illicit relationship?
960175
not with me\n\n:> peace\n.
121537
Not a good idea.  It is possible to cheat on someone without physical activity between you.  How would you feel if your husband/wife was chatting away on the phone with someone and getting all excited about it?  Put a stop to it right away.
185730
Please....please be careful around this kind of person.  Their destructive behavior often spills over to the others around them... BE CAREFUL.\n\nIf he is doing anything illegal, you should report him to the authorities...especially if it concerns children.\n\n"Man of your dreams" is a mistake to be looking for to begin with.  What you should be looking for is a strong, devoted, honest loving man.  If you think he was these things in the beginning, then you should consider looking at you ability to "read" other people.  Your judgment must have been clouded, or the sex was good...or who knows, maybe he just prays on lonely women.\n\nAnyway, you should get away from this guy as soon as possible and not look back.  Inform the authorities if needed and try to get your life back on track.\n\nGood Luck, God Bless ... and stay strong.
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I agree those are what most people think, and the main one is Why? I think it comes down to, did I do something wrong, why did he/she do it? If your friends or family know about it and don't tell you I feel that's a huge betrayal. They either don't want to get involved but I think it's wrong for them not to, because then you look like a bigger fool when everyone around you knows but you. Both sexes need to be honest if they're cheating because it catches up  with them in the long run anyways. JMO
311150
Before anyone can really help with this question, you need to explain WHY this relationship is considered "forbidden."  If this involves an older person and a minor, then the older adult is wrong for pursuing the relationship, and it should end immediately.  \n\nThere are many other types of "forbidden love."  I was in-love with a guy when I was in college who was white (I am black), and it was horrible to want to be with him, but neither of us wanted to act on our feelings.  We're both married now, but I still think of him and wonder, "What if."  I don't know if we would have made it for the long haul, but we would've faced an uphill battle mostly from family.  I was too young, and not ready for that kind of fight.  \n\nIf this is something that can never, EVER be public then the relationship is probably really wrong, and you should probably move on (and quickly).
264059
you don't. but then again, you don't know that he is. if you would have a reason to suspect it, then your relationship has underlying issues of trust.
449045
My personal opinion, is that if you are doing something of a sexual nature with someone who is NOT your partner, it is cheating unless you have the partner's consent.\n\nOtherwise, it is a betrayal. You wouldn't be getting "caught" if it weren't wrong for your situation. You wouldn't be hiding out if it were ok.
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Good point, but first of all, we need to deal with adultery separately to murder and molestation.  The latter two are most definitely crimes, and society regards them as seriously now as it ever has done.  However, adultery is not in the same class, indeed, some, including me, would not call it a crime (I am not saying that makes it right or acceptable, just stating a fact).\n\nI note that you call adultery 'theft', but is it?  Theft usually involves the taking of anothers possession without their permission.  However, in adultery, one is not dealing in possessions, but people, and further more, people with free will - ie: one cannot steal another's partner because that partner's agreement is necessary.  It is not like stealing an object which has no say in the matter, adultery is a conscious and willing act on behalf of both parties involved.  Also, have you ever thought that, in some cases, adultery may be what keeps a marriage together?  Consider the younger wife of a much older husband - he has lost interest in the physical side of things and his wife is extremely frustrated.  It starts to cause problems in other aspects of their relationship, as she blames him for her frustration, and he feels guilty about it.  So, she takes a secret lover, her physical needs are satisfied, she no longer holds her husband responsible for her frustrations, and he thinking she is content with the way things are no longer feels guilty.  They still love each other in other ways.  Of course, the danger is in the secret lover becoming more important than the husband.  Just a thought.  \n\nOne also needs to consider motive.  Too complex an area to discuss here I feel.\n\nOverall though I do feel that as far as proper crimes are concerned, in the UK, we are not tough enough on criminals, and for a long time  the human rights of criminals have been considered at the expense of those of their victims.  Only recently have our politicians woken up to this fact, something society has been aware of, and complaining about for years!  How on earth people so out of touch with society can presume to govern us is beyond me!  But that is another topic entirely.
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If he doesn't tell his girlfriend, then it's being deceptive at least. Unless they are in an non-exclusive relationship, his girlfriend should know. And I think she'd probably want to. And I think she wouldn't like it if she knew. Which means he probably shouldn't flirt with people, online or off.
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Yes i think is is very possible to have that type of realtionship.\n\nNot to mention that is you two would do "it" that would be a crime for him right now.\n\nI think you should wait and enjoy each others company before you start going further.\n\nConcentrate on school and you should do fine.\n\nJust dont rush things.
993396
Yes, trust me it's not funny it's very serious if you have i suggest you report it to the police or seek help. if you don't it might affect you in future relationships.
475071
If you feel like you need to keep it a secret from  him, then yes it is wrong.  If you do it for more than just casual companionship, then it is cheating even if its not in a physical sense.
506308
No, that could be very dangerous. How old are you? I would definetly not have some over you never met and mess around.\nThis is joke right? You got to know how dumb that is. I hope you figure this out.
701690
Good question but kind of perverted
129761
Wow that is really serious. I guess, you should seek legal advise. And please, don't get to intimate for a while. She might have evidence or something that might incriminate you.
1129248
Hey if my girl lets some guy lick her pu$$y, then it's cheating.  Also that $hit can lead to something else.  If i walked into a situation like that, i would bash someone's head in.
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A number of inputs are available to choose from, in fact much has been said so far.\n\nI would like to add that encounters like this entail a very high emotional baggage and usually get twisted in attachments that none of the parties foresee. The point here is whether you or the incumbant will be able to live with the additional baggage or you foresee a possibility of a problem developing. In either cases it will leave an indelible impact on the lives of all involved.\n\nOther than that, what the hell go for it, at least if you do not end up liking the arrangement you could move on and there will be no holds barred for you to commit later.