Do you think that I'm wrong for asking her not to have him around?
959739
wow it sounds like he doesn't have a life.. and your was the only one he ever knew. .... Maybe getting or hinting around you have someone  may hurt him enough to ( move on for a better word) maybe that is the hurt he needs to move on. But it sounds like his self esteem is low enough that he may not get the message.  Does your daughter have a clue or is she enjoying the fact that this "dad" figure makes her life easier because she has MAYBE  no dad or no spouse. ...  It sounds like this guy plays a big part in her life...  Does he like her ?? Sounds gross.. but sometimes weird things happen. or is he just not able to let go ?  I would tell her ... this is hurting you .. Or better yet get on with your life .. go out .,, not be home and just live and he and your daughters relationship may not have as much bang as it used to .. if your not around as much ... there is not a lot for him and her to have to analyze and talk about.....  I say get out of the house ... even pretend to have a life.. and pretty soon .. you will .. and this will be part of the past .. not the present.  \n\n BUT you didnt specify if that was her dad .... if it is ... well that is a differnt story... and she needs her dad.. and you still need to  get on withthings...
547198
I say if he is hangin out with her like best of buddies, then something is going on.I talk to my ex but I don't hang out with him.TEll him how you feel, if he defends her then you don't need him because she will always be in the way.The only reason they should be atleast talking is if there is kids involved, otherwise there should not be any reason for them to be hanging around eachother.Good luck !!
790101
You should not blame yourself for this. The guy sounds like a jerk to me. I have not really had the best relationships with guys either, so I understand how you are feeling. My situations were not exactly like yours, but I still get how you are feeling. The only thing I can give you for advise is that if he is not "man" enough to keep a relationship with your daughter, then it will be him that loses out on a great little girl. As for dealing with her... I can only say I would try to have as little communication with HER as possible. If your daughter goes to visit him, make sure that you are talking with him to make the arrangements. If you feel that you two "are not suppose to be together" I think that you should make that crystal clear to him, there is nothing harder than letting him think that there is something between you when you in reality have no feelings for him. It will only make things more difficult for you in the long run. Another little tip is to keep someone in your life that you feel like you can always turn to for advise either a close friend or family member (this always helps me and plus you get a second opinion for free). I hope that this little bit helped :-)
741650
I wouldn't be his back up. That is what it sounds like. He keeps her incase you 2 dont work. I duno whats wrong with him. He sounds like a catch. Not. I feel bad for you. What an ass.
576514
no its not okay. she is already taken and if she is unhappy or if she wants to be with you let her come to you on her own, it is not your place to break up a marriage. how would you feel if you were married and some guy was trying to steal your wife away? its a matter of respect. think about your pride and your character.
274853
Well with your friend.  I had the same situation.  She is your friend she just needed a ride.  Don't let it bother you to bad.  She might come around she might not.  I wouldn't give the guy anything just let him stick around and charm you but dont buy him anything!!!
269444
Absolutely not.  I think you should have a discussion about what's making you feel that you aren't getting what you want.  If nothing comes of it, then let her go and have what you want.
458672
Allow her to ignore you and be jealous of you.  What harm can it do to you?  Just go about your daily routine as if she did not exist.  She just wanted to to bring her man to your flat so they could have some place to spend time together without fear of getting caught and when you ssaid no she found that you were of no use to her and that you had higher morals.  So she ignores you because she's a selfish B and you won't cater to her, and she's jelous because you're better than her.  Just use her as a daily reminder of the good person you are.
646132
as long as you dont mind, then its ok. If you prefer it another way and she refuses, then perhaps she is selfish.
2484
Personally, I would say no.  He sounds like he does not know what he wants, or worse, like he was waiting to see what would happen with her before he moved on to you.  And you should never accept being someone's second choice.
306054
Forget about her!!! I've had the same situation with this guy, until I finally said to myself, Hey! What am I doing here? He doesn't deserve me and I'm not going to wait forever! I shoudn't be running after him he should be running after me! And if he's gonna want me back, it's too late for that! And guess what? He wantd me back. And I didn't. That's what you should do. Have some dignity MAN!
859537
Everyone has their choice for serching Mr.right .you mayn't know him unless you live with him .at that moment you should support  her feelings rether offer her any kind of  choice or opinion
116747
It's not completely wrong. But consider this....who has him now? lol they may have the "good OLD times" but you've got the now and the future...when she does this just smile, tell a few story's yourself..never hurt..best of luck
611276
You are not her friend if you are trying to steal her man! There is no way that you can still be friends with her and take her man.  And you call yourself her best friend......that's wrong on so many levels.  I hope she whoop yo a*s*s
1082021
You can do better, u don't need her. I think she just doesn't want to be with u anymore, if she did then she'd have spoken to u about it and then u could have worked through it together.
912439
Sounds like she isn't too secure in her relationship..Why should you not be able to talk to your best freind?...Miss Merry Sunshine will just have to get over it ...don't you think so...Nothing wrong with him being freinds with you
557666
No. What she has done is very inappropriate and in my mind, VERY selfish. I imagine she wouldn't like to be on the receiving end of such a thing should you have done that; am I right? Bottom line is this - it is not right for her to spend an evening like that with a man who is not her husband. Period! The mere fact that she kept this from you is an indication that what she did wasn't right. Deep down, she knew this would upset you and rightfully so. But if it were so harmless, she wouldn't have kept it from you in the first place. I think to help resolve this situation you should ask her what makes it "okay" for a married woman to do such a thing? I'd also ask her what makes her think that you should be "okay" with it as well?!