Would you give a present to your boyfriend's family on Christmas, if you haven't met them yet?
928497
I would make a nice gift basket that the whole family can enjoy - you could do coffees and teas for the adults, hot cocoas for the little ones, and assorted cookies & chocolates along with nice mugs for each of them. Most of this can be found pretty inexpensively if you look. \n\nOr, you can also do a pasta bowl, loaded with pastas, a couple different gourmet sauces, a pasta server, grated cheese, etc. \n\nOR, you can do a snack basket - popcorn, munchies, soda & beer, and if you wanted to, throw in a game or some movie rentals. \n\nSince you don't know them, it's tough. But you've been with your beau for a while and if he's bringing you to meet them, you're probably going to be around for a while, so buying that first gift without knowing them is hard. Good luck!
968220
Im trying to understand this question...\nI buy christmas presents for families that wouldnt have christmas if i didnt...I shopping for 23 kids and their parents, i feel they need something to...Will also be buying stuff for christmas dinner for the families...
908997
No.  Just explain the situation to him in a similar manner as you have done here and he should be understanding.  My family lives out of town also, but when they come, we always spend more time with them because we only see them once a year.  If the roles were reversed, I'm sure he would expect the same from you.  \n\nTell his family that you will have them over for dinner at your place either before or after they go to the cabin, so it doesn't seem that you don't want to spend the holidays with them either.
16764
it is rude not to give them a present, but never overlook the gift of Time.  time spent doing something or making something meaningful will be appreciated by all, save for the shallowest of people.\n\nmy man's parents have fallen upon hard times, and even apologized to us before the holidays that they couldn't afford to spend as much money on us as they did in holidays past.  i told them i felt like slapping some sense into them, for i didn't want them to spend money.  make me a loaf of tasty bread!  grow some lavender in your garden, dry it, and save some for me, if you Really wanna give me something.  heck, even letting us use y'washer and dryer would be fantastic.  (we live in a giant apartment complex with only 2 working coin-operated washing machines.  the only time they're free is between 10pm and 4 am.)
792915
You should include  your BF in the number of people coming from your family in the  RSVP.  I think I would have been offended  if my good friend  invited my sister but not me personally  in the invitation. why did'nt she send it  to you and  include your sister in the "  rest of the family"?  I'd just let it slide though and just wish your friend and her hubby wishes for a long life together.  This is'nt  bad enough to ruin your friends day over.Yes,you should buy them a gift too.
914949
Me too.  My family has decided not to "do" Christmas this year.  By that I\nmean buy lots of useless presents for each other.  We are going to \ncelebrate by spending lots of time together and eating great meals.  Not\nall of them prepared by me!!!  I'm looking forward to it.
764065
The boyfriend doesn't respect the gift he bought for you - and doesn't respect you.  Is it your gift or a leftover?  It sounds like you need a new boyfriend.
938299
No, go ahead and give her your gift. That was really sweet and thoughtful of you. I'm sure she'll think the same and appreciate your gift. Some guys are not into buying gifts, your boyfriend may be one of those guys. My husband doesn;t buy his Mom gifts. I usually take the money from him and do stuff like that and then it's from the both of us!!
966397
My boyfriend... spending Christmas just the two of us this year. no family. just us. sweet.... Guess the turkey won't be the only thing getting well and truly stuffed this Christmas! He he! \n(My boyfriend is like Santa... he can come up my chimney anytime! ...and he knows if i've been bad or good....)
234561
No, i don't no one comes before my family.. And it saddens me to se that people are saying yes!! Now your husband and your wife have to come first! but my bf never before my\nfamily
401583
If that is the case, there is absolutely nothing you can do.  It would really be up to your boyfriend to speak up and mention to his family that he is in love with you.  If he is not saying anything to his family about you, you might as well kiss your boyfriend good bye.
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Yes always bring a gift! That is the correct way.\n\nI always brought a food item to leave behind and a small gift.\n\nI often purchased several pretty "larger" fancy chrismas ornaments and put them in  "prewrapped in boxes" so if I needed a spare gift for the holidays there it is.  Put a note inside, wishing them happy holidays from the "blank" family.\n\nIf they are Jewish or do not celebrate Christmas, its a holiday party, then just bring food and a bottle of white wine,  That's safe!\n\nAlways be the "giver" and be prepared to have a wonderful time.!\n\nWe always had "canned food drives" at my Christmas Parties, so that we can give to others besides outselves.  I encourages them to bring their favorite food to share with us.
438360
I am in that situation too. I really want to meet my boyfriend's family too and don't want to be too pushy. I know that he doesn't want me to yet and don't know why. I would say maybe he feels that he is not ready for this step yet. He wants us to know more about each other first and then meet our families.
940066
Personally, I don't buy for all of my family/friends.Most of the family still give gifts to me as they please, for which I am very, very thankful for and I let them know this. But, I've made it clear a long time ago that I am NOT going to feel obligated to purchase/give gifts - it defeats the purpose of gift giving!!!  \nJust mention politely before the holiday that you won't be giving this year, and "please do not feel obligated to give to me", something like that.\nIf they get snippy that is their issue! You can't be blamed that people have come to be selfish. Some people would rather get something from you knowing you didn't care, than to wait for a heart-felt present. That's their problem!
649925
I would--I would send Christmas cards and such!! I don't think that I would visit everyday or anything but I would defiantly  keep in touch some how-when you are in a relationship, you don't just fall in love with your partner you fall in love with the whole family-(sometimes) and if so-the break up is hard on them too-I say send a card or a phone call every now and then just to let them know you still care for them and that it had nothing to do with them!! Don't mention anything of the partner, just keep your mind on them and their good doings!! :) Good Luck!!
883427
1.  Ask your boyfriend if it is appropriate at this point to send his parents a gift.\n\n2.  If you haven't properly established yourself first, a card should be fine.\n\nGood Luck and Warm Wishes.
967278
No, he doesn't deserve presents. A card is more than generous. A gift is a gift, it's not mandatory and for your sister to even insist that he get one is not only rude, but down right a poor show of manners. If she is insistent that you get him a gift, then perhaps she can share hers. Whatever you get her, just stick his name on it too. Someone who can't make an effort to get to know the family of the girl he *loves* doesn't deserve anything more.