Where do you start after a divorce?
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Mixed emotion, clouded mind, dark roads, all can seem a bit scary. But did you know that you hold the key to your new tomorrow? In your own hands you hold your life and the life of your kids. You also have the keys, flash light and map for your tomorrow.\n\nAfter the divorce you are given new powers to re-write your life story and tell it to the world how you want it to be heard. Divorce will bring you freedom. You are free to move on. Do not be like the elephant on a chain. A trained elephant has been chained and conditioned to only move about (by the limitations of the chain). Once the chain is taken off, the elephant does not run free because they have convinced them self that they are  still chained up. Do not let your past haunt you like this. You are a free woman. Get up and move about and explore the world you have been dying to see.\n\nThink not of yesterday or the what could have been, learn to live in the moment of today. Embrace your new freedom.
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Get a divorce kit at WalMart.  As long as your divorce is mutual and you can work things out together you can file without an attorney.
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My new husband had that problem, it's rather simple... Get the attorney to get the papers going, he"ll list it in the news paper that he is being looked for and if there is no answer, well, your papers go through and you are divorced after a short time, weather he answers the attorney thing or not. it's  not all that hard, just get youself a good attorney honey..
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There are many happy re-marriages after divorce\n\nIf you're interested in finding a website which has many happy reports of successful remarriages go to http://rejoiceministries.org it's a website specifically for people who are interested in reconciliation after seperation or divorce\n\nhttp://marriagebuilders.com is a website that has lots of suggestions by dr willard harley on how men & women's needs differ & how to identify the needs which are lacking & most importantly how to go about getting those needs met - a very good book to get is His Needs Her Needs but he also offers other resources as well as some free questionaires which are taken from his book which i suggest that you print up 3 copies of all 5 questionaires they'll help you to know where to start on your road to ReMarriage\n\nhttp://midlife.com is a website that dr jim conway has which discusses mid life issues & how to deal with them - he offers a chatroom where he goes in to answer questions weekly on wednesdays\nhe wrote the book Men in Midlife Crisis & his deceist 1st wife wrote the book Women in Midlife Crisis - women go thru MLC at an earlier age than men & many marriage issues & divorces come to a boiling point during this time period in life\n\nanother place to try is http://divorcebusting.com which is the website board for readers of michelle weiner-davis\n\na great book to read while you're seperated from your wife is the book When the One You Love Wants to Leave by dr donald harvey
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sometimes the county will have a website online.  You can look under the courthouse documents, public access.  If you can't you can always go to the courthouse or call the Clerk's office in the district where your divorce was filed.
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If you live in the same jurisdiction as the one where the divorce was filed, you should be able to get that information from the court clerk.  There may even be a web site, which will show the current status of the case if it is open.  Once is it closed, however, the clerk's office is probably the only way.  Of course, if you see it listed and it says the next hearing is "post-settlement" in nature, you have a clue.\n\nIsn't it easier just to ask him?  Or is this because you do not trust him?  If so, are you sure you even want to know?  After all, if you fell you can't trust him, what is the relationship worth?
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If you are considering another relationship with her then maybe marriage counselling would be a first step.  If you can get through that then I might consider trying again but obviously there were serious issues that warranted the divorce to begin with.
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they will go back to the date of the divorce
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Go to divorce papers .com\n\nOr\n\nLaw.com
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The simple answer is trust.  You do not trust the opposite sex.  Weather the divorce was your fault or your spouses you blame them.  You could have been the lyingest, cheatingest, most absent spouse in the world, but you still look at it as there fault.  We as humans almost always want to play the victim.  Now if you were the one that was cheated on and/or abused or what have you, then you might want to look into some form of therapy.  Either way make sure that the new person you are dating is not just a rebound (yes, you can have many of them).  find someone who will make you truly happy in life, not just in bed.  Find a friend before you find a lover!  Later dater.
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It is pretty obvious that you did not have everything resolved when you divorced the ex.  I think the only thing you can do at this point is to discuss your feelings with your current husband.  There is a reason why you are with him and this is something that if left unchecked may cause a problem in your current marriage.  Next, maybe you need to seek counseling with your current husband in regards to your feelings about your ex.  I am quite sure there are people out there that still have feelings for their ex's, but they realized they are divorced for a reason.  I guess what I am saying is you need to do some soul searching and try to limit any problems before things get out of hand.  Be honest with yourself and seek whatever help you need to preserve your marriage (current) because that is who you chose to spend the rest of your life with.\n\nGood Luck with what ever you decide and I'll pray for you!!!\n\nWT
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HOW TO FIND A DIVORCE ATTY IN SO CAL:\n\n1. Swing a dead cat.\n\n2. While walking down the street, pretend to fall and hurt yourself. Wait 10 seconds. An attorney will be there.\n\n3. While at Starbucks, whisper quietly to your girlfriend, "I'm getting a divorce and I need a lawyer." At least two will sit down with you.\n\n4. Go downtown and peek into a dark alley. The guy in the suit you see getting "serviced" by a young man will be a good lawyer.\n\n5. Pop into a seedy looking massage parlor, the man getting the "full release" massage will be a great lawyer. If you hear another man arguing about the quality and price of his "full service" massage, hire him at once, as he will be an awesome attorney.
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Wait until its final.Don't be in such a rush.That's probably why you are getting a divorce now,you need to take your time.
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Yes, emotions really run rampant after a divorce. I even contemplated killing myself after mine. It just takes time to get back into a comfortable groove. Just give yourself time. Spoil yourself!
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You should sit down with your children and see if they have any questions or comments to make concerning the divorce.\n\nChildren often have a difficult time with divorce so you may have to had many conversations with them in order to get them to understand that the divorce was not their fault, and that it happens - not every couple is meant to stay together.\nThey may also wonder what is in the future for them now that their parents are divorced.  The children may have many questions and fears - so address those questions and fears - and find out where your children's heads are.\n\nGod bless and good luck!
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Don't have the relationship UNTIL everything has gone thru the court systems. That way HUBBY/EX-to-be can't use anything against you. \n\nTHEN go slowly starting a NEW relationship. Take it slow and easy.
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talk to a divorce lawyer