it is hard for me to make friends?
913612
You just need to have patince. Joining a college club may help but that doesn't agrantee that youl meet good friends there. Good friends you usually meet when you dont expect it. When you go to school go with a big great smile and say hello to everybody. And im sure someone wil come and to you. I dont have allot of friends but the one i have are good ones. Im studying in another country and in teh almost 2 year that im here i only made 1 good friend. Friends you can have allot but good friends are hard to make. So just take it easy. Better go slow now, so you dont get hurt later. Choose wisely. You don't want someone who wil betray you later. \nIf you want we can be online friends. if your interested look me up nice_dutch123@yahoo.com
313023
i'm a loner myself. i dont have close friends to hang out with. i only talk with my bf and my sisters. sometimes i'm bored and hoping that i have few friends to talk and out with. its not that i'm unfriendly, i just did'nt find someone that really understand me as a friend. when i found ur question,i felt that i'm not the only one who had this kind of problem. maybe it's normal.
707467
If you are yourself and don't try to be who people WANT you to be you will be more likely to make friends. Be an individual, not a mindless idiot that does what other people want you to do and be. As long as you are yourself and are true to yourself then you will make friends.
307445
I might be wrong, but I believe that the problem is that you are trying to behave the way everyone wants you to. What I am about to say is such a cliche, but nevertheless true: just be yourself. If those people don't hang out with you anymore, than they haven't been very good frineds to begin with. You are better off without them. \nAnd the fact that you are lonely is not necessarily related to the fact that you are alone. You can also be lonely in the mids of a crowd. Hope I gave you some food for thought........
936148
Making friends cannot be rushed, but be confident and introduce yourself to folks. As time goes on you will get to know which ones are friend material, but you have to put yourself out. \nDo not  make hasty conclusions about the people you meet in your new school, just consider how you are feeling, maybe they are feeling worse and acting up. \nBe as nice as you would want your friends to be to you. Keep on a good genuine smile, nobody likes a grouch. Above all dress decent, and clean, people are drawn to nice people.\nSee if you can meet some of your classmates on line, you can get acquainted on line and then it will be easier when you meet in person.\nAlso learn to like your own company, find things that fulfill you as an individual, friends will like your company better, when they realize you are cool even by yourself.\nBest wishes to you.
381763
You might be afriad of opening up to people becuase of hurt in your past. Friends really are the best thing life, treat them that way and you will be fine. Don't let your fear of opening up ruin that for you. Good luck.
771907
dont worry you dont have to belong to any particular group and is best if you dont like that you avoid getting caught up in the middle of groups you choose who you want to be friends w/ ohhh and stop being shy make new friends find something of similar interest and talk talk talk
751363
I feel its all in the mind.A person as such is not born like that we just make a habit just like other.so i guess make new friends would help.if not make a new hobby or learn a new game.All the best!!
132570
You should never have to try hard to be someones friend. If people don't like  you for who you are then they aren't worth being friends with. No matter what, just be yourself.
145627
My philosphy is that I didn't get my job to make friend.  I have friends.  I got my job to make money.  It can be touchy when others have friendships, esp. with bosses in your office.  Go with the flow.  Sit down, be quiet, and don't rock the boat or they will throw you overboard!!  Good luck...I know that it is no fun.
91918
nothing, it's the others who have the problem. Just let them warm up to you, you seem like a nice person. Give them a sign that you want to be their friend, and they will want to be yours too. good luck!
1071350
Talk to people. Where ever you are, talk. you will find others that you are comfortable with, and have similar opinions. Be yourself, \n\nExamples: Open a door for someone as they leave the store, comment on the weather, the store, if the other person is open to you, conversation will take hold. If a neighbor two houses down is out in the yard, start talking. Ask if they want help with what ever task they may be doing at the time. Or ask for assistants for yourself - people generally like to be needed.\nThe EASY part is finding friends.\nThe HARD thing is keeping them...\nRemember; Every body likes to talk about their self, talk about others, offer their advise and experiences........Just don't go out of the comfort zone! To know what that is, think of subjects that you would be un-easy talking to a stranger about! ... ... You can take it from here!\n\nSee how easy that was? If we had been talking in person, you would have the start of a new friendship!
382447
20 yrs and counting...3 years ago, and I don't know where I'd be if I hadn't made that friend!!\nI don't think that it's much more difficult to make friends as you age but that friendship takes on a different role. When you are younger, you have more time to play and hang out but as you age priorities take on a different meaning. It's not so much about fitting in or being accepted but paying bills and dating and children or work and career and its really difficult to step out of that groove and invite someone into your personal space or trying to tap into someone's  list of things to do... It's unfortunate-I really do think that friendship should have as much importance in the lives of 30 year olds as it does in the lives of 13 year olds but that is how it is (and I think it does-it just manifests itself in a different way-a quick phone call instead of a walk or a 1/2 hr coffee instead of an evening out drinking)...I have also noticed this-As you age (well into late life, seniors, old foggies) there seems to be a very high networking of friends (ladies quilting, men playing chess). So, not to worry, there will your later years when people are surrounded by their "senior buddies".
396837
Hi, I would like to make friends also but I am not going to publish information about me through this answer, so contact me via e-mail. \n\nOh, I forgot, pick mine as the best answer and remember to contact me so you can think about it.
1116259
some are rude, others understand, it is ok to make new friends. good luck
930848
So you want to make friends now because you feel lonely .... does this about sum it up?\n\nStart slow; call your "best" friend and arrange a lunch.  During lunch tell your friend what you've told all of us and ask for his help in getting you out more socially.\n\nOr, make new friends.  Go to an event where people are put together by common interest - a book club, gardening club, whatever you are interested in.\n\nSince you've spent your life being alone, here's a rule to being a friend that will help - show interest in the other person, the friendship isn't all about you!  Ask questions about their life, most people love to share stories of their lives; after all, they want to share themselves too!
392911
Everybody should have friends, no matter what age you are, live is really hard if you don't.Good luck.