What is the best way to deal with someone who has low self-esteem?How do you tell them,without hurting them?
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Try to build them up.  Compliment them. Help them resolve issue they have and perhaps take them to counseling.
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These people are insecure and miserable.\nKill them with kindness.\nDont give them the satisfaction they are looking for.\nIgnore it.\nThat dont know how to do deal with that.\nBe proud of who you are.
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Well for one thing be honest and upfront about it. Say something! I was in the same situation once before.  I just told them how I felt them and that made them feel comfortable enough to let me know that they were feeling the same. Just don't hide it.  I will come back to haunt in the future.  Believe me when I say it.
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get to know the root cause of her havin' a low- self esteem.try to figure out the thing which is makin' her think in that manner. well, when u get a chance just appreciate her hobbies , or her way of talkin' or the way of socializin with ppl. praise her if she's beautiful (not necessary, infact), they say outer beauty is sometimes a boost to fill some 1 with confidence. just try to help the person develop her personality and get to know themselves better, their +ve points and the -ve 1s . instead of cribbin' over like a baby that ,"i can't do this", "i'm not worth havin'this" "i'm worthless or useless" , try to make the person realize her capabilities.every body's got immense potential. tell her good words like" life is full of hopes, filled with ambitions to b fullfilled , lots of love to b showered onto the loved ones, & u wouldn't want to die as a person havin' low-self esteem , would u?"(just ask her this )and there's lotta things to do !! !when 1's stuck with all the gloom in the world , 1 can't enjoy life, no matter how much ever the others try to cheer up.at the moment try to roam around places if u boh aren't busy , tell the person her true potentials(which u had noticed earlier and this should b done in a soothin' way) .instill confidence within her, by improvin' her skills/ hobbies/ talents and academically too.so good luck! ! !
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OK, I am going to speak plain with you. You have come here for some emotional support, perhaps some consolation and for others to jump on the bandwagon of your selfpity and pity and feel sorry for you. I am not going to insult you or be mean to you, however, I am not going to lie to you either or encourage you to feel powerless by acting the victem. \n\nListen, if you want to grow self esteem, self respect, the first thing you need to do is take your personal power back by stopping this victem stuff, stopping this feeling sorry for yourself. You are as deserving as the next person of happiness and good treatment. I don't care what your race is, what language you speak natively, or what type or how bad your accent is, what your weight is, how tall you are, the shape of your eyes, or nose, or butt either. You are a hunam with rights the same as anyone else. \n\nWith that said, I want you to listen very carefully here. WE TEACH OTHERS HOW TO TREAT US!!! If you allow yourself to feel like a victem, then you will be a victem. Do victems have personal power? Do victems have self esteem? Do victems have self respect? No to all of the above. However, nobody can make you a victem except YOU. You are choosing to view these events as a victem, rather than stand up for yourself and demand proper treatment. \n\nWhy did you not go to the principles office and report these incidents? Why are you allowing these people to treat you poorly? There are things you can do to stop this sort of treatment and you are the only one who can do it. Nobody is going to do anything to gain you proper treatment, nobody is going to step in and say, "hey, you need to treat this young girl right!". As sad as I am to say that, it is the truth. The reason nobody will do this is because you have isolated yourself, have not made friends, have not nurtured your life here in this country. You have allowed yourself to be trampled on and become downtrodden and that is not attractive to others. Nobody wants to be friends with victems, or with those who allow themselves to be treated poorly. That is a sad fact of life. People want to be friends with the popular kids, with those with self esteem and self respect. People always love the winners, not the losers. It is a sad fact of life, especially for the younger crowd. \n\nListen, kids are the cruelest animals on the face of the earth. They know when another kid is weak and vulnerable and they, like wolves, go for the soft underbelly of those who are weaker and rip and tear them apart. As you have not stood up for yourself, have not placed bounderies around yourself which tell others what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate, they see a person easy to taunt and take things out on. Kids are under a great deal of pressure and they will find those weaker than themselves to degrade and beat up on in order to release the presure they are feeling. Sad fact of life for a kid. Even adults will act like this sometimes. \n\nYou need to start gaining self esteem by setting bounderies on how you will tolerate treatment. You need to take back your power by going to the proper authorities and reporting those who abuse you. You need to report anyone who lays a hand on you, who so much as touches a single hair on your head. \n\nStart holding your head up when you walk around. Stop looking at the ground, and allow yourself to look others straight in the eyes. This is America and in America we look others in the eyes, not keep our eyes on the ground. You need to learn how to fake it tell you make it. In other words, if you pretend you are happy, if you pretend you are not miserable, find stuff to do, and look happy and look content with life, soon you will discover you actually are. \n\nI use to hate having to push a shopping cart home from the store. I felt embarressed due to it seeming to signel to others my poor status. I was ashamed and always looked at the ground so not to see the contempt I imagined in the ey
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I think the best thing to do is change your whole outlook on your life right away. Admitting that you have low self esteem is the first step. I quick got sick and tired of having low self esteem by 7th grade, I mean whats worse than the feeling that your not good enough, like life is living you, remember you are the one living life and you have the control to do or have whatever you want.  I wanted to be the funny girl in class, I wanted to be the loud kid, and I wanted to be the one people recognized. When you take control of how you approach life, the guys come to you and ask you out! Then you'll never fear rejection again, because the guys should want you not the other way around, your worth too much for that. In any case, get to know him, and if you do know him, ask him out, don't make it the life and death question, if he says no, and you change your self esteem, he'll see what he's missing out on.
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Just be yourself and don't worry about ignorant people who think they are better than you. These people have to degrade you to make themselves feel better. Let them call you names, joke about how you function in the world, and laugh at your personality,etc., it's just their way of turning the spotlight away from themselves because they are afraid if you look too closely at "them", you may find a few flaws. If they would turn on their brights, they would realize everyone is different; has bad points and good points; and acceptance brings people closer. Maybe they are just sooooo unhappy, they want to drag you down to their dungeon to suffer with them. Try extending an olive branch or making a peace offering, and if that does not work, forget about them, do your own thing, and sooo politely tell them to kiss your arse.   \nP.S.  I am a Redneck, shhhhhh....don't tell anybody!!(:
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play this self-esteem game\nhttp://www.selfesteemgames.mcgill.ca/\nor\nhttp://education.indiana.edu/cas/tt/v3i2/selfesteem.html\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem/selfest.html#anchor1643790
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ACT FRIENDLY.  Don't remind them of their visciousness.\n\nBut don't trust them about anything.
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Tell her to get over herself- theres no point being depressed- get out and lose weight get a hot Boyfriend and stop moaning-shes the only one who can do anythign about it!
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Forget what you were, and start living a new life. And read a lot of books on any subject under the sun to keep your mind occupied. As you relax, over a period of time you'll get over the low self esteem bit.\nAll the best!\nst
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Honesty is the best policy. Tell him the truth as simply as you put it here.  Tell him quality rather then quanity. Too much hurts plain and simple. If he cares at all about you then this will take care of your problem. If he doesn't care then you shouldn't worry about hurting his feelings and tell him to just get off.
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You can't do anything to fix her self image, only she can. What you can do is support her and always tell her she's beautiful. (as you already do) She also may just do it for attention. Maybe she just likes constant attention. But if it's the former, you can only encourage her to step up and take a real look at herself.
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Ohh that's so sweet but chance's are the only way you can convince her is just keep on loving her and telling her that she is beautiful she sounds like she has very low self esteem just tell her that she should have more faith in you because you would never do anything to hurt her
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Think of how much you mean to your loved ones. Another way to raise self-esteem is to volunteer someplace like Habitat for Humanity, you help others and that makes you feel good about yourself too.
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you mean to tell me that for 1 1/2 years he never complimented you?and your still with this guy? whatever! do ya know if he even likes himself? low self esteem? there definitly is a problem here and bound to become a major issue, do you know if this guy has any love for himself to begin with? because you can't expect him to show you love if he dont love himself, you can always assure him that you are not like those he had to grow up with, that you see something in him that no body in his family does, and that you wont blame him when things go wrong, and ask him to  drop his gaurd and let you in,  tell him you not going to hurt him that you just want to help begin the healing process, teach him that if he looks past all those previous negative judgements, he will find some one that he never knew existed, some one I'm sure he'd like, just understand that those who  not by shoice had to  grow up in that type of atmosphere, will  only know rejection and to feel like they could never be nothing. he should start by feeling lucky that he's got you!  Good luck to you both!
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Hello! Can understand what you mean. Have not got too much self-esteem neither... but I have come to accept that it is not okay for me to feel that way somehow. I want to change it. Think one really needs to decide deep within to change it. There are many beautiful suggestions here. A counsellour I saw some time ago told me that I should say out loud "I am a wrothwhile person and I deserve to be happy." ... and it worked. Just that I became kind of lazy :o) . What might help you as well is the link below. It might seem childish but it really does help. Enjoy it and good luck to feeling better toward yourself :-) !