this guy at work asked me out, but i'm not interested...?
914720
Explain to him that you're flattered, but you don't date your coworkers.  If it doesn't work out, it could be rough...and if it does it could be even worse....
96136
You could tell him/her that since your previous conversation about dating a coworker, you've had a change of heart. Really, what can he/she do? I've found that it's always best to tell one how you truly feel (in a nice way, of course, if you're upset about something) rather than hold it in. He/she can either accept the invitation to date or decline the invitation to date. Either way, whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, right? I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, love. God bless you!\n\nHope that helped!
289421
I know I'm being a little traditional here, but no, I don't think you should ask him out. That's his job and all you have to do is give him some hints and maybe talk to his friends so he can get the courage to ask you out. Nobody likes rejection, but in life everyone has to learn to overcome it.
979890
Doesn't sound good to me.. don't ask him out.
74705
This is where you ask him to chill with you first. Go out as friends first to get a feel for it. If it doesn't work out, nothing's lost.\n\nIf things do work out, then ask him out! =] (Unless there's a rule about not going out with co-workers.)
366387
leave him alone for a while if he is interested hell get in touch coz hes wondering y u not bothering with him and wondering why u not paying him atention..
1021729
m_k4376 says...dont mess with the boss's man...unless  you are not worried about losing the job. First question to ask yourself is what is your relationship with your boss..if your boss is a friend, then be a friend and stay away. If not, and you dont care about the job then see where it goes. the boss may be using him to get to you for a little action, if your into that kind of thing. if your not into that kind of thing then wait till they break up then pursue him. but then, if you dont care about the job or your boss, go for it and the next time he hits on you... reach back and grab his package.  let me know how it works out...@ yahoo
990329
In this day and age I would say no but it really depends on what this person means by it.  I've had female co-workers call me that and I wasn't offended because I know they aren't flirting with me. I think of it as sort of a term of endearment.  But if a this guy is trying to get a date or just in your pants then I'd have to say no.
515086
Yeah darling, he is just trying to get enough information on you to get you in trouble at work since it did not work the first time. The only way he knows how to do that is to get you to like him again. So now the playful bit, by opening doors, and jokes and shit. He couldn't tell you he wasn't interested in you because he really is. Take my advice, don't fall into the niceness. It's all a joke, it's not sincere.
1010096
Its hard to determine how to handle the situation based on your question.  I suggest that you keep your career the main focus.  It never hurts to be friends, but I don't suggest asking him out agian.  If you do this will make you look desperate and very un-professional, but if he asks if the offer is still available, just go out as friends and determine the next step later.
1003587
Sorry but this somehow sounds a little odd to me.\nHe seems to know that you're interested in him but still doesn't make a move?\nIs there something wrong with him? Saying that if she asks me out I would accept but then not doing the step to ask you out?\nI'm not into the notes thing but if your friends know and told him already, what's he waiting for??\nIf he's soooooooooo shy, do you think he's the right guy for you?\nWell, depending on your preferences about a man, of course...
963722
Well, as an MUNER, I've seen this happen. It's lucky that you were admin because if that note had been confiscated, there would be consequences. Anyways, you are right in asking him straight off would scare him. You don't really know this guy, do you? It seems like 2 or 3 weeks at most  and you already say he's NOT the player type. Maybe he is. If he really liked you, he would have called. This guy is not a perfect gentleman as he hasn't fulfilled his promise to call. I think he's keeping you as a safety as he flirts with you online but not in a more meaningful way. He maybe interested in another girl. There are other guys out there. Good luck.
696491
Just ask because when you blew him off, he probably thought you weren't interested.  Thus, he wouldn't ask again because he doesn't want to come on a creepy guy.
993340
Nowadays, with all the sexual harassment issues at the workplace, people are extremely careful when getting involved like this. Maybe you should ask him to meet you in a place outside the work environment and openly discuss the issue. Some guys, like me are shy and will wait to get a very clear "hint" to make the move.
889083
The nes t day i would say srry. A couple days later try asking him out. If he says no say, "Fine and walk away."
314667
if you left your job on good terms with him, just send him an email to the workplace asking him how are things going? ask to meet him for lunch for some career advice and if he accepts, when you meet him, start neutral and play it by ear. you could dress a notch less casual than business when you meet, make sure you look good and smile a lot and do the eye contact thing, and see if he responds positively to that... You could also apply the subtle body language tactics by leaning into his personal space a bit, speaking with your hands a bit such that you sometimes touch him accidentally on his hand or forearm as you speak which subtly sends a signal without being really too obvious... let him ask you out! If that doesn't work, ask for a second meeting for more advice. If you meet regularly enough, he will like your company and you will have natural rapport to move to the next step...
853656
No, I don't think it's the guy's job at all. If you want to be with him, you should ask him out :)