Isn't 28 years old too old to live off Dad?
966087
Way too long.  Have a talk with your husband.  Set a time limit for this kid to get on his feet or sink on his own.  3-6 months should be sufficient.  The two of you together must approach the son and inform him of your final decision and the time limit.  Whether he's in good shape or bad, everybody's on the same page and knows exactly when the moving out date is.  Why should he be self sufficient and independent when he can leech off the two of you?  Some children are natural manipulaters  and users and lazy.  They just need a giant hard push out into the real world.
895697
no he is not to old for you
742147
Yeah, I think it's a great idea for most 16yo's to have to go out & live on their own. That way they can learn to appreciate just how good they have it at home, & that having to follow a few rules for 4 or 5 more years is a small price to pay, compared to actually having to make it on their own.\nThey would have to buy their own food, & clothes, & pay rent, & have to buy their own cool stuff, & have to still go to school & work a job as well if they realy want to have a future.\n\nDon't get me wrong. I am well aware that SOME 16yo's have a damn good reason for wanting to get out of a bad situation at home, & I have seen some who find the sacrifices that they have to make by moving out to be a better alternative to staying at home. But you didn't say why you want to leave, & if you are a typical 16yo who wants to move out, it's because there are RULES at home, & you just don't think you have to follow them.\nOn your own you will soon learn that there is no escape from rules. Even your parents have to follow rules. For every action, there is an equal & opposite reaction, & it sticks with you for life.\n\nI can promise you this. At 16 in the real world you won't be able to live completely on your own. You'll be dependant on the support of others for a few years to come.
596393
No he is not too old and he is not too old to have kids.   I'm 45 and the mother of my son( who is 2) is 23.  So no he is not too old. some may not like it but that is their problem not yours.
561663
it depends on the situation, my older brother was 23 before he moved out but i was only 16-17, he just found it a lot more convienient because he was still at uni and stuff but i had to get out!!! \nso yeah it depends on the person i spose. :)
683572
Because she is 18 and graduating,I'll bet when you restrict or pressure her,she will end up moving out and either shacking or marrying the 26 year old year old with children or want to.She is not old enough to make it comfortably on her own so she would most likely live with someone else.She will then have herself a ready made family that may or may not work out. You are doing her no favor paying "her"cell phone bill.When I was that age I had strict parents.Every child in our house had chores.We were never charged rent,but was expected to do chores to help out,it was not fair to our parents for them to do all the work when they feed us and gave us a home for as long as we wanted.If you did not follow their curfew and respect their home,then you had to move out. We worked a summer job and when we graduated were expected to work a full time job.If I made any kind of bill,I paid it,they did not.That is not being cruel,that's making me responsible.You are the step parent,so if I were you,I would leave it up to her father(her blood parent)to talk to her.If you try to,she may look at you and say "I don't have to listen to you,you are not my mother".So,for your feelings,let the father have a one on one talk with his daughter.Tell him to explain to her what he seeing her getting into and how it is going to be in reality such as:In the relationship with the 26 year old she will be a mother(step-mom)to another women's children,depending on how active the 26 year old man is, may end  up baby sitting while he's out doing whatever,may end up pregnant by this man and have even another child.Sit her down,don't be mad,just explain to her that yes this is her life and if "she" ends up with the 26 year old,her life is over as she know's it.It will be her burden to carry,not yours.Ask her to think about all the freedoms she has now and how she feels about losing all that at such an early age.You know how real life is and you only want the best for her.Now is the time to talk to her and get her to realize exactly what kind of life she is going to have if she ends up with this man.Don't be mad when you talk to her,just be very honest.Then do not cater to her irresponsibility.Let her pay her bills and live her life.Like my parent's told me,go out and make your bed hard if you want and you,not I will sleep in it.They said if you get into trouble,"you" will have to figure out how to get out of it.I thought my parents were mean,but I realized how much they loved me,some of their advice I didn't listen to,I wished I had.She is graduating and will be an adult somewhat.You have to let her make choices for herself.If she decides on a life of misery,there is not much you or your husband can do to stop her.Give her the best advice you can and stand by your word when you say she is on her own.She will find out really fast that life is not fair,things are exspensive,life is hard,that she had it so good and didn't know it and most of all she will quicklly learn she does not know everything and possibly that you were right.
434293
28 with a six year old son
1010832
I can't believe all the bullkaka I am reading here.\n\nSo a man can be 20 yrs older but not a woman?  Get serious people and start realizing that life is not always about your young tight a$$.  There is much more out there than most of you will ever experience, especially with an attitude like I see from some of you.  LOL
514279
This is just my opinion but if it was my 16 year daughter I would say no way. And I would say no way if she 26. Though at that age I guess she can make her own decission.\n\nI am sure that there are hostils out there that are safe but I not sure. Check out the area that you are going to and maybe talk with folks that have.\n\nI wish I could say more to you but I really do not know where to turn you.\n\nGood luck to you and have where ever it is your going.
537623
Absolutely untrue!  There is nothing wrong with 30 year old woman.  There is something wrong with the guy who said that to you.  You still have lots of time to find the right guy, settle down, get married, have kids.  Just think of it this way, you have had these last few years to have fun, finish school, get a job, etc....now you can work on getting the family part.  And you also know what you are looking for in a guy.
754795
No it's a dangerous idea.\nBesides I have two oldies in my family and I wouldn't want to live with them!!!!!
483932
My parents were 18 years apart, Id have to say, this is fine, or I wouldnt be here  haha.. However.... I think it depends on the age , not the age gap so much, if there 18 y/o and dating a 35 y/o thats not right.... If yer 30 and dating a 45 y/o, I think thats ok, Maturity has to be there... Just my opinion...
290595
your dad might drive you crazy but if you say you cant move out theres obviously a reason why...like giving my mom as an example shes living with my grandmother right now because she needs someone there to take care of her or she will be put in a home so my mom took it apon herself to care for her...and my mom is going bonkers let me tell you lmao but she knows that my grandmother wont be here for to much longer so shes doing what she has to do...you only have 1 set of real parents so try to stick with it...talk to your dad,tell him whats bothering you...good luck
888258
yes, he is. he must find a friend of his age. a friend that had the same experineces that he, he just want to live like the 19 ones, but he is almost 30, he must have a family and give example of conduct
1100863
He's not lying. He is 29 years old.
1030818
that's tough, at 18 she is considered legal but that doesn't mean she's mature, it all would depend if she has her head straight, 7 yrs isn't that much, my father is 7 yrs older than my mom and they been married 4 over 30 yrs so age isn't a problem.
215312
NOOOOOOOOO! it is not your obligation. you need to have some tough love with this child! Lay down the rules, and tell her that if she can't live with these rules that she is 20 years old and is free to move out. You are babying her! If you don't help your daughter find confidence in her abilty to take care of herself she may live with you FOREVER!!! or at least rely on you each time she is "down and out"