i asked my bf if he cheated on me based on rumors and he denies to it the fullest?
929511
HI. \nYour question is great. I couldn't resist it. You know, I want to say all kinds of tricky ways you could find out ...and what to look out for ..all that kind of stuff....But I honestly believe YOU have the answer to your question, What does your GUT feeling say ...not what you want to hear but really listen to what your guts instincts are telling you . Your gut will not lie to you ....ever..listen to your inner voice. Don't jump to conclusions.....at the same time don't just accept anything your told....you have everything you need inside of you. What is the character of the people telling rumors? telling a rumor in the first place is not a sign of good character. that is just my humble opinion. I am no judge that's for sure. Well here I go telling you what to look out for ..when all you need to do is listen to what the inner voice tells you ....it will not fail you. \nI wish for you the best that life has to offer!!\n\nPeace\n\nTrust in God ...BUT ...lock your car anyway!!
672927
If more than one person is telling you, and these people don't have alterior motivation for wanting to break you guys up (like they have no personal reason to want to break you up), than I would say you should probobly believe them.  Of course your bf is going to say he's not cheating on you when you ask him.  You have to analyze the people that are telling you this and find out how they know and take it from there, good luck!
1152321
I think its cause he has already cheated & you dont trust him anymore....DITCH HIM....trust is already lost!
1179465
wether or not he is joking, he may never realy tell you the truth, but you do need to talk to him alone and tell him that you dont like it when he says that, that it makes you feel like he is telling you that your relationship is over and that he wants you to leave, tell him to tell you if it is true or not, if he says its not true then tell him it is time for him to stop saying it or it could ruin the way that you feel for him, or whatever it does to you right now just tell him. good luck and take it easy.
355737
Why would you even need to ask? If you caught him and you know he lied about it, then it should be obvious what you should do, unless you want to stay with a lying cheat that you will not be able to trust. Honesty and trust are the basis of any good relationship and he destroyed them both. Don't you think you deserve a lot better than him? I sure do!\n\nS.S.
271126
Some people, believe that a white lie to avoid hurting the people they love is OK. So how serious was the lie. If he is hiding something he may find its to hard to talk to you about. Maybe worried that you would think less of him, or you would loose respect. You need a heart to heart and tell him the way you feel and you can't afford to lose trust.
877252
Just be patient for now. Don't say anything right now because you'll just come off as the psycho clingy girlfriend. It's entirely possible that he is just a flirty guy and everything they've seen is harmless. Tell them to keep their eyes open. If he actually does do something with another girl (or even if you just hear a rumor, etc) then you have a right to ask him about it. Thus far he hasn't done anything to deserve your distrust, has he?
1081580
you have to be upfront and honest with him and the sooner the better.  if he is a true "good friend" he will not get upset with you telling him the truth and asking him to tell everyone he lied about you being the girlfriend.  maybe you are leading him on and dont even know it.  ask him what would give him the impression that you wanted to be more than friends and apolgize for that. make sure he understands that you don't want to ruin the friendship but you dont want him spreading rumors either....
745222
He might have just wanted to tell you that there were girls there incase you hear it from someone else. If that happens you'd start to question why didn't he tell you about it and wonder if he's hidding something. He's just trying to play it safe and be honest with you by keeping you updated about all the things that are happening.
243074
I had a boyfriend that went away for a job one time, I was concerned because I never completly built my trust with him. So one day I went on his laptop and found that he was chatting and meeting with other girls on his buisness trip. So I confronted him on it, he denied it, but when I brought up the fact that I had evidence he confessed to it all... I say if there is a gut feeling then you need to go with that. If you are always insecure then you just need to start over with someone else. Just confront him and ask him....
972141
you dont deserve a liar he cant be trusted and if he does it now he will always do it you need to let it go and find something better honest and trust are very important to a relationship
777233
Most of the time when someone gets that defensive, it means they are guilty of something.  Now, he may not be...especially if you (or maybe an ex girlfriend) are very jealous and always make those type of accusations.  But if all you did what innocently ask about them and he blew up about it...I'd be suspicious.
233835
You should move on!! To start with he cheated on you and even after you forgave him which i never understand that but people do he still lied to you about little stuff. This guy you will never be able to trust. You have already given him too much information to play you with. He knows that you still love him and that you think of him all of the time and its hard for you to move on talking to him. So the next time he calls blow his mind. Tell him your fine just been hanging out with friends and even found a guy that caught your eye. I bet that will end that. Dont subject yourself to being hurt again. There is more than one guy out there and you deserve a good one!! Move on and dont look back.
1150610
To be honest If you have to ask then there is definitely doubt somewhere in the back of your mind. You've heard of the saying once a player, Always a player... well Once a liar, always a liar. But some people do change.... I want you to know that if you do continue your relationship that your always going to have doubts... your always going to be thinking he's hiding something or lying about anything. Just take your time with this.... I wish you the best.
318173
Never ruin a relationship over a rumor.  There are tons of people out there that say things just to hurt others for the fun of it.  Let rumors just be rumors and trust your man till gives you a reason not to trust him.
21968
totally ignore him. pay him no attention. he'll eventually get tired of everything he is doing right now.this ex bf of yours might be an egoistic one that's why he is telling other people lies about you but if you know yourself that you're not the person he is talking about, i mean you know that what he says is not true you should not get affected. good luck.
931405
Are you for real???\nLet me tell you! If you feel your being lied to! then Dump his azz! there are losts of men out there! And some pretty damn good ones too! Sounds to me like The guy in question is not only disrespectfull, decetfull, but is probably inexperianced with women also! Remember!\nOnce a cheat! Always a cheat! Dump him!