How to win her back and she is already taken, by my best-friend?
925495
i agree, i dont think u really want to have them in your life anymore...find someone else that you will love even more than her! your best friend is going out with a girl you love. a true friend wouldnt do that...so think about it like that. you will find someone that is perfect for u so dont worry about it! \n<3
327203
tell her how you feel. i made the mistake of not telling her. i lost one of my best friends ever. dont let that happen, keep your friend and tell her how you feel.
533475
Five Ways To Win Her Back\n\nAdmit it: You messed up. You said or did something to drive away the most beautiful girl in the world, and now you want her back. But here's the rub: She's moved on, or at least appears to be going on with her life, living and loving it up with guys who happen not to be you. So what do you do to get back into her good graces without completely throwing your pride out of the window? How do you repair the rift and still remain a "man's man"?\nReach Out\n\nYears ago, a guy would have had to stumble through an uncomfortable phone call or write an embarrassing letter to reestablish the lines of communication with his lost love. These days, sending your ex an email is the easiest way to go. It's a quick and modern way to exchange light-hearted communications and your girl won't think you're groveling if you dash off a quick: "How's it going?"\nBe Contrite\n\nI know, I know. Admitting you're wrong is sometimes hard to do, but this simple technique goes a long way in showing a woman that you care. After you've reestablished the lines of communication, drop a few hints. Phrases like: "I'm sorry I said that" or "I didn't mean for that to happen" cause a woman to want to listen more to what you say to her. By the time you swoop in for the kill, she'll be ready. Unless of course you really screwed up ...\nBe Available\n\nIf you followed the methods above, the two of you should at least be on friendly terms. The next way to get her to warm to you is by showing her that you're there. If she needs a ride somewhere, take her; if she's moving, handle the biggest of the boxes; if she's fighting with her mom, listen to her whine about it.\n\nMaking yourself available doesn't mean taking over the role of "girlfriend". It means that when the girl you love has a problem, or needs a shoulder to cry on, it'll be your shoulder she cries on - not some other guy's.\nBe Busy\n\nWait! Didn't I just say to be available? Isn't that a contradiction? Not at all. Even though you're following the rules to get her back, you don't want her to know that you're trying to get her back--not just yet anyway. Go out with your buddies and continue your normal activities. That way, when you speak with her, you'll have funny stories to tell and new things to add to the conversation. If you're waiting by your phone or surfing the 'net checking your email every five seconds, then you'll have no great adventures to impress her with. And then she'll think you're lame.\nBe old-fashioned\n\nYour ex should be on her way to being your "next" again. Once things have progressed and you're sure she likes you again, ask her out. Think hard: what does she like to do? Perhaps your lady doesn't like the usual movie/dinner/clubbing scene--in that case, get creative. If she likes theme parks, rekindle those flames on her favorite roller coaster. If she's a reader, find out when her favorite author is in town and take your ex to see them. Is she a horror film buff? Take her to a film festival or rent the classics and stay in for the night. Make sure you've got her favorite snacks and drinks on hand.\nBe yourself\n\nDespite everything listed above, all a guy really has to get back with his ex is, well, himself. Turn on at full speed whatever you had that made her want you the first time. Remind her of how great things were in the beginning. Mention highlights that give the both of you good feelings. Don't be afraid to let her know that you had some of your best times with her, and that you wouldn't mind having more good times.\n\nWhile you think it might be easier to hold onto your pride, move on and forget about the one who got away, why chance it? Listening to your friends who think you're a big jerk for trying to work things out will just keep you alone, or w
199026
you sound like you really want to renew this friendship, if so then you need to bite the bullet and take the first step. its not easy but life is too short and she probably feels the same way as you do and missed your friendship. dont wait give her  a ring and let bygones be bygones. good luck.
640106
im so sorry for u..i see how confussing this must be for you..<i could barely understand this it was so conf..> but i think u need to start from the begginning..why did she think u were ditching her...and tell her "i have a new bff and so do u, u should have thought about ur decsion before u got a new bff" so untill then..lets just stay bf..ok.."\n\nhope this helps..i hope things work out for u..\n\n: )
529659
you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
700674
Ya, if her feelings for you are ever going to change from friendship to relationship, it's probably not gonna happen when she knows that your waiting for her. I've had friends in the past that have professed their love for me after we had been friends for awhile, pretty much, once your in the friend place it's really hard to come out of. I'm not saying it's impossible but her knowing how you feel probably isn't helping, she knows you'll be there untill she's ready. My advice...move on, still be her friend but date someone else. If there ever is a chance of her feelings toward you changing, it'll happen when she thinks she's lost you. Everyone loves a challenge ;) Good Luck!
577013
well, I really appreciate your kind heart..\nalthough there's no chance to prevent her hurting feeling...\nbut I believe, it's much much better you tell her the truth, that you can only keep her as a friend, than act like you're her someone special...\ncause it will be more hurts...\nbe brave.
518690
Well, have you tried talking to her? you must tell her how much she means to you... and how she's hurting you now. you care for your best friend , but that doesn't mean she can control you around and being a pain in the neck. So tell her that you want to still be best friends with her (because you care and love her) but SHE has to change.\n\nOr, could there be a problem that she hasn't told you yet? Maybe she's acting differently becoz she's under peer pressure (or other problems) and subconsciously doesn't realize what she's doing to you.. and also not recognizing it as a problem. Talk to her and figure it out together.\n\nAnother thing, i think that you can't expect somebody to be the same forever. I have a best friend of 8 years, and now she's changed and become more hostile. I dun like much of her new self, but i accepted it. If she offends me then i'll tell her straight. There'll be a quarrel or so.. but we'll always make up the next day. And though we're not as close as before, we are still best friends and can come up to each other with problems.\n\nGood luck with your best friend! Sometimes, we have to let go to gain something.. It could be a little space between you both, or something else. I think it's best not to break the friendship.
482250
For a start, applogise dearly to her and tell her this time your luv comes from your heart, no string attached..Its your destiny to be wit her..and that you now realise she was also meant to be wit you..
206979
you have tons of time, just stay friend with her and make a move when they break up!
102833
You say that you want to know how to get her back, and you know that she is making a mistake....well my friend I think that you need to give it time.  She needs to be able to come to the conclusion on her own that she made a mistake, and that this other guy is not the one for her it simply is not something you can coerce her into.  If you try, you will do nothing more than to drive a larger wedge into your already shattered relationship.  Give her space and time to miss you, and if she doesn't then you have your answer but she can't miss you if you continue to cling to her.\n\nAlso, I think something that you might need to consider as well is would you ever be able to move past her betrayal of you trust?  After all she did start another relationship before ending the one with you first.  \n\nOne other thing to consider is that perhaps your lives are just taking two different paths at the moment.  Maybe she felt that she wanted someone more inline with her own personal goals and aspirations.
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First analyze what made you break up.  Has enough time passedc for both of you to realize what each of you have done to damage this relationship and make changes to yourselves?  \n\nMaybe she is not aware that you want her back.  Once you have thought long and hard about it, sit her down and tell her how you feel.  Let her know that you repect her dating someone else, but you know you two will be together again and you will wait patiently for her.  This will not only flatter her but also instill doubt in her mind about the person she is with.\n\nAfter that, just be patient and kind to her and treat her with respect and consideration.  Be her friend and listen to her.  Be there for her.  Don't let he take advantage of you, but be the one she can turn to.  Sooner or later she will realize that she loves you still, also.
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Go for it... if your best friend is really a friend, she will understand and get over it.
576351
well, if he/she doesn't notice your efforts, chances are, he/she doesn't consider having you for his/her best friend. don't push it. just be there for him/her when he/she needs you. just always be a friend to him/her.\n\ngood luck...  = )
569767
ha, she wouldn't be my best friend anymore! yeah, just tell her your mad. if she's your bff, she'll know better than to keep it up. she should pick u over the guy, and if she doesn't, shes no friend. good luck!
818035
Friends after the fact won't work dude.  If you want a relationship with her or still love her, tell her you want her back.  If that's a no go - you need a clean break - That involves your mate as well.   Explain you still have feelings for her and you can't be around her without feeling awkward.  Then find some new friends.