I dont get along with my sister in law but my wife and her are best sisters what should I do?
968716
what do you tell a women with 2 blackeyes\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nnothing you already told her twice
708779
it's too bad they live right down the street from you. they are hard to avoid.  if she is so obnoxious, i'm sure your fiancee knows this.  so, if he is willing to keep the family relationship going, and you want to keep your relationship with your fiancee going, i think you are going to have to just grin and bear it until you can move away from where they live.  i would tell him that you know it's his brother and sister in law, but you have a difficult time around them.  your personalities just don't seem to mesh and you don't mind seeing them occasionally, but you cannot put up with on a constant basis. let him realize you are not doing this to cause friction in the family but it's just too uncomfortable for you and you would prefer not to get so involved with them. then, it's up to him to decide - you or them.  good luck.
379681
"say, she is kinda cute, but only because she resembles you, but don't worry, i luv you more, ur the girl i have been looking for and found!" that should be ok, and try not to hug her sis, and when you do, give her one of those little baby hugs, just picture her as your sis and eventually you will stop thinking of her as a cutie and more as a sister in law
367509
Tell your husband you don't like hanging around with them and why.  If the reason is good then he will probally respect your wishes and plan less things together as a group.
455235
What you wrote sounds like my story. I've got the same problem with my mother in law. My husband really appreciates that I act like I'm stupid. \nI refuse to drop down to her level and when she is really mean to me I just smile and nod. Sometimes I think she tries her hardest to piss me off, but I won't give her that joy.\nFor your husband it's probably best to ignore the situation and play along like you all get along. It's not worth splitting up families over. You may regret it if your husband decides to choose for you and stops speaking to his mom.\nBe happy she doesn't live IN your house. \n\nStay the respectable party and don't let your feelings show! I know this is tough but it's the most peaceful way. Good luck, don't let her drive you mad, you've got the upper hand!
808151
Something is going on between your sister and her husband.  At Thanksgiving, be very observant of what's going on between them.  If you get the opportunity, pull your sister aside and let her know you're there for her no matter what.  DO NOT ask her what's going on or why did she bring him there.  She may not be able to or want to tell you what's going on.  From this point forward, do not judge her actions or decisions, but let her know you'll be there for her and stand by her no matter what and that she can depend on you.  \n\nIt won't be easy for you, but try not to pass judgement.  Be civil and polite to her husband.  Take a deep breath and just hope and pray for the best and be the best sister you can be for her.  Good luck.
1044665
That sounds very rude and inconsiderate to me.  If she asked your sister then she asked her so she should stay.  She can just let her friend know that the spot has been filled because she declined.  I dunno man, but to me she is already setting a bad example for married life if she can't even stay true to her word and cant even show respect for your family.  Looks like you got some thinking to do.  Good luck.
923779
Peace in the home is so important.  Try to find a way to get along with them.  Perhaps use a counselor.  Maybe, if you give it a chance, you can actually become close and enjoy a relationship with them as sisters.  Good luck.  I'm sure there's a lot more to this story than is presented here.
226729
Unfortunately, you can't make them do anything unless they are willing to work it out.\n\nTalk to your daughter and see what is upsetting her.  Is she jealous of the time you are spending with your husband?  Is he making hurtful comments to her that you are not aware of?\n\nAlso, have the same conversation with your husband.  Is she being unruly towards him when you are not around?\n\nIf there is not a serious underlying issue for them not getting along, and it is just a personality conflict, try engaging them in family activies like going minature golfing or seeing a movie.  Perhaps once they spend more time together, they'll enjoy each other's company!
991103
ohhhhhhhhh. I hate know-it-all-inlaws. I have a sister in law like that and a mother in law that butts in and makes me feel stupid.\nThe only thing you can do is smile and endure. Pretend like you dont hear them or something.
836832
sit down and talk with her first explain how you feel if that doesn't work talk to your husband and maybe he can mediate if you are being grouchy with him on the weekends after not seeing each other all week that is not healthy for your marriage. Maybe your mom in law is just lonely reach out to her and maybe you can both enjoy each others company for a little time each day
244209
You need to sit your husband down and explain to him exactly how you feel.  Then you need to avoid your in-laws to salvage your mental health.  Allow your husband to visit them whenever he wants, but you stay home or go to a movie.  Seriously, my mother-in-law hated me and she broke up my marriage in the end.  It sounds like you need a vacation....
303092
Mothers are often jealous of a son's relationship with another woman since it usually means they are no longer #1 in their son's eyes. On another level she is also jealous of the attention your father-in-law pays to you and she is making sure he doesn't come to like you too much! \n\nSisters often resent their brother's girlfriends and wives, regarding them as "new daughters" that take their parents and brothers attention away from them. Kind of like sibling rivalry.\n\nThese women will settle down in time once they realize you are no threat to their relationship with your husband or their husband/father. Encourage your husband and father-in-law to include one or both of them in the conversations or activities that are making them jealous. Don't let either of the men make comparisons that put you in a better light and provokes their jealousy. For example, if your father-in-law compliments your cooking, then looks at his wife and says, "why don't you ever make that," then you should make some comment about her best cooking to keep her feelings from being hurt. You will see lots of little things like that if you watch for them. Try to smooth them over, and just be the best person you can be. Hold your temper! It will get better in time. \n\nIf it doesn't you will know that you tried your best and just avoid them as much as possible to prevent disagreements and try to ignore the hurtful things they say and do. Your husband will take a hand if they disrespect you too much when he knows you are doing your best to get along with them.
347789
My advice is to sit down and talk with your wife. Find out why she left you and try to resolve the problem. If you do get it resolved, your kids will listen to you and your wife. If it doesn't, talk to your kids. Find out why they went to stay with your wife and inlaws. Agian, try to resolve the problems. If those problems can't be resolved peacefully with your wife, get a lawyer so you can have time with your kids too. It's not fair to you to  have to sit and miss your kids who you love while your wife gets to see them all the time. You should both have equal rights to see them.
375490
I had a similar situation with a brother-in-law.  To save the family embarressment I told my husband and since then he never leaves me in the room alone with him.  Ignore the advances or if they get too bad, just say no.
331582
hey man listen she is your wife treat her like it give her respect and treat her like you would be liked to treated give her some privacy if she didnt like you she wouldnt marry you so believe in her and give her some space!
1115963
That is really rough.  If your sister-in-law has been a friend for 10 years, start with her.  Ask her out to dinner, just the two of you, and really lay it on the line and ask what it is that has changed so much between the two of you.  \n\nI can't imagine what could have happened to make the mother-in-law so angry as to say you weren't welcome to a funeral of someone in the family.  \n\nDistance yourself emotionally as much as possible.  Try to get some answers from the sister-in-law.  Remember that you are married to your husband, not the in-law's.\n\nGood Luck