I'm very confused!!! I'm in love with a married man!!...with two kids ....?
953932
I cannot offer advice as to whether or not to keep your baby.\n\nHowever, I strongly believe that you should leave this man.  He is a two-timing cheater who has no regard for his wife and children, and is too cowardly to face up to his adultery.  And he's taking advantage of a younger woman less experienced than himself, who also happens to be young enough to be his daughter.\n\nAll in all, he sounds like BAD NEWS.  In addition, show respect for his wife and children and don't get yourself involved in this negative relationship.\n\nBest of luck to you.
1047371
A marriage is two people not just one yearning for things to be diffrent..Sounds to me like your husband is a creep ..I was married to one of those a long time ago.........But I found my love 10 years ago and married him 7 yrs ago.....We are  both older and all our kids are in their 20's early 30's and we love each other very much.....Yes marriage is supposed to be more than just two people under the roof it is a commitment to each other and if both aren't commited then you don't have anything...Staying together because of the child is not doing you any good ...Leave him see what happens.....Like the saying goes...You don't know what you had til its gone..When real love comes along you will know it
249513
I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!
240729
It takes two people to make a marriage work, and no matter how hard you try it is only you and it isn't going to happen.  I've been in that position before and in your heart your thinking there has to be something you can do to make it all better and to make them change their mind, but this is in the end just wishful thinking.  I think you need to go find a lawyer and start protecting yourself and your kids as soon as possible.  This guy is obviously a fool who is going to regret this choice some day but you can't wait for that to happen, plus you deserve a man who will love you and not cause you this kind of pain.  Your too good for him so move on and someday you find real love.
463042
Well sounds like you need to decide for certain which is more important....your sexual fantasies or your relationship with your wife.It can't be healthy to  have 3 in a relationship where there should only be 2. And you should talk to your wife about this too. Maybe it's time to get rid of the 3rd party. Also it would make me feel strange and not so loved to know that my man wants me to be with another man. Either way sounds like it's time to re-evaluate your situation. and sets your priorities in order.
903717
If you feel uncertain, then ask him. If he says he loves you then take it at that and don't look so deep into things.  Constantly questioning a mans love shows insecurity and that can push them away. I am 27 have been married for 7 years tomorrow and have 3 kids with the same man and I have gone thru my insecurities and I have learned FINALLY to be secure with myself and not only to I turn my husbands head ALL the time, but others as well....Confidence can be the best strength a person has!
1085008
Well honey he met you first, most people won't marry someone to be there for their kids.  \nHowever with out more information I couldn't tell you, other than that I would say he's marrying you for you AND your kids.
425721
Sounds like trouble. Find away to fall in love again with the one you are married to.Its worth the effort, isn't it?
1156093
it honestly sounds as if he wants you and his kids to get to know each other and maybe even bond which would mean he wants to move to the next level with you but as a parent he needs to make sure his kids are ok with you  if you really like this guy and want to be serious with him this is a really good thing  \nhowever it almost sounds as if the kids are his "baggage" in your eyes   you need to decide if you want to be a part of a ready made family  and if not maybe you should move on   because to a real parent the kids will always be first priority   can you handle that?
532788
that married man doesn't love you. if he really loves you, he would have divorced his wife by now & ask you to marry him. save your life. go find someone better. trust me, honey, it's not worth it. i'm in the same situation right now & it is not nice! god bless you, dear...  =)
521422
personally i would say no, you hardly know him after 3 months, trust me i speak from personal experience (yes i did end up divorced) you will still be in the infatuation stage of your relationship, wait a year or two then think about it for a while but rely on your own instincts not on anyone elses opinion. It is you that will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life (hopefully). Just for the record I have been married to my second wife for six years and we have two great kids and no regrets!
376044
I hope that you are very careful with what you are doing with this guy.  Remember that you are married and you may lack a certain thing in your marriage which will be better work out with your husband.  I understand that it is kind of nice to have someone interested in your despite you are married but why are you dragging him on?  Will you be happy to divorce your husband because this guy sweet talk to you?  Are you sure that you will have a better future with this man than your current husband.  I suggest that you spend more time with your husband and rediscover him then talking to this guy, unless you have no hope in your marriage!  Good Luck!
11403
DANGER, WILL ROBINSON.\nDo not do it.  Look for an available (read unattached) man.  \n\nHe may cheat with you, and find you the most facinating creature on earth.  He may treat you like a Goddess and tell you that he can't live without you, that you are the love of his life. \n\nHe felt this way about his wife, once too.   He loved her so much he married her and had kids with her.  \n\nIf you do intice him to cheat, how can you ever have anything real in the future? Even if he does leave his wife and kids.  There can & will NEVER be trust between you because look how it started.  \nStay away.
1126901
You say you wee never loved in your life. den you say you got married to a "very loving and caring man"  but couldnt love him? why on earth is that so? u had an unhappy childhood so you kno what it feels like. now tell me. do you want the same for your kids n your lovers too? No point ruining his family even if he himself thinks he is in love with you. talk to your husband bout ur problem of not feling hapy in the marriege. i am sure he'd help. you can aslo go to a counslour. in fact you must. not because you are crazy but because like many others you to are confused bout wat u want in ur life. it seems to me der's love all around u but u dont feel it coz of a hard protective shell dats grown around u to block out da hurt u suffered from. break dat shell.\ni know it's not easy but if u just decied to try n work out ur life once den it's half the batle won. you owe it to ur husband n family dear.\nall the best n do keep in touch.
601951
when i first started to date my husband i loved someone else , but he loved me too.  the only problem was he was married to my sister and he loved her too.  he told me that he loved her only because they had kids with each other and you always feel for the mother of your children no matter what anyone might say it has to hurt the one your with to now your heart is not all there.  i rally don't now what to tell you because i haven't figured out for myself , but if letting her go makes he happy then that's something you might want to look into.  goood luck
50426
I know for a fact that parenting is not an easy task, maybe he's not ready after all. You said it already "his jobless and irresponsible." In that case i'm not so sure if he could be a good figure to your kid but please don't spare the love ur child needed ok. But honestly, I can't comment on the part that you being in love w/ him, there's no explanation it's all up to you. And everyone is stupid about love so ur not just the only one. LOL!  \n\nKeep smiling ... enjoy! \nI hope you get to know your soulmate!
866543
You must listen to your heart.  Are you really in love with this man or just adoring his mature ways?  Good Luck.