My strict mother in law?
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I’m a guy and I think that you are wrong and that your MIL has a right to be mad. She could’ve handled it with a little more decorum, but she still has the right to be upset with you.\n\n If it was just you and her in the house, your MIL might have had an issue with it still, but she may not have said anything to you about it. But because her husband and son were there, she felt like she needed to get this under control. I am sure you know very well that most men are stimulated by what we see. Whether or not you think the FIL and BIL don’t “have” to look, doesn’t mean that they CAN’T look. Again, for many guys, that look can stimulate (especially in the younger brother), which is something you DO NOT want to do to them, because 1) you are a married woman, and 2) you are married to their son/brother.\n\nNow, just for kicks, imagine that you have a sister, older or younger, who is just as attractive and appealing as you.  She comes to stay with you and your husband for a year. She wears things around the house that are exactly like what you described yourself wearing at you MIL’s house. Now, how comfortable would you be if you had to start working nightshift or had to be away for an extended period of time, say four weeks, and they were left there alone? If you say very comfortable because they wouldn’t do anything, consider this. Even if they don’t do anything together, your husband may still take a sideways glance if it’s constantly available for him to see, especially if you are not around to catch him. So with that in mind, would you say something to her about her pink and see-through nighties? Do you think that your husband, in order to protect himself from lusting after his SIL, would ask her to cover up, in HIS own house? \n\nThis comes down to respect for not only your MIL, but also to your FIL, your BIL, and their home. You and your MIL might have been the best of friends, but you can’t blame her for making sure there are no nearly-nude chicks in her hen-house (excuse the pun). And oh yeah, it doesn’t matter that your husband bought you nighty. Your husband bought it most likely for you to wear for or around him, and that’s the way it should stay.
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Just tell her exactly like you did here. I think most women would understand. They'd be honoured if you called them "mom" -- and I think that applies to m-inlaws, and stepmoms, but don't expect it, and understand it if you cannot. I cannot call my inlaws mom & dad -- and both my parents died young -- they're fine with it -- maybe disappointed deep inside -- but they understand as likewise, they felt the same about their inlaws...and so it goes.
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hee hee, lol\nOne day a mother in law went to visit her son and his new bride. she let herself in with the spare key and was shocked to find her daughter in law sprawled on the sofa, naked. Mother in law asked her why she was naked and lying on the sofa. Because this is the what your son likes me to wear when he comes home, he calls it my love dress she replied. But you're naked said the mother in law. Yes, but when your son comes home from work and sees me we wearing the love dress he goes wild and we make mad passionate love for 4 hours. Upon hearing this the mother in law leaves and when she reaches her home, she removes her clothes and lies down on the sofa to wait for her husband. Her husband returns and finds his wife naked on the sofa, and asks what are you doing? The wife answers this is my love dress. The husband says, it needs ironing, now wheres my dinner!!!
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Patience is a virtue, I always say. If you live with them I feel for you. Just a few things to remember, 1)if you love him then you will learn to appreciate and deal with the family that you married into. 2)Although, everyone disagrees sometimes try to bond with your inlaws and things will go better than being upset. 3)Get to know your mother-in-law as mother than just a mom but a friend or gal-pal. 4)Do something as a family together. Go out and do something that you all will enjoy.
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YOUR HOUSE. YOUR RULES.  \n\nRequest your brother to refrain from telling jokes in front of your in-laws.  He must be able to do this at other events (like at church, weddings, funerals) and at work (if not he must be a sexual harassment lawyers dream come true).  \n\nIf he feels he is unable to comply with YOUR HOUSE YOUR RULES then please either do not attend or show up after your in-laws have left, where he can open the trap up.\n\nThere will be no pleading, discussion or reasoning.  I do not tolerate fowl language during working hours from co-workers and if they do not like it they know they can get a job somewhere else.\n\nAlso inform him the the punishment could be you showing everyone pictures of him as a baby (naked on the bearskin rug or wearing your dresses), all of which either he will deny you have or be scared you really will.  If you don't tell him paint shop pro works wonders on the old family pictures.\n\nGood luck
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I wouldnt worry about it if I where you althought it might make you furious let her think what she wants it's that type of gossip that might fill her less than fulfilling days so in fact your doing the old lady a favour by giving her something to do, Just as long as you and your hubby are straight in understanding the situation then every thing is cool cause at the end of the day he is your real family,under your roof in your bed is what matters the most of what is though of you.
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I'd tell off my mother-in-law! \n\nI'd tell her it is NOT okay to hit me, it is not okay to put me down in front of my children, her son CHOSE me so she needs to forget aout his ex, she needs to stop saying she wants to fins him a new wife, she needs to stop lying, she needs to stop steeling my things, especially my underwear, and she needs to keep her nose in her own business. I know hoe to keep my man happy, while hers is walking out the door every month becuase he's fed up of her. If she's not careful, one of these time's he's not going to come back.
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Wow,,, that does sound pretty disgusting the way you worded it.  It often appears that the mother in law and daughter always seem to have competition going on.  I am not really sure why and it getting rather old.  You and this quy have been together 20 plus years and there is still tension between the 2 women he so obviously adores.  Being a woman you know how to add fuel to the fire or put out the flames...Try taking the higher road and leave it be.  I have another tool you could use as well... It is called PRAYER... the most powerful tool out here.  God sees all that is going on and He knows how you feel about it.  He also knows how your husband feels as well.  Can you imagine how excited he will be to see his 2 favorite girls interacting without foolishness.  Pray about it and leave it be...
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FOR SHAME on your father in law!  Doesn't he know that by not encouraging her, that he is actually DISCOURAGING her and sabotaging her ability to reach her goals?  He doesn't need to be "mushy" just to say, "I'm glad to know you're happy about the progress you've been making".  SHEESH!\n\nSo, I'm gonna recommend that you go to the store and pick up a whole bunch of greeting cards.  They don't need to be expensive, and they don't need to necessarily have wording that's related to the weight loss.  Just cards that let her know you're thinking about her.  Send one off to her every two or three days...If you need to, address all of them in advance so that you can just drop them in the mailbox.  But if you have time, include a note inside each one, letting her know that you're proud of the fact that she's working out...or that she lost one more pound.  Don't forget to remind her that the weight she has already lost is a great accomplishment, and that she doesn't want all of her efforts to be in vain.\n\nAlso, maybe your father-in-law can recommend a neighbor or someone from their church who might be interested in taking a walk with your mother-in-law once a week, or something.  Alternately, does she use the computer?  She might enjoy spending some time in the chat room on Richard Simmons' site...she might even find someone in her area who has had success, or needs a work-out cohort.\n\nI'm proud of you for being so concerned.  You can also let your MIL know that I'm proud of her for doing so well!!!
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You can't.\n\nMy mother in-law was a leach to our marriage for 2 years after she left my father in-law and then it got worse when my wife was pregnant and we had our first son. I hold my mother in-law 50% responsible for destroying my marriage with her interference.
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well hon I'd say mom is just a bit leery of her little boy dating someone. Most moms are not gonna be overly excited about the prospects of their baby dating seriously.  Try a couple of different things, find out what she is really interested in and try to conversate with her about these things, show an interest in her and not just her son and maybe she will take to you on that point. And finally dress conservatively, if she gets the wrong impression of you by the way you dress then she's not likely to accept you at all.  You could also try talking to her about it, see what her comfort levels are, my MIL is really quiet by nature so it's not me necessarily it's just she isn't comfy talking period.
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My mother-in-law gets a black eye.
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My mother in law feels sorry for my husband. He thinks that I don't do anything at all..and that I should have a job so he doesn't have to work so hard. \nThe truth is..she was Missing In Action for most of my husband's life..having to work all of the time at menial jobs. He has very few memories of her being there at all.\nSoo...I have learned to avoid her, and shrug off her unsubstantiated criticisms.
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Do you know that 7 in 10 women do NOT get along with their mother-in-laws?\n\nI'm also one of that 7...it doesn't get easier but there are ways of dealing with them.\n\nGo buy "Toxic In-Laws" by Susan Forward, it helped me understand & deal my MIL & FIL better...they can't be "fixed" nor will they change.\n\nThere are also several other books out there dealing with this topic...just look up "Toxic Inlaws" on Amazon.
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It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.
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there is no easy way out of that - your mother-in-law no matter what you say and do will not give up supporting your brother - in - law - what I think you should do is go straight to him and try to get him to change his ways...
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Relationships with in-laws can be so difficult.  I know it is none of my business, but why in the world are you living with them?!!!  It would be really nice if you and your husband could have a place of your own to live.  It would not fix all the problems, but it would certainly help out a lot.  You and your husband need to stand together whenever you confront your in-laws.  Maybe your husband needs to do the talking for both of you so they will know that you both agree with what you are confronting them about.  It will be difficult for your in-laws to accept that you and your husband are one now and that they should not interfere in your marriage.  And what is the deal with them not letting you two open your own bank account?  Aren't you adults?  Don't you have your own money?  Why is it any of their business?  Why is your husband letting them control the 2 of you?  Is he having issues "letting go of mommy's apron strings" or something?  \n\nI would suggest that you both see a family/marriage counselor and ask him to help you find a way to deal with your in-laws.  I have a similar problem with my in-laws which almost broke up our marriage, and our couselor suggested that my husband and I confront them together in a loving manner.  He said that if they still refuse to respect me and refuse to change the way they treat us, we need to stop being around them.  In my opinion, you and your husband need to make a decision to put your marriage first if you want it to survive, and do not let anything or anyone come between you.  Find a way to move out.  I'm assuming it is their house since your mother-in-law has removed your belongings from the rest of the house.  You and your husband need to put some distance between yourselves and his parents.  He needs to let them know that he has a family and responsibility of his own now that they cannot interfere with.\n\nAs for how to deal...  That is so difficult.  Continually forgive them for the things they do.  Don't hold on to grudges.  Don't let anger eat away at you or turn into hatred.  It will ruin your health, your marriage, and your whole life.  Continue to stand up for yourself and for your marriage.  And also remember that when you have a child, things are most likely going to get worse with your in-laws, so be prepared.  I wish you the best and hope that you can find your own place to live and maybe a family counselor as well.