My boyfriend who I have a 1 year old with and a house will not commet not even an engagment ring what do I do?
914867
Ask him where this is going. Just because you have a child with him does not attach you indefinately to someone who doesn't want you completely. If he has a hard time answering you, maybe you need to consider if you'd be better off without him.
305600
talk to him. explain to him what went wrong. if he truly loves you, he will understand you!
470386
I don't know why he won't work but you need to quit waiting for him to grow up and take responsibility.  You have a child now and she needs you to provide for her.  I know you probably don't want to give up on him but it seems like he's already given up on you and your daughter.  It's time for you to start planning a better life for the two of you.
609759
Well you need to let him know all these feelings you are having.  He needs to pull his weight around the house; afterall, it took the two of you to have the kids, it takes the two of you to raise them.  He isn't doing anything and needs to.
700992
Ditch him\nYou are not being unreasonable and he is being uncaring.\nLong term it spells bad news if he can not make such small efforts for you.
619202
If you don't have any problem, let him hug you. Else analyse your problem yourself and keep a distance. I don't know which country you are from. That will be helpful giving you the solution.
982448
Hi. Look this is a no win situation for you. I know as I've been there.The best thing to do is ask your man to join you no matter what the situation is. Your kids have to get use to the idea that your have a life and you are entitled to be able to get on with it just as they do. They don't ask your permission as to who they date and don't expect you to be in a mood because of it. My partner and i nearly ended up apart when we tried to please everyone. You have to think of you and your boyfriend as he will be there for you when you need him and they wont as they have there own life to get on with AS you have. Good Luck and Merry Christmas and a happy new year
103537
Just tell him that your relationship is not going anywhere an tell him that you and him should move on to other things and go your seperate ways.
154410
marry him!!\nowh wait..before that..\nfirst of all..only you can sort this out..if you think you can cope with problems you may face..(due to the 'no qualifications' thing)..then you should indeed marry him..\ni advise you that its the best anywayz..but ever heard of this?\nwhen poverty knocks on the door,\nlove and trust flies out the window..\n\nmake your own decissions..age is no issue!~
157851
Do you have any other cluess? it is weird, but i wouldn't say it is definitive.\nIf you have a good comunication with him you must know what are the causes of this, what are his arguments, and if they are valid.\nI mean, if he lives with you and especially that nigth he has plans that you cannot know about, well... that situation is hard to defend.\nBut if you don't really spend nigths together regularly, then he migth have some good point to rely on.\nTalk, talk, talk....
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He has committment issues. The house is the factor that makes your relationship permanent and he wants to be able to escape if he chooses. \n\nIt doesn't sound from what you wrote that he has been different...just that things are changing and he isn't dealing with it well. The more you demand committment to the situation (the house)...the more he may back down. He also is maybe worried that he won't do a good job at paying for the house...but I suspect that he is looking for excuses. \n\nPerhaps you should sit down with him very calmly and look at the situation..talk to him. Ask him if he is wanting to settle down. He may like being involved but doesn't want to settle down. It is his personality. Fear. Maybe...he needs to hear something from you. Maybe he needs encouraged. Maybe you are being demanding (without knowing it). It seems that you are going ahead with plans and he isn't wanting to yet. \n\nYou both need to talk it out. Try to get your emotions out of it...and see it from his perspective. He is scared about something....so just ask. \n\nTry thinking of it this way....would you want to put a down payment down...and fix things on a house if you didn't own it....he will feel like a roommate or perhaps dangerously vulnerable. Just try to be understanding...and step back.\n\nHe might just need time or reassurance. But you need to stop putting pressure on him. Just my thoughts..and I might have it all wrong...but it is what I see.
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LEAVE HIM!!!!  I HAD ONE OF THOSE .. DIDNT LEAVE HIM WHEN I SHOULD OF AND NOW HAVE A KID WITH HIM...\n\n\nIT ONLY GETS WORSE.... TRUST ME..... AND YOU KNOW WE DISERVE BETTER.. THERE REALLY IS MEN OUT THERE WILLING TO SPENT THERE LAST PENNY ON YOU RATHER THEN ON THEM SELF...\n\nIF YOU CONSIDERE THIS A PROBLEM AND YOU ARE ONLY DATING HIM WAIT TILL REALITY HITS YOU WHEN YOU LIVE TOGETHER....\n\nYOU NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF YOU ...\nNOT A CHILD TO LOOK AFTER...
460211
Try to get another thing to forger about him. Some hobby or something, love is one thing, but work is another. Do something in the house and you will see that you will be able to forget about him going to work and when he return you'll be overjoyed.
185789
love him more ,do what he likes as long as it doesnt bother you ,let him think that you cant do any thing without him ,(but of cource you can ) these tiny things moves there head dear \ndo it and see
324476
Without communication a relationship is nothing. If you can't talk to him then either the time is not right for you 2 to have a relationship or he's just not the right guy for you. I would reccommend being friends for now. This way you can become more comfortable with him and he with you. Start small and build up. You can't build a sturdy house without a good foundation.
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He wants to keep his options open... not be tied down. You need to stand up for yourself and tell him its all or nothing. Dont let him run the relationship.... it is supposed to be 50/50. Tell him that you need to be commited to him. If he really cares about you he will comply!
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sounds like you need more help then u can find on the internet. I say bake some cookies and do a secret santa.\nwhen our family was down and out my mom just got us all to make our presents.\nit may not be glamoruos,but we had more fun then we would of had if we had gotten what we couldnt afford. And it sounds like u may need to go to court for child support(27%of his income for each child with most cases, that would help)