Why when bad things happen do people assume it had something to do with whether or not they deserved it?
967870
I really don''t know.  I have always wondered that.\n\nWhy personalize it, know what I mean.  It is what it is.\n\nPeople want to feel like they have some control over the situation, yet, still, the universe does not neccessarily  respond to our desires.\n\nIt can make a person feel worse to look at things that way.\nMaybe they are looking for what they feel is the root cause to avoid the repetition.
426779
True.\nBecause if you are a good person, eventually some people will recognize this and good things will come your way.  It isn't necessarily that you did one good thing and now it's coming back to you.\n\nIf you are a bad person, the same deal in reverse.\n\nI have seen this time and time again.
786174
Apart from the death of my father, I can't remember an occasion when things have gone downhill and I wasn't in some way responsible for it, either directly or through inaction.\n\nSo I agree, we have a lot to do with our own life situations.
98549
Why is it that when everything has been going bad, something GOOD happens?\n\nBecause we are all starting from imperfection and zero experience.  And there are temptations and pitfalls that accrue from not heeding the true basic tenets handed down over the ages, just about everywhere (including different cultures and religions).\n\nLife is a struggle, we have to team up and cope with the challenges.  There will be some disappointments along the way, you cannot control what others do, only yourself, and even yourself not always...\n\nAll the most needed things are free.  As for those things that require effort or money, be satisfied with what you really need as opposed to what you want.\n\nEven when we are old we must continually remind ourselves about this.  \n\nYou see some people who are unbelievably wealthy and unbelievably UNHAPPY and may even do crimes because they WANT SO MUCH, they are never satisfied.  Also, comes from living too much for ONESELF and not enough for others, helping others, working with others, sharing with others.\n\nHappiness is doing what is right and being satisfied with it, even when the surroundings are messy, all $%^#$&^^ up.\n\nIt is possible for heaven on earth if you think about this.  Meanwhile, you can have heaven in your own little spot, for sure.  There are ups and downs for everyone, even perfect visitors.
1096265
I think its for the same reason people thank God when something goes well. In both cases, they don't want to take responsibility for their actions.
1117386
Out of extreme pride or sensitivity: either because they think they are "too good" to be treated that way or merely because they expect more from the people they love. However, once the other person admits his fault and truly regrets behaving that way there is really no point in not forgiving. As a very wise man has said "To err is human, to forgive, divine".
101180
I think it might take some time, because people are unwilling to tell themselves that they have been living the wrong life. But I think that once that happens, it might take a few years for people to start understanding what really went on. But sooner or later it will hit them...HARD.
893928
I believe that some do. Like the other answerer-take it next time. But I also believe that things happen for a reason and maybe there's a reason why you missed out...
105475
Either something terrible must have happened which you wasn't your fault or something must have happened which was your fault altogether. Whatever the cause maybe, think good things.
814523
Unfortunately, people often do not think of all of the bad situations in the world because they are not in that situation or are not confronted with it on a daily basis.
436149
People make mistakes and they cannot forgive themselves. They try to blameselfs more to please other people. They end up hating themselves. They think everything is their own fault.
442171
We're given the capability to learn behaviour and probably inherit behaviour to some extent.  The worst behaved people can have the best intentions and just not know any better, depend on how their lives have been lived up to that point.\n\nI would say the worst behaviour happens when a person is aware that what they are doing is morally wrong but do it anyway to satisfy some urge.  We tend not to blame people who are actually unaware they are doing something wrong.\n\nConversely, the best things come about when we fight our strongest urges and do what we think is the most morally acceptable thing.  We are just human and our most basic instinct is to please ourselves, so usually the actions we hold in the highest regard morally are those that help people and somehow sacrifice our own needs.\n\nThat being said, I think intentionally making other people suffer, lying and killing are about as bad as it gets.
618814
Maybe it's the laws of karma or divine justice. All things, good and bad, have their fair effect upon us at one time or another. "What you sow, so you shall reap", said in these same words or similar by Our Lord, Buddha, or however you may want to call it. Pain or suffering that we might inflict unto others, deliberately or not, will come back to haunt us later; either in this life or the next.
222667
Because people in general think that bads things will not happen to them.  That they'll happen to the other guy.  A lot of people also don't look to the future, they just live and think about today.
199050
Many times, in many areas of life, in just about anything.  It seems nowadays no one takes pride in anything they do, nor are they made accountable for mistakes.  Therefore, everything in general is not as good as it should be.
281510
Literally I think it means to excuse or to pardon ones mistake, but this was no mistake and you have every right to feel the way you do. Some people say they do it because it helps them to accept what happened, releases their anger and allows them to focus on healing. Others I think are more self serving in that they want to seem the better person in appearances and receive the praise that accompanies it all the while still harboring their grief and anger. The thing is that there is no right or wrong way to feel in these situations, but in time you do have to learn how to cope with it. You can't forget about it because it did happen and you are not required to forgive, but you can not let it be all consuming and ruin your happiness and peace of mind. Take Care and Be Happy.
688273
I think i will agree with the person which say that everything that happen has a reason behind.Unfortunately,the reason is not always very clear and it hidden.\n\nso to answer you question i think there is a reason behind may be one day you will know it but may be you will never know it!!tragedy of life..........