my ex-wife is getting a divorce from her husband and wants me to be on her side in court. should i do it.?
912923
Depends. Do you agree with what her side is saying as the truth?
1096006
It depends on who filed first.  If you filed first, then your court date is first.  Have your lawyer talk to hers, let them sort out the legal details.\n\nEither way, you're getting your divorce, which is a good thing.
806251
Obviously there were some serious problems in your marriage.  Seeing as how she's now your ex-wife, you're asking this question a little late, and asking if of the wrong people.  You should've asked her.  If you have a good relationship with her, you might try to get it out of her one day, maybe she'll tell you what happened with her in your relationship.  If I were to bet on it, I'd bet you took her for granted, you stopped courting her.  She felt like you didn't care about her anymore, so she went out and found someone who does.  I'm not condoning her actions, because I firmly believe that marriage is a lifelong committment, and you fix the problems in the marriage, and divorce really isn't an option.  But obviously you weren't giving her what she needed in your relationship.  Sorry......You probably need to just move on with your life.
622449
You've done all you can. You've discussed the situation with your ex husband and the new wife. What else can you do? Don't force your children to go over because that will only make them resent him because of her.\n\nTell your ex he can come over and spend time with the kids at your house without bringing his wife because she is not welcome around the children. \n\nHe'll start to get the hint.
583278
this is one of the problems you encounter when you get involved with a guy that has an ex and kids. not much you can do. you didn't say how many kids he has but..she won't be able to get away with it forever, plus when he goes to the hearing he needs to let them know how much of a hardship she is creating for him. as far as child support goes they fill out financial statements etc. eventually the divorce will be granted whether she signs or not. aside from that, who cares what she is blaming it on? that doesn't change the reality of anything so don't even worry about that, it isn't worth the energy. if you really love him very much you won't let this come between you, you knew his situation when you started dating him, no point in complaining about it now, just deal with it the best way you can. she will eventually get over it and move on, it could be a long road though so just buckle down and hang in there and make sure he fights for himself and doesn't just hand her whatever she wants out of guilt. good luck to you, it will get better!
112264
TO FIGHT FOR CUSTODY IS HARD THE JUDGE ALWAYS SIDES WITH THE MOTHER UNLESS U HAVE PROBABLE CAUSE.  THE WAY IT SOUNDS  THE MORE TIME U SPEND WITH THE KIDS THE MORE TIME IT GIVES HER TO SPEND WITH HER NEW MAN  I DONT THINK SHELL DENY U THE KIDS  SHE GONNA LIKE THE FREE TIME TOO MUCH   RIDE IT OUT C HOW IT GOES JUST ALWAYS B THERE LIKE U HAVE  N WHEN HE MOVES IN WITH HER WELL THE KIDS R BIG ENOUGH TO TELL U SOMETHING IS WRONG THATS WHEN U STEP UP    HOPE ALL IS WELL
461970
Well, if you're willing to leave her and can manage on your own, or have someone who can help you, you can file for divorce. Only you know if the pain is worth the wife and what she offers. However, I think she's wrong to do this, and if she ever blames you, because of your condition or something, she married you like this. she knew what she was going to be going through.
489378
You will be held liable for it.  What you should have done is gotten an anullment!!!  If you wanted to wait around to give her the benefit of the doubt, you should have filed legal seperation forms that way you would not be responsible for anything she does from the date of filing.  It's six yrs now....file for a divorce!!!  If you cannot find her..there are other ways of divorcing her without knowing her whereabouts...such as file the divorce but have your attorney file (as a public announcement) in the legal section of the newspaper.  She will have so many days to respond.  You sound like my ex...LOL...still married to a woman for eight years been seperated for six of them!!!\n\nEnd it now before it gets worse!!!  Not to sound harsh but if you passed away (lord forbid you don't..) she would be entitled to your benefits!!!!  \n\nEnd it.
200225
If you are considering another relationship with her then maybe marriage counselling would be a first step.  If you can get through that then I might consider trying again but obviously there were serious issues that warranted the divorce to begin with.
800327
Why cant you contest the divorce. Go see the judge and tell him you do not want this to take place. Dont sign the papers be tough.
318320
You could try, but it would be up to the judge.  I think you'd probably need some pretty clear examples of how she is causing significant harm.  \n\nAnother avenue may be to get the custody agreement to stipulate that this girlfriend cannot be present.  The problem may be the court assuming you are a jealous ex-wife and not taking your concerns seriously.
175646
you need to stay outta her life unless she asks you to step up.  bad enough you are involved with a married woman but if she has your kid, you have a right to be in teh kids life.  tiem to break teh bad nes to hewr hubby....hope you are ready to handle it!
34561
Wow, that's pretty messy.\nYes, a man with a kid is a package deal.  Unfortunately, the ex is part of that package.\nWhat is more unfortunate, though, is that this woman has him so tightly by the... ummmmm..... belt buckle?\nYou should not have to subject yourself to any such disappointment.  My recommendation is to have your man have some boundaries set IN COURT, because this woman has no right to give ANYone the boot, or to inspect ANYthing.  If it's YOUR house she wants to inspect, then she can do it while you're there, or not do it at ALL.  Actually, you should feel no inclination whatsoever to even ALLOW that sort of thing to happen.\nAs for your social life and appointments, you have your own life to live.  With or without a partner, with or without your boyfriend, and with or without his ex-wife's dictation.  If he's so worried about it, then he can tweak HIS schedule to work around her.  NO, it is NOT your responsibility.  Neither is it your problem, nor your fault.\nThe bad news is that if you can't live your life this way, then maybe you just need to cut it while you can, because until he decides to stand up for himself and take it to a judge, he is no better than a child himself.  Which makes it difficult to see a lifelong commitment, does it not?\nDo what you must, but I think you should tell him you shouldn't have to your life on hold for his ex-wife & her BS, and if he's not willing to realize that you needn't and you WON'T, then not only will he find himself fixing his schedule to fit, but will fix his schedule WITHOUT YOU indefinitely.\n\nOH!  I missed the preventing me from seeing my kid thing!  Yeah, that's crap.  You tell him, "No, YOU have just as much capability to do these things as I do.  It may be convenient for YOU when I pick up the slack, but it would be just as convenient for ME if you would do it yourself.  It is, after all, your responsibility." \nGirl, I think you just need to cut it, but that's just me.
628658
i would think that would depend largely on if she is able to get out and get a job herself. if she is able to then she probably won't get half your pay for life. just up untill the end of the divorce.
946453
Yes...they are your kids.  That makes them YOUR responsibility.  Even if she doesn't let you see them, you still have to pay.  In the divorce decree it says that.
1032090
I feel sorry for both you and your husband. Here is what I would do If I were in your situation:\n\nFirst of all you and your husband need to put up a united front. Once you set your rules and advise her of them, put your foot down.  If she chooses to disobey, then she must suffer the consequences, and if she calls the cops, have her bags packed ready and waiting by the door when they get there.\nAs for the ex, we all have to put up with them on behalf of the kids, but that does not mean that you hve to be a push over and let her destroy your marriage. Let her know where you stand.\nGood Luck.
388998
Take the bit*h to court, that way if you get partial custody and visitation rights, she cant sue you for child support.  You'll be suprised how fathers have rights these days to help them see their children.