i am being abused by my dad and i go to theripi how do i get my theripist to notice?
959841
You tell her. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, tell her that you have a friend and what should your friend do. When she reassures you, tell her that your friend might acutally be you. She will help you and get you to a safe place.
563328
How old is your brother?  He's doing what he was trained to do by your dad.  The whole trick to all of this is you remembering it, and not doing it to your kids when you begin your life.  Your mother tells you that you was sexually abused but you don't know it?  You need to get out, far away and just start fresh somewhere's and forget all this, you are in a messed up situation.  As for my brother yelling at me, yell back, what's he going to do that you can't do right back?  He's not your dad and he's not your boss is he?  Wish you a ton of luck and happiness in the future.
584854
Try learning how to spell, then file for divorce.  Document his abuse with photographs, or by telling someone, so that you will have evidence for when you go to court.
93864
Yes, and you should do it immediately.  Most likely he himself has been abused, so some intervention is needed now.  You also need to get your daughter in counseling - immediately.  Personally, though some may think it is drastic, I would change my daughter's school and probably drop her off too.  How would you feel if you had to see someone that did that to you everyday?
516086
You should dump him fast. HE HAS NO RIGHT TO GO THRU YOUR stuff.. Period. \n\nHe is controlling and I am scared for you. Name calling usually leads to hitting. It is degrading and he is way way way out of line.. He spit on you hon.. He is mentally abusing you and on his way to physically abusing you. He is showing all the signs. \n\nHave you ever spit on your Mom or Dad or Sibling or heck even your dog?? NO, you don`t treat people you love and respect, like that.. RUN and keep on running.. \n\nGood luck and God Bless. {:-) <><
799926
I'm so sorry your mother is treating you this way. OF COURSE this is emotional abuse. NO ONE should be treated this way. \n\nIs your dad in the picture? Grandparents? Are there any relatives you could reach out to, maybe move in with? If your parents are divorced, you should be able to choose who you want to live with. The age varies in different areas.  Usually it's around 14 or 15, in some cases even younger.\n\nIn the meantime, keep seeing your counselor. It's probably better if you see him/her alone, anyway, because your mother would just make the situation worse. At home, just stay away from her as much as possible. Shut yourself in your room if you have to. Or go over to friends' houses and stay there as long as you can. You can't change her. All you can do is try to avoid her, and try to find some way to get away from her permanently if you can.\n\nGood luck. I'm sorry you're having to endure this. Life sucks sometimes. :(
952330
Decide that that is it and seek help from an abuse center if it is physical or emotional abuse. If the "beaten" you are referring to is a parents discipline and it is not abusive, figure out where you stepped out of line and correct it.
1153493
Absolutely NO ONE deserves to be abused, no matter what the abuser says. Get out ASAP before things get much worse. Go to a shelter. Go to your parents, if you can. Go to a friends place, if you can. Go to your church, if you go to one. If there are kids involved, take them to the shelter with you because without you there, he could abuse them in your place and blame them for you leaving. There are always ways to get out, with or without money. There is NO excuse good enough to stay in a relationship where there is abuse. I know. I have been in that situation.
517710
You need to tell the judge or your mom's lawyer in private the fear you have of your dad.  It's important that you tell someone and not keep it inside of you.
145582
Talk to your parents and principals Try to tranfer out if you can .I would go to the principal and tell him your being verbally abused and what's happening in the class He has to investage .When this happened to my son I went to the princapal and then to the school board The teacher was sent to anger mangement.
578786
i was in your almost same situattion i was 17 (pregnant) he was 31. I lived in Nh i ran away to NYC. He got very possesive than that turned to abuse. Go back to your family, you dont knpw what you are putting them through. Atleast let them knoe that you are ok to let them know you are alive. I did see my mom for year & half & she wasnt mad please let them know you are ok. Do you know what its like to have the FBI contact your family saying they have a teenage girl that matches their daughters description. well thats what happened to my mom & i regret the hell i put her through. If i could only do it over. I now have a daughter & hope she never puts me through what i put my mom through.\nremember family is forever. please go back & if you need anyone to talk to email me.
423222
Unfortunately when parents don't get along it is the kid who suffers.  They often refuse to tell you the whole story, and when you combine that with the fact that you only remember certain parts of your childhood there is simply no true answer.  The best thing you can do is talk to your dad and tell him that regardless of the past this is the present and you will always try to talk to and respect him, but he also needs to respect you and not put down your mom around you.
1123607
The things that have happened to you are terrible and of course it is abuse.  You really need a trusted adult to help you.  The fact that you were able to post on here means that you are ready to get the help you need.  I'm a licensed psychiatric social worker and I came from a really crappy upbringing too.  My dad was physically abusive and my mom was pretty depressed and didn't stop him.  I managed to get past the abuse and lead a productive life but even today, I remember the abuse and have to deal with the feelings surrounding it.  You are too young and your life is too precious to be lost in the cycle of child abuse.  The sooner you get help the more likely you are to move on successfully with your life.  You don't need your parents permission to seek counseling.  School counselors are an option.  I recognize that trusting adults right now is probably difficult and I'm sure you still love your parents to some extent.  What you need to understand is that if your parents are abusing or neglecting you, they are sick too and need help.  Right now you need to realize that you are worth saving and not all adults are bad.  Your life can and WILL get better.  I don't know where you live and what resources are available there but I would be happy to help you in anyway I can.  Please feel free to email me if you need more help or someone to talk to.  My email is jazzy_59602@yahoo.com.  Please stay safe and reach out to someone.
653094
Call your Dad. Your Mom should be protecting you, not that scumbag. Even if the stepfather doesn't go to jail, maybe your Dad gan get you out of there. No matter how many problems it might cause, remember that YOU didn't cause the problems, that awful so-called "man" caused them when he did what he did. Anything that comes of it is NOT your fault. Call your Dad, please. Get yourself out of there.
741642
On your bare butt?  NO!  that's a form of sexual abuse!\nCall your local child and family services.\nSpeak to your Dad about this, this just isn't right.
356654
I'm sorry you are living in such fear, but you are letting him continue to harm you by living in that fear. He does not deserve to haunt you, instead he should have been punished. You did the right thing by telling and you should be proud of yourself for not being silent.\nPlease go your parents or another trusted adult and let them know how you feel. You need to go thru counseling and a support group to help you and how your feeling. \n\nI wish you the best of luck!
1079033
Well girl I have to commend you on your patience and understanding of his illness.  It takes a Strong person emotionally to be able to stand by him through all of this.  But now that it is all said and done and he is still treating you like crap.  That should tell you some thing.  I won't tell you to stay or leave.  You will have to decide that for your self.  As my mother told me once, life is to short for one or both to live it being miserable.  And she was a firm believer in marriage, you take the good with the bad.  But when one is hurting the other so bad that it is killing them inside it's time to make a decision.  And yes God will forgive you if you leave.  He is a forgiving and loving God.   He understands what you have been through.  Pray for guidance.  God did not put us here to be a door Matt for abuse.  You have a right to be happy.  And I can see that your night.  You need to do what is right for you.  It will take time for the wounds to heal. But as long as you are with him they will never heal.  Things will just get worse.  Good luck do what is right for you.