Why do many East Asian women often resent European-American men being attracted to them/ wanting to date them?
965768
do they really? I mean look at all those Asian-American couples
912240
Well I'm an Asian woman and I have dated every type of men. White, Pakistani (still Asian though), Chinese, Mexican, and Black. I don't have a problem with any background the man comes from! \n\nFrom personal experiences and from the absolute truth I get out of other Asian women most of these women go out with White men not because they fell in love with them at first sight but because they "looked attractive" and attractive means sharp features that White men have that are highly influence by the media they see every day.\n\nWhat's funny is that if you live in San Francisco, I'll guarantee to you that every part of the city you go, you'll always see an Asian girl with a White guy! Some of them act really stuck up too just because they'll with a White guy?\n\nSome girls I know even point out that White guys treat Asian women better than Asian men, that they have money, and above all you can have beautiful babies with them! But this is American, and the Asian men here are Asian Americans how stupid to assume such things!\n\nIt's really like reverse racism if you think about it. They say Asian men are no good!\n\nWhere I lived before moving to San Francisco, I always saw the Asian guys have girlfriend with no difficulty, but here I see a lot of single Asian guys and not so many other races of women want to give them a chance. How sad! Asian men are statistically more lonely and single than Black women too.\n\nI just wish some of my Asian female counterparts just stop the reverse racism on our men because they don't deserve any more discrimination!\n\nStatistically: There is one Asian woman for every TWO Asian man in America! And Japanese American women marry outside race like 75%! Those are really disturbing numbers, because like I said, many of these Asian men will be bachelors for a long time and some may never marry because of it!   :(\n\nI love all men but I wish more of my sisters gave other men a chance besides White guys!\n\nOh and of all the men I've dated, my favorite was my ex-Chinese boyfriend. He was so funny and really, really, really.....good in the bed! Probably he was so lonely for a long time before he met me! There was nothing small about him either!
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I understand your question as I've noticed the same phenomenon....it appears that true asians living in American tend to close the ranks and turn inward...in other words, they still clink to the tradition of marrying their own kind. I believe with time the younger generations will succumb to the culture and pressures of american society and will begin to more often inter-relate. I haven't seen a lot of evidence of it yet however...
565008
Any man with experience will tell you that very few women are weak and fewer still are subservient.  \n\nThere are a vast number of Asians out there and thus there are a vast number of different personalities but if any generalization at all could me made, on could say that Asian women are not weak nor subservient.  Its an act.  They are very good actors. \n\nAmerican women, like most humans, are jealous when they don't get enough attention and will make up just about anything to satisfy their jealousy.  \n\nIts interesting, in most things I can see good and bad but in jealousy I can't see any redeeming feature.
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For those who just happen to find Asian women attractive...more power to um'!  But some guy's are incredibly sexist and controlling, that they think Asian women have subservience in-bred into them are something...they're on a control trip, wanting to "Lord" it over somebody...Freaks!
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Yes. This is a hard question to ask. Now you made me even more confused lol. Let me tell you a story. I have this beautiful Asian Girl friend. She is very cute but she is short and a bit chubby that even make her look shorter. She is trying her best to get fit. I still love her but I feel that the rumor that men usually lose interest to the face and start thinking about the body is true :(
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My God...\nMaybe really EASTern girls do that, but I definitely wouldn't. Who cares about visas, etc - I just want to be with someone I love... And if t is a foreigner - well, that's the heart's choice;)
495958
"Asian" is just generic!\nThere are some Asian races (e.g.;Chinesse, Japanesse, etc)\nwhich are bound by cultural preferences. They need to or they prefer to marry their own race because it's a part of thier culture, that we have to respect, But as far as in countries like Philippines, Korea, Indonesia, India and others, they are not into that cultural preference. They are with others. In fact, with everybody.
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I was going to ask that too.  They are very rare, so rare that when you see it it really stands out.  I've dated black women and felt like everyone was watching, and I have a friend in LA that is married to a black woman and after 9 years he says it's always uncomfortable, especially around black men.  I can't say anything about the asian part but that you never seem to see at all.  Believe me, it's not because white men don't find black women attractive either.  I just dunno.
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I have a friends asian women among my other American women friends its not about defensive i feel its just about how girls are brought up i have friends who are similar to american women but i also have friends who are not like them.So its just a matter of woman to woman if you observe there is no fixed pattern to how each woman or man act just like that this also depends on each american woman not american women in general.Since i have met American women who are so warm friendly and nice to Asians and i have met American women who get defensive since ethnicity is different from them.Trust me it goes from women to women not about women in general.
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Yep that's true for folks living in Norway, Sweden, Germany, Italy and Spain. The White men are so attracted to the dark skinned women. It's the opposite of what it's like here. Lots of my friends and families intermarried men from these countries and they get treated like royalty.  I think for the US, it depends where you are at. It can be vice-versa in some major cities like NYC, Chicago, Miami and Houston. Maybe because the juice is so much sweeter in dark berries.
1036143
Well, we asian men are maybe shorter in heigth compared to white men, but were not scared to white men.. pinoy specially are romantic type.. and we don't usually approved divorced, we want married to last..
810566
over the centuries we have been taught that that is inappropriate behavior. we have been taught it will mark us as a "loose" woman. no wants to be called or looked at as a "ho". americans are sexually repressed and afraid of open sexuality. we have also been taught that men don't like "aggressive" women, that it is up to the man to make the first move and draw the woman out. stupid i know but that's america. not saying that women shoud just go out and exploit their sexuality, but there's nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting
866193
If they don't show interest when you approach its because they don't find you attractive. Maybe they just don't find asian men attractive or more likely, its just YOU. Perhaps if you weren't so ignorant they would find you more attractive.
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I think some guys think that Asian women are cute because they appear to be submissive (Great Myths No.1 - they only appear to be!). They have obviously not heard of the iron fist in the silk glove theory.
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I'd have to agree with the last post. It seems that most men on the down low are there for a reason...becasue they don't feel that they can openly embrace that part of their sexuality.  I also really think it's a culture based thing, too.  I was doing some reading a while back, and you find a lot of this kind of thing in the Japanese, African American and Hispanic communities.  These communities tend to raise their boys to be strong manly men, and no gay love allowed!
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Asian families are typically very traditional (i.e. no sex before marriage, must marry within culture, etc). My best friend is Chinese and the only boyfriend of hers that her parents even knew about was Chinese. Don't take it personally-- it's not you, it's her parents' culture.