I am being paranoid or has he cheated? PLEASE help?
917462
i kicked my ex out after taking to much of his controlling ways, lies and unreasonable behaviour in hope he would realise his mistakes, he acted differently for a few weeks, i took him back to discover one week after the split he jumped in bed with a nasty druggie who lived on the next street for two weeks +. we stayed together after that for almost a year but things were never the same, i wasn't turned on by him anymore as i saw him as 'dirty' which made me feel unclean. we have now permanently broke up and i can't wait to get a nice healthy sex life back on track with next man!
791990
If he hasn't given you any indication that he's cheating on you then I would worried that he was sick is hurt. Don't let your pride or stubbornness stop you from doing what is right.
503352
Sounds like a case of him feeling guilty for what he was doing so he makes up something to blame you for to cover it up.  You should confront him and find out why what he is doing with this girl isn't considered cheating.
930363
Ask some friends if they think he is cheating on you.  Confront your boyfriend and see how he responds.  Of course, you don't want to tell him who told you.  Check out his body language and try to gauge his sincerity if he says he didn't.  If someone's telling you what you really want to hear, it's hard to tell if they're being honest or lying, so watch carefully and pay attention to what your instincts tell you.  This friend of his might have been telling you the truth, but he might have been lying to you in hopes that you'll break it off with his friend and he'll have a chance with you himself.
368271
could it be that you have another problem that leads to your distrust of him? Guess we need more details and facts to determines if he's cheating. I mean just talking on the phone doesn't prove anything. you should look for unaccounted time (working late, times he can't tell you about things he's done) before fighting with him about it. \n\nif you're going to ask questions. be smart about it and make it casual. don't push.
1180366
From the information you have provided I suspect you may be imagining things.\n\nYou have been together for 4 years but are still not married or living together. Is this yours or your boyfriend's choice? If your boyfriend's then perhaps his lack of commitment to the relationship is prompting these feelings that he is having an affair.\n\nYou have only given two examples of his suspect behaviour, the second of which is extremely weak. There is nothing in the SMS message that indicates it was addressed to a woman never mind a women he is having an affair with. The fact that he referred to you as his girlfriend makes me sceptical that it would have been to a woman he is romantically involved with.\n\nCatching him out in a lie about his meeting is a little more worrying. However you indicate that he had an excuse - was his excuse reasonable?\n\nPossibly your woman's intuition is just your subconscious telling you that you are no longer satisfied with the relationship and your boyfriend's lack of commitment and you are looking for a way out.\n\nDo you have any close friends that you can talk to about your concerns? They will probably be able  to give you a better opinion than anyone here.
394254
Ask him. By his response, you can tell if he is lying or not. Look for signs that he is cheating. He is loving you or avoiding you? Follow your heart, but don't be afraid to play the field too!
647357
he is either cheating on you or he thinks you are... you can stick it out or you can not... its really up to you.
749634
Maybe hes the one whos cheating thats why he keeps asking cuz he feels guilty.You should ask him.*
463395
NO WAY!  He is a cheater.  If not now, some day.  Look out.
476832
you can tell if he is cheating on you, if he is acting strange when you ask him questions, if he isnt spending as much time with you as  he use too spend. only you can tell if she has changed since you started your relationship. if you are questioning his honesty now, then maybe he is cheating on you.
877252
Just be patient for now. Don't say anything right now because you'll just come off as the psycho clingy girlfriend. It's entirely possible that he is just a flirty guy and everything they've seen is harmless. Tell them to keep their eyes open. If he actually does do something with another girl (or even if you just hear a rumor, etc) then you have a right to ask him about it. Thus far he hasn't done anything to deserve your distrust, has he?
599989
It's all about trust.  He told you nothing is going on, so believe him.  It really doesn't sound like he is cheating, or else why would he tell you who he was on the phone with in the first place?  You can be sure he loves you by his actions.  Taking on a baby that isn't his own?  Wanting to name your child??  That sounds like love to me!  He may have loved this girl at one point but he has moved on.  He has learned to love you more than he loved her.  Everything is okay.  Explain to him that you got plain old jealous and reacted wrong.  And then go take him out for ice cream ;)
540159
If you think he's cheating, then one of two things is possible:\n\n1. He is cheating.\n2. You have a low self-esteem and are overly suspicious.\n\nEither way your relationship is in trouble.  If he's cheating, dump him and don't look back.  If the problem is your insecurity, then dump him and fix yourself before you complicate your life with the eventualitites of a relationship.
646505
The reason is that he is probably still cheating on you. And thinks you maybe doing the same. It's called a guilty conscience.
652327
when you are asking this question, he probably is! Ditch him. you shouldn't be asking this if you felt secure!
138079
i think he's gotta commitment problem. if u go w/ him, he shows signs of being a potential cheater. go 4 someone else! u can do better.