I have a younger brother who is very disrespectful. He's 22. He never finished hs. He got into drugs..?
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i agree...has to do it for himself...but a great way to start any new relationship is doing things together - so start with the family therapy, build trust and confidence. and share things together.\nthere are so many little jobs that need to be done at my humble abode...i think i am gonna stop spending so much time on the comp and start working out and redecorating the old home again...kinda boring doing that alone tho..maybe that's why those darn kitchen tiles are still on
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"Bottoms up!"\n\nNah, I was just kidding! You probably need to talk to him about getting into a rehab. You have to talk to him about getting back his life. Tell him that by getting into rehab doesn't mean that he is weak, but rather he is trying to acknowledge his weakness and correct it. You must help your brother as you are the only one who can do this. No one can else can help him except you. But he must also be wanting to help himself. No one can force a person to do something against his own will...
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I do not suffer from Bi-polar, however, I have worked in Mental health for 12 years.  I am assuming your friends brother has access to mental health services ie: a CPN (Community Psychiatric Nurse) for example.  Depending on which service works with him ie: early intervention (if it is his first episode, home treatment etc you should be able to to speak with the named person who is working with him.\n\nIf he is on medication, he must have a Consultant Psychiatrist as they are the only one who can issue the medication and decide on the best form of treatment.\n\nMarijuana can bring about drug induced pshychosis, am not sure if this is the case with your brothers friend but, you need to try and speak with him about cutting down on it's use.  Most people within mental health services tend to use drugs as an 'alternative' to western medicine.\n\nDon't know where you live but there are many support groups/agencies available to also speak with.  try looking at Rethink, Mind, Mencap and Nimhe websites.  Sorry don't have full web address at present.  type them in and you should get details.\n\nMost importantly though, support both your friend and brother.  A lot of people, especially the young tend to get isolated once they enter mental health services.  Once you have an understanding of mental ill health it will be easier for you to offer this support.\n\nGood Luck!
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Let me ask you this, are you going to local college? Can you get a dorm? Alot of schools have programs w/ $$ assistance where you can get a dorm room too. I would def. look into removing yourself from the sittuation b/c then you could be better able to help them clean up their lives. If they are supporting you $$ you may need to gather up some family and friends and do some type of intervention. Know that thay will resent you for a while, but I'm sure the drugs&drinking are contributing to how they treat you. There are some great family couselors out there and many progs. to which your family would benefit. Things will prob. get worse b/f they get better, but hang in there.
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How old is your brother?  He's doing what he was trained to do by your dad.  The whole trick to all of this is you remembering it, and not doing it to your kids when you begin your life.  Your mother tells you that you was sexually abused but you don't know it?  You need to get out, far away and just start fresh somewhere's and forget all this, you are in a messed up situation.  As for my brother yelling at me, yell back, what's he going to do that you can't do right back?  He's not your dad and he's not your boss is he?  Wish you a ton of luck and happiness in the future.
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I would suggest that they speak to a drug counsellor. Alternatively, you might want to speak with a drug counsellor yourself to see what they might suggest. If there are others in your family concerned about him, you might want to have a meeting with them and see what you can do.\n\nI would talk with him and say that you are prepared to help if he decides that he needs to get off the drugs.  Above all, you should speak to him honestly, openly, consistently and listening to his concerns - it sounds like you are doing this.
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Sorry, But unfortunitly, you can't help him. UNLESS of curse he wants help. I have a brother who has basically lost everything. House, Wife, Family and most of his friends. Why because he is a BIG TIME DRUNK. He wakes up by the bottle, he goes to sleep with the bottle, and he most likely will die by the bottle. He recently went to jail. YES for aocohol related stuff. He spent 3 months in jail. He couldn't smoke or drink any alcohol. Now keep in mind he was there for three months. I picked him up when he got released and took him home. His girlfriend later told me that when she got to his apartment he was DRUNK and smoking away. Good luck tho I hope he makes it.
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i must agree with Andy.when people are under the influence of drugs they are unable to properly prioritize. in his mind there is nothing that comes before the need to get high. and until he makes up his mind to do something about it there is nothing that u can do except get tough! don't be an enabler by allowing him to be in and out of your life at his convenience. since he has chosen drugs, you hafta choose your child and your sanity and leave him alone until he has gone through a program and ATLEAST 6 months of sobriety. \np.s. remember that even if he does get clean, he will ALWAYS be an addict. consider that before u allow him back into your life.
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There is no Rynos for a kind of painkiller. If you are unsure of the pills, bring them to the police but allow yourself to keep some of the pills to bring to a drugstore or a chemist. They might help you figure it out? Just how old is your brother? Why would he need pills? If you are unsure of his motives, just observe his behavior. If he looks sedated then its a opium derivated. If he acts manic then suspect a stimulant. If he acts too relaxed*not sedated* then its a depressant.
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Wow that is a rather awful situation to be in. \n\nAs a Youth worker/carer I feel so bad for you. I am constantly watching what I do, how I do it, and what I say to people. I mostly work with young people with disabilities.\n\nObviously you have  pleaded your innocence, to the police. Sadly they may not believe you. But you have a chance if your partner is known to them.\n\nSeek advice from a lawyer. As they will assist you along with the whole process. I would assume that as you have had no previous record, you may get a huge fine, and community service. But given the type of drug "you had in possession" and the Judges stance on drugs, can play a big part in the out come. So lawyer up. \n\nAs for your partner, give him the ultimatum fess up, or he is so dumped (hash, but if the drugs was really is his, and he is any sort of man, he'd fess real quick). If you stay with him, the next lot of drugs, he passes on to you, could see you in jail.\n\nAs for your studies, talk to the co-coordinator of Youth services, where your studying, and tell them straight up, what has happened, and ask them for their opinion, about your chances as a Youth worker, with a drug possession record against you.\n\nGood luck!
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I used to babysit for this couple who had six children. Four of the children were adopted, the sister decided to get rid of them one night and called DCF to take them away. The sister/couple adopted them. Anyways, the younger boy was born addicted to cocain. His mother was an avid user and the night she decided to get rid of her kids was because she needed a sitter to go out! That was 10 years ago. The boy who was born cocain addicted has been in and out of the psychiatric hospital 4 times now and is currently in there again waiting for an accute place to open up, 6 to 9 month minium. He suffers from PTSD, ADD and uncontrollable behavior. He can be the sweetest child in the world and then he snaps! He is on meds and has been since 2. He has taken adderal, lexipro, lithium, so many I forget. He has had trouble in school and at home. He recently took a knife to the school football game with intentions of stabbing his older brother. He is violent towards his siblins and his aunt. He has hurt and attacked all of them in some way. He is quite intelligent but has problems with his thought process. He is 10 years old! His psychologist does not think that he can survive in a normal setting. When he was little, I would have to sit behind him and hold his arms and legs tight because he would slam his head and body against walls and floors. As for the other kids/his siblins. Three out of the four have needed psychiartric help and were on meds too. They were not born cocain addicted as far as we know BUT they grew up with it in the home, grew up areound constant violence, seeing dad beat mom up and put her in the hospital. The oldest boy of the four had to grow up quick as did his sister. They took on the parenting role immedietly. Grew up too quick! The oldest has been in jail twice now and was also hospitalized for depression, cutting and drugs. He has been abusive towards his siblins and lies all the time. He is now 18! I ahve to tell you, this is probably not what you needed but the fact is that an addicted parent most definetly has addicted children in one way or another. Nothing good comes from drugs. I still have contact with this family, mainly the kids and it breaks my heart what they have and still are going through. Good luck with your paper! Oh and btw, every program like, dcf, i-caps and therapists have been in the home and still are. It never ends!
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YOu don't have to be mean or you will scare them AWAY and may pushed to do more. Sit down and have a talk with him. Many people turns to drugs and alcohol when they are having trouble communicating their problems with family. They hang out with peers who are doing the same thing - drugs and some commit a crime or two. This is very sad but is true to most people. When you do the conversation, be sincere and firm. Offer help. They may need somebody to listen to. A shoulder to cry on. Make yourself available for your son and be his friend. The effect of such thing is only temporary but having self-respect last forever.\n\nI personally made someone QUIT smoking weed. He had done it since 13 yrs old, now he is in his 30's (but was 27 when he stopped). The sincerity of your  voice and being true to what you said to him is the key. When you say you will be there for him, be there for him. No need to yell, scream, ground or whatever punishment is there. COMMUNICATE with him!
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the first thing you need to do is pray, and ask God to guide you and give you direction on a sound thing to do. your second good thing was asking for help from your yahoo family. Talk to your mate and remind him in order to stay clean you must stay away from people, places, and things that relate to your old drug habits. Next you should try and remind him that these were the same friend that were with him in his addiction and three years later they are still there. Have him to revisit his past mentally, than look at his present too see how far God has brought him. Lastly, stay supportive he may be at a vulnerable point in his life, try to help keep him focused and away from the bad influences. Sometimes we do not see out of the corners of our eyes that something may be approaching, that is why you walk by his side. keep your head up and your eyes open.
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Is there a rehabilitation center there. They may can help you. I can't understand why they put him in jail. It is unfair. Do they know about his birth defects and about his parents dying? What about a doctor? Surely they would know how you should handle this. It makes me so sad what you are going through. You are a strong person and he is lucky to have a sister like you. Be strong and hopefully you will find the right people that will treat your brother better.
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the one who got caught with drugs ED....something he helped my brother
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Wow..looky looky another pothead loser that feels held down by the man. I guess you never thought about the fact that alot of violent crimes are linked with drugs.......but you never would have thought about that because you probably have 1/2 a brain cell left. So go ahead and keep smoking your marijuana no one really cares about you anyways. You and Pete have fun........queers
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OK you say he is a recovering addict, How long? Dose he ask for money? How did he get clean? Please Email me with more details as I've been clean for 3 years and i think i could help. I started at 14 until i was 20. You can contact me if you have a look at my profile