Recently married - problems already :(?
913767
For an arranged marriage, it's understandable how there can be some conflict arising from the circumstances but...Refuse! You have to stop for a second and think about your husband's desires.  It is important for you to show respect towards yourself and not do just anything he tells you to.  Express to him your discomfort, and if he as loving as he seems to be, he will get your point.  He also should take down that site and respect your privacy, especially since he never asked for your consent. \n\nIf he isn't willing to do that...then get a divorce if possible and move on.
66373
What is up with people!!  Is Marriage all of a sudden just a option??!!
150566
probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
219336
I would bring it up with him. You are already living together which is a huge part of marriage and so what's the holdup?
1076747
look here bud im 30 and ive been married b4.....but i screwed up and took for granted what i had. i am involved with someone new now and i have truely learned what not to do to jepordize this one.....who i am also planning on marrying in the future. just do what feels right....but when you do get married treat her right and make her feel loved everyday no matter what. hugs and kisses everyday no matter how pissed she makes you. if you can swallow some pride every now and then you should be ok.
385469
Are you officially married?  Do you love the person your with? Were your guests your close friends and family?  If yes, then most likely, the guests were just happy to be there to share such a joyous event.  What the event looked like, or actually cost, or what the service was like, means nothing compared to the joy, happiness, friendship, and company that's shared on a wedding day.  If you still feel upset about the reception, invite some of your closest friends/relatives, and throw a backyard bbq or small dinner.  That way, you can share some special time with the people you care about without having to worry about everything working out perfectly.\n\nCongratulations! Best of luck with your new marriage!
718007
im sure that your first thought would be to do something grand and over the top, but i would suggest that you do something simple. a little quiet time with just you two will be a good start. if you want to have a welcome home party for him, i would suggest that you have it the week after he gets home, to allow him time to adjust. and as for you... be prepared for some changes, and dont expect things just to fall back into the place where you were when he left. accept the fact that your husband is a changed man. because he is. just be patient with him, and take things slow. caution your friends and loved one not to make him talk about his experiences. he will tell you when he is ready. and above all, just make sure that you are there for him. out of everything that you want to plan for him, do for him, and do to him, im sure that all he really wants is a hug from the woman he loves.
421897
DON'T  do anything!! hoepfully you have not acted on these feelings, but if you have, you need to come clean with your husband. Sit down and talk with him and tell him how you are feeling,and what made you go out side of your marriage. I am telling you now, it is not going to be an easy task. But there is always hope. Pray about this situation and ask the Lord to restore your marriage.\nDon't Let the Green Gress fool You!!
460197
I think that you should talk to him and ask him what is bothering him?. How long has he been accusing you of this?. Did something happen lately that made him start acting like that?. How long have you been married?. The first year it the toughest so hang in there and just try to be open and honest with him. communication is very important, i have been married for almost 19 years and i can tell you communication is very important
91116
I know from experience, messing with a married man is just heart break waiting for a place to happen. I am guilty of dating a married man on more than one occassion, and both times I was the one left alone and crying! Though it may not seem fair, it is true.... \nIf you truly feel that he loves you, tell him that you can not handle the stress any longer, and he needs to choose either you or her. Give him no more than 2 weeks to make his decision as you want to make sure it's one he won't regret. Then while waiting, sit and pray that everything will work out in your favor! During this wait also realise that you are not the first one to go through this, nor will you be the last! \nAlso realise that while you may not want to hear everything we say in this forum, that we are all speaking from our own life experiences, and that we do not want anyone to face the pain that we have suffered....\nI wish you luck, and pray that you pain is as little as possible!
804171
Her issues are not your concern anymore.  U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else.  Concentrate on your marriage instead.
373052
oh, sweetie... time doesn't matter.. i met and married my husband in four months. My soulmate. Get a friend... smile even if you want to cry.. watch a funny movie, comedy speel, think happy thoughts. It will get better. you can feel free to e-mail me er1ca2000@yahoo.com.
1070570
Be miserable, like I am. It wouldn't be so bad if the man I married loved and respected me. I guess that doesn't help you, but these things happen. Do what you need to do to make things right, if you can.
1059086
Honestly, I'm not a marriage counselor or even close to it.  To me though, it sounds like maybe you and your husband aren't as connected on an emotional level if you ask me (which you did, haha).  Maybe the reason you feel this way for someone else is because you've lost those feelings for your husband.  I know it's hard, after marriage and two kids, but it's important to stay physically, emotionally, and mentally involved with each other.  Just try things like going on dates with your husband.  Try to reconnect with him and remember all of the reasons why you married him.  Maybe your husband has a great personality, wit, and a beautiful mind also.  Maybe you just need to remind yourself of it.
761349
Usually when you get married you put the 2 incomes together.  But dont forget about your other expenses also, food, utilities, any credit cards, food, and all the little extras.  Being newly married is tough enough without financial problems...don't get in to deep to quick!  Good Luck!
478910
Because the marriage changes one or both of you.  You look at things different.  Before it was easy and a bit carefree knowing you could always walk away.  Now you will have to work on being together.  Topics that you thought you knew about your spouse will come up and floor you.  Take money, it use to be you did what you did. Sure pay the bills and so on, but now that your married and you want to save for a house, the other person wants anew car.  Which way do you go?  Marriage take constant work. 13 years and counting for myself.  Best of luck to you
176417
Go to their homes and/or invite them when he's not there.  You really need to discuss the issue with him if it's that important (yeah i know, easier said than done).  Maybe marriage counseling, if this marriage is worth it.  If not...