Children who are bullied: My 6year old son is one of them, and im getting nowhere with putting a stop to it!?
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This is terrible situation, but I know you already this.  I feel really bad for you and your son because I do know what it feels like to be at your wits ends.\n\nI suggest you continue to talk to the people at the school, but also send them letters identifying the problems along with the date and time of the incidents.  This will create a paper trail.  A paper trail will help you in two ways:  documentation so that when you take this matter to the school board or higher no one can say I didn't know; and, in the unfortunate event that the bullying gets so severe that you must seek legal action.\n\nAlso, did you try contacting the parent of the other child involved.\n\nI wish the best for you this is a really tough situation and it is hard to think when you and your son are being impacted so greatly.\nRegards...
1162051
Oh my goodness!  I can't believe parents still haven't taught their kids not to bully others.  Has everyone forgotten Columbine?  Anyway, John shouldn't have to put up with all that crap.  He has done everything in his power, without resorting to violence, to stop those idiots.  Now I think he has to fight back.  If the teacher, parents and other adults in his school know about this, and are powerless (obviously!) to stop it, then he needs to protect himself.  He needs to prove to them that he can also give, not just receive.  I feel awkward advising this, but it worked for me in the 2nd grade, so hopefully it'll work for him.
1128365
it depends. r they bullying u physically?  r they threatening 2 hurt u?  Or r they just verbally bullying and calling u names?  I've been verbally bullied b4.  I've been called a toothpaste eater, ugly, stupid, and stuff like that.  Then one guy threatened 2 shoot me.  I would say tell your parents or complain 2 the school.  Ignoring them may help or hurt depending on the situation.  Hang out w/ your friends as much as u can cuz bullies r less likely 2 hurt u w/ a bunch of people around. I know what u r going thru tho:)
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You are being bullied.\nDo not put up with it.\nBy-pass your teacher and go to a senior teacher or the Principal.\nIf it is not easy to get to see either of these people to arrange a meeting, then make a request by letter - you could hand it to the secretary to pass on.\nMake sure you use the word 'bullied' in your request.\nYour parents could help you to sort this out with the school, though you sound strong enough to do it for yourself.\nI hope you solve the problem soon.\n\n**ADDITIONAL**\nIf the school will not help, you could appeal to the Superintendant of Schools for your area. There will probably be a website something like 'www.weymouth.ma.gov/schools'. Do not give in; make a fuss. You might also consider threatening litigation against the school for not protecting you.
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As a male, he is by nature aggressive, you cannot and should not try to teach him not to be aggressive.  You can, however, teach him control.  Let him know he has choices he can make in his behavior.   Get him in to sports or some other physical activity that will keep him moving and expending energy.  Guys hormones just do that to them.  If he is just a toddler, play, rough and tumble (and I do mean tumble, teach him somersaults) helps with balance and coordination and helps in falling skills in older children. When you know the child will fall, they need to know how to do it properly to avoid injury.\n\nIt's very hard to teach a child not to hit, this seems to be an ingrained protective response.  The child has not learned the differences in pain.  Physical pain vs. emotional pain.  All they know at this time is  They Hurt D-a-r-n it! (typed the regular way it looked like the OTHER word)  I did, however let him hit back IF the other child hit him more than once.   Turn the other cheek doesn't work well with children, and they need to know they have a right to defend themselves.  By allowing one hit  and not  cringing, his behavior would show the other children that he understood the hitter was upset and his character was big enough to allow that one hit. After that, it was self preservation.\n\nThis stood him in good stead.  The teachers in seeing this type of behaviour could see he didn't want the fight but was pressured to ingage. \n\nThe best you can do is teach him to think, and to think clearly and to see where his actions can lead.  When my son was in 2nd grade, he was suspended for throwing acorns.  After speaking with the Principal, my son and I sat down on a bench outside  under the Principal's office window and discussed the punishment.  It was during recess and I pointed out the acorn war going on to the oblivion of the teachers.  I explained why he was being punished.  The Principal overheard, came out and reduced the punishment to just the rest of the day.\n\nOn the way home in the car I gave him my true thoughts on the situation.  By seeing the example on the playground, and what resulted from our conversation, he realized that words of negotiation need to come first, then physical action is not always required.  People behave badly when they feel threatened.\n\nI apoligize for the long anecdotes.  After that long explanation, I now tend to believe you may have intended the word violence.  Thank you.
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I was abused everyday for 11 years out of my 12 by the same boy. (HE wasnt at my school during my tenth year... My best year) anyway He was at my bus stop and it seemed like we had lunch time together every year and he was a grade younger than me. He failed. He would toss stuff at me and my friends, make rumors and signs up about me, pin me to a wall with all his guy friends around watching, and the list is too long to say but when i went for help time after time i was told "oh just let it go" finally i bipassed the principle i was assigned and went to the whole schools Principle which turned out to be a mistake. This kid was on the football team and the Principle was the head football coach and he said to me and i quote "Your just jealose of the attention that football players get, you need to get a hobby, besides he has a tough home life that you probably dont, He is just venting his feelings of aggression." Now i had no care in the world about his home life just because he was being abused didnt give him the right to do it to me. Anyway 4 years after high school i got on a buss to go see my parents because my fiance was working late... I hadnt been picked on since high school and had not heard much about him besides a bad bar fight he had gotten into. well who comes on the buss but him. I immediatly looked down and got fearful and i thought please dont let him notice me. And for my shock he sat down and started talking to me about him going to college and asked me questions of what i had been doing. Talked to me like we were best friends. My mom and dad couldnt believe that i didnt take the oportunity to tell him what he had done to me all those years. The only thing i can think of WHy it happened on my part is that i was heavy and quick to defend my friends. He got a reaction he was looking for
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I would contact your local police station often times police departments have a program in place where they travel from school to school and talk about safety, not to mention bullying. I would also see if my local or reference library has a video. Also participating in role plays with kids demonstrating the do's and dont's is highly effective since it is hands on.
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Are bullies what we are to consider "real life"?  There are a few presumptions in your question.  First off we do not home school to keep our kids safe from bullies.  It is a nice bonus though.  Except for the fact that as siblings they tend to give each other quite a normal hard time on a daily basis. Secondly, why would a home school child never step out until ... when????  Yes home schooling is a very wise thing to do for them.\n\nLife is not full of bullies.  As adults the bullies go to jail or get sued for causing pain or damage to another.  In our community the bullies tend to keep to themselves and are very anti-social.\n\nIn the workplace -- who gets fired?  The bully.\nIn the marketplace -- who gets arrested?  The bully.\nOn the streets -- who gets to go to jail?  The bully.\n\nWhy would a student be unable to handle a bully alone?  I know some very big and strong muscular boys that have been homeschooled -- I doubt they would ever be bullied by anyone.\nA student from public school is no more capable of handling a bully than an home school child.   Any child can learn how to use self-defense and guess what else????  They even learn how to dial a telephone.... go figure, how hard is 911?\n\nSuch a funny idea is this that bullies are our future.....!!???\n\nTwo of our home-scholars have graduated.  My 23 yr son was offered a job by the State Police after making a citizens arrest of a drunken driver that was very combative.  His 20 yr sis has never faced a bully and she is in college. Their 16 yr brother was approached by a bully while fishing -- the jerk had a military fighting knife and told his growling black lab dog to "get him".  My son looked at the dog and put his arms out and walked toward it -- the dog whined and ran home!!!!  He then stood up to the boy with the knife and said Okay I'll fight you but without the knife.  The kid said, Uh, no, I don't wanna have to go back to JDH.....  -- voila' END of fight.  This was verified by witnesses.  So, YES home school kids know how to handle themselves. (The boy with the knife is known as the biggest bully at the public school).\n\nMost of the people they meet are very friendly and helpful.  \n\nREAL life is full of kind and good people.  Those that are criminals tend to get into trouble and it isn't difficult to figure out how to avoid them.  Bullies are criminals-- that's the crux of the matter.  Face a bully -- defend yourself, get out of there, call the police..... what else do people do?\n\nWe like our REAL LIFE.  Education at home prepares a student for a very full and rewarding real life.  They are able to study for mastery and accuracy for a required amount of time each day.  Then they are free to work, play, rest, read, etc.... Lots to do -- the list never ends.  Nobody in my house really knows the words "I'm Bored".  There's no excuse for boredom cuz there is too much to do.
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Talk to parents.  I know it's hard but try to ignore her by not being around her.  Sounds like she is very unhappy and becoming a bully.  Try to talk to her about how you feel too, but definitely let parents know of her abuse.
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This was happening to my son, I didnt know anything about it until my son didnt want to go to school I had a hard time getting him out the door to go to school.. Finally after 2 weeks I got it out of him that two older boys were stealing his lunch money and threatening him if he told anyone.. I contacted the school and explained the situation, the kids parents were warned if this continues the law will be contacted.. My son was in 2nd grade at the time and the bullies were in 5th grade... It stopped.. I know they were just kids but where does it stop.. Makes you wonder what kind of parents they have.. What will they be doing when they get older? Contact the school principle as soon as possible..
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Believe me, the only effective to stop them is fighting back, if you can beat the crap out of them, it's best, if you can't, it's better to get beaten up by bullies than just sitting there doing nothing, resort to cop/parents/friends can only provide temporary relief, if you want to end it, you get to stand up for yourself, there is no other way around.
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I'm guessing that your son will probably get hassled at school. Kids are mean, or at least some are, and he will no doubt get his share of the ribbing. That being said, I worked with a guy at Reynolds and Reynolds who was a dwarf. He was a technical manager, and when he first started, he was pretty uptight. Once he got settled, people pretty much treated him like anyone else. A good friend of mine worked under him, and he liked him a lot. I think that as long as your son doesn't make a big deal about it, no one else will either. It sucks to be different, but it isn't going to stop him from having a more or less normal life.
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Move around in groups.  Stick with close friends.  I was teased and picked on alot in junior high school.  One day I just decided to ignore them.  And, you know what?  From that point on, I didn't notice whether they made fun of me or not.  I just went about my business, and chilled with my friends.\nPhysical bullying is a another story.  You will need the intervention of an adult, if that is the case.
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First of all thank you for getting your bullied child out of that environment.  Having been a teacher in the public school (enrichment programs), Sunday School and other programs,  I did not tolerate bullies and for some strange reason, if there was a problem with bullying (during the early test-phase of any classroom), it never seemed to last long.  Which is why I refuse to believe that teachers and administrators are not only unaware of bullying (or so they claim), but also claim to not be able to control it.  "Baloney Sandwiches".\n\nBack to your question.  Depends if the other two want to be home-schooled.  I once had a friend with four children in four different schools.  One was attending a private college, one was attending a public school, one was attending a parochial school and one was being home-schooled.\n\nWhen I asked my friend why the diverse placement, she told me that all of her children were unique and based on that uniqueness she and her husband tried to provide the environment that would help each of them thrive.  \n\nTherefore, if for the time being your other two children do not want to be home-schooled and they are doing well academically and socially, leave them alone for the present.  \n\nIf it ain't broke, don't fix it.\n\nWishing you much success.  Be encourage and know homeschooling, it ain't easy!
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Let her know, calmly and respectfully, that it insults you. Then ignore the insult. If she sees you getting rattled, she will keep doing it. This happens a lot with kids who are looking for attention of any kind. If it keeps up for more than a few days, or other kids start getting involved, then you need to go to a trusted adult in the school. I hope that it does not come to that. Good luck.
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Well CookieMonster my advice may not be that ethical but I would suggest that you enroll your son in some sort of self defense course.  As a parent and previous kid yourself you most certainly must realize that if you get too involved that it will only work against your son and he will get the beats more often.  It is very sad that he was beaten so badly that he had to be hospitalized and I would hope that the school he attends has a zero tolerance on violence and that any child who becomes physically or emotionally abuse towards another is suspended.  My advice for self defense course is because it will help to build your sons self esteem as well as better prepare himself in case of future attacks.  He might really enjoy taking boxing lessons and actually get to meet some new friends also.  I cannot speak of this other young man who is suppose to be a friend and whether or not he set your son up, but if he did then it would be wise for your son to stay away from him also.  But if he is sitting with one of the bullies as a measure of his own self preservation then he just isn't mature enough at present to understand the meaning of being a true friend.  Hopefully by involving the police in this latest incident you have somehow put some fear into these others who might want to attack your son and so this will cease and desist.  Kids can be very mean and think they are so tough by beating on younger or weaker kids.  But Karma has a way of balancing things out and hopefully in time they will learn that what they have done has consequences.  Best of luck to you and I hope that your son is going to be alright and gets many well wishes from his real friends while he is in the hospital.
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Ask the principle if he or she arrange a meeting with the bullies parents. Have your child, the bullies, and the all adults present to discuss the situation. I had to do this for my son. With the principle being there, he or she can affirm not to bully your child, force the bullies parents to tell their children not to bully your son, and if some one disagrees, the principle will enforce the rules and can warn the bullies and the parents what will happen if it continues.You should have the principle talk to your child's teachers and monitors to be on the lookout for your child too. Also, build up your child's self esteem and tell him the opposite of what the bullies are telling him. Kids really listen to the messages parents give them. Good luck.