I am 30 and my son is 16, we are and have always been great pals. Why does my wife dislike this?
351851
Maybe because she feels like you are taking some attention and friendship that she should share with your son, or that you are not giving HER enough attention.
1175034
from a 25 year olds opinion,yes. its because there was an intimacy. like a lost best friend. its normal. i often wonder how she is and if life is good for her even though i havent seen her in 8 years.
293492
No i think that is perfectly fine!!! Well i would think that when me and my better half got together i was 20 and he was 29, 3 years later and we have a awsome strong relationship, i was ready for something serious to plant my feet into and so was he, we had alot of things in common, i mean yes there are times when i think wow hes really been around alot more then i have and i can feel a little bit intimidated, but in the long run im thankfull he has those experiances to help guide our steps, I think he has come to believe that im never going to be perfect, even though i really try to do everything well, im not completely at his level on thinking, he has more life lessons to reflect on, but i dont think its a problem when we both discuss everything and keep the lines of communication open, just like any other relationship, my best friend is in the same boat, her husband is 10 years older then her and oddly enough shes the more responcible one, i dont see why any one would think its wrong, now if you were 25 and she was 15 there might be a huge responce to you sick mo fo lol but i dont think there is anything wrong with you liking her, ask her out, she might be into older guys, and with good reason, guys that are 20-24 are enough to make you want to puke, they only want one thing, they havnt figured out yet theres more to life then a nice set of boobs lol they dont know how to deal with money worth a crap, they only look out for themselfs, where older guys have alot more figured out, theres so many more perks to dating a older guy i could go on forever, more or less your more established at 30... id say go for it :) you have nothing to lose
1030334
Nah. My dad called me his little girl til he died. I was 30. My son is 27 and still loves video games. I still love to party, just not as often. My girlfriend babys her grown kids that are married. Enjoy each other and enjoy life. It is so short.
361924
You and your husband are separating because you couldn't get along being married to each other, so there shouldn't be any problems now. You sound like you may be a little bitter, get over the fact that he has a new female friend. It was bound to happen, unfortunately it was a lot sooner than you would have liked. Learn to get along with your ex for the sake of your son, he is the only person that should matter to both of you in this situation. Don't let your anger or hurt of him having a new female friend get in your way of good parenting. If you have concerns that your son may be confused about daddy's new friend you should discuss this calmly with your ex-husband about how the two of you should approach this with him. Let him know your thoughts and concerns about how this may affect your son. Also, if him having someone else is upsetting your feelings don't be afraid to be honest with him about that. Let him know that this is not easy for you, but that you are trying and would appreciate him acknowledging your feelings during this difficult time. If the two of you can learn to get along it will make for a healthy and happy life for your son and eventually for you too. Good luck to you through this difficult time.
842302
If they have no children together then there is no reason for a "friendship" if it bothers you your feelings should mean more to hI'm. I have to deal with an ex because even though im my husband first wife he had children with a woman previous to our marriage they are friends i think its strange but its good for the kids however when we got together they stoped hanging out unless it was at a school function. I have made it very clear to her I come first
673138
Hi,\n\nFirst off, i've not got a 30ish son...but am a woman, my boys only a yr old.  :)\n\nI'd like to say all the usual..i'll support my son no matter what...if he feels like he should be a woman, then so be it. Or i often ask myself what i'd say to him if he told me he was gay one day.\n\nI'm not going to lie, i would be disappointed, but more for the fact of what society would treat him like than anything else. I wouldn't want my child to suffer.\n\nYour mother is from a different generation, she is bound to react differently to say what i will in 30 years time.\nIf you are her only son..then ofcourse she would love to see you married and have had children.\n\nBut, at the end of the day..she's your mother and loves you no matter what. She may be against it now, but it sounds like shes warming up to the idea.
235362
You will get over it but it will be along time. You need to sit her down and find out the reason. Do she dislike you for any reason or is she just being foolish. I think it's foolish. There's no way in hell she can keep you from keeping your grandchild. What do your son say about that? Is he okay with it or what. That's not right. Try to talk to the both of them and see what happen. Good luck. Let God be on your side.
355581
Sounds to me like the message, loud and clear, is to back off and give the married couple some space.  And if you want your son to have a happy marriage, I think you should listen.
1085101
personal story  Where i used to live there were two people a couple of doors away who we used to see and who never talked or really acknowledged me or my then wife(i am divorced now). We were friends with the people next door and they thought the same thing.  A year or so later their son starting playing with our kids and we met them and they turned out to be a couple of the nicest people i know and very good friends who would do anything for you ....lesson learned is that sometimes its easy to judge people to quickly maybe she is just shy. i suggest you try to break the ice and see if she responds
588913
No absolutely not. Your one of the few parents that would accept their children for who they r. \nThe fact that u r supportive is fantastic, it shows them u care, and since u know your son and his partner really well there would b no reason to worry.\nYour proud of your son. There is nothing wrong with that. Most kids would kill for a parent as supportive and understanding as you. \nI would just like to ad, that dont do that whole aaagghhhh cute and ask questions and stuff like that. It freaks kids out, no matter what age they r. Its embarrassing, besides if they wanted to tell u something they would have.
738082
the wife gets this but she is a lot older than you .....
750773
Why dont you discuss it with your wife.  You said that she is a sweetie, work it out with her.
582529
We are in like circumstances....my husband is 11 years older than I am.  I'm now 34, as he gets older they do get more watchful and ask a lot of questions about where I am or what I'm doing.  I think it is their youth slipping away and they don't want their youthful wife slipping away too.
912002
Because they're jealous and regret not having their kids when they were younger. Now they're old and fat and miserable. So good for you and your wife.
1167731
The age difference would not bother me.  I think that age is often over rated.  My fiance is 11 years older than me.
492684
Ahhh, I`m the same way. You are blessed. Make her your friend. We have been married 35 years and we are best friends. I am so glad for you.. Good luck and God Bless,... {:-)\n\n<><\nHave fun. Life is short.. Be honest with each other and show each other the same respect for each other that you would anyone else..