Is Constant Fighting with Fiance Normal?
952995
Really your not fighting, your probably just bickering. Its like adult going pains especially if you just moved in together. My fiance and I were the same way. I even gave my ring back!!! but we went to a communication specialist (couples therapist) and learned some tricks to communicating. I know its hard and you start thinking that things won't work out, but if you are truly meant to be, you'll be OK.  We had all the same issues you mentioned.Try this, sit and talk it out, if one of you is a blabber use a 5 min timer so you don't get off track of the topic at hand. Don't allow yourselves to deviate off topic nothing gets solved that way. Each of you should list your gripes with each other and go through the list,pick a time where you can really talk( no TV, no phones).  It will take a few tries before you can get through it with out yelling. No name calling and no blameing, start sentences like "going foward  blah blah blah"Cleaning? write up all the chores that need to get done and you together, divvy them up, then once chores are committed to on paper, its a non issue. The hard thing is  understanding that you don't get everything you want anymore it's all about 50/50( which sucks sometimes, but that's life) And there is no shame in meeting with somebody once a week if that's what you guys need, its not easy, it's one of the most stressful times in  your life. In some cases your insurance will cover it under adult therapy or under the the wide range of depression (even though its not,they just bill it that way and its legit because the situation makes you sad and stressed, don't feel labeled as depressed). Best of luck to you both
363554
i don't fight with my husband, i argue! lol. And he doesn't. grrrr. He's too agreeable. it's frustrating. When i argue with him, he waits till i cool down and sits me down to talk to me about my feelings. I have never gone to bed angry since we moved in together, (almost 3 years). So i think that you should not argue and wait till you're calm, then talk like you would if you were proposing an idea to your boss. (have points ready that you want to discuss, and stick to those) but just talk about your feelings, and what the other person could do to help the situation. (and maybe what you could do too!)
693782
Yes this is normal. What you feel is just a normal reaction to hurt and frustration. The real job is staying together in spite of those feelings and toughing it out.Sounds like ya'll are on the right tract. Just always be open to listening to each other...and compromising.
419274
Well it really depends on how bad it is & how long it's been.  If the relationship is terrible with constant fighting and it has been going on for a long time, theres really no turning back other than counceling.\n\nIf the issues just started, however big or small there is still a chance to repair the relationship.  Now if it is bad, is it bad for you or your partner?  Do you benefit from eachother?  \n\nIf it's worth it to you, stick it out, only for yourself.
422284
I really hate to break this to you but its not good.  He sounds very controlling.  My recommendation is that you both go through pre-marital counceling or split up.  If he is doing this, this early on, he is sending you very strong clues as to what he will be like once the papers are signed.  Please, postpone the wedding if its set or stop the engagement.  He has to want to change.  You cant make him do so.  At the same token, you dont deserve to be belittled at all by ANY person.  That is called verbal and emotional abuse.  And, when there is abuse of any kind this early on, it tends to escalate later.  You are not his property.  He can not tell you what to do.  I know this will be so hard for you because its obvious that you still love him but you have to believe me on this one.  I was married to 2 men that did very similar things to what you just discribed.  It dam near ruined me.  \n\nPack your stuff if you are living together and leave.  Tell him you will return once he has gotten counceling and not before that.  Dont take his appologies because abusers will appologize, be good for a SHORT time, then do it all over again and each time will be worse.  I speak from experience.  And I pray for your sanity right now.  I really hope you do the right thing.  This time, listen to your head and not your heart.
991246
hi buddy .....its normal to have a bit ( or more ) conflicts wid ur sibling ( particularly when he try to sneek in  ur day to day activity ....so its just a normal body n mind reaction of letting u tell him not to interfere ...problem is how to solve ........a little more communication and faith on each other will do .....( regarding ur question abt hatting him ..think about a year widout him ...particularly good moments....u will get to know how much u love him )...........so its nice to be angry at some time but its more gud in peace ..........
514836
Well this is just how you are....you cant reallly change who you are...you can just try to be stronger.....i mean when you go through drama in your life and can get through it alone you mature and grown stronger....it might irritate your fiance but if he loves you he should be able to put up with it and respect thats who you are...but you can try to grow up a lil and know what things are worth gettin sad about and what things arent
291998
My friend, it is very normal.  You love her and she loves you.  The only reason that it doesn't get resolved before you go to bed is because neither one of you can step down off that high horse in time.  And venting every once in a while is not a bad thing.  As long as the love that you both feel for each other is still there.  If you don't have that then you don't ahve anything.
313885
Married couples fight. It happens. One thing you need to do is never go to bed angry at each other. I don't know why you had a fight and I don't want to know. You guys have to find a way to have a civil conversation without losing your tempers. I love my wife and I respect her as woman as well. I am nothing without her. I wish you luck
763125
i think that there is nothing wrong with expecting him to stop.  i suffer with the same problem.  and it IS a trust issue.  especially when they say they will stop.  i find my husband to be more aggressive in bed since the start of it.  it does effect me.   though i may not have an answer for you, i would like to give you some peace of mind that you are not alone.  and i do not think you deserve to feel the way you do.  marriage should be based on respect!  there isn't an excuse for it.  its dirty and i do not think that you are over-reacting.  so don't pay any attention to the negative feed-back telling you that you are and that you should just accept that your marriage isn't everything that you want it to be.  it can be but you BOTH have to be willing to work at it.  maybe talk to him about why he feels he needs to do it.  and meet him half way.  i hope that helps you!!  be positive.  you are deserving of so much!
1013
Something seems to be missing in your story--or your girlfriend is schizoid.  But seriously, it isn't really normal to fight every week, so possibly she is still angry about whatever it is you guys have been fighting about.  I would think about the tone you may have had when you asked her to clean, I imagine you were upset because she wasn't helping, and that may have set her off.  If you want to save your relationship talk to her like an adult to an adult and try to figure out how to resolve your problems in a positive way.  Try to avoid accusatory and patronizing statements.  You two are probably just having trouble adjusting to living together.  Good Luck
959598
You all ready know what to do, you answered your own question: "There are so many issues that need to be resolved." You both need to sit down & have a discussion about these issues. Get to the root of them in order to resolve them. Sometimes things can't be resolved & you have to live with them the way they are, because you are 2 different people & that's just a part of life. However these other issues you mentioned seem to be trivial, but why the fight? Counseling may be necessary to help you both over come obstacles in your relationship & perhaps see things from a different point of view. So before planning any more wedding things, get those issues under control first & foremost. It may take several months to get things ironed out, but in the long run you'll both be happier for doing so.
202269
As corny and very used as it may sound, communication is basic, my husband and I have been married only for 3 years but the first year was like that, fighting over everything, but, we got tired of it, sat down and talked about what triggers our outbursts and started out with little things and moved up to  bigger ones,  I don't know for how long you have been with him or how serious it is, but you need to compromise and be commited to the relationship, besides  if you do one unexpected act of kindness towards each other, the other will be willing to reciprocate and it will make him feel you care and it will make things smoother. That worked for us and now things are a lot better.
151422
I struggled with mine for years.  Will she talk to you about it?  If you can't talk to her about it face to face try writing her a polite letter.  You need to stand your ground now because if you don't it is only going to make things worse later on.\n\nIt's kinda like a bully if you let her keep pushing you she will expect to keep your first born.  But yet at the same time you don't want to upset her because she will be your family.\n\nYour fiance needs to be aware of what is going on. And you need to be together on the issue otherwise it could create more problems down the line. But don't let it affect you and your relationship. It's her problem not yours!\n\nWe no longer talk to my husband's family but I really hope you can work it out it makes life so much easier!  GOOD LUCK!
642961
no offence but he sounds like a dick! id dump him but considering you love him and you all are engaged sit down and freakin talk to him. i hate fights jus as much as you seem to.... its hard!
780747
Are you and he fighting alot? That's the interesting thing about love and marriage; First The relationship is sweet and charismatic and may stay this way for a long time. Then as time goes by you'll both have other main intrests and concerns. This is not at all strange by the way. I got married at a very young age and didn't know the guy long enough first. This may have been what happened to you also. I went back and forth to my ex for about 3 years before I finally followed through with the divorce.
546980
i am not sure but. ask him and learn the reason.\ni am in opposite situation with yours. we engaged about 5 months and she afraids. cause we met over internet...