Do men always have to be the ones to apologise, even when its not our fault?
969904
How a person responds to an argument is not a guy or girl issue . . . it's how the individual (no matter the gender) handles the response and situation of an argument.  How to handle this issue, no matter if it was the guy or the girl . . . when things are calm...maybe even several days or weeks later...tell your sweetie something to the effect of "I'm uncomfortable of how we argue...I'd like to openly discuss this so we can clarify some understanding and set up some 'ground rules' for when we have disagreements."  Then sit down and openly share what you do and don't care for in your style of 'arguing'.  Remember to share not only what you don't like but also what you do like.  Maybe your girlfriend will share that her style is to be left alone for a certain period of time before you two relate together again.  You both express your thoughts and then begin negotiations and agreed boundaries.  All this really needs is COMMUNICATION.  I don't feel enough couples really have healthy respectful communication skills.  One person shouldn't have to back down and chase after the other.  And it's not right for the other one not to accept a sincere apology that included the acknowledgment of what they felt was hurtfully projected.  You and your sweetie sit down and openly discuss what style of relating (and understanding of the others) mode of relating and arguing best suits the two of you.  A relationship is in part like a business, discuss and find what works best for the healthy success of your (business) relationship.  Though in a relationship...there are the perks of love and kisses.
128169
Apologize and learn to live with it.  Life isn't always a bag of gumdrops.
559633
Usually it is just an ego thing.  When a guy is proved wrong you hurt his ego and then he gets angry.
1040131
Somewhat, but don't let that fool you. He's going to change no matter if you are mean or nice. But if he is just like the other guys, then this is what he will pull. Like for example, whatever he said to, you he'll say that you did the same thing to him, he use that excuse to make you feel guilty all the time. So, be careful on what you forgive, cause he will use that advantage.
571427
We don't need you to fix our probs just let us vent and get it out. Our brain is wired to talk our probs out, unlike the man's brain, which is wired for prob solving.
667624
Because they make it that way. It never should be that hard to love someone, but for men and some women they need a lot of drama in their life. Also some want to blame the other sex for their problems. If a man thinks a woman did him wrong he will blame all women..............
775997
'fool me once shame on you. fool me twice shame on me'\n\nbut this all depend on the gravity of the mistake. if its about not putting the toilet seat down though i asked my husband to do so, is quite forgivable again and again. but if it concerns cheating on me or something like that, i might forgive the first time (totally depends on the situation. i might not forgive the first time also), but for sure will not forgive when it happens the second time.
160903
I think it goes visa-versa! I also think it's human nature, we B**** about everything we do and dont do...it's only natural to gripe about men, considering they're such a big part of our lives. Besides i believe the things we B**** most about are the things we cannot change.
141751
If you said that your sorry, and you really are, then its not your fault anymore.  Give it a little time though.  Things are forgotten over time, and they will probably realize that whatever happened was stupid and come to their senses.
305893
Yes it is, ppl fall out of love all the time, and sometimes ppl just cant forgive, if he messed up its his loss.
1132220
Well, saying sorry is ok and all but when you are hearing 'sorry' from the same person over and over - especially if it's regarding the same topic it does get old.  You don't wanna hear 'sorry' you just want to see the change - it's kind of like actions speak louder than words.  Instead of saying 'sorry' work on fixing whatever you keep being sorry about so you don't have to say it.\nInstead of you apologizing when you fight why not sit down and talk about whatever you are fighting about honestly and calmly.  Tell him how you feel and listen to how he feels - keep the communication open and then work on fixing the problem together.
22478
Guys, and also girls, can be mean sometimes. However, You are responsible of the way those guys are treating you. If you project a personality of zero tolerance for disrespect of your person, your time, or your property, those guys are going to react and start treating you well.
1036008
If I'm in the wrong, I definitely say sorry. a stupid thing like pride shouldn't get in the way of someone admitting they were wrong. People have fallen out for years over the person in the wrong refusing to say sorry. It's not worth it.
431174
After realizing your mistakes and apologizing sincerely to him, then give him space, don't drool on it as it will not give him the chance to reflect on what you've said that has hurt him or your words of being sorry. Time doesn't really heal whatever pain we've experienced, but it gives us the chance to take it, to carry it and to understand why things have happened. Its more difficult for a man just to forget, forgive and pretend nothing has been said that has hurt his ego or his total self. Just continue being you, the person he used to be a friend with, smile when you see him, though stop nagging or pushing yourself into him to put back everything that was. That's done and gone, start from scratch, that's the cause and effect of what you've done. Accept and WAIT, wait when he's ready to be friends again. Remember, wait and have patience.
376308
To hear a guy say that he is sorry really really sorry is a good start.(IF HE HAS FLOWERS, IT MAKES IT BETTER)
1167221
I think people are bound to say things which they don't really mean down deep inside esp when an arguement is going on.My thought is he did apologize and sometimes that's about all one can do.I have heard actions speak louder than words. As long as the person treats another with respect then I wouldn't hold one arguement over thier head forever.
71360
As a guy, I can tell you without hesitation that some women have a way of turning something back on you.  If you tell her you're mad about something she has done, hasn't done, etc., you get a load of crap designed to turn it back on you.  Including trying to make you feel guilty for even bringing it up.  Some even try to clear the anger by attempting to inspire sympathy.\n\nThat's just speaking from personal experience.  It's very hard to bring up sensitive issues with some women because it's impossible to carry on a serious, purposeful discussion of the problem without being emotionally manipulated.\n\nJust my opinion.  And please don't think I'm issuing a blanket statement to cover all wome.  That's why I said "some women".