Body insecurities and sex or lack of sex?
926809
Hi there!  I am 27 and I totally know what you mean.  I was with my husband for 5 years and he only saw me naked a couple of times.  I TRULY believe that when you find someone you trust and love you will be able to get past that.  When you meet that special someone you will know that they love you for you...not the couple extra pounds you carry around.  We are our own worst critic and many men would kill to see us naked!!  But I think is is completely based on trust and love that you feel in a relationship.  I hope you find that special someone that makes you feel safe :)
279876
maybe u re premenopausal?i would surely consult a doctor first not an Internet. it also can be a tumor in brains which is developing in the area responsible for the sex drive. please hurry to a doctor, it's not a joke
664264
Hmmm...\n\nYes, it's extremely common, with both guys and girls.\nI constantly have those sorts of feelings - it is insecurity, but it is also self-objectification.\nWhy should it matter if we are physically beautiful or not?\nIt's all artificially created and perpetuated.\nBut understanding this doesn't always help.
891543
They ALL want sex, I don't care how old they are.   You didn't say how old you are, but you sound young.\n\nWhat I would like to tell you is this:  It's YOUR body.    You are responsible for taking care of it.   Do not let anyone else tell you what to do with your body.   It's not there for someone else to use to accommodate their own needs, even if you're feeling generous.   Using is using.  You are not a thing, you are a person.\n\nIf you don't want to have sex with this person yet, then don't.   If they insist, and you're afraid of losing them because of it, you haven't lost anything.   Wait for someone who will appreciate you for being you.   When you have sex with THAT Person, it will be awesome.    Sex is a natural stage in the progression of a relationship, but there are no rules about reaching certain levels at certain times.   \n\nMen are physically geared to want sex as often as possible.   That's just something they have to deal with.   You have to deal with taking care of yourself, respecting yourself, and how you will feel when you look in the mirror the next morning.    Will you be okay with it, will you be relieved, or will you want a very long hot shower?\n\nGood luck to you.
94650
It sounds like you really want some sex.  Just ask him if something is wrong.
880810
My gf is kinda like this. She's more into sex than I am. I'm usually up for it once a day, given I'm not really tired or depressed. Her sexual appetite worries me only in that I worry about what kind of trouble it may get her into when I'm not around, but I try to satisfy her needs whenever we're together. And no, I'm not tired of her--I love her more than she loves me, and she admits this herself. Don't be ashamed of yourself, though. I'm glad that she's really into me, and that she's open and honest.
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If looks are important to you in a sexually intimate relationship, then they will be important to you if you plan to spend a lot of time in the marriage bed.  I have learned that people who say "I don't care what you look like" and have sex with you usually have very poor self images, and have had to deny a certain physical part of the relationship because of it.  I can feel the flack I am going to get by saying it, but it's what I truly think.  \n\nBUT there ARE people who genuinely don't give a crap about what a sexual partner looks like.  If you are one of those people, then of course it will not matter.  Problems can also arise if one of the spouse's appearances goes to pot, either after babies, or after too many beers.  This can kill the romance and the sexual part of the relationship, and that can be the undoing of a marriage.\n\nI know in my own sexuality, looks are important, and I am not afraid to admit it.  I don't need a model, but there are some things I need in a sexual relationship.  The pleasure I get from seeing someone naked is a big part of the pleasure I get through intimacy.  \n\nJust know yourself.  You can prioritize looks according to your own tastes.  People get into trouble when lying to themselves, and try to "pretend" or whatever.  Just be honest.  Some gay guys I know have to have a boyfriend with a six pack.  Some straight guys I know have to have a chick with D or bigger breasts.  People have preferences. D or bigger breasts turn me off, and a six pack looks good on paper, but there is a certain pleasure derived from utilizing your man stomach as a pillow. :)  You can't do that with 6 pack abs.\n\nFor regular friendships, I think looks have a low priority.  It is strange though how i notice groups of people, say 3 or 4 friends out at dinner, or lunch, and they all sort of look the same.  I'm not sure why this is.  If they are rather large, they hang with other large people.  If one has a leather jacket, 2 or 3 of the rest of them will too.  Hmmmmm....\n\nI can say one of the worst things is to get naked with someone, and then react negatively to what you see.  A lot of pain has been caused by this type of situation, so it is one I avoid like the plague.  ;) After all, we don't have "virtual sex" yet--we have sex with our bodies, and the form, fit, and function of the body will influence the sexually intimate experience.
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well dont get surgery working out can improve ummmm having sex can work if a guy u know do it doggy style but im not struggling to make my butt big because big butts run in my family and we have sexy curves so i really dont know what to say cuz im waiting for mine to get big
1114030
Probably not 'most people' but certainly quite a few . \nI would say the problem is not very often due to physical weakness, but mainly can be put down to upbringing, some may have been taught that sex is only for 'true lovers' or it's not a very nice thing to do or even shouldn't be discussed.\nSome people may have had a very 'off putting' sexual experience!\nSo mainly it's all in the mind and having a really good chat with someone you trust could sort it out!!
569107
Try not having sex with anyone until you feel better about your body.  Use lotion made for stretch marks.
1153975
I agree with Sonny. Sex is natural. Unless you are a nun don't deny your humanity. It will only get worse, not better. Ever hear of sexual anorexia? I too struggle with my sexuality. I was a victim of a rape that resulted in some serious physical and emotional trauma. I spent years swearing off sex. My issues around sex did not get better. The only way to have a healthy sexuality is to be sexual. Even if it is just with yourself! Get a vibrator and explore yourself. It is healthier than sitting in denial, I promise!\nCheck out this website to learn more....\nhttp://xxxanorexia.com/
498652
Oh, don't worry.  You're just what old people call a "late bloomer".  You just develop slower than others.  If girls' think you're cute, that's fine.  If it's sex you're worries about, you're probably not ready, so give yourself more time to enter puberty.\nAnd I know it's hard not to be self conscious, but you need to find something to motivate yourself and be happy with who you are, puberty or not.  You're a great person, no matter what your body looks like.\n;)
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Seriously, take a break from sex, for now. Get a book on massage, or something, and work on being intimate without the sex. But don't back him into a corner because he's trying to be honest with you, without hurting your feelings. (Like all men, he's obviously very bad at it.) Don't take it personally, either. I used to take it very personally because my ex didn't want sex, but when I look back, I realize we had a great sex life, and he probably was just tired!
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Sexual dyfunction brought on by Anxiety
213850
Do not listen to the first B*I*T*C*H  she is beeing rude!! \n  1.  if he is taking any other meds there could be a side affect in the form of low sex drive.\n  2.  ED is a real downer for a man  he could be feeling not like a "real" man.\n\nthe solution for you is to stroke his ego make him feel sexy and attractive some times in these situations that is what they are felling ( not attaractive or sexy)  \n\nask the doctor if there is side affects ot any meds that he is taking.\n\nit is not you!!!!   it his issue that needs to be uncovered.\n\nGod Bless and good luck!!!
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Could age play a factor? Sure, but that's most likely not the direct problem though the problem is more than likely related to age with respect to either stress or chemical imbalance. \n\nThe most common problem for lack of sex drive is Libido which is directly associated with both Testosterone and Oestrogen (not Estrogen) levels, though Oestrogen level is a rare occurrence in men. A male can have complete ability to perform sexually without erectile dysfunction but not have the sexual drive to act on it. There are numerous medical remedies for the chemical issue but stress related problems would require different approach and treatment.\n\n\nRead 'Testosterone Levels" at this link:\n\nhttp://www.thefooddoctor.com/books/book3_men.php\n\n\nRead what other men say about loss of sexual drive:\n\nhttp://www.askmen.com/love/dzimmer_60/77_love_answers.html\n\n\nPersonal Thought: I'm almost 53 and my testosterone levels are actually marginally high (7.3g) so in my opinion its not his age so much that's a problem but more likely due to either stress or chemical problems.\n\nFootnote:\nAssuming your relationship is otherwise good then the one other possibility could be discounted and that is when a man's having an affair and getting his needs fulfilled elsewhere.
402123
I know women who are around that height/weight, distributed in the right places, who are beautiful.  But if you aren't satisfied with your body, go to the gym a couple times a week and be more active, or take up a sport.  Exercising is healthy, and it boosts self-confidence and even libido -- so it's worthwhile even if you don't lose a pound!