What is the best way to get out of the habbit of being a quiet person?  I want to be a little more out going..
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Hi Amanda, \n\nPlease know that everything begins inside you, and that is where you can begin your being more outgoing and more assertive. \n\nSeveral powerful tools to help turn your desires into reality are as follows: \n\nHave your ever heard of the term, " Brain Writing"?\nDo this daily: Take a pen and paper and start writing what you want to transpire. for example, " I am a vibrant and outgoing person who is assertive and spontaneous". or something to that effect. Write this, say, 10 times, or as many times as you feel comfortable with. \n\nAnother is called creative visualization. Find a place where you will not be disturbed, perhaps when you go to bed at night, and in your mind, visualize yourself being very outgoing, talkative and assertive. See yourself in different situations and see how you are spontaneous and assertive. If you should feel uncomfortable, stop the visualization and say to yourself, cancel, cancel negative thoughts. and continue with your visualization. \n\nWhen you do this, you sub conscious mind takes everything in, and it cannot tell the difference between a real event or an imagined event. So each time you do these creative visualizations, you are setting the stage for the new you to emerge. \n\nIn closing, always remember, that others will always see you as you see yourself. It's called self confidence and other people will always pick up on it. \n\nI apologize for this being rather long, but it was necessary for me to do whatever it takes to help you to become the new person you desire. \n\nEnjoy the new you, \n\nDarryl S.
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instead of waiting to speak, learn to listen to others.  Actually reflect on what they have just said and see what IMPORTANT contributions you can bring into the conversation.  Stay away from speaking about yourself, that only makes you boring.  Speak with confidence and bring about only positive reflections, negativism will make you a turn off.  People want to be with and speak to positive people who listen to them and with whom they can have genuine conversations.
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Be confident and don't talk alot...
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I do just for the simple reson that I can't stand silence. another alternative is using a fan. it will make just enough noise to break the silence. Good luck
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To be more outgoing.. you have to BE out there.. you cant be inside your little shell.. You have to get to know a person REALLY well so u can feel comfortable talking wit him or her.. Just go out there and talk talk talk.. u may not know it but everyone is very outgoing.. some just dont show it because they are too shy or just grumpy.. you have to be out there.. you cant hide.. just talk it out.. talk to people like they are one of your family.. u get outgoing when you talk to them..
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I can relate with you as even I am an introvert but I try my best to step out of the comfort zone. Make a conscious effort everyday to say Hi to everyone you know. That would improve your confidence with the people you know. Once you realise you are being accepted by them, you will slowly gain confidence and then you can try the same with meeting new people. A casual talk on the weather or the surrounding is the perfect ice-breaker. Its all in the mind, and once you conquer it no one can stop you from being an extrovert.
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Great communicators/conversationists know how to ask questions and LISTEN with interest to the answers. If you are quiet by nature, you are ahead of the game, unlikely to be inclined to blubber idiotically. Stop trying to overcome your 'shyness' and stop worrying about what YOU have to say. It's the fear of being rejected that trips you up. \n\nLearn to listen. The right words --- the ones 'outgoing' people usually can't utter --- will come when you stop worrying about what YOU have to say and just listen quietly. Try it out and tell me it doesn't change how you view your 'social self.' \n\nGood luck!
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Try going alone when you know there's hardly anyone around like early mornings. When you do go, reward yourself with something nice besides food. Work on your postive self-talk. I had the same problems with being self conscious when I'm alone but I went and did it. What helped was having a radio or cd/tape player to distract you from your own self-defeating thoughts.
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Remain silent when silence is all that's needed.\n\nLearn when silence is needed.\n\nRemember that all is transitory at all times.\n\nRead and I don't mean time magazine.\n\nGet enough sleep.\n\nDo enough work to live decent but not for what you really don't need.\n\nEat and drink in moderation.\n\nWatch the animals they can teach much.\n\nDo a kindness that none know of often.\n\nRemember none of us live forever and make your peace with that fact.
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if you wanna stop being shy, socialize as much as you can! you'll observe others, imitate them at first, and in time get enough courage to do whatever you wanted to.
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Always try to get away from things for a short while tht really troubles u........With this u will get a peace in ur mind which will help u to return to the situation n face it with positive note\nAlso somethings being alone helps to get a peaceful state of mind
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realize that nobody cares about you.  it sounds harsh, but no one is wondering about you or judging your every move--only you are doing that.  Get over yourself, you aren't that interesting.  this should let you then go out and enjoy life a little more.
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How about anything that will put you in social situations. Im not saying that to be mean, Im just saying that shyness is not something you need to just live with. Break free of it. I was extremely shy just a few years ago. I overcame this by becoming an xray tech. I know its not a glamorous job, but I it has helped. When you are around people screaming in pain all day long, the last thing on your mind is saying the wrong thing. I can talk freely to anyone now. Think about it.
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Get a bunch of friends over and be real quiet except for right when they finish. Then all of you applaud as loud as you want.
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First, make the decision that you are not going to be shy.  Believing that you are shy, or somehow not as worthy as others around you will make you continue to be shy.\n\nSecond, start slowly, by giving yourself an assignment.  Try making small talk to one new person.  Practice at home when you are alone, so you have some things ready to say.\n\nThird, try finding an activity that interests you, so you will meet people with the same interest.  Then you have a topic to start talking about.\n\nThat is how I overcame my shyness.  (It also helped when I turned forty and stopped caring what other people thought about me!)
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First talk to someone close to you who is an open individual, then get off your *!* and exercise! I mean make your self sweat, get rid of the frustration! ASAP!
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go solo for a while. relax take a break. sometimes that helps. is that the answer you were looking for?