Ladies, have you ever given the guy you were dating a choice to either commit or you were finished with him?
917968
It never got to that level with one, but she laid out that she wanted more or I would have to walk.\n\nI walked.
298503
YES,for once..Because all i thought he would be mind and until i still ask my self why did i do that?Do i look bitch?!\nif were to choose one night stand or relationship witn a guy..I would absolutely choose the best. The relationship with a guy..because it s more intersting to have a relationship than without.
500695
No. You shouldn't have to give up all these things just to be with someone. There should be compromise in a relationship. If it is all one-sided- you giving up everything then it is going to leave you with always giving everything and the other person not giving anything or not enough. \n\nYou have needs to and the right person for you will want to give just as much as you do and won't have to give up these things.
674707
That is such a personal thing.  I don't know that there is any one right time frame for that.  I knew 6 months into my relationship that I was going to get married, but I know some relationships that last for years and years and the couple is't ready to commit.  This is really something to decide for yourself.
1046736
I met my boyfriend through a friend. Our friend wanted me to go play cards and stuff with him and maybe a little more. Then like I went home and the next day he called me and said you remember the guy that had to leave early? And I responded yeah...why and he told me that he wanted me to go to the movie with him the next Friday. I agreed and we hit it off decent. Went out the next day (Saturday) again and it just kind of happened. I wasn't really looking for anyone at the time but just hoping to get with the guy that hooked us up. It all turned out well though a little of 6 months later we are still happier than ever!
715565
He obviously understands your feelings, and you understand his, now is there room for both of you to compromise.  Maybe set a date for a few years from now or just get engaged and not set a date yet.  I don't think it would be fair to either of you if only one of you made concessions.  It wounds like you are the one doing it now.  Talk to him about a compromise.
139633
You say you have been dating . But have you made a commitment to each other? If not just consider it for what it is. He found you to be a friend and some one he likes to be around but,  he is still looking for his one and only.
637813
i had a BF once, who was way too nice. he did anything i wanted him to, he bought anything i wanted, he believed anything i said, he always told me how beautiful i was and how talented. i regret it now, but i walked all over him.because he let me. but i guess the way i saw it was, if he's going to let me walk all over him, then why not?
337532
I have.\nHe had the money and the looks was great but never had time for me.\n So i dated a guy that was great in showing me a good time out and giving me the attention i needed.
624442
I'd hesitate for a little bit. Why? Because my true love as of right now, is not ready to settle, so I'd have to find out why he had a change of heart?
721110
Sure I did.I never wanted to get married,just wanted to do my thing.One night I was doing my thing and brought this nice guy home...he never left,ever.We have been together 17 years,married 13.
325114
depends. do you really want to continue with whatever broke you up? usually when things are over it's best to leave it like that.
209088
You want more out of this relationship than he does and he's already getting from you want he wants. Do you understand?
807121
At a bar. We would go to the same club regularly and he was friends with a friend of a friend. We would hang out the bar almsot every weekend for about 6 months. It wasn't planned though. We just liked the same scene. He was dating other girls at the time, but had his eye on me and I was interested in something strictly casual, but never tried with him because he was cool and I thought we'd be 'just friends'. \n\nWell, one night he called me because he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to come over and eat mushrooms. I had nothing else to do and thought he was cool, so I let him come over and we had a good time. Nothing happened that night, but about a week later I got extrodinarly wasted and we hooked up. It started out as a casual thing scratch that as a very casual thing and I had little intentions of it being serious, but we ended up falling in love and I settled down a little bit. \n\nThis was after he moved in because his 'rents kicked him out of their place and he was staying in his car. We were already sleeping together, so I said he could stay at my place for a few days and that few days turned to months and that casual time with a guy who was actually worthy of my friendship unlike my other casual boys turned into a serious relationship. We've been together for almost two years and plan on getting married in 2008. \n\nWhat makes us stay together? Well, our geniune love for eachother and partially our own narcissisms. We love ourselves and I'm his female counterpart and he's the male version of myself. Our similar interests and goals and problem solving techniques help as well as compatible senses of humour.\n\nThe story I tell my parents and family? We met through friends of friends at church.
912826
bad choice....\nbut you cannot force someone to commit... she does seem to be very busy and very smart....\nleave her alone....\ns
930505
He might just not be that into you. If he's not ready, he's not ready. You cannot force it; otherwise it will end.
1055513
You waited this far, then she should honor your requests, did she know this before you both started to date? Don't give in, i myself am waiting for marriage and am in a relationship and he respects my wishes and doesn't force me to do anything until then....so should she if she really cares and love you.