How do you ask for a divorce to someone who is in love with you???
962378
I don't ask for divorce from someone who loves me truly. But if she doesn't listen to you then she is totally not in love with you. If she doesn't take your advice and views in her consideration then she is totally not in love with you. May be she is just pretending to be in love with you. So, you don't have to consider if she pretends to get hurt. But don't let your decisions to be manipulated by the other girls, may be they are pretending too. If you can't get biased a girl in your home how can I believe that you can get some of the girls from out side?
387243
Honestly and softly.  If you love him, let him know that.  Either way, be honest and just tell him the truth... you are not ready.  \n\nDo NOT take his ring and promise him anything that you can't or don't want.
105081
tell him that you love him&#92;her in any way.\nexpress your love by telling him/her your feelings.
309747
Honesty.\n\nPart of me wants to just say "Do it ~ there's someone in my life that I wish would tell me that."  But on the other hand, I know {and he knows, too} that now isn't the right time.  We're so far apart.  No matter how much you love each other, it will be really difficult to keep a relationship of that sort going when separated.  I'm not saying it's impossible, just difficult, as you know by your relationship as it stands now.. I know it, too.  Friendships themselves aren't easy to build or keep.
649366
You can't.  If you feel pressured to prove your love, then nothing will ever be enough for that person.  It's a reflection of their own insecurity or feelings of worth, of feeling "loveable" and you can't change that no matter how hard you try.
1149308
No you need to answer his calls but also give him some breathing room maybe after a while he will feel like he really do want to get married you know what im saying still don't pressure him about the situation and let him feel like you still want him but you still need to give him some room
595026
Be honest and just come out with it. Why drag this out? This way he can move and find someone who loves him and won't be sleeping around on him. He deserves that much!!!!
36580
first you have to sit them down.explain what and why the divorse has taken place.then explain that it wasnt their faults.then cry a lot make it make them feel really bad for not trying to help you out a little bit.i know this seems a little decietful but it works everytime
209215
Cherish each other, treat him like a king, let him have the authority in the marriage.  You will be surprised by all the wonderful benefits to this method.  He will treasure you for putting him on the pedestal, and you won't believe how fun life can be when you don't have arguments anymore, because he is making the decisions.  If you want more info go to nogreaterjoy.org.  Check out the Helpmeet book.\n\nI will add if you love him and don't want to count another marriage down the drain, fight for him and your kids.  Quit calling them, his and your, they are all yours now!  Do special things for him that let him know you are very committed to the marriage.  Put him first, act like you are trying to win him for the first time.  I know this doesn't seem fair, but men respond to it.  If he is unsure of where your loyalty is, or that you think your marriage can not make it then he will look for an easier relationship, or what he thinks is easier.  Ignore the kids blatant attempts to destroy what they think is keeping their parents from reuniting, and win them over too.  Don't expect them to respect and love you just because.  Don't spoil them, but do things that cater to them, make a special meal that they like, or allow them to pick the movie you will watch with them, do love them even though they seem unlovable, do things they don't expect you to, like leave a silly note on their pillows, saying you are proud to be their stepmom, or whatever they call you, do things with them like cleaning their room or making a cake. Be as affectionate as appropriate and don't repond to their pranks.  This is a war for the life you want and chose, do you want to start all over,, saying this is my 4th marriage how do I make it work?  I know it seems like you are swallowing your pride, but would you rather sign divorce papers?  It works, I will pray for you and the family. Blessings.
23732
First off, give him a breather, get off his case.  then in a couple days (and don't sulk) tell him he is the love of your life and so you have a good long term relationship there are some things you both need to discuss together, not A question and answer , a discussion, start with saying that you have some concerns, don't be acussatory. No one listens well when they are being accused of something.  Waituntil he seems comfortable to discuss the things you are worried about.  If he is the love of your life/soulmate, it is worth putting some extraordinary effort on your part, then to let your relationship unravel over fear
411907
sit down together and make a list of the things that you do not want to go wrong this time and give it to each other.  Have the communication lines open. You might consider counseling this time around.  Having a third party to hear both sides without taking sides is a start.  You might just go 1 x a month, then go out to dinner after or grab an ice cream to make sure that after things are said in counseling, you are still ok and still in love.  Be sure to say I love you every night before bed no matter what the day was like and tell her you are so glad that you are back together.  Good Luck!
955334
honey to let you know i am basically going threw the same thing but i am the divorced one w/a child. and there is this wonderful guy.. put just give it time. if he really likes you he will let you know or just come out and ask him where you stand in his life. or you can ask him what he really want in life.. but don't push the issue. remember he does have a child and he doesn't want some body that is going to come and go in there life.. :)
427512
Have him make an appointment with the doctor because something is wrong with him and it needs to get "fixed". If he will not go to the doctor, they need to discuss the options.  For me it would be us discussing why he doesn't want to go to a doctor; me getting a lover; us getting a divorce.
496908
Ask him or casually bring it up ina conversation. If you feel uncomfortable with the situation you're in(Like the laid down rules), then let him know. If he loves you, then there shouldn't be a problem. Good luck.
1098915
Talk to him about how you feel and about your concerns.  Let him know you want him to be honest about his intentions regarding you both becoming a couple again.  Tell him that you would rather have him be honest - that he needs a place to stay when he gets out, or that he really does want you back.
95269
I too read that those couples who stick it out are happier 5 years after the issue than those couples who divorce.\n\nIf you are having a hard time telling him you want a divorce, I have to ask if you have had a hard time communicating your needs and wants in a way he is sure to hear and understand.\n\nRemember, most of you ladies speak a different "language" than guys, and then get upset when we don't understand.  Your difficulty in telling him leads me to believe you could learn to improve your part in the the communication cycle.
261457
I am amazed at such simple questions, which really can't be answered without more background info.  Does he love you?  The most important question.  Will he do everything in his power to better your life?  Will he charish you til his last breathe?\n\nIf you can answer yes to all of these, and do all the same things for him....then you SHOULD get married.\n\nIf not, don't rush in, unless you want to get your first divorce out of the way.