Do you think sex is a must in a relationship? Can sex help relationship??
962263
A healthy sexual relationship is a must in a relationship, it is what brings 2 people together that no other way does, it also relieves stress for both parties, and can also just be great fun, there are different ways that sex impact a partnership.  Sometimes the intense, I need only you in my life, the sharing.  And watch this, sometimes when things get 'testy' between 2, a lot of the time it's because they have neglected that part of the relationship, that's the stress breaker, and it opens doors to talk.  And the just plain fun?  That's when both parties are not looking for a soul matching moment, the 'core of them' it's when one of you just sneaks up on the other, just to enjoy!  Without sex / love making a relationship starts to build walls, feelings are hurt, doubts start to creep in, and not only men cheat!  It's healthy, very important, and really great ;)  As for not falling in love until after??  Well that's not always true.  My hubby and I knew each other for sometime, enjoyed each others company, and loved spending time together.  We had a sexual relationship for a few months before the L word came out, and it was great, and a moment I'll never forget, and one my hubby still asks remember when??  So I guess that could go either way, but don't mistake great sex and good times for 'falling in love' there are too many other things that play into a good relationship.
353648
You need to trust him, it's one of the most important aspects of a relationship. Alot of guys can go without sex if they are with someone who they really care about.
461533
NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
1121247
Definitely. It is important to be able to pleasure yourself and enjoy it. Then you can really get in touch with you body and learn what really feels good. Then you can direct your partner.
294286
Sex is what brings a couple closer.  Its what we share with our partner that we dont share with others.  The emotional effects on the relationship are great. you feel loved and needed, happy, (high as a kite too!) we as humans need contact from others, this being one of the ways we need contact.  It only enhances the relationship when we give ourselves to our partner.
1126834
Yes it can work. A relationship is so much more than sex. It's companionship, understanding, communications and much much more. However those three are areas you might work on.\n\nFirst companionship. You need to find activities outside the bedroom to enjoy. They might help you realize what you have in him and what you don't you really aren't missing.\n\nUnderstanding. Well you need to understand it's going to be work and you won't always get what you want. This means you have to compromise a bit. If you love him and he loves you. Then you both need to try and be the bottom for each other, be satisfied with what you have or open up the relationship (which I really think is a big mistake).\n\nLast communications. It is fine to ask others for help and advice. It may help you see and decide what your situation is, what it means to you, what he means to you. However in the end you need to talk to him about your feelings and need as does he.\n\nThe fact you are out here asking for help means to me you care a great deal about him and this relationship. My personal thought and advice, get a lot of lube and try the other side. Let him know you're willing to try this if he is and stay together. It's worth it.
438646
Sex is not a must, it is a need.  However, saying that, if everyone decided against it then we would have not more children which basically means extinction of our species in just over 70 years, maybe less.\n\nGetting back to the main question, no don't have sex till your ready.
177348
The best thing is to wait until you're married. Okay, enough on the parent speech. The most importantthing about sex is to learn what makes your partner happy. It changes from person to person so its not about what you know, its more about what you're willing to do in conjunction with what your personal likes are.
274068
In any relationship sex and intimacy are a very important component. Men often find physical contact a ideal way to connect to their partners. While it isn't everything it is far from nothing.
567948
not always.  Love and sex are nice combinations but that's not all there is to love.  Or sex.
482683
They are a perfectly good idea. From experience I would say that the best relationships have a good sex life. (I'm not saying all just most, as in those relationships that do involve sex.) Remember, communication is key during sex and that you shouldn't be afraid to try new things. Different positions quite often offer new sensations and there is nothing wrong with that.
151766
Ofcourse sex is very important in a relationship.But it shouldn't be the number 1 factor in deciding a relationship,but it often is!Women will leave you in a flash if you can't satisfy them sexually!It's very important as long as you are healthy but when you get older you'll see that sex will become less and less a part of your life.I look at older people that I know haven't had sex for a good 5 maybe 10 years maybe more! So when you get old [and we all will get old]it won't be about the sex, it will be about having someone by your side!
249222
Apparently there is something right with your relationship since you have been together for so many years. Being an outsider looking in, here's what I would suggest. First of all, I just finished reading a fabulous book, For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. This married woman and a crew of men and women surveyed men of all races, ages and religious backgrounds. What she found out is that men just need sex. It's their way of needing affection from their partners. There is no shame in your needing or wanting sex. It's a perfectly healthy part of a relationship. Sex was not the main focus of her book by the way. Most men see sex as a need. Most women see sex as a way to show affection. So.. apparently your wive is missing the whole romantic aspect of your relationship as a whole. She needs affection in another form other than physical affection. Try going back to your dating years. What did you do for her, other than go at it like two rabbits that made her fall in love with you? Random love notes? Cards? Flowers? Time alone? What about a weekend getaway for two? Your wife needs to know that you love and respect her outside the bedroom. Reassure her, verbally that you want, need and love her. Talking about how wonderful she in infront of her friends is also a great way to prove how much you care for her. Remember that romance and love is more than just healthy sex.
267360
first of all you may be good to some people and not to others. everyone likes different things so dont let that be a huge factor. i would hope that you wouldnt base your relationship with someone on just sex. a relationship is about connecting with someone physically, but more importantly mentally and emotionally. you are still single because you have found someone you can connect with outside of the bedroom.
131766
Chances aren't good.  Sex never creates love.  If a person learns to love someone, they do it themselves.  Sex never truly helps or harms.\n\nDon't put all your eggs in one basket.
619220
Yes for me sex has nothing to do with emotional Love. Unless your in love. One can have sex just for the per joy of it. I think that is were most women get hung up. They do not understand the difference between having sex and making love.
270778
Because today's society has made it seem like you can't have a relationship without sex. I think we've all strayed away from the days where the courting part of the relationship was the most important. People need to take time to get to know each other really well before they take the big leap to sex. Knowing each other and connecting with each other will end up making the sex better anyway.\nPlus, any time a relationship is JUST about sex, it's bound to fail.