negative feelings about new  year ?
954684
I hate New Year too Aimee as I am sure a lot of people do. We won't be doing anything special either, I normally go into a chat room if I am really down at least you can have a few giggles there.
10673
I am a little depressed that I did not accomplish all my goals or stick to my resolves to change my life.  It requires a change, a shift in my perspective for me to see the new year as another chance to live my life the way I would like.
146617
I've had mixed feelings about it.  I used to hate it with a passion because it really is a corporate holiday and at the same time I always hated it because I never had somebody in my life to celebrate it with, as corny as that sounds.  This year for the first time ever I had someone.  We didnt go all out with these extravagant presents or expensive dinner.  We just spent time together and that was enough.
811642
sometimes this is common feeling during the holidays...too much stress sometimes..
404495
You are your own's best support. Even I was having that feeling earlier but then I find out what are my likes and I concentrate on that things. Whatever make me feel good I start doing that. Try to be positive towards life and enjoy whatever you Have. Something is not in your hand to change but you can create a way to be calm/happy in that bad time. Its all up to you to live happy or down. All the best
770671
jeez, way to make me feel bad, I don't even remember where I was yesterday much less last year!\n\nSeriously though, it's safe to say that this last year (closer to 18 months)have been the worst in my life. It's kinda sad because a year ago I kept telling myself, "well, at least things can't get much worse", I thought I hit rock bottom. I was wrong. \nOh, gawd...sorry for the emo crap, I should have just stopped at the dumb joke.\nI'm glad things are looking better for you though!
747643
talk about as many good things as you can...ppl cant seem to handle negative things at Xmas...unrealistic fools I think but thats the truth
890243
I know how you feel- no relaxed visiting- just a mad dash to make it to the next get together.  Its nice to be invited to more than one place, but it is a strain and really no fun to have to rush through a visit or dinner.  \n     You have a good idea, I think if I were you, I would go ahead and separate for the day to each family.  Especailly since you have family that you only see this time of year.  That time is precious- and you won't get the time back.
280651
It is caused by something new or something we thought could never happen to us, but did. I'm experiencing anxiety too. My thoughts reach the deepest crevasse, the infinite, and all permutations covered. I do not have first aid. I only give you my current state which i have about a week after this new year. It's agonizing; I'm emaciated and people around me still talk about if this food is delicious or if that car looks classy or not. You get what i'm saying, i suppose.
381090
My wife and I are opposite.  She is like you.  She looks for the negatives, I look for the positives.  I'm not sure you can really change over night.  You need to recognize what you doing.  The next time you are presented with something, take a step back and analyze the whole picture.  Your instinct knows how you want to respond, but look for the positives first.  Recognize how your negative reaction is going to affect others.  Sure there are negatives to everything, but if you can find positives, you are going to be much more happy.  Let go of your negativity....life is way too short to go through being negative all the time.  I always look at something and say things could be worse.  I wish you the best of luck!
949842
Been there done that.  I had a job loss a few years back and things were tight that year.\n\nMake two things positively clear:\n\n1)  You are not giving gifts. \n\n2)  Make it equally clear that you absolutely positively will not accept a gift this year since it is not in your power to reciprocate.  \n\nThe only one who got it all mixed up was my father.  He had bought some pajamas for me.  I ended up taking them because my birthday is around Christmas and he just substituted it for then.  But everyone else understood what was up.\n\nIt was an awkward Christmas I have to tell you.  But the real meaning of Christmas is celebrating the the birth of Christ, so I just focused on that.  Even though I felt like a loser for not being able to give and receive gifts, it was still nice to be around family.\n\nGood luck.
847397
I WANT TO GET MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS TOGETHER AND CELEBRATE NEW YEARS IN A SAFE MANNER. I WANT TO BE WITH THEM ALL AND BRING IN THE NEW YEAR TOGETHER. IF THEY ARE WITH ME I KNOW THEY ARE NOT OUT GETTING HURT.
770848
I am in the same situation : I have to work on 1st of january , although no one asked me. My boss only said that I have to and if I won't than I must work on Christmas Day. :(\nIf i would be asked I'd say :NNNNNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!! But some of us have no choice!
1089447
i feel tierd.....confuse....lonely....angry....happy.....worry....cuz i have to study hard and i dunno will i pass that awful hard exam or not...addicted to run every day close to 2 hrs and ake my mind get out of order....far from the one i love for thousands mile..dunno what will be our future and.....
154719
These ladies are giving ya good advice. Not every case is a worst case scenario. Work up the nerve to do it soon! You'll feel better. \nLibra sun, I like the fortune cookie message.
490282
Boy, I think we all get to that point at times. I hear ya and empathize. I've found when I feel one of those moods coming on, I tell myself.. This "mood" is entirely up to me, I can CHOOSE to be miserable and make others miserable OR I can CHOOSE to be upbeat and let things slide off my shoulders for another day.. What would ya rather do today?  Sometimes, it's grudgingly, but I opt for the upbeat choice. Another thing is to set a NEW goal in life, whether it be work or your personal life and get excited about it.\n\n\nP.S.  Being able to bring a smile to others is a gift that should be shared often by us all and the doom n gloom we sometimes feel does not in anyway fix our situations, so consider it a waste of time.
694998
The struggle you are dealing with is not a bad thing.  It just means that you see all of the counterfeit celebration going on.\n\nIf you are a Mom then you have an opportunity not only to make it a better time for you but for you children and maybe more family members.  \n\nAct on the yearning to do something more meaningful with the celebration of Christ's birth.  I believe the weight you feel is God trying to get your attention, trying to give you an opportunity to experience more, and share his love with others.\n\n1.Find the hungry and feed or cloth them.  \n\nGo to a homeless shelter or women & children's shelter and bring simple things like new underwear or toothpaste.  It doesn't have to be expensive - just something we all take for granted that some go without.  You could even get family and friends to make purchases for the shelter instead of getting you anything.  \n\n2.  Find the unloved and love them.\n\nFind shut ins or people in nursing homes and just go visit.  Take a child or a pet and just go listen.\n\nThere are more options of course.  Christmas is not lost.  The whole world wont change overnight, God works on us individualy, which is the most special thing about Christmas.