Troubles with my partner?
916269
You have a right to be upset with him since things are no longer "just about you" or "just about me". Marriage means decisions effect both of you. You're also allowed to be upset that you can't get a job that might be better for you until after this is settled.\nHe should have been more patient or at least come home and discussed it with you before he quit. Leaving like that and losing that source of income jeopardizes you both. This is something he should have considered. On one hand, you want to be happy in your job and you want to have coworkers that appreciate you BUT, you also need to have a job before you leave one.\nAs for being selfish- you both are to an extent. Its not something to be completely ashamed of- just because you're married doesn't mean you can't think about you...it just means you have to keep you both in consideration.\nWhatever you do, the best thing to do right now is just to be supportive of him. Let him know that it upset you that he didn't talk with you about it first but, don't place blame and don't discard the fact that maybe he really couldn't stay any longer. Good luck
923567
If you know your issues are the root of the problem I would say until you can make the changes within yourself.  If you are making changes just to suit him, then until H*** freezes over.  Good luck!
560984
Never forget that no relationship is perfect. If there's a perfect relationship, then something is seriously wrong. You have to take the ups with the downs. Don't always expect it to be happy times. Marriage is totally about compromise, so don't ever expect to always get your way or you're doomed to fail. Never go to bed mad...stay up and fight till it's resolved or you'll carry the bitterness with you into the following days and unresolved issues will come up to bite you in the *ss later on. Don't ever bring up past fights or your partner's wrong-doings to throw in their face, that's just mean and spiteful. Learn to walk away. If your partner says something that p*sses you off don't let it get to you, simply walk away with your head held high learn to say "yes hunny" when your partner says something, even if you don't agree...saves from getting into an argument. These are just a few things I've learned :D.
654084
Wow, you have a child, and that makes things very complicated.  It is often said that by the time you think you need help in your relationship, it is toooooo late.  Because there is a child involved, and you didn't say you two were throwing things at each other and doing other irrational things, I think in your place, I would indeed seek some professional help.  It is really no fun out there being single raising a child, let me tell you.  And it may be that the things you liked about him in the beginning are still basically there.  You can always leave.  In your place, I'd give therapy a try -- before going make a list of the things that concern you, and have him do it too.  That will give the therapist something to work from, and get to the problem earlier (and cheaper!!!).  It may indeed be that your relationship is irreparably damaged, but as I said, you can always leave...Good luck
642576
How *often* does this happen?  If it's only about once a week, it could just mean that he enjoys time on his own with his buddies.  If it's more than 50% of the time, there's a problem somewhere, either with the relationship or with his gambling.  You should try talking to him (when he's NOT playing poker or getting ready to go play poker).  Don't be angry, just calmly ask him how he feels about you, about your relationship, etc.  If he's not willing to listen to you or discuss your needs, you need to consider ending the relationship.  It *should* be a partnership, with equal give and take for BOTH partners.
388104
well, sorry to tell you this but it's all depends on your partner..but here's what yOu can do. First of all never starts anything with lies. no matter how hard it seems, no matter how bad they'll hate you after, dont lie. say anything you want to say, say everything you have to say, and never try to make things better with saying, "it's not you, it's just me..." and other self-blame-cliche-excuses...and let them know that you still want to have a good relationship with them cuz no matter what they still a part of you right? but then again, you have to respect their decision if they refuse you at first cuz it's really tough to accept the fact that you cannot be with someone that you really care...am i making a point? dont think bout it too much..time heals..
968666
You both need to sit down with a counselor. A neutral third party will help sort it out.
193717
Do both of you want this relationship to work?  Sit down and have a long chat, the "lockout" incident is just the tip of the iceberg!  Your problems are more than that, perhaps the two of you do not really have trust on each other.  You better think carefully if you still want to be together since TRUST is a foundation of any relationship!
460197
I think that you should talk to him and ask him what is bothering him?. How long has he been accusing you of this?. Did something happen lately that made him start acting like that?. How long have you been married?. The first year it the toughest so hang in there and just try to be open and honest with him. communication is very important, i have been married for almost 19 years and i can tell you communication is very important
99814
YOU shouldn't do anything!! It is up to him to deal with the situation. He should care enough about you to handle the problem. My advice would be to give him the opportunity to solve the problem, but if within a reasonable time (a week) if he hasn't dealt with the problem, then walk away from him. If he doesn't care for and respect you enough to deal with the problem, then he may be enjoying have to females on a string. Good Luck =-)
485396
hey i think dat is not a big problem. u can understand that he may be tired or busy. so just give him some time and hope and have faith in ur love!\n\nhope all gets wel soon!take care and be patient and dont loose ur love! cheers and god bless!
890557
Well sounds like you two need to sit down together and have a long conversation about your relationship, and why you are fighting over things.  And decide if maybe your lives are going in different directions and its time to end it. Or fight through it. All relationships have tought times. Its up to those involved to decide if they want to work through the problems or not. \n\nIf he is unwilling or uncooperative to sit and discuss this. I would say its time to move on as difficult as that may be.
1013
Something seems to be missing in your story--or your girlfriend is schizoid.  But seriously, it isn't really normal to fight every week, so possibly she is still angry about whatever it is you guys have been fighting about.  I would think about the tone you may have had when you asked her to clean, I imagine you were upset because she wasn't helping, and that may have set her off.  If you want to save your relationship talk to her like an adult to an adult and try to figure out how to resolve your problems in a positive way.  Try to avoid accusatory and patronizing statements.  You two are probably just having trouble adjusting to living together.  Good Luck
753606
sounds like he has got a hyper tension dude..... may be it's coz of the relationship too. better speak to him and let him know and get him prepared to meet a counsellor and then arrange it.
506344
obviously there are a LOT of issues there. u r already unhappy and ther is no legal commitment yet, imagine how it will change when the "I DO" is said.   and u talking to us will not solve the problem.\n\nu are too depended on her. no one should be sucked into the life of another person. u r to compliment not complete each other. u need a balance and other perspectives in life. she may not like others that u like, but if she loves u ( which i doubt or mayb she ahs commitment issues or issues expressing feelings to significant others) she will like them because of u.  \n\nto be honest, sounds like she is just using u, and guess what, ur letting her.  abuse is abuse
654458
You should seek more help than might be found here.  If things don't change it may become a serious issue between you and your boyfriend, and you're obviously concerned about it.\n\nSee a doctor, perhaps, or a therapist?
1173220
this guy sounds like a lot of trouble, you have only been seeing him for four months and all these problems have problems have been hapening, you should be on your honeymoon stage but instead you have problems, maybe you should leave this guy and leave all thses problems. why stick with him whne he accuses you of drama, you dont need that , you need a guy to be there for you when you need him not when he needs you to bail him out of his problems.