in a emotionl abusive marriage,and the law is on her side?
928274
Are you living in a no-fault state ... if so, the law would take no side on the divorce. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and the cops have been called. I would cry because we were fighting ... he would yell. The cops (Minnesota) do not really care who leaves at that point - just that someone must leave the home and not return until the next morning. Does she yell at you? Can you remain calm and call the police? Will she have calmed down by the time the police get there or will she continue with her controlling behavior? \n\nUnfortunately, this relationship may not change because it sounds like she may be the one that does not want to change and likes it the way it is ... you must follow your heart and have the strength to make the right decision no matter what that be.\n\nGood luck!
540515
You wont get in trouble unless she is Psycho b*tch and tries to run you off the road for cheating and getting pregnant w/ her husband's child.  But he is now screwed up becasue she can now file for divorce due to infedelity and she will get awarded w/ pretty much everything that belongs to him!.. Great going!
376246
DIVORCE, so just b/c she does wrong you will too, word of advice, 1. two wrongs don't make a right and 2. Your going to bring yourself down to her level and I garuntee she will beat you with experience. You wanna-be PIG.
391287
I can tell you I have been there and done it and it only gets worse because she has a hold on him you can not break. But let me tell you this is also what she wants is for you to leave so she can have him all to herself. As far as your husband sooner or later the resentment builds up and the love is lost because of the way he does. Tell him in no certain terms you realize this is his mother but your also his wife and he is killing all the respect you have for him...Lady
400055
She can't do without your permmision, you have the  controlling vote in this matter. She could do some major psychological damage to your child, which is abuse,  which makes her a perpetrator against minors. Get her some counselling, get some legal advice for yourself, or ask her to leave. All in all think of this baby boy who is innocent in this and looks upon you both as his life support. good luck and God bless you both, we'll be praying for you.
718919
Do not feel ignorant. Abuse comes in many forms, and unless your husband gets help FAST, things will escalate. He has control issues, and feels very insecure about everything. Most abusers are insecure, and feel that violence is the only way to keep the things they love from leaving. But in actuality all it does is FORCE the things they love further away from them. I strongly suggest getting help, and if he refuses...you need to leave before things get worse. Without help, eventually your relationship with him will crumble to the point of nonexistance. There is no excuse for being violent with someone, and stress happens to everyone. Not everyone gets ready to beat the crap out of their wife/ mate however when the situation gets hairy. Once again, get him some help before its too late, or leave and work on you. Huge hugs, and best of luck.
456616
She can file the papers and go to court with all of her documentation.  Believe me, in the long run, even though it seems like forever right now, things will change.  I had the same thing happen to me...I eventually (after 30 days of filing) got the kids back.  Yes, you have to deal with visitation, after all he is the father, but with time that can be controlled too if documentation starts happening with regard to the violence.  I pray this works out for your friend, tell her number one to always document.  Keep phone calls, keep records of things done, have a third party present at visitation times, etc.  Prayerfully when all has died down the visitation can be civil and things can go on reasonably well.  My kids are now 21 and 19, and we all get along OK, I do it because they are my kids and that is what is most important.
388960
She needs to contact an attorney.
362939
thats can be a tough one. maybe talk to some other people and of her family members that may have the same concerns. get together as a group...not a very large group. maybe you a friend and a fam member...keep it small so she doesn't feel like she's being attacked all at once. tell her your concerns. get some information ready on women in abusive relationships....ie: support groups or counsellors that specialize in that area. cause this sounds like its developing into a pattern that you want to nip in the bud now before she really gets in the deep end. explain to her that its out of love and concern for her and her well being. there are some obvious self esteem issues there for her if she feels she can't stand up for herself or let this guy treat her like that. all you state though is he is being mean. how is he mean. there is no excuse, but, what the situation is will have something to do with how to handle it. cause he may need help of a couples counsellor. he may not be aware of his behaviour and how its affecting her. and if they talk it out it may be able to resolve the problem. if he is hitting and being physically or verbally abusive......then she should get out. cause someone does not need to put up with that for any reason. he needs help no matter what...but if its gone to that then talk to her. maybe get feed back from other people phone a victim support hotline on the situation. i'm sure it can be anonymous if you call
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veena_2017satishkumar,\n\nDon’t allow anyone to treat you that way. He cannot do it without your permission. You suffer from low self esteem, or he wouldn’t even think of hitting you. The fact that you tolerate this misbehavior is regrettable.\n\nYour marriage is worth saving, but you must stop the violence, or it will only escalate. Your 2 children need to see a healthy marriage with 2 parents that love each other and love them. Set a good example for your children, so they will enjoy healthy relationships in the future. Teach them to stand against evil and win.\n\nI was married for 20 years and there were many problems for about 10 of those years, but I never hit my wife. Clearly a man has superior strength, but it is not right to use it to win an argument or to control another person.\n\nI will say a prayer for you. God bless.
987204
Be supportive. If you attack him (verbally or any other way) you put her in the position of defending him. It happens every time. \n\nThe first two years of a baby's life is the hardest on a marriage (statistically) and when the most divorces happen. I think your hands are tied and all you can do is let it play out, and be there when it ends to pick up the pieces. \n\nWho knows .. maybe they will get some sort of help and be able to work it out. She has to decide for herself.
477063
It depends on the situation. With physical abuse most likely yes. but evidence is most likely needed. Emotional probably not. But, if you have an legitimate expense for mental help regarding the situation and have enough evidence you may have a claim. pain and suffering isn't really an option, because you can't sue for pain and suffering. pain and suffering is only awarded by a judge give the correct situation. \n    As far as the divorce goes, if the abuse situation was brought up and is already considered resolved you cant sue unless the abuse continues.
1179155
Domestic Abuse was originated for the purpose of protecting women from abusive men. It was inttended for good but unfortunatley to many women abuse it in order to bias the courts in custody cases and all to often to get revenge. Almost always the courts will side with the plantiff even without any type of proof. I think this is outrageous and there should be a law to siignificatley punish anyone found to be abusing this law. If you are the person filing the charges then I request you be honest and fair. If you are the defendant bieng charge then I strongly suggest you seek a good attorney, however do no rely on them to get to the truth. You must do the research, get you witness, and document, document EVERYTHING, sorry to say if you are a male and charged with such a crime you are more likly than not to be convicted. I am a women myself and find it appalling than when it comes to most custody or divorce cases the so called equal rights ammendant does not count. Good luck to you whether you are the plantiff or the defendant. Remeber in the end truth may not be on your side with the law but will forever be God will prevaill your case if you tell the truth
177106
Go get yourself a divorce, and file for custody and child support. The courts are usually behind a woman who wants the best for her child. If he's a truck driver and on the road a lot, I have a feeling everything will go in your favor. Just remember, get yourself a decent lawyer, one who works in your county and knows the judges in the courthouse. Most importantly, do not slander your soon to be ex- husband, be calm, cool and act intelligently. Sounds like he has an anger management problem... you will not have to tell anyone but your own lawyer, chances are he will become angry in court and he'll be his own worst enemy.
887376
1) all things happen in God's time\n2) pray must be for God's will -- in this case IMO for the person to gain the strentgh to pull themselves away from the abuser.\n\nfind out the laws in your neighborhood.  in mine, when i heard my neighbor abusing his wife, i could call the police.  the would come. if they saw anything even resembling a struggle or her disheveled - THEY would press the charges and she would have nothing to say about it.  this way it's on the record and can put her at ease.\n\nGod bless you in your trials and God bless your friend for the strength.\n\nyou must rally around her and give her support. letting her know that walking away is not a failure but rather a strength not shown by many!
587135
If she's been living with this guy for more than 7 years than by state law, he is her husband although they are not legally married.  He would get everything unless a will is drafted.  But even wills can be contested, she needs a "living trust" which is undisputable.
12215
yeah i would say you would know by now, you should call her lawyer or retain one yourself, It is better if you get one, more communication can be done between them.