i really just want to be happy?
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Hi Fragile,\n\nI'm sorry that you have not experienced Happiness in your life. You sound young, so you still have many things to learn. You are becoming a Woman, and that is not always easy. \n\nI have been happy in life, and I've been sad too; and I'm 30. Here are my tips for happiness:\n\n1. Get a Relationship with God\nThere is nothing more important in this world than your relationship with God. God is the beginning of each and every thing. He is the Reason why you are here. He created you, and placed you on this earth for a  reason..Fragile, nothing in life lasts forever. Parents can get divorced, people pass away, your best friend can leave you, your husband can leave you--but God will Always, Always Love You and Be There for you. If you Love Him--he will Love you 100 times more. Happiness comes from Him. He is your Strength in the worst times of your life. He is also a source of Peace...Whether you become a Christian or a Muslim--you will not be complete as a woman until you get God in your Life.\n\n2. Love Yourself.\nWhen I was growing up, my family thought I was the strangest thing. At first I tried hard to fit in: but one day I decided that I liked myself. And it was the best feeling in the world. I didn't look to them for approval--although I still loved and respected them. I didn't look to schoolmates for approval. You have to do the same. \n\nYou say you feel pressure to be skinny--well you should look in the mirror and realize that you are Beautiful. When I was growing up, people made fun of my high forhead, my lips. But my mom told me my features were beautiful--and she showed me beautiful African women who looked like me. You can start to admire women who arent a size 4-there are many plus sized models who are beautiful with curves...\nYou have to first accept yourself. When you do that, nobody can come along and make you feel bad about being you. That song, "The Greastest Love Of All", talks about that. \n\n3. Dont Depend on Man, Boyfriend, or Husband for Happiness.\nThat is the biggest mistake that  most women make. They make a man to be their God. If a man loves them, they're happy. If that same man leaves them, they want to cry and die..The truth is that the Greatest Love of all comes--loving ourselves..We women give men too much power in our lives. Our worlds revolve around them. No, your world must revolve around you. Fill your life with things that make you happy--volunteer at a local Boys & Girls Club, learn how to sew or speak Spanish--the point is to Get a Life!\n\n4. Follow Your Dreams\nSo you feel pressure to get grades. Realize that your parents only want you to suceed, thats all. You are just preparing for your future....Realize that if you get good grades, you can get a scholarship to a good College and move away from home. There, you can have space and become yourself. .But, most important, when you get a little older--you will start to have Dreams. You have to follow your Passion. Whether you want to be a nurse, doctor, florist, or business owner--you have to make a plan to make your dreams come true. Do what you have talent for, do what makes you happy.\n\n5. Dont follow the crowd. Be an Individual.\nI know peopl, right now, who are hooked on drugs because they were afraid of the "cool people" who made fun of them for not smoking and drinking..My 25 year old cousin is a drug addict because of that..Fragile, people will make fun of you for not smoking weed, not having sex, etc. You have to be Strong--be a Strong Woman. You cant follow those people off a cliff. Only the Strong survive.\n\nGood Luck and I hope this letter want too long! :)
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Yes, I do.  Quite often I do feel that way, but if you fake a little happiness, you honestly start to feel better.  Smile, even though you don't want to.  Have a cup of cocoa.  Eat chocolate... Do something for someone else.. it'll cheer ya up.
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I just want to continue to be happy, I don't need to be with anyone anymore, I want to live the rest of my life in peace and harmony with the rest of the world.  That is what I would like and am working on.  :)
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I would rather be happy.  Noo one is perfect and you cant always be right.  Happiness is a wonderful thing.
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You can't buy happiness. You can buy things that make you happy. But true happiness comes from within.\n\nYou can achieve this by believing in yourself. Believing you are one of a kind. Believing God loves you. \n\nFeeling unhappy? Try this one time. Smile at someone. They will automatically smile back and make them feel happy.
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I'll always reward myself with little present, spend myself to watch moving "egg: funny movie, meaning full movie", get a close friend go traveling...etc. but what important is yourself must think positively, make yourself happy, do the thing that can make yourself happy. if you can switch your mood positively. go to find a good book to "clean" your sad & lonly heart. Be happy, coz there r still someone care about you.
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Hey yep.\nI am allways Happy wether I loose the most Important thing of my life.\nI kep going on and on till i drop down dead on this planet.\nLife is to enjoy and be happy, take things the way they come to u, and manage the resorces available to u in an effectiv manner so that u can make best out of it..........\nNever be down or sad because it fetches u nothing but more misery and pain..........\nvikram_s_bhatt@yahoo.co.in
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Answer is simple..if you want to be happy you can be..if you want to feel sad you will be..pl let go your sadness.Its not so easy..but give it up.
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Try listening to a happier song and see if this will cheer you up and remember that it is only a song.
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Yes u can.  Be happy please.
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Hi,\n\nI don't think you can make someone happy if they just don't want to be happy, try to find out what the problem is and get that person help if need be! It could be a deeper problem then you think!
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do what makes you happiest
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You can not make yourself happy alone unless you love to be alone.  If you love to be alone, you will find ways to be happy.
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Hello! Can understand what you mean. Have not got too much self-esteem neither... but I have come to accept that it is not okay for me to feel that way somehow. I want to change it. Think one really needs to decide deep within to change it. There are many beautiful suggestions here. A counsellour I saw some time ago told me that I should say out loud "I am a wrothwhile person and I deserve to be happy." ... and it worked. Just that I became kind of lazy :o) . What might help you as well is the link below. It might seem childish but it really does help. Enjoy it and good luck to feeling better toward yourself :-) !
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think of something happy
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I have been there, I truly have.  \n\nYou need to understand that your happiness is a decision YOU make.  You cannot rely on others to MAKE you happy.  This is a common problem in humans. If you let the actions (or inactions) of others effect your level of happiness, then you will find youself disappointed most of the time.\n\nAccept that people are basically good, but selfish and self-centered.  This is a truth best learned young.\n\nStart finding things that make you happy.  If you like a certain hobby, do it more.  Find others who also enjoy your hobby.  \n\nFind a social group with interests similar to yours.  A Church or other group where you surround yourself with other people is big.  And it takes your mind off of your own problems.\n\nFurthermore, if you are healthy, take on a good and safe exercise program.  Go to a gym, and meet other people there as well.  Get your exercise, and enjoy the new friends you might find there. \n\nThe key is to take your mind off of your unhappiness and focus on the positive things in life.  I promise you, if you don't you will cause more serious psychological, but also manifest physical problems as well, and this is a waste of a good life... YOURS>\n\nFinally, seek professional help from a person who specalizes in depression, since you would be better served by them than people on this forum.  Even though we mean well, we can't help you from "HERE".\n\nYou MUST act and take your life back.  Don't just give in to depression.\nGood luck..  and stay positive.
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Want him/her to be happy even if it means with someone else.