I discovered my best friend is gay (he doesn't know I know) and we are going on vacation next week!!  Help!!
923522
OK, lets look at your question...  "while I was housesitting this week I accidentally ran across undeniable evidence that he has a boyfriend".\n\nNo, you did not "accidentally" run across "evidence", you were being nosy. To justify you being nosy you then turn around and say "he's been LYING to me over and over for months and months". If you feel so hurt and angry, how do you think he will feel when he finds out about what you have done while housesitting? Yes, you should confront him...  about you being judgmental and not being the true friend that you have pretended to be to him.
961495
Same thing happened with me and I mentioned this really great resteraunt in the area that I had never been to before but everyone had raved about and he mentioned that we should go sometime. It worked and we're married, (not saying it has to go that far, but you get the idea) Just mention something like that and see if he bites. If that doesn't work then talk about some 'guy' you've been talking to (whether he's real or not doesn't matter) and see how he reacts. This way you can get a good feel for where he is at in your relationship without risking anything. But if you feel like you couldn't just be friends with him if he didn't like you romantically you might as well risk it.
410027
Be supportive. It sounds like he needs to talk. Let him know that you're still his friend.\n\nExpect that this might be an adjustment for you, as he becomes more out. It'll bring changes for him, too.\n\nIf he's having issues, see if there's a group locally that can help, such as a gay youth group.
192917
What you need to do is get together with him and discuss a plan.  Now if its because he is far away then decide when will he be moving closer or plan a set schedule of when you can get together and visit.  If he is close then you must decide on a schedule of what days you guys will hang out on.  If you dont let him know that not seeing him is bothering you he will never know... trust me Im a guy and we think differently.  And eventually you will both lose feelings for each other and it wont be at the same time so one of you will defintely get their feelings hurt.  So in short, Make A Plan. (mutual plan that is)
1121451
plan a group outing. stay safe and dont do it alone. for all you know he could be a creep, and hurt you.
1116532
well, how good do you know him? if you know him well, then just put something cute! it's summer and you should enjoy it! get a fling! go on vacation! celebrate!
610136
Bring the matter up gently, at a time when you two are alone so she won't feel uncomfortable speaking candidly.  Let her know from the beginning that no matter how she lives her life, you value her friendship and are not going to abandon her (as I HOPE you won't), but if it turns out that she is gay and has been making some advances, you need to tell her that, while you support her in what she thinks is the right way to live her life, you do not think that's the right choice for you.  Good luck, and remember friendships are REALLY important!
1182254
I have told friends personal info over the years.  Nothing like "I was rapped as a small boy" type things.  More along the lines of "wow your mom is banging dude!"  They took it pretty well, and after a few days the swelling on my face went down, so everyone was happy :)  Hope that helped you.  But if you are looking into something like "I'm gay" just go ahead and tell them.  What's the worst that can happen?  He won't like you anymore?  Well, if he is a homophobic and you are gay, well them he wasn't a good friend anyway and you are better off without him.  Have I helped yet?  I hope so.
387884
If he's really your friend than he wouldn't care after you tell him you're gay, but try to talk to him and tell him how you feel..... Just don't push it though, Just try to be more of a friend and don't show any sighns that you like him, I have the same problem that's why I'm telling you this, Is the first time that I felt atracted to a guy (even though he atracts me as a women would atract me) I been with alot of girls and still like them, but I have the same problem you do, he's my friend, at first I couldn't stop thinking of him and called him sometimes, I got nervous when around him, but never seem to get a reaction from him, so I stop calling, still talk to him at work and I try to be more sure of myself and be more confident, now he gets nervous arond me and ask me if I want to smoke outside with him....We have a really good comversation and he trusts me more, He invited me for his b-day party, and even though I work that day I was willing to work 18 hours straight on another day just to get that day of, what I mean is be a good friend and more confident about yourself, don't think too much of the situation and just go with flow... I don't even know if he's bi, bacause him and I use to go out with the same girl, I just found that out! But he's a nice person and a good friend, and I'm basically showing him that he has a strong firend by his side that is there for him and winning his trust, and when you like someone just think that is not always you, is more about that person really.... But good luck with him though!
515141
That is a very hard situation. I suppose if she is your best friend she you should tell her that you are gay. If she reacts badly... then she isn't really your friend. It will hurt if she gets upset but it is worse to keep the truth from her, friendships are built on honesty.\n     If she does take it well then ask her if she has ever felt that way. If she claims not to then you can probably leave it alone and not risk messing things up. But if she has then tell her the truth flat out. Or just tell her the whole truth either way.\n     I have a friend who came out to me about a year ago. At first I was upset that she had not told me sooner. But after I saw how much happier she is now with that out in the open I accepted it. \n     Just tell her, she deserves to know.
162186
If you havent found a 'lady friend' to talk to how the hell do you know your gay? I believe 'bi-curious' is the word you should be using, darling!!\nPeaceout!!!
437684
Get him alone and take your clothes off. I guarantee you will have his full and undivided attention. (unless he is totally gay)
621129
poor you, well if he likes you ask him why? if you're not gay tell him. he will get over it some time, i hope!
225355
Are you Gay and in love with your best friend? If not, what's "brokeback" about it? Being that this is your bestfriend you are speaking of, ask if they are gay.  Then ask yourself if it would matter.
458994
My advice play it safe, and just become friends with him at first. Then once hes comfortable with having you around start talking about a gay issue and watch his responce, try and do it when there is no one else around. That will be a dead give away to his orientation.  I dont have a lot of experiance with this, but its the advice i ALWAYS get.
379687
it's really hard to tell someone's sexual preference these days, as i'm sure you know. i've never had to deal with this kind of situation before so my advice might be a lil spotty. i think you should just try and be friends with him for awhile at first and see if you can tell by just talkin to him. if that doesn't work and you feel comfortable enough then you should ask him. just be patient and see what happens. it could just turn out that he'll be a really good friend but not gay. you never know
949697
If your not gay, you simply tell him. He'll be hurt, but he should know the truth.