How can i tell he won't be scared by my saying i love him?
912159
Just tell him you love him! Make sure to let him know that you understand he has some anxiety about moving quickly and that you respect going slow. He might not say it back which can prove an akward situation but he'll know that he's deeply cared for. =-)
70148
Friends love each other all the time.  I have a male friend (for 8years). Almost everytime we talk on the phone we "I love You".  I don't think you will scare him off, but I'm worried that if you say it, you might not get the same response, and that might hurt your feelings.  Don't let it though, if that's what happens.  People feel things at different times, so don't take it personally. \nExpress yourself to him.  It's better to have tried, and know, then not to try and never know.
912349
first you want to tell him you love him dont kiss him yet just go in to it slow you dont want to scare him off then when you slow dance you put your hands on his sholders and expect this but he'll put his hands on you hips and then about half way say i love you but dont say it to quick just say it nice slow and sweet and then see how he reactes to it e mail me and tell me what happned
13146
It's a timing thing.  But don't do it too soon.. telling someone that you love them lets say 2 weeks into a relationship then that might scare the crud out of them.  If you have been together with someone for lets say 6 months to a year and everything is fine and dandy then go ahead and say it.  \n\nA good icebreaker for these kind of things is to say this\n"I know that we have not been together for very long BUT, I just wanted to let you know that I love you.  I don't expect you to say anything till you are ready but I just felt that you should know what my feelings are."  \n\nThis worked just fine with me and my BF and we have been together for 10 years. \n\nGood Luck!
265741
It's great that he's so open to telling you.  Definitly tell him.  As wonderful as it is to hear those words, they lose their meaning if it's a constant thing.  We only need to hear it a couple of times.  The rest of the day, show us.  Leave a note on the bathroom mirror, hide a note or card in their jacket pocket for them to find later.  Words are not the only way.  \nFirst you should tell him that you know he loves you and enjoy hearing it, but don't need to hear it all the time.
1050585
I have been in your situation before. To keep things settle and not push him away, it will be best to leave things as they are and let time change his mind. Let each day go by and then he can realize the true you, well i am not saying that you are not being true, but he will realize that you are not out to harm him in anyways and the same for you from him. I know it will be hard not to mention it at times, but a man doesn't want to feel rushed into things like "commitment". Some are just terrified of it. Continue to have an open communication level with him so he knows that he can trust you. Good luck...and hang in there.
1128917
I understand what you are saying to an extent. I like to say, "I love you," but I don't want it to be an automatic response, either. I don't want to say I love you, just because he said it. When I say it, I want to say it because I mean it and it doesn't have to be prompted!\n\nI don't know if that's your case or not.\n\nIf it is, just find ways of saying I love you first that are comfortable for you, such as writing notes, saying it when you wake up in the morning, or just before going to bed at night... Plan how you are going to say it, if that makes you comfortable (like the reasons you would give, if you want to say more than just I love you) or just make it spontaneous - say it before you lose the nerve!\n\nIf responding with "I love you, too," doesn't suit you - then what you need to do is find some way of saying "I love you" that makes you comfortable.\n\nBut, YES, it is important to say it, because it makes the other person feel good. If you really love him, isn't this important to you? Sure, I know what you're thinking: they should know it already, right?  Consider this: if your boyfriend thought you were beautiful, intelligent, wonderful, whatever nice thing you can think of - wouldn't it feel better to hear it than to just assume he thinks that because you are dating?\n\nLook, it's the *easiest* way in the world to make your partner happy, because it just requires you to say three little words... Think about making the effort for it.... It's not just important to him, but I think it's important to find a way of expressing your feelings, too. Maybe you could try keeping a private diary for a little while, so that you can get used to the idea of expressing your feelings? If you're just expressing it to a diary, then you can say whatever you wish - no judgments - and it's preparation for opening yourself up emotionally to a real person.\n\nI hope you find something that works for you!
412915
tell him you love him and you are very glad that he is honest with you
759283
You are too scare of your boyfriend. Always remember, where there's love there's only love....there's no room for prevarication or fear. Tell him the truth. If he loves you, he won't get mad.\n\n"Where there's love, there's only love"
278669
If you are worried about being too up-front and scaring him off, chances are that you already know it's too soon to say it. It sounds loud and clear to me that you have already answered your own question- you'll probably be inclined to just look for an answer that confirms your feelings- nothing wrong with that. My point is that you should listen to that little voice in your head and heart. Sometimes saying the "l" word prematurely can really put a guy off- sometimes permanently; it has a tendency to make you seem clingy and needy. \nJust wait a bit longer and see how things progress. You'll just KNOW when the time is right, without having to ask anyone else. Good luck!
38732
just be yourself and let him know by action that you love him because he would feel it if you are sincere with your feelings for him.
1137681
Because rejection sucks!  When I was first dating my husband, I knew I loved him pretty quickly (about a month or so).  I was so scared to tell him I loved him since I had never said it to anyone else.  His response was, "Oh, I hope you don't get hurt."  Not very romantic.  I still tease him about it.  It really hurt back then.  \n\nIf it makes you too nervous to tell him, you might just want to wait until he is in the same place as you.  If it is a long haul relationship, at some point, he'll realize he loves you to and he will tell you.  Then you don't have to worry about the rejection.
984347
Why be scared to speak openly to someone you say you care about.\n\nIf you want certains things done and done correctly, you need to ask or tell him. He will either do it or he won't. When it is all said and done you know where ya stand.
511575
We say alot of things when angry and it is usually the way we feel. I would not tell someone that he probably doesn't love you, but I will say make sure to watch his actions and go by that. He will never change and it will only be useless to think he will. You can only change yourself. Keep your head held high and never compromise what you believe in..
678557
I agree with just about everyone.  If he hasn't said it, either he doesn't feel it or he is afraid of committing to you.  Either way, if you want a committed relationship you should talk to him about it.  Saying that you love someone doesn't mean that you have to get married!  A year is plenty of time to know how you feel.  If it was something like a matter of weeks or months I'd say cool it and wait, but it has been too long.  He needs to tell you how he feels.
1137813
I would wait until you no longer feel scared..if you love him and he loves you then you can wait...whats the rush?
963014
Have you stopped to think that maybe he is unsure how you feel about him?\n\nHe may be hesitant to say he loves you because he fears that you may reject him, he would rather remain your closest friend than risk losing you by doing something he fears.\n\nId suggest you sound him out, drop some hints like letting him know that he is like a dad to the children, and that with him around you feel like a complete family?\n\nIf he seems OK with that then maybe you need to broach the subject of love?\nBeing a man myself I can assure you that if we are onto a good thing then we are always paranoid we will stuff it up!\n\nSounds like you may be on to a good thing yourself, good luck!