can cancerians ever forget their old lovers?
952311
NO.  They can't.  I am a Cancer, and my exhusband is a Cancer, who is currently on my doorstep as we speak wanting me to marry him, you guessed it a third time, NO WAY.  We never forget a love nor a scorn we have the memories of an elephant.  Turn an Cancer on, and you've turned them on for life, scorn them, and you have scorned them for life.
526997
yes - I was involved with someone for close to 27 years until he passed away.\n\nIt was real and true love, and even today - almost 3 years later, I still mourn his death, and miss him greatly. - even though he drove me NUTS sometimes.
1175034
from a 25 year olds opinion,yes. its because there was an intimacy. like a lost best friend. its normal. i often wonder how she is and if life is good for her even though i havent seen her in 8 years.
432705
as life moves on and as you meet new people you will understand that he wasnt your whole life he was just a part which could be again filled with love so dont worry i know it will take much time to forget those precious moments you spent with him but they sure will take a backseat soon just meet your family and friends and try to solve their problems if they have some you will surely forget yours..
1021385
It all depends on the person and the relationship between the spouse and the deceased. Some people wouldn't be ready to date again in 5 years, for some it might only take 6 months. The grief process needs to be fulfilled, though.
719369
I dont want to alarm you.  But my mother had breast cancer and it spread into her bones after being told 4 years earlier that she was cancer free.  After her dignosis in May of 2003, sadly it took intill Dec of 2004 to kill her.  She was only 49.  They tried everything from chemo to radiation.  They even had her on a hormone pill but the cancer had just spread so much.  I am really sorry about your friend my heart goes out to her.  I would find out what stage she is in.  My mother was in stage four so there was really not much they could do.  Through the treatments they provided it did prolong her life for a year and half after given a timeline of 6 months.  And again I am truly sorry about your friend.
852221
You are so lucky to have each other at this time. I believe you are a gift to each other. I had friends in a similar position as you are in now. They both decided to take everything one day at a time and enjoy every thing including their love each and every day. They went through, thick and thin together in increasing love, for 3 years longer than doctors had predicted. The surviving friend, years later, has told me several times how they would have suffered a much greater loss if they had not been dedicated to each other in love for as long as possible.
49446
Time.Our minds are very complex,and often we are still madly in love with an ex simply because we`ve not met anyone else yet.But after time passes and we meet other people,we start forgetting an ex we thought we`d NEVER forget.Socialize,and realize that there are so many oppurtunities out there,that it`s silly to worry yourself sick over someone who no longer cares.Make some new friends,meet new love interest,excersize your mind in other areas until you`ve had some time to heal.
332549
I can tell you that time will lessen your pain, but you will never forget the person.  I still have a place in my heart for my first love, and while I don't cry over him or technically still "love" him, I will always remember him.  \n\nTime will make it better.  I promise. :)
409040
Your memory is your whole history of the past. If you lose it, it's like burning a book: You no longer have access to what's inside. \n\n(Like in the movie "Memento," you would only be able to live in the present, and you would no longer perceive things as part of a larger story.)\n\nIf you forget him in this sense, you wouldn't even remember he existed. You wouldn't remember you had loved him either.\n\nIf you're talking about how feelings go away over time, which is sort of like "emotional forgetting," you can mentally remember that you had loved him, and you can still care about him as a person, but the feelings have vanished and might never resurface.\n\nNote that older married couples have fluctuating emotions like this. Sometimes they love each other passionately, sometimes they simply care about each other deeply. Both are actually "love" -- just different kinds of it.
579889
No, and I NEVER will! First loves are important in our lives, and will always be in our memories. Mine has been gone for years, but I still think about her from time to time. What we have to do is move on(but we NEVER forget).
216440
I was in love for 10 years and I'm 39 years old. I found love again but it took me awile. you will find love again if you do the following. first and the hardest you must let go of your former lover. I understand you are a widow but try not to think, talk and dream about him all the time. he's gone and he is in a better place and I'm sure he want's to see you happy again. do not compare,be open minded.take your time do not rush into anything.do not judge the person on the first date or two you may not be able to find out who that person really is. people tend to ack and be not them selfs when trying to impressed.and never ever sleep with him to soon, make him respect you first.
687941
you can move on. you don't have to forget all the good memories. those are yours to treasure. all the bad memories too. they are for you to learn from.\n\nsometimes people are in your life for a short time. and the purpose is for you to learn from them or to teach them something. and then they're just gone.\n\nit hurts to move on, but remember there are so many stars in the sky. and you will find someone new. sometimes relationships are just stepping stones to your future.
672087
It is a lot harder than that, You cannot just walk away and pretend someone is from the past because that past once was the present ( if you catch my drift). Someone that you once love will always be a scar in your heart and if you loved her dearly, the space that she filled will never be filled by someone else, however that person is!\n\nTake my example, I onced had a very very strong crush on someone but I never told her, it's been more than 5 years now but I still wish it had turned out better than it had!\n\nSorry man but there are things you can't do in life and this is most definitely one of them!
856410
My poor grandfather had prostate cancer, which is supposedly one of the slowest-growing cancers there is.  He was in the hospital for something unrelated, and out of nowhere started getting sicker.  He lost his appetite, and over the course of a couple of days, started having difficulty walking and talking.  \n\nMy grandmother questioned the same thing that you did, so she questioned one of the nurses as to whether his cancer had metastasized.  The nurse more or less brushed her off and said, "No, prostate cancer wouldn't grow that fast."\n\nWell, to make a long story short, he kept getting worse and worse, until finally his lungs and kidneys shut down.  As it turned out, he had developed a secondary, fast-growing cancer that had metastasied all over his body within a matter of weeks.\n\nBy the time this was discovered, he was far too sick for any form of traditional treatment, and we unfortunately lost him very quickly after that.\n\nI certainly hope that this isn't the case with your friend... some of what she's experiencing could be the side effects of the chemotherapy.  Although I've never heard anyone "talking funny" from chemo, I'm certainly not an expert on the subject. \n\nI just wanted to share my story with you, because it still makes us sick that my grandma questioned his prognosis and was told that it couldn't have spread.  I guess we'll always wonder if he could have been helped had they acted sooner.\n\nI certainly don't have any advice for you on how to approach your friend... it's very hard to question others' judgment when it comes to the way they're treating their cancer, especially when you're not the one paying the bills.  I unfortunately know this far too well from experience... I guess all you can do is sit down with her husband by himself and discuss your fears.  It's hard, though, because you don't want to place any undue worry on him.\n\nI don't know how close of a relationship you have with this couple, but if you don't want to worry them directly, is it possible to pull one of her oncologists aside and talk it over with them?  I don't know if she's in the hospital or not, but that might be a good way to go about it.  If you feel like there's nothing you can do without overstepping your bounds, I guess all you can do is hope that the doctors notice what you have... but that's not always the case, either.\n\nSorry if I wasn't more help... at any rate, I wish you the best.  If you're at all religious or spiritual, maybe a prayer for guidance is in order.  If you're not... just listen to your heart, I guess.  :)
37424
It is truly one of the hardest things in life to lose the affection of someone you really dig.  The only thing that can be said is that it happens to everyone.  Don't get too down over it.
338201
I think the best course of action is to have no contact with her if possible.  It's hard when your heart still pulls you towards someone even though you know there is nothing but heartache there.  Do your best to stay occupied, filling your time with other friends, hobbies, work, etc so that eventually not thinking of her becomes more of a habit.  OR...as my 77 yr.old grandmother told me during a breakup..."the best way to get over one...is to get under one!" ;-)  Good luck!