I need HELP! Its my first date!what do I do?
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Act natural. Just be yourself., talk about things that are not complicated, like the weather , your hobbies, whatever. Wear anything that you feel will make you feel comfortable and look good. Just be yourself.
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first thing everybody who asks this question needs to know is this: YOU CANNOT MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU. you can try everything; changing yourself, different clothes, potions, salves, death threats, but you can't get in a person's head and force them to think certain thoughts.\n\nHaving said that,  my tried and true method is talking. get to know the vict...er, guy! show off your great personality and what a fun person you really are. If you're not comfortable dating right off the bat, ask him to do something social, with a group of friends. and really be with all your friends if and when you go. that way, you're not singling anybody out, and you are assured of a good time even if this guy isn't a picknic to be around. If you want to be mano-e-mano with this person, you need to leave your other friends at home. no matter how shy you are, it is just RUDE with a capital R to drag people around and then play kissey-kissey or give all your attention to one person.\n\nIf you do decide to go for a one-on-one date, go somewhere neutral. Stay away from low or bad lighting, and DON'T BE ALONE. this means: don't go over to his house when nobody's there, or be in deserted parts of town, or anything like that. This will reassure you that he isn't going to jump you, and will put him at ease that you won't pounce him like a tigress in heat.\n\nAnd then, when you are together, talk. talk about anything and everything, and enjoy yourself. if you can't relax around this person, you may be kidding yourself. it's normal to be nervous first date, but after a while you should be able to put yourself at ease. and as much talking as you do, be sure to come up for air. this is VERY important. Letting the other person talk does a variety of things; first it sends the message that you're not just interested in yourself, but you want to hear what they have to say. Second, you learn a little more about this person and get a better idea if you want to stick around. and third, you can hear if he wants to be around you. you will hear many auditory clues from a disinterested person. Listen and watch while you talk. are they engaged? are they giving body signals that they are paying attention? or are their eyes wandering, their limbs twitching, their head swiveling? Are they answering you in complete sentences, or are they answering questions that aren't yes or no with "I dunno..."? above all, pay attention to what they say when they speak! just as you are seeing if they like you, you are checking to see if you like them.\n\nTrust yourself, and be confident, and you will never steer yourself wrong. Good luck!
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Do something where there is an activity, like bowling or the zoo, a cultural fair, a museum, the beach. That way their is stuff to talk about besides each other and the weather, and stuff to look at and pay attention to besides -- each other and the weather. If you go to a movie or concert, then you are just sitting near each other, not really getting to know each other any better.\n\nSome sort of food should be a part of every date.
527922
go to things remembered..get him a key chain and on the front engrave his name on it and on the back engrave ur the date when u had ur first date...
24619
First, try to LISTEN to what your date partner tells you about herself, then try to (on a first date, anyway) choose something fun to do based on mutual interests and tastes.  If she likes the outdoors and water a lot, then suggest a visit to a park, beach, lake shore, river bank and go for a walk. If she likes movies, take her to a movie!  If she likes art, take her to a museum or gallery.... The list is endless, just as long as you try to be open-minded and sensitive to your date's likes/dislikes.  (If she hates, say, classical music, chances are that a Tchaikovsky concert will be a big blunder on your part.)\n\nPick something you both like, too. There is nothing more annoying than going out and seeing your date looking bored or annoyed because you picked something YOU like and are forcing her to go along to.\n\nPick something FUN.  And put thought into your choice.\n\nTry to relax and also let her get to know you.  Be attentive. Be polite.
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first date on Valentines day... you must really like pressure or applying it. normally I would say no gifts on a first date, the date should be used to get to know each other. but since you are going out on "romantic holiday" here are a couple of suggestions. If you are both old enough maybe a nice bottle of wine. If you neither of you drink or you are under 21 a simple flower for the lapel would be nice. Try not to be too elaborate you may scare him off. What if he does not get you something, I think you could get him something but do not give it to him unless he presents you with a gift first (not to be childish) just so you do not make him feel uncomfortable  remember this is a first date. If he does not get you anything and you still feel compelled to give a gift, make it something like a small box of chocolate that you could both share. \nBeing a guy I have never expected a gift from a girl on a date, but have given them. The best returns for me was a genuine smile and comment of appreciation from the girl, making me feel like I had truly brought a little joy to her through my thoughtfulness.
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Communication is a good start. Don't be too shy. Make her LAUGH! That's how guys get my attention. Be charming, give her compliments, ask her about herself; like what she likes to do, or her favorite restraunt. Then maybe if you think she's flirting with you, ask her on a date, to the movies, out to eat, anything romantic. It could even be a double date! Those sometimes seem to break the ice a little bit and make everything less akward for your first time!
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First of all, find out their status before you ask them out.  Or make it part of the "ask out", "Hey, I hope you're not seeing anyone because I'd like to take you out on a date."  That will make your intentions clear.\n\nAlso make it clear that it is a date.  Some guys will ask the girl, "You wanna grab some dinner?" and it is not clear that it is a date.  The guy is trying to insulate himself against rejection. But part of the thrill is taking the chance. "Hi, I'd like to take you out for a date.  Can I pick you up on Saturday at 7:00?"  Take the chance and be clear.  The woman will repsect your clarity and confidence.  And on the date (especially the first one) do all the traditional date stuff: dress up, pick her up, hold her chair, pay for dinner.  Lean over and put your hand on hers during dinner.  How she responds will say a lot.  When you drop her off, touch her lightly on her waist while you lean in to give a gentle kiss on the lips.  Above all, make it clear that this is a romantic date.\n\nGood luck.
279656
I've been there and I know the confusion. My advice is don't worry about whether it is a date or not, just have a good time. Don't sweat any details that you might worry about if it was supposed to be a date. For example, if there is a third person there, that's cool. If you're interested in her, the best thing you can do is show that you can have a good time without stressing about things. \n\nGood luck & have fun!
89409
You need to ask YOURSELF if you like him! And ask yourself if he is a decent person and is nice. It would be good if you could get someone else like a brother or sister to go with you on a first date to the movies or some place like that so you aren't alone with him until you see how he acts on a date.
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go someplace you feel comfortable and can talk & get to know each other.  A nice park can be romantic.  I would suggest you go someplace public for a 1st date.  Remember how important first impressions are.   If your hoping to score a kiss ~ some place where there is water, like a nearby lake, river, pool or fountain can be romantic.  Guys love good food, so try and grab a bite to eat somewhere fun during the date (& dont pick at your food, that is a turn off to most guys).  Best Wishes to You!  I miss those days of 'butterflies' in my tummy!!!
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Oh...I know how you feel.\nThis is what you do:\n1.Send a note to him and tell him not to get the wrong idea.\n2.Send a note to him and tell him to be friends first.\n3.When he agrees, ask him out, but you must have an excuse for asking him out, or else I dont think he will agree.\n4.Ask him to go out to teach you school work or just hanging out.\n5.On your first date ask other people along, so you both wont get nervous.\n6.Dont bring 2 other friends that are dating because that would be a double date!\n7.After being good friends, you will then ask him for his address, email, and etc. etc.\n8.Contact him and ask him to hang out sometime with you- alone- I mean after a few weeks of hanging out with a few of his and your other friends.\n9.If you act natural and get him to know your background more and you know his background more, he may be able to accept you!\n10.You will be together forever- I mean not forever lar...LOL.\nOk. Thats my reply on your question.\nTry it out!\nIt happened to me once but I didnt use this method.\nI hope you will succeed.\nRegards,\nnyla
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All right, this is a good question.  What you have here is an awkward situation.  Awkward situations are the most uncomfortable things EVER.  As the answerer above me said, you must be pleasant...but more.  You must be perfect.  You have to seem like the nicest guy ever so this girl doesn't think your an assmunch.  I know you don't want anything with her, but you gotta keep the night alive.  If you start off awkward and boring, you will probably end up awkward and boring or maybe even angry or annoyed.  \n\nBe confident.  Know that you are awesome and she is lucky to be there.  She will follow your lead and have a good time.  Even if you suck, if you are a little cocky others will respect you and she will automatically think you are amazing and be happy with her date.\n\nIt is tough, I know, but all of these things have to be done to ensure that you have a comfortable night and that she is happy with it all.  Keep a good friend around, makes it easier to talk when you have a safety net.\n\nGood luck.
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go back if you guys remember and have what you had on your first date.. like my husband and i go back to Chili's and order a chocolate milshake and southwest egg rolls for lunch then we go out later that night and celebrate with a lil bit bigger dinner. :D  we always have fun doing that.  we usually after dinner go for a walk around a park and sit on the benches and just sit there and hold each other for alil bit.. :D  do whatever you want..  do a picnic at a park, go to an amusement park for the day, baseball game... the list could go on.. it is whatever you are both interested in and kinda make a theme and use it for the whole day.. or even a scavanger hunt adn then surprise him with a nice dinner in the end. :D
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dude, ive been here before so i knw how u feel. wat u DONT wanna do is straight out ask. get the good mood n vibe goin, n then do sumthn creative. wat ive done before is take a pic on my phone of sumthing saying things like "will u go out with me" or "will u b my girlfriend". so b creative n most of the time itll work. like i said, get a good conversation goin before poppin the question. happy to help!:)
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be yourself. say are you doing anything some night & ask her to a movie. make it about her, not you & your sure to get a second date.
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Of course you are! So was I when I went on my first date with a girl (and then all over again with a boy).\n\nRelax, treat it like any other date.  If you're so wound up you'll be too preoccupied to enjoy the person you're with (for worrying about everyone else looking and talking about you OHMAGAWD!).  \n\nIf it helps, start out by thinking of her as an old schoolfriend, let her know you're a little anxious and ease yourself into flirt mode.\n\nHave a great night!