First date Dilemma: Incredibly bad timing (family illness)?
966349
I think you should still go out with her (with the full understanding that she might be in a bad mood and that would have NOTHING to do with you) Actually, she might appreciate a chance to cheer herself up, and forget about her mom's illness for a couple of hours (and, she might think very highly of you for giving her a few moments of happiness in a time of great sorrow in her life)
990865
My best advice is to take things slow.  It is very intimidating to meet someone new like that.  When I met my birthmom back in 2000, we decided to keep it just her and my half sisters rather than me meeting the entire family.  Just take it one day at a time and have fun.
651402
Move on. Having a non standard family is very common nowadays, and as long as your son knows he is loved then its ok to date. It is worse for the child if they grow up in an environment where the parents are not happy together, so as long as your sensible about it then go out and date to your hearts content.
1073914
If you feel things were going too fast, they were.  Be careful putting yourself in these situations, though.  If you go to a guy's house when his parents aren't home, he expects to get laid, especially if you start fooling around with him.  If you unwisely put yourself in this situation again before you're ready, tell him no first if you didn't this time.  Oh, & don't give him a sexual moaning no, as this won't get his attention.  Give him a blunt, firm, commanding no.  If you lash out violently right off the bat, he may reciprocate.  This is another reason it's wise not to go somewhere alone with him until you are ready for this possibility.  He could have felt like you led him on, & were being a tease, & then gotten enraged when you slapped him.  You're lucky, because this could have resulted in an asault or a date rape.  From now on, I hope you'll be wiser in your decisions, as this could have ended up being potentially dangerous.
1010144
I don't know your culture - here this would happen at the first date without any meaning at all.\n\nGreetings from Switzerland
696460
well...first of all...dont listen to her friends, they will be the first to sabotage a relationship...and if you two have been together a week or better and shes already having problems, then let her make the first move...tell her that you are there for her, and if shes got family troubles the last thing shes gonna be worried about is a boyfriend. be there for her as her friend and work out the relationship part later.
675838
Just ask her, what's the worst that can happen? GOOD LUCK!
953249
Surely you can afford to take a young lady for dinner, shame on you if you are that cheap and don't want to.  It shows alot when you want to spoil someone a little, and selfishness surely says alot about someone. But later on a nice picnic a girl makes won't cost you anything, nor a walk so yes at first it doesn't hurt to spoil someone if you really like them and they are worth it. Then you can take turns.  I once went out on a first date with someone I really liked, I discovered they were overly stingey, while I am not, there was no second date.
594621
Why not? If its a great date, then you scored.\n\nIf its a so-so date, at least you got out of the house.\n\nAnd if its horrible, then you will have a funny story to tell later on!
646237
I am 32 and have been married to the same man since I was 19.  I had my first child @ 20 and second @ 23.  I work when I can, but with my hubbys job, sometimes I have to stay home.  I like having dinner ready for him.  Its not a bargain.  It is in the vows we take in our wedding.  When I am sick, he takes care of me and vice versa.  You can only speak for yourself, and that is good enough.  Have fun now, while you can, and save the dinner fixin' for later in life.
564504
I think that movies are a cop out on a first date...I agree with those who say do something low-key and fun.  Outdoor activities are great and you could take a picnic.  Have fun!
1019812
honestly. my family is the same way. its not so much that noone dates, its just that to my parents its taboo, and my sister well, shes an idiot. best advice i can give you. she doesnt need to know. believe me. ive been there, and ive done that. she might not get mad... but she might treat you like an idiot or something. there really is no reason she has to know. unless you are dating this boy... she doesnt need to know. even if you were dating him, dont tell her till its serious. but if you feel the need you MUST tell her. just drop it casually, dont make it a big deal, cuz then she will.ask her how her day was... then just say "oh hey, i like this boy", or "oh, guess what? turns out i have a boyfriend now." something casual. if she blows upp, and gets mad, then your gunna have to deal wiht it. because thats what girls do.. they date. and if your sister cant deal wiht that.. then she has some problems. best of luck. hope i helped.
1058335
After recently divorcing from a 16 yr marriage, I went on my first date. It was terrible. He was the worst kisser ever. Now granted, I hadn't kissed another man in over 16 years but I honestly felt like my face was being pecked to death by a chicken! LOL\nI couldn't wait for that date to be OVER!!!!
173362
This person has been diagnosed with a mental illness...it is the same as any other illness! Would you wait for the person if they were in the hospital with a broken leg...no matter what the illness a sickness is a sickness...BUT... if the person is abusive...no matter what the circumstance is, leave the relationship! No person should put their hands on another in anger!
1123431
This is a difficult situation and I can just imagine your anguish.\n\nFirst of all, expect the best but prepare for the worse case scenario.\n\nFrom the hints you've given us about this man, it seems he has had it rough. Probably, at fault for having deceased, divorced or careless parents. I might be mistaken, but his behavior either way, is not normal. Something is defenitely going on.\n\nConsider also, the fact that many men tend to suffer from depression. From the way he is acting I feel tempted to deduct that he has a bout of manic or bipolar depression. You know, one day he is Mr. Perfect an the next day you wonder if its the same man you met the day before. \n\nSo while you figure this puzzle out, try to not depend on him too much, and try to find something else where you can rest your emotions. Having them take a ride with him on tha agressive roller coaster isn't healthy and might ruin your happiness if things do not work out in the end.\n\nLastly, you might want to consider the following ideas:\n\n-As him out on a date, perhaps coffee, and tell him how you fee.\n-Drop a note during lunch time, telling him you know he's had it rough and would like to take him somewhere special where ha can relax and just forget about everything for a day or two.\n-Buy him flowers (If he is this type) most men like it.\n-Give him a pucker up on the cheek next time you see him and tell him you hope all goes well.\n-Offer your shoulder to him when no one else is looking and invite him, or rather, make him cry. Men have a hard time doing this but if you help him confide in you and reassure him its ok to get teary, next time youll be grabbing for is the klenex box.\n\nIf despite your eager attempts to get a hold of this seemingly bipolar prince charming fails. Give it some rest and keep your options open. Perhaps then you might give him the chance to loose you and then see how muvh you truly are worth it, and at the same time, you give yourself a breather and an opportunity to meet a few others.\n\nBest wishes, and you too, cry a little now and then.
412762
Dating for only Four days is too early to be in love with anyone.  I think you should slow down.  Your uncle and his parents are looking out for you guys.  In the overall picture of life, you are still very young.
872003
I think you should go with #1..he wants you to meet his family! Awesome...and it sounds as though you are going as a date. with #2 it sounds like friends hanging out with friends.