more ex boyfriend problems :[[ more help .. please?
928525
If you really want to avoid him you can, and if you really want to you will... i think what everyone ment by avoiding him is "pretend he's not there" ignore him... treat him like he treat you... don't even think about him... u r young so maybe i shouldn't be telling you this, but maybe if you get another "boyfriend" you can make him jelous, or not even jelous but show him you don't give a s*** about him!!!  Hope i helped!!\n\n~CHEERS!!~
704843
If he is a ex boyfriend, why worry about it?  Why worry if its going to be a trust issue with a relationship that is over.  And why argue about it?
254168
Assess your emotions first, who do you love more? Who treats you better? Do you really think your ex still loves you or does he just want someone to help him with his baby? \n\nAnd before you do anything with your ex, talk with your current boyfriend.\n\nDon't just follow your heart, use your head as well.
978456
you are flipping nuts!  why delete his number!  Thats so final, you only talked about your ex.  He'll get over it.\n\nSay to him, did he use the ex thing as a reason to break up with you?  If he says no, then say well I think you've totally over-reacted let me prove to you that i'm over my ex.  And he'll say how, and you'll say by being with you.  Lets face it thats the only proof you can use.  Time.
876303
I know how you feel. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months because of ex. problems. However, you are married and don't let these two that apparently do not have a life of their own ruin this for you.\nThey are looking to create trouble, see what kind of reaction they can get and if you give it them, it will continue. The best thing is to totally ignore it. When someone approaches you with a rumor, tell them , that subject is no longer open for discussion. Don't feed into this B.S. Good luck
856248
Okay I no it is hard to do but you need to listen to me. I am going through the same thing so we can help each other... I just broke up with my girl and we where to be married in may,. Here is what you do it gets easy as the weeks go by. DO NOT TALK TO HIM AT ALL. no phone calls No text if he stops by do not answer the door let him know that he made a mistake but he gets to live with it the rest of his life you are the winner there are some many other guys that want to have someone that is honest loyal trusting and ready to really build a relationship. Your EX is trying to and is doing just what he wants CONTROL you and he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Do you want to share him with another women if you are saying No then move on he is a cheater . I have stop talking to mine and she is still trying and she wants to get married in may No talking. Let me know how this works for you I am here.....
1078240
Why is he an ex...think about it...and if he is an ex for a reason, do you want to go through all that again?
591213
He's your ex, none of your business.  Being friends after relationship is hard enuff without adding something like this to it.  Just stay out of it and let him learn on his own.
602548
Help you?? You need to remember theres a reason why hes your ex in the first place.
506537
It sounds like he has another girl. If he is your EX-Boyfriend, I wouldn't even waste my time with him. There are lots of other guys out there, who would treat you right. If you really can't live without him, then when you see him, ask him in all honesty what is going on. Tell him to be up front & honest with you, you deserve it. Long distance realtionships are very hard. But all in all I would dump him, & take a break from guys. The right one will come along, just give it time.
409062
Why are you messaging your ex boyfriend? I think you are creating drama for yourself. So wallow in it, you deserve it.
869839
it is difficult because you are making it difficult. you are still obsessing over the idea if you should trust him or not and you should not! he can do the talk but can he walk the walk? i dont think so from what it seems! he seems as though he is playing both you and his ex and he is telling you that he wants to be with you just because that is what you want to hear! if he actually would love you he would act on other better terms and not like a jerk who wants his cake and to eat it too! i have broken up with my bf and so has he with me but none of us have talked with our ex's or tried to play the other person since we are both with our ex's-we are 22 and almost 24! i would not accept this guy's behavior no matter how much you love him since he obviously is not mature enough for you, your needs, his actions or his behavior! he thinks that playing with people's minds is fun, therefore he does not know and i think that this guy at some point will surprise you by cheating on you! do not accept him and all his drama into your life but rather focus on what you have and how young you are as well as that time will not  not come a second time around as well as how you should take care of yourself first and be in a healthy relationship! this relationship from what i can make out of it is not the best relationship so you might want to rethink it and make yourself happy with someone who can take care of you and knows what he wants out of life as well as treating you better than this! if you go back with this guy you are headed for splitsville another couple of times as well as more tension, lack of trust and frustration building! i have given you the info from personal experiences and i hope that at least you consider some of them!
186709
WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
393780
Because he has still continued some form of relationship (you say they are friends) for your entire relationship, plus they have 9 months of intimacy that preceded your relationship?\n\nBecause he still hangs out with her?\n\nThat's legitimate, right?  Do you maintain friendship or go to public places with your ex-boyfriend?  Even if other people were around, would your boyfriend have a problem with that?  \n\nIf it bothers you and he doesn't hear your complaint, it's still going to bother you.  Even if he doesn't think it's a big deal.  Even if he can rationalize it.\n\nI highly recommend "Getting To Yes," by Roger Fisher.  It's not a love relationship book, but great for negotiation/communication.  It sounds like you need help convincing him that it's as big a deal as it is to you.  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0140157352/qid=1144087981/sr=2-1/ref=pd_bbs_b_2_1/103-4668860-3658249?s=books&v=glance&n=283155
28047
tell him that he is a jerk! going out with someone to make your ex jelous is so pathetic! Breakup with him and tell Brandi what he did.
549579
Been there, done that - not an iota of fun. The guy is basically stalking you. My suggestion is the following:\n\n1) File a report with the local police. Even though they may not do anything about it yet, at least it will be in their papers should your ex's abuse continue and/or escalate. \n\n2) Gather ALL evidence. Set up a new e-mail account, get a new phone-number - every measure necessary to restrain his options of being able to contact you. Nonetheless, keep the old phone-number - but let it go directly to the answering-machine. Save the messages - as they will prove your claim if you are forced to drag him to court and (or get a restraining order. Also save all e-mails he sends you for the same reason as above. If he sends you gifts, you shall keep them - whatever he gives you, keep it. This is all about gathering evidence.\n\n3) Tell people around you not to tlak with him due to his stalking. He will pursue alternative means of getting go you, and using your friends and family as a source of information is fully justified in his mind.\n\n4) NEVER EVER talk with/to him - regardless how tempting it may be. For a stalker, even a "F**k off" will be interpreted as a positive gesture. He will interpret "Leave me alone" as a "Oh, I want you to chase me" and so on. If you give in to the temptation once, he will know that it only takes more perservance on his side to get you to answer again and again and again.\nAlso, never tell him what you intend to do unless he leaves you alone. In the event that going to the police does not produce immediate results, your stalking ex will view your plans and intentions as nothing but empty threats.\n\n5) Tell your current boyfriend how much the ex is bothering you. Your ex is currently attempting to drive a wedge between you and your new BF as the ex cannot see you with another man. Any man for that matter except himself. He desires comlete control of your life in every and any aspect, and you do NOT want to subject yourself to that.\nAs for your current BF, if he is not willing to support and help you through this, then he is not worth keeping. Sorry for being so harsh sounding, but it is sadly true. If he loves and cares about you, then he will stay on your side - regardless.\n\n6) Find out if there are any support-groups for stalking-victims in your area - and you will find that you are not alone. The internet also provides different fora that are worth-while looking into - especially what the legal side is concerned.\n\nI broke up with the ex from hell 1 1/2 years ago, and he is still stalking me, thankfully not to the same extent as previously, but I receive e-mails (I changed phone-numbers and got a new e-mail address) from him once or twice a month, and it is still bloody annoying and scaring.\n\nGood luck, this will take time and toil - but know that you are not alone in this hellish situation. I feel for you.
908769
It sounds like he's very hurt by not only the break up, but by your harsh actions of how you treated him after the relationship ended. He's seen you in a new light that was not good and now in turmoil over whether or not to get back with you. Best thing to do now would be to back off to give him time and space to figure things out. By you constantly calling and asking him what's he going to do is probably just making matters worse. Let him have his time to think about things and so he can make his decision.