Having a girl as a best friend....?
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You already stated exactly why it isn't a good idea: you're attracted to her in an inappropriate way for a "friendship" to work: sexually! Find a friend that shares your overall outlook and is preferably a man, with good intentions towards you. That's a tough enough find in and of itself, without having the extra barrier of the sexual differences to overcome on top of it all!
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You just have to really be yourself and show to her that you are the right guy for her. I would call and talk to her about it and ask her if you two could just go hang out some night and when you do eventually hang out, tell her about everything you feel! They always say that your soul mate should be your best friend so who knows. I wish you the best of luck!
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Dating "best friends" is risky at best, and more often than not it doesn't work out. Girls (you don't say how old you are, by the way) tend to see close male buddies more like brothers at times, so making the transition from friend to sweetheart is often a stretch for them.\n\nThe one thing I can suggest is to be open and honest.  Try telling her at some point, but don't wait until she's dating someone else.
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Why not. If you are open with your communications right now, she may be shy about telling you how she feels about you too. And let her know that no matter how she feels about you, you still want to be her friend. Some of my best friends are guys who love me, but they are more like brothers or close friends to me.
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My best friend is a guy, and I've been a little in love with him for years.  He'll make some woman a great husband someday.  BUT... We've made it clear from the get go that there won't ever be more than that.  We're TOO close and know each other too well, in some ways.  And the chance for ruining the wonderful friendship we have? No way.  You have to be up front and completely honest.  I think your friends were not mature enough to deal with their feelings.  There's nothing wrong with having strong feelings for your best friend, or even saying so, but to try to hide them or avoid them will just breed resentments.  Next time you get close to a female you don't intend to date, make it clear up front, letting her choose whether to stick around.  Some will, some won't.  But at least then you don't lose someone that you're already quite attached to.  Been working for my friend and I for 13 years now.  Good luck.
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I don't think I could do it.  I'm not exactly the jealous type, but girls and guys who are best friends always tend to like hug or she'll but her arm around him and stuff like that.  I'd feel as if I was always competing with her.  And then you know girls.  If she likes him too then she'll become a major pain in the relationship whether he likes her or not.  I dunno...seems too much of a problem for me.
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if u want to know about your girl friends mentality fristof all be a good(best) friend to her.share all her feelings.There may be no secretes between both of you.
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Girl, you HVE TO TELL YOUR BESTFRIEND! Friends will always be friends, it will offend her more if you keep it as a secret. Are you not aware of what they call "Girl's Instinct"? For sure, she feels something and is just not sure about it or is just waiting for you to tell, so go, tell her. You'll see how relieved you will be.
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I'm sorry things don't seem to be working out for you. but, in general, alot of younger people feel that way. I do very often myself. but, you have to remember that God always works out everything for good. and about the girl...she seems great now but you have no idea what she would be like as a girlfriend with you..and you don't need to know..there's a girl out there for you and if she's it..she isn't yet. she's your best friend's girl and you need to be a good friend. try going out to see movies with some other friends and immerse yourself in a book or something. the only way you're going to get through this is if you want to. if deep down inside you don't want to, you won't..
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I take it dat u dont dig d best frienhd.in an ideal world d best friend shud back off,n let her friend b happy.d girl dat u like wuld probably b feeling guilty if her going out with u wuld break her friend's heart.or she might just take u.\nu might want to wait n see how things work out for a while..until d bst frriend finds sumone else to like?den ask ur dream girl out.GUD LUCK..
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Maybe her best friend is afraid that you will steal her friend from her and is feeling a bit jealous of your relationship.  You need to reasure her so how about  "I know you are a good friend to X(the name of the girl you like) and I hope you will condsider me as your friend too".  Incidentally do you have a friend  who might be interested in your girl's friend so she doesn't feel left out in the cold!?
545008
have your best friend ask her best friend. girls tell their best friends everything. even which guys they like. trust me, i am a girl, i know all about how girls minds work.
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You should read my answer to your question about what happens when your best friend gets married? Like I said, it depends on if your friend is the same gender as you. My guess, and this is a guess, that you are a guy who had a best friend who is a girl and she got married. If I am correct than you need to read my answer. Again, the only relationship that outways a best friend is the romantic love relationship. If she married someone you must let her go. She must not have thought of you as her best friend, or if you were best friends, she is too blind to make the best choice and she settled for less than you. If she thinks that you will still be best friends she is mistaken. Don't let her blame you. It's not a choice, it's human nature. Go online and research friendship, love and value exchange. Human nature dictates what I am telling you. I don't even know if what I am telling you applies to your situation as you only referred to friendship. It is important to distinguish the gender of the friend you speak of and the extent of your friendship and if the friendship was a mutually fair exchange of objective values.
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Hi there,\nIt sounds like your best friend is important to you...you know...there are alot of hot brunette's out there...if she was not a nice girl to your best friend then she will not be a nice girl to you...you like your best friend most likely because you share the same interests and points of view in life or at least like to debate them...you can use your best friend...even though that doesn't sound nice...as a stepping stone for you...if he doesn't like her then probably you wouldn't either...anyway...this advice is my best shot at your problem...hope it helps..good luck.
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YES! This is a no go area, if you are calling this person your "best" friend rather than just a friend you already should know that this person is not like other people you hang out with. It will be gone forever and you will have a relationship, and there is no taking it back. It's about self control and being honest to yourself, if you want a best friend steer clear of that, if al lyou want is sex or a relationship then think hard about the friends you make because it can be a world of hurt
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WOW! I think she loves you but knows so much about you and you about her that it's become too difficult to broach the subject of you two being a potential love match. I think you need to ask yourself do I love her in that way? If you do you've got to bite the bullet this weekend and ask her if she has feelings for you other than as a friend? Tell her you want a relationship with a girl and are confused as she seems like a friend most of the time but then when you discuss the subject of other women she doesnt seem able to ddeal with it. DO YOU LIKE HER????? i hope you do and that she feels the same and can finaly get the strength to let you know, some of the best relationships start with 2 people being friends first I think you 2 stand a fair chance of settling down together unless she is just a friend and a possessive one at that. If that is the cse you need to tell her you are interested in having agirlfriend and she needs to allow you to do this if she cant deal with that then you need to meet her a little bit less cos no girlfriend will put up with you having such a female possessive best mate! Good Luck!!
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depends, if you are helping ur friend out i will do it... but if u like the girl also, u must think what's better, friendship or some girl!