How can i warm up to be people and not be so shy?
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try looking at the skirts and blouses last. maybe take a cooking class, joining the theater class. Put yourself in the middle of the fear. things will get better.
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go somewhere u have something on common with other ppl and say hi i know ur shy but trust me i used to b shy till i made it though college and got tired of it surprisingly ppl dont mind you talking to them as long as u have something in common \n\n\noh there is some pill for it too (imagine that) but seriously its for ppl with social anxiety disorder
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Socialization.  The shy person must try to stablish conversations with people how like to do the same things for example, you like to read, you must visit a library and start talking with the employers then compare books with someone, ask for references...if you like shopping, ask for details of what you are going to buy...if you are in a party talk about the person how invite you but with others person in the party, avoid answers like yes or no...try to be more detailed in the conversation...I used to be shy and nobody can believe me...good luck, start talking
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Tips For "Shaking Your Shyness"\n\n1.Conversation topics-never leave home without them.\n2.Let people know you're shy.\n3.Reward effort not outcome!\n4.Make things easy for the other person.\n5.Pick one social skill to practice at a time\n6.Take classes \n\nConversation Topics-never leave home without them.    Good conversationalists are rarely at a loss for words because: 1) they do so many things and go so many places that they have lots to talk about or 2) they prepare.  Good conversationalists never leave home without something to say to the people they think they'll be seeing that day.  If they're going to a party, they brush up on topics of interest to the people they know will be attending.  Before returning to work on a Monday, they think about the activities their colleagues had planned for the weekend.  They brush up on current events, the weather and anything else that might be the small-talk they need to get a conversation going or to keep it going.  Never leave home without at least a half-dozen things to talk about.\n\n   2.\n\n      Let people know you're shy.  This is a controversial subject.  Some people recommend that you never tell people you're shy, because people will use that information to label you.  Then again, if you avoid people, look down instead of making eye contact, stammer and stutter or turn three shades of purple when you're uncomfortable in social situations, people are going to draw conclusions of their own and odds are they'll be less favorably impressed with you than if you just tell it like it is---that you're nervous or feeling shy.\n\n      I think the problem arises because there are two ways to be shy---the obvious way and the not so obvious way.  The obvious way to be shy is to blush, tremble, twitch or otherwise physically manifest your shyness.  The not so obvious way is to avoid eye contact with people, not have much to say or decline offers from others you'd like to accept, but that are too far outside of your comfort zone for you to feel comfortable attending. \n\n   3.\n\n      Reward effort not outcome!   Memorize this one, because it's absolutely critical for conquering your shyness---or anything else you want to master, for that matter.  The only thing we can control in our life is our self---and even that can be a stretch sometimes.  We can't control other people and we certainly can't control how other people react to us and the things we do.  Nevertheless, most of us define our successes and failures by the way other people relate to us.  If we smile and they smile back, well good.  But if we smile and they don't smile too, we see it as a failure.  WRONG!!!   You won't get very far that way. \n\nIn fact, at least  in my book, what you did was a smashing success.  You tried.  You made an effort and that's all you can be responsible for.  You can't control how other people respond to you.  Sure, you can look back on your effort and speculate about things you can do to improve your performance next time, but at that very moment--at the precise time that you smiled, you made an effort and it's your effort that needs to be rewarded.\n\n   4.\n\n      Make things easy for the other person.  This is a tuff one, because as shy people, most of us are too busy worrying about ourselves---about how we look, what we say and whether other people will like us--- to stop and think about what we can do for other people.  But really, that's what being social is about---the other person, not us.  Dale Carnegie knew that.  He built a career on teaching people how to make other people feel good.  In his book How to Win Friends and Influence People, he lists principle after principle for putting people at ease and helping them feel special.   \n\n5.Pick one social skill to practice at a time.  You don't need to become a social butterfly overnight--and it's unlikely you could if you tried.  What you can do
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Jus relax and have fun.  As long as you are able to do that, people will want to be around you.  BE YOURSELF!!!!
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Learn to break out of your shell! It's hard, but start small.  Start by smiling at people that you walk by or encounter.  Then try by saying hi when you pass by others.  It takes practice! People tend to be attracted to people who are smiling and seem outgoing even if they are shy by nature.  You will look more approachable that way rather than if you just ducked your head and kept walking. \n\nWhen you get used to being friendly with people try it on a girl you like.  Smiling is always important because it shows you're happy and confident.  Also, if you feel like you're not talkative, try coming up with conversation topics before you approach someone.  That way if the girl happens to be shy you have something to say so it doesn't feel awkward or anything.  Good luck!
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just chill and be yourself. dont try to be some1 u arent
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go to groups, like drama groups or other actives that you like and introduce yourself to people there.  But you have to be outgoing, because if you don't make to first move to say "hi" people will just think that you don't want to hang out with them!  Hope this helped and goodluck!
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I used to be just like that. but you dont really get over being shy, you jsut get better at being outgoing. the first thing i did was join a club that takes you all over the U.S., it's called FFA. I got a job and it was a waitress at a bar. so there are many opportunities there. just go up and talk to the guy, any guy, it's how i did it and now im still shoy to an extent, but hey, im get out there and i have fun while chatting up some hottie. so jsut break away and strike up a conversation with some random guy, like a guy from school, in the grocery store...anywhere...even in the mall. it works.
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Talk to people. Where ever you are, talk. you will find others that you are comfortable with, and have similar opinions. Be yourself, \n\nExamples: Open a door for someone as they leave the store, comment on the weather, the store, if the other person is open to you, conversation will take hold. If a neighbor two houses down is out in the yard, start talking. Ask if they want help with what ever task they may be doing at the time. Or ask for assistants for yourself - people generally like to be needed.\nThe EASY part is finding friends.\nThe HARD thing is keeping them...\nRemember; Every body likes to talk about their self, talk about others, offer their advise and experiences........Just don't go out of the comfort zone! To know what that is, think of subjects that you would be un-easy talking to a stranger about! ... ... You can take it from here!\n\nSee how easy that was? If we had been talking in person, you would have the start of a new friendship!
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just move with a rythm. dont care about what people are saying, or how stupid they think you look. it'll be wierd, but try to have fun
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Katie, don't expect to go from super-shy to outgoing all at once. Take baby steps and stretch yourself just a little bit at a time. Practice just smiling at people. Say hello to just one stranger a day as you pass by them. Ask a sales clerk a question, even if you don't really need to. Tell a girl you see that you really like her shoes, hair, nails, etc. - when you see that you get a positive reaction to being friendly, it will encourage you to do it more often. Just remember, not everyone will be open to you because they might be shy, too. But most people are willing to at least smile and say hello to others.\n\nTry some volunteer work - start at your local animal shelter if you feel more comfortable around animals than people. Animals love you unconditionally and can really help bring a shy person out of their shell. If it's possible, and you don't already have one, you might even consider getting a pet yourself. Other volunteer work is also helpful if you're allergic to animals or something - go help out at your local food bank, soup kitchen, homeless shelter, etc. \n\nWorking with people is really important if you want a good job. You have to be able to impress employers during interviews and you have to be willing to stretch yourself beyond your comfortable boundaries. Good luck! :)
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Dont try to be something that your not. If your cool then be cool. If your not cool then dont try to be cool. Just be yourself. If you worry about being cool, then your not cool, your a wanabe, your a fake. Be yourself, and if the person you met doesnt like it, then move on. Dont pretend to be interested in the person either, thats fucked up.
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Just be the life of everything u do. Stand out, speak a little louder, smile more. dont be afraid to say something, to anybody. speak ur mind. dont be embarrassed.
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Practice. That's the main thing that will help. I have that problem, and it helped me to remind myself that the person I am talking to is just a human - exactly like me... absolutely no more special, and therefore should have no power to make me nervous. Another thing I do that has helped is observe people with really good social abilities. It doesn't exactly make you more calm, but it shows you more options of how to act in situations when talking to people - which over time will make you more confident in yourself as you become more comfortable with the "talents" you've learned.
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Just be friendly but dont get taken advantage of. Your personality will draw people to you.
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If you can, have a party. Invite the people you know and like to bring friends. If you have people over on a fairly regular basis they will start to bring more friends over. Plus you can use your duties as host to get over some of your shyness...asking if people want another drink, etc. is a good excuse to strike up a conversation with someone you don't know very well. \n\nIf you don't have enough space to have people over you might consider picking a bar or restaurant that you like and try going once a week for a while. Eventually you will become recognizable and you might be able to strike it up with some of the bartenders/waiters or other regulars. If it's a bar the alcohol is a great social lubricant and helps everyone overcome shyness. Just don't over do it. If your into sports that is always a topic strangers can talk about.