How to motivate my gal who has low esteem in her career advancement?
913746
That's your problem....Not mine's.
993497
A better question would be how can you get yourself to accept her for what she is and concentrate on her positive aspects instead of complaining about something so petty.
1035664
I've been where you are and i'm telling you...be strong!  Stand up to her without getting down to her level...don't get mad or upset...smile in her face and tell her you are comfortable enough with yourself that you don't need to find fault in others to find what's good in you!  This is hard at your age, I know!  The more you fight with her, and the more you react to her the more she will dish it out to you.  Be strong, be yourself and don't worry about what people think of you because you can't, YOU CAN'T make everyone happy!
429211
Encourage her and celebrate her achievements.
1071621
Just be there when she has to vent. Tell her to study hard and get the hell out of there when she has a job.
101537
tell her to work harder on minding her own business!
757666
just be yourself...you dont have to push yourself like having a deadline just to impress her....being yourself works wonders,believe me....if you do things only to impress her....the essence is lost buddy....do things because you love to do it...not to impress anyone....open your eyes and look around...there's lots of things in store for you..
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You said it, "Good Listening" (and paying attention to what she enjoys and is involved in are essential.)  Forget about telling her she's beautiful.  She knows that and has heard it many, many times.  If she has repainted a room, tell her how talented she is; if she has Aced a test, lest her know how brilliant she is.  Go beyond her appearance, and start telling her how talented, kind, intelligent, creative she is.  Pay attention to her and you'll see what type of compliments would really mean a lot to her.  I always loved being told how smart I was (and quite frankly I'm usually a bit spacey.)
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You really do care for your girl...!!!\n\nShe probably hails from a very disturbed background. I think she is insecure not only about herself but also about her relationship. And I also think that she lacks self confidence.\nThere are a lot of things that you have not mentioned, that is how old is she and what is she doing...??\nFor her to get over the habit of not working well with people she needs to work on projects that have to be done in groups.\n\nConstantly encourage her to do things that involve her participation and that involve her interaction with lots of people.\nShe also needs your constant support and love. And if this does not work then you need to take her to a pshycologist.
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Tell her that you appreciate her concern for your well-being (assuming that this is her 'intent'), but that there are some things in life that you need to handle on your own.  Perhaps ask her if she'd be willing to listen if you need a sounding board.  That might make her feel that she's still useful.
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mostly at the point where it doesn't matter anymore. \n\nwomen very easily become complacent about guys in their lives, especially the ones who are good to them. \n\nthe solution would be to make her realise that she's taking you for granted and that you don't like it.\n\nseeing u respect urself will make her want to respect u more and the rest will neatly fall in place.
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I/O psychology? Yes, I thought about it myself and still may go back for the masters in this area.  Here is the short to your issue:  She needs to be evaluated based on a larger picture, more than a few variables. As you already know, the tests that you create to appraise someone CAN be very effective in assessing someone's internal abilities and how they relate to the job they have/or searching for. How about giving her another appraisal without cutting her completely from the staff?  Maybe recommend counseling?  I believe in human potential, the greatness within that lurks beneath the everyday pschological defenses and behavioral nuances.  Was she always like this?  Does she have potential?
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Talk to her...tell her how much you value her as a worker, and all the reasons why you do; but explain that it would be helpful if she adopted a little bit more of a professional behavior on the emotional part. Ask her to practice at expressing her problems in a reasoned, unemotional way; and to consider that there are other people working with her who can not keep trying to adjust to her varying needs. \nGood luck.
101505
try to treat her right ... with all the jerks guys in this planets ; I started to sympathise the women .... make her feel good about being with you
632496
start a rewarding programme with the rewards that is something he/she really loves.  For everyday he/she behaves, rewards is earned.  bad behavior - no reward.  Stick to it.  It may be hard in the beginning but the best reward will be yours when he/she behave
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You won't get him to be career motivated if he isn't already. Ambition isn't a personal choice, it comes from need, and if he doesn't feel the need, he doesn't. What you CAN do, is act as a personal manager. Keep communication lines open, and an ear out for opportunities that he might not recognize. Point them out for him, but be careful not to nag. Pushing him in a direction he doesn't want to go is not the same as pointing out options. One upside to this is that you'll be talking to your man all the time (which many women don't do, and then complain about); the other is that between the two of you, you just might accomplish something great. Good luck!
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You can not make someone elses life better. That is in their control not yours.\nHe should be encouraging and positive. \nPoint her in the right direction for happiness and positive lifestyle choices.\nHe should be supportive towards things that would make her life better.\nBut only she can actually make it better.