my wife has no interest sex ,has no sex drive at all.?
965416
try asking her if she was being put off by something you did.. or try to arouse her interest by touching her sensual parts lightly.. or try not asking her for some time. Show more care for her even when you don't intend to have sex.. sometimes, she just feels uncared for and thus has no interest in sex \n\nTry having a romantic time out or staying home to build up sexual interest.. \n\nyou could also offer to accompany her for a doctor's appointment to show that you really care for her well-being than to just be interested in sex.
84204
This is a good question.  My husband would love to know the same thing.  Currently my sex drive is low because of menapause.  I'm going through it very early.  Usually a bottle of wine and somd actual romance will help.  You do know what I mean when I say romance.  Dinner without the kids, rose pettels on the bed,going out on a date with eachother, slow dancing in the livingroom.  These little things open opportunity for flirting.  Thus increasing the want for sex.  b4 menopause I worked sooo much.  My joib made us do a mandatory 15 hrs overtime per week and it took me 2 hours each way to get there.  Then once home still had to check homework cook dinner make sure the house was in order.  I was constantly going and you have the nerve to want what?  Switch roles for a day. see how you feel..  or. start helping around the house if that is the ccase.  but remember  flirting.
367759
This is common for long term marriages. After 14 years of being together things get routine. Try to heat things up a little, place Hersey kisses on the bed with rose petals or give her a lap dance. Try to remember what it was that she like about you sexually and being that out again. There could also be medical reasons for the lack of interest in sex. The best thing is to have your daughter spend the night at a friends house, you fix your wife a candle light dinner. Be very honest and tell her in an adult manner without argument about your concerns for your sexual health. Be very understanding and supportive with her and listen to her.
384904
My wife is not dominant, but she uses toys on me. Want details?
936117
talk to your wife about spicing up your love life.\nyou never know, she might be just as lonely as you are, but before that maybe you should try to find out and understand why she's so against sex.\ngood luck!!
1180975
If your sex drive is higher than that of your wife.. perhaps you should seek out marital counseling or sex counseling.  There may be reasons behind the differing drives.\n\nIf she is not "freaky" enough for you, that could also be addressed in counseling.\n\nHowever, I don't believe you have earned the right to get some on the side... that comes with work.  Paperwork.  *divorce*\n\nI'm very sorry that you have gotten to the point in your life that you would ruin someone else's just to get off.  That is one of the most selfish things I have heard in quite some time.\n\nIf you don't believe it would hurt her, start a thread on people's opinions on those who cheat.. you'll get even more angry responses than you did in this one.\n\nIf you honestly cannot get enough sex, masturbate.
859786
alot of women lose interest in sex, it's completely normal, and there are prescriptions for that. a friend of mine uses a cream her doctor gave her, and she swears that she is always interested in sex since using the meds. maybe you could suggest other things though, like toys and such. \n\nbest thing is to try to arouse her without being obvious. when sitting on the couch together, start by rubbing her feet, then her calves non-chalantly working up to her inner thighs, and then just stop so she doesn't automatically think that's what's on your mind. massaging the inner thighs usually does the trick
830287
I wish my hubby had a higher libido...after having five kids and being married for several years our love life has gotten boring and his sex drive has gone down. We are always paying attention to the kids and dealing with other things to even begin thinking about intimacy. \n\nI would love it if I actually had to worry about tuning myself up to meet his needs! It would make me feel more desirable...
666085
First off if you love your wife then why would you leave her?  A marriage is built on trust and understanding, not ignorance and dropping out when the times are rough.\nAre there physical reasons for your wife's inactivity in the bedroom?  Perhaps she should see an OBGYN about it.  Is it your jobs? Find a way to spend more time together.\n\nI guess I'm saying take a few steps back and look at the situation from every aspect, with your wife.  If it's only low libido then try somethings to spice up your love life, massage, games, strip tease, make out in the back seat of the car, sex toys, etc.  Find what gets both of you hot and bothered and use it.  Instead of masturbating, masturbate each other.
1102306
First and foremost, have you both been tested for sexually transmitted diseases?  Especially concerning her previous behavior.  That is not exactly monogamous sex.  How does she know you want her to act more adventurous if you do not tell her.  Was lack of communication part of the reason for your separation?  I suggest marriage counseling as well.
529202
Sorry but you cant increase her sex drive.   What you can do is, encourage her to want you more often.   Heres a few suggestions.\n1) Set the mood.  Maybe cook her a meal, light some candles etc\n2) Give her a sensual massage (massage everything)\n3) Let her know how beautiful you think she is.\n4) Be sensitive to her needs, as well as your own. \n5) Surprize her.   May a picnic, a movie,etc.   Just something you know she will love, and you wouldnt normally do.\n\nI hope these help.   Good luck
546697
haha.. if there is, i'd like to know too.  my wife has lost 300% of her arousal :(
583909
You like her more than she likes you.\n\nTry and find someone else.  It isn't just the lack of sex, it sounds like she doesn't even really enjoy your company too much.  Life is too short to put up with that.  Find someone who will really love and appreciate you.
555755
Stop pressuring her and make her feel loved and safe.  Try some foreplay.  \n\nMost antidepressants decrease the sex drive so there isn't much more you can do.  See if she can switch to one that has low sexual side effects.
1115836
well you can try to mix it up alittle. try role playing or throwing some toys into the mix that usually makes it interesting. if you are seeing her lose intrest as well you could change your outlook on see how many times you could get her off or even tease her till she gets crazy. diffrent things you can do go to some websites and look up fun weekends or games to play will add alittle spark here and there to peak your intrest and im sure your wife will greatly appreciate it as well.
2483
Are things or situations putting a lot of stress on your wife? Have you and your wife had any kids yet? Have you gained weight yourself? What things have happened in your lives such as eating habits and changes in lifestyle that might have encouraged this weight gain? \nFor one don't divorce her. Two, hopefully you married her on a higher level beyond her looks even though that also was an attraction you had towards her. Also for her to ask you she is already aware of the fact that she has gained this weight and would probably would like to hear such things like, "We can do it together, take it one step at a time,etc..." Do things with her like eating healthy, and exercising, so she knows she has your support in it. Also, try different sexual positions, be more exotic and make love to her because she wants it not just because you want it. Sex can also be a very exciting and fun way to lose weight. If all this doesn't work and you still don't find her sexually attractive then this is beyond her weight and I would advice you get help.
438364
Turn your girlfriendon. I don't believe in women with low sex drive, I only beleive in good and bad lovers. No offense meant, but maybe you still haven't got a clue what makes her hot. There's nothing but practise, man. In the meanwhile, take matters in your own hands.