he abused me so many times n tht im a cheap bad gurl. now stopped all contact. will he still contact me again?
931187
you need to juss leave him a lone my aunt died from runnil bak to somebody lke that
1000599
How can he be a nice guy? He hit you and didn't trust you. I would distance myself as far away from him as possible. With time you probably won't even think about him anymore. There are so many nice guys out there and you're not noticing them because you are thinking about this loser 24/7. Hope I helped you out and hang in there.
64231
Hey little buddy! Sounds like you stepped into a big bucket of stuff there. Just goes to show it dosen't pay to try and be nice. This guy must be some kind of freak. The sad part is I'm sure he has done this same thing before. With a nut like this all it takes is a simple HI from a pretty girl and they automaticaly hear "Take me now, I want you for ever and I'll bear your demon seed" What's even sadder than that is he may end up hurting somebody. I'm glad you realized that and ran. The guy needs a  12 step program to stop the voices that are not there. Oh---The only time you should have to put your life on hold is if you have children. They would come first no matter what. Otherwise no man or no one can tell what you will or can't do. And for gods sake, don't be givin' out your danm phone number or address. Be safe and happy
164813
Ignore the phone call, unless it continues.\n\nResist the urge to respond to the immature behavior.\n\nI think it is good you are out of the relationship now and you should keep it that way. He was abusive and I am sure your self esteem went down the gutter.\n\nTreat yourself. Do something you always wanted to do but couldn't till now. Try seeing people and going places that have no relation to your ex.\n\nIt wouldn't be a bad idea to see a therapist and/or find a support group to deal with the abuse issues you went through.
47740
Honey I'm not sure what to tell ya.  Don't give up on him.  Do you have anyway to contact him?  You should tell him how you feel.  I don't know why he hasn't talked to you in a month.  That concerns me a little.  Like I said, don't think bad, think good.  Hope things work out for you.
333184
He is a classic abuser. He won't change. The longer you stay with this jerk the more you will get hurt physically and emotionally. You could end up imprisoned and/or dead. So dump him. If you're having trouble doing that see a therapist to help you. Remember the sooner you get rid of him the sooner you will be happy.
887980
I'm very sorry to say this, but if he won't stop, as much as it may hurt, its time to let him go.  Verbal abuse is ABUSE.  And sometimes worse than physical.  If he won't stop now, your relationship will continue to always be like that.  There are guys out there that don't verbal abuse.  You have to decide now that you are worth him not verbally abusing you and if he doesn't like the way you act, then he really doesn't like  you.  Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness, and respect.  Don't you agree.
741399
He didnt seem to treat you very well hun, you obviously had problems within the relationship, did you try telling him how you felt or did you just split up with him without discussing how he made you feel?\nIf you want him back then you need to talk to him but this time make sure that you tell him how you feel, take control a little.\nIf he only wants you back on the same terms as you had before then it's obvious that he is just using you hun.\nTry talking , but it does sound like he was using you a little.\nDont let him rule when you do things, be brave , ask for what you want when you want it, if he says no then cut your losses and find someone who truely appreciates you.\nGood luck, hope all works out ok for you.
930879
you can't change the past, so you have got to think about ways to make the future work. try to see him again in a casual setting, one that will highlight what a "good" girl you are. don't mention what happened. he probably doesn't want to talk about it anymore than you do.
917320
Well, I think you should dump him, but be nice about it.  Just tell him you don't feel like he respected your choice in friends and that his constant complaining was bordering on abusive, so you've decided to end it.  There's plenty of guys out there, and who knows, maybe when he matures in another year or two, you guys can give it another shot (but make him WORK for it if he comes crawlin' back!).  Good luck girlfriend!
1057871
I broke up with a guy I was seeing because he called me the N word in an argument.  After that, he became psycho - sending me diamond earrings and rings, sending flowers to my house etc.  He sent me a Fender Strat and an amp a year after I'd broken up with him.  He would send me cards with a picture of a supposed dead aunt and people he worked with even called me at work secretly to tell me he'd been trying to get in contact with me and his aunt wasn't even dead.\n\nHe would go to the places I used to hang and ask the people there had they seen me.  \n\nMessed up thing, is that he works not to far from where I live and I saw him at the gas station one day with my fiance and almost got into an accident to swerve out of the gas station so he wouldn't see me!\n\nI can't wait until we move to Florida because the last thing I want to do is run into that a-hole.  I could get over him calling me the N word but he was a considerably rude, arrogant a-hole.
873852
trust me, it sounds like a bad idea to even talk to him because you will get even more confused, if he actually tried ruining your life then i dont think he deserves shit from you except maybe a black eye. hun, dont let yourself get hurt, and dont hurt your new boyfriend, just dont answer the phone and hope he gets the hint, if he doesnt... then answer and tell him straight up.
400505
he wanted u for a period of time.. I think now its over.. so he's going away from you..\nNow what u can do is.. just forget such unworthy person and start living your life..
204387
The abuse usually only gets worse. Why would you want to put yourself through that again. Hon, your in love with love and what might or could have been. Please think about it before getting back into that again....Nicky
456820
maybe when you told him he wasn't getting any , he stayed with you just in case you eventually let your guard down, he is an idiot to not call you after running around after you so much..leaving town is a BullSh*t excuse and now he is probably looking elsewhere....you were indeed played like a hand of poker..get over it and find someone who can treat you right
1125264
my ex did that, i took him back several times. \n\nmy advice.. NEVER ever ever talk to him again, just forget about him and you will be better off.. SERIOUSLY.
396190
you are not defined by this guy.  You are just as special today as you were before he came along.  Do you really want him to call you and apologize?  If you let him get back with you then you are saying that you are not important enough to stand up for yourself.  Plus, there will be a new guy very soon, maybe the man of your dreams, do you want to be crying for this loser when the next one comes along?  \nYou are special, and he doesnt deserve to hurt you again.