What are signs of physical&sexuall abuse?
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I work with children and this is what I see when they are being abused.First thing is they withdraw in themselfs and don't do what they usually do.Like go places with people or hang with their friends. Their school work fails. Then they start acting out.Doing things to get introuble.Plus they're mad alot and will say disrepectful things to u.You also might see them always being hurt. I wish u all the luck in finding out the truth.
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Physical changes\nIncreasing Independence \nPeer Relationships\nSelf esteem and self image\nawakening sexuality\nteen angst
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beating and humiliation
846035
Unexplained bruising can be a sign of a medical condition.\nShe also may just not be telling you if someone is hurting her.\n\nMy daughter used to tell me she was bumping into things, when all the while her husband was beating her.  I'm happy to say that she is divorced from him, and he is in prison now.
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what were the actions that lead up the the abuse? Were you having problems for awhile. Remember when you are fighting and hurt you will say things that you dont mean in the heat of the moment...........
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Trowing up, no appetite, sleepingg alot, extreme fatigue\n\nbreast tenderness\n\nnausea, with or without vomiting\n\nconstipation, gas, and/or bloating\n\nabdominal cramps\n\nfrequent urination\n\nfood cravings or aversion\n\nmood swing\n\nincreased vaginal discharge
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Yikes.\nI've not been in an abusive relationship- but I did live in a womens' shelter after briefly moving back in with my parents and they decided to become abusive...\nI've also been violentally sexually assaulted- which was maybe similar trauma (though not as ongoing) as an abusive relationship... \nWhat helped me after the assault was NOT to generalize. I literally some days had to think HARD to find good things about men and sex! I made myself, though. \nIt was just ONE man, out of hundreds I have known as friends and acquaintances... and no one else ever hurt me like that.\nActually thinking of the men who I know or imagine I know who are NOT assholes and abusive in that way helped me alot. \nI imagine that having been in an abusive relationship, that your self esteem might be sorta low... getting over harsh words from my parents as a teenager actually took a longer time than getting over the assault! If you have those kinds of problems, you might consider seeking cognitive behavior therapy. Emotional abuse is tough S*** to get over! \nIf you have persistant fears and flashbacks, you might want to see a counselor also...\nI wish you the best of luck!
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I got this off a website. Hope it helps!\n\nWarning Signs in Abusive Person's Behavior With You or Other Adults:\n\n Has an excessive and early attachment, with a quick push for commitment. \n Is possessive. Calls and visits unexpectedly, checks up on you, reads your mail, monitors and/or interferes with other relationships. \n Is excessively controlling -- of money, investments, entertainment. Interrogates you about your activities. Tries to keep you from making decisions for yourself. Expects you to stay in a stereotypical or servant role. Enjoys trapping you. \n Expects you to meet every need and "be there." Will have impossible expectations, and when you fail to meet them, will make you responsible, saying, "this is all your fault," "I wouldn't get so angry if you'd just do things right," or "if only you'd be nice to me, I could be nice to you." \n Tries to isolate you from family and friends (saying they only "cause trouble"). May want you to quit your job, give up your car or telephone. \n Consistently blames others - friends, family, the children, government, employer, police, teachers - for problems or things that go wrong.  \n Has low self-esteem. Is hypersensitive to criticism and easy to insult. Will rant and rave about things that can't be helped, and will claim to be hurt when actually angry. \n Flaunts power symbols -- such as weapons or brute force. \n Withholds support, love, or affection out of anger, hurt, or need for power \n Enjoys hurtful, degrading, or violent sex. Finds the idea of rape thrilling. Will ignore your protests by telling you "it's all in fun." \n Has poor control over emotions. Has erratic and severe mood swings -- going from sweet and tender one minute to angry or violent the next. \n Might admit to hitting a partner in the past, but says the partner "made" him/her do it. \n Might admit to having been sexually or physically abused. \n Is critical of you and others. Will say hurtful, even cruel things, and might enjoy waking you up just to criticize you. Might threaten you with violence, saying "I'll break your neck," or "I'll kill you," and will dismiss your fears with "You're crazy," "You're no fun," "I was just talking," or "Everybody says that." Might even seem honestly remorseful...but the remorse doesn't last. \n Uses the children against you; threatens you with loss of your children or with harm to your children if you don't do what you're told. \n Threatens you with suicide or with reporting you to authorities; makes you participate in illegal activity in order to hold you. \n\nI think if you should date a person for a long time (a year or 2) to make sure they don't have any of these signs and behaviors.
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Wow, I can only imagine how stressful this must be for you!\n\nI think that the psychiatrist will be able to give you some answers.  If there WAS sexual abuse the Dr. will be able to tell--even is she lies about it.  Psychiatrists are trained to deal w/ these situations.\n\nPlease don't feel that this is your fault.  And please don't let the stress overwhelm you.  \n\nBest wishes.\n\nEDITED TO ADD:  In light of your additional details, I'd definately encourage you to just go ahead and take her to the hospital.  DO NOT feel guilty.  And don't listen to her when she tells you she hates you or that you're a bad mother.  YOU'RE NOT. \n\nOK, straight up talk here:  It takes a **** of a lot of courage to be parent sometimes and this is one of those times.  You need to get help both for her and for yourself.  It will be hard and things will get really rough for a while but you deserve a normal life and she deserves to have the most normal life she can have too.  The longer you wait, the harder it'll be.\n\nTake care.
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It is difficult to tell. I would suggest seeing a psychotherapist. Many of the symptoms you describe fall into the Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome area. In other words, it may be a past argument that left you very emotionally hurt, it could be a fight you lost or even won. Guilt over hurting someone, guilt from trashing the wrong person, etc. It may not even be directly related to arguments & fights. You may be able to come up with your own answer, but few of us have the ability to drop all the veils we hide behind and see ourselves as we are, See a therapist and try to get to the core issue. Good luck
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emotional abuse to me, is the worst, because emotions take a long time to heal. BUT, having said that, sexual and verbal abuse are also emotionaly abusive. i'd rather have a few cuts and bruises on my body, they heal, but emotions are who you are, and you dont want to scar that.\n\nand honestly, i don't think someone can really ever truelly get passed that resentment, it'll always be in the back of your mind. if he raises his hand just for the sake of raising it in the middle of a fight, you'll flinch, and that  shows that you haven't gotten passed it. you obviously still think about it. its not a healthy relationship. it should be good from the beginning. your relationship is forever poisoned
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Sounds like abuse to me, how do you feel?
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Yes. It is physical abuse.
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look just don't do it.  It's not good for you.  If you don't do it then it doesn't matter.\n\nThis kind of abuse is dangerous.  It affects a normal brain differently, and it can make you sick.  For the person with normal brain function, there are many potential side effects including elevated blood pressure and heart rate, nausea, agitation, headaches, insomnia, and death.
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I never assume abuse , but I dont want to give someone the wrong advice and send them into a bad situation, especially if there are children involved\n\nI think abuse can be physical or emotional and either sided , the girl can be the abuser, \n\nhitting, pushing, slapping, touching in anger\nname calling , putting down all the time, hurting ones feelings on purpose, trying to control the other person. telling them where they can go , who they can be friends with. there are so many kinds of abuse
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Physical abuse is not at all legal in France, though it exists far too often.  If you are having problems, call the police.  They will come and probably put him in jail for a night.  It might scare him enough to stop.  If it doesn't, contact the police again and they will inform you what you should do next.
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what kind of abuse do you mean ma? if it's physical they  need to tell somebody they trust about it to help them. verbal abuse (meaning they yell too much or embarass them by saying mean things e.t.c) maybe they should tell them what they are doing wrong.but if they are putting their hands on them or sexually abusing them they need to open their mouth and tell somebody. their parents need some kind of counseling. whoever you're referring to needs to stand up to their parents. it aint right, but it dont neccessarily mean that they're aren't loved. they need a new environment right away. their are just sick people in the world thats all. tell them to handle their business, if they gotta fight back then by all means do so. they can't sit around and feel sorry for themselves. maybe they need to stay with a relative or a close friend.