I take care of my 73yr  mom, she lives with me and is unable to live alone, can I be paid to care for her?
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I worked for Medicare- they will only pay for a Home Health Care aide to come in a FEW hours out of the day. With a few I mean the usual visits are only 1-3 hours. \n\nHowever- I take care of my grandmother now and get paid through Centers for Independent Living. There are no benefits and no paid time off. There is a shift differential. For instance-- I work 1:30pm-9:30 pm. Any time before 6pm I only get paid $10.50- anytime after 6pm I get $11.25. Also on the 4 major federal holidays I get paid $11.25 as well as ANY Sat. or Sunday. I get paid bi-weekly. Keep in mind there are NO RAISES either. But atleast you will be spending quality time with your mother- and get paid for it.\n\nIt is income based- to qualify your mother must not make above a certain amount. I am not sure what state you live in but I am sure if you just look up the CIL (Center for Independent Living) in your mother's area you will be able to find some information on the program.
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Because she is 18 and graduating,I'll bet when you restrict or pressure her,she will end up moving out and either shacking or marrying the 26 year old year old with children or want to.She is not old enough to make it comfortably on her own so she would most likely live with someone else.She will then have herself a ready made family that may or may not work out. You are doing her no favor paying "her"cell phone bill.When I was that age I had strict parents.Every child in our house had chores.We were never charged rent,but was expected to do chores to help out,it was not fair to our parents for them to do all the work when they feed us and gave us a home for as long as we wanted.If you did not follow their curfew and respect their home,then you had to move out. We worked a summer job and when we graduated were expected to work a full time job.If I made any kind of bill,I paid it,they did not.That is not being cruel,that's making me responsible.You are the step parent,so if I were you,I would leave it up to her father(her blood parent)to talk to her.If you try to,she may look at you and say "I don't have to listen to you,you are not my mother".So,for your feelings,let the father have a one on one talk with his daughter.Tell him to explain to her what he seeing her getting into and how it is going to be in reality such as:In the relationship with the 26 year old she will be a mother(step-mom)to another women's children,depending on how active the 26 year old man is, may end  up baby sitting while he's out doing whatever,may end up pregnant by this man and have even another child.Sit her down,don't be mad,just explain to her that yes this is her life and if "she" ends up with the 26 year old,her life is over as she know's it.It will be her burden to carry,not yours.Ask her to think about all the freedoms she has now and how she feels about losing all that at such an early age.You know how real life is and you only want the best for her.Now is the time to talk to her and get her to realize exactly what kind of life she is going to have if she ends up with this man.Don't be mad when you talk to her,just be very honest.Then do not cater to her irresponsibility.Let her pay her bills and live her life.Like my parent's told me,go out and make your bed hard if you want and you,not I will sleep in it.They said if you get into trouble,"you" will have to figure out how to get out of it.I thought my parents were mean,but I realized how much they loved me,some of their advice I didn't listen to,I wished I had.She is graduating and will be an adult somewhat.You have to let her make choices for herself.If she decides on a life of misery,there is not much you or your husband can do to stop her.Give her the best advice you can and stand by your word when you say she is on her own.She will find out really fast that life is not fair,things are exspensive,life is hard,that she had it so good and didn't know it and most of all she will quicklly learn she does not know everything and possibly that you were right.
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Can't your mom do this for you?
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Yes she can.  I suggest she open a case with the local child support office; services are free, some may require an initial $25 application fee.  Her caseworker can then take many legal actions against the non-custodial parent.
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IN MY OPINION, YOUR MOTHER WOULD BE ENTITLED TO THAT MONEY, NOT YOU.  SHE'S THE ONE WHO HAS DONE WITHOUT TO RAISE YOU.
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dang!!! maybe ask your mother for some money!!
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I am attorney.  This is a difficult fact pattern.  you are 40?  what do you mean that you make 52K but you wont be able if at all.\n\nJust straight on limited facts.  Yes they will make you pay alimony.  Might be lifetime, but that is being curtailed.  You big problems are 16 year marriage, her age and income vs. yours.  If your income falls (a lot) then you might be okay.\n\nIf you get money from being disabled vet, does she get an additional stipend?
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OOps sorry let me edit this..\n\nMost important question is - are they LEGALLY your gaurdian?  It sounds like this might be your sister.. or maybe a young aunt.\n\nWhat state are you in?  How old are you?  It depends on how your caregiver will react.  I did the same thing when I was 17 and my parents freaked and were able to take me back.  I spent a few days in Juvi.. but other than that nothing terrible will happen.  If you are 17, I suggest talking to your parents about this and seeing if they would let you.  Does your friends family want you to move there?  Have them talk to your caregiver.  If you are any younger, either wait or have the family talk to your caregiver..  I totally understand where you are coming from, sometimes your home can just be toxic, especially if your parents are going through a divorce, or some issues of their own.. I've been moved out for 2 years now, and even when I come to visit, it just sucks my soul dry.. Some people and places are just so bad for you.  Talk to them .. really.  OR just go ahead and do it, but know this - they will be able to find you - and they will force you to come back - BUT after that happens, they will be open for dialog with you - you will be able to tell them how damaging their home is to you - and they will be able to take you seriously.. This is what happened to me- They never listened until after I ran away.. Then they let me finish my high school degree online and let me move out when I needed to.\n\nTo help you any further, I would need to know your age and your state.\n\nAnd like the other person mentioned, if you are working and making some of your own money, you might be able to get emancipated. \n\nChoices Other Than Emancipation\n\nEmancipation is only one of several alternatives available to you if you feel you cannot live with your caregiver.  You may want to consider other options such as:\n\nfamily counseling or mediation service between you and your parents; \nliving with another responsible adult (aunt, uncle, grandparent, or family friend); \nseeking assistance from public and private agencies; \nan informal agreement with your caregiver allowing you to live outside your home. \n\n\nMy final advice to you is this - family counseling - if nothing else works - this will.  The other person there can help you communicate effectively with your caregiver - and don't assume they will only be on your caregivers side either.  Present your case to them, and unless you have no reason for wanting to move out, they will support you and help you work out a solution with your family..\n\nGood luck, ok?  Feel free to personally email me if you need any personal or legal advice..  Bj_Osterhout@yahoo.com
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The fact that no other (immediate) family members have stepped up to take care of her does not mean that you should do it. Discuss this with your husband and let him know how you feel about it.\n\nAs a student, you are still learning and probably expect to take a full-time job when you graduate. How will you work outside the home if you are taking care of  your mother-in-law? Would your husband's family be willing to pay you for your time caring for their relative?\n\nThere are other things to take into consideration, but like I mentioned above, you need to discuss this with your husband and DON'T let anybody make you feel guilty for making yourself the most important priority right now.
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First, if you have been giving her money, make sure to get all of your cancelled checks and receipts in order.\n\nAs for petitioning for back child support ... in most states, yes she can!  However, there is usually a time limit.  In some states three years, in other states it can be longer. \n\nI strongly suggest that you go to a local office of your state's Support Enforcement or Support Collection office.  Ask them for copies of all documents relevant to the TN Child Support & Collections Standards Act.  This is where you will find your answers.\n\nIf she does petition the Family Court, then you should have a good lawyer with you.  Remember, your level of familarity with the TN Support & Collections Standards Act is in direct relation to how much you'll have to pay an attorney.  If you thoroughly arm yourself with knowledge about your state laws, you'll be able to prepare much of your own case documentation, thereby reducing the amount you pay to an attorney.\n\nBeen there, done that, and it ain't fun! Best of Luck to you.\n\nEdited}\n\nTo qualify the above statement, let me add that I do not reside in your state.  TN may have different laws than the states that I have dealt with.  You should find your answer in the Standards Act to which I referred.  Also, if the 19 yr old has emancipated, then any back support you may be ordered to pay should exclude any time following the emancipation.\n\nI have personal experience with this type of issue in two states, and have found that the courts display a bias toward the mother.  I really hope this all works out for you and that you're able to keep this out of the courts.
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I dont think so. If you are ordered to pay a percent you have to pay that and what she pays or doesnt pay doesnt matter.  Just make sure you pay or share and CYOA  (cover your own a..)
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I know that in NY you can. Call your local dept of social services, they can probably answer that for you.
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If you are responsible for 50% or more of her living expenses then you can claim her as a dependent if she lives with you or you have her in a qualified assisted living program. Talk to a tax consultant for the details on Filing. I have been taking care of my Mother-In-law for 5 years and claim her as a dependent.
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Depending on your state regulations it may be that she is eligible for Home Health care.  If it is getting too tough for you to try and do it all, maybe they could at least help.  I believe they will offer at least four hours a day, maybe more.  I lost both my parents at a young age but I remember how tough it was to take care of my mom because she was sick for two years before she passed.  Its easy to say you should take care of her yourself, but until a person has to actually deal with the issue its hard to understand how draining it can be, both physically and emotionally.  Good luck.
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Not unless the debt was co-owned by you and your mom. If the estate is in probate and you are the personal representative of the estate, you are protected by the court from that kind of action. You do not own her debt. Her creditors must address their concerns to the estate, not you personally.
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If you have very good reasons, then you can go to court and ask to be "emancipated". This means that that you would be considered an adult in your own right, and your mother would no longer be your guardian. \n\nHowever, consider first that your mother loves you very much, and you need each other. (Everyone needs a loving family member!)
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Whisper is simply WRONG! Medicaid eligibility is based on INCOME and ASSETS, not dependency status. If you contribute more that 50% of your MIL's support, you may claim her as a dependent and it has no impact whatsoever on her medicare/Medicaid status. You cannot be liable for her debts unless you co-sign a debt agreement with her or guarantee payments yourself.\n\nBut why believe what you read online??  Call your Medicaid office and ASK! They will tell you.You will not have to identify yourself. The phone number is under Government Agencies. If you are worried about the debt issue, call a local attorney through a referral service and get a onetime consultation. Ask what the fee would be upfront, before you make the appointment. If it costs you more than $50-$100, say no thanks and call somebody else....\n\nGood Luck!