I am gay, why is dating so hard?
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One reason, I believe, is that the appetite for sex seems so overwhelming in gay males.  (Have no idea what the lesbian focus on sex is.) If you are new to the scene, and are exploring and trying to figure things out, this inordinate focus on sex makes things extremely difficult.  Just regular socializing without the intent to "hook-up" is nearly impossible.  Everyone seems to have an angle ending in a sexual situation.  Sheesh.
269489
Become Gay.... Other Wise Get Used To It
26582
Dont' worry girlfriend!I was in the same boat as you before.I did the bar scene, all my friends were in relationships, and that's what i wanted desperately.So, i would settle, and i got losers.Alot of guys would hit on me, but i just wanted to date, than i would call them back after, and they had a girl.Too late.So, in that time, I just felt out who i was, what i wanted, and focased on my career. That's when i thought, hay, i can just weed out these guys who just wanted a good time.Well, it worked.I wasn't looking for a guy.My true love had found me.When you are least expecting it, it will hit you in the ass.What i am saying is, relax, and it will come.Do not be desperate, and settle. He will find you! Get out there and do stuff that you like, and he will be there waiting for you.Good luck!
797236
You maintain your self and still be a nice person. Others will see that you are mature about it. You and he may want to date in the future but in the meantime you should start looking for another fellow. ○
290777
Well im in the same situation well sort of anyway except im a guy and 21 . Basicly im not gay and would like a chick but at the same time not botherd and dont really have any interest at all .... wierd i know thats what everybody says .Im thinking maybee you have some issues that you need to sort out before you worry about other people . Maybee you have heard too much negative stuff about guys and have being put off or maybee not and you are just not ready yet . I would say to sit down with a piece of paper and write down reasons for having a geeza and reasons why not and then way it up and decide wheather you think its worthit or maybee not . I wish ya luck and try to let things flow .
468877
of course you will! You just have to give it some time and stop dating all the wrong guys. Your probably nice and cute so don't give up yet!
523673
Oh my!  Did u see my earlier question?  One answer had something to do with validation of yourself...she may be on to something...validation of your sexuality maybe.  The guy you have known is a comfort zone probably that you are falling back on...you said dating guy for 7 months, but you don't say love him... figure that out first and then maybe you can find your way...not sure how to answer...I am somewhat lost myself today.
472936
Ok, so I was in the exact same situation when I was your age (I'm 37 now).  I had a great gay friend tell me that I was gay.\n\nI was in denial, but I was also confused.  Take your time and let things work themselves out.  Don't be afraid to question your sexuality and don't let anyone try to influence you one way or the other.\n\nGood luck!
472615
A very vague question which lacks detail. There are hundreds of factors which could be a reason as to why you can't find a girlfriend. I for one for one would not think it is due to your location or your bisexuality.\nPeople who are straight often find it hard to find a lover living in highly populated cities. \n\nIf you believe in love as a in a fairy tale manner where fate and destiny decide for us then you will only need to be patient and yor are sure to find love.\nIf you are a person who believes that you make your own love, then perhaps consider yor approach to finding love...
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sorry for that rude answre. Give your self time. the dating scene is a little faster. I think if you go on a few dates, very simple ones, like coffee or something then you will get used to being out there again. It's scary and awkward but once you get the hang of it you will adjust!\n Good luck!
1014345
Yes, because you're a pathetic loser.  Dating really isn't that hard.\n\nUnless you're ugly or stupid.  Or both.
621129
poor you, well if he likes you ask him why? if you're not gay tell him. he will get over it some time, i hope!
1133899
Just wait sweety it will happen. I was like you thought that all decent guys were taken or gay. They are not, I have the best bloke in the world and he is my best friend too. We started off as friends and it just went from there! Good luck and be patient. xx
76184
You are just being allowed to date this year?  Dear lord...  welcome to the dating rollercoaster ride of ups and downs, highs and lows.  In this day and age, don't expect to settle down for at least a good decade or two.  I don't like anyone either right now.  Don't worry, the odds are that you will like many, many guys sometime between now and death.  So my advice would be to relax, and enjoy having your heart before someone comes and snatches it away.  I hated hearing this when i was younger, but it's true, there is plenty of time.
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hey bro,\n\naww man i feel your pain... your story kinda reminds me of some things ive been going though.. i used to be gay, and struggled with same sex attraction for years.  But yeah anyway long story short, God delivered me, after I accepted Jesus in my heart, and He took the same sex attraction away, so that was about a year and a half ago, and ive been straight since then and will be straight for good :)\n\nanyway yeah i know what it feels like to feel rejected sometimes... but hey just keep seeking God, and He will lead you to the ONE for you! I mean think about it, why waste your time on girls that dont like you , where there is that one waiting for ya.\n\nanyway i hope that helps, stay straight man, thats my best advice. Liking guys isnt good, and its not all its cracked up to be in the end,.\n\nGod bless
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Its harder than ppl think.  I am finally settled down with my girlfriend but it took me a nice while.  Just be patient.  Its hard out there but the out come is worth it.  Try going to clubs and gay and lesbian get togethers.  (bars really didnt work for me).  I actually met my girlfriend online. But that doesnt work for every one.  I wish you lots of luck!
424284
its a different kind of relationship...friendships are wonderful with gay men but it will never be the same as a boyfriend