does race matter when it comes to relationships?
956707
if you're more concerned about a persons skin tone, rather than whats inside them, their personality or the things you have in common with them, then I suppose it matters.\n\nrace can cause problems if other family members don't approve for some reason.\n\nBUT: if you truly care about that person, it shouldn't matter, and you should stay with them.
457504
humans will be humans..if someone you are friends with objects talk to them..if that does no good find new friends who will accept an interracial relationship...all that truly matters is a persons happiness\n\nthis is not how i was raised but how i learned to be..in this day and age racism is so damn ignorant
154190
It's just like dating inside of your race.  The only difference is there are some short-sighted, uptight people that have a rediculous notion that race matters in who you spend time with.  That might become annoying.  But those people are not worth your time.  If you find someone that you enjoy hanging out with and are attracted to, then date!  Have fun!\n\nAnd as a bonus, if people of two different races go on to make babies, they have the most beautiful children!
265078
Here's a sincere answer:  No.  It has nothing to do with race.  Don't believe generalities like that when you hear them.
654574
it depend on the person, ive seen some hot black guys, ive seen some ugly black guys. ive seen some hot white guys, ive seen some ugly white guys- you just cant group the entire race together in one general subject. you may just have a preference which nothing is worng with that, i prefer dating black guys over white guys cuz thats my preference but i do date white guys, if they are cute, i date them- thats my theory lol
1137960
I noticed that firsthand as well. I can think of four factors to explain that:\n\n1. Because it's unusual. I clearly think it's the dominant factor. Most of the times, people date people from the same "ethnic group". Any relation outside that group tends to attract attention just because it is a rare type of relations and what is rare gets noticed.\nYou can imagine that a couple where the woman is much taller than the man would attract attention for the exact same reason, and no one would suspect "sizism" or any other *ism.\n\n2. "Racial jealousy". I don't know if it's a behaviour selected by evolution or just a culturally aquired one, but people from a specific ethnic group tend to get annoyed if they see one of them "lost" to another ethnic group. \nThis factor might be even more relevant with women. They have long been considered "tradable goods" and they still receive much more social pressure regarding their sexual behaviour than men.\n\n3. Communitarianism. From the minority point of view, such relations can also be seen as "selling out". Might or might not be just the same as factor #2. Some black thinkers suggested that black people dating white people were doing so out of a complex rooted in the period of slavery or colonisation.\n\n4. Just plain racism. Like you can see in some of the answers above, this is obviously a factor. But I tend to think that this is a very marginal one. Might or night not be an extreme version of factor #2 as well.\n\n\nJust to clarify for the few naive persons who think that the whole world has gone Benetton. Interracial relationships *do* attract attention and you just need to be in one to be constantly reminded of that fact.
37169
No what does skin color have to do with it? It is about good communication and respect for one another, and not caring what others think and not letting outside opinions effect your marriage.You are the only two in it.
1043397
i do not look at race as an issue. i look at if i find her attractive, which is subjective to my frame of reference, if i like her personality, and i find her intelligent.  if those things are there, it does not matter what race she is.
1064483
It really depends on the maturity level of the people involved...Whether it is the two in the relationship, the family that the couple has close ties with, and everyone else who may possess an opinion that has value.\n\nAny relationship can work, with the commitment of both individuals involved. Certainly a couple shouldn't see their differing races as a point of conflict, rather a platform of opportunity. If both people are inquisitive and accepting, then there isn't any limit to the level at which they can function in both worlds.\n\nMany people still maintain old prejudices, and it's difficult to escape from that. It can be done.\n\nIf you're currently in that situation, the best of luck to you!
93873
I have no idea. I have dated other races and think there is nothing wrong with it.
1042621
Does it matter if your black, white, yellow, brown or otherwise? Let's think about it, when it all comes down to bone structure and level of mallamon (not sure of spelling!) in your skin, then why do we see people so differently? We are all people sharing this planet, it's our belief structure and how we act that differentiates us from one another.\n\nSo may answer is you is 'Yes' because you are dating the person not the race! Cultural backgrounds sometimes need to be considered, but really the same rules would apply if you were dating someone of the same race.\n\nMy wife is Asian and I am Caucasian. I am attracted to the beauty of the person and my wife.
940450
It's not a matter of for or against. An individual has a right to decide who s/he chooses to date. Some like blondes, some brunettes, some redheads. \n\nAnd there are others who prefer to date outside their race. It's just a matter of personal preference. However it is preferable for both to understand the culture of each other. Otherwise friction can occur in the relationship. \n\nMy women have been African, Caribbean and Latin American, by the way. And the woman I am going to marry has a bit of all three!
857965
if you really care about her and your relationship it shouldnt matter and let me tell you about some black women...alot of us wear hair sewn into our hair for length or fullness and our men know about it and it doesnt bother them
671299
Pros:\n\nYou discover that all humans, regardless of race, have the same wants and fears in life, to love and be love in return, success, integrity, acceptance and to be appreciated.  You learn although we have cultrual differences we are the same.  You soon forget when looking at your mate that they are of a different skin tone.  You just see the person you love.
1135834
Yes.  To me it does matter.  It doesn't matter because of how much they make or status or anything like that.  With my profession it is hard to date certain people.  On the same note, some guys don't want to date me because of my profession.  So, it does matter.
544053
race isnt important to me, if i like someone and they liked me back then of course i would date them , it doesnt matter who you are on the outside, it matters who you are on the inside. my parents wouldnt have a problem with it and if they did i would be totally ashamed of them. i think racism is dumb and people shouldnt judge someone by what ethnicity are , but by who they are as a person.
1050177
any marriage can work if both partners are willing to work on it.\ngod didn't take race into consideration when he put man and woman on this earth color does NOT MATTER as long as you both love eack other