how do I get the others at work to like me?
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Do your best and try to watch what the others do.  Offer to help with whatever you can.  Find out some of their interests and chat some.  The main thing is to watch and learn.\n\nI got transfered to a snooty department in my company.  I just watched everyone for a while and one day a co worker was talking aboiut wanting to buy something on eBay but never had.  I'm an eBay addict!  I helped her buy something there and she talks to me all the time now!
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You can always be straight forward to him or her. Or get a group of fellow workers to go to him or her at the same time to express the feelings. Strength is always better in numbers!
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If you like each other go for it.  Get together outside of the office.  you can't be scared of what will happen if it doesn't work out.  If everyone was like that then no one would ever get together.  If there is an office policy that coworkers can not date then you need to be sneaky.  You never know, you might have found your soul mate.
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This person obviously wants to maintain whatever competitive edge they have within your company.  My first thought is to try and befriend this person.  Let them know you are not trying to step over them, you just want to help your company put out the best product possible.  One way to befriend people is to invite them to lunch or to a poker party after work, or some other function.  If it's real bad, and doesn't get better, maybe the boss needs to find out.
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Stop acting like God's gift and they'll start paying more attention to you.\n\nA wise old boss once told me, "When it's everybody else, it ain't everybody else."
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Be patient! Patience is a virtue. With time they may warm up to the idea that they like you too!
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I know this is a long response, but I think it will be well worth investing your time and going through these links I have created for you:\n\nSounds to me like there could be a few things going on here.\nYou may be TOO helpful to your peers. If you are helping them succeed, too much, you could be helping them pass right by you. Save the best stuff for yourself and use that as an ace up your sleeve for problem solving and handling situations that arise in your department.\n\nOk, there are several tricks to know and things to learn about people and office politics that you have to have in your career arsenal to get ahead. Why? Because everyone else is trying to get ahead just the same way you are.\n\nSuccesful business people use these tools in there everyday life.\n\nHow to Win Friends & Influence People: \nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People\n\nHow to make people like you in 90 seconds or less:\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/product/076111940X/002-2504591-7619261?v=glance&n=283155\n\nhttp://bottomlinesecrets.com/blpnet/article.html?article_id=27109\n\nhttp://www.teachfirst.org.uk/events/learning_to_lead/how_to_make_friends\n\nSurviving Office Politics / Getting ahead in the office:\n\nhttp://wlb.monster.com/articles/officepolitics/\n\nhttp://www.managementhelp.org/intrpsnl/off_pltc.htm\n\nhttp://www.jobcircle.com/career/coach/jf_2003_04.html\n\nhttp://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp?articleId=281474976737487\n\nhttp://www.lifescript.com/channels/healthy_living/life_tips/the_politics_of_the_office.asp\n\nhttp://careerplanning.about.com/od/workplacesurvival/a/politics.htm\n\nhttp://www.careerknowhow.com/advancement/office-politics.htm\n\nhttp://www.womensmedia.com/new/Reardon-office-politics.shtml\n\nSome people are blessed with the ability to quickly make friends and terrific impressions, and move up the company ladder quickly. For the rest of us, this information will help point you in the direction to achieve the success and happiness you desire.\n\nBest wishes,\n\nBlewz4u
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Don't worry.\n\nLike yourself first.\n\nThen, everybody will like you.
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I that if you have an open door and an open mind then you will have more people look up to you with respect.  Keep certain business on a need to know bases. Do's set an example buy your actions it will be noticed buy all and the don'ts are: DO NOT PAT YOUR SELF ON BACK TO MAKE YOURSELF LOOK GOOD. you will look like a suck up.  Your deeds will be noticed in time.  Just be a very good listener, and just slow down in life.  Keep a good attitude, and pray alot.
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Take the ladies out for lunch (does not have to be fancy) one day and tell them how you feel. Maybe they would start including you in the conversations, especially to get the male perspective on things. This would help you learn how to be a leader and then move up in an organization by showing the ability to move beyond petty office crap.
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Try to figure out what you can do to make yourself more interesting to the boss. Take classes, join clubs with good reputations, and volunteer both at work and out of work. if those things don't get you a better poistion with your current employer your have a lot of things to put on your new resume for the next job.
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First, get a big club.  Walk around the office with it.  People will start to fear you.  Thats a key component of being a leader.  Next, Do not speak unless all are hushed and at attention.  This shows that you respect yourself, and will make others respect you.  If a few of your coworkers begin having a side conversation during your speech, club them.  Strike them quickly and without remorse.  Also, always ask for input when you are thru with your presentation, this gives your coworkers the idea that you care what they think, whether or not you actually do.
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the best answer is keep your mouth closed and listen to what they have to say and when people come to help you watch out people will try to mislead you have a small note book and take down things you are suspossed to learn and never talk about another person you work with . or it's called back stabbing be polite and listen listen . just do your job to the best you can. good luck
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Some bosses you can never please. I had one that I could have stood on my head while I worked and it was never good enough.\n\nSometime I think when they don't like you perhaps you remind them of a teacher or aunt that hurt their feelings when they were a kid. Or you just may intimidate them by your knowledge and they think you are out to get their job.\n\nNote to Bosses....please be kind to your help because they are what gives your business success, and treating them like garbage is only going to promote high turn over.\n\nAs Bozo the Clown once said.."It's nice to be important but important to be nice." Be nice to your subordinates and they will be nice and work hard for you.
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Good managers create a team of which they are more a member than a leader, if your subordinates are made to feel like participants in the team rather than just workers under a boss they will desire to work harder and help more.\nI suggest a few things:\n1) Ask rather than demand help.\n2) Explain the assisgnment of the team and ask advice on how to get them done best -Even if you head up a cleaning crew, I bet your team can come up with ways to get the job done faster, better, cheaper...etc\n3) Be the hardest worker on the team - people respect a boss who actually works.\n4) Listen to your people, even if you cannot take their suggestions, listen and then explain why.\n5) Be fair, work hard to be impartial... have no favorites.\n6) Give alot of feedback, look for every opportunity to give praise.\n7) Be willing to "fire" a bad apple, the rest of the team will appreciate it.\n8) Gain trust by being trustworthy.. be a person who keeps your word, is always honest, and never gossips.\n9) Small rewards - A can of coke or box of donuts for everyone one day out of your own pocket will pay big dividends.\n10) Middle management is the hardest, explain your bosses expectation to your workers, so they can work with you rather than against you.\n11) Remember they are just people too - having good and bad days just trying to make a living. Treat them as such.\n\nBest of everything with your co-workers.
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don't worry it takes about one month. the best thing to do is ask questions it you do not know what to do.as for fitting in just find one person that you are comfortable with and talk to them about what is going on and in no time you will be getting along just fine with everyone, number one rule stay away from work drama..ie gossip
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only you can make the changes that you desire in your life...everyone is special and so are you..Open up to others(your co-workers, etc.) and you will probably find some responding back to you with sincere compatibility and friendship...make one little step with one person and then another. good luck to you. Life is meant to be lived with others. Enjoy your life and enjoy the company of others. PEACE