Should I tell her this? Long story please read and answer?
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J. J....\n\nThat's what I call "super-smooth"... And I don't mean that in a "wannabee player" sort of way. It's a good letter. SUPERB. Any girl would and should like a letter like that. It's cool. It's romantic. It's honest. And most of all - it's sincere. \n\nYou're letting her know that you like her but that you don't want to "rush" her into any sort of relationship. And you left it up to her as to whether or not she would like to be friends. That's cool too. \n\nJust remember to "keep it real" about the whole situation though. Remember: She has a boyfriend who sounds like he may not only be mentally abusive, but also controlling, so you may have to wait a while to get to know this girl. Hopefully you won't, but it's good you kept the friendship option open. \n\nLike I said, the letter is "tight". I'm sure a lot of girls (AND WOMEN) would love it. \n\nI gotta write my girl one!\n\nTake it easy and "stay true about yours" (everything will work out).\n\nBrother DzL (AsP)\n"The Player's Lifestyle"
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You need to ask her about this.  Gently, not accusingly.  <---VERY important. No one here can tell you because no one knows what's going through her head right now.  Everyone's different.
507367
You really should tell someone. If your a true friend, you'd tell someone as soon as possible. Tell someone you can trust and they will help her.
1040488
Babe ....... don't tell her just wait till she says something about it and then say it was just an experiment and it will never happen again (yeah right) ........=)
422097
hmmm... this is tough.. when my guy told me this.. i believed him because he treats me right..\ni know you've been a good b/f to her! because only someone who is really in love would ask for other ppl's help because they want to know what's best for their girl... i think you should take her somewhere nice.. then tell her :)\nbut take it slow, so she knows that you truly care\nhope this helps
650409
I have learned straight forward honesty is the best thing in a situation such as this. That way there won't be any misconceptions in what you are telling her. It may shock or even hurt her feelings, but if you don't care to be friends let her know. Good luck.\n\nEagleman
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What do you hope to achieve by telling her?  If you're in trouble and need her help then by all means tell her right away.  If your intent is just to tell her then maybe you might want to rethink it.  How will she take that bit of news?  What will she do?  What will you do?  Some things are better left unsaid but it depends on your situation.
624038
It sounds like your guilt wants you to tell, but telling will only hurt her and make you feel better.  If it was a one night stand, let it go, otherwise someone's got to break it to her, preferably you.
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If you truly love this guy and you think that you and he could work out for real, I would tell him how you feel. Telling him will make you feel better, and leave him to make the decision. \n\nPlus, you don't want to look back 5 years from now, see him married to this girl, and regret never telling him, do you?
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I would do all three!  Tell her and be honest now.  Bring it on slowly or fast which ever works better for you and her and then run fast!
249889
I would tell her that she deserves more than to cling to a relationship that's over. There are a lot of really great guys out there that would treat her as she deserves to be treated. Tell her you hate seeing her waste a single day of the wonderful life she could have, but that it's up to her to take that first step to put the past where it belongs...in the past.
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tell her how much you feel for her, if she doesn't feel the same, move on man! You have done and said what you are supposed to.
764420
Tell her just like you told us.....  I like to leave the light on because.....  We do have some expectations of privacy....  It's always best to be honest and straightforward.  Do not tap dance around the issues.  Just be pleasant and respectful and hopefully she will understand.
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a bit unclear there in your wording, but speak to her calmly, and don't let her interrupt until you say what you want to, to clear yourself from this. Then tell her what you know without hurting her feelings, afterall she needs to know what you know. She will believe you and trust you then.
914975
Yes she did and she should tell her husband. You, on the other hand, need to stay out of it.
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If you are her true friend then you will tell her exactly what you told us.  You are not going to go back with her but want to remain friends.  Just be open and honest.  It is the best policy.  And honestly she may get hurt if she has that deep of feelings for you but at least you will not have the guilt of "leading her on".
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I would let her read this exactly as you have written it.  It could possibly make her understand that you have her best interests at heart.  And if not, well, it sounds as if you have very little to lose at this point.  The relationship may not work if the two of you feel so differently.