How can my daughter & I move from my parents home when the rent is impossible to afford in MA?
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One agency I give to new parents youthful enough to reconsider the work ethic in Massachusetts is small farms.\n  The number of managers that have apartments with training \n   in the educational world Headquarters known as Ma. is \n   a lot.  Getting your work, timing, safe pre-school are all\n  listed in Catholic charities.  Goodwill can help you if your are\n  still in highschool age or work.  I work with 3200 placements \n   that have been assigned to work for me, and their average\n   income is 25,000 within a month.  The rent is under 200.\n   Catholics are generally interested in your happiness, whole\n   personality and hobbies, these areas that help you to parent.
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you can become emancipated from your parents, which something like divorce.  why don't you see a lawyer.  you'll probably need a ride from mom or pop.
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OOps sorry let me edit this..\n\nMost important question is - are they LEGALLY your gaurdian?  It sounds like this might be your sister.. or maybe a young aunt.\n\nWhat state are you in?  How old are you?  It depends on how your caregiver will react.  I did the same thing when I was 17 and my parents freaked and were able to take me back.  I spent a few days in Juvi.. but other than that nothing terrible will happen.  If you are 17, I suggest talking to your parents about this and seeing if they would let you.  Does your friends family want you to move there?  Have them talk to your caregiver.  If you are any younger, either wait or have the family talk to your caregiver..  I totally understand where you are coming from, sometimes your home can just be toxic, especially if your parents are going through a divorce, or some issues of their own.. I've been moved out for 2 years now, and even when I come to visit, it just sucks my soul dry.. Some people and places are just so bad for you.  Talk to them .. really.  OR just go ahead and do it, but know this - they will be able to find you - and they will force you to come back - BUT after that happens, they will be open for dialog with you - you will be able to tell them how damaging their home is to you - and they will be able to take you seriously.. This is what happened to me- They never listened until after I ran away.. Then they let me finish my high school degree online and let me move out when I needed to.\n\nTo help you any further, I would need to know your age and your state.\n\nAnd like the other person mentioned, if you are working and making some of your own money, you might be able to get emancipated. \n\nChoices Other Than Emancipation\n\nEmancipation is only one of several alternatives available to you if you feel you cannot live with your caregiver.  You may want to consider other options such as:\n\nfamily counseling or mediation service between you and your parents; \nliving with another responsible adult (aunt, uncle, grandparent, or family friend); \nseeking assistance from public and private agencies; \nan informal agreement with your caregiver allowing you to live outside your home. \n\n\nMy final advice to you is this - family counseling - if nothing else works - this will.  The other person there can help you communicate effectively with your caregiver - and don't assume they will only be on your caregivers side either.  Present your case to them, and unless you have no reason for wanting to move out, they will support you and help you work out a solution with your family..\n\nGood luck, ok?  Feel free to personally email me if you need any personal or legal advice..  Bj_Osterhout@yahoo.com
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Since she is saying you can't go out, I'm assuming you still live with her. I'd say what you need to do is move out. Two kids, a FT job and school is a pretty big amount of responsibility, yes, but if you're relying on her heavily as unpaid daycare and free rent, she will be able to continue to lord it over you and with a certain amount of justification.\n\nYou're sorta in a position where you've gotta pick your battles. You can attempt to sit down with her and have a mature conversation about how far you've come and what your future plans are, and that you do have a lot of responsibility, and you need time out with your friends to wind down now and then. I personally would either skip the tattoo for now - make it something that will be a 21st birthday present to yourself.\n\non the other hand, if i'm right that she is providing room, meals, and/or daycare to you free, you really AREN'T being a full-fledged adult. My advice to you is to move out and BE a grown up for real. I can tell you from personal experience that ANYONE can figure out a way to make this happen. find low-income housing, check in with WIC for help on some expenses, get the kids' dad to provide some support, etc. there are tons of resources out there if you look. To be a real adult you MAY have to go on welfare for a while, you may have to live in a much different type of situation than you are used to, but you'll be truly independent and self-sufficient. plus if you are no longer a dependent on your mother, she can't claim you on her taxes, which means you'll be totally seperate from you and you can start applying for need-based financial aid for school.\n\nNow, all this said, maybe you already are living on your own, she isn't babysitting or doing other stuff for you free, and she's just all up in your business. if that is the case, i'd just lay it on the line in no uncertain terms. i did that with my mother and we didn't talk for several months. she was furious that i would stand up to her. but i was totally on my own - she had no reason to rule my life. eventually she realized this and we're great now. and in your case, she'd probably come around sooner cause she'd miss the grandkids too. anyhow.\n\neither way, good luck. parents can be more exhausting than kids sometimes...
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Assuming you have the money, all you really need is a ride.  She should be OK with that.  If you don't have the money, forget it.  Your family has other expenses - like the mortgage.\n_MM
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First of all, and unfortunately or fortunately for you, because your child is 12 they can decide where they want to live. At least in the state of Washington they can. It may be different where you live. Unless there are circumstances where there is abuse or neglect, though, you may have a hard time depending on where you are and what the laws are.\nThe first thing I would do is to contact your local Department of Social & Health Services and speak with someone there about what your rights are and can be done or not done for you based on your income. It's quite possible that if your income is lower they could provide you with financial help. However, you should be aware that if you're in need of financial help and your ex-husband is not, it's going to make your situation harder as he can financially support her and you can't. \nCall those people though, it's a start and if nothing else they can lead you in the right direction.\nGood Luck!
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the only thing i can suggest is that u either move back in with your family,  if that's possible,  or find somewhere cheeper to rent - like someone who owns a house who just wants to rent a room out.....   even so, it'll take u a while to save.  the other option is to buy a house in need of repair in a not-so-nice area,  do it up a bit, then rent it out,  or live in it, and rent one of the rooms out to provide extra income.  hopefully u could sell the house on for a profit one u had made improvements to it.  at least it would get u onto the property ladder...
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Before you go moving to Massachusetts or Florida, check out the costs of living there. Consider a visit before you plop money down on an apartment lease and find yourself unhappy ... or more unhappy. Do you have a degree? Check with your school's placement office for job leads. Don't even consider moving out of state right now if you will be eligible for unemployment compensation if and when your job ends. Take the money and get a life plan rolling. Might I suggest a counselor? If you have benefits with your present employer, you may be able to get a counselor under your health insurance plan. Don't wait!!! It may be a $20 co-pay but go for it. It will be worth the money to discuss the many changes you have in mind. Job loss is stressful but then when you add financial stress and wanting to relocate and everything else, you should find someone to talk to. Once you face the fears you will be better able to overcome them. YOU are the most important person in the mix. Things always have a way of working out but you get out of life what you put into it so give it your ALL.
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Take her to a homeless shelter and show her where she'll end up.\nMy 19 year old daughter did the same thing at 16 and I dropped her off at the shelter and left her there. She graduated top of her class and is going to UCLA.
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It's called "emancipation."  And the court has to order it.  You have to get a lawyer and prove that you can take care of yourself, and that your parents are not doing their job as parents.  It's not easy to do.
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Easy. Grow a pair of balls and tell her that she has 90 days to move out unless she pays rent. Tell here that when her 90days are up she will either pay the rent or you will throw her stuff out in the yard. \n\nIf she doesnt pay throw all of her stuff in the front yard and change the locks. \n\nIf you threaten her but do not follow through with it she will never respect you. \n\nBTW I am 25 maried w/ kids of my own. (Notice I can see it from her perspective as far as age is concerned and yours as far as a parents perspective is concerned
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Because they live with their parents and you chose to be more independent??  Why don't you try to cut down your expenses, lets say, if the rent is too expensive try look other cheaper places, car payment too high?? change car!!.  Now if that doesn't do it for you,  try playing the lottery and pray to God that you win!
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yes court would be the only option most likely.  you could try talking to the mom, but most likely won't work. personally, I'm the mom and have the opposite.  good luck!
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express your feelings to your parents respectfully but sternly. I'm sure it's not their fault that they can't get a bigger place just now so don't kick them while they are down with imancipaton(a low blow to parents). if you can afford to rent a place, how about helping them rent a larger place?\nif not, getting on your own is far better with parents support and experience. don't cut that off!!\n\nlow is the one that helps you hurt your parents.
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They can hold everything up, which is why this is such a hard spot to be in.  We studied the ways to inherit property when I got my real estate license.  This problem came up again and again as an example of what happens when parents leave property equally to all children.\n\nIf you can't reach them by phone and work it out, you'll have to get a lawyer.  Which is never good for family.\n\nYou are all joint tenants.  Two of you can sign over to the third, who will then be in joint tenancy with the 4th.  The first two will be out of the equation for any remaining decisions on the property, effectively the same relationship as before- just less people involved.\n\nYou can legally sell your shares to the third as well as give them away.  Good luck, I wish you well.
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Try to find a way to work it all out. Maybe your bf could help with the moving expenses. Surly your parents have some money saved up, they could pitch in. You could always get different jobs, in a different field. You could visit one or the others parents, instead of moving them around.
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Try sharing with someone who already has a home. It works out cheaper. Chk out the classifieds for it.