Well hi everyone,I was wondering if somebody knows why  I can't feel pleasure from sex?
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i will recommend you a natural remedy for it\nLibup is a pill with aphrodisiac and sexual enhancement properties
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well to be honest it could be one of two things, i am not to judge and dont know u 1: ur not well endowed,sorry  but thats my problem and i have had this happend to me b 4 ur not the only one and 2: not enogh foreplay or to much, just got to take ur time talk to them and tell them how good they are, and remember oral does a great job for orgasms for women, also toys which i have never used might help some,
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I didn't have an orgasm through intercourse for about a year after I lost my virginity to my fiance.  I was anxious and nervous and I saw it all as a really big deal which stopped me coming even though oral and masturbation made me come.  When he asked me to marry him, it was like someone switched on a tap and I now orgasm every single time that we have intercourse.\n\nYou could try having your boyfriend stimulate you until you are almost at orgasm before stopping to have sex for a while, then continuing the manual stimulation etc until you orgasm whilst he is inside you.  Different positions might work, try missionary with your legs up over his shoulders or a cushion under your bum, doggy style with him reaching round to stimulate your clitoris, you on top stimulating yourself or having him stimulate you.\n\nGood luck!
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Although not common, this is not unheard of.  It is important to differentiate between a desire to have sex, and the enjoyability of the act.  \n\nIf you find you have no desire AND you don't enjoy it, then you may suffer from an asexual disorder.  As mentioned by others, this can be caused by a number of things, from physiological (menopause, hormone imballance, etc), to psychological (stress, acute post tramautic stress disorder, etc).  However, there is a small number of people who just do not have a sexual drive.  Although the reason for this is yet unknown, it is beginning to be studied more and more.\n\nIf you find you have a desire, and just do not enjoy sex, then you would find yourself in a MUCH larger population.  Believe it or not, it is quite common for people to say they are incredibly dissatisfied with their sexual enjoyment, and this goes from men to women.  The causes can be the same as mentioned above, or they could just be due to an unfulfilling sexual partner.  In either case, if you wish to change it, there are a plethora of ways to go about it, starting with self-exploration (talking about looking inside yourself, lets not get gross in here).  There are many books wich can help with this.\n\nFinally, it is important to note that although not everyone feels this way, there is nothing inherently WRONG with you.  This does not make you a freak or anything.  This, like anything else in life, just means you are unique, and is an opportunity for you to explore your uniqueness.
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Why are you scared? What is it in particular that scares you about it? Is it that you feel like you won't be in control? Are you afraid that you might embarrass yourself when you have an orgasm in some way?\n\nYou need to work out why you are scared, and work on the underlying cause. All I can suggest is that you try to relax. A glass of wine, a nice bubble bath......try masturbating while you're in the tub and feeling relaxed. Maybe even ignore that fact that you're crying and scared and continue anyway???\n\nHonestly, there is NOTHING to be afraid of. It's such a good feeling, and I feel bad for you that you're missing out on it!! If you're scared of embarrassing yourself, then try doing it on your own, where no-one will see your reaction. If this continues, you may want to consider seeing a sex therapist as someone else has suggested.
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If you don't have an STD, there's a chance you are experiencing dyspareunia, that is, a condition in which women experience pain during sexual intercourse. it's a rather common condition, and easily tratable. If you went to the doctor and there's no medical reason for your pain, it would be a good idea to talk to a psychologist or a psychiatrist, or some counselor with GOOD sexual education experience. Usually fears and embarrasment makes us feel pain when we shouldn't. Or maybe, you had some bad sexual experience before, and you're afraid to experience that again.\n\nDon't worry, with some professional help, you'll solve it in no time.
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Orgasms with sex didn't happen for me until I got a little older, more comfortable with my own body, in tune with my own sexuality, and finding what worked for me and going after it, and practice of course.\n\nRead this, good advice:\n\nhttp://www.talksexwithsue.com/femaleorgasm.html\n\nAlso, just my opinion, but stop faking it.  You don't do you or your partner any favors by faking it.
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if your not getting any pleasure than you have a personal problem. try using a toy, they have many many sizes. also when you find the person you love and you get married, and you are together with them. than size does not matter, either way.
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I am being very serious when I say you need to seek some counseling. First to address any issues you may have that are preventing you from enjoying sex. Secondly, with your husband, to discuss any issues you have as a couple. I also suggest you see your OB/GYN to rule out any physical problems. Depression can even greatly reduce sexual pleasure. So, if you want to work this out, seek outside help from people who know what they are doing, not Yahoo users. \n\nI have been married 8 yrs and faked quite a bit in the early yrs. I had to find the courage to tell my husband he was not pleasing me and give him suggestions on how to do this. Now, through a variety of things, I usually always reach orgasm.
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I've been looking into this a great deal lately.  We should all be physically ABLE to have a vaginal orgasm, but only like 36% (read it in cosmo yesterday) can actually reach it.  Takes some work!  You should check out cosmo b/c I'm not real sure what I can say on here...but they are pretty thorough.  Good luck!!
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There maybe several reasons she can't orgasm...she may have a history of sexual abuse,and you have to make sure you treat her with a lot of respect and compliment her body a lot , tell her how smart she is and don't let her think you don't love her.
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First it sounds like you are really stressed out about it. I think life would suck if I couldn't have an orgasm so I feel for you honey. I think if you want a drug, call your doctor and make an appointment. Try different positions, different lubricants, and different toys. Something else that might be causing your inability to orgasm without yourself involved is if you masturbate a lot. If you feel comfortable with it, google orgasm problems and read some articles about it. That might help you figure out what it is.
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For me, I don't get an orgasm from self pleasure.  I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and I almost always have an orgasm.  The deeper the better, for me at least.  That's why I like top.  I've also heard of putting your hands on her lower abdomen and pushing all the way up her body.  Hmm, sounds good off I go! LOL J/K
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Sounds like it has been stretched out from over use. Slow down. Try less partners. Use pelvic exercises to strengthen the muscles. Most of the time the female orgasm is reached from the exterior stimulation anyway. Focus more on this and less on the actual intercourse.  F1sTing is always an option! Let me know if I can help!
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everyone is different.Some women never orgasm at all.Some women only orgasm through external stimulation some only through penetration.You just got lucky. Wish it was that easy for me
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It may hurt the first time but after that it shouldn't.  It is possible that you have a strong hymen that needs to be releasd by a surgical procedure.  Or you might be anticipating pain and not able to relax and lubricate well.  Try a longer foreplay and a lubricant like KY or something similar.  Take it slow so there is no tensing.  Good luck.
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Sex has no emotion or feeling behind it....making love does.