I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years++ and he still hasn't proposed, should I leave him???
924869
You haven't told us your age.  No matter how you cut it, it really depends on how old you are right now.\n\nIf you're still very, very young ... let's say, under 24, then you can still afford to wait awhile longer.\n\nIf you're approaching 30 ... well, that's certainly not old by any means, but it is a benchmark because at around that age, you start seriously thinking about whether or not to have children.\n\nYou have to figure that if you leave this guy, it'll take a little while before you meet the next guy ... and then it'll take some time to build that relationship up to the point where marriage is a possibility ... and then yet more time until the topic of having children is ready to be discussed.\n\nI guess what I'm trying to say in a nutshell is this:  Don't waste ***all*** of your youth on a " possibility "... save some of it for the next guy you could be with who would gladly marry you in a heartbeat.\n\nThere's also that famous old saying that applies to guys who don't marry the women they live with:  " Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free ?  "   \n\nSorry Sweetie, but I can't help but think that if he isn't ready after 4 years, he might never be ready.  And you just might be missing out on meeting that special someone out there who really wants you in every possible way.\n\nWhatever you ultimately decide, I wish you every possible happiness.  Good Luck !!!
71225
You need to figure out if you are ready for marriage. Have you accomplished all that you wanted to while single? Are you in love with the man, or in love with the idea of being in love? You need to sit down with your boyfriend to find out if he to is ready for all this and find out what you both want from life and from marriage. Then you decide what is best. I got married right after my 19th birthday. It's not right for everyone, but I have been married for 11 years now, and have no regrets. Just keep in mind, that neither you or your partner will be the same person you are today 5 years from now. You are both still growing up. I have had a wonderful time "growing up with my husband" (he was 21 when we got married. It has been fun discovering new things about eachother over the years.
223537
tell him yore problem.. talk to him.... and then.. if he still doesn't .. then well.... i think its better if you went yore way.. but since you've been with him for 4 yrs.. its hard.. but try it....good luck (^_^) !
116349
This is a very difficult situation you are in. While 4 years may or may not seem like a lot. At his age, and at yours, four years can be critical. People change a lot in four years (emotionally) at his and your age. He still has to go through highschool, you will soon be entering your young adult years. While now you two may seem to have a lot in common or can see the world through the same eyes, you can just as easily find that you are worlds a part in as little as a year. I would recommend you talk to an adult that you trust and has your best interests at heart. There guidance can help you decide what to do since they know you better than we do. I wish you well.
781492
OMG...all this for a boyfriend? How many boyfriends have you had? I suggest you work on securing your self and not make life decisions based on a non-commited relationship. Yes, non-commited. It really doesn't matter how much he says he cares. If you don't have that marriage certificate, it's a bad decision.
1116318
Try to talk it out... if that doesnt work then leave. Remember he has to make changes for himself not for you only!!!!!
36054
go propose... wat r u waiting 4... maybe he too likes u and doesnot kno whether u lik him or not... be honest with him... and brace urself for the worst cases lik "sorry, i am already married".
310211
well, give the guy some time, may be hadn't realized yet , that u love him.well, u can't stop lovin' a person just like that,even if u leave him, u'll atleast once in  a while think of him.have patience. if u truely love him ,  no matter how much  ever late he is , u'll wait.but if the relationship isn't workin' , better to part .have trust in ur relationship.if u trust him, relax  nicely., there's no problem at all.\nor it might lead to a misunderstandin'.sum times it either takes   a person too long to realize or just takes a minute to realize sumthin'. so have patience.i suggest u better have a chat with  him to clear the  mess, so that u don't regret ur decision later.gud luck !
346000
Ma'am I know you are in love and that this will be hard to hear but, you will be waiting a lot longer than four years. If he has not left his wife yet, he never will.\nHe may have lots of reasons why he hasn't and may even tell you when he will divorce....but, bottom line is......... if he didn't love her and wanted to be with you, he would have left by now. You are worthy of having real true love with a man that does not have to be shared.
672936
talk to him. you love him whatever the decision is. i think it is important you two make up your minds first. does he want to stay with his girlfriend and why is it that the two of you always end up together. easy answer i guess. but does it make sense to give in every time you meet? do you want to progress - or do you love him and want to know better..? last but not least.. just enjoy that there's someone special like this boy in your life. guess he will be there always whatever your decision. good luck.
678557
I agree with just about everyone.  If he hasn't said it, either he doesn't feel it or he is afraid of committing to you.  Either way, if you want a committed relationship you should talk to him about it.  Saying that you love someone doesn't mean that you have to get married!  A year is plenty of time to know how you feel.  If it was something like a matter of weeks or months I'd say cool it and wait, but it has been too long.  He needs to tell you how he feels.
1032870
It sounds as though he is the one not being honest here.  You're right, you don't end a four year relationship over something like this without at least talking about it.  There has to be something else that he is not telling you.  Perhaps he got scared after you moved in and decided he wasn't really ready to take that step after all and this is just his way of getting out of it.  There could be lots of reasons, but one thing is for sure... without trust you have NO relationship.  And right now, he doesn't trust you.  Clearly he has some issues that he needs to deal with, and the best thing for you, hard as it may be, is to let him go for now.  If you two are truely a match, he won't be gone for long.  And if things don't work out, better now than several years from now when it would be even more painful.   Breaking up is never easy and often leaves one or both people with hurt, confussion, and a lot more questions than answers.  Try not to be so afraid of the pain that you loose yourself trying to please him, or judge him too harshly at a time when neither of you are at your finest.  Give it time and you will both find your way through this, whether it's together or apart.
458021
i had that problem before i accually am going through the sane thing right now but have found  as long as theres is mutual love and trust in the relationship it will work for a long time i have had a relationship where i only saw my girlfirend onnce every six months as well and we stayed toghether for three yrs and then she moved and we lost touch but if you really love him and trust him stay with it. otherwise talk to him and ask him what he thinks would be best for the two of u. wheather that would mean breaking up or staying together. just follow ur heart and u will find out what to do! :) good luck
982507
Seven years is a long time to be with someone....you have a lot of history together which will not be easy to leave behind.  You need to really examine the relationship as only you know if it is worth saving.  If you really love him and things are good otherwise, then I would take him up on his offer and get some counseling.  That will also help you decide if he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.  He may also be able to overcome his self esteem issues and be able to better perform in the sexual arena.  So try the counseling.....give it another go and if he falls back or you decide it's just not going to work then you can move on....Good luck in whatever you decide
504384
Okay first this is a decision totally based upon when he feels ready. Pressuring him will make the sitiation intensely more difficult But the good news is he actually sounds as if he is planning something...I was very confused just like you before my fiance proposed he always made it clear to me that it would eventually happen just not as soon as I wanted but sure enough he proposed..So let him do this at his own pace..Your realtionship sounds solid so just give him the time he needs this is a HUGE step for both of you....I have a feeling congradualtions will be something you will hear soon!
296767
What's the length of time that you two have been dating without interruptions up to now, without a break?  How many times have you broken up?  You should deal with the problems that you have had that caused the break-ups before you get married, because those problems will get worse during marriage.  Do you expect him to change?  Well, often that doesn't happen during marriage.  If there's a problem now, fix it.\n\nDo you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him?  Do you have stable jobs?  Are you sure you won't want to break up again?  Think about living with him 24/7.  If you have to go to a site to ask this question, maybe you should hold off thoughts of marriage for a while.
715565
He obviously understands your feelings, and you understand his, now is there room for both of you to compromise.  Maybe set a date for a few years from now or just get engaged and not set a date yet.  I don't think it would be fair to either of you if only one of you made concessions.  It wounds like you are the one doing it now.  Talk to him about a compromise.