Embarressed at work? Any one have any similar experiences to help me out?
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Be careful if you want to stay in your job, as it sounds like you are clashing with quite a number of people at the moment.  If you are not careful, your upper management will notice, and start to think that you are difficult to work with, or not a team player.\nNext time, address it directly, face to face with the other employee.  If they repeat, then its time to escalate the issue.  Speak with their manager about their non-performance.  Its something I have to do occasionally, and its never fun to go over someone's head, but sometimes, it just has to be done.
329427
Rise above it. If she deliberately embarasses you, then she is the problem. Do your work well and professionally. Talk with her and inform her that you would prefer to be told about your mistakes in private so that you could remedy them. Always be professional and job oriented. Bosses hate office politics....Document all incidents that are caused by her, if it continues over a period of time approach the person over both of you. If you are doing your work well, it will show.  If she is the boss, get out now while you still have some self esteem.  Good luck.  Be proactive, not reactive.
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If it is at work, maybe go to the personnel department and talk it over with someone....or talk to people who are completely out of the situation and will not tell what you say.\n\nDevelop a plan to get out of there...document everything you do in case they accuse you of something. Carefully develop an alliance with someone there getting their approval of you, without telling them you have a problem..for example if your boss is mean, and there is someone else that has authority there too, impress them with how nice or good you are, and get their approval.  Sometimes one authority figure will speak positive things to the other and help to change their mind.\n\nSit tight and be careful...ask God to help you..
955648
Your employer might have blocked it, unless he says it's okay to use it at work.\n\nHope that helps.
1130091
She might have broken a law in saying something about your personal life on the job. Spend your week-end researching the laws in your state. I know that Federal law prohibits your boss from discriminating against a behavior or social "disorder". It sounds to me like she might be the one that needs to go! I think that you should go to the woman on your own and discuss w/her your feelings on the situation. It might help to carry a recorder in case she tries to threaten your job or something. Good luck!
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that depends entirely on the setting (are you at work and a collegue said something off-color?), the person (you can't respond the same way to your boss as you can to a peer), and exactly what was said/done (i.e. was it a minor slip or something that you possibly took the wrong way, or was it a major, totally out-of-line thing)???\n\ndepending on the level, who/what was involved, etc, anything from turning the other cheek & ignoring the person (while calling them some choice words in your inner monologue!) to a swift kick in the nuts might be in order. typically I abhore sue-happy people, but if it's a case of a superior at work sexually harrassing you or making unwanted racial or sexual comments, etc, then legal recourse may be a possible route...
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ok, this one I can answer truthfully. Why, because it happened to me. Someone said something so bad that another persons job was on the line. I spoke up in defense of the employee who was about to be fired. I told them all I knew with the exception that my name not be revieled. As a result, the employee was not fired, but everyone was mad at me because I  came forward. Somehow, all found out it was me. In the end, everyone made my life a living hell and I wound up quitting my job. I am actually doing alot better now and am stress free. Luckily I didnt need my job that much or else I would still be there suffering. Bottom line is , if you really need your job, look the other way. No one will give you a raise or promotion for being a narc, even though it should be the right thing to do.
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Everyone has had problems at work at some point in their lives. Some put up and shut up, others stamp their feet and leave!! \nIf you left because you felt you were unfairly treated then that is a case for a tribunal, but you will have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that is was in fact unfair, and not just you not appreciating being told what to do!\nAre you regretting leaving? Have you gone back and spoken to the boss?\nSometimes a boss will actually give you a second chance if you eat some humble pie and admit that you may have over reacted. Swallow your pride and ask to speak with him if you want your job back, you can then explain what your issues were and hopefully resolve them.\nIf you don't want to work there again then fair enough. You have quit the position and that is that! If the Friends you made are real friends they will socialise with you outside of the workplace anyway.\n\nGood luck
1116673
Not bad at all where I work, but then again almost all our bosses are totally cool. But I've been places where people flat out tell their boss "F--k You", and nothing happens to them. Weird....
590096
hi there . my advice to you is to address the situation straight away as you are getting very angry and this can be resolved before the situation becomes untentable! \nthis is a common accurance and can be simply remedied by expressing your concerns as to your situation at work and impact it is having or could have on your job and frienship . The longer you leave it the harder it will be to broach and the outcome will be seen as you being the bady .good luck with it\nRegards.\n Adrian
496796
Well I have been sitting at my desk all day and I am ready to fall out right now, so I know how you feel.  When people don't do your job they don't know how to respect it, I get that a lot but these are the good days when I can just sit in the office, next week will be the pits!\n\nEnjoy your job and at the end of the day, ignore the people that will never be able to do what you do and still be productive.
684208
Sounds like a retail or restaurant job. Used to happen to me. The best thing to do is be honest with them. "I'm greatful for all of the hours you've given me, but Unfortunately I don't feel it's what's best for me at the moment." Elaborate if you need to, but tell them how you feel. You're a person, not a robot. And if it's the kind of company that will fire you for being open and honest with them, then perphaps it would be best to seperate from them in any case. There'll always be another job, but i don't believe it will get to that. I'm positive they'll understand. Good luck.
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Your employer cannot force you to apologize.  \n\nThere are certain "protected classes" of people that if they are treated disperately, can be considered discriminated against:  race or color; religion; national origin or ancestry, physical disability; mental disability or medical condition; gender; age, with respect to persons over the age of 40; and pregnancy.  That is from http://www.finduslaw.com/taxonomy_menu/12/23\n\nIf you fall into one or more of those "protected classes" and you truly feel that you were discriminated against because you are a member of one of those classes, then you may have a case.\n\nI suggest that you contact the people at http://finduslaw.com and ask them for Employment Law advice: http://www.finduslaw.com/contact
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I am actually going through it as we speak (or I should say as I type lol.) I worked for a VERY large (Internationally known) builder in their corporate office. I'll try and make my LONG story short. Not to toot my horn but I was a star employee! Raises, bonuses, the whole sha-bang! Went out for 6 weeks to have my tonsils out; the day of surgery my boss calls and says I'm fired! Not like I could call him and bit&h since I'd just had my tonsils out and the bottom of my tongue cut back that morning. Regional HR called the next day to apologize and said I did indeed have a job to come back to which is what I thought; he (Boss who I'll call Jay) couldn't do that since I was approved from short-term medical leave. Upon my return, NONE of my work had been done, AT ALL! Instead of everyone in my department pulling together (isn't that called TEAMWORK?!?) he road me like a bull! Told me I wasn't doing enough in 40 hours but yet in the 2 years I was there we built 3x the amount that we'd built when I started! I worked every single weekend for 3-1/2 months. I missed one day to take my dog to the vet, worked that weekend and the a*shole wrote me up for working that weekend and said I knew better than to 1.) Go over my 40 hours & 2.) To try and make up my time missed since "I" wasn’t supposed to but yet everyone else in the department was able to make up ANY missed time whenever/however they wished. But again, I'd worked every weekend for 3-1/2 months without him saying I couldn’t. He was rude, he was nasty; he would yell at me and degrade me in front of my colleagues AND my superiors! I even had to quit college (which meant losing a full academic scholarship) just to stay afloat at work. I loved my job and I loved what I did; that’s the ONLY reason I stayed as long as I did. I asked for a transfer to another division but I was told my HR that I had to have Mr. A*shole approve and sign off on it. Sure…. Let me walk in his office and say, “I think you’re an a*shole and I hate working for you; could you please sign this transfer?!?” I met with the VP of my department, VP’s of adjacent departments, the VP of our division, the President of an adjacent division, and finally regional HR. I was basically told I needed to toughen up!? WHAT?! TOUGHEN UP?!? I’d worked on a jobsite managing over a 100 men for the previous 10 years and their all telling me to toughen up?!? Umm… NO! I’m a firm believer in respecting your superiors, however I also believe that respect is earned; it’s reciprocal! If I was the (and I’ll quote him previous to my Medical Leave) “Star” employee, what changed? My work ethic didn’t! If anything I became so wrapped up in my work and (as I mentioned) put college on the back burned, worked 70-80 hours a week, even made myself available to all of our Studio Personnel, Project Mangers, and Superintendents during non-working hours; to the extreme of having the IT guy install all of our work software on my home computer and network me so I could help out everyone out while I was at home at night and on weekends. STILL wasn’t good enough for my boss. I think I’m a pretty tough cookie, working onsite for 10 years building apartments will either make you or break you; and I loved it! But this guy… GOOD LORD! He had me so stressed I pulled all the muscles in my throat from my nasal passage to my voice box and even damaged my voice box, all from stress. I would literally leave during lunch and sit in the back of the parking lot and cry because he was just so mean and nasty to me. That’s when I said enough is enough! Before that I started seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist because he had me believing it was all me! The Doctor said, ENOUGH! I’ve been out on medical leave now since November! Although anything to do with mental distress is hard to prove, it was blatant what he treated me like the red-headed step-child. To be honest, I really didn’t s
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I hope it is not your boss doing that. I once had a boss who would come into my closet, I mean office, and close the door, then proceed to rant and rave at me and tear my files apart and throw everything around, leaving a huge mess for me to clean up. I was scared to death of him.  That job lasted three months before I left, but it seemed like three years.\nIf it is a co-worker on the same or a lower level than you, can you go to your supervisor? That is not a good working environment, and could even be harmful to your health, mental and physical.  Until that person either receives the therapy so obviously needed, try to avoid confrontations, and see if you can get transferred to another area, or have your hours changed so you don't work the same shift as the nutcase.  Good luck with all that.  Take care of you and your safety first.
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First of all, I appreciate you to think about this and ask a question openly here. That shows you have recognized a problem and willing to do something about it. That is a big step. This is a tough question and I will do my best to answer briefly.\n\nYou are going to do few things to understand yourself. Here are my suggestions. 1) Think calmly and deeply (while driving, while taking a bath or whatever brings you that concentration) on what where the times you were happy doing your job. You have to go back in time in your current job, in your previous jobs, and even in other activities that you may be involved in. Start jotting down notes. 2) Start analyzing those events and you will find a common pattern such as "I am very happy when I interact with customers a lot at work" or "I am very happy researching and analyzing a problem all by myself and coming up with ideas". 3)Think about what makes you upset or bored in your current situation - Is it because your boss does not respect your inputs? Too much office politics? Personal problems? 4) You just do not like your job -- may be your job demands a lot of interaction with customers but you do not enjoy that. 5) You think you are not compensated well? - may be a lost promotion or you feel that your friends who do similar work get paid much more? It could be even as simple as you do not enjoy flexibility in office timings whereas your personal demands need it. \n\nOnce you have given thought to these things, you will feel confident. Ask your boss for some time to talk in depth. Prepare yourself well for the meeting so that you are to the point and explain what gets you excited and what keeps you motivated. Good luck.
480525
Did you make up that question? If you're serious, don't say anything to him. He'll wonder why you're there, in the first place. And he may already know about it but is embarrassed. It's never a good idea to embarrass your boss. Keep your lip zipped. Maybe it isn't even her.