HELP ME, I TOLD HIM that I have LOW self esteem and he THINKS im fishing for compliments WHAT DO I DO?
920623
Your boyfriend can't fix you so quit trying to make him say things about you. All that will accomplish is driving him away. You need help but to expect him to fix you will only ruin your relationship. You need to get counseling so you can deal with your problem. Your boyfriend is not a counselor he is just a guy.\n\nTrust me I know this from personal experience, my girlfriend totally ruined our relationship with her constant neediness. When you act this way it ends up being all about you and his needs usually go unnoticed. Get out of yourself and into him.
351237
Just give it to him, Show him your ""self confidence"" and he'll think good thoughts about you.. I promise!!
1038679
Give him points for stepping up and telling you how he feels.Everybody can't do that,next feel flattered that you have someone who thinks that you're special.He has to be a decent guy or else you wouldn't be friends with him right? Consider the possiblity of what it would be like...Good Luck and no matter what happens try to remain friends.
387505
Well, it seems to me that you got your answer when he said he knew but didn't want to get into a relationship with you, did I miss something there? The you said he turned you down, so what is there to figure out? But for your own sake, I will say this, you need to have more confidence in yourself. I sense low self esteem from you, and if I can see it then I'm sure the guy does to. There are other fish in the sea, you just have to be confident in the bait you use to lure him. Good Luck!
733383
What makes you say they think you're worthless? Can you read their minds? Sounds to me you have a case of low self esteem, unless you are a horrible person I'm sure they all don't think that.  Find something you're good at and get involved doing something that will make you feel better about yourself. Perhaps you're depressed. Speak with your doctor. Some medication and COUNSELING will help you out. The more I think about it that's exactly what you sound like. DEPRESSED. Get help.
318746
You have to come out of your shell somewhat kid. Do it in small ways that are comfortable for you, maybe talk to him when there aren't a whole bunch of people around. I'm sure he'll think you're great!
91623
Tell him the truth.  Just say "hey, I think you're a great guy, but I really don't think you're the right person for me.  I want you to be happy, and I want to be happy. I don't think I'm happy right now; but that is not your fault.  Like I said, you're a great person, but just not the great person I want to be with."
959838
you mean to tell me that for 1 1/2 years he never complimented you?and your still with this guy? whatever! do ya know if he even likes himself? low self esteem? there definitly is a problem here and bound to become a major issue, do you know if this guy has any love for himself to begin with? because you can't expect him to show you love if he dont love himself, you can always assure him that you are not like those he had to grow up with, that you see something in him that no body in his family does, and that you wont blame him when things go wrong, and ask him to  drop his gaurd and let you in,  tell him you not going to hurt him that you just want to help begin the healing process, teach him that if he looks past all those previous negative judgements, he will find some one that he never knew existed, some one I'm sure he'd like, just understand that those who  not by shoice had to  grow up in that type of atmosphere, will  only know rejection and to feel like they could never be nothing. he should start by feeling lucky that he's got you!  Good luck to you both!
18243
Take courage and confront him.  Ask him to explain exactly what he meant by those comments, or tell him that you will be forced to report him for sexual harrassment.  Under no circumstances do you report him without first asking him to explain (as it MIGHT be possible the comments were misunderstood... he might just be a poor joker)!
991491
Talk to him about it. Im sure he will but mayb ... he feels insecure.
907237
You just need to boost your own self confidence a bit. Think to yourself that you are more then worthy and the best thing out there. When you believe this there will be no problem.
465032
I think the best thing to do is change your whole outlook on your life right away. Admitting that you have low self esteem is the first step. I quick got sick and tired of having low self esteem by 7th grade, I mean whats worse than the feeling that your not good enough, like life is living you, remember you are the one living life and you have the control to do or have whatever you want.  I wanted to be the funny girl in class, I wanted to be the loud kid, and I wanted to be the one people recognized. When you take control of how you approach life, the guys come to you and ask you out! Then you'll never fear rejection again, because the guys should want you not the other way around, your worth too much for that. In any case, get to know him, and if you do know him, ask him out, don't make it the life and death question, if he says no, and you change your self esteem, he'll see what he's missing out on.
288697
just take it slow and easy with her\nif she is a good friend she may be copying you because she knows you look great with what you do and ware.\nso I guess she is actually giving you compliments..\nso because fo this take it easy on her and just talk to her..if it gets a little rough..do it another time..but she is giving you compliments so be kind to her..\ngood luck
671831
realize that because you are not longer together, his opinions and perspectives no longer have any real effect on you.  Be confident and happy with yourself and who you are.  Don't worry about what he thinks.
753393
i think thats the only way to take it. obviously he thinks hes too good for you. you sound very mature. i hes going to act like a child, then youre too good for him.
459019
Wow maybe you should try  give him some comments back when he tells you something nice! believe me we man like a lady in the streets but a freak in in the sheets so dont try to compete with the slutish. ask him wats he doing on the weekend or somting  then said something like you want to go see ice age2 or something see if he invites you. if that dont work then you should try to talk to him and let him know how you feel if that dont work\n leave him alone for while see wat he does if then let it go!
923949
you know i think you had the same problem as mine. and i just now try to show him what i really am so i think you have a good heart and a good looking so just try to open that space for him.