Why is it that most gay Asian men in the US aren't into other Asian men?
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I hear what you're saying, but its not as generally true as you suggest.  If you have any doubt about Asian men being attracted to other Asian men, then take a trip to an Asian country like Japan, S. Korea or China.  In more than a few gay bars in Japan, 'white people' aren't even allowed into the club.\n\nWhen people of other nationalities emmigrate to a new country, they tend to adopt the styles, tastes and mannerisms of the new country within a few generations. What this means is that whatever the 'norm' for attractiveness is in a particular region will soon be adopted by the newcomers, even if they don't fit the 'norm' from a physical point of view.\n\nThis becomes more clear to Americans once they've spent some time overseas.  It's also why many American's perfer to stay right here in America, where they 'fit in' better.  It's also why more people don't flood into America, even though the standard of living is somewhat better here than just about everyplace else.
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I'd have to agree with the last post. It seems that most men on the down low are there for a reason...becasue they don't feel that they can openly embrace that part of their sexuality.  I also really think it's a culture based thing, too.  I was doing some reading a while back, and you find a lot of this kind of thing in the Japanese, African American and Hispanic communities.  These communities tend to raise their boys to be strong manly men, and no gay love allowed!
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I don't think it's limited to married middle eastern men.  I'm a married American man and I'm VERY fond of sex! :)
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Asians are hardly more worthy than any woman, beautiful or otherwise. While many Asian women are exceedingly beautiful, I'm not sure that's the only attraction they have for military men, or even businessmen. What they are is exotic, culturally and physically exotic, from women in our own culture. This sometimes causes an extreme attraction even for Asian women who are not beautiful. They are still brought up to give deference to men, cater to them, even, much as their mothers and grandmothers had been raised. This is like an aphrodisiac to American men who are used to women brought up on Women's LIb.\n\nThis is not to say that you can't compete with these women. You and all your sisters, black and white, who are attractive females don't have to take a back seat to Asian women if you but look for men that are not so enamored of them. There must be some of them, too. So set your cap for one of them, instead of the gaggle that forms in line for Asian girls. I take it that you are in the service in Japan, or have recently been. Good luck in snatching a good man away from these would-be geishas.
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You should ask that over the net like you do with the questions you ask obove so you could have an idea of the number of asian guys who likes american girls and vise versa. \nAs far as I know (I have not conduct a scientific research on it) most asian man like the way american girls look but they don't like their attitude as a general for that they only like them to be a partime sex partner.
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Heck, yeah.  Asian men are usually very attractive and very smart.
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Hi I am an asian female and I am sorry that you are being judged for your looks. As an asian female I get the worst brunt of society's hate and judgement as well. \n\nYou seem like a nice , well mannered intelligent person. What I would do, is stop going to those sleezy bars where men blow you off. Those men are not worth your time since they are just probably looking for sex and are superficial. Have you tried to use a personal website where you can specifically ask and look for someone else your age who wants to be in a long term relationship? \n\nThere is nothing wrong with being a gay asian man. All those people that act like that towards you want to have a sense of control and therefore feel like it's okay to be rude and snub you. It is an issue with them and not you.\n\nAs far as those asian men who don't want to date asian men, I think they have self racism and project their feelings of insecurity and sense of insignificance on you. That is why you get blown off by your own race. Don't worry, asian people blow me off too in general for the exact same reason.\n\nYou will find someone with persistance but remember to change your venue. Don't go to bars.. they basically suck and they are a meat market. Look on yahoo personals or post one yourself, you may be pleasantly surprised at a response. If that doesn't work, start looking for asian male gay organizations. I hope this helps, don't let those idiots get you down, you are too good and mature for them!
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I think it is a matter of genetics and isolation/location.  On the flip side, look at most Asians and Polynesians.  They don't tend to have much body hair at all, live in warmer climates and are isolated for most part by location.
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My brother (Chinese) is married to a German-American woman. They have two beautiful children... REALLY beautiful ;-)\n\nBut frankly, it has to do with the way our media portray's what is sexually attractive. We're all culturally conditioned to what is attractive, and Asian males are not usually portrayed as such.
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Unusual, yes, most straight guys I know are freaked out by gay men.  I wish I could find a straight man that is comfortable around gay people.  My best friend (whom I live with) is gay and I would love to find a man that would be comfortable with my best friend .
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The reason why there are so many (out) gays & lesbians in Taiwan, is most probably due to its belief in equal rights.\n\nTaiwan is far ahead of other Asian countries in terms of gay rights. It is the first country in Asia to legalise gay marriage, and even the government expresses its support for gay pride parades.\n\nSuch an environment would mean that it's easier for gays & lesbians to express their sexuality, and therefore you would get the feeling that there's more of them around - compared to other countries.
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I am half caucasian, half maori (if you dont know it, look it up).\n\nI LOVE asian guys... in particular Korean guys. \nI try other races, but I keep getting drawn back to the Koreans.\n\nLots of reasons... need more time..
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That would be interesting, But I know what you mean about hardly ever seeing gay girls and straight guys. Unless the girls are really butch then they probably have nothing in common with a guy, like how some gay guys are really girly so they have girl friends.
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I don't think it's a matter of American white men being less into us. It's more a matter of "historical time" consideration. Europe has much more of that commodity than the U.S. I've spent time in Europe, and received a lot of attention from the men (granted, I am racially-mixed - Native American, African American and Caucasian - but my African heritage is apparent). Here in the U.S., I get that attention a little less frequently, even though I wish that weren't the case. \n\nI love men of all colors, cultures amd ethnicities - but especially white men. I just wish that white man/black woman love matches were as frequent as those of black man/white woman here in this country.\n\nSooo, back to the last part of your question...you can find them where ever you are. Just look harder and stop waiting for them to come to you. They might just need You to go to Them...
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Actually, I think that there should be more gay guys like you. Keeping to ones self doesn't help to diffuse myths about homosexuality. Many gay guys, and I won't say most, travel in gaggles, like geese. Not sure why, but from what I've seen its for the casual sex LOL...
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kinda of answered this before and gave an answer similar to this- the number of gay guys may never be known cuz many are on the DL, you will never know how many there are with homophobia, prejudices, gay bashing, religion persecuting and stereotyping still going on. So many men still hide out of fear and live on the DL, so while they are still sharing beds with their girlfriends and wives, they slip off to have quick rendezvous with the guys on the side-once the gay community is accepted and not just tolerated, are given the same rights as every individual in the US, such as marriage and joint federal tax filing, don't ask don't tell policy in the military is abolished and every given freedom of any US citizen is given there will be no accurate percentage available-so wives live comfortably thinking your men are yours and remember they are forced to live lies due to the intolerance and lack of understanding of homosexuals in the world so until everyone is not afraid to be who they are and the world is a beautiful place...you will never know-
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i spend a lot of time in asia with my wife [ shes irish]and what you say is gereraly true enough,  i'd have to say both asian men and woman are just fabulous people [ otherwise i wouldnt be there ] but they are  much smaller it stature. my wife who is small by u.s. standards towers over all ower asian friends and feels self concious about that. and in general a man is expected to be taller than his date.[ men dont care about that nearly as much as woman] i know a very tall vietnamese man, strapping stud who has the hottest tall ausrailian girl... of coures that aint scientific resurch but you get the point... see size does matter