What can I do to fix my low self esteem?Am using affirmations what else?
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When you walk, have the bottom of your chin parallel to the ground.
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Learn about yourself. We all have special gifts and talents that we can share with others. Celebrate yours. If you have flaws that you think you can change, take steps to change them. Choose to be ok with what you cannot change. \n\nEvery day, take little steps to appreciate being alive. Yesterday, I saw a pretty painted piece of wood, I had a lovely conversation with my neighbor and I had a tasty piece of bbq chicken. Look for your little joys.  Smile and say hello to everyone you see. Make it a point to go out and find people to be near. \n\nLove and be kind to yourself.
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I have a few suggestions on overcoming your problems.\n\nYou need to love yourself for the person you are, tell yourself daily that you are strong and confident (preferably when you feel the least). Everyone is unique. Everyone is different. Good posture might help with your confidence, it sends a confident vibe.. \n\nTry acting confident for a day, you'll see you might actually like it.. and it's not as difficult to pick it up after a while as it sounds.\nSometimes you might feel a little cheesy but it will really help.\n\nAs for the concentration.. work on developing patience and listening skills. If you are genuinely interested in what a person has to say, it is easier to listen. Or you could try tapping one finger on your leg, I know someone who does this. (discreetly though) Don't make it look like you are impatient. \n\nI hope this helps
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i would suggest you see a psychologist or psychiatrist on a regular basis.  you just go in there and talk to him/her and you can hear yourself talk and get some issues taken care of.  one thing that helped my self-esteem issues was i started thinking positive.  for instance, when you wake up first thing in the morning, listen to the sounds the birds make.  enjoy the smell of coffee as it brews.  smile at your loved ones.  these ideas for thinking positively may seem weird to you, but I'm telling you, they do work.  and last, but not least, believing in the Lord Jesus Christ is absolutely wonderful.  He takes care of me everyday.  all you have to do is acknowlege that you have been a sinner and ask Jesus Christ into your heart and He will come to you and take care of you from then on.  don't laugh, it's true.
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Build up self confidence by always believing in your self. Laugh at your self when you know you have made some stupid mistakes. Act a little more slowly in carrying out any activity. People will definitely see a different you. They may even rate you a genius. Good luck.
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I know where you are coming from. Find something that you are good at, and do it. If you are crap at everything, find something you WANT to be good at, and work your ass off until you are good at it. Being talented has a remarkable way of boosting your self-esteem. My personal suggestions... cooking, music, conversation. You also sound young. I don't mean that in a derogatory way, so please do not be offended. Awkwardness is the natural state of affairs for adolescents. It will pass.
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Just try to get out of the habit.  It could be a great first step to let them know you would like to do better too.  Stick with it keeping in mind that it will take some time to change yourself, and how others react to you.\nGood work, and good luck, I'm sure you will be happier.\n\nps Only those with limited life experience would ever confuse a nice person with a weak person.
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Find 3 or more (up to five) qualities that other\npeople don't have. Add them up and realize that you were put on this earth for a Damn REASON, that you are as good or even better than other dudes and don't slump your shoulders. I hated myself for so long until I was about 23, when other people had to tell me that I was good and a good friend to have around, that a lot of people found me attractive. Email me your circumstances.muirmatt@yahoo.com
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I would suggest counseling. It sounds like you have some deep rooted issues that need to be worked out. This is something more complex than a self esteem problem.\n\nLove yourself, you are beautiful and deserve to be happy!
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A girl still would not find you attractive if you take steroids.  It also won't help your self-esteem because you would have taken an easy way out to try to feel better about yourself - thus, no reason to respect yourself.  The best way to get over your low self-esteem is to work hard, exercise & eat right so you can get in shape.  If you honestly work at it you'll know that you've accomplished something and you can be proud of yourself for it.  Then you can think to yourself, "If I can do this, I can do [insert anything here] too."  Good luck!
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The only thing I might be able to suggest is to become confident with yourself. How is your own self esteem? Are you able to gain a greater amount of confidence in yourself? Would you date yourself? If not, why not? Work on those things that you think you could change. If you can gain confidence in yourself, your insecurities might diminish, since you can see that you are worth dating. Not to mention, you might become less "needy", and also more trusting! (warning!!! Do NOT become OVER confident in yourself) Good luck!
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Well your obviously seriously lacking self-esteem, which means that you need to start building some. Here is a magic trick with socializing... 90% of the time, if you have complete confidence in yourself as you are saying something, people will simply see you as cool simply based on your attitude and the way that you carry yourself. But the biggest weapon of all is to not even worry about how others judge you so much. \n   Maybe you didnt say the coolest thing in comparison to the other hotshots around you, and maybe you dont have the latest athletic shoes or the newest video game, but it doesnt matter. Most of the men and women within our American society are heavily influenced by the latest fad or the newest trend. You have a champion within yourself, and you need to locate it. Find self confidence by discovering something that you are passionate about, and then challenge yourself daily. Let the other chumps follow a trend, you will follow your dreams. \n   When you find self-confidence, you really wont care what others think of you, and you will naturally attract people and convince them that you are a "cool" person. Good luck.
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hey just be confident and outgoing if u stay quiet n dont talk to ne body then ur just going to feel worse n idk wht ur situation is but take some advice from some one with the same feelings n stay positive n stop thinking of ur self as a loser
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A woman suffering from low self esteem and confidence is a hard one to pick up when they are feeling down. All you can do is tell her how much you love her and what she means to you. Gifts are not going to help, as material items can not give confidence. You could do little things to help her out, maybe send her flowers at work but the most important thing you can do is be there to offer compliments and encouragement. Find a hobby to do together that will enable her to use some of her skills she is good at. Make compliments about both her beauty as well as her skills. Good luck, it is hard to make someone feel good about themselves when they aren't ready to. She has to learn to accept herself for who she is, change the things that she has control over, and be happy with her self. She has to be at peace with herself, or she will never believe the compilments given to her. She has to do that for her self. Best of Luck.
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Tony Robbins says that pain either breaks us, or motivates us.  Try to find out why you were dumped, and do something to fix it.  Work on self improvement projects - look better, work out, get a good hair style, read self improvement books, etc.  Anything you can do to improve yourself.  It will make you feel better.  You will become more attractive to the opposite sex.  Don't focus on the problem.  This will not cause it to go away.  Force yourself to think positive.  Eventually you WILL be thinking positive.  Set goals.  Set a goal to go on a date with someone new in the next month.  Improve yourself everyday in some way.  Get OUT of your house and DO something.  I've been there myself, and it is tough.  You have to BREAK this pattern in radical way.
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YOU ARE NOT USELESS!!!\n\nLife can often get us down & there seems no light at the end of the tunnel. I know how difficult & hopeless this can be.\n\nConfide in someone that you REALLY trust or speak to a counsellor, where you can explore your feelings without anyone judging you.\n\nTry and stick to your goal of achieving something small every day, however small, make sure that goal is achievable. It will do wonders for you self-esteem.\n\nI know it's cliched, but try and find some new activity, whether it's theatre, learning a new skill, whatever really, something to keep you occupied & where you can meet new people.\n\nIt isn't easy, but you will come through this. Email me if you need someone to talk to. x
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OK, I am going to speak plain with you. You have come here for some emotional support, perhaps some consolation and for others to jump on the bandwagon of your selfpity and pity and feel sorry for you. I am not going to insult you or be mean to you, however, I am not going to lie to you either or encourage you to feel powerless by acting the victem. \n\nListen, if you want to grow self esteem, self respect, the first thing you need to do is take your personal power back by stopping this victem stuff, stopping this feeling sorry for yourself. You are as deserving as the next person of happiness and good treatment. I don't care what your race is, what language you speak natively, or what type or how bad your accent is, what your weight is, how tall you are, the shape of your eyes, or nose, or butt either. You are a hunam with rights the same as anyone else. \n\nWith that said, I want you to listen very carefully here. WE TEACH OTHERS HOW TO TREAT US!!! If you allow yourself to feel like a victem, then you will be a victem. Do victems have personal power? Do victems have self esteem? Do victems have self respect? No to all of the above. However, nobody can make you a victem except YOU. You are choosing to view these events as a victem, rather than stand up for yourself and demand proper treatment. \n\nWhy did you not go to the principles office and report these incidents? Why are you allowing these people to treat you poorly? There are things you can do to stop this sort of treatment and you are the only one who can do it. Nobody is going to do anything to gain you proper treatment, nobody is going to step in and say, "hey, you need to treat this young girl right!". As sad as I am to say that, it is the truth. The reason nobody will do this is because you have isolated yourself, have not made friends, have not nurtured your life here in this country. You have allowed yourself to be trampled on and become downtrodden and that is not attractive to others. Nobody wants to be friends with victems, or with those who allow themselves to be treated poorly. That is a sad fact of life. People want to be friends with the popular kids, with those with self esteem and self respect. People always love the winners, not the losers. It is a sad fact of life, especially for the younger crowd. \n\nListen, kids are the cruelest animals on the face of the earth. They know when another kid is weak and vulnerable and they, like wolves, go for the soft underbelly of those who are weaker and rip and tear them apart. As you have not stood up for yourself, have not placed bounderies around yourself which tell others what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate, they see a person easy to taunt and take things out on. Kids are under a great deal of pressure and they will find those weaker than themselves to degrade and beat up on in order to release the presure they are feeling. Sad fact of life for a kid. Even adults will act like this sometimes. \n\nYou need to start gaining self esteem by setting bounderies on how you will tolerate treatment. You need to take back your power by going to the proper authorities and reporting those who abuse you. You need to report anyone who lays a hand on you, who so much as touches a single hair on your head. \n\nStart holding your head up when you walk around. Stop looking at the ground, and allow yourself to look others straight in the eyes. This is America and in America we look others in the eyes, not keep our eyes on the ground. You need to learn how to fake it tell you make it. In other words, if you pretend you are happy, if you pretend you are not miserable, find stuff to do, and look happy and look content with life, soon you will discover you actually are. \n\nI use to hate having to push a shopping cart home from the store. I felt embarressed due to it seeming to signel to others my poor status. I was ashamed and always looked at the ground so not to see the contempt I imagined in the ey