Am in love with my workmate.what should i do?
962825
If you really love her, and plan on telling her, get a new job first.  Trust me, you don't want to still be working there if you tell her and she rejects you. Good luck.
866543
You must listen to your heart.  Are you really in love with this man or just adoring his mature ways?  Good Luck.
338563
First of all DO NOT quit your job over himIT sounds like you really like him. So keep him happy make him want to be with you. Don't let him do what ever he wants thougb, this could tell him that you think its aright to look at other girls and stuff.
700932
Dating and working. Working & playing. Sounds contradictory, right? \n\nWrong.\n\nYou can no more control your heart than you can stop breathing. \nBut ask yourself if what you are feeling is LOVE or LUST.\n\nDating a co-worker (to your EMPLOYER) means you have been slacking off on his time-clock; something that may cause problems between you and the co-worker in the future. By merely posing the question, you indicate your fear of on-the-job-involvement. You are attracted to him/her, but you are afraid to commit.\n\nThink about what that means. You are not SURE about this co-worker, are not prepared for a failed relationship among your peers, and are reluctant to completely give of yourself before you know answers.\n\nI have learned that "when in doubt, DON'T." \n\nYou have made a valid point. If things don't work out between you, more than likely, EVERYONE at the job will know about it. \n\nBesides being "awkward," you risk losing your job, your reputation and your appeal to perhaps, a more suitable partner.\n\nBUT - on the other hand...\n\nLove (true love, that is) has NO Address. This means it is entirely possible for you to meet your soulmate while dating a co-worker. \n\nTherefore, my advice is for you to: \n1. GO SLOW (don't rush into anything)\n2. GO PUBLIC (get to know him/her initally in the company of other co-workers at a restaurant, snack bar, etc.)\n3. GO AWARE (learn about his/her past relationships. You just may be another conquest or victim #___ on their playa's list)\n\nEnjoy the attention but always be aware of the RISKS. And if true love prevails, welcome it. \n\nI wish you well, my friend. Thanks for posting your question.
1048646
Don't listen to your friends.  Enjoy the secret love affair, life's too short not to...though it doesn't sound so secret if your friends know.  Since you work in different departments it's no big deal.  If you worked in the same office on the same floor then it might be a big deal.  If you really care for this woman and she cares for you then shut out the negative remarks that others make about it.  It's no ones business but your own.  You have to remember, YOU ARE BOTH ADULTS....repeat....BOTH ADULTS.  Hopefully everything will work out.  If it doesn't then you have to remember you are both adults and will handle it in a professional manner.  You're not little children (Hello.)  \n\nYour friends are jealous....YES, they are...and PETTY also.  Shame on them!  They should be happy for you.  It's really sad they had to come down on you like that.  \n\nAlso, I know of lots of couples that met through work and fell madly in love, got married and are still married to this day.  It's wonderful.  Please don't listen to your so called friends....who I wouldn't call friends at all.  Also, you should not have made it any of their business in the first place.  And shame on you for that part!\n\nOne additional note:  Since you are already having the affair this is a senseless question to ask at this stage.  You should have asked it before you started the affair.  What difference will it make now.  Therefore, you might as well enjoy it.
837116
Unless you are very, very, very attracted to each other, it is not a good idea.  What are you going to do if the relationship falls apart?  Will one of you be passing on nasty stories about the other to co-workers and bosses?  You have to consider the possible fallout from a relationship gone sour.
181355
If you haven't met this guy yet, you could just be in love with the fantasy of him. It's okay to let him know that you think about him. I would try to get a idea of what his feelings are for you first.
601413
Girl, I am in the same boat. I work days and then P/T at night. My honey works Night shift. When he comes home, I go to work. When I get home he's already gone to work. We only have small amounts of time to share, and sometimes it gets real tough.\nYou need to sit down and TALK. It's important to share your feelings with him. Tell him you love him and miss him. Make some special time, and rediscover the passion.  LOL to you.
754692
Keep your cards close to your vest for now.  Why not make some flirtatious remarks that will likely endear you to him such as "I think I may have a bit of a crush on you...." but as to heavy duty "love", wait a bit.
540129
Yes, he's your supervisor in the four corners of your workplace, but saying what you feel in the right place at the right time (like After work hours and far from his office; a coffee shop a block away will do) would give you peace of mind. Just make sure that you can still maintain your Professionalism towards him no matter what his response, if not, it's better to keep it to yourself and hope it's just a CRUSH that fades away in a day or two. Well, it's just my opinion and I'm sure it's different from the others. Good luck!
799406
If you like your job, keep it friends.  Most relationships come to an end at some point.  If you are very lucky, one of them lasts forever.  The rest end.  So this will probably end, too, and then you will be seeing the guy every day.  That cannot be comfortable.\n\nGood luck!!
56839
From my point of view, first ask yourself why you are in love of this guy, and then take a second look to your strategy to approach him. Not all that is shinny is gold. Maybe he is not the right one for you, so you must continue your life and be more careful to the person you will give your attention, love, and care.
425360
Go with your heart. I am in a very similiar situation but we are madly in love with one another. If you are questioning whether you should move, you are not yet ready to do so.\n\nYou will know when the time is right.
737130
Let me put somethings in perspective. When you work with a person for a long period of time there may be times were you get confused and think you are in love. These feelings are what i like to call sexual tension. Usually the best way to get rid of it is to just get it out of your system but he is married. So i would avoid that all. Your best bet is to go to the club or go out with other friends. The way its sitting now you may help yourself if you do take him away but your also destroying a family. Besides if seen this time and time again . A wife can be very very vengful worse than a man bar none. your best bet is go to vegas get all that tension out of your system and there is no better place than there to do it. but be safe wht ever you decide take a cruise or just get a nice long vacation somewhere and think about your desicions.
617448
Be careful about sleeping with someone you work with. If it doesn't work out, it will become very awkward for both of you. I'd say date awhile as friends first, and hold off on the sleeping together until you're both ready to make a long-term commitment.
115834
If you really want to be w/him, tell him.  You earn nothing without risk.  Time you spend wondering is time that you could be spending together.  Ask him to go do something tomorrow-ANYTHING-just spend some time with him and the rest will work out.
853478
Sounds like both of you are going through withdraw.  That's too bad b/c most of time in long distance relationships, the other person eventually leans on someonelse and you become history.  If there is a will for you two to be together then you are going to have to find a way.  If this means giving up your job for her, then do it.  Do whatever it takes b/c you already know this isn't working, do you think it will get better?