Am I wrong for wanting him to change?
918770
Do yourself a favor and stop the relationship immediately. If he hasn't changed his ways in the last 7 years, he isn't going to start now.  You cannot change people, they have to want to be different, and they have to want to make things better for themselves.  What is it about him that makes you want to stay with him?  And be HONEST with yourself.  Is it merely because you've been with him so long it's comfortable?  I hate to be this blunt, but you need to break this one off or you will just be very unhappy as a married woman, and I can almost guarantee you will end up a divorce statistic.
452110
it's all just some stupid ploy. why would you want to change anyway? God made you the way He did and you should stay that way. i'm sure it'll satisfy.
519008
YES! Take it from experience, also change is not an easy concept for anyone. And momma boy's NEVER change!
785136
It sounds like both yours and his priorities are noncommittal. Seeing each other when convenient should be enough for now. If this was love you would not have to ask this question.
1046369
First you need to be blunt and let him know what is bothering you and see if he is willing to modify some of his ways. If he blows it again then you know he is not going to change. Forgive/ Forget-- they are not the same
726820
He probably has changed, and you have changed too even if yo don't realize it. People change, you just have to change with each other and adjust to the changes as a couple.
468006
Nothing, I am with him because I accept him. Everyone has flaws and because of them its makes My Love perfect. If I were so worried about changing his flaw, I might miss out on the sweet and loving things that he does.
1056792
You are not going to change his mind.  If he is not willing to marry for the sake of your child, your personal wishes are not of any consequence.  After all, how much worse can it get than changing diapers?
1001558
Kind understand where your coming from.If you told him you want him  to move and he still wont then start going  out and have fun make him want to leave. i know its hard because you care for him but not love him,but if you don't show him your serious things are going to be the same and does not far for nobody.
427201
You can't change someone else, so for your own sanity's sake assume he'll never change.  You can, however, try to gently point out that maybe the reason he's miserable all the time is that his life is hollow.  Encourage him to do something for others.  Maybe you could sign up for something like Habitat for Humanity and invite him to come along with you.  It doesn't have to be HFH, but you get the idea.
554081
Why would you want to change who you are or what you know just to make him feel better about himself?  If its truely a good relationship, he knows you are intelligent and loves that about you.  Now that is not the same thing as making him feel bad or stupid because he might not know something.  I knew more about cars than my ex did, but I never said anything like "You are the man, you are supposed to know this, why are you so stupid?"  You wouldnt want a man to talk to you like that, so why do it to them?  It's a matter of respect...both for yourself and for him.
696018
I think your concerns are legitimate, and I think it's a good idea to consider carefully whether you want to let this abusive man back into your lives.  (I assume he abused you and the kids based on what you said.)  I think that people can change, but you should look for evidence that he is really serious about changing.  Enrolling himself in anger management classes or psychological counseling might be a good start.  Also, I think you have a right to be concerned about the timing of this "change of heart" and it sounds like you feel like he's using you, which sounds to me like a form of abuse.  I'd say, if you need help, get help from a battered women's shelter, an ecclesiastical leader, a counselor, or somebody else who can help you make a wise decision.  Remember to keep your kids in mind when you are making this decision -- think about what will be best for them.  God bless you.
942473
I know a lot of people say do it anyway, but l can see where you are coming from.. It's hard to say when or if he will come around to your side of the coin but as you grow with him l think he will get used to the idea, and be happy for the two of you..
947063
Most of the time people really don't change. If they do, they do it for there self. Past is the past. u don't know that until u try if that is what ur going to do. and as for ur trust u don't have to trust him at all but don't let him know that though. u been there before u know the signs. go with ur heart!!!  And ur the only one can decide if ur going to trust him.
321519
First of all to give him a chance, discuss this matter with him directly. Tell him that you won't be the way he wants you to be, but you love him a lot and wanna be with him. If he agrees and changes his attitude to you then it might become alright for a while, but if not then just dump him and tell him that you can easily live without him. I can assure you that when you'll dump him he will come after you, cause probably as you've said he can do it so well, he wouldn't expect this from you. And when he comes after you then you make him to do things you want, but don't push it as he has been pushing.
1098712
I pray that he will change his prejudiced ways, mature in every way and that you really think about yourself and why you want a convicted felon in your life. You can't change him. You can't help him unless he helps himself first!  You both will probably be very different people by then anyway.
182586
You are messing around for 2 years and he doesn't want to mess up the friendship???  LORD give me a burst of patience!!! Honey, why should he change anything?? He is getting what he wants NOW!  If you are smart, you will stop the 'messing around' and tell him he has to make up his mind what he wants.  If he wants a friendship, fine.. but no benefits...  you deserve a whole lot better than that..  If he wants the benefits, that's fine, too.. but the relationship changes.. you are boyfriend/girlfriend.. or else. YOU have to lay down the law.. DON'T let him get by with this crap.. stand up for yourself.. have self respect!  DON'T let him use you this way.  Good luck.