in arguments i alway lose.caz i dont say the right things to defend myself.?
961529
Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute.
1112372
well if your wrong your wrong but you still don't have to lose the argument, after all winning is relative because if the other person believes you then you were right..\n\nbut you should tell them later they were right..
610428
just chill out and pick your battles wisely. there is no sense in beating a dead horse over something that isn't worth arguing about anyway. life is way too short.
1167221
I think people are bound to say things which they don't really mean down deep inside esp when an arguement is going on.My thought is he did apologize and sometimes that's about all one can do.I have heard actions speak louder than words. As long as the person treats another with respect then I wouldn't hold one arguement over thier head forever.
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1. Admit you were wrong. Be humble.\n2. Say that you shouldn't have accused him.\n3. Admit you were out of line.\n4. You understand his reaction and can't blame him. \n5. What you're going to do going forward to avoid this.\nFinally, ask him to please accept what you're saying as an apoligy. You acted out of emotion and that wasn't right.
216196
Just stay out of it. If they ask you to take sides don't say anything!!!!!
127638
You do not have prove anything to anyone. It takes a stronger person to avoid a fight that to get intot one.
926498
There are a few things going on here.  One is that you question your self-worth and the value of your ideas after you have defended them.  Another is that you most likely hate confrontation or "getting into it" with another person.  You value their opinions, but sometimes you just WISH they'd stop and LISTEN to yours also.  Having to almost force someone to listen gets old.  Another thing could possibly be your afraid they really are mad at you and now think less of you and your friendship, when all they need is a small break to think about things.  Its rare to lose a true friend over a silly argument, and in the long run most arguments are just that.  Try to realize that you are JUST AS VALUABLE AND WORTHWHILE, SMART AND KIND as anyone else.  You have every right to contribute your thoughts and ideas, on the other hand, is what their saying really making any sense and do you really want to be a part of it? lol\n\nEither way, good luck!  I suggest you keep a journal of your positive thoughts for each day.  No negative ones, just those that inspire you, and make your life have direction.  Those things that give you ideas, hobbies, etc., when you get depressed you can thumb through this and find hope.  Perhaps even start a collage or something positive just for yourself.  \n\nJust remember your life is really about to begin and when you start school and/or work; you will need to put up with alot of distractions, if necessary consult a doctor for something for anxiety (which is what it sounds like you have) and see if that helps.  If you still feel bad after the first 30 days, return to see if he can upgrade your prescription.
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Hi Sajana!\n\nAggression is a possible result of discomfort.\n\nYou have to ask yourself, when being criticised, whether the other person DOES have a point, or not. A lot of time we get angry when being accused, because deep inside we know that the other person is right, but we don't want to admit it, since it makes us feel inferior to the accusing side. \n\nThe best way to go at it is to face the problem. If we get accused of something, while it might make us angry, we should tell the other party that we'll check out his/her accusations in order to verify whether we were really responsible for it. That way, we get a time frame, a breather, to sort things out. If the problem is really our doing, then we should look for a way to solve said problem, in order to come clean and re-gain the respect not just of others towards us, but our own respect towards who we are.\n\nIf the problem wasn't a result of our doing, try and explain to the other side your point of view. \n\nRemember, the fact that someone thinks you did something, doesn't mean he or she believes it. They might've gotten the idea from certain facts, but if you know you're not responsible, than just say so and explain, if you can, why not and you'll feel better with yourself.\n\nOh, and never suppress your anger, since it'll do only bad things to you in the long run. Try channeling the energy from your anger to things that are more productive, for example, if you feel angry at a certain moment, either take it out in a form of Martial Arts training, or channel the energy in order to pursue your hobby. Never swallow the anger. That's a big no-no.\n\nGood luck! :-)
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I think you are very brave to speak out the way you do.  You deserve the have the same rights as others to write what you think. We write our opinions only. We do not force anyone to agree with us..so you should have the same rights.
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hi my first arguement was with my first true love and it hurt me so much in the end i walked out and went back to mine to coll down bout 3 hours later my phone rang and we talked about what we argueded bout why we argued and then we made are feelings clear. the next moring he came to me and spoiled me rotton so everytime i hav an argument i always use them three rules it helps it. in your situation it will work it self out every one has bad patchs
140451
After a fight it is so hard to start talking again. { the stupid who gives in first ). The most important part is admitting guilt! Whichever party it is - be honest and open but talk..talk...talk.  Solving problems together creates the strongest unity.
198678
Stay and fight. I'm kind of stubborn.
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stick up for yourself assretivly, tell them you arent stupid, you dont appreciate the insination or accusation that you are and you would prefer if they never said that to you again. dont be mean, dont yell, be calm and say what you feel, then dont back down or feel guilty for it.
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As a Marine Gunnery Sgt. I will give you the best advice I know how to give you. First, don't appologize. Other than being a sign of weakness, it also acknowledges acceptance of wrongdoing. And what you said, and why you said it was NOT wrong. Honest open debate is ALWAYS a good thing, even if closed minded people, or uneducated people are around who don't know how to do so. You were merely playing the role of the Devil's advocate. It took guts to do such a thing, and I for one, commend you for it. And to those who would challenge you for doing so, I would simply remind them that that is what I have served my entire carreer to protect and defend. I have been shot, and I have killed, simply to defend your right, and the rights of others worldwide to play the Devil's advocate without fear of retribution.
927528
be assertive not aggresive\nthat is my way of handling this situation
659981
Keep talking about it. Don't linger on the bad moods. If you focus on bad things only then all the good things are crap. When you argue don't use the word YOU. Bring up that the situation is wrong and not the person you are talking to. You spent all the money= NO. The situation of being penniless upsets me. Let's figure out ways to save some money=YES.