what do i do when my workmate is telling me something and she starts crying what do i do?
961231
If you can, just let her carry on talking and crying. Let her get it out of her system if you feel comfortable with that.\n\nThe "cheer up, stop crying" is only to be used if YOU cannot handle the situation - as those words never actually help the person who is tearful!\n\nDepends also on how well you get on and what gener you are. If a trusted friend or you are also a woman, resting a hand on her shoulder *MAY* be appropriate if you have had SOME sort of contact before. If not, then perhaps best avoided.\n\nWas there something in particular that you WANTED to do?
1108904
Unless it is extremely over the top or all the time let it go.  You are at work and you need to leave your feelings at home.  People do things intentionally all the time that step on other peoples toes.  You just have to let it slide.  Save your feelings for your personal life.  Maybe your boss was just having a bad day or you pushed one of his buttons(we all have them).  If that is the case you could just make the situation worse, and if your boss is a jerk he really won't give a flying flip that your feelings were hurt.  Remember he, or maybe she, is the boss and you will be the one to lose a conflict and are more replaceable than someone higher up on the food chain.\nOh and if you boss is a jerk start looking for another job.
769978
what kind of crying do you want her to cry? like a happy cry or the one we know the most the cry me a river? you're not a good friend if you want to see her cry out of horror. you're the one who's suppose to make her stop cryin not the one to make her cry and to tell her to forget those tears those tears aren't meant for somethin stupid i.e. a bad breakup.
727885
you should tell them you don't appreciate them disrespecting you and especially in front of people if you keep letting them do it there not going to stop. until you let them know how you feel .your just being too nice and that's OK but you have feelings too . tell them to treat you like they want to be treated ,they shouldn't threaten your job either that's not very professional .she could lose her job also  and start taking your lunch i would just do my job and go home you dont need friends like them .
603017
It is best to leave family and personal stuff out of the work environment. People at work will use that against you when you least expect it and they will use it when you are least expecting them to.\n\nWomen tend to go through up's and down every month. Give them space, it is natural. Be respectful and kind and let them know that no matter what, your here for them. \n\nWhatever they are going through will soon end and then they will think about you and what you said, and respond. Then you can open up and ask what was wrong. They will usually explain or tell all then.
401624
make sure you do it person to person and kindly tell her that you have something to tell her and she's gonna be really upset with you.and tell her people make mistakes then apoligize see how it go from there.
739322
I would arrange a "sit-down" with the supervisor to discuss your feelings and her "close supervision" of your work time.  Ask her why she has singled you out. Let her know that it is making you uncomfortable, and since other employees are aware of it, it is  coming awfully close to establishing a "hostile work environment", which is illegal, a form of sexual discrimination. Let her know that you have options (going to HR, filing a complaint with EEOC), which you don't want to utilize, but will if the situation does not change.\n\nLet her know that, beginning immediately, you will be keeping a log, recording any employment decisions, good and bad, time, date, person involved, witness, issues and reasons.
607532
You can't control another person emotions or reaction - so don't try.  The best thing you can do is be honest and tell her as soon as possible.  It's not fair to her if you already know it's not going to work.\n\nBeside, how do you know she is going to cry?  Are you that great of a catch?  You might be surprised by her reaction, she might not even blink an eye, let alone cry - ESPECIALLY not in front of you.  Women are funny that way, they will put on a really strong front in front of you, then later that night let the emotions out, either alone or with her girlfriends.\n\nStand strong, be honest but not cruel, don't try to put blame on anything other then you do not have "Love" feelings for her.\n\nGood luck.
213805
On your days off, start to quietly look for another job.\n\nhmmmm reading what you added. If you really want to make it work with her......\n\nMy boss NEVER remembers what I tell him. He isnt being a jerk, he just has so much on his mind that he forgets. I have learned to write everything I tell him on a sticky note. I stick it somewhere that he can see. On his computer, on his door...Then he is reminded that I told him. \n\nThe next thing is to talk to her. "I love working for you and I really want to do a great job for you, but I feel that we just arnt on the same page with something. (explain) How can we work out a system to where we are working together? I don't want this issue to come between us anymore."\n\nNo one can read your mind. And no one can tell whats really going on until you say something. The problem sometimes is HOW to say it. Think of how you would want someone to talk to you.
144808
You need to cry.\nLet it out.
612934
Deal with them professionally when working on projects, but do not talk to them outside work or chitchat.  Also, sometimes talking to other co-workers you trust about them helps relieve the stress, especially if they had similar experiences.  If it gets real bad that it affects work, you may want to contact your supervisor.
1025980
no, sweetheart, its not your fault. i'm not really sure what to tell you other than to eat a pint of icecream...haha. just kidding.  but communication is the key to everything. tell her that you feel like you were treated unfairly. (such as: she didn't even give you a chance) and see what she says.
474490
I'm not sure there is a right or wrong here. The company may have only budgeted for 1 new monitor (for now). I think if anything, your boss may want to talk to your about crying. Sometimes our emotions can get the best of us, but in a work enviorment, we need to be descrete. Crying can be viewed as unprofessional.
140071
Tell him or her about Anger Management or some Therapist. Cause he/she needs help really fast. And if that don't work, it maybe very tough, but honey, you may have to find another job. I hope I was helpful.
328024
WOW. That woman sounds like she needs help. However, it sounds like she's got your boss snowed. My advice is to look for a different job. That's outrageous. You might go to your supervisor directly, without her, and explain that you are in this position. Explain that if something doesn't change, you will be forced to look for a new job, if you don't stroke out first. I am so sorry you are dealing with this and I hope this is just a bit of help to you. Good luck and blessings to you.
684793
Definitely do not confide in the "friend" again.  \n\nI'd go to your boss and ask "What did you mean when you said you were concerned about the future of my employment?"\n\nI think she's bluffing.  SHE could be in trouble for talking about YOU if that is a policy.\n\nEither way, you have a right to know.    Better for you to stand up for yourself.  Don't let her try to scare you.  She sounds like she is playing games.  \n\nI'd talk to her, but also look for another job.  Why would you want to work for her???
804516
First of all you're an idiot for telling your boss.  He doesn't want to hear you whine.  You should have just cut out her tongue.