i feel helpless what can ido?
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well for starters you need to eat more than just when you come home from school.  starving ones self does not cause you to lose weight... it causes the body to go into starvation mode and slows down the metabolism.  it is important to eat breakfast.  actually healthy people tend to eat six small meals a day and example would be a bowl of healthy cereal for breakfast with low fat milk, piece of fruit for a snack, lunch maybe say low fat yogurt and an apple, then a snack of veggies, then dinner maybe a tuna sandwich made with out mayo or butter on whole grain low fat bread with a side of veggies, and then for a later snack a healthy granola bar... something along those lines figure in probably a few more calories than what i listed... just make sure you are getting the right amount of calories. probably about 1400-2000 depending on your activity level.  you can find out how many calories are in any given food by looking at the side of it or for fruit and veggies you can look up on line.  remember to consider portion size.  also cut out any soda, juice or other sugar based drinks.  also remember the food pyramid suggests that most of our food comes from veggies/fruit and whole grains. you really need to exercise too not just to lose weight just to be healthy.  exercise does not need to be really hard it could be a brisk 20 min walk everyday with a friend after school.  maybe you could talk to your school nurse or the school health teacher about healthy eating habits and how they effect your body.
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start taking care of yourself. Why should anyone have to help you when you can help yourself? \n\nWAKE UP and take a look around you! Life can be very unkind, and unless you hit back and make the most of it (without depending on the help of others) you are going to be stuck in a "miserable" life.
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Hello there! I am sorry to hear you are feeling so down. People are so quick to say someone has depression. You say that you act like you are the happiest person on earth, but you aren't happy on the inside. You just have to believe that you do deserve happiness! I believe that you just have low self-esteem and self worth. 17 is a hard age! Believe me...looking back I felt the same way and wondered what the heck was wrong with myself. Just the pressures nowadays that are being put on young people is enough to make someone want to give up! I know to be happy is easier said than done sometimes, and it is a lot of work sometimes. Once you start believing in yourself it will get more simple. Life is too short not to have fun--experience life. I am not saying go out there and do foolish things, but enjoy the silly stuff. I am an adult and I still like to go to toy stores and play with the puppets! Because it makes me happy. I am not here to make anyone happy but myself. It sounds selfish, but before we can help others, we have to help ourselves. Just the fact that you asked the question on here shows that you are ready and willing to make a change for yourself. I have done a lot of "stupid" things in my life, but I have learned that loved ones are there for you no matter what you do. If people really love you, they are there for you no matter what! You can make little changes in your life. Use positive affirmation..when you start to feel those thoughts of hopelessness creep in--say to yourself that you are not listening anymore. If you are still feeling beyond hopelessness, there are many people you can go to to talk about it. It is not a sign of weakness to ask for some help and guidance. It is you standing up and saying you are sick of being that way and taking control of your life. I wish you luck and hope that I helped a little! Take care!
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Maybe you need something to fill your soul. I felt powerless once and tried to do everything to make me feel better about life and myself but nothing worked. Then I found God and I'm a changed man. I'm still powerless without Him but through Him I can do anything. If you think this is silly, then when you run out of options, you might just give God a chance. Who knows, you may just find what you are looking for. I know I did.
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Sorry to hear that. I would talk to the nurses who are caring for your daughter, their there toprovide support to your daughter and you. ALso different trusts have support workers, group to help family. Try talking to your daughter, I understand you proberly feel as though you need to be strong for her but i expect she petrified and maybe you opening up to her will help her discus her feeling. Dont forget about support groups such as samaritans who can give you an ear to listen to your feelings.
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Everyone in this world has problems. That's normal!!! Sometimes thing seam worse then they really are.  Please don't feel your alone, the high costs are getting to all of us,  But we need to fight together to get through it.\nKeep your head high and think of things you can do to help and make things better.   If you feel overwhelmed,   talk to your doctor he can give you medication to take the edge off. \nGOOD LUCK
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Well, you have already nailed it pretty well, and under the circumstances you are doing a whale of a lot better managing this that I ever would! You're further ahead of the game than you realize. You are also tired and need a breather. You need to schedule some down time for just you. You are the one that is important here. And self care is job one. Always. You have been ambushed, so when that happens you always step back and regroup. And the best way to self care your way through this one is to be by or hang around yourself a little more. Find your center once again. Centering. A wonderful concept. And correct, too, on every level. Diet, bubble baths, rest, fresh air, cleaning your bedroom, checking your wardrobe and getting free of old stuff you will never wear again - in other words, spend a little time reinventing yourself. You are already pretty strong because you have a good mind with which to sort out all this foolishness and get your bearings, but the unfortunate truth in life is that when we are tired, anyone can take a whack at us and it is like they could blow us over with a feather. You can feel that sensitive, and it is because you are smart, really. It is the downside of being smart. You can be too sensitive. So when you find your center once again you will also find more strength to call this what it is: abuse. Others here on Yahoo! Answers are giving you some fine answers about actions you can take, but I am focusing solely on you taking care of you. Self care. Make more time to pamper yourself and start feeling good about who you really are, because look at what you are doing here: you are  working on your degree. I mean, my God, all this other chaff is just fuel. Be very alert and see it for what it is - a prime distraction and begin - just begin, to look for a better place to bring yourself for work. That does not, fortunately, need to be put in place before the end of the week. If worse comes to worse, you can just walk away. A social worker once told me, "Chris, sometimes all you can do is walk away." I never forgot that one. Under most circumstances, I get the impression you are normally extremely self-reliant and independent of mind, so it is probably just because this whole mess has worn you down a bit that feeling it is a lilttle rough on you right now. I am sending you good energies and my heart goes out to you hoping you find the perspective to see the bigger picture and put you back into it in the dignified and self-respecting way you rightly deserve. Get your self-esteem back intact and believe in who you really are. And for God's sake, get some rest. None of us thinks well when we are exhausted. The other thing is emotionally draining, and only time will heal that one.  God Bless You, too.     - Chris.
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Maybe try writing it down then throwing it away, exercise, clean out a closet or refrigerator, go shopping or read the jokes under entertainment most are stupid but they will make you smile.  GOOD LUCK.  I'm sorry you feel down.
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Everyone's life is full of worries.  What makes yours more important?  Just deal with what you can as you can and don't worry about the small stuff.  Take life one day at a time and thank God that you woke up this morning.  We all feel hopeless.  I have a good cry and sulk for a few days.  Then I pick myself up and move on.  I have a family to think of.  Just think of how your loved ones would feel if you were not here.  Don't be selfish.
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I 'hear' you!  'Been there, done that.' Feeling like you're so far behind, that 'what's the use of trying?'\nIf it's not a physical or emotional problem, one that a Dr. should address, then you must 'own' the problem and not allow your emotions to 'own' you. We all have feelings, but it's all about how we react to them that really matters.\n\nI remember how I felt; the same way you feel, but I decided to try something different...like making my study time a priority. I found that I tested much better, and felt much more confident when I was well-prepared. \n \nSounds simple; it's not. But, it's worth a shot..."Nothing ventured, nothing gained."\nI wish you all the best.
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Befuddled, bemused, desheveled, bewildered. Any of those help?
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Big sympathy - so horrible to feel like this - hope it was a good night and worth it though!\n\nChuck on a tracksuit and a baseball cap and get yourself a couple of bottles of sparkling mineral water, some soluble Berocca, some food (like pie and chips!) the Sunday papers and some Haribo Star Mix.\n\nDrink all the water with a couple of Berocca tablets (it's a super ace multi-vitamin effort that works wonders) eat your high calorie food and then collapse with the papers and your Haribo on the sofa in front of some suitably terrible TV - I tend to find Hollyoaks works wonders.\n\nThen get yourself down to the pub early evening and have a couple of halves of lager and lime. \n\nHope you're feeling better soon :-)
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i think u need 2 get more involved in life. take up a hobby(one that involves other people), tell ur friends and family so that they  can support u through this confusing and difficult time and so that they can intervene everytime u feel a little down. u'r not alone in this world, u need 2 tell urself this everytime u start 2 feel desperate. no situation is hopeless. there are lots of people going throgh depression, so maybe u could find a support group if u dont have an understanding family. but in most cases, we tend 2 believe that our families will laugh at us or will think that we are freaks but they turn 2 be really undersatnading and caring. best of luck!!!\nps if u need a friend, mail me at shreyalovesmusic@yahoo.com. i'll be happy 2 help.
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I'd stay quit. When you feel your mood changing, go for a walk or do something different. Maybe find a radio station that plays some slow jazz, or music that helps you to relax.
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its normal to feel sad a lot and feel extreme ups and downs when youre 13 because youre going through a lot of changes in your life and with your hormones. but if you feel like its getting out of control then you need to do something about it. if people are really your friends they wont look at you differently, they will want to be there to help you? if you really feel like you have no one to help you out they have a bunch of teen hotlines and websites where you can meet people to talk to you about your problems. you could even talk to me more if you need someone. you might also want to think about talking to your doctor or getting yourself into some therapy to see if they can help you out. its rought but try and keep your head up and see this through.
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Sweetie, you are not alone. If I was there with you I would give you a big hug and you could have a good cry. Then I'd feed you ice cream and just sit with you. Maybe we could go outside and enjoy the sunshine if you felt up to it.\n\nLook at all these people who care about you! Please reach out for help again--like you have here. There are community call centers run by caring people who can help people like you who feel suicidal. Please, look in your phone book. Or go to the hospital or urgent care health center.\n\nOr check out www.samaritans.org.uk/\n"Samaritans is available 24 hours a day to provide confidential emotional support for people who are experiencing feelings of distress or despair, including those which may lead to suicide."\nhelp available via:\n-phone\n-text\n-email
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do something during your free time. have fun with friends, read books, go shopping, listen to music, watch movies (not alone of course), try to learn something new (an instrument or maybe a sport), exercise, join clubs and meet new people.. and the list goes on..\n\nexplore. there's more to life...\n\noh, if you feel depressed or something, try writing it down. trust me, it helps. makes you stronger =)