I think my best friend may be about to commit suicide. Can I stop her? No dumb answers, please. It's serious.
913701
Sometimes people are really good at putting on a big act about how they're "fine" and "happy"--some people are good at lying, or at least hiding the real truth.  A lot of times, people feel really pressured to perform a certain way, like they're "supposed" to be happy because they have stuff, money, family, friends, good job, good house, good car...all that crap that's nice but doesn't make you happy.\n\nIf you're not happy, you can be surrounded by a banquet and starve.  People may care about you, but you might not care about yourself.  So when you see glimpses and flashes of unhappiness, that might be a lot more honest than her facade of everything being OK.\n\nDon't pressure her if she really doesn't want to talk about it--you don't want her to get defensive and push you away.  She always has the choice to avoid you--in fact, she has the choice to kill herself if that's what she wants.  You can't fix her problems, and you're not responsible for her actions.  But don't take that like there's nothing you can do.\n\nIf you get a *little* resistance, a *little* hesitation...push forward.  Push her to tell you the truth.  Push her to get professional help.  Push her to find out what's really important and go for it--fulfillment can make a person feel much more important and useful to the world.  Ever heard, "idle hands are the devil's playthings"?  If you're unhappy but you force yourself to do *something*, something helpful to yourself or others, it can take your mind off being depressed and it can give you a sense of purpose.  \n\nBut she shouldn't go for the temporary fix.  If her meds aren't working, she should try new ones.  If she's not in therapy, she should get in therapy.  If she has any addiction issues (not saying she does, but you don't know for sure what she's hiding), she needs to deal with those.  \n\nAnd remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  It may not be that she wants to die--sometimes, it's not about that.  Sometimes, it just seems like the only way to escape from the problems of life.  You need to encourage her to strengthen the part of herself that wants to live (I'm sure there's part of her that wants to live, or is at least ambiguous about suicide.)  Encourage the part of her that realizes that the future might be better.  I used to feel way worse than now, and part of getting better was just slogging through the bad times, waiting for something better.  \n\nDepression is hard, cruel, boring sometimes.  It's a drain and a plague--I can think of a lot of diseases I'd rather have than depression.  But it's a disease, and diseases can get better--just keep telling her that.  Be persistent.  She might get irked at you now, but she'll thank you later.
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only if u want him to snap. trust me, coming from someone who is in the same situation--i did tell him. BIG mistake. Apparently they feel bad for doing it, but they cant stop it. So sayin something would only make them feel worse. Which could send them in to an alternate mood swing, like depression and suicide. That-you-dont-want!\nJust try understand that, that is apart of him and who he is. If you cant tolerate it, then i suggest possibly ending the friendship..\nIf you need to tell someone..tell a parent or a doctor..someone who could help more than just you make him more aware. Does that make sense?
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Take them very seriously..... Do not think for a moment that they are not serious... Be the best friend you can be and be an excellent listener.....\n\nA person who wants to commit suicide is, in there mind, ready and prepared to commit that act.... Contrary to popular beliefe they are not cowards they just feel that they have no other way out..... Sometimes the pain they feel is so intence that the only way out is death....\n\nThey are not wanting attention, but rather help for their situation. They need to know that there is a way out and that they do have support. Most people who commit suicide do so in private because they are very private people nor do they want to be a burden.....\n\nRemember to take them very seriously if not you may loose that person for ever.... Do not treat them like a child and respect them..... Listen to what they say and never offer your opinion or call them names..... Never under any circumstances laugh at them..... They are talking to you about suicide because they are at the end of their rope (no pun intended)....\n\nGood luck to you
904622
I believe at this stage, she's not concious about what she asked u.. u need to do something, or say something that will really wake her up, and make her realise that her life, is her own decision.. \nall u can do as a best friend is give suggestion...\n\nu might wanna say something really really serious that will make her realise.. something personal i believe...
388594
I would like to say That I never have but one of my best friends committed suicide on the 13th November last year. Anyone who is contemplating it please, please, please speak to someone and ask for help. I know its hard to do this and every situation is different but it will be for the best I guarantee it!
608289
If she considers you  her best friend, then she obviously cares deeply for you.  Tell her how much it hurts you, and how you feel about her.  Maybe she's thinking the same thing.  What can it hurt?  If she comes right out and says, " I don't feel that way about you," you are losing nothing.  And you will get over it.  Trust me.  I wanted to kill myself over one.  Now, I look back, and WHAT A LOSER!!  What in the WORLD did I see in that guy??  Good luck.  Tell her!
46150
You need to let this friendship go. Most likely she's going to do it again, but this time it'll be worst. Trust me. She'll loose your trust. People change as they grow older, and it's not always for the better. At least you've realized she's not the person you thought she was and if you continue to be her best friend then you're putting yourself in a situation where you'll probably get hurt in the end. Move on.
888960
Dear Hayley,\n\nCALL NOW:\nNational suicide crisis hotline\n1.800.SUICIDE (784-2433)\n\nTell them about your friend. They may be able to get a phone trace if he actually threatened to commit suicide ever. They can give you better advice than anyone untrained also. Good Luck, we'll be praying for you both.\n\nCalico.Kitty
165521
Inform  her she could be seriously injured or die. Let her mother know, she needs to talk to her. If she gets mad at you for doing that, end the friendship.
585516
Seek professional help. First you need to tell her that she is pretty rude for thinking that you won't tell anyone that she is hurting her bestfriend, (herself). And if your friend is really you. Tell an adult at school or your parents, or a doctor. either way, this is not healthy behaviour and it is disgusting.
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You can only tell her that you think it's wrong and just stay away. The things that you say she's going to do are dangerous not just for herself but for you as well. Let her make her own mistakes and be there for her when she realizes it's a mistake. Just remember you can't change people and if she pushes you to join her in a shoplift or drug related activity you can get into just as much trouble as she could and that she's not being a true friend. You're a good person to worry about your friend the way you do unfortunatley she's going to have to figure this out for herself. You've already told her how you feel and that's all you can do.
920550
If she brings it up than yeah! ask her questions.  this is probably the best time to support your friend, and she needs your help right now to be there for her if she needs someone to talk to.  Don't be over the top with it, just say how happy you are that she's seeking help and that you're there for her every step of the way.
688517
Maybe your friend is trying to reach out to you because he or she feels bad.  It is possible that the friend is depressed and needs someone to talk with.  Ask if your friend is feeling okay.  Maybe your friend needs to see a therapist to see if he or she is suicidal.  Please make sure your friend gets some help just in case.
440502
First let me just say Suicide is never the answer... No matter what the question is.  When people come close, or actually commit suicide, they are at what they think is the emotional low point of their lives.  Their thinking is so clouded by depression, and despair, that they fail to see the actual truth... No matter how low a person feels, somebody out there cares about that person.  I know at one time, I had considered ending my own life, For reasons still unknown to me, I did not do it, I got professional help.  That therapy showed me that no matter how low you may get, there is always something to live for.  \n\nI am terribly sorry you lost a friend to suicide.  Even though you may hold a bit of anger with him for ending his own life, and effecting so many others in a bad way, try to forgive him.  True what he did could be considered a selfish move, But, when it comes right down to it, his decision to end his own life was not made with a clear head.  All you can do is pray for him, and hope he has gone on to a better place.  Also, you can pay attention to how your friends react to this event... If any of them show signs of deep depression, or suicidal thoughts, be sure to let somebody know about it, and try to suggest they seek help. We would not want this terrible event to ever happen again.\n\nYou will be in my prayers... God Bless!
971686
That is so terrible!! I would say just continue to do what you are already doing...be there for her! You are an awesome friend...good job...not too many of those left in the world.
929554
It sounds as if your friend suffers from serious depression. I know your intentions to help her are good, but if her condition is due to psychological causes there is nothing you can do for her. She definitely needs professional help. Can't you talk to her parent about this? They have to do something less it ends in a tragedy. I admire you for being such a wonderful friend to her. And believe me, one day she will be grateful too.
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If you seriously think this might happen - you need to contact the local authorities.  They won't take this situation lightly.\n\nIf she's possibly going to harm herself or others, they will investigate.\n\nWhere's her family - you should also contact them but don't wait for them to call the police.\n\nYOU need to do this NOW.