Why is men so sex oriented after a few months into a relationship? Is it lust or love that drives this need?
913912
all boys are like that they want sex. but u shouldn't give it up that easy. just in case that's all he want.
607541
I'm assuming you mean that sex isn't as much a part of your relationship as it used to be? That's the way it goes with relationships, at first you can't keep your hands off each other, but after a few months that calms down. The only way to keep that "new love" frequency it to get a new love every 4-6 months. Your alternative is to stick with the love you have now, and be happy that your relationship is morphing into something more substantial than mere physical desire.
805308
It's been my experience that guys tend to be more activity oriented, they want to be constantly doing something.  In lovemaking, it's all about the orgasm.  Women tend to be more relationship oriented, I've spent wonderful nights with women where there was no sex, just talking and cuddling and being together, I've rarely had that with a man, and then only when they were also bi.  It's an old saying:  "Men give love to get sex, women give sex to get love."  There are exceptions, obviously, but it's what I've seen in the majority of cases.
461564
Thing is . . . men . . . fall in and out of lust easily.  As for love . . . it takes a little while to determine whether it is love or not.\n\nHonestly . . . when we are interested in a girl . . . it isn't because of what you say is "Love at first site" but it is acutally "Lust at first site."  You get us hot and hard . . . with your look, you attitude, and other things you do.\n\nAfter we have gotten to know you well enough . . . then we can determine if it may be love or not.  You may be a good lay . . . but as a conversationalist or a friend . . . who knows.  If a guy really loves you . . . he will tell you (without being prompted).  Please note . . . if he tell you this during a date . . . or before he gets into your pants . . . 9 out 10 cases he doesn't mean it.\n\nBefore a man falls in love with a women . . . he has to lust for her first.  Then get to know her . . . inside and out . . . in my opinion . . . it should be the same thing with women . . . but women get too emotional with the people they have sex with and mixt the signals. (why else do you thing divorce rates are sooo high . . . women pressuring men to get married, when they were too young or not the right one.)
518455
If the guy likes you he'll stay. Me and my girlfriend started having sex early too and she was having the same problem you're having now. She chose to tell me all her problems and she told me she thought that I lost respect for her giving it to me so easily. She also told me she wanted a real relationship; something more than sex. I love that girl and we've been together for a year a three months now and we're going strong. If he really wants a relationship, then he'll want the same thing. I know from experience.
249222
Apparently there is something right with your relationship since you have been together for so many years. Being an outsider looking in, here's what I would suggest. First of all, I just finished reading a fabulous book, For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. This married woman and a crew of men and women surveyed men of all races, ages and religious backgrounds. What she found out is that men just need sex. It's their way of needing affection from their partners. There is no shame in your needing or wanting sex. It's a perfectly healthy part of a relationship. Sex was not the main focus of her book by the way. Most men see sex as a need. Most women see sex as a way to show affection. So.. apparently your wive is missing the whole romantic aspect of your relationship as a whole. She needs affection in another form other than physical affection. Try going back to your dating years. What did you do for her, other than go at it like two rabbits that made her fall in love with you? Random love notes? Cards? Flowers? Time alone? What about a weekend getaway for two? Your wife needs to know that you love and respect her outside the bedroom. Reassure her, verbally that you want, need and love her. Talking about how wonderful she in infront of her friends is also a great way to prove how much you care for her. Remember that romance and love is more than just healthy sex.
996476
same could be said why sex is so important to you people after marriage...whats the difference? ok, obviously no one wants to be with a "whore" but then again i think that people would want to be with someone that is experienced, i know i would. Cause lets face it, peoples sex lives play a very important role in marriage today, 73% of marriages fail due to this and/or they are deeply troubled because spouses are not faithful and loyal to their signifficant other due to inexperience or unfullfillment in that department. I for one, would like to know that my souse can not only satisfy me spiritually, emotionally but also physically. now, with that said, there are those that feel this way, and then there are those who are extremely active. to each his own but thats where i stand. Hopefully my answer has shed some light on the opposite side of you acusations.
315422
The tricks to relationship is leaving the other person wanting more.  That is to say that you do not give in to sudden urges while dating, not revealing too much, etc.  You pace yourself and preferrably after 3 months, you take it to the next level.  By then, a guy would either like you or show his true face; you'd simply saved yourself the hassle of trying to be intimate with someone who just wanted to show you around his bed, or yours.\n\nThe thing about relationships is that when you give him everything he wants from you in the beginning, you have a higher chance of ruining any interest that you have stirred within him to know you better.  Again, pace yourself out.  Let him get to know you better.  If he remains interested, he'll see you for who you are and your hook ups won't be merely hook ups anymore after those 3 months.  You'll be able to enjoy your beds a lot more because it's not meaningless anymore.  It would be more like an act of sharing each other and trying to please each other.\n\nBest wishes...
517105
Few months is still too short to say that you guys are in as a serious relationship as to live together. And you got into sex too early before you improved your relationship in a level where you guy understand who is the other person, if you really need he/her to be in your life. So, it sounds more a sex-partner type than a romance. A sex-partner can fight or leave you at any time, for any reason, there's not that much carring, sharing, sacrification ... than a love relationship ...\nMy opinion is you have to look into your relationship, to determine what type it is, then decide what to do: improve it or let it go. Does she loves you, do you love her really, or you guys just want to have each other for sex, and kind of fill the void for the nights ... In the second case, just let it go ...
395443
well one of 3 things could be the source of the problem 1. he doesnt actually care about sex all that much and is just happy being with you 2. feels insecure in bed 3. just might not beable to keep up with or sex drive. just let it lay things will change plus only 4 months in a relationship dont let sex rule the relationship cuz then it will fall apart
417663
Um I didn't exactly ask my man but it came up about 3 months into the sexual relationship.....it just feels fuller, more stimulation....and that with a vibe in my pu**y...........OMG heaven!  So um yeah I guess that should help lol.
949205
Sex is part of developing relationships, not the reward.  Maybe you need help on choosing or meeting the right type of men.
195180
Could be that your new boyfriend although better for you, is not as good in bed, so you are not 100% satisfied with him. So when you think about sex, you think of your x because he was better. Just a theory.
390062
I am glad that you are asking this question, cause it means you are moving in a positive direction. Of course there is more to it then sex, relationship between two people is about mutual trust, accepting  each other with all of our flaws and faults, loving each other even when you don't feel like it.
1110970
Because men want to have sex in every second...\nIn my relationship we both love sex or also making love. We both want to have sex in the same moment, no one of us ask about this
437609
different guys want different things.  Some want relationships and all the things associated with it and some guys want to hit it and quit it.  But what they all want is to have fun and are geared more towards sex.
369360
Because in reality they DONT know what they want...  They're all just hormonal pigs who need to get smacked around every now and then to keep them in line.\n\nAlso, I found if you're not having sexual relations with the guy, he goes behind your back and finds it somewhere else.  Now that's no reason to start having sexual relations with him...  That's just a reason to get out of the relationship, because he's not worth the room he takes up in your life.\n\nThere are plenty of good guys out there that won't cheat or be as$h0les behind your back...  It's just a matter of time and searching before you find the right one.\n\nGood luck.  :]