My girlfirend complains that i "use her for her high heels", its only a fetish, she doesnt understand. advice?
926982
Well 1st of all, do you like the high heels on her or on yourself? \n\nIf the shoes are on her than the problem is that the pleasure is going on a 1 way street, so now your job is to find out what she likes.\n\nBut if you are the 1 wearing the shoes than the problem is you need to either get your own or stop it for a while cuz she's not too thrilled about i. Other wise you're gonna find yourself wearing them by yourself cuz sometimes women will go along with your fetish until they can't take it any more and kick you to the curb.
628357
It's a fetish. If it doesn't bother you, then play along...if it does bother you, tell her and compromise on another way for her to indicate she is in the mood.
683611
she is  in the wrong... so leave her... don't try to understand her, there is no understanding her, she thinks she is gods gift to the world.  (i am a girl too)  I bet you treat her like she is a goddess too, but she is not worth it if she did that to you.  just leave her.  Your not wrong she is.
395589
Go into your closet and show him how many pairs of shoes you have. Then show him how many pairs of shoe's he has. (hopefully you have a lot more than he does, like most women). Remind him that you like to wear different shoes everyday.\n\nThis issue is one of variety. Men tend to like the same old thing. Women like to try something different. He simply needs to understand this in a practical way. \n\nIf things do not change, require plans for variety or there will be no sex. This may take some negotiation skills, demands don't work very well. \n\nThe best couples accept their responsibility to meet each others needs, and in this area it can be a lot of fun. How this works out is that sometimes you'll have sex in a quite alcove of the new york metropolitan museum during the Chinese antiquities exhibition, and other times you'll have sex at home, in bed, 30 minutes before you go to sleep.
684968
Tell her you like her shoes or her earrings, something small that is not near her chest or butt so she doesn't think you're thinking of her just sexually. It sounds lame but women like people to notice the small things they do to look nice. Tell her she looked interesting and you just wanted to see if you could chat with her. I think often the best conversation starters are movies, books, and music. They are pretty universal and most people have an opinion about what they like and don't like. It's also a good way to get a feel for whether or not you are compatible. If she seems excited about a subject or her eyes light up when you are telling her something go with it and try to explore it further.
508255
My question to you is this...Why do you do that? Are you trying to impress her or make her jealous? Do you have a low self esteem problem? Doing things "just for fun" is so BULLCRAP...we all do things for one reason or another..you know urself why you do this to her...I truly believe that a "real man...or gentleman" would not do that to his "lady" ..a real man..would focus on him and her...
193503
as long as there is no sex involved its all good.  it may piss you off but tell her that it does if she continues to do it, break up with her. trust is # 1 in a relationship
241080
From the rear.\n\nSorry. Seriously, you need to move away from the dress-up games and work on increasing the true kink factor. I would make an assault on her mental barriers.\n\n1) Massage her until she is as limp as a noodle. Then (unless she demands sex) let her go to sleep in your arms. Repeat from time to time until she begins to trust you more. Do not let her come to expect this, however.\n\n2) Meanwhile, during the few times you do have sex, suck on her nipples a lot. This will increase the levels of oxytocin in her brain (making her feel that she loves you more).\n\n3) Get her to exercise, especially weight train. Weight training will increase the levels of testosterone in her system (yes, in girls too) and make her hornier. Testosterone is the sex drive hormone in females too.\n\n4) After a nice massage session, go dovvn on her until she is extremely turned on. Then go at it like crazed weasels. \n\n5) Keep doing it like crazed weasels for a few weeks, and then make your requests for makeup, high heels etc. She will do anything you ask as long as you keep the big Os coming.
259670
tell her tough tittie...it dont feel nice now do it? you backstabbing slut...then laugh in her face ; )
1102608
i think your friend is being really immature. if she don't want to listen to what the new friend has to say then forget her and ask her if the shoe was on the other foot how would she expected to be treated.
321953
LOL, Yes he has and yes I let him. Did nothing for me. I thought it was strange. Girls can have any fetish. Count yourself lucky that she can talk to you about it. She must trust you and she must have a decent rating on the freak-o-meter. So let her suck your toes for a bit if she wants then you try something new too if you feel like it. Okay, maybe toes don't do it for you but something must be in the back of your mind. Make a trade.
1019288
Do you mean she "just wants to have fun" Dude I have been there, don't take it the wrong way, she may be a little scared of getting hurt and wants to take it slow. I think it is their way of saying it. Just like us "whats the matter" our reply "nothin" Enjoy the time with her and believe that she loves you and everything will be O.K. Don't push the issue or it will get ugly, trust me, have fun, and you will get what you want in time.
990002
Sounds like its fun for you and her friend but that she is only doing it to please you.\nAsk her if that is the issue because if she is doing it to please you and it goes against her feelings towards herself you are playing a very dangerous game with her.
737458
She should tell you that she was offended.  She shouldn't pout, except momentarily, to be cute.  Also, she should only spank you if you would like it.  ;o)
199366
maybe she is just afraid of the whipping you'll give her for not wearing that certain outfit...you sound a bit too controlling to me.  stop telling her every little thing to do (seriously, the color of her nail polish?) and give her free reign on herself.  then maybe you'll find out if she loves you or is scared of you.
59450
self confidence is what she needs...im the same way...i love feeling and looking sexy but im too shy to do that in public....try to get her to do it around the house alot more than tell her that you want to pick out her outfit for that friday night date...
981114
You know its not true ignore her. I've been there and he told her that as long as she lived she could never walk in my shoes. Just be calm. Ignore her . Her mouth will be her undoing eventually. You get agitated and she wins.