My husband wants to see me with another  man  (in bed) .What does that say about how he feels about me?
967220
In my opinion, it is the highest form of disrespect a man can show his wife! It also opens the door to him partaking in these kind of activities with other females. I don't see how any man can claim to love his spouse when he is willing to share her in bed with other men! Does that make any sense to you?!  He sounds like an unprincipled man to me.
986847
Ask yourself how you would feel if your wife was admiring the bulge in another mans pants while out with you.  It is not wrong to LOOK at another woman or admire another body part BUT damnit you dont do this while with your mate.  Its respectful.
433922
I'm sorry to hear your situation but I'm sorry too that you have a men like that. He dousn't deserve you, he should at least had cheated when he was away and not while he was station in your home town. That sure tells you something.\nWell it all depends what do you feel for your husband?\nask your self do you feel in love with your husband, do you like when he touches you and that will sure tell you the truth. From there you can easily tell if you are in love with the other guy or just getting  back at your husband. Lovers tend to make  you feel like your the only one and that they r your soulmates, but beware because its usually a big flame of passion \nI'm also in that situation and I have found out that I don't feel that I'm in love with my husband no more but I also have 2 little girls who I think about there well beign.\nMy husband also cheated on me but the difference here is that I cheated with my ex. He is married and has 3 kids and he told me that he loved me he asked me to go live with him that he would leave his family but I never agree I was afraid. Good thing I didn't left with him a month passed and he went back to his family. That show me he wanted only one thing and like I never gave it to him he grew tired and left\nSo my adviced to you is talk it through with your husband see where he stands but don't tell him you cheated too!!!\nand if you want to keep on with your lover cvuz I know is fun ;-) kind of makes you feel alive don't fall so easily be open minded that way you won't get hurt\na friend that cares\nsweet angel
702167
does he know you have these feelings?\nmaybe you can tell him..really..I am serious about telling him..and then at the same time say something like, I am so so attracted to you, do you think I should find another doctor?\nand see what he has to say...REALLY..\njust do it..do not hold back..can you imagine if he says "yes please find another doctor, because I have feelings for you too"\nor he says " no you do not have to find another doctor, we can work it out" but hey I know guys, and inside he is saying to himself MMMmmmmm this may get very interesting....even if he plays it off nice and cool...he will be thinking about you...really he will....\nso I would do it like I suggested and let him give you guidance...after all he is the doctor!\n\nsmile\ngood luck
344145
Hmmm...I can not advocate that cheating on your husband no matter what the circustances are is right because if you are unhappy you at least owe it to him to voice your emotions and to move on. Just because you don't have a good relationship does not mean that his feelings should be neglected just to satisfy your own. Since you two have been together for quite some time don't you think that you owe him that much to be honest? You say that he treats you badly and that you are unhappy but I'm sorry that doesn't justify your cheating in anyway especially considering that you have no children involved that might cause you to be stuck in staying. As for the guy that you are seeing now, maybe you are in love and perhaps a future with him will be great but you are more or less in that fairytale stage of a relationship where they can do no wrong and this will fade. If this is something that you honestly feel is worth pursuing in order to make yourself happy then go for it by all means. Just remember that your happiness does not need to be based on a man and that you can find it yourself no matter what the outcome. I think that the betrayal and hurt is going to be worst for your husband who has no idea of what is about to surface and that for you it might be hard but that you'll make it since you have realized that this marriage is no longer what you want. I'm in no way trying to put you down or belittle you for your actions because it happens to the best of us since we are all only human but I would definitely consider your situation a little further and make sure that this guy just doesn't look like a better option because you dont really have the repsonsbilities and obligations that you share with your husband. There are no stings attached at this point with this new guy so it makes it all light-hearted and fun and if you do both embark on a relationship (especially a long distance one) there will be difficulties that will eventually come along. I would suggest taking some time out for yourself once you get a divorce and not rush into anything too quickly. I think that you need to hash out somethings with yourself instead of seeking comfort from a man that is merely supplying what is lacking in ur current relationship. Obviously if you decided to get married to your spouse, these feelings at one point or another were there with him and look at what has become of that. I think you need to just really spend some time with yourself and getting to reaquainted with your independent single self before finding an identity in someone else. I'm sure you are a good person and I hope that whatever choice you make that you will find the happiness that you seek. Just remember the feeling of everyone else involved and don't let your heart do all of the thinking for you during a time when you need to use your head. Best of luck to you:)
418874
Its possible that both of you are trying to fill the roles of wife and husband. What I mean is not seeing each other as people,not dealing with things as they are but trying to do things as you think they should be dealt with. Maybe he thinks he should be in charge, telling you what to do what to spend. I think its time you 2 have a good long talk and find out how each of you really feels clear the air. Oh one other thing to think about your at that stage in a relationship where your past the first glow of love and seeing him as he really is, time to work at the relationship build it up or see if it can be worked out.
1043752
What do you think should a husband fulfill his wife's sexual fantasy of having another man join them???? That will answer your question. She is your wife not just a toy whom you can twist and turn it the way you want! Respect her! She is not there to fulfill desires she is there cuz you choose her to be your life partner! She has the same rights as you do your are not Superior than her!
1004403
Rubbish, all these people forcing thier morals on you.  If you feel a need to sleep with him, and you want too, do it.  Yes, he may be married, but, he is not going to stop looking just because you turn him down.  If you seduced him, then you are at fault, if harmless flirtation turned into something else, that is nature.  You know that this is just a physical thing and nothing will come out of it, but a little fun, if your ok with that,and can deal with it at work, then have fun.  Guess what people, the wife knows, she just prefers not to admit it, get real.  This woman is not a home wrecker of any kind, and you should not be bashing her.
291578
tell him you have a headache.  That seems to be a tried and true formula.  Unless you're talking about your husband having sex with someone else, in which case I think you should let him have his fun.
161999
This is something you should speak to your husband about. My wife had a similar problem. She married me at 18 and I was her first. She expressed her desire to be with another man for the experience, and assured me that in no way was she interested in leaving me for another. Since I love her with all my heart, I wanted to do anything possible for her. Through our discussions we have decided that we will pursue that in the future if the situation arises. I am working through some issues over it, but as I said, I love her and will do anything for her. If she needs to fulfill this, then I will allow it to happen. We may bring another guy into the mix with us or it might happen with her and him alone, we haven't decided that yet, but we will discuss everything and both of us must be comfortable with the situation in order to proceed. Communication is the key. I'm quite sure that your husband has some fantasies of his own that he hasn't shared with you yet. This could possibly be an opportunity for you both to discover new things in your relationship. Have a conversation with your husband. If your husband loves you as much as I love my wife then he will at least ponder the thought. Good luck.
431654
Most men want a threesome.  I think you need to have a long talk about why you don't like the idea, and why he wants another woman.  Inviting others over for group play can wreck a marriage if the marriage isn't 100% sound.  If there are no hidden agendas, jealousy, marital problems, homophobia, group play offers a new dimension of pleasure to love-making.  \n\nIf both of you are not completely happy and secure in your marriage, I would advise against it.  But please don't reject his fantasy outright.  \n\nIf you do decide to do it, you pick the girl, make all of the arrangements, discuss ground rules and get a hotel room.  You are granting his biggest fantasy, keep control of the situaton.
686143
He really cares about you and does not wish to see you hurt. It really sounds like he likes your company and would like to rekindle your relationship.\n\nbest of luck to you both...
120894
Oh you too hah sista girl.   I agree with Malfean,....deep within (and if you are honest with yourself), you would like to know what it would be like to experience a sexual encounter with this individual you're fantasizing about. Been there and came damb close; however, I've realized that.... this was all I pictured him for (sex and a little intimatcy....hugging - kissing)....there was nothing else....no visions of hangging with friends together, walking in the park, dinner and the movies, sitting up together on the sofa having good dilogue about whatever, bringing the paycheck home to you (hello..).... it was just sex, good sex, more sex and sex....I tried picturing doing other things with him and the imaganation didn't go that far....why???.....well, your soul mate (and that's your husband) have and will probably always supply you with those little things that truely matters. The things mentioned above (hangging together..etc.) will go farther than a good quick fix in the sack. I know it's just fantacy...but sometimes you have to see it for what it truely is...you'll realize it means nothing...so let it go.\n \nNow sometimes our spouses becomes less attractive to us over the years depending on how much they have let themselves go in appearance or how lazy and boring they may have become,...so we fantasize about someone who is just the opposite of your spouse; however, I've learned that if I'm to be in this thing 'til death do us part', I benefit more by talking to him (my spouse) about what we can do to make daily interaction with each other more exciting.... therefore, bring that excitement to the bedroom later on.....\n\nGirrrrllll...look at me giving advise about something I need to work on myself....but non the less, I know it's what I need to do to keep thoughts of other men out of my head when I'm with my husband. (Oooh, I did say other MEN hah....ummm...I mean that man...)..SMILE!!!!.... It's working though.\n\nSo good so far. It may get tough at times, but keep your interaction with each other positive and exciting...laugh a lot...it helps.
600383
I think this is very risky business, it can make someone feel so jealous and insecure. If he just keeps asking to have anthoer person in the bedroom it would make me feel that he's not happy with me sexually. I think if this is something that your going to choose both of you better agree its a one time thing, and also it better be with someone that you will never see agian.
765251
hmmm...maybe. \nIt depends. Its not a matter of distrust. He does not distrust you but fears that eventually you might get attracted to some other men. He does not trust other men, not distrust you. He thinks those other men will allure you into having an infatuation about them. worse yet he may be thinking you already have some infatuation about those men you are praising. I would suggest do not praise other men very frequently. If you do it once in a while its fine. but if its done more than often you are out for trouble girl! Praise your husband frequently though. Afterall he is the  cutest guy on earth for you rt?\nYou may just have an admiration, or plutonic liking for those other men you are praising. But you should not admire any other mans physcial apprearance apart from your husbands. He has the right to expect that from you!
343444
Why not ask your Huband how he would feel about it?\n\nAlso if this guy really just wants a pen pal why don't you tell him you will pass on his info to your Husband as you think the 2 of them would have more in common.If he gets defensive or anything then you know what he is up to. :)
380623
I would ask your husband if he has any desires to see you with another women and then you can approach it together instead of going behind his back or hurting your marriage, it certainly is better to do it together, then you can search various websites for swingers or bi females, but if you want to be greedy and keep her all to yourself then not sure what to tell you, I would approach it together.