When a spouse has an affair?
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Sometimes (rarely) its just about sex, but usually not (even with guys).  Cheating is symptomatic of something seriously wrong in the relationship or seriously flawed in the emotional makeup of the cheater.   It is important to find out what the real reason for the cheating behavior is - it's not always easy or fun.  Good Luck!
22115
There is something to be said for an emotional affair, so even just talking, if you talk about things with this guy that you don't share with your husband, then you are having and affair, breaking your vows, and in my opinion are at least AS abusive as you claim he is.\n\nYes, affairs are abuse.  The lying to your spouse is a form of crazy-making, an emotional abuse tactic.\n\nIf you have sought pro-marriage counselling, have brought your husband before the church where you were married or some other body and he refuses to do what they recommend to fix his part of the marriage, then divorce him before you begin even a close friendship with another man.\n\nAffairs are abuse, plain and simple.  If your husband were here, I'd tell him to stop his abuse as well, but he's not, so I'm asking you to stop your abusive behavior.
1090797
Unfortunatly I have been having an affair. I know its wrong and I shouldn't be doing it but my husband just doesn't satisfy me in the bedroom. I've talked to him about it and he is just unwilling to change how things are done in the bedroom.
621506
Sharing intimacy with anyone other than your spouse is cheating. May it be physical or emotional. It's deception either way. You should leave if you are missing something at home.
332094
This is a good website that helps clarify:\nhttp://www.christiananswers.net/dictionary/adultery.html
1008776
some time affair loves is not a love it one type of attraction which is a sex and passion.\n this is the reason for not being 100% success in affair.
133265
Stop and think about all the things you could loose if your husband somehow found out about your affair. Is it really worth it? You need to make a choice. You can't have it both ways.\n\nMarriage is all about loyalty, commitment, honesty, maturity. If you don't have those things, then you don't really have a marriage so you might as well end it. If you don't want to end your marriage, then you know what you have to do. End the relationship. \n\nThen you need to take a good hard look at why you had an affair anyway. Was it for the excitement? If so, find a way to put excitement back in your marriage. Your husband was the man you fell in love with, committed to, made a vow to. Would you want him to have an affair? Consider how it would make you feel, then do everything in your power to be the kind of partner you would want him to be.\n\nWhether or not you decided to tell him about the affair is a decision you have to make. You would be taking a chance that he will walk out and never look back. On the other hand, you would be making the first step toward an honest relationship instead of living a lie, and you wouldn't have to worry about him hearing about your affair from someone else.\n\nPeople are human and make mistakes. It's what we do when we are faced with our mistakes that determine our character. The choice is yours. Good luck.
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I have been with my husband for almost 3 years and had an affair 6 mos ago.  I told him and he admitted to his shortcomings that led me to seek love elsewhere.  Now he says he will never leave me because I am the only woman he has ever been with that was that honest with him about something like that.
301681
They have affairs if theres something they're not getting at home, and if the partners are pushovers
1002269
there are many motives behind an affair,the old line it just happened is a crock of bull,it is given much thought and for men i think it's a challenge for women it is a emotional thing the sense of being needed, attractive to another man.men also need to see if they still have it some do, some don't,  some never did,regardless of the reason it is wrong.if your sex life stinks make it better try different things,being a women i can't completly answer why guys cheat but i feel it's an ego thing or maybe their spouse is truely a louse in which case she has no reason to complain we women know men like / need  sex and if we are completly against making love then let him go no man or women should be forced to live without it unless it is for a medical reason,in that case then you should find other ways to satisfy each other.
726883
There is such a thing as emotional affair and sometimes affairs start out this way.  If your wife is confiding with another man other than you, it shows a lack of intimacy in your marriage.  Also realize that time spent talking with this "friend" is time taken away from you.  The way I see it, you are her husband.  If she has issues with you, she should be communicating with you instead.
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Any woman who has an affair with a married man has a very low sense of self worth. For her, by having an affair (or one niter) with a married man she is trying to gain a feeling of worthiness. She tries to build security and a sense of worth within herself by believing that the married man has chosen her over his own wife. She fails to realize that she is actually degrading her own self-image by displaying herself to others as a selfish and moral less human being.
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Cheating is a symptom of a relationship where people are not communicating and have lost their connection with each other. it's the fault of the relationship not a particular person.\n\nAs soon as you stop communicating one or both of you become candidates for infidelity....because we all miss intimacy with another person. We'll seek it out if we're not getting it at home.\n\nA man may be attracted by beautiful women but we won't cheat if we are truly intimate with our wife. Our heart won't let us.
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A disinterested person will say that nothing really happened. An online affair is just like chatting and does not mean a thing. But for the parties involved, it is a big blow to the relationship. Not because fo the affair but moreso the lies, and deception involved. Since communication seem to be the main issue, I strongly suggest that they get a marriage councellor to help them out as one party seems to be stubborn to all attempts to reconcile.
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I'd recommend getting a therapist or religious clergy person involved in this process.  You both need someone neutral to help work through trust issues.  However, the counseling will only help if you and your wife are BOTH interested in mending your relationship.  It will be a long road, but you can get through this with time and support.  It will be more important than ever to be honest with each other and make time for your relationship.\n\nWhile some say "once a cheater always a cheater" that is often true.  In my experience that's been the case most often.  However, it's not an absolute!  I've also experienced the other side.  People can change and people make mistakes.  Relationships need to grow and perhaps it was just in the growing stage during the affair.  If you are both committed to make it work you can get back to what you had.
523849
definition of cheating: if you wouldn't do it with your spouse sitting beside you its cheating, if it wouldn't be ok with you if your spouse was doing the same thing its cheating.
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Across countries and cities and age groups, both the spouses are spending a meagre 4 hours awake together and the rest 12 hours away from each other in a world filled with temptation and "easy" access.\n\nThis eventually leads them to try extra marrital affairs with people working with them, people they meet in travel, people they talk online. \n\nSadly this number is on the rise and rising fast. Probably they hold no respect or committment to the marriage they are in, but merely satisfy their physical needs.\n\nYes, such relationships are not merely common, its rampant..\n\n.:Fishie:.