my niece is 13 years old...her parents are both ok but...?
966703
Even younger than 13 you need to be concerned about an eating disorder and sometimes parents don't recognize it.\n\nHave a frank discussion with them about your concerns. She could have anorexia or even a growth hormone disorder that needs treatment. If they refuse to listen, one recourse is reporting this to children's protective services in your area for investigation. Hopefully you can avoid that, but the welfare of the child should be the highest priority. \n\nAnd girls are usually about 90% grown when they reach puberty and have their first period.
1060723
i would ask her doctor about it i have a 12 year old son & he doesnt act that way but it may be a normal thing for a girl her age...how ever if things dont change i would think about maybe family counceling before things get out of hand..i think too many people these days dont really pay attention to their children untill its too late if she has a problem i think u may have found it in time to help her ...i can tell u are a good parent who loves and cares for your child so u just do what u think  is best & im sure things will turn out just fine
1000686
All parents make mistakes! And lots of them. Thank goodness we all didn't have to do it under the looking glass of the vast majority!\nOne thing you have to give her.......at least she is WITH her son. Spends time with him, She is the one carrying him, etc!
539293
HI, \nIf the niece is 18 there is really nothing u can do about it, because unfortunately it is not illegal to have sex with family members unless they are a minor (under 18) . If the niece is under age then you can call your local police department and they will tell u what to do from there. Usually Child welfare will get involved. If this is the case please don't keep it quiet this kid can be rescued from a really bad situation!!!!   Good Luck!!
370231
my mother died when i was young and my sister was about 13 and she is just fine
356970
believe it or not - there is nothing wrong with the boy but his mom is the culprit - she better smarten up - there are things that she does that is allowing this behavior - unfortunately you don't have a lot of pull in this other than researching and help your sis take control - you have good intentions
1138642
Most likely, her parents are very into their culture. I had a Korean friend who's family was the same way. They are trying to teach their children the things that they learned as they were growing up, and want their household and rules to be the same as well. I wouldn't take it personally, although it is frustrating. \n\nIf you ever visit her at her home, I would suggest trying to learn something from her parents about their culture. You'd be surprised what you can learn, and you'll find that they are probably very nice people ... just from the 'old country'! :)
587112
The time is now to learn some lessons about growing up and things that come in time. Like more pay. I had exactly the same problem just the other day. My son who is 13 has been helping his aunt get the gardens ready on the weekend. His little sister who is ten also came along though not to help. She ended up doing some work (pulled a few leaves and chased the dogs) and was paid five dollars. Her brother got 15 as he did a lot of hard work. She just went ballistic lol. My fiery little girl. I sat her down and explained that he being older has that privilege because he can do more than she can. That it is not her fault she did a good job for her age. She was still not too happy but the next day she said it was OK and that next year she will earn more money than her younger brother too. That would not be hard so far he is at 0. Paying them the same would not be fair to either of them in the long run, but this is just my opinion.
1052103
Well, how well did her parents get along when they were together?\n\nYep, she's gotta add other people into the mix, and it's NEVER easy, but she's dealing with the same thing a billion people have dealt with before. Is she wimpy? No. She just hasn't found out yet, that she can handle anything life throws her way.\n\nShe's tough enough. She just has to dig deep enough to find herself. I talked a 6 yr.-old through a nasty divorce, in about 5 minutes. She knew what was coming, and how to prepare. A 12 can handle it easy. All she needs to know is that she can handle anything.\n\nYes (don't get me wrong), it's not fair to her, or either of her parents, that they made a questionable choice. But, when she goes up to either (both) of them, and asks, "If the only way to make me, was to get married to him/her,... would you take it back?" They're her parents. The answer is no. There is no one sane on this planet who would undo their child. They made a great decision to have her, and now they've got the good sense to get apart from each other, before they **** it up. \n\nI bet she's a good kid. Look out for her, and keep her that way.
153118
Are they her issues or your issues?  If it is bothering her, take her to her peds doc and ask for advice.  She isn't going to listen to you--trust me on this. I have a teenager that would listen to another 13 year old, rather than me. She will have to make some changes in her life, that you can help her with, such as choosing the right food, and exercise.  But she is going to have to be disciplined to follow through with the regimen.  Which is why I asked whose issue it is.
904676
I think that you should respect your parents call on this one hun...sorry.  You are only 13, and your parents love you and are protecting you from experiances that you are not yet ready to handle.
691411
are you the child's relative. I can probably answer you if i had more info to go on. I just went throught this myself.
1031099
You might have to speak with her parents and have some sort of intervention.....
430999
14 year olds are kind of in that stage where they arent teenagers yet but they arent kids anymore. sometimes its about finding a balance. maybe dolls and toys are her favorite thing right now but try to give her something else to rave about. makeup or nail polish or girly stuff or something that you and her both like to do that you can do together. make sense??? it'll serve as a "distraction" kinda. but right now i also think that you just need to let her be...she will grow out of them sooner or late. at least she has an older sister that's there for her and is willing to go to great lengths for her. :) good luck
766659
I pretty much agree with everyone else. Talk to her, just do it tactfully. People are very sensitive these days especially when it comes to their children. Volunteer to help her out if necessary, the most important thing here is that the children are well taken care of.
567819
It's tough being a teenager.  I fought with my parents all the time at 13.  Every gray hair my mom owns, I gave her when I turned 13.  It's okay to have opinions and be passionate about them, but I think teenagers see things from a much more idealistic view, which is reasonable, because they haven't had to go out into the real world yet (where you have to have a job and money and all that boring stuff).  Your mom has seen life from a more realistic and sometimes pessimistic view.  She wants to be as passionate and idealistic in her opinions as you are but can't because the adult world changes that.  It's about living day to day.  But sit her down, calmly.  It's hard, but no matter what, be calm.  Even if she yells, be calm.  It'll force her to calm down too.  And tell her you love her and that you want to spend more time with her but that you want her to understand you and to help you understand her.  Communication is key at this stage.  I wish I communicated with my parents more.  But if you bottle up, it'll come back to haunt you, trust me.  So try to calmly sit her down and talk to her.  She loves you very much and wants the best for you.  It's just hard letting her little girl grow up.  Reach a compromise.  Good luck!
81801
If you are in full custody, the first thing you want to make sure of is that there is a separation between your neice and her parents.  If you don't have custody, get it!\nIf your niece is still under 10 or so, the transition of authority should be easier...I'm not saying it's easy, just that it's much much more difficult to get a teenager to listen to you or see you as an authority figure.  This also is affected by the relationship you have with youe niece.\nUltimately remember that children thrive in a structured environment.  You don't what to be too controlling because then the child will reber.  Just be real.  If you love her and care about her tell her that.  Be honest with her and talk to her like a person not like a kid.  Let her know she can trust in you.  And be patient.  You know she is going through a hard time and she is not going to change overnight.  You may also consider going to group counseling with her.  It will show her that you are involved and that you want what is best for her.