What can I say when a woman is trying to put the moves on my husband at a party? How would you handle it?
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Hopefully your husband wants your help and isn't putting out signals to attract this type of attention.  That's another whole problem altogether.\n\nBut what I would do if this is just some ordinary floozy putting the moves on your guy--and I've seen this done very well--is to go up to them and join the conversation with the attitude conveying complete confidence that you are welcome in the conversation.  HE will welcome you, right, even if she won't?  Maybe put your arm around your husband.  If he becomes standoffish, again, that's a problem; he needs to welcome you into the conversation.\n\nThen be sweet as pie to her.  Ask her about herself.  Take an interest.  Never betray that you are anything but completely assured of your wonderful relationship with your husband.  Ideally, bore her with prattle until she leaves on her own (getting her to excuse herself from you two is the best way, it's a much stronger position than walking away).  It doesn't matter if she's interested in you, believe me, in fact, use the fact that she isn't!  Then stay nearby your husband in case she comes back.  If you can't bore her to death, you and hubby will have to excuse yourself from her company and move on.  \n\nIf she gets too pushy or nasty to you personally, say something very pointed in a very nice tone (like "peddle your wares to someone who's interested, honey").  But never, NEVER get bitchy.  It's beneath you.
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I would find out what he is saying to her about her comments of you not being good enough for him.  Take his attention away from the computer during the times you know he is on it with her if you can.  Keep reminding him of why you guys got married in the first place.  There is such a thing as an "emotional relationship" and this will lead to other risk taking opportunities if you don't get a handle on this quick!  ONlY your husband is responsible for his actions not her...so don't be mad at her.  He has the choice to defend you and not let her take control of his own emotions in your relationship.  Good luck and remember you still love him.
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For real, I would call her up (right now) and ask her if she had time to talk, then I would say well (name) you know the other (day, week) when I was telling you all about my daughters open house reception that I was planning, you just blurted out that you weren't going to help me because some stuff about too many people in the kitchen, what was that about? (then let her answer; if she says 'what do you mean?' you reply 'Was that really why you didn't want to help') If she says she just didn't want to be a bother, then tell her that you really need her help and that your mother can't do it and that you would really appreciate her help.  If she comes up with some lame excuse that she's too busy or that she doesn't really like doing those things or something Corny like that then you politely say (with no type of animosity) well I didn't say that when your kids had their thing? I mean, is this really what you do to people who helped you in your time of need.  And if she acts funny at your daughters party pull her to the side and let her know you don't appreciate her childishness and never help her again
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Compromise, go for a little while, then leave.....That way you made an appearance for her, but didn't end up staying all night.\n\nAlso, just tell her the truth, that you also have other commitments/appearances to make at other parties you were invited to, and you don't want to be mean to anyone....If she's your friend, she should understand....GL;)
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BAD idea. Invite her. If you two do not get along, chances are she would not come anyway. If you don't invite JUST her, word WILL get around. If not before the party, then after. Someone will slip. It's not fair to other co-workers to ask them to keep quiet about the party. Invite her. Be cordial to her at the party if she shows up. Don't let her ruin your party by being miserable all day.
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Should have just invited her.\n\nBut since she's not invited, I'd just ignore her if I couldn't\n\ncomfort her.
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If this person is giving you a hard time dont let it bother you. Go there for you. The woman sounds like she is the one with the problem. All your trying to do is make your confirmation, right?
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just explain to him that u had a little too much to drink, and in ur point of view they were being quite rude to your husband!! apologize for overreacting and try to let it go.  \n\nat this point it doesn't really matter who's "fault" it is, because u both acted as u did at that time, under the influence of alcohol and a party atmosphere.  sometimes people get upset when someone kinda "ruins" the mood... =T.  try to loosen up a bit.. u could've complained to ur hubby (oh i can't believe those people, so rude!!) u didnt' have to cause a scene... u know? but u were defending him, so it's not like u intended to do anything wrong.  it's over and done, try to let it go, and promise to try to stay "Positive" and deal with things together instead of giving strangers a piece of ur mind for no important reason. good l uck
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We meet again, Joshua... All pettiness aside..\n\nHonestly, in the early days, my husband and I had similar problems. He would be upset about something and try to talk about it with me, and I would take offense. Women tend to try to be "perfect" at everything while men have more of a laid back kind of attitude.\n\nStart out by telling her something she does right. For example, if the problem you are having has to do with her spending too much money on clothes, say "Honey- you look great in those jeans and I really really love your sense of style, but I want to start putting more money back into savings so you and I can have something to fall back on. You look great in the clothes you already have, and if you'll cut back on your spending, I'll be more helpful around the house."\n\nYou have to meet us women halfway, and compromise is always a good deal.\n\nBest of Luck!\n\n~*~*Added*~*~\n\nA-HA! Family problems.. always a sticky situation. If she says something mean about a family member, for example, your brother- say, "I know he gets on your nerves, and I understand where you're coming from. You have to understand, though, that he's been a part of my life since I was a baby and I love him and it hurts me when you're mean about him. If you have a problem with him, that's fine- tell me what the problem is and I'll talk to him about it, but you don't need to be mean." and then make sure you talk to him so that the problem doesn't come up again.
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"I would marry her as soon as she tuned down the attitude"\n\nDude, the woman is pregnant and not yet married, there is no turning down the attitude.  When did the attitude start? How long have you been engaged? \nIn any case, just try to be understanding.  Offer her help with things around the house, stay out of her way, but be there to help if asked.  Other than that, set a date for the wedding.
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Dear...you might!\nOn my Bachelorrete Party, my in-laws surprise me to a show called, "Thunder From Down Under." The room was full of women of all ages, actually. \n\nEnjoy and have fun.....
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Boy, this is such dangerous grounds.  You want your husband to know what a slimeball his friend is for making passes at you, but you don't want to start a fight between the two of them or get in between them.\n\nI would wait it off for a while.  Try to make a huge point to your husband's friend that you are *not* interested.  Be rude right back to him if you have to.  If that doesn't work, then you will probably have no choice but to tell your husband to get the issue resolved and get his friend to back off.
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My wife says the same thing sometimes. How do I handle it? I take her to a nice club and get her a little tipsy then I take  her home and wake the  neighbors. This works everytime. ( Understand what I  mean by waking the neighbors?)
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A classy lady never stabs her friends in the back. \n She sticks to the man she's with and if it's over she tells him,\nshe doesn't  screw around first, then tell him.  However, if she catches him messing around--forget the classy stuff--go for the jugular (kidding!). But??????????\nShe doesn't repeat vicious gossip.\nShe doesn't get fried, she passes up some of those shooters, lady. Nothing is a bigger turnoff than throwing up on people.  However, if it's your BGF, be classy, clean her up, watch out for her and get her home! Even classier if you do it for a casual friend!\n\nIf your man breaks up with you, hold in hysteria, the tears, the overwhelming urge to knee him right in his tidy whites. Stay as cool as you can, accept it; then as soon as he's gone, yell, scream, break dishes, kick the cat!\n\nStick up for the underdog, don't trash mouth your family and all your class will really shine through.\nreal class isn't about clothes, jewels, cars or super etiquette, It' about being gracious, putting   people at ease and not speaking down to them.  Money has nothing to do with it.
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I had a similar situation with a brother-in-law.  To save the family embarressment I told my husband and since then he never leaves me in the room alone with him.  Ignore the advances or if they get too bad, just say no.
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"Hey.  I know you're about to move but I've had my eye on you and I wanted to know if you would like to get together after work for some drinks and maybe dinner?"  I would love for a woman to be that straight forward with me instead of beating around the bush with stupid signals like staring and laughing.  That stuff is garbage, ladies.  Men want you to say what's on your mind.
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the only thing one can say at this point is that she was enjoying his company. she felt at ease and had a good time - remember, this is common behavior at a party. you both went seperate ways on the party, so what's the deal that she was talking to a stranger?\n\nyou confronted her once and she said it's forgotten - so should you.\nwhat do you expect her to do?\n\ndon't bring up that issue again. it will do you no good.