I am sort of a tomboy. I am str8. I dont understand why they just can't accept it.?My mom used to support it??
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Honey you just be what makes you comfortable. Just keep up your grades in school. Religion is also very important, but that has nothing to do with who you are. Stay out of trouble and enjoy being who you are. God Bless you. Hope you will have the happy life that it sounds like you are seeking. I love little tomboys myself. They are not snooty or finding fault with others. Good luck my dear and have fun.
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Did not have strict parents that watched my every move. Never wanted to be with a female, so never had to 'switch'. No abusive childhood. My childhood went pretty well. I am close to both my mother and father, who live in the same home. Growing up my mother stayed at home and was a stay at home mom and my father worked. It wasn't until I entered junior high that my mother went back to work part time and not until I graduated high school that my mother began working full time.\n\nAs a child I remember very much the desire I had to kiss and hug the boys. I always admired the girls who could do this. I had boy and girl friends growing up. Yet, it was the girls that I admired because of the one reason: society said they could kiss the boys and hug them. I had a few crushes on boys growing up. Once puberty hit those feelings got mixed in with sexual feelings and not only did I find myself emotionally and romantically attracted to guys, I found myself sexually attracted to guys. I've never had the desire to even kiss a girl, let alone have sex with one. Girls are....well they're pretty like flowers, but I have no real desire to be with them as anything other than friends.\n\nIf no one is born gay, then I am not sure how to explain myself. I can't think of a time when I was ever attracted to the opposite sex...emotionally, romatically, or sexually. So I'm not sure what's going on, but all my life I've been attracted to males. And from all the books I've read that people have given to me written by folks who say that gays aren't born it's enviromental, well none of the enviroments they describe fit the enviroment I grew up in. In fact, the enviroments they say are 'healthy' and 'traditional'...well that's exactly how I grew up. When I came out to my parents, both of them weren't surprised. They said that my grandmothers (paternal and maternal) had sat them down when I had gotten to be school age and told them that from what they could tell there were signs that this was a possibility and that they should perhaps atleast try to plan for it. My parents apparently did just that because when I told them they weren't surprised and told me what my grandmothers had told them. They were just happy that I am happy and healthy and they are very supportive and loving. In fact, they also embraced my beloved when I brought him home for them to meet.\n\nAs for why there seems to be an increase in lesbians and gays in America? From what I can tell, and this is just based upon a few studies that have been done and my own opinion of what those studies were concluding (because most studies just give you the facts and then leave you to judge what the information is saying) was that the increase isn't real, there isn't "more" lesbians and gays in America than there ever has been. Or for that matter, there aren't any "more" in the world. The reason that it seems like there are more, is because a lot more are coming out and becoming visible. They feel safe to be honest with society and don't want to live a lie. In some places in the world it's still not okay for gays and lesbians to be honest, so they have to live a lie publicly. Yet the studies say that within the overall population of the nations, whether gays and lesbians are allowed tobe public about it or not, the ratio of homosexuals to heterosexuals remains the same. Now this is how I conclude that if the ratio seems to be the same, then the "apparent" increase isn't really an increase, it's a steady ratio in the population and that what people are actually saying is an increase is really not an increase in the numbers of actual homosexuals, but the increase in visibility.\n\nSo that's my answer to your question. Not sure if it was any help to you, though. It may not be the type of information you were looking for. \n\nPeace be with you.
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this is what gets me woundering about gay/ lesbians...if a guy is gay he says he dont like woman....but he dresses and tries to look like a woman....then there are lesbians says i cant stand men but the get the short hair cuts and dress like a man work out like a man and try to be like a man...so if someone dont like the oposite sex why do they try so hard to be just like them.... i do agree with you its just nasty.....my comment on the subject,,,
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I didn't make up my mind about being gay (which I am), but whether or not to accept it in myself and then decide how to tell other people about it.\n\nMy mind, my self, and my soul were already there.  I just had to learn to accept what was true about me.\n\nThe factors for me that showed me who I am were: by your age, I had absolutely no romantic feelings for or attraction to the opposite sex; on the other hand, I did have those feelings for my own gender. I had tried to force myself to have feelings for the opposite sex and failed dismally; I had had sex with guys and I enjoyed it thoroughly.  I would look at porn with women... just nothing.  \n\nI know the parental and cultural thing, coming from rural Southern Baptists.  Oy.  They have very little to do with me, so I have largely made my own "family" who don't care about my sexuality, they care about me as a person.  I think that if my parents are not able to accept all of me, then it is their loss... something friends have also said.  \n\nDon't rush your decision about coming out.  Don't feel there has to be a schedule, and don't say anything in anger or during an argument.  It would forever taint what you have to say.\n\nThink "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger" and try not to get killed! =)  Now, think what advantages this gives you: you are tackling difficult social and personal issues when many of your contemporaries are merely worried about their complexions.  Already you are a more complex, sensitive, and concerned individual because of what you are facing.
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I used to get that a lot. They'd always make fun of something. Sad thing was they were things I had no control over. Chest size, buck teeth, then braces, my speech inpediment, anything really. I just accepted that I wasn't that great looking and anyone who didn't accept me like that wasn't my friend. Just be yourself. Even if it's stuff you can change. Only change if you want to change... never ever change for any other reason. You have to be comfortable with who you are and love yourself. Hopefully soon, others will come to accept you are who you are.
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I can't claim to know anything about your problem, I'm a straight female.  But it just broke my heart to read your question.  This must be so difficult for you.  I don't know what to tell you to do, maybe you should try to wait for the right person to come along before you say anything, at least then you would have some kind of support.  I can't speak for your parents, of course, but if my child came to me and told me he's gay, I would be loving and supportive, a parent always loves their children, no matter what, at least that's the way I feel about my child.  I just wanted you to know I feel for you and wish you the best! :)
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because some people have problems accepting not everyone fits into the "socially accepted" mould.  This is her problem and not yours, remember that.  If your honest about who you are and you are happy, then let no one stand in the way of that.\n\nTalk to her and let her know where your heart is and how you feel.  Your mum loves you and will gradually get used to the news, its just a shock to her to begin with.\n\nRemember, homosexuality hasn't always been frowned upon by mainstream society.  Homosexuality was rampant and thought of as normal in many of the ancient civilisations, (Romans, Greeks) as well as in high society England as little as 200 years ago.  It was only when Queen Victoria (in the 1800s)was reigning that she made homosexuality illegal - though it should be noted, that Lesbianism was never outlawed as she did not believe it existed!!\n\nBe yourself, its all anyone can ask of you.\n\nOne more thing....Ignore the idiots on the first couple of posts...their jackasses as anyone can well see.
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I think that because it's a very tight-knit family it is hard. You always aim to make your parents proud, and hispanics grow up in a religious, Catholic setting in most instances. I know growing up that there were extreme homophobic undertones at most family gatherings. When my cousin came out as bi they were extremely nice to her face but were so cruel behind her back and told their children to stay away. You can usually sense the dislike there and family especially extended family seems so much closer and in your business, they tell your parents things and try to get you to straighten up their kids. One uncle asked me, "How many girlfriends do you have in college?" I said, "None." and his reply: "You're not becoming a fag are you?" Just too machismo.
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The guys say "No", but I bet that if you met them (assuming you're talking about yourself), let them get to know you as the astounding female you undoubtedly are, then once you share with them that you weren't born that way, it'd be difficult for them to see you as male at all after getting to know you as yourself. \n\nErrr. That was kind of ranty. I hope it made sense. ♥
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ive been xdressing for 25 years and never told my family ,unless you want to take it further ,say to change sex ,why tell them ,you can still go out and have fun as fem .good luck x
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Well, I'm not against it but my parents are.  When my brother finally came out of the closet, that did nothing to change their minds.  They were furious and my father told him he was sick in the head.  He was 19 at the time and had to move out of our home because my parents were being really horrible to him.  My Mom even 'disowned' him as a son at the time.  \n\nThey lost touch with him for a good 10 years.  My sister and I still kept in touch with him though.  It wasn't until recently that they are back in touch with him.  I guess they have somewhat accepted that he is gay but it is not discussed when they are around.  It still hurts him to this day and them reacting the way they did has messed him up a bit.  He knows he has the support of both my sister and I but sometimes I feel really bad for him not having the support of my parents.  Even though we are all adults now, it makes it no less hard to not have the approval of one's parents.  It's unfortunate because it's not like getting angry at your child and disowning them is going to make them any less gay.
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Your hormones are out of whack. You need a check up at the doctors office. You have good character by coming forward trying to figure this out. Tell your mom that you need some help.\n\nYou are a good kid and I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
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As the mom of a bisexual daughter. I say be honest with them. We as parents love our children and want them to be comfortable enough to be able to come to us with anything.Though I may not approve of her choices I stand behind 100% . She is my daughter and no choice she makes could ever change the love I have for her. My love and prayers go out to you honey.
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ok guy, you are not alone, my mother wanted a girl also,i have been dressing  as a woman for several yrs now and if you do not try to work something out you will form a female side which will get stronger the more you dress. myself,i have learned to deal with it and i do enjoy it. you have to control the female side or it will take control of you.as far as wearing heels it gets easy as you wear them. wearing a skirt with hose is ok.note, if you are wearing a bra your breast will form to the bra, so be careful unless you want to form breast.you are young enough to deal with it now, do something or you be a crosdressed as  i am. if dicide to keep dressing up for your mother you will lose to your female side and turn out as me. be smart,it turns into hell at times, you are the only one who can control your body, the other girls are right,make a choice now.within a year if your still dressing you will be hooked as i am. good luck again
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I am 33 and female. If my child were gay I would accept it . It is what is on the inside that counts. I would rather my son be gay and a loving human being, than straight and a jerk. Think about it this way. If anyone one loves their child, truly loves them, than you can accept them no matter what their lifestyle choice. If someone would say that they would not love their child anymore, than they never really had true love for them in the first place. I do have a son, so this is coming from a Mothers perspective. Understanding, trust, and Love are truly the most important things
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Well some parents are "old fashioned" and being a lesbian is probably hard for them to understand. Most people think that it is a choice but truth be told you are born with it....does that make you a bad person? No of course not...but to them "it is not normal...get over it and change.." so this is their way of doing that....soon enough they will realize they can't change you...no matter wat they do...you are who you are.....so let them know that..and keep on doing it...i mean at the end of the day they are going to have to accept it whether they like it or not..
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Hi!\nMy mom was the same way until I sat down and talked to her about it rationally. You just need to explain to your mom that you will be safe and not give out any information about yourself, and that you will not talk to people you don't know. Maybe she would let you get one if you didn't put your picture up. Hope this helps!