Why is it that my mom can make my self-esteem drop in 15 secs?
959391
No one can make you feel bad about yourself unless you allow it.\n\nThe next time your mother starts, say excuse me, but if the point of your diatribe is to make yourself feel better by attempting to inflict damage on my ego, then I suggest you seek counseling.  In the meantime, excuse me."\n\nThen get up and leave.
895126
I'm sorry to hear that u feel that way. You're rite your mom isn't right saying that to you, I have no idea why she would. I don't know what to say to help you..but everything happens for a reason and one day you'll be better than everyone, because that's how it seems to go - the ones who don't fit in when they're young end up to be very succesful or even the prettiest one in adulthood. Sometimes being a teen can be difficult, just enjoy what you enjoy doing and don't care what people think of you and good things will happen to you, I know it. :)
269919
You need to love and cherish you mother, she is not going to be with you forever. I am sure that your mother is a great person and she probably is not as embarrassing as you think. \n\nEnjoy every single moment that you can with your mother. She obviously loves you and wants the very best for you. Swallow your pride as hard as it may be and just let it go.
325416
Your mother is still a human being, she may think you hate her, and imagine if the person you love more than anything started hating you.  How would you feel?  My mother and I have a very rocky past, but In the end, a simply, tear-filled, "I love you" gets the point across.  It sounds like she has her hands full with the house, and is hurt about how you acted.  On the other hand, it also sounds like she isn't quite as forgiving as she should be.  But like I said, she is only human.  I think it is the hardest part of growing up when you find out your mom isn's SuperMom, but a person with her own doubts and feelings.  Hug her, tell her you love her, and walk away.  Just walk away and let her calm down.  Clean a bit, but do it when she isn't looking, since you don't want her to think you are only doing it to get on her good side.  You aren't.  You are doing it because you care...
96026
Try having a conversation with (and yes i am serious) Mom. Just talk to her and find out why she calls him all the time, don't be rude or ugly, just talk to her and find out more about their relationship and what his childhood was like. Could be that there are some reasons for her overinvolvement and maybe she is just as anxious to help him become less dependent on her too. If nothing else you might be able to get to know her well enough to ask her as politely as you can to relax a little. You might learn that maybe Mom isn't the clinger  and the guy is and the two of you can work on him together, and if she likes you and thinks you respect her enough to come to her with your issue instead of running to him and complaining you will earn her respect and maybe even her blessing. And while that might not matter at all to you I can assure you that it does to him.
663164
Cool it!  You are still young, and your mother is still your mother and she LOVES you!  You were wrong to go off on her like that.  She knows you are a teenager and teenagers go off easily with little provocation.  But your rage and rants still hurt her.  No adult would to that to a parent.  It was still an adolescent rant.\n\nNow, go take a hot soaky with lavender bubbles and listen to some mellow music.
1068033
hi, i am so sorry that you are hurt, but i understand.  hurting your mom is the worst feeling in the world.  the worst.  but the best medicine is free.  don't do any of that writing notes crap, that is really chicken shit.  you hurt her, and you are old enough to own up to your mistakes.  you just march yourself up to her and say mama, i can never tell you how sorry i am, i love you, i need you, and i'm not too proud to say it.  then tell her that you know that your time is coming.  you'll have a mini me someday, and it will come back around.  it's called the circle of life.  lol.  the easiest answers are always the toughest.  god bless
1128430
not just on my space but everywhere there are predators who pretend to be someone they are not.  your mother is just trying to elimate the possibility that you might be physically hurt or preyed on.  besides...if only all your friends have it, whats the point if you can call them or talk to them at school?
538350
Sounds to me like your getting your period! welcome to the club! YOU ARE NOW BECOMING A WOMAN! Go have that uncomfortable yet short talk with your mom. Good Luck!
101777
Probably for bad behavior.  It happens to me all the time.  Ouch!  Mom! Stop that!  Bye!
646674
no your mother doesn't hate you! moms are just people and sometimes they make mistakes, but its not your place to tell her that she is wrong, she's the mom. often times if you want to be heard you have to make sure you are 'presenting your case' in a reasonable and respectful manner, even if what you are saying makes sense nobody is going to hear you if you are ranting and raving, i'm not saying that you are just letting you know. when you are both calm and reasonable tell her you'd like to talk to her, think about what you will say beforehand and stay calm.
147536
You haven't given us enough inforamtion to be as helpful as we might be otherwise.  The answer depends on how old you are and what it is your mom is doing that is annoying you.  Is it that you are doing something she doesn't agree with and trying to stop you and so you are annoyed?  Is your mom extra stressed or tired right now?\n\nI agree with other posters.  YOu need to think about what you are doing too.  Moms don't usually change and become  annoying for no reason.  Talk to your mom and see what the problem is.\n\nYOu will only ever have one mom and she won't be around forever, and someday you may look back and wish you had been more understanding.
916181
What about locking her in the closet?  Can you let her watch some TV show or video she likes? Maybe she is posessed by an evil spirit, this is a possibility, however remote. If she is afraid of authority figures, tell her that if she's bad you'll call the police. Some people have done this when their kids have gone nutzoid. Ask your mom ahead of time if you can do this, because she might go ballistic herself. You really need a break from your sister, can't your mom find some one to give you a break?  Is there anything that you can control her with, like tell her if she shuts up that you'll do something for her. Does she have no self control, like nothing you do can make her stop? If so she needs some professional psychological help, like a child psychologist. Good luck! How old are you anyway? This isn't good for you to have to go through this.\n*****************************************************************\nIs there someone at school, like a teacher you can talk to, or your doctor about this? Your mom seems to be putting a lot of pressure on you. You should be having fun being a kid, not being put in a pressure cooker like this.
744743
Most people who act like that are using it defensively because they're jealous.  So don't feel bad.  They're ugly people, inside and most likely out.  Only go if you want to go to events/occassions.  Otherwise, don't waste your time and don't give them the pleasure of being able to make you feel like crap.  If they say something nasty to you just smile and nod and say "Thanks for letting me know...I had NO idea..."  and then walk away.  They want a reaction out of you and if you respond politely and sweetly they'll either stop or get really pissed off.  My mother always taught me "Kill 'em with kindness"...and it works almost every time!
81454
keep in mind that she has your best interest in mind when she says no to your requests.  \nI think it is awesome that you realize it is a problem and that you want to change.  It shows you care about her and want to have a good relationship with her.  \nMaybe you could try making a list of all the good things she has done for you in the past week, and then make a list of all the good things you have done for her in the past week.  \nIf your list is shorter maybe you should go make her a cup of hot chocolate and tell her you are sorry.\nThis may sound weird, but she is, after all your mom and knows an awful lot about you, why don't you ask her why she thinks it is that you yell at her..  and tell her you want to get along.\nIts never easy to apologize, but doing so will show her you are growing up, and possibly you will earn some privileges by doing so.
1134422
I think your angry because your hurt.    You desire to stay in one place,  don't want to keep starting over, you want stability in your life and want to be able to believe that what your mom says is true.  I think your anger is a combination of many other emotions.  Resentment, sadness and frustration. What you could do, is tell your mom, when you are not angry,  that you feel hurt at the fact that her words and her actions are not the same. Next time she says i promise, say mom, i love you but don't make promises you can't keep.  It may not seem like a big statement to say but it will let out some of your feelings. When you disagree with someone and you don't express how you feel and save it for later you are a time bomb waiting to happen. So each time you have the opportunity to express and emotion other than anger let it out even if it is just a little bit. After some practice you might see that your anger won't be as intense.
332814
Why can't you tell your Mom? Where are you getting teased at? I would walk away and I would seriously think about telling someone who you can trust that will help you.