How do I come out with my bisexuality to my homophobic dad?
968309
well i guess you are a little young to be sure about your sexual preferences but whenever the time comes, tell your dad that you like girls alot, and wanna have wife and kids but at the same time you like guys too and that you are realy confused what to do and whats wrong with you etc etc..... and that you will have to make a choice forever wther to be gay or not....\nonce her hears this, he is gonna say 'you dont have to make a choice, there are people who like both' etc etc... coz he will be fearing you choosing to be gay.. \n\nworth a shot...
790617
Introduce him as your slave.  That should pull the wool over their eyes.\n\nSeriously, why hide who you are?  Are you ashamed of being gay?  [If you still live at home, you get a "bye" about telling your parents until you can support yourself.]\n\nGood luck!
867233
You don't have to tell anyone.  Your mother may have already guessed.  Talk about gay people to her and see how she feels.  If she doesn't understand you may want to wait until you are an adult to tell her.  It's not like you need to make an announcement about your sexual orientation.\n\nYeah, it does.
1046624
I would NOT tell your friends about this.  You are only 15 and there is nothing wrong with being bi at all.  BUT your friends may turn into morons and tell everyone on the planet including your parents and it could make things awful for you!  Keep this to yourself for awhile!
140973
Seriously, go suck him off, if you like it, you're gay, if he likes it, he's gay, if you both like it, you're both gay.Or you could go ask your daddy how long he's been packing fudge.......
51615
PLEASE! For the sake of embarrassment, DON'T ASK HIM!! If he's still in the closet, he'll only get angry, and you'll lose any chance of ever finding out. Instead of asking him, just put yourself out there if you are comfortable with your bisexuality. Do you have any close friends at work who may be friends with him also? They may be able to find out in some mysterious way. My best friend is a gay male, and he just recently came out over the summer of 2005. He's going through the same thing right now. It's tough, but hang in there. You just need to build your confidence, and the rest will come! Best of luck!
1132901
Just be open and honest and with them and remember to be patient with them.  Even if they dont agree with you sexuality remember their still your parents and they still love you.  Here's a link to PFLAG's website, you can contact them through that and they're really goat providing support for you and your parents.\nhttp://www.pflag.org/
943923
You need to support your sister. She didnt ask to be gay. This is harder for her than it is for anybody else. I've had gay friends and sometimes they are so scared that their family and friends won't accept them. Your mother being on antidepressants for this has got to be killing your sister.
138261
You cannot control how they will react.  I think coming out to relatives is overated, especially if you know they may not understand or get mad.  Why not just continue on with your love life and consider it none of their business?\n\nYou never have to lie about it, just don't offer the information.  When they ask you directly is the time to seriously consider telling them...
492955
Yeah I know that one. I told my mum and she totally flipped. I was trying to tell her so she wouldn't be surprised if I told her I was seeing a guy. She didn't understand, a lot of people don't understand being bi as opposed to gay or straight. They can't understand it, feel it's some sort of sexual perversion, "wanting it all". You will prob even find that being bi it will be really hard to find a relationship because there is always the fear from your partner that they can't give you something that the opposite sex to them can.\n\nAll you can do is let them know. Maybe talk about a previous relationship and tell them after that you tried... and found that it was good too and that you want to let them know so they don't have to deal with a big shock should you end up in a relationship with someone they don't expect. Either way it can sometimes be harder than being gay.\n\nGOOD LUCK!
739018
If your dad says that you are allowed to have a boyfriend, why not have a chat with him about it. Don't necessarily tell him that you have a boyfriend, but just mention that there is a boy that like you and you think that he is nice, but he is just a friend. How would he feel if you went on a date with him. Doing it this way you are just testing the water so to speak. Just mention it casually too him, and then leave the situation for a while.\n\nThe thing is you don't want your dad to hear about you having a boyfriend some someone else, at least if you start testing the water, its a start to try and gage what your dad's reaction will be
41007
You know your parents better than I; can they handle the news? Will they toss you out of the house?\n\nGet some support for yourself first. PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) is a good place to start and they have some coming out resources. See if there's a gay youth support group near you, where you can get some additional support and understanding for what you're going through. Maybe there's a Gay/Straight Alliance at your school or another nearby that can lend additional support.\n\nYou'll want to go into the conversation knowing it probably won't be pretty. They will probably throw every dirty and disgusting gay stereotype at you, and you will have to remain secure in the knowledge that stereotypes are often created out of fear and revulsion rather than truth, and that you aren't any of those things. Most of all, be secure in the knowledge that you're a good person, no matter what they may say.\n\nI came out at 16 and it took my parents a couple years to adjust to the idea. Then it just became another part of me. They ask about boyfriends and how things're going, inviting anyone I'm dating over for dinner. Its a non-issue now.
890160
I knew from about the age of six.\nThere was a boy in my class at school that I always wanted to sit next to, but it never happened, and it was years later that I realised I had a 'crush' on him.\nI came out to my family when I was 18, but it didn't come as a surprise to them. I'd never shown any interest in girls (sexually), and they respected me for my honesty.\nI know it is not always easy to 'come out', and I would say that you should leave it for a few years in case it is just a 'phase' you are going through.\nMany men get sexual urges, and when you are going through puberty, your hormones are all over the place and experimentation (hand-jobs) is rife.\nIf you are certain you are gay, then tell a few close friends and if they show resistance, it is they who have a problem, not you.\nI hope you will not bow down to intollerance and ignorance, and find the courage to say who you are.\nI had one bad experience when I came out, and the man who didn't want to know me anymore now lives with his boyfriend in London!\nAll I can say to you is, you know the people around you, and you know yourself.\nIf you think they will be supportive, then be honest.\nFrankly, I'd be honest anyway and let them love you the way you are.
309423
You don't, you just say you're going out with some girlfriends.\n\nOr if your parents are homophobes, just say "Mom, I'm going out with this girl.. Okay bye =) "
981701
That's sooooooooo cool that you know at that age.  I had conflicting feelings from age 16 through age 21, then I finally came out and accepted it.  Coming out is an ongoing process.  In life you will always run into a situation that people will assume that you are straight, and you have to be yourself.   \n\nI would wait until you are absolutely sure you won't upset your home life.  At age 13, you need to be focusing on school and preparing yourself for the outside world.  Your Dad might be joking, but maybe there is some serious issues for him that might cause him to through you out... I've seen it before.  If you are sure your family will love you no matter what, then be honest and tell them.  Be prepared for all the questions they will ask.  It would be in your best interest to find some counseling for you and your family.  Here in San Diego, we have a Gay & Lesbian Center with a great youth program.  Hopefully your city has such a place for you to connect with the Gay Community.  It's up to you to help your parents not get all crazy by supplying them with accurate information about what being gay means to you.
463455
Dude, its never easy and been where you've been. Lot of internal struggle huh? First, consider your age. You don't say but I assume a minor. If you are solely dependant on them for shelter, food, education and everything and you are unsure to what extent the risk factor is of them throwing you out, wait. Minimum wage will not support your housing, food and basic necessities. You'll be turned out to prostitution in no time. Unless they have a better than average idea that you are gay (parents know but can live in denial) ie ever have girlfriends, have "the accent", effeminate, etc. (would you just be saying the obvious) If that is not the case, and even if it is. Go to the library or if you have some money. Buy a couple of books in the GLBT section on coming out to parents, and parents who have been come out to. These will answer questions for them that you might not feel comfortable answering, and they might not want to ask. They usually say things like being gay is normal, homos are not perverts, the misconceptions you have about homosexuality are wrong, etc.\n\nSecond the act of coming out. People usually gauge their reaction on how you react or act. Do not do it on a holiday, or family event. This is kinda a personal thing that you might want to sit them down (take a breath you're a man who's doing something that's hard for men twice, three times your age) Try not to get emotional, and calm them if they do.-for crying, anger you can't do much about except stay calm. Have an honest conversation with them. Ask them questions to lead up to it. (have you ever wondered why I've never had a girlfriend? etc) If you're catholic, there's something to download called "always our children" I think. \n\nThe conversation is going to go where it's going to go. But if you remain calm. Hold your head up. Answer questions honestly yet non graphically. Soften the blow and make them feel as comfortable as you can (books, the right answers to their questions, etc) They'll probably have concerns over AIDS so relay that you use or plan on using condoms. (go buy some) Just be ready to dispell some stereotypes and misconceptions on homosexuality. Relay that you are their son, you love them and because of that you find it hard to lie to someone you love about who you are, and you feel that they have the right to know the person they love.\n\nGood Luck, wish you all the best in the world. \nKeep your friends close, you'll probably need their support.
1104892
That really is a hard one to answer, a part of me would tell you to tell your parents yet there is a chance that things there could go sour. If I were you I would do my research i.e. stories out of the bible ( The good simaritain, the prodgical son... to name a couple. the prodgical son talks about unconditional love.)\nRemember being gay isnt against any belief its the sexual acts that arent liked in the church before marriage that goes for those who identify as straight as well,\nBut if you decide to hide it they will find out in the long run. Maybe drop hints here and there.