Whats the best way to tell your parents that you really hate your town and school and it's making you unhappy?
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Well, let's be honest - there's no way to tell your parents that they will like. There is no magic combination of words to communicate that idea and get anything back like, "Okay, son! We'll call Aunt Maggie and let her know you're coming! Need any help packing?"\n\nThat said, there sure is a right and wrong way to approach this topic with the 'rents. "I hate this town and I hate my school and I want to go away and live with someone else" sounds:\n\n> whiny\n> as though you're choosing greener pastures over your parents.\n\nI'm not saying that this is true, just that it would sound that way to just about anyone on the receiving end.\n\nSo. The best way to tell them is to CALMLY as if you can talk to them and CALMLY tell them that you're not happy where you are, and why. Tell them the situation's gotten so bad that you've thought about moving away. Tell them where you're thinking of going, and why you think it would be better than where you are.\n\nThen you listen. You don't argue, whine, etc. You just listen to what they say. You ask if they have any suggestions. Then you listen to what they say.\n\nThe best way to tell almost anyone almost anything is calmly, with a willingness to listen to their side. \n\nUnderstand that your parents may not go for the whole moving thing - most wouldn't. They might be open to other ideas that would make things better for you (like maybe vacations and summers with the other relatives - if the relatives are willing?). \n\nIf not, if they just want you there, then you focus heavy duty on schoolwork and plans to get out on your own when you're old enough - at which point, you can live anywhere you can afford to live. Good luck!
426201
Slight giggles, I am a US Citizen and desire to study in India. My answer might not be helpful but the only way you can change your parents attitude and thoughts is by telling them to give you a chance to prove yourself. You're not a small girl anymore. You need to step in the big bad world and face everything by yourself! Tell them about the pros and cons of studying abroad. While it is true that no place is as safe as your home town because you've been around it so much, everything has it's ups and downs. Is there a specific place you want to study? Do some research, share important facts with your parents so they can start believing you. It is nothing more than the lack of trust that is holding you back. Don't give up on your dreams, pursue them anyway. Your strong steps today will make a bolder woman tomorrow. Good luck with your future.
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Although I feel for your situation, please understand, not all schools will allow you to just switch.  There are many more details to consider. Like tuition affordability, the ranking of the new desired schools educational records of success, and the convieniece of transporting you to and from the new school just to mention a few.\n\nMy children had to switch schools once, and they hated it, they wanted to move back to their old school, but a few years later they are adjusted and happy where they are.\n\nIf you are feeling badly at your current school due to harrasment by other students, stand up for yourself, speak with your principal, councelor, or call the state hotline of you are being physically threatened, they will investigate.\n\nTalk to your parents about what makes this school so bad, and try to resolve your issues, they may see your point if you address it in a responsible and mature way.
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yeah im working on this too but my parents are all about grades and shit not that stuff. uhhh what im doing, and it seems to be working, is to take more responsibility and like do crap around the house without them asking. come home when ur told, do stuff u wouldnt normally do, make sure u can do everything to help them out that u possibly can. suck up, be a tool, good luck.
1050330
get ur parents to complain to the principal... if he/she doesnt listen, go to your county board of education
450267
tell her its your life and you'll run it the way you want to.Your education is the most important thing in your life and when people drop out they tend to regret it later on in life.I'm a student myself and if mom ever said drop out I'd love to,but I'd still say no to it because I want a good,proper education.So tell her you don't want to and she should be supporting you and not turning against you.
459145
You can't do anything in regards to your parents. BUT I say stay in school get educated and then move out on your own. If your father is wrong then give your mom support. And right now, from what you have supplied here your dad is dead wrong.
199438
my dear . . . I am soooo sorry.\n\nYour mother is being a jealous . . . possessive b****.\n\nMost parents want their children to succeed . . . but there are a rare few . . . that will try to hold their children back because they don't want them to do better than they have.\n\nWhat is your plan regarding college . . . will you be moving into a dorm.  Probably getting a part time job . . . did you get a scholarship?  The best thing for you . . . is to get out of that negative environment.  I know it is scary . . . but you can do it . . . and you should do it.\n\nIf you are unable to move out . . . just reply back to her . . . just because I am trying to do something better in my life . . . which you could not do yourself. . . either . . . encourage me or butt out . . . because I won't quit and I don't want to be a loser like you.\n\nWell maybe not in those exact words.  But I think you get my meaning.\n\nTake care of yourself.
966144
Wow.  I'm in the same situation. \n\nThe only things I suggest are...\n-try to be more mature: maybe they'll feel that you're more responsible and let you have a bit more freedom\n-Be nice (actually):  maybe if you do what they want (ex: good grades, homework done on time, no whining..etc) they would feel proud for you, and give you some kind of reward\n-interact with them more often:  no matter how relentlessly boring or painful this might be, getting to know your parents is a big thing.  After all, they're not going to be with you the rest of your life - they just give you the start.  If you learn what they are like, maybe they would learn more about you.  Then they might know your need for something and let you do it, for it's very important to you.  And anything important to you that is completed, would make you happy.  And parents want their kids happy.\n\nIt's a whole cycle.  \nGood luck!
822558
Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!
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Your parent's may not like it now, but they will come to realize this is what is goin to make you happy. And ultimantly, that is what they truely want. But most of all what you need to do is make your self happy, it maybe nice to make everyone else happy. But the price that you will pay is your own unhappiness. Best of luck
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I was in the same boat.  My advice is to keep them happy, and tell them how much you're trying to get that job, or work hard at uni.  They wont stop, but at least they dont have too much of a reason to pester you.  After all, they are your parents and they probably just miss you - try not to cut them out of your life.  A sit down and chat session is reccommended: i had to sit my parents down and explain to them that im a big boy now, and to trust me to keep myself out of trouble and work hard.  They said they understand, but felt that they still needed to be parents to the baby of the family.  Keep your cool with them, they're only doing it cos they love you.
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You have to make a choice. Nothing sucks more than being somewhere you don't want to be. (You wouldn't happen to be in the middle of Kansas, would you? I did that. It sucked.)\n\nYou have to decide if you are going to make the most of the shi**y situation, or if you are going to do what you really want to do. \n\nIf you want to go somewhere else, you'd better start applying and seeking financially aid now. Stand up to your parents and tell them that it is YOUR education, and you want to be happy. Or, if you haven't already done so, sit down with them and have an adult conversation about this. They might just listen if you are calm and rational about it. \n\nIf you are to stay where you are, start looking for classes that you would enjoy. Seek out what things you could do for fun. How close is the biggest city? Are there any clubs you could join? \n\nYou have to make the most of what you have if you can't get what you want. :)
770499
you definately need to express your unhappiness. not to sound mean or anything but...don't expect anything to change with your parents. eventhough ur mom isn't happy either. i don't think your parents are going to up and change again just cause YOU are unhappy. that's just how I see it. maybe you can join some kind of activity or something. it really doesn take time to make friends. i've been in that situation before. my whole 9th grade year sucked because i had no real friends. but you will a buddy. it will just happen. i can't really explain it. just hang in there. \n\ngood luck.
43092
First tell her you are moving to Iraq to meet an internet lover named Bin.  Then say you were just kidding, and tell her about your grades.  Parents can handle a lot, they stuck with you through your puberty, they can handle it.
419656
if its your parent well they are not ruining your life they just want to give you the best. but if you see your parents are doing something wrong and that you dont like it well talk to them nicely and tell them that you want to do work with your own tym and dont tell them that they r ruining your life (that really hurts) coz you myt might hav a son or daughter who say more hurtful things to you :).\n \nif its a freind who comands you to do stuffs then s*rew them! they'r not your friends they are users. but if they ask politely... then why not ? just make sure of wat they do is something that does'nt deal with damaging your health and the way you treat yourself ok? :) \n\nand trust me i think your parents reall love you :) i can see they care for you coz here it is .....\nthey tell you to go to sleep early because it makes you prevents pimples stress and lack of energy and headache :)\n\nthey tel you to eat at a certain tym coz they want you to stay fit and wants you to avoid getting sick and want's the family bond a bit while eating. \n\ntym to talk w/ your boyfriend? ahhh... i'm not sure with that but it depends (for me) if your the one who call well better make it shorter in chit chat coz you'r parents will be the one paying the bill not the BF. but if its the guy? well.. if your parents told you to stop and do your home work well.... just make sure you did all your chores before talking w/ your BF so that you can just say that your finish and that well..(just my sudggestion :P) tell them that your studying w/ your BF on the phone hehehe :P \n\now yeah they want you to do your homework because homework helps you learn faster and you can get good grades easier :)\n\nanyway how to deal with it ? well have a conversation about it and ask nicely. always complement them (you look grate today and stuff) and dont ever shout at them coz the more you do that.. well the more they will give you headache :P
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i know what you are going through because im also a straight A student but whenever i get a bad grade i have to tell my parents because then the guilt comes in not telling them.  it may be hard yo stand up to your dad but if you have the bad grades and you tell him your trying really hard to work them off that usually works.  Good luck!!!