money question ladies how whould you feel(honestly)and men would you ever ask this of your gf?
922973
You are right - It's not your debt - So don't pay it off\nand if he is acting different toward you now then hes not worth having, sounds to me he just wanted your money.\nIf you do get married to him tell him until HIS debt is payed off you will pay 1/2 the bills for YOUR home only and he can pay extra on his debt.\nBut keep putting money up for your retirement.\n\nOh just don't marry him till he has payed it off by his self
975139
I would offer it to my partner for free.  Why would I talk money from the one I love for doing something to make them happy.
456785
she might not be the right person for you to marry if these things are going to bother you. she obviously has a different attitude about money then you do. if you truely love her then you wont let things like this worry you so much. all i can say is that you think hard about why you love her and want to marry her.
181907
U have a big problem on your hands. Spoiled and pretty don't mix in a relationship. You should WANT to give her something not HAVE to, i.e. if you feel pressured to give her something all the time, sooner/later you won't WANT to do nothing for her at all. Nothing wrong with asking, but girlie needs a reality check. You can't always get what you want (unless you're filthy, stinking rich). Tell her how you feel and her reaction will better help you make a decision. Oh by the way, try and drop out of her manipulation 101 class.
1136737
it depends on how long you have been together. If it has been awhile then it shouldnt be any problems to have to ask to borrow money. if you guys are just starting to go out, i wouldnt advise on asking so soon for money. But if she is a loving and understanding girlfriend, she wouldnt mind helping out her honey.........as long as she knows she will get it back. Good Luck and God Bless!
1092328
i have never ever asked any of my past men for $$, or and 'stuff' for that matter. maybe honesty and integrity. i haven't been in really long relationships.. but i'm thinking that isn't normal. you should find some women who are a little better at holding their own-at least while you're dating!
619638
How would you feel if you were the one that got dumped and stiffed for a couple of bucks? I got one thing to say "karma".\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\ni
910630
What ever you feel he like, but don't get into debt trying to buy it. If your doing it out the kindness of your heart then thats all fine and dandy, but always remember money cant' buy love Never. So its the thought that count at least you think that much of him. Take care and have a good Christmas!
978344
I often feel its unfair to the male populous for us to hold onto the old way of a man ALWAYS paying for a meal. She may feel the same. \n\nIts not about what she should do, but what is fair. True equality means being treated equal, so you two pay seperatly. You offer which is nice and she offers too, but in the end I think you are on the right track. She may be a raging feminist and this is one of the ways she shows off her independence as a woman. \n\nBottom line. You aren't a couple so don't sweat the fact that she's paying her way. Enjoy that she isn't using you for your money, and that she actually enjoys your company.
80325
Did you ask your wife or husband about this?  How does he/she feel about it? what ever you think they would say is your answer.
1151834
I love how you use the word ladies that's a plus so i can see your already a gentleman. I think you should start splitting the bill when you've reach the level of an relation ship of friends that are also a couple then she knows you well enough to see your side of things. Treat her with care love her, be faithful, and be sensitive girls love it!!!!!!
1002946
Don't flirt at all, not even a little. How would you feel if your bf/gf asked this question?
204956
You can offer to pay - but do it discreetly. Most guys like to be a gentleman and pay for everything - but it does get expensive! Maybe, let the guy pay. Then discreetly give him the money to pay for something - so it looks like he's paying. He will think you're thoughtful - you've considered his finances and understood his pride! \n\nOf course you can take it in turns paying. You also have to take into account who has the higher income - if he does and he insists on paying - maybe you should let him - if there are no strings attached. But some men see paying for everything as "buying" you and you then feel under their control. Don't let that happen.
160621
how much do you want? Most gals want it as much as guys who want it loads.
945072
Honesty is tops.  Then of course he would have to be easy on my eyes. ( we all have different opinions on looks), he has to have a steady job, not alot of money, but he has to work for what he has.   What they own is not an issue with me anyways.\n\nIF we both work, we can save and buy things together.
355108
How old is your boyfriend. Aren't you a little bit young to be worried about a mans finances?
490670
If at the beginning of the relationship the guy starts asking for money.  I can barely support myself, I don't need someone else asking for money!!