why things change when you got married too early?
915240
Every marriage-  married young or older will change and get boring @ times If you let it\nYou both need time together away from the problems, worries, kids to reconnect\nYou need to date your spouse all over again
345292
I've had 15 months to plan and it's been plenty of time.  I would say your going to have more than enough time to plan the wedding but at least start the major plans a year in advance.
1015946
You just know.  My husband knew I was the one on our first date - I knew a few dates after that.  I was 25 and he was 33.  We looked at rings a month later, were engaged 4 months after that, and got married 2 years later after saving up money for our dream wedding.  We've almost been married a year now.  It's not a feeling you can even explain - it just hits you and sticks with you.  It sounds like you are both too young and not ready yet.
250461
Yes, as it will chance normally throughout life...not just because of marriage. Time, weight, pregnancy, illness. It's not like they say 'husband and wife' and *poof*...They've changed..come on.
483880
Over a period of time, marriage is even more than I/we had expected! You see when you start out, it's the two of you and think this is it! How could life be any better than what I am feeling right now?How could love grow? Then you go through great times like births, going to other weddings, going places, adoptions, all of it, and then you go through really hard times,thoughts and feelings, why did we get married?What are we doing here?Is this what I/we wanted? People change over time, people are different. You want to learn and grow together along life's journey. You also go through deaths, kid's sickness,surgeries, is he/she cheating on you?All of it, and after years, not of abuse,never ever accept that, but you just realize how Blessed you are to have this full,married life with beautiful kids(the good and the hard there too!!)An awesome feeling to know that somebody in this world, is there for you, knows you and loves you anyways!!:) So after 20 years, can honestly say, it is more than I ever expected, it is awesome, but it is a journey,it is work, it is fun times, hard times, but you do it together and that love just grows beyond your wildest dreams!!!
701118
My husband was in a firefighter academy when we married. I had just finished my degree and was looking for work teaching preschool. We were planning to wait until he graduated and found work and that way we would have saved up some money. Our schedules were so crazy though, that we really missed time together. Ultimately, we decided that having a big fancy wedding and a nice expensive honeymoon was not what it was all about. We just wanted to be married. We had a beautiful small wedding with just close friends and family. Today is our 9 year anniversary and we are so happy. (Except that I am waiting for him to get out of traffic and get home!) Sometimes you have to weigh what is most important to you. We did not live together before we married either, and the best moment of every day was coming home to be together. Good luck to you!
674707
That is such a personal thing.  I don't know that there is any one right time frame for that.  I knew 6 months into my relationship that I was going to get married, but I know some relationships that last for years and years and the couple is't ready to commit.  This is really something to decide for yourself.
343114
Because people confuse marriage with weddings.  People spend so much time planning the perfect wedding and forget about whats going to come after the flowers have died and the cakes been eaten.  They don't realise the commitment they're actually making and when this sets in after they become so unhappy that it inevitably leads to divorce.  Some of the most happily married couples I know went off and got married alone in little ceremonies with no trimmings and they're still together like glue because they knew it was a marriage they were having and not a wedding.
1145174
When you turn married.
130227
I married my first and only love.  We were together for four years before we got married.  We were high school sweethearts.  We got married right out of high school and I would't have changed anything in the world.
491220
Pre-cana is supposed to make you aware of the more difficult situations you might run into when you're married. Before you're married, you often don't even think about some of these things. However, I don't believe it always works. My first husband and I had to go, and we were divorced after two years! Not pre-cana's fault, but it was pretty much a waste of time for us.
1132145
Well having a new marriage and a new baby is very stressful on a lot of people.  You where pregnant when you got married, (9 mo preg + 4 mo baby = 13 mo Vs. married 1 yr = 12 mo)  Did he marry you because you where pregnant?  Did you trap him with a baby?  How long did you date before you got knocked up?  Did you sit down and make a conscious decision to become pregnant before you got married?  Sounds to me like he wasn't sure about marrying you to begin with, but only did so out of pressure from family (& you) to do the "right" thing.\n\nHopefully with your next relationship, you'll use birth control before you're married.
348680
When I got married a lot of people didn't turn up, I was a little disappointed but fully understood that the world does not revolve around me. Anyone who has their head out of the clouds will be ok about it as long as you let them know in advance that you won't be attending. I was a bit annoyed that a few people didn't do that for me & a lot of food was wasted because of it.
112383
It was before the marriage then it stays before the marriage.
1150373
That is a very sad story, but rules are rules. I would first check the laws and regulations before marrying. Some people do not marry officially before everything is legally settled. Your option is to begin a major court battle, and maybe you will win.
648966
I was so tired after my wedding I didn't know what to do with myself, so was my husband.  I would wait til at least the next day.  We got married on Saturday and left on Monday, because it was cheaper to fly that day.  Sunday we took care of some loose ends and gave the money to my mom to deposit at the bank on Monday.  Good luck
1137205
ok this should be interesting to follow im getting married in two weeks...lol.  I would have to say no i never because i can't remember it...Mine was last night...haha!