We already have 2 kids. I saw I want another one, but he says he doesnt want anymore.but jokes about haveing 1
962272
Cant get you,better correct your question.
528211
wow.  I can't believe you would separate yourself from your kid.  I want to be around my kids all the time.  Sounds like you are being selfish.  You must see your kids as being too much work, so you send them off half way around the world.  Maybe you shouldn't breed anymore.  Save the little love you have left for the 18 month old.
1001270
you need to talk to her and explain how you are feelin about having another child...maybe you 2 could come to a compromise
801774
easy life ?? he obviously does not have a clue to how exhausting it is to raise kids  i have 4 !  and to tell you the truth i did it all on my own although i was married notice i said WAS . i never got any help . deserve the privilage???  he is privilaged to have such a wonderful wife/mother.. also you should point out that the time he would have while you get well deserved sleep would be great bonding time for him and his daughter !!
885769
You have to remember that you guys already have 2 kids together. I think you should try to work the marriage out, you've probably tried talking to him, but if that doesn't work out then you two should seek counselingl.
1020801
It sounds like she "knows" what he is up too but would rather pretend otherwise.  She may be wanting to have another child to "fix" things which wont work.  Or maybe just because she is maternal.  Either way - I would suggest you just sit her down and talk to her and let her know that you are there for her but that you are concerned for her because of all the stress she is under already and that she may want to consider how much more stress she would have in her life with 4 children should he decide to leave her for one of the "other women".\n\nKathy
328979
For your sake and that of your children, move on. He obviously likes having the two relationships and that is not likely to change. The sooner you leave the sooner you and your children will heal. With all the lies this man has spun its amazing either of you are still with him. He has proven he has no intention of leaving. Don't waste more time on a relationship with no future. Find yourself a respectable man and live a happier life.
717524
How the heck can anyone have X children?\n\nIf these are the children of a former spouse and not his biologically, then he sounds like a wonderful and generous man who will be good to you as well- so leave him alone.\n\nIf these are HIS children with a former spouse, then he sounds like a wonderful and generous man who will be good to you as well- so leave him alone.\n\nEither way, this is not an argument you will EVER win.  Even if his kids are taking advantage of him- it's none of your concern - So leave him alone.
1141540
None I want to wait a while before I have any.Congradulations on your child any way,how old they!?But I want either 2 identical twin boys or just 1 boy or 1 girl thats it!
899438
I think he just wants to spread his lil seed everywhere..  does he financially support his kids?  If so WOW 4 would be alot to pay. Can he afford to have another to support?  I would stay on the pill and force him to use condoms.  You don't want to be a single mother and not get any financial support from him..   Be careful..
572545
this man wants to have his children with you, so you should be hounoured.. he's pretty serious about you then!!  so smile girl..at the end of the day  u can control how many kids you have. I think it's cute..lol  it's 50 -50 with guys and girls wanting kids from what i've experienced.
408696
He wants a baby. You don't feel ready. Ask him for a wedding first. Kids need two parents, and they need the legal protection of having their parents be married. And BOTH parents should be ready. Having a baby is a LOT of work. It isn't all baby powder and bassinettes. They cry at night, they get sick, they need a lot of attention, they need potty training, they need schooling, they need good role models, etc. Your kids are there forever. If he can handle all that responsibility, then go for it. But get married first. If he can't commit to you first,then he's not going to commit to a kid.
206765
Oh can I relate to/with you on this one!!! I have four kids. He has one. I love this man dearly but making my four walk a narrow line and expect the best is great until it comes to his son who can do,say,etc. what ever in the heck he wants! I simply told him about it. After all, I can live without a man or find another one but my kids are all I truely have and can not be replaced. Equal...the whole house and everyone in it. No one is more special then the other when it comes to discipline! If you are in the wrong, it is our job as the parent to help set the child back down on the right path! Good luck and remember, eventually your kids will notice and hold it against you for not doing or saying anything! Good Luck!!!
90781
no ,i don't. and why would i want 2. if it had any importance i would know.   of corse try and interpet a toy smegal(or galum what ever u call him) comeing 2 life and trying 2 bite u.
275134
What does your heart tell you...also make sure your in love with him and not just his children or you just may end up being the baby sitter, if when you say he has 3 children, means they live with him.  Also beware of baggage, I don't consider the children baggage, thats part of the package, but the ex is another story...has he been divorced long?  Whats the child care arrangement?  does he pay alimony, child support and need your income?  Other than that if its a family your looking for...I would think he would be sincere in wanting a partner to complete his family.
43786
you can drag out the relationship but if he makes those kinds of comments now they won't ever go away. don't tell yourself you can just deal with it either because you don't have to and if you do it will blow up in the end anyway. not to mention, you're going to have a child to consider too. do you really want to raise a child in that atmosphere?
814623
Perhaps be grateful for the child you have and respect that he is honest enough to say he doesn't want anymore and start planning the rest of your life together.\n\nI don't want to discount your desires.  However, what does this say about your comittment if you are considering leaving because you are not getting your way.\n\nIn some respects, it sounds like he already has another child, and she is threatening to leave if she doesn't get his way.\n\nYou've got to either find a way to convince him to be enthusiastic about having another child, or he has to find a way to convince you to be enthuisatic about keeping the family size just as it is.\n\nWork on that, and leave the childish thoughts about leaving to the kids.