Ive been married 4, 3 years, nobody knows I like my mother-in-law. Shes sexy and beautiful. What do I do?
926141
No shrink is needed. You've just gotta stop lusting over your mother in law and respect your wife. You're probably looking at porn at times when you should be enjoying that wife of yours. And if you keep masturbating your ability to please your wife sexualy for more than 2Min's will be a shock. Ever heard of the term minute man. Hope you wise up. You are not attracted to her. Is she married? Would you be asking this question if she was? You're young aren't you? Come on dude grow up!
637497
I have a 27 year old stepdaughter with a 5 year old son. I met her father 3 years ago and have been married for about 1  1/2 years. She has been nothing but trouble for the past 3 years. She has said and done things that I would of never thought of doing to another person.  My husband's first wife (her mother) died of cancer and everyone of her family said she was treating me bad because she was grieving for her mother.  Well, I don't believe that one. I also lost my mother to cancer and I would of never dreamed of treating any one like she treats  me.  So from my point of view : you go your way with her dad and let her go her way. But don't kiss her azz, she needs to grow up and let her dad be happy with you. So what if she does not like you! I am sure you will survive without her liking you.
604653
Definitely keep open communication between you always. Talk about things. \nBut I suggest that you have a talk with your mother-in-law-to-be. Ask her for some suggestions. She not only has experience being married, but she knows your future husband.
958576
you should know this answer, everyone likes looking at a yummy mommy ... i think you should be happy that guys find your wife attractive! The best thing to do when guys stare at your wife is to give her a little kiss in the neck ... (kinda like marking your territory!!)
1012894
Possibly she is trying to help and also wants to be a part of the family.  The best way to deal with it is respect.  Show her respect at all times and remember that the person you married was raised by this woman so she cannot be all bad.  You may also want to consider that it may be your attitude that is the problem.  Try to approach her not as your mother in law but as you would any other person you deal with.
351930
Always have open communication with her meaning, talk to her about any and everything! She should not only be your wife, and lover but your best friend! Just cause you say I do dont give either one of you the right to treat each other different! To keep the spark in the marriage always keep suprize in the relationship like with cards, flowers, sweet gifts like perfume (just because)! Then after ya'll start a family always make sure to keep a date once a week at least every two weeks just for you two to have some alone time that is much needed. When you introduce a family which is wonderful this, is when husband and wife tend to grow apart because they are just caught up in everyday life! I know that my husband and myself have just started date night two months ago because we never had anytime for us with three active children and it has worked like a charm. Lend a hand around the house too even, if she dont work keeping a house and tending to errands are a job among themselves! Also, remember when the good turns bad work through it together even the small stuff cause, like it or not there is no perfect marriage and things will happen just work through it together!! Always remember why you fell in love with you financee that made you want to spend the rest of your life with her and you two will be just fine! If you want to do something really special for her next week on your wedding day send her on a scavenger hunt the day before the wedding to different little stores where you have already went in and made a small purchase of you undying love for her also leave a nice card with the next clue to the next stop! Make the last card and the last stop be the day of the wedding where you leave her a card professing your undying love and a gift certificate in the card for the two of you to go and have a casual picture made for the new home! Its nice to know that these days guys are concerned when it comes to saying I DO!! Good Luck to you and your new bride and may yall have many good memories to come!Oh yeah LAST BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT always keep the good LORD in your relationship because he is the one that blessed us with life and forgives us of our sins!
427733
Sit down and talk with her and tell her how you fell about her and sex. If that does not work than maybe you and her should think about getting some help. Marriage conslour!! I wish you the best of Luck!!
457966
If you really need to be together get the hotel room. But, I think it would be a GREAT gesture on your part to stay with your future mom in-law and abide by her rules. It would show her that you respect her and her rules. Plus it would only be for a few days. You can do it =)
536565
i feel sorry for you. i have a similar situation. my boyfriend's mother doesn't like me as well. we have been together for more than 4 years now.  what i suggest is you discuss this matter with your boy and try to win your future mother in law.  if you can't just fix your relationship with your man and just ignore her.  what's important is that you and your man are madly inlove with each other.
159858
you know what is best for you. your mother might be a pain in the a** how ever she just lost some one close to her and she needs you and your family more than you know. for now think of her for a little while then you can do what is best for you. even though we all know how mother in laws can be you can do it hang in there heath.
1039697
you are going to have to be straightforward and direct with them. You tell them point blank, this is the woman I have chosen, if you love me then you will have to accept her. Tell them she will be your wife, and you are expecting to see enough respect out of them not to ruin your joy. When they see you will stand beside your wife-to-be at all cost, they will submit. Be sure to guard your lady against their rejection, it will break her heart. Be firm, but gentle, and stand your ground. You obviously are not a child anymore, and should not act/be treated like one. Good luck!
1073750
I am in a similiar situation.\n\nMy someday soon-to-be sister inlaw is very irritating to me.  She is Very judgemental, opinionated and I wouldnt be surprised if she hates the idea of us someday getting married.  So, needless to say, I really understand your situation.  Now what to do... I will give you the best advice I can, even though I havent yet solved my own situation.   \nFirst of All ~ Always remain focused on your man and on your relationship with him.  He is the one you are with.\nAt family Events ~ Try finding someone else that you can hang out with and/or relate to.  Or, spend extra time in the Kitchen helping with food preps or other busy work.  Be Helpful.  If she is mean to you then she will look like a real loser.  You will look great cooking, helping etc.\nHope these tips help.  Best wishes to you.  Be yourself I am sure that is good enough.  OH & don't worry too much, most of what we worry about never actually Happens!!!
915924
You can ask your fiance what she might like, or find a unique gift from your country that you would like to share with her. A nicely framed photo of yourself and her son, or a nicely framed photo of the three of you together, could be an excellent gift. Or if she's coming to see you, get a spa day out or something similar, that way the two of you will have a chance to go and do womanly things together and get to know each other better. Best of luck! It's very considerate to be thinking of things to do to make this a nice relationship, because so many people have problems getting along with their in-laws.
848107
Alright heres the deal. You need to realize that having urges for your SIL is normal. Just because you have a wife that you love doesnt mean that suddenly you will not be attracted to other women. You are human. It does NOT mean that you two should do anything about it. Simply say to yourself, "Yes I am sexually attracted to my SIL and, NO I will not act on it." Knowing these things will actually make it easier on you and trust me, a couple years down the road, after having not transgressed, you will feel like a million bucks for resisting.\nGood Luck Dude
248916
When you marry someone, you marry their family, like it or not.  Have you tried talking to your mother in law directly about the intrusiveness of her visits?  Perhaps explaining to her that you need some family time with just your wife (and kids?) will help her to understand and minimize her visits.  Do you ever visit her house?  Perhaps that's why she's always over at yours.\n\nInitiate a visit or dinner with your MIL - that will show your wife that you aren't rejecting her mother (btw - "getting rid of her" is the exact kind of wording that will get you into more hot water), but simply trying to maintain some family boundaries as well.\n\nGive a little and get a little.
100142
That's something between you and your wife.Not, for others to have a choice on.Talk to her and see for yourself face to face to the one you married.
922637
My suggestion is like many others, THANK HER every chance you get as this could make or break your relationship with her. If your weight doesn't change often I'd say start the dress at the beginning of the year. Of course small alterations can be made later, but then you can get the jist of things and make sure you both are on the right track and still have time for changes if need be.\nI really think you should get as many pictures as possible of what you want. I might even go to the extent of taking her dress shopping with you, trying on dresses, taking pictures in them and showing her what you like about each dress and why you think that type of dress would work best for you. Engrave in her head what you see in yours and hopefully that will keep her straying on the dress to a minimum. During the process of making it try it on often and correct anything you want before it can't be fixed. \n\nI'd say start it early in case you end up completely disliking it, then you'll have time to find something new. Though that my cause rifts between you and the mother-in-law.\n\nI totally know how you feel, my soon to be mother-in-law is trying to convince me their 45' x 30' back yard which is taking up mostly by a vegetable garden is the perfect location for our reception.