shortest time spent between dating and marriage? how did you achive it?
911992
Dear Friend,\n  Thank you for asking .As per my research i have found that many marriages fail because people rush.marriage must be buid on love and true love waits.So it is important for any person intenting to marry to take enough time in dating   ie NOT LESS THAN 2 YEARS so as to prove true love in his or her mate hence have a perfect marriage.thank you and may God Help you find a good marriage,bye.
1183873
I'd love to know the answer to this question.\nBeen with my boyfriend 11 years now an still waitin to walk down the aisle.\nHope it doesn't take you this long! lol
184362
That is a question that only you will know the answer to...it is a matter or where the two of you are in your lives.  If you know you are going to marry her someday then it is only a matter of finding the right time that will be memorable.  \n\nIn terms of have you been together long enough I would say yes based on what you said.  I know 4 different couples that got married less than six months from the time that they met and they are all still married.  The least ammount of time being ten years and the longest being thirty two years.  My adivce would be to do what is right for both of you and make sure that it is something that you will both remember.  I hope this helped
785858
I have been married for 8 months, after being toghether for 4 years. The relationship went worst and worst from the 4-th day of marriage, and now we are waiting for the year to pass, so we could divorce... 0.001% satisfaction... :(
918159
I met my spouse on line - dating service.\nWe met about 2 months later, I felt this was the person for me from the first glance as we met at a local restaurant.\nWe were married 6 months later.\nWe've been together (married) now for 4 years.\nWe have our good and bad times, but we are still very much in love and are continuing to plan our futures together.\n\nHope this helps.
701145
Since your husband seems to like living his life by a schedule, ask him to start scheduling time for YOU! ... Like maybe a 'household business meeting' once a week, a 'social hour' a few times a few times a week, AND ... don't leave out scheduling romance.\n\nWhen married people expect communication, caring, and romance to "just happen" or "be spontaneous" ... that is a recipe for NO communication, caring, or romance. These things happen when you plan for them and make them happen. \n\nDoes a great dinner appear on the table spontaneously? Of course not, you have to plan the menu, plan the shopping. Just give him a day-planner or calendar and ask him to go over his schedule with you. Point out (nicely, without nagging) that he isn't scheduling any time for his marital responsibilities.
722805
maximum time? i didnt know there was one. i think for each couple its different . and when alone, its probably even less.
93907
There's no time for love, tell you why, I marry my wife a week after I meet her, we have 6 years of beatyful time as a husben and wife, tell those magic words when you feel it to, don't when you supposed to, or when you have to.
701118
My husband was in a firefighter academy when we married. I had just finished my degree and was looking for work teaching preschool. We were planning to wait until he graduated and found work and that way we would have saved up some money. Our schedules were so crazy though, that we really missed time together. Ultimately, we decided that having a big fancy wedding and a nice expensive honeymoon was not what it was all about. We just wanted to be married. We had a beautiful small wedding with just close friends and family. Today is our 9 year anniversary and we are so happy. (Except that I am waiting for him to get out of traffic and get home!) Sometimes you have to weigh what is most important to you. We did not live together before we married either, and the best moment of every day was coming home to be together. Good luck to you!
1013239
I understand. I don’t know what I’d do if I wasn’t married, but let me share some of the things I have learned in almost 20 years:\n\n1) Courtship is important. And long courtships are best. In our fast-paced world, especially as young adults, we are always rushing around. The best way to divorce-proof a marriage begins before you ever meet your mate-to-be, during the dating process. Serial dating, especially when it involves premarital sex, is a course in how to get divorced. We end up hooking up and then when things go sour we run away. Don’t get involved with someone who isn’t a friend. And date at least 2 – 3 years before getting married. That way you can get over the initial 18 month crush where everything about the other person is fascinating and the whole infatuated view of “The way you eat is so cute – it sounds like bells ringing,” to “If you clang your fork off of your teeth again I’m gojng to shove it through the back of your throat.” Not kidding – real conversation between my wife & I in the first year. I’m glad to say she never jammed the fork through my throat and I learned to use my lips as a cushion between my fork & teeth. \n\n2) Keep Christ at the center of your marriage. It seems obvious, but it is essential. Every time you notice that ring on your finger, pray for your spouse. It doesn't have to be long or even audible. Just a quick mental thanks to God for your mate, or a quick thought of, "God be with her/him." \n\n3) Love is NOT give and take. There is no take in love. Read 1 Cor. 13 (the love chapter). Love is giving. I give to my wife. She gives to me. If both are giving no one needs to take. Develop this mindset and remember that this is what marriage is meant for. Eph 5 takes a lot of heat for telling wives to submit to their husbands. But it also tells husbands to submit to their wives. Give + give = love. Give + take = selfishness = unhappy = divorce.\n\n4) Never use derogatory names for each other, even in fun. Husbands, if you call your wife "old lady" that is what you will see in her over time. I call my wife "my bride", especially when I am upset with her. That way I remember that wedding day, all those dreams, etc.\n\n5) When kids are involved it is easy to place them in front of your spouse. While time with kids is important & shouldn't be neglected, those kids will grow up & move out one day. Your mate will still be there and you'll need something else to talk about besides the kids. Make a habit of dating. Guys, even ask your wife out on a date. Arrange the babysitter. Often couples in church can provide a wonderful service for each other by trading Fridays (or whatever day is appropriate).\n\n6) Get to know and socialize with an older Christian couple or two who have a happy long-term marriage. Learn from how to treat each other from them. Remember that we all face similar adaptation issues when we are first married & they have worked those issues out. Talk with them about what they had to work out in either early married years and how they resolved things. This can be one of the biggest benefits you ever have, especially if you come from a divorced family or a family with strained relations.\n\n7) It may seem obvious but pray together. Have individual quite times, but have a shared quite time as well, at least once a week. And no matter how much you think it will hurt or bother your mate, talk. Holding it in doesn't make it go away - it only makes it fester until you explode all over each other. Talk and if agreement needs intervention, see your pastor or a Christian counselor.\n\nMarriage is very frightening - especially for those of us who came out of dysfunctional families. But the single biggest cause of dysfunction in my experience (and in my family) was selfishness. Give to each other & to the Lord, and you too can have a happy marriage. God bless you & best wishes!
373052
oh, sweetie... time doesn't matter.. i met and married my husband in four months. My soulmate. Get a friend... smile even if you want to cry.. watch a funny movie, comedy speel, think happy thoughts. It will get better. you can feel free to e-mail me er1ca2000@yahoo.com.
822149
For your sake and his, both of you need more time. Although you don't feel that you need the extra time and that you are sure of him, the fact is that he is not absolutely sure at the moment. I know that hurts but you need both to agree before moving forward. Here's what both of you can do:\n\n1) Agree on taking more time. Also agree on a timeframe to review the situation and decision on the marriage plans. Could be 1 month or 3 months or longer\n\n2) You mentioned "spiritual beliefs". Try going for marriage counseling. They should help you and your boyfriend to be more sure about each other.\n\n3) Spend time really getting to know important things about each other. For example, does he/do you know each others':\n- Greatest fear\n- Biggest wish for yourself/each other\n- Strongest childhood impact\n- Parental expectations\n- Short/mid/long term financial plan and management\n- etc\n\nAnd if he really has a psychological disorder (OCD), he should treat it, be it spiritual healing or the psychologist.
1095786
I've done the long distance thing..  You two are doing everything right in my book anyways.. lol.  My advise is to stay busy with friends.  That way the time will go by faster.
929854
I guess that goes to show that long dating/engagements aren't a guarantee that you'll know the person.  I dated my wife for two months before marriage, and we're doing great after already 5 years now. \n\nIf you married him, try to work it out.  Find common ground.  Pray to the Lord for help, He will do it.  \n\nDon't drag those children through the mess of a divorce.  Pray for help.
182901
Why are you so worried about getting married so soon ????? your not even divorced yet....take this time to enjoy yourself ,try new things, meet new people, if you find someone great, but this is the time for you to think about what you want in life, what have you always wanted to do but didn't.....this is your second chance ..... enjoy
871253
No, it's stupid. If you're considering marriage after 2 weeks, you're being unrealistic. Date for 8-10 months first, not weeks.
674707
That is such a personal thing.  I don't know that there is any one right time frame for that.  I knew 6 months into my relationship that I was going to get married, but I know some relationships that last for years and years and the couple is't ready to commit.  This is really something to decide for yourself.