Why don't people get that being with people who cheat on them is stupid, and that they deserve better?
343030
Your problem is that he's still into her in his head and that's really hard to break down. All you can do is be there for him and show him the contrast between a great gal (you) and a cheat (her).
182356
I was cheated on once in my life and it wasn't a fun experience. I believe women and men cheat for different reasons - guys usually cheat for sex or different sex then what they are getting, and women usually need more of an emotional attachment. This is totally my opinion and not necessarily true in every situation.  I also believe that once somebody cheats and a trust is broken, it is very hard to remain in that relationship and be happy.
16881
Why not?  It seems easy, but a lot of us want to be too nice about it and end up making a big mess.  Also a lot of people who don't want someone their with also don't want that person with anyone else.  It's just nature for us.  I agree that people shouldn't do this but I know I've done it in the past and really wish I didn't.  It's done nothing but cause problems.  And in the end that person is hurt more by being led on than by losing "cold turkey".
293258
People cheat because they are selfish and there are selfish partners who will cheat along with them.\n\nThis is not a man/woman thing, unless all of these men are cheating with other men.  They are cheating with women.  Therefore, there are as many women cheaters as men.\n\nNot everybody cheats on their partner, not everyone in an affair is married.  But both parties are guilty of violating YOUR vows (if you were married, I see this was "just" a boyfriend)\n\nIt's not a man/woman thing, it's a character issue, and the character of both cheaters is the problem, not gender.
895123
If a guy is trying to brake up with his girlfriend because he is seeing another woman.He is trying to turn the whole thing around so he isn't the bad one here.Another reason could be he thinks he is better then you and deserve better.
980902
I think it is very selfish to do that, if you aren't happy then try counseling and if that don't work then end it, cheating is just selfish and dumb.  You know the consequence of doing it when you do so why even do that and hurt the person you are with if you could save them the hurt to begin with???  Great question!!
401028
Nope.  Never would either.  It's just immature and silly. Really there's no excuse EVER for it.  If things aren't going well you work on them, and if it's not gonna work out, the mature thing to do is end the relationship first, then move on.  Another thing - when you're committed to someone you don't even get into situations where cheating "just happened".  That's just b.s.
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I cant give you the reason for the person you may be talking about but,most people(male or female) will have an affair with someone if given the chance.It may have something to do with being selfish,self-centered,and they might have a low self-esteem,and Im guessing they dont have morals and values or a lack of.Some may just have a lack of commitment.Anyway,I for one cant figure out why someone would waste someone elses time by pretending to be someone they arent by acting like they Love or care for someone.....Its sad....... Best Wishes
420356
They do it because they are dumb. I just got out of a realtionship like that and he wants me back. He is a big loser all they want is sex and if you don't give it to them, they WILL cheat. I cryed so much over him...hes a loser
1016441
Well, men and women alike cheat. Not everyone mind you. We are all different and have our reasons for cheating or not cheating. Speaking on behalf of men, my personal opinion is that if a man cheats, he does think about it, even if its at a subconscious level. I have never cheated on anyone I have been with, but that's my choice. I prefer to end the relationship if I feel that I want to be with another woman. Cheating isn't worth the headaches or the risk of losing someone you might care about.\n\nI think if someone cheats, they have very low morals and isn't someone worth being with. This is why I believe that most people get involved in serious relationships too early in life. They should be out there having fun and enjoying their youth. There will be plenty of time to get involved in a serious relationship. Once we learn what love is really about, we can make better decisions on who will might want to spend the rest of our lives with.
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Once a cheater always one, believe that for alot of reasons.  Biggest one is they feel it's ok to do it, or they wouldn't have done it.  second is that the trust is gone, and it will affect the relationship, and therefore, giving them more reason to go out and find someone else.
1035192
I'm sorry you have been cheated on. Where does this rant really get you? My opinion is you should be taking care of this with the person at fault than talking to us
520142
Answer me this. How many people have cheated in a relationship \nin some form or another?? If all you people would not go out with someone you knew cheated a majority of you would not have boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands or wives. They may be great and wonderful to you, but left that little piece of information out because close-minded people like the ones on this site have already rejected them before getting to know   them. I don't believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater" saying. People cheat for various reasons. Some people are serial cheaters and do it for the thrill and  can't commit to one person. Some people cheat because they were abused in some way in the relationship (physically, emoitionally, verbally, ect...) And for whatever reason they could not get out of that abusive relationship. I have been in an abusive relationship. People don't know exactly how hard it is to get out of one. I put up with mine almost 6 years. I cheated, yes I did. I felt I could not get out of my situation and wanted to feel special from the person  I cheated with. I don't regret it for all the bad things he (my ex)did to me and how crappy he made me feel about myself. I am a very faithful person. I would not cheat on someone I loved and who respected me as a person as not to abuse me the way my ex did. I was faithful up until the 4th  year. So yes. I would give somebody a chance. Find out his reasoning for cheating on his g/f with you. She may have abused him in some way (yes, men can be abused by thier women) and he turned to you for comfort. Just be careful of being the rebound chic....
1111370
I had an a-hole cheat on me. He's now my ex-husband. Cheaters suck and they are cowards.
842207
An adultery is only an adultery when people care about each other, in which case adultery is pointless and is not to be justified!!
611275
I think some people stay because being in a relationship with the wrong person is better than being alone.
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i think the begging for forgiveness after a sin is a cop out.people know that killing/cheating/etc are sins yet they do it anyway knowing that they can always ask for forgiveness when they shouldn't even be thinking of sinning,if they're actually "religious"(who are suppose to be loyal&true to their god.)killing/cheating/etc are conscious decisions & deliberate actions.people don't just accidentally cheat on their significant other.i don't buy into the "i'm not perfect.i make mistakes.i'm human." excuses for their evil/sneaky behavior.there should be zero tolerance.you are clear about the rules yet disobey anyway due to temptation/etc.therefore, repeat offending sinners will be denied & punished accordingly:)