Anyone here dated a particular person for a loooooong time without being an official couple?
920941
Yes and the only time you should do this is if you are just friends.
967462
Isn't that the reason to date someone?
572999
Yes!! I have a perfect example for you in this.\n\nI'm...let's say...scholastic. I have a bachelor's degree and I am heading to Law School next. My "type" has always, from the first time I dated, been a book-smart guy. In fact, I was so picky that I would not touch a "blue collar worker" with a 10 foot pole (as far as dating goes - not in general). I was just into dating someone with whom I could sit down and discuss books and theories, ect. (yes, I am a dork) and one of my requirements is that he had to be either working on a degree or already holding a degree.\n\nThen I met my current boyfriend. I didn't give him a chance at first - no degree, ect. ect. blah blah I'm an idiot. He's a firefighter for a living and that just wasn't my thing. However, the more I talked to him, the more I fell madly in love with him. He's perfect and treats me 10 times better than any book-smart guy I have ever known. I wouldn't trade him in for anything or anyone in the world. \n\nIf nothing else, he has opened my eyes to see that "types" are ridiculous. My new "type" thanks to him? The type that treats me well and makes me happy. Thank God for him for that!
15371
Its weird, but I sorta have this switch in my head that one day I look at the guy I'm with and all of a sudden, he's the most obnoxious, ugly guy I have ever seen in my life!  I think... "how did I do this?!?!"  I don't know what does it, but it happens all at once for me.  I have dated a few people where I fell out of love just as quickly as I fell in love, and I don't know why either happened!  Fortunately, I am in love now, and have no plans to fall out of love unless he does something to make it that way!!  ;)
1030983
yes i do and no, he's not, although he may be dating someone...im not sure about that.
182811
Absolutely! If there's a spark, what's the harm in dating. I mean, it's nice to know the person isn't a psycho, but assuming they didn't appear to be when you met them, going out after that would be fine. Attraction is key in the long run so if it starts out that way, it at least has potential.
809822
Many Many years ago I did just that. I was unsure about my relationship at the time and just wanted to get away from my life and responsibilities and got with someone whom I had no history with. It was an escape which is all it was designed to be. I returned to my life and have been married 21 years and never looked back and can't imagine being with anyone else ever again.
711641
That's my story and I'm sticking to it.  Met my fiance on line almost 3 years ago.  Neither of us were looking for any type of relationship but we soon discovered that we had much in common and that we were very compatible.  If we had met say 20 years ago things obviously would have been different but the time was right and I am grateful each and every day for finding this woman to share my life with.  Trust your gut instincts and they will not lead you astray.
217382
Most of the ones I know are.  I've dated two (married one) and they were both true romantics.
426978
Yup!  Dated for 18 months and got married this January!  We chatted online for two months before we met in person and it was happily ever after since then!
604282
if you are happy, then it doesnt matter how you met. \nHeck, I met my husband while I was dating one of his friends. We just clicked. Things happen for a reason. Good luck.
952637
Geez, I'm in a rut right now with one.  I want to believe something will really happen, but the longer it goes, and his stories change, I"m starting to feel he's making me play games now.  \n\nI have however made 2 very good friends from the online dateing!  It's like we have been friends forever. The problem was, we weren't compatable with all the lovey, romance, sex stuff.\nBut I'll love their friendship and hold them dear in my heart forever!
206133
I WAS DATING SOMEONE YEARS AGO. HE WAS PRETTY INTO ME. AND I COULD NOT PUT MY FINGER ON IT. I EXPLAINED THAT THERE WAS NO SPARK AND NEVER SAW HIM AGAIN. A RELATIONSHIP WITH NO SPARK IS NOT WORTH IT IN THE LONG RUN. I BELIEVE THAT THE SPARK IS EITHER THERE OR IT IS NOT. I HAVE NEVER BEEN ABLE TO CREATE A SPARK FROM WHERE THERE WAS NOT ONE TO BEGIN WITH. MUTUAL AFFECTION, AS I AM TOLD, CAN SUSTAIN MOST PEOPLE LONG TERM. I PREFER THE SPARK THOUGH:)
18192
I did once just for fun. I do know one guy who met his wife that way! That may sound crazy... but people had the same impression about online dating when it first started but it works.\nIt is a fun way of meeting new people...take some friends with you. Even if you don't meet anyone amazing I am sure there will still be entertaining characters around that will amuse you :)\n\nIf you want any tips etc this here is a good article about speed dating: http://www.newagey.com/dating-love/speed-dating-tips/\n\nGood luck :)
120881
yes alott of people have actually. my step mother met my father on a dating website and they have been together for over seven years now.
698114
I don't know how much this will help you but my girlfriend and I met and started dating almost instantly...thinking back it all happened so quick but it was so natural that we never had any problems.  She lived about 30 minutes away from me and I was in college and worked so it was hard but honestly, I would come home from work and could expect to walk in the door and see her every day (she had a key).  Two months after we met we moved in together and have been living together ever since.  We talk and spend time together every day.  I can honestly say that we have not spent more than 10 days apart from each other since we met 8 months ago and it has been amazing!
698665
I have many a times!\nEither the relationship gets boring as hell, or the pace of it is moving too damn slow!