What if I've missed the age for love and reached the age for marriage?
926641
There is no age limit for finding love or getting married. Sometimes people have never found a soulmate until late in life. Don't give up. The perfect person is out there waiting for you!!
128310
first of all how old are u? are you even old enough to be thinking marriage?. I hope that you are at least in your mid twenties?
576817
Although 18 for girls and 21 for boys is the minimum recommended age for getting married, i think its better to spend as much time as you can with your partner to know them better before you get married. And whats the rush, you still have a long life ahead, enjoy life now, theres a lot of time left to take these decisions later. 18 is the age to do other things, not getting married.
643130
Life is full of "what if's". We can not change yesterday, tomarrow is all we have and there will be more "what if's". Look at it this way, IF you were meant to be with M then it would have happened while you where single, not married... \nThis is your unanswered prayer and your are to wrapped up in "you" - being self center to see the bigger picture. For the simple fact that you owe J more respect than you are showing him, remove the blindfold from over your eyes, wake up & smell the coffee, child it is time you act like an adult. Grow up! Your not the first and wont be the last to miss one hih school crush. Even my 87 yr old aunt said she missed hers and wondered "what if". But at the age of 89 she died in the arms of a good man who loved her and still did for 75 yrs. Two weeks before she died they celebrated 73 yrs of marriage. Can you do that?
270078
My opinion about your situation is...\n\nIN God's eyes you are already married by virtue of having fornicated.  Thus, if you  make it legal by civil marriage, then in the eyes of God, technically you are fine.\n\nYou have already asked forgiveness, and God does forgive.\n\nIf you saved yourself for your boyfriend, and you have been with no other person, and in love you have fornicated, as you say, then you ARE married, by God's definition.\n\nNow, in the eyes of the "law" you are not married, but that can be solved once you give yourselves to eachother legally on paper.\n\nOf course, I don't know your age, and this advice is given with the understanding that you are of age.  Else, I would advise against such activity, until you are an adult.\n\nOf course, you already feel guilty and are giving in to his desires.  Yours may not be as strong, or might be once the guilt is removed by virtue of marriage.  ON the other hand , he should respect your wishes to be chaste, until you are married.  That will truly determine his love for you. This is a hard thing, because you love him, and the unknown is whether he would wait and also be faithful in the process.  \n\nI hope it works out for you..
218844
you can think your in love when you are 13.  But that is puppy love. You can think you are in love at 18. But that is just anxieties.  You can think you are in love  at 21, but that is just overactive sex drive.  You can think you are in love at 30, but that is  a desire to get married before you become an old maid. You can think you are in love at the age of 80, and well, if you married  at the age of 18, and still together when you are 80, then, ... you are in love.
219237
24 is still young!  Don't rush things:)  I am also 24, and unmarried.  I don't want to get married for a while still.  I want to do so many things before I settle down.  If you marry, it should be for true love.  Don't settle just so you won't be single anymore.  Enjoy your single time!  Love will come your way, most of the time when you least expect it!
678884
honey, if you're married then the age difference should be the least of your worries.
153828
Yes, you can. When the difference is only one or two years, it's basically the same age bracket. I am married to a woman who is two years older and we feel like we are the same age.\nThe only problem you might expect is when you are, say 11, and the girl is 12. Then it is obvious that the love is more likely to be infatuation rather than love, and the age difference might mean the two people go in completely opposite directions.\nOther than that, you are probably fine.You are of the same generation, with the same cultural values, so it can be definitely alright between you.\nGood Luck.
533046
Ok that’s a little weird. I want to truthfully answer your question even though you have attempted to set traps. You see age is not the issue you’re attempting to make it. In some countries the life expectancy of a man is under 45 years of age and in many places in the Bible we find that men in other areas have lived in excess 500 years. Certainly life and coupling practices are different under both circumstances. So while age and culture vary the truth you seek is at what age is a given woman old enough to make life impacting decisions on her own. We see that many cultural differences answer that differently how ever being a man who loved too early and now has daughters prone to make the same bad choices, I have found truth in the area of your interest and it is this. First a child must grow enough to read and write and think deep thoughts a child should then contemplate the great depths a life could travel and the results a life could feel because of choices made. A child should realize that there is a higher power and a help in the living of that life. That child should seek first that powerful assistant and His support. Seeking that first could not possibly cause you to miss the match that would have been known to you as the perfect match. However seeking Him first guarantees that when the time is right He will bring to you the one that is meant for you. A woman should wait until God makes the match so that she doesn’t ruin the perfect union with baggage left over from youthful mistakes and indiscretions based only on the physical urges children. You know in some countries adulthood is not recognized until a person reaches their 30’s Perfection does not play worldly games and does not make sence to mankind. Hope this helps,hang in there.
503521
I'm 40 & looking. I hope it's not too late.I don't know what happened to communication,enjoying each others company or intimacy,but damn I miss it!!!!!
62396
You have to look at all aspects of your life, not just age. Take into consideration finances, future goals (school), and even all the details (where you'll live - apt or house -- will you still have separate bank accounts or share your money -- do you want kids together?) Then make sure of how much you love him too. Sometimes just because you're ready for marriage, doesn't mean that he is either. When the time comes to talk about it make sure to cover all the bases and find out what you agree and disagree on. It'll give you a much better chance of staying together.
605790
stick with the 1st one, love is not disposable . if you go for the second then you hurt the first which it sounds like you dont want. are you too young to make the move to marriage because of age if so just wait until after your old enough. you'd be marrying him not the mother and after words tell her to mind her own business. later you may find the second one is not the one he seems to be.
1041699
Are you ready to be married and be alone?  This isn't about money or status, it is about two people that can handle staying commited and true no matter what and at your age that is a lot to bite off.\nI bit it at 18 and found at 30 that I really felt I had missed out on lots of fun.\nIf your love is real it will weather the time in the airforce and still be strong when he returns.  I suggest waiting so that you both still have the freedom without regret to experience the rest of maturing.
1142624
Continue to be as wise and well centered as you clearly are. Celebrate that and just get on with it.  First loves does actually work out you know.  I am 40 and single so not for me...........but I have 2 close friends who met their husband/wife when they were 14yrs.............so who knows.  love is a mystery  and all the better for it!
408705
i don't think love should be ever judged by the age of the 2 persons involved in a relationship. most people think age difference is a big factor. however, the deal is if you will get along fine in the long run, if your differences compliment each other in a positive way, and if you try to overcome your differences in a positive way.\n\ni know you're thinking if there's something wrong with getting married at the age 17 or 22, and why people are kinda discouraging you from this.\n\nthe reason is that they're just concerned that you might just be too overwhelmed by the situation. and their concern is for you to try to see the other side of things, or the other possible things that you might still experience as a single person.\n\nmarrying is a big responsibility, regardless of age. some are being too reckless to marry, because there's divorce, so they just go ahead and do it, unprepared internally.\n\ni have read somewhere that there's these 2 teens married at a very young age. but they did it out of pure love. they attended college together, pursued their own degrees, sustaining their family (at the time, they decided not to bear a child, because they're supporting their education on their own). and they did that out of love.\n\nso i guess my say is, if you're really sure enough you really love your partner-in-life-to-be, go ahead and marry. but be sure to face the life of a married person. it's gonna be harder, but then, just bear in mind, that you chose to decide to marry because you love the person. and even if it's gonna be a tougher life, stick to it and do your best to make the married life work.\n\nkey to a good marriage? respect for each other and continuous acceptance and understanding for the other, bearing in mind that there's always room for improvement. =)
901013
I just got married and im 21....my husband is 21 also and we are very happy.  We have know each other for years and are both working with great jobs.....He is a US Marine and i am a teacher.  I dont think u can put a number (age) for marriage.....i dont think it works that way.  Its about the way you feel and if you yourself is ready for something as big as marriage.  Age is just a number.