Does anyone have any advice about how to dettach yourself from another person emotionally?
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The best thing to do is distance yourself away from them. Don't call them or email them, and definitely don't see them. The more you stay away and keep out of contact with them, it will be easier to detach yourself from this person. This does not mean that you will ever forget about this person, but it will make it easier for you to go ahead with your life. This takes time for some people, and other people it doesn't. It all depends on the individual. This has always worked for me.
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In past experience, I've learned that the best way to get over someone is to give yourself an allotted grieving time...I say a week or less, and then start doing something to take your mind off of the situation, or at least alleviate the thought of that person. I have found one of the best things is exercise...or try something you've never done before...a new hobby or sport. It's a great way to distract you, plus you might meet some new interesting people as well.
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find someone who cares for you. And, figure out why it is that emotionally YOU feel as if you "deserve" to be with a person who treats you poorly.\n\nYou don't deserve that. But why don't you move on?? That is the question to ask yourself.
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decide that you can only change your feelings. mind over matter. just decide that you're going to forgive them and move on! you can pray for help too, it'll help you gain the peace you seek.
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I'm sure more people than you realize go through the situation you described. I know I have! And I also understand what you mean when you say that you don't want to go through it all again to form another friendship. Relationships take a lot of work to initiate and to maintain!\n\nI know you said that you can't afford a counselor, but I would really look into it some more. Do you have health insurance? They usually help you cover some of the cost; I know mine does. And if you find a therapist you like (that's really important--don't just go to anyone), tell him/her about your financial situation (be really honest about it, he/she will usually understand). If you're in school or employed, the school or job will usually have a mental health benefit so you can see a counselor or a therapist for free for a certain number of sessions. This can really be helpful--it may give you some insight into other things that may be going on for you, as well as help you figure out what the best solution(s) are in your situation. They'll also do a broader assessment and refer you to someone if they feel as though you may need additional support.\n\nHow long has this loneliness been going on? You write "lately" but does that mean a week, a month, a year? And are the "friends" that you're with right now the same ones that betrayed your trust before? How do you know them?\n\nI also completely understand when you write that you don't want to be someone's burden. I think many of us feel that way! When we have a problem or an issue that seems to consume a lot of our time and energy, that's all we want to talk about, and it may FEEL like the person we're talking to doesn't want to listen anymore or is only doing it to be nice. Believe me when I say (and I have been in both positions) that it is absolutely NOT TRUE. People DO want to listen to you! After all, relationships are two-way streets--when you share, the other person will feel more open and comfortable to share with you too.\n\nI like the suggestion of a few other people who have also answered this question: get involved with a group. Join some sort of activity (e.g., book reading club, running club, knitting club, group through a religious/spiritual organization, human rights advocacy group, etc.) in which you will automatically have something in common with the other people there. After all, you're all there for a reason, right? Conversations will be a lot easier to start that way, and it may be easier to find someone that you naturally "click" with.\n\nTake care.
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Walk out of the situation before the anger takes control of you. Like 'babygirl' said, it will give you time to cool down & think through the situation sensibly instead of causing harm, whether physically or verbally, to the other in a fit of rage.\n\nThat's what I do, just walk out on the person or just don't talk. I am known for a vicious temper & that's how I deal with it. :)
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I suggest reading the book called "How to mend a broken heart, moving on and letting go" it's by Aleta Koman. I had and still have the same problem. It's goes away with time, then again there are times it comes back but not as bad. If you ever need someone to talk to look in my profile and contact me. I'm here if you need someone to talk to and try to help you the best way that I can.
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You're no longer close?  Then just leave them in the past, darlin.  You're trying to live better and clean up your act, DO NOT be around them, I can say they will try their damndest to drag you back down to their level.  Completely write them off, take them off your cell phone, email, ims, MySpace, whatever and however you talk to them.  Leave them and that life in the past and you will feel a 1,000 times better.
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This can be only only little by little. Start by seeing other people, making new friends and start doing stuff without this particular friend. After some time he or she will understand that you two are getting apart and it won't be that hard though there will be some hurt...
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Man, I know how that can feel...been there done that!!!  I found that I wasen't voicing my needs enough in some cases and in the others it was a matter of getting rid of the trash friendships that were merely sucking me dry emotionally and/or finacially.  Do yourself a favor and get rid of people who make you miserable and are just takers. Thinning them out and telling the people whom you choose to keep around what your needs are can be a very empowering experience.  Trust me, a few very close friends is worth more than a ton of supposed friends any day.  Hope this helps.
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Try to get in touch with yourself spiritually and take a time-out. Do something you enjoy and remove yourself from the tension. I know it's easier said than done but it's worth your sanity! **Sending you strength**
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I have had the same problem and no it isn't right it is more pain and agony on you especially if you even have the smallest of feelings for the person. I have hung on and tried and worked with it as a matter of fact this weekend I just called it quits myself. It hurts to much and it gives the other person multiple people at their becon call and your out in the cold.
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Well stop tricking you're self in thinking it's ok the relation ship is herting if you're thinking about some one else I know  i've done it  it falls apart one day soon then it's to late..look at self and ask you're self why is it going on then make the move to fix it ,if you don't then you or him will lose some one.
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I highly recommend a book called Feelings Buried Alive Never Die.  There is a simple emotional release technique described in the book that, when done each day for 5-10 minutes, can help ease extreme emotional upsets and even some physical ailments associated with emotional problems.\n\nI've used this example before in another answer, but I'm going to use it again:\n\nI live in small, cramped quarters and often find myself bumping into things.  When I bumped into things in the past I would immediately become OVERWHELMINGLY ANGRY.  The anger troubled me greatly, much more than the momentary pain from bumping into things.  I used the emotional release technique in the book and I've not been angry from bumping into things again.  \n\nAlso, I used to suffer with chronic, ever present anxiety/guilt feelings.  I used the technique for that as well and I've felt peaceful and content with my life and circumstances and relationships overall since.  \n\nI believe I will have to continue to use the technique, but it's totally worth it!  Please look into it!
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Well at times life puts you through a test and you need to make do with what you have and decide likewise.\n\nIf possible, you should decide on moving away from him.\n\nIf you are dependent on that person and / or tied with him for some reason which would not allow you to move away, then try to stress less on the darker side of your life. If it's just something that you can't really do anything about then at-least deviate your mind and attention away from that person as much as possible. Try occupying yourself with something that takes your mind away from him so you don't keep pondering on the fact and getting yourself more depressed.\n\nLast but not the least, I don't really know your relationship with this person or your history with him, though would still suggest to analyze your situation once again to see where the wrong lies. There may just be ways that you can salvage your relationship with this person. Depending on your situation, it may just be worth the try.\n\nHope you find a way out of your problem soon.\n\nAll the best.
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Get your mind of it no matter what it takes. pre-occupy yourself with something that'll keep you busy. You can try talking to different people about it to see their perspectives which may give you some new thoughts on the situation. also the more the think about it the more you're likely ot give in so try your best to avoid dwelling on it. If it's something you want to control at an exact moment (like in your example) i advise you rather keep it to yourself for the time being. Its not good to bottle up feelings, so let it out when you're not around that person any more. This way you feel no regrets. Sometimes I clench my fist or bite by teeth to get rid of some of that anger temporarily... well hope I helped!
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be patient and dont push her too hard\njust be there for her (even only via email)\nstop telling her how you feel for now, it may be quite irritating for someone's out of a bad relationship\ntell her your feeling once again when she's opened up a bit\n\nhope she'll loosened up =)