my mum recently died from multi organ failure following an operation to have a lung removed due to lung cancer
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I know of two other people who had this operation due to cancer and neither one of them survived very long after. They were not related and they did not have the operation at the same hospitals.\nThe thing is that people some times forget when the doctor tells them that the risks of the operation are-------- and maybe 30% chance of survival---the next question being for how long? Lung cancer is a terrible disease. I,m so sorry to hear this distressing news.
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This is a repeated question but I will put my answer down anyway cause you may really need help.\n\nPlease visit your Member of Parliament for help. He/she will try to arrange for financial assistance. You can use Medisave, to pay for your operation fees which should be subsidized. Since cancer may need additional treatments like radiation and chemotherapy, maybe you like to stress these out to your MP or just ask the hospital for help. Your MP can also write to HDB to try to reduce your rents. There are always many schemes around, you just have to ask the right people.
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My mother had severe lung problems all of her life. At 17, she  hemorraged so bad 1/2 of her left lung had to be taken out. She had a lung disease called bronchiestasis(spelling is Variable). She was told that she probably wouldn't live past forty. She went on to have five children, but did suffer constantly from her condition. She did live until she was 69. Many improvements and medical treatments have come along way in the treatment of many lung disorders. Yet, there is no cure for this disease.\nKnowing she had limited lung capacity, she did many things to try to improve her life. One thing that probably added a few more years to her life was to eliminate all aerosol usage. I built her a "clean" room that not only included ac/heat, but also air scrubbing using various filters and insuring that they were always clean.\nThere are some foods that are no-no's when it comes to taking oxygen right out of your system. It would be very beneficial to visit a lung doctor and get a good diet from him. There are also foods that enable you to produce more oxygen. It is going to tkae some \nself involvement and require you to make some adjustments to your life style, but you can help yourself a little. I hope these words are helpful nad know that you have someone who has travelled this road and knows of the problems and downfalls to not being able to get a good breath. Take care and God bless you.
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all answers are get to the GP and I second that but in 4 years hasn't anyone in your family advised you to do this it is a long time to be suffering pain in an area prone to cancer I'm not being scary Vicky but you must realise the delay in getting medical attention is risky! very risky!!  good luck to you and i hope all ends well
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My thoughts and prayers are with you.  My mother went through this and when we believed it got to the brain I think it was about a few weeks.  She just went downhill and then all her pain and suffering was over.  I wish nothing but the best outcome, however, to be completely honest it doesn't sound good.  God Bless
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My wife had one 3 years ago and doctors left it.  It turned out to be cancer and she is still fighting it. DO NOT HESITATE GETTING TREATMENT BECAUSE IT MAY COST YOUR LIFE AND YOUR KIDS WONT HAVE A MUM
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I've been through exactly what you are going thru so I understand your feeling.  The best thing for your mom, is to keep her spirits up; never give up spirit!! You need to support that.  People, especially cancer patients die, because they give up and think it is hopeless.  As a daughter the best love you can give her is, give her hope, give her good news about yourself or the other people in your family, always have a smile on your face, never dark or depressed looking.  Have fresh flowers near her to look at.  Keep the windows open and let the sun in, in the evening, they usually do not like darkness so stay close to her (I slept with my mom sometimes, but always on the floor next to her) and keep the little lamp on. \n\nDo everything possible to make her laugh, and keep her spirits up, and give her the all the love you can give her everyday.\n\nI also chanted nam-myoho-renge-kyo together with her, and she would always fall asleep, and made me happy to see her not suffering but joyful.\n\nI will chant for her everyday!
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My husband thought he hurt his back at work. Went to hospital was told he had pneumonia and a cracked rib it got worse went back again. He was diagnised March 20th passed June 6th.  He went thru radiation chemo gamma knife procedure and took the drug tarceva. I miss himm so bad I cannot stand it. We threw barbeques for friends and family had parties went where ever he wanted to go ate what he wanted to eatwe even got up at midnight and played pool til 4 am. The hardest part was watching him disappear before my very eyes. And of course losing him. We do have children and thats the only reason I am still here. But it hurts so bad my heart is broken in a million pieces.I am still mad scared and empty. Yes do stay strong and let her know you love her and that she is important to you. So very sorry. Good luck
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Yes, it is okay that you don't want to be a pall bearer. I think they will understand that you are just not up to doing so. may her memories comfort you at this sad time. \n\nTake Care!!
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If the operation prolongs life, even by a year or two, then yes. I'd also seek a 3rd and even 4th opinion. Are you the person with the cancer? Whoever it is, I'm deeply sorry. I know what it's like to have that horrible disease in the family. You'll come to the right decision and remember, sometimes miracles do happen. The very best of luck to you and yours
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yeh not much u can really say to her loosing a baby is really hard, just be there for her and comfort her pretty much. maybe after the surgery when she's better take her out to a day spa or something to relax and have fun.
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My girlfriend's mum is chief Anesthesiologist at a city hospital and is constantly in demand, she is also one of the highest paid staff members but is very overworked- this in the UK, by the way. However she enjoys her work very much
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I' m not sure why at this point someone has not addressed surgery. Is she being followed by a cardiologist? Unless something else is the cause of what sounds to be heart failure, it seems like her regurg. is finally become symptomatic. Has no one approached her about surgery? Has she been told for some reason that she is inoperable? You definetely don't want to jump into surgery if you dont need to. I feel like I need more info to adequately answer your question though. What I would do is direct these questions towards her doctor, preferably a cardiologist. Has she had a heart cath yet?  If not, maybe see if its time. Email me if you find out more or if you have anymore questions. Im a RN in the cardiovascular ICU, I specialize in heart surgery. Good luck to you guys!
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my best conversations with my mom were when she was doped up on morphine after surgery.  you'll probably get more interesting.
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Call the utility companies, be prepared to give them a copy of the death certificate or obituary.\n\nSo sorry to hear about your mother.
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death especially of my loved ones
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might want to check and see if any laws will be broke??you could donate to local cancer society?? help someome in needy situation?call the dr you got them from he may have someone who is in need?