Why do I feel like such a failure, I know I shouldn't?
922477
If the very wrong thing you did did not involve the harm or violation of children I just don't get it.  Send them out a plea, tell them what you just wrote.  Sometimes life really stinks, you do the right thing day after  day and one mistake can ruin everything....\nThey need to look in the mirror, I would be willing to bet they have made mistakes too, who hasn't?...\nYou can't make them forgive or forget but you sure can plead your case...now is the time.  \nIf they can't come around try to understand that it is thier problem not yours, don't let them make yo believe you are bad, you just did a bad thing...let he who has not cast the first stone....good luck in this hard time...not to get too religous here, but god forgives you, remember that.
951371
Don't let things get you down.  And don't beat yourself up because you are feeling badly about things.  It sometimes is easy to blame ourselves and to think we are alone.   I know it can sound easy to do, but just try changing your thinking.  Call a friend and arrange to go to a movie on the weekend, or just go for a walk.   I know it can be very hard at times and sometimes the loneliness can be rough, but just hang on and try to see beyond the rough day you've had.  Remember, today will pass.  Tomorrow can be very different.\n\nAlso, if you feel the need to speak with a doctor, go ahead and confide in one.  Perhaps the doctor can help you with some counselling.   Sometimes we don't see things as clearly as someone else -- the old saying, "can't see the forest for the trees" -- because we're not seeing things with the same perspective as somebody else.\n\nGood luck, and get a good night's rest, and a better day tomorrow.
529809
It sounds like you have a self fullfilling prophesy called fear of failure.  Try talking to a counselor or other professional for help.
972442
When no one feels sorry for you, then you feel sorry for yourself.\nIts the attention that we get when we tell people of our past and how hurtful it is.  The problem is that we wallow in our sorrow and never change things.  Because then if we stop wallowing in self pity, what have we got?  Then we have to grow up and work and be responsible and no one will give us the attention that we need.  It is sort of like a high you get from people feeling sorry for you....I came from an alcoholic family and child abuse and marrying the wrong man....so I understand.  When I feel unworthy or unimportant, I talk about my past to other people.  I am wanting the to feel sorry for me.  And when they do, and hug me or say I'm so sorry........I get a high.   Like drugs.   But then those people get tired of hearing it........so I have to find new people to tell my sad story or feel sorry for myself.  Its really a cop out.  Instead of improving myself and trying to move on, I stay and wallow.  Its just an excuse for not bettering myself and not trying to do better......fear of failure.
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you are only feeling that way because its all in your head and when you tell your self that stuff it sticks to you and brings you down....try to say good things to yourself in a mirror, starting by telling yourself that i love myself, i am a beautiful person, i am not lazy, do this every morning until you feel better, it does work, has on many people...anything that you feel about yourself go to the mirror and say the opposite and soon you will feel a change but have faith and believe in your heart and you and others will also see your change in time....
971989
its normal 2 feel  tht way but v all know tht smethin has 2 b done, i think u shud trust those people only who r very close 2 u or whom u know frm quite a lot of time \nhumans intend 2 do many mistakes\nbut only those r succesful who after falling rise , overcome fears & move ahead 2 face the wrld wid renewed strength & more experience\nbest of luck****
834041
I think we all feel this way at one time or another...my famous description of myself is the b.o.n....blob of nothing lol...it is horrible to feel so low...but then,...I feel so guilty when I look around and see people so so much worse off than I am, and I wanna hit myself in the head and knock some good sense into it...I bet you have wonderful qualities, and sometimes, when it just don't seem to ever go your way..we have to step back and remember just what God gave us...and thank Him for giving us His Son,...as a sacrifice so that we CAN go on and live...Please..start remembering those things about yourself that shine and how  you can help others...and somewhere along the line, you will start to feel better..and say your prayers darling,..they will be heard...He always hears us...God Bless
455225
Why do you keep asking this question? You must feel inadequate. Poor thing
1163175
ok you're obviously feeling crappy about something you've done. whatever it was, if you really want to change, make a sacrifice that will make things better for someone that you've hurt. Also, feeling crap isn't enough. You have to make yourself a promise that you will actually change.. but most importantly, you need to actually stop being a bad person, and excercise some will power when the moment of temptation actually comes. that's what it all come down to- the moments of truth.
988741
Not right now but I SOOOO know how you feel. You need to pursue something you're interested in. That's what keeps me from being down, I just make sure I always have something to work towards.
235288
I have almost the same problem,, and I know that even sometimes I help people so much and NEVER get something back,, most of the time i do not feel good! what I am doing now is I do say YES only to the people who deserve it,, my friends, family ,... people who really care for me,, try it step by step,, and keep in your mind,, NO BODY CARE FOR YOU AS MUCH AS YOU CARE FOR YOURSELF,, so put yourself first and all the others second,,
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I wonder the same thing all of the time, sometimes I feel like it's because I don't want to surrender and then be disappointed...\n\nIt's also about me not wanting to let go of my old, destructive self.... I spent years crafting the protective barriers around me and the thought of having to let it all crumble down scares the shit out of me\n\nSurrendering means giving in.giving up, and I have been struggling for so long I am afraid to let go. What would I do with myself if I just passed my worries over to a higher power? Wouldn’t I become dull and passive.... a sheep?? I have been resisting conformity my whole life, but when I really stop and look at myself lately, I realize I am a hypocrite in believing that I have not conformed\n\nI conformed when I used alcohol to numb my pain, I conformed when I addictively consumed diet pills to live up to a media created standard of beauty, I conformed when I took a job selling overpriced junk to obscenely rich people making their living of oil (meaning I make mine the same way), I lie everyday to make a buck.... sometimes hundreds of times throughout the day, I avoid my family and friends like the plague, and worst of all.... I remain consistently ungrateful and miserable on a daily basis.\n\nThis all makes me the biggest hypocrite; a conformist to the societal roles we are all bound to play if we let ourselves become indifferent to living.\n\nSo why do I hang onto this misery? Why can't I surrender?\n\nI think you have to be ready, and willing\n\nand I am willing.... but am I ready?\n\nI guess not, because I have yet to surrender to anything tonight other than 8 cigarettes\n\nGood luck
6035
Well you have to sit and analyze what went wrong the day before. What were you in control of? What did you have no control over? If you made mistakes, figure out how you can make up for it. Look ahead. Look for the positive outcome. Instead of worrying over it, do something about it. And remember........always tell yourself you are a good person, even when you are feeling like the pits!!!
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. My failures in life are what has made my life what it is today, so I cant count them as failures. You can say something like I should of stayed at that job. Well then on the other hand if you wouldnt have then maybe you wouldnt be at the job you have today. maybe you wouldnt have the new friends you have today. See everytime one door closes another one opens. As hard as that is, we need to remember that.
526739
Because I suffer from deep seeded feelings of inadequacy and I need daily external validation to feel good about myself...and I NEED THOSE TEN POINTS DAMMIT!
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because I don't feel Like It
412707
yeah. i understand that one. nothing is going your way and you feel like you know what you need to do but can't get it together to do it.