How can i overcome shyness?
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I am shy and shyness in not a disability, it's just a personality. There is a problem if you are too shy. You could start by participating in Yahoo Answers more often to familiarize yourself with the community and shyness will go away.
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It is okay to have some time between relationships with guyes.  Hang out with your girl friends, be nice to yourself and  treat your self.  Work on your shyness by voluteering for things that gets you out of your shell,  talk to people.  \nThe best place to meet nice guyes is in church.  God loves you and if you go to church, God will bring nice guyes into your life.  You are probably a nice girl, dont settle for a scum-bum over the internet.
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I am a shy person too, and most shy people want u to take it slow with them and don't push thing to far. Talk to her\nas a friend first and see what she enjoy. You might have something in comment with her and you may hit it off. Don't rush nothing
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The most important thing to remember is that people can't see how you feel on the inside, they only see what's on the outside thus you may end up judging yourself more than others do which just leads to more shyness.\n\nTry these techniques:\nhttp://www.mayoclinic.com/health/social-anxiety-disorder/DS00595/DSECTION=9
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Well being shy is just another form of nervousness, but you can tell usually through body language.  How they fidget or where they look and how they talk.  I know when I get shy, I tend to talk with a softer voice, and look around a lot.
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Shyness is when you hold back your uniqueness and impact on a situation, because you question your value and worth. If you remember what you know, and think of times when you are glad you spoke up it can help you breakthrough. If you have a lot of connections things get easier. More options of people to sit with and hang out with. Fill your heart with love and express it in all that you do. I believe in you! Good luck!
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There's nothing wrong with being a little shy....some guys find it attractive.  But, if YOU don't like being shy, retrain yourself.  Start by making eye contact with strangers while your shopping.....add a smile....eventually a "hi, how are you?".  I know-it sounds simple and goofy...but it works.  Strangers aren't as threatening as people we know or like. It will still feel uncomfortable at first.....but what have you got to lose.  It also helps to have a few ready made questions for you meet people.  They could be school, family, or hobby related......you get the idea.  Good luck.  You'll be happy to know that confidence comes with age!
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just be yourself - be more outgoing.\ni used to be shy when i was around 12, 13 and now im 18 and have the absolute best boyfriend who is so hott (looks like talan off of laguna beach) and i look like kristin, and I have been on Homecoming court twice. be confident in yourself and know who you are.
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be your self and dont be shy
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relax and be urself. u will feel less shy later
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Katie, don't expect to go from super-shy to outgoing all at once. Take baby steps and stretch yourself just a little bit at a time. Practice just smiling at people. Say hello to just one stranger a day as you pass by them. Ask a sales clerk a question, even if you don't really need to. Tell a girl you see that you really like her shoes, hair, nails, etc. - when you see that you get a positive reaction to being friendly, it will encourage you to do it more often. Just remember, not everyone will be open to you because they might be shy, too. But most people are willing to at least smile and say hello to others.\n\nTry some volunteer work - start at your local animal shelter if you feel more comfortable around animals than people. Animals love you unconditionally and can really help bring a shy person out of their shell. If it's possible, and you don't already have one, you might even consider getting a pet yourself. Other volunteer work is also helpful if you're allergic to animals or something - go help out at your local food bank, soup kitchen, homeless shelter, etc. \n\nWorking with people is really important if you want a good job. You have to be able to impress employers during interviews and you have to be willing to stretch yourself beyond your comfortable boundaries. Good luck! :)
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If you want to get rid of your shyness by doing it online... the best way would probably be to use Yahoo Voice and interact with others... rather than typing.
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DEAR,\nMOST OF GIRLS FACE THESE PROBLEMS THEY WAY TO GET OUT IS:\n1. TALK TO HIM {IF POSSIBLE TRY AND IGNORE YOUR SHYNESS}\n2. TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY ABOUT IT\n3. IGNORE HIM\n4. SHOW YOU HAVE SOMEONE ELSE IN YOUR LIFE
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Tips For "Shaking Your Shyness"\n\n1.Conversation topics-never leave home without them.\n2.Let people know you're shy.\n3.Reward effort not outcome!\n4.Make things easy for the other person.\n5.Pick one social skill to practice at a time\n6.Take classes \n\nConversation Topics-never leave home without them.    Good conversationalists are rarely at a loss for words because: 1) they do so many things and go so many places that they have lots to talk about or 2) they prepare.  Good conversationalists never leave home without something to say to the people they think they'll be seeing that day.  If they're going to a party, they brush up on topics of interest to the people they know will be attending.  Before returning to work on a Monday, they think about the activities their colleagues had planned for the weekend.  They brush up on current events, the weather and anything else that might be the small-talk they need to get a conversation going or to keep it going.  Never leave home without at least a half-dozen things to talk about.\n\n   2.\n\n      Let people know you're shy.  This is a controversial subject.  Some people recommend that you never tell people you're shy, because people will use that information to label you.  Then again, if you avoid people, look down instead of making eye contact, stammer and stutter or turn three shades of purple when you're uncomfortable in social situations, people are going to draw conclusions of their own and odds are they'll be less favorably impressed with you than if you just tell it like it is---that you're nervous or feeling shy.\n\n      I think the problem arises because there are two ways to be shy---the obvious way and the not so obvious way.  The obvious way to be shy is to blush, tremble, twitch or otherwise physically manifest your shyness.  The not so obvious way is to avoid eye contact with people, not have much to say or decline offers from others you'd like to accept, but that are too far outside of your comfort zone for you to feel comfortable attending. \n\n   3.\n\n      Reward effort not outcome!   Memorize this one, because it's absolutely critical for conquering your shyness---or anything else you want to master, for that matter.  The only thing we can control in our life is our self---and even that can be a stretch sometimes.  We can't control other people and we certainly can't control how other people react to us and the things we do.  Nevertheless, most of us define our successes and failures by the way other people relate to us.  If we smile and they smile back, well good.  But if we smile and they don't smile too, we see it as a failure.  WRONG!!!   You won't get very far that way. \n\nIn fact, at least  in my book, what you did was a smashing success.  You tried.  You made an effort and that's all you can be responsible for.  You can't control how other people respond to you.  Sure, you can look back on your effort and speculate about things you can do to improve your performance next time, but at that very moment--at the precise time that you smiled, you made an effort and it's your effort that needs to be rewarded.\n\n   4.\n\n      Make things easy for the other person.  This is a tuff one, because as shy people, most of us are too busy worrying about ourselves---about how we look, what we say and whether other people will like us--- to stop and think about what we can do for other people.  But really, that's what being social is about---the other person, not us.  Dale Carnegie knew that.  He built a career on teaching people how to make other people feel good.  In his book How to Win Friends and Influence People, he lists principle after principle for putting people at ease and helping them feel special.   \n\n5.Pick one social skill to practice at a time.  You don't need to become a social butterfly overnight--and it's unlikely you could if you tried.  What you can do
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If you can, have a party. Invite the people you know and like to bring friends. If you have people over on a fairly regular basis they will start to bring more friends over. Plus you can use your duties as host to get over some of your shyness...asking if people want another drink, etc. is a good excuse to strike up a conversation with someone you don't know very well. \n\nIf you don't have enough space to have people over you might consider picking a bar or restaurant that you like and try going once a week for a while. Eventually you will become recognizable and you might be able to strike it up with some of the bartenders/waiters or other regulars. If it's a bar the alcohol is a great social lubricant and helps everyone overcome shyness. Just don't over do it. If your into sports that is always a topic strangers can talk about.
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Practice. That's the main thing that will help. I have that problem, and it helped me to remind myself that the person I am talking to is just a human - exactly like me... absolutely no more special, and therefore should have no power to make me nervous. Another thing I do that has helped is observe people with really good social abilities. It doesn't exactly make you more calm, but it shows you more options of how to act in situations when talking to people - which over time will make you more confident in yourself as you become more comfortable with the "talents" you've learned.
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Learn to talk to people.  I think many people are painfully shy when it comes to talking to all but their closest friends.  I think that shyness stems from a lack of confidence and the idea that no one wants to look foolish in the eyes of others.\n\nYou must realize that everyone has the same concerns, even if it seems that they don't.  When you are in a group of people, pick out someone who also seems to be in the same boat as you, and start a conversation.  Share your interests and you will be amazed at how quickly you will make friends.  \n\nBest wishes.