what makes a gay becomes a gay?
916761
No one "becomes" gay. Sexual identity is determined by genetics, not personal preference. Being gay does not mean only sleeping with someone of the same sex, but loving them. Think about the way a man loves a woman, and why he doesn't love his best friend the same way. Being gay is the same thing, only with different genders. A person who is gay goes through puberty and realizes they have an attraction for the same sex, yet many gays state that they sensed they were "different" since they were children as young as five. Sometimes, people change their preference, but it is due to brain chemistry and not outside forces (this is why praying and porn do not work to change sexual identity.)\nMany straight men and women are afraid watching a gay film or hanging around gays will make them gay, but it's not true. Otherwise, a gay could become straight by hanging around straight people!
546391
Gay people are gay, just as straight people are straight.  You can't "become" either.
300226
Psychologicly, its called "reaction formation". Hundreds of tests have shown that people are not absolutely gay or absolutely straight. Every one is a little bit attracted to both genders.\n\nIf someone is very religious or otherwise has very strong beliefs about homosexuality, and they expereince an attraction to a member of the same sex, they form a "psychological reaction", essentially equating to , "OMG I'M NOT GAY!"\n\nAfter that, they will go out of thier way to oppress, hassle, and antagonize gays any way they can to validate thier beliefs and disossiate themselves from homosexuality. Gay marriage is an easy target becuase they can hide behind thier religous qualms or half-baked ideas that gay marriange is somehow harmful to society.\n\nDon't worry, most young people today accept gay marriage, and as soon as we start voting, you'll see this issue drop off the radar.
1086887
First off normal is subjective.\n\nSecondly, you don't become gay, you are or you aren't (the exception tends to be gays who play straight because of the hatred and self-loathing heaped on them by the religious hypocrites of the world)\n\nThird, gay is NOT a disease so it needs no cure.\n\nFourth, if someone claims they changed through faith then good for you, disillusionment is a wonderful opiate.\n\nFive, spare me the "I'm really curious" bit, you already believe what you believe, so you really don't care what the truth is.  \n\nThis question is baiting so just go on your merry way and leave gays alone.
821603
The only other option is same sex attraction...which makes one gay or bi. There are examples of same sex attraction in the animal kingdom as well.
50948
People do not just become gay. It is widely agreed among the scientific community that gay people are born gay. Many studies have linked it to genetics. Enjoying it is a whole different issue.... most people probably do not enjoy being persecuted and hated. However, if by enjoying it you refer to gay sexual acts, they enjoy them for the same reason heterosexuals enjoy their sex acts: pleasure. Sex feels good, whether or not the majority of american society is willing to acknowledge it doesn't matter.
1134979
I am straight and I was born this way.\nYou are gay and I know you were born that way.  Cheers!\n(Here's a bit of scientific proof for the naysayers)\n\nThe sexual area of a gay man's brain works a lot like that of a woman when exposed to a particular stimulus, researchers say.\n\nIn an experiment, men and heterosexual women sniffed a chemical from the male hormone testosterone. The homosexual men's brains responded differently from those of heterosexual males, and in a similar way to the women's brains.
1027778
If he is gay, the only way to stop him from being gay is to Kill him.  That is the only way.  You might be able to terrorize him into pretending to be straight, but he'll still be gay.\n\nTake this advice or not, but your best option is to simply support him and let him be himself.
520232
How to tell if you're gay: \n1. If you are over 30 and you have a washboard stomach, you are gay. It means you haven't sucked back enough beer with the boys and rather you've been sucking-off the boys and have spent the rest of your free time doing sit-ups, aerobics, and doing the Oprah diet. \n\n\n\n2. If you have a cat, you are a Flaaaayming gay. A cat is like a dog, but gay: it grooms itself constantly but never scratches itself, has a delicate touch except when it uses its nails, and whines to be fed. And just think about how you call a dog..."Killer, come here! I said get your butt over here!" Now think about how you call a cat... "Bun-bun, come to daddy, snookums!" Jeeezus, you're fit to be framed, you're so gay. \n\n\n\n3. If you suck on lolipops, Ring-Pops, baby-pacifiers, or any such nonsense, rest assured, you are a Gaylord. A straight man only sucks bar-b-q ribs, crab-claws, raw oysters, craw-fish guts, pickled pigs feet, or titties. Anything else and you are in training to suck El Dicko and undeniably gay. \n\n\n\n4. If you refuse to take a dump in a public bathroom or piss in a parking lot, you're in a deep homosexual relationship. A man's world is his bathroom, he defecates and urinates where he pleases.\n\n\n5. If you drink decaf coffee with skim milk, you like a high hard one in the poop-chute. Coffee is to be had strong, black (or with thick, wholesome milk) and full-aroma. A vagina-eating man will never be heard ordering a "Decaf Cafe Latte with Skim" and he will never, ever know what artificial sweetner tastes like. If you've had Nutrasweet in your mouth, you've had a dick there too. \n\n\n\n6. If you know more than six names of colors or four different types of dessert, you might as well be handing out free passes to your bung. A real man doesn't have memory space in his brain to remember all of that crap as well as all the names of all the players in the Major league, NFL, NBA, college ball, PGA, and Nascar. If you can pick out chartreusse or you know what a "fresier" is you're gay. And if you can name ANY type of textile other than denim, you are faggadocious! \n\n\n\n7. If you drive with both hands on the wheel, forget it...you hungry for meat-popsicle. A man only puts both hands on the wheel to honk at a slow driver or to cut the dude off. The rest of the time he needs that hand to change the radio station, eat his hamburger, hold his beer, finger the bi-atch in the passenger seat (whoever she happens to be), or, if he's Latino, talk on his cell-phone. \n\n\n\n8. If you enjoy romantic comedies or French films, mon-frere, vous sonnez le Gay, oui? The only time it is acceptable to watch one of those is with a woman who knows how to reward her man. Watching any of the above films by yourself or with another man is likely to result in SHC (spontaneous homosexual combustion), which is what happens to fags when they flame out too quickly.
738121
no.. i dont think being gay is in the hormones or is in the genes of a certain bloodline. i think its all about the environment of the person that she/he is with which triggered her/him to become gay.
313710
I suggest you learn how to phrase your question in a way that makes it understandable to others.  Right now, it is difficult to even decipher what you are trying to ask.  \n\nIf you are trying to join some group that professes to turn you from gay to straight, don't do it.  It never works.  Changing who you have relations with is easy and anybody can do it.  But changing who you WANT to have relations with is seemingly impossible.
325706
What makes a person gay?  That is the million dollar question.  First you have to decide whether genes or environment make a person act male or female.  Could you take a male baby and do a sex change, raise it as a female and have him/her lead a totally normal life?  (This was actually done once but only because a circumsion went real bad)  Answer is no;  why?  Because it is in our genes to identify us as male or female.\n\nWhat if you didn't identify yourself as male or female?  Isn't it a little weird that gays have feminine characteristics and lesbians male characteristics.  Did they just adopt these when they made their "choice" to be gay (as you think)?  Or did thinking like and identifying with the opposite sex seem more natural because of their physical and mental characteristics.  Imagine a prissy little boy who couldn't play sports and had a high pitched voice.  They were never accepted by the other boys and over time identified more with the girls.  Sure they don't have a "gay" gene.  But the question is, can genetics cause someone to identify more with the opposite sex.  I'm not saying that all homosexuals actually want to be transvestites.  I'm just saying that boys could have always wanted to be "one of the girls", or vice-versa for lesbians.  \nHomosexuality is a complicated mix of nature and nuture.  I don't believe there are specific gay genes, but they are definitely inherited characteristics that under the right environment could cause an individual to adopt a gay lifestyle, even at an early age.\nBy the way, scientists may believe in a lot of things like spirits, angels, god, aliens, life-on-other-worlds, etc.  that can't be proven.  They just know that science can't be used to get other people to believe in these as well.  These things are faith and have to be adopted independently from science. \nBy the way, this is coming from a heterosexual, spirtual, scientist, married man of three daughters.
1096665
Certainly they do not want to be a gay neither lesbian. They just want to be straight. But the desire just come away. No one knows it, God only knows it. \n\nThere are many factors that affect it.\n\nYes, they can become straight and raise a family. Just go deeply into your own self and forgive your self & try not to blame your own self. Keep on praying, God will open the way.
1124744
Man!your luck i did'nt loose my virginity till I was a sophmore in college.Anyway it might lead up to what happend in your past.But how can your a past affect you falling in love with the sme gender it's not normal,your gay! Hey I may be wrong because I can't read or see that in people.So I hope you got your answer,I just wanted my 2 points.
563539
Fear and ignorance.\n\nIf a person gets freaked out by the notion that someone around them is gay it's usually because they are afraid that the gay person will see some obvious gay traits that they have and "out" them.  Not only is this an unreasonable expectation to put onto someone, it leads to fear, hysteria, and violence.  \n\nNobody can "make" you gay, and if you are afraid you might have some traits, YOU DO, everybody does, that alone doesn't make you gay (or straight for that matter!)\n\nGender can be graphed on a bell curve, and everyone has a combination of male and female traits.  It's perfectly normal.  I wish the ones who react with fear could get over their irrationality as much as you do!
122111
Men do not GO gay. Homosexuals are born that way. There are no more or less homsexuals living in this world then there were 100 years ago. They are in all countries. People just had to hide their sexual preferences a long time ago but thanks to a wider understanding of homosexuality, most no longer have to keep it a secret. It's 'out of the closet'.
151621
NO it doesnt make you gay , but in all honesty I would try it ! WHats the worst that can happen ? And in all honesty do you want to wonder what you are missing out on ? I personally used to feel the same way . I have kissed girls and fooled around a little bit with them and I know I am not gay , I have a wonderful boyfriend who I love sometimes its just fine to be with a girl !