Would YOU say anything if you suspected that a friend of your daughter's was actually the son of an ex bf?
929002
Yes, I'd say something.... to the suspected father.\nInfact, Mom, I did.\nBut I wouldn't say anything to the child.\nHe has too much to worry about already.\nIf and when the suspected father comes back to town he can deal with it in which way he'd like.  I'd certainly want him to get the kid involved then, and take a DNA test. \nIf the test proved they were father and son.... omg...just nvm..I'd be shocked! (after all he is a close friend of mine)
756600
You know what you did in your life.. \nIf its fake..  then i would be taking them for slander as well. \nto me its a play to freak  you out. \n\nIf it was me.. i would make a personal point of letting her know she is a very cruel person and it will come back to her three fold.
586443
If she is your best friend...why would you even talk to him knowing the things you know. She is the only one you need to worry about and be true to. You owe him nothing. And if there are children involved then all the more reason to stay away from him. If he found out where she is, then he could harm all of them.
787612
I would think any child that is not you sons would be hard to accept. If they are back together tell him how you feel and have him talk to her. If he wont talk to her then you tell her and tell her that you will not be a part of this child's life if she doesn't stop acting this way. If they are not together then you don't need to accept the child and it doesn't need to be in your life. Sorry to say it that way but it is true. Also I think once you see that beautiful baby it wont matter anymore. GOOD LUCK.
901647
They should have told her from the beginning. I was raised by the man my mother married. I always knew he was not my bio father. I did not meet my bio until I was 13. I always understood why my bio father was not around. I don't know how I would be if I was 35 and just found out the truth. If her bond is strong with her parents then they will be able to get though it. She might want to know more about her bio father and actually meet him. \n\nI have a cousin who's father is not her bio father and she doesn't know it. She has 3 sisters who are really her half sisters yet neither her or her sisters know. She has felt all her life to be different from everyone in the family. Her sisters sometimes joke and say that she is adopted. They just don't know how true.\n\nMaybe your friend's daughter has had an inkling that she was different from other family members.
783330
I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
558200
I always used to stay friends with exes but my current bf is so jealous, it drives me nuts and makes me feel isolated.  So even though I don't talk to my ex anymore, my daughter does and even that upsets my bf.  I don't know why he is so insecure.
267452
At the risk of putting myself out there?.. Tell her.. she should know.. I have a man in my life who has a child with someone else.. SHE and I don't talk..I wish we could, but its complicated as it is.. Tell her..she should know the truth.. and leave the door open for her to talk with you.. I regretably closed that door at the request of the man, and now I wish I didn't.. and I would love for the other woman to contact me.. so I could know what the hell is going on and have the full story.. but I didn't.. so I have more questions then answers.. I am sure she feels the same way and wants to know the full story,a nd what is really going on.. so tell her..
612889
A few years ago I had suspicions that my b/f and best friend were seeing each other and I came home early one night and there they were,together just as I thought,needless to say there was a big blow out and now I hate them both. But he got paid back because she done the same thing to him. If you suspect, investigate and if it's true tell them both to go to hell!
191525
I WOULD BE OPEN WITH THE  GUY AND TELL HIM BUT BE PREPARED THAT THERE WILL BE SOME CONFLICT , BECAUSE YOU  HAVE A CHILD WITH THE GUYS COUSIN AND  IS IT WORTH YOU MESSING UP A GOOD FRIENDSHIP FOR WHAT MAY ONLY BE A ROLL IN THE SACK , HOW LONG  HAVE YOU AND THIS  GY  WELL THE COUSIN BEEN SEPERATED , DO U WANT YOUR BABY GROWING UP SAYING MY MOMS BOYFRIEND IS MY DADDYS COUSIN   BE HONEST BUT I DONT THINK I WOULD  PERSUE IT  JUST KEEP THE  GUY AS A FRIEND
21761
You say you are friends I would tell him.  The real question is "If he finds out on his own and discovered you know about it.  Would he get mad a you? \n\nIf you can try and get a picture of the cheating GF and show him.  As they say a picture is worth a thousand words.
744667
I'm a female.  But if I was in that man's shoes, I would not take that lightly.  How can she be such a con?! \n\nThen I would sue for custody of the child.  How do I know if she will look after the child being a liar that she is.  She is just a bad person all round. \n\nI would be ashamed to call her my friend if I were you.  There's nothing wrong with him not using protection.  He had the knowledge that she wouldn't fall pregnant.  He was just decieved.  Period.
863577
Now how would WE know who is using?\n\nWhy don't you ask him.  You have a right since your daughter spends time over there.  If he refuses to tell you, then get a court date and get his visitation suspended.
499474
I think it all depends on the situation... How they heard about it, how reliable the information was, how recent the information was... the response is going to be dulled if they hear about something which might have happend 2 years ago compared to walking in on someone molesting their child.  There is bound to be disbelief, especially if it was a close friend or relative and there is no physical evidence.  The response is also going to be highly dependant on the personality of both of the parents.  There is probably no 'normal' response which you are looking for.  \n\nI've thought about it some more, it would seem that it was a relative who did the inappropriate act(s)?  Yes I think this would be a very typical response assuming they never witnessed any act.  Wanting to ignore the situation and not deal with it is also very typical of American society.  I have more ideas, but I don't wish to discuess them because it would suggest and assume a lot.
292206
I think what you did was within your right.  You talked to your bf and he said that he talked to her about it and it didn't stop.  I don't want you to not trust your bf but there is a chance that he never said anything to her.  I had a similar situation where my ex-bf's ex-gf kept calling all the time for advice.  I realize they were just friends but she would call at all hours of the night becuase she had a fight with her current bf.  I talked to my ex about this and he said he would talk to her.  One night she called around 3:30 and I picked up the phone.  I told her that I wasn't happy about her calling this late and my bf had already talked to her about this.  She told me that he hadn't said anything to her at all.  So with that long story ;) that was my point there is a chance he didn't tell her that you had a problem with it all.
1017434
It sounds like your daughter is letting her man's dominance and insecurities come between her and her brother. They are blood and nobody should interfere in that bond nor should she let them. That is extremely childish of them both. They are obviously in a different state with a new life and baby, so what threat does your sons friendship with her ex possibly hold. It's not as though he was going with him. Your son must have been so disappointed and hurt. The day will come when she needs her brother and if he chooses not to be there that will be her own responsibility. Your son has the right to maintain his friendships, especially those that have lasted 10 yrs as this one has. He has shown far more maturity in leaving the problems between his friend and sister to them and not taking sides than she is currently showing. You are not wrong at all. If I were you, I would be very disappointed in her and the decision she made.
880315
All I can say is, leave that chick alone. That's not good at all, no matter what may be going on.\n\nMaybe her parents did have dinner with her, earlier. And maybe she went back and met up with him. Who knows? I hesitate to call her parents liars, but I've known parents who would lie for their children.\n\nEither way, bounce.