i'm marrid and now my relaion with my husband is in a worst condition all because of his greediness and lie
926921
Sorry to hear that.  Do you have a question?
655066
The scorn that 'The Pilot' has just poured out on you in unjustified.  Your husband made marriage vows, you have needs, if he were in your shoes he would probably have done something about the situation long ago.  I think you need to take a complete break from routine, say go to a hotel, order in dinner, and talk to each other.  Remind him of the times he chased you around, tell him how lonely you are, how hurt you feel, how you need more than the nothing you are being given.  With his health problems, I'd be bothering my wife as if every day were my last!\nYou deserve to be loved, more than the love for a piece of furniture, which is all he is showing you.  He loves having you around, wouldn't know what to do without you, etc.  It's very difficult to think of leaving someone you have so much history with, and who is in poor health, but DON'T let guilt keep you unfulfilled.\nTALK!
337141
I say quit feeling sorry for your self,get off your butt and get a job.There are no guarantees in this life except Death and Taxes. Most men aren't better off financially after a divorce especially if they have to find,rent,buy a new place to live. they also have all the other expenses to pay for; gas,electric,garbage,phone,car payment now add on 25% of his pay to pay for his children from the same pay check as before. You just want to take advantage of the system and your ex-husband. Start a Day Care Center your self. If you work out of your home the state will have to check it out. To get State funds you have to provide a monthly menu and only have the amount of children allowed  based on square feet of your home you have.
252388
keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. Don't do this with negative intentions or malicious reasons - like i'll show you. I can relate. I used to give my man shit all the time for no reason. The only thing jealousy leads to is wasted energy and will only leave you feeling worse. I hate to say it , but this boils down to insecure feelings on your part and you know how you hate it when he says " you are just insecure". focus on spending time w/ family and friends, job, goals...this behavior will bring you and your husband closer.  Just communicate, don't give up, You just need to love your man smarter not harder
1056700
My first question is , if you felt you could Never trust him 100% why did you marry this man? Was it convenience? Get out, tell him its over your moving on blah blah blah.. I know its not that easy, trust me I know.. You know the old saying "been there, done that". Right now he's abusing your relationship, playing on your emotions, he knows how to get at you. Don't allow him, stand your ground. Your not happy there is no reason to continue this with him. Ask your friends for help or family.If that's not possible look into your local women's help shelter, there is help out there to get out of situations like this. If your unhappy there is NO reason to stay Hun.
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Baby girl, I'm sorry for the evil responses you have gotten from a few people. I am a former soldier and a woman, and I have seen this TOO many times to count. Men are just sick, sad pieces of $hit sometimes.\n\nYou need to put your daughter on medicaid like yesterday. Ok? Don't wait another day. It's not your fault that he lied to you. His lies are not your burden to bear. Second, go to his chain of command and tell his commander this story. You will get a nice hunk of his retirement check until that baby girl turns 18...(or 21 if she decides to go to college). You need to grow some ovaries and quit protecting this loser. Take care of your daughter and do what you have to do. He will likely be forced to retire due to his TIS, and he is likely aware of this. You need to do this now. Get your money and stop pussyfooting about it. The Army will make this loser pay an allottment out of his check. Trust and beleive that. Don't desire to be with a man of this caliber. If he lied to you about being married, why do you want him??? How can you find happiness in such and one???\nGood Luck.
174229
you sound just like me. i'm trying to work things out but i know the end result will be me leaving. i just want to be able to say that i gave it my all and totally mean it. sometimes we just outgrow them. have you ever tried to start some sort of hobbie with each other or do a date night? maybe that will get something going for you. i tried that. my husband didnt even care to go through with any of it. he just agreed to it and never did it. i'm writing a book on my horrible marriage. as soon as i get enough crap for my book i'm out. its not worth it to stay.
251839
well its a very hard thing to cope with. try seeking help. talk to your Dr or a consular about this. just remember once a cheater. always a cheater. i would say 90% of cheating leads to a divorce. so get your affairs in order. hide money,etc..
71084
well, i he loves you then make him work for you. you are obviously a good wife cause you still stay by his side, but that only means you deserve the best. tell him how you feel. if all gets worse then you should think about talking to God. He cares for you and your child. if you ever need more advice feel free to email me. i hope all turns out well.
668756
Why are you continuing to put up with this? You asked him to do something to save your marriage, and he can't even do that?! Your marriage needs help. You need a counselor to talk about this, because obviously your husband has no concern for your feelings, by flirting and lying to you. He may even be cheating. Don't put up with this another minute! He's treating you like dirt. You deserve so much better.
556068
Holy crap you sound EXACTLY like me. Keep doing what you're doing. Sorry to all the wives out there, but you have no obligation to anyone except yourself. He's the married one, so he has to take responsibility for his actions if she finds out. Enjoy yourself. Life's short.
428809
dont get a new husband but yes he was wrong but vows are till death do u part for better and worse\nhell yea he should have asked you first i would be pissed\nbump it get the house leave it in your name explain to him that marriage is a 100 100 type of deal he gotta give 100 and so do u and u need to communicate to have a relationship and stop giveing the man your check\nput your money together and pay bills and take care of your baby seems like he has too much control over everything and i think its gone to his head seek a counselor it couldnt hurt
921431
I would be more concerned about why your Husband told you in the first place, could it not be that your Husband is lying, I am not saying he is, but you have to look at it from both sides, and try to rationalize everything, Men do sometimes lie about this type of thing, to make their partners jealous
447946
I just answered your other question and I felt the need to answer this one too! Girl you are in a very emotional state right now, you need to cut all ties to this other man, this is why you are being so hard on yourself! You need to FOCUS! Stick to the topic at hand and that is that of your marriage! You need to start talking more to your husband and let him know you feel no emotional support from him and let him know how you are feeling (if you haven't already)!\n\nThere are alot of people that both of you have involved involuntarily, they did not ask to be in the situation, you need to be the adult here and finish what you started right? Do what YOU KNOW is right not what every one tells you too! I hope you do get some answers here that will help in your decision making, but ultimately the decision is yours to make. Good Luck to you!
549335
Well in my opinion I believe your husband feels you are going to Dr. Phil for help instead of him, but if he is like most men, they do not help anyway.  Have you talked to counselors before about your feelings?  I think you need to find a good friend or a counselor to get this out and have someone to talk to about it.  I don't think it is healthy to go back to older harder times always, but sometimes it is good, it is just what we need Women need to cry sometimes, now when I say sometimes I am not referring to everyday ;) I hope one day you can let the past go some. Hope you find someone that you can talk to also. Goodluck
911155
When you get the answer let me know... I am dealing with the same problem.\n\nHusband was cheating on me... along with a lot of lies....We have been married for 4&1/2 years...have 2 little girls.... I don't work....\n\nI have finailly decided to kick him out and just let God take care of me and my girls. I haved worried myself about if for so long and now I can't sleep at night, I barely eat, and I have started smoking about twice as much...I am too young to be this unhappy. \n\nI don't really have an answer for you, but just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and if you ever want to talk about it my e-mail is Knlsmommy@yahoo.com
973491
I am sorry. I really feel bad but my advice is leave the dog there for a while and when you can find a good place you can take her with you. And about your husband he is a jerk and you shouldn't care about him. Move on in your life and I am sure there are thousands of men out there who will respect a loyal and loving women like you. Don't let anybody hurt your self esteem, not even yourself. YOU ARE A WONDERFUL WOMEN WHO DOESN'T NEED  A S*H*I*T LIKE YOUR HUSBAND TO LIVE.