i have custody of my cousin who is 18, is not ugly, why wont he go out and get a life? he has a car & friends?
929457
i'd be scared of life too if i'd lost my parents at an early age. it's going to take time. some people just aren't social. you can't make him do anything he doesn't want to.
1043002
If he still lives at home with his parents, then they are treating him like a kids still, and he cant grow up emotionally and socially.\n\nPeople who live with thier parents at a longer age than is necesary, are handicapped by them.  Its not intentially, but, it happens every time I see it.\n\nWhen he is emotionally ready to get out on his own, look for him then, until then, I would give him space because he isnt going to mature with you around, because he has that social crutch at home...\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse
875597
She is a very coniving person who can get what she wants from any guy that's willing to give it to her.  I didn't understand the total jist of your question, but your cousin will be a better man for leaving her and putting that relationship behind him for good.
191241
A person could walk out in the street tomorrow and be hit by a bus, You never know when your time will come.\nYou know you have about 5 years, spend it with family & friends, helping people & things you enjoy! Someone close to you could go first, thats the reality, you never know.\nMy granmother was very ill some time ago and everyone thought she would be the 1st to go in the family - then my aunt & uncle aged 17 & 18 were killed suddenly in a car crash - very unexpected. So take everyday as an opportunity to do something you love or spend time with someone you love. My deepest sympathy to you though and my wish is for you; whoever you are to be HAPPY!
486514
You are going to have to set some rules. He is going to be in your life, on a limited basis, for years to come because of the children, but you need to set a few things straight. One, he MUST pay child support. Two. When it's his visitation, he picks the children up, and brings them back. Don't let him run over you on this. Stand your ground! He can pay a visit to the jail house.....then he WILL obey the rules. Good Luck!!
226951
Your not being bossy, you are growing up and taking responsibility for your life.  I know it is probably hard for him to accept that he needs to grow up also but if he really loves you and his son then he needs to.  It simply is not ok to continue that life style when there are so many more important things in his life now.  He needs to understand that just because you are both growing older and you want to be more responsible isn't the end of all the fun in your lives.  It is just that the definition of fun needs to change.  It needs to be more family oriented.  Instead of going out partying till all hours of the night, you have friends over for a barbecue, you take a family trip, etc...
640628
Your "boyfried" has other, much more serious, things to be doing and taking responsibility for right now.  At 18 he's an adult with a family of his own - why would you even consider dating him?!  Is this what you want for your own life - a guy who has a baby to you then is off to the next 15 year old?  I doubt this will remain a friendship - if it does encourage him to support the baby and it's mother as he should.  Get YOUR priorities in order!!  You deserve much better!  Figure out what you want from life, work hard in school to get it, and stay focused.  Boys at this stage will mess up your goals much more than help them!  Good luck to you and God bless you.
529544
You might want a police escort there, just in case.  But if you are of legal age, there is nothing they can do to stop you.  I hope you're really sure this is the right thing to do, leaving your family for the promise of a boyfriend!\nMen will come and go, families are forever!\nRef: Escort: your local police dept can assign a police officer to your house, to keep you safe and escort you out.
1007488
Well if your cousin is of legal age and beyond the age of consent she is free to pick her own boyfriends so to keep from sounding ignorant its probably best for you to say nothing at all.
988770
There's the best one of them all....FAMILY. it's an institute which could turn a harened criminal back onto the right track....an "unruly teenager" shouldn't be problem. Granted that it would be tougher,  ro do it at home, but believe me, you are running away from the problem if you're going to dump him in some stranger place where people care about his problems and not him.
511384
Find someone your own age.  I think yours/his is bordering on criminal behavior
262492
According to the law, you have to keep her till she is 18. You are her guardian, and she has no choice in the matter. The law says she has to stick with you.
580227
why should You have to try to get him a steady job, He IS an adult right! Give him a month to get his affairs in order, KICK HIM TO THE CURB!
384003
It may appear that he is gone on with his life, and he is dealing with it better. But that is a cover.  You have to concern yourself with getting healthy, and raising your daughter.  It takes time to heal,and get over any loss. I am sure you are still attractive. You may not feel attractive but you are.  Life will get happier for you. Do not agonize over what he is doing.  \n\nI know I have been there done that.  My ex pretended like it was nothing that I left. He partied and went out all the time.  One year after I left he was arrested twice, lost his job, was evicted twice, and now lives with his father.  His life came crashing down around him. He was mean and cruel to me when we were married.  I actually feel sorry for him now.
652580
I agree he need to move out. Maybe get laid. If he's not a total jack*** then continue with your project, but their should be a point were you have to put a stop to it. If you don't see any change in him, then you will have to give up on him as his parents have done. You may also want to talk to his parents and see if they can help you with him. It nice to know that your a true friend to him.
597571
I'm old skool because I think you need to round up your male cousins and relatives, tell them what is going on and have them take the guy out to the woods and kick the crap out of him;  and when they are done, they just leave him out there to walk back...it should  be at least a mile from his home so he has to walk back and think about how he came to this state of ruination.  Now make sure you send one level-headed guy...you just want to teach him a lesson, not kill him.\n\nBelieve me, he will never call the cops and he will stay the heck away from her.
1092564
holy crap...you're lucky girl...don't let that one get away. he does those things because he wants to. i doubt he expects anything in return. his parents obviously raised him to be a gentleman which is wonderful! i wish my husband was like that.