I feel so guilty but...?
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There is nothing wrong with you.  We can not help who we are attracted to - that just happens on it's own.  If you found yourself attracted to a man of another race I am sure you would (as you already have) given it a try to see where a relationship might lead.  You haven't had luck so far and maybe you never will - or maybe you will in the end.  There is no way of knowing - just be open to love and it will find you.\n\nxoxo!\nPeace!
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Glad to see you're a Christian....\n\nPlease try not to feel this way.  I remember feeling like that at one time, too.  I used to wonder about what God wanted me to do in my life, then I realized He has written it right there what He wants us to do...its all in His word!!\n\nAs for the recreation, pray about it.  Ask the Lord for His will to be done.  Keep letting your light shine, hon...and heads up!!  You've already made the wisest decision you could ever make...the decision to serve the Lord!!  Trust in Him, and He will guide you.\n\nGod Bless
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OK lets try and unravel this into its core components.\n\nA police officer [I am assuming] has told you that you cannot approach and/or speak to this person.\n\nYou however, feeling guilty over whatever it is that you have done, feel an overwhelming desire to be punished for your transgression.\n\nThis is a normal reaction for many people as they feel the psychological need for punishment as this provides a sense of "closure" and a shift in guilt.\n\nIn your case you actually want him to do something wrong as well, not just punish you, as this means that he cannot point the finger at you because he has done a horrible thing too.\n\nI know people will say..go to your brother first before coming to the temple...but that does not apply to you in this situation.  You harbour no ill will towards this person!  You cry out to God because your sin is before you.  \n\nGod always hears this cry and you need to focus on your relationship with God first.  This is the path to forgiveness for you, not the friend.  You need to understand that God forgives you.  Then, you may be able to forgive yourself.  Finally you may be able to approach this person and ask forgiveness.\n\nRemember, they may not want to forgive you, and that is their right.  Your peace and forgiveness with God is not dependant upon this persons responses to you, even though you did the wrong thing.\n\nGod may be workingnin that persons life too, and Gods timing is not always ours.  Also, some people just need lots of time to be able to forgive, and just because you may be in a hurry to receive it, does not mean you should hurry them up.\n\nThats why it starts with God for you, so that if this man cannot forgive you, you have peace with God that you did all you could to ask for it....and who knows, in time that might help this man to forgive you anyway.\n\nForgiveness is something you ask for from another because it gives THEM the opportunity to heal from the hurt you have done to them.....\n\nIt is never asked for to make YOU feel better about the pain and guilt that you feel for having caused it.\n\nIn your case, you cant approach this person anyway, so this is a perfect opportunity to seek a counsellor perhaps to give you some support with your feelings and how to deal with them.
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There is no justification for pushing guilt. God does not make you feel guilty. That is from the dark side. God will convict you of sin by making you aware. The devil likes to make people feel guilty so they will self medicate through everything from sex, to drugs, to work, etc. It then becomes a round robin because you then feel not only guilty for what you might have done off target, but you will also start to feel guilty for the addiction that is robbing your reality. You then need more of what ever is keeping your mind off of the problem and that opens the door for more guilt. Don't let another human being judge you period. If they are not trying to help you tell them to buzz off and keep looking for help. If you seek you will find. God will never point out what is wrong with your walk without a solution. Satan is the author of guilt.
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You can not be responsible for that which you can not control, which proceeds all others.  Do not try to feel bad for feeling a certain way.  Your feelings are only honest, and honesty can never be looked down at.  Looking down on honesty is being dishonest.  To be ashamed of a true feeling is what would be 'wrong'.  Also, this friend of yours does not own this person or you.  If you wish to clear your conscience, talk to your friend and tell her the truth.  Tell her that you appreciate all of the same things about this guy.  \n\nNow I said having a crush is nothing to be ashamed of, but acting on that is a different matter.  You should do what you feel is right.  Your true feelings are always correct.  Now honesty should always be expressed, but caution should also be used.  Lack of caution is not true honesty.  It is just plain inconsiderate.  Take a time-out and try to gain some perspective.  Take a long walk, read a book, or do anything you can to get your mind off the subject.  Only when you clear your mind can you think clearly.  No one can tell you what the correct thing to do is but yourself.  You should think about what every decision would mean, and what different things you can do to make your decision best for all parties.  If you believe your friend will do something seriously bad if you talk to this guy, keep that in mind.  Make your decision according to anything.  I will say this.  Do not concede to fear and allow someone to intimidate you into doing their will.  If you like this guy, and he likes you, it is only right that you two should explore what you have together, but do not leave your friend in the loop.  Definitely do not let her intimidate you either.  \n\nSummed up, you should do some soul searching and the answer will be clear to you yourself.  I, nor any of us on yahoo, can tell you what is right for you.  Only can do that.  All I can do is give you suggestions on how to come to the decision yourself.  Like I said, take some time off of both people, at least two days.  Read a book.  Put it out of your mind, and I will give you a good method on when you know when you're ready to make your decision.  It seems that this weighs heavy on your mind.  Keep yourself busy with books, or household projects, or art, or anything you wish, and the second you realize that you are so wrapped up in what you are doing that you've COMPLETELY forgotten your ordeal, if only for an hour or two, then you are clear.  This is what clear is.  Be clear, and make clear decisions.  Good luck sweetheart.
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No, why would you feel guilty? No one got hurt, right? You both enjoyed it?\n\nThe only thing you might want to think about is if you are really interested in having a serious relationship with this guy, you might want to slow down a bit.\n\nMost guys don't take "easy" women that seriously.\n\nBut you shouldn't feel guilty at all.
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I feel really guilty about this but i dont think i see my elderly grandparents enough.
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you see this as a challenge and since you don't feel guilty you don't stop.  Its an addiction.  Not being a christian, i cant lecture you on sin, but I will say you are addicted.  In all honesty a single therapy session with a qualified doctor could work wonders.  You know you aren't supposed to do this but being forbidden, its even more appealing.  Its like your parents telling you you cant do something and that makes you want to do it more.  I can't treat that, but any good doctor could.
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You just do. Maybe you feel guilty after your betrayal, of 1.50 to 10 years ago, and can't stop thinking about the person you betrayed, and can't stop feeling guilty about not getting married sooner, nor about not giving your child a father, which is what all good mothers would do. Then you're ready.
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You sound like you suffer from PTSD or post traumatic stress disorder, relating to growing up either in a dysfunctional family or exposed to a lot of abuse. I recognize this from a professional stand point & a personal one.\n\nI know EXACTLY what you mean about feeling guilty for existing. Do you often put yourself down, mentally? Like when you do or say something that you later thought was bad, etc then suddenly find yourself saying in your head, "OMG, you're so stupid ____!" This has to do w/what your core beliefs are. Core beliefs are little internal, learned, beliefs about oursevles that aren't true. Things that develope over time when we've been living in an abusive situation.\n\nTo really get over these problems you are having, I seriously recommend you find a counselor or therapist who specializes in treating PTSD. It wasn't until I found one who did, that I learned to over come my issues w/assertivenes & learn to love myself & realize that I am a valued human being who has the right to exist.\n\n*hugs* If you want to talk more about this, I can go more indepth, click on my profile & send me a msg, I'll be happy to help you out, because I KNOW this feeling all to well that you are talking about.
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i feel sorry for those who hasnt
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Makes them feel guilty.
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ouch...  sorry.\n\nWhy does my mind get blinded by worldliness?  (groan) I agree... but I feel bad and small now.
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Terribly, terribly guilty. Usually I apologize, and start crying. I don't yearn for attention, but if I am not getting attention because I hurt his feelings, I feel pretty dang bad.
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Well, if you tell him, I hope you will also honestly tell him that you genuinely feel bad about it.  What you did was hurtful and he's probably going to be hurt when you tell him.
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Never apologize for your personal taste. Otherwise why do you have things you like? If you find yourself feeling bad for enjoying something (especially if you think no one else does), don't! It's who you are. Why should you be ashamed of that?!\n\nCoincidentally, I too am obsessed...
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I am sooooooooooo sorry. I feel your pain. Just try to came him down. I am sher you can and I am SOOOOOOOOOOO sorry