How do you deal with anger?
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Some tips: \n1) When you feel the anger rising inside you... close your eyes (or don't) and breathe in deeply for 5 seconds... hold for 5 seconds... and push out slowly and completely, for 5 seconds.\n\n2) Drink a big glass of cold water; literally cool off... this works.\n\n3) Lay down... it's very difficult to maintain the fight or flight response lying down.\n\nConsider starting a routine each evening before bed where you sit quietly in your room, or lay quietly, with soft music or none, breathe slowly in and out 5 in, hold 5, out 5, and relax each body part one at a time, flex and relax... and visualize that part of yourself you are unhappy with, your temper, disconnecting from your body and head and filling a big red balloon... then let it float high away from you... see it explode, and all the anger just evaporate into the atmosphere.  This is just one of many ways to meditate and release...\n\nAlso consider an Anger Management work shop...
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calm down, take deep breaths, take your anger out on a pillow but whatever you do don't think about why you are stressed and angry it only make things worse
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Take a pillow, put it over your face and scream as loud as you can (this helps me a lot) or write out your feelings in a journal or a letter to the person that is making you so angry or upset, then burn it. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me. I went through a lot of things when I was a teen and may be able to help. I wish you the best and I will pray for you.
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(m)\n\nWe all know what anger is, and we've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage. \n\nAnger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. This brochure is meant to help you understand and control anger. \n\nWhat is Anger? \n\nThe Nature of Anger \n\nAnger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. \n\nAnger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings. \n\nExpressing Anger \n\nThe instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival. \n\nOn the other hand, we can't physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and common sense place limits on how far our anger can take us. \n\nPeople use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others. \n\nAnger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression. \n\nUnexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to have many successful relationships. \n\nFinally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside. \n\nAs Dr. Spielberger notes, "when none of these three techniques work, that's when someone—or something—is going to get hurt." \n\nAnger Management \n\nThe goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you
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Consider a career change;  barring that, examine WHY you are becoming so angry.  Practice deep breathing to achieve a relaxed state while NOT angry and once you can achieve it on a regular basis, begin using deep breathing to manage your anger and stress levels.
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Move on forward, don't waste strength on focusing on that anger. Surely you'll find a better one, TRUST ME.
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Use the same things in your mind that help you to relax.Good thoughts usually.Remember that we are not always right, and what would it be like if you could learn something from all this. It takes a lot more of yourself to abstain from getting angry when you havre this problem. look to anger management groups they are there to help. Have a nice day!
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think about when somebody makes you mad.  what do you want that person to do? apologize? give you space? comfort you? what? i suggest that you try what ever would work on you.  use your own judgment.
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Well, it's up to you to find out the source of your anger. After you've done that, you should come up with a plan for how to handle the situation that provokes your anger -- like walk away, or think of squirrels like the one in my profile picture. It's really hard to remember this plan when the situation arises, but you have to beat it in there somehow.\n\nPerhaps the source of your anger isn't an event, but just an accumulation of events. If that's the case, take a vacation somewhere. Take some time off alone to relax -- isolate yourself from the things that anger you. Take up a hobby that'll allow you to vent your anger/frustrations. I actually highly recommend you weight-train or take up martial arts/boxing -- it does wonders for us guys, trust me.\n\nAnd lastly, LIGHTEN UP. LET THINGS GO. TURN EVERY BAD SITUATION INTO A COMICAL ONE. Not everything is perfect or goes as planned, so sometimes you just gotta sit and enjoy the ride.
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count to 10. while you're counting, using a very calm, rational voice inside your head, ask yourself, "In 6 months, will this still be an issue? Or will I even remember it at all?" if the answer is no, then finish the deep breathing and get on with your life...if you're still angry, get away from that person/people and do something to distract yourself--go outside, etc.
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get an anger management classot psychologist
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First take a deep breath and count to 10 when you feel anger coming on, secondly try and be positive in your outlook on life....it works wonders.also wear a smile more often as a smile is very infectious . good luck hope you make it.
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More than likely, someone or something is bothering you that you have been unable to resolve. If you can figure out what that is, you've solved half your problem. Try to find constructive ways to express your anger --- work out, play a sport, write letters to people your angry at (you don't have to necessarily send them or share them). Try to talk to a good friend who will understand if you are moody right now.
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To control your anger is to control your weakness. \nTake a deep breath and count to 30 before sayig anything
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Are we controling YOUR anger or someone elses? If its you, When you feel a fight coming on. WALK AWAY. Don't yell, scream, hit...Nothing, just walk away. If its somebody else, Same theory applies. When you see the fight brewing. Leave the room. \n & joine ART OF LIVING FOUNDATION COURSES.
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You need to let what's on the inside come out.  In other words, you need to vent this pent up frustration/emotion otherwise it will eat away at you until it eventually will vent of its own accord when you least want it to (i.e. you will snap at someone, or will break down in tears, etc).\nA good way to vent frustration is to do some physical exercise, like visit a gym.  Or failing that, just beat seven shades of sh*t out of your pillow, that might help!
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Encourage him to get some counseling and some anger management classes. Unfortunately, there is nothing else you can do. He needs to make strides to get himself emotionally better. And the pain is not going to just go away, he needs to talk to a trained professional that will assist him in dealing with his feelings and moving forward with his life. Good luck and God bless*