Do you spend more money on your spouse on Christmas, Valentine's Day, Birthdays or Anniversaries?
926387
I spend the Most on Anniversary, then Birthday, then Valentine, then Christmas, we think it's better to spend $$ on family at christmas.  We spend the most celebrating our years together...
173703
it is a VERY circumstantial question depending on MANY variables.\n\nbut I would choose money. I am fairly frugal and depending (of course) on the amount of money, could do a lot with the funds. \n\nLove is special, but not unique, based (in my opinion) largely on familiarity with a person. Love can be found in many places with many individuals.
400688
This is interesting.  Sounds like a one way relationship there.  I am sorry but gifts should not be asked for, they should come from the heart of the person buying them.  A gift is a gift is a gift it should be given out of love not pressure.  Don't feel bad.  There is definately some selfishness going on and you need to decide whether you want to live the rest of your life in a relationship like that.
319922
My wife and I were both previously married.  We have a joint account for the majority of our money and then she has a small separate account so she can buy gifts and stuff without me knowing.  I think a relationship that is based on trust and sharing includes the financial side of things.
225616
Spend according to your heart.
113157
No because I not do fool money can't buy be love. If man buys be gifts or give me a gift that is on them. Money can' t buy affection.
249034
Darlin', going into hock to put on a wedding is a terrible way to start a marriage...plan the wedding you can afford, or wait until you're in a bit better shape financially. You can always plan as bang up, all out festive a party as you want to for your anniversaries, or do up the "wedding of your dreams" to renew your vows ten years down the road... Celebrating your love and having a festive, memorable wedding does not have to mean spending a fortune.\nPlease consider doing something a bit less costly so you don't spend the first years of your marriage trying to pay for the wedding.
754723
My brother's birthday is day after christmas and every year he got short-changed. Aunties, etc. wold say "Oh, junior, we got you a bigger present because it is for both Christmas and your birthday". a kid doesn't think that's very cool. A kid - and an adult -doesn't care if you spent $5. or $25. so long as the gift is cool. Once we became adults I made a special point of always giving my brother a separate birthday gift - and NEVER used Christmas wrapping!! (like some people did). If you ditch Christmas, you are still short-changing her, dummy-cakes. You do the whole Christmas thing as usual but maybe you buy a very personal gift , set your alarm clock for 12:01 December 25th, wake her up with a kiss and a glass of champagne and say "Happy Birthday, darling, sweetie, lambie-pie,cuddles. This moment is just for you because I love you!" Trust me, all day Christmas she'll be bragging to all her friends and relatives about the most romantic, thoughtful guy in the world - YOU!\n**Just read your add-on, and i still urge you both not to "ditch" Christmas. Been there,done that - and for the same reasons you gave. It was a disaster. Two of us in Vegas, both missing the meaning and feelings of Christmas. Start your own new traditions - things you can later share with your children from the extended families because some years you will have the kids. Buy an artificial tree, one that is exquisite, one that you can now afford because you aren't feeding a horde of people for dinner. Plan future decorating and start with this year's purchase, in following years, include those kids. You need to show the children that Christmas is important and that you are celebrating so that they want to be with you on alternate years. Whether you are feeling like a "family" this year or not, you really ARE a family, just missing a few members on this one occasion. The earlier suggestion would still hold true, but then please have a wonderful Christmas as well! You can always have a birthday cake for dessert.
1013154
I would book a 2 hour hot air balloon flight.Its a special anniversary,and this would be an unforgettable experience.At that age most people have everything.Jewellery,ornaments,crap.if you have siblings or a large family you could all club together to pay for it.A special couple deserve a special treat.
18810
Actually I think it is sweet. But my instincts tell me that he doesn't need you to spend money on him. Some fun and romantic gesture would be that much more meaningful. One time I did a really fun thing for a guy I was dating at the time. I wrote about thirty little things on pieces of paper and folded them up and put them in a jar I decorated. That whole weekend we kept pulling out little slips of paper and doing whatever they said. Some were real spontaneous involving jumping in the car and going somewhere. Others were more intimate. :D Others still were fun loving and silly and goofy but great fun. Think of things you know he likes to do. (Hockey, baseball, reading, writing) and center some of the activities around that. Still again center some around things you like to do. Its a great way to get to know one another at the same time you are having a blast! Good luck and I so hope you see this two months later!!!
17607
I actually prefer presents (and prefer to give them too).  It shows that the person that it was given by really took the time to think about you and what you would like.
15940
Giving something to someone because everyone else is caught up in the game (X-mas in the USA) is really quite selfish if you stop and think about it.  Is it for them? or is it for YOU?  Doing it so you don't look cheap?  Then you can resent her for putting you in debt for the rest of the year?  I suggest you give her something that is meaningfull.  Think about it.  Your time on this blue marble is very limited and that makes your time your most valuable posession.  Think about it.
55237
Nothing special as my hubby and I don't believe we need a special day to show our love to one another. Or a commericial reason to buy something. It is actually our rule to not buy flowers during the months of Feb and May as they jump the price so much as to make it ridiculous..Why does everyone have to have a special day to say I Love You! Should not this be done daily in a relationship? This is a day to make those with no partner feel alone and I think it is so sad to see so many feel like that because so many fall for commericial bulllll.
874864
My ultimate gift would be that he paid attention to all the little things.  He took out all the trash without being asked, did the dishes, cleaned up after himself, and gave me time to just relax.  However, I do still love a beautiful card, flowers once in a while, and definitely chocolate.  If money was not object for my husband, I would love for him to take me on a mini vacation, buy a house and have the movers move everything for us so when I arrived to our new house, I wouldn't have to do everything!
461625
No way...  respect is harder to come by than money.  I make it everyday and spend it everyday, so...  Its really not worth the thought that you sold out your partner.  Not to mention I would hate to be part of those arguments later.  Moneys not that important, love and happiness is.
1178035
tell husband you have been saving up for something special.
636551
The traditional gift is tin...but who wants an old can...lol! The more modern thing is a diamond...but that's just materialistically speaking. For you, I would say, to continue loving her as much as possible everyday that you have her...just like you have been doing for the past 10 years you've been married. No special promises of giving her the world or the moon (which doesn't belong to any man) but showing her that you are faithful and loyal. For all that she does that may upset/anger you or even be your pet-peeves, forgive her and love them because they make her who she is. Cherish her everyday and everynight just as you have for the passed 10 years or even more, if that's possible. That's what I would want...instead of the diamond that can be stolen; this can not be. Besides, you know what she wants better than anyone else...because you love her best. Happy 10th Anniversary my darling sweetness! I love you too. ;)