how to improve my marriage which is in trouble?
915930
girl you need a rest. Try to foccus on something else for awhile. Is it amed. reason you have this problem?  Try to build a relationship with your hubby that is strong enough to be without children. Take trips, do exciting things now while you can, and enjoy just the two of you for now. time for children will come later when you both have setled down and know each other better. Your stress of having children maybe hurting you. Build a life on just the two of you first. You must be happy with him and you first before you have children. children cannot be the reason for the two of you to be happy. It will never work. I talk from experence. My children have learned that babies don't make a marrage work, only the two of you can do that. Do step one first and just be happy together as one. Then bring children in at the right time.
126825
Clearly think this through before you give up on your marriage. If it can be fixed and he hasn't been abusive toward you than maybe you can work on what is wrong.\n\nK
280894
Wow, that's tough.\n\nFirst off, are you having problems with your husband? Because the grass always looks greener if there are issues. If you do have issues with your husband I would suggest counciling, if problems are resolved then see how you feel about the other guy then. Concentrate on your marriage first, if you really love your husband then I would try to fix what you have and see where it goes from there.
685195
Get counseling to see if your marriage can--or should--be saved.  Pleasing "everyone else" is irrelevant.
1048207
Hello,\nSeek counseling and help here and try to save it if at all... Talk to him and see if he is open to getting the help he needs with you. Seek marriage counseling too. If he continually cheats though and does not or refuses to change then you do have legal and biblical grounds for getting out and at least separating and even divorce if there is absolutley not resolving the marriage. If you need to talk i am here anytime for you.
1150823
Your situation appears to be one of your husband using very poor judgment.Other than what you've already done to remedy the drama he has begun is to start being mindful of every aspect of your relationship.Then after a reasonable period of time ask your self if you want to continue in your marriage.I apologize in advance if my advice is blunt,but LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR THE DUMB stuff.either he makes some serious changes,and seeks help and your forgiveness or.........only you can fill in the blanks.Take care an GOD bless you both.(ps I don't knw if you can find out about other accts,but i hope some 1 can help}
146028
Relax and enjoy it.  Remember that a marriage is a lot of hard work, and takes a lot of commitment.  The more you share with each other the greater the reward.  Don't let arguments fester, and don't dwell on all the little things that ultimately aren't that important.  And last of all realize that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and that over time the intesity of your feelings will fade some but that is normal and not a sign of anything being wrong with your relationship.
47550
Keep the communication flowing, always make time for each other. APPRECIATE one another. Always have a "date" night. Don't dwell on the bad things but when the bad things creep into your mind, make yourself remember a good time or a nice thing your spouse did for you. Don't be a nagger. And if all else fails, make love and forget about it. \n\nAnd if none of that works seek counseling.
188279
show her that u love her and willing to work on marriage show her that u care talk to her in a way that she answer u honestly whats bothering her and she can open up .. and don't give up if really want this marriage to work it will if u just make her understand that u love her
211675
I can relate to your question. Last week my wife of over 20 years told me that she was not in love with me anymore. She said she loves me but is not in love with me. I have spent some time in the local library doing some reading regarding relationships. I would recommend the same to you. What I have found is several things. 1st is communication you have to talk. 2nd look back at some of the things that made you a happy couple in the past and try and find out what has changed. 3rd if there are things about you that your husband is trying to change to make him love you than he doesn't... My issues are simple. my wife wants me to be something I am not. I am not her auto mechanic. I am not her errand boy and I am not her handy man. I told her that projects are fine if we do them as a team. but don't expect me to always mow the lawn, paint the house clean the garage clean the attic etc... We are a couple and couples do things together. maybe it's time to look at your relationship like your roomates? take equal responsibilities for what you have. Become an equal to him. If he is the bread winner then better yourself. Find a job that makes you more the equal. take on more responsibility. If the car breaks take it to the shop and get it fixed. Go out with him more often, take time to date again. Find things that you both have in common and do them. Find new things that you can do together...Relationships are an ever changing part of life so keep on living. if it alls fails then get out. Don't be miserable for the rest of your lives. Maybe read the book "falling out of love" read it from cover to cover. It's a short book follow the examples and see what happens.
11555
Honesty is the best policy. Tell your spouse how you are feeling and what has been going through your mind. Then go in together and get some good marital counseling. Oh, and getting rid of the computer until the health of your marriage recovers is indeed a good idea.
193340
Here is what I did.\n\nI stopped dwelling on his faults and took a good, honest look at my own. \n\nWhen I began to concentrate on how I could be a good wife regardless of his behavior, that entitled me to place HIS behavior in God's hands.\n\nWhoa. You should have seen how the Heavenly Father worked with him!\n\n1. Ask God to show you your faults.\n2. Ask Him to forgive you for them.\n3. Choose to change.\n4. Sit back and watch what happens.\n\nLike you, I really wanted my marriage to survive for many different reasons. It's obvious you have a wonderful heart for wanting to do the right thing, or you wouldn't even be asking this question.\n\nI faced this situation in 1980 and we are still happily .....most of the time :).....married.
932583
Get yourself into a good Christian church, get saved, start reading the Bible, and ask for guidance from its elders.  The best thing you can do for your husband is pray for him.\nThe book "The Power of the Praying Wife" would help you a great deal.
865531
If you are not happy in your marriage then this should've told you to look at the reasons why you're not happy and attempt to fix the problem.  \n\nLooking for the fix outside of the marriage isn't going to fix your problems.  I suggest you and your husband see a marriage counselor.
760797
oh what a tangled web we weave.....\n\nI don't recommend starting your marriage out a LIAR\nsave your man and yourself  some  troubled times ahead\nand put the wedding off\nyou still have a few things you need to work out first
900923
you need to ask your WIFE\n\ncommunication is the key to a succesful marriage or relationship
489722
get a new wife.  One that appreciates you for who you are.