Fellas!!! what words can i get my boyfriend to settle down and have a child with me?
960594
Please leave the gene pool alone.
914867
Ask him where this is going. Just because you have a child with him does not attach you indefinately to someone who doesn't want you completely. If he has a hard time answering you, maybe you need to consider if you'd be better off without him.
597697
Me and my girl had that same conversation. \n\nWe simply decided that we were to selfish to have kids right now.\n\nWe both work full time jobs, love to sleep in, and we love spending time to our selves. We decided that we have our whole life to have kids, but barley even got a chance to enjoy our lives together. I didn't want to struggle with my kid. I want to have a house and give my kid all that it may need, and right now I'm still working on that. \n\nAsk him if he wants to make you happy, and if so waiting a few years will not hurt anybody and it will give you time to learn each other! Your smart to be cautious!
693350
yea, ok, stay with him, maybe, just maybe, one of these days in a fairy tale land far away he will finally wake up and come around.\n\nlast thing i remember about love was that you cared for a person and didn't let them down.\n\nif you are content with being in a relationship with a guy who cares more about his money than you and your KIDS, then so be it, i don't know what to say except hang in there i guess, eventually he should come around
304950
Well first do you think he will be highly upset and uncontrollable if he found out? If so, you might tell him in a public place, like a parking lot of a walmart or restaurant. Etc.. Another approach is ask him how he would feel about the two of you having children. And then ask how about if it was soon. He will start to catch on. Also let him know that this is possible and that you are'nt sure yet.
788395
The next time that he brings it up just tell him point blank you are not ready yet, and if he would just relax a little about it maybe you will feel more comfortable getting married in the future. Just be sure to let him know that you do not want to loose what the 2 of you have now.
214768
You will have to just tell them this is what I want and you are alienating the person I want to be with and the person I love. Say to them you don't have to agree with this but show me some respect and be civil to my soon to be partner. If you stand firm and maybe come a little clean about your part in the problem, this should help, but some people just are stubborn and you'll have to deal with that.
109939
OK LOOK WHEN YOU GUYS ARE TOGETHER ANYWHERE JST WHISPER IT INTO HIS EAR OR SCREAM IT FROM THE MOUNTAIN TOPS OR YO COULD SEND HIM AN E-CARD SAYING I LOVE IN THEM OR JUST TELL IN BABY I LUV YOU. BUT LOOK ONLY SAY THOSE WORDS IF YOU REALLY RELLY NEAN IT BECAUSE THOSE WORDS ARE NOT TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY. THOSE WORDS GO A LONG WAS SO BE CAREFUL WHEN SAYING THAT TO ANYBODY.
619600
Start with learning how to spell and using punctuation.\n\nHere is the translation for those who don't want to sort through the ignorance in fear of their IQ shrinking:\n\n"I was with a guy for 5 years, we have 2 kids together. We broke up because I thought I could change him, but I finally figured out I couldn't. He doesn't see or talk to his two kids, but I still demand child support from him, which is the reason I got pregnant anyhow. Blah, Blah, Blah, Drama, Drama, Drama, Jerry Springer this, Jerry Springer that. He is with another girl now, but she can't love him like I love him, because I am a psychotic ghetto rat and an insane stalker."
448374
u promise to make his life a living hell by nagging his fuckn ear off... u promise to fuck him till ur pregnant then give him none... then divorce him n take HALF n not let him see the kid!!, hows my aim??
1022889
If you're really concerned about it, suggest to him that you spend a few weeks without it... to build the excitement.  Tell him while you're not having sex, you can get into other things in your relationship... whatever suits you guys.  You could just hang out and play games (cards, board games, etc) and talk/snuggle.  You could go to amusement parks or go hiking.  You could go to museums, go to church... just whatever it is that fits you guys.  If you all can make it through that comfortably, and you actually CAN fill your time without sex... then I think you might be alright.  =)
32882
I would say try to make it work if you can, it sounds that he is good for your kid.\nDId you loved eachother at apoint?\nIf there is no other way just talk to him
231334
The last thing you want to do is pu him in a situation where he is uncomfortable to have a child.  don't push him.  It will come in time.
623586
Sounds like he just isn't ready to be where you want him to be.  You ever heard of the BabyBoy syndrome, I think he has that.  He's selfish and childish and you need to stop wasting your time.  He's going to get you pregnant and then he will have no interest in you anymore.  Get out of the rut, leave him and do something positive with your life.  He isn't ready for what you have to give him.  If he is doing this now he will NEVER put into the relationship what you do.  And this gets really old really quick... trust me.
346623
This is one of the most difficult questions I have seen here. There are only a few ways to do this...do you have weekends together? Plan one weekend a month where mom (either, or alternating) agree to take care of the kid and GET OUT OF TOWN, at least get away to a Motel...sometime sleezy, sometimes nice. Leave the TV OFF. Concentrate on each other...talk, coo, pet, soothe, console, hold eachother, do things together that have NOTHING to do with the home...like sneaking out on a date, cram as much of eachother into this time as possible. During the week, a 10 minute quickie initiated by one or the other...always be responsive whether you feel like it or not..given the chance, even a tired body responds well, often better than an energetic one. And, it doesn't take sex to make for a passionate affair. And unexpected call, flowers for no reason, a kiss on the back of the neck. Show interest in each other's lives. Support eachother, avoid arguing ...takes work on both parts but it is well worth it. Love, romance, and union are not always about sex. He could watch the babies for an hour or so to let you take a long, relaxing bath by yourself ... alone time is necessary for a good relationship. Work, work, work is the only true way to make a relationship joyful and rewarding. Take when given, give when it will be taken...was all love to please our partner...show your partner that they please you, turn you on...leave nothing to guess on their part. Smile, laugh, and when you are so tired you cannot take another step, remember your other half is in the same boat. Be super considerate. YOu do not have time for fighting, for that takes time from positive, reinforcing love. Remember, the kids will grow faster than you can keep up with. Be united in your efforts to raise your children on a path that is nurturing, loving, with definate boundries you both agree on. A united front towards the kids provides no room for arguements. Pay the bills on time and no arguements will arise for the electricity being turned off. Phone, gas bills...someone has to pay them...make arrangements with your bank to pay these bills with online payment..takes very little time. Share duties for food  and prep whenever possible. The couple that works and plays together stays together..with common goals that are not obsessive. There must be time for play, as well as family duties. We all to often spend too much time in percieved duties at the expense of what really counts...the relationship. It would be greatly beneficial to have one of you get another job...one more conducive to more time together AND more time apart ... we all need personal space. Too often, in misguided romantic notions, we feel that we should be everything and all to our love...that never works. We both know that. With compromise and agreement, you will reach a great, healthy and workable balance in this life. Work for it after agreeing to it. Know that agreements will not always happen, but one or the other has to give now and then. We can only bend so much before we break. Do not let it come to that. I wish you the very best of love and luck in this. YOu deserve it and can keep it with firm resolve to put your lover's needs before yours...within reason. I do care.
880094
I think that you should leave him and look for somebody who will love you in return  before you leave him tell him that he can see the baby anytime he wants.  Tell him you deserve to be loved and that you need somebody that you can trust not to hide anything if he really cares about you and the baby he'll try to work out things between the two of you.  If not then you might as well start looking for somebody else.
174995
Do you really want a man that will turn his back on his unborn child, let alone a man that supposedly is in a relationship with you that goes out getting his so called close friends pregnant. Wake up Sister...dump the creep. You deserve better.