advice on starting divorce proceedings?
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It really depends on the situation at hand. Are you and the soon to be ex getting along? If so, perhaps you can work on all the paperwork together. If you can keep lawyers out of it, you save money and a lot of other crap that goes along with it b/c some lawyers really encourage playing games that just stir the proverbial pot.
1145625
Talk to an attorney to do the paperwork.
1104573
The best way to get a reliable answer to this question is to call Lawyers in your State and ask if they will give you an initial free consultation for a Divorce.  Many Attorneys offer such an interview and you can ask questions specific to your problem and get informed, professional answers.   To find Lawyers that handle Family Matters including Divorce in your area try an online site like http://www.divorcenet.com
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talk to an attorney let me know how things are going\nMark \nMrklcoac2002@yahoo.com
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I'm sorry to hear about your marital difficulties.\n\nI'm a divorce mediator and an attorney.  I will tell you what I would tell prospective clients:  \n\nPlease do not think of mediation as a substitute for legal advice.  It is not.  You have questions right now about the legal consequences of moving out of your house and leaving your children with your husband.  A mediator cannot answer that.  \n\nOnly an attorney admitted to practice in your state can provide you with the independent legal advice you need in order to make fully informed decisions about the issues your question raises.    \n\nYes, mediation can be a helpful way for people going through separation or divorce to sit down together and have a productive conversation about the decisions they will need to make.  These can include things like creating a workable parenting plan for the children and to make decisions about issues like the division of property or planning and paying for college.  \n\nMediation works best when both spouses are clear about what they want, whether it's divorce or separation.  Contentious, highly complex cases are probably not suitable for mediation.  \n\nWithout knowing more about your situation, it's impossible to say whether mediation is appropriate or not.  Only you can answer that.  Discuss your case with an attorney to help you decide that.  Also contact family mediators and talk with them.  Most mediators take care to rigorously screen cases before accepting them. \n\nEven if you eventually do use mediation to help you and your husband work out an agreement together, you should each still consult with your own separate attorney before signing any agreement reached through mediation.  Mediators themselves, even if they are attorneys, cannot provide you with legal advice.  \n\nAgain, mediation is no substitute for legal advice.  And this web site is not the place to get the professional advice you need.  Most respondents are lay people who are not in the best position to answer an important question like this.  You wouldn't ask for help diagnosing a medical condition through a forum like this.  Please look for your answers from trained professionals who are qualified to help you.  \n\nBest of luck to you and your two sons.  I hope you're finding ways to get the support that you and they need during this difficult transition.
1127450
Wow, 20 years! Counseling is definitely the first line of defense! If you are willing to try one last thing before ending the relationship, please try counseling with a licensed counselor. It seems like the easy way out now but believe me, the hurt and destruction divorce causes makes losers of everyone involved.
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Shop around for a good atty.  I know one who only charged $75 for an uncontested divorce. (not including the filing fees).\n\nYou might also try your local lawschool/library.  My lawschool's library had a wide range of forms for pro se (do it yourself) patrons.
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My new husband had that problem, it's rather simple... Get the attorney to get the papers going, he"ll list it in the news paper that he is being looked for and if there is no answer, well, your papers go through and you are divorced after a short time, weather he answers the attorney thing or not. it's  not all that hard, just get youself a good attorney honey..
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go on line and go under attorneys. then type in probate attorneys. There are all kinds of attorneys that work and give advice for free. Especially when it comes to children. Free bono attorneys just do some research. and to file she doesn't need any money. just go to the court house to the clerk and ask for a divorce packet tell them mom with child and no money and they will wave it all. I know i did it with 3 girls and a screw up for an old man. He doesn't even have to show up just send a certified copy to last known address and that's all you need to do. If he shows good for him if not better for you....
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get a lawyer, sadly its the answer to most questions. there are experts in family law and they will know the answers. pick up a phone book and find a divorce lawyer would be a good place to start they would know where to start or who to talk to if you cant find anyone else
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A divorce itself if a simple procedure that can be done in 3 months.\n\nWhat takes the time is the finances and children matters, which can run on for years.\n\nIt is usual to avoid finalising the divorce (ie applying for decree absolute) until financial matters are concluded so that can stretch matters out a bit.
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Go to your local library tell them you need divorce papers. You can then copy the papers and fill them out. The papers at the library tell you what you need to do and where to go. If you have questions on it you can always call an attorney or check it out on the web. Of course you take it the court house pay the fees. If he contest, or decides to make it difficult for you, then get an attorney, if you can't afford one the courts will usually recommend one or head you in the right direction. In most states whoever files has the burden of all costs. In some, they split.
1016719
Get a divorce kit at Walmart and follow the instructions.  As long as he doesn't contest anything it will cost you very little.
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You need to contact the District Attorney's office for your area. You can find it easily by Google-ing your city/ state and the words "District Attorney". OR\nLook in the "Government" section of your phone book.\nThe District Attorney will help you and file proper paperwork. You will probably need to get yourself a divorce attorney. Since he abandoned you and remarried, the divorce will probably go pretty good for you, legally speaking.\nYour husband's new marriage is invalid, in the case of multiple marriages, the first one is the legal marriage.\n\nGet on the ball, I know you are hurt but, you need to protect yourself, as his legal wife, you could be held responsible for any debts he incurs or any lawsuits against him. He sounds like a scoundrel! You are lucky he is outta your house.
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Why cant you contest the divorce. Go see the judge and tell him you do not want this to take place. Dont sign the papers be tough.
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Don't have the relationship UNTIL everything has gone thru the court systems. That way HUBBY/EX-to-be can't use anything against you. \n\nTHEN go slowly starting a NEW relationship. Take it slow and easy.
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talk to your lawyer. hire a lawyer.