In BDSM, what goes on in the mind of a submissive? Esp. males?
958958
Zero guilt. Total fun. Being forced to do somehting you love.
62733
bondage discipline sadism and masochism = Master/Mistress, Dom/ Domme, sub/slave whips and flogs and well now that is it i have to go to the dungeon...lol
459151
i play with a guys head to find out what makes them tick. to see how far i can push them. but give up after awhile. i wold never do anything that would damage the person or property just little mind games. i like playing hard to get cause ive been used and abused to many times
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I never have tried it, but I can't imagine I would want to do it to someone i was serious with.  it's not really my thing.  but i think i could do it to a submissive as a favor.
729686
Lol... Naughty boy!\n\nIt is Lust... my son. Control yourself before you get burned out :D
846726
I think men believe that the anus is tighter than the vagina in addition to a form of submissiveness.  I wouldn't let a guy enter mine unless he let he enter him first.  So far no takers, lol.
1083048
i'm too dominant to play one all the time, but i love being a slave for the night.  last time my husband tried to find my limits (he didn't believe me that i don't have any!)  he did tell me that i was a good little girl after we were all done!  so mostly i was tied and had to use my mouth... a lot.  i was blind folded for a little while.  we were outside in the front yard the whole time (we live in the country) so that made it even more exciting.  i brought my bag-o-fun so we had plenty of toys involved as well.\n\non the flip side, i don't get to be master like i want to be.  that would consist of sex at least, and i do mean at least, twice a day.  i have an extremely high libido that kids did not even damper.  so if it was my way, it would be all day!
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The clashing of feminity with aggressive (typically male) behavior.. He probably also has fantasies about them engaging in sex acts.. Or if he has deep-seated unresolved emotional issues, he could be taking the fantasy to an extreme level.. Mixing the sensuality and the violence and culminating in a imagined situation of the woman that wins that fight raping the other..
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Who cares?  Maybe he's just thinking about getting off.  That's what I think about when I masterbate.  As long as he has sex with me and is faithful, I don't care what my hubby thinks about when he jerks off.
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I don't. I want my husband to be large and in charge. My husband will be the king of his castle, and a hush king is not a good king. I think men have been brainwashed into believing that they are supposed to be tender. I want my man to be strong,  both physically and emotionally. I want him to say what he wants, because how else will I know so I can make him happy? I want my husband to taech my boys to hunt and fish and split wood and work hard. I hate the kind of men you're talking about. I think they're whipped, and I also think that that's wrong. Period. Men should be in charge.
524345
trying to be controlling...\ndon't let him...\nmy boyfriend tried that too.....but he didn't get his way...
626065
i dont know what BDSM is.. but the bible is the firstplace i would go to learn about spirits.. it's never been proven wrong so it's worth a shot.
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i don't want an agressive control freak. ii like to be in control.  i will take a submissive type
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Honestly, guys don't plan this... they just have a different level of thinking about what is important.\n\nI'm not saying your concerns aren't important to your man, but his thoughts and logic are somewhere else unconnected to these issues.
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Wow Robert, that's a deep question.  While I'm not exactly sure where your position is in this question... are you the one abusing or watching someone be abused?  It appears that you are the one abusing, so I will go with that.  I have been an abused woman, mentally, physically, monetarily and sexually.  I didn't like it one bit.  It is a demeaning and horrible thing to do to another person.  After the initial shock of it all, one begins to think they deserve it until it becomes a way of life.  Thankfully, I woke up before he killed me.  \nThere are people who are submissive totally by nature who are into BDSM and to them, they need a dominant figure in their lives.  Someone to guide them and discipline them and to them this is love.  To their Masters or Owners, who crave this, between both of them, it is the most generous gift one can give to the other.  I will not disagree with these people because they are the only ones that know what they "need" to exist and feel at peace within themselves.  \nIf I understand your question correctly and you are wanting to change the fact that you abuse women and then loose the relationship, I would suggest finding a support group of some kind to help you with it.  If you find it is something you truly need in your life, then perhaps you may want to do some research on the BDSM lifestyle and learn what it is about.  My best friend is a Dom and explained it to me in a way that I truly understand what he means when he says he does not "abuse" his submissive.  While it's not something I would be interested in, I feel it gives him and his partner an opportunity for them both to get what they crave.  I will add here that that lifestyle requires a certain mind set and a complete understanding of it.
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Whats next? Think about it! If for one moment he thinks he's losing control of you an attempt on your life could follow. Happens every day. Good Luck.
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i think every 'lady' has a bit of a bad girl inside of her just waiting to get out. treat me like a sl ut? only in the bedroom.....LOL\n\ni would go to any lenghts to please the man i'm with providing he would do the same as me.\n\nremember if you want to keep your man happy be.............\n\nA lady in the street\nA cook in the kitchen\nA maid in the living room\nAnd a sl ut in the bedroom