Christians Please question on meeting your mate?
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Met my husband when I commenced voluntary work in a Christian organisation .....wondered why God had called me there but it soon became very obvious why He'd called me...so I could meet my gorgeous man :)\ndon't forget the Bible says, "Seek first the kingdom of God and then all of these things will be given to you".  Jesus was talking about giving all the blessings God has for you.......seek God, not a woman & then see what God does with that.  God bless you as you seek Him.\nI'm praying that God will provide a Godly wife for you......
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READ MY ANSWER - ITS A REAL ONE:\nCongrats on making the step into a life long relationship with the King!\nFirst read Philippians 1.6 - it says this "being confidant of this, that he that began a good work in you (God), will carry it through to perfection on the day of Jesus Christ".\nThats a personal favourite of mine - it very clearly says that God Himself will take personal attention in making sure that you get closer to Him - even to the point of perfecting it on the day of Jesus Christ (the day that we see Him face to face).\nSo heres the first tip - take the pressure off - its a journey man.\nHeres the practical stuff:\n1. Get stuck into the Word of God - Joshua 1.8 says, get into that thing all the time - Joshua puts it like this "day and night". In this verse it says to meditate on the scriptures - this isnt in the eastern style of emptying your mind - in fact its the opposite! FILL your mind with God's word and chew on it until you get something out of it!\n2. Pray - lots. 1 Thess 5:17 says it like this - "Pray continually" .Not out of compulsion or duty but because you want to spend time with our great God. Open it up and get freestyle about it. Go for a walk in the morning and talk to God. \nNow - prayer is a two way thing - keep in mind that God wants to talk to you more than you need to talk to Him! So when you are praying take the time to listen to what He has to say to you too - trust me - give Him the chance and you won't believe what He wants to talk to you about - great things, the stuff that is on His mind!\n3. Fellowship - daggy word - great thing. This is simply hanging out with other christians. Hebrews 10:25 is Paul's recommendation to the Jewish church - he says - dont stop getting together. Get yourself into a church and surround yourself with good quality people who are now what you want to be like - you'll find yourself picking up the way they do things and catching their passion and the intimacy that they have with God will get into your life too! (Make sure its a church that is active in the community and grwoing on a weekly basis - this is an alive church that you can grow with and experience the nature and presence of God first hand)\n4. Serve. Do something for Him - contribute to building the Kingdom. Get real deep into serving the leaders and ministry of your local church and see your life expolde with joy and passion for the things of God.\n\nAND DON'T STOP - always just keep going. Thats my hottest tip - when it doesnt seem like anythings happening - don't stop - keep pushing, keep praying, keep reading. Remember a seed has to disapear into the ground before it can shoot up as a tree! there will be times where it doesnt seem like anything is happening - but keep 'watering the seed' and watch it grow.\n\nGod bless man - let me know how you go with this.
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I have a friend who is a Christian and married a Muslem.  It is important for the two of you to discuss whether you will want to worship together (will you go with each other to services, or go seperately?) and how you will handle religious regulations in the home.  It is essential that you also decide how your future children will be raised.  Being on the same page with this is key for your future.  Good luck.
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I am an atheist.  I have no problems dating a person of faith.  I have a lot of respect for the faith and beliefs of others.  I feel that if you connect well with a person, beliefs should not be an issue.  Love is a human emotion and if I should fall in love with a person of faith, I am willing to accept that they have different ideas than me.  \nIf you both have respect for one another's beliefs and are willing to discuss any differences in opinions maturely, a well balanced relationship will thrive.
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Go outside and look at the sky, look at a leaf.\n\nRead your Bible or Koran or whatever applies without anyone else telling you what it "really" means.\n\nStudy what is happening to people in other parts of the world, not what the news says, not what politicians say, but what is really happening.\n\nCry.\n\nPlant a seed and tend it as it grows.\n\nThen look within and you will find God.\n\nConsider that marriage is a give and take proposition, 80% give and 20% take, for both.\n\nThen decide if you want the partnership with this person, and will you both be happy.
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Well, it depends on the age group that you are in/the guys are in. Do you know these guys? If not, it would be better to leave than to use a simple "leave me alone". \nDating should be based around good morals (eg, no infedelity, no premarital sex, etc). Your partner should also have a strong relationship with God, and attend church regularly, the beliefs you have. You should also share some interests, but not all. That would get kinda boring after a while. \nIf you are uncomfortable dating guys you don't know (I'm not quite sure what you are saying there, "[I] am not sure how I should handle men who are interested in dating."), try to minimize time you spend in bars, clubs etc. In college, or fresh out? Find another Christian girl that you can talk to, someone you will be able to trust (Actually, you can do this at any age). Tell them that you are recently born again, and would like to know "how" to be a nice Christian girl. Well, basically, love thy neighbor (everyone around you) as you would yourself, give yourself entirely to God each and every day, pray to Him when you are having problems, etc. Live like Jesus would, set an example for others around you. \nMore questions? email me, dot.champion@gmail.com. (If you feel uncomfortable about that, it's ok. Talk to a pastor, or an older woman at your church, or any other Christian). \nP.S. Sure, I may be a guy, but living a Christian life, living like Christ is the same for men and women. \nP.S.S. I was saved 2 years ago, and didn't know how to live like Him, until I talked to some other Christians.
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I have a number of gay friends who do - one is even the Australian leader of a worldwide christian youth movement. It was hard for them to reconcile the two lifestyles though. They are all Catholic and have been told they are wrong for a large part of their lives - luckily they found support within the church. I don't go to church myself but support them as I know how.
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This is a loaded question which has many answers.  Since I do not know you nor do I know the friends of which you speak, it is hard for me to give you an accurate answer.  I will do my best.  \n\nPeople are inclined to seek out people...its human nature.  When looking for a mate, perhaps we have a vision in our mind of what's "ideal"...she's funny or he's handsome, she loves the theater, he loves to cook.  We set up a scenario only to be disappointed when there seems to be no match.  So, what is one to do?  Wait and pray for that soul mate to appear one day?  Maybe resign yourself to the fact that there is 'nobody' for you?  Or, do you settle for someone who is not quite what you were looking for but close enough to build something with...perhaps leaving you to wonder if that 'soul mate' is still out there?   The answer lies in you.  God won't shout down from 'above' with a megaphone "Go to the bookstore, you will find your mate there."  \n\nYou've reminded me of a joke I once heard.  I'll abbreviate it for you:  Every day a woman would go to church and pray to God that she would win the lottery. But, every night she would be disappointed when she didn't win.  One day God spoke to her and said "Meet me half way and buy a ticket." \n  \nYour ticket lies in your heart.  Good luck....
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i do believe in faith. it sounds like you were meant to be with this person whether that is for a friend or a soul mate. don't let them out of your life.
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My husband and I are atheists. He told me about his position before we married and I accepted it. I was an atheist in every way but by name, and just decided that I am what I am; I've been happy with the decision ever since.\n\nThat said, the argument they give about dating outside of their faith is almost the same one used by those who oppose gay marriage. They somehow believe that gay marriage is a threat to heterosexual marriage. My husband and I have discussed this before; our feeling is, if our marriage is somehow threatened by Bob and Dave's marriage, then we have other problems. Our marriage is our marriage; the only threat to our marriage would be a lack of love, respect or communication with the other. That's our problem, not something Bob and Dave created.\n\nIf you are strong in your beliefs, whatever they are, you rise to the challenge to defend them. Your faith (whether in God or in yourself) should not be shaken by association with those who believe differently than you. If anything, it should bolster your confidence to go out into the world. \n\nYour friend believes that all she does is based on faith at its very foundation. Frankly, she may be feeling very conflicted because you are a decent, trusting, and honorable person on your own - without having the guilt of religion as a motivator to be these things. In her mind, and that of her friends, you can't have those qualities without faith. Your relationship with her proves that you can; it's a threat to what she believes, and on some level she may be questioning her faith. You are not asking her to give up her faith. You are treating her with kindness, respect and are offering the prospect of being in a loving relationship. You have not shunned her friends because they are Christians, you embrace them as cool people who just happen to believe differently. \n\nI don't know what to tell you other than you seize opportunities when they're presented to you. I hope she at least considers how wonderful dating could be for the both of you. The only way you're going to know is to jump in and see what happens. If it goes well, you will approach any hurdles your differences present from a standpoint of love and respect. If it doesn't work, you will have given it an effort, and time will heal whatever heartbreak occurs.\n\nYou can't know how it's going to work without giving it a chance.
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In my experience, Christian men are the hardest to date.  They really seem to have this superior attitude and are the lest honest about their feelings.  Some of them treat women like they are this horrible temptation that must be fought and less like a human being.  They also seem to flirt insincerely more then nonChristian men, which is surprising.  I think Christian women should be friends with a Christian guy a long time before dating.  This way the guy has to learn to think of her more as a friend to be respected and less like a temptress.  I have seen a lot of girls get hurt by the insincere attentions of Christian guys who flirted with girls and then told them they were just friends and are not interested.  It was pretty harsh.  And they all, no matter what their past seem to have this attitude that they deserve to marry only the most pure, subserviant young girl.  This amazed me even more.\n\nThankfully I found a good Christian guy after years of having given up on dating Christian guys.
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I think you are exactly right.  You either accept him or reject him and I chose to accept him.  When I answer most of the bible based questions, I also mention that they should talk to someone in person because I think a conversation is better than a written response.  That way they can ask questions and the pastor/whomever can answer what they do not understand.  God Bless You.
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hi,\n it is difficult to answer this without sounding judgemental.... please believe me when i say that i am only putting myself where they MAY be.... It says in the Bible not to be unequally yoked, but that means in plain English that as a christian if you date a non christian it may become difficult for you to stick to your christian beliefs, personally if my sons where to date a non christian that had never had the chance to know the joy of Christ my priority would be to give them that opportunity.\nPraying that God will bless you in your search for answers.\nGod be with you\nShaz\nx x x x x x
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i think that god has someone spl. for you. and when you will meet her you will not regret. do give your first kiss to the best one. who will be committed for you and you only. like indians.\neither they are crazy but still they have very pious love.
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Once I was asked “Have you found Jesus?” I replied “Damn? You guys just keeping losing him” (and probably your faith as well). And while I appreciate your thought and intent the answer is “No Thanks”.  I am pleased that you have found a path but with all due respect, do not try to drag others along! (Usually kicking and screaming).  Make you a deal! I’ll attend a service with you if you attend one with me! Neither will probably convert but I’ve seen yours before. You attending mine may uplift you and at least give you a different perspective.
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I think it maybe possible but may take awhile looking and getting to know people here. I have a good friend here on Yahoo that I chat with and she met her future husband online. So it's possible just don't give up yet you never know you might meet your mate here or elsewhere. hang in there!
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You will need to check all directions and guidance from what the Bible teaches anyway so one of the best things you can do is to read and study and familiarise yourself with The Bible - a bit like the Bereans in Acts17/11.\n\nGod through the Holy Spirit is able to guide and lead and open your understanding, especially through The Bible. Just ask Him, and watch and pray.\n\nHaving said that it can be very helpful to have someone who can help spiritually and I strongly suggest you pray to God Himself to provide you with someone suitable. He is well able and it would be a good spiritual excercise to place it in His hands and wait on Him for His answer while you look.\n\nIn addition, if you are able to meet with other Christians that can be very encouraging and helpful and probably it is best to take time to get to know them to find out who is trusworthy and Biblically sound.\n\nMay God's provision prevail.