My mother is 42 and has the mentality of a 12 year old some days.  Should I be concerned?
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Since you are concerned about her behavior I am led to believe that this is a drastic change. So, yes, you should be concerned. She needs to see a doctor as soon as possible for a complete physical. Be sure to document the changes you have witnessed. Write down everything you can think of before her appt. to make the most of your time with the doctor. Your mom is a lucky lady to have you.
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She is entirely too young to be doing this.  Is she sickly?  My mom is going to be 60 this fall and she works 2 jobs and is a totally vital healthy woman.  I just turned 40 and we both work at the same Mental Retardation Facility as RNs.  I have the utmost respect for her skills as an RN and she is as sharp as a tack.\n\nPerhaps she needs to get a boot in the bottom to get her to see that she is not living, but merely existing.  \n\nIf she complains about the food, say "You have a kitchen in your apartment, go find something to eat if this doesn't suit you.  Otherwise, please be quiet about it."
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To me it sound like she is just old and thing that she does should be done in her way so you could try already having them done for her. Sometime thing just have to be done for people and you tell a little lie and you tell them they have already have done it. I know you don't want to have to lie to the people we love but their is times we have to. That and people at that age don't want to think that they can't do thing their self. So if you make her think that she is doing alot  by herself. And you could give her thing to do that you know that would be easy for her like at dinner have her get the drinks for everyone thing like that. Yes she old but in her mind she not. so try to find something easy and the hard thing you do.
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HI Grannywinkie!\n\nDid your mother tell you that? I hope not. If so, it's definitely emotional and verbal child abuse. Absolutely.\n\nTake care!
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My mom had me when she was almost 43; I am perfectly normal.  However, my mom also just died in April, & I have to agree with the previous answer in regard to thinking into the future.  My children had their grandma for too short a time, but they enjoyed every moment spent with her to the fullest.  My parents also adopted my brother as a baby when my mom was 49.  She kept up with everything just fine.  Good luck.
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There isn`t one simple answer for this. Me being 67 in June and having raised a granddaughter from 12 to 16 six yrs. ago, I can offer my opinions.\nYou awake in the morning nice and warm in your bed on a school day and the temp outside is 10 above zero but you have to get out to go to school. Do you want to trade where your at with where your going? Do you want to trade the known for the unknown?\nTodays children as well as adults live in a society that`s out of control All the basic elements required to raise a child to become a respondsible adult have been outlawed. Seems like morality is now history. In general, going out into real life is a mighty scarey thing. With no training in what to expect or how to deal with the unexpected your going to be scared. It`s a cutthroat arena. I feel sorry for todays youth. Parents must share alot of the blame for the lack of leadership and education to prepare a child to be ready to jump into the ring.\nSeems I`m being negative about things but I`m not. It`s just the way we have made it.\nJust talk to her and assure her that she will be just fine if she wants to be and also assure her that you will be there to help with the questions and possible solutions and offer her your advice from your own journey through life. Tell her you LOVE her.
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Hey, get a grip if you are thirty-two then you are old enough to know that when the time comes she'll tell you. But, be an adult, not a spoiled kid obviously she's lived with it all this time and there may or may not be something she doesn't want you to know just now. It doesn't change anything between you and your grandfather, apparently it didn't make any difference to him! Give your mom time and get on with your life, don't let it define you life!
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As a Mother of 4 children fron ages 25 to 9 yrs old, & with out knowing how old you are. I would suggest the older mature road. I know my self, that if my 17 yr comes to me with a "I'm right & i will be heard additude" I shut down. When they come to me calmly & mostly talk about incommon stuff. See what type of mood shes in, then if the time is right, Just planly say " Mom I realy would like to talk to you & would like you to hear what i am saying. 95% that  will open a line between you too where she will be able to hear you. I can not say that you will get what you want, But If not for any other other reason you have showed her that you are able to communacate with her on a more mature level.. Trust me that will help you down the road.. I hope i have given you a little help..
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My mother had the same problem. I think this is normal
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Your mother may be going through menopause...Women go through it at various ages but usually not until close to 50...Also, she could be experiencing side effects from a medication...What can you do to get your relationship back on track?  Confide in her about  how you feel when she acts this way...Try to find out why "freaking out" is a part of her personality, now..Try to be understanding...
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As a mother, I certainly think you're on the right track with all the efforts you've been making. Does she have a lot of adults in her life? It may sound strange, but kids expect their mothers to like and accept them, but an adult friend of the family or another adult role model may be able to give her praise and encouragement if she helps him/her with something (gardening, for instance). Once she realizes that not all "strangers" are going to criticize or bully her, she may begin to open up and have more confidence. Poor thing. I hope this is resolved soon. She's at a critical age where not only is she surrounded by peers who are judging her, but she is probably very hard on herself, as well. Good luck to you.
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I wouldnt worry about it if I where you althought it might make you furious let her think what she wants it's that type of gossip that might fill her less than fulfilling days so in fact your doing the old lady a favour by giving her something to do, Just as long as you and your hubby are straight in understanding the situation then every thing is cool cause at the end of the day he is your real family,under your roof in your bed is what matters the most of what is though of you.
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Gerontophilia is something that I also suffer with. I am 40 years old and have had numerous questions surrounding my delemma. I have come to understand a few possible reasons why. My mother was nearly 40 when I was born. I had an elderly grandmother who I didn't know very well, but was European and busty and adorable. I have had a difficult time growing up because my parents were indifferent towards me as a teenager. One important factor in keeping me from suicide as a teen, was the prayers and approving smile of an elderly old maid at my church. Subsequently, during my sexual development, my "mother complex" became fused with my "fair young maiden" (Robert Johnson in "He"). There are many other factors that go into this. I don't know how old you are or where you are in your development. But look to God for all things and He will keep you from evil. My life is built on James 1:27, and I am a nurse by profession.
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Older people just get to be more intense, more of what they already are.  Teenagers are just trying to become more like adults.  Sometimes the two don't mix.\n\nIt would help if you could sit quietly and try to figure out what you are doing that is pushing her buttons and then try to work on that.  Did you leave a mess?  Is she exhausted after a full day's work, having to return home to a house full of people that she has to clean and cook for?  Is anyone helping her out or is she just old and grumpy?  If she left you how would you take care of yourself?  Would you feel bad?\nIf that doesn't work for you, try a sense of humor.  You might not be able to say what you re really thinking to her because she might not understand you, but you can enjoy the comedy of the situation.
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You can do nothing from this point.  You have acted maturely enough if you honestly have asked her why she was acting this way.  \nSometimes it's best to address what is on you mind regardless of what reaction might be solicited.\nNow go about your business and no matter what she will not be able to deny you have both given her the opportunity to explain her hostility towards you.  \nShe will lash out a little more, but eventually, I believe, she will want to join your friendship and not stew over it.\nShe is still a mom and you are a woman that threaten the very fibers of her closeness with her young.  Every species has this process in it's life cycle, humans are no different.  She'll remind you of course that her bonds with her son are stronger as this is normal.  Hostility is not nor should it be tolerated by anyone much less than a close family member.  I'd like to add that if a man can defend you against his mother he will defend you against anyone.  Tough situation but I believe you'll make it through this.  Good luck.\n\nI hope this answer just changed your life.  Peace.
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Hi.. I would suggest that you go to your family doctor and let them know of your concerns.  There might be something wrong with her or it could be her imagination... I work as a LPN on a psychiatric unit  but we only have adults here and I don't have that much experience dealing with children but I think that the first step for you would be to get her to you family DR ASAP. \nI hope that everything works out for you.
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that is something you need to discuss with your mother. She may have her reasons. Talk to her