Why cant we let go...?
957080
Well buddy, i was in a situation like that.....college was the best thing that ever happened to me on that, cause i moved away from her and never saw her again.  If she was just your friend and dated a bunch of dudes and knew you liked her...she is NO GOOD...as far as love is concerned.....so you shoul'dve booted that b*tch to the curb long time ago, or made it strickly friendly.  But stickin to the plan and hoping is bad...those are false hopes, you can't make anyone love you, and you can't be so friendly that they'll somehow say "hey, he's a sweet guy..let me give him a chance"  that's straight up B*LLSH*T my friend, they will never do that, they will always see you as a friend and nothing more.  Chase after women who will give you a genuine chance the FIRST time..not after they date someone else....because if they really liked you or wanted you..they would've given you a chance a LOOOOONG time ago.  Women a lot of times just don't know what the hell they want, and they don't find out until much later, but by then it's too late because they've either slutted the hell out of themselves, or just been through so much drama that they become high maintenance....you don't want to get involved with that....because if they can't appreciate you for you at that time what the HELL makes them think they can appreciate you now?  You ain't too good to be her friend, she wasn't a friend in the first place if she knew you wanted her and she blew it off and never confronted you about her feelings.  It's called, can't deal with lovesickness, and that's what she caused with every moment you were with her anyway....so don't feel bad, just move the hell on...find someone who will appreciate you....not someone who'll just lead you on for their own selfish support.
595676
Despite my best efforts.\n\nIt's a weird thing about efforts to control, in trying to control everything, we end up out of control.\n\nThe ultimate state of control is being able to give up control, if you will.
698644
let it go...y u need drama in ur life?
844002
I tend to forgive - even the worst things that have ever been done to me because people don't realize that moving on takes forgiveness. Even when it seems impossible to forgive those who may have done horrible things to us in our lives, we should forgive them - not so much for them as for our own sanity and well-being. It takes courage but it is possible to forgive even the worst things that have happened. It helps me get some kind of closure and peace inside which holding onto things never provides. Holding on and never letting go makes everything stay ao alive - so real and so unforgettable.\n\nOf course, there are those things that I cannot forget - unfortunately... words said, things that have happened. The human mind just does not seem to forget these things no matter how hard you with it would - we remember... I remember. And that is why the forgiveness is so essential - because we remember and everytime we do, it is not healthy for feelings of hate, anger, or sadness to overwhelm us. It is living in the past and that is not good for anyone.\n\nI was never the one to hold onto things, never apologize, stay in an arguement, etc - it is just not in me. I do not cope well with any conflicts so I am the one who apologizes even when I am not the one who should.. I just can't stand tension - escpecially with those that you know you love and who love you.. I see it as so pointless and such a waste of time - I always did. And I think I forgive people too easily sometimes perhaps.. just so we can move on and so no one stays hurt any longer. I am just that kind of person. \n\nSo, I don't forget - because I can't. But - I do forgive, sometimes just for my sake - to ease my own pain and to try to let go and move on.\n\n:o)
1082387
Honey, you already admitted that the relationship was hard to handle. It's time to let it go. Perhaps you're annoyed that it wasn't you who ended it; or more probably that you were so easily replaced. Let it go. It's time for it to end and both of you need to get on with your lives.
932284
at least your in touch w/your feeling. be true your feeling maybe it time for a slight break just honest with your inner self!! it is okay to grow apart>
1050230
Just let it go and move on...
180971
You have to ask yourself this one important question...\n"How long am I willing to let this person hurt me?"\nThis is the main question my therapist asked me when I was hurting...\nI moved on from my pain and found a new truer more wonderful love than before...\nWhen one door closes, another one opens, you might be leaving a good thing for something much better in your life...\nGood luck.....
490404
what do you mean he wont let you leave\n\nthats an exuse because it's hard\n\neither do it or dont do it\n\nget some strength and self control\n\nit will be worth it!!!
282934
I wonder how many people have been in your position and let it go, always wondering if it was the right thing to do? I say GO FOR IT!! What the hell do you have to lose? If it doesn't work or he's spoken for, then let it go - but at least you tried. If you find him and he feels the same way you do... wellll....
27095
As the saying goes " There's no easy way to break somebody's heart" There will always be heartaches and disagreements especially if one doesn't want to let go. What worked for me is remaining good friends with my EX. :-)
764814
Letting someone you love go, is crap! Believe me, I let my first love get away from me, and I regret it everyday of my life. If you love someone, do everything you can to keep them! Don't EVER let them go, and make sure they know that you love them so much you'll do whatever you have to, to keep them. Let them know how much they mean to you.When you lose someone you love, you lose a piece of yourself.........and It is hard to impossible to get it back. That, I believe, is why we get so angry, frustrated, and bitter. That's why we hurt from, for a long time to forever, we're never able to become complete again. If that person is not worth you fighting as hard as you can to keep them, you didn't love them all that much to begin with.
1736
I too am in love and struggle with this same question. I can offer my solution. Use both. Enjoy the endorphine rush of the feeling of love ( which is the heart so to speak.) But realize why you ask the question. There is obviously a reason for your aprehension of completely letting go. Use your brain and decide to what degree you should allow your heart to pilot your emotions then deal with this person as so you conclude. Do not sell yourself short. Could the problem be one that you should resolve within yourself or is there an actual problem?
947050
time and prayer. Sometimes there are things inside us that no one knows how to touch like God can\n\nIt's a good thing you realize this, that you can't just jump into the next thing so quickly when hurt like this.
670001
thats not something someone can answer for you, you need to try to do things that make you happy, and be around your friends, eventually you will be able to let them go, just know they are always with you....
565262
Don't. There's a reason you broke up. It's hard letting go, but give it time, keep yourself busy, and eventually, you will move on and forget.
908911
Because you allow it... Put your foot down. \n\nIf needed, file a restraining order.