For someone who has found success in marriage what makes it work?
930669
They both trust and believe in each other.  They also stand by each other by all reasonable means necessary.
460654
I dont think there is a real explination for making a marriage work forever, unless you are an angel or something... Just love, and stay true to the other person and yourself.
69961
Getting married will not solve the problems that are there. The best thing to do is find out what you are arguing about and decide if it is worth fighting and arguing over. You need to find a common ground to build upon(firm). If you do decide to get married, no one can tell you if it will work or not! You have to work at it. Getting married just because of the baby is going to be tough, real tough. Do it for the right reason, and when you are ready! Don't rush it.
991430
This is also my third marriage. First time was six months, I was very young and stupid. Two years later, I met husband two. Two years pass before we marry. Married for two years and got divorce. Both one and two, couldn't keep their hand to theirselfs. \nThen here comes number three. I started talking to him on yahoo chat. Talking and then we meet soon after. Then I was with him for four years, been married for one. I agree with her, Iam tired of marriage. \nStick me with a fork, Iam done all the way.\n\nP.S. I heard from someone before, don't matter how many times you marry. Just as long you love him/her, is all that matters. Don't give up becuz one ruin it for ya.
784723
Not true....long distance CAN work. Ive seen on a few occasions already that the couple is now married, happy and even have a child together.\n\nIt can happen, but I would take it a step at a time. Good luck.
630105
it surely can work. it worked with me and it still does. depends on how much you love and trust each other. and if you want to change this someday and be together for real.\ntell him what?
742916
Well, my husband and I have been married for 13 years.  We have two daughters.  It is tough sometimes, but we have pulled through.\n\nI went to a couple of Passion Parties and purchased some products....It is a blast!!  Then I became a consultant.\n\nAfter that many years, our sex life was in the toilet.  I didn't really think I would buy anything, I just wanted to get out of the house!  But, I loved the product and they were presented in a very respectful way.\n\nI became a consultant because after I got the product home, we had such a good time.  Becoming a consultant not only made our sex life incredible, but the money is fantastic!.....Sex and money~ the top two reasons marriages fail, saving them one bedroom at a time!!!\n\nMen need sex, we need romance, you have work together.  Foreplay does not start in the bedroom.  It starts as soon as we wake up. Communication is key, we have set aside one day a week for just the two of us.  It does not matter what we do, we are together by ourselves.\n\n\nGood luck!\nCandi
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Everyone always told me that when you find the right one you will know it. Well, I tried to make this one the right one, then that one the right one, and it was never the right one. When he did come along I thought...OH! This is what they were talking about. I luckily found mine. It is a miracle, and believe me honey, you will never have to question it. We have been married for five years and both knew it the first night we met. It is a feeling that you cannot describe. The only person who would understand is another person who has found their's as well. I fell sorry for all the people out there who are with someone thinking that it is love and it is not the one meant for them. Keep looking. You will find your's. Good Luck!
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Marriage is hard work. You have to both work at it for it to work out. The passion only lasts 6 months to 3 years. After that, you have to work at the relationship...\n\nTry doing things that are unexpected. Stir up your life a bit and see what happens. You can also take counselling together. Read books about this subject and get some tips.
663705
Gee, if we were all perfectly unselfish, then marriages would come easy.  But each of us has faults, foibles, and differences from our partner.  That means that marriage is going to be work.\n\nYou like going bowling, she likes the movies. It'll take work to come up with a comprise.  You get up early, she stays up late.  You're going to have to roll up your sleeves and work if you want to optimize quality time together.  In every relationship there are differences; no two humans are PERFECTLY compatible in every way.  So there will always be some work required.\n\nBUT - work need not be a dirty word.  Working on a marriage can be good fun!  Find the comprimises that make you both happy - maybe you spend one night out bowling with the guys, she hits a movie one night with her girlfriends, and the comprimise is that you make time to go country dancing together, which you both love.  Or you can't change those sleep schedules, but you make time for a lunchtime love meeting.  Brainstorm, use what you know about your partner, and be flexible as you make the work part of your marriage also a fun part, too!
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ya. mine's is a love marriage and we are going great. it's not always succes. lets hope for the best to happen in others life too. it is not always a bed of roses. u have to face lot obstacles. if ur completely in love with each other then nothing can stop u to become one and can lead a very happy life. dont take love for granted, it's really a god's gift which all cannot enjoy. there is a lot of difference between love and infatuation. so dont mistook between love and infatuation. i wish u all the best if ur in love with someone and wants to marry. go for it and enjoy  a happy life.
417054
NOPE, I HAVE BEEN THERE AND DONE IT, SURE IT WILL WORK FOR A WHILE THEN.. IT ALL STOPS, WE BROKE IT OFF FOR ABOUT 6 MONTHS, AND NOW A YEAR AND A HALF LATER WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR A YEAR NEXT MONTH. BEACUSE I MOVED TO BE WITH HIM
61120
Marriage can be a very beautiful thing when its w/ the right person.  I can hardly wait to marry my fiance.  We live together now and its hard but great.  You have to work at it like everything else in life to make it wonderful.  You get out what you put into basically.
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You have to have honesty and trust as well as a devout love for one another.  Sacrifice and compromise are also important factors in a successful marriage.  Without a combination of all you leave too many openings for weakness and marriage should not be weakened in time but rather strengthened.
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I've been married for 34 years and overall, it's been great.  \n\nI think it's important to know someone before you marry them.  I dated my husband for over 4 years before we married so I knew what kind of person he was.\n\nIt's important to have a relationship built on love and respect.  Communication is a big part of any relationship and I think it helps if you have a good sense of "humor"!\n\nMaintaining a good marriage takes commitment, hard work and you need to be able to "negotiate".  The benefits to both partners (and your family) are priceless.  Having that "safe place" in the world is the best feeling you can have!\n\nJust my opinion, I'm sure everyone has their own.  Good luck.
114955
my very good friend has been my husband for 3 years now.  i think the key to knowing if it could work is to not work for it, let nature take you there if it will.  enjoy him as a friend and see what happens.  good luck. ya can't lose cause ya already have an awsome friend, right?
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Mine is working out. Being of European heritage and she from Finland probably helps because marriage has so many issues to work out as it is, but our has worked because we try to understand each other (and she is generally just a wonderful person.)