how do people feel bean married?
954517
I feel happy and secure.
742473
No, it's not bull crap.  People get involved in their own lives and take each other for granted.  It then becomes a chore to relate to them and feels like it's not worth the effort.\n\nHow do I know?  I've been married for 11 years and just went through the growing apart thing, to the point where we were ready for divorce.  We decided to give it one more try, and we are.  We are working on our marriage and working on being more tolerant and caring.  So far, so good.  I found that the person that I fell in love with is still inside him.  It was just covered up with years of problems and arguments and everyday life.\n\nI wish you luck too.
531674
You should be happy you married a very good spouse...\neveryone does feel bored over things that is the same most of the time...\n-working would help if you are stay at home wife,\n-have your own business where you can put those energies,\n-join some foundations... this would not only make you happy but for a good cause.\ntell your husband how you feel... he may have some better ideas then... a second honeymoon...
1120871
I feel the same as this person= minus the ex husband stuff. No offense but I am still married and was Pentecostal before my husband. But I was also raised baptist, my grandfather was a baptist preacher. I have the same feelings for Pentecostal as she does- here is her quote- hope she doesn't mind me posting it again.\n\nI am Pentecostal after being raised a Baptist. I originally started going to Pentecostal as my husband (now ex) went there. I choose to stay as there is freedom to worship and people don't think you're nuts if you cry or clap or raise your hands to worship the Lord. I enjoy the freedom of expression and the focus on the joy that will be found after the Lord raptures his church
293081
I married the perfect guy, but I still feel something for the man I was suposed to marry. I've contact him after 11 yrs and he is still mad at me, besides we have an ocean between us, and I dont want to leave my hubby! wilmary69@yahoo.com
210116
Oh, yes ! My husband! 8 years ago! For real the first time I seen him! I was just gone for him!! Could not eat, sleep or think!! I knew then and there we would get married!!! He still makes me weak all over!! I love him-- Words cant express what I feel for him! Bye
403215
I love my boyfriend and I feel happy to have someone to share my love and my life with.  I look forward to our life together and though I know we may have adjustments, I feel that with the kind of person that he is, I know that we will be able to work out our forthcoming marriage and it will be one journey that will enhance our lives.  To put it simply - happy!  :)
158749
Don't feel bad.  Humans feel horny sometimes, it's part of our biology.  Don't let people tell you it's a sin.  God gave us these urges as incentive to make babies.  How you act on these urges, tho, depends on your beliefs.  There's nothing wrong about acting on these urges if you find someone who feels the same about you and cares about you.  You don't have to be married, but you should wait for the right person.  \n\nBut just feeling horny shouldn't make you feel bad.  It should make you feel like a human being.
181844
I feel the question is to vague for an answer , what are your regrets ? You say your spouse and family would be devastated , so are we to assume that your spouse still feels that everything is ok in the marriage? are your regrets things like , what if I had done this or what if I had married this person instead or my life would have been so different if I had never married or had kids? Lots of people at some time and point in their lives wonder what if , that's normal . But if there is nothing truly wrong in your marriage , I feel that you owe it to your family to make it better , to many people today get stuck in ruts and start thinking that the grass is greener on the other side but the reality of it is if you don't find out for your self why you feel this way or make the change within your self to make things better , then it's only a matter of time before the grass on the other side turns brown as well. When you take your vows you make a promise for better or worst , sickness and health , good times and bad , the power is in you to make your marriage and family a success. Think about what you are feeling ,why you are feeling that way, before you jump ship and possibly repeat all the same mistakes and regrets all over again
49971
What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Just because you are married and love your husband does not mean you are dead. I am sure your husband is not perfect and neither is the other guy. It's like the new car smell, eventually it wears off as the car gets older.\n\nBe a friend to your friend and keep it that way. There is nothing wrong with feeling for someone that you like and admire. Just keep both of your families in focus and everthing should be okay.
641384
I have been married 11 years this year. A lot of people think that marriage is going to be fun and full of lovey feelings, holding hands and skipping through a field with flower petals showering down on you. No one thinks that sometimes it rains, hails and can even blow you off your feet with extreme hurricane winds. This is when most people bail. Marriage is pulling together and fighting through it. Love is not a feeling that you feel for your partner, but an action. It is staying when you feel like leaving. It is hugging them when you feel like pushing them away. It is telling them how much they are to you. It is putting this person above even yourself. It is developing a friendship and putting that person above your friends and family. Your husband/wife should be the single most important person in your life. It takes work and most are to into themselves or lazy to work at it. A friendship is the best thing to give your partner along with a healthy dose of appreciation.
247120
The lack of Freedom, like to chill with you friends  without being accused of doing something wrong.The worry of your spouse cheating and fighting. But I am married and Happy so I wouldn't have it any other way. I love my husband and he loves me but we damn sure know how to get on one another's nerves every now and again.
17448
For us, it has been work.  Lots and lots and lots of hard work.\n\nWhen we got married, I had an idea of what a wife should do, be like, etc. And, I expected her to be this person and our marriage to be a certain way.  So, after working at it for a year (and fighting constantly), I slowly realized that she is who she is and my expectations were wrong.  (She had to realize the same things about me.)  This is when we learned we have to work at communicating with each other and with ourselves. (You will have to learn who you truly are as well as who your mate truly is.)\n\nWe have been together almost 12 years now; she is my soul mate and we are very happy.  But, the communication and understanding that are needed are work.\n\nEvery few months, life will throw a new set of challenges at us and we will have to work at communicating well, understanding things 100% from the other persons point of view, not having emotional reactions to things without asking "Did you mean that way I heard it?" Then, once we have communicated and are in synch with each other, we can tackle the challenges of life together.  \n\nMarriage is not 50/50.  It is 100%/100%, and often you have to give your 100% first.  But, being able to become someones soul mate and their true love is an amazing blessing.  Just keep in mind that sometimes you have to give your 100% first and that is work.\n\nBeing truly in love when you get married is a great place to start growing your life long love together.    But, you have to work to grow life long love.  \n\nPlus, please remember to "actively love".  Don't just love someone and feel that is enough.  You have to pay attention to this person you are marrying, and learn what stresses them out, makes them happy, what they are great at, how best to be supportive,  and which of the family roles that mentally and emotionally hate but that you could do (I do the dishes, because she would rather be beat with a stick than wash another person's dishes.).  In other words, you have to learn who this person really is and how you can help make their life happier.  Ask yourself, "What can I DO, to make my mates life easier, happier, better, etc."  "Active love", which is paying attention to your mate and then doing things you can to improve their life, is also part of true love.\n\nForgive the long answer.  This is just the things we have learned in our 12 years together.  Every relationship is unique.  \n\nGood luck and best wishes to you both.
1063000
You know, it is funny that you mention this because a friend of mine was telling me the same thing the other day.  I think in her case that it was just a really strong attraction, which really isn't a big thing.  You just cannot act of those feelings being married as you are.  It is normal to find other people attractive and think that they are awesome to be around.  You are married, sweetie, not dead!
1035283
I know how you feel.  My husband used to be the same way.  It is a horrible way to live, isn't it?  Just remember that he has a problem and needs help.  Divorce was not an option for me so I stuck it out, hoping that he would change.  He did.   With a little maturing, antidepressants (for both of us I might add) and patience, we made it.\nI always wanted the kind of marriage my mom and dad have.   Loving, caring for one another, laughter and respect.  It took many years, but I finally got it.  We have been married 29 years this year.  It was soooo difficult though.  But well worth the wait.  Please try to talk to your husband about antidepressants.  It really helps my husband not be so angry and irritable all the time.  If you don't feel like you take it anymore (and I know how that is, too)  talk to someone.  It can help more than you realize.  If I can help in some way, please send me an e-mail.  I would be glad to listen.  I didn't have anyone that I felt comfortable enough with to tell all the sorted details to.  Didn't want mom and dad to know how bad things really were.  Good luck and I will say a little prayer for you and your family....:)
834044
yes very happy through both good and bad times, there is no one i would rather come home to or spend time with. we have been married for eight years and it just gets better everyday. the primary reason is that she understands/forgives my hobbies and interests and i understand hers. give and take and flexability on both sides make it much easier. the first year was just getting used to each others habits, and the more rigid (i will not/your fault/my way) additudes just scew it up. and forgive and forget. no grudges.
1080717
You're married, but you're not dead. In other words, being married doesn't eliminate the ability to be attracted to other people. I think it's natural to feel confused, especially if marriage isn't what you expected. The new wears off rather quickly, doesn't it? It's up to you and your hubby to ''keep it real'' because passion tends to fade. If you don't maintain your passion for one another, you will grow bored (a.k.a. the ''comfort rut'') with eachother and will probably be tempted to step outside of your marital boundaries. There's nothing on the ''other side'' that you really want (remember what you hated about single life?)Chances are, you've forgotten about the pitfalls of being single. Marriage is a lot of work (but can also be great) and people have some crazy misconceptions about this kind of committment. For example, before getting married, I honestly believed that married people have sex all the time. I quickly discovered that I was wrong - and that a number of things can affect a couple's sex life. Work and stress are good mood killers, especially for men. \nShould you pursue this other man, what will happen when the new wears off? Will you pursue somebody else in hopes that it will be different? Being with another man will only confuse you, and though you may not realize it, you will also find yourself torn between these two men (unsure about how you really feel).  If you've lost the fire in your current relationship, it's probably because you and your husband haven't made an effort to keep that fire going. \n\nIf the other man is claiming, but isn't acting like he's into you, it's probably because of your marital status. With that in mind, he's  probably very reluctant to get involved with a married woman.