Why won't my boyfriend marry me after he's asked me several hundred times?
355316
I have been with my fiance for almost 8 years now, and he also spoke about wanting to marry me for such a long time. We are also from different backgrounds/countries and we have a ten year age difference (he is older). \n\nNow that I am ready for it and am continuing my education (law school), he somehow does not even want to approach the topic. I guess it is like our mother's would tell us: why buy the milk when you can get the cow for free. lol Or something to that effect. \n\nIf we love our men and our patient, we will get what we want. If they are lucky, we may still want them then! :o) Men have insecurities just as women do, and maybe the money issue is something relevant for the two of you. Just like my fiance is insecure about me becoming a lawyer and he is just a "regular person". Oh well, we will just wait and see. Good luck though!
687083
I was engaged to my husband for four years.  We have now been happily married for almost 10.  We took our time, because there were children involved and we didn't want to put them through divorce again.  However... we were sure we wanted to be together and married from the moment he gave me the ring.  Maybe you should give the ring back and tell him to propose again when he is sure!  If you love him and hold out hope, you two could keep dating.  This would just make it very clear to him that he needs to "poop or get off the pot".  Give him a little time, some men tend to need a little kick in the butt.  GOOD LUCK!
400979
There is no way to MAKE him propose to you. If he is not ready, then you should not make him ask you because it will end in heartbreak, no doubt about it. You can let him know you are ready by telling him, so he can think about it on his own terms. When, and if, he is ready, he will ask. Do NOT do anything that makes him feel guilty or make him think he has to or else (unless you honestly consider it worth the risk to lose him, then you can give him that ultimatum). \n\nRemember, this is not just about you. He is also apart of this. He needs to be comfortable and happy with asking you, and this is something he will so when and if he is ready. Have you two already talked about getting married? If so, then its a matter of time. Maybe he is saving up to buy the ring, or waiting for a special time. If you have not discussed it already, bring it up. Ask him if he wants to marry you someday (don't put a time limit on it just yet) or if he can picture a future with you. If he says yes, maybe over time discuss it more. If he is not sure, give him time. Let him know you love him and would love to spend your life with him, but you understand he needs his time. Never rush him, since he may do it to make you happy, but later call off the whole wedding because he is terrified and not really ready. What would you prefer, waiting to get engaged later and him being completely ready for the commitment or asking now and calling it off months later, ruining your whole relationship just because he felt rushed?
788395
The next time that he brings it up just tell him point blank you are not ready yet, and if he would just relax a little about it maybe you will feel more comfortable getting married in the future. Just be sure to let him know that you do not want to loose what the 2 of you have now.
354589
It sounds as if he is not ready to marry just yet. If this is okay with you than stick with him, but if you want to marry and start a family you might have to come right out and say hey we have waited long enough and if he gives some excuse then it might be best to re think the situation...Cejay
1118004
I wouldn't keep waiting....it sounds like he's just dragging you along.  You've waited a long time.  Break up with him.
710137
If you love each other you should get married, then have a kid. Why hasn't he asked you to marry him yet?
1051384
I asked my bf to marry me, he said no, I lived happily ever after.
8427
Why in the world would you agree to this?  If he is worth marrying he will wait and you should wait.\n\nResponding to youknowit below:  All the more reason to wait and have a nice wedding.
1140008
He is just saying that to keep you, he knows thats something YOU want. He most likly doesnt want to get married and if he does not right now. Either you keep letting him ignore you or tell what you want  and follow through dont except anything less than what you deserve, but pressuring him would be the wrong thing to do. I think you should just let him know how you feel and then determine if he is worht waiting for, dont let him slip away if you know he is a good guy.!!!!
651848
You don't have to ask 8 times. He wont marry you. Sorry.
832061
yes it seems as though you are rushing a bit! just because you fooled around doesn't mean you are prepared to get married. and is he saying he wants to marry you to get into your pants? i would wait awhile before you make the commitment, because it sounds like it would be a failed marriage! wait atleast a year!
1001036
I say there should never have been a 2nd time.  ever heard the saying. "Fool me once-shame on you, fool me twice-shame on me"  Stand your ground and don't let it happen another time. Because it's getting easier and easier for him to do it knowing that he has done it this many times already and your still there to go through it.  Let him know what he's lost and don't budge. If you stay in this relationship your pretty much begging him to do it again. Sorry but thats a true answer.  Good luck in the choices you make.
927680
He likes the fantasy...and if truth be told, we all have our own fantasies..there is nothing wrong with that. But most times fantasies are best kept to ourselves...it rarely serves any one well to share them with our partner.\n\nWhat IS definitely wrong is if he keeps asking you once you've told him no. Let him know it bothers you and that you find the question disrespectful to you AND your relationship. If he really loves you he will understand that and learn to keep his fantasies to himself.\nIf he keeps asking, he may not be the guy to plan your future with hun.\n\nxoxoxo
376473
You need to ask yourself if this is someone your gonna keep waiting on. My granny use to say crap or get off the pot. It doesn't sound like he want to get married to you but he doesn't want anyone else to either. Maybe he doesn't realize what he has, you usually don't until you don't have it no more.
684703
I heard from a guy once that after 6 years if he didn't ask you to marry him he most likely never will.  Either because he does not believe in marriage or he just doesn't see it with you.  So if that is really what you want and you are over 26 yrs old you can either give him an ultimatum but you need to stick to it or just keep being his 'girlfriend'.  But if you stay with him make sure it's not because he just doesn't see it with you because he will leave when he finds the one he sees it with.  So make sure you take care of yourself 1st.
660569
Well, we got engaged, then married, and then bought a house.  \n\nYou need to discuss this with him.  He might be of the opinion that he's getting all the "benefits" of marriage without the committment, so why get married?  Ask him what's stopping him from marriage.  You have a right to know these things.