Can anyone explain to me why it hurts SOOOOO much??
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Sweetie,,I am in your shoes as well..I have been a Mom and Dad to my 10 yr old daughter,,and for the first few yrs (we have been apart for 8 yrs) I kept asking myself "Am I not doing enough? " You fell in love with this "man" and you are doing your part 150 plus percent...there are some guys out there that love the marriage part,but not the parenting.This is a lesson we have all got to learn,and yes,I know it hurts bad,especially since you are carrying and your hormones are on a ride right now,but you are still entitled to feel hurt.And I know it is exhausting to be both parents to those lovley kids you have..but look at it this way..you have the undying love of those kids which outweighs the love that any man could think of mustering up..you are doing a great job..and just because he does'nt act like he cares..it is not the end of the world..you will heal from his heartache..and you are sure to find someone who loves you for you AND your children..good luck to you..be strong..and it's ok to cry...I sometimes still do..but over the years..the crying is more happy tears than sad.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your painful experience. Losing someone you love that much is so diffucult. My heart is going out to you.  \n\nI don't know when this happened, how recent it was, but there is always a mourning period where you need to let your emotions out. Sadly, you didn't have the time you wanted with him.  Your future plans are turned upside down. I know a little about that myself. So, I'm sorry for your pain. If it's recent, it's going to take a while to move past this, but you will move past it.  In time the pain will dull and you may try to love again. It's so hard to think that right now, but love can happen again for you.  \n\nRight now your life may seem pretty aweful, it's hard not to have dark thoughts when you are going through what you are going through.  But your life is important to many people, your friends, your family, and especially your late boyfriend.  He loved you and would only want the best for you. I'm sure he's looking down on you and loving you from heaven right now.  And if he knew what would happen to him, he'd want you to be happy for the rest of your life. \nYour long life.\n\nYou don't have the worst life ever, it's just the worst it's been for you as of yet, and probably the worst it will ever be. If you're having trouble coping with the pain, talk to someone- a professional grief counsler can help. They can help you express the different stages of mourning in a healthy environment, and help you keep focused on how to keep your own life on track.\n\nSorry sweetie, this is so rough for you. I'll pray for you tonight.
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its normal to feel the pain because you have truely loved him. i suggest you go out w/ your friends, get a hobby, keep yourself busy so you dont have time to think about him. \ni hope sonner you'll get over him
62663
You cry.  You scream and yell and throw your own pity party, if that is what you feel like doing.  But most importantly, you take time for you.  Heal, and then move on.  Take the knowledge that you have learned from them and make your life better with it.  Good luck.  I'm so sorry that this happened to you.  But things are not always going to feel this bad.
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Well, usually friendship doesn't bring more pain than love. Usually, friends know your weakness and then avoid them becuase of that, they care for you and do whatever they can to help you, they look out for you and never try to hurt you. But alas, not everyone is like that. Are you in a situation where your friendship is bringing more pain than love? If so, you aren't alone, i have the same thing going on. If you are in pain because of a friendship, i would suggest you approach your friend and let them know why you are feeling like you do. Don't get mad at them and blame them like "you are the cause for my grief" and such, approach calmy and explain why you are in pain.  For your question, the reason we are hurt by the persons we care most about it just that reason, we care more about them because we have invested so much into that relationship, so we take whatever they say or do more seriously than what a stranger may say. You tend to trust them more, so if they hurt you it hurts far more than if a stranger hurt you. I don't really know what your question is, so i can't really think about what else to say. If you want to talk or vent or whatever feel free to emial me. Whatever happens, i wish you the best of luck!\n\n-sarah
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well you cant really do anything to make it go away. the pain will go away soon and you'll just forget about it. this happened to me too and the pain just went away after a while.
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I am extremely sorry to hear your story and you have my hearfelt sympathy.  I can only imagine the deep pain of hurting you must go through everyday.  I really feel for you and I hear and support what you are saying about paying more attention to your kids and looking out for any early 'warning signs'.  I can't really advise you on anything you're asking for but I just wanted to write and wish you well, may God help you in whatever you do.
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yess it really hurts, i guess it burns or something like that:) careful next time, gurls are sensitive.
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becoz if we showed to you and told you that it`s hard then you will think that is too harder than you think right now so people tell you that its ok you will get over it oon and you will 4 get....it`s true but it needs time .... we will be hurt coz it`s normal to be like that but you will not feel hurt to the rest of your life ...so try to forget and think about so thing els ...do things make you 4 get...that`s what I can tell you ...so Good luck with it....
45711
same as yours! i feel your pain, its hard!
705945
Everyone says that it's a healing thing. The hard part of this is learning how to forgive. I thought I had achieved the fine art of forgiving, but recently resentment, anger and bitterness has reared it's ugly head again. The one that it hurts the most is the one that harbors these feelings. I've read a couple of books on forgiveness,, but reading and actually doing the forgiving seems next to impossible for me to accomplish...........:)
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If you are going through this, you need to seek some help.  Not to be mean, understand, I went through the same thing.  Just know that it does not always have to be like that.  Hurting yourself is a way of escape, and usually signs of deeper problems.  Get some help, please, before it gets worse.
1024352
I don't understand why.  I hate hurting someone's feelings.  It's a horrible feeling, ya know?
708206
Take your butt immediately to the ER... right now.  Stop waiting for answers.  Your life is important and health should be your main concern at this very moment.  I am not questioning your pain, but I have been through this and I know that it is serious... so go!  NOW!
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You will NEVER feel the same..BUT you don't have to hurt...thinking about her and remembering her is wonderful....it will be painful for a time but if it lasts too long talk to a priest or get therapy. I lost 2 children and my father. It hurt like hell for years and years and years...BUT I got help also I decided THEY don't want me to suffer and I will see them again in HEAVEN.....so I no longer suffer. I talk up at the sky to them at night here and there..the times get  less often but they are everywhere.....do whatever makes you feel at peace.....but remember she loves you and doesn't want you hurting..rmemmber the good times and if it helps say you are sorry for the bad times..she can hear you and you will feel better!
509057
It hurts at first but once you get over it you will feel like a stronger person. This is a dangerous time for you because instead of toughing it out and growing up, some guys resort to being emo which always leads to homosexuality and dressing like a girl. Judging by your grammar and poor spelling you are probably young. Give it time buddy there are better ones out there TRUST me.
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you may be upset...but at least you know. Don't even ask why it has happened,you know why. you have all your questions answered, hey It probably hurt....a lot but live sweetie,be happy,prosper.