My x wife shows up drunk wanting sex, should I keep using her for sex?
930092
If you both want it, do it.  You aren't hurting her if she cums for it.
1054763
Hi Mehul \nWell, it is a good qustion and I hope that it will be enough for you and ur wife. \nIt is important in the first night to make ur wife comfortable and to explain to her that doing sex is a normal thing and all people doing it, and it is not harmful for her by any way and if she doesn't like to do sex at a moment u can delay it to a next time.\nIn addition, any woman likes to see a gentle and nice behavior from her husband. So I advice u to do the following:\n1) Start speaking with sweaty words like (u're so beautiful, u've a moon face etc...).\n2) Continue speaking till she feels well and her shiness dissolves, then touch her hands smoothly, hold it, raise it, then kiss it.\n3) Now take a look at her face and show her a lovely smile. \n4) Then u can hold her hand again and start kissing her from her hand up to her shoulder, end it with a gentle kiss from the back of her neck.\n\nIf u see that this answer is suitable for u, tell me for further completion. \nGood Luck
497134
you need to break it to her slowly. tell her it has to be over but yall can still have sex when one of you needs it. kind of like fu*k buddies. see if she will go for that and then slowly ween yourself off of her.
617089
She has to get help on her own, you can't force her to, but you can sit her down while she is sober and tell her, if she doesn't stop drinking, you are going to end up ending your marriage, because you just can't live with a drunk, and if you have children, tell her, you will also take the children, tell her she needs help, and you can't be with her until she gets it.  If she still refuses to get the help she needs, then you have no choice but to FILE for a divorce.  I wish you all the luck in the world, being married to a drunk just isn't as easy as everyone thinks it is, you need to seek councelling too, you are what is called a co-dependant of an alcoholic, and believe it or not, you do need help too, stay strong and good luck, I will be praying for you  and your family.
631600
Why not get creative and enjoy her. How a woamn looks does not determine the level of her sexual being. Stop boring her and man up pup.
1098760
Maybe she is having a low sex drive right now and do you spice things up in the bedroom and make things exciting for her???? Talk to her and see why she feels this way and also suggest to her maybe seeing a doctor or sex therapist. She could be having affairs too!
192173
She does not love you.\nYou deserve better.  Stop drinking and find a hoby you are interested in.  Look for someone that shares your interests outside of the bedroom.
1036949
You have to go the extra mile.... not just expect sex because she is your fiance and/or wife or girlfriend.... Sometimes a woman wants to feel the same way after being married or engaged as she did when you were FIRST trying to get it.... you "wooed" and "wowed" her then... now the only question is, "what have u done for her lately"?  \n\nIt has nothing to do with how well endowed you are or are not... if she is happy with you during the day, she will make you happy during the night.... \n\nSo compliment her, help her out and not just when she asks you to, but do it all on your own.  Just decide to do something that you KNOW needs to be done with out provocation from her... Buy her something pretty even if its as simple as a flower... (and i do mean 1 flower)... just because and for no other reason... show appreciation for and towards her and she will fold into you like warm butter on hot bread...
217717
find out what shes missin in her sex life now, and let her know u got what she wants....then when she laughs at you lmao..tell her.." dont knock it til you try it" ALWAYS WORKs
78714
i think you should make a pass at her just to see her reaction. shes playing head games with you, fight back. you have every right to like whatever sex you like, thats not her choice...dont take that from her.
1041616
I AGREE WITH EVERY OTHER ANSWER, MAYBE YOU BETTER NOT APPROPACH THE SEX AS A SPORT ...\n\nMAYBE YOU BETTER UNDERSTAND THAT IF YOU ARE "WELL ENDOWED"\nyYOU MIGHT BE PROUD, AND NEED TO ACHIEVE YOUR OWN SATISFACTION,,  BUT FRANKLY WHEN ANY OF MY LOVERS WERE VERY]\nLARGE, IT WOULD BE  UNPLEASANT,, AND NOT EASY TO TAKE, AS YOU MAKE THEM  VERY SORE INSIDE, AND THE "THRILL I S GONE"\n\nWHETHER SHE FAINTED, OR SLEPT, GET THE HINT ENOUGH IS ENOUGH\nDONT USE HER LIKE A "CORPSE"  if she STOPPED, AND SAID NOTHING THAN THAT IS PRETTYY OBVIOUS SHE WAS TIRED, AND PROBABLY SORE,\nAND SHE IS NOT A PIN CUSHION,,\n\nHARD AND ROUGH SEX IS FINE IF BOTH PARTIES ARE UP TO IT, BUT IF ONE IS NOT ABLE TO KEEP THAT PACE, YOU SHOULD GIVE IT A REST,\n\nYOU WERE PROBABLY BORN WITH TEN FINGERS,  OR JUST LET IT GO AND BE GRATEFUL FOR THE CLOSENESS, AND THE PERSON LYING THERE] TRYING TO PLEASE YOU,,THAT WILLL TURN HER ON AGAIN\nIF YOU LET HER REST, CATCH UP TO YOUR ENERGY LEVEL,,\nHOW WOULD YOU LIKE IT IF SHE WAS AT A FAST PACE SHOVING SOMETHING INSIDE YOU....OUCH
557666
No. What she has done is very inappropriate and in my mind, VERY selfish. I imagine she wouldn't like to be on the receiving end of such a thing should you have done that; am I right? Bottom line is this - it is not right for her to spend an evening like that with a man who is not her husband. Period! The mere fact that she kept this from you is an indication that what she did wasn't right. Deep down, she knew this would upset you and rightfully so. But if it were so harmless, she wouldn't have kept it from you in the first place. I think to help resolve this situation you should ask her what makes it "okay" for a married woman to do such a thing? I'd also ask her what makes her think that you should be "okay" with it as well?!
985839
if you are thinking about getting a woman drunk so she would be with you this is wrong. first of all if you were ro get her drunk first and then have sex with her this would be the same as raping her. if she doesnt have feelings for you when she is sober don't try and bring any out by getting her drunk'
701452
well, thats a big problem ryt there. you gave her chances and she took advantage of it. why dont you talk to her over it again and explain what are the consequences it might cause her, you and your child. Its all up to you if you wanna be practical and warn her if she goes overboard you'll have to leave her. If she still doesnt care well you can tell her that if youl be like that i'll leave you for good and ill take our child. open her brain that you guys have a family and  if you leave she'll not even be sure that the guy he is with will take her in lyk you did. explain to her that you love her and that guy will not do good to her. \n\nask her what if im gone would your bf:\ntake you in\nlove you the way i do\nwould he take care 4 our child\ndoes he really love you\nis he using you for sex\nis he serious with you\n\n2nd problem is her smoking\nyou may warn her but thats still her decision its either you leave her to teach her a lessonor put her in the rehab. \n\nyour problem is huge so the only way to fix it is 4 u to be gutsy and face it. you have to make an action because your wife can take advantage of you cuz she myt think your weak. show her you're the boss. \n\nincase you and your wife separates temporary or not you can take care of it or while you're working leave your child with a relative or fwend and pay them at least a little if they insist. nxt is that you can go to govt helps. \n\nif my ans dont work i insist you should go to a marriage counsel.
331183
do not talk about it when you are in bed this puts to mucvh pressure on her. sit on the couch and say i would like to talk about our sex life. (jump in fast with the next bit) i love everything but i want to try something new. so for the next weekim gonna get as many mens magazines that have sex tips and if you do the same we can come back on friday and compare notes and stuff. \nit is very important to not all of a sudden say hey i want bu tt sex especially if she is traditional. \nso take your time and move slow but make sure to find a how to on what you want but only one so that she can see what you might be into and you can see what she might be into.\nand a few tips on if you get what you want go SLOW. start small and careful so that she knows you care about her having fun too because you DO. if she likes it thats great i hope she enjoys it but if you go to fast or hurt her and dont pay attention to her comfort level you will not get anything new.
349848
I use to call my X a dirty little slut and it would excite her and you know..make her a lil mo wet...maybe just go with it...play a dirty maid or somethin..whatver works for you
744895
she sounds bored.  try something new.  remember what it was like when you first met?  those feelings are still there, you just have to find them....be THAT GUY again for her...flowers on the pillow, candles, some alcohol, a motel room, you remember those days??  i have been married for 10 years and it is just as spicy now as it was then...just be THAT GUY again for her.