how do get over someone you reaaalllyyy care for? how can you tell if they are over you?
956200
If you were really in love with them, and you cared for them deeply, I don't think you ever "GET OVER" them.  What a lot of people don't do is to take time out for themselves.  When you break-up with someone after being in a long-term relationship, you really need to take time to heal before you move on to another person because you can't give your whole heart to him/her fully because that other person is holding a part of it.  How long it takes....Well that depends on you.  You have to ask yourself "How long am I going to allow this person to hold my heart?"  Take time, Heal, enjoy being single, and when you feel no presence of the other person then you are over them.  Of course when you see them with some one else for a split second, you will go back there but if you do and when you are able to say, well good for them then you are definitely over them.  I hope this helped because I've been where you are and that is what I did.  Take care and be HAPPY!!!
827363
Why do you care. Get over her and move on.
327479
you love him/her in return? if u do, why try to forget. if u don, why worry? there is no point to care for it. U never forget one thing, but u cang get used to it. If u love other, then decide which love to live with. then choose what in your heart...
652699
Why aren't you over this lover? I wouldn't waste my time thinking of anyone that left me high and dry for another person. You need to work on your self esteem because you are missing a person who obviously didn't care and respect your feelings. Move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea who will stay with you and not abandon you. Pray for someone to love you as much as you love them,  go out with your friends more, talk to someone you trust about your feelings, date people(you don't have to sleep with them) and go out and socialize
633234
Aww honey don't be sad. I just broke up with my fiance last Tuesday and we lived together I know how much this hurts. However you have to remember that what is meant to be will be. If you and him are meant to be together nothing, and I mean nothing can keep you apart. You need to stay busy and dont think about it. I know how easy it is right now to overanalyze every little detail. Don't. Thats just going to bring you down more. Look into the future, always have hope and take care of yourself. Surround yourself with friends and family and remember "this too shall pass"
1077283
getting over someone takes time.  All you can really do is surround yourself with friends, positive energy and anything that comforts you.\nGood luck! and be strong and true to yourself.
944662
You deserve someone better,of course you miss him,that's normal.Humans have feelings,you will get over it soon.Keep yourself busy so wont think of it,whenever you are free do something like spend more time with your children.Almost forget ask him for maintenance fee.
117273
Wait for them to break up, and in the mean time look around, because you might find someone you like better. What ever you do though don't try to break them up.
608931
U have got to give urself time to get over him....u will soon..time is a great healer.
409662
DANG THAT'S A TOUGH ONE ; i KN0 i ASKED MYSELF THE SAME THiNG EVRYDAi ; BUT iT TAKES TiME - U WiLL STiLL HAVE SOME MEMORi OF HiM - BUT iT GOES AWAi SLOW - U WiLL STiLL HAVE SUM FEELiNG FOR HiM BECAUSE iT WAS LOVE ND LOVE NEVER GOES AWAi EVEN A LITTLE - SO JUST TRi TO TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE TO HELP U GET OVER HiM ; iT MiTE HELP ; OR DO THiNGS TO GET UR MiND OFF OF HiM -- iT HELPD WiT MEH .. SOO YEA
517035
I know how you feel,the urge of reaching out and dialing his number drives you insane..remember one thing the one you love will never make you cry...i am sure since your break up you must have cried your eyes out...so girl my adivice is to move on think that it was his loss..find some new acitivity for yourself where you would be able to meet new people..being around new people this time really helps in getting over someone....wish you all the best
719810
Do not listen to his voice. Do not call him. Do not answer or return his calls.  Throw away cards, letters and all things that remind you of him.  Make yourself busy and take meticulous care of yourself.  Give your time to your other friends and family members whom you may have been distant with.  Catch up on some hobbies and volunteer work.  Make appointments for yourself to do the things you enjoy every day in the week. Every night, have someone to talk to who understands what you may be going through. Whenever your thoughts stray toward him, think only about the way he disappointed you and hurt you and remind yourself that you deserve the best. The longer you were with him, the longer it may take for you to get over him.  Nevertheless, you WILL get over him.
1077564
You probaly won't get over the feelings ever. To get over him, date him. Then you'll see how much of a jerk he really is. And then you wont like him anymore.
961133
it will take you some time to get over this person but you will trust me.  they are obviously emotionally imature.  on some level they likely do love you, just don't really understand what real love is and throw the word around without understanding the reprecussions of what it may do to the person the say it to.  could be a serial commitmentphobe or just an immature person who has no clue what they are doing.   be thankful to be out of it before it has been months or years.
738260
Pretend they are dead, lol, seriously go through the grieving process, the denial, anger etc.  until so much time passes that they become a not so painful memory and just another ex in your life.  If that never happens then just continue to love them because you always will and understand that your heart is not really broken, just damaged and the only thing to heal any wound is time and caring for yourself.  In time (a very useful word in this answer) you will be able to remember her smell, touch or her eyes when she smiled without that crushing feeling in your chest that takes the very breath from you and causes the speechlessness  you experience when you think of her.  A broken heart is a very serious injury and you really need to take care of yourself so that you can heal and be able to love again, don't go looking right away for someone to take that pain away, it will only slow the whole process down and make it that much harder to accept the end.
713787
If you're engaged.....what the hell do you care. Look, he's moved on...why don't you. Hmm.....perhaps you hate the idea that he's over you.
502370
Let time take its course. There is no real way to forget someone you care about. As stupid as it sounds, time will heal all wounds. Try to get on with your life as best you can. Surround yourself with positive people and give yourself time to heal. Best of luck to you.