What do you do if you feel your mom is after your man!?!?
346395
Confront her... If he knows you have access to his mail, then he's not trying to hide it, so she is the one who is after him, face her with what you've seen, this may wake her up !!
416535
yes it is. i bet ur a man. women are always more protective over their sons. now that ur engaged ur mom could feel like she is loosing you. \na good idea would be for the three of you to sit down together and talk this through. you need to explain to both of them how much this is hurting you. reassure both of them that you love them both equally. \ncan i tell u a sad story. my dad did not get on with my mums mum (my gran). so wen my gran got sick my mum was forced to choose between them. my mum and dad ended up divorced and now i hardly even no my dad. you have to ask urself this...do u want to sort this out NOW and live a  happily married life?? or do u want 2 end up like my parents? think about it! remember communication is the key and although it may seem impossible u cud look back at this one day and laugh. anything is possible if u have a little belief. remember u have to be strong and let ur voicve be heard! u r not happy about their relationship and u need to let them know! All the best xx
779892
You both sound very much in love. How about asking him to move and buying/renting his mom a place close by, that way you'll be in your comfort zone and able to deal with her from a distance; and enable him to move? I think you're going to have to accept the fact that he'll never want his mom out of his life...as annoying as it is; the package comes with it.
119880
You need to get joint counseling with your mom. DO IT SOON!
946427
Play it down, some mothers push their daughters into relationships and maybe your mom thought because he was at your place for Thanksgiving that the relationship is more than what you both want it to be.  Next time you see him just tell him your mom does that to you all the time to pressure you into forming a long term relationship.  Bye the way I find it a bit odd that your guy would take it so seriously, so he must be leary of committment to a certain extent.  Play the whole situation down and for your own sake ease off on the guy for a while if he really likes you he'll come around.  I feel badly for you though, it must have been embarassing. One other thing I'd have a chat with your mom and ask her to please never to put you in that position again.  Just tell her that you'll let her know when she's allowed to tell someone your dating that she loves him, sounds as if she was inviting him to be the "SON IN LAW" and he probably freaked.  Good luck
390194
no matter what your mom thinks follow your heart. my man left me last yr. i moved me and my daughter into my parents house a month later my man came back. my parents were supportive even tho they didnt think it was a good idea. now everyone is happy with each other. follow your heart! good luck!!
744804
u pretend like nothing happeneed u r just like him,if u and ur mom r close just sit her down and tell her, she'll b hurt but she will appreciate ur honesty
623820
You have one mother. Men/women come and go and depending on the time in your life they maybe inappropriate anyway. Dont ever ditch you mother for one who may make you feel good for a few seconds. They might seem like the best thing since sliced bread but they are not worth it. If you are having conflict with your mother over a partner then there is possibly a very good reason - parents do not go through life "blindfolded", so give them some credit and remember who gave birth and/or raised you.
767935
Tough situation, but the mother-in-law always seem to win.  Don't feel guilty for not going out with someone who makes you feel unwanted.  Since it's your husband we are talking about, don't you get to spend time with him anyway away from his mother?  He's your husband and you can have your way with him  anytime you want.  Stay home and wait for him, speak to mom, and keep it simple.
494630
Your mother is involved in a cult of personality.  I wonder how old you are.  You need to get away from this "man"\nbefore he turns his "purification" on you.  Please tell someone who can help you, like a real church person, or the authorities.
1072449
tell him exactly what you just said, i see no offense in that. and as a compromise, just tell him that you are willing to live close to her, so he can check up on her as often as he wants to. but i think that especially as newlyweds, you will need your time alone. best of luck. and by the way, most guys are mommas boys (im one too) so dont expect him to let go of his mother, i doubt that will happen, but you should see the good in that. because most guys that love and respect their mothers, tend to treat their wives the same way.
419547
You can't. Even when you do get out of the house. She's still mom and she's going to always tell you how she feels about things and 9 times out of 10, she's right. She's only looking out for your best interest. I understand what you are going through. I'm grown and my mom still be in my relationship.
107097
Watch how he treats his mother.  In most cases, that is how he'll be treating you down the road.  Make sure he's respectful towards her and you'll know that he has the ability to be good to you also.
313455
No, women want a man that respects his mother, but doesn't let her walk all over him!!  Women with comman sense, a woman worth your time, will judge how you will treat her by how you treat your mother.  If she thinks is good that a man allows his mother to run all over him, she is just looking to do the same to you and is no damn good.  If, on the other hand, you treat your mother with love and respect, but also don't allow her to run your life, the woman you are interested in will know you have a backbone and will respect you so much more
814774
Your mom is looking out for you. You should not be allowed to do what ever you want. Do you see the news at all these days.  There are a Lot of things going on, even with people  you trust and you think they would never do some of the terrible things that they do. No one else will care for you and love you as much as your parents. You may not see it now, but when you get older you will appreciate that you had parents who looked out for your best interest. You are at the age were most children don't like much of what the parents say or do. With that said I do not think it is right for you mother to call you stupid. Try to talk to your mom about the name calling. Tell her how it makes you feel.
188824
oh, my god are you in love if not you are totally lve sick if you can't talk to them why don't call ,write a letter or email him. why don't you talk to your mom and tell she that you have boy problems it the best thing to do just don't let boys use you. make the boy talk to your mom before going out with him.
323167
He is in the wrong in this situation. It is not your fault that your mom got in the middle of something an could not control her words. If he is mad at you for something as small as this then he is not worth it. Even if you do love him, he does not have the right to make you feel bad like this. just make sure that his cuz understands that it was not you. You also have to remember that you are a strong, beautiful woman and the he should be honored to even be friends with you! :)