did i wait too long....i thought girls want time before moving on from ex?
928535
just ask the girl out already. time... whatever. it depends upon the person & you just never know how long they will need. so, ask her out now rather than never or waiting forever. hey, maybe something else is bothering her, so take that into consideration. yes, she may also be responding to your behavior as well.
155882
I agree with everyone.  A question like that is that you are always waiting for that moment.  Try not thinking about it and focus on something else and maybe, just maybe your time will come.  No girl is going to sleep with you if you think out loud like that.
162837
Ok!!! I think I get it. You broke up with your ex ok, you started to see this other guy but something is not right. Ok! Its not totally your fault but kinda is in away. but if you look at it this way.  He fell for you right after you broke up with your ex. When your still need to recover and think about what had happen between you and your ex. Figure things out!! RIGHT!  You really didn't need to be with him or any one. You really needed was a friend to talk to BUT (this is were its his fault)  he took that oppunity to get with you and now his all booty hurt becuase you pulled away.  He knew he was on the rebound.  If he cared enough for you he would of just left it as friends until you are ready for a relationship. So he can get the full true feeling of been in love with you.  Honestly his hurting himself because you did what was right about not let him go on knowning that there is a change for you two. But you should of been honest with him for the start.  You need to sit and talk to him and if he don't gave you that then its his lost cause.  Really if he really care for you, he would be htere as a true friend and wait a while to the time was right.  Then maybe there can be a change and things will feel right and nothing missing.  Your mind and heart is with someone else not with him.  If he can't expect that then its not your lost.  You just need to look at it if its one less person to know.  Your not a bad person for breaking it off with him. You told him what was up.  sometimes its better that way.. He'll end up talking to you matter what.  Jsut give him the space and time to cool off and then really see him for him not what was.  Maybe he was just doing it for something else who knows. Best of luck to you.
543119
No, I don't long for her, but I sometimes think it was just a shame that it had to end. Now, I have someone I love who loves me back and I wish my ex happiness. I think it's good to move on and not dwell in the past and long for what is gone. So, I really didn't suffer a "lost opportunity at love" - I HAVE it now!
103685
well first of all find your weekness. and work on that and become strong.., good things come to those who wait. I was in a 2 yr relashionship.. and i healed. time does heal all things. Life does get better. tell you the truth.. you'll go with other relashionships.. you just wont last long.. because when that happens.., you start to not want long relashionships since.. the last one failed. Just find things that occupy your time.. and Think about someone that would actually be with you., and Not walk away.. without any feelings at all. you two just werent meant to be.. think of it that way.. that way got me.. keep searching for that one.. even if you dont right away.. I promice you all the same. youll find her. alot of times. if you dont look, she will find you. and i sense that she dumped you.., if she had any heart at all.. She wouldnt have done that. think about that Too. one day you will get over it. i did.
748
It sounds like she's not interested in working things out.  Or you haven't been listening to her needs and haven't changed your behavior and she might feel you'd be better off finding someone who likes what you like and allowing her to move on and be happy too.\n\nIt can be too late or it might not.  Only you can know for sure.
330803
im in the same situation.. because of my past.. im afraid to get too attatched just to get hurt AGAIN... but honestly.. .if you like this girl alot.. and you're willing to wait to see where it may go, go for it! BUT LIKE SHE SAID.. if what you truly want is to walk away.. do what you gotta do... everyone goes through hard times.. but in the end.. she is probably more concerned with you being happy than anything else!
1163901
There is a time after a breakup where the pain of parting is greater than the need for someone new. The more you cared for them, the longer it takes. The trick is knowing when to move on.
99384
Yes, you should take some time, even if you don't think you need it, to reevaluate yourself, your feelings about the world and relationships.  If anything, just to make sure you will be okay, and not have a bad after effect later than expected.  You know, to make sure you still know you.  Relationships change people, even if they don't see it, so it is best to just relax, take a break, and make sure you are totally comfortable to go back into dating before you try again.  If you are not sure, just wait, it is likely you are feeling some subconcious doubt, and that will hurt your chances of a good experience.  You will want to give a new partner what they deserve, and you have to be confident and sure to really give it your all.
600324
She probably is not ready to let you go and knows that after you see her for the last time you will be gone and she does not want that. My suggestion is to just move on because she does not know what she wants right now and until she figures it out then she needs to be by herself but you can wait for her forever. If you guys are met to be together you will.
354099
You really don't have much choice. He broke up with you, so now it is time to move on with your life. Don't see this as a negative thing, instead see it as the chance to develop new relationships. You sound young, so this probably wasn't the right one for you anyway. Love and respect yourself and know that you deserve better. Don't rush into a new relationship right away, because we usually make the wrong choice on the rebound. Enjoy being free and wait for that special guy to come along. He will be worth waiting for! Good Luck! =-)\n\nS.S.
1116536
if you really think that in her heart she really wants you back, maybe going on a few dates may send a different message to her - that you really don't care about her as much as you said. She seems as if she is taking her time to think about what happened with your relationship and if its a good idea to reconcile. The important thing is that you've been sincere and you let her know how much you love her and would like a second chance, give her as much time as you think to make her decesion, but waiting too long will prevent you from moving on with your life
497143
Just give it time. I had a situation like that happen to me. I dated a girl for 2 years and 3 days after we broke up, her best friend kinda threw herself at me. No one wants that right after a breakup. I would have dated her where she to give me some time, at least a few weeks before jumping into a relationship again. Just give him some space and be there for him, if there are feelings there it will happen. If his feelings are not the same you will have to settle for being friends. Hope this helps.
306054
Forget about her!!! I've had the same situation with this guy, until I finally said to myself, Hey! What am I doing here? He doesn't deserve me and I'm not going to wait forever! I shoudn't be running after him he should be running after me! And if he's gonna want me back, it's too late for that! And guess what? He wantd me back. And I didn't. That's what you should do. Have some dignity MAN!
176918
Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
1031043
You need time. A relationship is like a tree. When it dies you have to figure out what went wrong. Then you have to fill in the hole where the tree was, before you can plant another tree. In short, take some time to contemplate your old relationship. Where did it go right? Where did it go wrong? Only after you are whole again should you start  dating. Otherwise that girl you want to date is just a transitional relationship and that isn't fair to her.
43421
It's hard to just "move on", and anyone who tells you that is being inconsiderate, and not putting themselves in your shoes. You need TIME to mend a broken heart. You need space. You need to think things over, and if you realize that he is not worth your time, and you deserve better, than stick to that belief. You have to believe that you are Strong, and you will move on. Just Keep that In your head, and know that someone out there is better for you, waiting for you.Also, a few dates wouldn't be bad either! Go out dancing, movies, with other guys! See what else Is out there!