Is there a link between violence in the world or at home and self-harm?
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The way you are brough up influences alot of decisions you make in life... if you saw your parents figting verbally or physically, you will tend to avoid all violence or walk right into it.... \n\nif you come from a broken family where no one cared, you tend to be dependant or violent... and mostly you feel not loved and have a tendancy to self harm\n\nMost people who self harm are just calling some attention to themselves... if we can see that before they self harm and give them some love, the world would be a better place.\n\nThese people have low self esteem and few friends/or negative friends.... you can break this and be their friend... even if they appear all negative, its just a mask they have on, beneath is a scared little person.\n\nI am a girl and i dont tolerate any violence. it is not good for a woman to slap a man and it is definately not good for a man to slap a woman.... remember a slap may turn to a kick which may eventually be deadly...\n\nBe a friend today
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There are a plethora of contributory factors that have led to the increase of violence among the youth in our society. Some of the most oft mentioned cases are associated with the increase in the violent content of movies, television, music, video games, etc. It is averred that these vehicles of entertainment have a desensitizing effect upon the impressionable minds of the youth. Children observe the indiscriminate violence portrayed in a fictional sense, and have difficulty distinguishing the actual effects of its application in reality.\n\nUndoubtedly, this desensitization process plays a role in the increase of violence. However, I believe we are just scratching the surface when we assert that this is the root cause of violence among the youth. In fact, we would do a disservice to our youth if we were to accept this assertion as the primary cause. I think the root cause lies much deeper.\n\nChildren have been witnessing violence in a fictional sense for decades....  To See  more click on link  below
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It might work for some situations, but for many world conflicts, "no." A lot of the world violence problems are power issues...not differences in belief systems...either the desire to have power/control over others or the desire to attain wealth/power.
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I used to ask myself that same question many years ago.  Why is it bad?  It isn't a healthy way to deal with anything because nothing gets solved, and you could end up doing serious damage to yourself, or even accidentally killing yourself.\n\nStopping is difficult, but very possible.  A lot of people I know, myself included, have found therapy to be helpful.  This doesn't mean being filled full of meds or being locked away somewhere, it means having a therapist to talk to, who will help you to solve the problems that are making you hurt yourself, and help you to find new ways of dealing with your pain.\n\nOne thing I found helpful was researching the topic...there are a lot of good, informative books out there on the topic, as well as many good websites.  Your mother does need to understand that self injury isn't something that can be stopped overnight, and that she's going to have to be willing to stand by you and be supportive while you are working your problems out.\n\nThis may sound dumb, but if you'd like more info on the topic, feel free to email me. aeshia_lugosi@yahoo.com
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I know where you are at. Self injuring is a way to deal with pain and hurt. It seems easier to deal with the physical pain of cutting than the emotional pain of your hurt. This IS normal, but try to find someone to talk to. I used to cut myself when I was younger. I had a tough childhood and some really rocky relationships with boyfriends. Cutting felt good. I am married now. I do not cut anymore or think about hurting myself. I have a beautiful baby girl who is 10months old. I spoke to counselors and friends. You may not think so now, but they can be so benificial to your healing. \nMy husband knows of my past and of my cutting. My scars are a reminder of what USED to be. I was really depressed. At times when I look at my scars, I wish I hadnt have taken that razor and sliced my beautiful skin. But I did. I did what I did. I talked to my friends and family about my pain and they accepted it. Your friends/family will come around. They are acting that way towards you now because they don't understand. HELP them understand. REACH OUT to someone. I have never met you but I can tell you that EVERYONE is beautiful and unique in their own way. YOU are OK! If you have a family physician, try talking to them. TEll them you are feeling depressed. They maybe able to prescribe something for the chemical imbalance. It's NOT YOUR FAULT that you are depressed. A great majority of the world is depressed. And go figure with all the crap thats going on in the world today.\n\nRemember....ITS NOT YOUR FAULT...and you are NOT a freak!\nTake care...it WILL get better...
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the other night you said you cut your hand on a knife, did you really do it yourself? ryan you need help honey. Its ok to see a therapist and get all the things out that you needed to say a long time ago
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No you are not weird for doing this. There are, it seems, quite a few people on here who do. The reason most people self harm is because they haven't found a way to self sooth. Like when we were kids and had our favorite blankie or stuffed animal. Some where along the way we forgot how to sooth ourselves in a good way. I believe many people self harm because they lack assertiveness. Being able to tell people how you really feel without feeling guilty or worrying your going to hurt them is important in allowing your feelings out instead of holding them in and hurting yourself. Don't be ashamed of your scars, if they are still there years later, once you have stopped someday, look them and it can be a reminder of where you were and where you will never go again.
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self harmers are very unlikely to hurt someone else - by stopping them from travelling you are infringing their human rights as they are unlikely to be a threat.\nSelf harmers hurth themselves by feeling alienated by society, by publicically alienating them you are making them worse, not treating the root problem.
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Cutting is an interesting action and one that causes great concern to a parent. I know kids that just outgrew the need.  If you have developedd the skills to cope without cutting yourself, it may be time to develope the skills to discuss this with your parents. You are the most important person to them and they are hovering because they do not want you to hurt yourself - just at the time in your life when you would like more freedom. So work on getting that trust and independence balance back. Start with a chat. But remember, you are not a renter in the house so you will not be ignored - you are a family member and need family interaction too.
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It's a disturbing idea that someone would actually cut into their own bodies as much as if you were doing it to others.  It's also a sign of mental instability.  In the military, who would want to team up with someone who had such deep seated issues?  If a person does have the urge to cut themselves, they should seek help through a therapist to deal with the underlying problems.  Cutting is not the answer, just like alcoholism or drug abuse.
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Yes, due to lifestyle (nutrition, smoking, etc), comorbid medical illness (diabetes, heart disease) and suicide.
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I'm not a cutter but I think the best thing for you, is to maybe try talking to someone about this. You say you do that to feel normal, but just because a lot of people do that, doesn't mean it's normal. If you don't want to talk to anyone about that, try just stopping cold turkey. Throw away all your razors, don't resort to any other means of self harm. Find a hobby and be constructive!
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It's not quite that simple. You can be institutionalized for harming yourself by state authorities if they can present to a judge that you are endangering your life or the lives of others. It is quite difficult to prove in adults. Also, different states have different guidelines for what they consider to be endangering yourself, etc.
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No. You can't be sure that every kid born will be rid of violent thoughts. Many violent kids grow up with abusive fathers or mothers, turning them to violent acts to search for societal acceptance. During teenage years, teens go through many changes, physically as well as mentally (that includes wild emotion swings).  Mood swings can play a part in teen violence.  It's a part of growing up.  But if you know any teens going through violent mood swings, counseling or peer mentoring can help a bit.
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I don't know about 98% of the world problems (my vote for the biggest problem-causer in the world would have to be poverty, because it correlates with so many other problems including child abuse, crime, illness, early death, lack of education opportunities, unemployment, drug and alcohol abuse, etc.).\n\nHowever, the short- and long-term effect of abuse on individuals is devastating, particularly if they do not recieve support or counselling.  At it's most basic level, abuse is a total betrayal of the child by the abuser.  It is what Marsha Linehan called the ultimate invalidating environment.  The legacy of abuse includes guilt, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, PTSD, emotional and behavioral problems, problems in school, and a danger of becoming an abuser themselves.  \n\nThese are problems that society deals with when the abused child grows up.\n\nNow the majority of abused children do grow up to be productive members of society, which just goes to show the amazing resiliency of the human spirit.  Dave Pelzer, who wrote "A Child Called It (worth reading)" is one of the more famous examples.\n\nHowever, the majority of the world's monsters were themselves abused, often horribly, as children.  There is certainly a high correlation with abusive childhoods in the backgrounds of serial killers.  Only a small minority or abused children become monsters, but a high percentage of monsters were abused as children.  A percentage of those who abuse their children were themselves abused as children.\n\nIt would not surprise me if at all if Saddam Hussein was abused as a child.  Most monsters are made, not born.
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I don't know the exact statistics, but you might check out this website.  There is no doubt that abuse causes serious problems especially in children.  Many adults diagnosed with multiple personalities experienced some sort of abuse as a child.  Abuse can also be linked to causing many cases of depression and other mental illnesses.\n\nThe exact statistics will probably be directly related to how you classify "mentally disturbed".\n\nI'll keep looking, but right now, I'm just getting off work, so this is a start.
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http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/self-injury/DS00775\nSelf-injury/cutting\nIntroduction\n\nFor people who can't fathom deliberately hurting themselves, self-injury may seem shocking and frightening. But for people who do injure themselves by cutting or other means, self-injury offers a momentary sense of calm and a release of tension. Unfortunately, that's usually quickly followed by guilt and shame and the return of other painful emotions. And with self-injury comes the very real possibility of inflicting serious and even fatal injuries.\n\nSelf-injury isn't a specific disease or condition. Rather, it's a type of abnormal behavior. It may accompany a variety of mental disorders, such as depression and borderline personality disorder. Because self-injury is often done on impulse, it's sometimes considered an impulse-control behavior problem. Self-injury is also known as self-harm, self-injurious behavior and self-mutilation.\n\nhttp://health.discovery.com/centers/teen/cutters/cutters.html\nhttp://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html\nhttp://www.kidzworld.com/site/p4217.htm\nhttp://www.thehelpline.net/selfinjury.html\nhttp://teenadvice.about.com/od/cuttingbranding/\nhttp://www.webmd.com/content/article/53/61375.htm