My boyfriend wants me to stay away from my guy best friend........?
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i can understand your boyfriend's insecurity.  MOST guys are friends with girls and would get in their knickers if the opportunity presents itself (not saying that your best friend is like that, but a lot of guys are) \n\nand your boyfriend is probably thinking, '... yeah, y'all friends now, but romance/lust/love/whatever-you-wanna-call-it has a way of creeping up on people' .. you've heard the phrase 'we were friends, before we were lovers..'? \n\nwith all of that in mind and possibly more, youre boyfriend probably thinks the less time you spend with the guy, the less chance romance/lust/love/whatever gets to creep in.\n\nso, right now, while you're still just friends and have ABSOLUTELY NO sexual/romantic feelings for your best friend, you have to make a conscious effort to keep things that way, and then turn to your boyfriend and give him plenty of re-assurance.  i know it sucks, but unfortunately, that's the way us humans are wired. insecurity needs reassurance. and reassurance could be in the form of while being with your best friend, speaking to your boyfriend on the phone, for example, and tell him how much you love him (vomit) in such a way that the best friend hears it and the boyfriend knows that the best friend knows and heard it. that make sense? its a bore but if you really love your boyfriend and you really have no sexual feelings/hopes for your best friend, you might have to do all that :(
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dont worry about it seriously ppl say things all the time to start drama. just follow your heart. if he really loves you he didnt say that and he still wants to be with you. who knows maybe ur best friend has a thing for your boyfriend and wants you two to break up. just let it roll right off ur shoulder and act like you never heard anything.
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UNLESS you are the best friends ideal woman true love soul mate ETC you are quite screw, male frindships especialy best friends are way too close and sharing a woman is not unheard of , you might make then fight for a while but in then end they will be friends again , and you will end up loosing bouth of them plus you will become the bad one of the story \nSO if you you really really like they guy , brake up on friendly terms with your boyfriend and wait out a until your boyfriend finds someone else , then make your move , most likely the best friend will ask his Buddy if is ok with him (keep in mind that for him to do so he must really liked you  way past any phisical attraction , otherwise he wont bother do so ) \nNOW  if is phisical attraction just plain sex what you want , is easer to go for the 3 some , deal and make it think it was his idea, that might work , if all you want is to scrach an ich \nNOW commun sense would be no to do anything , most likely whatever you do you will be the one that ends up hurt and alone , and you dont need that , the choices above are just choices but it dosent mean they are the correct ones ,\nI understand how can someone end up liking someone close to their parther it happends all the time  but when you are considering acting on it , maybe and just maybe instead you should be wandering what is missing in your relationship , and see if you can work at it or move on , but dont get yourself into a mess
693084
Tell your boyfriend that you don't appreciate his friends "attentions".  That should cure it....
599036
Your best friend is'nt dating your boyfriend so why does it matter.  You would have a problem if your best friend fancied your boyfriend.
657297
It is obvious that you care for his guy. So tell him that. Tell him that you love and care for him but not with the passion that a girlfriend should have for a boyfriend. Tell him that you know it will be hard to change the level of your friendship one notch down...but you still want him to be your friend because he is your best friend.\n\nI know that this maybe hard for you to do..it will hurt you both but think of it this way...suppose he too want you only as a friend as well and is also afraid to hurt you?
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Sounds like he just wanted to hang out with a friend... and this would probably go over nicely with you if you liked his friends. People's friends reflect who they are. I think the issue here is, are you willing to accept your boyfriend, and his friends, the way they are? He has something in common with these friends and that is why they hang out together. Wouldn't it be nice to have a boyfriend with friends you truly liked? Don't pick a fight about this.. it is who he is. What is there to fight about? I'd take a long, good hard look at your companion and decide if he's offering you what you want.
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Dear Am I Being Unreasonable:\n  I know how you are feeling unfortanely I have been in that same situation but I was on the other side. I had a best friend whom I had forever when I started dating this guy.Well the boy friend didnt like that fact that we "hung out" so much. He "just knew" that we were doing something. Well it turns out he was right we were and actually ended up getting married after a long drawn out process. The point Im trying to make is if your boyfriend is keeping things from you and lying then you dont need him. You deserve better. It sound like he wants his cake and eat it too. A realtionship is built on trust (or suppose to be). I haop that I have helped. I have enclose my email and yahoo messenger if you want to hit back at me !!
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Stay away.  You dumped him, she took him.  Respect your friend, your boyfriend, and yourself.
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why should you have to choose? If you bestfriend is a true friend they will understand you want to spend time with your boyfriend, and if your boyfriend is worth having around ,he will understand that you want to do things with your best friend also
706426
Get rid of your boyfriend, not your friends!  He's too controlling and that will create major problems for you later!
840608
is this boyfriend by chance jealous of your friendship with her ? it is possible he may have made something up so he could have her to himself...\nI would let her know that best friends are there even when boyfriends come and go, tell her you care about her and how important it is to trust each other.\nLet her also know you have no interest in hanging out with her boyfriend and u would be even more happy to just meet her in town at the mall or coffee shop.\nI too have recently suffered the same fate with my best friend too.\nFortunately we have made it through stronger than ever she has been dealing with a very possessive boyfriend that she is getting ready to leave now.\ngood luck..
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What do you do? Absolutely nothing. Not a good idea to do anything about it. You could get your a$$ kicked or worse than that, lose your best friend. Will it be worth it? Find a boyfriend of your own.
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Is your best friend male or female.\n\nIf it's a male and not gay, your boyfriend does not understand your realtionship with your male friend, you need to break it down for him. Make him feel less ensure about you relationship with him.\n\nIf your best friend is a female, he may sincerely not like her attitude of ways. Try to convince him that she does not mean to offend him. That is the way she is with every one unless she is seeing something that you don't. \nPlease tell him not to make you chose between a friend you have known for years and him who you like a lot.\n\nTell him you are only trying to make the two people that you really care about to be able to tolerate each other. \n\nDon't make it a habit of inviting your friend with you all the time. You will give your boyfriend the wrong impression.
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This guy is a problem and I doubt he is worth you and your best friend having a falling out because he is trying to divide and conquer. \n\nFind a situation where you and your best friend are together, and he is there also. Make it appear the two of you are comparing notes and that you are talking about him, and watch him show his true colors and scramble for cover. \n\nSounds like this guy is extremely immature and is looking for any port in a storm. \n\nPick the one who is interested in you, because of you, not because he is playing some game using you and your best friend as chess pieces to get what he wants. I repeat, do not allow this immature boy to come between you and your best friend. \n\nHe is not the one for you, . . . . . . . .you deserve much better.  \n\nDarryl S.
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I would stay away from him.  If you stay in contact it will only be hard on you emotionally.  You will be second best to him and he will always leave you waiting and wondering.
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If she was truly your best friend, she wouldn't even think about your boyfriend.  And if he showed her the slightest hint of attention, he is not worth it.  Tell her this, and if she does not back off, dump her.  If he flirts or contacts her in anyway, dump him.  Either way, choose your friends better.