I Hate My Body... What Can I Do?
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If you have been discribed as "willowy" by others, it sounds like you have a very different self-image than what others see.  "Willowy" usually means exactly what it implies, tall, slender, long limbs.  I'm not sure how old you are but if you are in your early teens, chances are you haven't gotten used to your newly developed body.  I remember how painful it was for me, especially graduating from a training bra to a real one.  I was so self conscious of how I "stuck out" where I used to be flat.  Don't let yourself be led astray by diet and exercise plans that promise to change the way you look drastically.  If you are self conscious of your bust, there are minimizing bras that support without pushing everything up and out.  If you are like me, I can't find clothes long enough in the sleeves or pant lengths.  Todays styles are body clinging, form fitting, which, if you are self conscious, will make you feel worse.  Find a friend, or someone you trust completely, and go on a clothes trying on spree.  Find a style that you like and suits you.  Go into stores that are  normally not your style, or price range and HAVE FUN WITH IT.  It costs nothing to shop and try on clothes, the decision to buy is up to you.  This will give you a chance to check out new styles you may not have conisdered, and give you ideas for dfferent styles.  Tall Girl (here in Canada) is great for taller women, better proportioned all over.  Who knows, maybe you'll discover a love for sewing and make your own clothes.  I'm not suggesting you don't exercise, exercise is an important part of daily life.  Do it.  But please be gentle on yourself, we are always our own worst critics.  God made you beautiful just the way you are.  Look in the mirror every day and find one thing to complement yourself on.  Record those observations every day, and when you feel especially down, go back and read all those wonderful things about yourself.  You are more wonderful than you may know.  Believe that, OK?!
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therapy might work. your picture and your individual comments on your avatar clearly indicates a need for professional help....p.s. stay out of trees and stopping eating bugs, as you say.....that-s really not cute.good luck and god bless you.....may God REALLY bless Y-O-U!!!!
488635
hi\n\ngood luck on losing the weight.  \n\nmaybe you can check with your doctor.  maybe she/he can put you on a certain physical regime that would be taylored to you personally.  some sort of exercises that you would be able to do.\n\ngood luck
977685
read what you wrote i love to eat.  stop eating! stop watching tv and go exercise\n\nbut dont lose the but i like big but\ni got a big butt and i cant lie
1031085
I too am plagued with the same problem -- I hate excercising. However, I found that if you try to do something fun and engaging it becomes better. Things that I have tired that worked are taking classes or joining a team. I use to be on a softball team (local parks and rec. team), and we had such a blast, but it was a great workout. The oher things I've done are taking kickboxing classes or even dance classes (belly dancing, hip/hop, line dancing). If you go with an open mind and the intent to actually learn and do well then you'll forget that you are excersicing!
612177
Don't hate yourself.  That's not going to help.  Love yourself, and then go out and take charge of your life.  Go to school, get a good job, feel the pride.  But you have to love yourself enough to be able to take the first step.
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Stop eating so much. Eat a more balanced diet, including frutits and veggies along with meats and complex carbs. Also start exercising, try joing a gym. If you can't afford that, just do the simple stuff like sit-ups, crunches, and running. You have to be disciplined though, and don't let yourself slip that much. I'm sure you will see improvement in a few weeks.
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Cheer up! There are lots of us that are like you out here. When I was in college I obsessed about my weight too. I was 5'7'' and probably maxed at about 180lbs. I liked to dress cute and I hated that everyone else was thinner.\n\nI really can relate. Here is the solution. It worked for me...and I think it will work for you. \n\nFirst, get away from all the thin people. Stop looking at the magazines and glorifying all that is thin. Eventually you will see that weight and happiness are not the same. Then work on your self-esteem.\n\nGet out....exercise and eat.....eat good foods and don't limit yourself. Eat regularly and healthy. No junk food except once a week. Exercise daily at least a little and more than 30 minutes x3 times a week. Hang out with friends that are supportive of your life style change. Never be alone if you are hungry or depressed. Never....even if you have to go to a place that is boring like the library or the gym at night. \n\nRemind yourself that your are worth the effort. And go shopping at Target or Good will or thrift stores. The latter can be quite cool. If you buy your clothes big enough you won't be as bothered by your weight. \n\nDon't give up...you will be fit and happy one day. Being in college and feeling miserable is universal for some...but staying that way is temporary.\n\nGood luck...I know you will succeed. Just remember a chunky girl in college is a trim one later in life. (it is the skinny ones that fill out)....
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ok.. first of all, u are AWESOME. seriously, u should really be proud of urself for turning such horrible negativity into something Positive, and not letting it ruin ur life! :) and i bet u don't hate ur mother, u just feel sad when u think of why she treats u that way.. wow, good for you. it is SO HARD to think that way, so EASY to be angry and hurt and HATE people for that kind of stuff.\n\nmy advice to you is to continue what u are doing, but also add a bit to it:\n\nWork on your Confidence and how to meet people. this is so u can create a NEW life and family for yourself.. whether it be friends, or a boyfriend, eventually husband and kids, ok? :) In my opinion, confidence can be "worked on" in 3 steps:\n\nAppearance: exercise. work out. take care of ur Body. take care of ur skin.  get a new, flattering hair cut, makeup, and clothes. the better u Look, the better impression u make on others. also, exercising can get stress out, and give u endorphins (happy chemicals). and lastly, the better u look, the better u FEEL about yourself!\n\nMind:  study.  read more, learn more. keep an open mind.  develop interests and hobbies. take some classes. excel at your job.  remember, if u start joining classes and activities, more likely u can meet some friends who have Similar interests as you. also, u are being Productive and enhancing your strenghts and qualities. :)\n\nRelationships:  typically i say w/ Family and Friends.. but as u say, family is far away/mean, and friends u talk on the phone. that means NEW PEOPLE. u need to concentrate on peopel around you. try with coworkers or peers at school (or at the gym, or walking ur dog, etc).  remember, the better u Look and the more you Know, the less SHY or scared u will be when talking to someone!  also, try to get to know teachers, guidance counselors, etc.  the more people u can speak to with confidence, the better.  eventually u WILL make friends, and then meet their friends..and that is how u create a network of family/friends around you.\n\nAlso, remember to always seek Positive, Healthy and Happy people around you. if anyone is negative, mean, or tries to force u to do something uncomfortable, keep ur distance. u are working on ur life for the BETTER.  the stronger, happier, confident u are, the more opportunities u will have, more doors will open, u will Attract positive people, AND u will be able to get thru the hard times in life w/ ur positivity (case in point: u and ur family!).  \n\ngood luck, and taek care ALWAYS.  the future equals the Ability to Change! no matter what, u can change something little or big in ur life. so don't ever be upset at urself or others for the past. look forward to tomorrow, work hard, and play hard, be Happy and Healthy and u will find Positive things~
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Start walking.\n\nYou have to start somewhere.  Walk for 50 feet and back if you can't walk any more than that.  Do that until you can walk 100 feet and back.\n\nDo it everyday.  Even on rainy days.  Soon you will be walking a 1/4 mile every day, getting back some energy, and feel better.\n\nIn the meantime, don't eat junk.  Healthy non-processed food only.  You don't have to turn into some kind of health freak, eating only vegan food.  Just get rid of the junk food, extra helpings of crap, and all soda.
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You know that you are pretty, so nothing anyone says can change that.  Try writing a list of all of your good qualities, i.e., nice hair, nice handwriting, good body, pretty eyes, smart, popular etc.\n\nYou might want to check some self-help books out of the public library--there are many--and can be very helpful.  You also might want to see a doctor or counselor--you need to let it all out to someone you can trust.\n\nI hope you feel better very soon.  :)
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If you don't allow your body to mature not only will you not develop the gentle curves and sexy, feminine shape that you are meant to have but you will be harming your body.  Remember you are still growing, when you deny nutrition to your body but then demand that it still perform - get up, go to school, move around, brainwork, etc - your body will be forced to give the fuel to the most immediate need (the current action) rather than fuel your activities AND build strong bones, healthy heart, liver & other organs.\n\nYou will lower your resistance to bacteria and virus', so you will become ill more often.  Your skin (the largest organ of the body) can be badly damaged, the worst kind of acne is caused and made worse by bad nutrition.  \n\nYou can permanently damage your reproductive system.  Which can mean not only never having children, it could also mean pregnancies with miscarriages. Or worse.\n\nYou need to know that your body is changing a great deal right now, and will be for several years still.  You will gain 3-6 pounds of water weight every month before your period (the dreaded bloat). Then the water weight is gone. You will feel 'fatter' during your period. It sucks to be a girl sometimes - especially when your body is sort of 'testing out' all the systems.  You will gain some weight and then 'BAM' you are an inch and a half taller.\n\nI hope it is starting to look like you are making a decision that will affect the rest of your life - because you are.  You need to talk to a counselor and a nutritionist.  You can stay slim and still look like a girl.  You can eat healthy and not gain too much weight.\n\nSo - Here's what you need to do!\n1. Talk to a counselor: - school counselor, psychologist, psychiatrist, pastor - Every community offers low and no cost counseling services, talk to your parents.\n\n2. Talk to your doctor about seeing a nutritionist or giving you a diet.  \n\n3. Talk to your doctor about an exercise plan.  Follow your doctor's advice - join a local health club or the local community center or just get online and start learning about Pilates, Yoga and Swimming.\n\n4. Find a way to express yourself:  Journalling, Painting, Drawing, Poetry, Song Writing.\n\nI am a mom of 3.  I have been through this with my daughter (now 21 smart, beautiful and an independent filmmaker http://web.mac.com/ponderousproductions/iWeb/Site/Home.html  ).  And I've been through some similar things with my two boys (now 20, Combat Medic currently at University  and my youngest is 12 and going through some teenage boy stuff right now)\n\nI hope you take this seriously, because everyone is reaching out to you to tell you these things.\n\nJen
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Go to the gym. You'll see the results soon and will feel better about yourself. But you need to do it for yourself.
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I have this same problem. I think the best way is to exercises. you have to do aerobic exercises that make your whole body sweat. And eat a lot healthier and less than what you are eating now. some of it in front can be bloating so you might want to also detoxify your body to make it go away. this is stuff they told me and so far everything has been working. I've lost about 12 pounds this year. oh and don't drink soda.
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by getting rid of the fat on your whole body\nyou can not just do it in one place it has to be all over the body..\nwork out\nwalk a lot\ndrink a lot of water..at least 8 -10  8ounce glasses of cold water a day ( to much water will drain your electrolytes out of your body..and this is a very dangerous ting )\ncut all you junk food out..yes all of it..\nlower your intake of calories\nGood Luck\nbut have fun doing it
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Unlike some others I would not recommend sex as your only option. Join a gym and try all the machines that work the areas you want. Also do some cardio exercise or walking and try to squeeze your butt when you walk. Other than that don't eat a lot of carbs, only at the size of your palm and eat good protein and lots of fruits. I hope it helps!
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Take a shower!! I can't stand feeling all gross.