Which heals faster...a broken heart or a crushed spirit?
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What a great question, you perversely cheered me up just by asking it.  My vote goes with the broken heart healing faster, because it can partly depend on a certain amount of time passing, combined with meeting someone new.  Unless you're a Miss Havisham type.\n\nBut I've known people with truly crushed spirits and they are dealing with something deeper inside themselves.  Both scenarios are difficult and cause prolonged introspection, but having a crushed spirit does not necessarily involve an outside person who can be 'blamed.'  Even if  it does, there's just the person left alone with their crushed spirit -- it's a more individually-based source of misery, so the person would have to find their way out completely by themselves and find a reason for living.  The external factors are less important than they are when a person's heart is broken.  It's worth watching the film 'In the Mood for Love' and the sequel, '2046' in which the characters get a dose of both, so there's no escape.
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I have had this happen to me, so i speak from personal experience.  When a guy has his heart broken, it is the worst feeling imaginable.  He feels lost, scared, alone, worthless, and completely shattered in body, heart, mind, and soul.  He is sure of almost nothing (although he often puts on a public persona to let people think that he is okay), when in reality, he is very sad and very down.  Depending on what happened, he may never take you back.........The heartbreak could have been more than he could bear.  For breaking his heart, you have lost his trust, as well..  You must rebuild this trust little by little, and you must show him that you will not break his heart again.  He must be convinced that his heart and soul is safe within yours , that his name is safe within your lips.  This will be very hard for you to accomplish............You must help to rebuild his heart, his soul, his mind, his confidence, his love, and his trust, among so many other things.  Give him a new (and true this time) sense of security.
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If you care and love the other person it's not easy to get over a breakup but if you have no feelings for the other person then we do get over a breakup easily. But from a first hand experience my ex broke up with me five months ago and I'm still a nervous wreck but she's moved on quickly. Even though I drove two hours to take care of her while she was sick.
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An anicent was turned to stone,\nthey took his flesh, they took his bone.\nThey took his love, his lady fair\nhe just gave up, he didn't care.\nHe cried if I must live this life alone\nThen turn my aching heart to stone.\n\nI wrote this along time ago, after losing someone I loved to another.  So what I am going to say is to not let your heart be turned to stone, over your loss.  Because out there in the big world is someone waiting for you and you will find love again.  Do not forget your ex boyfriend, but search for the one looking for you.
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If you have a broken heart, Jesus can heal it, only if you trust him and let him....All healing takes time...but knowing that someone loves you can make a big difference. Jesus does love you, and if you can accept that love, then your healing has begun. Read the bible, especially the new testament and the psalms. I think you will find some strength there....jesus heals you through his word, by bringing other people to help you, and by giving you his peace.
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well, follow your heart, which one is better?
506533
damaged by plummet.\n\nIt's a Trance song.
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No...a broken heart is based on emotions not on a lifeline...
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It is just an expression...literaly. Like when we use "paraboles" or "metaphores", to describe a situation. There is a song .."how can you mend a broken heart", it is like, how do you recover from deep  pain, deep hurt.
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no.  If all you have to offer is a broken heart then all you could possibly find is a fixer.  And although fixers serve their purpose there is one fundamental flaw with thinking they are truelove- If they don't have a problem to fix, they are bored and irritable.  So unless you intend to have a major problem throughout the rest of your life he won't be there forever.  Go out and party or stay home and recover but be wary  of calling anyone a true love until that heart gets fixed.
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Okay first breath...It hurts but you will grow so much more then you will ever know once you move pass this...Where were you on Saturday...My heart was so broke...I was told today to hang my head high and walk with pride and no matter what always know that you are better then that and you will hurt for a while and then you will see day light...Its not a matter of loveing to much or not enough its a matter of selfishness on the other persons part...Or just know that life moves and breaking up is part of that move and it hurst yes but time will heal all...Good luck
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It takes time to get over a love relationship.  Some people say that it takes half the time you were involved to get over it.  The best thing is to just talk it out with friends, or maybe a professional counselor.  It's a process, getting over a broken heart, not an event.  It's not something that you just wake up the next day and say, "I'm over it".  I found getting involved with new friends, or interests took my mind away from my sadness.  \nI'm sorry to hear that you are hurting, I hope that you can find some support and distraction soon.  It won't always be like this.  Some day in the future you will look back at this and realize that it wasn't a good relationship for you.
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therapy NOW!\n\nand yes in time you will heal but first you need to face it and talk about it...time heals..but therapy speeds the process.
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Time heals all things! I was in the same boat about a year ago. I thought I was going to die, I wanted to die. The pain in my heart made me sick(literally), but then one day I realized hey it doesn't hurt as much as it did. It took me almost a full year to get over him, but now I am over him, and I just met the sweetest guy in the world. You just have to make yourself go out and have fun. I surrounded myself with fun happy friends and just made myself have fun. At first I was miserable, but then I started having a good time. Now I can be alone and not be sad. It just took time. I promise it will get better, just hang in there sweetie. If you ever want to talk, hit me up at clabarre81@yahoo.com.
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Don't believe crying yourself to sleep at nights will help you to overcome a heart break. The first steps are to relax and spend some time with friends and family, not to mention going out and having some fun. These are all to take your mind off "the heart breaker". If that doesn't work, try meeting new people. The aim for all this is to open up your eyes, and allow yourself to see the truth. Which is that you are still a valuable person. Besides, look at it this way, you are not the one losing, he is. They are losing a unique individual.\n\nMy personal philosophy in life is that out of everything bad comes something good. Therefore, the bad thing in this situation is losing the person you love, hence ending up with a broken heart. However the good thing that will come out of it is that, with that person out of your life, you will meet someone new. Someone who will accept you and appreciate you for who you are.\n\nSo again, I'll ask, can one mend one's broken wings and learn to fly again? Sure you can. Love comes with a lot of risks so before falling, first consider the cost and weigh your feelings.
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Cry as much as you need too. Reach out to others. Believe you aren't going to die from a broken heart and when you are ready keep your heart open to receiving lots of love and good wishes from others.
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dear broken hearted,you have to understand the difference between a lie and actually physical harm.i know what physical harm is.i loved someone and because of this i trusted him.but i really found out the hard way.i was almost killed due to an accident he caused because i was letting him go for his lies.so be thankful you only have a broken heart to deal with.i forgave him but i can never be with him again .my life is worth more than that.so you will heal in time and find someone who will treat you good and you can trust.i have .so anything is possible.take care and move on.