I want another baby but husband says no?
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Just stop using birth control and allow a 'mistake' to occur.\n\nBut why would you want a baby that the father does not want.  If he is unwilling, than perhaps you should let it go.  Don't bring an unwanted child into the world.
589990
He is more likely to be ready than you are. He doesn't know where you are and thats why he hasn't initiated anything. If you initiate it I he is certain to accept. You are the one who had the baby he is just waiting for you.
955399
I suggest trying another company as well as another husband.
611932
The world right now in May of 2006 is climbing toward 7,000,000,000 -- yes, billion -- people.  For health reasons, you have had a hysterectomy.  And now your husband wants another baby.  What do YOU want?  Do you have any children in the first place?  Have you or he had children together, or do you have children from previous relationships?  How much strain would this pregnancy put on your body and your relationship?  All of these questions and more, I'm sure, need to be considered.\n\nIn vitro may be an option, but it's expensive and very iffy, with maybe a 10% chance of impregnation at any one time.  At several thousand dollars per cycle and no promises, IVF is often an emotional rollercoaster, as people get their hopes up and then nothing.  Are you willing to go through, potentially, months and years of disappointment, dwindling finances and no child at the end?\n\nUsing a surrogate is a possibility, but surrogacy is fraught with emotional time-bombs.  Some surrogates want to keep the baby.  Mothers who cannot have children physically may be resentful and jealous of the other woman's ability to become and stay pregnant.  I don't know what the protocol is after a child is born from a surrogate, but it seems an extraordinary thing for a woman to give birth to a child and then just walk away, but I suppose that's how it's done.  \n\nUltimately if you don't have a uterus, you cannot have a baby naturally that I'm aware of.  You would have to use a surrogate, or you would have to adopt.  I'd suggest you do some research and reading first, talk this over with your husband, and talk it over with yourself, and think about what you really want.  \n\nIt sends up a big red flag to me that after a hysterectomy where your uterus is removed, your husband suddenly wants a baby -- and obviously you cannot do this.  Is it really a baby he wants, or something else emotionally?  Having a baby complicates relationships and never solves any problem.  Babies even when wanted bring stress to a relationship.  Perhaps some marriage counseling and/or some very honest talks are very much in order.  I wish you the best.\n\nGood luck.  Cheers, K
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u r a guy,u r human. Dont get me wrong, I am not condoning what happened but man, sometimes one yeilds to temptations and prices have to be paid. So  with this baby on the way, it is obvious at some point of ur duble life ur wife will have to know then u will find out if u can keep both, either or neither.So u don't have to decide now. Just ride with it. The decision will be taken out of ur hands once demands cannot meet up with ur supplies.
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We don't know how long you've been trying or what you have done to try having another baby. There are options out there ranging from home ovulation tests to surrogate mothers. Your family doctor should be able to help you with those. Other hints, both of you take your vitamins, cut back on the alcohol, no smoking and after sex lay with your legs in the air and pillow under your butt for about 20 min. And the hardest one of all, try not to stress. I know, I've been there, when you really want another baby and it's not working, it seems to be all you think about. exercise helps reduce stress, so go for a walk. \n\nI wish you the best of luck.
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I was feeling the same way not so long ago.\n\nMaybe it's just a female urge, but I really wanted to get pregnant. I wanted to have a baby who was half of me, and half of him, I wanted a baby I could love and watch grow up.\n\nBut, I realized the life of that child would be deprived. As much as I know I would love him or her, they'd have very few chances at a good and equal future. If you guys aren't seeing each other enough, maybe you should talk to him about it. If basketball comes before you, then maybe that relationship just isn't the right one to commit yourself with a child to. Who knows when he'd leave you?\n\nBut, if you are pregnant, I suggest you seriously discuss it with him, and if you aren't completely sure he can provide for you and the baby, then maybe you need to think about adoption. It's a hard decision, but if it's in the best interest of the baby, it's quite possibly the best decision, too.\n\nGood luck,\n~Morgan~
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Its possible that he wants another, but he's undesided. \nIf I were you I'd find out by the cold shoulder for a week or 2,then call to see has he made up his mind.
488460
At first I was going to answer that you can never convince him, but then I remembered I was the same exact way.  We waited and waited for the right time.  Guess what, the right time never comes.  There is always an excuse.  If it was clearly a stated goal of the marriage, it is time to stop waiting and get on with it.  Put your foot down.  Now, here are a few things to convince him.  \n\n1)  It took us over a year for my wife to get prego.  \n\n2)  Once you have the kid your life stops as you know it.  It takes years and years before you can start living as adults again.  The longer you wait to have kids, the older you are when you can start having fun again.  People without kids never realize this.  You have years of diapers, puke, illness, and finding a sitter.  If we had started earlier, we'd be almost free by now.  Draw him a time line, does he want to be 40 and free from kids or 50?
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Wake up honey.  If he wanted to be with you, he would have NEVER gotten his soon to be baby mama pregnant....he would have NEVER cheated on you.\n\nLooks to me like you're willing to settle for left overs and sloppy seconds.  You think you have problems now, just wait until that baby is born.\n\nDon't you think you deserve better?  Girl, kick him to the curb and move on with your life.  You don't need a looser like him in your corner.  Better to loose 2 years than 10 or 15 years in a bad relationship that's never going to go anywhere.  \n\nHe's made his decision.  He got another woman pregnant and is spending more time with her.  Now it's your turn to make a decision.  Cut him loose and move on girl!!
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You are not going to change his mind.  If he is not willing to marry for the sake of your child, your personal wishes are not of any consequence.  After all, how much worse can it get than changing diapers?
540808
I gave up my one and only chance and hope to have a baby because my husband and I felt that someone else was more deserving of our grant.  We didn't think we would be bad parents.  The timing was all wrong and we felt selfish for holding onto the grant until we were ready and returned it, asking them to give it to another deserving couple.
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First did he say why he was quitting before he had another job? You sure he didn't get fired and he is covering with this story. Calm down a bit I know it is hard to do but take some deep breaths and see what your options are right now. Will he have a easy time finding another or maybe he has one lined up. If not and he has done this many times in the times in the past than you will need to do what is best for you and the baby...K
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No..........says my husband.
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Another woman who kept secrets from her husband . . . \n\nDon't tell him a thing . . . and have fun . . . if you don't get pregnant . . . after a few (3-5) years . . . tell him that you are going to the doctors . . . and then after 6-8 months . . . tell him that the doctor said that you can not get pregnant . . . tell him you are sorry . . . and ask him will you still love me.
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I have 2 kids and would love more.Unfortunately my partner can't have kids.I have accepted it.We would have liked our own child,but he treats mine as his own.
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there is no way anybody here can answer that for you, the fact that you feel the need to ask is not a good sign though.  make sure you can take care of yourself and your baby on your own in case it doesn't though, its the best way to protect yourself against the possibility that it won't and you are now responsible for another life.  why are you having a child with someone you have so many doubts about?