Should I let my brother-in-law stay with us during his visit?
971323
I wouldn't allow him to stay in your home. Tell him you would love to have him over  for dinner but that you're not going to be opening your home to any houseguests. Be the bigger person - don't do the finger pointing thing. You know you're right, he knows you're right. Move on from this point. If he is civil during dinner then next time he comes into town invite him to stay in your home.
1021462
i once invited my father-in-law to visit
433758
Well to be honest he should have a problem letting you go see your family with your kids it is obviosly that he doesn't spend enough time with you and your kids because of his work, put it this way talk to him and explian that you don't undertand why he is not letting you go visit your family & ask if he doesn't trust you I don't think is that becuse you can even cheat if you want in your home town you don't have to travel tell him that you would like to be trust as you trust him or do you have any problems on not trusting him because he travels, get together and have a serious talk about this besides you are traveling with your kids 7 & not alone like he does good luck & hope things get better so you can travel & see your family .....
503666
You handle him by being polite, but firm in your rules regarding your children.  But don't make it a drama on your part.  You might be surprised to find his brother a very charming individual, and you may choose to bend the bed time rules by 30 minutes or so.\n\nHowever, the tone of your question sounds more like you are using the bedtime rules to avoid doing something YOU are unsure about.  This is really wrong, but it does come in handy if you need to extract yourself from an uncomfortable situation.  So, again, don't make it a big dramatic issue.  Just start with 6-8 and then you make the call from there.\n\nRemember also, how would you feel if your favorite Aunt were coming to visit for the first time, and your husband decided HE didn't want to spend any time with her.  Family peace is mostly what you make it.
34337
i think it would be the right thing to do just in case anything was to happen. so she can know all of the family. it really depends on how he is. but you should still let her see him.
484401
Gosh my mother in law moved in with us last year and was here for 9 months 10 days. The day she moved out was awesome. I like the lady but can not live with her.. Get out and get your own place.
94150
You bet I would! Just don't expect the worst! You said "see them one last time" like you were never going to see him again. I know it's a hard thing to swallow, but what you need to do is expect the best! Keep telling yourself that he WILL be coming home safe! We're all rooting for our guys and gals over there! You're not alone, honey! Hopefully, this crap will be behind us soon.
1066032
He is expected to be close to you.  Tho it shouldnt be a contest.\nShe is his mother and should respect you for his wife.  But apparantly, she's not interested in her husbands concern, but rather her own selfishness.  Does she not have a husband?  Is he her only child/son?  \nAt any rate, I'd stay clear of her at all costs.  He's welcome to visit her.  But I dont see any reason for you to visit her.......OR she to visit your home.  I would discuss this with your mate, and than make it perfectly clear to her....UNLESS she is able to treat you with respect, she's no longer welcome in your home, and you have no desire whatsoever to go to her home....End of discussion.  Might as well resolve it now. It will only get worse once you begin to have children.....
887043
Because part of your family doesn't live nearby, Maybe you can alternate, so that one year you stay home and spend the holiday with whoever lives close by, and the next year you go to see the ones who are farther away.\n\nAnother option is to arrange a date within a week or two of Christmas when you can celebrate with the family members who don't live nearby. Maybe even host a dinner at your home and invite them. \n\nWe have run into similar problems with my family and my in-laws, even though they only live 15 minutes from us. My mother-in-law wanted us to go to church with them Christmas Eve and then come over first thing in the morning. But my parents also wanted us over early in the day. We finally had to make the decision to divide our time in the way that worked best for us. So now we go to church on our own on Christmas Eve, then go to my parents' early in the day on Christmas, and my in-laws' later in the afternoon.\n\nThere's no way to be everywhere at once, and they'll understand if you can't always be with them on Christmas Day.\n\nI know it's tough, but you'll be so much more relaxed if you space your visits apart in some way. Christmas shouldn't be spent rushing around trying to see everyone and please everyone. Take time for yourself!\n\nGood luck!
1146049
You're joking, right? You are definitely not asking too much for your man to spend the little free time you both have without the kids together. Are you set on going out or could you perhaps "ramp" him into spending time together starting with an intimate evening at home? Next time you can remind him you two stayed in for him last time so it's his turn to accommodate your wishes.
115420
Goodness.. seems like you are an in-law in an outlaw situation.\n\nThat's sad that your brother-in-law is not supporting you and your wife with helping out with your mother-in-law in her difficult times with cancer, and on top of it, he's taking advantage of your mother-in-laws good nature with taking the car then not paying her for it properly as he promised.\n\nNo, I personally would not allow my son to treat me this way, or at least I would like to think I wouldn't, but my son is quite young, and has a diagnosis that may prevent him from being gainfully employed in the future...he's smart as a whip, but he has social skill challenges... so I can't say I wouldn't bend my own words when he is older.\n\nI have a simular situation with my grandmother-in-law, she has a family member that lives with her and doesn't keep a job, and does some unacceptable things, but it is her choice alone that allows for him to be there and to take advantage of her in this manner.  Even if he ends up putting her into bankruptcy, it is her choice to support him, and I really can't say or legally do anything about it.  \n\nIf your mother-in-law accepts this behavior from her son, that is her choice, it's not right, but still her choice. She is the only one with the power to change how he treats her, not you or your wife, but I'd love to see you get a second set of keys and repo this vehicle and then see how fast he comes to see your mother-in-law !!
749311
one night you should tell him to take it easy, and you should cook like your favorite meal, and then pop the question.....make it a speech tell him "He's my homemaker, housewife and my everything when I get home from a long day of work. I manage a large portion of a company and have just recently been too sick to function. He has nursed me and been by my side the entire time, never leaving me for more than a few minutes at a time (he has to shower and go to the bathroom afterall.) We're a solid foundation together, and now that I'm feeling better (and I have a ring).. I want to do it." its very much from the heart i can tell, good luck sweety with everything and congrats on the baby!!
1165204
Don't be too serious after all this is the dinner where you are supposed to relax, but show him how much you love him. And make sure you mention his fiance, how much you love her and how you welcome her into the family. Don't make the whole thing about your son, or she will fill like you don't want her around.
244209
You need to sit your husband down and explain to him exactly how you feel.  Then you need to avoid your in-laws to salvage your mental health.  Allow your husband to visit them whenever he wants, but you stay home or go to a movie.  Seriously, my mother-in-law hated me and she broke up my marriage in the end.  It sounds like you need a vacation....
774790
Are you speaking about being wed to a close relative? If so you will have to stay in the state you are in, please.
807832
How much do you trust your husband to make the right decisions for your family??????........\nSupport your husband in whatever way he needs you to at the moment......you cant worry about how your in-laws feel about you......when they are gone, you will still have your husband and he will appreciate you standing by him....regardless of what happens....\nI fought a similar battle w/in-laws once upon a time...I wish i had just supported my husband....I wish i had understood that I could make it about me and my feelings (which I did)...OR I could have let him do whatever  he needed to do for his parents for him to be ok....knowing that our familys best interest was never  out of him mind.......(I did not do this) OUr marraige suffered ....Now I look back and see It was not worth it.....I SHOULD have trusted him.......He was trustworthy....\nThey never did like me.....but now thery are gone and it doenst matter....But my ex and I are still trying to come to terms with the fallout from that time(as well as other issue).....\nPICK YOUR BATTLES CAREFULLY..........some are not worth the war they will lead up to....
249151
That is tough... I've been there done that. At one time or another I have had:\nMy Sister and her husband\nMy Brother, his wife and their 4 kids\nand then\nMy sister in-law and her two kids.\n\nAll varying in length of stay from 6 weeks to 6 months.\n\nJust this past Jan I had a friend that had been living with us since Aug move out.\n\nIt can be tough..\n\nWhy do you ask?