How can you tell if your feelings are love or lust?
337278
the only thing i can tell you is that if you love him then everytime you think of him it wont just be about sex. it will be about the things he does for you and says to you. not just the things he does while you have sexx with him
549529
I think the first answer you got is sooooo true. By you asking then you obviously not! If you were you would know it. It's a very hard feeling to describe and I think many people mistake lust for love, and many people will settle for less than what they deserve. When it comes your way you will know it with every bone in your body. Don't settle for being with someone to just not being on your own. There's a big diff between loving a person and being in love. You can love your family but you sure as hell not in love with them. All good things come in time, so be patient and it will happen one day. Just don't confuse lust for love, or loving someone and being in love....... There's a BIG difference.
1180713
first, realize that lust is only shallow.  then recognize that what your instincts are trying to tell you is that this person has the immediate traits you find to be good for propagation. Don't controll your emotions, they are there for a reason, just control yourself & don't get swept away.
1016099
well i don't know, it seems most people feel obsession or lust and mistake it for love. i think its not imagining yourself without that person. not remembering your life before them, and the melting feeling you get when you look into there eyes,,,but this is probably not so cause i haven't found it
90003
Lust is sexual but you can lust after someone you love or are  in love with but most times they are not associated with each other.Being in love is the discovery of your feelings for someone, it makes you feel weak and happy, scared and silly and when your in love you think that persons little idiosynchrosies are cute and you just have a high feeling everytime you see that person.You dare fate to take that person out of your life knowing you would put up the biggest fight to keep them with you. Love is a much deeper feeling. You know it is love when  you not only adore someone but also appreciate them. You see their faults knowing they see yours too and like you, accepts it as a part of who they are.Love is where you want to see the other one happy even if their happiness has nothing to do with you.Love is knowing when to let go and when to be there to catch that person  when they need it. \nWell, that's how I see it anyway....
30000
Lust is a chemical secretion of the brain that causes a physical reaciotion in several areas, this occurs by the senses being heightened, sight, smell, touch.  Love is emotion that develops over time getting to know someone.  SO..lust followed by love...if and when the relationship gets that far.
467611
lust is an evil thing ... feelings of lust and temptation are NORMAL as far as i'm concerned, it's when you act on them that causes trouble.  \n\nthink back to what intrigued of your current girlfrind.  rediscover those feelings with her ... if you are truly happy, this will not be a problem.
961927
There is a very significant difference in lust and love.......  \nTo lust after someone is not to love them....  \nLOVE is a deep incomparable emotion, so maybe what you think is love is only lust...  \nBecause love will make a way  into the heart and soul of those it is given to...\nBUT love has to be parallel with trusting them as well....  To love someone means you know you can trust them in all your vulnerabilities and not be afraid to let your heart illuminate your deepest fears........... ♥\nBest wishes to you ♥
394308
its a natural instinct to want to love/lust someone and since there are so many people that you have to use your hearts judgment ,and as you said, test the waters a bit seeking that one of your preference.
664344
While there's no clear, fool-proof way to decipher your feelings for someone, there are certain ways to make this distinction clearer for yourself\n\nWrite down everything that you associate with the person you're feeling strongly about. For example, love, butterflies, sex, holding hands, etc. \n\nCircle each attribute with a different color such as red for lust, yellow for infatuation, and green for love. \n\nSee which of the three feelings dominates the page. If one doesn't stand out (like if the distribution seems pretty equal), move on to the following steps for more insight.\n\nRead literature and scriptures on the topic. Questions about love are timeless questions that have consumed mankind throughout the ages and are a major theme in many scriptures, tales from mythology, and literature. Read the story of David and Bathsheba from Jewish scriptures, 1st Corinthians from Christian scriptures, the story of Ali and Fatima, Narcissus and Echo, or Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet\n\nAsk your friends or, if you find it easier, ask a complete and utter stranger, so that you get an honest opinion and an outsider's point of view. Tell that person how you feel, and ask them if it sounds primarily like love, infatuation, or lust. \n\nWatch a movie that relates to your situation like "Cruel Intentions" (which is about lust, and wanting what you can't have), "Down to You" (which is about love and leaving it all down to the other person), "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" (which is about none of them really but it's about making a mistake and putting it right), "The Phantom of the Opera" (which is about both lust and infatuation) and, finally, "Titanic" (which is about holding on to someone forever until you die - that is love - bittersweet love). \n\n\nKeep in mind that in most relationships, you're feeling all three (love, infatuation, and lust) all at once, to some degree. \n\nSometimes the person that you love isn't always the person that you want. \n\nTo help you make tough decisions about your relationship, ask someone you trust who has lots of experience with the kind of relationship you want for yourself. For example: \n\nSay you want to be happily married to one person for life. \n\nIf your parents have both been bitterly divorced three times, then they are probably not the ones to talk to. On the other hand, if they are about to celebrate their 50th anniversary of bliss together, then they may be ideal to learn from. \n\nLasting relationships are the those that are built on love -not infatuation or lust. Imagine the person you love in 50 years when they are old and fat. Would that change how you feel about them? If yes, then what you feel now is most likely lust/infatuation - not love. \n\nFriendship should also weigh into your decision to commit. \n\nIn 50 years, if you don't genuinely LIKE your mate, you're going to be miserable. \n\nWarnings \nIf you're not sure about your feelings or your relationship, take things slowly. Spend time apart and see how you are feeling while you are away. Do you miss the person? Or are you more attracted to others when you are apart?
807877
Love and lust are abstracts, meaning they are ideas and can differ from person to person. Below, is some of what the two mean to me:\n\nlust, is desire, hunger, wanting needing, even if that is wanting and needing to bring another pleasure because it brings the self pleasure, it is focus on ones own desire. \nlove focuses on one another. I say one another, because for me, one needs to have a view of their wants as well as the wants of the other because if they other loves back, then denying yourself could hurt the other, when one is only focused on being selfless, they can forget that the other might need them to not completely neglect themself, but if there is a healthy balance, then i think a healthy love can bloom. \n\nwow, i'm wondering if that even makes sense...\n\nBasically, i've known people who try to be completely selfless, and in doing so, they neglect the need of their lover who needs them to be emotionally healthy happy too, but they get so focused on being selfless, that they deny their love the security of knowing that their lovers lover is going to be healthy, happy, satisfied.\n\ni look forward to a delicious mix of the two :D\n\nhow do you tell them apart? what are their definitions to you? where do they differ in your own mind? finding those points of difference could help you tell one from the other, if for you there are differing aspects within your own mind.
731807
I definitely think it's possible to have strong feelings for more than one person.  We're only human.  But I think when that happens we have to make a concious decision about who we want to be with, and then move on.  Like, weigh their good and bad qualities, and see how you really feel about them deep down inside.  When you've made your decision, after considering every single aspect of it, then move on.  Don't what if, don't wonder how it would have been.  You CAN develop feelings for more than one person, but I don't think it's fair to keep dwelling on that if you're with someone.  Attraction happens, lust happens, feelings happen, but that doesn't mean we have to act on it if we're in a solid relationship.  Good luck! :o)
1084096
Love = the person loves someone for who they are, for the ideals, for the time they have had with and been enriched. The love is evergoing and it grows stronger.\n\nLove lasts longer than lust if it is true love.\n\nLust = is more to do with sex appeal, and when fulfilled in a moment of a minute or hour, it is lost. It is all about what the eyes sees from the outer not the inner of the person they are staring into or talking to.
206337
LUST IS  TAKING OVER. your emotions.
308145
True love? or a lustful kind of love?  There is a difference.\n\nTrue love?  The world stops around you when you look into the eyes of the one you love.  No one else, nothing else seems important, but the connection that is you share with this person.  And you can feel it in thier eyes.  As if when they stare back into yours, that they are saying without speaking, "I adore you, respect you, desire you, admire  you".  True love is when you connect on a level that makes you want to do everything you can to make that person happy, and that they do the same in return.  It is a powerful feeling, when the world stops around the two of you.  You will know it.\n\nLustful kind of love is much different.  Its the feeling that omg I have to have that person, they are so very attractive, and that I think I am in love with them.  Its a false true love.
19781
I could be in love, but the relationship is new and my physical emotions might just be playing with me.  I;ll know that im in love when i still feel this way but it doesnt feel like such a big deal.
163894
I think that the feeling of love is transfered in some transcidental way. Something like the induction in electricity. If you really feel love, a love is somethat infered in the one you love. So you don't need take action to show your love (if your intent is just love and nothing more :). Just be yourself :)