how do i not invite my friend to my birthday party without hurting his feelings?
341792
In order to survive the socialness of school, there are two options:\n\n1.) Don't invite the kid. If he later learns of the party, tell him only a certain number of kids could be invited, and that you're sorry you couldn't include him.\n\nor\n\n2.) Invite him anyway! If he thinks your his friend, why not be nice? I don't think people will remember who was invited to your party a few months after it's over, so why not? You could see a new side to this kid and become the best of friends. You never know until you try!
382216
Just tell him that you dont want to ruin your friendship. It means to much to you
504443
Just tell 'em staight forward that you dont like being called that, and if they cant accept that, then maybe these friends arent the best ones for you
870778
why not plan a get together with some of your friends and invite him to come too.
893379
No you are not a coward.  But make sure you wish the friend a Happy Birthday.
986064
As you know, you are going to have to learn to say no from the start!  But now that you said yes, you can either fib and say you have asked your friends if they would come, and no one wants to.  That they don't like to go to any parties where things are sold.  Put the blame on them!\n\nOr just be honest and tell her you have changed your mind.  As long as you have not set a date, it won't upset her schedule.  If she gets huffy, tell her you are sorry, but you you just don't want to do it.  Sales people are pushy---that's how they make money! \n\nJust don't let her schedule a party and then you give a lame excuse at the last minute for not having it.  That would not be fair to her or to your friends who might have given up other plans to do you a favor!\n\nSo tell her no---and soon!  If she gets mad, too bad.  She's been told no before.
415424
HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN ADVANCE!!!!\n\nGO CRAZY!!!!  Do whatever you want or whatever the law doesn't want you to do... sike i don't want you to get introuble or anything.... but go ALL OUT!! invite everybody......\n\nOR you could just cry if you want to cause it'll be your party
734471
tell him your not trying to be mean, but you really don't want to have anything to do with him. That you don't feel comfortable around him.
86336
Definitely, you might also want to invite some of his friends so he won't feel out of place if he comes.
693824
tell him it is your birthday and ask him why he is not with you today.\nAnd by the way Happy Birthday!!!\nPlease don't cry.\nyou suposed to be happy it is your birthday!
913182
Just say no and apologize.  If they are friends they will understand, but you also must be a friend to them.  You may need to cut a few ties and keep just a few close ones and the others can be aquaintences.  Or you can have on big party a few times a year to make up for it.  I have too much family, seriously.  I can't possibly see them all as much as I''d love to.  But I can't dump them either.  My kids and husband come first.  It's very difficult but it's the only way it will work.  Have a great day.  Wow, I think this is the 3rd question I answered of yours.  Honestly I"m not stalking you.  You are just where-ever I am.  Wierd...
254135
No! I would see that as a slap in face saying "I want presents, but I don't want to pay for your meal or trust you to behave like an adult on my special day." The only time i would do it is if the friend is really close to me but cannot make the wedding due to a major plan, like moving or taking a big vacation. Unless you want this to be the last time you see the person, it would be better to just have a little event, like seeing a movie or having dinner to celebrate, since such things don't oblige presents.
599449
You have to try and get them to trust you.  They will probably say it's not you they don't trust but your friends.  You have to explain to them in a calm manner (shouting won't help!) that you will have control of the situation.  Play the sympathy card, "My birthday is important to me, and since the two of you wont be here it would make me feel loads better if my friends could be."  Just be calm, and honest.  Good luck, and happy birthday.
481807
You should just pull her aside by herself and be very honest with her.  If you don't, you are going to have a lot of unnecessary drama and I'm assuming that that's probably the last thing that you need or want on your birthday.  She will probably get her feelings hurt (think about how you would feel) but she will probably appreciate it a lot more coming from you instead of someone else.  Heard of the game telephone?  By the time it gets back to her it may become a situation that is totally blown out of proportion.  If she is a close friend of yours, I do like the idea of going out with her seperately, maybe with a couple other friends without the guy that way you can have the best of both worlds.  Good luck!!!
1128178
You're passive to the point of being submissive. Stop letting him make you feel bad by his actions. If his heart isn't in the relationship by being there for you in ways that will bring you happiness then my suggestion is for you to make sure he understand exactly what you need from him in order for the relationship to work. If you can't find common ground that creates an equal and mutual happiness then what's the true point of the relationship? To not make the effort to make you special day something to remember is about as selfish and self centered as I can imagine. You deserve better and I think you know this so make changes for you own happiness. If he won't take you out for your birthday then go out with friends and celebrate without him. If you don't have anyone to go out and celebrate with then let me know and I'll go party with you and I don't even know you but it's your birthday and that's reason enough.
649520
Be his friend don't pressure yourself into doing something you'll regret...
401575
Go to your friend's lame party.  Liven it up.