How would you address your parents negative criticisms on you wanting to go to college.?
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Does it have anything to do with their inability to pay for your college education?   Are they trying to discourage you because they see no way for them or you to handle the financial burden?\n\nFind out why they are so negative about you attending college.  Then address each issue carefully and thoughtfully.  If it all boils down to a money issue then start applying for grants, scholarships then loans if necessary.  Also get a job and start seriously saving money...college is not cheap...and unless you are serious and ready to attend you should wait a year or so. \n\n It is VERY different than high school,  there is a ton more work involved for each class and you are responsible to do the work on your own.   High school does not prepare you for the different course loads or the accelerated pace of the classes.   Some will tell you to plan on two hours of study for every one hour spent in the classroom....trust me when I say  it takes a lot more than that in some classes...and your professors do not care about any class but their own.  If you are ready for the challenge and have the finances in place,  go for it....otherwise take a year off and save and decide what you want to study.  Good luck.
60854
When they ask you to do something, do it right away.\nMake sure you are having a good attitude about it.  When a thought come into your mind like, "that's not fair", or things like that, push them out of your head.  When you start thinking that way, it will just make you mad at your mom, and dad, and you will not want to obey.  \nAlso, try to think often about the good things that they do for you, that will help you with your attitude, and will help you be more thankful for things.\nAnother thing you can do is tell your mom and dad that you love them.  Give them hugs, and thank them for things.  This will help you to have a better relationship with them, and will make you want to obey them.
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Have you talked to your professors?  Are there any classes that  you could drop and still make your GPA?  If it is really that bad, then you are just going to have to sit down and discuss it with your parents.  You should probably also start looking for a job!  Good luck!
505146
Maybe a drug or alchol or mental illness don't let it get you down. Go forth with your college and get out of there talk to your Mom if you can. I have found that just saying stuff like I'm sorry that it seems that way but I'm not always helps with dealing with people like that
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Wow.  I'm in the same situation. \n\nThe only things I suggest are...\n-try to be more mature: maybe they'll feel that you're more responsible and let you have a bit more freedom\n-Be nice (actually):  maybe if you do what they want (ex: good grades, homework done on time, no whining..etc) they would feel proud for you, and give you some kind of reward\n-interact with them more often:  no matter how relentlessly boring or painful this might be, getting to know your parents is a big thing.  After all, they're not going to be with you the rest of your life - they just give you the start.  If you learn what they are like, maybe they would learn more about you.  Then they might know your need for something and let you do it, for it's very important to you.  And anything important to you that is completed, would make you happy.  And parents want their kids happy.\n\nIt's a whole cycle.  \nGood luck!
127471
i know what you are going through because im also a straight A student but whenever i get a bad grade i have to tell my parents because then the guilt comes in not telling them.  it may be hard yo stand up to your dad but if you have the bad grades and you tell him your trying really hard to work them off that usually works.  Good luck!!!
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At a certain point in everyone's life they must choose to do what is best for them which may not be what their parents wish. If your father is unwilling to pay college expenses explore other available financing offers. Going against parental wishes is difficult. You must decide which is more important - your desire for higher education or maintaining family harmony!
75154
Well, they've been together for this long & hopefully you've trusted them. Just give them your support & let them know that you're concerned & don't want them to mess up their futures. College is a time for children to start being independent & learn how to function on their own. BUT, just tell them to be careful. I'm sure they'll understand.
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Sit down with your parents  and tell them you love and respect them.Then show them in writing that you have a concrete plan for your future.For example the program you want to take, where you will live, budget, if you must work,etc. Also try to show you have prepared for emergencies and have alternate plans and options. Your parents will be more receptive to your wishes if you can show them you have given this plan a lot of thought and consideration.
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Putting in a personal note would be great.  You can send them prior to graduation even if they aren't invited to the ceremony.  Your parents may want to host an open house, you should talk to them about that now to avoid any hurt feelings.  The personal note could say "Hey--I'm graduating with honors!  Whoo-hoo!  Celebrate with me on May 27th starting at 4 PM at Ma's house.  Help me start next year (at college/at technical school/starting my career/being a bum for awhile) off right!"
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First, figure out how you are going to do better this semester. Then, tell your parents flat out what your grades were. Ask them to help you with your plan to raise them. They might be mad at you for getting bad grades, but they will be much more supportive if you take a responsible approach to them.
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Pretend you care but you know you don't inside. Wait till you leave home then you'll be able to do whatever you want. Going against them now might turn into something disasterous especially if you haven't made plans for college yet. Bite your tongue and ignore.
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As a kid myself, I see it from your side. However, make sure you realize that they just want you to realize that "lowering the expectations you have for yourself is not the right path to take." (My parents...rrr...)
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A young woman was about to finish her first year of college.  Like so many others her age, she considered herself to be a very liberal Democrat and was for distribution of all wealth.  She felt deeply ashamed that her father was a rather staunch Republican, which she expressed openly.  One day, she was challenging her father on his beliefs and his opposition to higher taxes on the rich and the addition of more government welfare programs.  Based on the lectures that she had participated in and the occasional chat with a professor, she felt that for years her father had obviously harbored an evil, even selfish desire to keep what he thought should be his.  The self-professed objectivity proclaimed by her professors had to be the truth, and she indicated so to her father.  He stopped her and asked her point blank how she was doing in school.  She answered rather haughtily that she had a 4.0 GPA, and let him know that it was tough to maintain.  That she studied all the time, never had time to go out and party like other people she knew.  She didn’t even have time for a boyfriend and didn’t really have many college friends because of spending all her time studying.  That she was taking a more difficult curriculum.\n\nHer father listened and then asked, “How is your good friend Mary doing?”\n\nShe replied, “Mary is barely getting by.”  She continued, “She barely has a 2.0 GPA,” adding “and all she takes are easy classes, and she never studies.  But Mary is so very popular on campus.  College for her is a blast.  She goes to all the parties all the time and very often doesn’t even show up for classes because she’s too hung over.”\n\nHer father then asked his daughter, “Why don’t you go to the Dean’s office and ask him to deduct 1.0 off your 4.0 GPA and give it to your friend who only has a 2.0?”  He continued, “That way, you will both have a 3.0 GPA, and certainly that would be a fair and equal distribution of GPA.”\n\nThe daughter, visibly shocked by her father’s suggestion angrily fired back, “That wouldn’t be fair!  I worked really hard for mine.  I did without and Mary has done little or nothing.  She played while I worked real hard!”\n\nThe father slowly smiled, winked and said, “Welcome to the Republican Party.”
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Take a piece of paper and sit in a quiet place and just write phrases and thoughts that come to your head.  What would you like about going to that school?  What would be different for you?  How would you feel about yourself?  How would your future be different?  How would you feel if you got better in school and made your parents and relatives proud of you?  How would your future and jobs and life be different?\n\nThink of all these things and write what comes to your mind in any order.  Then take all your answers and put it in as good an essay form as you can, check your spelling, and ask someone to check your grammar for you.\n\nAnd good luck to you.
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Be clear what you want to say before you speak to her/him.\nDo not be negative. Be humble. If complaining about something the main thing is to offer a better solution. Just dont bring up problems one needs to offer solutions.\nThank them for the opportunity they have given you for the conference. They have a boss too  and they have stricter deadlines than students so be mindful of that. Bring something to the table. and ALLLLLWAYS thank them they dont get paid enough with what they have to deal with! TRUST ME!
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Pay attention when they teach you in the Instution, and if you have a difficulty, you can always ask the teacher & clear your doubts on any topic.\n\nLook, whenever something new is taught, its best to comprehend the topic 100% and no less. This way it remains embedded in your mind till lifetime.\n\nAnd please, do not use "Blah Blah". Such language only shows what respect you give to education, for which your parents must have struggled to raise fees, uniforms,and moral guidence. Its like insulting them.\n\nI too have a schooling daughter, but never have I heard her with such a foul language, although she goes to the best school with lot of big shots kids.\nAlways take in the good, and filter out the bad.