I spent Thanksgiving with my ex and the kids because we decided for the sake of our children?
968201
Too bad you can't get back with your husband. I'm sure the kids would benefit greatly.
1108788
if you and your ex are still friends that is great and if she is willing to work with you on the scheduling i would say go for it.  your right your daughters are getting old enough that they are going to be doing more with their friends and developing their individuality.  i know it would be hard for me to move away from my children and i probably wouldn't be able to do it but my children's fathers are complete a***s and wouldn't go out of their way to help anybody out.  if your daughters want you to go obviously they know that if you move it doesn't mean that you are moving out of their lives and that it is a good thing for you to go.  i'm sure they will miss you terribly and there will be alot of late night calls saying they miss you and want you to come home but as time goes by it will get easier for all of you.  if you don't go is this something that you will regret later and wish you had done and if it doesn't work out moving can't you always move back home?  i guess you just have to weigh out the pros and cons of going and see which would be the best.\n\ngood luck with your decision!
614659
I honestly you and you're ex should sit down and talk about it.  I mean, obviously you have a past and if you are both reasonable people you should be able to come to some sort of cconclusion.  You're kids are smart, they will understand at  a later age, but now you have to treat them like kids and let the adults figure out what is best.
13166
I am divorced two years now and get along with my ex for the the sake of my child. We both have put aside our differences and work together to assure our child is given the best environment possible. We talk about any decision that will affect our child and work it out. We are both good people, just not compatible together......we do it for the love our child. You have to!
191351
That just shows how grown up you both are.\nif you can get along just accept the fact and move on as for the kids they are innocent players in this thing and should not be made to suffer. yes  i have an ex who is the mother of my child and we used to fight all the time. but we moved on she has a B/F and i have met another G/F but the main point is we found someone who made us happier and i am still a big part of my one year olds life. we get along as freinds for his sake because he is not to blame for our problems. your ex needs to grow up a little and stop acting like a child himself when you have children it's time to stop acting like one and grow up.
748563
i feel your pain brother, and yes it is true. my ex did the same s--t to me. i have3 kids. pay more than that per week and also provide medical,dental,and eye care.\nthe real kick in the ass will be when her NEW boyfriend(unemployed also of course) moves in and you end up supporting his ass too.\nkeep your cool and remember that the children come first.\nGOOD LUCK
914844
I, my husband and  kids visit my parents home on Thanksgiving Day.  We also, visit his parents on Thanksgiving Day. We make it a priority to be with our loved ones at this time of year because we don't always see each other throughout the year as we live in different towns and have jobs, etc.  So, we catch up on Thanksgiving Day.  We reminisce of days gone by. There is always good food and memories to last until we meet again.  Happy Thanksgiving.
760732
I am very thankful that my family are all coming for Thanksgiving.Also that my ex. will be with us.(divorced 3 years,after 23 yrs.married--drugs)Happy that the family grew from 10 to 15 in just 3 years.That God allowed me to be with my Mother on here passing, and will make me strong on this Thanksgiving, the first in my life without her.Hopefully all that were invited will show up, if not may they all be Blessed...You, too.(sounds like God has a plan for you and your sister)...Happy Thanksgiving.......
793659
I have 3 kids and lots of nieces and nephews. So on T-day dinner we ask each one of them what they are thankful for. \nThe answers are so great. one says, "I'm thankful for my Thomas the train blanket", while an older one says, "I'm thankful that my parents adopted me and kept me from harm". \nOut of the mouths of babes!!!!  I love this part and the innocence and truth of children. Gives me chills!!!! \nHappy Thanksgiving to you!!!!!
296010
Perhaps you can talk to him and see what you can sort out. It would certainly be better if he could tell you earlier so you can make plans for them. It will be an ongoing issue for your relationship so you need to sort things out both with your kids and his kids. You want to avoid having a situation where he perceives that you are asking him to choose between you and his kids.
252012
ARE YOUR KIDS ALL GROWN NOW.. you bet go for a holiday and enjoy yourself .. do some things you'd like to do that you couldn't before.. you have had 8 kids wow.. you deserve a holiday any way .. live it up and good luck  for you .. have a great great time.
101171
Take this from my experience.  Move out and let yourself heal and your children too.  You will be lonley, but the time alone will allow you to think of what you really want and it take this time to spend with your children. You need to take care of YOU and your Kids most.
1152580
The best way to deal with this is to take your self out of this situation. By completely cutting yourself from any contact or relationship with your ex, even money.  My ex husband has done the same thing. I avoid him as much as possible unless I absolutely have to talk or see him. Which is usually during holiday visits. And these usually end up with like you said, him disrespecting me.  I don't ever call him or communicate with him. Also the best thing I ever did was avoid the child support issues.  I believe most of the fighting with ex's are over money issues ie child support.  I think this saved a lot of pain for the kids sake.  As they got a little older, the subject was brought up but then the fighting started, We both said, its not worth fighting over.  My kids emotions are more important then money. What we did is set up bank accounts for the kids, if my ex wants to put money in there, then its between my kids and him. It saves so much emotional games and the kids win. BTW: When the kids become teens, your relationship will probably get better,  the both of you will realize your resentment for eachother will be the last of your problems. The teen are going distract you from those emotions. Its happend to both my husband his ex, & me and my ex. We actually HAVE to talk now, but its all business, and has been civil. For the four of us. Good Luck
883835
Ive got the same problem with my -- 'out-laws' But luckily for me they are going abroad this year so we are safe. Next year might be different though cos we've had some turbulent times and I dont think I will ever feel the same about them again.\n\nI would try and keep it nice for the children we have but if it weren't for them I wouldn't be bothering.
339002
My ex-husband and I have a daughter together and we have a great FRIEND relationship. When you have children you are commited to that child by a bond and the love you ONCE had. You will always have a realationship with that person if you love your children enough to look past the bad and work together for the better cause. I wouldnt worry unless he is having sleep overs!
365986
be a good parent to my kids
806940
Aww, don't feel so bad you did at least remember right? It sounds like you were playing with your child and doing things that veterans fought so you COULD do them. But what I did was woke up and kissed my husband and told him thank you because he is a veteran. I looked out at the sunny day (bit cold here but sunny) and sent a prayer over seas, praying that God keep the men and women over there now safe. I then did as you did and me and my hubby watched and played and laughed with our blonde haired blue eyes children because WE CAN DAMN IT (lol) What a wonderful thing the vets from the past and today give us eh? The freedom to laugh with our children WHEN WE choose and play WHEN WE choose and teach them of religion WHEN  AND HOW WE choose. Then we went and placed beautiful red, white and blue flowers upon my grandfathers grave and I told him thank you also, why? because I can!!! Huggs sweety and don't be so hard on yourself!!!  Why be? When you were only enjoying your day and child because you can. You remembered and somehow I think people remember every day, I know I do!!!