. \n\nWhat is real is what exists, not what we would like it to be, or what we thought it was. I don't mean to sound hard, but the clearer about this anyone is the more it will help. \nThis leads right into ....\n\n#2 = Confusing infatuation with love ( love involves acceptance; infatuation does not).\n\nInfatuation involves an imagined, perfected image of someone which only ever existed in the mind, nowhere else. Love involves a "real" person and relating to them, understanding and accepting  their imperfections and not trying to "fix" them like some broken peice of machinery.\n\n#3 = Cultural B.S.\n\nRelationships are something people do. Like everything else we do, they involve suffering, only somewhat more so than most things. In the US there is a widespread view that happiness is to be found within relationships.  This view is just plain nonsense.\n\nI am not anti-relationship, but relationships work best when people have realistic expectations (and as few of those as possible), practice acceptance & kindness (yeah, good old kindness goes a long way) and instead of looking for one's own happiness from the relationship, instead, look for a friend from the relationship & happiness will come from whatever spiritual practice you have.\n\nGreat question!\n\n;-)
589665
Thanks for asking.I am fine.Track record for relationship love was yucky. Have great children,wonderful sisters thats all i need. Thought for years whats love got to do with it,Then lucky for me 2 years ago I found out.Everyday with him i find out more. Our world is just that.OURS we put ourselves in some messes clean some up and pretend the others are someone else's problem.I'm fine I worry about our generations to follow
122146
Hi and sorry you are going through this.  I am as well.  A good friend told me I offer them an alternative or an escape from their everyday life.  I suppose if one is bored in a relationship, some will seek excitement.  I learned to be blunt and clear that I will not get involved with anyone married.  If they do not understand after being told, I cut all ties.  I hope this helps and good luck.
393847
Yeah basically. I'm not scared of relationships, but I think the traditional 2-person relationships arent natural, which is why so many people cheat once they get married or have been together for so long. You know what I mean? If human beings were meant to live in that kind of relationship, why do so many get unhappy while in them? Me, I'm polyamorous. I like it much better this way. Youll notice that free relationships last much longer and are much more satisfying in general...Or at least thats what I think. Oh well. Everyone decides how they live for themselves. Hope that helps you...\n\n\n\nPeace
310991
Because we have a lot of people out there who aren't really as mature on the inside as they behave on the outside, and enjoy planting strife or get a laugh at doing or saying something truly rude.\n\nLot of truly deadbeat people out there. Some you can't love, because not everybody really wants to be loved.
307219
because when we go into a relationship, we really put ourselves out there, and give it 110% expecting the same in return, as whole heartedly as we can be, its really hard to find sincere people these days, but don't dont worry you'll find someone that will care and love you the way you really deserve, and put all their effort into the relationship, the same as your doing.
1167565
I dont know why, but it's correct.... But when you realize how important and great that sth was, then you just can&#92;t stand the pain.....   \n\nIt is that people are never happy with what they have. They'll always ask for more coz they won't appreciate the beaty of what they have. In this way, we ruin beatuful relationships/friendships/and more, just  because we want sth better......
1170616
You may never find them. And besides no relationsihp is perfect they all need work. A lot of people expect too much these days. You need to be mature, understanding and listen instead of yelling a lot of people don't understand this and if one partner is like this then the relationship won't work or the other partner will be very unhappy.
367841
THANK YOU! Some women cannot be pleased no matter what you do for them and we as men get tired of trying and move on to someone else. Most people are not happy unless they are miserable.
883558
Everyone questions their relationship from time to time. The ones who act on it are unfaithful, those who do not act on it, end up being frustrated and lonely. Where do you turn???? It is one of life's problems that we must deal with everyday. It is very normal to second, third, or even multiple guess important decisions. As far as for what I have experienced, there is not enough paper in the world to hold that story. Good luck and I hope you make the right choice for you.
1150000
because they think the only way to be happy is to be in a relationship.  It is not the case but it is their perspective
1101502
FIRST OFF, PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE BECAUSE OF MUTUAL ATTRACTION, SOME OF THE SAME WAYS AND ALSO DIFFERENCES.  SECOND, NO AFFAIR IS JUSTIFIED.  IT'S AWFUL AND IT WRECKS LIVES.
1100571
here's teh deal the way I see it;\n\nmarriages are failing faster than ever before, I believe that the reason is people are not taking the time to get to know eachother like they used to.  \n\nIt takes a very long time to get to really know a person good enough to decide if you can live with them for the rest of your life.  Most people (99.5%) go straight to bed after the 1st to 3rd date; when this happens you find out if you are SEXUALLY compatable with a person and it becomes the most important part of the relationship.  \n\nProblem is, even though we all wish we could, a relationship involves much more than sex and you can't spend the next 40 years of your life f****ing.\n\nFor this reason, I am starting to beleive that it is a very good idea to wait for a LONG time before becoming sexually involved in a serious relationship.  Get to know th eperson on a spiritual and emotional level.  \n\nWhat do they do when they first get out of bed in the morning, have you ever seen her without makeup, have you ever seen him around kids, what is his church like, how does her mom cook.  THese are all questions you need to know as they will help you to better choose a partner next time.
817941
What's so wrong with hoping that everything gets better? What's so wrong with having faith in each other? I know people let you down, but it does make one's life easier...
570932
I supposed Its because the Persons are not being honest \nand just telling it like it really is. Nobody Else's fault.Yahoo cant do any more than you or I can do.They cant speak for us unless we are willing to first be honest with yourselves then others.  A good relationship starts with being ourselves and take a Chance someone else will be attracted just as we are,not just what we want them to see.
59370
There is so many people in this world.  As human beings we want more and more.  Since we are contact with more peoople we find new peoople and we want to start over the relationships.   Because they are usually the most exciting in the beginning.   Yes there is love in this world....just not long term.....
257399
All relationships require work from both ends and if that doesn't exist then they eventually fade away.  It is often better to let them fade away than to be angry over what you can't control.