Is it abnormal? How to break the bonding?
962973
What you are experiencing is called "transference". Some may be useful but your's is too much. You and your psychiatrist should talk about this so that it can be worked through and become less of a problem for you.\n\nIf your psychiatrist is unwilling or unable to do this, then you need to get another psychiatrist. It is unhealthy for you to keep this present level of "bonding".\n\nSometimes, transference takes the form of the patient feeling that they have fallen in love with their doctor. On the doctor's part there is something that can happen that is called "counter transference", where the doctor either feels like you are his daughter or that he is in love with you. If that happens, then you must find another psychiatrist unless your present one can get both you and him out of this.\n\nThe person who said that some doctors/therapists take sexual advantage of this is correct.
167484
I guess just think about how you would want someone break it to you. Just don't lead him on because that hurts more in the end. In the end if you're having trouble doing it realize that you have to think about your own feelings and not just his.
992940
realtionships take long to develop, they are built on mutual faith and trust. so u will have to give some time. think 1000 times before breaking one, relationships are like glass....u can mend once it is broken but the crack will always show
951590
Weeeeeeelllll, if YOU think/feel it to be a problem, then go seek counseling.\n\nmb
522172
why would it be abnormal?
634847
I have mine. We've been together for 8+ years, and are completely in tune with each other. I have never had anyone even come close to this before. We think alike, finish sentences for each other, say something that the other one was thinking - things like that. If it wasn't so cool, it would be spooky (it kinda is!). Have a good night!
394297
I think there might be some mental disturbance. Both of you need to see doctors, it happens sometimes in such relationships, as you would admit its kinda different then normal. More over are you sure you are completely healthy?
469456
I think you should both go to couples counseling to determine the problem. It sounds to me like you shouldnt be together, but counseling would determine that.
212570
Its obviously possible, because you are feeling that way. Are you newly weds? If so, maybe you just aren't quite comfortable with all that yet. You should wait until you two feel comfortable.
162982
Wow, that's a complicated problem.  It's going to be hard to try to answer this because I can't see the details when I'm typing.  \n\nYou say that you've been alone for about a month, which is long for you, but that you feel good about it.  Considering that you've been in a lot of unhappy relationships, that's probably understandable.  You sound like you're putting an awful lot of pressure on yourself to find "the one" before it's too late.  Then you take out this pressure, in turn, on your boyfriends.  I think in your concern to hurry up and find someone permanent, you're pushing yourself way too fast into relationships, and trying to stake a claim before you really know that you love them (otherwise, you wouldn't get over them in a couple of weeks...)\n\nHowever, knowing this about yourself isn't necesssarily going to help you change.  You could seek counselling, but that's expensive.  Here's what I would do, when I feel like I'm acting in ways that aren't in my best interest (and believe me, that's pretty often): \n\nFirst, take some more time off from relationships to get your head together.  You sound kind of panicky right now, which is not a good state to be in when you're starting to date somebody.  Try to balance yourself a little.\n\nWhen you are in a relationship next, and you want it to work out, you have to think *all* the time about the consequences of all your actions.  Being a good partner is work.  You can't just trust that you're going to act in a way that is good for you and the other person, you have to think about it.  Every morning, think to yourself, "How would I like this day to go?  Do I want to accomplish anything specific in my relationship?"  If you feel like talking about your partner about long term plans, etc., *stop* first and think:  "How is he going to react to this?  We've been dating for X number of weeks.  Is this an appropriate time to ask this question of him?"  \n\nAt the end of the day, think over what you and your partner have done that day, what conversations you have had.  Did anything upset either of you?  Can you do anything constructive to make it better?  Do you see yourself falling into your old patterns?\n\nI guess what I'm saying is, you can't always trust your instincts to work in your own best interests.  You have to put some control back into your mind.  This may not sound very fun, but it's often what relationships need most.\n\nTake your next relationship slowly.  *Think* about the moves you make before you make them.  Give yourself time to fall in love, without worrying for the moment about the future.  If you try too hard to grab it, it'll slip out of your hands.\n\nI don't know if any of this helps you, it's the advice I would (and have, at times) given myself, and it seems to help.  \n\nGood Luck
227393
Don't break up, just say you need some breathing room and your feeling mentally claustrophobic, Agree not to see other people because that will send the wrong message, but just maybe for a week, limit calls to once a day, and spend more time doing what you want to do. I guarantee when your mini-break is over, your relationship will feel like new
1155630
No, it's not normal.  Haven't enough people answered questions about this relationship for you to get out of it yet?
526306
break it off and find someone new
1101265
no its not weird. its normal, dont worry about it.
282517
Absolutely, a long as it is in a healthy way - you are not obsessing about it or use it as a replacement for a relationship. Just remember to be safe and dont go in for anything dodgy with people you dont know or dont trust implicitly.
883969
Sounds like you're on the right track but the only thing you can do is to keep it up. Just keep being wonderful and eventually he will have to see that you are different than the rest. I am in a similar position, though I've only been with mine a matter of months and he is still not willing to let down his guard as much as I'd hope. But I know that it will take time and patience for me and it will for you too. Most importantly, don't betray him in any way. Just show him you are infinitely consistent, honest, and trustworthy.
1056321
The fact that you have these feelings is 'normal'.  The abscence of them would not be.  Your working hard, on different shifts, tired, together but alone most of the time.  Just remember, communication is important.  Good luck and stop to have fun!!!  He'll thank you!