My best friend is a gay man.....?
925853
Wow, ok first thing is the boyfriend probably has a right to be jealous...if you and your best friend are as close as it sounds, I'd be jealous too. You need to step back a little bit, they are in a relationship and you should keep the friendship boundaries in tack. Dont over step them. Also, if you feel your best friend looks at you a little differently then he should...talk to him about it, honestly, if he is your best friend you should be able to talk to him about anything. Keep in mind, he is taken and you have to watch it when your hanging around him....best friends last forever, but when someone else is involved things get messy and the best thing for you to do is stay his best friend....emphasize on Friend. If he wants to pursue more with you then he will do the right thing, if not...then let him and his boyfriend be in a relationship. Good Luck, I hope this helped a little
71103
Is it about friendship or relationship?  Knowing that you are gay is big enough already, don't add that you are in love with him to the mix.  It will be too much to handle.  Coming out is hard.  You do risk losing him as a friend also.  Not everyone's upbringing has prepared them for this.  If he is a true friend with a reasonable upbringing, he will still be your friend.
705359
He could have been confused and tried denying how he really felt... especially since you both are so close it would almost be natural for him since there's already a connection between the two of you.\n\nI doubt he was leading you on and if he wasn't letting anyone know that he was gay there would almost be no way of you knowing.  He probably feels worse than you do right now and he might even be thinking be that he did lead you on in some way.  \n\nThe only thing I can say is that the longer you wait to talk to him again the more ackward things are going to be.  The sooner you get things out in the open and talk about it, the quicker everything will go back to normal.\n\nI'm bi and I actually had a similar expirience with a friend of mine who was gay.  We use to work together and he was always touchy feely; I assumed maybe he was bi like me... needless to say I was wrong.  (Even though I now know he is as gay as gay can be, he's got this thing with boobs lol, which I guess all guys do.)  \n\nI felt stupid for a long time but I didn't want my misunderstanding to affect things between us.  We talked about it and I realized that it wasn't an option to be his lover but "friends" aren't bad either.  I knew that keeping him as a friend meant I wouldn't lose him and losing him was the last thing that I wanted to happen.\n\nEverything is fine now and we're still really good friends.  Don't think that you're the first girl to fall for a gay guy because that's not true at all.  You get a man with the caring part of a woman... all straight ladies want that!!!  Just talk to him and let him know that no matter what you're going to continue to be there for him just as he will be there for you.
838275
I wouldn't make a move on my best friend without being 100% sure he feels the same thing. You might be risking a lot if u tell him and he doesnt feel the same. \n\nSo i'd say if u like other guy start from there... maybe it works with that guy and u forget about ur best friend... if it doesnt work then just wait u have something more concrete before telling anything to yur best friend.
826500
Snagg him up before someone else does!! after i got married (to my best friend) two years later i met another guy that is now my best friend and if my husband and i ever parted, i would choose my new best friend as my new life long mate. It helps that you guys are already best friends, that's a good stable foundation. Good luck, and make sure to tell him how you feel. Even if you don't say, show it.
1104718
You probably do love him. He's your friend and you can't help but love a true friend. Have you talked to him about it? You can always talk to a friend. Has he dated in the past? Have you thought that maybe he is into guys? Gay guys do make the best of friends for girls, they do hide in the closet for a while, and they'd be more likely to send you a gift than a straight guy would. Maybe you two should just stay friends for now, and get to know him a lot better. The more you know about him personally, the easier it will be to tell what his feelings are.
379687
it's really hard to tell someone's sexual preference these days, as i'm sure you know. i've never had to deal with this kind of situation before so my advice might be a lil spotty. i think you should just try and be friends with him for awhile at first and see if you can tell by just talkin to him. if that doesn't work and you feel comfortable enough then you should ask him. just be patient and see what happens. it could just turn out that he'll be a really good friend but not gay. you never know
837098
Hi there!\n\nWell I'm sure your friend did not "just discover he is gay" it's not like you look under this rock one day and Oh My God I just discovered this.\nIt just sounds cute the way you said it, but I'm sure he has known for quite a while because gay does not BING turn on all of a sudden.\nSo support him be his best friend more then ever right now, because it took him tremendous courage to even speak to you about it ...I would think.\nI don't know how old either one of you are but it is the same for heteros as homos we all need and all need at the different ages, so just be there for him and love him. It will all come in time, his courage will build and he will meet people just as everyone does, give it time. Maybe at school there are some support groups for gays, something like that could be helpful for him and help him feel more secure about himself plus he could meet people.
768654
if your not "out" then it might not be as much of flirting as you might think/hope for. If he thinks your one of his buds, and is straight it might just be him being pals. don't read too much into it, I know you want to, and I know he seems like the perfect one for you, but stop and think about it. If he is not bi, then you could really ruin your friendship. Maybe feel him out a little, bring up something in the news or current events like gay marriage and see how he reacts to it. \n What ever you choose to do, go slow, and be smart.\n and as much as it sucks remember their is a big difference between love and lust.
429258
if he is your best friend, there is nothing wrong letting him know how you feel. as long as you know he is not going to use it against your friendship. if he reciprocate favorable with your feelings, maybe it will go to another level? if not, hope you two remain the best of friend....good luck..
339174
The lesbian thing fits...cus you don't seem to have along term plan in mind with someone that could otherwise be a candidate for...I think you can save the friendship if you take the time and consideration to explain to him that its not him, its you and it wouldn't hurt to let him down easy by saying you knew if you could feel for a man the way a woman normally does, I thought you would be the man that could do that for me..but your feelings don't go there..so it would only be fair to both of us to remain friends. It might be a stretch but you owe the friendship that.
1053846
Ok, I think there are two possible answers to your question. He might be worried that a relationship with you, his best friend, may not work out and would destroy your friendship. Especially if he doesn't have any other friends. He probably loves you more than you could imagine.\nThe other option is that he's gay. I know, just hear me out. He may not have come to terms with it and has no idea how to tell you. Think about it. You guys are best friends, you're attracted to him and asked him to be your bf. He obviously llikes you a lot and is attracted to you but not sexually attracted to you. \nEither way, I think you should tell him that you really like him as a friend and wish there could be something more between the two of you. Remind him that there is nothing that could ever change the fact that the two of you are the best of friends.
19082
no, but first you should talk to your best friend about this.tell him/her that you really like his/her brother and if ever it didn't work out, tell your best friend that it should not affect your friendship.goodluck.:)
349294
Does he know your gay?If not tell him and let him know how you feel.
1172135
Do you have a crush on this best guy friend that's kind of like your brother, even in the slightest? If not then I suggest you relax about it a little. You might want to let them know if they start going out that you love them both, and wish them the best but the second they start having issues you don't want to get involved. Maybe you should also go in to a little more depth with this with your best friend too so she understands. I understand your discomfort with this because when people break up they both seem like jerks and you probably won't want to hear it.
792349
Well, chances are that most people who love you already know, you just haven't confirmed it yet.  Stay calm and think good thoughts.  Being gay is not terrible, but some people may need time to accept it.  Try setting aside time, free from distractions, and tell the person.  If it is a friend and they react poorly, don't push it, let them figure it out.  Continue to be a good friend, but if they choose to not be  good friend, consider yourself lucky to be able to sort the wheat from the chaff so easily.  Your family will love and accept you- you are family.  It is better to be honest and true, living your life fully as a good person, that force yourself to live in fear, lying.
573818
You need to have a talk with your best friend about how you two are always going to be best friend through thick and thin always and forever.Guys come and go but friends stay forever.