Can there be real friendship between a male and a female who have dated before.?
960224
He is getting his cake and eating it too.  He is able to get the companionship without the relationship and that is not fair!  You have to find a rebound guy.  I know this might not sound right but you need to have someone else spark your interest to get your mind off of him.  Or if he continues to contact you like he does after another month or so and he does not get another girlfriend there still might be a chance for you.  Just hang around and always be there when he calls but at some point you have to cut him off and see what his reaction is.  If he wonders as to why you are not as available anymore that may spark feelings that you are looking for or you might just have to go with the rebound guy.
65786
Depends - are you having issues in your relationship? Is he still romantically involved with her? Do you trust him?\n\nIt's entirely possible to just be friends with someone of the opposite sex - even someone you've been in a relationship with. On the other hand, if he seems to be getting involved with her again, you probably need to figure out what's going on, and why.\n\nI'd be happy to tell you what to do - but I'm just an anonymous stranger on the internet. All I can tell you is that you should ask him what he's doing with her. If you don't trust him to give you an honest answer, then I think you have bigger issues than who he's talking to.
735945
yes. we got to know each other as friends.. didn't really share many pics. talked for fun.\n\nmet  3 mos later when he was in my state and decided what the hell and to meet for coffee. we had 5 amazing dates before he had to leave and we got to know each other even more when he left again for 3-4 mos.\n\nwe had to work our schedules around talking being on opposite sides of the world. really got to know the real other person b/c we were friends first and talked about a million things. read books and discussed them. asked questions from several dating books. had to communicate with words, written and spoken. didn't take each other for granted. \n\nwe had lived and worked just 10 minutes from each other but were too busy with our jobs to meet otherwise. we now live together and have 2 cats. we started talking may 2005. the dates when he was home was aug 2005. he came home dec 1 2005. we recently moved in together because we were really only apart for about 15 days in the last 8 months.
279502
It's purely impossible, kid. She would have to start trusting him, even though it would be difficult to.\nBut with out trust you don't friendship and with out friendship you will never have anything else.
469853
I've had the same experience....with a woman....we met and it just wasn't the same.  I believe there is no reason it cant be though.  Meet the guy in a safe place and see if you still have the magic in person.  Dont worry or get uptight.  good luck
978094
ugh. thats reallly tricky. its sorta against the "friendship code" yeah....but it just depends on whether the friend hes been with cares and how close you and her are.....and if she's fine with it, then go for it....and if she's not....you have to judge on ur own how important that friendship is to you.
328222
It really depends on whether you have any feelings for the girl because if not then there's nothing for you to act on and take that relationship to another level.  As soon as one person has some feelings for the other in a friendship then it ceased to be just that.  The bottomline is that the only way women and men can remain friends is if they both find each other somewhat unattractive.
598796
Well hopefully you've been honest if your past has come up in conversation with your current girlfriend.  If not; then maybe you'd better be worried........Otherwise, it is possible for the current and ex to be o.k. with each other although; not too many of them can be true friends.  There are too many unanswered questions that will come up between them, and usually trying to make that type of relationship work usually backfires sooner or later.........
841797
Yes, my best friend since highshool (I graduated in 1971) is a guy.  We did date a couple of times but nothing ever came of it.  We valued our friendship too much to let romance get in the way.  We stil meet for lunch or coffee whenever he is working (owns his own construction company) near where I work.  I'm even God mother to his youngest daughter.  Yeah he's married too.
722058
Sure they can....It takes what  is called time...Of course when physicallity is involved it is difficult to remain "just friends"....
84558
I realize you were hoping for more with this guy than just friendship but friendship is the basis for your relationship with him.  Why do you want to throw that away or give up on it just because he is dating someone else?  Good friendships are just as hard to come by as good relationships.  You should continue to be his friend and support him.  This new relationship of his may or may not last but hopefully your friendship will.  And while you should lead your life as if nothing will ever come of this friendship other than what it is now, you just never know what the future holds.  Those bonds of friendship may grow over time and some day the timing for you two may be right for things to progress.
1082192
ive met a lovely lady on here, she is my soul mate and we have hundreds of things in common, i never thought i would meet someone so perfect in my lifetime (well 99.99% perfect, she's from Wales lol), she has given me a breath of fresh air in my life, and a new belief that not all women are as so shallow as my ex, \n if we met years ago i would of asked her to marry me, but circumstances now mean we can only be friends, which im very happy to be, as i am so lucky to have such a great friend ive never had a 'best' friend in life,  but she is the 'best' thing to happen to me in years. i hope i meet her in our next lives as she truly is a great person. i love you ----
856228
i don't think so. you definitely don't know each other well enough yet. it takes years of getting to know each other and experiences and getting through hard times before you can be sure. don't jump to any conclusions too quickly and just see how things go.
363425
Of course, but don;t wait too long. You were friends already and the trust you built is the foundation to build on. The feeling have probably already been incubating for awhile, time to let them out to grow.
656301
yes it can, but you both have to be honest and trust each other. good communication is also another key factor in making this kind of relationship work.
982433
nope. boys and girls can't be True friends.. esp in ur case!! (watch "When Harry Met Sally....)....\n\nwhen one person has feelings for the other, the "FRIENDSHIP" is over. and u are only nice to her cuz u still have feelings for her, not cuz u are truly her Friend. u will bend over backwards to do anything for her, not cuz ur just a friend, but cuz u LIKE her. therefore, it is not the same as a friend. =T if u don't want to get hurt over and over, ur gonna have to do one of these things:\n\n\n1) come clean and tell her u can't be close w/ her because you like her, and want her to break up w/ her boyfriend\n\n2) start maintaining ur distance, making urself more busy, getting more involved w/ activities and meeting new friends\n\nif u keep hanging out w/ her, ur just gonna get hurt. unless she "magically" changes her mind and goes for you..but are u really going to wait for that to happen, or are u gonna continue living ur own life!  good luck~
152697
I wouldn't, because of the chance of messing up your friendship. Because when friends date and it doesn't work out, they normally lose their friendship. And it's the reason why alot of people don't take the chance.\n Good Luck