My good friend sms my boyfriend secretly to bad mouth me! **HELP**?
920070
if shes doing that to you then shes not really your friend have you even thought that she  might want your bf or she could be jelous
101339
Tell him u have another/a boyfriend and u don't like him much :)
139016
If your boyfriend trusts you then ya'll shouldn't have this problem. you should leave him...he apparently doesn't care that he wants you to never talk to your best friend again!
393955
What you didn't say was what the context of the conversation was or his demeanor when he said it. Was he agitated? Happy? Said it in a joking or satirical manner? If you feel he said it with malice. Later you should tell him 3 things you just adore about hem. then tell him it is getting overshadowed by what he called you. Tell him that you don't appreciate it, and why he said it. I don't know how many years, months or weeks you have invested in this relationship but to blow it over one word.........kinda silly.
396441
Dear Am I Being Unreasonable:\n  I know how you are feeling unfortanely I have been in that same situation but I was on the other side. I had a best friend whom I had forever when I started dating this guy.Well the boy friend didnt like that fact that we "hung out" so much. He "just knew" that we were doing something. Well it turns out he was right we were and actually ended up getting married after a long drawn out process. The point Im trying to make is if your boyfriend is keeping things from you and lying then you dont need him. You deserve better. It sound like he wants his cake and eat it too. A realtionship is built on trust (or suppose to be). I haop that I have helped. I have enclose my email and yahoo messenger if you want to hit back at me !!
573639
He will never stop loving you. There isn't anything you can say that will stop that. You just have to keep letting him know that nothing can or will ever happen between the two of you. You value his friendship too much to jeopardize that. Tell him that boyfriends come and boyfriends go. You don't want that to happen to him. Friends are forever.
596186
DONT DO IT, YOUR BOYFRIEND DONT REALLY LOVE YOU IS HE A PERVERT YOU NEED TO FIND SOMEONE THAT LOVES YOU FOR REAL AND RESPECT YOU; TELL YOUR BOYFREIND I SAID TO F**K HIM SELF AND TO RESPECT YOU YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN A STUPID RISE AT WORK... THAT IS WHAT I THINK
781351
There are two things I should say about your relationship:\n1. she still cares about him \n2. you shouldn't "spy" her text messages .. you need to trust her..but if you don't, there is a reason ..
688877
Sounds like your boyfriend is using YOU as his excuse for anything and everything!!\n\nMy opinion and advice?  Get rid of the boyfriend, find someone else who will value you more, and treat you like you're a human being, and not someone to use and abuse as an excuse because they're no good!
131114
confront him about it.ask him if he says thing about you in general to his friends.remind him that you won't be mad at him if he says yes. tell him that you might by a little mad but you could never possibly stay mad at him for long and that you promise not  to hold a grudge, and thatyou are willing to forgive him if his mouth has been running about you. if he says yes. ask him what he says. if he says no then check with a friend of his THAT YOU KNOW THAT YOU CAN TRUST TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH! if he talks about you to them or anyone else. :D\n\nhope i helped.
805212
Your friend did you a favor and now you want to stab her in the back with her boyfriend?\n\nThat's dirty and low down. You need to find your own boyfriend and leave hers alone.
1077822
oh.. wow.. first talking in any relationship is key.... I guess you guys didnt talk about ground rules: what will and Wont be cool in the relationship. \n\nFriends are friends thats cool if he has little femmes text messaging him, but the queston is, would he be cool if guys were textin you? Its gotta be equal or its not going to work. You both need to talk about this cause if you cant shrug it off you know its only gonna get worst: your going to read one or many of his messages and find some female is just a little too cutsey with him.\n\nBoundaries you guys needed to create some before all of this: now you Have to talk with him: cause this isnt cool...\n\ndont text a chick back...\ndont accuse him of anything\n\nbe specfic in what you dont feel right about and make him picture if you were in the same situation: would it be ok if guys texting you?
786870
She received the voice message or saw the text msg.  Your Sis might want to confront you and her boyfriend during the party.\n\nEven worse humiliate you during the party.
690071
well, at this time in her life, seeing that an older guy is not perfect can be hard, so get backup.  i would try to sit her down with a few friends and not attack her.  try not to use phrases like "you need to dump him now" or "this guy is terrible."  if you say those things, she will not hear you.  i would say things like, "i really care about you and i want you to be so happy, but are you?" or maybe "what do you think a boyfriend should act like or how should he treat you?" and maybe she will figure out for herself that he isn't good.  you, unfortunately, can make someone see that someone may not be good for them, they have to see it for themselves.  good luck!
261032
You've blown it man. She won't trust you now. Let this be a learning curve.\nBelieve me, you have more fun keeping your mouth shut.
882119
Just ignore him and don't react to any of his comments as long as he knows he's getting to you he will continue the minute he knows that you absolutely don't care what he says it will burn him up and he'll stop..Tell the person who relates these messages to you to stop ..and you don't want to hear anything that comes from this person.And honestly what kind of friend is this that tells you hurtfull things..really now..
1048166
ur friend might be absolutely right.they all might be really jealous of u.so don't worry abt people esp those who don't even know u.\ninfact don't worry abt anyone.as long as u r right and as long as u know that u've done nothing wrong don't worry at all.just be urself and talk to those who talk to u properly.be nice to everyone and never put ur head down.if the peoblem persists then just go to ur bf and ask him on his face the reason why he's doing all this.and if he doesn't give any reason then just tell him what u think of him for doing such things and tell him that he's been doing cheap things and all these things don't bother u at all.\n\nmake him feel like a fool.tell him that by doing this he is ruining his own dignity and not urs and tell this to everyone.\nso when u say something like this they'll definitely know that u r quite strong and they'll stop doing such things slowly.\n\nand if u don't want to do all this stuff,then just keep saying this word to urself when anyone says anything to u or whenever u remember anything they say"AKUNAMATATA"=no worries.\nmake it a habit.\n\nTRUST ME IT WORKS.\n\nhope i was of some help to u .all the best.i'm there for u always.\ngood luck.\ncontact me if u have further trouble.