if i see a therapist or doctor about cutting..............?
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i totally sympathise with you and know how you feel...at the age of 14 i was diagnosed with aneroxia, depression and i sef-harmed (i still have some scars now...3 years later)- i was in denial about all these things but then one day i cracked and realised i needed help....i sat down with my parents and explained EVERYTHING....about what i was doing to my body....how i was feeling inside....and how i came close to taking a overdose.....i was referred to a psychiatrist and was admitted in to a psychiatric hospital for 6 months...im not trying to scare you and tell you thats where your going to end up because mine weren't just about the self-harming but what i will say is that you need to sit down with your parents..tell them not to speak because there is something you need to get of your chest and just get them to listen.....as for you saying that your mum was angry when she saw your cuts...it isnt an anger for example....if you damaged someones property....but an anger that is brought on by being worried, scared, feel like they cant help e.t.c...and probably why you never went to them for help...once your parents get an idea (i wont so understand because no one can ever understand unless they are going through it or has been through it) of what your feeling then get them to take the right steps forward to getting you psychiatric help and counselling....but DONT keep this to yourself.....im not saying its a 2 minute job to fix because even after i came out of hospital after being in there for 6 months i carried on self-harming but i still got to see a cousellor and psychiatrist twice a week.....now 3 years later i no longer self-harm but carry the scars with me.....i wish you much luck
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They cut themselves for the same reasons you do - to stop the interior pain.  So some of them have a clearly identifiable event that happened, that does not lead directly to a desire to cut themselves.  It's not the event, it's the pain they feel.\n\nReality is what YOU perceive it to be.  That's their reality.  Counseling is still the best bet here, and I think you know that.  Be well.
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Everything that has been said so far is amazing, so I won't elaborate much. \nI was emotionally abused as a child, and at the ripe old age of 22 have experienced the spectrum of eating disorders, emotional problems and, of course, medications. As a function of my self-hatred, I began to cut myself a couple years ago. I have since stopped, but still have times where I struggle.\n\nI used cutting as a way to 'come down' from a state of manic anxiety, panic or just emotional pain in general. I definitely recommend getting help through a psychiatrist/psychologist, and embarrassing as you may find it, reach out to anyone that you are close to so that you will have a support system in your time of need. \n\nFrom my experience, I recommend that you try to take the feelings that push you to self-harm and express them another way, that mimics the release of cutting. This may seem silly to some people, but what worked for me was hitting inanimate objects... beating the crap out of my bed, tearing up magazines, etc. Although this does not completely satisfy the urge to cut, it can get out some of the excess adrenaline and frustration that may be fueling your urge in the first place. One other thing that worked for me was to imagine that it was my own child or someone I love who was cutting... to imagine the precious skin and flesh of someone else being mutilated and what a mockery it is of how amazing we are... try to think of your body as your shelter and a precious friend that you want to protect...\n\nI hope this helps... I haven't cut in a long time, and I'm glad that I stopped (even though I still struggle with the same old demons). I look at my scars with a sense of sadness and protectiveness... as a reminder that destroying myself is not productive or beneficial. \n\nAnd always know that you are loved :) Always.
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If you don't cut, please stop berating those who do or offering your two cents.  You have *no* idea.  People don't cut just to feel.  That might be one reason for one person but not the whole reason for everyone.  I have Bipolar Disorder.  I started cutting when I was 12 and continued to do so for about 15 years on and off.  When I went through a mixed episode, I just *had* to cut.  The intense emotions and anxiety were too much to handle and I had no other outlet at the time.  So, I took a razer blade and cut my arms and my legs.  It was so bad that I carried the stupid thing around with me through high school.\n\nI still get the urge when I'm really stressed out.  I do anything else I can possibly think of.  I read a book, I watch a movie, I go for a walk.  The thing I've found that works best is cleaning.  Yes, cleaning.  It's a brainless activity that helps you get energy out in a non-destructive manner.  I clean until I'm tired or until I feel better.  Just find *anything* else to do.\n\nIf you're still underage, talk to your parents.  If you can't do that, talk to you school counselor.  Anyone who can get you help.  It's not a matter of how deep is too deep.  It's a matter of finding someone to help yourself.\n\nPlease email me if you'd like.  I do understand.
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http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html\n\nCheck this link out.\n\nCalling someone who cuts "emo" or "stupid" doesn't help the situation. Self Cutting is a very serious and real mental illness and not a joke or matter of intelligence. You aren't a LOSER if you are self cutting, you simply need some help and counseling. You need to discover or talk about WHY you are cutting so you can learn ways to avoid the emotions that make you do this to yourself.  When you see someone talking about doing something to themselves, try to be a little more understanding. People with this and other conditions, often cannot help themselves.\n\nExample: There is a woman who has a PHD and is highly intelligent, but also as Asperbers syndrome (high function autism). If she is not watched carefully, she will eat glass. She can't help it. She can't stop it. It is something in her brain that makes her do what she does. Treatment helps with control, but people with these ailments cannot be held at fault for their conditions.\n\nThink of this, what ever has made this young woman cut herself, would you like to go through it? For all you know she survived a traumatic event that would have killed you outright. You just don't know.\n\nI hope that the link helps with the asker of this question and those of you reading it.
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Hi \nThere should be nothing in your life that would want to make you harm yourself do violent things to yourself either. I don't your counselor will be able to help you. I would find a very good phytricist and get the proper medication your general does not have the expertise to deal with your kind of disorder and you should have a professional specializing in your particular disorder for your best outcome. I have my own issues nothing like yours but I have found a Dr specializing my issues and I can tell you that I have never felt better. I hope this help!
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Okay, as for the cutting, that is sometimes a relief from some type of anxiety or pain in your life.  Cutting allows people to have control rather than the real pain they have which a person cannot control.  As for the self-mutilation, some people are into that.  It is not necessarily a bad thing although it could lead to infections and rarely something more serious.  \n\nI think the best thing is to let her come to you when she is comfortable unless you see it going out of hand.  The minor things are not necessarily horrible although to most people it would seem that way.  If it bothers you too much you may want to bring it up and talk with her about it and see if she will open up more to you.\n\nI was a cutter!
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She needs HELP so , how can you assist her BE HONEST with her about what you feel she is doing to herself , then guide her to some professional or talk about why she is mutilating herself, maybe abusing going on from within family ???
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Possibly but i would suggest you consult your GP! or I can Chop it off for you????
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well don't cut on your arms. wear pants. if your going to cut do it in a place that isn't seen. remeber, some scars are forever. when you're old you may not want/like having them. putting make-up over a cut only draws attention to it b/c the make-up defines the crevice. if you aren't in counseling, you absolutely need to be. and as painful as it may be, if your mom sees your cuts and scars she'll be more willing to get you the help you need and most certainly deserve.
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I'm not a doc, but just went to mine with this question for my soon to be born son. CUT
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it depends on what youre cutting yourself for
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Your doctor should have already used this tool, if you were honest with him/her about your "self-medication", but if that is not the case, here's where you can check:
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Get a therapist to talk you out of it.
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you can ask a therapist for help!
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It's a disturbing idea that someone would actually cut into their own bodies as much as if you were doing it to others.  It's also a sign of mental instability.  In the military, who would want to team up with someone who had such deep seated issues?  If a person does have the urge to cut themselves, they should seek help through a therapist to deal with the underlying problems.  Cutting is not the answer, just like alcoholism or drug abuse.
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if the counseling is not working, find a new counselor, psychiatrist, etc.  some people go through quite a few before finding one that works well for them.\nmy own history is rather full of self cutting and as for myself i just sort of outgrew it as the desire became less and  less over the years...but it wasn't like i outgrew it in a year, it was more like ten.  and some of it gets hard as to what to count or not.  i always greatly enjoyed skateboarding and always skated better when i was depressed and thinking of cutting myself, so i guess it was a f*** it if i get hurt thing going on there.  i also went through numerous piercings before i realized i was doing it since it was more socially acceptable to have a hoop than a self created scar.\nas for understanding it...its not really something you probably can, people either seem to understand it (cause they have been there) or not.  it was almost like self medicating for me, like a reset switch that would refocus me and i would feel better for awhile after wards.  it definitely wasn't a healthy habit and i came close several times to killing myself which is scary now to look back on but at the time wasn't bothering me all that much.  most cutters i have known though, there "habit" hasn't really gotten worse, meaning that, a cut was a cut and there wasn't a drive to make bigger or more cut/s intentionally next time.\n...it felt very "real," i felt "alive" again after doing it, and able to focus more, it was like i could snap myself out of being depressed by cutting myself.  being yelled at about it didn't help at all, if anything it made me feel worse.  though i was fine if i felt like someone was talking to me, trying to understand why i did it and not being overly judgmental about me for it.  so i would recommend very neutral conversations about it with her for awhile.\nwriting really helped me alot to work things out, though it never stopped me from cutting myself...but a writing hobby can't hurt any.  you might want to try to determine if she is taking "trial" runs at a real suicide attempt, though really try to be very neutral and diplomatic about this.\nits also something that doesn't really seem to ever go away 100%, i am rather fond of my scars, though i know many people who are ashamed of theirs, and i still think about it ever so often but for some reason just don't do it.  i guess i should add i was always most prone to cutting myself if i realized i was going into a depression, or when i was coming out of one, so maybe that might help you determine when she is most at risk, though i'm sure it varies for different people.  anyway...i don't mind talking about really, so feel free to email or message me if you want.  hope this helps some.