How does one learn to trust..?
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Claudia, if it EVER happens, it will take the right person, to be there for you, and it will happen very , very slowly.....little baby steps I call it. My life is very similar to yours, except I'm male, and the people that left me were female. Also, I was never raped. You have a lot there to deal with, even more than me, and I know what kind of struggles I have with it. Do I think it CAN happen for you? Sure, I DO! With the right man, under the right circumstances, and with patience and love, it CAN happen. Don't give up...there's a great guy out there that will not leave you...and will love you to death. Be busy doing what you enjoy doing, and let HIM find you. When he does, it's gonna be wonderful! Good Luck!!
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Do you really need to care about his/her doubt? If someone doesn't trust you, save your time and walk away. (that's also want the Bible said... in case you wanna be religious).
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Trust is not a set in concrete thing. Just because someone is having trouble trusting you can come from many factors, including being hurt very badly in the past. Although it would not be your fault, you must still understand that trust doesn't come as easy for this person as maybe it might to another. What your decision must be is to decide how much you want to prove to him you can be trusted and how long you will do that patiently. If some of his friends are lying on you, it is his friends that are so the problem, and after explaining all to him and he can't see that, maybe he is not mature enough to handle a relationship. Men are more like little boys when they have to use their peeps to analyze their love life.
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You trust quickly and give in to the moment.  Think matters through.  Don't be to trusting from now on.  Put your guard up.
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Who says spying has anything to do with trust or mistrust? And relationship? Please! That is the dreaded R word! Mean have trouble enough with the C word -- Cccc...oh, heck! commitment. Talk about relationship and you can get the biggest guy in the room to run away.\n\nOK, spying. Trust but verify is a good rule. I think that an occasional checking up is a healthy thing. You cannot ask someone to trust you. You do that and people start checking their wallets. Don't believe me? Try it! Go up to someone and say "Trust me!" Right!\n\nOK, so what can you ask for (especially if there is a lack of trust issue?) Accountability. It does not have to be really secret, nor does it have to be very open either. But it does help trust if you occasionally check to see that the person is telling you the truth.\n\nYou may say I am cold-hearted in this, but I have been left by a woman who swore in front of God in a Catholic church (and her Austrian Catholic mother) never to break the marriage vow. She took off with another guy. \n\nSo, yes, trust but check, too.
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talk to someone you trust.
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by being comfortable in your own skin, and realizing that no one else's opinion really matters unless you let it. If you have faith in something, lean on your convictions and do not let the naysayers change your mind. Be true to yourself.
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some times you might have friends who told you man cannot be trusted but the reallt thing is you have try 1st before you jump to conclution.\n\naeeyo1314@yahoo.com
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:}\nThere are sometimes concequences to honesty. be prepared to acccept them.\nLong run Honesty always wuns.
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It can take some time to overcome, but the first step I can think of is that you have to let it go. I have learned that if we hold on to the bad things that people do, we will turn away from society and become introverted - sometimes at the expense of our own happiness. \n\nAs far as "trusting men" goes, remember that each one of us is different in our own right, and none should be judged via the actions of another. \n\nThese "rules" have helped to heal me and bring my life back to balance with society. I am 38.
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don worry..jsut pray and accept jesus as ur Lord and savior.\nHe will be ur guide and you will learn to trust him\n\nGod bless you
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TRUST GOD.\n\nMAKE A SELF-EXPERIMENT.\n\nSEEK EXPERTS ADVICE.\n\nDONT BELIEVE ANYTHING WITH EYES SHUT.\nANALYSE EVERYTHING.CONSIDER THE POSSIBLITIES OF BOTH SIDE.
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You can't. Trust is one thing that money can't buy, it must be earned.
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SOMETIMES IT IS NOT GOOD TO TRUST SOMEONE BLINDLY
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Trust is something that is earned and can be destroyed so easily.  She has to understand that you have done nothing to make here distrust you and  even though she is hurting, you are there to listen. Sometimes just being a listner will truly show your intentions more than trying to convince otherwise. Actions speak louder than words and she will know this once the heart heals. Right now she is hurting and that will cloud her thoughts, just give it time as time heals most.  Be there when she needs you but dont crowd her.  \nIt is a shame that people today forget what trust is and what commitment is about. So often men and woment run to the next thing that may look better than the person we are with, but you have to stop and ask-- is this worth losing what I got now for something I know nothing about...
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In what sense do you mean trust? It is impossible to tell you how to find one, you do it by trial and error. Just be yourself and do things that you like to do. Doing so, you will find friends who will enjoy you too.\nIf you buy me breakfast, I will be your true friend.
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I guess you have to ask yourself this. There are many degrees of trust you bestow on someone. How much trust or degree of trust are you willing to give that someone? Why do you have to trust someone so much that it hurts if they turn on you? I think it's just that you're a loyal person and in exchange expect the same from everyone else. Maybe it's time you look at trust as a courtesy you can give but not to  expect from your family or friends. Give trust to your soul mate. Your one and only TRUSTworthy person on earth!