What does he want? What's my next step, if any? Should I let go completely?
925077
you best come out and have a good talk tell him how you feel or would like to feel. men can`t read your mind and they appreciate honesty. tell him you need to know if there is any reason for hoping!
1021561
ask him about his feelings UPFRONT...all he can say is yes or no and then you can stay or move on....good luck
99245
From the very core of my being....\n\nRUN LIKE THE DEVIL HIMSELF IS CHASING YOU DOWN. Cut ALL communication, don't fall prey to that "but it's the strongest pull I've ever experienced, it's different with us" bu11shit !\n\nBottom line is this, he has problems, not at home, but within himself, and is looking for something to distract him from his feelings of worthless-ness... \n\nBelieve me.... There is NO WHERE stable and good you will find with this guy...\n\nYou've been warned, to the best of my ability... \nGood luck !
555568
let him go. he is with someone else now.\nif he wanted you, he would be with you, not her.\nthe truth hurts sometimes.
262891
He wants to have his cake and eat it too.  If he is not looking for the same thing you are, let him go.  Find someone who is worthy of your affection.
634967
This guy doesn't sound like he's taking your relationship seriously. He doesn't appear to take you feelings into consideration and wants a life which does not include you in it. He seems very selfish, and you should ask him outright - and don't let him give excuses! Tell him straight that you need to know where you stand with him, and you don't want to waste your time hanging around with someone who doesn't want you around! Take control - be strong & determined and tell him exactly where HE stands with you. Relationships are two-way things, and 'give and take' means from both partners, not one gives and the other takes. Be strong, and if you don't get satisfactory answers, then move on and find a guy who will appreciate you for yourself. You are worthy of better treatment than this guy seems capable of giving you. If you still want to be with him, hopefully he will come to realise what he is about to lose if you leave him. Don't give hime the satisfaction of dumping you first, though!! Good Luck!
404207
If this has been the same guy for 10 months I would say that it's time. In my opinion you have every right and he should expect you to want to clarify your relationship.\nI can understand, to use your term, "going with the flow" but you have gone with the flow and have some questions you want answered.\nDoes he just want to play around; a couple weeks here and a couple weeks there, or dies he have future plans?
399411
It doesnt sound like he is fully committed to you yet. You should give it time and see where it leads. If it doesnt change look elsewhere.
380081
He wants his cake and eat it too. My suggestion: back away, take some time for yourself and then find someone who's ready to give you what you want and need. I'm sure your friend is nice, but if he was ready to commit, he would have done so by now. And finally, you don't need him even as a friend in your life, cuz he'll always be there to play mind game with you. Do you need all that drama?
221801
Oh my goodness. Take your time honey! Live a little and make for darn sure that he's the right one and not just a rebound.
517148
Girlfriend, your like me caught up in the rapture of uncertainty. We want to leave but afraid deep down inside to make that move. Our insecurities allow us to not be more clear in our train of thoughts and we make sudden decisions without thinking them through. You are scared to let go but at some point you have to realize it is what it is, he is a cheater and he's possessive and somewhat controlling. You left and that was the first  step, now move on.\nMEN ARE LIKE A BUS ONE COMES EVERY 5 MINUTES YOU CAN RIDE THE BUS TO THE END OR DO AS YOU HAVE DONE GET OFF AND CATCH THE NEXT ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
478103
girl i've been there and done that. I think the best thing is to just let him talk to you. If he already knows how you feel then i would just let it go for now.  If its meant to be then it will be
151020
he is in a comfort zone. What about you, what do you want? Think about why you broke up..Is he worth it, or can you do better than the way he treats you. Is this what you want for your future or are you just settling in your comfort zone. If he is the man you want, than just ask him, and if it is not the answer you are looking for.....move on
966086
aww hunni ive been there babes and its a horrible place to be.\nunfortunatly he obviously isnt interested and had moved on where as yuo havent as you want to know what happened and want to get closure.\nyou will have to forget this guy as if he hasnt even got the balls to tell yuo its over he aint worth it.\ngood luck babes x
216596
Take the hints he has been giving you.  He only wants to be friends.  There is no reading between the lines.  He is holding you in reserve until something better comes along and wasting your time by saying only friends now.  You will only hurt yourself waiting for a relationship with him that will never come.
735135
Contemporary male wisdom is to "keep her wanting more". Hopefully, he is just trying to get you more interested in him by keeping his distance. Is it working?\n\nIf it is much longer than a week, I would probably try to contact him. If you get no response, you should probably move on.
1142593
6 years is pretty long and yet he does not want anything serious. Obviously you both want different things. Whats' the point then? Perhaps you grow too comfortable with him not necessary content. Time to move on and look for someone different.