How do I get my parents to let me do what i want to they dont control me!!!!!!!?
966144
Wow.  I'm in the same situation. \n\nThe only things I suggest are...\n-try to be more mature: maybe they'll feel that you're more responsible and let you have a bit more freedom\n-Be nice (actually):  maybe if you do what they want (ex: good grades, homework done on time, no whining..etc) they would feel proud for you, and give you some kind of reward\n-interact with them more often:  no matter how relentlessly boring or painful this might be, getting to know your parents is a big thing.  After all, they're not going to be with you the rest of your life - they just give you the start.  If you learn what they are like, maybe they would learn more about you.  Then they might know your need for something and let you do it, for it's very important to you.  And anything important to you that is completed, would make you happy.  And parents want their kids happy.\n\nIt's a whole cycle.  \nGood luck!
24639
CALMLY talk to your parents. LISTEN to what their concerns are. I am a son, parent, and soon to be grand parent ... Although I rarely took my parents' advice and changed my life because of it, when I did LISTEN, it made my life easier. My parents realize (and I realize as a parent) that kids will NOT do what they want them to do, but if the parents are HEARD, it makes life easier for you, your parents, and the "mate" you are talking about. Think about what they are saying to you, DON'T ARGUE or MAKE THEM THINK like you think - that ain't happening - You allready know your opinion, now PLEASE take 10 minutes and hear the opinion of your parents.
1126625
No its not bad, but if you dont want to be what your parents want you to be you should try talking to them and tell them what you want to be.  If they dont agree do what you want to do and someday they will come around and respect yor feelings.
66787
their your parents they are supposed to be in your business, they do it because they care nothing else. but if your really want them to stop make everything that you have accessable, they will eventually trust if they find nothing bad.
158123
parents usually get mad when their kids fail to follow rules or do what is expected of them .Parents don't tell their kids to do things just for the heck of it. They want their children to learn some responsibilty so that they can make right choices in life. Your parents are only concerned about you and your well being. they want what is best for you. Try not to lie, if you are caught doing something wrong, admit to it. It is a very mature move, believe me, and after you admit to what you did wrong, apologize. You can also talk to your parents about your goals and let them know that you need them to help you fulfill your goals.Parents like to be needed by their children, I think that is the scariest part for parents when kids grow up, the thought that their kid doesn't need them anymore.
922558
Do what you want its your life!\nYou are still young dont limit yourself im sure you could be anything you wanted. Do somthing you enjoy doing.\nIm sure your parents just want you to be healthy and happy anyway.
610073
Well its not right to force anyone for anything but just look it like this our parents do so many thing for our hapiness which they dont want to do so we kind of force them aswell and if once in a while they ask us for something i think we shouldnt turn them down just try to be there for them much as you can it will give you inner beauty and alot of blessing in life.I think if you can keep your parents happy you will end up being happy or else your kids will do the same with you and i know you wouldnt like that.so yea go on and try to enjoy it if you can.
822558
Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!
1011301
Well, it may sound fruity, but the book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens" is a good one. Your parents have 2 concerns in this matter. Your safety and the boys interests. Since you cannot know what the boys are thinking, don't bother telling mom and dad you won't do anything with them. Since you can't change your parents opinion of those boys (or boys in general), don't try. Leave the "mom i need some freedom" in the trash where it belongs. Show your parents you are responsible. Follow their rules. But at the same time, open an honest, rational dialogue about why you want boys over. See if they are willing to compromise. Like letting a boy over if you sit in the living room in full view at all times and not when your parents aren't home. It may be a slow process, but this will work. First try to understand your parents objections. Then work rationally and without emotion on those objections........I'll give you an example.\n\nMy dad didn't allow boys over when I was young. I couldn't go to dances, call them on the phone, or even talk about dating. His objections? Premarital sex, drugs, alcohol, and staying out late. Ok, first, staying out late. No problem, curfew.........and I followed it. Second, drugs and alcohol, it's one thing to say you won't do them, and another to not. Since dad wasn't around to see me not take drugs, I pointed out my other responsible acts (Spanish club, Mentoring, 3.6 GPA). Third, premarital sex, ok, again, can't be there all the time. So I let him know what I knew. I let him know I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. And then I let him know what the warning signs were if a boy was pressuring me..........and that I wouldn't allow it. Sure enough, I was dating in no time. I was trusted. And by Senior year, I had a 3 am curfew, a dad who asked how my day went without judging, AND a sense of self-worth.
522810
You are the master of your own destiny.  You can settle down anywhere.  Why not settle down where YOU want, not where your parents think you should?  You're grown; you're not somebody else's livestock to be brought hither and yon or penned up close by by controlling people.  Loving parents are great, but that love can also suffocate what they love.  Explain to them that you have to be your own person.  Good luck.
155295
well .....talk to a sibling and tell him/her to be there when u tell one of ur parents....start with the one wh &#92;o is a little less aggressive...maybe ur mom or ur dad...and just let them know u need their support and that u hope they'll treat u like an independent adult....tell them ull sort things out and wat u plan for the future.....think abt evrything u wwana say to them......just listen to them too...cuz they'll obviously be upset....just tell them they mean alot to u and no1 else can help u out like they can..i hope they'll understand..........its a huge responsibility....make sure ur ready for it.......take care and dont overstress........:)
53238
you dont spank them,talk to them and give them trust and love just be thier parent  spanking them at that age will cause your daughter to rebel,treat her like a real person
186488
Control yourself and discipline your sister. If your sister insist having ___ with you, consult her to a psychiatrist or tell your parents.
892262
FIRST OF ALL I HOPE YOU ARE A RESPECTABLE AND RESPONSIBLE 21 YEAR OLD !!!\n\nHAVE AN IN DEPT TALK WITH YOUR PARENTS; COVER THE TOPIC OF TRUST !!!\n\nSHOW THEM AND TELL THEM THEY CAN FULLY TRUST YOU !!!\n\nBUT DON'T EVER FAIL THEM OR YOU'VE RUINED IT FOREVER !!!\n\nGOOD LUCK TO YOU !!!
274550
You can get rid of parental controls when you turn 18 and get your own internet account OR when you have shown your parents that you are mature and responsible enough not to have them.  Be glad that you have parents who love you enough to put controls on you, they do it because they love you and want to keep you safe.  Too many kids live in homes where no body cares what happens to them, I am glad you are not one of them.
354045
Parents have to be demanding, because if they do not you will get in a lot of trouble. It is for your safety not theirs. You will thank them when you are grown. We all go through these phases in life and appreciate it when we get a little older, do not forget someday you will be that parent put yourself in their situation, if you was the parent. What would you allow your daughter to do.
619513
Well you have to establish confidence with them. However, if you're Asian, then that might not be possible cuz Asian parents are strict, so you're gonna have to sneak out with ur friends and just stop caring what your parents think. (I'm not encouraging that, just saying that's what you would have to do if you want to have fun with your friends)