what to do if you come to find your boyfriend is emailing other women?
931405
Are you for real???\nLet me tell you! If you feel your being lied to! then Dump his azz! there are losts of men out there! And some pretty damn good ones too! Sounds to me like The guy in question is not only disrespectfull, decetfull, but is probably inexperianced with women also! Remember!\nOnce a cheat! Always a cheat! Dump him!
132967
i suggest that u let someone know, someone who can do something about it. You should also start watching yourself, b/c u might have a stalker. Don't get to worried, though. Depending on what's in the e-mails, your "stalker" might not be meaning to do anything serious. It just might be some guy that likes u or "hits on hot chicks..." had that happen to me before....
693474
I would tell him that he is no longer with them, and any problems you guys have, stays between the two of you. He needs to stay away from them. If he needs to talk to someone, he can talk to you, and that is that. No way would I bend on that. How do you know he isn't still sleeping with any of them? I don't trust a man that has to run to another woman. If he insists on still going to them, then tell him if that's where he feels the need to run to, then he should stay there.
1180366
From the information you have provided I suspect you may be imagining things.\n\nYou have been together for 4 years but are still not married or living together. Is this yours or your boyfriend's choice? If your boyfriend's then perhaps his lack of commitment to the relationship is prompting these feelings that he is having an affair.\n\nYou have only given two examples of his suspect behaviour, the second of which is extremely weak. There is nothing in the SMS message that indicates it was addressed to a woman never mind a women he is having an affair with. The fact that he referred to you as his girlfriend makes me sceptical that it would have been to a woman he is romantically involved with.\n\nCatching him out in a lie about his meeting is a little more worrying. However you indicate that he had an excuse - was his excuse reasonable?\n\nPossibly your woman's intuition is just your subconscious telling you that you are no longer satisfied with the relationship and your boyfriend's lack of commitment and you are looking for a way out.\n\nDo you have any close friends that you can talk to about your concerns? They will probably be able  to give you a better opinion than anyone here.
162082
Many e-mail programs have an option you can set for "read receipt" so that when the message is opened, you will receive an electronic notice.  By the way...you should definately NOT feel guilty about your threesome...actually...you should partake in another if the opportunity presents itself.  TWO POINTS!
951754
I would have to tell him that I have read the letter, Apologise for the fact that I was snooping but I would have to confront him and ask him what she means otherwise you are not going to get it out of your head.\nYou take that chance when you snoop through other peoples things you find things that you don't like and it drives you crazy, I'm not condemning you cos Ive done the same thing but I would have to own up and bring the subject out IN the open.\nGood luck, and remember he might have said something meaningless to her and she has took it in the wrong context.
479545
I am concerned over the fact that he doesn't want her to say anything to anyone.  To me, that screams out that he has another girlfriend.  Sounds like he is cheating on another girl...there is no other reason to keep their relationship secret.
551187
This 'boyfriend' doesn't know how to contact you, doesn't have your phone number and doesn't have your mailing address?\n\nHm. \n\nI doubt that this relationship was going very far anyway. Do either of you know the others' last name?
494992
We don't have cell phones, but I check his mail. It is not to be nosy, I just take care of all things financial. Now.... once there was this letter in a chick's handwriting when we were first married, no return address... Oh yeah I opened it, I was so angry. Turned out to be a thank you card from his friend's wife for being the best man in their wedding, he never got that card. I didn't want him to know that I snooped that much. That being said personal should be just that, personal and private, but sometimes you just can't resist the urge.
1074165
You were suspicious to begin with, hence you "checked" his email.  Now your suspicions are confirmed.  I would call a marsvenus coach to find out a) what to do and b) how can you regain your trust in this or any man.  You cannot have a healthy relationship where there is no trust.  Time for you to address all your past relationships and childhood wounds to determine why you were suspicious in the first place--was it his behaviour or your problem that drove you to check the email?
396441
Dear Am I Being Unreasonable:\n  I know how you are feeling unfortanely I have been in that same situation but I was on the other side. I had a best friend whom I had forever when I started dating this guy.Well the boy friend didnt like that fact that we "hung out" so much. He "just knew" that we were doing something. Well it turns out he was right we were and actually ended up getting married after a long drawn out process. The point Im trying to make is if your boyfriend is keeping things from you and lying then you dont need him. You deserve better. It sound like he wants his cake and eat it too. A realtionship is built on trust (or suppose to be). I haop that I have helped. I have enclose my email and yahoo messenger if you want to hit back at me !!
631289
if he asks u 2 open his emails, it means he's not hiding anything.\njust ask him casually wat that pic is doing in his inbox \nim sure there's no big deal!\n\nits just that there r so many flirty bitches who like 2 mess up somebody else's relationships
362139
Before you do anything else, change your password.\n\nCreate another email account in excite or hotmail.  Test these accounts by sending mail bothways between them and the compromised account.  \n\nDrop your boyfriend.  If you have to go this far, it dosent really matter what he is or is not doing.  You dont have trust and therefore dont have a relationship worth keeping (I hope that isnt to harsh).  If he is spying, all the more reason.
888966
If you feel you need to have him investigated and can't trust what he tells you......\n\nfind a new boyfriend.\n\nCut your losses and move on.
928204
Very proud of people like you! If i were that girl i would be so happy for someone to let me know before i ruin my life even more. there needs to be more people like you. I would for sure get the message to her asap. But do it without him knowing of course, because your going to want to keep your job. You need to make a new email address and make a new name and everything nothing that has to do with who you are. And find out her email address. Use this "fake" email to send to her letting her know what is going on, and explain how you know for sure what he is doing. Dont give out that you work with him and that hes your boss, that too much information. Just tell her what you know about him cheating. And see what she does. Thats all you really can do. Send this email at home not at work. And dont give your real name, use the one you use at for your fake email. And just use that email for typing her that message and only for her. You dont want to send anyone any emails besides her, or someone will figure out its you. After wait for a week to see if she responds to you, if not write her once again, this time just asking her if she got the email and to write back letting you know if she got it or not so you will stop writting her. After she writes you back, thats all you can do, its up to her to make her descion you did all you can do. Than just delete everything and earse that email, and never use it again.
133432
This is an easy one. Tell your boyfriend, "I don't trust you and I'd like to have control over things you do. Therefore, give me your password so I can watch your every move while on line."
138833
girl , wake up and smell the truth! he is hiding something from you , that is for sure! he either has another girlfriend or he has a secret life ;) but i think the girlfriend thing is more probable