What's the best way to deal with a secrective girlfriend?
919824
Um.. Yes, this is weird, but maybe you should try and act nonchalant about it. Maybe she is trying to give you a hint that you are too clingy. Back off a bit bro. Don't be so over aggressive, like "OH MY CRAP WHERE DID YOU GO!!" Every 5 min.
1022757
The mature thing to do is to stop trying to impress her. Right now she sees you like a little puppy begging for treats, not as an independent man. Tell her sorry you didn't have a nice time, maybe we can still be friends and then move on. 7 out of 10 times a girl will start to drop her guard down after that and look at you as more then a puppy and start looking at you as boyfriend material, and even if she doesn't the other girls around you will see that and pick up on it too.
107017
Talk to her. Discuss what it is that makes you think she's fooling around. \n\nTry to be non-confrontational. Try to avoid "You always..." or "You never..." Say instead, "When you do (or don't do) this.... I feel this...." Or "When I see you do such-and-such, I wonder what it means."\n\nAsk her what it means. LISTEN to what she says. Repeat it back to her: "I think you're telling me....."\n\nIf you do not feel much better after this discussion, sorry, sweetie, time for a new girlfriend.\n\nI hope you're wrong, and I hope this helps.
146721
Talk to your gf.\n\nIt sounds as though her mother can't cope with the fact that she's got a grown-up daughter.  \n\nExplain to your gf that it's hurting you when you're constantly being ignored because her mother still wants to control her life.  Tell your gf how much it's hurting your relationship.  Be honest with her, and ask her to think about doing something about it.
585875
just tell her if she cant understand,leave her its a 2 way relationship.
828419
being careful of what you say to her and just listening out for the things that she says to you. let her come to you now not the other way around. you have already expressed yourself and now knows how you feel. now she needs a little time to think about the moves that she is going to make. act par when you are around her and keep par conversations so that she feels comfortable all most as if nothing was ever said. \n\nbasically when she brings it up than you can bring it up if nothing is said than do not say anything at all.
650150
Ooooh, touchy subject.\n\nThis is how you do it. I can't guarantee it will work because she maybe very sensitive. \n\nSounds like you have a needy GF. Best way to do it is in person. Preferably, do something nice for her first, take her out on a nice date, a nice ralaxing one. Tell her how much you care about her. Ask her if she knows this? Pay attention to her reactions now! If she looks like she's not sure, you Re-Assure her. Then tell her you want her to do things on her own, things to better herself with. Say she should spend more time with her friends and family because you think it's important that she does that. Tell her you want an independent girl. Tell her you want her to be happy on her own and with herself. And you want to be there for her to add to her happiness. Because between you and me and whom ever is reading this, we are responsible for our own happiness, no one else. You can tell her that too in a nice way. \n\nYou basically make it sound possitive so she doesn't take it the wrong way....Then you tell her that you love to spend time with her but you also need time for yourself too and this is why you want her to do things on her own more. Then tell her again that you are not going anywhere, that you are there when she needs you. \n\nMake sure you give her a hugs and kisses afterwards...."Affection"  - - - i don't know any woman who doesn't go gaga for it.\n\nGood luck!
787137
If youre still with her, You love them to death man, suffocate (metaphorically , of course) them with compassion.\nChances are she'll respect you for not giving in, or being to hard.  Im sure she's the type who has two faces, win them over and those girls usually turn out to be the most loyal at the end.\n\nIf youre not with her or care for her, run!!!! Run!!!! RUN!!!!!!
837592
If you are mature, you take her aside and tell her as kindly as possible that you don't return her feelings.  If you are an immature heel, you use her, or just slink away without saying anything.  That is really cowardly if you ask me.
263988
That first answer was stupid, useless and mean! Anyway, I think you have to think about how much you love her and if you really want to be with her forever. If you do, then you must sit her down and talk to her about how you feel. Tell her that if she doesn't stop "pushing your buttons", or at least try to, that you have no choice but to separate. Put the ball in her court, make her understand how important it is and how much it affects you AND the relationship. Hopefully she'll understand and cooperate. She shouldn't get pissed off b/c you said she admitted to it before. Just make sure you talk to her calmly and with respect. Let her know that you're hurt by it, not just angry about it. Most chicks can sympathize with a guy, but if you're angry, they get defensive. Perhaps she's unaware that she does it, or when she does it. Meaning that overall she knows it happens, but can't really catch herself doing it. Maybe you need to agree that you can kindly remind her when she does it. My boyfriend and I have a similiar problem in that we do it to each other. Reminding one another really helps us to curb our behavior. It works really well when we both commit to it, but we do slip up now and again. Of course, if she's not willing to do this with you, then obviously she doesn't care enough to try and you should just dump her. And if your answer to the first question is NO then you do the same. I hope this helps you out. GOOD LUCK!
596245
Oh yeah, write her a letter Shakespeare. Also make a photo montage of you and her along with an original poem and a hand knitted macrame pot holder.\n\nLesson #1. Never put it in writing. HR will love to fire you for it when it all goes south.\n\nLesson #2. Be cool. Chicks dig guys who are masculine and appear to have it together, dont blow it by acting like a wimp. If she tells you it wont work out, say, "that's cool, let me know if you change your mind, I'll be around." then walk away and do not look back.\n\nLesson #3. If you talk to her again, keep your inner child and feelings to yourself. One woman in the relationship is all you need. Get in and get out. Fast.
109600
You could always get the jump on her by breaking up with her. Or you could talk with her and ask her why, there might be a way to fix things (99 percent chance there isnt).
302381
You may just have to make her angry.  There's no easy way to tell someone to leave you alone.  Just let her know gently, that the two of you have nothing special.  It was just one night and she has a boyfriend.  It's not fair to her boyfriend and it's not fair to you.  Let her know you two aren't right for each other.  Hopefully, she'll get the hint.  You could even be honest and tell her you're just not ready for a commitment right now, and it would be better if the two of you kept some distance.  She may be heartbroken, but I don't think she'll be angry.  If she does something nuts like breaks up with her boyfriend over you, or hurts herself or something.... you might just have to piss her off and tell her she's lost it.
369581
Hire her a bodyguard! If you can't be with her 24/7, find someone who can. Just make sure, you trust your men enough that they wont sleep with her!\n\nBut i I were you're GF, i won't do anything stupid. I'll ditch my phone and stay inside the house with you -- ALWAYS!\n\n..Lol!..
860028
If you keep pestering her, I should say she should tell your gf to break up with you.\n\nFor the meantime she should walk away and so should you.\n\nGood luck
665231
By not making a big deal out of it when she does leave the house. Give her a kiss and hug, let her know you love her, and that's about it. If she is truly an untrustworthy person than you'll find out eventully so there's no need to worry or get possessive. Let your love do the talking.
220475
you have to be there and intune for whats best for them. talk to her about it but dont push it. Once you have sat her down and explained it to her then its her turn to either turn her self around or screw up her relationship.