If one of your family members is gay, do you still support same-sex marriage?
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You can't make decisions based on if you know someone involved or not.  You have to be empathetic or not to gay marriage regardless.  If one of your family members is gay, that doesn't change whether it is right or not for gays to be married.
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Yes...although I'm thinking this wasn't the place to ask this question...unless you're looking for a fight.  You will invariably get rude and hateful answers.  Since you don't have any history, it's impossible for me to guage if you asked this to see others' views on the subject or if you are gay and wanting to marry.\n\nI am a strong advocate for gay marriage.  I'm straight myself, but I have quite a few gay friends and I like to think of myself as somewhat liberal.  Who are we to define who should and should not get married?  Granted, anything within a family is sick and wrong (although I'm sure there are some people out there that will beg to differ with me - but I've seen in places that the result of children from incestuous relationships often have severe abnormalities)...and I agree with NoMorLuv that anything involving animals (beastiality) is also wrong.  They can not speak for themselves.  Multiple partners, not okay either.  \n\nThat remains simple.  Set a law establishing that a marriage is a union between 2 persons - be it a man and a woman, 2 men or 2 women.  That's it.  1 union per 2 people, not related by blood.  There ya go.  Solves that.  Why can't 2 guys get married in most states?  Why can't 2 women?  Why does it matter?  \n\nI'll tell you why - because you have the religious types (nope, not quite sure where my faith lies) that say that it is wrong in the Bible.  I thought God was supposed to love you no matter what?  No matter what your sexual orientation?  I've seen people post here that if you repent for your sins (ie homosexuality - I saw it on a post concerning lesbians going to hell) that God will forgive you.  Why should you have to repent for loving someone of the same sex?  That implies that it's wrong, when it's not.  So what if you're the same sex?  As long as you love each other, that's what's important.\n\nIn my mind, I think that a marriage should be just as stated above.  It's a commitment to love and honor your spouse, no matter what.  I have a very close friend at work (he lives in Massachusetts - where gay marriage is legal) who is married to another man and he can't be happier!  And you know what, I can't be happier for him!  \n\nPeople say that by allowing gays to marry, it will destroy the sanctity of marriage.  Will not.  Like said, it shouldn't matter as long as there is love and commitment there!  \n\nPlus, there's the whole children thing.  Just because Mary has 2 moms (or 2 dads) doesn't mean that she will grow up to be a lesbian.  It's more important to show a loving relationship than the sex of the parents.  Homosexuality is not something that is induced by surroundings or peers, it's just something that happens.  Nor is it an abbhoration, as I've also seen people post here.  Damn people and their closed minds.  It's actually been seen in young children, sometimes they just don't know it yet.  I believe it's something that is just predetermined...a lot of gay people (mostly men) that I've talked to said they always knew.  Actually, my married friend was married to a woman once...he thought he might change!  (I saw that here too...someone said with enough of the right counselling they can "become" straight!)  So it really doesn't matter who your parents are, as long as they're happy.\n\nBesides, why should they be denied the benefits of being married just because they're not man/woman?  Gay people need health insurance too!  (No smart comments, future posters, please!)  Life insurance?  Then again, some plans might let you place a sibling or what not as a beneficiary.  There's the tax break (although that's not as big of a reason but it is still a reason)...\n\nSo all that being said...YES.\n\n\nPS - Thanks for the clarification.  I'm all for it.  If you don't live in a state where gay marriage is legal yet, lobby for
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Good morning, dearheart. Good for you. here's my take on gay marriage. I've been married to the same wonderful lady for the last 26 years. She drives OTR semi for a living and I'm a housewife. We both wear wedding rings and feel as married as the next heterosexual couple but I can get none of her health benefits. How my union is hurting society I can't fathom as our relationship has been monogamous for all of it's 26 years and that same union has lasted longer than many heterosexual marriages. There are couples on the LGBTQ site here that have been together for over 40 years (which is a great thing in its own right) How can their love be hurting anyone? Good luck and Blessings on you.
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Boy are you inviting grief asking that in this forum...  However, my heartfelt answer is: Where-ever you find love, why not be allowed to make that committment?\n\nI don't see how the government letting you marry the person you love in any way threatens me and my marriage and my family - I would still choose a heterosexual relationship whether or not gay marriage is legal - so my family life does not need defending from your legal status.  I truly believe that you would not chose this lifestyle if you had a choice.  \n\nGood luck to you.
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I support gay marriage all the way. Civil unions sound like a good way to keep the "sanctity of marriage" while still giving gays equal rights, but actually civil unions only give a portion of the rights that marriage gives and are more easily contested in court by family members. Gays and lesbians would still be denied equality that way. I also think the "sanctity of marriage" argument is bogus, as the definition of marriage not only differs with culture and religion, but has also changed within this country several times over the centuries. See the link for a short and amusing "history of marriage in America."
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My brother is gay and he still hasn't told the whole family!  He's told a select few of us, and that's all.  However, he did tell both of our parents.  How he did this:  He took them out to eat and told them plain and simple.  I'm not sure how your family is, but my family is very accepting, and my parents didn't mind so much.  No offense, but if your family is any good - they already have a clue!  So the answer to your question?  The sooner, the better.  Take your folks out to dinner and ask them how best to tell the rest of your family.  Do not be afraid, and know that life goes on, no matter what might happen.  The world will continue turning.\n\nI hope this helps.
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Good point! \nI also believe that homosexual marriages have no bearing on religion. Giving a legal marriage to a gay couple is not the same as forcing all churches in America to accept and perform the marriages. I really don't see why religion has a say in it, since I do believe in the seperation between church and state, and since no one's forcing all the religious damning homophobes to suddenly accept homosexuality. \nIt's very relatable to interracial marriages. And no it won't lead to beastiality or incest becoming legalized, since beastiality is just stupid and wrong and no one can say that one can love a cow, and incest is genetically wrong, so that won't ever be legalized either, don't give me your snowball fallacies.
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The law should be upheld as it stands... Church and state SHOULD STAY separated. The constitution clearly states that ALL men are created equal... Not STRAIGHT men are created equal. I think EVERYONE should get a chance to marry the person of their choosing and it's prejudice to say they can't. It's unfair. What if the world were based on homosexual relationships and the heterosexuals weren't allowed to marry? They would feel the SAME way about it. People who believe that marriage is only a union for heterosexuals are extreme bigots and shouldn't be allowed to have a say in it.
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Many voters and politicians are being bigots.  I have listened to radio talk shows and read tons of stuff on the Internet, and I have yet to see or hear an argument for banning gay marriage that makes sense to me.  I am a Christian.  I am against persecuting others and I expect to be persecuted.  Gay people being allowed to get married is not going to affect my heterosexual marriage one bit.  It is not going to affect my childrens' world views, but thinking that HATE is OK because it's officially sanctioned by the government might.  Let the church do as it will, but the state needs to allow minorities their basic civil rights.
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Is open marriage ok when one partner is gay or lesbian and the other knows about it? If the other partner is ok with it who are we to judge, even tho I think if you are married then if you have sex with someone else it is wrong but everyone is deffrent( If I was the wife and I found out my husband was gay he would be GONE! I would never be able to be with a guy who does guys sorrrrrrry! ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!\n\nand they have to stay together for childrens sake? They do not have to stay together for the kids sack! That is wrong! Wrong for them if they are not happy and wrong for the kids, it will end up harming the kids if they are not in a happy home!
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Totally against it. Where does one stop in the changing of the meaning of marriage. If gays can have the right to marry, why not brothers and sisters? Why not be able to have two wives? Four wives? Why not be able to marry a 7 year old? Why not be able to marry a dead person? Why not an animal? Where does it stop once you begin the trek down that slippery slope?\n\nMarriage is a sacred rite derived from religion. I know you liberal secularists hate to hear that, but it is true. Most religions define marriage as the union between one man and one woman.\n\nJust one man's opinion.
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My family wouldn't accept that. And I want to go to Heaven. Being gay is a waste of time and is stupid that people believe that gay stuff. I don't that's why being gay is a risk that I am not willing to take.
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Well, I'm not against it but my parents are.  When my brother finally came out of the closet, that did nothing to change their minds.  They were furious and my father told him he was sick in the head.  He was 19 at the time and had to move out of our home because my parents were being really horrible to him.  My Mom even 'disowned' him as a son at the time.  \n\nThey lost touch with him for a good 10 years.  My sister and I still kept in touch with him though.  It wasn't until recently that they are back in touch with him.  I guess they have somewhat accepted that he is gay but it is not discussed when they are around.  It still hurts him to this day and them reacting the way they did has messed him up a bit.  He knows he has the support of both my sister and I but sometimes I feel really bad for him not having the support of my parents.  Even though we are all adults now, it makes it no less hard to not have the approval of one's parents.  It's unfortunate because it's not like getting angry at your child and disowning them is going to make them any less gay.
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Neither of your families would do that, however alot of gays and lesbians have families who are not accepting of their relationship, therefore their family would and could do that. \n\nAs well as insurance and filing joint tax returns and things of that nature...\n\nThere are alot, some of which I dont even know about but the one that concerns me the most is the immediate family policy in hospitals. Not a blood relative or legal spouse, not admitted. Inheritance rights for children. The decision of what to do with my remains, my significant other knows this more than my mother, and i trust her more to abide with my wishes. \n\nSocial security for children we may have been raising.\n\nBlood relatives can actually fight a will and win in court against the partner of a deceased person.\n\nI'm sure there are alot that I'm even missing, but most importantly, the legal right to do so. I want to marry the person I love.\n\nAnd that old adam and eve not adam and steve crap is so played out. Anyone who takes the bible to literally mean God created ONE man and ONE woman too populate the earth is a complete and utter moron. Or shall I say an incetuous moron...
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i saw this really interesting show (daytime talk show)(could've been oprah...)in which people with different stances on gay marriage spoke their minds. the guy who really left an impression on me was an older gay man (40-50)who said he was with the same man for like 20 yrs or something and he in no way had any desire to ever marry,  period. obviously it wasn't a fear of commitment, he simply stated that marriage is a union between a man and a woman and so he was not a part of that equation. he also said, in lieu of the insurance arguments(ie: not being able to acquire insurance through your partner because your union is not recognized by the law), get a job! i thought this to be kind of bold because in some instances you have people with disabilities in relationships with others who are capable of going to work every day and insuring them; but if they are in a state that doesn't acknowledge gay marriage, they are in a state of S.O.L., if you know what i mean... i think that it's a shame when two devoted partners can't enjoy the feeling of finality that i felt once i became married. and the divorce rates are so high i don't know why the conservatives are so concerned with whether or not gays marrying threatens the sacredness of marriage. nothing really is sacred anymore (don't mean to sound hopeless but let's face it) babies are having babies, every day people make empty promises to each other and "god", and every day people break them. people go on t.v. and advertise "i'm hot and want to marry someone rich and hot" selling them selves, but 2 people with legitmate feelings for one another are not allowed to cement their union with a formal term and ceremony... just doesn't seem right at all... just sharing my thoughts, great question though!\nhave a good day!
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. . You are witnessing the degeneration that happens to all Nations before there fall. \n  If gay marriage is legalized, why can't a brother marry his sister? ? After all, you who claim gay marriage is okay, what gives you the right to oppose  two brothers, are a brother-sister marriage?  You went wrong when you created your own ethics. If right and wrong are merely what you esteem it to be, What ever gives you the right to oppose others, on anything,without being a intolerant bigot yourself? Is your opinion more worthy than theirs Are, are you just arrogant enough to think yours is,and theirs is not. Situational ethics is a train wreck. There has always been right and wrong, good, and evil. God told mankind what was right, and wrong. The U.S.A. is slipping into degeneracy. Marriage is what it has always been. All through history, marriage has been between a man and woman.  That is the very definition of marriage.
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Who knows why our country's doing anything it's doing. I agree with you completely. I'm sorry that you and your partner, as well as all other homosexuals, cannot show your love by marrying one another. Love is love. I don't think it matters if you're a man loving a man, a woman loving a woman, or a man loving a woman. If your heart is true you should be able to get married. Bottom line. I hope that you and your partner will one day have the same rights as the rest of us. And that this prejudice will end; to any degree it can.