How do you help a child deal with ethnic slurs at school?
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Well as you know, Black people rarely stick together.  According to our ancestry, we are all African by birth.\n\nI would suggest contacting the principal of the school and the other child's parents to have a sit down to rectify this situation.  Let the child know that is totally uncalled for.\n\nFurthermore, I would suggest that the child being slurred try to ignore the comments.  Easier said than done, but if one ignores foolish acts, it makes life a little easier.
868877
i have experienced these kind of children in my teaching career...these children r perfectly okay, they just need more attention. i think u should let ur child to copy the words from the book and write them down 10 times...maybe when u dictate she doesn't understand the word...maybe the teacher pronounces the words in a different way. maybe ur and her teachers accent is different. u should make her habit of reading the book herself and aloud. see how she pronounces the words. You can show her programmes on tv...show her cd's of sesame street.
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Make then have a silent time lunch.\nTell the teacher to bring a conduct card to the lunch room.\nAsk the principal to stop by once in a while.\nHave a lunch detention room,but send one at a time.\nHave assigned seats.\n\n\nIf you have one or two rowdy students move them to a table by themselves.\n\nIt is possible that this behavior has never corrected,if so it will take some time to correct it.\nYou have to show them that YOU are  in charge,not them !\nWe are creatures of habit.\nGood luck !
352900
call mall security, in most states foul language is a misdemeanor. and things like that can show your kids how not to be if explained well.
312343
The same way you deal with rowdy students in any class.\n\nLay out a set of simple rules, clearly posted in the classroom. Do the same for consequences, and be prepared to follow up on them. Try to provide consistency with other teachers in your building...the same rules and consequences, posted, and enforced in the same way can really cut down on misbehavior.\n\n"No speak that English stuff" is a remarkable cop-out on their part. They know exactly what they're doing, and they'll understand the rules and consequences just fine (I've been an exchange student struggling with the native language, so I know for sure exactly what they're capable of). \n\nP.S. For parents' notes home, your administration should be able to help you get simple checkbox behavior letters written in the parents' native language, for you to MAIL to them. Be sure to also include checkboxes for excellent behavior, and surprise the good kids with letters at home praising them, too.
125398
Ask him why he acts the way he does.  He might be acting this way because his fellow peers are encouraging him, or he likes the response he gets from others. Make a conscious effort to listen to his explanation. Allow him to express himself to you without interrupting him. This will allow him to feel as if he is really being heard out. Then respond by letting him know why he shouldn't carry out in that manner. Explain the trouble he is causing in the classroom. Explain the consequences and possible consequences of his actions. Explain that he should find a different time to joke around. A time in which his learning and the learning of others won't be impaired or disrupted. Give him some possible solutions as to when it would be better for him to joke. For example, possibly during lunch or after school.\n\nOn a side note, you might want to ask how he feels about his current living circumstances. Is he acting out for attention? Is he upset about something in the home or maybe something else going on at school or in his life that is causing him to lash out in a disruptive manner at school? \n\nWhen one is 15 there are hormonal, psychological, physical, and other changes going on. There is also all sorts of peer pressure. Not only from his peers, but from the faculty and the family. Again, so try to get to the root of his actions and work it out from there. Don't be on the offensive and don't be defensive he says he feels you are doing something wrong. Just nodd your head and listen to him. Then explain how you feel. Remember he is aware that you are his parent and that you are in charge. There's no need to beat him over the head with that point. Hopefully you will both come to a clarification as to what needs to be done. If you seem to still have problems then I suggest seeking a counselor who can possibly give you more insight. Good luck. :)
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Talk to your parents and principals Try to tranfer out if you can .I would go to the principal and tell him your being verbally abused and what's happening in the class He has to investage .When this happened to my son I went to the princapal and then to the school board The teacher was sent to anger mangement.
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If your child is getting into trouble for "backtalk," it may be HOW she is saying it, rather than what she is saying, that's getting her into trouble. Think about when you have a job. What happens if you show "attitude" to the boss? Is your daughter yelling, not including polite phrasing (e.g. "sir," "ma'am," a softer tone of voice, etc.), and/or using aggressive body language? Then no matter who was right or wrong, the teacher will respond to the negative tone, not the content of what your daughter is trying to say.\n\nI use the following to explain this sort of situation to both my own children and to my students: Imagine I am driving down the highway, following all the rules. Somebody driving very close to my car, in the next lane, is eating breakfast and talking on the cell phone and not paying attention. When he/she wipes out, guess who else has a totalled car. Yelling at the police and the insurance company that I didn't do anything wrong does not make the car pop back into shape (oh, what a miracle!). Instead, if I wait for my statement to be taken, try to be as polite as I can to the authorities trying to sort things out, and waiting until the right moment to state my case, I stand a better chance of quick and accurate help.\n\nThe key point of the story being... why wasn't I noticing that the jerk in the next lane was acting that way in the first place, so I could have avoided the whole situation? Why isn't your daughter paying attention to and avoiding emerging trouble?\n\nSchools are NOT democracies. They are gentle dictatorships (just like a good family should be). Democracy is earned... which is why only adults in good legal standing can vote. Your daughter needs to accept the teacher's authority, just like she should be accepting your authority as her parent.\n\nChildren under the age of 18 don't have adult rights such as free speech, etc.\n\nChildren have the following rights:\n--food, shelter, clothing, etc.\n--physical and emotional safety (e.g. a loving home environment)\n--in the United States, access to a free education to help prepare them for the adult world\n--the right to freedom of worship (e.g. following family religious practices) as long as that right does not infringe on the rights of others\n\nHere is an excellent list that extends and defines elements of these rights:\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Convention_on_the_Rights_of_the_Child
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Sounds like you need to watch what you say around him.  Punishing him would be silly considering he was just repeating what he heard and probably had no idea it was wrong.  Kids are like sponges - they are learning from everything they observe.\n\nI have found in situations like that that if you seriously expalain that what he said was not polite (I would explain exactly why - that saying that word is a vulgar way of talking about a girl's private parts, but I'll leave that to you).  It may need to be firmly repeated a few times.\n\nIf they get a rise out of you, that will only make it more exciting to say.
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I think it depends on what age they are.  If they aren't pretty well grown and feel the teacher is wrong, they should hold their tongue, tell their parent, and let the parent do the yelling.
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I've tried using humor.  I tell the kids that the day I look like an octopus I can help more than one student at a time. Otherwise they have to wait their turn.  The kids catch on eventually.  I heard one of my students say to another "Does she look like an octopus to you?"\nWith 3 and 4 years olds is a different story but it might work.  Why don't you try giving them a number and call them by number to get your help.
622233
Absolutely not.  Most parents would consider that language rude if said in the family setting so all the more reason it is inappropraite in a school setting.  I would not be happy if my child where in that class.
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This is a tough, but fairly common, issue. Obviously, your administration is either clueless or powerless in this matter. A couple things might work. First, I would call the child's parents and ask to meet with them and the child after school. Explain succinctly and directly what the issue is and how they would like to see the matter resolved. Often, however, a child who behaves like this has issues at home, so that may not work. So, I would try to keep him after school with you to help out in the lab or the classroom in some manner. Give him some responsibilities, which could help boost his confidence a little, and engage him one-on-one in whatever topics interest him during this time. You can subtely approach the issue of his behavior, but not in a forceful way. I find that having that kind of relationship with a student can help manage behavior without having to resort to severe disciplinary measures.
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Ooh this is a tricky one!!\n\nYou can either make a big deal out of it by shouting and screaming at them, giving them a reaction and making them think they have pressed another button......or..... you could ignore it!! up to a point!!\n\nWhen my eldest son said his first swear word I told him to repeat it because I was so shocked. I sat him down and explained to him that I didn't appreciate the language and if he continued to use such language he will be ignored....... completely!!\nThe following day he swore again...... I didn't say anything to him but when he tried to talk to me, I turned my back on him. He asked why I wasn't talking to him and I told him again that he had said a rude word........ it took about a week but he got the message!!
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Let her use the language in a communicative way since the start, this encourages them to continue with their learning process because they feel they are actually learning something and they will be proud of sharing what they learned with their family later.  Depending on her decision as to why learn English and her actual level devise a short conversation, pick out some words you can introduce as vocabulary before you teach it to her; have her repeat the conversation after you a couple of times and then take turns being one of the persons in the conversation.  When she gets confident enough have her substitute some of the information with her own examples or add to this conversation by providing more details.  You can pick out a grammatical point from the same conversation, for example "pronouns" and do some more exercises based on that.
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Talk to the teacher. Have some kind of meeting with her. Have Cody leave the room. Talk to the classroom tell them Cody did'nt choose to be born like this. And someday some of us will have children and what if one of our children came out disable. Ask the class that.Some will say I'll leave it at the hospital or give it away. Then you or the teacher tell them know one left you. They might say well nothing wrong with me. Then say if theres not then why would you make in front of a person who has no control of the way he was born.You had know control the color of your eyes your hair short tell or color of your skin Ask well you pick on a 2 or3 or4 or5 or6 year old child. Because thats what Cody like. If your teacher don't do nothing about this go to the princple do something. And who cares what these bullys are saying about you like him.
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Who's the child?  Be the bigger person and move on.  You will only make the problem worse.  If you really can't handle her bossiness, talk to your teacher or couselor.  Good Luck!