My father is racist. What do I do?
970754
stick to your own race respect your dads opinion you will soon learn what he means.
606488
In a situation like this you personally need to talk to your father and tell him that you don't appreciate him taking advantage of you. Tell him that you forgive him for disowning you as a child and that you love him even though he missed out on the finer points in your life. Give him the money because you cant put a price on love. If you don't then you may regret it for the rest of your life. I cant guarantee that this would make you feel better because i don't know. This is coming from a 16 year old and the way I see is either you could take the advise and run with it or leave it to rot for eternity.
881755
"Father, I'm dating a person outside of my race."
504389
you answered your own question, seek counseling to resolve the issues you have with your father, this will take care of the authority issues you have with your current or any future male  boss
553146
Girl, you have real issues.  Can't you find another way to get attention?  Perhaps by doing something positive with your time instead of name calling?  Or are you vying for Rush Limbaugh's job when you get older?\n  I just wanted to add, (we're white and..) my oldest son is married to a mexican,  and at one time my youngest twin was dating an african american and my other son is gay.  Racist?  Be for real.
970590
Oh I struggle with this constantly but for different reasons. My parents are addicts. There comes a time in life when you must concentarte on you. If those around you, particularily family have reached toxic levels where they are poisoning your own life, it's best to back off and distant yourself. I would not write them off entirely, I've thought about doing it myself, but it all comes back to they are family and we cannot choose our family and like them or not, through them we are here. I don't know how old you are, but if you are younger I would suggest possibly just distancing yourself and speaking up with the issues you disagree with and make certain they know that it hurts your feelings and do not entertain their ignorant remarks and actions by giving any other reaction other than telling them that at this point and time you do not agree with their opinions. If you are young, there could be possibly something else going on that they are actually concerned about that you aren't seeing just yet. However if it's purely based on race, I'd keep my feet planted in your beliefs and hopefully with time after you stay away from them for awhile they'll realize their love for you is stronger than their hate for another.  I wouldn't give your father any special treatment either, because he is encouraging everyone around him by not speaking up if he truly is aware of their issues and agrees with you. Sounds to me like your father may be ignorant as well, and only agrees with you in private for fear of losing his little girl. All you can do is stand strong in your beliefs, distance yourself from how involved with them you are, but I wouldn't write them out entirely. Now if they begin to do anything harmful that causes extreme physical or emotional grief then I would cut them off entirely. Hopefully with time though and your distance from each other they'll see that they were wrong and have second thoughts on their ideas and opinions, especially if the man you love becomes a true gem and treats you the way they always hoped a man you'd find would. Good luck though, racism is ugly and deeply rooted in those who are and often continues on in people out of their own fears. Just be thankful that somehow by the grace of God their ignorance didn't rub off on you as you were growing up, as if often sadly the case with those raised by parents with beliefs such as that. Enjoy the love you have found and ignore what they say. Find comfort with the one you love and through his family until and if yours ever comes around to their senses! God Bless you dear. Oh and pray for them because it sounds like they need it!!
38747
from some one that has been there and done exactly what your doing unless your going to meet this guy you met on the internet I wouldn't freak out your parents if he ever says he want's to meet then tell your parents about him and that you've been talking to him for so long and that you like him and want to meet him but want them there incase something happens just leave out the part that he's chinese till you meet with him if he is who he says he is and your parents see that your happy with him they will grin there teeth and grunt but they'll be happy you found someone my father is the most racist person I know but he's still happy for me when I'm happy.
932226
It's called discrimintation and unfortunately it happens all the time.  My best advice to you is to get a good lawyer & go the legal way.  Fight for your son.  I truly wish you the bast & whatever your rotten half decides to do, please do your best to keep a relationship going with your son, boys NEED their dad.
790941
Try researching your genealogy. It may prove to be a difficult task and you may never find out. Just be comfortable with being a human being and do not worry about the percentage of other races that made you up. You are a child of the universe like everyone else. You have a right to be here.
739545
I hurt with you. A lot of things should not be an issue, but they are in family situations. All four of our children are from different races than my wife and I. It took one side some time to get used to the idea and relearn what racism smells like.\nOur two oldest sons are Asian married/relating to white women. A little brag - the women's parents think our sons are such great material, they are thrilled. Thus:\nLesson 1: Only bring quality material home to mother. The girl will know how to handle her by praising and showing interest in your heritage.\nLesson 2: Show your own interest in your heritage so your mother will know her "life" will not be forgotten.\nLesson 3: This is neither new nor unique to you. Latino's and blacks, previously Roman Catholics and anyone else, my good Irish stock w/ English, in dating it was my lower middle class vs. upper class. Hang in there. You are helping make a new world.\nAt last.
1181491
Gangstadad's Answer:\n"Your parents are protecting your future. how many white male friends do your black guy friends have? I will bet it is zero, they don't like white people, you are a trophy for them."\n\nMy Response:\nI have to say that I disagree with this because I am a black guy and I think that I have more white friends than I do black.  All black guys do not hate white people.  If you want to convince your parents into letting you go to the prom with this guy then let him meet your parents.  Believe me, all the white girls that I have talked to let me meet their parents and now they enjoy my company more than anything.  Like this one white girl that I know; Her dad gave me their number just so I could play tennis with HIM and with her at anytime.  So just tell him to chill, so that you can set up a meeting between him and your parents.  Your parent must be able to feel like they can trust him first.  By the looks of it, I bet they have never even seen the guy.
839273
call someone and tell tehm. believe me i went thru that for 16 years. you need help. i learned that i did not have to accept my father hitting us and everything else. there are lots of people that will help. what we finally did was we told a preacher at a church and he had the police come to the church and talk to us then the cops never made us go back again.
1058956
Unfortunately ignorance knows no barriers and unlike this jerk doesn't discriminate.  He probably picks on you because you are a gentle soul and he's a bully.  He's not your friend and you need to stay away from him.  \n\nI don't understand how your other friends who are of a different culture can stand to be around him.  If they don't know his ignorant stand on this subject then tell them and let them know you wont' be keeping company with this Cretan.  Spend time with them without him and explain to them why.\n\nI don't think they will want or should want to hang around with him especially with the way he feels about other cultures.\n\nHe probably hangs out with other cultures because other white people don't want to listen to his s**t and avoid him because they don't want to be painted with the same brush as him.\n\nYou have done nothing wrong but just be in the wrong place at the wrong time.\n\nGood luck and know that all Irish or white people in general don't feel the same way.
1050676
Have you talked to you mom about this?    Family is about love not color.  MY family is mixed to,we have 6 kids..  my daughter is African American,Indian,Italian. I married a Mexican. so we have alot of mixes we call it his your & ours. Is someone making you feel different or left out?  I would try to talk it out with my family or talk to the person making me feel like i don't belong. FAMILY is about love and caring, if they give that to you your half way there and maybe you need some time with someone from you dads family to get to know your afican amercian half.
709639
He's an American and I believe that he comes from a multi-racial family.  I have read an article that states which parent is what race but I can't remember when or where.
205823
Well, the best advice i can give you is to talk to him about it.  You need to explain to him that that's not the way to talk to your family and he needs to explain his differences with your family differently and more respectfully.  Include that you will not put up with his crap and that he needs to get his act together or you don't need to associate with him any more.
967874
Try communicating via a letter.  Make sure that you use no language that is derogatory or that can be viewed in a different manner than intended.  Tell them that you appreciate their care for your son but as the child's legal parents you have decided that there will be no contact with the child's birth family.  You wish to build a strong sense of belonging with his (only) family and you will pick the time and manner in which to educate him as to his origins.\n\nIf she persists then ask your attorney to restrain her.