should my mom tell her other six kids that she is now re-married?
930512
It depends on the character of the other kids... Now a days children take many things as a joke... But this is a big one... Your mom should search for a right time and place to say to the other kids...
609202
As a mom of a six year old, I can understand your concern. BUT she's five!  A little to young to bear resentment issues. Unless otherwise introduced by other parties.  AND three months IS long in the whirlwind of the honeymoon stage, BUT it's only three months!  Slow down girl for you and your daughters sake.  Maybe she is being distant because of other men that have left too soon...?
80086
You should definitely tell your mother that he has children. She's going to find out anyway, right? So sit her down and have a heart to heart with her and explain to her that you're very much in-love with this man AND his children, then ask her to please accept your new family into her heart as well. Most parents want their children to be happy. I'm sure that's all she wants for you.
869490
I told my mother that I was married to the father of my first three children....it went on for about 8 years.. Then the night before she passed away she told me...Don't waith till child number four...get married soon! I don't think I know of anything she didn't know about.. SHE HAD EYES BEHIND THE BACK OF HER HEAD< AND EARS EVERYWHERE!
985123
Sounds like she could use a friend...if your kids are buds with her kids, invite them over one day..or go out to a park with the kids if they're young enough to enjoy that...   Or just invite her over one day with the kids..or out for a swim at the pool somewhere...etc... Just ask her how shes been...and maybe say, you know its none of your business but you're a bit aware of whats been going on with her lately and you want her to know you've actually been through the same thing...maybe say, you know how hard it is...tell her something that helped you through and if she needs someone to talk to    you've been there so you understand... be short and sweet the first time you bring it up...   Maybe next write her nice card...Christmas time is coming up, good time to let her know someones out there if she needs a friend
1176271
I think give them to her when you first see her.  \nI have a five year old and three year old, and I haven't seen some of my friends for a long time.  They don't have kids yet.  I would want to know that they were interested in meeting my kids, or okay with me bringing them along.  Giving a gift is a great way to show that you support her as a mother and you're totally okay with her bringing the kids around.
1135278
because a have 4 kids...
61941
I agree with Jayz wife. Hell no she shouldn't let the children be with her at her "new" boyfriends house. I believe the children shouldn't even meet him. She's prbably doing it to make you angry and do something so she'll gain full custody. Just play cool for now, cause she's the fool not you. That ain't right at all.
25161
she could have 4, 5, 6, or 7 boys. in any of those cases, at least half are boys.
901647
They should have told her from the beginning. I was raised by the man my mother married. I always knew he was not my bio father. I did not meet my bio until I was 13. I always understood why my bio father was not around. I don't know how I would be if I was 35 and just found out the truth. If her bond is strong with her parents then they will be able to get though it. She might want to know more about her bio father and actually meet him. \n\nI have a cousin who's father is not her bio father and she doesn't know it. She has 3 sisters who are really her half sisters yet neither her or her sisters know. She has felt all her life to be different from everyone in the family. Her sisters sometimes joke and say that she is adopted. They just don't know how true.\n\nMaybe your friend's daughter has had an inkling that she was different from other family members.
915601
She should tell her mum straight, maybe with you there so they both have some support to help keep it calm. I always tell my kids to tell me the truth no matter what or how bad the news is and i will always back them up or help them. I also tell them if they come to me to tell the truth i will not shout or yell. Ill listen to them.. Your mum will feel so much worse if she finds out from someone else . or fInds out after something serious happens ... do the right thing pluck the courage up and spek to her together. \nI hope you guys make a the right decission .. good luck
142567
been there, done that.  your asking for a lot of grief.  just the age situation with the children is a burdon, not to mention the difference between your "going to be" and you.  you yourself said your not mature enough to make a decision...let that alone be a guide for you.  first time marrages are tough enough these days, let alone the second time around ones.  i have had experiance with taking on "the others" kids and it is very difficult to relate to them, win them over, have commonalities with them and just simply get close to them.  and if they are close to you in age i'd think there would be little for them to look up to.  kids are hard to win over when your trying to "replace" their mom or pop.  I'd think hard on this one before I jumped into the fire.  good luck.
1086185
i knew one woman years ago who said she knew each of her three kids at that moment
188661
my mom is one of 13 kids.
1068760
Ask her about it before you ruin a family with BS allegations.
763390
I kept my married name until I remarried, but the children were older then.  I think to give them a sense of belonging and security, however much you want rid of the name, then you should keep it.  Put their feelings first before your own.
1011541
Yes! Tell someone! It happens more than you think, but no one tells. Start w/ his wife if he has one. Screw their marriage, save that kid! Follow up, if she doesn't do anything, tell the cops.