My friend told me she has an eating disorder and is depressed?
920550
If she brings it up than yeah! ask her questions.  this is probably the best time to support your friend, and she needs your help right now to be there for her if she needs someone to talk to.  Don't be over the top with it, just say how happy you are that she's seeking help and that you're there for her every step of the way.
147188
ok well the if she is younger like under 18 and i know you dont want to betray your friends trust but the best thing for you to do is tell her parents even though she might hate you but its well worth it...i am only assuming she is younger because that is usually when most eating disorders typically start with girls in their teens and twenties if she is older try to convincer her to go seek help at a medical facility  good luck
143601
If it is depression, then it will not go away on its own! Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain that causes one to feel all sorts of emotions: helplessness, feelings of no escape, feeling worthless etc. Your friend, however, may just have low self esteem or may be going through something that you are not aware of! In any case, maybe you chould take your friend aside and just tell him/her that you are worried and would like to help them in any way possible to get better! If they are depressed...most of the time they will be in denial as well, so it might not be easy for them to ask for help!
1008693
Talk to her tell your worried about her and that she really needs to stop what ever shes doing because if shes bulimic and or anorexic she could end up dieing or in allot of trouble such as not being able to have kids. Her teeth will look disgusting if she making her self perg and if shes not eating she can get very sick and not even be able to move if she keeps it up. She needs nutrients in her body and she needs help QUICK you should tell her everything that can happen and you should tell her mom your Aunt your mom anyone to  get her help if shes between the age 13-15 tell her to read the book Perfect by, Natasha Friend because i just got over my eating disorder because i read that book. Its a really good and help full book.\n- Good luck and remeber tell someone of the family and talk to he about everything\nHope the sources i gave you help i got them by going to google and typing in eating disorder
782744
Since she's sick then I can understand why you are fearful - because she is so unpredictable and could leave at any second, and that makes you feel really insecure. She needs to make the decision to be treated for the disease that she has- my cousin has anorexia and it has controlled her life to the point she doesn't have one. If you can be patient and help ease her into treatment, then I'd say stay. If it happens again, and she runs away, I'd let her go.
985491
OMG. I had that problem when I was bulimic. Yes, it is bulimia. It is a form of depression, get help. Don't stop getting help either. You will live with this for your entire life. I know because I do, but I am watched for the signs of trouble. Please get help, I'm begging you!\nGet better!!!!!
661324
Im no doctor but I believe that you should get some help.  Not eating is not healthy.  I was anorexic also.  I got so sick it was awful. You should get some help before it's too late.
308675
There are lots of reasons why you could have these problems. I urge you to seek counseling and medical attention immediately, because you need to fix your heart, your mind, and your body. I am in no way saying that you're a bad person. I'm saying that you have a problem, you know you do, and you should fix it. Anorexia is horrible, one of my friends had it, and it was a long road. Realizing you have it is half the journey. Good luck to you.
803608
Your eating disorders always come back to feeling a lack of control in your life......People have eating disorders mainly because they feel their world is out of control....So they maintain some control by not eating, sounds paradoxical, I know, but that is how it works.....I hope you seek some counseling to get to the root of your problems...Best of luck...
796675
It sounds like your friend has an eating disorder. You can't fix her by yourself no matter how much you care. If she is doing horrible things like forcing herself to throw up after she eats and taking laxatives to make herself go to the bathroom a lot, this is very very serious. Even though she might get mad at you, talk to her mother. It is better for your friend to get mad at you than to die from this disorder or do permanent damage to her body. \n\nDo not tell her, "Stop this or I will tell your mom." She will just hide what she is doing a little better. This is a sickness that needs a professional to treat. She really can't control what she is doing and that is why she needs help. Talk to her mom privately as soon as you can.\n\nYou are a kind and caring friend. Do the right thing.
756672
This is a tough one.\n\nTo feel completely separated from your sense of Self and your body goes hand-in-hand with eating disorders. Do you self-injure, too?\n\nAn eating disorder is actually a means of someone asserting control over their life when they feel they have very little. It is rarely a symptom of someone who wants to be thin, though it's very common that someone w/an eating disorder hates themself and wants to do themself harm.\n\nBulimia is a very common disease with successful, charismatic women who endure a lot of stress at work or in life in general.\n\nI had to come at my bulimia and self-harm from a few different angles. Firstly, I got myself a good book -- The Secret Language of Eating Disorders by Peggy Claude-Pierre. I read it and took note of the things she said that resonated with me most.\n\nI saw a therapist once a week for two years. It was pricey but completely necessary. It helped more than I can describe. Just telling someone about how awful you feel and how alienated you think you are, and having them console you and validate your feelings, is powerfully healing.\n\nStart to write down things you like about yourself. Keep track of details  during the day that make you feel connected to yourself. Treat yourself to things throughout the day -- a positive thought, an inside joke with yourself, a cup of tea, anything.\n\nI can relate to wanted to go back to your eating disorder. It feels safe and consistent and when you look at yourself and see your body as the result of your own control, well, it feels great. A therapist will help you with this. find a support group and meet with the people there. The strengths of others are extremely powerful during times like these.
35336
Take this form me...if i no one thing its eatting disorders.. okay... are they depressed to? or cut themselveS? if so then DONT tell a counsilor... what do you think thehy'd do when they got home? just stop.. no the counsilor adds onto the stress... if it got out of hand then tell their parents... you need to be there for them, b/c i no they need you as a freind... or famiy or w/e you are to them.. dont force them to do anything.. unless its eat a little bit .... b/c if you threaten them.. it almsot always works honestly... but if you say put them in rehab no okay if you FORCE them into rehab it wont work b/c all they'll think is "ill show her.... ill lose even MORE weight...see how she lieks it then" u need to tell her thre are better ways so on give her the lexcture..that i hear all teh time " you dont have to tell me wahts wrong... but you have to tell somone.."  ok? i hope i helped this is a VERY delicate situation
1090206
You should not tell her to eat. You put her in an impossible position then because she is your friend and she wants to respect your advice but eating is something that is painful to her. And more importantly than what you shouldn't say there is what you shouldn't assume. Anorexia is not the box it is written up to be just as everybody is an individual. There are physical symptoms in common but psychologically many different reasons they are trapped in this illness. Anorexia is not about eating or weight that is a symptom, it is about the persons psychological struggle to feel comfortable in themself. you have to try and be understanding not pressurising, you have to give her space not impose your own idea of what is best for her because getting better from anorexia can't be about becoming the averag e weight - that hasn't solved anything in the persons mind and has wrongly put everything about the disease down to what people think they look like when what they feel like is much more important. I think recovery is all about helping her discover who she is, becoming comfortable in that and letting her know how much you value that person.
795992
give your friend the support a good friend would tell her that it is important to stay healthy and not worry if shethinksshe is fat she sounds like she is just right or a little to thin she should be proud that she doesnt have much bigger issues such as health etc.
198841
if you've already been honest and open with her and expressed your worries which perhaps she hasnt listened to, maybe suggest you can go on a diet together?..so your with her every step of the way. and let her know that if she's not happy you are there to help. make sure she doesnt go below her ideal weight- you could suggest she could set a target weight to meet and once she's there to relax on the dieting and treat herself more often. if she is worried about losing weight remind her it is unhealthy and will make her feel worse about herself if she has no energy from lack of nutrients etc. it is more important to maintain a healthy diet and to excercise to keep the weight off rather than starving yourself...this can lead to problems later on in life, such as concieving and growth.
133232
She definately needs professional help, but there are things that you can do now.  You can be there to listen to her.  It may be tempting to demand her to stop immediately, but this approach will most likely alienate her.  She knows she needs to stop, so telling her what she already knows is useless.  often, just knowing they have someone who cares enough to listen eases a lot of their pain.\n\nYou might try to help her to understand why she feels she has to cut herself.  Does it make her feel better?  Does she feel like she deserves it?  What is she thinking when she cuts herself?  The cutter usually uses physical pain to alleviate emotional pain.  Also keep in mind that there may be other underlying problems or mental disorders (such as bipolar, obsessive compuslive, depression, or even eating disorders) that are causing her to do this.  In those cases, simply talking with her will not solve anything.  \n\nIf you are a young person, you need to make sure you get help.  Try as hard as you can to get her to confide in a trusted adult, preferably her parents unless circumstances wouldn't permit it.  Cutting can become life-threatening, even if the person is not sucidal, so it is important to get her to a professional immediately.\n\nThere are also books out there that may be able to help her.  Go to your local library or search online.  If your friend is religious, you might refer her to her local pastor or priest.  Recently, Jehovah's Witnesses had articles about this type of self-cutting in the January and Febuary Awake Magazine.  You can look up "Jehovah's Witnesses" in the phonebook and call for someone to drop off the magazines free of charge.  Getting something in her hand that she can read may be what she needs to motivate her to get help.\n\nWhatever you decide to do, please get help for her, but also make sure that you get help as well.\n\nP.S. If you are not in a romantic relationship with her, be supportive and positive, but becareful about saying too many "lovey" things to her.  Since she is in a very emotional state, she could very easily begin to thik of you as more than a friend.  The last thing you both need is to have her fall in love with you, then become more depressed when you do not return the feelings.  If you do have some feelings for her, please wait for her to get help before pursuing any type of relationship.  Carefully consider whether you are mature enough to understand all that is involved with loving someone in her condition.  Again, getting trusted adults involved will be a safegaurd to you and help to protect both of your feelings during this very sensitive time.
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The next thing would be counseling or even seeing a dietician. Sometimes depression can be linked with a poor diet. Maybe she has an underlying medical problem that is leading to this type of depression. Perhaps the doctors should try running some other types of tests if they haven't already\n\nI am sorry that you have to see your mother go through this and I am sorry that she is going through this