Now a days my husband fantasize wife swapping during love making. I am very worried, what I should do?
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Here is my advice\nFirst sex is at least 75% mental, Your husband is just trying to spice up your sex life. During sex he probably does like the thought of wife swapping  but before and after he would probably not want to try it. The easy way to tell this is ask the question. Does he talk about it when you are not having sex or just when the hormones are flowing during sex?  What my wife and I agreed to was this " What we say during sex is not to be taken seriously and only meant to be fantasy"  That is a perminate agreement.  So we are both fee to bring up all sorts of things during sex without having to worry  about how the other will feel about it. It make the fantasy's more real but safe.
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i hope to have a girl as my girl friend like u,u r completely normal nothing wrong with u,some people just have a high sex drive,i am a guy and in some days i do it like 3 or 5 times a day also.it all depends on the sex drive and on how much u r turned on,but if u always all the time do it 5 times a day,then i guess ur husband is the luckiest man in the world to have u as a wife,and i recomend u to do sex more with ur husband or to do it harder and more passionatley,or try to change ur routine like for example try new positions or do exentric things like toys for example.be happy with ur self there is nothing wrong with u,any man wishes to have what ur husband have,be happy and good luck.
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Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
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Well ive never been threw it but ill be more then happy to give you my 2 cents with out calling you a slut, i think part of it is your husbands fault for not making sure you have what you need, now i know alot of people are going to scream for me saying that but its the truth, in a marriage part of our job is doing everything possible to make sure our partner is getting everything we need from them emotionally or sexually. Thats just the way it works for a healthy marriage, The only bit of advice i could give you not being actually in that situation is to eather pick on or the other, i can see you feeling even more torn when your feelings for this other guy are fostered even more and you cant act on it, not to mention the emotional and sexual frustrations that can easily bring. I can understand why you turned to this other man for support you wernt getting at home. But i can only see you hurting yourself in the long run if you dont cut ties with one of them. That is unless you totally dont love your husband anymore and your just in it for everything youve envested on a tangable level that you dont want to lose. But honestly do you think if you bumped this relationship up with this other guy you would be able to continue this double life, i hate to label it that way but thats the only thing i can think of to call it right off the top of my head, but i think you understand where im coming from. You need to set a game plan in your head on where you want to go in life if things with this other guy keep developing, what happens if this guy says ok ill chuck my marriage will you chuck yours? what if he talks about you guys meeting and making a full flaired affair? What if your husband finds out about whats going on how will you respond? How will your husband? Im not saying i know what you should do or what you need to do, but if i were you i would get a clear picture of what i wanted from your husband or from this other guy. Do you think there would be a possiblity you would be more happy in your marriage if your husband started to work with you on your problems with the marriage? Do you think there is any hope for you marriage now? Do you think your husband is doing the same thing you are on some sort of level? IF he was how do you feel about it? I think you need to ask yourself these kinds of questions and in deep deep detail figure out what you want to do, i dont think anyone in here can really answer those kinds of questions and give you any much more of a clear picture then you seriously thinking about this i wish you all of luck and i really hope you get something figured out on this *HUGS*
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If he is your husband-then you two should sit down and talk it out! If he loves you then you can find away to work this out! Even if you have to go to a marriage counselor- depending on how long you two have been married, you could just be bored with what is going on in the bedroom-just remember that men are visually aroused, for women it is more mentally aroused-if you are having a lot of stress, then your urges may just not be there at this time! You should really talk it over with him-if you love him, then this is something you need to work out-and a counselor could be something that is best for the two of you!! Good Luck!! Have a great day! :)
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ok since the married man is your husband,,,,you should keep talking to him until he understands that you are serious and you 2 get an understanding,,\n            ,it seems he is a good guy, and his ego is not threatened,, he may let you without freaking out....you know him,,, think about it...you could lose him,,\n           ,i do not condone cheating,,,but i do know some women who have turned to other women because there husbands are impotent and will not seek help.\n               as far as the morals, etc,, you must judge that for yourself and be ready to deal with whatever consequences arise. whether from others, your husband, the woman,
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Rubbish, all these people forcing thier morals on you.  If you feel a need to sleep with him, and you want too, do it.  Yes, he may be married, but, he is not going to stop looking just because you turn him down.  If you seduced him, then you are at fault, if harmless flirtation turned into something else, that is nature.  You know that this is just a physical thing and nothing will come out of it, but a little fun, if your ok with that,and can deal with it at work, then have fun.  Guess what people, the wife knows, she just prefers not to admit it, get real.  This woman is not a home wrecker of any kind, and you should not be bashing her.
1179255
Stop day dreaming about your maid.... I seen your previous post about her having the hots for you... Sounds like the libido was fine in those questions.
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You just need to change the mantra in your head and be actively responsible for your behavior towards your husband.  Ask yourself how you would feel if he was doing this to you. You would feel like you were married to an insecure loser.  If you continue on this path you will no doubt drive him away or at the very least, into the arms of another woman. Men do not like nagging, if you are obsessed with compliments, he will feel you are being a nag and tune you out. If he is tuning you out audibly he will tune you out in his head too, therefore opening himself up to the possibility of another woman. Or he will say to himself, "hmmm maybe she is not that great." Talk about mixed signals, at once you call yourself beautiful and then on the other hand you beg for compliments. Tell yourself,' he is with me for a reason otherwise why would he still be here?' Fulfill all of your dreams with direct action of your own. Do not rely on others to make you happy. The only person that can make you happy is you.
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I think the real question is, why do you fantasize about being another guy's sex slave? You have to start from the beginning. Maybe you should see a therapist; talking to a qualified person would surely help you solve your problem...\n\nBut for now you gotta stop doing this immediately [or leave her, but that would be stupid cause she's a REAL person and the two of you are in love...] before she gets badly hurt. You can't have a girlfriend *and* online relationships! It doesn't matter if you're having cybersex with men or women, either way it's gonna crush her if she finds out, it's just as bad as cheating...\n\nGood luck with that, I hope everything works out for you ;)
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Hello Prissy, it sounds like the two of you are world's apart on your desire. You do love him though and he loves you.\nCan you talk to each other and reach some sort of compromise?\nI take it that he is good about pleasuring you or does he?\nThat could be a part of it also. I would suggest that you two sit down somewhere comfortable and have a honest and open talk about this. I wanted sex more than my wife did for many years.\nOne of the things we have done is one night each week,  I give her a complete body rub using oil or cream. After this she is so relaxed that she is ready for anything, including me!\nIt's not 3 times a day but he is going to have to lower his expectations a bit here and find ways to get you interested too!\nJust talk, stay positive and know that you love each other.\nGood luck!
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Give him what he needs, satisfy him, please him and believe me, if you do that, he won't care to even think of somebody else. Remember, there's a lotta things a women can do to keep her man only for herself. Let your imagination flow, make all of his fantasies come true, especially the SEX FANTASIES.
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Sorry, but this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to begin with. If this dude cares more about his fantasies than about you..................dump him.
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I have a similar fantasy. But my hubby is not for it. If u permit, I will go with your hubby to revierside or seashore on a full moon day to fulfill the fantasy of both and enjoy for full night.\nbe glad that your hubby wants such things.
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Holy crap you sound EXACTLY like me. Keep doing what you're doing. Sorry to all the wives out there, but you have no obligation to anyone except yourself. He's the married one, so he has to take responsibility for his actions if she finds out. Enjoy yourself. Life's short.
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fantasys are just that. dont worry over something like that.  at some point go over both your fantasys and hers see where it gets you.
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You should give me a call. No, seriously...it's totally normal to have this type of attraction. Talk to your husband about it. He may actually be excited by it and you could integrate him into your fantasies. If he is not okay with it, I don't think you should act on your feelings unless you get a divorce.