Timeing issue. please help: why guys always change their mind after you finally get over him?
917883
They always want what they can't have.....human nature. You are more attractive to them once you have left their sorry butts in the dust. Keep moving until you find the one that appreciates you right here and right now.
1003294
i know the feeling girl... i guess i should just ask you to let it go. let time take its course... i had the same situation, we didn't get the closeness back, it didn't matter what i do anymore... he hardly ever speaks to me now... i'm not saying you'll end up like us... just to avoid getting hurt, move on and let time decide for you... if he's for you, then no matter how long it takes... love would find its way and fate would bring you back together...
584016
He's already turned you down once so if you ask him again it will make you look clingy.  Leave him to figure it out for himself.  If he has changed his mind he will get back to you.x
521334
sorry girl u just have to accept it...\nu rejected him again and again, its quiet normal for him to move on.
65502
It sounds like if he's truly understood that you're gonna break it off with him and yet he still hasn't changed his attitude, then he's probably wanting you to break it off. Maybe it's one of the whole, "I don't want to do it so I'll MAKE her do it" type things. Give him this last chance, try to go out and do something that both of you enjoy without the distraction of friends and family. Let him know that it really does bug you when he acts this way. If he still seems like he wants to hang on and will change, you decide, you go for it or maybe you've had enough. But if he's STILL acting that way by the end of the "date" call it quits. Move on to a guy who'll treat ya better! Good luck girl!
681169
Get over him. Don't even let him know you care 'cause some men simply don't appreciate positive emotional honesty. My bet is once you start giving him the cold shoulder he'll eventually start coming around once more. If he isn't showing much interest, don't go mourning over it. Cry your tears, dry them and move on. It's better that way.
339773
do you have a new date set?  Talk to him to see if he still wants it or not.  Open lines of communication is important
885272
don't feel bad... it's ok.  if he really wanted to work it out, he would've tried. don't blame urself..... he said himself he wasn't trying at all.  it's possible that u answered him later than he was expecting, but love is fickle.. timing is really important.. and love can quickly turn sour when u don't cultivate it.\n\njust try concentrating on school, studies, exercise, friends, family and everything else. make everything Positive, Healthy, and Happy in ur life, so u have a lot to offer to any guy...and u will know when someone is taking care of u the "right" way, not ignoring u... u know?  :)  ur not even saying u wouldn't take him back, ur  just saying that he wasn't giving u any attention. that's a valid reason to be upset, and he needs to listen. if he doesn't do his part to make u feel Secure, then it's partly his fault too!\n\ntake some time out and ignore... be nice, but don't beg him or cry or anything.. life is too short to worry about "shoulda woulda coulda".... if he wants to, he will respond. good luck
691209
What's the point in wanting him then? I wouldnt give him the time of day.\nMove on and find someone who cares.
864146
Yeah get out of there! you have to do it slowly stop calling him and contacting him and he will soon take the hint. Don't fall for the I'll change routine...men like that never change.
1101986
I think it depends on how long he was your boyfriend. A long term relationship breakup takes longer because usually the other person has strong feelings for you and needs more time to get their head around it.\n\nIf you didn't date for long then it shouldn't take as much time, since you'll just get it over with and move on.\n\nIf he is really someone you care about but not in that way anymore, maybe he deserves to know why. It can be useful for the guy to know why this is happening, especially if it was his fault, because in that way he can learn from his mistakes and try harder the next time he's in a relationship.\n\nI think the time depends on each relationship. It took yours 3 hours to be over because you have an ex boyfriend that loves to point out flaws; you said so yourself: " i finally told him to leave because i was sick of hearing all my supposed faults". \n\nI don't think you were rude. I think nothing good could have come out of listening to him. You sound patient enough to me! Good luck, and don't fret about it!
1117184
time to move on.... change your life... tell him NO... make the rules and stick to them..... the more you give in to him the more he will stick to you .... STOP giving him mixed signals and move on ............ God bless
649524
I'd say that you already answered this for yourself. Why put yourself through what his current on again off again is going through all the time? Find yourself someone who is going to be focused on you and only you.
947344
Plain and simple, guys don't open up really at all, it takes a lot to force it out of us.  Usually something huge that pushes them over the edge will make them break and open it all up.  But to go and expect that out of a guy after 3 or 4 weeks is asking a whole helluva lot.  But you're a woman, and you need that communication link in a relationship, which is why relationships are so hard.  But then you have to add the broken heart into the mix and it really could go either way.  Him talking about wanting to do things with you in the future could be a lot of things.  Everyone has a perception of what they are saying, and the person who's listening takes it in a different way.  Happens all the time.  I wouldn't take it to heart, sounds like he's running, especially if he made that call without really knowing you at all.  Sorry you're all broken up about it, but best of luck
389873
First of all, stop sitting around waiting on him to want you again.  He is trying to control you.  Whether you are over him or not, you can still "move on."  Don't wait on him.  When he finally decides to call, reverse those rolls.  Tell him that you got a date, but when you need one, you will call him.
256751
If he was really into you and really wanted to be with you he would.  But maybe he felt that way about you and you blew it.  Sometimes we don't know what we have until it is gone.  That sucks.  He does need to stop jerking your heart around though because you will never move on if he keeps stringing you along.  NOT FAIR.  Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't.  Don't play games.  If you have children you are too old to be playing games!!!!   Tell him honestly one more time how you feel but this is the last time and then you are moving on.  And MEAN it.  If he decides to stay with the new one tell him that you will no longer discuss his feelings for you.  Don't let him jerk your emotions around.
513919
I think there has never been a concept of 'right time' in break ups. You just say it and he takes it as a man. There are few exceptions such as that he loses a loved one or his job and is devastated, it is better for you both to wait a little!