I asked my roommate to moveout and now I feel sad that she is gone. Why?
343363
because you have a good heart.
75789
I had the same problem with a guy that moved in with me. I wanted him to pay some rent to me, along with half utilities and groceries. It seemed only fair since with my school and work schedule he was there more than I was. He always complained and still does afterwards about how he paid part of my mortgage, but seriously, had he lived anywhere else he would have had to pay rent too. We ended up breaking up about a year later for various reasons, but the one thing I was definitely happy I did was to make him pay his way. Honestly, you should really look at it as a roommate situation and not a girlfriend situation. Would you let one of your friends live with you for free? Or even a complete stranger, which happens many times if you're looking for a roommate in a new city? Although I know my boyfriend at the time was a little resentful that I asked him to pay some rent to me, I'm glad I did. So yeah, I would talk to her and work out a reasonable payment she could make to you for rent, then still charge her for utilities. A good way to do it is to sit down and determine what kind of an income she will have and talk about a reasonable number that she will be able to afford without hating you later. As for her parents, they need to stay out of it. If they want their little girl to live somewhere for free, tell them to open up their basement to her. Shes a big girl, in or out of college, and it is about time they let her do her thing. And since it is your condo, they have absolutely no say in how much you charge her or for that matter any thing about your finances. Anyway, I hope you work it out. Good luck!
1158879
you're just missing her a lot. and that you're not used to your situation. sometimes you just need to be independent.
969744
Well they cant make her stay but if she leaves she could be required to pay her share of the rent for the rest of the lease. You cant make her roommates take on someone they dont want.
1093678
Man, I know what you mean. Sometimes family can be so annoying cauz you didn't pick them :(\nI think you should try to move out as soon as possible if you're unhappy. And I don't believe it's fair for her to not allow your friend to come over. I mean yeah, it's her house, but she could be much nicer about it. Just because it's her house I don't think that gives her the right to control who your friends are.
671743
I feel you. I think he could have try harder if he wanted to. I know the excuse "i forgot" or I was going to do it relax" and you didnt see shit done. If it is going to be like that I feel you should move out and take a break let him know you are not happy at all and you are under a lot of stress. What will he do without you. He needs to appreciate the things you do as a mother and wife. You need a man not another child you have to take care of. You must feel really lonely and yearning for a man.Take a break and try to relax, go out with friends and take a deep breathe.Try not to overthink yourself cause you will go crazy. I know you have bills to pay but figure out how to get out of this rotation with him cause after awhile it gets pretty tiring. I hope nothing but the best for you and take it one step at a time.
662531
Obviously your mother is trying to manipulate you with that guilt trip. But you have to consider your age and whether or not you have any fiscally stable relatives in the nearby area, or responsible friends.\n Consider why you don't want to move in with her, then you must in the kindest way possible tell her why. Most importantly, you have to have a place to stay before you can have this converstation with her. If that doesn't work, try getting a job if you're having a lot of problems at home.
668873
well it might be that she think`s you are not going to have time for her no more or she really was not your true friend in the first place. true friend`s dont just walk out like that
13268
Can you be a bit more specific about the situation? How does SHE feel? Is she separated? Unhappy? You definitely aren't nuts though. Many have been there before and will be in this situation again.
1082021
You can do better, u don't need her. I think she just doesn't want to be with u anymore, if she did then she'd have spoken to u about it and then u could have worked through it together.
315660
If your mom is kicking you out it must be for a reason.  You can either choose to work things out with her or find a new place.  If your looking for a new place the best thing for starters is to look into newer places and maybe just a studio apartment.  That way the rent is usually cheaper plus you get a place that you don't have to share and worry about falling apart.
104104
Sorry dude, if she's made up her mind to be gone for good, she's gone.  I would move on....who knows, down the road if you're still available, she might come back??!!  Good luck.
1032075
No you have needs as well and you have to make him aware of them. Sometimes guys we don't catch on to sublte hint then three months from now we come home she's crying and we can't figure out why. Then you unlaod everything that you've had bottled up for the last 5 months and the whole time he could really be clueless. Let him know what your thinking and why and see what he says, but assuming is never the way to go. You just moved in so establishing communication is key. Here is you first chance to do so. I hope it all works out well.
856445
She is responsible for the entire share of rent by the end of term of the lease. She can try to find a suitable replacement, but it would have to be with you and your other roommate's consent. She can't find some felon and expect you guys to be fine with that! Take her to court if she doesn't pay....nothing personal, it's just money.
854693
You're right, unless it's in writing there's not much more you can do.  And if there is something else, it'll probably end up costing you more tyring to do something about it, than what you've already paid!  Needless to say, it wont be worth it!   So you can either continue feeling bad and mad about it or move forward and learn from it!    And remembering next time.... "the only way you can get screwed, is if you let them"    I would just put my focus and energy on the future.  Are they worth getting you down?    \n\nBy the way, did you guy give a rent deposit when you first moved in? Well, If you did, it might be worth trying to get it back.  By making sure the apartment is spotless and painted!  The cleaner the unit, the less the take out for the clean up!
316692
it would make it easier on you now that he moved out and away to say to him you really feel you need your space. just let him know you've never experienced life by yourself. you were 19 when you got into this and now that your 21 (my 21 b-day is in 7 days i so syked!), you're old/young enough to experience everything you've wanted. if you feel you want to go out and have fun as a single more power to you to follow your heart and do what'll make you happy! GL
458672
Allow her to ignore you and be jealous of you.  What harm can it do to you?  Just go about your daily routine as if she did not exist.  She just wanted to to bring her man to your flat so they could have some place to spend time together without fear of getting caught and when you ssaid no she found that you were of no use to her and that you had higher morals.  So she ignores you because she's a selfish B and you won't cater to her, and she's jelous because you're better than her.  Just use her as a daily reminder of the good person you are.