should i move in with him or get my own place?
924854
That depends on what you are looking for and what he "expects"from this.\n\nAre you romantically involved or do you both want someone to "share expenses" with?  \n\nIf you are "involved", even though you may have know him for a long time, I think it's too "soon" to move in.\n\nIf you want a roommate, how will both of you feel if the other person brings home a "date"?  \n\nOnly you can decide this and you have to seriously think about what both of you want from this relationship.  I'd say you are probably better off getting your own place.\n\nGood luck with whatever decision you make.
251502
If you live with him it is the courteous thing to do as far paying the bills are concerned. About the kids, you should sit down and talk to him about that and see where that gets you.
178639
Lots of factors - like how old you are, what is the status of your relationship, what is the stage of your relationship right now, how serious both of you are with each other, etc.  If you're still young, it may not be advisable to move in with him there.  Are you already engaged and marriage is in your plans?  Can you both work out a win-win plan?  I think a move that will affect both of you must be decided by both of you, and not just him.  He should have asked your thoughts on the matter, considering that he expect you to be there.  Weigh all these considerations and decide the best.
996082
Don't move out there unless you already are serious, sure that you love him, sure that there are no hidden problems that you can't deal with, and sure that you will either marry him or be able and happy to build a new life there if marriage plans fall through.\nIt sounds like he is not the one for you.  If that's so, don't try to fit him into that position.  Wait for the man you feel good about.
699692
Talk to him honestly, find out if he intends to keep living with her.  If he does, then you should move on.
690077
Only you can gauge if you are moving too fast.  If you love eachother and are going to get married it might be good to be close to one another.  I don't know that I would recommend moving into a house with another couple/child as it might make things difficult/complicate things.  \nAs far as the finances go with you and/or him still being in school that is understandable and doesn't mean that he won't be a good husband and support you.
823286
REAL BEHAVIORS SHOW UP AFTER BIG PROBLEMS COMES UP!\nIF YOU THINK YOU WANT TO LIVE WITH HIM THROUGH THICK AND THIN THEN GO!!!!!
409929
start out as you mean to go on. Most guys end up letting you do all the cleaning, cooking etc. If that is fine with you then ok. If not then do not let them get away with it. It is no use letting him do what he wants now and then complain about it a few years down the line. Talk about who will do what around the house, who pays for what etc. \nThe last thing you will be thinking of right now is breaking up. But if it should ever happen who get's what? Talk it all through now and write down what was agreed upon. Believe me it will spare you alot of heart ache in the future. Keep lists of who paid for what.\nOh and make sure both your names are on the lease.  \nHope everything goes well for you both.
252948
Be honest with him ... "putting out" has nothing to do with "moving in" ... they are entirely different aspects.  Take it slow from here on out.
245095
It depends on a lot of things and you didn't give any details. If you want to move to another state then go ahead and move. If you are only moving for your boyfriend then you have somethings to consider: Are you moving because this is the guy you want to marry or is this just a guy your not looking for that from? Will you have a job, be able to support yourself and get your own place? Does he want you to move with him? Do you have strong family and friends ties that you will be leaving? Are there children involved? Good luck with your decision.
265704
Maybe you dont love him enough to move in with him. You dont have to tell him that you dont love him as much as you want too right now. But geez youve only seen him for 7 months. Explore your options, live your life and date him. But for god sake you do not have to move in with each other. Unless of course he is your night and shining armor and you want him to be around you 24/7!
219336
I would bring it up with him. You are already living together which is a huge part of marriage and so what's the holdup?
622504
well, I'm hoping that your relationship does work out. I'm in the same situation, but my bf is a year older that yours. We are talking about moving in together after I graduate next year, and the talking has already started. I believe that if both of you are willing to work on it, then there is no reason that your relationship will fail. Good luck.
376414
Money does not buy happiness. If the man is good to you and you love him nothing else matters. You said it yourself he is perfect, what more could you ask for. I would stay in a one room apartment if that's all we could afford and the man is perfect. You can also work to help financially. No one knows what will come next, even a rich man can go bankrupt then what do you have if you were only in it for the money?
1166898
Girl, both of you need to get a place of your own. Don't you know that as long as you live with her you are never gonna be your "own woman" in her place. She is always gonna blame you and take his side. She needs to stay the heck outta your business.
822719
There is so much good advice already , but ...   I would like to add a little to it anyway, namely ,  PLEASE  see to it immediately that you have a job, an income of your own of some sort . Take your name off that account of his and get one in your own name . You do not need anybody else's  approval when you feel you want to spend some money . Earn it yourself and enjoy it yourself. Pay your debts and don't be a moocher living in a person's apartment etc., and they have total control over your destiny . He can do an about turn and kick you out any time if your name is not on the renter contract . All you need is a good fight or argument and you are history . I hope for your sake you put some money aside . Sure is hell to be hungry and have no place to keep warm . Look out for yourself and good luck to you .
974571
I think the kicker is that you are also moving in with 2 guys. So..really..you can't play the "I'm hurt and worried" card with him over this. It makes no sense to even try.  \n\nWhy can't the 2 of you just move in together someplace?