Should I tell her now or wait?
963163
I would tell her, and here's why.  It's a strain on you, and you should probably put a little distance between the two of you for your mental health.  Tell her you've developed feelings for her, it wasn't on purpose, and you don't want her to feel pressured, but because of this you need to put a little space between the two of you for a time while you refocus yourself.  Then be friendly, but cut your contact with her WAY down.  This does a couple of things.  It lets her know your thoughts, which is important in an honest friendship.  But it doesn't give her the instant upper hand she would get if you "confessed your love" then waited around for her to do something (and what would that be? dump the BF?  decide if she feels the same in return?), which almost always has a bad result for the confessor.  Treat your developing ardor as a personal weakness of your own, perhaps a slightly embarrassing one, and assure her you're going to get over it without bothering her, you just wanted to do her the courtesy of letting her know why you can't hang out with her so much.\n\nOnce you go into "recovery" phase (spending less time with her) it does two things.  It lets her know you aren't a lapdog, hanging around, waiting for whatever attention she'll give you.  It actually gives you the closest thing to the upper hand you can have.  She'll also see less of you, giving her the chance to figure out if she misses you a lot.  If she does, she should be the one to bring up that she wants to see more of you.  When she does this, you can say (be nice to her, always be very very nice) "that would be difficult for me without the chance to date you... I'm concerned my feelings are to strong."  Be kind of wistful.  Then give her more space.\n\nYou're trying to get her to come to you.  It's the only way you have a chance after a confession anyway, but it can be very successful if she likes and depends on you, but has been more or less taking you for granted.  It also gives you control over your life, which is always adviseable.  One more piece of advice?  Flirt with some other girls.  But don't overdo it, and never be mean to anyone.\n\nMake sense?  Good luck.
1069139
I would wait and I definitely wouldn't attempt to steal him from her...what goes around comes around.Just wait it out and be his friend for now.Good things come to those who wait.
323113
Maybe she's waiting for you to say something first..Go for it and tell her.  If she's been hanging around with you for 2 years, she's not going to freak out and run...unless she's crazy.
91751
Talk to your friend first, then if she is okay with it, then go ahead
593324
you should tell her but not be mean about it..its better than her lookin like a fool.
316283
YOU TELL HIM - DONT WAIT AS IT MIGHT BE TOO LATE
1102934
Are you even friends? If you are going to tell her, then at least get to know her a little first. And some strong advise for when you do tell her eventually. Don't interrogate her and make her make the decision right then. Give her some time to think. Good Luck!
638710
just tell her.don't hold it in.well n/e way follow ur heart and good luck
112595
Oh dear Lord.  Please tell them right away.  You need sone kind of help.  I have never dealt with this and have no advise, but please get up enough courage to tell her, she can help you.
509391
Don't make her wait too long!  Act on what your heart tells you.  If you want to call, call.  It's like telling my husband "I love you".  Some would say that I say it "too much".. but if I feel it, I say it.  Just do it. ;)
354002
Well i think you should tell her how you feel and see what she says... maybe she will tell you that she likes you and had been waiting for you to say something
821425
Either or.  But get back to  her soon..  That will show her that it really was a great time for you.  Leave the number however you do it and be patient.
713130
hi,\n\nwell...i totaly think that u should not tell about ur feelings right now...because she already has a boy friend,y not u wait for and be just her friend and later tell ur deep feelings about her.You should keep ur feelings in silence for now...and remember true lovers always wins...\n\n:)good luck!!!
1129185
how long have you known this person?  i'm assuming you're not in any sort of relationship with her.  i would wait until the both of you have established some sort of relationship.  but i think it's really very sweet if you told her that after some time, just not immediately or she may think you're being very desperate or stalkerish.  most all girls want to hear that sort of commitment though!
370579
don't tell her until you both decide to. blood is thicker than water (sisters can mess you up)!
471610
Go for it!!!!! You'll never know what will happen until you tell him how you feel.He could be debating the same thing right now if he likes you too.In my opinion, its better to have told him and he said no, then to have not said anything and have never found out the truth. So, I say go for it. I mean, you only live once; and besides, love waits for no one.
220176
What do you hope to achieve by telling her?  If you're in trouble and need her help then by all means tell her right away.  If your intent is just to tell her then maybe you might want to rethink it.  How will she take that bit of news?  What will she do?  What will you do?  Some things are better left unsaid but it depends on your situation.