Have ever been abused physically or sexually?
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Yes, sexually/physically. It started when I was three - by two cousins and an uncle, it went on for thirteen years. I did as much as I could to escape it, even running away - constantly. Recently, I went to the police (for a second time) However, the punishment given didn't fit the crime, and the cousin who abused me most, only got 5 years. I think people now a days are too scared to go to the police or report anything, because victims don't get enough support. Abusers get a couple years in prison - victims and survivors - they get a lifetime of never ending pain. I wouldn't wish the feelings they caused me to have on anyone, not even my worst enemy. \nIf you are in a situation where you're being hurt, please get as much help as you can...to physically get you out of the situation, and to help you with your emotions too.
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i have never .. \nand my ex husband wasnt anything like you just described !!\npoor fella . i hope you find a good one next time
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All the strippers you talk to tell you such personal information? Right.\n\nI'm a stripper and I have never been sexually abused. 38% of women in the United States have experienced some form of sexual abuse before age 18. I doubt that entire 38% is swinging on a pole somewhere.
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It may have been a completely unrelated incident. Have you experienced it more than once? If, not it probably had nothing to do with the sex. It was just a coincidence.
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In the case of both my partner and I, I would have to say we were probably swayed that direction from abuse.  I can still consider myself bi, but she is strictly lesbian---she often says keep that smelly, pointed thing away from me.  And as offspring in a house where my mother has been a foster parent for many years, I have seen many kids come with sexual abuse.  Many females become either asexual/nonsexual while others become whores.  Males become \nhomosexual in MANY cases---or predators.  These I've seen way too often, recently, scarily eerie.  Sad but true.
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Has this actually happened to you?
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Its possible that you are not even aware of something that might have happened earlier in your life- I hate to suggest it, but maybe you were sexually abused in your early childhood (about 1 in every 4 girls are sexually abused in the US) (see the first reference link)  I know it sounds outrageous because that is such a high number, but as I've learned in obtaining my own degree in psychology, it is unfortunately true.\n\nUnfortunately, the symptoms you have described align quite well with the symptoms of sexual abuse (or PTSD associated with it) look at the second two "sources" below for more info on that\n\nI think its important that you seek help from a therapist- if you are under your parents insurance and are uncomfortable mentioning to them that you want to see a counselor, then seek out help in a different way- consider going to a school counselor (if you are in school) or find a clinic in your area- there are also hotlines you can find to talk to someone\n\nI appologize if I am way off base here- however in my experience, your "symptoms" do put up a red flag, as they would to almost any good psychologist.
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No that has never happened to me.\n\nWhat do you mean by "I would also like to hear from those who may have done this to someone else."\n\nDid you not do it all to yourself?
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I was in an abusive relationship for 4 years, during my teens. Throughout the relationship, I was physically tortured (not just beaten, by any means), sexually abused and raped on a regular basis, and forced to watch atrocious acts toward animals. When I finally got out, I immediately started smoking pot very heavily, and I assumed I was pretty much fine, except that I had clinical depression. A couple years later, I got pregnant and abruptly stopped smoking pot (and cigarettes, alchohol, caffeine and antidepressants). Suddenly Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder set in. All of these seemingly unrelated (to the abuse) sounds and sights began to bring on strong physical flashbacks of what it felt like to be sexually violated. 7 years later I am still fighting this every day. I have been to therapists, psychiatrists, counsellors and doctors and, although they have been able to help me with my other issues (depression, anxiety, self-esteem isues, etc.) they haven't offered any effective treatment for the Post Traumatic Stress. About 7 or 8 minths ago, I tried Reiki, and it has been the only thing to give me ANY releif from my PTSD symptoms. It's a lot better, but still there, and it REALLY sucks because when I get triggered, it actually feels like I am being touched "down there" against my will. Of course there is a lot of tension, anxiety, depression and anger as a result of reliving (and desperately trying to AVOID reliving) the physical sensations of being raped each day. I have never been able to work, because of this, but I've been told I do an excellent job of raising my daughter, who is almost 7. Though I may not have many conventional accomplishments under my belt, I feel like just having survived this, and also overcoming my addictions are HUGE accomplishments, and I don't know if many other people could have made it through what I have, and still have a positive attitude, and hope for the future. So, I'm proud of me!
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Hello there,well i did have to stop to this question my dera!A question that i myself use to ask myself awhile ago,but for a long time now resolved!Now I really get the feeling that this questions also is asking for help and desperate mesures!Now i Do Not Know your Case..But I can Feel it!My Name is Smaara,I am from Canada a,Quebec,I am also Glad To answer this for You..But I am Also Offering You My Help!Now your Question Is Why Do Woman Always Get abused?-Well I have To say That in My entire life abuse was part of it..since i was 2 years old,You see i do not know you,and i know that you are living things that you do not deserve at all!In a Womans Life..She Who Has been Living With abuse,either Physical Or Phsycological is even if she doesnt want it seems to be attracted to it...If You had Abused since a very young age..when you reach teenager..you have the bad gift of usiing this vicious circle..that even without knowing!I Had a Really Rough Life Of Abuse...Believe me You Need To Get Out Of IT!Stop Now and Think About It...What Has Your Life Has Been Breing You With all The abuse You have Been Experiencing!I Lived it But Also Studied It and If You Do Not Btreak Up This Circle That Is around You,Following your Eveysteps Of Your Everyday Life Well...No Maen To Scare You But some Dont Make It OUt!Lots Of Woman Will Use The Help Hotline Our Abuse line..That is Not Your Way Out,And That My Dear Is What I Know,You need TO Get Out..Not Tomorrow,Not In a WEek,But asap.....Men Love To Abuse Woman Because Thery Feel It Gives Them Power,Yes Power Over You..He has a Nee To Feel that He Controls Youre Every Move And As Far As I KNow...I think That You Do Not Need That..Especially With The Life YOu Had!Mister Feels SO Important...But Let Me Tellk YOu,,Mister si Nothing But A Looser!Break it now while its Not To Late..You Need Help..I am There For You Even If You Do Not Know me.Read Below Plesae.
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I never assume abuse , but I dont want to give someone the wrong advice and send them into a bad situation, especially if there are children involved\n\nI think abuse can be physical or emotional and either sided , the girl can be the abuser, \n\nhitting, pushing, slapping, touching in anger\nname calling , putting down all the time, hurting ones feelings on purpose, trying to control the other person. telling them where they can go , who they can be friends with. there are so many kinds of abuse
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If it's ongoing, absolutely.\nIf it happens more than once......ZERO response along with one cold, glassy, look. \nThat person is a pig.\nIf it's in the workplace, go immediately to your Human Resources Manager.  Not to some employee in there.  You go immediately to the Head Honcho. Bang on the door if you have to.\nI'm a "Take No Prisoners" sort.  You are being abused and it's unacceptable.\nDon't let anyone tell you differently.\nNot one person in this world deserves being abused in any way, shape or form.\nYou take care of yourself and good luck.
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Yes I have been in many fights but I have only lost 2. One was my best friend. I walked up to him and was going to kick him in the a$$ when he turned around and I ended up sacking him. At the end of the day I took the beating that I deserved.\nThe other one was my older sister. I was being cheeky and disrespectful then I slapped her. She laid a licken on me like you wouldn't believe. ( Never disrespect you older sister in front of her friends...)
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made a guy cry from doing it when we were small kids - but think he just cried coz I hit him at all, didn't really matter where it was.\nLater in life, had a bad Bast$rd of a boyfriend who used me as a punching bag - returned the favour one day and booted him in the bollocks as if my life depended on it - he puked!!!
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Both are bad situations.  If I had to, I would say Mental abuse is a little worse.  Physical abuse can leave "physical evidence" that abuse is actually taking place. For example, If you see a child with an unusual amount of visable scars, you may take action to help that child.  But if somebody is being abused Mentally, There are still scars, but they are on the "inside"... The average passer-by usually never notices the victoms of mental abuse, thus The abused person is forced to deal with the situation "on their own"  I truely hope this was a hypothetical question, and you are not the victom of any type of abuse.  If you are in a bad situation... Seek help!  The longer people wait to report things like this, the worse they can get.  Oh, by the way, thanks for your answer reguarding a question I asked about depression.  You seem like a wise, and compassionate person.... God Bless.
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no never faced it but did make a move. it was 3 years back when i woeked with my dad for a while.. it was with his secretary.. i was successful though..we never got chance to have sex but i did touch her at those sensitive spots.. even saw her naked once..we planned sex one day but rain spoilr our day she could not make it to my house becasue of heavy rains.. after that i went out ot town for studies and before i came back for my vacations she quit the job as she had got maried
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Tell someone! Your being abused!!