Moving in together need help....?
968017
You didn't say how long you have been involved with him. His mom may think you two don't know each other very well, and doesn't want to see either of you get hurt. Be sure you tell mom that you are grateful to her for giving you a place to stay during the rough times, and you feel it is time for you to move out and get your life back on track. Tell her you are sorry that she doesn't agree with you guys moving in together, but that you guys care deeply for one another...maybe she just needs to hear it from you.
380894
i dont think you should have moved in with him. im guessing the only reason you moved in with him was because you thought that if you moved in with him it just might work but really its making you feel bad because you still like him and he has obviously moved on. what i think you should do is do the same thing he is doing act as if what he is doing is not even bothering it might be hard but its what you have to do, sit with him and talk about other guys, let him see you goin on dates and just goin out having a good time. maybe he'll realize that he had something good. and just maybe he'll get back with you.
285573
Move back into the same room, being separate will not help!\nTry  for a weekend get away.
817123
Date him, sleep with him, move in with him.  If at any point you feel that it isn't working out for you, tell him and leave him.
609962
im sorry\nthe same thing happened to me w/my x. He would move out anywhere from couple days - month. \nwell eventually i had enough we are not together. \nleaving for while wil not solve any problems at all either.\nwell good  luck to you i hope things work out for you!!!
484401
Gosh my mother in law moved in with us last year and was here for 9 months 10 days. The day she moved out was awesome. I like the lady but can not live with her.. Get out and get your own place.
155997
You'll probably need to change your entire surroundings.  The big three, you know?  Work, Girlfriend/Boyfriend, and Living Situation.  That way you can focus on adopting a new situation.
1129018
Move out immediately. If she loves you, she will move with you. It isn't the ex that is the problem, it is your perception of him that is making a mess. It doesn't matter what she and her ex did, it is none of your business, just as your past is none of her business. Either take it or leave it. I live with my ex, and have a new love living with me...there are no problems in my household (that I am aware of, anyway).
924854
That depends on what you are looking for and what he "expects"from this.\n\nAre you romantically involved or do you both want someone to "share expenses" with?  \n\nIf you are "involved", even though you may have know him for a long time, I think it's too "soon" to move in.\n\nIf you want a roommate, how will both of you feel if the other person brings home a "date"?  \n\nOnly you can decide this and you have to seriously think about what both of you want from this relationship.  I'd say you are probably better off getting your own place.\n\nGood luck with whatever decision you make.
989525
This happened when me and my boyfriend first moved in together.  No one is to blame, you are just getting used to seeing sides of eachother you hadn't before.(you are prob both driving each ohter a little crazy, right? ) And now that you living together its not like you come over for a few hrs and she devotes all her attention to you and then you go home.  You both have to get used to not always being in the center of each others attention.  As for the sex, if you see each other everyday she doesn't have to  worry about the next time she is going to get it.. so it becomes less of a priority....  It will get better in time ..give it a month or 2..... if it doesn't I'd definately bring it up to her.. just dont place any blame... good luck and I hope it works out for you :)
705529
Do it. Just make sure you take care of yourself. Start a little savings account in case things don't work out and you find yourself suddenly without a roommate. Do you really want to get to know your man's living habits AFTER you've signed a legally binding document?
853146
I will translate guy for you....I want to move in with you but do not want to be rejected by you....\nHe may not mind the kids...If I were you I would never ever let him move in...You are making a good stand. Keep it up.
99600
It depends on a lot of things.  Age is a biggie.  People under the age of 25 (statistically, not by fa, every person) tend  to stray at some point.  This is not true for everyone.  Living together is stressful.  When I moved in with my fiance`, it was a fight a day.  You have to get used to living with that person.  It is different than the two of you doing sleep overs and being around each other.  My mam told me this and I thought she was a liar.  But I will be darned, she was RIGHT.  It is a good step to take before you take "the plunge".  It helps you to see if the two of you can live together.  Good luck to you!  Happy valentine's day!  It worked for me and I hope it works for you too!
507750
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
191798
why is this guy moving in? is he moving into your parents house or in with you and your brother?\ntalk to your bf about this. let him know that you arent going to cheat on him and that you cant not allow this guy to move in because he wont have anywhere to stay. Then invite him over a lot when the guy does move in so he can get to know him and deicide if he is a threat or not. Look at all your options, but if this guy just wont be understanding and flexible, then let him go! HE is jealous and insecure and you dont need that drama.
1148996
her parents will allow you to rent the basement. you will have your own space, so it will not be the exact same as when you "move in " with a girlfriend.  Besides, you need to ask yourself the question...how do you feel about this girl? do you see potential there? if so, discuss with her the situation, that the living arrangement would really help you out financially, but you are worried that it might be moving too fast in your relationship.  most importantly, if you do move in ...respect her, respect her parents, and don't be late paying the bills....it will look good for you all around.  good luck...i say do it!
193881
Financially, you need to talk every issue out before you move in together.  In marriage I'm a big fan of whats yours is mine and what is mine is yours and no financial separation.  However, when it comes to living together, I think the best way is split everything based upon the percentage of total income each of you brings in.  Other things you need to consider are questions regarding items that you buy together and things such as the lease where both of your names are on legal paper work.  Plan for what if you break up now so that in your life together there is no misunderstandings how things are.  \n\nAs for the rest of moving in together, be flexible.  People change and act different when living together.  Set rules for schedules and cleaning and normal day to day expectations.  If you talk this all out and have know what to expect it makes it so much easier to actually enjoy living together which is what this should really be all about.