i have been getting closer to my best friend.............?
952690
If I were you, I'd be frightened that if the sexual relationship turns out to be disappointing, or good but temporary, then I will have lost the friendship. It really is hard to return to a platonic relationship of such intensity after letting sex in the door. But that doesn't mean it is impossible.\nEven if you two discuss this, things might change later, so it isn't a thing you can promise each other for the future (like "Yeah, we agree to test a sexual relationship but if it doesn't work out, we promise to stay best friends.")\nSometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.\nThe best relationships are often those where your lover is also your best friend. Who knows, maybe you two are meant to be together in every way?\nOnly you can decide. I have past lovers who became really good friends after our sexual relationship ended, but it needed some distance at first. I also slept with my best friend years ago, and we ended that because when he was ready for a committment, I wasn't, and vice versa. But we remained good friends (however, not BEST friends). \nYou can't say what will happen, but if both of you feel the sexual attraction strongly, then you have to try it out and face the consequences. If it is just a way to stop feeling lonely, better treat him as a teddy bear for now!
291542
It sounds to me like you need a new best friend.\nIf he acts like that toward you then he is NOT a friend.\n\nI doubt if he will change back to how he used to be.  I've never heard of THAT happening.\n\nSince the two of you were freinds for SO long, that tells me that YOU are a great friend to have.\n\nIt should be VERY easy to replace him with someone who will appreciate having you as their friend.\n\nLeave the loser alone, move on and find new freinds so you can go back to being happy!
363425
Of course, but don;t wait too long. You were friends already and the trust you built is the foundation to build on. The feeling have probably already been incubating for awhile, time to let them out to grow.
969562
This is a very tough situation, so please handle it with care.  First thing is, does he have a girlfriend, or something that he is currently seeing?  If he does, please do not make a move because it could jeopardize your friendship completely.  Second, you say you haven't spent a lot of time together until a few months ago, why is that, if you have known him for years?  I think if you are seeing more of him recently, you should just try subtle hints and see how he reacts... ie touching his arms more, flirting a little.  If the subtle hints do not work, you can just try being honest with him.  If he is your best guy friend, he will appreciate your honesty, and will respect you for it.
757887
wow keep me updated!!! wth thought we were closer lol
670349
I'm kind of in the same situation...only I am in love with my best friend so that could be the cause, huh?  Anyway, if your love for him is only as a friend, you're probably thinking of him as a brother, and close siblings are generally protective of each other.  It's okay to be protective, just don't let it get in the way of your friendship.
485400
If you truly value your friendship with her let her go. She is changing and she needs to grow. Unfortunately it may not be in the same direction you are going right now. This happens to a lot of friendships as we get older and mature. She needs to do this for herself right now. Eventually she may come back to being her old self and realize what a wonderful friend she has in you. I went through this myself and for about 5 years was out of touch with 2 of my best friends from school. We are now better friends than we were back in school. Don't take any of this personally, it isn't about you, it is about your friend needing to go in a different direction right now. This is also your time to find other friends too. Don't do or say anything that could jeopardize the friendship you had with her. You both need some space and hopefully in time you will be able to get back what you had before, and it will be even better.
186484
I am so very sorry for your lose. But as the saying goes, Time heals all wounds. And No, I am not trying to be funny. It will take time and as that time passes, keep in mind that your bestfirend is in a far better place and holding a seat for you when your time comes. When you can sit down and have a conversation with your friend. You'd be amazed at how well this works at times. I truly believe that your conversation will be heard. It will also help if you sit down with another friend who also knew this bestfriend. Maybe not as well or as close as you were, but someone who knew your bestfriend. It does help to bring closer.
322188
keep in contact with them. I've been friends with my best friend for 12 years. (we're 21 now).. the secret is finding time to spend with each other.
1036422
Enjoy your dreams but act normal around him and keep the dreams to yourself. Maybe someday he'll be having dreams about you too! Maybe he is now! If anything is to happen, let him make the first move. Until then, remain friends, in thought as in deed. As in, don't go getting yourself all worked up about him, or we'll see another one of those questions that starts "I'm in love with my best friend, what...". Please, girl, you know the answer to those! So just be cool.
259639
If he is your best friend, this question wouldn't be necessary. Best friends know each other deeply. I suspect he doesn't feel the same way you do, but you would like it to be that way. Ask him straight out and expect the truth. A best friend will not lie to you.
1043682
It's probably not going to happen buddy.\n\nThis has made her uncomfortable, and now that she is aware of where you were at, she is being careful because she knows that doesn't fit in with her plans.\n\nYou can sit down and talk to her and see if you can still be "just friends" ... but my guess is, in practicality, the two of you will probably now go seperate ways.
744851
People make alot of friends in life and you will find that as we grow older me make many friends and our best friends change. Because our interests, lifestyles, occupations and situations dont stay the same this change is neccessary as people who once were our best friends may not be moving in the same direction as we are.\n\nSo you could tell the person who moved there that it is bugging you that she has taken over your best friend, or you could just accept your best friend becoming friends with this new person.
264923
Going through this right now with one of my best friends and the dumbest part is we are in our 30's (way too old for this crap) anyway, I have decided to let it be for now, but I assure you while I won't be a complete jerk to her I have no desire to be as close as we were, because obviously she doesn't value our friendship the way that I do or this would not have happened.
922852
You obviously have an awesomely amazing friendship. Girls seem to be more in tune, with one another...in comparrison to guys being in tune with girls. I can see how this attraction came to be. I'm sure its been quit awkward. If the two of you don't want to loose your friendship, you should try and discuss the issue. Perhaps you could get her a card, or something light...that lets her know, that whatever happens, you will always be there for her. You could talk about your attraction to one another...and find out if it was just curiousity or if it involves more. Regardless, let her know, that you will always be her friend. No matter what. She is probably just as shocked as you. I've always believed that women could relate to women on a more "natural" level...you've both got in you you...you both owe it to yourselves to get to the bottom of this. I wish you the best. I'm sure it will be a Halloween to remember!
1159033
Then be the best friend you can be. sometimes people change and perhaps he will see you differently but for now accept what you do have. good luck
684916
you didn't say how old you are but i'm guessing you are pretty young. friendships sometimes have ups and downs, if she has found a new best friend then maybe you should too. there really isn't much else you can do, except maybe talk to her and ask her about it.