would you forgive a friend if...?
929501
Sunshine... first of all I hope everything is OK with you.  (See how easy that was and I don't even know you)\n\nFor a 'so-called' friend not to write or call or anything, well that is just-so-wrong.   \n\nHow hard is it to type a short text message like... thinking of you hope everything is OK. :)\n\nWOW!  What did that just take 5.8 seconds.\n\nThey are not a friend.\n\nForgive and forget.  Don't go out of your way for this person and don't invest any more of your time with this person.\n\nI feel sorry for them... I foresee a long lonely life for this so-called-friend.\n\nOtro vez.... and I hope everything works out for you and O!\n\nStay healthy
631292
Absolutely not! Do you know that hatred is the same thing as murdering in your own heart. If she steals from you, she is the one that is sinning, the best thing to do my friend is forgive her. Try this, call her or the next time you see her, tell her that you forgive her for doing that to you, what do you have to lose? HATE IS NEVER THE ANSWER
821467
You can always forgive, there are no limitations there. You can never forget because once something has been done the memory will always be there. The real question should be should you forgive and that will depend upon a lot of factors. Is this a constant reoccurring problem? Is your friend hurting you intentionally or is s/he just not tactful or too bright? If the hurting is intentional I would point that out to the friend and tell them that if they value your friendship their behavior will need to come to a stop. If they refuse to stop they are not a true friend and you would be better off not associating with them anymore.
50976
i'm sure it's quite possible to forgive but you will never forget especially if it was very painful or some type of betrayal,hopefully oneday i could forgive some family members of mine.
932265
that really depends if can still love her and she is sorry for what she has done\n\nalso, ask your self, who was to blame for this
683800
would any of your friends lie to you or would they tell you the truth if the problem was switched around. what would you want the truth or a lie. \n\n\nyeah it may hurt you and them but it is better if its now and not later because if you hold you peace and she finds out later then she will never trues you again if she finds out that you knew about it. if you don't tell your risking your friendship, and if you tell the only thing will happen is that they may get upset, but in time they will thank you for being honest. i know that its not easy and it wont get any easier i wish i could tell you that it will but that will be lying.
180678
Betrayal is one of the most tragic things that can happen to a person.  Betrayal from a friend is the worst kind.  I hosnestly don't know what I would do.  I would be heartbroken for sure.  would it make you feel better to just go kick his a**? Really, I am stumped on this one.  I can imagine the pain of betrayal, and would be at a loss as what to do.  So, I guess I'd just go to the person and tell them how much he has hurt me and tell them that I'd never get over it, how much I had trusted him, and then try to get on with my life.
461375
NO YOU SHOULDN'T FORGIVE HER, WHAT IF YOU WOULD HAVE WALKED IN 30 MINS LATER, THEN WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE WALKED IN ON???\nYOU DESERVE BETTER
1170332
I don't know but if I were her I would forgive you but I would move on to find friends that would be loyal and come to my aid not turn people against me. You guys were wrong. Just try saying you are sorry and tell people the rumor is not true. Fix her up  with a guy or something. I don't know cause my friends have never  done that to me and if they did I would question our friendship.Would you???
1071528
I vote, forgive AND forget. Why else would you bother calling her your BEST friend rather than just a friend? Take a chance, a risk. I think she's worth it. We all make mistakes.
524223
Well it kind of depends on how badly the other person took the 'misconception', they might never forgive you, or they might not ever be as close a friend since they felt you betrayed their friendship.So actually there are more than one chance that you cannot revive the friendship. \n\nBut, if you are determined to try you ask the person to meet you in a neutral place, or go to their home after calling and letting them know you are coming, and then you tell the whole story and apologize profusely and explain it is all your fault and ask for forgiveness, if they accept then tell them that you miss their friendship terribly, and would like to renew it if it is all possible, and then you cross your fingers, because they are either going to say OK they missed you too,  or they are going to say you destroyed the friendship and they cannot trust you again. \n\nEither way, you will have your answer and you can go on with your life knowing that you tried.\nGood Luck
1112267
Go for it... if your best friend is really a friend, she will understand and get over it.
276640
If this person was a true friend, if they are aware they are hurting you, they would stop doing it and appologize.\n\nTherefore, discuss your feelings and work it out.  If nothing changes, this person is NOT a friend, and you can feel free to stop the relationship.
303923
Yes, make the first approach.   If it's something that really is no big deal, then just apologize for it and get on with the friendship.
271407
It would depend on if I loved them. Do I still want a future with this person? Was the affair due to neglect on my part of the relationship? Was it an affair of the heart or just "sex"? \nRegardless, I would forgive them. Not for thier benefit, but for my own. Forgiving does not mean "forgetting"...it just means I will choose to not hold the offense against the person in the future. Whether pain resurfaces due to memory of the offense, my pride or my anger.  By my choice to forgive and exercising it, I will not only preserve my integrity and character, but possibily save a relationship that was challenged at a weak moment.\n\nWhatever choice you make in regards as to how to respond when you are on the receiving end, remember that ALL of us need a second chance at some point in our lives.
578438
Even a honest and sincere apology coming straight from your heart may mot be sufficient to make it acceptable without doubt. You must understand the personality of your friend because he/she has to accept the apology. Do whatever he/she expects in the form of a sincere apology. Some people would be satisfied with a mere sorry. Others might demand 'a pound of flesh'.
259372
Without knowing the circumstances it makes it difficult to answer your question.\n\nI think you have to go with what you feel.  If she did something to you that you don't feel you can forgive than no you shouldn't.