im the new girl at my school and 99% of the guys like me. Ita hard fitting in and focusing. what do i do?
956701
Be nice girls it sounds like she really is having a tough time. But it does seem that being to popular is not one of the worst things that can happen to a person. JUST TAKE IT SLOW EVERYTHING SHOULD BE FINE AND CALL YOUR DAD OFTEN.
84664
It really depends.  Why do they all 'hate' you?  Is it something you've done to them?  Probably not as girls can be a vicious breed.  It makes life easier if everyone liked you, and wouldn't tease you, but I'd say if you don't put your concerns on whether they like you or not, and try your best to concentrate in class.. they'll probably get bored of you (if they're harassing you).  \n\nMore drastic choices would be talk to the teacher or principal... see if you can switch your classes.  And know if you can't, that this isn't a permanent (I hope not anyways) class.  This fall you'll get a whole new classroom of folks - hopefully not the same girls.\n\nBest wishes!
406935
I have also been in that situation before. Moving to a new school is quite intimidating, but don't fret. The more that you have confidence in yourself and your situation, the faster you will be able to adjust. The best thing to do is join school clubs and volunteer for activities in your school. Being part of a group is a fast way of bringing people together and bonding with one another. Also, surf the Internet and look for local hangouts in your town, most cities have a website advertising the local hangouts...etc. Also, don't hesitate to speak with your guidance counselor at school, they are trained professionals there for your help, whether academically, or personally, they can help give you tips about coping with your move, and even give you good advice about how to meet some people at your school, I guarantee you that they know the local hangouts from hearing the teens talk about it in school. Of course, don't hesitate to talk to your peers, you can initiate a conversation with someone next to you in one of your classes or at lunchtime, lunch is designated as the social event of school!! Good luck, you'll be fine and have a kicking social life in no time!!
362105
Just be yourself if people like you they like you if they dont then they dont. Stay true to yourself and you'll make it through high school. Good luck and enjoy the time believe me it'll go by faster than you want it to.
938059
for starters, no one will be 100% like you. everyone will do something in differently from somebody else...\n\ni suggest you think through these pointers: of all the friends you've made, think of the ones who actually made your day enjoyable. or those friends who listened to you when you were angry or sad. or those friends who you feel so comfortable with you let down your guard. even if they're different from you, these are the friends you should spend time with and get to know them better. you don't make instant friendships unless there's chemistry.\n\nand, i wouldn't suggest you avoid your friends, because there's no guarantee there'll be a person like you in high school. remember everyone is different so just mix around and enjoy :)
1110781
I had to do the same thing and it sucked. But fortunately, middle school is a pretty good time to go to a new school.  While some people will stay in their "clicks" from elementary school, most are trying to get new friends too.\n\nThe best thing to do is join a sport or club.  This gives you easy access to new friends that you can bond with and something fun to do as well.  \n\nAlso talk to your neighbors in your science/math classes so you can study together.  I still have study partners from 7th grade as friends.\n\nJust be open, don't be on the defensive and don't be scared of rejection :)\n\nGood luck!
131962
In seventh grade, I have the same problem( but with a girl, and I'm a boy). Don't come on really strong, but maybe sit by him, get him to like you, and then you can show him your true self, when he likes you and you can tell.\n\nHope it helps
955161
I would say try to focus on another goal....like exercise or school...just to take your mind off the loneliness.  I recently had my heartbroken...and it was HORRIBLE, I had school to keep me busy and tried to workout, but in the back of my mind I couldn't stop thinking about how much its sucked to be alone.\n\nSo look at yourself in the mirror and just think...GOD I AM GORGEOUS...and put a cute outfit that you have no business wearing..(like something usually reserved for a special occasion.)  Wear crazy earrings and your favorite perfume.  Keep your 23 suitors on hold, thats what guys do, they play the odds...your a woman, you take the pickens and don't settle.\n\nAll these jerks answering your quesiton are terds looking for points most likely....I genuinely hope that you feel better, just because I know how you feel.\n\nGood luck girl, just be confident and strut around like a supermodel...it will make you feel better.
290185
I wish I new then what I know now.I remember being so afraid to start a new school. Being so self consious of every move I made, as if everyone was watching me.It's a horrible feeling and I feel for you. But just remember this. By nature people are followers.And they will follow whatever lead you give them.What I mean by that is,if you go into that new school,your head hung low,shy and without confidence. Then that is the reaction you'll get.Few people will want to talk to you and school will be a scary place.But if you go to that new school with your head held high,showing no fear.People will come a flockin.\n  If your lacking self esteem, not to worry it can be learned.Self talk is the key to it. Keep forcing yourself to get out there and be out going and sooner than later you'll notice it becomes second nature.GOOD LUCK !!! And go get Um Tiger!!!!!
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Don't worry too much about it. If you work on it by starting out, just saying hi to a girl in your class at school. (Don't let yourself get upset if you meet a few girls who are jerks--they probably don't realize it and they will get over it).\nRemember that you're not the only one who has a difficulty with this. Keep happy, even though it might be difficult sometimes.\n1--Say hi to a girl at school\n2--If she's friendly, ask her about one of her classes. (Just try not to get on her nerves, cuz, remember she's not used to your talking to her.)\n3--If, one day, you notice that she's sad, say, "Hey ______ (whatever her name is), I noticed you look sad. Is there anything I can do to help?"\n\nHope this helps :)
1002986
Get a new look. Don't change who you are, just try something different. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. \n\nBe yourself. Everyone probably says this, but it's true! No guy wants a girl to pretend she is something she's not. \n\nDon't cuss. It turns guys off most of the time. \n\nSmile. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. It'll say to everyone, "Wow, she's a nice person!" \n\nFlirt a little - not like crazy, but a little bit here and there. \n\nTry to be around him often, such as sitting near him. \n\nShow off a little when you're around your friends, but not a lot because then he might think you're just silly. \n\nTry to make lots of eye contact - and when you do, smile! (Guys often don't look at girls in the eyes, so looking into theirs when they're talking shows them that you are interested in them). \n\nGo up to him and talk to him. Try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have in common. \n\nTell him how you really feel about him once you get comfortable talking together. \n\nBe a brave person and stand up for who you are, and what you believe in. This will catch his attention, and his respect
493425
i was really nervous around guys until i realized that they weren't jst these big intimidating things, that they could be thinking the same thing i was! if u see her in the hall, say what's up, or something and she'll think ur friendly and be more comfortable around you. make sure u get 2 know her before u become committed. patching things up w/ her sis can't hurt either. and if she turns u down, move on! i know u've probably heard that a ton, but if u get over it quickly, other girls will appreciate your independence, and who knows, it might even help u get the girl!
255799
- meet new guy\n- focus on school work\n- join a club/play a new sport (you'll either meet a better guy or you'll forget abt that guy cuz of your new club/sport)\n- spend more time with friends (cant make you forget about him. but atleast it can help you reduce stress that hes giving you)\n- do you talk to him? if not. go talk to him more. you will either lose interest in him that way, or you'll find out that he's such a great guy you shouldnt even be thinking about how to forget abt him
288277
you're the new girl on the block and therefore the center of attention at the moment. It will pass, though. Have patience, and try to make new friends.
435206
hmmmmmmm.. ok tell me if there is any guy in your life( in ur school)ok wht do u thnk about him, u thnk about him? u smile wth his mistakes? at night u think about him?u get worried if he is all rite or wht he is dng know? if u smile while thnking abt him, or always try to be more beautiful and attractive among the other girls if he is also there,if u are crazy to know about his likes/dislikes..... or u shy while viewing him.................... madam these all are symtoms ....i know becoz i am also having such kind of feeling fr someone in my life but he s................\nif u love some one don't wait fr any longer tell him without any discussions............\n              best of luck..im with u
957665
I know to be a popular person at school is so fun, but not a big problem if not.\nmore popular, get more extra-activities, for guy, join some sport activities. study hard and get high grade. gatting around with others and more talking (conversation), have some humours or funny stories, it will help you more popular.
544004
The best advice I can give is: Be yourself!!!!!  Don't worry what others think of you. Boyfriends will come with time. You won't get anymore homework than you can handle. It's a huge step in your life. You will make so many changes in your life and this is just the beginning. Do your best with your schoolwork and prioritize. School is more important than boys and going out with friends.(even though it doesn't seem that way now). You will see that when you get older!  \n\nGood luck with this transition and all others!!