I think infidelity is good for a relationship.  Wouldn't God want the man to be happy?
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EVERYONE: Check his question history! He's just a bored idiot looking to get a rise out of people.
492300
if he cheated while unhappy and attempted to cheat while happy, this guy seems like a serial cheater. some guys are like that. no matter how happy they are in their relationship, they just need attention form other women. you deserve better than this guy.
1048475
It's not about what you should be doing to keep your husband or wife from straying. You can do everything and there is still a possibility of straying. In most relationship you are doing the right thing and there is still cheating. I personally think that it is about morals and respect. My husband and I have been through alot and the relationship isn't what it was in the beginning but I wouldn't never cheat on him. I took my vows and that's what should be honored. Relationships change and so do people but if your not ready to honor your vows then there shouldn't be commitment. The thing to remember is "You cant keep a man or a woman that doesn't want to be kept no matter what you do." I really don't think that someone cheats on you because your not doing something right.
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If your asking if its good to have a girlfriend thats christian - yea! of course, that will probably mean she may have more self respect and morals then other girls. \n\nIf you asking is its good to have a g/f when your a christian - why not? How else are you going to find the person you want to get married to?
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I rather have someone who is faitful and isn't going to bring me a disease then someone who is going to sleep w/ anything that walks talks and gets on all fours. Even if it's not sleeping flirting to me is the somewhat of the same however I can see past the flirting as long as NO actions where taken. To me infidelity is a sign of weakness. There's nothing wrong w/ a good, strong Christian man. Maybe she's insecure w/ herself and doesn't feel she deserves better. Like a respectful man that's going to treat her right.
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Its because we live in a society that was founded and is guided by nothing but men assuming father figure roles in our lives. Therefore, if a woman knowingly has an affair with a married man, she is assumed by society to be of low moral character.\nIts romanticized in movies, books, music, you name it infidelity is America's new fast food craze.\nI am of the belief, however, that open and honest communication should guide relationships. If there's a communication breakdown and either a husband or a wife have extra marital affairs without trying to heal the problems in their relationship, not only is the person from the outside of the marriage of low moral character, be they male or female, but also the person IN the marriage has a few problems as well.\nIf you've pledged yourself to another person, loved them, become their breath when they need air, you should NEVER give up on loving them, and always try to work towards a stronger relationship of trust and mutual love and understanding.\nIts a shame that we groom ourselves to just have physical connections with people we find attractive, instead of truly finding someone who can become a life long friend and partner to share everything in our lives with.
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I'd say fornication isn't so much a "sin" as it's a distraction from things you should be doing with your time that'd be more constructive.  Yes it's fun, but where is it getting you?\n\nSo no, it wouldn't piss God off that you don't feel guilty.  Just focus on being productive in the future.\n\nMaybe that'd be a good leaflet for my church.  "F*@k, but then go read a book."
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Well, Men dont have to cheat, and SHOULDNT.  If your not happy with the relationship your in, than you should let it go before even thinking about cheating.  when it comes to STD's remember even if you practice "safe", theres STILL always a chance of getting an STD and even infecting your loved one (the innocent/noncheater)!!  another word of advice is............ "what comes around goes around"!!!!\n\nTreat eachother with respect and you will be surprised how happy you can be together!!  Goodluck!!!
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Such a difficult question!  I ought to know.  This is the situation I am in.  I have filed.  In my case, this was not just one offense.  Even though this was the first "technical" adultery, i.e. the first in-flesh fornication (that I know of!), there have been years of infidelity in one form or another, e.g. viewing of pornography, visiting strip clubs, socializing with women w/out me.  I found out about all these things very much after the fact, as I was lied to for many years, beginning during our courtship.  There was much emotional and psychological abuse.  He has no respect for me.  I hung in there all this time and worked my hardest to make things better, including making him go to marriage counseling, because I personally believed it was my duty due to the covenant I had made with God.  ...but this for me was the last straw, and by God's merciful permissive will, this choice is provided for in scripture.  I hope you have not suffered in this way, but if you have....as excruciating as I know it is....have courage to leave him.  Maintain your self-respect while you still can.  Hold him accountable for his actions, once and for all.  If he truly changes and becomes a reformed person, it will become obvious, and perhaps you can one day reconcile.  If he doesn't...well, then, you are better off.  Now, if on the off chance that you have had a very healthy marriage and this was, as far as you know, a single transgression (...rather than a relationship or multiple cases of adultery.  In my husband's case..this was a six month emotional attachment and relationship, involving much debauchery, too), it would of course be desireable to God if you could reconcile, particularly if there are children involved.  ..but seek wise counsel.  His true remorse and commitment to real change is imperative.  Either way, seek counsel for yourself.  The trust that has been breached will take years to rebuild.  Above all, be good to yourself.  There is NO excuse for his choice.  God bless..and be strong.
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You could have tried, but he may not have believed you.  Infidelity by a loved one usually is something that many people need to see for their own eyes to believe.  Especially, if the marriage seems fine to them on the outside.
5520
Yes. It makes him more human and more close to us. It is not a "sin" to marry. If it so then everyone on earth will go to hell.
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My preacher once told me that you are not obligated by God to stay in a relationship that is harmful to you.  He also said God forgives those who divorce due to adultery and that adultery is not limited to a betrayal of a physical nature but can also be a betrayal of the heart, etc.  Abuse is betrayal.  My opinion, it would probably be more harmful for the child to grow up with that type of role model than for the child to be removed from the situation. I will also pray for you.
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Hold the bus!!  "love him for who he is" sounds like a nice, feel good statement, but let's anylize what that is really saying.  It is saying to forget God's command not to be unequally yoked, that denouncing Jesus as the Son of God is ok, and that "human love" can overcome God's knowledge of what is best for us!!  \n\nAbout marrying someone who isn't Christian: you are not going to have an easy road.  What church are you going to go to?  Is your husband going to want to tithe to a Christian church?  What are you going to teach your kids?  Who is right, Mom or Dad?  Are you going to teach them that any religion is ok- and then they are going to read that Jesus is the ONLY way to Heaven???  How are you going to explain that?  \n\nYou are choosing to become one flesh with a man that has not asked Jesus to pay for his sins.  There are consequences for that- like not spending eternity with God.  Since God is also Jesus and the Holy Spirit, and this man has said no to Jesus, then God isn't going to make him sing praises to Himself for eternity, and this man will go to Hell.  You will be sleeping with a man that you know is going to Hell.  That might not sit well with you.  \n\nGod has a specific plan for you.  This guy might be a part of this plan- just not until he surrenders his life to Christ.  I know how it is to be in love here on earth.  It is probably not easy to hear that this man isn't your Mr. Forever right now.  What can you do??  Talk very openly with this man about your convictions.  Chat with God daily about your feelings- He understands!!!  He just might have a plan that is bigger than you can see right now.  Ask God to start convivting this man and opening his eyes to the love of Christ.  You can give reasons for why the Bible is the ultimate authority if your boyfriend asks, but living a Christlike lifestyle is the biggest way to show others that you have let the Holy Spirit run your life.  Have a daily quiet time reading your Bible and praying with God.  I can see how this is possibly one of the biggest temptations you will face- should you marry the man that you love right now, or should you follow God's command even if you don't understand it right now???  I have already been praying for you.
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I haven't the answer to your question, but something else that has helped others who found themselves in the shoes you find yourself wearing now ...\n\n... When a Mate is Unfaithful : \n... Infidelity - Its Tragic Consequences \n... Is Reconciliation Possible? \n... The Option of Divorce \n... Meaningful Support \n... Why Some Stay Together \n... Who Is Responsible? \n... Does God Hate All Divorce? \nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1999/4/22/article_01.htm
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This is a complicated question.  Since you have not given any detals on why you are unhappy.  Is he abusive?  Or what.  Now we all know how God feels about divorce.  But God is also an understanding and forgiving God.  All if forgiven if asked.  No one has the right to judge except for God and there are so many religions out there that  expect you to live their way.  Well you know what there is a difference between religion and christianity.  Religion is what you believe and Christianity is what you live.  I personaly don't care what others think, only what God thinks is important to me.  God would want you to do all that you can to make the marriage work.  But in the same time he wouldn't want you to live your life being misserable.  Divorce is forgiven by God.  Pray to him he will guide you.  Put your turst in him.  Never put you trust in man or religion they will always let you down.  Go to God in prayer tell him how you feel.  Always be open and honest with him.  Even thro he all ready knows what you are thnking and feeling he still wants to hear it from you.  Good luck and God Bless you
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Are you kidding me?  God wants us to take delight in our spouses.  Sex isn't just for procreation.  Otherwise why would it feel so good?  He would have made it about as much fun as planting a garden.  My husband and I are both born-again Christians.  The only reason I don't moan loud is because I have kids in the house.  I too say read the Song of Solomon.  That book is quite direct about the pleasures of sex.  And it is in the Bible.
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Ok there are many people who are aghast at the idea of cheating let alone telling......\n\nI will share my personal experience and you (Asker) and the rest of the folks can then determine what you all think is right, best etc.. for your own lives.\n\nIn THEORY, we were supposed to take our marriage vows to mean that we stated before God (or however you believe) that you would Love, Honor etc.. NOT CHEAT!  AGREED, those were the vows I took.\n\nNext we have REALITY.. we have both partners working 40-70 hours a week, if you have children, that diminishes your alone time more than that and IF you had a 'perfect life' which hey, guess what - doesn't exist.. and HOW is it possible to meet each other's needs - physcially or emotionally in a RELATIVELY decent timely manner?  It isn't.. and most marriages would say 'it's really hard'.  That isn't an excuse - it's fact.  Look at our divorce rate/cheating rate!\n\nI had an open marriage, and the agreement was that I could see other people with some very basic ground rules.. that I respected throughout the marriage and we divorced and remain friends today.  Do I *AGREE* with what I did - and the 'righteousness' of it all?  No, I do not.  If presented with the same scenario again in my life, would I exercise that freedom, No, I would not... HOWEVER..to make this crystal clear - not ONCE did I LIE to my Ex-hubby about what I was doing or with whom.  It's not right in God's eyes in the 'marriage' contract, but at the end of the day, I felt I did that with the BEST dignity possible toward my mate.. if it had to be that way (and he was pushing me to do it), then the least I could do was be honest/honorable about it.\n\n50% of marriages have a cheating partner, and I think that in order for us all to recognize that, we have to get off our 'soap boxes' about the holier than thou attitudes because guaranteed, one of you is probably getting cheated on who answered this post.  It is a very REAL problem and almost as many women as men are out there cheating today!\n\nWhen the Asker asked - would you tell him?  I believe that if she wants that marriage to work....... YES she needs to tell him. HE IS OWED THAT HONESTY/RESPECT! They need to be honest with each other to have the opportunity to rebuild their marriage...and she cannot do that 'holding this in'.  Guilt eats at your very soul, and while yes it will hurt him and them, if they have any hope of fixing it, she needs to fess up.  If it's broken for good, she's probably prepared for that, as she knows that 'she screwed up' by doing what she did, and SHE ALONE has the guilt and forgiveness to ask for from both spouse and her God.  \n\nI do believe I did the best I could do at the time and I am not proud of myself in certain areas, and I did learn some valuable lessons.. that maybe weren't conventional lessons, but nonetheless hard lessons, that I hope to pass on to other people in situations before they 'go there' or to 'offer the I have been there' part and help them heal, versus passing the judgement.  People feel bad enough, they don't need the morality crap thrown at them.  That's my 2 copper, feel free to sling the immoral and hate mail my way.. /shrug..