I broke up with him because I my ex wanted us to be together.I am not happy though.I feel guilty & nostalgic?
971157
The grass sure is always greener on the other side, isn't it?  You left boyfriend number 2 because you were thinking back to boyfriend number 1 and wanting to to back with him.  Now you are with him and you are thinking back to number 2 and wanting to be with him.  Do we see a pattern?  Don't judge him (number 2) by how he treated you when you broke up with him for another guy!  Even the best guy would be slightly peeved and act out a little.  Instead of constantly thinking about what guy you want to be with, think of who you want to be.  Maybe this misery is your heart's way of telling you that neither one is right for you.  If you really don't feel that's the case, then realize that you decided to be with number one for a number of reasons and remind yourself of those reasons.  Don't keep going back and forth, that gets really old for everyone involved really fast.  \n\nBasically, my advice is to get away from both of them.  It will be hard not to think of the good things and miss them both, but you can do it.  Make a list of the bad things about each one!  That should deter you!  \n\nGood luck!
831276
Yea my ex left me to get married to someone of his religious background and now hes miserable in his marriage and i pity him because in the end his breaking up with me i met someone who love me and cherish me more than he ever did and hes unhappy in his suitation......And it bothers him that i'm happy \n\nBut i still pity him
151020
he is in a comfort zone. What about you, what do you want? Think about why you broke up..Is he worth it, or can you do better than the way he treats you. Is this what you want for your future or are you just settling in your comfort zone. If he is the man you want, than just ask him, and if it is not the answer you are looking for.....move on
1010435
don't do it....i did just that thing and ended up very sad and very screwed over. after we broke up i still had to see him everyday, so that made it even harder cause i still cared very much for him. think hard before starting a work related relationship with anyone
126284
Keep your mind open to further possibilities. Don't compare the guy that you've date with your guy. I know it must be hard coz on 7 years of your life you only figure out him as your 'prince charming' in your mind. Open your heart to find the qualities that maybe you need on the guy you date with. Maybe you don't even realize that yet.  Don't close it the minute you meet someone wonderful. \nRelease your guilty feeling caused you date with other guys. It didnt mean you not love him anymore. Let your love to him be a part of your sweeties memory ever.  Don't stuck on it. Move on. Please believe that your guy doesn't want you feel sad and stuck on the past anymore. He must be want to see you happy again. So release it...
116543
I felt the same after I left a relationship that wasn't making me happy.  Sometimes you miss being single if you're with someone who isn't right for you.  Glad to hear you didn't stay in the relationship just to be with somebody.  Too many people would rather be unfulfilled in a relationship rather than be happy being single.  And when you're happy being single, you'll attract other happy people.  Then who knows what could happen?  Good going.  You'll do well in life, my friend.
706831
I have felt like this so many times!  It sounds like you guys are spending too much time together. Maybe spending less time together would help.  So when you are apart you miss him and then it seems like a treat to get to see him.  Then when you finally get to see him it will be exciting.  If this feeling continues maybe you should think about the fact that maybe you really don't miss him, you just miss having someone around.
366301
I don't know of anybody who didn't feel horrible after breaking up. A bond between two human beings is a valuable, special, particularly fragile link. Why not remember the good times you both had? Here's something else to keep in mind: there was probably a reason you both broke up. Was it something you needed to do? There may be a valid reason. And above all: these things take time. You can't expect to jump out of bed the next morning singing and dancing, but it's also equally unhealthy to obsess all the time your ex-boyfriend and your ended relationship. "If the problem persists, it may be necessary to seek professional help," we hear that all the time, but if the problem lasts longer than you think it should, it's probably a good idea to talk to a psychiatrist. ( A female psychiatrist would more likely have experienced what you're going through.)To occupy your time, you could go out with your friends, donate time to a charity, express your feelings through art or writing... however, and I am not trying to disrespect your feelings by any means, you seem a bit young to be dating. Enjoy life.  You'll have the rest of your life to worry about men and boyfriends. You're young, so why not not spend valuable time, instead of thinking of boys, learn to better yourself? Learn to speak German; learn Karate. You'll empower yourself and your self-esteem will rise. I personally wish you the best of luck.
553022
If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
930337
sounds like he regrets breaking up with you, kinda like you don't know what you have 'till it's gone.  it's your choice if you decide to take him back.  if you really care for him and feel he is being honest then go for it.
937936
The only way he is going to know how you feel is if you tell him directly. If you do get back together, make sure that you work on the things that made you break up in the first place. I hope he feels the same way, but if he doesn't, I would move on. I hope everything works out well!
474755
You should be thankful that you are no longer with this jerk and find someone that is better suited for you.  Your ex sounds like a mindless idiot to me.  I mean, sure I listen to my friends input on a person I am dating to some extent, but in the end I would never break up with someone because my friend said to do it.  You need someone that can stand up and say "This is my girl!" with pride and respect for you!  Don't settle!  We all deserve better than that.
763037
No, do not feel sorry for your ex...to tell you the truth, it might bring him to reality. A person shouldn't be judged primarily on how one looks, but like you said personality. Just think when you guys are 60...old and grey what will last? Your looks or personality? You did what you felt was right and what makes you happy. Besides, if he treated you like this at the beginning of the relationship and can't respect you, then later on it just gets worse. In due time, he'll find someone that is better equipped for him. I think you did the right thing. Why be with a person that makes you uncomfortable, when you can enjoy another person's company that treats you like a queen? Would you take a $1.00 over $10.00?  Looks to me that you picked the $10.00 and are alot happier. Besides, don't feel sorry for him...you did the right thing. In the long run you, the $10.00 will go a long way then the buck in your pocket :-)
835438
why would you even want to since he dumped you in the first place have some pride you don't need him to think that since he left you were miserable live your life to the full enjoy yourself let him realize what he lost when he dumped you
168751
Just because the two of you broke up doesn't mean you can brake off your feelings. It's going to take time for you to get over how you feel but you can do it. Why did you guys brake up anyway? If the love you feel is that deep maybe you should try again with this guy. Maybe he feels the same way but is not sure how you feel, it's worth a try.
129813
how long have u been broke up?  is there any chance at all that u may make up and get back together soon?  cause if there is then you shouldn't go make that mistake and injure the chances of that.  it makes things way more complicated.  But if not then u should definetly do it b/c if u r feeling down do something to make u feel special and worthwhile for a lil bit.
307737
What you have to do is remember that you're x's for a reason, don't dwell on all the happy, romantic stuff that went on with you and him, think of why you broke up and how you felt and what the problems were.  There's always a good reason why we break up with someone.