Question for UK only.... New Job and Pregnancy?
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NO WAY they cant do that ie on the basis you are pregnant!!!! dont be silly\n\ndoesnt matter if you knew at the time or you didnt want to tell them when the job was offered.\n\nthe main thing is you have to be employed for a certain time think its 41 weeks in total thats from when you started to the week when your baby is due for you to be entitled to maternity pay if not then you can take your 26 weeks off without pay but u can claim from the DSS
854090
You must contact your GP. If its convenient take a friend along for support. As far as I know back-dated sickness lines are valid- after all you could have been in a coma for the previous week. Failing that, insist on a home visit from your GP. 'Phone or write to your employer-they may be unsympathetic but it shows you have been trying to manage the conduct of your abscence. Assuming you get a long-term sickness note, (even two weeks), use the time to make a note of the demands made on you and why you consider them unreasonable. Contact your union rep or professional representative- they should be able to give you legal advice and support in any tribunal. It is the duty of your employer to ensure safe and secure working conditions for you and this certainly includes work-related stress. You will probably not lose your job, so do not worry on that account. So get in touch with your GP first, you'll feel alot better having made that first step. Remember stress is an illness, as much as flu, measles, chickenpox etc, it can and does happen to anyone and its NOT a sign of weakness! Good Luck!
791721
What one person finds embarrassing another person might not, so those questions that you consider not to be embarrassing   may be very embarrassing for the asker.  So they post a question here rather than visit their GP.\n\nSometimes being friendly with your GP is a stumbling block when it comes to asking personal questions and some people would prefer to speak to a locum doctor whom they have never met before.\n\n\nEDIT I think I have completely the wrong end of the stick here. Thinking about my reply. I think that some of the medical questions asked on here are deliberately gross so as to shock us and not even worthy of a reply. \n\nAnd as for your comments about your favourite questions about pregnancy and women who have just given birth. You have no idea my friend no idea what you are going on about....and it's just sheer ignorance for you to make comment.\n\n\nHi there again if you don't mind me saying, if you expect the right type of answers would it be fair to say that you need to tell us the whole story before you post your question? That way you will get answers that are worth the paper they are typed on.\n\nGood news about the wee one though. Congratulations.\n\nNo 10 points for me then!
949354
your pregnant and 19?!?!!?!?!?!?
965071
Well since you're moving in January then thats fact ! You have nothing to be shy about. You have a life just like others in which anything can happen. Just go up to your boss and tell him/her that You have something important to discuss and if he/she has time to discuss sit down with'em and tell them that due to whatever circumstances or family decision you will be moving therefore you would like to give notice. Your boss should appreciate your honesty of giving them a heads up in advance rather then just calling in one day and saying you won't be showing up. Atleast you're giving your boss a chance to find your replacement so they would infact appreciate it more.  So don't be shy about it, be very frank and profesional about it. Its a normal thing.
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You don't have to let them know anything.\n\nIf you REALLY need this job, I wouldn't tell them.  It WILL become a factor in whether or not they'll hire you.  If you don't necessarily need the job, then it would be good practice to be honest.  Afterall, you will be leaving them for a short time.\n\nThe interviewer will ask you about your previous experience, your education, your knowledge of retail, customer service, and if you can handle a cash register and sales tax and such.  They're not legally able to ask you about pregnancy, so they won't.  But they might say something like, "Do you have plans on going on vacation or anything that might cause you to night work for a few weeks?"  That's where you'll need to be careful in your answer.  Be prepared for a good response.\n\nGood Luck on the Future!
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Firstly, you should see your doctor and ask to be referred to a counsellor, you have been through a traumatic experience and it is obviously having a bad effect on you if you are afraid to go back to your flat.  I'm sure your doctor will be sympathetic.\n\nSecondly, your employers should pay you a sick pay, full rate for a certain period then a lower rate for the rest of your absence.  If your employers do dismiss you, you may have a case for suing for unfair dismissal.  You should ask for a meeting with your boss first or write to him/her explaining your situation, and ask to be allowed to have the time you need to get over this.  If they are unhelpful or threaten you with dismissal you should really seek legal advice.  A solicitor will be able to advise you better than anyone here.  Don't worry about christmas, its never nice having no money, but if you have the support of your family and friends then I am sure they will understand that you can't afford to splash out this year.  I hope everything works out for you, best wishes.
960720
Wow.  Five weeks of vacation/sick?  That IS incredible.  You better take advantage of what they're giving you while you can since you're going to be slammed starting in Jan.  You're wanting to take off the 4 remaining days you have around Christmas.  I would imagine it would be pretty slow around that time anyway.  The easiest way to approach your boss is to simply ask.  Something like, How's it looking around such and such dates?  I'd like to take 4 days but if we're going to be busy during that time, then I could work something else out.  Your job sounds great.
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Mid Jan will be fine.\n\nAs long as they have staff for the Christmas and sale period.\n\nBig companies understand (even if they don't like it) that their staff have the right to leave and search for better paid work and I'm sure that they have c.v's on hold to fill empty positions quickly.\n\nGood luck in the new job.
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Having my first baby.
607082
First of all, quit trying so hard, that may very well be part of the problem. My hubby and I were married 5 years before we had out 1st child, the Dr. said when I quit my job, my stress level went way down, two weeks later I was pregnant. (I'm not suggesting that you quit your job, I was working 2 jobs and going to school).\nJust try every chance you get, it will happen when it is time. Take Care and GOOD LUCK!
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Try the DSS (Department of Social Services) and see they can help. As for jobs, maybe you can baby sit at your house, wash other people clothes, keep their pets in your yard while they go some where. All this is assuming you can not leave your baby. Just a few ideas. Hopefully some one else will have a better answer.
727222
well -- how about i tell you what i do and maybe you'll get some ideas.... i'm a nurse that had a baby and wanted to stay home with him instead of putting him in daycare. my husband didn't want the loss of my paycheck and gave me a lot of grief about going back to work but ALSO expected me to do all the "real" parenting, house cleaning, cooking, etc. i told him if i went back to work that he would have to split everything 50/50 and he agreed. i told him the very first day he didn't do one of "his" new split duties i would quit my job on the spot.... as in if it's his turn to change a diaper and he didn't do it -- i wouldn't go back to work the next day because i'm not going to be walked on like that...if i'm a homemaker, then i'm a homemaker...if i'm a nurse, then that's what i'm going to be and he can hire a housekeeper, cook and nanny. he agreed to split the job duties.....well, a couple of days before i was going to start a new job, i started him out on the split duties....needless to say....i'm now a very happy stay-at-home mom. i keep the house, cook dinner and take care of my son. as far as your concern about him wanting you to answer your phone right away...that's controlling behavior. remind him you're an adult and tell him where he can stick it next time he gets mad. then quit your job.   :)
614768
You are most likely NOT obligated to say anything to your employer, other than MEDICAL LEAVE.  Hopefully you have a lot of time banked up!
8546
If you are not currently UNemployed, then write down "ASAP", if you are employed, give them a date 2 weeks from today and let them know that you have to give your current employer a 'two-week' notice, that way they know that you are responsible and won't leave them hanging if you find another job. :)
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Your best bet is not to stress about it, the baby is in control- the worst that will happen is a c-section- which I understand may not be your first choice, but once the baby is here, you won't care how they got here... \nAnd stressing is not good for either of you right now.
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Yes NHS is crap, similar experience here and I lost my little girl, stillborn at 40 weeks, she had only been dead a week, cord wrapped around her neck. I'd visited my doctor and gynaecologist earlier in the week and they never picked up on it. I knew she'd stopped moving as much but stepmum said it was the calm before the storm. Took me in to start me off, did a scan and told me she was dead, and I'd have to give birth naturally. Sheer hell I'll never forget it. So get your husband to kick but as much as he has to till they take notice. Be careful and good luck. X