Why is asking a friend out so much harder than a guy we meet at the bar?
340696
well... it's because you've share somthing with your friend. You can't give out your best impression when your with him because you know that he knows who you are, it would also ruin your friendship with him and will cause uneasiness between you and your common friend. \n\nwhile... meeting a new guy, you got nothing to lose, if it failed it failed, you lose nothing more than a few hours, a few days, a few minutes\n\nwhile losing your friend, is losing someone who makes you laugh, who sees you get through all your problems for your entire existence.
1084658
As a shy person myself, I tend to relax and open up more around people who put me at ease...most of my friends are extroverts but not pushy...they will talk and be outgoing, but they don't force me to (they welcome me to)...if you really like this person then ask them out...a lot of shy people miss out on things in life because they are shy...it's a choice...you can't force someone to not be shy, and they have to want something badly enough to put themselves through the possible discomfort of opening up a bit and coming out of their comfort zone to get it...
799165
yes i agree with the other answer ask him or at the very least tell him where you stand,even thought the guy traditionally asks it is the new generation and some guys just dont know how.or also fear rejection..i hate asking people out its tough to know what to say and evryone isnt so easy about whether you sound""nerdy""or not good luck
571000
Many men are scared to approach woman because of rejection. I think you should approach him and just ask him out for coffee then see where it goes. Who knows even if he is not interested maybe you 2 could become good friends
1098194
I'm having that EXACT same problem right now with a guy I'm hanging out with.\n\nAre you friends with him?  does he call you?  Do you hang out together?  Or are you wanting to know whether or not he is interested in doing these things with you?  Because there is a big difference, at least to me.
409608
you said he is a guy friend...so he is your friend.  \n\nit's like you are putting him in a situation which he does not want to be in.  it seems that you asked him that question because you want something more to come between you two.  do u? \n\ndon't embarass yourself to ask the same question over and over again.  once is enough....read between the lines.
529346
1. You are in a tough situation,because asking him directly could affect your friendship, especially if you misread him.\n\n2. Just keep hanging out with him or talking to him and keep bringing up opportunities for him to ask you out.  Tell him about a concert or a movie that you would like to see, but you don't have anyone to go with you.  Do this a few times and if he likes you, he will ask you out.  Believe me, you will know.
742610
Well, the problem seems to be that neither of you are telling the other about your liking for him or her. Instead of assuming that you don't like him, why doesn't he ask you straight away? Then the problem would be solved in minutes.\nHis friends tell you that he likes you. Why don't they tell him that you like him too?\nAs it appears that neither the guy nor his friends aren't going to be of much help, you have to take the initiative to clear this misunderstanding. First talk to him on the phone and tell him that you want to talk about a very important matter in privacy. When you meet him at the appointed place (a sparsely crowded restaurant or a park) at the appointed time, tell him that you have been wanting to tell him something for a long time. And that it was for this purpose that you have invited him here. When he wants to know what it is, tell him about your feelings for him confidently. Next, ask what he thought about you. I think, things would move their own way after that. Best of luck.
13340
He could be trying to say no in a nice way.  (Sorry!!!)  I had the same thing happen to me.  I asked a guy out and he said we would...sometime.  Next thing I know, he's "kinda got a girlfriend".\nGuys are jerks when they try to be nice.
541357
The natural way of nature is for the the male to court the female.  He has to impress her in order for her to choose him.  If a woman asks a man out it is turning it the other way around and this can confuse a mans instincts.  A man seeks a female that is hard to acquire (or that he thinks is hard to acquire) so it is much more natural for him to do the asking and the woman to play hard to get.  Playing hard to get is what makes a man think you are a greater prize and all men want the best prize.x
146173
rather than get all tongue-tied asking him on a date,why not work on a friendship first? tell him you're bored and ask him if he'd like to go somewhere with you just for something to do.let him know that if he follows you to another part of the state it'd be great going knowing you're not completely friendless to start a new chapter in your lives.it'll be alot less scarry for you both.start there and keep working on staying friends and being casual until you get over the shyness or he does.somewhere along the line somethings gonna happen to show you whether you're wasting your time or not.if it turns out he's gay at least you'll have a friend to lean on in a strange place.
1162939
Sounds to me that he sees you as very good looking, and he's working hard to impress you but he may have some fear to ask you out because he thinks you might say no. Although you had acepted him and let him talk to you, asking you out is a little harder to do for him. I had this situation happen to me once, when I was in high school . One of the cuttest girls has chosen  to sit by me on the bus. I didn't even know Her and She just  told me to sit in the seat next to Her one day. I did,  and from then on, She sat by me everyday, and we talked alot. But even though She has shown me great compassion and friendliness, I could not get up enough courage to ask her out on a date! I kept waiting and hopeing she would bring it up, or ask me out. But in those days in 1972, Girls were not yet asking boys out or making aproaches on guys, maybe some but I don't remember. I think its cool that some girls are doing  this now and alot of men like it! But thats up to the Girls if they want to roll play iniation at times. In a way, its a good way for a girl to experience what its like to us guys having to ask girls out and stuff. And you can see it itsn't easy to do at most times. I myself find it harder to talk to cute Gilrls because the fear of rejection is stronger in me with cute Girls. The cuter the girl , the stronger the fear of rejection is! \nThats just the way it is with us guys.\nHeres something for you Girls should know. If a guy doesn't talk to you that you haven't met yet, Unless he hates you for some reason or he's mad at you,   it means that,  he thinks you are cute and good looking! and he really wants to talk to you but he's afraid to approach you because of fear of rejection!   I find it  alot easier to aproach or talk to Girls who may be a little short on good looks, because I have not the fear of rejection at hand! Do you get what I mean?  best wishes sweetie,    JoeyMars..
604330
I would suggest that you go out with someone who invited you out...meaning he's the one that is much interested to get to know u! even if you wanted to go out with this guy that you are crushing( as a girl i can say that)...it's actually advisable to go for someone who's more interested in us that us to them.  Maybe it's a blessing in disguise, just when you are thinking of asking a guy out this guy asked you for a date, maybe it's one way of saving you from the possible heartache that you might experience once you will be rejected!  it's really difficult when we do the first move because we might get hurt....or if you will succeed the first time, that's not even a guarantee that there will be 2nd or 3rd now, will you be happy asking a guy out forever!  Just date this guy who invited you out...try to get to know him...who knows you might end up liking him in the end!
204126
Maybe they have as hard a time approaching the person as you do. Why not cut out the middle man and do it yourself.
771533
If she slep with him the first night at the bar , he might be thinking she's (easy) and he can get it any time he wants.If he seem's interested one minute and not the next, that's just the way guy's are!It's like there trying to make (Themselv's)beleave they don't need anyone.If she likes this guy she should keep seeing him,but dont make herself  look too available.Dont sleep with him for a wile,have fun doing other things together.Alot of guys are dogs, but the goodguys want a respectable girl.Show him she is!
11924
If you want a sort of casual approach, get tickets to something and tell him "I have an extra ticket to ______ and I was hoping you'd like to go with me, if you're fee that night."\nBut, trust me on this, sometimes the guy you think is out of your league, is actually afraid to approach YOU.... I missed 20 years of having someone quite amazing in my world because when we were young, I thought I had no shot at all to be anything but his "pal"....came to learn just this year, he never understood why I had the time of day for him, thought I couldn't possibly be interested.\nBelieve me, Darlin', there are things in life far more painful than being shot down.
960721
You are not the shyest person, cause everybody think so when it comes to making the first attempt. I think it was a mistake for your friend to go to him instead of you. You should have went up to him. It shows that you are weak and cannot approach him. But don't worry you are probably a teenager, and we all felt the same your age. Make sure YOU go to him next time. Don't tell him you love him up front, but instead ask him out. If he says no, don't be too pushy and look for other fishes.