Can you date if you are separated but not divorced, or is this still like cheating?
931171
Its a couple ways to look at this situation - 1st - is your husband seeing or sleeping with someone else?  b/c if he's not, then u fucking or seeing someone else is gonna cause him to do one of 3 things:  he's gonna do it b/c u are or he's gonna come running back b/c he doesn't want to lose u or he's gonna kick every ass in sight b/c he' hurt and pissed and possibly feels disrespected.  - 2nd - Are u doing this b/c u just need some release or do u feel u can potentially make a new life with this person u want to date.  \n  There is no time limit on how long u should wait when you are separated but be aware that there could be some consequences, I'd say if you are sure that your marriage is over then go for it, even if its not,  the bottomline is he's not there with you, seeing to your needs but neither are you for him. \n     This is tricky, b/c you dating could be a good thing for your marriage or it could mean the end.  I think you, still love and respect your husband and marriage b/c if you didn't this wouldn't be a hard decision for you.  He's not there so he shouldn't get upset with you for dating but that doesn't mean that he won't.
451249
I agree that it is wrong and a sin to date a married man/woman.  But the world is not just black and white, it has many colors.  Like if the guy/gal is married for convince like money I would think that it would not be totally out of the question.  There is also the situation where they are married but legally separated again not out of the question.  So, I guess it would depend on the situation.
684464
Yes, of course.  You can legally date someone if you are married and living with your spouse.  There are many who would place judgement on that, but it is not against any laws.
778693
If you feel comfortable enough to date and you know that your marriage is not going to get back together, then I say go for it. Only YOU will know the right time to get back out there and start dating. If you like a guy and want to go out with him... go for it. Your husband has moved out and will probably move on soon (if he hasn't already)... you need to do the same!
186268
I have been through a similar experience. Just over a year ago the guy who I had planned on marrying & I decided to part ways. Even though it was mutual I had a really hard time moving on. I started dating again right away, but soon realized that in the process of dating my ex I had lost track of who I really was, therefore all the guys I dated after him; I was dating for the wrong reasons. I don't know if that makes sense, but I decided that I had to "date myself" first before I was ready to hit the dating scene again. \n\nAbout 4 or 5 months ago I came across this book: Single "The art of being satisfied, fulfilled, and independent". by Judy Ford  It really opened my eyes as to how I was living my life. It's okay to grieve & find yourself before hitting the dating scene again. I've taken a sabatical from dating & have never been happier. I have more guy friends than I have ever had before & they are teaching me what I really want in a guy.\n\nMaybe you're not ready for the whole dating thing yet, but that shouldn't stop you from getting to know this great guy. It sounds like you two are building a friendship, & friendship is so important when trying to rediscover yourself. Just be totally honest with yourself & do some soul searching ... you'll be surprised by all you don't know about yourself.
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As much as I'm against divorce it really seems to me that you should have never married the person you are with.  Did he ever make you happy?  Anyway\n\nThe truth is you are wondering if this considering the situation could grow into a real serious committed relationship.  Unfortunately it probably won't, the guy you are with will always know and remember that you met him while you were cheating on your husband.  He may like you enough to really think in his heart that it won't matter but deep down it always will it will come out later.  I'm really sorry.\n\nHonestly you need to do something about your current relationship before anything else. You need to either get a counselor (what i would recommend) or get a lawyer (what others may recommend).  As someone else said right now anybody looks better than your husband in his current state.
69284
If you are legally separated, you can date penalty free. Once separated "adultery" is not an issue, even in states where infidelity is taken into account in divorce cases. You just cannot marry again before first completing the whole dissolution proceding.
1101036
None of the above ... I'm in the twilight zone of not divorced , not married seperateness that does not go away... cause when neither cares to remarry and yet you are still friends , why divorce?
686987
Yes.  Just have to be honest up front about the situation.  Dating is different than being in a relationship.
619350
Personally I wouldn't be thinking about getting involved with another man so soon after divorce. You will find your soul mate when the time is right. Have some "down time" for yourself. Divorce is not easy on the heart, so heal first before rushing into another relationship. Your knight in shiny armor is out there somewhere, weather your divorced or single.
142587
I was divorced for seventeen. then happened upon a woman that I have been happy with for the past three.  there is no secret but I promise you if you start looking with the purpose of finding a relationship you will get hurt. Live life every day and don't avoid situations where there are people of the other sex.  Sooner or later someone will catch your eye. If not you're better off alone.
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Not sure why the other kids live with dad, but you got to answer what you want first, then it's maybe what he wants, as long as it agree's with your wish's, it's your body, your life.  I assume separated means not divorced, that could make things kind of messy come court time yes?
604588
You didnt mention why you separated, I think that is important to know to answer the question.  But anyhow yes it does sound like she wants to hold off on the divorce.  Its a good thing you have pets, it will give you both the opportunity to spend time together to know if you should get back together.  Unless your going to be single the rest of your life there is no getting away from emotional heartache.  Its a part of life and love.  Might as well try and work it out with someone who was good enough to be your wife in the first place.
604282
if you are happy, then it doesnt matter how you met. \nHeck, I met my husband while I was dating one of his friends. We just clicked. Things happen for a reason. Good luck.
563751
EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT.  It took me FIVE count them 5 years to get my divorce. If you know for a fact that the marriage is over (by meeting the ex or a child if they have one) AND you know the one you are seeing is living apart from their spouse then it is fine.  INVESTIGATE the person and make sure that they are telling you the truth.
384813
If it has been that long then you can feel free to date again. The only thing is I would not let my children met anyone until I was sure he was the right one. You are a free woman to do as you please/////////////////
1052788
First of all your grammar is really hard to understand could you fix that next time when asking another question?\nSecond of all what do you mean by pursue? You mean date?  If that's the case dont you know its wrong to pursue anyone when you are still married? why don't you go ahead and file a separation first and just be friends and then wait till your divorce is final?  That way you can get to know each other better and start out as friends?\nIf she really likes you then she will wait.  GOOD LUCK