My mom wants to marry a someone?
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Love isn't something you can just snap your fingers and it appears. It takes time. It takes getting to know him... doing things with him.\n\nThere is this fabulous thing called bonding. When we are born we automatically bond to our parents.... birth or otherwise. It is a survival tactic at that point. Then time moves on and that bond becomes stronger... deeper... emotional. \n\nWhen you are talking about loving someone whom you meet at an older age it takes time. A couple of months is not going to cut it. It may take years. Sometimes it never happens.\n\nIt seems like you like this man and would like to love him, so my bet is you will get to the point where you love him. If you are a girl... one day he will be the person by your side walking you down the aisle. If you are a boy... one day you will look to him for all the sage advice your mom has no clue how to give. Either boy or girl... one day you will call him dad. \n\nDon't try to force it... just spend time with him. Include him in the things you like to do. Try to participate in the things he likes to do. Talk to him. Make up a problem... true or otherwise and let him guide you along the right path towards resolution. This will help him feel like he is your father.\n\nRemember you are not the only person who is trying to cultivate a parent/ child love for this relationship.
1009367
Tell her to ask her mother.
683862
If you love this man then by all means marry him. If you allow your mother to rule your love life you will be miserable for the rest of your life.\nMy mother hated my boyfriend. I met him when I was 13, we got married when I was 19 and have been married 10 years now and together 16! My mom still isn't too fond of him, but has learned that he isn't going anywhere and she just has to deal with it. \nGood Luck.. hopefully your mother will come around and see that he makes you happy.
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Sit down and tell her how much she means to you and how important it is to have a relationship with her. Then, show her the printout of this and your question and all the other answers here.  This could be the start of an open communication between the two of you.\n\nBest to you and your mom.
639895
if shes not married and shes not your mom then why not
242721
Your family wants you to get married or they just speak about it often? I am not really understanding what you mean. If you want to find a girl to marry than you have to get out to meet them....Lady
161206
why would you want to be with someone you don't want to marry? Your wasting your time as well as hers. You should let her find someone who will want to marry her.
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NOOOO, don`t ever make him decide. If he chooses than it needs to be without YOUR help!\nI think his mother was way out of line with that comment. Try not to worry too much about it, it sounds like you have a great boyfriend there! If you want you can have a talk with her and tell her that you didn`t mean to "step on her toes", you are simply in love with her son and wanted to be with him on this important day.
263795
TELL HER YOU DON'T GIVE A FU*CK WHAT SHE THINKS AND THAT YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO YOUR MAN. AND THEN IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GET TO LIKE OR KNOW YOU WELL THE HE*LL WITH HER YOU DON'T GIVE A FU*CK. I MEAN DAM*N HOW MUCH OF A BI*TCH DOES SHE HAVE TO BE. TELL HER TO GO FU*CK SOME DI*CK AND CHILL OUT AND STOP BEING A BI*TCH. MY HUSBANDS MOM WAS LIKE HER SHE ALWAYS HAD HIM MAD AND WHEN HE GETS MAD HE IGNORES EVERYONE FU*CK I DIDN'T DO SH*IT. SHE WILL JUST KEEP GETTING HIM PISSED OFF ALL DAY! TELL YOUR MAN THAT EITHER SHE STOPS BEING THE WAY SHE IS TO YOU OR YOU GO AND IF YOU LOVE ME YOU WILL TELL HER TO STOP THAT WETHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO HIM AND THAT'S IT!!!!!!
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She can't be asking you to choose for no reason at all. Either she fears for your safety with this guy or there's something wrong with her mentally. Not trying to be funny, but parents just don't refuse their children be happy unless they have mental issues. You should sit down and talk to her to find out why and make your decision from there.
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If the two of you are truly in love than it should be no problem for the two of you to continue as you are for one more year until you are of a legal age to do as you please. Your mom is just trying to protect you. It's her job. Don't fight it. Spend this year enjoying each other's company and growing closer together as a couple. Then, when you're 18, ask for your mother's blessing. I understand the urge to rush out into this wonderful new life (speaking from experience) but as a couple you should honor your mother wishes and just wait it out. One year out of a lifetime of happiness will be a drop in the bucket.
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Tell her; and stand firm in your resolve to wait until you are married.  It is too bad that you had to learn the hard way that alcohol and casual sex are not all they are cracked up to be.  It sounds like you are basically a good girl.  Tell your mom, she will help you get through this.
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I would like to get married. It would be my second marriage, but the first was such a strange one, I can barely remember it. (I didn't know that guy very well.) Here's my humble advice about marriage: Wait until it gets really "hot". And, along with that, don't marry someone because your parents think you should or because he has the right qualifications. Marry him because you can't live without him otherwise, because you simply "can't" imagine life without him. Good luck. I think it's a noble aspiration and a worthy goal in life.
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I understand that you would like to have your family unified on your religious beliefs, as well, as the little grandchildren to come.  Who wouldn't?\nHowever, if he already knows your feelings, and they are still getting married, you have to put your feelings about this aside and just accept her.  I'm sure you don't want division in your family.  It isn't what you wanted for your son, but he has made his decision.  If she isn't a criminal, or will hurt your future grandbabies, or something like that, you just have to love her, and accept her in your family.
887045
Go live with him and live happily ever after. Your mom is being ignorant. Your mom needs to realize your an adult and you will do whatever makes you happiest and she can take it or leave it.
720030
Is religion the reason that your parents don't accept your relationship? If so I would sit down with each set of parents separately and come to some sort of agreement. Many family are multi-denominational, get involved in both churches. If you need to divide your weekends every month in order to fully appreciate both families beliefs and ideas then I think that would be a very worthwhile thing. \nTo be sure that the barrier between the two of you is religion I would start with speaking to my mother about it. Take a moment when it's just the two of you and have a heart to heart. \nTake things slow, decide what is most important to the two of you and go from there. No one can decide another person's destiny.\nGood luck!
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some say "if you love them let them go...if they come back it was meant to be" but you see, maybe her parents are "controlling" her...i had the same thing happen to me when i was younger..we both waited until i gradutated and i sat down and talked to my mom...i told her, you always told me to follow my heart, and not let anyone tell me what to do...i love ***** and he is my heart and you can either accept him or not it is your choice.....she and my husband are friends....i was with him for 6 years before we finally got married, i am married to him now and i still feel the love like we just began dating! maybe you should talk to her and find out how she feels!