he is shy and i am shy.  so we date with no touching or holding hands.  help?
353761
Assuming you have gone out a few times, he is into you. Just take a deep breath, grab him and kiss him. You will be glad you did.
111875
well it would help if you figured out why you are shy around him and than work on that. So if you are shy because for example you are scared what he might think of you than think well if he didnt want to be with you he wouldn't be so there isnt anything to worry. You are who you are and thats the way you find the one for you is by being true to yourself. Also let ssay you want to say something to him.. dont stay thinking about how you should say it or if you should as soon as it comes to mind say it so  you dont hae time to wonder if you should or should and your nerves would be there to torture you because you did it quick and got it out of the way.
212559
It's possible he's shy, yes. And or maybe nervous. What about, you say?? Maybe he really likes you (and loves, you too?) but isn't sure how trustable you are. Bear with him.
969562
This is a very tough situation, so please handle it with care.  First thing is, does he have a girlfriend, or something that he is currently seeing?  If he does, please do not make a move because it could jeopardize your friendship completely.  Second, you say you haven't spent a lot of time together until a few months ago, why is that, if you have known him for years?  I think if you are seeing more of him recently, you should just try subtle hints and see how he reacts... ie touching his arms more, flirting a little.  If the subtle hints do not work, you can just try being honest with him.  If he is your best guy friend, he will appreciate your honesty, and will respect you for it.
566535
I'm very shy, and it does seem like he likes you.  The thing is that he probably won't do anything about it.  You're going to have to make a move here, unless he suddenly loosens up or gains some confidence.  Why not ask him if he'd like to call you sometime?  Then you can give him your number.  You're the one making the first move, but you put the ball back in his court to either call you or not.  You can't do everything!
30579
if he only acts like that around you, of corse! he is almost scared that you will turn him down. tell him you like him, he won't feel shy no longer!
905869
Guys are funny. \n\nPerhaps you're right and you need to take the initiative... but perhaps he's not prepared to have a significant other in his life due to a variety of reasons- Immaturity, past relationships gone bad- whatever the reason.\n\nI think that asking to hang out is a reasonable request- but if he's as painfully shy as you say- he might say no. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you- he's just too shy.\n\nAlso something to think about- If you're outgoing (I don't know if you are or not...)- then is a shy guy really the best match for you?\n\nAt anyrate- getting to know the guy better is good no matter what- you might find that he's just not the type for you- or it could lead to him feeling comfortable enough around you to finally ask you out.\n\nBest of Luck!
262809
Sit the guy down, explain to him that you're dating him because you like him.  So he doesn't have to be shy or try to make you like him... because... you already like him.\n\nGuys don't always realize this for some reason.
453773
Because he is shy and u are waiting for HIM to make the move.  Thank goodness we live in 2006 and IT IS OK for u to make the first move!  He may be worried that you will slap him, or not want to kiss him back.  So if I were you just jump right in there and lay a lip lock on him that he will never forget!!!!!
212310
Don't worry if he doesn't make the first move.  He probably wants to but is just shy.  If you make the first move he'll really like it and it will reassure him.  Then he'll act more naturally.
1109399
It sounds to me as if he is quite shy. she should try to initiate another date and wait for his reaction. We live in the 21st century after all.
704599
If you're shy, you can start by talking to him about school, ask for homework help, stuff like that. After he's helped you, you can give him a little gift, or make him a thank you card. That'll show that you're interested in him without being pushy about it.\n\nIf you're really really shy, well, just smile at him whenever you can and find ways to get close to him, like join the clubs or classes he's in or get into projects with him. \n\nIf you're not shy, well, that's good, just go right ahead and ask him out. Don't be afraid just because nobody else is dating anyone else. It's your life and you must do what makes you happy.
32202
It sounds like he likes you, so if he is too shy to make the first move, it may be up to you to make it. Try asking him if he has seen, or wants to see  a certain movie that is playing. Then say you want to see it too, but have no one to go with... He might just get the hint, if not, then say, "Hey, why don't we go together!?" That way he will know you are not adverse to going out with him and from there, he SHOULD take it. Good Luck.
699388
I would prefer an arm around me at the movies. Because if you are holding hands, the guys usually start sweating. It makes a girl feel comfortable to lean on him (in your case, you) and it makes us girls feel safe and protected with her man holding her. Do you get what I mean??? Well good luck. I am so far guessing this is your first date. I hope everything goes well.
844281
Just step up and talk to him. He might be the shy one. He probably doesn't want to be the one to make the first move he doesn't want you to think he is just hitting on you.
763669
Try snuggling ONLY. Tell him (nicely, make up some excuse) that there will be NO sex, only kissing, cuddling, etc. for the next 7 dates or so.\n The pressure will be off and it may work wonders because he is having performance pressure for some reason.\nThe cuddling, hugging, loving, will give him time to become more relaxed with you. Most likely, he will be more than ready (and able) for sex before the end of your "no sex" dates are over.
759292
Try asking him out when he's alone. I like someone, but I'm kinda shy.