how can a woman protect herself when going thru a divorce?
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Put a rottweiler on guard at the front door....\nIndependance \nFreedom of choices\nA 30-6 shotgun LOL
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get a lawyer and begin divorce procedings.
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1) all things happen in God's time\n2) pray must be for God's will -- in this case IMO for the person to gain the strentgh to pull themselves away from the abuser.\n\nfind out the laws in your neighborhood.  in mine, when i heard my neighbor abusing his wife, i could call the police.  the would come. if they saw anything even resembling a struggle or her disheveled - THEY would press the charges and she would have nothing to say about it.  this way it's on the record and can put her at ease.\n\nGod bless you in your trials and God bless your friend for the strength.\n\nyou must rally around her and give her support. letting her know that walking away is not a failure but rather a strength not shown by many!
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That is easy, because you are not ready!! You have been through a lot with the divorce, even though it is not final. You need to focus on yourself for a while and don't make it harder by adding another person to think about right now. Do things that you like and can do alone, go out with the guys, play cards, things with the kids. When the divorce is final and you have found out who you really are again, then you will feel more comfortable dating. You may also subconsciously think that it is not a good thing for the kids to see right now either, at least something to think about. Best of luck to you and time and prayer heal all things.
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DEPENDS ON YOUR DIVORCE DECREE. MAKE SURE YOU READ IT THROUGHLY.
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Don't look at a woman's face.\nDon't drink alcohol\nDon't go out alone with a woman unless she is your wife \nAvoid going inside a woman's room for any reason
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Options:\n\nCall local law enforcement.\nCall a lawyer.\nCall a womens shelter/womens rights advocate.\nCall a domectic violence hotline.\n\nDon't know how bad it is but if they are living together she should probably arrange a place to stay before doing this.  If the guy gets wind of it she may be in harms way again.\n\nA Domestic Violence Protection Order will also help her get things in order and him ordered to stay away or go to jail.
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Divorce is hard. I wish I knew the answer to that one. I am facing a divorce...K
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There are many support groups out there for people going through divorces. Where do you live? It would help to know your geographic area.\n\nMeanwhile, here are some links that will help:\n\nhttp://ministryhealth.net/mh_articles/349_support_group_transformation.html\n\nhttp://www.independenttribune.com/servlet/Satellite?pagename=CIT/MGArticle/CIT_BasicArticle&c=MGArticle&cid=1137834680403\n\nhttp://www.singlesorganizations.com/organizations.html
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The best way to do it is honestly and in the home.  Make sure your bags are already packed.  Start by saying something like "(Wife name) you're a great girl but I don't think we are right for each other.  I'm just so unhappy with this relationship, and I want to break it off before I do something stupid. You must have noticed I've not been happy and I can't bring you down because of my needs.  You're a great person and you deserve someone that will make you happy and I'm not that guy.  But I want to let you know that if you need someone to talk too or want to hang out, I'm still your friend and I'll always be there for you as a friend."  That way she will feel loved and supported. I beleive that she doesn't need to know about the affair right away since she would already be very hurt.  If you feel like you must tell her, tell her once you are living apart.  \n\nIt's good of you to leave her.  You aren't happy and everyone derserves to be happy.  The damage is already done so now you have to pick up the peices and rebuild.  \n\nShe will be hurt tho.  Understand that she will be shocked and confused.  So try to help her understand that this is good because this way she will find someone that will truely love her.\n\nLeaving is good, but I hope you aren't leaving her for the this new girl.  You should live on your own for a while to figure out what to do next.  You can still see this new girl but remember that when your married things can quickly go out of hand when you want a divorce.  Living on your own will appear that you need space and that's it's not because of another woman.  \n\nI hope this helps and I hope all three of you will be  very happy soon.
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I  think  you  already know what you  have to do.     In  the  first place  how  do you know -besides  what she has told you -  that  her husband was abusive?      One  way or other, it is  absolutely clear to anybody with half a brain  the woman is using you ...   and  using  her  own  children as a   weapon  against you  if you  try to  stand up for yourself.    Well,   the ONLY  thing  possible  for you to do..  unless you want  to   stand there meekly  and let her destroy what should be the peace and  tranquility  of your and your husband's  lives -  is  take a  stand  and Tell  this selfish, self-centered, self-serving piece of  garbage  whom you so unfortunately  have as a daughter,  that  you have already done all -  and in fact  more -  than you have  the means to do..   She is;pulling one of the oldest  games in the book  with those who feel obliged to fall over backwards for her  because of blood relationship   .....emotional blackmail.... and you have  allowed yourselves to  fall for it hook, line, and sinker.    Enough  already.    You  can't   "save the world"  and   those are  HER children,  so you  cannot  be held  responsible for  them  either.      You  have  already allowed this outrageous situation  to go on  waaaaay  too long,  and the  very behaviour that you have  described,  defines her   exactly for what  she  really is....  a  mean,  selfish, ungrateful,  freeloading opportunist  who needs  to be made to  hit the road  before  she  succeeds in  ruining   your  and your husband's  lives,  and  your health.
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Newly single -- OK -divorced. \n\n1. No one to yell at you when you get home late. \n2  Don't have to pick up someone else's laundry. \n3. Don't have to ask what they want for dinner. \n4. Don't have to share the remote. \n5. Don't have to buy them their favorites.\n6. Don't have to explain yourself to anyone.\n7. Don't have to fight for the blanket. \n8. Won't run out of hot water. \n9. Don't have to put up with a drunk obnoxious asshole. \nand last, but not least...........\n\n10.  Freedom to do what you want (like chat on the 'puter all night)  when you want, and how you want. Without getting accused of anything, by anyone.
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I don't think there is any easy way to adjust and go through a divorce without some questions, hurt, anger and thinking you are a total failure for not being able to save a marriage. Just pray a lot....Nicole
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Sounds like this hit you hard. Sounds like you didnt know it was coming. They have support groups for divorce people. Try going out and doing something for yourself thats make you feel good, and dont blame yourself.
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You need to protect yourself, and it seems you need to do it threw legal action. At this point she thinks she can walk all over you and you will do nothing about it. You need to show her that you are willing to what it takes to protect yourself and the kids. Good luck and don't take that crap.
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Wife...with protection.
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First thing get out now!!! You don't need the abuse, been there done that, I got out and so can you.\n\nFile for divorce, do not give him a reason to get back in your life.\n\nSeek couseling so you don't do it again, it becomes a habit.\n\nLive alone for a while so you learn to strictly depend on yourself for everything and learn that you don't need a male to identify with.\n\nIf you don't want to get rid of him quit complaining and live with your choice.