i have a friend who gets really orange when she tans, people talk about her behind her back should i say?
920184
i would tell her to stay away from bottle tans.
764420
Tell her just like you told us.....  I like to leave the light on because.....  We do have some expectations of privacy....  It's always best to be honest and straightforward.  Do not tap dance around the issues.  Just be pleasant and respectful and hopefully she will understand.
671121
OK, I'm so pale during the winter my skin is translucent, which means you can see veins in my hands, arms, legs, and even sometimes face. It takes forever to get a tan, and I usually burn first, my knees tan, but my legs don't. Being darker is a blessing, you're so much less likely to get skin cancer. \n\nAs far as passing on this opinion that darker is something less, you have to start with yourself. Breakdown that mental and emotional barrier, wake up everyday, and look in the mirror tell yourself how nice your skin looks today, smooth, warm. Find one thing you really like about your body and compliment yourself on it. I like my eyes, and depending on what bra I'm wearing I'll tell myself how perky the girls look. Well you get the idea.\n\nWhile it's true that personality matters too, you could be taken advantage of emotionally if you're not self-confidant. Appreciating who you are is part of having a good personality.
934237
If sounds like your friend is trying to be someone shes not.....Black or White doesn't really matter!!!\n\nPoint being...she is not acting herself!!! If you value your friendship, you should talk to her about that!!\n\nGood Luck to you too!!
392176
Honestly you don't sound all that respectful yourself.\n Fake compliments?  Not sure what that means..do you mean\n she sucks up to people with things she doesn't mean? Or\n do you mean she is sarcastic in one of those "mean girl"\n ways?  If you don't like her, tell her why. It might do\n her some good. If not..she should be off your back.
292708
you should be cool about it, dont trip you wil get in more peoples nerves if you tell your friend she cant talk to her no more and well your friend will probably wont listen to you and stop beying your friend, just 4 that and if you can tell me y you hate her so much, at ritz4feet@yahoo.com ill be waiting and i can tell you more too.
600471
Hey girl. Ok, first let me say this. I am light skinned and have been called high yellow. And while you are being made fun of for being dark skinned (which I think is beautiful) I was and still do get made fun of for being light skinned.\nI am a lot older than you (add 13 years to your age) and I have a friend who I have been friends with since I was about 7. Do you know that this chick still makes remarks about light skinned people and my color.\nShe has told me on occassions that the only reason guys are into me is because I am light skinned with long hair and that guys are still hung up on that look. How do you think that makes me feel? No one can choose what color/race they are and if you weren't dark skinned, you would be getting made fun of for something else. \nSo as hard as it is, don't even worry about it cuz if people are making fun of you, then they aren't good enough to be your friends anyways. You can't stop it. Just try your best to ignore it and be the best YOU that you can be. Don't try to be someone you are not and don't let them see that it bothers you.\nKeep your beautiful head up.
477274
She might not know she is doing this consciously.  She must really need a lot of attention and this is how she feels she can get some.  Just calmly and rationally ask her about some details that you heard from others that she didn't tell you about.  Unfortunately, this will catch up with her and she will reap what she is sowing.
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You can only tell her that you think it's wrong and just stay away. The things that you say she's going to do are dangerous not just for herself but for you as well. Let her make her own mistakes and be there for her when she realizes it's a mistake. Just remember you can't change people and if she pushes you to join her in a shoplift or drug related activity you can get into just as much trouble as she could and that she's not being a true friend. You're a good person to worry about your friend the way you do unfortunatley she's going to have to figure this out for herself. You've already told her how you feel and that's all you can do.
593324
you should tell her but not be mean about it..its better than her lookin like a fool.
33449
If you don't feel that you can be honest with them about how you feel, I think you should find other activities to do, getting too busy to support your friendship. Friendships will dry up, if you don't water them regularly with visits, phone calls and notes. If you are too busy to fit her into your schedule, she'll either ask you up front what's up or she'll slowly move on to someone else. If she asks, that's your cue to be honest, even though it might hurt. Without knowing how she "makes" you feel bad, it's hard to know if you're not bringing on some of this treatment yourself, actually encouraging her that it's ok to treat you this way. Some people think it's better to have a "bad" friend than no friend at all. If she is truly a "toxic" friend, move on to more positive people. In time, she'll fade away. I would rather that she knows exactly what's causing you to not want to be around her. Maybe she doesn't have a clue that she's treating you badly. Maybe she does this to everyone. If not, you have to ask yourself why you? Letting her know will give her the option of changing...or not. If you have body odor, and everyone avoids you, not wanting to be around you, wouldn't you want to be told? You might think everyone hates you or maybe doesn't like your clothes or something. No one has the right to treat you badly. You give them that right. You can take it away. <*)))><
940992
Just tell her it was a rumor, and that she should not be mad at you. If she's a good friend, she will understand.  Rumors get started and can spiral out of control, unless you take care of them early on.
979350
They pretend coz they don't want to be called racist. Coz that makes you feel bad when people say that. My friend called me racist once and i got so cut. So yeah no one wants to look like a predjudice pic. Yeah that's why. Also some people feel sorry for blacks coz they know that they get treated different. Yup that's the most honest answer your gonna get. By the way all you people saying she is rasist and all that I think yous are correct but that's kinda slack. Its her opinion and she should be able to express it and question it. hmph....
868540
she may not feel comfortable telling you, or may feel like you will tell someone else.  She may also feel a little silly discussing it with you because you're younger.  It doesn't mean that she's trying to hide anything, she may just think that her friends can relate better because they're older or have already had situations that you haven't experienced yet.
1096831
Wow!  If you talk like this about a friend, I 'd hate to see how you diss your enemies!  Friends are supposed to be supportive, non-judmental and not broadcast the other friend's weaknesses.  The answer is to just speak privately to her.\n\nBe tactful and tell your friend that you are worried about her and why.  Please do not call her a "whore" or not "good looking enough" as you will hurt her feelings and close her mind to anything constructive you might have to say.  Not to mention that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and your opinion may not be the same as someone else.  You might want to tactfully suggest that she seek counseling to find out why she is on a self-destruct course.  There may be some driving force or emotional issue in her past that you know nothing about.\n\nHowever, she is an adult at 19 and is entitled to make her own choices and mistakes in her life so if she rejects what you say, you have to accept it.
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You have no way of knowing whether what she is saying is the truth, you'll just have to trust her.Need to realize in life, no matter how close you are to someone, you'll never really know what they're thinking, that's just the way life is. I don't think any of her "excess skin" ,as you put it, is from too much physical recreation. It's probably something genetic, and if it doesn't bother her{like in a painful, medical way} it shouldn't bother you. A couple things women pick up on quick is  jealousy and insecurity, and it's generally not perceived by them as positive traits. It sounds to me like you should have ONE long talk about this with her, and then drop it,'cause if you keep bringing it up, she's going to drop you.
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It depends on the kind of facial change you see in her whenever you are complimented.  If it is a frown or a pout, she may not be very happy about the complimens you receive which is a sign of envy or jealousy and this is not good.  A true friend should be happy about the good things that her friends have.  Analyze her friendship.  Look at her good side.  If the good outnumbers the bad, just don't mind her.  Help her to be pleasant and if there's something in her that she should change, help her to find that out.  At the end, if her personality improves with your help, your friendship will blossom and both of you will get side by side compliments from the peoople around you.  True friendship will be the fruit of your understanding and helping her.  You will not lose a friend but in stead you will gain a true friend.