is the fact that my bf has never said he loves me, a reason to leave him?
953211
If he is caring and loving. This is the key in the relationship.\n\nThen do not leave him for that. \n\nIt is very cultural and very family oriented. It is a taboo to some but if you must need this particular assurance then, ask him what is the reason he does not acknowledge, at least by saying "me too" when you say to him "I love you".\n\nThen see if he acknowledges, in few days test him, if he does not say some thing close to it then you decide what is more important to you, him caring and loving or just the words.
764821
your situation seems like a very complicated one.. maybe the next time he says that he loves you, you should ask him why u arent together then. i dont think its a good idea to continue to do gf bf stuf with him unless you start dating again. he might be just using u and u really dont want to get deeper than u already are if he is. maybe theres a different reason he broke up with u.. fam? but i dont noe. if i loved someone else i dont think i would be able to date another person at the same time.
4053
Because you never had someone that loved you enough to want to talk to you at length and want to know how you feel and resolve the issue. This is not something everyone has. Go with you're heart, if its telling you to leave then leave if its telling you to stay then stay and work it out.
178636
2 things.. one - may be he loves you but is afraid of commitment... two - may be he doesn't love you at all and it was just a slip of the tongue the first time he said it. Observe his actions and how he treats you. You'll get hints from there.
379995
try "leaving him" for 2-3 weeks and see how he reacts; sometimes WE get so busy, we sometimes forget what's important in our lives.... try giving him this "reality" check and see what happens. If he loves you, then he will see the errors of his ways and WILL change. If not, then you did the right thing.... dump him!
1134165
He is telling you that he loves you... so he is probably frustrated that you keep asking him to reassure you of this fact.  Why, coz he did not say it lovy-dovy enough... please... if he didn't love you he'd leave you and your baby.\n\nThe fact that he is doing his obligations is the best way he knows how to say I love you... asking him to show it like a woman shows it would be like him asking you to show your love by giving him a bl@w j#b every day....\n\nAppreciate what you have, and if you need a little tenderness just ask him for it... but don't expect if all of the time... it's not fun or easy for most guys.
414745
If you really love your bf and you are willing to make the effort to make this relationship work, I would suggest that you go on holiday with them.  Get to know him and his little girl and spend time with them, you would be able to see if he is truly the man for you.  I always thought that long distance relationships never work, until I found myself in the same position.  If you feel that you are going crazy and that your loosing your patience, go for a walk on your own and cool down.  You and only you can decide whether you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy or not.
873242
In order to make a relationship work, there should always be compromise. I think you and your bf should sit down and talk about having such relationship and find solutions that would satisfy both of you..like visits once a month or...eventually you moving on with him or something. But if you think breaking up with him would be easier then by all means do it.
34020
I think if he loves you, it's not hard to motivate him. You yourself, and your relationship should be a great motivation to him.  \n\nThis could be a good test to find out how much he loves you ...\n\nTry to let him know that you don't appreciate he's not doing much. Ask him about his plans for career and future life. \nTell him that you care and will support him in his decisions. \n\nIf he shows zero interest in these things, he probably isn't  falling for you much, and it's up to you to consider whether to stay with him, or whether it's time to say goodbye.
421497
umm.. i don't really know the situation.. but i mean.. if he says he loves you.. do you have any reason NOT to believe him??
747884
Am sorry to say so,but it seems he's not very much in love with you (even if he says that he is) if he loves you,he would create time for you ...no words such as "busy"when it comes to a loved one...consider breaking up with him,and see how does he react...if he freaked and changed his way with you,give him another chance ,if not...then you find yourself someone as sweet as you are...you deserve much more than phone chatting.BTW if caring didn't come from deep inside of him,you wouldn't be able to MAKE him care.
296541
Well, how long you've been in the relationship has a big factor in telling if he loves you. Also, go on our feelings, but don't let them take over. I myself have an extremely active imagination...\n\nBut sweetie, you also have to trust him. If he hasn't done anything in the past to betray your trust, that you know of anyway, then chances are he won't and is a genuinely good guy. And also, does he tell you he loves you a lot? Is he affectionate to you? How much time do you spend together, etc. If he rarely sees you, it would make a little more sense if you get a little worried, not that it has to mean anything. Just talk to him. If he does really love you, and respect you and your feelings, tell him you love him so much you don't want to be hurt by him, and want to really know his feelings for you. If he really loves you you will know it. Just don't ask him too many times because if he is true in his intentions, it will upset him to be questioned so much. Good luck!
720987
No relationship can survive if there is no communication. So now you have his attention and he knows how you feel and you know how he feels, this isn't such a bad thing. Swallow your pride and keep the communication going. In the future telling your boyfriend what you need out of the relationship is not being over emotional but should not require breaking up to get his attention. Relationships are a give and take sittuation and that is the only way they'll work. Give it another chance but make sure to have a heart to heart conversation once in a while before you get to the breaking up point.
304167
im confused about my guy as well...i guess no way out.. unless u wanna ask which i dont think is the best idea... do wht im doing - waiting, if he loves u, he iwll tell u someday...just b patient
995967
I think that maybe you scared to say it. You don't want to let your guard down and get hurt. Whatever the case may be if you do love him you should tell him no matter how hard it is for you. Love is not something you want to let slip through your fingers because you couldn't tell him how you really feel. How badly would you be hurt if he left you? Not showing him the proper love he deserves may push him away or make him want more out of the relationship that you aren't will to give to him. I f you love him don't let him go, it will be way harder to let him go that to tell him how you really feel.
1058005
Has he told you that he loves you? If he has, then he is probably patiently waiting for you to express your love for him, so he really won't care how you do it, as long as you're authentic. If he hasn't then he's most likely too shy and is wondering how you feel about him...
665216
Don't break up with him. Just because he doesn't love you now doesn't mean he won't in time. Plus you might have wanted to say it privately in person, it's much more personal, and he might have been embarressed to say it in front of his friend. I know its annoying, but boys will be boys. Try again later, when it just the two of you. If he still doesn't say it back then give him some time. Not all people fall in love at the same rate.