I am a single, 42 yr old female.  Why do I feel I do not recieve as much credibility as a man or married woma?
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try being a five foot tall guy, you get the same treatment. I bet even you will laugh at me.
175732
Lonliness is usually the root cause of it I think. Many woman feel their men never listen to them so they go look for someone who will. I wish men would learn that before the 2nd. marriage.
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all women "manipulate" to a certain degree.  for example I do not feel that I am an extreme manipulator.  I prefer to think of myself as a "motivator".  In all honesty, a lot of men do need a little pushing once in a while.
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First of Amen and God bless that you have been able to stand strong and faithful. I think it is awesome that you have not given your self so easily like most woman or men have done.. I can't say I can relate. So hang in there I know God has a special man in plan for you. =)
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Unfortunately, it just is that way sometimes.  You have had some bad luck with women, but I don't think it's anything you do, per se.  Maybe it's the type of women you tend to fall for.  Are you attracted to women who are super-confident and assertive, almost to the point of bitchiness?  Do the women you date expect you to do whatever they tell you to?  I think it's nice that you are a sensitive, kind, poetry-writing kind of guy, but if asserting yourself in a relationship isn't your strong suit, you'll probably keep getting your heart broken over and over again.  Try dating outside our usual "type," and maybe you'll find a woman who will really love you for who you are and be faithful to you.  Good luck!
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not anyone at work that you know is single or divorced?\nperhaps at church?(if you are a church going person)\nor perhaps ask your fellow female friends if they know someone who is available(remember to ask if the gent is stable(mentally)lol....need to be carefull out there!....\n              good luck!
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I am a happily married woman. You can't blame yourself for what happens or goes wrong in the marriage, UNLESS you have done something wrong. Not all marriages last, but in that case they were never meant to be! I think women should share an equal role in the relationship and don't ever let a man control you. If you do then you deserve what you get. This is not the "old" days where the woman does what the man says. I know that if my husband would ever try to control me...he would be out...out the door! If you are insecure with yourself, then you need to find yourself and then proceed from there. I have my insecurities too, but that don't mean I take the blame for anything, especially if I didn't do any thing wrong. I am very happy with my marriage and even though it doesn't always go smooth, does not mean that I don't love him and he don't love me
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Sometimes you won't find people, they'll find you. Have you ever noticed that if you're actively looking for something, you won't find it... and then when you relax, you realize it's been right infront of you the entire time? It may work like that.\n\nYou are a smart and intelligent female with a gentle heart, from what I've seen here on Yahoo! Answers. Being so, you must have an inner radiance that shines so brightly, I'm surprised you haven't a husband yet! (More surprised to discover you're 31, as you always came off to me as your mid 20's... like 24.)\n\n\nWell, let's look at the pros and cons of a husband, shall we? (and let's humor you and say he's Hindu and views God like you do)\n\nPros - A companion, a lover, a best friend, someone to discuss new ideas with, someone to love, someone to love you, someone to attach to emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally\n\nCons - Another person to take care of, someone to argue with, someone to get stressed over, someone who needs constant care, someone whom you may at times want to beat the cr*p out of, someone who -- while he shares your beliefs -- is quite different than you and will have AT LEAST one thing that will tick you off to no tomorrow that he'll refuse to change.\n\n\nFate and Destiny has been selected for you already, as it has for everybody... at least, it's in my opinion for it to be so. Just wait for him to come, or for a symbolic message to come saying that you should "marry" God.
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girl i know exactly how you feel!!!! ive been married 10years and very lonely... dont get discouraged!!! alot of women may have alot of male companions but ask yourself ARE THEY QUALITY MALE COMPANIONS. ive thought about leaving my husband many times, not for any other reason except we have no quality time together.... i stay because i dont want to CATCH anything, if you know what i mean... you can go have fun with friends and eventually youll  find someone. dont go sleeping around either.. ok..
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Because genetically women GENERALLY are looking fora good provider - - so years and years of training has caused men to attempt to prove they can be a good provider, and to do this they brag on the possessions they have acquired.\n\nWhat you might consider is peeling the onion.  Rather than dismissing a man simply because he took the wrong route to get your attention attempt to redirect his focus.  Don't be so callous as to dismiss him but ask him questions about things that interest you.  \n\nI promise being understanding and nice and kind doesn't hurt at all.  You might find it to be useful, unless you plan to live the rest of your life alone and angry.
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In high school and when I was single, I had more guy friends.  My best friends were women though.  I think I had more guy friends because I liked the attention and flattery without having to be committed in a relationship.  \n\nNow that I'm married, I have more girl friends...I get all the attention and flattery from my husband!  I can relate to women more...especially women who are married and/or with kids.\n\nMy husband doesn't have girl friends and I don't have guy friends...unless they're mutual friends of ours.  It relieves us both of making the other feel uncomfortable.
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When I was younger, yes I did feel this a little bit.  Now I'm older, no, as I keep myself busy with lots of interesting things to do.  Fill up your time with hobbies and interests and that 'big hole' gets way smaller.  Strangely enough, the less you appear to 'need' a guy to complete you, the more attractive you become to men (at least the healthy ones).
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Do something that you've always wanted to do but couldn't do when you were married, this will certainly make you look on the bright side of being single with no commitments.  As for trusting guys, there are plenty of good ones out there, unfortunately the good guys don't always meet the good girls first time round.
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I hate to say this but I hate it when one person speaks for all. ALL WOMEN are different the same as all men are different. I am a woman who looks for the sensitivity in a man as I appreciate that. I do believe as a society we have come to look at emotions as being a weak thing but I don't agree. I can agree with self resolve though too. The answers are within and we must seek to find them. No one is an authority over us so why run to other people as if they are.
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women are more relationship oriented. We are wired to talk and have deep conversations. That is how we bond and feel close to a person. Men, however, bond by DOING. So often it is "out of sight, out of mind" for them. They will feel close and intimate when they see you and can interact with you. They may think about you when you are not there, but it's not the same sit by the phone and wait mentality. What can you do? Try to explain how you feel. Tell him what I told you. it took my husband awhile to catch on, but now he makes more of an effort to try. You can try by not flipping out every time he doesn't call you, and try to understand that it doesn't mean he doesn't love you.  \n\nI understand I am generalizing, and apologize for that. Not every woman is that way, and not every man is that way, but that is how it tends to be for the majority of the population.
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trust is not something many people have or give anymore. Look at the world around you, how many couples do you know that either do not or should not trust eachother? Alot, sadly. Insecurity can be part of it, but even "Miss America" in a few years past her prime can be replaced by a younger contender for her man's affection, and like in the field of technology, alot of men will see it as an upgrade to the latest thing. It kinda makes women feel like they have a "shelf-life" that often ends as quickly as a modeling career, when she gets a little gray aroung the edges. You have to keep re-inforceing to her that you love her and will never leave her, and don't act like you're interested in or flirt with other girls, if you do. You may not be doing anything wrong, but she will still feel threatened by other women's ability to capture your attention.
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I lost my 1st husband 10 yrs ago. I just dated and dated. I am very independent, but felt like you. I still felt lonley.\nTry personal ads where some men are in same area.\nWorked for me, been married for almost 2 yrs now. This man is really my knight in armor. Good luck to you..there are some good men left.