Dealing with ex wife?
958554
Keep in mind that when you get married, you're not just marrying the man, you're marrying his family.  Unfortunately for you, his family involves children and by association, their loony mother.  \n\nI think you need to discuss your reason for hesitation with .  Do not be confrontational or demand things, as that will make him feel like he has to defend himself (and possibly her).  Just talk.  Then let him talk.  If you are simply explaining your feelings without any accusations and he becomes defensive, then I would worry.  If his response is satisfactory, then lean toward the "yes."  \n\nUnfortunately, if you choose to marry him, she will be a part of your life.  You can hope that after the wedding she will accept that you're the new wife, but there's no guarantee (and it could get worse!).  My husband had a kind of obsessed ex-fiancé (thank goodness no children were involved), and the month of our wedding, he took her out to dinner and just talked.  She actually approached it like a rational human being and realized that he wasn't marrying me to spite her and that he wasn't the person that he was when they were dating.  \n\nI hope for your sake that something like that can happen and that things do calm down.  I also admire you for taking the time to think it through rather than just saying yes and plunging ahead with the potential of being miserable later!  Congratulations on the proposal, and best of luck!
34561
Wow, that's pretty messy.\nYes, a man with a kid is a package deal.  Unfortunately, the ex is part of that package.\nWhat is more unfortunate, though, is that this woman has him so tightly by the... ummmmm..... belt buckle?\nYou should not have to subject yourself to any such disappointment.  My recommendation is to have your man have some boundaries set IN COURT, because this woman has no right to give ANYone the boot, or to inspect ANYthing.  If it's YOUR house she wants to inspect, then she can do it while you're there, or not do it at ALL.  Actually, you should feel no inclination whatsoever to even ALLOW that sort of thing to happen.\nAs for your social life and appointments, you have your own life to live.  With or without a partner, with or without your boyfriend, and with or without his ex-wife's dictation.  If he's so worried about it, then he can tweak HIS schedule to work around her.  NO, it is NOT your responsibility.  Neither is it your problem, nor your fault.\nThe bad news is that if you can't live your life this way, then maybe you just need to cut it while you can, because until he decides to stand up for himself and take it to a judge, he is no better than a child himself.  Which makes it difficult to see a lifelong commitment, does it not?\nDo what you must, but I think you should tell him you shouldn't have to your life on hold for his ex-wife & her BS, and if he's not willing to realize that you needn't and you WON'T, then not only will he find himself fixing his schedule to fit, but will fix his schedule WITHOUT YOU indefinitely.\n\nOH!  I missed the preventing me from seeing my kid thing!  Yeah, that's crap.  You tell him, "No, YOU have just as much capability to do these things as I do.  It may be convenient for YOU when I pick up the slack, but it would be just as convenient for ME if you would do it yourself.  It is, after all, your responsibility." \nGirl, I think you just need to cut it, but that's just me.
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Well in my mind. If this 'friend' knew you were still in love with your ex husband, she should never have even gone on a date with him. I feel you need to tell her how you feel about it, it things are not so serious between them she'll finish. If things are serious and they are in love, then I think you'd be best to cut all ties and move on.(which will be impossible if you have children with your ex) Just remember that true love means wanting the best for the one you love and wanting them to be happy. Sometimes you need to let them go. Try to get out more with other friends and get ome hobbies. This will help keep your mind off what they are getting up to, and before you know it. You'll not hurt so much. Time really does heal with this kind of thing. I'll be thinking of you!\n\nD*
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It seems that your mother in law is lonely.  She must not have anyone else to confide in.  Although this is a burden you shouldn't have to carry, her talking with you alone is helping her.  Examine the problem you had with her before.  The ex's must have allowed her to have this behavior.  Which is why she kept up with them, not for his benefit, but hers.  Another female to confide in, to sympathize with her.  Does she have any of her own daughters?  Maybe she feels she should be able to be close with you as she sees you as her daughter.  She could feel comfortable talking with you because she trusts and respects your opinions.  Being dogged and treated like crap by your husband truly affects who you are.  You question yourself, your existance, your will to go on.  You eventually lose who you are.  All the while clinching to anything for your sanity.  You must decide how you want to handle this.  Do you want to shrug her off and continue to hold your grudge on what she did to you.  Or choose to forgive her and open your heart to her.  It's your choice.
1035929
Sign up my ex-wife....
866558
It sounds like you are separated and she is an ex, so that part is good .. .\n\nNow you have your anger to deal with . . .\n\nTry seeing a counselor for a few sessions . . .it might help you clear out some of those emotions, and you will be ready for a new relationship sooner . . .
1055264
If you really want her back then you need to show her how much youve changed and matured. Make sure you are giving her money to help with the child and see him/her often. Go pick up your child and spend quality father time with the child. When you pick the child up dont let on to her how much you want her just pull up and get your child and leave and when you bring the child back do the samething trying to simply ignore your ex. Right now your making it to easy, women like a challenge and if she thinks your over it and are doing fine and are taking damn good care of ya'lls child she will start getting interested again.
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You know it would be nice if we weren't adult and we could go around beating the crap out of people's faces..... This would be a perfect time to beat the crap out of someone....lol\n\nWhat I would do is call her. Tell her it's none of her business who you do or don't marry and you could careless if she thought your new hubby was a hunk or not. Tell her to keep her mouth shut around your daughter. That is very RUDE that she said that too your child no matter her age. I would tell her that. You might need to have a talk with your EX's and find out what the deal is. No step mother or girlfriend has the right to say anything about you. If that don't work beat her tail!\nI done got mad and can't type now.\nGood Luck!
783330
I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
806251
Obviously there were some serious problems in your marriage.  Seeing as how she's now your ex-wife, you're asking this question a little late, and asking if of the wrong people.  You should've asked her.  If you have a good relationship with her, you might try to get it out of her one day, maybe she'll tell you what happened with her in your relationship.  If I were to bet on it, I'd bet you took her for granted, you stopped courting her.  She felt like you didn't care about her anymore, so she went out and found someone who does.  I'm not condoning her actions, because I firmly believe that marriage is a lifelong committment, and you fix the problems in the marriage, and divorce really isn't an option.  But obviously you weren't giving her what she needed in your relationship.  Sorry......You probably need to just move on with your life.
535334
Well, I think since she is inviting you and your wife to her wedding, there is no chance that your ex still wants you. I'd say something casual like, "I just got an email from xxxx, and she invited us to her wedding" and laugh. You have no reason to feel guilty about the situation it seems.
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No, you should confront your ex wife. She should have the facts straight before she tries to spread any rumors about you. I think that your daughter in law needs to know what your son did. He doesn't need to take a chance on hurting his own daughter, but I don't think he would. I also think that your ex wife shouldn't be trying to make problems with you, your son, and daughter in law. It seems like she is bitter and trying to make everyone else miserable. Just explain to your daughter in law the truth, but let your ex know that you don't appreciate her trying to instigate trouble.
412656
i would tell you boyfriend how you feel about his ex wife. tell him that you really don't feel right her staying there. she is worried that you are taking what she had first but how i see it she was the one that let go of him and she thinks that he is going to wait around for her to come back around a crap. i would tell him everything that you don't like about her, what you think about her. just tell it how it is girl. because that is just going to hurt you guys in the long run because she might try to say something to him or something that will mess everything up. or try to start crap.
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You will have to guage the degree of resentment or bitterness against you by your ex-wife.  Sometimes it also depends on the way you parted (whether amicably or not so good) and her character.  You alone can negotiate what kind of trust you will give to your ex-wife.
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I honestly don't believe all ex's men or women are hard to get along with. Probably like the marriage gone bad so has the trust and respect...C
479575
The best cure for that is time. If you want to speed things up try talking with her as little as possible. Also hang out with old friends that you have not seen for a while, friends you do not have in common with your ex and who are fun. They will make you remember how life used to be when she did not exist. It helps to start imagining day to day life without her.
388796
Work on what got it to that point. I had my wife cheat on me. And I left. It took all I had to do it. We have had alot of problems since then, basically I don't feel like she shows me respect or respects me. Point is it depends on how your husband feels about you. I would take my ex back in a heartbeat if I thought she really wanted to work it out and really felt bad about it. In this situation you'll have to eat alot of crow but if he loves you he'll work with you. Good luck I hope it works out.