have you ever had a affair and if so why? have you been hurt by someone cheating?
927922
When people first meet they are each other's whole world. Many times as time goes by ,this desire for each other becomes shoved aside.Life becomes routine, and the sparks that once ignited a fire are allowed to die out. An affair creates that spark again, it returns the person to the reason we are all here. Love is first in their lives again. They feel special once more. The desire to make love is first and foremost the most important thing in their lives again. This is why people cheat.
588779
Been married 26 years and have never cheated once.  Never thought about it once, never been a position where I was tempted to even once.  When parents raise you correctly with high morals, cheating is not really much of a temptation.
153438
when my son's wife cheated.First time she cheated,after she did alot of pleading for forgiveness and swore she would never do it again. He forgave her. After all he did love her. Two years later when she did it again he said thats it she got it in her blood. When you love someone "YOU DON'T CHEAT!" He said he deserves better. He divorced her.
781845
I never have but I wouldn't expect too much out of a online affair. You really don't know anything about the person. Everything could be a lie.
333771
I've been engaged 4 times in my life and each time it was the girl that cheated.As for all of the relationships,no not all only a few from time to time :)
643168
It's my opinion that it doesn't matter whether it's a woman or a man...I, myself, would not get serious or even date someone I knew had not be faithful.  Even if that person was unfaithful only once.  I could never trust them.  It takes a lot of &*$^%* to cheat!  I've been the victim of one who cheated on me.  We were married.  It seems to be a thrill that they seek, even when the consequences of getting caught could devastate their life.  Who would be stupid enough to take that chance?   I don't understand.
66143
From my experience with a friend, guys feel she is cheating cause he is.  The guilt and thought that she is doing the same thing grows strong and he shows those emotions.
642197
I have never cheated but have heard that the main reason a woman cheats is because she is not fully happy at home. Something is missing, which could be a lot of things...
626111
I haven't personally, but I know a few people who have. I think it is okay as long as you are being honest and up front with the person. One of my friends met this guy who wanted to buy her tons of things and take her out to fancy dinners all of the time. She didn't want to be intimate with him and she told him that. He was okay with it. He just enjoyed having someone to spend his money on.\n\nMy other friend was being dishonest however. She was seeing a guy who bought her a car and let her move into his apartment. He told her that he loved her and that he wanted to marry her. She told me that she didn't love him and that she couldn't see herself marrying him but that she hadn't told him that. I think that is completely unacceptable and I don't know how anyone in good conscience could do that.\n\nThat's just my opinion of course.
640347
is it fair or does it make you feel better?\n yes its fair because it makes her feel better about his infidelity. well if you didn't want a kick in the balls, you shouldn't have cheated. haha
664201
Emotional cheating hurts just as much. But, I don't have enough information to tell if what you did was emotional cheating. \n\nYou have a decision to make... you can stay married and miserable. You can try to get your husband to counseling, stay married, and have a chance at being happy. You can get divorced and try to go back to this guy and find that he wants you, too. You can get divorced, go back to this guy, and find that he doesn't want you. Or, you can get divorced and leave both of them in the past. \n\nI recommend that you try to get to counseling with your husband. Think about it... if he wasn't the way he is, and if you weren't the way you are, then wouldn't you be a lot happier? Wouldn't there be a good chance that you wouldn't think about the other guy so much?\n\nThere are bigger problems in your marriage than a guy that you still think about.
392664
I have had an open relationship and things turned out to be a real mess!  Jealousy soon took over and then everything fell apart!  So, I know for a fact that I cannot have an open relationship!:)
410878
That's a very interesting question. \nOr maybe it is my answer that is interesting.\nIn my family.......none have ever cheated...no divorces or cheating.\nFriends: I am forty three and I think I only have four friends that I know of that have been cheated on.
839745
Nope.\n\nOnce a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater..............
1045386
I've been married 36 years and have NEVER cheated on my wife and I've been approached a lot of time by women who tried to get me to. A few times it was really hard not to but when you truly love someone you do the right thing.
1040851
yes, you may not be physically cheating but its no different to have an emotional affair, I would stop all contact with this other person that you have feelings for and start concentrating on your spouse and try and rekindle the feelings that you had in the beginning of your relationship before things get too far and you cant take it back.
1001882
Well, that depends on how 'emotional affair' is defined.... but I believe that I have had one.  \n\nMine seemed to be 2 two sided at first but became increasingly 1 sided as time went on.  It also went from only emotions to becoming physical, which made my emotional attachment even stronger.  \n\nI don't think I really loved the man, but I would have done anything to keep him in my life.  In fact, if I had the opportunity, I would still take him back.\n\nI think an emotional affair begins because someone, like myself, has been so emotionally deprived for so long that they react in the extreme the first time someone feeds into what they are so hungry for.