I have a moral dilema - should I tell people about my double life?
914255
no no don't confess jus egg the houses of every person who says it then light fires in their gardens then tag their front doors then do the flaming poo thing on the door step then when they go " fu**ing kids have done blah blah and blah" jus go "yes frikin kids should all be strung up or shot" they will soon guess you really don't want any!! also the dressing up in black bit sounds kind sexy is that wrong? coz at the same time you sound like my brother who is getting wed next year they do not want kids and he jus tells everyone they are to selfish then people leave them alone,\nand no its not different when its ya own  trust me i got two and they are jus as annoying as ever one elses kids with the draw back that the fu ckers dont go home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
247337
your confession will just ease your guilt, it won't help your sister or her family. when you slept with her husband you thought only of yourself, if now you tell her, you'll again think only of yourself. how will she benefit from your truth? will it make her happier? will it save her from some mistake? it will be selfish of you. you did it to her, you betrayed her, now have the decensy to live with it and not break her life into pieces just because you feel guilty. but you need to talk to your daughter. kid do understand a lot at 8 years old. may be you can ask her to keep it as your secret casue you don't want to hurt other people. just wonder how could she find out if it happened year ago and you don't still have the affair with that guy?
582670
Wait until the time FEELs right. I think you are still exploring. Nothing wrong with finding out who you are before announcing it to the world. or your parents. you will feel more natural in it as you delve into it and your emotions. maybe try living on your own first and making your own life, then telling her will seem more safe?
997936
If it's between 2 CONSENTING adults, and both sides are cool.... It's your body, your moral issue- do what you think is right.\nPeople have done worse things for less.....
657619
I am in two minds if I should answer this question
526373
There are no moral absolutes.  Anyone who tells you they always tell the truth is offering their next lie to you. I think what is important with a question of honesty, are motivations.  I think offering the truth most of the time can be shown to be the proven necessary course for most human interactions.  Without a trust in honesty, society fails.  But there are times when a falsehood could be considered.  The question then must be asked, why?  Do you lie for selfish self serving reasons?  Or are you lieing for perhaps something greater than yourself?  A stupid example, say a roommate or lover was irresponsible the night before and got tanked.  After they sober up you might discuss the behavior without beating them up about it.  But I'll call that boss everytime and explain that she is really ill and can't make it work.  Sure, the question of true alturism can always be raised, and such propositions can always be questioned from a perspective of relativity, but my emphasis would be, that circumstance can be considered in any variety of thought experiments within which the right thing to do could be to lie. Is it a lie for yourself, or are you attempting to help someone or something?  That said, lieing does suck.  Crush my heart but please tell me the truth, I've lived long enough, I can handle it.
882078
No, you are not wrong for feeling the way that you do.  You have two options here.....First, you can try to talk to her again and tell her that you would rather her not tell other people things that you have told her, even if they aren't things to be kept confidential. OR you could just not tell her things that you wouldn't want other people to know.  Find yourself a new confidante, someone that you can trust, and share with that person things that you would rather not have everyone else know.
17661
i dont think its normal, but its not immoral.  its just who you became from whatever experiences you had in life.  just go live your life.
185034
your peers are telling for your own good. so, take it in a positive spirit. I feel you are lucky to have people who  care about you...
489064
what a bunch of kiss ass answers - can't judge who you are now by what you were then but i do know that most of these people would be powerless against you due to the intense experience with humanity you've experienced. at this point you should have persuasive power to convince just about anyone that you are just about anything. I don't believe its a question of good or bad. Just accept that you are permanently bent and be merciful to all the fools you will suffer during the rest of your life.
187821
No, but you might want to keep some of your opinions to yourself, and not utter everything you have ever thought about...\nThat's what I have been told...
83898
If you don't want to tell them then show it to them. Do things that you wouldn't normally do for another person. Be nice to them and show them that you care.
680397
If it were me I would tell them to mind their own business...in fact I have told them that before. Just be you. If they ask then tell them and do it with out shame or guilt. If you are bi then be the best bi you can be.
792338
What? Of course its not wrong to be kind/honest/friendly/caring! Its part of being human to do this. If you don't ever, you are a psycho. If you do it all the time, you are Ghandi or something and people should build statues to you.Without those four things, society would fall apart. Horrible and ugly? I hope your friends are just kidding. Besides, no one should tell someone else how to live their life. You are you. If that you is a good person, so much the better. Too bad your current friends are so weird and mean.\n\nSomeone who merely talked about those four things might get boring after a while. Someone who acts on them never will. Keep it up!
605813
Only if you're comfortable with everyone knowing because she will spill the 'secret' to someone eventually.  If you're already 'out', then just tell her.
1160983
You should get this situation off your chest.. But if you want to get help for your situation, you should tell your family and friends. Do not be scared of their reaction. It doesn't matter how anyone reacts and that's who you are.
618624
well if your friends are truly friends then they shouldn't be bothered or laugh at you. If they do they are losers and get rid of them. Your condition is not something that you asked for nor is it your fault and you should know that. Bottom line is you don't have to disclose your situation until you are comfortable and when you do you shouldn't feel bad about it because its life and everyone has something or other that they either wished they didn't or they are not proud of make the best out of your situation and be happy that you are still here!