I am a 17 yr old male in perfect health--why is it so difficult for me to have an orgasm?
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First it sounds like you are really stressed out about it. I think life would suck if I couldn't have an orgasm so I feel for you honey. I think if you want a drug, call your doctor and make an appointment. Try different positions, different lubricants, and different toys. Something else that might be causing your inability to orgasm without yourself involved is if you masturbate a lot. If you feel comfortable with it, google orgasm problems and read some articles about it. That might help you figure out what it is.
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You need to know yourself and what causes you to acheive orgasm, then you share with your guy or girl what turns you on. Some women do not acheive orgasm before having their first child.Some women never acheive orgasm.....If all else fails learn to fake.\n\nYou could also learn to control your pc muscles... this is done by exercising these muscles,act like you are trying to stop a urine flow and like you are trying to stop yourself from passing gas, these muscles are the the ones you need to exercise over and over if nothing else it will keep you tight and exciting.
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Not all women have orgasms easily, I only get one about 3/6 times.  Ususally the best way to have one is by oral, before penetration.
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Sometimes a woman cries from the sheer enjoyment of an orgasm.  If it has been a trying day or week, the release of an orgasm can open the floodgates of emotion that may have been held back previously.  It is rarely because of the act itself but because it is a time when your mind and body are relaxed and so you no longer have control over your emotions for a short period of time.  It is nothing to worry about. Just be happy that the orgasms are that satisfying!
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you need to relax your self , you are thinking about it too much an d you end up having no orgasm, You need to relax and stop thinking about your orgasm :) you will get one
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You'll be one of those sad sad women who never orgasm.  \n\nIn order to come during sex you have to figure out how to make yourself come.  That means you need to spend some quality time with your right hand (or left if you're a leftie) and your brain.  Think about what YOU like, what turns YOU on, and how it makes YOU feel.  It has been my experiance that women who do not orgasm do so because they have no idea what they even like.  They see sex as something you do for someone or with someone, not something you do for yourself.\n\nBuy books on the subject, from fantasies to anatomy to technique.  Get a hand mirror and check yourself out down there.  Look at internet porn.  Read some erotica or Harlequin romance novels.  Spend a lot of quality time with your hand between your legs.  Think about buying a vibrator.  Learn the shower head trick.  Take mental notes on what works and what does not.  \n\nYou have to take a certain ammount of responsibility for your own sexual pleasure.  You're the only one who can make it happen.
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I DONT KNOW WHY YOUR HAVING THIS SENSITIVITY U MIGHT NEED TO GO TO YOUR O.B. GYN AS FOR THE ORGASM... NOT ALL WOMEN EXPERIENCE AN ORGASM...HAVE U EVER REALLY HAD ONE? ALOT OF WOMEN THINK TOO MUCH ABOUT IT. YOU NEED TO REALLY RELAX AND KNOW HOW TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO HAVE ONE ITS NOT JUST UP TO YOUR PARTNER/BOYFRIEND HE'S THERE TO HELP,THAT'S FOR SURE BUT IT IS ALSO UP TO U
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you must be carfefull what you put in your body, the tissue in that area tears very easily which could lead to infection.  Start with something small, a small vibrator, or a--l  beads, do not use anything organic, (veggies)  Use a good lubricant, KY jelly.  Understand there is not direct connection between stimulating your prostate and achieving orgasm.
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It's all up to you. I assume you're young, I have a great feeling you are. But understand, It is natural for a guy to want to. It's pleasing to males also to know it makes you feel good. But do not do anything you're unsure or very uncomfortable with. You ofcourse will be unconfortable with it being as you're unsure but it shouldn't stop you from trying it. If YOU want to, that is.\n\nBest of luck.
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Most women will not be able to achieve orgasm through intercourse alone. Generally a woman will require clitoral stimulation before they can orgasm. Try oral and have him focus on your clit, or go and buy yourself a vibrator.
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mostly guys get their first orgasm between 13~15 yrs. i got it when i was 14
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Try different techniques. There's more than one way to masturbate, and the longer you tease yourself, the greater the orgasm is. That's why foreplay is so important. Slow things down, tease yourself, enjoy it for as long as possible, then finish off with an orgasm. It's not abnormal.\n\nThen again, as I said, you could try different ways of masturbating. See the link below.
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What you are going through is not weird and it's definitely normal! i had the same problem...I had sex hundreds of times but I could never have an orgasm. I always thought something was wrong so I just faked it all the time. My boyfriend now and I have amazing sex and by experimenting I have found the only position that I can have an orgasm! I hope this isn't too graphic but here is what we do...\n\nHave him lay on his back and you climb on top. While he is inside of you move your legs to the inside of his and make sure they are straight. Slide yourself up and down this way and I can almost guarantee you will have an orgasm! This position rubs me the right way everytime! It's the best feeling in the world when you have your first orgasm during sex! Good luck and I hope this works!
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The more intercourse you have the better you get at things. If there comes a time where you are about to orgasm, pull it out and place your thumb over the head. It sometimes works. Have you tried foreplay first? Give that a go as well. Sometimes that makes you orgasm sooner than expected as well but if all fails there is always viagra.  It could come down to yourself being too eager as well. Take things slow and in time you will get better at it. All the best and hope you find the right solution to your problem.
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Of course not! You are not the only one, there are some other people having this kind of trouble in this world. Please try to see a doctor who is an specialist of this arena. He/she will be able to suggest you the most important and accurate things. Best wishes for your good health.
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I've been masturbating since I was 16 and don't see a problem where it has cause me to become weak or to not physically  develop properly.  I'm now a healthy grown man (and still enjoy masturbation).
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Maybe you are waiting too long before having sex.The more you have sex the longer you should be able to go before you ejaculate.As you get older and more experienced you should be able to go longer.Don't worry,a lot of men have this problem,you're not alone.It should get better with time and experience.Good luck.Actually I like jonnyboy's answer.