Men only: would you date/get serious with a woman who cheated on her ex?
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As much as I'm against divorce it really seems to me that you should have never married the person you are with.  Did he ever make you happy?  Anyway\n\nThe truth is you are wondering if this considering the situation could grow into a real serious committed relationship.  Unfortunately it probably won't, the guy you are with will always know and remember that you met him while you were cheating on your husband.  He may like you enough to really think in his heart that it won't matter but deep down it always will it will come out later.  I'm really sorry.\n\nHonestly you need to do something about your current relationship before anything else. You need to either get a counselor (what i would recommend) or get a lawyer (what others may recommend).  As someone else said right now anybody looks better than your husband in his current state.
1169577
clear she was really hurt when her ex cheated on her. understand her feeling. now undoubtly she's feeling much better, she has revanged and she can forget her ex much easily. just don't cheat on her and everything will be fine
602012
i have always found the women to be the cheater.  I have never cheated if my heart was there.  Guys simply want sex more than women, or maybe the girl we are with simply doesn't satisfy us, and we don't want to tell her that.
767477
There is definitely trouble brewing.  She obviously still has something for him, since she sought him out on MySpace and is actively chatting.  Never trust a partner who still talks to their ex!
336122
Honestly, if you truly had a deep love for her, I don't think you would have cheated.  If the bond is weak enough that you both felt the need to stray, I'd have serious doubts about giving it another go...unless you both were willing to work hard to discover what caused these problems to begin with and were willing to work to resolve them.
823407
I asked my boyfriend the same thing.  We have mutual friends and one of our friends was cheated on by her boyfriend, and it brought up the conversation.  What he said was that men like the feeling of "getting away with it" and that they want their cake and eat it too... they want the best of both worlds.  It's not necessarily the fact that they don't tove their significant other anymore, they just want more out of the relationship, and their mate isn't providing it.\n\nMen are more prone to cheating, I think because they have a keen sense of keeping it on the down low, I think women are more afraid of getting caught adn risking it.  The difference between men and women is that men think short term, the now, while women think of down the road, the future, and what exactly they are risking...\n\nWhile this is only my opinion, I think you should ask people who've cheated.  And me being one in the past, I'll tell you, its just for the fun of the ride.  I loved my ex very much, why I cheated on him, I'm not sure...\n\nIt was myfault for getting caught though... lol. :)\n\nHope this helped!
335941
Why would you want to date someone that already has shown a tendency to cheat?\n\nWhat if her boyfriend is some who can beat the **** out of you (and maybe even her)?\n\nMore trouble than it's worth...\n\nThat's just dumb.
152594
You are just wasting your time with her if you are hoping to have a real relationship with her.  She's not going to commit to you, she can't stay committed to her current partner.  I certainly hope that you are putting on a raincoat when you hook up with her.  If you know what I mean.  Who knows who else she's hooking up with on the side.  You don't want to walk away with a STD
652508
IF IT'S OKAY WITH HER.....AND MAYBE IF SHE ISN'T ATTACHED TO SOMEONE.  THEN YEAH, IT'S OKAY TO PLAY WITH YOUR EX.
849954
I dated a man for five months but after I found out he was married decided to kick him to the curb. My sole purpose for dating is to seek out a potential husband so why would I continue on? I certainly wasn't going to sit around and wait for him to leave his wife for me, I mean come on he cheated on her so it is a high possibility that he'll cheat on me too.
744003
she cheated, it doesnt matter who it was with. you have to decide if you're willing to forgive her and trust her that she won't  do it again.
972334
If you didn't trust her you wouldn't be asking her ex and why does this bother you so much?  Sounds like you have doubts about her past.  Either accept her story or move on to someone you can trust.
791835
Hmmm...it appears as though she was not really ready to move on if she went back to him so quickly.  She should have totally healed before she became involved.\n\nIf you do not trust her, then you will always be second guessing her moves and motives for the things she does.  Personally,  I don't see how it can work if you don't trust her.  Without trust you have nothing.\n\nIt doesn't sound as though this is a compatibility issue, but a honesty & trust thing.  Has she cheated on you again since the first time?  If yes, then you need to let her go, cut your losses and move on to the person who is waiting for you to find her. However, so often we prevent ourselves from finding the happiness we deserve or long for because we stay with people we know we shouldn't be with.  In other words, we continue to settle.\n\nSo, let her go and heal from this before you move on.  Seriously.  If you move on too quickly you're just perpetuating the cycle and you will wind up hurting someone who just wanted to love you.
613078
Reality hurts don't it. I think the main reason women cheat is because of insecurity.   You should ask yourself what lead to me to cheat?  and would I do it again.  That poor man is hurt and probably doesn't want to go through that again. I know i wouldn't. From a mans standpoint especially if he loved you...he probably still pictures u banging the guy in his mind. There is a big wound in the relationship..and like any physical cut it takes time to heal. But you really cant do anything because the ball is in his court.  He will comeback if he completely forgives you.
591735
Dude, Ditch her NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\nMy ex did the same thing, I never cheated and was accused at least once a day. Come to find out she was the whole 9 years.
282037
i would dump the person\nits alot of stress to go and cheat and it is obvious you dont care about the person nemore if you would even think about cheating on them\nlike i said you should just dump the person and find someone new
978552
Congratulations! You are the rebound guy. Dude she's definitely using you as the rebound guy. She wanted to date around and he didn't that's why he's not calling her back. If he was to say to her "okay let's have a open relationship", she would lie to you about it and act like she's acting now, like everything is fine. You have the proof that she is willing to be unfaithful to you, now what are you going to do with it????