How can a 78 year old lady in ny keep her death husband in her flat for 3 years?
928475
I'm not sure.  I think the odor would give it away.\n\nThis is a bizarre question.
879773
I deal with POAs very often, so I'll speak to you first as a professional. The first thing you need to know is that he is incurring into elderly abuse (legally speaking), under the mental abuse section. Secondly, as Traveldiva said, he is not the controller of her life - a POA, in NO INSTANCE gives anyone control over someone's life unless it's a healthcare durable power of attorney, and then ONLY if the person does not have the physical ability to make any single decision. In all other cases, a POA only gives rights and control over financial matters (however, he CANNOT, legally speaking too, do ANYthing without the grantor's approval if the grantor is of sound mind and capable of speech). I gather from what you say that he has only a financial power of attorney (and is taking every advantage he can). He is *100% wrong* in believing that the POA he has gives him the right to do what he wants WITHOUT CONSULTING THE FAMILY.\n\nNow, what you need to do is inform mum that she needs to *revoke* the POA and issue a new one to whomever she and you guys think it's best. A POA is revokable at any point in time as long as the person is of sound mind (legally, this means that the person is able to speak and that she or he has not been committed to a mental facility or declared mentally unstable or unfit to take care of her or his own affairs by a legal authority or institution) and able to make decisions. Obviously the decision is hers and it can involve whomever she wants, but it is 100% revokable. HIS OBLIGATION (moral and contractual) IS TO THE GRANTOR AND HER OR HIS FAMILY, not to himself.\n\nNow, from a personal standpoint, I'd say that if he is incurring into the kind of treatment you say, he could get worse, and his only interest would be money, and he'd be pushing her further into the cheapest-living facilities in order to keep whatever insurance money she has to her name, such as health or life insurance. Don't allow this abuse of the poor woman.\n\nI hope Ih elped a little. Feel free to write with any questions, my e-mail is on my profile.\n\nBest of luck to you and mum!
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Call the authorities, the police, adult protective services someone can come out to help you.1-888-436-3600, is the nationwide hot line for elder and dependent abuse. You need to talk to who ever owns the house about evicting him.\nCheck out the web sites I have listed in my sources!
715385
Just be honest with him and tell him that you need his room for the new child, and that you will be happy to help him look for a new place to live. Tell him that you will give him his last month free so he can use that money to help offset the cost of paying rent and probably a security deposit to move to a new place. Perhaps help him try and get into low income housing for senior citizens where he will have security and people closer to his age. If he gets too upset with your suggestion that he needs to move...drop it and tell him he can stay. Then, just work around things til he does pass away. But, don't stress him out too much or you will feel really guilty if anything does happen to him then.
451919
If they won't give you an answer then they probably have no idea.  My grand mother lived for a year and half after being told she wouldn't live more than six months.  So anything possible.  Just be thankful for the time you have with her now and the time you've had in the past.  Help her live life!
1001027
just be there for her. it is hard seeing our grandparents bedridden and weak. talk with her. my grandmother lived until she was 98 (my dad mother). don't listen to the first answer. that is a nasty thing to say to anyone. my grandmother would tell me stories about when she was a little girl and tell me things when I was younger. let her tell you things about when she was young. they are things you would never forget. remember grandma did not have a tv or radio or bathrooms in the house. we have color tv and radio and indoor bathrooms. and another thing kiss her and hug her and let her know you love her.
815489
To be honest, it would be better for all of you if you could work something out with your sister because the present interest holder (meaning your mom) in a reversionary life estate cannot do anything that would dimish the value of the property and she also has a duty to maintain the property.  If it has been vacant for an extended period, anything could have happened over there.  \n\nYour sister may have also included a right of termination in the life estate or reserved some sort of right of entry if for instance your mom had to go into a nursing home.  There are all kinds of unknowns here both in how your sister set this up and the law in your state. \n\nLong story short, you may not be able to stop her.  \n\nWhy don't you just go with her or simply remove anything from the house that your mom does not want your sister to have access to?  It would seem to be the most painless compromise for all involved.
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Oh No :( ..\nI would definetly call at least her doctor, and see what  he suggests. If he knows her wishes are to die at home,and not in a Hospital, at least he may be able to give you some suggestions. That is just terrible, and I am very sorry for you and your family. She must be a very special woman to have lived so long! My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
73140
If you challenge this, you will have to produce witness that say that she changed it when he lost his mental abilities.  You will have to contest the will in Probate Court in the county that you dad lived in.  It will be an uphill battle to win this.  If a person leave no will, all funds go to the wife.  You see the challenge?
1064268
If you are to marry an 84 year old lady just think that when you are married to her she will die soon  and then you might be rich boy in the end I would do it just for the money if I were you Good Luck
18709
The best thing you can do is stay with her through out her life as long as she lives.. She needs to be comforted.. Spend as much time with her as you can in a way that she can forget that she is ill and is going to die
413696
You will need to consult an attorney, and you will have to file papers in the probate court for the will. If she did not have a will, her estate is in "testate". Her husband can be easily appointed. Then there is a long process that follows. You will need an attorney, and it will be in your local Probate Court.
740252
He should speak to the Citizens Advice Bureau. As far as I know, unless the house is in joint names or she can prove a significant financial contribution to the upkeep,  she is only entitled to maintenance for the child if they are not married.
984269
Check here to find your specific situation:\n\nhttp://www.widowsresource.com/1/retirees-widow-death-benefits.html
535629
Ask an attorney, you don't want to do anything illegal and then get the shaft in the end. I thought that he could write a will and sign his money over to you, that way it's not in his name. Or, you can use it to pay his hospice nurses. But most importantly I would ask a lawyer
832603
deal with it its not forever. I took care of my mom for 4 years everyday. she died 2 years ago and was 82. toward the end of there life they get what is called terminal restlessness. where everything bothers them and they are easily agitated. I just kept saying if i gave up i would never forgive my self. there are places that will come and help maybe sit with him for a few hours so you can do something for you. Good luck
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she is about 75 years old this coming september