Why was the truth hidden from me? I have been married to my wife for two years now. Yesterday I got into a?
970957
Perhaps she is ashamed of her mothers illness, and thought you may think differently of her if you knew. Try not to be to hard on her, I am sure it was not an easy thing to do keeping this a secret. She probably thought she was doing the right thing. She may even be in some state of denial of her mothers illness. Good luck and God bless. And do not keep beating up on yourself, you did not know. The two of you need to have a talk, and explain to her that you want her to be honest no matter what it is.*
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I think you're blowing this way out of proportion. UNLESS he murder, tortured or deal drugs to kids or worse then I don't see how bad a thing he could have kept from you that would warrant a background check. I my wife were to do that I'd dump her and try my hardest to get custody of our son.\n\nI would have helped giving you an answer if we knew what it was that he lied about.  For a few years I lied to my wife about a girl I had dated when I was secure enough with our relationship I told her. She was a little takeb aback but quickly got over it. I claimed to have dated a really pretty girl she new in passing but in reality we were just friends. You my wife is very beautiful and I don't consider myself handsome at all. So I was insecure with regards to her physical attraction to me. So I lied to make myself look better. It was silly and stupid but I did want I thought was right back then. This was 14 years ago and we are now married with a beautiful 7 year boy.\n\nTry and get some perspective on the lies and see if they're worth getting worked up over and maybe putting your marriage at risk.\n\nGood luck to you.
212373
I thank you for the quick reply, but you did read it cafefully, I never ever cheated on her! I lyed and stole from her, she says she still loves me and I'm truely hate myself for what i've done to her and our marriage. I love with so much love I would do anything to save this. But i'm here doin this myself lookin for alittle help. thank you!
656181
good on you for telling her off.\nThey are probably continuing more discreetly.\nFace it, they both lied to you until you found them out.
1005682
lying is bad... it makes your conscience go away after awhile... I'm lying about an affair!! that is like a double no-no I know but it somehow just ...well..happened... ok that's a lie... it happened because I wanted it to as well as the other person. i did at one time feel guilty and bad about it now ( 9 months into it) i don't at all!!! it's ok to lie to a little kid...when they will not understand the truth...no honey your hermit crab is just a sleep.....oops! other than that I do not lie /.........................i have no reason to
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my husband asked me that. i just expected him to say something snide or that I was doing something silly. and answering is like sharing a little part of yourself. i did show him my answer and now he is answering questions. he saw i wasn't being sneaky after all. In fact i was telling someone what it was like for me to fall in love with my husband. It actually made him a happy man.
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I would be very worried if I was you.  Something in your relationship has changed whether you know it or not.  A husband should be willing to share all he has equally with his wife.  You might need to consult a lawyer to find out how to protect yourself and get what you were promised.
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Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
806251
Obviously there were some serious problems in your marriage.  Seeing as how she's now your ex-wife, you're asking this question a little late, and asking if of the wrong people.  You should've asked her.  If you have a good relationship with her, you might try to get it out of her one day, maybe she'll tell you what happened with her in your relationship.  If I were to bet on it, I'd bet you took her for granted, you stopped courting her.  She felt like you didn't care about her anymore, so she went out and found someone who does.  I'm not condoning her actions, because I firmly believe that marriage is a lifelong committment, and you fix the problems in the marriage, and divorce really isn't an option.  But obviously you weren't giving her what she needed in your relationship.  Sorry......You probably need to just move on with your life.
427679
Is there good reason not to trust your wife?  Or are past relationships clouding your vision?  If you have good reason, confront her, it's never good to just let things lie.  Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't respect you enough to tell you the truth.  However, if you're just being insecure for whatever reason, with nothing to back those feelings up, maybe you need to look inside yourself.
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Well Zain boy, it seems you have married to hide your sexual reality. You probably done that to go with the flow of your society. \n\nIn my opinion, you have chosen to conceal your needs not to be outed. Therefore you should honor your commitment. \n\nThink about your wife and kids. What fault is it of theirs that you should cheat on them simply to satisfy your desire? How would you feel if your wife cheated on you?\n\nBe a man and honor your marriage and family.
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It is possible, yes. I doubt that he will say anything about it even if he does suspect that you are not. Did you not notice anything when you lost yours? Why would you not tell him? You should not start your marriage on a lie. Marrige is hards enough on its own, much less when you built it upon sand. Tell him. Build you marrige on a rock.
591291
That is a hard question. I myself had the same problem so instead of showing or telling that person how i truly felt i started dating someone else to show him(to mainly show myself) that i could live with out him. Well it backed fired on me. The truth is he had feelings about me too and was to scared to tell me. To make a long story short we don't talk anymore cuz i screwed that up and now he is married and could have been me that he is married too. Do what your heart tells you. Don't do whatever body else tells you to.
263500
You could have tried, but he may not have believed you.  Infidelity by a loved one usually is something that many people need to see for their own eyes to believe.  Especially, if the marriage seems fine to them on the outside.
306402
You perpetrated the ultimate betrayal!  You betrayed your wife with her own sister.  You not only have destroyed your marriage, you have destroyed the relationship of two sisters.  And, chances are, the news will become known to the family and you will have devastated them as well.\n\nYou need to confess to your wife immediately.  Let her move on to someone who deserves her.  She will never be able to trust you again.  You can have the sister...I think you deserve each other..after all, she betrayed her own sister.\n\nYou know it is only a matter of time before you are discovered so it is best to come clean.
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That I loved my ex.  I was young and got pregnant....I didn't love him, but I was scared and allowed myself to be pushed into *gulp*......\n\n.....marriage...by my mom and my ex himself.  If I had have been honest in the first place, we all would have been happier in the end, because (obviously) we got a divorce after a year of marriage.\nThe marriage ended in anger, which we've thankfully moved past, but I always kick myself when I remember what I did. He deserved better than that, and so did I.\nAt least we got a wonderful daughter out of it. The thing about lies is that they only get worse as time goes on. No matter how well you've convinced yourself....
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If your wife left you already, what are you waiting for? Don't miss out on what could be for what isn't. You don't have to tell your wife nothing about this lady you're interested in. You stated she left you. You can file divorce probably without grounds since you've been separated already. If you must tell your wife anything at this point in time, it could just simply be, we need to move on. Don't let life pass you by on this one.