Do guys feel sad/very insulted if a girl questions their sexual orientation?
963084
Most do because they tend to feel that they're sexually inadequate. That's how my girl's ex-bf felt when my girl realized that she wasn't really in love with him, and that she was in love with me. He's still bitter about the fact that he lost his girl to a lesbian, but that's life. People switch teams all the time, especially when they're not happy with the their members.
655396
DON'T ASK HIM. - he needs to find the right time to tell you. If you ask him he will be offended and he WILL dislike you. Turst me on this one. I'm bi and people use to ask me occasionally if I was gay, I wasn't and I hadn't come out and it used to really piss me off, even friends said it and I would hate them for saying it.
1103433
Yes and thank you for your email. I've never wished I was gay although the girls would often acuse me of being gay. I've never desired or even thought I was gay. I've always Loved being out with lady friends but sometimes they expect sex and I'm just not interested in them that way. But some times I do find someone I'm in Love with not in a sexual way but I'd like to be by her side.I think about sex if that would keep her by my side.But by the time I'm ready for that, she's already found herself another man.
69487
Okay, I am a girl, but don't count that against me for this.  I wouldn't get upset, because I, though I don't have a boyfriend, have plenty of guys that are friends, and I would not suddenly not be their friend and never talk to them again if I had a boyfriend.  So, if your girlfriend talking to her guys friends makes you uncomfortable, just ask her about it!  DON'T be accusing, just say what your feeling - NICELY - and basically, ask her to reassure you that this guy pal isn't more than that.  Just be sure to be nice about it, and should take it fine.
335984
Okay, well obviously you shouldn't have snooped in his mail box, and he trusted you not to or he wouldn't have given you the password. But you feel bad about it and realize it was wrong, so I'm not going to reprimand you for it.\n\nIf you guys have been friends for three years, and you're good friends, I don't think it's out of line to ask him if he's gay. If your friend knows you're an accepting person, and he's also an accepting person (more on this later), it shouldn't be a problem to ask him as long as you don't do it in an accusatory way.\n\nThe reason why I ask if he's an accepting person is that it's possible that he might not have come out to himself yet. I have a friend that was obviously gay, everyone who knew him thought he was gay from the start, but even though he was accepting of gay people he'd never admit it. He wouldn't even admit to being bi. Well, after knowing this guy for four years he finally admitted that he was bi, and that he had actually been with more guys than girls. The thing is, at the time he didn't think that made him gay or even bi! He was convinced that because he was "just friends" with these guys, and just happened to have benefits with them, that he wasn't bi or gay. He still won't admit he's gay but now that he's come out as bi he never dates girls and says he's not interested in them. The moral of the story is that your friend might not have admitted to himself yet that he is gay. If you ask him about it, he might deny it. Clearly he IS gay or you wouldn't have found those messages, but he might not be willing to accept that yet. If he's a socially open-minded person he shouldn't be offended if you ask him, even if he denies it (my friend was never offended). But if not, that could be the reason why he's not coming out to you or possibly himself, and he could react badly if you ask. So just keep that in mind.\n\nThe final option is that perhaps you can hint that you have some suspicions about him, but not ask outright. Make it clear that you don't have a problem with gays, and let him know how good of a friend you consider him and that you'd never give him up for anything. Then just wait for him to become comfortable coming out to you, when he's ready.
437795
Sometimes... depends on the guy!!! \n\nI know I be leavin' em' hurtin'!!!!!!!!!!!!!
705359
He could have been confused and tried denying how he really felt... especially since you both are so close it would almost be natural for him since there's already a connection between the two of you.\n\nI doubt he was leading you on and if he wasn't letting anyone know that he was gay there would almost be no way of you knowing.  He probably feels worse than you do right now and he might even be thinking be that he did lead you on in some way.  \n\nThe only thing I can say is that the longer you wait to talk to him again the more ackward things are going to be.  The sooner you get things out in the open and talk about it, the quicker everything will go back to normal.\n\nI'm bi and I actually had a similar expirience with a friend of mine who was gay.  We use to work together and he was always touchy feely; I assumed maybe he was bi like me... needless to say I was wrong.  (Even though I now know he is as gay as gay can be, he's got this thing with boobs lol, which I guess all guys do.)  \n\nI felt stupid for a long time but I didn't want my misunderstanding to affect things between us.  We talked about it and I realized that it wasn't an option to be his lover but "friends" aren't bad either.  I knew that keeping him as a friend meant I wouldn't lose him and losing him was the last thing that I wanted to happen.\n\nEverything is fine now and we're still really good friends.  Don't think that you're the first girl to fall for a gay guy because that's not true at all.  You get a man with the caring part of a woman... all straight ladies want that!!!  Just talk to him and let him know that no matter what you're going to continue to be there for him just as he will be there for you.
206688
If you have been friends with her for that long, you should be comfortable enough to ask her flat out, "why are you feelin' my butt?" I'm not into that. "  Ask her flat out if she's gay. And if she is, remember she is still the same girl you knew, just with a different sexual orientation than you.  Tell her to lay off the comments and the touching! Good luck!
852087
I don't get mad at myself about being gay.  I get mad at those who tell me how to feel.  I get mad at those who think they know whats best for me.\n\nDo you get mad at yourself for questioning whats in other men's hearts.  You should.  You should apologize for that arrogance.
196811
Is it normal...hummm..yes, for a guy to ask. People get to a point where they want to experiment or try something they "heard" is new or exciting. However, if you feel uncomfortable or your "womanly" sixth sense is alerting you to something, then I would becareful and listen to it. \n\nAlso, talk to him and let him know your feelings and what are your concerns. You will know by his reaction whether you two are on the same page or feel the same way.  If this is something you are not ready for or would NOT ever do, then stay true to yourself. There ARE men out there that have outgrown this need or feel differently as they mature. Just my $0.02.
778783
hey bro,\n\naww man i feel your pain... your story kinda reminds me of some things ive been going though.. i used to be gay, and struggled with same sex attraction for years.  But yeah anyway long story short, God delivered me, after I accepted Jesus in my heart, and He took the same sex attraction away, so that was about a year and a half ago, and ive been straight since then and will be straight for good :)\n\nanyway yeah i know what it feels like to feel rejected sometimes... but hey just keep seeking God, and He will lead you to the ONE for you! I mean think about it, why waste your time on girls that dont like you , where there is that one waiting for ya.\n\nanyway i hope that helps, stay straight man, thats my best advice. Liking guys isnt good, and its not all its cracked up to be in the end,.\n\nGod bless
538501
Sometimes guys don't like to show girls how they feel about them.
1094247
Most girls wish straight guys were like gay guys, so sure... why not go for it!
988485
I really hate questions like this that generalize all guys into stereotypes.  Just because you have dated the wrong type of guy, don't lump the rest of us in with him.  The only comment I see which may hold water is that guys aren't as emotional as girls, & I even disagree with that to an extent.  I believe men don't express their emotions as readily as women, & that is part of our nature, but we do still feel as deeply as women.  However, most of your questions could as easily be turned around & asked about girls, as many of us men have been put through similar situations by women.  Many of us have felt lead on by girls.  Many have felt girls started something & then changed their minds, whether it was sex, dating, or even a relationship.  A lot of us have wondered why girls don't care if they hurt us.  I think all of us have wanted to know at one time or another why women can't be open & honest with us about their desires, preferring to beat around the bush & making us guess what they are thinking to prove we really love them.  I'm guessing some guy recently hurt you, but it isn't fair to vent on all of us because you got hurt by one scumbag.  You deserve better than the way you were treated, & men in general deserve better than to be lumped together with those of us who happen to be jerks.  It's akin to racism, in that you are chastising everyone in the group for the actions of a few bad apples.  So, learn from the experience, see what it is that this guy did that hurt you, decide you deserve better & settle for no less, & look for one of us who will give you what you deserve, because good men are out here.  You just have to look in the right places.
948020
LOL  Boy do I know this one...Trying to figure it out.... I think, we tend to exude a confidence that most straight women do not...That is what they observe and is what they gravitate to.... satistics show most of us fancy the same sex at some degree..I think these women who have the curiousity bug unfortuanetly see us as play toys with no regards to our emotions.. This is where we need to take care...     So girls, Becareful!
927380
That's probably the best relationship question I've ever seen asked.\n\nAnd I don't know if I can give a good answer that's universal, and I don't think anyone can.\n\nBut... at the root of it all, is that a straight or bi-guy, and a straight or bi-girl will always have that hormonal thing going on between them. Pheromones in the air will always in some way impact any relationship (at least in person) between male and female (not sure if both are gay though... that might be the exception - where guys and girls can be just friends...).\n\nAnd socially/mentally I think even online there is some element of sexual tension invariably lurking in the background. At least when you *know* the gender of the person you're interacting with.\n\nOddly - I'm not sure which is worse - knowing, or guessing the gender of the person I'm interacting with.  I think many, maybe all of us make assumptions.\n\nLike I just realized I assume that you are a straight woman asking this. And that's ironic, as I started writing this up I wrote clinically - gender and orientation independent as it were... \n\nI think for me at least - there is a special element of love for my female friends that is very different from the relationships I have with my male friends. And to be clear, I'm a straight male - and that may significantly impact how I've responded. I don't know.\n\nBut again - great question - look forward to reading replies.\n\n-dh
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hmm well you may just not feel comfortable around men yet you are still young and I know that I didn't really start to feel comfortable around guys till I was sixteen or so.....experimenting with girls is not going to be as akward because you have the same body parts and it's familiar......you need to take time lookat pictures of women and see how it makes you feel do the same with men ......you may be a lesbian and if so rock on who cares but don't put that label on yourself yet....you may also be Bi-sexual  just take time and see how your body reacts to photos first then feel it out for awhile don't experiment to much your still young and have plenty of time for that......\n\ngood luck\n\n<3