i get so angry so easily that my relationships get damaged...what should i do to "mitigate" my anger??
344248
Well, it's up to you to find out the source of your anger. After you've done that, you should come up with a plan for how to handle the situation that provokes your anger -- like walk away, or think of squirrels like the one in my profile picture. It's really hard to remember this plan when the situation arises, but you have to beat it in there somehow.\n\nPerhaps the source of your anger isn't an event, but just an accumulation of events. If that's the case, take a vacation somewhere. Take some time off alone to relax -- isolate yourself from the things that anger you. Take up a hobby that'll allow you to vent your anger/frustrations. I actually highly recommend you weight-train or take up martial arts/boxing -- it does wonders for us guys, trust me.\n\nAnd lastly, LIGHTEN UP. LET THINGS GO. TURN EVERY BAD SITUATION INTO A COMICAL ONE. Not everything is perfect or goes as planned, so sometimes you just gotta sit and enjoy the ride.
37264
Walk out of the situation before the anger takes control of you. Like 'babygirl' said, it will give you time to cool down & think through the situation sensibly instead of causing harm, whether physically or verbally, to the other in a fit of rage.\n\nThat's what I do, just walk out on the person or just don't talk. I am known for a vicious temper & that's how I deal with it. :)
819162
You MUST figure out why your REALLY angry and fix it. You probably have a pattern of doing this in relationships. I know I did. Something underneath has truly hurt your feelings. You must Learn to be 100% honest. You have to tell him when you are mad and work it out on an adult level.  I was able to pinpoint mine to abandonment issues. I was cold towards people. I pushed them away. You have to realize that one day he will be fed up with your crying wolf and let you leave. Love is such a great thing. Appreciate what the two of you have.
782578
Long hot showers, meditation, exercise, screaming into my pillow, just about anything. I have a lot of trouble with patience too. If there are certain people that drive you crazy the first thing is to remember your being upset doesn't do anything to them. Sometimes you just have to let go of things. (Easier said than done!!)\n\nI also find it helpful to talk with someone. Let someone else know how you are feeling. Talk about what is stressing you out. Chances are someone else has gone through a similar event. While they may not be able to help you now, knowing that they survived will help relieve some of your stress.
288002
Hmmm.... it happened to me..\n\nI am considered to be a cool headed person.. who does not get angry / agigated easily (me not bluffing :-D )..\n\nSometime back... I used to get agigated / irritated rather easily and in no time.. and it began happening often.. my friend.. pointed it out.. \n\nFirst time.. I said.. I denied.. and got hyper... etc etc...\n\nIt happened again.. and he pointed out... I denied again.. but this time did not defend myself.. I realised.. I was wrong..\n\nThat did not mean that it did not happen again.. but whenever it happened he was quick to jump on me.. And boy! do I love him for that... that has brought me back to (ab)normal ...
623289
Often times, anger is hard to get rid of because it stays there until it comes out in some kind of physical way. At least that works for me. Here's something you really might want to do. Don't take an anger management course just yet, but find ways to relax. Stress usually eats at you until you get angry at the world. Relax and enjoy life because you only get to live it once. If that doesn't work, go vent your anger in a way so that you can get stronger too, like swimming or tennis. Just don't use your awesome skills on someone else, just your own stuff. :)
1005434
I won't tell you that you need a life because I think you already know that. Your anger for them will eat you up on the inside. What do you get out of all this? Pleasure or just waiting to see if they break? I really believe you need to seek some help for your anger problem. Why do they deserve this????
483974
You need to stop being so angry.  Get some help!!!
974777
You are alot like me, I feel that way all the time, I think it's because of an anger built up, and being mean and hateful is the only way we can deal with it. There isn't anything wrong with being mad, it's when you really hurt someone that you really care about that will get you , and myself in trouble , the only thing I can think of is that we need to find something entersting to do. I'm a stay at home mother and I really don't like being in the house all day, but I have to because I just had a baby and I have a 3 year old, There is never anyone to talk to, when my husband gets home, I'm tired and so is he, but my day doesn't end there. But yes I to am a angry woman. Good Luck to you and I hope you find peace, I know that I'll be looking for also.
634437
You have some problems in your past that is ruining your future. You need to figure out why you are so angry. I hope you find some help before your family falls apart. Get some counseling and have a nice life.\n\nGod Bless.
414896
yeah it used to make me so angry!\nthe way i've learned to deal with it is make it very apparent that there is certain stuff I won't put up with. for the past 3 years i have taken no nonsense from guys i've dated. if someone lies to me, or i can tell is using me, i call him on it. i let him know it's unacceptable and i don't keep those types of ppl around. i am not a mean person; i will do almost anything for people in need and i don't look for fights but when i have someone close to me i do not want them to be treating me badly and i won't stand for it. because of this, everyone who knows me now knows i won't be used (a few years ago this guy used me 'til the cows came home.. thank goodness i will never go through that hell again!)\n\ni would be angry at myself and at them for using me. i've turned that frustration into motivation to keep my life and relationships cleaner and healthier and always think "do i really want this (how the person's treating me) in my life? is this good?"
1170995
Move on forward, don't waste strength on focusing on that anger. Surely you'll find a better one, TRUST ME.
913422
Take a pillow, put it over your face and scream as loud as you can (this helps me a lot) or write out your feelings in a journal or a letter to the person that is making you so angry or upset, then burn it. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me. I went through a lot of things when I was a teen and may be able to help. I wish you the best and I will pray for you.
988583
Well, this is kinda hard, but there is hope. I had a similar problem. I didn't used to know how to deal with my anger. I hid it and covered it and blew up at stupid times, until finally I did something I really regret. My gf hit me so I hit her back, and I went to jail. She could have left me, I deserved it, but she stuck by me. She helped me turn my life around and now we are happily married with a beautiful baby boy, 4 months old. we've been together for 5 years, married for 3, and it's great. But it wouldn't have been if I didn't go to counseling and get the help I needed (that took some time to realize too, over a year of meetings once a week for a few hours in group therapy), and if she wasn't strong enough emotionally to deal with it. We've proved our love over time, and we've never been happier. So stick in there IF he's willing to fix how he handles his emotions (anger is a motion, just like happiness or sadness, etc). The number one ingredient that has made the long term difference in all our problems/challenges, is having God at the center of our life. Without him, we both have been too weak at times, and would have fallen apart. With him, our love will never fail!
870299
have you tried going to  a karate school, this is a good way, as it helps you master self control.plus you can kick a punch bag and vent your emotions that way.  Or, go for a long walk examine in you mind why who and what is upseting you and figure out ways of preventingthem from happening again.
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Use the same things in your mind that help you to relax.Good thoughts usually.Remember that we are not always right, and what would it be like if you could learn something from all this. It takes a lot more of yourself to abstain from getting angry when you havre this problem. look to anger management groups they are there to help. Have a nice day!
537012
Go to a friend (I can think of one right now) and let your steam out at that person.  That will help you straighten things out in your head and prevent you from unleashing yourself in such a violent manner.  Personally I think what you are doing is better than bottling it up inside; for then that could lead to hidden rage and then finally you could snap and just kill someone or something! Still though I highly hope you take my advice, it doesn't even have to be to the person I'm thinking of.  Just know that the person will not judge you and will give you his/ her input.  Don't worry it isn't a counselor, doesn't even want to have that as a career option.  That person just wants you to be happy.  There is no hidden agenda. Don't all friends want their special friend to be happy?