what do you do when your love life is a complete mess?
959147
the first boy had his chance , get on with your life... try the new crush! You don't want to make a mistakes do you?
950293
You can't... Especially if the decision to break up wasn't his... He has to get over "your" decision... Remember, you had this entire thing planned and worked out in your head for some time... all the while he probably didn't have much of a clue as what extreme life changing event was being planned and taking place...  the only real help for him now is time...
295559
Well you need to consider, is your love worth maybe having to clean up after him all the time.  Also, if he is not willing to change on small things, what happens when bigger issues come around.  You either have to decide to stick it out or cut your losses.
658405
not advised. you may want to talk to someone you trust like a friend, family member or counselor about how to move on with your life and find someone local who can love you back.
1183566
Clean and clear. Cease all further contact with him and move on. If he still loves you he would be with you. To say it's because of the kids etc is a cop out. It seems like he doesn't know what to do and you don't need the confusion in your life. Learn from your mistakes and take your time with your next relationship. Good luck.
558373
Get out now.  The longer you drag it on the worse it will be.  No job is worth giving up your happieness either.  You do not want to be in a marriage when you don't love someone.  Trust me I know.  I'm married with two kids and not in love with my husband anymore.  If I'd have known what I know now....
259930
I would second the motion that Mike made. I would also recommend finding new activities and make new friends. That way you can let people know you are available. And you can keep yourself occupied. And keep your spirits up too. Use this broken relationship as a learning experience. Good Luck. LJK
388470
the worst thing to do is to keep thinking about it. it's really difficult not to because it affects you physically too. best thing to do is go to they gym, go hang out with your buddies doing the things you really like doing. meet new people, do new things, create new memories. people break up all the time. there are other people in the world. everytime i start a new relationship, it's always been better because you learn from your past experiences and can make (or should make) better decisions. good luck, you will feel better as time passes and add new experiences and people to your life.
492527
Go on with your life as if nothing were the matter.\n\nThis is really hard -- be courteous and pleasant and non-judgmental with your former lover.\n\nAs soon as you can, open your eyes to new opportunities and find a new love.
1184640
I think you should talk to him directly, he might be suffering from something that you don't know, he might need your help. Make sure he loved you as much as you say you loved him, make sure that the time you send together wasn't just time pass, if all is ok then ask him out and get married. Share his feelings, and share his problems, and you can expect him to share your feelings and problems and your life.
1004769
WOW Ok i will give this a shot at!  First thing that came to my mind is , Don't Change anything. If you start to cuddle him more or start changing due to this news, he will feel like you feel sorry for him, and he will feel worse. Stay the way you are, The second thought is,,,He JUST  found out TODAY! So yes allot is going threw his head and will for awhile. Just be yourself, the women he fell in love with. Be there when he needs you. Stand by him. Don't make it the TOPIC everyday, let him bring it up. He will talk when the shock of it all has settled abit. JUST LOVE HIM AS YOU BEEN DOING! My prayers are with him & you.  Peace.
877499
Yes It was incredibly hard. If you know that it is bad deep down, you'll never be happy.It takes time but when you meet the person you were meant to be with it will all be worthwhile. Break it off, find yourself and embrace your future
661006
If it has become more than you can handle, then the choice is made.  Yeah, I know everyone wants you to do the noble thing and suffer a lifetime of misery, plus if you leave, you'll be the bad guy.  Hey, it's your life.  Just be true about your feelings and do what you've got to do.  Life is short for us all, so find your way to happiness either in this relationship or out, but don't just keep on keep'n on for no purpose.
459590
My dear.. The first thing to do is talk to him about how you feel when you are both relaxed and the problem is behind. Don't confront him immediately after what happened. You have to also assess how much you love him and how much he loves you. If you think the love is still there, then give it a chance and talk about what you like and what he likes and come to a compromize. However, if you feel that the love part is missing, then don't waste both of your times and put an end, it will only increase your agony. Unless, there are kids involved, this means a whole new strategy that you should consider them. If no kids, and no love, then separation is the best.
708318
Call him and Congratulate him.\nThere's not much you can do, but if he is still in love with you he will end it and come back to you.\nDon't forget everything happens for a reason, you may not know the reason now but you will someday and look back at it.\n\nGOOD LUCK
279278
My opinion would be is to try and talk to him and express to him how you feel. Maybe he doesnt even know you feel this way?\nTalk to him and tell him exactly how you feel and if he is not willing to fix the problem then its obvious your in a bad relationship but atleast try to approach the problem before breaking up with him.
411907
sit down together and make a list of the things that you do not want to go wrong this time and give it to each other.  Have the communication lines open. You might consider counseling this time around.  Having a third party to hear both sides without taking sides is a start.  You might just go 1 x a month, then go out to dinner after or grab an ice cream to make sure that after things are said in counseling, you are still ok and still in love.  Be sure to say I love you every night before bed no matter what the day was like and tell her you are so glad that you are back together.  Good Luck!