how can i find a good job if i lack confidence ..?
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I also lack confidence. In fact I tend to stutter when I get really nervous in interviews. But I manage to get good jobs. I think you should go for interviews a lot. When you get a hang of it, it will just be like a breeze. Just concentrate on harnessing your skills and nothing will go wrong.
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This world is full of oppurtunities, there is no way you won't get a job if you are hard working and confident all it takes is some time to find something which gets you good income and ofcourse a mental job satisfaction, so here are some links i though would help you.\nhttp://www.usajobs.gov/\nhttp://www.nytimes.com/\nhttp://www.mediabistro.com/joblistings/....\nhttp://www.topusajobs.com/\nhttp://www.jobbankusa.com/\nhttp://www.bestjobsus.com/\nhttp://www.hotjobs.com/\nhttp://www.allstarjobs.com/\nhttp://www.bestjobsusa.com/\nhttp://www.snagajob.com/\nHope this will help you to find a job you are looking for, Good Luck
1031555
No one can make you more confident.  You have to do that for yourself.  If you go looking for some guy to boost your self-esteem, you'll attract a guy who will tell you anything you want to hear to get you in bed, & from what you are saying, that isn't something you are ready for at this time in your life.  Right now, you need to focus on you.  Try to work on school, a job, & make the most of yourself.  If you start setting new, realistic goals for yourself & achieving them, your confidence can't help but go up, & guys will notice this.  Good luck.
440011
Hi,\nIt's important that you understand what you're talking about - this will give you confidence. Also don't try to rush through it, give yourself time to breathe. A lot of help can be found on the site below, both on interviews and speaking in public in general.
389304
Start giving yourself Brownie points for every good choice you make. Confidence and self-esteem are earned, nobody is born just possessing them. Every time you make someone smile, remind yourself that you have that ability. Do your work honestly and well. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Give others sincere compliments and don't always expect others to set your standards of decency or to make you happy. Remember, you're not transparent. People can't tell how you're feeling. Eventually, feeling confident will become second nature. But above all, be kind to yourself and others. And just have fun!
72515
Get a job where?  You question in itself shows why you cannot get hired.  Learn to type and use proper grammar.  This will work wonders for you.
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What is your fear which stole your confidence away? Talk about it... speak to someone if you have a person whom you trust. \n\nIf you don't have anyone to speak to, try self help technique. you can write in your diary or record your voice as you talk about it. Then read what you wrote or replay what you've recorded and hear it as though it was your friend who wrote/ spoke.\n\nMost of the time we know the solution to our problem, but being in the hole ourselves, we fail to see the bigger picture and feel really helpless and stuck. The irony is when someone came to us with their problem, we can immediately see the solution. Therefore, by using this technique you can be your own "friend" and help yourself out of it. \n\nIf none of the above helps, list down your achievement in life, something you feel good/ proud about yourself, happy moments. Then try to recall/ visualise those moments. You will feel better.
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A job search is very stressful, and it can be hard to resist getting very down on yourself and your future.  And, you are right, it doesn't help you land a job to feel defeated before you start.\n\nBut, almost everyone has been in your shoes (or will be at least once in their career), feeling the way you feel.  They survived, and so will you!\n\nJoin a job search support group.  People exchange leads and ideas, and there is usually a leader who is also a job coach.  Most of the time, the cost to attend is minimal.  Often you'll find one in a local church (usually belonging to the church is not a requirement).\n\nThere are "real" ones where people meet in person, locally, and there are "online" ones you connect to via the Internet.\n\nFor the real support group, in the U.S., you would contact your local state Employment Office - http://www.job-hunt.org/state_unemployment_offices.shtml   I'm not sure what you do in the UK, but I'm sure that the government provides some sort of job search assistance and support there, too, probably better than in the US.\n \nFor online support groups, check out http://groups.yahoo.com \n \nJoin a group, and you'll feel much better, even just knowing you're not the only one who is discouraged.\n\nGood luck!
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Then, try to find a job that makes you happier.\nAnd keep thinking you´ll do better in the future while you´re trying to find a new, better one.
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Although they won't admit it, some employers will look at it and not hire you for that reason. But if you have the experience, good work ethic, work history, and references...you will find something. Those that won't hire on that basis are not a company you want to work for anyways. Go into your interviews with a positive attitude and don't ever look at it as "I'm old and overweight so they won't hire me" If thats ringing in the back of your mind, it will show a weakness in you, in some way, during the interview (although you may not see it). Good Luck! I think you'll do just fine if you can keep a positive attitude and not get down, even if it takes a little longer than usual to find a good job!
643679
Just believe in yourself. Once you believe yourself then you will have confidence and other people will also believe in you.
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dude thats not the answer you need to lift your chin up and keep at it. so you failed your drivers test big deal you can try again. if at first you dont succeed try try again. you can do anything if you put your mind to it! you have to think positive and keep your chin up. life sucks yes but you have to grab life by the horns and wrestle it to the ground and overcome it. and as for loosing your job no loss apparently it was not a very good job anyway so pick yourself back up off the ground and go out and find an even better one. it is out there believe me. i can speak all of this from experience! i have been where you are now. i started to give up on finding a good job i would like too but just as i was about to give up i found an awesome job and it is even better than being an employee im in management now and you could do it too! you just have to be positive and get it in your head that you will succeed and you will not fail. dont take any of this laying down. get up and get into life and enjoy it and have fun and make life fun. it can be it dont have to be depressing it can be happy times trust me i know life can be great and im sure it will be very soon and sooner than what you think. be a winner because in my book everybody is a winner they can only fail if they allow themselves to. anyway if you ever need anyone to talk to about things feel free to email me at larrydseeley@yahoo.com i will answer back. good luck and god bless remember you are somebody and people do care about you and respect you. let me know how you are doing sometime soon. your friend larry.
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what? Dont you know the "job trick?" \n\nHere is what you do... listen up...\n\nWhen your on your interview, ask a lot of questions. Sound very interested in the position, and let them know that if they hire you it will be a great benefit to their company. Let them also know that if they dont hire you, they are making a huge mistake. Then, at the end of the interview, if you did this right, 99% of the time, they will say this.. "do you have anymore questions?"\nYou then say "yes, when do I start?"\n\nNow, if they laugh and shake your hand and tell you that they really like you, 9-10 shot says you got the job. If they look at you like your a sarcastic cocky bastard, then you more then likely should join the unemployment line! lol
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finding job : lots of ways out there, online, referals, etc\nfinding right ppl to lead to your dream: yes, you have to sell yourself. and you will go through a lot of people before you get a handful of efficient ones. Whenever you meet someone, depending upong their level, you have to market yourself.\n\niam not sure what you really want. but hope this helps
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You Can Improve your confidence by believeing in yourself. That works alot, And when you want to do something that you fear, just go along with it and say i can do this! Another way is to watch what you fear most, watching other people do your fear, or face your fear might make you get more confidence that way.
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Have you thought of counselling? That may be the 'easier' road you are looking for. Ultimately though, you will have to talk to others in social events to be able to learn to do it with confidence. Experiencing life like travelling, can be a good way to build your confidence, for the more you know about something, the more you can talk about it with passion.\nGaining a better view of ones self (self esteem) can also come when presented with challenges that one overcomes, so challenge yourself-give yourself tasks that you know are hard, but that you are able to overcome. Do you have a fear of spiders for example? Overcome that and you will certainly want to tell people about it! I did!!\n If you would like to chat more about it, feel free to email me from the link at my avatar and I'll try to help.\n\nbest of luck
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You need to gain confidence in yourself, for one. Learn to be alone, and not lonely. If you can appreciate yourself as company, others will as well. Go places where you will meet people with similar interests, and you'll meet women who will be interested in you.