Need some help, I'm hurt...don't think I'm thinking with my head, just my heart?
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Remember, people are ALWAYS communicating with you, even if it is non-verbal.  Right now he's saying that the pain of confrontation and admitting his bad behavior is more painful than trying to repair your relationship.  You have offered to try to repair it through your attempts to contact him.  Now it's time to let it go.  Big talker, right?  I didn't say it was going to be easy, or pain-free, it just has to be done for your own sake.  And believe me, you don't want to feel like you don't give a damn, that would be denying your feelings, your trust in your relationship, and your broken heart.  I'm going to tell you to do something that is going to sound dorky, but I really want you to try it (what do you have to lose?)  Write him a letter.  Say everything you want to say about how you feel, how hurt you are, how angry you are, call him names.  End the letter by saying goodbye and saying how much you will miss the relationship you had.  You will never send this letter.  After you've written it, read it once, then rip it up and throw it away.  I promise you this will help.  You will still hurt, but please do this and you will feel better.  You need closure, and since he's not giving it to you, give it to yourself.  Let me know how it goes.
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Did you know all this before getting involved with that person? If so I can image he does feel that way. If not than maybe the love wasn't as strong as you thought. You can only do what you feel you can................
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Everyone's life is full of worries.  What makes yours more important?  Just deal with what you can as you can and don't worry about the small stuff.  Take life one day at a time and thank God that you woke up this morning.  We all feel hopeless.  I have a good cry and sulk for a few days.  Then I pick myself up and move on.  I have a family to think of.  Just think of how your loved ones would feel if you were not here.  Don't be selfish.
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I am very sad that you are hurting so much. Some wounds are very deep and take a long time to heal. You deserve to be loved and cared for! I can't even imagine how much it must hurt to have someone you care about so much do that to you. I don't know if you believe in God, but I do and I believe that he can heal us. I believe that forgiveness is the key to overcoming your hurt. I know it is extremely difficult, but if you can try to push angry feelings away and forgive him for what he has done, you will feel better. I do not believe that finding someone else is the right solution. It is a way to cover or bury your pain, but not heal it. Pray for strength, don't be ashamed to cry, and turn to good friends for support. I will keep you in my prayers as well.
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Take a small break, and try to focus your mind. Relax and think...things could've been worse. You decide what's on your mind and not the other way round :-)
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Hi Omer Leshem,\nThink with your heart not your head.Good Luck: Blueladybug
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wow you go pretty deep....hmmm i think not, of corse then agian, thinking hurts my brain
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Well done for realising you have a problem, that is the first step in the right direction, and so is asking for help too. I think you should see your doctor who can help you or reffer you to someone else who is trained in dealing with such conditions. You need to think positively, relax, and deep breathe when you think you may hurt someone. Walk away from any situation you fear may lead  you want to hurt someone. Remind your self it is not acceptable to hurt someone and that you are a nice person. Take more control in what you do by being a positive you. Has anything ever happened to you in the past to make you want to hurt someone else?? You need to ask yourself why do I want to hurt that person? Then realise what you are thinking and control it. I know it may sound easy, but it will not be. The more you do not give in the easier it will become over time, but you do need to see your doctor to get advice. Hope all will turn out well.
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You're just asking to be hurt...Honey...don't you think more of yourself?? This is not the one for you...you are HIS loss. Get  your self back in the game..
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Two roads well traveled in my experiance, i say that you should try to listen to your heart first, try your best with the situation... If it doesnt help, if it begins to hurt to much then its time to think with the mind. Sometimes no matter what you do it will not be enough but atleast you can have the satisfaction knowing that you tried your all. In reality you cannot tell you heart what to feel and for who, and sometimes no matter what the other does it may not change how you feel for them but you must love and respect yourself enough to know when is enough heartache  over someone, and when to draw the line. If your heart wont open the door, your mind will bar it shut. goodluck.
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Dude I don,t think your stupid because that's what I Would do \nevery body else may think its stupid but you got to do what \nis best for you do you need closer or need something resolved if so be care full that's were we romantics get in trouble we hope to get something back and end up loosing more and feeling even worse ,good luck
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I know your pain so much.  I live it.  Trust me.  It's really hard to make that first step.  It took me several years.  I went to a counselor, but she didn't help at all.  So now I'm going to sit here and wait a whole month to see a psychiatrist.  I don't feel like a person anymore, just a lifeless being.  Please, get help.  You know you need it as much as I know I need it.
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This is the wrong place...\n\nI honestly believe you need counselling.\nPlease seek professional help before you get hurt...\nYou life is going to depend on this, so please don't think about the cost.
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Damn..........\nthat's a thought one. I really feel for you, but I cannot help you this time.
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Best thing I can tell you is to take it one day at a time. Don't allow yourself to feel so overwhelmed, honey. I too have suffered from depression and the very best thing you can do is to not get drowned in all the emotions. You have a man who loves you, who seems to understand what's going on, otherwise he wouldn't have asked you in the first place. Try and realize that love is one of those things you have to take a chance on and sometimes it'll help cure what hurts.
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You have said it in the first line of your question here, that this problem seems to be based on your past. You seemed to have been wounded by something that has already happened before. Its best you sit and think. Go back to that part of your past and mentally think as to what you could have done to make things better. I know doing so will be painful but it is something that you must do in order to ease the pain. Continuous suspicions, mistrust issues are not to be looped over such a long period of time, especially when you have beautiful people around you who I am positive are caring and concerned more than you know. There is absolutely nothing to be afraid of and most of all there's nothing more frightening than fear itself. Another question here from my side is why is it that you are afraid to love? I am asking this because we all know that what you give is definitely what you get back in return. If you provide love and affection, it is guaranteed that it will come back to you too. If you have any further questions or need someone to talk to, please don't hesitate to e-mail me. Remember, there are so many wonderful people around and you should give them a chance before you can think of anything else. Before that, please try and do what I've mentioned earlier about looking back and thinking for a moment. Until then, take care. :)
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That is soo me, I have the same problem, I have been hurt soooo many times that I can't even count on my hands how many times I have been heart broken. But i seem to go on, and now I really like this boy, and I afraid to ask him because of what his friends will say, so I'm just keeping it in, and its tearing me up inside, and I can't take it anymore. So, I have came to a conclusion that I'm never going to be w/him, and I'm just trying to forget about him, but I will always have that feeling, and that hope that he will realize that he likes me. Well, I say go w/your heart. \n\n                                 Good Luck!!!!!