do women not like "nice guys" do they prefer cocky idiots instead?
962101
It is not that women like the bad blokes - it is just that the bad blokes make them feel so good (at first ofcourse).. it is the bad blokes who tell them how great they look/are, who take them places etc and do all the chasing at first..\n\nOften nice guys won't be so full on and quite often women interpret the considered approach of nice blokes to mean that they are not interested or indifferent..\n\nMost women would ditch a bloke once they found out he was not all he seemed and unfortunately that cannot always be easy to establish - the bad blokes are good at leading double lives/lying etc \n\nFTR - most women just want a bloke who loves them and who they can love..they want to care for/be cared for/ they want to know their partner only has eyes for them..\n\nSo hang in there - if you are a genuinely nice bloke you will meet someone and she will thank her lucky stars you are not an idiot..  BUT as I say don't wait for her to come to you, next time take a chance and put more effort into the wooing stage.
499727
you see, i dont understand why guys always go for the dumb chicks who can't even spell right. but hey, if that many guys like you for your stupidity, that's their problem. thanks for the two points.
343145
oh many. most men who are not goreous (and that is about 70% of them) tend  not to be arrogant and nasty. they can get with real women and not the barbies that the other fellas are gushing over. They are kind and real. don't sweat it sweetie. you're too hard on yourself. Only 2%  of people in the world are gorgeous and they are too busy trying to be perfect to bother with.
325478
I don't dumb myself down.  I might not go around discussing heavy duty topics, though.  If they can't deal with a smart female, then too bad for them.  I think a real man wants a real woman, not a cherry pop-tart who has no brains or opinions.
388892
The two are not mutually exclusive.  There are other attributes in women men appreciate such as kindness, intelect, talent, humor, poise, the list continues....
429238
Guys prefer women period. We are not as picky as you gals think.
167218
The most attractive quality I see is courtesy and humorous,  sharp toungue but not mean. I like a guy who can dish it out and take it too. never call one of us a "Bitch" because it does not display love in any manner. Yelling?  Not a good quality.  nothing is less attractive than a maniac screaming at me appearance has nothing to do with who u r any girl that bases their choices on this quality are not worth the effort. steer clear.  be you and you can't go wrong  Oh yeah and I despise , completely despise LIARS!!!!!  but I'm not just a little bitter  lol  trusting is trustworthy remember that........e
698579
Hmmmmmm, here I go being Shallow Hal again, but I can't help being truthful. There first has to be some sort of attraction in the physical sense, and for most of us that means different attributes. After the initial attraction, I listen to them speak and watch how they treat other people. I look for people who are intelligent, but not arrogant or bossy. I like confident women, but not mean spirited or waspish ones. People who show respect for others without being wishy washy or kissing ass also get high grades from me. Most of all I look for people who are confident enough with themselves that they realize they don't have to try and change or "improve" others around them. That, to me is a manifestation of great inner insecurity and a lack of sensitivity and respect for others.
637010
you know, and this is not meant to offend any of the nice sounding people that have answered this question already, but i agree with you.  i have very few women friends because they always seem so competetive and bitchy and catty, they just make my skin crawl.  i get along better with men.  i'm quite sure there are nice women out there, i just hardly ever meet any.
327399
I think you should be asking "Where can I find a good, quality woman who likes nice guys?"\n\nWhile I was dating, I tended to date guys who ended up being jerks.  But once I found out how they really were, I broke up with them.  And ended up marrying a nice guy :)\n\nSome girls are attracted to "bab boy" jerk types.  However, most aren't and you should focus on finding one of those girls :)
273897
I prefer intelligent woman that carry themselves well in conversations.  I don't mind girly-girls, but as long as they aren't overly flirty with other people.
1068899
Because a great many of them are Cocky and arrogant and come on women ..we can't seem to resist that hehe!
276488
They have other priorities, like intelligence, appearence or social position-- but it's very rare for a girl to ultimately settle down with a guy who's a jerk, it's usually a great fling-- one other aspect here is that rude is in the eye of the beholder... you may think he's being a jerk but sometimes she thinks it's funny or just agressiveness but not necessarily rudeness
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Abstract\nBoth men and women prefer someone with a “good sense of humor” as a relationship partner. However, two recent studies have shown that men are not attracted to funny women, suggesting the sexes use the phrase good sense of humor differently. To investigate this question, we measured the importance participants placed on a partner's production of humor vs. receptivity to their own humor. Men emphasized the importance of their partners' receptivity to their own humor, whereas women valued humor production and receptivity equally. In a second task, participants chose whether they preferred a person who only produced humor or a person who only appreciated their own humor for several types of relationships. Women preferred those who produced humor for all types of relationships, whereas men preferred those who were receptive to their own humor, particularly for sexual relationships. Our results suggest that sexual selection may have operated on men's and women's preferences during humorous interaction in dramatically different ways. \n\nKeywords: Sex differences; Sexual selection; Mate choice; Humor appreciation; Humor production \n\nhttp://www.sciencedirect.com/science?_ob=ArticleURL&_udi=B6T6H-4HWXM5P-1&_coverDate=03%2F31%2F2006&_alid=485679278&_rdoc=1&_fmt=&_orig=search&_qd=1&_cdi=5031&_sort=d&view=c&_acct=C000050221&_version=1&_urlVersion=0&_userid=10&md5=e7ce361d57541e3bfcfbe312a9dde04e
577229
It is true that some guys are intimidated by women that are more successful, or more intelligent than they are, because they are into the whole "macho" thing, and think the man is supposed to be the "breadwinner", and smarter, more successful, and all that. I find intelligent, successful women very attractive myself, but I don't have a problem with my masculinity either. I am a man, in deed, and action, and don't try to prove it to anyone. If I had that kind of woman in my life, I would encourage her to be the best, most successful woman ever. Together , we would make a great team!
569043
The smart women find this rather immature and brutish, and reflective of the man's poor social skills and lack of polish.\n\nWatch out for the women who do like this behaviour, they will encourage your worst self to flourish.
565289
I think a lot (not all) females enjoy the bad boy look but would prefer a nice guy. But that nice guy also has to be able to stand up for what he believes in. Basically not be a push over