GUYS: how can i get my boyfriend to want to be with me for a long time with out getting over me?
338563
First of all DO NOT quit your job over himIT sounds like you really like him. So keep him happy make him want to be with you. Don't let him do what ever he wants thougb, this could tell him that you think its aright to look at other girls and stuff.
815669
Try to see if he will commuicate with you.  If he isn't will to at least listen  to you or  try to work it out then he isn't woth having.  One of the key things in a realationship is communication as well as compromise.  If he can't give you that then you need to let go.  I know it will be hard.  Breakups always are.  But just remember there are other fish in the sea.  You need someone who will respect you as well as be able to compromise and communicate.
788813
Give some subtle hints, create a pre-existing "boyfriend" if necessary. If unsuccessful, just tell him you don't think you are well suited. It will save you both some time.
564882
How much time has passed?  If he's not willing to commit, then he's probably not right for you if that's what you are ready for. You can hang on for years with him, or get on with your life and find someone who will really value you, and want to make that committment.
1003294
i know the feeling girl... i guess i should just ask you to let it go. let time take its course... i had the same situation, we didn't get the closeness back, it didn't matter what i do anymore... he hardly ever speaks to me now... i'm not saying you'll end up like us... just to avoid getting hurt, move on and let time decide for you... if he's for you, then no matter how long it takes... love would find its way and fate would bring you back together...
433479
Different things for different people.\nHere is some general info.\nMake sure he is the center of your world, he will notice. make sure you tell him when he is doing things that feel good to yo and when to do it more.\nMake sure you ask what pleases him, did he like that, does he want more of that or do it a different way.\nBefore and after let him know that you want him, that you need him, that you will do eventhing he wants so that he never needs anyone but you.\nAnd mean it. Don't back out of giving him your all.\nyou don't want him to go looking for what he wants.
139205
Treat him with tons of respect, and let it be clear to him that you care about him, with gestures and the things you say. Just be you, and make him want you at someitmes, because if he puts in the effort to do it then he must care also.
781390
Wow,first off,if you have been dating for over 2 years..you're doing a fine job to me. Secondly,don't worry about "keeping him interested" because in all honesty,you will focus more on keeping him around,and forget about why you love him,and why he loves you..and end up hurting the relationship. Just relax,and realize he has stayed with you the past two years of HIS life,when he had the chance to break up with you. Enjoy his love,and just continue to love him back. I wish you the best of luck,and hope nothing but the best for the both of you!
1142593
6 years is pretty long and yet he does not want anything serious. Obviously you both want different things. Whats' the point then? Perhaps you grow too comfortable with him not necessary content. Time to move on and look for someone different.
220038
Yes, find someone that wants to share and create memories with you.  If you are important then he will create time. Now you are just entertainment
119865
OK...i will guess you have been dating about a year, give or take a couple of months.  This is the fork in the road of your relationship.  Almost all guys do this at the same time.  They get scared and feel trapped, so they want to break-up for a while.  Give him a few weeks and he will either come back loving you more than ever ready to go all the way, or he won't come back.
237848
I think your right.  I think you need to make a stand and force him to decide if he really wants a relationship with you or not.  You need to find out so you can move forward with your life and find happiness either with him or with out him.
201018
give him a chance to breathe and think on your relationship. if you want him in your life you have to be mature enough to let him decide if he wants to be with you; if you're bringing drama to the relationship and he broke up with you because of it, at this point you have to let him decide if he REALLY wants to be with you. I was in a relationship like yours and he decided to come back to me. I always have to be careful of his feelings due to our past but if your gut wants to be with you let him. if he doesn't let him go, it'll only help the both of you in the long run...
751212
It could be either. Relationships are tricky. Especially when it's hard to break the chains between the two of you. If it's been over for 6 months though, and he has not asked to get back together with you, then he might just be looking for and craving the attention and good feelings that you give him. Remember, you are not his consolation prize. I would tell the guy to either shape up or ship out. I'm sure he did leave something great, - I'm also sure you deserve someone who knows what they want. My ex did this to me for a long time and I hung on because I still loved him very much - but he wasn't still in love, he just wanted the attention and affection that I gave him. He wanted me to keep his ego afloat. Stop giving this guy attention and see what he does. Then if he starts to call and come over, either don't let him, or tell him to make a choice. You need communication. Ask him what his intentions are.\nRespect,\n-laura
720130
If after two years he states this to you, he obviously knows what he wants.  I know it hurts, but you can go on.  You may be lonely and want this man or a relationship, but think about this.  Try to involve yourself in other activities such as volunteering to give yourself that sense of pride that no one, not even a man can take away from you.  Move on.. one day at a time.  perleo@yahoo.com
408762
dont give in to him..... if you're not ready, you're not ready. If he doesnt understand that, hes being selfish and is only thinking about himself. the first person you should be taking care of is you and not anyone else. Make yourself happy  before anyone and everyone will be happier seeing you happy. If you ask me any guy that has to pressure you in doing something you dont wanna do isnt worth your time. its better this way in the long run. Dont lower your standards for anyone or else you are just disapointing yourself. If that was me i would let him know how i feel and if he is still pressuring me, i would drop him cause right off the bat he is thinking "me me me" and not "us"  and it takes 2 to tango. last time i checked it was called being a couple. Hope this is helpful. Much love
934220
Don't wait forever. Move on... If you were together for a couple of years it might take you while to get over it.