How many single dads have been mistreated by their local child support office?
344042
I have.... I had a rough time when I didn't make much money and couldn't make my whole payments (made partials). They totaled up the back payments and took away my license even though I kept trying to call and pay it off.... I could never get through to anyone at the local office!!  I have since payed off all of it and I'm still waiting on my license to be reactivated.  They offer little help to the few fathers who are trying to do the right thing.  By the way.... my son spends every weekends with me.... I'm not just there for financial support.
910684
I'm sorry this is happening to you and your children. Dead beat dads really make me mad. \n\nLegally...you are well within your rights to go back to family court and file a custody modification. You can pick up the petition at the family court of the country where you and the children reside. Take the petition to your lawyer or complete it yourself (they're pretty self explanitory).\n\nYou can then modify the custody to either suspend his visitation completely, or you can make some provisions that if he doesn't pick them up within one half hour of the scheduled visit is canceled (so he can't just randomly show up). \n\nSite the reason that it is emotionally damaging to your children to have inconsistent visitation. For the next few visits make sure you have a credible witness in your home or at the drop off site. That way, he can't come back in court and say you are refusing him visitation.\n\nIf you don't care about child support or if you aren't recieving any, you can petition the court to eliminate his parental rights. This is easier to do if he is not only not visiting, but if you also have a husband or boyfriend who is willing to adopt your child. The court does not like to bastardize a child (their words, not mine).\n\nJust a warning, usually just the threat of court action causes most men to start seeking visitation again. So, only take action if you aren't worried about that. And the child support increase that another poster was talking about is not true in all states, so talk to a lawyer if you can. If you can't afford one, speak to your local Legal Aid Society or request a court appointed attorney (they do have those in FC).\n\nAnd on a personal note....kids are pretty perceptive. If you see yours being effected by all of this, consider family or individual counseling. There are free counselors available to your and your child.\n\nBest of luck!
204756
sweeie, no one is safe! i am a disabled woman and i pay child support  (thats right , disabled woman!) and my sons father makes at least 80,000 a year.
866367
It's nice to hear a single father going through what most single moms go through, well the thought would be just like any guy they do not want to settle down with someone who has kids, there not ready yet, keep looking you'll find someone who will love you and your daughter no matter what!
51715
Don't get married, have a few kids with different dads that don't pay child support and don't even bother trying to get a job.
573872
My friend called his biological mother mum (australian spelling) and his other mother by her name. My other friend raised by two dads did the same.\nAs for the father figure... how many families are there that are single parent families? Millions...its kind of abnormal to have a father figure these days.
80358
You could call your local Child Support Enforcement Agency.  We are going through that also.
997753
Yes, you need to take this deadbeat to court.  I don't know where you live, so it I can't give you any specific advice, but every city has people (usually in the family assistance office) that can help you with the paperwork.\n\nYou may not want to see this guy again, but your child--HIS child--needs financial support, and you should get it for your daughter.
1110764
I went through the Attorney General's office online for my state, filled out the paperwork and had a hearing in 3 months!  The child support order went into effect the 1st of the next month.  It went really fast.  I think you can find some or all of those forms on the attorney general website for your state.  The information sheet just gives all parties names (including children), addresses, date of birth, social security number, drivers license no., and employers for you and him.  There are websites online where you can buy the forms really cheap.  Try www.findlaw.com and see if they have it.
826515
Get a lawyer!!! Most states have legal services for low income families...so if you can't afford one then look in your local yellow pages for the closest legal aid office....if you have complied with everything and hopefully are no longer with the father...you should be able to get them back...the longer you wait to get an attorney the harder it will be for you to get them back.
224486
Contact your Child Support Enforcement Unit for the current balance.  They are a unit of Child Protective Services under the state government section of your phone book.
21679
According to the local Children's Bureau here where I live, the moment my ex wife left me.\nThroughout reconciliation attempts I still paid.\nFor the record I became the custodial parent after a fairly amicable divorce and never shirked the support obligation.
818158
not spouse, but yes, I make about 3 times what my live-in boyfriend does, after he pays his child support.  No, I am just glad he's a decent guy who WILLINGLY pays his child support, unlike that worthless piece of crap "daddy" of my daughter's!
516480
Darlin', \nI have 3 boys, teens, as a single parent I have looked!  There is nowhere to go!  \nI am staying right here and working it through.. as soon as you pick up the family and move something else will happen in the economy and it will seem bleak again!  Stay where you are and Pray!
264642
I did the same thing with my ex husband.  It cost much less than a lawyer and you can apply with the Attorney General for free to get the Child support and custody resolved.  Lawyers are all about the money.
727057
Don't blame you at all for being irked! I work in child support so have come across many who are on welfare or some other type of state assistance. It's a very mixed bag which is one of the problems with the system. Some people use it the way it's meant to be...temporarily...and others take it very much for granted. So there are definitely some problems with it. My opinion, it needs to be better controlled and if people aren't willing to use it the right way they should not be entitled to it.
748563
i feel your pain brother, and yes it is true. my ex did the same s--t to me. i have3 kids. pay more than that per week and also provide medical,dental,and eye care.\nthe real kick in the ass will be when her NEW boyfriend(unemployed also of course) moves in and you end up supporting his ass too.\nkeep your cool and remember that the children come first.\nGOOD LUCK