every day struggle. HELP?
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u have put your self in a tight situation.you can not have any type of relation (sexual) with this female. remain a godfather and friend.u are talking about long time friendships and relationships.think about how badly this will affect u,girlf, gfbestf,and most important your god child!!!!!!! you need to stop putting so much taught into her. what if your girl where to find out about these foot rubs etc... Start going out  and doing some romantic things with your girl or most important communicate. Find out how she feels about the relationship but no matter what you guys may come to U CAN'T DATE THE FRIEND!!!!!    If you feel your girl is perfect my best bet would be to stay with her (the grass is never greener on the other side).
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Just observations.  Exercise.  I do not mean lots of exercise.  If you are used to sitting a lot.  Get up and move around.  Do some walking around the house or outside.  This keeps the brain supplied in blood.  A better supply of blood will help.  This may not be your problem,  I cannot say.  Just a suggestion.  (You may be 19 and very active????)
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I think you need a girls day out. I don’t mean just a day of hanging out or shopping, but go get hair done, go to spa, maybe even two days. You need to have some time centered around you, for you. If all these outside things are stressing you out and having a outlet helps but is not the trick then you need to take some time. You and your best friend, go do something you would not normally do, step outside of your daily routine. What is fun and relaxing to you? Do that. Set up a plan to attack one problem at a time, and you and your support system attack it one at a time and slowly there will be less.
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I THINK EVERYBODY HAS DAYS LIKE THIS. BUT IF YOU WANT TO GET PASSED THIS. MOVE AROUND CALL SOMEONE ON THE PHONE WHO WILL HAVE SOMETHING GOOD TO TALK ABOUT. JUST FIND SOMETHING TO PICK YOURSELF UP.
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Try to get in touch with yourself spiritually and take a time-out. Do something you enjoy and remove yourself from the tension. I know it's easier said than done but it's worth your sanity! **Sending you strength**
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Life is a challenge everyday... Make the most of it! Live it, Love it, and enjoy every aspect of it. Including the hardships, b/c it only makes you stronger (truly)! Enjoy the feelings you have felt--laughing, touching, smelling, and tasting. Always know that whatever your going through, someone out there is having a worse time at it than you, so remember to be grateful for the little things!
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Go to a shelter. They work with lot of resources on daily basis; if you are willing to help yourself. Good Luck
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I understand where you are. There are ways to help you stop. I have some tricks, contact me. At least yo recognize you have a problem and have taken a step in the right direction. Stay there and keep moving forward.. It doesn't happen overnight. Little by little you will find that you become stronger and stronger.\n\n:) good luck!
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Try prayer. It works. Sorry to hear about your problems.
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I feel your pain!\nHere are some things that have worked for me-\nTry doing the same routine every night before you go to sleep- do a few yoga streches, take a shower and have a cup of tea (I recommend chamomile mango- Bigelow I think...) and THEN climb into bed.  \nTry an eye pillow- it blocks out the light and keeps you from staring around at you furniture while you curse yourself for not being asleep already :)\nTry doing some sort of exercise during the day- it makes you more tired- like running up and down some steps a few times.\nTry to go to sleep and get up at the same time each day.  I know it sounds nuts- who want to get up at seven on a weekend!?  But it seems to help me- it gives your body a schedule.\nTry not to do work on your bed- that way you can associate your bed with sleep adn relaxation only.  \nIf you're lying there for over 30 minutes, try getting up and walking around.  Go sit in the living room and just chill- no TV though.\nIf you're worrying about something- school. work, life- sit in your living room or somewhere other that your bedroom and let yourself think about it and obsess about it for maybe 20 minutes- whatever.  Maybe try to work out a solution.  And then say to yourself, ok! I'm done thinking about that- mean it! and then climb into bed.\nGOOD LUCK!!! I'm not saying that these always always always work for me but they're worth a try.\nZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ.......... :)
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There are a number of things to try:\n* If this has been going on for more than two weeks, see a doctor.  Medication can help.\n* Confide in someone, hopefully someone older and wiser.\n* The music and exercise do help, actually, it's been proven, but it will help more if you do it steadily, like 30 minutes a day.  Don't wait until you're depressed to do it.\n* Call a friend\n* Try volunteer work - it will give meaning to your life.  You can find it through www.volunteermatch.com or by putting in your zip code to www.pointsoflight.org.  If you work with people who really have it tough, you'll have an easier time counting your blessings.\n* Especially volunteer on Christmas Day.  It makes the day go faster.  If you can't figure out what to do, visit a nursing home or a veterans hospital.  They can really use you, and people will appreciate it.\n* Look up a poem called "Resume" by Dorothy Parker: it will make you laugh!  Or try any kind of humor, jokes or cartoons.\n* You need to get out of your head and off your pity party - you can change your life, but you need to choose to do so.\n\nBTW, personally I give blood.  It makes me feel needed, that someone out there can live because I stick out my arm for a few minutes.  It also makes me appreciate that I'm healthy.
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You have to motivate and challenge yourself.  Try doing as many tasks as possible before noon.  Then double that by the end of the week.  Challenges are what keeps us going!
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well since all of my others were long i will cut this one short you dont you just pray everyday and let GOD do the rest.  most of the things you are going through are minor compared to what other people are going through.  just keep your head up and take it day by day.
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Hi Joy\nI think the other two gave good advice, but I would like to recommend something else in addition to their suggestions, which really helped me.\n\nKeep a journal and write in it every day.  Keep it private and safe.  Write everything down.  I don't know why it should be, but the simple act of putting it down on paper is a kind of unburdening.  And since you're confiding in nobody but yourself, you can be as open as you wish.\n\nWhat I am suggesting costs nothing, involves no medication, no other person and can do you no harm.   Please give it a go.\n\nTake Care\n\nOh and eat good food, get gentle exercise, sleep well, all that stuff you already know about...
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Apply for disability and other forms of public assistance.  That will help to take some of the pressure off of you while you learn to deal with this problem.  Don't give up, there are lots of medications to try.  Stop going to the emergency room, they can't help you.  Instead, spend your money on some alternative therapies.  Try meditation, or hypnosis.
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You know you have a problem if it makes it hard to function in your day-to-day tasks.  Is is a problem or merely an inconvenience?  If it is a problem then seek professional help.\n\nThere are things you can do, though, to calm yourself down.  You can learn relaxation techniques like muscle relaxation or deep breathing.  You do this in your spare time and then use the skills when you're in stressful situations.  \n\nYou're afraid of something.  A professional can help you with this or you can work through it yourself.  If you're like me or most people, then you slowly work through this kind of thing.  The sickness feels serious but eventually you find that it isn't.  The more you are cool with it the easier it is to cope.  Hope that helps.
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Been there, done that, still sometimes doing it. You've got to have willpower to resist. I know its hard, but you have to do it! Don't let the computer control you! Try to set a time to log on, like noon. Before that, do all you have to do, clean, laundry, etc. Then have some lunch. Make sure you have accomplished something before logging on so you won't feel so bad later. Take breaks in between, like before you check out another site go to the bathroom and on the way back, pick up a few things and put them back where they belong. \n\nWhen you feel that urge to look up something, write it down first! Make a list(maybe 5 items) before you really have to look them up. And log off when you feel there isn't anything else to do. You really need to get your rest! \n\nGood luck!