My best friend and i fooled around.. but he kissed me 1st and then said it shouldnt of happened the next day??
954260
Honestly, it sounds like your friend was taking advantage of you. And that's probably hard to believe since you two are so close. Men like kissing and fooling around with women and they don't really care who the woman is or about her feelings. Maybe he is lonely and hadn't been with a girl in a long time and you were just there so he decided to fool around with you with out considering your feelings. I'm sorry but he doesn't seem like a good friend. I'd try to find other friends and spend more time with them. It doesn't mean you have to ignore him completely. But he obviously doesn't care about your feelings and you should hang out with  other people who will. \n\nAnother possibility is that he might have been confused and wanted to kiss you to see if he might have had any feelings for you as more than a friend. Then he realized you two can only be friends. \n\nHowever, I think that the first might be more correct. He was not being respectful or considerate. Even if he wanted to try going out with you, he shouldn't have fingered you. He could have asked you out on a date but not go so far. I think he was just being plain selfish and took advantage of you. \n\nI would advise you to forget him and find another guy. But if you still want to try to get closer to him and get into a boy friend-girl friend  relationship, I would advise you to give him some time, but always treat him well, but don't really hint or talk about romance. Just show him you care by your actions. If after a while, it still didn't work, ask him out and say that you would really appreciate it if he could at least give you a chance. Tell him you think that you two would get a long great and that you want a chance because it's worth getting to know a girl who loves him so much. But don't let anything too intimate happen between you two on the first dates. He should respect that. Good luck! I hope everything works out for you!
520249
I suggest you make sure they are not bf/gf.  You stated she likes?  and then stated her bf.  If she just liked him, then you did nothing wrong. As that is past tense.  If it is her bf, then you did something wrong.  So enjoy life and I bet yourfriend is going to last longer than the guy you kissed...
199270
Let me tell you this. its all up to you. It's either he likes you back or he doesn't. I've been in your exact situation before. I'm female and I developed feelings for my best friend who's also a girl. one day, we were just chatting about normal stuff and i basically blurted out to her that i had feelings for her. she told me that what she felt for me was totally platonic and she didn't think of me any other way. Honestly, it killed me for a while. However, today, the relationship that the two of us have is even closer than the one we had before i told her. We didn't have any sort of awkwardness between the two of us. The only shitty thing is that I still feel for her and although I make it seem like I don't feel for her anymore, inside, I just wanna kiss her everytime she opens her mouth to speak. But I have to say that I was really lucky cuz its really rare that two people can overlook the fact that one person feels more for the other than usual. The funniest thing is that til today, my confession is still discussed between the two of us. Recently, I just asked her if it was the right thing to tell her about it in the first place. And, according to her, my confession saved our friendship. Cuz she had already suspected, but she was in denial about it, seeing that i was her best friend and all. But if i had not told her anything, she'd feel weird and eventually take a step back from the friendship.\n\nSo, whatever you do, just follow what your heart tells you to do. You could jokingly bring it up as a suggestion if you don't want to take the direct approach. See how he reacts, and if it's positive, just let it slip. Say that, you didn't really expect it to happen but it just did and you felt that you needed to let him know.\n\nGood luck though.
443519
Just follow your heart. If you are sure that it was a mistake and will never happen again then go for it. But you have to make sure that you are comfortable enough not to throw it in his face in the future. Good luck!!!
806113
I think you should just continue to talk to him as usual, until he responds, cause, if he feels the same way, he will go for it. If he doesn't feel the same, at least you took the brave step of talking to him like normal, y'know? And your friends were rude and inconsiderate to tell him about your feelings. They shouldn't have done something like that out of thrill and excitement, just to see what happens next. I bet they're watching you both reacting right now like a hawk, with popcorns in hand. Set it straight with them, and I hope they will apologize to you. Good luck!
829734
Oh, kind of an embarrasing situation. I would first talk to my best friend about it. Have her pave the way and tell u if he fancies u or not. If u get a positive feedback, start by taking him out to a movie or something along with your friend, once things are cool, u guys can start the real dating
975215
you didnt do anything wrong, it was good that you were honest about your feelings. he is your best friend, and best friends are suppose to care about each other. you might want to have a talk with him, maybe there is something wrong going on in his life that he hasnt told you. but if he is a bad friend in other ways, you might want to stop hanging out with him so much.
334094
This is confusing were you guys dating or not?  \n\nIf yes, and he said i love you but you didn't feel that way...why were you dating him in the first place?\n\nIf no, just tell him straight out that you don't feel that way about him but he's an amazing friend and you hope you guys can remain friends because this friendship means a lot to you.
858722
You were drunk and it went too far? If you are good friends, talk it over with him. Get things out in the open. It was just a silly mistake. Or, maybe, he likes you as more than just a friend and wants to take things further. You know him better than we do.
222361
yes you were wrong to kiss him. this is why i believe the whole guy and girl friendship thing does not work. and now its too late to go back whether you wanted to ruin the relationship or not its going to happen cause you took things too far to begin with. so just tell him the truth and hopefully things will work out
529659
you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
1064582
First I want everyone to know that this was a long time ago and I changed myself drastically because of this screw up. I slept with my best friends crush the night of their first date. I regretted it instantly but decided to keep it to myself and no harm would have came from it, but someone found out and my best friend and I, well.....lets just say were not friends anymore.
651231
This is not your fault. They probably had it planned! You and your friend should go on and find different guys!
426449
By what your saying, it's obvious that he doesn't care about you or your feelings. If he is your boyfriend then why is he kissing your best friend and even better why is your so called best friend kissing him. I think you need to drop both of them.
39145
i dont think going for him after your best friend had him is such a good idea unless shes cool with it.  but i do think he likes you though..try kissin him on the cheek once or twice over a week span and see how he reacts..my e-mail is foxybabe0483@yahoo.com if ya wanna ask some more!!
830981
had a conversation w/ his best friend where his best friend told me he luved me (i liked his best friend for 4 years) and that he (being the best friend) wanted to make out w/ me.\n\nmy bf still doesn't no
970293
Tell him again and dont let him think there is a chance for something more. I can't promise you that your friendship is strong enough to be there when this is all done, but you HAVE to be straight with him.