if you know someone with herpes what would you do talk to them or dont go around them???
956045
Talking to someone with herpes WILL NOT pass it on to you... but if the individual has the cold, or something like that, you'll catch cold...  \nIf you're talking with this individual as your having, or just had sex... well, now you'll have to go see the doctor...
928420
they are not your best Friends so............\ndon't speak to them
408976
Not only embarrassing but you have to make sure what kind of herpes you have in this way you can treat yourself and prevent from passing it on to others.
711586
humm, the question to ask yourself is do you want the possibility of getting the virus? Sure you can practise safe sex but there are still possibilities. I congratualte the girl who told you, she was honest and that means she is a good person. Its a tough question, if you decide not to date her please be honest with her and your fears and thank her for beign honest. remember she is a person too and she too has to deal with having the virus and dating.
466571
Don't talk to them. Friends can stab you in the back when you don't expect it. If you see it coming....RUN!!!!
242856
You can either wait until they are ready or you can move on to someone who is ready. You might want to try and show them that you have no intentions of hurting them and that you are not like the others.
428444
Herpes is VERY manageable and the frequency of attacks depends on your immune system and how your body is reacting to the virus... the body generally adapts and you cease having outbreaks after about 7 years- but you can spread it even after then!\n\nI caught it 2 years ago. It's traumatic when it first happens. I got lucky as far as having people to talk to, though- my boss, a coworker, my aunt (who has never given it to her husband and had kids)...\nThe emotional pain of getting "it" can be devastating! Obviously, you catch herpes from sex. Usually with someone you trust. It sucks.\n\nIf it helps any, there are ALOT of guys out there who are VERY sympathetic and will date (and sleep with) you anyway. Herpes does not make you "damaged goods".\n\nI do think it's important to get on the daily dose of acyclovir, valtrex, or zovirax before becoming sexually active again. This way, when you meet someone you are interested in having sex with, you have done all that you can do to prevent the spread of it and with a condom their risks will be VERY minimal.\n\nThis also helps when you decide to tell a guy. Usually I've been like "um... well, I always use condoms anyway, but I also take Valtrex for herpes to reduce the transmission rate...". Then I tell him that it reduces the asymptomatic shedding by 80-90% and if we use a condom, and I'm not having an outbreak, his risks will be VERY small. I usually blurt it out around the second date or whenever we start talking about sex.\n\nAlso, when you do go dating again, older men (age 30+) are MUCH more understanding. Guys in their 20s just don't haven't been around the block enough, for the most part. Most older guys have usually been with a chick who has "it".\n\nIf you're having an outbreak, epsom salt baths can help sooth it. Bathing does not spread the herpes virus.\n\nTry not to think of yourself as "sick" if you can help it. I find it's best (for my stress levels as well) just to deal with things matter-of-factly, educate myself on the facts, screw everything else, and treat myself like a queen.\n\nCatching herpes made me, oddly enough, respect myself MORE. I caught it from being assaulted, so maybe the anger-releasing assertiveness-learning "**** it all" attitude was also a way of dealing with THAT stress. As I said, I was very lucky to have people around me who I could talk to. I was also lucky in that I was able to reconnect with my body, not generalize one incident to "men in general", and to have supportive male friends (I got thouroughly spoiled in the months following).\nSorry for getting off on the ramble there- so much to say...\n\nAnyway- hope that atleast some of this helps- feel free to contact me....
880240
Get her checked up if she is infected by "me", if yes I would advise not to have sex with her!!
325842
Be sincere...!!! Just tell him that you're sick for the time being & you can't see or date with him. And, if he don't believe you, just ask him to come over to see your condition. I believe he would be understand. Don't be afraid to be sincere. Because, it's   the best way to make people like you...!!! :-) Wish you well soon...!!!
208291
I would keep seeing a person with herpes as long as they were honest with me from the beginning.  It's frustrating, of course, and it wouldn't be my first choice, but if I really liked the person then it wouldn't matter.  It would affect when we could have sex, but if the relationship is built on something more important than sex, then that would still be okay with me.  If they did not tell me about it and I found out later, I would not stay with them.
793471
You can always give a friendly hello and smile. That should tell them something. If they're shy, think of a non threatening question and start up a conversation. No one ever said who should start the talking. At least not nowadays.
698450
try to talk them about it. They simply can't be like this for the rest of their lives.\nSet up a plan to let them talk privately. And don't try to side with one person.. OK? ;)
200571
definitely always use protection - break out or not .... and be honest , tell the person  that you have it, they have a right to know because even with protection  there is always a chance it can spread,  more so  during a breakout I'm sure, but even with out it... its a virus  and it spreads....   there are also support  groups for people with this ... just like  for any other group with a specific problem / situation.. and   dating     sites  / groups  dedicated to  others with it... dating    within the   same group can save you the embarrassment and anxiety of having to    tell people and risk rejection.  best wishes !
805629
as long as you arent kissing them where there is an outbreak
13914
You can't treat herpes. You can only treat it's outbreaks.\n\nHerpes plays a neurological hide-and-seek with every drug we throw at it -- and always wins. "The virus travels the nerve pathways and nests at the bundle of nerves at the base of the spine," says Dr. Whitley.\n\nhttp://www.webmd.com/content/article/76/90090.htm
521029
tough choice\nbut i'd prefer to have a herpes rather than being sitted and talked for hours by that ego-maniac dr. phil =)\ni would kill myself if i directly heard him called himself 'dr. phil'
206208
avoid them and hang around with better people (thoses who are you friends no questions asked). also stop letting them use you can also be attempted so that they will get the hint and get lost.