Busy Boyfriend... any advice?
921559
Ah you are in a tough spot there; you know I can kind of relate to you my boyfriend works everyday of the week even weekends. I feel as if his job is more important than me. We argue about it all the time and his job seems more important anyways. I get bored because hes always tired and doesnt want to do anything. Hes always seems to tell me oh "when I get a day off we can do something" he never gets a day off though.\n\nYou are going to have to set your foot down here and do things to make it interesting...\n\nfor example, make a romantic dinner for the two of you when he comes home from work when job comes up change the conversation. \n\nif little things like that don't work then you are going to sit down with him and tell him I know your career is important but so am I and I feel bored when you jujst want to sit and watch tv you should make some time for me too, I want to go out do things with you.\n\nI really wish you luck and good luck on your masters
1098110
This is a classic problem, the solution depends on you.\n\nAs you stated you know he'll be busy working, are you the kind of woman who will drive out there knowing that and still get upset when he doesn't spend time with you, even when you "drove all that way"?\n\nOr do you realize he's busy, and you'll appreciate the few moments he may or may not have to spend with you. If yes, I say go for it. If my girlfriend did a thing like that for me, I'd sure appreciate it.
388528
THINGS LIKE THAT TAKE TIME DON'T RUSH HIM AND DON'T RUSH YOURSELF INTO A RELATIONSHIP MY BF AND I DATED AND SLEPT TOGETHER FOR OVER A YEAR BEFORE WE MADE IT OFFICIAL AND THERE WERE TIMES WHEN I THOUGHT WHY ISN'T HE TRYING TO MAKE ME HIS GIRL BUT THEN A WEEK LATER I WASN'T REALLY READY FOR IT AND OUR SCHEDULES CLASHED TOO, THATS WHY WE LET NATURE RUN IT'S COURSE. I DATED OTHER MEN WHILE I WAS DATING HIM THAT DOESN'T MEAN I SLEPT WITH THEM BUT PUT IT LIKE THIS HE WAS MY MAIN BUT I STILL DIDN'T PUT ALL MY EGGS IN ONE BASKET. I'M NOT SAYING WAIT FOR HIM BUT IF HE'S INTERESTED IT'S ONLY A MATTER OF TIME. STILL SEE HIM BUT DO YOUR OWN THING TO UNTIL IT BECOMES OFFICIAL. THEN IF FOR WHATEVER REASON IT DOESN'T WORK OUT YOU HAVE A BACK UP PLAN AND WHO KNOWS YOU MIGHT MEET SOMEONE EVEN BETTER. PEOPLE ALWAYS RUSH INTO RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE THEY THINK THERE SO IN LOVE WHEN THINGS ARE RUSHED THEY NEVER WORK OUT PATIENTS IS A VIRTUE, MY GUY AND I TOOK IT EASY. NOW WE LIVE TOGETHER AND HAVE BEEN WITH ONE ANOTHER FOR 4 YRS. \nTAKE YOUR TIME..\n\nGOOD LUCK !
485396
hey i think dat is not a big problem. u can understand that he may be tired or busy. so just give him some time and hope and have faith in ur love!\n\nhope all gets wel soon!take care and be patient and dont loose ur love! cheers and god bless!
590131
Pay attention to him when he's around.You say he's traveling because of work,so he's working to help support you right?Well when he's home,put friends on hold and some things you want to do,put on hold until he goes out of town again.That will give you plenty of ME time when he's gone. Make him feel like you want him around,ask about his plans for that day.Maybe he wants to spend time with you,maybe alone,you never know until you ask,but he most likely wants time with you since he's not around much. I'm sure he missed you. he might want to visit some of his friends or relatives while he's home too,just ask what his plans might be for the day. If he visits his friends then you can maybe visit yours or do something on your own. You can work things out with a traveling partner,it just takes some adjustment.You have spent alot of time alone and have got into suiting yourself alot.It does take time to readjust to someone else being around. Just try to communicate as much as possible.Even your eating habits might have changed since he's been gone so you have to figure,what time is lunch and will we be eating together?Just be available as much as you can so you both can decide on your days activities together.
620237
If he'll be living close by, I'd suggest setting up a time once a week or something for you guys to spend time together, and don't let ANYTHING get in the way of it. Phone calls work too, but nothing beats actual physically being together.
1007135
My relationship is like that.  I'm always busy with college and she's always busy with work and we're lucky to see each other once a week.  We work it out though.  We just appreciate the time we do spend together a lot more.
936859
I'm also in a long-distance relationship. They ARE hard but I've been making mine work for over 3 years now. We have another year 10 months or so to go before we can finally be together permanently. We HAVE spent 2 of the 3 summers together so that's good but other than that it's usually a weekend once a month.\n\nThings we do to keep happy is...staying busy. I never let myself sit around doing nothing because I will inevitably start missing him and feeling upset about it. So I try to keep myself busy with homework and activities and friends, of course. We talk every night to stay up to date in each other's lives and email sweet, cute and funny stuff throughout the day. We sometimes send letters with really nice teabags to remind the other of us. We send pictures and make things that remind them of us so that when we look at them, we feel happy to have them in our lives instead of immediately going to "why aren't they here?" Long-distancing is certainly not for everyone. It takes a certain kind of person and a certain kind of relationship.
891210
Maybe the relationship is over. If he's always "busy" perhaps he's seeing someone else already. Perhaps you should just let it die.
947814
Nothing serious, unless she was into barely seeing you. Im a really busy person too and I think that a full time boyfriend just wouldn't work for me. \n\nKeep in mind that you need a day of rest too, sometimes its nice to just relax and do nothing for a change one your one day of freedom from your hectic schedual.
1043488
Well the simple fact that the two of you are working  two jobs each is a big part of the problem. Why are you? He's tired, your tired and it becomes something else to be done sometimes, instead of being a fun part of your relationship.\n\nIf it's possible try to cut back some of your hours, so that you guys can have some quality time with each other. Or at least a day off together. That will hopefully lead to sex. \n\nTry to sit down and talk to him about how you feel he might not really realize how much your sex life has gone down.\n\nI'm still going through this madness with my boyfriend only the roles are reversed. \n\nDrop me an email if you neeed someone to talk to.
672124
Men aren't very good at multitasking.  If your guy is trying to solve a problem, he's focusing on that.  Give him time and space.  He will come back out of his "cave" when he has his answers.  To pursue him with your needs at this time may jeopardize your relationship, so stay strong.
1175702
Do activites that you enjoyed before being in a relationship with him.  Do things you like.  Then, add in another boyfriend after you have had some time to yourself.  Hope this helps.
570603
being at work doesn't mean he's really working on your relationship with you.\n\nIf he doesn't take time for you now, he won't later.  Drop him and let him come to you if that's what he really wants.  It sounds like he's looking for an excuse to leave the relationship.\n\nWhy waste your life while he tries to decide if he wants to spend time with you or not?
785678
He is extreeeeemely busy... if you are "dating" and he hasnt contacted you... eh... well.. he is a man.... and welcome to the game of "love"
600836
Ok I am here to help you! First of all, I think you and your partner need some time away from each other.. I like the vacation idea but that is a temporary solution in my opinion. I don't know if you guys are living together or just see each other all the time, but my advice will work for both.\n  First of all I think your problem is that you are spending wayyyyy too much time together. Relationships are funny, because even though you love each other so much and you want to spend every waking minute together, the reality is that you can't. You need to think of who you were before you guys found each other. What were you doing before you met him? You need to do things without him girl. You need to find some hobbies to do on days that you don't see him. Go out with your friends, meet them for coffee, take a class, go to the gym...\n  Before you know it, your life will be very busy. The excitement will come back. Your boyfriend will definitely miss you and realize that what he has is a good thing. Don't be afraid to do romantic things for one another...Send him a card, plan a romantic night together by making a special dinner with candles...Just do little things that shows you care. I suggest you buy the Cosmo Kama Sutra book. Try a new position every week! \n  The truth is, things can get boring after two years. But you have to continue to do things to get it to work. Spending alllllllll your time together is a huge no no. You will do enough of that once you are married. Remember, you still have your own identity even though you are in a relationship.\n  Good luck!
1133062
you are getting to know the real him.. sound like he works alot and might be stressing so that's normal .. you need mo make time for each other no work or friends just the 2 of you. you will see we will start to want up to you the way you want him to. but it take hrs to get your head out of your work obligations and some times weeks were it just one big long day..