What do I do when my class mates die?
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=I am sorry for the loss of your classmate. The guidance counselor is always there to help you as well as keep talking about it because it helps process the grief you are feeling.  Try to go to the wake and maybe the funeral with someone.  It would also be a nice gesture on your part to send the family a sympathy card telling them why their loved one was so special to you.  God Bless.
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Just cool off in your plans for a while.Ovethere people are mourning about loosing their beloved ones.
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DONT WORRY.\nCRICKET WILL DIE BEFORE THAT.
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Usually this person is in need of bringing closure to past conflicts. Let them talk...let them express. Even help them contact old acquaintances they feel the need to say things to before they pass. \n\nOften times, this person has to come to terms with their fate. It then becomes such a peaceful time for them because they have accepted the end. Help your friend get here. Go through old memories. Remind them of experiences that helped mold their life. Accomplishments. Make them feel that their life was "lived." It helps them realize that they made a mark on this world. Ask others to come by and show respect and admiration for what they were able to share in their relationship with this person.\n\nYour friend needs to feel their self worth before accepting that it is now time to go. I have no doubt that you can do a wonderful job helping them get there. \n\nI'm so sorry for your impending loss. It is oftentimes harder on those left behind. But you are doing a wonderful thing. This will be remembered.
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Spend a little less time with them at a time, until you just don't see them very often. If they ask you to do something with them and you don't want to go, tell them that you're doing something else. Eventually they probably won't ask anymore. Meanwhile, find some new friends to hang out with. If you spend more time with your new friends, your old friends will get the picture. Don't walk up to your friends and say "I'm not going to be friends with you anymore," because that will just make them mad, they won't listen to you, and you'll sound like you're in the first grade.
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Dear Friend - Of course you must tell him you are sorry, but please do more, offer to spend time with him and with his teenagers doing things to help move on.  Offer to drive the kids places.  Offer to be there and to listen when he needs to talk.  \n\nOne thing so many people do is after the funeral they just disappear and they treat you like you have cancer or death is catching or they tell you just to move on, time will heal, etc. and never let you TALK.  Whew!!!!\n\nSorry, got excited.  Good luck.  GBU
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You have to look at school as a big game.  If you play the game, you get out with few scratches.  Do what they want and remind yourself of the good times you'll have when you're out of their class.  I had a friend who made voodoo dolls and kept them in her locker, but I don't suggest that route.  :P
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If this happened to you, I'm really sorry. Allow yourself to grieve - that is the best thing you can do. Accept the fact that you are sad and don't try to hide it. You have every right to feel sad, angry, sick - whatever it is you feel. Just know that with each passing day, it will get better and you will learn to cope. You will never stop missing that person, but the thoughts of grief will slowly be replaced with fond memories.
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Dear Vickki, I am assuming you have lost someone dear to you in death? I am sorry for you pain. I know the days often seem so long. God does not promise us a life without difficulties and sorrow. He does promise his grace, his mercy and his endless love. It is so hard to understand but someday we will! I hope you can find comfort in knowing you will see your loved ones again. Think about all the wonderful times you had with this person while they were here on this earth. Thank God for blessing your life with their life. By thanking God, you will find the most amazing comfort. Peace will come and you will be able to go on. Hold on to the  the memories and treasure each end every one. I will pray for you and that your pain will be eased. God Bless!
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Arrange for your school to set-up a trust-fund at your local bank and ask students and their families to donate (advertise on the radio, paper etc...).  Another good idea is to have a collection taken at your local churches.\n\nEven better, make sure he has good friends that can support him through this tough time (sounds like he already has a good friend... you!).
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You mourn.  You remember and cherish the good times you had with him.  You might even do something to honor his memory.  And you wait for time to heal that wound his death made in your heart.  Trust me, the healing will come.
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Talk to the people at ALANON.  They will put you in touch with an appropriate grief counsellor who has dealt with this before.
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What helps is if u think about what good things that happenened to them when they died.  Like if they were sick or had a stroke or somthin' they should die other than suffer.  What also helps is if u relive the good moments that u had with that person or people.
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Wakin_marman answered a few of my questions as well.  He isn't right in the head.\n\nI am sure that your friend once went to a school, you should have a specialist explain the situation with the death.
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Realize that life really doesn't suck at all.  \nA friend dying is a friend who no longer desired to be here on earth and shouldn't really be a sad thing at all.\nWe create our own reality and we should change it if we don't like what we create.  Remember, we create what we think about, what we concentrate on.  If you concentrate on sadness because your friend died then that will be your lot.\nIf you concentrate on the good memories that you have of your friend then that will be your friend's legacy to you.\nLook around you and if you don't like what you see then look within' and change your thoughts.
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If it is a matter of health and safety, contact the school.  They may be able to send out a mailing for you, although they will not be able to release names and addresses directly to you.\n\nUse classmates.com for other issues.
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All you can do is be there for her when she needs you. Death is a really complicated thing to deal with. I was that girl about 2 years ago, except it was my husband that passed away due to an accident at work. It was extremely difficult for me (and I'm sure the people who had to deal with me) to deal with. All she needs is a real friend. There was one person in my life at that time who was a true friend to me, sat up with me for nights on end when I'd get drunk and cry all night, try to make sense of everything, and hated everyone around me. So, just be there for her, there's nothing you can do to make it better. Just be a good friend. Good Luck! And it's nice to see someone out there who has so much concern for others. God Bless.