Girlfriend can't afford  xmas gifts this year, and doesn't want me to get her anything.  What should I do?
964423
IF, the issue is "CAN"T AFFORD A XMAS GIFT" and not some other relationship problem then sit down and talk.\n   Everyone loves gifts but it seems her motivation is feeling guilty if you gave her a gift and she had none to give you.\n   Agree that neither one will "BUY" a gift for each other. That both will select a present that you either make separately or together.\n   Some examples of together is help her paint her room/apartment/house. Detail her/your individual vehicles. Then also you both can go to a craft store and choose inexpensive materials to make a gift.  Or go to a local dollar store store and get something. Or just buy or make nothing other than a special dinner for each other and just enjoy each other.
869828
try being sweet. sometimes romance can get you alot farther than gifts.
789479
Not at all!  You aren't telling her what to get you (unless she asks), and I assume you are doing this for some reason of principles, and I think good for you for doing that!  Hope your mom respects your wish.  and Merry Christmas!
739445
It would not be a good idea, I think, to combine the giving of the engagement ring with Christmas giving.  If you have no money left, that will be no problem for your GF, because the joy of receiving the engagement ring will greatly outweigh not receiving a generic Christmas gift.  If you try to combine the two, it will cheapen and make less significant and enjoyable the receipt of the engagement ring.  Just explain to her that you put all you could into the engagement ring.  If she is the kind of girl who deserves your engagement ring, she will understand.  Best wishes.
976284
Man, I wish I was so cool that I could get presents from people who cared about me and then insult them on a public forum.\n\nGrow up.  And leave her.  She's way to good for you.
886169
You are "best friends" not girlfriend/boyfriend, right? That's the drift I get from you so diamonds is NOT the thing for the two of you.  You state she has everything so therefore I think you should get her something "thoughtful"-- remember the different places you have gone with her, the concerts, the movies, the eateries- who is her favorite singers, etc.  Get tickets to a concert, or event that you know she would love to go see and get 2, for you and her.
84527
It all depends on how shallow she is. Did you atleast get her a card and write in it?????????????????????? To me its not the gift that counts it's the card. I would rather have a feeling expressed card than a present. A present you just go buy (and some people don't have money) A card you put your heart into. If you don't have money or time now you should do something special, take a walk together, cook for her, rent a movie, write a poem....
940066
Personally, I don't buy for all of my family/friends.Most of the family still give gifts to me as they please, for which I am very, very thankful for and I let them know this. But, I've made it clear a long time ago that I am NOT going to feel obligated to purchase/give gifts - it defeats the purpose of gift giving!!!  \nJust mention politely before the holiday that you won't be giving this year, and "please do not feel obligated to give to me", something like that.\nIf they get snippy that is their issue! You can't be blamed that people have come to be selfish. Some people would rather get something from you knowing you didn't care, than to wait for a heart-felt present. That's their problem!
113468
A clue.You would not want her to accept an unwanted gift out of obligation.Maybe ask her this question to see what she says.Then you'll know for sure.
694343
Well, you shouldn't have to please her with material things, such as gifts and dinners. Love can not be bought, just like freindship. All you should have to give is affection.
813391
Give her a nice gift.  You arn't just giving her a gift - in a way you are giving the whole office this gift.  If you give a poor gift it will set off negative vibes for everyone else.  Remember that the true reason for Christmas is to celebrate the birth of Christ and all the positive influences that this means for the world.
981723
I now you don't want to get the watch but by her saying its broken is a sure sign that she wants you to buy her a new one - I did the same thing. I got a DKNY watch off my Fiancee last Christmas and love it. It means a lot to me as he chose it himself and picked up on the hints and I get to wear it everyday. \n\nIf you're really agaist it then how about making up a basket of all her favourite things - eg. Perfume, bubble bath, a CD, DVD, Nice underwear (not crotchless panties), a simple pair of earrings that she can wear everyday, It doesn't matter if you've already bought her a pair women love jewellery and it makes it more special and personal. Fave sweets or chocolate, how about a disposable camera to capture the Christmas moments together. I posh picture frame with her fave pic of the 2 of you in.........
909730
Money for Christmas? Yuk!\n\nPlease do not give him money or a coupon, that is such a distant thing for a Christmas gift!!! Horrible suggestion!!!\n\nSince you're all women, needing him to do the man's job, stay in that line and give him something food/drink.\n\nMy suggestion: a small basket with a Christmas cake / cookies and a bottle of wine, plus a nice Christmas card.\n\nMerry Christmas!
827003
Find out what she likes that would involve personal time.  Stuff is just stuff, but memories are much more valuable.  Does she like concerts, plays, or other special events?  If so, get tickets, and make a day of it.  You can "story-board" this upcoming day in a creative way (like on a poster board that depicts the various events or has paraphernalia pasted to it), and then wrap it up.  You have to wrap it . . . it's much more fun to unwrap something at Christmas, even if it's a promise for February.  At any rate, be personal, invest yourself, and she'll love it.
570501
why dont u buy her a big box of candy?? im sure everyone likes candy!! and if u feel a gift card is too impersonal, im sure u can make a nice one with maybe some pics of u and her on diff occasions... whenever u have a budget in mind, its best to make the gift, rather than buy it-- that way the reciever knows u care and are not being cheap... so put in some effort and even if u have only enough money to buy giftwrap-- its got to have 'love in every stick' if u know what im sayin. =)
542661
depends on who you are to her...\n\na friend...take her out for the day to a spa\na girlfriend...jewlery or nice clothes\na relative...gift certificate for a spa\n\npretty much anything that she would love to buy for herself that she can't afford.
806197
OMG the exact same thing is happeneing to me! Plus, my boyfriend won't tell me what he wants, and I know hes getting me something nice. =/ I might get him a cool CD player or a portable DVD player... i dont know, the seem a bit expensve... whatever. If i think of something i will let you know.. =) lol