My ex-fiancee' and I broke up this year but are still keeping in touch.  But we would like to go back to each
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1) Look at why you broke up--this isn't just going to disappear. It's obvious that you both have issues, especially if your mother is very concerned about this.\n\n2) Look at why you want to get back together--are you scared of going out on the dating scene again? Has the break up just happened? Are you worried that he's your soul Mate?\n\n3) Listen to yourself--if you two don't get together, then what? You don't get married NOW. Does that mean you won't get married ever? No. Just not to the wrong man.\n\nYou said you dated other men--well of course it's going to be different! Don't fool yourself into thinking that marriage is the high point in life. \n\nRemember that couples with differences in religion, especially when they are rooted in their faith, have a challenge ahead. If you do get back together, you both need to take a long talk. How will you raise your children? Will you each go to your different areas of worship? How will you encourage the other to be strong in their faith?\n\nYou cannot question his faith though. You both need to respect the others rights. This isn't about conversion.
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it all depends on how you broke up in the first place, if it was a mutual agreement, and you still/miss him a lot, maybe you can give the relationship another try, but if you broke up on bad terms, i dont think its wise for you to get back together, its best just to move on.
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If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
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I've had the miss fortune of doing the same thing, except it was in a text message. \n\nI say dont go back unless there is a significant change in the relationship. I mean, he broke up with you..and caused you a ton of pain (I'm assuming)....who's to say he wont change his mind again and hurt you all over again. Its obvious that you still have feelings for him. I think that before you consider getting back together really think about if that is what you want, because it might not benefit you at all.
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It is normal to want to get back w/ your ex. However, you should only get back w/ him only if you want to.  Don't let him pressure you into it. There are a lot things you have to take into consideration...i.e. like why did you all separate, can u trust him, and is the relationship worth trying again? Whatever you do, don't rush to make decisions, take things slowly, and remember ur happiness is most important. Good Luck.
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I say keep in touch as much as you can, try both buying webcams to chat and see each other over the internet, that way you can at least see each other, and if it is meant to be, then a year should be no biggie, but definitely keep in touch with him and let him know you exist and are around to be there for him, even though miles apart!
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Whatever the reason for your ex being your ex. Put yourself in their shoes and think about the situation and what you would do. Be true about the considerations...it only help u know wether it's worth trying to get back together.
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Well, you kind of confirmed his suspicion that you wouldn't take it well with your sarcastic email, didn't you?  Perhaps they found out that they both really wanted to go to the same place, it was cheaper to go together and since 1.you'd been split up for over 6 months and 2. he wasn't your best friend anyway, there really was nothing morally wrong in what they were doing.  You could look at it as a compliment that they thought enough of your feelings not to want to hurt you and that's why they didn't tell you.  Yes, it would have been a courtesy to let you know, but really, you don't have any right to interfere in the lives of two people you don't have close relationships with.
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Sometimes people just grow apart for no apparent reason.  Distance is hard on any kind of relationship.  Now that you've moved back and you found out that she has broken up with her boyfriend, you two might be able to have that same closeness again.  Just call, email or message her and let her know that you are there for her any time she needs to talk or have a shoulder to cry on.  If she doesn't respond then it's time for you to move on.  There's no sense in wasting your time on someone how doesn't have time for you.
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It doesn't sound like you want him so it would be WRONG to go back to him.\n\nAlso it didn't work out the first time, so it probably wont work this time.
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It sounds like you want closure for this relationship ended badly.  All I can do is tell you to follow your heart.
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Yeah it can. I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago - it was a mutual break-up but we remained as best friends. Sometimes when I hang out with her, I feel that same old feeling again - like a spark in my life that I felt when I first dated her... but I'm not taking that step though.\n\nYou can regain that feeling, but to get back together - that's another question...
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If you do not want to get back with your ex then you should not be involved with him and his present partner as just a "FRIEND".\nThat may be the root of the problems that they are having that send him running to you for "ADVISE".\nHe feels comfortable with you because the two of you have history and he maybe testing the Waters to find out if you are willing to forgo a friendship and try a relationship once again.\nThe best thing you can do is steer clear of constant contact with them as a couple.
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I don't want to get back together
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Your anniversary still counts.\nEven when you were apart, you were together in your misery...that's why you reconciled.  =^)
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No, keeping in touch with your ex, unless you were really close before is not good.  I don't stay close to my ex because he told a friend of mine that we screwed when I never even saw him in the 8 days we went out.  Staying close to your ex is never going to help you get over that person.  HOPE THIS HELPS!!!!!!!!
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maybe you didn't have closure with the ex.  I know that's the reason my ex still haunts me after 5 years.  fortunately i've got the greatest gf in the world, and i can talk to her about this.  I LOVE NIKI!!!