My parents are dead and I have no other family, I'm 20 and feel totally miserable and lonely. What should I do
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Open up to your closest friend and hang with him/her for a while with his/her group of friends. \n\nMeet new people in the process, and be a little more outgoing. With friends as the joy of your life, you won't feel lonely.\n\nAlso read motivational stories and tell yourself you don't have the worst of situations- people out there have it worse than you. Good things happen to people who make them happen. \n\nDon't waste your life away. \nPick yourself up, get yourself together. \n\nHave fun. (:
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There are anti depressants that you can take, please visit a doctor.\n\n Being depressed for so long can have a perminent affect on you....take care of yourself.\n\n Keep reaching out and never stop because of anyone who could appreciate life and love and relationships it would be you.\n\n You owe it to yourself ..... if you feel that everyone else has given up on you....don't you give up on you. \n\n I am not fully aware of all that your parents have done between you and your sister and other siblings, but as a father of 4 of my own kids I try as much as I can to keep up with everything they do, and I am certain there are times I am not able to appreciate everything they do 100% of the time. In some way the tough love or old school affection your parents may also be expressing to you is also meant in a good way, life makes us stronger through adversity.\n\n This may seem odd, bake your parents a cake, or make them some cookies or something they enjoy and bring it to them, show them how much you care for their affection and it will be something special to share between you and them, create a little special event perhaps each friday or sunday morning.\n\n  I hope for you all the best and hang in there ! YOU are special!
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Congratulations on your strong spirit. You should know you've crossed a great distance to being an adult, and rightly so.\n\nI lost my dad when I was 14, and it was hard. Real hard. However, in your case, you have no one of your parents left to comfort you anymore. Just knowing that is your first step into being a real human. God is testing you, and He will make it up for you, if not in this life, well, that's why we believe in Him.\n\nNo one can say anything to make you feel better. Many will try though, but look around, what about the maimed victims of war who lost their entire families? What about millions of poor individuals who know someday they're going to die a slow death, and that day isn't far away? God is testing them as well, believe me, the only thing that can help you is faith, faith in God, and in yourself.\n\nBe strong, and know you are not alone. Focus on your studies, and every time your eyes fill with tears from memories, let it be. Strong men also cry. It only makes them stronger.\n\nRegards,
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I have been left alone in the world. There is no one with me: my parents,relatives and friends.
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You need to love.  When I was feeling empty, mum and dad had died within a year of each other, grandmother died at 102, during the same time, job not as exciting as it used to be, marriage on the rocks.  I brought  a kitten into the house. And I was in love .. with a kitten.  I named him Merlin cos he brought magic into my life.  The fact of being able to love took away the grieving and the emptiness.  \nA kitten might not be your cup of tea, but you get the idea, give out love, and it bounces right back to you two fold and fills those empty spaces.  \nGo and do something really nice for someone you don't even know.  Keep smiling.  Write again if you don't feel better very soon.\nThinking of you
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This sense of loss you feel is real.Everyone grieves for diffferent periods of time.I can relate to how you feel since both my parents died almost 3 years ago. My dad was sick for some time and when he died it was almost a blessing to see him at peace.My mother dies 10 days later and it was such a shock.I tried to deal with my loss by talking about my feelings with my family.I found comfort in making a scrapbook about them. Sometimes it is the little things that will remind you of them. It may be hearing a song, seeing someone who vaguely resembles your loved ones, scents from perfume  or something so commonplace you associate it with your parents.These  memories while they give you sadness at first they later give you comfort when you realized you loved your parents and they loved you.I hope I can share a small prayer that I had read at my parent's funeral ."The Lord shall have their souls to keep, And I their fond memories when I sleep."
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I'm very sorry for your losses. Allow yourself to grieve, even if you have to be strong for everyone else. Find someone you can talk about it with, even if they only listen. Find a friend to talk to that has lost someone and can understand how you are feeling. You could also find an online chat for people dealing with a loss. I hope things get better.
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i think you need to start helping around the house a bit more, there probably holding a grudge at doing all the work for you wen your old enough to do it by yourself, that should improve things between you and your sister, make an effort with her boyfriend, maybe suggest the family do something together, e.g go for a meal, bowling, ice skating, cinema, laser quazer something fun and that you dont do every day.\nand i know this sounds weird are you on medication? only i was on medication ant it made me well depressed and fornd it hard to cheer up, it wasnt until i came off that my mood lifted and felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders, if you are then i'd suggest seeing your doctor for alternatives.\ngood luck
415902
Speak to your parents about how you feel. Parents often forget how you are feeling in times like this as they are hurting as well...
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its normal to feel sad a lot and feel extreme ups and downs when youre 13 because youre going through a lot of changes in your life and with your hormones. but if you feel like its getting out of control then you need to do something about it. if people are really your friends they wont look at you differently, they will want to be there to help you? if you really feel like you have no one to help you out they have a bunch of teen hotlines and websites where you can meet people to talk to you about your problems. you could even talk to me more if you need someone. you might also want to think about talking to your doctor or getting yourself into some therapy to see if they can help you out. its rought but try and keep your head up and see this through.
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Not everyone has someone who cares, someone to call or talk to, to share moments or holidays or special occasions with.  Many people walk alone in spirit. You ask a lot of dark questions...sounds like your heart is in turmoil.  You need to deal with what is bothering you and stop dwelling on how it makes you feel. Suicide is not an answer. You are a smart girl--think yourself out of this mental rut. The first step starts with you.
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you definately need to express your unhappiness. not to sound mean or anything but...don't expect anything to change with your parents. eventhough ur mom isn't happy either. i don't think your parents are going to up and change again just cause YOU are unhappy. that's just how I see it. maybe you can join some kind of activity or something. it really doesn take time to make friends. i've been in that situation before. my whole 9th grade year sucked because i had no real friends. but you will a buddy. it will just happen. i can't really explain it. just hang in there. \n\ngood luck.
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Ya wanna hear something goofy? When I was a teenager, I felt just like you! I would wish to god I was a Siamese twin, just so I wouldn't feel so alone. It is hard to explain, I wasn't really lonely cause I had lots of friends and people who loved me, it's more a feeling that all of them and the whole human race belonged to this,(something) what ever it was except me! I could be in a room full of people yet feel all alone. Then one day I started asking myself: WHAT DO I WANT? As I lay in my dark bed   crying myself to sleep, I would ask: WHAT DO I WANT RIGHT NOW? WHAT WOULD MAKE ME FEEL AND FILL THE VOID IN ME? Perhaps something that would make me a part of something! Well I don't really know what to tell you except I volunteered for a suicide hot line, I served underprivileged children dinners, I  worked at a mission, helping the homeless, I sat with the elderly etc. and as time passed, the awful feeling of being alone gradually went away! That was quite a few years ago and I haven't felt that way since. I don't know what happened, but what ever it was, it sure worked for me. Maybe it will work for you too! Good Luck!
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You need some encouragement little one. Tell your parents or your counselor how you are feeling. Don't handle this burden on your own.
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You need to get out and do something...anything.  You may need medications to help with the depression, but go out and volunteer somewhere.   Help somebody else.  For me, and others I know, it is the best way to forget about your problems and do something that will make you feel good about yourself.  I don't know about your friends and family, but you should get involved with them or join a church or some social group so that you get out of your own little world and stop pitying yourself.  I am sorry that you are feeling so alone and depressed, but you need to do something about it, not just wallow in it.  Blessings.
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First off... It's not uncommon to have those feelings at your age. It's what you do with those feelings that counts. I could suggest things till the world ends but the fact is you have to kind of take a step back and pay attention to all the people around you. Your parents, brothers, sisters, gradparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, teachers, friends, school bus drivers, etc. etc.... Every person you have been in contact with since you were born knows why your here on  earth and soon you will to. You are part of something awesome. Life. There isn't anything in the world more awesome then that!! You touch everyone you know some how, some way... That's what you should focus on. Toss out all the negativity. Live long and prosper!!!
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hey sweetie i don't know if it is normal for you to bethinking about this . but i can tell you that not having my mother or grand parents living it is very hard . it does not matter how old you are . you all ways need and want your mom in your life . i miss mine very much and its been 15 years since she died .but i can all so tell you that God he knows whats best for all of us . and he is there for us to . so don't you worry about your mom or grandmother passing away and leaving you . God forbid that ever happened he would take care of you . and you know your so young and life really is short . so you go give your mom and grandmother a big hug and kiss tell them how much you love them . and everyday make them feel special to you . and i have tears in my eyes as i type this to . because its so rare to find such a sweet teenager with a big heart like you have . just live  life and try to not worry and be happy OK ?