what if your boyfriend had a baby before he met u what would you do (dump him or stay with him)?
929725
I think you may have left something out, here...\n\nUnless you're really shallow, you won't dump him just because he had a child with someone else before he met you.  Now, if he lied to you about the kid or the baby's mother, that's something different!\n\nMake sure that whatever decision you make is based on HIM and your relationship with HIM, not on the simple fact that a baby is now also involved.
1001344
LEAVE HIM!!!!  I HAD ONE OF THOSE .. DIDNT LEAVE HIM WHEN I SHOULD OF AND NOW HAVE A KID WITH HIM...\n\n\nIT ONLY GETS WORSE.... TRUST ME..... AND YOU KNOW WE DISERVE BETTER.. THERE REALLY IS MEN OUT THERE WILLING TO SPENT THERE LAST PENNY ON YOU RATHER THEN ON THEM SELF...\n\nIF YOU CONSIDERE THIS A PROBLEM AND YOU ARE ONLY DATING HIM WAIT TILL REALITY HITS YOU WHEN YOU LIVE TOGETHER....\n\nYOU NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF YOU ...\nNOT A CHILD TO LOOK AFTER...
515623
I think you should stay loyal to your current girlfriend. If she is pregnant, she is going to need you by her side for support.
444877
what an a$$hole, dont ever get back with him. you can do it on your own, im a single mother, i've been alone since i was 8 months preg. and get him for child support you dont need a boy like that in yours or your childs life. and i say boy, because a real man would not leave his pregnant girlfriend. good luck and be strong, you deserve a real man.
672936
talk to him. you love him whatever the decision is. i think it is important you two make up your minds first. does he want to stay with his girlfriend and why is it that the two of you always end up together. easy answer i guess. but does it make sense to give in every time you meet? do you want to progress - or do you love him and want to know better..? last but not least.. just enjoy that there's someone special like this boy in your life. guess he will be there always whatever your decision. good luck.
550220
No it wasn't your fault. I didn't see how you could think that! It was his fault that he didn't act like he cared about you! You did the right thing! \nGood Luck with your baby and your new relationship!
339719
just know if you two are having problems a baby will NOT keep him with you. please make sure you're ready for a child with or without him. in my case we agreed to have a child together then 3 months into the pregnancy his ex is back into his life. I gave birth to  beautiful baby boy 2 months ago and his father is living with his ex now. if you cannot handle a child without him do NOT trick him into getting pregnant!
214240
Although you need to do what is right for your child you should be with (girl B)  If you stay with the baby's mom you will most likely end up in divorce or resent her for not being the one you love.  If you are only with her for the baby it is also not good for the baby.  Learn from your mistakes though and make sure you children do not suffer.
164943
You are poor girl,you know that he has a gf and she is pregnant and will give him his baby..what is your place between them? I think he is just using you for his desires
508223
They say that if people waited til they could really afford it before they had a baby, no one would have any children, ever.\n\nHowever, 24 is very VERY young. Other people having children around you should not influence your decision.  The guy you're dating, although you don't say much about him, has alot of children already that he presumably doesn't live with. Perhaps not the best support,having a baby is hard work.\nAsk yourself\nWill you live with your partner for 18 years or more?\nIs he a good father/do you want him to be the father of your children?\nCan you be completely selfless?\nCan you give up your life as you know it?\nCan you give a child the very best start in life?\n\nIf you can answer yes to those questions you are ready. If not, or if you just want a dolly that will call you momma, you're really not.
33535
Take the pregnancy test first! If it's positive for pregancy, then talk to him in private about what kind of decision you both need to make together.
579447
He is not worth your time. Leave him and don't give up or kill your innocent baby, who by the way didn't ask to be brought into this world. You need to stop being so selfish and make arrangements so that this baby will have a loving family. You can raise this baby alone, a lot of women do it every day. can't you see he is using you, he like the sex but he don't want the responsibility of raising a baby HE help make. God has put someone on this world for everyone, he will find you and love you with or without a baby.
325219
You can tell by what you are saying that he loves you. Why did you always break up with him? Saying because you were dumb is not a good reason, you must have an actual reason. Maybe in your eyes you have changed, but in his you havent. Maybe if you two could talk about it and everythime you do something that he doesnt like he could tell you. If you two talk it out maybe he will stop doing what he is doing. Was he like that before you met him? If not I do not agree with the person who said he will be abusive to the baby. If he was like that before than maybe he might be. Just because you are pregnant doesnt mean things will get better. It is a two way street and both of you have to try and make things work. If one of yall is trying and the other isnt then it does no good. You both have to be on the same wave lenght on things so things will go smooth and fix in time. I hope that this answers your questions.
227451
You were once obviously, thats why you have the child.  If having his kid wasnt enough for him to stay with you, I don't know if there is much more you can do.
471477
29 is still young enough to have a baby if you want one with your boyfriend. you say you have a lot of responsibility and not knowing what that is, only you know if you can handle a baby and everything else you have to do.
898495
He will only be a baby for a short  time. Show him as much love and affection as you can. Babies need that. You are the mother and that's what mothers are supposed to do.\nTell your boyfriend you will not hurt the baby in any way by being loving. Please don't listen to him, he don't know what he's talking about.
750912
Sorry, Patricia, but you have a decision to make, and it will be difficult either way.  Your boyfriend has children already, and he is satisfied with the size of his family.  He won't change.  You can either leave him and find someone who wants to have a family, or you can stay with him and forego your dreams of having your own children.  Please don't get caught up in the "He's the only one for me" thinking, because he's not the only one for you.  Sometimes you need to cut your losses and move on.  If you can live without ever having your own children, then stay.  Like I said, this is a difficult decision either way, but it needs to be made sooner rather than later.  If you want your own family, leave immediately and follow your dreams.  If you are willing to sacrifice your dreams for him, then forget about having children and enjoy your life.  \n\nPersonally, I think you want to leave him, but it's hard because your lives are so intertwined and you have so many years together.  If you leave you'll be okay, though, and you'll be free to love and be loved by someone who wants a family too.\n\nI wish you the best.  It sounds like you have good friends who will support you.