should I play nice or be a total B.I.T.C.H???
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First, I'd like to start with acknowledging the fact that you have the right to be extremely hurt by this situation.  It's very sad what you have endured.  Please, think about you FIRST, not what you're going to do to him.\n\nYou will find that the more wrongs you don't make in this matter, the easier it will be for you to move on and be happy 'cause you'll have no regrets...no things you'll look back on and know you only did from anger.  Please realize that being the bigger person will, in the end, provide you more sanity than not being that person.  What happens with revenge is that it's never truly enough to make up for the pain you are feeling.  You can do all kinds of crazy and hurtful things to him, but it's never going to add up to the pain he's caused.  It's only going to end up hurting you more 'cause you're going to continuously be searching for bitchy things to do to him, which will ultimately make you look at yourself in disgust.  Recognize that, take your pain, learn from it and move on will the least amount of drama as possible.  \n\nBut, also realize that what you are feeling is completely normal.  Don't feel bad that you want to be a bitch.  Don't bottle that anger up either.  Have you seen that series "Snapped"!?!\n\nHere's some knowledge for ya...if you act like a bitch, all that's going to do for him is validate why he treated you like one in the first place.  If you do that, he won't feel any shame for what he's done 'cause he'll just be like, "F_ck that bitch anyway!"  What you can do that would really kill him is to literally kill him with kindness.  Show him that he's hurt a nice person who's only tried to be good to him.  Then, he'll sit back and be like, "Damn.  I did her wrong, man!"...hopefully!  \n\nAlso, your daughter deserves to know her father, regardless if you like him or not.
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go for it.  unless youve got something else going on or you have something against this person, i say you should go
909765
love, do not worry about what people think of you. or why they hate your shots. just play natural as it comes. do not worry about people. if you start worring about them you will loose your natural game. just go on playing, I am sure they will start loving you too soon, but, do not even that affect your game. just play. and play.
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When you go to play the game treat it just like a practice. Don't play to impress anyone, but rather play because you love the game. Keep that same mentality at every game.  If you play because love what you are doing, instead of impressing someone you will do better. Most of all even the pros's have a bad day from time to time. Just do your best, and you will come out on top! Best of luck in the future.
682434
well don't change what u are ur nice keep it that way just concentrate ur niceness to asking a girl (thats on ur level) if she sould like to go out to a movie take it easy
398842
If you don't mind the games as you suggest, then I'd say go for it. If you're looking for something more on the serious side, the best thing to do is ask her out. If I flirted with only one man, I definitely would be trying to send him the signal that I like him. I wouldn't be playing games. Sounds like she's just waiting on some type of response back from you. What are you waiting for?? lol
943460
It's always possible to be nice and gentle to everyone. Especially if you are a gentleman. We ladies do love men who are sweet/caring and loving. Just ignore those people who misinterpret your attitude. Just be yourself/stay as sweet as you are and you will gain more friends. I reiterate, just be yourself so that God will always be at your side. Happy Christmas and Merry New Year to you..................
649340
wow well i hate to say it but i think no matter how nice you try to be u will hurt her. my suggestion is to be as nice as you can and say im sorry but i just want to be friends im not looking for a relationship right now i would much rather be friends or something like that\ncuz no matter how u do it it will hurt her a little bit but i hope u can still be friends
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Hey, what's going on with you girl?  If don't have respect for yourself, then do it.  Otherwise, if you value who you are and how you are, you would not be thinking about doing that.  Just doing do it; that's the worst decision you can ever make in life.  There are lot of good jobs, but don't choose a "job" like that.
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If you need to act like a brainless jerk just to get 15 minutes worth of attention, my suggestion is you should probably seek counceling to find out why you need the attention that your seeking for those few minutes.  I would suggest self esteem issues may be looked into.  You leave an impression for  a long time with anyone that you act like this in front of.  And the message you leave for those 15 minutes is probably more than your just a brainless jerk
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Do you  have a personality? I'm not trying to be an ass but my girl friend just went out with some guy who is super super nice but she said he just had no personality. No spunk. He wasn't funny, he wasn't sarcastic, he wasn't artsy, he wasn't into music, he wasn't really passionate about anything. But he was nice. What the ladies love is a funny guy, or a guy who really loves something. Animals, art, music, nature, sports...whatever. And of course it's always important to be clean and presentable. A nice guy will never win if he's got bad hygiene or smells bad. Smell good! Be talkative. Be a little more than nice. Be passionate. Don't be creepy and nothing but complimentary, that's like you're a girl's gay best friend. Just be presentable.
797649
I've read lots of responses of that kind.  They're a dime a dozen.  You mustn't let vicious people upset you or cause you to have hard feelings toward others.  Be a lighthouse and show others how reasonable and imperturbable you can be.
695416
You are being toyed with, from the way it sounds at least. I wouldn't put up with that. It is never fun to be at the butt end of someone else's game, whether it is a malicious one or not.
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I do think that I would be considered a "nice" person, only if you don't ask my kids.  I have been told that I am a mean mom, because of the discipline or making them do something they don't want to do...like clean their room...LOL!  \n\nI try to be pleasant with everyone.  I try to be civil with those that might have rubbed me the wrong way, because I know that we all have bad days or whatnot.  I teach my children that they do not have to like everybody, but they still need to be nice.  Just because they do not like a person, it does not give them permission to be rude.  If they are having a problem with someone, try to talk it out, then if it is unresolvable, stay away from them.  Easier on everybody.  If someone on the other hand is threatening them in any way, they need to get away form the threatening person.  \n\nI believe in the things that I'm teaching my kids, and follow this myself.  So I think that I would be in that nice category.  But there are those times, unfortunately, that need a bit more force, but still I try to be as nice as I can.
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I agree that it's not very nice when people answer friendly questions rudely. But come on, you're setting yourself up for attacks if you come across as needy, slutty, or ignorant, no matter how harmless or cute you try to act. \n\nLet's face it, if you're trying to gain respect, you're going about it the wrong way. You're not doing yourself any favors by having an avatar name that features the word "kinky" in it. People read that and they already think you have low self-esteem and that you try to seek reassurance by acting like a s*l*u*t. On top of that, if you're so needy that you have to shore up your self-confidence by asking people if they're attracted to you AVATAR, then people may feel that someone who exibits that sort of behavior is just begging for an insult.\n\nIt's as if we were holding philosophy class and all of a sudden some bimbo cheerleader comes up and says, "Hi, I'm Bambi! Do you guys like my outfit?" and then sticks her butt in your face. The fact that she acts all innocent and young and naive doesn't excuse her obnoxious, superficial, egotistical behavior.\n\nIf you don't want people to be mean to you, change your name to something more respectable, and don't ask ignorant or needy questions.\n\nBy the way, you are to be complimented on your spelling and punctuation. Perhaps you're smarter than you let on. I imagine that if you put that intelligence to good use and try to use your good spelling and grammar to impress people rather than relying on a sleazy name and a sexy avatar, and people will start treating you with a little more respect.
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The good news: yeah we all feel this way.  The other good news: there's a way to get your way, get people to move their lazy asses, and not come off sounding rude, obnoxious, or like a psycho crank from hell.  All these answers have one thing in common: passive-aggressive hostility, bordering on actively aggressive hostility, with a more than a dash of sarcasm and verbal abuse thrown in as well. (Shoving a sausage up someone's vagina?  That's rape, and that's sick, sad and WRONG.)  \n\nI'd be surprised if anyone actually did what you wanted them to do if you address them so rudely and disrespectfully.  And there's a possibility you could get yourself beaten up or killed if you keep going the way you are going.  I suppose it all depends on whom you say this to as well.  Do you speak this way to a 300-lb leather-clad motorcycle dude, or an older man who's taller than you, or just to women and children and homeless guys down on their luck?  \n\nPeople since ancient times have been decrying "O tempora! O mores!" (O the times, o the behavior!)  We all want what we want when we want it, and not all of us are enlightened, sympathetic, empathetic or upstanding enough to think of ourselves and others at the same time.  Given that, it is up to the individual to uphold the social contract NO MATTER if other people do or not.  If you know to do good and don't do it, you are no better than the people you criticize.  In fact, by being rude, mean and obnoxious, you may be much worse than these people.  Everyone, after all, makes mistakes, has a bad day, forgets.  YOU make mistakes.  YOU have bad days.  YOU forget.  No one -- including you -- is perfect.\n\nI recommend The Paradoxical Commandments by Kent M. Keith.  The book is titled _Anyway_.  Some gems include: People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centered.  Love them anyway.  If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.  Do good anyway.  If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.  Succeed anyway.  The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.  Do good anyway.  Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.  Be honest and frank anyway.  \n\nAnd by the way, "frank" here doesn't mean honesty and telling it like it without tact or discretion or feeling for others.  It means being honest with sensitivity, compassion and empathy.\n\nLike my momma always told me, you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.  Peace, K
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Always be nice, but not too nice, u have to let them know ur still the boss. So I would warn them first by saying i'll be good to ya'll if ya'll are good to me, if ya'll misbehave...u don't want to misbehave. things like that. for tests i would give extra credit, preferrably something outside of class. just make sure u have fun, because if u have fun then they will and its much easier for them to elarn that way!!! goodluck!!!