do guys really think big girls are ugly?
955763
LISTEN honey.  There are no such thing, there are different body masses and bone structures.  Maybe I am coming in from a whole nother culture, but in the islands, when you are more than regular, you are 'healthy' or 'wealthy', fer real.  Thats one.  Two, at twelve, that should be the last thing on your mind, no joke.  It will rob you of your personality.  Please don't try too hard to fit in, REAL people will accept you for who you are.  I don't detect a bad eating habit, as I think that you would mention it.  But just try to eat the things that parents want you to eat.  Trust me, I am a parent.
119474
Its the social stigma of "fat" girls....which sucks...people look down on you because you are bigger than the average norm or what people think is normal and it gets better when you are older...As long as you are happy with yourself and so what you are "big", "Fat", "overweight" etc. if someone can't love you for who you are or even like you then you dont need them and to me they are pretty shallow...Tell your girl Love yourself and the right guy will come along.
497510
i have to be honest and admit the fact that women , just like men, are attracted by appearances, cause we're superficial beings, but looks have no value if they   don't have a backup of the same size, meaning if a guy's goodlooking but stupid the girl will deffinetly turn around and erase him from her "nice guys" list. for example, i like honest guys, i feel attracted when something looks natural and i really hate those who are trying to fake anything.si just be urself but don't push it if u aren't a nice guy:) good luck
289412
I kinda know how you feel.  I have a guy friend who feels the same as you and he talks to me about it sometimes.  Yeah it is kinda true.  I'll be honest with you and I don't mean to be rude or offend you but I've noticed that a lot of physically attractive men turn out to be @$$holes but on the other hand, the sweetest guys usually aren't the best looking.  So, like most women (and men) will go for someone who looks hot but in the end, they get hurt.  They want a shoulder to cry on and knowing how caring you are, they'll go to you.  I used to go after the good looking ones but I kinda gave up on that after I realized they all turned out to be @$$holes or perverts.  I mean, I still won't date a guy who is ugly lol but they still have to look at least decent.  I have found that these kinda guys actually respect women more and are very sweet.  So, with that being said, sorry to be blunt but you may need to change your looks and the way you dress.  I know it sucks but its true that people tend to be attracted to someone by looks and believe it or not but it does affect they're decision if they'd date you or not.  Also, I'm sure you'll find a good girl.  Hey, there's 3 women to every man on this planet...that's plenty enough for everyone.  Maybe you should stop looking.  I think they tend to come around when you least expect it and aren't looking.
819912
no, women really seem to hate them, but to guys it's just a sign of womanhood, and boobs that have stretch marks cause they're so big are actually kinda hot.\n\nGuys get hairy backs, and bald heads. Both sexes have their downfalls
1034400
Never put beauty above everything else...\n\nEveryone wants to look nice, beautiful, sexy, muscular (for men)!!\n\nI have beautiful, drop-dead gorgeous friends who are just so tired of shaking off men's advances. At least these girls arent shallow.\n\nthe shallow beauties are just beautiful shells, empty/filthy inside...you'll never enjoy a meaningful life with girls like these.\n\nI'll go for brains, if beauty comes in a package ...well that's a bonus.
436933
no they are really ugly\nyoure really cute
950732
Because they are immature boys with no self confidence.  There was another question similar to this one.  Here is what I wrote on that one:  \n\nIn my opinion, as a woman, I have always assumed that men wouldn't want to date a BBW or plus-size woman. (I'm 43 yrs old). About a year ago I met a really great guy who expressed interest in me - extreme interest. I came right out and asked him why he was paying so much attention to me (we had only met and emailed) and he was very honest and he said that women with big hips and thighs turned him on. I nearly fainted. We have been seeing each other over the past year and the attraction has grown. We have talked many, many times and I told him that I thought most men don't want plus-size women. He told me that I would be surprised the number of men that like larger women. Via the internet, he has shown me how much. The number of men who are attracted and adore plus-size women, is absolutely amazing. Believe me when I tell you....it gives us plus-sizers hope. \n\nThe relationship that I've had with this guy in the past year, has been better than any I've ever had. Previously, I never had a guy who wanted to see me in sexy lingerie. I never had a guy who wanted me to dress up in a short skirt and garters. I never had a guy who constantly tells me how beautiful I am. It is incredible and is absolutely wonderful. I can't get enough of it!! Talk about an ego booster and talk about boosting my self esteem! He has made me feel so much better about myself and my body. \n\nMen need to realize that plus-size women are no different than average size, or thinner women. We want a relationship, we want sex, we want exactly what other women want....there is more to us than the exterior. Don't assume we are just stupid fat women. We are regular people, and have feelings too.\n\nMen who like plus-size women need to stop worrying that their friends will laugh at them for liking plus-size women. A woman is a woman... tall, thin, short, average, plus-size... doesn't matter. Be a man and be with who you want to be. \n\nHoney - you need to be more self-confident and be happy with yourself and your body.  No one can do that for you....  A man will notice a self-confident woman.  Your self confidence will improve after he shows you a little attention.  That's what has happened with me.  But generally, you must be happy with yourself first.  \n\nJust be yourself.  Don't try so hard to be what you think guys want.  Just be you....
1148152
beauty is in the eye of the beholder.i personally think some over weight chicks carry their weight well some dont.just because your fat or skinny dont mean your going to look good or bad.
1145923
it just seems to be society and instinct i guess. bigger men can be seen as strong and virile, bigger women are seen as lazy and unfit... i dont get it either but its the way of our world at the moment in many places. it used to be acceptable for women to be bigger and curvier - just look at old paintings! lots of those women had big thighs and flabby tummies - i believe it was associated with childbirth and being more of a woman after you have given birth. now people in many countries seem to want to see very very thin women with tiny waists. but its not the same everywhere, many cultures still see a larger woman as being more attractive.\n\nps ive often wondered why i cant create a larger frame for my yahoo avatar that more reflects what i actually look like? just another symptom of the way society portrays people. i believe that it used to have a larger frame for the male avatars did it not? not sure if its still there but i thought i saw one with a chubby belly.. but didnt see bigger ones for the gals... thats just something i wondered about ;)
235959
thick to obese.they don't work out,so they don't expect you to,there is ALWAYS food around and they have almost always had to take time to educate themselves and develop a personality.most of the time they are just funner to be with and they usually will do more to please there partner than those so-called hot chick with the bad attitudes.I'll take a big girl with a sense of humor over a skinny girl that complains anytime.
7244
They don't like going out with big girls for one of two reasons: They are afraid of what other people will think or they are too shallow to try and like someone for something other than the way they look.  Either way they will end up lonely and unhappy.
528972
OKay..I'm a little person. But I'm going to have to say, I'm jealous of some big gals. My breast will never be as big and my hips won't budge! lol\n\nI have some big gal friends and they get plenty of play. Men love the curves! So 'fat girls' get plenty of men......it's all attitude!
350110
I think that men can be attracted to you at first sight.  There are men that prefer big women and would see the immediate attraction.  It is sad to say that people are so quick to judge by the outer cover, but it really happens a lot and doesn't give the real person a chance to shine.
63652
I am a female, and no i don't think that, I find that with my past relationships my looks were just a bonus, if the girl has a great personality, then there really isnt a need for great looks or nice rack or a firm rear. so if you find that you like this girl with an amaxing personailty and colorful aura, then no it isnt based on looks, im pretty average and none of my relationships are based on looks and ive dated some of the best looking guys around.
167418
Guys who only love women for their looks are downright shallow. Not all guys are like that. There are guys out there who actually are attracted to a great personality. They are rare gems indeed. Look out for these rare ones. The rest are just shallow.
916017
no....and that is really sad, because in our society we are ashamed to be seen with a fat chick....sad, but true....I personally like being around them because the have lots of personality and so much fun to be with! my Parents always told me never to judge ppl by the way there look....I rather have someone around me with a little meat on them, then some shallow nitwit...lol