If you Daddy said "go to rehab"? would you say NO NO NO?
956983
i would say "give me a go on your crack pipe and ill think about it daddy"
527395
Please babe, I have to go really bad.\nIf he doesn't leave, GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
714951
dt,s. and god bless you i went through that with my mom and second husband. its a hard row to hoe. good luck to you and your bf! rehab is helpful but not always successful. always have medical care through it all. he needs AA, and you need alanon! check into it.
409848
My dad and I had a similar situation.  I moved in with him at 15 and we partied all the time.  But when I got older, I couldn't take the aftermath of a good bender. I didn't want to be like that drunk old man that didn't have a license, and broke his leg riding home from a bar on a bicycle.  I had a hard time breaking away, he was my dad and we'd be through hell together.  But I had to realize that he had at least started most of the trouble in the beginning.  And that I didn't want him to use me to validate his addictions.  Like saying "that's how we bond".  Usually I just resented him more after we partied.  I haven't seen my dad in 5 years.  I miss him, and I love him, but he's lost everything.  They have to want to quit like we did.  Sometimes, like once a year, I call him.  Make sure he's still alive and doing ok.  But from my experience, they only get worse.  Last time I called my dad had lost the house, his job, living with 4 other people in a house that should be condemned.  He's 51 and having seizures when he goes sober for hours.  I love him soooo much, but I can't bring that beer to him, roll his j, drive him around or keep his dealers off his butt anymore.  Just pray alot, think about the good times and move far enough away that she can't find you until you're independent enough to say no to her.
839590
You can not force anyone to do something they don't want to do.  I don't trust rehabilitation at all.  Think about it, if a sex offender says he's rehabilitated are you going to test that with YOUR kid?  How else are you going to confirm he's different?  Some other child will have to be life altered before you realize this pervert needs to go back to the drawing board..again.  He's ok as long as he's not around children, how's that rehabilitation?  You can't rehabilitate a lion not to eat a lamb, same thing in my opinion. You can train a lion but instinct will win every time.  Try reading up on some killers like Albert Fish on crimelibrary.com then see if you feel like you would like that guy to be "rehabilitated" and living next door to you and your family.  Good luck.
807894
If you're 18 then you can do what you want to do.  You just need to decide which is more important.  Why doesn't your dad want you to do this?  I would be very proud if my child came to me and said they wanted to do something like that.  If you think it's a calling then it probably is.  I hope you are able to do what you feel is right and that your dad comes around.  Maybe if you tried again to sit down with him and explain to him why it's important to you.  Maybe if you speak with adult tones and mannerisms he'll get it.  I don't know your father so I don't know.  I think he should be proud that you want to do this and that you're not involved with drugs or gangs or any of the other things young adults are faced with every day.  He could have a lot worse things to be facing than you wanting to serve God.  Maybe you could find a way to tell him that kindly.  Act like an adult [or continue to really, it sounds like your very mature] and maybe, hopefully, he'll treat you like one.  Good luck to you!  If you were my child I would be incredibly proud of you.  I could only wish my children would tell me something like that.  You want to do the right thing, I hope you do it!
781934
would you??\n\nas much as i'd like to say yes, it's hard to trust alot of people out there. it's not the fact that he's homeless - strangers just don't belong in my house especially over night.\n\nthere's other ways to help him out anyway. what good is one bath, one meal, one night in a warm place when the next day he has to go back to the streets. i'd rather try to help him out so he or she can get their lives back on track forever
422842
If you don't love him, tell him now, while he's in rehab and has the support of others, as well as counselors.  It you wait until he gets out, he may use your breaking up as an excuse to  go out and use again.  By leaving him while he's in rehab, you give him the opportunity to start fresh when he gets out, rather than thinking life's one way and having to start over again when you do leave him.
396391
you should not believe him. i am a recovering addict, and i don't believe in using occasionally. it doesn't work that way. before long your bills and every thing will be behind. it is an expensive habit. i don't want to tell you to just leave your husband because that will make it worse for him. when my husband found out i was using he did tell me that if i didn't stop he would leave me and take my daughter. him and some of my other family has got me into Church and i have given my life to the lord. pray about it, God leaves no prayer unanswered. but we have to remember he doesn't answer them right when we want he answers them when it is the right time. now im not telling you to stay with him if he continues to use either. really open your heart to God and pray and he will put the answer in your heart what you should do.good luck and GOD BLESS YOU!!! if you need anyone to talk to you can email me or IM ME. MY im name is tootsjrfan.
164230
If he's not actively seeking treatment by his own choice, yes.  It only gets worse not better and if he's not willing to help himself their is not a single thing you can do. Doesn't matter how much you love him or how much he loves you, the alchohol will always come first.
604398
This will sound harsh but if you insist on enabling him and thereby losing control of your own life and thoughts ... I'd suggest buying him more booze and hope the end comes soon. On a more serious note, you could seek counseling for both you and him and for god's sake, get him to join AA.
819405
My dad used to be an abusive alcohol....It was a very painful childhood growing up with all the verbal and mental abuse.....When I turned 22, he completely changed, became a Christian and quit drinking, cold turkey....It took time to heal our relationship, but now I LOVE MY DAD and he really is the best dad anyone could ever want.....We are very close and has been a lot of healing from the past.....He never really apologized, but with his radical change in behavior, I didn't need an apology because actions speak louder than words.....We never talk about the past, because I have forgiven him and I know he is a different person and I choose to let the past go, I can't change it, but only learn from it.....Just be patient and all things will come together.....Best of luck and what a wonderful gift  you have, the opportunity for healing your relationship with your dad, most people never get that chance....
810547
If on probation,are parole.I would say yes.
3802
If the loved one is under 18 sign them into a rehab.\n\n Otherwise the only option may be to wait until they get arrested.\n\nMy daughter is a 20 year old "adult" who has dropped out for the last month and we've heard from others about her activities.  She won't tell us where she is so we can't report her activities to the police.  \n\nI hope that we get the call she is arrested before we get the other call.
403939
Honey, you don't need this and neither does your son. This is the role model you are choosing for your child. Is that what you want? If your guy had stayed in NA and had really tried to work this out, then I'd say to stick with him. But he really doesn't sound like he's giving it his entire effort. Maybe he does not want to give up drugs. So you have to tell him to make the choice... you or the drugs. I'll bet he chooses the drugs, thinking you won't walk out. But I know you will leave becasue I'll bet you love your kid a lot more than you love this drug addict.
822593
If it was in my county, I'd ask, "Hey (name), how's life, put anyone in jail today."  If it were anyone else I'd ask how they were dealing with their local drug problem and proably tell them about the one we have here.  My dad's a longtime ADA, so I had more of an inside of view and don't wonder about the innerworkings of a DA's office.
891750
No.\n\nWould you let him watch porn?!?!\n\nAs bad or even worse.