what was it like being a newlywed for you?
914925
Financial wasn't a big deal really.  We don't fight about that.  What we fight about is that he is a total slob and I'm constantly picking up his shi* off the floor.....it makes me absolutely crazy.  He stinks up the bathroom.....he releases gas from every orifice....ugh!  it's just gross!  Had I known he would get "that" comfortable, I probably would have reconsidered everything.
417442
I met my hubby at a Christian youth group reunion!  There were hundreds of people there, and I had never met him. \n\nHe had everything I've ever dreamed of in a guy, a heart for God, musical abilities (he's a composer and song writer, and keyboard player)\n We've known each other for over 27 years, and have been married happily for 20.  :-)
497196
For me, no.  My husband was very quick to kiss me and become very serious.  I had just broken up with my previous boyfriend who I had dated for over 3 years, so I was in no mood to move quickly.\n\nThankfully, I hung around to see what it would turn into, and now we're married and expecting.  You never know where that first kiss will lead... give it time.  (And if the first kiss was phenomenal, all the better!)\n\nGood Luck.
483880
Over a period of time, marriage is even more than I/we had expected! You see when you start out, it's the two of you and think this is it! How could life be any better than what I am feeling right now?How could love grow? Then you go through great times like births, going to other weddings, going places, adoptions, all of it, and then you go through really hard times,thoughts and feelings, why did we get married?What are we doing here?Is this what I/we wanted? People change over time, people are different. You want to learn and grow together along life's journey. You also go through deaths, kid's sickness,surgeries, is he/she cheating on you?All of it, and after years, not of abuse,never ever accept that, but you just realize how Blessed you are to have this full,married life with beautiful kids(the good and the hard there too!!)An awesome feeling to know that somebody in this world, is there for you, knows you and loves you anyways!!:) So after 20 years, can honestly say, it is more than I ever expected, it is awesome, but it is a journey,it is work, it is fun times, hard times, but you do it together and that love just grows beyond your wildest dreams!!!
329456
We had friends who got married for £50.\n\nA friend let them use his barn and everyone brought a dish for the meal.  And a group of us decorated the tables for them.  The church gave them the wedding free - so they just had to buy rings.\n\nAnd I have to say it was one of the best weddings Ihave ever been to - because everyone was involved in making it special.\n\nThe most important thing is to get married - don't get distracted by people who spend stacks of money on their weddings - it's the marriage that is more important - better to have your money for that.\n\nHope I've inspired you to think differently and not get sucked in by the crowd.
71112
i married when i was 17.\nfirst thing i thought of.
206740
I would try to make it a huge memorable experience, it only happens once (hopefully)  Also, long engagements are great and I would definitely find a pre-marriage counselor to help you through issues you two do not even know you have yet.  Congratulations and best wishes on your happiness in life.
1087200
Depends on how this new member is introduced and treats the child.....if this is a future spouse...there are alot of factors. Ask the children how they feel.\nGood luck:)
132463
I went to one of my cousins. She called it a committment ceromony. It was unlike any I'd ever been to. Partly because they were two women and yes, at first it was a bit strange, but also because it was not your every day same old same old....bride cuts the cake....throws the bouquet...blah, blah, blah. Too many "weddings" are exactly alike.\nThis happened to be the most fun wedding (whatever u wanna call it) I've ever attended. The whole thing was held outdoors and after the ceromony everyone changed into casual clothes, ate BBQ, went swimming, danced, played cards and drinikng games. It really was a blast. After attending, I told myself when I get married I was going to have the same kinda thing....except the only difference being..I'd be marrying a man.
701118
My husband was in a firefighter academy when we married. I had just finished my degree and was looking for work teaching preschool. We were planning to wait until he graduated and found work and that way we would have saved up some money. Our schedules were so crazy though, that we really missed time together. Ultimately, we decided that having a big fancy wedding and a nice expensive honeymoon was not what it was all about. We just wanted to be married. We had a beautiful small wedding with just close friends and family. Today is our 9 year anniversary and we are so happy. (Except that I am waiting for him to get out of traffic and get home!) Sometimes you have to weigh what is most important to you. We did not live together before we married either, and the best moment of every day was coming home to be together. Good luck to you!
864764
My first Real Kiss 21 and that's when me and my Beautifull wife where getting Married don't worry you will soon find someone that will Love you and cherish you for who you are!!!\n\nAge ain't nothing but a #
555329
Sweeite, it's alright.  What you feel is totally natural.  I have been with my guy for three years and I am the maid of honor for a woman who has been dating her guy for five months.  I have a complex about it, and she loves to rub it in.  \n\nSomething I have realized, though, through all this is that marriage, while being the ultimate committment is not required to have a totally fulfilling realtionship.  While I may not even be engaged, I know that we are meant to be and have a bond that my friend cannot even contemplate with her new beau.  \n\nNot being egnaged only means that you are mature enough to know that the marriages that last longer are the ones who wait two to five years.  You will not stumble into anything weird wwhen you get married.  You know everything about him.  Believe me, some of these new brides will find at least one thing that will surpirse them about their mate.  Getting married in the honeymoon phase of a realtiohsip, while looks good on paper, is not really the best way.  once that is over, what do you have left?  Only knowledge and understanding of the other will be the true test of time, and that can only come with time.  \n\nDon't sweat it.  You are the smarter one.  Know it, breathe it, live it!  You are one up on them, not the other way around!
1171958
I was married and now divorced. It was a horrible experience being in that situation.  The worst part was she was my best friend and we had a child together. If you're in that situation, I feel your pain but it wasn't any easy last three years. Much better place now! Now before anyone makes any rude comments, I wouldn't accept that I was gay and thought their was other issues. I didn't get married KNOWING i was gay. I should have known but I didn't.
1084634
Wow, congratulations.\nI suspect you are asking about "married life" and not about the run-up to the wedding next month.\nThe first week, you'll be in total shock, getting used to the idea of being married, laughing when someone calls you "Missus Whatever". The first month, you'll be honeymooning (literally, "honey month"), getting used to living together, having the occasional moment when you bump or miss or say something wrong. The rest of the first year (and for the rest of your life), you'll be fine-tuning those early efforts, trying to get to learn all about another person. And don't kid yourself, even superficially shallow people can take a lot of study.\nCongrats and remember, take it easy. You've got the rest of your life to get it right.
1051005
when you are married. duh.
1151680
Seriously I know how you are feeling, I was that way, and I waited and now we are getting married.  It isn't just the ring or the beautiful dress, Remember you will be with this person for the rest of your life and No turning back because you can't handle it. The rate for divorce is very high, So have patience, Alot of people don't know what they are going into. But TAKE IT EASY.
795035
at times difficult, but in the long run very worth everything you invest into it.\n\nI have been married for 10 years and loving it.