wat do you do when you want to me with your babys dad and he has a gf. i love this guy a lot?
914598
He kind of sounds like a creep. Think about it, he has a kid and is with some other girl everyday. He is not thinking about you. I know that hurts, but please realize that you can do better. Try to find a nice guy who can be respectful and loving to you and your child. This man obviously has no family values. He does not listen to you, does not care enough to be a full time father and also does not listen to his own family's opinion. Dump the loser!!!
64596
WEll first off your granfather is prabably just being protective, I would know my dad is like that. Anyways just plain straight out tell him. Write him a letter e-mail,anything. If you do do that make sure to have some good reasons and keep poping up the question why can't you just let me be with him? make him understand you truely love this guy.
494122
I can see this ending in tears.\nYou need to forget about him and move on. He has a baby with someone else, and you'll end up taking that baby's daddy away if you pursue him. His wife needs him, they have a family. If you want a family too, I am sure you will have one one day, just not with this man.\nPlease move on, don't be the home wrecker. Have some pride, move on, and realise that you are a beautiful person who doesn't need to be with someone else's man to make her feel like a woman.
453703
Well he is taken already so yeah you can't go up to him and ask him how he feels for you. But still talk to him and keep an eye on him. Who knows him might break up with his gf to be with you if he really likes you.
32882
I would say try to make it work if you can, it sounds that he is good for your kid.\nDId you loved eachother at apoint?\nIf there is no other way just talk to him
845256
Ask yourself - do you really want be with such a wimp of a man?? Someone who is so shallow that he'd give up his girlfriend because his dad said he can't date you??? And what sort of a father makes a guy choose between his girl and a love of football ?? Sounds like a disfunctional family to me and you are so much better than that - don't pine for him love, feel sorry for him !!!!!!!!!!!!! Be lucky xx
679033
I GUARANTEE that you did the right thing.  I have been there, done that.  If he really loved you, he would not have treated you that way.  Who is more important to you, him or your baby girl?  Do you want your baby girl raised in that type of environment?  Your daughter is your life at this moment.  She comes before ANYBODY, even yourself.  If you love your daughter, think of what is best for her and you will know in your heart that you did do the right thing.  I strongly commend you for getting out of the hell you AND your daughter were in.  NO MAN IS WORTH THE VERBAL, PHYSICAL AND MENTAL ABUSE.
930610
That is a hard thing to go through.  If you know deep in your heart that you guys cannot make it work then you really need to move on and let him do so too.  He's the father of your child, you will always love him for that and hating to see him with someone else is only natural, it kind of like a territory thing.  You probably feel like it's okay for you to move on but it pisses you off that he is.  There's just so much history there that it's going to take time but if you know for a fact that it will not work then wouldn't you want to see him happy with someone then miserable with no one.  You have to also think about that little girl.  Are you guys better parents when you're apart or when you guys are together.  If the answer to that is apart then no matter how much you love him, you can't be with him because of your child's best interest.  \n\nSit down with him and talk about this, seriously and not a passing word here or there and not while you guys are at the park with your daughter.  Tell him that you would like to see him alone, just the two of you to discuss the future of your family.  Really sit down together, not to get intimate, and discuss all the pros and cons of being together or not and then work on it from there.\n\nGood luck to you!
150716
Try to talk him into it slowly. Ask him about his 1st gf and try to compare yourself to him. Tell him that now a days a gf is like a best friend. OR  Get a gf and dont tell him if he asks just tell him that is is one of your friends. Go out on GROUP dates. Parents love them.\n         Hope im a help!
1043045
how come a man can be in a relationship wth you and get other woman pregnant? let the man go i dont care how great he is! let the baby have his father..
263386
I'm sorry your going through this... I've been in your situation before... Well it all depends on hope much pain you want to go through. He loves you yeah but he loves someone else. give me a break. there is a reason why they call our ex's, ex's. If he's not man enough to handle his business and know that yeah he has a baby with another women he should provide for that child but now he's going to have a baby with you. It was hard but I left the man I was with I started over scared but I couldnt take not knowing where was all the time or him telling me he still has feelings for his ex... If he can't decide you have to look out for you and your child... Get out girl....
303528
The first thing is settle for friendship when he does get here. People can be pretty decieving when you meet them in real life. Secondly, you heard he had a gf but it may not be true. Just casually try to find out if he does or not. Having a new father figure in a kid's life can be hard, but he's still at a young age. Just make him get to know the person first, it's always easier that way. Like if you guys go to the park or out for a dinner together. Plus, it's also a nice way to find out how he treats your kid. just take it a day at a time. good luck:)
1045657
Number one: You are not in love.  You just like him a lot.  You definately have a serious crush.  Puppy Love.  Number two:  You won't get over the way you feel unless you do something.  What is the worst that could happen if you talk to him?  He'll talk back, right?  Become his friend since he has a girlfriend.  DO NOT try to take him from his girl.  That causes fights.  Become his confidant.  At least you'll know if he and his girlfriend are having problems or if their relationship is doing well.  You are young so you have plenty of time to find the love of your life.  Always listen to your first mind when it comes to relationships.  ALWAYS listen to your parents. They are always right.  (I know because I got pregnant, and my mom was right about him)  I thought I was in love with a guy who was totally wrong for me.  I became like his best friend.  That is how I knew he was wrong for me.  Now my husband is my best friend.  I knew he was going to be my husband because I listened to my heart of hearts.  It took a while, but I knew because he went out of his way to prove to me that he loved me. Even throughout high school.  He is not my first childs father, but he was there for me when I had her.  He stuck around even when I didn't want him.  He loved me and he loves me today with his whole heart.  Love does not manipulate, hit, or hurt, degrade in anyway.  So if you feel any negativity coming from him in any way beware.  Make sure that you love yourself more than anyone else can love you.  That's how you  can keep a clear head when it comes to love.  Take care.
350985
So Im assuming the baby is this other guys? If so, I would look at the situation. Is this guy going to be a father to this child? And can you accept that she cheated on you in the first place? If you know that hes not going to be around as a father and you are love her and are going to be with her long term, why not stay with her and raise this baby. But if you cant get over her cheating on you and she is wanting to be with this other guy, you should get out while you can. Its only going to get ugly.
667122
First off forget about hurting yourself. You and your then bf made this child out of love, it has a right to be born and raised. It sounds like he at least wants to be there to hlep you raise the child and that's more than what a lot of girls get most have the guy just run off. You do however have to inform your parents, but before you do, the two of you need to talk it outnad figure out the plan for this new little one. The first thing the parents will ask is what are your plans.\n\nYou two may not have been thinking when you made this child, but for it's sake now you must think about a plan. The guy may never come back to you, sounds like he wasn't ready for a commited relationship. Be fully preparred to raise this child as a single parent and if he plans to marry you later than that's fine, but if you expect it you are just going to get hurt.
567259
If it's not his dad, keep clear.  Maybe he's taking over a dad's responsibility.  Keep clear again.  This kid will need a dad.  If his 'dad' is doing everything a dad needs to to then leave well alone.  Don't cause friction.  If the kid is happy with the arrangement, leave well alone.  They'll work it out in the future.  Don't interfere.  Let fate take it's toll without your input.
613393
OMG, dads are all important is their daughter's life.  It really doesnt matter what you do.  It's you, your time, your love, your patience, your understanding, your dicipline, your support that will carry her throughout her life.  It will make her a strong woman, with the ability to make good choices.  You will be her pattern for the mate of her choosing.  Thorougly enjoy your awesome responsibilty, DAD!