why are the older guys I am supposed to be dating so old and the one's I can relate to too young?
343587
Because you want everything in life and you want it now.
716938
No it's not old.  Date the ones your age and stop looking at the ones that are younger.  Trust me your not old.  Ask this again when your 30.
542128
I'm 56 and women your age want to date us guys cause the women your age say younger men are too immature! But it is your choice of what you want out of life? Myself, a women has no age limit for me as long as we are compatible.\nGo for it girl, all you need is self esteem!
465237
Well i suppose it is natural to be attracted to these women especially when you say that you are still young and outgoing, regardless of your age. However do not expect too many invitations, unless it is for your money. I am 31, the only way i would be with a man that much older is if he was really rich and i was desperate, or maybe i fell completely inlove. I think your chances are slim. It is not abnormal but a hard call.
918596
um..the 24 year old because he likes your kids and they come first. there is no hope with the 42 year old, he is in a relationship.
374137
Im 27yrs old, and divroced for almost 7mos, the ex messed aorund on me, since I started dating one of the things I have relized is that girls are attracted more to older guys, most of the girls I have dated have been 19-25 not to make myself sound like a man whore or anything, but I think Im more attracted to the younger girls because they tend to want ot have more fun, and make me feel younger when Im with them. Its not about the sex.
505221
Listen to your Momma!  If the guys are worth your time, they will still be interested when you are old enough to date.
329367
When I was 20 I dated a guy who was 26... it was fine for awhile but it didn't last.  I say if you feel like you're on the same level maturity wise and he treats you right, go ahead!
66587
If you KNOW that you don't need to be with these guys, then when you meet them you need to not let it go any farther.  I know it is hard when you are attracted to them, but in the long run it is better to not put yourself through the same thing over and over again.  I know it is hard being single for a long time, I'm in the same boat, but in the end it is better than getting your heart broken over and over again by guys that you know are going to do it.  Just hang out with your single friends, enjoy being 18 and having fun, and the right person will come along eventually (going out with nothing but couples will end up making you feel worse and like a huge third wheel, trust me on that one).  Good luck, let me know how things go, and email me if you have any more problems, greeneyeddevl@yahoo.com.
193123
you should specify an age so that you will not get guys that are way too old for you. Unless you do not mind!
705614
I too have a preference for older men and have been there. First off don't be offended when your family starts in with the what does he want someone so young for. Most occasions when an older man is interested in someone so young it is because there is something wrong with him. That being said there are some relationships that do work out becuase both are really in love and only time will tell this. I suggest that you tell your parents that you know that there is high percentage of varying age difference relationship problems and the two of you love each other and discuss the topic often and want to do your best to work through that and feel it is worth it. More than likely you will get oposition concerning this but don't get angry. There is reasons for their concern and respect that. There does have to be a point though after your family has met him and he has proven time again that he does love you that you need to take a stand and say that's enough he has proven that he loves me regardless of my age and his only negative aspects are normal and I can live with them so I suggest everybody else to just accept my relationship and get over their expectations of me finding someone your own age because it's not going to happen.\n\nOn the other hand if their fears eventually get confirmed then don't be so hard on yourself. We never see it for ourselves until it is too late and going through what ever you may go through could have ended up being a wonderful relationship but you wouldn't have known unless you tried.
815950
Congrats. You've made a wise decision.  He can take you anywhere on a date, except bars unless you have a good fake - that will depend on what he is into.  Older men find insecurity annoying.  Mostly I think as men age they are looking for a person to just be themselves because they spent their twenties playing head games with their partners.  After awhile you get sick of the B.S.  The more down to earth you are the better.  If you like him - tell him - be upfront with your feelings - don't play childish games or he will tire of you. Remember to show an interest in what he likes to do - don't be too into yourself.  Also, everyone loves a sense of humour so if you have one let it shine. Good luck.
608998
well, as you get older, you'll find more guys that are mature. Unlike this jerk. You'll find someone better. Guys just love to flirt. same with girls. just try not to get emotionally attached everytime you spend a lot of time with guys.
323410
I myself am not inclined to date a guy more then a year or two younger then me. The stereotype says that young men are immature and while it does have it's truth I think it's more about life experience and I couldn't handle a guy that not on my level. I am not saying relationships with large age gaps don't work, just that I would pass on that scene. On the flip side women are sometimes attracted to older men, again that whole stereotype that older men are more mature. For one that's not always true and in most cases older guys looking for younger women are just using them for sex and half of those guys are still married. I guess what I am trying to say is they have to much baggage. They have been screwed over by too many other women generally and so again not that those relationships don't work out but I have no intention on venturing there either.
421963
I had that problem before and some one told me that it is because there is something inside of me that makes me to mature for my age. I act older than what I am so therefore i attracted older men. I don't know what to tell you as far as how to change it but i hope you find happiness.
816675
how old is way too old? go out with the guy you have known for 4 years. It sounds like you may be able to trust him more
409503
Not that I am a psychiatrist, but I'm sure there is some logical explanation having to do with your history and past why you seek the comfort of older men unconciously and so consciously you are attracted to them? Who knows? I find the same, as far as being attracted to older men goes. However, I'm not married, I'm engaged, far from divorce. I think its normal to be attracted to older men. Women traditionally want to be taken care of by a strong, wise man, which we somehow invision as an older man, and that's why I am attracted them. They offer stability and knowledge, or so my subconcious thinks so. lol...\nAnyway, I wouldn't worry too much about the being attracted to older men part.\nIf I were you I'd be more focused on my marriage, and what an affair could do to it and my kids...