How can the state of New York allow my sister in law to steal MY daughter, and get child support from me?
962899
Two possible reasons not knowing any more details.\n\n1) A court found you incompetent as a parent and has awarded custody of your daughter to your sister-in-law.  In this case, get your life back together and then appeal.  Part of getting your life back together is paying your child support on time and putting your daughters needs above yours.  When you can consistently prove you can do that, I'm sure you can get your daughter back.\n\n2) A complete travesty of justice.  In this case, call the local media, hire a good attorney and keep the pressure on every public outlet you can think of until you get her back.\n\nI suspect it is more than likely the first one.
845834
GO TO FAMILY COURT FIRST. REQUEST THE DNA TEST. IF IT'S NOT YOUR KID THEN NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. IF IT IS START CUSTODY PROCEEDINGS. GET AN INJUNCTION FROM THE COURT BARRING HER FROM LEAVING THE COUNTY WITH THE CHILD WITH OUT YOUR PERMISSION. IT WILL BE AN UPHILL FIGHT BUT IF YOU CAN PROVE THAT SHE IS UNSTABLE AND IS IN NO WAY CAPABLE OF CARING FOR THE CHILD YOU MIGHT HAVE A SHOT. A LITTLE ADVICE ONCE A CHICK CUTS OUT TO ANOTHER STATE DON'T TAKE HER BACK. DOCUMENT ALL OF HER CRAZINESS.  GOOD LUCK.\n\nYOU CAN STOP HER FROM LEAVING BUT YOU HAVE TO PROVE THAT IT'S YOUR CHILD AND THAT THE CHILD WILL BE BETTER OFF WITH YOU IN IT'S LIFE.\nI DID IT TO MY EX WIFE. SHE WANTED TO MOVE TO SOUTH CAROLINA AND A JUDGE IN NYC BARED HER FROM MOVING WITH MY KIDS. SHE WAS TOLD THAT SHE COULD MOVE BUT THAT THE CHILDREN WOULD HAVE TO STAY IN NYC. NEEDLESS TO SAY WE STILL DON'T TALK TO EACH OTHER. (7YEARS) AND I KICK UP 1K PER MONTH IN CHILD SUPPORT. BUT MY KIDS ARE WITH ME EVERY WEEKEND AND 1 MONTH IN THE SUMMER.
161895
Contact the Legal Aid Society of New York.  They may be able to help, but it will depend upon what you want assistance for.
285451
I know that in NY you can. Call your local dept of social services, they can probably answer that for you.
639240
ask your local dhs. but no he has to have DNA test she can say he is not the dad to by sometime untell she can get legal help. the local cops can tell her what the law is in her town/state.
23240
Ask both the parents to sign the child over to you.  Then, there will be nothing further that the state can do to take the child away or change the situation.  If the mother is in jail and the father can't support the child, I can't imagine that they wouldn't let the child be with you.
1027366
Yeah, first you need a lawyer and if the childrens biological father is still alive, he needs to give legal written consent to relinquish his parental rights.  Atleast that is how it is in NY.
970190
You need to find a family law practicing attorney. Go to lawyers.com. I'm from New Jersey too and my boyfriend is going through the same problem. \n\nWhat you should do is take her to court for your visitation rights and if she hasn't taken you yet for child support, take her so that you can pay child support. \n\nYou might thinks its crazy to take her so that you can pay child support, but its obvious that if you don't, then you will never be able to see that child. It's different when the father is filing against the mother b/c it shows you want your child and your willing to do anything. The judge will see that. \n\nAs for your baby mother, she won't take you to court. Why? because she knows it hurts you more not to see your son. If you have a girlfriend, then she probably doesn't want her son near her. And she knows if she takes you to court, she will have to give up visitation rights. On the website I provided above, they even list those rights that you'll be granted.\n\nGood Luck.
320542
Get a lawyer,free the family, and turn yourself in.Give any weapons that you may have to your lawyer first and let her/him handle the media.
35070
In general a better answer is yes she can, through what is commonly referred to as a QDRO (qualified domestic relations order).  The amount she may or will be entitled to varies by court decision in most cases, she could take none, all, or some.  Sorry for the bad news.  Talk to an attorney.
157315
Any local attorney will be willing to give you a free consultation and can help you to find an afforable attorney and even work with you to get affordable payments. Good luck. If he took your kids to Florida without your permission then you should press kidnapping charges against him.
1109340
Just the fact that she wasn't honest about who the father actually is can help prove that she's unfit.  Tell him to contact an attorney right away and see about getting custody.
208788
My husband in in a similar situation.  His ex we wants him to pay child support for a child that may not be his.  We are taking her to court for a DNA test.  Because you signed the birth certificate you have the right to have a DNA test.  If the mother will not cooperate go talk you prosecuting attorney for way to achieve that.
648281
Talk to a social worker and see if you can get custody/guardianship for her. Or seek legal aid. \n\nBut whatever you do, keep it legal and open. No tricks, no running away, nothing like that.
1055325
You have to do something.  You either have to put an end to it, which hopefully is possible, or you have to notify the authorities.  You can't let your one family get repeatedly stolen from.  And if this one family member will steal from another, who knows what they'll end up doing to you.
352323
SHE HAS TO REPORT HIM LIVING THERE.  BUT DHS AND CHILD SUPPORT WORK TOGETHER NOW.  IF SHE DOES NOT TURN IN THE FATHER TO CHILD SUPPORT SO DHS CAN COLLECT THIER MONEY FROM HIM SHE WILL LOSE HER MONIES.  ALSO IF HE IS REPORTED SHE AND HE WILL HAVE TO PAY BACK THE STATES MONEY.  AND THERE ARE ALSO SOME DHS SYSTEMS THAT MAKE THE MOTHER WORK FOR HER SMALL CHECK.
1134742
I would call child support enforcement and have them look into it..sounds fishy to me.