my sister-in-law(brother's wife)always try to defame me so what i must do?
914506
There is nothing you can do to stop your sister-in-law from talking.  But the more she tries to defame you, the more she will make herself out to be a liar, as hopefully your other family members know you too well to believe her.
455235
What you wrote sounds like my story. I've got the same problem with my mother in law. My husband really appreciates that I act like I'm stupid. \nI refuse to drop down to her level and when she is really mean to me I just smile and nod. Sometimes I think she tries her hardest to piss me off, but I won't give her that joy.\nFor your husband it's probably best to ignore the situation and play along like you all get along. It's not worth splitting up families over. You may regret it if your husband decides to choose for you and stops speaking to his mom.\nBe happy she doesn't live IN your house. \n\nStay the respectable party and don't let your feelings show! I know this is tough but it's the most peaceful way. Good luck, don't let her drive you mad, you've got the upper hand!
966367
Talk to her and tell her that she is annoying, if she does not care than leave her alone!!!\n\nI have a sister-in-law that is annoying and we have tried telling her but she will not own up to anything!!!!!\n\nSome people are blind to their faults!!!
807206
I went through this with my husband's ex-wife.  She flipped when we got together and tried to keep us from seeing his son.  She did some pretty horrible things at the time, but since has changed drastically.  \n\nAll your sister and brother-in-law can do is document everything and get the police involved is she is witholding the kids from him.  He needs to go above and beyond the call of duty to try and see them, for at least a while to prove that he cares.  I am sure he cares, but you need proof in court.  \n\nAdditionally, they need to stay tight lipped in front of the kids and never say anything negative about their mother in front of them.  That kind of thing has a way of affecting a child and coming back to haunt you later. \n\nThey just need to stick in there and lean on each other for support.  It is hard, but will get better eventually.
694459
Your just like a doormat to your sister. She can just walk all over you and your letting her. Well girl its time to take charge. Tell her if shes going to be in your wedding then shes going to be a guest. You can find someone who is decent enough and worthy enough to be your maid of honor. Your sister is treating you like that because you LET her. Take charge and show her whos boss. And she also needs to apologize to you for making up lies about you and using you.
585597
Pray. And realize you can't force her to come home. All you can do is be there for her as a sister and let her make her own mistakes. If you push or manipulate, she won't feel safe in turning to you.\n\nAnd I'll be praying for you as well... :)
641139
It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.
758367
rather it be your brothers wife or your wife's sister handling this type of situation can be done but should be done with tactfulness. Tell her your flattered and it is cute but it makes you feel bad because you know it is wrong and it places your mind away from your wife and she deserves better than that. You will be surprised how quickly respect is formed
208898
I would only say something if you really feel the need to stand up for your brother, I would do it with them both standing right there so that way there is no he said she said crap going on between them talking about you. I would only do that under extreme cercumstances though. It matters how close you are over all to your brother, I mean if you can talk to him about anything i would definitally say something to him in private, something like dude is it just me or do you seem unhappy here lately, not really blameing her but if it is because of her he will come out and say so, if he asks you what you think i would go ahead and tell him but in the long and short of it if she makes him eat dog food on the floor every night for dinner and he still loves her, support him in his pick for a future wife. You might not like how she treats him over all but it looks like he does, maybe you havent gotten to know her well enough yet, Or maybe he hasnt, who knows. But i would definitally deal with this in a tender way, maybe your mom or dad can say something to him, or you can go to them and voice your concerns, they could probably get away with saying something to him easier then you could. I dont know ive never really been in that situation but i can see it going bad easily if its not delt with care :) I hope that helps
1074147
Start out by reporting her for disturbing the peace. Do it every time she starts screaming at you. If they won't come out and do anything about it, this is what you do. Go to the Police Dept during regular business hours and file a complaint regarding lack of response on your problem. Tell them that you feel threatened by this woman. Keep a journal of every time you call and everything she does. Write down dates and times for everything. After you have several calls down and several incidents recorded, go to your city or county courthouse and ask the clerk of court about filing for a protection order. A protection order says that she can no longer attempt to communicate with you in any way. She can still yell at your husband or guests, but not you. Once you are at that level, go to your apartment managers again with copies of all this information. Still can't get rid of her? Take your info to an attorney for civil matters. You may have a nice case for a lawsuit. You may also want to have your husband file for a protection order as well. Hopefully you get a good repsonse from the police and she starts getting tickets for disturbing the peace. Do you know her name? You can check with the county courthouse and get her criminal record if she has one. Check with them and see what they will charge you for the information. In my area it's ten dollars for anybody's info. Build up and save your evidence and you should see her going bye bye, before long. If I can be of any further assistance, let me know.
1037728
EVERYBODY in this situation was WRONG (except perhaps the husband).  You resorted to violence.  Your sister threatened him with SERIOUS charges that WOULD NEVER EVER go away!!!!  Then, his sister made death threats against you--sounds like both your sister & his sister should be reported to the police, to be safe.  Do not presume to take a moral high ground in this situation.
813305
She does stuff to delibratley irritate you and make your life miserable. First, quit showing things irritate you. For things that normally get to you eventually she'll make a comment like, "Does this bother you?" Just say, "What?" Let her respond and your reply is, "Oh, I didn't notice so I guess not." Tune her out. \n\nThere are always people like this in life, eventually it will be your husband as well. I'm sure you do things to irritate her as well, we all do something that will annoy someone at some point in time. You may want to have a discussion with her and be assertive (not aggressive) and listen to her. Let her know you want to be friends and don't like living with tension on a daily basis. Explain you would also like to go back to having fun with her and you care about her. Also, ask her to stop doing certain things. Set two to three non-negotiables you want her to stop and ask her what you do that irritates her and you can change. It's give and take and don't take things too personally. \n\nSomething much deeper is going on with her and you that needs to get resolved. Or her problem is nothing to do with you, and she's just taking out whatever is going wrong in her life out on the person she lives with (which could be anyone else as well). Just be sure not take things too personally. Good luck!
602405
I can't stand my inlaws!! They are so fake! They act like they like me but, behide my back they talk about me. I have acually heard her talk about me! I can't believe they can be that way! I had tried so hard in the begining to get along with them but I stopped that a long time ago! I guess first impressions mean alot because that was when she brushed me off when I said hello. If my husban is not home and she calls I don't pick up the phone and she knows I'm home. I know that get's her upset. But I love it!! So my suggestion is focus on your fam and avoid her! But ofcoures say hello once in a blue moon. I know you not getting along with her came create unwanted problems in your relationship! Best of luck:)
14297
Let it get back to your mother in law that you don't believe she made those statements, because you can't imagine that she would ever say something so awful about you and your kids.  \n\nThen the ball is in her court.
208426
You evidently don't love her either, how about leave her husband and her alone. Glad your'e not my sister or cousin.
180964
Just because she is a blood relation does not mean you have to tolerate her verbal abuse.You are well within your rights to tell her to put a sock in it.I would not blame you at all if you decided to trim back on the time you spent with her.Sometimes it's the only way to deal with negative family members.
817359
It actually sounds like your in law problems aren't as bad as some folks.  On his side, if it's pretty much the little sister that doesn't get along with you try developing a relationship with her, take her to lunch, call & chat with her if possible.  Maybe you guys just need to find some common ground.  If his family feels intimidated by your outspokeness, try toning it down around them a little.  Sometimes it can be a real learning experience to just listen to other folks.  It's probably just different communication styles.  Again, just look for as much common ground as you can find.\nOn your side, I think your mom needs to get a grip.  Your husband sounds like he's good to your son - what does your mom want - for you to hold out for the guy whos in jail?  She needs to learn to accept your choice.  Best wishes!