how do u deal with a girl who is afraid of commitment?
912826
bad choice....\nbut you cannot force someone to commit... she does seem to be very busy and very smart....\nleave her alone....\ns
895507
I would just straight up tell her that if she likes you that the way you play it is that she doesn't get to lead you on and needs to be straight up with you and honest.  Tell her what you are looking for and if she cant' give it to you then you deserve better and then find someone that wants what you want and someone that won't lead you on or talk to other guys while your "talking".  She sounds like she just wants to date around and not get into a relationship.  So tell her what you want and go from there with her your way or find someone else.
102027
It is a commitment issue . . . since they are already committed (supposedly) to someone else . . . you are not afraid of them getting too attached to you . . . or you hope not.
968442
I think at times when people talk about feelings they kind of shy away from it cause of fear of getting hurt. You may have to just be patient with her for now. Good things do come to those who wait.
1082373
Commit to her! If you’re not ready to make a commitment, break things off with her. Otherwise, you are just using her.
787177
Well being a girl myself, what i can say is if you want something then you have to go for it. Just relax and step out of your comfort zone and in doing so you will be rewarded. If she says no, then you still have the triumph of overcoming your fears of the opposite sex. If she says yes then you will feel like your risk has payed off, and you will be even more excited about your risky behavior. Life is too short you have to go for what you want!
384678
Aah classic commitment phobia. Your both so scared of being vunerable and saying you want to be with each other that you're pretending it's ok to see other people. What you need to ask yourself is this? Is this really the type of future relationship you want, with two people not able to say how they feel. Either become a couple or leave each other alone. Believe me i've been in a situation like this and no matter how cool and trendy you think you're both being a relationship goes no where, without some honesty.
302381
You may just have to make her angry.  There's no easy way to tell someone to leave you alone.  Just let her know gently, that the two of you have nothing special.  It was just one night and she has a boyfriend.  It's not fair to her boyfriend and it's not fair to you.  Let her know you two aren't right for each other.  Hopefully, she'll get the hint.  You could even be honest and tell her you're just not ready for a commitment right now, and it would be better if the two of you kept some distance.  She may be heartbroken, but I don't think she'll be angry.  If she does something nuts like breaks up with her boyfriend over you, or hurts herself or something.... you might just have to piss her off and tell her she's lost it.
211913
Oh, it is frustrating. I am so sorry. :( Well, if she feels that way about you and you are having a difficult time convincing her that you are not a player, as hard as it is, perhaps it is time to think about moving on. If she does not trust you now, why do you want to try to get involved with her \nHOw long have you known her? Have you told her how you feel about her? If you have and she still doesn't trust you, well....you just may have to end up biting the bullet and explaining to her that since she cannot trust you then it is time for you to move on. \n\nSorry to hear that. \nBELIEVE ME YOU DON'T WANT TO GET INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE THAT DOES NOT TRUST YOU. \n\nI had a boyfriend that was like that and he would follow me around everywhere and he was always questioning me as to who i was talking to and how I knew such and such a guy. \n\nOh Yeah, I forgot about that little remark that you made. Ummmmmmm..cool it, :D that may be part of the reason why she thinks you are a player. \n\nGood luck to you.
1099434
I'm going through the same thing. In my opinion men who are afraid of commitment and also afraid of losing a great woman send very mixed signals. Once it starts to interfere with the quality of your life, you need to let go and move on. Maybe standing for your values will open his eyes, maybe not.
342917
just ask her. I can't stand people who are so afraid to take chances.
764061
Ask her what she is afraid of. Tell her she doesn't have to go to the extreme to hide anything from you. She can be totally safe and honest with you. You have to build a bridge for her to see and focus on.It's all an act to hide her pain and suffering. She wants desperately to be heard and acknowledged.She won't change until she sees it and acknowledges it. Be a friend and let her know she doesn't have to fake a good deal.
370009
Maybe he's scared of commitment. I say give him a little more time to get himself together and get the courage up to ask you but if you wait too long it could be far too late. In the end it's about what YOU  feel is right and at the same tine, when he feels he's ready for a relationship. Maybe, he isn't ready but you have to respect that and hope that soon he will be but do not put your life on hold waiting on someone who may never come around. It's all about what works for you, so keep that in mind.
1145855
Scared of commitment. They are usually unsure of themselves. My boyfriend still plays his little games that push me away and draw me back in, and they are trying to see how much you will put up with from them, you know kinda like seeing if you're in there for the duration.
533363
That's no reason to NOT get married but I can see why she is afraid of sex.  She should seek counseling with her fiance and soon to be husband before getting married. Perhaps she will discover that now isn't the right time to get married and on the other side, she could discover that she loves her fiance enough to no longer be scared...
1153024
By being honest and stubborn and even if that hasn't worked yet, it will. I'm sure she knows you care for her and wants to be with you, but there are probably tons of reasons why she just can't let herself trust you. Oh and don't ever threaten to leave her unless you really plan on going through with it completely and NOTHING she can say will change that. Especially if that is something that she fears.
1129655
One of the hardest parts of growing up and dating is learning how to deal with things when you like someone more than that someone likes you.\n\nUnfortunately, you aren't going to be able to change her mind. You have to decide if you are okay with just being friends - or if it is time to move on and spend time with other people.\n\nIn time, it will hurt less but it does suck right now. It's okay though - you are going to be alright.