Why do married men and women cheat with someone they know are no good?
351135
it's low hanging fruit...easy to pick up, easy to get rid of.  You get the thrill of "something on the side" without risking any emotional attachment.  The phrase "hit it; quit it; and forget it" applies.  Most men like the thrill of the hunt.
498428
Men and women cheat for different reasons. Men cheat for sex, and women cheat for affection and attention. Yes, this is a generalization, and some women cheat because they are nympho's, but that is not the norm. I believe the old saying "a man is only as faithful to his partner as his options" meaning that a though a man may not go out of his way to try and get laid, but if it's put in front of him and offered up he is hard pressed to say no. A woman on the other hand equates sex with an act of love, unlike the man who sees it as an act of lust and gratification.
543253
They wanted to spice up their lives. If a married woman have an affair with a single man, it complicate things. The man may do something to break the marriage- what if the woman just need a fling- married men are easier to handle, have more experience can easily understand DISCREET.
1016441
Well, men and women alike cheat. Not everyone mind you. We are all different and have our reasons for cheating or not cheating. Speaking on behalf of men, my personal opinion is that if a man cheats, he does think about it, even if its at a subconscious level. I have never cheated on anyone I have been with, but that's my choice. I prefer to end the relationship if I feel that I want to be with another woman. Cheating isn't worth the headaches or the risk of losing someone you might care about.\n\nI think if someone cheats, they have very low morals and isn't someone worth being with. This is why I believe that most people get involved in serious relationships too early in life. They should be out there having fun and enjoying their youth. There will be plenty of time to get involved in a serious relationship. Once we learn what love is really about, we can make better decisions on who will might want to spend the rest of our lives with.
235156
Women are drawn to married men , the joke of it is they are drawn to them because they see them as a man who is stable and can make a commitment because he is married. They hope to get him for themselves, yet how committed is he if he is cheating, and if he does end up with the other woman , how long before he is cheating on them.
160000
i agree- once a cheater....  if he cheated on his wife and is willing to leave her, is this really the type of person you want to be with!?!?!  seems like a set up for heartbreak!
986425
Its because we live in a society that was founded and is guided by nothing but men assuming father figure roles in our lives. Therefore, if a woman knowingly has an affair with a married man, she is assumed by society to be of low moral character.\nIts romanticized in movies, books, music, you name it infidelity is America's new fast food craze.\nI am of the belief, however, that open and honest communication should guide relationships. If there's a communication breakdown and either a husband or a wife have extra marital affairs without trying to heal the problems in their relationship, not only is the person from the outside of the marriage of low moral character, be they male or female, but also the person IN the marriage has a few problems as well.\nIf you've pledged yourself to another person, loved them, become their breath when they need air, you should NEVER give up on loving them, and always try to work towards a stronger relationship of trust and mutual love and understanding.\nIts a shame that we groom ourselves to just have physical connections with people we find attractive, instead of truly finding someone who can become a life long friend and partner to share everything in our lives with.
667796
well it is because you love him and you are use to him and you dont want the relationship to end and its just like other things in a relationship you think it can be fixed,cheating in a serious relationships destroys it you no longer can trust that person and it causes alot of emotional pain and guilt on both people it really is a selfish act on that persons part too but us as woman are the ones that try to fix things and we have the mother instinct so that is why we put up with alot of bs but usually after cheating a relationship doesnt last and if it does it is never the same it has been broken in two it is sad but you will find someone else someday just dont put up with it a you will grow from this experience good luck
277502
Married men can be faithful...they can if they want to.\nWomen is the same. Women can cheat too. Both men and women can cheat. And, men and women can be faithful...only if they really want to be.
543692
They cheat because we let them. We sometimes let ourselves go instead of keeping the romance alive in the relationship. My ex-husband slept with a 13 yr old when he was 26, right before we got married. I had gotten comfortable, I knew he was mine and I didn't have to worry, not!!!! Always be worried, there is always another woman who will be better and can do more than you're willing to do. So we have to keep up ourselves and make our men see that we are willing and trying to stay the woman they fell in love with.............
1032147
it's Men and Women.  Cheaters are classified as people who have issues with themselves and can't deal with conflicts in the relationship so they simply cheat to get their needs met.  Their needs can be anything from loneliness to neglect, lack of sex, lack of self esteem, lack of attention, lack of affection and so on.  IF these needs are not met, some people cheat to get them met.\n\nTHE PROBLEM with this method-cheating- is that these feelings that I mentioned in paragraph one are lacking with a cheater and most people don't understand that they have to tend to their own needs and not expect others to fix them. In other words, someone who is lonely has to help himself, not expect his spouse to and then when his spouse can't deliver, they cheat.\n\n  You see, most people who cheat are expecting their partners to fill these voids that I mentioned above when in reality, a person who is emotionally grounded understands that these are things one gives to themselves through proper self esteem and self love.   So many people lack those inner feelings (due to upbringing and environment) which is why so many people cheat.\n\nHow do you spot a cheater- you don't but you look for someone with self respect, self love, self esteem, honor, integrity, empathy, generosity and all those core values.  The more one possesses those qualities, the less likely they will resort to cheating when they feel a void.
101153
Everytime somebody does something like cheating it springs form an inperfection they prcieve in themselves. Usually fear of a stable relationship is because the people dont feel they are capable of holding up their end.
104317
I think men cheat because they need to know that they are still desired. \n\nI feel they reach a point in their marriage where they know in their heart that they are loved by their wife....but they start to question whether they have been all they need to be. Perhaps his wife doesn't tell him how "necessary" he is anymore. Perhaps his wife doesn't seduce him the way she used to. Perhaps she doesn't brag about him to her friends the way she used to. He needs to know he is still worthy. \n\nSo one day.....someone notices him.......and man...it just feels so good to be noticed again! And then maybe he sees her again the next day......and the next day. And her smile starts to become addictive. He becomes intrigued about who she is......and why she has noticed him. It might start out as a smile.......but it will become a kind comment.....and then a need on her part to 'run into him' just as he has found it necessary to run into her. \n\nMany times the affair is not intended. But all of a sudden it starts to fill a hole and fulfill a need that he realizes needs to be filled. She tells him how necessary he is........she craves the intimacy.......she tells him what a wonderful person he is. All the things that were lacking in his marriage. His needs are being fulfilled.........just not by his wife.
299629
Because they seem to like the challenge.Because some women allow them to cheat.My father use to say that sometimes a man will marry the woman that will let him get away with the most crap.Whorish men get married too.Some men are in the practice of saying whatever it takes to get what they want or to get you off of their backs.Never let him know that you are totally satisfied with him or your relationship,because to do so is to give up the fight.Have you ever seen a dog chase a car?If the car stops moving he turns and goes the other way.He doesn't really want to catch it,he just enjoys the chase.Always keep your man chasing you.Even if he has you,don't convince him that he does.Otherwise he will look for some other person to chase.
1118112
Really, there is never a good reason for the other person that is being cheated on but, sometimes, when a person is all alone in the marriage, being ignored and traeted badly by the other person, then they cheat, they do this to feel love again, to feel needed. Sometimes, things just happen, even if they were trying not to happen.
578773
usually its because they need a change to the same routine, maybe they are second guessing their relationship,maybe they can get what they need from the person their cheating with, maybe its blackmail, or greed or lustor,maybe theyre still in love with their ex partner(if its an ex they slept with), maybe they got into deep into a relationship they cant get out of , maybe they dont love their spouse , maybe its low self esteem , \n\nwho knows there are many different reasons and no one reason is right or wrong, and it has nothing to do with anything except the struggle that is going on inside that person that does it, dont bother to ask why people do it,  just dont do it yourself, and walk away if it happens to you.
15162
Probably for the same reasons that married women sleep with married (or single) men.  Because they do not respect the marital vows.