How to deal with homesickness?
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what seems to work for me is to carry pictures of the people or places or things that u miss most from your home. carrying them with you (in your purse or backpack or even pocket) will help remind you that these places, people, or things are not gone out of your life they are still with you wherever u go and as you get more comfortable little by little it will be easier to let the pictures go after a while. \nThis worked for me and believe me I have had horrible homesickness before and this helped tremendous.
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You can relax and go a whole lot easier on yourself.\n\nBabys cry and fuss. Even the best parents are frustrated by their inability to understand the baby. They cry for no reason. Sometimes they cry just because they need to cry. \n\nAll you can do is to have your husband and yourself spend as much time with the baby as you can. Spend as much time together with eachother and the baby too. The time is necessary for bonding and to learn about eachother. \n\nThis baby is a strange alien being that definately does not speak the language. You and your husband need some more time too to feel comfortable together. The three of you just need time and rest. \n\nLike most people, you are probably trying to achieve an awful lot in careers and in life outside of the home. You might want to think about priorities and see if both of you can devote more time to family and slow down outside. More rest and more loving family time will probably make all of you feel more like family.\n\nLook at your committments/ house/ mortgage/ payments/ income/ bills/ nanny/ expenses/ etc etc etc and see what you can do without. Maybe you can actually cut back and have more with less.\n\nThere is a great website "www.amoneyminute.com"  from Crown Financial Ministries. They can help you think about raising a family and having time to learn to be with your kids. Who knows, you might find a way to have a great time raising a bunch of really happy kids and a really happy family too.\n\nI imagine that there are a lot of familys that have cultural friction when one partner is asian and the other is american. We americans are over confident and pretty pig headed (you can tell him it is a cultural thing) After all we have been used to having things our way for the last hundred years, and in America, that is forever.\nYou might look for a asian/american christian church in your area. They usually have couples counciling. And there will probably be other asian wives that have american husbands who can relate with your situation. They should be able to help.\n\nJesus loves you Dear. -----and so does your husband, I bet!
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Long hot showers, meditation, exercise, screaming into my pillow, just about anything. I have a lot of trouble with patience too. If there are certain people that drive you crazy the first thing is to remember your being upset doesn't do anything to them. Sometimes you just have to let go of things. (Easier said than done!!)\n\nI also find it helpful to talk with someone. Let someone else know how you are feeling. Talk about what is stressing you out. Chances are someone else has gone through a similar event. While they may not be able to help you now, knowing that they survived will help relieve some of your stress.
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I am a business man and travel a lot. I love my wife and our 2 kids with all my heart. The problem is that when you are away you get used to be alone. When i come home i feel very happy but at the same time it takes me about 1 or 2 days to get used to all the yelling, playing, running of the kids. The same with the affection my wife gives to me. I do not know is this is OK but happens to me.\nHope i give you some inside. Best wishes!!\n\nPS  Best to do: Give him space the first day, and everything will be fine.
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You need to do what will make you happy. If you want to go "home"... then do it. If you don't you'll be wondering what could be different every morning when you get up, and probably many times throughout the day. Don't break your own heart. Follow it.
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Good question, tough to answer. I left my country 50 years ago. I was very homesick till I had my own family , kids and all. Now that I am in the winter of my years I dream about my country and my friends still there and I long for it often. I feel my heart is here and my soul I left there and there will always be a hankering for both, wherever I am I miss one of the places. I know that does not help you much but you have to start forming your own roots where you are now or go back.
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live everyday to it's fullest. Everywhere you go, people will try to bring you down. Don't let them get the best of you. Tell your family and friends how much they mean to you every time you see them!\n\nyou never know how long you have left on Earth, make every second count!!!
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Do some introspective thinking and find out what *you* want. Let loose and party for hours without caring about a thing. Learn to accept people for who they are and find people who accept you for who you are, not what they expect you to be. Surround yourself with things/people/surroundings that make you feel at peace. Never forget that you only live once, and anything you've been dying to do, or think of spur of the moment, don't let fear stop you, go do it. All in all - live lively.
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i am travelling myself. it is difficult to keep communication with someone back home that you may have feelings for as you are always thinking of them. therefore you aren't able to make the most of your adventure abroad. relax.\n make the most of whats in front of you today
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I am coping with one myself. One way I cope with it is to send him gifts for Christmas and other holidays just as if he was here. Another thing I do is talk a lot to him on the phone and on instant messagging. We send e-mail and e-cards to each other as well. But in the end, there are three important things to remember in a relationship: trust, love, and loyalty. By acting like the distance isn't that far, the time passes a whole lot quicker and before I know it, he is going to be back in two months!\nI hope this advice has really helped you out!
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We're all placed in stressful situations sometimes that are difficult to cope with. My best advice to you is to look at the positive side of things. The fact that you have a job and an income is a good thing. The fact that you are using a computer to access the Internet is a great privilege (believe me it's a privilege). The fact that you were raised in this great nation is an opportunity. You sound young and you entire life is ahead of you. This is only a chapter in your life. A chapter is bound to end when another begins. Have patience and faith in yourself and in your ability to change your perception of your situation. Thank God for the moments that you have. Remember, this is life, not a dress rehearsal. Make everyday count. And finally, I have personally found that I feel a lot better when I stop focusing on my own problems and try to offer help to someone else. We get so focused on self sometimes that we forget that there are people out there who are in a much worst situation than us. Try to lend a helping hand to someone, and you will see how blessed you will become.
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You are feeling like this because you are thinking like this.  Just start thinking other way and you will start feeling better. Start keeping track of your thoughts, whenever you feel that negative thoughts are coming to mind, throw them out. \n\nMake new friends wherever you are, you may find good people everywhere. Start meeting more and more good people. Have some kind of creative hobby. Don’t give up your yoga and pranayam, infact increase the time for that. \n\nConcentrate little more to your studies; I feel this is the only motive of being away from your home place. \n\nDon’t listen sad ghazals for few days. \n\nAnd let me share a secrete with you, most of us are gone through this phase at your age. Take it as it is. \n\nAnd a very important thing, share all of your feelings with your parents. Only they can understand you better. \n\nAll the best wishes from me. Keep smiling and have fun.
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I completely understand how you feel.  I hate being anywhere but home, it is an uncomfortable, anxious nagging want to escape pressure that you have to control and act like you don't feel.\n\nTell your husband, and his family you have other plans.  I say tell his family so he does not try to explain in a way they will not understand.  Maybe going every other time will make it easier for you to deal with.  Tell them you just need sometime to work on things at home...like your peace of mind, yeah, don't tell them that part. :))
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Running Away?\n\nSometimes in life anyone of us may want to run away and solve our problems by leaving them behind. The facts are that our problems are following us, unless we solve them.\n\nWhatever it is that happens in your family and makes you feel like running away, it may be something you can help to solve.\n\nWhy not call a family conference. Write or print out the rules and give them to everyone in the family. Find a time when everyone living in the house can attend.\n\nRules may be:\n1 One person speaks at a time (you may even use a talking stick as the Native Americans do. The one who holds the rod, speaks, the others listen).\n2 Everyone may state the facts of how he or she feels within this family. This is expressed by, "When you say this, I feel like ..." Not, "You always do, or say..." This is accusation and should be avoided.\n3 Everyone may state their wishes.\n4 Everyone may state something positive about the others.\n5 Everyone who has a solution may say so.\n6 Only when everyone has been heard, a common and may be temporary solution may be formulated that pleases everyone somehow and should be agreed to by everyone living in the house.\n\nRegular family conferences should be held, at least once a week and whenever there is a conflict.\n\nYou may be surprised how bad others in the family feel about the present situation. The family conference may start to clear issues so that everyone in the house may feel better, more loved and appreciated. \n\nYou may want to try to help your family have a happier family life. If you cannot get through to them you may want to talk to/call a counselor or a married priest.\n\nWishing you a happy family life which you and everyone in your family deserves!\nCordially, India.Magica
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Well, I've been away from my 5 best friends for about 2 (almost 3) years &, so far, it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do...\n\nI left my home country (Cape Verde) to come live in the US...& the day I left was the saddest day of my life...It felt (& still does) like I lost a huge chunk of my own self...\n\nMy best friends & I have known each other since we were about 3 years old (which means that we've known each other for about 14 years now) & always lived in the same street...we used to do EVERYTHING together...wherever you saw one of us you'd be sure to see the other 5...we had the most beautiful relationship (we went on field trips almost every weekend; we used to throw lots of parties; we used to go to each other's family's beach houses regularly, etc.) , but since I moved, things have changed a lot!!!!\n\nAlthough we keep in touch with each other, it's just not the same...I feel sad all the time because now I have no friends (nearby) and spend my days either @ work, @ school and/or @ home (which is totally not me)\n\nI used to be really active, but now I really don't do much (just so you have an idea, I've never been to the movies nor to the beach here in the US, & things that I once enjoyed are just not as fun as they used to be)...but whenever I feel sad I think of the good times my friends and I had together...& although sometimes it makes me feel even sadder that I'm not with them, most of the time it works...\n\nI'm planning on going on vacation next year, but we'll see...\n\nBut you know, my being away from my friends & living in a totally different place has helped me realize how good of a life I used to have as well as it has helped me appreciate all the ppl in my life...
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Take a deep breath.  Take several deep breaths.\n\nWhere in the past have been good places for you to go and just enjoy yourself?  Do you even let yourself enjoy some time every day?  How do you take care of you?\n\nThink about something you like to do, something you liked to do as a child.  Something just feels good to you, that no one can criticize or take away from you.\n\nLet someone else deal with all the problems.  You need some time to take care of yourself.  What do you like?  What are the good things in your day?  What's your favorite color, your favorite food, favorite smell, happiest moment?  Do you even know?\n\nTake some time for yourself.  Breathe deeply from your stomach.  Read some feel-good books, like All Things Great and Small by James Herriot.\n\nTalk to someone who cares about you.  Give yourself a chance to be held and comforted.  You deserve it.
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i undesrastand what you are feeling... i have the same problem... i won't say that you can get rid of it that easily, but it would help it if you talk about it with your husband.. i have my GF living abroad and can't see her or talk to her much, and i can't tell you feelings i had... but just once i decided to tell her and just that helped me feel good and safe... \ni know you care so much about your husband and that's great... so try to talk with him... he'll help you out deal with that. and just the fact of telling him will help you.