why do i feel gay sometimes?
914079
either your gay.....or bi......\n♥
1159772
bi\n\n\n\ni have found a girl attractive & visualized myself having sex with her but it seems like u have REAL feelings for her especially since ur thinking about her day & night.\n\n\nand if u stop having feelings for men, then ur gay.
303635
i get like that too sometimes! its what u feel inside is affecting ur outside world! u have to start feeling good about urself! go out with your friends make them talk to you! trust me sometimes they cant see how u feel so show them!
645755
Ok, you are bisexual. Feelings like that totally start at that age. Trust me thats when my feelings started and its not weird at all. You are really starting to grow up and realize that you have sexual feelings and all that. I used to feel sexual towards my girlfriends in high school when I was your age. Many of them turned out to feel the same way about me. I had quite a few girlfriends in high school. Just a warning to you though: Don't make it too public that you are Bi I wouldn't really tell anyone unless you seriously trust them. I don't want to freak you out and maybe its because I live in the south but you can and probably will be threatened because of all the homophobes out there. The schools I went to were in the Bible Belt and I really didn't give a F*** who knew I was bi or les or whatever so I made out with girls all the time - but I did get threatened all the time. I really didn't care but you might not want to risk it. No one reall yhad the balls to do anything to me I guess that they were too scared lol... Have fun enjoy your life and don't let ANYONE tell you how to feel or who to love!
422671
Is it a problem with your sexuality or a problem up in your head. If it's just your sexuality just dare to explore new things such as Homosexuality or if it's a problem in your head then speak to a psycologist or some other person like on a help line. Whatever it is i hope it is just a phase you are going through because we all go through phases in life and yours is probally just one of thise things that might pass over... Good Luck
625820
it feels good.. a gay person is still a person!  they aren't any different except fo their sexual preference!  one of the things that i've learned about the ppl in the gay community is that they are the most open, caring, compassionate ppl out there!  they don't judge ppl because they know how it feels to be judged!
1118115
You're only as old as how you feel...i'm 18 and I feel like im 21...\nYou're 28, you said...how old do you feel? If you don't feel old then don't act old!!!\n\nAs for apperance...Well, it's the same no matter what sexuality you are...Some people are shallow... some people look for the great personality... You shouldn't be so self conscious... I bet you're a good looking guy, and I think you shopuldn't let society, whichever,gay or straight, try to change the way you feel about yourself, regardless if it has to do with looks or anything like that...
436588
If the idea of loving and being loved by another man seems hot to you, you are gay.  I've also noticed that VERY few straight guys ever ask themselves that question.
618586
I feel better around gay guys, but I'm a chick so a gay chick would like TOTALLY gross me out, like omgsh that would be so wrong. But I dunno, since I'm a girl I would feel more comfortable around a gay guy. \n  But it's still wrong
833801
Several of those before me have pretty much covered and validated your feelings toward the "same sex" and not much more I can add to that.\n\nPerhaps the "better" question that was NOT asked is "is it normal to become aware of these feelings at this stage in your life?"  Today most gay people come out or become aware of their identity in their teens or twenties.  However it is not unusual for men in their 40s, 50s or older finally recognizing what these feelings are.  Many have suppressed these feelings that they have refused to label as "gay" or didn't recognize as such.  But over time as you become aware that these feelings aren't some aberration that is unique to you.  You become aware that having these feelings may be a valid part of who you are today.\n\nWe all have our own clocks telling us when its the right time to come out and recognize this part of our life.  Yours just was pushed back a bit more than some, and that is NOT unusual, that's just how you were wired.\n\nI suggest you do some reading on this, check out web sites about "coming out" or go to a bookstore like Borders, or Barnes and Noble and look in the Gay and Lesbian interest section.  You'll see that you aren't the first, and certainly won't be the last to have these feelings.
1001126
Do whatever makes you feel right, if you feel uncomfortable saying anything to your parents then don't, maybe your bi-sexual or you could just be going through a phase, there are a lot of sites that can give you any support or advice \nGLCC, PFLAG, GLBT, etc.. good luck
695923
You say that you "know i'm not gay because i know its very wrong". Who says it is wrong? Someone else who is telling you who your are? The only thing that is wrong is for you to pretend that you are someone that you are not. It could be that you only want to experiment, and that doesn't make you gay. Being gay is a definition of who you are attracted to. If you only have sexual thoughts about people that are the same sex as you, that means you are gay. If you only have sexual thoughts about people that are the opposite sex as you, that means you are straight. If you have sexual thoughts about both, then you are bi. Instead of listening to other people who tell you what is wrong or right, listen to yourself and decide for yourself who you are attracted to. It doesn't matter who you are attracted to, the only thing that matters is that who you are attracted to makes you happy.
781231
From what I've read, it's not unusual at your age to have these kinds of thoughts about people of your own sex. I myself had them about girls in school when I was your age (I'm female).  However, I am straight. You sound like you are straight. But there's nothing wrong with being gay, aside from the fact that gays are unfairly discrimated against.
284025
Is this a case of striving for the "easier" option?  From your question it seems like you recognise that you ARE gay but would wish for the "simplicity" of a "normal" life. Fantasy can be all consuming, but that doesn't make it REAL. \n\nI would certainly advocate your seeking counsel - to get at the root of your depression and loss of libido.  I wouldn't go so far as to tell you to look to becoming "straight", however.  Should that be the outcome of your treatment, so be it. \n\nYou are what you are: gay, straight or somewhere in between.  Once you both know and accept yourself (and your sexual orientation), you'll be able to move forward with your life, enjoying the journey into old age.  Moreover, you'll look back at this dreadful time and draw so many positives from it - Pride in having survived, emotional resilience and the tools to not only look at life but LOVE IT & LIVE IT!\n\nMy very best wishes to you, in finding your answers.
1131002
You focus mainly in the manly part. You like giving pleasure to others, and if they are the 'forbidden' kind, better, right? You feel you can conquer any man, even if they consider themselves 'straight', that makes you feel strong. Just be careful...
734792
I have no idea but I'm gay
599642
I dont think that means you are gay. But maybe you should sit down and really think about this before jumping into anything you might later regret