Why can't he be nice?
959838
you mean to tell me that for 1 1/2 years he never complimented you?and your still with this guy? whatever! do ya know if he even likes himself? low self esteem? there definitly is a problem here and bound to become a major issue, do you know if this guy has any love for himself to begin with? because you can't expect him to show you love if he dont love himself, you can always assure him that you are not like those he had to grow up with, that you see something in him that no body in his family does, and that you wont blame him when things go wrong, and ask him to  drop his gaurd and let you in,  tell him you not going to hurt him that you just want to help begin the healing process, teach him that if he looks past all those previous negative judgements, he will find some one that he never knew existed, some one I'm sure he'd like, just understand that those who  not by shoice had to  grow up in that type of atmosphere, will  only know rejection and to feel like they could never be nothing. he should start by feeling lucky that he's got you!  Good luck to you both!
227327
You're right.  He seems to inflict terrible suffering on some of us, mainly those who are already suffering.  If you didn't know better you'd think he was messing us about really, telling us how he's nice, but then being quite nasty.
452679
You can't make him. He doesn't work for you. Change your attitude and maybe he would gladly do it for you.
513679
it could be that he has his own issues and lots of them - that is the why\n\nunless he is willing to face them squarely then he will drag anyone who gets close to him down into it\n\nnow to answer your first question?\n\nno no no - just 'good' friends isn't a runner up prize for a failed relationship.  friendship has to be based on something more than that IMO.\n\nI think to let this fish go - if he changes over time then worry about that then - but for now give him space and move past this
676398
i don't think you can be too nice.... there's not enough nice people out here in the world as it is..... but you can't let people run over you either.... people tend to see niceness as a weakness.... but whatever.... continue being yourself.. and if that's nice.. then be it.... just don't take no crap from nobody
334433
its the nature of the game. those who would rule arent the nice guy-ned flanders-mister rogers types. they are inherantly tyrants.
208032
Because they were never taught to be nice. If they were raised with mean spirited, unloving parents, most likely they are not going to be nice people. It's unfortunate, but that is the way it is.
977354
Even a dirty, brutal, ignorant man has got to have one good quality.  First you must ask why is he dirty,  who is he brutal to, and what is he ignorant of?  Then and only then can you decide whether he deserves your love and respect.
221853
It's the curse of the nice guy.
423477
consider it a form of flattery, and just try to be nice.  If the person is mean and hateful, just try to keep your distance and always take the higher road.
213734
Maybe you're just a little more mature than others your age.  There's nothing wrong with being nice, but that's not enough.  You need to add some flare, like humor, or be like Napolean Dynamite and use a skill. haha.  But you get the idea, nice is just nice, you need to express more than that in your personality because the nicest guy in the world could be very boring or very exciting, it just depends on what else there is besides being nice.
681320
it sounds like he has low self esteem. You should point out his good attributes as often as possible.
984185
Because he can't act.  Simple.
344711
Geesh, why is it even an issue, You can't change him. Let it be!!!!
179297
Everyone is uptight because they are trying to cram too much into too little time. It's stress, and I doubt it is going to get any better. That doesn't mean they can't be nicer, because pretty much everyone is in the same boat. The only thing you can do is try to set an example. Maybe if you are kind and patient it will make someone's day easier, and because of that, they will be a little nicer to soemeone else.
925405
No you can't change him.  He is right.  BUT!!!! there is a but.  He CAN change for you.  Isnt that great? We cant change people.  We love them for who they are and if are with them its because we have accepted them for who they are.  But when we express something we dont like, or appreciate for them not to do, or something bothers us, if they care for us then they should have no problem working on it you know? THats my opinion.
1086821
Nice guys are normally gay.  What you need is a guy who is generaly not nice, but is nice to you.