Why do I have such trouble letting people get close to me and letting them know how I feel about them?
354316
i had the same problem,and it wasn't good hey. maybe someone you trusted hurt you in someway(just an example) and now you find it hard to open up to others and let them in. well you have to learn to accept the fact that you are an amazing person who deserves friendship and love. you deserve good people around you,you deserve the pleasure of being yourself around others and forming relationships with people you care for, because you are your own person,you owe it to yourself to form relationships with people you feel for.
497331
..I hope u not talkin bout me....Anyway if they do u that wrong maybe u should find some more friends. But as much as u love to speak your mind tell them off first so they'll know how u feel. Don't do anything u might regret.
677483
I would simply say - they are trying to, but you don't have to let them!  Try to surround yourself with people who are positive.  Maybe you are simply hanging out with the wrong crowd at your digs... try making some new friends that build you up instead.  A lot of people try to bring others down when they feel insecure about themselves.  Obviously, you have recognized this in others and want to avoid it for yourself.  I think that is great!  \n\nWhen people make negative comments to you, you can always counter them by saying something positive immediately - either about yourself or about the topic.  Failing that, tell them that they are coming across as negative and a bully and that that is unacceptable to you in a friend.  If you are feeling depressed about all this though, please try to talk to an adult about it.  In many cases, there are things they can do to help and the people looking after you care about you, I am sure.  \n\nGood luck with your circumstances and don't let negative people in your life affect you too much.  When you are grown and out in the real world working, you will find that they exist everywhere and very often it is nothing that you have done to make them that way.  It is their own failing and none of yours.  Go out and succeed.  Be happy.  *hugs*
513819
I am sorry if you are feeling rejected by people. You might be suffering from mild depression or mild anxiety because you seem very sensitive to other peoples opinions. Or you might be sensitive or shy. Or you might be young or immature for your age. (not meaning that in a bad way) everyone is different and every body's life style and circumstances are different and your life style affects how you grow up and at what level you mature.\n\nWhen someone says something that hurts your feelings or offends you personally; You should say "I beg your pardon" in a firm but polite manner.\n\nThis means "that wasn't a very nice thing to say and you should think about why you said it" (in a short and more affective way).\n\nThis is what my husband told me to try when I was more like you are now and it seems to work.\n\nPeople are funny that way; they give you more respect when you show you respect yourself and stand up for yourself.
40240
friends r ok to have them tell this person,but then it makes you look like ur afraid to talk to that person u dont want that do you\nlet the person see and know how much u like them\nflirt with them a lil bit and most of all TALK!!!
805914
I have the same problem but my friend is quite forward and she is rubbing off on me. If you know the person may be interested in you then make the move. No one likes rejection but you just have to be confident in YOURSELF, thats the first thing to work on.
390692
Totally know what you mean...  Depending on what you're telling them, they may be finding it too difficult or awkward to deal with on the spot, and so their natural reaction is to walk away.  And there's a fair chance they just don't know what to say to you and feel really really awkward.  Also, keep in mind that, while being told people are going to pray for you can get annoying really fast, that they say it because they want you to know they care, and they generally don't know how else to say it.\nHope things work out for you, and I hope you find someone you can share your thoughts with when you want to, and I hope you get over your depression and feel better.
808171
I found the easiest way to tell someone, at least for me, was to just write a note. Writing your feelings down allows you to express exactly what you feel, but are afraid to in person. It worked quite a few times for me.
153193
dear friend, its all about sharing our feelings and expressions and developing intimacy with somebody you feel close. you can start taking up some hobby classes where you can find people of your interest and start developing relations with them.\n\njust give it a try. theres whole world waiting for you.\n\nwhole world is your friend. i am your friend. you just need to talk and you will get the responses. everybody needs friends.......!!!\n\nbest luck!!!
303635
i get like that too sometimes! its what u feel inside is affecting ur outside world! u have to start feeling good about urself! go out with your friends make them talk to you! trust me sometimes they cant see how u feel so show them!
1136846
Expressing feelings makes people feel vulnerable.  Even though that's not necessarily the case.  It's the way people feel.  I personally feel repressed if I can't tell people how I feel.  If I don't feel comfortable with a friend to be open and honest with them, they don't stay my friend very long.
152483
I have the same problem...I usually tend to be very normal with the people I know....but when it comes to new people or strangers I shy out...so just pretend that you know the person...not literly though
153737
You can not control how others will react or feel by what you say. If someone is crossing your boundry line,it is up to you to say so, they can't read your mind. Choose your words carefully, say it kindly and all is done. If someone thinks that you are rude and you have been as kind as possible then that is their problem not yours.\n I need to do this quite often. So many people are touchers to even complete strangers and I suffer from chronic pain where sometimes even the lightest breeze can cause pain I would wish on no one. I just have to tell people straight out, or my husband does, to be gentle with me. I won't break, but I will suffer pain. And you know what there are people who are then offended and think I am rude for not wanting to be punched on arm or bear hugged, some people just have no thought for anyone but themselves
799245
if you have a friend that is close to him, tell them how you feel and ask them if they will mention your name to him and see how he reacts. good luck
384161
We are very open like that...and would totally understand and not expect you to do anything you didn't feel comfortable with.\n\nMost people who are that open are generally very laid back...so just talk to them and tell them how you feel...I am sure they will very cool with your feelings
332001
People are too scared to tell you how they feel to your face.  I get talked about behind my back but I also have a problem with saying things about others.  I always thought it was human nature, though not okay to do so.  I don't like doing it, and I am trying to stop, but I just find that I am a cynic and I just have trouble telling people what I really think of them to avoid confrontation.  So, I say it to someone else.  I definitely don't think it's okay, I never have, but old habits are hard to break.  I know that it is wrong...judge not lest thee be judged, but it is hard to change, right?
1105516
I'm shy and enjoy listening to other people talk so I ask alot of questions about them. If I like them I smile a lot and make a lot of eye contact. I do it to show them I like them but also to make them feel as nervous as I do, hehe.