this is very complicated more than you people know. so dont be so quick to judge me. i need help.?
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Well first I will comend you for taking care  of your grandchildren. It's not your place but you are good for doing it. Not to be harsh but it really sounds like your daughter is craving the wrong kind of attention from men. She needs a hard dose of reality that men like that are no good and often are the ones who are crazy. As for you and the children in your care i would seriously consider moving. However you can pretty much find anyone on the internet. It's a terrible situation you daughter has put you in. I dont believe the police will do anything unless he makes threats or actually harms you. The thing that sucks is the same basic rights protecting you are the same rights he has even though he is an abuser. IN ANY CASE if are afraid for your life or your loved ones I would still call the police and see what they can do. Because state laws vary i may not be accuate on what the police can or can not do. I'll say a prayer for you and I hope everything works out ok for yoy.
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It really does not matter what we think use your brain and figure it out for yourself.Why come on here and ask us ? Do we know you or your boyfriend ? Have we seen the two of you interact? Ask your friends or family they would have a much better idea then we would.
862056
It sounds very complicated for you. Just remember: true love can be measured by how much it helps others, not hurts them.
638381
What kind of help?  Can you be a little more vague, please.  LoL..
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use ur brains and figure that one out for yourself. i promise it's not that hard.
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this is awesome!!..but hunny its so sad...you need someone to treat you good. and she definatly isnt the one to do it. thats the average girl for ya. im sorry to hear that. you must be devastated.good luck!
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If you had a choice, I'd strongly advise against it, but since you can't undo it,  learn to love what you have. There are lots of other guys in the same situation, if that's any consolation.
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That's a hard one. There's no other way to find out so just ask or ignore it and live your life. The latter may really be the better option.
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Seriously ,i got no idea iam a girl. The only thing i could tell you is don't rush your self. It takes time for every thing.i know you could do it! GOOD LUCK!
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just talk to him about it, he'd understand that your not used to it. or even look up on the net if your able to find.  im also dating some1 from a different culture...that is what i did.
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You should still talk to your counselor.  He/she has dealt with these same issues before, and may be helpful in suggesting things you can do to make it easier on yourself.  They are there to assist you!
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It appears you have a lot of doubts and questions about this man. He is certainly sending up enough red flags. You need to love yourself enough to get out now and save yourself a lifetime of wondering.
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sounds like you are confused. think this out better then decide
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open up and listen. You have to understand yourself to understand others. Sometimes none of us make sense.
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Sounds like you're on the right track but the only thing you can do is to keep it up. Just keep being wonderful and eventually he will have to see that you are different than the rest. I am in a similar position, though I've only been with mine a matter of months and he is still not willing to let down his guard as much as I'd hope. But I know that it will take time and patience for me and it will for you too. Most importantly, don't betray him in any way. Just show him you are infinitely consistent, honest, and trustworthy.
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You are so far into the material and emotional world that I cannot help you.  My advice is to drop all girlfriends and boyfriends and have no relationship whatsoever until you can get your head together.  You are a living soap opera! lol hon get some help!
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Well,I mean dude you seriously need help.I'm talking asap.I suggest therapy.Go try it.