how to retain the sweetness and spark in the relationship long?
955804
Make time for each other, relaxing time that you can both enjoy.
1018598
You know what? I don't think it is fair what some of the others have said..i think it is entirely possible to lose abit of that...and what you need to do is relive a lot of the past...remember a lot fo the romantic things you did for him and sneak those things back in to your repetoire...by that I mean...I sent my wife an Easter card when she went back to see her family in South America and she loved it..my wife and I started off by writing and emailing and while we've known each other for 11 years we've been married for 7.  I always try to do things, read old letters, look at pictures and read diaries of things we did together and I try to do them again...go to fine restaurants (tough with a child) but we do what we can.  I haven't fallen out of love with my wife but I think that it is necessary for you to start dating your husband on a weekly basis so that it doesn't happen again-FLIRT WITH HIM-go park..hehe whatever.....life is a long journey..sometimes it seems as though your priorities with children and work that sometimes you may lose the spark a bit..just light the pilot light again and do what you can to get his attention and it doesn't have to go back to the bed-especially if you are trying to see where his feelings lie with you...(no pun intended)...yeah that will get his attention in the short run..as it will in most men...BUT....it won't stand for the long run...so there has to be more.  maybe play hard to get a little..make him feel as though he has to give chase a bit...don't play the game too long...but...entice him..take him out for ice cream or even to a ball game EVEN if you HATE baseball or football...or a concert if he doesn't care for sports...\namusement park..you get the idea...do things that he LOVES to do that you would normally not care so much for because you CARE about doing stuff he is interested in...it is just an idea...surprise him...
392024
just let time keep going. if he makes you smile and laugh. plus make you happy. then things will work out for the 2 of you. just keep the same pace. when its time to pick it up. you will both know it.
453660
Stop taking each other for granted.  Say thank you more.  Notice each other more.  Candle-lit dinner.  Weekend away.  Picnic in the park.  Flowers.  Bath together.  \n\nAll this helps things to go well, but you can't make him want you more.
624349
Try compromising.Relationships change with time. Just go with the flow.
894629
Trust, (Love), Respect, and Companionship are the keys to a healthy relationship.  An initial "spark" is a must, but in the end a relationship will not survive if it does not have TLR & C.
179468
you know what? u come to know the love between u n ur lover only wen u r apart. this feeling fires up so much that its hard to resist to see ur love. just try to be in touch with him more.make him n urself believe that u both will be together n love each other more than u used to earlier.this is going to be a boost to ur relationship.u will c that ur love for him is increasing everyday.
629935
Maybe you should try talking to him about how you feel?\nThere is a possibility that if you feel like the "spark" is gone, he feels the same way too.\n\nJust because the spark is gone doesn't mean you need to break up, it could just mean you need to do something to bring it back. I think a lot of relationships and marriages these days end because they're based from attraction and the 'new relationship tingly feeling'\nAfter you're with someone for as long as you've been with him, and longer, you tend to get into a routine, and the original feelings you've had disappear.\n\nLong-term relationships take work.\n\nI suggest talking to him about it either way.\nMaybe you'll both mutually feel like you want a change.\n\nIf you do end up hurting him, don't feel to bad about it, as long as you communicate with him, and are mature about it, you'll both be able to move on. :)
312625
To be honest with you....at the end of the experience if both people feel great and comfortable with each other still...then want to go on and enjoy each other even more...I say that's when you both are satisfied...
26596
tell him you still love him and that he is sweet
205054
If you love each other very much and are willing to put in all the hours need, then you two will last.\n\nI just know you two have it in you to make it work.\n\nI believe in love.\n\nI believe in you.
1136721
just make little suggestions every now and then such as\nwouldn't it be nice if.....\nor\ni would really love it if you did....\nmy partner isn't romantic and just by doing this i got him to suprise me it takes a little bit but at least once a week now i will get home and he would have a bubble bath ready with candles around for him and myself to enjoy.\nAnd i even get a romantic dinner every couple of weeks.\njust tell him that you would really love it if every now and then he would suprise you and be romantic.\n\nGoodluck and let me know how you go.
84598
WELL HERE ARE SOME SWEET & ROMANTIC IDEAS:\n*Make a scrapbook or make your own card with pictures of just the two of you, & sweet poems or quotes.\n*Prepare an unforgetable candle light dinner, with slow soft music & champaigne.\n*Take an amazing bubble bath together, with rose pedals, candles & champaigne.\n*Get a puppy or kitten wrapped in a bow.\n*Send as many of dozen roses as you can, then right on a piece of paper: "Every rose is for how much I love you."\n*Get a box of rich chocolates, a card, and a single red rose.\n*Have a passionate picnic in the park, then afterwards cuddle together under the stars.\nHOPE YOU LIKED THESE IDEAS!!! :)
1093842
Whatever it takes bridge the distance to a point that your relationship stays out of the brinks of doubt, trust or love.  Make plans for periodic visits, and look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself to look at the facts of everything because there is no room for things that are made up or do not exist.  They will kill the realationship faster than lighting starts fires.  Be fair, control emotion and set dates to accomplish things that will help to bring you together more quickly and work on them together.  Plan ways to be together and work them as you would any other goals.  It will take the lonliness and waiting out of the time, give you something constructive to do during the absence making the time go by faster or giving both of you shortcuts to bridging the gap or distance.  Use cams and microphoneis on the internet for close times.  Do anything but sit and do nothing as that will create decay and cause you to feel horrible things maybe that don't even exist.  You can get through it if both of you want to and you can make it fun,  use you heads and minds.  Be smart people.
404701
Just be nice to each other and don't push anything, and allow love to run it's course. If it is meant to be you will want to be together.
74575
believe it or not you can keep it going forever if you BOTH work at it..\nyour hormones are flying and usually raging because you are young..in body and heart..\nlove brings out things ( chemically ) in people that give them the sense of euphoria..\n\nand you brain just loves this and you feel so great\n\nbut if you or he say the exact same thing in the same exact way ten year after you were first togehter..it sounds like he is picking on you...because your brain does not have all the endorphins to make you happy like you were when you first meet..\n\nbut if you both keep working on each other each and every day.with little surprises ( sneak up and put your hands on her eyes and kiss her neck..and make her giggle..) even though it is silly..stuff works..\nup out of the blue on a Saturday..make HER lunch and bring it to her and say this is for my ever do lovely bride..\nif you two keep working at it ..it will work just like you two first meet..\nand so on and so on
873584
there are lots of ways to do it.\n1.) act flirtatiously but make sure you don't look cheap\n2.)be a good listener,this is one part of the relationship that most couples are taken for granted especially when they live together for a long period of time \n3.)be sensitive to your partners feelings,or needs\n4.)both partners has to learn to give and take \nand show each other some respect \n5.)both of you should learn how to be honest and\n    truthfull to each other\nfollow those steps and you'll be okay