I live with a veteran who has a severe case of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.?
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PTSD is such a difficult thing to deal with--for both the sufferer and those around them, as I'm sure you know. I'm glad your loved one is getting help (counceling, I hope, and meds.)\n\nMany times, the majority of attention is paid to the sufferer and there is very little thought into how the caretaker is doing. Your health is just as important as his--you need to provide strength and have the will to help him through the roughest of times. \n\nI dealt with PTSD a few years ago, and though it wasn't nearly as bad as the trauma of war, I'm sure, it's stil hell. \n\nHave you ever had a nightmare where you swore it was real, then woke up and were so relieved it was just a dream? This is a diluted example of what PTSD is like--only it's all the time, day or night. He's probably reliving the trauma--people dying, constant uneasiness, being prepared for the worst at all times. \n\nI recommend making your home as much of a sanctuary for him as possible. Put on some soothing music, light a few lavender-scented candles and keep the atmosphere as calm as possible. The key here is to limit the amount of situations where he can become startled or be reminded of his time in the military, which may be what's leading to these "fits." \n\nAgain, I'm so glad he's getting help, but be sure to monitor your health as well. If you feel overwhelmed, it might be time to see a councelor who can listen to and understand what you're going through. \n\nGood luck!
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I would suggest contacting the Veterans administration, or the Legion hall, in the area he was in.  they may have MORE knowledge on this, and HOw to get access that we may not have.
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I have been the victim of both emotional and physical abuse. This was from my boyfriend at the time. I was choked, hit, threatened, and cheated on. I was called a whore if I wore makeup, I was left alone with a concussion so he could go out with friends (I was supposed to be woken up every two hours), I was lied to, I was called a b*tch so many times that it was like a nickname, I was ignored, my needs were ignored. I was taken advantage of physically, emotionally, and financially. It ended when HE left, because my identity had been so damaged that I no longer had a will to be happy. Since then, I learned that I had PTSD - post traumatic stress disorder as a result of the abuse. Treatment for that changed my life. Abuse of any kind never gets better. You cannot change anyone. If you are not in physical danger, then insist on counseling, because you are still in danger of losing YOU. If you are in physical danger get out NOW - abuse never gets better, it only escalates. Best of luck.
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You are obviously looking for the best advice possible, so please if you can do anything to rectify this situation then do it and as soon as possible. I am so proud of you even though I dont know you, for recognising that this man is in difficulty, please go to someone who can help him, go to his or indeed your Dr. and seek immediate advice. This is wrong, you know it I know it and I am sure every other user of this site will see it for what it is.  It is abuse of the worst kind.  I have a son with special needs, and this is my worst nightmare. I applaud your concern, now please get help for him....
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Try to contact his FRG (family readiness group). They can keep you up-to-date with what is going on with the unit. However, some units have restrictions on who can receive information, and there may be certain things they can't/won't tell you (since you are not married yet). There should be some people who you can make friends with and talk to though. If moving is an option, move near his base so that you can really be near the FRG and also be there when he  gets back. However, you cannot live on the base until you are married, and the military will not pay you an allowance to live off-base, like they would if  you were married. \n\nWhen you think you can't take it anymore, remember why you love him. It sucks when he's gone, but it will be so worth it when he gets home, trust me.
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I would suspect that there is more to the story than this.  The military tends to take a very liberal view regarding things that are 'service-connected.'  (Especially in regards to PTSD.)\n\nGenerally, PTSD will not get you put out, but bi-polar does render you 'medically unqualified' for military service.\n\nMy advice is to go back and talk to the people providing you with medical treatment to make sure what you said is correct.
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expect the worst, hope for the best! Military is both physically and mentally exhasting. Be supportive and help your guy out when you can, is the best you can do. And be strong, they teach there men to marry a strong women, cuz if your not strong you won't last. Tell him you love him and show it, it will help him get though!
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I would recommend a psych evaluation - s/he may be depressed, or maybe the trauma made the person react in this way when s/he normally would not.  either way, it doesn't sound safe, so someone professional should talk to him/her and find out how to keep the person safe until things improve!
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IF HE IS A VETERAN I KNOW HOW HE FEELS SHOULD REALLY CALL SOME ONE AT THE HOSPITAL AND DISCUSS THIS WITH THEM \nSTUBBORN  BUT CONFIDENT  \nEATING HABITS  WELL HOWS HIS VITAMIN IN TAKE  B12 MAKES YA HUNGRY RIGHT  HE IS SCARED AND KNOWS YOUARE TOO \n PRAYER
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That is exactly what this is. (post traumatic stress disorder)First off, if you know your attacker then turn the bastard in. He has no right to do that and not pay for it. Second, seek a peer group. There are others who have had similar experiences. Good luck with all of this
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You have to understand, that even though we need good men like yourself to serve with us, there are certain risks to being on medication especially for things like depression or any kind of sleep disorder.  These could effect job preformance in a high stress enviroment especially when in combat.  Sorry wish we could have you in the service you sound like a strong willed guy, who has his heart in the right place.
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I think its mostly genetic, but high stress can cause a series of other mental disorders. I am sorry your ex husband has been mistreating you, I hope you find someone who can protect you from him.
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Be his friend, write to him and send care packages while he is deployed.  Let him know you would be happy to come visit him when he returns from his tour.  Right now, be a good friend.  He doesn't have amnesia.  He remembers what you previously told him.  Perhaps this will be a good "testing" ground to see how you would handle deployments.  Maybe he was hesitant to get "involved" with you because he didn't want to put a "girlfriend" though a tough deployment.  Show him you got the moxie to stick it through (being his friend)....and then when he returns who knows...he may change his mind when he sees you can "handle it"....Remember...be upbeat, encouraging, help keep his spirits UP.  Show him you got the "stuff" to handle it.  Good Luck!
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you probably have a counselor or resident assistnat...first talk to her and confront her...if that does not work talk to the counselor or RA ...
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You said he is in the  military , are they planning to deploy him ? and if so could any of this behavior be coming from him feeling insecure because he knows about your active past, maybe he feels you will not be faithful while he is gone.
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Be strong and get out right away--but make sure you can do it safely and that he can't follow you.  Best to lose yourself in another place and, if he's really crazy, change your name as well.  Install security wherever you go and always, always leave at the first sign of abuse.  It is NOT you and you DO deserve better; keep telling yourself both of those things rather than "it will get better" or "I really love him" or "he's trying"--those are all self-deluding signs that land women in hospitals & morgues.  It will tkae time to get adjusted; you may need to get a guard dog/gun license (and practice on a range so you get really good!).  Just remember, any man who derives his power and sense of self-worth through abuse (esp. of people he supposedly loves) is sick and will hurt you and others again.  At least you've recognized the abuse and considered leaving before it's too late; some women can't bring themselves to leave.  Their lives are short, miserable ones filled with terror, even if to the "outside world" they seem fine.  Don't become a statistic!  There is always a way; there are free legal advice/churches/clinics that are willing to help.  It won't be easy, but it is best in the long run.  For one thing, it ensures there will BE a "long run"!
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You are deeply emotionally scarred. The first thing you need to do is seek professional therapy or join a support group. Nothing will ever completely erase the trauma you've experienced and there will be times when the fear re-emerges no matter what. You have to learn to face the fear down and rationalize that it's your past that is affecting your feelings and try to center yourself and deal with it. You can't give up on life, Honey and you will find a good man one day. Just remember that not all men are like your ex. You really need professional help to get through this before you can form a healthy relationship again. It's too bad I don't know your ex. I'm a former police officer and I would love to find him and let him try to assault a woman who can fight back. I stomp his mean a$$ into the ground and give him a nice hard punch for every woman who has ever been abused by a man. I'm sorry, it just makes me so mad when I hear things like this. I can't stand anyone who deliberately hurts or abuses anyone, especially those who are weaker then they are. It's a wonder I kept from losing it when I was a cop but I never abused my position. Now, I'm retired so I could knock the snot out of that boy and not worry about getting fired. Good luck, sweetie.