should i still hang out with my ex boy friends if he got caught with drugs.. sohuld i be associated with him?
922117
No!!!! Absolutely not! You don't want to be arrested with him when he is carrying one day, and you don't know he has it. The cops won't listen and don't want to hear it. As far as they know your his crack whore. Disassociate yourself from him immediately!
190121
There's no hard-and-fast rule.  The consensus seems to be that it's not a good idea because of the harm it may cause your ex and the awkwardness it may create in the new relationship.  However, if your ex is out of the picture, and it's unlikely you'll see him again, and his status as your ex doesn't pollute the current relationship, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't explore it.  If it's inevitable that he'll find out, and you've been with him for a long time, you should wait a while before pursuing his friend, and you also should consider letting him know your intentions.
354775
honestly i think its too early for a friendship...because of the fact that you still arent over him and obviously not ready to TRUELY handle it as a friendship w/o thinking of the past. and him being a dickweeeeeed.\n\n\nlol weeeeeeeeed.\n\n\nwrong word to elongate...i dont care\ni dont smoke weed...so i can if i want\n\ni love you!
517714
Do it now while you're still young enough to "start" over.  If he hasn't changed now, he never will, even if he quit the drugs.  Drug users are self centered and blame the world for their problems.  Get out now.
919020
what your friend did to you was horrible. I think it's really up to you what you want to do from here- do you want to confront them and have it all out, or would you rather just get away from the situation before it consumes you? Either way, your friend doesn't deserve to be your friend anymore so i would forget about her and move on, clearly she's a pretty low person for wanting your ex.
273355
If you're worried about how the ex-boyfriend will feel the key word to remember is EX. If he is really your friend he would want you to be happy.
638594
now..contrary to popular opinion...i think you did him a backhanded favor...\n\nby that i mean..you screwed him over now...but he'll be glad that you did later...\n\nbasically..you need to confront HIM...with these things..not other people..that way he knows how you feel..\n\nI think that you wanted to be responsible...you wanted to help..but you did it the wrong way.  You should feel bad that he is in the position that he is..since he is young and he looks up to you...you need to work with him and ask him how many of his friends smoke weed...and then tell him how many of YOUR friends smoke weed...so he can get the idea that this weed thing is overrated..at least...till he is 18 and can decide for himself...you don't have to lie..you just need to give him the reasons that you DON'T smoke weed and hope that those reasons are enough to convince him that weed may make him popular today...and it may kill him in the future...
310224
you need to leave. whether you stay gone or not, he needs to understand it's you or the drugs. it's hard, but hold your head & just know that you will get through this.
874113
It sounds like your acquaintance is having trouble figuring out who is he (this used to be called "finding yourself" once upon a time). As he explores different ways of looking at the world and at himself via the drugs, he's also exploring different ways of being. Could be that he'd benefit from some counseling, but that's up to him if he wants to really delve into his own psyche or if he'd rather just abuse his body to the point where he no longer cares who he is. I believe that most people have the capacity to be bisexual, and there's nothing bad about that. However, making advances on friends he knows to be straight indicates he's having problems with judgment (also evidenced by the drug use). So, the drugs per se are a symptom of what's going on with him, not the cause. They're just allowing him a facade to hide behind as he expresses his own inner feelings. I realize it's not your place to intervene, but the drugs are most likely going to destroy him; hopefully he won't take anyone else down with him.
480600
Don't know, but it can't be good. Got you in trouble once, and you get busted again? Time to leave the drugs alone for a while, don't you think? I hope not for your sake, but this time you just might have time to think it over.
541339
I guess u can't. bcuz, the little things that girls/guys do means something to the other person alot. Would u forgive  him,if he did that w/ur friend? hey, cheer up, if he comes back, i hope you learned ur lesson and if not, move on. Cuz you can't let this bug you for the rest of ur life. plus, ur just gonna feel depress all the time. Hope everything works out! :)
145228
If you consider yourself a true friend to them, you definitely need to discuss it.  Depending on what the drug of their choice is, you might want to be armed with some facts about the dangers and consequences of that drug.  Stress that you care about them and don't want to see them continuing down the wrong path!!
687650
Sounds like a great friend. Don't rush things, it's better to have a great friend than an ex-boyfriend. If he decides to change his way of thinking and date friends, I'm sure you will be the one he comes to. but for now just be happy you can spend time with him.
267367
Find new friends. If you can't do the obvios thing and just go ask the police you are line to be where he is. Stop the drugs, work hard, etc. because you will realize this later. But I sound preachy. You will someday know what I say is true.
530054
Awww, that sucks.  Are there other groups of people that you could hang out with, possibly people who are not criminals?  People who worry about their 'friends' being 'narcs' are not the kind of people you'll find true friendship with. My younger brother was into drugs, and when he stopped, his 'friends' broke off contact with him. He now has real friends and is much happier. Are there any clubs you could join? A gym where you could meet different people? How about right here online? Of you met people outside of your town, you could build up a group of friends for when you finally get out of there.  You WILL be happy again, you're just going through a rough time. Things will get better, just hang in there! : )
760759
Wow that is a rather awful situation to be in. \n\nAs a Youth worker/carer I feel so bad for you. I am constantly watching what I do, how I do it, and what I say to people. I mostly work with young people with disabilities.\n\nObviously you have  pleaded your innocence, to the police. Sadly they may not believe you. But you have a chance if your partner is known to them.\n\nSeek advice from a lawyer. As they will assist you along with the whole process. I would assume that as you have had no previous record, you may get a huge fine, and community service. But given the type of drug "you had in possession" and the Judges stance on drugs, can play a big part in the out come. So lawyer up. \n\nAs for your partner, give him the ultimatum fess up, or he is so dumped (hash, but if the drugs was really is his, and he is any sort of man, he'd fess real quick). If you stay with him, the next lot of drugs, he passes on to you, could see you in jail.\n\nAs for your studies, talk to the co-coordinator of Youth services, where your studying, and tell them straight up, what has happened, and ask them for their opinion, about your chances as a Youth worker, with a drug possession record against you.\n\nGood luck!
326054
Well, if your ex cheated on you, then it shouldn't matter who you date. Even if it is his friend. Hard part about that, is you won't be able to hang out with him when he makes plans with your ex. So there will be a bit of drama more so between the guys, but I also think it's silly to keep things locked up. I hate hiding things, so I would tell the new guy that he should speak up. I dunno, it always sucks being in those kinds of situations. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.