i am cutting and lots of people suggested that i talk to my parents but i am really scared to tell them?
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Caitlyn, I know it's scary to talk your parents, but you need their help.  You don't have to tell them right away that you're cutting, but at least try to tell them you're unhappy.  So many people suffer in silence just because they're too scared to tell anyone.  Your parents can help you to feel better, but they won't know you're hurting unless you tell them.\n\nIf you tell your parents you're cutting, I can't promise that their reaction won't be scary.  It's hard for parents to find out their child is cutting.  No one wants to see their little girl hurting herself.  It's scary for you to tell your parents, but it's just as scary for them to hear it.  They might yell at you, they might cry, they might act like nothing's wrong, but what they're probably not going to do unless they're trained psychologists is react how you want them to.  You'll have to give them a little time to get used to it.  But once they come to terms with it themselves, they can help you, and you really need their help.\n\nYou can also make it easier by how you tell them.  A lot of times it's most tempting to tell someone when you're mad at them, kind of like "look what you made me do."  Don't do that.  It's best if you're as calm as possible, and so are they.  Don't bring it up too casually, either.  And don't just show them the cuts.  If they think it's not a big deal to you, it makes it scarier for them, and they're more likely to yell at them.\n\nThe best thing to do is go up to your mom or dad (whoever your more comfortable with) sometime when you're not having a fight or anything, and tell them you need to talk to them.  Tell them you need their help (even just say it, "mom, I need your help with something").  They're a lot more likely to take it well if it's really clear you want their help.  And try your best not to get angry at them if they don't take it well, cause the last thing you want is for it to be something you fight about.  Also try not to show them the cuts, at least right away.  It's really hard for parents to actually see the marks on their beautiful baby girl, and the harder it is for them, the more likely it's not going to go well.\n\nTell them why you did it before you tell them what you did.  It's less of a shock that way.  Tell them that you're unhappy, tell them what's going on at school and how it made you feel.  Tell them as specifically as you can why you cut, try to tell them how you felt right before the first time you cut, and then after all of that tell them that you cut.\n\nSweetheart, I know it's scary, but you can do it.  You're in 6th grade now, right?  You're practically a grown up already.  Be brave and tell your parents you need help.  It will be ok.  No matter how scary it is, their still your parents, and you're still their little girl.  They'll still love you, and they'll still take care of you.\n\nCaitlyn, if you ever want to talk, you're welcome to email me at emilyrose1986@yahoo.com.
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Let all that pressure and pain out another way. Try to find the courage to tell someone what you are doing. This doesn't have to be an adult. A close friend is good. If you cannot bring yourself to instigate this 'confession', turn the tables. If you are asked, admit it. And be honest to yourself about the reasons why you are doing it. Trust me - it will be a relief and only after admitting it will you be able to find other outlets and a way to mend the pain that is causing you to feel the need to self-mutilate.\n\nA great outlet is acknowledgeing how you feel and sharing this with someone else. Just having someone else understand is a huge release. Also knowing you are not the only one doing this.  And the feeling of being unburdened...\n\nYou are not mad so do not worry about what others might think. Find someone to confide in - it really will help.
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Sweetie, you need to talk to someone who can help you.  Tell your parents, school counselor, doctor, teacher, or any other adult you trust what's going on.  You don't have to tell them that you're cutting if you don't want to, just that you're depressed.  I know it might seem like there's nothing anyone can do, but it's not true.  There are medications that can help with the depression, and talk therapy can help as well.  A psychologist can help you learn healthier ways to deal with things instead of cutting, and help you figure out what's going on around food.  They can also help you figure out what's at the root of your problems, so you can start to work on fixing whatever is really wrong instead of hurting yourself.\n\nI used to cut myself too (and I'm using the past tense very losely here), so I do understand what it's like.  If you want to talk, you're welcome to email me at emilyrose1986@yahoo.com.
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You have to choose the right person to tell, someone you're close to, or your therapist (if you have one, if not, I recommend it).  I've found it easier to tell people things by email or over IM, and not in person.  But it actually might be easier to tell a therapist, since she or he probably won't judge you for it, or at least not as much as someone you're close to.  As a former cutter myself (haven't cut myself for any reason for about 2 1/2 years), I would recommend DBT (dialectical behavior therapy, also a common treatment for borderline personality disorder, but it's effective for other things as well).  It IS possible to stop, and it does get a LOT better.
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Do whatever makes you feel right, if you feel uncomfortable saying anything to your parents then don't, maybe your bi-sexual or you could just be going through a phase, there are a lot of sites that can give you any support or advice \nGLCC, PFLAG, GLBT, etc.. good luck
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Does it sound ok to you?\n\nNot to me it doesn't. Tell your parents
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I admit i did last year,I'm 13, and it really does help at the time.  but then there is the problem of wearing short sleeved shirt and having your parents find out, so it actually creates more!I advise your to talk to her or a shrink with her.  As much as i didn't want to admit it, i needed the help of a professional badly.  I'm glad i had someone to talk to so i never ended up like that again.  the suicidal deaths of teenagers in numbers are increasing, so as friends and family members of loved ones that are going thorough that same thing, it is our challenge to help.  i recommend a shrink that is a girl, specifically a girl because it was awkward to talk to a strange shrink that was of the opposite sex.i think it is important to hepl her while she is still young! good luck...you'll need it!!!
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I use to do the same thing...It comes in waves for me. Like for a few months straight I'll do it for any reason imaginable. Then, when my arms and legs would be a mess with scabs and scars, I'd stop for a few months to let them clear up. Then I'd start again. I started in the seventh grade...You need to tell your parents so that you can go see a psychiatrist if you aren't seeing one already. How THEY react will NOT be your fault so don't blame yourself. What's the worst that could happen? They get mad or scared or confused and you end up getting the help you need? Just don't think to hard about telling them, just DO it...If you take to long thinking about it, the harder it'll be to do it. Good luck, hun.
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Yes you need to tell your mother as soon as possible or someone you are comfortable talking to.  A best friends mother, counselor, you doctor.\n\nIt was not your fault and you did not deserve to have this happen to you.  It is important that you report this so this man cannot hurt others like yourself.\n\nYou can then start the healing process and have a better chance to have a happy healthy future.\n\nI pray you find the courage to go forward....
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If you have an adult close to you, that you trust, you need to confide in this person.  Or perhaps an older sibling, a teacher, a school counselor.  Anyone that you feel you can talk to...and they can speak with your parents. Sounds as tho your parents are under some very strong stress for some unknown reason. Beacuse neither one of them should be treating you, like you say they are.
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Ask your mother to sit down with you and talk to her.  Don't say "You", but do say "I feel".  Parents know we make mistakes but be sure to apologize, and be open to listen.    If you're to nervous to talk face to face and you're afraid  your mother will interrupt you and not let you get you point across then try writing her a letter.  Please though drop out "you", because we don't want your mother to feel like she's being attacked!
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well .....talk to a sibling and tell him/her to be there when u tell one of ur parents....start with the one wh &#92;o is a little less aggressive...maybe ur mom or ur dad...and just let them know u need their support and that u hope they'll treat u like an independent adult....tell them ull sort things out and wat u plan for the future.....think abt evrything u wwana say to them......just listen to them too...cuz they'll obviously be upset....just tell them they mean alot to u and no1 else can help u out like they can..i hope they'll understand..........its a huge responsibility....make sure ur ready for it.......take care and dont overstress........:)
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Goodness, but you are busy!  Things to tell, things to hide, ten friends, dad's girlfriend - mom.\n\nYou don't need to worry about telling anyone!  If the ten friends, dad's girlfriend and by now you - haven't told enough people for it to get back to your Mom then just give it a little time and relax.\n\nSlow down.  Breathe.\n\nCourage is a wonderful thing but often misunderstood.  Just because you don't rush right out and blurt out about your private life to your family doesn't show a lack of courage.  It shows wisdom.\n\nA lot of  people have been killed because they confused stupidity with courage.\n\nJust live your life and let the future take care of itself.  You will tell them when you want to and when you want to you will just find the way.  Easy.  Simple.  Less drama.\n\nWhy the rush?  Really, the people you want to be sexually active with - you won't have a problem telling.  Why do you have to tell your parent's anything right now?
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there is no easy way to tell them. If you know for sure that your parents will accept that you're bi, then it should be a problem telling them. They probably already know and just waiting on you to say something.
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you need to get help. you can't stop if you don't want to stop. cutting is very unhealthy. seriously, the only way you can stop is to want to and to get help so you don't have to do it on your own. there are support groups.
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You should get this situation off your chest.. But if you want to get help for your situation, you should tell your family and friends. Do not be scared of their reaction. It doesn't matter how anyone reacts and that's who you are.
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You are probably a teenager. You need to find the person who you are. Be strong and communicate better with your family. Tell them you are going to make some changes in your life and if you do something or say something that upsets them or they do not approve of to tell you. Sounds like a major communication problem. \n\nBe strong you will survive this!