My bfriend is exp. pain,swelling,redness,ed,& is not able to achieve orgasm! What are these symptoms from?
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Some men.  When they can not expel their bodily fluid through orgasm will experience the symptoms you have expressed.\n\nFind out what he is worried about?  Obviously there is a psychological problem here which means he can not ejaculate.\n\nMaybe find out if he can orgasm on his own.\nIs it the condom he has problems with?\n\nBut don't pressure him, or make him feel inadequate.  Just be sensitive and stay away from sex for a bit.\n\nIf you know that he has cheated, then get him to the clinic.  NOT for his benefit but yours.  YOU DONT WANT ANY THING NOW DO YOU.
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You could see a doctor if you're really worried about it, but I doubt if you have anything to worry about, unless you feel the development of any unusual lumps on your testicles, your scrotum starts to swell uncomfortably, etc.\n\nDuring the sex response cycle (the physical stages your body goes through to go from a resting state to an orgasmic one), one of the things your testes do is engorge themselves with blood, often doubling in size by the time of orgasm and ejaculation.\n\nThey also have to shunt the sperm they have stored in the epididymis which is attached to each testicle out to mix with prostatic fluid to form semen for ejaculation, so they do go through rather a lot by the time sex is over.\n\nThat effort tends to leave them feeling more sensitive than they normally do, and the temporary increase in blood volume could easily lead to a state where you were more aware of how your testicles felt inside your scrotum and have them feel heavier than usual because they are.\n\nThe feelings of increased sensitivity and weight should subside as your testes return to a resting state and to their normal size.
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A great movie to watch that will be very helpful!\nhttp://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8271947477140788534&q=men%27s+health&hl=en\n\n\n\nOriginal Article:http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/premature-ejaculation/DS00578 \n \nPremature ejaculation\nIntroduction\nMany men occasionally ejaculate sooner than they or their partner would like during sexual intercourse. As long as it happens infrequently, it's probably not cause for concern. However, if you regularly ejaculate sooner than you and your partner wish — usually, before intercourse begins or shortly afterward — you may have a condition known as premature ejaculation.\nPremature ejaculation is the most common male sexual dysfunction. In the United States, premature ejaculation affects about one in five men ages 18 to 59. Although the problem is often assumed to be psychological, biology also may play a role.\nIn some cases, premature ejaculation is a secondary problem related to erectile dysfunction. Men who are anxious about obtaining or maintaining their erection during sexual intercourse may form a pattern of rushing to ejaculate.\nNumerous treatments, often used in combination, are available to improve premature ejaculation.\nSigns and symptoms\nThere's no medical standard for how long it should take a man to ejaculate. The primary sign of premature ejaculation is ejaculation that occurs before both partners wish in the majority of sexual encounters, causing distress for one or both partners. The problem can occur in all sexual situations, including masturbation, or may only occur during sexual encounters with another person.\nDoctors often classify premature ejaculation as either primary or secondary:\n·Primary premature ejaculation. You have primary premature ejaculation if you've experienced the problem for as long as you've been sexually active.\n·Secondary premature ejaculation. You have secondary premature ejaculation if you developed the condition after having had previous, satisfying sexual relationships without ejaculatory problems.\nCauses\nPremature ejaculation is considered a psychological problem in some cases. Some doctors believe that early sexual experiences, especially those in which you may have hurried to reach climax in order to avoid being discovered, may establish a lifelong pattern. If you grew up in a family that considered sex dirty or sinful, you may also have developed guilty feelings that increase your tendency to rush through sexual encounters.\nHowever, biological factors also may cause premature ejaculation. Some studies comparing men who experience premature ejaculation with those who don't have found differences between the two groups in certain hormone levels and in the sensitivity of their genitalia.\nRisk factors\nVarious factors can increase your risk of premature ejaculation, including:\n·Impotence. You may be at increased risk of premature ejaculation if you occasionally or consistently experience impotence. Fear of losing your erection may cause you to rush through sexual encounters.\n·Health problems. If you have a medical concern that causes you to feel anxious during sex, such as a heart problem, you may have an increased likelihood of hurrying to ejaculate.\n·Stress. Emotional or mental strain in any area of your life can play a role in premature ejaculation, often limiting your ability to relax and focus during sexual encounters.\n·Certain medications. Rarely, drugs that influence the action of chemical messengers in the brain (psychotropics) may cause premature ejaculation.\nWhen to seek medical advice\nTalk with your doctor if you ejaculate sooner than you and your partner wish during most sexual encounters. The problem is common, and although you may feel you should be able to fix it on your own, you may need medical treatment to achieve and sustain a satisfying sex life.\nScreening and diagnosis\nDoctors diagnose premature ejaculation based on a detailed interview about your sexual history.
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Okay, I'm thinking back to my sex-ed classes but the stages are like desire, arousle, plateau, then orgasm.  If a guy sees something sexual, that can cause him to get aroused or get hard (ie an erection).  Forms of foreplay can do this to.  Kissing, touching.  That can all lead to arousle.  There is a pre-cum stage where some secretions come out but nothing huge yet.  I think a guy needs to be touched there, though, to experience orgasm and spilling their fluids (ejaculation).  Either with hands, mouth, or ahem...other areas.  Girls though, have their clitoris outside of their vaginal opening so that's usually all they need to achieve orgasm.  Hence vibrations, touching, smaller things can cause orgasm.  Personally, I like making out, but I need a much more hands-on approach to achieve orgasm.
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I would definitely consult a doctor. Good Luck!
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i turned 34 two months ago, and i know where you're coming from.  i also had a tubal, which i thought was affecting everything from my mood, to my body fluids, and i even stated LOSING weight! (tried before, didnt happen).  maybe it's pre-menopause, at least that's what my ob/gyn tells me;  it could also be hormonal changes other than pms- my doctor told me to start exercising and take b12 supplements. hope you feel better and i hope this helps!
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As i understand your questions, u r saing that you hadnt the disorder before your marriage.\nIf that is true, and you dont have any medical conditions that can have an effect on your sexual functioning (diabetes, hipertension, some weird uncommon neurological diseases), and you dont do drugs (legal or ilegal) It is a psychological problem. How is your partner taking it? is your partner supportive? You can buy a self help book called "the premature ejaculation" by Helen Singer Kaplan, its quite old but it has some great sex-cersises for the condition. \nWas the PE first or second? if u began with the PE, by the time you overcome it the ED with recede too. \nViagra seems to be a good option, but it will only help u with the ED. If u plan to use it consult your physician first.\nIf the book doesnt work, find a sex therapist, it will help.\nGood luck
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Agree with others, age may be a factor here; but erectile problems are, in a physical sense, basically about blood flow. So in this respect, age is not necessarily the main factor here. So, I'd start with a 'physical.' \n\nED can sometimes be a by-product of diabetes. Are there other classic signs, thirst, excessive peeing, etc.? Is there an enlarged or aggravated prostate problem? Enlarged prostate can interfere with blood flow. A general cardio-vascular problem? Is he getting regular exercise?\n\nSometimes, it's 'all in his mind,' meaning psychological stresses from work, or other sources. If he is worried, it will just shut him down, totally. So, maybe ask him, not like an inquisition, but maybe just tease it out of him, about workplace/relationship with coworkers issues?\n\nSpice it up? I don't mean to go for handcuffs, etc. (no offense to those who enjoy this, whatever floats your boat), but after a long time with a partner, even though things can still be hot, they can also become very 'routine.' Are there varying ways you could stimulate him? Alot of guys don't realize that pretty much the entire pelvic floor of the male body is packed with G-spots. You wanted to hear from a guy, so I can pass this along to you: if he is stimulated from the bottom up, the blood flow is more increases, and produces a better erection, engorged to the max, and therefore all nerve endings usually buried within folds of skin, are now exposed in full sensitivity.\n\nI am not trying to be (porno)graphic, just plainly honest. it's basically anatomy 101, and simple, natural physiology. it's the way a guy's body 'works.'\n\nDon't know if this helps, but it is submitted as a serious and honest answer.\n\nGood luck!
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Sounds like it has been stretched out from over use. Slow down. Try less partners. Use pelvic exercises to strengthen the muscles. Most of the time the female orgasm is reached from the exterior stimulation anyway. Focus more on this and less on the actual intercourse.  F1sTing is always an option! Let me know if I can help!
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I'm having the same problem as you are - I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 29.  We've been trying for around 2 years as well.  I went to a doctor about it and after some ultrasounds, etc. I found out that even though I ovulate normally, the eggs never become mature enough to be fertilized.  I was told that was fertility drugs, I'll probably be able to conceive.  You could have something similar.  Have you ever been tested for endometriosis?  Infertility can be a sign as well as severe pain and heavy flow during your periods.  Although not all people have the same symptoms.  When you are financially able, I'd go see a doctor about your problem to find out whats going on.
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I honestly have never heard of the swelling before but the discharge is pretty tell-tale. Your choices are: vaginitis, bacterial vaginosis, yeast infection (commonly caused by Candida albicans), trichomoniasis, gonorrhea, or chlamydia. Every woman is different so it is possible that whatever is going on with you is causing swelling that your doctor may not have even seen before and therefore has no basis for comparison. So my advice would definitely be to get a second opinion immediately. This could be something so simple and easily treatable with antibiotics, creams, or ointments. Or it could be something more serious that requires immediate treatment and follow-up. Either way, knowing and doing something about it will save you a lot of grief and worry and will alleviate discomfort and hopefully solve your problem. Remember this if nothing else: No one cares about you more than you. Do whatever it takes to be proactive about your health and never stop questioning and looking for answers to make sure that you're doing all you can to help yourself. Take care!
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hi i had something like this too- got cortison injected etc...and the dermatoligist could not find a reason- a while later I found teh solutuion myself- i was not feeling "happy" at the time- not very happy relationship, as soon as this was over teh swelling never occured again
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There maybe several reasons she can't orgasm...she may have a history of sexual abuse,and you have to make sure you treat her with a lot of respect and compliment her body a lot , tell her how smart she is and don't let her think you don't love her.
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I have/had it and it killed mine for the longest time.  If you are in pain, you really don't care about anything except pain relief.  It almost destroyed all my friendships and relationships.  The only time I felt like having sex was when the doctor game me percocets.  Fibro was terrible.  My whole body felt like one big bruise for three years.  I had worked in a steel foundry and was used to pain and this was  intolerable.  I was on morphine for six months.\n\nI find/found relief by keeping the temperature in the house very constant at 70 degrees.  I never take hot baths or hot saunas or expose myself to the cold weather too much.  The cold cause pain, but the heat does the real damage to the deep layers of the skin.  (the fascia) .  The facia(deep bruising pain) in my case was caused by overexposure at work.  Deep fascia pain feels exactly like muslce pain and in my case the skin looked almost normal.\n\nhttp://epe.lac-bac.gc.ca/100/201/300/cdn_medical_association/cmaj/vol-162/issue-1/0077.htm
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Sounds like hemhorroids and an infected  sebaceous gland, but it's hard to tell without a thourogh exam.  See your Dr. ASAP!  That is no area you want to play aroud with.  (Pun not intended)
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this condition is caused vulvodynia. it is due to nerve irritation secondary to disease, irritation, or injury of the nervous system that persists in the absence of ongoing disease or acute injury. There are no large randomized trials to guide therapy of these patients. We suggest education and counseling, good vulvar hygiene, a trial of pharmacotherapy, and referral to specialists (pain, physical therapy) if these measures are ineffective.\nBottom line is that a visit to an ob/gyn maybe necessary. Good luck.
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AN ORGASM WILL ACTUALLY CAUSE CONTACTIONSAND PUSH EVERTHING OUT FASTER...ASK UR OB/GYN