Can you really be friends with your ex?!?
967454
It depends on how long you were going out with the person.  If a long term, I would say no, even if there are no feelings any longer it's still just confusing.  You liked that person once and it could happen again.  That's what usually happens after u break up with someon you forget why u did it.  Then you want to get back together again.  For most cases I would say it's a bad idea to be friends with ur ex.  Too many feelings there!!
69872
I've had this situation 4 months ago. We've just talked about it.. I frankly said, that i don't love him. He offered me to be friends. So we are very good friends right now. But I feel that i'm more than just a freind for him...Sometimes i think that it would be nice if we were together but can't do it right now, 'cause i broke up with my ex-bf yesterday. And i don't want to lose my friend.. It's up to a person :)
63769
I'm a guy and I don't stay "friends" with my exes.  As Sam Kinnison put it "Oh, friends, like some kind of emotional tampon, only without the sex".\nNot trying to be crude, ladies.  I'll be pleasant if I see them on the street, but I won't ask them for coffee so we can "catch up" on each other's lives.
452711
Look, just because you and him didn't work out as a couple, doesn't mean that you can't just be friends. Me and my ex of 13 years just went out to the movies together today to see "Silent Hill", I paid, he drove. We hadn't hung out for 3 years! I gotta tell you though, we had a blast just hanging out and being friends. I bought lunch after at "Jack-n-the-Box", and he came over to my house to eat it. It was the first time he had ever come to see where I lived since we separated. We have a daughter together, and for her sake, we discussed it, and came to the conclusion that, even though we parted on bad terms, we could set that aside and be friends. She was very happy to know we were being nice to each other. I would never have an intimate relationship with him again, but as a friend, he is a very good guy and a wonderful daddy. Do what your heart tells you. You know in your gut whether or not it would be a good idea to hang out with him again. Just remember that ex'es are ex'es for a reason...it didn't work out. Friendships are always nice to have though if at all possible. Good luck sweetie.
591213
He's your ex, none of your business.  Being friends after relationship is hard enuff without adding something like this to it.  Just stay out of it and let him learn on his own.
33689
Sure. It can take some time, though, if you usedto be in a relationship with this person and no longer are. Friends after a break up is possible as long as you really do display the traits of a true friend. If you haven't been in a relationship with this person and are trying to avoid one, I think you are choosing a more posative option than cutting off all contact and obligations. This person means enough to you that you want to have a relationship, just not the same as it was or what the other person wants it to be. Just remember that this may take time, and that it is on the other person's schedule, so try not to get discouraged or have your feelings hurt if they aren't automatically ecstatic about the idea.
432573
I have to agree with springo 88, it is an unwritten rule in life that if you want to date a friends ex, you don't!! and if you are serious about it, you must tell your friend everything and ask if it is okay to seek a relationship with their ex, and If they say they would be uncomfortable with that situation..then you better respect their wishes and find someone else or you have no right to call yourself anybody's friend!!! boyfriends and girlfriends will come and go but you should be loyal to your real friends and find someone who will not cause any tension between you and your friend..best of luck to you !!
116892
Yeah it can. I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago - it was a mutual break-up but we remained as best friends. Sometimes when I hang out with her, I feel that same old feeling again - like a spark in my life that I felt when I first dated her... but I'm not taking that step though.\n\nYou can regain that feeling, but to get back together - that's another question...
481226
If you do not want to get back with your ex then you should not be involved with him and his present partner as just a "FRIEND".\nThat may be the root of the problems that they are having that send him running to you for "ADVISE".\nHe feels comfortable with you because the two of you have history and he maybe testing the Waters to find out if you are willing to forgo a friendship and try a relationship once again.\nThe best thing you can do is steer clear of constant contact with them as a couple.
114734
get over your ex and then see if you still want your friend back....
888030
If they were your friends it wouldn't have mattered who you were dating as long as you were happy. I wouldn't stress about trying to earn them back because you haven't done anything wrong. If they want to be petty because you broke up with your ex to date someone closer to you then let your friends date your ex and you just concentrate on being happy with your new man. Friends come and go they'll see the light eventually but until then go have some fun with your new man.
86316
Yes, they're totally possible. No breakup is ever easy but a mutual breakup is less painful and usually ends with fewer or no hard feelings. And yes, sometimes you can still be friends, or at least not hate each other.
963821
For me its cold turkey all the way.  If we didn't work out we didn't work out.  Why do we have to be friends ? We didn't meet to become friends.  Do we really want to stay friends and then double date with our new partners ? Will our new partners be ok with our ex being our friend ? Nothing good comes of it.
27095
As the saying goes " There's no easy way to break somebody's heart" There will always be heartaches and disagreements especially if one doesn't want to let go. What worked for me is remaining good friends with my EX. :-)
331338
You can Ive seen it but I dont think that I could ,Im silly that way.When my daughter broke up with a long time bf she was hurt more by trying to be friends than the break up itself.Her roomates folks split and remarried and they all hang together.Go figure.So I guess you probably could I just dont think I have it in me to do it!
512889
depends on how good of a friend this person is to your ex. If they are best friends then that's breaking the unwritten rule and is pretty bad. If they're just casual friends, I don't think it would ruin the friendship.
647893
Why bother? You have lots of friends. This will just be a "complicated friend."  \n\nLife's tough enough. \n\nFriendly is fine (when you run into him on the street Hello/how are you?/nice seeing you/goodbye). But friends? Too complicated with an ex.