Why do married men get into porn? Is that supposed to be "normal"?
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its a man thing my wife watches it with me sometimes i do not watch a lot the kids are all around i know you might think this bull but i can still learn new things on it to please my wife for me that is all i like to watch porn it is not a thing to get me turned on i take one look at her and she gets me tuned on mybe that is why men watch it
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Be very worried. My ex husband watches porn. He did the whole time we were married. He ended up cheating on me pretty much the whole 20 years we were together. I believe that him watching so much porn had a lot to do with it. I am sure that his attitudes about sex, it being his right to cheat on 'his woman', etc also havd a lot to do with it as well.\n\nI would personally be very concerned/worried if your partner is watching porn 3 or 4 times a day. They are, eventually, not going to be satisfied with just watching it on tv. They are going to go outside of the relationship to get what they are seeing. \n\nI would suggest counseling for your partner. Also tell your partner how much it bothers you, worries you, etc. Watching porn is dangerous for a relationship UNLESS both parties are watching it together to learn tips or to get aroused, but only once in awhile, NOT all the time.
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I watch porn all the time. I think it is great for anyones sexuality. and both with my husband and alone.
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Honestly I dont think there is anything wrong with it somethimes a guy just needs to relieve himself but doesnt want to push himself on his spouse. In some cases it spices things up. It doesnt necessarly mean that he is not satisfied. LOL if he isnt be gratefull he has settled with porn instead of other women. I will admit that i prefer to go at i tmore then once a week myself  Me and my gf go every other day or every two days but for some once a week is enough   good luck
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The men I know enjoy it because they don't have to keep it a secret. You two can learn and enjoy it together.(And they don't have to jack off cause they got you.)\n\nBut on the other hand some men dislike it because porn is there get away from you they can have it exact how they like it without your feeling being hurt.
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Yes, I think so to a certain degree.  Men tend to prefer hardcore pornography, so they want to see other men's penises in an erect state\n... one has to ask why?  Also, most men like looking at bigger penises in pornography and they like watching oral sex... and most mens' mouths salivate during up-close oral sex on the screen.  Again, why?  Most porn made for men show a POV as if from a woman and rarely from the man's POV.  Also, much of today's porn shows women rimming or fingering their man.  Some of the most popular genres of porn these days are with SheMales, Strap-On and Bisexual MMF Threesomes.  Who primarily buys or rents these?  Supposedly heterosexual MEN, not gay men... and many of them married.  Men are visual creatures, so I think that when we see other men's penises, it arouses us and we ask ourselves why... some moreso than others.\n\nIt is only society and the whole 'unmanly' aspect of male same-sex contact that shuns our curiosity away a lot of the time, however, if a beautiful woman asked her male partner to try being with another guy for her enjoyment (as he would another woman with her), many if not most men will act on her fantasy, because she has now ok'd or endorsed his curiosity.  Many guys say they could only be with another guy with another female present... and they would do it just to please her, but honestly they are using her to allow thoughts they might never act upon for fear of being labeled as gay and the shame that would go along with that.  Also, in a recent sex survey tv special, over 2/3 of straight men say they have seriously considered their female partner using a Strap-On on them.  Tyra Banks had an entire show devoted to an enclave of women who prefer dating or mating with gay/bi men in real-life relationships as well as viewing bi or gay porn... and contrary to what you might think, they were not all dogs, either - some were total hotties.\n\nOprah had a show about men on the "down-low" that said 40% of married men have same-sex contact to whatever degree DURING their marriage and most experts put the number higher than 60% - a mouth is mouth, I guess.  The Down-Low phenomenon has become so big that there is now a new term for men who do not necessarily identify as gay/bi/straight, but 'men who have sex with other men' or initailized as 'MSM' for short.  The more society begins to accept gays, the more bi-curiosity will emerge publicly or at least to their female partner.  Lots of women are turned on watching two men as men are with two women... it was girls I dated who got me all turned on to actively being with another guy, FYI - before that, all my experience was only receiving oral, not giving.  There are large groups of females who are into male-male erotica, "slash" as it is sometimes known and the latest teen craze is guys kissing other guys - something I have not really done.\n\nGo on CraigsList.com and look in their casual encounters personals at all the straight, bi or curious men on there... men seeking couples, strap-ons, shemales, dominance, or one-one-one encounters for giving oral or those who are 'bottom' men seeking to lose their 'virginity' with another guy.  On MySpace, there are a high percentage of male profiles that do not state their orientation as straight, so they are hiding something, otherwise any real completely straight guy would undoubtedly make sure they checked that box.  In the singles scene today, women are frustrated that so many men express their curious side to them... each year bisexuality becomes more vast.  Kinsey believed most all humans were  bisexual or had the capacity... in his 'controversial' research using the famous Kinsey Scale, very few fell in the 0 or 6 categories... most fell in the 1-5 areas.\n\nIn summary, I believe most men DO indeed have a bi-curious side to them, but are afraid to let that surface for fear of public immasculation from th
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You can approach this with the knowledge that he is probably not cheating as porn fills that need to go outside the home. Guys are hardwired to have multiple partners and often porn fills that need. \nThe other over riding truth is men have the ability to view women in porn very differently than they view their wives. You , as wife, are the bastion of decency and honor not some cheap hussy who would appear on video. Therefore the women in film are in no way a comparison to you. Nor do we want them to be.  They are tawdry lust, you are our wives. Whether this makes you feel any better may be debatable. \nI think that, in a quiet moment , you explain what you discovered.\nTell him it disturbed you more than you thought it would, just as you did here.  Talk about your feelings instead of what he did which take the accusations out of the loop.\nIf you have not perceived some lack of affection or loss of sexual contact you can rest that it is not about you. The women there are detached objects which do things we would not request from our wives. They don't say no. They always make noise. They don't require affection. Consideration for them is not an issue. Unless he is hung like the proverbial horse the guys are not like him either.\nAsk him if there is something they do that he is missing with you.\nApart from frequency I'll bet he does not name much.\n\nGood Luck\n\nWomen view sex as a statement of intimacy. Men view sex with their wives like that sometimes. There are times when it is about release, plain and simple. It is release without dealing with any requirement to consider the feelings of anyone except themselves. There is a component which says just do it and requires no effort. I'll wager ther are few wives who would deal with the amount of sexual encounters required to totally deal with that because what goes with that is Wham Bam Thank You Mamm.  So unless its affecting your time together it is not about you. \nBTW the addiction thing is wrong too.
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Some men may feel their love life with their spouse is inadequate and therefore masturbate to porn to achieve sexual satisfaction. Or perhaps, they just want to get ideas to spice up their sex life.\nI think porn is good so long as it doesn't take control of the relationship like "Want to have sex?" "No, I would rather look at porn".
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What transpires in the mind, also transpires in the heart. If a married guy glances at another gal because she's attractive, there's nothing wrong with that. But if he ogles her and undress her with his eyes, then it's an issue.\n\nThere's a book titled: 'Pornography; an Affair of the Mind'. The author's husband got addicted to online porn.  The mind responds to certain stimuli; some good some bad. The key is to reinforce the good stimuli and avoid the bad.  Check out the book and read it with him.
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no.... it's just fantasy and not reality... that's all porn is, is he with you or them??? who does he lay down by every night and have sex with??? If you answered you to both questions- then stop thinking the porn is anything other then fantasy and yes all guys do it and yes it's normal... Instead of worry, join in it and tap into some of them fantasies he has....
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For starters there is absolutly nothing wrong with you. I was where you were years ago. The last straw was when I actually caught him fast forwarding during our time. I never told him to stop watching them but if we were in bed & he wanted to watch one I would tell him to turn it down or go to the other room. As for the BJ part HAH If he wouldn't give me the special perks I wanted HE didn't get his. Eventually any man will get sick of his own hand. My husband has always had a huge sexual appetite though. I found out later that he didn't have a porn addiction, he's into voyeurism. He liked the sneak peaks also the thrill of being caught. Try to talk to him again with a genuine interest of finding out what exactly turns him on about the movies without getting defensive. You might find that it's really something quite simple and possibly even fun for you to do together. You may have to stray from your comfort zone a little but don't let it compromise your morals or it will just make you resent him and you. A few years ago he stopped watching them as much because it was the same thing in each one. Of course them we got internet which opened up a whole new field. Our computer stays in the living room so anything he does now has to be when nobody it home so that helps. We been together for 12 years now. It's been rough but we have made it this far. If you do all you can and he STILL won't give you the proper attention that you need then there's nothing left for you there.
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Yea, really there's no point... best case scenario (for him) his wife knows about the porn and doesn't care... so nothing accomplished...\n\nWorst case scenario... his wife is uptight and they have a big fight and she leaves him to go be another single mom raising kids... and you'd have to live with the fact that the kids had to grow up without a dad because you had to interfere with someone else's life...\n\nHe's not hurting anyone with the porn... if you really don't like the guy... find some way to embarrass him at work with it, but let him keep his home life out of it...
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Oh my God, yes!  It is totally normal.  A guy who hasn't looked at porn in his life and not gotten turned on is a genetic freak.  \n\nMy guy is only home on weekends and I look at porn all the time and discuss it with him.  It's better to have him look at porn then to have him seek out the real thing, don't you think?
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Whatever is "normal" for you, is normal.  Some straight people like gay porn and some gay people like straight porn.  What's wrong with that?  Whatever makes you happy, dude.
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I've caught my husband doing it frequently also. We had a talk about it though and he told me sometimes he just doesnt feel like sex because he needs release and just wants to get it over with. I actually woke up one night and he was releasing himself while watching a porno on mute. I freaked out about it. I love pleasing him and it offends me too. Although I can kind of relate to why he does it without me sometimes because I do it without him sometimes too. I just dont want to have sex sometimes. it seems though that he doesnt want to have sex with you at all...and if that is what your saying, let him catch you a few times...if it doesnt make him jump your bones right then...I guess the only thing to do is look into couples therapy. Some guys are actually addicted to masterbating.
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I'd get pissed at my guy definitely for watching porn. Luckily my guy doesn't watch it. But I totally agree with you. Of course some men are like why is it a big deal. They just have a hard time seeing it from our point of view because they just thinks its the manly thing to do. MEN!
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yes to the 1st, and the 2nd depends on how his watching porn alone might make his wife feel. if it makes her feel ugly, insecure and/or inexperienced/gauche in bed, then perhaps not. he should at least ask her if she wants to watch. ,,either/both  activity