Is it normal to fight before the wedding?
927578
yes it is you are inder stress and you will have fights through out the marriage also. it is a part of being two differnt people and learning how to work together in stress to be one and not 2
883553
Five months before the wedding we were fighting constantly about a lot of stupid things, like what the color of the walls would be on our bathroom or how to buy the perfect toilet (this is no joke...), one day while I was inside our soon to be home, I was getting angrier by the minute because one of the carpenters was insisting on needing more money which I didn't have; that same day we were having dinner with both our families for a formal proposal and so that my father in law asked for my hand in marriage for his son (this is traditional were I am from), so I called my fiancee and told him about the carpenter and he told me to handle it myself since he was at work. \nWe both started shouting on the phone, and things got really heated. I hung up and by the time we had to go to dinner I didn't know if he was going to show up or not.\nSurely enough, there he was, standing outside the restaurant with my father in law, and as soon as I saw him I knew we were going to be ok.\nAll of this just to tell you that it is ok to have mixed feelings about getting married, you are starting a new life and parting with the old one can be stressful, so don't worry about it, think about how much you love the person and whenever you get nervous breathe and try to concentrate on that.\nGood luck!
353024
No.  This is the day you MUST look your best.  You need to have a trial with each one and see which one you like best.  I would do this about a month before the wedding.  That way, the one you cancel will have time to fill the space.
724644
Absolutely!! What girl doesn't dream of getting married and starting a family!! I think for the most part, most girls want that at one point or another! Sometimes, it happens early for some than it does earlier!! And going to a wedding and seeing the new couple together can make anyone excited for that type of committment! But it sounds like you have your head on your shoulders and know you don't want it yet, but yes, you are normal!! We all want the fairytale!! :-)
271507
Apparently you get along and have a healthy enough relationship to have progressed to the point of even having a wedding.  To me, the wedding has always been a dream of the woman, where she's been planning it since childhood... how many men have been planning their wedding since they were teenagers?  Not very many.  I made two decisions in my wedding... my best man, and the type of music we'd play.  The rest I let my wife choose.  Why?  Because it meant more to her than it meant to me (although I still held the event in very high regard).\n\nIf you worry about each others feelings, you will take care of each others needs.  If you only worry about yourselves, you will both be dissatisfied and everything will fail.  Think about her needs before your own.
313885
Married couples fight. It happens. One thing you need to do is never go to bed angry at each other. I don't know why you had a fight and I don't want to know. You guys have to find a way to have a civil conversation without losing your tempers. I love my wife and I respect her as woman as well. I am nothing without her. I wish you luck
148500
You need couples counselling. Crossing the boundry into physical violence during a fight is an extremely serious problem - one that won't go away by itself.
545403
I think that people will be judgmental.  I think that all couples who get married should go to pre-marital counseling.  I think that it is going to be harder for you because you both still have so much growing up to do.  I am 23 and just got married in October... I changed so much between 18 and now.  It doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't get married but you do have to be willing to really work at your marriage if you want it to last.
832374
I agree ..come on u need to know the guy u r getting married to ..call it off if u have a problem..may not be as easy as it sounds but yes u can do what u want.
723014
this is all to normal.  woman get this a lot.  its a big commitment.  I mean your going to be together for the rest of your lives.  Your scared and thats ok.  Just realize there is nothing to be afraid of.  your inlove to a wonderful man who loves you the same.  and I am sure he can't wait to get married.  the worst thing you can do is have cold feet and walk out the day of the wedding.  but listen to your heart it never lies.  I know you want to get married you afraid of the commitment and what is to come. again this is normal and a lot of people go through it.  Just take deep breaths and think, think things through you want to be happy in this merriage not misrable.
432138
Being the 1st night, we did but I think with most traditional wedding situations...it could be more romantic if it was the next day or so..because we were so exhausted that it was more of an act than passion...and it may have been the high light of the evening if we hadn't gone thru so much already during our wedding day.
418796
It seems that the world is probably against you this day in age with quicky weddings and quicky divorces. Alot of the young couples I know get married really quick without thinking everything through. Call it the "want to be a bride" syndrome. Once you live together and share your lives together...things change. But if you really love each other,have talked everything through, and understand what hard work marriagetakes...you may be happy together forever. Good luck!
665759
Remember, it's a DAY in your life....just a day.  It may be a "big" day, but it's just a day.  You should never let the wedding interfere with the relationship.  Have you asked your fiance to get involved with the wedding ?  Who is paying for it ?  If your family is footing the bill, he may be reluctant to express his own wishes.  (Or, he may not really care - in the "whatever you want, honey" kind of mode....)  If you want his help, then give him specific things you want him to do and how you want him involved.  Again, don't let this run your life.  You have waaaay too much on your plate (job, school, wedding plans) to have to spend more energy on this kind of concern.  And, you might need to consider his lack of reciprocity on the "little romantic things" - the male personality doesn't natually "court" his mate after he has achieved his goal.  (IE: you two are getting married; he no longer has to woo you.)  So you two are going to need find a level between your desire to be courted the rest of your life and his lack of interest in doing so.  Takes two to tango and if you dance alone now, you may be dancing alone the rest of your life.  Tell him you need help on the wedding (and, as I said, what exactly you want in the way of help) and tell him that you want to continue to "date" him - at least once a week - movie, dinner, dancing, whatever you did before you got engaged.  TALK - talktalktalktalk!
324225
Maybe you should both go to a coulselor and put the wedding on hold. That's what I would do. No need to rush into a wedding if you cannot get along.
930962
Yes it should bother you.  Dont be so selfish, suck it up and go to the wedding.  I am sure you can show up to both\n\nYou dont have to stay all night at the wedding reception.  \n\nIf you miss their wedding dont expect them to show up for yours.
1157741
I have done this before. Sometimes you can say something out of pain and anger and not choose your words wisely before speaking and you can speak pain into them and into your marriage and as soon as you say it you can see that pain on their face. Sad part is you cannot take words back once you say them . Just apologize and try to never do that again and next time think before you speak!
923511
Can't see why there would be.  but be considerate and say something before the wedding if you feel strongly about it.