sex before marrige:  is it the best way to go or should sex come first?
930523
I don't think that 'marriage' should come before sex; I think a true, loving commitment should come before sex.  Marriage is just a piece of paper or a ceremony that represents that, but a lot of marriages are made without that commitment.\n\nPeople can have casual sex and do well, but generally, having sex first before a relationship and dedication can muck things up.  That's my two cents!
522736
Please, please, please wait. It is so important. My husband was a virgin when we married and I wasn't. I wanted to have my virginity back so badly when we married but it was too late. Our honeymoon was great but it was bittersweet because I had to deal with the regret of him not being my first. It could have been the best experience of my life. And everything else counts too. I wish I wouldn't have even held hands, kissed, or anything like that until I married. It would have been so special. Please save it for marriage.
438767
of course it does! it just means that you're really up for love and not for lust... though sometimes your decision depends on your morals, but in my opinion, it's very much ok to marry a man first before having sex with him. since you're both legal to do it and if ever pregnancy issues come alaong you wouldn't be scared since marriage already took place. =)
473452
If you've waited until your 30's to have sex, then yes, I'd say to wait until marriage.\n\nI didn't lose my virginity until 31, and I have a few regrets.  I waited until I found a woman I loved and had the intention of marrying.  She had a few partners before she met me, and got scared at the level of commitment I was asking for.  That meant I lost my virginity to a woman who left me -- and then started sleeping with someone else not even a week later.\n\nEven though I've only been with one woman now, I want to wait until I get married.  I realize I can always have sex with anyone, but I want to wait until I can make love to someone.  I find I can't be incredibly passionate unless I know the person I'm with can truly appreciate the intensity of those emotions.
339169
getting married first
438207
the act of sex itself isnt smart or stupid, its how you handle it. i dont think that being young and promiscuous is a good idea, but sex before marriage isnt necessarily bad if you are safe and use protection, and are mentally and emotionally ready to be involved.
521823
Yeah I'm with her. Get married first, but don't get married because you to want a baby together because that's not the way to go. The to of you should really love each other enough before you even consider marriage or a baby! Out of that love a child should be conceived, and not because one or the other of you just wants to have a baby. Seriously, think about it before you have the WHAT-IF'S ans WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN thoughts in you mind.
401713
sex before marriage means to know ur self and what u are going to affront before u take an important step in ur life. sex is not the only thing to do before u get married. and there are things much more important to "try" and taste before u take a final decision, it's just that the world is built on weightless things in a way that we are getting lost in the needs of society instead of caring for our real needs.
1028090
sex before marriage with anyone is considered to be a sin & possibly you don't want to be a sinner.if you are getting married than don't why you wait for sometime.the wait is really going to be worth it....\nGOOD LUCK!!!
941723
FIRST PRE-MARITAL SEX IS IMMORAL !!!\n\nGET MARRIED FIRST !!!\n\nTHEN BE GENTLE WITH HER !!!
183508
When you know a person without sex first, and you really want to be with each other all the time, the sex will come naturally and be mindblowing.  Courting use to be the way it was done years ago.  I believe that's why older couples have remained married for so long, because they got to know each other first and decided to committ the rest of their lives to each other before they had sex.
829657
Well I don't think what u're doing is a mistake. I myself am a virgin and I also intend to keep it that way until I am married. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. Everybody's views about that are different though cuz some people don't believe in the "sex before marriage" thing. Some say sex is simply sex. Well for me,when that time comes,I want it to be special and I want it to be with that person I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with,my husband to be. Hence the reason I'm waiting until I get married.. Anyway,it's your choice and if u choose to remain one, that's great so don't worry about it. I'm sure when u get married, u'll be glad that u did! Take care..
839736
Love comes first..\nthen sex is the last..\nafter many things before.
993992
Most cultures have taboos regarding premarital sex.  Some have evolved from religious beliefs while others are merely a traditional more.  I think it is important for an individual to decide what role sex will play in their whole being.  If sex is just a rhythmic release of raging hormones and something to experience for pleasure then pre or post marital doesn't matter.  If however, a person views sex as the ultimate culmination of an evolving relationship between two people, then it takes on a more mysterious, almost religious aura...that special sex that binds a covenant between lovers should be reserved for marriage. Regardless of the level that sex plays in your life, it is imperative that you practice safe sex...not just to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, but rather to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases like HIV-AIDS, hepatitis, chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea , and herpes.
30499
I believe in no premarital sex. Say you meet someone you supposedly love, and you decide to have sex. Then if it doesn't work, you have no way to take it back. Then after that you find someone who is a virgin and you love them, you are going to regret your first encounter. Yes, I'd rather wait.
529077
One phrase comes to my mind with your question:\n"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"\nSex is defiantly rarely valued these days. I wish I realized its value earlier than when I did.\n\nJust saw your add-ins. That's a tuff one. I think sex is alright before marriage, so long as it's done for the RIGHT reasons, and so long as your not a "hoe" or walking STD factory. If you ask me, way too many people are having WAY to many partners, and that goes back to my original message about the lack of value for sex.
83593
I think youre referring to pre-marital sex; preliminary sex seems an ambiguous term. Anyway, it's ok with we, no problem with that.