Betrayed by best friend after 20 years of friendship. Should I face her with it or not?
919020
what your friend did to you was horrible. I think it's really up to you what you want to do from here- do you want to confront them and have it all out, or would you rather just get away from the situation before it consumes you? Either way, your friend doesn't deserve to be your friend anymore so i would forget about her and move on, clearly she's a pretty low person for wanting your ex.
1020579
When that happened to me many years ago, it was devastating to loose a friend who I thought was "a friend."  Now, as time passed, I figured that she was an acquaintance, some one who comes & goes in your life time.  If she was that weak minded to just take his word for something as important as that without consulting you to straighten it out, then she's not your friend.  Get a new one who values your friendship.
496383
You did what you had to do, which was to be honest with your friend.  Sometimes that honesty can hurt.  Time might heal this hurt, or it might not.  But if you hadn't told her, you wouldn't have been the friend to her that you wanted to be.
704713
you should have a heart to heart talk with her. you have every right to get upset with her after all she didn't honour your request. but you could have handled it better. \n\ncall her and ask her to meet with you. apologize for reacting the way you did but not for the reason. it was your life she was discussing with her friend and you have every right to choose who knows about it. but don't let your friendship end because of it. if she cares enough she'll understand where your coming from. \n\ngood luck!
375433
prove that your friendship was true to you and do not seek revenge.  That is just stupid.  We all think about it, but be the better person.  Maybe just let him or her know though, that you are pissed and hurt, but not stupid.
335232
If you care enough to feel bad, maybe you are more friend than you realize.  30 years from now she will be the only one you have any contact with... I would worry less about image, and that posse and more about doing the right thing.  Maybe have her over for a makeover... or have your posse do a total makeover on her... shes probably just scared or doesnt know what to do.
1006611
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
18085
Do not stoop to her level. It is sad that she betrayed you, but do you still call her a friend? Does she know how much she hurt you? Just remember you will have been the better person, Karma can be a drag sometimes so just know hers will be catching up with her at some point.
382145
I've seen it before so many times and I sympathize.  I personally would re-assert the boundaries of your friendship with her in a nice way, emphasizing how that kind of behaviour could jeapordize your friendship with her and that you'd hate to lose her as the great friend she is over something like that.  Best of luck.
191896
I went through this myself, and the best advise I can give you is to let it roll off your back.  If your friend who is/was your  best friend believes someone over you than she was never your best friend to begin with.  The other girl who is lying, sure it would be nice to call her out, show who she really is, but then again, your friendship with BF will never be the same anyway, now the trust is broken.  As hard as it may be you should just try to get past this betrayal and find another healthy friendship with someone else. Sometime when we are in relationship rather they be romantic, or just friendships, we discover one side has stronger feeling than the other.  Never sell yourself short.  You seem intelligent, I doubt you will have any trouble finding a new buddy!! Good luck to you!!!!
20608
I agree, it's wrong. But if this person is really your best friend, then you should talk to them about it. If they have no good excuse, then obviously they aren't a very good friend, now are they?
974808
Your old friend is probably feeling betrayed by you.  She thought that she was doing a good thing by being nice to the 'new girl' and in turn has lost her best friend.  \n\nyou probably need to make it known that she still means as much to you as before and that you dont want another person to come between you.  Good luck and let me know what happens
1071528
I vote, forgive AND forget. Why else would you bother calling her your BEST friend rather than just a friend? Take a chance, a risk. I think she's worth it. We all make mistakes.
672009
It depends do you want her as a friend. If you do, you might just want to let sleeping dogs lie until she realises how wrong she was. No point in winning an argument and losing a friend.
1067837
If your friend is really a friend and you want to salvage your friendship, I think you should sit down with her and discuss how you really feel.  You should let her know that it really upset  you when she did what she did, and that you don't relish the chance of that happening again, that it's not acceptable behavior from someone who says she's a friend.
99767
you should if she is really your friend , but take in consideration would she have your back if that hapened to you , if she is a good freind i would tell her who snitched cause  no real friends likes people hiding things from them.
748451
Okay, I can see why she is upset at the lie.  But if she's your friend she should forgive right?  Sometimes women just tend to freak out no over the act but over the underlying betrayal.  I say you invite her for coffee to clear the air.  Tell exactly what you did and why you did it, just like you did here.  Then it's on HER as to whether or not she accepts it.  If she doesn't want to meet  you or won't accept your apology, then she's immature and needs to get over herself.  But you might be suprised!  Good luck and God Bless!