My son's friend is homeless since his parents threw him out.?
960459
I'm sure he can get pale grant, but not if his parents are paying for hi tuition already.
823848
Your son did good by leaving and should counter file against her for filing false police report. Also if there were any adult witness in the facility it would be best for him to get statements form them to take with him that he was the bigger person and left.
206872
http://prisontalk.com/forums/index.php\nSomeone here will be able to guide you through this silly maze and help you reestablish contact with your son.\nGood luck.
288524
What would *I* do?  I'd take the kids somewhere safe (and our bags, because we're leaving at this point), be sure to p*ss him off real good when he comes home, have an all-out brawl in the living room, and after I've made my point, go to a good shelter.\nIf you're in this situation, and you wonder what I think YOU should do...  I think you should get in touch with your local police station, any churches, social services, etc., and find out how to contact your local womens' shelter.  Call them, and ask if they have room for you and the kids.  If they don't, get a list of other places nearby (we have 5 or so within 2 hours of here), and call them too.  If they do, only pack what you will need, and the childrens' favorites, and get gone.  Don't worry about food and clothes and toiletries if you're in a particular hurry, because they have TONS of that stuff donated all the time, and it's in storage.  If there's something you need that they don't have, they'll get it (like special formula for babies, etc.)\n\nI've stayed in a shelter like this.  They're great.  If you need to get out, do it.  Before he kills you, or he drives you crazy enough to kill him.
183261
The girlfriend has no right to be there.  If fact the girlfriend has no rights whatsoever when it comes to your child, even if the ex and she get married.  I am guessing that your son is in the hospital because he is sick (or has some major medical issues) and therefore the extra stress of someone being there that is not wanted isn't doing your son any good.  If she cares about your son at all, she will respect his wishes.  What I am wondering however is how old is your son?
1017434
It sounds like your daughter is letting her man's dominance and insecurities come between her and her brother. They are blood and nobody should interfere in that bond nor should she let them. That is extremely childish of them both. They are obviously in a different state with a new life and baby, so what threat does your sons friendship with her ex possibly hold. It's not as though he was going with him. Your son must have been so disappointed and hurt. The day will come when she needs her brother and if he chooses not to be there that will be her own responsibility. Your son has the right to maintain his friendships, especially those that have lasted 10 yrs as this one has. He has shown far more maturity in leaving the problems between his friend and sister to them and not taking sides than she is currently showing. You are not wrong at all. If I were you, I would be very disappointed in her and the decision she made.
934177
first off you are not a **** up. Maybe try to get away for a while and clear your head. If i was your friend i would be honored to be the god parent of your lil boy. Talk to someone a friend, counselor or social worker. Maybe try to talk to your foster mom and the other people who are hurting you and tell them how you feel. If things still don't get better you need to move. you and your child deserve a better life. I know things seem hard now but they will get better so keep your head up. you little boy need you in his life, I'm sure you are a great mom. I hope i was of help.
831544
I knew someone that went through this. The cops are useless, unless he physically hurts her or the kids -they won't do crap. Since he's been there more than 6mo he can claim residency even if he wasn't paying anything. But since he's paying the bills she'd Have to get the eviction order for the cops to do anything. Plus he could fight the order on the grounds he's paying the bills there. She's lucky it isn't a common wealth or they'd be married and she'd need a divorce. Honest! \nGuys like this are preditory parasites! They find a single mom & a nice person, then they terrorize and threaten this parent so that she won't fight back. Normally, they chase off any friends so the person is isolated. The system don't work for these people, they have lives and don't want to leave their home. Worse, for those with kids, they don't have anyplace to go with their children.\nAnd don't say shelters - more desperate parents fleeing abuse lose their kids in those shelters. They're told that the kids will be placed in safe homes, til the parent can get settled...trouble is try and get the child back afterwards. It's almost impossible! And they brainwash young children into saying they were hurt or abused by the parent. I got that bit of information from an ex-social worker who got disgusted with the lies and stuff she saw.\nMoney given as donations to organizations and persons to find and aquire young male and female children for waiting adoptive parents. \nVices that rule the world - Sex  Money  Knowledge\nthree powers that can control anyone anywhere - everyone has their price.\nThe mom I knew only escaped due to friends finding out what was going on and coming  to her and her children's rescue. Moving her and her family out of his reach and keeping tabs on him for 2yrs so he couldn't follow - including false leads as to where she was living.\nThey supplied the money, they supplied the moving truck and they stood guard when he came to try and stop her or take the kids...(none of them were his so it would have been kidnapping) but they kept him powerless so she could escape.\n\nThis mom doesn't seem to have that option. Sure, she could take what money she gets, take her kids and flee. But what about where to go? She's not able to drive so how can she afford to pay to get away and get a place to stay. She most likely doesn't want to tramatize the children or depending upon the age of the kids - she may be afraid of being able to keep an eye on all of them. Depends on her visual ability. Being handicapped (visually - in her case) she's limited on options even more. \nI'll bet she's tried saving up money but then he's found out about it and drained it all. That's what happened to my friend. He was always making sure that she was dependent on him, afraid of what he'd do...the threats to her kids...and they say that terrorists are non-americans....ask some of these women that have lived with the all american terrorist male butthead!\n\nI hope someone will come to her rescue like we did for the mom I know. She's got her life back and has never looked back. Thankfully, her children don't really remember much about that time either...not clearly. I hope some of her friends can figure it out and save her before it's too late.
573643
My son, who is age 16, didn't go as far as your friend did. He just recently got out of a special hospital here that deals with this type of situation. I honestly know how you feel, but mine goes deeper because it was my son. His depression started when he lost his best friend to suicide, and I've been helping him try to cope with this, it happened in March. Then, the next thing I knew, we went for a regular checkup at the doctor's office. And then I heard him say he tried to cut his hand off when he was at his dad's house, but a neighbor stopped him. That's when the doctor put him in the hospital. Now, he is on medication to deal with his depression. We both get counseling together with a therapist and separately we see different psychiatrists to help us both cope with everything. You don't say exactly how you caused him to flip out and get depressed again. But, I have learned that I wasn't the blame for my sons actions. I felt that it was my fault, that I had said the wrong thing to make him upset. He was depressed from not only his best friend committing suicide, he was getting pressure to do things from friends his age, alot of things was building up inside his mind that he couldn't cope with the world around him. Your friend may have already had problems built up inside that whatever you said may have just triggered past emotions. Not what you had said in that moment of time. You mentioned that everyone cuts ourselves, I'm sure that you meant that when we peel potatoes or apples, that sometimes we may cut our finger by accident. We don't purposely do it. The best advice I can give you is to stand by your friend because he needs all the support you can give him. I'm sure the doctors will give him medication to help his depression. It may take time for the meds to work, but you seem to like your friend very much. Even if you can go to a support group, which several places have free support groups to help cope with your friends depression and it may help you understand that it isn't your fault. Good Luck and if you need to talk to someone, you can get to my email by clicking my name. The email address is hidden.
858838
well that's not a good idea. most homeless people are homeless because they screwed up their life. they do not deserve a home of their own.
639298
I don't know where you live but there are no doubt a couple of lawyers that can get your son off.  Trouble is there are hundreds who will just take your money and do nothing. I'll tell you one thing, in this country it make no difference weather he did it or not. Don't let the system "teach him a lesson" as the lesson learned will only be contempt for the system once he learns how it really operates.  Be supportive no matter what happens.
107385
Take your parent, go find a homeless person (or more than one) and ask them what they need that you can give them.  Another idea is to find the head of places that already help the homeless, and ask them either (1) what you can do to help the homeless or (2) what you can do to help the people who are already helping the homeless.  I suggest you talk to these people, you could probably do so via email or on the phone, get some ideas, and chose one of those!  \n\nOther ideas: If you are in a cold area collect coats, shoes, blankets, heavy clothes to distribute.  They need those at this time very badly.\n\nCollect money to donate to a shelter.  Have a bake sale and give anything not sold to the homeless.  Use some other fundraiser for this purpose. \n\nGood luck!
652580
I agree he need to move out. Maybe get laid. If he's not a total jack*** then continue with your project, but their should be a point were you have to put a stop to it. If you don't see any change in him, then you will have to give up on him as his parents have done. You may also want to talk to his parents and see if they can help you with him. It nice to know that your a true friend to him.
1117156
I would tell him that when he needed us we were right there for him, just the same as if he needed us now. It shouldn't be any different when the tables turn. Friends help friends out especially in their time of need, and if he feels that way after you talked to him just tell him that he burned his bridges and if he needs you again you will ignore his call for help. Because that's not fair to you guys.
841202
If your son was left alone in school with no supervision you should write a letter of complaint to the Director of Education at your local authority.\n\nIf you need help doing this, go to a Citizen's Advice Bureau  - link below to help you find a local one. The CAB should also be able to offer advice on what you should do and what your legal rights are.\n\nIf you have a social worker you should talk to him/her about it too.\n\nI hope things work out ok for you and your son.
379183
You did not mention the age of your son and with an attitude such as the one you describe I can only assume he is a teenager or older..?  \n\nYour son sounds like he is a "victim" in his own mind.  Some people honestly believe everyone owes them and should be there to help them but when it comes to being there for others...they tend to disappear.  If he has an attitude as bad as you say then his friends are sure to leave him sitting in the dark one day when he needs them most.  As for being offensive and rude, I wouldn't put up with that kind of behaviour whatsoever for if you do, you are giving your son the wrong message. \n\nIf your son believes you are approving of his behaviour than he will not change his outlook on how he treats others.  In time, his friends will not want to help him when he gets himself into trouble and he will have to stand up for himself unless you yourself give in and bale him out.  And if you do bale him out you are contributing to his bad attitide and lack of respect.  It is better to make him stand up for his actions now then to let things escalate to a point that is uncontrollable.\n\nIf he is over 18, give him one week to get a job and two weeks to get the heck out of YOUR house.  Be honest with him and tell him how you feel about the way treats others and let him know who his victims are.  And if he comes to you for help be sure to hand him a list of all the friends he has lost! \n\nSometimes as a parent you have to wake up, walk away and let your children pay for their own mistakes.  If you don't, you will become his next victim dear.
978027
Get a lawyer - it's your only hope.  And why did you send your child away?  And it's up to his guardians (father and step-mom) to decide who best to be able to contact the child.  Did you do something to upset them this much?  Or to the child?  Seems to me like there's info here that's missing.  If it's due to you not being able to afford to keep him home, you should have tried harder.  I have 2 children, and never would I ever consider sending them away, to their father's or anywhere else in this world.  I have worked 2 jobs for 10 years to make a life for them, and I spend as much time with them as possible.