why do boyfriends and husbands look at other women when they can look at their girlfriends?
952876
Here is the deal. If you are confronted with an attractive man who makes you laugh and flirts with you, you will start to respond to him - you cannot help attraction. \n\nThere is nothing inherently more moral about women than men.
998406
Some people are insecure and distrustful. People often think of their mates as property that only belongs to them. Just as many women accuse their men of cheating as well. Just think of it as one of the drawbacks of being good looking with a great personallity. If you were ugly then you would not be accused so much.
29820
not really, because if they have girlfriends, then they must have something that's attractive and obiously, u see it. u just got to be a little faster. u know what i mean, right?
1056430
Don't take it personally.  It is NOT against you or have anything to to with YOU.  It is just a natural reaction.\n\n Don't you look at other women too?  I mean, aren't you interested in what they are wearing, how their hair style is, etc.?\n\nIt is natural to look at beauty and (like it or not) women are beautiful.  So don't be so hard on him, if he is a open type of guy ask him what he finds attractive about the person.  Maybe you'll learn more about him.  I am sure he loves you and is thinking he is happy to be with you.
588708
I'm a guy, I have a girlfriend, most guys (in general, at least those like me) have a tendency to REALLY like a girl if he's looking at her a lot.. I mean, I may find a girl attractive and my eyes may look in that direction as a reaction, but if its something more than that, a guy might try to hide the fact that he likes looking in her direction out of respect for the fact that she might not want to be stared at... so it can be hard to tell if the guy wants you as more than a friend without asking quite clearly and in private.. not in front of too many other people, something like "what do you think of me, do you want to go out with me?" etc.. some guys are too shy to ask the girl they want to be with out without knowing that they'd approve of them in the first place, a lot of guys end up staying single because of this, and I have only asked one girl out and I've had about 6 relationships ... each one a major impact on my life, I hope this helps.
1077131
Poor thing. Have you been burned recently? I feel your pain. Ok. Mind games. Men have egos, huge egos. When a woman he thinks is his (and 'only' his) is seen with another man, even a friend or anything similar, ego says "Hey, if other egos sees my lady with someone else, I am less of a man. This is unallowable. I should make her jealous to make her focus on me." \nThis is a broad generalization of course, but it seems that this is the case a lot of the times, and guys hate to admit that they are not in control of the situation. Everyone judges us by the kind of mate we can find. If you have a chunky girlfriend, you are a chubby chaser and cant hack a fine chick. If you have a fine chick, guys envy you but also try to ruin what you got. Its a bit of a juggling act, and mind games are just one way to juggle so many balls in the air at once. On behalf of the thinking man, sorry for the mind games, its a defense mechanism.
517419
Men are visually stimulated, so when he is not at the beach, he probably does think about his g/f, but when they see a half naken woman they may not want to be with her, but certainly enjoy looking.
239203
There's no way for this to not be a two-part answer. Firstly, he's right in that it is human nature for males to notice other females *and* for females to notice other males - it's just an animalistic, survival thing.\n\nHOWEVER, it is *exceptionally* disrespectful toward you for him to admit being aroused by looking at other women, or to blatantly look at other women (especially when in your presence.) It is not at all unrealistic of you to be upset by his behavior and ask him to tone it down. He should care enough about your feelings that he won't want to intentionally hurt you by keeping it up.\n\nIf you explain that it hurts your feelings (and probably your self-esteem) when he behaves this way, ask him to be more discreet, and he *still* doesn't bother, it may be time to look into counseling. This is obviously his hang-up, and he may need help to see the effect that his behavior is having on your relationship. Good luck.
66308
Well you gotta look at it from all angles.  Not ALL men are dogs and not ALL women talk about guys like that.  Some chics have been done worngly by guys and they tend to make the mistake of judging all guys by one guy's actions.  I got screwed over by my husband and I, on a daily basis, try to not let that have an affect on how I view other guys....  It's tough sometimes tho
47888
Yes.  As a man when I look at another women I'm checking her up and down and if I see she is looking I quickly look away.  If the woman saw that and came up to me and started talking I'd lay on the moves and try and get her somewhere private.\nAll men with exceptions of course will try and think and do the same.
222452
I must be confused....since when did "looking" become illegal or wrong when you are married.  It only crosses the line when you cross the line to "doing".\n\n"Scientists believe that the part of the brain that governs the visual senses generates more neural activity in men than in women. Maybe this explains why men are said to be more visual beings. While this is an explanation for why men's eyes may wander, it is not an excuse for any man's insensitive behavior.  If men want to enjoy looking at women, they need to learn to do it with discretion and with respect for the woman in their life."  http://www.meant2be.com/ap_087.htm
41782
I know how ya feel, I've had girlfriends who were the same-I got in trouble if I "looked" at a woman! To be honest, he loves you & is afraid of loosing you, It's what ya call "insecurity".
1062132
It is my understanding that ~most~ straight men look at ~every~ woman's body. Tall ones, short ones, fat ones or skinny, old or young; if she walks by, he looks.\n\nI bet they don't hold the door in order to look at your bottom, but if it's there, they look. It's how they're made.
627761
That depends on why you are checking them out.\n\nIs it to get a boyfriend/girlfriend jealous - dumb reason, but then make it obvious\n\nDo you want to spark their interest and hope they come talk to you?  Make it obvious\n\nIf you are just curious about them, but aren't wanting to connect - then don't let on....at least for now...until you can determine if you want to learn more about them.\n\nI would think the only reason one would do it under disguise (as you say) would be that they are shy or not confident enough to deal with the interaction.  OR they are flirting with the concept of cheating....\nI say, just make it known and see what happens next....\nlife is an adventure!
791613
women for some reason are always jealous or bothered by other women when they dont know them. i myself try not to be that way because it is stupid. they try to get ahead by screwing other women.
1079933
because eyes were meant for looking...by looking he's not touching.\n\nwould you prefer if he was touching instead of looking?\n\nfor the same reason wives...look at other men.  i bet you be looking at men too.
334525
gay guys would be looking at men and undress them w/ their eyes. you might think the man @ next table is looking at you, but he is checking out your boyfriend's assets.