lesbians are still human so why ppl hate us? and afraid of our frenship?
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A lot of people have strong religious feeling about homosexuals. Several religions call for dealing with it by execution. Other end of the spectrum, some religions institutionalize it. None consider it a normal way of life.\n\nI have never met anyone who was "homophobic" rather they find homosexuals to be unclean, i.e. what the Old Testament calls abominations. The "homophobia" thing is an attempt to gain recognition as normal peopl being discriminated against like a racial or cultural minority group.\n\nI sympathize with you, I spent 30 years working in an institution that considered all but an inner clique of morons to be less than human (U.S.Gov't).\n\nRejection always hurts, the fact that it is prolonged and sanctioned by society does not make it easier to bear.
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because people are cruel and want to target someone that is different then them. I wish everyone would just leave gay people alone. They are also human beings with feelings!!
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Humans have always hated in others what we hate about ourselves.  That is why you have so many people angrily attacking things they say they hate about our society.  Yet, what they hate the worst is what they see in the mirror everyday.  Normally, this isn't an issue but lately many of these hateful people have taken positions of power in our national government and that looks to be leading us to yet another unjust war.  Too make that situation even worse, these folks hide their hate behind religion... what a dangerous and explosive combination.
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I could take the obvious shot at the homophobic and hateful, but that's an easy one.  Too easy.  Plus, I don't think there are any more real 'freaks' in American society- either someone is pure evil (rapists, practicing pedophiles, murderers, etc.) or someone who is understood and accepted as different (i.e. there are no more freak shows in circuses- it's politically incorrect and we know they are human beings).\n\nAs for groups that irritate me, how about radical lesbian feminists?  The ones who coined the term 'off our backs', who called women who enjoyed and didn't help vilify pornography 'perverts', who called butch-femme relationships invalid attempts to mimick heterosexual couples, who called women who enjoyed S/M and being sexually submissive a perversion and anti-feminist act, who denounced any woman who wanted to be a little housewife and mother and enjoyed that, who politically attacked actual men themselves with their words, rather than the patriarchy (which is a very different thing), thus earning the lesbian icon as 'man-haters', who turn sex into a political thing (as in 'we surpassed the love of men' instead of 'I like screwing women'), who accuse FtM's of transitioning to men in order to get male privilege, who say things like 'women should/act look like women' and condemn butch women.  I like lesbians, and I'm okay with feminists, but these radicals, who espouse theory over reality and are so very hateful and exclusive are awful.  I hate them/they irritate me because:\n\n1) Lesbians already get enough flak; they know what it's like to be persecuted, discriminated, and excluded.  So what do these people do- turn around and do the same thing- despicable.\n\n2) They caused a huge step backwards in terms of women's sexuality, both gay and straight, by politically defining the correct desires a woman should have.  And that's just awful.\n\n3) They earned lesbians the name 'man-hater' and ideologically persuaded a lot of women to feel that way- something that we still have trouble shaking off, which is sad.\n\n4) As I said before, they act as if lesbianism is a political choice rather than a sexual orientation, and you should choose who you sleep with as a statement/message rather than because you love that person and they turn you on.  The idea still persists- you hear straight women say 'I'm so sick of men, should I become a lesbian?'- more confusion over what GLBT really is.\n\n5) They do nothing but criticize and nitpick instead of doing what feminists should be doing- helping to make the world better/more equal for women, and what lesbians should be doing- enjoying and loving other women.
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why not?? you're a human being and human beings have friends... not only gay or lesbian friends cause you're gay, but all kinds of friends :)
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Because there is this funny cultural idea that if you want women to be equal members of society then you must hate men.  There is also this funny cultural idea that lesbians hate men.  Hence, all feminists must be lesbians.\n\nAll of this is humorous to me, since I'm a Women's Studies major and I've never come accross a feminist in person or in scholarship who hated men, aside from a couple seperatists in the early 70's who were never relevent to the larger feminist movement itself.  I would say that 75% of feminists are straight, 15% are bi, and 10% are lesbians.  I'm also bisexual with a lot of lesbian friends, and none of them hate men.  They're apathetic to men.  \n\nI wish more men would get involved in feminism, because patriarchy hurts men as much as women.  Men shouldn't have to live up to all this manly man bullcrap and always be afraid to show any "weakness" or emotion or have to endlessly police the behavior of themselves and others.  It is stupid and insanely stressful.  It is just as stupid as women having to live up to madonna/whore dichotomies or having to constantly be judged on their appearance or being passed over for the best promotions.  Gender discrimination and ridgid expectations hurt us all and we need all people to unite against all this crap.
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I may get yelled at for this but...\n\n...there is a Freudian explanation that says that people are homophobic because they are surpressing their own erotic feelings towards the same sex.\n\nThe other explanation is that they are narrow minded idiots ;-)
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Would it be so terrible if you did become a lesbian?  You are what you are.  Better to be true to yourself, don't you think?
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Society has a "NORM"... anything that falls outside of that very small box is something to be afraid of.  Hate stems from fear.  Gays and Bisexuals fall outside of the box along with goths, handicaps, people with blue hair, cleft lips, chicks with spikes, people who don't wear shoes, camel toe, albinos, big frizzy hair, lisps or stuttering, and the list goes on...\n\nIt's not that there is anything wrong with these things if you really think about it... it's just an initial reaction and most people don't think beyond it.
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Interesting article indeed. I do agree with you in the sense that it is not a choice- it is only explainable by they way a person FEELS or thinks, not by the way he WANTS to think. I hate people who hate people with different sexual orientations- they dont have a right to judge people by their feelings and preferences, although i dont have a gay/lesbian friend in person.
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Lesbians are communist?  You are entitled to your view, and they to theirs.  I thought we fought for freedom in this country.
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They probably feel afraid to be around them like they have a disease they can catch or something. But we're all God's children and we shouldn't treat people different just because they like someone the same sex as us. I hope that answers your question!!
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Well, people have problems with these classes of people just because they are against nature!!!! Because man, as anything in this world, has to respect the laws of nature! How would you feel, for example, if we had water and land instead of the sky or vice-versa? Even if we take the path of God(god left man and woman together, not two men, not two women, even if we take the Darwin teory(man and woman are mamals, and, like all mamals and beings in this world, have an obligativity to perpetuate their species; are we stupider than animlas not to respect this?), we get to the same logical conclusion. Furthermore, did you know that intill the '70s homosexuality and lesbianism were considered psihological diseases? And do you know that there are people out there that have developed treatments which are quite efficient? Also, I personally have a problem with them because they are trying to act as if they were normal. They can live their life in peace, why all those manifestations and rights-proclaming???(wanting to adopt children.. you can't say that's not a bit sick..)
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The simple truth is, Jason, that human beings must have something to hate.  It is in our nature, unfortunately.  Devout Christians hate the devil, White Supremacists hate anyone darker than they are, the enslaved hate their enslavors, and the warmonger hates peace.  \nOur first emotions toward that which we do not understand are, and always have been, suspicion and hatred.  As cave-people, when we found our possessions, (food, women, shelter) in danger...we felt fear.  We hated the feeling of fear.  The source of that fear/hatred was the unknown predator.  We unleashed our hatred upon the predator, vanquished him/it, and the fear subsided.  It evolved from that.  I'm not saying that I, as a Patriotic American, believe in cruelty or hatred.  I'm simply stating, as an unfortunate fact, it's existence.\nConsequently, I wish peace for you.
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I was once a lesbian, but have since chosen to be with a man. I have a lot of friends who are still lesbians though, and I understand why they choose to be like that. In the cases that I know (including mine), fellow females understand the psyche of their own gender. It's true in most cases, since a lesbian (even if she's a butch lesbian) would still be a girl, and girls get what other girls need and want in a relationship. Of course, there's also some people who just wish to experiment. I would advise that you talk to your friends, learn about what it is about lesbianism that attracts them, and accept them. It is NEVER easy for a gay person to come out, and if they trusted you enough to tell you about this, that speaks a lot about what kind of a friend you are. I am glad that you accept them, and that you want to understand. Frankly my dear, you might never fully comprehend until you are in THAT kind of relationship. But, I admire how you are going about with your confusion. Just be a friend to them. It is their choice. Their lifestyle. And they are your friends. =)\n\nI hope this helps you out. =)
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You may as well ask why people are heterosexual too. There is no reason. They just are. I personally do not believe homosexuals, lesbians and bi-sexuals will burn in Hell. God has room in his house for everyone. Even those who fall outside religious doctrine.
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Hi hun, Just felt like i had to say i am so sorry for what someone said in one of your answers,people come in here as a safe place and some stranger talks to you (many teens) like you are nothing.I'm here to tell you that was a great and curious  question for new people to deal with in our community(lesbian,gay,bi,trans).It really isn't something that is taught but you will come into your own as you spend time around other lesbians maybe in some social events and just feel your way through what fits you best,some are femmes or more known as lipstick lesbians,some are just tomboys and some are soft butch and some are hard core butch,dress and act much like a man.so you see there are many personalities in our world as well as being in a straight world..I wish you the best and just hall er if you need to ok  Bye Deb