My Friend Really Hurt Me?
969391
Hang up on her when she calls if she just calls to brag, and think is she really your friend?
846432
YES!!!! you should definately be concerned!!!! your friend is trying to relieve anger/stress in his life by taking it out upon himself...which is not healthy at all...You should confront your friend saying that you are worried about him going too far and getting himself seriously injured! even if he admits that it will not go tnat far you should still encourage him to find alternative ways to vent out his anger...like grab a punching bag and beat the shit out of it...it works for everyone. As to him saying he likes the scars I think that is a cop-out to the real reason why he is doing it. Maybe the pain is a way to relieve his anger or maybe he feels that by burning himself, he can somehow forget the pain he was feeling and focus on the pain he is feeling due to the burning...and forget about the pain he felt and just remember the scars...but if it is not and he/she really likes scars. I would give him this advice: Scars are not cool....they are physical signs of how one has f'ed up in life, being a cut from a knife that slit his finger or arm, to a snowboarding accident that required surgery. Most scars are a visable sign to tell the wearer...damn I f'ed up Im not going to do that again...but he seems to not get the point. If you need nemore info please feel free to send me a message.\nThanks\nHope this helps
664258
I think he is. Did you try to explain to him how much it hurts you when he withdraws from you? He needs to tell you when you do something to upset him so you can work it out and get it out in the open. He is holding things in which only makes it worse. Make sure he understands that he has to be open and honest with you in order for your friendship to last. That is part of what being a good friend is. I wish you luck and hope you two work things out. Good friends are hard to come by so that makes it worth trying to work things out.
217713
You should tell him the truth about how you feel even if it hurts you don't want him to find out from someone other then you because it might make things worse but when and if you deside to do the right thing let him down easy and tell the you would like to remin friends good luck I hope this help's you.
123856
Many people who self harm are misunderstood. Obviously your friend needs help and perhaps that is his/her only way of letting people know about it. If you can, convince your friend to take up counselling or let someone who can do something about it know.YOu also hang in there. It must be hard to be close to someone who is hurting.
1093337
Obviously something else is eating away at your friend!  Most likely she believed you and its something else thats eating her. I'd say just let it go.  Things aren't always 100% perfect..... apologize that you didn't go and tell her you honestly thought that they wanted some time alone.  The majority of broken friendships are broken because of miscommunication.  Talk it through and move on.  Go do something fun together and you'll both forget this incident.
358005
From personal experiences growing up, I know how much that can hurt; I'm very sorry you're going through this. \n\nMy best advice for you would be to ignore the cruel things she says and does to you. I know that it's very hard to turn a blind eye, but sometimes that's all you can do.\n\nI would also suggest that you not try and be friends with her. You should be courteous to her, but you do not need to be her best bud. If she is such a mean girl, do you really want to become her friend? Girls like that are very charming and manipulative. They can get you to do things you would never dream of doing. I once became good friends with the "mean girl" of my school (just so she wouldn't be mean to me), and she pulled me into the peer abuse with her. Before I knew it, she was having me say and do horribly mean things to the girl that had been my best friend since I was 4. I did horrible things to her, and I live with that guilt every single day of my life, even though now we're both grown women and she has told me that I am forgiven. It's a horrible feeling, let me tell you.\n\nSo, to sum up this short novel I've written: Don't pay attention when she does crap to you. When you try and fight back, you're just feeding the beast. Kill her with kindness, but do not try and become her pal. It will only hurt you in the long run.\n\nI truly hope your situation gets better real soon!
854351
Well, usually friendship doesn't bring more pain than love. Usually, friends know your weakness and then avoid them becuase of that, they care for you and do whatever they can to help you, they look out for you and never try to hurt you. But alas, not everyone is like that. Are you in a situation where your friendship is bringing more pain than love? If so, you aren't alone, i have the same thing going on. If you are in pain because of a friendship, i would suggest you approach your friend and let them know why you are feeling like you do. Don't get mad at them and blame them like "you are the cause for my grief" and such, approach calmy and explain why you are in pain.  For your question, the reason we are hurt by the persons we care most about it just that reason, we care more about them because we have invested so much into that relationship, so we take whatever they say or do more seriously than what a stranger may say. You tend to trust them more, so if they hurt you it hurts far more than if a stranger hurt you. I don't really know what your question is, so i can't really think about what else to say. If you want to talk or vent or whatever feel free to emial me. Whatever happens, i wish you the best of luck!\n\n-sarah
848896
Go back and tell him the truth. If he's a true friend he'll listen. Let him know you were afraid at first because if he doesn't feel the same you still want to try to have a friendly relationship.
1049115
It really depends on you and the situation. There are a lot of questions to ask yourself. Did she do this on purpose and why? How important is this friendship to me? Is this the first time she has disappointed me? It's good to forgive, but if this is the type of person that will keep hurting you, it might be time to rethink the friendship.
277725
you're right , and your  friend will end up getting hurt because this guy is just using her, if you tell someone she will end up hating you .  i think you will have   to wait and see what happens . good luck
364707
This is a tough situation.  This person has been your best friend for some time, but has taken a big turn for the worse.  My advice is to call or write her, and without getting too emotional, tell her how much you were hurt when she didn't come to your Quinceanera.  Hopefully, she will understand that this meant a lot to you, realize the importance of your friendship and try to make it up to you.  However, if she doesn't even after you've explained how much she hurt you, then she isn't acting like a friend any longer.  It will be hard, but you'll need to let go of her.  You deserve to be treated better than this by your friends.\n\nGood luck, and if I can be of any help - just write.
669536
Maybe it is time to make a new friend. Friends don't treat real friends like that. She is probably so absorbedwith her new boy friend that the might not even realize that she is hurting you. You might want to tell her how you feel.Them if things don't change I would look around for a new friend. Sorry you have to go through this .good luck and God bless.
704713
you should have a heart to heart talk with her. you have every right to get upset with her after all she didn't honour your request. but you could have handled it better. \n\ncall her and ask her to meet with you. apologize for reacting the way you did but not for the reason. it was your life she was discussing with her friend and you have every right to choose who knows about it. but don't let your friendship end because of it. if she cares enough she'll understand where your coming from. \n\ngood luck!
582473
hi, i was once like you or some thing like you. all i wanted in the world is not to loss my friend that i had before i did the worse thing ask her to be something different then that and the truth was she did not like it. i feel like being a friend was more important and i would help her and i will help her as long as it does not pass the lines of friendship. if you can get over what she has done why not be a friend even if she will never give it all up this is due to the fact that you are a better person if you don't hold hate to that person. but if you feel like she does not like it, you being a friend, then you should back off due to the fact that that's the best move that you can do as a friend. so yeah i do say that its OK to be a friend of your EX and forgive her but also see if it will be good for you and her. if you feel like it is wrong then don't if she feels weird about it then don't otherwise go for it\n\n               kfh king
760251
I am very sad that you are hurting so much. Some wounds are very deep and take a long time to heal. You deserve to be loved and cared for! I can't even imagine how much it must hurt to have someone you care about so much do that to you. I don't know if you believe in God, but I do and I believe that he can heal us. I believe that forgiveness is the key to overcoming your hurt. I know it is extremely difficult, but if you can try to push angry feelings away and forgive him for what he has done, you will feel better. I do not believe that finding someone else is the right solution. It is a way to cover or bury your pain, but not heal it. Pray for strength, don't be ashamed to cry, and turn to good friends for support. I will keep you in my prayers as well.
895014
Obviously you know they weren't really "friends" right?  Friends wouldn't do that to each other.  I've been there and I know how much it hurts.\n\nA friend would support your decisions (even if they didn't agree with them) and they would "be there for you" when you needed them.  Don't sweat these so-called "friends" they aren't worth your time.\n\nYou may never "forget" what they did but that doesn't mean you can't "get over" it.  Yes, it just takes time.  Of course you're hurt, you trusted them and thought they were "friends".\n\nYou should try to "forgive" them, (even if you are unable to at the moment), because keeping all that bad energy inside will only hurt you.  \n\nYou sound like a nice person and anyone would be happy to have a "friend" like you.  Just chalk it up to "experience" and forget about them.  They don't deserve you as a friend, and they aren't worth your time.\n\nBest of luck to you.