How old is too old for a guy to still live with his mother?
927045
well this is really vague... im 22 and my parents are in a divorce and my mom may have nowhere to turn. I want to be a good son and she doesnt want to burden my life.. but after all she took care of me for 18years.. I be damned to let dad manipulate her anymore...\n\nI live in MY house and I have a good job. why should i care what people think about my mom living with me untill she can spring back from her divorce.\n\nI would say it really depends on the situation. Some people just dont have their act together and some do. Find out the real reason and who is living with who.\n\nOn a side note I feel that each situation is different, but once you reach early to mid 20's you need to be more self reliant.\n\nugh nothings more annoying than some guy who lives in his Moms house and jerks around all day at 25+ get a job a life and start being responsible.
543955
I think you should consider if the man will live long enough to finish raising your children and be there for you in your later years.  I was told by my parents to find someone within three year of my age and that did not work.
1149013
I'm going to hazard a guess based on your typing and grammar and say that you're under 15 or so... and in that case particularly (but at any age really) mom's usually know what they're talking about.  I know it sucks to hear that, but trust me, it's true.  (I'm 19, btw.. I've been there very recently, so I'm not out of the loop here.)\n\nWhat you should do is sit down with your mom and say "Hey mom, I don't want to get in to an argument about this, but I really want to know what it is you don't like about ____."  Listen to what she has to say.  Most importantly, do not get defensive.. the minute you start yelling at each other, you don't stand a chance of working things out.  Take the points she makes (and ask her to be specific.. point out specific examples of how he's controlling, not just say that he is) and think about them for a day a so.  Tell a close friend (*not* your boyfriend, very important) what she said and see what they think.\n\nIf after that you still think she's wrong, tell her you really thought about it and got a friend's perspective on it, but you don't agree with her, and ask her to respect your opinion.  That being said, do not disobey your mom.  Boyfriends come and go.  Your mom will always be your mom and it's more important than you can possibly imagine to keep a good relationship with her.\n\nAnd, as an aside, just my personal opinion, if you are young, as I guessed, you really don't need to date one person for that long.  I dated the same guy from the age of 14 to 17, and thought it was great at the time, but now, I really wished I wouldn't have done that.  It's kind of hard to explain, but just take it from someone who's been there.
233338
Speaking from experience, my current husband (32 yo) is the same and his mother....well I'm sure you understand .... bascially, it's not his mother, please listen when I say this...IT'S NOT HIS MOTHER....IT'S HIM! If he doesnt want to an adult and think and do for himself as an adult....he WILL NOT change. Do yourself a favor......move on!
613201
My mother never liked my boyfriend and unfortunately I do not speak to her now and she doesn't know that I am married to that boyfriend. I'm not suggesting that this will happen to you but I think that you should be firm and stick by your husband because your mother has to stop dictating your life when you reach a certain age.\nMothers always believe that they know best but I am very happy - my mother was proved wrong so you should have faith in your own feelings.
982002
Hey, get a grip if you are thirty-two then you are old enough to know that when the time comes she'll tell you. But, be an adult, not a spoiled kid obviously she's lived with it all this time and there may or may not be something she doesn't want you to know just now. It doesn't change anything between you and your grandfather, apparently it didn't make any difference to him! Give your mom time and get on with your life, don't let it define you life!
941953
Not sure about legally....but I had my own apartment when I was 17...my mom cosigned the lease though...I would like to think that s/he is responsible enough to hang for a minute...I mean hell they are almost 18.
795062
I dont know the laws in Onterio so I cant help you out with knowing the legal age to be adult.  \n\nBut I have to say that if you are unhappy and feel unsafe at home then you need to leave.  But you need to do it legal or you will get in trouble and that will not help you at all.\n\nIf you mother really does have a tumor that is probably why she is acting the way she is.  Have you thought about that.?
929752
there isnt a thing you can do ... i am sorry.... i have a iffy relationship with my mother too... (and i also work with her)....\ni have tryed since i was young to get away from her but somehow it never works out ... although my brothers seemed to have managed it!...lol oh well... just as i get older i try to ignore her "ways"....sometimes its hard ... but at least i do live away from her with my children and husband... but its hard and i think it probably always will be.....just breathe..... and work hard to get your own place!...lol... where you can interact on your terms!... good luck!!!!
596393
No he is not too old and he is not too old to have kids.   I'm 45 and the mother of my son( who is 2) is 23.  So no he is not too old. some may not like it but that is their problem not yours.
353879
Once all parties are old enough to be responsible and mature, I don't think age difference much matters, and nor does it matter which of the two is the elder. My mother is seven years older than my father, and I don't see anything wrong with that.
595874
it depends on his relationship with his mom.
486937
Dont worry - you could be thirty and living by yourself and they will still treat you like you are 12. Thats something parents do :)\nDont worry - move out when you can and move on. Love and respect your parents but sooner or later, you need to take responsibility for your life
59595
just wait till your 18 its the best thing for you, and for him.  just be friends or ask you mom be open with your mom. i mean if your gonna be 18 this year? then u will be old enough to date him as far as legal thing goes. so just ask your mom if you can date him.  some parents are ok with that, so good luck
968017
You didn't say how long you have been involved with him. His mom may think you two don't know each other very well, and doesn't want to see either of you get hurt. Be sure you tell mom that you are grateful to her for giving you a place to stay during the rough times, and you feel it is time for you to move out and get your life back on track. Tell her you are sorry that she doesn't agree with you guys moving in together, but that you guys care deeply for one another...maybe she just needs to hear it from you.
781565
If dad was having the affair, I'd have to live with mom, but if she was making my life a living hell for something I didn't do, I couldn't stay with her either.  I'm over 18, so I'd just move out.
481462
If the two of you are truly in love than it should be no problem for the two of you to continue as you are for one more year until you are of a legal age to do as you please. Your mom is just trying to protect you. It's her job. Don't fight it. Spend this year enjoying each other's company and growing closer together as a couple. Then, when you're 18, ask for your mother's blessing. I understand the urge to rush out into this wonderful new life (speaking from experience) but as a couple you should honor your mother wishes and just wait it out. One year out of a lifetime of happiness will be a drop in the bucket.