When should I meet my ex-husband's new girlfriend?
920471
Why should you meet your ex-husbands girlfriend?  For exactly the reason you noted -- she is involved with your very young son.  By the way, when you start to date, your ex should meet your men friends when dating turns in to a relationship.\n\nOpen communication and working together will only benefit your  child now and in the future.
639216
just make sure that your new bf doesn't get hurt physically by your ex. there's nothing you can do, unless he tries to hurt him.
1099748
If you're happy with the new bf (and not just because he buys you things), then tell the ex, sorry bout your luck.  Tell him you actually shuold thank him, because if he hadn't left you you never would have met this guy.  And you are happy, and hope he can find someone to be as happy with.
994766
Well, I can't speak from the perspective of a mother dealing with an ex's new spouse.  But I did have a stepmother, and our relationship was more like a friendship than mother-daughter.  Personally I preferred it that way.  I was a teenager when my dad married her, and it would have been inappropriate for her to try to be my "new mom".  I would suspect the same is true of your children, who are old enough to engage in friendships with adults.  If you feel your ex's new wife is overstepping her bounds, you should set the boundaries.  Ideally with your ex, his wife, and you in a meeting together to agree on each other's roles.  Let her know what you do and do not consider appropriate in her relationship with your children.  She should respect your decisions with regard to the children. As to a relationship between you and her, it would be ideal if you two could be some kind of "friends" but it doesn't always work out that way.  If she ignores you, so be it--as long as she abides by your ground rules.  She may simply be trying too hard to win the friendship of your daughter, but you would be the better judge of that than I.  I wish you the best of luck--it's never easy when spouses remarry.
1058119
Go to the BBQ and let your daughter meet her uncle and half siblings. You and your daughter are the invited guests and it doesn't matter why your ex won't be there although I wouldn't be a bit surprised if your ex's brother deliberately did not invite him to keep the peace with you. Give it a chance and you and the ex's family can agree to not disgree. No matter what has happened between you and the ex, your daughter is still a part of that family's flesh and blood.
629047
Besides stalking him, you could bring it to his attention he's being distant. On the other hand, its been two months, it may be nothing and you're being a bit to needy, especially in light of his old g/f coming back.
1056925
do it when you feel ready, there is no set time limit as to when is a good time or not, it's up to you.  I split with my ex husband in the September of 2003 and was dating by Christmas as I met the love of my life, it was not ideal timing as I still had a lot to sort out but I was presented with the man of my dreams so could not really say no, if I could have met him 6 months later it would have been better timing.  However, everyone warned us it would not last and we are still together so how wrong were those people??  You do it when you are ready girl, and good luck to you!
382719
Meet her. Then decide.
528983
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!
1083040
I dont think that you should be mad. All that happened was he went to his ex-wife home to see his son. She is his EX wife, EX being the emphasis. He cooked them dinner becuase he doesnt get to make his son food that often, he spilt food down his clothing she washed them for him. I think that you need to trust him. The base of all relationships is trust. To me it seems inncoent, even rather sweet of him. Remember he didnt hide this meeting from you.... therefore ther probadly isn't anything more to it.
964660
What I would do,  -and what I think you should do-, is take it very slow with the new girl involved. Honestly, it probably wasn't the best idea for you to get involved with her, but I wouldn't say to completely break it off now - that isn't realistic, and it would just hurt her because she would get your feelings twisted. \nYou have baggage. You can't make genuine transitions from person to person while carrying baggage; it'll hinder you. You'll always carry what was left from the old relationship into the new one, so forth, and so forth, and it isn't fair to the present person involved that your own issues are unsolved. It isn't a problem that you still think of your ex; it's actually very normal. You've completed an important step by acknowledging that your last relationship couldn't work, so now just prove to yourself why you deserve to move on. \nEver heard the song 'Bag Lady' by Erykah Badu?......that one goes out to you, lol.... Good Luck and God Bless.
74242
I had this same situation. Only now she and I are both divorced. Your fiendship is important. I can't tell you how to let him know but I can tell you that you should. I have wasted a lot of time not telling her how I feel and the fear that someone else will come along and she will be gone again is painful. Don't let him slip away. When the time is right tell him.\nWe never know about tomorrow and today is passing by.
193787
Be thankful.  He is doing what is right by his new girlfriend by not talking to you.  Plus now that he isn't talking to you, you can move on with your life and find a new love instead of talking to your ex all the time.
583657
Often when a relationship is over the rose colored glasses come on and we only remember the best times. If this relationship is truly over with no chance for reconciliation do this; Think of all the things that annoyed you about the person, or the pet peeves you couldn't stand. Trust me, no one is perfect so dig down deep and write all those uglies down and keep them close by. When the ex creeps into your mind read those things about them and remember. You may always have a special place in your heart for them, but it doesn't mean you can not or should not MOVE on! Trust me, my son's father I thought I would not be able to BREATHE without him but I wrote down all the ugly things and never forgot them. We are now platonic friends, he is married and so am I and we will always be connected because of our son but I like the way it has all played out and honestly, If i could get back with him I Wouldn't. Good Luck. "Time Heals all wounds."
521422
personally i would say no, you hardly know him after 3 months, trust me i speak from personal experience (yes i did end up divorced) you will still be in the infatuation stage of your relationship, wait a year or two then think about it for a while but rely on your own instincts not on anyone elses opinion. It is you that will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life (hopefully). Just for the record I have been married to my second wife for six years and we have two great kids and no regrets!
445092
You are going to be fine if you and your ex are on good terms.  Don't lose any sleep about it.  Dress nicely and bring a book and a snack because there will be a looooong wait.  But don't be afraid to say something if you feel something isn't quite right or fair.
546842
Be a friend first! Let her heal from the bad marriage, it could take awhile, so be patient. It takes an INCREDIBLE man to get with a woman who's been hurt and now she's somewhat bitter. Dude, you'll have to really want this woman! Expect her to lash out quite a bit, and constantly compare you to the ex, also it will take quite some time before she trusts you not to hurt her. There are LOTS of women like this (I'm one of them), and every worthless piece of shit "player" that you know creates more women like this everyday, makes it that much harder for the nice guys (if there's any left.) Good Luck!