Why does hubby not initiate sex?
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If he's anything like my husband, he thinks he does initiate. Men are of the mistaken impression that simply saying things like "don't you owe me tonight?" or "why did you wear your nightie to bed?" is initiating.  He needs help to understand what your idea of initiating is.  there are some great books out there but is he really going to read it if you get it for him? \n\nTalk to him again, but make sure it is NOT in the bedroom.  Give him specific ideas of how you expect him to initiate. Light candles; stroke my hair; kiss me passionately, etc....But say it in terms that are not accusing like "I really like it when you do this" or "this really turns me on"  \n\nIs he on medication that affects his sex drive. Most men can perform when the woman initiates but a med may not allow him to think about it enough to initiate---blood pressure meds, etc. \n\nGood luck with this.
656944
It seems like you want sex more when you can't get it.  It sounds like he is using that as an excuse.  I have never heard of a man getting bored with sex.  Talk to him and if you can live without the sex stay with him, if not kick him to the curb.
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Was he like this when you first got married? Has his sex drive dropped or stayed the same? Some men don't have a very active libido. It's usually hormonal.\n\nIf it isn't satisfying to you, try to suggest seeing a medical doctor.\n\nA person's sex drive is an individual thing. But for the record, your husband's does seem rather low for a newlywed guy. I had a friend who's husband was the same. He got help--against his wishes--but it worked.\n\nYou can't compare yourself with other couples, really, but  the average is about 3 times a week. We do it more often because my husband is a horn dog. As he ages, it is lessening though. We've been married for 20 years.
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You might have to just deal with it.  My husband doesnt like foreplay either.  We usually dont even kiss during sex.  That or talk with him about it! Other than that I dunno.  Im in the same situation!\n\n-Lorah
503295
Well if he wants to have sex with you, he might get kinda fed up eventually, dont you think? Why do you want to keep him but not have sex with him. Sex is part of love. Is he a potential lover or just your sugar daddy or something?
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Not ALL men do.  My hubby scarcely ever watches TV.\nHe reads a lot of books, though.  As do I.  \n\nI suppose those that do ... you know ... it's a mind numbing thing .... don't have to think, or act, or respond.
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My hubby will give me oral all the time and never wants it in return! Hey, it just doesn't do it for some guys.\nWhat does he like best sexually? Give him that and don't worry about what he doesn't care for. Make sure he does the same for you too!\nGood luck!
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Try this test.\n\nThe next time he asks for sex, decline, saying that you are just not in the mood.\n\nIf he presses on, it's jsut the sex he's inetersted in. If he accepts your request, it is something deeper
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Yes. I've heard from personal stories. Everybody's different. He may be one with low sex drive, or yours higher. Could even be psycological issues, though I don't think that is usually the case. Happy bed time!
915072
Maybe he is having problems preforming and he is insecure about it. I am 20 and my husband is 34 and we have been together for 2 years. Sometimes you still love each other and you still find one another attractive, but you just need a break from the sexual part of the relationship. Are you feeling pressure from the idea of marriage? Are you both stressed out in any way more than usual, maybe from planning a wedding? It all factors in, as long as you still love each other, it's OK. Sex isn't everything.
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it's true it sounds like your wife doesn't want it as much as you do, but she is so spoiled and blessed to have such a good husband who is considerate to that. i admit i don't always want to when my husband does, but i rarely tell him no. even if i can't do it i'll be considerate to him being in the mood, and help him out orally.
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He is playing you, sex won't prove a thing.\nLove = wait\nlust = sex\nTrust me, every relationship I had sex in ended.\n\nI dated my wife for 2 years and we did not have sex until marriage.\n\nI still think about the fact she had sex before we were together.\nDo your future husband a favor and hold out til marriage, even if you are not a virgin hold out!\n\nP.S. choose the right category next time so kids dont read this looking forword play ?s. Try dating and single next time
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He needs to have his testosterone level checked some men especially those over 45 have low testosterone levels whichis the direct corolation to the sex drive.\nThis is the absolute first thing that needs to be checked b4 anything else. No testosterone = no drive\nAnd if thats the problem its a fairly easy fix
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So you only married him for the sex ... how very shallow of you .... and I see you're very modest as well.\nMaybe it's your attitude thats causing him to falter ... the more you pressure him the les frequent you're gonna get it .... so sure divorce him and go find youself another stud until you wear him out .... \nMight do hubby good to be able to relax and not be pressured
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ok hun kinda know where you are coming from but need a little more info. First of all men and women hit their sexual peaks at diferent times in life so if there is an age difference that could be a factor. another thing is lifestyle changes new job or later hours. another thing to consider is the baby, how old? most men go through a stage that they feel the baby is taking all the time from them and begin to feel deprived so they withdraw themselves. and a final thought is that you are in a rut it is common in most relationships, have you been together for a long time? It is a very good possibility that he is just comfortable in the relationship and is just not as passionate as before... It is not that there is no attraction between the two of you because if i had to guess when you do have sex it is GREAT, right? I have been married for 8 years there is a 4 year age difference between the two of us and I have been in your shoes. I thought hubby was cheating and he didn't love me and so on and so forth. Almost lost him over my insecurities ao don't jump to conclusions talk to him about it and I hope I helped a little. WISHING YOU LOTS OF GREAT SEX.
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mine cuddles with me and only when he too is tired. he is horny 99% of the time but kinda knows when i want it and not. i would wonder what was up if he stopped doing it one day. i tell him when im not in the mood and he respects that..  :)
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can't blame you for getting frustrated...what you need is a break. meaning...go somewhere else with your husband, take a trip to a new place or a place where you've been to before and had a great time...\nsometimes it takes much more than "holding it" to ignite things... a change of environment once in a while is good for both of you.\ni think your husband feels stressed out, or something is really troubling him and doesnt want to tell you what...but that's another story...\n\nand about your question if its normal for him to not want to have sex, my answer would be yes. My husband is like that..sometimes...esp when he's tired, i realized my energy level is higher than his so i try my best to meet halfway...husbands are lazy when they are tired and sleepy even if as you put it...you are a hottie.\n\nGood luck to you and your hubby...