why am i so mad over the fact my ex has moved on...when i'm the one who dumped her?
921522
I don't mean to say this to get you upset or angry or anything, but it seems to me that your dissatisfaction stems more from yourself than from her actions, I think. It sounds like you weren't truly sure you were done with the relationship when you ended it, and as a result you couldn't fully own your decision to break up with her. Perhaps you were afraid of something, like her breaking up with you first, or jealousy issues, or something similar, and that is why you ended it?Or maybe you were trying to prove a point, or you thought she'd come back?\nAll in all, the above types of reasons for ending a relationship ultimately do not stem from dissatisfaction with the other person, so much as they stem from personal dissatisfaction, in one form or another, if that makes sense? Jealousy issues are your insecurities acting up... proving a point or thinking she'd come back are manipulative moves which might indicate a lack of trust in the relationship, yet also an inability to let go of something which is making you upset...\nIt really sucks to feel this way, and I'm sure that anyone who has broken up with a few people has probably experienced this at one point or another. Just feel the pain for now - it will pass, and feeling pain is ok. Then, once the pain dies down a bit, examine what is going on with yourself... take care of yourself first. You probably knew what you were doing when you ended the relationship, even if not for the reasons you thought you had ended it for. Personal development is a great way to turn a crappy situation into a good experience.\nGood luck!
197025
It just takes time to move on. You need to let it go. I had the same problem once. I finaly got over him when I found someone else that I knew was better for me. But beware rebound relationsips don't work either. I'd say 5 months is long enough to linger over a relationship that was as short as yours. Find someone new and MOVE ON!!!
534449
I know this is going to be hard to hear.....LET HER GO!!!\n\nDon't try to plot any ill will against her that will only hold you back...if she has moved on with someone else then you need to take time and heal and move on...\n\nDon't hold a grudge, when you hold a grudge it is like drinking poison and waiting for her to die...you are just going to be killing yourself and driving yourself crazy..\n\nI am sorry that this has happened to, I hope it all works out for the best!
90188
You need to cy and let all your anger go. You should not keep it to your self. Cry for him now but in the furure not. He doesn't deserve you to be crying for him. If he din't tell you why you two broke up then he doesn't deserve you.
553022
If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
413098
You must have really liked him if you cant get over him when you were the one that dumped him. Think of a break up this way; you are one step closer to the one you are meant to be with. He can find someone that he can truly be happy with and you can find the love of your life.
126663
Letting go is hard. You need to let yourself heal before you date again because you're on the rebound. The girl that worries sounds like a sweetheart but you need to be honest with her and tell her that you're just not as ready as you thought you were for another relationship. As for getting over this girl, acceptance is the key and the first step toward recovery. I've been there, I know. You have to allow yourself to go through the grief stages, and yes, it's like grieving over a death because it is a death in a way. You'll got through many emotions but it is a necessary path that you must take. This girl does not deserve you and if you have to get mad and hate her, do that if it works for you as long as it doesn't harm anyone. Avoid all contact with her because for now, it's keeping you tied to her. Heal first then perhaps you can be friends. If you feel you need counseling, than get it. There is no shame in it. Another thing you can do is to work out at the gym. It helped me a lot and when you see your body starting to change for the better, you begin to feel better about yourself and more confident. You will get over her, sweetheart but it will take time and effort on your part. God speed and good luck. =)
579003
Your ex is your ex for a reason. Remember that. It sounds like you have a good relationship with this other guy, I think you need to let your ex go and forget about anything that might take you back to him. You are not being fair to either guy by running to the other when you have problems. Instead, get on yahoo answers to help solve your problems...lol! just kidding. But seriously, you need to move on with this new guy. You might feel things for your ex and that is natural because you have a past together...but it's just that, a past. Time to look to the future and move on. Good luck!
177914
Probably she got really hurt when you dumped her (girls are quite sensitive).  She's still asking about you because she still can't forget you and perhaps the feeling is still there though she realized now that her ex-bf is much better than you.
106789
Back when I was an bad boy before I decided to settle down, I would say I wasn't ready to commit. What this really ment was I was after someone else and when that didn't work out I'd exploit my ex by keeping in contact as a back up plan. You can give him a chance but at the first sign of uncertinty I'd toss him cause it will just be a cycle of heartache if you don't
163002
You broke it off 6 months ago.  You did the right thing.  Here's the deal - it's one thing if it were the other way around.  You should be asking why if he dumped you.  Since you dumped him, it's the other way around.  You left him on your terms, he still has things unresolved.  Don't waste your time trying, you might hurt yourself.
230770
You should both get over it or move on.\n\nThe past is gone, to argue about it is a waste of time and energy.
1132948
Well if you're concerned that you might be heartless, that automatically shows that you're not! \n\nSo either like everyone here is saying, you weren't really emotionally vested anyway, and you can shrug it off as an unfortunate experience...OR....you didn't allow yourself to deal with feeling whatever you were feeling at the time she broke it off (this wasn't a mutual decision? Then you might have some resentment or anger buried there) I'm only saying this because obviously SOMETHING about the breakup is bothering you...so just figure out what it is, deal with it and move on.
613185
That is pretty tough to deal with.  I had something similar when I dated a neighbor for a time.  The best thing to do is try to move on.  Get out there and meet some new people.  The worst thing you can do is dwell on the ended relationship, it will only make you feel like crap.
691651
wow.. im not the emotional sort, but i heard you crying while you wrote this! i feel for you, we all been there, you gotta CHANGE your out look and overview! it's over, he's cheated it wont get better, it cant, it will be tough, but you will get by it, find out your old girlfriends get back in touch with them, and start again.  company will help you through, and help you meet other people, dont give up look forward to the change ok?....ok?
360904
just forget about your ex. she broke up with her man and now wants you!! dude, you are worth more than that. Maybe you should give yourself a break from the gf drama and just date this girl or just be friends for now. Time is good for yourself right now cause it is obvious you still have feelings about your ex and this is not fair to you or the new chick. It is called rebound. Give yourself a break dude, even you deserve the best so take time to heal.
1015455
Wow, your situation sounds like mine!! My ex was older than me and he got over me way too soon. I wasn't ready to see him with his new girlfriend and i got upset. After being in a situation like yours, i think you should move on. It will be hard and the feeling of love with still be there, but i would forget him and just move on. You never know what is out there unless you go for it and forget about your past!! It sounds hard and you may not want to do it.. but seriously get over him and give yourself some time to heal before finding someone else. Don't just jump into a new relationship either. Really deal with the situation and make sure you're feelings are gone before getting with someone else!! Good luck :)