What do I do About Husband?
912751
Doesn't sound as though you can do much. Pointing it out to him or suggesting counselling will only add fuel to the fire right? On the other hand...who wants to be around someone who constantly complains, b*tches and brings everyones mood down because he's a jerk?\nYou can always tell him you're taking the kids and screwing because you can't tolerate this and it's cruel to the kids. Beware though. You call his bluff and he calls it....you'd better be ready to follow through or you'll never, ever gain any ground again.\nGood luck with Grumpy!
692744
From your description of your man, i find that he is an idle man who calls you ten times in a day. He can be OK for your friend but not worthy of being your husband. He will not be able to support you as his wife. Forget about him , my dear child, find some other desrving person.for marriage. Your well wisher.
1049333
simple! ask your husband help for cleaning the house..
569515
Forget subtlety.  Tell him outright you don't like it and if it happens again you will tell your husband.  He doesn't sound like much of a friend to your husband, and hubby would probably be better off without this jerk for a friend.\n\nProtect your marriage, protect eachother.
668756
Why are you continuing to put up with this? You asked him to do something to save your marriage, and he can't even do that?! Your marriage needs help. You need a counselor to talk about this, because obviously your husband has no concern for your feelings, by flirting and lying to you. He may even be cheating. Don't put up with this another minute! He's treating you like dirt. You deserve so much better.
720270
ok, if you have to ask then you already know. NO IT"S NOT RIGHT!!!! Ugh, you are destroying your own family out of selfishness. Women like you are called house-breakers. Ever heard of that? Your husband obviously loves you, he married you!! It's clear that the feeling isn't mutual though. You are causing so many problems for yourself and you don't even know it. I feel sorry for your husband...he deserves better and you deserve a reality check. Wake up....you're wrong!
106635
of course first of all you must talk to your husband. tell him all that you know about his computer "games" and tell him how he makes you feel and how he has been treating you. give him time to talk. be open honest and blunt. if you are blunt to him he will be to you. don't spare andy feelings this is your life if things don't work out with your husband then take it from there but don't betray him even if things turn for the worse (divorce) my advise is spend less time with the friend ( i know it will be hard) and more time with the family. Try to salvage your mariage before you indulge your short term desires. Be patient and have will power. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS
209215
Cherish each other, treat him like a king, let him have the authority in the marriage.  You will be surprised by all the wonderful benefits to this method.  He will treasure you for putting him on the pedestal, and you won't believe how fun life can be when you don't have arguments anymore, because he is making the decisions.  If you want more info go to nogreaterjoy.org.  Check out the Helpmeet book.\n\nI will add if you love him and don't want to count another marriage down the drain, fight for him and your kids.  Quit calling them, his and your, they are all yours now!  Do special things for him that let him know you are very committed to the marriage.  Put him first, act like you are trying to win him for the first time.  I know this doesn't seem fair, but men respond to it.  If he is unsure of where your loyalty is, or that you think your marriage can not make it then he will look for an easier relationship, or what he thinks is easier.  Ignore the kids blatant attempts to destroy what they think is keeping their parents from reuniting, and win them over too.  Don't expect them to respect and love you just because.  Don't spoil them, but do things that cater to them, make a special meal that they like, or allow them to pick the movie you will watch with them, do love them even though they seem unlovable, do things they don't expect you to, like leave a silly note on their pillows, saying you are proud to be their stepmom, or whatever they call you, do things with them like cleaning their room or making a cake. Be as affectionate as appropriate and don't repond to their pranks.  This is a war for the life you want and chose, do you want to start all over,, saying this is my 4th marriage how do I make it work?  I know it seems like you are swallowing your pride, but would you rather sign divorce papers?  It works, I will pray for you and the family. Blessings.
489150
Good riddance to him. He is not a supportive husband. He is useless. Don't regret what you have done.
360518
Start by leaving your husband and your child.  You can always have another child by this other man and your husband surely will raise this child with love, understanding, compassion and loyalty.  Something you should have had when you married him and spoke your feeble vows.  No wonder men think so many women are disgraceful creatures!
71766
Get out.\nFriends or family you can go to?\nI know.\nYou don't know whether to laugh or cry.\nThanks for the response to my cheating \nwife question.\nThat is over and done -\nshe's someone else's problem.\nPsychological problems on your husband's part?\nCertainly sounds like it.\nGood luck!\nRemember - You've got friends you didn't know you had!
287679
You can't.  He is married.  Leave him and his family alone.  You need to work on your own marriage. If your spouse is abusive, then you need to leave him, but going with a married man is not a solution.  Besides, if your married guy is cheating on his wife, what makes you think he will not cheat on you too if you got together with him?
661179
It's kind of hard asking that question since I'm American and I know the American guidelines.\nThe only thing I can think of is to contact your court system.  Let them know your husband is a bigamist(means being married to more than one person) and that he's living in a different country and what can you do to make things right for yourself along with putting him in his place.
183469
He has some serious problems with control. I would think if this is the way I wanted to live. He has no right to tell you that you can't do something. He is your husband not anything else. K
421897
DON'T  do anything!! hoepfully you have not acted on these feelings, but if you have, you need to come clean with your husband. Sit down and talk with him and tell him how you are feeling,and what made you go out side of your marriage. I am telling you now, it is not going to be an easy task. But there is always hope. Pray about this situation and ask the Lord to restore your marriage.\nDon't Let the Green Gress fool You!!
450065
Then you have two choices.\n\n1. Be quiet and let him make every decision for a while. He will either step up or not.\n\n2. Leave him for a man who will tell you what to do.
997901
Have him buy you stuff. If not tell him you will tell his wife and others. He is the one that has things to lose not you.\n\nHave fun.