is it too much to ask that my husband stop watching porn?
921920
Yes, it is too much to ask.  I don't see what having kids, him being on call, how often you have sex, or who you live with having anything to do with it.  You state these things but you don't say how they are relevant to your wish.  You haven't stated any reasons why he should not watch porn.  Now if you're saying that he watches it in front of your kids, masturbates to it as your in-laws walk through, leaves it on when he goes out on a call where just anyone could see it, and doesn't have sex with you more often *because* of porn, then you might have a complaint.  However, you say none of those things.
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Not if its disgusting to you. And he shouldn't expect it of you. However, if you are willing to try it and then decide you don't like it, then at least you gave it an honest effort. If he insists, however, then you may have a problem. No one should pressure you into doing something you are not completely willing to do. Not even your husband.
763125
i think that there is nothing wrong with expecting him to stop.  i suffer with the same problem.  and it IS a trust issue.  especially when they say they will stop.  i find my husband to be more aggressive in bed since the start of it.  it does effect me.   though i may not have an answer for you, i would like to give you some peace of mind that you are not alone.  and i do not think you deserve to feel the way you do.  marriage should be based on respect!  there isn't an excuse for it.  its dirty and i do not think that you are over-reacting.  so don't pay any attention to the negative feed-back telling you that you are and that you should just accept that your marriage isn't everything that you want it to be.  it can be but you BOTH have to be willing to work at it.  maybe talk to him about why he feels he needs to do it.  and meet him half way.  i hope that helps you!!  be positive.  you are deserving of so much!
1122639
all it is ,is a fantasy .As long as they are just watching porn there shouldnt be a problem my husband does it and he only does it while im sleeping and it can be better soemtimes cause you could be real tired so just  relax and let him do his thing.
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I wouldn't like it to be honest. I'm not against porn, but I would be very upset if my husband was turned on by other chicks, especially if he went to a strip joint. I only agree to porn and stuff if they just look, but don't get turned on by that person. I am happy to look at porn together. Your wife needs to show you some respect! I would never do that to my husband. I wouldn't even get the urge to do something like that. Not if I'm in love.
804250
If he is doing these things I would say he has acted on them, thinking about it, or is going to...I am sorry.  This could end your marriage, it needs to be thoroughly discussed.
537952
I totally know that knot you are describing. I think lots of men do look at porn but I wouldn't say all. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough or anything and it should only really be a problem when he turns you down for sex and turns to porn instead. Talk to him calmly and ask him why, but try not to act like a mother scolding a wayward child. Hope that helps. Take care of you.
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I don't know about you sweetie, but an addiction is an addiction, and he is addicted.  Marriage is Respect, Admiration Passion and Trust.  For sure the first two are not there, since this is grinding on you.  And Passion is a bit tuff, if he oogles 13 year old girls on the computer,,, eeewwwwww.   You may trust him not to betray you by cheating, but hey, I trust my dog too. You don't have a marriage, you just don't know it yet.  You have a rommate..... Porn addiction is about the toughest thing of all to cure. ..... next question is why did you marry this jerk???? and in my eyes, any guy addicted to porn is a jerk.  How do you not find this disgusting????  And why are you still there????  In your place, I'd dump him and get out of this marriage.....You'll only grow to resent this crap as the years go on.... If you have children, you want this guy to be their father?????Sorry, sweetie, you asked
730074
Tell him you want him to delete all the porn becuse he doesnt need it anymore since he has you. And he might also need some therapy.
731062
we jsut pretend to hide it so when you find we can be all " omg what are you doing looking through that stuff! my friend sent it to me" in reality we just dont care. want your man to stop looking at porn? then supply him with enough pics and videos of you wearing, doing, saying all kinds of kinky stuff. chances are we will still look at porn though.
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Ask him what would make him happy.. And that u would love to share his fantisies with him.. Hun lets be honest here men are men they can't help but watch porno on tv or net, its just within their nature. by getting mad at him will  not take u anywhere or resolve ur problem.. neither will it stop him from doing it.. fix the problem with a solution.. try watching it together and perhaps ask him what he likes doing the most and that u wouldn't  mind sharing that experience with hi..,don't forget aslong as it makes u comfortable and happy doing it as a woman.. Am not saying that u should do anything or everything against ur will. But try talking about it.. communication is the answer.. good luck.
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*shakes head* Woman... I would RUN so fast and so FAR in the other direction after packing my kids up!\n\nI dealt with a man for a year - who was addicted to all kinds of porn, tried to get me into working with him for a porn site, had a foot fetish, and the last straw was him watching chicks with d**ks do each other.\n\nIf it was a simple, stupid mistake for your man, then fine - but check the history on the computer for the next 4 weeks. See what the heck else turns up. This is not something that a 'normal' person would find exciting and enticing.\n\nMind you, I'm not against gays, porn, etc... most things are good in moderation  - but I just remember how much pain I went through trying to save my relationship after all the truths came out (after 8 months of being together) and how the last 4 months together were HE**. I'd hate for anyone else to go through that...\n\nGood luck... be well.
420237
I don't think watching porn is wrong... I don't always want to have sex with my man, so it would be pretty shady of me to not let him watch porn and do it himself... Tell her that!  I honestly wouldnt go out and cheat...just let her know that you have NEEDS that need to be MET (by HER) and if she cant/wont do it, something bad is gonna happen!  and if that means watching PORN and doing the job urself, it's better than getting it from somebody else.. take it or leave it.
1165459
I'd get pissed at my guy definitely for watching porn. Luckily my guy doesn't watch it. But I totally agree with you. Of course some men are like why is it a big deal. They just have a hard time seeing it from our point of view because they just thinks its the manly thing to do. MEN!
311892
I don't mind. My bf goes onto porn sites, but he doesn't ALL the time and he doesn't let it rule all his time when he's off work. He doesn't get too into it. I actually watch a little my self, sometimes. It just depends on the TYPE of porn he watches, as long as it doesn't get too wild and perverted, and he doesn't watch it all the time...I'm cool with it.
519494
I had that problem with my ex-hubby I caught him constantly spanking the monkey online, calling 900 numbers It is an addiction just like drugs or alchol except they are addicted to the fantasy that the porn and other things gives to them. The problem lies with him not you. Blame him not you and if this is how he really is trust me you are better off by yourself.
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I've caught my husband doing it frequently also. We had a talk about it though and he told me sometimes he just doesnt feel like sex because he needs release and just wants to get it over with. I actually woke up one night and he was releasing himself while watching a porno on mute. I freaked out about it. I love pleasing him and it offends me too. Although I can kind of relate to why he does it without me sometimes because I do it without him sometimes too. I just dont want to have sex sometimes. it seems though that he doesnt want to have sex with you at all...and if that is what your saying, let him catch you a few times...if it doesnt make him jump your bones right then...I guess the only thing to do is look into couples therapy. Some guys are actually addicted to masterbating.