How can I convince my boyfriend to have a baby?
915643
Easy, it marries it, later is alone to convince. Bye and good luck.
758376
I am married to a man like this.  They live in a dream world.  Because they don't take responsibility for themselves they remain happy-go-lucky kids, which unfortunately gives them a certain charm.\n\nSit down with him.  Show him the bills.  Show him your paycheck.  Tell him you are struggling- which as a single mother I am sure you are.  Ask him for his help.  Then see if he steps up to the plate.\n\nYou don't need to give him any ultimatums.  But in your own mind you might say something like- if he doesn't have a job by the new year- he's out.  Then follow through.  When that time comes remind him of the conversation you had about the bills, of his promises if he made any- and he probably will, and tell him you love him but that you cannot afford another child right now.  You might tell him that if he gets and holds a job for at least 6 months you'll talk to him again.\n\nYou need to think about the example you are setting your children.  If they are girls you don't want them to wind up supporting some guy.  If they are boys you don't want them to think they can find a woman with a big heart and a full wallet.\n\nBe strong.  Be firm.  And tell me how to take my own advice.
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Tell Him you only had sex with the only men you love, tell him you are pregnant and you will  keep the baby, he will probably not merry you and that's okay because you don't love him anyway, but when you tell him make sure there are people around you don't want to get hurt.\n\nPS I was going for immacul......conception but i don't think is gonna fly
537067
Don't do it. Respect your husband's wishes. If you try to trick him, although he will love the child, he will know that you tricked him and he will NEVER forgive you or trust you again. Indeed, he may well go off and have a vasectomy if you do this, which will mean no more children after that first one - do you want that? Think very long and hard before taking this step because it will almost certainly backfire on you.\n\nIt makes no difference if you get pregnant now or 6 months from now - there will still be a baby at the end of it. He is not saying absolutely no babies. He is saying no babies for the next few months. If you only married recently or you are both young, I can understand why he wants to wait. \n\nTry to still your impatience. Instead, use the time to prepare your body for pregnancy. Eat well. Exercise and lose weight if you need to. Get yourself onto a really good vitamin programme so that when your husband is ready for a child, you maximise your chances of conceiving and delivering a healthy child. Most of all, enjoy the time the two of you get to spend together without a child because once it comes, you will get NO PEACE for the next 20 years.
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Me and my girl had that same conversation. \n\nWe simply decided that we were to selfish to have kids right now.\n\nWe both work full time jobs, love to sleep in, and we love spending time to our selves. We decided that we have our whole life to have kids, but barley even got a chance to enjoy our lives together. I didn't want to struggle with my kid. I want to have a house and give my kid all that it may need, and right now I'm still working on that. \n\nAsk him if he wants to make you happy, and if so waiting a few years will not hurt anybody and it will give you time to learn each other! Your smart to be cautious!
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Cassie, you guys are being very careful and he needs to understand that the chances are of you becoming pregnant while taking all these precautions are slim to none. Yeah, nothing is ever full proof when it comes to preventing pregnancy, except, of course, if one person has been diagnosed as being sterile, but you guys are being very responsible and safe. Try to explain to him that he is taking the fun and desire out of it for both if you guys with his paranoia. Get him some reading material on the issue and see if you can educate him further on this subject. He obviously enjoys sex and he should want it to be a fun, intense, romantic and joyful experience for both of you. If he is having panic attacks and constantly worrying about this it has got to put a damper on it for you as well as him. Maybe he does need to speak to a doctor about this. If he is having true panic attacks maybe he needs some medication for anxiety. I wish you the best of luck with this and I think it is a problem that can be overcome. Good luck.
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At first I was going to answer that you can never convince him, but then I remembered I was the same exact way.  We waited and waited for the right time.  Guess what, the right time never comes.  There is always an excuse.  If it was clearly a stated goal of the marriage, it is time to stop waiting and get on with it.  Put your foot down.  Now, here are a few things to convince him.  \n\n1)  It took us over a year for my wife to get prego.  \n\n2)  Once you have the kid your life stops as you know it.  It takes years and years before you can start living as adults again.  The longer you wait to have kids, the older you are when you can start having fun again.  People without kids never realize this.  You have years of diapers, puke, illness, and finding a sitter.  If we had started earlier, we'd be almost free by now.  Draw him a time line, does he want to be 40 and free from kids or 50?
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They say that if people waited til they could really afford it before they had a baby, no one would have any children, ever.\n\nHowever, 24 is very VERY young. Other people having children around you should not influence your decision.  The guy you're dating, although you don't say much about him, has alot of children already that he presumably doesn't live with. Perhaps not the best support,having a baby is hard work.\nAsk yourself\nWill you live with your partner for 18 years or more?\nIs he a good father/do you want him to be the father of your children?\nCan you be completely selfless?\nCan you give up your life as you know it?\nCan you give a child the very best start in life?\n\nIf you can answer yes to those questions you are ready. If not, or if you just want a dolly that will call you momma, you're really not.
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REMIND HIM THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER HIS CHILD.... YOU ARE AN ADULT AND AS AN ADULT YOU ARE ABLE TO MAKE LIFE DECISIONS ON YOUR OWN .....TELL HIM THAT HE RAISED YOU WELL THOUGH.... THIS IS YOUR DECISION YOU LOVE HIM  BUT THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOU NOW.... ALSO GIVE AN EXAMPLE LIKE MY RELIGION IS LIKE MARRIAGE YOU WOULD NOT WANT SOME ONE TO CHOOSE YOUR HUSBAND&#92;WIFE FOR YOU WHY WOULD YOU WANT SOMEONE TO PICK YOUR RELIGION.... SAME THING.... GOOD LUCK..... BE BLESSED
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Marriage should not be the result of a child. It should only reflect both your love between you 2. If you dont feel up to marriage or you have discussed and you beleive it wont work, then dont go ahead with it.\n\nKeeping the child is also the correct thing to do. If you have not told your boyfriend about it, then please do as that will sort out a lot of things before anything bad happens. Nothing "Should" come "First". It happened and you have to look ahead not backwards.\n\nTo sum up, if you trully beleive that you 2 are so much in love and have talked it over, then go ahead to marry. If not, then discussing ways to raise the child is the right thing to do. Living together (even if not married) is also another option. Just as long as the child has both a mother and a father.\n\nHope this helped you;)
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you are stuck in a really seriose situation, what ever you do make sure you dont do abortion, because then you would just kill your own baby!!!!my advise is to tell your boyfriend the trueth, he is not going to like it but the sooner you tell him the easier it will be, if you wait you are going deeper into the forest and chooping down more wood. that means that you are making more problems for yourself.
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there is no way anybody here can answer that for you, the fact that you feel the need to ask is not a good sign though.  make sure you can take care of yourself and your baby on your own in case it doesn't though, its the best way to protect yourself against the possibility that it won't and you are now responsible for another life.  why are you having a child with someone you have so many doubts about?
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You do not need Guy advice, you need life advice!\n\nYou are Catholic so you can't have an abortion, but you can sex your boyfriend?\n\nRaise the kid as best you can with your parents and families help.\n\nDump that guy for good.  and probably don't ever see him again, he is abusive and dangerous. \n\nQuit haveing sex, and getting preggers when you can't support yourself.\n\nGet a education and&#92;or a decent job.\n\nHave some respect for yourself when looking for a boyfriend.  He should care for you and treat you with respect.  In the loving relationship above all else actions speak louder than words.
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Just because he wants to be with his baby doesn't mean he wants to be with the Mother.  You should first determine what it is that he really wants before you make a decision.\n\n*If he only wants the baby, visitaion rights can be obtained.
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Hi,  you just need to tell your guy you love him, and he is the one for you.  Presuming you haven't set a date for the big day then suggest a day but also take him somewhere special that you both like and spoil him like no other day and then make passionate love in a hotel or something - be original and spontaneous and he will be a happy bunny but if decide to make love then ensure he has contraception if not sure about babies etc.
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no obortion thats for one tell her to have her baby you never know when you are leaving. a baby would leave your essence and it would be the more mature thing to do. there are all types of places to help you raise your baby. take his ass to child support court take his money women have been able to raise kids on there own for the longest and this is coming from a man so its true to talk more \n\nroosie60000@yahoo.com have a lot of fun encouraging her through her pregnancy ok much love from yours truly roosie
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#1.  Keep the baby.\n#2. Talk to your parents.\n#3. Stay in school.\n\nKeep in mind that if the father isn't around, that doesn't mean that the baby won't grow up properly.  If he doesn't stay, then just rely on your parents or other support groups to help you out.\n\nFocus on your baby, include your education, include your family life, and go from there :)\n\nI wish you would have waited till you were much older, but as you didn't, your responsibility is now to the baby :)