How do you deal with friends who talk bad about you behind your back?
958882
Stop being friends with those hookers! Seriously! Just ignore them completly, when they say hi, dont waste your breath and say "hi" back because you know its a complete lie. When they walk by you, just pretend like you dont see them. Find some true friends, friends who wont backstab you, friends that are real and honest, and friends that are genuinly good people, there are tons of them out there. If they were really your friends, they woulnt be doing this in the first place, drop these losers.
150203
I wouldn't ever tell her anything else again.  I've learned over the years that if you don't want people to know certain things, don't tell them.  It's really hard for some people to keep quiet about something "juicy".  Why was she talking behind your back about you anyway?
442421
Live better than them and ignore what they are saying.\n\nPeople who talk crap about other people ae almost always jealous of the person they are speaking ill of.
680041
"For example, if you overheard a piece of a conversation where the person was saying how they could afford to buy something new, and you knew that they had debts with someone locally, would you confront them about the purchase or would you contact the person they owed? "\n\nI just took a tid bit out but you can see where I am taking this from.  Right there you are contradicting your argument.\n\nIn one section you are talking about eaves dropping and not getting into other peoples business. And in another you talking about confronting someone about someone else's problem.  You have a point I just feel that you are explaining your self the wrong way.  Gossip will happen all of your life in every place you go. Work, School, even Church.  \n\nI can understand that it is frustrating when you hear people do this, but technically you are doing it yourself and not even realizing it.  When you hear someone say something behind someones back and you tell your friend "Now that is messed up." and then rant about people being the way they are and talk about how they should say that to that persons face, you are just doing it yourself.\n\nLet me ask you this. If you hear someone saying something about your friend, you would confront them about it, but would you also go and tell your friend that so and so was saying this about them.\n\nBy no means am I cutting up your question I am just suggesting to you to take a closer look at the situation and realize that everyone does it to a degree, some more than others but we all do it.
40240
friends r ok to have them tell this person,but then it makes you look like ur afraid to talk to that person u dont want that do you\nlet the person see and know how much u like them\nflirt with them a lil bit and most of all TALK!!!
33449
If you don't feel that you can be honest with them about how you feel, I think you should find other activities to do, getting too busy to support your friendship. Friendships will dry up, if you don't water them regularly with visits, phone calls and notes. If you are too busy to fit her into your schedule, she'll either ask you up front what's up or she'll slowly move on to someone else. If she asks, that's your cue to be honest, even though it might hurt. Without knowing how she "makes" you feel bad, it's hard to know if you're not bringing on some of this treatment yourself, actually encouraging her that it's ok to treat you this way. Some people think it's better to have a "bad" friend than no friend at all. If she is truly a "toxic" friend, move on to more positive people. In time, she'll fade away. I would rather that she knows exactly what's causing you to not want to be around her. Maybe she doesn't have a clue that she's treating you badly. Maybe she does this to everyone. If not, you have to ask yourself why you? Letting her know will give her the option of changing...or not. If you have body odor, and everyone avoids you, not wanting to be around you, wouldn't you want to be told? You might think everyone hates you or maybe doesn't like your clothes or something. No one has the right to treat you badly. You give them that right. You can take it away. <*)))><
860551
Ok..you need to talk to them. Ask them why they have such a problem w/ you. Tell them that youre not talking to the devil & thats crazy anyways. Tell them that you have asthama & would never encourage your friend to do something that would hurt them in the long run. Tell them that youre actually trying to make her stop. Theres nothing you can do if they dont listen then. Even have your friend be there to help discuss so she can back you up on it. Good luck hun.
497331
..I hope u not talkin bout me....Anyway if they do u that wrong maybe u should find some more friends. But as much as u love to speak your mind tell them off first so they'll know how u feel. Don't do anything u might regret.
39572
first of all its THEIR backs............i dont know...but if one talks abt their best frnds behind their backs' then they are no more best frnds. if u have sumthing that is bothering you abt ur best talk if with that person rather than behind their back. backbiting is the end of being best frnds
98815
if you are sure that they talked behined your back then they are not true frinds i think that you should find other real friends
433125
envy & jealousy r d main cause of backstabbing w/in frends..\n\ninstead of doing nasty stuffs 2 them, try 2b nice & treat them exactly d opposite of how they expect u 2 treat them coz im sure they'll expect that u'll bitch abt them 2..\n\nwhen they realize that ur not getting affected abt their bitching, they'll feel guilty & apologize..\n\nwhen they do apologize, 4give them but make sure u delete them fr ur frendslist... frends like that shld never b trusted agen
932150
Tell her to stop then because it is hurting your feelings.  If she don't want to stop, then you should stop hanging out with her.  Friends should respect each other.  Stick to your decision, no matter what the consequence maybe.  Don't worry about her gossiping about you, the most important thing is you stick to who you are as a person.  Eventually your action will speak louder than her words, if she retaliate like that.
295214
I read no evidence where they had a cause for hating you, and people seldom waste a lot of time and energy on people they don't like.  Perhaps they are getting a response from you that tickles them, so they make juvenile efforts for more amusement.  When they make remarks about your friends, tell them you don't want to listen and say, "I don't listen when anyone talks about you."  Strive to treat them as friends, even when they don't act like it, and the situation may reverse itself.  If not, and you get no response from the teacher, enlist the aid of your parents in talking with her or him, and then, if necessary, it is a chain of command thind: Principal, Board of Education, etc.  Recent laws should aid you in getting attention to your problem.  Good luck, and remember, the best way to get rid of an enemy, is to make a friend of them.
472523
I am in that exact situation now.  I have 2 groups of close friends that hate each other and are constantly bitching about each other to me, who's stuck in the middle.  I deal with it by telling them I get on with all of them and I won't listen to them bitching about each other cos it is seriously annoying.  It's a hard spot to be in but if you get on with them all you have to stay on the fence.
64433
Repeat everything they say to you right back at them. Or go into sociopath mode and engage them into conversations that dovetail into downright creepiness. Ask their opinion on issues affecting your daily life.
35491
there may be reasons why they talk about her, maybe she did something wrong, talk about it. just stay by her side. its nice that she still has YOU as her friend who would not turn against her. RIGHT?
234368
First of all, if they are "bad friends" then they are not friends at all. If you have already tried telling them to quit bugging you and go their own separate way, but had no success, then just IGNORE them!! They will eventually get tired...