I get really jealous when my boyfriend talks about ex-girlfriends even though they are in the past.?
964202
if you are loving someone then u are going to get possesive and jealous for him. so its part of love. go on have jealousy and also be a bit protective for ur bf. its worth it.
421107
Unfortunately a lot of us have a past and often that past will haunt us for years to come.  You need to realize and accept that this other girl and the relationship he had with her is his past, just like other relationships you probably had with other guys.  He has made a choice to be with you and only you and not her.  By not accepting this as a fact and a wondrous thing and instead letting his past relationship affect your relationship with him you are risking any chance at ever being truly happy together.  Do both of you and your relationship a favor and stop dwelling on his past and focus on your future together and making it so special that the past will be a distant memory.
613871
If it hurts you that he is talking to his ex, and you have told him this calmly and rationally, and he is still doing it - there is something wrong.  In a healthy relationship, he should understand your insecurity about it and possibly decrease or eliminate contact with her until you feel better about it.  \n\nSeek some sort of couples counseling to \nA. Find out why he would do this\nB. Work out your trust issues from your past relationship.  \n\nIf you don't address these issues now, they certainly won't magically disapper once you are married.  Take the time to solve them now so that you have a clearer plan for your future.  \n\nGood luck to you.  : )
135880
maybe she's feeliong underappreciated and is trying to make you jealous by reminding you she's been with other men.  If she's insecure in your feelings for her, she's probably looking to see how you react when she says this stuff.  It's childish, and will end up hurting the relationship if she continues.  I'd talk to her about it.  See how she reacts.  If she blows up over this, I'd say cut her loose and find someone else.  If she agrees to stop, give her a chance.
1045666
If you're jealous, there's probably a good reason for it.  This guy has already broken your trust once and hasn't built it back yet.  I'd talk to him and tell him that the things he's donig are making you uncomfortable and until you feel you can trust him fully he needs to back off the other girls for awhile.  If he's not willing to help you trust him, he's not worth your trust.  And usually your gut instinct is right.  9 out of 10 times, once a cheater, always a cheater!
400096
If your boyfriend was mature, he would not have gotten jealous. What he has to understand is that everyone has a past: Past relationships, old friends, etc. It's all about maturity, not jealousy.\nMy boyfriend and I have a great relationship. We're both understanding about each others past. Maybe you need to seat down and talk to him about unresolved issues
99749
Sounds like the two of you don't trust each other and don't trust yourselves. When I was young, I was terribly jealous because my self-esteen was low. I didn't seem to believe that I was worth loving, so I would cling too tightly to boyfriends and friends. Thankfully, I matured and realized how foolish it is to be jealous.\n\nIf you love and trust your boyfriend and if you're not just hanging onto him because you don't believe that you are worth loving, then let him go with his friends, even if the ex is there. \n\nIf he does do anything to destroy your trust, then he's not worth being with anyway. Find someone else who is. The reverse is true for you as well. You aren't looking to cheat on your boyfriend, right? Then he needs to trust you, too. If you do cheat on him, then that's not fair to him. He is deserving of someone trustworthy, too.\n\nJealousy can destroy relationships. I've seen it happen. Lighten up on each other. See where your trust can take you.
477970
being jealous could be a sign of insecurity or distrust or obsession..whichever it is, you have to get over it, sooner the better...why dont you try telling your gf..maybe she could once again assure her love for you..maybe her assurance was just the thing you needed to get yourself back on track again..
293078
Leave it alone! He does not need to relive this with his girlfriend. I'm sure you've made it clear that if he WANTS to talk, you're ready to listen and that's ALL you should do. You're not his therapist and you are not qualified to be his therapist. You're his girlfriend and need to respect his boundaries and quit prying into pieces of his past he does not want to dwell on.
661618
Probably not.  Maybe they see the way you and your girlfriend get along (fighting all the time, verbal abuse, or maybe you have a one sided relationship).  Maybe they see how your girlfriend treats you, like you do everything for her and she has you wrapped around your finger, so they feel like she's using you.  If they were jealous then I would think that you spend a lot more time with your girlfriend and not with your friends and your relationship with your girlfriend is something they want because they see perfection.  Is this relationship something where the two of you feel inseparable and love spending time with one another?  Then maybe they could be just a little jealous, but for some reason, I feel that this may not be the case if you are asking.  They probably know more of what you don't see or notice. Others usually can observe and pick up on the wrong things when you yourself, cannot.  Usually that is the way it goes.  It's called being "Naive" to the relationship.
1116661
my ex is also like that.. at first i thought it was cute of him being jealous... but as time passes by it really suffocates me.. its like you cant do anything without asking permission from him or him allowing you. He became very possesive and it really kills me... As if i cant live my life by myself... piece of advice girl... don't let your bf becum a monster you should talk to him...and tell him that its normal to be jealous but its also not normal if he's over reacting when he is jealous...
274975
My boyfriend is still friends with the one long-term girlfriend he had before we got together. He still talks to the girls he had flings with throughout his early 20s. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't bother me occasionally. The important thing is that it's only occasionally. I trust him and I know he would never betray that trust.\n\nIf he still has feelings for them I'd be wary of getting too attached to this guy. He isn't bad, it just seems like he isn't sure of what he wants. Maybe those feelings will fade, maybe they won't. The important thing to remember is that he is entitled to those feelings and you can't force him to not have them.
886317
ask her why is she always talking at her ex cause you don't want to hear her talking about them and if she misses them that much then she can go back to them cause she is totally disrespecting you in always how would  she like it if you talk about your ex girl friends but tell her if she doesn't stop you are gone and will be looking for some one different good luck
558200
I always used to stay friends with exes but my current bf is so jealous, it drives me nuts and makes me feel isolated.  So even though I don't talk to my ex anymore, my daughter does and even that upsets my bf.  I don't know why he is so insecure.
449652
I am the same way that you are, the guy I am with is the one for me as well, and we also have a baby on the way. But my jealousy and Insecurity did kind of hurt us, because things are not the same right now, and we are both trying to get back to the way we were, because we both really love each other, and do not want to lose one another, plus we want to because of the baby. I had to learn the hard way to not be that way, because he would never do anything to hurt me. So the best advice I can give you, is just dont let your jealousy get in the way, I mean it isnt going to go away, just dont let it get the best of you, because he will either change (not for the good), or he will end up leaving you. I had a bad past too, and this guy I am with is PERFECT for me, so just try your hardest to let go of your past, and tell yourself that this is your present, and can also be your future if you just let all the bad stuff go. Trust me, I do not wanna be the jealous type anymore either, but it is just something that is hard to get rid of. If he has been able to handle it this long, then he is a great guy, my boyfriend put up with it for a LONG time, but theres only so much one guy can take, so please stop while you are ahead. I hope this helps some.
689426
possibly you are doing or saying something to remind her of past experiences with ex bf's. really when we talk about past stuff we don't expect you to do or say anything, just be there for us because we are processing something that got left behind in the shuffle. i often do things, say things or even see or hear things that make me think of people in my past friends and lovers. it isn't that i am holding any old flames, just that memories don't die, we just push them back. so sometimes they get pulled back to the surface and we have to process them for a minute so before we can push them back again.\n\nif she isn't neglecting or abusing you because of her past then i say just don't do anything and listen or even tune her out and just let her talk when she feels she needs to. she'll eventually get everything out and stop doing it.
1250
Not necessarily. I bring up my ex sometimes to people and its not that I am not over her because I totally am, but its just that most of his experiences in relationships(good or bad) may have been with her and that is all he knows. I know this be the case with me. I know I am over my ex because we still keep in contact and when she calls me or I call her I have nothing to talk about. Just lots of awkward silence. Ask him and see what he says. Have a heart to heart.