Should your husband love you more than the kids?
925339
Yes, he SHOULD love you more than he does the kids, but very seldom does that happen. In my case, I definitely loved my kids more than I loved her, and we ended up divorced after 25 years. If I had loved her more than the kids , it might have ended up differently. If I had it to do over however, I think I would still love the kids more......they're MY flesh and blood!
659883
Married with 2 children.....with someone who loves children just as much as I do!
1185014
I love my life becouse of my children and my husband.
225615
if you dont really love him, do yourself, your kid, and him a favor and dont marry him, the fact that he lacks between the sheets shouldnt be a factor in marriage. you marry someone because of how you feel about them and how they feel about you.  sex comes with it but in my opinion shouldnt even be a deciding factor in weather or not you marry somebody. there is just so much more to it than sex.
99083
You have a heart don't you? you will know. Secondly do you two get on good together is he understanding etc. And finally is he good with kids. You don't need to worry that he won't love you because of the extra You just have much more to give.
619192
Maybe you should of been honest with him from the start about your children.  Why would you even hide the fact you have children, they are the greatest things on earth?!  You need help figuring out what is more important your children or your man.  \n\nYou actually seem like you may love your BF more than you children.
723161
No, it doesn't mean you don't really love him. Some of the things my husband does embarasses me. If I think he could be a 'better' person, then I suggest to him about changing. Sometimes I just live with it. :-)
893578
Thats a difficult question to answer. When I was married, I loved my children and I loved my wife. Differently but both passionately. They both meant the world to me. I made decisions for my kids that was best for them...and I did so with love. Everything in my life was done to teach them to be good people and give them the strength to succeed.Now the love I had for my wife was deep to the soul. I couldn't wait to get home each day to be with her... she was my best friend and totally had my heart...and had she not passed away, we'd still be together. But I still see her in my childrens eyes.
929287
Sweetie,,I am in your shoes as well..I have been a Mom and Dad to my 10 yr old daughter,,and for the first few yrs (we have been apart for 8 yrs) I kept asking myself "Am I not doing enough? " You fell in love with this "man" and you are doing your part 150 plus percent...there are some guys out there that love the marriage part,but not the parenting.This is a lesson we have all got to learn,and yes,I know it hurts bad,especially since you are carrying and your hormones are on a ride right now,but you are still entitled to feel hurt.And I know it is exhausting to be both parents to those lovley kids you have..but look at it this way..you have the undying love of those kids which outweighs the love that any man could think of mustering up..you are doing a great job..and just because he does'nt act like he cares..it is not the end of the world..you will heal from his heartache..and you are sure to find someone who loves you for you AND your children..good luck to you..be strong..and it's ok to cry...I sometimes still do..but over the years..the crying is more happy tears than sad.
628889
I married a man 7 years younger than I am.  We have now been married for 27 years and going strong.  Age is only a number.  It's how you perceive that number.  Love him??.  Then go for it.  One year difference is nothing.  OH, I already had 4 kids and my husband had never been married before.  My children love him like their own father.  He is the most wonderful man to me.  Take a chance if you love each other.  It's worth it.
931263
That's an interesting question! I think responsible men should be caring and thoughtful towards their wives/children. They should try to provide a stable home in terms of income, but I believe women should contribute to this, too (working outside the home whenever possible in order to show children, girls in particular, that a woman doesn't have to stay at home). \nMarried men should be mature enough to not spend too much time with the "guys," concentrating more on their families instead. This doesn't mean don't go out and have fun with male friends, just that there should be a balance between that and family time. \nI believe that men need to provide positive role models for their children and demonstrate to their sons that it's ok to show emotions (what some call their "feminine side")...that it's not a sign of weakness. \nNot trying to be the boss, but allowing that the wife has a right to exercise her authority and place as co-head of household. I don't believe in "lording it" over one's family. \nI believe men need to learn to listen, and actually "hear" what is being said to them. Some men talk too much and aren't used to listening. I don't want my husband to "fix" problems for me, just hear me out when I need to talk about them.\nShows of physical affection...hugs, kisses...in front of the kids is also a good habit to have.
106327
you NEED to break it off with this dumb guy! if he doesn't care about your kids, which you should care MOST about, then he is no good for you! and to answer the question, i'm gonna have to say no because if he really loved you he would love every part of you including your children!
1082057
every day just remember how much you love your husband and his child. that helps alot
246552
I feel for you, thats a tough spot to be in. However any man who doesn't want to get close to your kids isn't worth your time no matter how great he treats you. It might be a sign that he doesn't want to commit as much as you want.... any man who truely loves you would want to be part of your life in everyway, and your kids are a big part.
111628
You say you are "unhappy", what does that mean?  If there were no kids involved i'd say move on, but children are precious and deserve all you and your wife can do to resolve this.  But making your kids the reason for staying is weak, nobody wins.  Communication is the key, there had to have been a time when your wife was the best woman that happened to you right?  She still is and it's worth finding out together what changed.  And even if you still come to the same conclusion you can honestly say you tried, do THAT for the children.
620772
Yes. A man should honor and love his wife and children first.
116179
No but it all is depending on how much you love your partner. The marriage is not all about babies but understanding and making others life (your partner) more comfortable,