Does familiarity breed contempt?
913669
mostly yes, since we all have our little failures, and a close observer usually feels a little superior about the weaknesses of others.
931346
I wouldn't say that I HATE it, but it does make me shake my head and think "what a waste of bandwidth".\n\nI generally ignore those once I've identified that that's what they are.\n\nOf course, some are so egregious that I can't help but respond.
253255
Sure - anyone who says they've never done this is likely lying.  It's natural to gravitate toward what is familiar.  Some people obviously bring it a lot farther than others.  I can't really say I'm ashamed of it, but I try to stay aware of my responses to avoid offending others.  I judge people all the time, not just on race or nationality though; I make judgements about people by the way they look, act, speak, etc.
377838
I think that's a bit of a sweeping statement don't you? I'm in my late 30s (and British) and bitterness is something I avoid like the plague - it destroys one's 'soul' and makes one twisted! Looks like you've been let down by a British woman in  her late 30s - hope you resolve what's bothering you!
272069
Let me ask you this.  If you had a time machine and could change any event in your past, would that make you feel better about yourself today?  If it would then realize what it is about that event that is sabotaging you today.  If it is a past thing, often times we know intellectually that we are ok but our emotions are still tied to that past event.  Emotions stay the same no matter how old we get.  We cant stop the pain in life sometimes but we can increase the tools to deal with it.  When you dropped something as a young child you cried.  You can drop the same item now and it is ok, why?  You have information now that tells intellectually it is ok.  The emotions are the same but the tools to deal with that event are in place.  You have already experienced that event and it no longer shocks you.  So what is it about your life that is shocking you now?\n\nWhatever the issue is past, present, you need to see what is eating away at it.  It is ok to feel bad, it is the flipside of the coin to feeling happy.  The problem is if we become depressed about it, all life's issues become sensative and bigger problems than they are.\n\nYoung or old we all feel down at times.  Some just hide it better or keep themselves occupied to endure those moments.  Sometimes we feel like we are being taken somewhere and have no way to steer it.  The key is planning what you want to do.  Life is 90% how you react to it.  If you think you are successful and a good person, people will be convinced of it too.  Most reality comes from someone's perception.  They believed it and it became so.\n\nDepression is impression without expression.  Something gets you down, find a way to express it.\n\nIf you kind of hate yourself then you have not completely made full judgement on yourself yet.  If you hate yourself than you are having an expectation that you are not at yet.  Find out what that is and is it a valid expectation?\n\nGood luck to you!
563974
Maybe the people you are referring to are, at the time of your encounter, projecting their previous experiences onto you. Maybe something you have said or done, quite innocently, has reminded them of an aspect of someone they know or knew or even themselves. They feel they have to put you in the same box. \n\nI find there are a lot of people who feel they 'have to have an opnion' even when they have no prior experience of what you are talking about, often because they feel insecure. Expert syndrome. \n\nThere again, maybe I only read the first few words of your question and thought I knew all about everything & I actually thought I was in the automotive section, because I didn't read the catagory listing properly.\n\nHaving met these people on the dating scene, at least you know one thing... NEXT!
661185
Yes, I think we all feel threatened when that happens. When someone does that to us, I think that our self-confidence dwindles, which hurts us emotionally. It is hard to take when someone questions our intelligence, especially when they do it to insult you.
227695
I have found that working for family always breeds contempt, due to the familiarity issue.\nMaybe finding employment with another company would solve your problem?  You will always be sensitive to any critique you get from your family, but from another person, you take it and make the change, as you should \nGood luck!
792936
they're haters; people tend to be jealous of people they wish they were...
714121
Haven't read your last question but one thing for sure, you shouldn't hate someone because they got in there first. You are using the word 'fancy' so it sound that the person is only an acquaintance. Don't fret over it. Go out tonight and I'm sure you'll spot someone who's not already taken. Good lick, sorry good luck. Freudian slip there.
940464
My oldest cousin agreed with me that my mother's pride is very strong. When my mother would grab my father, he would be able to tolerate it because he knows her characteristics very well. The result of terrible situations occur when he hurts her feelings. At times, I do feel sorry for my mother. I feel sorry for her because she is constantly concerned about my grandmother's health. The reason why I believe my mother supports her so much is not because of her old age but also her strong existence.
164702
*Shrugging my furry shoulders* Humans fear the unfamiliar...\nFear triggers a fight or flight instict and in this case that fear triggered fight instinct has led to irrational blindness of actual reality.\nNowhere is this blindness seen in greater concentration than in the groups that sadly are filled with a lot of people who would prefer to believe in text, written during the dark ages, when the world was thought of as flat; than to think for themselves and use their hearts and minds to decide what is right and wrong.\n\nThey are just lazy I guess or sadly far far from in touch with the true path...
128524
Absolutely. There is some subjectivity to all experience.  We frame the experience based on our frames of reference which are previously imprinted within our brains.  There are times when we truly believe we see or hear something that we later find to be false.  \n\nWhen I am scanning answers I sometimes think I see something that I don't.  I've found myself quickly voting or rating an answer then seeing it more clearly and wishing I'd voted differently.  In these cases I was prone towards seeing the answer I thought I saw and then upon closer review finding the actual answer was something different.
556144
Sometimes. I dislike the amount of effort I feel I have to exert when meeting someone - whether they are new, old or permanent fixtures.\nI am quite self concious and social events are a nightmare to me. I'd rather curl up with a book or a movie any day!\nThen again, every now and again I'm struck by bouts of an excessive need to be sociable  - I kind of get my fill every few weeks or couple of months and then I'm sated for a while and content to meander about in my own little bubble.
66184
I could agree with that --people in general-- those who are with the in crowd are there because they feel nurtured and accepted in a way--imagine if you are excluded from certain circles because of something beyond your control--it may seem patronizing but it may be the "ill logic" aka the harsh truth
255323
Interesting question. Worth exploring a bit.\n\nI am wondering if it is in part caused by our tendency to imitate and mimic one another (what the Greeks called mimesis (which is the basis of acting) ?\n\nMonkeys and apes have this ability too. so I wondered if there have been studies of monkeys and apes which have looked at "chain reacion" emotions soreading like wildfire within a group, and whether heirarchies and pecking orders affect this? Will a low status individual copy a high status one, but not the other way around?\n\nAnd does the same pecking order apply in humans? Certainly, a chair of a meeting has to sense if a topic is exhausted and move the meeting on to the next item on the agenda, and measuring whether people are bored or interested is part of that judgement.\n\nPerhaps it is a combination of mimesis and empathy involved i.e. we are more liable to feel the way others in the room are feeling if we are empathetically "engaged"  with them, putting ourselves in their shoes so as to understand what they are feeling.
1099407
Yes.  Intentions and actions do not always correspond to each other.