Can a man & woman just "be friends"?
349920
Yes they can, if they don't fancy each other. I've had lots of male friends that I haven't fancied for a second.
1007852
You cant keep the two away from each other forever.  If either one does something like that then you know your not with the right person or friend.  You cant worry about that until it happens.
683852
Men & women can be friends. Just be careful not to let it go any further than that. Eg. I am friends with my male colleagues at work, but I make sure I get to know their wifes or GFs as well so they do not get the wrong ideas - aka they need to know I am not a threat. And I never put out wrong signals with colleagues - some may hint at something more but I always made it clear where I stand. If I am not interested, I am not interested period - particularly in married or men who are already with someone else.\nAs to why it does happen? Well, men tend to think of sex most times (read relationship books - it is a primal thing with them). They find opportunities for it to happen and at times end up jeopardising real friendships cos of it. If a guy friend pushes it, I let the friendship go. Maybe that's why folks say plutonic friendships are not workable. But I have good male friends who are absolutely faithful to their spouses so I am glad to know that such men, however rare, still exist. I for one would want my man to be exactly that - faithful to me and only me and I would be the same for him too.
303959
i am married now but i was with a guy for 9 years and we are like best friends still and my husband talks to him too sometimes we dont talk about anything innapropriate we are just like two good friends so yes it can be done but you cant think about the intimate memories in order to just be friends
947566
i do not belive in frendships after knowing the person underneah his or her clothes. there is no friendship possible if there is attraction from one side.friendships between a man and a woman are extra rare. do not have sex with the guy because you feel bad about him being in Iraq. after surviving such hard life experiance he will be changed and use all his charm to get you where he wants. find out if he still has feelings for you. if he is the only one he has to accept your decision just to be friends. i have met an american solider from North Carolina who had also been to Iraq. i do not know a lot of man who have charm like his. he said talking to me is like being in heaven.
44691
I have a question for you . . . what is the purpose for this friendship . . . for the two of you to become lover or just friends.\n\nLet me tell you something . . . when you are friends with a woman . . . that is all you are going to be . . . very rarely less than 10% move on to the next level . . . no matter how bad you want to advance.\n\nAs to your questions : basis of friendship . . . common interests . . . communication . . . interaction.\n\nAs for your second question . ..  Do you need to get as much as you give or visa versa? (This is why I asked the previous questions in the beginning).  There is no give or take in a friendship . . . you do things because they are your friends not for a payback.  Same thing for relationship . . . women claim they want a 50/50 relationship when in fact it is more like 85/15 in their favor.  Women like to be wined and dined and guys like burgers and a beer.  Guys don't care about the new fancy resturant that opened up at $150 per plate . . . we are happy spending $9.00 at Fudrukkers (I know it is mispelled okay).  But you get the point.  What do we get out of the dinner with the girl . . . maybe sex . . . but not necessarily . . . odds are you are just her meal ticket.\n\nWhen you take guys out . . . your buddies . . . you buy a round they buy a round . . . you buy dinner one time and they will the next.  I took a buddy to a hockey games . . . and he bought me drinks and snacks during the game.  Will girls do that . . . the majority will not. . . and that is a fact.\n\nGiving and getting will never be equal . . . but with male buddies . . . they will share . . . as for women . . . you better have a big wallet. (Not all women are like this . . . but the majority are)\n\nListen to a man who lived through it . . . and if not me . . . Listen to Tom (a radio personality in Los Angeles) who is now broadcasting live on the internet at www.blowmeuptom.com between the hours of 3-8 pm Pacific Time.
422950
Absolutely! Here's the simplest answer : Men and women can be friends without any kind of sexual tension if neither is physically attracted to the other. Make sense? I mean, there's going to be sexual tension if one (or both) is attracted to the other.\n\nAt worst, it's being an acquantaince. At best, Platonic love.
86316
Yes, they're totally possible. No breakup is ever easy but a mutual breakup is less painful and usually ends with fewer or no hard feelings. And yes, sometimes you can still be friends, or at least not hate each other.
22125
There is nothing better than a long lasting and loving relationship with a woman, but from your question, I suspect that you are not looking for a lifetime partner at this time.  If you are willing to wait and see if the friendship develops into more it is well worth the effort.
550180
Sure they can.  They can be the greatest of friends and stay totally platonic.  I think this is a decision that they have to make together and put their friendship first.
176778
Deffinately! Just as long as you stay platonic and make sure that it doesn't cause any problems in their relationship.
815919
Don't do it!  If he and/or she wishes to meet the other then let them step up and do so, once you get involved it's going to be a headache.  You can support the relationship as a friend and not initiate the relationship as a third party.
170408
It's possible...anything is but it doesn't happen often. It seems one is always cultivating the relationship in hopes of at least one episode of pity sex. Not that its always the case, just that it gives rise to other issues. It takes two very dumb or two very smart members of the oposite sex to really just be friends.
253322
There's no rule that says you can't go out as friends.  Funny, I was good friends with my husband before I found out he liked me and we started dating.  It was much easier because I could be myself around him, so he knew the "real" me.  But DO NOT plan a "romantic"-type date if you do not feel that way about her.  Don't string her along.  Do something buddies would do.  Who knows?  Maybe after you get to know her as a friend, you might want more.  Good Luck!  ;)
240430
If he's "just a friend", it's fine for them to get together once in a while, but I would say not on a regular basis.  Why not have you go along?  Cab't you be friends with him also?
641355
Just say, "Look, I think you're awesome, and I don't want to hurt your feelings or anything like that, but right now, I'd rather be just friends with you instead of boyfriend-girlfriend.  Later on, who knows?  But for now, let's just stay friends."
340739
hmm i dunno if this is possible but why dont you both invite them somewhere, cinema whatever as friends, bowling i dunno. See which one of you gets on naturally with him more. you never know there may be a speical bond between a certain two. talk to her afterwards about it and tell her how you feel but say you dont wanna hurt her. at the end of the day, its kinda up to him, it may just wanna be friends with you both!