sorry guys.... my question is how do you make a man (friend) fall in love with you WITHOUT using sex?
338362
hey sweetie sex won't work believe it or not it's just the opposite however if he gets frustrated and bugs out because of the lack of nookie he was not the guy any way. cudo's to you for standing on your moral principles. my best to you and your relationship
51066
I agree with the previous response. There should be something more to this relationship than sex. When you guys aren't sexin' what's his conversation like? Does it go beyond sex? If you're trying to be with this guy in the long-run you've got to look at when all the sex dies down & Viagra isn't working--can he entertain & please you mentally? Can he love you without the sex? \n\nOther things to look at is if he seems bored with you if you're not giving him sex? Does he take you out in public? Or is this strictly behind the scenes? Does he call you just to talk or check-up on things? Or does he only call when he wants the booty?? There's a lot of things to look for in a man to tell if he's strictly about sex, but you've just got to open your eyes & see. I waited almost 1 yr. before I gave up any sex, becaue I had to be absolutely sure my man loved me for me. Not for my puss puss.
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Well if you really like him then you just tell him.  Just say that I would like to take this friendship to the next level like a date and see where it goes.  Don't have sex right away just take it slow and let it blossom.  I have been married to my friend for 9 years and tat is how we started..
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Damn girl , you ask some tough questions.\nWeather it counts or not , here is my view on this one.\nYou don't like sex? hmmmmmmm.\nHave you tried making love instead?\nThe art of making love consists of two people in love , coming together in a sexual act.\nNot liking sex can only suggest that you do not have any feelings for the other person participating within the "sex".\nFor most men , a relationship revolves around sex , if he don't get it , you don't get him.\nThat may sound harsh , but unfortunately , it's the truth.\nIf you are with a man that you truly love , i'm sure the results will be different.\nNow , I can't be serious all the time , so i'm going to end this answer with a joke. (please don't take offence at it , it's just a joke.)\n"those who think sex is a pain in the arse , are usually getting it in the wrong hole."
446881
I have had mostly guy friend all my life...so...I think it can happen.  I don't know if they have thought about having sex with me, but none of them have tried anyway...\n:)
969696
Forget breaking it to him "gently."  It is like pulling off a band-aid.  It actually hurts less if you do it fast and sure.\n\nYou seem to have figured out that this guy is just using you as a kind of receptacle.  You meet during the week for dinner and sex, and then the weekends are taken up with other people (his boys).  You come into the picture after 2 am, presumably just in time for some more sex and then a snooze.  What you have is not a boyfriend; at the MOST, it is a "friend-with-benefits."  \n\nOf course you have feelings for him.  He must have some good qualities, or you would not have been attracted to him in the first place.  But what are you getting out of this relationship, other than those "benefits"?  Not much, apparently.\n\nYou just have to tell him that you are not getting what you want from him.  You like him, you like those benefits, but it is not enough, and you going your own way, starting the next day.  In other words, the way to end it is to end it.  DO NOT let him draw you into an argument.  If he can argue you into a relationship, he continues to have total contol, and you have already seen what that leads to.  Enough!\n\nJust like you, he has to move on, so let him get to that as soon as possible.  Good luck!!
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I wouldn't use friends to get the knowledge I want. It's not a good policy. Even if your friends are beyond suspicion, I think that won't show a lot of maturity, and some guys don't like that. I know I don't. Frankly, there are few things in life that I find sexier than an honest and corageous woman. Simply ask him.
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By being straightforward.  Men in general and older men in particular are no nonsense, straightforward people.  If you want him, the way to get him is to look him straight in the eye and tell him in no uncertain terms that you like him as more than a friend, and you intend for your relationship to change to reflect that.
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i hate to break the news to you Darlin'....but, this world's harsh reality is that the ultimate aim of ANY STRAIGHT guy would be to eventually get you into bed with him.  As a straight guy myself, i can definitely tell you that the ones that just wanna be friends are either gay, or truly loyal to (and committed to) another lady, or maybe to a lesser degree, the ones that have lost their "mojo" somehow.\n\nBut getting back to your actual question:  you can tell that he really loves you and not just trying to get you into bed with him by noticing that he doesn't aggressively suggest that you guys get in bed together.  If after being together for about, say, 3 months, he still doesn't come on to you physically, then that guy must really be in love with you....because, trust me, no guys can truly go "cold turkey" on sex for 3 months in a serious relationship unless he truly loves you as a future companion.\n\ni would also recommend the movie "The 40-Year Old Virgin" (if you haven't seen it already) to further emphasize my points above.  Not only is that movie really funny, but it tries to answer the many "What If's" questions regarding boy meets girl reality.
475637
You can't make him, and if you try to make him you will only push him away. If he said he only wants to be friends, respect that and look elsewhere for love.
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"No strings attached" doesn't mean "I couldn't care less about you" and the operative word in "friends with benefits *should* be "Friends" and not "benefits".\n\nI honestly can not tell what is on his mind, but here are some possibilities:\nIt could be he likes you and enjoyed himself and wants the pleasure to linger on for a while. Putting it another way, lets say that a guy is really into some sports, e.g. basketball, and him and a friend go for a game of hoops in the afternoon. He might like to meet that guy for happy hour just to talk about the game.\n\nOr maybe he cares for you as a friend and knowing that most women are more sensitive and worried about being a "ho" (as you put it), he is giving you a call to make it less "ho-ish" for you.\n\nMaybe he is having blossoming feelings for you, which might or not grow into something. Maybe he is even in love.\n\nNow for some negative possibilities:\nMaybe he is a love junkie and has a need for falling in love.\n\nOr (and this is the worst scenario) maybe the sex is not enough and he gets off on making women fall in love. This is how it might work for him. The game of sex&seduction is a game which is won when you overpower and controll the opponent: YOU. This can be achieved by seducing a virgin or a commited woman or by getting her to do something she might not be inclined to, like anal sex. In an extreme, it could come to rape. The thrill come from the feeling of power. In the relation you described, you are not being submissive at all and he might feel that making you falling in love would be a way to "submit you".\n\nOnce again, I have no idea of what is going on in his mind and these are only ideas. I hope they helped.
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I did this once, and it changed everything.  We are still friendly, but not the friends we used to be.  Give him some time, and see what happens.  Most likely he just needs you to back off a little bit.  If it's just friends with benefits, sending notes about how wonderful he is is probably not a good idea.  Would you have sent something like that to him before the sex?  Probably not.  So don't do it now. Act the same way as you always have.  That was your agreement and you have to stick by it now.
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You cant "make" a guy love you (trust me i've tried). \nTry these things:\n1. Flirt\n2. Try telling him how you feel\n3. Make eye contact when you talk to him (show him that your interested in him)\n4. any accidently bumbing into him wouldn't hurt either. (just dont really hurt yourself or him when this happens- It's happened to me before)
1006507
in a relationship, a guy should make his feelings clear. if he doesn't say that he loves her, either he doesn't love her or he is afraid of getting emotionally attached or commitment. simple sex without love is just that. if he can't say it, she should move on to somebody who is more mature and can honestly and openly show their emotions. hope the best.
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You do realize how sick your question sounds.\n\nIf you'd asked, "Please tell me how to make a girl fall in love with me," then that would have been cute and romantic.  But now you just sound like a horny perv that wants to take advantage of someone...
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First of all, you can't make someone like you.  After saying that, I have found that the best way to get his attention is to be a good Friend.  Be very nice to him, call him, show lots of sympathy, and make him feel like he can be open with you.  Most guys have trouble being open with their feelings, and if you make him feel comfortable then that's your key in to his life.  \n\nDo NOT sleep with him--that never works.  And by the way I am a guy so I know!
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Tell him you love him, but don't want to have sex with him every single solitary day.  tell him if you are nothing more than sex to him then you'll just be moving on the a better man that knows how to treat you like you are more than a piece a of tail\n\n\nsorry to be so blunt and mean but I am dealing with a similar issue.