How do you go from being loved to being irrelevant?
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Simple....he had an affair....that is what happened...he has no respect for himself, let alone you OR your son OR the other woman.  Don't play his games.  Tell your son that Daddy must be busy and he can call him another time.  Kill your ex with kindness.  Go on about your life as much as you possibly can. When you stop playing his games, he has nothing.  He will continue to try, but as long as you don't play...he will be the one left in turmoil, not you.  Good luck, divorce isn't easy and it doesn't go away.
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Simple...if that person doesn't give a time for you...even a small one...or your just being adored! Being adored is different in being loved...if you really doubt about your feelings toward each other take some time to talk...STRAIGHT AND PERSONAL...how would you know if you don't talk...don't just leave yourself behind!Don't let them just play games with you...Fight.
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be yourself, that always get in to their hearts, and if it doesnt work for them, dont change yourself cuz you wanna please them, just move on
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I never really loved myself until I realized that I have worth.  And I never realized that I have worth until I realized that God loves me for who I am.  The fact that I'm human and that I make mistakes didn't seem to matter.  God loves me.\n\nKnow that you are worthy of being loved.  You do not have to earn that kind of love from anyone.  God loves you no matter what.  If that's something you don't believe, just trust that somebody loves you.  \n\nGive yourself permission to love yourself.  Once you can do that, it will be easier to have self-esteem.  (But it doesn't come all at once.  This is something that comes over time.  I know since I had that problem too.  It took me years to get as far as I have).\n\nDon't put yourself down for the things you do wrong.  Everybody makes mistakes.  Think about the things you are doing right.  And if you want to change the things you do wrong, just do your best.  Nobody is perfect.  It's okay to make mistakes.
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You make yourself stop.  You stop seeing the advantage in being gone, in wanting to see others punished for not treating you as you think they should.\n\nAnd you start treating yourself as though you were someone special, someone that you really, really care about.  You give them (you) the best of whatever you have - the best attention, the best potato chip out of the bag, the nicest clothes in your closet.  \n\nYou start telling yourself that you are someone special.  Write notes and letters and stories about how good you are, and all the things you want to have and do and all the opportunities that are out there for you.\n\nAnd every day, you look in the mirror and say "This is going to be a great day."  Even if you don't believe it, you say it.  And you stop during the day and "smell the roses."  You find the things you like to do and you do them - because you are special and you deserve it.\n\nIf you're looking to punish people, this will annoy them much more, because you'll have found a joy in life that they don't have.  It will attract into your life people that will like to be around you.  And your whole life will blossom.
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love yourself as you are. cherish your uniqueness. no one will pay any attention to you if you dont see your true nature. dont be obssessed with people, just relax and respect yourself.
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YOU DONT. YOU JUST PICK UP THE PIECES, GO OUT THERE AND FIND SOMEONE WHO IS GOING TO LOVE YOU WITH EVERYTHING INSIDE THEIR SELF. LOVE IS  NOT HARD ITS THE TRUST YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE THAT IS HARD TO ERASE. YOU WILL BE HURT FOR A WHILE. BEEN THERE DONE THAT BUT YOU DONT NEED TO HEAR FORGET ABOUT HIM. YOU NEED TO KNOW YOU CAN MAKE IT. REMEMBER BE NICE TO HIM . IF HE REALLY MISSES YOU HE WILL CALL YOU. DONT DO OR SAY ANYTHING THAT WILL PUSH HIM AWAY
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Do not listen to his voice. Do not call him. Do not answer or return his calls.  Throw away cards, letters and all things that remind you of him.  Make yourself busy and take meticulous care of yourself.  Give your time to your other friends and family members whom you may have been distant with.  Catch up on some hobbies and volunteer work.  Make appointments for yourself to do the things you enjoy every day in the week. Every night, have someone to talk to who understands what you may be going through. Whenever your thoughts stray toward him, think only about the way he disappointed you and hurt you and remind yourself that you deserve the best. The longer you were with him, the longer it may take for you to get over him.  Nevertheless, you WILL get over him.
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lol, chill out, you'll find better love, i just went through something kinda like that, and it hurt at first, but you will gain confidence by saying no.
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Create new brighter memories with someone else or you alone.\nDo something that is the real "end", final step, the last door or makes you feel that way - send back their stuff or a present they gave you, say the last goodbye, bon voyage.\nStart smth new (a new sport, travel,attend a painting class)\nTalk about it.\n...and as the people before me answered, give it some time. \nI think it was Oscar Wild who said that when you love yourself, you are happily in love for your whole life...
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Find a person you want to hang out with. ( Usually you don't want to start with anyone to high, just above you in popularity ranking.) \nGo up to them and casually say hello. Ask them about themselves. \nIf rejected leave and say something like, ok, or whatever.( It makes you sound ok with it, even if you want to cry.)If not rejected go to #5. If rejected go to next number. \nSo you have been rejected. Try again with someone a little lower. Go to # 6. \nYou have beeen accepted. You now are on the path to a new relationship. If you find out that there is something that you can't stand about them always remember that no one is perfect. If they are against your religion or something serious them tell them that it just can't happen unless they change which you shouldn't expect from them. \nThis should probably work. Remember not to think not to high of yourself. \nI hope this has helped you to have more friends.
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be a good listener first.\nthink positively and act accordingly.
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Look at yourselF in the mirror everyday and Find one good thing to say about you.  Then say it out loud.  Surround yourselF with people that love you and care about you.
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By loosing ourselves in service. The more you serve someone the more love you will find yourself having. If more people followed their hearts versus their minds this world would be a better place.\n\nToo many of our thoughts are ingrained into us by our environments and surroundings. It's learning to reach out of that comfort zone and accepting people for who they are. People learn and grow at different rates, and so sometimes our perspectives of that person might not be good, but a kind word or deed to that person by a stranger can have a deep impact. Tolerance and kind words towards strangers goes along ways towards softening a hard heart and making people more kind and pleasant to be around. Try it, just try smiling at someone who is grumpy, or telling them to have a nice day and meaning it. Let someone in line in front of you. Simple kind acts go soooooo far.
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there really isn't a "delicate" way aside from just saying "it's over, really really over" and sticking to it. how do you do that? \n\nwell, your first step is realizing how much you really want to stay out. you have found yourself going back, and now you feel like a jerk because you're not into it as much as she is. so think of it this way: how would you feel if she was the one coming back to you when she was "bored or lonely"--wouldn't you be mad and hurt? you don't want to hurt this person do you? so stop doing that. you're being a jerk. (not a bad person, but just not who you should be.)\n\nthe next thing you need to do is set a period during which you will not call or contact or hang out or talk more than in passing and out of courtesy with this person. tell her and yourself that this is necessary for your to transform your relationship into a platonic one. if she keeps calling you, then stick to your rule. (i.e., don't answer the phone, and don't call her back. the common courtesy of a greeting when you meet outside the home is okay, but try to make it not go beyond "hi how are you?")  i'd make it a period of about four to six months. \n\nget out there and talk to and look at and be around other women. get to know other women. date. even if it's the friendly sort of date that doesn't go anywhere. cultivate your crushes. enjoy your life. find a new hobby or hang-out that has nothing to do with your old relationship. in fact, try one that your old girlfriend didn't like or prevented you from doing. look forward to finding someone you can love. \n\nthe reason i have never "gone back" is because i keep focused on the reasons why i don't want to be with that person, and i remind myself that being alone is a good thing. i also remind myself that it is a waste of time to be with someone who doesn't present as the "love of your life."
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The first thing you need to do if you don't already is to learn to love yourself, and care for yourself. If you cannot do that , then why would anyone else? So you can attract a person who loves you by becoming more of a loving person yourself. There are great bonuses to this method.
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Well, it's sad but true: IGNORE HIM!!! it really works 4 me, when my guy is ignoring me or wants to treat me like I don't even exist, I show him he cannot do it to me and just pretend that I got to accept it just because I love him, so, I ignore him until he's forced to react and ask what happens, and when he asks me I just tell him: U just got to learn to treat me as the magnificent woman I'm not as a ****!!