How many times should a person try marriage before they realize it's not for them?
923866
Well, so far, I've tried it 5 times. Yeh, really. I am married for the fifth time. I still haven't realized that marriage is not for me, because it is. With the right person it's great.\n\nUsually the divorce is both people's fault. It lies on both people because they should have been discussing things. That involves 2 people. But if one doesn't want to talk, or thinks that there's nothing wrong, it's usually this person who is at fault.\n\nIn my last marriage, my ex wife was no sexual in the least. She was gorgeous but was not sexual nor sensual. Within the first 6 months of our marriage, I turned over one night to get amorous and she turned away. I stopped right there and told her that if I didn't get it at home, I'd get it elsewhere. She said "Do what you gotta do". So, end of discussion. Our marriage lasted 11 years and I did not have sex with her 11 times during that time. it ended up with me running around and having sex with another girl. So you could call this both people's fault, but I just got tired of masturbating to take care of my needs, because she wouldn't. I wanted a live person, a warm body, real sex instead of my hand. So after many years of frustration, you could say it was my fault for leaving.\n\nOK, it's usually both people who are at fault but in this case, I do blame my ex wife.
535822
A successful marriage requires one to fall in love with the same person over and over again.\n\nMy Pastor:  A mistake only remains a mistake until you do something about it.
536960
By nature, a lot of men are hunters and have the need for conquest.  Once they achieve the goal, whether it be to mate or marry, then something clicks in their head and it might be time to find the next challenge.  This trait is problematic in a marriage.  Some times we think that because we take the vow, that the deal is done, then don't need to try as much and take the relationship for granted.\n\nMarried for 10 years, then divorced for 5.  I find that sharing my freedom and independence with a special woman allows the relationship to remain fresh and alive.  I won't say never, but I'm liking being without the assumed obligations that go with marriage.  If I'm with someone, I enjoy making that choice more than once and if we find that its just not working for us any longer, it's simpler to part ways.  \n\nI say enjoy the gifts life has to offer and although it may be remote, if one day you happen across a keeper, then just don't close your mind to the possibility.  I certainly won't rush into anything and would live with someone for a good couple of years proir.  Let's see what we're like when all the pretending is over and learn if true compatibility exists.  Make sense?
762315
Gotta' admit, sounds like a plan to me!!\n\nLike every 2 years?  With an option to evaluate twice within that 2 years and if both evaluations are negative, the marriage is over?\n\nHey, I think you are on something here!!
674707
That is such a personal thing.  I don't know that there is any one right time frame for that.  I knew 6 months into my relationship that I was going to get married, but I know some relationships that last for years and years and the couple is't ready to commit.  This is really something to decide for yourself.
462248
i would say as many times as you want.  as long as you are doing it safely and being considerate of you partner
147507
4. A younger one every 8 years. There are man living such that they marry a younger women at least every 10 years. I think this is disgusting. \nMonogamy is a must. (i think marrried man with girlfriends are also disgusting). sorry.\nOne husband is enough for me.
991430
This is also my third marriage. First time was six months, I was very young and stupid. Two years later, I met husband two. Two years pass before we marry. Married for two years and got divorce. Both one and two, couldn't keep their hand to theirselfs. \nThen here comes number three. I started talking to him on yahoo chat. Talking and then we meet soon after. Then I was with him for four years, been married for one. I agree with her, Iam tired of marriage. \nStick me with a fork, Iam done all the way.\n\nP.S. I heard from someone before, don't matter how many times you marry. Just as long you love him/her, is all that matters. Don't give up becuz one ruin it for ya.
198080
Who makes these rules?  There is no time limit on when a person should fall in love and decide to get married.  It depends on the two people and what they decide.  You can meet a person one day and decide to spend the rest of your life with him or her and everything works out just fine, just like you can know a person for years and then get married and still get divorced.  So in my opinion, it's not so much a matter of time.
607917
I married the same man 3 times, everyone I tell this to thinks I'm crazy, but as my Mom once said "The 3rd times a charm" If it feels right to you do it. Even if its only the second time...
971490
that depends of a person,sometimes we can love just once in our life,but if we recive enough we can love many times.every person is diffrent in a matter to understeand what love is exactly
1001036
I say there should never have been a 2nd time.  ever heard the saying. "Fool me once-shame on you, fool me twice-shame on me"  Stand your ground and don't let it happen another time. Because it's getting easier and easier for him to do it knowing that he has done it this many times already and your still there to go through it.  Let him know what he's lost and don't budge. If you stay in this relationship your pretty much begging him to do it again. Sorry but thats a true answer.  Good luck in the choices you make.
806710
Well, it would have been nice had you used spell check first...\nYour question is hard to read for those of us that actually speak and write in English...\n\nSo my answer to this is, which marriage were you speaking of???\nI am on marriage number 3 and at my age it would be foolish to act like a virgin this far into my life...\nI know others that are in their 5th marriage;  you think they should wait too???\nJust exactly how much holier are you than the rest of us???\nMy previous 2 marriages had the exes walk out on me because of cheating, and I was not at fault...\nSo we should study that aspect more don't you think???\nI do not agree with your logic or attitude... Sorry...\nYou could never make it work...\nHow would you ever prove it???
294841
I think I read the average is three or four times a week for couples married 10 years or more and slightly higher for the ones married less time ...how they come up with that one is beyond me I never had a call asking how often we were doing it. Quality is more important than quantity though. I also read that married people have it more often than singles.
508512
I'm not married yet, but my take on marriage is that it's the most sacred promise you can make to someone. People just don't honor it the way they should.
54257
5 years after marriage. or 8, if you're not married.
187153
Alteast wait until your in love -marriage can be so over-rated -wait until you have found that one perfect person - than you will know what to do - either follow your feelings and go for it or wait until you get married - what ever feels right to you