My wife is leaving me for a younger man.?
955721
she is not worth it\nhow can she expect that from you
1048129
Sheesh, want to switch with my wife she never lets me tell her what to do. I am 6'3" and she just a tiny 5'2" but she is the boss. No really your both adults, work it out, talk, communicate, tell him what you want to do and why and listen to his answers. Maybe he feels guilty that the first house you bought wasn't as big or as nice as he thought it would be. I don't know, but without talking to him, you won't know either. Talking to people on line is not going to get it done either. Sounds to me like your tired and frustrated and will continue to be until you two talk it out. There are no stead fast rules or anything on what you are allowed and not allowed to due in most places in the U.S. and I  have to assume it is not a religeous prohibatation as your talking about it on the internet. Talk to him, if you can't talk to him, write him a letter. If worse comes to worse neither of you will be happy.
634376
first and foremost you need to sit and talk to your wife. you need to be very honest not only with yourself, but with her. you need to tell her how you feel and be sure to be very considerate and aware of her feelings about your new found life. its not fair for you to continue to put her off or lie to her. honesty is always the best policy. i'm sure that if the two of you cant work things out it will be easier to part ways because you were not only honest with her, but with yourself. good luck!
1129105
Wow - this is SUPER complicated.  \n\nFirst, get REALLY clear about what you want.  Either you want to try to pursue the first girl all over the world or you want to reconcile with your wife.  Choose and choose now.  (I think the age difference might be affecting your marriage, though)\n\nSecond, when you decide what you want, put a time limit on it.  If you want the first girl, then say, I'm going to chase her for 2 more years and if she doesn't come back, then I will let her go and move on.  If you want to get back with your wife, then you need to get over the first girl (write letters that you won't send, burn things, kick boxes, do what you have to do to get over it) and say  that you and your wife will spend 2 years working on your relationship - and if you can't get it together, then you can both move on.\n\nThird, you have issues.  You need to see a counselor that will listen to you and help you figure all this c.r.a.p. out.  Regardless of your wife's issues or the first girl's issues, YOU are the one who is miserable and desperate after 6 years!!!!!  That's a long time to carry that kind of burden around.  \n\nLastly, it sounds like you have time and money.  You should dedicate yourself to a worthy cause of some sort to help take your mind off things and to help you get clear about what's important in this life.  Everything needs to have a limit and you've gone on far too long with this whole ordeal.  \n\nGood luck and I really hope that you find some healing.
1123061
I think you are more infatuated with her than you love her. You got separated and she went to another man, why wouldn't she do it again if she has a problem with you again? Wake up man, this is simple commonsense. She just wants you, she does not need you, and you don't want to be in a relationship where you are just wanted and not needed. Thats not love. You will be used.\n\nWhat you need is a woman of your own and not one you share with another man. She is that other guy's wife and your seeing her is tantamount to adultery and that is treading on dangerous ground.\n\nDivorce? Well, she can get that to be with youbut are you going to marry her and take in that guy's children as your own? And do you see any reason why she won't divorce you as well when she has a problem with you? Don't be naive, you are believing that she loves you because thats what you want to believe. Sorry old boy but you will be a fool if you lick back what you spat out.
510097
Stay away- Trying to make contact will only make the situation worse.  Don't give her ammo.  It is hard but you have to play it by the law, for now anyways.  Fight for joint custody and go from there.  Let your wife go, for your childrens sake.  The children need to see a healthy happy father.  You know you tried and did what you could and that is what is important.
489722
get a new wife.  One that appreciates you for who you are.
58875
If your wife is not here your right, you've won, your the master.\nIt's when she returns that your wrong again and in trouble and your now the slave. So get that smile off your face and realize your a man and your never right when it comes to argueing with a wife.\nSo enjoy it while she's gone. She'll be back.
1039019
my wife was 13 years older than me....she had a problem with it...i didn't, sadly to say we are no longer together...she mistakenly thought i would prefer someone younger.So now i have lost her because of her false way of thinking.
1166701
I think you should do the following - find a marriage counselor - obtain an attorney.\n\nThe marriage counselor may help you and your wife come to an understanding, the attorney will ensure that YOUR rights are upheld. I would not tell your wife about your attorney, just in case she decides to leave out to her home town. \n\nYou had said that you have your child? When your wife decides to leave and party and not return for two weeks, you can file for child abandonment. It sounds like you would be better with the child than the wife. That's where the attorney comes in.
804171
Her issues are not your concern anymore.  U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else.  Concentrate on your marriage instead.
57506
This doesn't just happen to men. Women get torn between two people also, but you have an obligation to your wife and your CHILDREN!!! I know it is hard, but be a man and keep your word. Good Luck!
354421
buddy the last thing you want is for your woman to want you only for your money. look if she goes with the other chap well consider yourself saved. its hard but welcome to the real world. life goes on! cheers. there will be other women believe me.
723099
Holy Crap! You married a saint. How did you find a girl to take all that crap. Well, if she doesn't leave you man you owe her big. Good luck.
537890
YOURE A JERK!!!! I bet this new women will take all your money too, especially cuz shes younger!! And I hope she does and leaves you with nothing. Then youll go crying back to your wife and she wont want you either!!! LOL
953932
I cannot offer advice as to whether or not to keep your baby.\n\nHowever, I strongly believe that you should leave this man.  He is a two-timing cheater who has no regard for his wife and children, and is too cowardly to face up to his adultery.  And he's taking advantage of a younger woman less experienced than himself, who also happens to be young enough to be his daughter.\n\nAll in all, he sounds like BAD NEWS.  In addition, show respect for his wife and children and don't get yourself involved in this negative relationship.\n\nBest of luck to you.
1143782
If you are finding it difficult to move on , it might be a good thing that she moves away ! The less you have to see her , the better off you will be ! I went through the same thing about a year ago , with the father of my children. \n    Luckily 4 me , i guess--> it made me see him in a whole nother light . I started to see him 4 the scum that he is , 4 the first time fully in our 8 1/2 year relationship !\n    Right now , he is living about 5 blocks from our house w/ his new girl--> the one that he cheated with . He does'nt pay child support , & never wants to see our children . \n     He actually had the balls to call me today , and think that he deserved some special recognition from our daughter because it was Fathers Day. I told him that until he started being a father , and starts making sure that his children are taken care of---> he deserves nothing from them ! ie : if he can't help to support them , or spend time with them on a regular basis--> he might as well just be classified as a sperm donor---> which is someone that has no rights !\n   I have actually had our childrens healthcare cancelled , because he refused to give me the things i needed from him to renew thier insurance . And , he has let his children go hungry , because he refuses to send them some sort of support .\n    You , atleast don't have to worry about all of that ! Your\nson will be taken care of-->just as my kids will . Just please , make sure you help her out with your son , and spend some quality time with him as often as you can !\n   The ladies will come & go , and most more than likely there is another waiting right around the  corner 4 you !\nShe is obviously not the one 4 you , so go out and have some fun responsibly---> and you will find someone to help you take your mind off of her !