i dont know if i love my bestfriend as just a friend or a boyfriend (please help me im very confused)?
927679
Lucky you.  Sounds like you have the perfect ingredients for a great relationship.  You already know eachother very well and you already have a great time together, so go for it!
1094956
Do you really need to ask this? If you respect yourself, you will realize that your boyfriend is not worthy of being in a relationship with you, and your best friend is not a real friend. Surround yourself with people that are worthy of your friendship and love.
259639
If he is your best friend, this question wouldn't be necessary. Best friends know each other deeply. I suspect he doesn't feel the same way you do, but you would like it to be that way. Ask him straight out and expect the truth. A best friend will not lie to you.
925853
Wow, ok first thing is the boyfriend probably has a right to be jealous...if you and your best friend are as close as it sounds, I'd be jealous too. You need to step back a little bit, they are in a relationship and you should keep the friendship boundaries in tack. Dont over step them. Also, if you feel your best friend looks at you a little differently then he should...talk to him about it, honestly, if he is your best friend you should be able to talk to him about anything. Keep in mind, he is taken and you have to watch it when your hanging around him....best friends last forever, but when someone else is involved things get messy and the best thing for you to do is stay his best friend....emphasize on Friend. If he wants to pursue more with you then he will do the right thing, if not...then let him and his boyfriend be in a relationship. Good Luck, I hope this helped a little
249823
I think you should try going on a date with him. If you don't try it you may always wonder whether or not you did the right think. If he is indeed your best friend, your friendship should be strong enough to handle whatever happens. If you already know everything about each other (like most best friends do) than the transition from friend to boyfriend may just be the natural course of action for you two. However, if you are not physically attracted to him at all, then maybe you should stay just friends because neither one of you will be happy in a long term relationship.
796149
Go for it!!!  This guy sounds like a keeper!!  Talk to your best friend about it, if you are worried what she may think...she may be absolutely delighted!  This guy knows how to cheer you up at the right time??  What a prize!  The worst thing that can happen is you still have two great friends.  Good luck!
572442
It will only make things weird if he doesn't feel the same way after you've told him.  Do you think he could feel the same way? You need to find out whether you ask him upfront or ask his friends or mutual friends.  You need to find out first.  If he feels the same way, then I don't think there's anything wrong with giving it a try.  The best boyfriends are usually your friends first! The only downfall is if it doesn't work out (and it ends badly) it may not go back the way it used to be.  You need to decide if that's what you want and if he feels that way too.
1124058
Well if your best friend is gay then that means you two dont really have much of a chance.  I guess i would tell him how you feel just to get it out in the open.  It may be easier for you to deal with it that way.  Even tho you may not ever get to be with him, he will still always be an important role in your life.  Boyfriends may come and go for both of you but you'll still always have eachother as friends.
1056626
Obviously you havent gotten over the fact that he doesnt want to date you. Maybe you should jump on the horse and go out on a date...not exactly get a boyfriend...just go out...have fun...spend time not thinking about him.\n\nIf you're best friends you dont want to lose that, I've been in that situation being in love with your best friend...it's horrible when you realize they dont feel the same...I got lucky...my best friend told me that I would find the man of my dreams and realize that it wasnt him...and he was right...but it took about a year before that happened. \n\nJust give it time and things will get better...if not easier. You just need time to cope.\n\nBest of luck
41101
What do you do? Absolutely nothing. Not a good idea to do anything about it. You could get your a$$ kicked or worse than that, lose your best friend. Will it be worth it? Find a boyfriend of your own.
1036169
Well dear, the English language, although among the richest, is still poor to express certain issues. \nLove! Is Love a feeling or a property of a person? I think the second! Thus, if you are a person who love, then you love and you love everyone and everything! That is great! Congratulations!\nNow, since you love, you love your friends, also, regardless of their customs, attractions, wills, etc. What you are asking in if you should do what you do not like, am I right? \nIn the case you do not like something, you do not do this, because your closest and best friend is yourself! Yourself will never turn you down, or at least more than you will do to her!\nALso, we have many friends who either drink a lot, or smoke or take drags, ..., we get with them and try to influence them to soemthing we consider better! Others are doing thing we consider them fine, although those activities are not our style! Etc. We get together with them. We enjoy what we can communicate each other! Same way with your friend! You remain friends, but you should do what you really want! If you cchange, your friends will not like you any more, you will be done aanother person! If they like the new you and the new you is less good that the previous, run away, those might not be good friends, might not even be any kind of friends!\nNow, if she would bring another boyfriend, what would you think? How would you react?\nIt all depends on how you feel, what kind of girlfriend she is, what you want out of this relation, ...\nI might enjoy both of them and look around for another relation!!!!
363158
alright hun obviously there is something going on within your present relationship that has you wanting this other man. But even if there is a man's best friend is a subject YOU BETTER BE PREPARED TO TACKLE IF YOU PERSUE. Because like the saying goes, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but a best friend last forever. They've known each other longer than you and trust me from experience they will turn on you. I lost a good man at that time because i persued his best friend. Hun, unless you can deal with the consequences, back off and let him come to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't then you have your answer and accept it. But if u feel u need to know go for it, but be prepared for what comes down the road
257150
sure but make sure your friend never finds out because who would you rather have a boyfriend or your bestfriend you choose.\n\ngood luck!
646511
I have a similar problem the only difference is I think of my best friend as a brother and he told me he was in love with me. You need to sit down and make some rules first to be in love with your best friend could be the best thing that ever happened to you. I understand you being scared that if your relationship moves forward and it doesn't work out you may lose your best friend, but make a pact that no matter what happens you will always be friends and talk things out before you do anything, always be there for each other and you may have found the love of your life.
437147
Here is a defining moment in your life.. \nPut yourself in your friends shoes.. as exciting as it may be to be you right now.. \nHOW would you feel if the sitch was reversed.. NOT too fun to get screwed over by your best friend and boyfriend.. \nDO you become a good person, and decide your BEST friend is more important to you then a guy.. \nOR do you become a beotch (sorry, but that is what you would be) and take your best friends man with no regard for her, or her feelings.. I'm saying.. That would be pretty fu**cked up on your part.. (actually what you're doing right now is pretty f**ked up in itself.. just plotting )to do it.. YOU should be more of a friend then that.. And just remember Karma is a beotch, and who's to say he wont leave you for one of your friends.. ?
364892
Figure out what you want for real. Do you have the habit of moving from one guy to the next? If so, stop and take a few breaths before you get involved next time.\n\nAs for the guys, stay away from his best friend. You never should date a boyfriend's best friend unless the old relationship is long dead. And even then, it can be a sensitive topic.
30931
so you think you're in love with your best friend, huh?  well, a lot depends on how old you are, how long you've know him, etc.  is he in a realationship right now?  could it be that you are jealous that someone is taking his time away from you?  there are a lot of things to consider here.  the best is to be honest.  if he is really your best friend, then hopefully he will listen to what you have to say and take you seriously.  who knows, maybe he loves you back.  telling someone you love them is something that cannot be taken lightly.  and if you end up dating him, you can never go back to being 'just friends.'