Why don't guys like to date a woman who has kids?
924428
There are several reason why some guys will not date women with children.  First, some people may not be ready to settle down, especially with a ready made family.  Secondly, a lot of guys do not like the idea of having to raise another man's children.  Also, some men are very selfish and do not like the idea of having to share attention with children.  Perhaps the biggest reason is that men are afraid of extra drama concerning the baby's father.  There are some men out there that do not mind dating women with children though.  Your cousin just needs to stop trying so hard.
60441
my opinion, thats wrong. that is by no means a reason that you should date someone. thats how people end up as young single mothers, in court over paying for child care or whatever. okay, maybe i am just shooting off, but really. it is very immature and irresponsible, if anything.
868404
I'm a grown azz woman. I myself have two kids and a ex husband. He first would have to deal with that! I would deal with his situation as well. Kids come first or should in any type of relationship! \n\nMy ex BF had a child and our kids got along great. I use to talk to his "baby's momma" on the phone all the time to plan play dates and etc...What these girls now days need to understand is that you are with this man now. She was his past, she will always be a part of his past and future with the two of them caring for their child. If these girls cant handle what the ex looks like or how many times she calls you etc...then dump there azz. You nor your child deserves to be treated in any such way. Find yourself a woman that loves you and respects you and TRUSTS you no matter what! \n\nIve got mine finally and he is the best thing ever!!! My kids adore him and so does my ex husband!
851922
There are some strange guys that think having children is a sign of their virility and of their dominance over women.  Like I said, strange.\n\nThere are some guys that think family (and that means kids) is great.\n\nThere are some guys that don't understand the connection between sex and kids; oops, she pregnant agin - how'd she do dat?\n\nSome women want kids more than some men.\n\nThere are guys who don't want kids.  They're out there. You just have to mean it when you say it; chances are, if you're young, that you'll start wanting kids when you get older.  So, like I said, you better mean it when you say it.\n\nYou don't really need to get married if you're not having kids.  That doesn't mean that you can't be in a committed monogamous relationship; but until you are older and sure that you both don't want kids, why get married?
667613
Indeed. But then again, it depends on if his children are already having a lot of terrible behavioral issues and if their mother is woman enough to try and be civil with the new woman in Dad's life.\n\nI don't instantly disqualify men for having kids, but I do dig a little deeper to find out if there are any red flags. There's no sense in getting invovled with a man with children if you're not going to be in it for the long haul.\n\nI believe that like women who are single moms, single Father's are a sacred thing. Don't start trampling on the hearts of our youth...that's a whole different kind of bad karma.\n\nbest of luck!
360379
No, I think it makes you stand out even more. I give you a lot of credit doing what you're doing. I would date a girl with kids, as long as the kids weren't complete Hellers.
631084
I have children, so Its not out of the question to date a woman with kids. Usually when there are chidren involved the woman is more stable and knows what type of man she wants to be with. Which is a good thing, plus when/if the relationship works out a man wins the love of not only a good woman but a beautiful child that loves him unconditionally. How do woman feel about dating a man with children?
91051
Try an online dating service, not here. Why do you insist she have children? Sorry but it sounds creepy.
978032
You know, it's usually the nicer guys that mind, which sucks.  Because a nice guy thinks, what if I become really involved and then it doesn't work out, I'm going to be hurting her, and the child...\n\nBut also there's a real problem with some women trying to "rope in" a guy.  From what I've heard on the radio is that if you even lived with someone with a child and then break up, she can claim child support, because even though you're not the father, you acted as a father figure.  So because of stuff like that we're also a little bit scared.\n\nSo if a guy is really into you, it won't be a problem, actually if your kid is well behaved, it might even be a bonus, but the problem is that many guys won't even give it a shot because of the possible complications.\n\nI think the biggest thing here is confidence.  If you show a guy that you're perfectly happy as you are (even if that's not 100% so) and that you want him because you like him as a person and not because you want to find a father figure for your son/daughter, or get a second stream of income, then he might actually spend enough time with you to get to know you and take things from there.\n\nGood luck.
228340
No, but I don't think its easier either.  It's hard for everyone to find someone who's physically attractive, mentally stable, compatible perosonality wise, and for the mothers accepting of your children.  But that's why you date, and hopefully have fun, before you meet that special person!!
384549
Because peer pressure says they should be and they have no respect for a woman's mind rather than their body. Don't sweat it though, there are plenty of guys who like bigger girls out there, and besides almost everyone of those guys will end up with a girl that eventually will be fat anyway after the kids and life takes it toll, so screw 'em.
317374
maybe some who are afraid of the responsibility of haveing to take care of a kid.      but other than that i dont really thinkso,  unless your fat and ugly.  but some men even like some fat and all have diferent idea of what is ugly or pretty
899416
It's going to take a special kind of guy. Most guys want to be number one in your life, and as you know, they will always be number 3 to you. That and they won't like confrontation with your ex. \nEither way, you should try to date without letting the kids meet your next guy for months. It's not healthy for the kids to get any more confused than they already will be. And you don't want them getting attached if it's not serious.
367571
I have dated several times since I started having children. My first priority is my family. I would never chose a man over them so I am always honest from the beginning that they come first and are most important.\nNo man meets my family until I am comfortable with him and feel like it is the right fit. We have been through enough no reason for them to get attached to someone just to be hurt again. Sure of course something may happen the relationship doesnt work out. But I need to be comfortable in it before my baby meets the man.\nSo the man always knows about them...they do not know about him right away.\nThe only REAL difference I see in dating is I can not just up and go out. I very rarely leave my children with a sitter (ummmmm....ummmmm I remember once and that was a GOOD friend otherwise the only couple of other times its been family) so its not like I can just plan a hot Friday evening out Friday morning.\nMost guys are accepting and even love that I have a family and am very family orientated
422338
Well, I have never personally met any women who wouldnt appreciate dating a single father. I have had a couple chances, but it never worked out just because we never got past the first day, had nothing to do with his kids. I would prefer to date a single dad because Im ready to settle down and cant have children of my own, but want children. I have found that the reasons of not wanting to date a single dad vary on what point the female is in her life. Now a days, women are more career oriented and not looking to have kids for awhile if at all simply because they believe children create a barrier between their career and success. Younger women, they are enjoying life partying and whatnot, and don't normally want to have to worry about anyone or children to put a stop to their usual party lifestyles. Its all about the woman and what she wants for her life. If you meet a woman who is unsure of what she wants, you cant expect her to accept your kids because she does have a choice and the path she may choose for her future may not include kids. A good conversation piece for a first or second date would be to find out what she wants out of life, where she sees herself in the next few years, etc...you may pick up signals and pieces of information from that conversation that will help you decide if she is heading in a direction where she will have the time and can accept you as well as your children. Single parents are precious and sacred and should be considered a lot more serious than dating a single person. Hope this helps!
1084135
Men love smart women.\n\nWhat guy (who has at least half of a brain) wants a dumb girl to raise his kids?????????????????\n\nAnd, it sure would make for a nicer life if the woman was smart enough to bring home a decent amount of money to help the family have a nice life.\n\nAs a dad, I KNOW that my hope is that my kids --- both boys AND GIRLS --- are smart.\n\nOh, if a guy gets intimidated, he's not going to get intimidated by a smart girl (although she MIGHT be boring).  A guy is far more likely to get intimidated by a totally gorgeous girl.
556100
I don't think all women are like that. I have found that since I am now divorced that even men who have children expect me to forsake my sons, or I have heard lines like you have to take care of your needs first. I have friends who put their loves in front of their children. I get very upset with them. Mother or Father your children should come first. \n\nJust that some men and women are selfish and self centered. Usually they are like that as parents as well. I take that as a sign that I shouldn't get involved.  I have an ex who is like that.  It is all about him and his needs before his children's.