How can I comfort my sons?
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Sometimes I wonder who is more heroic; the soldiers or their families.\n\nI know this is no comfort for you, but it is immutable fact-- without Americans like you and your sons, our nation would fall. The United States of America owes everything to our servicemen (and women) and their families.\n\nAlthough just an infant, I too lost a person as they served our country.  The comparisons between the current conflict in Iraq and the Vietnam War have an especially tangible meaning for me.\n\nI, and millions of other Americans thank God-- everyday-- for people like you and your family.
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Support groups can be really great.  You should also make sure that you and your son are getting out and doing things: go to the park, the zoo, visit friends and relatives, etc.  It is too easy sometimes to spend too much time at home alone and kind of living your life on "hold" while your spouse is gone.  \n\nBesides, if you and your son stay active it will make the time go by faster, and you'll have more to tell hubby when you talk to him! :)
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i should not say this but this the only way. say your child that he is not your son . then see his mood . he will be cryying. then also dont care about . say to him that if he will say to his friend or any one about it you will leave him in lulu center and come . then after 4 days see his mood he will be in upset that day night you say him that he is your own son . then he will slepp happily .then say him that never be naughty and listen to  her .ok
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Speak to your parents about how you feel. Parents often forget how you are feeling in times like this as they are hurting as well...
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Oh hon, I am so sorry for you loss. I lost my youngest son four years ago and he was only\n21 years old. The pain is huge. \n\nYour lost love will always be in your heart and you will have a scar. No one can lose someone so dear and not grieve over it.\n\nYou need to go through the phases of grief. Disbelief, anger, depression, quilt, acceptence and so on. You will gradually pull out of your grief. There will be times that you need to take an hour or a day to just fall apart. Then you will pull yourself together and surrive.\n\nHe will want you to do more than surrive. He wants you happy. He is in a place of peace.\nTo honor him, you need to find your joy again.\n\nTime to get rid of the quilt. Although it is normal to do so. I do it myself. I have to quickly pull myself out of the guilt. In reality neither you or myself have enough power to cause someones death. so, please let go of the guilt.\n\nHave you gotten counseling?\n\nOpen up your heart to love again, \n\nDo your lost love a favor and live the rest of your life with joy and hope. That will honor his memory more than anything.\n\nI have to remind myself of my son's sense of humor and I have to be happy because he wouldn't be pleased if I ruined my own life because of his death. He is in a place of peace and joy.\n\nHon, you can love again.Open your heart.\nGive yourself times to grieve then give youself more time to live. As time goes on the grief will lesson. \n\nIf you  need medication for depression or anxiety go ahead and use it.\n\nHang in there and look for the silver linning in life/
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just think about ur kids.it really helps.
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First I'd like to express my condolences for your family's loss. People deal with grief in different ways, especially children who may not know exactly how to express how they're feeling. I think it would be beneficial to you and your kids to get some grief counseling to help you all sort through your feelings during this tough time. It would be good to go as a family for support, but individual sessions could be beneficial as well.
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I think it would be better to tie them up until it is over.  Make them sit in a chair, tape their arms and legs down and stuff something in their mouth to quiet them.  A sock  might work.  Then afterward just let them go.
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When my son was born he became severely ill. He was taken to children's for surgery. I had just miscarried before I got pregnant with him and he was kind of my last hope. We felt awful when he didn't recover right away like they said he would. He lost a lot of weight before he started to come around, and we were there, in the hospital, for about a week and a half. Our biggest inspiration was the other parents we saw and talked too. Some had been there months waiting on transplants that probably wouldn't come. Some knew they would never take their children home, and some helped their children plan their own funerals. What was a week and a half to all that. The point is there is always someone worse off then you. You have your life and you should enjoy it. You never know when your time is up, so you better live now.
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So sorry for your loss!  I can't imagine how difficult that is for you.\n\nOf course you break down!  In the course of life, 3 months is a very short time.  And ... it's okay for you children to see you cry.  Encourage them to express their grief as well.  \n\nI highly recommend grief counseling, for both you and the children.  Perhaps in a group setting as well as individual sessions.  It helps to know that other people experience the same emotions.  Check with your local church, temple, hospital, clinic or mental health clinic to see what is available for you.\n\nAs you are able, spend time doing a scrapbook, photo album, journal, about your feelings, about your life with your husband, about his life.  In time, the hole you feel will feel less deep and black, though you will always miss him and feel the lack of his being with you, but it wont be so devestating to you.\n\nYou are strong!  You can go on, and you can be a good single parent to your children.  Look into programs for them, and are their other male relatives who can help to fill in the gap for them?  Take parenting classes, get support and encouragement (there are groups online, as well as offline).  You can do it!\n\nThings are going to feel less overwhelming.  Hang in there!\nBest of luck to you.
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Im sorry for your loss.  Be there for them by listening to what they have to say, crying with them and remembering memories and good times that you have had.  You of course are going to lose it at some point and do not try not to.  That's really all you can do at this point.  Pray wtih them also.  You will get thru this.
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YOU SHOULD PRAY THAT THEIR HEARTS BE SOFTENED TO THE LITTLE ONE OR THAT GOD GIVES YOU THE STRENGTH TO LEAVE. THE BIBLE SAYS "AND THIS I SAY IN CONFIDENCE WHICH WE HAVE IN HIM: THAT IF WE ASK ANYTHING ACCORDING TO HIS WILL, HE LISTENS TO AND HEARS US. AND IF WE KNOW THAT HE LISTENS TO US IN WHATEVER WE ASK, WE ALSO KNOW THAT WE HAVE THE REQUESTS MADE OF HIM" 1 JOHN 5: 14-15........ I ALSO RECOMMEND ROMANS 5: 1-5 (THIS HAS BROUGHT ME THROUGH MANY TOUGH TIMES) ........... I WILL PRAY FOR YOU ALSO AND I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR THE BEST OF YOU.
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Just be there for him. The most important thing is for him to be comforted afterwards. There is nothing psychologically wrong with, it's perfectly normal and more common than most people realize. Eventually he will grow out of it or learn to be more secure and deal with it himself.
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Lexy,\nI am deeply sorry for your loss, however, remember you son is now in a better place and is watching over his mother.  Read Sylvia Brown's "Life on the Other Side".  I have had too many close experiences with death and this has really helped me understand what is to happen next.  Our bodies will terminate, however we will not.\n\nNate
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You should give the orphans stuff toys since they have no parents to cuddle with. Stuff toys help bring comfort and soothes the sad feelings of orphans that they lost their parents. I hope this works for you and the orphans. Good Luck! ; )
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I am feeling for you today - I lost two people, unrelated back to back last Wed and Thursday..its been brutal its been one of the worse weeks of my entire life and I too am feeling..have I done enough?? And yes..I have...\n\nAll you can do is be there for him. Talk to him, or dont talk when he doesn't want to. You can call him and ask how he is doing, you can take him to dinner and take his mind off of it and give him a sense of normalcy and a few minutes of a reprieve from the sadness, you can bake a lasagna and bring it to his house so he doesn't have to worry about cooking..\n\nBut believe me - your friendship is enough. that you are caring and going through it with him..\n\nMy friend who lost his in utero baby at 5 months said to me..We are on the first rung of the grieving ladder - at the very top..and you are right behind us on the second..\n\ndamn straight I am..I'm holding their legs and keeping them steady on the first rung and will catch them if they go to fall...as will you with your friend.\n\nJust be there..its enough. take care and hang in there.
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ITS IMPORTANT TO PREPARE YOUR KIDS ASAP. HOLD A FAMILY MEETING, REMIND THE KIDS OF ALL THE LOVE AND HAPPINESS YOUR DOG HAS GIVEN YOU OVER THE YEARS, AND REASSURE THEM THAT NOW ITS YOUR FAMILYS TURN TO HELP HIM LIVE OUT HIS LIFE PEACEFULLY. BRING THE KIDS TO THE VET SO HE CAN ANSWER ALL THEIR QUESTIONS. HAVE THE VET EXPLAIN THERE WILL BE NO PAIN WHEN HE GETS PUT TO SLEEP. AFTER THAT HOLD A MEMORIAL SO YOUR KIDS CAN EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS AND SAY A LOVING GOODBYE.