Is it normal to be angry over your parents divorce or separation?
914698
See if you can make your anger work for you by learning to be the best person you can be. Then when the time comes for you to get married and have kids, you will have picked the right person and you will always be together.
454176
Your grieving. It is normal.  Divorce is a death. The death of a marriage. Like any death it takes time to grieve.  No matter if you wanted the divorce it is the end of a relationship.  When you spend the majority of your life with some it is really hard to stop caring and wanting to talk to them.  You will feel sad and cry. Something will remind you of him.  You have to remember why you felt you had to leave him. It will get better with time.
1019814
That is really up to the parents and how they handle the divorce to a large degree.  First off you have to realize every child is unique and sees things differently so you have to treat each of your kids differently and not assume that one method works for everyone.  Mostly though the kids react based upon how their parents react and how they perceive the divorce.  If things go smooth and there is a good relationship between the parents that helps a lot.  It is also important for both parents to communicate openly with the kids about what is going on and why.  This is one of those instances where you need to not talk down to your kids but treat them almost as adults.  You have to communicate clearly and also take time to listen to them and how they see things and how they feel.
342767
not necessarily. from my childhood experience, my mom argues a lot with my dad (rest his soul) and to her current beau. it makes me mad listening to their topic and i told my husband, if i start acting that way, please remind me of my mom so i wouldn't do it. \n\ni guess i got a phobia of hearing argument and it makes me upset cause it affected the family for sure. all my brothers hates argument as well cause of our mom, they are all married now but very quiet and never argue at all. we are glad that we got our dad's attitude cause it will be a havoc to our future if we inherit such horrible traits.\n\nso it's up to you if you want to be like your family, would you want a peaceful life? good luck and hope you didn't inherit it.
171609
That is a hard situation. I myself have slight feelings like that. My husband and I don't get along that well and I feel like he treats me like crap but we have a 5 month old son. Sometimes I want to leave and then I don't. If the problem is bad enough I would say to seperate, yes it will affect the kids but if you stay together it is going to affect them more. I don't know your situation exactly but if there is arguing and stuff children do pick up on that very easily. I would suggest counseling first if you haven't tried that already. You obviously loved each other at one point to have children. Do everything to make it work and if it doesn't then at least you know you tried.
699162
Ok....  you have two choices.....  get involved or not get involed. You can confront your father and tell him how angery you are or you can ignore it. To the sounds of it, you dont want to ingore it. Look sweetie, no one get through a divorce with out some type of heartache. Just remember that both parents love you and this isnt a reflection of how things will be in the future....  Im sorry honey and good luck!
213063
Hey, I know how you feel. I'm the one who told my ex-husband that I wanted a divorce and it took him 2 years to get up off his lazy butt and have it finalized. As for why your ex-husband still acts bitter, I really don't know. MEN!!!
1094910
i've gone through a lot of emotional issues from the time i was little. My father as an abusive ex-drunk and my mom has always been somewhat verbally abusive. How do i feel about it?I hate the fact that i was never really allowed to have a care free childhood and hate having memories of my dad beating me up or having to leave my house at night because my mom and dad had fought.
1000910
I think it would be really hard to try and not be selfish at a time when the world is shaking apart. Divorce, even a divorce that was a long time coming, causes a division of family and assets and emotion. \n\nI think it takes a strong person to put that aside and do what's best for their child without wanting to ignore the world to deal with that pain and stress.\n\nGood job in working it out though. :)
1089431
At one time or another, parents are annoying - but then again - so are children.\n\nYou don't indicate why you are a loner, but I am concerned for you at age 27 that you seem just fine with being a loner and contuing to live in this existance...is it fulfilling for you?  \nDo you plan to live with your parents for the rest of their lives?\n\nIt sounds to me like your mother loves you - esp. when she is being overprotective - because if your mom didn't care, then she wouldn't be asking you too many questions, paying your bills, etc.\n\nIf you don't have any hobbies or things that you do outside your home, then you should try to develop outside interests - when your mother or even your father is driving you crazy, why not go to a movie, or simply get out of the house, get some breathing space and calm down?\n\nPeople who are close are often known for pushing buttons and since you and your parents are so close, you may both be guilty of pushing each other's buttons.\n\nBut I don't think you hate your parents - they simply get on your nerves - and that is very common.\n\nHopefully you will work out ways where your parents don't get to you quite as much as they do now.  Or maybe you are taking out your frustrations on them.
1134422
I think your angry because your hurt.    You desire to stay in one place,  don't want to keep starting over, you want stability in your life and want to be able to believe that what your mom says is true.  I think your anger is a combination of many other emotions.  Resentment, sadness and frustration. What you could do, is tell your mom, when you are not angry,  that you feel hurt at the fact that her words and her actions are not the same. Next time she says i promise, say mom, i love you but don't make promises you can't keep.  It may not seem like a big statement to say but it will let out some of your feelings. When you disagree with someone and you don't express how you feel and save it for later you are a time bomb waiting to happen. So each time you have the opportunity to express and emotion other than anger let it out even if it is just a little bit. After some practice you might see that your anger won't be as intense.
933612
It's called misplaced anger. We are all susceptible to it. If something is upsetting me I gently tell my son to leave me be for a little bit and explain that it has nothing to do with him, it's just that I need to be alone; so that I don't take my anger out on him. But not all parents have that foresight.
206687
unfortunantly theres not much you can do- I also was 12 when my parents divorced--it hurt my feelings really bad...but I think my advice to you would be to just let them know that you love them both and that you wish they could work things out--but that if they can't you still love them and want everyone to be happy. I think if I were in your parents situation that would help more than anything--its hard but- in time things will work out one way or another, I wish you the best and hope you and your parents are all happy in the end.
70746
I'm in 11th grade and I would say that is normal. I never really went through the stage of being annoyed by my parents and getting mad at them easily or wanting nothing to do with them, but I've also seen many many people who have. It may take a few years, but she will most likely be back to herself eventually.
13268
Can you be a bit more specific about the situation? How does SHE feel? Is she separated? Unhappy? You definitely aren't nuts though. Many have been there before and will be in this situation again.
304365
You will have emotional days, its totally normal. But you have to be happy that you are still with your parents. You could have been all by yourself or with people you have to get used to. Eventually you will make new friends. Just find the goodthings and enjoy.
188481
my parents are divorced, and have been since i was 4 years old. i've had a great childhood and i thinnk that everyhting worked out for the better. not only were my parents happy, i lived in an environment without fighting/ marital problems. my parents have joint custody, so i've lived with my mom but can visit my dad on weekends or as i please (when he isn't working). in addition to my parents and siblings being happier, my parents have both remarried, which i think has ben a great experience and i greatly love both of my step-families.