HELP i am SO frustrated!?
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Is there such a thing as breaking up with a friend? \nYes! Sometimes it's best to cut a friend loose if his antics are stressing you out more than cheering you up. \n\nEveryone goes through life experiencing relationships. But it is very rare that one of these relationships span an entire lifetime. People have fun together but also, people often break-up for many reasons. These reasons can range from simply growing apart to finding your partner cheating or simply being too different to be together. Break-ups and reasons for them are not meant to scare someone away from relationships. The simple fact is, one should enjoy relationships, but at the same time, identify warning signs so one can see when a break-up is necessary and when things go sour with your guy, you know a breakup is imminent. \n\nIt's hard to do. That's the biggest understatement of all time! Ending a relationship is among the most stressful things a person can undergo and is never easy. It sucks and even less fun than getting rejected is actually having to do the rejecting. Okay, maybe doing the rejecting is a little better. Anyway, if you're thinking about blowing a guy off, here are some ideas on how to give him the brush off that won't break his heart too badly -- or destroy his ego.\n\nYou're not interested. He calls and leaves a message. What should you do? \nDo not return that call. \n\nAnd what if you picked up the phone? What then? \nThen, "lie". Please lie. Tell him that you just got back together with your friends. This is our very first choice for rejection. Second best is you realized that you are going through a period where you do not want to date at all and just want to focus on yourself. Sure, these excuses might be transparent -- but men feel better to live a lie than face the truth of rejection.\n\nAnother possibility, though not quite as good due to possible ambiguity,  is the good old "distancing technique". You tell him you are really busy for the next couple of weeks and will call him when things get less crazy -- a bit confusing for most men, but definitely effective and not too painful.\n\nYou really gave it a chance, but it's not happening. What should you do? \nAgain, lie. Your friends are still your best bet. Do not tell him you met someone else recently. That smarts. Choosing someone you just met tells him he lost a contest. No one likes to lose. \n\nAnother option - "Honesty" within reason. If it's simply a matter of chemistry -- or lack thereof - tell him. Most guys can survive that after just a few dates. As much as it's going to hurt, tell him the truth. At this point, honest communication is the right thing to do.  Be gentle, but do not be too vague. Just give it to him straight and say that you're really sorry. \n\n1. Don't be too specific if it's for  reasons no human should ever hear: You smell, you are not good-looking enough, you are boring, you're an idiot -- please refrain from using these (unless you're breaking up with him because he sucked in bed, in which case you better lie.) \n\n2.  Don't try to be "friends" once it's over. That just drags out the inevitable; it gives him hope that you might change your mind. \n\n3. Don't have sex with him the night you break up with him or later when he crawls back begging for you to take him back. \n\n4. Insist on NO contact. Breaking off for good is always better for both and less stressful.\n\nObviously, this all can vary depending on your circumstances and your relationships. \n\nJust remember: Be Gentle, Lying can be good for the male ego and less hurting and Specificity, well, it can sometimes be too specific its better to be Ambiguous. \nGood Luck>r
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I had the same problem and it wasnt good. talk to him, let him know what your feelings are. if he still didnt listen then he doesnt care so i will say to leave him and find somebody else.
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Seek professional help...good luck!
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Stop being so desperate!!
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Almost all the other answers will just make this worse (sorry.) Maybe he's angry with you. And maybe you are angry with him. That's normal.\n\nI have a suggestion and try it before you say "Oh, that will NEVER work." I will put a link to a book below, and just read it and try it out. You have power to get what you want, and he will stop doing this, and it's so easy you will be amazed. But you have to trust me on this one.
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I agree with Heather, don't send your boy away. I am sure you think that you have tried everything, and if that is the case, try it again. Have an intervention, get others involved, be their friend, and try to find the root of the problem. You can do this!
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just try to remain calm and stay away from it as much as possible, if certain people are doing things that you find frustrating tell them about it, they may not know and it may do some good to get how you feel about it out in the open so that they can correct what is frustrating you so much...
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Talk to a friend....it helps a little!
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i write in my diary to vent out my frustration...listen to music and sometimes go shopping...it usually  helps...if not, a slice of cheesecake might do the trick.
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Sorry I can't help you with your dilemma - I am having the same problem.  I have had the same pile of paperwork in front of me since 9am this morning!  LOL
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You're a writer. The same thing relates to me. Don't try and do anything about it. It's who you are. If it really bothers you, try talking to some close friends. Practice makes perfect :D
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You should still talk to your counselor.  He/she has dealt with these same issues before, and may be helpful in suggesting things you can do to make it easier on yourself.  They are there to assist you!
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I ran across your question and although I can recognize your suffering, I can't for the life of me, understand your question? It really sounds like you are looking for a way to vent your frustrations. I hope you have been able to do just that.\n\nIf I were you I would drop this question and do as suggested above, find the proper forum and then tell us what you are asking from us.
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well did u do something to make him mad? u should DEFINTALY talk to him! good luck! =)
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I make lists. I write and write and write. I put down all of my feelings and somehow within all of the words, things start to make sense; solutions start to emerge; reason seems to outweigh frustration. Try to write it all down. Try to figure out exactly what it is that has upset you. Then you can be on the read to healing and making things right! :)
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i am very confused... please, try again!
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OUCH! Dude! WTF?  Just say you're sorry and explain to her how she makes you feel about yourself and that you were just venting.  She does not sound very reasonable anyway so all you can do is try.