Why When You Meet Gay Guys, Do They Never Give Their Real Name???
958931
Its happened to before, and ive done it before. When I did it it was a time in my life when I hadnt accepted my homosexuality, and considered my self Bi but to my freinds i was straigh, Did it to protect my identity. After i came out, and guys try that shiznit, it was easy to see through. Or they are cheating and if you saw them out elswhere and called them by the wrong name they gave you they can play that off as youve got the wrong person kind of thing.
761016
If you flat out ask him, it could be awkward for both of you. Maybe you should be a little bit stronger in your hints and say something along the lines that, even though you are straight, you wouldn't mind having a gay friend and ask him if he has ever known anyone who is gay. Most gay people have the feeling that it is killing them inside before they come out, so even if he doesn't open up to you right away remain a close friend. If he is gay, your friendship will mean a lot to him.
977413
If a man is feminine it does not necessarily make him gay. It is dangerous and inappropriate to label people without knowing the facts. Whether he is gay or straight is his business, and not that of everyone else. The fact  that he has never dated doesn't make him gay. It sounds like everyone else needs to mind their own business and quit making assumptions about things which do not concern them. \n\nIn regards to your friends assumptions, I suspect they know little about sexuality and what brings it about. This is a question that has been plaguing scientists for a very long time. As yet there is no answer, therefore whether it is a choice or not is irrelevant. My best advice is to let him come out in his own time, that is if he is gay.
921876
I'm sorry, I normally don't like to generalize.  But here are a few clues to see if your friend is gay.\n\nBefore I get backlash for this, I grew up in West Hollywood, I have many gay friends, I worked for a gay caterer when I was a senior in high school, so I asked a lot of questions.\n\nFor males:\nYou don't know anything about his dating life/patterns.\nHe may refer to his b/f as his lover/spouse/significant other, etc.\nVery secretive about where he goes out on w/e\nPopular with women\nVery high sense of fashion for men and women\nLoves shoe shopping (LOL)\nEffeminate behavior (not always)\nUncomfortable when talking about having sex with women.\n\n\nFor females:\nFor the masculine type of gay women, it's somewhat easy.\nShe lifts weights hardcore (like a bodybuilder), short, crew cut style hair.\n\nFor the females that play the female role in a lesbian relationship, I don't know.
8609
Why do non-gays get interested in women? If you can answer that, you know the answer to "gays interested in men question".\n\nSorry but there's no real answer.
703544
Never heard of him/her/it.\n\nPretty sure he/she/it is gay though.
673921
There really isn't any way to know for sure..  \nMost of the time we kinda have an idea if someone is gay but there are some individuals that are very good at hiding their "tendencies".    You should try to become their friend, strike up a conversation about a book, movie, the weekend coming up, etc, etc--  Try to get to know them as a person.   There are many people out there, specially in H.S. that just because they don't like a person, rumors/lies are made up!! I'm pretty sure u have heard some rumors about yourself that you know are just lies!!!  So don't believe everything u hear.
798393
im sure the figh game has gay boxers they just dont  let the  general public know.....anywy why would you ask sucha silly question???
795358
i think that it depends on the guy in question. I know alot of gay guys and some of them are very respectful, they understand that guys are straight and they are just normal with them. However some other guys I know take great pleasure in winding straight guys up and making them feel uncomfortbale. Although I am very comfortable with gay guys and gals I do find it very intimidating when they are in your face flaunting their sexuality. \n\nI guess the people in question should really know who they are and change their behaviour! x
655510
I think it especially sucks if you have no way of knowing the person through others as a reference. When other people know a person and their background, its a good way to see that they are who they say they are by asking others about the potential date person. Overwhelmingly, the people are shy and a little too much of homebodies. Oh yes, they also have a much higher potential to lie about themselves, income, job, and lifestyle-so watch out.
1016359
A friend of mine met a guy and give him a fake name.  They dated for a couple months before she worked up the courage to tell him she'd lied to him about her name.  But since that's what he'd always called her, he still calls her that today and they've been married for almost 5 years!!  So unless you want to be called by another name for the rest of your life, you might want to go by your real name!!
869621
they're not. a few people who are gay hide their orientation . By the way , he was accused, it hasn't been proven. Any fool can accuse.
1079940
No, I only date guys named Mike...just for that reason.
239642
No, he's not telling the truth. Even if he had to change your name to something higher up alphabetically, he would at least choose a girl's name.\n\nI can't imagine changing my girlfriend's name to a guy's name... just thinking about it feels weird... "Oh Andrew..." Disgusting!\n\nMost likely he's hiding your existence from another girl.
466635
I don't have an answer but I'd like to share with you my experience of this.I recently worked at a local building society and a co worker of mine was Chinese.He told me he was called Ben but that it wasn't his real name,He'd changed his name to sound more 'westernized '.out of 'feminine curiosity' I asked him his real name,expecting something UN pronounceable............"LEE", was his reply !!!!!
1146856
no, but if your in doubt just change the names before you tell the story. its still funny that way, all that matters is you know who your talking about... and the smart ones will catch on.
258469
First of all, they would not have the same last name as homosexuals cannot objectively be married.\n\nRegardless of that fact, two male or two female friends might wish to regard themselves are "married" and share the same last name.\n\nIf they do in fact share the same last name, refer to them as "Messrs. Smith."  If they have their own last names, as they should, on an envelope you would refer to them as:\n\nMr. John Smith\nMr. Robert Jones\n80 Commonwealth Avenue\n[etc.]\n\nIf they have the same first name I, personally, would probably write:\n\nMr. John Smith\nMr. Robert Smith\n80 Commonwealth Avenue\n[etc.]\n\n[ADDITIONAL NOTES]\n\nAll these people who are saying, "address them by their first names" are narrow-minded.  We live in a culture of supposedly "instant friends," which is very shallow.  Be sure to show them respect and refer to them by their last names.