Is she telling the truth, or just makin' excuses?
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Tough to say but I think she really is afraid of comminting this time. It's a very weak analogy but its just like going for skydiving classes. She knows everything about skydiving and loves the idea of it but when it's time to jump she has reservations. I don't think it's her way of saying she's not interested. Why else woul she spend time with you? It probably has more to do with her. I'm guessing it has hurt her self-confidence especially with regards to "keeping a man" than it is about you. \nGive her time and space. If you really feel something for her a little bit of waiting shouldn't hurt. As well, don't tell her that she will never be hurt if she commits to a relationship with because personally i won't buy it (and she's probably heard that before). Instead assure her that you're not perfect yourself but you love her (or like her) enough that your willing to try. \n\nHope that helps and i hope it works out for you.
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did you think you would get an honest answer? If so, how could you expect that when you already think women are liars?\n\nI disagree with the payback philosophy though, because at the most it is a 50/50 thing- guys lie 99% more than women?  Thats a laugh to say the least!\n\nI have found that women are liars too, basically because I dont lie to them.  So I think what happenes is that ONE person in the relationship is a liar that why theres problems, otherwise if both were liars, it would probably work!  I know men that lie to their women too, so I dont just think women are liars- and in those cases it is the women that are honest.\n\nSomething else to consider, and ladies, you are not qualified to respond to what I am about to say here- because you will either never admit it, or you dont see it in yourselves;  women want you to read their minds. They will tell you something with absolutely no details, but then expect you to be ABLE to recall those details later.  You may be able to recall the whole conversation, but she will tell you she told you something else, and if there is one detail you dont remember (because she didnt tell you) she will say "you never listen to me!" The fact is we listen, but what they say to us means something else to them than it does to us.  Thats why it seems like they are ALWAYS lying, because when they say things, they dont mean them in the way that plain english defines them.
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she is a liar. she may not know the difference between the truth and lies.  or she might just lie to make herself look better and others look bad. you need to think abot if you love her enough to tolerate the constant lying or do you think you deserve better.  good luck.
430622
Your words imply guilt. Have you convicted her? If so, on what evidence?
357456
Honestly she's trying to get your attention about something.  She probably doesnt really want to split if she doesnt have a good reason.  We women want your attention and when we dont get it... we say what we can to get to you... try talking it out, I'm sure she's got a lot she wants to get out.
889191
does she state the same?
38297
Is she acting different than when you first met her? Is she being secretive about certain things? Mostly it sounds as if there are some trust issues involved.
1000347
It might be over simplifying, but I'd say your friend is looking for some attention.  Something may be seriously lacking in her life that she feels the need to lay something like this on her friends.  I wouldn't end the friendship for her lies, look to what need might make her pull something like this.  Know that once she actually started this lie in motion, she may not know how to go about getting out of it.\n\nIf you believe that she is truly your friend, the best course of action may be to just let it slide.  Don't bring it up, don't give it any more credence when she does, just nod and change the subject.  If it turns out to be true, you can say you didn't want to talk about it because it hurt, but if it really isn't true, then she will be grateful to let the whole thing drop.\n\nThe bottom line is do you care enough for her to let this go?  Or would you get some sort of satisfaction out of calling her on it and making her life hell?  Young people do stupid things sometimes, along these lines, and it shouldn't have to be something they pay severely for.\n\nYou might never do something this stupid, but I'm sure that you have other shortcomings - and you can't expect anyone in your life to forgive yours if you're not willing to forgive theirs.\n\nAre you really friends?  Weigh your options.  and good luck.
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If the real reason is just to let people know and not to gain anything yourself, most of the time I would say it was okay.  I trusted someone for years, with my deepest secrets only to find out they were telling everyone.  No one was nice enough to tell me what she was doing behind my back.  I would have appreciated the honesty.
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what does your gut instincts say ?? \nbefore following your instincts, you should and i mean you should notice if there is any difference in the way she acts with you as opposed to before ( that is when everything was ok )\n\nremember, men are good liars but women are excellent liars !
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first do you really have any true evidence that she is... if not she will not appreciate an accusation... maybe she is going through something else?? maybe you should try just approaching her in a very caring manner and ask her if something is bothering her and being there for her.... sounds like something is up but you don't know what and don't create scenarios in your mind..... because you don't know
1095708
No, you aren't overreacting AT ALL. She should not be lying to you. Ask yourself why she lied. Is it possible she's cheating? Find out details before you beat someone up.
197785
Lies\nSomeone who is 'up herself' for want of a better term lol
401964
I don't see why asking her what she's doing over the phone should make her think you don't trust her unless she is hiding something. I think nothing of being asked that q. It's just normal conversation. Maybe it's your approach?? Or maybe it's not you at all!! Good luck, sweetie!
656666
Maybe she's accussing you because she has a guilty conscience. Ask her if she's guilty.
454745
What does she say about it?
804629
Its very clear that he is a liar, as if the wife really was a liar, she would be revealing a truth to her husband. In other words, she was telling the truth, so she couldn't be a liar. So, obviously the husband was just making it up.