im in love with my boyfriend but he has cheated on me.. now he says hes changed... what do i do?
968073
Ok.  What do YOU think??  If a friend gave you this same information you just gave me......what would you tell her to do??\n\nYou know that he has cheated on you TWO TIMES......\ndo you REALLY think that he is worth getting hurt for a THIRD time??  \n\nHoney, I hope you're smarter than that.  I know it sucks and you hurt, but you have already invested THREE years of your life\nwith this guy.  Cut your losses and move on.  A guy who really loves you is not going to want to be with another woman.
1016985
If you disagree on what constitutes cheating, you should leave him.  The more you love him the more his cheating is going to hurt.  Take the big hurt now, rather than taking it in medium sized doses frequently over a long period of time.  Walk away.
175255
If you have any concern, I think that you really should talk to your boyfriend.  Despite you have been together for 6 years, you are still very young and you are still learning so much about yourself.  He may or may not be cheating on you but there is a question for you, why did you get back together after he cheated on you last time?  Did you think that he would change?  Personally, if someone cheated on me once, it is very difficult to rebuild that trust for I know that even if for the rest of his life, he never cheats, I would still wonder if he is whenever he is late from work, have a business trip....so that will not be fair for the man!  Why do you want to be in a relationship that is second guessing?
480316
what was the reason for the break up. If he cheated, or decieved you, just forget about him. If it was just to try and get something to go YOUR way, then think about how to change that quality about yourself and try and fix things with him... Show him you're willing to change, and try your best not to force things to be done your way with threats. As you can see, that won't work with your guy... and it's really not healthy for a relationship
676119
If you love this guy, you should give him a chance. Since he hasn't cheated you, don't push him on something you might regret. You're pregnant, the more you need someone to give you support. think about the baby. just think how much he cares about you and how patient he is whenever you get jealous...
393711
If you are cheating on him you should stop being a moron and give up the good guy you are screwing over. Someone else certainly deserves him. If u arent cheating yet.. then knock it off.. and have your long term learn to fulfill your needs
270867
Did you just find out that he was cheating?  You know what you have to do already!  If he has cheated on you the whole time he will not stop now.  It is up to you to get out of this relationship.  I know it is hard to leave someone that you have become so familiar with, but you are in an unhealthy situation in more ways than one.  You need to consider the fact that he is playing with your heart, emotions and also risking your life.  STD are real and some can kill you or make you barren.  Get out now.  Good luck!
1107183
Find a real man.If he is going to cheat on you now, he will always cheat on you.I think you already know what to do but need to hear it from others.Please don't be treated this way.You are a beautiful , faithful person and don't deserve to be treated like a mat.
865831
You should give him the same exact respect you would want him to give you...but I have a feeling you have already gone beyond where that line is with you.\nSit down with him.  Tell him how much he has meant to you, but that you have changed and he doesn't mean that anymore.  Be honest, the worst thing you can do to yourself is lie.\nI would caution you on one thing though-the new relationship is always going to seem exciting-at first.  Then it becomes just another relationship.  Don't keep the current guy hanging on while you find that out.  Since you betrayed his feelings, it is better for him if you move out now and be honest with him.\nI am not judging you harsly, it just sounds that way.  I have been on  BOTH sides of this arguement so I know what you are feeling and I know what he is going to go through.  \nJust be a good person about it, as good as you can anyway.
404843
Think of it the other way around.  Say that he is wondering the same thing.  If he was honest enough to tell you about it, what would YOU say and do?!  Your boyfriend deserves your honesty: at the very least, have the courtesy and the courage to let him know how you are feeling.  And be prepared to crush his feelings.  If you play the cheating game, YOU KNOW it will eventually come around to bite you on the ass!  Whether it's your guilty conscience, or the inevitability of his finding out some time anyway, he WILL find out!  Do you know the difference between right and wrong?  Of course you do!  Are you willing to risk your relationship with your boyfriend?  If you are, you have no business being his girlfriend, and he's much better off without you!  Like you girls say about us, think with your big head (you know what I mean!).
309031
I think he's going to end up cheating on you again.  He continues to lie, and obviously still has feelings for this other woman.  Knowing that you both have been unfaithful makes me think that there are some serious problems in your relationship that you just aren't willing to address or work out.  I know that being with someone for that long can make leaving them all that much harder, but you need to step away from the relationship.  Yes you were both wrong, but that doesn't mean he can't forgive you and stop holding your actions over you head.  Have you forgiven him?  There really is no trust in your relationship anymore and I just don't see a realtionship working out in the long run if the partners can't trust each other.  Hope this helps, good luck!
1127003
if u still love him think about giving him another chance but b4 making ur decision u should think about why u broke up with him in the first place and if ur rlly over wat he did to u. ask urself if u can rlly trust him again and if it's rlly a good idea to get back together with him the choice is urs \nGood Luck!!!
612552
Please do yourself a huge favor and move on. I can tell you from personal experience, if he cheated and he doesn't want to talk to you, he doesn't love you and he NEVER will. I'm sure you are worthy of someone that truly loves you. Don't mix up obsession and love. Good luck!
119912
If you doubt he loves you now than it is probably true. Also I would not want to be with someone who cheated on me. He will do it again if given the chance
590569
Mandy,\n If you have reason to believe that he even thought about cheating on you, then hit the road. Leave this idiot in the dirt, and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are.\nGood Luck.
435783
He made his decision long time ago. He cheated on you, let him prove that he wants to be wtih you. But what you should be asking yourself is can you get past his cheating and never bring it up can you forgive him and will you get past this and be in a healthy meaningful relationship. You owe it to yourself and to him.
947971
Let him know how you feel if things remain this way get out while you can. If he loves you he will change his ways. Things will only get worse if you done deal with them now.