why is my dad such a control freak???
913150
I didnt feel like readin all that. *sigh*      he cares!
53839
Controlling isn't always bad.  It just means that they care enough to put their foot down and say "I love you therefore I need to know where you are going, who you will be with, and what you will be doing."  Other parents that are toooooo trusting, most of the time, really don't care.
1071208
I don't know you or your mom but has she said this about any of your other boyfriends?  I didn't believe it and lived to regret not taking the advice of people who really did care for me.  Looking back now I see what I couldn't see then.  Controlling someone else is usually very subtle.  Be careful and always know that your mom will be there if needed.  No matter what he may tell you.  Good luck.
183469
He has some serious problems with control. I would think if this is the way I wanted to live. He has no right to tell you that you can't do something. He is your husband not anything else. K
179416
He may not be interested or just likes to have control of the relationship and if so....you dont need a control freak
1021185
Could be he just wants to feel independant...and not thought of as a "mama's boy"...or perhaps things at home aren't going as well as he wants you to believe...and has withdrawn because of it. I prefer being alone myself quite often...and have been known to shut out family members at times...without thinking of how it may make them feel. I don't really have any suggestions except to continue being there for him...and hope that eventually he'll open up to you about what the true reason is for his distancing himself. Good luck! :)
427805
Well to be honest. Maybe your father wants you to grow up just like he did. Beforemy dad left he told me he wanted me to have what he never had. Maybe he thinks that doing that is going to make you do the right things and make the right decisions. Don't worry he'll come to his senses when he figures out that yor not going to give up.  My advice is be your own person, don't do anything you dont want. Be a man and do what you have to do. Hell come around .  Parents these days try to give there kids what they never had when they were our age. Its a fact of parenthood. Trust me hell get over it and come around and ralize to let you go your own path. Mays he's trying to hold on to you as long as he can. Just don't ever give up on your father. He's doing this because he loves you.      GOOD LUCK
791480
Hes confused and lost my dear. Somthing is troubling him, most likely something from his childhood, maybe his parents beat him a little, it could be a number of things. If you love him then you dont hate him, you just hate the way that he is, talk with him, dig a little but take it slow. Find  out whats going on in that brain of his! Good luck, God bless
833652
To understand why you are controlling, you need to look at your childhood. If your parents were controlling or someone else in your youth was controlling, you may be repeating that past experience.\n\nThe only way that you can stop this type of behavior in yourself is to understand where it came from. You may want to talk to a therapist. It takes a lot of work and courage to look inside yourself and try to change, but you can do it.\n\nIt is ok to be outspoken, but the control issues and jealousy will not allow you to have good long lasting relationships.\n\nTake care,\nTroy
364955
Wow.  Its hard to believe a man could actually do that do a child, and his daughter, to make it even worse.  It's very sad.  It's hard to even understand what would make someone do such a thing.  You are in need of real help, not the help you will get from the people on this site.  You dad has completely messed you up, and its not something you can just snap out of: you need help.  Don't get too discouraged about men, most are fine, just like most women are fine.  You should definitely be more careful about who you open up to, and definitely who you have sex with.  You truly need someone who is caring and mature to help guide you, and give you direction.  Find someone on your mother's side if possible, and get help.  There is no shame in seeking help, and freindship...after all you deserve it.
793820
well i know wat ur going threw my dad was the same way i was always scared....but wat i did was just leave! if u have a car....but leaving isnt always the answer in my case it was but maby in urs its diffrent.... i just needed my own space and time and i didnt have that at my dads soo i always left i would eather go shopping or just driving arond.... but u have a b/f that prolly cares a lot for u soo he is always good..... u can talk to him or jsut leave ur house and go w/ him well i hoped  i helped a lil..  =)\nLuV AlWaYs \nBrItTaNy
632054
maybe you should suggest some counseling for your dads aggressiveness and you and your mom wont always see eye to eye on all things the most important thing to do if you argue go back and talk it back out so it gets resolved and you may have to make some compromises but that is life and maybe you and your mom can talk to your dad he might just need to let off some steam and just don't know how so he retreats to aggressive behavior. family counseling may help?
143403
Lol..lol.. Maybe he, like myself is confused in what heck you're talking about? Are you trying to get rid of him too? That's his mother, and honey, you might be treading deep water on this issue, and drive him away with her...lol
772227
The guy is a control freak. I have been in similar situations myself. good for you for trying to break free get councelling but please realise it may take years to undo all the psychological damage he has caused you.\n\nYou can only truly break free with professional councelling so please do that for me because i know what it's like.\n\nGood luck, you deserve happiness. :-)
723357
Lucky! You better do something nice for that man, let him know you appreciate him. You have a rare breed indeed. But it never hurts to try to get him to relax and enjoy a bit too. \nMy dad was like your husband. Always busy, never sitting still, worked all day, came home and worked around the house, helped out with dinner and chores, worked in his home office. Last year he got cancer and almost died, he now has figured out their is more to life than work, he goes in to the office late, has hired me to clean for him, takes vacations, goes out with friends, and he seems so much happier! \nYou should remind your husband he needs to enjoy life while he has it, you never know what might happen.
815025
He is a control freak though he must be quite insecure for him to act this way.  Presumably you have confronted him with his demons and asked him why he acts the way he does towards you. And I would imagine that you have told him that you are not happy with how things are between you.  \n\nYou have allowed yourself to be manipulated for 6 years and have done nothing about it, so I presume you were head over heels with your boyfriend. It is so hard to see a person for what they really are when you have an all consuming passion for someone. However, thank goodness you have woken up to the fact that he taking over your life and not allowing you to be yourself.\n\nJust imagine how unhappy you would be if you decided to marry this man. Gradually his possessiveness will turn to violence believe me. Especially if you started a family as he would not be allow you to share your love with anyone else.\n\nYou are your own person with a job and independence, so use that you your advantage and start saving some money so that you do not have to be dependant on him. Can you go back to your folks until you get your life sorted out?. I am sure they will welcome you with open arms, until you have sorted your life out.\n\nPlease do not leave it until you have reached the point of no return and do not let him use the emotional blackmail bit by telling you he will kill himself if you leave him. Be strong for everyones sake and go now...that's if that is what you want and feel there is no way of salvaging this relationship.\n\nAll the best to you my dear. Ax
1173730
He is a control freak, dump him as soon as you can.