Am I wrong believing men should not marry single moms?
927002
Yes because you are discriminating against a group of people you do not know. You can personally believe *you* shoudn't marry a single parent but to push your values onto every other human being is unkind and wrong.
587034
To most guys being a single mom means you put out.... Also it means that you are sort of desperate and that you will do "what it takes" to bag yourself a guy... I am just being honest here... of course you are a human being with dignity and respect... but many guys won't look at you like that... \n\nSO my advice is:\n\nDating is fine, but beware of CREEPS... especially Internet creepy dudes trolling around for women that they think they can take advantage of...
597137
I have nothing against men but they will always think they are better then women they will always think that they can do more then a woman (BUT NOT ALL MEN ARE THIS WAY) but there is one thing a man will never ever be able to do have babies! Men usually don't like women making more then them and still most men believe a woman's place is at home in the kitchen and raising the kids there are not many men that can stay home or would stay home to raise the kids! But there are some. Women will always have to fight and stand up for their right's and what they believe in. So just do what you want in life and do your best! I think if your a well educated women and can do positive things for your society then do it! You will find your place and who knows what the future will bring some women have made it and one day we might have a woman president! We as women have to do the best we can in what most think is a mans world and teach are daughter's that they can be anything and do anything in life they want. That they don't have to just be home in the kitchen and raise babies. Even tho I did but that is all I wanted to do since I was a child myself! Go for your dreams and teach your daughters to go for theirs!
854344
I say good for Florida. Women shouldn't be allowed to just pick a guy and make him pay child support. If she doesn't know who the father is another man should not be punished for the fact that she sleeps around. \n\nAlso why should a man be responsible for another man's child? \n\nChild advocates really need to step into reality. The law is not in the best interest of mothers or children, that is just ridiculous. Men and women who are the non custodial parents really get stiffed in these rights. It is about time that the child support system catches up. \n\nWomen like these disgust me. They dupe decent men into paying for children that are not there's because they are trying to do a good thing. They are the reason why man men don't want to claim a child when a women comes up and says this is you child. \n\nI support it whole heartedly. I don't think a man who is not the biological father should have to be responsible financially for a child that is not there own.
447240
I saw on GMA about a year or so ago, that there are actually more men who want to get married than women.  Honestly, I don't want to get married.  I have a daughter and don't want any more kids  I'm very independent and really don't need a man for anything.
665989
You sound perfect - whats wrong you cant find a responsible single Dad in you area that wants the same - Im a single Dad and all the women I find want me to marry them right away and they all have asked to move in - thats why im not seeing anyone cause the moving in thing starts a fight no matter what. I just want my free time to spend with my kids
578765
Your mother is from the old school. Don't fault her for that! Would you rather she be with someone is abusive, penniless, unemployed or a crackhead? Would you feel better then? If these men do not like financially contributing to your mother, then they can decide against it. I think that you and your mother can agree to disagree. You feel as if there should be a split and your mother thinks the man should pay all the way. I wish you and Mom all the best!
15757
Your chances are good, I am a single male and date women with children, I have a step daughter from a previous marriage and she is the joy of my life. Exceptions, if the children are really mis behaving and have no manners and if they live like little piglets I won't ask the woman out again knowing she is probably not able to control them and is looking for someone who can.
247651
unfortunately yes. i mean its not bad that there is more freedoms for women. but would men have to pay the price for that? i don't know if you are saying that are people getting gay or something. but on the subject of women's rights, i think its becoming ridiculous. women should have lives and all that, but a mother isn't supposed to leave her children alone , and disobey her husband on their matters just because she can get a divorce when ever she likes, and still get the kids and all the money she needs, because the judge cant rule against here, or else he would be called sexist. and the sad part is that , this scenario actually happens a lot. i don't think women should have that much power, and as a result men would be powerless and we would change sides, and of course no man would dare speak out or else he would be accused of being sexist. women shouldn't be locked inside a house, tied to an oven. they can have interesting lives, but the mothers place is very vital to our society considering the fact that kids now don't have any morals or anything because they didn't have a strong mother figure, and because their mom was out partying, or campaigning for her office. there are some things for men, and some things for women. that would god said. and god isn't sexist , because he did tell us that we are all equal before him man or woman.
739777
Unless there's an exclusive definition of 'SINGLEMOMS' then your question can't be answered. I was brought up by a single parent and she has absolutely nothing in common with some 14 year old single mother who got bladdered on White Lightning cider at her 13th birthday party and got knocked up.
281921
I find something very wrong with it.  My husband actually DEMANDED that no strippers be at his bachelor party, without me even having to voice an opinion.  He's never been to a strip club either, no desire to do so.  He treats me like a queen, and I just love him to death.  That's the kind of man I married, one who respects women, and doesn't look at them as "objects" for him to drool over (whether it be for a night out or in daily life).  I would not have married a man who likes strippers any how.  They are out there, believe me.  One of my male friends is the same way -- no strippers for him.  It really boils down to the type of man you are marrying.  I was lucky enough to find a man who has no interest in strippers.  We're not religious or anything like that, we just want nothing to do with that part of society.  If you marry someone who shares the same values as you, than this shouldn't be an issue to you.
174064
Children of any age resent any "outside" interference from sources such as yourself in their lives.  They always consider that maybe, the parents will return to each other and they will be "one happy family" once again.  And, if by chance, your "man" was widowed, the kids think of you as the "Wicked Witch of the West" trying to replace their mom.  After 2 years, I would think you'd have a better hold on everything, but it appears maybe you and the "man" hasn't really sat down and discussed these matters for the future. But you state, its "your feelings toward the children" that you fear, not their feelings toward you?  Evidently, you can't accept the children and only want kids between you and your man.  Now that's a major problem and if I were you, and can afford it, I'd seek professional help on this matter.  And if you can't afford it, maybe the welfare people in your state might assist in financial matters?  I'd find out ASAP and get this problem either corrected in my own mind, or split with this guy knowing you will never accept his children as yours.
17677
Yea unfortunalely, according to women; men even think wrong. In fact, the mere fathom of having a thought is an abomination to all that is right with the world.
234488
Then dont date a man with children!\nKathy
422338
Well, I have never personally met any women who wouldnt appreciate dating a single father. I have had a couple chances, but it never worked out just because we never got past the first day, had nothing to do with his kids. I would prefer to date a single dad because Im ready to settle down and cant have children of my own, but want children. I have found that the reasons of not wanting to date a single dad vary on what point the female is in her life. Now a days, women are more career oriented and not looking to have kids for awhile if at all simply because they believe children create a barrier between their career and success. Younger women, they are enjoying life partying and whatnot, and don't normally want to have to worry about anyone or children to put a stop to their usual party lifestyles. Its all about the woman and what she wants for her life. If you meet a woman who is unsure of what she wants, you cant expect her to accept your kids because she does have a choice and the path she may choose for her future may not include kids. A good conversation piece for a first or second date would be to find out what she wants out of life, where she sees herself in the next few years, etc...you may pick up signals and pieces of information from that conversation that will help you decide if she is heading in a direction where she will have the time and can accept you as well as your children. Single parents are precious and sacred and should be considered a lot more serious than dating a single person. Hope this helps!
692541
Sure!  I probably wouldn't feel nearly as cautious about it if more of these relationships were 2 men/1 woman, though, instead of 2 women/1 man.  There's something frighteningly archaic and patriarchal in the latter case, but I do believe that consenting adults should be able to lead the lifestyle they choose.  Morality is subjective, and "marriage" is only "sacred" if you're a christian.  For the rest of us, it's a legality.  There are still plenty of us who are NOT christian, and who don't care to revert to the 19th century and live under the oppression of that incredibly limited perspective.
430052
Wow, I had one of these guys too...there are so many around it is unfortunate.  In my humble opinion, real people with issues get screwed because of dead beat dad and lying mothers.  There are so many guys that ditch a girl when she gets pregnant that when the court sees a guy who wants to be involved, they don't really care why. It's financial too..they figure if the guys is sending money, the state won't have to.  And so many women lie to get back at the guy, that we have lost our credibility in the courtroom.  I really feel for your situation.  Here is what I did..I spent years and thousands upon thousands of dollars trying to do the right thing through the court, and constantly getting told that I was wrong, etc...it made me crazy.  So, I just threw the door open to the guy..said lets stop fighting, this is ridiculous, neither of us can afford this, etc.  Said, visit whenever you want...and guess what?  Since the ball was in his court, he barely comes around anymore.  I don't know if you wish your children to have a relationship with their father or not...not that I think you wish them to not have a father, but if he is abusive, etc...I don't know what your situation is there, but this worked for me.  Best of luck to you, and hang in there.