Is it a good idea for a 13 yr. old girl to change houses every week, living with mom one week, dad the other?
967156
No moving from place to place with no real home or base can be confusing, not only that she will feel no responsibilty to anyone as she never has to deal with the consequences of her actions for more than a week.
47139
Deciding which parent to live with is never an easy decision, first try to come up with a pros and cons list, that might be a good first step. Secondly, decide what it might be like, a week, a month, a year, after your there, deciding if you can adjust to another surrounding is a hard, so give it some thought. Personally, I would move to Florida, just because, depending on the area, can be a really enjoyable place to live. Also, try to figure out as much as you can about where your mom lives, and what it is like there, what you can do for fun, what you could possibly do for work (not sure how old you are but ohh well...) and so on.....I hope I have given you enough to think about and good luck with your decision.
781234
your mom is offering to help you!! she wants the best for you and is willing to do what it takes for you get treatment and life on back on track..she seems like a responsible caring woman so i would say stick with your mother even if it means getting kicked out of your house! its only because she loves you and until you figure out the consequences of your actions..then i presume she will keep doing it
1133284
Sounds like the best thing would be all of you have family counseling together, especially to support the teenage daughter.  If you move, who's to say the the ex won't move also?  I also think it depends on how old the teenage daughter is........it is sad that children have this magical thinking regarding a parent that is unable to give them what they need.  They give them way too much power when it comes to their feelings.....very sad.  The child might be at the point where she says "No thanks" to whenever the mother feels the notion to see her.  I would suggest the family counseling and get feedback regarding the idea of moving.
275106
Move out and inviter her to your new place for dinner at least once a week so she can see that your fine and making it own your own.
383913
I would charge as much as you think the mother can afford.\nIt should be $150 a week for each but if you want to and the mother is poor then less. It depends on what area of the ocuntry you are in and what the neighborhood is like. If the houses where you live are $600,000 and up then charge about $300 per child and if the houses are $100,000 then charge $125 per child. If it is a low priced place with just apartment buildings you can charge less.\nFind out what the others are charging that do what you are doing. Charge the same as them.
993875
The second offer sounds good,but I wouldnt want my daughter knowing that mommy sleeps with different men every night for money.What kind of a role model would I be setting for my little girl.I know it would be hard,but I would stay with the regular paying job and then get a second one if possible to help get the bills paid.
67608
Do you have a basement or attic you can keep her "treasures" in? If she has her own room she could keep what is neccesery to her and find a place to hang other keepsakes precious to her somewhere else so she can always look on those items and not feel like when she moved in you didn't just throw her belongings somewhere else. [Like a personal wall, room, all of that stuff] About the part of you might not take it anymore...you could go to a journal website or start a personal diary. Thats all I can think of but I am pretty sure someone has a better idea.
554464
yes its ok, in most family's both parents work. I bet there is some time when you don't need to be in the house and you could get a job. do it if you need the money or if its something you want to do. your happiness should be one of his highest priorities.
90432
I have a 13yr old daughter and she would be grounded to the house until she was 18 if she even thought about being a stripper; babysitting is a good job for somebody that age
1006840
First of all, if your house and family are that bad, then she shouldn't come over any more.  Seems like to me she's being a BRAT, and using you and your family.  You should stop hanging with her and enjoy your family.  They can't be replaced, you can get a new friend.
95909
If your mother will not let you go out, that is a fine answer to give. It is the truth. And to tell you the truth, I also think that 13 is too young.
567802
This is a job for your parents and not you.  All you can really do is model good behavior for her.  The attraction of TV over books for a child is powerful.
1119397
Get her riding lessons or a week at horse camp.  For my daughter's 13th she got a portable phone.  She can walk around the house with it attached to herself with a microphone and ear plug thing so she can do dishes while talking on the phone.
1108788
if you and your ex are still friends that is great and if she is willing to work with you on the scheduling i would say go for it.  your right your daughters are getting old enough that they are going to be doing more with their friends and developing their individuality.  i know it would be hard for me to move away from my children and i probably wouldn't be able to do it but my children's fathers are complete a***s and wouldn't go out of their way to help anybody out.  if your daughters want you to go obviously they know that if you move it doesn't mean that you are moving out of their lives and that it is a good thing for you to go.  i'm sure they will miss you terribly and there will be alot of late night calls saying they miss you and want you to come home but as time goes by it will get easier for all of you.  if you don't go is this something that you will regret later and wish you had done and if it doesn't work out moving can't you always move back home?  i guess you just have to weigh out the pros and cons of going and see which would be the best.\n\ngood luck with your decision!
130739
you really should think about it before doing it. i moved out at 16. now im back home again and i have a 3 yr old and another on the way in a couple months. i wouldnt change any of it but i wish i could give my kids more then i can right now.
656254
You know, I'm a firm believer that it takes a village to raise a child. If she's in your home, she MUST abide by YOUR RULES. My whole family understands that about me because I don't waiver from the rules in my house. If her mom doesn't like it, oh well. It's not unreasonable to ask a child to behave while in your home. Best of luck!\n\nMandy