My ex's new girlfriend is pregnant and she wants to be my friend, what do I do?
912004
If you don't want to get involved, tell her so...
126745
My best friend started seeing her boyfriend in August, lost her virginity to him within a week of them seeing one another. (She'd already moved out, and lived on her own.) Within two weeks he moved in, and they've been living together ever since. I emailed her the other day, because I wanted someone to talk to, and she never replied. I don't have her new cell phone number, because she never gave it to me after she got on his plan...and the only time I hear from her is if there is a problem in her life, and very seldom then. I haven't heard her voice since new years. \n\nSpeaking from experience, you should sit her down and tell her what she is doing. Ask her whether or not she wants to abandon her family for a guy. Ask her if she wants to get pregnant and become a mother before she has the opporunity to do anything else. Tell her that you feel that she is really ruining her life, and you think she needs to slow down. The best way is to tell her flat out how you feel with no regards to her feelings, and don't sugar-coat it. She obviously isn't concerned with anyone but herself and her boyfriend. Also, you better do it fast. If she doesn't want to slow down, then ditch her and move on. Her failure and lack of concern for other people shouldn't ever bring you down. If she comes around, then be thankful, if she doesn't then you'll have to move on and just say that you tried.
229612
Unfortunately you have no control over what someone else does.  If your baby's father cares about your feelings, he will ask that girl to stop calling him.  Otherwise, you probably need to look for a new man in your life.
320030
first off, internet love is never a sure thing.  always be careful who you meet, cause the chances of them being who they really say they are are usually slim to none, and thats just asking to get hurt.\n\nnow, she got pregnant by someone else?  that should tell yo right there that she doesnt care about you as much as you care about her.  my advice is to get out of the relationship.  but, if you think its really love, talk to her.  one thing to remember: how would you feel raisising someone else's kid?  is she worth it to you?
1131431
There are two scenarios.  One she could be an incredibly jealous harpy who may be his ex but doesn't want him to date anyone else and is using their child as bait.\n\nTwo, you know him for 3 YEARS and hasn't been up front about your relationship to his ex.  At this point he should have introduced you to his ex and his child.  If he's not involving you in his life, what else is he hiding from you?   \n\nTread very carefully.  If anything I wouldn't be so friendly with him.  He may have a B****as an ex who you don't want in your life, but if you can't trust him, do you really want him in your life?
384791
well i am sorry to hear that the baby died. but that was 4 mounts ago so he is no longer her babies daddy true Enif thy have past together but that is where it needs to stay it he wont's to continue on seeing her and if he cant leave his ex alone then your girl needs to move on with her life and find someone better
800922
This should definetely be his decision....only he knows who he has stronger feelings for...but you didn't necessarily state why they broke up....if it was because she did something to him, you might want to convince him and let him know that you would never do that (and keep your word about it), but other than that, I think you're just gonna have to lie and wait...just be his friend in the mean time, don't pressure him to choose a you or his ex right now
438860
What if she is your one true love?\nI say go for it, because true love doesn't come around much these days and when it does, people are usually too distracted with whatever is going on in their lives to notice anyway.\nBUT if she did have the baby and kept it, be prepared to be a part of that kid's life. That is a major commitment. It adds a completely different dynamic to the relationship, it'll still be worth it if she really did satisfy you the way you say she did though.\nAs for this other guy, you say you USED TO call him so, you have no obligation to him. F*ck him. Just make 100% sure that she feels the same way about you after all this time before you make your move!\nGood Luck!!
574207
Depends why she is your ex and what sort of help she needs. It also depends on whether you have a new girlfriend and whether she would mind you helping your ex out. Only you know your situation and only you can decide...
1124948
first thing to do: CELEBRATE. Do your HAPPY DANCE and be HAPPY that your ex is finally out of your life. We don't need selfish people in our lives and she sounds like one of them.
994766
Well, I can't speak from the perspective of a mother dealing with an ex's new spouse.  But I did have a stepmother, and our relationship was more like a friendship than mother-daughter.  Personally I preferred it that way.  I was a teenager when my dad married her, and it would have been inappropriate for her to try to be my "new mom".  I would suspect the same is true of your children, who are old enough to engage in friendships with adults.  If you feel your ex's new wife is overstepping her bounds, you should set the boundaries.  Ideally with your ex, his wife, and you in a meeting together to agree on each other's roles.  Let her know what you do and do not consider appropriate in her relationship with your children.  She should respect your decisions with regard to the children. As to a relationship between you and her, it would be ideal if you two could be some kind of "friends" but it doesn't always work out that way.  If she ignores you, so be it--as long as she abides by your ground rules.  She may simply be trying too hard to win the friendship of your daughter, but you would be the better judge of that than I.  I wish you the best of luck--it's never easy when spouses remarry.
1155121
Do not reply to his message. The emotional baggage that would ensue from you two remaining friends will blur the boundaries of having a friendship versus a more intimate relationship. If you do feel the need to reply, reiterate to your now ex-boyfriend that you wish to end the relationship and that being friends is definitely not an option. If her replies further with emails, phone calls or person to person visits, do not respond. If you see him in public, speak and go about your merry way.
888030
If they were your friends it wouldn't have mattered who you were dating as long as you were happy. I wouldn't stress about trying to earn them back because you haven't done anything wrong. If they want to be petty because you broke up with your ex to date someone closer to you then let your friends date your ex and you just concentrate on being happy with your new man. Friends come and go they'll see the light eventually but until then go have some fun with your new man.
689618
Be happy for her. You'll make new friends too. You need to let go a little and move on.
138991
Well, I just left the guy that I was with.  At first I had a really hard time dealing with him.  He made my life miserable and he f'd up a lot of opportunities that I had.  I hated him so much, but I practiced a lot of restraint and didn't let my anger take over the situation because we had a child together.\nIt sucks that she is being so hateful toward you, especially since you have a child together and you'll always have to deal with each other.\nI do not know what happened between the two of you, but here is what I would suggest if you really want to help things smooth out between the two of you so that you can sucessfully co-parent together.  I would say:\nI am sorry for the things that happened between us, that things did not work out, and I respect that you have hard feelings and that you are angry with me.  I want to give you the space that you need to work through this and I will be willing to talk if you need to.\n\nThen from there, you really have to be willing to hear her out and don't interupt her when she tells you how she feels about you or what happened, don't try to justify anything, just let her vent.  It will help her to move on.  You guys are obviously not going to be friends anytime soon, but that's not the point, just make sure there is ample opportunity to discuss anything child related and leave it at that\n\nMost likely she is so mean because she is hurt that the relationship is ended. She resents you and with time it will hopefully get better, but unfortunatly there are women out there who never let it go and the best thing to do is to let them think they are right.  Remember, Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...\nJust be the best father you could be, your kid is all that really counts anymore.\nDon't let her drag you into arguements about anything because if things get nasty, anything you say could later be brought up against your nature if you go to court over custody.\nBe the better person.
338897
Catch 22 mate! either way you ain't going to like it! if you say she cant have him stay she will hate you for it and say you don't trust her which also may lead to her going anyway and may even encourage her to sleep with him just because she is pissed at you! but if you let her go she might realise she misses him and they get it on anyway!\nThe best move you can make is go with them! let her know that you are fine with meeting her ex and your glad you can stay friends. pretend that it doesn't bother you and be all matey with them! by you acting confident and comfortable around them will show that you trust her, that you a confident your girlfriend loves you and wouldn't want to ditch you for her ex, and by being there at least you can keep an eye on him! at least if he does try anything you can give him a could dry slap! if your not a fighting man make sure that a couple of you mates are out that night or why not bring them with you!Tell you girlfriend you should all go out as a group introduce her ex to a few of your crew as if you want to make them feel welcome! if you need anymore help mate email me-jamescuckow@yahoo.co.uk. and good luck
112689
well i dont think u can forget about her cuz u got a kid wit her. but just let her know u dont want a relationship with her and that ur just gonna be there for the baby and that is it watever relationship yall had is gone. but just because u dont want her no more dont miss out on your babys life. stay for the baby cause the baby does not deserve it.