how do i recover from getting beat up, like mentally?
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take it with a grain a salt. laugh about it. say yeah that was me. oh well, you can't win them all. if you don't make a big deal about it then other people won't make a big deal about it. don't let people see you are embarrassed. that will just feed into the torment. just be like yeah she got me right in the face it hurt like hell.
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Seriously this may sound bad or disgusting, but beat off, all the time.  I mean twice a day if you can get away with it but at least once.  And if you get the chance, do it two or three times a night.  I'm serious it'll help.  take it from a man with experience.  I used to beat off so much that my first time lasted 45 minutes.  I still didn't bust.  It only lasted 45 minutes cuz we had company show up and had to call it quits.
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Oh my GOD!!! That has to be the saddest story that I have ever read on here. You poor poor fella. This is for you *A great big hug* If it helps I have some nice boobs. I hope the best for you, and you have to remember that Tomorrow WILL BE BETTER!!! It has to be. You should think about dumping that skank of a ho girlfriend You deserve a lot better and you know that you do, and you should think about going to the doctor and if you need a little help there is no shame in it, I too have been cheated on and it is the worse and most horrible feeling, I had to go on Zoloft, but the good thing is that it helps and once you can come out of the fog of depression you can see more clearly. You deserve better! Get you a plan of action and figure out what you need to do, Evalute every aspect of your life... is it time for a lifestyle change... change of job, if at all possible kick her out because adding a move on top of everything is going to be more stressful, and what a B*tch to laugh at you after what you went through, find a safer jogging route... and did you ever think that maybe that guy punched you because she is banging him? I kinda wondered that when I read, because that is just too strange that a guy would punch you for NO reason, and then she laughed on top of it... Go out with some friends or family, if you don't have any... make some, you need to surround yourself with loving and caring people. Best of luck to you, and I hope that your nose isn't broken a nice guy like you doesn't deserve that. *Another big hug and maybe a  little kiss on the cheek*
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(m)\n\nOvercoming Stress \nYou Can Fight Back And Win\nWhen you are under extreme amounts of stress, you may feel like there is no way you can overcome your problems. You believe you'll just have to cope until the situation improves. The good thing is, you don't have to put up with the negative effects of stress. You can fight back and come out on top. It's not hard to do. Here are several ways to make yourself a winner when the pressure starts to mount.\n\n\nGo with H 2 0\nAmazingly, drinking water can greatly improve how you feel. Water is often overlooked even though it is the most essential nutrient. You know how it feels when things get tough. Your mouth gets dry, you start to sweat and your heart begins to palpitate. Sometimes when under stress, you may also forget to drink. This can lead to dehydration and even more severe symptoms. Get some water and help your body return to its normal state. \n\n\nSet it aside\nSometimes it is actually best to put aside a stressful problem until a later time when it can be dealt with more effectively. This isn't procrastination if used in a proper manner. Maybe you are having problems with a co-worker or family member. You may want to confront them, but you also know that they aren't ready to discuss the issue. Waiting another day or two could help both of you be better prepared to handle the problem. \n\n\nAvoid snack attacks\nYour first reaction to a stressful situation may be to reach for a candy bar. Unfortunately, this can do more harm than good.\nAlthough you may get a quick high from the sugar, you will probably send your blood sugar on a roller coaster. After the initial good feeling of indulgence wears off, you may experience even more tiredness and anxiety. Try healthy snacks like fruits or fresh vegetables instead. \n\n\nFind an outlet\nThere is usually pent up energy building inside you during a tough situation. What you may need to find is a way to release it.\nHaving a good cry or laughing with a friend may be just the cure you are needing. By dealing with your stress in a positive manner, you can turn around a negative situation. Keep these tips in mind the next time you feel pressure or anxiety. As with any problem, in order to feel better, you have to take care of yourself.
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You need to get some self confidence and I don't mean that in an ugly way.  That is all that you need in order to hold your ground.  You need to know that you can keep it together when someone is putting you down and realize that it is just words and like the saying goes, sticks and stones break my bones but words will NEVER hurt me!  Listen to what they have to say and if its something that you did, apologize, then just stand there and take what they have to say with a stone face.  Show no emotion!  Some people will keep doing hurtful things to people because the other person will take it and get upset and hurt.  The person that keeps doing it is usually a sad person themselves and needs someone that is "smaller and weaker" than their own selves to make them fell better.  Remember that the next time it happens and maybe they will stop.  If they don't stop doing it to you, then at least you will have walked away with the self respect and self confidence that is needed to conquer whatever the rest of the world is going to dish out.
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have you tried going to  a karate school, this is a good way, as it helps you master self control.plus you can kick a punch bag and vent your emotions that way.  Or, go for a long walk examine in you mind why who and what is upseting you and figure out ways of preventingthem from happening again.
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If you've hurt someone in the past, go to that person and ask for forgiveness. If you've been bad in the past, then its time for you to change your ways and be a good person. Have a positive outlook in life so you'll invite positive energy. Treat everyone equally.. and reach out to people around you. Do not mistreat people whom you think are inferior than you. Be kind, and help others.. and you'll see the changes happening one by one.
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Turn it around.  Just be humble or straight forward...which is a strength.  Know who you are dealing with.  Take it in stride.  What is the worst thing that can happen?\n\nI was embarrassed once by another who was threatening me to death in front of a room full of people.  Actually, it became a nervous laugh, almost hysterical.  I ended up being beaten unmercifully.  Laughing is like waving a red flag in front of a bull.\n\nRise above it.
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ok, here goes. Once you have been in a sutation. You have sloved the problem. Next time one like that,of that,nature arises you will have the knowlede of the last and a new one from the if you will "in your face". This is how we move foward. best of luck to you.
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GOOD for YOU!! I'm proud of you girlfriend! If he doesn't have evident injuries, you should be fine, nevertheless, you can say you were defending yourself.  \n\nGod will give you strength right now, don't forget to pray; everything will be much better once he is out of your life, don't look back.
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Time. Time. Time. \n\nIf you are asking, you are ready, I think, to do what you need to do to move on. \n\nDo a lot of things for yourself. Get out and enjoy yourself. Go shopping or go read in a bookstore. Do anything you love doing for yourself. \n\nBut most of all, let yourself feel the pain and let it run its course. After the pain, you'll probably be pretty angry. Do things that help you vent and release the anger. Beat up a Barbie doll, I don't know.\n\nBut you have to let it run its course. And the best thing to do while that's happening is do whatever else you can to enjoy yourself. If that means hanging out with friends or spending time alone (or both), do it.
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WELL YES I HAVE....YOU JUST HAVE TO PUSH ALL THE HURT TO THE SIDE AND CONCENTRATE ON YOUR SELF AND HEALING YOUR SELF...AND THAT CAN BE A LONG PROCESS....BUT YOU NEED TO LOVE YOUR SELF FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE ANOTHER....I KNOW THAT YOU HAVE HEARD THAT BEFORE BUT IT IS TRUE...AND THE OTHER THING IS TO NEVER BLAME YOUR SELF FOR ANY THING AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH....JUST KEEP BUSY AND TRY NOT THINK ABOUT WHAT HAS HAPPENED......FIND HOBBY'S TO GET IN TO AND JUST TRY TO STAY BUSY...EVENTUALLY IT WILL BE EASIER BY THE DAY AND BY ONE NIGHT YOU WILL BE READY TO GO BAKU OUT ON THE FIELD AND PLAY BALL ONCE AGAIN....HOPE ALL IS WELL FOR YOU....KEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH.....
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Have you ever seen the movie "The Burning Bed" or heard the Dixie Chicks song "Goodbye Earl"  those two always comes to mind when I hear of people being beaten up in their relationship...\n\nI'd say..you have a low self esteem that attracts you to his looks and not his personality from the way you phrased your question...\n\nGrow some self worth for yourself, get some couceling for your altered sense of what 'fine' is, (because getting beaten up daily isn't fine to anyone I know).\n\nDump him, with police involvement if that's what it will take for you to leave safely..  (you will have to stand up for yourself with proof and reports when you involve the police).  \n\nGet pictures of bruises, cuts, and scrapes that he inflicted. Go to the hospital if you need care for the abuse, their reports are convincing in court, and give substance to restraining orders.\n\nAnd once you get your priorities together in what you're really worth..get a real man that would treat you like you deserve to be treated (hint: noone deserves to be beat up..ever)...\n\nLook really aren't everything...
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hi sorry to hear that about the break in.\nthe most important thing to do is to get on your knee's if you can and as God to help you with feeling violated. I promise you he will help you. and also try not to beat yourself up anymore. things happen for a purpose.\nGod will get glory out of it ,just believe!!! Besides he knows who did it. and believe me he will take care of it. so i hope and pray this will bring you some comfort.
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Exercise. Get plenty of fresh air and find someone or something that needs your help. I found wild orphaned animals and bike riding. Both are so important to my mental well being as I am very sick and my illnesses depress me. Once I started to focus on other things, like the animals or my exercise, I started to feel much better. I still get sad and even depressed but my friends and family know the signs now and they always find a way to get me through the bad spots. \n\nSometimes though, you just have to feel what you are feeling, then and only then can you move onward and upward!\n\nGoddess bless and good luck.
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Well, you have already nailed it pretty well, and under the circumstances you are doing a whale of a lot better managing this that I ever would! You're further ahead of the game than you realize. You are also tired and need a breather. You need to schedule some down time for just you. You are the one that is important here. And self care is job one. Always. You have been ambushed, so when that happens you always step back and regroup. And the best way to self care your way through this one is to be by or hang around yourself a little more. Find your center once again. Centering. A wonderful concept. And correct, too, on every level. Diet, bubble baths, rest, fresh air, cleaning your bedroom, checking your wardrobe and getting free of old stuff you will never wear again - in other words, spend a little time reinventing yourself. You are already pretty strong because you have a good mind with which to sort out all this foolishness and get your bearings, but the unfortunate truth in life is that when we are tired, anyone can take a whack at us and it is like they could blow us over with a feather. You can feel that sensitive, and it is because you are smart, really. It is the downside of being smart. You can be too sensitive. So when you find your center once again you will also find more strength to call this what it is: abuse. Others here on Yahoo! Answers are giving you some fine answers about actions you can take, but I am focusing solely on you taking care of you. Self care. Make more time to pamper yourself and start feeling good about who you really are, because look at what you are doing here: you are  working on your degree. I mean, my God, all this other chaff is just fuel. Be very alert and see it for what it is - a prime distraction and begin - just begin, to look for a better place to bring yourself for work. That does not, fortunately, need to be put in place before the end of the week. If worse comes to worse, you can just walk away. A social worker once told me, "Chris, sometimes all you can do is walk away." I never forgot that one. Under most circumstances, I get the impression you are normally extremely self-reliant and independent of mind, so it is probably just because this whole mess has worn you down a bit that feeling it is a lilttle rough on you right now. I am sending you good energies and my heart goes out to you hoping you find the perspective to see the bigger picture and put you back into it in the dignified and self-respecting way you rightly deserve. Get your self-esteem back intact and believe in who you really are. And for God's sake, get some rest. None of us thinks well when we are exhausted. The other thing is emotionally draining, and only time will heal that one.  God Bless You, too.     - Chris.
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They may feel bad later on, but I doubt you will ever know it. Unless they end up in a 12 step program and decide to make ammends. I have been hurt a dozen times and never had an apology. What I have done is remember to keep my side of the street clean and learn from my mistakes. The right guy will come along, but you need to be in the right space to deal with him. That means taking care of yourself and not being to co-dependent, not to mention, guys will have more respect for you if you keep your independance and don't let them walk all over you. I had to learn this the hard way! Good luck.