how can i rebuild my relationship?
929193
are you sure you wanna cause more pain to the both of you? you took waay too much energy in distroying it, so rebuilding would be reeeally hard....
556137
What you really want is the REAL thing, not any cheap substitutes for the intimacy that you once had. If you've been together for a long time, you focus on your careers and other things that need to get done and in that time both of you have grown as individuals. You are not on the exact same level that you used to be on when you once met because you have both gained new wisdom, new dreams, new experiences, etc. I think what you need to do is meet each other on the level that you are on now. In other words REDISCOVER each other. There is something deeper in your husband and in you that wasn't there before and you need to get in touch with each other. Talking is the number one key for intimacy. Maybe you could change the scenery and talk in a totally different place to spark some enthusiasm. Make it special and really dig into each other's worlds. Talking about the past can bring back good memories, but don't wish that your husband is now what he was then because he is all that and even more. Love him now and get to know him all over again. Do something special for him and create an atmosphere where you can talk and fall in love all over again.
181428
Only HE can decide if he wants to get back together.  You cant MAKE him.  And if you do, it could be worse.  He needs to make the decision of WANTING to be with you.  If he is unable to forgive you for whatever you did. DO NOT force the issue.  Try very hard to move on.
400257
get involved in things you love, hobbies, work.  realizing how much you love activities, and life.  try not to dwell and talk about it with friends.\nrealize the reasons behind the breakup and that "that is what was" then move on.
380506
here's a key book you should read, all the tips will help you discover how to find another one.\n\nHow to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships.
1049859
You have to want to, and let time heal your wounds.  Try counseling, whether alone or with him.  Talking out your feelings is the only way you will truly ever be able to process them.\n   Do not listen to these people who say give up and move on.  We do that too much today.  Give up to easy.  If you really love him, try to work it out.  You will probably never forget the hurt he has caused you, but you may be able to forgive, move on, and both of you learn a valuable lesson.  It may make you stronger in the long run.\n   I would suggest counseling before you give up, but if the pain is too great, then maybe you should seperate for awhile (not give up, just seperate) and work on things at a distance where you both have your space to heal, grow, and process.\n\nGood luck.  peace and love
919016
I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
234936
It takes time, patience and a real willingness to want to forgive and forget.  If you can't forgive and forget, then you will never learn to trust again.  Think of it this way.  No one is perfect, even you and I have made and will continue to make mistakes (sometimes big ones).  Just give yourself PLENTY of time and take baby steps.  It may take a few years even, but if the relationship(s) are better afterwards, it will be worth your while.
600643
It's very difficult to win trust back I'm afraid. However, if you love him and he loves you then work on it, nothing is impossible.
616335
First of all, U need to more of a woman and step up in this relationship and take action tell he neeed to get it together or u will move on with ur life. Instead of argue with a complete wall, u need to focus on ur own life and get ur self together and be independed and stand on ur own. I bet u r young and still got ur whole ahead of u, and need to get into colleges and job to find ur way back into reality. I know u got ur head on ur shoulder and also have dream of ur own. Focus on ur dreams and stop trying change a man that dont wanna be change. U need to change ur situation and like I said: "focus on u."  Now men comes and goes, but for one thang U have ur self to fall back on. If u have kids then u need to focus on u and ur kids.  That man u have right now, is a grow-a*s-man. He is not going change for u or any body els. So quit trying to change him. If he wont have sex wit u then find somebody else. Now its up to u to decided if u want out of this relationship or not!!
602550
get out and do things with friends/family. \n\ngo to different places than you used to go with your ex.\n\ngood luck. \n\ntime heals.
631473
start a new one with someone else.\n\nseriously!\n\nonce the trust is broken u can never fully regain it. u will always be wondering!
206232
Ending a relationship hurts.  Just take time for yourself.  Do the things you didn't get to do as often when you were with her.  Try something new.  But definitly don't rush into a new relationship.  It's only been a day, like you said.  It will get better, I promise!
1079112
Start from the beginning from when you first started dating. Go back to the place you met. Revisit old past times together. Start doing the things you used to do before your life became busy. \n\nDon't forget to look back and find out what that person really means to you. Spice things up a little, do something that you would not ordinarily do. You may have become to predictable with your day in and day out routine. Do some new things.\n\nPray about it as well. It'll work, you have nothing to worry about.
103519
You have to rediscover yourself. After three years, you have become so entwined in each others lives, it's like losing part of yourself.  Spend time with YOU before moving on.
606254
The key to any relationship is communication.  If you can't talk about how you feel then things are not going to get any better.  Be strong, find a moment during your conversation to just say I love you and I am tired of fighting lets figure out a way to get back on track.  Or something like that, you need to talk about it or it will just get worse.
596718
you have to think about why it is that you feel this way. why do you think you aren't good enough for her. once you figure this out you can start the healing process within yourself. it's okay to argue.. it's part of life. the tough part is how you are going to handle it and manning up to any mistakes you may have made. that is the true test of a relationship. this doesn't mean that you don't deserve her. if anything.. she's putting you on to things so you are aware how you are hurting her, yourself, and the relationship. if she says she loves you .. believe it. communication is the key. have a talk with her and try to sort out your feelings. if you really love her .. try and work it out. but you gotta trust her. live and let go.. easier said than done.. but you'll be happier in the long run with the one you love.. hope it helps..