how to provide a good start at bed time w/boyfriend?
926564
well a running start is always interesting, especially if there is a slip-and-slide involved...\n\nbut i'd recommend anything that puts you in a good mood and relaxes you.  music, entertainment of sorts, telling a funny story about your day, sharing an interesting thought you had, etc.\n\nthen maybe move on to saying something you like about the other person ("i love it when you..." etc.) then onto a backrub, hand massage, play with hair, etc.
937045
Talk it over with your boyfriend, openly and honestly. Discuss what worked then and what isn't working now. Discuss what each of you want out of the relationship and from sex. Ask questions about how you can please him, give information about how he can please you. Listen with your heart to what he is saying. Talk to his heart about your wants and needs. Then, after discussing, practice what you talked about. You might consider taking a night, a weekend, or a vacation away to get away from the usual distractions and focus on pleasing each other and putting your talk into action.
156762
Be polite, and address them as sir and ma'am, offer to help with making dinner and cleaning up afterwards. Don't forget to make good eye contact and don't worry too much about conversation starters they'll more than likely handle that. Be a good listener. Wear something nice and don't wear alot of perfume make sure it's very subtle if any. Good Luck!\n\nAdditional:\n\nYea learning some small words would be great like "hello" and "no thanks" and "thank you" and "They scare me" lol and "good food" and "good night" or "can I help?" stay away from the pets lol. Have your boyfriend help with interpretation. You'll do great you'll see!
105089
get buck wild have sex anywhere and everywhere. The sky is the limit.When you are *******talk dirty as****.Get some sex toys and don't forget the red highheels. lay on the bed spread your legs and say, baby it's moma come get your present, then began to move in a circlar motion began to moan ummmmmm make sure the moan is sexy. show him your breast then said are you hungry,baby and don't forget to open your present there's a little gift inside you can kiss and play with. Then do the dam thing,girl. Make me want to hollo!I have excited myself. Gotta go!
290146
You have to have good communication, intimacy and genuine love/admiration for each other. And don't mess up like cheat and lie to one another. You also should make plenty of time to do activities you both enjoy together. Don't forget to have sex regularly even if you are tired or bored. If you don't use it you lose it.
1073825
Look at the bigger picture....the outcome!  Put yourself on a schedule so that it becomes a routine.  Find a partner who enjoys going and you can both be a support system to eachother.
1185541
Know your partner and know what works for them, is the surprise element good? or would they prefer a planned session?have a failure free environment, no pressure, its doesn't have to be full on sex, be satisfied with some kissing and cuddling, then the good stuff can come later, if its been a while dont have a high expectation coz if something goes wrong it will put people off,do something you both enjoy 1st and plan what u would both like, change the normal bedtime routine? try and new place for lunch/ break old habits?? good luck xx
1080936
Have meals together and talk during meal times. \nCall each other at least once a day\nSay ILove You at least once a day, at bedtime.
499580
Depends on the circumstances. My husband and I have an 18 month old so as soon as our son falls asleep (nap times included) I normally let him know that little monster is tucked away.  Some days I'm more subtle, like a few soft kisses after I've turned off the T.V.  Others I'm more direct, like walking into our bedroom in something sexy or maybe nothing at all.  Fortunately my husband loves making love as much as I do, so it doesn't take much for him to get the hint.
522842
You've already gotten a lot of good (and bad) responses.\n\nThe key to any relationship is communication. And I think this is obviously where you think you have some problems. I assume you guys are comfortable talking about everything else. \n\nFor one, you need to talk to him. Pour your heart out and let him know where you stand. After 5 years, things do get stagnent. He may think your sex life with each other is fine where it is. You need to share with him your desire to spice it up.\n\nSometimes what holds a guy back is stress. If you have an opportunity, get a babysitter for the night/weekend, cook him a romantic dinner, turn off the phones, play some relaxing music, and talk the night away. Give him a back massage. Let him know he is loved and that he's appreciated. Ask him what he would like in your sexual relationship from you, to spice things up. \n\nBring up some options: Role Play. Having sex in a different part of the house (having sex in the same bed for 5 years can get old). Getting dressed up. Watch a porno together. Have sex with the window shades open. Turn up some music. Turn off the TV. Candles. Clean sheets. Go dancing. Go on vacation. Go to a Bed & Breakfast. Go to the beach. \n\nI've also seen a statistic once out of Europe that found that men find their partners more attractive when the household chores have been done. This maybe more related to stress.\n\nThere is sooo much you can do to help spice up a sexual relationship, that I think you should make the first move.\n\nAlso, don't make him feel bad for any fantasies he has. He's a guy. Sometimes you can even play into his fantasy. If he wants to have a 3rd party, but you don't, then by all means do not. But you can pretend:\nOne night, while you guys are about to have sex. Undress him completly. Tie his hands to the bed post and blindfold him. Once you've done that, tell him that you have a surprise for him. Tell him you've invited a female friend over to join the two of you, but she doesn't want him to known who it is, so he must keep the blindfold on. Pay a neighboorhood kid a dollar to ring your doorbell. When it rings, cover him up in a sheet, and tell him to keep the blindfold on.\nThen you get changed into a lingerie, put on some different perfume, put on makeup, change your hairstyle, etc. Go to the bedroom and tell him you're letting your friend in and that you just want to watch. When touching him, change your style. Have fun. Remember, the brain is the largest sex organ.\n\nOnce you've gone through some sort of process to spice things for him, tell him your fantasies you'd like for him to help fulfill.\n\nBest of luck to you. If nothing else, just remember to "talk".
667482
Have you tried a nice warm massage with scented baby oil while enjoying an nice romantic candle lit bedroom or dim lights. Well for me personally that help me a while back, u see i created the mood instead of him doing all of the creating, create your own dream world with a little reality and settings and u can have a night of passion and sex. But remember to always relax and let your body take control of  the flow and the moment and you will see. \nCreate an atmosphere of daring and challenge, a little of being able to be on the wild side.
1085844
I wish I had your problem!  Ever since college, I've had a heck of a time getting to bed before midnight and getting up any time before 9 AM.  Stay with your earlier bedtime,  it will keep things more focused and happy as time goes on.
1124776
Start of by asking your significant other to go out to dinner with you. Wear something that you know they find sexy on you. At dinner keep things positive and sexy! Talk about the things you did with each other when you first got together. After dinner, at each stop light or stop sign, kiss and touch each other, once home, remove each others clothes then start doing some of those things you talked about at dinner!\nOther things you could do is fantasy role playing, doctor and nurse, cop and hooker, naughty school girl and the principal.\nUse your imagination and think sexy thoughts about each other.\nSend each other dirty e-mails!\nI'm sure this will help you get that lust back.    Good luck
1073748
Hello, send your hubby an e-mail or call him and tell him that the two of you are going out one evening on a sexy date!\nSet it up in advance so that the two of you both know when it will be and can look forward to it. Pick a restaurant you both enjoy.\nWear something you know he finds sexy on you. At dinner talk about the things the two of you have done sexually that he enjoys and that you enjoy. Get him to talk about it and stay positive.\nAfter dinner, at each stop sign or stop light, kiss him and touch him! Once home, you can remove all of his clothes and tell him to lay on the bed. He can now watch you slowly remove your clothing while you tell him what your going to do to each other once you lay in bed next to him. \nYou can take it from here! \nPlan date nights together! They can be at home making a romantic meal together. You don't always have to go out.\nLight some candles, play romantic music. There are a number of things you can do. \nGood luck and have fun!
371854
Yes, there is nothing with making the first move.  Do all of the above.  Make dinner with candle light and where something sexy when he comes home.  Leave messages on his pillow if you leave first.  Send him e-mails saying  something sweet or that you just Miss him.  You can even send him flowers.  I've done it.  They really like it.  Flowers aren't just for men!
735741
when the kids are asleep probably best at weekend if you work you wont be as tired, you could wear some sexy underwear and dress up cook a nice meal then have sex in different rooms, try watching a porn film together depending how kinky you are there are a lot of sex toys you can use on each other, maybe just a sensual massage using oils with candles and incense burning would be nice for you both, or you could tell each other your fantasies and try and do them, maybe you could get a babysitter for a few hours and book in to a motel or even park somewhere in a car that could be exciting the risk of getting caught, only you know what turns your husband on just think about it and what you can do together, justmake sure you lock the door if you have kids you wont want any awkward questions.
1077512
Even if intimate time has to be planned out and stuck on the calendar, make an effort to plan for it.  It is an important part of your relationship.  Make a plan for bedtime and put off doing a couple extra chores until the next day so you have some energy.