AM I being REALLY STUPID? Should I TAKE HIM BACK?
954841
Move on. Mid life crisis is a pathetic excuse. \n\nYou'll never be able to trust him again. And why do you want her leftovers back?
872422
Sounds like you are having second thoughts about giving him a second chance.  Not only did he break the trust in your relationship, but he did a little shattering of your confidence too.  You can't let anyone shatter your confidence, so if this is torturing you and making you think thoughts that are killing you, then it may be something you need to let go of.  When you forgive someone that means letting go of all the hurt and moving on to the next step and it seems like something that you are not able to do.  If you love him and you think that he is heartily sorry for what he did, then let it go and move on with your relationship.  If not, then you need to let him go and do whatever he has to do and you go do what you have to do.  It sounds like you still think he is misleading the both of you and you can't live like that!  It will kill you!  Make that decision on your own, don't wait for it to backfire.  Usually your first mind is your right mind. You are more important than anything.  I was in a situation like that once and it didn't work out for the good, not saying that is the case with your situation, but you should always go with your first mind. I know it will be hard, but it will work out better in the long run.
366708
He isn't worth your time. It sounds like he is too immature for you. And I am sure you can replace him. You go girl.
104377
if you want to have him back...ACT to change yourself...u will watch the magic...i bet..!!\nNow wat and how to do, is ur job..
486084
you should tell her not to take him back so easily wait a while until he feels bad You must be CRAZY U DESERVE BETTER THAN HIM HE IS PLAYING WITH YOUR EMOTIONS
725720
yea u were wrong but u were provoked. i can't believe i'm sayin this but he's wrong. news flash toots, your guy is either cheatin on u or no longer interested in u and this was a convenient way for him to get rid of u. it's one of those 2 things, i guarantee it. good luck. be happy it's only 7 months invested b4 u found out what an @ss he is.
983798
I think he just wouldn't feel right and he isn't completely sure of...both of you... because obviously it didn't work out the first time.My advice is give him some more time.Make him believe,and I mean really believe,you guys can work out!I would feel bad if you guys didn't get back together because you didn't prove to him anything.
560607
I think both of you need a serious talk. If he says his feelings decreased but he says he made a huge mistake you need to ask how he feels now. Cause if he doesn't want to be with you in that way, you're only torturing yourself by hanging out with him and talking to him on the phone. If he feels that he wants to get back together then he should tell you when both of you have your serious talk. If he says he needs to think about it and you want to wait then don't pressure him. Show interest but not insecurity. I know it would be hard to stop talking to someone that you love if it wont work out. But sometimes you need your heart to hurt a little bit so it would heal. Just keep yourself busy. If it's meant to be then it will happen. There's plenty other relationship experience's that you will go through and not all of them will work even though your certain they're the one. And yes, I'm telling you this from personal experience. Good luck...
1130437
I think you should call him. But don't be like, "I made a mistake, I want you back." Because any normal person is not going to take you back & not have any grudges. He might be like, "Yeah, she want's me back, so now that I've got her, I'm going to make her suffer a little bit so she will not do this to me again. She made me hurt, I'll make her hurt." and although he may want you back just as much as you want him, he could ACT like he could care less & keep you hanging. Soooo, I would call him, ask him how he is doing, and start a nice conversation. Tell him that although you broke up with him, you still love him as a person & you want to be friends. Then let things maybe slowly grow back into a relationship & tell him after he's not mad & hurt anymore that you made a mistake. But you really can't listen to anyone but yourself, If you feel like you should tell him what a mistake you made now, do it. Everyone's relationship trials are different. And since no one knows this guy, no one on here will know how he will react except for you. So go by that... If things don't work out, or if he refuses to take you back, just remember it wasn't meant to be & it just means there is someone else out there even better. But before you do anything, you need to review why you dumped him in the 1st place, if your friends don't like him & say he is a jerk or something, try seeing thier side. But only you will know if he is right for you. I know a lot of people say my boyfriend is a jerk, but we have been together for 8 years and I KNOW he is not. Doubt and insecurities about you guys relationship will only make it end again. So make sure you resolve all issues before you get back together. Good luck!!!
429996
He is a jerk and you did the right thing. Your kids should be your number one priority. I have 4 and they are the world to me. You are not the bad guy. The next thing he will do is try to get you to feel sorry for him to make you go back to him. Don't do it!
426931
no!!! he made his choice to give you up. no offense. but he went off and got another girl pregent. if you take him back you are creating difficulties for yourself, him, the mom, and the baby and both families. he made his choice. he is missing out on life while you are enjoying it. plus being single ROXS!!!!
191589
well..personally, i would have been a little offended if you had called me up and told me you couldnt go all the sudden...mainly because it seems like the way you told him wasnt exactly sorry, or anything...i think you should have been sweet and called him up and just explained what happend and ask if you could go on the date maybe later, or another day, and be really sweet about it...on the other hand, i think he overreacted and he should have at least called you and told you it was over...i think its okay for you to call him..you both should talk through this and either make up and get back together, or make up and go your sepreate ways...and for in the future, always talk about whats going on, and be sweet about it..guys have a tendency to be stupid and think that if you cant do something you dont want to be with them..i kind of went through this with my gf a bit, and now we talk through everything and even though we disagree on stuff and sometimes get upset with each other, we can always work through it and make each other happy :) good luck!
1125264
my ex did that, i took him back several times. \n\nmy advice.. NEVER ever ever talk to him again, just forget about him and you will be better off.. SERIOUSLY.
1161004
I would'nt go see him. His behavior proves that he's not truly the man you see on the outside. People like this are good at putting on the mask that'll work to get them what they want out of you. I'm sad to have to say it, but it's the truth.  Especially if he's locked up, you'll become an outlet for his manipulative personality. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing you're wrestling with feelings for him. It'll only stroke his ego. Winning him back would only result in an unhealthy co-dependant relationshiip. This type of user psychology need to be desired and needed by others to floati it's ego. You'd likely convince yourself that you DO need him. And you don't honestly. Being happy with yourself is critical before one can be truly happy with another.
940827
you need to consider a couple of things. \n1. how long have u been together?\n2. are you willing to stick around for a second time?\n3. what actually possessed him to do that?\nanswer these honestly and if it doesn't look good, leave!\nit could've been an accident but chances are it wasn't, sorry and be careful!
908769
It sounds like he's very hurt by not only the break up, but by your harsh actions of how you treated him after the relationship ended. He's seen you in a new light that was not good and now in turmoil over whether or not to get back with you. Best thing to do now would be to back off to give him time and space to figure things out. By you constantly calling and asking him what's he going to do is probably just making matters worse. Let him have his time to think about things and so he can make his decision.
432044
if you still love him, and really really want him back in your life and into your future, then get up right now and start packing your bags! your going on a trip to get your ONE and ONLY back! even though he lives 8 hours away from you, it doesnt matter! you should fight for him and do anything to get him back, right?! and if it will cost you money, it still doesn't matter, what would you rather lose? your money or the ONE you truly want and need? of course you would rather lose money than the person you loved, right? and when you get to him... tell him how you really really love him so much... tell him that you would rather lose all the things you have than lose him! tell him that you will NEVER EVER do anything to hurt him again! tell him that you would change and go back to the real you just like in the old days... and tell him that you really need him and want him in your life! especially, tell him that you wouldnt change into the self that was dishonest and the self you didnt like before... then tell him you really love him! over and over and over and over again!!!! =)