When is enough enough - when its your mother?
953492
Because she was never really a mother to you in the traditional sense. She was and is a weak, insecure woman who put her selfish needs above and beyond anything/one else. You feel abandoned and angry, and now that you're an adult, you see how totally wrong your childhood was. I think you should be ok with distancing yourself from her. \nThere's a good book called "Bad Childhood, Good Life: How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood: " that tells you how to accept the past, let it go, and move on-- even if moving on means ending contact.\n\n(I recommend this book because my story is included in it.)
1123070
when you are no longer able to take care of yourself.. like cooking, bathing,handleing money.. if you are not able then you should let the kids take over.
123711
I think that if you doubt being ready, then you should wait. You'll know when the time is right, and you and your mom will get along much better!
90738
I think you have to eventually come to grips with the fact that\n\nyour mother has mental/emotional issues and that they have\n\nnothing to do with you. You need to realize that you're caught\n\nin the middle of this insanity, and that eventually all will\n\nbe well. Ride it out, nothing you can do at the moment.\n\nYour mother does not sound well. But I can be wrong.
501151
it will be difficult unless you can prove that your mother cannot take care of herself without your help.
343550
Then make enough to support yourself...stop relying on her to cover you.
295252
I don't know if there is a way to really get over it. She is your mom.  I do know how you feel.  My relationship with my mom has always been strained I always just let her say whatever and took it.  I eventually backed away and we didn't talk for a while. Then we slowly started talking again.  We still talk but don't have a close relationship.  I would give it some time and let her cool down.  Hopefully she will come around.  Hang in there.  But remember that even if she is your mom she shouldn't put you down and she should support you.  So even if you do have a relationship again with her don't rely on her for emotional support.
412548
think of your mother when your around her
52630
Well, that depends on how much is "enough."  Check out the link below for some data.
795313
that's a tough question.. your mother is old and let her be happy in her remaning days here on earth. so i say adopt a child but not now. it can wait anyway. but if you really want to, you have to do something to lessen the noise in your house so your mother wont get irritated..
374438
kids of that age are very hard work as any parent will tell you.  The first rule with out knowing your circumstances is not to try to replace the mother that i assume they have lost for what ever reason.  You must be the adult and keep respect on both sides.  As one of the other answerer's says try going to the park, have fun join in with them, give them your time it is worth more that any money.
570898
yep, i told her this morning.  to honor my mother, i brought her myself, wife, two daughters, and our hound dog.  we all wished her a happy mother's day before i gave her a new comp, which i'm using to type this answer.  sorry about your falling-out with your mom.  i hope it is not too late for you both.  good luck - you seem like a nice guy.
265175
She (who is she? - the cat's mother).  Correction, I mean your mother, has far more experience in life than you and her judgment on all matters will therefore be far better, IN MOST CASES, than yours.   Next time, you both disagree about a topic, agree to accepting what a third party has to say on the subject.  If you are wrong, be brave enough to admit it and apologize.  If you are right, I am sure your mother will do likewise.   Enjoy your mothers company and if you can, confide in her on all matters.  She is the only one you get in this life and you will miss her terribly when she eventually goes.  God bless.
43838
I think if you have to ask if enough is enough it is enough...........the moment you feel uncomfortable or unsafe or that you need to be done it needs to be done, there should be no question as to when it needs to be stoped....the moment it doesn't feel right it needs to be over!
387586
Tell your mother the truth.  Believe it or not, she never expected you to be perfect because she never has been perfect herself.  None of us are perfect, and we all have our failures in life.  The key is not to get all upset over it, but just tell the truth and get your mother's advice about what to do next.  This is important: TELL HER THE TRUTH AS SOON AS YOU CAN.  Everyone on this forum has been in your shoes before, and we feel for you.  Just be brave and tell her.
927045
well this is really vague... im 22 and my parents are in a divorce and my mom may have nowhere to turn. I want to be a good son and she doesnt want to burden my life.. but after all she took care of me for 18years.. I be damned to let dad manipulate her anymore...\n\nI live in MY house and I have a good job. why should i care what people think about my mom living with me untill she can spring back from her divorce.\n\nI would say it really depends on the situation. Some people just dont have their act together and some do. Find out the real reason and who is living with who.\n\nOn a side note I feel that each situation is different, but once you reach early to mid 20's you need to be more self reliant.\n\nugh nothings more annoying than some guy who lives in his Moms house and jerks around all day at 25+ get a job a life and start being responsible.
91183
Ask your mommy to help you.