Would you call an X to wish her a happy Birthday and is it considered cheating?
913915
No but it is disrespect full but it doesn't seem like you care very much anyway.  If you want to be with your wife then do not call the girl you had an affair with.
525436
Do you understand that if you do this cruel thing to her that she will associate her birthday with it every year?  How can you be so mean?  Every year she will remember the horrible thing you did to her. Grow up and break up with the poor girl now so she has half a chance to enjoy her birthday. You have no right to ruin anyone's birthday. You wouldn't want it done to you so have some respect and don't do it to her!!!!
381696
It depends on the level of relationship you have. From the way you state your question, I am assuming you like her a lot, but maybe that feeling is returned? What makes you think she needs your consent to celebrate her birthday?
19645
I would continue sending the cards (as long as there is nothing hateful nor taunting written in 'em...).  \n\nRegardless of whether they bring a warm feeling in her heart or make her cringe, I'm guessing either reaction would bring a smile on your face - so, why not?  ;)
895690
I would definitely send the card. Say she did rip it up straight away and she told your son Daddy never sent a card then at least one day you could look him in the eye and tell him that you made every effort for his birthday. \nIf you don't send the card then you have not made the effort and she could look him in the eye and say Daddy didn't even bother sending you a card for your 1st birthday and he might hold that against you one day. \n\nYou never know she might actually give the card to him and keep it for years to come. \n\nGood luck mate.
317244
Normal for her to have male friends.\nNot normal to keep them "secret".\nIs she keeping their identities or just the phone #s a secret?\nHas she introduced you to them? If you've all hung out then it's probably fine and she just thinks you're weird to ask for the numbers.
535334
Well, I think since she is inviting you and your wife to her wedding, there is no chance that your ex still wants you. I'd say something casual like, "I just got an email from xxxx, and she invited us to her wedding" and laugh. You have no reason to feel guilty about the situation it seems.
549944
Yes... it IS okay for a man to give another woman flowers!!!\nAs long as it is his  MOTHER, GRANDMOTHER, DAUGHTER, SISTER or GREAT-GRANDMOTHER!!!!\n\nNo you are not being paranoid!  He is completely in the WRONG!!  To give another woman flowers when he didn't even get YOU flowers???  That's completely wrong!!!\n\nHe sent her flowers LAST YEAR and you are just now finding out about it???  So, basically, he has lied by omission... failing to tell you made it a lie!\n\nBy not telling you, he has completely ruined your trust!  Now you will wonder what else he hasn't told you about, particularly with this "old friend from high school"...  how do you even know if that's the truth??  If you ask him if he slept with her, he will (of course) say no... How will you know if that's the truth either???  The trust is gone!!!\n\nI'm sure he had more than one female friend in high school... Does that mean that he sent them ALL flowers for their birthday??  Why just this one???\n\nI'm sorry for you... I don't know if I could make myself stay with him anymore...
494760
No, but common courtesy would say that's a question reserved for when you know someone better.\n\nAlso, you should be sure that this "girl" is an adult.
457708
No, as your aunt she aught to know your b-day. I know all the bitrhdays of my nieces, nephew and godchildren as well as of my husband's. I also know the b-days of my friend's kids and spouses...  I never forget to call or visit on that day, and to bring something, it's just the thing to do!\nand I feel hurt when they don't remember mine...
670042
i would ask my man nicely to ask this female friend not to contact him. this is not normal. by staying silent u re provoking him cheating. this woman definitely wants a piece of your man
358496
she might be like you and alittle afriad and shy thats why she said she had a boyfriend  just like you said no you didn't send the flowers  but you did and she ended up giving you her #??? even if she does have a boyfriend if they don'y have kids i would say call her and go from there just as friends respect her relationship but the fact that she gave the # shows she does want to talk to   plus you won't ever know how she feels if you dont talk to her she must like you i wouldn't give my phone # to someone if i didn't want him to call! the answer is simply she probably wants to talk to you outside of work so she can tell you how she feels good or bad  but i don't think it's bad.
40659
Definitely two or one REALLY good big one. \nIt's not your fault that you were born close to Valentines day and you deserve a Birthday just like everyone else does!
755843
I can't get all of it, but here is what i know...\n"Happy Birthday to You!.  I'm sorry that it is a little later.  Also i hope you have many more exciting, happy and prosperous years.  A lot has happened in the past year, good things, bad things... but you still mean A LOT to her... kisses and huge hug"
601036
She's playing games. And games aren't fun when they involve someones emotions.\nPerhaps she lives with her strict parents/strange relative, maybe its a work number? But probably not. If she wasn't willing to at least sort of tell you why you shouldn't call - forget her - she's not worth it. You deserve better.\nIf she's just trying to make you chase her - she should grow up and realise this type of behaviour only makes boys run - the other way!
488114
It depends on the situation. If you were still dating him when they got together, that's messed up and that's not a friend. But if it was an ex boyfriend, I think that's okay. As long as she comes and talks to you first about it. Not asking for permission, just letting you know what her feelings are. That's a true friend. I don't see anything wrong with friends dating other friends exs but they have to remember that friends come first
116747
It's not completely wrong. But consider this....who has him now? lol they may have the "good OLD times" but you've got the now and the future...when she does this just smile, tell a few story's yourself..never hurt..best of luck