should i get married at 20 or 21?
917322
how about when you find your true love?
1165804
Wait until at least 18!\n\nTeenagers are finding out who they really are. They may be easily impressed with someone who is "settled" in life, has an apartment, an income, a car etc.\n\nYet, they may change a lot in what they like and want before they are 21. In my view, it would be better for her to wait until she is at least 18 to get married as a legal adult. When married and things do not work out, everything is more traumatic and more difficult. She can still be friends until 18 or 21 and see how the friendship will develop.\n\nMost often young teenagers get married in a hurry because there is a baby on the way. This may be so, and other considerations may come into play.\n\nWishing your friend the right decision.\nCordially, India.Magica
706791
Depends on your age.  Are you leaggly alowed to marry w/o parents permission.
868504
dont get married .... unless your a positive you are both perfect for each other at least wait till your 20 you change over time and just because you are good toether now doesn mean you'll be good together later (forever is what marriage means)you'll both change over time and not nessecarily in the same way
875435
I would not advise getting married. You are too young to be debating marriage. Don't rush into marriage. Marriage is more than "I Love You".
1113530
You are definitely too young to get married.  You definitely don't know who you are let alone know what you want in a marriage. What's the rush?  You should wait a few more years.
237644
If you are over 18 there is nothing your family can do to stop you!  It's a tough situation, but maybe once your married they will come around.  Although, I think you are a little young to get married.  You have to remember, marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment.  If your not ready to be committed to something for your entire life, I would wait.  If your in love, then it shouldn't matter when and if you get married!  Take your time and think it over alot, you don't want to lose all your family over something that may not last!
452700
I dated and married a 24 year old when I was 18. Go for it!
911392
I think that you should get married if you really love him and you want to be with him for the rest of your life and the military life is hard but if your strong enough you can get through it. I'm 20 too and I'm married to someone in the military and it did not matter that I was only 19 when I got married. I know who I wanted to be with it and there was no point in me waiting until I was older.
128310
first of all how old are u? are you even old enough to be thinking marriage?. I hope that you are at least in your mid twenties?
285530
Marriage is a life time commitment and 18 is a bit young to know what you really want in your life.  At 18, you are still in the very beginning of your life and there are still many things for you to experience.  I understand that if you actually consider to marry this guy, you must really love each other.  Ask yourself this, will you be happy to spend the rest of your life with him?  If you are sure of that, maybe you should seriously consider marrying him(provided that he feels the same).  Some people actually got married at a very young age and have ever lasting marriages, it really depends on the couple.
1056720
18, usually. However, with parental consent, you can get married as young as 16.
941003
I'm kinda confused with what you stated, but I'll try anyway:\n If you're 21, you're still young, maybe you should ask yourself why is marriage such a big goal to you at this moment? \n Marriage doesnt depend on beauty/looks, a lot of married couples surely dont look like supermodels! The basic thing is, you have to start a friendship first- if you're in a rush to marry where you dont care to whom, then that's telling you right there, that you're still too immature to marry. Most 21 year olds ARE too immature to marry yet, hence why it's a smart idea to wait some years.\n No need to rush on something so important, if it's meant to happen, it'll happen. But dont just suddenly tell guys you barely know that you want to get married just to cut the chase, that's more likely to scare someone off rather than interest them. If you show you want to move too fast, they'll notice immaturity and not care to go much farther.\n No guy will EVER just come up to you for marriage, it doesnt work that way- well, unless you're from places in India, etc... but BESIDES those places, no guy will do such a thing. Because like said before, marriage is a HUGE step to be taken with precaution, not something to be dealt with like what kind of cream you want in your coffee, sheesh.
681845
Karina, is this you? Sorry, but this sounds too much like my son who is 19, and his fiance who is 25. Took me off guard! I think that you shouldn't jump into marriage right away. At 19, my son is SO not ready to get married right now. He's just not mature enough yet to deal with everything that comes with being married. Being engaged is one thing, being married is another. I say, go for a long engagement. Take time to really get to know each other.  Put more effort into thinking more of the marriage instead of just the "big wedding" every girl dreams of. You both are young and are still growing and maturing in so many ways. What both of you want from life right now may be different for both of you in a few years. Especially him. If you're really serious about this, my advice would be to wait a few more years.
65868
if your age is greater than or equal to 18, you will be married with in five years. Otherwise calculate years to become 18, ..Add that year + 5.
955782
I was married at 28, engaged 8 months before. Engaged after knowing him for three years, and dating for two of those.\nBest advice is to finish school, live on your own separately so you know what real life is like - to earn a salary and pay your bills. If your love will wait, then get engaged.
1040527
If you are too young to marry on your own, you are too young to marry, period, even with your parents' approval.  And if you are legally old enough to marry on your own but not yet developmentally individuated enough to choose your own life-path without parental approval, you are again too young to marry, period.\n\nYou should chill out on the marriage thoughts right now.  Consider premarital sex (with condoms *every* time!) if necessary, but marriage is best reserved for those 30 and up.