Overwhelmed by inadequacy - Can anyone relate??
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OH no.....Please no....How amazing are you!  You have all of that HARD WORK as your FRAME OF REFERENCE.  \n\nNothing limits your conversations, ideas, advice except the people YOU choose to hang with who don't ACCEPT your conversations, ideas, and advice.  I can't find one reason for someone to feel dumb BECAUSE they aren't "TALKING SMART".....What is "excercising rhetoric" as you like to call it.\n\nWe all know what we are capable of....and obviously YOU DO...or you wouldn't have asked this question.  I have to admit the reason this question envoked such a powerful response from me is that I have felt I have let my intellectual integrity lag a bit in the last few years..and I did it all (school wise anyway).  \n\nBUT......I have never....not once let anyone....make me feel old, ignorant, limited, unimportant....and thats what I get from you.  You don't have to talk to amazing people to be amazing....just shine when you can.
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There should be a helpline for us first timers. Its a nightmare. Sorry my answer isnt very constructive, but I wanted you to know I share your plight!
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I feel EXACTLY the same way. Nobody is able to help but you.\nI am also killing time here. My books are waiting aside.
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OMG, youre not alone. i been trying to do the same thing, so far no luck.
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mutual mid life crisis..
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awww poor baby is so upset he can't type. You really need some help with those insults.\n\nYou could always leave. Or committ suicide but being the moron you are, you'd probably fail at that too. But you're used to constant failure, aren't you?
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Man, that blows - the same thing happened to me... you'll be in debt up your arse.  I really wish I could help as I was in the exact same situation and you are right you feel like your are being steamrolled by a system designed by a bunch of narrow-minded nitwits.  Like these people never hear of a DISFUNCTIONAL FAMILY and like maybe we need even more help than someone else but they treat you like somehow you have claim over your parents' money.  So they act like your resources are ones that you can't use and use that to deny you help.  I feel for you, man.\nThe only thing I can suggest is going over and getting to know those financial aid counselors - go over there and make appointments and bug them and let them know your situation and that you are going to go and you really need them to get creative and help you out.
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terrified, confused, traumatized,deeply afraid
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Sorry I can't help you with your dilemma - I am having the same problem.  I have had the same pile of paperwork in front of me since 9am this morning!  LOL
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If one expects too much without knowing what is his/her preparation or where one stands, then probably it leads to unexpected results which causes mental frustration. Best way is to find out one's own Strength Weaknesses and choose appropriate curriculum.
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Hey, I can relate. A few years ago I had a closed brain injury and its taking me forever to recuperate and the doctors say I'll not be the same. I see pictures of me but I honestly don't relate to how I was then. Plus the docs have me on a shit load of medicine. You will be ok just be patient and count your blessings.
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There is almost always room for improvement, so if you are asking that, chances are that this isn't as good as it gets :)\nThat said, you could be one of the unlucky ones for whom things don't get better.  If thats the case, I'm sorry - welcome to the club :-/
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Kudos to granniewinkie!  I'm right there with you, lady!  Listen to her!!\n\nIt doesn't really sound like you have AADD; it *does* sound like you're burning your candle at both ends and are dangerously close to meeting in the middle.\n\nTake the advice of a lot of these folks and find a calm time for yourself ~ even the luxury of a hot bubble bath can eases the stresses of the day.\n\nOne of the things I do with tasks that I'd rather not do, is do them first and get them out of the way.  That way, I cannot procrastinate and I have something to look forward to instead of something to dread.
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You haven't specified what your real problem is.  Have you lost interest in your topic?  Have you hit a snag in your research?  Are you just procrastinating?\n\nIf you're having a specific difficulty, post another question.  I'll look for it.\n\nIf it's lack of support you're suffering from, try the website called Phinished.  Here's their statement:\n\nThis discussion and support group is for you if: \n\nYou are sick to death of people asking you "How is your dissertation [or thesis] coming?" (but you really would like to talk about your troubles in finishing -- with anybody except those who keep asking, no matter how genuinely concerned they may be, or may seem to be). \n\nYou have vague fears about finishing, but don't feel you have a safe outlet for discussing whatever it is you seem to be afraid of. \n\nYou're having organizational problems or blocks. \n\nYou are not getting the kind of support you need -- from your university, your employer, your family members or friends. Maybe you don't even know what kind of support you need, just that you don't have it! \n\nFace-to-face support groups offered by your university don't suit you, for whatever reason \n\nYou've been in this stagnant state of incompletion, and want to help those still plugging, or flailing.
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Ok, what you are experiencing is called confirmation bias, where you set up a hypothesis and look for evidence, in this case, that you are a failure. Not that what you do is a failure, but YOU! What crap that is, but I can understand your hurt feelings and anger. It is obvious that you live for others to recognize and validate you. You may be expecting too much from some people with very limited capacity for what you need. But you deserve the strokes, the recognition, the proud looks, someone validating that you did good! Well ya did. Tremendous work going to college and graduating with honors. I know. I am so sorry they didn't share this with you. I am willing to bet 1000 bucks that they didn't get their degrees. Am I right? Because it is hard to celebrate others successes when you haven't been successful in that way. But still, what is one to do? Because this is a theme for you (the victim feelings and hurt) and you can't change them, you must get that validation and understanding from someone who cares and can help. Go see a counselor. Find one that you like and let loose how pissed off you are. How deeply wounded you are. You feel invisible because people haven't validated you enough. Go and get it! Claim it! You are a grown up now and you have to find the healing now. Counseling will help I promise. And maybe those twerps will come around someday, but don't sit on your sorry butt waiting for it. You are worthy of recognition. I saw it. You are not the failure. It is the dynamics of your family system. Do not claim the garbage that isn't yours OK? Take care.
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Go talk to a professional.  They're trained in such matters and have seen all kinds of problems, so they can offer some good advice.  Self-help stuff is fine if you're looking to make some minor improvements, but if there's stuff that just overwhelms you, it's not a bad thing to admit you need help.\n\nAnd no, Yahoo! Answers is not a good substitute for professional help.
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Don't worry, you are not alone. Read a Comp Engineering  student's blog at agneya2.blogspot.com\nEven I am not good in M-III.\nYou will learn to survive in hard and wild world, just see the blog and his hilarious way of looking at life