Does the passage of time make you feel better after the breakup of a friendship?
966903
the time has this power of numbing us... of lessening the intensity of our emotions... maybe it's because as time goes, we tend to forget the hurt and the let us look back into the situation with a new-found understanding since we're in a differnet position in our lives now\n\nbut still friendships broken, especially those with dear ones, are always looked back with sadness...
186484
I am so very sorry for your lose. But as the saying goes, Time heals all wounds. And No, I am not trying to be funny. It will take time and as that time passes, keep in mind that your bestfirend is in a far better place and holding a seat for you when your time comes. When you can sit down and have a conversation with your friend. You'd be amazed at how well this works at times. I truly believe that your conversation will be heard. It will also help if you sit down with another friend who also knew this bestfriend. Maybe not as well or as close as you were, but someone who knew your bestfriend. It does help to bring closer.
223399
Do it at your own pace, there's no time limit on how long it will take, but one day you will suddenly realise that you hadn't thought about him/her at all. Splitting up can cause all sorts of stress - maybe you've had to move, change job, or have children together, or perhaps it was a nasty split or there was another person involved. Apparently, it can take half the length of the relationship to get over it - so in your case, you could allow a couple of years. Although I thought I was over my ex, who I was with for 5 years, it was definately a couple of years later that I realised he wasn't in the back of my mind any more. Good friends, time, and trying to be determined that it is not going to get you down will help. Perhaps there's an up-side to being single - you can try new things that you would't have done with your ex. If the situation is making you feel depressed or ill, you could try talking to a counsellor. Good luck.
493590
I had similar experience too. Initially I had a hard time deciding whether it was due to some fault of mine or that whether I should have been more tolerant. I even felt that maybe I could go and explain to my friend why I had stopped talking with him altogether.\n\nBut then, I felt that it was for the best. Maybe I was wrong in some aspects, but it was wrong on his part too to not have been understanding and to have taken things for granted. A true friend would never put his/her friend in a spot or do/say something which would hurt his/her friend's feelings -atleast not intentionally- and since this was happening quite often, I felt it was not unintentional (and even if it was, then it meant that he was being too insensitive).\n\nRegardless, now I have no bad feelings about it. We should move on... there will always be new friends both for us and for our 'ex-friend'... I just wish now that he too has moved on and I wish him all the success and happiness in life- only that I cant be a part of it. Nothing to feel too bad about it, huh?
803331
Yes--it's perfectly normal to still miss the person who dumped you and/or the relationship.  Just b/c you miss him doesn't mean that you can't control your behavior or that you have to act on your feelings.  In time, you'll meet other guys, have new experiences, and will enjoy yourself again.  It's impt. to be kind to yourself during this period and take whatever steps are necessary to heal.  I realize it must be tough dealing with the feelings you have, but you will be okay.  It's a real test of your strength and I think you'll be proud of how you dealt with your feelings.  Good Luck
232306
Oh baby.. Ask ur heart.. Is it really possible for u or the other person to b 'friends' after having broken up? U'll find the answer if u ask this to urself honestly..\nI believe that just to make matters uncomplicated and simple u can 'say' him/her that u'll remain friends just so as to console her at the moment.. but i m sure u wont be able to take this friendship to far..as u r aware..a broken heart stings!
865546
yeah my guy and i just had a fight..and I am so devasted..I love him soo much..but then again he is an as*hole...if you feel like you need time..then take time..but if you feel like you can move on with someone else then go out with friends and make new friends..usually after a break up..I like to take time for myself and get back to me...good luck\nps..if you still love him then call him and try to work things out
1083123
Yes & no...mostly yes...but now that I'm older I know how to handle pain...it's not so painful anymore...sometimes it's better to go through the growing pains...you'll learn from it & get stronger.Also,while the good times last-it's worth it...the pain is only temporary...just try to think of the good memories-it's hard sometimes but the end of a relationship isn't the end of the world.On the contrary,it's the beginning of a new relationship..........good luck...\n\nBTW,I'm not a female behind this mean mug...I just wanted to give ya 2 cents from a dudes perspective........
133340
If the break up was hard on u, ur best friend was probably just trying to spare ur feelings, especially if u have not moved on to a new relationship and ur ex has. It is good that u found out and the source, once it was not ur ex, is not really important.
1163901
There is a time after a breakup where the pain of parting is greater than the need for someone new. The more you cared for them, the longer it takes. The trick is knowing when to move on.
775818
Yes you should hold the friendship you had with her really dear.One of dis days you'll be glad you did but dat doesnt mean you can't make other friends.I guess it was a wonderful feeling but am sure if she has any means to communicate with you,she definitely will.Cheer up.
627991
Time will heal any emotional attachments you had to him. Feel free to move on with your life at any time now...
606589
I think it can be your enemy depending on how you handle the break up. If you are able to do stuff throughout the day, months etc that occupy your time you could be alright. If you spend all your time worrying about the break up then time can be an issue. Time does heal and time does give us chances we may never have had otherwise.
806433
Yes it does! \n\nIt did for me. After my cousin died (over 10 years ago) I found myself incredibly empathetic in situations that I used to shrug off - I still am. I still cry when I hear about someone else's pain form losing someone, even when other's can keep it together - because it just brings me back to the day that Seth died. It's ok to feel that way, it actually makes you a better person and good friend to those who are going through what you've already experienced. I'm sorry to hear about your sister.\n\nSometimes I have incredibly vivid dreams where Seth and I just hang out together - like we did when we were teenagers, just before he died. It's great because I wake up feeling like I've spent the day with him, but then I feel like I've lost him all over.\n\nIt may seem ridiculous to still be so affected after 10 years, but Seth was my best friend, I don't think I'll ever get over this. It does (as they say) get better though. Hang in there.
283838
The worst thing that u could do after a break up is hurting urself all the time mentally, and live in self-pity, and even contemplate suicide. Yes, there are pple who think that their life is worth just that. And thats worse than any other damage u can think of...\n\nBut looking on the bright side of the break up, i feel, its just one lesson learnt. Keep moving. Life does not end there. It hurts damn soooo much, but thats what 'getting stronger' is all about..
331338
You can Ive seen it but I dont think that I could ,Im silly that way.When my daughter broke up with a long time bf she was hurt more by trying to be friends than the break up itself.Her roomates folks split and remarried and they all hang together.Go figure.So I guess you probably could I just dont think I have it in me to do it!
692305
on average it takes half of how long you were together to get over someone\nbut you will