my best friend is a lesbian, but I dont know if I believe in gay marriage?
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So just tell her that you don't know how you feel about it.  You're not against homosexuality, but you're not sure what kind of effects it would have on society.  If the problem of your uncertainty comes from vague societal problems, then she can't really get mad at you.  She might try to convince you that gay marriage should be legalized, but I don't think there's any harm in that either.  I'd just tell her you sit on the fence.  You support gays, but you're scared of backlash.  The result is confusion.
15481
If your best friend tells you he is gay, you can still be best friends. However, you should tell him if you are not interested in that kind of relationship with him and if he can't seem to accept this then two things will most likely happen. Either you will work through this or the friendship may end. P.S. Try not to be judgemental of his situation, that's just my personal opinion.
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I understand where you are coming from. I had a lesbian experience with a woman that I am still friends with today, although I am married to a man. My dad is a Reverend and my mom the Reverends wife (even worse). \n\n There is no easy way to tell your parents you are gay, you simply have to sit them down and be frank with them. You have to tell yourself, they are probably going to be very angry at first, then tell yourself "these are my parents" - they will love you regardless.\n\nI can't tell you that it will come out all honky dorey... it took my parents over a year to accept it, but the finally did. If you love this woman like you say you do, then you will be honest with your parents about your relationship. If the woman loves you the same, she will be supportive and go with you if you need her to. \n\nDon't worry! It's going to be ok, no matter how bad it seems like it is. Remember the 3 C's - Calm Cool and Collective...this should be your demeanor.... parents sense fear.... and if they sense it in you, they will play on it. If there is no fear.... what else can be said or done. Absolutely nothing! \n\nGood Luck!
526572
See where it goes. From the outside looking in, without details, I would say you are blessed. Every woman should be so lucky to fall in love with her best friend and vise versa. Knowing that you have found someone who can truly appreciate all that you can bring into his life is a wonderful feeling. \nAnd the same with you, knowing what his faults and strentghs are, put you both ahead in the game of love.\n\nEnjoy it, in my opinion, you are both blessed.
395731
Who knows why our country's doing anything it's doing. I agree with you completely. I'm sorry that you and your partner, as well as all other homosexuals, cannot show your love by marrying one another. Love is love. I don't think it matters if you're a man loving a man, a woman loving a woman, or a man loving a woman. If your heart is true you should be able to get married. Bottom line. I hope that you and your partner will one day have the same rights as the rest of us. And that this prejudice will end; to any degree it can.
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It depends on what your beliefs are. You're girlfriend may be alright with it, but it sounds like you're having a problem being with her. If you're not sure of what to do, then don't get involved with her until you are absolutely sure that there is nothing wrong with being homosexual. If you believe that it's wrong then it's wrong to you. Everyone is not going to have the same beliefs, so you can only go on what your gut feelings are concerning this homosexual relationship.
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You should read my answer to your question about what happens when your best friend gets married? Like I said, it depends on if your friend is the same gender as you. My guess, and this is a guess, that you are a guy who had a best friend who is a girl and she got married. If I am correct than you need to read my answer. Again, the only relationship that outways a best friend is the romantic love relationship. If she married someone you must let her go. She must not have thought of you as her best friend, or if you were best friends, she is too blind to make the best choice and she settled for less than you. If she thinks that you will still be best friends she is mistaken. Don't let her blame you. It's not a choice, it's human nature. Go online and research friendship, love and value exchange. Human nature dictates what I am telling you. I don't even know if what I am telling you applies to your situation as you only referred to friendship. It is important to distinguish the gender of the friend you speak of and the extent of your friendship and if the friendship was a mutually fair exchange of objective values.
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Wow.  I think you should open the discussion in reference to homosexuality with your friend first to gauge a reaction.  If you feel like the reaction is positive, go from there.  Unfortunately, you need to discuss this a.s.a.p. with your girlfriend, she may already know, but just refuses to accept what's right in front of her.  She's your biggest issue first.
59299
these things have a way of working out. trust me. Its possible to still be best friends with everyone and still be attracted to one of them. Your other friend is just going to have to accept that PEOPLE fall in love with each other especially if they r close. That means if she is your really your friend u r going to have to tell her what's happening she deserves it. maybe you're going to have to make some "rules" for all this to happen. just remember theres nothing wrong with love
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I agree with Bad Yellow.. I love my best friend to death!! But I don't kiss her or hold her hand.. Even if people didn't care, we still wouldn't do those things. It's okay if you love her in a lezbian way though. Even though I'm not one, I think it's okay to love someone no  matter what sex. But if u wanna go further with ur best friend than just friendship, that's ur choice. But people are gonna think what looks real to them, and kissing her in public and holding her hand looks like ur more than friends. See what I'm trying to say? Good luck.
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hey if she is gay then tell her but i mean if you are gay and someone was TRYING to make you like guys , do you think that is rights , do not force people to what you want , come on , all that you will get is to make someone give into hate , and become a homophobic because you try to force her , Do you think that is what the world needs ,\nRESPECT WHAT SHE TOLD YOU , DO NOT make assumptions just because you want them to be real ,all that you will gain is someone hating you , is that what you want  COME ON GAY PEOPLE ARE BETTER THAN THAT \nTHINK WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IF IT WAS POSSIBLE TO CHANGE SOMEONE WHY ARE YOU WITH A GUY  THEN
536209
Yikes, dude.  You were really trying for shock factor on that one.  Maybe you should have phrased that "How does a girl propose to a boy if he is her best friend" so people wouldn't think you were gay.  Man, seriously!  Anyway, just ask.  Of course, hopefully she is dating this guy, so maybe he'll have some interest in her.  If they are just friends & she wants to get married, she'll most likely be shot down.  But, I'm assuming she is dating him, so I'll say just ask.  The worst he can say is no.  Tell her respect his decision, & not to make too much of it, as he may just not be ready yet, if he does say no.  If he says yes, tell her congratulations.
1098380
listen, sometimes the best friend is the one who is your complete opposite. they might know exactly what you feel like even though they haven't had your experiences. just keep your eyes open everywhere, and don't ignore them because they're not christian, or because they weren't gay once.
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I think that you should take it slow.  Hint around about marriage like ask her if she ever wants to get married and ever wants to have kids.  Beat around the bush and ask her how she feels about you, when she asks you how you feel tell her.  You will know when the right time is to "pop the question."  If you two are such good friends then it should build more of a foundation for the future for you two if there is any possibility that there will be one.
971556
You say she is Not a lesbian or bisexual.  You and her are both lying to yourselves.  She is just that.\nIf she is this upset about it, then she should go to a therapist to discuss her feelings and set a plan to come to grips with her sexuality.
945546
This happened to me 17 years ago. I was in high school and there was this beautiful woman named Jennifer. Her mother was a teacher at our school and she was prom queen.. We use to stare at each other for days. One day she gave me a picture and wrote on the back. " I'm glad I finally found someone like me". She never told me what it meant :( . I think she wanted to tell me she was a lesbian but couldn't because of society. I was openly Lesbian in High School.. Now days have changed and maybe she will tell you. Try to mustard up the guts to ask her to do something with you. Then maybe you can get closer and be in the situation to ask her how she feels about lesbians...
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you said you have a great marriege that you guys are happy together...if your happy just tell him your fantasy...it doens't mean that your a lesbian since you love your husband...lesbians don't fall in love with guys, they fall in love with girls, so you shouldn't worry about this b/c even i think womens bodys are wonderfall, i think all women do...and if a women is hot, hell i get attracted as well, but i know for sure that i could never be with a women or love a women like i love my boyfriend....if you feel the same as i do then you are doing okay if not, if you really feel like you love a women, and wanna be with her...then you should tell your husband as well b/c he needs to know the truth...and both of you will be even more happy b/c you are not living a lie.\n\nGOOD LUCK.