BF went away for a week, never called, should I forgive him?
959350
Although it may have been the ADD, also guys just want to spend time with they're guy friends. I just went through this I know EXACTLY how you feel. My guy hadn't seen his friend in over a year, i got a couple of text messages and he as well forgot to call. I was heart broken. My uncle explained to me that its not that he was ignoring me or avoiding me, it was that he hadn't seen his friend in a long time and he wanted to do "guy stuff" with his best friend. Because I spend a lot of time with my guy it was hard for me to understand that he could spend time with someone else. Anyways, I forgave him and things are back to normal, always tell him how things make you feel. keep a journal or something every time something happens write it down, you don't have to address it but if it becomes persistent then talk to him about it. It helps and he will listen. Life's too short. Love and learn. good luck.
694277
I think that if you to broke up, it is a good idea to see why.. I went threw this before. You should avoid all contact with him for a few weeks no matter how hard it will be. Then in two weeks if you feel the same way then talk to him about it. Usually when he is writing or texting to you it is his way of checking on you. of Course he does not want to see you with anyone else or being happy without him. It is normal to MISS someone you spent alot of time with but take a few weeks for your self. You will be happy you did.
292206
I think what you did was within your right.  You talked to your bf and he said that he talked to her about it and it didn't stop.  I don't want you to not trust your bf but there is a chance that he never said anything to her.  I had a similar situation where my ex-bf's ex-gf kept calling all the time for advice.  I realize they were just friends but she would call at all hours of the night becuase she had a fight with her current bf.  I talked to my ex about this and he said he would talk to her.  One night she called around 3:30 and I picked up the phone.  I told her that I wasn't happy about her calling this late and my bf had already talked to her about this.  She told me that he hadn't said anything to her at all.  So with that long story ;) that was my point there is a chance he didn't tell her that you had a problem with it all.
253917
My advice is don't pick up the phone when it's him calling.  He wants you back because he's lonely and he hasn't found anyone else yet.  It's hard to be lonely, I'm sure you felt like you wanted to get back with him when you first broke up, but if you are really over him and don't want to endure more weeks of fighting, just don't pick up the phone, so you can let go and so can he.
721610
Personally I don't think you should take so much fault on yourself. I understand if you did something bad and he is having troubles with that. But every war fought has to have two sides. \n As far as what you should say to him. I think you should let him know that you need an answer. You don't want to do this because you feel guilt about the break up in the first place. But see he needs to either forgive you or not. He has you over a barrel. You are hanging onto his coat sleeves and he likes that. He now sees that he has a new power over you. This may or may not be the case, but it looks like to me that he still loves you. If he is still kissing you and hugging you like nothing ever happened then he isn't entirely ready to part ways himself. Stand your ground with him. This may result in him leaving you flat out but to me that's better than the not knowing and he was going to do that anyways. It might hurt for a while but you will be fine and you know that as well as I do. The world is to big to never find another. Be strong and I hope all works out. God Bless.
663183
wait..well u should've waited a bit also b4 getting involved but it's ok wait for a while now and if he doesn't call u do and dump him >:]
889760
Well before begging for forgivness what did you ? was he a bf ? or just a friend. ? Sounds like you need his forgiveness and he doesn't wann talk too you. \n  Here is what you do.. be a strong woman drive over to his house and talk to him face to face . That way he knows you are turely sorry. then after you apologize leave him alone for about a month ..let him heal and then if he doesn't come around  move on.. you don't need a psychic or a reading you need someone to talk to...and if you want you can contact me.\n   Hope I could help.
777110
Your friend feels hurt and betrayed by your actions when you dumped him for the loser boyfriend.  It sounds as if he cares more for you than the other guy ever did.  Keep this in mind when dealing with the friend you could trust.  He's not the same guy who treated you so badly and he probably will not react in the same way.  Give him a chance.  \n\nIf you want to rebuild the friendship, you need to give it time and take small steps. Trust is the fastest thing to lose and the slowest to regain. Back off for now.  Leave him alone for a week or so, then if you still want to speak with him, text or email him that you've had some time to think and you're wondering how he's doing.  (Absolutely DO NOT do this if you are not totally sincere.  You've hurt him once already and he doesn't deserve to be hurt again.) If he answers, then you have a dialog.  Ask if you can speak to him on the phone.  Tell him you know that you did was wrong and ask for his forgiveness.  Most importantly, let him know how much you miss him.  Tell him that you'd like to talk to him again later.  If he agrees, then ask if he'd meet you somewhere for a coke or something.  After a few times of talking to you and seeing you, he will start to see a change.  That is what he's looking for.  When you feel that the both of you are ready, then find a way to be alone with him.  Tell him how you feel.  Most importantly don't rush him or yourself.  Friendship is built on trust and trust takes time.  Best of luck.  Hope this helps.
92592
Feelings are hard to understand.  My best advice is to give him time.  Give him space and do not call.  If you have changed, this is your time to prove it and lay off for a little while, if there is hope for the relationship, it will shine through.  However, be mentally and emotionally prepared for him to not come back.  In the end, this is not the last guy you will ever date, you're life might have just begun.
780444
Don't call him, just don't. There is no reason for it, HE broke up with YOU. YOU are a wonderful person and HE was too stupid to realize it so there is no reason for you to go calling this moron. You deserve better than that and you never need to grovel to any man. No woman needs to grovel to a man ever.
882376
You can't get him to talk to you, he has to decide that...however that's not stopping you from apologizing...either go to him and apologize in person (whether he speaks ot you or not) or do it via email...then let it go...\n\nYou screwed up, but it also doesn't sound like that relationship was a good one and you're trying to convince yourself it was better than it was because you don't like being single...\n\nApologize if that's what you feel you need to do...and then put the situation behind you and move on...if he ever wants to communicate with you, he'll let you know...but face it, if someone had done to you what you did to him, wouldn't you probably hold a grudge for a while? Most people would...
232839
You are honest enough to realise that you have done something wrong to someone, which itself shows u have taken responsibility of it. You cannot immediately confront him as iam sure he too is just recovering from whatever it is you have done to him. You have to wait, be patient. Once when the time is right, when things are a bit silent, you have to talk to him and get it over with. Meet him alone in person and in the first instance, start apologising  and then u owe him an explanation on why u had to do it. And last, tell him how awful you feel about what u did. And wait for him to react, listen to him, positive or negative...it doesnt matter..as much as you have admitted your mistake, give him a chance to let whats in his mind to come out. You have to take it from there, i guess. If that person has forgiven you, then great..but if he hasnt, and goes on abusing or accusing u and making u feel that you have sent him to hell, well...listen to it and simply walk away..you cannot force him to forgive you...\n\nYou did your  part and i'll bet u will feel a lot relieved. It wont irritate you in ur mind that you didnt clear it up, so well done, you have done ur part! pat urself for being brave!!
477845
I agree with all of these other people, here, but have you talked to him / them about it?  Maybe he hasn't realized that is what he did, if it was just a lunch date or something.  If you had gotten involved with him romantically, and that is the situation, then there is no mistake, he's a knot-head.  Maybe he'll ralize his mistake one day, but don't let wondering about that issue control your life.  ife life to the fullest, and THEN if he comes crawling back, THINK about MAYBE taking him back.  Forgiveness is always the best course.  However you CAN forgive someone without letting them walk all over you.  Forgiving doesn't mean you have to let him back into your life if you do not fully think you should do so.  I hope this helps, if it does, please choose it as the best answer.  Also, please feel free to message me on Y! messenger as digitalmythology.  I've always been a good listener / councelor, or so I've been told. -dm
818012
Depending on how much you bugged him, he is probably waiting for you to give him a call.  But it's probably better to see him in person.  That way you can apologize for how you behaved in person.  Remember that people aren't always perfect and if you want something done a specific way, it is best sometimes...well to just do it yourself.
1079980
2 weeks is a long time to go without speaking to someone. maybe he needs a long cooling off period. some people like to be alone when they are mad and maybe he needs to sort out his own feelings.\n\nwhen he is mad he is not going to call to see if you are ok, probably just because he is mad and not thinking about it.\n\nthe best thing you can do is wait it out for as long as you want. then move on if you don't hear from him.
482819
After he has gone home and hopefully your last day is on a Friday, from his office, phone the speaking clock in either London or New York, depending on what side of the pond you live on, and leave the phone off the hook, your revenge wont be known for weeks, hopefully. It works and it really f**ks them off, it also works on ex's phones as well, if they cheat on you. REVENGE IS A DISH BEST SERVED COLD.
140880
You should of came before the ex a long time before this. Forgive and forget him.