How can we best manage the anger of both others and ourselves?
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Manage anger by being happy.  Be happy you are alive.  Be thankful for your blessings.  Bless others!  Forgive, forgive, forgive the shortcoming of others.  Sing great songs!  Play!  Do something for someone less fortunate.  Get others to join you. You will be a person without anger toward yourself and others if you follow the above suggestions.
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First, understand truly the view points of each one individually, and why they're angry with the other.  Then, get them together in a neutral place and YOU do the talking.. say.. this is how A feels, and this is how B feels.  And explain to them that you will not take sides, and that you will not talk to either of them until they've resolved their differences.  It's the best way to get them back to being friends, and it's also the best way to maintain your integrity.
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There are several things that you can do. There are anger manangement classes and support groups. There is counseling. There is mediitation. There are hobbies such as karate, yoga and tia chi that help that also.Learn ways to reduce the stress and stress management.\n\nI know because my nickname used to be Taz.
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you may want to seek out an anger management group and pass along the info to your friend. your friend may also benefit from talking to a therapist - clinical social worker, clinical psychologist, etc.
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Take the high road.\nDon't bother being petty and drawing negative attention to yourself.\nProve that you are the better person by NOT reacting to what they say and/or do.
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Hi Sajana!\n\nAggression is a possible result of discomfort.\n\nYou have to ask yourself, when being criticised, whether the other person DOES have a point, or not. A lot of time we get angry when being accused, because deep inside we know that the other person is right, but we don't want to admit it, since it makes us feel inferior to the accusing side. \n\nThe best way to go at it is to face the problem. If we get accused of something, while it might make us angry, we should tell the other party that we'll check out his/her accusations in order to verify whether we were really responsible for it. That way, we get a time frame, a breather, to sort things out. If the problem is really our doing, then we should look for a way to solve said problem, in order to come clean and re-gain the respect not just of others towards us, but our own respect towards who we are.\n\nIf the problem wasn't a result of our doing, try and explain to the other side your point of view. \n\nRemember, the fact that someone thinks you did something, doesn't mean he or she believes it. They might've gotten the idea from certain facts, but if you know you're not responsible, than just say so and explain, if you can, why not and you'll feel better with yourself.\n\nOh, and never suppress your anger, since it'll do only bad things to you in the long run. Try channeling the energy from your anger to things that are more productive, for example, if you feel angry at a certain moment, either take it out in a form of Martial Arts training, or channel the energy in order to pursue your hobby. Never swallow the anger. That's a big no-no.\n\nGood luck! :-)
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we have more anger for the people closer to us than strangers.  and since we are closer to ourselves, check the source of your anger to see if it isn't you.\nno one wants their faults pointed out to them if they already know them and haven't figured out how to deal with them yet.\nget yourself in a peaceful place with yourself and that will make it easier.\nand remember, it's ok to be angry. the problem starts when we display it badly.
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when i get mad, i usually just vent out and that's it... there's no need to get even. i just talk to the person concerned (of course after i have already calmed down) so we can have this straightened out. you don't have to get even, it will make matters worse.
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deal with your anger issues
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Lower your sodium intake on a daily basis. Every time you feel anger beginning to develop try holding your breathe for as long as you can.... it will temporarily restrain anger and help you develop a rational outlook tourd the situation. Take your multi-vitamins... When ever our bodies are under nourished we usually respond to it in a negative way and blame it on the situation at hand. Try weight lifting it definitely helps alot with anger and stress... BIG TIME. The last thing I really want suggest is a supplement called ''Rhodiola extract '' this stuff helped me out dramatically and I have felt much better ever since.
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Anger is a normal human emotion, so no, there isn't a way to avoid it. \n\nThere is a fine line between anger and rage however. Rage is what happens when you lash out, verbally or physically as a response to anger.\n\nTo avoid rage, stop, take deep breaths, in through your nose, out through your mouth and count to 10. Or walk away, or both.  Deal with what ever situation P'd you off later, when you are calmer.
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Stress in your life will find an outlet whether it's good or bad. Watch the movie, anger management, it will help you answer this question. Listen for the part Jack Nickelson has when he describes angry people.
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You said it your self, your answer is in the reaction.\n\nSimply choose to not react and look at it this way: What someone else thinks about ourselves, others or situations is none of our business.  That way we do not have to include ourselves in their conversation, as it is 'below' us and we are better than that.  \n\nTo respond to these type of characters, is a choice.  This person appears to want to act as the 'energy thief' as they derive pleasure from stealing the power of one other as they themselves have none (plays victim & pity parties).  So they take it from those they consciously know will 'react' negatively to them, this is what they want.  They are feeling 'low' so in order to get a 'high' they will persist with those 'remarks' they know will get the reaction they are looking for.  It is how they gain their self power however, unfortunately when it is taken from a another 'person' and not through our 'higher source' which is our divine connection to our Whole Divine Source....it leaves the person they steal it from feeling empty, gutted and emotionally angry.  This anger can remain deep rooted when it is family due to one being invalidated after being targeted for sake of filling ones own socks with ego.\n\nIf you choose to not react....they get absolutely nothing from you.  Know you are higher than this and engaging with them is futile they do not understand what they are doing, they just do not have faith or belief in themselves...and for that one can only offer empathy.  Just smile and stand in your own truth.  To have to defend your beliefs or push a point is ego.  Spirit knows truth so be the light and stand above the rest.  \n\nBlessings be yours in peace & light\nHarriett Potty ;)
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yes,go to anger management classes.:)
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i try to avoid anger, it's a counterproductive emotion and i almost never display it.  for me, frustration is much more common.\n\nbut for the sake of your question, i would rather be angry at myself than at you.  if i did something stupid enough to earn that self-inflicted anger, i'd have no one else to blame.  i'd try and figure out why i did what i did, and how it could be made up, to me or to others.  i must answer to myself every time i look in the mirror, and if anger is my response, well then i must have done something stupid to warrant it.  and i know i can find it in me to forgive myself. :)\n\nif i'm angry with YOU, it's likely going to be accompanied by a fair bit of frustration as well.  and since YOU earned my wrath (i'm not really scary at all, don't worry!) i'd feel upset; i think of myself as a very level-headed person.  what could you possibly do to get me to be that way?  and how can i turn the anger into something else?  this is much worse than being angry with myself, and far less predictable.  not a fan.  eventually, i'll ALWAYS forgive... but in the meantime... GRRR!!!
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Instead of preventing anger find out what it is exactly that is making you angry. When you recognize your anger its easier to turn it into more useful things. Once you feel angry, try counting to ten in your head. Take deep breaths. What is making you angry? What feelings are going through you? Do you have a pillow to scream into? Do you tend to take your anger out on other poeple or yourself? Are you angry because you feel hurt? Scared? Tired? Pestered? etc? Answer these questions before lashing out.
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take martial arts like judo and karate and aikido.\nyou will learn to control yourself and your response to situations.\ntruly this is the key. \nothers recommend talk therapy, which might help,\nbut i think you also need to involve your body.\nthere's also something called bioenergetics that helps\nrelease a lot of anger.  you could try it.  kind of expensive.