How do you handle a mean and selfish girlfriend?
340499
If she was mean and selfish like this when you met her, then I don't think there is much hope for her changing unless she wants to make a change for herself. People tell and/or show you exactly how they are early in a relationship.\n\nSave yourself some grief down the road and end it now.
679575
your idea is totally genius! I always say... kill them with kindness! It will annoy her that you are being really nice to her, and when she realizes that you aren't upset when she's rude to you, she'll get bored and start to ignore you. Most likely she'll entirely move on to someone else (to annoy) good luck! This method has worked for me MANY MAnY times!
1122894
Dump her now.  Not because she is bad for you, but becuase you are bad for HER.  If you are so shallow that you can't get past her waist size, then get away from her.  If she has no self respect because of her weight, she won't have the guts to leave first, you do it.
500267
Look her in the eye, be interested in HER and her answers, respect that there are things you may not agree on. That is okay....differences are good and keep it friendly. Don't raise your voice unless it is in excitement. If you think you will yell, say you need to leave the room for a moment to gain control and come back when you are able to talk w/o anger...she will think you are the greatest boyfriend she ever had!
311170
Find a different girlfriend.
612451
Sweetheart in this case it is pointless to fight fire with fire. That is exactly what this chick wants! And of course guys will tell you to do that-- they are the fathers of war. but instead of being "ugly" right back at her, try ignoring her. If she persists ask her why she is so sad. Offer to be good to her. If that is met with "ugly" then tell her you are sorry that some people respond to her hatred, but that you cannot. You simply don't have time to sink to her level. If she sees that your life is too good to be brought down she will take her evil elsewhere. Or she may even learn a thing or two from you. Keep your chin up kiddo. Don't take it personally. Someone is being or has been very wicked to this girl, but it was not you. Please don't jump on the band wagon.
787137
If youre still with her, You love them to death man, suffocate (metaphorically , of course) them with compassion.\nChances are she'll respect you for not giving in, or being to hard.  Im sure she's the type who has two faces, win them over and those girls usually turn out to be the most loyal at the end.\n\nIf youre not with her or care for her, run!!!! Run!!!! RUN!!!!!!
826023
well trying telling your sisteer whyyou think he is a asshole then let her think if this is what she wants in a boyfriend or tell your b/f to setthem up but thn if you don,t say anything she might get mad at ou if i was you i would just give it up and let her do it herself all the best
14719
1.  Leave, run dont walk.  IF he is insensitve to her needs and feelings at this stage, and over such a small thing, then how will he act later?  HE cares not for her, but his own ego and self importance and worth.  Dump his buttocks.\n\n2.  HE is verbally abusing her.  She doesnt like it, finds if offensive, and he does it purposely cause he knows that it hurts her.  what a jerk.
592379
She's insecure.  Get her to admit it, and find out if she's willing to work on it. Don't threaten to dump her because that will just make her worse.  Obviously her trust has been violated by someone else, so try not to take it personally.  If she won't admit she has a problem, there's nothing you can do...a relationship with someone who won't admit they ever have any problems is going down much faster than someone who has an admitted problem they are dealing with.  \n\nIf she does admit she has a problem, you need to decide whether or not you can be a part of the solution and show her that trustworthy people do exist.  It's possible for her to come out of it, but it will take some time, and patience from you.  \n\nIf you feel you're not up to the challenge, by all means, end it sooner than later, but try to let her down easy because she's obviously has had enough to deal with already.
395629
You would if you were a selfish spoiled ***hole who didn't care about anyone but herself....(not to mention spitting in Karma's face-and she can be a real *itch when she's provoked!!)  Treat your man better than that or get out of the relationship woman!! Cheating Sucks!(and I meant that literally, not physically)...
874254
she doesnt prioritize and she let work take over her life. i think she's trying to satisfy everyone all at the same time and its taking a toll on her much less making her have different personalities. \n\nof course any other person would feel frustrated for getting tossed around and hit in the head with confusion, but you have to understand that she's human. BUT it doesnt give her the right to keep you dangling on a thread.\n\nobviously she still wants you around so try talking to her in a different environment or atmostphere-some where it wont remind her of work or school, etc. for instace the beach, a coffee shop, the place you first took her to confess your feelings. and then talk to her like as if its almost an ultimatum, but not. \n\ntell her everything that you feel and how its affecting your relationship with her. talk about the way she act or the things that she does to hurt you or confuse you. tell her that youre going to let her deal with whatever she needs to deal with at her own pace. that youre going to respect her space so long she respects yours.\n\nhopefully this is an eye opener for her or is helpful for you to think up something to do. \n\nbest wishes. stay true.
1058277
That is a tough one.  They are so self-absorbed and take everything they can get from everybody, and do not care at all about what the ruins will be.  Just be nice when your with her and thats it.  If your not living with her you should be strong enough to deal with it.  My bf had that OMG it is horrible to live with, unbearable.  They suck the life out of you and it is not enough, they want more.
597256
Always remember that an ex is an ex for a reason. Obviously you two broke up for a reason and she nees to see that. You should just simply call her and explain that you arent trying to be mean but you dont want anything more with her. It sounds like she has codependency issues as well if she is going from you to a gf so soon. Just simply tell her so that it doesnt get out of hand. Dont ignore her because that can send mixed messages and it could be hard for you to stop later.
364428
pay attention to what she responds to and what she doesn't. for instance if you do something to her and the response is oh yes, yes, yes, keep doing it. but if you do something and her response is stop, eww,ouch, get the f*ck off me then you no not to do it. don't worry about it too much. you'll figure out.
1063167
just walk away when she acts that way \nbecause of her hormones she loves you too they all act that way sometimes so be patient with her and, give a little space.
498439
You need to convince the other person that your relationship is the best thing for your girlfriend or boyfriend. making them believe both of you would never be happy with anyone Else. try to discredit the other person indirectly so someone else points out to your significant other how deceiving they are. Careful thought and being graceful, without showing any jealousy,is very important in your endeavor.\nIf you have any of the characteristics of the people in the list below, these issues need to be resolved first.\n    *   The person who says one thing but means the opposite.\n    * The man who acts passive but aggressively gets his own way by not doing what is wanted.\n    * The boss who squelches his anger then strikes out indirectly. (Perhaps by withdrawing.)\n    * The woman who says yes when she means no; then gets cold feet and refuses to follow through.\n    * The teenager who agrees up front then doesn't do what he agreed to.\n    * The client who schedules an appointment but does not show up.\n    * The person who fears self assertion and confrontation, but says no by sidestepping responsibility.\n    * Anyone in the family who creatively gets out of doing his or her part of the chores.\n    * The Mr. Nice Guy who puts on the sweet face to agree, then does what he darn well pleases.\n    * The student who procrastinates with studying and does poorly in school.\n    * The parent who refuses to discipline the children and insists on the spouse being the ‘heavy.'\n    * The bored housewife who refuses to clean the house or cook for her family.\n    * The person who refuses to hear criticism, discuss his problems or read books about the issue.\n    * The dad who pushes one child hard but allows the other child to get out of responsibility.\n    * The not ready to be committed man wanting someone there for him but feels entitled to his freedom.\n    * Any individual who spends his effort into under achieving in school, in relationships and in life! \n\nRelationships require good maintenance. Just Do your best, if thats not good enough, maybe it's time to move on.\n\nGood luck