if i'm 23 and my bf is 34 is he to old for me?
930785
This is simply not enough information to answer in a helpful way. 11 years is not too much in all cases, depending on things like maturity, wanting the same things, sharing things in common, etc. The age alone is not a problem, but the greater the age difference is, typically it is harder to make things work over the long haul. That shouldn't discourage you though; even people who are 20 or more years different make it work!
392047
"To thine ownself be true" i think that you are young and need to do what you think you need to do. If older men are attractive to you, then by all means go out on a date with one, or have a sexual relationship with a few of them. You don't want to stay with your b/f if the only reason is because you two have a long history, or you are afraid to hurt his feelings.  You have to do what is right for you.  And you are still so YOUNG! you have plenty of time to find that special someone. Go out and have fun so when you do end up with the person you are suppose to be with for the rest of your life you are not looking back and having second thoughts about what you should have done. Life is the ultimate experience, live it up, because you only live once.
967997
Even though many people say, "Love has no age difference" there is. Point blank. \n\nFirst of all, if you trust him 100% and you love him then don't worry about the women before you. Those were just mistakes that lead up to you. \n\nSecondly, yes he's older. But NEVER, EVER let him pressure you into doing something that you don't want to or most importantly, not ready for. Just because his ex's did such and such all the time or something, doesn't mean that you do to. Make him realize that. \n\nThirdly, I'd test the waters. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Just take it all in stride, chances are that this might not be your "one" but it's all a learning process. So what you don't date younger guys? The more you date, the more you learn the specifications of the type of man you want to be with in the future. Enjoy yourself, but don't lose yourself!
1114088
Hi, sorry to hear about this situation. Personally, I think you are going to have problems with this relationship. I am not saying that this is not going to work out, but I am going to give you a few things to think about.\n  Right now, I think he is too young for you in a lot of ways. It would be different if he were 20 and you were 23. He would probably be at your level maturity wise, but right now, the fact is that he is not.\n  Your life is probably going to be very different in a year or so. You are probably going to go to college or at least start school for some kind of trade. This is where the problems arise.. You are at a new stage of life where you begin to get older and are on your way to a mature adult life. There will be things that you will be experiencing that is going to be different from your highschool life. In time, your boyfriend is probably going to feel left out. Its like two ships passing through the night. Your going to be on totally different levels.\n   I personally think maybe you should really wait this out. He is really still young, and I think he has some growing up to do before he involves himself in someone that is older. I think three years is a lot when you are 18. When you are 19 do you really want to be dating a 16yr old.\n  I know people are going to say age doesn't matter. In most cases it doesn't. But I think at this stage in your lives it might matter. I could be wrong, but I think you should consider dating guys your age or a little older.\n  If you do consider that you still want to date him, proceed with caution. Maybe you and him should discuss things with your parents to see how they feel about the situation. If they don't see problems with it, go for it but just keep certain things in the back of your mind. The whole legality thing is not going to matter unless his or your parents have a problem with it.\n Good Luck!
629057
The older the man is the better for you because women tend to look older than men especially after giving birth. So dont worry about that guy being 3 years older, in fact up to 10 years older, it still ok but not more than that. Meanwhile, let him make the first move, inviting you out for a first date. Then you see how things will work out. You both have yet to know about each other better than to just plunge deeply into a relationship. You should try and know about his past. He may have certain weaknessess you may not know off. So just go slow and takes things slowly. If hes willed to be with you, he will be, otherwise you just like chasing in the wind. May God Bless you with the will to decide wisely to pursue the relationship with him.
163078
Not really, but understand that this will not be a permanent relationship.  An older guy should introduce you better things than a guy your age.  Nice restaurants, plays, concerts.  In exhange you are keeping him young.
287182
Hey i'd say go for it...if you think you can trust him. I am in the same boat mines 5 years and i really love him. I think you fine with a 9 year age difference...just be careful.\nluvs bobcat chick
1060273
25 up is ideal age-wise, but of course age does not really matter. It's your level of maturity, how prepared are you, and when you have the RIGHT reasons for marrying someone (that includes you love the person and want to spend the rest of your life with the him)
164085
wow, 28 and 63, what an age difference.  What country are you in, i don't think i can advise you on anything being that you are in an entirely different culture and i don't know anything about it.  If you were in America, I would say that he is too old for you, you seem to be in love with him though, i think the only thing you can do is wait and see.  Does he ever come see you?  If not, that is not dating, it is cyberdating, which is not the same thing, if you don't see each other often, unless he is taking care of you and is extremely rivch, iwould find a new man.
1181304
My boyfriend is 43 and I am 25.  We have been together for 3 years now and it is the best relationship I have been in.  I couldn't imagine ever dating somebody my own age again.  They are so immature and in this relationship I feel like there is stability.  I think he will definitely stay with you because men like younger women and if you are good to him and he is good to you, it will work.
406402
I am 27, and my husband is 40.  When we started dating I was 20 and he was 33.  While there's not anything wrong with it, my experience has been that we are at very different points in our lives.  For example, I am just getting settled in a career job (teaching), and thinking about starting a family; he is not sure about a family at this point (looking ahead to retirement) and wants to start travelling the world.  So it can be difficult in a lot of ways.  But that being said, he's a wonderful guy and I wouldn't trade our relationship for anything!\n\n(Huh, apparently judging by the comments above, we must be some sort of sickos....who knew?)
71234
I think the maturity level of the two persons involved makes a difference, I mean if you are both willing to accept each other for who you are and for how well you get along, similar interests, good communication, respect, and love. If things are good between the two of you, age should not make a difference. My boyfriend is 22 years younger than I am, we have been together for over two years and things are great! I know what you are talking about though. Finding the right person to share your life with is difficult enough. Age should not be an issue. Let him know this, and let him know how you feel about him, that's about all you can do, the rest is up to him.
133857
I'm attracted to older guys. I don't see a problem with it, honestly. Just make sure you both have similar goals for a relationship. If he is wanting to settle down and lead a nice, quiet life, and you want to go out on the town and party, it won't work. Make sure your priorities for the relationship parallel first.
1134969
im a 23 yr old woman n my ex was a 19yr old his was mature for his age. it was great y it lasted but we had to go different ways, we r still great mates but cud neva b in a long term thing. at the end of day you sudnt b lookin for a relationship u sud let it find u. hav fun in the mean time but b safe
390783
I understand that you're worry about if he isn't mature enough and ready to face a life time marriage. I would say it's something that you should consider about but not to judge a person through his/her age. If you two have already got to the step that which is going to marry then you should know your future husband better. I don't know how well you two know about each other but I wouldn't recommend a rush relationship, especially marriage. Age wouldn't be a matter in a relationship which is cause by love, you should take a closer look to this person, find out if he would be the one that can love you, accept you and willing to cooperate with you to operate a life time marriage. If the answer that he give to you is "yes" and he has already proved to you, you mustn't stop.
639919
Yes, your normal.  Your smart enough to realize that forever is hard to define at your age and you know that in the next 5 years there is a lot of life to experience that will change dramatically who you are and what you want out of life.  When your bf talks about forever just tell him that while you can imagine forever with him, your not ready to make that commitment yet.  If he can't accept that then unfortunately this is probably not the right relationship for you at this time.  You have to realize that it is normal to enjoy the safety and comfort of a relationship and to be scared to let it go, but it is more important at this point in your life to open yourself to all the possibilities life has to offer you right now.
395984
Depends on your age.  If you and he are early teens, yes.  If older, not really.