secretly   second time in a relationship as Friends with privileges, referring to sex. But last night she....?
925139
I dont understand ANY of this.\n\nWhat I do undrstand is the relationship stuff.  Get out of it.  Get away from it. It sounds like this is one of those houses where the police frequently visit.\n\nPeace
765277
the only thing one can say at this point is that she was enjoying his company. she felt at ease and had a good time - remember, this is common behavior at a party. you both went seperate ways on the party, so what's the deal that she was talking to a stranger?\n\nyou confronted her once and she said it's forgotten - so should you.\nwhat do you expect her to do?\n\ndon't bring up that issue again. it will do you no good.
184690
From everything you said it sounds like you resisted her fairly well. What I don't understand is why you wanted to hang out with her in the first place. Did you want something to happen between the two of you? And if she is a so-called friend she wouldn't have been making the moves on you knowing you have a girlfriend. I would not tell your girlfriend about any of this, unless you are intending on breaking up with her. If in the future someone mentions it to her and she asks you, then you need to be honest with her about everything.
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Anyone who really appreciated you and was looking for a long term serious possibility with you might consider telling his friends things like: how much fun you were, where he took you to dinner and/or movie, things that made him enjoy your company more than expected etc.  If he gave his buddies details of your intimacy the first night, he will probably trade you off soon, or his buddies will think you are fair game for them also since they already know what you might do for them also...RUN RUN RUN
1150327
she may have interest in another man, what did she say or do if anything, and if you know any of her friends, ask them if they noticed somthing different about her lately tell them you are concerned because she has been acting shady or something of the like and they might possibly be able to lead you to your answer. She might just be getting scared of committment, in that case let her know that you will slow it down if she would feel more comfortable with that. Or if the circumstances under which she told you she really liked you were induced by pleasurable activity(drinking, spending considerable amounts of time with you, sex ect...), she might have felt that way at the time and then after the activityt ended realized that mabey she didnt like you as much as she thought, mabey she was just being nice, or mabey she was being a bitch to get what she wanted. Mabey you possibly did something that turned her off. Hmmmm... we females are darn complicated, those are just some of the possiblities that come to mind, but the best way to find out is to ask her, and be polite about it and ask for the truth. Good Luck to you. Hope i helped.
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truthfully, don't play games.  first of all if you like her, be leary if she is still kind of hung on her Ex, you don't want to be the rebound guy.  Secondly, when she introduces you as a friend, there isn't anything wrong with that, because technically you guys are friends even though you "hooked up" twice in a week that doesn't mean you are in a relationship. So, sit her down and look her in her eyes and ask her what it is that she wants.  If she wants to be friends, be exclusive or friends with benefits? Because confusion is not cool.....and whatever you do, do not be upset if she does not give you the answer that you want or expected. :)
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Its really her business who she had sex with, and you dont care anyway, so dont discuss it with her if she is uncomfortable with it.  Go after both at the same time, and see which one acts better and makes you feel good-dont try to go after one and try to keep the other one on a leash.
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No, you're just like the rest of us poor fools that have been wrapped up romantically with women.  I'm not saying all women are like this, but I have had my share of frustrations with a couple.\n\nWhat it means is that you're either dealing with someone really confused or someone very manipulative.  As to how to tell the difference, time is the only answer.  If this is the first time it's happened, give her the benefit of the doubt.  I don't know what promises you refer to, but if they were sexual and you've only been seeing each other a while, then you should take a chill pill.  No matter what age you two are, that is always a BIG step.\n\nHowever, if this pattern has repeated itself over a period of time, regardless of the reason, you should consider the possibility that you're being used.  It's a technique that some women employ to keep you hanging on.  If you think it's the case, try and call her bluff.  Take some time away and see what happens.  You may be surprised at the results.
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doesnt sound good, unless her and her ex have been good friends before and are just trying to be friends again. (actually thats not too right either) and they shouldnt be talking about sex. thats wrong. and her ex had clearly shown intention to get back together... the right thing for her to do is back off. then again, she's a gal. gals love to be loved. (by lots of other men - it just makes them feel special, wanted, hot, etc) BUT ANYWAY... if they're making it a habit, u need to tell her you're uncomfortable. otherwise, end it. cuz if she doesnt care about your feelings, she's probably not THAT into u anyway.
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It's okay as long as you don't bring up feelings and emotions. This is when I freaked out when she started saying she loved me and asking me how did I feel. When you're friends with benefits you don't expect anything, you don't want to hear none of that moo-shy woo-shy stuff!
38297
Is she acting different than when you first met her? Is she being secretive about certain things? Mostly it sounds as if there are some trust issues involved.
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not at all as long as its an agreement between both of you that its just casual sex. nothing wrong with familiar territory!! just dont be leading her on and saying you want to get back together or anything if you dont.
859934
if she's flirting to the point of making you uncomfortable then you have to say something.  if she's really your friend she'll respect that and keep it friendly.  another issue is do you trust your man?  if so then don't even trip because you know exactly who he's going home with at the end of the night.  it's all about trust but you shouldn't tolerate disrespect especially from your friends.
713575
If it's a one time thing..."Not tonight boo.  I'm not in the mood, but I will make it up to you."  If it's something you're not feeling anymore at all, the two of you would need to have a long talk together or you would have to try to take the sex out of that relationship.
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I've done this, did it a couple of times, actually... Never worked.\n\nI did have one friend who kept doing it to one of her ex's. However, she would constantly sleep with him again, and then assume the relationship was back on. Don't get me wrong, he's a good guy, but he's not going to turn down sex, especially since he didn't know what was going on through her head. If he did, he never would have slept with her. \n\nNow, if you're not in communication with the ex, and you try this, keep in mind that you may not like what you see. That happened to me, and I'm not proud to say that I crawled into a bottle immediately afterwards. \n\nBut hey, it can be interesting, so why not try it! Just bring along a friend to share in your joy or pain. And let them drive.
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Thank you for your maturity on this subject.\nYour wants are describing the "FRIENDS" part of FTF.. There is nothing wrong with actually being friends.\n- a little communication never hurt anyone; be honest and just tell him.\nYou simply want to move from your concept of one night stand to friendship with benefits.. He's probably already in tune with that.\n- good luck
926109
She is on the rebound and probably doesnt want anything serious. She is probably trying to tell you indirectly to have sex, b/c once a woman has sex, they needed more but off course she is not going to come str8 out and tell u that. Just fuk her and have a good time. usually girs who are on the rebound are just looking for sex but with someone who they can trust