Ex-Wife 26 years, The story Continues !!!?
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Wow, Paul. Creepy. I agree that that these recent events may seem 'cosmic' in nature, but some of these things may seem suddenly more related because you have her on your mind. Constantly.  Kind of like when you learn a new word or phrase, and then it seems like you hear that word or phrase constantly right after that. Know what I mean?\n\nI think you've become obsessed with her, and you're not really thinking this through.\n\nFirst of all, have you discussed this with your son?  How does he feel about getting to know his mother after all these years? If you contact this woman, that may become a reality, and your son may have a different idea about that.\n\nHow would your wife react to this?  \n\nMost importantly, what purpose would it serve?  I think you have this fairy-tale idea that you'll become pals again and all will suddenly be well.  In reality, you'll be dredging up years of resentment, anger, and disappointment, especially where your son is concerned.  \n\nIs it really worth it?\n\nI can tell you that the reality of the results of such an endeavor will rarely live up to your hopes.\n\nDon't look at all these recent events as a MESSAGE.  That's an EXCUSE.  You want us to encourage you to do this thing.\n\nI'm not gonna do it.\n\nGood Luck,\n\nPolly
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The court really wants to have the whole history of the marriage set out in bite size pieces so that it can be easily assimilated and dealt with point by point.  Your friend seems quite able to tackle this, having given you the various points already which you have in turn been able to set down in writing.  The issues between him and the other party are \n(1)that he denies her claim to sole ownership of the house;\n(2)he wishes to recover the money represented by his wages which was paid into her bank account over the years and which has disappeared without trace;\n(3)he wishes to put her to proof as to the assets which she is holding on resulting trust for him which are represented by the assets paid into her account in this way;\n(4)he wishes to preserve his beneficial rights under her pension plans.  (She presumably named him as her beneficiary).\n\nFor the chronology, start with the date and place of the marriage, then move on to the purchase of the house, the time when it was agreed that his wages would be paid into her bank account and then just work systematically through to the time she left and embezzled (or squirrelled away) the joint savings.  A few little explanatory details (e.g. his blood pressure) would help.\n\nHe shouldn’t be doing this on his own.  Mistakes at this stage could be very costly.
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First of all, I would ask if you have kept your committment to the terms of the divorce. If there are some specifics, then you could probably answer your own question.\nSecondly, just let her know you've moved on and if there are kids involved, plz consider them.
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Your story sounds one-sided. We're not getting the full story.  Ask her to add a detail in this post.
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Sorry to hear the situation you are in. I hate to say it, but somebody IS getting hurt. Just because her husband doesnt know YET doesnt mean it wont kill him inside when he finds out. \n\nAs for you, I think she is just using you...she would have left her husband long before you came around if she didnt want to stay. Her man is probably just not fufilling her needs, either emotionally or sexually...you filled that void for her, but I am betting you are not as important to her as he is. What will likely happen is she will eventually leave you all together and go back to him.\n\nI am sorry if this sounds brutal, but sometimes it is hard to see the truth when you are IN the situation. I dont think she is trying to play games with you nor is she trying to hurt anybody...just trying to fill a painful void with a caring man. If it were not you, it would be someone else. I really hope you dont get hurt here and sever this relationship; there IS a good, SINGLE woman out there for you who will want ONLY you. Not all of us play games. Take care\n\n------------------------------------------------------------\nYou are very welcome ;) Good luck in finding a nice woman!\n------------------------------------------------------------\nOh! That makes it SO hard. I thought I had the one too, not that long ago. I was with him for 2 and 1/2 years and even was engaged to him and trying to have children. I found out that since the day we met, he had been lying to me consistantly and had even created a profile on a dating web site days before he purposed to me.  \n\nLike my ex, this woman is telling you all the things you want to hear and you are completely devoted to her. The fact that you have to question it means your head is trying to tell you it is wrong, but your heart is arguing. You are trying to find some execuse for her actions, some way to beleive she cares for you as much as you for her. Trust me, your heart is making you lie to yourself, dont get caught in this trap! She doesnt really care for you...only herself, or she wouldnt be hurting the people she is SUPPOSED to be caring about (her husband OR you). Tell her you love her too much to play second string to her husband...you NEED to communicate here. Give her an ultimatim; say him or you. That is how you will find out the truth. I know you dont want to pressure her, but if she loved you, it SHOULD NOT have even been a necessity. It is time for the games to stop.\n\nYour heart is invested here and you will get hurt one way or the other...only you can decide how much. Even if she DOES decide to leave her husband (which I doubt) she will likely cheat on you in a few years (once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater). The longer you are with her the more pain you are going to suffer! I feel it would be best if you broke it off and NEVER spoke to her again...then you can tend to your broken heart. Trust me...I know your pain. I wanted to kill myself when I left my man, but things will get brighter and you will see this woman DOES NOT deserve you! There WILL be someone better for you. Heal your heart and give it time. You CAN make it through this.\n------------------------------------------------------------\nI know :p Thanks. I wouldnt say that I know a lot...I have only been in one relationship. What I do know is based on a few things; that one relationship gave me more experience than I could ever have wanted, friends and their experiences and watching WAY to many talk shows :p My personality helps too, I guess...I am empathetic, can see all sides and I have really high morals. Ultimatly, you need to do what you feel is right and try not to let your heart rule you (as you would be supprised what you can convince yourself of just to follow your emotions). I really hope things work out for you! So many men are players and it is good to see one that goes against the rule!\n-----------------------------------------------------------\nYou are very welcome. I would be happy to provide my two cents on an
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I was in a similar marriage for 22 years.  My divorce was final in October of last year.  I am now dating a fabulous guy.  If you are interested in someone in particular, go out with him.  You have wasted enough of your life on your loser husband.  Now is your time girl!  Good luck!  Have fun!  Respect yourself enough to never accept that kind of treatment from anyone ever again!
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First , I have a stalker and the last thing I would ever do is contact the scum for any reason at all.\nThe only way I would willingly see that low life is on the other end of a court room.\nI would think that she is lying to you about the details of the whole situation.\nIf it appeares to be a relationship gone sour, which it does, then a divorce is definatley warranted.
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My husband's ex. hahahahahhahaha
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I've been married 26 years:  average 3-4
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that was 26 years ago... shouldn't you move on with your life?
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he still pursued her. she accepted him. They got married after a year of dating. had 2 kids. the wife remained to be the boss, he never got promoted. they end up having divorce.\nim just being realistic. sorry!!!! most women nowadays end up divorcing their lower earning hubbies.
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if you have her full name then you can check public records or hire an investigator to do so for you.  I would suggest looking at her divorce docs to see if she has some horrible dirt or allegations by her ex.  You could run a criminal check but none of that is going to be free.  please email me if you have any questions.\nemma____@yahoo.com\nNorthwest Investigation
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You are probably not ready for a relationship right know, you have to heal first, and that takes a lot of time.  If you are strong enough, try telling yourself that this woman is not like the last, she deserves a chance.  It is not your fault your ex wife cheated she just took the easy way out instead of talking to you about whatever the problem was.  Don't run a potentially good woman away because of your LOSER ex-wife.  Good Luck.
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I think my ex-wife may have been one!
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Since she left then you can claim abandonment which will minimize what if anything she would have been entitled to, but for right now file for a legal separation and change her as the beneficiary on all of your policies, as well as cancelling all of your joint accounts and opening separate accounts. Sounds to me like your married to a golddigger. Dump that troll.
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I'll be damned! Do you really know my ex-wife???????
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Hi, My X use to do the same exact things! I know exactly what it feels like, unfortunately the last few lies I found out were from my children. He was hangin around with a white trash piece of shit that was his sisters friend. He swore up and down they were just friends, come to find out he had been seeing her off and on for about 12 years! I was married to this asshole for 17 of them! Please please... Listen to your heart, especially with his track record.. make sure for yourself and I hope its not true, but that there isn't another woman! I don't know how I didn't find out sooner. I guess the kids were younger..not sure.. But the things you were saying is just how it was with us.. and he didn't even care when we didn't talk I think he actually enjoyed it because there was less to cover up if I wasn't asking him questions! But please keep your eyes and ears open, and I hope you find nothing but just in case hun.. take it from someone who has been there. Take care good luck and if anything changes please keep me informed or if u need another woman to talk to email or im me anytime! Good luck & be strong! Kim