Would it be improper etiquette not to interact with any of my family during thanksgiving dinner?
920735
if you are like that, there is no problem\n\n:> peace\n.
375490
I had a similar situation with a brother-in-law.  To save the family embarressment I told my husband and since then he never leaves me in the room alone with him.  Ignore the advances or if they get too bad, just say no.
890243
I know how you feel- no relaxed visiting- just a mad dash to make it to the next get together.  Its nice to be invited to more than one place, but it is a strain and really no fun to have to rush through a visit or dinner.  \n     You have a good idea, I think if I were you, I would go ahead and separate for the day to each family.  Especailly since you have family that you only see this time of year.  That time is precious- and you won't get the time back.
707635
Dude i couldnt agree with you more.  No offence but for their own good put them in a looney bin and do it fast.  Thisnk about all the things peopl will say about you and your family when they see them.  Is that in itself worth it?
811914
I don't think she is trying to offend you, you could even take it as a compliment because she feels so at home with you and her sibling. I don't know what kind of person she is, so I don't have the right words, try talking to your significant other about how to handle it since she is his/her family. If it really bothers you, I would definitely resolve it quickly before you get too heated or something happens.
873066
This would hurt my feelings too, and I completely understand.   yes, I think it was mean to bring that stuff up about the cruise.  They know you can not afford it, and obviously they know you were not invited, so it was rude to talk about it at the dinner table.  They could mention it to you sometime, but should not make a whole conversation revolve around that.  I think that's very rude when people do this.  it leaves you in a position where you either have to change the subject or be quiet!  \n      I think they are being insensitive to you.  I am sorry you are in that situation.  My family and I have not always gotten along.  My mother treated me like dirt after I got married (before I had kids).  Mainly because of disagreements that occurred over wedding plans!  To this day, i don't think she'll ever get over the things that did not go her way for that wedding.  However, enough time has passed (almost 10 years) and there are now 3 grandkids.  \n  I would distance myself because I don't think they will understand how you feel.  Are there other people you could spend the holidays with?  I would go see the family but spend only a short time there and be civil and nice, and get it over with.  But emotionally, I would not invest anything in them.  If someone says something hurtful, just keep your expression blank or walk away.  \n    You need to spend time with people who really care about you.
983857
I would take it as a compliment.  They obviously had no one else to spend the holiday with, whether it was by choice or not.  By their actions they seem as though they may not be the most appreciative family.  I would address it with them when it is not during a holiday or family time.  This will cause unneeded tension between the family.  Explain to them that you would not mind if they were to come over as long as it was planned and you did not get caught off guard.  Also, they may have rented a cabin but it may be all a front.  Most Americans are living beyond their means.  \n\nRemember you can't choose your family, but it could always be worse.
342952
Nobody with a family should answer this.  You should be compassionate towards the feelings of family members.
887043
Because part of your family doesn't live nearby, Maybe you can alternate, so that one year you stay home and spend the holiday with whoever lives close by, and the next year you go to see the ones who are farther away.\n\nAnother option is to arrange a date within a week or two of Christmas when you can celebrate with the family members who don't live nearby. Maybe even host a dinner at your home and invite them. \n\nWe have run into similar problems with my family and my in-laws, even though they only live 15 minutes from us. My mother-in-law wanted us to go to church with them Christmas Eve and then come over first thing in the morning. But my parents also wanted us over early in the day. We finally had to make the decision to divide our time in the way that worked best for us. So now we go to church on our own on Christmas Eve, then go to my parents' early in the day on Christmas, and my in-laws' later in the afternoon.\n\nThere's no way to be everywhere at once, and they'll understand if you can't always be with them on Christmas Day.\n\nI know it's tough, but you'll be so much more relaxed if you space your visits apart in some way. Christmas shouldn't be spent rushing around trying to see everyone and please everyone. Take time for yourself!\n\nGood luck!
1172524
D.  I don't think that is respectful, and it would hurt your family member or friend.  They should be more important to you than a date.
912132
If children will be there, you might consider taking something that would interest them, like a nice Mac and Cheese casserole, or a nice salad that has kid friendly stuff in it like ham, turkey cheese or something like that. You might take a dessert that you have had at your family gatherings that this family may not be familiar with.    Adults only, the wine is great or better yet, a nice bottle of Cognac or Bourbon.  When you are invited into someone's home, ESPECIALLY for a major holiday, pretty much anything that can be considered part of the feast is appropriate.  You probably already know this, but be sure to send a thank you note to the host and hostess letting them know how much you enjoyed being included.
160604
As long as it's done discreetly, and you do not throw your used tissues on the ground, it should be ok.  Saying a quick "excuse me" is nice if people can see or hear.\n\nAnd it is never ok to do it at a table in a restaurant if other people can see or hear, that is just being nasty.
913742
When I first started dating my boyfriend, I baked a tray of cookies for Thanksgiving and brought it over for dinner.  The tray was GONE by the end of the day and now it's become tradition for my cookies around the holidays.  But it's not always about buying things or doing things for someone.  Obviously do what your mom would tell you, be respectful, polite.  Engage in conversation, dress appropriately, and be yourself!  :)  Oh and ask if they'd like help in the kitchen, mothers really seem to like that.
75353
Spend time with my family
953507
I've never seen anyone tell their family they have to pay to go to a family dinner. Its supposed to be a festive time. We have in the past divided what we were having and had people make different things or bring other items like drinks. \nIf I were you, I'd call your aunt and ask her if she'd rather you help make something rather than pay to go to dinner. Either that or provide a receipt to show you that she actually spent the money because I would feel uncomfortable going if she was just trying to make a profit off of her family... like charging for her labor and rental of her house.
768851
i was going to the Thanksgiving pared but couse of the weather I'ms saying home.so im jut going to have dinner in my house with my family.thanks for asking
690490
I wouldn't think it necessary as far as regular rules of etiquette go, since it was an indirect act (it wasn't donated in the name of your sister-in-law). I would definitely thank her, and possibly giver her a token or gift of appreciation, and tell her how much it meant to you.