How can i get my gf trust back?
958786
There's no easy way.  You need to be really honest with her for a long time.  Make sure it doesn't seem like your hiding anything.  Make your life and your schedule an open book.  Make sure you can be contacted at any time, and tell her exactly what you're doing whenever she asks.  Don't delete the records on your caller id or cell phone.  Don't hide emails or IMs from  her.\n\nIf she didn't break up with you, then she's willing to try to trust you again.  You just have to be very open for a long time.
488526
Love and trust cannot be forced. I appears to me that she has trust issues in the first place if she can't let go of something that she knows to be false. Of course, there is also the chance that something else is affecting her decision. Ask her to tell you why she won't return your calls, if she says she doesn't want to talk to you, you best let go. You could also try dropping communication to zero for a couple of weeks. You might make her curious and she might even come to ask YOU what's going on. Then you two can talk it out and figure out what is best for each of you. Hope these ideas can help you. Good luck. \n\nTo everyone else, It isn't fair to automatically consider someone to be a "moron" or "stalker" without knowing all the details. I think this person deserves the benefit of the doubt. We have all seen much worse than this. Thanks.
706236
Trust is one of the hardest issues to address in any relationship.  She broke your trust and its going to take a lot of work for that to ever be right again.  I would honestly get into some marriage counseling for this reason alone.
686232
Unfortunately, she knows you cheated before. Now, you are climbing a mountain to get back up to a level playing field.\n\nThe ONLY way to get her to believe you is to go out of your way to make her feel secure. She doubts you, so you will have to work overtime to keep her from running away.
254214
2yrs is a long time if you decide to get back together its like starting a new relationship except the fact you have been broken before. A relationship should not be brain surgery but in your case you should understand that some woman have to go to the bottom to realize that you were the best out there I will lie if i  was to say you can gain trust because now not only you don't trust her every argument is going to pop up about the fact that she left. Think about yourself a little think what do you want... whats gonna make you happy...she tested the water and now she want you ...you got to realize the importance of trust is in the relationship without it you wont be happy.....if you still love her you got to let the past go and expect it can happen again..........but you cant let it effect you....
22597
Don't give her another reason to not trust in you and be patient with her you just have done something real bad to her you can't blame her being aftraid to trust in you again - imagine yourself being in her shoes before you say you have lost your patience on her.
575416
You can't! You blew it! Time to move on. A woman will forgive, but she will never forget. Neither should you and next time you meet someone you really care about, consider not doing things that will make her not trust you.
813544
How do you learn to trust again?\n\nThe easy but true answer is the Nike Response:  "Just Do It."\n\nRemind yourself that your current partner is not the one who wronged you, and your current partner shouldn't pay for your ex's betrayal.\n\nOwn your feelings and actions.  You CAN help jumping to conclusions.  You steer your life; your life doesn't steer you.\n\nYou have to relive your past as long as you decide that's what you want to do.\n\nDecide to be happy instead.\n\nGood luck and best wishes with your new relationship!
116591
the only way you can regain trust is both parties are willing to put what ever the problem was in the past and not ever bring it up again. And I'm sorry to say that is a hard thing to do. Anytime a argument comes up and if its on the sme lines as the problem it will come up again, and again,and again. But If the both of you want trust back then you'll work on it,but it wont be easy.
181367
I have the same problem, ive been hurt by friends and family and i STILL think up conspiracy theories. Talking with him will help some, but the change has to be WITHIN you, the only thing he can do is make his life a little more open for you. I try to be as open and honest with my GF as possible, that way she can trust me more, also i tell her where ive been and she even knows my E mail password. She knows who is on my buddy list and who ive called. I do all of this so that there WONT be trust issues in our relationship. BUT she could still be paranoid, so she has to just admit to herself, that if im cheating on her, then it DOESENT MATTER, she will just break up with me and move on, or if i truly repent then fix the problem and continue the relationship. But you HAVE to let it go, go out on a limb and put yourself out there. once you say it doesent matter, and you have "let that person go" then that takes away any walls that were in your relationship before.
506094
be honest and tell her how much you missed her, how much you longed to see her and how you love her that's enough to make a girl happy.\n\nall your Gf want from you is your true love and be truth full to her.\ngood luck.
835581
I would visit www.survivinginfidelity.com.  In my opinion if she wants to keep you and rebuild your trust, she has to STOP seeing him and prove to you that she is committed to making your marriage work.  I wish you luck, it doesn't sound good.
146127
Yes.. relation is there for rest of the world.. but you people know from inner core of heart that.. once TRUST is gone.. it is tough again to build up a relation. In that case I would try my level best to bring it back.. if I love that person and make her beleive that she is wrong.
563612
Sorry, but if she doesn't trust you, there is no basis for a relationship!  You have no choice in the matter but to move on!
746883
You can't. If you get back with him it will not be hte same as before. He will not trust you for whatever reason you broke up int he first place. Find someone new & start fresh.
156301
Listen to her and trust her, and quit doing whatever it is your doing wrong in the relationship thats making you jump to conclusions.  Be careful not to accuse her of something your actually doing...Guilt will get the best of you....
1003037
you need to talk to her and try to make an effort to spend more time together. find out why she doesn't trust you and try to change. If you really love someone you will be able to talk and work it out..