I simply CAN NOT get over an ex -boyfriend of THREE YEARS ago!!?
965904
Its never easy once you have your walls up so high no one finds them worth climbing to get in anymore. Fear is only one part of it for myself there are many reasons for locking yourself away from others. Give yourself time and learn as much as you can about yourself while spending this time alone. The better you know yourself the less likely you are to be mistreated again if and when the times comes that you are ready to.\n-NmD!
938797
Convince yourself that you deserve better and I'm sure you do.  Look at it as his loss, not yours and move on.  You can love someone dearly and still be smart enough to know that you can't actually be with them because it's simply not good for you.  I have an ex from 15 years ago that I'll always adore, but we can't be in the same room without trying to claw each other's eyeballs out.  We've broke up 12 years ago and we have remained friends..on the phone. lol
658202
The best way to get over it, is to move on. Get a new love in your life, and devote 110% of your time and attention to him. You'll be amazed at how soon you'll be "over him'. Good Luck.....
955717
Your relationship with your ex is not completely over, you don't have closure OR you were so content in the  relationship you cannot adjust to the change fast enough.\n\nYou have to analyze your feeling honestly and openly and you will get the answer.
990229
You will never totally get over him, but you can move on and find somebody who deserves you and will treat you right. He will forever occupy a small place in your heart. If you accept that and just let it be there, you will eventually start to hate him less and then just remember the good times that you have shared in the past. You need to take care of yourself first. Its hard, but time will heal this wound. good luck to you.
1170601
It is totally normal to be feeling like this. They say when you break up with someone that you love it congers up the same emotions as it does when someone dies. You are in mourning for your lost relationship but don't confuse this with love. It takes time for your mind and your heart to come to terms with these situations but it will pass. Talk to you friends about everything you are feeling, even the stupid things, you may feel silly at the time but once you have got all you feelings out you will feel a load has been lifted of your mind. Every time the thought of your ex comes into your mind, change it and put your boyfriend in his place. Don't keep thinking back on things you and your ex used to do, go out and try new things with your boyfriend, these new memories will move the other memories out of your mind and you will feel yourself letting go of the past and moving on to happier times. Trust me, this has happened to me before, i nearly let my new relationship break down because of it but i got past it and am happier than i have ever been. Don't be afraid to let go, you will always have the time with your ex to look back on in the future but don't let it destroy you chance of happiness.
324938
Girl I hear ya! I am in the same boat, my ex did me very wrong, but yet I still find myself drawn to him like he is some kinda evil magnet. But you know what I do to keep myself from not getting too attached again..remember how bad he made me hurt amnd then I listen to one of the many song I listened to when we broke up and then I realize he's not good enough for me, either is ur ex!
1109882
well I know how u feel, coz I just got out of 3 years relationship, 6 months ago. He's still in my head, and I think about him sometimes. I tried to date but it doesn't work out, coz I'm not over my ex completely. Here's some suggestion, forget about your ex and move on. But if you can't then don't rush hooking up with some other guy coz it's not fair for ur new guy. Good luck sweetie!
608931
U have got to give urself time to get over him....u will soon..time is a great healer.
176918
Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
1086884
It's not that you have fallen in love with the same person again but YOU HAVE NEVER GET OVER HIM! You say that when you see him you feel that you love him more but what's really going on is that \nU MISSED HIM A LOT! \nhttp://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveSCat/163\nIn this site you will find some tips on how to make your ex boyfriend come back to you! I can understand that you love him so much and you really want to be together again!!!
61715
just think of the future,not the past.the past really doesnt matter if there is/was pain.always look ahead and never look back.to get over an ex just try not to think and talk about him.think about who can be your next stop.
1052872
You may have these feeling, because you are jealous . You broke up with him for a reason, and now he has another man. Hold your head up , and just go out with friends, and have FUN. do things to forget him. Don't "look" for another guy, rather, let them find you. that always seems to help me when i can't get over a guy.
528983
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!
646450
I'm sorry that your going through this I know how you feel believe me I have been through this myself. I saw once on Oprah's show that you must let him go in order for something better to come into your life. How you can you let something better come into your life? when your still thinking about the ex boyfriend! May God Bless You and bring someone new into your life!
376422
the fact you are trying to hide it is what shows so obviously...no one can hide true feelings... get a rebound, thats the only way to get over someone. your ex sounds like a jerk!
568152
First of all you need to tell your ex to get over himself! Hes the one that messed up therefore he shouldnt be trying to get back at you! And even if lets say you were the one to cheat first then oh well lifes tough and he needs to move on! You and the "new" guy shouldnt even pay attention to your ex. I mean he is your EX hence the word EX as in he doesnt matter anymore! You guys should just ignore him and be happy!!