How can I control my six year old sister (she yells, screams, and throws projectiles)?
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What about locking her in the closet?  Can you let her watch some TV show or video she likes? Maybe she is posessed by an evil spirit, this is a possibility, however remote. If she is afraid of authority figures, tell her that if she's bad you'll call the police. Some people have done this when their kids have gone nutzoid. Ask your mom ahead of time if you can do this, because she might go ballistic herself. You really need a break from your sister, can't your mom find some one to give you a break?  Is there anything that you can control her with, like tell her if she shuts up that you'll do something for her. Does she have no self control, like nothing you do can make her stop? If so she needs some professional psychological help, like a child psychologist. Good luck! How old are you anyway? This isn't good for you to have to go through this.\n*****************************************************************\nIs there someone at school, like a teacher you can talk to, or your doctor about this? Your mom seems to be putting a lot of pressure on you. You should be having fun being a kid, not being put in a pressure cooker like this.
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I was your daughter, once upon a time. What my mother did with me was to inform me of the consequences if I did something & then she carried it out...consistency is the only way to deal with this. I was an only child so I had just about everything a kid could want in my room. When I was bad, I was not allowed to play in my room; instead being relegated to the end of the couch in the living room where she could keep an eye on me while she went about her daily chores. There was nothing in this world that I hated more than being made to sit at the end of that couch because there was no TV, no radio, no nothing. I was told that, if I put even one foot on the floor & didn't sit there like a little lady, I would get a spanking...it worked wonders.\n\nAs for sharing - if your daughter has a problem with it - try the following. If I refused to share a toy with a little friend, my mother would take it from me. She'd put it away for later but she would tell me that if I didn't learn to share, she was going to give them away. It was just my mother's luck, I guess, that soon after this first incident, a friend of mine was having a birthday party & my mother had gotten her something that I also had & she knew the girl particularly liked. While it is true that she had to take me home from the party early because I launched into a screaming & crying fit (thinking the girl had been given my toy), you can bet that I learned that lesson immediately :) It wasn't until I was in my thirties that the subject came up one day & Mom realized what was behind my little fit...not fun to have your parent laugh at you when you are an adult :)\n\nBTW, a friend of mine uses a variation of the sitting on the couch routine when her child is bad. Difference is, she makes her kid sit on the sofa with the computer, radio & television all in the same room & turned off...drives her daughter crazy. Another friend has a kid who loves video games &, when he is being difficult, she takes them away & lets his brother play them in the other room; within the child's hearing. I, personally, think this is a little mean & somewhat harsh, but it seems to work for her son.\n\nI think that is really the trick to getting them to behave in that every kid is different & you have to find out what gets under their skin. Its not to be mean, of course, it is so that you have that leverage that you need to keep them in line. I can assure you that by the time & was six or seven, my mother only need look at me in a particular way & I would not only shut my mouth, but immediately try to make myself invisible. At the same time, I never lived in fear of her...only of her being angry with me...big difference...\n\nGood luck!
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Don't yell. Don't raise your voice. Speak very quietly in simple language. They will have to stop to listen and hear you. They know empty threats, don't threaten what you will not follow through on. i.e. "If you don't behave you'll have to stay in your room for a week." They KNOW that isn't going to happen, but for 2 hours...maybe.\n  You can't steer a car by honking the horn, and neither can you guide children by yelling.
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i guess you could report her, or just ignore her, shes just dong that to make yoiu mad, but just dont yell abck or anything cause thats like the only reason shes doing it......
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My girlfriend had a similar problem with her older sister, she was a brat that was spoiled by her mother.  She treats her younger brother and sisters like trash and comes home yelling and kicking when things don't go her way.  She would go to their room to eat and put dirty cloth on their bed, and would leave without cleaning after herself.\n\nMy girlfriend and her siblings finally decided to take action to stop this madness.  They changed all the locks on the doors and told her elder sister either she respect them like human being or don't come back.\n\nHer elder sister went mad and start kicking and screaming when she heard that. She end up being asked to leave and kick out of the house at 1am in the morning, going back to her own place.\n\nAfter that she started to respect my girlfriend and her younger siblings on the phone and in person, althought she hasn't made her presence in the house so far after that night.\n\nYour family need to come together and tell your brother that this is not the way to go; disrespect your family is never right doesn't matter who you are. Your family must take a stand.\n\nI understand most family don't want to be firm and stand their ground because they are afraid of losing their children.  But the fact is your family already lost your brother and the only way for him to respect and come back is to show him your determination to your ideal as a family.\n\nGive him time to think, tell him if he still wants his family, he just as to respect you and your parents like what a nomraly child would do.  You're not asking alot here.\n\nWhether he accept / understand is irrevleant, don't try to convince him right now (he's probably not gonna agree), just let him know what your family decided to do.\n\nYour brother is probably not gonna budge now because he has his own family, but somewhere down the line when things don't go good he'll remember his sister and his parents.  That's where he'll come back and that's when you and your family will have a chance of change him by accepting him back.\n\nIts going to take time and patience for him to come back, but you have to let him know where your family stand for him to come back at all.  Don't push him away, just tell him where your family stands and ask him to think about it.  \n\nIts time to take a stand for what you believe.
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Make them laugh.  That always gets a child's attention.  Be silly dance around, play music and make funny faces.  I've had three kids and making things they don't want to listen to fun or funny always worked.  They are 11, 10 and 7 now and it still works...although my oldest will turn her head now so I can't see her laugh. : )
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Let her know, calmly and respectfully, that it insults you. Then ignore the insult. If she sees you getting rattled, she will keep doing it. This happens a lot with kids who are looking for attention of any kind. If it keeps up for more than a few days, or other kids start getting involved, then you need to go to a trusted adult in the school. I hope that it does not come to that. Good luck.
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My sister and I are three years apart and fought like cats and dogs when we were younger.  I'm 32 now and she is 29 and we are just getting to the point where we can have a conversation without jumping all over each other.  Our birthdays are only a couple weeks apart as well and we are both Aires...probably a bad combination.  I always thought that we were radically different from one another but then there are times when I wonder if it is that we are just too much alike to really be close...I'm still not sure.  \n\nWhat I am fairly sure of though, is that when sisters fight it is rarely about the thing that started the fight...she doesn't yell because you asked her to do a small favor.  She yells because there are huge under currents of emotion between the two of you that she doesn't know how to handle any better than you do.  You are two teenage girls living in the same home and there is going to be a lot of jealousy, resentment, anger, and self centered emotions coming between the two of you for a while.  The best thing you can do is give her space, you enjoy your space, and make up your mind that no matter what mean things she says you aren't going to treat her badly.  If you make up your mind that nothing she can do will make you hate her and you do your best to not say mean things to her then you have more than 50% of the control.  Know that when you get older and your parent(s) aren't around to hold the family together anymore it will be up to the two of you and any other siblings to remain close for the benefit of your children.  You can't control how she feels about you and what other issues she is having in her own head concerning you but you can decide that having a sister is more important than hating each other and not speaking for years.  \n\nSometimes you have to bite your tongue, I do it a lot with my sister, but not saying something mean is better than having her actually have a reason to be mad.  If you kill her with kindness and stay out of her way she will get over it at some point and you will have been the bigger person.
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Make a day that you can take her with you. Set it up with your friends, and tell them that you know its a bother to do so, but you want to make her happy too. Then head to the park or something.. Hang for about an hour or so... Tell your sister that she can come hang with you all, but only for a hour, then its time for her to head home and find something else to do... This gives your sister a little time with you, (she looks up to you)... And time with your friends... I used to always want to hang with my older sister and she hated it, but I loved her, and wanted to be with her do things she did....
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Just tell her. She could control it if she tried.
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SMACK HER IN THE MOUTH!!!  HOW CAN YOU TAKE ALL THE MOUTH NOISES!  Do it for all of us. :)
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These sorts of behaviours are common amongst people with autism. It might be a behaviour that she engages in when the stimuli around her becomes too much and overwhelms her, similar to the common autistic 'flapping' (of the arms) behaviour.\n\nIs she living in a residential home? If so maybe check that she is getting the appropriate care she needs and if the environment it suited to her. What are the noise levels like? Does she get on with the staff? Is she eating well/sleeping well etc? (these can indicate how she is feeling)\n\nAlthough she has autism, you have still known her for a significant amount of time, and I trust that you will be able to gage her general mood to some extent.\n\nIt is worth speaking to the Psychologist (I am sure there will be one if your sis is living in a group home)  and she should be able to generate some strategies to phase out this behaviour which much be distressing for you to know your sister is engaging in.\n\nThere is also the possibility that maybe it is a physical problem affecting your sister. Because people with autism have difficulty communicating (you did not mention whether your sister uses speech at all), their behaviour changes for example, if somebody with autism has a toothache they might become aggressive and lash out at others or harm themselves. I recommend a general check up at the doctors and dentists too
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Don't discipline her in using any way of violence. And don't abuse her either.\n\nOne good way to avoid future tantrums is to ignore them. Stay calm, lead her away from the aisle in the supermarket, take her on your arms. BUT ignore her. If she cried for a nothing, don't talk her or let her be on her own a bit.\n\nSome parents put their child in the naughty room when their child has a tantrum. It's basically just a quiet place with no toys, no TV, just a chair, etc. In there, she can cool down and you can pick her up again when all is over.\n\nIf that fails, distract her. Telling a child to smile will make a child smile and forget all their worries, a friend once told me. Try it.
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Be her rock, and tell her to leave the jerk.  It will only get worse for her.  She needs out...so pull the ejection button for her.
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I attach links to science fair projects. Without details of your sisters age level, it is difficult to be more specific.\n\nIt is very caring of you to do this for her but she should be the person organising the project unless there is some reason she can't.
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Me thinks that she will have to learn to control this behavior.  Can you deal with it?\n\nPeace
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You should just explain to her that there are some words that we say out loud in front of people and that there are some words we don't!! Just remember she is only 8--if you don't make a big deal of it then neither will she, she will eventually forget about-if you don't react--you reacting is telling her that it is one way to annoy you--that is why she is saying it! But I am sure if you sit her down nicely and tell her the difference between big girl words and not big girl words---PS your mom will start reacting when she goes to the school and says it-and she has to go in for a conference!! Good Luck!!! :)