Im in love with my best friend. He feels the same way but a marriage has been arranged for him. HELP!?
341195
Their culture is strict... but if there's a will, there's a way... and if you really love each other then you'll fight for your love... Do something... don't just sit there and watch him get married... if you fail, then at least you've done your very best part... you won't have the moment in your life wherein you'll get to think about that time in which you had the chance but you didn't do anything...:)
584698
u need to tell him or otherwise u will dwell on it 4 2 long and the right person 4 u wont be there at all....my best friend told me that he liked me when he knew that i was in love w/ my husband (he wasnt my husband then tho)...he knew it was never gonna happen but he did it neway...we're still best friends...if ur friend is the kind of friend u say he is, then he shouldnt mind u tellin him at all
501290
I've wondered the same many a time.. I think itz because we've heard so much about love and relationships that we tend to stretch friendship to a higher level. Just imagine, if you knew your best friend is engaged to be married or is already married, you would feel nothing but friendship towards this person. The fact that hez single and available makes things different. You tend to open up a lot to ur friend..After you become quite close, you become so comfortable with the person that you think, "how nice it would be to have such an understanding person in life?". There love starts to blossom.
292302
Look this is the deal.. I understand you all have been best friends from some time and you just broke up. But she is getting married and there is really no reason you should interfere with this girl and her fiance... But I can tell you this if she is getting married to this guy and still attempting to keep ties with you. Well then it is obvious that she still cares for you. So knowing that you need to make sure that your not the reason that there marragies breaks up or does not last. And I belive you still have feelings for her as well so if your love is real then it can withstand what has been done. But this girl seems to mean to be unstable if she is planning to get married and then wanting to keep ties with you still. I mean she knows if she does this that she can have you and this guy. And then what she gets married and then later to you. I am sure this girl is sweet and kind but you need to protect your own heart...
473310
I think that deep down that you truly love each other and want to be with each other.. just give it a shot.. your best friends already.. so go for it!
526572
See where it goes. From the outside looking in, without details, I would say you are blessed. Every woman should be so lucky to fall in love with her best friend and vise versa. Knowing that you have found someone who can truly appreciate all that you can bring into his life is a wonderful feeling. \nAnd the same with you, knowing what his faults and strentghs are, put you both ahead in the game of love.\n\nEnjoy it, in my opinion, you are both blessed.
605227
If this person is your best friend, then chances are he already knows, and maybe feels a little of the same. it's natural between the sexes.\nDo you want to tell him because you need to nkow if he feels the same? What do you do if he doesn't, and if he does feel something, where do you go from there?? Downhill usually.\nIf there was a strong enough chemistry and bond between you to sustain a lasting relationship, then you both would have had it from the beginning, and gone way past "best friend" status.\nGood luck
662849
There are a lot of factors you have to consider.  Where do you see your relationship with him another year down the road?  Can you go with him?  The other question to be answered before you can make your decision is "Do you love him romantically, or more like loving him because he's become one of your best friends and are way close?"  Good luck, but you have to search your heart and soul.
80303
If you knew he was cheating before you got married, more than likely he's cheated or is wanting to cheat since you've been married. This was not a secret that was kept from you and you knew what you were getting into before you got married. Do this, ask yourself these questions: Have you found any evidence that shows he has cheated or is wanting to cheat? Have you confronted him about it and have you shared your feelings with him about this? Is this relationship with this person really that important to you? If any of the above answers give you that "sick to your stomach / queezee" feeling, then you might want to reconsider your marriage with this person. You shouldn't have to have these bad feelings everyday,especially if this person is supose to be your best friend and soulmate. If you are ok with it and can work things out and be happy,then YES, forgive and forget. Everyone should get a second chance.Good luck and take care.
1116854
It actually won't matter what you get for him if you guys love each other as best friends. As long as it comes from the bottom of your heart, he will like it no matter what it is. You should make it if you want it to be the best! ^ ___ ^
377165
most guys would prefer to have their best friend for life.\nand falling in love is the best way for that.\ntry suggesting it casually. and i hope he has not told u already abt his engagements. if yes also u still have a chance. after all. hes ur best friend. and he knows it. and guys dont usually let go their best friends.\nand dont be too late.\nBest of luck.
859464
okay well this guy is head over heels for you. i think he is trying so hard because he thinks you feel this way about him deep down and your afraid to get out your feelings. what you can do is be sensitive with him. tell him that your more than flattered and surprised that he proposed to you, but we can only stay simple friends right now. im not ready top get married right now and believe it or not i have dreams and goals i want to make come true. and i know you do too. and dont tell me that the only dream you have is to be my husband. i know you have things to accomplish in life. so thats why. we can still be really good friends b ut thats all we are going to be. if you liked me this much you would accept it and move on."if after that he still doesnt understand then maybe you shouldnt talk to him anymore. try avoiding him if he makes you feel uncomfortable. if he does understand then thats one less thing to worry about in life.
1106056
You respect your friend's choice. He only likes you, you are still deciding what to do. But, your friend is already in love with him. So, as a true friend you should help them to marry. It is not something unique that has happened in your life. It is a very commomn development. Nor you will be doing any sacrifice or great service to your friend. You will just be behaving like a normal civilised woman. That is all.
522944
Its ok to fall in love with your best friend. I think it can possibly make the relationship stronger because it already has a foundation. I married my best friend....
445586
Loving your "best friend" is not a bad start.  Does he love you back.\nAnd stop playing with the word "LOVE"!
1155213
You should read my answer to your question about what happens when your best friend gets married? Like I said, it depends on if your friend is the same gender as you. My guess, and this is a guess, that you are a guy who had a best friend who is a girl and she got married. If I am correct than you need to read my answer. Again, the only relationship that outways a best friend is the romantic love relationship. If she married someone you must let her go. She must not have thought of you as her best friend, or if you were best friends, she is too blind to make the best choice and she settled for less than you. If she thinks that you will still be best friends she is mistaken. Don't let her blame you. It's not a choice, it's human nature. Go online and research friendship, love and value exchange. Human nature dictates what I am telling you. I don't even know if what I am telling you applies to your situation as you only referred to friendship. It is important to distinguish the gender of the friend you speak of and the extent of your friendship and if the friendship was a mutually fair exchange of objective values.
389620
Look in the mirror. You are looking at a married woman. Why did you get married in the first place if you weren't prepared for a commitment.  "I do" doesn't mean " until something better comes along". Forget this guy unless you are able to remain "just friends". I feel sorry for your husband!