How have you been damaged by past sexual experimentation?
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i am now kinda bored of it all , been everywhere done it all, trying to figure out what real love is
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I'm 43 and i found that i lasted longer because i'm more in tune with my body. It helps to be with the right partner someone you have feelings for. I can't just have proper sex with people i don't really know anymore. What i found that effected my performance where: alcohol, smoking, guilt, worries, nervousness and depresion. I had to clear the reckage of my past and get in touch with myself. The calmer and peaseful my life is, the better my sex life is. I hope this helps you and good luck.
1085949
Have you tried sex???!!!
59322
The worst evil I ever had to deal with that was done *to* me was being molested by my older sister. And, by the way, I am also female.   This happened 30 years ago.  \n\nBack then, most families didn't talk about sexuality of any kind.  But my sister, who was 10 years older than me, loved to talk about it.  She molested me when I was bathing.  I was a child, she was an adult.  She hurt me physically and mentally.  \n\nBecause I was a child, I had very little understanding.  So, she was able to manipulate me very easily.  I trusted her.  She told me that I was missing out on something really great, and that she could *teach* me all about it.  I didn't want her to touch me, but she did anyway, even though I cried and told her that it hurt.  \n\nWhat did I do?  For many years I simply didn't allow myself to think about it.  But, I always wondered why, as an adult, I could not have a normal sexual relationship with anyone.  It appeared that I was sexually dysfuncional.  I just went on with life and still tried not to think about it.  But it bothered me to be frigid.  I thought there must be something wrong with me and that it must be my fault.  \n\nThen God revealed to me that my frigidity was not a physical problem, but a psychological one.  He showed me that what my sister did had caused me to feel ashamed and guilty.  Consequently, I could not allow myself to enjoy sex.  Subconsciously, I felt that sex was wrong.  \n\nAfter many years of prayer, God sent me a man who understood my fears.  He married me so that I could be secure in the knowledge that God would bless our sexual union.  God, through my husband, caused me to realize that sex is not bad.  Rather, it is a gift to be enjoyed by a man and his wife.  \n\nSo, what I had to do was to forgive her and learn how to trust again.  God enabled me to do that.  Because she never once said she was sorry.  In fact, I found out that, when her own daughter was 10, she did the same thing to her.  So I need you to realize that I did not forgive my sister for her benefit.  I forgave her for my benefit and because of the fact that Jesus said if we don't forgive others, we ourselves will not be forgiven.  \n\nWe have to overcome evil with good.  There is no good in me, but God is good.  So, I asked God to change my heart.  And, He did.  He surely is a faithful, compassionate, and merciful God!
932489
Yes, I have. If you decide that it is something you want to try, make sure that it is with soemone that you trust. Make sure you are protected. Make sure that you fully understand what you are getting into. Understand the consequences if something goes wrong. STD's are very real.
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As a 33yr old male, I remember being very disappointed at the age of 15, when I lost my virginity.\n\nThe peer pressure from friends, making out it was the best thing since the Sega mega drive (Hey I was 15 at the time), the newspaper problem pages, TV and Film industries, all lead me to believe that it was going to an absolutely mind blowing experience.\n\nAnd when it was done, using protection, with my steady girlfriend (also a virgin) I was like, what? That's it? \n\nIt was the build up I found to more exciting, the thrill of the hunt, teasing, trying my best to reach the prize.\n\nSince then I have had many more experiences and found that with experience it does get better, a lot better when in a loving relationship with an experienced partner with similar likes and dislikes in the bedroom. \n\nBut sex is still not the be all and end all of a relationship, the ability to communicate and be best friends is far more valuable then being joined at the hip.\n\nHope this helps.\n\nPlease remember to use adequate protection whilst experimenting, and not loose your virginity to some idiotic loser who is going to run bragging to all his mates. Make him respect you first by holding out until you feel the time is right, don't be forced.
796655
No, but i have had some relationship issues latley and i must say your question has shocked some sense into me.
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I have had sex with a woman
729919
A few years ago, but never really acted on it. I have kissed other girls, but nothing else. I wish I would have acted on those feelings when I was younger and had the chance. I think a few of my girl-friends would have been into if we would have known what it was at the time. Oh the memories of youth I could have had! What about you? How far have you gone?
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I once dated a girl who's father used to do terrible things with her in her bedroom at night. \n\nHer mother didn't believe her, and dismissed her accusations as schoolgirl fantasy.\n\nThis had a profound effect on her, both physically and psychologically. \n\nHer boyfriend before me visited hookers and escort girls even going as far as to take money from her to pay them.\n \nI was made aware of this from the very beginning of the relationship and stayed patient, never pressing sexually, and always remaining faithful. Helping to build up her self esteem and confidence.\n\nEventually, after seven months, and a real relaxing romantic evening, we made love and it was fantastic. \n\nFrom there on in she was insatiable.\n\nI guess what you need is a supportive, patient BF willing to take things slowly. \n\nMaybe seeing a councillor could help, speak to your GP/MD etc.
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My girlfriend was orally raped and didn't say anything to anyone.  She then gave me an STD.  It hurts to urinate, and I have lesions on my penis.  She doesn't know what it is, and I'm still waiting on my test results.
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I was 19.  She was 17.  Yeah, I realized the age at the time.  We were friends before.  I won’t get into that here.  We got together.  We messed around a lot - mostly making out, petting and a lot of oral.  She kept expressing how much she wanted to do it.  I just didn’t know if it was the right time.  Primarily it was because we never had any contraception around. Don’t get me wrong, I wanted it badly.  I didn’t even care if it was going to be my first time.  I wasn’t nervous.  I just wanted to be safe for both of us.  She had only one other partner, a long-term boyfriend that she broke it off with.  She kept asking me to “go for it” in all our other encounters.  This time, in the heat of it, when she asked me to make love to her, I whispered, “Go for it.”  Then she stripped herself then me.  We still didn’t have ANY form of contraception.  But the time was right.  Go figure. After we both climaxed, she was so satisfied but puzzled.  We went for a while.  She kept asking me … and this was a question that she kept asking me during our entire relationship … was I really a virgin.  I said yes.  That was the truth.  She said she’s had a virgin.  Her friends have had virgins.  And none worked it like I did.  I told her I wouldn’t know. I just went with what I felt and what felt good for the both of us.  I don’t know what the big deal was but shortly thereafter; she harbored this idea that I had a mistress on the side that I “practiced” with. (Her long-term boyfriend did.) Needless to say we went several rounds that day … and night … and following morning.  But, alas, the whole relationship was just that – based on sex.  No emotional connection at all.  It ended.\n\nSo I guess my point is that your first time is a big deal, but the euphoria and importance of it will fade and just become a memory.  Don’t make it more than it is, just a right of passage for any human being, the emotional creatures we are.\n\nGood luck
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Having gone through such a traumatic event, the side effects aren't easy to handle. You may either go one way or another, to the extreme promiscuous act to having nothing be done to you sexually at all. You are probably trying to fill a void that you feel you have since your experience, and by doing these things you feel satisfied yet completely guilty that you "have done this to yourself again".\n\nIt isn't your fault, and you have nothing to feel guilty about. There are crisis and support lines that you could call in your area..that would be a great help if you need to just vent and talk. They could give you information that you may need, as well as counseling that is provided in your area. Therapy could do a world of wonders and maybe you should consider it. What is there to lose? \n\nTake care of yourself and your life, and remember you are a survivor not a victim. Make sure and put yourself first always, and if you feel something is wrong (which you clearly do) do something about it, there are plenty people who will support you out there and not judge you. So go for it! \n\nGood luck!
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Yes - unfortunately, I have.\n\nI tend to get obsessed with women I can't have and I can't figure out how to back out of the situation gracefully. Unfortunately, this means that I end up getting embarrassed, and getting my feelings hurt.
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There's no need to be embarassed.  You got during unprotected sex from a partner who didn't know they were carrying the disease.  \nMales can be asymptomatic carriers and give it to everyone with whom they have sex.  Yes, you could have experienced permanent damage already.  The recommendations of a doctor visit for a hysterosalpingogram (x-ray with dye) or hysteroscopy, should you eventually suffer infertility, are warranted.  Unless you are trying to get pregnant now, don't worry about it now.  The damage done now will still be there later.  Tubes don't "unscar" themselves.  Tell all your partners that you have been infected so they can be treated also.  And for goodness sake, don't have unprotected sex unless you both have been tested and are negative for STDs.
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REGRETTFUL\nI just did it to lose it,and i did it so i was prepared for when me and my boyfriend were going to do it(didn't want to be a virgin).Well he found out,dumped me,and i have always wanted him to this day.That was in grade 9,and i am now turning 30!!
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There are plenty of people your age and beyond who haven't had sexual intercourse. I didn't have intercourse until I was 23. It's nothing to feel bad about just because society might say it's 'different.'\n\nYes, it can be a very beautiful thing between 2 people who love one another, but only if you're ready for it. The worst thing would be to do something you're not ready for just because someone else says you should.\n\nBe true to your own needs, and you won't have to worry about it. I think the fact that I waited instead of giving in to peer pressure, enabled me to enjoy it, where if I hadn't waited, it might've turned out to be something traumatizing that I wouldn't have wanted to do again.\n\nAs far as a therapist, I wouldn't suggest it now unless it's something you can't stop thinking about. After you're not a virgin anymore, see what happens. If you've been doing it for a while and if you still feel really bad, then I'd think about talking with a therapist.\n\nSo my advice is not to worry about it. You've got plenty of time, and when you're ready for it, it'll happen the right way.\n\n________