how did you discover for the first time that you are not straight?
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Growing up I had occasional crush's on certain girls but I thought that was normal. After being married for 17 years a lesbian couple moved in next door to us, my kids met them and told me I just had to meet this certain one. From the moment our eyes met I new we were meant to be together. We've been together now for 14 years and the love and chemistry and the feeling that she is my soul mate has never weakend....so now looking back, I had crush's and thoughts of women even when I was married....it just took my soul mate to bring me home...
1045749
Uh...yeah....\n\nIt's totally normal to be confused. You could be having gay thoughts but end up being totally straight. Or vice versa
511923
OK, all these people who say you are going through a phase, that's just them trying to "save" you. Every gay person I've ever talked to believes that people are born gay, which means you could probably tell at your age. Also, I've heard of people knowing that they were attracted to people of the same sex when they were even younger then you. People are coming out younger and younger now, this is due to growing acceptance, if you come from a place that does not accept gays, then i am guessing you are pretty sure. I probably don't need to tell you all this. Back to you question, do you know any other gay people? They can give you advice and understanding, also don't underestimate your close friends, and i hate to say it but you might find girls are more accepting then guys.
608048
Although I wasn't aware of sexuality at all when I was in kintergarden I had dreams of being in love with my best friend, Mark Serdinack.  I didn't realize it was homosexual until around 12 when mom sat me down for "the talk"\n\nI then realized I had not only been having gay feelings, but had done some gay things as well.  <mutual masturbation, oral>  I vowed to remain celibate until marriage, however I only made it until I graduated from high school.  \n\nI dated girls and made out with them while in high school, but wouldn't go past groping while fully clothed.\n\nAfter high school, I lost my "virginity" to a girl, but felt it was really wrong...  on many levels.\n\nI experimented with a few guys, but was overwhelmed by guilt.\n\nI didn't really ACCEPT my sexual orientation until age 21.  That's when I realized that I couldn't change it and that God wasn't going to help any.\n\nI was resentful that people told me that if I did everything right, I would change.  It made me think that if the change wasn't happening, it was something I wasn't doing right.  So I tried harder.  I prayed harder.  I went to Bible college, intending to be a minister...  because I thought that if i dedicated my entire life to God, THEN he would change me into a straight person.\n\nIt never happened.  Perhaps I should have worked even harder at it...  given it a bit more time, but I think 10 years of that eternal damnation was enough for one lifetime.\n\nIf a person lives to be a hundred, 10 years is ten percent...  and thats all god requires.\n\nAt age 21 I freed myself of all of it.  By age 24 I was with the boybriend I'm about to celebrate my 16th anniversary with.  My life became MUCH better after I accepted it and lived my life instead of pretending to be something I wasn't hoping that if I pretended good enough I would magically change.
919627
its more complicated than these people no offense are making it out to be because when you start realizing it you have conflicting emotions for years at least in most peoples lives you have seen tons of images of only heterosexual couples so you are confused as to what to do and how to take it unfortunately some people as a mixture of being confused and their parents not knowing or understanding their positions comit suicide which is just a tragedy In my case it took some time for me to realize that i was gay and luckily didn't take too long for me to accept it and its just who i am I don't feel as comfortable being in a relationship witha  woman as i do with a man and am not sexually attracted to women like i am to men
767482
Straight men do this, especially when they are young.  However, if it develops into a habit, then I would say they are not straight and probably at least bisexual.
1187294
I once approached a young lady unaware of her alternative sexual preference. When she told me she was gay, I told her that the club I wanted to take her to had a "Bring a Lezzy to The Dance Floor" night. She laughed, we went out, and had a great time.
1150388
i thought i was bisexual. i got with another woman when i was 15 and again when i was 20. i realized i like men and not women.
349593
Many people who feel attracted to members of their own sex have a so-called coming out at some point in their lives. Generally, coming out is described in two phases. The first phase is the phase of "knowing oneself," and the realization or decision emerges that one is open to same-sex love. This is often described as an internal coming out. The second phase involves one's decision to come out to others, e.g. family, friends, and/or colleagues. This occurs with many people as early as age 11, but others do not clarify their sexual orientation until age 40 or older. Most have their coming out during school age, so sometime during the time of puberty. At this age, they may not trust or ask for help from others, especially when their orientation is not accepted in society. Sometimes their own parents are not even informed.This is a personal choice,and really the truth will set you free. Try to have some support before you tell them.I hope the links below will help you and maybe give you more information.Good luck to you,and be not afarid, this too shall pass,and remember you are not alone.
438264
if you think about physical contact with the same sex like kissing and your loins start tingling, then you're probably gay. if you get a bit of a gag reflex going, your probably straight!
877787
you are likely bisexual or at least bi curious
1016243
the question is... are you gay? becoz if you are, you're up to it. and if you're not, then you're straight. it's either you go that way or this way
1057374
I used to be bi, but then I realized I liked women so much more and being with guys just wasn't for me. Sometimes I still feel like I'm only 80% lesbian, though, lol.
981668
I didn't know I was gay but knew that I was different when I was as young as 6 years old.I just seemed to develop differently then the boys around me.While I did like some sports and some "boy" stuff, I also liked hanging around with the girls and doing girl stuff.As I got older I knew that I was definitely different because I had strong attractions to men and none to women.I think I was around 13 when I realized that the reason I was so different was because I was gay.But even then I thought it was something I could "fix" and even tried to "fix" it.By the time I was 16 and still could not "fix" my sexuality, I accepted who I was.Even though it meant a life of hardships and family disappointments, I came to accept who I was.It is to bad so many of my family members, including my own mother, could not accept who I was and went as far as disowning me and never having anything to do with me.
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Yes I had a guy friend that always kicked it with the girls we all figured he was gay little did we know he was just around to get all the gossip we would talk about and later tell all the guys we found out he wasn't gay when he asked one of the girls out than we figured he was Bi than is when we found out about everything! We all kicked his butt but later forgave him.
1058369
wtf? are you a man or woman?  straight or gay?  i need details
368730
Do you attracted to people of the same sex?  If so, you are probably gay.