Do you think that parents should stand up for they're children when they know that they are doing wrong?
924537
Heck no!\n\nParents aren't parenting well if that's the case.\n\nJust do the right thing and ignore the parents in this case.
506506
I think if my OSD were my bio kid, she would be WORSE behaved!! And don't underestimate the power of just talking with them and being there for them to talk to. They may get that glassy, glazed look in their eye, but I do think some of it eventually filters down to them. The big thing is allowing them to make mistakes. No, not standing by and watching them make mistakes, but realizing they are still kids (no matter what THEY think about it) and they are gonna make mistakes, and our job is to help them pick up the pieces when they do... to listen and guide as much as we can, and just be patient with them. There comes a point in time when we are no longer "responsible" for their actions, and they have to suffer and face consequences when they do certain things. There is no getting around that.
111985
Look, either the kids are gonna grow up and do the same shit their parents did or else they're gonna stay away from the same shit that they saw their parents do. Everyone is responsible for their own actions.
498590
Because society has taught (slowly)and accepted over the years that everything else made someone do something because of either someone else or something else. Never taking responsiblity for their own actions. I drive a school bus and have come across MANY,MANY mother's who refuse to accept that their child misbehaved in any way shape or form. You can tell them that their son/daughter threw a book, hit the other kid, tripped them etc, etc and you tell the Mom at the bus stop and they look you in the eye and say, "Well, the other kid must have done something for my child to hit, trip, push the other kid" OR, she/he is tired, was not feeling well etc.I would say 90% of the hundreds of different kids I have come across over the past years fall into the catagory of "it's not my fault" Then the other 10%, the parents will say " I don't care what reason you did that, it was wrong". So, with a good majority of kids being raised with "it's not my fault", they grown into adults, have children and wa-la, we have the Not My Fault Generation.
1172437
We should always respect our elders and others around us.  So, if the kids are speaking their mind in a civil non-foul way, then it's okay.  If they do it in a crude way, then it's not.
422058
I don't know what parents you are talking about.  I would prefer the respectful kind child, disabilities or not over one that was lazy, selfish, and narcisitic.  Perhaps the parents don't like themselves and feel that being treated with disrespect is what they deserve?  I'm really not sure what other reason it would be, other than the parents have some problems.
150567
To some extent, yes. But not to the point of punishing the parents for the child's crime. This would like blaming your driving instructor for a car accident you have. It is the parent's job to teach the kids the difference from right and wrong, but it is also the child's responsibility to learn from the parents.
165761
Some of these people really don't have your best interests at heart, telling you to run away, yell, demand, cry. That doesn't get you what you want, and it doesn't help you learn how to deal with the real world, who don't really care if you're having a bad day or not. Not knowing you or your parents, I can only speak from my years of experience, raising my two kids to adulthood (with NO bloodshed!). When my teenaged daughter yelled at me, it did not make me want to give in or get all warm & fuzzy. It made me clamp down and cut her off, sending her to her room, often with a lot less than before (like being grounded for sassing). The best way to deal with parents who have clamped down on you is to find out why they are holding you back. Do they have a reason for not trusting you? Have you done something to make them clamp down on your freedom? If you're too young and you want to do things that only older kids are doing, they are trying to protect you from what could be a very bad situation. They have experience, that's what makes them know what to do. No, parents aren't perfect. We have screwed up lots of times. But, we remember what it was like to be your age, and all the feelings that go with it. That hasn't changed over the years. Feelings are still feelings, no matter how long ago we were kids. When you become a parent, you want to protect your kid from all the nasties that are out there, especially other kids who we have NO control over. We don't know what kind of morals other kids have been raised with, or even IF they have any morals. So, us parents have the tendancy to hold you kids just a little too much sometimes. Even though we know that we have to gradually give you your freedom, the process is sometimes painful for us to see, especially when we see you act in a way that brings too many memories back for us. It's like watching a train wreck. You know what's gonna happen if you don't warn someone to throw the switch on the track, but sometimes the wreck has to happen to fix a bigger problem. That's why some parents let their kids get thrown in jail, even though everything inside them wants to just hold them close and save them from harm. It's better that they learn some hard lessons before things get really bad. So, it really bites, being a parent sometimes. Try to think of what your parents have to put up with. Maybe changing places with them for a day will help you see what they have to put up with on a daily basis. It's not just off to work, then come home and put your feet up & yell at the kids for not getting their chores done. It's more than that. Many kids say they can't wait till they get to be 18 and free. Guess what? With freedom comes RESPONSIBILITY. You are then responsible for EVERYTHING you do & say. One person said it very well...enjoy being a kid for as long as you can. You're getting your eats, heats and everything else for nothing. Out in the real world, when you need a dentist, you have to pay boo-coo bucks just to pull your tooth out, let alone get a filling. Same thing for when you get sick. Just one antibiotic pill can cost over $10.00 and you'll need on the average of 10 pills to get better. And that doesn't even add in the cost of seeing the doctor, which is $60.00, where I live. What I would suggest, little one, is learn to listen a little more, learn to help a little more, and after a while they just might loosen their hold on you. When they can see that you're showing signs of growing up and taking responsibility, they'll give you more freedom. But, don't blow it by taking advantage of their trust. Once you have it, losing it would take you that much longer to get it back. Also, if you ask them how you can help a little more around the house, it would make a big impact on how they treat you in the future. When all you give them is attitude, that's all you'll get back, along with a very lim
584598
We try to give a better life for our children than we ourselves have.  This is part of our role as parents.
1185694
Mothers aren't technically always right, they just try to do the right thing or say the right thing to protect their the people they love unconditionally. That's all hun
1062559
so its your mistake because you should teach them when they are still young. they say if you want to cut down a tree you have do it when is still young because when it big and hard it will be a problem because it will take alot of  time so as a mother just teach them every day if they are not doing to change you will be the one to blame, so face and do it?they should learn to respect .and some time learn also to listen to them too and let them know when to discuss and when its  time to shut up.show them where there things supposed to be.so do it now before it too late?
533098
Yes...up until the time they are a legal adult.  Maybe parents should think about this before allowing so much permissiveness in their family. I am a strict Mother(no corporal punishment...but lots of consistency and time out and good choice/ bad choice options). I feel it is my duty, and moral responsibility to raise well mannered and caring people. I KNOW I am responsible for my children's actions.
674051
Why is it that parents aren't allowed to be parents anymore?  If we were then we wouldn't have the problems we nowadays with kids misbehaving.  I have seen people come up to parents who are correcting their child for misbehaving and tell the parents they are demeaning their child when they weren't. \n\n They weren't hitting,beating or abusing the child at all.  Raising their voice a little, sure, but demeaning, nope.  Kids now a days also know that if they get mad at mom and dad all they gotta do is tell someone and they can get their parents into trouble.  I have seen this happen.  \n\nI have even had my own kids threaten me with this.  I told them go ahead.  If they did this they would get taken away and wouldn't allowed to take their stuff.  They didn't tell of course, but then again, they were only mad at me for sending them to time out or something, but still many kids do this.\n\nAnyway to answer your question many parents, myself included are already pist about not really being allowed to parent at having so many restriction put on us (not that I spank or anything.  A swat on the butt now and then) that when other people once again stick their noses in when where they don't belong it pisses us off.  We do the best we can given that we as parents really can't do alot anymore as parents and the kids know it.  Plus we don't like it when others threaten/correct our kids, brings out the animal in us.  GRRR!  LOL\n\nPlus what is being considered as misbehaving by you, may not by the parents.  I know my youngest has ADHD so he is really hyper even with meds so when we go out in public he has trouble sitting still and everything. So while I think for him he is being very well behave, you may not.  So does this mean I have to keep him home until he is an adult?  I think not.  I'm not going to keep my child home just to keep you and others happy. \n\n So before you think a child is misbehaving think about and for God's sake don't even think about correcting the child.  It's not up to you, it's not your child and for all you know the parents may have already put a punishment in place like a time out or being grounded when they get home.
992307
Parents aren't being mean, just teaching their child a lesson and the facts of life. Many things parents do are for their children's health and help. I mean you have to teach discipline one way or the other right.
563012
I believe that parents should be held responsible to a certain extent, but, you can preach and preach to your kids about what's right and wrong and they still may not listen. I firmly believe that you CANNOT hide everything from your kids. Society has a very big part in shaping idea's into a child's mind. The child should be held criminally responsible to the extent of the law, unless the parent forced or helped the child do the act, then both should be held responsible.
997625
Nothing at all--a lot of people seem to think that it's everyone else's responsibility to protect them and their kids from what they should be doing themselves.  I have a whole family of teachers--their biggest complaint is that parents drop off their kids at school, and some actually tell them, "OK, he's your problem now."  If THEY can't instill values into their own kids, why should they expect others to?
1132873
You're right.  I think parents should definitely EXPECT good grades.  But I don't know that rewarding them is such a good idea.  You don't go around giving your kids money for being polite to your dinner guests, or behaving well at the grocery store.