Why in Arabia, does a man need so many wives..?
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camel and sheep don't give blow j o b s
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it is the fact that she has grabbed the other man by his "parts" that is the trouble.  Respectfully there are two thoughts that come to my mind about this as a woman...would a man WANT a woman fighting his battles for him?  and would a man WANT his wife with a handful of another man's "parts"?  We also have to remember the time and place of these individuals, their customs, and beliefs.\nDo you think it is accepted any more today in the modern Middle East than it was back then?  A friend of mine visited the Holy Lands a few years back and reported that the tour guide told her that it was a good thing that she didn't live there permanently because she would be beaten for talking too much.  Some of the old ways still exist today and it isn't only Jewish in origin.  At least Jewish women aren't running around in burkas being married off at 4 years old.
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One of the condition that Quran allows more than wife is that you treat them equally. These verse were originally revealed regarding orphans, when there were many in the society and polygamy was required to have these girls to get a married life.\n"If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one" Quran 4: 3. \n\nBut Quran also states in another place that it is very difficult to treat equally\n"You are never able to be fair and just as between wives, even if it is your ardent desire: " Quran 4:129. \n\nSo there is an indirect reference to have only one wife but in rare circumstances more than one can be married. Sometimes when male population in a society is less than females, polygamy may be required to have all the women lead a family life.\n\nEdit:\nShe can of course persuade her husband if she do not like him having another wife or state a condition on marriage that he should not take another wife. I am from a muslim family, it is very rare for men to have more than one wife. Actually I don't know anyone in my family who have married more than one.
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First of all DNA , you tell me can all women afford to pay for DNA ? in all countrys ? of course not.\n\nWomen emtionally cannot handel 4 men nor physically, this would mean she has to have sex atleast 4 times a day everyday with each man, lets say they al like sex twice a day then thats 8 times a day, and the womans body cannot stand this, read the medical reports of prostitutes and thier wrecked cervix's\n\nWhen is Polygamy allowed in Islam? \n\nThe sections of this article are: \n\n- When is polygamy allowed in Islam? \n- What was the purpose of Noble Verse 4:3? \n   - The way I read Noble Verse 4:3. \n- Why didn't Allah Almighty directly prohibit polygamy? \n- Why then did Prophet Muhammad practice polygamy? \n- Can anyone be absolutely fair? \n- Too much illiterate and starving kids damage the society and Islam. \n- What if the person is rich and can afford polygamy? \n- Conclusion. \n\n\nMarriage from multiple women in Islam might not be allowed for those who might result in damaging the society with their marriage by bringing more illiterate, poor, and in many cases starving children to the society.\n\nLet us look at Noble Verse 4:3 "If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice." Notice how Allah Almighty orders men to be either fair to their wives or never marry more than one wife.\n\nLet us look at Noble Verse 4:129 "Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire: But turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air). If ye come to a friendly understanding, and practise self-restraint, God is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful."  Here we clearly see that Allah Almighty tells men that they will never be fair to their wives.  \n\nLet us see why then Allah Almighty temporarily ordered polygamy but yet very highly discouraged it, and why I personally believe from the Noble Quran that polygamy should not be allowed today to most Muslim men in the Muslim world.\n\n \n\nWhat was the purpose of the Noble Verse 4:3? \n\nNoble Verse 4:3 was revealed to Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him in Madina after he migrated to it from Mecca and established an Islamic state there right after the battle of Uhud in which the Muslims not only had lost badly against the Pagans, but also suffered a dramatic decrease in the number of Muslim men.  The Muslim men before that battle were approximately 700.  They became only 400 after the battle.  This loss had left so many Muslim women (1) Widows, and (2) Not able to get married if they were single. \n\nTo make matters even worse, the Muslims had faced yet another battle against the Pagans in Mecca and its neighboring tribes who wanted to attack the Muslims in Madina to finish off Islam once and for all, and by the Jews and the Christians in Madina who betrayed the Muslims in the "battle of Trench" after signing a defense treaty with Muhammad peace be upon him against the Pagans.  \n\nAll praise due to Allah Almighty.  With Allah's Will and Mercy, the Muslims had miraculously won the battle against the Pagans of Mecca and drove them back to where they came from, and then attacked the Jews and the Christians who betrayed the defense treaty and kicked those hypocrites out of Madina forever! \n\nThese continuous battles against the Muslims were very costly in terms of Muslim men's lives.  The women had to be taken care of one way or another.  For this reason, Allah Almighty had revealed the Noble Verse 4:3 to Muhammad peace be upon him to solve the social problems that the Muslims were facing.  That is why at the very beginning of the Noble Verse 4:3 we see Allah Almighty setting a conditional clause for Orphans
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"“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other” [al-Nisa’ 4:34]"\n\ni'm not sure how this can possibly be interpreted to say that men excel over women. i think we all know that normally the people who protect and maintain a person is serving them. we can see this because kings were always protected and maintained by their lowly serfs and knights. if the women are meant to be served, according to this verse, then clearly the koran is saying that it is women who in fact excel over men, and men's only use is to serve women. therefore, muslim men have no place in the government, in teaching positions, or making decisions on behalf of a woman. \n\nhas that clarified things a little bit?
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It is just something invented for men to control more women. Now YOU LIVE IN AN ISLAMIC SOCIETY and tell me to read the Quran to like it. You could ask any Islam women about Polygamy and they all agree to it!\n\nYou don't know nothing about Islam and Quran do you? It's not the religion and people I hate, it's the extremists I can't stand. Now if women won't stand up for themselves, who will?
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The only thing I've heard is that they have many wives... :P
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If I had respected him before why would my opinion change? As long as all of his wives agreed and knew what they were getting into, and as long as he treated them all well and they felt emotionally happy, and as long as he supported them and gave them what they wanted and needed- then who am I to judge.  It happens much more often than we think.  \nIn some religions it is okay to have more than one wife--- even in Islam- -yet God warns in Islam "It is better for you to have only One wife... if only you knew."  My opinion of the man would not change.
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Some women desire men that aren't available to them for whatever reason.  It's silly actually, but there are many women and men that use the practice of only dating married people.
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I have no experience with Ethiopian men, but I do with men from Togo and Nigeria. If you have ever walked around in the market you will know how horny these guys are. It seems to be a cultural thing. I know in Nigeria well into the 1950s having multiple wives was a very common practice for Igbo people. Perhaps some of that lingers in there subconcious.
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Well, being a young woman waiting on the husband that God has for me, I can see precisely what you are saying. I am a confident young lady and yes I have had the upper hand with most of the men that I have dated. But I do not believe that it is because I am pushy. I believe that men have lost their rightful place in the household, men need to grow some backbone and stop letting women run all over them. I am not saying that a man should be violent to hold his place. He shold be firm yet gentle. Women also need to stop jumping into marriages that God didn't have favor over so then they would not have to show thier witts so much because the man that God has for them will respect them for what God has made them to be (by then, they woman will have already found herself). I am tired of my female friends who always have the same man problem when they need to find God and find who he made them to be. No man wants an annoying woman andthat is stated in the Bible because Solomen said it is is better to live on the corner of a rooftop than in a house with a quarrelsome wife.
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Have you ever heard of polygamy involving more than one husband? I like it about as much as the idea of a threesome with two women. Don't men have enough problems with just one wife?
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i doubt that the relegions or sects allowing polygamy insist that one have to be polygamous. islam allow 4 wives but even it never says that it is must to have four wives. none of my muslim friends have more than one spouse though there are many who do. i never heard that those monogamous muslims are declare false muslims for it.
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No, the Prophet did not marry 40 wives. He had nine wives and later were reduced to 4 after a command came in the Quran that 4 was the limit for those who can be fair, if not just one wife. Yes, his youngest wife was Aisha, and some reports imply she was 9 at the time but her age is a subject of debate amongst some Muslims. Many suggest she was older than that. \n\nNow, I don't understand why Mohammed's marriages are singled out when 1400 yrs ago this practice (polygamy and young marriage) was very common and accepted. You will not find any negative criticism even amongst his enemies of his time on this subject at all because he was very modest compared to them and the norms of society he lived in. Even Aisha had a suiter before Mohammed but things didn't work as planned, proof it was not uncommon. Mohammed's first marriage that is always overlooked was when he was 25 and his wife (a widow) was 15 yrs older than him. He had all his children from her and her death was one of the saddest moments of his life as she was the dearest person to him. \n\nHe remarried (10 yrs later after his wife's death) for the sake of spreading Islam .All his wives after that were a witness to the fact that no wife of his was more dear to him than his first wife (khadija). \n\n\nAs for Aisha she was the only virgin wife he had as the rest were either divorced, widows, older than him, had kids, ... We Muslims do not view Aisha as the (9 year old) she was young but you would have never guessed that as she was articulate, smart, and very mature, she became the first female scholar in Islam and contributed to the wealth of knowledge we know today in Islam for her contribution in narrating a huge collection of the hadith. She died in her early 50's and use to lecture men and women about Islam after Mohammed's death..she even waged a war in her lifetime.\n\nAlso, if you take a look at the bible, you'll get to know that Prophet David, Jacob, Moses, and Solomon who was said to have hundreds(1 Kings 11:3) , polygamy was common amongst messengers of God. Even when Islam allows up to 4 wives less than 1% in the Islamic world actually practice it, and majority are in monogamous marriages. \n\nHere you can read more on this subject:\n\nThe Prophet's Multiple Marriages: Why?\nhttp://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503546160\n\n\nMuhammad's Wives (collective of links)\nhttp://www.islamonline.net/English/introducingislam/Prophet/ProphetWives/index.shtml\n\n\nGood day! and salaam.
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The answer to this question is not a simple 4!. Islam is a religon which has a rational behind every command which it gives. Yes, there is room for a man to marry and have four wives, however, there are very strict conditions which are to be met before such can be done. A man in Islam was allowed to marry upto four wives because, during the initial Islamic expansion, many non muslim women were converting and hence had to leave their previous non-muslim husbands. There were few Muslim men at that time who could marry these women, hence to give them protection rather than that they become public property, it was allowed for men to have four wives. But if you hear the conditions which are to be met before a muslim man can do so, you will come to belive than even Islam encourages only one wife. \n\nA muslim man has to give all his wives absoulte equal rights and love. But normally you see a man marrying another women because he is now fed up of his current wife or doesnt find her attractive enough. In Islam one cannot have a second wife on this pretext since it would violate the condition hence the man would be commiting sin. There is not enough space on this forum to tell u folks all the other conditions, but in short, the exceptions were made only to protect women. Even today science has proven that there are more females being born today than males. You can look around your own family and you will notice the tendecy for couples to more likely have more female children. Who knows, to keep future balance in check rather than the women becoming public property was this command given by Allah. May God bless you all.
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One of the condition that Quran allows more than wife is that you treat them equally. These verse were orginally revealed regarding orphans, when there were many in the society and polygamy was required to have these girls to get a married life.\n"If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one" Quran 4: 3. \n\nBut Quran also states in another place that it is very difficult to treat equally\n"You are never able to be fair and just as between wifes, even if it is your ardent desire: " Quran 4:129. \n\nSo there is an indirect reference to have only one wife but in rare circumstances more than one can be married. As pointed by above answers when male population in a society is less than females, polgamy may be required to have all the women lead a family life.
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I do not mean to offend you or any one else, but I have read many parts of the Koran that are self-contradictory.Men have the right to beat wives who they do not find submissive (most of the men defining 'submissive' are the ones we want least defining it)and a woman's testimony is worth half a man's. Women inherit only half as much in societies where they may need it twice as much as their brothers, inasmuch some women are not allowed to work. Many of the misogynistic influences in the Middle East existed before Islam,but why are extremists hijacking this "Religion of Peace," and why are so few men standing up to proclaim, open Koran in hand, "I have found that women are equal to us, right here"? I know many brave souls are standing up to the fanatics, but...where are they?