I'm in love with a gangster and i dont know what to do because i need him?
969328
then yours will be a life of tears. you will be second in his life, after his gang. he will treat you nice in private, but like sh!t when his boys are around. he will lead two lives, and you will be his rest and recreation, in addition to the other women he will see on a regular basis. gangsters are only cool in their own heads, and the heads of people like you.\n\nif you want safety, and a tough guy, why put yourself in danger just to do it. unless you follow the "keep your enemies closer" idea I wouldnt follow through on this infatuation. \n\ngang life isnt cool, and it is the pits for the "women" involved, as you will find out soon enough. \n\nI have spent long years with gangs, from street gangs through to biker gangs, and not once have I seen a women treated like they were loved. as an associate I had more influence than the wives and daughters of members. women are second class, even less than the pit bull on duty at the gate. it is not the life to follow because you think you love someone, because that will only go one way, and you will never be treated with an equal amount of respect or love. love is full time love, not only in private, but everywhere, around anyone. I was in that scene for the parties, and easy women. none were treated like they should have been. I grew up, but many never. many died through recklessness or suicide, or were killed. \n\nget out before you get in.\n\ndont fall for the talk, as the walk is VERY different.
8915
well u have to try ur best to get ur guy out of the gang a.s.a.p. and if it get worst then u will have to tell the person u trust most about it and see wat he/she says and wat he/she can help u with.
396246
You are crazy. This man could be a killer, have you thought about that? and how can you love someone you've never seen before, that's real stupid. He's playing you, all he want is a mother for those kids or he will make you suffer. Find someone you can see and love. That Internet love is deadly, leave this man alone and don't be stupid or you'll be dead.
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He seems to have put you in a dilemma so just how much is he worth ,,,, You are only 19 ,,,, You are too young for this kind of crap and you don't need it either ,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting and certainly NOT like what you've just explained ,,,, As far as the drug problem is concerned ,,,,  In my experience I've learned that once a user then always the user ,,,, This is his problem and there's nothing you can to do remedy it ,,,, It's more than obvious that he doesn't really care about you anyway ,,,, If he did he'd be bending over backwards to show you how much he cared for you ,,,,,  You explained that you can't even find him ,,,, Do you want to be his baby sitter for the rest of your life ?? ,,,,  You need to cut your losses and run ,,,, You need to drop this guy like he was a hot rock or something ,,,,  And stick to your guns ,,,, Don't let him talk you out of it no matter what he says or how he acts ,,,, Guys can be good actors too up to and including tears ,,,,,  Don't let him fool you ,,,, He's chosen his path ,,,, You need to worry about your own life ,,,, Don't let this guy drag you down ,,,, Start looking for someone that is concerned about you and is willing to do what it takes to make you happy ,,,,  Yoda said this ,,,,,
497091
nope leave him alone he is sa jailbird and u are 2 nice lookin for that go get somebody thats gonna be there 4 you when calls its not gonna be collect okay u can do better than that okay (good luck )
83300
don't even try honey...unless u just want to mess around, which is not even a good lifestlyle, messing w/ guys that are not worth the time...just go on and he will come along when u least expect it...it's like when u think u lost ur purse or cell, and u look for it everywhere and when u stop searching for it, it turns out to just be there in front of u...yeah it's kinda like that...
1018752
Call the police girl. If you give in he always be back for more.. It will never in.
956141
I think you should go with your gut feeling. If you don't feel like hooking up with him yet then don't do it. Your friends already warned you that he could be a player and its nothing more hurtful then giving in to temptation and then getting your feeling hurt. I think you should talk to the guy and tell him how you feel about the situation and if he doesn't understand where you're coming from then its obviously that he's not the right guy for you. And to answer your other question about if he grabs you after you tell him no....then he doesn't respect you and you should move on.
21400
u gotta get ova that shit. it's really symple though. don't pick up the phone. go out have so fun and don't worry about a man that don't really like u. if u let a man know that he has control over ur life and he can do whatever he wants to do he will do it. he probally really wants to be wit u but he knows that he can still get wit u and get wit any other girl he wants with no remorce he'll do it. this is commin from a man. but i can't lie to u i would do the same thang if i knew i could get away with it. man u and show him that u ain't gonna take his shit. don't ask him to respect u, make him respect u. if u wanna talk to me more on the subject or need any advise u can e-mail me at cahamilton04@yahoo.com
322539
Why did he disappear? he disappeared when you got into trouble? meaning he doesn't accept his responsibility with you...yes you may love him..but he doesn't even know how to be there for you...in my opinion, go out and have fun, there are other guys more willing to accept their responsibility whn they are with a person. Let go, he's totally not worth it...
475334
Are you sure you want to put yourself in that situation. It doesn't really sound like a start to a healthy relationship.  Why is he in jail? Does the reason he is in there bother you at all?
538838
most people are going to say move on but personaly i would go to every messure to find him if you realy love him not luv then you should ask his old friends family in the area that he lived in or near there and pretty much just become a detective and track that guy down lol
706453
Wipe your eyes and move on.He has done you a favour if he behaves like that.you will find someone who wants you for yourself take your time there is no hurry and everyone is wanted by someone have patience.
866684
Honey, you should stay away from this person.  He has already been in and out of jail.  He is a repeat offender and that should mean something to you.  You have your own problems, getting with him will only give you MORE problems.  There are plenty of guys out there who do not have troubled pasts or futures for that matter, get one of those.  The fact that "he always ends up saying my life is too messed up to be with anyone right now", is a brush off and you know it.  He's not interested.  Stop chasing him only because you can't have him and stay away from the bad boys.  I know they seem dangerous and exciting and they are but; BAD BOYS = BAD RELATIONSHIP = BAD LIFE.  Set the bar higher and have some respect for yourself.
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tell him straight away how you feel about him.  if he reciprocates then good for you.  if not at least you will be in the clear.  If you do not hurry someone may beat you to it and then you will be left with nothing.  Take a chance.  Don't keep your feelings to yourself.  don't think that love is a game of chance.  Don't ignore him.  instead shower all your attention on him.  this is your self created mess and only you can clear it up.  all the best.  God Bless.
139785
Please try the following: \n(1) asking him about the relation and what its gonna be in the future\n(2) Try to avoid him a little ..just give him a little from your time...and see how he act..(Now if he act liek a lover wants to spent time with you ...then he loves you indeed....If Not; then dont waste time and try to find another boyfriend to you..)\n(3) Good luck to you and start to think well, and be practical in your life..\n\nAny help: Please E-mail me on Bronzi_1980@yahoo.com
155498
Your safety is the most important thing. Alot of times the violence becomes more severe as time goes by. It's better to be alone than to be abused.If you really love this person you both could seek good counseling. Until then stay away from this person.Go to family, friends,Minister, anyone that you trust.Love is sometimes blind. No person male or female should ever put their hands on anyone out of anger.You have to love yourself more. Again your safety is the most important thing. Good luck to you.