should I stay or should i go after husband cheated?
968152
What ABOUT the boys!!?? Boys grow up and model their father's behavior....Is that ok? Children also feel the pain of an unhappy marriage...Adultery is a very personal issue, and one that your friend will need support and help through. I suggest she get counseling on her own as well. Prayer, and time should help too... Can she ever trust him again? Does he truly want this relationship? I feel that women stay in bad relationships because they feel trapped, helpless, there are groups, and centers to help with this...But if it were me? I'd be done with it-when no respect, honesty , or integrity are in the realtionship-then there really IS no relationship.
553673
I am very sorry for your current situation. It has to hurt knowing that the person you love most in this world has betrayed your trust. My advice is to go to a marriage counselor. They can help you get through this difficult time, and maybe they will be able to find the underlying cause of his betrayal. After all cheating isn't the problem, it's merely a symptom that something else in the relationship is wrong. If you have been together for five years you obviously love eachother enough to try to get through this. Best of luck, you'll be in my prayers.
403016
Honestly, I've been there. It's the worst feeling in the world to know you've been betrayed. If he's likely to do it again, (not everyone is) then don't stay with him. Sometimes these things can clear up. (I'm speaking from personal experience. I've been with my husband for almost 7 years. He cheated once almost 4 years ago and hasn't since. I've learned to trust him again. I wouldn't be the same without him.)
1024304
oh darlin...i'm so sorry for what you are going through.  my husband is not that bad, i don't think...you just need to know for yourself that it happened.  give yourself the power by leaving and knowing that he has cheated.  leave him wondering why you left and if you left just because he cheated on you.  whatever you do, don't put up with that anymore...give yourself that much respect and it will help you down the line when things get hard.  good luck!
255395
I've been there.I've been married three times.Why?Because I cheated on my husband(s)and felt guilty!Tell your wife and let her decide what you should do.She will probably divorce you then you can do what you want.If you cheat again you will start that vicious cycle all over. Don't cheat!
565987
After both of you have had extensive marriage counseling and have decided that the pain is too much and the trust can never again be re-established. It's best to get counseling regardless if you want to stay or not, so that this hurt and mistrust that was caused by your spouse will not contaminate any further relationships in the future.
1139044
Well, if I had a husband and I suspected him cheating I would first come out and ask him! Heck with pretending to be someone else. It's pretty much how well you know him also, a woman will always have to trust her instincts if you suspect him being a cheat then look for clues, if he keeps cheating it won't be long before he gets caught, no matter what a cheating spouse sooner or later WILL get caught. That's why I'm divorced now, but I was the one that cheated and yep! I got caught.
577027
If I was you if he messed up one more time i would just leave him cause you want a guy that will always loves you not just off and on.. And if he really did cheat on you either he doesnt care or he was just rebounding from something else.. hope that answers your question
243001
forget it all together - you don't need the headaches. If he cheated and she cheated most likely they will cheat again. Unless you want to live a soap opera - move on to a different crowd of people.
724572
Aww honey its okay!! Feeling like this is perfectly normal but cheating twice?? I would say take him back if this was his first offense but honestly I dont even know the guy and know that he will cheat again..I'm sure you still care about him and have feelings for him but if he cared for you the way you care for him then he wouldn't have done the things that he did!! You can do better and he will be feeling ALOT worse than you when you move on and know that life can go on without him...I've learned the hard way and always forgave but now I have a baby and what started off with a little cheating to ALOT he didn't stop and would try to lie after a night of romance and come home to his daughter and me..Leave before it becomes something more..A promise just cant be believed anymore..Good luck hun and hang in there..Time heals everything :)
1165758
Too bad he didn't think about all of that when he made the choice to cheat.  Sometimes it's too late to go back and try to fix what was broken. Forgive and move on.
405565
Why would you stay if it is that bad? This doesn't make any sense to me. If the marriage is bad then take yourself out and live your life in peace...Lady
244799
like a fool i took mine back and we were married a week later, but i still find it hard to trust him. even tho hes the one who told me he was cheating. we have been married for 2 years now and together 6 and so far he hasnt done it again ( that im a ware of) if i had it to do over i would have left him.
867706
I've just been through a similar situation, leave leave leave.  I found out that not only was my husband doing the on-line thing, that he cheated on me before we were even married.  You have found out that he lied to you, then you can never believe him again.  If you do stay it will be a long hard road to happiness let me tell you.  Hes playing you for a fool if you believe his pathetic lies.  My husband was chatting on-line and talking to one women on the phone (he fessed up that he's known her for 10 years for god sake, didn't think to share that little bit of information did he) in our home while I was there!!! Incredably my husband didn't even think this was an issue - its called having an emotional affair - its still an affair just not physical but its still a violation of your marriage vows and that shows he isn't committed to you what so ever
651132
First of all, if you are the one who cheated, it sounds like you are the one with commitment issues.  You werent ready for long-term monogamous commitment to your  husband, and now you arent ready for long-term monogamous commitment to your bf.  We can love any number of people, and we can still love people after we've been with other people.  Marriage is about commitment, which is different than love.  If you arent ready to settle down, just be clear about that.  But realize that if you take your husband back and then move on again,  you'll really be hurting him even worse than you did the first time.
231228
The question is why did you cheat?  Something has got to be missing from your marriage to make you cheat.  Yes you can still love him.  And I think you might feel a little guilt because you asked this question.  You need to fix what's wrong in your marriage.  Is is something he has done or something he is not doing?  If so, maybe you should tell him you cheated and why you did it and see if you two can fix what's wrong.  Or is it something you have to settle with yourself?  If it's nothing he has done (or not done) then don't tell him, and settle with yourself.  Good luck sweetie!
810454
I would move on.  I was cheated on by my childrens father again and again.  They never change and you will always wonder.  Its a lot to handle.  I would say find someone that cares about you and takes your feelings into consideration.  After I got rid of the childrens father I met my husband and I know that he would never cheat on me.  I trust him because I do not have the same feelings that I had in the past about worrying everytime he leaves as I did the other jerk.  Good luck and find a good woman who will love you and only you.