Are there any Christian guys who are virgins but dating girls who are not?
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First of all, as a fellow brother in Christ, I want to commend you on your commitment to save sex for marriage. Too often we see people today giving into the pleasure of a few minutes, only to suffer a lifetime of pain and hurt in the future.\n\nI don't normally answer questions on here, but the situation you are in is too similar to mine for me to ignore.\n\nI have been a Christian all my life, and constantly seek to glorify Him by living and dedicating my life to Him. I also believe that sex is the ultimate expression of physical love, and is the most special gift anyone can present to the person that they want to dedicate the rest of their life to. If someone commits premarital sex, they are giving that gift away, and tarnishing any future romantic relationships they may have.\n\nNow, obviously, I am a virgin; and am extremely proud of this fact. I cannot wait to let my future wife know that I've saved myself for her. Instead of channeling my energy and resources to fulfill sexual needs, I instead look to strengthen my character and serve others.\n\nBut I've recently fallen for this girl.... She's a born again Christian, who was saved this past summer. However, her previous life was filled with sin, as she drank and had sex with guys before me, enough guys to number on 2 hands.\nI was so devastated when I found out. I was literally torn because I only had one romantic relationship before this point, and had only gone as far as a kiss.\nNeedless to say, I was more than a little hurt. In fact, I don't believe anything or anyone else hurt me as much as she did when she told me that.\nI was ready to just end things at that point.\n\nBut then I remembered. If God, who is the only one who is perfect and holy, can forgive us for all our sins without judgment, who are we to judge others and use their past against them. If she really came to God after her mistakes of the past, and surrendered herself to his forgiveness and mercy, then she is literally, emotionally, and spiritually a new person.\nGod calls us to forgive one another, and if a perfect God can forgive our sins, both past and current, without question (as long as we are sincere!) and love us with the greatest love of all; shouldn't we as Christians (who are also guilty of sin) replicate that love toward one another?\n\nI'm not saying it's easy. My heart aches and burns daily from the suffering that her past brings to me. But I trust that God will allow us to overcome this obstacle, and allow our relationship to prosper. As the first guy she even kissed after God came into her life, I know that she's changed.\nI'm going to continue to trust in God that He will allow me to get over her past; because who she is now is someone who makes me happy and has allowed me to experience love.\n\nIf you really love your girlfriend, pray about it. She's a new person now, she has Jesus in her.\nPlease keep Jesus Christ in the center of your life and of your current relationship. That's the only way that your relationship will be able to reach it's true potential.\n\nBe blessed.\n\nIn Him....
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No, I don't.\nI will wait till married.\n\nThey who think as your question, I think it's just sex for pleasure. They don't think about marry at the moment, even about love ( if they really love each other, they would thinking about marry).\n\nMy opinion, virgin will marry with virgin, and not virgin with not virgin.
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First, burn all those Christian "courting" books, they can really mess you up in the head.  Here are the a few pearls of wisdom from a young married woman (who is probably certifiably crazy, so take with a grain of salt)  \n\n\nBe honest to the point of pain, tell them on the first date or before what you are looking for.  If they run when you say you want to wait, thank the Lord you didn't waste your time.\n\nDon't assume just because you met in Church the man is a Christian. Also don't assume Christian men won't want or won't push for sex - the earthly church is made up entirely of sinners.  That said, the "women are the gatekeepers" theory is idiotic.  Why would God put the main responsibility for that in the hands of the physically weaker party? You have to work those feelings and temptations out together.\n\nRemember once you start dating you will either break-up or get married.  The difference between dating and engagement in the Christian community is mostly immaginary.\n\nMost Christians "fall" into dating from a short friendship.  Which stinks for girls because we are not supposed to make any moves until we are actually "dating".  Good News - there is nothing in the Bible that says that. (Read about Abigail in 1st Samuel 25 and see if women are supposed to wait for men to act.)\n\nChosing to be married is like chosing to be a Monk, it has privilages but mostly it is about working out your faith through tedious tasks.  Be sure you want that, or you won't be happy with anybody.  That said, you are never "ready".\n\nHere is the worst news.  Because of all the bad info out there, there really isn't an accepted system for Christians to meet each other.  Any form of dating is considered at least mildly scandalous (no-one will admit to this but it is a culturally ingrained thing).  Be prepared for somebody if not everybody to disapprove at some level or another until you are engaged.  It stinks, but, like I said, the church is made up of sinners.  The good news is, this encourages quick engagements.
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i don't believe you would still be a virgin, but that should not mean it is any less special when you chose someone to share your first consensual experience with. you are still pure and being victimized does not take that away. you define yourself any way you wish and make sure any potential partner respects that.
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Hallelujah, God does work in mysterious ways. I say that this guy is a God send and should keep his virginity until he is married. God will provide with the right woman in God's time.
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Im glad to hear that there r  some more smart girls in the  world than i thought!!! i live in europe and rare who loose virginity being 16 or earlier there. I know in US there is different.  Congradulations!!!  Dont be affraid...U know when i lost mine? Last  year, being 21. And im very glad about that. Cause  i found that guy who i want to be with all my life...  And  i am so proud i could had that  moment with him only.  im not sorry   i have been waiting till this moment so long. I remember the minute, wheh i told him i am still a virgin. He was. liek "wow...  im proud.."  trust me, he adores me now, cause  nowadays it is so  hard to find virgin girls..  We r going to get marriage in the future...  And i am so happy :))))))\n\nSo dont   be affraid..If u feel  this is a man u wanna be with,  of course tell him, he is going to be first. I odnt see anything u should be shame of... What going on with the world today...   Why we r trying to get adults so fast..  There r so many pure things, which we r forced to be shame of...\n\nI am with you!!!!\n\nSo wish u luck  on sharing that special moment with a guy u love and wnat to be with.   U will always rememebr that moemnt :))))))))\n\nps. sorry, if my english is not as perfect as i wish it to be :))))))))))
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I'd rather the man for me would be a virgin, if I ever find him, but I don't expect him to be. Virginity just doesn't seem to be important to very many people anymore.
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Not if the man is a virgin too.
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hey, I'm a virgin and no sweat. Maybe sex relationship isn't the most important thing in his life.\nBut, army - male - 30, whoah... that's extra-ordinary.\nHey nice girls out there, go grab his dick FAST. lol
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I sympathize with you on this one. I grew up with a strictly Catholic mother. Everything was a sin, and my sisters and I were going to Hell for everything we did. Well, you have to develop your own beliefs and morals. I am not very religious anymore, I still attend church every now and then, but I am more spiritual than religious. \n\nI waited until I was 18 before I started dating, not because of my mother, but because I was just not ready. I was like you, I didn't know how to flirt or how to be in a relationship. To tell you the truth, I still don't. I lost my virginity to a guy that just used and abused me. Just follow your heart. 9 out of 10 times, when you feel something is morally wrong, you probably shouldn't do it anyway because there will not be a good outcome. I would suggest trying to socialize with people online or going out with friends. Go on a blind date.\n\nI am 23 now and I have been with a few men, most have been real a**holes and have left me brokenhearted. Just don't settle for any guy, find someone that will understand and appreciate your family and beliefs. Sex is more fun when you have an emotional connection with someone. It involves so much more than the physical act.
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Whoa, that's like prostitution of the future. I wouldn't date anyone who'd had sex with someone they'd met online. Losing your virginity should be special and with the right person. Not everyone is honest about what STDs they have either, and chances are someone you meet online for sex has had their body used a few times...
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Yes, there are, but it is possible that you may be looking for them in the wrong places.  Try getting more active in your church and meeting guys that way.  Alternatively, if you go to a small church, oftentimes larger congregations have bigger youth groups or, if you are an adult, adult singles groups.  Christian Chat in Yahoo is also a source, but generally speaking, be wary of people you meet on the Internet until you have had an opportunity to assess their character in person.
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i prefer a virgin (i'm a guy)
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non virgin but act like a virgin ..
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actually.\nits VERY RECOMMENDED and probably a MUST to have both male and female of a married couple being God-fearing Christians.\n\nbecause, in that way, both would have more of God's grace and fervour.\nand that they can pull each other to be even more on fire with God. \nand it would be very hard for either side to backslide.\nmany advantages of having a both christian couple\n\nif any Christian girl says that, but looks more into the looks , money, stature, then God wouldnt really look upon the couple with favour.\n\nand that girl isnt really a 'on fire' type of Christian.\nnot that i'm saying i am.. but after all, its not for US to judge , but for God to judge.\n\nand yes im a girl, and i havent even gotten  my first boyfriend yet, but if i ever have a non-christian bf, it wont last, cos i wont let it last.\nwith my little faith, i believe that God will be pleased if even i break up a stead relationship with a nonchristian guy :D
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Yes it does. Let me congratulate you for still being a virgin! You hardly ever find any more these days.  Don't be in a hurry to lose your virginity. Might I suggests that you wait until marraige.  I was a virgin unti I was 18. I am married to my first and only lover, but I truly wished that I had waited until I was married. The sex is just so much better, and it is pleasing in the sight of GOD.
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I personally think so. Because some crazy man might think that your a slut kinda and would want to take advantage of you to satisfy his sexual needs. So just hind the fact that your not a virgin okay.