Serious Question between LOVE and RELIGION. What will you do in situation like this..?
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Well I must say thats why i stay away from people who I dated in the past who are not of the same religion as myself. I never wanted to have to decide like this myself. Because I could never give up my religion. This life is just a role play so to speak for the next life of eternity. How could I possibly give up my salvation for one person? First we must love God, then we love next our loved ones.  This life is short, the next life is for eternity. Theres a big difference there. But, what would have been nice is if you would have said what each of your religions are. Maybe they arent so different. The only way into heaven is to believe that Jesus died for your sins and receive him as your saviour. As long as both of you believe in that, it doesnt matter what your religions are.  John 3:16  You will both go to heaven. \n\nHere are a few things that might help to know if you are going to heaven/or to help you to gain salvation.\n\nYes. The Bible is not a book of fables. Unlike other spiritual books, it does not demand blind faith. Multiple categories of evidence support the historical accuracy of the Bible as well as its claim to divine authorship.\n\n    * Ancient history supports the Bible's accuracy as a historical record.\n    * The Gospels provide multiple reliable accounts of Jesus' life.\n    * Archaeology backs up the Biblical account.\n    * Textual scholarship confirms that the books of the Bible have not changed since they were first written. \n\nThe most important decision you will ever make in your life is what you decide about how you get to heaven! If you die before you have the right answer to how to be saved, it will be too late. Hebrews 9: 27 says, "And as it is appointed for me(n) to die once, but after this the judgment" You may have heard that there is a "purgatory" where people can cleanse or purge their sins, but this is not taught anywhere in the Bible. You can look from cover to cover and you will not find this taught at all!\n\nSo if once we die there is not a second chance, it makes it all that much more important that we know how to get to heaven now. Do you want to take a chance and end up in eternity separated from God forever? Far too many people listen only to their church to find the answer for the question about how to get to heaven. But what if your church is wrong? When you stand before God, (and we will all stand before Him one day) will you say I "assumed" that my church had the right answer? Do you think this will satisfy God? He, no doubt, will reply, "Didn’t I give you a brain and a soul to use to search for the truth?!" Then if you are not truly right with God when that moment comes, He will say, "Depart from Me, you cursed, into the everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels." (Matthew 25: 41)\n\nOne of the most popular beliefs about how to get to heaven is by being good. The Bible says that there is no one that is good enough to go to heaven. "As it is written: ‘There is none righteous, no, not one…" (Romans 3: 10) "…for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. (Romans 3: 23) "For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast." (Ephesians 2: 8, 9)\n\nI am so glad the Bible says: "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 6:23). If you want to spend eternity with God you must be born again! How do you become born again? Only Jesus’ answer can be trusted on such an important subject. "Jesus answered and said to him, ‘Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.’" "Do not marvel that I said to you, ‘You must be born again.’" "And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of Man be lifted up; that whoever believes in Him
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I know that it will be hard to start over again after spending six years with a person who you think is a soulmate, and having things backfire on you. Regardless of how old a person is when this happens, it hurts deeply.I don't know if you are religious at all, but I believe that the Lord will make all things turn out ok, regardless of how dark you view your  situation to be. I live in New Orleans, and during Hurricane Katrina, when I evacuated to a shelter, I see people on the verge of cracking up, because they have no faith, nothing to fall back on. As concerned as I was about what lies ahead, because of my faith in God, I was at peace with the situation and can continue to function normally.There is light at the end of the tunnel for you, if you would just be patient and have a little faith. Time heals all wounds.You will be able to love again, and you will find that special someone who can make you life complete. My prayers and best wishes are with you.
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That's a very hard question and I read it all the way through. I'd appreciate it if you also went and read one that I just posted, which is also long. If you really in fact love her, than I would hold onto that and go back with her. If you're Christian, pray about it. Well, scratch that. Pray about it if you're a Christian but talk to her first. Get to know her and try to express your feelings towards her little at a time. Don't make a large sudden move. I hope things work out, but just take it slow. This is comin from a girl that was in this exact position and is know with the guy that I posted a question about. I love him to death and we're getting along wonderfully. Best of luck. Email me if ya want to w/ nething else: naertgirls@juno.com.
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Being a Christian I'm sure you hear a lot of stuff that says it is against gods will.  However they think about religion is that you have to look more at its roots and realize that while it has a good base, it has been misconstrude over the years to fit what people want it to say.  At its roots it says that you should love everyone.  If it was against gods will for you to love someone of the same sex would he allow you to feel that way?  Wouldn't he make it so there was some dire consequence like death?  All religions preach love as being one of the most important things there is.  If you love another person of the same sex, that is simply who you are and who you have found love with.  There is nothing wrong with love.
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You need to think about what you want. If you were to get into a serious relationship with this person and it blossoms into marriage and you had kids, how would you want to raise your kids? Do you want them to feel split between their parents on which religion to live by? Would you feel hurt if one of your kids chose your mate's religion over yours? what if they chose no religion at all for fear of upsetting you or their father? What happens when you want to go to church and you want your boyfriend to go with you, but he refuses because its not his religion and not what he believes in, or visa versa? How would you feel towards him then? I've seen this happen in my own family and it causes a lot of hurt feelings and broken families. Don't think of the present, you need to think of the future. The things you do, don't just effect you, but everyone around you who cares about you.
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You are both married? To other people?! Are you cheating on your spouses? \n\nIf not I'm going to guess that you are married to each other or plan on marrying each other? \n\nAs far as the religions go....WOW....That's a tough one. Both are hard core and will want you to convert so one is going to have to make up their mind. If you don't want to convert you need to explain to your significant other that it's not an option and if they don't understand oh well. I love my husband but if he told me that he had converted to Catholisism and that I had to convert or else I would tell him sorry. First people you love should ask you to go against your faith and secondly no man or woman on this earth should be more important to you than God. If you believe that all you have to do is ask forgivness and that you shall recieve redemption then certain other beliefs are going to stick in your craw anyways. But hey, it's up to you...\n\n(p.s. Before I start getting hate mail folks please keep in mind that I don't dislike or hate Catholics at all nor am I anti-Catholic in any way. All the Catholics I know are cool people. The only point I'm trying to stress is that someone who is a hard core Baptist (enough to put that title in with a question, which means it's important to them) is going to have problems with the Catholic faith in general and vice versa. Wether or not he is able to get an annulment I'm not sure it wouldn't work anyhow if one person or the other is forced to convert.)
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If Gods love is in your heart, then you love everybody.  That kind of love isn't about lust though, so your results may vary....
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Love him and pray for him. But there are times you will have to leave him and move on and trust the lord to take care of him and place him in his hands.God is able to do all things.We can not depend on our self to get the job done.The Lord cares even more than we do. So I would just sort of speak, cast your care on the Lord. Or he will bring you down also. Love in Christ.
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First of all, as a fellow brother in Christ, I want to commend you on your commitment to save sex for marriage. Too often we see people today giving into the pleasure of a few minutes, only to suffer a lifetime of pain and hurt in the future.\n\nI don't normally answer questions on here, but the situation you are in is too similar to mine for me to ignore.\n\nI have been a Christian all my life, and constantly seek to glorify Him by living and dedicating my life to Him. I also believe that sex is the ultimate expression of physical love, and is the most special gift anyone can present to the person that they want to dedicate the rest of their life to. If someone commits premarital sex, they are giving that gift away, and tarnishing any future romantic relationships they may have.\n\nNow, obviously, I am a virgin; and am extremely proud of this fact. I cannot wait to let my future wife know that I've saved myself for her. Instead of channeling my energy and resources to fulfill sexual needs, I instead look to strengthen my character and serve others.\n\nBut I've recently fallen for this girl.... She's a born again Christian, who was saved this past summer. However, her previous life was filled with sin, as she drank and had sex with guys before me, enough guys to number on 2 hands.\nI was so devastated when I found out. I was literally torn because I only had one romantic relationship before this point, and had only gone as far as a kiss.\nNeedless to say, I was more than a little hurt. In fact, I don't believe anything or anyone else hurt me as much as she did when she told me that.\nI was ready to just end things at that point.\n\nBut then I remembered. If God, who is the only one who is perfect and holy, can forgive us for all our sins without judgment, who are we to judge others and use their past against them. If she really came to God after her mistakes of the past, and surrendered herself to his forgiveness and mercy, then she is literally, emotionally, and spiritually a new person.\nGod calls us to forgive one another, and if a perfect God can forgive our sins, both past and current, without question (as long as we are sincere!) and love us with the greatest love of all; shouldn't we as Christians (who are also guilty of sin) replicate that love toward one another?\n\nI'm not saying it's easy. My heart aches and burns daily from the suffering that her past brings to me. But I trust that God will allow us to overcome this obstacle, and allow our relationship to prosper. As the first guy she even kissed after God came into her life, I know that she's changed.\nI'm going to continue to trust in God that He will allow me to get over her past; because who she is now is someone who makes me happy and has allowed me to experience love.\n\nIf you really love your girlfriend, pray about it. She's a new person now, she has Jesus in her.\nPlease keep Jesus Christ in the center of your life and of your current relationship. That's the only way that your relationship will be able to reach it's true potential.\n\nBe blessed.\n\nIn Him....
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Consider your choices: One of you have to convert to the other religion or see if there are any civil ceremonies instead of a religious one.\n\nGood luck, congrats
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I would worry about that too. I'm was raised as very religious, but have found the light, so to speak and have become an agnostic. I'd keep my eyes open. A cheater is a cheater. P.S. Isn't adultery a sin?
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Hold the bus!!  "love him for who he is" sounds like a nice, feel good statement, but let's anylize what that is really saying.  It is saying to forget God's command not to be unequally yoked, that denouncing Jesus as the Son of God is ok, and that "human love" can overcome God's knowledge of what is best for us!!  \n\nAbout marrying someone who isn't Christian: you are not going to have an easy road.  What church are you going to go to?  Is your husband going to want to tithe to a Christian church?  What are you going to teach your kids?  Who is right, Mom or Dad?  Are you going to teach them that any religion is ok- and then they are going to read that Jesus is the ONLY way to Heaven???  How are you going to explain that?  \n\nYou are choosing to become one flesh with a man that has not asked Jesus to pay for his sins.  There are consequences for that- like not spending eternity with God.  Since God is also Jesus and the Holy Spirit, and this man has said no to Jesus, then God isn't going to make him sing praises to Himself for eternity, and this man will go to Hell.  You will be sleeping with a man that you know is going to Hell.  That might not sit well with you.  \n\nGod has a specific plan for you.  This guy might be a part of this plan- just not until he surrenders his life to Christ.  I know how it is to be in love here on earth.  It is probably not easy to hear that this man isn't your Mr. Forever right now.  What can you do??  Talk very openly with this man about your convictions.  Chat with God daily about your feelings- He understands!!!  He just might have a plan that is bigger than you can see right now.  Ask God to start convivting this man and opening his eyes to the love of Christ.  You can give reasons for why the Bible is the ultimate authority if your boyfriend asks, but living a Christlike lifestyle is the biggest way to show others that you have let the Holy Spirit run your life.  Have a daily quiet time reading your Bible and praying with God.  I can see how this is possibly one of the biggest temptations you will face- should you marry the man that you love right now, or should you follow God's command even if you don't understand it right now???  I have already been praying for you.
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your problem is not unusual.  luckily, you are smart enough to realize your own confusion...some people will go their whole life "half-believing" in god.  One thing i noticed that you need to realize, if you don't already, is the most important thing to god is your "personal relationship with god."  don't let the whole morals and rules business confuse you until you are at that point.  christianity is not a religion, it is a relationship.  god wants you to experience love and fulfillment in life and he says you can only experience this through that "personal relationship with god."\n\ngod loves you and he is someone to talk to.  he doesn't respond verbally in most cases, but you can find his responses in your everyday life.\n\ni'll tell ya...i love talking to people about this kind of thing.  its my favorite thing in the world, and people tell me i'm a good listener.  so if you're serious about this wanting to get out of a spiritual rut business and you have the slightest interest in talking to me:  email me at e-address@sbcglobal.net and i'll try and set up some means to talk to you.\n\nif not, i'll still pray for your spiritual push-outta-a-rut.
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That would make you unequally yolked, and I don't believe God intends for you to marry someone who isn't a Christian.\n\n*EDIT*\n\nIf you two are deeply in love, then if she is the one, she will get saved.  If not, then she's not the one for you, and you should ask God for help with moving on.
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Good question!\n\nApostle Paul says in 2 Corinthians7:14-18, "Do not be yoked with nonbelievers." If God is speaking to you, telling you that this boy is not a Christian, then you should listen to Him, pray about it, and see what God leads you to do. In my opinion, if he was practicing witchcraft... then within 4 days-a month he probably did not accept Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. Yes, DO ask him these questions, to his face-- have a sit-down talk. Is he attending church? Does he profess that Christ is his Savior who died for all his sins? If so, then he is a Christian and you should help him grow by having a Christ-centered relationship with him. Christian dating is focused on marriage. And marriage, the Bible says, must be with a believer. If it turns out that he is not a Christian, and you still feel like you should stay together, then ask God to help you help your boyfriend seek Christ in his life. Take him to bible studies and retreats and church. Let God do the rest. If you feel like your boyfriend is not a Christian, and has no desire to truly discover Jesus and eventually accept Him into his heart, then I say you should break up with this boy. He will not be good for your own spiritual walk, and he might even pull you down to his level. Make sure he doesn't "falsely" accept Christ just to make you feel better. Christ is not a dating instrument-- He is our Savior and Lord who died on the cross for us.\n\nPraise God for this strength that you have for seeking His heart! I wish you the best of luck through this, and pray that you'll find the man of God who will lead you spiritually in love and encouragement-- that is also the man of your dreams!
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I am an atheist.  I have no problems dating a person of faith.  I have a lot of respect for the faith and beliefs of others.  I feel that if you connect well with a person, beliefs should not be an issue.  Love is a human emotion and if I should fall in love with a person of faith, I am willing to accept that they have different ideas than me.  \nIf you both have respect for one another's beliefs and are willing to discuss any differences in opinions maturely, a well balanced relationship will thrive.
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I can't speak from the Muslim religous aspect but can tell you I have a female Christian friend married to a Muslim.  Their relationship & marriage was fantastic at first but once their daughter was born things changed.  His religion took presidence.  He sent his daughter overseas to be raised by his family & their beliefs and he refuses to allow my friend to go to church anymore.  Not to say, this is what would happen if you were to marry this man.\n\nNext, I am sure you have prayed on this long and hard.  If you are finding more discomfort, worry, fear or confusion in marrying this person than the Holy Spirit is probably warning you not to.  God is a God of order.  He has not given you the spirit of fear but of love, of power and of a sound mind.\n\nI would recommend getting into the concordance of your Bible and look up marriage and divorce to be sure you line up all of your questions, feelings & decisions to what the word says.  Read all the scripture from the Old & New Testament.  Write the ones down that jump off the page and meditate on them.  Fast if you feel you are not finding the direction you should take.\n\nYou can use an online website http://www.crosswalk.com to do some of your research if a Bible isn't handy.\n\nRemember one thing, no one can tell you the path you should choose and they don't know how God is leading you.  This is something only you can figure out.  Close your mind off to all worldly views and seek after God for His decision in your life.\n\nI will say from everything I've read on the subject, as a Christian, you would not be in sin.  But I think you would be opening doors to a very difficult life in comparison to waiting on God to bring you a Christian man.\n\nDivorce is not an option - it never is.  So marrying this person no matter what happens until death do you part will be a vow you make with God.  Be sure you are truly ready to make this kind of committment before going any further. \n\nKeep in mind, someone who believes in a god other than the one we know is not led by a Holy & loving God.  Therefore, you end up joining together as one with someone who is being led by something else.  Ultimately, their decisions and mind are not being formed by the living word, the Holy Spirit and our heavenly Father.  If he doesn't have a relationship with Jesus Christ than you are not going down the same path.\n\nI realize you must love this man very much or the question you pose wouldn't be so heart wrenching.  I pray you find your way and the life ahead is filled with much love, peace & joy.\n\nI am happy to chat more if you want to write.