Some people after they break up with their boyfriend/girlfriends say that this is so painful as death?
921924
Yes, I think it is the truth- realistically, people that suffer broken hearts don't really know what it feels like to die, however, sometimes a broken heart is worse than if someone is dead, because once we are dead, we don't feel anything. A broken heart is similar to just a slow painful death.\n\nEDIT: in regards to some of the other answers, a broken heart can be repaired, but the temporary feeling of pain and anguish is horrible- AND they may not have truly been in love if they didn't feel that way.\n\n-EA
637893
Sometimes its just like taking off a tight shoe.  Ah, feels so much better.\n\nSometimes the second after you say "I don't love you anymore", you realize you've just made a terrible mistake and you carry this terrible pain and loss for years.\n\nSometimes its in between.  The bad thing is you don't always realize what you have until its gone.  I think there's a song with those lyrics.  \n\nIt's worse, however, if they break up with you first.  My ex broke up with me over the phone (sooo uncool) and so I spent the afternoon burning all of her pictures, the whole time wishing we could just have sex and make up...Damn.
197821
Its true..Love is painful...But it is the most powerful emotion God has given to mankind and with every gr8 thing comes a drawback too.. just like with a rose comes the painful spikes. Same way with Love comes the pain..u have gotto accept the both sides baby..U cant opt for just one coz with the heads also comes the tail(in a coin)..;)
522395
You have people who are emotionally healthy and will take some space inbetween dating and truly look at their past relationship and examine what part they had in the demise of the relationship.   \n\nOther can not stand being alone and must feel that void of a lost love with someone immediately.  This is not healthy because what they are really doing is carrying the same baggage and problems into the next relationship which will have the same outcome.   They call this getting over the ex but they are just replacing them with another player.\n\nWhether I am infatuated or believe I love someone I do not go into another relationship after the break-up.  I alway take time and space to get my head clear.
335666
I have had the same problem and no it isn't right it is more pain and agony on you especially if you even have the smallest of feelings for the person. I have hung on and tried and worked with it as a matter of fact this weekend I just called it quits myself. It hurts to much and it gives the other person multiple people at their becon call and your out in the cold.
222185
Yeah, of course. When you have a relationship with them and have had a lot of you know what. Then break up and she doesnt have anyone at the moment. And she needs it really bad being ra.ndy like a mad mare, even if we were still together i was like doing it myself sometimes just to see how she reacts and she was going all crazy, asking about me to even buy her a di.ldo if i dont have time :) and thats about it. They can be just as crazy as we men are, hahaha. They also need to fart and go to toilet and burp and eat. Just the same thing. Nasty, nasty hahaha.
91354
No. That's only considering yourself and some (probably temporary) emotions.\n\nAsk anyone who has had a successful relationship (>15 years) and they will tell you there were times when they were not satisfied with each other. When they worked through it and waited it out, they found it was just like a passing storm.\n\nIf you break or injure this relationship it will not get any easier for you. Even with the 'perfect' partner it will be almost unmanageably diffucult at times.\n\nBy bailing out each time it gets difficult you are dooming yourself to a life of constantly moving around and never being satisfied.\n\nThey will also tell you that any relationship requires both to actively work on building the relationship and that in the end it's worth it.
421996
Nope you're not a bad person.  I had a similiar thing happen, my ex calls me all the time too, we cannot be more than just social friends and I honestly don't feel pain or sympathy when he breaks up or fights with his new girlfriend.  I listen and say I'm sorry for him but I don't feel alot of sympathy.   When people hurt you like that by breaking up, you learn and grow and we've grown past our feelings for them and moved on.
117476
I've been there.  My ex boyfriend lasted at least an hour.  By that time I was done and bored, and getting pretty raw with pain.  \n\nIt differs with different people what they like and don't like, and how long is too long.
794658
I was with my last boyfriend for 3 and a half years when I met my current boyfriend. I knew very quickly that I wanted to be with my current boyfriend, so I had to break my ex's heart to make myself happy. (I've been with my boyfriend now for more than a year) It hurt my ex like hell and I felt terrible doing it, but I knew that I wanted to be with someone else. So I had to do it for myself even though I hurt someone I cared about in the process. Just be careful and tactful in the way you say things. Make sure you don't sound like it's all his fault.
528748
Well there are several kinds of "hurts"\nphysical\nemotional\nmental\n\nWhen it comes to physical there are a ton of possible ways to torter people. I would probaly try to give some one an upper spinal injury. That can cause a constant pain without killing.\n\nWhen it comes to emotional you can tell some one that you love them then tell them you don't then you can always tell them lies, like that there bf or gf is cheating on them\n\nwhen it comes to mental all you have to do is make sure that they are in a constant state of fear. \n\nthis is what i would do......\nnot that i would.......\nunless some one was cheating on me..........&#92;\nand in that case i would do all of the above and kick him in the nuts\nthen i would cut his you know what off when he is sleeping,\nthen i would kill him
182130
If you are breaking up with them because you are absolutely, positively, 100% sure that there is no way to work things out then...you are exiting a bad situation and that is a good thing.  It's not a fun thing and it hurts like hell but if it's the right thing to do then unfortunately you just have to do it.  Then you just have to pick up the pieces and move forward.  They forgot to give some of us the manuals on Life is not going to be perfect.
536267
Being friends after a break up always sounds like a good thing but ultimately people realize that down deep at least one person in that relationship is really hurt by the other or not able to get over the other person.  That is why most of the time when you break up with someone it is best to make a complete break and not have them in your life so you can honestly move forward and stop living in the past.
716221
Some folks get to feeling really sorry for themselves and think that the world has ended because they had a disagreement with their partners.  Fact of life is thought that we are going to have arguments with mates, friends etc. throughout our lives.  A lot of people believe that this form of self abuse will prove their love and devotion to the other and that they will accept them back after this.  Majority of time if partner does return to relationship it is because of guilt of some other foolish believe that only they can act as Savior to this person. Live is not meant to go as we want all the time and the sooner people realize this the less of this type of behaviour will be occurring.
1155186
yep when I was in a bad relationship. I ended it that day. It happens I was with the loser for 3 years. I sit back now and think What the H*ll was I thinking. Atleast you are out of the situation.
638616
Its always easier said than done.. but say goodbye now..!! Why because experience speaks for itself.. I had the same problem i forgave him once, but then it happened again and again and again.. It was the hardest part to say goodbye to someone u love too much, but its rips ur heart apart to know they're abusing the love and affection you give them...!! And remember this, wen women hurt, they hurt badly and then there comes a point where they go COLD and then theres no turning back... so its best to say goodbye now and save yourself from the more despising feeling of anger and hate... Best of luck with the decision u choose :o)
910208
I hate to see my ex with someone else. It makes me remember all the good times we shared. It makes me wonder if they remember our relationship. I would rather see them dead.