I have joint custody of my 3 kids. My daughter's Dr. called said my ex is not following their advice.?
920077
use a common friend to get to your ex-wife. i think it's very noble of you to try to work things out among yourselves. if your ex-wife still refuse to accept the fact that you're actually doing her a favor by resorting to peacefull means, then you have no choice but to do whatever would be necessary for the sake of your child. you need not feel guilty then if the court decides in your favor because you have tried your best to warn her.
614659
I honestly you and you're ex should sit down and talk about it.  I mean, obviously you have a past and if you are both reasonable people you should be able to come to some sort of cconclusion.  You're kids are smart, they will understand at  a later age, but now you have to treat them like kids and let the adults figure out what is best.
1071635
She can especially if she never tells them she is the ex now.  Now if they are for children you will have a hard time with that unless you have it stated in the divorce decree that you are not responsible for medical bills.  But if she is charges doctor bills of her own, you can get those change into her name (but you will probably need to show them a copy of the divorce decree).
71533
sometimes they department of child support enforcement makes mistakes they are human if i were you i would tsk a copy of all previous cort decisions and take it to your local office thy may be able to help if you have paid your daughters school fees on time also talk to the childs mother and see if she has recieved any mail about the status of your case
326347
Write everything down that she does document all,time place what she did what she said EVERYTHING.\nThe sleeping arrangements are wierd, exactly what is she up to? she is going to make it worse for the kids,not you.If you owned the house before you were married I dont think she can get it. If you can get full custody of ur 2 but if you cant go for the joint  otherwise  she can and probably will try and turn the kids against you. Good luck
67945
My daughter is 4 hours away, we have joint custody and I also have been treated like you by the court and my ex.\n\nIt makes us angry and the system is the system.\n\nWhat have I learned? Keep the high ground for the sake of your daughter. Be a great loving dad that is supportive and be a great role model.\n\nI have seen a big difference in my relationship with my daughter.\n\nShe only has one dad and a new step mom. keep up the good work my friend.
490812
You probably need to be speaking to your lawyer about this. He can guide you in your options and how best you can help your child. You child shouldn't be used as a meal ticket by your ex. That's just wrong.
730361
Most states now are letting the kids decide when they are able to reason. The judge usually takes the kids into his chambers with attys but usually not the parents and asks them some questions. If he feels the child has understood and answered the questions to his satisfaction the he will let them decide. I have heard of cases in which the judge let the kids decide when the kids were4 so try it and see. Then youll have to remodify the child support to fit the custody.Good luck
583278
this is one of the problems you encounter when you get involved with a guy that has an ex and kids. not much you can do. you didn't say how many kids he has but..she won't be able to get away with it forever, plus when he goes to the hearing he needs to let them know how much of a hardship she is creating for him. as far as child support goes they fill out financial statements etc. eventually the divorce will be granted whether she signs or not. aside from that, who cares what she is blaming it on? that doesn't change the reality of anything so don't even worry about that, it isn't worth the energy. if you really love him very much you won't let this come between you, you knew his situation when you started dating him, no point in complaining about it now, just deal with it the best way you can. she will eventually get over it and move on, it could be a long road though so just buckle down and hang in there and make sure he fights for himself and doesn't just hand her whatever she wants out of guilt. good luck to you, it will get better!
329817
Since your daughter lives in another state and has for some time you would have to petition the Family Court in that state. Here in NYS your ex-wife would have had to have your permission to move the child out of state. And if you wouldn't agree she would have had to petition the court for permission to move. In most cases judges will not grant permission. \n\nAt 7 she's hardly old enough to have a say in which parent she lives with. Even if you don't agree with spanking as a form of discipline, unless they are leaving welts and/or bruises there isn't much you can do. If you suspect child abuse then you need to make a child abuse report. But don't use a child abuse report as a means of gaining custody. If a judge thinks that's what you're doing you are sunk before you start. \n\nYour best course of action will be to hire an attorney. Perhaps you can find one who will allow you to make a payment plan.\n\nI pray that the outcome of all of this is what is best for your daughter. God bless you and your efforts to create a happier life for her.
117046
Hi chrismarie1511,\nDo you have joint custody? You need to contact a lawyer. Look in the phone book for a lawyer who gives a free consultation in person or over the phone if you cant afford one. Good Luck: Blueladybug
605776
she is a very messed up woman and we have very messed up laws that dont protect the rights of fathers - there are some organizations out there that fight for the rights of fathers, you definately should contact them  - I doubt that your ex will see reason, but she is going to have to understand that the kids do need a father figure if she wants a healthy environment for them...
835175
Been there!!! Whew!! Talk to the lawyer who set it all up! Usually your ex would be right. Are you two talking it all out nicely? My ex and I switch off every other year now. Works out better when You get used to it. Or we do 1/2 and 1/2 when he or I are working or something comes up. So many ways to have your kids share both lives with you 2 that is all that counts.
799258
I don't know what I can say that will help you but I can reassure you that you are not the only one. My ex disappeared for the first 6 yrs of my son's life and then reappeared acting like he was the best dad in the world. He constantly contradicts what I say (ex.: my son has dental sealants and can not have sticky candy because it will rip them off but he insists my dentist is a head job who doesn't know what she is talking about, he also tells him he doesn't have to listen to the stupid things I say, that my son doesn't have to be responsible for anything -he's 10, and so on). He also created a tape using one of his friend's to play for my son. The contents consisted of this impersonator telling my ex that I did not love my son, I did not want my son, my ex could keep my son, etc. My ex also has no problem with my son seeing pornographic materials lying about his household. My son told of this and more to a Children and Youth Services agent who told me even though what my ex was doing was inappropriate it was abuse. Now for the grand finale, I stopped my ex from seeing my son for 3 months because he informed me he moved back in with his child molesting mother whom my son was to have no contact with and while the investigation was taking place and I was trying to modify the custody arrangement. During this time he filed contempt charges against me, initially sending to the wrong address (one that didn't even exist) so I missed the first hearing. I later received a visit from a constable telling me if I didn't go to the next one I would be sentenced to jail. I had proof that he sent it to the wrong address before we had the hearing. At the hearing my ex couldn't decide where he was living or for what amount of time, stated I had denied him my son longer that occured, and brought forth info that his mother was recently forgiven for molesting her sons (my ex and his brother). The judge decided that he knew my ex had lied about the extended time but I was also in the wrong because I should have known (even though I lacked the resources to find out and frankly my ex should have informed me since he knew, I forgot we are still supposed to wipe their asses even after we are no longer together) that his mother was forgiven for her most heinous act and that he was no longer living with her. Never mind the fact that we had contact since I stopped letting him take him  and my ex could have mentioned it, never mind the fact that my ex couldn't even figure out where he was living, and never mind the fact that not once did I tell my ex he could not see him, that he could not take him, I WAS STILL IN THE WRONG. I was in the wrong for trying to protect my son. My fiance summed it up nicely, the courts are currently favoring the men. The court does not take the child's welfare into consideration just what they want as they are deciding.
783330
I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
463696
why did you leave them with her if she was like that to start with. you can have her checked . you have to get a mental higene warrent for this but there is one thing either way it goes you might have to tell the courts why you left them to start with and in realaty loose the children as well my opion ?
24876
If he has done something other than as outlined in the agreement, he has violated it. There aren't really laws that cover custody in general, aside from the major things like a biological parent has automatic custody. Instead, your agreement should contain everything. If he goes against it, contact your local police department (not 911) and tell them that your ex is violating your custody agreement.