I read that a girl in love with a married man is a . But what if the man's seperated or divorcing his wife?
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When i first met my husband he was still married to his ex wife.. They had been seperated for about 4 months... I loved him, and he filed for divorce, got custody of the child that they had together, she turned to drugs and got placed in a mental institution... So everything worked out great... We sense then had a child which i now 1yrs old... There is nothing wrong with dating a man that is married as long as he is trying 100% to divorce his wife asap...  And there no longer in contact or sleeping together of etc..
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Ok, When my oldest daughter was two my wife and I separated because she was having an internet affair. after a couple of months separation I decided that I still loved her.  that was six years ago.  About six months ago I made a mistake and wandered from my relationship and had a Psychological affair with a coworker.  we never had sex or anything. But my loveing wife is trying to work through this.  she loves me I know she does and I Hope that we can work through this and be stronger than we were before.  But just remember that just because he wandered doesnt mean that he dont love you anymore, because if that were the case he would have split it off with you when he got caught.  Hang in there and he will show you that he is being true to you by his actions.\n\ngod bless.\n\nC.H.
973049
I don't think it's possible to ever love two people the same.  With different relationships, there is a different love involved.
228366
Real love is when you are willing to give up yourself for another. Ultimately there is very rarely real love in a relationship between a man and a woman. There is strong feelings for another though. Of course there is real love when you have children. Remember you are not your boyfriend or your husband. You are you and you should love yourself first and foremost......All the rest is feelings......
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OK, "marry her if you truly love her"??  What the fuck is that?  That's not an answer?  The girl obviously doesn't want to be with him anymore, so how is he supposed to marry someone who isn't with him anymore?  Jees, some people's kids, I swear!\n\nMy advice is to throw in the towel.  If you read one of my questions, it's not the same...but it's the same concept!  You are in love with her and she has given up on your love, correct?  I.E.-the coming and getting of all of her things brings the closure to the relationship-she has given up on the relationship.  I know it will be super hard...I've been there...it was even harder coz my kids were involved.  There will be a lot of decisions in your life that you WON'T want to make...but you realize that you have to!  Like this one...she's not coming back.  It's possible...in the future, when she realizes how stupid she was being...but as of right now and probably the next few months at least...she's moved on...you should try to, as well.  If you need to talk to someone about this, contact me!  I will try to help you through this...I've been through TWO extremely hard break-ups.  good luck!
116967
Maybe he could not stop he's feelings from loving someone married...maybe that girl is attractive enough for that guy
683645
You can't make anyone do anything and you should leave him he is married how will you live with yourself? And it he is cheating with you on his wife how can you ever trust he will never cheat on you with his wife I am sure they still make love because he loves her and just has you on the side because you are easy and a play toy for him! Dang why can't you girls leave the married guys alone! Stop f*cking the husbands and fines a sigle guy!
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No.  I would not date someone that is married because:\n\n#1 they aren't REALLY my date, they belong to someone else #2 because they wouldn't REALLY be my man, because he'd belong to someone else and \n#3 He WOULD really hurt my feelings when he left because:  HE IS STILL MARRIED to someonelse.\n\nWhen a person is seperated they are STILL married and there is still a chance the couple can and will work things out.  If they were through...didnt want to be with each other any more, they would be DIVORCED and NOT married, so dating someone that is married IF you are looking for a relationship is risky and in my opinion dumb.  If you are looking for a cheap fling or a one night stand then hey, that's probably about all you were gonna get any way...Why?  Because he/she doesnt belong to you ('cause they are married to someone else)  :)
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AK,\n  This is ALOT like the situation I was in before, ONLY reversed------------------- I can't speak for "your girl", but from a gal's point of view, I'm seeing from all you described, SHE is confused and she got caught up in you, probably feels guilty, and is in a tough spot about what to do with her marriage..............................\n  She is going through alot emotionally and I'm sure she does love you.  It's a confusing time for her with alot of emotions going on.\n  Don't drop her, 'cause we all need someone in our lives who care and if you disappear, she would be lost, I can tell you that!\n  I'd say it would be good to get out there and date, but stay in touch with this girl too.\n\nWhat you "should do" is all up to you.  You said she is the girl of your dreams, THEN, stand by her--------------LOVE is PATIENT.\n  That;s it right there, how much she means to you!\n\nNext, I'm wondering maybe "your girl" doesn't exactly know where she stands with you.  Does she know you love her?  Have you offered her a future with you?  Maybe she needs some reassurance so that maybe she can have that strength to leave her husband, if she knows she "fits in" your life!\n\nDivorce isn't easy as you already know, and maybe for "your girl" she is having a hard time with the idea of fully "letting go" of her marriage for whatever reasons, SO I wouldn't take her hesitation personal cuz she is dealing and going through alot all at once!\n\nTalk to her, be there for her, just be her friend right now, and you might be ok with that if the both of you are secure in your love for each other, see?   Please don't turn your back on her.  That's all I wanted to say.\n\nGood luck to you both and with your support she will get through her problems, you will see!
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no, what goes on in their marriage is really their business. he may already know, or she may choose to keep it from him. i hope that it was some one-time mistake on her part and that they've already worked through it, but it's not your responsibility to tell him.
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I think you are more infatuated with her than you love her. You got separated and she went to another man, why wouldn't she do it again if she has a problem with you again? Wake up man, this is simple commonsense. She just wants you, she does not need you, and you don't want to be in a relationship where you are just wanted and not needed. Thats not love. You will be used.\n\nWhat you need is a woman of your own and not one you share with another man. She is that other guy's wife and your seeing her is tantamount to adultery and that is treading on dangerous ground.\n\nDivorce? Well, she can get that to be with youbut are you going to marry her and take in that guy's children as your own? And do you see any reason why she won't divorce you as well when she has a problem with you? Don't be naive, you are believing that she loves you because thats what you want to believe. Sorry old boy but you will be a fool if you lick back what you spat out.
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Yes, if not a physical affair, then an emotional one.  When a married man is sharing his time w/a single woman, he is sharing intimacies with her that should be reserved for his wife.
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i agree- once a cheater....  if he cheated on his wife and is willing to leave her, is this really the type of person you want to be with!?!?!  seems like a set up for heartbreak!
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It's true that by now she might be married, but who knows, she might still be single and thinking about you too. I think it's either love or maybe you just need to clear up your feelings for this girl. Sometimes the only way to do thid is to go to her and once you are there with her, and tell her how you feel, you will know. Go find her and clear things up with her. Hope this helps, and good luck!!! :0)
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If he is already separated from his wife, this is one thing.  However, if he is still married and has not yet filed for separation, this is a bad situation to be in.  I would get out of the situation and put some distance between yourself and him.\n\nHe needs to decide whether or not he wants to be married.  It's even worse if there are children involved.  These situations are difficult and, in a way, he could be using you to convince himself to get out.  In the worst case, he's just stringing you along so he can have his family and a mistress on the side.  He might consider this "the best of both worlds".\n\nConsider also that this married man is cheating on his wife with you.  So, what will happen if you marry him?\n\nIf, after this man has separated from his wife and has gotten things figured out, and you have not found someone else, then, and only then might it be worth rekindling the relationship.
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Well yes they are married, BUT, they could be separated and waiting for the divorce to become final.
477701
are you sure you're inlove? Maybe it's infatuation... but yes, a person can love 2 females at the same time...