How long is too long before you tell him you love him?
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I doubt there is a true "Right" answer to your question, but I offer some thoughts.\n\n  First I applaud you both for being wise enough to have learned from your history, but I suggest it shouldn't be a burden you have to carry for the balance of your lives.\n\n   Fear of the "L" word isn't so much the issue I think, as fear of the definitions it encompasses in what it usually leads to.IE: Another marriage.\n\n   Certainly you can LOVE another and NOT marry them, or you can discuss "L" and pace yourselves in its effects and growth.\n\n   You already show enough intelligence to be able,,hopefully, to "NOT make the same mistakes, but that isn't promised. What is pretty clear is that those mistakes will offer RED FLAGS should either of you slip into those situations or behaviors with each other.\n\n   I suggest you might begin by saying,,,"How would you feel, if I said, "I Love YOU?"\n\n   I suspect HE won't faint away, or run screaming from you after hearing it. He might even go,,"Whew,,, Me Too YOU!"\n\n   Communication usually brings clarity. SAY IT. Then after you've both stated it, believe in it still, you can discuss what it means to each of you and not always wonder, what if, and actually make a plan for life,,, with or without instantly marrying after professing Love.\n\nRev. Steven
452726
Tell him that you're not ready to say it and put that sort of label on your feelings. But that you feel for him. That you care about him. When my man first told me, I din't say it back. I told him That I feel for him. It made me really nervous. I told him never to say it unless he means it, because I would never say anything empty.
978644
Because you have been friends for so long, he probably loved you before you started dating.\n\nIf you don't want to tell him you could say:  "I feel really strongly about you and I am so happy right now,  I just don't want to say I love you quite yet."\n\nI was in love with my husband before we ever kissed.  It worked out.
699499
Give him three months at least. That is a decent enough time for anyone to gather one's senses and wits back. Then, tell him that you are confused about his interest (or lack of) in you and think that it will be better for both of you to move on. If he agrees or doesn't improve by that time, its time to move.
254253
Six months seems like a long time.  Usually after just a couple of dates you start to know if you love someone.  After six months you should pretty much know if this relationship is going to be long term and the word love should be something easily given.  Maybe I'm just quicker to love than some but six months seems like forever.\n\nIt is obvious how important those three little words are to you, and I agree.  I think you are at a place where all you can do is sit him down and talk to him.  Ending a relationship is always hard and before reaching that point I think it is important to make sure you know absolutely from the other person their feelings on the issue.  Then you can honestly make your choice without having made an assumption.
983047
Best advice I know of. Follow your heart. Your gut instinct. If you love  her that much ask her what she thinks. If she loves you that much she will give you the right answer. And you will know. 5 more years is too long. Too much can happen in the meantime. You may meet someone else. She may. Need to decide now. Or 5 years later may be too late. If you guys really love each other, then you will know the answer. And know it now. Or you may regret it later.
614952
um 12 years thats alot i mean 12 years i think that he loves you but dont kno how to express his feelings
238872
honestly, how long have you been together? cos i bet he's waiting to hear it from you. just, whenever the two of you feel really close, just tell him. but the best way to tell him for the first time is when the two of you are alone.
603222
If he really loves you, yes.\nJust tell him.\nHonesty is the best policy.\n:-)
823352
Tell him the truth, if he loves you for who you are then he'll be patient enough to wait for you until you're ready for it.
265741
It's great that he's so open to telling you.  Definitly tell him.  As wonderful as it is to hear those words, they lose their meaning if it's a constant thing.  We only need to hear it a couple of times.  The rest of the day, show us.  Leave a note on the bathroom mirror, hide a note or card in their jacket pocket for them to find later.  Words are not the only way.  \nFirst you should tell him that you know he loves you and enjoy hearing it, but don't need to hear it all the time.
415176
You say he loves you and you love him but you haven't been out yet?  Don't think you know what love is, it takes time being with someone to know that.
407966
Six months is definetly too soon. If he really cares about you then all you need to do is tell him that you aren't ready for this because you think it's just to early in the relationship. Tell him that maybe after you've been together like a year and a half, you might move in with him. Don't be afraid to tell him the truth. If he's got a problem with it then he's not worth it. \nJust remember that you are still young and a committment like this is too much. Work on the relationship before taking it to the next level.
1037427
I think if you truly feel that you love this guy, you would wait until he gives you a sign that he feels the same way.  If he is not in the same page as you are, then telling him how you feel about him might scare him away.  Or worse, he might not feel the same about you, yet.  Be patient, you will feel it when it's right.  \nBest wishes,
1005638
dont hold back now.\nin all things, hiding your true feelings never really gets you anywhere that you wanna go. you know? cause if where you're going is based upon your true feelings, then you shouldn't wanna go there...nevermind. :-D\nanyways, yes, you should tell him you love him, because nothing is going to change that. and you could wait a million years...but what good is that gonna get you??? tell him- guys are more mellow than you first think. if he doesn't feel the same way, i'm almost positive he'll take it all in stride, if he does the feel the same way-then well, you've got a match!\ngo ahead, don't hold back. they're your true feelings, what harm are they gonna do???
890926
Depends on how long you have been dating. If you have been together for a week...i think it's too early to say I love you. If you feel enough time has passed though, just say it to him, and he will either respond or not. That's how my girlfriend asked me.\n\ncheers,\nMax
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I'd say that's up to him. :) How long should you be with him before you decide to marry him? -Different story. I don't think it matters how long you know the person as much as how WELL you know the person and how comfortable you are with the idea of growing old with him/her.