Is pride keeping us apart?
930024
The relationship ended for a reason, and therefore you don't wanna have to make the same mistake twice.... if it was merely a small spat that never got resolved then obviously your communication skills never were up to par anyway.\n\n"fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" also applies to this because if only one really is showing they wanna be back together then obviously the other doesn't... so if they got together... one would already have the upper hand of power
96494
I am gay, and I sadly have to agree this is true. I don't know why. Since we're just starting to get our marriage rights, Maybe it has to do with feeling left out of society. Some of us might feel that our lifestyle isn't taken seriously. When there is no marriage, there is no commitment. Just a theory... :-&#92;
852827
It is ok to be proud of what you are.  Some people may not agree with your lifestyle, and that is fine because they do not have to live you life.  I mean if you like PDA, do it, if you are a more private person be that way.  We can not control who we like and you can not turn you feeling on and off like a light switch.  Be you and be happy to be you!  And most important DONT LET OTHERS DICTATE YOUR LIFE!
651496
It is not really a human question.  By whose standards are you living?  People will condemn you for everthing you do that is not the same as them.  If you are poor, fat, gay, stay at home mom, working mom, in private school, in public school...etc.  People are not what 'should' matter.  It is between you, and the person you get involved with.\n\nIf you beleive in God, then that is another matter and it is also completely your own business.  If you DO believe in God though....you'll have to be honest with yourself and take the matter to HIM alone in prayer.\n\nPeople need to mind their business about someone's private life - and if they are 'Chrisitians" they cannot judge you -they can only look at themselves - and improve or make their own changes within.  \n\nLegalization would really depend on the religious influence of the country.  You cannot expect basic bible principles to change for your convenience. No need to be bitter - religion is not necessarily a bad thing, it is just not that convenient - for anybody who devoutly tries to follow it.  \n\nNot just gays. Nobody wants to feel discriminated against. It is not a good thing to have to live with. However gays have gained a lot - perhaps some feel that it has been at 'their' expense.  We all want things we cannot necessarily have.
342916
hi, \n It is a hard thing to be married to someone who does not share ur beliefs.... the Bible states that when a man and a woman r joined together in marriage they r not to separate.... 1 Cor 7:12-16 gives a firm direction from the apostle Paul for the very situation u r in and why he feels this way....\nGod bless and be with u in this time\nShaz\nx x x x x x
70378
As long as you two stay away from bigots, zealots, hypocrites, and holier than thou people you'll be ok.  If you respect each others religions then do what you do, and let him do what he does and be tolerant.  If you differ on opinion let it be a debate and not an argument;  If it starts to seem like it's headed in that direction just stop talking about it.
318331
You've got to be able to discuss your differences and share your feelings, but that doesn't mean it has to be fighting.\n\nSometimes our communication styles just aren't compatible.
752804
I've noticed this, too. Becoming emotionally involved in relationships is not cool anymore. It's cool to be detached. Add this to the fact that many people are afraid of being labeled "gay" if they display normal human affection, and you've got yourself a society that prides itself on its uninvolvement.
861314
Get to the basics. Let go the ego and the false pride. Accept mistakes and compromise.\nLive happily everafter.
641183
You know i have been through this situation myself.  I'm not proud.  We just kind of drifted apart after the same amount of time as you, but were only separated for about 2 months.  I really liked the feeling of freedom and meeting other people.  I still think of a certain someone now and then, especially when my husband and i get into arguments about petty stuff.  I think "why did i even come back"?  Then i realize that he has put up with all my crap and it would be so hard to start all over and put effort into a new relationship.  I also think about my kids and in today's society kids need the guidance of both parents.  Anyway, i really do love my husband, it's just sometimes its fun to think of what could have been.  \nI'm not saying all marriages are to stay together for the sake of the children, it's just if you really love each other, you need to try and get passed the other man.\n\nTry to do things with your husband, take time for yourselves.  Go to the movies out to eat, or even spend time at the park with the kids(if it applies).  And just when you feel an argument coming on think and sometimes prayer comes in handy(if you are religious). \n\nGood luck. i wish you the best.
476199
I think you guys should see other people first before you start to mend anything. maybe its a mutual separation, and you just dont know it yet. I really think before you do anything just see other people first. if nothing works out, try to mend things between eachother. if you arent willing to separate for a little while, try to mend things by either counseling or talking it out. i hope this helped!
1151961
We've become a nation contented to accept comfort as a form of nationalism. We believe that we are only beholding to ourselves and have no duty to anyone but ourselves. \n\nNo, we are no longer our brother's keeper nor even his brother. It's a 'Two for me, none for you!' world now.
652264
Wow, a good philisophical question. I believe it can be achieved, for there are at least two different kinds of pride. Are you proud of your family? Of course you are. But you may not flaunt them in everyone's face. You may not think they're better than everyone else. (Well, you may, but let's just say you don't for a moment.)\nYou can feel 'pride' in who you are, without feeling better than anyone else. \nI agree that it sure seems to conflict with each other, but you could try it sometime. Just hold your head high, but do nice things, like open the door for someone, be nice, etc... It can be done, I'm sure of it.
669169
I wouldn't be upset myself, but I'm also in the same shoes as you (except we haven't been together as long and I've told him if he didn't like it, he could start walking). Sometimes it is just easier to get along with the opposite sex, I mean if it wasn't, wouldn't we all go homosexual?
91859
absolutely not!!! i was raised in a conservative christian home and i rebelled when i moved out on my own. i now regret that i will not be able to share that with my husband when i marry. there is nothing wrong with being different. it takes a lot of courage to stand up for what you believe in and caving in to pressure is not a good reason to do anything and will only make you regret any choice you make under pressure more. anybody can cave to pressure, it takes strength and courage to go against the mainstream.
1041059
pride?false prophets?
58466
No. We each have an obligation to ourselves and to society to do the right thing. Unfortunately the line between right and wrong is blurred, distorted and beyond recognition. \n\nMost people know (either by experience or knowledge) that is is morally wrong. Most people who know that is it wrong and see others without a moral compass get hurt, confused, feel shame, guilt, or despair, mostly want to help others. It is this "helping them to see the light" that turns into bashing (unfortuntely). \n\nThis lifestyle may be fun for a season, but ultimately it will end, and sadly.\nWhy so you think gays try to "normalize" their life? They try to get married, try to adopt kids and try to be accepted?