I am so confused, is it possible to stop yourself loving someone?
952941
You can't help the way you feel, it is being human.  I had a similar situation when I was 17.  I had been best friends with him for 2 years and gradually we got closer and closer.  For me it didn't work out but I am glad I gave it a go otherwise I would all ways wonder what if.  I think life is far too short to have regrets.
692481
u may love him but not truely love him, it's called attactment..\nu just have no where else to go and only stick to him..\nbest to get yo mind off him and hang around other people and later on find another person to be in love wit who can treat u much better...
551079
Why would you love someone who goes out of their way to hurt you?  This sounds like masochism to me.  You probably think you need this person ... but you don't.  It is perfectly possible to forgive, and to walk away.  Do it for the sake of your pride and your self-esteem.  That's my advice.  Otherwise, go on loving and being hurt.  The choice is yours.
373995
Hi there. I recommend you would get a pet. Sometimes it is hard for us to relate to fellow human beings, but easier to animals. Put all of your heart into the animal, and maybe, when the right person comes, you will be already familiar with the feeling of love and will be able to return it.\nIf you really want to change your emotional habits, by the way, and start loving, you need to check into your childhood. Most people who cannot love others or themselves, had been messed with, as children. They then need a special kind of therapy and yahoo answers is not the right place for it. Sorry I cannot help you more than that, unless you specify in additional details more about your problem. What kind of love do you have problems with? Just loving a woman? Or also loving your family? It might make a difference, and give indication to the cure. Good Luck.
409182
Yes i think its possible....Its your own love, people cant decide your feelings for you.\n\ngood luck
1047025
Nope. I married someone that loves me and cares for me so deeply. I did love him once, but he killed my love....now that I am married I realized that I hate myself for not following my heart. Its not fair to try to make someone happy and living a fake life that you may not feel. Trust me. I can't get out of it, and each day gets harder and harder.
1159687
Yes you can. You can hurt them by not loving them as much as they love you. You can hurt someone who loves you in many ways, but this is just one
99947
Your love obviously isn't being returned.  This person is using you and you don't deserve that.  By letting them get away with misbehaving you are just telling them that what they are doing is ok.  You need to put an end to what ever this behaviour is even if it means ending the relationship.  If you give your love to someone then you deserve to have it returned properly and if they can't do that then you need to find someone who will.
260315
No. move on you may find someone you really love and that really loves you!! Someone may be waiting for you to move on.
77488
You certainly can , I have anyway . Love is hard to explain and understand for that matter . Love can  make us do things that we never thought possible . I will tell you this much though if you do love two people you are in for a rough ride . Your best bet is to be honest as possible with both of them or you could lose them both .
764814
Letting someone you love go, is crap! Believe me, I let my first love get away from me, and I regret it everyday of my life. If you love someone, do everything you can to keep them! Don't EVER let them go, and make sure they know that you love them so much you'll do whatever you have to, to keep them. Let them know how much they mean to you.When you lose someone you love, you lose a piece of yourself.........and It is hard to impossible to get it back. That, I believe, is why we get so angry, frustrated, and bitter. That's why we hurt from, for a long time to forever, we're never able to become complete again. If that person is not worth you fighting as hard as you can to keep them, you didn't love them all that much to begin with.
397606
You mean you want to kill your feelings for her, correct? If you truly do love her then you have to decide what is best for her. And that, unfortunately might not be what is best for you. But that is ultimately what love is about...what we sacrifice for our loved ones. Do the right thing. I'm sad to tell you that you probably won't stop loving her but at least you know you have done the most LOVING thing you could for her.  Good luck
699067
There is nothing wrong with what you are doing but I say that you are hurting someone ... it is yourself since you have to question you motives and you love this person.
156080
I don't believe you can love someone too much but you can be so attentive that a person can feel smothered. It would depend on what he considers too much and the actual circumstance. If you are devoting 100 percent to him, then its too much. If you are not taking care of yourself and spending time focusing on self then it is way to much. Sometimes what your giving is great but sometimes it is not received like that. I would spend time really looking at the situation, maybe sharing your thoughts with family and friends who know you both and see what their assessment is as well.
271174
well if you love some one... you cannot stop loving them  just like that... but  you do have to  begin to let go...  and look elsewhere...  shes off the market now...
62263
U cant control ur feelings but u can control ur actions.Preserve ur dignity,move on and hope 4 the best.
414331
Only time and personal effort will make it better.  You truely love someone, it's forever, and your mind will from time to time come back to him, but if u truely love him, u are doing the right thing by stopping and staying away.  Don't break up a family or hurt a child.  If it's meant to be it will happen one day.