Am I Being Unresonable?
339762
I think that your boyfriend is doing the responsible thing, and you should support him in it. Fact is, by trying to get his finances in order and get rid of "old demons", he is showing that he wants to be responsible. Right now, you aren't pregnant, so that's not a concern.\n\nIf you were to get pregnant, then the situation has changed completely. Again, he is saying that he will do the responsible thing and marry you right away.\n\nIf you have to have a commitment (which isn't unreasonable), set a date for your marriage. A hard in stone date, so you can start planning your future together. If he is being responsible, he will have no problem with this as he should already know how long it will take to fix his finances and demons. If he is afraid of marriage, then you will know because he will resist the setting of a hard date. Either way, you will know what his true intent is.
1013174
don't worry - everything you want to be is ok. its your decision - even though sometimes it get hard if you have people around you who would not accept your lifestyle....
66233
man i undestand totally where you are coming from...like you do your best to please them and its just not good enough. well i say if the best you ddi was good enough for you then you should be happy, b/c trying to please people that aren't going to be happy for you either way...is just a lost cause. it will cause more stress for you in the long run. All i can say is keep you head high, its hard, but be strong, you'll be a better person in the long run. and feel free to email me or yahoo messenger
768390
Your situation is just like mine ..thats why i always think that those who are descent or qite get the most criticizm ..today was a really bad day and it bothered me really badly when i heard hat girl talking crap loudly about me ..i just carry on and go to talk to those who are good or nice because theres got to be somebody who's nice even so if they are two faced noobody is perfect jake...always try to have a good time and dont care about such situations coz you will be finding yourself loosing alot of time thinking about those who buggs you off ...just be you and dont get too much offended by people and those who dont like it ..Screw Them !!!\n\n\n\nhope i helped
900791
I would suggest an open ended question... something that wouldn't appear too invasive.  "Is it something I can help with?" Of course, you have to be wary that this person might be waiting for an invite that way he can pour out all of his emo junk on you and that might not be where you want your limited relationship to go.  Otherwise, I think what you did was okay.  I figure if he wanted help with it, he probably would've gone further with his answer.
34977
Man, I know how that can feel...been there done that!!!  I found that I wasen't voicing my needs enough in some cases and in the others it was a matter of getting rid of the trash friendships that were merely sucking me dry emotionally and/or finacially.  Do yourself a favor and get rid of people who make you miserable and are just takers. Thinning them out and telling the people whom you choose to keep around what your needs are can be a very empowering experience.  Trust me, a few very close friends is worth more than a ton of supposed friends any day.  Hope this helps.
1013863
It doesn't sound as if you are compromising, you're just doing what you feel is expected of you. You're going to lose who you are if you try to please everyone around you. It is time for you to decide if you want to take a risk and stand up and make your voice and opinion be heard.
1143869
could i really care, or is this just 2pts?
324723
sometimes we are afraid to be left out and try to please everyone just to be accepted. But remember that "we can't please eveyone."\nSometimes you find it hard to say "No" to people becauseyou don't want them to feel bad. Just remember that you don't need    to please everyone to be accepted, there are people who loves and cares for you these are the people that you should think about.
955778
Like you said babe, you're more than worthy. Its HIS family and thats it. Not everyone is going to get on, but like you said, you and your boyfriend are strong. Ignore it, Ignore how they make you feel babe. Its probably jealousy on their part. I wouldn't let them see they upset you, you're better than that. After the reception, just keep your distance. Your friends will be there for you, so just make sure you have a good time. Don't let people like that grind you down babe. Good Luck x x x
760301
Feelings can sometimes be misleading. You need to be as open as possible, no matter how frightening it is, and bring it up in a calm casual manner. Know your options and then discuss it in a casual environment and see what the outcome is. Good luck!
716560
lol i dunno u seem to be breakign down already\n\nit's so hard to stay away ;P
854969
No it's not rude to ask in my opinion.  The guy could always not reply if it is upsetting.  Perhaps you really really helped him with your answer and he would be very grateful.  I think you should ask and then you can satisfy your curiousity because until you do, it is going to niggling away at you.
427134
If this person is giving you a hard time dont let it bother you. Go there for you. The woman sounds like she is the one with the problem. All your trying to do is make your confirmation, right?
987431
i'm always amazed that some people can write the nasty stuff they do just because they know how to type! rather than giving violations for writing adult content, they should give violations for being rude and nasty...anyways...we're all afraid at some point we're going to be alone and even when in a relationship when we feel comfortable there is always a risk that it might not work out and we'll be alone again. what is it you're looking for in a relationship, what is it you are looking for in a guy? i think you need to find someone you can be friends with before anything else, that way you'll always have stuff to share. also what is it, you feel that you want that you haven't gotten yet that means you are still alone? feel free to email me if u want to talk more ;-)
582165
Some times it is easier to talk to strangers then our loved ones.  Sounds like you need to stand up for your self.  Don't let people walk all over you.  You were not put on this earth to be a door matt.  You can do it with out being nasty about it.  Just be open and honest with them, as long as you are being honest and they don't like what they hear.  That is their problem not yours.  It's your life take a stand.
689770
CoCo, I do feel the same way as you and I can understand your frustration. It is hard to tell sometimes who is honest out here in "cyberspace" but just give it some time and hopefully you will find some truthful people here too. Hang in there, okay!