I am losing my best friend.?
929389
Come right out and tell her how you feel. She'll probably just blow you off at first, but you will end up haunting her. I also suggest hanging out with other people. Good Luck!
141051
Let go of the hurt...it's difficult to learn to accept something you don't want.. but sometimes we have to learn to do just that. Sometimes we have to be our own best friend-do what you need to do for you to help you get through the tough spots..what would you advise your best friend to do in a situation like this?...Keep in mind, all the while your guts are tied up in a knot..she has no idea-don't give her that kind of power over you and your life. The time we have to walk this world is so short-there's a woman out there who can love you the way you deserved to be loved..if you're so preoccupied by this other woman when the Right one comes around-you may not be able to see her...and That, my friend, would be a terrible thing..hang in there..
673654
Don't rush things.  He's probably scared of losing a friend.  Give him time to sort his feelings out and then let things take their course naturally.  If it's meant to be it will happen.
57553
you dont. you shouldnt ruin a good thing. be grateful you even have a best friend.
380711
My best friend. She was someone who I developed a close bond with early in life, her sister and my brother dated that's how we met. We grew up together and had many wonderful and memorable times together. We were like night and day, have you ever seen the movie beaches that was one of our favorites. She was a very talented and a beautiful girl, she had a great family and she excelled in school. Her parents lived in a well known neighborhood and were active in the community. As she got older she started dating older guys which was gross to me because i had two older brothers and they forbid their friends to even look at me. Anyways my friend went down a dangerous slope. This went on from her high school years till sshe was 19. Towards the end she was recovering from a two week drug binge when she lefther boyfriend. She disappeared during those 2 weeks. She called me once while she was gone, but wouldn't tell me where she was. She returned from her 2 weeks very sick and in need of detoxifing and sleep mainly. She didn't call until after 2 days she had been at her parents. The house where we used to have slumber parties and watch movies, sing and play on the piano, I had my first kiss there. I went to see her she was in poor health, thin and very tired and weak. I remember sitting in the room with her just holding her hand and talking to her. It was so hard to see my friend going through this, I remember telling her that things may be bad and they may get worst but your at at your lowest and you can only go up and that we are all here for her. She recovered and was doing well and living back with her boyfriend. They were talking about getting married and she was going to go to college. A couple of weeks later I got a call from her,she was upset and crying. She said she wanted to leave because her boyfriend/fiance was angry at her. She asked what I was doing. I told her I had plans for a friends bday but she was welcome to go ahead and come over and i would be home later. When I came home that night, my mom was waiting up for me, she told me that my best friend had died, they said she killed herself, no investigation, case closed. That's probably more than you bargained for but it feels good to talk about it. I am not really the type of person who indulges on my feelings to my family, friends and my boyfriend about it.
46150
You need to let this friendship go. Most likely she's going to do it again, but this time it'll be worst. Trust me. She'll loose your trust. People change as they grow older, and it's not always for the better. At least you've realized she's not the person you thought she was and if you continue to be her best friend then you're putting yourself in a situation where you'll probably get hurt in the end. Move on.
809791
talk to her in person, whether or not it's awkward or emotionally filled. \n\nyou were best friends for a reason... moving in together sometimes strains those relationships, but it shouldn't be the end of the friendship. \n\nshe is worth it, so are you. so try to reach out to her this way. if her heart softens, great. if not, at least you tried and you should keep the invitation of friendship open for her to give her some time to mull on it. once you've done everything you could to make things right, you will be able to walk away knowing you did what you could.\n\ntell her you are sorry of what happened between you two, you care about her and love her, and in order for you two have any friendship to salvage- you both need to live separately. it'll take a while, and things may never be exactly the same (and you definitely don't have to have her as a BEST friend, especially if you have lost trust in her), but time WILL heal things. It will be awkward/difficult to do, but it has the best possible outcome. good luck and God bless
581706
i really understand what ur going through, because last year my best friend had brain surgery. i couldnt stop crying either, but i thought about it and realized im not helping her by crying. I need to stop and be there for her!! after shes done with her surgery you should go visit her!! and be there for her when she needs it!!
569068
I'M IN A SIMILAR SITUATION LIKE THAT. ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS IS A MALE AND HE EXPRESSED HIS FEELINGS FOR ME AND I TOLD HIM THAT WE WOULD BE BETTER AS FRIENDS. WE ARE STILL AS CLOSE AS WE EVER WERE. I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD FEAR LOSING HER AS A FRIEND BECAUSE IF YOU ALL ARE REALLY GOOD FRIENDS, YOU EXPRESSING YOUR FEELINGS TO HER SHOULD NOT CHANGE WHAT YOU TWO HAVE. I BELIEVE EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT FOR THE BEST AND YOU SHOULD JUST GO FOR IT. GOOD LUCK...
158831
First evaluate the relationship and see if is worth fighting for, then talk to your best friend and ask him/her why the fighting and the distance.  Try to spend time and be patient and hopefully you will be able to save your friendship. good luck
457128
Make sure you tell her you deserve an explanation for her distance. This is important. You have the right to know why she no longer wishes to be a part of your life. Just pull her to the side nicely or if you can catch her alone even better and just be like, "Hey, I've noticed you've been distant lately, is there anything wrong...did I do something to upset you?" Then if she doesn't wanna talk or explain herself, tell her "I deserve an explanation and I'll only try this once if your gonna give me the cold shoulder. I care about you enough to address the situation, but if you don't wanna be my friend anymore, at least have the decency to inform me like a woman". After this. just do what's in your heart. Go your separate ways and look into other options in friends. Someone is out there in the same boat as you and you'll find a new BFF soon. Good Luck!
1017212
I am sorry for your loss I know it hurts  My best friend of 35 years and I claim to be sisters. I don't think you have any legal standing even though you lost a big part of your life.
658466
I'm sorry for your lost i hope something will help you to move on and your heart will heal soon. When i lost may love ones i went to my friends and hung out. Played bingo now that did take my mine off thing trying to keep up.\nAnyways best of luck.
898873
You've got to be absolutely sure its GOING to work before you jump into that.\n\nOtherwise, you'll end up losing the love and friendship of your best friend.\n\nI'm serious... think about it and ask yourself, "Is it worth losing a friend?"
267243
Losing the people that I love
194237
honey i didn't lose my father and i don't know of any online groups, but my best friend recently lost her brother whom i knew, and i know how hard it is to go through something like that and i really do feel bad for you very much so, i'm not like one of those people who says they're sorry about a death and then skips away. it actually affects me, you know? well okay bye now and i hope you get through this!
703095
Tell him: "I am really sorry four your loss (insert name here). Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you or your family in your time of need, or if you just need a friend right now." This is kind, and formal, yet personal, and shows you truly care for your friend, and feel for his loss.