I have both a bf and a gf?
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dear partygirl,\nyour boned. there isnt much you can do, by involving both parties in sex you have created paranoia. there realyl is no remedy to this.think about it like this... Q: do you ever wonder if the two see each other without you knowing?  A: you should. i tried this thing that you did and it ended up killing the entire relationship, for both.\nso here is what you should do... in my humble oppinion... figure out what is more important, him or her? then my best advice to you is to cut the relationship off. with one of them only if you want to continue with one... i resolved my own situation with that anwser. now you got to think Q: do they have a right to be justified in jealousy? A: of course they do.  i would be very jealous if i knew that the person i was in a relationship went to someone else with theyre problems. a relationship is best left monogamous... or discreetly otherwise i.e a commited relationship whilst just bringing in outside parties.... like someone you met at a bar or a freind of a freind. nobody close to you. it causes conflict. so basicly figure out who is most important to you, and ditch the other or even better ditch both and find a new guy.
472021
Don't pressure him to dump his g/f for you, if it was meant for you and him to be together... you and him will be together. Only time will tell. If he dumps his g/f for you and another girl comes along while you and him are in a relationship don't you think he just might dump you for her. So I'm not saying sit around and wait for him to come around, there are plenty of fish in the sea- explore your options. If he wants to be with you it will happen!!
764821
your situation seems like a very complicated one.. maybe the next time he says that he loves you, you should ask him why u arent together then. i dont think its a good idea to continue to do gf bf stuf with him unless you start dating again. he might be just using u and u really dont want to get deeper than u already are if he is. maybe theres a different reason he broke up with u.. fam? but i dont noe. if i loved someone else i dont think i would be able to date another person at the same time.
789087
The grass is always greener...  IMO, stick with your current boyfriend and forget about the first one. Or, stay single. Perhaps you aren't ready for a commitment with either yet if you are having difficulties deciding between them.  Goodluck with whatever you decide to do. :-)
559818
this is going to do you some good. i was in the same situation about a year ago i always leaned on my gf and it was a good experince i had to learn to depend on myself cause your signifiacnt other might not always be there. and you need to be happy with yourself and depend on yourself. and be independent and do things for yourself.  then you will truely be happy and find the right guy for you. not one you need to be happy. you should be happy if you have a guy or not
236311
talk to your bf, see his side of the story.....
904340
yea!but this is a real hard thing to decide because how does your gf or bf no that this will never happen again but it also depends on how long you 2 have been in relationship So it has to do with how much trust was in the relationnshp if you are the person who cheated you should not let your bf or gf find out from another person that only makes things worse so if you like/love this person as much as you think you do then you will have enough respect for them to come to them and tell them that you know you were wrong and you promise it wont happen again and long as you are faithful from that day on you are guaranteed a good relationship.
251017
I would love a b/f that would love to have a g/f
508697
You've a lot of growing up to do dear...\n\nI think you should believe your bf, otherwise you shouldn't be with him
743044
I don't think that sounds like cheating at all; however, I can totally see why you would feel jealous because I'd feel that way if I had a gf like that! I think that they just happen to have very similar schedules, so they tend to be around each other a lot. Unless he constantly talks about how amazing she is all the time, or goes completely out of his way to make plans with her instead of being around you, then I'd start to worry and ask him what's going on. Until then, I don't think you need to feel threatened.
212987
Talk to him about. You have to COMMUNICATE with the other person involved in your relationship. But I would give him the benefit of the the doubt with this one, it's kind of stupid to give another girl your number when you're physically with your girlfriend.\n\nIf this crap continues, confront him.
994298
do they know that you lknoe each other\n\nhave the three of you ever met\n\nif yes then i think that its not only your gfs fault\n\nit also has sth to do with ur bf\n\nhe may have led her on\n\ntalk to your bf first and then your gf \n\nif its one sided then tell your gf to look 4 someone else \n\nand if both want each other then kick them out of your life
968500
All in one! Keep her out! And you try and keep a hold on your bf. You have to manipulate sometimes you know. Remember, everything is fair in love and war!
610878
bf is boyfriend.\n\nI assume you meant "best friend".
524975
hon, you don't, just give it time.  If it is meant to happen, it will.  Be friends, first, then worry about the rest as it comes.  There has to be strong feelings between the 2 of you or you wouldn't be bf and gf, right?  So have fun, enjoy being together and just go from there.
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if there is really doubt in you, i think you should stop and tell him that it's better for both of you to be just friends.. because what if you and him became a couple, (but before you became a couple you had that feeling that you want to leave him) i think between your relationship as bf-gf, you're gonna feel that again.. and that will lead to a break-up, which will also ruin your friendship.. so it's better if you stay friends..\n\nor you can also observe your feelings.. you just have to wait (maybe months.. even years) but there's nothing wrong in waiting for years.. because if you are really sure of your feelings that you really love him, then the waiting is worth it..\n\nit's really hard to make a decision.. but it's harder if you will break someone's heart because of a wrong decision.. it just takes time..
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you just wait till a gurl that you really like and that would respect you for who you are not what you have thats what i did for my BF and we have been together for 3 years it worked out perfectly dont always follow what everyone else does...hope it all works out :)