Casual Conversation tips -- do's and don'ts?
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DONT ask personal questions. \nHow much do you make?\nAre you married? \nDo you have children? (this may be ok if the subject comes up)\nWhere did you get those shoes?
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Depending on our situation meeting people to become friends with can be very easy or extremely difficult. Clubs, local organizations activities, schools, church, libraries, book stores, gyms, jogging, parks, beach, lakes, malls, etc. can all be places to meet new people. Once you’ve met them talking and keeping the person interested is probably the most important thing.\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask simple friendly questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice.\n\nFor other topics to talk about you can search the internet about things that you, or the people you will be talking with, are interested in. If you like games, perhaps search for the latest information about the x-box 360 games, pc games, ps3, revolution, etc. If you like tv-shows, movies, books, pets, etc. A few jokes from time to time can also be a great ice breaker.\n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful today as it was when it was written.\n
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uh... talk to eachother?
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Ask them about their own selves, and show a genuine interest in what they are saying ! And remember at least a part of what they had related, and casually include it in your conversation when you next meet them...\nEveryone feels friendly towards persons who find them interesting !
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Define casual encounters? I can tell ya this, you are in the right direction. The internet!!
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To get started, you could do the following. Carry a small tape recorder with you all day. When there are people near you who carry on a conversation that you think would be interesting to an audience, record their conversation. When you get home, transcribe it. Change any phrases that you desire, or leave as is -- whatever you want.\n\nCollect a number of scenes like this, and edit to tie them all together.
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What do you like to chat about?
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im assuming the conversation thing wouldnt be that much different between straight and gay relationships. \n\nnot sure if you already know them or not but if you dont i normally approach them with a little nonhurtful bust. \n\nex- (if a girl has high heels on) ill approach \nwow whats the deal with the shoes.\nwhat do you mean\nnothing.. they sharp\nohhh thank you.\nno.. that actually wasnt a complement ... i mean theyre sharp.. like could kill someone sharp.. so your like what 4'2 without those, right?\nthis sets you up as a challenge, original, starts a conversation and shows your confident. \n\nIf you already know them a couple of key points \nPeople are attracted to confidence. \nPeople are attracted to humor.\nPeople want what they cant have.\nPeople also love mystery.\nNot to mention talking about themselves\ni try to use these 5 concepts when trying to pick up someone\nwhether its your first approach or 5th date it doesnt matter really what you say nearly as much as the way you say it and the way you carry yourself when you do.\ntherefore.\nAct as your qualifing them rather than qualifing yourself to them. Unless they are stupid they will know you are interested when you come up or call back or set up another date (whatever stage you on) but dont be at their bekon call , make them work a bit to get you and give them gift of missing you. (obviously dont go overboard with this) \nadd a bit of confident humor in it. and give them some mystery by not talking about yourself much at all. if they ask tons of questions just answer them with what they would want to hear then funny it up \nex. so how many guys are you dating right now..\n- none..... my wife really gets jealous easily.\nor if they are really pushing this works great on women so i assume the opposite would be true.\n(insert nosy question here)\n"one thing youll find about me is i dont play 20 questions... i prefer truth or dare..... and im afraid you're just not that lucky"  see,... confident, sexual ref but not perverted, funny and sets you up as a challenge. \n\nuse these and he will probably ask you out. if not definetly shouldnt abject to a cup of coffee. good luck man. you'll do fine
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let it come naturally, just discuss the obvious around you without making it much of a big deal. depending on the response u get which can lead to a conversation. but dont push it if the other is not interested in talkin with u.
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if you're out to attract the person ur conversing with into a web of desire and love, you should ask non-sensitive things about him/her. it lets em know ur interested.\n\nif ur in the conversation that u dont want to develop, the weather is usually a good topic. asking whether he/she's used yahoo! answers would usually open a whole world of subtopics.
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I have...sort of the same problem. Mine is kid of reversed because I talk too much. Of course the conversation only lasts 3 minutes because they get so annoyed of my constant chatter that they walk away. Figures, right? Anyway, talk about current events. The events you talk about depend on your age. If you're a teen, start with, "Omg, did you hear about the latest Brit/Kev breakup?" That should open up doors of celebrity scandals and gossip. Or if you are an older person, try "You know, the gas is....blah blah....economy....blah and so on". I don't really know much in the adult field so yeah.
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-Sex/gender stereotypes. Reverse them, and joke about them.\n-Romance cliches, and how much they suck.\n-Favorite foods. And what you both do with them.\n-How much you both hate sex, dating, and anything like that.\n\nDon't forget how NOBODY kisses on the first date. EVER. ;)\n\n\nAlso, when meeting people online: At LEAST have someone meet them with you, to make sure they're sincere about themselves. They don't have to ride the whole date out, but at least the initial meeting phase. That way, you have an escape hatch. And no, you're not "rude" for using it.
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Tips, peopel love talking about themselves, so ask them questions. Also, if you reveal a fact about themselves the other person then feels obliged to reveal a fact about themselves in turn ("My faveourite colour is blue." "Really? My faveourite colour is green." ) which builds intimacy and keeps the conversation running.
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Forget the way you talk.\nUse PLEASE, WOULD YOU, COULD YOU, etc.
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dont wear a ring\nadvertise on yahoo personals\nbring it up in casual conversation\nwhen someone says to me, what does your husband do?  I say i dont got one of those
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Depending on our situation meeting people to become friends with can be very easy or extremely difficult. Clubs, local organizations activities, schools, church, libraries, book stores, gyms, jogging, parks, beach, lakes, malls, etc. can all be places to meet new people. Once you’ve met them talking and keeping the person interested is probably the most important thing.\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities, and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. For other topics to talk about you can search the internet about things that you, or the people you will be talking with, are interested in. If you like games, perhaps search for the latest information about the x-box 360 games, pc games, ps3, revolution, etc. If you like tv-shows, movies, books, pets, etc. Jokes are also great and the internet has lots of them. Make sure to ask simple, friendly questions about the person.\n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful to
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Talk about anything that pops up in your head. Talk about your day, what you guys are gonna do when you meet up later, the last book you read, the last movie you saw, tell each other jokes, recent news, recent gossip, music, the pollution problem, sporks, your favorite foods, etc. Basically just go with the flow. Sort of like playing 'Telephone'. You know how 'Telephone' is played right?