Should my son's father's girlfriend have a coursage at the wedding.?
345140
If she is a long term girlfriend then I say yes.
882039
NOOOO, don`t ever make him decide. If he chooses than it needs to be without YOUR help!\nI think his mother was way out of line with that comment. Try not to worry too much about it, it sounds like you have a great boyfriend there! If you want you can have a talk with her and tell her that you didn`t mean to "step on her toes", you are simply in love with her son and wanted to be with him on this important day.
477430
I think his mother is scheming to pretend to disown him to find out whether you're a gold digger should you leave him (after he's "disowned"), then she'll have a point to prove to her son to justify why she doesn't like you and thinks you're wrong for her son and that you're only after the money. Women can be canniving like that. I mean, other than that, I don't know why else she would want to disown her only son unless she wants all the money to herself - which proves she's not a very good mother. So this means if I were you, I wouldn't give a rat's @$$ about her because this is really showing her true colors. Don't let someone like that ruin your happiness. If you know deep in your heart that you love your fiance and that you are definitely not going after the money, you two should go on with the wedding and be happy together. If you ask me, this will anger the mom even more and THAT is satisfying! :)
262055
Trust your intuition.  It's important and I'm glad you are picky.  She will have a huge affect on your son's life.  IF you really like someone, then maybe give her a bit more time. When my x and I split, he would let any flooz from the bar babysit.  You are right for being picky.  Your son is lucky.  But also try not to hold her to some "perfect" standard.  Your wife was not perfect either, but sounds like she was a good mom.  So good luck to you and your son.
413434
No, you should confront your ex wife. She should have the facts straight before she tries to spread any rumors about you. I think that your daughter in law needs to know what your son did. He doesn't need to take a chance on hurting his own daughter, but I don't think he would. I also think that your ex wife shouldn't be trying to make problems with you, your son, and daughter in law. It seems like she is bitter and trying to make everyone else miserable. Just explain to your daughter in law the truth, but let your ex know that you don't appreciate her trying to instigate trouble.
477590
She is just feeling protective over her mother role.  She is their momma and she doesn't want you to try and fill her shoes or play mommy.  It is very delicate.  No matter what she did in her marriage doesn't matter.  Please be respectful not to push her about being around HER kids.  Respect the fact that she doesn't want you around them right now.  They shouldn't see you two together unless it is very serious.  I didn't introduce my daughter to her now step-dad until I was sure we were going to stay together.  They don't need to see different women in daddy's life.  You don't know how long you two will last just yet.  Give it time!!!!Don't tell her to back off or anything like that, you have no right to.  If you care at all about your b/f respect her wishes!!!  She'll come around if you do.  Don't make it worse, it is a delicate situation!!!  Why would you move in?  This isn't something that should be taken lightly.  Are you even engaged to him?  Like I said, the kids shouldn't see women in daddy's life unless it is serious enough as marriage is!  Sounds like you know you'll disrespect her wishes anyway!  Why ask then, if you are moving in?
1130937
ok, hang on for a second. think to yourself,"Why am i doing this? Is it because i am concerned? Or am i nosey?" Is your daughter's boyfriend reliable? Because if he is then if the situation is not broken, dont try to fix it.
416374
No its not weird. The fathers parents are the childs grandparents and they have a right to be in the childs life. That would mean they see the child once a week right? I think its nice of them to invite her around for a meal.\n\nThey probably realise the breaking up of their sons and your gfs relationship was over something stupid their son did and that your gf was quite decent and they have nothing to hold against her. In order for them to have an active role in their grand daughters life they have to get along with the childs mother. \n\nIts a bit hard for them to want to see a 2 year old baby when the mother doesnt bring it over. So shes part and parcel of their visitation with the child. Im sure if your gf dumped the 2 year old baby off to them and walked out the baby would be freaked out over not being with her mother. (have unnecessary anxiety)\n\nI think its totally reasonable. Shes not playing up with the ex and you obviously know all about her visiting his parents so shes not lying to you or covering anything up, so technically shes not doing anything wrong.\n\nHang onto her, she sounds like a good one. Im sure the parents will realise shes moved on with her life as in being with you. Im sure her exs parents might even feel a hint of embarassment or remorse for their sons non involvement in the childs life, so they feel they have to make up for it. I think they are nice people to stick by your gf and their grand child.\n\nThey will know there is no hope for their son and her but just want to be a part of their grand daughters life.
1185996
screw them. hah. it's about your fiance, not their parents especially if they're not even worth it. and i say be bold, just say thanks for having a great son. done!
174705
My mum is also having to do the honours at my wedding, as my father walked out ten years ago, you mustn't get stressed! The traditional father of the bride speech simply praises the bride to the skies and tells the groom how lucky he is to have her, and how he is happy to welcome the groom into the family, so that sort of thing should be fine. \nIt always works well to add a bit of humour in there, any amusimng anecdotes about your daughter, and maybe if you wanted to add a note about how her father, if he had been there, would have been so proud? \n\nThere are of course poems you can use, if you are looking for ones about love then Shakespeares sonnets and the poetry of WH Auden are always safe options, but really, the personal touch is easier, and maybe a bit less nerve wracking! \n\nGood luck!
239143
Sorry, but welcome to being a stepmom...yep, you'll have to invite her and pray she declines, unless the kids are old enough for their father, not you, to explain that it might not be such a happy thing for their mom to watch him get married again.
952822
Gee that kind of makes the daughter the boss of his life. Guess I would sure he gets it and if he chooses to let his daughter "run" his life you may want to rethink your involvement with him. :o(
852981
Sure.\n\nIf it's ok between them, then it should be ok with you.\n\nIf he loves her, then you have a duty to treat her as family in your home.
697370
I doubt very much that your daughter would agree to any form of family counselling to help resolve things, but this is one thing that may help.  By having a non-partial mediator discuss things in an open and mature manner would allow everyone involved to speak their mind and help sort things out perhaps.  Perhaps you could try and inform your daughter that this would be the greatest gift that she ever gave you for Christmas by agreeing to attend such sessions.  I'm certain also that you would like to be escorted to your daughter's wedding by her father and with all these unresolved issues I'm willing to bet that you'll be going stag.  Inform your little girl that although her dad did make a mistake that you have forgiven him and that everyone should be given a second chance if they have so deserved it.  Best of luck to you and your family as a whole.
271184
Honestly, this probably won't turn into a big problem.  Most Dad's will find something wrong with their "little girl's" boyfriend.  Just keep being yourself around him, be polite, and abide by his rules.  Most importantly, treat his daughter with respect...you will eventually win his.
647972
It is time to let go. Four years has given you your answer. She'll never change even if she claims she will. She sounds paranoid to me in fact, endangering her young son. You're trying to do the right thing but it is time to realise that the right thing to do now is to divorce her, get custody of your son, move on and find another woman worthy of your trust, respect and love. Don't stick around and let her scar you even more for that's just too convenient for her to do. It is not something you want your young son to think - that his dad cannot stand up for what he thinks is right and let a woman (even if it is his mom) put him down over and over again & cheat on him. I am sorry if what I said have offended you. I know you are doing this out of love but she does not deserve it and your son deserves a better mom. She lost her right to be his mother when she did what she did. Sorry. And Good Luck to You!
915781
No, I don't think they will get married...maybe you've got a chance, Who knows? I think her Dad tries to run her life though...I feel sorry for whoever does marry her.