If I'm dating a guy and he don't have a job, and he says hes working for the weekend what do i do?
956686
I guess you mean he doesn't have a job. Sounds like time to have a real talk. If he doesn't  want to talk or explain what is going on. I would say it is time for you to move on.
314955
if you want a job then you should get one. being in a relationship doesnt meaning losing your independance. explain that you want a job and that you can get another one when you move. some guys dont want girls to get work because it keeps them dependant on them. i wouldnt advise this for you. go out and get yourself a job if you want to do that.
995405
TRY ASKING HIM...BABY YESTERDAY I WANTED TO GO TO YOUR WORK TO SURPRISE YOU AND I DIDN'T FIND YOU THERE? I KNOW YOU FOUND OUT LAST MINUTE THAT YOU WEREN'T GOING TO WORK BUT I FELT CONFUSED BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T AT LEAST CALL ME TO LET ME KNOW. I JUST REALLY MISS YOU BECAUSE WE HAVEN'T SEEN EACH OTHER IN A WEEK I HAVE TO AT LEAST KNOW YOU ARE OK BECAUSE I GET WORRIED THAT YOU WORK TWO JOBS. LET HIM KNOW MAYBE HE WAS A LITTLE TIRED FROM THE TWO JOBS AND TOOK ADVANTAGE OF THE TIME TO REST. BUT TELL HIM COMMUNICATION IS SUPER IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP
1166374
I do not like playing games either, but I do not think that you should make yourself readily available to anyone. I mean most of us dodge our jobs and we KNOW that we are going to get paid for the time we put in. You do not know him well, you do not know where this is going. Slow down if he is what you think he is there will be plenty of time for the two of you to spend together. And on the contrary this is your world! Especially in this situation! All I can say is take your time if he is worth it saying well I kind of made other plans today is it OK if we reschedule this for (2 days later), will not turn him around. I think you are saying to yourself gotta get it while the getting is good. That's why you jump on it every time he calls. It seems that you would like to keep him around for some time so take some time. If you turning him down turns him away then that is just letting you know that he is not the person that you thought or hoped he was.
670233
he's using you...\n...\n\nhere's his mentality....\n... since you went to his house on the first date\nand let him grop all over you, he thinks you're easy...\n... i don't wanna know if you actually did give him\nhead or not.. but you've made enough mistakes...\n\n... your best advice is to leave him...\nBUT... if you think you have something really special\ngoing on, then here's the best choice..\n\nMAKE HIM WORK FOR IT...\n... little things like breaking off a date because\n'an unexpected incident at work..' or something like that..\n...\nif he gets mad and frustrated.. or over reacts,\nthen i suggest you leave...\n.. \nif he understands and asks for a date convenient for you,\nthen he's a keeper...\n\n....\nthe most important thing for you now...\nis to REDEFINE YOURSELF...\n.. he's probably got you tagged.. "Easy-to-get-some girl"\n\nyou've got to make him work for you... it's not too late..\n\ngodspeed
1144187
this guy sounds hopeless... you should go out with someone who has more on their mind
893417
going out with someone does not mean you are his gf, at least not yet.\n\nonly when he ask you to be his gf, then there is an obligation he should call you at least once a week if possible if his work is tight.\n\nguys are also humans you know?\n\nhe needs a good rest just as you need one when after a tired day of work.\n\nyou must concern about his health just as he should concern about yours if you are also tired after a hard day's work.\n\ntake your time to commit to a relationship and feel comfortable as much as possible - by relaxing etc - if you ever become his gf not to mention his future wife.\n\na show of concern every now and then at different intervals is a better option.\n\ncheers and good luck!\n\nmercury of love
673778
You need to suddenly not have time for him. Either he is going to see what you are going through and fix it, or you are going to learn it is time for you to move on.
479197
You need to set aside time that is just for the both of you. It may not be easy because he works, but you need to take control of the situation. \n\nTry and arrange a weekend away. It could even be at a hotel down the road, but the change of environment will do you both a lot of good. Arrange to go out for a meal, both of you dress up. Have the idea that it's a date in your head to make it more exciting.
822205
As long as he gets free room and board from you, he has no motivation to get a job.  You must take a hard-line stance against this.  Tell him he has 30 days to shape up and get a full time job, or throw him out.  Get your friends and loved ones to help you.
620164
honestly!\n\nwhy are you bothering?\n\nYou'll end up the person who will be supporting his habit 'cause he needs to borrow $20 (and he promises to pay you back, and he never does!)\n\nHe'll sweet talk you, he's probably got a way with words... but you'll be wasting your time! What do you expect to get out of this relationship?\n\n...And to top this off, be weary he'll eventually be stealing from you too! (This will definitely happen if he's out of work, can't hold a job down!)
582963
yes...how can you claim to be going out if you don't go out? unless it is a long distance relationship, there's something really wrong. Maybe you should try to ask him out on a date or ask him if he sees it going anywhere...literally.
344850
love is important but it doesn't pay bills...if he's not honestly trying to find work i'm sorry to say let him go...every real man wants to be the bread winner in his home, if that's not how he feels he has become a user...let him go
98102
Relax and quit jumping to assumptions that have no real basis.  IF he goes a couple of weeks and doesn't contact you then you would be right in what your thinking but we are only talking a weekend, and you never know what happened during that time.  For now just relax and enjoy your life and don't worry about it, he will either call or not call.  Either way, life goes on.
543987
You need to talk to him.  Assumptions are bad in business, horrible in relationships.
1134298
girl u are lucky to have some one like him probably he is busy cause of his work i will say just trust him and see how things go
735300
Just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime after work, if he says yes than he is probably interested.  But that way if he says no then you didn't come out with your feelings so he won't act any differently.