I'm married but have had sex with men and enjoyed it more. Should I leave my wife?
918452
No! Explain your feelings to her, and leave it to her to decide! If she is angered, talk divorce. If she understands, why break a GREAT marriage?
513844
I don't understand how you can be 100% faithful to your wife and still have a gay sexual orientation. Did you get this sexual orientation after getting married to her or before. If its before, then its amazing you were attracted enough to a woman to marry her though you were gay and i don't know for how long now you guys have been married. But if its after, then its not fair. There is a possibility you could still get rid of the this orientation. Obviously it would not work if your wife finds out. But you should at least be sincere enough to tell her and let her make her choice which is obvious, and would be to leave the marriage, but she would not mind if she has the same sexual orientation. Just be sincere with her and come clean
592868
THIS IS A VERY TOUCHY SITUATION. I DON'T KNOW ANY MEN THAT WOULD GET SO DRUNK THAT THEY WOULD ALLOW ANOTHER MAN TO RAPE THEM. YOU SHOULD HAVE A SERIOUS TALK WITH YOUR HUSBAND TO SEE IF HE MAY BE HAVING ANY HOMOSEXUAL FEELING THAT HE IS TRYING TO SUPPRESS. COULD ALSO BE THAT HE IS BISEXUAL. EITHER WAY  THE DESIRE TO BE WITH ANOTHER MAN IS GOING TO HAVE TO BE SOMETHING HE IS GOING TO HAVE TO FACE EVENTUALLY IF THIS IS THE CASE. THINK ALSO HAS HE GIVEN YOU ANY OTHER REASON TO THINK THAT HE MIGHT BE GAY. IF SO I WOULD CONSIDER LEAVING HIM. BETTER TO BE SAFE THEN TO END UP WITH AIDS. BUT BEFORE JUMPING TO ANY IDEAS TALK WITH HIM AND PRAY ABOUT IT.
255395
I've been there.I've been married three times.Why?Because I cheated on my husband(s)and felt guilty!Tell your wife and let her decide what you should do.She will probably divorce you then you can do what you want.If you cheat again you will start that vicious cycle all over. Don't cheat!
887360
After 36 years of marriage i guess i am just about qualified to answer you. It is a hard road to travel.. believe me!! you have to work at staying married for this long. It is not all sweetness and light as there have been times when i have wanted to just pack up and go but i have a deep sense of responsibility to my family, even though our kids are all grownups now.My wife has no doubt felt the same at times. So the answer is..Think about what you are going to do, before you do it and consider what effect it might have on your other half. Tell her that you love her often and show it!! Flowers and little treats work wonders. Keep your lust alive as sex is important even as you get older. It is the best way of communicating your love for each other. Do not have secrets that might hurt the other one. Be truthful. Make time for each other, hold hands when you walk out together. Sneak a kiss in public. Look after each other and always back each other up. I could go on and on but i am sure that you get the idea. I am 61 and she is 56. We still sleep together  sharing a double bed. Like I say,love, lust, hard work and consideration are important as is being freinds as well.
1074234
lmao!! Good for your wife!! I hope that this has taught you a very IMPORTANT lesson!! DONT CHEAT!
376726
There are groups I know for women whose husband's are gay.  I am sure there are groups for husbands whose wife's leave them for women. I am really sorry.  It is hard enough to have a spouse leave you, but when they leave for a same sex it has unbelievable affect on the person.  \n\nMy ex. claimed he was bi. But I believe he is just gay.  He abused me emotionally and physically in our marriage because he couldn't admit even to himself that he was gay. He tried to make me feel like I was unattractive and it was some how me not him. I hope you find the strength get through this.  \nI think one of the groups is called str8's or something like that. I do know if you enter in search on yahoo you will find sites and perhaps meet similar people in your situation.
261415
Definitely. I do it, and I'm very happily married!! lol Yeah I still have a partner, and I'm very happy sexually, but I still it's very important to still know how your body works, and what turns you on. Things are always changing, so it's almost necessary to keep in tune with your own body.
292186
girl i know exactly how you feel!!!! ive been married 10years and very lonely... dont get discouraged!!! alot of women may have alot of male companions but ask yourself ARE THEY QUALITY MALE COMPANIONS. ive thought about leaving my husband many times, not for any other reason except we have no quality time together.... i stay because i dont want to CATCH anything, if you know what i mean... you can go have fun with friends and eventually youll  find someone. dont go sleeping around either.. ok..
763522
Yep. \n\nYou're lusting over other women. If she did this to you with men, how would you feel? You would probably be a little jealous, a little angry, and being a guy you may want to retaliate by showing her you could "hook-up" with women online. And she doesn't know if the only thing you're doing is a "sex-chat". If she was alone in her room with the computer... on a webcam... in some lingerie or WHATEVER... you would want to know if she's doing something else besides talking dirty. You would probably wanna stay and make sure that's ALL she was doing. \n\nAnd she may feel the same way right now. She already knows you're a pervert. Do you want her to think you're a sex-addict too?! \n\nBut that might not be a bad idea... She might try to help you "work through your situation" and let you "chat" a little bit at a time until you're "cured". ?\n\nI think it would be best for your relationship if you just quit and tried to work things out with your wife. Who knows? You might find something else more "fun" to do together. Seriously. Just ask her.\n\nOh...\n\nYeah, you can be termed as deceitful and unfaithful.\n\nBrother DzL (AsP)\n"The Player's Lifestyle"
184610
well my wife and I have had several threesomes with several differant male friends we both enjoyed it and still do and still married for 33yrs
293793
No, Never did I cheat or even think about it. It is wrong to think that way with your spouse. If your going to do that than leave...K
664062
Well it depends on how ur moral standards are, I wanted to wait until marriage, but that didn't happen. If your a frim believer in Christ, you know that he'd rather you wait until marriage, but most people need to see if they are compatible in the bedroom. All in all the sex is sooooo much better after your married.  You follow your heart. I'm sure you'll make the right choice. Good Luck!
598442
it is ok, but having sex with a woman is better
323672
"Going beyond" may end up destroying your nonsexual relationship with your wife.\n\nIt will be awkward, but bring it up. Preferably in a form of therapy just to be sure that she doesn't get angry or depressed or start feeling like she isn't good enough for you. And it will make sure none of those common man-woman misunderstandings take place.
38062
I could care less either way.  I'm in a great heterosexual marriage.  I love every min of it.  Now who am I to deny the same pleasures to a couple of the same sex?  What if my neighbors were in a same sex marriage?  It wouldn't really affect me.  It's not like I'm forced to partake in thier daily life.
725411
ABSOLUTELY!  The best sex I EVER had was with monogamous relationships that lasted for years.  We grow on each other, and I SWEAR, the sex - better still, it develops into making love, gets BETTER over time!\n\nI need not seek others because I have all the men in my life in my precious husband of 23 years!  You know, the very best thing about it is that he feels the same toward me!