Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult??
923394
Adults just have too much on their minds like kids, bills, and work.Their busy and dont worry about making new friends nomore since there lifes are already settled.*
381763
You might be afriad of opening up to people becuase of hurt in your past. Friends really are the best thing life, treat them that way and you will be fine. Don't let your fear of opening up ruin that for you. Good luck.
122800
Sometimes you can not be their friend. They probably will not like you many times, if you are being a parent. They will thank you later, though. Kids need structure. Kids can make friends. They need parents.
389692
Most people find it hard to make friends when they're trying to appear to be someone other than themselves.  The true part of you, the part that makes you different from everyone else, is the part that can be loved.  If you're hiding that part out of fear, then no one can get to know you.\n\n\nAs hard as it sounds, you've got to learn to relax.  You can do this by finding things that YOU like to do, and join a club or take a class in it, or go where people gather to do that.  Then you will meet people who share your interests; and you will also have something to talk about besides the weather. When you start having fun, people will be attracted to you naturally.
1016045
I totally aggree with you on this one...people don't take the time to be friendly anymore and just get to know who lives around them...it's so sad, it goes hand in hand with the loss of "quality" family time, nobody partakes of that anymore either....when I grew up, we were ALWAYS outside and we knew all of our neighbors, we sat out on the front porch at night (another lost art) and neighbors walked up and down the streets....Now I live in a subdivsion and people hardly even wave hello when passing you on the street.....no-one EVER sits outside with their families catching up....If we could become a little more "aware" of our surroundings and the people that we are surrounded by then maybe, just maybe, we could catch something early on!!
955241
If you are a good person and areal friend dont worry about anything you cant be friends with everyone. The saying is true the older you get the less friends you have because you cant have time for everyone also you can not have things in common with everyone. I am 32 now and I remember your age it was so hard you feel depresessed alot. Think about the good things about your self the things you like and focus on those things and be confident. Good Luck
470328
Why is it that you find yourself with short term friendships or lacking friends?  Sometimes we fail to re-evaluate ourselves to make sure that we are not the ones running all of our friends away.  Real friends are placed in your life you can't just go looking for them.  If so you may end up with people just in your life to bring you down.  I have met my bestest friends through grade school and college, at work, and even friends of the family.  These people are faithful to me because I am the same to them.  Maybe you need to be just a little more outgoing.  Start up a conversation every once in a while with someone you don't know, you never know how much you all could have in common and who knows you may find that longlasting friendship you were looking for.
717960
That's so funny, because I was thinking of the same question earlier this morning while on my way to work.  I used to have plenty of friends while in high school, but now with one 2 year old girl and attending college and work, it seems hard. This morning, the reason why I believe that I do not have much friends, is because I am a leader not a follower, at least most of the times. And I think that most people do not want to be friends with people who are doing better than them at work, or education wise. And of course, people like other people who like to get wasted and smoke. Well I hope I kinda answer sortoff your question.
726957
You need a freindly colleague who cares for you always. In childhood there was your mother to look after everything about you. Now when you are adult your life partner(wife) takes her place to look after you. This is vice versa to your would be. Its an essential relationship without which however many freinds you have with you, you will miss her/him.
947148
One reason it is hard is because there is often a biological factor too it, similar to depression.  a therapist once had me go to the mall and just walk around and make eye contact and say hello to EVERYONE I walked past.  i thought they'd think I was nuts, and some probably did... but people smiled and said hello... sometimes i could have sworn that it made their day.  But the thing I learned is... I didnt have heart attack and die!  even when I was ignored, or someone told me off, I lived.
1116001
I disagree that women are brutal with each other.  I mean that can be, but I have just moved to a new state and joined a Mother's Club to make friends in California, and the women could not be nicer.  Now maybe it is the Mommy connection, but it seems to me to be proof that it doesn't have to be that way.\n\nI will suggest something that a girlfriend said recently.  Even in this welcoming club of women it seems that when in new social situations people (specifically women) are kind of thrown back to their school days experience - we are suddenly back in 8th grade, and nervous with new people (particularly if we had difficulty making friends as kids).  \n\nIt is hard for folks to get past that kind of thing.  I mean at work you are not friendly with people - in fact you often don't want to reveal too much about your personal life to those people.  We just don't get proper training on how to make friends - I don't think it is a personal trust issue, but more a general personal insecurity issue.\n\nPeace!\n\nPS - I have to say your picture is gorgeous.  If that is you, maybe other women are intimidated by you.  It could be...
734196
im 23 and i have a son in 1st grade. im in college, work, and me and my son live on our own. i get lonely. i have almost no friends because im so picky about who i share my personal info and feelings with and who my son is around and the people that i associate with. but when ever i think about being in a relationship i look at the entire picture and i see myself alone with another child and debt or something like my husband cheating or just negative stuff, i call that my birth control since im not doing anything.\n\nim stopping there before i fill up the entire page and i would like to say i would really enjoy being yahoo buddies and chatting about all types of things, because i know those lonely feelings.
989854
Join some young professional clubs like the Junior Chamber of Commerce.  Try http://www.friendfinder.com I'll be your friend.  I'm looking to make about 50 new friends this year so we can all get together and party year around and go places.  Sounds like fun, give me a holler.\nScott
212667
It is possible but it might be harder because when you have a child, everything changes, your lifestyles and your thoughts about everything. Therefore, you might act different towards your friends. That's life. No relationship can remain the same forever. You can be friends forever, but you will feel different about each other. Personality changes as you get older, whether you are an adult or a child. If you want to remain friendship and is scared of losing your friends after you have a baby, try to invite you friends over to visit and keep the chains of communication open towards each other like before. You might not have too much time to go out with them like before, but all of you can still keep the good friendship.
296966
I asked the same question a few years ago, because I was in the same boat. Everyone I met seemed to be in the friendship for some kind of personal gain, and if they didn't get what they wanted/needed from me - they split. I was beginning to feel really disillusioned, and had to come to realize that adult friendships are a lot different from kid friendships, when you're surrounded by people that like you and you and support you through the good and bad times.\n\nHowever, don't lose hope. When I had finally given up, we moved to a new neighborhood where the people were different. At first, I was really resistant to getting to know anyone because I expected them to be like everyone else, but it turns out that there are actually some genuine people still left out there....they are just a lot harder to find.\n\nThe innocence of childhood is gone - and even the people who are nasty to us now are probably just as jaded as us from bad experiences, and thus the world gets more and more hateful. But there is truth and love to be found - even if they are like the proverbial needle in the haystack.\n\nDon't give up hope - you'll find people that will be true friends. It may not happen soon, but it will happen. In the meantime, make sure you keep your heart open so that you will be receptive to them when you do finally meet them.\n\nBest of luck to you!
325422
When I was 18 years old I worked in a deli with a man in his 70s. He told me the friends I have now from high school will be the only true, real, close friends you'll have for the rest of your life. Bring some of your old friends over, so you'll be more comfortable in making new friends.
821983
I guess it is you the one that can help you out. \nI have the same "problem" but I don't see it as a problem. Better off alone than in bad company.\nDon't you know girls at job? at the bar? where you go? Try to start a nice chat.\nI am a loner so for me is difficult to start a conversation with someone I don't know, but if I wouldn't like the way my life was going I would try to do those things, and try to be more social. I guess.