why do you  usally  hear that guys and girls can't be just friends?
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That's probably the best relationship question I've ever seen asked.\n\nAnd I don't know if I can give a good answer that's universal, and I don't think anyone can.\n\nBut... at the root of it all, is that a straight or bi-guy, and a straight or bi-girl will always have that hormonal thing going on between them. Pheromones in the air will always in some way impact any relationship (at least in person) between male and female (not sure if both are gay though... that might be the exception - where guys and girls can be just friends...).\n\nAnd socially/mentally I think even online there is some element of sexual tension invariably lurking in the background. At least when you *know* the gender of the person you're interacting with.\n\nOddly - I'm not sure which is worse - knowing, or guessing the gender of the person I'm interacting with.  I think many, maybe all of us make assumptions.\n\nLike I just realized I assume that you are a straight woman asking this. And that's ironic, as I started writing this up I wrote clinically - gender and orientation independent as it were... \n\nI think for me at least - there is a special element of love for my female friends that is very different from the relationships I have with my male friends. And to be clear, I'm a straight male - and that may significantly impact how I've responded. I don't know.\n\nBut again - great question - look forward to reading replies.\n\n-dh
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No.  Girls are capable of having male friends without expecting to fall in love in the future.  At first a girl might want to be friends with a male to explore the possibility of a future relationship, but you can tell right away her intentions.  If she's overly friendly (flirtatious) then she's attracted to you.  But if she starts to mention other guys and starts to treat you like "one of the girls" then you hit the friendship wall.  \n\nGuys, on the other hand, will only have friends that are girls with the hope that "someday" they will be in the right place at the right time (when the girl is vulnerable and falls right into his arms). \n\nThere are exceptions to the rule, but for the most part the above is true.\n\nMaybe you can give us more details so that we can better answer this question.  Is there a certain way a friend of yours is acting?
459085
guys have friends that are girls \nget over it,
919657
Are you crazy? If you both like each other why are you listening to your friends? Sure your friends mean well but they cant control you.
447369
Funny you asked this question.  This is a constant issue with me.  I have male friends that my boyfriend is a little jelous of but trust me, they could never replace him.  My bf has female friends that I'm not threatened by anymore, but there was a time.  As far as my boyfriend and I, I say that opposite sex friends are perfectly alright as long as the couple knows where to draw the line and the "friends" and couple know not to cross it.
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RIGHT HERE! I have ONE female friend. And because I have a boyfriend AND a job I have one male friend....my boyfriend. Girl its been like that for me since the seventh grade. Girls for whatever reason do not like me. I dont know why either. I'm the nicest person I know for real. I try to talk to females but they just dont like me for some reason. It drives me crazy!
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Yes. I have a male best friend. He is really cool. I have also got several other friends that are male. We are so close that we probably could never date, but even if we could i am not single. It is cool to have a guy best friend. They can give you a point of view sometimes that is way better than a female can. Even though females are good friends too, it is always good to have a male friend on the side to help you when she can't help out with your problems.
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this is not abt ur view on girls, its about whats actually real...every person is different from the other and so, every girl is different from other....u cant make a statement about all girls in general just coz u found someone that way....girls might be emotional but they're definetely not looking for a new adventure wid new people every second in their life...ofcourse u meet new people in life and u can never avoid that and that doesnt mean u forget ur old frends...frendship is a bond that connects two people deeply and its not a easy one to break and girls are definetely not that heartless to disconnect one of their most important bonds in life.... there are sometimes though wen u have to let a person leave whether out of necessity or will and that situation is unavoidable coz thats the time wen no1 has a choice....remember that its a girl who lives wid a guy forever and ofcourse, vice-versa and u see it all around the world coz if girls are not sticky, u would probably see everyone getting divorced after theyre married....friendship is the same...its a bond that cannot be broken....
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I believe men can't be friends with women.  Most situations, men just want more.  Women are the ones that stop or allow it.  It's just better that married men stay with their wives and ignore the single person.
716280
Oh yeah. That guy absolutely is head over heels for the girl normally. Too bad he's in the friend zone. I pity those guys more than any other man on the planet since they are so incredibly close to what they want and they will never get it. Its kind of like a homeless person that owns an unbreakable box with $1000 in it. The person wants that money more than anything, but they have no way to get to it. The plight of the "male friend" is truly one of the saddest in the history of humankind.\n\nWhich is why I don't make female friends anymore.
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I know in the movie When Harry Met Sally the whole theme is that men and women can't be friends.  I think it's something everyone thinks deep down because men seem to be way more interested in sex than in meaningful friendships.  I don't believe this.\n\nYes, a friendship can blossom into something much more, but it's also quite possible for men and women to just be friends.  I have had several male friends, and while at some point they'll admit they've considered me for dating, they enjoy just being my friend. If you have enough in common and  don't flirt (and give eachother the wrong impression) it should work out fine!\n\nYou just need to know the boundaries and the difference between friend and lover.
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its not that its impossible but in some cases the male friend may have been somebody that u have already dated or had sex with and if you meet a new a guy natuarally he would feel uncomfortable for negative about him being around u, because just females they dont like other females and as far as guys they dont like other guys especially if its a relationship involved
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Yes they can, if they don't fancy each other. I've had lots of male friends that I haven't fancied for a second.
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i have more girl friends than anything...for me, its always been like that...\n\nive had guy friends, but maybe like two, at the most...
179773
CAN'T BE JUST FRIENDS WITH A GUY.  YOU MIGHT CAN BUT THE FIRST CHANCE THE GUY GETS HE'LL JUMP YOUR BONES.
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Guys are not like girls here, we do not send out little hints that we like a girl. Pretty much if you are a girl and we talk to you when we don't have to that means you have a shot. \n\nAlso guys don't collect female friends like girls do with guys. The phrase "I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship" is usually only said by girls. Not to say that we don't enjoy having female friends (my best friend in the world is a girl) but like Chris Rock said "I have some female friends but they are all by accident, it was some girl I was trying to date and I messed up and suddenly I was in the friend zone." My point being if a guy is being friendly to you it isn't because he wants to be your friend per se.\n\nIn short guys only talk to girls to get something from them, either a date or notes or something. If a guy you like comes up to talk to you just to talk and he doesn't ask for anything you have a shot
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Because some guys are shy about things like that. Or some of them feel that the girl should tell the guy they like them.