does your spouse mind if you smoke?
959861
I quit smoking when i found out i was pregnant but i used to smoke before that and my partner had never touched a cigarette in his life.  He actually didnt mind it because he came from a family of smokers and was just used to the smell.  But seeing ive given up, he has told me he doesnt want me starting again.\n\nI just think of the money situation after my bub is born.  My baby deserves that money more than me getting a kick of cancer every day!
774934
If she is your wife you should have open communication.\n\nShe might have an infection if the oder is bad.\n\nYour not doing her or yourself any favors by being silent.
1017933
As an ex-smoker I will tell you that she won't have any problem, with you being a non smoker. \nShe might be even happy to date someone that doesn't smoke, because in the event she wants to quit, it will be easier if she is with a non smoker.\n\nYou seem to be fascinated by the smoking issue, why don't you just ask her why she smokes...what she feels...\n\nBelieve me smokers like it when non smokers are curious and ask those questions.
207139
Yes. Very much so. And I'm a smoker. I do not smoke in public, around children, or around pregnant women. It is MY choice alone to die of cancer. Not theirs. I do not defend smokers in ANY way. Smoking is a dangerous habit that I wish I could control and quit. Unfortunately, I can't seem to stop. I've been a smoker for 18 yrs. and I will NEVER tell another human being to deal with MY habit in public because I have the right to smoke. They have more of a right to breath and to live with out being wrongly affected by me. I smoke in the privacy of my own home. I apologize for those smokers who do not get it, that WE are the offenders. Keep it up guys...maybe smoking will be banned.
890406
You can't. Smoking is an addiction. Like any addition the addict has to decide themselves that it is time to stop.  It is your choice on your reaction.\n\nThere are actions you can take, but they will put your in conflict or endanger your marraige. If you do not want him smoking around your kids tell him to stop smoking in the house. If he refuses, throw his cigerettes away where ever you find them. Another option is to simply move yourself and your children from the house. These may seem like extreme reations but you have to make him realize you are prepared to make him choose between his family and his addiction.
310579
get him to quit smoking, I quit and my husband loves to kiss them now
958917
Yes, especially when someone is smoking cigs.
1146337
I don't like smoking at all, so it would be difficult to be with someone else who smokes! It's a smelly and dirty habit! For me it is a total turn off and it's not attractive at all! Who wants to kiss someone who tastes like smoke? Yuck!!
633659
I will admit that I have vices.. I know I'm not perfect. The only vices that really get me are the ones that harm other people. Smoking I can tolerate if the smoker is aware of where he/she is putting the cigarette.. (I hate to get smoke in my face cause I'm a non smoker)\nAs far as personal vices.. a few gross me out but to each their own... I try not to tell others what to do (unless they ask)
982105
Yes, although I was a former 3 day a day smoker, I now find it smells horrible.  Worse, I am allergic to it.  I get ill if smoke blows my way.  I once was in the car with a chain smoker I was dating.  I started having chest pains and went to the hospital.  They said it was due to the smoke and that if I had not breathed this medicine they gave me, my chest pains would have continued (indefinitely??).  why should I have to spend time and money and fear cause someone else wants to smoke when I try to live a healthy lifestyle.\n\nI had breast cancer 15 years ago and several of the women in the waiting room were victims of lung cancer (which is always fatal) who had never smoked.  Their husbands had smoked.  The issue was good and people had already voted down issue 4 once before...plus they were trying to make it a constitutional amendment to allow smoking in some places against the will of the majority who already said no the first time.
1116994
It's all in how you approach it.  If you do not actively exercise, perhaps you could start exercising for yourself and invite your spouse to join you.  Walking is a good start.  This approach would be the least likely to cause your spouse to feel like he/she is being attacked.  You could let your spouse know you are concerned not only for your own health, but for his/her health as well.  When we started our relationship, I came into it with a Bowflex.  I work out but my husband does not.  I take vitamin supplements and work hard to take good care of myself.  I let him know I care about his health, but I do not nag about it.  He started taking vitamins.  He noticed the difference in how he was feeling as a result.  Of late, he is beginning to show an interest in exercising.  I have never pushed it.  I love him even if he doesn't want to participate and he knows it.  I think it's important to let your spouse know you love him/her no matter what!  That alone may encourage him/her to take better care of him/herself.
424585
Nonsmokers have some serious issues with "control" when they start talking about not smoking outside. Just walk around the smoker huddled next to the ash can, it's really not that difficult. If he's not huddled next to the ash can do that silly fake cough thing, that will show him. Sigh.
637045
if your husband doesn't mind and you like it more power to you. don't worry what other people think. it's your life do whatever makes you and your hubby happy.
772400
I'm not a smoker nor do i like cigarette smoke:\n\nhow close do you live to this person? You make it sound like he/she is walking up to your windows and blowing it in. There is nothing you can do about it. It is still their legal right to smoke in their house or on their property. Unless you are window to window with this person i think you are being a bit ridiculous. That person has every right to live there. I dont think there is a problem to address to your neighbor. You just seem like one of those unbearable neighbors that nothing makes them happy.\n\nSecond hand smoke is just as bad as doing it yourself but once again unless you are window to window or he is blowing it in your windows i think your kids will be just fine. I mean do you expose your kids to other things in life that arent so healthy? Sugar,mcdonalds,tv??????
692441
OMG, i usually experience that coz my husband is far away from me. i have an illicit partner but i can't do it with him either because i am just not prepared to do it with him yet (i hope i'll never be, though).\n\nso how do i deal with that??? i just smoke & go out with my friends & try not to think about it coz i don't know how to "please" myself. it isn't so bad, anyways.   ; p
266114
Don't beat yourself up for "cheating". I was a smoker for close to 10 years I quite last year. It took a long time and I had to scale down on my smoking. That is all your doing. Be proud of yourself. Only smoking a couple of times today is great! Your on the right path. Take it slow. I tried once to quit cold turkey and it did not work. Smoking less and less each day was the right method for me. If your husband can quit  cold turkey then more power to him! But if you can't it is okay. The end result will be the same. You are just taking 2 different roads to get there. Stick with it! You know this is the right thing to do! Good luck
422930
no and neither does my partner its nasty who would wanna kiss a mouth or lips that have had cigarettes on it ewwwwww nasty. and not to mention LUNG CANCER, so to all you that do smoke do you really wanna die like that.