What is the family's responsibility for a funeral?
925977
Typically, the immediate family is responsible for the entire ceremony, disposition of the remains, etc.  Extended family, neighbors and church community play a role for the extra things that the family should not be burdened with (i.e., food arrangement for the "pass" or other things that they do not have time to deal with that could include informing others of the passing of the individual).  The family would be responsible for writing the obit (unless the funeral home includes it in their fee for service package), arrange the eulogy with a presiding officiant that knew the deceased, etc. \n\nThe link below has a lot of information and "etiquette" that should be observed during this time of grief.\n\nNote:  Whatever the family does not want to deal with, there is always a close neighbor or other family member that will take care of the details.
1072199
I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.  If you're planning to travel by plane, just call the airline you plan to use and ask if they offer bereavement rates.   I know they give pretty hefty discounts for those family members travelling to funerals.  Perhaps they do the same for those precisely in your situation.  \n\nGood luck, and God bless.
103538
To the morgue or funeral home?
526315
You are in a tough position because part of the family wants you there and part of them do not want you there.  Is there a way that you could go to calling hours to pay your respects?  If you do that and do not go to the funeral, you should be fine.  Explain to the family members that you are close to that you honor their grandmother, but you do not want to cause any problems amoung the family, so you are respectfully not attending the funeral to prevent any conflicts.
119193
Funerals, they say, are not for the dead; they are for the living. To take two extreme examples, if someone dies and the only people at the funeral are his children, they are going to wonder if he alienated all of his friends, golf buddies, co-workers, etc.\n\nIf, to go the other way, so many people show up they have to have the services in a high school gym, and 40 people line up to say a little something about how he made their lives richer, the family and close friends are going to feel like he didn't live in vain.\n\nSo, it is a combination of how close you were to the dead person, and how well you know his family. If your best friend's mother died, you might go even if you only knew her slightly.
789970
Typically, you need to be aware whether this person who dies leaves a will or not. Even if there are no immediate family memebers, people leave wills. If they die "as is", i.e. w/o a will, they die "intestate". Most likely, in such circustances, the local municipality/cour-appointed trustee will send the letter to the bank to release the info on assets of the deceased. The proceeds ( (if any)will then be distributed to pay-off state-sponsored funeral expenses/cremation...The left-overs will "go to the government coffers" -central banking units- until claims by rightful owners (that can sometimes materialize) can be made. There is a whole procedure for that - for the unclaimed bank deposits...It is regulated.
140168
Depending on what branch of service the recently deceased is from, usually that is set up by them. If you have to do it yourself get a hold of the persons supervisor or who ever they worked closely with. Also make sure that the will doesnt state not to have a military funeral as it is punishable by law to break the will of a military deseased.
1069091
You don't need to bring anything to the funeral, call the funeral home or church ahead of time and find out if the family is requesting donations to anything and make a contribution if you wish.  Most likely there will be a guest book at the funeral for you to sign.  The widow isn't going to remember who all attended but later on she will look through the book.  You could send her a sympathy card in the mail, that would also be a really nice gesture, even though you don't know her, she would really like to see the impact her husband had on other people.  If you would like to say something to her personally, it would be fine, just pick an appropriate opportunity.  I've been to funerals where the family is lined up waiting for people to give their condolences and I've been to others where people gathered after to speak with the family.  It totally depends on the situation, just be considerate of the family.
135260
Start asking them what they want at their funeral, maybe they will get the hint! lol or just have their doctor lay it on them straight!\nplease pick a best answer-we are real people taking time to answer!
662795
"Dying relatives" is usually a pretty good excuse. Just be sure they recover, so you don't have to provide documentation afterward.
559338
Sounds a little fishy to me, however, if it is a close relative or someone they really cared about they might realize that person would be gone forever, and needed that time to deal with the reality of it all.  When my sister died I didn't want to leave her side at the funeral home because I had lost my best friend, and I was so distraught I wanted to be near her as long as possible.
354500
Just say that there was a death in the family.  Usually no further explanation is required.
830464
hey i am puerto rican and the funerals are all the same and as i remember just mouth the word watermelon when everyone starts talking.  I don't think there is much else except sometimes people go up and pray for the deceased.
900011
I may run that one by an attorney.  If the family signed a contract with the funeral home, there is definitely some negligence on the part of the funeral home.  You may need to see what the family's rights are before you make any demands or negotiations.  Contracts can be pretty tricky, and in the time of grief, it may not have been read over entirely.
875261
It is not inappropriate; just remember that the funeral is about the deceased, not about you and what you are wearing.
291918
Yep been to the funeral.\n\nhehehehehehe (just trying my luck at a witty answer).\n\nSeriously, I dont live in UK. So I have the slightest clue. BTW thanks for the 2 points....\n\n.:Fishie:.
713615
family in some of the people u been around