I am a muslim and want to marry this muslim girl but her parents have an arranged marriage. Wot should I do?
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When we a born Allah decides who our other half is, its up to Allah not us. Inshallah who ever Allah gives you will be the right one. Sometimes people dont get their other half first time maybe because they dont be patience or because its a test from Allah.\n\nHowever brother dont just control your love and Inshallah Allah will reward you for your patience
1073578
It does not make sense for a Muslim to marry a Christian or for a christian to marry a Muslim unless they weren't really serious about their  religion.  I am Catholic and I feel very strongly about my ideals.  There is no way I would marry a Muslim because as it says in one of the gospels, we would be "unevenly yoked" and arguing about religion all the time.  I mean, what would we teach our kids?  Both religions?  And which one would I tell him is the truth?  Mine or his father's.  It is better to find someone who feels the same way you do on matters that are close to your heart so you can work as a team.
1157331
you are great!! i wish you good luck in that..and just wan to tell you that you have chosed the right way...go for it.. an advice from a muslim girl...
113915
if u both old enough to fight for the relationship then go ahead.  its up to both of u to talk about it.  are u willing to stay in the relationship no matter what?  and is she?  sometimes differences of religion in a relationship can cause break up.  i would really suggest to talk to her about this thing.  decide if it is ok to continue whether her parents against it or they will be ok about it.
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I love how everyone has a prick up their @sses right here. Clearly you love him enough to be seriously contemplating a seerious relationship. In that case, compromise is the word here. You have no faith, but clearly his faith is important to him as well. \n\nIf there are children, it wouldn't hurt for them to learn about their father's religion. I have known many many people that have come out of mixed faith relationships. Some are devotely religious, some are supposedly "muslim" and just don't care, and ssome don't believe in Islam at all. Anything is open, and you have to keep in mind that in the end, this will be your children's choice. They will be exposed to two different ways of living, a whole other world that you have never known. Of course there are going to be problems, many of them, but you need to keep lines of communication open and be willing to budge.\n\nMaybe try telling him to avoid the topic of religion to his children until a certain age, but they can learn arabic if he is willing to teach them? In exchange, they won't be exposed to Islam until they are old enough to understand, or at least ask "why does Daddy not eat for a month right now?" Or something like that.\n\nAnd there are things that are truly just about comfot levels. Will it kill your children if they didn't eat pepporoni pizza or any other pork products? In return, it won't kill them to not go with their father to the mosque, or avoid any religious ceremonies or events. That's a "sacrifice" that both of you are going to have to deal with.\n\nWhatever you choose, keep this in mind: You are influencing what your children will be exposed to for the rest of their lives. It would almost be cruel to hide them from a way of life that is so important to their father, and yet at the same time it would be ridiculous to assume that they hvae to adopt a whole other mode of living, especially in a foreign country. It is not easy. But in the end, your children will end up deciding what they will and will not believe when they're ready. In the meantime, if you truly love each other, then your children's faith will be somethign that you both work on together.\n\n[Edit] To all you spouting out of your @sses that Muslim men do this, you'll be beheaded for that, you have to wear this and that, do your research for God's sake!!!! Islam is as diverse as CHristianity in terms of how devote its followers are. How many of you Christians follow every word of hte Bible literally? I can answer that: None. Not all of us women wear the scarf, even fewer of us wear the veil, and contrary to popular belief, the veil was a functional, practical garment that came about not from Islam, but from leading the life of a farmer hundreds of years ago in the sandy, blinding hot sun of Saudia Arabia, not for the cold climate of Britain. If any of you have gone to the desert, you'll know that covering up is actually cooooler than getting the full rays of the sun straight on your skin. Not all of us go around in bikinis begging for sun cancer.\n\nOther than that, no you have the full freedom of choice to stay un-religious. And to all of you idiots mentioned above, if she's fallen in love with him and known him for almost a year now, then she knows what he is all about. Clearly she knows how to lead her life better than you guys. And clearly, she is much more open minded and willing to experience other people's cultures than all of you.
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I can't speak from the Muslim religous aspect but can tell you I have a female Christian friend married to a Muslim.  Their relationship & marriage was fantastic at first but once their daughter was born things changed.  His religion took presidence.  He sent his daughter overseas to be raised by his family & their beliefs and he refuses to allow my friend to go to church anymore.  Not to say, this is what would happen if you were to marry this man.\n\nNext, I am sure you have prayed on this long and hard.  If you are finding more discomfort, worry, fear or confusion in marrying this person than the Holy Spirit is probably warning you not to.  God is a God of order.  He has not given you the spirit of fear but of love, of power and of a sound mind.\n\nI would recommend getting into the concordance of your Bible and look up marriage and divorce to be sure you line up all of your questions, feelings & decisions to what the word says.  Read all the scripture from the Old & New Testament.  Write the ones down that jump off the page and meditate on them.  Fast if you feel you are not finding the direction you should take.\n\nYou can use an online website http://www.crosswalk.com to do some of your research if a Bible isn't handy.\n\nRemember one thing, no one can tell you the path you should choose and they don't know how God is leading you.  This is something only you can figure out.  Close your mind off to all worldly views and seek after God for His decision in your life.\n\nI will say from everything I've read on the subject, as a Christian, you would not be in sin.  But I think you would be opening doors to a very difficult life in comparison to waiting on God to bring you a Christian man.\n\nDivorce is not an option - it never is.  So marrying this person no matter what happens until death do you part will be a vow you make with God.  Be sure you are truly ready to make this kind of committment before going any further. \n\nKeep in mind, someone who believes in a god other than the one we know is not led by a Holy & loving God.  Therefore, you end up joining together as one with someone who is being led by something else.  Ultimately, their decisions and mind are not being formed by the living word, the Holy Spirit and our heavenly Father.  If he doesn't have a relationship with Jesus Christ than you are not going down the same path.\n\nI realize you must love this man very much or the question you pose wouldn't be so heart wrenching.  I pray you find your way and the life ahead is filled with much love, peace & joy.\n\nI am happy to chat more if you want to write.
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If you are over 18 you can do as you please. However, your parents will be very upset and may disown you. Let them meet him and his family. Maybe they will arrange a marriage with him for you.
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Well it depends if she wants to get married in a mosque then yes you are going to have to convert.  The Islamic faith forbids outsiders from taking an Islamic women into his life.  In fact the outcome for her is not good, and you are going to have to realize this.  This is considered a taboo, and the minimum that could happen to her is that she will be shunned in her faith.  The worst that could happen to her is her family could turn their backs on her.  You have picked a really tough faith to marry into, and if you love her with all of your heart I would be open to the idea of converting.  Make it easy on her, and her family if they are really devout in their faith.  If they are liberal with their faith you may be in the clear, but I would talk to her more about how serious is the faith of Islam is in her life. \n\n                 good luck on this one you're gonna need it!
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I have had lots of friends from India and Pakistan who are involved with arranged marriages, even some who were hesitant and scared to enter in to one.. they are all happily married. I am close with them and I see thier joy and thier relief at being married to someone who shares their same religious beliefs, culture and whose family is already bonded with their own.. Most of the "love" marriages I've seen end in divorce, I, myself am about to divorce the man I've been married to for  6 years.  We dated for 7 years, then married, then all of his bad habits worsened, as did mine, we grew apart and now I've left him.. A "love" marriage was a mistake for me. I'm American, white and "arranged marriage" was not one of my options, I wish it had been. I'm now a converted Muslim, and I hope one day I can have an arranged marriage. God Bless you :D
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Yes it can if each partner respect the other and their families are understanding.. My mum wasnt a msulim when she married my dad and shes from a totallly different culture(my dads arab, shes british) but things worked out fine.. my mum actually knows much more about our culture than i do.. my dads family LOVE my mum.. my mum was so happy with all of this that she began seeing what true muslims are like and she converted to islam.. and she says she couldnt be happier.. but i also know of many other non muslim women who have married muslims and it all depends on the families,  alot of them have bad relationships.. it depends
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what is it an arranged marriage? you should talk to your father and tell him that you want to speak to him and get to know him a little better before you marry him
543642
no, it's forbidden for a muslim woman to marry a man with a diffrent religion other than islam. but a muslim man could marry a woman that was christian...
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You are absolutely right. You have been very considerate to your parents, which shows your family culture. There is no hurry for marriage, now. Maintain good relationship with her and rightly no co-habitation till formal marriage. But tell your parents that if they want to see you married you would marry only her and none else. After all they are your parents, they will not like to stand on the way beyond a certain point. All the best.  God's delays are not God's denials. Patience is genius.
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Sure, I would marry a brave Muslimah of course with hijab. Looks like you're deeply hurt, don't you have any mosques or Islamic center in your area so that you get some help and advise. Peace!
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First off coming from a person who was raised as Muslim from the age of 1 to 25-I've since left the religion and converted back to the religion of my family. You have to be mindful that muslim women are very reserved and if she's wearing a hejab-traditional arab headpiece don't ask her to remove it unless she chooses to. Muslim girls depending on upbringing don't usually kiss on dates especially after the first one. Hand holding is usually out depending on the girl and her comfort level. If you have questions about the culture ask because that's the best way to learn instead of gung hoing it and you ask something that may offend her. Also you may want to date for a few months before you meet her parent(s) since devout muslims look at courtship as the gateway to marriage. As for sex I would abstain from it and ask her later on down the line how she feels towards it. One more thing you need to ask her how her family feels about her dating someone who's white and a non muslim so you're not taken by surprise by anything.
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why in god's green earth do you wish to marry a muslim girl? just have some sex then dump the dopey girl, that's it why be married?
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No, I would still marry them, because each person can have their own beliefs, and not have it interrupt the marriage at all. Religion is something that brings people together, not takes them apart. Besides if the love is true then they respect each others religion, so it would not be a big deal