how can I prevent a mom of 3 young kids with a job in the high $50's from joining the Army?
923476
umm what right is it of yours to tell her how to live her life?  how would you like someone to tell you not to take a job or not to date a certain woman?  you'd be offended.\n\nif you are a true friend, you'd support her choice of what she wants to do in HER LIFE.\n\nlive your own life and butt out of hers.  least she is doing something for her country.....what are you doing for your country?
765511
I have been involved with this in past months, and the best that i can recall the wife can show, or give proof that she will not be a financial charge on the public, i think that's all it comes down to, they want to make sure you nor your husband will be in a state sponsored soup line or anything like that you know what I'm saying, i think they will understand the facts and that is what they want the facts, add any information about how he pays his bills at this time, and credit records and that will  help, also what he has gone to school for a doctor or what if it will really pay well later on i think they will feel he must be responsible to have stayed with the training this long, just be honest and that will help more than anything i think, good luck
700688
The service man usually has insurance. This could total $50-$100 thousand dollars. If the lady has kids, they have money coming to them until they turn 21 or get married, whichever comes first. She and the children continue to have military health insurance until the kids are 21 or until she turns 65 or get married to a non-service member. There is some money she gets from social security and a little for burial expenses.\n\nThis only applies to service members who are married or have dependents. If not, the parents usually get an insurance check from the government.\n\nTX Guy\nRetired US Air Force
598744
Perhaps the families in question should read the fine print before they borrow money from a "Payday Loan" type of lender. Better yet, being more responsible with your financial matters usually helps out alot. These businesses while charging way too much for their services and preying on those who are in need of quick cash, have the right to operate this way. The charges for their services are not "secret" and if cost is a concern then I would recommend asking the right questions, i.e. How much??? \n\nI am in the Army and know that it is not necessary to starve unless you  can't keep your unnecessary spending in check. As for deployments? I am inclined to ask how all the increased family separation pay, the hazardous duty pay, increased BAS and BAH and the other support benefits are not enough? \n\nShould the government help protect these poor poor souls? Yes, by strengthening our education system and releasing graduates into the world that have enough sense to find their way home at the end of the day. \n\nDo you really think that we need to be protected from our own choices? Go to payday loans....Choice. Spend responsibly and cut back when necessary....Choice. Frankly I think it is sad that you would ask for the governments help in the form of limiting freedoms and in the same breath bring up our military who if you are unaware, are charged with protecting freedom. \n\nI agree that these businesses are wrong to prey upon those in need. In fact I think their practices are unscrupulous and un-American, but their right to charge what ever they wish for THEIR product or service is theirs to cherish, appreciate or take advantage of. It's too bad that they choose to take advantage rather than to contribute, but that's life. Get your affairs in order the old fashioned way. Don't live outside your means and quit expecting someone else to pick you up when you throw yourself to the ground. I for one can more than relate to having debt issues and tight times, but I also know who is to blame and exactly who will have to pull me out when I find my self in such a place.....ME.
861692
Okay the link is disabled.  So I have no idea what she sent or what the deal was...\n\nIt's better to send items to troops through a non profit that knows who is in need and who isn't.  This way you are sure to get things people want or need.\n\nMany service people do NOT get things in the mail and are grateful for mail and items.  But it is still better to go through an organization that handles these things in order to be sure your gifts will be used and appreciated.  Solicitation or advertisement isn't appropriate.  \n\nIf you have a friend or family member stationed in one of these areas ASK them what they need or what is allowed.  Sometimes they just don't have the room for what people try to send.  or they aren't able to tote it around country if on manuevers!  Don't be offended.  It is better to ask either their parents/wife/etc...  if you want to make it a surprise.\n\nIf you or anyone reading this wants to pick a non profit that supports the military you can follow this link to a list of places that include phone card donation, commissary and bx gift certificates, christmas presents etc.. to the service people who will appreciate it.\n\nhttp://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art9421.asp
1044223
Try mil.com, that might help or they can tell you any other ways to do it. Good Luck.
911576
doubt you can do that.most are already retired and i'm guessing the rest already might have tried to serve in the armed forces and were rejected for some reason. Or maybe they served already and didn't renew their service contract,so they shouldn't be forced to serve if they don't wish to.unless of course congress does reinstate the draft and then everyone is fair game.
1120521
my mom did over 20 years ago.  This is the worst mistake she ever did according to her.  Yeah it was great raising us and she actually did a wonderful job.  Today however she realised that she we are all grown up and she is all alone with nothing to do.  She is trying to get her carrier back but its proofing a lot difficult.  My advice to you would be to do it but have some part time work particularly at work.  Volunteer in orgnazation and go back to school.  This way when the kids are all grown up,  you would have to butt into their business in order for you to have something to do.  You will resume you career pefectly.  But remember the final decision lies with you.
878638
Some jobs continue to pay their deployed reservists and some do not.  All they are obligated to do is to hold your position, the pay is completely up to them.  If you do deploy there are several ways to seek relief.  First, the Soldiers and Sailors relief act may be able to help you avoid losing your posessions.  In the Air Force we have an agency called Airmen and Family Readiness Center (formerly Family Support Center).  Your branch of service has a similar agency to help military members and their families in times of need...seek them out.  There are laws in place to help protect our defenders of freedom from this type of action.  My suggestion would be to contact your First Sergeant and give him/her the chance to work this for you.  I am a First Sergeant myself and I can tell you we have resources to help.  I don't want to promise things won't work out for you, but I would be confident that I could help if one of my members brought this forward, even if the answer is that you do not deply (which may be the case).
335566
Start making her pay for her own share.There is no reason why she cannot support herself,since she is obviously employed by the job you got her and her other job.As for her getting mad,make a tally sheet of what she has cost you in car stuff,meals,groceries etc and if she starts getting snarky about it, hand her the list and tell her she either pays up or shuts up.I know it's tough, but she is walking all over you and you need to put a stop to it.As for the job, either talk to HR or your boss.I know it's tough to do, believe me, but things will be better in the long run.And if there are still job issues, worse case scenario:talk to a lawyer about discrimination.Good luck!
187923
Take her to the Maury show on one of those "I have a secret shows". Ask her to marry you, act like that's the secret. After she says yes than tell her about the kids. She will have to accept them then, the crowd and Maury will help you.
958125
No, It probably goes more like this: Jenna, Barbara, don't worry about any draft. I can get you two girls into the Texas Air National Guard. It'll be a lot of fun. I can recommend a few good bars to party at that are real closed to the base. But while you're down there, I don't want you two girls to be out drinking and hanging out with Mary Cheney, she might try something with you two. Don't' worry about a thing, I can also show you how you can just walk away and not have to serve your entire hitch with the Guard.
644226
First of all If she calls you the b-word I would give her a warning saying, you call me that their will be hell to pay. On the money, just don't give it to her, she might ask for handouts but don't give any simple as that..let her complain..just laugh at her. Lastly, don't get jealous about your parents, they are your parents don't forget that.
1115491
Why don't you just shoot her now?  Don't send your daughter to boot camp; sounds like you've been that route and look how your kid came out- try something new- talk to a real counselor and find out what it is she really needs.
753370
She should stay in.  Basic will probably be the hardest thing she'll have to do.  After she gets out, she can go anywhere as a supply clerk.  Probably won't go to a combat area unless she requests it.\nSo she gets stationed somewhere states side.  It's like a 9-5 job most of the time.  She come in, do her job, and go home.  She'll get housing, so you can join her.\nIt'll pay for her school to be a veterinarian.  Hell, she can go to some night classes and get all the prerequisites outta the way before she gets out.\nHowever, if she really wants out and she is in basic...all she has to do is ask.  They will try to talk her out of it.  Probably bad mouth her.  Call her names.  Etc.  But they will give her a general discharge..or a less than honorable discharge I think they called it.\nWe had someone go awol while I was in basic and they just mailed him his less than honorable.  They don't want to spend too much money on someone and just have them leave.  They may sound tough on her...but they will let her leave if she wants.  Have her talk to the military pastor/preacher.  He can help her. \nOn that note...make sure she wants to and she's not just echoing what you want...this less than honorable discharge will follow her everywhere.
676235
I'm sorry to hear your marriage is coming to an end. I only wish I had taken care of mine while I was still active in the Navy. Would have costed me much less. Go to your JAG and have them prepair all the paperwork for free. Then file it with the county which should cost you no less then $200.00. Good luck and unless you have kids, you should tell her to look for a new place.
159379
Your state should have some programs. If shes not making over the allowed limit...BC/BS has plans if they dont consider this to be pre-existing?? Good-Luck