I’m having my (soon to be) mother-in-law make my wedding dress.?
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My suggestion is like many others, THANK HER every chance you get as this could make or break your relationship with her. If your weight doesn't change often I'd say start the dress at the beginning of the year. Of course small alterations can be made later, but then you can get the jist of things and make sure you both are on the right track and still have time for changes if need be.\nI really think you should get as many pictures as possible of what you want. I might even go to the extent of taking her dress shopping with you, trying on dresses, taking pictures in them and showing her what you like about each dress and why you think that type of dress would work best for you. Engrave in her head what you see in yours and hopefully that will keep her straying on the dress to a minimum. During the process of making it try it on often and correct anything you want before it can't be fixed. \n\nI'd say start it early in case you end up completely disliking it, then you'll have time to find something new. Though that my cause rifts between you and the mother-in-law.\n\nI totally know how you feel, my soon to be mother-in-law is trying to convince me their 45' x 30' back yard which is taking up mostly by a vegetable garden is the perfect location for our reception.
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Possibly she is trying to help and also wants to be a part of the family.  The best way to deal with it is respect.  Show her respect at all times and remember that the person you married was raised by this woman so she cannot be all bad.  You may also want to consider that it may be your attitude that is the problem.  Try to approach her not as your mother in law but as you would any other person you deal with.
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No wedding ring.... How about a 'Mother's Ring'? These are somewhat inexpensive, with only having one child right now. ;-)\n\nHow about a day off, next Saturday. He baby-sits, and you have a day out to have fun. No cost, but every mom likes a day off.\n\nA family portrait? If the frame costs too much, just buy the picture.\n\nYou could make that dinner & move a bit special... how about that special dessert you never order? \n\nWhen I was a newly wed, and we had our first.. funds were tight too. He bought me a nice little wooden jewelry box. Not expensive to most folks, but for us it was. Today that baby is now married with four of her own... and I still have my little jewelry box.\n\nJust remind him, it's the thought not the price.
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Well, it's your wedding so I think you should be able to wear whatever you feel comfortable with regardless of what everyone thinks. It's your day so enjoy it! My best wishes out to you and your family! Congratulations!
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hang it up on display in her room. It seems like something you could find in a museum, so exhibit it! The design and cultral beauty of the dress will add a lot to her room. However, if you feel like it would look weird, save it for her in a hopechest type thing so she can have it and appreciate it her whole life. One day she might enjoy showing it to her kids!
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I think it's a wonderful idea.  Not only are you wearing a dress that was special to someone else, it's saving you a bundle on expensives.  So, I would consider it lucky.\n\nIf you love the dress, and feel beautiful in the dress, then please by all means wear it.  You have the most happinest and most wonderful weddings of them all...\n\nGod bless us all....................
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Go to a bridal shop. They can custom make something for you.
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Hey there, just to let you know, all the mother-in-laws in the world are jealous of their daughter-in-laws. The least they'd think is that some little bit*ch has come along to steal the little boy she's loved for years that she's raised into her little man. That's the rule of the nature. Heard of Odipeous? I don't want to get too Freudian about this. But I hope you get it. I wouldn't be surprised that you mother-in-law has lust for her own son; in that case, she's a sick piece.\n  You should let you fiancé know that you're the one he's marrying and having children with, not that bit*ch of a so called mother of his. If he ever gives you any bull about not being nice to his mom, you need to let him know that if he won't put you first, plenty of men out there would. In that case, you don’t need some mama’s boy anyway; he can just live with his mommy for ever if that’s the case.\n  On the other hand, maybe that mother-in-law to be of yours is just getting used to the idea that she's losing and that you're winning.\n  I wouldn't be surprised if that mother of his, if she's white that is, is a racist; in that case, as long as your fiancé loves you and respect you, just cut her out of the picture. If she's the same race as you, she's just being old fashioned and nevertheless, a stupid bit*ch for you to disregard.\n  So, don't even think about sucking up to her. It's that unpleasant bit*ch that's suppose to show you some respect. Remember, respect is earned, not given. Just because she's the mom of you future husband doesn't mean you're to give in to her stupid game. As long as your man knows better, which I presume that he does, he'd know that he's going to come home to you for years and withdraw further and further away from his "mother" to the point that miserable old witch would regret being a bit*ch to you.\n  So, as long as your fiancé puts you first, you should disregard that miserable old woman and realize that you're winning and she's losing. \n  You have my sympathy. Keep your chin up. That miserable old thing isn't worth your time or emotions. You’re here to make yourself happy, not to make that miserable old fool happy. She doesn’t matter at all. Marry this guy, cut her out of the picture, and be happy!
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Keep it classic and elegant. \n\nA little black dress is always appropriate, but it is also alright to choose a dress in red, green, or navy blue. All of these colors are very timeless.
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right away!  you don't want to be stressing over the wedding day when it comes.  plus you have to factor in work too.  there's only so much time you can put aside for your wedding so...yeah i'd start picking out dresses...today!
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Be her friend!  Help her plan for the baby first of all and then help plan the wedding.  Just buy her something wherever she's registered.  I think right now she could probably use moral support from you than material things though.
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when you say this is the only wedding she'll ever get to plan, didnt she have one of her own? and if not then thats no reason for her to take over yours, this is your only chance to plan the day of your dreams you need to sit her down and tell her, you appreciate her excitement but you already know what you want and tell her that shes making you feel guilty, chances are she's so caught up in it all she doesnt realise.   good luck, i hope you sort it all out and have a fantastic wedding day!!
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My parents are helping us out a great deal for our wedding.  My mom has helped me with the planning, the finances, the stress, etc etc.  We are getting my father a nice bottle of wine and a gift certificate for a manicure and pedicure for my mom.  When I go into the salon to have mine done the day before, I am just going to surprise her and take her with me.  We are also planning on a nice toast specifically for them and we're also thinking of having a song dedicated to them (to dance to) following the toast. I'm not sure if it's necessarily "customary," but I think it should be if they really help out.  If you can't afford much, just put some thought into it and do something creative.  Make a cd for each of them with songs that remind them of you (or the two of you together).  Definitely do something for them...it's kind of their big day too.
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Start by deciding on a budget and who you want to invite.  Also start thinking about the kind of dress you want to wear.  There are tons of websites out there that are great at helping you plan.  I'm listing a few of my favourites.\n\nMost importantly, share every moment of your planning with you fiance.  It will be worth it in the end.  COMPROMISE is most important.  Have fun and CONGRATULATIONS!\n\nI'm getting married on July 1!  It's been a long and difficult journey but I'm enjoying every minute of planning my 2 weddings (1 Hindu, 1 Catholic!)
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Table cloths, place mats, quilts for your bed, throw blankets for your couch, lace curtains, dish cloths, towels & face cloths, sheet sets & pillow cases, a set of flatware, pot holders, a baby blanket & layette set, scented sachets (to give everything a pleasant smell), head & neck scarves, your mom's wedding dress & veil (you may want to wear it or pass it on to your children). You might want to check with your mom for more items that she would suggest. She might have items that she's been saving for your hope chest, like a copy of the family photo album, or your christening outfit. These are all acceptable. I want to commend you for carrying on this old family tradition. Many young ladies are too concerned with which guy they want to sleep with, not even planning much beyond tonight, let alone a future with one man. I hope you will keep this tradition alive in your family and pass it on to the next generation. You might want to also include a story of your family...like a family tree...but in story form. Interview older family members, writing their family stories down, passing it on to future generations. It will really help you when telling your kids family stories of their great grandma, long after she's gone. Get their stories now, before it's too late. Then, keep them in your hope chest. <*)))><
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Wear it for the actual wedding ceremony. \n\nBring along a change of clothes for the reception. \n\nThat way you both get your way!
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Congrats on yuor wedding... to be there.. \n\nYou can have fusion for the wedding. \nI am not sure what custom you are going to follow. \nIf you are going through the church type then you can do you christian style dress. \n\nDress has to be Red in colour....You can apply a bindi(red dot on yuor forehead) \n\nIn the evening for reception you can dress in the traditional way. It might be dificult for you to wear a saree if no one is ready to help. Else you can get a Chania Choli (red colour) with gold work on it. It will look nice as well. You can go for the mathcing jewellery with that  for the full set. \n\nAbout the food you can have 3-4 disshes which will be an add on for the people. I am sure the white americans will like the food too. \nSome Items like Papadums and samosas for starters\nItems like Paneer (cheese) Palak(spinach), or Navratan Korma. You can check this from the caterers or the Indian restarants as to what dish you like.. \nThis can be with the Indian breads (Rotis) \nIn sweets you can have Gulab Jamun or Kulfi (type of icecream made from boiling milk for long time)\n\nAnything more IM me.. My wedding was on their last year and I will send you the link for my wedding photos on the yahoo. \n\n\nSmile always