?!~why is it so hard to get over your first love?!~?
959846
its normal to feel dat..i once like dat..bt i get over\nit..cz no use of thinking bout it..it wont change anything..4me..the moment he let me go..i decided to let him get out of my heart too..its hurt..takes years to 4get cz he's my 1st bf..dat time i was15,nw went im 19 he came back to me asking 4 patch..bt its to late..i get over him already..bt we still be gd fren till nw..  BT..if u  choose NOT to 4gt bout him its ok..cz im still in love wif my ex..he is my 2nd ex,althought its been 2yrs..i still love him n thinks bout him alot..althought we cant be 2gether our frenship is still gd...\nalthought we doesnt talk or meet often..i know deep in his heart he still love me..evn if he didnt say..n i still love him like the way U DID..\nits ok to love although he cant see..as long as it doesnt affect ur daily living..n take care of ur health
429043
I think its because you still cherish all those memories that you shared with your first love. Im not saying that these memories are bad. Maybe you think youre still in love with ur first love only cuz ur current bf doesnt treat you like ur ex did. Sometimes i still think im still in love with my first love. I always look back at our memories and makes me wonder why? And when i see her doing things with her BF now...it just tears me apart and disconnects me from what really is going on. like the say...its better to have loved then to have ever loved at all....just cherish those memories and stay with your BF. You say you love your current BF...dont let him down.
22730
Your used to someone, used to having fun with them, used to loving them and used to just generally having them around.  When you get your heart broken, its unlikely you can remain friends with someone you've had such a deep understand with and thus its more then like that you've got to start from scratch.  Mainly, its the fear that you'll never have that again and never be happy again.  The best way to get over a break-up is to tell yourself that "she/he wasn't worth my time and that some other lucky person will be worth it in the future".
338706
not to sure about the other stuff but it takes 1 week for every month that you were together to get over him. I heard this on Dr. Phil and a couple other times i read it not sure where though... I am so sorry to hear this, it makes me so sad because i may currently be going through the same thing... :'( sorry for you and i hope it gets easier soon.   Good Luck
817026
Actually, getting over someone you really love its really difficult in any way. I personally experienced it and untill now I still find myself thinking of him all the time and I dont know why it happens. We ended everything 3 yrs ago.\n. Im optimistic still, tough after that all my other "relationships" ended crap. \nYou just have to accept it and move on and believe that there will be a brighter future. Look at it as a beautiful memory because first loves are never forgotten. They will always be special and will always be a part of you.
669842
it takes time because it always seem you can never forget but if you are in love you will look over it.good luck and remember you need time to get over the hurt!
395278
There will always be a portion of me that is still attracted to my first love.  For some wierd reason, it's the purity of the feeling and it's new encounter.  It's like remembering your first kiss or a first lay.  You will remember it.  Why?!  When you first love someone, there's no bagging to bring you down.  It's all pure and new.  These days, before I can fall in love, I'm burdened by lots of factors.
177317
It depends a lot on what happened at the end, if it was your first relationship, was it "true love," etc. Also, (this may sound sexist) but boys and girls look at breakups differently.\n\nAs a boy, I didn't really get over my "first" for a long time. The first month was the hardest, and I still thought about her for years afterwards. From her point of view, she went out of her way to try and hurt me, leaving pictures of herself with other guys in my locker, flirting with other guys at parties, even taking advantage of some poor sap to go to the same prom as me.\n\nWhat I later learned is that girls and guys look at breaking up totally differently, and what she did was her way of dealing with it.\n\nIn my opinion, time is the only way to get over it. Try to find other hobbies and friends. Try not to do the same things you did before, but find new things to do.
278513
I believe there are positive lessons to be learned from the most heartbreaking situations, I have been there, trust me.  its not easy but you have to look at it as a learning experience, and instead of focusing on the heartbreak, focus on how much stronger you are now, for having gone thru it.  tkae what you learned from the experience close that chapter of your life and allow yourself to move on.  Take things slowly in your new relationship, allow things to unfold in a way  that is comfortable for both of you and see where it leads.  over time memories of the past will fade and wounds heal allowing you to open your heart again.  Its a painful process at times but so well worth it in the end. hope this helps!
324673
Well I guess it depends on how long you were with your ex boyfriend, and if he was your first true love, sometimes it is hard to get over and ex, if it is feelings you are trying to get over, they go away with time, as far as the sex goes, you just have to stop and think there is more than one fish in the sea..
223538
you're lingering over old feelings and sometimes that's natural, especially if you felt really strongly for this person.  your best bet though is to move on and try to find some interests that will help you take your mind off of him.  wish you luck.
767512
I have been broken up with my boyfirend for 9 years and i still miss him. If this was your first love you will never get over it. You never get over your first love.
243386
Well, you can never ever ever forget your first love...unless you get konked on the head and get amnesia or some such like that. Heh. ^^; Anyway, it's normal to hold your first love higher than the next. You want the next to be just as perfect and wonderful. It is possible that he isn't the right one either, but you shouldn't ruin the relationship you have with him just because the love you feel is different. Best of luck hun! ^^
36297
yes love hurts i do not care how in love you are it just really hurts . when you are dealen wth a broken heart you first need to find out if you ever have a second chance wth that person or not and if you have no chanch you just program your self to forget that person and you just tell yourself that you are beter off wthout him. its the hardest thang to do expecialy when you are still in love wth them but you have to realize that its not going to do you any good to sit around  feelen sorry for your self you get out there and act like you have every thang in the world going for you do not let yourself get depressed over it go out there and do somthing it will help you and the other party involved
614010
my first love died when i was 14. i loved her with all my heart. i think about her every day. it has ruined all other relationships i've tried to have with people. i wish she could be with me now.
300677
It takes time.  I'm still not over my ex and that was 7 years ago.  I know that doesn't sound promising, but that isn't what life is about.  You learn to deal.  As time goes by it gets easier.  If you really love someone they will always hold a special place in your heart, even 50 years down the road.  Don't try to get over it.  Cry, listen to sad music, wear pj pants, and eat ice cream.  Everyone needs to wallow.  Eventually you will want to start living again and be happy and you will. Don't try to be friends though.  When things are that serious and one still has feelings and you try to "just be friends", the one with the feeling, you, will always get hurt in the end.  You'll realize it's not enough and you'll never heal that way.  Just remember not to shut love out because of one jerk.  Life is too long to live it alone and lonely.
1120737
My boyfriend thinks his first love is his true love..but you never end up with them.  But..you can also have a deep love for another maybe even deeper..and your first love can still be your true love.  I don't know...I think there's something special about the first person you ever loved..it's a new experience, a new feeling, and I think maybe part of it's falling in love w/the feeling.  It's like experiencing anything for the first time..then the more you do it, you get used to it and it's not as exciting you already know those feelings.