my ex has just got back intouch after 3yrs he is married which i new?
928786
Coz he's a lousy pig who probably wants the best of both worlds. Forget him love - move on coz it'll only end in tears for someone. And even if you end up winning your man if he's done it once he sure as hell will do it again xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
662021
On the market at the moment,but i have a crazy ex who thinks we are still together!!
1011899
He had a baby with another girl while he was still with you? Why are you fretting over this guy - you should be glad to be rid of this jerk! I still have to deal with my ex-husband because we have a 10 yr. old together, and we each have 50% custody. But I look at it this way - my ex (a big jerk) has re-married. Now his new wife is stuck with him (and I'm not!). I am re-married to a wonderful man - I definitely got the better deal here! And like someone said earlier - living well is the best revenge. Be glad that he is gone and that she is stuck with him - someone better will come along.
123275
Only you can know that for sure. Why does he talk to his ex wife, do they have children together, then until those kids are at the least 18 and probably longer he will need to talk with her. If he is calling up as there divorce is still new, he may just be concerned that she is alright, ask him why he calls her. My ex called me for months after we broke up just to see if I was alright. You will need to get you insecurity in check for this to work out at all, because they do have a bond no matter what and you have to face that fact. Just talk to him, that is so very very important in a relationship as you can NEVER know what is going on otherwise. Best to you
563751
EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT.  It took me FIVE count them 5 years to get my divorce. If you know for a fact that the marriage is over (by meeting the ex or a child if they have one) AND you know the one you are seeing is living apart from their spouse then it is fine.  INVESTIGATE the person and make sure that they are telling you the truth.
336205
He's an ex for a reason. move on
173046
obviously what ur marriage to ex husband & the kind of relationship that u had has negative impact on u. but not all the men r the same. u just hav to let go of the past & take chance into ur future. life is all about chances/choices  but we live wth the consequences from the choices we make. so take ur time wth this new guy. let ur relationship grow naturally wthout pressurising each other & u need time to heal.
436939
There are still memories of that person u still have ...\n\nAll i can say is ur being self-centered ... ur first mistake was getting married to ur current hubby ... n then ur second mistake was having a kid ..... ur third mistake is thinkin u can get ur ex back ..... \n\nur gonna keep on makin mistakes unless u stop thinkng bout him ... Frankly wud u rather risk ur entire life or b with ur hubby who loves u n ur child n have a family ??\n\nif u want out then do it asap be4 u hurt more n more people
1073575
Intentionally or not, he's playing you both and he's already made his decision. The only way you are not going to lose him is to remain friends and leave it at that. You guys divorced for a reason and he remarried for a reason. \n\nIt's you that needs to make that decision, not him.
229066
My opinion would be: start to once again see your ex. But on a "haven't seen you in years so what's up" type of seeing him. Get to know him once again. Maybe even do some volunteering that you can do with bringing you child (if their old enough, have them help out too). Invite your ex to come & volunteer too. While volunteering you can see what he's like around people he doesn't know and in an environment he's not used to. Plus you can see how he acts around your kid & if your kid likes him (most important). \n\nAfter everything has had time to "settle" and you know if you could have another relationship (after going over everything that you have noticed and if your kid likes him), then you can contemplate whether or not if you'd want to be with him. If it's mutual with you both, then that's when I would bring up the point with your current husband. Talk to him about you & him only (don't bring up your ex AT ALL). From his answers and reactions to what you're telling him (with you saying he's becoming to controlling), then you can decide if you should get a divorce. If that does occur, then you will have your ex that you can go back to. He will be there for both you and your kid. Plus if a divorce does occur, and everything works out, then you can get married. \n\nWouldn't know, but maybe when you talk to your husband have some friends &/or family with you too. For many reasons such as support, their side of the story, and if anything happens...hopefully not (DON'T have your kid there. have them with say your mom, out for the day)\n\nIf your husband does find out about you seeing your ex, he can’t accuse you of cheating, if you spend time volunteering with your kid, or participate in events that you work with other people, but also work with your ex too. So you truly won’t be cheating\n\nHope whatever happens, everything works out!!
161352
I'm not one to really talk since I've been divorced twice, but still, I think that unless he's abusing you or your kids, give him a chance to remind you of why you married him in the first place. "For better or worse" There is nothing worse than regret, and if you decide to end the relationship without serious counsuling or prayer (if you're religious) that you may wind up regreting leaving the man whose stood by you all those years. And 9 is a big number, so unless you've been lying to yourself and him for that long, you're marriage deserves a lengthy examination.
987389
I have 3 kids by my ex and he went off to Australia with his new wife. He stopped paying and I am fighting him in court (at great cost to myself) but now he wants to see his kids for 4 weeks this Christmas. I KNOW your feelings totally. But you have to carry the burden because children are better off if they have a relationship with their dads. Just dont compete. When they get older they will realise what went on. But equally dont put up with their lippyness. Dont let it go on. Make your ex look after them sometimes so you have some time to yourself. And get on with your own life. Your boys need a possitive male rolemodel in their life (your dad, or a brother or a new husband) Get on, get your life back into shape and make some time for yourself. You need it and so do your boys.
668475
I would think this was something to get clear on before entering a second marriage. \n\nIs there some reason why he is objecting? Do you have a good reason to talk to your ex? Do you share children, property, etc?\n\nSit down when both of you are relaxed not angry about anything and see if you can just talk it out.
681935
whats with him and ex's?  Youre an ex he's back with, now you're concerned about another ex.  Alarms went off when I read this. You need to be sure you're who he wants before you get hurt.  Give him a chance to be certain what he wants before you invest your heart into this once failed relationship.
376022
Well, this time do things by the book.  Keep him out of the loop.  Get your information directly from the Court and your attorney; if you soon-to-be ex tells you anything different, CONTACT the body concerned and double-check.  In other words, don't be Ms Gullible in future!\n\nIn the meantime, sever all contact with him if that's the only way you can do it.
942089
He's using his kids as an excuse to stay in the marriage with his wife.\nIf he's been married for 3 years, despite the fact that he's not living with her, and the marriage is THAT bad, he would have gotten a divorce by now if he really feels strongly enough for you.\nI'd say, leave the guy.  He clearly doesn't know what he wants right now and if you try and get involved, you'll only get hurt.
986542
either he has no feelings for you and is going to do what he wants, when he wants, and with whom he wants or you might be jumping the gun and trying to see something that isn't there. some ex's are friends and my GF has one that she talks to once or more times a week and its just because we have kids doing the same stuff at the same times. my trust is with her, she will always have friends that aren't mine and I the same. i will never tell her not to talk to him, she isn't with him anymore. this is a trust thing and if you can't trust him the best thing to do is get out while you can still see daylight. waiting will only cloud you sight and you'll never have the power of surprise. this power will get most to change anything. try it and if it doesn't work out for you, well your already moved out and all you need to do is get on with your new life.