I feel bad sleeping with my new bf early,help!?
928888
You cant go backwards or you will destroy what you've started. Enjoy it
521247
Sounds like you need to talk to him and tell him how u feel and your sorry for not telling him!!
730161
I think you are both in the wrong here. He was a jerk, and you overreacted. While you do have every right to be upset here, I don't think this is as big of an issue as you are making it out to be. \n\nSit down and have yet another talk with him. Do not let your temper get the better of you. Calmly explain that you feel that what he did was an intimate act, reserved for couples. Not something to be done for a casual friend, especially since you sat there watching the whole thing. Remind him that he even admitted he wouldn't want a guy doing the same for you. After you've said how you feel, then apologize for loosing your temper like that. You wanted to express your feelings, and things got out of control.\nIf he can't see your point of view, and apologize in return, then maybe it's time he spent a few nights on the couch while you take the bed.
668883
You obviously have more than a few issues…..Are you that desperate for attention?  You seem pretty young, so here is some advice for you:  No, you should not sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.  She’s your BEST friend right?  I doubt the guy is your soul mate or anything; he’s just a guy who is paying you some attention.  That may make you feel good now, maybe even good enough to make you do it, but afterwards, you will (or should) feel dirty, and he will most likely treat you like you’re dirty too.  He will never respect you.  Do you really want to be involved with a guy who you have to share?  He won’t be your boyfriend. (You will be alone on Valentine’s Day, Christmas, your birthday, etc.)  You will only have him when your friend is too busy for him. Your friend may or may not find out, but you will know what you did, and that will always weigh on you.  The guy is obviously a cheater, and has probably been around the block a few times.  What if he gives you a disease, like Herpes?  You will have it for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   If you think that you like sex now, wait a few years.  It gets a whole lot better.  You don’t want something dumb that you do right now ruining it for you for the rest of your life.  Have some respect for yourself.  Save sex for someone that you love and trust, someone who is concerned with your best interests. I promise you that you will never regret in the long run.  However, if you choose to sleep with him you will regret it, at some point.  Be a good person, stay away from the guy, and tell your friend that she is with a loser, before she gets hurt or catches something from him that ruins her life.  Since you don’t seen to have a whole lot of confidence, you should just concentrate on you for a while.  Stay in school; find out what makes you happy (not what you think makes other people like you), and just try to be a good person.  If you do, you will eventually be truly confident, comfortable, and happy with the person that you are.  You won’t want a loser like this guy anywhere near you, and you will most likely be pursued by some really great guys, because confidence is the most attractive quality that a person can have.
850123
this reminds me of my relationship.. it's hectic. give him some time.. you already apologized to him. Tell him to call you whenever he feels like talking to you. GIve him some time you already said sorry so that's good that you've accepted your error.. but yea goodluck... try not to disrespect each other.. once you disrespect each other then it's really hard to work things out... and remember everyone has arguments... just be straight foward with him and tell him that you already apologized to him and to please not be in a bad mood... communication is the key! goodluck hopefully he's not moody anymore... and ask him why he's moody maybe something else was making him moody :P
265605
I would confront him but dont be angry about it at first, because he could have a reason. My boyfriend had the same issue , but once i found out the reasons it became okay, talk to your boyfriend calmly , he will react better and might not get so defensive. i would have him delete her from his list so that he couldnt talk to her, that way you and him would feel better. Explain to him it makes you unhappy and that you have insecurities about begin left and that you are worried that you are not making him happy , and he wants what he had. He should then feel sad and will want to cuddle you and then try to be emotional that way he knows you do care about the two of you begin together. Good Luck
732942
Oh yeah , you are definetly desperate for attention. Ask yourself why? And how would you feel if your soon-to-be husband was snugglin some chick that he used to date? I mean, that was really low of you and obviously guilt is eating you alive. You need to be honest with your man. Cold feet means you are freaking out, breaking out in hives, and having to breathe harder...not getting in bed with another man.\nGet over yourself. Truth will always come out.
715421
Sounds like you are feeling really rather insecure about yourself.  It's not a crime to have sex on a first date but the downside to it is the sort of confused feelings you seem to be going through.  The reason for this may be that it was just too early to tell whether this guy really liked you (or indeed, whether you liked him) and now you are having to wait and see.  However, the decision about whether you see each other again is half yours and half his, if you both want to see each other you will, if you don't you won't.  On one hand you are saying you don't know how you feel about having slept with this guy and on the other you are saying that you don't regret it ... so that kind of indicates that you do know how you feel!  It is important that you clarify for yourself how you feel about him.  Do you want to see him again?  If the answer is yes, you can either wait for him to approach you, or you can approach him first.  It is not unusual for people to jump into bed with each other very quickly, it sounds a bit like you might not be entirely comfortable with your behaviour because perhaps you think he won't like or respect you for it.  You can't know how he feels about you without approaching him in some way and initiating communication ... you won't have to ask him how he feels, that should become apparent by whether you get together again and you will be able to tell how much he likes you by how he treats you from now on in.  Speculating on the minimal information you seem to have might just drive you a bit bonkers and certainly won't get you any reliable answers.  Finally, I would say of course you can become friends with this guy, if he wants to become a friend of yours too ...
995797
I think you need to let sleeping dogs lie cause he sounds confusing and confusing leads stress, stress leads to pain and pain leads to heartache so move on and find someone else cause he's playing you.
697694
Tell him that you need some time apart.  Tell him the reasons exactly like you did here.  You can tell him in person, but it might be better over the phone or email.  Dumping someone via email in general is NOT cool, but a) it's only been 5 weeks and b) you're concerned enough about his temper to be worried.\n\nBe kind but firm.  Start out the converstation by telling him you've been thinking about things and that the two of you need to talk.  Tell him you feel uncomfortable with the some ways things have been going.  Tell him you don't appreciate his dictating your time and criticising your apparence.  Inform him you know he's been rude to friends you've had for years, and that that's intolerable.  Finally, just tell him you don't really think the two of you are compatible and that it's probably best to tone it down for a while (that's break-up speak for have a nice life).  If you want, tell him that you're very busy with plans that were made several weeks ago, and that your time is limited.\n\nI know all about this because I've heard the talk - several times.  I've even given it a few.  It is hard, no way around it, especially if you've slept together.  Such is life.  Hopefully he'll learn from the experience, like I did; and eventually find someone fantastic who can teach him and grow with him - like I did.
639216
just make sure that your new bf doesn't get hurt physically by your ex. there's nothing you can do, unless he tries to hurt him.
656144
You feel so bad because you are interacting with a narcissistic sociopath.  He keeps coming back and wooing you so you can tell him how lovable he is.  Then he "wins" by dumping you again.\n\nStop playing his game!  The only possible outcome is for you to get hurt again and again.  The next time he contacts you, tell him you have a stable relationship and don't want anymore contact.  Then hang up, put him on your email spam list, and throw away his letters unopened. He probably has a vast set of victims just like you, so he can go torture somebody else.
813135
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!!!!! I am in the same situation. Don't let him pressure you, its not fair, your sweet little girl hasn't even been out of your stomach longer than she was in! How can you feel "normal" yet? My daughter is 5months and I am SO TIRED, the LAST thing on my mind is sex, we are down to maybe twice a week, from at least once every day before I was pregnant. Talk to your husband about how you feel and explain to him that you love him and to be patient with you. You'll get back in the game, don't worry.
861055
From what you described, I think it was the only choice.  And why should you feel guilty?  She's the one sleeping with other guys.  Sounds like you fell for a ho.  She did you a favor. Get on with your life and never look back.
602226
It's quite possible that he just fell asleep, don't jump to the conclusion that he's lying to you. If you're in love with him and he makes you happy, then go for it. Take a leap of faith.
1004450
Thank yourself for being smart enough not to sleep with this LOSER.  Move on!  Move on! Move on! and find people who will truly love and cherish you.  You deserve it!  BTW, dump the "friend" too.
176918
Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!