Boyfriend invited me for the holidays BUT THEN!?!?!.....?
952735
I don't know his or your financial situation, but I would like to know how come it's OK for you to spend money to get there and not him?  and how far is it?  I would ask myself this question:  How many times has he NOT gone out of his way for you; then decide if you want to go to the trouble of taking the metro.\n-good luck
838470
Its getting routine... Spice it up a little, when you know he is coming home prepare a picnic in your living room or something similar that is romantic.  He could be like that for a lot of reasons, men have periods too it seems.  Spice up the relationship do something that you havent done before, if  you still dont get a response, then maybe you two need to sit and really talk about whats going on.
63313
U should be glad he isnt the partying type. Do you know how many ladies would love that. Is there more to this than you're saying? Or do you think maybe you're being a little insecure. You have to realize he needs his space such as you do. Its not good to be around each other all the time. Make him miss you.If the realationship is strong, him going to a party should in no way pose a threat to your relationship. Give him the benefit of the doubt. You should go out w/ some friends or do something when he goes out to take your mind off it.
450554
sounds really fishy to me.. if he really cared about you, he would wait until you were 100% ready to meet him.. because he is being pushy about this whole thing, i dont think that i would look into any further, and i would stop the communication. There is just something that doesnt sound right. i hope that this helps.
299364
Absolutely not! Just tell him you needed some time because it came as a shock and ask yourself if you want to date him ; if not ... try to explain him kindly that you don't really think about him as being your boyfriend and that this wouldn't be fair to him in the end
108070
sounds like he wants s*x with you,  the decision is yours   if you dont want to jsut explain to him that you dont if not...have fun ;)
411667
Wait for another time.  It sould like it may end up being too stressful if you have to be misleading.  Think about how great it would be if everyone could be open.  If he doesn't know you like him then you're more likely to be disappointed that you didn't have quality time with him and it will be all your own fault.  If he's the right guy for you, you'll have a chance to be with him and enjoy the fact that not only you like him but that he likes you.  Wait for that to happen and you'll enjoy yourself more.  Even if it doesn't happen, you'll be glad you didn't push the situation.
1041351
I'd say you were a lucky girl.  You've got a guy that is nice, shares your interests, makes you feel happy, and your parents approve.  I'd invite him to the party.  I hope your fourth of July party is full of fun and your relationship continues to grow.  Peace.
661958
It is all about trust...do you trust him??? If so..then why worry!! Go have a good time with your friends(dinner, movie..or day of beauty w/ lunch). If you don't , well then your relationship is headed for the rocks. You are not a married couple , or engaged so it could very well be a matter of budget.\nNOTE: When we got married we paid for our own reception and were on a tight budget...had to cut our "guest list". There were no hurt feelings...people understood and sent their blessings.
408566
Um, if they're living in the same household, then it's only courdial to invite everyone.  Yes, it is your day and it should be planned out to your specifications, but think about the "bad-blood" that could be created or spared based or your decision to just let someone show up and hey....maybe give you an extra gift.  It's worth it to me to suck it up.  Besides, there will be so many other people there, it isn't like you have to sit and hold hands with him/her the entire time and be like "look who I invited, right here, uh huh, see who came, blah blah blah."
936115
you hurt him as well remember?  he probably missed you as well as you missed him and that was it.  even if he did want to get him for christmas real cheap it wouldnt have mattered you would have found out and he would have been the jerk not you.  but like you said you had insecurities and you asked a question that hurt yuu both.  and it was probably just that... an insecurity.\ngive him time.
346569
I think turning down the invitation to go out was a clue, don't even bother to call him, let it go.    I also think you shouldn't jump to conclusions, noone knows for sure if it's an ethnicity thing, maybe he has a girlfriend or wife in hiding somewhere, if he does not then maybe he just does not like you in that way or he isn't into interracial dating.  To each his own and he is entitled to date or not date who he wants but don't appear desperate, he isn't the only man in the world, I am sure you'll find someone else to like quite soon.
609109
i don't think you are being a jerk. it sounds like you need to "ease in" with the dad thing, starting with dinners and whatnot. a weekend would not be a good idea. you don't have to tell your boyfriend this, just say you can't make it this time but make plans for the next time you can see eachother.
862376
I agree that because you already made plans, and have preparred for the festivities at your home, he, or his parents, should not expect you to change this (with no thought of the quantity of people at each location).  As couples, these things must be discussed and planned in advance to avoid problems.  You be sincere, without argument, and explain that you can prepare a schedule of when you will spend Thanksgiving at who's house.  It sucks when there is conflice (as I am experiencing the same this year), but all you can do is try and be the adult. Good luck.
814274
You need to ask yourself do you really like him? And what was the reason that he started seeing you? What do you do together and what do you want from him? There is no point seeing someone who isnt going to give you what you both want from a relationship....you should be spending quality time together on your own and with your friends and family and if he isnt prepared to do that is  he really worth it!? Think about what you want...x
920405
GO WITH HIM.... Tell the folks to get used to divided holidays and promise them Christmas,  mean it.  That's when you get your presents after all.  This is something every one comes up against as they couple up.  It's not easy but compromises have to be made.  \nAn additional consideration for the future is which holiday draws the most family together at which venue.  If you feel welcome, go.  It is awful short notice if you have promised your Mom to bring the pie.
220927
I'm thinking you are a bit tired of hanging around in his room.  Decide first what you would rather do, then invite him.  If he choses to not go, please don't let that stop you from having some fun.  Your happiness is up to you, not him.  No more waiting!!