friends with benefits......?
966653
First you need to figure out why no female seems to be interested in going out with you? Are you only asking a certain type of female, are you being open minded? Friends with benefits can be good but you have to be careful occassionally, one of you starts to let the heart take over and the other still just wants to be friends with benefits.
591388
Hey sounds like a wonderful time to check out Becca and the new guy.  Friends are a dime a dozen, threesomes...tough.
559587
sure booty calls could end up with two people falling in love sex is the most intimate thing you can share with someone at first i'd just let the kids think your just FRIENDS let them get to know each other and see how things progress from there.
921337
Does not sound like you are doing anything wrong.  Maybe it is the men that you are attracted to that are wrong for you.  Yeah you say you have friends with benefits, but you want something more, like commitment?  Maybe you should start looking for a different kind of man.  Maybe you are afraid of commitment and taking your relationships to the next level.  Maybe it is the men.  I dont know enough about your situation to be more efficient with helping you.  Hopefully, I left a little food for thought with you.
579027
Simply, she doesnt want to be committed.  She wants to be "friends with benefits".  Something she doesnt feel tied down to.  Why that is, is up to her, really.  Was her last relationship that bad, maybe?  Does she want to not be exclusive to one person?  An honest conversation would do wonders.
593357
Former lovers can be friends, not that I've experienced exactly.  I have a couple that still count me as friend, some more that would slash my throat if they could.  First, remember YOU had an affair.  He is being generous and kind and that is worth something good.
1160299
i've hooked with several girls that ended in the "friend zone."\ni,ve also hooked up with girl in that zone just to get closer to her \nfine friend,most of the time,IT WORKS.\nin some cased while in the "friend zone" things have happen and we continued to be friends. that why they call it friends with \nbenefits.
394712
i think there are guys and girls out there that are just friends...but there will always be that air of sexual attraction between them.  most of the girls i've been friends w/ have ended up in bed w/ me. =?
979912
"No strings attached" doesn't mean "I couldn't care less about you" and the operative word in "friends with benefits *should* be "Friends" and not "benefits".\n\nI honestly can not tell what is on his mind, but here are some possibilities:\nIt could be he likes you and enjoyed himself and wants the pleasure to linger on for a while. Putting it another way, lets say that a guy is really into some sports, e.g. basketball, and him and a friend go for a game of hoops in the afternoon. He might like to meet that guy for happy hour just to talk about the game.\n\nOr maybe he cares for you as a friend and knowing that most women are more sensitive and worried about being a "ho" (as you put it), he is giving you a call to make it less "ho-ish" for you.\n\nMaybe he is having blossoming feelings for you, which might or not grow into something. Maybe he is even in love.\n\nNow for some negative possibilities:\nMaybe he is a love junkie and has a need for falling in love.\n\nOr (and this is the worst scenario) maybe the sex is not enough and he gets off on making women fall in love. This is how it might work for him. The game of sex&seduction is a game which is won when you overpower and controll the opponent: YOU. This can be achieved by seducing a virgin or a commited woman or by getting her to do something she might not be inclined to, like anal sex. In an extreme, it could come to rape. The thrill come from the feeling of power. In the relation you described, you are not being submissive at all and he might feel that making you falling in love would be a way to "submit you".\n\nOnce again, I have no idea of what is going on in his mind and these are only ideas. I hope they helped.
82250
If you would even consider this then you are not a friend. Someones sexual proclivities shouldn't matter to you, especially in a friendship. Would your friend leave you because you are not gay?
916027
I did this once, and it changed everything.  We are still friendly, but not the friends we used to be.  Give him some time, and see what happens.  Most likely he just needs you to back off a little bit.  If it's just friends with benefits, sending notes about how wonderful he is is probably not a good idea.  Would you have sent something like that to him before the sex?  Probably not.  So don't do it now. Act the same way as you always have.  That was your agreement and you have to stick by it now.
1030238
Let me tell you what I think.....  I am also separated with a divorce around the corner.  Divorce never ends well, and no matter what the details are people are hurt.  Often your pride, self worth, finances, and ability to trust/believe in another person will suffer.  I highly recommend the whole "friends with benefits" concept.  I enjoy sex, and the intimacy associated with it.....(not a one night stand sort of girl).  My friend is amazing, not only does he look out for me, and help with some of the guy things.....  He makes me laugh, feel desirable, and has taken me to a whole new level of multi orgasms!  Personally I'm not ready for another serious relationship.....still repairing the damage from the last.  But, having a good friend who I know and trust is extremely valuable to me.....not to mention the hot sex benefit.  By foregoing the "relationship", you often give each other the freedom to desire, request, explore and experiment with things you may not ask a "partner".  No fear of rejection, ridicule......a total win/win situation.  Although I will caution you......if you marriage was especially bad, it would be easy for a lot of woman to rebound into their friend.  Thus a potential to get hurt....again.  Not all woman can have a sexual relationship without developing feeling that want more.  Friends with benefits is just that.....friendship....sex....NSA.   For me, right now.....perfect!  For you.....think it thru and decide whats best for you.....good luck.\nAnd yes, your "friend" respects you and enjoys the arrangement.  Other people??  Some will judge, others will cheer....be discreet if you need to.
341452
No not at all, I went through this same thing a couple of years ago a male frined and I both came outta long, serious relationships about the same time and were feeling quite down and bruised by the whole thing and ended up being together alot of the time talking about it and of course one thing led to another and we eventually slept together and it just became a habit (I know that sounds awful!!) but neither of us could face another relationship at that time and we aren't into one night stands so we'd just hook up have the best laugh and then enjoy great sex before saying goodbye in the morning with no pressure it was ideal, it went on for about two yeras until we both just met people we wanted to be with and then it fizzled out but we're still the best of friends now (purely platonic!!) so it worked out fine.  The only thing I'd watch out for is that you both understand the situation if one person has feelings that the other dosen't have then it will cause problems and you shouldn't do it but if you both know it's just sex cos you have needs then go for it.  Good Luck!!
224925
Yes*\nAnd he turned out to be the love of my life. AND I later found out that 'the friend' was not really a friend at all.  \nHowever, the rule of thumb is, if your best friend likes them, 'their off limits' until either they break up or she moves on. And even then, your supposed to ask your friend if its ok to make a play for that special hottie
586170
no.  sex will eventually come into the friendship
269806
By being friends with benefits, you have severely hurt your chances of have a real relationship with this person.  All you can do is end what you have now and tell them straight up that you need more and want a relationship with them, and if they can't or don't want the same then you need to move on and find someone who will love you the way you need them to.
618705
he is saying that you guys are friends with benefits, nothign else\nyou guys will always be what you guys are