When you get married, do you also sign up for the in-laws?
960061
yep... Being married means you get inlaws. Luckily for me, mine are great!
1145174
When you turn married.
1055881
I am, my husband is a foreigner. His family raised eyebrows at first but they were able to learn to accept it later. A lot of adjustments needed to fit in the society but it is all worth it becasue I have a wonderful partner, lover, husband and best friend at the same time for the rest of my life.
408566
Um, if they're living in the same household, then it's only courdial to invite everyone.  Yes, it is your day and it should be planned out to your specifications, but think about the "bad-blood" that could be created or spared based or your decision to just let someone show up and hey....maybe give you an extra gift.  It's worth it to me to suck it up.  Besides, there will be so many other people there, it isn't like you have to sit and hold hands with him/her the entire time and be like "look who I invited, right here, uh huh, see who came, blah blah blah."
13232
It really works for some folks.  I know a lot of people who are on their 2nd marriages that do that.  And some couples have joint accounts for house stuff and then separate "fun" accounts for themselves.
969377
In the strictest religious terms yes. But when does a marriage really start after we sign to tell everyone else that we are married, or when we know it for our selves.
488819
Print new invites if they haven't been mailed.  If not, do the line-out method.  Labels will look tacky, so I recommend avoiding that.  If they have already been mailed, you'll have to print an amendment card for everyone.  Something simple that just says "Please note the date of Jan & Joe's wedding is now January 1st, 2007.  All other details remain the same."  You could even include an apology and a 'we hope to see you there'.  : )
626376
You can if you want to.  A lot of brides do.  I'm getting married in a few weeks and we decided not to exchange gifts just because we don't have the extra money, plus we decided to buy a dog after the wedding.
883513
Yes. After I broke up with my fiancee, I set her up with my friend. I even DJayed the wedding.  They just had a baby, two days after ours, and we all hang out with no funky vibes.  Just be mature.
558666
Did you sign a prenuptial agreement?  If not, than I think you do have to share it.
879424
I hate my in-laws. They are always in my marriage. They expect my husband to cater to their needs and forget that he has a family on his own to take care of. I undrestand that he is suppose to help them but they call him for any and everything like when they went out of town they wanted him to stay in their house for two weeks without his family.
483335
well its up to you if you get married or not
244270
I didn't know we invited people here.Come here and get married,get your greencard. That's what i heard what everybody else does.
432372
Patience is a virtue, I always say. If you live with them I feel for you. Just a few things to remember, 1)if you love him then you will learn to appreciate and deal with the family that you married into. 2)Although, everyone disagrees sometimes try to bond with your inlaws and things will go better than being upset. 3)Get to know your mother-in-law as mother than just a mom but a friend or gal-pal. 4)Do something as a family together. Go out and do something that you all will enjoy.
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YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT THAT DAY. ITS YOUR WEDDING. I DID IT ON MINE AND NOT ONE PERSON SAID ANYTHING TO ME. IF THEY DO JUST SAY THAT YOU ARE NERVOUS AND TO MIND THIER OWN BUSINESS. ITS NOT A BIG DEAL. ME AND MY HUSBAND BOTH DID IT. MAYBE OTHER GUESTS OR MEMBERS WILL JOIN YOU
972329
Unfortunately that's going to happen despite your best intentions.  When planning my reception, we married out of the country and had a reception at home a week later, I had to put a stop to the number of people being included because my then fiance was wanting to invite everyone and their brother!\n\nWe finally settled on immediate family, close relatives (these are the ones you see/talk to more often than at funerals, weddings & family reunions), friends (talk to/see weekly or a couple times a month), parents friends who have known you your entire life, co-workers (that you see socially, not just in the office).  And even those we went over and over.  We too didn't want to leave anyone out but sometimes, it just can't be helped.\n\nAnd a big oversight to watch out for when doing your guest list is partners.  When you invite your friend Jill, don't forget to include her friend Jack as her guest,  married couples and significant others also count as 2 guests not just 1.  You didn't mention if you're including children.  (We didn't because I know several children who are finicky eaters and I wasn't catering to their picky appetites.)  So you could find that by iinviting your Aunt Mary and Uncle John and family you've included 5 people to your total guest list.\n\nI just saw someone else mention the wedding party count as guests too...but don't forget to count their partners, spouses, significant others, etc.
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That is really awful! Wow. I have only heard of such inconsiderateness once before. \n\nMy cousin got married maybe 15 years ago and my fiance wasnt allowed to go either. I was supposed to be in her wedding but I declined. I went to the ceremony, stayed for dinner and then had my fiance pick me up. I couldnt believe how rude that was of her! And my fiance and I were living together at the time, too!\n\nAll I can tell you is that you should really ask for an exception to be made. Tell them how much it would mean to you to have your boyfriend there. After all, some people never get married and are happily together forever. So, I dont think that the piece of paper (or ring in the case of being engaged) should have any bearing on whether your boyfriend is invited. \n\nYou could offer to pay for his dinner, if money is what they are concerned about. \n\nI would have done the same thing that you did. It is so highly rude and unjustified for your boyfriend to not have been invited. I cant believe the nerve of some people. It makes me so angry just thinking about them doing that to you! Ugh! I would have declined the invitation also. If nothing else, it's out of respect for your boyfriend! \n\nBottom line is, do what you feel is right. You will get a whole myriad of answers here covering all options. Only you know what's right for you. But once you have made up your mind, stand firm! Dont let other family members tell you that you are wrong. You are not the one who was wrong here!