How can I learn to open up and ask for help?
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Saying that openly on here is a start.  Find a counselor (many are free) in a gender you'd feel safest with, and try starting with small steps.  Tell them you don't feel comfortable opening up.  They know how to help you.
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You don't  HAVE to tell them anything.  They will encourage you to share your problems and offer possible interventions.\n\nThey will ask your name, just so they have something to call you. Just a first name -- you can make one up. \n\nHot lines are manned by different people.  I work in a hospital ER and often answer these calls.  Hopefully you will get someone with mental health training, but some hot lines are manned by trained volunteers.\n\nYou can ask anything, or say anything -- you are in control; you are the one who can simply hang up.\n\nWe're there to help you, not to get you in trouble with your mother.  We want you to live and will try to help you find a reason to.\n\nI do have to tell you, if you call and say you just took 100 Tylenol, we will trace your call and send an ambulance.\nLike I said we want you to live.
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Wow, if life came down to a numbered list wouldn't it be easy?\n\nIt depends on the situation.  If the person wants to talk, then you should be there to listen, because sometimes knowing someone is actually listening (not hearing, and there is a big difference) is the best way to help.\n\nIf they want advice, then you should give it, or refer them to someone who can.\n\nIf they want to forget what is happening for a little while, distract them.\n\nIf they need your empathy, you to be sad with/for them, then discover why, and show geniune emotion.\n\nNot caring is the worst thing, because if they have confided in you how unhappy they are, then they are ultimately asking for help.\n\nRemember happiness is NOT a state of mind, it is moments to be enjoyed, just the same as other emotions, and the unhappy moments are there to remind us not to take the happy ones for granted.
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Anything is possible. Don't sell yourself short by thinking pessimisticly. Your mentality will evolve as you learn  and develop in life.. Sometimes , some people do need help in this department. If this is the case , don't think less of yourself...just ask and seek for help...Do everything possible to get the help you need. It takes great courage and dedication. Don't worry about what others think. That doesn't matter and shouldn't matter. The important thing here is getting the help you need to be the BEST YOU can BE. I wish you the best!
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What I've taught everyone in my family....and it works.\n\nOver the years, I've learned whether dealing in person or on the phone [I always carry a pen and small notebook]\nI always ask...\n"Hi, who am I speaking to?" {get first & last name]\n"What is your identifier number?" [if they can't give a last name....they always have a number.]\n\nIn person, I do the same thing....waiters, waitresses, nurses in emergency rooms...etc.\n\nNow I have it!!!  Their Name.  Before anything else happens.\nI have their name.....they know if they are rude, inconsiderate or hang up on me......I have their 'name'.\n\nIf....any of the above occurs.  I call back and immediately as for a supervisor [you'll get..."Oh, maybe I can help you." and you say "No.  Get me the Supervisor."\n\nThe same holds true for any 'in-person' contacts.  Any ingnorance...ask for a supervisor or manager.\n\nMind you....\n  \nI also use their "name" to call back a supervisor to tell them what "excellent" service I've had also.
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Type those exact phrases into a P2P site & see what results you get & download them or try P2P & search for self help or management\nGood luck
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You will need to ask a question.  How do you expect someone to help you?
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Get help or come up with better questions....
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just be open to him on this issue abt what you are missing,that u need some kind of help and you need friends also.\nall the best
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go to help that is how i learned
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talk to them personally, open up. It would sound awkward especially if you don't talk too much, but it really helps. trust me... \n\nCommunication is vital
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You should stop and think, that's what you should do for openers.\n\nNow, what is it that is so bad about your life?  It can't be literally everything, so what's the worst thing?  OK, now you have a focus for change.  What sort of help do you need to change that one thing?  Who would be the sort of person who can help you, or where would you find the information you need?\n\nMany problems get summed up in a few: money, for example.  If I only had more money, dozens of my current problems would be alleviated. OK, so I go on a rational quest for ways to improve my financial situation.\n\nLoneliness, for another example: many of my current problems would improve if I had someone to talk them over with, someone who cared.  OK, then take the time to figure what sort of person that would be, where you might meet such a person, or who you might get in touch with that you used to know, but lost track of somehow?\n\nYou see, bringing your mind to bear on the problem is the most important thing you can do.  If there are professionals you need to consult, there's a yellow pages on the back of your phone book.  If there are books you need to read, or web sites you need to study, etc.  Put your MIND to it, and stop making it all emotionally overwhelming.  Remember that you can control your responses to events with your mind.  You can decide to be calm, rational and in control of your behavior.\n\nGood luck and God bless!
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A friend maybe just what she needs,if you feel you want to be nice and help ,by all means talk to her.\ndont be afraid of that ,just be normal and yourself,say you want to understand and be of help.\nthe best advice always is to point out the pleasures of being alive and the oppertunities still awaiting.\n bad feelings are not permanent ,
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u need to find some help b4 u get in a big problem
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Unfortunately as we all know we can not make anyone do something that they do not want to. I would speak to a psychologist in person and ask them what they think the best way is going about to encourage the person to seek help. This is their job and I am sure they have had numerous people approach them in their field asking them the same question.
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You may be able to find a volunteer through local charities or voluntary advocacy services. failing that you could try to learn basic phrases in the persons mother tongue, or you can just carry on doing what you are doing and communicating on a human level, I'm sure they sense that you care and that's what really matters.
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Maybe ask a question. then we can help