My husband says he is going to put yet another in intensive care ,,,how do I stop him?
922039
tie his hands behind his back!!  or tell him you will divorce him if he does!!
672989
all you can do is persist that he goes for a check up. you cant make him go but tell him how much you love him and this would ease both your minds that all is well.
281918
Better take a doctors advise on this - any suggestion from here which doesnt suit him will send him back to the hospital which I am sure you would not want.\n\nGod bless you!
426051
Tell your husband that next time he goes to the doctor you'd like to go too. Tell him that you want to ask the doctor if an adjustment in his medications would help. If not, what does the doctor suggest you do. Good luck.
68695
I don't have any great advice unfortunately but please keep pursuing it. If I were you I would definetly report it to his medical association. \n\nI'm really sorry you are going through this. Hope someone comes along with a good answer for you.
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I know it is not what you want to hear, but what you need to do is tell this  man that unless he gets off his butt and goes for help, you are dumping him.  This situation has no future whatever if he wont talk about it, and is not willing to help himself by seeking medical advice.   While you are trying to build his self esteem, you are losing your own, and I think you are a very sweet, gentle and caring person to have let this go on for so long.  I'm afraid you just have to be strong, or your life will pass you by.  I know he can't help his condition, but he can't be bothered to make it better, so he just doesn't care enough about you, otherwise he would get treatment.  He is just wallowing in self-pity, like all men do, and really hon, you deserve a lot better than this man. It isn't easy, I know, but I think you knew the answer before you asked the question; you can't help someone who doesn't want help., and this man is just enjoying being babied....move on, and very good luck to you.
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Considering the additional information that you have provided, I do think you have reason to be concerned.  Maybe you could help him find another doctor or therapist.  You may want to cinsider joint counseling as well.
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Unfortunately, I don't think you can stop him.  My wife has bi-polar mood disorder and when she is at her worst she will lie beyond belief.  When confronted she sticks to the story and demands proof.  Even when confronted with the facts and proof she either sticks to her story or tries to twist the facts to fit her situation.\n\nAs I said, I know she has a mental condition and I understand sometimes that affects it.  However, I have found out that very fortuantely we can't do much about liers.  Instead, either learn to live with it, work around it, or move on.
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Lisa, this is a truly selfless act of generosity, but you cannot help this individual. He has got to have professional help. If he id denying professional help then he is not truly ready to kick the habit. He needs other medications besides the ones you listed above. All of those are not gonna help him with the intense withdrawals he is going to experience. All those meds he is on are gonna do is keep him sedated and groggy. I have no addictions, but I was given everything you listed above for insomnia. Now, insomnia and heroin withdrawals are a whole heck of alot different. Has he ever tried to get on methadone therapy? I am frightened that you are in a situation that is gonna backfire on you. If his last "fix" was this morning he has not even started experiencing the absolute worst yet. You called him an aquaintance. Right? Well, you need to remove yourself from being SO involved in the scenario. Really, for your safety. I have never experienced knowing anyone with a  heroin addiction, but I have been close to friends and family who have had alcoholism, pill addiction......and I'd never put me, my family or my belongings at risk again, especially when there are free or low cost clinics available to these people. If this man decides to go get another fix he is going to, no matter what you say. If he doesn't have money he will steal whatever he can from you. It doesn't matter how serious he is about quitting. When the wothdrawals and pain start to set in he is going to want that feeling to end and the only way it is going to end is another fix. If you truly want to help then talk him into going for professional help. Get yourself out of the situation. It is seriously so nice and thoughtful of you to want to help this man, but this addiction is bigger than anything you, me or most people could even fathom. This is going to totally disrupt your entire life if you do not get him out of your house. Love yourself. Don't put yourself in the position to get hurt and that is exactly what you are doing if you allow this "aquaintance" to stay with you. Remember this, too: an addict will lie to anyone and tell you exactly what you want to hear and turn right around and rob and steal you blind. The drugs have ripped away any conscience that these users once had. God bless you for trying, but this is way bigger than you are.
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He sounds like a glutton for punishment! I doubt he will listen to anything you have to say, but for your own sanity get it off your chest and let him know what a ridiculous decision this is and that his wife needs therapy, if she refuses to get it and he refuses to make her get it, then there is nothing anyone can do about it.
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If he won't continue to see doctors and take medicine on a regular basis there is nothing to be done.  If he loves you he will do everything possible to deal with this issue.  If he won't then you really have no choice but to leave him if you really want to have a life of your own.
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I agree with the "Other George W" that your can leave if you think you must. Personally, I think you should.\nYou seem worried that leaving him because he is morbidly obese somehow makes you a bad person. You are not. If he tried to loose weight (seriously and honestly), then you might want to give him another chance. But from your description he doesn't give a damn. What does this tell you about him? You are willing to accomodate and help him, but he is utterly unwilling to do the same for you. \nNow just imagine he were a drug addict (he seems to be a food addict): Do you believe anyone would think you shold stay with him no matter what even though he is unwilling to work on his addiction? If he won't help himself, you cannot either. \nBy the way, your fear of getting a call from hospital about him is well-founded, and it could be anything - breathing, heart attack or stroke. He is highest risk. \nPlease, take care of yourself as well - he is not the only one who deserves someone caring for him. Good luck!
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I agree with one of the other answers.  Since he doesn't like you asking your male friend for help, then call your husband.  When the bike seat comes off, call him at work.  When the sink clogs, wake him up.  When the lightbulb blows, make him come home.  I'm not saying it to be mean, but it seems that he wants to do everything.  Let him.  As for the workmen wanting you to be home when they come by, that's normal and your husband knows it.  But when they call, call your husband and tell him you need him to come home to sit with you while they work.  Either he'll love it, or hate it.  But in the end, it's what he's asking for.  P.S. Be careful.  I don't know your situation, but I've known similar situations between husbands and wives that have gotten dangerous.  At the first sign of an out of control temper, STOP!!!!  And Reevaluate the relationship.
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Get pissed off and fuck his brains out, then do not call or talk to him for a while.  If he knows whats good for him, which is only you, he will stay with you and drop the other one.
320213
You are obviously looking for the best advice possible, so please if you can do anything to rectify this situation then do it and as soon as possible. I am so proud of you even though I dont know you, for recognising that this man is in difficulty, please go to someone who can help him, go to his or indeed your Dr. and seek immediate advice. This is wrong, you know it I know it and I am sure every other user of this site will see it for what it is.  It is abuse of the worst kind.  I have a son with special needs, and this is my worst nightmare. I applaud your concern, now please get help for him....
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I would report it to the authority's as soon as possible before he gets out and then and also to the disease control center.It is the same as killing someone if it gets out off control. if he gets away with it he will pass it one to someone else. how can someone that does this kind of thing even live with themselves. I sure would persue this and good luck to you and God Bless.
473868
Oh boy...you need to just leave him. He's playing mind games with you so you won't leave life is way too short to stay in a relationship out of pity and guilt. If you make the first step in leaving him maybe he will clue in that you are serious.Leave him a letter explaining why you have left as well as some Alcoholics Anonymous pamphlets maybe he will clue in and get help and if you feel like things could be worked out seek counselling alone as well as with him. I have a Friend who went through a similar situation and she finally left the guy and he used to say he'd kill himself if she left...well she left and he's still alive.He too has a major drinking problem but won't admit to it. It's really sad, I think, that anyone would chose booze over their spouse.try your best to get him help but don't do all the footwork for him make him see that he's hurting you and leave asap.