If you are in a relationship and there is a child, but you are unhappy, would you stay?
960429
Most people would say dont stay because of the child, but I disagree. I love children, I think they deserve both a mother and a father in their lives and lets face it. Most men dont see their children that often when you are separated. I'm not assuming this, i'm speaking from experience. She has no job, or money, if she would leave now it would be selfish of her for not putting the childs needs before their own. If she feels very strongly about it, then i suggest she get it together so she can make it on her own, but until then, she should stay put and try and communicate with her mate to make it better. Communication is the key here.
437143
If you two arguing is upsetting the child, which it clearly is, then you should split up.\n\nThe child will be upset at first but thats cos its all she knows, as soon as she sees that you both are happier by not being together, which makes her happy, she will come around to the idea.
868241
at the risk of sounding judgemental, i'm really not sold on the idea of couples sticking together for the 'sake of the children'. we cannot give what we do not have, hence we cannot give our children happiness if we are very much unhappy with our partner. since you said you still love him, i want to assume that that is the reason you are staying in your relationship. therefore, you should use every effort to try to rebuild what you guys lost. but if you have too much pride to admit to him that you still care for him despite what he has done, you can always be friends or worst-case scenario, housemates with kids. good luck!
321882
No. The way I feel is if my spouse or signifigant other does not make me happy then chances are I am not making him happy, so best for all is to move on.
679850
You should be honest with the person your with. Why can't you leave? Due to maoney or kids? Remember the kids will adjust and if for money it's not the most important thing in the world...
415789
No.\nAny man who has an ex girlfriend who is currently pregnant and has started dating again after only 3 short months is not exactly the most dependable person.\nI would leave NOW, before you become the next girl on his "My baby's mother" list
216584
I dont think that just because you leave him that it will sacrifice your daughters happiness. You dont have to be together for him to be in her life. You're doing more harm than good for all three of you by staying in an unhappy relationship. If you truly care about him, let go and give him and yourself a chance to find someone to make you both truly happy.
651999
I had a relationship that lasted 2 1/2 years in which the guy I was seeing (and was supposed to marry) had a four year old son when I began dating him. The mother had abandoned them both a year earlier. I raised the child as my son - he even called me Mommy. His father worked two jobs for a while, so during that time, I was actually more like a single parent to his son - I did all the baths, all the homework, all the cooking, all the quality time, all the bedtime stories and all the discipline. I loved that child like he was my own, and I still love him. \n\nThe relationship went south, and I stayed because of the child for a long time. The mother eventually got custody of him (MESSED UP!), and took him halfway across the country. I didn't have a problem with him seeing his mother and knowing his mother, in fact, I WANTED him to see and know her, but I also felt that he was my son in my heart. When we had to tell him that the judge said that he had to go and live with his mother, he said, "But your my mommy, too, so that means I can still live with you!" Heartbreaking.\n\nI couldn't see him anymore, I couldn't protect him anymore, I couldn't be there for him anymore, because I had no right to legally. That was the absolute worst thing I've ever had to go through as a result of a relationship - and the relationship itself was pretty darn bad. \n\nAs a result, I won't get involved with a man that already has kids anymore. I am too scared to love a child if all the rights I have to that child are in someone else's hands. That may be irrational, but it's too much of a risk for me. Been there, done that.
990001
There is no way to say happy or unhappy.  It is both at times.  But I go t to admit convenience is a huge factor in staying with a partner.  No doubt about that.
688177
You leave. Its not fair to anyone, Its not being true to yourself and its not being faithfull to your wedding vows and you have NO business being there. Kids or not, that situation is not good for anybody and no one can be happy and its not fair to anyone.You have one life to live and you shouldnt be miserable just because you made a promise to someone. People change and things happen.
558655
Of course. To stay with someone who loves you out of a sense of obligation is not fair to the one who loves you. No matter how much they might hurt.
595664
I don't believe that for a second.  No way you can stay with someone, put up with everything for 14 years and not having feelings.  He's just made/making a choice and the easy way out for him is to convince hisself he doesn't.  He said that for 2 reasons, one to hurt you and the other he's trying to convice hisself.  He'll figure out that he was wrong later, but it will be too late, if he was to want to fix it.  Sorry about your problems.
906879
Gosh, I would be resentful too if I were in your situation.  Afterall, he is supposed to be your equal partner, not your dependent.
359537
It would probably be better to end the relationship, unless you want to deal with the headaches & heartaches that will soon follow.
24016
He can be in some emotional turmoil. If that is not a case then leave him,he is not worth you
465326
I am not happy with anyone other than you. I have learned this over the past couple months, and in some ways, I dont want to leave him because it will hurt, but I do want to be with my family. All 3 of us. I realized that.. you loved me thru and thru, just like you said. I am willing to make it work... I just hope you still are. I know that in relationships, there are good times, and there are bad times. We need to be able to work thru the bad times together... We need better communication.. and all in all, We need eachother.
616766
if you feel you will be bitter then counselling will help but if you stay then you have to completely forgive him and not bring it up everytime you have an arguement...that means that you have not truly moved on....if you feel you cant get over this then you should leave...i know that if it were me it would be very hard for me to stay. so take your time to decide.  dont live with resentment!