what do you do when your baby sister that you raised  and she just had a baby and coesnt want you around ?
967423
Many new mothers go through some emotional weirdness and don't want anyone other than their spouses and themselves to handle a newborn.  Let your sister know that you're there to support her, but don't be intrusive.  Eventually she should come to you once things settle down a bit.
1001270
you need to talk to her and explain how you are feelin about having another child...maybe you 2 could come to a compromise
439568
try asking if she needs anything for the baby or send a small card or present,that might get you talking.  I split up from my husband when i was pregnant, it was hard but my little boy knows no different and is bright and happy,  it was hard to let go of the fantsy of a perfect , happy family but what's that these days.  try not to worry, she will need help when the baby comes and will likely turn to you, chin up
466997
It seems to me that she is very jealous of your family and is afraid that too much attention might be showered upon your brother and the new baby. This is very sad for everybody. I'm sure that if she wasn't like she is that your family would welcome her as a part of the group. Maybe she grew up as insecure and in a not so loving family atmosphere and this contributes to her behavior. You might try talking to her and see if she will open up. Maybe that you or your family could offer to go to their house and sit with the baby while they have a nice dinner out. This could be an icebreaker. Good luck to you and your family.
170877
if she let her family get in the way then you don't need her. Just got out with friends and have a good time do what you can to keep your mind off of her. I am going through the same thing. I just keep my slef busy.
460089
well just tell your $%$$##%%^ sister in law to go &&^%$#$@#@## and %%#$##$%^ and *((*%^##@@ ---that should do it!
436877
You sister will only leave when she is ready. When she is she is going to need her family and a support system. I wouldn't try to push you sister into leaving but make sure you are always there when she needs to talk. If she knows she has a support system the easier it would be for her to leave.
694459
Your just like a doormat to your sister. She can just walk all over you and your letting her. Well girl its time to take charge. Tell her if shes going to be in your wedding then shes going to be a guest. You can find someone who is decent enough and worthy enough to be your maid of honor. Your sister is treating you like that because you LET her. Take charge and show her whos boss. And she also needs to apologize to you for making up lies about you and using you.
1022867
just stay calm, od'tn bring up her mood shifts and do whatever she needs you to to help out.  I'll bet she goes back to normal after having the baby.
112689
well i dont think u can forget about her cuz u got a kid wit her. but just let her know u dont want a relationship with her and that ur just gonna be there for the baby and that is it watever relationship yall had is gone. but just because u dont want her no more dont miss out on your babys life. stay for the baby cause the baby does not deserve it.
727306
Wow this is one for the books.Don't they realize how they are hurting your children and there very own son.does your husband have brothers & sisters.If he does he should try getting in there good grace.The way they are treating you after loseing your baby I really don't know why you would want anything to do with them.It was their grand child. Good kuck,but I think you should move on with your own family.
686051
This is really really tuff!!! I was once in a similar situation. The mom decided to raise baby on her own however the out come was a beautiful child who is being raised by her now independent mom. You are not God nor are you blood family. What if you help her and she later tells her mom are you willing to risk the friendship you have with the mother.  What if you help her and something goes wrong? Your Friend will never forgive you. Tell mom and be there for both of them if they need help. Honesty is always the best way to deal with things. Problems are always bigger until out in the open where you can deal with them.  A MOM Myself.
478084
if it is your baby be a man help your ex out and if you think that your old friend is the one for you then tell her and see if she is ok with it.\n\nI grew up with out a father and it was a very hard life fore me please dont just leave her.\n\nand my honest oppion is forget the old friend and be with your babys mother. my sister and her husband dislike each other with a pasion. they have been maried 5 years. e-mail me and we will talk more
822630
wow well i would forget your friend she'll get over her crush.  If i were you i would try to contact the babies father.  and i know you might be scared now but a baby is a blessing and i would just spend the next nine months getting ready for the arrival.
558759
Things may be a little tough at home with a new baby. He may be feeling neglected because the baby is now getting all the attention. The attention he's getting by flirting makes him feel good about himself.   I'M NOT SAYING IT'S RIGHT OR THAT I AGREE WITH THE BEHAVIOR BY ANY MEANS.  If I were you, I would talk to him (not accuse) about the situation.  Remind him he has a wife that loves him at home and a new baby.  Tell him to try flirting with his WIFE he may get a better response than he will from strange women.   \n\nDON'T  go to your sister with this. It will only hurt her. If it's just flirting it could be harmless. just an attention getter.  \n\nAfter talking to him, I would still keep an eye out, if it goes further than flirting,  I would approach him again and have a heart to heart.  \n\nIf it's MORE....it will come out.  \n\nDon't point fingers yet, you'll get caught in the middle and possibly catch all the blame. MEANING...DON'T GO TO YOUR SISTER.   \n\nGO TO HIM !!!!!\n\nTELL HIM TO THINK ABOUT HIS WIFE AND NEW BABY AND TO GO HOME TO THEM.\n\n\nBE SURE OF YOUR FACTS BEFORE YOU APPROACH HIM.
836090
that is sick you can love who you want but come to family you realy need to becareful\ni had a cusin that had a baby from her family member and the kid did not trun out ok.
433360
oh this is so sad, and for me, because I have the opposite problem, my mother really has little to do with me.  I can feel the pain in your words.\nI think the best you can do is keep the door open, never close it to her altogether.  Let her know you are there, don't ask for anything in return however much it hurts.  Send her a little gift on her birthday, or when you hear the baby is born, and however angry or hurt you might feel, try hard to keep a lid on it, just try to find joy in other things,  I don't know if you have other children, but if not, maybe do things together, reinforce your relationships with other people, that will help you know you are worthy of love even if not from your daughter right now.\nAnd who knows?  If she is pregnant then the birth of her baby might make her realise what being a mother is, and that sometimes we get it wrong, and maybe she will soften?\n\nI hope it works out for you, please don't give up