How can I tell my father I want to take control of my life?
913394
it would really help to know your age, or if you are still in school. As long as you live in your parent's house they make the rules. It's usually for the best.  Unless you are being abused in some way at home you must abide by house rules. The soccer thing is really extreme. Can your Mom do anything to help you? Or maybe the coach could call your Dad about you being on the team. Also do you have a counselor at school you can talk to, or a good teacher? They can be very helpful. Best wishes to you. I hope you have a great life!
345813
i think the best way would be is to go with what he asks you to do, but never let him get to you. agree to whatever he tells you, but do what you want anyways on your own account.. or with out him knowing.. more or less just letting things flow so u can live at peace. if this approach doesnt work, try discussing things with him, see his point of view and try to understand it, maybe there is a reason as to why he doesnt want you to do certain things. if also this approach doesnt work, save money, work hard, have patience and move out... all in all i think u should be strong and handle this smartly, cause if you rebel hell just be as suprpessive and controlling as he can get. try to work your way to get your peace of mind.. remember that.
564979
Separate the parts of your world completely.\n\nDo what you can for your brother, if you love him (and there is no requirement that you do -- that's a falsity)\n\nKeep your relationship with your g/f -- its none of your parents' business and never was.\n\nFinish your degree, and find a good job, so that you are financially independent.\n\nBe your own person completely once that is done.\n\nIf I were you I'd write down these goals on a piece of paper that I kept in a secret place, if I had to I'd write them in code.  But each morning I would do a calming exercise and then read them.\n\nYou can endure and you can survive this.  When it rains it pours, but it never pours forever.\n\nRegards,\n\nReynolds Jones\nSchenectady, NY\nhttp://www.rebuff.org
809815
What do we do with Daddy?  Your moral obligation as a human being is to care for him "because he needs somebody to be there for him if something goes wrong"  and no, your future is not in jeopardy, you have choices, look for a better job there, then quit your job.  Maybe you need more education in your field so you can be  so called calling the shots.  \n  OR you could pack your Dad up and move him someplace like Orlando,, Tampa, Charlotte N.C.  Job opportunities are really great there and he could probably offer a financial relief for you. Anyway Good Luck I feel you will do the right thing for you.
120508
Take it from a guy.  Stay at home with your parents and maybe stay overnight with him once in a while.  You've got a lot of years ahead of you.  Get yourself situated  with what you want to do (college, work, or whatever) and be able to support yourself before moving out of your parents' house.
1129717
Talk to your dad, your real dad Im sure he will help you.
1066117
Be a better person. Enjoy my life more. Respect others more.\nMost of all, I want to do much better things for my dad. I wasn't a good daughter when he was alive and I regret it until now, and I think I'll regret it forever.\nSo, if I was given a second chance, I will be nice to others, especially to my dad.\nDad, I love you so. I'm sorry for being so stupid in the past. I was so blind and didn't realize that all you did were love.
981414
Sit down with your parents  and tell them you love and respect them.Then show them in writing that you have a concrete plan for your future.For example the program you want to take, where you will live, budget, if you must work,etc. Also try to show you have prepared for emergencies and have alternate plans and options. Your parents will be more receptive to your wishes if you can show them you have given this plan a lot of thought and consideration.
174773
I think that you are doing the right thing by honoring his wishes.  It not only shows that you care about his feelings, but that you also understand.  I think he does realize that something is "up" and it will be hard for him, but having parents that are at least civil to each other will help him.  Good Luck
1058110
show them that he is a good person and how well he treats you, thats really all you can do, maybe if they see those sides to him they will lessen up on the issue alittle bit and not judge him by the color of his skin, but by his character and as an individual, if not then remember that you will always love your parents and will want them to accept whatever life choices you make, but they wont always like what you choose and it is afterall your life and you and you alone have to account for your own happiness....*good luck*
841339
Knowing what your dad expects of you, you should tell him, but be sincere that you tried your best.\nParent's sometimes expect a lot because they want better for their kids than they had when they were kids. I don't think he's being strict to make your life miserable, he wants you to be afraid so you'll do the things he expects.
366135
Unfortunately only you can answer this one...Obviously your going to be scared and you have the right but only contact your father if you are prepared for him hanging up on you and saying he never wanted you.  Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.  But I know I would want to be told I had a kid if I didn't know.  Also after you tell him you might want to give him time to take it all in I am sure it will be alot for him to handle at once.  Be gracious and not over bearing and give him a chance to be someone he didn't know he was.
298723
well just let your parents know about him and let them see that you are a responsible adult by letting them know. you shouldn't hold it in and then they find out on their own and then it will all go down hill from there. that's my advice.
497887
well tell him straight up that i'm srry that my father came between us and that mybe we can try again and maybe it will work this time and if he rlly liks u then he will giv it a chance.
517382
You just need to accept him as your personal saviour.  That means someone who always cares about you, and who you can depend on in good times and bad times.  You just need to give up your desire to control everything in your life and let him take the major lead in directing your life.  That's the biggest part, and the rest you should go to church and learn by attending sermons and reading the bible.  The Book of John tells most of Jesus life and thinking.
334153
Take small steps, and one at a time. Maybe you could start by getting more information about your dad, like what you're doing now but for a little bit longer. When you feel that you're ready, you may wish to take another step by chatting with him on the phone. Once you're more comfortable, and you think it's the right thing to do, then you arrange to meet up with him?\n\nIt's a delicate issue, and you have to manage them carefully. Remember, your mum might get hurt in the process and you have to ask yourself is that worth it?
376429
Baby-sitting and paper routes are good and can teach you responsibility.  Maybe you can offer your parents to clean out the basement and hold a garage sale or go around to the elderly in your neighborhood and ask if they need help running errands, etc.\n\nGood luck!