Nice, loving, moral people are easy targets?
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No Ma'am, predatory types seek out those that  look gullible, and naive. Danielle has a great point in regard to spirituality. Predatory types lack a sense of conscious, thus enabling them to continuously take advantage of others, free from guilt, much like a sociopath. Here's my take on this subject...\n50% of the people are honest,\n30% of the people are dishonest,\n20% of the people are as honest, as you will let them be.\nLike Mama said, "believe none of what you see, and half of what you hear".  Mama was right! \nBest Regards
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Bring them up to be kind, considerate and not to judge others.
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You asked how to be happy and wholesome. Cool. You asked the question of non-Christian folk. OK. Lets remember what you didn't ask ... How to attain enlightenment, or get to heaven, or please any Deity. Fair enough. So we'll just stick to those first two things ... How to be happy ... Learn to be content with things as they are. That means to practice simple acceptance of other people, places, things, circumstances, etc. When you can accept things as they are you can live without trying to change those things or control those people or etc. You get the idea. While you're accepting others as they are in order to be happy don't forget to extend that same acceptance to your self. Its just a matter of letting everything be what it is, and knowing that its that way for a reason, and ... that's OK. So far ... HAPPINESS = ACCEPTANCE. Now, wholesome. A dictionary definition of "wholesome" is: #1; Promoting good health or wellbeing, healthful. #2; Improving the mind or morals. #3; Looking healty or vigorous. ... Whoa! You're not asking for much, are you? lol Its not that complicated, really. Give life a little thought. Keep your self and your space clean. Get some exercise. Try to eat a ballanced diet. Take a multiple vitamin daily. The health aspect isn't all that hard. That part about improving the mind and morals? A little more work. Improve the mind? Exercise it a little. Read. Watch a little History Channel. I think you know how to exercise your mind already. Just do it consistently. Your morals? That's simple. Simple ought never be confused with easy. Pick a moral code, and ... LIVE IT! Which one? Hey, not my call. Suggestions? Sure. Center your life on (and you don't have to be any of these things to use something they have that YOU find useful) ... The Wiccan Reede. The Jewish 10 Commandments. The "Golden Rule" of Jesus. Whatever. Picking is the easy part. That's simple. Now, living it, that's another story. Be consistant, but be loving with yourself when you make a mistake too. Just DON'T GIVE IT UP! BE CONSISTANT! And last, but not least, get out of self. You do that by helping others and being there for them. It also gives you the exercise you need in acceptance AND your morals. Neither of those work well in a void. ~ Peace & Blessings ~ ;-)
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easy going, outgoing and nice so you dont have to be perfect around them
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Sweet is in the eyes of the beholder.  Treat them as people.  Also, treat them as individuals.  Everyone is unique.
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Be kind, respect others, love those around you.
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Be nice and loving + make them feel important.
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I concur.  I feel like adherence to a prescribed moral principle removes personal responsibility.  I've felt that way (only perhaps less eloquent!) since I was eight.  If you are a good person because you adhere to the Bible / church values unquestioningly, you aren't actually a good person.  You are only truly good if you are the person choosing your own behavior.  I think fundamentally it boils down to manners - in greater or lesser dimensions.
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They are nice because they grew up with manners, that was taught by their parents, guardians and people who cares about this person, which is the right things to do. If you give kindness to someone else for sure it will come around.
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Good and bad are such relative terms. Comparatively if they behave in such a way that's so bad like they enjoy killing and tormenting children or so good like they give away all thier possessions to feed the homeless you can be tipped off. But on a regular day to day nothing is ever as obvious. You gotta check some of your own standards. Do you notice if they act more good than bad in every day situations?
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Its simple!  you're trying to love the wrong people!
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The  problem with  that   question  is  in the  definition of "nice".    Lots of times  people  are  described  as "nice"   because  they  are  always   r eady to  just  "go along"     They   don't  want to "argue"   or "say  no"      "Will you  watch  my  kids?"  sure.   "Can   I borrow  your car?"    OK.     Can I borrow some money?   Oh,  all right.    Those  kind of people are not being "nice"  they  are being  stupid  and they will   forever be taken  advantage of.      Yep,  they   always finish  last.\n\n                               It  is   possible to be a  TRULY  nice person  and still be  strong,     and   confident,  and alert   to  situations  where    somebody is  trying to "slip one over  on them"   They  stand  up for  themselves, smile,  and  say NO.       Soon others  see them    as "leaders"  confident,  well  organized in  the  way they live  and  deal with the situations of life.   BUT -  they keep  the smile on their  face,  do not lose their sense of compassion for  the  REAL situation when a  person is genuinely i n  trouble  and needs   a  leg up, and  they  are clearly  alert, well informed,    and    very  very good  a t  analysing any given  situation to  know   if it is  genuine or not.       You can't put  one over   on that kind of person,  and  anybody who  tries will go  away disappointed.    But  everyone will  agree on one thing.   That person is not only smart..  but  NICE with it.     And that  person,  guaranteed, will never finish   last
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poverty, power is nice but most are just golddiggers looking for the easy way out. \n\nor... nice guys finish last
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What attract's me is there attitude they got to be nice sweet but when need to be  someone u can depend on to protect u.
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some folks are wise and others the opposite
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The word "Morals"  in our society has become a joke, because some people try to 'impose' them on others. But if you live your life so that you do not purposely hurt someone, either physically or emotionally, then that is all the morals you need. That is how I try to live. Our actions always affect other people to some degree. We can bring heartache on our Friends and family, or joy. To "Love one another" is not a burdensome command. It is a formula for success.
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We're a bit slow in understanding... No, in se everyone wants a guy that's nice. We're just frightened that 'nice' is all he'll ever be. A man is supposed to be an animal sometimes: It's superficial, but with a nice guy it's only guessing if he'll ever be a challenge in bed. With macho-dudes you're 'sure' of a challenge, and whenever he's sweet, it's even a bigger party, for you know that didn't com easy for him... The rough guy with the soft heart is a stayer on the market. And even when he doesn't have a soft heart, you can always pretend for your friends he has and then they think you're a winner. It's also very 'in' to complain about your guy. Some girls bond by wining. Don't ask me where that comes from. But in the end I think philosopher René Girard has an answer: 'You want what is wanted.' Tough guys get promoted a lot (e.g. by themselves or by 'cool' friends). Nice guys don't promote themselves and get promoted by parents (not really a reference, parents are those people we don't want to become like). And since you want what others you admire want,... you end up with a bully sometimes. Good to know: we do come to sence. When we get to know this nice guy and he surprises us with some unexpected male talents,... Ding Ding Jackpot!