Really really down all because of social life?
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its totally ok to space out\n\navoid drugs, even coffee\n\nget good sleep\n\ngo to school and make friends\n\ndon't worry about anything unless it is really bugging you and you can't shake it\n\nif you can't , just get in bed, relax as much as you can, with a heating pad too maybe, then feel whatever you do, unwind it, see what is really bothering you, deal with the real issues, not the imaginary ones.
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I think everybody who is lonely feels that way.  Get out and meet people instead of sitting there feeling sorry for yourself.
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Man, I know how that can feel...been there done that!!!  I found that I wasen't voicing my needs enough in some cases and in the others it was a matter of getting rid of the trash friendships that were merely sucking me dry emotionally and/or finacially.  Do yourself a favor and get rid of people who make you miserable and are just takers. Thinning them out and telling the people whom you choose to keep around what your needs are can be a very empowering experience.  Trust me, a few very close friends is worth more than a ton of supposed friends any day.  Hope this helps.
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Actually you may want to look into counseling and/or medication.  It sounds like you may be clinically depressed.  Depression can pretty much take over your life, making it difficult-to-impossible to connect with others.\n\nA low dose of an SSRI and some talk therapy may be just the ticket to seeing the sunshine again.  Good luck.
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Yes in deed.... You are focused on the negatives here... Lots of people work nights so that I don't think is the problem.  Get involved in a group in your town of some kind or volunteer.  Quit looking for love, it will find you!  When you least expect it and at the place you would never look.  Get up and get going time is a wasting... Write down a list of all the things  you like to do and start from that as far as find people to socialize with.  Also if you go to church look in your sunday school dept.  Remember women lead  you to women!   So get moving!  wont be long  till your question will be " I don't have enough time for all my friends and work, what do I do?
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The truth is that sometimes we all need a little bit more than "people who care about you."\n\nI would say based on the information you give here that either you are in need of some good friendships or a romantic relationship, or you are in the early stages of depression, which fits well with your loneliness among people who care about you.\n\nIf your condition gets worse to the point where you can't or don't want to go out of the house or do the activities you normally enjoy, then it is depression, but you should go to your doctor now before it gets to that point.\n\nGod bless you.
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I might be wrong, but I believe that the problem is that you are trying to behave the way everyone wants you to. What I am about to say is such a cliche, but nevertheless true: just be yourself. If those people don't hang out with you anymore, than they haven't been very good frineds to begin with. You are better off without them. \nAnd the fact that you are lonely is not necessarily related to the fact that you are alone. You can also be lonely in the mids of a crowd. Hope I gave you some food for thought........
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Well you made a wise choice if you choose not to smoke weed and drink alcohol, but I feel like it is very hard to find friends, I mean friends that you can really count on, and will not betray you in anyway. But it is very hard, but I wish you good luck.
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I'm feeling really down right now too but my life isn't going good at all so that's my reason. As for you, try doing something that you like. Think about things that make you happy and make you smile. Everybody has moments when they are down. I'm sure yours will pass soon. Maybe you just need to clear your mind and get some rest and relaxation. I hope you feel better.
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i completely understand. i have the same problem. i think you have to be happy. just because there are people around doesn't mean you can't be lonely. like something is missing and you're not quite sure what sometimes. doctors sometimes help but i think it's all something that can be worked on by ourselves it just may take awhile. i'm sure this isn't really an answer but at least you know you're not alone in this aspect :)
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Well, first of all, the older I have gotten  (I'm now 36) the more I appreciate my "alone" time, plus I have found out that a lot of people that I considered "friends" were never that much of a friend at all, they were very selfish and jealous of every little thing that I didn't do with them or if I should be dating someone ( which doesn't happen that much) because I tend to see thru a lot of men's b******t and I'm just interested in REAL people....men or women, I'm getting too old to play games with people, I need to surround myself with people who bring me up NOT down.  Which leaves me alone a lot.....I've learned to really enjoy my time.....I love to hike, spend all kinds of times outside, and read, read, read....I could spend 4-5 hours in B&N with a coffee and a nice comfy chair!!   Don't get me wrong, I love to go out and have a good time, laugh, dance but if you can't do it with people that you enjoy being around....then what's the point??  \nYou have to remember that most people keep so incredibly busy and go out constantly to bars with a bunch of friends, but I think for the most part, they are lonely and looking for "something" and I can tell you right now that that "something" is not going to be found outside of themselves....they have to start looking inside first and learn to love themselves, that makes all the difference in the world!!\nI don't consider a person a "recluse" just because they aren't afraid to spend quiet time alone....they are usually the stronger kind of people!\nHope this helps!!!  Take Care.
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I aggree. Real friends are not just for going for a walk.\nFirst try to identify that this depression is not so serious that maybe need pharmacological treatment.\nHow will you identify?\nThe best you can do is to visit a doctor and describe what you feel. If not, there are several sites in the internet describing the symptoms of the disease. Usually the pharmaceutical companies selling this category of drugs, have also this kind of questions in their site.\nIf the result is negative, try some simple tips, like the ones described by me in a previous question, entitled:\nIs there any medicine for removing social anxiety?\n\nAll the best for you and your loved ones\n\nKaterina
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Hi - I'm sorry that you feel that way. It sounds like you may need to talk with someone professional. There are so many things to be done that can help you to feel more social, or to alleviate that "empty" feeling. I hope you mention these feelings to someone near you who is kind and very caring.
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wow! totally. i actually just posted a question because i feel depressed and i just moved to a really cold city that has long winters. part of it for me is a need for sunlight and being outdoors- less sunlight in winter and its harder to be outside so much. i am a social butterfly- but in this weather i get really hermit-like and want to be left alone. i know how you feel.
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No, not at all. You can have a full life anyway, but just take it easy, remain social the best way you know how. Perhaps someway, somehow, somewhere, when you least expect it, some one may come your way.
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Probably the same reason I do.  I have a hard time being out going.  But you can work on it.  Just asert yourself, people WANT to be around you trust me I know.
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I think there are a lot of people out there who have experienced what you're going through right now. You're not alone in feeling friendless! People tend to gather in cliques for no apparent reason and it can be difficult to break in. I applaud your efforts for trying! It may be helpful to join a club or an organization that congregates for a certain reason: e.g., volunteer organization, running club, sports groups, etc. This may help because then you will have a conversation starter about the common interest you have.\n\nIt also sounds like this has affected your self-esteem (and understandably so). As difficult as it may be, remember that you are a beloved child of God! He has created you in his image and you are the apple of his eye. He loves hanging out with you and listening to all you have to say. Living in this truth will allow you to be more confident in yourself.\n\nTake care.