I am 58 and have been taking care of my mother for 6 years. I have  not made friends because of this...?
970818
better stay away from your daughter.the reason u have to be near her is for someone to look after you after your operation, so what's the sense of moving there if she can't be there for you. bad daughter u have there. i just do hope it won't happen to her when she gets old. as for your operation,well, maybe you could ask help from the hospital or from charitable institutions near your place that could look after you. that would be much better than to be expecting help from your daughter who couldn't even be there for you especially now that you need her most. goodluck and take care.
1170925
Hey my mom has had ms since before i was born i think and Im 16 now...it hasnt really affected my life. sure it restricts our activities together but I love her more than ever..A few of my friends family members have it too and they feel the same way..sure i get really frustrated when we're like..out and she gets tierd all of a sudden and we have to leave or if she has a mood swing because of pain but i cant blame her. id be angry too
929752
there isnt a thing you can do ... i am sorry.... i have a iffy relationship with my mother too... (and i also work with her)....\ni have tryed since i was young to get away from her but somehow it never works out ... although my brothers seemed to have managed it!...lol oh well... just as i get older i try to ignore her "ways"....sometimes its hard ... but at least i do live away from her with my children and husband... but its hard and i think it probably always will be.....just breathe..... and work hard to get your own place!...lol... where you can interact on your terms!... good luck!!!!
1000622
I have an 85 yo mom who is no different.  At this stage, they require "prompting".... just as children do.\n\nI've been taking care of mine for five years, full time and it's a challenge.  I struggle for methods to "reward" and "prompt" cooperation.\n\nPatience is a virtue developed for those caring for parents at this point in life - Best of Luck.
269919
You need to love and cherish you mother, she is not going to be with you forever. I am sure that your mother is a great person and she probably is not as embarrassing as you think. \n\nEnjoy every single moment that you can with your mother. She obviously loves you and wants the very best for you. Swallow your pride as hard as it may be and just let it go.
897323
I bet a few old people in nursing homes that no one has visited for years are lonelier than you. I bet they could use some company. Why dont you go visit some?\n\n\nWhat? no? suddenly your not as lonely as you thought I bet.
706573
It sounds to me she is not your friend at all.  Just because your parents are friends doesn't mean you have to be friends with her. Tell your parents what she has been doing.  Don't carpool with them anymore, distance your way from her.  You don't deserve that.
1094597
Living with Mom isn't working out--and rarely works out for many people.  \n\nWhether you've always lived with her, or you recently moved in with her for whatever reason, I highly recommend you get a place of your own.  You'll never find a wife living with your mother.  Get your personal life in order to the way you want to live it, then bring your mother into your life to care for her when she needs personal care.  Or get a good enough job to hire people to help with her personal care.  \n\nUnderstand your mother's history will help you understand why she worries so much.  It's like having a parent who grew up in the depression.  Her unique life experiences cause her to believe these things are important.    You can understand and respect her without living with her.  It's possible.  I promise.
1055119
i think ur mother is not fit to be called a mother!the difficult part of ur childhood u have managed on ur own and u don't need her help anymore. u are big enough to take care of ur self. u put down ur feet and protest and ask for fair treatment.if that doesn't help then u can go to the police.becoz u are too young to walk out of the house and more than that there are lot of people to exploit u at this age.so be careful sweetheart.things will become alright.god bless you.
428101
i only knew my great-grandmother. she took care of me every day when i was little, but she died when i was 8.  it was cool because she was 80 years older than me which is a whole world of difference.  she could remember back to the turn of the century (1900, not 2000 of course).  she told me stories all the time about how the world was when she was little.  she really valued teaching children nursery rhymes, bible songs, and stories of the past.  i think she was really important in shaping the values i still have. also, i have lots of respect and some sympathy for old people now b/c of her.  it's got to be sad to be old and be living in a world that is so unfamiliar to you and where you don't really feel like you are a valued part of society.  i really miss her even today, but i'm so grateful that i knew her.  i'm sorry you missed out on that, maybe, hopefully, you'll be around to know your own great-grandchildren adn you can make good memories for them like i have.
101919
you are so sweet!  most kids don't see things the way you seem to.  now, i don't have any of my own, but since i am someone's (now adult) child, i think i can give you a few suggestions.  first of all, while it may not be your responsibility to take care of your mother (or anyone else in your family), it is nice that you want to help out.  nothing wrong with that.  now, maybe you can start helping with laundry or other chores.  if you already do help at home, then maybe you can talk to some of your other relatives to see if  they are willing to talk with your mom and get her some help.  or at least give your mom a break by hanging out with you kids (or just you, if you're an only child) while she spends some time alone.  if you want to get her a gift, i'm sure she'll love anything from you.  maybe something for the bath, or some relaxing music?  good luck, and i hope you and your family realize what a good daughter you are:)
158443
do not slam the door  if she was your friend for 25 years shes just jealous  you have a perfect life with children and everything  she probably fell into a problem  i suggest seek her out and talk with her  oh yeah  if shes having drug/alchohol problems  doc immediatly    good luck
249087
She can only interfere as much as you two let her. My wife and I had gone through this. My own mom is very controlling and self-centered. She never re-married after my dad left in 1973. Mom felt that my wife took me away from her. When we got married, early on I told mom that I have a wife to take care of now and that SHE is the focus of my attention and affections. I do have a 35 year old brother that still lives with her, but she would call for me to do work around her house. I told her that I have my own house to take care of. Sure, she got irritated, but she also began to realize that I was not at her beck and call anymore.
984825
hey sweetie i don't know if it is normal for you to bethinking about this . but i can tell you that not having my mother or grand parents living it is very hard . it does not matter how old you are . you all ways need and want your mom in your life . i miss mine very much and its been 15 years since she died .but i can all so tell you that God he knows whats best for all of us . and he is there for us to . so don't you worry about your mom or grandmother passing away and leaving you . God forbid that ever happened he would take care of you . and you know your so young and life really is short . so you go give your mom and grandmother a big hug and kiss tell them how much you love them . and everyday make them feel special to you . and i have tears in my eyes as i type this to . because its so rare to find such a sweet teenager with a big heart like you have . just live  life and try to not worry and be happy OK ?
1034795
Gee, my mom is 80 or so, and I have similar problems. The only thing that has helped me is reading the Crankshaft Cartoon in the newspaper. Seeing that the problem is not unique to my circumstance has enabled me to find some humor in it. \n\nI think perhaps we can learnhow to be patient and not become hateful or angry by having to deal with these situations. I purpose in my heart not to expect my mom to do what I consider logical, or best for her, and condition myself to drop down into the "peace that passes understanding" whenever she refuses to keep track of her holdings. Sometimes it doesn't work, but I am worse off when I allow myself to get upset. \n\nI have started to clean up my own affairs so that I don't do this to my own son as I age. Why, just a few weeks ago, I actually gave away 4 books! (lol) It seems really difficult to fight the process of becoming my mom.
408614
this will hurt but to be honest she isnt any kind of genuine friend if this is how shes treating u. My advice(Coming from a 35 year old scottish chick whos been there b4 with an ex friend),id walk away from her and cut all ties. Do u realy want to be friends with someone that treats u like that? U deserve better babe.xx
909358
I answered your previous question about this issue and really wanted to send you an e-mail this time but you dont have that option available.  All I can say is she sounds just like me when I was her age and I know exactly what she is going through.  If you ever set up an e-mail contact get back to me and I will try and explain her to you so you can have a better understanding of what is going on.  Most of what people are writing to you is not right.  I dont think anybody can understand it unless they have been through it themselves.  Good luck.