Is seven year itch really lead to separation in married couple?
970814
Only among couples with low morals, selfish intentions, and lack of self discipline and character.  For people of high character and elevated morality, the seventh anniversary is a time to celebrate a milestone in marriage.  Having been married 26 years I know what I'm talking about here.
1022791
it generally is..."attraction" but everyone has a different thing that attracts them to each other. When you marry the attraction is said to only last for 3 years then it fades. leaving a togetherness that should last
316878
Well I can tell ya this it don"t come easy. Married for 14 yrs w/ 2 kids. Ours is whenever we can get separated from the kids for a period of time, and even then Im usual to tired when he wants it or when I seem to want it the kids are around. But to answer your ?, I would have to say 3-4 times amonth, depending on situations. PHB
72571
if you truly love your wife/husband, you wil undoubtedly want to keep them.  if you don;t know then you don;t love.  counseling won;t work.  seperation might give u a chance to fall in love with this person again.  if you're not game for that, divorce them.  it's unfair to both of you to stay married if there is no love.
513636
Actually, I think the amount of time that passed is NOT important, however, did you change? Did she change? Why did you split up 7 years ago? Consider these answers before leaping again, and make sure you both know what you are expecting from the other.
1075336
its very hard for us married couples that away for years but due to financial unstability we ned to choose to be apart to sustain the neds of family. at first we cant surpass the pain that apart for years but as time and months goes by we can handle and manage that feeling that occurs especially when ur alone and no one ned to tak too esp. if u want ur huby to be with u.. but im thankful of this modern technology cos i can see him now on cam and the feeling of emptiness lessen a lot but not im saying that it totally lessen but atleast it help much coz unlike cellphones or landlines doesnt give enough. but only more on wasting money not seeing his entire face or wat he doing there talking to u. but in terms of love there must be no communication gap so that no doubts at all coz long distance love affair is very hard.. esp. if ur already married and finaly we can surpass this loneliness with the help of our dear Lord to tighten the  bond of marriage and to resist temptation....
918770
Do yourself a favor and stop the relationship immediately. If he hasn't changed his ways in the last 7 years, he isn't going to start now.  You cannot change people, they have to want to be different, and they have to want to make things better for themselves.  What is it about him that makes you want to stay with him?  And be HONEST with yourself.  Is it merely because you've been with him so long it's comfortable?  I hate to be this blunt, but you need to break this one off or you will just be very unhappy as a married woman, and I can almost guarantee you will end up a divorce statistic.
308125
Definately NOT, exspecially if you have children. If you no longer love each other you will only end up more miserable in the end, by staying together.  If you have tried all the avenues such as counciling, talking... and nothing has worked.  \n\nDepending on how long you have been married, if you have children, it can really take it's toll on them without you even knowing it!  They see and understand more than we know, and if you are miserable...they are!  \n\nTake time to explain to them. And if it is mutual, you both talk to them. Let them know it isn't their fault, and bear the responsibility. Never accuse one or the other in front of them. \n\nThe one thing I have learned about love, is comfort, and if you are no longer comfortable in your relationship, it isn't worth the time to waste.  \n\nIt's hard to tell anyone to end a relationship, but life goes on...a little hard at first, but it gets easier and can be better! Good Luck.
1159061
Yes, I was married to a man who was wonderful, but there is a downside to it. In order to stay in love the intimacy needs to be there. We later divorced and remained good friends, which was what we were in the first place. I have since remarried and I am glad because I missed being intimate with someone. Good luck.
888016
Yes, my wife and I have experienced the same thing. Before the kids everything was great and after she lost all interest. 6 years later we are still not 100% back on track but things are better. Here are a few ideas that may help you:\n\n1. accept with busier lives that you won't be back to 100%. With kids and their needs your opportunities for intimacy and times of the day to engage are diminished greatly. Accepting is the first part.\n\n2. you have to communicate your needs to each other. If you feel overwhelmed and distracted at home then he needs to help out more and not just on the days/nights he "wants some" or you will just feel used and unappreciated. Together you will have to work out a new, mutually agreeable routine. \n\n3. communicate what really excites you both. Find out about each others fetishes, real turn ons and fantasies if you haven't done so already. Be open to new ideas that might intrigue you and spark some interest again - be willing to slowly step out of your comfort zone and try new things. Make it fun with no expectations attached. Experimentation is often very pleasureable but not always!\n\n4. Devote some time where regardless of what is going on you have time for just the two of you. Maybe it's every Wednesday night after the kids go to bed. You leave the dishes and just do nothing but spend time together - reconnect so to speak. Too often after the kids come along the couple becomes "good friends" and lose that closeness / intimacy they felt when no one else was around. \n\n5. Don't feel guilty if you have lots around the house/work to do and you feel in the mood. Go after it, seize the moment and enjoy yourselves. You can always catch up on the other stuff but it is harder to mend a broken/struggling relationship.\n\nIf you really want it (pardon the pun) you have to communicate, be understanding of how you both feel and truly work hard to come to a solution. Your libido level and his will not change so you have to figure out a plan that will work for you.\n\nGood luck!
310016
You've obviously dedicated yourself to your spouse if you've been married for 35 years, so congrats on a very successful marraige. It's a perfectly normal part of human nature to reflect on what could have been. It sounds like you left a small part of yourself with this other person. There is no shame in remembering happy times with another person, but if it gets to the point of obsession then you should think about speaking with someone in the mental health field. If you aren't that far gone just enjoy your fond memories, while focusing on the good memories you have with your spouse.
578158
yeah sometimes they do, but that relationship often doesnt work out either. i see your dr phil nickname,, i watched a program of his a couple years or so ago where they stayed in touch with people where they met when one or both were married, had an affair, and then eventually left those marriages and moved in together or got married. the divorce rate of those new couples was HIGHER than the country avg of about 50%. it turns out that the trust issues transferred into the new marriage because they both already knew how deceitful they could be and started wondering if the same would happen to THEM now. it usually spells disaster. if the married person is unhappy they should leave the relationship and be on their own for awhile before starting something new. instead of stringing everyone along.
480801
Eight years is a long time to let go of. maybe she just needs some space. Try separating for a while. It seems that you both still have feelings for one another. Seems like she feels lost. I know, I'm going thru the same thing with my husband. I feel like I've lost myself. I'm not the same person I was when we first met. Give her some time. I'm sure she'll re-evaluate your relationship.
844001
I guess it would depend on the circumstances of the divorce. Mine was due to lying, adultery, and mental illness (all on his part). After 12 1/2 yrs. of marriage and 2 1/2 yrs. of being apart it's getting harder and harder to remember the good times. I know they existed but the details are fuzzy now. I remember the hurtful times more - mostly because those are what you dwell on the most immediately after your spouse leaves. Emotions are usually high then and often negative. That is what sticks with you.\n\nAfter 27 yrs. of marriage I think it would be difficult to forget everything - especially if there were lots of good times (special vacation spots, things you both enjoyed doing together on a regular basis, events with the kids, etc.). It's a bit harder to go about rebuilding a new life after that kind of time together. You were probably so familiar to each other as the air you breathed at that point. I would have loved to get to that point in my marriage.\n\nPeople say after that long you take each other for granted, that things are 'boring'. That kind of being taken for granted and familiarity (also referred to as boring) has it's plus side. It has the opportunity to be a deeper, more satisfying, lasting love than what you can get from an affair or new relationship. Even while your brain is producing those wonderful chemical reactions to give you that 'in love' feeling it's hard to compare to 27 yrs. of someone being by your side. Even the stalest relationships can have new life breathed into them with a little effort and regular 'tune-ups'. Unless there was abuse I just couldn't imagine walking away from someone after that long. If it wasn't an amicable parting I feel very sorry for you both.
63148
a lot of couples have this problem and it can be caused from a variety of reasons from medical to physiological/phycological. Some folks just grow weary of the same thing over and over again and become bored with it. Each individual case would have to be looked at for its own merits. A blanket answer is not going to help you with your question or anyone else on this site.Problems like this can be helped with professional counseling if both people are willing to go.
321845
This is a difficult situation. In psychology, there is a term called: distancing yourself. It is a gradual process whereby you see less and less of them, without cutting it off immediately. It gives the other person time to adjust to the separation. Eventually they will ask (maybe not) why, then you can explain that you have grown apart, and it will be much easier for both people. I wish you the best.
20999
Yes.  Mine for one.\nThe 'infatuation' stage of love lasts no more than a year.  After that, marriage is a full-time job for both partners.  It can, and is, done a lot of the time.  You just do not hear about the successes, just as you rarely hear 'good news' on the network news reports.