I'm married but I've got a fetish for foreign women....should I get rid of the old lady?
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Its a sad world that produces such consistently narrow minded responses as the ones above.\n\nEvery single one of the above repondents equates Marriage with Sex, not Love.\n\nSex plays an often small if not non existent part in many marriages.   It is inevitable that in some marriages one partner may have a strong sexual urge where the other doesn't.  \n\nThe nature of an individual's sexual urge or even orientation may change over time whilst not necessarily affecting the love one has for a partner.\n\nIn such circumstances an otherwise healthy loving relationship may be put under strain if there is not an outlet for those urges.\n\nInfidelity is commited by the heart not the loins.  \n\nThere are many avenues one can explore to find a sexual release that is emotionally limited.   These avenues, USED SENSIBLY, can fill a gap in your life and relieve an itch before it consumes both yourself and your marriage.
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I am older also.  I like younger women.  I am vain.  I am not attracted to many women my age.  I look great for my age so probably 10 years younger.  In many cases the girl has chased after me. Make sure that he is taking you out and exposing you to culture.  You should be going to plays and concerts and nice restaurants with him.  He should be introducing you to his friends (parents later).  See the book Pygmilian which my fair lady is based.  Your older guy should be expanding your horizons.  If you are just going to cheap restaurants or not really doing anything then you are simply giving it up for the price of a happy meal.
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NO! blackmail her. Tell her your going to tell the wife she seduced you (see Jude Law tabloids). Tell her if she will go quietly, and pay you a small amt. monthly, you will "forget about the incidents of indiscretion which occurred."\nGood by nanny, hello $$$
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hmmm...that's a tough one, I think I would want to tell her too, but that could cause big problems for your place of business...maybe talk to your manager about it and let him know your concern that even though no one likes this lady, that's just not right
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Honey I think you have been the victim of a ruse. Please be careful ~ the gentleman is correct regarding the mercenary actions of women in Thailand.....of course not all....My recommendation is to "Leave it Be".....do as you will.....Thanks.
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Our culture predetermines that coveting and lusting with the eyes is simply unavoidable. The issue here is what are your intentions toward this person..if you feel a love and commitment that is headed for a lifetime spent together then in effect you are lusting after your own wife. If you see her not as a sex object but as a person worthy of respect as well as the admiration for her feminine beauty then you are simply doing what comes natural. Have you ever read Song of Solomon? Yeah...desiring your partner is not sinful..however, there is something to be said for modest dress and staying in appropriate venues while spending time together. Even for young unmarried christian couples the temptation is there. Right now everything is geared toward weakening your defenses...girls going around barely dressed letting all their business hang out everywhere, access so easy to porn, condoms and birth control, privacy..both in the parents home and set up as a young adult in dorms and apartments, not to mention the pervasive message that sex and love are synonymous when actually they have nothing to do with each other in the long run. Being single and a christian in this American culture is torture at times...just keep praying, talk to her and confess how you feel, if needs be set up perameters and ask her to dress modestly for your sake...or heck..the best bet is..if you guys are of age...GET MARRIED! What ya waiting for? If you are too young to be marriage minded and are not ready for a commitment..then you shouldn't be dating...that's my opinion though and who am I but a frumpy house frau. God bless you though..cuz you do care and you want to do what's right..just pray, stay in the Word of God and you'll be fine. Love in Christ, ~J~  <><  P.S. Jesus was speaking about adultry...lusting with your eyes for someone else other than the person you are "MARRIED" to...however, if you are lusting after your girlfriend and all 10 of her friends plus and also every other female that crosses your line of vision..well, then..perhaps this verse does apply to you. Catch yourself and get in the habit of stopping cold those thoughts...it can be done..this is called self disapline.
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Hun I'm a very old fashioned girl, but in no way am I easily manipulated either. I am not into feminism because I think that's kind of lesbianish (not that I have anything against them), I do believe in equal rights though. Old fashioned does not mean we have to deal with all the things women had to deal with in the past. Sharing housework, well, I don't care for that, I'm a perfectionist and a clean freak, so when it comes to that, I need to do things my way or no way *lol*. I do believe in speaking my mind, but that doesn't mean I am going to stop being old fashioned. Do you really want someone old fashioned, or do you want someone you can manipulate?
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YES ,it's normal every woman peaks differntly,i heard in thier 40's.I'm a 36old man and i prefer older women because of better sex and mostly they know what they want.hell feel good about .I think you feel good about your self .Being overly active does,nt mean your a sluty nympho .heck i wish i had a women with that problem..Rock on and have fun..
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I would consider doing it in her presence! It portrays an image of not being satisfied by her! Think about it and imagine you being the one next to your wife masturbating while you arent that asleep!
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I would keep doing it.  You obviously have no respect for your wife, so why let her get in the way of your sleezy relationship?
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Tough call without all the details... but I'll give it a shot.\n\nWhen we begin to lose our "fancy" for others, it tends to be within us where the problems reside.  You may go out and find a round bottomed little sweety and find her an enjoyable ride for a while, but soon you'll tire of that coaster as well.  I went through the TWO year relationship cycle for almost 12 years.  SUCKS\n\nPerhaps the reason you fantasize about other girls when you're having intercourse with your gal, is because you're trying to overcome something about yourself.  This will be something you are doing subconciously.  Think long a hard about this.  Are you happy with your life?  Do you do the things you feel "define" you as a person?  If you're into rock climbing for instance, how often do you climb?   See what I mean?  Perhaps you've gained weight and are not happy with your image.... who knows.\n\nMoving to another country, ESPECIALLY MOVING TO THE US, can have an enormous impact on a persons psyche.   Think of all the variables.  Do you financially support the relationship?  Did you before?  Do you now?  Has this changed since you moved?\n\nIs there a fetish that you've kept secret?\n\nI really wish I could give you an answer, but that doesn't seem possible.  Too many question need answers first.\n\nI don't think I would give up on the relationship.  The part when you talk about your gal's Mum being annoying, well.... come on man....   grow up.  Try to find something about what she does that's annoying to you and make an internal joke about it.  Find a way to laugh with her.\n\nMy boss is insufferable!  Yet, I've been here over 2 years and I laugh with the dolt every single day.\n\ncheers and I wish you well\n\nTIP:  if you fancy other girls, have her be another girl.  A little ROLE play can be quite fun.
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it's the women.  namely it's where i'm coming from and have been, at least it was like that for a while, wanting to take the good of you and leave the bad from my culture to make it better for the both of us.  i don't mean "you," specifically, just a chinese girl i'll marry eventually.\n\ni could see where your canadian wouldn't care much for his homogenous women; since it would allow him to hide in his mind and dream about that one day where he'll be infinitely happy with you. maybe it gives him time to become better and smarter, and maybe his women don't value this confucian quality that emanates from all of you.  european and american women have put less emphasis on the family, and the roles we each have, and our obligations and duties to our spouses, and our children.  So your boyfriend probably thought "enough is enough," he'll just learn as much as possible and keep away from the women around him, build himself up, because women are a waste of time, or chasing them are at least, and if he had a woman at the moment, talking to her would kill him since the moment we open up our mouths over here is when we ruin our chances.  since women here don't want you to solve their problems.  talking is forbidden here, any form of communication beyond the sexual is a waste of time if you want to keep a woman here.  naturally that is an exaggeration, because some women do like smart men, but that isn't a requirement; whereas, in china, you put a high price on the pursuit of knowledge.
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You should get an American or English girlfriend - always the fastest way to learn!  If you're already married/involved, sorry, hope that doesn't offend you ;)
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If you are married, why are you trying to pick up women you low-life????
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You are going to be in MUCH better shape if you married a Japanese woman and have kids... \nIf not.. might want to just.. not mention this to anyone..
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There is nothing cultural about it.  You must talk to your husband and your husband must not make such friends and invite them at home.  He has lust for your body only.  He wants to taste you and then fly away.  In other words he wants to get you in sinful life and spoil your home life.  Treat such people sternly with the help of your husband.
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Heck no!\n\nWhat do you think? \n\nThat's nasty.  Sounds like you have a real fetish problem there buddy boy.