If a guy is clear about not wanting to have kids from the very start – should he pay child support.?
927896
No, not so.\nYou cannot disclaim a liability. You can only disclaim a benefit.\nIn fact you cannot disclaim child support even in a prenuptial agreement.\nThe reason for this is that the child support is in the "best interest of the child", thus neither a father nor a mother not both can disclaim it.
1056792
You are not going to change his mind.  If he is not willing to marry for the sake of your child, your personal wishes are not of any consequence.  After all, how much worse can it get than changing diapers?
364521
i would say no....if you want child support, come here and apply for citizenship....and then eventually you can pay taxes to help give back to the country.
197608
good luck!  lol... it is not easy to get out paying child support... if you have a job, you are paying... that is the way it works... be responsible, and pay!
767815
I personally don't believe that anyone should be forced to care for a child... and there is some bias in the women's direction due to them carrying the baby.  But I don't think it's fair that men can be expected to pay for the child if the women chooses not to abort...  That's a really tough call, though, because you don't want to take away the responsiblity of either party and provide excuses for more unwanted pregnancies....   hmmm...\n\nKeeping the legs crossed wins again!
854344
I say good for Florida. Women shouldn't be allowed to just pick a guy and make him pay child support. If she doesn't know who the father is another man should not be punished for the fact that she sleeps around. \n\nAlso why should a man be responsible for another man's child? \n\nChild advocates really need to step into reality. The law is not in the best interest of mothers or children, that is just ridiculous. Men and women who are the non custodial parents really get stiffed in these rights. It is about time that the child support system catches up. \n\nWomen like these disgust me. They dupe decent men into paying for children that are not there's because they are trying to do a good thing. They are the reason why man men don't want to claim a child when a women comes up and says this is you child. \n\nI support it whole heartedly. I don't think a man who is not the biological father should have to be responsible financially for a child that is not there own.
297426
I love the idea. If you can't support a child, you can't have them. Sounds cold and logical.
557753
Well, a tough situation for you, but you should tell him that you are pregnant with his child only because it's fair for him to know. If he chooses to be there in support of the child that's great!!! If he is not, then you have to decide for the child what's going to be best for him/her and if that means getting money from this guy then that is what it will take. Good Luck!!!!!
667613
Indeed. But then again, it depends on if his children are already having a lot of terrible behavioral issues and if their mother is woman enough to try and be civil with the new woman in Dad's life.\n\nI don't instantly disqualify men for having kids, but I do dig a little deeper to find out if there are any red flags. There's no sense in getting invovled with a man with children if you're not going to be in it for the long haul.\n\nI believe that like women who are single moms, single Father's are a sacred thing. Don't start trampling on the hearts of our youth...that's a whole different kind of bad karma.\n\nbest of luck!
868550
It depends...a person of integrity would feel a moral responsibility to share in the commitment of raising a child they helped bring into the world. \n\nSome people (men and women BOTH) just have no ethics or character and they simply walk away clean. An "on to the next one" attitude.\n\nThen, an innocent child is left without a mom or dad for guidance, love, and yes- Financial support.\n\nA court order did Zero for me, my ex moved to TX & worked "under the table" to avoid child support garnishment and the IRS taxes. \n\nFunny, I was hurt more that he left my son to grow up fatherless  than I was about the money he never sent. My son's 16th b'day w/ his new drivers license...and not a dad in sight to share his joy or explain cars, nothing. Just Absolute SILENCE from the father he SO wanted acceptance and approval from.\n\n... it breaks my heart knowing my son internalizes that rejection- every single day- and I am helpless to fix it.
857099
If you trully believe 100% that this man is the father of your child then whatever happens I would make him pay!\n\nHunt him down, drag him through the courts and make the bastard pay for his child.\n\nHe can move to Timbuctoo if he likes, I would still make him pay. he can deny responsibility and say he's not the father as much as he likes, but I'd still make him pay. This man is threatening to move/demand DNA tests to intimidate you- he's trying to discredit you as a woman not to mention what he's doing to his child and thats very unfair. Why should you care what happens to someone who stoops as low as this? Why should you care if he struggles or not- He is in the wrong not you! \n \nI'm sure you don't want or need his money but that is not the point. He has a responsibility to this child and even if he refuses to accept he has a moral duty of care (which is very convenient don't you think?) he certainly has a financial responsibility which he should not be allowed to walk away from.\n\nIf I were you, I would demand that he TAKE his DNA test- let him prove that he IS the father of your child and allow him to look like the complete heartless arsehole he really is- What have you got to lose honey?\n\nRemember- you are the one holding the baby, you are the one who is facing up to the loving responsibility of being a good mother and you are the only one who can hold this man accountable for his actions.\n\nSorry, but I do not agree that ANY man who has children should be allowed to simply walk away from their legal responsibilities.\nNever mind the fathers rights- what about the rights of their child? \n\nHunt him down- get everything- make him pay and if you really don't need the money, then put it in trust for your son so that he can use it when he is older.\n\nThere is no shame in making this man pay.. after all he felt no shame in sleeping with you to create a life- he must now be held accountable for his actions!\n\nPlease don't let him away with this- you have the right to be able to life your life and bring up your son with a decent standard of living-the money will help.\nI think that you have had a very lucky escape- Men like this are the scum of the earth and you deserve better!\n\nGood luck.
249029
Child support from the father never stops...  no matter what, unless a judge agrees to it and they almost never do because reducing child support is never "in the best interest of the children" and it decreases the amount of money the states get in support of child support collections from the federal government.  The father can go to jail, lose his job, be sent overseas to fight our wars, even die.  The mother can cheat on him with 50 other guys, get remarried, not allow the father to see his children, move 3000 miles away, etc.  It never stops, including penalties and interest when it's not paid.  After a cetain amount of time, the father goes to jail also if its not paid.  And it's never dependent on the mother fulfilling or not fulfilling her divorce obligations.  Here's a couple of recent articles:\n\nhttp://www.woodtv.com/Global/story.asp?S=4449531&nav=0Rce\n\nhttp://www.townhall.com/opinion/columns/phyllisschlafly/2006/02/27/187993.html\n\nAren't you glad your a man and for women's equal rights?  Women now have all the choices while men now have all the responsibilities.\n\nAnd by the way, if you move in with a single mother and act like her child's father, she can take you to court when you break up and sue you for child support because you have now effectively become the child's father if the child has no original father (like if he died or she has no idea who the real father is).\n\nWant to hear about a real jaw dropper?  Adult women have statutorily raped young, teenage boys, gotten pregnant, had the child's baby, sued the child in court for child support, and won!\n\nDon't believe me?  Check it out.  Spend some serious time at the website www.mensactivism.org.  That site will also help you become aware of other men's rights problems and organizations and projects and battles.\n\nIf you haven't yet been irrepairably brainwashed by the feminists and think we men should all "take it like a man", I invite you to become a men's rights activist.  Once you start reading more and more on this subject, you won't believe how badly we men are being screwed these days.  And when it happens to you, it will be too late because most of the time, any new laws will not apply to circumstances that happened before the new laws are instituted.\n\n-------------\nTo Sascy2001:  Concerning your comment as follows: \n\n>"In that case you should go back and fight more caus if they cant pay how thye feeding your kid"\n\nHere's a recent example of a father who changed jobs to one less demanding that paid less than before and the court set his child support based on much higher income because he had the "potential" to earn more:\n\nhttp://www.news.com.au/story/0,10117,18367862-421,00.html\n\nI realize this is in Australia but it's regularly done here in the U.S. as well.  Furthermore, if a guy loses his job completely or goes to jail, how is the guy supposed to afford a lawyer to fight his case in court?
569715
You don't have to pay child support if you have the children!  He'd probably get you for alimony though!  I know it's a tough situation.  I stay home with our children and I've thought about leaving my husband twice.  It's hard but sometimes you have to bite the bullet and make even more sacrifices to make life better for you and your children.  Your children probably would be upset, but they would eventually get over it.  As they get older, you would be able to better explain the situation.
252744
He has to fill out financial forms to determine the amount of child support you will receive.  Make sure he puts down all his income....
1048064
if he signs over the rights he no longer has to pay child support you have to be in agreeance to the only reason i would say yes if you were married and your spouse wanted to adopt don't let him out of it so easily that's his child.
851922
There are some strange guys that think having children is a sign of their virility and of their dominance over women.  Like I said, strange.\n\nThere are some guys that think family (and that means kids) is great.\n\nThere are some guys that don't understand the connection between sex and kids; oops, she pregnant agin - how'd she do dat?\n\nSome women want kids more than some men.\n\nThere are guys who don't want kids.  They're out there. You just have to mean it when you say it; chances are, if you're young, that you'll start wanting kids when you get older.  So, like I said, you better mean it when you say it.\n\nYou don't really need to get married if you're not having kids.  That doesn't mean that you can't be in a committed monogamous relationship; but until you are older and sure that you both don't want kids, why get married?
1155448
OH yes i believe that a man who is going to father a child should have to support that child, there is no way out of it, if you are big enough to lay down and have sex then you should be big enough to take the responsibility of what comes from having sex and fathering a child, im having a problem getting my sons sperm donor to pay up child support, because he doesn't want to take on the responsibility of what brought on both of our actions, i grew up and have taken care of my child in every way, i had dreams of becoming a singer, now im more interested in my child than my dream, i dont now what i would do without my son he is the best thing that came out of that relationship. no my son doesnt know anything about the dickhead who fathered him,but my husband has helped me raise him and is wanting to adopt but the "sperm" donor wont let him, i strongly agree with the child support laws. and they should be in-forced at all cost.not once has he ever tried to make contact with our son, or to see if he needed anything, hes a freaking dead beat dad