College is coming and we're goin different ways.. do we stay together?
931357
You should end the romantic aspect of the relationship and switch to being friends until you both graduate (or quit) college. Trying to maintain a long distance relationship is hard enough, but adding the stress of being in a new place, and trying to do well in college classes can make things worse. Since neither of you drive, arranging transportation could be expensive and difficult to schedule, when trying to visit.\n\nBoth of you will meet new friends and grow from your experiences in college and you won't be the same people you were in high school. You should stay friends and keep in touch, sharing the news of your new friends, classes, and experiences so that you don't become strangers. Once you both leave school you'll have a better idea of the kinds of carrers you want and what you want to do with your lives.\n\nYou may find that after college the two of you will be very different people with different goals from when you were together in high school. If you switch to being friends before going to college, you may not have a romatic relationship anymore, but you will still be friends and a part of each others lives. If you try for a long distance relationship going into college things will most likely end on a sour note over trust issues, at worst you'll end up hating each other, at best you'll just fade from eachother's lives as you go your seperate ways.\n\nI had a long distance relationship with a college girl and it was too much for her to keep up with her classes and try to maintain the relationship with regular emails. Things with us just faded and we haven't spoken since. I think if we just went to being friends, we'd still be talking.
422917
since you have already made up your mind to study abroad, my advise is to just go ahead without worrying about your boyfriend. since you don't believe in long distance relashionships this decision basically means that you have already given up on the relashionship. It sounds to me like you need some time to find out who you are before you can commit yourself. it is only fair that you tell your boyfriend what you are planning. be honest. I wish you well.
28688
Your relationship has the potential to do well. If communication, trust, and all those other factors (such as passion, commitment, etc.) have perservered through your time in high school, then maybe you will succeed in your relationship as long as those items remain constant and in good status.\n\nYour relationship, however long or not, may cause a bit of a hinder in your future though. In college, many people that may be to your liking would appear and therefore test whether you or him are strong enough to hold on to each other.
332447
There's nothing about being selfish in this situation you're being reasonable. You can let this new guy know where you stand and let him know that you need sometime to sort through things in your life before getting back into another relationship. At the end of the if he wants to start another relationship with someone else you guys can still be friends and move on from there. On the other hand, if he wants to wait for you then you know he's in deed a really good guy. With my friendship/relationship I've been with my boyfriend for a 1.5 years and we were in the same state but then I went out of state to complete a Masters' degree and to be fair I gave him the option of being with someone else if someone else came along before I came back to MI to be with him. I did that because either one of us has never had a long distance relationship, so I didn't want to make him feel that he is "tied to me" while i'm out of state at Graduate school. The "separation" didn't happen we ended up still being together and when I came back to MI to visit him the love was there as if I was always there with him. So good things happen if its suppose to happen that way. Good luck and I wish you all the best.
845765
When I went back to college, a lot of my friends and family felt as though I was "leaving" them behind.  This was not intentional, but due to my overwhelming change in interests and hours devoted to my schooling.  There is a camaraderie which develops between people who travel down a new road together.  I was never closer to a few individuals than when I was going through law school...it was like having been in battle together.  No one else quite understood what I was going through.  Talking to those going through the same experience took less explaining.\n\nMaybe this would be a good time to return to your own education.  It would serve two purposes, 1) you would have similar experiences and knowledge to share with boyfriend, and 2) if that doesn't work, you will be more capable of being on your own, hopefully, with a degree and new friends, if it comes to that.
497383
Continue to say no. As a guy, I would have more respect for you knowing that you saved yourself for the wedding. You sound like you have morals, and should not give up on them just because you are going to school. Be proud of yourself and realize that you are not the kind of girl who bounces from bed to bed. If he loves you, he will wait, and since you are going away to school, you risk the possibility of pregnancy and then messing up college. The best thing is to stay the way you are, listen to your instincts.
419604
If you're not grounded, mature and disciplined, you will see college as a huge playground: "I'm free", "I'm out of my parents home", "I can pick my own classes", etc. I think college is a serious prep for life. You have to be responsible for yourself. Maybe have your first bill, (like a phone), etc. Study or not.  Professors aren't going to send you to detention if you miss class, (like at high school), you'll just fail.  College to me is like an engagement, it's meant to get you ready or practice for the marriage (life).  High School to me is like a pre-engagement or a girlfriend/boyfriend stage.
1065384
I think you should just talk to your parents about moving to the dorms. Maybe they will understand. Just tell them how you feel and that you want to be on your own and more responsible. Personally, I don't think college is the same if you live at home. You need to take care of yourself, experience more freedom, have more responsibility, and find out who you are for yourself!
885083
I think you really need to take a look at your relationship and see where it is going.  Is this a guy that you think that you might want a future with?  Can you picture yourself with him for 4 more months, for another year?  What about after college?  College changes people, and that is something he hasn't experianced yet.  By just being in college, you have been thrown on an express way to maturity while he is still left behind in regulated high school life.  \n\nEvaluate your feelings for this other guy.  Where do you see them going?  Is this a fantasy of yours or can you really see yourself with him?  \n\nBreaking up with a bf is not the end of the world.  If you don't think things will work out with him, than there is nothing wrong with moving on.  People usually do not meet who their will marry or be with for a long time until later in life, so you don't think that by breaking up with your bf, you will be an old maid.  If you guys are on a break, then take advantage of your break and see what else is out there.  Maybe it will help you appreciate each other more or maybe you can find something else out there for you.\nBest of luck!
636591
If you moved from Michigan to be with her because you love her, her going away to college shouldn't matter if your love is really. because no matter how far away you are from each other your love will always be their. you should be  proud of her and encouraging her for wanting to make a better life for the both of you. let her know that you are behind her 100% no matter what her decision is and that you will always love her and be there for her that is how strong your love is for her. if it's meant to be it will be no matter how far away you are, this is a test of your love.
648001
What school do you think is going to be better for you academically? Also, if yo know what field you are going to go into, which one has a better handle of that area?\n\nAlso, remember that you are probally going to make new friends. Maybe you should go to the school wwhere 5 of your friends are going, because you and your best friend are mostl likely going to keep in touch no matter what. Do you also really want to be clinging to one person as you adjust to high school? What if you have no classes together? \n\nBut in the end, it's really up to you.
343122
Love is about compromise, so either you stay with him while he's in school and he moves with you to New York when he gets out, or he moves to a school in New York (we have great schools here!!!!!!!!!!!)  Remember, a relationship, especially marriage, is a 2 way street.  You need to support each other's dreams.
993806
While you guys are apart try to speak with her as if shes right there. If you talk to her like, "Oh, I love you baby i wish I could be with you this very minute" all the time, it will make her feels kinda smothered. And say for instance if she may want to take a break, stuff like that could make it harder for her to admit it. So take things really slow try to make it more of a fun experience and not so gloomy. You have to figure that if you gys do make it, that would be amazing. So the best way for that to happen is to stay happy. You guys are going to college which is something in life that you need in order to help fufill dreams. So when college is done you guys can look back at all the happy things. Dont make college a bad an mopey experience. Be excited, and say "hey it may suck that were going to be apart for sometime. but its not as if im going to the war or anything. were still going to talk and see each other. Maybe not as often, but it will help our relation ship". thats my best advice from coming out of a few long distance relationships.
762240
did your dad get school & college out of the way before having a girl friend, I doubt it.  Tell him your not planning on getting married, just geing a teenager and having some fun.  Being a parent I can understand where he's coming from but I was also a teenager and know that if told no the teen will always do the opposite, I let me daughters do things but we compromise, in your case id say fine but just see him a couple of nights a week so you don't miss out on your studying, you've got to be allowed to live a little !
106978
Okay first of all never forget to do what's BEST for you. The best saying that I have ever heard is this. If you love something let it go if it comes back it was your to begin with if not a lesson learned. My high school sweetheart was a senior and I was a freshman . He went off to college my sophmore year. We dated for two years and then we deceided it was best for us to split. It was a strugle, but I did it. Now after six years we are back in touch with we're not together, but who knows what the future holds
399427
There's no right answer even if you know your own brother. And for me not knowing him, I can't tell you, but I will tell you my experience. I went away to college. I thought it's what I wanted. I ended up coming back home to go to a college in my hometown. While I was away at college, I called my family everyday because my mom had a toll free number, and college students usually don't have a lot of extra money. It can be very lonely at college or it could even be very hectic. It depends on his major and his school activities. So that you still keep in touch, YOU call him. That's the best advice I can give you.\n\nPS. He should realize how much he cares about his family once he leaves you guys.
356411
don't worry about it, if its meant to happen in time it will. Besides you are both still young and alot will change for you both in the near future.