Should I feel lonely for being a straight male, active in these communities?
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I can't answer about your community because I don't know which community you're talking about. If you mean here on Yahoo answers, you sure can feel lonely. \n   The number of questions about homos and lezzies are way out of proportion to the general population. Something here seems to attrack misfits.
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if you are not gay then why do you want HOT MEN to notice you???  sounds gay to me, & this is very weird!! I really think your gay and are affraid to admit to youself!! no straight men I know are looking for HOT MEN!! if your just looking for men to hang with then why did you specify HOT MEN!! WEIRD!!  well you must have male friends so that is one place to start, or the gym, on line, school, work, there are many places you can meet friends!!  the possibilities are endless!!
67701
You should know if you are. Ask yourself if you are developing feelings for other men,if you are then you certainly are. If you are not, you'll get over this feminish phase.
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I feel better around gay guys, but I'm a chick so a gay chick would like TOTALLY gross me out, like omgsh that would be so wrong. But I dunno, since I'm a girl I would feel more comfortable around a gay guy. \n  But it's still wrong
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When I came out, I had many of the same problems. I'm a lesbian, and the "piece of meat" feeling is the same for us, not as bad, because women don't work like that, but still there. I got alot of apologies, and still do 10 yrs later, about past jokes and "that's so gay" comments. I think that people do that as a way to make themselves feel better about themselves and the stupid things that they say. Not that they wont continue to say them, just not to you. \n\nThe gay bar, lol. Oh my god, the first time I went to the dyke bar was traumatizing. I felt so alone, and I was alone, which didn't help. Had not one gay friend.I felt like everyone was staring at me. I worried wether or not I looked like a lesbian.  But unlike straight bars, alot of people took me under their wing and the feeling in a gay bar is alot more comfortable. There definitely is an expectation of the way we look and act in the gay community, I think it is one of the things that we do to make ourselves better than the straight community. But, you should act however you feel comfortable, people will love you regardless. Welcome newbie, may your new gay life be fabulous!
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you can join and enjoy this groups...\n\nRate this answer please..
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This is a reality "WAKE UP CALL" : You do not need a man to validate whom you are, because if you do, then you really do not know whom you are at all. This is a trying and difficult situation, to feel lonely, but this too shall pass. First thing is to be selective about the guy you are interested in, don't just go for the hard body with the great face and bad boy attitude{ these guys are good in the sack and little else}, try to find a guy you have a bit in common with, this will make you happier in the long run. The kindest thing you can for yourself is to not be so desperate, it is like blood in the water, you do not want to cause a feeding frenzy among the sharks and you my dear are the bait.
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hmm well you may just not feel comfortable around men yet you are still young and I know that I didn't really start to feel comfortable around guys till I was sixteen or so.....experimenting with girls is not going to be as akward because you have the same body parts and it's familiar......you need to take time lookat pictures of women and see how it makes you feel do the same with men ......you may be a lesbian and if so rock on who cares but don't put that label on yourself yet....you may also be Bi-sexual  just take time and see how your body reacts to photos first then feel it out for awhile don't experiment to much your still young and have plenty of time for that......\n\ngood luck\n\n<3
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I cant really socialise with other gay men....And I am gay...I dont know why, but I feel so much safer and better among straight guys. Maybe it is because of my interests, but I havent found a single gay guy I can communicate with besides my very special boyfriend.\n I dont know, maybe I am prejudice, but gay guys in general have really mainstream interests....like mainstream music (pop), mainstream clothing (trendy) etc. etc. I really want to meet a person who is into cars, airplanes, videogames, comics etc. etc....I really have found the friends I made so boring....Are their life was about Madona, Aguilera, parties, going out and drinking...Nothing to actually spend time on or devote themselves..I really hope I can make more gay friends in the future..
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Ok, you are bisexual. Feelings like that totally start at that age. Trust me thats when my feelings started and its not weird at all. You are really starting to grow up and realize that you have sexual feelings and all that. I used to feel sexual towards my girlfriends in high school when I was your age. Many of them turned out to feel the same way about me. I had quite a few girlfriends in high school. Just a warning to you though: Don't make it too public that you are Bi I wouldn't really tell anyone unless you seriously trust them. I don't want to freak you out and maybe its because I live in the south but you can and probably will be threatened because of all the homophobes out there. The schools I went to were in the Bible Belt and I really didn't give a F*** who knew I was bi or les or whatever so I made out with girls all the time - but I did get threatened all the time. I really didn't care but you might not want to risk it. No one reall yhad the balls to do anything to me I guess that they were too scared lol... Have fun enjoy your life and don't let ANYONE tell you how to feel or who to love!
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As with all cultures, there is definitely a fragmenatation within the gay community.  It depends how stable and established the community is before it forms subcultures.  For gay men, you can be a twink, bear, queen, fashionista, muscle mary, drug whore... the list is endless.  Many people find that they associate with one particular group (eg muscle marys may find that they have a shared interest in going to the gym).  Lesbians can be butch, femme, dykes, into tattoos.. again the list is a long one.\n\nFar from being a negative thing, this subdividing should be seen as positive - it shows that gay culture is strong enough to allow fragmentation.  Some people see their sexuality as a secondary thing.  As long as gay people remember the battles our forefathers had to get us to this point, our communities should stay strong.\n\nThere is one further point to remember - not all transvestites are gay.  There are many straight people who enjoy the experience of wearing the other gender's clothes.  They tend to be drawn to gay communities because we are seen as being more tolerant of those who appear different.\n\nOf course you are going to get the odd person who verbalises an intolerance towards others.  I think this actually is an expression of self-loathing and low self esteem, something that is a recurring theme in the gay community.  If you hear people critisising others, ignore them, they're not worth the effort.  Eventually if we all work towards a common goal of support and acceptance, they will tire of being ignored and join the party.
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This is really too big  a question for a short question/answer format like this but I think you know that and this is only one step in the process.  \nYou use a lot of labels in your question and maybe it might make you feel better to remove some of them.  You are you.  You are not simply hetero/homo/bi or repubican/democrat.  You have to determine what you are yourself.  Not me.  Not your family.  Not people at school or work.  You might spend many years figuring it out and changing your mind a few times.  \nThere is nothing wrong with exploring all your options along the way.  Men are supposed to have a rigid sense of sexuality while women are not only allowed but encouraged to be more fluid in their sexuality.  \nYou might be confusing desire for male company, affection, guidance, love, companionship, and intimacy for homosexuality.  Don't confuse needing men with being gay.  Since the late 20th century, any type of longing for male companionship has been labeled as gay or homo-erotic.  For milenia before that it was considered the norm.  Now, if you do anything with another man that doesn't involve killing someone you start to wonder if you're gay.\nAs for looking at men in photos, you could be projecting yourself as the man in the photo.  That's like longing to be the millionaire in a picture in place of the model next to his Rolls Royce.  I've had friends in the 80s-90s who displayed the cover of Donald Trump's book prominently.  they didn't want to have sex with him but they fantasized about being him in the photo.  They wanted to pretend to be him, have his possessions: the car, the wife, the money, the power, the notoriety.  Similarly, you can see the man in a photo and you'd love to have his possessions: great muscles, gorgeous face, nice hair, nice cock, his long list of sexual conquests.  That's one of the reasons why guys look at porn: to imagine themselves in the position of the guy.  John Holmes was a very popular porn star because the mostly male viewers wanted to live vicariously through him.\n\nTry to relax about it.  Enjoy yourself along the way.  There's no deadline.  Whichever way you go is perfectly alright if it works for you.  You can always dabble if you're respectful, honest, and safe.
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It's a feeling I'm all to familiar with.  I'm an oddball.  I don't like to run with the pack.  The pack I run with today might decide we're lemmings tomorrow.  I've had a great deal of success at being myself, and as much as it pisses off the world, I'm not ****ing changing.  I find that as much as I've heard that Christians are strangers and aliens in this land, just as much I'm finding it's the truth.  I feel alone much of the time, and it's a rare thing for me to find someone who thinks and feels the way I do.  Hope this helps, as I don't really know where you're coming from.  From a psychological point of view, perhaps you simply need to find your center and connect with people who have more similar interests.  Or perhaps you should do what I find myself doing much of the time...hanging out with my dog.
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It does not bother me one way or the other, I am not really interested in the sexual habits of others, unless they interest me. Each person has his/her own sexuality, which does not concerm me in the least.\n\nI have known gay men and lesbian women, I have been to parties with both and enjoyed the company of both.  I have many friends that are gay or lesbian. We talk, we even talk about sex on ocassions, eat, watch TV, go to sports bars, and enjoy each others company.\n\nI don't really understand the reason people are concerned about the sexuality of others any way. When I first meet a person I don't go up to them with my hand out and say hey how are you what is your name,oh by the way are your gay or lesbian. I like people for what they bring to the table, a good personality, good company, pleasant to be around, and other things we have in common like sports, BBQ out doors, fishing, attending sporting events and the like. The rest does not concern me as I am not normally going to be physically or sexually attractive to another man, nor is a lesbian going to be physically or sexually attractive to me.  \n\nBeing gay or a lesbian will not lead the world into being abnormal. I will bet that at some time in your life you have spoken with and had a conversation with a lesbian or a gay male and was not aware of it. You probably have a few gay men or lesbians in your family, maybe not in your immediate family but in your extended family of cousins and distant cousins.\n\nAll I can say is just love people for what they are, we do not fit in a mold and are all the same. If you happen to meet a gay or lesbian say hi and move on if you don't want to be around them. You might learn something by talking to  a few of them.\n\nI hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.\n\n"FIGHT ON"
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People will never stop talking and making stories about others, why hanging out with your friend all the time makes you bi. If you have the feel that you are going down this path, it's your only choice that counts. You have to feel good about yourself no matter what your sexual habits are. Simply, enjoy every situation you go through.
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give yourself some time. most of the guys i knew didn't have a bf until they were 20. yes its lonely, but enjoy being single, enjoy what time you have left with no worries about relationships and bills and all the bs you're about to encounter with college and adult life. you'll be fine.\n\nPS: it is normal to be gay. it is not normal to be a hater and call yourself a christian. (that's for the guy who posted above)
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I would have to think about that one for a minute. OK, I have a suggestion for you. Why can't you just be you? If your mind is a male, then act male. If you want to do guy things, like work on a car, go ahead.\n\nYou would have to make that decision because no one knows how you deeply feel. Are you gay? Are you straight? Those are important questions. How old are you? Are you in therapy?\n\nYou must decide which way you want to go, where you feel the most comfortable inside yourself.