though forgiving somebody is easy, why its hard to come by.?
916878
it is not to forgive anyone, It is easy.but forgetting those things are really hard.
109656
Forgiveness comes from deeper inside than any other emotion, and is the only thing that separates humans (spiritually speaking) from monkeys.  \n\nYou can teach a dog patience.  If you have patience but no forgiveness, then your life is shallow and empty.  If you have forgiveness, then your life can be righteous and wonderful whether you are patient or not.\n\nOn the other hand, if you forgive someone for messing up your life, it doesn't mean you have to take them back.  You can forgive them and walk away.  \n\nJust because you have forgiven someone doesn't mean they were right, it just means that they are not your problem anymore.
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:}\nforgiving is giving up your right to retribution\nsucking it up\nViewing what happened as another event, even one you can learn from\nbut not one in which you have any rights to retribution, Not one in which you were wronged by the offending party and one for which they should for ever be judged and pay social restitution.
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"God forgives those who forgive themselves".\n\nI wonder, could that person ever, in retrospect, manage to forgive himself or would he carry the guilt?\n\nAnother way to look at it is, if he has no remorse, he is unlikely to ask for forgiveness, which is also a requirement. You not only have to forgive yourself, you have to ask for forgiveness.\n\nThis makes me think there is little chance for this person to ever receive God's forgiveness.
617169
Forgiveness in its true sense is an awesome thing to practice. It not only shows character, but allow all offenses to be left and not control your life. The power to engage in forgiveness lies with Jesus. His example is one we should look at every time we are hurt or offended. He was beaten, crucified and left to die but still forgave those who did this to Him. How little it takes to forgive others who have wronged us, and how much reward there is for us when we do.
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was abused by my father, but was able to forgive him. but if you are unwilling to try the best forgiveness ever given. then you will carry this pain for ever in you and it will suffacate you. please think about finding true forgiveness before this destroys your life. God helped me and my father threw axes, hoes, and tried to run me over. yet hold no grudge.
728608
As long as you have clearly forgiven them, the best thing to do for them is to pray that forgiveness comes into their heart. They are accountable for that.
644193
I think that if you do something bad you get bad Karma for it - even if you get forgiven for what you did.  \nForgiveness is not for the offender, it's for the offendee (is that a word?).  If you forgive someone, you I don't believe you get good Karma for it.  You do get to get that weight off of your shoulders, which always feels good.
593889
That depends on how apologetic a person is. If a person is sincerely sorry about what he or she did, I can forgive. Many people however don't even bother to apologise. They suffer my revenge ten fold.
307506
Well, I don't think it has anything to do with you forgiving yourself but that is a part of the process. But the first step is to accept forgiveness from God and then let Him work on your heart. \n\nI need to practice what I preach! Viva Me!
104696
its not easy to forget the loved one!It will take time...ok...
183450
It's because we figure that no matter what; our family and friends will all ways be there for us. A complete stranger will not be as forgiving.
320138
Every circumstance is different. Sometimes you can forgive but other times it is too hard.
844002
I tend to forgive - even the worst things that have ever been done to me because people don't realize that moving on takes forgiveness. Even when it seems impossible to forgive those who may have done horrible things to us in our lives, we should forgive them - not so much for them as for our own sanity and well-being. It takes courage but it is possible to forgive even the worst things that have happened. It helps me get some kind of closure and peace inside which holding onto things never provides. Holding on and never letting go makes everything stay ao alive - so real and so unforgettable.\n\nOf course, there are those things that I cannot forget - unfortunately... words said, things that have happened. The human mind just does not seem to forget these things no matter how hard you with it would - we remember... I remember. And that is why the forgiveness is so essential - because we remember and everytime we do, it is not healthy for feelings of hate, anger, or sadness to overwhelm us. It is living in the past and that is not good for anyone.\n\nI was never the one to hold onto things, never apologize, stay in an arguement, etc - it is just not in me. I do not cope well with any conflicts so I am the one who apologizes even when I am not the one who should.. I just can't stand tension - escpecially with those that you know you love and who love you.. I see it as so pointless and such a waste of time - I always did. And I think I forgive people too easily sometimes perhaps.. just so we can move on and so no one stays hurt any longer. I am just that kind of person. \n\nSo, I don't forget - because I can't. But - I do forgive, sometimes just for my sake - to ease my own pain and to try to let go and move on.\n\n:o)
97419
That's an awesome question and I wish I had a certain answer for it, but the best I can think of is because nice people are the only ones who can endure the suffering they receive. But knowing the pain is there shouldn't stop any person from learning as it only leaves you richer for the next experience. We learn more from our failures than any amount of successes can teach us. So maybe all the bad stuff that comes your way is there to help you better be the person you're meant to be. I know because I have often been the one cheated on, that I'd never cheat on anyone else because I don't wish anybody else to feel the same way I did. So perhaps things that like help mold what it is you look for, the things you want to be like; the things you don't want to be like and before long when you're no longer concerned about finding somebody, that somebody will be there.
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While I see your point that its harder to find people like this, I can still empathize for people.  I have been hurt alot, starting at five when my dad walked out, and i just dont want to see others hurt like i have been hurt.  I go out of my way to make sure i never hurt anyone.  And i often find that people are more than willing to take advantage of that.  It makes you sad to know that no one looks out for other people anymore, and its all about themselves.  This is definetly not me-i would go without to make someone happy, and if i see someone in pain i will do whatever i can to stop that pain.  I got a forward from someone about the perfect heart that i think you would really appreciate.  I would tell you, but it might be a little long-I know this might seem weird, but if you wanna email me at wyzeone2000@yahoo.com, ill find it and send it to you.
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I think so. I have such a hard time forgiving myself. I still think of things that I did or said as a little kid. And yet I can forgive whoever of whatever and almost instantly forget about it.