Any tips on maintaining a long distance relationship?
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My husbands in the military and deploys for a year + at a time. The best advice that I can give you is to just stick it out. Think of how great it's going to be when you're finally together again. \nWhen i think of something that I need/want to tell my husbad I write it down and then at the end of the week I send it to him. No matter how silly or stupid it may seem. This week I wrote down that I hate the color of our kitchen towel, it's small and may seem like nothing to me but being there for the small things are the things we miss the most.
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Make the time that you do spend together special by making sure its quality time. Dont spend it watching TV. Instead talk and go out and do things together. Believe that you will end up seeing each other every day eventually and use that belief to keep your relationship goin forward.
759527
babe, long distance relationships are hard to mantain, you got to work hard and not give up. theres no such thing as a perfect relationship, maybe she gets pissy because she really misses you and the only way she can express her feelings is by arguin\nhope it works\ngood luck !\n:-)
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Omg...there is so much to say about long distance relationships...I just got out of a long distance relationship about a month and a half ago, there are many many many things you should consider before pursuing a long distance relationship....we only lived about an hour and fifteen minutes away from eachother, but there will were soo many times when I Was having a bad day and just hearing his voice WAS NOT enough!!..you are going to want and need her by yourside at times when she can't be!...there will also be a lot of long, cold and lonely nights that you have no choice but to spend by yourself.I am not knocking long distance relationships, but you should really make sure you are ready for such a big step! you will have to be a strong willed person in order to make it work,because it is not easy! there will be times when you will see other couples together hand in hand, and wish it was you and her, or maybe a happy couple on T.V, but no matter what it is you will feel the pain of not being able to be with her as often as you would like especially when couples are all around you!.. but it isnt all bad though, sometimes it is very exciting! it also depends on how often you will be able to see eachother. we used to see eachother at LEAST every other weekend if not more, but it was still super hard and lonely when we werent together! my advice to you is that if deep down in your heart you really think that you guys can make it work, then go for it, and the wisest thing i can tell you is DO NOT LET OTHER PEOPLES OPINIONS INFLUENCE YOUR DECISION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so many people will have something to say about it, and will tell you it wont work and try to discourage you, DONT get discouraged...One of things that  kept me and him together for so long is that we didnt care what the hell other people thought about what we were doing, and in this type of situation you need to do the same thing, or else its not going to work, because people can be VERY convincing sometimes, and you just might end up missing out on one of the best things in your life!
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Make a vow to never stop calling each other, NEVER stop being best friends, and NEVER stop writing/emailing.\n\nI grew up in a military family so we moved constantly.  But I still remember when I was seven, moving away from my neighborhood and best friend Laura in Las Vegas.  Twenty years later we still have each other's phone numbers and emails.  So what ever you do, don't slack off on the writing and phone calling.  I am saving up for a trip from my neighborhood in upstate New York to see her in Las Vegas again.  Soon ....
797486
I am having same Problems with my long distance boyfriend.  Will be interested to see the answer's here.
984657
Prepare for a long distance relationship and hope he wants to keep it going too.
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Its hard when you are in a long distance relationship. Your insecurities seem to triple. \nLet him know how it makes you feel. Let him know that you know its just you but that you do have these feelings and ask him to be more considerate and call when he says or let you know if he wont etc.\n\nAlso get a passtime something you do just when you are worrying. \nGood luck! I know from experience it is tough!!!
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Phone calls, webcam, letters, and honesty in all areas.  You must also spend time together, not as a holiday, but truly exposing your good AND bad traits.  Long distance relationships can work, but only if each person stays transparent.  If the communication and honesty/trust  isn't there while dating, it won't be there after marriage. Visting England and visting America is so  much fun, but a marriage doesn't come with a guarantee that if you get past customs you will make it.  Questions:  how do you both handle anger?  How do you handle differences in race, religion, customs and traditions?  Good luck. I dated my Dutch beau for 4 years, moved to Holland and married him. We are married 10 years now, and have moved back to California.  But it wasn't easy and isn't easy...we had to stop pretending that we were on a holiday. :)
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Poorly, and not for very long.\n\nSeriously, you have to have a LOT of communication. Regularly scheduled phone calls, and some random ones too. E-mails, chat and etc. Constant communication. Otherwise, the passion goes cold. \n\nIt's a lot of work to make a long distance relationship work.
610654
Usually long distance relationships are best kept long distance.  If you decide to move closer, kept it an hour or two apart to see if the relationship can handled it.  And if it last a year, then move to the same city.
667131
First of all, do you know for sure that he is moving...that is the first question that needs to be answered. Secondly, a long distance relationship like the one you may be facing can work out. If you truly care for him as you say oyu do, and he waited for you for as long as you say then you both love eachother very much. You will see eachother occasionally, you will always chat on the phone...i've even heard that long distance relationships can make the couple stronger. But in order of the relationship to work there needs to be trust. You child is almost 16? I know someone who is 16 years old and her parents are in a similar situation as yours. THey are moving, and even though all her friends are where she lives now, she knows that inthe end it will be for the best. If you really want to be with him though, you can marry this guy that you love so much and who loves you, and have your child finish school where she is now and have her live with a friend, close relative, or something like that. That way you both will be happy. In the end its your decision. But the last piece of advice i will give is to just stop for a moment, take deep breath, close your eyes, and just listen to your heart.................\n................................................\nWhat's it telling you?\nJust follow your instinct, your heart, talk with your child about what you are worried about, what you would like to do, if you want to further your relationship with this guy. Talk with your child. But remember that what your child thinks IS important, but so is your heart and your feelings. Ask this man to come over to your house so you and your son could all have a talk about how you want to further your relationship and what you all agree with happening. \n\nIn short, follow your heart...most of the time, it knows which path you should take. Just trust the ones you love, and most importantly, trust yourself! Everything will work out in the end, i know it will. but until then, good luck! :)
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long distance relationships are really hard to hold together but if you try hard enough it'll be alright.  i had a boyfriend that lived in germany because he was in the army.  i really thought he could be faithful to me because the whole time while he was gone, i def was.  i mean, it might not be big but i read some stuff on this girl's profile that left a comment on his myspace and it was pretty discusting.  that just let me know that he really wasn't that into me and that it just wasn't meant to be.  good luck girl.  sometimes it does work out; just very seldomly.  ♥ a l y s e
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Long distance relationships are the worst and the hardest. Are you sure you can be faithful to him? Are you sure you will be faithful to him? My advice? Remain friends and see other people. The longer the distance the harder the heart aches.
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I have to say  that a long distance relationship can only work if both parties are really committed to eventually being together, but if you stay apart too long, lots of things have a tendency to change. Time won't stand still for anyone. \n I was involved in a long distance relationship for about 7 months, and it is very hard for people to just hang on indefinitely. \n I married her and we could not be happier, but I am afraid if I had waited too much longer, I would have lost her because being "together but apart" is very difficult to do.....
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If you two really love each other then you will make the long distance thing work even though it is hard. If you love and care about her you will wait until you guys can see each other more, but if you can't handle the long distance for that long then try giving each other space and explain it to her that you love her but the long distance thing isn't working for you. You could have a non exclusive relationship where you each can date other people, give some rules if you want, but still be together. Think about what you want and what she wants and come to a decision that you both agree on. Good Luck:)
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what is a long-distance relationship?\n\nThe first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. Let me explain.\nIf a guy has been dating a girl for two years and she decides to travel across Europe with nothing but a backpack and pocket change, where does this leave the duo? Well, the first thing to do in this situation is to establish some ground rules before she hops on that plane.\n\nThe couple must agree on how they will deal with this separation, and even if they will remain a couple at all. If one decides that they cannot be in a long distance relationship, while the other is ready to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together, then they have a problem on their hands..\n\nThere are three basic options when dealing with long distance relationships: the couple can remain faithful to each other; they can date other people and see what happens; or they can call it quits and start dating other people right away.\n\n\nremaining faithfully yours\n\nOne option is to keep everything the way it is -- whether you are 5 miles or 5,000 miles away from each other. This way of thinking is very popular among young lovebirds, new to the journey of romance.\nThey tend to believe that physical space between them will not affect the solidity of the relationship because their "undying" love for each other can surpass this seemingly small obstacle. This often applies to couples that get separated for education reasons.\n\nWhat happens in many cases, however, is that one of the partners may start feeling lonely and begin looking around to see what the "relationship market" has to offer.\n\nBut if the woman, for example, decides to hold back and not date anybody during her time away from her boyfriend, he should also be saving himself for her. Right? In an ideal situation, this would be the plan. But unfortunately, that's not always possible.\n\nThe guy in question might start fooling around, but will eventually feel guilty about it, even if six months have passed since he last saw his girlfriend. \n\nThe problem is that the terms of the relationship clearly state that this should not happen. What then?\n\nSimply having made a decision to allow each other the freedom to date other people while they were apart, and seeing if they still felt the same way about each other once they were reunited, could have prevented this situation. Hence, the second category for a long-distance relationship.\n\n\nlet fate take its course\n\nThis same principle applies to any couple in the initial stage of dating: they are together but they're not committed.\nBoth follow the unwritten rule of allowing each other to date other people until they feel the need to be exclusive\nThis is a perfectly rational way of looking at potential long distance relationships. What if, for example, unavoidable circumstances force the woman to leave and desert her mate in the early stages of the relationship.\n\nAlthough some couples develop faster than others, common sense should always be of the essence, as emotions sometimes tend to run away with us.\n\nThe underlying idea here is that impossible promises should not be made and only a reciprocal, genuine affection for each other will decide the couple's fate.\n\nIf staying together is not in your cards, it soon becomes obvious, and ending the relationship is the only solution. This way, there won't be any broken hearts or unnecessary lies.\n\n\nsee other women\n\nIt's a smart thing to slow down a love connection at an early stage in order to avoid any heartache, especially if you know you will be separated shortly. \nThe ideal solution would be to not get involved with anybody knowing that you will be required to be separated for a long period of time.\n\nBut if you decide to go ahead and start dating this woman, then do it wisely and know that your days together are numbered.\n\nThe smart thing to do in this case