how do i know  if my frined is gay or bi.?
921876
I'm sorry, I normally don't like to generalize.  But here are a few clues to see if your friend is gay.\n\nBefore I get backlash for this, I grew up in West Hollywood, I have many gay friends, I worked for a gay caterer when I was a senior in high school, so I asked a lot of questions.\n\nFor males:\nYou don't know anything about his dating life/patterns.\nHe may refer to his b/f as his lover/spouse/significant other, etc.\nVery secretive about where he goes out on w/e\nPopular with women\nVery high sense of fashion for men and women\nLoves shoe shopping (LOL)\nEffeminate behavior (not always)\nUncomfortable when talking about having sex with women.\n\n\nFor females:\nFor the masculine type of gay women, it's somewhat easy.\nShe lifts weights hardcore (like a bodybuilder), short, crew cut style hair.\n\nFor the females that play the female role in a lesbian relationship, I don't know.
609498
The fact that you are asking indicates that you are considering it, if you weren't you would have told him no flatly right out.  He must detect that you have tendencies because I doubt he would bring it up otherwise.\n\nYou have to ask yourself some tough questions, are you gay, bi-curious, you need to search your soul for some answers.\n\nIf you are, you need to acknowldge it and accept it, there is nothing wrong with it.  \n\nIf you are straight and want no part of it, you need to make that known to him right away, if he's your friend he would understand, if not then you need to re-evaluate your relationship with him.\n\nGood luck.
542911
How to tell if you're gay: \n1. If you are over 30 and you have a washboard stomach, you are gay. It means you haven't sucked back enough beer with the boys and rather you've been sucking-off the boys and have spent the rest of your free time doing sit-ups, aerobics, and doing the Oprah diet.  \n\n \n\n2. If you have a cat, you are a Flaaaayming gay. A cat is like a dog, but gay: it grooms itself constantly but never scratches itself, has a delicate touch except when it uses its nails, and whines to be fed. And just think about how you call a dog..."Killer, come here! I said get your butt over here!" Now think about how you call a cat... "Bun-bun, come to daddy, snookums!" Jeeezus, you're fit to be framed, you're so gay.  \n\n \n\n3. If you suck on lolipops, Ring-Pops, baby-pacifiers, or any such nonsense, rest assured, you are a Gaylord. A straight man only sucks bar-b-q ribs, crab-claws, raw oysters, craw-fish guts, pickled pigs feet, or titties. Anything else and you are in training to suck El Dicko and undeniably gay.  \n\n \n\n4. If you refuse to take a dump in a public bathroom or piss in a parking lot, you're in a deep homosexual relationship. A man's world is his bathroom, he defecates and urinates where he pleases.\n \n\n5. If you drink decaf coffee with skim milk, you like a high hard one in the poop-chute. Coffe is to be had strong, black (or with thick, wholesome milk) and full-aroma. A vagina-eating man will never be heard ordering a "Decaf Cafe Latte with Skim" and he will never, ever know what artificial sweetner tastes like. If you've had Nutrasweet in your mouth, you've had a dick there too.  \n\n \n\n6. If you know more than six names of colors or four different types of dessert, you might as well be handing out free passes to your bung. A real man doesn't have memory space in his brain to remember all of that crap as well as all the names of all the players in the Major league, NFL, NBA, college ball, PGA, and Nascar. If you can pick out chartreusse or you know what a "fresier" is you're gay. And if you can name ANY type of textile other than denim, you are faggadocious!  \n\n \n\n7. If you drive with both hands on the wheel, forget it...you hungry for meat-popsicle. A man only puts both hands on the wheel to honk at a slow driver or to cut the dude off. The rest of the time he needs that hand to change the radio station, eat his hamburger, hold his beer, finger the bi-atch in the passenger seat (whoever she happens to be), or, if he's Latino, talk on his cell-phone.  \n\n \n\n8. If you enjoy romantic comedies or French films, mon-frere, vous sonnez le Gay, oui? The only time it is acceptable to watch one of those is with a woman who knows how to reward her man. Watching any of the above films by yourself or with another man is likely to result in SHC (spontaneous homosexual combustion), which is what happens to fags when they flame out too quickly.
374545
It doesn't matter if they are male or female, gay or straight...if they are good friends and have been since before he met you, people most often would choose friends over "lovers" if given the ultimatum. After all, who knows them better and who has been there for them. If she is gay then you shoudl have nothing to worry about.
847428
You don't.  If he is straight that means he is most likely not interested nd if you tell him you may just make him angry.  And they you, assuming you are friends, run the risk of losing his friendship.
104305
he is straight as u r. (I HOPE YOUR STRAIGHT)
532072
You might feel like you're on a date, but that's just because you're straight.  He doesn't feel that way at all.  I had this one friend and I didn't think that I was leading her on or whatever and she KNEW I was gay, but she said that it was unfair of me to play with her like that and act like I was into her.  I wasn't GIVING her signals or anything though.  If he really wants you, let him come to you, you don't wanna lose a friendship just because you think you could convert him.  Things would just be WEIRD between the two of you.
325475
r u a dude? is your friend a dude? just see if he does gay things like iggle or compliment a girls outfit and if he gets this offer from a very hot grl and doesnt accept it then man he must be gay. Most of the time ppl just find out on thier own.
171314
In this situation you should probably try spending some quality time with the person sooner or later it will become totally clear of their sexuality and you never know if they are they may come out and ask you first, either that or talk to a mutual friend if there is one available, and try to get the dish on what they are into, basically the same thing you would do if you were straight, nothing really has to be different. The worst that could happen is that he says no but it is best to be true to yourself :-))!!!
51615
PLEASE! For the sake of embarrassment, DON'T ASK HIM!! If he's still in the closet, he'll only get angry, and you'll lose any chance of ever finding out. Instead of asking him, just put yourself out there if you are comfortable with your bisexuality. Do you have any close friends at work who may be friends with him also? They may be able to find out in some mysterious way. My best friend is a gay male, and he just recently came out over the summer of 2005. He's going through the same thing right now. It's tough, but hang in there. You just need to build your confidence, and the rest will come! Best of luck!
364730
Well firstly is your friend bi or gay? Does she know how you feel about her?\n\nContact me if you want to talk  - epsonc760@hotmail.co.uk
1014542
I understand your problem, my best friend is completly straight and I am bi, when i say he is straight he is. But like you I have  a crush on him and still do,we have and still do go place with each other but I try not to let my self get to close to him. Just be there for her when she needs you but don't cross the line again unless she cross first.
761016
If you flat out ask him, it could be awkward for both of you. Maybe you should be a little bit stronger in your hints and say something along the lines that, even though you are straight, you wouldn't mind having a gay friend and ask him if he has ever known anyone who is gay. Most gay people have the feeling that it is killing them inside before they come out, so even if he doesn't open up to you right away remain a close friend. If he is gay, your friendship will mean a lot to him.
253304
That seems normal. Be happy you have a good friend who can be so honest with you, he knows he's not going to ever have a chance with your bf - who is obviously straight. That is why he told you - he is good friends with you and is comfortable telling you anything.
456843
hmmm...personally, i'd guess that he's not gay.  I'd say that he's either bisexual, or he's playing that angle to get you to be more relaxed, more comfortable around him, so the transition to a relationship would be easier and less awkward.  It might not work, but that would be my conclusion regarding the whole sitch.
443412
i had the same thing with my bezzie a few years ago, and for some reason out of our little gang he felt he couldn't tell me...he told everyone else.  don't ask him, just be a friend and make him feel comfortable in himself be open so he feels he can talk to u about it if he needs it.  He didn't tell me coz he thought i'd hate him and dissaprove!\n\nI love him, he's a mate!\n\nIt doesn't really matter whether he's straight or gay aslong as he's in your life!\n\ngive him time  \n\nxxx
520232
How to tell if you're gay: \n1. If you are over 30 and you have a washboard stomach, you are gay. It means you haven't sucked back enough beer with the boys and rather you've been sucking-off the boys and have spent the rest of your free time doing sit-ups, aerobics, and doing the Oprah diet. \n\n\n\n2. If you have a cat, you are a Flaaaayming gay. A cat is like a dog, but gay: it grooms itself constantly but never scratches itself, has a delicate touch except when it uses its nails, and whines to be fed. And just think about how you call a dog..."Killer, come here! I said get your butt over here!" Now think about how you call a cat... "Bun-bun, come to daddy, snookums!" Jeeezus, you're fit to be framed, you're so gay. \n\n\n\n3. If you suck on lolipops, Ring-Pops, baby-pacifiers, or any such nonsense, rest assured, you are a Gaylord. A straight man only sucks bar-b-q ribs, crab-claws, raw oysters, craw-fish guts, pickled pigs feet, or titties. Anything else and you are in training to suck El Dicko and undeniably gay. \n\n\n\n4. If you refuse to take a dump in a public bathroom or piss in a parking lot, you're in a deep homosexual relationship. A man's world is his bathroom, he defecates and urinates where he pleases.\n\n\n5. If you drink decaf coffee with skim milk, you like a high hard one in the poop-chute. Coffee is to be had strong, black (or with thick, wholesome milk) and full-aroma. A vagina-eating man will never be heard ordering a "Decaf Cafe Latte with Skim" and he will never, ever know what artificial sweetner tastes like. If you've had Nutrasweet in your mouth, you've had a dick there too. \n\n\n\n6. If you know more than six names of colors or four different types of dessert, you might as well be handing out free passes to your bung. A real man doesn't have memory space in his brain to remember all of that crap as well as all the names of all the players in the Major league, NFL, NBA, college ball, PGA, and Nascar. If you can pick out chartreusse or you know what a "fresier" is you're gay. And if you can name ANY type of textile other than denim, you are faggadocious! \n\n\n\n7. If you drive with both hands on the wheel, forget it...you hungry for meat-popsicle. A man only puts both hands on the wheel to honk at a slow driver or to cut the dude off. The rest of the time he needs that hand to change the radio station, eat his hamburger, hold his beer, finger the bi-atch in the passenger seat (whoever she happens to be), or, if he's Latino, talk on his cell-phone. \n\n\n\n8. If you enjoy romantic comedies or French films, mon-frere, vous sonnez le Gay, oui? The only time it is acceptable to watch one of those is with a woman who knows how to reward her man. Watching any of the above films by yourself or with another man is likely to result in SHC (spontaneous homosexual combustion), which is what happens to fags when they flame out too quickly.