Is it wrong to wonder whether you really should love your parents and certain siblings? Is this owed them?
928166
No, I think love and respect for your parents and siblings should be earned, not an expectation.
545713
mmmmmmmmmm if they think this way then u r wrong , u must try to improve them , if they arent improving leave it and u better be on right track in life , they might be of old thinking but i think if something is wrong and when u know it wrong and then also u r deyning that its not wrong then its a biggest mistake u r doing , so i think if ur parents are doing this thing then its totaly wrong , anyways , take care , bye
514844
You should listen to your mom. She's the one who will have most of the responsibility that a new child would add to the family. Two children is not an unreasonably small family. Financial concerns, housing accommodations, quality of time to devote to the children---these are all things that are considered beyond your desire to have more siblings. She may also be looking toward the future when you and your sibling are grown and on your own. This isn't selfish---being able to reconnect with your dad with just the two of them while they are still young enough to enjoy themselves (and possibly grandchildren) is a real blessing. More children is something your parents need to agree on. Be happy that you have your sister.
460939
I am the youngest of four, although 2 have since passed away. I was in a unique position because my parents were away from each other for many years. My oldest sister was 16 when I was born, my brother nearly 10, and my other sister almost 6. As a result, I didn't get to play with them as such, but they did become surrogate parents especially as my parents got older and less energetic. I was pretty well raised by them. My parents provided financial and physical support, but my siblings were the ones I went to with my problems. I don't think I grew up spoiled, I had to compete with nieces and nephews from an early age. As the youngest, the tables are turned now and my elderly parents need me. I still have the stamina I might not have had if I were older.
355766
Love is a very broad feeling and I know what you mean even if most people don't. I believe it is okay to love all three of them at the same time. Life is complicated and what matters is that you are happy. Tell them all that you love them as well as loving others. If they can not accept it then it is not real love. Good Luck. :^)
855960
It sounds to me like a bit of reverse psychology....... just do what you feel is right in your heart. I would marry my partner to if it were legal,but I can't, and yet I still make love to my partner on a daily basis...... don't let your mom behind your closed doors. Those are decisions that you and your partner are going to have to make.
597564
Don't be afraid of your feelings - they aren't wrong. The difference can be how you react to them. You shouldn't have to pretend to be more upset than you. When I lost my dad, my siblings were all upset and a mess, but I felt like I knew it was coming although it was quick and sudden, and I loved my dad a whole lot. Hang in there, you'll feel better in time!
520863
I don't think so. In my opionion, i dont think that you should, and if you do i think your parents will think they have some sense of control over you.. Listen honey, i hvae been there and done this.... and I am telling you your HAPPINESS should come before anyones... I mean in the long run, you have to make yourself and partner Happy not your parents
1053027
Why are you stressed about it?  This should be an issue between your mother and father.  It would be wrong of either of them to drag you and your brother through the process with them.  It should not be a stress factor for you at all.  If they come to you about it just tell them it is between them and they need to work everything out you will still love them both no matter what and they should respect your wishes.
80409
i know mine do. they also know i am in love with them. it is sad that you have to ask this question. kids should love their parents. it is not because we give them things. it is because no matter what we will be there it is an unconditional love to the highest form
1123907
I believe that deep down inside, you know what is right for you to do.  I think you should forgive her even if she excepts it or not.  God knows your heart and the blood is no longer on your hands if you do all that you know to do.  I also think you should love and serve her in anyway possible to help her in her time of need.  The Bible speaks on loving in spite of or having the agape or the God kind of love, especial towards your parents (even if they have not been so good to you).  God will honor you obedience and your reward will be great in the end.
628445
You may have thought your whole life that you were an only child just because thats how things seem. However this sister of yours has been here even if you knew nothing about it. Your mom may not have felt she was stable financiall or emotionally to care for you  when she gave you up for adoption. this does not mean she loves you any less. she was looking out for your best interest at the time, and in the long run. As for your sister, your mom may have felt horrible about letting you go and not wanting to feel the same hurt again kept your sister. But since you are in a different home you will never know what would have been, and that could be a good thing. I am sure you have had many blessings in your life. you are older now and you have the right to see your mom as well as to become close with your sister. It is great to have someone to share your secrets, loves, tragedies, and thoughts with that may even share the same views and console you. You have the choice to help keep your sister from making some of the same mistakes you might have made, or give her advice on things she doesn't feel comfortable with. You can make this a positive situation. Its not easy, i know, but you can't change the past. but you can make a difference in your future as well as your sisters and moms. \nAS far as your dad hating you. He sounds like he got a wild hair up his butt. pay him no mind. and his accusations are very irrational. he should get a clue. good luck girl
1129688
NOT...I think that would be so wrong.  I think if you have found another love, be honest with your family and tell them before you decide to make that choice.  I believe that if you love them enough, you should tell them that your not happy.  I think that they would be more understanding (I wouldn't say happy, but understanding) if you told them, rather then letting them find out.
1034524
It's not fair that your mother seems intent on spending more time with your sisters children than with yours. However, it sounds as though your sisters children are not as fortunate as yours with respect to having a loving and good mother. So, take this into account when you're judging your mothers actions and take pride and strength from the knowledge that you're the better mother, something many women wish they could be. You're young, beautiful and ovbviously have a very compassionate heart though I suspect you're unhappy with life for many reasons. I also suspect your devoted entirely to your childrens happiness and well being while ignoring your own. Don't do that completely. You need your life too and you need friends who support that for you so reach out. Make friends, new ones if you have too, people who will share and listen to you. We're out here for you.
1135218
I truly feel bad for you,but you need to see or search the reasons on why your parents feel the way they do towards him,i mean i would take some heed to their actions,remember they have more wisdom from age and experience.However,if they really don't have the facts to back their actions,this is something you will have to face with your parents.Always be honest with them no matter if they are not going to approve.You are an adult,and you need to let them know that you are not trying to hurt them by your choices of life,that you are trying to find your way and if it is a mistake,then you need to find that out as well.This is how wisdom comes,with experiences in our daily lives.One thing to remember is your parents have an unconditional love no matter what,just like you do for them.I just hope your boyfriend proves them wrong and doesn't make you regret any decision that you might make.Without family,we have nothing! I hope the best for you,Good Luck!
530672
You are a good hearted person and an example to all the kids struggling with their own sexuality.  I was amazed to read your post, and quite impressed.\n\nI don't know what may hurt parents, I've never understood why parents were hurt by what their children were.  I raised two boys, adopted, whom I loved very much.  They were both straight.  They were both good boys.  The only thing that ever hurt me was when one of them smoked briefly (he stopped).  I never told him it hurt me, but he saw me cry about it once, although I didn't mean for him to -- and he just stopped and never smoked again.  One of my two died in a car accident nearly two years ago, but my relationship with him prior to his death and my relationship with my remaining one is/are very tight.  Closer than nearly any straight blood father I know.  That was partially because I was always there for my kids -- not to judge them, not to use them as an extension of me -- but for them.\n\nI can imagine that the fears I would have, if I were a straight parent would be:  Disease.  Lack of a loving family later in his life. Violence directed against my child by homophobes (fear for his safety).  And, last but not least, if I were a selfish bastard, a fear that I wouldn't have grandkids.\n\nI suspect that the parents that you can't reach are those who worry about their own status, what "other" people think of them (because of you) and think that God really came from the bronze age and throws gay kids into hell.\n\nMy parents were not concerned about me being gay, my father's only comment (I came out at 14) was "be sure you love the person you are with and never hurt anyone."  Well, I've lived up to that, or at least I've tried very hard to.\n\nIf there is anything whatsoever I can do to help you with your project (I've given you as much insight as I'm likely to, but you can bounce ideas off me) then email me at the address below.\n\nWarm thoughts,\n\nReyn\n\nhttp://www.rebuff.org \nbelieveinyou24@yahoo.com
281084
Overall? Yes, I am. Love my family, and I'm sure u feel the sam way, deep inside. There must be something that u love? how bout' ur best friend, for example, if u haven't made decision/moved, u might've never meet ur friend. You have a chance a make a difference in some1 else's life. jus, i'm sure u'll be happy in da futur! jus a  phase. I've been through it. i think. Any other questions? u noe where u can reach me