Would you divorce...?
920213
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.\n\nIf he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.\n\nStop making excuses for a man and his behavior.\n\nAllow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.\n\nStop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.\n\nSlower is better.\n\nNever live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.\n\nIf a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.\n\nDon't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.\n\nDon't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.\n\nThe only person you can control in a relationship is you.\n\nAvoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?\n\nAlways have your own set of friends separate from his.\n\nMaintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.\n\nIf something bothers you, speak up.\n\nNever let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.\n\nYou cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.\n\nDon't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.\n\nNever let a man define who you are.\n\nNever borrow someone else's man.\n\nOh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.\n\nA man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.\n\nAll men are NOT dogs.\n\nYou should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.\n\nYou need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship\n\nYou should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.\n\nDating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.\n\nMake him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.\n\nDon't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.\n\nKeep him in your radar but get to know others.
354995
I would definitely consider it.I have no interest in having what is not mine,nor do I have an interest in losing all I have acquired should a marriage fail.\n\nThe only thing I would insist on is that it be spelled out what if any changes will be made should children become part of the picture,as I believe that changes things and it should be made clear in an agreement as well.\n\nWe all want marriages to last or at least that is what we all SHOULD want,but reality is that lots of marriages don't last and it should not result in losing everything you worked your whole life for on top of the heartbreak.
898841
They should be.  Plus a zillion more.  We are so caught up in the romance of marriage, we forget that it is s-e-r-i-o-u-s.  We don't want to talk about these things.\nAnd we can always get a divorce, right?  Even when both parties agree it isn't working out it still causes immeasurably emotional damage.\n\nHere are a few from my arsenal:\nWhat will you do when you find you cannot agree?\n\nWho will be responsibile for paying the bills and keeping the checkbook?\n\nWhat is your attitude toward children?\nWhat would you do if you cannot conceive children of your own?\n\nHow often do you want to invite people to your home?\n\nWhere will you spend Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter? How will you decide?
1161155
Are you a man? If the answer is yes, then kiss your house goodbye.\nAnd if you're worried about a divorce already, even before your married, I'd re-consider the whole marriage thing. Seems neither of you are ready for this sort of commitment...
1126489
You have to now figure out if this is good for you.  She apparently doesn't know what she wants.  Either she's fearful of the life that could include being with the same person until death, or she can't handle being faithful.  She's hurting you, but does she realize it?  Have you ever just sat down with her to figure out what the deal is?  I'm sorry to say that I think a divorce would be the best thing.  She obviously has some issues, and no one can get through to her.
446494
I was the other woman, but didn't know it at the time. When I found out, I immediately ended the relationship as not to destroy a family. I didn't tell his wife, but told him that he should. Of course, he didn't. \n\nI just wouldn't want that thought on my mind, that I had been the cause of ending a marriage if it ever came to be  and I definately wouldn't have wanted it to happen to me if I were married.  No person deserves that kind of hurt.
131555
I think it's a great idea!  My husband and I were married for 8 years, divorced for 7.  We had 3 kids. During our divorce, he remarried, had another child.  When their marraige failed (we all knew it would), he came back to me.  We remarried.  We are now expecting our last child.  \n\nInitially, we got married very young.  We were both selfish and immature!  The time apart during our divorce enabled the both of us to mature!  We have come back into this relationship with a more mature attitude ... knowing what we both want from this relationship!  Our kids are much happier, and so are we!\n\nI say don't be afraid of it.  The best part is that you already know him ... you know his good points and bad points, and hopefully you are both more capable of dealing with the adversities in marriage than you were before.\n\nToo many people want to look at the downside of divorce and say not to give it another chance .... I say divorce was the best thing to ever happen to my marriage.
936003
I would pack up my children and myself, and leave him!  No questions asked!!\n\nActually, since he would be going straight to jail, I would file for divorce and change the locks on MY house.
258998
Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
1060383
Divorce him AND your family.
1050690
Just pretend that there is NO such thing as divorce.  Close your eyes and think about that very hard.  Would you actually marry him if there were no such thing as divorce???  The reason I say that is because marriage is taken too lightly these days and it needs to be taken seriously.  When you get married you are making a covenant between you, your spouse, and God!!!!  Breaking that covenant means, you WILL answer for it!!
54320
No, either of them. (One was my idea, one was hers.) I regret what I did that caused one of them, and always will feel guilt about causing someone pain. The actual divorce, however, in both cases, was a relief of stress. Some bridges just have to be burned. I have since matured and been remarried happily for a long time.
353258
I would be mad and demand that she stop seeing him or I would file for divorce. That is one that would be a deal breaker for me. I would not put up with it............
680869
First and foremost, did you talk to her about this? If you have done this and many other things to save the marriage but nothing has changed, show up with divorce papers and tell her you want a divorce. But I suggest you talk things over first.
462749
First of all, I would ask if you have kept your committment to the terms of the divorce. If there are some specifics, then you could probably answer your own question.\nSecondly, just let her know you've moved on and if there are kids involved, plz consider them.
414428
haha~... yes, its possible and its happening for quite sometime already... but its HIGHLY not recommended... as you might probably be doing "ONLINE" divorce soon you found out its not the right choice~... haha~...
94612
I didn't want to divorce at all.  She had other plans and they did not include any real (or fake) efforts at addressing the problems we had in our marriage.\n\nInstead, she just created new problems by opening a second household, adding more expenses and keeping my daughter away from me.\n\nPersonally, I feel divorce should be considered ONLY after you've exhaused every profession means to work on the marriage and can perform your role as husband or wife perfectly, but your partner will not give up her affair, or his addiction or refuses to be treated for anger, control, whatever.\n\nOnly after the person repeatedly refuses to get help for themselves and you've done everything possible to address your issues (since none of us are perfect) should you resort to divorce.\n\nI can tell you divorce solved very little in our case and only added to our issues, since we had a child involved.\n\nIf the choice were mine to make, we would not be divorced, but would have "gone to school" to learn how to make our marriage work.\n\nUnfortunately, the choice was not mine to make.\n\nHTH