my mom and dad are getting a divorce. why are they doing this?  am i the reason for their divorce?
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YOU R DEFINITLY NOT THE REASON FOR THE DIVORCE. \nSometimes married people fall out of love and then their lives become filled with trouble and it affects the children. I think if they fight a lot and cannot live together anymore it's better for them to break up. They will still love you and they will be better parents now and maybe they will become friends again.\n\nGood Luck
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I have read your other questions. You have a sad life. You really need someone to talk too. Try talking to a school counselor or someone at church. Most of all try to be good around your father. He is having a hard time as well. Divorce is never good because everyone suffers. If you are living with your father instead of your mother there has to be a good reason.\n\nBe good!
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It is not your fault. It is never the child's fault,never. You have to believe that. I am divorced for many years now, and I know what I am talking about, here. Your mom yells because she feels a lot of stress and sadness, and she needs time to get used to what all happened. But you won't be able to get them back together because you didn't break them up. They are the adults, everything that happened THEY did it--not you.\n\nJust love them both. Tell them both how much you love them, and that you will always love them no matter that they don't love each other any more. Then you love yourself too. You sound like a real sweet, good kid. I wish I could help.\nGod bless you little one.\n\n(joelejr is just being a dork.  and bookreader doesn't understand, it is not the child, it is the adult who ends the adult relationship)
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Sweetheart, I know exactly what your going through. My son lives with his dad,(We're all in Missouri). My son tells me how bad it is with his dad, and as I understood it, when he turns 12, he can go to the judge and say for himself that he wants to live with me. It sounds like you and my son are going through the very exact thing. If you can find a way to get to the Division of Family Services without your dad knowing, tell the people you want to go to a judge and tell him/her that you want to go to your mom's. I am a child advocate. I'd take you myself if I could. When you go to the Family Services, you need to let them know EVERY bad thing you are going through. They will investigate your dad, but no one has to know you made the report. If your mom agrees to have you come to her, then you, her, and the Family Services have a meeting at once. YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO MAKE THIS DECISION!!!\nGood luck and GOD BLESS
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No, there is nothing you can do, just be there for both of them and don't make the mistake of blaming either one of them for the situation... but hey, you have two great parents who are really trying to keep it together and their attitude is really promising, so don't worry, they will get there and it will be fine, just give them the time they need...
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And why would you want to leave your parents?
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that is wrong.  they need to realize that you are their daughter. no matter what you did do and what you did to him, you are the one they should love and choose over any one else. i would personally let my dad know how i feel and then leave him to think about it and if your parents really care about you they will get their head out of their ass and realize what they are doing.
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If they were never divorced ( and the father may well have had a divorce did that the mom did not know about)\n\nBut if they are stll married, she can sue for divorce, and ask for part of the money.  ( she should get an attorney)
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Sorry to hear that but it sounds like there is a divorce coming, in order for your parents to still be able to be good parents sometimes they have to so whats best for them, if they aren't happy it makes it harder for them to keep you happy and your happiness means a lot to them. people grow and people change, i hope for your sake they make a change that will be better for you.
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No divorce is easy, but there needs to be the right kind of communication between the parents and children involved. They need to know it's not their fault and that they will still have a family even if it means the father and mother not living together. The worst is when the child hears the one parents  bad-mouth the other, so that should be avoided at all costs. It makes the chil pick sides in defense and confuses them on the matter.
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I have been through a divorce for this reason. I think if you have children and fight in front of them all the time, its best to go seperate ways so they dont have to suffer.
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Katie, you are a victim of too much information. You know things about your parents that you really don't need to know. You are not responsible for their problems or for the decisions they have made for their own lives. Seeing the flaws in your family, coming to terms with the deceptions, is a tough thing to deal with.\n\nI'm not sure how old you are, but I'm guessing you are still a minor, living with your parents. You need to sit down with both your parents and talk about all that you know. You need to suggest that you all go to family counseling so that someone neutral can help you figure out where you go from here.\n\nI repeat, you are not responsible for your parents' problems. Your father was wrong to tell you all the things he told you, but since the cat is out of the bag, your mother needs to know what you know and you need to decide as a family what to do about all this. If your dad is suicidal, he needs to get help. Unfortunately, it sounds like you have parents you can't fully depend on, so you need to learn how to take care of yourself. Look outside your immediate family for a trusted adult (a school counselor, a pastor) who can help you negotiate through this minefield and help you find the help you need.
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You know what? This may hurt, but screw your parents. I've lived an awful life, and I could tell you my life story, but it would go on and on. I'll give you the short version. I have been tossed back and forth between my parents all my life. (they were never married, and never intended to be, I was just a big "accident.") I would go not seeing my mom for 7 years and then not seeing my dad for 4. It's really messed up. I moved in with my mom 4 years ago after not seeing her for the 7 years. I thought that her and I could heal things with time, plus my dad is a really awful person and I wanted to get away from him. Things were ok for a while, and then about a year ago I cam home from school and she was gone. Just gone. I found out that she had moved to another STATE to be with some guy she met on the internet. So now, I have no parents.  I'm going to be honest with you--it IS a hard road, and sometimes you are going to feel like you will never make it to see tomorrow. You just have to have faith in yourself. And guess what? I'm 18 now and I have my own place with the guy of my dreams, and for the first time in my life, I am TRUELY happy. So I wish you luck...reach for the stars and never give in on your dreams. If your parents really love you, then maybe someday in the future they will see past their mistakes...
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This is polygamy and is illegal in many states. You should encourage your dad to file for divorce with your mom.
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Their emotions are all over the place. They hate that they are hurting you and splitting up the family, but for you, its better. Its horrible when parents are around and always fighting.  Its better when they are separted by law or houses - and they don't argue.\n\nUntil the divorce is over, their emotions will be all over the place, almost like yours. \n\nMy best suggestion for any child (young adult) is that they talk with their parents or school counselor and ask to see a professional therapist. They can help you sort through the adult stuff you might not understand.\n\nNo matter what, it affects you - but isn't about you. Both your parents love you - truly, truly love you. Don't ever think otherwise. \n\nOne thing to remember if they happen to say something negative about the other parent...at one time, they did love each other...that's how they got you ;-).\n\nAlso, if they do say something negative to you about the other parent...just ask them to neve say anything negative about your dad/mom to you. After one time of telling them this...they'll stop.\n\nHope this helps. Your parents are both good people but somehow moved down a different road. Your lucky to have both f them - even in separate houses.
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Honey, I'm so sorry.  It all depends on if they work things out between them, but the truth is they may not even know at this time.  Please don't think it's your fault.  Adults have a lot of issues to deal with.  I'm sure your Dad loves you and misses you very much.  Include them in your prayers. I will too.
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well talk to them to find out why u r in trouble then pray that God gives you the ability to continue to respect your parents.they are there to help and protect you so please make it easier by listening and trying to understand what they are saying. it will come in handy when you strike out on your own.my mom & dad were the meanest parents in the world. and i thank them for it thier disipline & love is what made me the person my husband fell in love with. if i can be even half the person my mom is i will be lucky.