I have a problem making friends on the first day in a new school.?
955132
No there isnt.I cant see what youre doing wrong either.Maybe you just have a bunch of crappy people at your school...lol.Everything right there is something that id find soothing for someone to do on the 1st day...pay attention to me....ask me questions....tell me about yourself.Youre doing nothing wrong.Just keep doing what youre doing & hopefully someone will appreciate your kindness.
423778
i went to junior high far away from the middle school that i was going to go to, and my first day i didnt know anybody. but the way i started making friends was being myself. i know that sounds kind of cheesy, but its true i was hyper, crazy, and outgoing. pretty soon i knew a lot of people. i takes time, but u ALWAYS find some one, i promise, even when u think its impossible. just start small conversations, and then work ur way up!\nGOOD LUCK!!
814557
First off, sit back and figure out why people dont like you.\n\nDo you keep your appearance clean?  Are you friendly to everyone?  Do you participate in school activities? Do you lie or do you prefer to be honest?  Do you make a conscious effort to make friends?  Are you a bully?  Do you do something disgusting at school?\n\nI say if you are trying to make friends, sometimes you have to step outside of your comfort zone.  If needed, get a life makeover.  CHange the activities you do to get around people with the same interests.  Usually friends are gained when you become a good friend yourself.  When people know they can trust you and depend on you- they usually gravitate towards you.\n\nJust be true to yourself...
489449
Although it is important to be nice to everyone, you need not try to be friends to just any one. Rememember, it is better to have one or two close friends that share your values than to have many friends that might want to use or exploit you. \n\nDevelope your hobbies and interest that will bring you into contact with others that share your values.  If you are the new person in a school, church, neighborhood club,etc  and you feel left out of the group, seek out another new person or others that do not seem to have friends and start your own click. Always choose your friends rather than having people choose you.  Be happy doing things alone until you do develop friendships. You don't need friends to go out to eat, go to a movie and such.\n\nAs far as being courage to be friendly, "fake it 'till it comes."  Tell your self everyday, "I am a wonderful person. I can be friendly. I may not be perfect, but no one is. Others may reject my friendship, but it doesn't mean that anything is wrong with me."   Also, make a list of the things you are fearful of doing such as smileing, saying hi, inviting someone for lunch etc.  Start by doing the least fearful on your list. Do it while afraid until you are no longer fearful.  Than move on to the next item. Do that until you gain confidence. In other words, take baby steps.  \n\nIf you continue to have trouble making friend, you might want to seek treatment for social phobia.
402408
Say 'hello' to atleast 5 new people everyday, if conversation arises.. go with the flow.\n\nDon't be afraid to associate with new people that you aren't familiar or comfortable with, they probably feel the same way.\n\nif we never said hello to anyone new.. or met anyone for ourselves.. all our aquaintences would just be linked through other people.\n\nwhat fun is that?\n\nGo out there and meet somebody!
231506
Lola,\nWe just moved as a family and had to start all over again with a new job, new frends and for my daughter, a new school.  I had to move when I was a kid too and I remember how frightened I was.\n\nNow, the first problem is that you say you are "weird".  If you say that about yourself, you obviously will have problems.  Start with believing in yourself.  You are not weird, you are special, unique, cool and interesting.  A lot of people can and will like you if you like yourself! \n\nAlso think about this.  When you move, people don't have preconceived notions about who you are.  You can be any personality that you want to me.  Moving is a chance to reinvent yourself and reinvent your friends.  Think about what you really want to be, what you want to stand for and what kind of friends you want to have.  It does keep you on your toes but it also helps you grow as a person.  \n\nI also found for myself when I moved as a kid, that you become a novelity in the school for the first few weeks as "the new kid".  A lot of people will approach you and want to be friends.  Just stay true to yourself and don't fall in with people that don't have good values and respect for themselves and others.  Look for people who you have some thngs in common with and kids that have good values and good families.\n\nYou'll do fine and in a few months you'll look back and think how happy you are that you made the move.  Good luck!
904508
Even though the other kids around you may seem like they are so different that you can not relate to them.  Try and stretch yourself out of your comfort zone. Try and talk to them, ask questions. Like how many siblings do you have.  Ask them who sings that song.  (if they seem nice and not mixed up with the wrong crowd)  Then you may have a wonderful new friend waiting for you in a surprising new social group.  You may find everything happens for a reason and making some new friends with different backgrounds and different interest may be why at this time you've had one door close on some old friendships to open another door for some new friendships. Look up and say hi to your new friend tomorrow.
265869
go to groups, like drama groups or other actives that you like and introduce yourself to people there.  But you have to be outgoing, because if you don't make to first move to say "hi" people will just think that you don't want to hang out with them!  Hope this helped and goodluck!
190388
a little, because you have to change classes, and keep your books in a locker, and have 6 or 7 teachers.  Be brave, have a friend who knows where some of your classes are and make friend with your teachers.  They ARE there to help you.  don't forget that 400 or so other people are feeling the same way you are.  If I were you, I'd go before school starts and find all your classes and make a map.  That way you're not fighting crowd, and you can get familiar with the layout of the building.  Talk to the staff at the office, and just be friendly!  It will be hard at the begining, but it will get easier! good luck!
913612
You just need to have patince. Joining a college club may help but that doesn't agrantee that youl meet good friends there. Good friends you usually meet when you dont expect it. When you go to school go with a big great smile and say hello to everybody. And im sure someone wil come and to you. I dont have allot of friends but the one i have are good ones. Im studying in another country and in teh almost 2 year that im here i only made 1 good friend. Friends you can have allot but good friends are hard to make. So just take it easy. Better go slow now, so you dont get hurt later. Choose wisely. You don't want someone who wil betray you later. \nIf you want we can be online friends. if your interested look me up nice_dutch123@yahoo.com
175205
Spend a little less time with them at a time, until you just don't see them very often. If they ask you to do something with them and you don't want to go, tell them that you're doing something else. Eventually they probably won't ask anymore. Meanwhile, find some new friends to hang out with. If you spend more time with your new friends, your old friends will get the picture. Don't walk up to your friends and say "I'm not going to be friends with you anymore," because that will just make them mad, they won't listen to you, and you'll sound like you're in the first grade.
259615
sorry, i don't add people i do not know personally.  as for getting more friends.  just randomly request friendship to others, who knows maybe you'll be lucky!
1023729
You are in a difficult position as you are their instructor. You cant get included unless you form a casual relationship of friendship first, by chatting etc. As you build up trust, then you can mention that you are interested in going along to join their activities, or even ask what activities you could get into from them. Maybe better for you to look outside of the school, join social activities like evening classes. Less complications with relationships with "students " etc.
669737
i felt the same way last year before i went to high skool. i had no friends to start off with literary all my friends from middle skool went to different skools and i was left alone. i was scared alot. but time passed by i made a bunch of friends and class isnt as hard as i thought it would be. it is different then middle skool in away. just sum advice, the ppl who r too nice i mean way too nice dont trust them cuz there just a bunch of like upperclassmen who want to pic on the freshman but ya other than that have fun
923599
try making more friends. if you hang with the right people, you'll have fun all day long. you gotta talk to people. talk to anybody. and try to get more involved in clubs, sports, hobbies etc. make it fun. and i bring a mp3 player to my classes sometimes cuz they can get boring too. Good Luck!
300395
start by talking little by little. i used to be shy, but now i actually get in trouble for talking in class. with that one friend that you talk to, talk more comfortably. they are your friends. talk to different people. make new friends. if not, you are doomed to live the rest of your life in the shadows.
173630
the main thing and most important thing you need to do is BE YOURSELF...that way you'll find people that are more like YOU and have way more fun with them then people that aren't.  And to let you in on a little secret...probably about 90% of the people you go to high school with...you'll never see again, except for like at reunions and stuff...so make sure you pick the friends that accept you for you and the ones you'd want around more. =)