what do i do i still like my ex-boyfriend and my best friend likes him too..what do i do???
338190
I'm a guy but I think my rule of thumb in a relationship works for both sexes. You date.. then you break up.. and when you break up, there is a good reason why the break up happened, and now you need to move on to someone else.  Life is just way too short and precious to be lingering over what could/should/would happen...  If your best friend made you break up with your boyfriend.. is she really your best friend? Most guys have an unspoken code of conduct when it comes to friends' girlfriends/wives (unlike movies or TV shows) Move on....find you a new and better man.. and make your ex and your best friend realize what they lost when you walk in with your new beau!
448590
This is a tough one......Ok you said you like your boyfriend but have fallen in love with his/your best friend. If it is love and I mean real love then you should not have to question what you should do. You just need to talk to your best friend one on one and see if it is really what you think it is.
480850
keep the 100% respect guy he sounds like a keeper. :) dont go with the ex - it never works out and u will only regret it if u do .\n\ngood luck
249823
I think you should try going on a date with him. If you don't try it you may always wonder whether or not you did the right think. If he is indeed your best friend, your friendship should be strong enough to handle whatever happens. If you already know everything about each other (like most best friends do) than the transition from friend to boyfriend may just be the natural course of action for you two. However, if you are not physically attracted to him at all, then maybe you should stay just friends because neither one of you will be happy in a long term relationship.
320746
It sounds like you really already know in your heart what you want and what you need to do.So,do it.Life is to short to be unhappy.You truly are in love with your ex,so that is where you need to be.I know it would be hard to tell the other person in your life,but it needs to be done,and it can be done in a nice manner.Like you just are not ready for a relationship with him,and you would not be fibbing,because you are not ready when you have such strong feelings for your ex.Also,this isn't fair for them nor for you all,and in the long run,it would be much harder to end as the more time that goes by.I say go and follow your heart.Good Luck to you!
444696
Going after a guy that your friend has dated is always tough. It depends on how their relationship ended and whether your feelings for him are strong. I am currently very interested in my ex-best friend's ex-boyfriend. WE stoped being friends when she found out that I liked him. But I couldn't help how I felt, he's different than any other guy. If you feel like he's special and you could be avoiding something that could be really great for both of you, don't. Go for it, if your friend really cares about you she'll want you to be happy. Best of Luck!
223471
Screw his best friend, and make sure you tell his friend he's got a bigger penis and is a better lover than your ex. That will pretty much put and end to your ex touching you and messing with your head. Then you can move on. Because he's just looking for no-strings-attached sex from you now.
803881
OMG.... i was in the same exact position 2 yrs ago as you are in now\n\ni just kept saying i wanted to be friends with him, and for the longest time we were just friends, but then we hung out all summer and i realized how much i really liked him. My ex bf refused to talk to me and for 2 yrs i wasted my life waiting for him... but once i got over him it just didnt make any sense to stay single when i liked his friend and he liked me back (btw, they are not friends anymore and havent been since my ex bf dumped me) so to sum that all up we are now bf/gf for 3 months and im 10x happier with my bf now than i was with my ex..... so i guess you just have to let time take its course.... i never thought id end up with who im going out wth now\n\nhope my "essay" helped.... good luck
597526
I'm in an identical situation only i am a guy. And the guys in your story are girls in mine. I'm not gay. Just wait it out and eventually they will break up. However you need to know what your best friend would do if you were to go out with her ex. If she was really your best friend, she would understand and she would let you go out with him-but come on thats never gonna happen. You need to find out who you like more, this guy, or your friend. It sound to me that he sorta like you, and if your friend knows he flirts with you, and shes not jealous shes\n- in it because the guy is popular\n- is a whore that just wants to sleep with her boyfriend until she is bored\n- is trying to tell herself shes being uptight\nYou need to know if he likes you before you do anything about your friend. Ask one of his friends or a brother or sister of his. It will be hard, but if you loose a friend, how good of a friend is she?\nP.S. Do not go out with this guy directly when he breaks up with your friend. She wont like that, and he wont think your much of a friend. Wait at least two weeks, by then your friend should be interested in some other guy.
955136
Depending on how long him and his ex have been going together depends on how much time you need to wait until you let your crush on him progress.  Just take you time and try and be there for him as a friend.
489018
You broke up with this guy for a reason. Ask yourself if you really like your ex. Who do you want to be with? maybe you should just be single for a while and just date around. Maybe try to be friends with your ex and see how that works out for you, see if your feelings resurface, but also tell him to date as well. It'll all work out if you think things over.
41101
What do you do? Absolutely nothing. Not a good idea to do anything about it. You could get your a$$ kicked or worse than that, lose your best friend. Will it be worth it? Find a boyfriend of your own.
718882
I think you should do what your heart says. If it is telling you that you love this guy, not a little middle school or high school crush, but actually love the guy, its a tough decision. I was in the same position about 4 months ago, but luckily it worked out for me, my friend did get over my now boyfriend. But I had to sit down and have a talk with her. I actually asked her permission to date him. I didnt want to lose a friend over a guy. It can work, and if she says its ok, then she would have no reason to be angry, but if she says no, she doesnt want you to, then just think of how akward it would be to go out with him? she would always be angry, and it would hurt her alot. What if she made a move for him without talking to u? wouldn't that hurt you? Talk to her, and really consider what you say, how you say it, and listen to what she has to say. do it when things are not rocky, or else it will go horribly wrong. It sounds to me like you two need to talk it out, and if necesary, not have either of you date him. it is weird for a while...trust me. and if she says its ok, then it may be akward for a while, but eventually she will be ok with it unless she really does like that guy. And also be sure this guy is really worth it. Trust me, if its a crush, it could ruin both friendships. just have one on one time with him and talk things out with him too. remember, comunication is key. without it, it can all splash in your face. and listening to how ur friend feels is always important, so dont blow it off, or she will be very upset. more than if u hadn't asked her in the first place. just talk to each of them one on one, get a perspective from both of them, and be sure this guy is worth it and make sure he isnt best as a best friend...make sure u want to take it to the next level. who knows, maybe u guys can be as cute of a couple as everyone claims me and my bf is...and one more thing, GOOD LUCK!!! :)
393270
Just try to stay busy. It normal to feel an attraction to someone but if you really dont want anythin to happen try to stay away because if your close to him youll just think about him more. And if you really want somethin ask your friend how would she feel if somebody she knew went out with her ex...right there youll see if it bugs her or not...then you can know if you should go for him or not.
421608
I am married to a friend of my ex-boyfriend. Give him a chance if you think you can like him.
811337
babe, you just answered your own question.\nyou obviously dont want to waste your time on someone who isnt really interested in you , he's more interested on your friend.\nwhy would you let yourself have feelings for him when you know that he dont like you like that. and you know that you're gonna get hurt. dont do it to yourself. just be honest with him and be like you want to be with someone who likes you back and not your friend.\ntell him that you could find someone else that likes you coz of you not coz of your friend. \nbut, why did you ask him out in the first place if you knew that he liked someone else??\nplease dont be blind and leave the guy and go for the other one who really likes you the most. trust me, you'll be a lot happier with the other one.
70510
well if ur best friends goes out with the guy u like u should either look for another boy or man or watever or say something to ur best friend and say something about it......\npeace out\nmanny