Have you ever try to lower your standards when you are trying to find a date or during dating?
961583
No, I always move up my standards at the end of every break up so I get a hotter looking jerk the next time around.
934018
If I feel like I'm seeking someone and there aren't any choices that may be good enough, then there isn't any choice to be attached. I haven't met any guys recently whom I was very attracted to. It was like I was looking for something I knew it was not gonna be there, because that's what they are and they can't be changed. So, I wouldn't want to settle for less if they didn't seem good enough for me.
888983
There is nothing wrong with having standards.  However try dating a variety of people...even those not necessarily your "type"...You never know THE ONE for you may turn out to be someone who you never expected to click with.
55928
Depends on whether the guy / girl looks only at the body for their definition of a date. If that's the case, then no. If not, then it's possible, though your "personality" thing has got me in a bind. It just takes a lot of appreciation, respect, and oh yeah, maybe a different date helps. ^_^
1142524
Funny, I'm having problems finding a match..\nOh wait, we might be looking for different things. \nGuess that's why we all have to either, wear a sign that tells everyone what we are about, or we have to sit and talk.\nOr do a bit of both.\nAnd then the hard part is being honest with that other person so that we really find out if we want what the other is offering. \nMany times people spin what they think the other person wants to hear to "win" them, then later those pesky little problems start popping up. And then the women want the men to grow up, and the men want the women to keep giving lap dances. Neither understands why the other changed or won't change from before the dating started.\nOoops did I let  secret slip out?
304344
Yes...  It's called compassion.  And it's a good thing, in moderation, of course.  A lot of people have a "who cares?" attitude and end up hurting people in their lives, whether important people or the random fellow shopper at the grocery store.\n\nThere's a thin line in the relationship of being brutal, mean, honest, compassionate, truthful, white-liar, etc..  The trick is to no when you're being TOO nice or when you're being TOO mean.\n\nPerhaps you can still be honest and sincere but not hurtful... like maybe respond with something like... "Yeah, I was thinking maybe next time, if we decide to go out again, we can do something like ----- fill in blank with ideas -----... what do you think?"  ... if he/she says a flat out "no"... hey... why bother making a 2nd date..  ya know?  And if he/she says it'd be fine with him/her... then you've got potential!
980374
Go for the nice guys.  I know sound nuts, and it just might work.()
50755
I wish i could tap you with a magic wand and make your discouragement go away.  All of us singles experiance this frustration from time to time.  Take a mini break from the dating pool, and go for a boys night out.  When you come back refreshed, consider using a dating service, that can help you select the type of lady you're looking for.
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He's certainly not a gentleman, do you really want to lower your standards? i don't think so or you wouldn't have asked this question, so you already know he's a waster. This is a sign of thngs to come. A little walk in the sun "now", you making his tea and taking it to him every day for the "rest of your life". Don't waste your time on this loser. I hate modern day blokes, they're so CRAP. Makes it hard for decent blokes like me, ones with manners and etiquette, (yes we still exist),  because decent women won't give us the time of day as they think we are being pleasant for alternative motives. My little rant over lol, seriously, stick to your own standards and meet someone who is worth it. Don't waste your time on this guy!
818156
Have you just tried asking someone out? Not every girl is looking for a long term relationship!
643741
It sometimes gets discouraging doesn't it?I completely understand what you are saying.\nFor me it has taken realizing that the right person for me is not in my town and most likely not in my state.Opening up to the possibility of the right person being in another state widened the potential matches.\nI guess that is not for everyone,but I did not want to miss out on the right person just because I was stuck on thinking they are near by.\nI wish I had the answers but I don't all I know is sometimes we do need a break to just "be" as the search can be exhausting on soo many levels.\nI know many people will tell you to stop looking and the right person will find you,but what if everyone just sits back and stops looking??LOL I am not sure how that would work then lol\nBottomline you have to do what feels right for you :)
290679
no.\ni treat ppl with dignity and respect on an individual basis.\ni avoid jerks and boneheads and am drawn to...\ncute ladies.\nhehehe
79310
Well HELLO Mister P! "Dated beneath you" maybe you are more conceited than you think, or just a lazy typer.  Assuming that you are honest to the best of your ability, any woman who gives you a chance will see the real you.
674413
Maybe after the dating, they find flaws in you that you don't see or you won't overcome, so it's easier to leave and find someone more compatible.
20994
Methinks there are many of us but wouldn't you like to limit your search to Great Guys?  ..Lol.   ;)
448535
A few times.  One time, I really tried to be the gentleman.  I wanted to find a long-term relationship and was trying to avoid any quick hookups.\n\n  I tried to drop the woman off at her doorstep, but she convinced me to go up to her apartment (so we could continue our conversation).  I tried to leave after a cup of coffee, but she convinced me to watch part of a show that we had talked about earlier.  I was going to leave and started to get up when she literally attacked me.\n\nI was a little shocked.  Here I was, actively trying to avoid a hookup on the first date and the girl jumps me!  I gave in but was definitely shocked.  We tried to date a couple of times after that... but we didn't have enough in common.
784717
No need to feel bad just make a stagedy for meeting a guy. First make a list of qualities you like and don't like. Then qualities not so important. Next make up ground rules for these guys. If they break the rules dump him. That way you don't loose your perspctive over bad qualities.You also can go to a singles site like plentyoffish.com try that its free. You can check out profiles.\nCan I get 10 points?