I need some advice please?!?
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you have a big heart.\nDont cry over him...just continue to be nice, stop in and chat with him occasionally and that will mean the world to him.  \nDont be mean to everyone else...just try and be happy.  Think, he will be going to THE perfect place with THE perfect person...no pain, no suffering.......if anything, be jealous- Hes Heaven bound and we're stuck here in hell on Earth.\nIt'll be ok.  Talk to your friends and family about this.  Talking to people makes it easier on you and then too, they will understand whats wrong with you.\n\nStay strong
14981
Be yourself.  It's the oldest and best advice.  She may still not like you, but that's the risk, and you keep your manliness and dignity.  Never, never forget this.
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do what you think you should do\n\ngood luck :)
112595
Oh dear Lord.  Please tell them right away.  You need sone kind of help.  I have never dealt with this and have no advise, but please get up enough courage to tell her, she can help you.
777539
if you have anyone, i mean anyone you are comfortable with-that person is the answer. a best friend or a cousin or anyone is key. if you find someone you know you can talk to(i know thats not what you wanna hear but keep reading), they can probably help a lot. i'm not sure how old you are but if you're 15 or younger your doctor would probably tell you to open up. find something you like. even if you are older its proven that if you can find someone else who enjoys doing the same thing it could help a lot. something else that would help would be to find someone younger than you. even if its just a 6 year old. they will look up to you. you don't have to worry about embarassing yourself. and also- - -theres no way to avoid feeling weird around your boyfriends family. thats just how it is. but my last bf's parents said they really enjoyed my company because i was quiet. they said it was respectful. try that. just be extra polite. (oh yeah, and don't get caught making out in the closet! hehe)
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Talk to him about it.\n\nBut if you have to ask....
301738
You want her back bro. This is man to man sh*t here. Blow her off. Seriously, just trust my advice and blow her off. Pretend you are on and better off and she will see that and realize you are intriguing to her again and she will start talking to you again. But play semi hard to get with her. Take it like you don't give a damn about nothing and if you 2 ever get together again it doesn't make a differance to you. But try to be exciting around her. Do something you normally wouldn't do. Take a chance and make sure she sees it or knows about it. You can handle it. Woman are complex creatures but once you know how to get through to them, you are golden for life. Well until they catch on to your knowledge of their ways.
1084853
Tell him straight up, just do what you gotta do.  You have the option!
589995
Find somebody worth dating. This guy is more confused than you. He seems worthless. Probably just wants to get laid, to tell you the truth, sorry I'm so blunt. I would move on and leave the guy. (If I were a girl...or whatever...haha)
480548
Maybe your mom just isnt comfortable with you dating a black guy. She could possibly have issues that go deeper than you think. You should talk to her about it. Im black and im dating a white guy. My parents love him. There is an on-going stereotype that is felt about black men. If your b/f is truely a good guy you should try to point this out to your mother. Tell her that he may be black but he's not doing what a lot of other guys like him are. That should work.
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Use your common sense!! I know you know what to do. DO THE RIGHT THING IT'S NOT THAT HARD, AND STOP LETTING YOURSELF BE PEER-PRESSURED!!!!
484951
Tell her , that you want to learn the hard way if she thinks he is so terrible! That she should leave you , and if you bump your head , you know not to do it again in another situation!
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You have to come out of your shell somewhat kid. Do it in small ways that are comfortable for you, maybe talk to him when there aren't a whole bunch of people around. I'm sure he'll think you're great!
434502
Yes, talk to him! If he likes you, cool. If not, find a new guy to talk to. :-)
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Worry about yourself first. Do what makes you happy. Hes obviously doing what makes him happy. He wants you there when he wants you.YOu are only good enough when he wants you to be. Its sad but true GUYS are DOGS.  Go out and have fun try not to worry about him. There may be some one better out there for you. Dont be afraid to give someone else a chance. Just be thankful you dont have kids by him to put them through the same thing because if he'll do it to you he'll do it to your kids. Most guys never change. My father was the same way.
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Been there and done that...not fun!  I feel for you but you have to be strong enough to GET OUT!  I had family and friends to help me out behind his back.  I planned carefully because he was smart and inquisitive, very controlling.  Get mad and smart too!  Figure out his work schedule and get it all done in a short amount of time.  Get a restraining order against him before you go so that you are somewhat protected when you leave.  Go somewhere safe where someone is with you all the time and has speed dial.  Get a plan B so that if this is not an option you have somewhere else to go.  Don't make him mad.  Above all don't let him see you are nervous.  Keep him calm and level headed until you pull it off.  Don't change your routine or compromise yourself.  Be sure to delete all "help" calls off the phone and alert the police of what you are about to do and the day and time.  You can also have the police escort you out once they know the situation if you need to do it that way.  My prayers go out with you!
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OMG- You're ME! I am the same way. I good with people, but I'm not good WITH people, if that makes sense. I know I'm sweet, nice, generous and lots of other positive things. I tend to put myself down before others get a chance to, but my self esteem is improving. I have a BF who adores me and I'm making a serious effort keep our flame going. I'd say you should go into a clothibg store and just try on several different outfits just to see how cute you can be in differnt clothes. Do your hair a different way and try to be social with people. I know it's easier said than done because I'm like a brick wall around people I dont know. It take a LOT for me to get comfy with new people, and my "open" is still not considered open to others. My BF said I need to let loose and communicate more and just be relaxed. Maybe you overthink things, like me- always wondering what everyone else thinks... just let go and stop worrying. A BF will come sooner o later, dont settle for just anyone, make sure he's worthy of you. Good luck! By the way, I am a 21 y.o. plus sized girl & I think I look great. Just dress to flatter your body type and have confidence.