do u think my parents r being fair?
954008
This being Thanksgiving you should be thankful for the good Parents that you have. And try for tuning in to hear the instructions they give you,correctly, even if you have to write them down and check with them,that they are correct, before leaving Then follow thorough on them.Call or be there on time.As for 1. and 2.  take your consequences gracefully, they will soon pass. And the relationship will improve as they get to trust you. The dangers are many, and their not knowing where you are is a serious issue. Your Parents love you You are welcome  Have a Happy Thanksgiving
867464
Your relationship seems rock solid. Don't let anyone including your parents get in the way. Your parents care about you and want the best for you. They haven't taken your relationship seriously yet. Make your parents respect your relationship by investing more time in your relationship with your fiance and less with your parents. Show them you are perfectly fine on your own. Oh, by the way, marriage is cool too. Don't be afraid.
1140746
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
440314
Nope. It's perfectly fair. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. You have ups and downs but it all evens out in the end.\n\n"Everything happens for a reason."\n\nChin up!
98751
It depends on how your family is structured. If your mom and dad ask you if you've paid him, then that shows that your parents feel that it is right for him to ask you to pay. Are there alternative methods for you to get to school that cost less? \nYour parents should really be paying the 60 cents or subsidizing him for taking you in some way. I never charged my parents or sister and she went to a different school.
136237
If you can get the scholarships and money to do it, and you are of legal adult age, your parents have no recourse.  If you go against their will without changing their minds, though, don't be surprised if they are unwilling to help if things go wrong (though I would never be that way with my kids, some parents are).
831627
I don't necessarily think there is anything wrong with it and if you're okay with it there shouldn't be a problem. My mom goes in with me (though I am a teenage girl). I feel more comfortable with her being there so the doctor doesn't do anything that I don't want them to. Again, if you feel good about it, don't stress about it. If you don't feel comfortable with it then let her know. It sounds though like you're good so you should just live that way. Don't worry about what other people do because a lot of people aren't comfortable with their parents and it sounds like you are.
32626
I can definitely relate to you, and let me tell you, unless you are happy with the decisions they are making for you then you need to tell them immediately. You are the one that is going to live your life for the rest of your life. Not your parents. I am sure they are doing it out of love and concern for your future, but if it something you cannot stand, you are gonna end up being depressed and resentful. Good Luck!
188168
No, it's not fair.. but then it sounds like NONE of it is fair.. it sounds to me as though your family has much deeper problems than whether they should accept your engagement or not.  That is a very minor thing, I think.  There are problems there that should be faced and they have absolutely NOTHING to do wtih your fiance or your engagement.  Try to look at your relationship with your fiance objectively.. and your relatinship with your family also..  as harsh as it may sound, being disowned in some situations is not the worst that can happen.  I hope that is not the case with you.  Listen to what they have to say.. hope that they listen to what YOU have to say.. and then think it through with an adult and responsible mind.. and do what you feel is best for YOU. No one else.. you have to look out for yourself, ok?   Good luck.
718422
i think that some of it is true but when u speak about baggage i don't really think it's at all fair. being that my dad died when i was little and so my mom had baggage being me and my brother and it wasn't her fault. so the last statement is simply for immature ppl that don't have a clue what life is really about. insensitive comment.
48743
TELL YOUR PARENTS!\n\nThey are paying your bills, so they have a right to know!
610073
Well its not right to force anyone for anything but just look it like this our parents do so many thing for our hapiness which they dont want to do so we kind of force them aswell and if once in a while they ask us for something i think we shouldnt turn them down just try to be there for them much as you can it will give you inner beauty and alot of blessing in life.I think if you can keep your parents happy you will end up being happy or else your kids will do the same with you and i know you wouldnt like that.so yea go on and try to enjoy it if you can.
679289
I don't think it's fair but the application DOES say if you are sure that everything you wrote and said is true. If it's not then your in big trouble.
653913
Sounds like you're venting tonight .... If there was something you wanted specific feedback or answers with, we may be able to help you.\n\n\nBTW ... no one promised you perfect parents ... as parents don't get perfect children either.
630771
Even though this isn't what you probably want to hear, but unless your parents are completely crazy, which is possible, but they are only doing what they think is best.  You have to think about things from their point of view.  Is there anything that you could try comprising on?!  Or have you tried talking to them?!  Talking goes a long way.  I was young once and now that I'm older I see what my parents were talking about.  Just don't tell them that.  But they are probably also thinking about things from when they were your age and what you need to do is sit them down and explain to them that you aren't like them you are trying to do your thing.  Just keep your head up, things will get better
30133
Yes life is not fair, nothing ever is, everything life included is what we make of it, life does not give you what you deserve but what you negotiate so, brace yourself up and fight for what you feel is your right as long as no one else gets hurt.
923489
My parents were the same way when I dated outside my race and I didn't understand it, I was happy and they were ruining everything.  I think if you are happy with him then be with him regardless of what your parents say (I did).  They will try everything to prevent you from seeing him but in this situation they are kinda being selfish and racist at the same time.  There's nothing wrong with interracial dating (now-a-days).  Good luck with your parents accepting your happiness.