Should I just go ahead and divorce my wife instead of giving her the separation that she's asking for?
957423
na just let her have her way. she will get tired of separating the bills eventualy.
920077
use a common friend to get to your ex-wife. i think it's very noble of you to try to work things out among yourselves. if your ex-wife still refuse to accept the fact that you're actually doing her a favor by resorting to peacefull means, then you have no choice but to do whatever would be necessary for the sake of your child. you need not feel guilty then if the court decides in your favor because you have tried your best to warn her.
168749
No. Sometimes people change and circumstances require divorce that is best for one, hopefully, both parties.  It just makes you wiser and experienced.  Good luck & never give-up!
762629
Now what exactly is she unhappy with?  My guess is she's not giving you the full story.  Did she suddenly decide that a married life and the responsibilities that go with it, is not what she wanted in the first place?  Was she upset with you because you were gone and she was feeling lonely?  Is there another man in the picture?  If you are even going to try to save your marriage, you need to do a heart to heart talk with her and find out what she wants out of the marriage.  If she wants out, then I guess she has made her choice.  Not much you can do about it then.
884239
She's exclusively yours.  Until then, she can go whereever she wants.\n\nIf you're worried about the messy divorce, sign a prenumptial agreement.
461970
Well, if you're willing to leave her and can manage on your own, or have someone who can help you, you can file for divorce. Only you know if the pain is worth the wife and what she offers. However, I think she's wrong to do this, and if she ever blames you, because of your condition or something, she married you like this. she knew what she was going to be going through.
355985
I'm sure leaving her alone isn't the answer you're looking to get, but continue to be her friend, and if she wants to talk, be there to listen to her. I wouldn't push the issue any further regarding her getting divorced, or the two of you getting together. Just hang in there and see how things progress on things going on in her life.
183985
She's afraid to be hurt again, obviously you both had problems that led you both to separate. Have you both discussed these problems? Are you both willing to change whatever it was that led you to split up? Or maybe she is afraid to let go entirely, I know that is what happened to me. Sometimes it's better to be with someone than to be alone. You both need to sit down and discuss these issues. Have you tried any counseling--together or separate to try to figure all this stuff out, love and marriage are very complicated things and most times we need a third party to be objective. Good luck and God bless.
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
764261
Well you are going to want a divorce after this anyway, so go ahead and call a lawyer.
804171
Her issues are not your concern anymore.  U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else.  Concentrate on your marriage instead.
807667
This is a hard one to answer.... Theres no point in calling the wife back unless she can get back to the kitchen quicker than your daughter can get down the stairs so I would recomend the daughter option. Although I feel sympathy for your situation I do believe you may be slightly insane allowing your wife to leave the home and get a job.
868505
It's not wrong to want her but if you're getting a divorce, u might as well sleep in different beds or better yet, one of u move out of the house.
161538
"Desperation is a stinky cologne"... I was desperate about 3 years ago.  It was the ugliest thing you ever saw.  Divorce is always ugly... but let me tell you that if a woman has made up her mind about a divorce... its made up.  To make it worse, she decided a long time before she actually told you so it's set in her mind and it won't be undone.  My ex told me we wouldn't be getting divorced if had done this or hadn't done that and the more I worked on those things... the angrier she became.  Why, because she made up her mind a long time ago and and she doesn't want you screwing up her justifications.  Let her go do what ever she is going to do and you just work on getting back to God... because that could be all that saves you from doing "something very stupid"... I can hear it in your voice.  I could go on, but I really just want to answer the question you posed "what to do when my wife loves another and kicks me out but i still love her?"... You have to pray for God to show you what he wants you to get out of this and to pray for her and the well being of your children.  Don't worry about her love right now... just God's and you will be in a much better place a year or so from now.
476093
It's true that you shouldn't make your decision based on your feelings. If ou find that it's really difficult for both of you to move on like this, I would advice for the divorce.It isn't the nicest thing to do but if you feel you want to, go for it.\n\nIn other words, I would suggest that both of you take another try on your marriage and try to mend it. After all, you've been married and there's a reason to that. You marry because of the love you have for each other. Think about that. Think about the reason why you did it in the 1st place.\n\nYou do not just marry her for no reason. Try using that to mend your marriage. Talk to each other and understand each other better. Counselors sometimes can't be trusted and that's where your money runs. \n\nI really hope you'll think about it. Hope you'll last together and be happy! Hope this helped! Good luck!!
562334
Well, I am sure it didn't come out of nowhere. There were probably a lot of signs you missed seeing. Well, you can either work to persuade her to not divorce, or you can divorce.
1040878
Separation does not mean divorce.  You still have to get the legal paper work done.  Check with your state to see how this is done.