i have trouble asking guys out! i am really shy to and don't like comming out of the commfort zone! any ideas?
914053
U r not the 1 2 b asking.
691320
Try working out in the same area as them...and then start talking you might not want to ask him out immediately..find out what y'all have in commen and just let it come natural..
379908
Not all guys are like that. Anythime I have hit a girl it was by accident or either she was trying to kill me. Sounds like you are inb the wrong crowd. Look elsewhere for guys or try giving the quiter shy guys a chance. Like the guys that admire you from across the room but are to nervous to get up to ask you out. good luck
313601
There's nothing wrong with being a little shy....some guys find it attractive.  But, if YOU don't like being shy, retrain yourself.  Start by making eye contact with strangers while your shopping.....add a smile....eventually a "hi, how are you?".  I know-it sounds simple and goofy...but it works.  Strangers aren't as threatening as people we know or like. It will still feel uncomfortable at first.....but what have you got to lose.  It also helps to have a few ready made questions for you meet people.  They could be school, family, or hobby related......you get the idea.  Good luck.  You'll be happy to know that confidence comes with age!
431219
As a guy I would say "Leave it alone and don't ask." If you go up to him and ask him why he turned you down he is going to feel pressured and on the defensive. It is not going to change the fact that he said "No", so what good will it do besides to satisfy your curiosity? If you put him in that position I can guarantee that he will recent you and you won't have a chance with him. He will see you as being pushy, aggressive, stalker like and annoying and will stay away from you. If I were you, I would be friendly, smile, say "hi", and let him know that his saying "No" didn't affect you in any way. Guys can't stand indifference, so if he does like you, it may make him decide to ask you out on his own. Some guys just don't like for the girl to be the chaser. I'm not saying that is right, but it's the way some guys think. I don't have a problem with it myself. I like when a girl knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go after the guy.\nk.m.
856411
Take a deep breath, it will all be fine, if he's not interested big deal. He's not going to walk around telling everyone you asked him out and he turned you down. You know what my personal moto is- Glory to the brave. When ever I want to ask out a girl or approach a girl and I start to fear rejection I say to myself Glory to the Brave and do it. I've got rejected before, but in a few days you'll never remember and I've also gone out with some beautiful girls, and that wouldn't have happened if I didn't have the balls to make a move
966418
I would definatly talk to him about it. Or be the sly, sexy, one and write him a cute little note asking him out. I was in this situation, but he ended up asking me...but if he won't make the move, make it. Or suggest that someone else is going to ask you out, making him want to ask you first. If he still doesn't budge, he's bein a stupid guy.
779121
I am exactly like that.  I study a lot, am very shy girl.  GET TO KNOW HER.  I would probably be appauled if some random guy who I thought didn't know me asked me out.  I want someone to act like they care about me, but not in a creepy way.  A lot of the time shy people tend to be lonely, but not always.  GET TO KNOW HER.  I REPEAT, GET TO KNOW HER.!!!!
284393
Ask someone out, remember most boys are shy. (;
1003587
Sorry but this somehow sounds a little odd to me.\nHe seems to know that you're interested in him but still doesn't make a move?\nIs there something wrong with him? Saying that if she asks me out I would accept but then not doing the step to ask you out?\nI'm not into the notes thing but if your friends know and told him already, what's he waiting for??\nIf he's soooooooooo shy, do you think he's the right guy for you?\nWell, depending on your preferences about a man, of course...
895415
I have the same problem but I would go up to that person and ask them out. I mean I get nervous when I do that. So be confident and go ask him out. Be yourself
1084658
As a shy person myself, I tend to relax and open up more around people who put me at ease...most of my friends are extroverts but not pushy...they will talk and be outgoing, but they don't force me to (they welcome me to)...if you really like this person then ask them out...a lot of shy people miss out on things in life because they are shy...it's a choice...you can't force someone to not be shy, and they have to want something badly enough to put themselves through the possible discomfort of opening up a bit and coming out of their comfort zone to get it...
1073528
I think it might help if you could change your perspective and try to see it from a woman's point of view.\n\nObviously, if the person you want to ask out is someone you have strong feelings for... you have have a lot at stake emotionally and that's going to be scary for anyone.\n\nBut, in general, having someone take an active interest in you or ask you out is flattering... even if you are already in a relationship (sometimes, especially so!), you aren't in a "dating" place in your life right then,  or if the person asking doesn't click for you.\n\nSo, don't make it about whether or not YOU get a date.  Just make it about giving HER something to smile about, maybe.\n\nAlso, please remember that most of us HATE hurting guys with rejection... so if you really want to leave her with a smile, you have to look like it would make you happy if she said yes, but doesn't crush you to the core if she says no.\n\nIf it REALLY freaks you out to approach women, I have two suggestions:\n\n1) Get into something where you are around women more... join a book club or a take a class and get in a study group with women... it gives you guaranteed stuff to talk about and is very good practice.\n\n2) Set up minimum attempts each week.  Start with just one a week.  Whether she says yes or no isn't the point.  It's good practice... and after a while you'll feel more comfortable with it - especially if you luck out with a "yes" every now and then.  (PS Don't start by asking the women out where you work.  It looks really bad when guys do the "rounds".  The complement becomes an insult at that point.)\n\nBest of luck!
193474
You don't sugar. You ask him. For the same reason that truly shy people will never get up in front of a crowd and give a spontaneous speach. Some times all it takes is for you to start the ball rolling. Say maybe you go up to him and say "Hey, I thought about going to see a movie tonight, would you like to go?" anything that will get him to respond to a YES or NO question. Don't give him too many options for answers, this will only cause him more stress and he may just clam up and not be able to exspress what he truly would like to say to you. If yo don't succeed at first, try again later, it may take him a while to warm up to you and accept the fact that you find him appealing. Good luck, and keep trying.
711548
Heck no.  In this day and age women DO ask out men they are interested in. Also, if you don't let a man know that you are interested he may be too shy to ask you out.  Let him know how you feel - ask him out. But you have to understand that in asking a man out you may face disappointment if he says no.  If that happens just accept it and move on.
86487
My best friend Ryan was rilly shy to ask out his now g/f Taylor. He basically talked to me about it and we practiced what he was going to say to her and i was there for support. There rilly is nuthin' to worry about. What am i talkin' about i am the girl!! ne ways, we get tired of waiting to be asked out so make ur move! GOOD LUCK!!\n                  ~O! Also kinda make sure u 2 have a connection kinda.(It helps!)
965608
some guys may be naturally shy and are afraid of rejection. try talking to him...sometimes you just need to make the first move.