What should I expect when my husband comes home?
964226
Awww, not too many women can say they have the best hubby in the world and sound as convincing as you! Just make sure he knows that's how you feel about him, enjoy spending time with him and the new (to him still) baby, don't worry so much - it will rub off on him, let him do a few of the things you've become used to doing on your own - all men want to feel needed, and just be happy........Happy Holidays to you and your family.
1075943
Not sure why you want to know but here's mine.....hope it's what you were after.\n\nMy husband was at home when I arrived home from work and he's cooked me a nice dinner.  I wondered what was up as he rarely did this and then I found out.  He said he had to go to work as he'd made some mistakes and needed to sort them out before his bosses got in on Monday.  He asked if I'd drop him off and pick him up - I didn't mind so agreed.\n\nI dropped him off at work and went back home.  I was sat in doors feeling rather bored so thought I would go out for some fun.  I got dressed in my clubbing outfit consisting of a black micro skirt and shimmery backless cropped top.  I then drove to town and went to one of my favourite nightclubs.\n\nI'd not been there long when a really cute guy and I got chatting and we danced together on the dancefloor.\n\nAfter a while, he asked whether I wanted to go anywhere more quiet, so I drove him back to my place where we sat outside drinking coffee.\n\nWe were just chatting when he got up and started kissing my neck - that just does it for me.....I go so weak.  He carried me indoors and we made passionate love in bed.\n\nA little while later my husband phoned and asked me to pick him up.  I dropped this guy off at his place and went and picked my husband up from work.\n\nI'd had such an enjoyable evening and finished it off with a passionate time with my husband.
94150
You bet I would! Just don't expect the worst! You said "see them one last time" like you were never going to see him again. I know it's a hard thing to swallow, but what you need to do is expect the best! Keep telling yourself that he WILL be coming home safe! We're all rooting for our guys and gals over there! You're not alone, honey! Hopefully, this crap will be behind us soon.
489656
Just enjoy it. Do you know how happy he will be to know that you are carrying his child? It will give him hope and inspiration to come home soon. Another reason to live, when he feels he can't go on. I know that's the way it was with me and my husband. He told me all he thought about everyday was me and our kids, and the unborn baby that he wanted so badly to get a chance to know. Take my advice, you can handle it. Keep the home fires burning for him.
1140107
You and your husband don't seem to have any agreement on what is expected in your own home. You and he have created a new household, which is going to be blend of customs from his family and from yours. When there are clashes, they will usually be similar to what is going on with you right now. You feel that your husband's family "has no respect at all" and is lacking in manners, while they feel that you are stuck up and prissy, overly formal, cold, etc. You and your husband need to agree on the rules of this new household, and each bring his or her own side of the family into compliance with those rules.\n\nIt seems to me that you are overlooking the main problem here, which is that your husband "thinks it's ok" for his parents to so something that obviously makes you uncomfortable in YOUR own home. The point isn't whether "open house" or "knock first" is better or more correct. The point is that "knock first" is what you are used to, and that you feel you have no privacy. Your husband should support you in your preference for a "knock first" policy and insist that his parents support HIM in his efforts to make the marriage work through reasonable compromise.
870226
WHAT A BITCH!!!  DON'T GO AND HAVE YOUR HUSBAND STAY HOME WITH YOU, IT IS ONLY GOING TO CAUSE PROBLEMS,,,
248708
Okay... you've got a lot of good advice there. But let me tell you what the hardest thing to deal with when deployed and you send all your letters and good things from home. Believe it or not, open ended letters. Those are the letters that say everything is great, and I got hurt. Everyone is fine, and Johnny's arm is doing better. Everything is wonderful, the electricity will be back on tomorrow. It may sound silly, but when away from home for an extended period of time, even the smallest thing on your end seems like a crisis on the other. So please take my advice, when you write about what's going on, both good and bad (we do want to know everything when deployed) make sure that he knows, that you've explained well, that all is okay. And please don't send him anything that will melt in the heat. All the best to both of you.
414040
Honey, you are a normal military wife!!  My husband just returned from a 1 year tour in Iraq and I am still trying to catch up on sleep.  There will not be a minute that passes that you will not wonder what he is doing, what he is thinking, where he is, is he asleep, is he eating, has he had a shower?  All these things will run through your mind every day until he is home safe in your arms.\nYou need to stay as busy as possible, it really does help to pass the time.  I started going back to school and those 2 days a week taking classes and raising a teenager really helped me a lot.  Also I went to Hobby Lobby and bought a scrapbook (my husband is Army, they have all military branches) and started from boot camp, then to AIT and so on and every time he is deployed that is my project I work on his scrapbook.  He has no idea I have it, so when he retires that will be my gift to him!  \nAnd last always keep someone on close that you can call on day or night, because you never know when you will need a shoulder to cry on.  If you live on a military post you should have no trouble finding anyone who is in the same shoes you are in.  Last summer when all of our husbands where deployed there where 6 of us wives and we were always there for one another day or night.\nI hope this helps you.  And just hang in there, he will be home before you know it.\nGod bless you and your husband
537547
I have had to go out of town for a few days leaving the kids with my husband.  He thought he could do it just fine.  When I came home he just hugged me and said "how in the hell do you do it??"  I just laughed at him.  he never took my job for granted again.  Now when he gets home he cooks and lets me sit and relax because he knows I am exhausted.\n\nSo to answer your question, I say go out of town for a few days and see what he says when you get home.  This is something that they cant understand till they are in your shoes.
671743
I feel you. I think he could have try harder if he wanted to. I know the excuse "i forgot" or I was going to do it relax" and you didnt see shit done. If it is going to be like that I feel you should move out and take a break let him know you are not happy at all and you are under a lot of stress. What will he do without you. He needs to appreciate the things you do as a mother and wife. You need a man not another child you have to take care of. You must feel really lonely and yearning for a man.Take a break and try to relax, go out with friends and take a deep breathe.Try not to overthink yourself cause you will go crazy. I know you have bills to pay but figure out how to get out of this rotation with him cause after awhile it gets pretty tiring. I hope nothing but the best for you and take it one step at a time.
943884
Well, first of all congrats on finding each other again. \nYou can never do to much for him while he is over there. My husband, is over there also but he is in the Army. He has been gone for 8 months and he has to serve 18months there. Keep on what your doing. That is what keeps those guy's going. Knowing, that they have someone back at home caring for them thinking about them and waiting for them to come home. There going to fight there hardest so they can get home sooner to be with that person. So, Hun you are doing everything right. Your not over doing yourself. Keep sending lots of pictures, spray your perfume on them so he can smell you so he can think at night your right by his side. Send him little packages with cookies and little things that he can keep with him to remind him of you.  So, best of luck to you Hun and your boyfriend.
574189
He may be feeling like these are his last days of "freedom" and the ability to come and go as he pleases.  You can't make him stay home with you, he'll only wind up resenting the situation.  All you can do is tell him honestly what your needs are and that even though the baby has not arrived yet, his presence with you helps you feel secure and less anxious of the future.  A guys night out even once a week or so is not bad.  But if he's out all of the time, you need to find out why he is reluctant to spend this quality time together.  Also, can you compromise by the two of you going out together sometimes?\n\neditted to add:\nAnd dear lord, do not let people tell you that pregnant women can not be sexy or that you are used goods.  You have a precious life growing inside and any real man would recognize that for the miracle that it is.  A less confident man may not.  Also, I got pg out of wedlock.  I am now happily (usually, lol) married with 2 beautiful children and even if the future would change with my husband, I would never ever regret the experience because I have the 2 greatest joys of my heart sleeping upstairs from me.
170505
Put on his clothes and sleep in them.Wear his shirts and stuff around the house.Do his laundry even if it is clean,just like he was there.Cook for your self and set a plate for him even thow hes not there.
502948
Find someone to watch your baby for the evening.  Make sure that the house is clean and orderly.  Make him his favorite dinner and dessert.  Afterwards, you can treat him to a massage, and a selection of other bedroom activities (whatever you guys enjoy!).\n\nIf you're going to be home before he is, you can have a little more fun with the preparations.  Maybe be waiting on the bed for him when he gets home, with a trail of rose petals leading to the bedroom.  Lighted candles and a couple glasses of sparkling cider would be a nice touch.\n\nDon't forget to unplug the phone.\n\nI wish you the best of luck and the best of times with your romantic night!
727222
well -- how about i tell you what i do and maybe you'll get some ideas.... i'm a nurse that had a baby and wanted to stay home with him instead of putting him in daycare. my husband didn't want the loss of my paycheck and gave me a lot of grief about going back to work but ALSO expected me to do all the "real" parenting, house cleaning, cooking, etc. i told him if i went back to work that he would have to split everything 50/50 and he agreed. i told him the very first day he didn't do one of "his" new split duties i would quit my job on the spot.... as in if it's his turn to change a diaper and he didn't do it -- i wouldn't go back to work the next day because i'm not going to be walked on like that...if i'm a homemaker, then i'm a homemaker...if i'm a nurse, then that's what i'm going to be and he can hire a housekeeper, cook and nanny. he agreed to split the job duties.....well, a couple of days before i was going to start a new job, i started him out on the split duties....needless to say....i'm now a very happy stay-at-home mom. i keep the house, cook dinner and take care of my son. as far as your concern about him wanting you to answer your phone right away...that's controlling behavior. remind him you're an adult and tell him where he can stick it next time he gets mad. then quit your job.   :)
146154
pack your stuff and leave while he is gone. leave a note or what ever you like. file for divorce and a TRO at teh same time
825297
Hello.  I'm glad you love the Lord.   I'm sure you're Dad will be fine.\nThey're letting you visit him, which is a very good sign.  They're just keeping him for a couple days to keep an eye on him and make sure he's strong enough to go home.\nI'll say a prayer for you and your Father....\nHe'll be home before you know it.\nMaybe you could do something special for him for when he gets home.  Clean up the house real good. Change the bedding on his bed.  Bake him a cake, or a pie....\nWith a caring daughter like you how could he not be better...\nGod Bless....