Why doesn't my girlfriend let me make her orgasm?
971177
LOL,..I have been there.... she was abused as a kid.... if not outright sexually then by the culture's judgments and shaming of sex. Anyway it feels like she wants you to read her mind, right........ well, it does not matter what you do, you wont get it right,,,,,,it is how she wins.....if you force her she will be very angry, if you do not she will grow bored of you and treat you like you are weak.......but her fantasy is to be taken by force.......she does not want to feel responsible for the guilt invoked by her own pleasure. .. Her desire to be abused is probably driving her mad.
1079606
Like you mean it, not like a cat lapping milk, continous motion, not changing too much when you hit the right spot, alternating with fingers and thumb if you get tired but DONT STOP when she signals its working.\ndont concentrate on one spot and stay rigid, include everything but concentrate on clit mainly..ask her, she wont MIND! make sure you arent labouring under false pretenses, let her show you WHERE and then go for it..\n*sighs in rememberance* ;0D
28290
According to Kinsey, only 15-25% of women can reach orgasm through penetration alone, so, she's not too weird...\nTry a simultaneous G-spot/or@l, see if that works...
808106
Try stimulating her clitoris.  That's where all the nerve endings are (it has more nerve endings as your penis, but packed into a much smaller area and is the ONLY organ in the human body whose sole purpose is pleasure.)  If she finds direct stimulation too sensitive, you can stimulate her clitoris indirectly by moving the hood of skin over it.  If by fingering you mean inserting a finger into her vagina, you're basically missing the boat.  Very few women will orgasm that way (some girls do enjoy stimulation of the g-spot, but most women orgasm primarily from clitoral stimulation.)  If you do want to find her g-spot, it's on the front wall of the vagina, about an inch or so in; you should feel a grainy feeling knot of skin.  Try making the "come here" motion with your index finger.
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It's the sex.\nIf you aren't having orgasms, the sex can be better.\n\nYou aren't doing anything wrong though. Most women don't have orgasms just through plain sex. \nTry getting your partner to stimulate your clitoris as well - you could try investing in a vibrator and trying a few different positions.
795649
A girl isn't born with the ability to do this...she has to practice it. When you feel like you are about to orgasm, you have to clench the muscles as tightly as possible, then release them very quickly. She has to know how to control those muscles and the difference between them and the bladder muscles, otherwise she'll pee and that's gross. The best way is for her to practice it, over and over, until she gets the hang of it. I'm sure you can help her out with this one.
777021
I DONT KNOW WHY YOUR HAVING THIS SENSITIVITY U MIGHT NEED TO GO TO YOUR O.B. GYN AS FOR THE ORGASM... NOT ALL WOMEN EXPERIENCE AN ORGASM...HAVE U EVER REALLY HAD ONE? ALOT OF WOMEN THINK TOO MUCH ABOUT IT. YOU NEED TO REALLY RELAX AND KNOW HOW TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO HAVE ONE ITS NOT JUST UP TO YOUR PARTNER/BOYFRIEND HE'S THERE TO HELP,THAT'S FOR SURE BUT IT IS ALSO UP TO U
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Damn, there's a toughy....Try talking about it, let her know that u want to try other things when u both have the time to prolong sex for u both...try oral sex after cuming to keep her in the mood...very gently though....Heck, ask her if she would ever consider bondage and role play, she might surprise you and when she's tied up, it's hard to say no to seconds...LOL
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your lover should engage in lots of foreplay so that your vagina is fully aroused and wet.  If it takes you a long time to orgasm, ask your lover to go slowly.  If he does something that feels good, tell him.  \nUsing your own fingers can help too
813051
Why can't you have an orgasm with him?  Is it something he is doing or not doing?  In that case tell him.  If not, maybe it is in your head.
447813
WHAT THE HELL? YOU DO NT EVEN GIVE HER AN ORGASM!! BOY YOU NEED TO MAKE HER ORGASM SO MANY TIMES TILL SHE SAYS TO STOP (AND THEN!!!!) GO A LITTLE MORE. AT THAT POINT YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU WANT. EVEN CHEAT BECAUSE IF YOUR GOOD IN BED SHE AIN'T EVER GONNA LEAVE. BECAUSE YOU WILL BE THE MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Keep at it...actually, she is trying too hard and needs to relax.\nGet her to give you guidance...have her tell you things like "just like that"  when you're doing what she wants. \nIt's not unusual that she could take a long time ... but she enjoys it the whole time. So don't just concentrate on the climax ... it's ALL good.
47341
it has to be her choise, and don.t just lubeit and shove it up,start with your finger for a couple of times than 2 fingers, then a small sex toy alot,if she likes it than put your penis in very slowly and let her get used to it,also let her be on top so she can control how far in it goes,it you do it right she will probably like it. the more you do it the better if feels, thats how my first bf did me
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She may consider it a threat to her ability to please you.  Assure her that it is just another way you like to feel good.  Maybe ask her to watch or to participate.  Ask her to do it herself for you if she feels comfortable.
496730
Not all women have orgasms easily, I only get one about 3/6 times.  Ususally the best way to have one is by oral, before penetration.
960197
You can use some desensitizing creams, found in adult shops, but for me what worked was thinking of other things, making out more (and not rubbing her or me) or just cumming and then lasting more the second time around. After that first cum you can concentrate on her, make her enjoy more, and by the time you are ready again she is hot and willing.
405532
Well, there are many ways to make a woman have an orgasm easily...first of which is attentiveness...be attentive to her and build a rapport....then play. Play with her clit, her vagina, and for God's sake man, make sure you pay attention to her if she indicates she like something take note of it, and be gentle ....unless she likes it rough but she will tell you all of that through her body language.  But most important....ENJOY her and you will enjoy yourself when she has that mind blowing orgasm you want her to have.