My workaholic husband has spent half of my pregnancy traveling the world for work.  How would you feel ?
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abandoned....simple...
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I think its cool that he is thinking about your future and trying to work hard to make better for both of you. You should understand him little bit more. Listen to what he says and take for what he's telling you, not for signs of cheating and don't think he is going to leave you because he obviosly cares. I completely understand that you might feel lonley sometimes. I've been there too, with my husband working long hours, but all you have to do is talk to him. Let him know that you miss him sometimes and that you need affection. Try to understand each other with out making an argument about it. Lots of Luck.
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well, i would tell him what i feel about it to the very small details, no matter whether it hurts or not. \nhowever, you are proud woman and i wish you the very best of luck. it is not easy. not at all. take care of your kids as best as you can. they have a great mother\n\ncheers\n\nnedzad
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He may be feeling like these are his last days of "freedom" and the ability to come and go as he pleases.  You can't make him stay home with you, he'll only wind up resenting the situation.  All you can do is tell him honestly what your needs are and that even though the baby has not arrived yet, his presence with you helps you feel secure and less anxious of the future.  A guys night out even once a week or so is not bad.  But if he's out all of the time, you need to find out why he is reluctant to spend this quality time together.  Also, can you compromise by the two of you going out together sometimes?\n\neditted to add:\nAnd dear lord, do not let people tell you that pregnant women can not be sexy or that you are used goods.  You have a precious life growing inside and any real man would recognize that for the miracle that it is.  A less confident man may not.  Also, I got pg out of wedlock.  I am now happily (usually, lol) married with 2 beautiful children and even if the future would change with my husband, I would never ever regret the experience because I have the 2 greatest joys of my heart sleeping upstairs from me.
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Just reading your question you sound like a wonderful person..first you gave up a good job but your priority was your baby (who you love more than life itself) and your husband is happy with you and your kids love you..couple of questions?..has it been very long since you had your baby?..could you be suffering from post-partum depression?..Could you just be depressed?..Please talk with your doctor about your concerns..So much about our lives today are busy and as women we are caregivers. We ignore our needs. Your feelings   and thoughts may be a chemical imbalance in your brain (you have no control of) often just talking with a mental health clinician can help you pinpoint why you have those feelings and how to re-direct them or change your focus..Be happy (I know how simple this sounds) Sometimes the money becomes the focus and it doesn't let you see how important your family and your life is..I wish you the very best.. Let this new move be a new start for you and your family..sounds exciting but busy...
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Well, how would you feel if you were them? Your LUCKY your not the pregnant one, and you're LUCKY your young! Think of how hard jobs are going to be when you grow up! I think you should jusyt put up with it a little more, and look forward to see the little baby. Your not going to end up like them, don't worry, there's a long time till your going to be pregnant. Enjoy how your young these days.
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I'm 25, already have a baby, I work full time in an international chinese company in Mexico...I'm just so busy all the time. I'm actually wondering if it's gonna be like this for the rest of my life. I wish I could just quit my job to spend more time with my baby before he grows up and doesn't need me anymore. See...I think this is a crisis.
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You can relax and go a whole lot easier on yourself.\n\nBabys cry and fuss. Even the best parents are frustrated by their inability to understand the baby. They cry for no reason. Sometimes they cry just because they need to cry. \n\nAll you can do is to have your husband and yourself spend as much time with the baby as you can. Spend as much time together with eachother and the baby too. The time is necessary for bonding and to learn about eachother. \n\nThis baby is a strange alien being that definately does not speak the language. You and your husband need some more time too to feel comfortable together. The three of you just need time and rest. \n\nLike most people, you are probably trying to achieve an awful lot in careers and in life outside of the home. You might want to think about priorities and see if both of you can devote more time to family and slow down outside. More rest and more loving family time will probably make all of you feel more like family.\n\nLook at your committments/ house/ mortgage/ payments/ income/ bills/ nanny/ expenses/ etc etc etc and see what you can do without. Maybe you can actually cut back and have more with less.\n\nThere is a great website "www.amoneyminute.com"  from Crown Financial Ministries. They can help you think about raising a family and having time to learn to be with your kids. Who knows, you might find a way to have a great time raising a bunch of really happy kids and a really happy family too.\n\nI imagine that there are a lot of familys that have cultural friction when one partner is asian and the other is american. We americans are over confident and pretty pig headed (you can tell him it is a cultural thing) After all we have been used to having things our way for the last hundred years, and in America, that is forever.\nYou might look for a asian/american christian church in your area. They usually have couples counciling. And there will probably be other asian wives that have american husbands who can relate with your situation. They should be able to help.\n\nJesus loves you Dear. -----and so does your husband, I bet!
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My husband and I married never expecting to have kids because of various problems I had in my early 20's.Yes, I prayed for my first baby...mostly for her and that she would be healthy. My doctor had told me that because of my weight (obese pregnancy) that I would be facing severe complications and possible loss of pregnancy but I didn't. Except for the usual stuff and even more wieght gain, I was healthy and so was she. Now my son on the other..he was a complete blissful and wonderful surprise. So with God all things are indeed quite possible. God bless you and your husband...with as many as you want. Love in Christ, ~J~ <><
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While I do fix my husband's food plate and I do many other things for him as well that our daughter's consider waiting on him hand and foot, my husband does many things for me also.  He rubs my feet after a hard day of work.  He makes sure the oil is changed in our cars.  He does maintenance around the house.  If I have to work lots of extra hours he will fix dinner and do laundry.\nSo for us it is a two way street.
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What kind of adventures? Your husband isn't taking the responsibility for things that are HIS FAULT! Why was he going from job to job? You need to sit down with your husband and tell him exactly how you feel. It might take counseling... I understand the 50 lbs overweight thing - I am right there with you. I had our child 9 months ago. I cannot believe that your entire 401k is gone... that's horrible. \nYou seriously need to sit down and have a heart to heart or y'all are going to lose each other...
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That is a hard one to answer because only you can work through the pain. Rely on God to help you through this mess that your husband is putting you through...Cejay
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I would do everything in my power to work on my marriage and avoid divorce. The next special occasion, maybe mothers day, that comes up give your husband a head's up. Say something like, "mother's day is two weeks away. I'd like to go out for a nice brunch at this restaurant. I'm not sure what I'd like for a gift, maybe some flowers or maybe we could go to the store together so we could pick out something together." Then make some reservations and let him know when it's time to go shopping.\n\nMaybe your husband is going through tough times at work, not feeling well or something else is making him preocuppied. Counseling can help. So can having fun together. Try to find a sitter and go out some. Your feelings aren't unusual. It happens a lot. The new baby has taken a lot of time and attention. \n\nI'd watch pouring out my heart to a colleague. That's the way affairs start. A woman usually get emotionally attached then physically. Try confiding in a woman friend instead and steering clear of your colleague. It will help you, your husband and your precious baby. I wish you the best.
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i know how you feel.  except mine is a 3 year old tantrum king!  spouse is deployed and we're far from home so i feel your pain...almost like being a single parent.  i enrolled him in a day program.  i feel like such a better parent when i see him.  i have a chance to miss him.  he is soooo feisty and just an all around boy he drives me nuts so having him burn his energy for 4 hours a day and then coming home...he's nice and relaxed and doesn't fight me when it's bed time.   also, you probably heard the saying.....terrible 2's, horrible 3's......lol
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Yes, Not only am I almost due to has this baby I woke up today with a headache. In fact I think I will leave early today and drag my husband home with me. It's a rainy day here in jersey today.
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Reconcile your your self to the fact that this is his job, by all means keep telling him you miss him, but don't try and stop him doing his job, or make him feel guilty over not being home all the time.\nI worked overseas for 15 years starting in Saudi, 4 months on and 2 weeks home leave, After a year of that I started getting better leave cycles in different parts of the world, my wife and children some times came with me.\nI went where ever the work (and money) was!\nI always managed to keep in contact with home and at times felt guilty, but my wife and kids knew the score and supported me in my work.\nSo all I can suggest is do not make him feel guilty , if he ever has to make a choice between you and work , and he chooses you it will always be on his mind.\nSupport him he probably doesn't want to be away, its no real fun being away from home even if it sounds great!\nBut whatever, good luck to the pair of you!
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Awww, not too many women can say they have the best hubby in the world and sound as convincing as you! Just make sure he knows that's how you feel about him, enjoy spending time with him and the new (to him still) baby, don't worry so much - it will rub off on him, let him do a few of the things you've become used to doing on your own - all men want to feel needed, and just be happy........Happy Holidays to you and your family.