How do you handle a major crush at work???
931152
Just keep it a fantasy and don't act on it.  If anything, use that energy as a motivating factor to accomplish something at work.  Just remember that he's happily married and u are married as well.
583748
1st i guess that u have to check if she is also a lesbian ! \nif she is then just try to get close to her even with small steps , smiles , saying hi , small talks . the relationship will grow with time because u work together ! and by the way are u sure that u love her ? not just having a crush on her ? just a thought
68050
Could be the one for you.  Somewhere outside of work, you should let that person know the way you feel.  He/she may feel the same.  But be prepared for the worst, and if that is the case, you have to move on and forget about it.  If you don't think you will be able to do that, forget about it and move on because you two will have to work together.
1068036
Behave yourselvs at work and carry on with work as usual.  Romance out of the premises.  I did that and kept a secret for 2 years, people just thought we were friends.
220836
this is a risky situation. If you really like him it might be better for you to leave your job and look for another so that there is no complications with the others if and when they find out. If he is interested in you, I believe you would know. If you are not sure then come out and ask him.
487796
Ask him if he wants to go get a drink after work and hang out. It's not too forward and would you give you an opportunity to get to know him and probably find out if he's gay or not. Either that or ask him to join you for lunch.
993340
Nowadays, with all the sexual harassment issues at the workplace, people are extremely careful when getting involved like this. Maybe you should ask him to meet you in a place outside the work environment and openly discuss the issue. Some guys, like me are shy and will wait to get a very clear "hint" to make the move.
845120
You need to be very careful of how you handle this. If you approach her, she could take it as sexual harassment. Either way it goes, this will effect your job.  I would suggest finding another job before bringing this up to her. I understand that this may not be as easy as it sounds, but you should understand that once you do bring this up, things at work will change. What if she feels the way that you do, but someone later breaks it off? Will you still be able to work with her? Will she want to work with you? You also need to think about what will happen if she doesn't respond well to you. She may not take it as far as the sexual harassment that I mentioned earlier, but it could make her uncomfortable enough to not want to work with you anymore. You are probably safer fantasizing about her for now.
731022
if  you  are  attracted  to  your  superior or  anybody   of your  officemate or  coworker and  that  he   or  she  do not  show  interest  on you,  better   for  you  to avoided   your  being  attracted to  her  or  him. , until  you will  catch or  capture  his or  her  attention in  which  case  he will come  to  you and  approach  you   to  tell you  something  ab out  his  feelings  but  be  sure  he   or  she  is  single and  still available  for  you
225342
It's obvious that this man is no longer your "friend". \n\nThere's not a whole lot that you can do in this situation. You cannot control what he says/thinks/feels. You can control, however, your own feelings and reactions. \n\nMany people react this way because they feel that you're a threat (perhaps you got a raise and he didn't, or you received  an employee of the month and he didnt). Maybe you've done something in the work area that has hurt him in some way. \n\nRegardless of what the situation is, you can't control his action, ever. Don't deal with it. Ignore him if that is possible. You can also speak to your boss about the situation and ask that either he be removed, that you work different shifts, or that you work in different areas. \n\nRemember that the more you react, it's likely, that he will continue to be immature and will continue to spread rumors. Also remember that the more you react, the more your co-workers will begin to believe him, or will begin to dislike you because of rash behavior. React calmly and let your boss, "friend", and co-workers know that you are the more mature and that none of this is true or your fault.\n\nI hope this helped, best of wishes.
465
You can always be straight forward to him or her. Or get a group of fellow workers to go to him or her at the same time to express the feelings. Strength is always better in numbers!
735300
Just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime after work, if he says yes than he is probably interested.  But that way if he says no then you didn't come out with your feelings so he won't act any differently.
700932
Dating and working. Working & playing. Sounds contradictory, right? \n\nWrong.\n\nYou can no more control your heart than you can stop breathing. \nBut ask yourself if what you are feeling is LOVE or LUST.\n\nDating a co-worker (to your EMPLOYER) means you have been slacking off on his time-clock; something that may cause problems between you and the co-worker in the future. By merely posing the question, you indicate your fear of on-the-job-involvement. You are attracted to him/her, but you are afraid to commit.\n\nThink about what that means. You are not SURE about this co-worker, are not prepared for a failed relationship among your peers, and are reluctant to completely give of yourself before you know answers.\n\nI have learned that "when in doubt, DON'T." \n\nYou have made a valid point. If things don't work out between you, more than likely, EVERYONE at the job will know about it. \n\nBesides being "awkward," you risk losing your job, your reputation and your appeal to perhaps, a more suitable partner.\n\nBUT - on the other hand...\n\nLove (true love, that is) has NO Address. This means it is entirely possible for you to meet your soulmate while dating a co-worker. \n\nTherefore, my advice is for you to: \n1. GO SLOW (don't rush into anything)\n2. GO PUBLIC (get to know him/her initally in the company of other co-workers at a restaurant, snack bar, etc.)\n3. GO AWARE (learn about his/her past relationships. You just may be another conquest or victim #___ on their playa's list)\n\nEnjoy the attention but always be aware of the RISKS. And if true love prevails, welcome it. \n\nI wish you well, my friend. Thanks for posting your question.
338563
First of all DO NOT quit your job over himIT sounds like you really like him. So keep him happy make him want to be with you. Don't let him do what ever he wants thougb, this could tell him that you think its aright to look at other girls and stuff.
754692
Keep your cards close to your vest for now.  Why not make some flirtatious remarks that will likely endear you to him such as "I think I may have a bit of a crush on you...." but as to heavy duty "love", wait a bit.
822921
Ok, this is a sticky one.  Can you put your 'crush buzz' to the side and see the reality of 'what if it can work' set in? It will be national news, everything will blow up.  Can you honestly see her having feelings for you as well? Do you think moving in closer to her would work out for the both of you's or just you? remember she is married for a reason. Here's the good news, you have found someone that has shown you your 'ideal' partner.  What might have got you to have a crush on her is as a teacher it is their job to pay attention and help students reach there goals.  I know your not going to get that with a lot of girls at high school, hey they are young and still learning themselves, maybe you are more mature minded and that's great you have discovered your ideal partner which is a mature, funny, witty and with a great personality.  But as a teacher, not a good thing to do.  Just look at her and thank her in your mind for showing you an ideal partner =)
394293
It depends on the role you would be playing out...\nIf you are playing out the employee you rather don't.  It is never good to get job and personal relationship mixed.\n\nIf you get on well beyond the ties of work... you could find the way.  \n\n'A crush'= well, it seems you really like her but since you describe it precisely as 'a crush' it seem this wouldn't last at all.\n\nI wouldn't like my ex to be my boss... neither my employee to by my ex... If you think it worths the pain go on... but if this won't last you might set off your worker role as the prior...