why does it happen in love, that whenever you you finally trust them, they hurt you so badly?
917182
We all get hurt, welcome to the club. Letting a past relationship affect how you treat other relationships is called "baggage." Release the bags as soon as you can and start fresh. You'll eventually get over it. \n\nIt's not a question of whether you deserved it or not, but more like what kind of motivation this guy who left you has. He may be a lying player, or he may be a nice guy who found someone he relates to better. It's hard, but dwelling on it hurts more and delays the process of getting over it.
553964
You hate someone u have loved only when your trust has been broken.
745831
regardless of your past as sad as it is, trust is a major part of any relationship and without it you may destroy what you have.\n\nmost people are betrayed by someone at some point and this will affect their future relationships.\n\ngiving your love/trust to someone will always leave you vulnerable but its the price we all pay to hopefully get what we want.\n\nits a hard choice but the rewards can be worth it\n\ni Hope it worked out for you
833327
Anyone that tells you that love doesn’t hurt has never been truly in love.\n\nLove hurts even when everything is going good.  Even when you’re right there with them or there just in the next room and you just think of them it hurts deep in side but this is a good kind of hurt because you’re connected to that person.\n\nLove hurts especially when things aren’t going well.  I guess because when we open up and become vulnerable to that person we also open ourselves to being hurt.  When we really love someone we are connected to them and when they hurt we hurt but when they hurt us it hurts all the more.\n\nLove can really suck sometimes but stick with it there are always ups and downs to love.
1092489
because they hurt the heart.  Scars take a long time to heal
565322
All your heart really does is pump blood through your body.  Your emotions are caused by electrical impulses and chemicals in your brain.  What I still don't understand though, is why when somebody you love really hurts you, it really does hurt in your heart/chest for no apparent reason.
706044
Because when you put you heart and faith into someone and they betray you, it is natural to question your judgement.  Look people make good and bad decision all the time.  You have to chalk this one up as a mistake and move on.  Naturally you want him to feel bad about losing you but truth is you never really had him so let it go.  He doesn't seem like he has any self control so don't be suprised if somewhere in the future he crosses you path again.  That will be the time that you will be happy because you made the decision to move on and he will be wondering what he could have had.  It happens to all of us at some time.\n\nKeep you head up.
536064
Trust takes time. Some people don't ever deserve it. But if you have been hurt alot, maybe you need to pick your friends more carefully. Trust a little at first, and then as you get to know them watch for red flags. Then you have the option of putting distance between you and them, or just ending the friendship.
100620
I guess you have to ask yourself this. There are many degrees of trust you bestow on someone. How much trust or degree of trust are you willing to give that someone? Why do you have to trust someone so much that it hurts if they turn on you? I think it's just that you're a loyal person and in exchange expect the same from everyone else. Maybe it's time you look at trust as a courtesy you can give but not to  expect from your family or friends. Give trust to your soul mate. Your one and only TRUSTworthy person on earth!
1144828
Yes, I think the love can be there.  However love will disintegrate extremely fast when there is not trust.  I was in a relationship like that and even though my feelings for her were strong, I could never get oer the trust issue.  If you cant trust the person you love, who can you trust?
230037
When you love that person so much it hurts and it drives you crazy that you think of them all the time. Remember: dont settle for the one you can live with but wait for the one you can't live without.
101153
Everytime somebody does something like cheating it springs form an inperfection they prcieve in themselves. Usually fear of a stable relationship is because the people dont feel they are capable of holding up their end.
1141417
well, part of it, even if he/she hurts you like hell, then the feeling still stays, but if you two get back together, then he/she hurts u again, then trust me the feeling will go away.
149448
you'll know it aitn that hard cuase its completely noticeable n stuff but dont always be a sucker for love cuase then ur gonna get hurt...
1174520
It can be the worse pain you'll ever feel, until you realize its not going to kill you and it ends up making you stronger...its just that first love gone wrong puts you in unfamiliar emotional territory..you know its not going to stay this bad but not knowing for how long makes it seem like there is no end to the pain it causes...any broken heart hurts...but that first one...ooouch!
213767
Love hurts! Even in the best relationships things go wrong, and it hurts.  You can't avoid the pain love can bring but always remember what doesn't kill you can always make you stronger.  Keep that in mind ;)
283237
Simple!  Love hurts because you open your heart, and become vulnerable, or susceptible to being hurt!  It's like lowering your defenses!  But you know what they say, 'to have never loved, is to have never lived' or something like that!