What should I do with my mom's emptied urn? (please be nice...)?
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I'm sorry for your loss.  The urn sounds lovely.  I would suggest planting maybe one of mom's favorite plants in it.  Draw straws to determine who gets it.  That family keeps it for a year, and then at Christmas next year gives it to another family member.  \n\nYou could keep this tradition going for a long time ;)  \n\nI lost my grandmother earlier this year and I got some of her ashes in a tiny urn.  Part of me wants to scatter the ashes under an orange tree she planted probably 30 years ago and that produces the sweetest navels you can imagine - but I'm torn, also, on what to do with this tiny thing. I suppose I could just keep it where it is as a reminder, but I dunno...\n\nAgain, I'm sorry for your loss.
1066859
Well before you recycle it maybe you should try to get someone to (re)use it. Start with eBay then if you don't get any bids, maybe you should give it to a local charity.
526409
u can just email a card to her by expressing all ur feelings. the site is www.americangreetings.com. u can even write stuff and print it off. or u can buy a beautiful blank card and write all ur feeling. Or u can even make a card on your own.(doesn't matter if you are a good artist or not) because the hard work that u have put in the card that u made would be the best surprise for your mom.
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Hey your story touched me so i thought i would take the time to answer it, at least as best as i can! x\n\nFirstly, it must be dreadful to feel empty and lonely-as in a sense, perhaps you feel like you have lost half of your identity, as obviousley your mum is half of your biological makeup-and half of you!\n\nBut on the opposide side of this, is the fact that in that sense, she will always be a part of you, as you are half of her, which should give you some comfort. You are one of the closest people to her; so when you feel lonely and down think about this!\n\nAlso Never say Never either, and keep an open mind! Who is to say there isnt an afterlife? Its best not to think pessimistic, and say that you will never see her again. If she died, perhaps she died for a reason and is no longer in pain and is in peace.\n\nTry to talk to a close member of your family who would perhaps understand. Try not to dwell on the past and embrace the family that you have presently. At the end of the day your mum is in your heart and is a part of you, and that will never fade.\n\nxx
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Sweetie, first of all let me say I know how hard it is to lose a parent, and I am so sorry......You can get relatively cheap artificial flowers that are pretty at craft stores (Pat Catan's, etc...). Or you can create a spray from the flowers he liked most. When my grandmother died we picked a ton of tulips from her garden and made a spray that way. Just figure out what you want to put in it and buy some ivy to put around it....I'm sure it will be beautiful, and remember that gone or not Dad will see it......God Bless you and your family!!!!!
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If your Mom has a hobby, get something related to that.  \nSubscriptions to a magazine she likes to read is a gift that gives all year.\nMy daughter got me a gift certificate to my favorite lunch place, good for a weeks worth of lunches. \nIf your Mom is like me, she doesn't need trinkets, but something useful is always appreciated.  You know, you could also write her a letter and tell her how much you appreciate and love her.\nPictures are always a good thing too.  A nice scrapbook of her life, something you put together for her.
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keep it as a souvenir.\n\n:> peace\n.
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buy a nice card and then make some "vouchers"(paper, colored pens) and have them say things like, "I will do dishes", "i will cook dinner". anything that you can do that will give your mom a well deserved rest from her never ending chores. only do things that you wouldn't ordinarily do. this only costs the price of a card, but you could alway make the card too. i'm a mom and i would like this as my buttheads, oops, i mean kids never offer to help me unless i ask and then it's iffy. you can tell her that all she has to do to redeem her "gifts" is to give you a voucher. the vouchers could always be generic and say ie."any chore" and then she can choose.
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SEND IT TO THE RECYCLING BIN\nHAVE A GREAT DAY
136345
Just leave it to the Undertaker. LOL
714277
If it is expired then throw it out.  It would no longer be effective in helping you if you were to take it for something.  Flush them down the toilet.
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I know this is not the answer you were looking for, but maybe it will help. My mother was cremated, so she has no final resting place, as such. So, what I did was, I created a place to honor her, near to my home. Anytime I want to go there, I can. Good Luck!!
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I'm considering cremation...then I can have my ashes spread over my favorite place. I figure, you soul has alredy gone to where it is supposed to(hopefully heaven)- so, I want my ashes tossed into the valley below my favorite place(lookout point).\nAlso, saves big $$$. One last nice gesture for family and friends.
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That sounds like a thoughtful alternative.\nWhen my dad died, we received so many flowers, cards, and fruit baskets (oh my, the fruit flies were horrible!).\n\nMy mom was a widow with three minor kids, and she appreciated the people that volunteered to watch us while she made arrangements, or the meals that were prepared so she didn't have to worry about it, and the ladies from church who came over and cleaned our house up a bit.  If geographical restrictions aren't an issue and she is your mother-in-law, maybe you could send a fruit basket or gift basket, but also volunteer your time or talents.  Just a thought...
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Take it to an undertaker
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Did you know the woman personally, or anything special about her (hobbies, collections, etc., especially ones you might share)?  If so, you might want to throw in a happy memory or something like that.  If not, his thought that YOU thought enough to send  condolences will probably serve.
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that's pretty simple. Just ask whoever is in charge at the cemetery. They should know the answer. You could also plant a tree of remembrance in your own yard. My thoughts and prayers are with you in your difficult time.