HELP!!! when do i tell my date im a single father with a five year old son?
961519
right before your first date and if you had a first date then tell her as soon as you see her again
961340
if your "dating" then why havent u been on a date?? you wouldnt be dating then would you?? tell him you wanna go to the movies or w/e u kids can do and then im sure hell make a mve and if he dosnt be flirty and let him know your really into him cuz young boys are really shy but dont try to make a move on a buss
865229
You just told it. Tell it to your son that way. It's better when it come from the way you remember it. \nI'm wondering how old your son is that you still have such a tight relationship. Just don't smother him, or one day it will be too much for him. \nLove but let live, too.
366135
Unfortunately only you can answer this one...Obviously your going to be scared and you have the right but only contact your father if you are prepared for him hanging up on you and saying he never wanted you.  Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.  But I know I would want to be told I had a kid if I didn't know.  Also after you tell him you might want to give him time to take it all in I am sure it will be alot for him to handle at once.  Be gracious and not over bearing and give him a chance to be someone he didn't know he was.
56073
Hey queen... Well its like this... \n\nUnless you post a sign in your shirt then nobody will know what you want... Im not saying that you do post a sign in your shirt! DUUUUH!\n\nThis is what I mean... Do you go out with guys who knows that you already have children? Are you still dressing in a very attractive way that men will come say hi... \n\nIts one way to tell guys that you are looking for one... About the religion thing im suggesting that you quit looking for a specific religion... When he comes and you start to like him and vice versa then adjustments between you will go automatically...\n\nRemember to be able to answer stuffs such as... And be sure to answer with confidence and don't make it too serious coz some men or most men hate this stuffs...\n - Where is the daddy of your child?\n - How are you able to raise them? (your child not husband)\n - And other questions that might be an issue with a guy...\n\nAs much as possible do not let the guy know that you have a child... But when he comes to see you the 2nd time then you can already tell him such things...\n\nHope I was able to help you out...
557753
Well, a tough situation for you, but you should tell him that you are pregnant with his child only because it's fair for him to know. If he chooses to be there in support of the child that's great!!! If he is not, then you have to decide for the child what's going to be best for him/her and if that means getting money from this guy then that is what it will take. Good Luck!!!!!
384813
If it has been that long then you can feel free to date again. The only thing is I would not let my children met anyone until I was sure he was the right one. You are a free woman to do as you please/////////////////
303528
The first thing is settle for friendship when he does get here. People can be pretty decieving when you meet them in real life. Secondly, you heard he had a gf but it may not be true. Just casually try to find out if he does or not. Having a new father figure in a kid's life can be hard, but he's still at a young age. Just make him get to know the person first, it's always easier that way. Like if you guys go to the park or out for a dinner together. Plus, it's also a nice way to find out how he treats your kid. just take it a day at a time. good luck:)
567513
I'm in my late 20's and have to consider this question while dating women often and this is what I come up with.  I have no problem dating a single mother as long as a few rules are adhered to. Don't let him meet your child until the relationship is at least a couple months old, because you don't want your child to have to meet a new guy every couple of weeks.  Know what you want out of the man, a relationship, or just a fling or what not. Lastly, and this is a tip and my personal opinion, but most men that would treat your child with respect and love will want another child........my personal pet peave with single mothers is that they don't want any more children.  Any man that would be a proper adult figure for your child will dream of one that comes from him too.  That's not to say that he will treat your child different, but dreams are dreams and any man who want's to be a father, will also want a child that both of you concieved.
69306
No you are not to young for this, you took it on when you started dating him.  BUT tell him that one day a week the kids need to go to the sitter or a day care, and make that your day to pamper yourself.  Then tell him that you are missing his company.  I think that being up front is the best thing for you, you will go crazy if you do not tell him.
309356
OK, you guy, I am not a boy, I am a girl, but I am answering your question because same thing happened to me,for the best and I think my answer might help a little...\n\nWhen I was 20 I had my child, (although I didn't get married) and 2 yrs later I met a really nice guy, he was 28 at that time, we began dating, I was really sure I didnt want to go back with the father, so, we dated for 2 yrs and then we got married, 8 yrs ago. \n\nHe's been the BEST father and husband, and I really think he is a great guy, just because to take care of a child that's not his is a great decision, a big step. We now have another one age 3!\n\nLots of people can say "dont get in trouble, get a single and only' one",  (they said that to my hb a lot!) but if you do love her there is nothing to question about. Just don't nag about the past, if it's what you really want, go for it.  Just propose, and obviously, if she says yes divorce and etc will come later. \n\nGood luck, dr!
982448
Hi. Look this is a no win situation for you. I know as I've been there.The best thing to do is ask your man to join you no matter what the situation is. Your kids have to get use to the idea that your have a life and you are entitled to be able to get on with it just as they do. They don't ask your permission as to who they date and don't expect you to be in a mood because of it. My partner and i nearly ended up apart when we tried to please everyone. You have to think of you and your boyfriend as he will be there for you when you need him and they wont as they have there own life to get on with AS you have. Good Luck and Merry Christmas and a happy new year
605351
Bro go out. Your daughter will be fine. You seem like a great dad! dating doesnt hurt. Leave your daughter with someone you trust. Do it before you looks fade, and your old n gray sayin I wish I wouldve.
367571
I have dated several times since I started having children. My first priority is my family. I would never chose a man over them so I am always honest from the beginning that they come first and are most important.\nNo man meets my family until I am comfortable with him and feel like it is the right fit. We have been through enough no reason for them to get attached to someone just to be hurt again. Sure of course something may happen the relationship doesnt work out. But I need to be comfortable in it before my baby meets the man.\nSo the man always knows about them...they do not know about him right away.\nThe only REAL difference I see in dating is I can not just up and go out. I very rarely leave my children with a sitter (ummmmm....ummmmm I remember once and that was a GOOD friend otherwise the only couple of other times its been family) so its not like I can just plan a hot Friday evening out Friday morning.\nMost guys are accepting and even love that I have a family and am very family orientated
438441
Well if this message is for me then, I guess I already know.\n\nYou may not want to tell him because once he turns 18 he can't show any romantic relations for you do to the law.\n\nBut, say you will wait for him, if he promises to wait for you to turn 18. This is for him to stay single or true to you, hopefully. Its not an exact relationship to be in but hey; its love. If he feels that the two of you shouldn't date or what not he should be kind enough to tell you nicely that it may not work between the two of you.\n\nBut, feel free to tell him that you have a crush on him. It will make him feel happy to know that he is adored by younger girls.\n\nI sure do hope to God that you didn't mean the word CURSE!
964744
Be on your side thats all that matters. I haven't had a father for 27 years and I am 27. My mom made the smart choice and got out. My sperm donor is a raging alcoholic and hasn't changed to this day. So I can say I am better off that might make me sound bad but I can honestly say my life has been better without him.
120757
Tell them you are single.