Why do women claim that "he seemed nice at first", when in fact she knew he was a jerk from the start?
345773
man u catch on quick......yeah it is a form a denial cuz like she is just tryen 2 convince u and and herslef that he was a ok guy but turned bad when he was a jerk/bad boy 2 begin with!
1165034
If those weren't red flags to you, I don't know what would have been.  How much more obvious can it be, than for the man to TELL you he's "not nice" and "immature"?  You should have listened.\n\nI'll give him points for honesty, though he sounds like a big jerk.
1027847
I've been guilty of that "super nice, but I am really hating you at this moment" kind of behavior.  A lot of the time it's because we want you to know why we are upset.  Not just that we're pissed- but the reason you pissed us off!  It can be tough figuring that one out, I know...  And the whole niceness thing is fake, you know that.... we want you to know we are ticked and trying to hide it...\nI think most women assume that men are emotionally retarded and think we are making it easier to understand us, when actually we are making it harder.  Good Luck with your girl...
225227
Jerks are selfish, manipulative bastards who see women as little more then sexual conquests to brag about to their buddies or mere objects that are there for their personal pleasure. As to ensure the post-sex breakup will be in their favor, Jerks often play the "sensative guy" early on so the girl will make most of the moves on HIM, and after he's done with her and dumps her for some other girl just like her, he can make it look like she's at fault for coming on too strong, and consequently she'll take him back if he chooses to return for seconds.\n\nOr if you use the term loosely they are idiots or stupid people. \nOr an insensitive, selfish, ignorant, cocky person who is inconsiderate and does stupid things.
883656
Because these guys don't start out disrespecting them.  They usually treat them like princesses in the beginning... and these guys add an excitement to the relationship that you don't get with the nice guys.\n\nBy the time they start treating the girl like crap so she's so far in she doesn't really realize it.  This is also how girls wind up in abusive relationships.  Even the strongest of women can fall into this pit of despair.\n\nI've had happen to me.  Bu I ditched that jerk after a year and am now engaged to a sweet, loving man.  \n\nWomen just have to figure it out for themselves.. Unfortunately.
433007
sweetheart, it is not that they don't want the good guy first ...sometimes you just can't tell the difference. unfortunately for women, there usually are no flashing lights and ringing bells to let us know that the guy is one of the as..... out there.
803941
Some people, in spite of their good qualities, have character flaws that make them 'control' freaks say...When he is not in control, he 'punishes' his wife...his own ego is so small, that he has to put her down,...for fear that she will get some attention, and that he will lose control of her...He must have some good qualities,..that are admirable...but many people are just plain spoiled rotten and when they don't get their way, they act like this....it is sickening...and I would ignore his actions if at all possible...like a spoiled rotten brat...don't let him think he has got to you...but the name calling...he makes an *** out of himself anyway...no need to say anything
1063711
Because " I " get a better response from you women when I act that way , besides , women dont respect a nice guy
439240
Does she realize he's a jerk to her, but won't leave him anyway?  Or is she oblivious to how he treats her?
297929
Because he get you hot . . . he is sooo in control of himself and of the situation around him . . . that you find that power and control intoxicating.\n\nMost women . . . I have dated . . . constantly talked about the jerks and a**holes they have dated . . . they say the wished they had a nice guy . . . (I was one of those nice guys) . . . and when they found the nice guy . . . he either gets ignored or used.  Then they go back to those people who treat them like dirt . . . because you are attracted to those type of men.\n\nYou may deny it . . . but this is true . . . and factual . . . oh there may be a few exceptions to that rule . . . note:  I said FEW.
214324
you have to try to understand what happened in arouba, he might have met someone and is having second thoughts about you...you never know with guys, you have to be always on your toes....he might never admit it, if that was what happened, but you will understand it...as you said, men have this problem with being truthful and straight forward, at least 99% of them, i guess it's got something to do with their egos, they think it's clever to play games with us and it shows they are more in control...strange creatures and so immature, right??!
664101
I have never heard an abusive man described this way, to be honest. What I have heard from women in this kind of relationship is that they hate how the guy treats them, but they deserved it cos they said something or did something stupid. Soooo wrong!!\n\nThese women are wholly lacking in self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence. They've been put down for so long, they truly believe the guy is right. They are so low on confidence that they will continue to state, Ohh, but I love him. I think that is because they see no way out..they feel they can't make it on their own, especially if they have kids, and they truly are SCARED to go it alone. They want someone to take care of them...and no, they really DON'T want the abusive guy, but they won't do anything about it until they learn to build up their self -esteem and truly believe that they are worth so much and have done NOTHING to deserve this kind of treatment.
1011897
Becuz they know ur rite and their wrong and they have lied to you by not communicating when required by being an ignorant bastard.This  guy must have lied to you and had an infidelity problem where he cudn't be true to you.Anger begins when he is fucking up the relationship and seeing someone out of the realtionship,where he is no more involved with you anymore but is more engrossed with his animal instincts.in a way man show anger to scare the gal and show his power over the gal.in away I wud say in plain words,he BULLIED.
594624
Some are attracked to jerks because they think that they can change them, which will never happen, they fall in love with the man he could be not the man he is. If she is getting hit then you need to talk to her about gettting out of the relationship and getting help. If you like you can write me poetry any time, I love it.
631818
I have found it's better to be silent, and be thought a fool, than to speak, and remove all doubt. For any man to tell a lady that her butt "sucked" in a pair of jeans, is not only a fool, but a mean, uncaring fool at that. And to do that to a wife???? You need to dump that cruel joker if he told you that.
521224
Because they are jerks!  They know not to mess with us when we are bitches.  I guess you'll just have to always be a bitch - then he'll always be nice.
941442
They are projecting - pure and simple.  They have probably suffered rejection or worse from women that makes them all  enemies in their minds, especially the attractive ones.  A good way to judge a person's character is by how they treat strangers.  If they are rude or mean to strangers they generally are people with low self esteem.