what other options do I have? I'm really starting to feel harassed.?
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There are remedies for this. First off, in most states there are laws against harassing phone calls. They don't have to be threatening. Second, you can get a criminal protective order. It is similar to a restraining order. Again, no threats have to be made. I see them issued all the time at work. \n\nWhat other posters are telling you is correct. This guy is potentially dangerous. The stalking law probably won't apply. That takes a credible threat that has placed you in fear for ou safety.
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I hate to hear/see people with this problem. I feel you. The good news is that this guy is an ex. Stop letting him into your life, and above all, stop letting him blame you for the miscarriage. That is NOT your fault! What a horrible man to say such things and make you feel bad for something that was beyond your control and no doubt saddened you completely. But now that he's an ex, you CAN take control of your life. It's so easy. Just do it, like Nike says. Spend some time with your friends and if you feel like you have no friends, get out there and make some. Finding a new activity or hobby is just what you need to keep busy. Do something that makes you feel good and makes you happy, just for you. You'll make other friends to spend time with and you might just meet someone special. The more you focus on yourself and your own happiness, the more fulfilled you'll truly feel inside. Don't put up with this guy anymore. Change your number if you must and get an unlisted one so he stops calling you. If the harrassment continues, get your local authorities involved. He is not allowed to torment you and there are laws in place to protect you from scumbags like him. Good luck.
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Take this up to the corporate office.  He is verbally harassing you.  Also, you have witnesses that he's been speaking rudely to you.  If you can find the number to the corporation, or bring it to his manager... you have every right to take it to the next level.
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Part of the enjoyment of participating in this service is trying to decipher the sometimes incoherent questions.\n\nLet's see if I guess what you are asking.\n\nYou are an employee somewhere and you think someone else is harassing you.\n\nIf the harasser is your employer, and the harassment is based on one of the protected categories [age, gender, ethnicity, religion, color, disability, race] then you might have some protection.\n\n"Get back to work!" is usually not actionable harassment.\n"Get back to work, you stupid old Lutheran men!" probably is actionable.\n\nIf the harasser is a fellow employee and your employer does not protect you from it, you might have an action against the employer and the harasser.\n\nIf the harasser is a customer, you are not required to tolerate that behavior and can force your employer to remove the harasser.\n\nRather than threaten to contact your attorney, quietly contact the lawyer and discuss the situation. Your lawyer is in a much better position to advise you whether or not you have a cause of action. And, making threats usually just makes you look pathetic.\n\nIn my expereince, about 2% of the cases were worth pursuing - the rest were just situations where the employee had to "suck it up" or find another job.\n\nGood luck to you
520516
Fight back and show that they are not getting to you. You are stronger than they are...they are obviously feeling threatened by your abilities. Good luck. You show em whos boss!!!
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There are new stalking laws that now apply to online harrassment. Contact your State Police or your state attorney general's office. Someone can help you. Good luck.
64578
You know what. You have exhausted your options. It is unfortunate that your only course of action now is to either demonstrate how they affect you by demonstrating the same behavior and hope they are smart enough to notice, or move. Good luck.
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You're scaring some here. Your not afraid. They were hoping they can get to you with their remarks (have you see the post someone wrote-chicken hoping to intimidate -and the answers are mostly in your favor). \n Your a strong women don't let them push you down.\n And yes we have many problems-that some do not want to face. The truth hurts in this case. \n I want to take care of those here first and than reach out if I can. We can not (not will not) do both. Choices must be made. Even if feelings get hurt.\n Close that door is right.\n\nPlease speak out and whenever you feel like it-you have many supporters. And I like your Courage (so many do). Wish our government would take a lesson from you and quit worrying whats proper and who will call them names.\n\nAnd some are using that you hate-I do not get that from you. Just that your tired of stepping around issues. And sometimes like a child no one listens unless you get a bit stronger and sometimes you must yell-children don't always listen until you do . See you Soon I hope on post -I'm not here a lot but you got my attention a few times.
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You are in a difficult situation and your reaction is totally understandable. If you have tried talking to her and feel this hasn't improved, there is not much you can do. Usually people react like that (especially people higher up then you) when they feel threatened. This would highly seem the case as she seems to get along better with people who are not as academically qualified as you are.\n\nThe way I see it, you have three options:\n1) you continue on and talk to her again to try an understand why she is like that\n2) talk to her supervisor about your concerns and see if they can do anything to help\n3) look for another job either in another department or in a completely different company.\n\nHope it all works out for you in the end you should work to live not live for work!
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The people around you do not understand you or anything about mental issues. I can reassure you that it is not a way to get attention. Your best bet is to find a counselor, therapist, or psychiatrist because I promiss you they will understand and have the tools to help you stop. Even if you don't have insurance most states have community mental health programs that can get you help for free. I am sorry you are feeling such pain and I hope you can get to someone who can show you healthy ways to cope and resolve some of the bad feeling you have inside you. Good luck.
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your right in standing up for yourself. But i think the best way to get them off your back is ask them politely to stop or take them aside and talk to them one on one.
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Ignore it. She sounds like a trouble-maker and not a reliable source. You can also call her back and ask her to stop harrassing you.
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My dear.........there is no doubt, that there are times on YA that you're going to run into something like what you ran into. The best thing to do the minute you feel uncomfortable, is to log off. Of course, if you feel threatened, report it. You have no way of knowing if this person is merely playing sadistic jokes.....or is a serious wack job. Be careful..............LATER
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you should tell them you don't appreciate them disrespecting you and especially in front of people if you keep letting them do it there not going to stop. until you let them know how you feel .your just being too nice and that's OK but you have feelings too . tell them to treat you like they want to be treated ,they shouldn't threaten your job either that's not very professional .she could lose her job also  and start taking your lunch i would just do my job and go home you dont need friends like them .
618807
Take the high road.\nDon't bother being petty and drawing negative attention to yourself.\nProve that you are the better person by NOT reacting to what they say and/or do.
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Firstly, are you on medication and do you take it regularly? Does your doctor need to adjust the dose or does the dose still suit you? Being properly medicated will help you cope with what is going on at work.\n\nSecondly, I don't know what country you are in but it is against the law for you to be discriminated against because of your health. Bullying and being made fun of at work is illegal. These people at work are picking on you because they see you as an easy target who does not fight back. \n\nFight back by seeing a community health service, hospital or your doctor for some counselling and support about how to deal with the people at work. Through this health service you should be able to get information about where to find legal help. \n\nWhen you know what your rights are you feel stronger and will be able to choose how to go about stopping the bullying or finding another job or whatever it is that you decide to do. You have options and a counsellor can help you work this out. You do not have to do this on your own.\n\nI hope this helps. Good luck.
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SPEAK UP for yourself.  Stay away from those who put you down as much as possible.  If they confront you,  look them straight in the eyes, tell them to LAY OFF and walk away.  Mean people usually pick on those who they perceive as vulnerable. Keep you chin UP no matter how you feel.  Your air of confidence will make you FEEL more confident and also deter some of the bubble-bursters.   If you are being harrassed,  speak to your supervisor.  If your supervisor harrasses you and/or is unconcerned,  speak to his/her superior.   If you get no positive results,  start looking for a new job.   You deserve a friendlier work environment. (It's a possibility that you can file a "hostile environment" complaint against your present employer).  I suggest counselling to help you figure out why you are shy and nervous.   Focus on your accomplishments at work.  Build your self-confidence outside of work.  Find new friends. Seek outside activities and hobbies that give you a sense of accomplishment.  Read self-help books.   And,  yes,  an anti-depressant/anti-anxiety medication might help you cope with the stress until YOU change your circumstances.  (Noone else will do it for you).  Talk to your doctor.