What do you do if you want a divorce but your spouse won't even talk about it?
351636
file for divorce and have it get served to him. the courts might make you perticipate in marriage counselling if you don't have good cause
100863
You need to be stubborn, hard-headed and just decided from the start that you will not get a divorce.  You'll work through the problems, the drama, the inconviences.  You have to WANT the marriage to stay intact.
718260
Addictions do not just go away.  If your husband refuses to admit that he has an addiction and needs help, he will never change.\n\nI highly suggest that you move out and start considering a formal separation.  If he refuses to listen when you do this, then face reality and look into a divorce.\n\nYou should not have to put up with his problem if he refuses to admit that he has one.  If his drinking is causing problems and he know this but is not willing to do anything about it, then he has made his choice and you lost to the addiction.
326328
Get in contact with a lawyer, have them advertise in the paper in the Legal section (like 30 or 90 days) they will tell you, if your husband doesnt respond or put up a fight you will automatically be granted your divorce.
803616
I'd get up and leave the room. With that said.  My son says my hubby and I fight alot, and to us we are not fighting.  We are discussing different things and giving our points of view to each other.  Usually we don't raise our voices and maybe it would be considered bickering by some.  But really it is harmless.  So I wouldn't worry about the divorce issue.  If they say they wouldn't get divorced than believe them.  No sense worrying about it until it really happens.  \n\nOn the other end of it.  It is not fair for either of them to ask you to side with them.  But maybe they are trying to get you in on a discussion.  Make it a family thing?\n\nGood luck.
940523
Don't ever admit to anything. The best thing that you can do is accuse her of giving it to you,and then file for divorce on grounds of adultery.
1083760
The root to your problem lack of conversation,....If there anything not right goin on , the best way to solve it is to talk openly to each other. Say your husband is up set over something that happen between his in-laws & him sometime ago, n he's not happy being with them....but for me at least he's willing to join you guy for a week. For me that's fair....Talk to your husband n make him feel good for his sacrifice....Then your job is to tell your family that your hubby has something to do........Time will heel things.....But never ever compare anybody with the past or with another person....Things can go very bad.
722912
have you exhausted all other options?  example: talking to a trusted friend/family member, seeking counselling from a higher up in your church and or counselling from a professional?  dont just jump into divorce, you may live to regret it.  my ex husband does..
553742
I guess you should have considered this before you got married and knocked up.  You are in a real pickle honey.  They have to know the truth so you might just as well get it overwith.  They are going to have to deal with it.  Doesnt sound like they have much choice now.  Maybe from now on you shouldnt hide things for so long.
694376
just seperate, isnt a big deal, why file any paperwork, if you think you  are going to work it out,  most times it isnt worth it, just get a divorce
417317
Don't push him but you can ask if he would tell you. If he says he doesn't want to talk about it, just say that you would really like to know what happened and if he ever feels comfortable telling you, you would like to know.
578693
I guess it depends on the stage of one's life.  I am having a hard time accepting that my husband wants to seperate and probably divorce and I think I need him more.  It is pretty obvious to me that he does not need me otherwise he would not be able to ask for this.
839499
I think you already know what you have to do.  You have to confront him.  It's scary because he might admit to cheating, but then you will know what needs to be fixed.  If you don't talk to him this will eat away at you and your marriage, and worst of all that will affect your kids.  Don't mention the evidence at first.  Just ask him if he has been cheating.  Then if he denies cheating, bring up the things you found.  This will leave him no time to think abou the answer.\n\nOn a personal note:  I wish you the best of luck.  I hope he isn't cheating, for everyone's sake.
980445
If one party claims that the marriage is not irretrievably broken, then the court can suggest counseling.  I don't believe, however, that they can actually require it, but it can certainly delay the divorce.
7436
If you can't tell your husband anything of that nature then there's a problem. A man, boyfriend, or husband shouldn't have to be told to be more loving to his children. If he gets mad b/c you want him to be that way to you and yours then a divorce will come soon b/c eventually you will get fed up.
126091
Someone has to give in. Either one is talking too much, or the other is not listening at all. \n\nCommunicate to your spouse that you have a part to play in this hardship between you and your spouse. If you're usually the talker, just listen. Bite your tongue when you have a retort.\n\nCalmly assess the problem together. No one can have an open and calm discussion when one of the parties are angry. So delay the discussion if you have to.\n\nBe honest with yourself. It takes two hands to clap. So admit fault, apologise and if possible, seek a counselor.\n\nPraying also helps. Good luck :)
716862
If your really this un happy why don't you just get a divorce... It's not fair to your wife and it's fair to you... I think it's time to call it quits and be single for a while...