How does the divorce of a person's parents effect their adult relationships?
957200
The relationship of ones parents has a lot to do with their adult relationships, whether or not the parents were divorced.  If you come from parents who fought all the time, you will unconsciously believe that fighting is the way to communicate in a relationship.  It's difficult to stand back and look at your parent's relationship and determine how to have a successful relationship.  You also need to look at the way the parent's relating to the children regarding the divorce.  It takes someone with a lot of insight to look at the whole picture and then form a loving relationship.  There are many books on successful marriages, communications and relationships.  Also, going for therapy can be very insightful and helpful that you won't repeat your parents mistakes.  Good Luck!
426855
That means that the child is basically "divorcing" their parents.  They will be deemed as adults through the law.  Example: A 16 year old who becomes emancipated is legally considered a adult.  That child is able to make there own decisions and will no longer re lie on the parents for financial support, "Emancipation ends the parents' rights to control his or her minor child or to participate in any decision-making about the child. If a child is emancipated, the parents no longer have the right to determine where the child lives or goes to school, or how the child's money is spent. The parent also has no right to the Minor's wages or earnings." (http://www.clcm.org/minors_rights.htm).\nGood Luck
1074938
The idea is that you are going to start a new family with the person that you marry and that has to be your first priority in life.  It doesn't mean that you stop honoring your parents or that you can't be close to your siblings anymore, it just means that your spouse has priority and they know that they are the most important thing to you.\n\nIt's not "dumping your parents" you continue to respect them and talk to them and care about them, but when your mother (or mother-in-law) wants make your decisions for you, it is important to remember that you and your spouse are entitled to make your own decisions about your future now.  \n\nBeleive me this will come up often in your marriage, especially in the first few years.  You need to make it clear to your parents that you still love and respect them but that you are an adult and you and your spouse are starting your own family.\n\nThis does not mean that your spouse can be a dictator - no, they need to consider your wants and your needs and even your desire to be close to your family - but if you keep the ties to your family tighter than the ties to your husband or wife you are headed straight for a divorce.
714907
Their emotions are all over the place. They hate that they are hurting you and splitting up the family, but for you, its better. Its horrible when parents are around and always fighting.  Its better when they are separted by law or houses - and they don't argue.\n\nUntil the divorce is over, their emotions will be all over the place, almost like yours. \n\nMy best suggestion for any child (young adult) is that they talk with their parents or school counselor and ask to see a professional therapist. They can help you sort through the adult stuff you might not understand.\n\nNo matter what, it affects you - but isn't about you. Both your parents love you - truly, truly love you. Don't ever think otherwise. \n\nOne thing to remember if they happen to say something negative about the other parent...at one time, they did love each other...that's how they got you ;-).\n\nAlso, if they do say something negative to you about the other parent...just ask them to neve say anything negative about your dad/mom to you. After one time of telling them this...they'll stop.\n\nHope this helps. Your parents are both good people but somehow moved down a different road. Your lucky to have both f them - even in separate houses.
913699
YOU R DEFINITLY NOT THE REASON FOR THE DIVORCE. \nSometimes married people fall out of love and then their lives become filled with trouble and it affects the children. I think if they fight a lot and cannot live together anymore it's better for them to break up. They will still love you and they will be better parents now and maybe they will become friends again.\n\nGood Luck
779426
THE ONLY ONES WHO ARE GOING TO BE AFFECTED BY THEIR DIVORCE ARE THEIR CHILDREN !!!\nI FEEL SORRY FOR THOSE 2 (TWO) KIDS FOR HAVING THOSE LAME IRRESPONSIBLE PARENTS !!! :(
13166
I am divorced two years now and get along with my ex for the the sake of my child. We both have put aside our differences and work together to assure our child is given the best environment possible. We talk about any decision that will affect our child and work it out. We are both good people, just not compatible together......we do it for the love our child. You have to!
708383
are you aware that not everyone has baby momma/daddy drama in their lives just because the parents aren't together.  are you secure with yourself?  if not then don't date someone with children. it's ok and don't worry about it, lots of people fee lthat way.  some people just don't like kids. but if you do decide to date some one with childen, then you have no choice but to deal with it.  that parent gets visitation with his/her kid/s and it's not about the mother/father or you.  they're divorced for a reasnon.  would you rather the parents didn't get along and the child to suffer for your insecurities? and what about the child that may not care for you, thinking you're trying to replace the natural parent? the relationship between child and parent is important, none of anyone business (unless it's abusive) and not about you.  lot at is as a positive, the parent is able to visit the kind at the kids home with maturity and knowledge that the kids mother has moved on.
621665
It is possible if the person she cheated with is some one the court would consider a danger to the kids.  For the most part any more cheating is looked upon as a reason for divorce but not a reason for separating parents from their kids.
1066783
Ouch.  Sorry to hear.  Age doesn't make your parent's divorce much easier.  Things will be difficult, but try to stay neutral and take it one day at a time.  Give yourself permission to be hurt, disappointed, mad, etc.
783993
Obviously things weren't as perfect as you thought they were.  Your parent's divorce is between THEM.  Not you and them.  They have things they have to straighten out and you have nothing to do with the divorce itself.  When they get to the child custody/support phase then you will be able to have your say.  You don't get to make the choices concerning  your parent's marriage though.
788537
The time to discuss these issues is when your dad comes to pick you up or drop you off to your mom's ... just as you will change boyfriends when you start to date til you find one you really like, he has divorced your mother because of differences between them and found someone he likes better.  its not about you and you should not approach this as a competition between you and your stepmother.  Usually the reason step parents don't get along with their kids is because they are both competing for the attention of the husband/father.  She has a responsibility as a parent to help you grow up safely and she also needs to be treated as a "mom" by you two kids.  That means you should not exclude her and only talk to your father, This is an extended family. You can choose to be part of it or you can choose to fight against it for the attention of your father.  This is not fair to anyone, not you, not her and not your dad.  You might even sit down with her and ask her what her expectations are of you two kids so you know where her thinking is  in this relationship
679386
No one should stay in a relationship for the kids. Certainly give your relationship a second chance i.e. councelling, therapy,mediation or simply just sitting down and talking things over etc.Children are very perceptive and know when their parents are not getting along,some things just seem a litle out of sync no matter how you try to mask it. If you and your spouse do decide to separate make every effort to reassure your children that you both still love them. Let them know they will still have 2 parents who love them and you are not separating due to anything they have done.Regardless of anything else they need to know they still have a mom and dad they can count on.Good luck
281932
For the most part, I don't condone divorce, and I also understand that there are 2 sides to every story, but if what you are saying is true, then you shouldn't have to put up with this behavior.  This is emotional abuse, and you need to keep in mind that this not only affects you, but it will have a lasting impact on your daughter if his behavior doesn't change.  \n\nThe father becomes the role model for the type of man that your daughter will look for when she gets older.  So, you need to ask yourself if this is the type of man that you want your daughter to be attracted to?  It's easy to get caught in a generational sin/issue.  Meaning, we do often tend to end up like our parents, unless you make a conscious decision to break out of this pattern.  \n\nMen (and women too), can take their significant other for granted when that person puts up with the other person's issues.  Sometimes it takes a bold step to wake the other person up and make them realize that if they don't make changes in their life, then they can lose that life as they know it.  If you should decide to make that step, then you are NOT the one who needs to move out and make the drastic life change...he should.  Don't make this easy for him by letting him keep what he's comfortable with.  He needs to be held accountable for his attitude and actions.  Only then will he be forced to make a decision about what's truly important in his life.  \n\nLastly, if he decides that he wants to stay, don't let it be a temporary change.  If he starts to fall back into his old pattern, hold him accountable.  Remember, the life you live doesn't affect only you, it will also have an impact on your daughter.
1140746
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
198551
Divorced parents can affect the self esteem of any child, cleft lip or no cleft lip. Physical defects, such as cleft lip can already create insecurities in a child, which may leave a child psychologically less able to cope with the disruption that divorce can bring\n\nFirstly why can divorce lower self esteem\n1. Many parents see divorce solely in personal terms, i.e. how the divorce has affected them, their rights to property and children. This can isolate the children from a decision that does affect the entire family. \n2.  Fear of change - the uncertainty that can surround the divorce can frighten children, especially those presumed to young to understand what is going on, routine is disrupted, everyday life can be uncertain.\n3. Fear of Being Abandoned. When parents are at odds, children have a realistic fear that if they lose one parent, they may lose the other. The concept of being alone in the world is a very frightening thing for a child. \n\nSigns that the child is not coping psychologically\n1. Trying to Bring Parents Back Together. Some children believe that the break-up of the family is somehow their fault. These children typically either “act out” in negative ways, or try to be perfect in an effort to be “so good” that the parents won’t need or want to divorce.\n2. Aggression and Defiance. Although aggression and defiance can be the normal behaviour of young children. The key is being aware of uncharacteristic aggression in your children.\n3. Depression and Withdrawal. Many children in a family under stress will withdraw or show signs of depression. These might include hermit-like behaviour, the early signs of eating disorders, discussion or threats of suicide and the like. \n\nUnfortunately children are often the more innocent victims in a situation like this. If the parents manage to work together to help give the child a calm atmosphere in which to develop the necessary psychological skills to make it through this period relatively unscathed
1156530
well it can often affect the dynamic of the family overtime. Typically the first generation (the people just on the way over) experience some kind of negative emotions toward the new culture that they are entering to. This is reflected through the popularity of ethnic enclaves and the like (its just simply more important to be around those who can help and are like you when you first arrive). The second generation (children) usually begin a bit of a change in thought toward the dominant culture due to the public school system. They want to be like their new friends and fit in with their peer groups at school. This can create a new set of tension within the family as older family practices come into conflict with the wants of the second generation. By the time the third generation hits (grandkids of the immigrants) there is already a bit of culture loss from the original culture which has been supplanted by the dominant culture. This melding of culture affects the family as the newer generation always appears continue to break away from cultural practices.\n\nThere is something to be said for the fact that the family dynamic in immigrant families is similar to families from the dominant groups. There is still the same tensions that would have occured in the original culture as children begin to grow up, rebel, and seek their own independence. However there is large external agent (the change in location) which affects these tensions even more.