Why do we find it so easy to let go of certain people, but hard with others?.....?
926489
Some people bring joy to us almost on a daily basis. Some people suck the energy out of you... The reason its hard to let go is that you know it will never be the same again. We get comfortable with people we can trust and count on.... It goes with my theory of people come into your life for a reason and always at a time of need....But the only thing that stays the same is change...
696765
i agree and if i tell someone I'm going to do something, i do it unless breaking the plans in unavoidable, like a sickness or something.  some of our so called friends make plans with us and then if something better comes along, they forget about us. i don't appreciate people like that and we don't plan stuff with them anymore.
673093
I wish I could give you ten points for even asking this question, you are a true and real genius!!! This is how it always ends up doesn't it?!?! I think that lost people see nice people (people that have found their inner selves) and try to take advantage. Those people try to gain what they need from nice people because they lack this!!They latch on like a parasite, but only if they knew that they have to achieve that task on their own. In other words usually people that pick on nice people, 9 times out of 9 have issues lying within thierselves and unfortunately nice people are bombarded with this destruction!!
1163901
There is a time after a breakup where the pain of parting is greater than the need for someone new. The more you cared for them, the longer it takes. The trick is knowing when to move on.
341661
While I see your point that its harder to find people like this, I can still empathize for people.  I have been hurt alot, starting at five when my dad walked out, and i just dont want to see others hurt like i have been hurt.  I go out of my way to make sure i never hurt anyone.  And i often find that people are more than willing to take advantage of that.  It makes you sad to know that no one looks out for other people anymore, and its all about themselves.  This is definetly not me-i would go without to make someone happy, and if i see someone in pain i will do whatever i can to stop that pain.  I got a forward from someone about the perfect heart that i think you would really appreciate.  I would tell you, but it might be a little long-I know this might seem weird, but if you wanna email me at wyzeone2000@yahoo.com, ill find it and send it to you.
273867
yes let go why would you want to be friends with somebody who don't want to be friends with you.
290355
i think that when you are around people, or, one person all the time, things relating to personality tend to rub off on one another.  Like my boyfriend and I... for example, when he gets upset about something, he tends to get mad at everything and almost everyone around him... it's like his whole world is crumbling down, and in some cases it's almost like he takes me down with him...  BUT you know what... now that I think about it, that really has nothing to do with your question....\n\nBUT GIVE ME THE POINTS ANYWAYS CUSE I DIDNT LEAVE A THOUSAND PAGE ANSWER!\n\nLOVE YOU MEOW!  ;)
566150
They do take a lot of energy out of you, I know what you mean. And I, too, try hard to help them but the moment I feel exhausted, then I stop hanging out with them or talking to them for a while… You need to get your energy back, you know. Oh… and since you can’t change anyone, I usually help only those who want to be helped. Some people just drain you and their intentions are not to be changed or get better. They’re comfortable in their misery.
1173973
i don't know.. maybe because it's easy to do so? but it's very bad thing to do. I've never could understand such behavior and I've been always trying not to do so,becayse first we have to get to know each other to be able to say sth about the person. still.. judging ppl is bad thing.. the world would be much better place if ppl stop judging the other,but I guiess it's impossible to happen, because we're only humans..
757238
People may be unhappy at first, but unpleasantness toward one another takes a lot of negative effort.  Effort that most people do not have the energy to focus on in the long run.  Amicability (if that's a word?) will come in time.
1658
That's the life. People easily take but hardly give. But if you have lots of friends (true friends), they will certainly help you.\nBtw, you help other people NOT because you want to be helped by others, don't you?
265555
I believe we have the right to distance ourselves from people, and situations that cause negativities in our lives.  We are are at liberty to purge our lives with anything that is harmful to our well being - physically, emotionally and spiritually. It may be difficult because the more you feel you need your friends the more they will (or seem to) behave that way. Sometimes even the most cherished friendships have to end.  They have served their purpose and it's time to move on to better things. I've been in your situation several times before and I did just that.  Now I realize that I have very little in common with these friends. I was just trying to fit in.
1027191
I totally agree - I think our humanity makes it essential.  Life is difficult - I don't know anyone who hasn't felt like giving up at some time or another.  However, if we have a vice we feel like we can depend on, something we feel like we can fall back on, we are stronger for it, even if it sometimes weakens us.  Everyone has an addiction, be it drugs, friends, God, shopping, music - we all depend on something.
785077
we all have it in our souls to become control freaks, some however feel the need to dish it out more than others. sad but true. know stop asking these questions. oh sorry it just slipped out see what i mean.
27095
As the saying goes " There's no easy way to break somebody's heart" There will always be heartaches and disagreements especially if one doesn't want to let go. What worked for me is remaining good friends with my EX. :-)
172012
yes it's possible. You feel like you can't let them go but your trust issues are killing you, let it go....the issues or the person, which ever is least important. But if one conflicts with the other, end it all...Save yourself!
679117
Yup, there are times that is just do not want to touch someone else's hands, nothing personal, just a want.  You know like the 3 feet of personal space some people insist on.  It just night feel like your invading that space.  Who knows?