What is wrong with me?  I refuse to develop a big enough ego to succeed in the workforce.  What can I do?
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don't worry... I've seen people with no ego (or abilities whatsoever) get to good positions just because they always stay out of trouble...
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neverlate to succeed my friend, i was devorced with a kid and alone working day time and made it, because i wanted too.\n\ntake a good exemble of me, make dreams and move on for the best
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dude thats not the answer you need to lift your chin up and keep at it. so you failed your drivers test big deal you can try again. if at first you dont succeed try try again. you can do anything if you put your mind to it! you have to think positive and keep your chin up. life sucks yes but you have to grab life by the horns and wrestle it to the ground and overcome it. and as for loosing your job no loss apparently it was not a very good job anyway so pick yourself back up off the ground and go out and find an even better one. it is out there believe me. i can speak all of this from experience! i have been where you are now. i started to give up on finding a good job i would like too but just as i was about to give up i found an awesome job and it is even better than being an employee im in management now and you could do it too! you just have to be positive and get it in your head that you will succeed and you will not fail. dont take any of this laying down. get up and get into life and enjoy it and have fun and make life fun. it can be it dont have to be depressing it can be happy times trust me i know life can be great and im sure it will be very soon and sooner than what you think. be a winner because in my book everybody is a winner they can only fail if they allow themselves to. anyway if you ever need anyone to talk to about things feel free to email me at larrydseeley@yahoo.com i will answer back. good luck and god bless remember you are somebody and people do care about you and respect you. let me know how you are doing sometime soon. your friend larry.
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I also lack confidence. In fact I tend to stutter when I get really nervous in interviews. But I manage to get good jobs. I think you should go for interviews a lot. When you get a hang of it, it will just be like a breeze. Just concentrate on harnessing your skills and nothing will go wrong.
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First of all, I appreciate you to think about this and ask a question openly here. That shows you have recognized a problem and willing to do something about it. That is a big step. This is a tough question and I will do my best to answer briefly.\n\nYou are going to do few things to understand yourself. Here are my suggestions. 1) Think calmly and deeply (while driving, while taking a bath or whatever brings you that concentration) on what where the times you were happy doing your job. You have to go back in time in your current job, in your previous jobs, and even in other activities that you may be involved in. Start jotting down notes. 2) Start analyzing those events and you will find a common pattern such as "I am very happy when I interact with customers a lot at work" or "I am very happy researching and analyzing a problem all by myself and coming up with ideas". 3)Think about what makes you upset or bored in your current situation - Is it because your boss does not respect your inputs? Too much office politics? Personal problems? 4) You just do not like your job -- may be your job demands a lot of interaction with customers but you do not enjoy that. 5) You think you are not compensated well? - may be a lost promotion or you feel that your friends who do similar work get paid much more? It could be even as simple as you do not enjoy flexibility in office timings whereas your personal demands need it. \n\nOnce you have given thought to these things, you will feel confident. Ask your boss for some time to talk in depth. Prepare yourself well for the meeting so that you are to the point and explain what gets you excited and what keeps you motivated. Good luck.
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Just try to get out of the habit.  It could be a great first step to let them know you would like to do better too.  Stick with it keeping in mind that it will take some time to change yourself, and how others react to you.\nGood work, and good luck, I'm sure you will be happier.\n\nps Only those with limited life experience would ever confuse a nice person with a weak person.
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Are you hotter than them? Maybe it's jealousy. Do you actually do a better job than them other than the few mistakes you made? Maybe they are intimidated. Its sounds like they are immature. I'm not sure why this job is so valuable to both of you but maybe you could consider transferring to another department? Maybe contact your human resources or equal opportunity section, if you have one, to see if they have any advice. If not then maybe mediation is the only option. Tell your boss and the other two that its not a healthy work environment and you think production in the office would improve drastically if something were to change...maybe more solo projects or moving cubicles to allow a little more privacy. It can be hard confronting superiors but what it sounds like is they are threatened that you might outshine them, my best advice is to keep doing your best, eventually you will get recognized and hopefully their bad attitudes will get recognized too (in a not so good sort of way)... GOOD LUCK!!
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We are in the same boat. I lost my job the other day for being "too quiet." They said that I worked hard and didn't do anything wrong but they wanted someone more out going.How stupid is that? All you can do is pick youself up and try again.Good Luck! Oh and in the mean time try to enjoy your day off. God will supply all of your needs according to His riches in glory.
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Figure out what your problem is. Realize your problem isn’t who you are, it’s what you have used to protect your physical and emotional well being. It’s hiding who you are: a beautiful human being, a wonderful source of awareness, knowledge, creativity, love and joy. If you practice self-esteem based on the faith that this is who you really are, then your problem will dissolve. \nFigure out who you are. Take self-evaluation quizzes. Learn as much as you can about who you are and why you think and feel the way you do. Self-knowledge is a key to success. \nDecide what you can and can’t control. Change and act on the things that are in your control and release the things that are out of your control. \nAccept responsibility. Finding self-confidence requires accepting responsibility for your own happiness, and recognizing that you are a product not only of your genetic code and your environment, but of the choices you make. Begin your day with the words "I am responsible." \nMake anxiety your ally. Write down your worries for 30 days. Nagging concerns that loom so large in your imagination lose their power on paper. Amazingly, after writing them down the anxieties begin to fade. \nRecognize that mistakes are opportunities. Keep the setback in perspective. Most mistakes are not personal tragedies; rather they are problems you now have the opportunity to solve. "Success," is often a string of failed attempts to get it right. \nCompete to improve yourself not to beat someone else. \nBe ambitious. When setting goals, remember that you are distinct from what you have and what you seem to be. If you let others define who you are, you may not find happiness. Pursue your own dreams -- not your parent’s, mate’s, or your best friend’s. \nBe brave and take risks. Don’t be afraid of mistakes. Risk-taking builds confidence. When considering any risk: define a clear goal. Review the positive, practical and potential losses. Determine whether the risk is one of trust, identity or something larger. When you focus on risks that have a larger purpose, you can’t go wrong. Even if the risk doesn’t turn out as you hoped it would, you will gain from it. Act. Take a risk. Be confident -- you have earned it. \nThink and speak positively. If you hear a compliment or positive statement about someone you know pass that compliment on to them. An Arabian proverb puts it neatly: Blessed is he who speaks a kindness; thrice blessed he who repeats it. \nLearn something new. Create a new hobby. Increase your vocabulary one word a week. Take on a new physical challenge or activity. \nSpend time investing in your personal growth. This enables joy to flourish amid the fears and difficulties of life. Read self-help books and act on the knowledge. \nDecisions: the next time you ponder a decision, think of everything that could go right and say to yourself, "What do I have to lose, really? \nSmile and be courteous. Use the words please and thank you consistently. \nBe aware of media’s messages. Their goal is to make you feel bad about yourself so you will buy what they are selling. \nKeep good company. Positive feeds positive and negative breeds negative. If you choose to be around positive people you in turn will become more positive. \nReward yourself. Give yourself and others positive rewards for being and doing well. \nDon’t accept messages that damage your own self-esteem. It is much easier to improve or change your behavior when you believe you are lovable and capable. \nBe aware of the different messages that you hear in your head and remember to turn up the volume on the messages that contribute to your positive self-esteem and to turn down the volume on any message that encourages you to think negatively about your worth or ability. \nYou can improve the quality of messages you have in your head about being lovable and capable. Use "how to" statements in your head and take action on the answers you rece
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You are probably trying too hard to impress.  Be yourself and your true personality will show.  Ultimately, you want to be with people that accept you for who you are, otherwise you will need to "put on an act" everytime you are around them.\n\nOne way to take the edge off your personality, is to join a group like toastmasters or take a night class that deals with public speaking or even "acting", improv, or similar.  You'll be amazed to find that when you are around others who are relaxed, it rubs off.  \n\nIn the end...relax, be yourself and don't be so hard on yourself.  Everyone is human.
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I am suspecting that you are lacking confidence. Good that you like the job. Give it some more time and take the following steps. \n\n1) Tell yourself "I am smart and I can learn fast". Think about some of the times in the past where you learnt new things very well.\n2) Ask a colleague who knows this stuff to teach you. Appreciate their time and effort. Stay longer at work if you have to. Many people are generally obliging when someone wants to learn from them and respects them for their knowledge.\n3) Ask your boss to spend few minutes and teach you few tricks. Tell her that you love the job and you need some hand to pick up some stuff.\n4) Ask your boss whether there are some courses you can attend and improve your knowledge. Such courses will give you the extra confidence. After that, you may find that your colleagues come to you to clarify stuff!\n5) Read documentation that may be useful. Ask and take them home to spend more time on it in a relaxed setting.\n6) Ask the HR department whether they can help. Remember their job is to improve the productivity and efficiency of their company employees.\n7) If your job required learning common stuff like effective use of the Internet, Microsoft Word or Excel, ask a smart youngster among your relatives. They know computer stuff very well than adults.\n8) Very important - Whatever you learn, take clear notes. That kind of note taking improves your retaining ability. From those notes try that exercise all by yourself. \n\nMagic will happen if you work on these things. Keep in mind that your employer knows that it takes several months for an employee to be productive at their peak levels. This is a perfect time for you to be doing the things I mention. Your boos will appreciate for your initiatives. Good luck.
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u could try doing something u have been afraid to do that helps to build confedence dressing smart for work not the useual way u dress will make u feel important like u have things undercontrol that also shows people ur confident but always be urself but dont take crap from no one stand ur ground in any situation if u can do that it will help gain selfasteam
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I feel you.  I am the same way.  Most of the time its because I learn the position and get bored.  Then I move on to the next challenge.  In my mind, there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing this.  You are getting all you can out of an employer and building up your resume.  One thing that I know is that in the corporate world,your expendable.  You could be the best worker in the world, enjoy what you do everyday, and be canned tomorrow because the co. didn't make the profits they thought they would. Your best bet is to continue to move on until you really find your calling or open your onwn business so you are your own boss.
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In what way? Read motivational books that talk about self improvement. If its physical....then treat yourself with complements to yourself. Have a positive and loving attitude. Be outgoing and enjoy each day....and associate around people that are successful as well as to those that you may respect. Its all about the mindset that you may have, and your attitude.
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Just try to make yourself stronger. don't think of poeple talkings much and improve your self confidence.\nI was like this when I was younger but I released being sensentive too much is not worth at all.
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learn to follow ur heart, be a good human being agreed wealth is somthing but it is not everything. u need someone strong to back ur dreams and help u cope with failures. Beacuse the more the no of failures, the more succsesfull u will be all the best
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went through the same thing...I tried using that to my advantage...make that your main motivation....you have not failed unless you have decided not to get back up and try again...try and think of it as..."failure is not an option" and will never be...\n  you will over come your obsticals trust me...you can and will be someone