I'm 26, and have a burning desire to have children.  Is this normal in a man?
930004
its varies man to man.......... but there is not any abnormality...........
1090963
It sounds as though your focus is way off, & possibly because you don't want to acknowledge the real reason.  A lot of single guys look at a woman with 2 kids as having too much baggage, & they would prefer a woman who hasn't already got her life so set in stone as you do.  Add in the 2 jobs & they don't see you as someone who would ever have much time to devote to them.  Then there's the cousin with 4 kids, which would be enough to make most men run from this situation fast, because they would know the only way they could get any private time with you would be at their place.\n\nI think a lot of us single men would appreciate a woman who was willing to work & make something of herself.  However, the bulk of single men will see your past as a detriment to any chance of a serious relationship with you because they won't want to play the stepfather role.  They have worked too hard to get where they are in life to want to take on the responsibilities of a ready-made family.  As for single dads, they may feel their hands are full with their own children.  Finally, all guys are going to look at the situation you have with your cousin as you essentially living in a zoo, what with 6 kids running all over the place.  She is part of the equation, because you will be judged by the company you keep, & they will wonder why you two have what they would view as such a screwed up life.\n\nYour attitude may also scare off potential suitors.  In your effort to make it without the aid of a man, you seem to have a prejudice against men which we can pick up on easily.  Most men don't like feminists, & when you accuse them of being intimidated by your life, & use phrases like "'knight in shining armor' attitude" & "man's world", your hostility towards men bleeds through all too clearly.  It is good you have achieved what you have, but your bitter feelings towards men would be the last excuse any man would need to turn tail & get away from you as quickly as he could.  You'll need to work on seriously adjusting this aspect of your attitude if you ever wish to have a successful relationship with a man in the future, & counseling may be beneficial in this regard.  Good luck, & I hope you can get your issues in order so you can find the happiness you desire.
450215
when i was 16 i went for the older women as well. so yes its normal. could be that you are looking for a motherly figure, someone like your mother dude.
535578
yes, it is likely fertility drugs, or frankly IVF\n\nit is uncommon for women to have babies after 35.  It seems commonplace with many public figures doing so, but usually requires pharmacologic help at the least.
435744
It all has to do with men, and the need to reproduce, I think. Its a weird testosterone thing, honestly.
463076
You must have a low sex drive.  I think about it almost every minute of the day.  It drives me crazy, and is most likely because our job as humans is to reproduce and create more of us.
870587
I was feeling the same way not so long ago.\n\nMaybe it's just a female urge, but I really wanted to get pregnant. I wanted to have a baby who was half of me, and half of him, I wanted a baby I could love and watch grow up.\n\nBut, I realized the life of that child would be deprived. As much as I know I would love him or her, they'd have very few chances at a good and equal future. If you guys aren't seeing each other enough, maybe you should talk to him about it. If basketball comes before you, then maybe that relationship just isn't the right one to commit yourself with a child to. Who knows when he'd leave you?\n\nBut, if you are pregnant, I suggest you seriously discuss it with him, and if you aren't completely sure he can provide for you and the baby, then maybe you need to think about adoption. It's a hard decision, but if it's in the best interest of the baby, it's quite possibly the best decision, too.\n\nGood luck,\n~Morgan~
1175390
It sounds like you are embarking on your lives together with your eyes wide open. Remember, for women, forty is the "new twenty"... so you're actually about the same biological age. \n\nEnjoy your love, and pursue your happiness!
1102549
I'm 52.. libido is variable but it helps to find a lovely concubine! It depends on who you are with who can help to light your fire. Perhaps the other answers do play a part.. not smoking or drinking too much.. In addition if you have too much weght lose it and to dress and behave younger may help.. If you have a good feeling about yourself it can help alot.
788130
In this day and age, I would love to say no, but sadly, I think if a woman is childless, society still thinks she has not reached her full potential as a female.  I'm a 'western' woman, and I had my first baby last December, and he's the best thing in my life, but before I had him, people would always ask me 'when' I am having children, not 'if'.  It is so expected, in most quarters anyway.  Now I have a child, I can sense that I'm treated differently, not pointedly, but as if I'm now a 'real' woman, and I have to admit, that having my baby has made me a much more confident person.  I remember reading about the 66 Romanian woman, who had a baby girl last year, and she said "A woman who has not had a child has not lead a complete life".  In a sense, I sort of agree, but I don't think women should be judged on this, yes, they haven't experienced what it is to give new life, but it does not make them any less a person.  Interestingly, what do you think about men?  What does society think of childless men?  Anybody who doesn't procreate?
421963
I had that problem before and some one told me that it is because there is something inside of me that makes me to mature for my age. I act older than what I am so therefore i attracted older men. I don't know what to tell you as far as how to change it but i hope you find happiness.
811004
See your ob/gyn.  You could have low testosterone levels or some other problem that is effecting your desire.
122868
Well, in my opinion, i think it is a little too young to have children. I mean it is a big responibility. You should think it over before having kids. Have you found the right guy, and are you in love? Questions like that! Hope this helps!!!! ^.^
926949
I wouldn't feel that way ... I'm 26 with no kids .... so I have spent my youth doing what I want ... if adn when I do have kids ... I think I'm prepared to concentrate on them and their mommy
294874
Find out first is that is what you want out of life - a prepackaged family.  Of course, it sounds good now, but you're still so young and could want many things out of life and a man with three kids will be a major responsibility if you choose to be involved in his life more seriously.  Also, how many more kids does he want? Does he want to have more with you?  Do you want kids?  A big family entails proportionate spending.  Usually, you will share this and if you're 21, you still have to make a lot of ground when it comes to your career, if you want one.  Think about these things and you will come to an answer. Good luck!
444467
I definitely think it is nuture.  Because if it were nature, more women would want to be mothers, right?  I know of a lot of women who say they do NOT want kids and they don't really have a motherly personality.  I mean, they aren't that great with kids to begin with.
1002425
Different strokes for different folks. My guy and I are as opposite as they come. We been married 13 years with four children. I hope you are as  lucky hun