My BF gets super defensive when I ask about where he's been.....does that mean he has something to hide?
921096
the answer is....Yes! Maybe not full-blown cheating...but he is up to something!
467015
because is not a good answer. there needs to be more detailed information. this means that he doesn't know his ass from a hole in the ground...if he can't give you a good enough reason, then you need to move on...
954107
he has to keep the door open just in case he wants to get back if he needs to or the opportunity presents itself.  that shy nerdy stuff, OK maybe before anything jumped off i can see that but now that it has the ball is in his court and he either wants to be with you or not.  if it's there, he will make a way to ensure that it happens again.  if it's a question about how what happened changed the relationship, that is something you have to decide to figure out if you're willing to wait around to have explained to you.
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Wrong!!! He's wrong for not giving you the information that you need.  You should demand that he divulge information about himself.  What is he trying to hide.  You need to be very direct and firm in your approach.  Good Luck!!!
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You have to figure there is a travel day involved and then the first day they probably ran all ober the place.  Also, if there is a time difference, or the cell phone doesn't work in that place, that could be a reason too.  You are probably making up worse things than what is really going on.  If your bf or gf hasn't done anything in the past to make you doubt them, then don't let your mind play tricks on you now.
520700
Well I wouldn't accuse him of anything....but I would watch very closely for any future "disappearances" or "unusual" behavior and then maybe confront and/or leave him.  Good luck! :)
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Sounds to me like hes embarassed about his feelings towards you. He probably wants to keep what you two have in private, which isn't such a bad thing..believe me. It's alot easier to have a real relationship without everyone's prying eyes all in your buisiness.
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he probably needs something from you ? watch out or trying too make up for something. depending how close you are with him keep on i&#92;eye on him and don't tell on yourself.
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A couple things I can say on this coming from "experience".  The only time anyone would be suspicious of you is if they themselves were doing something they shouldn't be.  Most importantly and very concerning is this... \nI'm not sure how long you have been together or what your relationship is like, but there are distinct signs of future abusive behaviors here.  Your best option is to discuss this with him and express your concerns.  If he's not willing to tell you or worse it explodes into an argument, cut your losses (no matter how hard it may be) and leave.  Reality should tell you if you can't talk, there's no future.  No one deserves to be treated like that and you should have more respect for yourself to know there is someone out there that will treat you the way you should be.\nGood luck to you...
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How old is your relationship?  If it's a fairly new relationship...you're not going to get absolute total honesty right away.  He's still tryiing to impress you and woo you and will lie (even little lies) not to hurt you or he will do so to impress you.  If this is the case and its a new relationship... just have a little patience and wait until this bumps up a notch in relationship intensity.  If this is a fairly mature relationship... just confront him with your concerns... not in a hateful accusatory way... but in a frank, I'm confused about this way.  The way he chooses to respond to you will hold the answer you seek.  Good luck
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Sounds like he's trying to let you know what's going on...you're not listening.  If he's in good health overall (not overweight, smoker, etc) then it could be due to him holding out for you, preoccupied, stress, etc.  There are a lot of reasons why men lose an erection.  A lot of the time my b/f holds out for me and then when I'm good..he's good with that.  He's held out so long, it goes away.  He's usually ready to go again in 10 mins, though.  The fact that you cheated on him really doesn't help.  He may be picturing you doing some of the things you do with him, with someone else.  He's going to be questioning every new thing you do in bed.  "New tricks?  New man?"  It's all about communication.  Let him know you're concerned and really LISTEN to his responses.  You two will work it out if it's meant to be.  He needs to truly forgive you for your mistake and move on if he wants to make it work...you'll need to bring his trust level back up.  Hope I helped...
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possibility that he is. do you have more than just his lies to back up your question? Did he say anything, not say anything, or lie about something big? Ask him what is going on. he might just b honest with you. good luck!
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if he asks u 2 open his emails, it means he's not hiding anything.\njust ask him casually wat that pic is doing in his inbox \nim sure there's no big deal!\n\nits just that there r so many flirty bitches who like 2 mess up somebody else's relationships
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when you are asking this question, he probably is! Ditch him. you shouldn't be asking this if you felt secure!
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he's being honest with you, now you know he doesn't keep anything from you, that's a very comforting feeling . i know it sucks that he used to go to strip clubs in the past but he doesn't anymore. in relationships one of the best things is honesty and he's giving that to you...=o)
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I think everyone has untold secrets. I wouldn't tell him unless he specifically asked.  Then I would not lie to him.  I am sure he has secrets and they should be kept that way.  Your shrink is right in saying the past is the past and has nothing to do with him.
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OK, lets look at your question...  "while I was housesitting this week I accidentally ran across undeniable evidence that he has a boyfriend".\n\nNo, you did not "accidentally" run across "evidence", you were being nosy. To justify you being nosy you then turn around and say "he's been LYING to me over and over for months and months". If you feel so hurt and angry, how do you think he will feel when he finds out about what you have done while housesitting? Yes, you should confront him...  about you being judgmental and not being the true friend that you have pretended to be to him.