My daughter is concerned that every guy that she becomes interested in and attracted to tends to be homosexual
966698
When I was dating during high school the girl I took to the prom (my first dating experience) told me that her first boyfriend turned out to be gay.  I was devastated to hear this as I could never tell her the truth about me (still hoping not to be gay) in fear of hurting her again.  \n\nI am sure its because she is attractive and safe (being kind and thoughtful) and a little bit of dumb luck that she dated homosexuals.  She actually fulfills their desire of the woman they would like to be with if they had natural attraction.\n\nTell her to be flattered and say thank you.  Then wish them well in their future relationships.
187044
Sounds like he is gay and afraid to come out of the closet, sounds like he is using your sister as a mask, per say, to hide his true sexual orientation. Most non-gay men want sex all the time with women. Most are not virgins at 25. If he was not gay, he would not be "flattered" that gay men are looking at him like that. He would most likely be "disgusted" at it. He could be bi also that is always a possibility.
1180132
she might feel bad that this person is a lesbo maybe your girlfriend is bi?????!!!!!!!!?!?!?!?!??!??!?!??!?
1157738
Hormones and peer pressure are what's going to change your little girl's view on boys. You might want to talk to her about finding friends her own age or a little younger if you don't want her interest in boys to spike too fast. (nothing you can do about the hormone thing, though)
1180383
First, pray and ask God for wisdom in this situation. Then, have a private meeting with her, and inform her that she has a terrible reputation as the town slut. Let her know that you are not accusing her of anything, but when people come up to you and say these things, it makes you feel really uncomfortable, and puts you on the defensive because you love her. Before she answers, let her know that if she is sleeping around with many men, then you are not there to judge her, you just want to help. Let her know that HIV and Aids are still very much around even though we don't hear that much talk about it anymore. Also let her know that if she continues with this kind of reputation, no good respectable man is ever going to marry her and bring her home to mom. I don't know your religious background, but if you are a Christian, then please let her know that pre-marital sex is against God and a terrible sin. However, because of God's grace and mercy, it's never to late to repent, and ask for forgiveness. I hope that this was able to help you out a little bit. My prayers will be with you, take care.
344685
I think I owuld be slightly worried by that to be honest, he's either very unconfident about his body and manlyhood or is a closet homosexual.... talk to him about it!
267436
I'd reccommend just asking what's up with your daughter and that boy. Maybe she's "dating" him. If you can gain her trust so that she can confide in you about her "relationships" then you won't have to worry about it. Be careful not to play the anxious mother though, or she won't feel comfortable talking to you. Talk to her like she's your best friend and it'll be easier to communicate your feelings about the neighborhood boy.
860908
I insist that it is not something you're born into - but results from a bad family dynamic.  A withdrawn, aloof father who shows no affection, love, concern & closeness & bonding with his son will do this to him, as will a dominant , bossy, loud-mouth & demanding & assertive mother who "wears the pants" while the father sits meekly & looks on and farts his time away.   when the boy doesn't bond with his dad & identify with him as a male role model - no doubt the boy will turn out to be a homo.\n\nFor lesbians, it happens with a nasty father, showing no love & respect for her - as well as a cold, detached, uncaring mother who doesn't bond with her daughter - but ostracizes the girl.\n\nProblem is that all this happens AT A VERY TENDER AGE - and that's why people always suspect they're "born" that way or that the genes did it to them.  \n\nNO One - in their full sanity & rational mind, fully competent mentally - would ever CHOOOOOOOSE to be homo.  It's not like on a certain morning a guy gets up from sleep & decides - "Well, I don't want girls, I want a guy to f-ck around with"  No -that's not what happens.  \n\nwhat happens is that viscerally, from within, the guy starts to feel physical & emotional attraction & need for a man's intimate presence - rather than for a female.   Parents bear the SOLE LIABILITY  for a lesbian daughter or a gay son.  \n\nthis has always been so - and is the undeniable truth !!!!!!!!!!!!
428500
Yeah, well culture and society doesnt allow THAT avenue of exploration, and most guys are told that they HAVE to like girls. Everything, almost, on movies, television, sports, books, and bar chats tell him that he is EXPECTED to want women. Later on, when he has time or space enough or open mindedness to really see what he is about without the expectations forcing him into a mold, he might discover that hes not really attracted to women. It takes being able to step out of the role that he has built his very life around. They may have honesty never even thought about it and it was only after living with a woman for a while that they realized they felt no sexual attraction towards her. I heard that the most violent homophobes are often themselves sexually frustrated and have gay feelings that they cannot accept about themselves so they turn their rage against gays who are happy with who they are. In the red heat of their anger they dont rationalize their feelings and figure out why they are mad.
472467
Good plan. Girls love gays. Modern age, fear of men, etc.
270066
She's going thru that stage in her life when she start's feeling diffrent about guys. Maybe she doesn't want to tell you because she doesn't feel comfortable talking about that with you maybe she does with her friends. When I was her age my mom wanted to know everything but I wanted some privacy.So try giving her some privacy.
487019
It really isn't your problem. But you can try to help her, by letting family members know and maybe even school consulars.\n\nIf the men she has been with are older then it is a legal matter. She obviously doesn't care so she won't help the police in the matter.\n\nToo many young girls end up doing this and then start having kids when they too are kids. This in turn becomes everyones problem.
345228
tell her how you feel. sounds like you don't have to worry about just boys but girls too.
1150277
Wow. That's horrible. She needs to get some respect for you. If you like a white guy, you like a white guy... Nothing she can do about it. Everyone of every nationality has different personalities. She is being ridiculous. Tell her that. If she's still really stubborn about it, try not talking to her until she changes her mind and realizes how wrong she is.
220999
don't let it bother you.\nShe is feeling threatened now that you might steal her "dear little boy"..and have more influence on him..\n\nIt is common !! They start to feel jealous !
764373
She needs to come out to them without you there.\n\nHer sexual orientation is not about you.\n\nIf she comes out with you sitting beside her you become the "dark witchy" woman who "turned their daughter gay".\n\nI think you'll all be much better off if she tells her parents separately and once they have had a little time to digest they can start getting to getting adjusted to you in relationship to their new understanding of their daughter.
490718
My daughter is going to feel the same way you do because she is basically the only girl in the family. How do I make her feel more comfortable around girls?