I Dont Want To Be Bitter...Help Me!?
953742
Oh shut up you stupid woman..most of us have been badly hurt but we get over it...stop the" poor me "act and enjoy yourself..dont take dating too seriously for a while and just have some fun.
13331
drop hate. Act like a child, never look back, don't worry about tomorow, live for the moment. Good Luck.
630674
I dun wish to be in your position...but if I were you, I would speak to the first abt my feelings and tell her that while I really appreciate all she has done for me, it would be great if she can be a little tactful...tell her she hurts your feelings sometimes, and remember to tell her how much her advices and thinking have help you a lot! \n\nAs for the second...seek her advice when you think you need it. She might be waitin for you to ask...but too shy to tell you her opinion without you asking...=)
1155555
yep, you're gonna have to accept it one way or the other! What's the use in being miserable about it? It's not going to do either one of you any good. Might as well be happy about it. There are worse things in life to be upset about.
996815
It gets easier as you get older.  First rule:  you can THIINK anything that you want of anyone you want; just don't let it out of your lips.  Next, focus on what the person is saying:  maybe it's constructive critisim, maybe it's true.  Third, ask yourself, is this worth my time and worry???  Is it truly worth wasting my breath when it's not going to make any difference anyway if I'm angry?  I'm only hurting myself here.  God Bless
504658
The fact that you're asking the question seems to point to your own realization that you don't want to be a bastard. But for some reason you've accepted the fact that at your core that is really who you are.\n\nWe need friends. We all need help along the way. Life is too hard and complicated for anyone to make it through by themselves. So I would say your first step is to search out your own heart. Why is it that you feel like your first reaction is to be cruel/mean/rude? Look for issues that are long past that you have never let go of--perhaps someone mistreated you or hurt you and you now react to the whole world as if everyone has hurt you. Let it go. Find your own peace. Then you can stop feeling like you're "acting" like a kind and helpful person. You can "be" a kind and helpful person.\n\nHope that helps.
1044751
Some of my best friends are people who, like you, tell it like it is and don't 'pull any punches.'  \nYou should absolutely stay true to yourself, but that doesn't mean you can't hold back comments sometimes when you feel they wouldn't be well received or if they might be hurtful.  You don't have to lie, but if you can spare someone's feelings by holding your tongue, then maybe that would be a good idea.\n\nRemember, not everyone wants to know the truth, they are happier in their delusions.  So, by pointing out what may be obvious to you, you will make then angry or sullen.\n\nThink of your wisdom and life experiences as having value and don't be giving them away free every time you open your mouth. Instead, let others learn from their own mistakes and strive for their own life experiences.
341158
Consider this a great opportunity to practice letting people know you don't like them. Why? Because you should not be expected to like everyone. You should never, ever beam fake smiles at people or laugh insincerely at their jokes just for politeness' sake. Who is that helping? \n\nYou don't have to be mean, just let your true feelings show. They will eventually leave you alone.
405178
Right now i'm in that same situation. You have to learn to let go of all the bad negativity. That doesn't help when you hold everything inside. You have to learn to express yourself better. If you have a best friend or a real close friend. Share almost everything with them. If things bother you that people do let them know. Don't stress over the little things. There is a way to be happier all the time even if it's not you, but it will take some work. You have to look deep inside of you and wthink to yourself why do I act the way I do??
768878
let yourself go. dont think aobut making yourself cry. just wait. it will come when you least expect it and it will be good.
948353
Yes, my past comes and bites me in the ass all the time...some days I wish I could have a "do over"..so I could make better choices...I know youre not feeling sorry for yourself, it's just so frustrating sometimes...like you want to scream"I'm Sorry, I'm trying my best, I'm not the same person !" Hang in there and keep making good choices and doing the right thing now...
700098
I hate to use a cliche, but HONESTY!\n\nSpend a few real honset moments with yourself.  Examine your part, claim ownership of what you did wrong.  Ask yourself "was what I said or did unthoughtful towrd others feelings/hurtful/mean in any way?"  We dont want you to not confess and have regrets.\n\nCome to your partner and let them know that you see your wrongs.  This will inspire them to get honest and own their side of the street, unless they are in huge denial.  Most of the times it works if the person is decent.\n\nThe and only then is it truly resolved.  If each person does not claim their share, resentments build and it will come out later, and worse!\n\nBest of luck and be real honest! U can do it!
417544
Get a life coach to reinspire you to evaluate your good points to focus on instead of evaluating your own negativity.\n\nIdentify your good points and cross reference with suitable jobs. in the mean time volunteer toassist a charity favourable to your beleifs to get used to a working enviroment and by default will start feeling good about yourself with out the pressure.\n\nThrough the networks of the new relationships you will build by default will get new and fresh opportunities.
109910
No one can do everything wrong all the time. You are berating yourself.Try to be more optimistic.
513444
Stay strong, Hold your head up high and go for it. Unfortanatly rude people are everywhere. Just remember to keep the faith and believe. Nobody is better than you.
1160184
It's perfectly OKAY to feel like that. Do not become dependent on what others tell you is right and wrong but follow your inner instinct. It's your best guide and you'll always be content with a decision you make. It's you, not the people, that ultimately determine the level of happiness you can reach. Before letting anyone tell you your feelings are wrong, ask yourself if/how that matters to you and whether you need to change your process of sorting out what you think/feel because of that....again, its really you that should drive this process, not the others.
284232
Be honest with your feelings!! Good luck!!