So how do you NOT be a poser and how do you?
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Regarding the term 'poseur'...Here's a hint. The more sophisticated crowd avoids using the term 'poseur'.  F.y.i., I'm not slamming you for saying 'poseur', though.\n\nGreenday may not be the Ramones, but, hey, for a modern band, they have stuck around for a long time (a decade, at least?) and that's an achievement in itself. Also, they continue to make music that's way better than what most modern rock bands make. How many bands today make hugely successful songs like Basket Case - and still continue to make quality albums like American Idiot?\n\nFor advice, I'd take the words (I don't know the source, but I heard the words a long time ago) of veteran band, Depeche Mode...'We make music for ourselves and hope that others like it.' \n\nAs for critics…Screw the critics. Look at Prince. He has as many critics as he has fans - yet he stays true to his music and image. Now he is a highly accomplished multi-talented musician.
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Just be yourself. While people may at first be attracted to outside appearances, it's what's insides that counts. I know it sounds like an old cliche, but it's true. Just let your own unique personality shine, and don't be pursueded by others easily. Share your opinions, your thoughts, and all those things that make you uniquely you.
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just be yourself don't try to copy other people if they can't aceppt you than that is there problem i have lots of friends becuse i was my self
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love yourself as you are. cherish your uniqueness. no one will pay any attention to you if you dont see your true nature. dont be obssessed with people, just relax and respect yourself.
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you don't. it's natural.\n\nor, on the other hand, you could try and be sensible, and just block it out from your mind. or you can just change your attitude from i'm-mister-super-caring-all about  what-people-think-of-me to i-dont-give-crap-and-i'm-gonna act- as-though nothing's-bothering-me.\n\ngot it?  now that's how you gotta stop carin about wat otha ppl tink of ya. alrightty?
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by being yourself..dont try and be someone that your NOT! just so the other person can like you more..no dont do that..be yourself..thats the only way to keep a friendshop uhm.."evergreen"
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Dont try to be something that your not. If your cool then be cool. If your not cool then dont try to be cool. Just be yourself. If you worry about being cool, then your not cool, your a wanabe, your a fake. Be yourself, and if the person you met doesnt like it, then move on. Dont pretend to be interested in the person either, thats fucked up.
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1: Don`t think too much, specially not what the others think of you. Breathe free and calm and enjoy of being you!\n2: Don`t rush with the answers - and all above.
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be yourself. a relationship will never be good if you're pretending to be some one else. in the words of the VanZant brothers...it's better to be hated for you are than be loved for who you're not.
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Judge not, lest ye be judged.\nLet he who is without sin, cast the first stone.\nYou get the drift.\nStop being so closed-minded and start accepting people for who they are. Stop trying to brainwash everyone you meet and you might actually be happy.
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Just be who you are and not what other people think you should be. Appreciate who you are and enjoy being you.
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Be true to yourself, and be nice to other people. That's the "cool" thing to do, and other people will see that in you, and you'll be popular.
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Ignore them.  Instead, concentrate on yourself.  Emphasize your strengths and strive to improve where you have room for it.  Don't base your opinion of yourself on idiots flaunting themselves.
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I have friends like those on the show, Friends. We all gather around someone's apartment, and just hang out. We don't tell each other what to do or what to wear, but we do discuss personal issues. We give each other advice, without being judgemental.\n\nI think what you need to do is open yourself up to the idea of being vulnerable to others. Don't be afraid to ask your current friends for advice on relationships, career, family, or other parts of life.
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dont do business with people you dont know..use common sense\n\n\nif you have doubts ..and you obviously do, dont do business with them...
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This is perfectly normal,almost every-one come across such persons.The art of it is to avoid confrontation with them and just keep cool.Main thing is, are you ready to stoop that low, perhaps not, there is no grace in it.One must not loose self esteem  and decorum for such persons,if you do it will be the same thing [rude and obnoxious].Iam with you on this.\nI too, came across a certain person in my locality, who opposed the idea of serving the community,free of charge.I went in for having an association and for its registration with the government authorities and succeeded in getting the registration no.But the gentleman in question went hammers and tongs for my skin, and declared he will devise a way for getting me arrested in a fake case.I stood by my conviction and avoided him. Now after a period of almost a year he has cool-down.
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Posers. If u're as great as u sound, sorry to make u feel bad, but u'll have to work HARD at it for years. The music industry these days only takes in those pretty little b**ches that are fake and totally brainless easily. But u don't sound like that. (Which, by the way, is a great thing!!!) So don't stop trying. You may actually end up famous!!! And don't take it personally if u never get on MTV. True fans love the underdog. So work hard and show ur true self! Good luck!!!