Whats better arranged marriages or love marriages?
957768
A few years ago I would have said love...Americans have preconceived notions of what arranged marriages constitute. I read about them and after I did, I wanted to have one and wished it was a common practice here! The families of young women carefully screen men in all areas (family, financial, compatibility) and present the couple to each other. Women aren't "forced" to marry the men in the majority of cases. Their families love them just like families here love their daughters and want them to be happy. So I think arranged marriages are better.
797239
If you are wise enough to differentiate beween infatuation and love, then love marriage is the way to go.  However, if you are not sure about yourself, maybe you should leave it to your parents.  Some people prefer arranged only to be able to blame their parents if it doesn't work out.  I think that is too shallow if you consider marriage to be the single most important decision in your life that should be treated as an investment.
38821
I've been married and single both...and while there are advantages to both, I'd choose married. (but next time to someone I know better!)\n\nIf you're not afraid of really hard work, marriage would be better. It takes work every single day, though.
450466
it depends upon your nature.if u fall in love & u stand by it then you will have a love marriage.but if u do the opposite then u will definitely have an arranged marriage.
248598
Coming from an Indian background (but not Hindu), I can only tell u this:\nIt depends on how well u know each other before the wedding, esp if it was an arranged marriage.\n\nMaybe u will only talk! It's best that u wait until ur wife is ready to have sex with u. If she's shy, maybe just kiss and cuddle the first night so she gets used to u. And bear in mind she probably doesnt expect u to be a sex god! It's nice to learn the ways of love together.\n\nTalk to ur parents or a marriage counsellor in the community, if ur still unsure.
336259
you should always marry for love. you should love the one you marry. your love will grow as the years pass.
804888
I believe in love marriage. Indian girls should have the freedom to date if they want to. Why? Because this is 2006, not 1906. I have an Indian friend who's parents arranged for him to meet this girl, and the girl rejected him because his skin is so dark. Now he has a complex about it. I believe in freedom of choice.
899294
love marriage nothing beats love
1030502
well for me it is better a love marriage... :-)
880884
THERE IS NO TIME FOR LOVE TO STRIKE ON ,,,SO ANY ONE ANY WHERE BE IN LOVE OR GOT IN ARRANGED MARRIAGE ,,,,,,,,SO DO NT BELIAVE IN ANY SOURCE OF FINDING ,,BELIEVE IN U AND GOD WILL GET U ,,WHAT HE MADE FOR U ,SO ALL GONA SAY ,,,,MADE FOR EACH OTHER.
884444
I believe that either of them is good. People should avoid emphasis on forcing it on a particular gender to propose to the other one. The bottom line is for the proposing to be done and a relationship deeply rooted in love be established - regardless of which of them started it.
1008247
I married for love 23+ years ago.  I'd dated both rich and poor man....my experience?  As I told my parents, I'd rather marry a poor man who loves me than a rich man who beats me up or cheats on me.
977709
=when I was younger i thought arranged marriage thing was insane. Now that I have been divorced twice and have had several relationships that didn't work out it doesn't seem so crazy. Who would know what is best for you besides your parents. If you are a parent with dating adult ch8children you will understand this. why is it I can spot a loser with my kids, but tend to still pick them myself? Years ago they had (and I think still do) mail order brides. We call it Internet dating!
3242
An arranged marriage means you are taking a gamble on your life and his, and ultimately your children's. You don't know the guy and there's only so much you can know in a few days.\nTo discover something bad, disgusting, improper, unsatisfying, or unacceptable after marriage will only have you stuck with this person carrying that on your shoulders even if it's unbearable for you, for the rest of your life.\nTo take that gamble means that you could end up with a good guy, or end up with a horribly bad guy who doesn't do his duties but expects you to do yours perfectly.\nIt's something you don't want to gamble your life on, and it would be unfair to your kids because if you fail this gamble badly you'll be stuck in a bad marriage and yours kids will suffer with a dodgy or bad father figure.\nI think a love marriage is easier to cope with, and in the end you can tell your kids and yourself you married him because you loved him, not because he was chosen for you.\n\nWhatever the case, don't rush and choose wisely. Good luck!
1026646
I think if you marry without love you are cheating yourself and your spouse. It is not fair to either of you. Marriage is not about who your parents think is best for you. Marriage is about love, trust, honesty, lust...all that good stuff. Sure you can marry someone you don't love, but you would never know how beautiful life can be when you have someone you love.
286128
I don't know. I will always choose love though. Money is worthless in the scheme of things. Love is the most valuable commodity we have.
1064439
no......never\nif there is no love then whts the way of marrying.........