Help!!! My best friend wants to date me!! How do I turn him down without losing his friendship?
957447
tell it to him straight like you have been - that you dont feel about him that way - expect him to be angry for a while but this is where you need to distance yourself from him for a bit....if he's a true friend he will eventually understand and then seek your friendship once again...but if he doesnt he is so not worth it...good luck
106369
It matters if you're going out because you love him, or for revenge. If for revenge, please dump him LIGHTLY. "I'm sorry, I'm just not ready" should do the trick. If because you love him, try to exaplain that to your best friend. But if you even once find yourself doing something with him for revenge to her, I suggest you let him go.\n\nGood luck!!! ^^
1052820
Like Nike says,  just do it.   There is no easy way to "let him down".   If you are really being truthful  (and I doubt that you are) about not wanting a bf right now,  just tell him that.  Give him the old line about "just being friends",  the kiss of death.  He may surprise you by saying something like he doesnt want a gf right now either.   Just because he's shy doesn't mean he's made of glass.  He is probably a lot tougher than you think.
657297
It is obvious that you care for his guy. So tell him that. Tell him that you love and care for him but not with the passion that a girlfriend should have for a boyfriend. Tell him that you know it will be hard to change the level of your friendship one notch down...but you still want him to be your friend because he is your best friend.\n\nI know that this maybe hard for you to do..it will hurt you both but think of it this way...suppose he too want you only as a friend as well and is also afraid to hurt you?
475199
to be honest with you my best friend is a girl..... we live in one apt.... and we do most of the things that you do.... we even walk naked infront of each other but the thing is that everything is very clear with our relationship..... we love each other to death but we know that we cant be more than just friends.... however.. yours can be the same understanding as mine.... at times we tend to forget why we can be so comfortable with friends.... and that there is nothing more.... no malice..... in this instance .... your feeling towards her is that you want more to be friends.... however you are not certain if she does feel the same way however her actions doesnt speak for it... what you have to consider is that .... are you willing to take the risk of loosing a friend should it happen that its only a one way street???? hence.... if your feelings are really strong you need to do it as gently and as fast as possible..... ask her for a casual date and ask her these questions.....\n\n1. what is your ideal guy.....? with this you can decern if it is close to being someone like you...\n2. have you found him??\n3. what makes him different? this will solidify your search....\n4. if all of it fits you then...\n\ntell her that you are ending this friendship ... i want more out of our friendship.. i want to take you out as my date not as my friend......\n\n5. if you seem that there is a different one tell her that you are happy for her.... but then again you just have to be honest... tell her everything......but before that... make a pact before you reveal you intimate feelings you will still be her best friend....
249545
If your best friend does not want to date you, then chances are that he does think your boyfriend is not good enough for you.  Think about it.  How many time have you seen the nice girl dating the bad guy?  We've all seen it.  Some think the bad boy is fun or really a sweety underneath.  Is this you?  If it is then your best friend is a good guy.  He is trying to protect you.  The fact is that it is your decision.  You'll have to tell him you need to "agree to disagree."\n\nIf your best friend does want to date you, then that is a whole different story.  You may need to choose.\n\nGood luck!
748171
move on...dont get mad at your best friend...but still be nice to the guy!
522953
Nicely turn him down and introduce him to your friend. If your friend likes him alot, don't violate her trust by going out with him. If you like him talk to your friend about it.
391448
I'm sure he likes you "in that way" but he's probably just as freaked out and confused about it as you.  Sooner or later one of you will hurt the other, either by asking the other to "cross the line" or by dating someone else.  I think you could avoid that by trying to be VERY mature and sit down alone and talk about how the 2 of you feel about each other which is probably in the middle between "just friends" and wanting to jump into bed with each other.  You freindship will not be the same after this talk but it might be a better alternative than waiting until this timebomb is set off by hormones rather than diffused by the 2 of you taking an honest look at how much you really care about each other, your special friendship, and I'm sure that niether of you wants to hurt the other emotionally.
516920
Very very subtley......tell him that you would go out with him if her were interested in going out with you.\nSet parameters also.....hey, if this doesnt work out, lets make sure that we are still friends....you know what I mean.\nJust try to drop a subtle hint at it, and see if anything happens.  Or, just go for it and tell him that you have feelings for him.\nSometimes the BEST relationships are the ones where you start as "friends first"  :)\nGood luck darlin!
1166637
take his feeling in to consideration. if you have no interest in men then just tell him you are my friend and i am not interested in men. we can continue being friends as long as you want. but there will not be any relationship besides friendship.\nBut if u are curious then just tell him that u are curious and not sure what u want at this time and you can try a relationship with him but remember he might not be ur best friend if things go wrong between you two.\nIf you are feeling frisky tell him that u are curious and want to see what it is like and do the deed but tell him that u don't know what u want yet and do not get attached. that might even screw up ur friendship.. well how about go do it with another man and don't let him know and if u like it then go for ur friend..
605836
Here's the deal.  He doesn't want to date you, but he doesn't want anyone else to date you either.  It's an ego thing.  He wants you to still be pining away for him.  Makes him feel studly.  Seeing you pine over some other guy shows you're over him and that doesn't stroke his ego.  I say, screw his ego, tell him to act like a decent friend or don't be a friend at all, and pursue the other guy (or any other guy who may come along).  Life's too short to be worry about what a guy who burned you is feeling.
575953
If you take your friendship with this boy to the next level, then there is always the chance that the friendship will end if you break up.  Because it isn't just "the next level" it is an entirely different kind of thing.\n\nMaybe that's why he won't ask you out.  And maybe he has problems he doesn't want you to know about.  Maybe he doesn't want to upset you.\n\nAs his best friend for life, you really should wait for him to ask you out, now that he knows you are interested in going out with him.
558767
Talk with your best friend. Perhaps, neither of you should date him. Never let a guy come between your friendship. Maybe one will give way, perhaps you both give him first dates and let him choose, but make sure the other one of you won't be jealous.
1056626
Obviously you havent gotten over the fact that he doesnt want to date you. Maybe you should jump on the horse and go out on a date...not exactly get a boyfriend...just go out...have fun...spend time not thinking about him.\n\nIf you're best friends you dont want to lose that, I've been in that situation being in love with your best friend...it's horrible when you realize they dont feel the same...I got lucky...my best friend told me that I would find the man of my dreams and realize that it wasnt him...and he was right...but it took about a year before that happened. \n\nJust give it time and things will get better...if not easier. You just need time to cope.\n\nBest of luck
819239
If you and your best friend likes him then he should automatically be off limits to both of you. You don't want your friendship to be ruined over some guy. There are plenty other guys that you will like.....don't risk your friendship
1004400
2 solutions for you:\n\nIF YOU ARE A GOOD FRIEND:  You will not date him because you value your friendship too much to jeapordize is.\n\nIF YOU ARE NOT THAT GOOD OF FRIENDS: Explain to her how much you really like him and it is your choice, you don't have to lose out on something just because she is holing you back.