My fiance gets nervous about having sex on my period. What can I do?
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we just do it in the shower(stand-up doggystyle), not  a problem. If he's squeamish(I'm not) just tell him not to look down. The water washes it away fairly quickly anyway, but make sure you use lube. My gf says she likes it cause it speeds her period up by about a day, and makes her flow seem lighter.
655653
If she's worried about getting pregnant, the stress alone can easily delay her period.  Remember protection is not 100\n%.  you can experience condom failure.
895686
It seems to me that you should value your fiances advice; I can understand if it makes you a little uncomfortable, but it is possible that maybe your man can help you resolve this issue entirely, or at least find peace with the matter so that it doesn't eat at you. The best thing to do is to pray about it, and talk with him openly and honestly about the matter, keeping an open mind.
572124
My wife and I had a similar issue and what we did was we came up with a code word that we could use while having sex.\nIn our case the word was "purple"! Why? This allowed us to have fun and if one of us was going to far we could and still keep going with the code word. We just knew to immediatly back off a bit but not lose the mood.\nTry this with the guy and see if it works for you.\nGood luck!
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just being straight up would be best.\n\ni have to read between the lines, not many details...\n\nit seems like there could be several causes... hang-ups, priorities, miscommunication, not being in the mood, fear of the unknown, performance anxiety, him not knowing your boundaries...\n\ntell your hubby how you feel, and let him know what you had in mind, and let him know you REALLY want it, there will be no pressure, no judgment, and let him know he can't screw it up... even if it doesn't work right the first time, you want to try something new for excitement.
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I find that I am alot more easily aroused during my period. You know the hormones are jumping all over the place. As suggested above, if you decide to do this, either put down an old towel on the bed first, then lay down on it. You could also do it in the shower, with your partner behind you. While standing, lean forward and have him take you vaginally from behind while the warm water sprays down upon you. It seems to go deeper this way and eases my cramps. Another way to try is on your knees man behind you (doggie style). You can even leave your panties on with pad in them. he can pull them either down or to the side far enough to enter you. If you choose to do this, I hope you enjoy it as much as I have.
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First, if it is with in your beliefs, go to your Ob/gyne and discuss birth control.  If you are on a reliable source at least a month before your wedding night, this will make things a bit less stressful than fumbling with condoms for beginners. (either if he is a virgin or has been tested)\n\nSecond, take it slow and know that you are sharing this experience with someone you have waited your whole life for.  Don't rush it, take it slow.  Have a little bottle of KY lubricant on hand, in case nerves cause you to be a bit dry...it can happen.  I reccommned missionary, guy on top, for your first time.  There  is a special closeness there, and you can also relax a bit more.   It may not prove to be painful at all, but in some cases it can be a bit.  It is not, by any means terrible or people would not bother!  Oh, as for the big "O"...relax and know that for you, it might not happen until you get a little more practice in. ;)\nCongratulations on your wedding!!
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Don't worry honey. I know it's not a nice prob2 have but it's not serious. Sometimes it could be stress or distractions.\nDon't let him drink or at least limit it b4 sex as that makes it hard 2 keep it up. encourage him,never let him feel pressured but seek for ways to enjoy yourselves in foreplay and sex. It may take time and patience but this is temporary. as for his age, it doesn't affect it. Some suggest having sex in different surroundings.\nWhen my boyfriend had that problem  i asked a friend of mine(male) to advise me but he said it was stress and so my boyfriend and i switched to early morning sex b4 he would be thinking about problems at work or other things. after a month, he was fine.\nGuys most of all need to know that you think they are the best and sexy. When their confidence is up, they are more likely to stay up. \nso just keep at it, build his faith, don't pressure and have fun. Also try new things.\na practical tip is after or b4 the bj, put his hand on top of urs and let him guide u in how he likes a hand job. This is a real turn on and he will know how to do that.
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Cassie, you guys are being very careful and he needs to understand that the chances are of you becoming pregnant while taking all these precautions are slim to none. Yeah, nothing is ever full proof when it comes to preventing pregnancy, except, of course, if one person has been diagnosed as being sterile, but you guys are being very responsible and safe. Try to explain to him that he is taking the fun and desire out of it for both if you guys with his paranoia. Get him some reading material on the issue and see if you can educate him further on this subject. He obviously enjoys sex and he should want it to be a fun, intense, romantic and joyful experience for both of you. If he is having panic attacks and constantly worrying about this it has got to put a damper on it for you as well as him. Maybe he does need to speak to a doctor about this. If he is having true panic attacks maybe he needs some medication for anxiety. I wish you the best of luck with this and I think it is a problem that can be overcome. Good luck.
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B"H\nHmmm... try taking two weeks off from sex every month.  Show him that during that time you are STILL head over heels in love with him.\n\nThis is actually advice many marriage councelors give out to help people who've lost the spice get it back into their marriage.  While you may not have this trouble, this definately helps develop the intellectual and emotional aspects of a relationship as well.  \n\nLoads of ancient cultures practiced this (usually abstaining from physical relations during the woman's menstruation) and it has proven itself time and again to keep marriages in a prolonged "honeymoon phase".
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The next time that he brings it up just tell him point blank you are not ready yet, and if he would just relax a little about it maybe you will feel more comfortable getting married in the future. Just be sure to let him know that you do not want to loose what the 2 of you have now.
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You wont hurt her, unless she is cramping.  It can get messy, put a towel underneath her, do it in the shower, or wear a condom.  I actually like sex better when i'm on my period, i'm much hornier then.
900679
I don't know if it's safe for your bf, but certainly not for you.\nWhy don't you guys just wait for a few days until your period is over???
479910
I think your fiance has a lot of issues that you guys need to work out before you get married. But hold out on him and he will initiate sex soon enough, trust me, you can hold out longer than him.
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I didn't have an orgasm through intercourse for about a year after I lost my virginity to my fiance.  I was anxious and nervous and I saw it all as a really big deal which stopped me coming even though oral and masturbation made me come.  When he asked me to marry him, it was like someone switched on a tap and I now orgasm every single time that we have intercourse.\n\nYou could try having your boyfriend stimulate you until you are almost at orgasm before stopping to have sex for a while, then continuing the manual stimulation etc until you orgasm whilst he is inside you.  Different positions might work, try missionary with your legs up over his shoulders or a cushion under your bum, doggy style with him reaching round to stimulate your clitoris, you on top stimulating yourself or having him stimulate you.\n\nGood luck!
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Are you scared of the intimacy? Have you always had difficulty? Or are you trying too hard to be aroused? Visualize a fantasy with him, and set it up. Talk to him. Don't make him guess at what's going on. He loves you, if he didn't he wouldn't have married you. Intimacy involves the mind, body, soul and heart, let him romance every facet, taking his time. Communicate. Good luck and best wishes for you both.
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DO relax and enjoy yourself; unwind from all the excitement and stress of the wedding.\nDON'T put high expectations on yourself & your partner to have wild, passionate sex all the time.  You will have plenty of time for that.