Grey areas of sex...has the Welshman made the subject he raises a mature one...?
917928
this will always be a grey area. Some 14 year old girls go out looking like 20 year olds looking for sex. Other 14 year olds are still quite immature and not be at all interested in sex. Its about protecting those who need protecting and although I don't condone underage sex there must sometimes be mitigating circumstances.\nI kind of get where he's coming from but there is always that question in the back of your mind. Can't decide whether he is brave or just stupid for bringing it up at all!
370284
Hmmm, just be careful. I can tell you one thing, he is probably in his 2nd sexual prime at about 40. He might not be as active as you either... LOL. I am 45... Hmmm, where are the rest of the 27 year olds? (Todd)
1058961
Well, young girls may do that but i don't think older women do that as much. We may share little things here and there, but not really deep intimate things. Sure we do talk about sex a lot, but we are more apt to generalize things and not give explicit details. We share more about exes then current partners because we do feel things need to private and initmate. I am sure there are exceptions but i believe most women would agree with me.
1166947
Sounds like you have already made up your mind on this one.  How about educating yourself on the subject first.  JPII was a brilliant man and many times there are very good reasons behind things we do not understand.  Try reading Christopher West's "Theology of the Body" which is a work that discussed JPII's Wednesday audiences where he spoke of the beauty of human sexuality.  (BTW, why would WOMEN need access to condoms, they do not have a penis!)
979168
well you could look at it two ways\n-either he's mature because he respects women and doesnt want to go agains their will\n-or he's immature relationship wise and doesnt really know what he's doing
984201
Any man that respects their girlfriend or even women in general would not do that. This guy is acting like he has to prove something.. he thinks this is cool and thinks of her as soley a sexual object - not a person. He is not appreciating the other things she has to offer - he is just obsessed with this one and feels some sick need to talk about it. If he does it again in front of you, I would interrupt him and tell him it is inappropriate to talk about her in front of her or at all and that sex with someone is and should stay private. \n\nWhen I started to read this, I thought this was a 12 or 13 year old question - seriously, from the way you described the situation. That does not say much for their maturity and it sounds like neither of them should even be in a relationship when they are still that immature at 28. I would let this guy know it is totally inappropriate - maybe he doesn't get it or something. My bf would never do that - ever and no, I have not really seen anything like that. \n\n:o)
330714
take a look at the response i gave to the guy that is 24yrs old and has sex drive issues.
256190
i've dated a guy like that.  he was very shy, but very sweet.  I helped him break his shell, and then ripped his heart apart when we broke up.  I still feel guilty to this day and wish I would of kept him. he was a sweetheart, i was young and flighty.  i learned my lesson, and he had enough experience to move on and find a very nice wife and just started a family. i'm very happy for him.  can't say this will happen but if i had to do it again i would. we both benefitted in the long term.  as for the masturbating, all guys do it, and all to different degrees whether they have had sex or not. it's not so much sexual as a tension release for them or something to clear their minds.  like a journal but they only get as far as sharpening the pencil.
1046699
I'm simply in awe that you were able to wait that long before you decided to take your relationship to the bedroom...\n\nIf you are scared about the weight, woman on top and spooning are good choices.  Same with doggy style.  \n\nTalk with him and find out what he thinks.  Does he have the same concerns as you?  \n\nAlso, I see no reason to post that he is of a different race.  If it doesn't bother you any other time, why should it be a factor now?
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I AM THE DECIDER does not give an informed opinion, how would a virgin (at least with a female) know anything about this!\n\nHe thinks he has a girl friend, but actually since she is repulsed by him, she is not giving it up, so he is used to being in a sexless relationship!
1020240
DUH,  he wants what all guys want, he tryin to get that @@@@@$$$, gurl.\nHe might not necessarily want sex, but stuff does not mean playing a game of tiddlywinks and drinking tea, I'll tell you THAT!\n\nslyguy_hzleyes@yahoo.com
419386
He displays more feminine qualities than masculine ones. I just think he hasn't been exposed to sex, hanging out, just being less uptight. He probably has been sheltered and just hasn't came out of it yet. He needs to though, it is not cool to be this old and not acting mature. As for the females, he might just be intimidated by them, but as for acting like a mature college student, he needs to grow up, he is a bad role model for the children he babysits.
294349
you are describing a serious issue. he has a problem and won't change it or admit to it. The denial is bad enough but there are under laying darker problems.. I'd just dump that..he has a form of sexual addiction.. not a good one either
873299
Is he wealthy? What do you think the attraction is? At 20, she is old enough to be making decisions for herself.....you've given her guidance, but now she has to make that decision.\n\nWhat would worry me is WHY she is attracted to older men. Often it is because of a previous molestation by an older man. Is that a possibility? If so, I would suggest some serious counseling by a professional....NOT clergy type....they would just continue the problem.
487441
Well, if it is love for your mate, then it goes hand-in-hand. Does that bother you?? it is the nature of the beast, no??\nIf you are talking about love of your kids, or parents, then I would guess the conversation doesn't go there.\nWhen I am asked about the man I love, I recall so many good feelings, and my favorite is our sex life. it's just the way it is.
1073010
I'm a Christian, and the question sounds fine to me. Everyone hears about sex eventually, in various circumstances, and our thinking can undergo changes as we gain life experience. The way the question is phrased suggests that the person wants serious (i.e. non-pornographic) answers.
966853
no its anyone interested in sexual things that are out of the so called normal range, old guys wanting to see young girls naked, gays and lesbians to some people , young guys wanting to have sex with women their mothers age, any guy who only wants sex and couldnt care less about you as a human being. pretending you are young is just foolish, perversion is twisting the natural.