Relationship Fork in the road, work it out, or move on. Adults only  Please..?
926483
I don't think it's a case of her swallowing her pride, if you were the one who wanted to play the field. She's being cautious. If it were me I'd probably do the same thing. Actions speak louder than words. If she were eager to jump back into a relationship with you, she'd be there. I'd go on with my life if I were you. Going through "everything" together does form a bond, but that isn't a basis for a lasting romantic relationship. If it's meant to be you WILL end up together. If it happens, forget the past and start fresh. Good luck to you both!
1167007
I would have broken up with him by now. If he can't be bothered making an effort to be with you, he's just using you. Why should you be the only one willing to work on this relationship. It takes two. Get rid of him and wait for someone who will treat you right.
568433
It's not a good sign.  You should have a heart to heart and put everything on the table.  If this is not the right relationship, it's time to move on before you invest any more time and energy into it.
957968
Wow - that is a tough question.\n\nIf the two of you are still close, I'd just ask outright, but be prepared a bit of heart break if the answer is no...\n\nYou're at a really difficult time in life (I remember it...) and just recognizing that your head and heart are disagreeing is pretty impressive - I don't think I was that mature back then.\n\nAsking outright gives you a quick resolution to your dilemma.\nKeeping your options open, but maintaining some display of affection (holding on) may drag out the pain.\n\nIf your head says move on... then you probably should - your heart will move on eventually as well, and you'll certainly find someone else, even if it doesn't feel like it now... (sounds sooooooo cliched...)\n\nGood luck,\n\n-dh
759214
lay it on the line.  if it 's not working for you then it's not working.  can't make it work.  tell him that you can be friends and that the relat ionship as b/f is over. simple.  but, say what you mean and mean what you say.  the person you choose to be with has to accomodate your beat, not just his beat.
1117184
time to move on.... change your life... tell him NO... make the rules and stick to them..... the more you give in to him the more he will stick to you .... STOP giving him mixed signals and move on ............ God bless
151823
Ok, the first 2 answers are right if you are ready to move on. But, if you want to make the relationship work for the long term then I suggest marriage conseling. Because even though you two are together now there can be alot of unresolved issues that need to come out and be explained. For one thing your trust has been violated and you will be wondering while away from home if another episode is going to happen. Another thing is that if a guy who has cheated on a woman will feel like he is forever be expecting him to do it again. Which in that case he will just to do it. Now, what you really have to ask yourself and not your family is am I ready to have my child around someone that will possibly be the childs stepfather. And if so, will he be alright with being a father figure. Maybe not THE father figure but lets face it, when you are involed with someone and you have a child he's not only dating you he has to be around your child. So you have a major decision to make and I suggest you take your time and maybe read up on the subject. Then, maybe you could ask family and friends. Know that your decision does impact your kid and yes they do watch what you do at all ages. \n\n\nGOOD LUCK!!!
793745
god forgive me for stereotyping but I only have limited info for going on! from what you say, there is only one adult in the relationship and it's not him!!!\nok, he sounds like a typical man, wanting to have his cake and eat it too - basically he feels it's a bit wrong to be with you, but he wants you to make it ok.\nso he's being cautious and flaky so that most of the hard work comes from you and you end up saying all the stuff people usually don't want to be the first to say (ie tell me how you feel/why are you sending out mixed signals - making you look needy)- don't fall into that trap. as much as you want some clarity, pull back and let him do the hard work. it is obvious he likes you despite the age diff (dirty old man - just kidding) so he will try to engineer the opportunity to kiss you again- at which point, i think you should play a bit hard to get so he has to SAY those things he is obviously avoiding saying  in case it all goes tits up, i presume. \nanyway, only my opinion, so let me know if i was totally wrong - and good luck!!!
109182
This one is easy for me.  Simply make your opinion made.  One thing I am wondering is how long they have been in the relationship.  They might be going through the "honeymoon" stage.  It usually dies down in time.  Have patience.
62558
If he truly wants to be with you and you want to be with him, you should be able to work out whatever his issues are together.  Move on!
256751
If he was really into you and really wanted to be with you he would.  But maybe he felt that way about you and you blew it.  Sometimes we don't know what we have until it is gone.  That sucks.  He does need to stop jerking your heart around though because you will never move on if he keeps stringing you along.  NOT FAIR.  Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't.  Don't play games.  If you have children you are too old to be playing games!!!!   Tell him honestly one more time how you feel but this is the last time and then you are moving on.  And MEAN it.  If he decides to stay with the new one tell him that you will no longer discuss his feelings for you.  Don't let him jerk your emotions around.
1167249
He sounds immature.  Ask yourself if you  are better off with him or without him.  Sounds to me like without would be the way to go.\n\nI just ended a 7 year relationship - so don't feel alone in this.  I feel sad at times but am getting my life back together without his head games and am feeling at peace\n\nGood luck
876297
Okay,Okay.There is a lot of information here so I will try to be brief.First off, it sounds as though the relationship is lacking in maturity.First off, when people break  up.They dont "break up all the time" and then get back togather 5 hours later.If it happened once or twice ok.But you said it happens all the time.That needs further examination.What are you guys fighting about? Is it the same argument over and over?Or do you guys like the drama of it? Because after all I will be the first to tell you make up sex is the best lol.\nSecond of all......He lied to you about who was on the phone and then ran from you like some little boy who was about to be swatted by his mother.Another lack of maturity.\nThird of all......  What was he doing behind your back boworring money from a girl you didnt know?You would have never found out about this girl, had you not been there to intercept the call.Im not saying he is cheating on you, but why would he omitt something like that.especially if it was something as innocent than borrowing a few dollars?Remeber omission is still a lie.\nYou may not want to hear this .Because even young love is still the kind of love that will tear your heart out when the relationship ends.But I would advice you to really look into the relationship.Is he mature enough?and allthough you are young this could still happen... ask yourself , what if i get pregnat? Is he going to run from me when things get tough like he did when i intercepted that call!Cause trust me! If he is going to run from a confrontation, it looks like he would run for the hills and not look back if something as serious as a pregnacy comes up.He does not sound mature enough to be in a committed relationship.Remember girls are more mature than boys at your age.And that leaves for you to have a lot to loose if he decides he want to move on.Is he worth investing into emotionally hun?Believe me... I had my heart broken by one I thought was mature enough.I even married him.And when things got tough... He packed his bags and left.Now im here to pick up all the pieces of the wreckage.If one person could learn from mistake... It would make my heartbreak worth it! Good Luck in whatever you choose to do! If you need to talk to someone.Feel free to email me at stargazerlilly79@yahoo.com.
534939
I think you're best letting this one go. He obviously isn't in for the "long haul" and if he gets bored with you that easy, then he's just not the one for you.  Yes, the "love rush" wears off in ANY relationship, but if there isn't a friendship and caring left that makes him want to stay, then let him go. I'm sorry this happened to you, but you are better off honey. Find someone who will always love you.
406801
Sorry dear...but it seems you've already lost him...it sounds as if he has moved on with out you and he's waiting for you to just hit the road...\nDon't fall into the category of "girls that stick to *ssholes"...I'm sure you deserve alot better...if that is true then move on and get yourself another hottie!
111090
In most cases it's best you just let go of the past and try to move on. It also depends a lot on how things ended and how things currently stand. My thought is, if it didn't work the first time for obvious reasons then chances are it probably wouldn't work out now. A few of my X boyfriends have proven to me after quite some time why it was best to end the relationship and never venture down that path again. The best advice I can give is just to move on and find someone to start something new with someone who is right for you NOW --besides fresh new starts are always a lot more fun anyways.
349801
Don't expect anything concrete from this guy first.  looks like he's way too confused about what he wants to settle down.  Just agree when he says he doesn't want a relationship.  If saying "let's just be friends" riles him up, forego it.