What is the way to deal with inconsiderate people? And then they call you the selfish one...?
912057
yes i have that happen to me so many times and become shocked when I get quoted as the selfish one after the things I have done for someone that never seemed good enough.
656797
I think a rude answer, but why waste your energy trying to get back at someone?  Just ignore them and let it go, then you are the better person.
634272
i hate them too. i just telll them  "i know u are seeking for attention but i don't want to give any so just back off. i will call u when i need someone to pay attention too.ok" and lea. it works for the most of the time.
785189
Don't let them get you down in the first place. \n\nIt's none of your business what people think of you.
837737
Ignore them and find something in life to take your attention from them. Like the saying of a vampire you have to invite them in so don't do that.
690258
I am sorry to hear that...you don't need to change for people and besides if they are like that anyway then they are still going to bi*ch about you anyway no matter what. You need to stop doing so much for your inlaws if that is the gratitude you get. I would let them know that you know they were talking behind your back without getting out of control just say I would appreciate it if you have an issue to confront me with it. It's not nice to talk behind people's back because it doesn't leave them with an opportunity to respond...which is actually the answer to one of your q. in this. They don't want you to get mad at them. It's not always the way but with certain people like this it's 'the more you do, the less you're appreciated'. Nice to know there are thoughtful people around like you but some others take it for granted. Don't worry too much about what your colleagues say about you just do your job and don't get involved with them too much. You don't want to be like them just think you are a better person for not being so immature and feeling it's necessary to talk behind their back. Take care :)
152620
Try not to let others effect that emotion, and except that people are mostly selfish, and mean, and into themselves.\n\nThis is a sad truth we all must accept, because to a certain extent, we all that way.
679575
your idea is totally genius! I always say... kill them with kindness! It will annoy her that you are being really nice to her, and when she realizes that you aren't upset when she's rude to you, she'll get bored and start to ignore you. Most likely she'll entirely move on to someone else (to annoy) good luck! This method has worked for me MANY MAnY times!
206292
Listen first.  I mean really listen to what they are saying.  Try to see it their way, and agree with them.  Something like "I would have probably felt the same way!"  Then ask what you can do to make it better. \n\nThey probably just need to vent.  Just DON'T take it personally.  Some people of course are completely ridiculous and you can't help those ones, but most are somewhat reasonable, especially if they think you care.
196169
The best way to deal with such ppl is to hurt their ego....... a simple ignore will hurt their feeling of superiority....... make them feel as if their existence doesnt matter to u
734345
I'm a bit like that aswell sometimes. Just take a deep breath and walk away. Staying there will make you more angry. If you can't walk away, just tell them you're doing something wrong politely.
745398
Just laugh with them at urself... they would not expect that at all .. and they would definetly stop annoying you...\n\nJust laugh at urself with all ur heart.. :)
1125490
usually like ur just usuing them, and dont act like u give a shit and just are usuing them like a door mat...get it?\n- jen
370339
It's rude and disrespectful.  I will usually tell the person that, later of course since I will hang up right away!\n\nPeople will continue to do that to you as long as you let them.  You need to tell them how you feel and that you don't find it acceptable.
375688
People who have a big ego are really annoying.
1034164
Actually, i'd rather someone told me. So, what you are doing is simply trying to help me and you're also considering my goodness.. What's better than this? On the other side, yeah i may become a little bit angry with myself, saying like how can i forget or ignore this.. But, certainly i'd appreciate you then.. :) So, keep it up, be yourself and don't pay attention to their reactions at that time, i think...
270427
confront them and tell them how u feel and make them understand that what they are doing is wrong and makes you unhappy.