Would the expectations made during dating lead to a healthy long term relationship? Or would you walk ladies?
958297
was not to much on expections to soon, it can ruin everything, no just tried to get to slowly know him, then walk away-wink
975070
Not too often.\n\nBetter to just try to have a GOOD TIME and not try for "perfection"\n\nToo much prep scares people in the beginning stages of dating.
78622
if I want to date somebody, I depend on personallity, but she should be a good looking person too in order to give me a good impression about her.\n\nface it, if I met a girl for the first time, I can't judge her personality, but I can judge her from what she wears or what she looks like..etc
490166
I have a history of long-term relationships but lately have had trouble finding someone interested in something long term.  Hard to find a good man sometimes.
661230
it depends on the woman. Remember this. To each his own. Good luck and much wisdom.
1105573
I'll be honest here ... \n\nYes looks are important ...\n\nIt may not be the only thing that's important when dating and getting to know somebody, but it sure does count in my book ...
104204
It all depends. Some people I meet I just want to have fun with and others I do look for something more. I have high hopes for the person that I end up with and I don't really think that I will ever settle for less. I am totally comfortable being single and would rather be single than be with the wrong person. So I guess you could say I find people who interest me and I have fun with, but I will only consider a relationship with the ones who meet my expectations. They don't have to a model or rich...they just have to have that certain something about them.
271825
I think your standard is too low if this has been your experience.  Not only do I know of many cases where the man cared much more than the woman and the man was the one that put all the energy into the relationship (which isn't fair either) but if you don't settle for that kind of relationship then you will ultimately find someone that thinks you just rock, and they will work as hard to make you happy as you do for them.
340415
Looks matter to a certain extent. I'll be honest and say I wouldn't date someone incredibly homely and 600 lbs, and most of you would agree. Personality is immensely important to me. He must be a good listener, and can't be arrogant.
80788
screw what men expect. i'm a guy, if you don't limit us, the possibilities are endless. i mean, at most a kiss? after all it is just a first date.
51793
doesn't take that much actually. if two people established enough trust, respect, love, and open communication there are chances of a thriving relationship. Although misunderstanding and arguements are inevitable, patience and a little less pride are also ingredients of a good love life. If talking about reality, money is also a factor, let's face fact.
1076245
Date is simple. Dinner somewhere so we can talk without being bothered. A nice walk, maybe on the beach, hopefully holding hands. Sit somewhere and talk some more, without getting too heavy or personal. A drive to the bottle shop for some wine and maybe a great DVD. Watch, if she chooses to stay, crash next to each other and wake up in each others arms-all messy.\n\nRelationship. One that respect and understanding is placed above all other things. She will care and love me, taking all my bad points and accepting them for what they are. I will listen to her emotional needs and understand her pains. We will work on a goal and achieve them together. Money won't be such a big issue but our ongoing connection will matter most. When she is cold, I will hold her to give heat. If I am disheartened, she will be there with words to uplift my soul. We desire the same amount of love and expect it unconditionally.
812752
Depends.  What do you have to offer in a relationship?
539730
Before I found my wife, I was looking for a decent girl, not decent as in average, but decent as in proper.  When I came to an age when I wanted to be serious in relationships, this was the single most important factor in the woman that I wanted.  Of course all of the other common traits had to be met, ie. great personality, common interests, great smile, spiritual, intelligent, wise, resourseful, and whatever else may come to mind.\n\nWhen you find a proper woman, someone who knows etiquite in different situations, all of the other things seem to come together very nicely.  Also, women generally dont learn to act properly if they were not raised as such.  I guess I'm trying to say that very few women can fake it.  This type of woman is more genuine in all other aspects, and if you can connect to someone like this, you have found someone very special.  Besides, these days, this is such an outdated trait that when you find it, you know you've found a gem.
529535
I don't do that.  I've been there done that.  I only want to be with someone who will go out of their way for me.  Someone who will treat me like a lady.  Someone I know I can depend on and trust.  "If you treat me like a queen I will treat you like a king."  Not you personally, but that's one of my sayings.  There is nothing worse then being in a relationship with no trust and they treat you bad.  I'm better then that and I will not settle for less.  When I was young I dated jerks, but now that I'm older I want a gentleman.  It comes with age.
50904
This is a tough one to answer. In my case yes looks do matter to an extent. There needs to be some physical attraction in the beginning not that its the most important just a percentage. Body type really depends on the guy. I have dated several women with all different kinds of body types. A good personality is a must, its a real downer when your partner is always in the dumps or is angry all the time. I myself enjoy a good conversation so intelligence is a must (not a rocket scientist just bright). Tallents are always a plus, its nice to have a tallented girlfriend but not a necessity. All in all what I'm looking for in a woman is one that loves me as much as I love her. Someone that will be there when I need someone to talk to or be comforted. Basicly a best friend, I think that if your partner is your best friend your practically invincible.
236573
You sound very compatible.  A good sense of humor is very important in a great relationship.