Should I waste my time forgiving the people that enjoyed harrasing me?
912197
The simple rule is this.\n\nWe don't forgive people for them.  We forgive people for ourselves.\n\nForgiving is a selfish act that results in self-growth.  Until you forgive people who've hurt you, you will never grow past the emotional level you are at regarding those people.  You can forgive someone without ever even telling them and still benefit from the act.\n\nSome people carry hate right to the grave, never realizing that all their life, all they are doing is hurting themselves.  Life is too short.  Forgive and grow.
533316
ABSOLUTELY!!! Forgiveness is so important. If you cannot forgive some for their sake, then do it for yours, please, 'cause if if you don't, then all the anger and hurt will turn to bitterness and it will turn you into a bitter person. NOT a pretty sight. I have seen many people ruined this way.
850603
Forgive them, sure, why hold a grudge, but as far as talking to them later on down the road. Nope not really, I would be nice to them and probably say Hello but that would be the extent of the conversation. If they treated you that way once, they will do it again.
305936
I'm sorry that you were treated so badly. I recognise the anger you feel. I've had the same experience myself and I know how much it hurt me. \nBest advice I suggest is do nothing. \nThis person has probably long forgotton about you. Getting your vengence on this person more than likely will not make you feel any better. If anything, you may even end up feeling a little guilt. \nThe things that happened to you were wrong, but its happened and you can't change that. It might help to find a way of dealing the anger you feel in another way that could maybe help others. \nI guess this may not be what you are looking for. All I can say is, its helped me.
519043
No, you should always forgive.  The peace that comes from that makes you a person of class :)
854836
NO, wait until your anger subsides to decide if revenge is the best answer. You do not want to do anything you will regret later.
461375
NO YOU SHOULDN'T FORGIVE HER, WHAT IF YOU WOULD HAVE WALKED IN 30 MINS LATER, THEN WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE WALKED IN ON???\nYOU DESERVE BETTER
1032827
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Of course, you did nothing wrong to deserve such treatment. Sometimes parents actually select one child for abuse, but don't abuse others in the same household. It's called scapegoating. Forgiving is more about releasing your feelings of hatred than about bestowing some mantel of "forgiveness" on them. Holding onto hatred can hurt you. When you're ready, I think you would benefit from forgiving them. Of course, you will never forget. Respect is something they should have taught you by showing it to you. It normally is part of love. Rather than respect them, I think now you would be lucky to tolerate them. You may even need to limit your time with them for your mental health. Also for your own mental health, I would recommend finding a good psychologist to discuss the abuse you experienced growing up. Years of such of abuse is not healed quickly. Please be patient with the process. If you're not satisfied with your first psychologist, get another one. When you have children of your own, please consider taking parenting classes or child development courses from the community center or community college. Unfortunately, children of abusers sometimes become abusers themselves. Learning proper techniques of caring for a child will help ensure a happy and healthy relationship with your own children and an end to the cycle of abuse. Good luck to you.\n\nI haven't read this book, but Amazon gives it 4 of 5 stars:\nBad Childhood---Good Life : How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood by Laura Schlessinger
627408
You are not in isolation, as it ia general problem, especially if you are in competitve life.  Your sucess could be your biggest weakpoint, as it fuels their hatred and that is why it is better to keep discrete distance from all such characters and not to reveal your pesonal matters/plans.
720132
definatly tell her, you'll regret it if you dont, trust me i know from experiance. your friends will eventualy get over it even if they do harrass you for a while.
889728
my friend, you are d most kind hearted person I had d pleasure of reading about. What you did was very noble and good. However, you should not be downcast because people have been to call you names. You should not be worried about that but be happy that you have done the right thing and that posterity will vindicate you. Also, ask yourself this question, which great man was never badmouthed or critisced?  None. Everyone of them was vilified, cursed and some even killed. But dont be perturbed about what people say (because will always talk even if you dont do anything) but be happy that you did what was in your heart to do and you did the right thing. \nAlso, remember that you are unique and different because we live in a time where most people are selfish and selfcentered but you showed that you are not, but you didnt think about the money you will be wasting but the benefit it will have to the community. And dont you forget than even in the whole community were everyone is critisizing you that there is someone(one person) that is happy with what you did and that is what really matters. Cheers
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No because they are already in their own hell as it is.\nI would not waste my time and energy on being negative and hurting some one.\n\nWhat goes around comes around you reap what you sow meaning you get what you give in life.\n\nIf this person has not repented for what he has done to you or others he will get his.\n\nDon't stoop to that bully's level. Pray for him it sounds like he needs it.
1121220
Looks like you are holding grudge against people in your past. \n\nWhy, my friend, are you hurting yourself when these "people" may not even remember any of those incidents. You are causing pain to no one else but yourself.\nJust forget. You had no control over those incidents.
1067466
Only apologize if you've done something you should be sorry for.  Call the cops, get a restraining order at least then if they continue to stalk you, then have them thrown in jail for it.
963089
i thinks its a good idea becuase your probably tired of getting hurt and tired of wasting your time on people who arent really worth your time and listening to there lies\nThats what i have been doing and u see both sides of the person because u waiting to see if thats the better person or a person thats not worth your time
1034164
Actually, i'd rather someone told me. So, what you are doing is simply trying to help me and you're also considering my goodness.. What's better than this? On the other side, yeah i may become a little bit angry with myself, saying like how can i forget or ignore this.. But, certainly i'd appreciate you then.. :) So, keep it up, be yourself and don't pay attention to their reactions at that time, i think...
1001211
it might seem that way now but believe me what goes around, comes around.  you might not see the justice right away but bad only invites bad.  the old saying what you put out is what you git back well believe me that is so true.  when the time is right someone will do to them what they have done to you.. harbor no ill will towards them so that it does not hurt you.  anger and hatred do nothing to help our selves.. always go with love and let the light of God guide you in your everyday dealings with people.  they definitely don't git away with anything even though they seem to think they did.  Believe in the light and the goodness of the light and let peace come into your heart.\nblessed be .