how can u forgive ur self for the bad things that u have done in the past ?
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Every single person you see who passes you in the street has made mistakes, not one of us are exempt from making mistakes, that is because we are human beings.  We do what we do for various reasons...could be the crowd we hang around with...peer pressure.....it could be because we are hurt and want revenge...it could be for a lot of reasons.  But we all grow up, we all learn about sociably acceptable behaviour and that only comes with experience and time.  If we didnt make mistakes, we would be pretty boring people because it is only when we make mistakes do we trully learn who we are.  What has happened in the past had to happen, simply because it did, you cant go back, you cant change it, but you can certainly change the future.  You can choose not to make those kind of mistakes ever again.  Forgiveness is pretty easy if you have a logical mind.  If you can think that the mistakes you made were because of a particular situation in your life, and you did what you did because that was your frame of mind at the time, then you will be able to forgive yourself.  You are not that person any more....that was the old you.  Sometimes I look back on my past and think to myself...."that wasnt me"...and it wasnt.  I am the me I am now,  the me who made all those mistakes and it is those mistakes that has moulded me into the nice person I am today.\n\nIf you dont learn by your mistakes then you wont grow.  You know they are mistakes, so you have learnt and you will become stronger for it.  You need to put your mistakes where they belong,  they were mistakes of the past, so keep them in the past.  Your future is where the positive stuff lay.  Guilt is such a wasted emotion because the only thing it does is make you feel bad, it doesnt change anything...it cant change what has happened...so think logically about it...you cant change it, so what is the good about beating yourself up over it.  Use the energy you have with guilt and put it to more constructive use.  Move forward, do things that make you feel good about yourself, maybe go and do some voluteer work.  Start thinking good things, start doing good things and you will find out the mistakes of your past gives you the knowledge you have today.  You could use that knowledge for good.  You may be in a position where your mistakes could help some person in the future because you have been there, done that.  Use your mistakes to your advantage....learn from them.  You can do it.  We all make mistakes,  it is something we have all suffered from at some time.  The reason I know you are a decent and wonderful person is because you feel bad about your mistakes....that shows you have a conscience, therefore you cannot be a bad person because bad people dont have a conscience.  Move on...go on to achieve wonderful things and you will have your mistakes to thank for your success.
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Looks like you are holding grudge against people in your past. \n\nWhy, my friend, are you hurting yourself when these "people" may not even remember any of those incidents. You are causing pain to no one else but yourself.\nJust forget. You had no control over those incidents.
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I always forgive,I have had some very horrible things happen to me\nbut two wrongs won't make a right.
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Unfortunately you are stigmatized by your past behavior. The best you can do is to surmount your transgressions to atone. This may take the form of education, productivity, healthy relationships, hard work. Regardless of your social standing with your family and friends, you have overcome  your addiction. No one can take that away from you--except you. Don't let the opinion of others taint your realization that you are greater than your past. Live in the moment.
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Stop thinking just about what you should have done or what should have happened and accept what has happened...everything has a meaning behind it. Use experiences to learn from. Basically you just need to see what you have done and accept it and just know that there is no other way it goes or will go. The past has happened and that is the way it will be.
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Don't let your past cast shadows on your future.\n A good friend told me that once.I've no idea where he got it from but it makes sense.Your past is just that...your past.We all make mistakes,just don't let them rule your life.
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I would think to redeem oneself would be to do one's best to correct the transgressions of the past. Redemption would be the forgiveness attained for past transgressions. \nWhile we can not go into the past and prevent what we have done, we can try to correct mistakes as best we can now. Sometimes that may be as simple as an apology for mispoken comments. To be redeemed, you must acknowledge that something was done that should not have been done, and then do what you can to rectify the problem.
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Well, I don't think it has anything to do with you forgiving yourself but that is a part of the process. But the first step is to accept forgiveness from God and then let Him work on your heart. \n\nI need to practice what I preach! Viva Me!
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this is the kind of situation i always fear in the back of my mind. time heals all wounds, but just take some time off for yourself and then try and get back on the scene and go out gradually. odds are that you will still never forget about it, but you need to find something better.
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It's absolutely necessary to forgive yourself.  If you don't, you'll carry the guilt around.  So, yes, you can do it.\n\nIf you're having a hard time being able to do that, I would seek out a good pastoral or therapist referral.  Forgiveness is critically important in all aspects of life.
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We all have our indiscretions. You made a mistake, you know it, get over it.\n\nYou need to forgive yourself and move on.  It doesn't matter what others think.  What matter most is what you think of yourself. \n\nThe fact that you feel remorse makes you a good person with values who needs to move on and not make the same mistake again.
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since u have the sense to regret what u have done then \ncongrats, u r on the right path to be a good boy.
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You will have to do a lot of thinking and maybe a phsycologist could help you in some way. Just keep on thinking positive and dont let anyone put you down. Its alright, we all make mistakes. If you hurt anyone just give them some time. Everything will be alright. Just keep on going and hopefully life will be back to normal in some time.\n\nif it was something really bad forgive yourself and also ask the one you made the mistake to for forgiveness. Also ask God for forgiveness and for strength to help you at this time. ;)
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You don’t have to forget something or someone to move on.  The past is what makes us who we are.  Even the bad things in the past help us develop into the people we are.\n\nThe past can be painful.  The best thing to do is talk with someone you trust.  Discuss what it is that is bothering you, and then decide on what you are going to do to fix it.  By taking an active roll in your healing process you can “move on” sooner and feel better about it.
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believe me, forgiveness is the best way to have a clear mind and heart to be a productive member of society.  Forgive and forget.  Try it!\n\nAnd, next time think it through to it's completion before attempting it.
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I have pondered this same thing..\n\nI can forgive someone for treating me poorly, but I will never forget how I felt when that happened.. \n\nI think it has to do with a little self preservation, and more to what you want to surround yourself with, and  not wanting to put yourself in a position to face the same types of offenses.\n\nForgetting it a very hard thing to do, because you naturally associate some things together.. like a favorite song from high school that instantly makes you feel a certain way when you hear it again, or the first time you laid eyes on your first born, or the first time your heart was broken.  You retain this data (I think) because it's all a learning process that later will help you value what is and isn't important. And the emotions tied to those things are memorized with your heart.
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Try to forget the past allow yourself to be happy and to be healed before you make friends with the guys, REMEMBER you have the right to enjoy life, that is the greatest thing we can have to enjoy life it's the gift of God.