My mother is impossible? unbearable?
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there isnt a thing you can do ... i am sorry.... i have a iffy relationship with my mother too... (and i also work with her)....\ni have tryed since i was young to get away from her but somehow it never works out ... although my brothers seemed to have managed it!...lol oh well... just as i get older i try to ignore her "ways"....sometimes its hard ... but at least i do live away from her with my children and husband... but its hard and i think it probably always will be.....just breathe..... and work hard to get your own place!...lol... where you can interact on your terms!... good luck!!!!
500598
It takes time, when my parents seperated it devistated me and I begged my mother to come back, but she never did. Theres nothing you can really do, but look past it. I cried for days and nothing good ever happened.
1034795
Gee, my mom is 80 or so, and I have similar problems. The only thing that has helped me is reading the Crankshaft Cartoon in the newspaper. Seeing that the problem is not unique to my circumstance has enabled me to find some humor in it. \n\nI think perhaps we can learnhow to be patient and not become hateful or angry by having to deal with these situations. I purpose in my heart not to expect my mom to do what I consider logical, or best for her, and condition myself to drop down into the "peace that passes understanding" whenever she refuses to keep track of her holdings. Sometimes it doesn't work, but I am worse off when I allow myself to get upset. \n\nI have started to clean up my own affairs so that I don't do this to my own son as I age. Why, just a few weeks ago, I actually gave away 4 books! (lol) It seems really difficult to fight the process of becoming my mom.
1138406
Talk to her and give her a deadline. Tell her that she needs to move by a certain day, no exceptions! If it doesn't work, remove all of her personal belongings and deliver them to her mother. \nBy reading what you have typed, sounds like you are the type of person who gives in easily to others distress. She needs to understand that you will not take any excuses. Sometimes tough love is just what people need.\nIt is hard to advise on this because we who reply do not know the full situation.\nMaybe the person you are helping is a moocher. Maybe she's afraid to move in with her mother. Without knowing the person's age and situation, it is hard to say whether this person needs a reality check, or compassion.
952772
You're trying to be friends with your Mom and sometimes thats just not possible. It sounds like you two have a lot of issues. She's your Mom and she won't just go away. You have to figure out what YOU can do to make the situation better. Its up to her to realize that you have your own life and although you love her, you can't be there all the time to help whenever she needs it. Figure out whats bothering you so much. Is she a drama queen or maybe too controlling? Try not to get so worked up about it and just look at the problem.
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I think you have to eventually come to grips with the fact that\n\nyour mother has mental/emotional issues and that they have\n\nnothing to do with you. You need to realize that you're caught\n\nin the middle of this insanity, and that eventually all will\n\nbe well. Ride it out, nothing you can do at the moment.\n\nYour mother does not sound well. But I can be wrong.
1055119
i think ur mother is not fit to be called a mother!the difficult part of ur childhood u have managed on ur own and u don't need her help anymore. u are big enough to take care of ur self. u put down ur feet and protest and ask for fair treatment.if that doesn't help then u can go to the police.becoz u are too young to walk out of the house and more than that there are lot of people to exploit u at this age.so be careful sweetheart.things will become alright.god bless you.
70965
call a relative .. grandma is best and have them contact your mother to tell her that .. her daughter? .. needs her or whatever the situation is .. tell the relative to tell your mother .. if you cannot stay with him because of abuse or something you need to contact an authority .. tell a relative what's going on and that you need to get out of the house
601494
Sounds like you are in a terribly awful situation and there just isn't a simple rational way out of it. I can only think of two things that you can do.\n\n If you love your mom unconditionally and you believe your mom loves you equally then the best thing to do is to face the music and tell her about your-self. \n\nIf you truly think your mom will never accept you and you completely depend on your mom and/or you're not sure that the relationship between you and your mom is that deep or strong, which is the case most of the time, then I'm sorry to say that the safest thing to do for your-self is to lie to your-self, to her and everyone else too. You have to try and pretend to be what your mom and everyone else thinks you are or what you should be until you finally feel safe and independent enough to be true to everyone and your-self. Basically, you'll live a lie, hopefully only temporarily, and sacrifice those needs for their expectations. It's gonna suck though, because while every one thinks every thing is cool and smooth, inside you'll be secretly torturing your-self by suppressing your-self for what seems like the longest time. Also you'd have to go through it alone. \n\nI'm sorry I could not be of much more help and I hope things work out ok with whatever you choose to do and that your mom will eventually love you enough to see the true you and not whoever she thinks you are or should be.
820298
well.. she wont understand till either something big happens or till somebody tells her exactly what she needs to listen.\nbut the good point is at least you understand what is right and what is wrong. do not forget that. \nu seem to be a smart person - just try to help her handle the situation but dont try to prove urself smarter than ur mom after all she's the mom way better than u could be and yes --- respect her. she might be a liar, cheater to somebody but atleast she loves u and takes care of u.
503205
First, I am a mother.  You need to think about what you are going to say before you say it. Remember she is the only mother you will have.  Also, try to explain to your mom how you are feeling.  This may help take away some of the frustrations you have.  I was a teenager once, I did alot of aruging with my mom as a teenager and it was about how i felt she was treating my brother a lot better than me, ect, which by the way she did, and now admits.  I ended up moving in with my dad and step monster, oops step mother, and It was find for like 4 months, then she showed her real colors.  It might not seem like it now, but try and talk with your mom, explain that you are just frustrated, and you need to tell her how you feel. I actually thought I hated my mom for many years, but now that I am older, I realize that i didn't hate her, I just did not like her actions, and the decisions she made.
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well she certainly has a mental disorder, multiple at that. \n\npersonality disorder and depression I am sure there is panic/anxiety in there too \n\nShe really needs help, she needs medication and a good evaluation. \n\nHere is something for you. I know you are worried about your mother, I dont know how old you are. Make sure that you have relative that knows what the situation is so that if there is a time where she does that a relative is there to save the day. Because if by chance you were unsucessfull at stopping her, you might blame yourself. Please do not blame yourself. Seek therapy for yourself also, through your doctor or school.\n\nNow I wouldnt recommend this to any child to do, but call Social Services to get your mom the help. Youmight get placed in a foster home or with relatives until your mother gets help, the court can order her to do it and/or commit her themselves.
295455
wow. srry bout that. my mom is like that 2. she gets head ahces all the time! and migranes. you could make her a nice HOT tub off water. for a bubble bath. rent a movie and do somthing fun for just you and her. or you could set up a date at a massageing place 4 her!!! (these things work!)
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That's a really tough question. I know in my grandmother's case she absolutely refused to have anyone do anything for her no matter how exhausted and/or hurt she was from doing things on her own. She was an extremely stubborn woman. We couldn't force her into accepting the help but she eventually got it whether she liked it or not. As it turned out it had devastated her to even the need the help. She was a very proud woman who had raised all eight of her children on her own. She couldn't ask and yet didn't have a problem refusing. She did come around though and realized it wasn't so bad afterall although not without many complaints as to how we weren't doing things correctly. I guess I'm saying if you're mother is hurting help her anyway but do it in such a way that it doesn't invade her privacy or stomp on her pride. It's hard getting older and needing things you didn't need before. Be patient with her. Good luck I hope it all works out. I have to admit I wasn't much help.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your mom - it must be awful hard on you.  There's no way of knowing how much time she has left, but you should cherish every day you have with her. \n\nSupport her through everything she's going through while trying to beat this beast - then you'll know you did everything you could to help her.  And remember, no matter what happens, that she'll always be a part of you in your heart.  Prayer and hope will sustain you.\n\nI wish you the best through all of this and will be praying for your mom and you.
883487
Get sam or the carrot to do it for you. maybe your crazy mother will help.
841465
You are a good son,don't ever think you are a terrible person.I am a disabled mom,my son lives with me and helps me also.Is your mom able to do anything for herself?If so,perhaps you have a senior apartment complex in your area she could go to.Disabled people are also eligible for this even if they aren't yet a senior.They pay 1/3 of their income for rent and utilities,not a bad deal.We have a senior complex in my area of Pa,that is where I will be living once my son wants to move out.You get your own apartment,can have a car,just like living anywhere else.Or,if she needs some help,a assisted care facility might be the answer or even a nursing home if she needs alot of help.Although I'm sure you don't want to think of these options for your mom,you have to think about yourself too.I am still able to get around,and my son helps me a great deal,especially financially.But,as a mother,I would never want to be  burden to him,after all,he does have his own life.I hope your mom isn't making you feel guilty and making you think it is your responsibility,because it really isn't.There are options out there.My best advice would be to talk to the agency in your area that deals with aging.They should be listed in the blue pages or government pages in the phone book.Good luck to you.