marriage trouble looming?
956585
You need to do what's best for you and your son. Your wife doesn't care about her marriage and she won't stop having sex with the neighbor. Confront her and see if she wants to save the marriage or get out. If she wants to get out, then move forward with the divorce as quickly as possible.
414632
i'm still relatively newlywed (almost 2 years) and so far nothing has been difficult. but I think we both still make the other's needs a priority so that may be the part we actually have to remember to do later... or the part that will not come as naturally once we get lazy, bored, or have kids.
1083085
Here is a situation where an objective third party can be helpful: your attorney.\n\nSay something like this: "Honey, I think we should talk to a lawyer before we marry, just to make sure that all the Ts are crossed and all the I's are dotted. You know, marriage is a legal contract. How does 2 p.m. Thursday work for you?"\n\nThen, at the appointed time, go to see the attorney. Have him or her explain what you are doing there and why. Don't say much, only agree with the attorney. If your partner explodes, then you know he or she is only after your money.
438826
I just recently got married myself, and I don't think it is anything you can plan out. Just remember to keep each other happy. There is a ggod book I just finished, its called Power of a Praying Wife, it has helped me out a lot.
185517
Work it out now before you get married; things are only magnified after the marriage.  If you can't talk about things now, marriage will only make it worse, not better.  I would go to a counselor.  If he's not open or willing, is he really who you want to spend the rest of your life with?
1048474
tell them how it is going to be, you have to make up your own mind on who you want to marry.. its not there choice
218972
go to counseling together a few times before you marry him, just to be sure he doesn't have some deep rooted problem...the counseling will give you an insight to the problem and show you if you can deal with it....
603781
If you want to save your marriage, you both need to ask God\nfor help. He will be the only one who can fix it.
1054463
The biggest problem in bad marriages is usually the lack of conversation.\n\nWhen people can use a bible, and start condemning everything outside their window, then at least they will never have lack of conversation.
733173
They are not ready. It would be a scandal.\nI married a black woman and we still face angry looks and remarks.
182465
my hubbie and i are married 9 years.  we've been there.  we both love each other deeply, we just forget how important it is to show it as well as say it.  it's easy to fall into your individual ruts, which in turn causes one big rut for the marriage.  get out of the rut!!!  your marriage needs a hero.  do not be afraid to be the one to decide that today is the day the romance comes back to your marriage.  it doesn't have to be grand....join him in the shower, make his favorite meal and serve it to him in bed, come to bed with nothing but the radio on... i am assuming, of course, that you are only missing passion and romance and that there isn't a bigger problem...if the latter is the case, and you need to save your marriage -- talk with a priest or counselor...they can help you see things the both of you may not be seeing...  good luck and have fun!!!
1072621
The most important thing in this case is you. You have to ask yourself, "are you ready for marriage?". Most people do more planning for the wedding that they do for marriage. They'll fuss over the bridal registry, invitations, location, religion, and WHO is gonna be invited. But ask yourself.... what do you want for you? Have you accomplished your goals...Are you happy with your job and your money, do you have YOUR world in order? Marriage simply a legal contract bringing two people together. Nothing is gonna change once your married; sex isn't magically gonna get better or more frequent, all the bad habits of the other person aren't going to suddenly go away and those fights aren't gonna be more understanding now that you're married.  If your credit sucks... it screws BOTH of you up. If you hate your job... then the financial burden is on you both. Be happy with you...Have your affairs in order and enjoy the other person and the times you have together. NOTHING IS CERTAIN!!! and right now the percentage of divorce is over 56%. and if the couple is under 25...the percentage is 80%. PLAN PLAN PLAN! If you were handed a parachute and told to jump out of an airplane...but you have a 56% chance that your chute would open...would you take that gamble?
500057
It is a disaster wating to happen. Also a divorce in the making.
1047323
(m)\n\nPoor communication\nFinancial problems \nA lack of commitment to the marriage \nA dramatic change in priorities \nInfidelity \n\nFailed expectations or unmet needs \nAddictions and substance abuse \nPhysical, sexual or emotional abuse \nLack of conflict resolution skills
466124
You begin to learn each others quirks and idiosyncrasies.  You will struggle and have bad times and good times. You will laugh, cry, worry, and enjoy.  Marriage is only what two people make of it.  It is work, but just like a garden, it is well worth the weeding and pruning one has to do.  Don't give up when things get tough.  Communicate!!!!  I know you've heard it before, but take heed, communication is the key to an awesome marriage. A marriage needs 100 percent from both partners.  Live and learn from one another, touch and kiss often, and never say a word that you may later wish to take back, words are like feathers released into the wind, once released they are hard to take back.
816012
If marriage is the goal for both of you, then anything over 2 years is pushing it.  Once you get to the 4 - 5th years, time to call it quits if no proposal was forthcoming by then.
643273
Don't listen to all these people.\nIt is probably a case of cold feet jitters-I went trough that right before my wedding too!\nJust talk to your intended and see how they feel, and just go with your gut. Remember, you can call it off at the altar if you like, but if you cancel now, it's definitely off.