helping out my as an elder sister?
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sorry to say, but you should not interfere.\nyou can say 2x-3xtimes your opinion and give her advice but that is. \nwhy she bothers about those kind of guys ? maybe she likes them.\nare you sure you are not jealous of her ?
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Contact a social service agency in your area. See what programs there are for a young gal with those characteristics. Get all the details, talk to people yourself. Then just be there to support your sister. Maybe you can even get someone to come to your house to talk to her. Consider talking to her family physician as well. Good luck!
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Have some other girls over at your house when they are doing this. When you have other girls over, you can have 2 girls deal with one brother by taking his and hands and then another girl taking his ankles and then carrying him upstairs to put some clothes on him and have 2 other girls take the other brother's hands and another girl take his feet and carry him upstairs and put some clothes on him. \nIf you have other girls over helping you, then they will probably not do it. If they don't listen, some girls can hold them down while others dress them. \n\nThis will probably work. Post something here when this works.
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omg do i know what you mean i am in the same boat with my mother i ask the Dr this question he told me the ones they are closest to they try to push us away so when they pass its not so hard on them he also told me that its like a survival mode she is doing it and not aware hope this helps e-mail me maybe we can be each others strength and sounding board hey remember you are doing a good job ask older sister to come over and sit while you get out if like my brother fat chance will happen take her out for rides i wear moms butt out driving makes her so tired and less fussy call and see if you are available for elder-care in your area its like a day care that go by income if you have children you are eligible for state help if not try elder day care cause you don't want her to pass and you have no way of supporting yourself cause you will be grieving plus trying to find a job and make ends meet happened to my best friend she lost everything me i am a cna which is a nurses aide and i work wk- ends only and have my oldest son come over while i work you have to plan for the future i know that sounds mean and i am sorry god i love you so much and don't know you and i feel your pain good luck
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I think if theres a good reason for you practicing then no I dont see any problem with it.The day might come when you really need the help and then your sister will be there and know what to do.Atleast you have peaple willing to do the dirty work for a later result.
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Hello sweet little sister QuietWarrior.. :)\n\nLord God, You see our little sisters plea..We are to train our child in the way they shall go and when they are old they will not depart from it..Amen!\n\nYou and your husband must let her live on her own..you are not helping her by doing everything for her..she is no longer a little girl, but a grown woman, she must start acting as such..I know from first hand, I had to tell my son, that he could not longer come home when he wanted to..he is now taking care of his little girl and he is a GREAT father..\n\nIt will be hard at first, but God will grant You His peace that passeth all understanding through all of this..He hath for me.. :)\n\nI am here for you, if you need someone to lift your loved ones up in prayer or just to listen.. :)\n\nIn Jesus Most Precious Name..\nWith Love..your sister In Christ..
601041
try her fan website and email them and tell them about your sister'd condition and ask if they could possably arrange a meeting or something like that
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first go to a church and offer prayer and thanksgiving to God for making u what u r today and for all the blessings that has come your way.  \n\nthen u could go to an orphanage or a home for the aged and spend some quality time with them.  \nu could donate something if its within your capacity, but then most of all they would appreciate it if u could spend some quality time with them.  \nremember, they are more lonely than u are.  your company would be a mutual pleasure for all of u.  good luck and God bless.............
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Just keep listening and being there for her.  You sound like a great daughter :)
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Tell her how much you love her, a few good memories you both have together doing something as sisters, and how lucky her husband is to have her and if he screws up you'll kick his a$$!  You want to have a good one, but not long, something that drills the point home.  Make the husband feel welcome to the family though, because if not, it really affects your relationship with her...
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Hello Cooldure\n\nIt sounds like things are kind of tough on you these days. Are you the oldest child in the family? How long has your Mom been gone? Does your Dad's sister live there, too, and does she help you deal with the work it takes to look after everybody? Does your Dad help with the housework? If you are trying to do everything yourself that certainly isn't fair. If your Dad is working long hours to earn money to take care of you all, he probably complains about your mother not helping out. That's hard for you to listen too.\n\nIt's good that you are trying to teach your brothers and sisters how to behave and how to work to help you. I admire you for doing so. Lots of young girls would be trying to get away from all that responsibility. I'll bet you're tired a lot of the time, and you probably feel like nobody appreciates you. \n\nYou should relax a little and just be the young girl you really are. Let some of the work wait and have a big sister day with your little sis. Go somewhere together, just the two of you, even if it's just for a long walk. Take a lunch along and spend some time together just talking and playing. Let her know how much you care about her and how you only want her to learn these things so she can take care of herself someday. Also you should spend a little time together everyday, just the two of you. I don't know how old she is so it's hard to tell you what to do here, but fuss over her a little and show her your love. Give her a hug once in awhile and tell her she's a good girl when she is. She'll give you a few hugs in return and it seems to me that you need a few of those. She will listen better, and you will have more patience with her, when things are friendlier between you. As long as your sister knows you love her, it doesn't matter what your Dad says about it, does it?\n\nWhen you are getting along better with your sister, your Dad should stop saying these things to you. If he doesn't, remember this: nothing lasts forever. You are learning how to take care of yourself and other people. Someday you will be finished school and have a job. You will be able to move out and take care of yourself. You won't have to stay where you are treated unkindly. \n\nFor now also remember that your Dad is probably an unhappy man whose wife has left him. Unhappy people sometimes aren't very nice to be around. Keep your chin up and don't let this get you down. You have a whole life ahead of you and I know you'll make it a good one. A hard working girl like you can't help being a success. Don't forget to take care of yourself, too. I hope you have a friend that you can talk to and visit at times. You can email me if you want to. I had a step daddy who didn't like me much when I was your age, and I hated him, too, so I understand a little about your problems. I didn't hate him anymore after I grewup and he liked me a lot better, too. You and your Dad will work this out. Good luck, my dear.
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don't underestimate the power of just being there for support for your sister and her family.  Your presence in their lives is likely worth more than you know.
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There's really very little that you can do if your sister is an adult. You cannot do the work for her. She is going to have to want to change it herself, and that may or may not happen. The only thing you can do is have her involuntarily signed into rehab. Talk to a lawyer in your area to find out if that is an option in your area and in your situation. However, if she doesn't want to change, then she will just go back to her ways when she gets out. I'm sorry that you have to see this happen to her. \n\nThe way to handle this is not by buying books. I know that you have good intentions, but I can see some of how I would have reacted to that kind of method when I was younger. I think that it may be seen by her to be pushing, and I think that she may react to the pushing by rebelling even further. To me, that would have said, "I am better than you, and I am not proud of you, and until you do this this and this, I will always be better than you." I know that's not how you feel, but it is how the behavior appears to her, I think.\n\nI think that your attitude should be very humble... find common issues that you have. Think about how you are similar. Talk about your mom with her. Talk about your dad with her (but don't judge his addiction). Talk about your pain. Let her be the one to give you advice sometimes - in short, be seen by her as a sister and friend rather than another parent. She'll be much more likely to listen to you if she doesn't feel threatened by you. Changing gears like this may take some time. \n\nIf she gets to the point that she begins to lose a lot of weight, her general health becomes bad, or there is some other reason to think that she is in immediate danger, then have her committed. Until then, please work towards another goal - taking away the pressure of sibling rivalry and replacing it with the friendship she wants and the pride that she needs someone to feel for her, just for who she is.\n\nHope I at least helped with some insight into the dynamic between the two of you.
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Take her out for dinner. \n\nVisit her,  give her flowers and a cake. Tell her to give you a call if ever she needs help around the house (things that an old woman can't handle, emergencies etc). It's good that she has your phone number and you hers in case you need to look out for her or help her. Older women are prey to intruders and robbers. Always keep a look out for her safety. \n\nIf she doesn't have relatives over on special occasions such as Christmas, Thanksgiving etc, try to include her in yours at least once a year or once every other year.\n\nYes, you are a very thoughtful young man. Your parents are a success having a son like you and you are a great success for who you are. Bless you.
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Let your mom know that you'd like to spend quality time with her.  She really might not know that you feel neglected.  Talk to her--and to the evil sister.
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try having her to lend you one of her rings, or one of her relatives.
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You certainly are a sweet girl by helping your Grandma, I don;t believe I have a granddaughter that would't help me if I needed it. God Bless you sweetie, and hope you family gets well soon.