how do you deal with loneliness in marriage?
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Well, you should find another partner.
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This is a common problem in relationships and marriages today. Believe me when I say..."You are not alone!" It's the reason for infidelity and divorces today. But what you have to realize is that if you truly want to stay with this man, be devoted to him and have a marriage that zings. You are going to have to work on YOU first. Now I know you don't want to hear that. No one does! That's why people just throw in the towel and move on to the next failed relationship. Trust me no matter who you would be with next. There is going to be SOMETHING you aren't going to like, or you might end up with someone worse. (ex. he may drink, abuse or cheat on you). \nSo, how do you work on you? In order to rebuild that bond that you once had you are going to have to do the complete opposite of what you are doing now. Which means, getting a babysitter and going out on dates. Going away for the weekends, spending quality time together. Maybe you can't afford to do this all of the time. But spending time together does not have to cost much money. Go to your local park and take a lazy sunday afternoon stroll. One night a week make it date night. It could be anything from getting a movie and sitting on the couch together. Or going out to your favorite restuarant. Talk to your mate about your dreams, your goals, and your hopes for the future. If you are afraid of something open up to him and express that. \n In your explanation to your question never once did you dishonor him and say that he was a bad person. In fact you did quite the opposite. This tells me that you respect him still and obviously you still care about him. You are trying to seek answers on what you should do. That's a step in the right direction. \nMy last suggestion is that I would encourage you to seek professional marriage counseling in your area. There are a lot of very qualified couselors who specialize in marriage problems. Again, you are NOT alone! It seems to me that he truly wants to work on things with you. At least take this step and if it doesn't seem to help, (which I doubt you will feel that way) then you can at least say that you gave it your best shot! I hope this helps!\nI wish you the best of luck!!
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You have to learn that you don't  have to have someone with you ( as in relationship) all of the time, that it is alright to be alone.Its a hard thing to deal with , being co-depend ant, but you can overcome it.Just when going into relationships, don't just jump into them because being co dependent you can really get stuck in some crappy relationships..I have.If you are a praying person, pray about it, get counseling, talk to friend,s you are not alone!\nI wish you the  best of luck!
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It sounds like you're lonely and craving an understanding and intimacy that you're not getting from you wife.  Before you make a huge decision that will alter yours and many other people's lives, really think about what you're thinking about doing.  My guess is that you and your wife had a very passionate relationship that cooled down after you married.  Once you married, life's monotonous routine got in the way of passion and communication.  Now you're looking outside the marriage for that spark.\n\nBefore you act, do yourself and your wife a favor and talk to her.  Be honest about your feelings.  Maybe her job/friends/family etc... consume all her energy.  Maybe you'll find that she's just as lonely as you are.  Give her a chance to work with you to make your marriage work.  If you feel you can't talk to her, then suggest couples counseling.  If that fails, then I would consider the possibility of ending the marriage.  But before making that decision, please please please give you and her a chance.  Don't give up yet!
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I'm not a woman, but I am a man who has been happily married to a wonderful, supportive wife for 11 years now.  In spite of this, I do have feelings of lonliness.  Part of this, I feel, is due to the fact that I have always had a male best friend but am lacking one now.  Also, I have recently had some friends stop calling me, and that leads to insecurities and lonliness. \n\nThe best way for me to deal with those feelings is to do volunteer work.  I also look to see if I can help out older friends and family who might need help around the house or yard.  Diverting my energy toward helping others rather than self-pity is the best cure for the blues for me.  It might work for you too.
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marriage counsellor?\naccept that your marriage is over?\ndo somethinga about making your lover happy - get romantic working again?
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oh, sweetie... time doesn't matter.. i met and married my husband in four months. My soulmate. Get a friend... smile even if you want to cry.. watch a funny movie, comedy speel, think happy thoughts. It will get better. you can feel free to e-mail me er1ca2000@yahoo.com.
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1)find some hobbies....do some volunteer work, of online advocacy....then you can see how some people really have it very, very rough and you'll feel better about your own life while at the same time helping others.\n\n2)You can also answer people's questions on Yahoo Answers and then feel like you helped them.\n\n3)Talk to your spouse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You gotta be careful, your playing with fire and you don't want to get burned. You should really try to work things out with your husband first, he shouldn't live alone so much just to go out with friends. Talk to him and tell him how lonely you are and how much you need him around if it doesn't work then go ahead and have the affair (what the hell he might deserve it) but be prepared for anything and don't get your hopes up with your friend 'cause he might hurt your feelings...Good luck!!!
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You begin to learn each others quirks and idiosyncrasies.  You will struggle and have bad times and good times. You will laugh, cry, worry, and enjoy.  Marriage is only what two people make of it.  It is work, but just like a garden, it is well worth the weeding and pruning one has to do.  Don't give up when things get tough.  Communicate!!!!  I know you've heard it before, but take heed, communication is the key to an awesome marriage. A marriage needs 100 percent from both partners.  Live and learn from one another, touch and kiss often, and never say a word that you may later wish to take back, words are like feathers released into the wind, once released they are hard to take back.
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Love your spouse, be friends with your spouse, be yourself and remember that sex is not what keeps you together (it is nice) but there is more to mariage.
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Yes zool, sometimes I feel very sad and loney too.  My marriage of 27 years broke up about 3 yars ago.  Then I met someone, fell in love and got engaged.  He died last September.  Since then I can't seem to "find my place."  You know, where I belong.  I moved to another state but feel like I need to go back where I came from because my children and grandchildren are there.  What is making you feel sad and lonely?  You can email me at watsoq9@yahoo.com if you like.
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Sweetie, if the guy was married than you had nothing at all an if yall shared such a deep connection why aren't you with him now?Maybe what you should do first is get to know yourself first. Trying being alone and seeing what its like for awhile. If you feel lost because you don't have a man that makes others think that your weak. You should be independent rather your with someone or not. All I'm trying to say is that, how can you be devoted to someone who's already married? What would you do if the tables were turned and you were his wife??? Just don't get lost in the midst of needing someone, and having to have someone-figure out who you are and see how far that gets you!
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try meeting other married woman who are in the same situation as you you should be able to find social groups on yahoo or other web sites
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+++ My Sob Story +++\nWhat sucks more is being married and Feeling like your alone all the time! \nToday is my birthday and My hubby is out doing other things instead of being with me and our son.... :(
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Truthfully, you are never truly alone, unless you believe you are truly alone.  The mind has a powerful trick over the heart.  Just don't give in to the sense that you are alone.  Look around, and find people to talk to.  I know you will overcome this sense of alone-ness. I went through the same thing.  Just trust yourself, and what you believe in.  You'll always come out on top of your problems if you just try.  Trust me.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.  Don't let the feeling of alone-ness get to you.  The worst of things can, and will happen if you do let the alone feeling in to your heart.
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Get on messanger and have your do same you can chat to each other about all the little things that happen daily that you are missing by not being together. It is also a lot easier to be honest about feelings in writing, maybe when she hears how you are really feeling you'll find out she feels the same and decide to stop having a long distance marriage. Find out what your priorities are. Your family or money. If you can find time to have a "FRIEND?" You have time for your wife. Remember your sacred vow to love her till death. Would you want her doing what you are thinking of, because you know  looking for a friend may sound harmless but it won't stay that way. Please try and be more realitic.