Is a relationship part of the "college experience" or is it something you do on the side when you have time?
930253
No i don't think it's part of a college experience  , i think it's part of life.A college experience is a college experience, studing, sport activities you are to under take in college, but things can happened along the way in college, which are things you experiince and makes you a person in life cuuz you have to make chosses on your own and finally all these are just experiences in life that make you a person.good luck.
366602
my bf and i are going through this right now. i'm going to school and he is working so its hard for us to spend much time together. what is really important is to set aside time that is just for the two of you. make your relationship just as important as anything else you would do. its hard at first to make the time but it will help out the relationship a lot.
423393
thats very unfair..you have a future too and you still have time to work for it..are you just going to sit there and wait for him when you can go and get yoursel a life? he's not being fair to you. if you really love each other, having a long distance college life wouldn't affect your relationship..i also think that he's afraid of what you too may do in college just the same as you are afraid of what may happen to him in college..what if after college he leaves you? then you loose your boyfriend and your future. besides, going off for college would be a good obstacle to prove if you really love each other..but above all? i dont think its a good idea not to go to college just because he said so..at least if you go to college too, your future could be set and who knows maybe you'll find out more of what your relationship is made of..
26025
Even if he doesn't realize it yet, or he won't admit it to you, he's going to want to explore his options a little at college. Pretty much everyone does. When you go off to college, it's pretty likely that you will too.\n\nIf you try to hold on too tightly, he may either break up with you, do things behind your back, or end up resenting you because he *wants* to explore on his own, and feels like you're holding him back. The fact that you will worry about what he's doing when you're not around will only make things worse.\n\nOne possibility is to break up with him before he leaves, but tell him that if he's interested after a semester or two, you might get back together with him. That also means that you can spend your time doing other things, seeing other guys casually, and generally letting your life go on.\n\nThere's a chance that even as he goes out and does the usual college things, he'll end up missing what he had with you. And if he doesn't, then it just wasn't meant to be, and you'll have a head start on moving on past him.
261766
Communication and honesty, plus I feel you have to be the type of person that's ok with not seeing your partner every other day.  Some people don't feel it's a relationship if you don't share most of your day-to-day life with the other person.  I think the up side to a long-distance thing is the time you do spend together is always interesting and special, since it's limited.  You don't get bogged down with the daily grind.
218002
It's hard to say.  If you aren't around him all the time, who knows what he's doing.  If you're in high school, and he's in college, anything could happen.\n\nIs his college far away from where you live?  Long distance relationships can be very hard, especially when one of the people is in college!  How long have you been seeing this person?  Do you trust him?
578132
college was the greatest experience I have ever had.  It is hard to leave the comfort of home and family but it is a wonderful feeling knowing that you are providing for yourself and you no longer need to rely on anyone else
396248
I met my good guy while in school.  He lived in my residence hall, and while in school we never hung out too much.  Just nights out at the bar with mutual friends.  Then after we had both graduated, we got into contact again.  It's been an amazing time.\nDon't worry about being at the right place at the right time.  He will find you when you least expect it!
757337
College is very cool! The people tend to be a lot more mature than high school and not so judgmental and narrow-minded. The same kids that were snotty and snobby in high school when I went to college were nice as could be to me! Don't ask my why because I'm not sure! \n\nAlso, in high school since I was planning on college my classes were very structured and I didn't have any choices at all in what I wanted to take so that I could fit in all the required college prep courses, but in college I had a lot more choices in what I wanted to take, esp. of course in the last 2 years when you choose your major. But even in the first 2 years you can choose what you will take to some extent, say a poetry class vs.a Victorian Lit class or a Women's History class vs. a European History class or Astronomy vs. Anthropology or Biology...\n\nI did have some very, very close friends (like sisters) in high school, and I think it is a little harder to get those kind of close friendships in college. I made one really close friend in college which we are still very close friends. I've heard you can get those kind of friendships in sororities or fraternities, although I did not join one, they can be very time-consuming, and I always had a part-time job unfortunately.
33375
Dude, best of luck to you but this question really doesn't make much sense to ask.  We don't know either of you as people so how do you expect us to make any accurate judgements on how likely it is that you have a future together?  I would take it SLOW and wait until you are not a student at the college anymore before pursuing anything though so that you protect both of your futures, yours as a student who wants to graduate there and hers as an employee.
366182
Super no! Right on with having your personal time! I myself am just learning to be independent.Its nice to know that other people are functional and happy enjoying their own company! Thank you for your question!
33041
College helps shape the way you think (its not exactly what you've learned, but how you apply it)
343198
i don't think you relationship is that intense if he hasn't, but i'm guessing "blindly", more of a "black and white", low passion standard thing. and if he doesn't feel it that's strange, i think. i mean, i think you "should" be in love with someone you've been seeing that long. but, you are in collage and this may just be an extended fling so keep that in mind. but i am strange so i don't know
845765
When I went back to college, a lot of my friends and family felt as though I was "leaving" them behind.  This was not intentional, but due to my overwhelming change in interests and hours devoted to my schooling.  There is a camaraderie which develops between people who travel down a new road together.  I was never closer to a few individuals than when I was going through law school...it was like having been in battle together.  No one else quite understood what I was going through.  Talking to those going through the same experience took less explaining.\n\nMaybe this would be a good time to return to your own education.  It would serve two purposes, 1) you would have similar experiences and knowledge to share with boyfriend, and 2) if that doesn't work, you will be more capable of being on your own, hopefully, with a degree and new friends, if it comes to that.
52397
For some, college can be their first push into independence. It can be terribly hard for those that have not had much experience in the world. Also, for those that have not socialized much before, college can be very intimidating. All of a sudden they are put into an environment where social contact is a constant.\n\nI can speak from experience- when first arriving at college I hated it. Roomates, no privacy, it was awful for me. However, when I gave it a little time those roomates that I loathed became great friends. Now the situation that I looked upon with so much disdain is now one of the most treasured periods of my life.\n\nMy suggestion is to visit him at college. With having someone familiar there it will make him more comfortable. Perhaps help him break the ice with some other students. Also, let him know that he's not the only one feeling that way. However, he needs to start owning his experience. Let him know that college is a great time to be able to learn and experience everything HE wants. There's no one there to tell him what not to do. That be scary at first, but when he finally feels what it's like to be independent, he'll come around.\n\nBest of luck!
1050762
Well your first yr of college should be fun and be focused.  Concentrate on your studies and if you dont worry about finding a bf then that will come too.  Your first yr needs to be fun as well as dedicated to your studies.  When my first yr came along I was excited and nervous because it is a whole lot different then High School.  You have more hours of studying and a whole lot of non partying fun get my drift?  But keep your head up and you'll be doing a great first yr.
905704
High school for me was a very memorable one. I just enjoy it. I don't study that "hard", but I study to have good grades. It's not a problem if you will have a boyfriend of not.  The thing is, you study so you will learn.  Having a boyfriend is part of growing up. It's just a matter of how you handle things especially your time.  \nJust remember, if you'll have a boyfriend soon, you must have the ability to handle things in balance. If you are reading your notes, have ur focus on it. After, then you can think of something else, boyfriend for forbriend, and friends. "You can't hit one bird with your gun if your looking in the other bird beside it"\nIf you will be able to handle it, then, you'll gonna make it to the end. God Bless.