Why is it that the people I love and love me, I cant so it back,emotionally?
917227
Well, did you have something happen to you as a child. It took me 37 years to come out of my shell and realize that I had to be able to love myself before I could love anyone else. \nIf something traumatic happened to you sometime in your life, it will effect you. Trust me I know. I was adopted when I was 8 years old and given to a family that didn't want me. I paid the ultimate price for their hate...child abuse. I still have problems with it to this day but I don't let it consume me. \nYou need to talk to someone about all of this. Don't put if off because it can consume you. And it will make you bitter. \nGood luck. I hope this helps.
1172426
I'm there with ya. Its because we are good to people and they want to use you. You should be me cause I have one person I am coming close to hating and its a family member by marriage. It is also because some people drive others to that conclusion and it is a natural emotion.
538882
apparently she loves you!  not many people are left in this world that are willing to put aside their own emotions to spare anothers.  let her help you or just let her be there.  anymore love is hard to find, you have found someone who apparently will stick behind you through thick and thin don't let that go, you may regret it down the road.  she is on your side shes not against you, lean on her don't push her away
670001
thats not something someone can answer for you, you need to try to do things that make you happy, and be around your friends, eventually you will be able to let them go, just know they are always with you....
596711
Believe in yourself dear...I know how you feel coz I went thru that...you have said so that they are not your friends and I know that letting go is tough...just try to engage in activities that allows u to know more ppl and gradually, u will be able to let go...dun let this ruin ur life! Friends come and go, dun hang on to those who are not worth hanging on...the vast world has friends for you...
673416
Because they seem to get this crazy idea in mind that just because they've had you they own you. Going through the same with mine at the moment. I feel your pain. lol
152620
Try not to let others effect that emotion, and except that people are mostly selfish, and mean, and into themselves.\n\nThis is a sad truth we all must accept, because to a certain extent, we all that way.
1080059
you can not make someone love you . i think that hurt s alot .  you think you love an ought for both of you.
194632
honey i have the same problem but if u truely love him then u can't get over him i tried but it just keeps pulling me back 2 him!!! i say u tell him that u love him & tell him whne ur ready i'll be here but i hope ur ready soon b/c i want u so much & i loveu!!!
357452
why do u repress it? start expressing it. there is nothing wrong in being angry. if some people around u can not tolerate it they have to leave and they re not your real friends. be yourself and show your feelings. those who love u for what u re can tolerate a lot trust me.
354316
i had the same problem,and it wasn't good hey. maybe someone you trusted hurt you in someway(just an example) and now you find it hard to open up to others and let them in. well you have to learn to accept the fact that you are an amazing person who deserves friendship and love. you deserve good people around you,you deserve the pleasure of being yourself around others and forming relationships with people you care for, because you are your own person,you owe it to yourself to form relationships with people you feel for.
307854
Could it be possible that you are affraid to let your emotions flow because you fear getting hurt? You obviously know how to communicate as you are asking a question to complete strangers. Is it a fear of intimacy or a fear of expressing your emotions? Take the time to think about it. I'm sure the answer you seek is already in you. You may just need more time for self reflection to realize it. And if not, then put yourself in his shoes and see how you would feel if you were him and didn't hear it said back. Good luck with this.
1117288
because it is easy to love... but hard to hold on... \n\nif u truly love.. u can hold on :)
365367
It'll be hard to do and even if you do regain those feelings it's going to take time.  Seperating myself from my other is helping me miss those feelings.  Not a hundred percent sure if we'll make it, but unless there is too much at stake no one should fake it till they make it.  Good luck and atleast you're trying.
62263
U cant control ur feelings but u can control ur actions.Preserve ur dignity,move on and hope 4 the best.
781481
may i ask, why she couldn't love you back? is there another guy in the picture? but from your story there seems no one..or she doesn't feel like the way you do? i think love can be developed, that is if she is willing to open her heart and that you'd be willing to wait...there'll ba a good chance..\n\nunconditional love is a sacrifice you have to bear and no one can stop you from that...it is something that we do voluntarily...if you cannot live away with her since it makes you even unhappier then it's all up to you...but until when can you put up with this...until she breaks your heart by choosing someone over you despite the things you have done for her? it can happen..\n\nif not now, you will eventually tire out later...yes, you might not love someone as much as you love her but, we, as humans are destined to be with someone to fill that space inside our heart...we long for someone that will make us whole, it's a primal instinct...\n\nas hard as it may seem why don't you give her and yourself a space...not see her for some time maybe she will then realize what you really meant to her...most of the time, we only value things or people when they're already gone...if she doesn't come looking for you then there is no hope to answer your love for her...anyway, you know it's not the end of the world...you will survive it...\n\nwhat is more painful is the wasted time and emotions spent...
817529
Theres nothing we can do. Love can't be forced on people. they have to come to it on there own terms.