I am gay and fancy a guy who could be. How can i tell without freaking him out?
926753
It sounds like he's interested in you and probably having the same problem you are having, not sure and afraid.  I think you should just come out an ask him.  If that's not possible for you, well, you could run your hands on his body and see how he reacts.  You could talk about openly gay things and people and see if he is responsive....by the way if you are both dancing in the same place and he's running his hands up/down your back, that seems like he's not shy and that you should have no problem simply asking....
398148
You need to be honest with him. If he's straight and not into you then at least you will know. Maybe he wants to know because maybe he's interested in you. Either way you need to be honest with him. If it's meant to be it will be. Show him respect always and by being honest with him it shows him the utmost respect. Good luck honey!
947993
Ask him out and tell him about your feeling towards him. if he freaks out, then his not gay or bi. then you would better not continue your flirting with him anymore. better kno 1st or its too late.
904520
If you have this much doubt, chances are you havent seen a clear sign and should walk away before you get humiliated or humiliate yourself. Chances are he's just a really nice guy who has sisters and and great parents he's learned from. If you want to know you need to straight up ask him and dont' play games. Just say "Listen, are you seeing anyone or looking for a relationship, I am just wondering? " and be serious, say it in a way where he wont really suspect you, or you will have outed yourself.
761016
If you flat out ask him, it could be awkward for both of you. Maybe you should be a little bit stronger in your hints and say something along the lines that, even though you are straight, you wouldn't mind having a gay friend and ask him if he has ever known anyone who is gay. Most gay people have the feeling that it is killing them inside before they come out, so even if he doesn't open up to you right away remain a close friend. If he is gay, your friendship will mean a lot to him.
185410
I think you should maybe give some detail, but if this is really a burning question...ask him!  If he does, he will be glad that you feel the same and are willing to risk looking goofy to find out. If he does not, he will hesitate or disappear and then you will not waste any time on a man who does not deserve it.  You do not have to do it face to face, if you are scared, do it in a letter or on the phone. Good Luck!
520232
How to tell if you're gay: \n1. If you are over 30 and you have a washboard stomach, you are gay. It means you haven't sucked back enough beer with the boys and rather you've been sucking-off the boys and have spent the rest of your free time doing sit-ups, aerobics, and doing the Oprah diet. \n\n\n\n2. If you have a cat, you are a Flaaaayming gay. A cat is like a dog, but gay: it grooms itself constantly but never scratches itself, has a delicate touch except when it uses its nails, and whines to be fed. And just think about how you call a dog..."Killer, come here! I said get your butt over here!" Now think about how you call a cat... "Bun-bun, come to daddy, snookums!" Jeeezus, you're fit to be framed, you're so gay. \n\n\n\n3. If you suck on lolipops, Ring-Pops, baby-pacifiers, or any such nonsense, rest assured, you are a Gaylord. A straight man only sucks bar-b-q ribs, crab-claws, raw oysters, craw-fish guts, pickled pigs feet, or titties. Anything else and you are in training to suck El Dicko and undeniably gay. \n\n\n\n4. If you refuse to take a dump in a public bathroom or piss in a parking lot, you're in a deep homosexual relationship. A man's world is his bathroom, he defecates and urinates where he pleases.\n\n\n5. If you drink decaf coffee with skim milk, you like a high hard one in the poop-chute. Coffee is to be had strong, black (or with thick, wholesome milk) and full-aroma. A vagina-eating man will never be heard ordering a "Decaf Cafe Latte with Skim" and he will never, ever know what artificial sweetner tastes like. If you've had Nutrasweet in your mouth, you've had a dick there too. \n\n\n\n6. If you know more than six names of colors or four different types of dessert, you might as well be handing out free passes to your bung. A real man doesn't have memory space in his brain to remember all of that crap as well as all the names of all the players in the Major league, NFL, NBA, college ball, PGA, and Nascar. If you can pick out chartreusse or you know what a "fresier" is you're gay. And if you can name ANY type of textile other than denim, you are faggadocious! \n\n\n\n7. If you drive with both hands on the wheel, forget it...you hungry for meat-popsicle. A man only puts both hands on the wheel to honk at a slow driver or to cut the dude off. The rest of the time he needs that hand to change the radio station, eat his hamburger, hold his beer, finger the bi-atch in the passenger seat (whoever she happens to be), or, if he's Latino, talk on his cell-phone. \n\n\n\n8. If you enjoy romantic comedies or French films, mon-frere, vous sonnez le Gay, oui? The only time it is acceptable to watch one of those is with a woman who knows how to reward her man. Watching any of the above films by yourself or with another man is likely to result in SHC (spontaneous homosexual combustion), which is what happens to fags when they flame out too quickly.
532072
You might feel like you're on a date, but that's just because you're straight.  He doesn't feel that way at all.  I had this one friend and I didn't think that I was leading her on or whatever and she KNEW I was gay, but she said that it was unfair of me to play with her like that and act like I was into her.  I wasn't GIVING her signals or anything though.  If he really wants you, let him come to you, you don't wanna lose a friendship just because you think you could convert him.  Things would just be WEIRD between the two of you.
410551
does he know that ur gay? if he does then have some one else (i suggest a girl do this) ask him in a casual way what his oientation is and the when they know for sure and tell you then go and ask him out.
298720
Stop making an issue of him being gay. He is a person just like anyone else and Im sure it would please him to be treated as everyone else. Going out of your way to  "please him" in some special way will comeoff as fake and he will feel it.\n\nJust be yourself and work as usual.
199876
just ask him and if he dose not have the same feeling for u don't worry cause I'm sure u can find greater guys then him
114699
"when i do find that guy that has all those qualities it either scares me or i dont believe the guy"\n\nYou HAVE to go for it when you meet someone like you just described!  He may be the wrong one.....  BUT!  He might be the right guy!  You HAVE to give him a try or you'll never find the perfect guy. \n\n...and don't be scared.  Just be yourself.  Then you'll know if he IS the guy, and he will know if you're the right girl.
1042898
What makes you think he's Gay?  \n\nMany Gay people do their 'best to fit into society' by joining up with a person of the opposite sex to keep the appearance of being 'normal'.  They marry and have kids sometimes as well -- all to keep up the facade and DENY who they are to themselves and his family.  The thing is, if you believe this to be true, then first thing is ask him.  If he denies (he will I'm sure), then be on your way if you are that convinced.  Because no matter how attractive you are, sweet, loving etc.. he will NOT change who he is attracted to - it's in his DNA/Biology who he is attracted to.  So do yourself a favor and just walk away from that.  \n\nI hope it all works out for you, but there are no 'sure tests' to be 100%.  If your GUT is telling you he is, then trust your gut, because most of the time, your gut is never wrong.  If your friends have 'gently commented/asked about it' then it is 'for sure' time to break it off.  Do your best not to hurt his feelings and your own feelings.  Be good to yourself and there is NOT something wrong with you that you 'fell' for osmeone Gay.  \n\nGood Luck and be well! :)
161709
To court my guy friend just to find out if he's realy gay.
309154
try arranging to 'run into him" kinda. find out someplace you know he might be and try to show up at the same time. " oh, hey. what are you up to, i know it's been a minute since i said what's up, but, um, what's up ?" just try to be confident, don't be too nervous or you'l fer sure slip on the dufus rag. good luck, man-and remeber this-no one is out of anyone's league. I don't know what you look like, and it doesn't even matter. if YOU believe in you, most everyone else will, too. If YOU do evrything you can to FEEL attractive, most people will think that you are, too.i hope you rope yer cowboy, hun. good luck.
171314
In this situation you should probably try spending some quality time with the person sooner or later it will become totally clear of their sexuality and you never know if they are they may come out and ask you first, either that or talk to a mutual friend if there is one available, and try to get the dish on what they are into, basically the same thing you would do if you were straight, nothing really has to be different. The worst that could happen is that he says no but it is best to be true to yourself :-))!!!
871750
no you are not gay. there will always be times like this when you will be confused  by friendship over attraction. just let it go.