My Friend Hates Herself, I Don't Know What To Do.?
929554
It sounds as if your friend suffers from serious depression. I know your intentions to help her are good, but if her condition is due to psychological causes there is nothing you can do for her. She definitely needs professional help. Can't you talk to her parent about this? They have to do something less it ends in a tragedy. I admire you for being such a wonderful friend to her. And believe me, one day she will be grateful too.
444139
Well you seem to be going through alot! I am sorry! I will be praying for you and your friend! I wish I had all the answers -but I don't! Off course you want to help her- she is your friend- but it sounds like she needs help you can't give her! You need to decide do you want live with her! Can you deal with all the drama? Really search yourself- because she is going to need support and a lot of help! I wish you the best! You sound like a really good friend- when she will let you be her friend! A word -- never cheat! No matter what a person says to you! Just not a good plan! You take care- if you like to talk- http://360.yahoo.com/cloeenloe
186277
stay with this crazy friend of yours and dont let him do anything stupid, and tell him i said to get over it, move on and find someone better.  Think of it this way, if she was all he had, he has nowhere to go but up.
84601
Just say, "Okay!"\n\nAfter you hate yourself enough you will learn to say no.\n\n...or you could just say it.
542778
She's NOT thinking--that's the problem.  People who cut themselves have serious psychological issues and need professional help.\n\nGo right now and tell her parents.  Tell them that she's doing it and that she told you she does it on purpose.  Then tell YOUR parents.  \n\nI know she's your friend and you want to help her but this problem is bigger than you are and bigger than your friendship.  Best Wishes and Good Luck.
123856
Many people who self harm are misunderstood. Obviously your friend needs help and perhaps that is his/her only way of letting people know about it. If you can, convince your friend to take up counselling or let someone who can do something about it know.YOu also hang in there. It must be hard to be close to someone who is hurting.
109848
Self-mutilation is usually not the problem itself, but a symptom of the problem. Speaking from personal experience, alot of "cutters" feel that the cutting is a release for the pain and frustration that they feel inside. I'm willing to bet that your friend is suffering from depression. This is not something that you can handle on your own. If you guys are minors, than you need to speak with her parents. They need to be aware of her problem so that they can seek professional help. She may be angry with you and feel betrayed at first, but she WILL realize one day that you did it because you care. She'll probably even be thankful! If, however, you're NOT minors, then you should gently tell her that you're concerned and think that she should seek help. Be sure to tell her that she's not crazy, and let her know that damn near everyone needs a little help sometimes. No matter what, let her know that you love her and will always be there for her.\n\nI hope this helps...good luck to you both...
144356
Well, first of all if you hate her guts she doesn't really qualify as a "friend" and in my opinion 99% of the time honesty is always best.  Just tell her how you feel and then quit hanging out with her.
490019
Dear Rebecca,\n           Take heart and know that you are not alone in your struggle with depression. I have the same problem too and understand how you feel. Please know that you are okay and sound like a very likable young girl. If your "friend" can't accept you with your problems as you are, then I'd say she isn't much of a friend and perhaps you should try for other friends who will appreciate you for all that you are. I am sorry that you have to be hurt this way and my thoughts go with you but also realize that there are people who really will like you as you, Rebecca! Take care of yourself and stay sweet!
712736
first, point out the wierd things and tell her people are going to make fun of her and think she's wierd. if she still do esn't care, ignore her. she'll get over it eventually or live as an outcast.
559905
Honey, you are an excellent friend for feeling this way and don't you ever forget or doubt it!! I would be proud to have a friend like  you on my side!\n\n You friend must have had something happen to her in her past ( or happening in her present )  to make her feel like she just isn't worth anything to take care of herself. An abusive family life  or an abusive previous romantic life is what it sounds like to me. (It especially sounds like a sexually abusive family life with a male in the family; having told her, upon abusing her, that she wasn't worth a man's love and that all men would find her grossly unattractive and would only want her for one thing . ) This pattern of behavior is almost text book. \n You need to go to her, with other female friends, in an almost intervention setting, but with the ULTIMATE in loving kindness being expressed, and let her know that she IS SO worth being loved and admired and cared for. A day out, get her a make over from head to toe, treat her to a day at the spa and a new outfit or two can really make a girl have a totally  new out look . But that is the outside. To work  on the inside is the hardest and this is where your friend needs the most help. That is where this next part comes in:\n\n The Bible has a scripture where it says not ' to be thinking too much of oneself' .  Well, I was going thru a horribly low patch and feeling lower than dirt  and a friends' mom came to me, sat me down and told me that God created us out of deep love and John 3:16 said " and the Jehovah  loved the world so much that he gave his only begotten son so that ( and she put MY name there ) ..." and let me realize that, wow, god loved me that much and so I had better start thinking ENOUGH of myself!! It has stayed with me ever since. I am hoping that your friend can use that to her advantage as well. We have to think enough of ourselves too , or why else would Jesus have Bothered to die for us so that we might live forever and have our sins forgiven ? Would you waste his sacrifice and pain? \nThis dear friend of yours makes my heart hurt, because I've known her and I know how much you want to help her. Please, when you go to  her, hug her for me. Don't have to telll her its from a stranger... LOL But do so  just the same. Know that a stranger will  remember her in her prayers tonight.
858946
Hi, The best thing to do is find another friend.  She is NO friend if she does this.  Start socializing with others and try not to be around her.  She is toxic to you and exactly what is happening to you is the result.  She will lower your self esteem and ruin your self confidence.  Remind yourself that what she is saying and doing is not the truth and she is not a friend.  Surround yourself with positive, content, and happy people.
142762
Is it your friend? Keep asking her why she's mad.\n\nIs it just 'some girl'? Forget about her. :/
1026974
Your friend doesn't respect herself, your body is a beautiful thing and should not be abused by anyone, And sometimes if you feel it so not your place to tell her about herself,do it anyway sat her down and explain to her has a friend that what you are doing is wrong an unnecessary and if she is your friend she would take your advice and respect that you care so much and value the friendship she will think things through and take it in consideration.
422158
You're not a freak, nobody is. Life is a gift given to you - you should take care of it. It's hormones, mostly. The person who despises you is a jerk. Why are you trying to help her? Take care of yourself first, suicide's never the answer. Think of all the things you CAN do, not the things you can't. So what? People won't accept you, you should call them freaks. Remember your friends and family who love you. They strive to make you happy. For one second of torture, you would cause them a lifetime of pain. Live for others at least. Good luck.
551583
okay , if you value her friendship, you need to withdraw from her and give her some room, don't keep on pushing and pushin coz all you'll do is push her futher. obviously she is hurt. \n\nwrite the following:\n\ndear\n\nI have been really upset about not having your friendship and realized what a jerk i have been, if i could undo time , i wud turn theclock back and restore our friendship, i do not expect you to forgive me , however i would feel heaps better if you did and i am sure you might too. give it a shot.\n\nif that fails then try\n\n\n"dear ...\n\nlook you slimy little bi*ch, i said i was sorry and all you do is lift your nose each time I talk, i think you can get fu***, and in doing so i hope you get fu*** real bad, now go crawl back under that rock you crawled from under!\n\nyour's ...\n\n( how's that ? ... not good )
656994
well for one you should not hate anyone that is the main problem in this world that is what we are killing each other over....but since you DISLIKE this girl be honest and if the reason you dislike her so is true then your friend should listen