My daughter is getting married in 8 days. She is my only child. I feel like I'm losing my baby.?
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my mother always told me this little saying when i was a little girl..it might help you:\n\nYou son is your son till he takes a wife, but your daughter is your daughter for all of her life\n\nbless you
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unfortunately it is a normal thing for all marriages to go through exactly what you are describing to us here.\nI say unfortunately, because we all have this GRAND idea what it is to have a baby, but when it actually happens and it is JUST like you described, we all flake out and act like you do..Yes even some dads feel the same way..\nyou need a good support unit around you.\nDO you live near any family at all. they NEED to be brought in to help out... at some time in the day tiem for you, so you CAN go to the gym and have some time to yourself..you NEED to work out for your body ..but also for your mind..this way you will met other girls and talk to them..new friendships, others with the same things going on..or just meet people and talk...\nat night..so you and your hubby can do what ever ( wink, wink ) or go and watch the sun go down then go out to eat...or a movie without worrying about the baby..or the baby interrupting you two at those moments..\nPlease listen to me and do what I ask of you..\nnow if you do not have any family near you..you need to find reliable people you can really trust with your baby for the times I suggested to you..and let them take care of her for you so you can get back on track..\nlastly,maybe you should go and talk to you doctor if after you do what I am asking you to do does not do it for you..\nnow really last..you also need to dress up at home..yes dress up at home for you, but more for him...he needs to see you looking GREAT when he is there..makes him hot for you.\ngive him special attention ( you know what I mean ) you know how guys are..they need more attention than girls do....but do not admit it..\nbuy him a flower, give it to him when the baby goes down for a nap..then..well you know what..make him feel so fantastic ..he will start giving you it back..the ball goes round and round..what goes around comes around..even if you have to work a little harder than normal to get him happy..in the long run he will give you more of what you want and need.\nGood Luck\nand God Bless the three of you
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Don't feel unworthy! You're not!!!! Your miscarriage wasn't your fault and there was probably a very good reason why it happened that was beyond your control. Nature will always do the best thing for you and your baby! Don't blame yourself for something you could never control, even if you knewit was going to happen. As for your partner's ex, she can't stop him from seeing his child and the courts will put that right. More importantly, she brioke into your house and assaulted you! I hope you had her arrested! You are the priority here and you need to deal with the loss of your baby, either with your partner or a professional councellor. Don't leave it go until it becomes a real problem for you!!! Good luck with it all!!
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you are probably just nervous. the wedding jitters?? everyone feels like that. if you really love her then go for it. youve been with this woman for 7 years already.
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yeah that would have alot of an effect on that baby done been there. if you two can just leave the feelings left behind and be close good friends that might be better . neither of you should have put your feelings on hold towards each other till on is bout to start a family a new life and get married ... there is 5 people to worry about here who would get hurt the most you need to be straight up front from now on before its too late again and life just passes on by before you know it ........but then ask him is he marrying her cuz she is pregnant cuz you dont have to get married just cuz your having a baby and so the kid can have his last name only get married if the love is truely there dont get married for all the wrong reasons tell him that that might change it all for ya right there if he can trust his mom or dad they really are perfect to talk to about these kind of things
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you need to talk to her and explain how you are feelin about having another child...maybe you 2 could come to a compromise
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Hey bro, I feel bad for you. It sounds like you have tried working with her about this. It sounds like you have been patient.You are going to need to make some tough chocies.You are going to need to find out what's really the problem ( her not feeling sexy?,is she having an affair?,not in love with you anymore?,have you done something since your daughter was born to make her act this way?,ect..)You sound like you love her and your daughter and don't want to leave. It sounds like she's not willing to kiss, be romantic,or try to see a doctor about this.To me if she just wants to be friends and isn't willing to change then maybe it's time for you to re-think things out about what you what you want in a wife and if this siutation is really good for you and your daughter. If you continue to be unhappy, this will start to effect you much more, which will at some point effect your daughter, which is something you don't want, she's done nothing. I think it's cool that you are trying to keep your family, but you also need to have your needs met. I would keep trying to work with her on this if you feel it's worth it. If there's no change and if she's not willing to see a counseler then mabye it might be time for a change. Love and passion is something that can be worked out if both parties are willing to work things out. Just don't go deep and and get emotional and do something that's dumb. Everyone has bad stories with quick fixes. This is your family. Think things out before you act on them. Good luck. I hope very thing works out for you.
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Your story brings tear to my eyes. Maybe all you can do is emotionally fall apart. You need to grieve, and better now than having collapses when your baby is a toddler and getting on your nerves. It is going to be a whole new life for you, and you have to be prepared for some real suprises from him.  Get you court case ready - be prepared for even worse things - you don't know who your husband really is until you divorce him. Many men fight for custody when it comes time to think about child support - so be "prepared."  HE ALREADY HAS A NICE LITTLE STEP MOTHER THERE AND READY - SO STAY AHEAD OF HIM. Yes life is very cruel that when you are at your most traumatised you have to think about such horrid and practical things - but that is the way of divorce. It is the worst hell you will ever experience. I feel so sick that this is happening to you while you are pregnant and so terribly in need of protection and love. You have to starting thinking about the man you love as an 'opponent' now. It is easy to say but I know that it is a very difficult thing to do. Feelings are what thay are. What you need is to find people out there who will listen to you and let you cry on their shoulder. People are VERY IMPATIENT and they will expect you to get over things very quickly, so have more than one friend to lean on. You have a precious baby on the way and taking care of that baby (alone) will be fill up many spaces because of the overwhelming responsibily. You really have to find compassionate non-condemning, humble friends who can be there for you. You will be poorer - for sure so find some single mothers with babies - because they will be your greatest support system. Your social status has just changed dramatically - and that is one of the most difficult parts of single parentig.  So be "ready." I am sorry that I have very little that is positive to say. Just know that my heart breaks for you.
883271
How old are your children, I know I felt that way when I had post partum depression....maybe you should talk to your doctor.
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Well since that happened to me a yr ago, I suggest that u tell him that it's over and that u want him to be part of the baby's life. In my situation her and me have an understanding where I get to have him for 2 weeks out of the month and so does she. She just came out and told me, I wasn't so happy about it but I got use to it and realized that she really wanted it to be over. Anyways if U need some more advice on this e-mail at elguapo_v12@yahoo.com Well good luck and remember just sit down with him and tell him what u really feel...
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wow, sorry to hear about your girl, thats sad. I dont know why you cannot tell the difference but maybe its because you are in a lot of pain right now and you feel like you are hurting all over.  Again I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope things start looking up for you soon! :)
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Seriously I know how you are feeling, I was that way, and I waited and now we are getting married.  It isn't just the ring or the beautiful dress, Remember you will be with this person for the rest of your life and No turning back because you can't handle it. The rate for divorce is very high, So have patience, Alot of people don't know what they are going into. But TAKE IT EASY.
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I know exactly how you feel and yes it is normal to feel sad and maybe even a little angry that she had to die in a such a terrible tragic way especially being a young mom... I lost my friend in a car accident a long time ago and still think about her often she was too young didn't even have a chance to have children and she would have made a great mother. But the pain does start to go away eventually and you should just try to remember the good times and if possible try to be their for the children she left behind and tell them what a great person and friend she was to you and everyone else.... That way no one will ever forget her....
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try asking if she needs anything for the baby or send a small card or present,that might get you talking.  I split up from my husband when i was pregnant, it was hard but my little boy knows no different and is bright and happy,  it was hard to let go of the fantsy of a perfect , happy family but what's that these days.  try not to worry, she will need help when the baby comes and will likely turn to you, chin up
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Hon, I am so sorry you are going through this, and I am really sorry if this sounds harsh, but you need more help than Yahoo! Answers can give you.\nThe first thing you need to do it talk to your doc.  The stress you are under is not good for the baby, and wouldn't it just add to the tragedy if something happened to the baby at this point?\nYou need to talk to your OB/GYN ASAP.\nAs for the job, FMLA, since you are a manager you should be familliar with that, tho since he is only a fiance there might be a problem with getting it.  Talk to HR and if there is, you can always get a minister to come into your home and marry you (depending on where you live of course).\nMy cousin nearly died from complications of chirrosis last year, so I know the terror you are feeling right now.  Please take care of yourself, provide what love and comfort you can and leave the rest to whatever higher power you believe in.  Do not give up the fight.  Good luck.
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Yes NHS is crap, similar experience here and I lost my little girl, stillborn at 40 weeks, she had only been dead a week, cord wrapped around her neck. I'd visited my doctor and gynaecologist earlier in the week and they never picked up on it. I knew she'd stopped moving as much but stepmum said it was the calm before the storm. Took me in to start me off, did a scan and told me she was dead, and I'd have to give birth naturally. Sheer hell I'll never forget it. So get your husband to kick but as much as he has to till they take notice. Be careful and good luck. X
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I suffer from major depression, ptsd and bpd last year and I have a 7 year old.  They wanted to hospitalize me, but I refused and agreed to a 5 day per week intensive outpatient therapy, and a cocktail of psych meds.  I am now back to work and functioning quite well. I assume you are single and that is why your daughter was taken away.  I have the luxury of being married.\n\nAnyway, my point is this...my little girl has seen me cry, sleep, lay around, ignore her, irritable, and at my worst.  I kind of wish I would have just been hospitalized and got it over with and not have her see me like that.  My husband and I were recently cleaning her room and found some of her writings and she wrote stuff like "mom is sick all the time" and "mom is sad".\n\nI really think that until you are better, your daughter is better off where she is.  She can be your motivation.  Whenever you think that life isn't worth living, just think of her.  That is what I did.\n\nYou are so young and you have your whole life ahead of you and so does your precious little girl.  You are sick.  Let the doctors treat you.  Get better, and get your daughter back!\n\nBest of luck to you!