my crush is a lot more outgoing then me....>?
918420
you know what. sometimes its easier for people with similar interests to hang out. my suggestion is that, since your friend is there too, try to join in their conversation. and if you hear a part like, for instance; a certain activity is cool- just say you are interested but there is no one to mentor you or suggest that all three of you go there together! \n\nthe more time spent, the more chances there could be of you two eventually talking.
512195
Suggested course of action:\na) Talk to him, get to know him. Maybe if you don't know him really well right now, and got to know him better as time went on, you might manage to drop the crush. Or not. In that case...\nb) Leave an anonymous letter in his locker. See what he does. If you like, organize a place where he can leave reply letters for you. This type of correspondance can last for as long as you feel comfortable with it. At the same time, though, continue to cultivate his friendship in person.\nc)After a time, make the move. Admit that you sent the letters. See how he responds. Don't expect him to like you back, though. It never is good to be too optimistic.\nd) If he doesn't like you back, I suggest just going out there and finding someone else. Try to forget him. If he doesn't like you, it isn't the end of the world. Find another guy. Cast out your nets and try and catch your kind of fish somewhere else.
779197
i learned never to put yourself down because of an event that happen with a guy...you are who you are and he may or may not feel the same...he may be shy...or think your friends are lieing...it really depends on the situation...just go with the flow..dont act different around him,maybe talk to him some more, you make the move...
196364
Ask yourself a question. Are you jealous of the crush she has on this guy?  Or is it that you are jealous of the relationship you have with her?  It's hard to share sometimes, isn't it?
439089
I believe he likes the fact that you have a crush on him an doesnt want your feelings to change. He sounds kinda unsure about hisself. I would have to say I bet he feels the same way about you just didnt know how to reply when you told him how you felt. GOOD LUCK LOVE!
998765
yes you should see a counselor to seek more information and help with this situation. it sounds like you are attracted to being popular more than being attracted to him because despite his disrespect towards you, you choose to stay around because of the popularity you've gained. it's important to look at this situation and decide which you value more. respect from him or the popularity amongst peers. i understand the importance of being 'accepted' but it shouldn't dictate your values because you are the one who decides what you will do with your life and not someone else.
525459
WELL MANY OF MY FRIENDS HAD SAID THAT I AM LIKE THIS TOO. \n\n\nWHEN I FIND A GAL I AM INTERESTED IN I KINDA MOVE AWAY FROM HER. I DONT SPEAK AND DONT LIKE MUCH CONTACT EITHER. ONCE WHEN I WAS YOUNG, I WAS REALLY INTERESTED IN THIS GAL WHIH WHOME I HAD NEVER SPOKEN A WORD WITH. YET V WERE BOTH INTERESTED IN EACH OTHER. \n\nGUESS ITS NATURAL. YOU SHOULD TRY TO BREAK THE ICE WITH YOUR DUDE. Simply confront him about this. i guess he is better than most others around.
413961
She digs you for more than just friends. I did this same thing only 4 months ago. She has a "crush" on you, otherwise she wouldn't waste her time. See, pouring out even the simplest thing like telling you she has a crush makes her vulnerable. You will have to spill the beans on how you feel first and bring it out in her to feel comfortable being a bit more candid.
1068962
I think u are an approval freak. Just be yourself, U can't please or be compatible with everyone. Besides isn't it our differences that makes life more interesting.
695959
i guess hz really pissed at u. he probably doesnt care about the crush at all. he jst usin her to get to u
535146
I used to be really shy, especially around people I liked. I guess I got nervous. Then I realized, Just relax & talk to them like I'd known them 4ever, & if they don't like me, then I'm no worse off than I was before. I've made a lot more friends that way!
296714
Obviously you have openly revealed this 'crush' of yours - and somehow the word must have got to him ! So, egoist that he is, your 'crush' is playing 'hard to get' : one of the oldest ploys, resorted to, by most males, to prove that they are highly 'in demand'.\nDon't fall for this, mariah : What possibly caused you to develop this 'crush' on him was possibly also just another 'false front' put up by him - to 'impress' impressionable gals like you !\n...When you find a guy who remains totally natural, while relating to both his male and female friends and acquaintances - HE is the kind of person you should have a 'crush' on.\nAnd when such a nice guy gets to know of your crush, he will not play games with you : He will either hug you in a tight crush to reveal that he likes you too, or will frankly admit right away, in a way that will not hurt you, that he is otherwise attached.\nBest of Luck, chum !\n:-))
437840
well do u like him? im a shy person too and i dont talk to people unless im in an energetic mood\n\nsome people r just like that
170233
Walking right up to him might take a lot of guts, so maybe you should talk to his friends and get to know him without actually talking to him, and they will probably hint him about your interest. Although, if it were me, I would just walk up to that crush and talk to him.
233018
i think so. he seems super shy. you should try to talk to him
649558
First off your not a looser.  All you can do is be a good friend to him.  You'll see....when school is out things change.  He may not be as popular the next year.  Your friendship however can only grow and maybe develop into something more.  Good luck.  And....don't talk bad /down about yourself.  You must think possitive.  You have alot to offer some guy and they will be lucky to have you.  DO YOU HEAR ME!
692959
I think the same way about myself, and I'm shy too. Just go up to him and make friends. If thats too hard, at least try to talk to him sometimes. If all of that is too hard ask yourself if you really want to be with him, that will get you going.