Family verbal abuse and intimidation excused?
954964
You need some help with how to deal with this.  You cannot change another person, but you can learn some things that will help you deal with it better.\n\nTalk to a school counselor or clergyman about it.  Ask for help.  Tell your mother than you are asking for help because you cannot deal with it and ask her to go with you.  If she doesn't, that's ok.  You can get help for yourself.\n\nSome kids fear their parents divorcing.  I used to fear that something would happen to my mom and I'd be left alone with my father.  I do understand.  I used to pray that they would get divorced, and I'd feel guilty about that.\n\nFeelings are just feelings.  It's ok.  But you should get some counseling and help to deal with it.  If the cancer has caused a change in your father's behavior, he may need someone to discuss it with his doctor.  Medication may be prescribed that will help, even if they cannot cure the cancer.  \n\nI pray that things will work out better for you.\n\nSue
348797
I work in a nursing home and I'm a mandory reporter of abuse. The police can not always help. You need to get a hold of Department of Human Services in your area
952330
Decide that that is it and seek help from an abuse center if it is physical or emotional abuse. If the "beaten" you are referring to is a parents discipline and it is not abusive, figure out where you stepped out of line and correct it.
702577
man o man i agree with you. I mean im almost 15 and i agree that your mom shouldn't get in trouble. I have an abusive brother and they told my mom and dad that they were only aloud to restrain him, but it sounds like its only your mom doing it and its even hard for just my dad to restrain my bro so i couldnt really see how your mom could do that to your sis. and people who dress gothic and crap just look like fricken retards. they need to get over themselves and get a fricken life! they wonder why nobody likes them and its b./c of all that nasty crap they put on themselves. i know its a way to express yourself but come on find a different way to do it!!!!! also there has been many time that my bro has tried to kill my mom and i think yall should try getting her tested for ADHD and also maybe get her a councilor
1102331
I'm 40 and I have the same problem with some of my family.  Wish I had an answer for you.  Sometimes I get the feeling that the people in my life really don't think I can do anything right.  At least their actions say so.  I usually ignore their stupid remarks and go about things my own way.  If the remarks really get to me, I'll just plain tell them that I know what I'm doing.  Usually works too.
636589
I personally had the same problem.  I finally had enough and stood up at Thanksgiving dinner.  It was kinda funny to see the looks on their faces.  I just said get over yourselves or we won't be coming around.  It was funny, they were stunned, then they were nice.  I think families like that like to gang up on the "outsider"  and they just never matured outside of the eighth grade.  They are bullies and they will stop if you confront them.
415472
There's a link in the site to report abuse. \nIf it's not a joke then just go to the police.
824434
Yells at you MORE when hes with his family? Why is he yelling at you EVER??? This is totally disrespectful and you should not stand for it. You need to implement a "No YELLING" rule, none is allowed in the house. If he ever starts yelling, just turn and leave the room, leave the house if you have to. He will learn that it does not accomplish anything to yell. He is teaching your child bad things, and this should not be allowed. You need to come up with a better way to communicate. Counseling can help here if you don't feel you know any strategies to improve communication.
353548
Wow. My intial reaction to the main question was "{chuckle} If there is, let me know where to find one...."\n\nBut seriously, from what you're saying, this is not just a matter of a support group. You're talking about potentially criminal and/or tortious behavior and threats by them. You may want to think about speaking with an attorney to find out if you should take legal action.
976866
Verbal Abuse can be a form of ASSAULT.\n\nIt is not necessarily "Domestic Violence", per se, but it is a form of Abuse, and can be damaging to ones record.
495804
My girlfriend had a similar problem with her older sister, she was a brat that was spoiled by her mother.  She treats her younger brother and sisters like trash and comes home yelling and kicking when things don't go her way.  She would go to their room to eat and put dirty cloth on their bed, and would leave without cleaning after herself.\n\nMy girlfriend and her siblings finally decided to take action to stop this madness.  They changed all the locks on the doors and told her elder sister either she respect them like human being or don't come back.\n\nHer elder sister went mad and start kicking and screaming when she heard that. She end up being asked to leave and kick out of the house at 1am in the morning, going back to her own place.\n\nAfter that she started to respect my girlfriend and her younger siblings on the phone and in person, althought she hasn't made her presence in the house so far after that night.\n\nYour family need to come together and tell your brother that this is not the way to go; disrespect your family is never right doesn't matter who you are. Your family must take a stand.\n\nI understand most family don't want to be firm and stand their ground because they are afraid of losing their children.  But the fact is your family already lost your brother and the only way for him to respect and come back is to show him your determination to your ideal as a family.\n\nGive him time to think, tell him if he still wants his family, he just as to respect you and your parents like what a nomraly child would do.  You're not asking alot here.\n\nWhether he accept / understand is irrevleant, don't try to convince him right now (he's probably not gonna agree), just let him know what your family decided to do.\n\nYour brother is probably not gonna budge now because he has his own family, but somewhere down the line when things don't go good he'll remember his sister and his parents.  That's where he'll come back and that's when you and your family will have a chance of change him by accepting him back.\n\nIts going to take time and patience for him to come back, but you have to let him know where your family stand for him to come back at all.  Don't push him away, just tell him where your family stands and ask him to think about it.  \n\nIts time to take a stand for what you believe.
602778
If her aunt and uncle are a problem, she should also get a restraining order against them.  She should log with the local police department any violation no matter how small.  Because she and her child have been beaten by the guy, she should insist that a police report be taken.  If one is not, file a report with your county DA.  The idea is to create as much documentation of the facts and evidence as posible.  Finally, she should get the restraining order expanded to include common locations they might come in contact such as the childs school, church, property she lives at and also include a restraint to accept invitations to enter restricted locations.
48491
Sounds like a dysfunctional family.  Try to deep the children away from her as much as possible.  There has got to be an underlying reason for this kind of hostility.  Any idea what that could be?  Does your husband have anything to say about this?  I wish I had some profound words of wisdom for you, but I am at a loss.
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I would suggest counseling. Maybe this person does not know how they make you feel, or even if they do, they don't know how to stop. If they grew up in a household that was always yelling, then they don't know any other way to be. If you can't get the person into counseling, then you either find a way to deal with it or find a way to get out.
375490
I had a similar situation with a brother-in-law.  To save the family embarressment I told my husband and since then he never leaves me in the room alone with him.  Ignore the advances or if they get too bad, just say no.
616168
Don't listen to constestame. Don't stay quiet about it. When I was seventeen my step dad did some pretty bad things to me. He wanted me to stay silent but I didn't. My mom chose my step dad over me and I lost the whole side of my mother's family. I loved my family so much and it tore me apart to lose them, but I'm glad that I stood up for myself rather than staying quiet. It cost me my whole family, but at least I don't have to live with the sleazy pedophile. Some people are just Fu*ked up and it has to do with power. It makes them feel bigger, but you've got to stand up for yourself. It will make you stronger. If your family doesn't stand by you, then good riddance. You will always have someone there for you as long as you have a good heart. Friends become family. You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family. I don't know how long ago this happened, but I hope you have already reported her. Make your family aware that she has taken advantage of you.
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First, try legal aide.  (NOT the public defender who HAS to take cases).  Legal aide chooses their cases and are dedicated lawyers who care (cuz there isn't money in their jobs....it's non-profit).  \n\nFind all documentation you can get, all witnesses who can vouch for you, any medical records, etc etc...to back you up.  Make your case strong.\n\nThere are many false allegations of child abuse out there...been victim to it myself...there are ways to clear yourself.  Trust in the Lord, get your documentation, find your witnesses, and put it in His hands.