Is there anything that I can do to gain custodety of both grandkids?
929577
document everything. if the kids come to your house with bruises. take them to the hospital, and take pictures. get your county's children services involved. They have a lot of power and can remove the child immediatly. get an attorney.\n my wife and i are going throght the same thing with our grandchildren, my wife's 24 year old daughter is borderline retarded, and diagnosed shizophrenic and bipolar. the four year old grandaughter was taken from her right after she was born, it was easier since there was no father involved. now there us a 9 month old boy we are battling in the courts over now.\n good luck
71419
Grin and bear it.  Anything else gets you in a contest.\n\nIf you feel you can, try talking to her on her level. Or have a meeting with you, her and your kid and spouse.  It's no good for the grandchild.  I went through that and grew up resenting the one who was always jealous.
871524
I would suggest that you go into the house and get any papers that you might need.  You are not entering illegally as you have a key and your uncle doesn't want his son to deal with it.  You will have to let the solicitor know.  I've been in a similar position and in the end i decided i loved my grandad more than my aunt  so i was going to do what he wanted and not worry about upsetting my aunt and going against her and my mothers wishes. I am happy that I did.
110348
It needs to be done to a certain degree, you need to be careful though to ensure you do not hinder their sense of independence and worth as they grow older. You don't want to go so far as making them seem untrustworthy or irresponsible.
156676
find out who grandparents on both sides are. go from there.  how much do you need to know. are you supposed to be getting help?
114250
First of all the father of the child has parents, making them grandparents.  Take the hild to see them.  Be polite no matter what.  THey may be shocked.  Second of all, get your act togetehr the best you can, maybe with their help.  If daddy is in prison, you have a lot against you.  But you can rise above it if you work very hard.
1141912
I would check with Family Services in your city.  They can ususally steer you in the right direction.
51636
GO TO THE marchofdimes.com THEY SHOULD BE ABLE TO PROVIDE ASSISTANCE OR AT LEAST SEND YOU IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. OR DIVISION OF CHILDREN AND FAMILY SERVICES
691411
are you the child's relative. I can probably answer you if i had more info to go on. I just went throught this myself.
779453
Grand fathering applies only to legal issues. Employment is different. You have a very Minor problem. Think about the millions of people whose pension benefits have been slashed in spite of supposedly ironclad contracts in place while earning their retirement incomes. \n\nTake it out for a few hours every day or find another job.
283777
this is why. when children go to foster care they become a ward of the state. so the state has custody of them. you should be bale to get help if you have legal custody of your grandchildren. go to court and get it all done and then try to get help form the state. and heres a question... why arent' the parents helping....
641501
you can't,\nunless you have soemone at children services you know\nbut look at your neighbors first..
1169366
You can't.  if it were that simple then there would be no need for councilors...  \n\n  I really say that you and her are better off.  You didn't cause her trauma and you should not bare the brunt of it.\n\nWhat really SUCKS is that Grand pa was ALLOWED to do this.\n\nGramps was a mentally sick bastard, but why did his wife let him do his own daughter and then both of them allow to again happen to the grand daughter???  \n\nDude be glad this horror is over because you could have had your own daughter with her and then what???
1029933
You are not alone. There is help for grandparents raising their grandchildren. \n\nContact Child & Family Services in your area. They have programs geared towards this very issue.\n\nAlso, FIA/DSS/DHS - For Medicaid, Food Stamps & other assistance.
337716
ask them questions \nlike ask the mom about their past family names and where they are from,\ntell the mom you think this and maybe she will help you out in this process.\nmake sure you have information about your families past too. like grandparents and great grandparents and stuff like that..\nGood Luck
923583
Most states will give birth certs to the person who's name is on the cert, the parent of that person, a grandparent or grandchild, and the persons children without written permission from the person whos name is on the birth cert.  Check the laws in your area by typing in county recorder for your county and checking the their site.  Also, get all info regarding what this person did with your birth cert and talk to a lawyer.  The lawyer in your area will know what your chances are of winning better than anyone here.  Good Luck.
1075411
the answer is yes it is possible and getting better all the time. many courts are granting visitation rights to grandparents all the time. check with your county court house in your area and see if this is being done.