Should I tell my ex's girlfriend that he cheated or stay out of it?
965587
I don't think she'd listen to you... it's worth a try, but I really don't know if you want to risk her getting angry and telling everybody about you, like that you're lying or something bad like that. I know she SHOULD be told, and I'm glad you have that mindset, but she'd just think you were bitter... and she'd believe him. So I'm sorry to say it, but you should stay out of it... unless she's the type that won't get angry...
928007
I think you should tell her right away. She'll be more likely to forgive you, since you didn't try and keep it a secret from her. I personally hate secrets, I htink we should lay them out in the open. Tell her you're really sorry, too. You shouldn't have cheated in the first place.
479643
If you love the other guy, stay with him! An ex should always be forgotten. But I don't blame you for feeling a little cheated on. You'll get over it if you love the boyfriend you're with at the moment.
563061
In my opinion, No... he should not be talking w/another woman about her's, his, or anybody elses relationships. whether you know them or not.  Things like this lead to emotional cheating.  Stop him now....
550806
Sounds like a set up darlin!Even im getting paranoid thinking about it....i would say...ask him if he was going out with his ex tonight...yes/no. If answer is no..and it happens again(a similar senario,with his ex) tell him to f off.\n\nIn a nut shell....TRUST your instinct..you will know my dear.
985819
say NO. Once a cheat, ALWAYS a cheat. If he cheated then, how do you know he wont cheat now? If he lied then, how do you know he wont lie now? If you DO go back out with him you'll have to walk on eggshells the whole time because you'll be wondering in the back of your head "was he really where he told me he was, with the people he told me he was with, or was he somewhere else with somewhere else" Which saying those thigns to him or asking him alot will just lead to fights. A relationship is nothing without trust and it takes a long time to re-build trust after someone cheated/lied to you. Find someone out there who WONT do that to you, this guy sounds like a loser, and there are millions of guys out there that arent losers, so go find one! good luck!
668981
First untangle the mess you've got your life into, how you do that is up to you but if you keep going on like this you'll soon get ulsers, Second, make it clear that the rules he applys to you and to his ex are the same all the way around. By that I mean if he can see and talk to his ex without you then you're allowed to as well. Third and most important, If his ex is so caring of his emotions and he values her opinion that much then why are they apart. Let him know that you understand he has to maintain a relationship with his ex for his daughters sake but you are his woman now and his job is to stick up for you when you can't do it for yourself. (Meaning he needs to tell his ex that if she cant say anything nice about you to him then he needs to tell her to keep her opinion's to herself or had better start defending you to her. He's a big boy and should be able to handel his emotions on his own, if not then he dosent need to be dating.)
258790
ask his ex-girlfriend do they still have any chemistry or had any really close contact (you know) with each other during the time that you were going out. if she seems like she still likes him then you should be really suspicious and start testing his loyalty to you and try to find out if he is really cheating.
251743
That is too close to cheating.  Think about how your wife will feel.  How would you feel is out of the clear blue, her ex called her and wanted to know how she is doing.  Would that be okay with you?  What if he  had lingering feelings for her?  Use common sense.
994698
The best scenario is to talk to his ex in person one-on-one.  If she is a slut she will lie, if she wants a relationship then she won't.\n\nFamilies will not take your side, they will do what is in their children's best interest.  So don't take anything they say as the truth.\n\nI hate to say this, but you gotta play the game. If you really love him, you have to do everything you can to save the relationship.
413942
Depends on if you're there with him or not.  I think that if you're not at that same school, you shouldn't worry too much about it.  You should learn to trust him.  However, if he's still associating with her even when you're not there and without your consent, then i think he's probably hiding something behind your back.  I know past relationships are hard to get over.  Occasionally i see my ex around town.  I don't trip over it.  I just give a simple "hi" or "how are you" kind of talk.  I think as long as he's not talking to her (about personal issues) then you shouldn't have to worry too much.  You have to learn to trust him.  YOu shouldn't accuse him of anything unless you have a really good reason as to why you don't trust him.  Next best thing is... Communication and trust .... it's the best. good luck. =)
82127
Ouch this a hurtfull situation. But first you need to confront him and find out whats going on and dont let him play you for stupid. You next person to confront is her! She needs to know what she is dealing and find out what she is doing. He may think its harmless but you guys have 2 kids together and it sounds like he is pretty seriously committed to you. He should have no reason to call her and break up a happy home. You seriously might want to rethink the whole relationship. Maybe even give him a scare and say you are leaving him because you found out he was talking to "that girl" if he loves you he will stop and wont ever do it again. And seriously think about it he has already cheated on your with this girl and she is obbviously still on his mind. You should have cut it off when he first cheated.
1157992
First of all your not the scum he is. If he is cheating on her with you then he will cheat on you with someone else. Since your relationship with him has been sexual I would tell the girlfriend. She has a right to know what she has been exposed to. I am not saying that you have anything but the guy may be seeing several other women and not just you. It is also very common to be angry at the other woman and not yourself or the guy. If you look at this logically then you would see who you should be angry at. For the last two years this guy has been leading you and his girlfriend and God knows who else on. When you found out about the girlfriend you probably thought that he would dump her and stay with you. It doesn't always work that way. If you dont tell her and leave the guy you are always going to be second guessing what he is up to. You are always going to be comparing yourself to his girlfriend and you will never be happy. Telling his girlfriend would only be fair to her. You have known about her and have seen what this guy is like. Maybe his girlfriend needs an eye opener. And the guy deserves to be alone.
118279
Do you get to see her in person? If you do, then I'd recommend telling her. If he's cheating on her, then she has a right to know. Besides, she'll probably find out in the end anyway; these things have a way of coming up, and a lot of times, it's at a bad time.\n\nAt first, she may deny it profusely, yell at you, hate you, whatever. But in the end, it's for her own good and it'll save her months, or even years, of heartache. Never delay bad news; the longer you keep something secret, the worse it'll be when it comes out.\n\nGood luck with whatever happens.
102231
Well was he cheated on you before? Because If not then your being too paranoid. The real sweet thing is that he actually emitted he use to had a crush with her. Just talk to the two at the same time and set the record straight.
238802
It's up to you if you want to wait a year or not. If you and the friend have sparks, go for it! What difference is it going to make with your ex anyway? You didn't cheat, right? You need to do what makes you happy, and if your ex has a problem with it, too bad! Ex's are ex's for a reason!
862863
If i were you, because this guy has cheated on his girlfriend he will also do the same to you and disregard your feelings in time to come by going off with someone else....best advice i can give you is to protect your heart.