To marry or not to marry?
339757
it's totally up to you.  I too am an independant single mother and now that my 2 sons are both in college, I am proud and happy...it feels really good to answer to no one.  This is something that is personal choice, neither decision will be "wrong".
942522
Well, im divorced. While I loved my husband we had too many issues, particularly his looney family. So unless they were gone, no, i would not marry him again. But, I also would not give up the years we had together, or the beautiful son we have together, for anything.
866036
whatever comes natural. Do what you "both" agree on. If this is difficult --dont get married--
38821
I've been married and single both...and while there are advantages to both, I'd choose married. (but next time to someone I know better!)\n\nIf you're not afraid of really hard work, marriage would be better. It takes work every single day, though.
761838
I personally think that it's better to live with someone before you marry.  Many will disagree with my belief, but it is my own personal preference.  The reason that I believe that is because you never really know someone until you live with them.  You may discover things that you will not be able to tolerate for the rest of your life.
1084764
Why get married now u have the rest of you life together. if ur meant to be no paper will prove it, only time. I think that you shouldn't do it. Good Luck.
1050341
no you shouldnt marry him not now. its not fair to him for you to just hold onto him till maybe something comes along better. he deserves happiness and if he is looking for marriage and your not let him go and stay friends.so many get married for the just because reason only to end in divorce and hurting each other. honesty is the best way to go. i think if you read what you just wrote you will know the right answer.
709258
please its just a ring, i would much rather have a happy marriage, than a bad marriage and a big ring, get whatever you can afford and do it.....\nps whats the point of being engaged if u do not want to be married?
569310
Only you can make that decision.  But here is a way to help you choose.\nTake a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle.\nOne one side write pros and the other cons.\nOn the pro side write all the things you like about him as well as the things that make you feel good.\nOn the con side write all the things you dont like about him as well as the bad habits you may not like.\n\nAlso list the things that you want out of a marriage and rate if you think he can provide those things.\n\nAsk yourself, do I feel I can spend the next 20 years or so with this man?\nDoes he want the same things out of life I do?\nMost important, are you comfortable around him?\nDoes he make you feel safe, secure and loved?\n\nNever marry someone that you think you can change.  If they don't you will be miserable.\nWeigh all the good and bad and then decide.\n\nAlso remember, no one is perfect, love someone in spite of the little annoying habits.  Marriage is a compromise the blending together of 2 people.\nMarriage is also like a pair of sissors.  Once joined together at the middle they will crush anyone trying to come between them.\nGood luck.
490006
The decision to propose marriage depends on how you both feel.  If she loves you and you love her, if you feel you can live together successfully, and you both interested in living together as husband and wife then ask.  But be prepared for both the yes and no response.
238740
Well, she has obviously said yes to your proposal, so that is one good sign.  The ultimate way to know for sure is what I keep telling everyone in relationships.  Communicate, communicate, communicate!  You need to talk to your fiance openly about everything.  Discuss your concerns with them and have them tell you why they do want to marry you.  If you aren't sure after talking to the person openly, it may be that you shouldn't get married.  Communication is the most important issue in marriage or any relationship.  Without it, you will end up in a divorce and will fight quite a bit.  I hope you find the answer you are looking for.
581339
In my opinion marriage is the best thing for you.  Too many people hold off marriage because they feel they are "Too young" only to end up with a child out of wedlock.  If you have a good strong relationship get married as soon as possible.  Marriage will not change your future plans and career if you don't let it.
54115
The only real reason to get married is if you love someone unconditionally, and are willing to support and care for that person the rest of your life.\n\nOf course, if you just don't have self control enough to wait for the right one to come along, then by all means get married to the one you lust for, but remember, it's for life!
599025
Honestly, I think not.  Mainly because you said they have different thinking and also different lifestyles.  You want to marry someone you can talk to, and spend time with.  If you are unable to relate intellectually, and if you don't have common interests, the chances that the romance will wither and die is great.
8427
Why in the world would you agree to this?  If he is worth marrying he will wait and you should wait.\n\nResponding to youknowit below:  All the more reason to wait and have a nice wedding.
100456
You can't marry somone you don't love.Trust your heart.I think you already know the answer.good luck
663853
I think you need to listen to your heart and make a decision. Don't stay married if you aren't TRUELY happy, it isn't worth it. Take some time to just think without any outside distractions. :)