Does anyone know if Jail is easy for women? I know it's hell for men in the worst way, but what about women?
971139
I know a lot of folks who've been in the joint (I live in a poor neighborhood & I used to work in construction). \n\nFrom what I know, prison sucks for both genders - it's boring, there are a lot of a**holes in there, the clothes are ugly, the medical care is inadequate and the guards will kick your ass in a heartbeat.\n\nAnd there are a LOT of fights in jail - and a lot more tension. Male prisoners are CONSTANTLY trying to avoid fighting - since fights = lockdown and on lockdown you're stuck in your cell and that really sucks (no commissary, no phone calls, no lifting weights or playing basketball in the yard ect).\n\nThat's why ex jailbirds tend to be overly polite - in prison, if you even THINK you insulted another prisoner, you say you're sorry immediately - otherwise there WILL be a fight - and I just told you what happens when they fight - it screws it up for everybody\n\nBut, the food is good, and they have really big portions \n\nThis is true for both men and women\n\nFor guys, there is a LOT of the gay stuff- but it's mostly CONSENSUAL \n\nMost guys admit they had sex with men in the joint, but they swear that they were "the man" and the other guy was "the bitch" (of course, at least 50% of them are lying)\n\nOf course, there are jailhouse rapes (and, legally speaking ALL prison sex is rape since prisoners are considered legally dead in terms of civil law when they are inside and therefore they cannot consent to sex) but most jailhouse sex is consensual (men with no other outlet doing what they have to do to fulful their urges)\n\nIn women's jails, their is a LOT of lesbianism (and here, it's almost 100% consensual, it's almost unhead of for a woman to rape another woman in the joint)\n\nAnd there is a lot of sex with the guards - male Corrections Officers give special "favors" to their little prison girlfriends - more food, special items that the commissary doesn't stock, better work assignments ect\n\nlegally, that's all rape (and from time to time DoC cracks down on the guards who have sex with prisoners)\n\nThere's also a lot more fighting in women's prisons.\n\nThe guys tend to avoid fights since the consequences are so serious and they get super polite to make sure that they don't have a fight unless there's no other choice\n\nWomen in prison aren't like that \n\nYou know how women are on the outside ? They love to argue and pick fights, and they won't drop it until they win?\n\nWomen are WORSE in the joint!\n\nArguments will start at the drop of the hat (women prisoners even ARGUE WITH THE CO'S! Since male CO's are less likely to kick a woman prisoner's ass than a male, the girls know they can get away with it)\n\nAnd, since  the DoC isn't as quick to use teargas, mace and nightsticks against fighting women inmates, the women know the consequences aren't as serious as they are in the male institutions\n\nso the girls fight all the time, over dumb stuff (just like women do in the real world)\n\nIn other words, prison sucks for women just as much as it does for men, but in a slightly different way!
903873
I once put a guy in prison for 5 years for raping me(he only got statutory). WIt was a very traumatizing time for me and the sentance isnt so brief. With this in mind Id have to say I think a woman like this should get the minimum sentance for a rape charge seeing how she rtried to force that jail term on an innocent man. He couldve been found guilty and wouldve had that label for his whole life,getting registered and not allowed in some housing/apartment complexes bc of it,job issues,time lost of his life. She deserves the same sentance, They were too easy on her.
838672
There are pros and cons.\n\nThe problem with sending them to custody is that they can only get a short sentence, because that is all that the law allows for the offence of assault.  So suppose the Court gives them 3 months.  The offender will be out in 1 and 1/2.  That's just 6 weeks' protection for the victim, and nobody has done any work with the perpetrator to try to change his attitudes or behaviour (I'm saying "he" here as most perpetrators statisically are male and most victims are female, I'm not saying it doesn't happen that women commit these offences or that same-sex relationships aren't affected).  Hence when the offender comes out, in most cases the whole cycle begins all over again.\n\nIf they get a sufficiently long community sentence however, they can be made to go on an intensive course designed to change their attitudes towards women in general and to teach them skills to relate to their partner without violence.  The probation service runs one which offenders can be court ordered to attend, and takes about 6 months of work to complete.  In the meantime, the victim is supported (if she wants to be) by a women's safety officer.  The aim is long term change, not quick punishment.
1128402
Oh man, this one is tough!  I have told numerous women to get out of their homes, like right now, in situations like this.  I want to go and kick their heads in for what they do to their wives/girlfriends.  They need to go to jail and they need to be sentenced for each case of abuse and have the prison time set up so it doesn't run concurrent.  These guys need to be in there for a long time.  I would also like to have the prison population know what they are in for too.   I also like the idea of giving the wife free reign on the jerk before they send him away.  Abuse like that or raping your spouse needs some harsh penalties.  I hate them...they are bound to kill someone.  Every 3 minutes in America, a woman is killed by their partner.  I heard this on the news last week.  It is staggering and scary.  These women need to get out and seek help before it is too late.  Good question!
282180
Sure have and it wasn't the best experience in my life I can tell you that. Was being charged with two felonies. Could have faced 20 yrs in prison. Both charges were dropped though. \nA shout out to all the girls in Unit M, county jail........J/K.
347265
The "he's a liar" chick above me is an idiot. SHE'S not too judgemental, huh? Hehe. Of course everyone in jail is the DEVIL! (I'm being sarcastic). \n\nJail makes you think about things that you would normally take for granted: ie; your freedom, your hobbies, the people you love, and so on. I have a feeling he's never wanted to admit he loves you, because that usually overcomplicates things to an unnecessary extent. But now that he's incarcerated, he's had time to understand what life is like without you, and time to reflect on how important your relationship really is. As a result, he's finally come to the conclusion that he does love you, and he wants you to know it in case you two should ever be permanentley separated for some god-forsaken reason. I've been in his shoes before.\n\nOh yeah, and the guy who said "look to see if his pupils expand" is also on his own planet. Where the hell did THAT come from? Look, if his pupils expand, he's on acid. If they don't, he's not. And that's that.
829421
Do you believe that women and men break an equal number of laws?  If so, who commits more crime outside the home?\n\nI'd bet that men commit more crimes outside the home.
574971
Too often we get scwrewed over.  I worked in a prison around murderers, rapists, child molesters, but none of them scared me like women do.  They can rip yur heart right out of your chest and tramp on your dick.  That's why.
907790
YOU SHOULD NOT RECEIVE ANY PREFERENTIAL TREATMENT !!!\nYOU SHOULD JUST BE THROWN IN WITH THE REST OF THE LOSERS !!!\nAND WHATEVER HAPPENS TO YOU IN JAIL JUST TAKE IT AS A HARD LESSON LEARNED !!!\nHOPE IT'LL TEACH YOU TO STRAIGHTEN UP YOUR ACT AND CLEAN UP YOUR LIFESTYLE !!! \nUNLESS YOU REALLY LOVED IT IN JAIL THE KEEP DOING THAT SAME CRAP !!!
242416
I hope that you are ok.... it sucks that the law seems to protect the rights of people who break the law and screws those that try and obey them... I am worried about your safety.. do you have some where that you can go? I know that in Va there are womens shelters to help woman get away from abusive relationships.. it seems that the violence always escalates.....be safe.......peace
529094
Obtuse is a good word to use.  These women live in a fantasy world.  These men can't leave them, cheat on them, and are really sweet because they are in jail and need some attention.  The women block out any negativity, believe that the men were wrongly incarcerated and are just wonderful guys.
360262
Men do crime and get rich. Females are found with this rich bad guy.\n\nFemale criminals can seduce and get away.\n\nFemales make men criminals confess everything to them and then sed to jail. where as men aren't bothered if she is a criminal
386397
Yes it is, black are 13% of the population but over 50% in jail. Why? because black men are incarcerated 6x that of white men and 7x that of black women over white women. Also blacks can expect 3x long in jail. In fact I seen blacks get far longer jail time for manslaughter than a white person for murder.
175725
I was convicted for possesing drugs, I was sent to prison for 14 months, while I was in there, there was a guy who  assaulted his girlfriend, then drove around drunk with his 8 month old baby in the car. He was only sentenced to 6 months. It was so sad cause I got there 2 months before he did, and he was set free before I got out. Keep in mind that this was my first offense of any kind, (except traffic tickets). This is just one case, I could tell you a whole bunch of other cases that were Obviously worse than mine, and they got less time than I did....there is no such thing as justice in America!
603995
Find out when he is getting out.  He should have a court date set to be sentenced or they could give him a bail amount.  It could take up to a week to find this out.  Alot of guys in jail have girlfriends but most of them arent even worth it.  If you love him you can go and visit.  Just contact the jail.
492811
You have to do something, you can press charges by aking help from organizations that deals with this. They will give you free lawyer, counselling, etc. After he's in jail, forget about him and the hurting experiences, move on girl, you deserve more than him and you should be happy.You are still lucky because he showed his true colors and you're not married yet and without kids. Trust me, it's like hell!\nBe happy girl, you'll find someone who will respect and love you all the way! Best regards!
1023722
Unfortunately men are perceived as more aggressive, even brutal sometimes when it comes to sexual gratification. Some really sick men even have sex with the dead. Women on the other hand are seen as 'weaker' vessels? So they are given the benefit of the doubt ...maybe she was 'over powered' ! The circumstances of each case differs of course . I doubt whether such molestations from women were ever envisaged. But I agree with you its disgusting whoever does it. As the frequency of arrests mounts for women the existing laws that do not adequately address the issue would definitely have to be amended. I know there are no separate laws for men and women. But by the judges shed their personal prejudices and be bold enough to apply punishment across board evenly.