My ex bf, who cheated, keeps trying to talk to me...and the girl he cheated on me with.?
914387
Yes, they are getting their perverted sick jollies rubbing salt into your wounds. You can file a verbal harassment charge against them for this, and I would strongly suggest you do so!  Save the messages they send as evidence, in case you ever need to show the proof.\n\nSorry to hear you're going through this!  I've been where you're at, and I know the pain of an ex love adding such insult to injury!  God's strength be with you!
718056
Why are you letting this guy make you crazy?  Why is he the one making all of the decisions?  You're smart, if a girlfriend of yours just told you what you've told us, what would you say to her???  Maybe it's time to move on...
86275
ouch. sorry but it sound slike you have been lied to and played. that boy is having his cake and eating it too. he is screwing both of you over and probably making up different stories to tell both of you. you should find a way to call her and ask her. but i would definitely confront him, but he will probably tell you more lies. it sure sounds like he is with both of you, why else would he have made something up to tell her instead of just telling her it was over? and why does he spend time with her and go places with her and call her??? that is just crap!
270994
Depends on what he is talking about.  Have *you* talked to *him*?  Or is this a big secretfest - he hides the fact he is talking to his ex; you hide the fact you  know.  Neither is healthy.  Be open and honest with each other immediately.  Things hidden fester and grow into something ugly.
193787
Be thankful.  He is doing what is right by his new girlfriend by not talking to you.  Plus now that he isn't talking to you, you can move on with your life and find a new love instead of talking to your ex all the time.
474755
You should be thankful that you are no longer with this jerk and find someone that is better suited for you.  Your ex sounds like a mindless idiot to me.  I mean, sure I listen to my friends input on a person I am dating to some extent, but in the end I would never break up with someone because my friend said to do it.  You need someone that can stand up and say "This is my girl!" with pride and respect for you!  Don't settle!  We all deserve better than that.
672690
hi, i feel that you should not be talking to your ex, if\nyou are still close that good but he has a girlfriend, and\ni feel it very  disrespectful of him to be talking to you\nabout his problem with her. because if the shoe was on the\nother foot how would you feel. he need to get his situation\nwith her together and  if it meant for you and him to get back\nyou will. the big guest ion you should ask yourself seriously\nif he so unhappy with her then as you stated why is he still\nthere.
409062
Why are you messaging your ex boyfriend? I think you are creating drama for yourself. So wallow in it, you deserve it.
613871
If it hurts you that he is talking to his ex, and you have told him this calmly and rationally, and he is still doing it - there is something wrong.  In a healthy relationship, he should understand your insecurity about it and possibly decrease or eliminate contact with her until you feel better about it.  \n\nSeek some sort of couples counseling to \nA. Find out why he would do this\nB. Work out your trust issues from your past relationship.  \n\nIf you don't address these issues now, they certainly won't magically disapper once you are married.  Take the time to solve them now so that you have a clearer plan for your future.  \n\nGood luck to you.  : )
141416
i just got out of a similar relashonship. i live in louisiana. and he started chatting with this girl online and they ended up hookin up - he cheated on me with her - and she lives in texas. i told him to pick me or her. he decided that me and him should get back together and that it was over between him and her. then i i couldnt find him one day and when i talked to his cousin she gave me a phone number that he had called her from. so i called the number and it was the girl in texas - HE CAN K*SS MY A** - u should really find someone who respects u and will cherish his time with you. DONT B PLAYED FOR A FOOL
1181256
Honey,....MOVE ON! Your ex does not deserve you! You have found a guy who treats you right, so stay with him!
826229
He talks to his ex and hides it because he likes her. You are serving as a filler in his relationship gap.
803320
Well I dont quite know what to think either?\n\nJudging by the question, you seem to have troubles with the boyfriend? I am probably wrong here because you question is a little hard to understand. However, I shall answer it like this anyway.\n\n\nFirstly, you should NEVER jumped to conclusions that he's cheating \nbecause you dont get to talk to him, etc.\n\nHowever, I would get a little suspisious of something in your position. I think you need to re-consider his intentions? What exactly does he want in your relasionship?\n\nAt the end of the day, your question isnt really detailed enough to come up with some useful answers (if any lol). I mean, how long have the two of you been dating?\n\nIf you havent been dating long enough.... then dont take this guy seriously. I wouldnt take a girl seriously if she acts the way your guy does. Oh well.... what do I know?\n\nGoing by your question, he doesnt take you seriously and the best way to solve this issue is by talking to him. I hope it all goes well for you, but be prepared to leave him if he contiues the same ways. I would certainly prepare myself for this, etc.\n\nGood luck!!
286081
I'm in the same boat, but I AM THE "SOMEONE ELSE. Please accept it. I am constantly being harrassed with phone calls and I had to get the police involved. Please don't let it get to you like that. It will only make you look foolish. There is someone for everyone out there and when yours comes along you will forget about the guy who is hurting you now. Trust me when I tell you that if he really loves this other girl, you don't stand a chance anymore. Let him go.
233835
You should move on!! To start with he cheated on you and even after you forgave him which i never understand that but people do he still lied to you about little stuff. This guy you will never be able to trust. You have already given him too much information to play you with. He knows that you still love him and that you think of him all of the time and its hard for you to move on talking to him. So the next time he calls blow his mind. Tell him your fine just been hanging out with friends and even found a guy that caught your eye. I bet that will end that. Dont subject yourself to being hurt again. There is more than one guy out there and you deserve a good one!! Move on and dont look back.
189177
Do you talk to other guys? Just because he talks to another woman doesn't mean he's cheating on you. Just ask him who she was if your that worried.
1160813
My b-friend and his ex talked the whole first year him and I were together.  She too broke up with him and I knew she really hurt him.  It drove me crazy too.  1)  I had to decide if I trusted my b-friend or not.  If I didn't trust him then I shouldn't b with him.  \n2) If the two of them ended up together then him and I weren't meant to be.  \nWe've been together for a little over a year, the ex has faded quickly.  Just hang in there, she's an ex for a reason.