how do i regain my confidence in speaking slowly & clearly after some depression period i passed.plz.help me.?
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Hi,\n just bury the past ,offcourse telling is easy.\n\nYou seem to get nervous at some time,it happend with me too.\n\nOne simple remedy is 1.Take deep breath and take things simple\n\nnot imagine how things to perfect be your normal self.\nNo one is perfect.\n2.To make above practical start little sessions whenever you get\n  opportunity ,like going to shop take  intiative to talk by yourself,\n  do slowly seize every opportunity,you will be suprised once you get over.\n\nBut only you have to practical and take things lightly no worry.\nIf you failed also done get disappointed,keep trying,our brain has\n\nthe tendency to react to habit  forming ,the more you develop \n\nthe more easy so shun earlier habits form new helpful things.\n\nYou can observe within a week difference
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Never let anyone or anything make you lose your faith. Hold on to that - it's valuable.\n\nFriends come and go, all throughout our lives. You can reach out to someone and be their friend whenever you choose to.\n\nAs for the depression, I think these tips are pretty useful. Take care and all the best.\n\n"GET OUT OF BED: \n\nOne of the most important things you can do is get up at about the same time every morning (even week-ends). Preferably, that means about 7 a.m. or earlier. You might not feel like it but Get Up. Such regularity helps your body function more normally so you're more likely to feel normal. \n\nLIGHTS: \n\nLight helps your body function better. So turn on a lot of lights as soon as you arise. Open curtains to get more sunlight. Better yet, go outdoors into the sunshine as soon as you can. Remove any eyewear so light will enter more readily (glass cuts out some of the sun's rays). But don't stare at the sun, of course. \n\nMOVE: \n\nBe active right away -- oxygenate! That means getting up and walking around your dwelling for five or 10 minutes, or perhaps riding an exercycle. Mild exercise gets the blood flowing and transports more oxygen throughout your body (especially to your brain), helping you feel mentally alert and alive. \n\nMUSIC: \n\nSelect and play some energetic, happy music as you dress and have your breakfast. The audiovisual department of most libraries has albums and tapes you can check out. \n  \n\nBREAKFAST: \n\nBegin your breakfast with protein (i.e., meat, eggs, peanut butter, nuts, cheese). When you get up, your body chemistry is ready to convert food, especially protein,into longlasting energy. To balance your most important meal of the day, add an orange or other fresh fruit and whole grain cereal or whole grain bread. \n\nTALK WITH SOMEONE: \n\nOne of the quickest ways to beat the blues is to interact with others. You might not feel like doing that - you'd rather avoid people when blue. So make lt easier on yourself. Talk with someone you enjoy about a subject you enjoy so there is definite give and take. \n\nAnd, force yourself to say "hello" to the persons next to you in class, those where you live, anyone around. \n\nLIMIT CAFFEINE: \n\nThe long-term (four hours or so) effects of caffeine are depression. Try to limit coffee to no more than one cup in the morning. Coffee can make you more alert for an hour or so, but later you get an opposite reaction. Caffeine tends to increase the release of insulin in the blood, and insulin lowers the blood sugar level. When you have low blood sugar levels, you begin to feel less sure of yourself, and have low energy levels, which can lead to the blues or depression. \n\nLIMIT SUGAR: \n\nSugar might give you an initial rush of energy, but within an hour or so the blood sugar level can become low, and when it's low you may feel low, too. \n\nThe caffeine/sugar cycle. It's easy to get caught in the caffeine and sugar cycle -- having coffee, caffeinated soft drinks, or something with sugar every two hours or so to "stay up." For example, cola contains about 10 teaspoons of sugar plus caffeine equal to about half a cup of coffee. In addition to bringing on the blues, this cycle can result in dependence, poor nutrition. and obesity -- reasons to get down on yourself even more and feel blue. \n\nMAINTAIN FIBER: \n\nFiber helps food go through your digestive system at a proper rate, giving a more constant energy supply. Highly processed foods merely provide a quick surge of energy which can be followed by depression. You can maintain fiber in your diet by eating an orange or grapefruit rather than just drinking the juice. Eat fresh vegetables, fresh fruits, and whole grain breads and cereals. \n\nSTRESS B COMPLEX: \n\nSome persons report receiving help by taking a concentrated vitamin B complex. You'll find these called something like "Stress B" or "B 50." This is controversial.
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I also lack confidence. In fact I tend to stutter when I get really nervous in interviews. But I manage to get good jobs. I think you should go for interviews a lot. When you get a hang of it, it will just be like a breeze. Just concentrate on harnessing your skills and nothing will go wrong.
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hey just be confident and outgoing if u stay quiet n dont talk to ne body then ur just going to feel worse n idk wht ur situation is but take some advice from some one with the same feelings n stay positive n stop thinking of ur self as a loser
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I feel your pain--I was so shy when I was your age I would panic if someone talked to me, or a friend called me on the phone.  It was terrible.\n\nI am not sure by your question if you are wanting to overcome your shyness, but what I did was started reading books (back then we didnt have the internet) on public speaking, making friends, what to say in social settings, how to make small talk, etc.  I also read up on self esteem building, and many years later I feel comfortable in public settings, and also have done several public speaking engagements in my field.\n\nI am not saying you should NOT be shy or change how you are.  If you are comfortable with who you are, and your friends are not, then find friends who respect you for who you are.  I chose to overcome my shyness because it really was limiting my life.\n\nGood luck!  You have a great life ahead of you!
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You should psych yourself by relaxing, giving yourself a "confidence boosting talk", you know, you can do this, you KNOW this, etc. and just walk into it with assurance. Good luck!
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FEAR OF SPEAKING IN PUBLIC.  This was really bad - I was even afraid of interviews (that's only one person), so I guess I was afraid of strangers, especially a whole bunch of them in an audience.  Yes, I conquered it. How?  I tried just trying to relax, think of the audience as just some people similar to me (didn't work for me.)  I was a basket case, couldn't even SIT in class and take my turn reading something out loud. Tried a tranquilizer too.  You can't fool your defense mechanism, and after a couple of years I discovered that what I was afraid of was being nervous and obvious, like shaking head, hands, weak legs, hard to talk, so that made me nervous and therefore afraid.  I went to a seminar designed to bully you into ridding your fear.  Long story short, I joined a Toastmasters' Club, shook with nervousness the first time the Table Topics leader called on me to give an opinion on the day's topic, I was so embarrassed.  But I went to all the meetings, did my speaking assignments, and overall it worked great, took about a year to gain the confidence I needed.  Won some speech contests beyond the club setting, held office in the club, and even became president.  My phobia stemmed from childhood feelings of inadequacey, inferiority, being afraid whether my mother approved of what I did.  Well, we're adults now, and have to just go forward.  Yes, I'm sure I'm not still bugged by it, because I've had plenty of experience in not being afraid. But I know what you mean.  In the beginning even after successes, I'd always think, "What if I'm afraid again?"  I would think of my successes, no matter how big or small.  Then I decided, "Well, if I do, I'll just speak anyway, the nervousness will go away and not be noticeable."  I also learned that when extremely nervous, we try to hold ourselves stiff so as not to shake, especially the head and neck.  We don't breathe enough, and that makes it worse.  Long winded, aren't I?  Just wanted to help.
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There are a few simple things that you can do to boost your confidence quite easily.\nThe first is to make a list of all your strong points: write down all the things about you that are good and strong. If you need help, don't be shy to ask others to comment on your strong areas for you.\nKeep this list with you at all times, and pin a copy by your bed so that you can look at it first thing in the morning and when you go to bed, to make you feel great first and last thing every day of the week.\nThis is such a simple tip but it works really well.
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Start, if you can, by convincing yourself that the speech is more important to you than your self, than the possibility of some kind of humiliation from a poor performance. Convince yourself that you are going to say things that represent your best thinking and feelings. This can be done no matter what the subject is, but it may require considerable thought.  Then it will be more important to give the speech than how well or poorly you give it. After you have convinced yourself of this, so that you accept and don't fear what may happen as much as you did before, start working hard to improve how you will deliver it. Give it out loud to yourself and work on your voice until it sounds as relaxed and resonant as you can make it. Work hard on this, and even slight gains will give you more confidence. Work on phrases that come easily to you and modify the words accordingly. If you can, commit the entire thing to memory, but at least be able to get through each idea in sequence. Try to see yourself in relation to your audience. What do you want to convince them of? What information do you have that is important for them to understand? Do you want them to feel some way about what you will say?   \n\nWhat it boils down to is to have something to say that you believe in, keep a sense of making sure your message is getting across, make it as short as it can be made without losing the main points and sit down when you have made your points. If you do this preparation, you will have a reasonable chance of bringing it off quite well, and the probability of doing fairly well no matter what happens.
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Think about being efficient.  Everytime you feel yourself getting excited about a topic and wanting to elaborate, hold off.  This may mean trying to limit your responses to 5 or six pleasant, well- planned words.  Try not to use adjectives- those can get on people's nerves.\nYou can contact a therapist or like it has been noted, a speech pathologist.  Those can be expensive- just try your friends and family, I'm sure they know about your chatty habit and all probably have a few opinions on how you can slow down.  Just like smoking, it will be a hard thing to quit, but you can do it!  And you will probably LOVE the results.
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I'm currently dealing with the same things.  It got so bad for me that I had to take time off from work.  What I find helps is to see my dr on a regular basis, and I go see a psycologist also, just to talk and help to get things out and deal with them.  I started keeping a journal again.  Just write, don't think about what you are writing, just write. Its amazing what actually comes out when you don't think about the words.  \nTry taking a nice warm bath, play some relaxing music, light a candle, and just relax.  Slow deep breaths, in through your nose, out through your mouth.  I mix in some lavendar oil with my bath, its very relaxing.  \nTry taking a walk, not a quick run/walk, just a stroll.  Try to enjoy the beauty thats around you, because no matter where you are theres something beautiful.  That helps me to think positive, since in depression  you dont want to be a positive person.  \nTake any medications the dr gives to you.  In time, the majority of them will help.  Only you're doctor can determine which is right for you.  I am on several right now, and I am noticing a difference in myself. \nSurround yourself by friends and family, granted that they aren't the one causing you anxiety.  Talk, and listen to what they have to say.  Enjoy a cup of decaff herbal tea.  Limit your caffiene intake, since it can make your anxiety worse.  \nTry taking up a hobby or craft to keep your hands busy.  I have been doing plastic canvas work, and its helping me keep busy, and when I feel stressed or anxious, I work on my project until the feeling passes.  I have also been trying to read.  it helps me relax also. \nI hope this helped, its whats been getting me through the last few weeks.  Good luck to you!
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Have a partner listen to you and count the number of times you use filler words in your speech. I did that and it really helped. It becomes sort of a little competition with yourself. Each time you give the speech, try cutting out one more word, then two, the three and so on. Hope that helps!
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Hi maybe join group who do things that you are interested in, that way you will meet and become more outgoing as time passes.\n\nI'm sure there are social groups nearby who hold meetings regularly same thing as you get to know ppl then anxieties will slowly fade.\n\nYou are not alone believe me, many others feels same, it's hard to go up and talk but with alittle practice it will become 2nd nature.\nPpl love talking about themselves so that is a good ice breaker to ask what they like to do in general.\nThen it is easier each time plus you meet plenty of different ppl ,but remember you have to give info also, as is not one way street..best of luck cheers..
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clearly, you have to speak well. No horible accents or lips or anything. Also, you cant be shy.Public speaking is not for the faint of hear.\nLastly, it helps if you a) loveable or b) hot.
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smile. Im with you on this one. My mind is slowing down. I always thought I was fine. Never got depressed like my other friends but yes, the minds slowing down. Is concentration a huge prob as well?....the best thing I do is eat lots of fresh foods everyday, keep up your daily vitamin intake as well. Water is very underated and should be drunk in masses! There is a herbal drug out there called H2JK (or something like that - someone help us here) but it helps with the memory. Admittingly im very smart witted, its just Im starting to forget things....best of luck and lets see how you go :-)
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Practice. That's the main thing that will help. I have that problem, and it helped me to remind myself that the person I am talking to is just a human - exactly like me... absolutely no more special, and therefore should have no power to make me nervous. Another thing I do that has helped is observe people with really good social abilities. It doesn't exactly make you more calm, but it shows you more options of how to act in situations when talking to people - which over time will make you more confident in yourself as you become more comfortable with the "talents" you've learned.
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The best way to be confident about what you speak is knowledge and passion. Forget about planned speeches. Know the subject you're going to speak about, "do your homework" so to speak, and maybe make a few note cards. Find something about which you have to speak that you can feel passionate about. I used to be terribly shy as well, but after a while, it came into perspective: what does it matter how people think about your public speaking? Many of them are probably as nervous as you are. Just do it. Don't overthink it; you'll just make yourself panic.