Is it a turn off when your Girl/Boy friend family is on welfare?
925848
It would truly depend on the reasons for being on welfare.  Laziness is never an attractive trait.  But while we are on the subject, I really hate going to the grocery store and being a smart shopper and making my dollar stretch and then get in line behind someone with 20 kids and 3 shopping carts full of CRAP and pay with a food stamp card.  It takes everything I have to bite my tongue....
295127
No.  Your family will always be your family.  They will always be there for you and only want the best for you.
610073
Well its not right to force anyone for anything but just look it like this our parents do so many thing for our hapiness which they dont want to do so we kind of force them aswell and if once in a while they ask us for something i think we shouldnt turn them down just try to be there for them much as you can it will give you inner beauty and alot of blessing in life.I think if you can keep your parents happy you will end up being happy or else your kids will do the same with you and i know you wouldnt like that.so yea go on and try to enjoy it if you can.
539426
I would think, "is that your baby daddy in dat photo an why aint he given you some his money?"\n\nThan I would think well I came from a very well to do family, well my grandparents were very wealthy, however, because my Mom had a baby out of wedlock and he happened to be by a black man she was forced to use the welfare system, so I would say use it for what it is and get back on your feet and do well by yourself, welfare is there to help you when in need so no judgments there just getting the help you need.
758669
no...it isn't bad at all....alot of people like to have there space, and still enjoy a dedicated trusting relationship. I have two cousins who have long term girlfriends , and haven't moved in either! With them it is something about having there own, belongings and able to go where ever they want to, with out feeling bad by leaving someone at home.
258672
Uhh I dont see how come you have to TRY to care about your family, when I'm sure theyve done alot for you, and it is being selfish... that all you care about is yourself when you owe alot to your family in friends.. very selfish that its sick..  you need to sit back and look at your life all the times you friends and family gave you something their love or just their friendship and all you care about is yourself!!!\nwhen stuff start to go bad for you you'll wonder why... why does stuff always go wrong with me, nothing never goes right and guess who you'll be complaining to your friends AND your family
1050497
Absolutely...family get  togethers are always interesting, to say the least...nothing boring going on there, is there? And, you will always have someone to be mad at...all built into the family. You will always have a group that you will feel "better than." Think of the consequences of their being "perfect in everyway!" That would be a harder bunch to face than a bunch of loonies. Count your blessings..unless, of course, your wife is part of the madness...then you have more problems than this note can cover :-)
813462
It does make you feel better but ideally you are giving someone who is struggling a hand up.  Sometimes someone just needs a break - a little help (due to all sorts of reasons).  Could you imagine not having money to eat (or not being able to feed your child)?  Not being able to stay warm?  I haven't had to struggle with these things myself and I'm grateful. Treating someone with compassion is always a good thing.
733085
NOOOOOO!!!\nIT IS DEFINITELY A TURN OFF!\nITS A SIGN OF WHATS AHEAD- CLINGY, NEEDY........
1102290
I do. I have worked hard all of my life on this Earth. I have never needed welfare or any assistance from the government to raise my child or my family for that matter. Isn't it amazing that people who don't work have refrigerators full of food that the government pays for ,i mean hundreds of dollars in food and I can only afford to fill it up not even close to full. They are lazy and I don't appreciate my precious money coming out of my check every time i get paid, taking care of these louses ,who use the money to get their hair and nails done. Lazy people absolutely disgust me and I pray that the welfare system will soon be gone and they make those people who can work, work. \n\nEven the bible says:\nII Thes 3:10:\nIf a man will not work, he shall not eat."
46922
i'm not really down for the keep it in the family thing but i'm not going to criticize you but i'm thinking that maybe you should them and see if they feel the same. but they don't react the same way don't be surprised because they probably not down with incest you know.sorry if they hurt you ok. you'll get over it eventually.
838303
I think it's perfectly fine, as long as someone's with the kids, who cares! much better than sticking them in childcare. my husband and i have discussed this a few times, and we both would prefer for him to stay home and me work. You're not alone in this thought! I guess people look down on it though because it's traditionally the wife's role to raise the kids, and the husband's to work. but i'm not one to always go with tradition!! if it works for you, tell those rude people so, and let them know that at least you and your family's happy, that's all that matters.
652757
It's called compromise.  You do a self-evaluation to determine what is important to you, and change your priorities.  Before I just had to look out for me, now I have to look out for my family.  Different priorities.
833443
Sometimes people do get stuck.  But in the same breath some just get comortable.  Through personal experience I have found that the more you enable a man to be lazy, shiftless, and not do much, the less they will do.  If you accept him not helping out he will think that is ok with you.\n\nIt is hard with children, but they should not be made to suffer just because there is a grown child in the home who doesnt want to work and help out.  It is financially a bad idea for you to allow him to stay at home.\n\nMy fiance went to college and held a full time job just to make sure things at home were taken care of.  I also worked, even throughout my pregnancy.  With three kids, we needed all the money we could.  \n\nI left my ex first for all of the reasons you had listed above.  I no longer wanted to be around such a hateful person who didnt help.  I deserved better- so i left ang got better.\n\nmost people never realize how good they had it until it leaves!
112951
If you feel weird about it don't do it.  I think it would be better if you keep your independence and don't rely upon them.  It is great to be close to your bf's family but there also should be some distance so you can be you without having to worry that they may be watching every thing you do.
83139
That is an interesting view of things.  I have always had an inclination the exact opposite direction, that is, to help my family first, then my town, then state, country, the world.  I'm not saying this is right and the way you are talking about is wrong.  I guess it's just that when I have some money to donate, and I look around, and right there is my own family member who is barely getting by, then how can I let him starve while feeding a stranger?\n\nBut what you are saying is a good philosophy.  For if I were to help the country, then perhaps there would be this "trickle-down" effect to my own family member.  I think there may be something to that.  I just wish I was a billionaire and could help everyone!
875059
Maybe because your in your home town,  people know your family.. They don't want to refer to you as hot out of respect to your family and dint want to get up to stuff like that with you for the same reason