hello i am 14 and i had a fone and my dad took of me and said?
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phone use costs money, if you are not paying for it, then you have a responsibility not to use it frivolously.  by having a "secret" phone that your dad did not know you had shows you are irresponsible and immature.  grow up ... using your age as an excuse to act irresponsibly is not acceptable, you know what you are doing is worng because you tried to deceive your dad, lying is wrong at any age.  Stop talking on the phone and concentrate on learning to spell.
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If you are living at home, you do not have the right to privacy!  You likely are not providing the home, the utilities, the groceries, the upkeep and maintenance or anything else associated with the home.  Further, your parents are probably purchasing most, if not all, of your clothing, make up, accessories and on and on.  Do you drive yet?  If so, did you provide your own car or did your parents provide you with one?\n\nResponsible parents KNOW that their children don't tell them everything ~ they were teens once, too.  They also know that it is a very different world than the one we grew up in and kids need a lot more protection.\n\nSure, there were dangers in the world when we were teens, but there were no internet predators, there wasn't near as much kidnapping of children and teenagers, children and teenagers, regardless of gender, being sold into sex slavery and any of the other things that teenagers think will "never happen to me." \n\nThe truth is that none of the ones in your age group that HAVE had it happen to them ever thought it would happen to them, either, but it did.\n\nSo what if he read an email about a guy you liked.  Don't you think he knows you are going to like guys?  You're making a big issue out of something that is no issue at all and, frankly, you're acting like a spoiled little princess about the issue, too.  Sorry, but truth is truth.\n\nAgain, you do not have the right to privacy as long as you are living in your parents' home.  I agree with all the other people who have said they wish more Dad's were like your Dad.\n\nInstead of being overly defensive, demanding "rights," and whining about something as trivial as this, why don't you be grateful that you have parents who are able to provide you with a computer, who are able to keep a roof over your head and food on the table, who love you enough to say "tough cookies" to you and "invade your privacy."\n\nYou want privacy?  Get a job, move out, be completely self-supportive and ask no one for anything.  Then, and only then, do you have the right to privacy.\n\nAs far as the answers on here that say what your Dad is doing is illegal?  Chances are they, too, are teenagers who think they are owed anything they want.\n\nNone of you are "owed" a darned thing!  What you have is by the grace of your parents or other family members providing it to you.  YOU, on the other hand, owe respect to those who provide for you.\n\nIf you were mine and threw a fit about me looking into your computer (which I definately would do) or looking through your bedroom (which I would do), then I would make life very easy for you by removing the computer.  Complain enough, and I would remove your bedroom door.  Continue to complain, and I would remove all extras, such as make up, hair styling equipment and supplies, one by one until you got the message.\n\nHere's the message:  Go to your Dad.  Apologize for overreacting to his CARE and LOVE for you.  Tell him you understand that what he is doing is done out of love for you.  Start respecting and stop demanding.\n\nLastly, you wouldn't be so upset if you weren't hiding something.  You know, I know it, and you can be very assured your Dad knows it.  Teenagers think they are so clever; but, as parents, we see right through you.  Sometimes we stop your behaviors if we think you can be seriously harmed by them.  Other times, we just sit back and feed you enough rope to hang yourselves so that you can learn a lesson the hard way.\n\nADD ON:  See?  My point proven exactly.  No sooner is my answer posted than I see you shouting (using all caps) at people, telling them to give you reasonable answers.\n\nMost of the answers ARE reasonable.  YOU are the one being unreasonable, sweetie.  You are a 13 year old **CHILD** and you are screaming at adults who are trying to help you understand?\n\nOf course you cannot go out and obtain a job and a car .
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I'm 16 and my dad passed away 2 months ago today. Since then, i realize that we take advantage of how precious our lives are. We only live once and we need to live our life to the fullest. Not one day goes by that i don't tell my mother how much i love her becuz tomorrow, she might not be w/ me anymore. I never realized how proud my dad was of me until he passed away. All his coworkers came up to me on the day of his funeral saying, r u the one who wants to go to medical school? He bragged about me and i always thought he was ashamed of me. Now i realize he'll never see me graduate high school, watch me go to college, become a doctor, walk me down the aisle, hold my first baby. What hurts the most is the last time i saw him. I was by myself in his room and he asked me to hold his hand. When i did he said "Sweetie, i'm so proud of u and i love you" *Jeez i'm crying right now* but anyway. When he said that to me, i just lost in. He then said "if this is god's plan for me let it be". Then, for the first time, he said he loved me. His last words that he ever said to me were "I love u and i'm so proud of u." I regret not spending more time w/ him and saying "I love u" more. Whoever reads this, make sure u live life to the fullest
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The police should have done something about the theft of money and the theft of your car, but you didn't say you called them then, only when he threatens.  If he does steal anything from you, call the cops, press charges and have him locked up.  When he's 18 tell him he's on his own til he can straighten up.  Though you may want to check your state's law regarding the age of concent.  In some states it's 17 and you can throw him out now.  If he assaults you again, talk to a lawyer about an order of protection and removing him to a juvenile facility.
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You should let grown ups do what grown ups do you prude....your dad needs to move on and apparently so do you. :Let your dad get his groove on and mind your business lil kid
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you need a hug.\n\nyou sound like your mom didn't love you enough, or did your daddy not love you engouh.\n\nThis cry for help is very brave.
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Yes but I dont know if my mum and dad would speak to me again!!
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OOps sorry let me edit this..\n\nMost important question is - are they LEGALLY your gaurdian?  It sounds like this might be your sister.. or maybe a young aunt.\n\nWhat state are you in?  How old are you?  It depends on how your caregiver will react.  I did the same thing when I was 17 and my parents freaked and were able to take me back.  I spent a few days in Juvi.. but other than that nothing terrible will happen.  If you are 17, I suggest talking to your parents about this and seeing if they would let you.  Does your friends family want you to move there?  Have them talk to your caregiver.  If you are any younger, either wait or have the family talk to your caregiver..  I totally understand where you are coming from, sometimes your home can just be toxic, especially if your parents are going through a divorce, or some issues of their own.. I've been moved out for 2 years now, and even when I come to visit, it just sucks my soul dry.. Some people and places are just so bad for you.  Talk to them .. really.  OR just go ahead and do it, but know this - they will be able to find you - and they will force you to come back - BUT after that happens, they will be open for dialog with you - you will be able to tell them how damaging their home is to you - and they will be able to take you seriously.. This is what happened to me- They never listened until after I ran away.. Then they let me finish my high school degree online and let me move out when I needed to.\n\nTo help you any further, I would need to know your age and your state.\n\nAnd like the other person mentioned, if you are working and making some of your own money, you might be able to get emancipated. \n\nChoices Other Than Emancipation\n\nEmancipation is only one of several alternatives available to you if you feel you cannot live with your caregiver.  You may want to consider other options such as:\n\nfamily counseling or mediation service between you and your parents; \nliving with another responsible adult (aunt, uncle, grandparent, or family friend); \nseeking assistance from public and private agencies; \nan informal agreement with your caregiver allowing you to live outside your home. \n\n\nMy final advice to you is this - family counseling - if nothing else works - this will.  The other person there can help you communicate effectively with your caregiver - and don't assume they will only be on your caregivers side either.  Present your case to them, and unless you have no reason for wanting to move out, they will support you and help you work out a solution with your family..\n\nGood luck, ok?  Feel free to personally email me if you need any personal or legal advice..  Bj_Osterhout@yahoo.com
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i had the same problem and i couldn't speak to my parents 'cause i was afraid of them! this happened till this April, when i had a conflict with them, and my brother supported me! i stood up for myself and told them that i wanted to leave home 'cause they didn't understand me and wouldn't listen to me! Now, they recognise me (at last!) as a human being(!) and  i tell them whatever i want without fear! my brother supported me, didn't tell them my problems! i told them! so, both of you should go to your father and make known from the beginning that your brother will just say his own opinion! Good luck!!
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Well to be honest. Maybe your father wants you to grow up just like he did. Beforemy dad left he told me he wanted me to have what he never had. Maybe he thinks that doing that is going to make you do the right things and make the right decisions. Don't worry he'll come to his senses when he figures out that yor not going to give up.  My advice is be your own person, don't do anything you dont want. Be a man and do what you have to do. Hell come around .  Parents these days try to give there kids what they never had when they were our age. Its a fact of parenthood. Trust me hell get over it and come around and ralize to let you go your own path. Mays he's trying to hold on to you as long as he can. Just don't ever give up on your father. He's doing this because he loves you.      GOOD LUCK
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Your 18 do what you want...Dad will get over it...
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I'm 26 and when I was 14 my dad didn´t let me have a boy friend either, I didn´t understand at that time and I use to think that all my friend will make fun of me and the guys will never ask me again, but you know what? is for the best, ejoy your youth being FREE, I'm married now and I will be very happy of having 14 and single again, your dad is just taking care of you, he doesn´t want you to get hurt, because out there you can get seriously hurt, a brocken hurt is not a nice feeling.  Your dad is just like a man that doesn´t know anything about jewelry and then some one give him a pearl (you) but he doesn´t know what to do with that precious jewel so he decide to keep it in the box so the pearl won´t get hurt and live longer!!, just wait and he will come along, proove him that you are responsible, don´t argue with him about this, try to be madure, even more madure than your friends that have boyfriends.
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Ask your dad to get a lawyer and tell him you're being abused, take to a school councilor. Since you're old enough to make your own choice the judge may let you!
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Sounds like your dad needs to grow up.
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well done, it needed to be said.  but look you said it yourself too 'i was in an abusive situation once...it took me some time (as i was younger and less experienced)'  \n\ndo you realize that a LOT of people on here are teenagers who are at that 'younger and less [life] experienced' phase that you were at?\n\nit's good that you are here to shout sense into people..sorry to hear of your abusive encounter before. hope as many people as possible read your post here today and get some thinkin going on!
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Mine was something my own father said to me too:\n\nI was 10 years old, and ran him out some lemonaid in the orchard.  When he stopped to take a break, he proceeded to say:\n\nYou know what? Your just like your mother.  Your going to be a drunk, be pregnant by 16 and no man will ever love you.\n\nWell, I've beaten the odds by 2 of them anyways, I didn't have my first child tell 25, I'm not a drunk, but he is right about no one ever loving me.  2 out of 3 ain't bad.
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Older but not old enough to be my dad.