I'm A 23 Year Old MALE College Student. I Never Dated. How Do I Talk/Flirt with Girls?
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Just try to befriend her first. Talk to her and ask her out. You need to see how she responds to see if she likes you. Good luck!\n\nOh by the way, I realised you're at Level -1! Amazing!\n\nEDIT: I realised you said 2 months ago that you were a 21 YEAR OLD NYU STUDENT.
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First off, most girls do NOT like being referred to as Chicks.Other than that, meeting women involves risk and alot of trial and error. Get out more! Go to where girls/women are likely to be and always ask your friends if they know female friends who would like to meet someone.Saying Hi to a random girl is a good way to start a conversation. Avoid pickup lines, fancy outfits, and bar scenes and just be yourself. Being confident about yourself and curious about other people is very appealing to most women(at least in my experience). Don't see rejection for a date as failure, simply move on and accept advice from your rejector if she gives you any.
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appreciate that you don't date!\nyou should not choose anyone of them!\nlet it go! education comes and doesn't go\ntill' you finish college!
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1. Join a gym\n2. Join a book club and invite someone out for drinks/coffee after the club\n3.  Join an athletic club, like a community softball/soccer league - again, ask someone out for pizza/beer after a game\n4.  Go to a jazz club and pretend in your mind that are meeting someone. That way you'll feel like someone you know is really coming but you can still start up conversation with someone you meet there.  \n5.  Take a class (anything that interests you, photography, science, etc) at a local college or community college. That way, you can meet folks who have similar interests as you.\n6.  Go on a singles cruise\n7. Do speed-dating\n8. Ask co-workers out for drinks after work or just to lunch\n9.  Find activity pals on yahoo.com or other websites and go meet them.\n10.  Just say "hello" - you'd be shocked at the response you get!
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Well, it's really easy. Finding them, or her, is simple. Many or most young women don't think about it, so they are not looking for an older man. \nNow I've only done this a few times, and all the younger women fit a profile. Usually mature. Well educated. Self-confident. Have had a few relationships. \nBe yourself. Be open. Listen. If you get involved, do it only with a young woman that you like. \nTo find one, well unless you're really objectionable, here are the places: through your employment, girls you work with or contact.\nAsk for their ideas and be willing to meet their friends.\nIf you're in a restaurant or an upscale bar suggest that one or two ladies should join you, BUT, don't "hit" on them. In fact in all cases, never "hit" on them, forget pick up lines. Treat any young woman that interests you as a friend, only.\nSometimes the real problem is one that you didn't mention.
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from experience it really doesnt matter what you do in order to flirt with girls just as long you are confident while doing it. The biggest turn off girls tell me is a guy without confidence so just fake it even if you do not initially feel like a stud. Also all the love movies and shows are bullsh*t. All these cute lines that make the girl smile and fall in love with you on these shows will not happen. I hate to say it but the nice sweety guys will always finish last. Just go with the "take what is yours" mentallity and women will be after you instead of you going after them. Do not be so soft but instead be a little rough around the edges. Trust me, girls will not want to admit it most of the time but being too nice can also be a turn off and boring.
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depending on what city you live in, you dont have to meet females in the club/bar, etc. you can meet people in the mall, at the library starbucks, anywhere.  work on your people skills, you'll be o'k.
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FIRST OF ALL, DRESS NICE WITH CLEAN CLOTHS. KEEP HAIR CLEAN AND TEETH BRUSHED. LAST AND MOST IMPORTANT. ATTITUDE. IF YOUR OUT GOING CONFIDENT AND NICE YOU WILL CATCH THEY EYE OF THE OPPISITE SEX.  I USE TO BE REALLY SHY AND DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO GIRLS AND HAD FEW GIRLFRIENDS. THEN ONE DAY I GOT FED UP AND DISNT CARE IF I LOOKED LIKE A JERK ANYMORE AND I STARTED TREATING GIRLS JUST LIKE I WOULD TREAT MY NORMAL GUY FRIENDS AND BAMM. NEXT THING I KNEW I NEVER HAD GIRL PROBLEMS AGAIN. SO CONFIDENCE HAS TO BE THE MAIN THING. DONT BE AFRAID TO WALK BY A GIRL YOU LIKE AND SAY "HEY I LIKE THAT SHIRT IT LOOKS COOL" THEN WALK AWAY IT JUST MIGHT SPARK UP A CONVERSATION BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU
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You're not a shy guy, but you're not outgoing, either. Okay. I see where you are coming from. You're a "stuck in the middle" kind of guy. Normally, you are probably not nervous, and when a gal starts talking to you, you do not always get sweaty and start ststststuttering. But, you lack the confidence and machismo to just go right up to her and say, "Wow, you're the only good-looking girl that I have seen all day. I'm So-and-So. Mind if I get your number?" and hand over a pen and paper.\n\nYou DO have the right idea, though. It is a clever strategy and worthwhile goal to try to get the women to come up to you, rather than vice versa. But...unless they are practically drooling over you for some reason, like your disarmingly good looks and manly charm, that is not realistically going to happen - am I right?\n\nDepending on the location and situation, there are many different ways to start up the Attraction Game. Building attraction is definitely the most important part of getting anywhere with any woman. You cannot just stroll up to them and say, "Hey, you are like, so totally hot, and I like, like you, you know?" Unless, of course, you can pull it off in a particularly humourous way and get her laughing.\n\nThat's what you need to aim for. Laughter. Do not come across as being outright goofy - just playful. Even the more serious-minded women out there will appreciate a fine sense of humour.\n\nNext time that you see a lovely girl standing around, and you want to talk to her...look at her for a while. People, as you have probably noticed, tend to have a "sixth sense" that just lets them know when they're being watched. She'll probably at least glance over at you. Don't drop your gaze in a panic, though. Instead, smile cheerfully, and - slowly - move your gaze away from her. Don't stop smiling, either. Then glance back at her quickly, and look away again.\n\nWhat's the point of that little exercise? It builds attraction. A lot of our communication as humans is completely nonverbal - it's body language. By looking at her but not freaking out when she looks back, but rather slowly looking away, you're effectively saying: "I'm not a creep, because I am not staring at you. But I AM admiring you."\n\nShe'll probably smile back, or at least her eyes will shine with some degree of recognition. There's your chance. Look at her again - about the same way, just focus on her eyes (always, always, always look into a woman's eyes when greeting or talking with her!) - and stroll right on up to her. Sure - this takes courage. And sure, you are probably worried about being rejected. But don't be. Repeat this mantra through your head: There's no reward without risk.\n\nYou might even become so smooth at this whole thing that she ends up coming over to YOU, wanting to know what is going on. I love it when this happens; it shows me that the lady has some confidence and fire in herself. :)\n\nOnce you get there, say something spontaneous. This could be amusing and playfully-arrogant, like what I mentioned in the beginning of this post. Or, it could be simple and direct: "Hi there. My name is So-and-So. You are?" It sounds crazy, but this is honestly all you have to do. It's that easy. What you have to watch out for here is turning into a wimp - blurting out words randomly without thought, or thinking TOO hard about what to say and therefore saying nothing at all - but remember. You are already there. You've already initiated the conversation, simple as that might have been. Now all that you need to do is keep it up!\n\nAnd just go on from there. Keep a few things in mind if you ask for her number and go on a date:\n\n1. BE CHARMING, but do not become a "girlie-man." *laughs* I mean, don't let her walk all over you or get you sweating and stuttering. Be confident.\n\n2. BE FUNNY, but be mature, t
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well dude! jus chill for a min.. try to come out of ths loop, nthng wrng in talkng to gals.. ther are guys who are shy.. but jus try once with a gal thn yo wud get adjustd and thngs wil chnge.. yo mite be shy first, but if yo move and talk to gals for smtime yo mite get over vth it.. beggining stage mite be difficult.. but jus try to cope vth it bcoz later it mite be a cushy job for yo to talk comfortably... so giv a try! \nand yo need not be embarrased.. nthng wrng if yo talk to gals.. jus ignore those who are lukng for yor wealth behind.. they are jus money minded and lack senses.. jus evade thm and search for btter ppl.. go ahed frnd.. don be shy.. try yor best.. don flounder in frnt of those who are very greedy.. plz! \nbesta luck!
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Try coffee shops, book stores, festivals. Sport your colors and be flirty with the chicks- but not too flirty. That way if they arent gay or bi, they don't take offense. All in all, be yourself....... or give me a call. ;-)
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Um, \n\nNo. Your in school still. Your best bet is to become friends with them, not just try and date them. Then you will get to understand how women oporate.\n\n-James
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Practice strike up a conversation with girls you do not know but are not necessarily the most attractive to you. Watch them stumble that will help you released you are not alone, help them when they stumble this will help you gain confidence for your own game.\n\n Good luck man remember pretty women have the same problem as you, sometimes both sides are equally interested but both players are bad at the game and personal insecurities make each party feel that they are at fault and the conversation fizzles.\n\n Avoid these phrases at all cost:\n  Nice day today.\n  Man this place is busy\n Have you been hear before?\n  Are you here with friends\n   *** The problem with any conversation starter like the above is it is easily answered with one word. Give her something to work with.  It is way too hard to recover from a Yes and No conversation its mechanical, no way to find common interests.
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You need more confidence; just remember that while looks get the first glance, for selecting a partner most women are much less visually oriented than most men are. Stereotype, but I think true. So, think about that to boost your confidence.\n\nThen, just start getting yourself in situations where you will interact with women.  Book clubs, Toastmasters (that will also help your shyness bigtime) Church groups if you are religious, parties, etc.  In this day and age, just approaching random people you meet in public has a low probabilty of success since people tend to be more guarded (but it can work, and might be good practice; ain't like you will ever see them again!)\n\nSkinny?  I was very skinny for a long time. Always teased in HS. during college I lifted weights.  After college I took up martial arts.  Stayed thin, but I was ripped. . . now, at my HS reunions, I am reasonably well filled out now but still thin. (I will never be a muscle monster; just don't have the genetics) and most of my HS compatriots are FAT!  HAHAHAHA! \n\nAnyway, it is more attitude than anything.  By the end of high school I didn't care I was skinny anymore.  That made a big difference.\n\nAs for you being attracted to almost every girl you see, I am guessing you are in late JHS, HS or college.  That is normal. Don't worry.  By the time you are about 25, you will be able to interact with women without **constantly** thinking of them sexually, and by 35 you can do it half the time you are talking to them. Sometimes being a man sucks.
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Communication is a good start. Don't be too shy. Make her LAUGH! That's how guys get my attention. Be charming, give her compliments, ask her about herself; like what she likes to do, or her favorite restraunt. Then maybe if you think she's flirting with you, ask her on a date, to the movies, out to eat, anything romantic. It could even be a double date! Those sometimes seem to break the ice a little bit and make everything less akward for your first time!
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Okay here's what you I suggest you do.  Watch her for a little while.  Find something she's looking at or pick something on her clothes that you can comment about.  Basically you have to find some commonality to touch on with her.  And what EVER you do, don't over do it.  Seriously so many guys do this and it just turns a girl off.  Just be yourself and if you are going to date it'll happen.  And if you use a cheesy line I guarantee that's a no hitter for you.  Just act natural for awhile and observe her.  Women are ALL about a guy noticing the small things.  So if you've been watching her for a while, say a week or so then when she's wearing something you haven't seen before and it looks cute on her tell her so.  Or if you you're at a bar/club whatever and you want to "pick her up" there, I suggest starting up the conversation about something that is in the club/bar.  Music, lighting, drinks, people, whatever.  Just pick something and go with it.  And honestly if you crash and burn, don't give up.  Either keep trying with her if you think you got a chance or give up and move on.  Oh and once you got her....learn to be sensitive.  To the point of you wanting to gag.  Most women will eat it up, not all mind you, but most.  Yes I know it's tough to not be "manly" all the time but if you know when to be sensitive you got a leg up on the rest of the dawgs out there.
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First: stop wasting time online!  Second, take a shower, lose (or gain) some weight, get a job or find something you are good are it. \nGirls dont like guys who pitty themselves. So if you dont have anything good to say about you: say nothing. Also get some descent clothes. they dont need to be expensive, just something that matches (look at a catalog and try matching the same colors/type of clothing)\nGet a descent haircut. decent, not gay. \nGet some fresh mints and use the Axe Phoenix body spray (its the most popular among hot girls) Use it, not overuse it!\nStep out the house and go downtown. Pretend to be lost and ask a cute girl for directions. Dont hit on her or stare at her rack, just ask for directions... like specific directions. This will serve as practice so you dont droll anytime you see a hot chick. \nGo to a starbucks with a cute barista (cashier) girl and ask from something complicated... as she take your order, just ask: how is your day going? ready for the weekend? How many hours you got left in your shift? If she is wearing something (necklace, hairpin, earring, nosering, etc) say it look really cute on her. Again, this is just for practice so DONT HIT ON HER you sick bastard! \nKeep doing this back and forth and soon you will lose your fear to speaking with hot girls and the chances of you looking lilke a freaking retard when you attempt a dialog will decrease to zero. \nGood luck! remember: even the hottest ones get turn down, so dont despair and DONT freaking rush or scare any girl who is dumb enough to be nice to you or whose trying to JUST be your friend.