When sex in a comitted relationship slows down does it mean there is a problem.?
915072
Maybe he is having problems preforming and he is insecure about it. I am 20 and my husband is 34 and we have been together for 2 years. Sometimes you still love each other and you still find one another attractive, but you just need a break from the sexual part of the relationship. Are you feeling pressure from the idea of marriage? Are you both stressed out in any way more than usual, maybe from planning a wedding? It all factors in, as long as you still love each other, it's OK. Sex isn't everything.
645237
I think its romantic when a guy wants to take it slow because he is implying that he really cares about you and doesn't just want to get down and dirty straight away and then throw you out of his life! Aaawww! So cute! Just chill girl, don't get all clingy because that's not what he wants.  Give him space but not too much and he should do the same for you.  Relax, take it slow and enjoy it!
1175803
yea it can mean something is on there mind or they just did something bad and there concious is bothering them. Or maybe they don't want to be bothered sometimes females can be smothering and need to know a man likes to be alone sometimes. Don't call him as much show that its not stressing you . When he wants to go out say have fun.. Me and my baby are like that and his friends say we have a best friend relationship rather then a couple relationship
1102227
It's a sign of your boredom, but not a sign for you to ship out... A guy gives you attention and you think you're attracted to him? hey, just because you're having a rough patch in your relationship, doesn't mean it's going downhill. Think twice. And if you have some love and respect for your boyfriend, don't hurt him that fast... afterall, he's gonna be hurt by two people he cares about, his girl and his friend... Ouch.
597168
Sounds like after he'd actually met you, the chemistry wasn't there but he likes you enough to not to want to hurt you or he just doesn't like confrontations.\nA guy saying "lets go slow" after such a short space of time probably means "stop".
210920
if you really have to question it give it time the sex gets fewer if thats all it is...trust me if you don't love her youll get sick of her at some point.
713575
If it's a one time thing..."Not tonight boo.  I'm not in the mood, but I will make it up to you."  If it's something you're not feeling anymore at all, the two of you would need to have a long talk together or you would have to try to take the sex out of that relationship.
345021
Well it is usually the other way around but the advice is the same. You need to express the fact that although the sex is great you long for a more meaningful relationship. Try to avoid using "you" phrases, ie You never want to talk. Instead focus on what you feel "I would like to talk about (insert topic here)" If this doesn't work or she slips back into old habits of never talking you might be dealing with someone that just isn't into talking, a more physical person. If that is the case then you have to ask yourself if you are willing to put up with it or not. The other possibility and not to be mean is that she might not find you all that interesting. I doubt that is the case since you want to talk more but it could be that she just isn't into the same things you are and therefor doesn't have much to talk to you about.
379331
it means that there is more than just sex in a relationship. If you think sex is what a relationship is, then your too young or immature for one
671323
There is an eventual slowdown in any relationship, but slowing down to once a month is certainly below the amount that most 28-year-olds want.  I get suspicious when he says he wants "impersonal sex."  Sounds like he wants sex with people he doesn't know well, and after a year and a half, you don't qualify.
390062
I am glad that you are asking this question, cause it means you are moving in a positive direction. Of course there is more to it then sex, relationship between two people is about mutual trust, accepting  each other with all of our flaws and faults, loving each other even when you don't feel like it.
208198
A steady relationship, if its a happy one, consists of many more things other than sex.  Nowadays we tend to focus a lot on sexual matters and to measure and judge people around us by this.  A happy relationship will have whatever is necessary to make it work, love, understanding, companionship, and ... ah yes, Sex!
1106207
Respect him and go at his own pace...be happy that he wants to take it slow! That means he is serious and wants things to be done right. Talk to him about it, share your feelings and have him share his. It will all work out, just don't push him into anything, some people take longer than others.
807834
I will say that sometimes when a woman is missing some of that romance she at times can shut down sexually. The male at times can be so into his needs that he doesn't give the woman that tlc that they need. I think that maybe the situation here. Is he doing the things that make you feel loved, wanted, desired? Does he pay attention to you when you talk? You delimma is one of the mind and is translating into the physical. Do some inventory of what you are feeling, when it started, and what changed. This should pinpoint what the issues are.\n\nGood Luck
742950
It isn't...sex leads to problems. Wait as long as you can before you have sex with someone.
541256
I think some people get to a point in a relationship that they aren't worried about sex, they're close enough without having so much of that type of bonding. That's one possibility.\nAnother could be, sorry if I hurt your feelings, that she isn't attracted to you anymore, or she could be tired of the "same ol' thing". Do you guys spice it up in bed, or is it the same old missionary position. \nMy boyfriend and I had this problem, we brought toys in the bedroom, and its never been as good as it is now.\nJust ask her, I can keep giving o you ideas about what could be wrong, but I don't know what going on in her head, and I'm only getting one side of the story. Just talk to her, if you know or have a feeling that it might be she tired of the same thing, ask her about trying some new things
1065230
To me, an unsatisfying sex life causes the most break ups.  Sex is an important factor in a relationship to me, and if my partner can't satisfy me in that department, then it's a problem.