Is it fair? If you cant be with the one you love, love the one your with, sounds dishonest to me.?
917078
it is very dishonest, it isnt fair to the one your with to be with somebody when they're not da one u really love. they deserve a chance to be wit someone who is emotionally available to them, to have someone who can really love them for them. so no it's not fair...
1090312
I don't believe in cheating on people either. I think people do it because they want the excitement of the beginning of a relationship where sometimes both people are on their best behavior, etc. or maybe they like the "conquest". Anyway neither reasons are very good because the next relationship will be the same eventually. I think some people aren't mature enough to realize that  they could just put their love and affection in the present relationship and it would be just as exciting. If a person lived by "do unto other as you would have done to you" they would not cheat.
1005109
Ask yourself if you can trust her. If you can't, regardless of if she is truly being honest or not, then how can you have a healthy relationship? It sounds like there have been issues with trust with her in the past, and games to make each other jealous. Is that the kind of relationship you want to have?
612624
Its not fair of her to not be honest with you.  I would tell her that I know about the other guy... How could she tell you that you are soulmates, but then not want to be with you? Isn't she living in sin by seeing the other guy? The whole situation sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too.  She is not being fair to either of you.
403937
You're absolutlly right. You MUST have trust and honesty in a relationship. You can't build one on a foundation of lies. The relationship will only fall apart and cause pain for you. Of caurse love plays a major role in all relationships too, :)
516625
man thats a hard position to be in. im there too, kinda. i guess you need to ask them and see what they say, if you still don't think its true,you should let them go, if you don't it will lead to a really bad situation of distrust and hurt. you don't need to put yourself through that mess if the other person doesn;t love you back.
170387
wrong maybe but you have to resolve how you really feel about this person sometimes this is easier if you know if the attraction if real or if it's left from back experiences with this person also how this person feels about their material partner if they cheat on their partner why wouldn't they lie to you about their feelings for you
458087
don't lie ...  in the end you will only hurt others and yourself... and do you really want a relationship built on lies ???... you know you don't !...    when the right one comes along  being honest will pay off big time!  be patient...it will happen when you least expect it...  best wishes!
356839
I dont know if some people just feel they have the right even tho they apparently love someone else... \n\ni personally do not understand it.
201620
No offense, but if you have to ask, niether relationship is probably a good one. When you truely love somone, there is no doubt in your mind as to what decision to make in this type of situation.
60111
well it is cheating.if something is lacking in your relationship you need to try and fix it or break up before moving on to someone else(just out of respect for the other)
1128904
Cheating is anything you wouldn't do in front of the person you're with. If they'd be fine with you cuddling with another person then it's not cheating, but if they would mind and you wouldn't do it in front of them, don't do it behind their back.
981595
sorry to hear that both of you started the relationship on deceptive terms.  she's being a hipocrit.  and I know you say you love her, but why would you want to be with someone that has cheated and lies.  trust is the foundation of any relationship, without that you have nothing.  you will be in the relationship always having questions about this that or the other.  to much stress and not being happy.  keep looking for something better.  good luck
481262
im trying to understand wht you are saying but i will answer this the best way i can i dont know why you cant live with the partner you choose to be with and i most certainly dont know if it is true or not so you probalbly need to ask this question again so we can better understand what you are asking or whatever
11655
If you think that what you're doing may be wrong, then it is. If you feel that the relationship is completely harmless and serves no purpose other than a casual friendship then maybe not.\n\nThe test is if you told your significant other, would they be upset?
1036331
Well,  that's nice.  \n You should never put someone elses happiness before yours.    Life is too short to be with someone you don't want to be with.  You say they don't want to hurt anyone, but they're messing around with someone that's not their partner.   Do they think that won't hurt?  They don't have to explain themselves, just  get it over and tell them , "I don't want to be with you anymore."   \nIs someone elses happiness worth your misery?  I think not.
411830
Lying in a relationship is extremly wrong and can cause a split so I would say you should never lie. There are a few exceptions that some ppl would call lies but in honesty they are the truth because it is love not lies lol. If she is pregnent and asks you if she is fat or looks bad and you say she looks beautiful or if she has gained a few pounds and asks if she is fat or perhaps she burnt dinner and breaks down and crys and you say it tastes great these are not lies it is called love so use your judgement but you should never lie to your spouse or lover