how do u ask a man if hes cheating without ruining things?
923075
Ask him upfront and openly. If he gets mad and leaves you for asking that question, he was cheating, so you saved yourself.
494046
Confront him with your insecurities. But don't go about it in an accusing manner. Rather, ask if everything is right between you two. Trust is everything in a relationship. If there are more signs that come up, then I would definitely look into it. But insecurities from your part needs to come to a resolution of if you do trust him or if you don't.  If there is real proof he is cheating on you then confront the issue. If not, let it be. Showing your lack of trust in him can be hurtful especially if he's been loyal to you all along.
247951
You can never know for certain unless you walked in on him..  But if you have a feeling that he is and you aren't usually paranoid or prone to jealousy, then something is wrong with the relationship.  Whether or not he is cheating.
40327
NOT a good idea...if you are wanting to check his email...then there has been some doubts about something...your instincts about whatever it is may be right,although if you really want to find out just ask him...cause after you look at his emails, how are you going to ask him about what you found???....then comes there becomes a trust issue w/you and your boyfriend...you might want to keep your eye on him
447759
Ask him.  Tell him why you believe it may be true.  Tell him everything you see that leads you to suspect.  If you know the woman you think he is cheating with.. confront her too... in front of her husband/BF if she has one.  \n\nIf he isn't cheating he will tell you why the things happened that led you to think he is.  If his reasons sound phoney or far fetched hes lying to ya.\n\nIf he's cheating, it's his secret to keep.  Not yours... put his @ss on front street!
498116
It depends on your boyfriend.\nYou have to give us examples of the things he is doing that makes YOU think he is cheating and we can let you know from there.
476832
you can tell if he is cheating on you, if he is acting strange when you ask him questions, if he isnt spending as much time with you as  he use too spend. only you can tell if she has changed since you started your relationship. if you are questioning his honesty now, then maybe he is cheating on you.
458633
Just ask how that person would feel if it was done to them.  Cheating is cheating no matter how you look at it.
773892
Ask his girlfriend.  Oh wait...
239955
ask him. but be careful
656836
Assuming you meant Cheating not cheaping :o) \n\nThe first question you need to ask, is to ask yourself who is more trustworthy in this situation your friends or your boyfriend? \n\nThey may know that he is sneaking around behind your back or your friends may just want to mess your relationship with your boyfriend on purpose. \n\nThen second ask your friends why they think he is cheating on you (Do they have proof? Seen him with others? Who?) and if they do you need to ask your boyfriend if what you have heard is true.
863756
From what you have told us I'd say he most likely is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. I won't say he is cheating, BUT, it leans that way. Without having actual proof I would not accuse him of it. But I would look into things. You know his work schedule, so for starters check things out. You might call him at work when he is suppose to be working and if he is there then you can always say you called to make plans for that night as you got the sudden urge to go out. There are many reasons you could use. If he isn't there this is more evidence that he may very well be cheating. At this point you could even follow him or have someone check up on him. Is there a money difference in the amount he brings home? Is he going out more often than usual? Does he shower or clean up as soon as he gets home? Does he at times smell of perfume? There are all so many things or ways to find out. BUT this can take time. So be cool and don't make accusations that you can't backup. (Prove) If he is cheating dump him. You don't need a loser. I wish you the best of luck that things work out for you.
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You should just casually confront him about the situation and show him the evidence that you have to be suspecting that you believe he is cheating.  While you are confronting and he begins to get really upset for no reason that usually means he is lying.  Ask him to gently tell you the truth and that is all you want to hear.
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say NO. Once a cheat, ALWAYS a cheat. If he cheated then, how do you know he wont cheat now? If he lied then, how do you know he wont lie now? If you DO go back out with him you'll have to walk on eggshells the whole time because you'll be wondering in the back of your head "was he really where he told me he was, with the people he told me he was with, or was he somewhere else with somewhere else" Which saying those thigns to him or asking him alot will just lead to fights. A relationship is nothing without trust and it takes a long time to re-build trust after someone cheated/lied to you. Find someone out there who WONT do that to you, this guy sounds like a loser, and there are millions of guys out there that arent losers, so go find one! good luck!
28357
First I would validate that s/he indeed is cheating.\n\nS/he might have other issues that you are not aware of.\n\nConfront the person if possible, in a non-hostile manner.
540159
If you think he's cheating, then one of two things is possible:\n\n1. He is cheating.\n2. You have a low self-esteem and are overly suspicious.\n\nEither way your relationship is in trouble.  If he's cheating, dump him and don't look back.  If the problem is your insecurity, then dump him and fix yourself before you complicate your life with the eventualitites of a relationship.
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be honest and dont cheat again