2nd time with an ex?? PLEASE HELP?
953718
This guy would be mad to even consider getting back together with this girl. She doesn't deserve a second chance. To be honest I don't even know why you want a " friend " like her - you sound like a nice person !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Talk to the guy and give him your opinion - does he really want to go through that kind of sh*t again ?
881226
Well just wait a while and make sure that you are ready to date some one new because you never know what could happen and getting into a relationship even though you know that you still have feelings for your ex.. isnt the perfect way 2 start a new relationship. wait a few days see if you still want your ex back if u do talk to your ex and try 2 work something out.... it worked for me and we've been dating for two weeks now (yea i know not 2 long lol) but my advice sweetie is just 2 wait dont rush your self it aint necessary :-)
376422
the fact you are trying to hide it is what shows so obviously...no one can hide true feelings... get a rebound, thats the only way to get over someone. your ex sounds like a jerk!
320746
It sounds like you really already know in your heart what you want and what you need to do.So,do it.Life is to short to be unhappy.You truly are in love with your ex,so that is where you need to be.I know it would be hard to tell the other person in your life,but it needs to be done,and it can be done in a nice manner.Like you just are not ready for a relationship with him,and you would not be fibbing,because you are not ready when you have such strong feelings for your ex.Also,this isn't fair for them nor for you all,and in the long run,it would be much harder to end as the more time that goes by.I say go and follow your heart.Good Luck to you!
141126
Firstly, I personally believe you can never completely stop loving someone if you truely loved them once. So yes, in my opinion it is possible for you to get some of your old feelings back when you meet your ex again. I guess if that happens, then you have to weigh up your options and decide what is best for you and what direction to take.
810308
Let it rain...you have to let go of all the pain and situations in the past before you start dating again. It's hard, but you got to do it. Yeah, you got the memories of your ex, but if you want to love again you got to move on. Don't call her. Don't do anything to her. Maybe there's some attachment to her if she was your first love and basically first everything, but you got to let her go. If things were meant to be between you and her it would happen. It goes with the saying "if you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's meant to be." If you and your ex were meant to be together you will get back together, but on the mean time move on with your life. There are plenty of fishes in the sea. Really and don't shut out on some girl because she looks too much of your ex or because you have an idea of what you want don't shut out on girls that don't met your qualities. You are just missing out and not giving this girl a fair chance if you are comparing her already. When you know you are ready to date is when you don't even think about your ex anymore or how much you loved her.  I know it's cliche, but yeah, just move on and the best way to move on its well, to envelope that person and then send it away. As in get all that feeling in your system then either write, cry, or whatever guys do out and then send it away. Throw away all those memories or hide it away. Anyway, a new love will come into your life when you least expect it to. Good luck and hope I helped.
1016318
You have to go into this with an open mind. I had a similar situation arise and am still trying to correct it. I was in a relationship that lasted almost 6 years. I was verbally, physically and emotionally abused by my ex. I met a wonderful man who helped me get out of my situation and get my mind off my ex. But I still doted because I had grown a strong attatchment to him (my ex) even though I didn't love him anymore. By the time I realized I was in love with this new man, things were too late...I'm still praying for him to come back my way.  What I'm trying to get at is that you need to give yourself time to get over your abusive ex, because you won't be happy in your new relationship. Loving somebody else is a big sign that you're getting closer to that. Remember your ex is your ex for a reason and HE did all that bad stuff to you. Not your new guy. You will also realize quicker in a new relationship if he has abusive tendencies so you can move on.  I suggest calling him and trying to set something up such as    coffee, keep it casual and let him know face to face how you feel. I know your scared but you have to do it or you'll never know what could have been!
862795
Sounds like you want to use the other guy to get back at your ex.\nWell here is what i think. You ex is going to think that you are crazy. He may think that you hooked up with the guy just so you could be close to him. Do what you think is best hun. I think that until things cool down you have to stay away from the ex. Even if you want him back you do not have to come off as looking desperate and crazy.
500679
get rid of her!! trust me i went through the same shit with my ex and turns out he was just playing me and another girl at the same time
31921
Honeesstlly? Bad bad bad idea, coz one time or the other you'll keep getting to see your ex, and thats not too good unless you have something else on your mind ;)
813544
How do you learn to trust again?\n\nThe easy but true answer is the Nike Response:  "Just Do It."\n\nRemind yourself that your current partner is not the one who wronged you, and your current partner shouldn't pay for your ex's betrayal.\n\nOwn your feelings and actions.  You CAN help jumping to conclusions.  You steer your life; your life doesn't steer you.\n\nYou have to relive your past as long as you decide that's what you want to do.\n\nDecide to be happy instead.\n\nGood luck and best wishes with your new relationship!
914934
Unless you are absolutely insane, and want trouble, leave the ex alone.  Do not call him, do not see him.  You say he never actually cared about you, so why would you even consider talking to him.  Do not mess us a good thing!
733745
Move on...find someone who truely appreciates you like you deserve to be.You should not try to get him back because obviously he has not been able to see the great, lovable , caring girl inside...so let him go and find someone who can find her and take care of her.There is nothing greater in life than being truly appreciated.you deserve better.I am sure there is someone just round the corner or right under your nose that you did not notice when you are so hung up on the ex.Let go and let the real thing find you.Bless you,sweety
465880
Stay away from this guy. He wasn't concerned about you or your feelings when he was doing the other girl and may have even transmitted something from her to you in the process.  You shouldn't give a damn about him anymore. \nThere are plenty of guys out there. Just be patient and do everything you can to avoid your ex and his significant other and there soon to be lust baby. Try and stay busy with other friends. They will help you through all this and introduce you to someone that is worthy of your time and love.\nGood Luck
891005
Honestly if you still love ur ex dont cheat the new person out of finding someone that loves them entirely. I mean would you want someone to treat you with half of their time and attention cause that is what you will really be doing especially if you start hangin with your ex and you have the feelings still. You will cheat. I would honestly break up up with the new person to prevent hurting them and dont run back to your ex because there was obviously some isues as to why you guys broke up in the first place. So just stay single you can still talk to your ex and communicate to solve the problem and then maybe try being together or you have to decide that you guys are better as friends and thats its. That way when you are with someone else and your ex wants to hang out it will be as friends and you dont diss your friends. I speak cause I have been there and done that. Trust me. make sure that you are completely over your ex though, otherwise you will be in a world of hurt
634516
you have to sort out all the pros and cons, Including, are you reading it wrong cause you want him back so much. \nAlso you need to ask yourself can you get over the things that caused you to break up last time\n\nBest of luck and i hope you enjoy yourself what ever happens
862660
First answer these questions. \n\nWhy didn't the relationship work? If you get back together, will things change for the better? If it didn't work back then, what gives you the guarantee that it will work this time? Resolve conflicts first and learn from past mistakes.\n\nIt is clear that you still have feelings for your ex. But are these feelings enough to make the relationship work?\n\nIf you can't answer with a resounding YES, then getting back with your ex is not a good idea.