How do I deal with my exes parents?
918614
Well, if I were you I would seriously concider finding a job in a far away state and moving.  Your ex sounds like a slimeball and Grandma and Grandpa sorry to say sound like they cannot drive.  Then if they want to visit you can meet them halfway and go to dinner or something.  Good Luck, and make sure your child knows to wear their seatbelt at all times.  I think that you can go to the Police Department and for a fee get the copy of the accident report since it partains to a court case.  They are public record.
1131817
Ok, my girlfriend and I are going through the exact same thing. Just keep seeing the guy. Talk to your mom about it. Make her understand that while you understand her and respect her opinion, that this is the guy you love, and then ask her if her parents had told her to stop seeing your father if she would have... That worked when I talked to MY gf parents. \n\nBest of Luck
1134864
Some tips that have work for me:\n\nAgree on joint custody of the kids. That way, you both can decide over the children'f future together and both of you can be involved making importatnt decisions in your kids lives.\n\nBe generous on visitation. That way the kids can have a fair share of both parents.\n\nHave an agreement with your soon-to -be ex about NOT badmouthing the other when not present, That hurts the kids. Make that solemn promise that you will not talk bad about the other one during visitation.\n\nHave a conversation with the kids, Explain what is about to happen and how much you love them and how daddy an mommy still care about each other. \n\nWhen visitation comes, try to make the transition an easy as posssible. This NO time for arguments or sour faces.\n\nRemain in friendly terms.\n\nAlways allow your ex to talk on the phone with the kids. ALWAYS.\n\nSend father day/birthday cards sign by the kids.\n\n\nCIVIL is never using the kids to get back at one another. Good for you that you are willling to do this.
191352
ISthat what you want to teach your daughter together,on how to deal whith that situation,talk to your ex and him together  let them know whats up,If your daughter wants to move in go for it having your kids around you is time well spent
191277
well talk to them to find out why u r in trouble then pray that God gives you the ability to continue to respect your parents.they are there to help and protect you so please make it easier by listening and trying to understand what they are saying. it will come in handy when you strike out on your own.my mom & dad were the meanest parents in the world. and i thank them for it thier disipline & love is what made me the person my husband fell in love with. if i can be even half the person my mom is i will be lucky.
827405
First off, are your parents living in the dark ages...\nGo and do what you want [Not what they want] go see your boyfriend and his family..\nTell your mom in a nice way NO I am going to visit with my boyfriend and his family and that is final. \nYou are 20, you tell them what your plans are and go for it..They have no hold on you anymore...\nSome parents just don't want to let go, but now is a good time to stand up for yourself....
416374
No its not weird. The fathers parents are the childs grandparents and they have a right to be in the childs life. That would mean they see the child once a week right? I think its nice of them to invite her around for a meal.\n\nThey probably realise the breaking up of their sons and your gfs relationship was over something stupid their son did and that your gf was quite decent and they have nothing to hold against her. In order for them to have an active role in their grand daughters life they have to get along with the childs mother. \n\nIts a bit hard for them to want to see a 2 year old baby when the mother doesnt bring it over. So shes part and parcel of their visitation with the child. Im sure if your gf dumped the 2 year old baby off to them and walked out the baby would be freaked out over not being with her mother. (have unnecessary anxiety)\n\nI think its totally reasonable. Shes not playing up with the ex and you obviously know all about her visiting his parents so shes not lying to you or covering anything up, so technically shes not doing anything wrong.\n\nHang onto her, she sounds like a good one. Im sure the parents will realise shes moved on with her life as in being with you. Im sure her exs parents might even feel a hint of embarassment or remorse for their sons non involvement in the childs life, so they feel they have to make up for it. I think they are nice people to stick by your gf and their grand child.\n\nThey will know there is no hope for their son and her but just want to be a part of their grand daughters life.
193622
You dont.... You should stop and take a look at what they offer you.\nYou wouldn't be here if it weren't for them.\nThey feed you and put a roof over your head. SO, whatever little petty reason you want to "get rid of them" you'd better rethink it. \n\nI can tell you from experience that times can be tough. And I am sure that everyone can tell you that when they were younger they at least once hated their parents. However, now that we're older and can look back at that... We realize why things happened the way they  did. As a child we like to think that we know what's best for us. Feel as if your partents are holding you back, when in fact, they are saving you from the worlds nasty people and truth... It's not easy in the real world. Enjoy your parents for as long as you can. They wont be here forever and then you will have no one to turn to. Charish every day that your parents are still with us on earth. Dont let a day end without telling them how much you love 'em. If you do... Someday, you'll be sorry...
545960
Have your mind made up. This is the hardest part. Make sure this is what you want. If you think there is still something left inside of you for this person, chances are you will go back and will repeat these steps over again. \nMake a written list of all the reasons why things will be better if the relationship is over. Think of what will happen if you stay with this person, and how many years of your life you could end up spending on an unhealthy relationship. Keep this list close to you at all times. \nThink ahead. Have a day when you decide it's over and you are going to move on. Don't just jump up and leave on an impulse. If you can, talk to that person and say, "When rent is up this month, I am going to find another place" or "I'm moving in with my parents" or "You need to leave at the end of this month." This gives the person time to make arrangements. And, it's much easier to go back on an impulse then it is to go back on a calmly and clearly stated intention. \nKeep the peace. Don't allow the person to suck you into the same old arguments, guilt trips, or drama. State your intention and walk away. Case closed. There's nothing left to do but follow through. \nOnce on your own, treat yourself. If you don't, you may get bored and call this person. Make some new friends and constantly have something up your sleeve. Do things that you were not able to do because of this person. This will let you know that you have still got it and make you feel good inside. \nCut off all communication. Even if you intend to stay friends, it's a good idea to avoid contact with this person for at least a month after you break up. Otherwise, it's extremely easy for them to slip right back into their old role in your life and start the cycle all over again. \nTry not to think about or bring up old memories. If friends start talking about this person, tell them you don't want to talk about it, whether good or bad. Get rid of gifts, photographs, and any other relics of the relationship--or at least put them way out of sight. \nPrepare for the possibility that your ex may say things to your friends, family or co-workers and make you look bad. He or she may not have been ready to let go like you did. Be the mature one and laugh about it. Eventually it will stop. \nRemember that this was just not the "one." Oh well, things couldn't work out. This is life. Make sure you still have what it takes to be good to the next person you are with. Remember the traits of the person you left and compare them to the person to are interested in. This will help it from happening again.
987389
I have 3 kids by my ex and he went off to Australia with his new wife. He stopped paying and I am fighting him in court (at great cost to myself) but now he wants to see his kids for 4 weeks this Christmas. I KNOW your feelings totally. But you have to carry the burden because children are better off if they have a relationship with their dads. Just dont compete. When they get older they will realise what went on. But equally dont put up with their lippyness. Dont let it go on. Make your ex look after them sometimes so you have some time to yourself. And get on with your own life. Your boys need a possitive male rolemodel in their life (your dad, or a brother or a new husband) Get on, get your life back into shape and make some time for yourself. You need it and so do your boys.
724711
Your ex sounds like he is the core of what your daughter is experiencing with regard to her problems. A girl of this age needs her mothers involvement as well as her fathers. \n\nYou 2 need to agree to disagree without it harming the childs emotional state of well being. \n\nAnother thing; Nothing would put me in another state if my child was living in another. You need to be living within a closer proximity of your daughter. \n\nForget about the ex and concentrate on your daughter. I also have to wonder why you don't have custody of her? \n\nToo many issues here and with all due respect, your only issue should be the welfare of your daughter. Period. I would not compromise myself with demands set forth by my ex where my children are concerned. GO there, stay with his mother if she wishes; but for one reason, to be there with and for your daughter.
78169
This is a family issue. You know you are innocent so, I would allow your mom to know whats going on. Yes even your father. They can be your greatest allies here. Sometimes parrents can be a true blessing and in this case, maybe MOM has a few tips up her sleeve that can really help. After all she was once your age and had her best friend too. I would goto them with everything and let them in on it. That way your relationship to your folks is greatly inhanced and they may even have the solution you need. Its worth a shot.
771498
I always made it a point & habbit of never dating anyone who had kids just because I didnt want to deal with the "baby moma drama" but being a divorce single mother of 4 some would say I have my nerve. \n\nThe children are speaking through there mothers immaturity, jeolousy and hatred for you and unfortunately you can not control it. I suggest you talk to your boyfriend about his brats if he really cares about you and your relationship he would not stand for it anyway. He needs to have a good talk with the 8itch azz ex girlfriend/baby momma. She doesnt have to like you and you dont have to like her however if her kids are going to in your house your Castle where you are suppose to be QUEEN, He needs to discipline his kids and they need to respect you and your house house including your dogs. It is his Job to discipline His kids not yours they can talk about you all they want in their own house but let it be known that when they step foot in your house if they dont have noting nice to say then they should be seen but not heard. If he can not have your back on this then he is not a man or a father and most importantly He is NOT your man.
433556
Alway's think of the child first.It look's like your ex-gf is going to make your life a living he** anyway.If you really want to be in your child's life,take your ex to court,and get visitation right's after the birth.Sometimes,but not always it help's to know wheither her parent's are on your side somewhat(IT MIGHT HELP YOU).I've been through this kind of crap before myself.Good luck to you.
788537
The time to discuss these issues is when your dad comes to pick you up or drop you off to your mom's ... just as you will change boyfriends when you start to date til you find one you really like, he has divorced your mother because of differences between them and found someone he likes better.  its not about you and you should not approach this as a competition between you and your stepmother.  Usually the reason step parents don't get along with their kids is because they are both competing for the attention of the husband/father.  She has a responsibility as a parent to help you grow up safely and she also needs to be treated as a "mom" by you two kids.  That means you should not exclude her and only talk to your father, This is an extended family. You can choose to be part of it or you can choose to fight against it for the attention of your father.  This is not fair to anyone, not you, not her and not your dad.  You might even sit down with her and ask her what her expectations are of you two kids so you know where her thinking is  in this relationship
1152580
The best way to deal with this is to take your self out of this situation. By completely cutting yourself from any contact or relationship with your ex, even money.  My ex husband has done the same thing. I avoid him as much as possible unless I absolutely have to talk or see him. Which is usually during holiday visits. And these usually end up with like you said, him disrespecting me.  I don't ever call him or communicate with him. Also the best thing I ever did was avoid the child support issues.  I believe most of the fighting with ex's are over money issues ie child support.  I think this saved a lot of pain for the kids sake.  As they got a little older, the subject was brought up but then the fighting started, We both said, its not worth fighting over.  My kids emotions are more important then money. What we did is set up bank accounts for the kids, if my ex wants to put money in there, then its between my kids and him. It saves so much emotional games and the kids win. BTW: When the kids become teens, your relationship will probably get better,  the both of you will realize your resentment for eachother will be the last of your problems. The teen are going distract you from those emotions. Its happend to both my husband his ex, & me and my ex. We actually HAVE to talk now, but its all business, and has been civil. For the four of us. Good Luck
1093587
I can tell you from experience it isn't easy.  However, I now have the advantage of being much older and am able to look back on the situation a bit more objectively.  First off, realize that this has nothing to do with you and their love for you.  This is a relationship problem between the two of them that you did not cause and you can do nothing about.  Next, continue to love your parents equally and do everything you can to make this as easy for them as possible.  Take time to talk to them and don't be afraid to let them know how you are feeling and ask them questions about what is going on if you need to.  Don't let this situation control your life, life will still go on and in a basic sense, nothing really is going to change all that much for you in the long run.