What to do when I feel so lonely and tired of doing housework and caring for my babygirl all the time?
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Do you know any other young wives and mothers in the neighborhood? If you do, why not hang out with them. If you don't, then introduce yourself.  Plan outings and fun things to do. You don't have to stay home 24/7. Do something nice for yourself. Do you have family nearby? See if you can get a family member to babysit for a few hours so that you can go out and enjoy yourself, pamper yourself!!!! I hope that things will get better for you. I know what it feels like. Sometimes we are so busy taking care of everybody else that we forget about ourselves.
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Yes zool, sometimes I feel very sad and loney too.  My marriage of 27 years broke up about 3 yars ago.  Then I met someone, fell in love and got engaged.  He died last September.  Since then I can't seem to "find my place."  You know, where I belong.  I moved to another state but feel like I need to go back where I came from because my children and grandchildren are there.  What is making you feel sad and lonely?  You can email me at watsoq9@yahoo.com if you like.
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i think you need to start helping around the house a bit more, there probably holding a grudge at doing all the work for you wen your old enough to do it by yourself, that should improve things between you and your sister, make an effort with her boyfriend, maybe suggest the family do something together, e.g go for a meal, bowling, ice skating, cinema, laser quazer something fun and that you dont do every day.\nand i know this sounds weird are you on medication? only i was on medication ant it made me well depressed and fornd it hard to cheer up, it wasnt until i came off that my mood lifted and felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders, if you are then i'd suggest seeing your doctor for alternatives.\ngood luck
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That really depends. You could try something like caffeine which MIGHT offer a temporary surge of energy which might get you to feeling a bit better, but professional care is really the best way to go if you are feeling very depressed, especially if it lasts any length of time (over a week or so).
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Before you give up ask yourself a few questions..is he working all those hours to benefit us as a family or to get away from home. Could he be unhappy also and not wanting to be a family unit. Next talk with him in a calm manner and ask him these questions after you have already answered them for yourself. From there see if this is going to be the best thing for your child as a whole and also you. Will you regret leaving and wished you would have stayed. Right now your lonely and think you would be better off alone but think of the long term and not the short term.............
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its sad to hear all ur problems, but there is always a solution for every thing. though what you said sounds like constant depression but usually close to each menstural cycle it is normal to feel down and just to look at negative points of life.\n for short time you can elevate your mood with relaxing and enjoying yourself with simple and cheap ways. some thing like a nice choclate with tea(earl grey,is my favorite for this times) realy helps me a lot.beside that you can stop thinking about the world for some hours and enjoy your self with may be a nice bubble bath , or something which you usualy dont do much and will not cost much too.you can light on some candles and put nice relaxing music with headfones so it will shut the sounds of neighbors lye down on your bed and close your eyes ,and try relaxing yourself part by part of your body. starting from your toes contract them and relax them and move up to your leg muscles , thighs, till you reach your head,take nice deep breaths and only concentrate on your body parts you are relaxing. when your whole body is relax try to count backward from 20 to one in your mind and try to imagine each number in your mind.and go to sleep. \n\nfor long term solution you should sit and see what are real problems and what are looking like problems.\nthough the neighborhood you explained doesnt sound nice at all but always try to look at the positive point of things, atleast you have a home to live in, and you sleep in your bed not in the street,bad things can happen to any one , but till you would be able to save up some money to move to a better place, its good to have a shelther rather than nothing.\nsame goes for your job, so many people would be happy to have your job and will not mind any hardship.try to see if you can get a better job but dont leave this one with the hope of something which doesnt exist. the main problem of yours which might be also having effect on your performance at work is your depression. which you can try solving it .\n\nwork on interior of your home. its not neccesory to have expensive things , its just how you arrange them. try to get some plants ,or flowers and keep them on your window in your bathroom and in your kitchen, taking care of plants is very effective and relaxing,\nfor praying it helps me alot too, cause god is the only one who doesnt leave us at all. but you dont need to go to church to pray, you can pray any where, cause he is every where.and he hears every thing we say. \nif you realy tried all this and it didnt helped you try to get advise from a physician.\nmean while avoid foods which are having phenyl alanine, as it increases depression, things like milk and turkey meat are rich in it. instead try things elevating the mood like cocoa, choclate and coke. my best wishes for you.
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just try to change ur life\nur life is the main cause of ur sadness\nu feel like u miss many things like family and love or work or whatever\ntry to find who really take care of u and love u like this women\ntry to find a job \nengage ur time  try to do useful things to all and to urself
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First off, don't go seeking comfort from anyone else.  Nothing can ruin a marriage quicker than you deciding your lonely and doing something you regret.  Instead focus on doing things around the house that you normally don't get around to so that you can surprise her when she gets home.
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I think it is normal to feel this way from time to time. My best advice is to monitor your feelings. If you continue to feel sad and lonely for a long period of time, it probably is best to talk to someone then. Sometimes certain influences in life can cause you to feel like this even if at the time you don't think it isn't a problem ie. a crappy job or relationship woes. It is best to always be honest yourself and never to ignore negative emotions/feelings if they go on too long. Best wishes
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Hi.  It sounds as though you have an underlying depression.  I would say that of course you miss your finace when you are away from her but I doubt that is the underlying reason for feeling down when you are away from her.  Just wondering if you have been subtly depressed most of your life (dysthymia).  If you have true clinical depression then it wouldn't matter if you has zillions of dollars, a fantastic job, gorgeous fiance and tons of friends.  Real depression shows no mercy to anyone---no matter how great your life is and all the things that "should" make you happy.   If your body has a chemical imbalance (even a slight one) then nothing on the outside is going to take that empty feeling away.  I would definately talk to a doctor if you are not feeling good.  Doctors today treat depression regularly and are not judgemental.  I know because I have everything to be thankful for, great husband, great son, good health, nice home etc... but for some reason I sometimes have a sad empty feeling that seems to creep in out of nowhere.  That is just mother nature screwing with my physical self.  Being away from our fiance may trigger depression but it is not the underlying cause.
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You need some encouragement little one. Tell your parents or your counselor how you are feeling. Don't handle this burden on your own.
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You need to love.  When I was feeling empty, mum and dad had died within a year of each other, grandmother died at 102, during the same time, job not as exciting as it used to be, marriage on the rocks.  I brought  a kitten into the house. And I was in love .. with a kitten.  I named him Merlin cos he brought magic into my life.  The fact of being able to love took away the grieving and the emptiness.  \nA kitten might not be your cup of tea, but you get the idea, give out love, and it bounces right back to you two fold and fills those empty spaces.  \nGo and do something really nice for someone you don't even know.  Keep smiling.  Write again if you don't feel better very soon.\nThinking of you
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Susan,\nHi!  My name is Karen and I am a Nurse.  I worked in Labor and Delivery for many years.  It is not uncommon to feel like you are feeling.  It is called Post Partum Depression.  Of course, you love your daughter.  You need to make an appointment with your doctor and let him/her know how you are feeling.  You may need to go on an anti-depressant for a little while. Many women feel the way you do after they have a baby.  It is because of the hormones going crazy in your body.  Do you feel like you want to hurt yourself or your baby?  If you do, please call a friend to come stay with you and the baby so you will both be safe.  You do not want to do something you would regret for the rest of your life.  And remember, your daughter needs you to be there for her.  Do not feel embarrassed because of being depressed.  You are not alone.  Please make sure you call your doctor in the morning and get an appointment to see him/her.  It is very important that you do this for yours and your daughters safety.  It will make you feel better.  Take care and God Bless You Both!\nKaren
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The best way to get over being lonely is to get out of the house. If you don't have money, go to the library. Read a book, the newspaper, something. Or go "people watch" at the park.........Just get out of the house! Go get an ice cream.  Call a friend! Good Luck with the loneliness. Tomorrow's gonna be a better day for you!!
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take up reading, doing crafts is a good time passer\n\nget a computer, you can learn, play, chat or a million other things on-line.\n\nI know it is hard.  I have a friend who is in a similar situation, for that matter I have been there myself.  I know it can be hard when most of your old friends are married with kids etc and you feel so isolated.  When I was alone and basically broke I tried to just stay busy with something.  Get a pet, they are good company too.\n\nOh yeah....\n\nDon't pay any attention to some of the people who are answering with mean stuff.... they just don't have any understanding of your question, some people can't help but be a@#holes.  \n\nI don't think they understand what you mean when you say you are on SSI.  Some of us do.  I realize that you can't go out and get a job.  There are still many things you can do as hobbies etc.
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hello what i would do is catch up on some family time like your mom dad gramma children me i love to clean my home also work at my job 8 hrs then i would tire myself out and go to sleep make time go fast i have done this alot it works for me then reuniting will be gloriouse
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Find a time when he is relaxed and watching tv. Ask him if you can talk about something that is really important to you and that you need his help. \nWhen expressing your feelings we teach children to do this:\nState what you are feeling:\nDad, I am really lonely. I love you but I am getting really depressed and it scares me. When I am home alone during the day, I feel really lonely because......................\nthen say exactly what you feel and speak from the heart.\nIn the end, ask if he can help you.