Falling for a married man...HELP!?
928564
You STOP now....he has crossed the line by revealing anything to do with his marriage.\n\nSecondly, he may be a predator, the tactic of playing on the emotional "mothering" instinct of a female is a classic move to get some on the side.\n\nIf you decide to continue this relationship you are becoming the "other woman" and a home wrecker.  Cheating is a choice, you making the choice to enable his cheating is just as bad.\n\nWhat he has told you is he isn't leaving, but he will have sex with you.  Lust is different than love....and he doesn't love you enough to get a divorce.
116908
Hi ... He isn't married is he? If not married, do you know if he feels the same way about you? If you don't know if he feels the same way, maybe you can invite him out to dinner, a movie or the park with you. \n\nI say this because as someone else said he might be shy, he might feel the same way about you but is afraid to ask you out or let you know how he feels. \n\nIf there is something you know you both have in common, strike up a conversation about it and see where it goes. If you find he does feel the same way about you and he doesn't ask, then I would say, just blurt it out and just ask him if he would like to go out with you sometime. (sometimes guys need a little nudge .. lol)\n\nDoes the company where you work have rules about co-workers dating one another? If so this might be a problem. If not let your hair down and go for it !!!\n\nI wish you all the best life has to offer ... take care, buh bye.
785607
It depends on your university.  I know how it is to fall for your teachers; I think I've fallen for every one, male or female, and I've dated a couple of teacher assistants extremely seriously (flirting with marriage).  However, with an actual professor I doubt that something will come from it.  Doesn't he have a girlfriend/wife?  How do you know he feels an attraction towards you?  If you can, for now try to renegotiate your feelings along the lines of friend or father figure.  If something comes from it (again, I'm seriously skeptical, but it's certainly not impossible) it will probably be a while, as you are currently his student and there is still something sketchy about jumping into a romance right away.  He's young and probably wants to keep his awesome job and not tarnish his record.  Good luck!  I feel your pain.\n\nAnd while I'm sure the attraction for him is electric, you should try to get to know his person outside of the context of teaching before jumping his bones.  A lot of your assumptions about him may end up falling apart when you deal with the real man (this isn't necessarily a bad thing, but be prepared).  I say this from experience.  Before I could fall in love with the man behind my TA, I had to give up my idealized notion of him as a TA- and it was first uncomfortable for me, but ultimately a good thing.\n\nEDIT- Oh and I also dated a man 11 years older than me.  I don't have any regrets about it- we worked wonderfully together, but were at completely different points in our lives which ended up causing a lot of tension (and which ultimately led to our decision to split, if just for some time).  I am currently looking for someone closer to my age.  Unfortunately I can't tell how old my crush is.  \n\nPeople are correct when they label what you have as infatuation.  Again- the man behind the teacher probably does not live up to the ideal you have in your head.  And hopefully, he has some regard for his much younger students (not taking advantage of his power position, etc.)  This is why I say that if you really like him, there is going to be a LOT of waiting and a LOT of uncertainty.  It's a delicate situation and I wish you luck in getting through it however you do.
349208
Back away from the married man and no one gets hurt!LOL Seriously though, don't put yourself in a position to where you become involved with a married man. He will NEVER,NEVER,NEVER be able to be there for you when you need him, on holidays, for vacations... he'll never be there in the night when you just want someone to talk to or snuggle with...he'll never be totally with you because he already HAS someone he is obligated to spend his time and money on. You can get past those feelings for him that you are developing if you stay away from him as much as possible. As for the other guy, if you have developed feelings for someone else while you were with him, then maybe your feelings for him are not what they should be. Try staying away from both men for awhile and give yourself some time alone to sort out your feelings. Right now you can't be good for either one of these men OR yourself. Good luck to you!!
837280
hahahaha, if you only LIKE him, there should be no proposing going on!  Fall in love first, then get married! mkay?
385558
honey you can't help who u fall n love with but if your not sure if he likes u sit him down and ask him how he feels about u don't tell him u love him after u find out and if he likes u ask him out and go from there i've been there i never thought that i would ever go out on a date with this guy and now i'm married 2 him
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You need to make a choice then if you are willing to give up everything you have in your life for a possible relationship with this other person with who there are no guarantees.  A lot of married people get crushes on other people, the key is not to act on them and throw away what you have.  Sit down and decide what you want in life and what price you are willing to pay.  If it is this other person then you need to get a divorce and pursue that relationship after the divorce.
579064
In REALITY, you don't even know this guy.Best to forget about him.He may be married or committed to someone else.Move ON!
1147636
Don't waste your time. He had his chance years ago. Too many other fish in the ocean. Never mess with a married man. Just think, would you want your husband conversating with his ex? And besides it will only lead to trouble. I'll pray for you.
533807
I was in a similar situation one day and let me assure you... It will end in a heartbreak, and the broken heart will probably be yours, and you will only blame yourself because you were the one who decided to get in between a married couple. So get out of it while you can.
810216
You should not even have gotten started with a married man...\nQuit whenever you get tired of it...
1127634
No...you shouldn't tell him, nor should you be involved or get involved with him. So long as he is married there is that chance no matter how slim that he could reconcile with his wife, and you shouldn't be there to make that impossible or harder for him to do. You are also only opening yourself up to hurt by being involved...best to stay away.
884683
Pursue him in a good demeanor. Try to contact him and get the sparks going. He may be married. Do you know for sure? Do all that you can, but be subtle about it. Good luck.....SAM
521422
personally i would say no, you hardly know him after 3 months, trust me i speak from personal experience (yes i did end up divorced) you will still be in the infatuation stage of your relationship, wait a year or two then think about it for a while but rely on your own instincts not on anyone elses opinion. It is you that will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life (hopefully). Just for the record I have been married to my second wife for six years and we have two great kids and no regrets!
385590
Just remember, if he's a big enough jerk to cheat on his wife, he'll screw you over too.  You're very wrong for entereing into a relationship with a married man.  Marriage is a sacred bond, and you are coming in the middle of that.  Just think of how you would feel if you were married and your husband cheated.....although it would be just the payback you deserve.....
1004403
Rubbish, all these people forcing thier morals on you.  If you feel a need to sleep with him, and you want too, do it.  Yes, he may be married, but, he is not going to stop looking just because you turn him down.  If you seduced him, then you are at fault, if harmless flirtation turned into something else, that is nature.  You know that this is just a physical thing and nothing will come out of it, but a little fun, if your ok with that,and can deal with it at work, then have fun.  Guess what people, the wife knows, she just prefers not to admit it, get real.  This woman is not a home wrecker of any kind, and you should not be bashing her.
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I fell in love with my husband before I met him. \n\nEvery one has faults, though. Make sure you recognize this dude's before you get in too deep.\n\nFor the most part though, if he seems too good to be true, you're probably right. He can be whoever he wants to be online. If you meet in person, please be careful. (public place, bring a cell phone, have a way home that doesn't involve him, etc.)