A sensitive topic regarding family? What do you think?
967184
From now on, when someone in your family comes to you with something for you to pray about, tell them that you don't need any details at all, and you don't even need to know who is involved in the issue because God knows, and you will bring it to Him in prayer.  Tell them that you will pray for God's will, and His peace and healing.  Leave it at that.  \n\nIf you let your family members talk to you about all this stuff, you are part of the problem, not the solution.  The solution from your end is to stop listening to it.  That includes walking away from a conversation that is inappropriate.  Be quiet about it, though.  Don't saying anything; just leave.\n\nYour family members will have to make their own choices about gossip.  Stay out of it completely and forever.  You'll be much happier.  Don't even talk about staying out of gossip.  You're just inviting more conversation about gossip, which in turn leads to gossip!
563606
you do not say too much to work with on this. i will say be very careful in your decision making. weigh the pros and cons on this issue before making a decision. If it should hurt your family then that is  the first thing you do not want to do. you never want to cause hurt or shame to them. whatever your cause.... does it come before family values...something you must ask yourself. remember when there is an action there is always a reaction. you must ask yourself what will the reaction be to your gamble.
594989
I've done it before.  Again, it was a distant relation through marriage.\n\nTo me it depends a little on how close your family is.  If it is going to cause some odd family dynamics, you may not want to let the relationship create any problems in the family.  But if you do not have a close family and you don't think it will be a big issue, go for it.
806963
it is probably not discussed in the family setting b/c they are uneducated. thats just the way things are. those care will inform themselves and do what it takes. yes more can be done.
63887
Talk about your childhood. Add in particular stories to break it up. Maybe talk about the way your parents raised you, how your relationship with them is. Don't lie, but still try to keep it interesting. It's your view on your own life so there is no right or wrong.
46922
i'm not really down for the keep it in the family thing but i'm not going to criticize you but i'm thinking that maybe you should them and see if they feel the same. but they don't react the same way don't be surprised because they probably not down with incest you know.sorry if they hurt you ok. you'll get over it eventually.
707635
Dude i couldnt agree with you more.  No offence but for their own good put them in a looney bin and do it fast.  Thisnk about all the things peopl will say about you and your family when they see them.  Is that in itself worth it?
792171
If your family is that insensitive it's not likely that talking to them about it will do any good. If you can just play along with it and be the bigger person you'll feel better about it. Can you bring yourself to joke about it along with them or ask them for their advice? If you keep allowing this to hurt you, they'll smell blood and keep up with it. Change the subject by asking what challenges and rewards they've had with their relationships. If you get people talking about themselves, they'll forget about talking about you. Good luck. And by the way, don't feel guilty if you don't want to go to the family get-together. Find a charity that's hosting a Thanksgiving dinner, or better yet, work for one that is. Being around caring people, and people that are worse off than you, will be a great lifter of your spirits.
191027
start involving him more in the family get togethers.  On the other hand, I'm all for the family card and I'd be interested in hearing their side of the story.  Sometimes parents see what we can't because we are blinded by love:)
53121
I was always told growing up that your family are the people who know you and all your bad habits and love you anyway. Now that I am raising my step children and a foster child PLUS my own kids, I realize how true that statement is. Family are the people you turn to when you need someone to tell off because you have had a bad day and they will still speak to you when you have calmed down. And in some cases that person might not be blood related to you but it doesn't make them any less a member of your "family"
1050676
Have you talked to you mom about this?    Family is about love not color.  MY family is mixed to,we have 6 kids..  my daughter is African American,Indian,Italian. I married a Mexican. so we have alot of mixes we call it his your & ours. Is someone making you feel different or left out?  I would try to talk it out with my family or talk to the person making me feel like i don't belong. FAMILY is about love and caring, if they give that to you your half way there and maybe you need some time with someone from you dads family to get to know your afican amercian half.
734662
if u don't fatasize about ur own family members i don't think it is that wrong. i think it is pretty normal and i guess a lot of people go through stages like that and just don't want to admit it. i think you'll eventually grow out of this notion and look back and be like omg wut was i thinking. i hope i helped...\n:)
839793
My dad just died on 11-02-06. He was 91. My mother has said that no one can decorate or celebrate the holidays this year. Honestly, the house is home 24/7 with nothing to do so the holidays is a diversion that can be used to entertain friends but mom says that she doesnt want to tell people that dad died because then they might come over to see her. If they do, she is directing them to her sister's house because she feels that no one came to see her and dad while he was alive.\nThe one family that she called when he died and who attended his funeral in her absence, sent food for us which my sister immediately put in the freezer for "happier times". Then they called to invite us to Thanksgiving Dinner at their house, which my mother refused. The people then told mom not to send any gifts and they would do the same in honor of her husband. It is mom's birthday today and two days before Thanksgiving, and mom has been on the phone and internet with my sister ordering gifts for these people for the holidays.\nMom was told today by a animal shelter that they will be naming the next homeless pet they save after dad.
380822
Personally I think that if you two are open minded enough and are willing to not care what others think then you should be alright, but honestly I don't know enough about your cultures to know for sure.  I know there is some serious bad blood because of past wars and what not but I don't know how well it has subsided.  I think the biggest thing you have to look at is what will your parents think and do you care?  If you two don't care then you should be alright but if either of you cares then you need to try and convince them to at least be happy for you.  Something else to think about is of course religion.  Just as in any relationship religion and up bringing can be a divisive or a bonding issue.  So I suggest you both look into how you were brought up and if they conflict.  I hope that helps out some.
1106998
So the topic is your choice I'm assuming since you did not state your topic. Truthfully I would go with you are passionate about. Poverty in america, The stereotype of the nuclear family, Why sleep is necessary for societt's students, etc. If you need help please contact me, I would be glad to help you.
208898
I would only say something if you really feel the need to stand up for your brother, I would do it with them both standing right there so that way there is no he said she said crap going on between them talking about you. I would only do that under extreme cercumstances though. It matters how close you are over all to your brother, I mean if you can talk to him about anything i would definitally say something to him in private, something like dude is it just me or do you seem unhappy here lately, not really blameing her but if it is because of her he will come out and say so, if he asks you what you think i would go ahead and tell him but in the long and short of it if she makes him eat dog food on the floor every night for dinner and he still loves her, support him in his pick for a future wife. You might not like how she treats him over all but it looks like he does, maybe you havent gotten to know her well enough yet, Or maybe he hasnt, who knows. But i would definitally deal with this in a tender way, maybe your mom or dad can say something to him, or you can go to them and voice your concerns, they could probably get away with saying something to him easier then you could. I dont know ive never really been in that situation but i can see it going bad easily if its not delt with care :) I hope that helps
731759
Most of us have problems with our families. Just be firm and don't let anyone take advantage of you, okay?