my ex is acting like a jerk?
931580
Guys will do that to puff their pride up.\n\nRemember this rule:\n\n1. People only talk shit becuase they are still bitter and you still effect them. If you didnt effect them, they wouldnt even bother talking about you.\n\nI would ignore his loser ass and talk to other guys around him just to make him angry. Who cares what he thinks, right? He certainly is doing that to you.
305678
Well, you clearly are not a good friend are you? We can all see that because you hurt your boyFRIEND, so can you honestly blame him? \n\nAdditionally, why do you want to be friends with your ex? Just because you used to date doesn't mean that when you break up, you will be friends. It doesn't always work that way, and given that you have hurt him, you can hardly expect to continue to be on good terms.\n\nI strongly suggest that you stop any efforts to befriend him, move on and try to be kinder to your next significant other.
977139
Just invite him to come visit if you are done with your ex altogether. be kind and make a good impression. If necessary, send a letter to your ex telling him what's up and maybe even apologize. Ladies, email me at johnluisduffy@yahoo.com
90115
Well, if he's really being a jerk about you being active, than you should break it off. However, it is good for you to get active, and it would make him happier too!\n\nJust don't do it if you don't want to.\n\nAnd it sounds like he really cares.
281811
Maybe he is still friends with your ex.  Now that the big head is thinking again he may have some remorse.  He may have really just been trying to get his leg over as well.  If he doesn't call you, move on.  There are to many guys out there that would give you a bell after.  Go give one of them a try.  All the best.
500699
Yeah...it sounds familiar ...I have an ex who tried the same...basically you have to set boundaries as it's not appropriate for him to visit you given his feelings and the fact that you're committed to another man. Tell him to use the phone or mail to communicate but don't expect him to go away -it's been 18 years since my ex has been doing this but as he's basically harmless I haven't really cared. The important thing is -is your ex harmless? Or is he someone who may act on his obsession? Finally I want to say -be sure you're not sending mixed signals...I've seen too many women not be clear about their wishes only to whine or press charges later when it's their fault for not being direct in the first place! Be honest with him and tell him to scram! There's my advice...I hope you take it! Edit~ I got your mail....If you hate him as you say AND HE HAS 'HURT YOU SO BAD' then why are you putting up with him then? Get a restraining order! Call the police and file a complaint and ask them to tell him to stay away! I thought maybe you still liked him on some level but since that's not the case you need to be pro active! Don't sit here on yahoo talking about it-do something about it -and I mean right now-today! Make sure you don't regret not doing anything!!!!!!!!! Everyday you let this go on-you encourage him more, and give him hope and he will become more relentless! You have been warned!
176918
Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
1011899
He had a baby with another girl while he was still with you? Why are you fretting over this guy - you should be glad to be rid of this jerk! I still have to deal with my ex-husband because we have a 10 yr. old together, and we each have 50% custody. But I look at it this way - my ex (a big jerk) has re-married. Now his new wife is stuck with him (and I'm not!). I am re-married to a wonderful man - I definitely got the better deal here! And like someone said earlier - living well is the best revenge. Be glad that he is gone and that she is stuck with him - someone better will come along.
891002
To be honest your best off ignoring it if both you and your girlfriend trust each other this should not be an issue anyway. The ex is more than likely only doing it to annoy you hoping it will cause problems so don't rise to it. She is with you not him :)
130296
Dude grow the hell up, what kind of childish crap do you have to do to some one. If you don't want her anymore be a MAN and tell her. You are just a jerk.
986542
either he has no feelings for you and is going to do what he wants, when he wants, and with whom he wants or you might be jumping the gun and trying to see something that isn't there. some ex's are friends and my GF has one that she talks to once or more times a week and its just because we have kids doing the same stuff at the same times. my trust is with her, she will always have friends that aren't mine and I the same. i will never tell her not to talk to him, she isn't with him anymore. this is a trust thing and if you can't trust him the best thing to do is get out while you can still see daylight. waiting will only cloud you sight and you'll never have the power of surprise. this power will get most to change anything. try it and if it doesn't work out for you, well your already moved out and all you need to do is get on with your new life.
249177
do u kno 4 sure he dont love u hows he a jerk?
295594
All guys are jerks occasionally because we simply don't see or understand things the way girls do.  However, when you are trying to work things out and a guy constantly screws things up by being a jerk it means that he isn't really committed to fixing things.  Your relationship is probably never going to be fixed or be what you need and deserve.  It is probably best to move on and find a guy who will love you and really work at having a relationship with you.
709099
OK, perhaps he sees it this way: He likes you still and on some level feels guilty about dumping you. Even if he believes that breaking up was the right thing to do. But he still would like to see you and perhaps hang out with you, but he doesn't want to how do I put this, insist upon seeing you since that could lead to an awkward moment with you telling him no or not saying no but implying it. So he left it up to you to decide if you want to hang out with him or not. This allows you to politely say no without the awkwardness of saying no. You just don't give him a shout out. You're "too busy" or it slipped your mind or something like that.\n\nOf course, he could also be doing it as a means to get back together, but he could also just miss hanging out with you. \n\nAnd yes, I have hung out with exes before. See how they were doing and all that. Sometimes you miss a part of your life, even if you have moved on.
1082776
YES She is a nut case in case u havent figured that out. My ex is like that but I think she may be on drugs or something. Stay safe and take care.
167853
This guy sounds like he's really confused and a bit immature.  I think you really need to answer that phone and tell him how much you were hurt by what he did to you.  Talk it over . . . you might be surprised to find that he's been just as torn up about this as you have been!
710066
Get a job.  Your ex has a child or children to support.  How do you expect them to do it and why should they carry your responsibility for it as well?  GET A JOB!\n\n~  Spoken as the ex who is owed a lot of bucks and know how hard it is when a jerk doesn't pay what he owes.\n\nAre you my ex?  If you are, they are looking for you.....\n\nBest Wishes,\n\nSue