how can you maintain good relation with your husband?
914271
Line of communication is a huge thing. I have been married for 11 yrs and above all else this a huge factor. No good marriage is easy. You have to love that person and like them because passion comes and goes and you need that friendship and unconditional love to fall back on
982162
If you are a spirtual person try reading THe power of a Praying wife. Working on yourself is the best way to work on a relationship. Your husband is responding to you non verbal ques. Its will be hard to "fix" your relationship if you don't figure out what it is you want/need
1179387
Many times we take our frustration and or anger out on the person who is closest to us which is usually the one we love the most! Plan a "date night" with your husband! Tell him in advance that the two of you are going out to dinner together. Pick a restaurant that both of you enjoy. Wear something you know he finds sexy on you. Once this day comes, you are going to start off with a whole new attitude! You are going to be more positive about things. Yes there are things that will get us down but don't let it keep you down, no more S.H.I.T. !!!! From here on you are going to see the brighter side of things! That evening at dinner talk about all of the wonderful things the TWO of you have done TOGETHER! Reminisce about your wedding day, anything of the wonderful things that two of you have done! Also, tell him how after dinner you are going to take him home and the two of you are going to get absolutely wild in bed! After this, wake up each day and realize how good you have things. A wonderful, loving husband, a good family life and all of the other things you may have! Take a positve outlook on things and you will stop giving him that other thing you mentioned. By doing this you will help yourself mostly but also your marriage too!\nGood luck!
654919
spent time with him, let him know you enjoy being with him. Go for walks in special places., parks,trails,beach,or your neighborhood. let him know that time spent with him bonding YOU really LOVE, and that it will strengthen your relationship. Tell your partner that it does not take much to make you happy. \ncook at home let him know that you love doing this for him and that the satisfaction of him liking you food is all you need to know that you're doing something right for your relationship.\nclean the house while he's at work and go out and rent a movie you know he'd liked and tell him it's gonna be a block-buster nite. make some popcorn and sodas, ice cream. \nbecome domestic but let him know it's how you always wanted it to be ., ever thing else WILL fall in place. make youself look pretty for him.\n\nGOOD QUESTION> life is about caring, giving and sharing.
456224
Talk to your husband and ask him what it is he wants to to change if he is being reasonable take his suggestions into account and try to implement them, but don't go out of your way to make him happy at the expense of your own happiness. You love each other so you can work though this to make it work.
637756
listen - dont always talk. be kind. take care of him, do little everyday things for him. kiss him whenever you can - on his forehead, his hand, his foot. hand him a towel when he gets out of the shower. give him space when he needs it. dont make him ask for space. if you get upset, think about what you are saying BEFORE you say it. always be nice, there is not need to be mean. if you fight, fight fair.
912252
My hubby did that for the longest time too.  I finally told him we needed counseling.  Now after nearly 10 years together we can sit down and talk about it.  We've made it a priority to never go to sleep with each other angry.  I've also been more verbal about why I am upset etc.  Some guys think that if they hug you etc then woman are okay. It has taken us some time but we are closer than when we first said our vows.  If both of you go to counseling together and separately you can learn how to talk to one another.  Don't make the mistake of assuming or thinking he should know how you feel.  Communication is not always easy but you are right to say it is important.  You need to ask him why he doesn't talk to you about it.  You shouldn't shun your emotions either.  Just talk to him whether he wants to hear or not.  Tell him how you feel but try not to make him feel cornered.  It's hard when you are newly married isn't it?  It all boils down to both of you not understanding the other.  It can be that way in all relationships.  I hope you guys work things out and seek counseling of some kind.  Good luck and congratulations.
1149932
The only thing I can suggest is professional help, a couselor or theripst of sorts to help you with his detachment and to help him connect to you.  In most relationships men need the emotinal ties to their wives as their emotional ties to the whole world.
202269
As corny and very used as it may sound, communication is basic, my husband and I have been married only for 3 years but the first year was like that, fighting over everything, but, we got tired of it, sat down and talked about what triggers our outbursts and started out with little things and moved up to  bigger ones,  I don't know for how long you have been with him or how serious it is, but you need to compromise and be commited to the relationship, besides  if you do one unexpected act of kindness towards each other, the other will be willing to reciprocate and it will make him feel you care and it will make things smoother. That worked for us and now things are a lot better.
135626
When he comes home . . . greet him with a beer and a kiss and a hug . . . clothing optional . . . if you have children you will have to dress conservative . . . \n\nHave dinner ready . . . and allow him time to unwind from a hard days work.\n\nPeriodically, give him a long hug and kiss . . . when he least expect it.  \n\nAlso, when it comes to sex, men are always horny . . . but sometimes we are too tired to act or take the initative . . . ladies please help out . . . because I know you need it as much as us.\n\nGuys, this is not just a one way street. . . you have to appreciate your wives too.\n\nMaybe after dinner . . . offer her to wash the dishes . . . not all the time . . . but once in while.  Maybe during the weekend, periodically . . . cook her dinner . . . and don't make a mess . . . lol.  Give her time to relax . . . soak in a tub with bubblebath . . . while you watch the kids or prepare something special for her.  Also, if she is cooking . . . periodically get off your A**, go to the kitchen and give her a hug from behind.\n\nShow love and respect to each other.
280188
IF YOU DO HE WILL ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING OVER YOU,\nTRY TO TALK IT OVER WITH YOUR HUSBAND.\nHOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR YOU.
813755
Just remember that you always have control over your own situation.  If you are in a bad marriage don't be afraid to leave.  Get out of that comfort zone and don't let fear of the unknown stop you.
137395
My husband & I lived apart for a while and may have to do so again soon.  \n\nWe tried the following:\nPhone calls\nEmails\nDedicating a song at a local radio station to the other\nSending "local" things to each other\nVisiting as often as possible\nSnail mail with cologne and perfume on it to remind each other\nMaking each other CD's to listen to\n\nWe always knew where the other was (but went out with friends, etc- jealousy was not an issue), and kept up on the "little details" that you miss so much of when you're away.  We even had Thanksgiving dinner (made the same homestyle box meal w/ turkey in it at the same time) over the phone. We would rent the same movies, watch them the same night, then talk about it after. \n\nGood luck, and hang in there if he's worth it.
360518
Start by leaving your husband and your child.  You can always have another child by this other man and your husband surely will raise this child with love, understanding, compassion and loyalty.  Something you should have had when you married him and spoke your feeble vows.  No wonder men think so many women are disgraceful creatures!
26761
Do some of the fun things you 2 did before you got married.  By still doing the activities you enjoyed together, it maintains that closeness you felt before.  How about little love notes around the house?....maybe with his shaving kit?  I'm sure he'll reciprocate one way or another.  Compliments to each other just affirm your love and appreciation for each other.
692936
This is a seemingly growing problem. Years ago people were together more. Now it seems we barely get time to say hi and bye. Life has changed the dynamics of relationships these days. However, it doesn't mean it's impossible to reconnect on an intimate level with your hubby.\n    You asked can you fall out of love with your hubby after 5 years? And the answer is a simple, Yes. Can you also reconnect and fall back in love? Again a simple YES! \n  The first step was the realization that there is a problem. The next step and maybe the hardest step is to change the way things are. In order to make changes, (and I know I have said this before, but I think it's worth saying again) You have to do the exact opposite of what you are doing now. Which means stop doing what you are currently doing, it's not working! You mentioned you had no "us" time, and that is what I would start with first. MAKE COUPLE TIME! Put your child to bed and sit down and watch a movie together. Try to go to bed together and if nothing else, just cuddle. Talk about your day, and how you can make tomorrow better. You each need to talk about your dreams, goals, and what you want for the future. You each will have separate goals, but you will also need goals as a couple. \nI would also recommend counseling. You can use your pastor, (if you have one) A close family friend with whom you trust and can be neutral, or a professional counselor.\nOther things that you might want to try is a "date" night for you and hubby. Get a babysitter (one you trust) and go away for the weekend once every 3-6 months. Spend quality time together as a couple. it doesn't have to cost a fortune. All you need is a desire to want things to change and a creative mind. I wish you all of the best!
983837
Find a support system. Though a husband is supposed to be part of it. Get out there and make friends, people who share your interests and viewpoints. On the husband, make mentions of whats going on in your mind. He may feel as insecure as you do about living in this new place and may not know how to comfort you if he cannot do it for himself. Most people keep things inside and queitly seeth. Its rare to find people who can communicate well in a relationship. Find someway to open the lines.