Why can gay Asian men never get dates unless they work really, really hard?
952369
Hey guy.  Don't beat yourself up so much.  Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places.  There are people out there for everyone.  You will see that the Abercrombie types tend to be attracted to the Abercrombie types.  The bears are usually with other bears.  If people told you that you are cute, you probably are.  I know you have a lot to offer and the right guy will come along.  Just remember the attraction has to be reciprocal.  That's what makes the dating scene hard some times.  But it goes beyond the physical.  Find a group where you have common interests and mingle with that group.  Someone probably has a 'friend' who is gay that you might like.  Don't give up.  You need to be more upbeat and not sound so depressing.  Life is what you make of it.  I am single right now and am actually kind of enjoying the break.  Good luck.
912240
Well I'm an Asian woman and I have dated every type of men. White, Pakistani (still Asian though), Chinese, Mexican, and Black. I don't have a problem with any background the man comes from! \n\nFrom personal experiences and from the absolute truth I get out of other Asian women most of these women go out with White men not because they fell in love with them at first sight but because they "looked attractive" and attractive means sharp features that White men have that are highly influence by the media they see every day.\n\nWhat's funny is that if you live in San Francisco, I'll guarantee to you that every part of the city you go, you'll always see an Asian girl with a White guy! Some of them act really stuck up too just because they'll with a White guy?\n\nSome girls I know even point out that White guys treat Asian women better than Asian men, that they have money, and above all you can have beautiful babies with them! But this is American, and the Asian men here are Asian Americans how stupid to assume such things!\n\nIt's really like reverse racism if you think about it. They say Asian men are no good!\n\nWhere I lived before moving to San Francisco, I always saw the Asian guys have girlfriend with no difficulty, but here I see a lot of single Asian guys and not so many other races of women want to give them a chance. How sad! Asian men are statistically more lonely and single than Black women too.\n\nI just wish some of my Asian female counterparts just stop the reverse racism on our men because they don't deserve any more discrimination!\n\nStatistically: There is one Asian woman for every TWO Asian man in America! And Japanese American women marry outside race like 75%! Those are really disturbing numbers, because like I said, many of these Asian men will be bachelors for a long time and some may never marry because of it!   :(\n\nI love all men but I wish more of my sisters gave other men a chance besides White guys!\n\nOh and of all the men I've dated, my favorite was my ex-Chinese boyfriend. He was so funny and really, really, really.....good in the bed! Probably he was so lonely for a long time before he met me! There was nothing small about him either!
513857
Because all most guys want is in your pants, keep your head up Mr. Right will come along in due time and he will be that guy and not "that guy". What you suffer from is called poor selection process, i used to have that problem to only mine is all the girls I meet want to do is get in my pants, it sucks when you want more, just walk with patience.
329462
Maybe because men don't really try to work in that area and plus everyone is so into lesbians because it's popular.  And the fact that men are just seen for their personalities not for their bodies
855740
STOP LOOKING, they don't exist!!!   I've Searched High & Low!  All men are like that it's in their genes   ....the secret is that you got to learn how to handle them, manipulate them, train them to your every command.   The ones that don't participate are the ones that become Alcoholics or otherwise known as the loser you see every night in the pub on falling around on the street dribbling. Depressed coz they can't find a women that finds the smell of booze, drink, kebab and puke attractive.\n\nThe secret is that you have to make them think that your great idea was actually there idea.  Be it buying you a new car, new house, jewellry, taking you out for the night, spending a night in together, you going out with your mates etc etc etc.  \nIt's then and only then that you will find happiness with a man.
27213
Practically in the same situation as you.\nIt is my personal belief that the reason why it is hard to date people is because most people have unrealistic standards, are shallow and judgemental.\n\nI'm 32 going on 33 in two weeks, barely 5'6" lost 85% of my hair(which I do not care) a bit heavy, I work the night shift from 11pm to 7am and unable to meet someone.\n\nIt has been my experience that LOOKS do matter and the type of job one has.\nI hear personality but yet I have gotten the cold shoulder even before I say anything, which has lead me to be convinced it was based on looks.\nThen when I do get a chance I am judged on the type of job I have and had and the hours I work. \n\nListen from one guy to another, do not be overlly concerned with dating, live and enjoy your life and if you do meet someone great but please do not act like it is the end of the world if you do not meet someone
739898
I think they become gay for the stay....I think it might be a primal instinct....no women around then if push comes to shove..shove I guess is the answer..weird eh?
167030
"chinese,japanese,dirty knees..look at these!" (haha im soo jokin) but yeah u know guys..all they want is sex..being asian is just a BIG bonus!
1016875
I believe the level of difficulty isn't directly to related to whether you are a lesbian or a gay male but rather the extent to which your personality goes against society's idea of "normal" -- a very feminine gay man is going to have more difficulty "fitting in" to a society where men are expected to be "manly". A butch lesbian who doesn't meet the "feminine" requirements of society will also have a harder time, but at least she can kick their butts if they mess with her. :)
570588
because they're immature and horny and not very smart and lazy and they wanna be like peter pan and never grow up.\nand i hope all men don't hate me for answering like this, because not ALL men are like that, but a bunch are.
1093308
They just work hard.  Go to the library on Friday night.  I can guarantee you , only people you see there are Asians.
145240
Because traditionally it is a career that has been chosen by women and guy men. Straight men don't want to be thought of as weak because of these stereotypes. Maybe things will change with the current shortages and increased salaries.
827853
maybe its because you try too hard \ndon't fall for someone just because you can \nonce u meet the right guy you'll know
518294
Depends what country you are in. Most western ones have - but not to the extent men have in the workplace. Asia and  the middle east still have a long way to go. Particularly in area where a higher level of education is not commonplace.
540037
As a gay guy I think it has to do with rejection and all that. Homosexual men get tons of abuse and are sometimes in need of counseling to deal with it properly. I myself am a super nice guy but some are so suspicious of being liked because so many people abuse them and rail against them that they end up doing the same thing to a guy that approaches them.\n\n  Another thing is that some people think of us all as sluts out for one thing and since society in general reject the idea of homosexual covanant relationships it becomes self fulfilling prophesy in some cases. Some guys have no manners and grab in ways they would not think of doing to a woman in bars and social settings so ....
1093817
coz gay guys are far more VAIN than\nstraight guys...they go regularly to\nthe gym, spa, salon, shopping...\nthey know the latest trends and keep their\nbodies fit. that's why they look SEXY!
1098505
Because I'm sure it's hard to find a decent boyfriend.  Narrowing it down to just muslims is making your funnel of potential dates smaller.