We dated for 2 months, I broke it off b/c he's not a Christian. Eek! Now I can't stop thinking about him!!
965913
If you dont share the same beliefs in a relationship it can cause big problems, maybe not in the beginning but later on for sure... Its going to take a while for you to get over him but i think you should move on...
658243
There's a reason you broke up. If you broke up once, who's to say you wouldn't again. You broke up recently? That's probably why you can't stop thinking about him. You just miss him, but you'll get over him after a while. You'll find someone else.
494212
Get over him. Since you broke up with him you should try to stick to your decision. Don't feel like he is the last guy on Earth.
485867
just start working on building back your friendships with those he wouldnt let you contact. concentrate on moving on. i know what its like to date someone who didnt treat you right and kind of left you humuliated that you ever let them get away with those things. as hard as it is, try not to dwell on it, keep doing the things that make you happy and most importantly when you feel ready to date again remember that not all guys are going to treat you like that. it would be so much easier if we could just go back and erase things like that  but since we cant all we can do is rebuild it all and get past it. hang in there :)
1030758
Sadly, stopping to think about him is one of the hardest things to do. There´s no way to just stop. And you´re doing it cause he´s obviously a really important person in your life and you really care about him.\nSuggestions:\n1- Go for it! ask him out.. get a friend to set you guys up... or at least hang out with him more so he can see the great person you are\n2- Find someone else that wants to be with you... unless you´re in Love with this guy you´ll forget about him\n3- Wait... a long time... i don´t suggest this that much because you´ll go pretty insane. Either you´ll end up liking him less or just getting use to the pain and the obsession. But i really suggest either trying to be with him or going for someone else
956298
Oh, forget him! Seriously, is he worth it? Is this the sorta guy you want to be with? Come on! You deserve better.
595579
yeah i did today too! (honestly and coincidentally!) i was dating this guy for a year and the only thing that made me stick with him is the fact that i believe that he is a trustworthy, honest and sincere person. Just today, after all the many i love yous and sweet nothings, i asked him, when's my bday? and he does not know! he knows how this thing is important to me as i've reminded him a lot of times but still he did not even have the effort to remember! most of my friends and family think i deserve someone better but i refused to listen...until now that i am fully appraised of my significane in his life. Then i realized...i shouldnt allow myself to be treated so low! So i'm just gonna give up on that guy...and i believe that there is a guy who would value and appreciate me more and treat me as i should be treated - as a person with value and worth! If he doesn't he's just not the guy for me. Good riddance. It's not my loss.
191315
I also dated a guy for 1 year 3 months...\nAt first, he was so nice to me...\nBut after a long time together, I found that he was a bad egg...\nHe likes gamble, smoking, drunk, drugs...\nIt hurts me a lot...\nN he make a hooker pregnant u know!!!\nOh my god...\nI was really depress at that time...\nBut do u know that there's a thing call friends!!!\nBcoz of my friends, I wake up from the nightmare after I broke up with him...\nEventhough I need over a year to forget him...\nI think u can if u want...\nNothing is impossible...\nTrust urself!!!\nThere's always a guy who's waiting for u there...\nBelieve me!!!
903443
I think it is too soon for you both to be in contact with eachother as you say it's too painful right now.  The best thing to do for the moment, until you get your own head sorted is cut all ties.  I know it might be hard but you need to straighten your own head and heart out first and be strong enough before you can be friends with him.  You are not in the right frame of mind now, it is too soon since you broke up, and staying in contact might only cause more pain.  I broke up with my ex in June and we haven't been in touch since.  I know at the start it was very hard as I went from hearing from him everyday to nothing but, now I'm a lot stronger.  I'm happier now that it's over as we weren't right for eachother but if I stayed in contact with him I know I'd probably be still hurting and in the same situation right now.  Time is a great healer and WILL make you stronger.  Just give yourself some "you" time.  Hope it works out for you!
754372
i did twice, almost at the same time. i was dating this guy that i absolutely loved. we dated a year before we ended it. it was really heartbreaking. he didnt cheat on me or anything, atleast i dont think he did. i thought we were going to get married! in the middle of that relationship, i also became friends with this guy who had a crush on me. i had a crush on him too but we never dated or anything because i was so in love with my boyfriend. my friend and i stopped talking because i wanted to be with my boyfriend and i felt i was cheating on him because i had a crush on him. anyway, bad idea. i got my heart broken twice.... my boyfriend dumped me and i lost my chance with my friend =( im glad to say that my friend and i are friends again and still close. i still believe i lost my chance with him though =/
592641
I can say you were not genuine and what you gave was not love. I don't understand how religion can be strong than the love you two had for 2 years. I can tell you be yourself and stop being spoon-fed.It's your life and make good of it and not pleasing other people.It's not fair even in the God eyes.
1088901
do you go to church with him? \n\njust keep dating him, you'll eventually have deeper conversations and you'll learn as to where he stands with many issues and by living his life you'll see how important his values/convictions are. you'll know, trust me. you need a man that pushes you to grow. don't worry if he's not for you.\n\nand keep asking God, if he's not for you God will pull a string and you may break up, or God might even tell you himself who you should be with.
660109
wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
261672
you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
245576
Maybe you could ask if you could attend service or a church function with him.  Or if you want to go out on a regular date, just ask him.  Christians are just people, and they enjoy going out too.  There may be places that They care not to go, but dinner is always a good idea! Hey, the man's gotta eat, right? I hope it goes well!
1135518
I think we all think about sex, we are human. no, you are not supposed to lust after someone, that's bad, but to discuss it is not. Will you be punished? Stop thinking of God as this mean, mean person, he's not. Talk to him, he is all understanding. He understands what you are going through. Ask Him to help you keep your thoughts pure.
1087623
I know I'm still in love with my ex - he ended our 2 year relationship very suddenly with an e-mail & I am finished with\ndating, men, relationships, love. He was the last man I ever plan to be involved with - I've had enough.  Good luck with your situation!