how do i heal a broken heart?
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Well first stop considering him and her to be your friend. Cause if he cared for you he wouldn't had left you. And if she was a real friend she wouldn't had went with him. You have to put your foot down. Stand up. You better go put one of Trina Cd's in and get motivated. Don't let nan nigga get you down. You is to good for that shit. You will be alright. Go to club and shake that ass. Get out and have fun. You will get over him real soon.
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I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
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How sad .......you lost the very first love you ever had because of someone you trusted ......... someone you had been kind and loyal to. You not only lost your first love, you lost a friend : two deaths.\nI think that it will be hard to resolve your feelings because there is no way to resolve the issue. You can't change the past.. Your relationship was interrupted. In order to heal from this tragic wound, you need to approach it the same way you would a death. You need to go through the stages of grief. There are some good methods outlines at : http://www.elderhope.com/e_class/new_grief/grief_2_2.html\nI am so sorry for your losses. \nI carried the unresolved loss for over thirty years, and then I called my childhood boyfriend (I found his phone number on the internet). I told him what had happened and we talked about it. We talked about our lives and families and things in general. About two weeks after our conversation, I woke up one morning and realized I was no longer thinking about him. I realized how happy I was that we never married. I was thankful my life had taken a different direction.\nI still feel pain about my friend who betrayed me. Her actions caused me to distrust people throughout my life. I wish I had had someone to help me go through the grieving process when I was young. Good luck. There is a different, better ending to your story. One day you will be happy about it because, if your boyfriend had been a purer person, he would not have abandoned you because of gossip.
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Don't know your circumstances but I will tell you what worked (eventually) for me. \n1. Pretend your ex has died. Sounds severe but forces you to forget about "getting back together".\n2. Make yourself absolutely un-available to the ex. Take comfort in knowing they will miss you. Be a mystery.\n3. Rid yourself (or at least attempt to) of your worst personal defect. Are you overweight? Any addictions? Unemployed? In debt? Pick one and do what it takes to fix it.\n4. Don't take heartbreak or the break-up too personal. I personally think testosterone (and estrogen)cause insanity.\n5. Remember this: You cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved.The rest is up to them. Go to link below for more like this.\n6. Above all, do something positive, for you.
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get out and do things with friends/family. \n\ngo to different places than you used to go with your ex.\n\ngood luck. \n\ntime heals.
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How to do not break my heart?
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The key to this is to keep your focus on... you.\n\nI'm sorry he broke your heart.  It's tough. My fiance broke off our relationship three weeks before the wedding-- and we worked together.  Turns out he was involved with someone else and like your guy,  he was "on top of the world."  I was underneath it somewhere.\n\n But, if you keep the focus on you, you'll be working on your depression.\n\nI embrace spirituality... not religious... and when you see this guy, maybe you can just say to yourself, "I forgive you... and I release you to the universe"  \n\nYou concentrate on being the best person you can be.  The rest... will take care of itself.\n\nOh, and take the high road.  Never let him see you depressed.  (Therapists may not agree with this,  but ultimately, it made me feel better)\n\nGood luck.
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You are hurt now.  \nIf you want to be hurt again, then forgive him.  \nIf you want to get over the hurt faster, then dump him and find someone to be happy with.
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I really know what you mean, and it is so hard. \nRemember that this is all from within you, thus you can fix it yourself too. \nYour broken heart will be whole again in the near future. \nTo speed this up you can do a few thing, and believe me they have helped me.\nDon't see the person if you can manage it at all, in a book they say about 2 months. I had to see my ex every day, and even make small talk with him on occasion. At the time I wanted to see him but looking back it has just made the whole process agonisingly harder. \n\nDon't wallow in self pity, go out, see your friends, excercise this will really help and when you see him in passing in the future you'll look great, but overall do this for yourself, because you must love you.\n\nIt always depends on you personnally, but I reckon that if you don't see him for a good amount of time, you will realise you can get along just fine by yourself. If you do see him or hear about how he is doing, this will make things ten times harder, so don't. \n\nHe missed out on you not the other way around, and you never do no what is around the corner, \n\nYou know you will eventually forget and move on\nI hope you don't suffer too much\ngood luck
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Instead of focusing on revenge, try focusing on moving on and healing.  Although it might seem like a good idea at the time, revenge is usually not a great way to get over a broken heart.
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No one here can help you truly heal. \nReading your question brings me back about a year ago when my relationship ended after about 4years together. I really thought that i was going to die. And all my friends kept on telling me that time would heal my heart and while i am waiting the time away i needed to just surround my self with friends and family and keep my self busy. All good and well and so i did and the time did heal me a bit i stop crying every night and i was able to get back into the swing of things however every now and again i am taken back to that time and i face that same pounding in my chest and that feeling of heaviness on my heart Anything can trigger it but i find that a song or a smell and of course the Holidays.. This will be the second thanksgiving apart now i am in a new relationship but i will never forget that one love of a lifetime.\nI wish you well and know that you are not alone in your hurting.. \nAnd one more time Only time can heal your broken heart.
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Cry as much as you need too. Reach out to others. Believe you aren't going to die from a broken heart and when you are ready keep your heart open to receiving lots of love and good wishes from others.
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I have had this happen to me, so i speak from personal experience.  When a guy has his heart broken, it is the worst feeling imaginable.  He feels lost, scared, alone, worthless, and completely shattered in body, heart, mind, and soul.  He is sure of almost nothing (although he often puts on a public persona to let people think that he is okay), when in reality, he is very sad and very down.  Depending on what happened, he may never take you back.........The heartbreak could have been more than he could bear.  For breaking his heart, you have lost his trust, as well..  You must rebuild this trust little by little, and you must show him that you will not break his heart again.  He must be convinced that his heart and soul is safe within yours , that his name is safe within your lips.  This will be very hard for you to accomplish............You must help to rebuild his heart, his soul, his mind, his confidence, his love, and his trust, among so many other things.  Give him a new (and true this time) sense of security.
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You cant mend a broken heart. Go ahead and feel the pain, by not getting to angry and dont put to much blame in his direction.\nFeeling the hurt will make you much stronger...and make it go away much faster. \nYou feel like you want to die...but I promise, you wont. It is something we all go thru at some time in our life and it hurts real bad. but just hang in there....it will get better!!!
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Pick up your broken heart and move on.  Pull yourself together man! =)
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Realize that for everytime you are hurt in life, it is helping you to become a stronger person. In the end, God will heal your heart and give you a new love, one of which will be so abundant you will not have enough room in your heart to receive it. It could even be the person that broke up with you, but maybe God has to work on that person and on you to make you perfect for each other. If not perfect for each other, He is making you and someone He will send to you perfect for each other. So just hold on, keep your head up, and have faith. Love will endureth in the end! You are in my prayers!
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good day to you,\n\n I understand what you are facing now. but you have to start first by asking forgiveness to the Lord our God and let him rule your life rather than you rule your own life. everybody had a mistake. but it's up to you to fix it. Try to reach God and feel His love deep into your heart. Talk to Him and it's more easier to overcome your problem by crying out all your pains while praying. His always there beside you and and never leave you all alone. He loved you very much simply because He still let see the brighter color of your life, grab this chance that He gave you. Then one day a big surprise will happen. God already touched your heart so don't let him go again. Pray everyday and let Him lead your life. And if you  do all this things, God will do the rest by healing your family's broken hearted.