Daughter gave heirloom away.  Can I ask for it back?
953617
Queen Bee and M are both correct.  Also if the mother-in-law won't part with it offer to buy it back.  Explain that this is very hurtful to you and if this is the only way to get the ring back you will pay her.  Unfortunately, legally there is nothing you can do.  If you have to cry and make her feel guilty that's what you should do.  She should be a big enough person to realize that SHE is not the person you intended to have that ring since you would NEVER have given such an heirloom to anyone else but your daughter.  Common sense indicates you don't want anything like that going to an in-law!\n\nAdditional comment:\n\nAfter reading your additional details I think you should write them all off.  The mother-in-law has some nerve thinking you SHOULD PAY!  And even more nerve trying to fight over something that shouldn't have been given to her in the first place.  And your son-in-law is a wuss because he won't just pay his mother himself and return the ring to you.  I wouldn't buy ANYONE ANYTHING!  Take your money and spend it on yourself.  I think they are all ROTTEN to be doing what they are doing.
70875
don't let them borrow another thing until they bring the first thing back, and you can say I am sorry my Dad, cousin, etc. took that item so I don't have one to loan you. Then direct them to the nearest store that stocks the item and say "I think they have them on sale there." Pretty soon they will get the hint you are done lending things.
3171
Keep them. Although, if you were to offer them back, it would give a final nice impression. Throw in an apology, and you'll haunt him for a while.
1089229
It really depends on how you feel about using these things knowing that he bought them for you.  It sounds like he may have bought you the last gift in an effort to win you back.  If you don't feel right, you can box it up and leave a nice note saying that you don't feel right accepting this gift, and your love cannot be bought.
522963
A good idea is perhaps reporting it to a local museum. It's not a moveable artifact, of course, but they usually have old records and information and may want pictures or whatnot.
104838
I would first try to remember some of the stuff that they had their old home and ask guests to buy those things. If it is not a surprise new home shower, get your parents input on what they would want for thier new home. Sometimes when tragic things like this happens, it can be a great financial setback and monetary gifts would be an understandable and wise choice. May God bless you all and I wish the best for you and your family.
86315
Sometimes you can't.  If you changed your mind because you found out things that were not revealed and you didn't buy "as is" you probably have a good chance of getting it back.  \n\nAs a last resort, you can ask for it.
467400
You will have to prove that you were no longer seperated at the time of her mothers death, it doesnt matter if you go and stay a night here and there for the child to see you. So I'm gonna have to sorry no, and why would you want to do this anyway it was her mother not yours, if your were gone would you want someone you seperated with over two years ago say they deserve that inheritance also? I would use some common sense before trying to take something that belongs to someone you had once loved enough to marry and have children with.
799106
Go back to Court immediately and file papers (if you don't have an attorney, either call Legal Aid or ask the Clerk of the Court -who cannot give you legal advice, but CAN guide you to the correct forms to file) to bring the violation(s) of the Court Order to the attention of the judge for a ruling. Violations of a Court Order are Contempt of Court, and I have yet to meet a judge who takes these lightly (and I have met a couple, through similar situations caused by my ex). The Court does not feel warm & fuzzy about individuals who thumb their nose at the Court's authority. Until you take steps to get these matters brought back before a judge, your ex will continue to act without impunity. In the meantime, while you are waiting for a court date, take steps to protect your share of the community property, by making everyone (like banks, credit agencies, mortgage companies, etc.) aware of the Court's original ruling, in an effort to reduce your ex's chances of disposing of the property without your knowledge or permission. Good luck with this. Vindictive and unethical ex's can be very creative and resourceful. My ex even disposed of NON community property, when he got a hold of our daughter's house key, let himself in while I was out of town, stole my grandmother's hope chest and the hand-made quilts she had made which were in it, and sold them to a no-questions-asked dealer. I was unable to prove anything (it was all supposition and circumstantial, without witnesses) - and lost everything. DO NOT remain passive about this. You must act to protect your interests NOW.\n\nIf the vehicle is long-gone, the Court will likely not only find your ex to be in Contempt (and subject to fines and/or jail time), but will likely also order your ex to pay you at least half of what he sold it for - which he must prove. You should try and track down the paperwork pertaining to the sale, as best you can, to bring with you into Court. You should also consider getting a subpeona served on the person he sold the vehicle to, to force them to come into Court and testify as to the circumstances surrounding the sale. This person will likely be viewed as a hostile witness, but they WILL have to testify - unless THEY also want to face contempt charges. \n\nTaking these actions will send a clear message to your ex that he has rattled the wrong cage. Be diligent and persistent. You are not doing these things to "get back at" your ex. You are doing thse things to protect your interests.
1066859
Well before you recycle it maybe you should try to get someone to (re)use it. Start with eBay then if you don't get any bids, maybe you should give it to a local charity.
888294
ask to the person you bought
690490
I wouldn't think it necessary as far as regular rules of etiquette go, since it was an indirect act (it wasn't donated in the name of your sister-in-law). I would definitely thank her, and possibly giver her a token or gift of appreciation, and tell her how much it meant to you.
892410
I don't think you can ever get your money back. If it were me , I would just call it a "long , hard lesson learned", and chalk it up tp experience. I would not give her any more money, or trust her again either. If she is still in your life, you need to get rid of her immediately. She is not to be trusted, and is bad for you. Best of luck to you.
820055
A nice thing would be to ask the advice of her parents. it shows respect and what the family values. Find out what they think is approprite. Ask them to keep it a secret but they will appreciate that you asked because the girl is young and under their care. Get a few ideas from them then pick one. If you want to give an additional gift or something of your own idea...ask them what they think. "Would you mind if i gave her a bracelet or stuffed animal etc"? then you are free to give but have checked in with them.
790490
No...they shouldn't take the gift back...and no...you can't charge some one if they refuse to give the gift back...you can't even sue them for it...watch a couple of Judge Joe Browns and you'll see that very clearly. \n\nIf a person gave some one a gift under some expressed understanding that was never satisfied, (like a thankyou gift for painting a house, let's say) then it ceases to be a gift but rather a form of payment, but only provided that it was expressed to be that way before the "gift" was received. \n\nOr an engagement ring...it is a form of contract.\n\nIn response to your additional details, no..she still can't take it back...it was either a gift...or something a mother bought as her obligation to support her son...she could however argure somethings, like say a games system that was never expressly gifted to your cousin, she could say something like it was intended for the entire family not just your cousin. I doubt, however, that police would do much in this regard. \n\nIf she's booted him out of the house and is refusing to return any of his belongings, he does have the option of legal recourse to retrieve at least essential personal items. \n\nAgain, watch Judge Joe...I've even seen a mother who was being sued by her child for return of personal items and her excuse was it was for payment of the 18 years of food and clothes she bought....the excuse did not work.
282391
#1 Sorry you are upset and that your relationship ended badly.\n\n#2 NEVER give away something that was in your family to anyone. He can consider it a gift and choose not to return it. \n\n#3 Write him a letter and send it certified mail, restricted delivery, return receipt requested. Explain why the bracelet is important to you and ask fot it back without mentioning anything about breaking up or your hurt. Make the letter only about the bracelet. Enclose a self addressed, stamped envelope in the letter so he can mail it back to you without confrontation. By it being restricted delivery, his parents cannot sign for the letter nor can they refuse delivery. It has to be taken care of by him. Make sure that you fill out the envelope that you want him to return it in also as a certified letter etc. and keep a copy of the tracking # that is on there. That way he cannot say he sent it when he did not, because then you can track it online. Good Luck!
933162
First:  I am not a lawyer.\n\nThat being said, it seems to me that it will cost a lot more than the dog is worth to get it back.  You can't go to court in FL to get it back, since she is beyond FL jurisdiction.  Are you going to go to CA to file suit and get it back?  \n\nI'm sorry, but the best course of action is to get a new dog unless you have lots of time and money.