How do I get a meddeling mother-in-law to be to back off?
963938
Son's DO NOT owe their mother's anything besides love and respect...even though it doesn't sound as if she's too deserving of the respect!  Thank God your fiancee sees what's going on.  Yeah, you would think that at her age she would have reached a certain level of maturity...apparently not.  If she can't control herself she's out of the picture.  Stand your ground!!
326823
She's not your mother.  Let your husband do it.  It's his mother, he needs to do it himself.
681020
oh boy. sounds like me and my mom. I just walked away when she started to irritate me. Don't acknowledge her bad behaviour at all. But don't expect her to stop being this way. you will have to deal with it for the rest of her life. So just try and tell yourself that you will leave the house one day and you won't have to deal with her. Just try and remember to not fight back. Let her win. Even if your beyond right. Because she's only looking to argue. not win an argument. Ignore her critcisms of other people and just try to tune her out when she talks. That's your best bet. GOOD LUCK
653421
kill her and hide the body!!! LOL just kidding, it is hard, the best thing you can do is have your husband talk to his mom, other than that you are sol. it is a funky little sitch because if he is not ready to cut the strings and you push him he will hold it against you, stupid i know but that is how it is. if you say anything to the mom she can easily manipulate it to drive a wedge between you two. only move if you have to for a job or something, because the phone can easily still work no matter where you go. so have your hubby talk to her first, then maybe sit down as a family to work out some rules or something. good luck on this sticky wicket!
1035983
Sorry you are dealing with 2 psychos that don't know their place.  I'd ignore them as much as possible, but I would put my foot down if they tried to run your life. Your hubby is going to deal with them as he chooses b/c they are his family, but I think they need to see that you are not to be messed with.  When you say no, don't waver.  They can leave if they don't like it.  Let them try to manipulate all they want. It's up to you to not allow them to mess with your life.  Your husband will see them for who they are. And he may step up and tell them to back off in private so they save face. But either way, you can't control him or them....just put your foot down.  Good luck. My mother in law is a manipulative witch.  My husband just  wants to move far away from her and gets tired of her behavior, but feels he can't change his mom.  I think he's right.
904871
I have one of these moms, too.  We just put things where we want them and she can change them later.  Her thing is always "The tinsel isn't right.  One piece at a time."\nWe just laugh at her and do what we want.
705100
Tell you husband you need more help when you are at his parents house.  Have him listen up and the next time your MIL directs concern to you he can jump in and handle it.  The other option would be for you to ask your husband to handle it in front of your MIL so she can get the message you are equally responsible for the kids.
188466
That is why they are called in laws..just ignore them back if they won't accept you. Try your best with them but if that isn't good enough for them than leave them alone...Lady
694372
My mother in law didnt like me either. She said it wouldnt last a year. Well its been 32 years and we no longer speak to her because she pulled some rel nasty stunts on our children. I say stay with him and ditch the mother in law too.
493208
OMG!!!!!!!!!! I hate her already. First, tell her no calls past ____ (fill in the time). Say it wakes the kids. Next, if she goes to the store for you, tell her you need the exact change back, because you are saving up for ____. If she wants her kids to play with the toys, let her know that she can have them come over and play, (just watch that they don't leave with them). You have to be upfront with her and let her know that you feel that she is taking advantage of you. Explain all of the reasons. Ask her if she would like to be treated that way. Let her know that your household will no longer support her alchol problem......if she sneeks three beers out the back door that is stealing. Alchol (misspelled, sorry) is a legal drug, if she feels the need to steal it.....then she has a problem with it. Also, tell her that you will not support her smoking habit. If she is bold enough to buy smokes with your change again, aks to see them, then when she hands them to you, put them in your pocket, and say "Thank you". I'm sure she will wonder what you are doing. Say that she bought smokes with YOUR money, there for they are your to keep. I bet she will never do that again. As far as her saying stuff to get your husband in trouble....Let's say she saw your husband look at another chick, if she comes to you saying that, say, "Was she ugly? Cause I heard ugly rubs off. Tell him not to look at the ugly ones." (LOL) And, about bumming toilet paper, why would your mom let someone live there if she can't afford the bare essential??? Sounds like you sis-in-law has a problem about getting something for nothing, no matter what it might be.
1148210
Sit her down, and ask her nicely to take a different approach when asking for help! I used to nag at my husband to help me get things done. I eventually learned that when nagging at a man, it just pushes them away. They soon begin to just tune you out. Make her a promise that if she takes a different approach such as, calmly naming off the few things that need to be done that week. You will make your best effort to get them all done. Then you must do so. Just remember it's a lot better then going back to her nagging at you all of the time. It will get better..:)
525867
Hey there, just to let you know, all the mother-in-laws in the world are jealous of their daughter-in-laws. The least they'd think is that some little bit*ch has come along to steal the little boy she's loved for years that she's raised into her little man. That's the rule of the nature. Heard of Odipeous? I don't want to get too Freudian about this. But I hope you get it. I wouldn't be surprised that you mother-in-law has lust for her own son; in that case, she's a sick piece.\n  You should let you fiancé know that you're the one he's marrying and having children with, not that bit*ch of a so called mother of his. If he ever gives you any bull about not being nice to his mom, you need to let him know that if he won't put you first, plenty of men out there would. In that case, you don’t need some mama’s boy anyway; he can just live with his mommy for ever if that’s the case.\n  On the other hand, maybe that mother-in-law to be of yours is just getting used to the idea that she's losing and that you're winning.\n  I wouldn't be surprised if that mother of his, if she's white that is, is a racist; in that case, as long as your fiancé loves you and respect you, just cut her out of the picture. If she's the same race as you, she's just being old fashioned and nevertheless, a stupid bit*ch for you to disregard.\n  So, don't even think about sucking up to her. It's that unpleasant bit*ch that's suppose to show you some respect. Remember, respect is earned, not given. Just because she's the mom of you future husband doesn't mean you're to give in to her stupid game. As long as your man knows better, which I presume that he does, he'd know that he's going to come home to you for years and withdraw further and further away from his "mother" to the point that miserable old witch would regret being a bit*ch to you.\n  So, as long as your fiancé puts you first, you should disregard that miserable old woman and realize that you're winning and she's losing. \n  You have my sympathy. Keep your chin up. That miserable old thing isn't worth your time or emotions. You’re here to make yourself happy, not to make that miserable old fool happy. She doesn’t matter at all. Marry this guy, cut her out of the picture, and be happy!
922637
My suggestion is like many others, THANK HER every chance you get as this could make or break your relationship with her. If your weight doesn't change often I'd say start the dress at the beginning of the year. Of course small alterations can be made later, but then you can get the jist of things and make sure you both are on the right track and still have time for changes if need be.\nI really think you should get as many pictures as possible of what you want. I might even go to the extent of taking her dress shopping with you, trying on dresses, taking pictures in them and showing her what you like about each dress and why you think that type of dress would work best for you. Engrave in her head what you see in yours and hopefully that will keep her straying on the dress to a minimum. During the process of making it try it on often and correct anything you want before it can't be fixed. \n\nI'd say start it early in case you end up completely disliking it, then you'll have time to find something new. Though that my cause rifts between you and the mother-in-law.\n\nI totally know how you feel, my soon to be mother-in-law is trying to convince me their 45' x 30' back yard which is taking up mostly by a vegetable garden is the perfect location for our reception.
1063899
be honest with her but say it in a nice way.."mom, please..i don't wanna talk about it anymore.." even if she gets mad, eventually, she'll know you really don't want to talk about it.
529261
there is no easy way out of that - your mother-in-law no matter what you say and do will not give up supporting your brother - in - law - what I think you should do is go straight to him and try to get him to change his ways...
202572
Please Show her Love be there for her but tell her that you want tolerate this behavior in you and your sons life again atleast give her a chance to correct her mistake.you may still be mad at her but be there for her let her know that you still love her and that you want your family back dont desert her.thats what the devil want put God in your life more than ever know he can help your family with God all things are possible if you have faith.Know is the time that you remember your Marriage Vows.SICKNESS AND HEALTH THROUGH GOOD N BAD.GOOD LUCK
263795
TELL HER YOU DON'T GIVE A FU*CK WHAT SHE THINKS AND THAT YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO YOUR MAN. AND THEN IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GET TO LIKE OR KNOW YOU WELL THE HE*LL WITH HER YOU DON'T GIVE A FU*CK. I MEAN DAM*N HOW MUCH OF A BI*TCH DOES SHE HAVE TO BE. TELL HER TO GO FU*CK SOME DI*CK AND CHILL OUT AND STOP BEING A BI*TCH. MY HUSBANDS MOM WAS LIKE HER SHE ALWAYS HAD HIM MAD AND WHEN HE GETS MAD HE IGNORES EVERYONE FU*CK I DIDN'T DO SH*IT. SHE WILL JUST KEEP GETTING HIM PISSED OFF ALL DAY! TELL YOUR MAN THAT EITHER SHE STOPS BEING THE WAY SHE IS TO YOU OR YOU GO AND IF YOU LOVE ME YOU WILL TELL HER TO STOP THAT WETHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO HIM AND THAT'S IT!!!!!!