Does the DAV pay for nursing homes for WWII heroes?  My father lives in Naples, Fl and his wife is not ready .
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Call the Veteran Administration and find out what is available.  Your mom wouldn't be able to go into a VA home, unless she is a veteran too.
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This is a Long-Term Care issue.  You need LTC if you need assistance with 2 of the 6 Activities of Daily Living for a period of 90 days or more, or if you suffer from an organic brain impairment, like Alzheimers disease.  ADL's are: dressing, bathing, continence, transferring, toileting and eating.\n\nIf he had LTC insurance, the insurance would pay for ALL of this and preserve his assets.\n\nI was going to suggest Long Term Care insurance, but because of the Alzheimer's he wouldn't qualify.  People should buy LTC insurance when they are HEALTHY.\n\nPresident Bush signed the Deficit Reduction Act last year.  Now if you have more than $2,000 in savings or investments, you don't qualify for government assistance for LTC. If he has 40k in the bank, he doesn't qualify for government assistance which is basically welfare.\n\nIf he gifts the money away, because of the Deficit Reduction Act, he will have to wait 5 years before he qualifies for government help.\n\nHe is on his own.\n\nI suggest talking to a Reverse Mortgage professional and getting money out of the house.  The only drawback to a reverse mortgage is when he dies, his heirs will have to pay the money back.\n\nUnfortunately by the time most people find out about this new law its too late for them.  A lot of us are going to experience this situation with our aging parents and grandparents.\n\nWhile people were busy arguing about immigration and all the other B.S., they haven't been paying attention to some of the new laws that are now in  place that benefit BIG BUSINESSES like insurance companies.\n\nI wish you and your family the best.
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I would say that if your daughter and her husband have an account with USAA then they will help your daughter to get a vehicle in his and her name with out him being here. My husband as well is in Iraq and I ended up getting a new car and I used USAA and they helped me thorough everything. That's the only place that I can think of that really works with the military. I think Wells Fargo is really good at helping with problems like that all so. I hope this help and I hope your son in law returns safe from Iraq.
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Call your congressman or senator as opposed to going through the national archive. They are MUCH faster (I retrieved my grandfather's medals, ribbons and his DD214 in about a month and a half, all for free.\n\nCheck and see if any of your elected officials are on any type of armed forces committee or veteransaffairs or someething like that, they are probably more likely to take care of it for you.
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My dad was stationed at Schofield and I loved living there. There are many issues you will need to consider. First off the cost of living is pretty high. Everything costs more and I mean EVERYTHING. There are lots of jobs but you are going to get crackin' right now on finding employers that will work. There are a several civilian companies that do lots of work with the military and hire many people such as yourself. If you check out monster, hotjobs, etc you should see some open jobs at Hickham and Pearl Harbor. That would be a good place to start. Since your wife is from Hawaii she can prepare you for the culture shock.
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The system as it exists today forces families to place their elderly loved ones in nursing homes.  It is a racket.  If my mother would have been allowed to pay me just half what medicaid is having to pay the nursing home I could have afforded to quit my job and stay home so my mother could have continued to live with us.  Instead as law dictates, when she required more care than we could offer while remaining employed she was forced to go to a nursing home where in just 4 months all of her life savings was depleted.  Now that she is flat broke medicaid will take over paying the nursing home.  Of course it is not a nice posh facility because they want more than medicaid.  My mother has Alzheimer's and it is terrible that she is now surrounded by strangers in a strange place.  The problem I see isn't that medicaid wont pay enough it is that the laws about how she could choose to spend her own money for care are to strict and skewed in nursing facilities favor over family.
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Dad was stationed there twice when I was a kid. The folks are retired outside of Columbus, GA now. There isn't a lot to do in the imediate area. But its a nice place to head to the beach from on the weekends. Atlanta is nice if you like big southern city life. If you have been there for schools then you know all about Victory Drive. Girl friend? Yep you really need to stay off VD drive. If you like fishing and outdoors stuff its not a bad place. If you or her are party animals..... go somewhere else. I grew up in the infantry, I can tell you that you don't want to go to Polk, Irwin or Drum. Best places were Italy, <---- best post oconus,  West Point, Fort Ord (when it was open) and Fort Sam Houston, TX <--- best post conus.
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I'm sorry. Please forgive me if i sound unkind, but your parent was responsible for YOUR debts when you were young. Can't you help her out with the $621? I mean, this is your mother we are talking about. Not a vet bill.\n\nThe nursing home provided your mother with a service. Why shouldnt they get paid? Why try to cheat them out of it? I set up payments for what was owed for my fathers care, and it was very well above what she owes.  \n\nIf you just cant help your mother out, at least try to find someone else that can step up. Get in touch with her Medicaid caseworker. See if they can help with past bills. If they cant, then ask them for a list of people/places that can.
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I once heard a lady who has news papers with the news about the sinking of the Titanic, and the following stories of the survivors and other follow ups. She didn't think any one would be interested but was letting them go with some old furniture...the description was of antique furniture. I called her and told her to not accept any offers until she spoke with a reputable antique dealer. She was surprised that I would let her know about the value possiblilies of these items without expecting something in return, but was thrilled about the possibility of the value of her possessions as she was ill and trying to get money for meds and care for her illnes.\nI would check to be sure that she really has nothing to hide as far as having an inspector check out the house for you before you sign anything. If indeed she is not aware of the true value of the home and land if there is some with it; and you cheat her out of its true worth, you may find yourself dealing with sleepless nights and an ulcer(s) for your deciet. In light of this I would tell her and pay her that much more for the place. The rewards to your peace of mind and soul will be worth your honesty.  Honesty is the best policy.  Wouldn't you want someone to be honest about your home if it were you selling your home and you were elderly and didn't know the true worth of your home? Walk a mile in her shoes before you short change her if that is the case. I have nothing to gain money wise from helping you make a good decision now do I? Think I will e-you and ask for a percentage of your savings for doing wrong much less doing the right thing?   NOPE, don't want a cent!\n\nYears ago I was walking with my Dad and a friend of Dada' family(the man was one of a multi + millionaire family. His wallet fell out of his pocket. Money went everywhere. I called out to him but the wind kept Dad and this man from hearing me. So I picked up(to my knowledge and eyesight) all the money that fell out plus his wallet. Caught up with them and tugged his sleeve, explaining what had happened as I handed him the cash and wallet. He straightened out the wad of bills and placed them back without so much as checking the amount of money I handed him. Then he took my Dad and I out to the most expensive resturant in the city and bought us both the best they had there in food, and offered to buy Dad a new vehicle for our honesty. Dad thanked him, but declined the car saying the meal and his friendship  was thanks-a-plenty.\n\nNow check out the warnings below and the verse to honor widows. Give your decision long thought before you act, keeping the following in mind.\n\nBible  warnings about doing wrong to widows:\n   Exodus: 22:22 ye shall not afflict any widow\n                 or fatherless child.\n   Luke: 20:47 Which devour widows' houses, and for a show \n               make long prayers: the same shall recieve \n               greater damnation. \n   There are numerous warnings about damnnation of those \n               who wrongly do a widow.\n\n    I Titus 5:3 Honor widows....
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I Know What you mean my dad had a stroke 5yrs. ago and since then I've kinda become his personal assistant. There are a few companies that provide personal nursing care but these are usally expensive. There are also some assisted living places that help people when they need it but allow them freedom the wouldn't have in a nursing home. I know both these options are expensive. However, other than these all I really can suggest is for a family member to stay with him. I know I help my dad with a lot of things he used to do everyday I make sure he remembers to take meds and help him go to bed. Its a difficult job, and I'm still going to school, but if you or one of your family members wants to help him sometimes this is better than letting a stranger.
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First of all...God Bless your mother!  I commend her for what she is doing for your Grandmother!  We went through this same thing with my Grandma a few years back.  What we found what the best answer for us...and the least costly was...we hired a lady to live with and care for Grandma.  Most of her pay was room and board...paid her a small weekly wage, and she stayed 24/7 and only taking off 1 afternoon a week and every other weekend.  Then, we called an in home health nursing facility to come in daily for medication, bathing, anything the live in was not qualified to do.  The live in was responsible for meals, house cleaning, companionship, making sure her bed was clean.  (My Grandma was bedridden for the last 8 months she was alive)...this live in companion/caregiver enabled her to stay in her own home until she passed.  We found the live-in by running an ad in the newspaper. Please feel free to send me an email and I will go into more detail.  By the way..we are in Indiana.  I would be glad to help you research and answer any questions I can.  This is a very tough situation for everyone involved.....My Prayers and thoughts will be with you!
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Im sorry for you loss.  I hope this will help you and your friend. Because he was a veteran (military) he should be eligable for burial benefits in a national cemetery.  In some cases, there is no cost to the family.  My grandfather was buried in a natinal cemetary when passed on several years back, and i don't beleive my grandmother was charged anything, but im not 100% sure.\n\nHeres the link to the natinal cemetary admin. page.  It has all the information on the national cemetery's (including benefits etc.).  There located in almost every state.  I hope this helps you.  \n\nhttp://www.cem.va.gov/burial.htm
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Go to    myfloridacounty.com  anyways 650 sounds about right and not that I'm judging but why didn't you pay all along she may be able to claim past money.good luck to your old and new family
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Call the nursing homes in your area and ask to speak with the program director or volunteer coordinator. Good for you! God bless you! Have fun!
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It is a natural as birth, I my father died two years ago. He had a maintainable decease Ulcerative colitis. But at 72 he was tired of living. He felt he had done what he was put here to do and there was no talking him out of it. They put him on painkillers and sent him home. He died six months later. It's tempting to say "lost", but this isn't the case in reality. Those who pass over are ever present in our lives. At times you will even hear them speak when you are having troubles. Right now your mother in law is in a safe place and at peace. There is no time, no pain, there is no fear or suffering. Better by far than the place where we live today. If you look ahead I know it sounds far fetched, but you will see her again soon. Time isn't what you think it is.. So waste non of it. 20 years from now this will make even more sense.
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This happened to me last December.  I wound up in ICU.  What to do about my disabled/non-driver husband, the house, getting around etc.  The Hospital I was in sent a Case Manager (an RN with Social Services training etc) to visit me in.  She really helped.  I could not believe the amount of available services in my area.  There are Catholic Charities, Jewish Chariles, Lutheran Charities,  none of whom care what (or if) your religion is.  There is a low/no fee medical or seniors transportation service.  The list went on and on.  If you have the $ or not, services are available.   Hopefully,  so are REAL friends!!
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You can contact the VA, If your father was on the ground in Vietnam he is elligble for disability and medical care if he has diabetis. See links below.  You do need a DD-214 and asdditional proof he was on the ground in Vietnam.