What to do when you Mom and sister hate your girlfriend who you plan on getting married to?
965496
you should ask them for thier blessing and if they refuse then that is something that u will have to deal with if u love your fiance and she loves you then thats all u need talk to your family and let them know that it bothers u and your fiance and that they need to fiqure out how to control that and if they dont have anything nice to say then not to say anything at all and whether they like it or not u love her and she loves u and u to are getting married and u will not come around if they are going to keep treating her that way and u really dont want that because they are your family and u love them too. i hope this helps u.
998040
There comes a time where you just have to tell the family to piss off. This is probably one of those times. Drama loving families will do whatever they can to start crap, and if they don't like someone you date they'll most likely let you and her know it. You just can't play their game. You might give them a chance to be nice to your new girlfriend. If they aren't at least polite to her, tell them you won't be spending time with them anymore until they can grow up. When it comes down to it, it's important that YOU are happy. Not your family. I know everybody wants their family to be happy. But seriously, you can only please one person, and that's yourself. If it'd make you happy to be with this woman, then by all means do it. Don't allow your family to screw up your good times with her. Good luck. :)
641139
It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.
557224
You need to really sit your sister down and have a long talk with her...  Why does she do that to you?  Jealousy?\n\nYou need to tell her that you love her, but that you don't appreciate and are very hurt by what she is doing...  Give her an ultimatum..  If she doesn't stop, you are going to cut her off of your life...  It's mean, but maybe she will learn her lesson, if she loves you, she will stop....
146721
Talk to your gf.\n\nIt sounds as though her mother can't cope with the fact that she's got a grown-up daughter.  \n\nExplain to your gf that it's hurting you when you're constantly being ignored because her mother still wants to control her life.  Tell your gf how much it's hurting your relationship.  Be honest with her, and ask her to think about doing something about it.
664895
You parents need some Parenting Help!\nI'm sorry it happened to you and it doesn't help at all if the one who should be neutral and don't take sides, your parents, do the same to you. \nI couldn't think of any solution other than to write your parents how you feel when your sister do things like that to you and so are your parents reaction when it happened. As long as you open up your feelings to them, keep on hoping that they would not do the same thing in the future. If they still do, try to go to your school (if you're still in school) counselor or priest/pastor or any relatives closest to you and ask for help to intervene with the way your parents behave.
1175039
sooner or later they're gonna have to accept u no matta wut i mean she chosed u & u chosed her and if you love her & she loves u and both of yall has shown it to each other  than just try to work things out & find out why her family dont like you.
327475
You and your Mom don't get along? Is that something you want. Decide whether you want to keep her in your life and if so, tell her how you feel...that a relationship with her is important to you, etc.
503205
First, I am a mother.  You need to think about what you are going to say before you say it. Remember she is the only mother you will have.  Also, try to explain to your mom how you are feeling.  This may help take away some of the frustrations you have.  I was a teenager once, I did alot of aruging with my mom as a teenager and it was about how i felt she was treating my brother a lot better than me, ect, which by the way she did, and now admits.  I ended up moving in with my dad and step monster, oops step mother, and It was find for like 4 months, then she showed her real colors.  It might not seem like it now, but try and talk with your mom, explain that you are just frustrated, and you need to tell her how you feel. I actually thought I hated my mom for many years, but now that I am older, I realize that i didn't hate her, I just did not like her actions, and the decisions she made.
296914
It depends on what kind of fiance she has (I'm assuming your sibling is a she, since there's only one 'e' at the end of the word).\n\nIf there's something definitely wrong with their relationship (for example, if she's marrying for money or something other than love), and that they'll only get hurt, then tell them that. It's for their own good. However, when you tell them, don't keep nagging them; it'll get annoying and they'll probably not listen. Even if they don't listen, don't keep reminding them of your opinions. If they get hurt, it would be a valuable, albeit expensive, lesson that they'll always remember.\n\nHowever, if you simply dislike the fiance because of his personality or whatnot, but there's nothing wrong with their relationship, then just be happy for them. Be happy that your sibling is happy. And then support them, because at this point, what matters is THEIR happiness. YOUR happiness will be the top priority will be when you get married (or it was the top priority when you did get married), and if your sibling didn't/doesn't like it, then too bad. But for now, support them and be happy for them. If you absolutely can't do that, then just back off. And fake a smile if you can.\n\nGood luck, and I hope the wedding goes well!
1124955
I think you already gave yourself the answer.  Stop doing favors for someone who is ungrateful.  Don't be giving her money anymore.  Hang up on her if she is unpleasant on the phone.  Leave if you are together and she gets mean.\n\nIn other words, make it clear you aren't her doormat and you won't take it anymore.\n\nYes you can ignore her if you have to.  Families have a way of healing in time but first you have to break this bad pattern.\n\nDon't let your mom guilt you into putting up with it.  If your sister tries to use your parents to guilt you into doing what she wants, explain the situation to them and tell them you aren't going to be her dog anymore.\n\nYou are only suffering because you allow it to continue.
584924
You can try a small get-together or a family reunion or a family Picnic. When you meet your daughter, tell her about your revelations and dont say anything that might seem as though you may be pointing something in her. dont compare her with the other daughter with who you get along well (as that may unknowning to you be considered a threat to the her.) \nI advise this to my mom whenever I get a chance to talk to her. We are 3 sisters and she cant get through to the middle one but with me she is fine, and many times she unintentionally compares her to me. presently She has stopped doing that and her relation with my sis has improved. \nBest of luck though, be friends! they are pretty grown up with their own family and somewhere in their heatrs they look for a friend in  parents
923779
Peace in the home is so important.  Try to find a way to get along with them.  Perhaps use a counselor.  Maybe, if you give it a chance, you can actually become close and enjoy a relationship with them as sisters.  Good luck.  I'm sure there's a lot more to this story than is presented here.
1156768
i know how you feel. i have some problems with my family also... i was fourteen when my parents sent me out from china to belize. my mom had my little brother when i was ten, and i couldn't accept the fact right away, and she usually scold me for everything. \nat the point of time, since they are coming and visit you, you should just act normal, and once you have a chance you call up your sister to a place where you guys can speak alone, and you need to tell her how much you are sorry about the past, and your feeling towards your whole family, and that no one can change what had happened, not even god. you need to tell her that you love her and that you are sisters, no matter what you will always be her sister and that no one can change it. people live people dies, and that you are sorry that your dad died, but nobody would want that to happened. you were just simply in love with someone that the family didn't wanted to accept and tell her that life is short, if she will continuing mad at you, then you couldn't do nothing more better to let her forgive you. Just remember don't yell at her or cry...\n\nwell, good luck, is just a suggestion that i am giving...\n\ngood luck again.
863106
Yikes! that sounds like a lot to deal with.. but if your gf loves you she'll help her family understand.. Just continue your relationship as you have in the past. As long as youre not abusing your gf her family will have no real reason to dislike you. If the love is there and strong enough you two will get through this.. just dont get mad at your gf for her mother.. she didnt get to choose her parents... Its too bad her mom doesnt see that you two love eachother! \n\nPS.. Kudos to you for surviving a long distance relationship. if you can survive that you can survive a mother
505937
I'm personally all for eloping, but in your case, it seems it might cause more problems than solutions.\n\nYou and your fiance need to have a clear plan established for how you are going to handle his controlling mother.  If he feels 'loyalties' to her now, he will when you are married.  And in-laws can be a great source of tension in new marriages.\n\nHow much would it really bother your parents if you eloped?  Mine know I plan to do that, and it still hurts them a bit that they won't be there.  Make sure you won't be hurting them outwardly.\n\nHow about a compromise, go to the courthouse with your immediate family members and get married.  Then in Sept you can hold a celebration party.\n\nGood luck.
632028
Sometimes you find somebody that you just can't get along with.  You should understand that she is different and accept that she probably isn't going to change.  Try to find something that you both like so that your happiness will conquer the anger. Also, remember, just because she is your cousin and your mom enjoyed being with her little cousin, doesn't mean you have to!