broke up with my gf yr bk, she  tries to have a chat with me, i ignore,i love her so much,why she hurting me?
919406
some say "if you love them let them go...if they come back it was meant to be" but you see, maybe her parents are "controlling" her...i had the same thing happen to me when i was younger..we both waited until i gradutated and i sat down and talked to my mom...i told her, you always told me to follow my heart, and not let anyone tell me what to do...i love ***** and he is my heart and you can either accept him or not it is your choice.....she and my husband are friends....i was with him for 6 years before we finally got married, i am married to him now and i still feel the love like we just began dating! maybe you should talk to her and find out how she feels!
285378
Explain to her why you want to break up, of course she may be hurt but she will get over in time. Life is full of disappointments.
944919
Hey Thor, I've been there. So, i can feel what you are going thru. Let me tell you this..Leave the past alone. Dont think of it. I didnt see you writting that you love her. True that u have feelings for her & she is ur 1st. But still, she broke up with you.i.e dont want to be with you. Move on...leave ny thing that remind you with her. Look to the future. It will take time to move on i know...but time is all what you have
842703
You could try, but if she broke up with you, she had her reasons (you don't say why she broke up with you), and those reasons may not be the kind that can be fixed. It all depends on your history together. Sometimes there's no future and you need to let it be, and move on to someone that wants to be with you.
574471
MAY IT HURTS YOU BUT ITS TRUE.......\nTHAT SHE DOESNT LUVS U AT ALL NOR SHE CARES ABOUT U.......\n\n\ntry 2 forget her bcoz if she is saying after rejecting ur proposal to maintain a relation as a friend then she is lying,(as it is impossible for a girl to say a person like u,that she doesnt needs u.)\n\n\nif u will not forget her now then in future ur pain will increase.just forget her and try 2 make some more friends who really needs u.\n\n\nSORRY AGAIN,\nG O O D L U C K 4 U R F U T U R E.
909873
I think she is still upset about the breakup so she needs time to think about everything that has happened. Deep down even though she is being distant with you she really wants to open up to you but she is so hurt, but dont give up on her give her the time she needs even though it may be a little tough. When she is ready to talk she will trust me!
871691
u can't get her back enless u'v been away from her 4 only a couple days. if not, ow you in trouble. if u really want advice than ask her not people online. tell her u need her not us. if she understands u 2 where meant 4 each other . good luck. e-mail me and tell me how it works out at kayseasbq_10
841951
Because she realized during the first call that she really didn't want a relationship with you, and depending on how quickly you called backl (i.e. within 24 hours), she likely is afraid of whatever broke you up in the first place - maybe a little obsession on the part of one of you? \n\nlet her go...
607122
lol - its true, you could be getting on her nerves :)\nit could mean a few things, eg.\nit means that she needs time by herself to work out how she thinks/feels about things in her life including you. It also means that she doesnt feel like she can say something to you that you wont like and she is building up the courage and finding her way to say it best. It also means that you and her are becoming too big in her life and that she cant balance her relationship with you with everything else she has to do in her life and that may be her fault or yours.\ncould be a whole load of reasons.\n\nall you really need to know is it is time to show some respect and independance and give her her space, if you care and love her then back off and find something to keep you occupied while she is finding her space.\nIf she is messing you around then maybe move on, I have asked for a bit of space before - it didnt mean i was breaking up with my gf or messing her around, I really needed it and she respected that and not having her calling me every five minutes concerned about if i love her and such was very cool of her, give her her space :)
235832
Most women seem to take break ups harder than men thats true. I guess that she is trying to understand the break up probably. Maybe you should just try and explain to her one more time what brought this on and that you just dont wont to be with her anymore. That you do love her but you dont see yourself spending the rest of your life with her. If that doesnt work just dont call her or answer her calls when she calls. Good Luck!
223503
HELLO, this is serious you broke up with her for a reason. Now you are living in a fantasy forged by all of the "good times" and as time goes on you have her built up to be someone that she could never live up to being. You may want to be with her again because you are plagued with wondering what might have been. I am aware of the incredible pain. You can move on if you want (ask us for help with that) If you are already invested in the drama and choose to seek her out. Do not waste another moment of your precious life and know when to run.
463760
Sounds like she's been reminiscing about you and maybe missing you.  I don't know what broke you up in the first place.  That would have something to do with whether or not you try again.  But,  if you are missing her and love her...don't be a fool.  Go chase her man!!!!! Some woman need a lot of chasing to be caught.  That's because we are also sometimes a little niave.
902964
She's trying to be nice and stay friends, although it is the wrong thing to do.  It's obvious that she broke up with you because she already had someone she was interested in, and wanted to go for it.  It's possible she is trying to have her cake and eat it too.  I would personally tell her it's over, and to leave it at that.  OVER.  No more calls.  Just tell her to leave you alone.  She is being selfish and not thinking of you.
291616
First of all, why is your ex girlfriend talking to you? Is it just to talk? That's okay. Your girlfriend should understand.\n\nBut if she wants to fool around or get back with you, you should not talk to her unless you do want to fool around or get back with her. In that case, be upfront with your girlfriend about it.
782797
First of all she is waiting for you to contact her, as she turned you down, she is probably wondering if you are still talking/friends with her. \nShe dosen't wanna change the relationship because the way it is feels safe, and she dosen't wanna change/risk that. By her saying that she dosen't deserve you shows she is maybe a bit insecure and has been hurt in the past, she feels she wouldn't live up to your expectations, Saying your easy means she would be worried that you wouldn't stay faith ful, or you would be off with the next bit of skirt that looked your way, is it that she has seen you cheat or heard how you talk even when your with someone?\nTrust her when she says she wouldn't lie, chill out, txt her saying your sorry if you put her in a difficult situation but it's was because how lovely you think she is, then go back to normal, go out like normal, don't put it off or you''ll both feel weird, just from now on make sure you don't chat up girls in front of her or talk about cheating etc, then you never know, maybe next time she'll be asking you, if it's meant to be you'll get together in time.
976065
I have been on this situation on her end. It is hard... She is hurting probably just as much as you are. Nobody invests their time into a relationship with the intention of it ending. The reason why she is running hot and cold with you is because she still loves you. When you two are together she remembers the good times and feels comfortable / safe with you. Whe she has been away for a while the things you did to hurt her creep back up and she gets upset. It is easier for her to say bad / mean things to you over the phone because she doesn't have to see the look on your face. It is sort of anonymous. Give her her space. There is still a chance you can save this relationship. But there is also a chance you could not. In my situation my ex and I just started talking again after 2 years of silence between us. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do... Waking p every day and choosing not to call him (he fu*cked up bad). I don't know what happened between you two but trust me at this point in your relationship it really could go both ways. \n\nI am sorry you have to go though this and some of those things you might not have wanted to hear but that is just what I have experienced. I hope it helped. Good luck!
385680
If you try to dig it further, you will obviously find a lot of proof to believe that she was completely distracted from your love relationship. She was just trying to keep you as a back up. I can say that because, from my experience, I know that these things happen when it doesn't even matter for her if you stay with her or not. You can be sure of one thing that she is one of the worst girls in the world. So, please try to control yourself and forget her bit by bit.\n\nYou have done the perfect thing. Just think of it! If someone has feelings for you, she will obviously try to make you happy and if you do not like something, she will try not to do so. But things are totally reversed here. So, you can be sure that she does not love you anymore. And you also should not be with her anymore.\n\nBest of luck!