If i have a boyfriend and my parents won't let me and they found out what should i do?
968964
Your parents know more about life than you think they do.  They are not trying to be mean to you; they are trying to help you live a happier life in the long run.  They have the responsibility to make the rules until you are 18 and move out and support yourself.  If you can't do those things, try to learn from your parents so that someday you can.  \nI am not saying they are always right, but if you listen to them you will most likely have a lot less trouble in life than if you don't.  The boyfriend you have seems very important now, but he probably won't stay a big part of your life for very long.  How long did the last one last, anyway?  \nAlso, if you listen to them, they are more likely to listen to you.
664931
He sounds like an upstanding guy. Why would your parents be mad? Is it just the age difference? I say tell your parents everything. The may like him they may not. But you are now 18 so you can make your own decisions on who you date.
349247
You love your parents right?\n\nthen do what truly is best go to the police they will protect you do not go to other family members because sometimes that can be bad..do what is best for you and your parents..it's going to be ok it really is please
1140746
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
311509
Just keep your boundaries. They will get it after a while. It may take time but stick to your guns. It's important that you have your privacy!!
720428
Did you ever stop to think that your parents do think you are responsible and trustworthy, and that their reason for not wanting you to date is because they don't trust who you may end up dating? Maybe ask them about that?  Discuss options like taking a self defense class, prove to them that you can fend for your self and protect yourself if they are not there. Maybe becoming open with them and discussing dating... what you expect to happen when you date, what they expect... run through scenerios that you may find yourself in.... Find out their fears and concerns for you and work together with them on what you would do if you were in situations that they are concerned about.
455622
Well u can't really MAKE your parents happy but have your boyfriend do something very thoughtful in front of your parents so maybe they'll except him and you together more.\n                    :-) try it it's work for all my other friends.
76582
I say you are now in a civilised country.. whilst parents are important the world over, you are the one that has to live with him, have sex with him, have children with him. Sounds to me that you need to marry your parents if you are so concerned
648630
I don't think it's much of their parents business unless they choose a partner of the same sex and they don't want to hide it from their parents... If that's the case I would say just be honest about it. Parents love you for you and even if they get upset at first, they will learn to except it.
1105505
dont tell your parents, keep it secret. my step-sis kept a bf secret for 3 months one time, i'm sure u can do it for that long or longer.
1067583
What are your parents' concerns?  If you can help answer or address their concerns, then maybe they'll let you go.  Or maybe they have legitimate concerns that you have not considered.\n\nI hope you can work it out with your parents.
694265
How old are you?  Are there customs/backgrounds/ethnicity issues that are causing your parents to red-flag the relationship?  Without a few more details it's gonna be kinda hard to advise you either way.  \n>>BUT<<\nIf you're old enough to be making your own decisions (18+), then all you can do is what your heart tells you, giving your parents time to accept it on their own rather than forcing the issue....but also taking into consideration what thier concerns and feelings are.\nBut if you're like 16 or so and younger??  Chances are you're emotionally to young to really know what "love" is.  You may sincerely care for this girl, and that's wonderful...but your parents may just be trying to protect you from getting to serious to soon.  They love you and just want to help guide you through the right choices.\nIf they are that strong-willed against it for whatever reason and at whatever age, it isn't something that you're going to be able to "convince" them of--any more than they can convince you to give up on this. Acceptance may come with time-as long as you don't disrespect your parents in this matter.
762512
Your parents have legal control until you go to court and become legally immancipated.  A court may not allow it, because you are not self-supporting and are not legally married to your boyfriend.  \n\nEither he steps up to be a man and marries you, you get a job and support that baby.... or you go home to your parents.\n\nYou need to consider all of the ramifications if your boyfriend dumps you, Honey.  It happens all the time!\n\nBest Wishes,\nSue
300251
Why doesn't your friend tell her parents exactly what you just told me? Any true parents would try to understand, from the heart out. If they can't see that the boyfriend is a true boyfriend, because it's been a year, then she needs to tell them. Both the boyfriend and parents should compromise on a mutual relationship.
732362
tell him the truth..then he will know its not you that is rejecting him but your parents and THEIR rules...and he will feel better about things and you can then both commiserate together and can blame your uptight parents...btw,your parents are also imposing these rules on you because they love and care about you and want to protect you from EVERY nasty aspect of life(not possible though but when you have tin lids of your own you will worry about exactly the same things...)
699044
You really don't have a choice if your parents will not allow it. Explain this to your friend and maybe he will understand.>
593311
This is a tricky question because only you really know what kind of relationship you have with your parents.  If you have a good relationship with them and know they won't blow up and over react then talk to them and tell them what happened.  If not then you have some other things to think about.  I am assuming that you probably had unprotected sex so you need to consider a pregnancy test and an STD test.  You also need to talk to your boyfriend and make it clear that even though you like him what happened was a mistake and that you are not ready to have sex with him.  If gets mad and says stuff like what is the big deal since you already have done it then walk away and dump him because that means he was only with you for the sex, which is my suspicion since he knew about the drink being spiked and didn't say anything to you.  He took advantage of you and that is not what a real boyfriend does.  Remember, we all make mistakes.  The key is to take responsibility and do the right things after the mistake to keep from allowing that mistake to keep growing.