My sister never take care of her 3 month old baby snd I'm pregnant with twins now, what should I do.?
966554
ughm... how old is your sister?
589554
HI Jenna,\nGrowing up isn't easy and I am glad to see that you have come up with a lot of positive choices in this. It is normal to be feeling the way that you do and we all say things that we dind't mean when we are hurt. The good thing is .......we can always do our best to fix them. \nTalk to your mom again. Tell her you are sorry for what you said. She loves you Jenna. You are her little girl and will always be that. She wants you to be happy. \nTell her that you would like to be in the delivery room to and ask her why you can't be. Part of it is that she knows that delivery is not easy. She will need an adult there to help her, someone who has been through it and will encourage her with adult words. She might not want you to have to see her when she is uncomfortable and in pain. She would also be worried about you too. \nAsk her if you can go in before and just about before it is time for the baby to be born. Tell her that you really want to be a part of your sister's whole life and you want to be able to see her as soon as she is born.\nJenna, she is your mom. she loves you and she will be so glad that you go to her and tell her your feelings.\nI can tell you are a great girl. I am sure your mom is very proud of all of your accomplishments.\nCongrats on being a big sister...........you will be a great one!
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try asking if she needs anything for the baby or send a small card or present,that might get you talking.  I split up from my husband when i was pregnant, it was hard but my little boy knows no different and is bright and happy,  it was hard to let go of the fantsy of a perfect , happy family but what's that these days.  try not to worry, she will need help when the baby comes and will likely turn to you, chin up
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You have to take care of yourself and not worry about what others expect from you.\nAsk your parents to speak with your sister and explain your situation.\nIf your sister continues to call and upset you, dont take her calls.\nShe sounds like a very selfish person and not very considerate.\nPlease take care of yourself first, and dont allow anyone to upset you.
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Keep interruping her and disagreeing.\n\nKeep asking "why? I don't under stand?"\n\nMakes pass at her.  This works if you're male or female.\n\nAsk her questions about her sex life.\n\nIf all else fails, sh** my pants and go sit with d and isist it wasn't me.  Or was it c?  Or a. and watch mom keep checking the baby.
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I understand what you're going through. And I hope that you will find something, someday that will make it all dissappear.\n\nAs harsh as I may sound, I don't think your sisters reaction is normal. She is being overly zealous. May be she should have herself checked out also. \n\nAlso, do you fight a lot. Is this just mere sibiling rivalry. Have you tried winning her affection?. If this is not the case, i suggest talking to your parents about your sister, and she might want to visit a behaviour consultant.
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Wow, you've got to get the heck out of that house. Is she your legal guardian or something? Call DHS and tell them what is going on. If you're an adult, then find a friend or other relative you can stay with for a while. \n  If you cannot leave, and I do understand how it's hard to fully grasp someone else's situation... then ask a neighbor if you can use their address for job applications. Just tell them your sister isn't right in the head and you have to get a job to support everyone. Then do NOT put your number on job applications. Maybe the same neighbor will allow you to use their land phone number and they can pass the message on to you and you can call them back when your sister is sleeping. Either way, you sis needs some serious help. Call mental health facilities and see what can be done.\n  Best of luck to you.. and stay away from pork and eat lots of fresh garlic until you can get back on your meds.
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You both still young, maybe take a abortion. Taking care a baby is not easy and huge responsible. If you both haven't confident to raise the BB up. Then don't bring to earth for suffering.
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All I can say is that you and your sister both know better and need to nip this in the budd. She is your sister! There is a big difference between a "sister" and a "lover." What yall two have been doing is called incest/lust. If she was to get pregnant yals child would be deformed, not to mention the heartache that your family has to endure when they find out. If yall don't end this matter now, yall will never be able to fully recover yalls brother-sister relationship as it should be. I would suggest sleeping in separate rooms from now on.  Also, ask yourself this question, if you died today. do you think you would go to heaven or hell for all eternity. This is something for you to seriously think about. The Bible states that all liars, sexual immoral, adulters, etc place is in the lake of fire. Please repent yall before its too late.
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you shouldn't...congrats on the new baby, If your worried about your baby this early you are going to be a good mom.
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A job and a boyfriend?  Seriously, you sound like her little brother, and none too pleased about it.  Unless you can convince the parental units that having Sis remain there is a danger to your development, you may be stuck.  You could try talking to her to see why she's there.  Maybe she wants to leave but can't figure out how.  The worst she can do is blow you off.  There's always a chance she may ask for help or advice.  Stranger things have happened.
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just stay calm, od'tn bring up her mood shifts and do whatever she needs you to to help out.  I'll bet she goes back to normal after having the baby.
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Well it sounds like each sister looked up to the other and maybe should not have when it came to this. You have your head on right which is what is most important but your concern for your sister who is way to young to be doing this - and did you say two guys were doing this with her?? \n\nObviously she does not respect herself or her body. She is way too young to even understand the body sexually, what it means and does, how it feels, precautions to takethat sleeping around causes people to talk crap about you and think poorly of you, that waiting for someone you love to share that with is the most important thing.\n\nYou know you are careful so you are not a hypocrite. You are also not 13. Where are your parents? Someone has to start keeping an eye on her and not letting her have boys in the house. She needs some rules and restrictions.. it sounds like she just runs around and does whatever she wants - where are the parents here? As her sister though, you can start to create some rules she should follow - and keep your eye on her. Don't let boys in the house. Not only does she not respect herself but not even the house she lives in. She is way out of her league and can get all types of diseases too - not just a baby. You have to tell her this - that STDs and HIV can be transmitted even when a condom is used, that pregnancy can occur even with a condom.\n\nMaybe she wants attention and takes anything - even negative attention rather than none. I feel bad for her though and your family that no one watched over you all enough to teach you right and wrong. It sounds like you got it so how did you learn that but no one else did?\n\nShe has to respect herself or no one EVER will. Men respect women that are picky about who they share themselves with - not ones who sleep around and treat their body like it is worth nothing. Make her understand how precious this is and how sexy not having sex and waiting can be - how much better it is when you love someone - talk to her very openly. She is not having it because of the way it feels - she has no clue.. she is doing it to feel attractive, get attention and feel better about herself. Try to help her boost her self esteem and spend time with her - hold her hand nad show her the way.\n\nMost important, teach her about how to be safe - about condoms, birth control pill.. everything - go  to a Planned Parenthood (they have a website) in your area and have a counselor there talk to her. She should know having a kid that young is not going to be good - it can end her life essentially - any other dreams she has... anything - watch her, talk to her, show her the way.
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DOES YOUR SISTER REALLY HAVE A GOOD REASON TO KEEP HER CHILD FROM YOU? MY SISTERS HUSBAND WHO IS ONLY FATHER OF 2 OF HER KIDS IS TRYING TO TELL ME MY NEICE AND NEPHEW WHO ARENT EVEN HIS CANT COME TO MY HOUSE ANYMORE BECAUSE SHE SPOKE HER MIND TO HIM AND SHE HAPPENED TO BE AT MY HOUSE AT THE TIME.BUT I STUCK TO MY GUNS THATS MY NEICE AND MY NEPHEW WHETHER OR NOT YOU LIKE IT THEY WILL NEVER LOVE YOU LIKE THEY LOVE ME. MAYBE YOU SHOULD TRY TO TALK TO YOUR SISTER AND SEE WHY SHE SHOULD HAVE A GOOD EXPLAINATION FOR HER ACTIONS AND IF SHE DONT THEN I WOULD LOOK AT IT LIKE YOU TRIED THATS THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO IN THE LONG RUN SHE WILL KNOW SHE WAS WRONG.JUST WISH THE BEST FOR YOUR NEICE,SHE WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO REPLACE YOU!
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Hello sweet little sister QuietWarrior.. :)\n\nLord God, You see our little sisters plea..We are to train our child in the way they shall go and when they are old they will not depart from it..Amen!\n\nYou and your husband must let her live on her own..you are not helping her by doing everything for her..she is no longer a little girl, but a grown woman, she must start acting as such..I know from first hand, I had to tell my son, that he could not longer come home when he wanted to..he is now taking care of his little girl and he is a GREAT father..\n\nIt will be hard at first, but God will grant You His peace that passeth all understanding through all of this..He hath for me.. :)\n\nI am here for you, if you need someone to lift your loved ones up in prayer or just to listen.. :)\n\nIn Jesus Most Precious Name..\nWith Love..your sister In Christ..
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Sometimes actions speak louder than words.  Show her that you are willing to listen and support her by just being there and not proding her.  She'll talk when she's ready.  The medical industry is always very demanding and stressful and doctors have a tendency to think that noone understands, but deep down inside all they want is what all of us do (some TLC and peace and quiet).  Let your sister know that you love her and that you care and that you're there if she needs to vent.  She is after all your sister not the doctor.
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You arent being paraniod. Tell her that babies arent just cute to hold and rock to sleep. Tell her that she wont have ANY time for herself, and if the boy caves in and leaves (which he prob. will) she will be alone in raiseing the baby. Tell her she should wait until she is both physically possible and finacually stable with a nice man to have a baby. Tell her all about STDs. Tell her it is a woderful thing to have a baby....when she is ready to have one.