why am i scared to mingle with rich people?
958925
Because deep down you know you are nothing.....
1093864
I myself was a major shy freak when it came up to standing in front of people....it advanced to my being unable to be around certain people..I started medicating myself with booze...Helped alot..but it's not the answer.  You may have a medical condition..a chemical imbalance.  Check with your doctor.  I use xxanax.  It helped me so much.  I am able to go out in the world again.  Alot of people have this problem but just think they are weird....So please see your doctor...tell him you need help.
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You are not alone! Try to not let your self esteem be your worst enemy. You remind me of me. I have to force myself to not isolate. Have you considered you may be depressed? I started taking medication in '01 and life has become better. I'm not so "scared" of people. It's hard to change but it can be done. I found a wonderful man who accepts me for who I am and he loves me so much. You are a unique individual and believe it or not, no matter what people say or how they treat you, you have something unique to share with this world. Hope this helps. :-)
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I used to get that too. I was actaully just a bit reserved, and I also tend to act arrogant sometimes which I know is just a defense mechanism for being a bit insecure.\nI also looked particularly good which lots of people are intimidated by and if you don't seem real friendly when you look good people think you are a snob.\n\nI'm not sure what it is about you that people interpret as snobby.\nIf you have your head tilted up that would be seen as snobby,\nor if you won't talk to certain people, that could do it.\nAlso watch your body language. No crossing your arms in front of you around people, or turning your shoulder to them.\nIt could be based on another question, that you carry yourself and look as if you come from wealth and that would make certain people uncomfortable. If that is the case there is nothing you can do about it. I always try to be as friendly and down to earth around people as I can so they feel like they can talk to me about anything. I like to have people share things with me, being naturally curious about people, and have found that telling them little things that happened to me or even rather personal things about myself (even to the point of showing my next door neighbor my gold crowns on my back teeth when we were discussing dentists) will open them up and make them think they can tell me things. I even tell my neighbors that I hate my condo the way it is, things like that, that are really on the personal side, so they think I am open and friendly.\nI talk to everyone and do not fear rejection at all as I know it happens and never take it personally.\nI was in sales of advertising for many years, and I learned how to get people to relax around me and not see me as threatening, so I could sell them ads.\n\nBe sort of friendly and chatty with everyone and don't fear or care about rejection or if they like you or not.
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Oh, I have the same problem, ever since I could remember. I guess it's the general thing of wanting to be liked but being afraid of rejection.\n\nYou don't have to splurge out absolutely everything about yourself in a first meeting, just smile and be polite (you can never go wrong with a smile) ask general questions like how are you, where are you from, do you have any family, what are your hobbies, what kind of music do you like...etc. and in return answer the person's questions. \n\nYou may not relate your deepest darkest secret but you can share general things, no one is going to condemn you for liking a particular band or the colour green.\n\nI've tried it and I think it works out pretty well, the key is to smile a lot ^^ (that way they can't tell if you're freaking out internally)\n\nsure it will be a tad bit uncomfy at first but as conversation progresses, you should naturally ease up and things should flow from there...\n\nGood luck for future endeavours ^^ I'm rootin' for ya!
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Well as you knw that you are facing a fear of public speaking and for that the best thing to do is 1st try getting comfortable talking in a grp with ppl whom you knw really well.. then slowly start with other ppl.. the best way is to crack a joke or sumthin so that you can lighten up the atmosphere and then once you will c every1 smiling, you will automatically have the courage to talk.. and relax.. no1 is gonna do anything.. so then plz do express yourself and let others knw wats in your mind!! all the best...
292289
be a real friend dont fake it coz thier popular or rich just b a friend  and maybe they wont be nice back so if that happens look for sumone else
875103
I think if you have a lot to offer someone, it shouldn't matter if you are rich, a celebrity or  in the public eye.  It's a shame people can be so shallow that they pass up "golden opportunities" when they are presented.  I think it also has a lot to do with what circles these people run in.  "Birds of a feather flock together" kind of thing.
953674
Control the people in order to protect the rich elites' power and privilege.\n\nThem rich folk sure are scared of the people.
1035765
I am not afraid of them, but I do feel intimidated by them - I don't know why this is.\n\nI have discussed it with my friends and they all share my view.
965904
Its never easy once you have your walls up so high no one finds them worth climbing to get in anymore. Fear is only one part of it for myself there are many reasons for locking yourself away from others. Give yourself time and learn as much as you can about yourself while spending this time alone. The better you know yourself the less likely you are to be mistreated again if and when the times comes that you are ready to.\n-NmD!
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Its just a fear of being watched by all those people (the audience) I still dont like public speaking and find it hard to not get tongue tied. It could be you're just shy and u just have to keep trying to overcome it. Talk in front of people u dont know maybe on a smaller scale it might make u feel more confident about being on a stage.
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I don't "hate" rich people, per say.  But I find it very hard to like some of them.\nFrom my experience moving into a ritsy-titsy neighborhood in LI after being born and raised in Staten Island, the condescension is what makes it so very hard to tolerate some of these people. I despise being looked down upon - I may not have as much as they do, but they seem to think that me working my ass off for EVERYTHING I have is not as good as the things they're purchased with the money mommy and daddy gave them to keep them busy and out of their hair.\nMy mother's business partner is a prime example - her husband an even BIGGER (and less polite) example. These two are very typical of the types you find out here - the type that believes that their huge wealth excuses them from having to exhibit very basic manners. Their "me first" attitude upsets and disturbs me and their lack of common manners is frightening (i.e. - it's not polite to say the "f" word in front of my demure mother and elderly grandfather, nor is it ok to fart in public and ask people how it smells...). They're just so rude, so eager to rub other people's faces in what they, themselves, have.... and what everyone else lacks. I'm sorry, but busting my ass for 2 months at work to pay my bills and STILL have a little cash left over for a short weekend trip to FL is my way of "treating myself", as opposed to you going out and buying items you will soon discard and forget all about....
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You fear what can hurt you... and right now they are VERY afraid of liberals... they know they are weak... that's why they are especially crude and ugly on here now... have you noticed they hardly ever talk issues... I mean realistically what are they going to say "uh... it's good to be rich"... that's about all they have...\n\nsenecalp... what do you base your arguement on... the dictatorships of the soviet union and china... those are were about as marxist as the U.S. is... I've never met someone who uses your arguement that has actuall lived in a poor area... it's always people who have no idea what real poverty is... it's not pretty... and it's not lazy...
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it'd be a difficult task for anyone if they had to refrain from speaking to people about things at any given moment but even the best known speakers in the world had a time when they were nervous.  Since there is no way to avoid this here is what I suggest:\n\nFIrst start reading your presentation out loud to yourself, to get familar with your content the biggest fear you are likely to have is not saying the word right or stumbling and looking foolish which you don't want.  Then practice in front of a mirror, then family, then close friends.  When the time to go up to speak, take several deep breaths and plan your walk to the podium, this seems like something someone should know but when you only have it in your mind to walk up to the podium and speak people don't watch were they are going and sometimes bump into something around the area and that can be a bit embarassing.  Just remember it's just a report, speak well, let your eyes wander around the room and be cool:)
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if your feeling a bit apprehensive but would still like to me them, make sure you bring a friend along or meet in a public place like a restaurant or cafe. you could even get a friend to ring you at a certain time so that if things are not going well you can get out of the situation. always make sure  someone you know, knows where you are going to be. you can never be too careful with someone you dont know well. good luck...
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Make it a point to be more interested, genuinely interested in the people around you!  Focus on who they are, what they are saying, with no background noice or thoughts from your head.  Stop worrying about what they think, because as long as they're talking about themselves, they wont be thinking about you!  And once they've invested things about themselves into you, they'll naturally feel closer to you, and like you!  Then, hopefully you will feel comfortable enough to share something relevant as well, otherwise, they we'll feel foolish for opening up to you and withdrawl!  This is how intimacy is formed.  Since you are shy, take the receptive role first, and then the giving role.  Try it!  Remember, Ask and open ended question, such as, "Where are you from?"  ..." oh, how is it there, I've never been?"  keep them talking about themselves until you feel comfortable enough to enterject something about yourself!  Remember to listen to what they are saying, not your self concious voice in your head!! Focus!  Good luck! ;)