How to make your wife feel needed without being lazy.?
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You're a good man.  Nothing wrong with you at all.  If you want your wife to feel needed then allow her to do the things she wants to do for you and don't forget to thank her and show her appreciation for it afterwards.
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Tell wife to grow up!
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How about inviting her for a nice walk or asking if she'd like to go play a game of ball with you. Make her feel like you want to do something (active) with her. And that way she won't feel bad.
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By being attentive, respectful, honest, loyal/faithful, and being there when she needs u.  Always try to meet her needs but don't forget yours in the process.  Most importantly, don't forget the communication factor, be open to suggestions and be willing to share them too.
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Just explain that sometimes you would like to do it a bit gentler. Do it her way sometimes and your way other times.
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Marym,, you obviously have a "selfish" Husband,, and I use that term "Loosely" he is very selfish in that he does not do his share around the house, and sounds VERY self-serving. Sex, is one thing,, Lovemaking is another. Tell him to jerk off more and leave you to rest,, or come home clean the hosue get the baby to sleep. This,, while you rest up for a quiet evening together. Foreplay starts with him simply leaving a nice note,, tocuhing you,, giving you a nice surprise phone call, coming home and doing chores while you relax from 16 hour days. The,, and only then,,does it become "lobemaking" instead of Neandertahl "sex" YOu deserve better//\n\nHarsh?? Yes.. but true!! I am father of two, and do all the above to comfort her and give her spiritual and emotioanl/physical recovery before lovemaking.. It makes it a two-way street instead of one way ,, like your selfish husband.. You need a REAL man....
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Most wives tend to give thier husbands plenty of affection. If your wife isn't doing that, then you shoud sit down with her and find out the reason why.
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Ugh. \n\nSounds like something my husband and I are going through. Or, maybe I'm going through and I just think he's also going through. Come to think of it he may not know how I feel.\n\nWe just had a baby four months ago.  I feel wiped out, tired, and un appreciated.  I want someone to appreciate me and make me feel good about myself. Not that I don't feel that way, but when a man tells you how hot you are...and how you make him feel...and makes you heighten sexually...it's amazing. And, once hubby stops - ie family and kids. It leaves the woman longing for more.\n\nI doubt she's already done anything. She probably said that to you to see what you would say and how you would react. She was testing the waters.\n\nIf you want to save your marriage do the following:\n1. Surprise her\n2. Find grandma to take your daughter for a week\n3. Take her on her dream vacation\n4. Tell her how sexy she is, and how she makes you feel\n5. Touch her\n6. Spoil her; arrange for breakfast in bed, seaside dinners...\n7. Don't nag - handle all the little details the whole vacation make it worry free for her...trust me, she is in a rut. She needs a break\n\nYou have to show her you still are interested.  Like gets crazy after kids.  And, once you are stuck in a rut --- it seems impossible to dig out of it.\n\nBTW, I would NOT let this go un-noticed. You need to acknowledge her and what she said. No matter how crazy it seems or how uncomfortable it makes you feel. You need to tell her how you feel - or just that you don't understand where this is all coming from.\n\nAlso, don't ask her if she wants a vacation or needs a break. She's going to say no. Women like to think they are super heros and take on more than they can manage. They feel they are inadequate if they don't keep up with so and so...or if they can't meet someone elses standard of what a wife and mother should be.
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I belive if you can make a woman feel sucure in you.That she can trust that you'll be there for her emotionally,good times and bad. that you can always help, or that she can help you.if she feels sucure, she may make the first move tword sex and chances are your  sex will be better. really liston to her and you'll know what to do
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shower her with love, affection, attention and kindness.  put her needs above your own, and you will win.
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Aww come on dude, a woman needs to feel loved (love not sex)I am always there for my wife, I talk to her, I listen, sometimes she only wants to talk out a problem and does not want me to provide the answer. I take my share of cleaning the house (I work full time to provide the best for her as well).\nShe says she feels warm and contented when with me. I spend as much time as possible with her.\n\nI know what you are worried about, if you get everything else right, then sex will never be a problem, for me it is awesome.
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You are obviously already attracted to your wife. Why don't you focus on making your wife happy? By satisfying her desires she will be more inclined to satisfy your desires.
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Start making a good faith effort to make things go better between you. Then keep making that good faith effort day after day until it pays off. And then keep right on making that good faith effort day after day, or she will feel like you tricked her, and you will be worse off than before.\n\nIn short, there is nothing like a husband who tries hard to make the marriage a good marriage to make a wife feel friendly toward him.
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In addition to all the stuff you and others listed...\n\nOnce everything has been accomplished and everyone is now tired...\n\nThe "most effective" way to show affection is in the "Power Spooning" method of cuddling.  When you have your woman in a powerful, deliberate, protective cocoon of an embrace she can then sleep her brains out in total confidence.\n\nI know it sounds silly, but helping the modern woman sleep soundly is HUGE!  :)
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Get to know your kids interests, and if its baseball take them to a game, play catch in the back yard. Try to enjoy their interests with them and show them the ropes on some of your own, lets say you like NASCAR teach them how the cars are designed to go faster. With your wife. Find out what you can do around the house to keep her stress level lower, maybe she just would like help with the dishes or help folding laundry, they arnt chores if you find time to do it together and have a good time joking around in the process. Let her know she can vent to you about her day, and when she has a problem ask her if there is anything you can do to help fix it. if she says no then just take it as she just needed to let off some steam and talk to someone about it. But just cause your asking this makes me think your a good husband and a good dad because you care enough to try to be better :)
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Bryan, Don't buy her anything.  Shower her with undivided attention.  Shut off the T.V., unplug the phone, ship the kids off to the grandparents house and LISTEN to her.  Talk to her, touch her just for the sake of wanting to be close to her. Kiss her and put your hands on her every meaningful part of her body that you ignore for the rest of the year.  The back of her knee, her elbow, behind her ear, the nape of her neck.  Offer her a sex free massage and revel in the feel, smell, and sight of your wife.  Draw her a bath and scrub her from head to toe.  Paint her toenails.  Cuddle with her and tell her how much she means to you every single day.  \nA woman wants not for a gift wrapped up in pretty paper, to be torn, used, and placed aside.  Your wife is your present--are YOU her most desired gift?
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Find something to do that both interests you and her. Try to keep her occupied and try to make her feel comfortable and feel loved. Hope this helped, good luck!