? For Prelade..28yrs with a happy marriage.?
350272
You've met someone now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
683809
Been there - one of the things that helped my wife and I clear out all the rubbish accumulated over 7 years marriage was us going on a marriage course together.\n\nI simply cannot recommend it enough - it has changed us around - website below to find the nearest course.
816012
If marriage is the goal for both of you, then anything over 2 years is pushing it.  Once you get to the 4 - 5th years, time to call it quits if no proposal was forthcoming by then.
663853
I think you need to listen to your heart and make a decision. Don't stay married if you aren't TRUELY happy, it isn't worth it. Take some time to just think without any outside distractions. :)
439264
My hubby was 24 when we got married, I was 22...I think its a good age if you have a job that will take care of both you and your wife. If you have security, then go for it!! 26 is an awesome age, in my opinion....
66590
In my experience, NO...I wasted two more years of my life "trying" to stay married.  Good luck!
1151415
I was in almost the same situation, except the woman was my age.  I was married with children, and had to make some tough decisions in order to be true to myself and happy at last.  I no longer live to please others.  My advice to you is to make thoughtful decisions, then don't look back.  You can't make everyone happy all the time.  Good luck!
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You hit the nail on the head with "mid-life crisis". He needs validation that his manhood and virility are still intact. This is however, a breach of his professional ethics. His marriage may not be unhappy ... just stale. It happens in the very best of marriages.
104422
VERY Married 28 years Don't be in a rush You will changes so much mentally and emotionally by the time your ready to marry. My husband was 29 and I was 24 when we married.
697580
Just because your marriage of 25 years is "ok" doesn't mean you can't have a strong attraction to someone you describe. People change throughout their lives and it sounds to me like you're gay.To reiterate, that you have spent a pleasant 25 years with your wife says no more than this time has been tolerable. If you're saying (sounds like you are) that you've been feeling earth shattering passion and obsession about your married friend, it's fairly obvious.
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In order to be happy in your marriage..the two of you should work it out together..but first of all put GOD in the middle of your relationship before anything else.\n\nI am a married woman with 2 kids..there are always ups & downs but you have to believe each other, trust, be faithful, sincere and honesty... That's keep a relationship grows and harmony to all of you..\n\nJust be yourself..don't pretend..and I assure you you'll be happy for the rest of your lives.\n\nCheers..life is so beautiful!
1138989
I want to say 2 years is a long enough time to save money,..plan a nice wedding and to live together.  I think that is an important thing.  If you can't live together  your marriage will be hard.  Just my opinion.
536149
It doesn't sound a very happy situation to be in.\n\nWhen you married, you made some promises to your wife. They were quite serious ones, and it was a permanent contract. What you think of that is your own affair. I have learned to try not to moralise about what others do because, when it comes down to it, I am no better myself.\n\nI think your first concern should be to write down all the options and find the way that will give all people concerned the most happiness (or the one that will cause the least hurt, if you prefer to look at the negative side of it). \n\nYou must also involve the others somehow. They are also people with as much right as you, if not more, to have feelings, to make a choice and to have a say in things. \n\nIf you are a very brave man, you would meet with everyone involved and discuss your problem with them honestly! A counsellor is useful as a mediator and 'chairman' in meetings like this.\n\nWhatever you do, however, you MUST be honest and open with yourself and everybody else and you MUST communicate. You certainly don't have the right to make decisions for other people, only yourself.\n\nIt's worth bearing in mind that our lovers, friends and acquaintances serve specific purposes in our lives. We tend to make friends - and keep them - for our specific needs. We   nearly all have 'giving' needs as well as 'taking' needs, so the relationships are mutually beneficial.\n\nLove does not always involve jumping into bed with someone (sex is one of our needs, of course, and should be shared with someone we love). I would look very carefully at what it is you feel for this other woman - and what you feel is lacking in your relationship with your wife.\n\nIt's a hard decision and may take a long time to resolve. As long as you think carefully before deciding what to do, consider others' happiness before your own and remember that one can love someone deeply and, perhaps desire them, yet still decide not to follow the whims of Little Willy.\n\nI wish you well.
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i AM SO GLAD WE WAITED UNTIL MARRIAGE. We had no problems at all, it was all very wonderful. I wish everyone could have the joy on their wedding night we experienced. It was like the excitement of Christmas morning. I suggest the couple have good premarital counselling like we did. I also would add to the guys, BE SURE YOU ALWAYS MEET HER NEEDS FIRST.
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Happy, functional, and harmonious marriage and family life . . . That's a pretty tall order. I guess it depends how narrowly you want to define all that. \n\nMy husband amd I, for instance, are happy and harmonious, but in some ways, not as functional as we'd like to be in practical things. I know other couples that are happy and functional, but not necesarily harmonious. Family life is complex. \n\nIs it possible to create a good, happy marriage? Yes. A perfect one, no. People will put a ton of effort and research into so many things, but they expect a marriage to just work naturally. I don't think it happens that way very often. You have to chose your mate wisely and continually invest in the relationship. Investing doesn't have to be painful or laborious. It can be as simple as learning the best way to ask for a favor or how many ice cubes he likes in his iced tea.\n\nPeople say that marriage is hard work, but I have not found it so. My marriage is one of the few things that takes little effort and gives great enjoyment. It's all the other stuff in life that can be a drag. \n\nOne of the best quotes about marriage that I've seen was made by an old bachelor, Benjamin Franklin: "Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards."
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Well My wife and I lived together 13 years, have been married 11 years and our 3 children were from her previous marriage. We have 8 grandchildren. So far so good!! The big thing I think is you need to hold your head up, Show your pride and confidence. Demonstrate that YOU feel your worth.\nDon't settle for less than what you want!
1076747
look here bud im 30 and ive been married b4.....but i screwed up and took for granted what i had. i am involved with someone new now and i have truely learned what not to do to jepordize this one.....who i am also planning on marrying in the future. just do what feels right....but when you do get married treat her right and make her feel loved everyday no matter what. hugs and kisses everyday no matter how pissed she makes you. if you can swallow some pride every now and then you should be ok.