what do i do about my druggie guy?
925321
Honey, STOP. Read this, whatever you do. I know that a lot of people who ask questions over the internet don't take the advice they get seriously, but just hear me out, ok?\n\nObviously, when you met your boyfriend, you loved him for who he was then. I'm sure you thought he was a wonderful person. He was probably kind to you and respected you and when you first got together you thought nothing could go wrong. \n\nBut then he got into drugs. Ok, first of all, the alarm bells are flashing right there. If someone is willing to do something as life-wrecking as drugs, it is a serious possibility that they are also willing to engage in various other types of shady behavior, such as physical abuse, alchoholism, crime, etc. \n\nI  AM NOT SAYING THAT THIS GUY IS A BAD PERSON! He was probably a great guy before the drugs came along. But when a person does drugs, they change a LOT. Drugs make people do things they would never normally do. This is why people use them, and this is what makes them so dangerous. \n\nAnd I don't mean to sound accusatory, but it's possible that what you think is love might be the remnants of what USED to be love, but now is just a memory.  \n\nGirl, for your own sake I suggest that you get out of this relationship, and FAST. Frankly I'm amazed that so far you've been strong enough to stay off of drugs yourself, and I admire that. It is NOT your fault that he does drugs and it is NOT your responsibility to get him off of them. I understand that you will feel guilty about leaving someone in need, but remember that your guy is still a minor and his parents are still responsible for him, NOT YOU. This is very hard for someone as young as you to do. The best thing you can do right now is to tell a trusted adult that he is doing drugs. If he gets the right help, maybe he can get clean and then you can continue the relationship. If he really and truly loved you at all then he wouldn't have gotten into drugs in the first place because that would mean risking YOU and when you love someone you can't afford to take those kinds of risks. And if you really loved him then you'd do what is best for him, which is tell someone QUICKLY and get him into rehab.\n\nI am sorry if I sounded mean or pushy. I really wanted to help. And I feel really bad for you. But trust me, I know quite a bit about these things. You are precious and deserve to be treated with care and respect. No druggie, however good of a person they are, can give you the star treatment that you deserve.\n\nRemember that above all god loves you very much, more than any man ever could and there is someone amazing out there that God has in store just for you. He wants you to be happy and if you ask he will give you the guidance that you seek. You have done nothing purposefully wrong. God knows that in our naievity (ignorance) humans often make mistakes. It's ok, he will forget the whole situation if you truly are sorry and wish it had never happened.\n\nI also suggest seeing a therapist. They are not for "loonies". I would know, since I go to one ever week. She's really nice and also, SHE WON'T TELL YOUR PARENTS ABOUT ANYTHING YOU GUYS TALK ABOUT (IT'S AGAINST THE LAW). Unless it has something to do with someone being in danger.\n\nI am praying for you tonight, and I promise to send you a smile tommorow morning. If you live outside of the united states then my morning might not be your morning, but I think you'll feel it anyway. Just know that someone is on your side. I sincerely hope this gets cleared up. \n\nGod Bless :)
832501
Well don't dump him because that would pro-bally make him want to do even more crazier stuff than getting high. just tell him that you love him to much and you don't want him to get hurt. Take him to a doctor or something. He needs you more than ever now.
513164
If its someone you love and care about confront them and take action. Don't let someone on drugs ruin their lives. The worst thing you can do in this sort of situation is let it happen!!
1158787
sell he's things on ebay... burn he's clothes... pay a bum 50 dollar to kick the shit ot of him... Then pt drugs in hes pocket and ring the police and say he hit you... Then break up with him because he is a looser... Take Care I wish you all the happiness in the world but get rid of him... It's only money... Good Luck... I will give you a hug if you need one... i feel sorry for you...
126261
I think you need to get this guy out of your system and close the door on him once and for all. You cannot change him, don't waste your time trying.
701855
You tell him that you are aware of his addiction problem, and offer to get him help. You can only help somebody that wants to accept your help. Your relationship with him will always come in second to his addiction with his drug of choice. You need to move on and leave this realtionship in the past. You may always love this guy, but not all love relationships are meant to last a lifetime. This is not a good healthy relationship for you. Cry a little and then pick yourself up, gather your self-esteem and move on and find happiness elsewhere. Take care of you. I wish your boyfriend luck, he'll need it! He has a long road ahead of him, before he will ever be ready to share his life with someone else.
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Please....please be careful around this kind of person.  Their destructive behavior often spills over to the others around them... BE CAREFUL.\n\nIf he is doing anything illegal, you should report him to the authorities...especially if it concerns children.\n\n"Man of your dreams" is a mistake to be looking for to begin with.  What you should be looking for is a strong, devoted, honest loving man.  If you think he was these things in the beginning, then you should consider looking at you ability to "read" other people.  Your judgment must have been clouded, or the sex was good...or who knows, maybe he just prays on lonely women.\n\nAnyway, you should get away from this guy as soon as possible and not look back.  Inform the authorities if needed and try to get your life back on track.\n\nGood Luck, God Bless ... and stay strong.
1172142
WOW MAN.........*inhale*......your dealer is a dumb@ss....*exhale*.........why would he go to your house.....? uhhh..... ummmm...oh yea...shouldn't you go to his place...*cough*?? no, he sounds so unprofessional, probably dropping your name in jail right now. let him sit....he probably rolled on you...*inhale.....*
981429
You already see him for who he is....regardless of wether or not you have somebody else. Just like a recovering alchoholic has to avoid alchohol at all costs, you need to avoid this person. He's just not good for your self esteem or emotional health. Treat him as the unhealthy addiction he is.
259885
If you can afford it... start doing random drug screening on him/her. Tell them that this is something that needs to be taken care of. But do not tell them that you will be doing the drug screening...
227616
If you are drug-free.....I would not even think of being with a drug user! Some where along the line this guy have made a poor decision and started messing with something he should not have!\n\nDo not let him encourage you to participate in his stupidity also! A drug user will come up with every excuse in the world to continue to use drugs! This is not a route that you want to start your life off taking!\n\nJust walk away and find you a good man that is drug-free!
249017
I would suggest taking a Martial arts course and learn to fight.Also letting the police know about him is a good Idea
836394
just ask him..if he cares about you he'll tell you and if its yea..then tell him he needds to stop or you guys wont be toghter..you dont want to be with a stoner
249779
get him on some medication. make sure that you or neone else is never around him alone. and get him some counceling. if no one believes you then secretely video tape him doing these things......oh and there is always dr phil
895380
i agree with christoph...s. Call the police. This situation is one in which you cannot control any more than he apparently can. This is not behavior that should be tolerated. If he goes to jail it might save his life and your sanity ! at least in jail he will have no choice, but to stop using. And also they have NA (narcotics anon.) meetings and some sort of re-hab services available to him. I know it's a hard decision to make but I wish I had done that for my husband, He died due to a cocaine overdose and I was a widow at age 27, Please think about it. God Bless you and your dad.
912764
yes it is wrong to give him anything . especially if your motive is to get him to like you better. if he is asking you for drugs go and tell the principal or the police.
904184
LOL...as a law student you better hope he NEVER finds out your drugging him for FREE time.....Why do you think you have the right to alter his body chemistry so you can have a quiet night? You're as bad as skeezy guys who put hgb in girls drinks to date rape em only you do it for peace and quiet...go to the library if that's what you want. On one hand you make me laugh...on the other you horrify me. Seriously seek help for this before you kill him with your ice tea cocktails.