Me and my boyfriend of 4 yrs are planning to get married next year. He works contrucion and I'll be in Nursing
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Stay in construction for the moment is my advice.  You keep your nursing job too.
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I would have a serious conversation with him. It would be a shame to wait another 5 years just to hear again what you're hearing now. Why doesn't he want to marry you? I would think that the prospect of marrying the person you love would make you work harder towards your goals if you know that you will be married after. Talk to him. Let him know how you feel. If marriage and children are important to you then he needs to know. He may just be nervous about commitment, but if he really loves you he will need to face that fear. Im sorry but if he doesnt feel the same way then you need to move on. I know that will be painful but its better than wasting the next 5+ years of your life hoping he will change. If he agrees to marry you, make sure its really what he wants. You will be miserableif he married you because he felt he had no choice. Best of luck.
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Your talking about being with this person for the rest of your life.You both need to get everything out in the open.Talk about what you want to do in the future,and what both your interests are.Ask them what do they like and want and work towards those things together.Some things they want and like,you may not want or like,but if you too really love each other you will adjust and work it out.Compromising is a key ingredient in marriage.
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I dont think being engaged is a bad thing, especially if you love each other, definately wait awhile after graduating before you get married though. College is good because you see how you each live, and can work through any problems early on.
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Well, seems to me you all need to spend some more time together!  IF you all are really serious about getting married then you all should be at that point in your relationship to communicate well with each other.    It's ALL about communication, trust and love.\n\nIt'll put your heart at ease to give him a call and meet up face to face to talk about everything you two are feeling right now.  It's a BIG step to take and everything should be out in the open with you two and comfortable with your decision.\n\nGL hun and hope all works out for you two!
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hun...if you believe in GOD, it shouldnt be such a problem.\n\nmarriage is not always about money...once you both married, GOD will lead you both to a better life! believe in that!\n\nlike my self with my husband now,, he didnt have any job yet and still looking...but a week after we married, a job called...and now we're living our life better.\n\nand your relationship has been going too long...its about time for you to step to the next level!\n\nfear is normal...but the only way we can get tid of it is by facing it and go on with it.\n\ndont mentioned this reason to your couple, he might get offended...but being supportive and always pray will give you both a way.
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get married and a job
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Having a ring on your finger doesn't mean anything if he doesn't want to marry you than you can keep that ring on your finger for the next decade! You just said that your too young to marry than why should you worry yourself for having a ring? All that matter is that he is loving you and your relationship is healthy!! Why do you want to leave a guy whom you call great and loving!! Do not put this 4 yrs of relationship down the drain do not make that mistake than you may regret it later!!! Give him time he probably wants to make himself secure enough financially and career wise before to ask your hand in marriage!! And if its really bothering you than you should sit down with him and have a nice talk get it out of your system you will feel much better!!
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My promise ring last year from my boyfriend who is now my husband : )
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I agree, it's probably not the most logical place to ask "is it a good time to get married"... only YOU can answer that.  well, you and your boyfriend.\n\nYou are on the right tracking thinking about finances and feelings.  Continue to discuss things with your boyfriend.  Where will you live?  Does he have a stable job?  Does he have or want children? Do you?  When?  Who will care for them?  How will you raise them?  Discuss reglion.  How will this come into play with children.  Have your families met?  Do you have the same goals and values?\n\nMarriage is awesome!  It's important to really think about it and plan for it.  So while I may have teased you a little for asking "should I think about marriage"- I think it's good you ARE thinking and planning.  Go with the flow and let things happen naturally.  If it's the right time to get married/engaged, you and your boyfriend will know it.  In the mean time, start talking about goals and longer term plans with him.
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im in skoo n im engaged, everyone is telling me to wait til i finish college, but i think is really up to u. \n\ni am gettin married while still in skoo.  i work and pay bills plus manage to do hwork so i dont think marriage will b something really new to me since i already have household responsibilities.
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Continue to say no. As a guy, I would have more respect for you knowing that you saved yourself for the wedding. You sound like you have morals, and should not give up on them just because you are going to school. Be proud of yourself and realize that you are not the kind of girl who bounces from bed to bed. If he loves you, he will wait, and since you are going away to school, you risk the possibility of pregnancy and then messing up college. The best thing is to stay the way you are, listen to your instincts.
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Are you talking about marriage or work????????????????
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YOUR IN LOVE AND YOU'VE GOT EACH OTHER. HE JUST GOT A JOBL, THINGS ARE GOING TO BE VERY BLESSED IN YEAR TWO. SAVE THE MONEY, STAY IN AND PRAISE GODS HOLY NAME!!!\n\n\nGOD BLESS
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Yes and no. Many things can happen in 4 years but if you two love eachother that much to wait then go ahead. you only live one life
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Sure.  Why not?  If you truly love each other, I just married my husband in August and he is 14 1/2 yrs older than me.  Some times these things just work out that way.  I think it is a great idea to wait a few years to make sure things work out.  He and I were together for 3 yrs first, and yeah a job would be in order, those weddings are very expensive. And, sure, if you want to wait until your wedding night, then that is your choice.  Don't let him, or anyone else tell you that you have to.... if he truly loves you he will respect your decision.
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Dont do anything till there's a ring on your finger baby. Your boyfriend is just that, a boy-friend. He may hook up with some cheerleader in six months for all you know. No one looks out for you but YOU. Finish school where you're at right now, once you have your degree, then you can think about moving. But you think about what's good for you first. \n\nThat's the problem you women have, you put your man first, thinking, "he wouldnt ask me to move there if it wasnt a good idea." Wrong! He's not thinking about what's good for you, he's thinking about what's good for him! He wants you there to take care of his needs, sexually, monetarily and general housekeeping. He could give a rat's azz about your degree, your friends or your family. Ask yourself, would you make him move? Didnt think so...