Advice request re: friend not paying back borrowed money?
967518
:I would suggest that you send him a gentle reminder in the the mail.\n \nAlso, I don't know if men handle things this way, but, if it was one of my girlfriends, then I would let them know that I miss her friendship... and that I'm sorry that "there is this issue" between us now. And that I would HOPE that she wouldn't let that get in the way of her responsibility to pay me back the money that I lent her in good faith, to help her when she needed it most, and maybe that one day we would be able to move past "everything"...\n\nI will say a prayer for you though. \nGod bless you.
767042
Just pay it back. NO legal problem, but make up a story as to why you thought you were getting the extra money.
709277
My opinion....File the forms.  If/When they find your friend, she can negotiate a payment plan with them.  If she doesn't then they certainly will file charges.  But these are creditors!  All they want is their money, so I don't think they will object.\n\nThat assume they even bother to investigate it.  ID Theft is a huge crime and they are so swamped that they can't possibly investigate every single complaint.
923161
Not from me, you can't. Lending institutions like to lend money to people who show some capability of paying it back.
673335
Contact them immediately and set up an arrangement to pay them or borrow from friends or family to pay them back.  They can garnish your wages.  When they do, it will be on their terms.
1157674
Contact all credit companies NOW. Tell them you Will not guarantee any additional purchases and you want the account closed. Follow up with a written letter. Keep a log of everyone you call with time and date.  Request a copy of his loan balance and the agreement you signed.   You need to establish a "cut off" point so if the credit companies continue to extend credit it will be at their own risk not yours.\n\nNext ask the "dead beat" if he has anything to sell you to pay off his debt. (Get anything you can. Something is better than nothing.) make a list of what you get and how much it is worth. Send that amount into the credit companies directly. Don't give the money to the "dead beat".  Ask for a lien on his car. Tell him that will help you get a loan if needed to pay off his debt.\n\nNow it's 10 days later. Ask the "dead beat" how much he can pay each month towards the debt. Don't put him into a situation he can't live with it will just be a bigger problem.  Now call the credit companies ask ask for a reduction in interest rate and a payment schedule that you can afford.\n\nNow comes the time to KICK yourself in the butt for doing a "verbal" agreement and letting it go this far.
894848
Ask your friend for the help in paying for the storage unit but be sure you are the one responsible for paying for the monthly rent. Put it in your name not his. Also pay him back as soon as you can. It sounds like your friend is being supportive of you and he should understand that you may need help until you get back on your feet.
305985
She should contact the hospital directly and explain the situation.  Somestimes (but depending on the hospital), they will be willing to forgive a portion of the bill, and work on a payment plan for the rest.\n\nIf not, is your friend part of any community that would be willing to put on a fundraiser for her?  Is she part of a church?  Is there a community of Colombian-Americans?  Perhaps a block party?\n\nGood luck!
435879
Unless your brothers friend was a signatory to the bank account then it was theft. If he was a signatory then unfortunately nothing you can do. If the police will not prosecute even though it is theft then you can sue for return of the money.
728999
You can maybe have a friend agree to call you to make sure you do what you've committed to. And if you don't then you have to pay that friend for everytime you back out. I know this sounds a bit silly but it just may work. Kinda like a curse jar. (you know, people who have a problem with cursing have to put money in a jar everytime they do it) except, agree to pay your friend a fixed amount if you don't committ to a particular goal.  You'll probably end up sticking to those goals if the thought of losing your money annoys you enough.
1136737
it depends on how long you have been together. If it has been awhile then it shouldnt be any problems to have to ask to borrow money. if you guys are just starting to go out, i wouldnt advise on asking so soon for money. But if she is a loving and understanding girlfriend, she wouldnt mind helping out her honey.........as long as she knows she will get it back. Good Luck and God Bless!
542837
unfortunately, unless it was documented when the money was loaned, there is no way to legally bind them to repayment. Do you have a baseball bat?
1038472
yes ask for it back! it is yours! People should pay off what they owe and should stand by there word!
429866
I think you're past being nice to this woman. She obviously has no problem abusing the system to get what she wants, and I find that completely unacceptable seeing as women who really have stalking problems can rarely get the help she needs. You need to do some research concerning the law in your state on several factors. In my state I know you could take her to small claims court if you can prove that the amount you lent her was indeed a loan and can provide adequate proof that it was so. The burden of proof would be entirely on your behalf so I warn you it could be a long and sometimes unfruitful process. As for her claims to the authorities that you are stalking her, you need to stay away from her period. Any contact could and probably would be used against you. If they approach you for an alibi, provide it, but other than that stick to a don't ask, don't tell. This is only my opinion and if you're really serious about this situation I say approach a lawyer through legal aid to see what all your rights are.
134200
Did you make up a contract where You and the person signed together?  (Also if you had a witness that signed the contract, it makes it much stronger in a court of law)\n\nIf a contact was made up before you loaned the money the date of expiration on it, then all you have to do is contact a small claims court for under $2000 and settle your dispute there.  You will need to add money to the loan to cover the court fees but that is allowed.  \n\nIf no documention was made for the loan, then it is very difficult to get the money back, but you could still threaten to bring the person to court, or to break their legs :)
1083874
Stick to the original deal.  If your friend's whiffling on wanting his cue back he's probably going to whiffle on giving you your $200 back, too.
1036670
It certainly can't hurt since it may be the only way of getting your money back.  The cost of filing for small claims is minimal.  Any documentation you have pertaining to the loan (promissory note, e-mail acknowledging the loan, etc.) will help your case.  Try to get something more than your-word-against-hers; something that proves you actually loaned her the money.  Good luck!