My friend is thinking about....?
926400
No. If she wants to use the "You could die tomorrow so enjoy life" excuse, then how about this...\n\nShe is basically increasing the risk of her potentially dying at an early age due to possibly catching a disease and so forth. It may not seem possible at the moment, but who knows? If she does it now, more than likely she's going to end up becoming a whore (no offense, but nearly every single one of the girls I know that did this, did in fact become "whores"), at which point she'll easily contract AIDs or something. Or she could even get pregnant, which would take ALL that enjoyment away from her young life.\n\nIf you could die tomorrow, would you rather die and leave behind a child that someone else will have to take care of and that will never truly know their mother? Eh?\n\nYou can enjoy life without having sex, as I doubt that most of the people that waited until they were older or until marriage to have sex really had miserable lives before that point due to not having sex.\n\nBut whatever. If she wants to more than likely end up screwing up her life, then I say she should go for it.
746427
You are thinking with your heart and other parts of your body besides your head. Your friends are just looking out. If you are confused there is a reason for it. Sit your friends down and have them tell you why they feel the way they do. They will probably open up your eyes and brain instead of him opening up something else.
1114908
Do it anyway... she's counting on you.\n\nThat's what being friends is all about... good and bad, thick and thin.  You can grieve later... for now be brave for their sake.
892128
From experience....a friend "is" what she is looking for.\nShe obviously has not had enough time to get over, settle in, or even realize and let what has happened sink in. \nIf you get involved with her at this point...you are asking for a heartache. Sorry.  It will comfort her, but she will move on or go back.  You will be left in the cold.  I believe that you did the right thing and if and when she gets her head on straight, she will call the one who "let" her go.  Her friend.  If she doesn't; she was not worth having!
592400
You should tell her how you feel. Don't let her think things. You could give her the wrong impression.
62126
your asking him to read your mind , guys are'nt good at that. We think more anaylitcal, 1+1=2 that type of thing.  he did'nt even know he hurt your feelings, if he did find out he hurt your feelings i'm sure he would be very sorry, unless he's a jerk or not your friend. give him the benifit of the doubt
126124
Why would you want to quit thinking about it, if she makes you happy then I say think away. It is better to have happy thoughts , than no thoughts at all. Let the feelings ride...It's part of living and having relationships.
1045282
No she should not tell him,  If he can not handle the idea of just thinking about it what makes you think he will be able to handle what she tells him. Some times the truth is better left unsaid.  Love is about forgiveness and understanding. Your friend must ask her self this, he would leave her for a mistake, then did he really love her in the first place.  Love sees through all things and can handle hall things.
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i would tell her....you having these feelings and holding it in is already changing your friendship more than you realize, but be carefull how you go about it coz sometimes nothing good can come out friendships evolving into more espeacialy if she doesnt feel the same.\n\nid suggest a strait forward conversation with your friend.    \n                                goodluck!
269099
tell him what you want. consider what he wants. then contemplate the situation.
1159263
Right now he is going through a tough time it seems like. Maybe he is just stressed out and need to be alone to think about where is like is right now. Just give him some space, but if that don't work than just move on.
566977
he probably has some really heavy stuff on his mind right now. if you talked of getting married and starting a family, then he may just be in a place where he has to think. i would say that all you can do is honestly tell him how you feel, not angrily or accusitorily, and give him room.
746727
Find someone else to think about.\n\nSeriously it's the only way.
1002014
My guess would be he's contemplating on something he isn't sure of. Maybe the feeling he has for you. Or he's figuring out whether you can read his mind or not. A communication thing, anyhow!
1140450
I think shes scared of saying something and possibly hurting your feelings. I think she may not like the idea but doesnt want to say anything because she doesnt want you to get the idea that if shes not willing to fulfill your fantasy, then you will find someone else who will. I think you should talk to her and ask her what her feelings are about this fantasy. If shes not interested, I say you need to be able to accept and understand her decision or move on.
192372
See if she wants to experiment a little. I mean, hey,  drop-n-roll and find out a little sumpinsumpin, if you think you can. \nBTW ,I love your stuff.. you spend WAY too much time thinkin'!
705036
I have reservations when you say you have "feelings" for this lady? I wonder are these feeling recipricated? Are you getting clear signs that she has feelings for you or are these feelings of yours entirely related to unmet needs of your own? This situation can go one of three ways.....\n(a) If she has feeling for you and is consciously sending out these signals then the relationship may develop into something more.\n(b) If these feeling you have are a result of unmet needs of your own then it is a very dangerous situation and your friendship may be doomed (should you try to take things further).\n(c) If (a) is the case then the relationship may develop but I doubt it will be a sincere and lasting parnership. Why? Because she has only recently committed to a life with someone else. If she is willing to sacrifice that relationship already then she is either selfish or very immature (probably both).\nSorry, just my thoughts.\nMichael