His family thinks I should do all the cooking because I'm the female, what should I do?
912440
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  When I first stared dating my exhusband, we would go to his family's house and he'd always want me to cook.  I don't know about anyone else but I was raised where you don't just go into people's kitchens and start cooking.  I couldn't do it.  He would get really angry and upset.  His family use to look at me crazy because I didn't want to cook, I told them that it's nothing against them, this is the way that I was raised and I don't feel comfortable.  They still talked about me but I just let it go.  I told him if he wanted me to cook for him everynight, he should get us our own apartment.  I told his family if they think I should cook for him everynight because I'm the woman, he should make me his wife so I can do all that domestic stuff and be his HOUSE WIFE, until then, we're just dating and I'm not his mother so he can cook his own damn food!!!!
414149
Avoid them like the plague!  You're outnumbered.  If you MUST be with them, respect them and show them by example, how NORMAL people would react.\nEVERY family has a couple odd-balls!
1166131
Tell her that you feel bad about her going to all the trouble of cooking for you, and that you'd feel better if she'd let you clean up.  Then take care of the kitchen like you would your own.  \n\nAs for the partially-raw meat, if it's pork or chicken it really does need to be totally cooked.  If you're worried about it, ask to borrow the microwave for a minute and finish the job.  You can tell her that you've heard a lot of stories about things that you can catch if the meat isn't done enough and "it's probably silly but it makes me feel better" to get it done.
749311
one night you should tell him to take it easy, and you should cook like your favorite meal, and then pop the question.....make it a speech tell him "He's my homemaker, housewife and my everything when I get home from a long day of work. I manage a large portion of a company and have just recently been too sick to function. He has nursed me and been by my side the entire time, never leaving me for more than a few minutes at a time (he has to shower and go to the bathroom afterall.) We're a solid foundation together, and now that I'm feeling better (and I have a ring).. I want to do it." its very much from the heart i can tell, good luck sweety with everything and congrats on the baby!!
726884
Tell her that you both be on your best behaviour and perhaps even suggest that you two mate will prepare supper and/or breakfast for her.  Be honest with whatever promises you make to your mother and perhaps she will allow this to happen more often.  Good luck and I hope you are able to get your way and have your friend spend the night at your house.
647804
Tell them to mind their own business. Do what feels best for you. Don't pay attention to what everyone else thinks you should do.
807792
Your family seem like they are trying, but seriously you should tell them this- that there support means a whole lot to you and you love and respect them and you just want the same and deserve the same like any human being does.\nIf it concerns you why dont you sit with them alone and bring the subject up and you can all have your say. \nI really hope it works out for you and everyone else concerned.
828732
Invest in some Rubbermaid storage containers for your partner.  I guess the best thing to do would be to wash your own dishes after you cook.  By kicking her out of the kitchen, you may make her feel unwanted and there may be some resentment there.  I feel your pain.  I had a roommate that I love to death and he was pretty clumsy.  But you have to love the person more than you do the bakeware.
913742
When I first started dating my boyfriend, I baked a tray of cookies for Thanksgiving and brought it over for dinner.  The tray was GONE by the end of the day and now it's become tradition for my cookies around the holidays.  But it's not always about buying things or doing things for someone.  Obviously do what your mom would tell you, be respectful, polite.  Engage in conversation, dress appropriately, and be yourself!  :)  Oh and ask if they'd like help in the kitchen, mothers really seem to like that.
750766
You have already apologized. Accidents happen.  Not only that, but before he came into the picture, your family was there, and if he should decide to walk away, your family will still be there.  Don't blow your mom off, think of all the time she spent on you!  And, it's not like he will be sitting home waiting if can go out with his own family.  so the both of you can do your own thing for awhile and meet up after both of your obligations are met.   I'm sure his family will understand how important your family is to you and be ok with it!
855870
Well, well, well, quite a conundrum.\nI have a few thoughts.  \noption #1: Call up Lori ann directly and tell her you would love to cook the turkey, ask if she minds bringing side dishes instead, but if she insists on cooking the stupid bird, let it go.  I would tell her that you want to make a small turkey for yourself, just so she doesnt freak when she comes in your house.  I would cook one myself, for these reasons:\n1. to have the smell of cooking turkey in the house \n2. for leftovers for your family because bird # 1 will be devoured by the guests\n3. you will have the free range variety to ingest\n and \n4. just because its your house and you can do what you want, and you are getting to host, which you wanted to do and its a lot of work to host on its own.\nOption #2:\ndont call her at all and still cook your own bird and whatever else you want and let her bring the stupid bird .  you are getting to host it which is what you really wanted anyway. Just let your mother and her know that you are making a bird "on the side" or hide it in the basement ;0\nOption #3:\ndont cook a bird and you will have oh so much less hastle because the stupid turkey takes so much time to cook, that all the side dishes will be cooked effortlessly without Tom Turkey in the way\noption 4:\nput turkey in microwave to purge it from carcinogens because it is not a free ranger and explode it accidentally (just kidding)\noption 5:\nsmother turkey with mayonnaise from a squeeze bottle and ...oh, just kidding!\nLast part of my opinion:\ndont put your mother in the middle to communicate or things could get ugly ;)\nOption 2 is probably what I would do myself.  \np.s. hubby says if you lived down here, you could take her turkey out back when she arrives and use it as target practice, then serve your own ;)\nand I know, believe me, that it is frustrating to hear that mom doesnt want to hurt HER feelings, but what about yours???  But like I said, if you get to host it, then resolve it with one of the above or better suggestions, so that it goes well for you and doesnt cause your adrenal system to decompensate.
1016895
You should take cooking classes. Learn something new and socialize at the same time.
246422
I would be only of his mother, otherwise, just remember your all adults and it is your home.  Don't worry, if he loves you he will hender his parents from picking on you. \n\n\nGOOD LUCK
172164
Kukm kum you donot say why your family donot accept him?\nIf they have a real reasons that is ok but thier reasons are silly go with your man
94173
block their #s from your phone. write to your in laws (return reciept) and tell them point blank: this is MY husband NOT your little boy. you've done all the raising of MY HUSBAND that you will ever do. mother in law, if you have a husband then HE needs to provide for you. MY HUSBAND does not need to provide anything for you. that's YOUR husband's job. and to sis: do you have husband? no. then you are your PARENTS responibility. go get a life i got mine. and tell your husband to get a SPINE and use it. he chose you not his sister.
614051
If you would like to known as 'the skank', by his family, go for it.  Consider this, sometimes things are not as they seem, could you possibly imagine that this family member's aim is only to use you and throw you away like a used rag? After that you'd be scorned by him, your boyfriend of 2 months, his family and to boot, they'd still be family and closer than ever.  Why?  Because he proved to your boyfriend' that you were no good.
925690
Well I'm the designated Cook since my father died.....so I always stay at home and cook the traditional Feast....I tell my friends and family it's open door at my house on holidays....Everyone is welcome!.....I cook up our family's traditional feast and usually add a new different something Iv been wanting to try out as well.....I usually start cooking/baking Pies/cookies(jello salads.. & prep work) on wed....and theT- bird on Thursday...it's a ton of work specially since I do it all myself now that Dad has passed( we always did it together ever since I was young girl,just us two)....but everyone really apreaciates it!  so it's worth it !! whatever you do, Rember, Thanksgiving really isn't about the food...though try to tell that to the men...lol....it's really about family and good friends getting together and enjoying each others company....and being Thankful for each other..... \nHave a Great day!\nBlessed Be!