Why does everyone despise me just because I have African American friends?
351563
Before jumping on the backs of your friends in a pro-diversity-rage, I'd suggest looking at how you talk about your black friends. Do you make a big deal of the fact that they are black? Are you friends with your black friends JUST because they are black? This is probably not the case, but on the other hand, I've seen this happen. Some white people get so attached to the idea of having black friends that they try to reach an unspoken quota of black friends and then brag about it to their white friends. Naturally, that gets really annoying, both for the black people and the white friends.
371439
Much has been family (up bringing) , then neighborhoods , schools , friends, lack of knowing we're all equal.One group feeling they aren't treated fairly.Then another yelling they aren't ...What's bad is when someone takes advantage of being a race , that offers employment , education and don't respect the opportunities offered or abuses them.And there are a few such races that are offered more ,so we (America)can try to balance the employment and schools.Still another area will complain . I 've done for myself and many others have as well .I don't dislike anyone but mean people.And they are plenty ,so all races should get together and try to end the hate. Sounds nice ,but history has shown hate at the beginning of time.
272530
I think everybody has racist feelings towards someone, no matter who you are.
464261
yes, i have friends...\n\nthey hated other gays because these other gays make a bad name for gay people.... they cross-dress disgustingly that's why some gays who wear proper clothes are sometimes insulted and made fun of.
614971
First, to answer your question...some people hate other people because they're taught to.  They're taught to hate by their parents, and their parents are taught to hate by their parents and so forth.... These beliefs have been handed down through generations.  \n\nThese beliefs were created in order to make people feel "better" about the institution of slavery.  If you can "demonize" someone, it's easier on your conscience to justify enslaving them and breaking up their families and killing them, etc...\n\nUnderstand, these beliefs were promulgated and reinforced from about 1619 (when slaves arrived here) until TODAY.  People of African descent were only LEGALLY allowed to participate in society fully after 1964 (voting rights act -AND, Congres STILL has to renew it every few years.  People of European descent or women don't have to endure this scrutiny).  \n\nIf you want to focus on a "color", look at Green.  Those with money have pitted those without money against people of color.  People of color have been the socio-political-economic scape goats of people with money.  Whenever people of limited education and limited means start to ask those in power why their lot in life sucks, those in power simply point to people of color and say, "well, it's because of illegal immigrants, or outsourcing, or foreign imports".  It's easier to make someone ELSE responsible for your misery than to take ownership of it yourself.\n\nSecond, there is only ONE RACE:  HUMAN.  According to the Human Genome Project, EVERY HUMAN on the planet is 99.9% IDENTICAL!  Yep!  The only thing that separates us...is US.  We draw political, social, economic, racial, gender, etc...lines.  "The only sin is separation."  Thinking, BELIEVING that we're really that different from each other.\nAnd to think, we make that stuff up!  We create that separation.  And for the sake of what?  \n\nAs Ben Franklin said, "we must all stand together, or surely we will hang separately."\n\nI wish you Peace.
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After looking at your other questions, answers and myspace page I can understand why he doesn't want you around. \n\nYour "self esteem issues" about being fat come across as being very fake and a "look at me! look at me!" tactic. \n\nYour constant comments about being pretty come off as being desperate for attention.\n\nYour only real supporting evidence for being a "perfect" friend is having good grades, being pretty, and dressing in preppy clothing.\n\nLastly, the biggest thing (which I'm betting is his main reason for separating you from is daughter) is your attitude towards black people. You are without a doubt, a racist.\n\nYou come across as being fake, arrogant, insincere, and racist. No wonder he's booted you out of their life! If you want to remain friends with her, you're really going to need a complete attitude make-over.\n\nOften times, the people with the worst behavior are seen as representing their entire race. You need only ask a European what he thinks of americans and you'll see what I mean. We all get labeled because of people like you.
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Yes, it makes me angry, because as much as they deny that they are being black, they are.  I think it is because they think the black race is inferior to their own.  You are who you are, not by your skin color, but how you act to the public.
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Cuz they are jealous of your physical beauty, your career standing, anything. They go on making you think they are your friend, but when it counts the most, they aren't there for you.\n\nI had 3 good friends from high school and right around the end of college they started getting weird on me. I had landed a successful job in PR and sales, while they were floundering in fast food or retail jobs. People kick you when you up and are your best friends when you are down.
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I don't believe people are racist.I truly think they are fearful of what my happen when they let there enter self take over with feelings that make them say and do fearful things . You do have to say a lot has happen.Give them time to get to know you and see if you still feel the same way .Are maybe them are the people you just need to still away from.
677317
Based on the lack of information you've provided, it's impossible to offer you any insight into why life is so hard for you. As for taking insults and mockery from both your white and black friends, this is driven by their own insecurities in who they are and possibly even they're jealousy of who you are. You should just be yourself with respect to that. As for making life not so hard, I would be better able to give you advice and suggestion if I knew more about your circumstances at present.
816185
Sounds like someone pissed you off "alittle".I dont think like that and would never say any of those things-if you have a loud mouth then you just have a loud mouth isnt because your black thats ignorant!Whoever has got you feeling like this has accomplished their goal of pissin you off.And these type of questions actually promote more racism and problems ,you win by not letting it bother you in life(hard to do ,but once you do it you will never feel like this again because you are sure of yourself)By gettin upset and going off you are letting whoever is doing the hatin WIN!They want you to get upset ,mad and then hate and pass it on,and it goes on and on.Stop lettin them win ,and love no matter what and you are always going to com out on top.
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I'm a sista but I'll answer this question too.\nUnfortunately, we are all victims of our own cognitional biases, victims of inability to find intrinsic beauty in all people.  The epistemic limitations to which we undeservingly confine ourselves to, is the ‘waterlooish’ inhibitor of social progressiveness, worldwide brotherhood, and general happiness.   This is why love knows boundaries.  It's time to overcome our psychological conditioning, let go, and simply just love...regardless of race or ethnicity.\n\nP.S. Grow up, 33.  What are you? 3?  Seek professional help; It's very unhealthy to hate your own race.  Don't ever e-mail me again or you will be reported for harassment.
1097293
ur moms racist\nit just shows that she is insecure with herself so she has to put down others to make herself feel better\n\ndont get into the habbit of judging others
186542
Seriously?\n\nOk, in society there are several groups of people, the bigots who just carry on the whole race hatred thing that dear old daddy instilled in them, believeing the same hateful words that they spout like a kid saying there ABC's, then there are the honestly ok people who actually dont care who your great great great great great great grandma was and what colour you are- they dont have to be nice people, but hey if they hate you its because of who you are, not wether you successfully colour coordinate with the rest of their friends. then there are the "try to hards"- you may have met them, the ones who say things like "Racist? how insulting, Tarquil here once shook hands with an indian fellow" and send a yearly donation to amnest international (tax deductable). the point is that a lot of the people in charge of things like network programming are in the first or the last catagories and will promote urban music and film as a) its popular to be multi cultural and b) they want to look good. this is actually quite insulting when you think about it, but on the plus side it means that at least more and more young people will gain their own exposure to different cultures and maybe, god forbid, form there own views and actually drop all the self perpetuating crap that has been carried around for too damn long.\n\nMight be nice...
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no. If you hate everybody (like me), you're just a non-social. You can't stand being in the same room with anybody. You view every person on earth as a moron, and have few friends. Of course the negative aspect of this is that people view you as a racist, especially if the person in the room with you isn't your color. I had this problem all my life. Just don't listen to what others say. If you know that you are not racist, then it shouldn't matter. Just do what I do and put on a fake smile and pretend to love everyone (works wonders in the work-place.)\n\noh, and aangelbott, don't call people like us uneducated. tolerrance towards some one is to still hate them, but to tolerate it. I don't throw my trust around like you. Oh, and I have dated a hispanic boy, so anti-socials are not racist!
696754
Hating is ignorance, I don't think that anyone hates you because of your ethnicity/race or religion. America is a diverse country too. Some naive Americans may hate certain people and it is around all races hating on each other, not just everybody hating on Arabs. Just because of the acts of few of your people is all it takes for some Americans to draw a conclusion about your ENTIRE RACE and start to hate. IGNORANCE.\n\nI am sure, there is racism in your countries as well against Black Arabs, or the Filipinos or other Asians working/living there. No doubt.
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Yea...i totally agree with you. Racist people are scum but there is one thing you have to understand. Most people who are racists are those who had it drilled into them from young that they shouldn't hang out with "a certain type of people" e.g. blacks; and unfortunately they have not and apparently will grow out of this bad attitude.\n\nIts just like how your parents thought you as kids to say "please" and "thank you". You will grow up with these manners and they will stick with you for the rest of you life. Racism is like this but just VERY NEGATIVE.