I dated a guy for six months. I was in love with him and he was in love with me or so I thought. His mother wa
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thats sad bout his mother but maybe if you be there for him and maybe if you ask him if he wants to be your ______________________ then maybe he will
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I had a relationship that lasted 2 1/2 years in which the guy I was seeing (and was supposed to marry) had a four year old son when I began dating him. The mother had abandoned them both a year earlier. I raised the child as my son - he even called me Mommy. His father worked two jobs for a while, so during that time, I was actually more like a single parent to his son - I did all the baths, all the homework, all the cooking, all the quality time, all the bedtime stories and all the discipline. I loved that child like he was my own, and I still love him. \n\nThe relationship went south, and I stayed because of the child for a long time. The mother eventually got custody of him (MESSED UP!), and took him halfway across the country. I didn't have a problem with him seeing his mother and knowing his mother, in fact, I WANTED him to see and know her, but I also felt that he was my son in my heart. When we had to tell him that the judge said that he had to go and live with his mother, he said, "But your my mommy, too, so that means I can still live with you!" Heartbreaking.\n\nI couldn't see him anymore, I couldn't protect him anymore, I couldn't be there for him anymore, because I had no right to legally. That was the absolute worst thing I've ever had to go through as a result of a relationship - and the relationship itself was pretty darn bad. \n\nAs a result, I won't get involved with a man that already has kids anymore. I am too scared to love a child if all the rights I have to that child are in someone else's hands. That may be irrational, but it's too much of a risk for me. Been there, done that.
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Sounds like he wants you to be his mother.  I would just go seperate ways.  Good luck.
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Trust me at 19 you are gonna wish you had dated more, i was in a similar situation.  They guy and I dated for 4 or  rs although he was a good guy there was no motivation or goals I found out on my own and ended up leaving him for someone else. You have to ask what is your future with that person and is your family going o ever accept him?
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this is a question i had asked myself for 13 yrs. I had fallen in love when i was young and in high school. We had to move to another state so that my mother could find decent employment to take care of us. My mother told me that because i was young, i would soon forget. Me and this guy lost contact a year later after I had moved away. 4 years later, we made contact once again and began a phone relationship. We made plans to reunite. Things didnt go as planned and that trip was not made due to him becoming incarsarated for a crime that he did not commit. I began another relationship. I have had several relationships with other people since then. None of them had ever compared to the one we shared, until recently. Once again, I went about finding him. He had since married and had a child. We talked on the phone and we once again spoke of our feelings. It was known at that time that we both had always felt the same way. I was getting married 6 months after that phone call and I knew what I had to do. I had to go see him. I owed it to myself and to my future husband. My fiancee left me over this, but had i not made the trip, I would not have known what I know now. The love I have for him, will never go away. However, seeing him and his family together instilled a peace within me. I know that he is happy. I finally recieved the closure I needed to move on, knowing that we will always share a bond. Since then, I have met a man that I know will have my whole heart, the way that he should. Finalizing a former love relationship is the most important thing you can do for your self and the other person involved. It is what will allow you to move on and make future relationships work.
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ive been in this sutiuation and let the guys mother deal with him i would not go back out with him cause he threatened to kill himself i thought to myself i dont want to go through hell the rest of my life and that it wasnt my fault we broke up cause he was to ignorant to look for the clues that the relatioship was over before i broke up with him i tried to make it work but it was to haard. he never ended up killing himself
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Yes, Its that the ex is still in love with you, So unconsciously he's going out with you again. My ex has done that twice. (I am the mother of his son) It is kind of freaky. Just look at it like this. " You Know You Still Got It."
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i would say no. cause i was with someone before he went home from college and maybe two months after he was down there and calls me up and tells me that he found someone new. after all the things that i had done and all the time we spent together it seemed like it was for nothing.
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I dated this guy who had just got out of a 7 year relationship. We dated for a year and I wound up pregnant. After 4 months into my pregnancy my sister called me at work to tell me that she had seen my b/f with his ex shopping at K mart and that she too was pregnant (1 month behind me). As hard as it was, I kept everything to myself and went to my b/f house the following night. I asked if he'd take a drive with me. I hopped on the freeway (so there was no jumping out of the car)  and beat the living crap out of him with my right hand whiled I steered with my left. I dumped his ass off at home and to make a long story short, I ended my pregnancy and left the idiot ex to keep hers...they are now happily divorced and he has since tried to contact me through friends and relatives while I am happily married to the BEST man in the entire world!
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If you really love and adore a person, you will stand up for yourself.  Once I lost someone for that exact reason, the estranged mother thought that the only control left was to decide the right spouse.  Truly, it's crazy.  Fortunately, that person wasn't the right one for me.  However, there is no closure in knowing that a mamma's boy ruined a possible chance for romance.  Love should be limitless.  The sooner we figure that out, the better off we will be.
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I was in this situation before... my parents wouldn't allow me to date this guy. well, i dated him for 6 months behind their backs and when i graduated from high school, they said i could do whatever i wanted to do. so... i kept dating him. he then joined the army and we got married, had a 3 year marriage plus a little baby boy and well... to make a long story short... this guy was a complete bastard and had a very personal affair. ANYWAYS... I have learned one thing... it might sound stupid and nerdy but PARENTS USUALLY KNOW BEST!!! I'd listen to them. THEY HAVE THEIR REASONS!
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I met my fiance 3 months ago the nite before i moved out of my husbands house to another state.  I continued my moved.  He visited me the next week.  We talked on the phone.  He moved me back 1 month later.  We are so in love and are planning our wedding in Aruba.  All things are possible.
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He sounds like the type of man who will never be pleased with you, no matter what you do. He'll never be happy enough and he's a selfish jerk. \n\nThe fact that he talks to his MOTHER about you and him... that would be enough to make me run in the other direction.\n\nCut your losses - it may be painful, but totally worth it as there are other fish in the sea who won't find fault with all that you do.
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Looks like the guy is a mommys boy?!! If hes from a single parent family especially, drop everything cut ur losses and run like the wind dudette!  on a serious note, I understand you must now be feeling like you cant ever go on with  out him and that your world will end. trust me it wont, you are best to put an ultematum (is tht how u spell it? oh who cares!) to him and say either u marry me or stay with the mom.  Also dont be a martyr and live with them, live separately even if its a yard from his moms home.  If he wont leave his mom, u have to leave him and look onwards, it may not appear so right now, but you will meet someone else who deserves all your love and will reciprocate unconditionally without a mom for free!
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I actually just brought up that idea with my ex when I talked to him tonight (we broke up two weeks ago) and he said he isn't in love with me anymore. I think it's best to not go back and just move on. Healthier that way.
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as long as you dated them for at least 6mo...thats 2 girls a year...add it up
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NOOOO, don`t ever make him decide. If he chooses than it needs to be without YOUR help!\nI think his mother was way out of line with that comment. Try not to worry too much about it, it sounds like you have a great boyfriend there! If you want you can have a talk with her and tell her that you didn`t mean to "step on her toes", you are simply in love with her son and wanted to be with him on this important day.