Should I forgive her, believe her???
920223
i would leave her if she can't keep to you for five years then what if you get married how do you know she wont do it in the future or right now. You never realize how much you like something till its gone but for her i think she is just gone
1004116
You will have to learn to forgive and forget if you are staying with her.......\n\nIf you are done with her.......just get your head and heart straight.  \n\nDon't blame yourself, noone deserves to be cheated on if they have made a committment to each other.\n\nIt will take time....just like a cut....the heart takes TIME to heal....
386715
You should apologise.  For whatever is making her mad.  The apology should include how sorry and bad you feel because you did something wrong and show that you understand the impact on her -- how it affects her.  You can ask her to forgive you.  It's not a simple process.  Plan in advance what you will say.  make sure it includes those components--i made a mistake, i'm sorry, i understand how it made you feel.  i am throwing myself on your mercy and asking forgiveness.
179022
Hi Ms. Sandylynn!! I just wanted to let you know that when you let people e-mail you from here they can't send attatchments and if they do, you don't have to open it. :) You give the absolute best and most thought out answers of anyone on here and I want you to know that it doesn't go unnoticed and it is very much so appreciated. :) \n\nOh, but to answer your question, I don't even think you should lose any sleep over this situation. You did nothing wrong and she is mad at herself, not you. I know you already have but pray about it and let God handle this and her. Only when she can find it in her heart to "forgive" you can she grow. Someone as nice as you, I know if you knew she needed help you would have been there for her. In conclusion, just pray about it and give it to God. It works for me. He can handle it far better than you can. I hope this helps!! :)
305205
one time is a mistake. if u like her then forgive her
312229
All friendships have their "ups and Downs".\nIf you expect someone to be perfect and never make mistakes, you will end up very lonely.  We all stuff up and do the wrong thing from time to time.  It's our true friends who will stick with us through it though.\n\nIf you are thinking of ending the friendship, ask yourself "Have I ever done something similar?"\nIf you really can't forgive her then move on, but if you can forgive her, put it all behind you and start from here on.\nDon't keep bringing up what she did wrong, but do be more cautious until she proves herself trustworthy again.
965587
I don't think she'd listen to you... it's worth a try, but I really don't know if you want to risk her getting angry and telling everybody about you, like that you're lying or something bad like that. I know she SHOULD be told, and I'm glad you have that mindset, but she'd just think you were bitter... and she'd believe him. So I'm sorry to say it, but you should stay out of it... unless she's the type that won't get angry...
14011
Be real with her. Forgive and ask for forgiviness without trying to rehash the argument or make that one last point. If you can't agree then agree to disagree. It sounds silly but if you are entitled to your opinion, so is she.
275239
It all depends on what she did to you. Yes, God does say we need to forgive people, but not for others. It's for ourselves so that we do not have bitterness and hate in our hearts. The reason being is simple...it opens doors for other intities to enter. My advice, recognize that she is only human, and that we all make mistakes. Just remember though...God says to forgive those who tresspass against us...not that we need to continue relationships w/ them. Good luck to you!
682511
If she took it that seriously you can really tell that it hurt her most because she was already feeling like a nobody.The truth is what hurts people the most. The best perspective here is to think that she's not talking to you because she needs you to suffer a little so you can see that you made a big mistake; if this is the case then it's temporary and she will get back with you. I don't think you should face this,for now, as the end of the relationship,if she loves you,she will forgive you. I think you have done all the right things,as you said, asking for forgiveness and owning up to the mistake.
321817
Of course you should believe in it but it will be painful to do it after you have been hurt. So right now you should just focus on getting yourself together and getting over the hurt and pain of whatever happened and dont try to look for anything right now... Cuz it wont do anything but make it worst!
393387
well its up to you, if you can live with what you have learned about her and if you remain attracted to her. If you feel that it bothers you and the relationship then its better to let her  go. Bear in mind not to judge her for what she did, ask her why. there are two side's of a story, be sure to know both.
460374
I think that you should believe her and give her a second chance. \n\nBut I would just kinda play it cool until you know weather or not she is lying. If she keeps on acting better over the next couple months then she probably is clean.\n\nBut dont put your self in the situation where you can get hurt. Dont get you hopes high just to have them stomped on. If she is clean great, but if she is not then just dont let it get to you. Just keep going on with your own life.
830879
I suggest you talk to her about it. Decide whether it is something you two can work through together, if it isn't then seriously consider calling off the marriage. You shouldn't accept that from anyone you are worth someone who is faithful. But people also do make mistakes. The question is can you ever forgive her? and is she someone you want to marry?
60065
She will forgive you, for sure, just give her time. But if you dont love her, REALLY LOVE HER, do her a favor and leave her alone. Finding out about an infidelity is very painful, so dont put her through that misery again. After she is back are you willing to marry her??? What compromise are YOU willing to make??? If you dont know or dont want to have a serious relationship, please leave her alone!!!
542784
If you keep staying with her or taking her back after she cheats, do you really think she's going to stop?  Obviously, she didn't learn her lesson after the first time, if you caught her doing it again.  She thinks that you love her, and let her get away with it before, and because you love her, you'll keep forgiving her and taking her back.  Time heals, and you'll find someone who will treat you the way you should be treated.
1156925
Look im gonna be straight w/ u .... If u cheated on her apologize and go leave her alone. If you beg 4 forgivness u just mite get it, BUT she will NEVER trust u again. She may not say it she may cry ask why and take u back, but wait a few months things will slowly change she mite bite ur head off 4 something small, she may start calling u 20xs every two hrs. Follow u... its endless, but the worst part will b all this time u r thinking things r getting better, she is blowing up w/ resentment over the "mistake" i figured u called it and one day you will wake up and see a different person and you wont understand where all this hate/ mean/ bitchy snaps r coming from, cause u forgot about it and moved on, believe me she never did she just had time to get over the shock the heartbreak, the broken trust, and now she hates you for what u did but don't exactly know how to handle the situation. One day things will b fine the next she will just look at you eating and want to smash your face in. I am so not kidding on this, IF IT WASN"T CHEATING....Go with the whole truth a sincere apology, let her know you love her and only her, ask HER how she feels, listen to every word and tell her, if you mean it, u will do everything you can to make things right 4 her. Do not lie and just take responsibility for what you did, b4 some jackas* rats u out. If u feel shes the kinda girl that would want something, get her something she likes so she knows you really know her,  you listen and of course remember what she says. Good Luck