how do u  tell yr kids about there dad if there not around?
967566
Wait until he asks and then tell him very gently.  Practice with people you respect so you can get their feedback.  Do not just do it.  This will be one of the most significant times in his life.  Don't look back and regret what you did or didn't say.
625264
Having there dad gone, prob hit them really hard. You Just need to remind them that their daddie loves them and you guys mean everything to them. Maybe what they need to for you tl sit down with them and say. Okay, were going to write daddy a letter. Make it into a fun project. Seems to me they really miss their dad and They are not used to him being gone for this long. Having kids at that age they dont really understand what is really going on and how to handle it so they take it out on you and act up. But being to strict wont make things better. With out yelling at them to tell them what to do. Say it in a cool and clam way of love. Kids respond more to a clam and sweet voice then a high mean voice. with your little one that learning out to not wet her pants that can be hard not having your dad around. but you can also make that fun. if you are really having trouble with things at home. try getting some help from family memebers to take them off your hand a little big. GO to sea world or the zoo. or something out doors for a change. I wish you the best of luck. No one knows how to deal with their kids. better then their own mom.\nHanig in there. Even if on somedays. if you just want to realx. get their fav. baby-sitter or something. Make cookies, put on a play. Just be their for your kids.\n\nGood luck hope everything works out.
274163
Just ask him. He may not even know how many he's fathered because he only knows once it's brought to his attention.  Then again, he can't know for sure he's the father until he gets a paternity test done on each kid that claims to be his.
184430
I have been in the same situation as you.  My father wouldn't give me any information so I asked other family members what they knew especially the last name and where he lived.  I contacted him and he was glad to finally meet me. Talking will be awkward at first like meeting any new person but take your time and a bond will be formed.  Good Luck
574720
tell your Mommy & Daddy what you have been up to naughty boy
334247
Let them see what he does for you.  Set down physical boundaries when you're around your parents i.e., no touching except hand-holding,no kissing, groping, making out, pinching, sneaking off, etc. let them see what a gentleman he is. In turn, show them you REALLY love him, and nothing will stand in the way of that.  But since you do want their blessing R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  You respect them (even if they say quit seeing him, respect their wishes, they'll see you're sad, if it came to that.  Just remember you can't hope for them to like him. He has to be a good guy, and work at it.  It may also just take time.
64596
WEll first off your granfather is prabably just being protective, I would know my dad is like that. Anyways just plain straight out tell him. Write him a letter e-mail,anything. If you do do that make sure to have some good reasons and keep poping up the question why can't you just let me be with him? make him understand you truely love this guy.
229541
I am a parent, if my daughter were to tell me, I'd be shocked. But then I'd rather know. There is no best way. you will have sit them down and tell them as nicely as you can. If you have a sibling, then take their help, that is if they are older than you. If not you could say that i have something very important to tell you.... most of the time they would want to see you happy! \n\nGood luck!
1169853
Talk to him about it when the kids are not there.   Just tell him your miserable and you have filed for a divorce.  If you haven't really had a relationship with him the last few years, it might be a blessing to him too.  Just try to be as civil as possible for the kids.  Try not to fight in front of them...but don't give them false hopes either.  Good luck, you're going to need it ,I'm afraid.
759763
as a daughter of a dad i adore.... here is my 2 cents.... spend the da with your dad and listen. maybe not to his war stories - for often true servicemen don't talk too much. maybe ask him his favorite memory. ask him about you as a child - his thoughts, his fears -- don't tell me - well my dad's not a talker....  my dad isn't to most other people either - until the first time i asked him - who was your first kiss and when.  the thing was - i asked, waited and then listened.\n\nif you are close to a museum or other veteran type place- visit with him.  dondating $$$ in his name is always nice but....\nthe best honour you can show your dad -- honour him, spend time with him, listen.  time is more precious then money.
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start small... just pay attention to him and be there for him.. he will be gone before you realize it ... take advantage of every opportunity to interact.. you may have to initiate the connections. Understand that he may not know how to talk to you either... He is a dad, not a mind reader.
213283
How you can talk to you dad agian.You can spend so time togather just the 2 of you you can spend a night w/ no one ther go out to diner of go play you fav hpppie or sprot or do somthing you dad likes
927449
have you told your parents how worried he is. that might help,so they know to go easy on him and to be nice not to crack no jokes like fathers tend to do.
422579
Only deal with him where you son is concerned. Only meet him half way. Don't put more into it than he does. It's not your place to make sure he sees his son. Help him, but don't do it for him. When your son asks to talk to daddy give him a call. If he doesn't answer let your son know you tried and then drop it till he asks again. When it comes time to visit, don't do it for him. Let him do it or work out a compromise that's fair to both. Your son will see him for what he is. If he is in fact a good father your son will know that. If he slacks your son will see that too. As long as you do your part, that's all that is required.
1131916
act like your on maury and pretend hes your childs fathers
1179960
None .  I'm sorry you have to go through something like that . I will remember you in my Prayers tonight . My kids went through that and now they don't speak to him b/c of empty promise's on his part .But my kids are fine and they have a awesome father in there life that Loves them more than words can say . I pray that is what will happen in your life . May God Bless and Keep you in his warm embrace . Rest in knowing that he is the one missing out not you.
726872
Just let the relationship between you and him unfold naturally.  In due time you will know if you want to call him Dad or not.  It wouldnt be disrespectful if you never call him Dad considering he wasnt there for you all this time.  Just play it by ear and listen to your heart......you will know when and if you want to do this, but i am glad the two of you are working on a relationship