Why do we still feel for the ones who hurt us.?
970987
get over him by making your self feel better. by this i mean go out and buy all new clothes, get a sexy hair cut and make him look at you. some call this retail theropy! the best answer i can give you is try and be round people as much as possible. i just broke up with my boyfriend and now i live by myself and its very deppresing. and always remember never leave the one you love for the one you like coz the one you like will leave you for the one they love.
845652
We all at times would like to get revenge so we feel better. The best thing to do is really wait and don't act while your angry , sit it out and let it go for awhile and see if that feeling doesn't just fade away..
258282
yes sometimes\nbut when i think back that person really didn't deserve so much hate or attention from me. \ni guess often we feel like such when we personally feel insulted or hurt, but i guess its okay to think about it a little to vent it off and NOT do anything on it.
1141417
well, part of it, even if he/she hurts you like hell, then the feeling still stays, but if you two get back together, then he/she hurts u again, then trust me the feeling will go away.
892121
The hurt and scars will always be there. Forgiveness is a cognitive choice to act differently than you feel. Over time this becomes easier to do. Look at the mennonites who had their children murdered...they forgave even though they were grieving and had deep emotions and hurt. They believe there is no other way to live. Jesus said "forgive them father for they know not what they do" Now this does not mean we put ourselves at risk for further harm...ie we don`t continue to live with a violent partner just because we forgave them...
45288
I think because we have a true fear of violence and death and there is a tendency to be drawn to things that we fear.  Maybe to better understand it and maybe so that we can experience it outside of ourselves.  I also think that there are some really sick people out there and they thrive off of harm to others and want to do the harm themselves but do not want to deal with the consequences of those type of actions.
1121220
Looks like you are holding grudge against people in your past. \n\nWhy, my friend, are you hurting yourself when these "people" may not even remember any of those incidents. You are causing pain to no one else but yourself.\nJust forget. You had no control over those incidents.
479223
if they wud have felt how it may feel,then they wud'nt have done that.well,this is life u have ups n downs with it,ur life cant always b up n not always down.thats y we call it life...and its in the nature of dat person not to undersatnd how it feels whn he hutrs u.anyways dont get too much into whoever has hurted u will regret one day for doing dat to u.and he will realise wht a big mistake he has done.so CHEER UP GAL THERE'S LOT MORE IN LIFE!
979852
There  are some among us that have had the pain of losing a child, may it never happen to you. That is more suffering than anyone should have to endure but to have to watch them tortured first.. That goes way beyond what any parent should have to deal with...   Jim
658507
well i think if you get hurt bad enough it just takes time you have to take risks and trust someone again and again until it becomes easier you may get burned here and there but you have to get past it. It just isn't fair for everyone around you to be judged by your fears of being hurt - sometimes you can push people to do what you are afraid they'll do by insinuating it or you will miss out on a lot of good times because you are afraid to get too close You are damaging your life by being unable to trust Just get over the past and trust little by little . . .good luck I AM STILL WORKING THROUGH THE SAME ISSUES but i have learned that you can hurt the people you love by not giving them your full trust you just have to learn to risk it . .
937315
Its only one of 2 things at that point.....either they  care about you or they are trying to torture you.  Personally I would not answer because if you were the one who got hurt, then you are opening up old wounds.   live in the present and forget the past.
489879
Well, Life is about chances and so is love...  Some people hurt us intentionally, but some don't..\n\nI think that the people we love hurt us, because they don't know how to appreciate it.  Take it for granted and take it as a vulnerability. (So they take advantage of us)\n\nBut don't give up on it..  We have to go through a few bad seeds, before we finally find the right one..  : )
673416
Because they seem to get this crazy idea in mind that just because they've had you they own you. Going through the same with mine at the moment. I feel your pain. lol
247646
There's always a good side to everything, or there couldn't be a bad side.  Try focusing on the positive things that have happened because of it.\nYou can't change feeling hurt, that takes time.
548175
Because it's part of a healing process for some people. You feel that you need to get revenge so that the person hurts as much as you are. Some people do it so that they can move to the 'hate' stage so it doesn't hurt as bad. And some are just jealous that they have moved on with their life and are happier yet you are still stuck in the past and are lonely (even if it was a dysfunctional relationship).
816196
u will grieve as long as u stay in the past, and blame yourself for it. it didn't just happen overnight, so quickly, it's been in his mind for awhile. yes we will be hurt for sometime, takes time to move on after heartbreak. just something we all must go through in life, it's really a learning process for us, only we can't see it, as were too busy trying to figure out why. sometimes other people's choices in life do break our hearts, and we have no control over what that person chooses to do, we may never know why. but it's how we handle the hurt that is key to our recovery. he just didn't have the self control he should have. personally rather than live with a cheater i would rather deal with the heartbreak now, than again later on. this is who he is, and it really has nothing to do with your self worth. we just have to move forward, and in spite of our hurts, know that pain doesn't leave us where it finds us, that when one door closes another one opens up. often times we put too much trust in people we don't know that well, and we set ourselves up for it.we expect them to be as fair in a relationship as we have been. we don't quite understand how it could happen, well this is who he is and how he thinks.
1026619
I think we all feel that way sometimes. I'm still mad at myself for things I should've done/said in the past...maybe things would've turned out different. I guess the thing to remember is that we will have a chance now to do/say the things we mean without fear, because we know it's worth saying something or acting out for what you think is right.