Why when you are on a date it is wrong to expect something in return if you spend ALOT of money?
929349
you mean like hardees and a movie, or upscale like dennies?\n\nI'd have to say ya, she better reciprocate
541284
You need someone to take your check from you and give you allowance for you to spend on whatever. Yes a shrink could help but you get pleasure out of getting new things and that might not go away. I think you need to tell yourself if you spend alot of money on whatever do you ever actually use, wear, or need those items you bought?
959963
Be yourself. Dont try and be someone your not. Be kind and polite too her. But dont go too far out of your way. Be the one to pay for any expenses. But dont brag. It makes you look like you can handle your money, and spoil her with it, but not overuse it and let it get too you. And just try too have as much fun as you can. If she seems unhappy, ask her why, Ask her how she thinks the date is going, Your main focus is on her. But yeah, basically, Be yourself, and savour the moments. Good luck.\n\nTimm.
301586
Dont judge that person for having financial problems. Unless we were born rich, we all find ourselves in economical need at some point in our lives.\n\nIve seen cases where a guy finds a girl who really cares about him and makes him happy but some relative starts putting doubts on his head by telling him the girl is only interested in money and vice versa.\nOf course, you should always be careful. When you just met Someone its not a good idea to make them think they could benefit economically from you.\n\nIf you find your special someone who is in financial need,  give them your support. Don't make their lives harder than what it already is. they already have enough problems to think about.
629667
He doesn't sound like an ass, just sounds a bit cautious.  If you truly are interested and can financially afford it, why don't you offer to pay for half of the ticket and he pay for the other half?
110207
sometimes its hard for a man to find out what she might like and not make a mistake, but they usualy come around, if you want you can buy him something give it to him these day, so he feels bad about not getting you something, try it, lets see what happens
1105047
maybe she tot she havent spend more tym wid you wen she has clas, so its payback time at 4am..admit u lke it..
1181842
because sex is expensive....are you on the dating scene? My credit card bills are exploding like a plane hitting a skyscraper\n\n\nyeah that was in bad taste...but what do you expect for a pointless rhetorical question
1002792
Hell no!  LOL!  I know, I know... some women are into that, but it ain't me.  Dating is an interview for marriage imo, and if he can't support me on a little thing like that... why would I expect him to be financially stable on anything else?  Now, later on in the relationship... after you've been together say, at least 6 months... then I could see helping a dude out if he needs it.  I've given my man $20 here and there for gas when he was having a rough time.  But in general, he knows how I feel about those things.  Luckily for me though, he feels the same way... has pride about providing for "his woman" or whatever.  heh.\n\nP.S. Why are you asking this?  Is it out of your own concern, or is it because he *refuses* to pay more than 50%?  Cause I think that makes a big difference in how it should be addressed...
932168
i'm more of a spender.\nif i want something i don't care what its worth.\n\nwell atleast i'm being honest
456415
I wouldnt say it was a man's responsibility, but it is traditional!\nPersonally I always have enough money to pay for both of us and will expect to pay for everything, especially on a first date.  I will try to refuse her paying for any part of it on the first date (I'm talking meals, cinema etc rather than flights somewhere - I'm not THAT rich!), unless she really insists on it.  As for more dates after I'd be happy to split the cost of stuff.  And if she wants to treat me thats great!
2107
There is almost always a spending limit.  It is also frowned upon to tell the person who their "secret" santa is until the day you open the gifts.
824586
Yeah..it almost killed me when I was thinking like you....but the problem is that self-control sometimes makes u have a hard time..like when u wanna buy something new and then u know that u should save money instead of buying it...it's a pain in my a.s.s , u know..but saving money also need some kinda plan..I mean..u can't save a great lot of money at once.. u have to start your saving just with a small amount..in this way, you can also save your money and also buy some new accessories for you to some limit..\nGood luck in your plan..if u r going to save some money..!!
80442
This is the same way it happens to a lot of people. It's just the way it happens I guess. But I so it is good to have the extra money than to find yourself in a situation where you cannot afford to pay for what ever happens. I'm thankful everytime I have the money to pay for something major that happens.
541961
Everybody's looking for something, material or otherwise and there's no problem with that.  But, you also have to be able to offer something, material or otherwise, in return. So you have to make the "investment" in yourself as well.  A true Gold Digger is only looking one way and not back at themselves.
109024
Offer good value? wtf? are you sure you are looking for a date? :->
51331
i would say a man spends 200 dollars or more. my man takes me to a seafood dinner, give me a dozen roses, candy and sometimes jewerly can cost more. i spend mabye like 100 dollars. i buy a sexy longerie, card, candy, colgne, and sometimes sexy underwares for him. they are cute they have a hole buy his penis.