How to decrease sexual desire?
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If a human being wanted something.......no one can stop him\n\n!st..u should have the WILL of cooling down\n2nd ...u should concentrate on working\nTry to be busy all time........\n\nI u fear GOD , u will not comitt adultry\nU R STRONGER THAN SATAN\n\nWish u Al-Afaf\n\nMay ALLAH protect u from evil
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I guess what we really want out of a potential g/f or wife is a bit of a challenge. If you're too aggressive those signs say you're giving it away too easy to be virtuous. Light flirting with a little withdrawal let's us know you're interested but discerning. Now the easy part, not wanting what we can have is a popular misconception. Keep us wanting. Take care of yourself. Maintain some drive. Stay healthy and trim if that's the way we found you. Nothing makes us refocus our desire for you like you being desired, especially by other men. But if you let it go, we can't fool ourselves into being attracted. It just won't happen. Oh, and have self-esteem, please.
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WELL BUDDY \n1. EAT LOT OF FOODS ENRICH WITH ZINC. LIKE FISH, OYSTER, HAM, BEEF . \n2. DRINK LOT OF WATER\n3. MASSAGE UR PENIS WITH VITAMIN E OIL DAILY FOR 5-8 MINUTES .\n4. DONT THINK ALWAYS ABOUT SEX . CHANGE UR STYLE BY THINKING OTHER THINGS ...THINK ABOUT SEX OR MASTURBATION ONLY WHEN IT IS REQUIRED\n\nUR BOTH PROBLEMS RESOLVED 500% I AM SURE .\n\nBYE AND TAKE CARE
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Stop pressuring her and make her feel loved and safe.  Try some foreplay.  \n\nMost antidepressants decrease the sex drive so there isn't much more you can do.  See if she can switch to one that has low sexual side effects.
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I think it's pretty common for a woman in your situation to have a lowered sex drive, but I think it's good that you're concerned and want your groove back! Talk to your doctor, there may be something simple you can do. It could be as simple as a vitamin deficency. Most likely, you're exhausted....or maybe you've got some resentment feelings toward your partner that you haven't wanted to explore...Try to think about that and if you have some, talk them out with him. That may make all the difference! Also, sex leads to more sex...the more you do it, the more you want to do it, so have fun and go for it!
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Living Out the Top 3 Female Fantasies\nSex life feeling a bit stale? Well, there's one sexual organ most people neglect: the brain. And it's your passport back to Sexual Nirvana. Literally millions of us secretly use fantasies during masturbation, and some of us use them to achieve orgasm during sex. So why not own up to your favorites and act them out with your partner for what could be the lustiest sex you've had in years? Just follow this step-by-step guide.\nFantasy #1: He's a virgin  - and you're Mrs. Robinson\nWhy it appeals to you: It's a power game and "forbidden" sex for both parties, which is always a guaranteed libido-lifter.\nWhat you'll need: A "sexy secretary"-type outfit works for this one: a long pencil skirt, shirt unbuttoned to show off a push-up bra, stockings and high heels.\nThe action plan:\nThe trick to this one is to move very slowly at first. You're seducing him, and he's struggling  - torn between ripping off your clothes and worrying about the consequences. (What will his mom say if she finds out? Is she really seducing him or is he reading too much into it?) Say you're going to fix a drink for each of you, then lead him into the lounge room with your drinks. He sits on the couch, you sit on a chair opposite, crossing your legs and hiking your skirt high. He's not sure where to look. Make general chit-chat (the sort of stuff you'd ask your son's friend, if you have/had a teenager), then take the conversation to another  - saucier  - level. Tell him you don't think your husband finds you attractive anymore. Ask him, Does he think you're attractive? What bits? Why? Let him squirm with embarrassment as he tries to be diplomatic  - and tries to hide his erection.\nAt that point you say, You seem a little uncomfortable and move from the chair to sit beside him on the couch. Loosen the first two buttons of his shirt and rub the back of your hand against his exposed chest saying, Such soft skin. So unlike my husband's. As he squirms, undo the top few buttons of your shirt, take his hand and place it on your breast. Ask him if he likes that.\nIn between your lurid requests and actions, keep making small talk. Ask him if he's ever made love to a woman before. He'll squeak out a no. Ask him if he'd like to make love to you, and tell him it's okay  - you won't tell. Ask him to take off your top and your bra. Tell him to touch your breasts and instruct him on how you like to be touched. Moan and sigh, but remember: You're still the grown-up  - so not too out of control. Ask him to stand up in front of you and unzip his pants. Admire his body, compliment it, say how hard it is, then give him exquisitely tortuous oral sex  - stopping just short of orgasm.\nUndress yourself theatrically while maintaining eye contact. Let his eyes caress your body, but don't let him touch you. Leave on your high heels and stockings. Pose provocatively and caress your curves. Ask him if he likes what he sees and if he wants to touch you. Then undress him, kissing each bit of his flesh as it becomes exposed. When you're both naked, lead him to the bed, then explain exactly how to make a woman scream in ecstasy. Each touch, kiss, fondle and thrust is his very first, remember. The fantasy ends when he completely loses control  - which should happen within about, ohhh, three minutes if you've played your part properly!\n\nFantasy #2: He's your sex slave\nWhy it appeals to you: Having someone at your sexual beck and call has obvious benefits. You don't have to worry about the "no, you first honey" niceties of sex; it's all about your pleasure, and your pleasure alone.\nWhy he'll love it too: Something happens to women during this scenario; they start suggesting things they wouldn't dare during "normal" lovemaking. Who wouldn't love a wild woman in his bed?\nWhat you'll need
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You can try keagal excercises. That is the muscle that you use to stop peeing. Also, if you smoke, drink and are older, you must stop. Smoking and drinking can contribute to sexual dysfunction. You should see a Dr. if you havn't already. There are also herbal supplements you can take that may help.
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This is a good question.  My husband would love to know the same thing.  Currently my sex drive is low because of menapause.  I'm going through it very early.  Usually a bottle of wine and somd actual romance will help.  You do know what I mean when I say romance.  Dinner without the kids, rose pettels on the bed,going out on a date with eachother, slow dancing in the livingroom.  These little things open opportunity for flirting.  Thus increasing the want for sex.  b4 menopause I worked sooo much.  My joib made us do a mandatory 15 hrs overtime per week and it took me 2 hours each way to get there.  Then once home still had to check homework cook dinner make sure the house was in order.  I was constantly going and you have the nerve to want what?  Switch roles for a day. see how you feel..  or. start helping around the house if that is the ccase.  but remember  flirting.
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Try Keigal exercises.  Resources which might be helpful can also be found when researching impotence and stamina with regard to sex.
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take it slow\ncommunicate about what feels good and what doesn't\nuse condoms
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Dear Chocolate,\nAll joking aside...it seems to me you are very hungry for affection...which is translating into sexual desire due to societal influences.  Its true your hormones are part of the issue, but deep down its about finding sincere tenderness to satisfy your unmet need for affection.  A loving touch is what you need, not sexual contact.  Try showing sincere affection/tenderness to those close to you...then they might return the same...and you may find some peace.\n\nAll the best to you!
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Here are a few ideas to ponder:\n\n1. God gave you sexual desires to help in your future marriage and ultimately to glorify Him. The desires aren't bad, but pointed in the wrong direction, as thoughts often are, they become sinful.\n\n2. Treat these desires like the habit of over-eating. The right kind of food is good in moderation, but when you binge or constantly crave food, it becomes your drug or even your god respectively.\n\n3. Think of the particular females who are currently the object of your lust as people who need your unselfish, godly love. Ask yourself what their greatest needs are, and minister to them. I wish I had done the same when I was in your stage in life (not long ago).\n\n4. Since the problem is bigger than you are, don't keep it a total secret. Confide in God and in a friend or two you can trust, who will hold you accountable.\n\n5. Don't just stop thinking about girls and sexual stuff. Replace these thoughts with godly thoughts. Carry around a stack of memory verses, for example.\n\n6. You're already so far ahead of most Christian men your age because even to strangers in this forum, you can express the problem honestly. Way to go, brother!
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Just concentrate really hard on not being ticklish. Always works for me. Good luck!
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See your ob/gyn.  You could have low testosterone levels or some other problem that is effecting your desire.
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Exercise, eat better (less fat and processed foods), and see your doctor to have your testosterone levels checked if that doesn't seem to be helping.  \n\nAlso, don't let yourself get too stresed out about it, stress can just knock your sex drive down to nothing, and you can get stuck in a vicious circle where worrying about your low sex drive keeps it low.  If that is the case, try meditation or talk to a therapist.  \n\nSome people have a low libido because of internalized issues or stereotypes they have about sex.  If you think that is you, talk to a therapist about it.  Our culture feeds people some weird and inaccurate information about sex and what is "normal" and that sometimes causes people to freak if they don't live up to that unattainable norm.
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Try a de-sensitizing cream available at any pharmacy.  Or, you could masturbate prior to intercourse.
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First, if you can not let it bother you, and channel the energy, and spend the money you would spend on a therapist in gong to bars, meeting people, and getting some, that would be more healthy and fun, if you take precautions. Sometimes therapists work more to get people comfortable than to suggest solutions (I did my first in psychology and second in sociology, studied some of human sexuality and am currently working on Master's in Psychology, human research emphasis, learning and lifelong development my main reading areas). \nPlaying off others:\ntherapists are trained to tease you to solve your own problems, they wont,as such, give you the cure, but will prompt and guide youto find and carrythrough your own solutions (Mr Ben). and the odd one about jam, your @rse, and members of the gay community...I do not think I would care much for that one. My @rse is sweet enough already. I drink tea, all I have to do is tough my index finger to the pot, and I have sweetened the lot!\nI have a high sex drive as well. You may be able to release this energy by everything from shagging any time you can, and wa@nking at any odd moments. \nI know a married man, when he was single he would w@nk three or four times, then hit the bars. His logic: He would last longer with a bird.