how do i gain my moms trust back after repetedly making the same mistake over and over?
919000
Moms always like to have their rules followed. When you break them, they feel that you're not listening to her and you don't care.\nStaying up till 11:30 is not that bad! So what you should do is have a serious talk with her.  Tell her how important it is for her to trust you, and that you really want to obey her. Make it up to her by spending some time together as mother and daughter.  She will soon regain trust on you if you stay on track the next time your boyfriend calls you!\nGood luck!
1066795
Well, what did you do to lose her trust?  Try listening to her more, don't wait until she tells you do to something like chores, do them before she has to ask.  Don't sneak around behind her back, be honest of your actions.
363433
Wow, that was a really long question.\n\nAnyway, here's the bottom line. If she betrays your trust like that, she's not your friend. Real friends do not do hurtful things to one another, and stealing and gossiping about your private thoughts are hurtful. I would recommend confronting her, and telling her how you feel. Tell her that what she did was wrong and that it violated the trust you once shared. Don't yell, scream, get angry or violent, or upset in any way. From what I can tell, she did what she did to get revenge, and seeing you upset is what she will want. Other than that, you should probably find a new best friend, but maybe if you tell her how you feel, she'll realize that what she did hurt you, and if she really cares about you, she'll feel sorry and hopefully apologize. I've done stupid, unkind, impulsive things to my friends, and felt terrible afterwards. If she wants a second chance, give it to her, but keep in mind that in any case, trusting her completely is probably a bad move in the future. As for wanting to leave the state, I know how that feels, but if people tease you about the gossip this false friend spread, just laugh about it, ignore them... they're not real friends. Kids can be cruel, but the best thing to do is to avoid seeking revenge, go on with your life, and don't let it bring you down. I'm sure you're a sweet person who deserves better!
909511
How can you even ask that question?  You broke your sisters heart and also her trust in you.  No matter what you say do you think she is going to believe you now?  Let her be the one to decide when and if she wants to speak to you
873197
Your mother is doing her best to make you feel so unsure of yourself that you will obey her. She, believe it or not, has good intentions. She just thinks the important thing is your obedience. She isn't really capable of teaching you anything worthwhile and has proved it. Try to avoid conflict with her while doing what feels right to you. If she gets in your face too often, just refuse to talk to her. \n\nIt would be good if you could print out the page with this question and answers and leave it around where she would find it.
877120
Sweetie, it's not just that she loved you; she had issues--big ones.  This is not normal behavior.  It's possible that she projected her own conscience upon you, because she suffered from overwhelming guilt from her past actions; she may have been similarly affected by her own mom.  This is a psychological problem.  Now that you've moved out of the house, please consider counseling so that your experience will not negatively affect your own future relationships.   If or when it's possible, it might help your mother if you could talk her into counseling, for her own good... because she's probably going through a massive amount of emotions right now, especially rejection.  Pray for the woman, and try to love her as much as you can while still maintaining your own distance, regaining your perspective, and living your own life.  God bless you!
714007
confront mom and ask y she's laying on a guilt trip. afterall it's not just your happiness it's her's too and maby an outside souce (you) should point that out
348846
Do what's called the Broken Record thing...every time she starts in--think of something like.." I appreciate your concern, mom, but we have it handled."..........say it Every time...and she Will stop---it worked on my dad...see...when us mom's spens at least 20 yrs rasing kids..and being needed...and then we find one day that the kids are grown..living on their own--meaning we did our job well...suddenly we have nothing to fuss over..and that can be a lonely feeling.  I'm not saying it's okay for her to over step her bounds, just have a little understanding and compassion ... cuz, one day, you, too will have worked yourself out your job..\nhang in there
352577
honey you screwed up   the best way to earn the trust back is to show her you respect her punsihment
697104
you poor thing. no parent should treat their kid that way. or act that way around their kid. tell your mom that you love her, but your relationship is being strained. you are acting as the enabler. if the roles were reversed, would she seriously let YOU "mooch" off of her?
247795
If i was you id give her that second chance, but lay down the law and say 2 her that if she does it again, you r leavin her and defo not comin bak 2 her no more b/c she cant keep puttin u through what she is puttin u through, and also ask her 2 find another job if it gets 2 bad and if yous want it 2 work. The trust will come bak soon or later :)
193197
I THINHK U HAV TRIED UR BEST . N UHAV PLAYED A FRNDS PART .NOW ALSO SHE`S NOT LISTNIN SO ITS BETTR U TELL HER PARENT S OR LEAVE HER MAY BE SHELL REALIZE HER MISTAKES ON HER OWN
432243
talk to your mom to allow you to get back on.
261032
You've blown it man. She won't trust you now. Let this be a learning curve.\nBelieve me, you have more fun keeping your mouth shut.
647972
It is time to let go. Four years has given you your answer. She'll never change even if she claims she will. She sounds paranoid to me in fact, endangering her young son. You're trying to do the right thing but it is time to realise that the right thing to do now is to divorce her, get custody of your son, move on and find another woman worthy of your trust, respect and love. Don't stick around and let her scar you even more for that's just too convenient for her to do. It is not something you want your young son to think - that his dad cannot stand up for what he thinks is right and let a woman (even if it is his mom) put him down over and over again & cheat on him. I am sorry if what I said have offended you. I know you are doing this out of love but she does not deserve it and your son deserves a better mom. She lost her right to be his mother when she did what she did. Sorry. And Good Luck to You!
774952
You need to talk to your mom. Tell her how disappointed you are. She is setting a very bad example for you.
326365
Write or email her, explaining things like you have done here.\n\nGive her some time, as well.  Usually, that puts some perspective on things. Don't make any more promises that you can't keep, though -- "I'll do my best but I can't promise" is more honest.\n\nIn the meantime, try and get on with your own life, ok... no point in panicking, really.