Engagment Party Mother Of The Bride Problem!?
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Sounds as if you are stressing already!  Calm down and take a deep breath!  Is there a number where you can call your mother?  Does she have a cell phone, or do you know where she is staying?  If you can't get in touch with her by phone, then she has no reason to be upset with you when she returns home.  Explain to her your reasoning for having the party at the home of your future in-laws.  After that, make sure you plan something special for the two of you such as looking for your dress, or making further wedding plans.  Above all, remember it is YOUR wedding, and especially if you are paying for it yourself, you need to be able to make the final decisions.  Congratulations and Good Luck!
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Post what their ages are in your additional details and i'll be able to give better advice. BLESS YOU WOMAN. You are one brave soul! My children are 9 and 10 so I'll have to go with what I would want to do. BOWLING. Both sexes like it and you don't have to do much entertaining. Start making our a guest list now. The party is going to be in February but start organizing the details now. I'd make sure to buy canned pop. It's less of a mess and it will save you time. Ask your child what they want as far as cake and ice cream is concerned. Also, I always recruit a mother to help me out. It's usually my sister and my aunt.
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Hey my friend,Check with him first and ask him why he needs to tag you along to his mom's wedding.Where is your\n girl?Is she busy that day?These are two questions that you need to press the answers from him.Prepare to act quick and behave in term of not crossing the  line.Do not sweat and let guy see your intention.Act normal and see his intention.If she is out from his life then you can take over.But,she is busy and he needs double take then say no.Hey You are   not the second hand for him eventhough you like him.Be clever and look for your ownself.You are lady and wait for your turn.If it meant to be yours then he can not run away from you.
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I can't help you but I can join you!!!!!!!!! Pitty party for moms of teenage boys........Whoot.....Whoot!\nDear GOD please let this be over soon!
1031955
I hate to say it, but this is one argument that you're not going to win. The fact is, this was her wedding. She shouldn't have made you uncomfortable during your stay, but by the same token, you could have made other arrangements if it wasn't comfortable for you. And you did agree to be her maid of honor, something that you either could have turned down, or split with another bridesmaid. It's not unheard of to do this. \n\nIt probably wasn't an issue of punishment, more an issue of first come, first served, and you would have kicked someone else out of a bed. \n\nWhat it comes down to, it was her wedding. That means that she is going to be in the right in her mind, no matter what you say. My suggestion, leave this out of the equation when you talk to her. She'll just get defensive and you'll look petty. Take some time away from her. If your friendship will survive, it will happen in spite of this. Eventually, and if someone else brings it up, she will probably understand what she did was wrong. \n\nLet her make the decision about "de-friending". By asking the question, you've already made up your mind. It's not something that you can just choose to do; feelings aren't that temporal. If there are issues, they'll come from a long ways off. See if time and distance will help, and see if she's making any movements towards reconciling. You may need her later to throw you a party!\n\nGood luck!
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You cannot use his mother's name on the invitations. She passed away. Be nice to the father's new wife and include her. \n\nWho are inviting the guests? If it is the bride's parents - the groom's parents or the couple itself? Being that you have three children allready, I presume you are inviting the guests? If so; how about letting your children invite?\n\nWe are so happy to see our parents (finally)marrying so and so where and when. We would love to see you blablabla so and so.\n\nGood luck!
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What you wrote sounds like my story. I've got the same problem with my mother in law. My husband really appreciates that I act like I'm stupid. \nI refuse to drop down to her level and when she is really mean to me I just smile and nod. Sometimes I think she tries her hardest to piss me off, but I won't give her that joy.\nFor your husband it's probably best to ignore the situation and play along like you all get along. It's not worth splitting up families over. You may regret it if your husband decides to choose for you and stops speaking to his mom.\nBe happy she doesn't live IN your house. \n\nStay the respectable party and don't let your feelings show! I know this is tough but it's the most peaceful way. Good luck, don't let her drive you mad, you've got the upper hand!
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You shouldn't feel offended then if she didn't invite any of the family. Maybe she didn't want to be bothered by everyone and was planning on announcing it after the wedding was over. Did you ask her about it?
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Let them know that paying does not imply planning, they are helping your wedding not planning the perfect one they wish they had. This is your day no one should keep you from what you want. Do what you feel is right don't follow others orders just cause they're paying the tab. Is that the only reason they're help, so they can control it? If you get anything besides love and support don't let them pay for it because as the wedding gets closer they'll just be more and more controling
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This is one of the hardest things to resolve in relationships, unfortunately. Keep in mind that your mother-in-law is also your wife's mother. I'm sure you already know that most people try to please, or at least placate, their mother. You're in a difficult position, but there are some things you can do:\n\n1. Communicate with your wife ... constantly. The two of you must not allow this to interfere with your relationship.\n\n2. Communicate with your mother-in-law. Do NOT retaliate in kind ... EVER! Do NOT lose your temper! She obviously angers you, but you have to be bigger than that. Ask her what it is that bothers her about you and offer to try and change at least some of those things ( IF you can and IF they are not part and parcel of who you are ).\n\n3. If you can afford to, you and your wife should find a competent marriage counselor to help you cope with this problem ... soon!\n\n4. When the baby arrives, I suspect your mother-in-law will want very much to see him/her as often as possible, particularly if this is her first grandchild. This gives you an excellent lever. Stress to your mother-in-law that this is both YOUR child and HER grandchild, and that both of you should want to do what is best for the child; and that her berating you will definitely NOT be good for the child. As an ABSOLUTE LAST RESORT, if you and your wife AGREE on this, BOTH of you have a talk with her mother and tell her, as gently as possible, that the TWO of you have decided to not expose your child to your mother-in-law's berating of you. Stress that, if she is willing to stop it, she can visit anytime the three of you agree. Let me stress again that this is a LAST RESORT, and should only be used if BOTH you and your wife truly AGREE!\n\nGood luck with this, and don't foget to seek that which is best for ALL parties involved.
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The bride is to puchase for her Attedants - Bridesmaids, Maid of Honor, Guestbook Attendant, Gift table Attendant, Flower Girl. For her mother and father. For the Groom's mother and father(groom and bride together), and for the groom.\n\nThe groom has to purchase gifts for his Attendants- Groomsman, Bestman, Ringbearer, Paige, $100 dollar donation to pastor or officiant, both sets of parents, and the bride.\n\nGrandparents aren't usually included, but that would be a nice jesture. Just think of everyone that is involved in the actual wedding ceremony and there is your answer. Also, if you have a wedding planner or coordinator - I'm sure they would appreciate a small gift......Think of your wedding like a weird christmas.........good luck!!!
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Explain your situation to Erin.  If you are close enough friends that she picked you to be her maid of honor then she will understand.  You can't spend the money if you do not have it.  When I got married, my maid of honor did not come to my bachelorette party.  We went to St Louis to party downtown.  She is already married and has a son and is in her 30's.  Partying is just not her thing.  I completely respected that and did not expect her to come.  She did not come and we are still best friends to this day, 5 years later.  It did not hurt my feelings or bother me one bit that she did not want to come.  Your friend will understand too.  Good Luck:)
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Looks like she wont be able to come then.  This is your wedding, the final descion that is made should be yours and your husbands.
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Sorry, but welcome to being a stepmom...yep, you'll have to invite her and pray she declines, unless the kids are old enough for their father, not you, to explain that it might not be such a happy thing for their mom to watch him get married again.
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Let her talk to the parents. If you have nothing to hide, then that should not be a problem. But also explain to her how important this is to you. My mother refused to allow me to go to a party after graduation. I am nearly 50 years old now and I still harbor resentment for that. Be honest with her and with yourself. But also respect her. She has her reasons for wanting to protect you. You will only understand when you become a parent yourself, as I am now.
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It's not his mother's wedding, and I highly doubt she is footing the bill, so therefore, she has no say in where it is.  I don't think there's much you can do to stop the situation except maybe get caller i.d. and don't answer when his family calls.  As far as the manipulation, your man needs to stand up to his family and tell him he's not going to stand for them treating you with such disrespect.  Good luck!
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1. For a unique party favor my groom and I are giving out lottery tickets. Only $1 each.. I will have a note in the program stating the tickets were chosen because we are so lucky to have our family and friends with us on our wedding day.\nI will also add a line that all winnings will need to be split with the bride and groom!\n\n 2. Instead of having an ordinary guestbook, that you hardly will look at again, I am going to create a photo guest book.  My guestbook attendants will take polaroids of each guest... either individually or in a group, however they come, and put it on the pages of the guestbook/scrapbook.  The guests will then sign on the bottom of their picture.  My fiance and I will then have a photo album of all the guests at our wedding! :) GST\n\n3. We are getting married next year and instead of the traditional wedding we have decided to go with a "rock-n-roll" theme. We are going to have records displayed around the hall with our names on them and a picture of the two of us. Our colors are navy blue, black and silver so there will be plenty of those colors…from the silver glitter on the black tables cloths to the silver spray painted roses.\n\n 4. Since this is a second marriage and there are children that will be blended into a new family, we are decorating the tables at the reception with photo trees holding photos of my future husband and I and our children doing things together. We feel it shows that this marriage is not the union of just two people, but the formation of a new family.\n\n5. We had a shortage of single men and women invited to our wedding, most of our friends and family were already married.  So we needed to come up with something different to replace the traditional bouquet and garter throwing.  We invited everyone to the dance floor and the dj played several lovely, slow songs.  First the dj told all couples married two hours or less to sit down (everyone got a kick out of that).  Then a few moments later, any married a year or less, than five years, ten years and so on, until there was only one couple left.  They were neighbors and friends of my family and had been married for fifty years.  We asked them to stay on the dance floor while I took a seat and my husband made a big show of removing my garter.  We then faced the winning couple, congratulated them on their fifty years and asked them for their best marriage advice as we presented them with the bouquet and garter.  They were very touched and it gave us a great feeling too.