Communication tips for couples??? We need it....?
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Opposites most definitely do attract.  It is easier to communicate with someone who isn't like you than it is with someone who is.  All you both need to learn to do is to talk openly, not blame each other and listen (really listen).  There are no great communicators or perfect relationships, but through trial and error and giving a relationship a good solid try has a tendency to work.  Two people can always work their issues out, if they really try to understand each other.  Life is never straight forward and simple.  Everything worth having is worth working for.
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If it is a communication problem, then marriage counseling might work. It's worth a try.  There are those marriage encounter things.  You can learn to have more productive conflict.  You could hire a mediator to help you work through things. Communications problems are common and you can learn the skills to do this better and a lot of the time you can save your marriage.  \n\nif it is a values problem, then it is more serious.\n\ni recommend tantra.  really.  do it together.\nor anything physical where are together.  like partner yoga or dancing or even sailing a sailboat. sex works too, but you sort of have to be getting along well to do this.\n\ntry some books like "getting the love you want" or the mars & venus thing.  try educating yourselves on the skills to make a relationship work.  go to church and get in a group of other married folk.
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Do things to make your relationship stronger.  Marriage counseling is good.  Marriage workshops.  \n\nPray for each other.  Pray that you each grow closer to God and that God will help you grow closer together.  We don't really understand what love is until we know God.  He helps us love each other the way we should.\n\nHave common goals that you work toward together.  Treat her the way you want to be treated.  Be respectful and kind. \n\nCheck out "Hidden Keys To A Loving, Lasting Marriage," by Gary Smalley.  You can read a bit of it here:  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310402913/qid=1144083134/sr=8-6/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i6_xgl14/103-4668860-3658249?n=507846&s=books&v=glance
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In order to keep your relationship going strong, you must first realize and accept that there are going to be some differences between you no matter how similiar you thought the two of you are. You need to pick and choose your battles and let go of everything else. Also, communication really is key, both in and out of the bedroom. Ask what he or she likes in bed; if they are shy to answer, try a little experimentation. Also, find ways to tell the person what it is that you like in bed too. As far as communication goes for outside of the bedroom, talk talk talk talk! You can find out so much about a person from a few conversations. If you hit a rough patch, talk about things then and there rather than letting it fester and blow up in someone's face later. This way, so much drama is avoided. If you are dealing with a person who will not open up when you try and talk to them, writing a letter expressing your feelings might be a better option because this would create another way for that person to come to you. I hope this helps and good luck!
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try to talk to them both face to face so that they can say whatever they have to say in front of each other...they should be the 1st one who talked about that...don't pressure yourself...anyways,no one can please anybody just as you can't tell the both of them to be in good terms just because of you..have an open forum and try to settle things in a mature way...
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You've got to be able to discuss your differences and share your feelings, but that doesn't mean it has to be fighting.\n\nSometimes our communication styles just aren't compatible.
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First of all,Comunication is the KEY to anything.Always keep talking to her, and LISTENING to her.You have to be willing to sacrifice for each other.Ohh,and keep GOD in your relationship so it will never end!Good luck to you,and may God bless you both.
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Dude, I am 16 yrs older than my husband and we have a very healthy relationship. He keeps me happy and I allso keep him happy. Of course there are some differences,but communication is the best way to keep your relationship Strong and fulfilled.
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Do you mean are we people to whom you have to bluntly say what you want instead of people who pick up on hints?  If so, the answer is yes.  Even men who have been married for decades sometimes require blunt communication from their spouses who they adore.  If you ever want to have fun & understand men better, find a way to listen to men talk without being in the conversation, even if it requires a tape recorder (recommend you not do this to a boyfriend, as you may get offended by something he says).  I'll try to give you some examples of male communication.\n\nScene: 2 guys sitting in an apartment in recliners, watching pro wrestling.\n\n1: "Dude, I'm getting hungry."\n2: "Yeah, me too."\n1: "Burger run?"\n2: "Sure.  I'll drive."\n1: "Sounds good.  McDonald's or Burger King?"\n2: "Burger King.  The Whopper Jr.'s are on sale for a buck each."\n1: "Cool."\n\n     See, no subtle hints.  Not once did these guys ask "What are you thinking about?" or some other asanine question along those lines.  Everything was nice, concrete, & to the point.  When it comes to conversation, we are efficiency experts.  Let's see what happens when the guys get back.\n\n1: "Which one's the Dr. Pepper?"\n2: "Uh... this one.  Here."\n1: "Thanks.  We missed the main event.  I'll pull it up on the TiVo."\n2: "Excellent.  I'm getting some ketchup for my fries.  Want some?"\n1: "Sure.  Thanks."\n\n     I know, these probably seem like off the wall conversations, but one of my best friends & I have conversations like this all the time.  So, in order for men not to seem oblivious, here's a little communicating with males 101.\n\nWhat you want translated into man-speak:\n\nI'm hungry = I'm hungry (Note: when we ask where you would like to eat, "I don't know" is a highly frustrating answer that is unacceptable unless it is used to pause to think up something.  If we didn't want to know what you wanted to eat, we wouldn't ask.)\n\nI'm thirsty = I'm thirsty (Again, when the guy asks what you want to drink, do not say "I don't know", or you may regret it.)\n\nI want to make love = I'm horny (Like I said, we're efficient communicators.)\n\nI need someone to listen to my problems = I'm going out with the girls. (Unless you want to be presented with possible solutions to a problem, don't come to us.  What you view as us just listening, we view as putting up with whining which serves no purpose.)\n\nI don't want you to go out with the guys tonight = I'm horny (This one works for many things, & if you want a guy to not go out & have fun, get him to stay in & have more fun.  However, it is recommended you still allow for time apart once in a while, even if you are rewarding him with sex for staying home.)\n\nI want to get married = Can you believe the tax break married couples are getting these days?  It's outrageous.  I'm horny.  (This is one time when tact can be your friend.  Get him thinking saving money + good loving.)\n\nI want to have a baby = Wow, this tax credit for children is a lot of cash.  I'm horny.  It doesn't feel as good with a condom. (Again, tact is your friend.  He might not realize the tax credit won't even cover 3 months worth of diapers, since he's getting to hit it raw.)\n\n     Well, that about sums it up.  I definitely wasn't kidding about the "I don't know" thing, so remember it.  Also, don't ask us what we are thinking about, because it is most likely food, sex, TV, or sleep.  Finally, if you don't really want an honest answer to a question, don't ask.  Asking if a dress makes you look fat comes to mind.  It isn't the dress's fault, it's the fat.  So, be honest & direct to the point of bluntness, & you too can communicate with men.  Goo
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Perhaps try a different communication technique?
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Someone has to give in. Either one is talking too much, or the other is not listening at all. \n\nCommunicate to your spouse that you have a part to play in this hardship between you and your spouse. If you're usually the talker, just listen. Bite your tongue when you have a retort.\n\nCalmly assess the problem together. No one can have an open and calm discussion when one of the parties are angry. So delay the discussion if you have to.\n\nBe honest with yourself. It takes two hands to clap. So admit fault, apologise and if possible, seek a counselor.\n\nPraying also helps. Good luck :)
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Keep the communication flowing, always make time for each other. APPRECIATE one another. Always have a "date" night. Don't dwell on the bad things but when the bad things creep into your mind, make yourself remember a good time or a nice thing your spouse did for you. Don't be a nagger. And if all else fails, make love and forget about it. \n\nAnd if none of that works seek counseling.
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Communication is the foundation of a good relationship.  If you have a hard time talking on the phone without conflict, reserve all the hard discussion for face to face conversations.  Try " I love you and I miss you"  it always works for me.
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Express to her how much you love her and that you love her more than ever.  If communication is a problem.. suggest marriage counseling.  Explain to her that making your marriage work is more important to you than anything.  Just tell her how you feel!
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Well the first thin is is that you both need to be able to:\ncommunicate\ncompromise\ntrust\nbe honest \ngive as well as receive\nbe able to be patient and understanding\nbe able to allow them to have a life away from you as well.\nto want to do things special for one another once in a while. like:\nplan a walk at the beach and have a pic nic\ncall them up on the phone jsut to say "i love you", "i miss you" and/or "I'm thinking aobut you"\nplan a candle light dinner at home\nhave a nice warm bath waiting for their return possibly with( candles, music, oil or bubbles and/or rose petals in tub)\nOn your partners day off, play hooky to spend time with them on cuddling on the couch watching movies and talking.\nIf you two can do this, seek a marriage counselor, counselor will be able to bring up some other importatnt things to thik about, that most people don't seem to think about.
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Talk it over with your boyfriend, openly and honestly. Discuss what worked then and what isn't working now. Discuss what each of you want out of the relationship and from sex. Ask questions about how you can please him, give information about how he can please you. Listen with your heart to what he is saying. Talk to his heart about your wants and needs. Then, after discussing, practice what you talked about. You might consider taking a night, a weekend, or a vacation away to get away from the usual distractions and focus on pleasing each other and putting your talk into action.
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First of all, you must learn to compromise.\nWhen you argue, and you will argue, try to see things from your partner's point of view. Try not to be completely stubborn and unbending. Sometimes you both have to give up a little for the sake of your relationship. \n\nHonesty is also very important. With honesty, comes another crucial ingredient for a healthy relationship: communication. You have to learn to communicate. Talk through your problems and always be honest. If something she does upsets you, tell her. And if she has things she needs to discuss with you, listen to her. But, at the same time, don't forget to talk about the good things too. \nWhich brings me to my last point.\n\nNever take her for granted. Appreciate her. Always remind her that you love her. I don't think anyone ever gets tired of hearing that. Show her that she means everything to you and that you would do anything for her. Always respect her and stay loyal to her.\n\nUnfortunately, sometimes even when you follow all of these guidelines, things just don't work out. You have to remember that there really is no surefire way of holding on to a relationship. If there was, then no one would ever break up. Sometimes, things just aren't meant to be and we just have to learn to accept it. Believe me when i say that i know it can be very difficult. but we have all experienced heartache and we survive. Life goes on and we eventually meet new people.\nyou just have to hang in there and keep trying!