I want my best friend to be my boyfriend, but he says he doesn't feel the same way, what do I do?
924924
Let it go for now.\nBe his friend \nYou'll probably marry him in 5-10 years from now\n;)
674168
Ok, the one thing - for me - was that he found what my interests and did whatever he could to find interest in them as well.  You have to have a connection - just like with your guy friends.  I know it sounds weird, but the person you wind up with should be your "best friend".  You should love everything about them, and see that they feel the same about you.  \n\nNow, my guy did what he could to make me happy - and I did the same in return - give and take!  Also, honesty and great communication helps as well!
188433
Since your best friend is good friends with him, maybe you could find ways to be around him more.  Be yourself, but make sure that you direct some comments his way!  If you two become closer friends, it will start to become more evident if you have things in common, and will be easier to transition into dating.  I hope it works out for the best!\nP.S.  I got tired of always waiting for guys to make the first move, so I started speaking out a little more, which was hard, because I'm a little shy.  But I had to make sure that they at least knew I was alive. In most cases, they did have an interest as well, which is good because it saved me the pain of rejection. Just don't throw yourself at him or act like someone you're not.
1036422
Enjoy your dreams but act normal around him and keep the dreams to yourself. Maybe someday he'll be having dreams about you too! Maybe he is now! If anything is to happen, let him make the first move. Until then, remain friends, in thought as in deed. As in, don't go getting yourself all worked up about him, or we'll see another one of those questions that starts "I'm in love with my best friend, what...". Please, girl, you know the answer to those! So just be cool.
942055
I think that you should talk to him about it. He may be feeling awkward because you told him how you felt and he's not ready to make the transition from "friends" to "more than friends." Talk to him and see where his head is at, try to make him feel comfortable so that he won't blow you off. Things like this are never easy, but you'll never until you ask. Good luck....
562790
chill out- wait for them to come to you.. jumping into relationships is a bad idea.. they will never turn out the way you want them to.. find the guy that makes you feel right, the one your comfortable around and the one u can talk to about anything.. and if thats your best friend.. talk to him and let him know what ur feeling.. and maybe see if he wants to give it a shot to.. if its not ur best friend then wait.. it will come eventually!
1107005
I know that feeling (the terribal feeling not very well)\nTry to be nice, if you are not feeling what he is... Just be honest, your friendship will change of course but he knows it will, he took the risk by saying he loves you...\nDo not be rude he is just been honest, but you do not share the feeling so be clear state it correctly... \nRelation will change so be prepare you will never look at him as it was before, but you can be mature enough to go over this bad feeling you have and time will put you back together again and you will someday laugh about, if you both are real friends OK... sooner or latter you will accept him as he is.
469598
My best advice to you is to tell him how you feel. I told my best friend that and we have now been married for 2 years. If they dont feel the same, you can still be friends, you telling them might just get them to look at you in a different way. Good luck.
920844
woooooow your just about 4 or 5 years younger then me and you still seem a little young, girly you are a little too young, but anyway you need to ask yourself whats more important, your BESTFRIEND or some boy thats going to end up breaking your heart anyway...i dont want to make it seem horrible but who's to say the same thing he's doing to your friend he won't do to you?  how do you know if he's going to be promising your best friend a 'relationship' when you and him are together (3 years from now). just know that boyz come and go but friends last for ever. so ask yourself is he really worth it?
642834
This is always a tricky situation, and its often feared that the friendship might be ruined if the other person doesn't feel the same way. I think that if you two are 'best friends' and really close and have a healthy relationship, then if he doesn't feel the same way, maintaining the friendship should be easy.\n\nI think you should tell him and for all you know he could be feeling the exact same way, and having the same fears! So take the risk. If you don't then you are risking a really good chance to be with someone in a relationship that you really care for.\n\nPlan the right way to do it for you- whether that be on the phone, face to face, through a hand written letter, email or msn...whichever is best for you, the point is that you do it and get it out in the open of your relationship. \n\nJust remember of all the great possibilities, that's why you should do it.
191083
it sounds like he just wants to be best friends for now.......;)...hang out some more and maybe your luck will change....
291542
It sounds to me like you need a new best friend.\nIf he acts like that toward you then he is NOT a friend.\n\nI doubt if he will change back to how he used to be.  I've never heard of THAT happening.\n\nSince the two of you were freinds for SO long, that tells me that YOU are a great friend to have.\n\nIt should be VERY easy to replace him with someone who will appreciate having you as their friend.\n\nLeave the loser alone, move on and find new freinds so you can go back to being happy!
671433
Tell him how you feel, if he feels the same then you guys can begin being more then frends, if he doesnt feel the same way oh well atleast he is still your Best
613912
Hi! That happened to me before, my male bestfriend was falling in love with me, everyone in our group knows about it and advising me that it would be better to have a boyfriend from the bestfriend level as it always works. But I kind of aloof everytime I know he might ask me a question, or something as I only want to remain friends. Because what I believe before, if we became boyfriends/girlfriends and split up, we might never be friends again, and I like having him as my best friend. I was a teenager back then. Now i'm 30 and he's now married. And I'm still single.\n\nLet her know how you feel when she's no longer in a relationship. Or if you can't wait that long, let her know now, who knows. She might be open minded about it and let you know how she feels for you.\n\nCheers!\n\nMitch
1085512
Aw. Well, just sit him down and explain to him your feelings. Tell him you just want to go back to being friends. There really is no easy or "nice" way to do it because he probably will get hurt. But whatever you do, let him know you still think he's a great guy and that you value your friendship.. =). Hope that helped a little, haha. And thanks for answering mine.. our ages are 16.
51620
Before you rush into a decision, let time pass. He will realize his feelings for you, whether or not it is the one you wanted him to feel. An idea from a magazine stated that you ought to spend time with him for a good amount and then suddenly stop. He will realize how much you have meant to him and he would want to spend time with you.\n\nIf he is a friend, then more power to you both if you do end up in a relationship. Friends, especially best friends, know each others' weak points and strong points. Therefore, they can fully support one another.
108747
Is your best friend male or female.\n\nIf it's a male and not gay, your boyfriend does not understand your realtionship with your male friend, you need to break it down for him. Make him feel less ensure about you relationship with him.\n\nIf your best friend is a female, he may sincerely not like her attitude of ways. Try to convince him that she does not mean to offend him. That is the way she is with every one unless she is seeing something that you don't. \nPlease tell him not to make you chose between a friend you have known for years and him who you like a lot.\n\nTell him you are only trying to make the two people that you really care about to be able to tolerate each other. \n\nDon't make it a habit of inviting your friend with you all the time. You will give your boyfriend the wrong impression.