My wife and I have a problem?
955539
well 9 times out of 10 it will be good for a while but then it will go back the way it was but if you both work at it for the kids sake it could work out if you both really want to get back together.Need to date each other again not moving in together just dating to see if it might work out small moves and time will tell.
76252
Talk it over with her. You have to. She is family. You both need to solve this.
256358
Oh boy,So sorry to hear you are having so many problems with your wife!I have two children also.And I am pretty much trying to keep things together for them too.However,The hubby and I have had drug problems,also!As a matter of fact we are still trying to stay clean!And are on a maintenance drug,prescribed by our doctor to remain clean!We see are addiction specialist every month!And it helps a Great deal!                               Perhaps,you should talk to your wife and tell her she needs to get help with her drug addiction!Drugs are way eXpensive!Trust me!Are you sure that she's not spending ALOT of the money on them?Because once a person is addicted they will do anything to get the drugs they need!I know Alot of people addicted.And I even know people who have passed on due to their drug abuse.If it is just weed she is using that isn't as bad!I am talking about Hard drugs!Like CoCaine and Herione,and crystal meth,Etc.These drugs can make a person LOSE everything!Even their family's!I have seen it happen too many times!And it almost happened to me but 'thank-god'I have changed my ways!                      You really need to try to talk to her about getting help!Like a rehab or detoX,etc!At first she may be in denial.And say that she doesn't have a problem!Everyone says that.Until they hit rock bottom or something really bad happens.With some people that is what it takes to quit.Then again some people don't even quit then.They don't stop till their in jail or unfortunately in the cemetary!I don't know how bad your spouses drug problem is.                       I really need a little more detail.But,if it is bad.She definately needs help.You would also benefit with support groups.Or go to a narcotics anonymous meeting with her.Or perhaps counseling.How is she with your boys?I hope they do not know about her addictions.If you don't want to leave her,or divorce her, and take the boys.Then you should get her some help,and some counseling for the family.           I have been living with addiction for years now.And it's no fun!She may hate you for wanting to get her help.But someday she will thank-you when she is clean.This may be another reason she will not,or should I say can't work.It is almost impossible for a drug addict/alcoholic to keep a job!Trust me I know my hubby is a recovering addict!Who relapses constantly!                                        The disease consumes you.And it's almost impossible to just quit.Without professional help.I also know alot of people who abuse pain/anxiety medication prescribed to them,to the point that they can NOT function!It's dangerous.But they don't care!                                             Anyhow,I honestly think that if you tried to get her help,things might get better.But,if she cheats again I would be done.Please try not be so depressed,try to change this situation.And if you can't after trying to help her so many times.And giving her mutiple chances!Then take your boys and tell her if she don't clean her act up.That's it.You are taking custody of them.Because you and the boys would be better off.                                   Being a 'bored' housewife,is hardly a reason to cheat!She should be glad your supporting her and your boys!And that you give her money!To by drugs,shop,spend,and buy more drugs!And that you love her,and your boys enough to put up with all of this!Please,don't feel like this is your fault.I have seen to may people go through this,and I have been there myself.                                        It is the addiction,the disease.She may not ever be herself again until she admits to having a problem.Some people in denial never fully recover.And depression is to be eXpected when the both of you are dealing with all of this.Depression sucks!I have it too.I really suggest some counseling.the medication may make you feel a little bit better.Till you get this all str
616992
I could not find a solution to this in my life and this dilemma took me to the divorce. I will suggest it will be better if ur wife understands the situation. It is she who will rule in the home after one's mother. So she should wait with patience till then. Moreover, somethings r better unsaid. I hope u understand my point.
135946
Joe, I can relate to your situation. My husband is in work release and right now he is accusing me of the exact same thing. Just when I think that we have gotten past this something else pops up and we start this mess all over again. Are you positive that there is an affair going on? Speak to your wife in a loving tone and really let her know that this is bothering you. Let her also know that you won't stand for any lies. If she is unfaithful then the pressure of you being nice is going to make her feel guilty that she will admit to her wrong. Just so you know, I have never ever cheated on my husband and I wouldn't ever because of the love and the respect that I have for him and myself. Marriage is a give and take and both husbands and wives need to do this more and more. Good luck and may God bless you through this journey.
668595
I would say not but your spouse may yes than you have a problem.
151140
Honestly, I see this as a need for marriage counseling.  Your wife is suffering from a mental illness that should be treated, either by medication or therapy or both.  In the meantime, she is not a psychologist nor is she a medical doctor and has no right diagnose you, not to mention she has no medical schooling for such a thing.  Furthermore, I think she is projecting her issue onto you.  You may be depressed but if you are it sounds to me like you are situationally depressed, not clinically.  But, I'm not a doctor and don't have you as a patient in any case so I couldn't swear such a thing.  The time for the counseling is RIGHT NOW though so make that appointment.  If you cannot afford it then you would contact your county mental health agency and they likely have a sliding fee payment plan so don't feel like the option of counseling is not available to you.
878320
I look at it like this.When u get married u will lose all your rights in doing something alone.So u need to stand your ground and do this for u.Plus explain to her what u just said to us. If she doesn't understand then u need to really evaluate your relationship with her. I mean if she is this troubled about something this small then what happens when u two have real problems.I wish u all the luck.
147877
Been there...don’t let the situation fester. You should go alone and work on your issues first(we all have them). You can not make her, or anyone, do something they don’t want to do. She will see that you are serious, making an effort and a commitment. You will learn how to ask her in a way that she would be willing to start going. Be a leader and take the 1st step. Besides it may take a few attempts to find a counselor that you like and trust. It may be helpful to find a female as your wife may feel less threatened. It worked for me and my wife. Good luck.
519272
Have you seen the movie Monster-In-Law, cuz your problem is the exact same.What you should do is confront her don't be scared I did it and I'M about to get married to her son.Just do what what u do best.confront.
11555
Honesty is the best policy. Tell your spouse how you are feeling and what has been going through your mind. Then go in together and get some good marital counseling. Oh, and getting rid of the computer until the health of your marriage recovers is indeed a good idea.
312287
I think your wife if still trying to grow up.  I don't think she understands the MAGNITUDE of her decision to become married.  This may be cause for concern because it's not a good idea to make out with your wife and her friends, and still think you'll keep the same relationship.  You may need to sit her down and let her know that this behavior makes u uncomfortable.
786887
Your wife is in denial about her bear-like appearance. She is angry with herself for failing to live up to her number one responsibility: being sexually desireable to her husband. She would rather think it is the goat that has come between you than admit to herself that she has failed. My advice is: talk to your wife. Explain to her that you are still willing to support her and your children, but that you are no longer sexually attracted to her, and must fulfill your manly needs with your new goat. Maybe the shame of the whole situation will motivate her to jog in the mornings.
776474
Look this is a dumb question. Just tell your wife to stop screwing the gardener and leave us be.
201876
You cant and you shouldnt have done that in the first place. Thats called adultry and your wife can devorce you for everything that your worth for that. So break it off now with her.
670783
Ummm sir... what if your wife looks at this??? Yeah think next time!!! By the way I am your wife and I am looking at this and I think you should think (about getting a divorce). Can't have two hands in the cookie jar!
951590
Weeeeeeelllll, if YOU think/feel it to be a problem, then go seek counseling.\n\nmb