Dating again at age 50-when does sex come into the picture, what do men expect?
969591
Hey, it doesn't matter when they expect it--they'll take it as soon as you are ready to engage in it.  Don't be forced into something before you are ready.
399976
I am 71... and I have loved one person througout my married life for 48 years... (now through death, am single again) and I can tell you that over those 48 years, sex had started out as the "seed" of the loving relationship, but it developed into the "fruit" of the relationship... and the blending of our two personalities and souls into a working relationship became more important than just the sex.  The first 7 years of a relationship are sexually based... Called the "Limerick Stage of Love" (spelling may be wrong...) then that starts to evolve into a deeper more lasting relationship, and this is what builds over the years into a solid foundation that carries you both through the bad, difficult and trying times together.  You each have to decide what is important to you and based upon your decisions, you will then know what is best for you both... and can work things out for each partner's growth and benefit. Hope this helps... Blessings!  \nPS... With the waning of this strong bond of sexual love in those first 7 years... people usually make the mistake that they are "falling out of love" and it is time for a divorce.  They do not follow thru and endure... and have faith that something more wonderful will develop... most loving relationships today are totally sexually based... and as the loss of interest in sex wanes... so goes the relationship... Not the best bases for a 50 year lasting relationship... don't you think???
838073
Men are often depicted as shallow and only interested in sex.  I am male in my mid-30's.  Men want to have fun.  Fun can be great sex, travel, a good hobby... What we want is a woman who will accept us, not try to change us (too much), and try to have fun WITH us.  It's not a matter of the man's age.  It's a matter of the relationship.  Over time a relationship has to become comfortable and enjoyable.  He has to be comfortable and happy with her, and she has to be comfortable and happy with him.  However, being comforable does not mean predictable. There has to be a chance that your mate will suprise you (AKA romance).\n\nI've been married for nearly 16 years.  We have had some bad times, and we have both changed mentally and physically.  We accept eachother as we are, we make an effort have fun together, and we try to stay out of any ruts! That's the only way it can work in the long term. Age doesn't change anything if you build the right relationship. Men are still PIGS, but in a good relationship they keep their perverted minds to themselves (unless they know for sure their thoughts won't offend their mate).
249222
Apparently there is something right with your relationship since you have been together for so many years. Being an outsider looking in, here's what I would suggest. First of all, I just finished reading a fabulous book, For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. This married woman and a crew of men and women surveyed men of all races, ages and religious backgrounds. What she found out is that men just need sex. It's their way of needing affection from their partners. There is no shame in your needing or wanting sex. It's a perfectly healthy part of a relationship. Sex was not the main focus of her book by the way. Most men see sex as a need. Most women see sex as a way to show affection. So.. apparently your wive is missing the whole romantic aspect of your relationship as a whole. She needs affection in another form other than physical affection. Try going back to your dating years. What did you do for her, other than go at it like two rabbits that made her fall in love with you? Random love notes? Cards? Flowers? Time alone? What about a weekend getaway for two? Your wife needs to know that you love and respect her outside the bedroom. Reassure her, verbally that you want, need and love her. Talking about how wonderful she in infront of her friends is also a great way to prove how much you care for her. Remember that romance and love is more than just healthy sex.
1118407
Sex and the chase are certainly big time factors.\n\nI'm getting older though, and I REALLY appreciate a woman who has her life in order and has a brain between her ears.  I've dated all kinds of women, and I simply have no tolerance for dummies anymore, no matter how good they look or how freaky they are in the sack.\n\nA woman who can hold her own in an intelligent conversation is rare and definitely worth the pursuit.
375893
Well, I am a 33yo divorced mother of 2 boys.  I DO NOT want a committed relationship.  Maintaining my independence and identity is important to me.  Non-committal sex is the "easiest" way for me.  It really does sound  morally questionable, however, I have needs as well.  \nI met a man shortly after I split from my hubby.   The sex was PHENOMONAL. We were actually a couple for 6 months. This is terrible to say, but the sex is the only reason I stayed with him.  We weren't compatible as a couple. But I thought about the sex all the time. I have NEVER felt a sexual connection with anyone before like this.  After we broke up I proposed this idea to him about FWB.  He was a little surprised.  Maybe felt more USED than anything.  He said OK. We'll see. Haven't had sex  yet since before the break-up.  If a female can prevent from getting emotionally attached, more power to ya. I think it is a great idea.
1029116
I am 28,  seeing a man who is 49.  I have always dated older, several years older.  I have always been more "settled" than others my age,  never being into the whole party/drinking scene, etc, etc.  I find that older men have "been there,  done that" and are in turn more settled as well.  They better understand that pleasantness and value in just being able to sit next to someone and be content.  I don't really know how to explain it other than being more comfortable and laid back.
1061651
I believe women reach their sexual peak by 40 yrs old.\n\nI traded mine in for 2 twenty-year olds and let her have her fun!
214761
I think that  younger guys feel enough mature thinking that they can be with some one older than then and having what they want from that  desire; but, surprise sex doesn't make a  younger guy  mature.The responsibility that bring to afford after sex and life with any woman no matter age is the real situation that  makes mature a guy and that is  the real deal. so if guys like older women  is just  simple attraction mostly and partially sense of insecurity.In my point of view
279662
Thats a really good question. I am 26, and I had to ponder this one for a second. Of course I don't know if it gets better in your 30's or not, but I do understand that for women, it is a sexual peak (which I am looking forward to). As for teen sex, there is good and bad. The great thing about teen sex is that there is such a sense of urgency as well as the fact that everything is so, so new (assuming that you haven't been having sex since your pre-teens). Every kiss and touch is heightend by the newness of it all. But, the bad thing is the lack of experience on both sides as well as the fact that young women can often experience uncomfortable pain from lack of being streched (for lack of a better word) As for me, my 20's is by far the best for sex!! I have much more of an appreciation for not only the emotional, passionate side of sex, but the physical side. As you get older you become much more aware and comfortable of your body and what feels good to you. Hope this helps.
183508
When you know a person without sex first, and you really want to be with each other all the time, the sex will come naturally and be mindblowing.  Courting use to be the way it was done years ago.  I believe that's why older couples have remained married for so long, because they got to know each other first and decided to committ the rest of their lives to each other before they had sex.
1042153
well, im not 60 yet. but, i'd rather have someone with a personality, lately i'm not too enterested in sex. havent had any in about a year.
319103
Depends on the man. Shouldn't you be asking yourself this question???? Some men, old and young want sex all the time. Some don't care for it. It just depends on the guy. How important is it to you???
513002
Wow, a gentleman over 50 who wants to date.  What a rarity you are and I get the idea that you don't even know it!  She appears to need to spread her wings a bit and find out what the dating life is all about these days - trust me, it is a LOT different than when she was 20!  Let her find out.  You can't change that and you can't rush it and you can't even influence that, except, perhaps, to make her leave you alone completely.  You might want to consider doing the same thing - the spread the wings kind of thing.  See others!  Go out and DO things!  Meet people - again, trust me, there are ladies out there who are looking for you!  You will find companionship out there that will perhaps exceed what you have had with her.  You may even find passion!!!  (And if you do, practice safe sex.)  There is a world out there beyond exclusivity with her - take a look at it.
492892
I presume you mean sex??Well I've dated guys who don't expect that so perhaps you're dating the wrong guys!If you want to see a guy again I wouldn't recommend sex on the first date but take things slower and at a pace you're comfortable with.Have fun!
404597
Who are these middle aged men are they married?  Maybe they didn't marry the right one.  Me and my husband have been married 15 years(not all easy). I love him more today than I did 17 years ago when I met him and our sex is greater than ever.  If you love each other, are committed to each other and can share your thoughts and emotions GO FOR IT!!!\n\nGood Luck:-)
137662
Age is only a small factor in a mans sex drive.  At 43 depending upon his job and if there are other factors in life stressing him out he may only have time for sex a couple of nights a week.  On the other hand if life is good and everything is going great he may feel like having sex every day.  At 43 though unless he is in really great shape his body is starting slow down a bit and while he enjoys sex just as much it probably takes more time to get him excited and he probably doesn't recover as fast after.\n\nNow after all that I have to say that your decision to marry him shouldn't be about sex unless there is a major difference in your sex drives.  I think there needs to be some compatibility in sex drives but it shouldn't be even in your top 5 of things to consider when deciding to marry someone.