How is it that some people handle pain really well while other people don't?
963750
Some poeple (me for example) are just born with the characteristic of more pain tolerance, while others may be born with another physical characteristic.but most of the time it is genitic.   \n\npeace out.
787934
the pain itself isnt a virtue, but rather the manner in which they handle their suffering.  i look back at my grandma -- her hip was completely degenerated but she never really complained. for 13 years she slepti in a chair. she fell often but would not give up her home so we were there often. once she fell and laid there for 4+ hours. once it was about 6am she finally pushed her "help i've fallen button" the firefighters had a key to her house -they knewher well.  they chastized her for not calling sooner -she said she didn't want to wake them.  after she died, i tried to sleep in her chair - it was horrible.  she suffered all those long years with her health faining and would ask uss only to add pillows and restart the VCR with the sound of music.\nwith all the amazing pain she was in -she still prayed and never whined about her pain.  \nGod gives us strength to overcome any situation - when asked.
1007674
Maybe people like us get more problems because we are stronger, able to deal with it better, I dunno, I get my fair share from time to time. I hear God don't give you what you can't handle, well,..there's times I wished I wasn't tested so much.
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When it comes to helping people you have to learn to choose your battles. You can't expect to please everyone all of the time. \nAs for people who hate themselves etc.,...it is easier to deal with someone elses problems rather than your own. It is a classic form of denial.
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I will only point you in the right direction. It is a side effect of shock. Also it has to do with ones pain tollerance. Someone who is exposed more to pain can handle more pain because they have developed coping skills. Others will give in to shock. But there is no set level. It is different for everyone, and generaly based on mindset and past experiences, and sometimes training.
56311
Absolutely, its a hormone/chemical thing like most living things experience. What seperates us though is our ability to reason and think through the consequences of our actions to avoid hurting not only others but ourselves.
596762
i try very hard to have empathy for people but trully i cant sometimes because i havent personally been thru what there going thru. but i really try to put myself in there shoes and i try to understand but the things i have been thru i most certainly do have empathy
861408
When someone is in pain, the body sends its own endorphins out to ease the discomfort... so my guess would be dilation.
1164317
Usually this need to feel "superior" is deeply rooted in low personal  or societal self esteem. Any time an individual needs to feel better than others it is because deep down there is a feeling of inadequency. This feeling of inadequency is highly uncomfortable, so the person will try to find way to be more comfortable. This is usaully an unconscience behavior. By finding those who they can feel superior over the uncomfortable feeling is temporarily alleviated. This temporary releaf lasts a short period, creating a cycle of needing new targets to place beneath them to continue the releaf of feeling inadequet. It is really sad and creates a great deal of dysfunction for those who behave in this manner and for those around them. The real fix is to raise feelings of adaquency at the core of the soul. This takes an honest viewing of who they really are and why they are behaving as they are. This takes a great deal of courage, to look inside and take an honest inventory of self. As the person already is struggling with inadequency it is highly unlikely the person will have that inner streangth required for that honest self evaluation. It takes lowering all self defense behaviors learned over a life time and these defenses can be extreamy deep rooted. When dealing with deeply rooted behaviors it takes a long period of time to be able to take that honest look inside. The very fact that the person first needs to acknowlege a problem in order to even begin such a process basically comfirmes that it will not be done. These defensive barriers are very strong indeed. We are constantly erecting devensive behaviors to protect our core self. when an injury to self esteem occures, the inner self will take action to protect itself from further harm. Usually these actions create dysfunctional behaviors which are then utilized as protection from harm. However, as these behaviors are dysfunctional they do not really serve the person in a healthy manner which creates further dysfunction. As this cycle continues the damage increases further intensifying needs of finding ways to construct ways to protect the inner core of the person. If the person never finds the abiltity to take an honest inventory of how these defensive behaviors are harming them, they will never be able to take corrective action and learn healthy ways of handling personal bounderies and increase self worth without using these dysfunctional defensive behaviors. It is very difficult to relearn coping mechinisiams and protective behaviors. Once on the path of change the struggle to relearn and establish healthy patterns of behavior can take many years if not a lifetime. I do not expect change to occure over night, but small changes can make a huge difference right away. \n\nThese types of dysfunctional self defensive behaviors have a very detrimental affect on the persons life, both private and public. They will often not understand why relationships do not work out,  why friends no longer wish to be friends, why employers ask them to leave.  Dysfunctional self defensive behaviors are also passed on to children of adults who have not learned functional behavioral patterns. So, the cycle repeats itself. As humans we are all prone to one degree or another of dysfunctional behaviors. We are suppose to learn from mistakes and learn what works and what does not work. As we find what works we grow as individuals. However, and sadly, untill a person is willing to do the painful self inventory of behavior and learned habits he/she will remain stuck at the level they are at and little or no growth is obtained. They just continue to make the same mistakes not understanding why life is not what they had expected. They are locked into behaviors which lead to self destruction, lowers self esteem further, and viciously rebounds with poor personal life results again and agian. \n\nTry to understand that these individuals are injured, hurt, have deep wounds in their souls. Most really do
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Many of those people like to feel others pain. Because they have a shitty life, or, because ,they are either too lazy or too stupid to fix it. So they feel better about themselves when they act like they care, and many of them do care, its just that they don't know why they care, and after a very short period of time they change their definition of "caring"  from, actively finding a solution and implementing it, to something like pointing the finger and blaming others. The great thing about most of those people (for them) is that when they point the finger at the "problem"  (i.e. America is the Devil) it looks (to them) like they are pointing the finger at them selves (thus they can appear to be truly selfless) and can act like they are fighting for a solution, when really they are just trying to make themselves feel better for being incompetent in creating a solution -and in their lives for that matter-. Unfortunately Failure and self loathing are considered greatness for many.\nThat is why (at least why I think) American  wanna-be-do-gooders\nalways find the fault in America, it is too painful to find the fault in them selves, and, it is too hard to "fix" the injustice they see.\n  I, fortunately, do not suffer from this malady.\n"I do not want to feel others pain, but, I would like to cure it"....If I don't already have something better to do....
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even though people dont mean to hurt the people that they love the most, the people that love the person hurting them deeply care about that person and dont want to see them make the  same mistakes that they have made and it hurts them that the person making them hurt wont listen to them. or the simple fact of pulling away from the people that you love hurts them very deeply. dont burn your bridges, and if you have start to rebuild them with patients and kindness.
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I think that mental pain is worse simply because if there is enough mental pain it can be the reason to inflict physical pain either on oneself or another person.\nIf you're talking about abuse, that's a different story.  Both mental and physical abuse should be taken care of in the same aspect, it doesn't matter if an abuser doesn't "touch" the other person, it's a matter of the permanent damage caused.  When someone who is depressed or has been mentally abused says they are "in pain" they mean it.  It's a proven fact that when someone who is mentally "in pain" says they are in pain, the brain is responding in the same way it would if there were physical pain being inflicted on the person.  So, mental pain causes physical pain and vice versa.\nSorry if this answer is kind of out of order and long winded, but I wanted to try to explain myself.
714095
some cry uncontrollably while others completely shut down emotionally. Some shut down to the point they wont get out of bed, take a shower or even eat. It varies depending on the person.
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I believe there are several possible explanations for this.  Bad things do not happen to everyone for the same reason.  In one case, it may be a way that God is strengthening the person, or in another, it may be atonement for past karma, or it may be a lesson.  It could be so many different things, and I believe it is important to never point a finger at anyone who is suffering and say, "You've brought this on yourself."  Perhaps they did, but perhaps they didn't.  In any individual case, I don't think we really know.\n\nThere is one major issue here, and that is how do we define "Bad things"?  I have come to believe that events in themselves are neutral.  It is only our interpretation of those events that makes them "good" or "bad."  We can learn a skill of reframing, which is to change our thinking about a matter.  We can choose how we are going to evaluate the event.  Our gut reaction may be to think of it as bad, but you do not have to let the reaction rule over you.  You can find positive ways to look at it.  Of course, sometimes this is easy, and other times, extremely difficult, or maybe even nearly impossible.  But we can find ways of coping nonetheless.\n\nMy father was drafted to go to Vietnam, and before leaving, he took a last ride on his motorcycle.  He wrecked and broke his leg!  This actually prevented him from having to go to Vietnam.  Everytime I see a Vietnam veteran who is struggling with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, I praise God that my dad wrecked that day!\n\nSo, what has helped me more than anything is to say to myself a little Hebrew phrase I learned, "Gam zu letovah."  This means, "This too is for good."  And I have found this to be very good to say.  Even over the little things!  I break a fingernail, and I say, "Gam Zu Letovah."  And if you say this whenever some little annoyance happens, instead of cussing or huffing, you'll be amazed at the end of the day how much better you will feel.\n\n;)
87909
Cause it feels good and for some people not having it is like torture for them.  This sounds like a relationship problem of some sort.
400312
of course you can have pain in two different parts of your body and no they do not cancel each other out\na brain (at least a normal brain) can handle numerous different stimuli at the same time
799449
Actually it has been proven that woman have a higher tolerance for pain to themselves.  Your premise is flawed.