How do I deal when a loved one is gone?
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Huh....you sure you're in love?  It's going to be tough being alone while he serves time...and he seems aware of that fact.  That's a big sacrifice--waiting for him I mean.  If you chose that route--best of luck to you.  But even if you don't decide to wait it out--you could still be supportive by communicating with him while he's incarcerated.  Life with a convicted felon is not going to be easy after he serves time either--and your options will be limited because of it.  Just be aware of the sacrifices required to remain with this person.  It sounds like you'll have lots of time to make up your mind.  Find a support group that can assist you.  Good Luck
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The only thing you can do is remember those you have lost, but don't dwell on them. We carry a piece of spirit from everyone we will ever know and everyone we meet will carry a piece of our spirit. It is what provides a sense of immortality as we pass from the physical world we continue on in the hearts and minds of those we leave behind. \n\nIf you imagine your lost loved ones as being in heaven/hell than they are truely lost to you for you have chosen to forget who they are and assume they are somewhere far from you. If you think of only the good/bad things they have done than you cling to an illusion and ignore the truth of who they are. You must remember not only the things you liked about them, but the things you hated about them too. By sharing memories you add to the spirit of your friend for all that knew them, for each piece you all possess provides a better picture of who your friend truely was.\n\nContinue to live your life, and when you come across something that reminds you of your friend then think of them, remember those events of the past and let the spirit of your friend live again in your heart and mind. Instead of feeling sad, think about what they might say, for the moment you remember them they are there with you once again in your life.
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I am so very very sorry for your loss.  Ive lost a lot of family members so I know exactly what you are feeling.  One thing that got me through the tough times was actually talking to the person as if they were right there in person with you.  Tell her how you are feeling and about your day and that.  Find a nice place to take a walk in and just talk.  She is still with you.  She is watching over you.  She knows you love her.  And she loves you very much.  Im sure she doesnt want to see you so sad.  It will take time sweetie.  But, the pain does get easier.  I promise.  And by talking to her, it helps to ease that pain a bit more.  You will be ok.  I promise.
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I just lost mine 2 days ago and I hadn't seen her in 11 yrs. I had left my home country and have not gone back since then. Also I am not able to leave right now to attend the funeral, it is tearing me up so much.  I feel your pain and understand where you are in this.  As hard as it may seem we simply have to think of the good times in memory and how much joy she brought into our lives.  Life is never the same when your mother passes away, however you must go on.  Maybe you can do something together with family that will keep her memory alive.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your painful experience. Losing someone you love that much is so diffucult. My heart is going out to you.  \n\nI don't know when this happened, how recent it was, but there is always a mourning period where you need to let your emotions out. Sadly, you didn't have the time you wanted with him.  Your future plans are turned upside down. I know a little about that myself. So, I'm sorry for your pain. If it's recent, it's going to take a while to move past this, but you will move past it.  In time the pain will dull and you may try to love again. It's so hard to think that right now, but love can happen again for you.  \n\nRight now your life may seem pretty aweful, it's hard not to have dark thoughts when you are going through what you are going through.  But your life is important to many people, your friends, your family, and especially your late boyfriend.  He loved you and would only want the best for you. I'm sure he's looking down on you and loving you from heaven right now.  And if he knew what would happen to him, he'd want you to be happy for the rest of your life. \nYour long life.\n\nYou don't have the worst life ever, it's just the worst it's been for you as of yet, and probably the worst it will ever be. If you're having trouble coping with the pain, talk to someone- a professional grief counsler can help. They can help you express the different stages of mourning in a healthy environment, and help you keep focused on how to keep your own life on track.\n\nSorry sweetie, this is so rough for you. I'll pray for you tonight.
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Take a deep breath and grieve. then start with the small stuff. pay a bill or dust a piece of furniture. then see how you feel. try doing just one thing a day until you feel you can handle more.
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Keep yourself busy doing something good for others and take it hour by hour. Time is the only thing that helps ease the grief-- but there will always be a part of you wishing for the happier moments with the one you lost.
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Im sorry for your loss.  Be there for them by listening to what they have to say, crying with them and remembering memories and good times that you have had.  You of course are going to lose it at some point and do not try not to.  That's really all you can do at this point.  Pray wtih them also.  You will get thru this.
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Just cool off in your plans for a while.Ovethere people are mourning about loosing their beloved ones.
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You should feel the way you feel, and not how anyone else tells you to feel.  That's the only possible answer. If you worry about a lack of feeling upon this persons death, you must understand the psychological shock of such an incident.  It takes time to come to grips with it. If you were truly close to this person, the grief and pain WILL come-believe me.  The most important thing is not to repress it.  You must let it come, you must grieve, and you must deal with it.  Don't ignore it, or bottle it up.  Let yourself feel it.  To ignore it is to harm yourself, and disrespect the memory of your lost one. God bless, and my condolences.
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Losing a close relative takes considerable time for the person to grieve and heal. Make sure she knows that you're there for her if she would like to talk, and call her or visit every so often ( twice a week sounds good ), just so she knows you're still her friend. Practice being a good listener, and never, ever tell her to "snap out of it." People grieve and heal at their own rates and cannot rush the process.
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spend as much time with him as you can before he passes, you will appreciate that later....after grief however you please and get on with you life instead of dwelling on his death...more than likely it is what he would want and im sure he'd be proud of you
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first of all  remember  there is a grieving process u are  about to embark upon  go with  what feelings  u are going  thru  denial  will only make things worse   counselling is  often  great to do  talk  to other  family members  talk to a friend  u will cry lots  let  the tears  flow  that  gets  rid of lots of stress  take  hot  baths  candles  quiet times for yourself  long walks   cuddle with your  partner  embrace  your family  hold them close  never  pull away from them  they are there for u  i lost my father  and i went with the flow  and i eventually  started to feel  better but in time  it takes time    patience  is  a virtue  good luck
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It's always tough when someone looses a loved one.  My advice is to get her to talk about it herself.  Ask her how everything is going...if there's anything that she needs to talk about; let her know that you're there for her.  On the other hand, if that doesn't work, if you know someone that may be aware that her father died, explain that you heard from a friend.  Many people have trouble adjusting when they loose someone.  It's very difficult, so just be patient.  I'm sure it has nothing to do with you.  I wish you the best of luck.\nChris Nalley
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One day at a time. Just remember they want you to enjoy your life so get out there and have some fun. Go do some volunteer work in the name of your loved one. Take on a good cause in memory of that person. Plant some trees.\n\nHave a good life!
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I'm very sorry for your losses. Allow yourself to grieve, even if you have to be strong for everyone else. Find someone you can talk about it with, even if they only listen. Find a friend to talk to that has lost someone and can understand how you are feeling. You could also find an online chat for people dealing with a loss. I hope things get better.
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bereavement is the time of mourning after a loved one dies.