Why do some women feel they need someone else's opinion to validate their weight?
928452
Because of the media, every woman questions their weight, looks, etc.  Because men disrespect women by lusting after the perfect woman (i.e. strip joints, playboy, etc) and these leads women to have a low self-esteem because they will never be as perfect as the way magazines,  television commercials, etc.  portray women.  Women are to blame as well, woman should not shop at stores (Victoria Secrets for example) because of their tantalizing commercials that dictate what a man finds attractive and sexy.\n\nEvery seeks approval and acceptance.  Weight and dieting are ways a woman can  "control" their body image.  Anorexia at its finest!
361264
Hun I modeled for years and lemme tell ya, it does not matter who you are.  You have to hear negative things to succeed.  Even the most successful models are constantly told they are too fat etc.  You need thick skin and if you really want to succeed you should want to hear the negative feedback as well as the positive.
285847
Because they want to be told they are thin.  Incidentally, regardless of how it makes them look--you NEVER tell them it makes them look fat.  You always tell them how beautiful they are and before long they begin to look the way you tell them they are.
64401
I am a BBW and it's just a personal preference thing. I must first ask you what "a little extra weight" is? 10lbs? 20 lbs, 50 lbs? I myself like the man for the heart he has inside, and the way he treats me. These are the things that really matter most. If someone judges you based on your weight, it only proves how shallow they are. You are special just the way you are!
347048
Don't worry about it. Really. If you are happy and you know you're not anorexic,it really doesn't matter what other people think. I look at it that they're probably just jealous. Have fun! Go shopping!  :)
1067060
Wow!  When compassion was  handed out, you sure didn't get any!\n\nPeople with a weight problem will get upset because:\n1. they know about their weight and aren't happy\n2. they don't want to be overweight but maybe due to health issues can't control it\n3. the older you get, the harder it is to lose weight...especially if you are female\n4. the comment is rude, obnoxious and cruel\n\nNever judge someone until you have walked in their shoes.  You  might be a thin thing now but just wait...your day will come and then see how you feel when someone is callous enough to call you fat.
924001
No, and you probably know that.  You need some self-confidence so you don't need people on yahoo telling you you're skinny to feel good about yourself.
378999
there is nothing wrong with you, people blame their own faults to someone, which is not right. people who do this are insecure and they want to feel "big" and that's not right. assert yourself and stick up for yourself and they will stop. don't be scared to voice yourself.
88959
It's a matter of tv,magazines,and the world.In easy words they just compare their body to models or other friends that have less body fat,so they think they're fat.Understand?
807156
No, it's not funny what-so-ever. Who are they to judge who's heavy and not? Saying hurtful rude comments about someone's appearance, personal opinions, or lifestyles are the things that increase anorexia, bulemia, and suicidal attempts. Reading this you may think i'm being hypocritical, and I probably am because I have made fun of all different kinds of people. However, I am not proud of it, I regret it, and I believe that is another serious problem within our communities. Why is it that fat women are hideous and disgusting, but heavy men are perfectly acceptable? Look at these comedians...I don't even consider it a real job. Going to school to learn better ways to tease and make fun of other's.....that's sure something to write home about. The thing is heavy women need to realize that you need to try your absolute hardest to ignore it, and live the life you are in for who you are. Each person in this world gets made fun of whether they know it or not, nobody is perfect. But you are the only one who has control over who you chose to listen to and ignore. I think it takes a lot of determination to lose all of that weight, and personally I think you should lose weight for the longer lasting life, not the appearance. Obviously you're going to feel self concious, but it's your choice whether you want to pretend it doesn't bother you or take action and try and lose the weight. I support so many people in doing that, talk to a doctor for help, join a support group....but don't let other's comments bring you down.
1148152
beauty is in the eye of the beholder.i personally think some over weight chicks carry their weight well some dont.just because your fat or skinny dont mean your going to look good or bad.
836342
There is something to be said for this, i.e. that people accept YOUR image of yourself, much of the time. This applies to all aspects of you, not just your gorgeousness, but why not start with that?
860821
I think they do it to get your views.  Your views may help them to shape their own character.  Also, they do it to make themselves feel better about who they are at the moment.  There are so many reasons.  Remember, always say, "There must be something good about that person."  I didn't know it was your they were talking about.  Don't beat her up anymore.  She's not worth it.  Let the people believe whatever they choose to believe.  O.k?, o.k.
6284
She seems insecure and to be avoiding the seriousness of your statement. Perhaps because she needs more time to discover her reply (whether she feels the same way about you).
317092
It sounds like they want a response from you or maybe they want to make you feel bad about your weight. \nYou should try to talk to them about this and let them know how you feel. If they don't try to change, I'd work on finding some new friends. Friends should never upset you and hurt your feelings on purpose!
236328
Possibly because your worried about what others think too much? Just say what your thinking and don't worry about anyone else's opinion. Remember what Eleanor Roosevelt said, " No one can make you feel you feel inferior without your permission."
318327
people who boast about there accomplishments allot or put other people down to make themselves look better are very insecure in there own lives.you should just say to them "oh yea that's great but I am quite pleased with my own work, but keep telling yourself (they have no self esteem) and give them a lift or they might fall apart. Be judged on who you are not what you could be.