I have an autistic sister who still bangs her head on the wall.  I still couldn't out why she does that.?
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These sorts of behaviours are common amongst people with autism. It might be a behaviour that she engages in when the stimuli around her becomes too much and overwhelms her, similar to the common autistic 'flapping' (of the arms) behaviour.\n\nIs she living in a residential home? If so maybe check that she is getting the appropriate care she needs and if the environment it suited to her. What are the noise levels like? Does she get on with the staff? Is she eating well/sleeping well etc? (these can indicate how she is feeling)\n\nAlthough she has autism, you have still known her for a significant amount of time, and I trust that you will be able to gage her general mood to some extent.\n\nIt is worth speaking to the Psychologist (I am sure there will be one if your sis is living in a group home)  and she should be able to generate some strategies to phase out this behaviour which much be distressing for you to know your sister is engaging in.\n\nThere is also the possibility that maybe it is a physical problem affecting your sister. Because people with autism have difficulty communicating (you did not mention whether your sister uses speech at all), their behaviour changes for example, if somebody with autism has a toothache they might become aggressive and lash out at others or harm themselves. I recommend a general check up at the doctors and dentists too
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Control yourself and discipline your sister. If your sister insist having ___ with you, consult her to a psychiatrist or tell your parents.
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Neither one of you did anything wrong.  This happens from time to time to family members.  Just tell her it's not a big deal and that you will try not to forget to close the door every again.  Tell her sorry for forgetting to close the door.  The bigger a deal you make of it the bigger a deal it will become.  If your sister sees that you are OK and it's not bothering you then she will begin to do the same.\nThis has happened to me and my brother who is older than I am a few times.  We blew it off as no big deal.  We are both still to this day OK.  Neither one of us is in a loonie farm or anything like that.\nThe longer you put off talking to her the harder it will be to get back to normal.  So go and tell her, "Hi there"  If she brings it up just tell her, "Oh no biggie, Sorry I forgot to close the door."\nDon't fret it
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record it with a hidden cam corder. If she abuses you , she is more then likey to abuse others too. in my family this kinda stuff happpened too . it drove a space between me and my older sister, i hated her then and now i have little to no contact to her because she treats other still like that in her thirtys. some people need to feel as if they are in control and have the power. I dont want you to end up the tatel tail but if it was my child i would listen. Abuse is abuse no matter whos hand it comes by.
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Well she is a very immature person. Did she always get her way growing up by acting this way? When she got into trouble was she ever punished for it in a way that made her change? I don't think there is anything wrong with your sister except that she is very immature and very self centered. \n     You, as her sister need to just walk away from her and not even talk to her when she is being this way. You be the more mature person and don't even give that kind of stupid behavior the time of day. I mean literally refuse to deal with her when she is acting like this. Adults should not behave this way and you will notice that most of them do not.
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As a EMT-i if i saw this kind of behavior at a patients house i would not hesitate to report this to Child services, and the police. If she is simple doing this now what is to stop  her from moving on to a more  aggressive behavior pattern? If i were you i would report it.
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go with her to a therapist. maybe she has a chemical imbalance
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You are definitely not wrong. Sounds like your sister has some major issues and you have every right not to like her actions and attitude.
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Having Epilepsy myself, I can tell you that your sisters problem with insulting family members and then getting defensive is ALL her.  It has nothing to do with her having Epilepsy!  She must have some issues with the family that she needs to address.
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There are only two reasons why a person doesn't do something:\n1) She can't; or\n2) She can, but doesn't want to.\n\nIn your sister's case, reason number one apparently does not apply.  So, guess which reason is left?\n\nObviously, your sister is seeing some advantages to not trying.  It's work, and she doesn't want to do the work.  Or, it is empowering to have other people get stuff for her and cater to her.  Or, she doesn't believe in herself enough to try, because she is too afraid of failing.  Or, getting up to walk means that she will have to take more responsibility for herself in the future, and she is scared about that responsibility.  Or maybe it's something else.\n\nBut do you recognize the pattern here?  All of these reasons are psychological rather than physical.  And therefore the answer for her has to include pyschological counseling as well as physical therapy.  Your parents need to talk with her doctors.  There have to be therapists who specialize in cases like your sister's.  \n\nIf they do not get her the help she needs, she will ALWAYS be dependent.  She will be dependent on your parents for as long as they live, and then she will be dependent on you.  That is not fair to them, it is not fair to you, and most of all, it is not fair to your sister.  She needs help, and they must get it for her.  Good luck!!
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Please don't take it personal, but chances are you are the root of her defiance. Don't take this personal, but are you White? And this is just an observation that I had, many white people allow their children extended freedoms, and this can cause a child to feel like they are the ones that are in control. Let me open my mouth in an even slightly disrespectful undertone, my mother would've put a fist, belt, extension cord, mopstick, telephone cord.......(you get the picture) on my behind. And to all those who say don't beat their children remember " spare the rod spoil the child". This is just a general response. I also must say that it sounds like she has a lot of resentment towards you, and it sounds like it stems from whatever kind of relationship you had/have with her father. Her fighting with her younger bro is something that is common, but it could be BC of jealousy(do the two of them have the same father?) It kinda sounds like she is crying out for attention, you must remember to children attention is attention, whether it is positive or negative its the attention that they desire
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Well, I am a teenager so I am guessing she says that to you because you probably dont pay enough attention to her. Sometimes when we say things like this, its like we are screaming to be heard, that why we rebel. Its common that we do this, but it is not common why. So you need to talk to her.
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hahaha, thats a good one. maybe you should compromise with her. talk with her, address the issue. Let your voice be heard and let her know. If you don't she will continue to ignore you. Or you can encourage her, maybe you two should go exercise together and that  way you can get her off her ass
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I would suggest counseling. Maybe this person does not know how they make you feel, or even if they do, they don't know how to stop. If they grew up in a household that was always yelling, then they don't know any other way to be. If you can't get the person into counseling, then you either find a way to deal with it or find a way to get out.
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Actually it is because you are your own person.  You might be someone that has your personaliy and might seek attention in any way possible.  If you really want to be different then do the opposite what your sister does.
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I hate to say it but I have been where she is. I know what she is doing. She is escaping. Video games are the only things she can control right now. She is just as frustrated as you are.Perhaps she didn't sign up to be your house lady or your laundry mat. Maybe she had hopes of being someone or something other than that and unfortunately your complaints are only making things worse. You need to help her recognize her situation and discover what it is she really needs and wants. Part of that may mean she needs some time away from her current situation, time away from the games. You can't impose this time away you can only suggest it. This type of behaviour is definately a sign of unhappiness and a sign she needs to do some changing but I fear, like me, she will have to fall hard to know this. It took some serious life changes to teach me and I hope for her it won't be this way. The best you can do is be as loving and supportive and non-judgemental as possible.
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If she has good grades, why is she always sneaking out of the house? Is there a certain problem she is facing right now? She could be missing you or doing things that she isn't supposed to. Tell ur mom when she calls again to look for a counsel group for kids that are facing the same problem like her. I hope this helps, good luck