why dont my boyfriend care if I'm with a female but cares if its a guy??
963270
If you are with another guy, he feels that the other guy can take his place as your boyfriend. If you are with another girl, he doesn't feel as if he can be replaced. Because of this, he considers you being with another guy cheating but not if it is another girl.
954924
You should be asking him not people here. If you have not asked him, why not? Is his actions really that bad? Sounds like you are slightly jealous, but why? Do you feel he is attempting to impress another female?\n\nOther than being jealous I don't see a motive for this being a huge issue.
663505
Ok, first your boyfriend looks at other females, it's normal a guy can't help but to look as long as it is looking instead of touching...If you love him, you wouldn't let him go......If he wanted to date someone else, he wouldn't be with you....Just ask him what does those other girls have that you don't.....What will it take for him to be proud of what he has.......Maybe he looks and thinks that you have them beat!!!  Who knows what runs in guys head!!  I caught my man nodding at another girl, talking to another girl, and looking at a girls butt......But he is still with me!!!  Just don't let it get to you......It will all work it course!!!
1040323
hey sorry to hear that,id like to say becareful,sounds like you still young,well im 22 years old girl,if i really love a guy and do care about him,i would never say that bullshit to my bf,i think she just fool around you,or she got somebody else,the most imporant thing is u havent found out the truth now
995238
Your boyfriend should not want to be in a realtionship if this is the kind of behavior he likes to do with his female friends. There is no way you will ever feel better about what he is doing. Sound like he doesn't have to much respect for you or your feeling.
863208
ok let me put it this way, how would you feel if you were his girlfriend and he was holding hands, kissing and laying on another girl??? Exactly - its not very nice. And what you are doing isnt very nice. And he is weak because he cant decide between you two and allows himself to cheat when he is involved with someone else instead of being a man and breaking up. This guy would be a loser long term and you are better off without him.
116930
talking about what? sex? so you care about them, which means you may or may not be in a relationship. i assume you are not, you would have said my boyfriend was talkin with another chic. lets take it both ways:\n\nnot your boyfriend, but you have the hots for him and he knows it: then he has decided that he is a player and that he can have 2 or 3 chics on a string at all times. but its still his business, this is the time you can either decide to 'be' with him or the time to decide that you are worth more, deserve more and can get better. (thats what i would do)\n\nHe is your boyfriend: assuming he was talking with another chic about hookin up, then why play with him? he obviously doesnt care enough about you to not do it.\n\nI would just confront him, say: look fella, i like you, whats up with talking with suchandsuch chic? you trying to hook up with her? cause if you are, you need to go ahead and do it, just dont lie to me about it, let me know so i can start hunting me another man down
831657
Just because he doesn't talk a great deal when you two are together doesn't mean anything. I talk to my girlfriend on the phone for a little while each day, but when we are together I can't ever think of anything to talk with her about, but that doesn't mean I care for her any less than before we started dating and we talked constantly. For guys, after a while we know what you like, what you would like, and all that so we don't feel like there is any reason to just go on talking about nothing. However, that doesn't mean your company is unwelcome. A lot of guys just like the company of the girl they care about. Don't take it too personally.
429761
This is strange. People are allowed to make their own choices about who they want to talk to or not. If he can't see that, you might want to show him that. Then again, perhaps when he talks to other girls, he is playing the field - meaning dangling the carrot in front of the donkey.\n\nYou're only his girlfriend, not his slave. So you have the right amount of freedom to talk to other guys too. Perhaps he could be insecure that he won't 'allow' you to speak to other guys. He needs to gain more confident in himself and learn to trust you. When you two do that, there is no need for resentment and all will be happy. Hope that helps, cheers.
69487
Okay, I am a girl, but don't count that against me for this.  I wouldn't get upset, because I, though I don't have a boyfriend, have plenty of guys that are friends, and I would not suddenly not be their friend and never talk to them again if I had a boyfriend.  So, if your girlfriend talking to her guys friends makes you uncomfortable, just ask her about it!  DON'T be accusing, just say what your feeling - NICELY - and basically, ask her to reassure you that this guy pal isn't more than that.  Just be sure to be nice about it, and should take it fine.
58149
How would you feel if he was cheating on YOU with this other girl?  Stop having anything to do with him, if he REALLY TRULY cared about you don't you think he wouldn't be dating anyone else?  Start respecting both yourself and the other woman involved and just move on from this loser.  All he cares about is getting his peter wet, if he cared about you he would be showing it.
151217
Well, it all comes down to if you trust him or not. If you don't trust them, then that would be a problem. Since you say you think he would let one of his female friends kiss him then it sounds like there is some trust issues there. Have you told him about this and how it makes you feel? I am sure you have, but next time be a bit more firm about it. Tell him that if he wants to be with his friends more than you, then you are going to do the same thing and that you are tired of feeling like you are being placed behind them. Then, stick to it. Find some male only friends, or if you have them, hang out with them as much as you can..but whatever you do don't cheat. Just do what he is doing. A lot of times people can see things more clearly if the shoe is on the other foot. Good Luck.\n\nNo Decibel, it has nothing to do with making him jealous or mad. It has to do with this: If she has tried everything else (specifically addressing the problem to him) and he still fails to see what he is doing, which is making his own girlfriend uncomfortable, then maybe he can put it in better perspective if he had to deal with the same thing. Do you how hyper you got just from the thought of what I just wrote? This asker already goes through that daily with her boyfriend. It's ok for him to have friends that are girls but it is messed up for her to have guy friends? Oh please. Sometimes that is the only way guys can see how completely selfish they are being.
365762
It doesn't bother me. The main reason is because \n1.)I know my man is faithful to me\n2.) I think the girl is pretty hott too
335384
Sometimes I get that way with my boyfriend too but what helps me is that every time I am with him he will out of no where tell me that he is so happy to be with me and that he wouldn't know what do to with out me. You should start doing that, she might still get jealous (cause that's what women do) but she will trust you more
408802
I'm bi, and I'm open with my boyfriend about it but I don't do girls with I'm in a relationship with a guy. It's not wrong it's just u and everyone around u needs to accept that don't feel weird.
656632
Well untill your boyfriend feels as excepted as your friend there will always be that jealousy, us guys are funny that way for example when you fight with your boyfriend you usually talk to your friend, Yes? So that right there your turning to your friend and not your boyfriend, thats one.\nYou don't fight with your friend like you do your boyfriend, that's two. So bottom line your boyfriend thinks you treat him better than you your boyfriend because there are hardly no arguments between you and your friend and there is between you and him. Now you and I both know one is just a friend and the other you love but to us guys even if this were explained to him he still won't see it that way. So for a while and your friend will understand if you explain to him (funny how that works) tell your friend to stay low key until your boyfriend feels secure in the relationship and to try and understand us guys can be real immature sometimes.
298413
I can tell that this issue is really bothering you and hunny, you are tooooooo young for this. You actually sound mad, it was like you were on the phone with me venting while I was reading.\nWell, I am a strong believer in the word and I have read that where the mind is the body follows. Meaning your boyfriend wants to sleep with other women if he hasn't already done so. When he is looking and admiring all thoose other women he is lusting for them.  He shouldn't disrespect you like that and you need to leave.