why do my friends always leave me out?
966046
Hi,,, sounds like you need to make some real friends instead of the ones that just use you.... or be different,, and strike out on your own....\n\n good luck
472458
Stand up to them. Be willing to find new friends that won't treat you that way. Call them on the carpet, the next time they step out of line, hit them back, verbally. They will either respect you and lay off, or they'll stop being your friend, in which case you didn't need them anyway.
121603
Could it be that you are giving too much credcence to the actions of others.  Just be yourself.  Some will like you others won't.  You can't please everyone all the time.  The important thing to remember is you need to like yourself.  Learn to be comfortable with that and might be surprised at the number of friends you really do have.
906185
They probably think you were hurt badly and are too afraid to want friendship with anyone who might hurt you worse. It must be lonely.\nGod Bless
34487
remember they are not ur friends if they leave u just becus you aint out there like them,and if they are ur friends then they'll accept u for who u are.try talkin to them about cus if they are ur friends then u should b comfortable talkin bout anythin dont b afraid it might just make your relationship with them stronger,cus if u never talk bout it now itll always bother u,and remember you'll find people who are like u even if u guys break up
424927
We're sorta in the same boat then. I don't have many friends... I have a friend who lives a few streets away, a friend who lives 1/2 an hr away, even tho we have each other's #, we still only talk online... :s Rarely see each other. Then there's my bf of course. I make friends & then I somehow lose friends... :( Sometimes I choose to not be friends w/ them cuz I don't deserve to be treated the way they treated me. I'm a nice girl... why can't I make friends ? Why won't anyone be friends w/ me ? Maybe I'm so nice that I'm regarded as a "loser" :( I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. I don't think that peeps accept me cuz they think that I'm a "goody goody" :s :( (N)
670432
You need to make sure that the first person you care about is yourself. If the people that you care about do not care about you then you need to look a little more carefully at your selection criteria. If you take time for yourself the real friends will seek you out. Those that do not are not real friends and you don’t have to go through the pain of finding out later. We are too quick to befriend groups and far to accepting of their insults. Be your own best friend first and rest will follow.
501167
Hey, we all have a friend or two that just get on our damn nerves, do what I do know that you are your only friend and put GOD first and yourself next and see what happens then.\nIf they are talking about you so what they talked about Jesus and he still did his thing, don't dwell on their negatives because they're your friends for a reason. Dip away for awhile give them a reason to miss you and things will start to change.
1174712
Don't know where you are or for how long, but can let you know that long distant relationships, especially with young people will not work.   You'd be better off leaving them as a friend than put yourself in a position to always be stressed behind them.
919790
Ask your friends why they always side against you.
565498
Why people don't like me =(
229691
Probably the same reason I do.  I have a hard time being out going.  But you can work on it.  Just asert yourself, people WANT to be around you trust me I know.
1054919
This happened to me when I was in high school too.  I ended up following them around and trying so hard to be included, now looking back I just wish that I would have played it more cool.  Find some other firends to hang around with until things settle down with your 2 BF's.  That shows them that you are your own person and you aren't desperate!  When they seem to go out of your way to not include you act like you had better things to do anyways and the make some plans dont sit around... Oh and what ever you do DONT be b!tchy to them..that makes you the bad one.  Just be nice and courteaous and go about your business eventually they will go back to the way things were.
705401
yeah that happens to me all the time \ni talk to my "friends" but they dont seem to be a "friend"\nor even family\ni feel like i cant trust my friends or family\nwith your friends or family you feel like your not connected to them even though your talking and they are right there\nthey dont treat or look at you as a family\nthey look at you like an outsider and that sometimes makes you feel not wanted so you end up getting used to it that you really dont care. you become very numb to it. \nppl like that wont care about you or care about your issues.\ni have dealt with that personally almost all the time\n\nhey wanna be my friend ?
626713
I think the main reason why "friends" talk about you behind your back is because they either don't like you or there's something about you that they don't like. There are other reasons as well why they talk about you behind your back. Those so-called people whom you called "friends" talk about you behind your back, they are not your friends. Friends do not bad mouth each other and they're there for one another. People talk about other people regardless, and it is up to us to not be so concerned of what they think. I learned in life to pick and choose your friends carefully. If they want to be a part of your life, be a positive influence, picks you up when you're down, and they're there for you, that is a friend. Don't worry about the fact that those people talk about you. Be who you are and stay that way. DO NOT change yourself for nobody.
127430
In order to have a friend you must first BE a friend.  Never expect anything from your friends.  Thats just not cool.  You could wind up loosing them.  Take a look inside yourself to discover why you may be doing this.  You might be insecure w/in your own being.  Once you become secure w/ yourself, you will not expect anything from your friends but truth and honesty.  And you will end up giving them so much more.
360977
Maybe your not the easiest person to say no to.  Maybe when they try to say they're busy you insist on talking.  Or maybe they secretly have a problem with you.  Try asking them about it and see what they say, it can't hurt.