is getting married to someone who use to beat you crazy?
955683
I think you took one too many blows to the head...it's affected your decision-making skills...I recommend an intervention!!
1043647
when he tells his family that the wedding is in 6 and a half years... JK that's what i was hit with today. You can normally tell if you don't fight a lot, if your both forgiving, you compromise, and you care about one another. I'm not saying that you don't make each other upset b/c that still happens with people who have been married for 30 years, but if you always work it out and no one ever leaves upset or stays upset then you know you've got it good! Btw if he's mad he should NEVER raise his hand to you, even if he is just threatening.... he just should never do it!!!
240334
Yes but he finally irritated me so much I had to end it.  Also he scared my foster children. But the free lunches were fun for a while.  \n\nI did not marry him.  Married someone else.
229535
Yes, I had a crappy boyfriend in the past who beat me often. I'd try to leave, but he'd find me again. Why it happened....cuz he was a jerk and couldn't control his temper I guess.\nHe finally got his payback--my bestfriend at the time beat him down, and he packed up and moved. Never heard from him again! Yippee!!! ;0)
396996
It's been years. Not too much ever p*sses me off.\n\nI had an exboyfriend a few yrs. back that was extremely jealous, and he would accuse me of crazy things that I couldn't even dream of doing. I had a couple hissy fits in that relationship because he would frustrate the hell out of me. But since then...none.
463872
I honestly don't believe all ex's men or women are hard to get along with. Probably like the marriage gone bad so has the trust and respect...C
177020
Why would u stay with someone that beats u? For 3 years? Get out and get a restraining order, it will be hard but in the long run it will make you stronger and you will be much happier and safe.
225484
I don't know honey, I feel the same way, its like they are programed to be that way.  It seems that they feel after they get married than they don't have to keep things the way they were before marriage cause they've already got claim on you.
351834
Everyone gets off on different things - but if you have issues with it, maybe you should try to figure out if you can handle it. There is no point getting married unless you are 100% sure, otherwise it is a recipe for disaster
200036
Don;t get married until your done with the wild streak people get these days otherwise you will be unhappy. And make sure your marrying the right one and not a jacka$$
1015361
Absolutely...I'm getting married in March. I'm so in love. I thought I was "in love" before but that was infatuation, idealism, or whatever else...but it was not what I feel now. Also, my parents have been married for forty years, as his parents have. It's hard work and sometimes hell; but, as I've heard many times, "When you're going through hell - keep going!" His parents and mine are living proof that it still happens. People just get screwed up by thinking it's all easy and there is no hard work.
379819
no but i would beat my husband if he called me a bit*ch\n\nbi*tch
266374
Woah.  Did he marry you first or the other woman first?  You might want to check with a lawyer on this one.
392243
Since you are thinking it might be, then yes, it is stalking.  You obviously are in love with him and want to marry him and have his children.  Leave him alone!  He's just trying to make a living.  Why must you continually harrass him like this?  He has a wife and family!  You HOMEWRECKER!
979982
your relationship sounds like true love. some people never find that. yes they get married and live together but thats nothing if like you said, your not honest and trusting. it does seem simple. but somethings are worth fighting for.
887413
Yes we all have been through that be for, it is called High School Crush.  Sorry but you are in a relationship with someone that you have children with, and things aren't going so good right now, so your solution is to find someone new that makes things feel exciting instead of working on the relationship that you have.  You would rather abandon what you have, teach your children that if it isn't fun anymore then just give up on it and find someone new.  You are teaching your children that commitment means NOTHING!  Relationships and marriage(which is what you have just without the legality of the marriage license) take work they are never fun and exciting all the time, there are low times and that is why in the wedding vows the words "in good times and bad" are included. \nSo unless your partner is abusive, which you haven't said he was, you just need to work on what you have. If you try it will get better and it will get to the exciting part again, but like I said it takes work and commitment-are these characteristics that you posses or are you passing on bad habits to your children?
746401
There is NO EXCUSE for a husband who hits his wife.  No matter how much his mother upset him, he had no right to beat you.\n\nA typical wife-beater will go through phases.  He will beat you, then he will be very sorry and promise to make it up to you, and tell you how wonderful you are.  You'll forgive him and decide to stick by him, then just when you think everything is wonderful, he'll start beating you again.   Until you start threatening to leave, then he'll start making up to you again.\n\nIf this describes what has been happening to you, then I'm sorry, but he is never likely to change.  He is only being nice to you, to stop you leaving him.  Once he thinks you have relaxed and given up the idea of leaving, he will go back to his old ways.\n\nOn the other hand, if this doesn't describe his behaviour, then perhaps he really is genuine.  Be patient with yourself, as it's unlikely you will rediscover your desire for him until you've rediscovered your trust in him.  A marriage counsellor does sound like a good idea.