ok so how do girls feel about obesity,and what do girls want to look like?
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..... think about it...\n\nlook at how skinny/averaged sized girls treat overweight people. look at high school...\n\nbeing overweight makes life a little harder, people dont treat you with the respect you deserve.\n\num... we want to look skinny... or average.. i think some teenagers gain some weight from trying to look like beyonce(big boobs and booty).
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Hey man - the girl may have serious muscle like me. \n\nit is hard to describe youself to the opposite sex - for example, I am muscular and athletic and I have a large frame (long legs, broad shoulders)... But if I described myself in a small ad as large frame - then people immediately think it is obesity.
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I understand that you are self-conscious of your weight.  I have a very big friend who admits to being very shy herself, but I have noticed that once you get to know her, she is quite self confident in a quiet way.  I notice that she is overweight but that doesn't mean anything - she is my friend and it's her personality and friendship that counts. I remember when I first met her - this big woman who speaks with a booming voice, but even then, I didn't judge her on her looks.  We are very open with each other and discuss our diets and problems - I tend to get lots of flack from her for not eating enough!  Don't worry, there are lots of nice people out there!\nI think there are 2 issues that you can think on in regards to building the appearance of self confidence -which is a starting block which would make you feel better\n1) adjust your posture and stand up straight - it's amazing how that comes across to people; smile; look people in the eye, but you don't have to do that all the time, if you feel uncomfortable, try looking between the eyes, sometimes the ears, look away sometimes;\n 2) wear stuff you feel comfortable in so you don't feel like you are the centre of attention all the time, but also dress it up with something special like a nice piece of jewelery, or an expensive accessory; my friend believes darker colours are more flattering - also looks cool and more classic looking; don't bother to follow fads, since it only looks good on airbrushed anorexic teen models - the majority of women are not like that!  If you are a teen, don't feel bad that you can't wear those sorts of stuff, make your own statement and be proud of it.  If you find wearing skirts or dresses tend to make your thighs chafe, try wearing cotton bikepants underneath.\nAs for the socialising:\nI am very shy myself, and used to have lots of problems with talking to people; I get all panicky with sweat running down my back, butterflies in stomach and practically everywhere else, and not being able to say anything.  If you can, arrange to go with someone so you can at least stand with that person initially.  Then if you both agree, you can circulate individually; try not to hang onto anyone for too long.  To settle butterflies in stomach: practice abdominal breathing (you can find this in stress help books, or yoga books or on the net).\nI have gotten over most of the outward shyness, particularly when I am by myself at gatherings.  If I want to talk to someone, I think: I don't care what that person thinks of me, I'm just going to be me, and then make light conversation.  Chances are, I won't ever see the person again, so it doesn't matter if I sound silly!  I know I always get tongue tied, so I try to think of appropriate topics of conversation before I go to any function eg wedding, conference, birthday, etc. Topics eg weather, bestseller books, something to do with that particular function, the food quality; try to be positive, I try not to complain too much, but if it's bad, I keep quiet.  Try to remember to not laugh to loudly (I sometimes forget!) don't spend all your time doing one thing, don't hog the conversation, and don't be tempted to hide in the toilet, although it is a good place to calm down if you are feeling too stressed.   What ever you do, don't talk about sensitive stuff, like politics or eg slander the groom's sister :) or ask too personal questions. Don't be afraid of admitting you know little about a particular thing, but if you show interest, people are flattered into telling you more about it.  Don't fake things - you will find it very hard to keep track of the things you made up, and you will worry about it too much.  Use open ended questions to keep the conversation going - not just yes or no questions.  And you don't need to always concentrate on trying to think up questions; remember to listen to the other person.  For more topics, y
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People like this are really difficult to SHOW that they are the right height for their size etc. You should find some scientific information showing the proper weight for her height, body mass index etc. and then start talking with her about her health and its importance. Im 5' 8" and weigh 150. I dont consider myself fat. I think I look pretty hot actually...but a lot of people would consider that heavy for a woman. I wear size 11 jeans. Basically, it isnt about being fat...it's about looking great no matter what you weigh. Anyone can pull off looking great but in order to look great you have to feel your best about yourself. This takes work.\n\ntell her she looks great, dont do it just to be doing it. Compliment how something accents her figure or something like that. A specific compliment.
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My opinion is:  no.  I really don't like skinny models.  Also, I don't like really obese people.  Neither are healthy and could sustain life if it were not for a really invasive pop culture.  IMHO.  \n\nYou may use my opinion.  And may I add I have a really healthy appearance and I'm able-bodied.
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We like honesty, but you don't have to be so blunt about it. If she asks if she looks fat in a dress, just simply tell her that she's looked better in others.
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I dont really like a girl by the way she looks I will love the girl inside. I may have a good looking girl and she is all stupid or have a ugly girl who cares about me and the other around me. Doent really matter I love all girls!!!!\n\nI wont mind a fat girl!
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breast and hips. But this is also apart of my fantisies. I seriously don't like girls that always try to follow the crowd. Now that doesn't mean be weird and off the deep end ( like wearing nothing but black and red hair) , but I like girls that can think for themselves. We should share thoughts. Thats real cool!\n\nArguing is not really that cute. Like some girls think that their relationship can only last if they argue. Thats not cool -- not to say that you won't argue. I like girls with pretty eyes.. so when i want to complement her on how beautiful her eyes are.. I'm not lying. \n\nI like girls that wear real clothes. If a girl shows the world her boobs and hips and thighs all the time... i'd think she was too fast.. hardly have morals... a follower... and if i ever went out with her she would still be pulling guys on the side.\n\nI don't like nasty girls. You can be pretty and .. "sexy" and still look half decent.. \n\nNow when I say you.. i'm speaking in general.. i hope that i somehow helped you and your research.\n\n    - NOT ALL GUYS ARE FLESH HUNGRY DOGS there are other factors that play in a guy getting turned on by a girl..\n\nThis means that the girl doesn't even have to be the "beautifulist" girl!
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A really pretty girl you say? Didn't you mention in 1 of your earlier questions that you weigh 76kg?!!!\n\n76kg and you have the temerity to say you're pretty....\n\nA 76kg Iranian girl and you're worried about Ronaldinho's looks.....\n\nHmmm......, Now should I laugh or be outraged?
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hedzzzindahouse is right to an extent, I'm almost underweight and healthy but I think (most of the time) fat or overweight girls are more nice than skinny so most of the time I look for overweight people to date, most really skinny people think there "all-that", so I go for the other people, not necessarily "fat" girls, but not really skinny either (im not talking bad about skinny people , since, i am one, but alot of them ARE stuck-up, that Ive seen) but, just for the record, im not one of the ones who stuck-up.
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i think they're hot.  except the thing is, do you have any idea how many girls, just because they want to look good in a bkini, have resorted to anorexia like dieting attempts just to look hot for summer?
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If you eat healthy and stay active that is great!  I am about 5'8 and I look pretty good at that weight!  Don't compare your weight to your shorter friends bc us tall girls weight more anyway.  Remember to feel good about yourself and be healthy and you will be beautiful.
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i prefer a girl with a little meat on her. not fat but i'd rather have a fat girl than a really skinny one. paris hilton is a good example of way too skinny to be atractive. you know, no one in hollywood is someone i'd consider my ideal beauty. i like girls with something to them, somwhere between 100-200 lbs. the most important factor is how you carry yourself. i met ugly fat girls with more confidence than skinny pretty girls and i would rather have the ugly girl who was confident about her looks.
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Little of each.  Not too 'curvy' but not stick thin.  Girls too thin are a little scary and not attractive at all.  Overall, just be "healthy".  Be concerned more with your health than looks and you'll be better off.\n\nWith health will come the 'right' look for you.  Don't focus on what other people look like.
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I prefer an average girl. Not too fat and not too anorexic.
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5'5" and I average between 125-130. I think I am a good weight. I have curves which I love. I actually don't think I can get down any lower. I have tried, but can't. And I do think that I am fat a lot of the time. When I lived in NYC I was a moose compared to some of the girls who lived there who were 'trying to be stars' I kept on telling myself that guys find me sexy at my weight and to stop comparing myself to other girls. I don't think guys like girls who are bone thin anyway.\nIt's hard not to compare yourself though. I agree.
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no she's not overweight. tell her that's her correct weight, so don't stress about it in-less she wants to be anorexic. my little sister has the same weight, and she's 12.