I am in love and get married to the man i love....but i am getting disowned from my family...what do i do?
960824
age is nothing but a number and your family should love you know matter what. If that's the man that you love then go for it. explain how you really fell about him and if all else fells just go for it you always have to follow your heart
897033
Chances are good that you succeed.i know that this is kinda challenging.But if she truely love you and care about you she would be determined to break the barrier of religion.its upto her to decide whether to hurt you or her family.she will make her choices.all what i suggest you is to stand by her always.just be there for her.I suggest you to respect and support her decision.if she wishes to not hurt her family by marrying you then please support her.or if she chooses to marry you and leave her family behind you are obliged to reconnect her with her family.Good luck to the two you.hope you succeed.
242328
Hmmm... a tough question.  This really depends on you and only you.  You have to decide whether your family is more important that the love of your life.  When you do, are you willing to deal with the consequences?\n\nIf you choose her over your family, are they going to continue being supportive or will they scorn her for the rest of your happy days?  Will they continue to talk to you or have nothing to do with you?  Are you ready for whatever may happen?  There are many things you have to consider, which may or may not be listed here.  \n\nIn choosing her, you must consider everything.  If she is still a callgirl or whatever, are you comfortable?  Can you tolerate her sharing herself with other men for a living?  Appearently you are comfortable to be with her knowing her past.  Can you deal with the future?  You must consider a lot when you are about to go against your family for the sake of love.  If you choose her and find that her life and her choices had led to a seperation, can you cope the loss of your family if they decided to austercize you?  What are her plans for the future?  Are you in agreement with most of them or do you think that you will change her?  Be weary of trying to change someone just because you love them - sometimes they are dreams only to be shattered.\n\nThere are a lot of questions that only you can answer.  I can only provide the mechanism to get you thinking.  Good luck.
931812
If you love him then marry him if he asks. Your and his parents shouldn't have any influence on you love for each other. If his mother doesn't like you thats her loss. When you marry someone it's just between you that person and God nobody else has anything to do with it. \nMy husband's mother didn't like me before we got married, we dated for 3 years before we got married and that whole three years was miserable when we where around each other, it's gotten better now that she's realized that he is no longer her baby boy, but a grown man and has his own life. Stay with him if you love him and things will eventually get better, just let her know that you aren't a threat to her and kill her with kindness. Good luck, and prayers.
663833
Ask yourself why is it he is so in a rush to get married is he an illegal immigrant, does he want you for your money, what because that is kinda strange to me to.\n\nLook marriage is a committment for life a vow that should be cherished between two people until the day each die you need to sit and make sure this is the right man for you because if he loved you their would be no reason for him to just run off and want to get married he is in some kind of trouble.\n\nI am quite sure you want a nice big wedding and your family their if you run off what is your family going to say and how are you going to feel so take a minute and think about it and question him if you need to
322162
Keep talking to your brother,he seems to be the only person in your family acting like a grown-up!You are entitled to your beliefs and he is your brother,losing him would be like losing an arm,so keepthe lines of communication open and hopefully your parents and sister will come round,good luck,stay strong.
1133189
If you truly Love eachother,and you are ready and willing to be strong and stand up for yourselves.Then do not let anyone stand in your way.I am assuming that you belong to India.My best advice is that you are going to have to make a choice between your happiness or making others happy.This is your life after all.You may face all kinds of issues,but if your Love is strong enough you will be together.Have faith in God and eachother.Dont get married illegally.Just go to a court and have a court marriage.Your families may not accept you.Be prepared for that.I wish there was some better advice in the universe.But always follow your heart no matter what.Because you wont be happy unless you do.Regardless of culture never allow anyone to control your life.
38273
Try talking to them, show them how much you realy love and respect them, and try to compromise. Your family, specially your dad and mom, will always love you, even if they sometimes dont show it due to your unobediance or stubbornness.
918398
well you could talk to your family and explain that you really love her. if they still don't like her and if you are dead sure that she loves you and that she can break her engagement without any problem, then i guess you should stay with her. because it is YOU who will love her and  not your family. and if you can persuade them that you will be happy with her then they should be tolerant and accept the situation. i could also tell you to face your family and fight for your love like they do in movies but this is unrealistic. i have faced a more or less similar situation some years back. i was in love with a boy. he is hindou and i am christian and my parents disliked him. i love my parents very much and i didn't want to hurt them and see them sad. so i broke up. but this was my choice. today i'm still alive and waiting for the perfect guy if ever he exist at all. i dn't know if i have regrets. what i mean is that the choice is yours and no one else's!
688255
They sound like selfish people.I know it hurts you,but you can't let it destroy your life.You are a worthwhile person and a reflection of the almighty.Don't try to have a relationship with them.Believe me they are going to pay for the way they treat you.You will find a good man get married and have a family of your own and you can give them all that love you have stored up.Best wishes
1162889
Well right or wrong on what you become and what you do with your life, family should be there not matter what! I'm going threw it right now. I met and married a wonderfull man, and family is distant from me cause they didnt agree with it. In time if they still dont like what you become, then tell them that your you and you will be what you want and they can be by your side or not, that if they choose not to be then its not stoping you from becomming what YOU want. I didnt let my parents bring me down cause i married a guy they didnt know. And im not giving up my husband for them. They can take me and him as whole or keep living there lifes without seeing there grandkids or future grandkids. But I know in time they will come around, as a matter of fact they have a little. Just be who YOU want to be dont let anyone bring you down or tell you do what they want. Be yourself and prove to them you can do what you want on your own. Good luck!
879420
You are both old enough to make your decisions.  You should not have to elope.  You need to be mature enough to face your family and tell them you are a adult and that you love each and everyone of them but this is the decision you have made.  They can except it or not but you have made the effort to stand up for how you feel.  They will eventually come around.  A good strong family will stand be side you what ever decision you make.  It may take them awhile to accept but they will.      \n\nWhen I  married my husband 27 years ago family could not stand him.  They disowned me.  It hurt me but I went on.  They eventually came around!!! Your family is just looking out for you best interest.  \n\nGood Luck!
1070570
Be miserable, like I am. It wouldn't be so bad if the man I married loved and respected me. I guess that doesn't help you, but these things happen. Do what you need to do to make things right, if you can.
114405
First of all, should it matter?  You are engaged to be married to your fiance, not his/her mother.  If they are close, then try to be amicable.  Most of the time, try to avoid being with her.  If it really bothers you, try talking to her and find out why she hates you.  Sometimes when you talk to someone and get things out in the open, it will clear the air and clear some misunderstanding she had about you, and maybe after that, she will like you.
1050676
Have you talked to you mom about this?    Family is about love not color.  MY family is mixed to,we have 6 kids..  my daughter is African American,Indian,Italian. I married a Mexican. so we have alot of mixes we call it his your & ours. Is someone making you feel different or left out?  I would try to talk it out with my family or talk to the person making me feel like i don't belong. FAMILY is about love and caring, if they give that to you your half way there and maybe you need some time with someone from you dads family to get to know your afican amercian half.
541788
Ok I completly understand what both you and him are going through cause I have been there and done that, therefor my advice to you is if you really think and feel you love him try to understand his point even if you don't agree or like it very much. What it sounds like he is doing is avoiding having confrontations with his family and you. The less they know the less they will nag at him, they less they nag the better mood you will see him in. Think of it in a positive way he just wants to avoid problems between his family you and him, besides its also a healthier realationship for both of you, never know he may be thinking of taking the relationship a step higher and want to move in together in a few months and when he does he will drop the bom on them, just keep your eyes open at all times giving everyone and anything the benifit of a dought. Good Luck and take things easy enoy your time
255538
you need to make a decision...is this person going to marry me and will it last forever. These arent questions that you can hope for but must be 110% certain that both answers are yes. Now this is probably very unlikely. Friends are your family, usually closer than family. You tell more to your friends than you do your family so they must be preserved at all costs. The way this situation has arisen then you must make the choice now and not later as there may be no later. Your friend is feeling betrayed even if you didnt mean it that way. You need to fix things with your friend first and maybe they will give you their blessing which would work well for everyone. If they dont call your new relationship off immediately.