IS my bf too ''soft'' on me?
967455
If you love him, then you're not using him. If you juist have him around because he's caring and generous then you are. I don't think he's so afriad of losing you as he is a sweet natured man who loves you and appreciate you enough to treat you like a queen. How lucky you are!!
921611
Sounds like he's testing the ground. He wants to be close to you but he's making sure he doesn't tread where you don't want him to be. In otherwords, he doesn't want you to feel pressured. I think he likes you, and has great respect for you, especially if he's giving you an out like that. Perhaps you should ask him why he keeps saying that, and see what he says. Your gut should tell you if you can take it at face value.
1010924
So it is ok when you are tired and not interested, but not ok when he is tired and not interested?\n\nMaybe there is something going on here that isn't about you and your needs...
678195
5 months is still young so its hard to say what his intentions are ....good thing is that usually if they are just after s?x then once they are put down a couple of times they will go off and try elsewhere unless they feel theres a good chance they can talk you into it fairly quickly.  I think he probally cares for you and just pouts cause its something he wants and your not giving it to him...us guys are funny like that sometimes especially if we feel we are truly in love with that person.  Don't do anything your not ready for and if he loves you he will wait and respect you.  Just tell him that you love him and know he wants you to go further but explain that your just not ready yet and when you are he will be the first to know but ask him to lighten up on the guilt trip cause its making you feel bad and pressured.
221661
So stop it already! Hurting your feelings with what??>....um,.. lemme guess, words? Are you certain that he is doing it intentionally, or do he think he is not. \n\nFeelings get hurt only when we allow ourselves to feel that way.  I strongly believe that you can also choose to not let whatever it is he says hurt you by ignoring him, not taking those times so seriously and tell yourself he is just messing with you, and blow it off- give him a taste of his own medicine and see how he reacts. \n\nBottom line, you control emotions, get upset, feeling hurt,     are controlled by you. You decide what will piss you off and what hurts. Change the way you think and perceive things, don't take things so personally, remember freedom of speech?   \n\nYour bf probably gets a kick watching you get all upset. Dont let him see you hurt or upset, don't let it faze you, like you never heard him, I bet it will stop. \nMaybe you are just being a cry baby? Maybe blow his mind the next time he is hurting your feelings and just crack up laughing hysterically then stop, telling him he is so hilarious. Well, at least you will be laughing, that feels better than feeling hurt, or sad or upset. Is this making any sense at all?\nI hope you understand my point, and you find your way to toughen up your sensitivity.
1036958
He's playing you for guilt and sympathy. Next you'll give in as expected.  A real man will respect and value you as a whole.  He should be able to wait and walk the same walk, and just don't talk.\nWatch your back and don't get hurt and taken so easily..girlfriend!
84058
it depends i've been with my babby's daddy and he tells that i should diet and bought me a gym membership but i know that its out of love.  I guess the way you can tell is "does he make you feel bad and unworthly?" if he does than no and i would find someone who appreiates me for me
1013736
I assume you've started dating recently, because I only texted my bf back when we were starting out. It wasn't coz I didnt like him, but it's just the way I do things. Some people need more time to get used to others and are too shy to begin a convo with their partner. Maybe he's like that too. Just give him time. If you've been together for a long time and you feel he has changed you need to confront him.
119751
I personally think he is being disloyal to you .  as far as why isnt he as intamite with poems ect anymore plain and simple he isnt that into you.  He still wants to keep you hanging on perhaps because you are a good catch therefore he doesnt want anyone else to have you.  when people are jealous they usually have something to feel guilty for.  Anything that starts out hot and heavy very quickly always ends quickly.  Although you dont want to hear it He isnt that into you I would advise you to drop him before he drops you.  Take your time and dont look for a quick fix they never work.
998951
no..but judging from what i've heard personally about your relationship...you deserve a lot better, ben. *hug* a LOT better. besides look at ya...heck, darn, man...get out there! but wait for the right one to get serious with.
92141
If he really loves you like you love him then he will respect the fact that your not ready to be physical with him.  If he pushes you to be physical then he isn't the right guy for you.
569730
If you have to ask because you don't like how he treats you, he probably is. \n\nIf you don't feel like he is using you and he just looks guilty, he might just be nervous.  Some people feel nervous and guilty just because they think they are not perfect/are too self critical, so don't go just on that.
547859
Sounds a little over protective to me!!,If your questioning this sort of behaviour, why would you want to be with him??
645237
I think its romantic when a guy wants to take it slow because he is implying that he really cares about you and doesn't just want to get down and dirty straight away and then throw you out of his life! Aaawww! So cute! Just chill girl, don't get all clingy because that's not what he wants.  Give him space but not too much and he should do the same for you.  Relax, take it slow and enjoy it!
747884
Am sorry to say so,but it seems he's not very much in love with you (even if he says that he is) if he loves you,he would create time for you ...no words such as "busy"when it comes to a loved one...consider breaking up with him,and see how does he react...if he freaked and changed his way with you,give him another chance ,if not...then you find yourself someone as sweet as you are...you deserve much more than phone chatting.BTW if caring didn't come from deep inside of him,you wouldn't be able to MAKE him care.
590928
in a relaxed setting, when there calm, etc. if you know that your bf is a good guy i wouldn't worry about your family not accepting him. if its otherwise, i'd think of some crafty way to do it.
47465
"now seems like he only pays good attention to me in bed" - That would be your problem. I have no insight into the mind of your boyfriend. However, I would say (coming from another man) that he is after just one thing. Then again, perhaps I am wrong. It is hard to be sure about such a concept when it is through a written medium and we've never met the person. Good luck anyhow.