Why is it, when you try to help out you get dumped on?
347590
no good deed goes unpunished.\n\nsounds like this "friend" is just an a$$ who is probably embarrassed and angry at himself for the situation they are in and looking to vent...thats no excuse though.
235288
I have almost the same problem,, and I know that even sometimes I help people so much and NEVER get something back,, most of the time i do not feel good! what I am doing now is I do say YES only to the people who deserve it,, my friends, family ,... people who really care for me,, try it step by step,, and keep in your mind,, NO BODY CARE FOR YOU AS MUCH AS YOU CARE FOR YOURSELF,, so put yourself first and all the others second,,
539758
When they never want to just hang out without needing anything other than your companionship. If they always seem to come up with a way you can help them out and they don't ever seem to want to offer to go out of their way to do something for you then you have a pretty good idea that whether they realize it or not, they are just using you like a resource.
1837
It's a matter of having confidence in yourself.\n     Let me help you out. Your scecial,a really good person, who wouldn't be interested in you?\n     Just do it, and if by some crazy chance they aren't as interested as you would have hoped, well that's just their LOSS, RIGHT?\n\n                 NOW GO AHEAD,AND GOOD LUCK!
692955
wow just think you get online and you are down in the dunps and you ask for some encouragement and people you do not know offer it to you never asking for anything in return .i think that right there is enough encouragment for anyone to realise that there is always good outthere.remember you are never alone in this world ,there are people out there who care for others no matter what.you are proof of that if people didnt care they wouldnt answer.i have no words to say to you to help you the reason being i dont know what the problem is so as to give you appropriate encouragement .but just think in the fact that there are people who care about others  everywhere and to have one touch your life is a great and wonderful thing and keep it going touch someone elses life with the same and maybe we can get it out to everybody out there who needs a comforting word and gentle embrace .
409474
Above all, I think that nobody can be helped if they don't want to be helped, or if part of them doesn't want to be helped.  But, if someone sincerely wants help and is willing to expend whatever effort is needed on their part to help themselves as others help them, then it is always possible.  Help is always a joint effort between those that offer their advice or services and the person who needs them.
508434
i am so like u. u don't need to stop helping.But Yes stop answering ppl right away when they need u. first let them realize who u are and how much helpful u have been. try that. some times u might have to stop helping those selfish ppl. but that doesn't mean ur not helpful. u need to help where someone really needs u. don't let them take advantage of u. when they come to know the reality they'll learn a lesson. and don't loose hope.
35879
Some people actually think that they are helping.  There are the types of people you can tell to stay out of your life, and those that just wont no matter what you say.  Its part of life.  When dealing with others you have to do just that, deal with it.
81000
You should be asking yourself this. I think it has something to do with what is inside of you...its also difficult to deal with someone elses rejections. if she is rejecting you then why bother to torture yourself anymore and just move on...really there are plenty of fish out in the sea.
1072297
Personally, I think either one of two things has happened.\nEither:\nOne-You've presented yourself in such a manner that others feel comfortable approaching you for help.\nOr\nTwo-You've helped others in the past to the point that you are now allowing them to take adavantage of you.\n\nAfter all with a few exceptions no one can take advantage of you unless you let them.
467173
Why are you so sad? If this is from a relationship then you have to realize that all of them will work the way we would like, if due to something else and the sadness doesn't go away then you need to seek help//////////////
258416
you deserve better...look for someone who can give you what you need.
60826
To help us.  Let's face it, no one is good at everything, no matter how smart the person is.  We all need each other.   When you help someone, another "someone" will help you when you need help.
1014521
guess,you should stop reaching out to him,and see if he cares he would turn around or  pass him,i do understand its very tough when you care,but why should you put yourself under his  feet to be trampled with your feelings.... i am going thru the same just getting stronger
706027
Just hang in there.  It sounds like you tried to do the right thing by trying to help someone out and got taken advantage of.  It's okay to feel bad about that and pissed too.  Someone else's awful behavior shouldn't make you feel like you shouldn't exist.  I know that doesn't really help sometimes.  All I can say is that a lot of us have been in similar situations and you just have to ride this out, write it out or do something to get it out of your head.
226514
When i know and can see somebody is really true in the heart and really in a bad situation i try my best to help.  I may not have all the money to do so but i try to and even though i dont give a lot, i think its better than nothing.  I see people in poverty and imagine what it must be like being in their situation and my heart just breaks.  If i ever win lots of money, i will rather help those in need.  Thanks for having a kind heart!
1132710
Not picking up after yourself. Saying you're going to help and not helping.