Extreme heartache how to deal with this?
961480
tell him if he comes around you will call the police or get a restraining order against him ps.....mygirl friend did that too me
322147
I know very well what you mean ! i think that the worst is to know that you found your second half , your soulmate but because of the circumstances you have to separate . it happened to me 6 years ago , and even thou its not that painfull as it was at the start i still spend a lot of thoughts on him and on the time we shared . will i get ever over it ? i dont know , i just know that yes , time heals a lot of pain , i dont feel pain anymore but i still think !!!! you will learn not to compare with time and besides its a bad thing to do . of course i know that its not easy at all not to but even this time will teach . ok , in the bottom of ur heart ................but i am sure that you will manage . think that there are a lot of people on this universe which felt the same!!! i wish u luck and all the best !!!!
1067541
This question has no answer that can possibly relieve your pain, I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope you are able to live your life to the fullest.\nI hope you are able to find a support group to help you through this time.
993372
begin the healing process. It will be hard and will take forever. keep yourself busy. Goodluck
730884
No one here can help you truly heal. \nReading your question brings me back about a year ago when my relationship ended after about 4years together. I really thought that i was going to die. And all my friends kept on telling me that time would heal my heart and while i am waiting the time away i needed to just surround my self with friends and family and keep my self busy. All good and well and so i did and the time did heal me a bit i stop crying every night and i was able to get back into the swing of things however every now and again i am taken back to that time and i face that same pounding in my chest and that feeling of heaviness on my heart Anything can trigger it but i find that a song or a smell and of course the Holidays.. This will be the second thanksgiving apart now i am in a new relationship but i will never forget that one love of a lifetime.\nI wish you well and know that you are not alone in your hurting.. \nAnd one more time Only time can heal your broken heart.
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Cry as much as you need too. Reach out to others. Believe you aren't going to die from a broken heart and when you are ready keep your heart open to receiving lots of love and good wishes from others.
867040
i just answered ur other question and i know what ur going through i have been in love with this guy forever but nothing has happened so im trying to get over him but its hard just distance urself and try to forget let all ur feelings out now the crying or w&#92;e things will get better i promise Good Luck
1062773
i can understand what you mean as there was something similar that happened between me & my boyfriend but cuz of different reasons...but it was my boyfriend who was in your position & i was on the receiving end...its very tough when someone you love says that they can no longer be with you for whatever reasons...just because we love each other so much, we try to understand & do what the other wants even when thats not something we really want...our mind accepts the situations & tries to adjust but our heart just doesnt wants to let go...you imagine all the things that can go wrong & also how tough your life would be without that person...this feeling of insecurity & depression is terrible...you also began to question that whether that person really loves you, cuz if yes than how can that person take such a harsh & insensitive decision...all this is just a matter of your emotions & you imagine everything thats positive or negatve...when this happens you try to take yourself away from that person & try to act tough cuz you dont want that other person to know that after saying that you understand, you have so many questions going on in your mind...this happened with me & though i really love my boyfriend i was still hurt tremendously by his decision to break up even when i agreed & understood his reasons...i think your boyfriend also is really hurt by whatever happened...its good that you plan to go back to him...i would suggest that you talk to him & try to get out all the pain he is carrying in his heart cuz of what happened...you'll have to shower unconditional love to make him feel secure with you again...treat him nicely, spend time with him & appreciate his presence in your life...just let him know that you belong only to him & there's no one who can love & understand you the way he does...i am sure you'll be able to do that cuz you truely love him...Goodluck!!
375461
just go talk to him.tell him how u feel.\n communication is the key to all relationships.\nif he cant get over it move on leave him alone it will be hard but with time it will get easier.
668018
good day to you,\n\n I understand what you are facing now. but you have to start first by asking forgiveness to the Lord our God and let him rule your life rather than you rule your own life. everybody had a mistake. but it's up to you to fix it. Try to reach God and feel His love deep into your heart. Talk to Him and it's more easier to overcome your problem by crying out all your pains while praying. His always there beside you and and never leave you all alone. He loved you very much simply because He still let see the brighter color of your life, grab this chance that He gave you. Then one day a big surprise will happen. God already touched your heart so don't let him go again. Pray everyday and let Him lead your life. And if you  do all this things, God will do the rest by healing your family's broken hearted.
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I'm 16 an have seen plenty of men break my mothers heart. Theres not an easy way to get over it. It wont affect your kids too long. They will eventually get over the fact he isn't there, but they will always remember him and miss him. You on the other hand will take time. The best way to handle it is think that everything happens for a reason. You probably don't have much time for yourself right? Take the time that you do and write a list of all the wrong and hurtful things he has ever done or said to you. Read it over and over again. You'll eventually grow to not love him anymore. Trust me it works. Also he's far away, how can you love someone you don't see? I wish you the best of luck! Don't get too depressed it effects your childern badly.
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That's too bad :(  Life stinks that way.  There is a song out there.  I think its a Country western song called unanswered prayers.. It really speaks to broken hearts like yours.   \n\nI want you to move forward, not to dwell or look back with hurt.  Don't call him.  I say this because my mother dwelt on her first love...she is now 75 and never moved on.  I am adopted because she had not children she had no life,. She dwelt.  \n\nLook at the experience of love with him as a growing one.  Think about how to move on.  You might miss the right person right under your nose, if you keep looking back.\n\nblessings
262805
Get over it.  I have been there.  Not worth the pain.\n\nGo out of your way to avoid being where she is, find someone else, and enjoy life.
128212
It is hard to move on and most of us have been there.  The worst thing you can do is dwell on the man and the situation: what could I have done differently, maybe if I had....STOP.  \n\nFigure out if the emotions are in fact toward him, or the rejection.  Sometimes sadness can be overwhelming and you cannot differentiate between, was he really right for me and I miss him so, or damnit I was dumped and I feel horrible.  \n\nSTAY BUSY and surround yourself with people who can make you laugh, keep you preoccupied with an activity as opposed to your thoughts.  Try not to be alone...everything will remind you of him.  \n\nWork out.  I know it's one of those flippant answers like "get a makeover," but it really does help.  Not only can you release the frustrations, tension, you will look better!  \n\nSay to yourself: Ok, I'm going to allow myself one more day to wallow in my misery and that's it.  That's enough.  I'm better than this and he will not get one more tear!!!
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just take a deep breath and exhale and try to calm yourself down...wipe the tears from your eyes and try to keep pleasant thoughts...you can be happy if you let yourself...I don't know about your emotional state of mind but try not to let life get you down hon...there's too much to live for...good luck and good life...
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you can't i just lost my husband in oct. and it's been 5 months and you don't get over it. unless you throw yourself into something. and sometimes that doesn't even help. and of course friends mean well but they don't understand how you feel. it's up to you and you alone. you just live and take life day by day and that's all you can do....
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The hurt will be there for a long time, but not forever. Like anything, this just takes time. There are things that you can do which will make this process longer, things like staying indoors day after day with the curtains drawn and your duvet wrapped around you listening to coldplay. By all means let yourself feel pain, don't bottle it up, but don't wallow. If you feel you need to cry then cry, but you have to give yourself some happiness too.\n\nMake plans for every day, hang with friends or set yourself projects to work for. Keep yourself occupied and let yourself have a good time. Of course you'll still be thinking of him, but he won't be all you think about and gradually that pain in the pit of your stomach will get smaller and smaller until one day you wake up not hurting at all.\n\nWe've all been there, unfortunately it's all too often the down side of experiencing real love. Don't ever think you're alone in feeling like this, and although you might be frustrated and think that the feeling will never go away, it will.\n\nGood luck Xx