i need help, i want to buy something for myself but my mom won't let me! help me!?
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Why not wait and buy yourself something next week - see if she agrees to that.
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Ok first of all I do empathize with you. I understand that every child has to be given attention to especially to one as young as you. But maybe it was necessary to sacrifice something such as a gift for you for the necessity of the family right?\n\nLook on the bright side dude, maybe your parents will make it up to you in the future... Maybe they are saving money to give you an even better gift.. No one here would send you a gadget that would cost more than $100.\n\nJust be happy with what you have! I am 19 and i don't even have an iPod but i am quite satisfied with what i have and don't have. Yes i want an iPod but i don't post multiple questions asking people to just send you one. Probably the best thing to do would be to just save money to buy what you want. \n\nUnderstand the predicament that your parents are in, heck basic necessities are much more important than entertainment! Be glad that you already have an entertainment in the computer that you are using right now. I didn't get a birthday gift as well when i was a 13 year old and i was pretty fine with it, that's life!
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Hi.  I understand your feelings. I had to wear a bra when I was 11.  I remember having to go and buy one, and the bag opening at the wrong end and the bra falling out in the isle at the mall.  I was humiliated.  I am now 46, and I still remember it like yesterday.  I feel your uncomfortable feeling, as I have nieces that feel the same way.  Some girls your age are more daring with their bodies, and don't seem to be so discrete.  I would suggest that you possibly write your mother a nice note, explaining to her that your feel unsure how to approach this with her, but need her help and advise. I know she will understand.  In the meantime, if you need something in an emergency, there are thrift stores that sell bras for very little money, if you have a couple of dollars. Good luck sweetheart.
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Just give her the $200! I would have rather get $200 then get something that i may not be able to use. Or take her on a shopping Spree!
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Now is the time in your life when going to the mall with your friends is just naturally the thing to do.  She is sheltering you like a 10 year old and I wouldn't put up with it.  You can't get these years back after they're gone.  Before you know it, you'll be 18 and on your own with responsibility of having to work everyday to pay bills, unless you go to college.  I'm sure your mom means well, but when I was 14, I had the most fun of my entire life doing things with my friends.  I wish I could have those days back.  Go out and make some good memories that you can remember when you get old.  Sitting in the house and being a good girl gets boring....Go for it!...)(
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Thats really sweet of you to want to get her something on your own.\nMost drug stores have cards and flowers so that would be a sweet thoughtful way of saying I was thinking of you. Moms no matter how wealthy want to know their kids love and appriciate them. A well picked card with a personal note can mean more then diamonds! My kids are to young to shop (12 6 and 3) but they always make me a card and raid their candy bucket for my favorite candy and present it to me. Yea i know i bought the candy but its so sweet that they always pick out what i like and not what they wont eat :D
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Mothers are usually very unpicky at presents, but check in at what products shes using, what clothes brand she loves.\n-You might like to buy her a giftcard for the mall\n-Make something like an album of your memories together, growing up and happy times. You can decorate it so it looks all prettyful.\n-Buy a gift certificates for you and her(or alone) at the spa\nor a gift certificate to get manicures & pedicures together\n-You can always extend the subscription to her magazine or buy her a subscription on her favorite magazine\n-Also you can write her a letter on how much you appreciate her and slip it into one of the presents.\nOkay..I'm starting to sound like Mother's Day extravaganza, so I'll stop myself now. This doesn't sound Christmas-y..ah well...at least I tried.
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hmmm....everyone too including me have this problem, but mine is not serious adn my mom treat me very well. ur mom want the best of u, u should not be angry to her. She just worried about u. okay, this is my opinion.\n1. if u really want to go to the party even without her permission, then i suggest that u shouldn't tell her anything about it that means dont quarrel with her. tell her u want to go to school or friend house, or etc. dont wear pretty clothes but put them in ur bag so that she wont doubt of where u r going if u wear pretty clothe in front of her.\n2. ask for daddy permission politely. if yes, ask him to advised ur mom and talk to ur mom again that dad support u but politely even if she reject it again dont be rude, just be normal. if no, let it be.\n3. get suppport from ur grandpa, grandma, aunty, uncle and etc politely. example, grandma, do u support me to go parties? polite even they dont allow. if they support u, ask them to advise ur mom too. do the same way as 2.\n4. make ur mom happy. like study in the house, cooked for her, made a card for her even mother's day is over.\n\n   that;'s all. hope that help. and hope u got the right company otherwise i m sorry to help u. in my opinion, even if u she dont allow u, u should not go unless u really want to. for me family is more imprortant than friend. friend will hurt u whereas family wont hurt u very much. if u didnt go, ur friend will thought that u have pride and wont simply go out
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Get tickets for something to do together or for her and your father.  A play, a concert, a bike tour, a gym membership, an art exhibit, manicures and pedicures, an imax movie, etc.  She might have a lot of things or be very picky about her things, but she loves you and she would most likely be very touched that you got something for the both of you to do together.  If that's not your thing, think about a hobby she truly enjoys and perhaps get something to go with it.  For example, my mom knits, so one year I bought her some really beautiful wool online from a farm in Vermont and a pattern for a pretty sweater that I thought she would like.
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As a minor you do not own your clothes.  Your parents own them.  You do not have the right or the legal ability to enter into any contract, to buy or sell anything.
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Whenever I buy gifts, I buy things that I would want for myself, whether they be cheap or expensive.  What you're doing is fine, but if you're doing it 'coz you expect the same in return, that's wrong. Buy the gifts from the heart, not for show and don't expect the same in return. Not everyone is the same, but do your bit and don't worry about others. Pretty hard to do, but don't stoop as low as others, keep doing your bit....
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My mother has a boyfriend that I can't stand (he is pulling the - rushing to a widow's aid crap and taking all of her money)... I'll tell you know, he's not getting a thing for Christmas.  And if you feel like you have to get him something, then get a gift more for your mum and just say it's to them both.  Tell them you would have gotten more, but your penny pinching this year.  \n\nGood luck!
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Tell them to surprise you because if they give you money, you're going to turn around and spend it on your son or your bills. I am in the same situation. I am so wrapped up in my children and with paying my bills, I couldn't tell you for the life of me what I want. The best gifts are things you would never buy yourself. For me, those things are:\n\n  Journals, Book Sets, perfume, new sneakers, scrapbooking supplies, a night out in lieu of gift certificates to the movies or to dinner. They also make gift cards for like blockbuster and that would be nice for you and your boyfriend. \n  Other ideas are candle sets, bath sets, pajama sets, a certificate to the hairdresser. \n\n   Amazon.com has the best gifts to send too. I saw this retro candy gift set that actually looked like something I would want. Here is the link:
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What a cheek......If you buy what they have asked you to you will be setting the standard for the future!!\nBuy what you want to buy for your niece, and spend the amount you wish on it.\nSomeone needs to tell these parents that they are being a little presumptuous !!!
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OK to start out relationships shouldn't be transactional. On any holiday/birthday presents are not a requirement, and a demand of a present is in very bad taste no matter who is making the demand.\n\nYour situation is complicated by the fact that your mother helps you out a great deal but from your question you are helping her out too.\n\nThat said in a sense she is right about the meal because you both footed the bill, however that still doesn't give her the right to complain about no gift on the day.\n\nShe sounds like she is manipulating you.\n\nTo circumvent this situation, sit her down in as dispassionate a manner as you can manage explain that you resent being blackmailed. Then list the many way You help HER throughout the year. Then explain your finances and that a present (especially a large one) is going to be a real strain. Finally as a means of getting past this ask her if there is a particular thing that she really wants or needs so badly then offer to help her acquire it.\n\nBy the end she will most likely feel a fair amount of guilt, since she is so good at dishing it out she probably deserves it.\n\nHappy Mothers Day LOL
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$600 of clothes from Hollister is too much, in my opinion.  a sweet gesture would be to get her a shirt or an outfit from Hollister that she really liked... a $600 shopping spree would be her taking advantage of you.\n\nif you want to let her down gently, just say that you want to save the money to do a lot of special things with her, instead of just spending it all at once.  or if it's heading this way: you could tell her that you're saving up for something really special for her (like a ring or a trip).  but don't use that excuse if you're not really saving up for something special for her.\n\nor if you don't want to sugar coat things, tell her that $600 worth of Hollister clothes is a bit excessive to ask of you and that she can get a job where she can pay for it herself.  if she's making you feel bad about it... ask her if she wants you to struggle with paying your bills.\n\nthis sort of demand makes her sound like a manipulative gold-digger...
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Your jealous, fess up! You know that's what it is about. My mother has all of her jewelry (quite a substantial amount) going to my daughter, my daughter will receive them after she turns 18 or my mother passes which ever occurs last. My daughter then has the option to give family members pieces of that or not to. She put this in her will simply so that stupid argument's don't occur like the one your about to have. The ring is gone to someone else, get over it. Ask you mother to will a special piece to you or your daughter.