If you have a personality trait that you are ashamed of, is it possible to get rid of it somehow?
956186
I don't think you should be ashamed of a part of your personnality, better understand where it could come from, why are you acting like that, in which purpose. Try to understand your scheme of thinking. All is a matter of harmony and to reequilibrate yourself you have to fight bad schemes of behaving by the opposite ones, but at first try to understand why you are behaving like that, when you'll find that finally this behaviour has no real justified roots you'll go easier.\nWas just a personal thinking, i'm not a pro, ask a psychiatrist maybe, no shame to ask pro.
7827
I agree with RocketJ. Don't try to change yourself-- some people are more sensitive than others and that's a part of what makes you a unique person. But since it sounds like this is actually bothering you, it's probably a good idea to seek counseling. The main benefit of counseling is that you'll get to talk to a completely impartial person, which your friends & family cannot offer.
989552
No, but it's a character flaw if you consistently exploit it.\n\nHowever, an inability to understand the moral consequences of manipulating others can be a sign of mental illness.
975945
I encourage YOU to get to know the real you.  Find something you are passionate about and great at.  Begin doing that thing.  Are you a good singer?  Consider joining a choir.  Are  you great at math?  Join the math club, or sign up to be a tutor.  When you begin pursuing whatever it is that really drives you, you will meet people who are interested in the same things.  Most likely, they'll notice the real you first, and then your personality will shine through.  I also encourage you to laugh at yourself.  So what you are "ditzy".  You can't change your personality!  You sound like a fun girl.  Don't harp on yourself...  I do stupid things all the time, but I have so many friends because I know how to laugh at myself.  Good luck!!
710816
I make jokes about myself to myself, and I also tell a good friend I trust what I did, and sometimes their point of view makes me feel better, and sometimes they think I'm a fool too and they help me laugh about it.  After a while the humiliation goes away and you forget about it until the next time you get embarrassed.  Everyone goes through it, so don't be too hard on yourself.
1056574
No! I have tried enzyte all it does is make you $50 poorer so like the gals said just be happy with what you have and train yourself to be better in other ways... What's the point of having a big c0ck and having a bad personality.
479232
You cannot. You are what you are. You can try and hide it, but it will eventually come back out.
1001172
You cannot eliminate them just like you cannot get rid of stupid people. The idea is to just get to where you can dispassionately observe them. By observing them you can see what you identify with and what causes misery and suffering.\n\nSee this site to learn more about yourself and absolute concentration.\n\nhttp://phifoundation.org/life.html
1035924
No, however most people are sick of people who feel they are so perfect that they possess the right to make comments on all sorts of situations they know nothing about.  At least those who seek out solutions for their own problems are looking for a solution.  \n\nOn the other hand, there is no cure for being as rude and surly as you appear to be.  Hmmm, kinda makes me wonder what your hiding by puitting others down instead of taking care of YOUR OWN business.\n\nThose of you who are offended by such irrelevent disregard for another human being can click on "Report Abuse" to the left of the abusers posted comment.  Scroll down to the catagory "insulting Other Participants", type in your reason for reporting the person, then press "Submit".  \n\nHomestly, do these people have nothing better to do?
975335
There's no "political sin" and nothing to be forgiven. If you 've been saying what you feel to be true, where is the fault? I will never apologize for my opinions or emotions because then I would only be a liar to both myself and the people I've compromised for. If you feel like you're going the wrong direction, just change it. Don't dwell on past actions with regret because ultimately they bring you to the point you want to be at (if you're lucky enough to find that point), and there's really no other way to get there.
1097728
Act the way you did before unless u did somethin really hurtful
16597
yes. i walk around, my face a gray smiley face, all day, every day, in total shame. please do not ridicule me-- it pains me.
750788
it sounds simpler than it is...but here goes:  Just do it!  If it is important enough to you, you will find a way to accomplish anything you set your mind too.  If you truly do not want to overcome this character flaw, you will not find a way to rid yourself of your prejudices.....\nI am white, and where I live I would be lost without our black population, they are FAR more friendly and hospitable to me than ANY of the white people living here!!!!!
571883
I am a christian and I do know that Im a pretty messed up person.  I can be selfish, shallow, I lie at times and dont even notice it.  Im not going to call my self a worm or dirt.  But I'm not afraid to just be humble and accept that I can be a screwup.  At times I feel so bad about the way I've acted that yeah...  I know that Im white trash.  Or at least I realize that I probably look like trash to people who dont know me.  I think the people who call themselves these things are really just trying to be humble... they just may be doing it the wrong way.
112626
Hmm. Not the easiest thing to do, is it? If you by nature are temperamental that's just who you are. You could do some physical exercises. Run, swim, box. Whatever. That is a great way to let out steam. For some people getting older takes off some edges too.\n\nAs long as the words "I'm sorry" are a part of your vocabulary I think the people around you will forgive you blowing a fuse now and then.
1069199
You joke around to hide your true feelings because you have been hurt so many times in the past that you dont want people to "get to know you"....the "real you".\n\nStop with the jokes, and start relating to people on a civil level.  Dont be the "joke of the party", because after the party is over, your left alone!\n\nGet into quiet moods, (not really, just pretend), and they will start wondering whats going on, THEN, you can start to have deep conversations with people, as they think you are reflecting on your life and things that are happening around you.\n\nIf you stop being the clown, then people will start to take notice about how intellegent you really are.  But, if you revert to the clown act, you will forever be known as that and you will be the "nut case" that comes around all the time.\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse
198083
It may not be the nicest thing for a person to do, however if you hadn't done whatever it is that you did they wouldn't have it to use against you. You can't stop a person from doing what they are determined to do unless you talk to them and they are willing to cease what they are doing. You can either ignore them and what they are doing or move on and own up to it. Your past is who helped make you who you are today and if your a better person now then at least you've learned from it. There is something called karma and wheather it be good or bad, eventually they will get what they deserve.