bad relationships, is there hope out there??
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Tell me about it, feel like giving up every relationship always ends up wrong.  eg: my last relationship was going great untill he got a new job which required him to move back to america...so that ended like all the others....is there any hope out there?
522048
well i have a horrible past! and i built up walls to it. but i have recently found out that to move on from it---i had to break them down and deal with it---now i can move on from it! if you have never had a bad past, you can never fully understand how it effects your present! agree???? well life for me is better! but i have such a tendency to look for trouble and heartache...i guess it is still in me to live a troubled life......
1015943
Your a girl....there are tons of scum bags, uh sorry, guys who would take advantage of your situation.  You don't have to look far.  I'd suggest work on your marriage or get out of it.....why try to find the in between that never works out!
174229
you sound just like me. i'm trying to work things out but i know the end result will be me leaving. i just want to be able to say that i gave it my all and totally mean it. sometimes we just outgrow them. have you ever tried to start some sort of hobbie with each other or do a date night? maybe that will get something going for you. i tried that. my husband didnt even care to go through with any of it. he just agreed to it and never did it. i'm writing a book on my horrible marriage. as soon as i get enough crap for my book i'm out. its not worth it to stay.
560486
counseling helps, but there is no cure. will power and support from family is what you need. or a friend for that matter. some of us can relate to you more than others. find someone to talk to sweetie.
1013484
as someone who has been there, trust me, honesty is the best way to go. if he can't deal with it, then he's not the one for you
1146260
Sweetie, you are suffereing from the "I am worthless" syndrome. Get over it NOW! You are the same person you always were, have the same merits and weaknesses, the same love for others locked inside. One bad relationship does not mean you will have another. IF what you want from a date is a quickie, go for it. IF you are looking for something more, wait until you have your ego and self-worth back together. We all have been there, but ... unfortunately, I have found that being asked to go to bed is NOT a compliment, it is just what it is...the same guys who want to bed you down will go down a line to the first who says "yes." It is amusing to watch it in bars...Try watching and laughing. You will get a great sense of perspective. The best of luck to you...nothing in you has changed.
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Why bother to lower yourself to his level?  I would think that you would want to forget the bad times and start making good times.  Use your energy to find another partner/mate/pal or whatever you call him and develop some great new memories to blot out the sour of the old.  Remember this, ugly harbors ugly.
877499
Yes It was incredibly hard. If you know that it is bad deep down, you'll never be happy.It takes time but when you meet the person you were meant to be with it will all be worthwhile. Break it off, find yourself and embrace your future
1031963
How about a bad break up story? \n\nI was waiting for my b/f to bring me my boom box to teach a dance class. He was supposed to be there by 8pm. We waited and waited for him. At 2am when the place closed, I walked out with my students and friends to find a note on my car. He said that he had waited for me but since I didn't come out (like I was supposed to know he was outside!), he had to leave a note. What it came down to was that he was a coward and couldn't break up face to face and in front of my friends. \n\nAnyway, after telling me that afternoon that he loved me, he told me in the note that it wasn't working out........what a loser! I am better off without him!
1011655
I have the same problem its happened about 4 times to me. But i think that its meant to happen. i know its hard right now...and i know everyone says it will get better and i truly think it will. But you just have to remember there are a lot of good people with good hearts out there. And one of them is absolutly meant just for you. I hope that you find that someone soon.
1004304
Yea there are some..but very hard to find one.If your a good person you will find a good person.Just remember you always get what you really deserve in life.
21592
Josie, you need to speak to a Professional counselor or your Pastor immediately, and work through the issues that brought you into this relationship and that keeps you there.  What you are describing is self-destructive and needs to be fixed as soon as possible
476199
I think you guys should see other people first before you start to mend anything. maybe its a mutual separation, and you just dont know it yet. I really think before you do anything just see other people first. if nothing works out, try to mend things between eachother. if you arent willing to separate for a little while, try to mend things by either counseling or talking it out. i hope this helped!
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Continue with this relationship and see if it gets better.\n\nI wish you love\nstw
632933
yeh, it's possible. and you can try counseling. i fell out of love. and i don't think it's gonna work for me.
458087
don't lie ...  in the end you will only hurt others and yourself... and do you really want a relationship built on lies ???... you know you don't !...    when the right one comes along  being honest will pay off big time!  be patient...it will happen when you least expect it...  best wishes!