Betrayed by my best friends, help!!?
957530
You know what? I wouldn't give them the satisfaction. It's much more satisfying to rise above petty antics than to involve yourself in them.\n\nIt makes them look cheap, not you.\n\nBut if you want to really annoy them, just blank them. Always look over their shoulders. They don't exist.
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That is really tough and I'm sorry you had to experience it.  It's a leasson in life for you - be careful who you give your trust to in the future. Always be aware of human nature - and the ego aspect. \n\nIf it helps you any, she will get what she deserves from all this betrayal....perhaps the two of them deserve each other - and each will never be able to trust the other, knowing what they've done behind your back.\n\nAs for you, hold your head high and let people see that you are happy to be far away from two such sneaks as the two of them.  \n\nIn time, you will find someone who really deserves you, and would never treat you in such a way. Then you will not give this whole thing a second thought except in gratitude.
867882
this is called learning.\n\nyou waited three months to talk about it.  even if you had told them right away, you still broke the trust of three people.  yes, three people.\n\nyou lied to your friend by sleeping with her man and hiding it.\nyou lied to your man by sleeping with his friend and hiding it\nyou lied to your secret lover by saying you wouldn't talk, but you did.\n\nthere was no good way out of it to begin with, but now you should have learned a valuble lesson.  some things might hurt a little to keep inside, buy they hurt a lot more when let out.\n\nsomething about best friends though - a best friend will forgive you almost anything - she forgave the boyfriend, didnt' she?  let her do it on her own though.  maybe ring her up in a week or two, to go out and get pizza or something - but don't talk about it then either!  it's over, don't bring up a past that can't be cured.
631473
start a new one with someone else.\n\nseriously!\n\nonce the trust is broken u can never fully regain it. u will always be wondering!
777110
Your friend feels hurt and betrayed by your actions when you dumped him for the loser boyfriend.  It sounds as if he cares more for you than the other guy ever did.  Keep this in mind when dealing with the friend you could trust.  He's not the same guy who treated you so badly and he probably will not react in the same way.  Give him a chance.  \n\nIf you want to rebuild the friendship, you need to give it time and take small steps. Trust is the fastest thing to lose and the slowest to regain. Back off for now.  Leave him alone for a week or so, then if you still want to speak with him, text or email him that you've had some time to think and you're wondering how he's doing.  (Absolutely DO NOT do this if you are not totally sincere.  You've hurt him once already and he doesn't deserve to be hurt again.) If he answers, then you have a dialog.  Ask if you can speak to him on the phone.  Tell him you know that you did was wrong and ask for his forgiveness.  Most importantly, let him know how much you miss him.  Tell him that you'd like to talk to him again later.  If he agrees, then ask if he'd meet you somewhere for a coke or something.  After a few times of talking to you and seeing you, he will start to see a change.  That is what he's looking for.  When you feel that the both of you are ready, then find a way to be alone with him.  Tell him how you feel.  Most importantly don't rush him or yourself.  Friendship is built on trust and trust takes time.  Best of luck.  Hope this helps.
46150
You need to let this friendship go. Most likely she's going to do it again, but this time it'll be worst. Trust me. She'll loose your trust. People change as they grow older, and it's not always for the better. At least you've realized she's not the person you thought she was and if you continue to be her best friend then you're putting yourself in a situation where you'll probably get hurt in the end. Move on.
350706
I know how you feel. My ex-wife was cheating on me with one of my best friends. We also got divorced, and it was really rough for me for the first year or so. Every part of my life changed, all the routines changed, had to get used to being alone. There is no easy fix when your betrayed by someone you love and trust. Seems like everything you believed in was a lie. It helped me to lean on my family for support. It was hard at first because I felt ashamed, but believe me, you don't want to go it alone. Turn to your friends and family for help. Keep your mind busy, take a night class or something. It helps. Why did he do it? She told him what he wanted to hear. Maybe he thought he wouldn't get caught. Don't get caught up in the why and how, it will only make it worse. Don't get down on yourself, or blame yourself. He chose to do what he did, knowing that he was married. You didn't force him to do it, and you couldn't have done anything differently to prevent him from doing it. You are still a worthwhile human being, and you still have your life ahead of you. As time goes by, it will get easier. You might even realize one day, that your life is better now than it was then. Keep your head up, and good luck.
41101
What do you do? Absolutely nothing. Not a good idea to do anything about it. You could get your a$$ kicked or worse than that, lose your best friend. Will it be worth it? Find a boyfriend of your own.
188738
I WOULD PICK MY BEST FRIEND. WHY WOULD SHE LIE TO YOU?, AND OF COURSE HE IS GOING TO "SWEAR" THAT HE DIDN'T BECAUSE HE DOESN'T WANT YOU FIND OUT. YOU MAY LOOSE YOUR BEST FRIEND BY STAYING WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND WHO SHE SAYS IS A "CHEATER", AND YOU MAY LOOSE YOUR BOYFRIEND BY CHOOSING YOUR BESTFRIEND WHO HE SAYS IS A "LIAR". DON'T BE BLINDED BY LOVE, AND REMEMBER TO LOOK AT THE FACTS, BECAUSE EVERYTHING WILL COME OUT EVENTUALLY. YOU HAVE TO MAKE THE ULTIMATE DECISION.GOOD LUCK!!
46638
Aah - that's a sticky situation! I would hope that you have only sent "signals" to one of those guys. And you also need to decide if guy #1 is worth the drama. Because there may be some for a while. But after a couple of weeks I think guy #2 will get over it. He just has to find something else to think about other than you:) Bottom line - if you have strong feelings - go for it and let the best friend know without saying a word that you are unavailable to him. Good luck!\n-GirlShrink
127955
A real friend doesn't stab someone in the back. Maybe your friend is confused since you were the only one told but friendship is also based (should be) on trust also. If you confront your friend and have a good honest talk with him and if he still refuses to listen, then forget about him and ignore him. You'll find some other friend who deserves your respect. It's difficult to find a good friend but there's always someone out there for another. Good luck :)
975215
you didnt do anything wrong, it was good that you were honest about your feelings. he is your best friend, and best friends are suppose to care about each other. you might want to have a talk with him, maybe there is something wrong going on in his life that he hasnt told you. but if he is a bad friend in other ways, you might want to stop hanging out with him so much.
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dang, dont sound much like a best friend to me. tell her that you dont like that she lies to you and you cant be best friends with someone you can't trust. tell her that that has been bothering you for a long while and wish you could have that special best friend trust with her or it just isn't going to work out, because if she lies so much to you now, its only going to get worse. you might want to mention to her about her breath too.. haha jk!
570781
believe your best friend!! unless you know that she's the jealous type or prone to lying, believe her! think about it, why would she LIE to you?
232437
look....if danny is ur true friend then he should understand that wot happened was a mistake and the fact that u let him beat u up was all u could do to say u were sorry.but u can go to lisa and ask her try explaining danny the whole thing..that it was a mistake,and wud never happen again..but lemme tell u 1 important stuff,dude..once u lose some1's trust,its not hard..but its impossible to get it back!!even if things cool down between both of u,hez not gonna trust u anymore,dude.im sorry to say this,but its a fact.happened even with me.hence it wud be better to slowly cast away from danny(as well as lisa).if thats not possible(e.g. if both of u r in a grp)..then try maintaining a VERY formal relation with the 2 of them.in course of time,he might realise your true worth.but therez nothing else to do than wait and watch.hope it works out for u,dude..coz i have been in similar situations and i know how awful it feels.best of luck!!
594948
You are better off not having neither one of them in your life. Karma's a bitch and what goes around, comes around. To make your life easier for you so that you can move on, talk to your friend. Tell her how you really feel. She betrayed you by sleeping with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend betrayed you as well because he knew exactly what he was doing and he didn't even stop it. It will take some time to get past this, but give yourself a chance on focusing your healing process and continue doing what you're supposed to be doing. Things will get better and you will have a new friend and a boyfriend that will not betray you. You don't have to forgive your friend if you don't want to. It is up to you and you have to do what is best for you right now.
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You should believe ur best friend if you've known him for a long time and if you trust him more. Analyze on who told more lies. I think she's just a jealous girl who wants to ruin what you have but don't let her do that. Soo I hope I helped.