How do I deal with a difficult relative?
968474
Your approach should depend on whether you want to have a relationship with this grandmother.  If you do, you might want to respond clearly and honestly when she says something mean: "It hurts my feelings when you talk to me like that."  Or, "Grandmother, are you angry with me about something?"  Sometimes people don't realize what they are doing until they are called on their inappropriate behavior.  If you are not interested in having a relationship with her, you can choose to see her as little as possible, and just be civil to her when you do.  Good luck!
755382
if u keep showing them the ways to hurt u - like dont let them know how they can hurt u -lesson 1.  lesson-2 is offensive is the best form of defense. by keeping away or mum, will only embolden them to hurt u even more.  hit back at them proactively.  there is no family which does not have something to hide - as soon as u spot someone who could hurt u - start talking about their blackspot in a loud voice but in a friendly tone - like u are sympathesing. this will keep everyone away from u. lesson 3 - jobs are always available for asking - or for that matter you can always earn rs 100 a day - ui better start concentrating on ur livelihood and become self supporting. the fear of insult should keep ur relatives off ur back.  meanwhile, there must be something u must have done to earn their anger - if u know the source of your trouble, try to solve the problem by apologising, giving it away if u dont need it......i dont think people have time to hunt out an innocent person that u make urself to be.
1078197
First of all, it's nice to see someone who really is concerned about family!!!!  I wish you the best of luck in all you do, I know your grandma would be proud.\n\n     I'm not very good with legal things like this, but I'll try to offer some ideas for you.\n\n     1.  If you are taking care of your uncles welfare, check out becoming there power of attorny over finances.  This would give you legal ground to care for them and their money.  \n\n     2.  There might be some form of assistance for you, check out the social service programs in your area.\n\n     3.  Your younger uncle my be trying to deal with the death of his mother still, which can cause many changes in attitude and social behavior.  Try to be open and honest with him, let him know you're there to help.\n\n     Above all, be good to yourself, don't let this cosume you.  If you need a break, let them know. You are dealing with alot.  Make sure you have someone to talk to, maybe your religious leader (pastor, priest, etc.)
60923
Sorry about the tension. That's a pain. I too have a relative that is very different than the rest of us but I have concluded that there was some sort of genetic mutation and leave it at that.
177771
Not if it is a relative you know very well.  Otherwise, you should get help.
104040
respect the person you love. listen to them and respect their view on issues you discuss,even if you don't agree. Don't talk mean to them or treat them bad. do special things for them that you know they like. ask them how their day went. Make them a special dinner or dessert. Help them work to make your home a place that you both are proud of. respect their family even if you don't like them. one of the worst things to do is talk bad about your mates family, it will eventually come back to haunt you. show them love and compassion. a hug,loving touch or kiss. take the time every day to show them in any way that you care through bad and good times. these are the things i do because i know that i have a wonderful man and thank god everyday for him.
1083898
Tell them in person.  Let them in the loop, family can be your best support when going through problems like that.  It is something they need to know about.  It is also something that you can get help for.  Get the assistance that you need to help yourself through this.
827083
Be strong and do not show emotion if they try to make you back down.  You have to live with this man, so its your decision and you have to live with it.  I am sure that your family only wants you to be happy.
366369
by having a fromal relation with them, courtesy and kindness is required. make sure you never interfere with their lives and never allow any interference with yours from their side.
106398
Sit him down, don't dramatize the situation and just explain to him in a mature and resolute way that you no longer wish to share the living arrangement you currently share. The best way to deal with any problem is just being honest about it with the people involved because nothing sucks worse than being the last know especially when it's a life altering decision that affects you.
1022225
It is terrible to have to do this to relatives & one can still be civil with them, but this does not mean that you have to tolerate abusive of any kind from them.  Our family has had to cut off someone because they refuse to change their negative behavior, or even acknowledge that they have a problem. I am afraid they will never realize it until they are cut off from absolutely everyone.
189727
Avoid fighting in front of them.  \n\nDon't do anything in front of them that you don't want them to do - smoke, drink, etc.  They learn mostly by your actions, not your words.  \n\nNever use force or violence or shouting to settle an issue.  \n\nIf you are separated or divorced from their other parent, never bad mouth that parent to them.\n\nNever prevent them from knowing their grandparents, unless there are very serious extenuating circumstances - it can't be just because you don't like the grandparents or don't get along with them.  There is nothing in this world as special and as precious as a grandparent's love.\n\nDon't ever lie in front of them, even to save face yourself.  They will remember that it is ok to lie.\n\nNever let them go to bed while you are upset with them.  Always resolve the issue.\n\nNever let them go to bed without saying "I love you."\n\nNever over-protect them by permitting them to avoid reasonable responsibility for their actions.  \n\nDon't give them a TV and computer in their bedroom.  Those items should be community property and in sight of all.\n\nDon't overwhelm them with academic expectations.  The question should be "Did you do your best?", not "Did you get an A?"\n\nDon't always believe that the problem at school wasn't their fault.\n\nDon't do everything for them.  Teach them independence and responsiblity by allowing them, and expecting them, to do some chores.  But don't expect perfection.  Accept their honest efforts - the messy room won't last forever.\n\nDon't ever say "When I was your age ....." in a way that suggests they are not good enough.\n\nI hope these thoughts help.  They are a few of the things I have learned over the years.
716867
Talk to your aunt and talk to your cousin.  Tell them you've noticed there reactions and ask them what is going on, why are they behaving this way.  Then tell them straight out that you are not interested in him and never have been.  Best way is to be direct and hope it works.  good luck!
433192
My g-ma also. Lucky I was not the injured party, but You can only hurt her. There is no other way. And you may scare her away. My family just keeps away from her. You must always put your child first with no regards to others feelings being hurt. There is no other way.
829792
avoid any confrontation, play the headache/not feeling well act until yo are ready to bounce then leave him a note letting him know why you chose to go.. maybe with a word of advice in the hopes that he'll be better to his next victim...\nthis is assuming of course that he is unbearable...\nMaybe you're the tough one to get along with?
644428
Talk to each of them and see if they feel the same way. It's hard getting some people together if they don't want to be there. Then plan a family dinner or outing.
313359
Friends aren't too hard - you just mentally prepare yourself for the possibility that they may reject you.  Family is harder.  Make sure you're all financially set and have a place to stay and everything if they reject you...and make sure you're emotionally prepared for that possibility.  Then you just tell them.  You might want to have some support information to hand them if they stick around but don't take it too well - like the number to PFLAG or a book on how family and friends can cope with their loved one's choice.