If He's told me, you cant change me...I really cant??
925405
No you can't change him.  He is right.  BUT!!!! there is a but.  He CAN change for you.  Isnt that great? We cant change people.  We love them for who they are and if are with them its because we have accepted them for who they are.  But when we express something we dont like, or appreciate for them not to do, or something bothers us, if they care for us then they should have no problem working on it you know? THats my opinion.
755834
Yes change is possible. Change is also a possiblity when we decide to change for ourselves first, not when somebody else insists that we do it for their sake.
723894
Hell no, not if I don't want to change
350115
The only thing you can do is set an example.  Live your life in a righteous way, and hope that they see that.  You can't change anyone, it's not your job to change anyone, all you can do is set an example, tell people the message of Christ, and God will work from there.
565152
You can't make anybody love you, honey! All you can do is be someone who can be loved.  The rest is up to him!
864146
Yeah get out of there! you have to do it slowly stop calling him and contacting him and he will soon take the hint. Don't fall for the I'll change routine...men like that never change.
796036
Stop trying to *change* your man! If he does something that you do not like you either have to accept him, or let him go, but you CANNOT change him!
227645
i dont think he can .
887316
Well its perfectly alright, but beware...you don't want him trying to change you and you definelty are not goign to be abel to chagne him and his beliefs...its pretty disfunctional.  But that it can be done of course it can be optimistic always!!!!
461378
You can't make someone like you. Either he does or dosn't.
780598
honey, there is no way to force someone to see you differently, be your self. don't ruin your friendship. maybe some day he will change his mind, but for now just be his friend. it might be that if you try to force this issue, he will not even want to be your friend.
762777
Not if you also changed your name.\n\nYou can't do it.  Try it.\n\nHolly, we've been telling him this.  I think he is giving Y the old flip-off.
19814
You say you have no choice but to put up with him, so I say:Find out every flaw he has. Correct him at every turn,show him up, make him feel persecuted, rub his nose in it like a puppy.He'll either get the message and move on to another unsuspecting soul, or kill you.
702573
Whatever is impossible for man. Its possible for God. Keep your faith and keep believing. Whether it is nature or nurture. God can transform you!!
1022343
YOU can't change anyone.  If a person is going to change, they are going to change for themselves and if they attempt to change for you, you are going to be surprised later on.  It is not right to try to change a person.  You are saying you don't like the way they are about something.  If you can't handle the way someone is - we all have "flaws" -- then just step away.  What if someone wanted to "change" you????
800033
Love, you cant make a man change one bit.  trust me, im a man, and I know.  There's nothing we hate more then someone trying to change us.  Infact, if you do try, he might just increase his reckless behavior just to spite you.  His actions seem to imply that he doesnt believe he has much to live for, to be blunt.  I suggest trying to get him in touch with his passions (besides you of course).  what does he LOVE to do?  Find that passion and spark it all the time!  Dont say anything about what he eats or how much he excercises (again, no one likes a nag..he's a big boy after all) but wait and see.  If he's in touch with his passions again I'd bet my last nickel that he'll start eating better and going to the gym.
600802
Can't be done.\n\nAs with everything, they have to WANT to change - someone else can't do it for them.