I just found out that my bfriend was on a gay chat line and was in route to meet male. he says hes not gay???
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Don't look at from a point of view that you found out he is gay that is only going to confuse you more.  Look at the bigger picture he has lied, and has betrayed your trust.  I would at least talk to him some more see if he opens up, and if that fails miserably (which I am sure it will, but at least you tried) dump him.  No one should ever be lied to in a relationship no matter what the sexual prefrance.  When in a committed relationship it should mean that you are committed to that partner, and trust is the standard foundation when that is gone so is the relationship.
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With everything else you've told us, he seems more and more likely to be open to the idea, if not full out bi.  But if were just going to take the chest thing as the only evidence, I'd say 'nah'- I could see a straight guy acting similarly if he was secure in his sexuality and good friends- not every straight guy would freak out, you know?\n\nNow, a better litmus test would be to maybe brush his lips . . . nobody's going to take that as an accident.  Of course, that's probably too forward, but I wanna see the two of ya'll get together!  I feel like I'm involved in some suspenseful soap opera with all your questions!\n\nMy opinion, though, is that he's up for something, even if it's just curiousness or opennness about the idea.
295705
told him what and i am confused he dumped you and she told you your avatar is a guy are you gay is he bi is she a guy too i have a headache
471017
Kindly tell him that you're not gay and therefore not interested. He should understand. And it's up to the both of you to make sure it doesn't get weird and you remain friends.
1021813
It sounds to me like he's confused.  Worst case, he's lying to you or at least not giving you the whole truth.  Speak candidly with him, find out the entire story and make a connection with him!  How does he really feel about you?  When he answers, do you believe him?  Listen to your instincts!
652327
when you are asking this question, he probably is! Ditch him. you shouldn't be asking this if you felt secure!
265784
Marc C spot on - I have tried it - met this nice guy spent time together - lots of it still do! he sends of body language that every-one picks up - he's met my kids and guess what he still chats on Personals. Don't get taken in you will get hurt!!!\nYou guys out there please explain why you do that!! why you give of false vibes!!!
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That seems normal. Be happy you have a good friend who can be so honest with you, he knows he's not going to ever have a chance with your bf - who is obviously straight. That is why he told you - he is good friends with you and is comfortable telling you anything.
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Please don't read too much into his casual email or in-between his lines. Key words in his emails are "babe" , "wet kisses", "hugs" so this is definitely not a good-bye, or dump-you email to set you back in your heals. I am a guy so I can translate his guy lingo easily.. all he is saying is that he is not in a position to give you an opinion on your life or anything, either he does not have the knowledge or that you two are not a "couple" to decide on things together. So all he said is that ..."please decide as you wish, on anything that needs to be decided on. I am not yet in a position to advise you on your life" He must be at work or in a rush when we wrote that email coz he just did not pick his words carefully. Relationships have become a commodity these days and people forget the value of emotions and feelings. If you like this guy and if you think he is a keeper, let go of what he said, its a harmless guy lingo and don't read between the lines. Most likely he said this and forgot all about it already. so next time you meet he will be giving you all the wet kisses and hugs. Please don't fret on this or lose a guy over it.
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i met my boyfriend online...
1069291
well it sounds like u guys keep finding each other. if u are sure he's comfortable with bein with a guy but i guess if u guys hooked up then he is :) i say go for it just tell him cuz he may be thinking the same thing as you but scared liek you..it cud be the best thing u ever did and its obvious that he means alot to you..i think your story is very sweet..good luck!
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looks like you've gotten some good advice already.  \nlooks like ya done made your move too.\n\ni'm sure you done right by getting rid of him, especially if he became rebelious or defensive or even if he acted like you were the nut.\n\ni'm gonna assume that ya (now x-) bf was at least within 10 years of your age.  now with that info, i ask you to think for a minute... has he been stand-offish, less attentive, communication getting (well,) different maybe even less, then it was best to jump out now.  after all ya not kids any more in high school playing with teenage emotions.\nbut.....\n\nif things haven't changed to the worest or haven't been getting boreing, then maybe this guy is telling the truth or maybe he does like the name andrew or maybe he does have a gay attraction, that maybe he, himself hasn't realalized.\n\n\nnaaah...  stick with the breack-up and find you a real man that doesn't want to play headgames, because that is exactly what he's doing to you.  i'm sorry if it hurts your heart/feelings, but it's better now than a few months or years down the road.
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you r absolutely right and smart to stick to your schedules. thats how you flush out the big phonies!! trsut me there you did not lose anything precious here. if he ever call again dont even bother having anymore conversation with this pervert. learn from these expereince and fell out guys like that in the future!! good going girl!!
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I DONT C Y NOT I WONDER WHO THIS GUY IS?  DOES HE KNOW WHAT U LOOK LIKE HAVE U SENT HIM A PIC OF U YET?  TAKE YOUR TIME AND LET THINGS FALL WHERE THAY MAY.  U NEVER KNOW, U MIGHT HAVE YOUR NIGHT IN SHINNING ARMOUR.  AND IF NOT AT LEAST U HAVE MET A GOOD FRIEND.   SOMEONE U CAN TALK TO ANYWAY.
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he sounds like he is either bi curious, or bi. i would be careful, if he is bi curious that could mean he just wants to try things out with a guy, but he still wants to stay with his girlfriend. make it clear that he has to chose u if he wants any of u, or u'll end up used and hurt, or someone who makes ur bf cheat on u
695251
He is a religious leader, so my guss is yes he is gay LOL...also, I doubt he is interested in you.
1133899
Just wait sweety it will happen. I was like you thought that all decent guys were taken or gay. They are not, I have the best bloke in the world and he is my best friend too. We started off as friends and it just went from there! Good luck and be patient. xx