How do I cope when my friend has a new bf and forgets I exist?
921640
be happy for them, you'll get your turn
543570
You say you have a new man, if you have you owe it to him to pull yourself together. You needed time to grieve and it doesn't happen over night or from a bottle. Loosing someone from your life is painful, in my experience the most painful thing I have ever had to endure, reminders don't help but they don't go away and you need to look and then dismiss. It will get easier, that's what I keep telling myself and in my position I work with my lover of three years so I get a daily reminder that I wasn't good enough. You need to refocus your energy only concentrate on the good things, accept that from time to time he will pop up accept the thought then find something else to think about....like your new man if you don't make an effort this relationship is also doomed.
431750
i have friends in my life that are going through the same situation, but i think that the best way to move on is to set things straight with him/her and w/ the new girl or boy. then you should try and not hang around as much and just try and become interested in another person
955973
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
273355
If you're worried about how the ex-boyfriend will feel the key word to remember is EX. If he is really your friend he would want you to be happy.
260996
just keep it going..i'm away from my bf too and not likely to meet soon..don't lose touch to keep it fresh...
717224
I've just found out through the devious resorcefulness of my best friend that my boyfriend is cheating on me and it worries the hell out of me how to handle it. :-(
74164
Respect your friend's wishes to make these changes for a while.  \nMaybe she is moving on and maturing in a new relationship.  \nYou are still her friend unless you choose not to be. Be there and show your true friendship and support, and let HER know you are waiting for her on "The other side".  All you can do is be a friend.  You cannot live your friend's live.  Good luck and find some new 'cool' friends if you are bored.  Don't let yourself be too closed in in your thinking; and broaden your friendship base, so that when one moves on, you have others to enjoy.\n\nYou can still like this person for who they are, not what they do or don't do.
870044
Ya get over him. You just gotta realize that in the grand scheme of things he is insignificant. He may have hurt you but people hurt eachother all the time. You yourself have probably hurt someone at some point. Everything that happens does so for a reason. You learned a hard lesson on what not to look for in a man and hopefully you picked up on that lesson and it will make the rest of your life easier. Life is what you make it and you can choose to live in the past or to take each lesson you learn along the way and create a wonderful future.
499883
make a new Friend.. you never know god probably didn't want a sweet and emotional person like you to be in a relationship which was in a way.. slightly one sided..\nnothing special and beautiful can come onto our lives without the old things making way for it..\nand when that special someone comes into your life.. who knows you may thank this person for going away and letting you find someone else.. but most importantly.. i would suggest you start enjoying your own company rather than anyone Else's as you can be alone but not lonely and no body is or should be made indispensable.. for you only you should be indispensable.. and once you realize that.. it won't be long before others do too.. so take care and best of luck!!
1025428
Always, I have that issue or as i introduce my new intrest to my friends... he ends up dating one of them and not me... thats happened way to much...i understand your pain *hugs*
852272
Unfortunately there is nothing that can really be done here.  Be patient with your friend and let her feelings run their course.  Eventually she will realize how she isn't meant to be with him and begin the healing process and then begin to forget him.  Either that or she will meet another man that make her forget this guy.  Maybe you could recommend that she go on a date with a guy that shows interest in her.  Remind her that maybe she should give someone else a chance.
1110527
oh dear.. this has happend to me too. The best thing to do is try your hardest (though challeging) to move ahead with your life. Time to look for new friends! Be confident, and calm. In a month or so, call up your old friend again, maybe by then she will have missed you, and ask to be friends again. If not, well, there are plenty more fish in the pond. It is the cold, hard truth!
462700
You need to tell her how you feel.. Friends will always be there and boyfriends will come and go...I lost my best friend because I was so blinded by my boyfriend and it hurts..
958669
Wait, you might want to give her some time to get over her boyfriend first. It would be better to approach her once all of this mess has cleared up. When it does, simply come up to her and say "hey, I'd really love to catch up with you- did you want to go see a movie this Saturday night?" and take things from there. Be patient with her- it might take her a while to get over her previous relationship, so you just need to give her time and an open ear, so that she can talk to you about what she's going through. Good Luck!! :)
563851
Let me understand this...he is your "friend" and you don't know his last name? Huh? I know all of my friends last names! I think you should forget this so-called friend.
777110
Your friend feels hurt and betrayed by your actions when you dumped him for the loser boyfriend.  It sounds as if he cares more for you than the other guy ever did.  Keep this in mind when dealing with the friend you could trust.  He's not the same guy who treated you so badly and he probably will not react in the same way.  Give him a chance.  \n\nIf you want to rebuild the friendship, you need to give it time and take small steps. Trust is the fastest thing to lose and the slowest to regain. Back off for now.  Leave him alone for a week or so, then if you still want to speak with him, text or email him that you've had some time to think and you're wondering how he's doing.  (Absolutely DO NOT do this if you are not totally sincere.  You've hurt him once already and he doesn't deserve to be hurt again.) If he answers, then you have a dialog.  Ask if you can speak to him on the phone.  Tell him you know that you did was wrong and ask for his forgiveness.  Most importantly, let him know how much you miss him.  Tell him that you'd like to talk to him again later.  If he agrees, then ask if he'd meet you somewhere for a coke or something.  After a few times of talking to you and seeing you, he will start to see a change.  That is what he's looking for.  When you feel that the both of you are ready, then find a way to be alone with him.  Tell him how you feel.  Most importantly don't rush him or yourself.  Friendship is built on trust and trust takes time.  Best of luck.  Hope this helps.