wht shuld one do when he find himself alone even in the family?
966797
Its your own inferiority complex which make you think so. Mix up with family members share your griefs and happiness with them after all they are your blood relations and mind you the old saying blood is always thicker then water...!!!!
176977
You don't have to do anything.  Just being home with your family will be enough.  As much as you want to be back with them and get back to life at home, they want the same.  Just get home and love them like never before:)  Welcome home!
492863
Create new brighter memories with someone else or you alone.\nDo something that is the real "end", final step, the last door or makes you feel that way - send back their stuff or a present they gave you, say the last goodbye, bon voyage.\nStart smth new (a new sport, travel,attend a painting class)\nTalk about it.\n...and as the people before me answered, give it some time. \nI think it was Oscar Wild who said that when you love yourself, you are happily in love for your whole life...
580757
Find God, You'll never be alone again.  Quit feeling sorry for yourself, life is tough for everyone, even the rich and famous.  Don't let the good taste fool you.\n\nGood Luck
41385
find peace within yourself\nyou can be alone and not be lonely\nwhen you become happy with who you are, you lose the loneliness.go to your church or social events\nhang out with your friends ,if your marriage is over move on.
561105
Be sneaky. What is your fathers favorite thing to do? Partake in this activity once a week. He is probably feeling lonely because he thinks you find him to be a burden. Garden together and plat his favorite fruits and veggies!  Take him fishing! Reassure him that you love him and that you are with him because you want to make sure he taken care of. Take him out to eat......\nGet into life together.....\n:)
1135058
go solo for a while. relax take a break. sometimes that helps. is that the answer you were looking for?
853461
Sweetie, if the guy was married than you had nothing at all an if yall shared such a deep connection why aren't you with him now?Maybe what you should do first is get to know yourself first. Trying being alone and seeing what its like for awhile. If you feel lost because you don't have a man that makes others think that your weak. You should be independent rather your with someone or not. All I'm trying to say is that, how can you be devoted to someone who's already married? What would you do if the tables were turned and you were his wife??? Just don't get lost in the midst of needing someone, and having to have someone-figure out who you are and see how far that gets you!
344800
This seems too much of an issue for one person alone. Help is needed here, just to get his life back on track. Don't ever feel this is your fault
537878
finding a new partner, going out and meeting new people. try not to cooped up in the house. it takes time but u will move on! we all do! see it as a blessing in disguise, whatever u do, do not call that person. good luck!!
1121519
I think the most important, but hardest part is to discover who YOU are again.  Once you've done that you will find your purpose and be a great support to those around you that are in the same position.  Support groups and family are great to help out with this.
1037869
There are many self help books out there to get you on your path of self discovery.  I am from a very dysfunctional family myself and my siblings have treated me in a less than civilized manner many times.  I got to the point where I have had enough and broke off contact with the majority of my family.  If you feel you cannot do that, then work on establishing boundaries with them while you work on yourself.  The first book I would recommend is "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie (she has a series of self help books for codependency...this one is a great place to start). You will definitely understand the family dynamics a lot better!  There is a lot of "deprogramming" you need to do, but if you really want this, you can do it!!  I understand about the trust issue...I'm getting better about this myself.  \n\nIf you would like more help, I'm only an e-mail away!!  *you can trust me*  ;-)  <a little codependent humor>
1177014
anyway why are feeling alone? You should have family members or frens around you.  make more new frens.\n\nmy email add is srileela29@yahoo.com
725314
You could say walk away; but this woudln't quite be the answer.  The good news is that you have identified that you don't know your reasoning but you are doing it.  Therefore, my suspision leads me to believe that you have been let down by a family member or someone very close to you.  First things first, seek a therapist these are people that have no conflict of interest but teach you how to deal with these types of issues.   It will not get better eventually it will lead you to start acting on your beliefs.  If you have it with this relationship you will find different reasons it is a trust issue or a lack of self confidence.   Perhaps though right now having a relationship at this time really is not a good idea until you seek help for yourself.  It really is true as the saying goes, you can not love somebody until you love yourself.   This doesn't make you abnormal by no means as there are many people out there that suffer this.  However this makes you a step above the rest as you realize and want to do something about it.  \n\nGood luck to you!
101919
you are so sweet!  most kids don't see things the way you seem to.  now, i don't have any of my own, but since i am someone's (now adult) child, i think i can give you a few suggestions.  first of all, while it may not be your responsibility to take care of your mother (or anyone else in your family), it is nice that you want to help out.  nothing wrong with that.  now, maybe you can start helping with laundry or other chores.  if you already do help at home, then maybe you can talk to some of your other relatives to see if  they are willing to talk with your mom and get her some help.  or at least give your mom a break by hanging out with you kids (or just you, if you're an only child) while she spends some time alone.  if you want to get her a gift, i'm sure she'll love anything from you.  maybe something for the bath, or some relaxing music?  good luck, and i hope you and your family realize what a good daughter you are:)
329576
your self reliance starts with your first steps out of the house, a word of advise LIVE YOUR LIFE do not depend on anyone for anything, go where you want, trust that god loves you and you love everyone as much as god loves you ,,, good luck and go for it,,
805964
I'M A 25 FEM AND I WILL BE HOME BY MYSELF...I HAVE NO FAMILY (THAT WANTS ME IN THEIR LIFE), NO FRIENDS, NOTHING, NO ELECTRIC , NO FOOD, NO FAMILY, NO FURNITURE, JUST AN EMPTY APT AND I'LL BE IN THE DARK LYING ON A BLOW UP MATTRESS WISHING THAT I WAS WITH FAM EATING A NICE DINNER, BUT NOT ME!!!! DEPRESSION SUX!!! OH YEAH THE REALLY BAD PART IS THAT MY PARENTS, AND OTHER FAM MEMBERS ARE GOING TO BE ONLY 35 MINS FROM ME AND THEY JUST SO FORGOT ABOUT ME, I TRIED TO CALL MY DAD CELL NUM AND GIVE HIME MY NEW NUM AND I WANTED TO GO THERE FOR THANXGIVN BUT NO CALL BACK FROM EITHER FAM MEMBERS, NOT EVEN MY SIBLINGS AND I HAVE 7!!!! SAD HUH, BUT TRUE.....WELP THIS IS MY SECOND YR AL ALONE LAST YR MY FAM WENT TO HOUSTON TO  MY SIS AND DIDN'T TELL ME OR EVEN TO INVITE ME AT ALL, SO I WAS ALONE THAN TO...MAN, I'M GOING TO REALLY HATE XMAS THIS YR TO.....HOPE YOU HAVE FU N...ALL I WANT IS TO HAVE SOMEBODY AT LEAST CARE FOR ME LIKE HAVE AT LEAST ONE FRIEND, BUT DON'T EVEN HAVE THAT...SO THERE'S MY LIFE DEPRESSION!!!! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!!!!!!!