Sex after deployment--?
922211
One thing the military chaplains say after returning from a long deployment 6 months or more is not to be excessive. Don't try to do too much at the beginning. All things change in a dynamic environment to include people during a separation of any sort. Of course the important thing is communication. This is important throughout the entire deployment. Expressing desires, wishes, and other needs is crucial to keep things as "normal" as possible during the seperation period. When I redeployed from my mission, my wife and I went at it like rabbits from the get-go, but we also took the chaplain's advice and didn't try to do too much too soon as far as other issues were concerned. Expressing intimacy is important in any relationship and should be done to begin the readjustment process. Hope this answers your question.
331580
Straight up if alone blow job would be great, I served in the military and wished when I came back I had a committed girlfriend to come back to for something like that.
10851
My husband was in the Marines when we first were married and was deployed for six months. To make it even harder I was pregnant with our first child. I know how empty your world feels right now. Just try to keep your self busy. Write often and talk on the phone when you can. I used to send calling cards with each care package. I also sent a video about half way through the deployment. I just recorded any special events that he would be missing i also went to the beach and taped a sun set for him, since the beach was a special place for us. Anything you can think of to keep the connection strong. Best of luck to you and a special thanks to your husband for his service to our country.
754257
I dont think there is after effect, but you may lose some of that feeling during sex when the skin got removed. But removing it will keep it cleaner and better looking. It hurt and you can't walk probally for like 2 weeks after the surgery. Its your choice, balance the negative and positive and make a decision. I think you should do it !!!
486837
The first few days will be the hardest.  My husband and I have been married for a year.  Out of that year, we've spent 6 months together. My husband  was in Missouri for 2 months, we spent 2 weeks together, then he was off to Germany.  Now, I'll get to Germany next month, and he leaves for Iraq in August, for a year.  You'll get used to it after a while.  It's all part of being a military wife.  Don't let yourself think about it too much. Keep busy!  Hang out with friends or do something with your family.  Try to stay occupied at all times.  Trust me, things will be great once he gets back!
707189
Try to contact his FRG (family readiness group). They can keep you up-to-date with what is going on with the unit. However, some units have restrictions on who can receive information, and there may be certain things they can't/won't tell you (since you are not married yet). There should be some people who you can make friends with and talk to though. If moving is an option, move near his base so that you can really be near the FRG and also be there when he  gets back. However, you cannot live on the base until you are married, and the military will not pay you an allowance to live off-base, like they would if  you were married. \n\nWhen you think you can't take it anymore, remember why you love him. It sucks when he's gone, but it will be so worth it when he gets home, trust me.
1075939
Deployments never get easier.  My husband is now looking at his 3rd deployment to Iraq, and I feel the same way I did when we got news of the 1st one.  I know when he does deploy, the first couple months will be the hardest, and then I will get back into my routine of being a single mother again, waiting faithfully for his call or a chance to IM and see him on the web cam.  \nJust keep yourself surrounded by positive people, other military wives, and your FRG.  \nIt is a given, as soon as he deploys something always happens at home, the car breaks down, the washing machine quits on you, the kids get sick, ( my sons appendix ruptured 3 days after my husband deployed last time).  Remember that you are not alone.\nIf you need someone to talk to feel free to contact me anytime.\nGOD BLESS OUR TROOPS
850032
How long is he going to be stationed there?\nCan you go with him? It is in the States afterall.\nThis happens to alot of married Military.\nsome stay home because they don't want to move and they know that their spouse will be back in a year. but if it is for a longer period of time and you own a home you could rent it out and then rent a place where he is.\nIs moving out of the Question?\n\nGood Luck to you, i hope your dilemma gets resolved.
1065869
Usually not.  Despite popular belief, getting pregnant no longer gets you out of the service.  After 60 days maternity leave after birth, you are back on the job.  And if you are overseas, you get to come home for the birth, and then sent back to fulfill your time on deployment.  This was done to prevent female getting pregnant on purpose to get out of hard duty.\n\nShe signed a contract which works both ways - she can't leave and they can't fire her.  So she has to stay, and regardless of mission needs, they have to pay her to do a job, even if they have too many people.
744894
When someone leaves on a deployment it's like you hit a brick wall.  They keep moving forward and you can't go along for the ride.  You have no idea what he's dealing with, and you can't relate when he tells you about his day.  You just have to listen, but chances are you won't understand.  You'll be worried sick while he's gone and stupid things will make you break down in tears.  Don't kid yourself.  Being over there and knowing your job is a lot different than being the one that sits at home waiting by the phone...Hoping that the conversation with him you had the other day wasn't indeed the last one you'll ever have with him.
881431
As a ex military wife there is always a chance for deployment.\nPlan your wedding the way, you want it. Keep a strong line of communications, you will be his rock. If possible meet as many wives, girlfriends that will be in your future husbands reserve unit, get to know them. They will become you new best friends and your rock. The military will make you both stronger and prouder than you ever image possible. Live everyday to it's fullest and always respect his wishes to serve his country, even when your scared for his sanity.
908401
As a general rule, the military has a no sexual activity policy in any communal living arrangement, regardless of it's location. The point being, you are here to be a soldier in a respectful working environment, not frolic in the land of sexual exploration. \n\nWith that said, we'd be foolish to expect that young soldiers (or older ones for that matter) are not interacting sexually. It happens every day even in places where it is not suppose to happen. You need to trust that your b/f is respecting your relationship and not push or question the subject now or ever. It's just not productive. If he is faithful, no questions are necessary. If he is not, you'll know eventually without pursuing the subject and make your choices then. \n\nHe could very well be questioning your fidelity as well, do you really want him doing that? Preoccupying his mind with whether you are faithful to him or not? Let this thought of yours go and not give it another thought. Do what you believe is right for yourself and have a little faith he will do what is right for himself. If that includes being faithful to one another, great! \n\nAnd when he calls home, be positive and supportive. He does need that more than anything else.
300569
First let me tell you that I'm sorry.  I know that right now you're heart is broken and you probably feel like you can't breathe.  You're hurt, angry and embarrassed. Nothing is going to make that better but time.\n\nBut as a wife, and an Army wife at that - let me say, congratulations.  I know it's impossible to see right now but she probably did you a favor.  You sound like a great guy.  Very caring and open with your feelings. You have a job that takes courage, and you have honor.  You deserve better than that.\n\nYou need a wife that will honor you, and love you no matter what. In your job you're gone a lot, to places that require you to be focused on your mission.... not just to perform well but to stay alive.  \n\nCan you imagine if you had married, then you deployed and she changed her mind then?  It takes someone really amazing to be an Army wife.  It's a tough job.  It takes a lot of committment, and stamina.  She has the ability to advance your career beyond what you can imagine right now.  And it doesn't sound like this girl new what she had in you... or what to do with it.\n\nGo out with they guys.  Spend some time with Good friends.  If you can - grab a buddy and go on a road trip.  Try and get away so everyone isn't asking about it.  Then make up a really great story about how you walked in and caught her filming a porno with a three legged midget and giraffe and kicked her to the curb to tell the guys when you get back to post.\n\nI know it doesn't seem like it..... but she may have just saved your life.  \n\nIt took me 26 years to find a guy like you, and there's nothing I wouldn't do for him.  After six years of marriage we are more in love than any couple we know.  And happier than we ever thought we would be.  You deserve that too. But we bothhad the kind of heartbreak you're having now along the way.\n\nHold on, brighter and less painful days are coming.... I promise.
554236
Don't pay attention to the men.  That is all they think about. Sex is good but usually for the girl  the first time it is not the greatest thing in the world.  Takes time to get it right. If your dumped quickly after wards you'll probably feel used and dirty.  In fact you may feel that way even if your not dumped. I recommend waiting a long time at least till you in your 20's to have sex.
803636
When I got deployed I was lonely and called my x whom I broke up with cause she treated me bad. When I returned I realized I just needed a security blanket to get me through till I was in a familuar place again. Your his security blanket. He will be great till he gets back in his groove, then you'll be on the back burner again. Go for the other guy.
232255
To join the military is a big adjustment period.  Let alone with a child already.  First you have to realize that there isn't one job in the Army where you can say 100% that you will not deploy.  Now deploying means anywhere from Kosovo to Iraq.  I have two children of my own.  I didn't have any when I joined.  Due to training, Temporary Duty in places where I'm not stationed, and Deployments I have missed both child births, both first steps, and both first words.  Is it hard?  Of course.  Is it worth it?  I believe it is.  Now also realize I'm an Active Duty soldier.  When I deploy it involves a lot of training before hand which means weeks away from home and long hours before I'm gone for a year.  For NG and Reservists deploying means "mobing" at an Army base for up to 6 months followed by a year long deployment.  As far as the push ups and the climbing goes. Ask your boyfriends father to teach you the correct push up form and start working on it before hand.  The minimum you have to reach by the end of training is 40 pushups, I believe, for the age group you're in.  Basic Training is hard but not impossible.  When things get hard just remember that you aren't the first female to go through it and you won't be the last.  I'm also an Army Brat.  My dad served two tours in Vietnam as well as Panama, Somalia, Bosnia, and the first gulf war.  I'm extremely proud of him and he helps me in my current carrier when I have leadership challenges.  Your boyfriends dad may or may not tell you what you want to hear.  He has a tough job though and I couldn't really blame him.  However my recruiter worked for my dad at one point so I got straight answers.  Ask him and when he tells you see how it makes you feel.  This is a decision you have to make for yourself.  You are responsible for raising your child and if this is the best way you can then go for it.  Is it better for a child to have a homeless family who's there all the time or a taken care of home who's parents are gone for periods at a time?  Granted that there are in betweens but I hope this kinda puts things in perspective.
554228
It isn't easy. You really got to love them to wait around but hey what else is there to do right? I mean you get to talk a couple of times a week and swap email. I take it he is deployed or you would be with him if he was just stationed at a base over seas somewhere. Take it from an ex Army man, it isn't easy for either of you and it can get boring and tempting to stray. Try and stay busy if your on post some place there has got to be a lot of other gals just like you waiting so hook up with some of them for someone to talk to they are in the same boat.\nGood Luck!!