Anyone have a husband w/ Fibromyalgia?
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I have/had it and it killed mine for the longest time.  If you are in pain, you really don't care about anything except pain relief.  It almost destroyed all my friendships and relationships.  The only time I felt like having sex was when the doctor game me percocets.  Fibro was terrible.  My whole body felt like one big bruise for three years.  I had worked in a steel foundry and was used to pain and this was  intolerable.  I was on morphine for six months.\n\nI find/found relief by keeping the temperature in the house very constant at 70 degrees.  I never take hot baths or hot saunas or expose myself to the cold weather too much.  The cold cause pain, but the heat does the real damage to the deep layers of the skin.  (the fascia) .  The facia(deep bruising pain) in my case was caused by overexposure at work.  Deep fascia pain feels exactly like muslce pain and in my case the skin looked almost normal.\n\nhttp://epe.lac-bac.gc.ca/100/201/300/cdn_medical_association/cmaj/vol-162/issue-1/0077.htm
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My husband thought he hurt his back at work. Went to hospital was told he had pneumonia and a cracked rib it got worse went back again. He was diagnised March 20th passed June 6th.  He went thru radiation chemo gamma knife procedure and took the drug tarceva. I miss himm so bad I cannot stand it. We threw barbeques for friends and family had parties went where ever he wanted to go ate what he wanted to eatwe even got up at midnight and played pool til 4 am. The hardest part was watching him disappear before my very eyes. And of course losing him. We do have children and thats the only reason I am still here. But it hurts so bad my heart is broken in a million pieces.I am still mad scared and empty. Yes do stay strong and let her know you love her and that she is important to you. So very sorry. Good luck
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gun to the head, but i suppose you like your husband. hot tea with no sugar with ground ginger in it. wet rag on the back of the neck, ice or heat(depending). soothing music. orchid by black sabbath over and over again works. passionflower and kava(i just took some) the popular advil, motrin, vicodin, etc. rubbing the temples and if you or he could massage the back of his neck and behind his ears. a good possibility that his back problems are causing this, or helping. go in to the doctor with your husband if thats not what the surgery's for, and have your husband explain his habits, where the pain is and how long and when these migraines occur
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Dear Carer, Having dealt with this illness myself, I would firstly encourage you.It is no small 'task' to assist and care for someone with this condition. Yet in spite of it all, you haven't given up, for he is indeed the man you love.\n\nI don't know where you live, so I'm sending this from Australia,and an email address where you can receive a printout, or you can read,[if you have no printer]\n\nemail: mha@mentalhealth.asn.au   or look up their website: \n       www.mentalhealth.asn.au \n\nThe printout is in the form of 14 pages, and for you it will not be 'difficult' reading, as it is structured for the carer and the sufferer as well.\nShould he also suffer from Depression, which complicates the illness a little, you also can download the 'Depression' pages as well.\nBeing a man, and dealing with Dads in Distress,I am the first to say that with men it is a challenge, but do-able.\n\nEncourage him to go with you or a trusted friend to see a Dr.and be reassesed for his sake, [not just yours], because you love him.\n\nPerhaps find the reason he went off the meds, and begin there,\nfor it seemed to be working for him. But, he needs to find a Dr that will set up continued visits, say once each 3 weeks.\n\nAlso find in your area where you can best receive the assistance you need.Take care. sc
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I can totally relate. My wife went through breast cancer surgery and then chemo last year. So far so good - but the stress never stops. It's tough being a caregiver and I can relate to your feeling tired and dragged out.\n\nHang in there.
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My husband doesn't have either. He is just full of energy. For instance, when he is sitting on the recliner watching tv he is unaware but he swings his feet back and forth sometimes for almost an hour before he settles down.  Then he wonders why his legs feel sore. \n\nOne thing I have noticed in him and other people I have encountered in the business world is that the hyper people seem to only eat one big meal a day. I asked why and one person told me that to eat a large meal slows him down so he only eats a large meal at night.
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I relate as my husband is ill also, but I am in it for the long haul.  I married him better or worse.  It is harder as you are younger than us.\nWe cuddle A LOT and I just let him know how good a husband he really is.\nI made a vow to God, and thru Him, we can get thru this.  Maybe a good Christian counselor would help.  It is best to talk it out between you.\nNo one feels worse than they do.  They think they have let us down, but that is life.\nRemember, you have a lot of memories with this man.  He sounds like a good man.\nI think there are sex therapists that can maybe help you two, also, aren't there?  \nOtherwise, just keep your mind on other things, read your Bible, keep a clear mind, stay faithful, cuddle a lot....\nLots of love to you both........
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Wow sorry to hear about this. I myself have MS with Chronic pain so I know exactly where you are coming from because that was my diagnosis along with fibromyalgia for many years.\nLearn to pace yourself and to stop beating yourself up because you CAN'T do it today.\n It isn't easy but with time it will be\n Check out the fibro site below they offer some pretty good advice on dealing with all those issues you mention.
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ugggh- i had them last year.  He can take advil- that will help, but mine were so awful that they gave me vicodin.    I also had this stuff that my mother in law gave me (she's a physical theraptist)- it's called biofreeze.  that stuff was great for the pain and the itching.
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I'm in same boat with my hubby i'm lucky i'm on computer now to answer this the way he hogs the computer.   Give him errans to run and if you want to spend time with him find things you know he'll want to do like go to a guy flick.  I finally got hubby off to go see saw 111.  Try creative things he may be feeling bored and games are is only outlet.  I try and play games with him i hate it but at least we;re together.  Also be open about how you feel i did and he cut his game playing in half lol i'm working on the other half now lol
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Has he had the doctors do X-rays to see if there is an underlying casue (degeneration of the discs, bukges, spurs etc??). Knowing what is causing the problems will go a long way to helping.\n\nAlso I think he should see a physiotherapist. My husband went to chiro's for years and the improvements wore off after a few days. He has been seeing a physiotherapist in recent times and his recovery from major painful incidents is much quicker and longer lasting. The benefit they have over chiro is that physio will help you to learn how to reatrin the muscles that support the spine. If the muscles are strong this will help take the pressure off the bones and share more of the workload.\n\nMy husband has also benefited from the following:\n\n*Changing jobs so he minimises heavy and repetitive lifting (I know this is not always possible)\n\n*When he does get major pain he will take anti-inflammatory drugs and lay as flat as possible all day. This will help rest the area.\n\n*We got a "memory foam" mattress overlay and a pillow. It gives more support to his back whilst sleeping.\n\n*Doing stretches and back exercises every day. The physio will be able to show your dad simple things he can do at home. Otherwise there are some great books out there.\n\n*Thinking before he lifts anything and then doing it is the safest way possible (ie lifting from the legs).\n\nUnfortunately back problems are one of those problems which can keep reccurring. Just when you think you have it under control, you do something silly and you are back to square 1. Good luck though for your dad, and help him out when he is in severe pain and make him rest.
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Good Lord No way!!!!  My poor hubby works 12 hour days as well as Saturdays.  He comes home so tired and worn out but he still makes time for me and our son.  Sundays he spends mowing lawns, and weeding, and working on our vehicles.  My poor man goes thru torture every day just so I can be a stay at home mom!  If I did switch places it would be so he could stay home for a day and relax on the couch watching Dr.Phil!!!!  He deserves it!  I would not want to have his day!!!!
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Make a time to sit down and talk with him---try to do this with as few distractions as possible. Find out what kind of support he wants. Since he's complaining, insist that he be specific. After you've listened to him, then make sure he listens to you. Be specific about the support you are providing, and also tell him your needs. This is your turn to be specific. Write everything down, compare lists, and try to come up with compromises. This might help disarm the negative emotions. Just because he's in pain, doesn't mean he should be disrespectful and ungrateful. You can be sympathetic for his pain, and still take up for yourself. You and your husband are modeling an adult relationship for your children.
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My husband suffered with it, when I didn't. You could ask your partner if you can go with her when she see the GP, or if shes not too keen on you being there at the same time, make an appointment to see the doctor yourself, and ask them for advice on what you can do to help her and fo some more info on the the illness. I know it's not nice, I've been there supporting someone else and I thought I'd be relying on them for support. I'm now 6 months pregnant with my 3rd and suffering with pre-natal depression which I've only just brought myself to have diagnosed. Get help for both of you, together or on your own and you'll all be just fine. Parenting is tough enough at the best of times without having to struggle blindly not knowing what to do. Good Luck my friend, I'm sure you'll a great parent.
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I met my husband before I was diagnosed with anything and he had to go through some very hard times with me. After I was diagnosed things got easier. We both finally knew what was wrong with me. The medication has also helped as well as therapy. I guess it just takes a very strong person to deal with me and my problems, someone who truly loves me.
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I want my Husband to be able to walk again!He had 4 heart by-passes done in April of this year and has never been able to walk  since. And I am dead serious.
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My husband suffers from combat stress syndrome, which is really the same thing. You really need to get professional help for that. He refuses to take medication because he doesn't want it to go on his record, so he just deals with it by talking about it. We all deal with it really. He has really bad mood swings and doesn't sleep much at all at night. I would never leave my husband, but he's really hard to live with sometimes. I wish he would consider taking medicine. He's been to Iraq 3 times and has spent alot of time in the jungle in Columbia and Hoduras.