House cleaning- need a real honest plan of attack! HELP!?
956751
first, pick up all the mess. put everything in its place. you have to see progress after every half an hour or so - so that laziness won't overcome you. after that, you start dusting, then sweeping the floors. do not take your focus off the job at hand, let's say you found a movie cd stack under your clothes, put it in the cd rack and don't watch it until your done cleaning.
1158211
Listen, I am sorry I forgot to pick up the dry cleaning, but do you have to let the whole world know?\n\nI rub your feet when you get home, I run you a bubble bath, give you a massage, cook you dinner!  You just can't get over the dry cleaning!
208375
bite me    you rule for having the courage to ask this question,  i was in this jam myself earlier on in my marriage,  then i asked someone how to make this happen and the advice was do housework, like dishes and laundry and vacumning,  and on days when i do this it makes my life easier\n\nthe last two mornings i have done dishes before i left for work,\ntremendous change of attitude when i get home\n\nthink about it
578400
LOL! Not only clutter, but boxes of newspaper, glass & cans  for recycling, bags of books, piles of clothes - I just bought an ironing board. Old oven. New oven. Ashtrays. Only two dead trees hiding behind the couch. (OK, maybe I could live without the dead trees, fair enough, point taken!)\n\nBathroom is tidy & fresh tho'. \nHall is OK. Or - no, a bit dusty. One suitcase lurking there has turned into a table for leaflets. How did that happen? \nAnd doors are clean, no coffee splashes. \nPatio furniture is way due a wash & oiling. \nA load of plates waiting for the dishwasher, but I just had friends over for dinner. \nUm, the washing machine is spotless? \nMy knife block looks good? \nCDs all over the couch, but computer desk is neat?  \nWhat can I say - I guess I have no illegal alien cleaners to declare in this residence <g>
569255
When you find out the answer, let me know.  \n\nMaybe my house will finally be clean!
453280
listen home wrecker!\nStay away from married women.
878898
a cleaning strike is in order.  just pick up your stuff and either leave his where it sits, or pile it all up in an inconvenient place for him....like that front door, his side of the bed, in the garage, whatever.  i get so sick of picking up everything around here too.  good luck.  and how long does one have to deal with a husbands laziness before leaving him??
1042342
A air purifier is a start.  If its real bad, consider getting rid of carpets, rugs and pets.  Good luck.
1073543
I am the domestic staff. I say DON"T make the bed. It is going to be ripped apart anyway. It makes it way easier if you leave it alone. We have to put fresh bedding on there no matter how clean you are. And by all means take the little bottles of shampoo, lotion, and soaps. They are there for your convenience. If they are opened we throw them away. The only thing that chokes me is when you use the face clothes to shine your shoes, leave "used socks" in the bed, or half drinks in the trash.
878694
lol, she is griping because you are not leaving smelly laundry in her house? Sounds like you will have tons more odd problems in the future. I had a roomates for a few years and never realy noticed what they washed. Roomate situations can be very hard and you do have to learn to live with a few odd things  but banning you from the washer and dryer sounds like you will be in for a rough ride. I would not run yelling out  of the house but you may want to start looking for a new place.\nI know I said some odd things when I first had strangers living with me. I needed them there to pay my mortgage but it took me a while to get used to them in my personal space.  \n\nOne of my roomates made me take the house plants out of the kitchen window because they did not like dirt in the kitchen.
163907
I HATE housework! I put on some upbeat music and crank it up really loud, and if I'm alone, I clean house in just my panties. That way, when I'm done, I just hop in the shower. When I get out... clean house, clean me!
360592
wow, you have some issues there.. why dont you take a nice hot bath with lavender( its calming) then, when you get out write a list of things you need to work on. and goals. i write lists for everything and it helps a lot.  take things one step at a time and dont overwhelm yourself. Good Luck!
849240
Clean your house up. Start being a better conscious for bacteria and health hazartds around your kitchen and barthrooms.\nIf you live dirty your children will not succumb to it, they will repell will anti sywish move and then get wrose down the road when they really get hit with the big.
28008
split up the chores but realize that it will never be 50-50. Have specific days you do specific chores,such as Wednesdays I do laundry, Thursday I clean the bathroom and Friday I clean the kitchen,etc. Have your husband help out on the days that you do the specific chores.
895399
Start eating elsewhere. Start letting the filth pile up. If you don't make the mess,you don't have to clean it up. You might even drop a few fake roaches about the kitchen until the real ones show up !
188968
should i get off my house and clean the computer?
67100
I'm not clear about whether it's your husband or your child you want help from, but either way...Make specific requests....don't say "The dishes need to be washed" say to him "I need for you to do the dishes today" \nInstead of "It's trash day tomorow" say "You should put out the trash tonight"\n\nAs for the whole "won't get a job" thing...give the kid a deadline..."You have to either get a job and begin to support yourself by March 15, or find another place to live" and stick to it. Encourage the kid to sign up with the local job service or enroll in a training program, and close your wallet! Don't give anymore cash unless some specific agreement is made that the kid will do something to earn it...beyond being a responsible member of the household... something big, like cleaning the garage or attic not just doing dishes.