I need help I have a problem with telling people how I feel?
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First off figure out what it is you really want. Not if you want a guy or a girl, b/c you already know you have the potential to be with both. Look for other qualities that make you the happiest (in both sexes). If you only want a one-on-one relationship that is what you should do. If you dont want something serious w/the girl, then let her know exactly how you feel. Tell her you love her as a friend and that you would rather be w/a man ONLY right now. Its up to you to figure out what you want. Being w/both at the same time, will probably only hurt her in the end if she really loves you, so do whatever is best for everyone so that noone gets hurt. Including yourself! Good Luck!
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I'm sorry. My boyfriend has the same problem. You might be insecure about  whatever you are lying about. When you are about to tell a lie, recognize what you are feeling just before you do. Each time you catch yourself it gets easier to reject the feeling that comes up that makes you want to lie.
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Expressing feelings makes people feel vulnerable.  Even though that's not necessarily the case.  It's the way people feel.  I personally feel repressed if I can't tell people how I feel.  If I don't feel comfortable with a friend to be open and honest with them, they don't stay my friend very long.
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there's a proper place and time when to act like that. \nif you've already told him what you feel about his actions don't expect him to put that away in one snap... help him to adjust, and support him... if you can't really get over it try something... like whenever he talks to you, act like him, then he will feel what other people thinks about him whenever he does it... if you really love him, you will not lave him because of that attitude. you loved him because of who he is and not just because he's cute or something. you loved him because of his nice and not so nice character...\nhope it help yah!
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You are making yourself sick.  Stop letting other people get to you.  I had to develop an "I don't give a f***" attitude and I felt the weight of the world lifted off my shoulders.  Stop explaining yourself to people too.
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When someone says something to you that make you angry or sad take a deep breath through your nose, hold for 3 seconds and let it out. I went through the same thing and this helped me a lot but if you are unable to control your facial expressions, there is nothing wrong with it. It's actually a blessing because without you saying a word, people know that they either offended you or something is wrong. Be happy when they ask what's wrong because it will be your chance to tell them what is wrong right on the spot and you don't have to keep your feelings bottled up inside. Your feelings are written all over your face because you have some deep hurts and you can't keep them contained. Try talking to someone you trust about the others things that are bothering you deep down inside.
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Right now i'm in that same situation. You have to learn to let go of all the bad negativity. That doesn't help when you hold everything inside. You have to learn to express yourself better. If you have a best friend or a real close friend. Share almost everything with them. If things bother you that people do let them know. Don't stress over the little things. There is a way to be happier all the time even if it's not you, but it will take some work. You have to look deep inside of you and wthink to yourself why do I act the way I do??
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Lol...join the crowd. But you need to understand they see something in you that makes them feel at ease. Use your skills to help them if you can. You may just have information to assist them. I found that and have helped many people over the years. At first I thought it weird, but then I went into the field of psychology and could better deal with them.\n\nAlso, some people have wishy-washy boundries, they may need some one to talk to and will tell things to the first one they feel comfortable with...not wise, but it is done often.  Again, you have an opportunity to help if you can.\n\nBe kind, listen carefully, maybe you have some important life changing information for them!
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I have almost the same problem,, and I know that even sometimes I help people so much and NEVER get something back,, most of the time i do not feel good! what I am doing now is I do say YES only to the people who deserve it,, my friends, family ,... people who really care for me,, try it step by step,, and keep in your mind,, NO BODY CARE FOR YOU AS MUCH AS YOU CARE FOR YOURSELF,, so put yourself first and all the others second,,
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for me... NOT POSSIBLE ask anyone who knows me, has ever met me or spent ANY amount of time with me.\n\nIt's sooo very easy... just move you lips and words will come out... if there is sound you are talking... if no sound you are just thinking... verbalize your thoughts... how else will anyone know what you are thinking.\n\nDon't worry about what people are going to think... if it's your opinion it deserves to be heard.
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Find out what you are doing that is wrong (at least in their eyes it is wrong) Basically talk to them, tell them how you feel. It is possible that you need to seek professional help. You need to find out what you feel is important to you.
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Talk to your friend and tell him how you feel
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be totally straight about it...no matter how u do it, its gonna hurt someone...and i think if ur 2 nice about it they might not take u seriously...so i would just tell them exactly how i felt and why
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Urs is a typical problem. If u dont mind, Il suggest u 1 thing. Consult a Psychiartist and get solution to ur problem. It will definitely help u. If u dont like the above suggestion, then I can suggest u a few things. First of all observe all types of conversations around u and get an idea how the people are talking (If they are ur friends or relatives, its better). Just start interacting with people by saying hi, how r u? How is ur work going on? For the people whom u dont have any conversation, just smile and say how r u? It forms a good impression to that person on u. At the same time dont talk unnecessary matters and dont make kidding. Just ask abt their future plans and a best one is u can adopt flattery also, but in a decent way. Be positive & appear positive in every word u speak. Ur postures and gestures should be good while ur speaking and u should be bold and confident enough. I think this would definitely help out u.\n\nIf u also think like that vote me as best. All the Best.
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You should get this situation off your chest.. But if you want to get help for your situation, you should tell your family and friends. Do not be scared of their reaction. It doesn't matter how anyone reacts and that's who you are.
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let them know how you feel,especialy if you are treating them with respect.Remind them of the the saying TREAT OTHERS THE WAY THAT YOU WANT TO BE TREATED !
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Just be honest with them.  Don't beat around the bush and try to stall.  Just tell them out right.  He/she might be caught off guard or shocked, but you will feel so much better in the long run.