School Bullies. why is there not enough done?
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As there are so many rules and regulations for teachers and staff at schools they can't do much. I am not making excuses at all for them as I was bullied while in school and nothing was done. The worst thing that the school can do is chuck the muppets out but thats really what the bullies want. \nI think teachers, parents and students should come together to figure out an effective way of dealing with the problems that occur in school hours and after. That way if the parents back the school then the school will not get into trouble for what they are doing.\n\nI dont they would ever become your boss, I help run a company and I know that the people who used to bully me are sat at home doing nothing but getting fat!
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There are many reasons why people bully. Often because they are very insecure in themselves. Sometimes they are angry or upset or feel that they don't fit in. It may be a way of showing off to peers and looking tough and important and in charge. People who bully others in one setting may be getting bullied themselves in some other setting, such as at home or school. Bullies may be scared of getting picked on so they make sure to do it first. If they don't like themselves they may take it out on someone else. Sometimes they think it will make them more popular. Sometimes they do it to get attention. Others might be jealous of the person they are bullying. They may just want to make others afraid of them. It sometimes makes them feel braver or more important or better about themselves.\n\nThese links should help.
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Well... just ignore it is good advice although hard to follow considering how long you have to spend at school. Everyone who gets picked on gets worn down by it sooner or later - ignoring is hard work! \n\nDo those who you have told include teachers? There have been some interesting cases lately in which schools have got into trouble for not taking action on bullying, they ought to have an anti-bullying policy in place which should be implemented. Unfortunately it can make it worse, at least temporarily, if you tell on the people who pick on you, but if you are brave enough it is the best way to get it sorted in the end. Tried ringing childline? I never did but it would've been a good plan in hindsight.\n\nYou need to find others who are going through similar stuff so that you can support each other. When you realise there are other cool people who get picked on you feel a hell of a lot better about yourself. Go find some people with similar interests to you.\n\nI got picked on at school, and at the end of the day it might make you weaker in the short term, but stronger in the long term, and you will reach a point in the future when you really don't give a shit any more. It's not your fault and it shouldn't happen. Hang on in there and fight for your right to be yourself and not be given any hassle about it.
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Stupidity,low self-esteem and ignorance make people bullies at least that's what I think.I've never been bullied,and I never was a bully.I have gotten talked about,but everybody has at least once.Plus I really don't care about what other people think.I'm sorry you got bullied.
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Do not let it bother you.  People who bully are having emotional problems themselves.  Adolescence is notorious for this because there are alot of changes both emotionally and physically and adolescents do not deal well with them...they also have major brain changes going on making them not exactly considerate of others.  While not letting it bother you is harder done than said.....remember it will pass.  I do recommend getting a hobby and new friends. Try soccer, or art. Join an after school club maybe.  I do not recommend weight lifting like the other guy said...i know some adult guys with screwed up shoulders from weight lifting too early...and 7th grade is too early.  If it is any consulation....i am now much cooler than those kids that picked on me in middle school...and much happier.  And my school has been totally paid for in college and graduate school.  Life is not over in middle school.
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Yes, it's seen as the same as crying to mommy. Too bad the school administrators don't do anything to help the situation.\n\nIf the bullies are on the school's sports teams, forget it. Nothing will happen to them. This is the case even in middle school.\n\nA good old-fashioned fight after school is the way to go in this case.
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i reckon that everyone has been bullied at least once in their life. i use to get bullied all the time when i was in grade prep to 4 for being asian. i was the only one being bullied because of my background. they use to do all sorts of ugly things to me. i was even dacked at one point. they woulds teal my money but rubbish in my bag and call my nasty names. they would even try to get me into trouble and the teacher believes them and did nothing to help me. it all stopped when i was in grade 5 and i somehow became popular. back then i use to hate myself fro bveing asian but then i realized that hey, im not the one complaining and bitching about being asian. i use to hate life so much i  wanted to die, but its part of growing up and its just somethig that you experience to learn more about life. oh yeah u answered my question about the paris hilton perfume, where did you read the info about the chemicas that attract the opposite sex? sorry this is the only way for me to contact you/
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It's a horrible feeling to think nobody cares but I garuntee you there is lots of people who do care and you don't realise it.  As for school, don't worry about them it might seem like a long way away now but believe me before you know it you will be out of school in the real world with real people who have more important things to do than bully somebody, and you will meet people who accept and like you for who you are.  Chin up!!!!
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hide.  Seriously, though, the key is self-confidence, if you're confident about yourself, or even if you pretend to be confident and ignore the people who are bullying you or even laugh at them.  I used to be bullied at my old school, I realise now that most bullies are motivated by bad feelings about themselves and they try to boost their ego by making other people feel bad too.  It's pretty hard, but don't let them see that they're making you feel bad.  Stand up straight, ignore them, laugh at them, and don't let them see that they're hurting you.
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Immediately, get your story straight, and report this to your teachers.  Also, get a hall pass to visit your counselor, so you can report it there.\n\nDon't try to take this matter into your own hands.  Let the professionals handle it.  Don't tell them how to do it.  Simply report the matter, and let them do what they are legally allowed and obligated to do.\n\nAdministrators, Counselors, and Teachers have a variety of tactics/ strategies they are allowed to use to work with this type problem.  Understand, however, they must work with the interst of all students in mind, even the bully.  Please, as I said earlier, let the professionals do their job.  You keep your mind on your schooling.
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Teachers, funding, the govt! pressure, stress, home issues, trauma, depression, teasing from other kids, peer pressure, environment issues, ADD, ADHD, learning disabilities, no motives.... etc... there are a number of reasons for a child to do badly in school. the question is too general.
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The public schools in my city need smaller classes, the teachers are worn out with all these children in one class and trying to teach and quiet half of them do in order to teach,therefore lots of time gets wasted and only 1/2 the lesson planned for that day gets taught.  Also they need books, the teens in highschool barely have homework because they can't take the books home.....I'll just leave it at there
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I am a teaching assisant and there are so many children now in the 'inclusion' zone, it is sometimes impossible to have a controlled classroon. There are ADD, Aspergers, extreme low level learners, just plain old bad behaviour alll in the mix as well as the normal good children that are just there to learn. The teachers hands are tied. They can't get rid of any of these children as the law states they have to be included. It can be hell. I feel most sorry for the good ones who are getting left behind because so much time is taken with all of these demanding children.
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it is very diffent we fear our childern going to school now more thsn ever i think kids do more fighting and skipping than evr before education is the last thing on there minds when they go they want to see friends. more than they want to see the teacher i think school is going down hill
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Definitely do tell people about it! My daughter was bullied at school, and hated life until she was moved. Talk to the school, BUT if they do nothing, then go right to the state teaching board (not 100% sure how things work in the US) but if the school does nothing, go right over their heads. My daughter had proof that this other student had stolen her wallet, yet the school didn't want to know about it, or the many other ocassions.
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School discipline is so tightly controlled that not do homework is a major infraction. Bullies stand no chance. All your friend needs to do is to report any bullying taunting behavior. Ask his parents to see the principal.  Btw, i believe learning to handle bullies is part of growing up process. Singapore is producing too many wimps.
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You would need a support network. Tell as many people as you can that someone is bullying you and you need help.  Name the bully.  If you are a kid tell as many adults as possible. ONe adult may do nothing.  Name the bully.  A bully is generally a coward and will be afraid of a group of people that confront him or her and tell them in no uncertain terms that they will not be tolerated.  Don't go anywhere alone and make a friend that doesn';t take crap and is larger and stronger than the bully.  Take a digital camara photo of the person or persons ...like a mug shot and hang it up all over school or work and it should say on it ...Danger if you see this Bully ..Do not approach.  Or wanted Bully...Do not approach Danerous bully.  If a bully is know to the community and suffers public humiliation then they have too many witnesses to carry on with their sadistic ritual of bullying other , weaker individuals who have done nothing wrong, and don't deserve this kind of treatment and it has been proven that the individual that is being bullied is usually a more intelligent or in some way superior individual. Arm yourself with knowledge. There is an infinite amount of literature in the library on the psychology of bullying. Know your adversary.  Take martial arts .  Be very very confident and don't let your weakness show externally but be brave.  When you talk to the bully talk in a loud firm confident voice and show no fear.  Remember a bully is the ultimate coward.  Good luck