Obsessed with a younger man?
958510
divorce your husband, and take a long vacation. when you come back maybe you'll be rational
71938
Find yourself another guy to obsess about
364335
If you like older men, that really isn't a problem.  The things that make a woman interesting to an older guy is no different than for a younger guy.\n\nThe best advice is, do not act your age.  If he is older he probably will not be interested in an immature, childish, kid.  He wants a woman, not someone he will have to baby.\n\nIf you are a minor, however, remember that your actions can irreversibly damage his life for the rest of his life, and only a foolish man is going to risk the potential disaster of a relationship with you.  Do you really want a fool for a boyfriend?  You can send him to prison on nothing more than your words alone, and that wouldn't be a very wise risk to take, would it?
453403
I think it could be that you have this guy in your head now because he is ignoring you.  You know the saying, you want what you can't have?  Well, when he wanted you you weren't interested...and now you "think" you may be.  \nBut...if you're really thinking about this fling guy a lot then I doubt you're truly in love with your steady.  Deep down it's probably not meant to be.  You know, real love and all that comes with it...when you're in deep, no one else can touch that.  Anyway, do the pro's and con's thing about the guy you're with and if it's more con's than pro's give him up...and talk to this younger guy if you can, about how you feel if you really think your feelings are deeper than just wanting what you can't have.  I have to say also that he sounds a tad bit immature...ignoring you after you've had a fling.  But that's just my opinion....good luck.
573166
fantasize,no....but younger men sure seem to fantasize about older women!
1135326
It is already an obsession. You'll know your future treatment by the way he treats his mother and sister. You are already being isolated from your friend. There is a great book you should get . It's called All Men Are A$$holes and it's written by men.
627113
neither !! be patient, you'll find the combination in someone else (doesn't have to be a hot singer though!).. The singer has an everlasting problem as a celebrity, and the older guy is just playing you, even if he's not, the relationship would be doomed because of the age difference !!
892197
You can't help what your heart want's and does not want.  It's not always right, but most of the time you should get it a little credit.  Maybe you don't want to admit that you are growing out of this guy.  As for the long distance thing, that is sorta an out of sight out of mind thing.  But if you think you don't feel strongly about this boy maybe he is just not worth it.
255967
I have a guy that is obsessed with me and it completely scares me. I live alone and sometimes at night he will knock on my window and I have to be real quiet like I'm not there. He found a way to befriend one of my best friends and tries to get information from her about who I am dating and why won't I talk to him. He even called my dad!!!!! He freaked out and told him never to call again and he better not try and get in touch with me. He told all of my closest friends things I supposedly said behind their backs or that I was having sex with their boyfriends just so I'd loose my friends and have to depend on him. If you have someone you think is obsessed, then you have to go about it very smart. Don't make them angry, because there is no telling what they are capable of!!
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I can't tell, but I'll assume you are a female. Many times a young woman that either has had a bad relationship with a father or significant male figure at an early age ( between 2 and 10 years old) will be attracted to men that are similar in characteristics. They attempt to change the person in an attempt to fill a void in their past. If you think this may sound like you, I'd suggest you get some counseling to deal with the real source of the problem, which is from your childhood.\n\nTry finding a church or christian counselor if you can. Some will charge  based on what you can afford. Take this seriously. It could mean becoming healed and whole, or a lifetime of heartache!
576552
become an obsessive fan and start stalking him.....
360675
Sometimes it's true that women's maturity level progresses faster than younger men's. In your case you might be feeling a bit uncertain because that statement does not apply to you. \nRemember: Age is only a number. So is salary.\n\nIf you can love him no matter what and want to work things out with him, no matter what, then he is the one for you.\n\nEveryone has differences in taste, his is 80's music and an early bed time.. so what? At least he isn't a drug addict and abuser. Take it for what it's worth... if he treats you well, is financially stable and willing to work on your relationship, you've got a winner!\n\nGood luck, and look out for yourself--
1175327
See sweety, the difference between you and the Dr. is way too much to have a kind of relation. I agree that the age doesent matter in such cases but what matters here is ur personal life.It is not going to be easy to be with a person who is twice your age and also manage to be social with your friends and your associates. You also havent mentioned about his life and his family. You just know him for a few months and you should not judge the person based on your association with him of a few months. You should give some time for this kind of advances and control yourself of giving off to his flirts. If it is limited to flirts thats ok but for other advances u need to think it over and give some time..........\nAll the best to you
644688
The age thing alone can be a problem....because he would be in trouble since you are so young... But besides the age difference, there could be other problems. I understand how you feel about his and the masochism. I have a strong masochistic nature too. Regardless of the age, this type of relationship can be unhealthy. There is alot of psychological manipulation behind it.....some negative, and in your young age you may not be able to cope with some of that. I was 23 when i was in a relationship like this...i even married him, but it is very tough on your emotional and mental state.....be prepared. My hubby and i aren't together any longer, and i am struggling to maintain a life with some of the psychological "results" of my past relationships..... just be careful....please!
919553
I am 23 and just broke up with someone who was 52 why do you want someone younger? i think its fine as long as both people are okay with it you can email me if you want allison_buchanan2003@yahoo.com
910813
How do I put this delicately?\n\nI would suggest that you are head-over-heels in 'love' (or at least lust). Where the mind goes, the body follows (an important principle in foreplay, that is) - and, from the sound of it, noone else is going to be pushing your buttons while you have this person on your mind. As long as it doesn't enter the realms of crippling obsession, it's not the 'mother of all evils' (whether the sentiment is returned or not).\n\nIf you're old enough to cash in, go for it. If you're below the age of consent, then just live with the crush...
827834
Hey, enjoy the attention. Obviously he is attracted to you and some day he will have the courage to do something about it. If you don't want to take the initiative yourself, then - for the time being - just quietly encourage him by looking back, a smile, etc.\nIt is totally unimportant that he is one year younger.