Why do people say good things about dead people, but are less complimentary to the living?
962344
Dead people are cool... literally.  the living are jerks usually.
1106606
My momma says.. "maybe those people haven't had a real visitor in years."   I say, You did the right thing. There's nothing creepy about and wouldn't you want someone to come see you? Even if it wasn't your family? It's a nice gesture to visit , admire and respect the dead. Good Job!
1121692
heaven is a place to aim for, being good is how to get in. i think it not for the person who dies but the ppl they leave behind its comfortin to think theyre in nice place rather just dead in the ground.
1084252
I noticed people become more believing when they get older...I think for a lot of people the thought that when you die, you cease to exist is difficult to comprehend, so there must be a God overseeing the afterlife...
146813
Not sure anyone living can answer that, really. What it looks like from the outside, from a living person's point of view, may not be a reflection at all of what is being experienced by the person who is passing away. But perhaps the most comfort would come from living as long and as well as you can, being a good person along the way. Perhaps if someone has children they will feel more at peace because they know that their memory will live on.
332347
Sure. I talk with spirits around me and I brush off the living's opinion about it.  It's also sad that those who don't accept ghosts as part of our reality miss out on the communications (for themselves, the recpient and for the ghost, the sender).
509858
Well they are such a good people and they're not pushy!\nand if you think bad about them then you're suck (not you just anyone who think so)
869724
I think it more indicative of  insecurity, Unfortunately some people feel superior when they are putting down others. Maybe it's a trait they learned during their childhood, or maybe they buy into the "competitive whatever the cost" conditioning that our leaders try to encourage, in the vain hope that the people will never unite for long enough to realize their oppression.\n\nEither way it sucks ;)
912284
Because of that human fear of death and dying. Most people seem to think morticians are weird. When working full time as a nurse (Only work part time now) I looked after the dying and naturally did last services, preapring a person for families last good byes in the hospital then of course the mortuary. So i met many people working in mortuaries! Most of them were decent, caring people who looked after someone's mum/dad/chil/grand-mother/grand-father etc! With respect and dignity, and were definitely not weird!
1157492
We think about it because they aren't around anymore.  As long as someone is living it's in the back of our mind that we can call them, write them, go and see them - even if we never do.  When someone dies it registers in our head that they aren't there anymore and there is no way we can get to know them or let them know we actually cared about them - which brings on a little guilt, because no matter how busy you are it only takes 5min of your time to call a loved one and say "hi, how are you" and let them know you care.\nIn our society family isn't always the most important thing and it should be.  In other cultures family is everything, no matter what.  Here in America other things become important - friends, ourselves, work, etc - and we just don't give our family the time that they deserve.
466185
Sometimes you have to get caught up in the blah, to appreciate the good.  I am not suggesting dwell on the blah's, but learn from them so you can do better next time.  I love life, I love my children's life, I love my husband's life.  I thank god every day for my wonderful life, and when I think I have it bad, I can think of others that have it ten times worse then I do.  This is always a humbleing experience.  Life in my opinion is a gift, and I fully plan to appreciate every day that I have with those that I love.
30798
A philosopher from the 1800's said, Soren Kierkegaard, said that the nicer you are, the more that some people will despise you.  Kind of like the bigger the good, the bigger evil is attracted to it and then repelled by it.  \n\nBeing good may not always benefit you, but it will always benefit at least one other, so that makes it all worth it.
468475
wHEN SOMEBODY SAYS THAT THEY MEAN THAT WHEN U DO SOMETHING THAT DOESN'T SATISIFED YOUR FAMILY DEAD. tHEY TURN TO LET YOU KNOW THEY ARE NOT HAPPY.
167797
they just want to be nice about it but really its not because your thinking things are cool when in fact they dont have no attention of talking to you again. People need to not say things they dont mean.
487722
They are human beings like you and I, the only difference is their outlook at life. They don't have any regard for life or anything. Death is nothing to them. Through death, they believe they can become heroes or go to paradise.
337061
communication as we know it are all based on some sort of input that we can get from the world around us. mostly its based on audio-visual interaction & sensory reactions. the dead dont interact at these levels if the ever do. so as of now...not much hope to talk to them. let's see if we can redifine death to help us get round to talk with them.
810997
I feel that the most evil acts are commited when someone feels they are doing nothing but pure good. Good and Evil, while they exist within us, are drawn amongst a thousand shades of grey. Even the most vilified psychotic (such as charles manson) felt what he was doing was infact "good". I consider myself to be someone who thinks of what is not only good for me, but others as well. In my opinion to be truly good, is to "catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar". To not do what is right just for "myself" but what is ultimately right for others to. Buddha said "if you do not live for others than you do not live" while I am not a religeous person (lol) I do agree with this statement to some extent. I think being good is having the common sence that you cannot commit good acts on the backs of people. Right now George Bush feels what he is doing is good and so does Osama Binladin, but billions of people disagree with both of them. Even if you ask the biggest creep on the planet if they think they are a good person they will say yes. I believe everyone has good in them and the potential to be good people, truly not just subjectively. So I guess what I am saying is their is subjective goodness and Objective goodness. Objective goodness is goodness in truth because you are able to say "how does this make others feel?" and think in the mindset of how people around you will react to the stimuli you feed them. I try to do what I feel is right. Just like anyone else. However am I a good person? I try not to ask myself that question and just be as I am.