How can you tell if your being too clingy or too distant?
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i think he would tell you or get annoyed with you but by the sounds of u2 seem happy so i wouldnt worry if i were u, just go with the flow, but if it still bothers u in a weeks time then ask him, its good to talk and be open with each other from the start as this builds the basis for a happy, loving relationship, so then you could talk to each other about anything, dont be frightened to tell him how you feel cuz he may be feelin the same,\ni hope this helps x
764979
it depends. i think i wud be somewhere in between. at times u need to be vague, atleast i have been in situations like that.
584016
He's already turned you down once so if you ask him again it will make you look clingy.  Leave him to figure it out for himself.  If he has changed his mind he will get back to you.x
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when do u draw the line? when they stop fighting for u....or act like they could care less about u\nhow do u draw the line? its different for everybody...some people can just stop communication cold turkey whereas other people have to make a conscious effort to not be around that person and not want to be around that person anymore\n\nOR\n\nu could forget all that and get with a chic from VA
271995
A guy would be falling head over heels if you find he gets really shy around you are has trouble talking with you. Its mainly that, or if ur dating already he does nice stuff for you all the time and is super clingy.
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If someone is not your best friend anymore that means that either you or he/she or both have changed (assuming there is not a discussion that has made your relationship to grow apart).So if now you have different interests, or have that sharing time with other friends is more amusing, then try to feed those friendships. If you really feel like you still want this friend to be a very close friend, talk it out and see why youa re becoming distant from one the other. Sometimes friends dont keep in touch for a while, but usually they come back when they realize they feel comfortable around.
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NOOOOOO!!!\nIT IS DEFINITELY A TURN OFF!\nITS A SIGN OF WHATS AHEAD- CLINGY, NEEDY........
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Some people feel that they are getting too attached too quickly because they had just ended a relationship or they are afraid of a one way street commitment... in this case, I would just ask him what he thinks of the relationship.  Does he consider you guys friends or dating... sometimes you have to put the question on the table and cut out the bullcrap
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u decide what he is like. don't get majorly attached and stay out of bed with him. if he is really so sweet to u, then maybe he really likes u. find a couple of his x's and find out what he was acting like to them and how long the relationships lasted. after the average amount of time is over, you will be able to tell.   playa or not
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When he pulls away emotionally and physically, doesn't answer the phone when he normally would, starts arguments over small things or nothing at all and then leaves for a while. When he doesn't want to do things that he would normally do (hold hand/cuddle), gets defensive/evasive when you ask where he has been or what he been doing while out, who he talks to, your feelings. More often than not your gut is right, if something feels wrong it usually is.
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there really isn't a "delicate" way aside from just saying "it's over, really really over" and sticking to it. how do you do that? \n\nwell, your first step is realizing how much you really want to stay out. you have found yourself going back, and now you feel like a jerk because you're not into it as much as she is. so think of it this way: how would you feel if she was the one coming back to you when she was "bored or lonely"--wouldn't you be mad and hurt? you don't want to hurt this person do you? so stop doing that. you're being a jerk. (not a bad person, but just not who you should be.)\n\nthe next thing you need to do is set a period during which you will not call or contact or hang out or talk more than in passing and out of courtesy with this person. tell her and yourself that this is necessary for your to transform your relationship into a platonic one. if she keeps calling you, then stick to your rule. (i.e., don't answer the phone, and don't call her back. the common courtesy of a greeting when you meet outside the home is okay, but try to make it not go beyond "hi how are you?")  i'd make it a period of about four to six months. \n\nget out there and talk to and look at and be around other women. get to know other women. date. even if it's the friendly sort of date that doesn't go anywhere. cultivate your crushes. enjoy your life. find a new hobby or hang-out that has nothing to do with your old relationship. in fact, try one that your old girlfriend didn't like or prevented you from doing. look forward to finding someone you can love. \n\nthe reason i have never "gone back" is because i keep focused on the reasons why i don't want to be with that person, and i remind myself that being alone is a good thing. i also remind myself that it is a waste of time to be with someone who doesn't present as the "love of your life."
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Not calling just makes me think they've moved on and if I find out it's been a head game, that just ticks me off. Honestly what works for me is just being nice to be around. Nice isn't the word I want, but seems to fit the best. You also may have a partner who has a personality that is content with certain levels of partnership and this is something you'll have to think about if it applies. I'm very independent, and am not comfortable with someone who wants to hang all over me. I don't do that myself, and for me it's a bit creepy and makes me feel suffocated. Just my take on things, if you really want to know, ask your partner he knows himself better than anyone else. Good luck!
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Don't know where you are or for how long, but can let you know that long distant relationships, especially with young people will not work.   You'd be better off leaving them as a friend than put yourself in a position to always be stressed behind them.
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Saying I miss you is too clingy, especially if you see him several times a week. Guys hate clingy.
99598
Maybe you're trying to hard and coming across as pushy, needy, clingy, weird or desperate.
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it's ok to open up a conversation especially that you are feeling this way. if you don't get the right answers then it could be s start of misunderstanding that can lead to separation .at this point, maybe you're not sure yet about your relationship. communicate to each other in a nice way to resolve this problem.
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Are you trying to talk and he is not interested?  Is it a comfortable silence where you are just content to be together and possibly know each others thoughts?  Do you want to break up, but are waiting for him to make the move or do you want to stay together and are worried he already left so you are afraid to put yourself out on a limb and reach out to him - maybe this is what he is waiting for?  Is there other demands on his or your time that limit the time to talk?\nIt may be a sign of breaking up, a sign that more effort is required, or that you are comfortable enough not to have to talk all the time.  I am sure these are the things you are already thinking, but only you and he can decide if it is over or if you want it to be over as we don't know the personality quirks of either of you.  If the communication is so bad that you cannot ask him then I guess it is over or never was.