Nice guys or assholes?
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Please, please, please do not go back to your ex that cheated on you, he will probably do it again.\n\nI don't think you need to feel as though you must date this other guy either. Why not just be friends for a while and if the relationship blossoms into something more, then great. If not, there is someone else destined to be the love of you life.\n\nI was always told that the best relationships are created from those that you did not expect. When I first met my husband, I thought he was the ugliest man on Earth, but we became friends. Then slowly, we dated and one month became three, three became, one year and one year has now become six. And over the years, I have become more and more attracted to him.\n\nThere is someone out there for you, maybe you'll meet him tomorrow or in three years. Or maybe you already know him and just don't know how attracted to him you are yet.
1167403
FYI some girls really like nice guys...I know I do. So don't give up hope NICE GUYS!
924846
the thing is to not go for the loud outgoing people, they usually like to think they're great and enjoying bragging about it. the best type of people hang back and if you don't look you won't find them. the nice guys are just out there waiting to be found, get talking to everyone you can find and you will soon discover one!
631852
no some guys are just genuinely nice. i do favors for any friend, male or female. just because a guy is nice to you it doesnt always mean he wants sex.
112265
What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him. \n\nNice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible, when the so often the kind of woman that gets attracted to them is the lowest form of life... \n\nSelf-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure. \n\nNice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date". \n\nThey are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be -- not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them. \n\nThey cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him. \n\nNice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one. \n\nNice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of comprimising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner. \n\nNice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do." Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here." \n\nThe nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of
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OK girl well for me a nice guy is---\n\n*simple\n*friendly\n*understanding\n*loving\n*not on the mood of jealous\n*he is always on time ( i mean if he will say he will be at that time he is there)\n*carring\n* always a smile\n* most of all GOD FEAR\n\n\nwell even if I'm married if i giving me a chance to choose or change my husband that personalities i want to a man...  :-)
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Happened to a friend of mine.  That is why it is so important to get to know someone before judging them.  Some of the handsomest guys are the nastiest people you could know...just as some of the plain ones are the best.  (Same goes for girls but we are talking guys here.  Often those that are very attractive have lousy personalities, are self-centered and think they are "all that" but are usually the worst people you can know.)\n\nGive him a chance...you might find out that, despite the fact you are not drawn to his physical appearance, he is the nicest guy you ever met.  Stranger things have happened...
553088
it is all of our jobs to rid the gene pool of bad people.  please do your part and pick guys that treat you and their fellow man well.  if someone is treating you like waste material......flush them down the toilet (sorry do do remark got me going).
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Thats because the nice guys put too much out there...but in the end they always get what they want. Because over all a female is going to remember how she f@cked up her relationship with a nice guy to f@ck with an A$$hole.
908523
Thats what turns some guys into bad boys..\nThe nice guys get tired of the women taking their baggage out on them and become assholes.
56500
it really depends on the guy - what kind of a person is he, is he nice, est.\nIf he is OK - Of course!
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Do you  have a personality? I'm not trying to be an ass but my girl friend just went out with some guy who is super super nice but she said he just had no personality. No spunk. He wasn't funny, he wasn't sarcastic, he wasn't artsy, he wasn't into music, he wasn't really passionate about anything. But he was nice. What the ladies love is a funny guy, or a guy who really loves something. Animals, art, music, nature, sports...whatever. And of course it's always important to be clean and presentable. A nice guy will never win if he's got bad hygiene or smells bad. Smell good! Be talkative. Be a little more than nice. Be passionate. Don't be creepy and nothing but complimentary, that's like you're a girl's gay best friend. Just be presentable.
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YES!!!  I am one of them and most of my friends are!  I think nice people can be hard to find but if you look and you're nice too, you can find them!  : )  Being nice is the only way to be...I have bad days but still try to be nice!
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As a nice guy myself, I can assure you that women don't want nice guys.\n\nHowever, since you cook, clean and do laundry, I'll let you move in.  Just don't expect me to put out.
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I think a lot (not all) females enjoy the bad boy look but would prefer a nice guy. But that nice guy also has to be able to stand up for what he believes in. Basically not be a push over
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I am totally on the same page!  I'm so tired of jerks.  Met a guy the other day, hot, seemed real nice.  He got my number, seemed real attentive.  Then he disappeared.  A girl was dancing like a stripper and he was all up in that!  Jerk.  \nI think the nice ones are too shy or already taken.
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There are good and honest single guys out there....but sometimes they hide because "nice guys" always finish last so why put yourself out there. Take a look at my 360 page if you would like. Send me a msg. I know a couple good and nice guys.