How do I handle a friend that's VERY into highschool drama?
921480
I had a friend just like him. My mother was diagnosed with cancer and was going through treatments. I was helping her as much as I could and my "friend" kept going on with drama stuff in her life. I got angry and told her to stop being so self centered and look what others are going through. She still did not get it and I finally wrote her a letter telling her that I could not take any more of her drama. It was stressing me out too much and I needed all my focus to be on my mom. To make a long story short, I ended up not calling her anymore and when she called me, I told her I could n't talk on the phone right now. I ended our friendship.......Do whats best for you, free your self from this drama. Theres nothing worse than having other people think YOU are a drama queen too because you hang around him.
270506
okay, the only way to get past this is to let your friend be friends with them... let's be honest if you completely make your only friend stay away from them she may end up disliking you for making her pick sides.
1056575
This is your friend, so you must tell him straight out:\n" (name) we are really good friends, but I don't want anything to come between that, it would be too arkward. School comes first, mister. Also, dude, you gotta find yourself some hobbies and stuff so we are connected twins, becuase you do know that one day, we gonna have to go our separate ways..." This is a fun and simple way to break it to him, that school is really important to you and a strong friendship is needed to balance all the pressures of school. Also, don't call him a geek, school terms like that are really downgrading and depressing, I hate the titles they give to people (jocks, thespians, nerds), "It bothers the heck out of me" (catcher in the rye... a great novel that anyone should read)\nGOod luck, be friendly!!!
219792
Depending on the atmosphere and administration at your school, there's a good chance the counselor, vice principal, or principal can "do something" about the harrassment thing.  She (or one of her friends) should just tell the truth, and shouldn't be afraid to go back to the counselor or principal if it continues.  Nobody should have to put up with that.\n\nFrom the perspective of the person being picked on, if this person shows they are hurt or can't face the people picking on her, the jerks will keep being jerks.  But if she can turn straight to them, look them square in the eye, and calmly say "go pick on somebody else", and then calmly walk away - it should help.\n\nAs for talking to her... that's easy.  She should be just like talking to anyone else.  I'll guarantee she just wants to have a normal conversation with a normal person.  The guy just says hi, and talks about whatever he wants to.  Just like getting to know anybody else, the first conversation doesn't have to be any more than a couple seconds.
36111
i agree with SEMAJ.  if she is really a good friend then she'll listen to you.  tell her that in your opinion, her bf is trying to control her and you can see that.  and ask her if she wants to be controlled by him.  tell her that you dont have any intention to ruin her relationship but you are just trying to warn her and you are being a good friend.  you dont want her to get hurt someday so the if the bf is controlling her and its just ok for her dont feel bad.  she'll realize it and tell her no matter what you'll be there for her.
932150
Tell her to stop then because it is hurting your feelings.  If she don't want to stop, then you should stop hanging out with her.  Friends should respect each other.  Stick to your decision, no matter what the consequence maybe.  Don't worry about her gossiping about you, the most important thing is you stick to who you are as a person.  Eventually your action will speak louder than her words, if she retaliate like that.
720352
Punch her. Just kidding...Just tell her you really aren't interested in a friendship and that you wish she would BaCk uP oFf YoUr GrIlL. Just kidding again..LoL. but seriously, unless you tell her what's up she won't leave you alone...and you definitely don't want to deal with her for the rest of your school years, right???
992071
Be the biggest and go and apoligize to her.  No matter who started it....Never fight over a boy, they come and go but a friend will stay with you for life...from now on when she needs you to email someone, just tell her you would rather not be involved
831389
don't butt in. if she's willing to mess up their friendship (b/c shes gonna) let her\n\nand if it leads to that, dont take sides, stay nuetral.\n\nmaybe you should just try to prove to him that she is just "using" him in some sort of way.
868289
Your friend is in trouble and it sounds like you can help.  You should call the police ASAP!!!  If you don't want to report the abuse, report the dope.  \nI don't know how old you are but you if you are in school (not University) then you can tell a school counselor, they are mandated reporters in most states.\nGod luck to you and your friend.
493921
tell her that u don't want to be friends with her anymore. u don't want a friend that jokes around too much and goes to far and threatens to beat u up and ur friend and does beat y'all up. tell her that a TRUE FRIEND doesn't do that and that a TRUE FRIEND is suppossed to respect others' feelings and not beat them up. u can tell ur counselor and or/ someone else that u really trust. GOOD LUCK!
729973
Wow. When I think about that happening to me I almost start crying. This is a terrible tradgedy and I think you should avoid the subject. You'll never know how she'll react. When she comes in the class room try not to be extra nice to her or anything. She'll catch on sooner or later. Just act normal around her. That's what I think would be the best thing for her.
358005
From personal experiences growing up, I know how much that can hurt; I'm very sorry you're going through this. \n\nMy best advice for you would be to ignore the cruel things she says and does to you. I know that it's very hard to turn a blind eye, but sometimes that's all you can do.\n\nI would also suggest that you not try and be friends with her. You should be courteous to her, but you do not need to be her best bud. If she is such a mean girl, do you really want to become her friend? Girls like that are very charming and manipulative. They can get you to do things you would never dream of doing. I once became good friends with the "mean girl" of my school (just so she wouldn't be mean to me), and she pulled me into the peer abuse with her. Before I knew it, she was having me say and do horribly mean things to the girl that had been my best friend since I was 4. I did horrible things to her, and I live with that guilt every single day of my life, even though now we're both grown women and she has told me that I am forgiven. It's a horrible feeling, let me tell you.\n\nSo, to sum up this short novel I've written: Don't pay attention when she does crap to you. When you try and fight back, you're just feeding the beast. Kill her with kindness, but do not try and become her pal. It will only hurt you in the long run.\n\nI truly hope your situation gets better real soon!
259183
I would say that was no friend to start out with. This person wants to be popular and will do whatever it takes. I would confront her and tell her your true feelings then go from there.
367798
I would just mind your own business. Why would you want them both to get kicked out of school??? If it bothers you soooo much, talk to your friend. You're not involved so I woundn't get involved in the issue.
678751
Tell her the truth. Let her know that the other individual is your friend and that you don't want to talk negatively about anyone. If she can't respect that, she doesn't respect your friendship.
457839
Give each other space, but set a ground rule that you will be there for them no matter what. I have two best friends from high school I am still friends with based on this rule. We don't have to talk more than 4-6 times a year, but they know I will do anything for them..if asked.