Close girlfriend with cancer?
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Give her all the supports you can by encouraging and giving medical attention. You have not told what cancer she is having the stage and grade of the disease so that I could have suggested the possible medication and treatments. Any way act as per the advise of your Oncologist. The treatments generally are - surgery, chemotherapy and radiation therapy. The treatment side effects are more killing than the disease itself. What to do you have to fight the disease as -\n\nCANCER IS STILL AN ENIGMA.  Best wishes for speedy recovery of your friend.-
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The man I love is still here after a fight with cancer.
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to be honest, I'm not sure, but i have had experience with dealing with a close relative with pancreatic cancer, so feel free to get in touch to chat, on sproutly.chick@virgin.net
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No it isn't, at least not to find one who truly cares for you.  I speak from personal experience.  If you are honest and open, and that person truly loves/wants to be with you it won't matter. Even if it is a bit tougher if that person is worth it they will take you as is. I was very nervous about telling my current boyfriend (he was he first one after i was diagnosed with g/h) but he handled it fine. It is alot to take in at first, but we have a very happy & healthy relationship & an AMAZING sex life.  Don't let this hold you back.  It has actually made us closer that he accepted me & my condition. He is the love of my life.  I wish you the best
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I'm so sorry about your fiance's situation. You all are in my prayers.\nOne suggestion would be to contact Cancer Treatment Centers of America. They are a system of Hospitals with campuses across the country that specialize in both conventional and alternative treatments of advanced cancers that have failed conventional treatments. Their website is: http://www.cancercenter.com .\nAnother resource I would suggest would be the book, "Beating Cancer with Nutrition" by Dr. Patrick Quillin (Amazon.com link: http://www.amazon.com/Beating-Cancer-Nutrition-Patrick-Quillin/dp/096383729X/sr=8-1/qid=1164205725/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/103-5041657-6768651?ie=UTF8&s=books)\nAlso, contact your local branch of the American Cancer Society at http://www.cancer.org. Again, my wishes go out to your fiance for a full recovery. Hope this can help.
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hello my dear friend!\n\nwell i am able to read your feelings well... because i went through the same situation too! 6months back i was diagnosed with germ cell tumour and i had to undergo chemotherapy and had a hard time... my husband loves me a lot and the essence of our marriage was an intimate relationship which meant even having good sex! during the six months period he saw me undergoing the treatment and when i was back home afetr the treatment ..\ni understood how much he missed me ...i got him cuddled next to me and could feel his warm presence...\ni know you love your wife deeply and wouldnt want to hurt her.. but when you kiss her or cuddle her romancingly and perhaps you could have a little action in your life.. you will not hurt her and she too will love you fro expressing your affection...to be very frank sex is an important positive aid in helping a sick  person recover soon... it will enhace the mind and body and put both of you'll in a happy spirit...\n\nso listen to me and express your love...hug her ,kiss her and make her feel warm and romantic..you can do it my friend... you mean a lot to her in her life as she mean to you..try casual romance and see how happy you will feel!i will pray fro you and your wife..! \n\ngoodluck!
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i am very sorry to here about your family member. i have worked as a cancer nurse for over two years now and unfortunately, it sounds as if she is near the end. sometimes thats the hardest part of cancer (worse than all the treatments combined) if morphine is not helping her i would ask the docs for some type of continuous medication to keep her pain free. they offer those medications for at home use as well (not sure if she's home or where she is) but most meds can be given continuously at home. try the very best you can to keep her comfortable, let her know you are there for her, and just be a family. there are nurses who come to your home to help during these times as well. i hope things go well
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That's a tough questions.....there are so many things to consider (The cellular class, and staging of the leuk. as well as the individual with the diagnosis). I work on a BMT (bone marrow transplant) unit and GENERALLY speaking there is an 80% acheived remission rate. Your boyfriend is young, and in remission so that's in his favor.  If he doesn't have the philadelphia chromosone that is also a big plus.  Without further treatment, most pts will relapse within 2 yrs. There are new treatments and studys that look promising, involving postremission chemo and allo BMT's. I can tell you that no one holds a crystal ball or will be able to give you a specific answer......Your boyfriend needs to sit with his oncologist, ask some tough questions, and listen to his options now that he is in remission. Remission will open up diferent treatment options for him. Cancer is a rough road to journey down, but there is always reason for hope.  Even a remission that lasts two years will bring him two years closer to newer and improved options.....and hopefully the cure we all are waiting for.  Good luck.
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DEAR GRASON,\nI AM SO SORRY,\nI LOST MY HUSBAND FEB 10,2006\nYOU NEED TO TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND,SO YOU CAN SPEND WHAT TIME YOU HAVE LEFT TOGETHER,SHE WOULD GO THROUGH A LOT OF SHOCK ,IF YOU WERE TO DIE,AND SHE DIDN'T EXPECT IT.PLEASE FIND A WAY TO TELL HER.\nNOW AS FAR AS DRS. CAN'T DO ANYTHING HAS TO BE WRONG. THERE ARE SO MANY TREATMENTS. UNLESS YOU HAVE CHOSEN NOT TO HAVE THEM. MY HUSBAND WAS GIVEN 6MO HE LIVED 13, BUT HE GOT A STAFF INFECTION AND HIS KIDNEYS SHUT DOWN OVERNIGHT.\nSO PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP. REMEMBER ALL THINGS ARE \nPOSSIBLE, WITH  GOD. JUST HAVE FAITH.\nGOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS
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My mom was diagnosed three years ago. She had stage 3 breast cancer. It spread to the lymphnoids and she ended up having a double mastectomy. She's had plastic surgery and is now a fully developed cancer-free 46 year old. I'm so proud of her.\n\nMy best friends sister has Hodgkins disease. It's in her neck and she's currently undergoing treatment at Duke. He's having to stay with a friend while the rest of his family is with her. Please pray for her.\n\nI'd also like to say I'm sorry for whatever reason you posted this. Cancer is a hard thing to deal with but I know dozens of people who have overcome this. I hope everything is okay with you. Good luck and remember that there are always people to support you or whoever you know.
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I have a gemini friend and she and I(cancer) kinda like eachother but have nothing really to talk about and very little in common. I don't believe in taking horoscopes to far but...go on a date and see if you can keep the conversation going all night or whether it just ends in sex or something like that. Then you'll know and your strong feelings will be out of your system. Good luck!
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The best thing u can do is just be there for them.  Dont push it too much, let them know you are there to listen and wait for them to tell u how they feel.  It shows that u must be very close to them as they obviously trust you with their secret and are probably in shock about it themself still.\n\nMy ex-boyfriend had cancer and I know it can be a very very difficult time, not just for the person suffering but also for those around them and close to them.  Your friend is probably feeling a range of emotions at the moment and maybe just needs someone to confide in.  People can sometimes get very angry or very quiet when they find out something like this, so if your friend starts acting wierd, try to not to take it personally.\n\nI really feel for your friend because I know what a hard time it must be for them.  You also need to look after yourself too, its not easy news to hear and although u may not be experiencing it physically, u will prob feel just as emotionally upset and shocked.  The best advice i can give is just to be there to listen and keep their secret.  There is nothing that you can say that will change what has happened. Sometimes if u really want to help them and get them to talk, just talk about the facts of the illness (eg.what type of cancer/treatment/stage of progression etc.. )sometimes by the person talking about the facts, it helps them to come to terms with it themself and also brings out their feelings.  \n\nHope this helps you in some way
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It is very difficult to say without more specific information. Often surgery can remove all the cancer and future treatment often relates to level of the thyroid hormones which are reduced due to the thyroid having been removed. \nYour friends post operative appointment would discuss all of this with her. She will also have had tests to see if the cancer had spread.\nBy the sound of things her optimistic outlook may have came from her follow up appointment. \nMaybe you should discuss your concerns with her. This may reassure you. Best wishes to you both.
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My poor grandfather had prostate cancer, which is supposedly one of the slowest-growing cancers there is.  He was in the hospital for something unrelated, and out of nowhere started getting sicker.  He lost his appetite, and over the course of a couple of days, started having difficulty walking and talking.  \n\nMy grandmother questioned the same thing that you did, so she questioned one of the nurses as to whether his cancer had metastasized.  The nurse more or less brushed her off and said, "No, prostate cancer wouldn't grow that fast."\n\nWell, to make a long story short, he kept getting worse and worse, until finally his lungs and kidneys shut down.  As it turned out, he had developed a secondary, fast-growing cancer that had metastasied all over his body within a matter of weeks.\n\nBy the time this was discovered, he was far too sick for any form of traditional treatment, and we unfortunately lost him very quickly after that.\n\nI certainly hope that this isn't the case with your friend... some of what she's experiencing could be the side effects of the chemotherapy.  Although I've never heard anyone "talking funny" from chemo, I'm certainly not an expert on the subject. \n\nI just wanted to share my story with you, because it still makes us sick that my grandma questioned his prognosis and was told that it couldn't have spread.  I guess we'll always wonder if he could have been helped had they acted sooner.\n\nI certainly don't have any advice for you on how to approach your friend... it's very hard to question others' judgment when it comes to the way they're treating their cancer, especially when you're not the one paying the bills.  I unfortunately know this far too well from experience... I guess all you can do is sit down with her husband by himself and discuss your fears.  It's hard, though, because you don't want to place any undue worry on him.\n\nI don't know how close of a relationship you have with this couple, but if you don't want to worry them directly, is it possible to pull one of her oncologists aside and talk it over with them?  I don't know if she's in the hospital or not, but that might be a good way to go about it.  If you feel like there's nothing you can do without overstepping your bounds, I guess all you can do is hope that the doctors notice what you have... but that's not always the case, either.\n\nSorry if I wasn't more help... at any rate, I wish you the best.  If you're at all religious or spiritual, maybe a prayer for guidance is in order.  If you're not... just listen to your heart, I guess.  :)
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Listen with an open mind and give him a lot of support while he's going through the chemo. Everyone finds their own source of strength when dealing with a major medical crisis. I would say to just be there for him and try to be as understanding as possible. If you have a conversation where you feel like you can put in your opinion, do it. He won't want you to act differently or treat him differently than you usually do. I've been through cancer with my Mom, Dad, brother and sister and everyone deals with it in a different way. The best advise I can give is to be there and continue to treat your friend as normally as possible. He needs all of his friends to be there for him right now.
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I am so sorry to hear about your family friend and hope you are providing support and understandin right now....the fact that she has secondarys (the cancer has spread to  another part of the body) is , I will be honest, worrying.  I know how awful this illness can be and how devastating it can be especially when the person has been healthy....my dad got cancer...he didn;t smoke, he was active and healthy....by the time he was diagnosed he had secondarys.  The chemo might be there to ease the side effects rather than cure or extend life...she needs to know which it is in her case....my thoughts are with your friend and all who love her right now...I do wish you well and hope that any news she has is positive.  Keep us updated? and if you need to chat...feel free to mail me
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well my friend is a Cancer and i am a Libra and we ahve been together for 13 years so i would say get u a libra girl now incompatible i would not know because i know alot of Cancers and they get along with everyone as im sure you do too check the yahoo horoscope and click the signs to see which is the most likely compatible with urs