how do i hate the man i loved for so long?
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By getting disappointed over and over again and being treated like crap.
239256
i wouldnt hate anyone. just wait for your time. on the other hand you could try to break them up... your choice!
537079
Get rid of him!  It will just get worse!
183063
Treating them mean and keeping them keen works for a while, but I think they get fed up with it after a while.  You say he makes you laugh 'a bit'.  Is that really enough?  If you hated his habits to begin with, then you'll hate them forever because he probably won't change.  And you can't just stay with someone because they're good in bed.  As painful as it might be, walk away.  The pain will ease in time.  Find someone who treats you with respect and loves you unconditionally.  Good luck :)
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Start listing all the crappy things he has done to you in the past.Take that list and hang in on your bathroom mirror and every morning for the next two weeks go over that list... if you remember anything new , add to it. Then ask yourself these questions...Is he really a lovable person? Is he even worth your time? Is he worth the time you have wasted on him already? Or is he just a total jerk? Would you ever want a daughter of yours to date him? If that doesn't get him outta your head then I don't know what will. Aren't you worthy of better?
476602
Remember all the negatives about him and you will learn to hate him...
229829
Well if you love him so much whay do you want to get rid of him?
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hotti, i was in the same situation.  I loved him and he cheated so i broke up w/ him.  It was hard to get over and i thought that i would never get over him, but i did.  \n\nFirst, get rid of anythign and everythign that reminds you of him.  EX:  Pics, notes, letters...ect\n\nNext, now that you have your mind off of him, keep ot off and try new things.  Make sure to be having fun.  Go to a club and hang out with friends.  Party.  Then do more fun stuff like somethign you never did b4.  If you have nvr been surfing, try that.  Or try any of these:\n~skydiving\n~bunjee jumping\n~eat a lot of ice cream\n~introduce urself to a new type of music\n~go to a concert and 'Rock out!!'\n~get a journal and in a red pen write "I hate _________"  (fill his name in)  and fill the whole jorrnal.  If that dont work, use a more appropriate word, like a*s*s* , jerk, loser, or anythign else.  Be creative.\n~hang out with a million other people you dont know\n~have a night on the town with your mom or best friend.\n\nHere are some really fun things that you could do to get him mad:\n~order magazines in his name and send them to his house.  Make sure thay are girly or childish magazines\n~sneak into his house and draw all over his face with red marker\n~hang all of his underwear outside with a sign that says "A*S*S* crack undies.  Free.  Never been used.  lol (do you get it)\n~Just have fun.\n\nI hope i helped.  Dont cry over a jerk.  You will definately find a better guy who loves every part of you no matter what.
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So you've been going out with that cute guy in the year above for almost a month! his name is scribbled on all of your text books, you know his phone number off by heart, you carry a photo of him in your purse,but, alas it didn't last ..you feel very emotional and confused- you're angry at him but still fancy him to bits! you wanna cry but you wanna scream too. every single song on the radio reminds you of him!\nnow STOP! lets think about this- \ndo you really want to spend your life stuck in your bedroom, listening to love songs and crying for him?\nNO! you need some serious me-time, instead of wasting your time on him!\nso slap on a face mask, get out your dairy milk and put on some loud rock music that you can bounce around to and help take out your anger!\nyou're better off without him! why concentrate on a shark when there are loads of little nemos out there who would be a much better replacement! get out, make some friends and enjoy yourself! revise your flirting skills and you're knock em dead!
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the one u loved ended up being a jerk and hurting u and now ur walls r up high. he wasn't who u thought he would be.\nit seems like anymore trust is another highly abused emotion.\ni think its alrt to have walls to a certian point, until it becomes unhealthy. \ndon't let it eat u up, cause in the end the only one u hurts is u. wouldn't u hate it the perfect one slipped away, because of the past. \nlearn from the past and try and not make the same choices next time. take all the time u need to get to know him first, if he doesn't like it then he is not the rt one.\nof course i am guessing on ur situation.\ngood luck
654090
Forget about the past and start a new life with him
531119
Try to find it in your heart to see this person as just a sad someone who will never be as fabulous as you are.  Cultivate compassion and forgiveness for him or her, and be happy that you are nothing like him or her.\nDo not forget this person though, or the harm he or she has done to you, and recognise the lessons that this person has taught you about your own feelings.  \n\n"Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do".\n\nLove is always the stronger force, and hate leads to your own personal destruction.  Let go of the anger and find the peace and you will be all the more a better person for it.
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well, forget him. it's annoying you, i know. but we don't know what's the problem with him. we never met him anything. you better avoid him and let's see what happens. if you didn't do anything for him to hate you,  then let go. cheer up. don't think about him too much.
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o dear oh my. Im also 13. been through the same thing. \nWell the first thing is that you should take time, turn everything off and maybe write all the things you love and hate about them. Then take your list of hates and think of ways you can work them out. Other than that, get some time to talk to him privately and face to face. Then tell him everything. Why you love him and the things you dislike about him. and if he is willing to go on, then talk about getting back together. But before you do, make sure that you try to make things work before anything else. I hope that ican help. Im just another dude in the world. hopefully you can work things out. But remember, many teen aged relationships do not last very long. but best of luck.
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The feelings that you are feeling are a form of grief.  You are grieving for the marriage you wish you could have had with him. These feelings will remain with you until you find a way in your heart to forgive him for what you feel he took from you. This is not something that people can advise you about in this limited format.\n\nI too was trained in the art of rage and hate as a child. It stayed with me for almost 50 years. I thought that the rage was in control of me until something showed me that it was a simple choice that I myself was making. At first this idea seemed preposterous. A friend suggested that I get a book called the course in miracles. I thought this sounded stupid  and I resisted the idea.\n\nEventually I gave in because I was so miserable that I would have tried anything to get free of the debilitating rage and hatred that was so much a part of my life. \n\nThe course showed me things that I had never dreamed of. It taught me that I was in control of my thoughts, and that my anger was the product of the way that I had been taught to view the world. I learned that my anger was the product of my expectations and often my expectations were illogical.\n\nMost of all the course taught me the power of forgiveness. Learning to forgive was the key to freeing myself from the self inflicted pain of the hate that I had learned to carry with me through life.\n\nI suggest you get a copy of the course in miracles and see if it can help you the way it helped me.\n\nIf you think I can be of any help email.\n\nI wish you peace of mind dear Sister.\n\nLove and blessings Don
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well...just cut him out of your life...\nrecall your friends and start hangin out again specially if you haven't seen em for a while because you were too busy dealing with the jerk you're trying to ditch then.\nor better still...try your family...they might've missed you just the same.\nor be with yourself and try to see what you REALLY want and get it!\nDo some changes if you want, like, get a new hair do or update your wardrobe...just keep yourself busy and you'll eventually forget anything happened.\nGood Luck and Enjoy!\n\nohh...by the way...getting over him doesn't necessarily mean you need someone new...just yourself is enough and everyone else around you to share new moments with wont hurt.
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Admit you made a mistake - because anyone who does that never loved you anyway. correct your life - by taking out the trash (your mate). brush yourself off and get your head on straight and tell yourself he is not worth your tears. Learn from your mistakes and get on with your life. \n\nbest of luck.