I feel insecure about my body.... i dont want my bf to see me wat should i do?
971376
if he has a problem with you or your weight  i doubt that he would be with you your insecurity is whats going to drive him away not your stretch marks
281984
The first question you should ask your is why you don't want to eat in front of him.  I think it may be one of two reason, one being you are shy or two you think that the guy you are with is (well how do I say it) too good for you.  If you really like him then you need to just let go of your insecurities and let yourself have a good time.  Believe me unless you are such a sloppy eater that not only do you spill food on your shirt but his too, he really doesn't care what you look like when you eat.  And if it makes you feel better take small bits so you don't feel like a horse chewing up hay you'll feel a little more lady like.
481482
Realize that no one else is as interested in your body as you are, and that almost everyone else has the same phobia (or did at one time).  I was more interested in getting myself clean and out of there than worrying about how anyone else looked - I bet most people are the same way.  If they're not - they're wierd.
682161
Ew...that's awful!  Your height and weight are pretty average in actuality.  Okay, so you aren't a skinny, boney model, but who is?!  If he's being mean about it, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings.  He only cares about what you look like.  Try talking with him at first.  But if that doesn't work, leave him.  There are plenty of guys out there that will think you're beautiful, even if you gained another 20 lbs.  No reason to stay with someone who makes you feel bad, especially over something as superficial as weight.  Stay true to yourself and good luck!
425777
Time with him will help.  Take baby steps.  Try something new that wouldn't embarass you totally.  That may help you realize that you can be yourself and he doesn't mind a bit.
750220
if you really feel like you need to lose weight for his FRIENDS, go ahead. dressing differently will make you cooler, but you will not be yourself anymore. but do whatever floats your boat. if you want my opinion, dont change anything. you sound like a really sweet girl and if he is stupid enough not to see you for you, then the best thing might be to move on and just forget about him. i know its cliche, and you didnt want to hear it, but you might have to. ask him what is wrong and if he is a true friend, he will tell you. and if he really does love you, then he will come back to you, unless he is a complete moron who only goes for the sluts. try ignoring him for a while, and see how he reacts to you. \n\n\ngood luck!!
270118
there is someone for you. as soon as you accept yourself that is when others will. i have a cousin that is very heavy and she had the same problem until she stopped caring so much what others thought and she was just herself and had fun. if you do this then people will see the real you and not your weight. i am heavy and have many friends and a bf. you are capable of it
180632
Make daily exercise an activity you do with your boyfriend.  Go on a long, brisk walk, or even a jog.  Maybe head to your local gym and have a joint work-out session.\n\nAsk him to help remind you not to eat quite so much (if you really are eating more than you need to be).  I'm sure he'd be willing to help out.\n\nAbout being afraid that he'll leave you... you shouldn't even worry about it!  If he's a decent guy and really likes you, he won't care what you look like and he CERTAINLY won't be embarrassed to be with you in public.  If he leaves you, he wasn't worth having.  I know this sounds cliche, but it's cliche because it's so true.\n\nDon't get all gung-ho about this losing weight thing before checking out what your ideal healthy weight for your height is.  Once you find out, set that as a limit and DON'T go under that weight.  You don't want to start a neverending chain... sadly that happens to way too many people.\n\nGood luck!
270384
The fact that you HAVE a boyfriend should mean something!  He chose you to go out with!  He LIKES you and he sure as heck WONT lose interest so soon!  If you're ready to do 'things' with him then you seem pretty secure and comfortable with him, right? \n\nTo build up your confidence you could try to improve your physical appearance until you feel satisfied with the way you look.  \n\nIf you ARE happy with how you look like and STILL feel scared, maybe you aren't ready to go there with him...?
1154742
have u ever thought that people are just jealous? cauz alot of them may be. ur not a man and u know that and ur bf obviously doesnt think so otherwise he wouldnt b dating u. just concentrate on the people that count and not random people who dont know beauty when they see it.
415812
Are you sure he doesn't like you cause you're fat? Maybe there's something else in his mind. Look, i'm also fat. I have  a lot of ugly stretch marks all over my body but i know i am happier than most of the beautiful women on earth. It actually what you have in mind. If he really doesn't like you cause you're fat, remember girl, he's not worth you!! You deserve to be loved by a decent man. Don't try on a diet or extra exercise because of a lousy man. Because even if it works out (your diet and sport) and then he loves you because you have model figure, would you really think that his love is sincere? Would you really think he loves you because of you and not because of your sexy body? You have two choices.\n \nIf he doesn't like you cause you're fat, LEAVE HIM!! it is the lousiest reason a man doesn't like a woman.\nIf else, try to find out the reason he doesn't like you then work it out.
719574
I'm going on 38 next month but beleive me, i know how you feel, i have been heavy my whole life, i never felt liked, endured cruel jokes and felt i would never have a boyfriend. Girls and women are expected to look like everyone else on TV, its always the thin models that get the main roles in movies and chubby women are shoved to the backburner. We need to realize and believe that looks dont mean ANYTHING AT ALL, if guys are only going to like you because you have a nice body then that tells me what kind of person they really are, a JERK. You have so much to offer in this world, dont let anyone tell you otherwise! You are a special and unique person. Please just be yourself and stop comparing yourself to others, it takes all shapes and sizes in our world. Please enjoy yourself while you can and put a smile on your face, thats what will trully draw the right ones to you. For me i choose swimming to keep myself as healthy as possible, its easier on your body and burns more calories than any exercise you do out of water ( i was told this by a swim instructer ) and best of all its FUN. I know its hard, i dont mean to go on and on but i just want you to know your not alone. God Bless you.
786873
Sweetie, definitely talk to a therapist or counselor...your body image issues are more than anyone here can help you with, especially in this forum/medium.\n\nYou need to find out what is and is not possible to make healthy changes to your body, and what you will have to learn to like and live with, because it's just part of who you are and how you look...some people have big ears, and just have to learn to live with them...\n\nTake care of you...your phsycial appearance isn't half as important as your health...
367360
Mast ur bate; explore you body and enjoy yourself.  Tell you boyfriend about it only when he comes home from the job and not over the phone.  Then you can show him just what you have learnt about your body while he has been away
473285
OK do one thing smile..look yourself in the mirror and be proud of who you are don't worry about what others think. if they are going to be shallow let them and just think how more mature you are. Ive had acne every1 has its just something every1 goes through. some have it worse then others but i think by you worrying about it .it makes it worse like when I'm stressed i break out . you can go to a dermatologist if it really bothers you but being more pretty for your bf isn't something that you should worry about. when your older looks fade whats left is the heart and that's something that cant get ugly if your a good person. it does bug me if i have acne but i try to look past it . i hate seeing girls with perfect skin lol
752134
it's good that u value your body. remember that it is the most special GIFT  u can give. so don't give it to anyone who hasn't proven worth it. i don't think u should worry about what people think about u. if he does tell, then he wasn't a very good friend. get rid of him. if your other friends make a big deal of it, tell 'em to mind their f*ckin business. people will always talk. don't let their opinions of u rule how u feel about yourself.
202353
Well dear...not really.  And why would you want to?  All our bodies are different and there isn't really a 'normal' you should be aspiring to.  If you're watching porn or seeing naked picture, trust me, most people don't look like those woman.  And by the time a guy gets to that part of your body, he's not going to care if its a bit smaller than 'normal.'  He'll be to excited. \n\nDon't forget that often times we are far far to critical of ourselves and our bodies.  Chances are you aren't as disproportioned as you think you are.  Relax and enjoy your body.