I cannot separate sex and love. Does that make me defective? I could not love 1 man and have sex with another.
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There is nothing wrong with you. Actually, if the world were more like you, there might be less drama. I don't think you should change that. You seem to have a moralistic outlook on things, and when it comes to sex and love. If you are married, then you will have no problem staying faithful...which is a good thing. You take the words "making love" literally...so don't change because the rest of the world doesn't value it. :)
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I believe you can love more then one person romantically at the same time. Maybe I just feel that way because I'm a man, don't know why I just do.
1126564
I think a person can be in love with two people at the same time. However, I think it's wrong for them to carry on two relationships simultaneously. They should choose one person, and let the other go.
772830
You need to find out where you stand with him. If he doesn't feel the same way you do you need to cut ties to avoid getting hurt further. If I were you I would not do this kind of thing again. I do not think it is possible to have an on going sexual relationship with another person without developing feelings of some sort for a woman. We are very emotional and loving beings. We're sensitive. Many men can do this because they are not. Take care of yourself first.
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I've been married 28 years ,and it's still in doubt .It seems the spirit and the flesh are somewhat incompatible .You can do what you want, it seems to quench the spirit tho for a time .
845381
You say it is someone you think you are going to have sex with and not someone that you love. Relationships with age differences can work, but they are more difficult to make work and require a loving relationship. Since you didn't mention love, I don't think he is too old, I think you are too young.
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In my opinion that's not love. Love never exalts itself and it is never self seeking. The emotions have a tendency to run wild when being satisfied, but i wouldn't confuse it with love. \nIf the sex stopped, would you still hang around?
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Okay, I know first hand that love hurts. No matter what happened in your last relationship if it is meant to be then it is meant to be. All you really need to do is pray to God forgiveness for ALL of your sins and mean everyword. Just ask God for his help. That is what I did and i'm married with a set of Twin boys! things WILL work out for the best. And don't degrade yourself into having sex with all of those guys. And i have something personal to tell you also. When you have sex alot with other men you can accually lose some sensation in your vagina. So i encurage you to seek in answers from the Lord our Savior!!!! Good Luck and God Bless you!!!!!!!
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sex is only one part of love... and definitely can't carry the load all by itself.\n\nany love that you "make" a man feel will be outweighed ten times by his feelings of resentment for being "made" to feel it.\n\ndon't be manipulative.  : |
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You think your ripped off? I'm bi and yet I don't get to have sex with every single thing that moves every single night and day. Someone cheated me out of my horde of lovers.\n\n*edit*\nI feel your pain, they led us on with promises of hot multisex orgies and then informed us that we still get normal lives. Life is so cruel sometimes.
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Maybe what you want is just love and affection.  Everyone needs it.  \n\nMaybe what felt good to you was the good feeling of having someone close and touching you, and you interpreted that as sexual.  If you have a strong need for love and affection if would have felt good coming from anyone you trusted. \n\nAnd if so, you've probably equated sex with love and affection.  Sometimes that happens if you experienced a forced sexual contact, been in a unhealthy sexual relationship,  or was exposed to/experienced sex at a very early age.
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You are sort of unclear here...but if you refer to inability to have sex once you have committed to them...then I have a thought. \n\nYou aren't seeing them in the same light. You have taken your partner to a place where they can not be corrupted by what you think sex should be. \n\nThis may take therapy to fix. But if you are willing to try...see this person as your best friend...as a person that you want to be happy. See them as someone to give too. Give to them. If you do not see yourself as able to give to this person...or turned off....there may be something that you need to see a sex therapist about. Or if you are shy or without insurance...try reading about it at a Borders. This problem is not particularly rare. But you need to explore  if fully. \n\nThe problem will come on with other people too in the future. Better to address it now
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Sex and making love is a physical expression of love, and the excitement of the pleasure is best shared when two people are pure to each other. \n\nIn a relationship, it is difficult when you've had multiple sex partners. When you have sex with another person you take those memories, thoughts, and feelings with you to your marriage. There is a lot of emotional ties as well as lustful ties that get in the way of a marriage when their has been infidelity outside of marriage.\n\nThere are also the obvious issues such as diseases and pregnancy. With both of those issues arise many other issues which can and will affect your whole life.\n\nIf you've had sex outside of marriage then you will never really understand or know the benefits of staying a virgin until marriage. You can never understand the purity and joy of it. When you remain pure and marry someone out of genuine friendship and love then the sexual experience is something to be treasured as well as freely enjoyed.\n\nNot everyone has the blessing of coming to this awareness nor does life treat everyone gently. So, some may not be able to come to the marriage relationship a virgin. Still, we can choose to remain celebate until marriage. If you start off a relationship without sexual intimacy then you don't bring baggage to a new relationship. It is best to get to know your potential spouse first, and save the physical after you've tied the knot.\n\nLast but not least... and this is difficult for a post modern generation to understand. It is because God said so. Plain and simple. Let's remember the standard and then learn about the standard rather than ignoring the warnings of many generations.
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I respect you immensely for not wanting to.  Sex is a very serious thing and it ties two people together permanently.  (Have you ever noticed couples around you who need to break up because they're miserable: the reason they won't is because they're having sex) It is a very serious decision. Treat it as such.
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i was in the SAME situation recently! SERIOUSLY just have some fun together! A relationship doesn't have to be based on Sex! Are you two passionate with each other or get butterflys around each other? then you are more than friends....if not they you are JUST friends!
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Neither of you should be in different relationships and still hold feelings for one another. Why did you get into other relationships if you had feelings towards one another.\n\nAlso a relationship which is only based on sex is only doomed for destruction.\n\nYou both should really level headedly decide once and for all what you really want else you're going to hurt others too along with yourselves.\n\nHope this helps you in making the right decisions.\n\nTake care.
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Honey, I am 28 yrs. and have been with my fiance for a total of 10 years now. In the beginning, we did have more sex than we do now. How long have you two been together? I totally disagree that it means you are not in love with him. I have more love for my man every year that passes by, even though now we aren't intimate like before. Sure, we love to be with eachother, it's just not the most important thing on our list to do. We have grown to be totally comfortable with that and it doesn't mean there is something wrong...that's my opinion anyways. You should try new and exciting things, even if it is just a laugh with eachother.