There is a girl I love but can't seem to feel easy about trusting. Should I stay or go?
345242
if you cant trust her you gotta bounce dude. seriously, if you stay with her your paranoia will eat at you until you drive each other apart, even if she isnt doing anything. chill out about it and trust her, or walk away.
734275
well if you really like this girl and thinks she is worth the wait then do it. when a girl has had a rough time with relationships she tends to want to be left alone and it sounds like this girl might not be able to trust any one anymore so just console her make her feel better and be there for her....wait a lil while and see wat happens and if after you just get sick of waiting if she still hasnt decided she wants to be in a relationship then move on
301772
I would really look at the relationship. I would also wonder if she had other problems. You need to really look deep to find out what you are going to decide. Trust is hard to regain and living with someone you dont trust is impossible so dont do it unless you really are sure she is the one for you. Good luck and God Bless!!
516293
It's not fair to your girlfriend if you don't think it's going to work out. You THINK you love her? You do or you don't. You need to figure out what is going on w/your girlfriend before you start planning for this other girl. Not wanting to hurt someone is not a good enough reason to stay w/them-that sounds harsh, but you'll just end up resenting her.
72821
There is no greater love than someone loving you so much that they are willing to die so that you can live. Now, I can't speak for the females but a girl that would be willing to go where I go, support me in the decisions I make and be there for me when I mess up (it seems to happen every so often) and be able to love me despite my rough edges would be what I call love.  But a big part of love is trust. The question is, do you trust him? If you trust him and simply can't bear not being with him, that's love.
1153024
By being honest and stubborn and even if that hasn't worked yet, it will. I'm sure she knows you care for her and wants to be with you, but there are probably tons of reasons why she just can't let herself trust you. Oh and don't ever threaten to leave her unless you really plan on going through with it completely and NOTHING she can say will change that. Especially if that is something that she fears.
597996
you seem like such a lovely guy and to be honest.. from what you have said   that girl does not deserve you.. You deserve someone who will love you as much as you love her.. and im sure she's out there somewhere.. it seems like this girl is keeping you on standby just incase things don't work out with the other guy..and even if she does loose this guy she will have another on standby sooner or later...she knows your too good for her and she's taking advantage of it!!please do yourself a favour and start the process of letting her go now cause it will take time .. and time heals!! and the one thats right for you will come along after you have healed from this girl.You derserve better and i think you know it !!It's not worth loving someone who doesn't do the right thing by you hun!It eventually makes your heart turn cold!
482313
Fess up!  The longer you lie the most the distrust builds, but if you come clean you'll show you are willing to try and be honest and build the trust up again.  Yes, it will be hard at first, but if she truly loves you and sees you are truly trying to make things right and address the problem, she'll stick with you and help you work through it.
455424
You should trust her I think, but if they are acting like strangers when you are around what are they hiding? Are you a jealous person? Or are they pretending nothings going on! Heidi
84125
What are you doing wrong?\n\nYou're not letting her go, that's what :)\n\nLet her go, move on with your life. You will end up much happier than if you keep beating your head against the wall with this girl. It may not seem like it now, however it's truth.
532784
If you don't think the relationship is going anywere and you don't love the girl than you shouldn't be with her anymore, however if there is somehting there then just stay with her and see where things get you
649481
As you said, you felt in love with this woman, and love is not just feeling is a consequence of major elements such as respect, faith, honesty , satisfaction .... etc. and when you have these components you are in love ... so, if there is a confidence and honesty between you both .. you have to believe her and trust her ... any way, you are the only one who can judge on your relation and how things are going on.. wish you good luck with her
488526
Love and trust cannot be forced. I appears to me that she has trust issues in the first place if she can't let go of something that she knows to be false. Of course, there is also the chance that something else is affecting her decision. Ask her to tell you why she won't return your calls, if she says she doesn't want to talk to you, you best let go. You could also try dropping communication to zero for a couple of weeks. You might make her curious and she might even come to ask YOU what's going on. Then you two can talk it out and figure out what is best for each of you. Hope these ideas can help you. Good luck. \n\nTo everyone else, It isn't fair to automatically consider someone to be a "moron" or "stalker" without knowing all the details. I think this person deserves the benefit of the doubt. We have all seen much worse than this. Thanks.
306612
if you love her trust her and are committed to her and she feels the exact same way...then i don't think you need to worry!\ni have never even met my girlfriend - we're online yet! and yea we love each other to death and we trust each other totally, and with all our hearts!! and yea we'll be getting married too...and thats not gonna happen for another 4 years, at least, but yea i'm not worried about anything because we have TRUST in each other and thats all it takes for a LD to work out! TRUST & LOVE!\nso i don't think you need to worry pal...chill out! and all the best for your future!!
701518
If you are thinking about giving up on her, you might as well reexamine your love for her before any of this happened, i don't understand how you can give up on someone you love no matter what the circumstances are. perhaps there is nothing going on , and its all in your head, have a trust in her man....even if she has slept with him so what? people make mistakes, everyone has weak moments where their emotions cloud their judgement, but that is besides the point..........bottom line, if you love her, then trust her.
552447
Be sensible. She's your girlfriend, not your possession. Do you have a reason not to trust her? Can you talk to her about it? If not, and it bothers you, you shouldn't be with her. Does she have good reason you'll beat a male friend for looking at her? If so, maybe she isn't the one with the problem!\n\nPossessiveness makes an intelligent gal want to cheat. Girls like showing off their bodies- it's what we do. If you have a faithful loving relationship with this girl, then talk to her about your insecurity! There's a good chance it is founded in nothing. If you do not have a good relationship then what are you staying in it for?\n\nThe issue here sounds like a lot more than her going swimming with her friends! Ask yourself what it really is, and then deal with it.
808982
You cannot force trust. This is an issue of trusting one another. The more you push, the more she pulls. Better to just be you and be the way you truly are. If she comes around and cottons to that kind of honesty, then good for both of you. If she continues to have qualms about someone who is honest and trustworthy, those issues are better helped by her actions, not yours. Just be kind and steady and send out a good feeling of love in her general direction and she may eventually relax once again. I once invited a small cat into my back hall and she kept coming closer and closer and then she made eye contact with me and what she saw there enabled her to cross the threshold and enter my home. She has been with me ever since and I have never betrayed that trust. You are the same way, except you are with a person, not a little cat who was stuck out in an ice storm last March.