Question for guys - does just friends always mean just friends?
918961
In a perfect world people would actually say what they mean and leave all the games and BS behind.  In that world, just friend would really mean just friends.  To bad we don't live in that world.  In this one, just friends could mean anything form I love you, to just friends, to I hate you.  Good luck, my best advice is to find someone who can just say what they feel.
767407
"we should just be friends" means exactly that.  Most likely you guys knew each other before you started dating.  That means you guys know a lot of the same people and/or hang out at a lot of the same places.\n\nIf you guys remain friends after breaking up, nobody has to choose which one of you they would rather hang out with.  There are no awkward moments when you guys run into each other.  Its just easier to stay friends.\n\nIt just means you guys tried it together and it didn't work, it shouldn't force you two never to hang out together again.
564995
They can if the have no other feelings besides being friends. I have guy friends and we know each others limits you just have to be sure you want nothing other then to be friends
316848
no,as long as you are just being friends and nothing more
407420
I have had this happen. It is a disastrous feeling when you do all you can and the imposible to get to a person's heart and get the dissapointing mention of "just friends". Sometimes that friendship is lost sometimes it is made better. The final point is that people shouldn't do that and stop being so shallow. Everybody diserves a chance.
863369
I am a man who has been best friends with a guy but who also has has close and casual frienships with other men.  I can  honestly tell you that my life was so enriched by that brother-like friendship with my old pal since childhood that I cannot imagine how my life would have been without him.  I've been told that most men never experience this type of friendship, so I feel blessed.\n\nHaving said all of that, don't every underestimate the value of close (not best) and casual frienships.  These are the guys who really validate a man's masculinity.
269467
Some of us can. I have a girlfriend I am completely happy with. The ONLY interest I have in any other women is as a friend. As for those who can't, they're probably wondering why you can't just accept that they don't want to just be friends. If you just want to be friends, and a guy wants to be more than friends, don't bother with him. You have different ideas about where your relationship should be headed. Or if you do choose to spend time with a guy like that, make it very clear that you're only interested in being friends, that you're not comfortable with him trying to be anything more, and if he makes any advances on you, don't tolerate it.\n\nAdded:\nIf you don't hear from them after you've made it clear that you only want to be friends, the only interest they had in you was as more than a friend. They weren't willing to settle for less, and they have as much right to make that decision as you do to decide that you just want to be friends. Simple as that. What you wanted wasn't enough for them, what they wanted was too much for you. Best to go your separate ways.
580772
NO.  Guys dont want to be friends right way with someone that they shared a lot with.
466597
Personally I know w/in 30 seconds of meeting a guy if we'll ever be more than friends.  Usually w/in a week after that we're either seeing eachother or not.  Then it takes me around 3 months to start gettin comfy and our routines of seeing eachother down.  By 6 months I know if this is really something that's gonna last or not....and if I don't feel good about whatever I'll say something.  It either works out or we go our separate ways.  ......I think what you're asking though is does a woman know if just friends or more though right?  ....that's the first 30 seconds.....IF there's even a possibility anyway.
523725
In my experience, it has a been a really good thing. It was good because we were both honest, and up front about it. We established that our friendship was the most important thing, and that we didn't want to ruin it. (Of course, there was an exception) but for the most part, even if one of us started feeling a "crush" or something, we talked it through. The one thing that I have to be CLEAR on is that we BOTH were honest. That we could be close to each other, and there were limits, and you had to stay within those limits. I don't know if I am just weird, but I have had some very special friends, and it worked. Most have moved on, but if we saw each other again, (in face I called one just the other day and we had a fantastic conversation) I know we are still friends, and they know I am still their friend as well. I KNOW there are times when men use that as a line, and I KNOW there are women who say they can do that, but they think I can change the guys mind. The reason I know this is because my guy friends told me that women did this, so I don't know if I'm just bizarre, but in my own personal life, I've had some FANTASTIC friendships, and they were friends with benefits.\nI forgot to tell you that when it worked this way with me, 98% of the time, we were friends First!! =o)\nBTW I thought I invented that term LOL
575400
Never ever waste your time on ANYONE who just wants to be friends. The only time you hear this is when you're looking for more than just a friend. If you want a friend, hey thats cool make use of this situation. However, if you're looking for more than that, don't waste your time because you'll just sit there watching the person you desire hooking up with everyone except you!
1073019
i would think that if you have known each other for that long and you have had a platonic relationahip he may not show anything at all to indicate to you how he felt. he may just hide it for fear of ruining the friendship. sometimes guys are really passive
216079
Do men always assume that you want more than friendship?\n\nIn both questions: NO.
63769
I'm a guy and I don't stay "friends" with my exes.  As Sam Kinnison put it "Oh, friends, like some kind of emotional tampon, only without the sex".\nNot trying to be crude, ladies.  I'll be pleasant if I see them on the street, but I won't ask them for coffee so we can "catch up" on each other's lives.
1093771
ATTRACTION.  The guys you know as friends are friends because they didn't make you "feel" attraction for them.  You may love them but it will never fill you with the excitement an unpredictable man does.\nI bet if you called any of these guys and asked them to come over they would drop everything and be by your side.  Try it!\nIs that what you want?  Just because a guy isn't "totally sweet" doesn't mean he is a mean hurtful jerk.\nWomen love a challenge as we men do.
855952
Could it be that your guy friends may like you more than a friend?
1167865
many times. I have many on line friends and in ways each of them fulfill something i need. it is great to have friends each one means something great. friendship is a wonderful thing.