Is a failing sex life a sure sign that a marriage is headed for the rocks?
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I'm sorry to hear that you are having this problem with your wife.......however it doesn't mean that this is the end of your relationship. Women begin experiencing many changes in their bodies in their 40's (for example, menopause doen't all happen at once, there are different phases, it may take years to fully get through it), and it could be very possible that these hormonal changes are causing her lack of sex drive.\n\nI would try to be as sensitive and supportive to your wife as possible, as she may be having a hard time dealing with this herself, and then to also feel that she's letting her husband down is also an emotional strain. Ask her questions about what and how she is feeling towards you, but not in a judgemental or  way, maybe phrase it like, "I've noticed that we haven't been intimate, I just wanted to talk about it and see if there's anything I can do because I miss our closeness." \n\nShe could also be feeling low self-esteem. Do you still let her know that she is the love of your life and you think she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen? These sincere compliments can really lift a gal's spirits. Have you thought about surprising her with a date night, just out of the blue, something that she'd love to do. Remind her of the days you first started dating, relive some of your old memories together.  \n\nTell her as gently as you can that while she sees this as no big deal, you are feeling like something that the two of you once shared is missing, and it's important for you to understand why. We are all human beings and have needs, the fact that you so badly want to share this act of love with her and her only, but she's not interested is affecting you. \n\nIn conclusion, I think that in order to fix any of your problems, you'll have to open up the lines of communication. But I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that this is a sure sign of a failing relationship. Take into consideration all of the possible factors, and discuss them with your wife. Maybe a marriage counselor would help you both to express your feelings and concerns with each other. I wish you the best of luck, and remember to always tell your wife that you love her!
628890
Currently, no...\nMy hubby is deployed, so, sex has been put on the "back burner." But when he comes home...hehehe...that's going to be a whole other story.
381973
You should see that you are physically compatible. What if you found out on your wedding night that the sex between you, for purely physical reasons was not ever going to be any good? It would mean for a potentially unhappy marriage. I say go for it!
660651
I would say so..sex is such a huge roll in a relationship taht without it could cause trouble even separation..so yeah it can improve life
498320
sex.  if your sex life falls apart you have serious problems in your relationship..  your communication is not working...among various other things... think about it.
1002436
no... men and women who fail to take their vows seriously and bail out..the first sign of trouble are to blame.. along with those who marry for the wrong reasons.  stop blaming gays for every thing  ... or bush...  we need to take some responsibility for our own lives.  i worry about people so pre-occupied with gays,
525894
Good sex life has a positive impact on the relationship yes, but it isnt a cure for a crappy communication skills or a million marital problems.
865367
sex is a very important part of a marriage. Without sex many marriages will end. Accidents or medical problems that causes the problem of not being able to preform will affect many in different ways. So I guess it will depend on how strong your love is.
976072
It doesn't sound like a marriage made in heaven.  If your intuition is telling you something is wrong, then I would have to agree with you on that.  With skimpy facts here, I'd say that there is a rocky road ahead for that couple.
332689
Yes...there definately is a future with a married man. It will be one of lies, pain, sneaking around and being on the bottom of his priority list....except for when he wants sex. The price you pay will be the loss of your self respect, confidence and the frustration of never having what you really need or want. You would be allowing him to have what he wants...to keep his family and possessions intact, and you on the side as his play toy...up on the shelf to use as he pleases. To even consider a future like that means you need to do some serious work on yourself...reach for the stars, not the bottom of the garbage dump!
828025
No, although the reasons are starting to converge.\n\nIn general...\nWomen cheat to get emotional fulfillment...\nMen cheat for sexual release...
446670
Sex is a wonderful, and integral part of a marriage. If one party is no longer interested, there IS a reason. Seek counseling and get to the bottom of it!! My (now ex) wife would not, and we had sex 4 times the last 6 months we where together.. Or I should I had sex 4 times, she had it a lot more, so I found out later.. Like I said, something is wrong.. .Depression, cheating, resentments, physical illness, something!
292576
looks like you might have married the wrong woman.  maybe the sex will get better and i supppose there is a chance youll fall in love with her.  These things arent supposed to be left to chance... Was it an arranged marriage?
516836
Most of us just go with the flow... unfortunately we are surrounded by so many influences and we make an easy target of marketing and shallow ideas.    Nowadays our expectations involve cool wardrobes and hot sport cars better than developing the skills needed to grow old with dignity, one can easily ditch our nice, smart and faithful couple for the 1st opportunity for meaningless sex!!!\nIts a matter of attitude, and having a good marriage is worth it, but takes effort..
1161337
those two signs are actually each others' marriage match... but hey, don't depend entirely on horoscopes... relationships are trial and error.
1006211
No, but it happens, love/marriage gets old, just keep in mind it might happen to everyone.
1048928
We have a pretty steady marriage but no marriage is perfect at all times because no two people are perfect that are in it. Marriage takes work devotion and care. And you must work at it to make it successful and last. Marriage can be heaven on earth if you treasure it and make it top priority in your life. I have seen Jimmy and Karen Evans series the Rock Solid marriage and i love it. It has taught me alot and my wife loved it too. In the beginning i got weak and did things on the internet i am not proud of but my wife was a very forgiving person and a praying wife and we worked through it together and now are stronger then ever. I love my wife more and more every day. Marriage is what you make of it. The more work and time and dedication you put into your marriage the better it will be but if you dont put the time and dedication into your marriage it will fall apart and it will be sad and not happy.