is it ok to make the first move or ask a guy out?
951696
Most certainly is not.  We are in the new millennium now not back in the 1600's, so anything is pretty doable today.  Actually a lot of guys nowadays are too shy or feel awkward to ask young ladies out because they are just as afraid of rejection as the young lasses.  So my advice is for you to go for it.
1185714
if the guy is shy and dsnt make a move...then......YOU SHOULD MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!! trust me! i did!! and i never regret any of it...well, his glad i did the first move too.(this is the 21st century,its the century where girls make the first move instead of guys)You deff should make the first move...\n\nIf a guy likes you, \n-he will read your sms over n over again\n-he calls just to say 'hey'\n-he calls just to say where he is and where r u.and how r u? hows ure day? etc etc....\n-pretend 2 go sick,(2 see if he really cares)n if he do...tht means he cares for u :)\n-when ure talking to him face to face,compliment him like 'i like your hair'...then see if he blushes! (if he does...scorre!!)\n-if you see a bunch of hot girls walking your way...purposely walk slightly 1cm behind him...n when you guys pass those hot girls,take a peek at his eyes..to see if his looking at those hot girls..if he didnt...then all he care is YOU.\n-surprise him with gifts..(doenst have to b expensive) n see if he blushes and smile...\n-if u want to know if a guy likes you....whenever u guys r going out...even tho to a nearby store..he will dress smartly...dress to impress...\n-Last but not least...if u want to know if a guy likes you, his tone of voice is different with you than to his homies..his laughter is different whenever his with you...
642691
Well the advice I would give you is to take the intuitive and ask him out. Nowadays a woman doesn't have to sit around and wait for a guy to make the first move. Go after what you want and you may be pleasantly surprised. Good Luck and Blessings.
604330
I would suggest that you go out with someone who invited you out...meaning he's the one that is much interested to get to know u! even if you wanted to go out with this guy that you are crushing( as a girl i can say that)...it's actually advisable to go for someone who's more interested in us that us to them.  Maybe it's a blessing in disguise, just when you are thinking of asking a guy out this guy asked you for a date, maybe it's one way of saving you from the possible heartache that you might experience once you will be rejected!  it's really difficult when we do the first move because we might get hurt....or if you will succeed the first time, that's not even a guarantee that there will be 2nd or 3rd now, will you be happy asking a guy out forever!  Just date this guy who invited you out...try to get to know him...who knows you might end up liking him in the end!
235846
In this case you are lucky because you had a chance to see for yourself what kind of man he is.  Based on what you witnessed I personally would not ask him out, instead I would get close to him, be his friend and then hopefully he will get the message that you like him.  Sometimes guys do not like girls that make the first move.  So, it is in your hands, you decide.  I do agree with the first person that answered you should ask very discreetly why their union did not last.
958508
why dont you make the first move for him
964117
It's not wrong, if you like a guy, then go for it. I don't know what this guy's problem is, but just forget about him. You didn't scare him away by asking him out. I would never have the courage to ask a guy out. IF he was weirded out, then he's not good enough for you. If probably just wasn't interested, you can still keep an eye out for him, but don't get your hopes up. I would keep my eye out for someone else to ask out too (if I had the courage). I think it's good that you're not waiting for someone else to start your life. Go for it!
611072
just ask him out theres nothing wrong with asking him out..
483688
I don't think theres anything wrong with wanting a girl to make the first move. As a matter of fact I prefer it that way myself! It makes me feel as if the girl really wants me. But you gotta realize that the girls are just as nervous about it as you are. You'll find that as you get older and the more girls you go out with it gets easier and easier to ask them out. And take my advice bud, now is as good a time as any to start asking them. It is true that you may get rejected a few times, but you gotta learn to pick yourself up and move on. Even rejection gets easier over time! Its all a part of our crazy,wonderful life. Now if you find yourself liking a girl, and you think she likes you just jump right in and ask her out. You may be pleasantly surprised when she says yes-and thats a great ego booster! But even if she says no, its not a biggie-theres lots and lots of girls out there.So get to it buddy!!!
880447
Sometimes girls need to make the first move. Not all guys have high confidence levels. Just ask him if he would like to go out for drinks or dinner. If he says no there is your answer.
295784
The question is do you like him? Most guys dont make the first move because there are 'professional flirters' who wants to get guys attention and then decline them. If you do or arent those, its a good chance that he likes you and doesnt know what to do ;p hope it helps
1000873
Don't be afraid to make the first move.  Some guys are more nervous than you are.  Great if he says yes, and if he says no, who cares he's not good enough for you if he can't realize a good thing when it's staring him smack in the face asking him out.  I did, and now I'm married to a great guy. Good luck.
41801
The guy should make the first move.  That way, the girl knows that he is confident enough to go for it, and the guy doesn't have to sit around waiting for her to make a move.  Any confident guy will make a move on a girl he likes.
410130
ask him..many men would prefer for the woman to make the first move.
75955
Personally, I would rather let the guy make the first move. But, sometimes guys need help in doing this especially if he is a super shy one. One thing that you can do is give hints to him that you like him.\n\nIf he truly likes you, he probably have sent you some birthday gifts, valentine cards, or something.\nRespond to his tiny move by telling him that you appreciates his gestures.\n\nmake it the LAST effort for you to actually make the first move.\npersonally, i would not think a girl is desperate when she makes the first move (actually, i think it's pretty cool).\nBUT, I am just one guy. I CANNOT SAY THAT YOUR GUY WOULD THINK THE SAME LIKE I DO.
212310
Don't worry if he doesn't make the first move.  He probably wants to but is just shy.  If you make the first move he'll really like it and it will reassure him.  Then he'll act more naturally.
936552
Go up to HIM and start flirting. If he's making eye contact, it may not be a bad idea to make the first move!\n\nGuys don't always move at the speed we want them to move.