Do you think that it is right to show your child more love and attention than your lover?
341901
As long as you are just dating, yes, the child gets more attention and love.  However, in a marriage, the spouse MUST come first.  This is the main problem with marriages today - putting the kids ahead of the spouse.  Why should you stay with someone who doesn't care about you and pay attention to you????  I love my children dearly and hope one day they have wonderful, sucessful, loving marriages of their own.  This will make my husband and I happiest - to not sacrifice our marriage for our kids sake.
1097935
I think any time you can put a child in a permanent, loving and nurturing home, then you should. Who cares what the sexual orientation of the parent are if they can love and provide for the child. And no, I don't think the child will end up homosexual because of it.
662342
I would hope that any parent would treat their gay child with the same respect and compassion that they would show a heterosexual child. I love all of my children and I show them all love and respect because that's what I get from them.
496182
Uhh... I don't want a lover that died for me... so I guess the Parents who care.\n\nNow, having a lover that WOULD die for me... that is different - then I would choose that.  lol
530550
No because it's something you automatically have inside you wheather or not there your kids or someone kids your watching.If you see someone getting ready to do harm to a child your first reaction is to help,even if you don't know the child.For examole if you are involved with a man that has children and they come over for the weekend and you see some markings on them your first reaction would be to ask the kids who did this to you.And I'm a mother that's what I would say.Or if they are outside playing and they fall off a bicycle and started crying you would run over and say are you o.k?Don't cry and take them in the house and put some ointment on it or put a band-aid on it.So yes it's in us all wheather we can have children or not Ms.lady.I call it a gift from god. Take care.
241333
I know my parents love me and my two siblings equally. Being the eldest, i guess they were fond of me a 'bit' more..ofcourse i dont question them. When i was a kid i used to feel awkward at the thought of my mom and dad sharing their love with this little sister i had..but now over the years, i have realised that it is very very difficult for parents to differentiate between children they have made..who came from them..\n\nBut i do often use it as an excuse to get their attention sometimes..that she loves my sis and my bro more than me (and ofcourse i know that isnt true)..
559017
Yes,  it is alright to "steal a moment" from your busy schedule to hug your child and say "I love you".  It is alright to "steal a kiss" from your someone special and say "I love you".  It is alright to "steal a glance" into the eyes of your aging parent or grandparent and say "I love you".  Other than that, it is NEVER alright to steal!
746015
You really hit the nail on the head with that one. I have more love and respect for my parents now that I have kids of my own. I understand more about them. They were never trying to ruin my life they were trying to keep me from ruining it. Just wish I would've listened more to them growing up. I would be so smart now. You never understand anyone's point of view until you're in their situation. My kids think I'm the meanest mama ever. If they only knew how good they really have it.
157527
You should not care about if it is too old if you truly love each other... what you should think is if the boys are yours: Is he/she good to them?, will she/he make a good, caring parent? If the boys are not yours: Are you committed enough to be the best parent to them.  Because young children did not asked to be involved, they are just in the middle. And if you both are truly in love the answer to the above are Yes!!. Be in love and be happy no matter what age!!!
987017
Max333 gave you a stupid answer.  You should focus on the child ovbiously it has more maturity than your mate does.  Let him go he is still a little boy in a man's body.  Focus on what is most important.  and Please educate yourself on the difference between love and lust.  This is love...Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres
915891
Yes.  I think that I have unconditional love for my son.  Although, I can think of reasons that I might not want to know hm if he turns out a certain way as an adult.  I am doing my best to see that he turns out to be a good person.\n\nI did have unconditional love for a cat, until he died at 17.
518396
It is WAY better to be raised by loving caring parents then have your child being raised in a daycare. Being with your child teaching them what could be better and at least you know what they are learning and not learning from other children who may not have the best influences
1089677
I think yes, chldren do have the urge to look after their own interests. They want what they want. And it seems perfectly natural to them to protect what they want. Some children are, though, naturally giving to those that they care about. Just as that selfish streak is inherent, I think unconditional love is also something inherent in children.
482693
at first I was thinking to reply YES to both questions, \n\nbut now that I think about it...\nto love mean ppl presents more of a challenge than loving nice ppl...I think mean ppl test your love and strengthen your character if you are able to love them and God does call us to love meanies.\n\nBut I guess that's kind of selfish, huh? ooh, I hope i'm not mean. :(
48630
You and your husband come first.  For your child/chilren it is important that your relationship can be a model for them in how they should relate to other people.  If you exhibit disrespect or lack of attention for eachother and focus on your child then he/she will develop a similar lack of disrespect for other people.\n\nIt is also important because your children need to know they are in a stable household and you ensuring that your relationship with your husband comes first goes a long way to facilitating this.\n\nGood Luck!
1040106
Loving them and simply hugging them almost everyday since birth make our relationship really great.  I always tell them that i love them so much and they know it because they see it and they surely feel it with my kisses and touch. The level of relationship that you and your children have can be determined thru the respect and love you give each other and most of all thru the understanding you find with each other for each other which others actually don't know.
925339
Yes, he SHOULD love you more than he does the kids, but very seldom does that happen. In my case, I definitely loved my kids more than I loved her, and we ended up divorced after 25 years. If I had loved her more than the kids , it might have ended up differently. If I had it to do over however, I think I would still love the kids more......they're MY flesh and blood!