How to deal with my girls controlling mom and what should I do and what should my girl do?
337379
Boy, that's a sad story if I ever heard one.  This is going to take work.  When your girlfriend is stuck home doing stuff, maybe you could help out.  That would be a good way to show your girlfriend and her mother how loving and dependable you are.  Also, if you help take good care of her siblings, it will show what a good father you could be.  You need to work with your girlfriend to help her practice being independent.  I'm not sure exactly how to do it, but you need to unbrainwash her.
221199
technically she does have a right to lay down rules of the house as you are living with her but any serios issues should be left for your mother and dad to make rulings on if you have a problem with her being overbearing talk to your parents and have them decide how much control she should have
327475
You and your Mom don't get along? Is that something you want. Decide whether you want to keep her in your life and if so, tell her how you feel...that a relationship with her is important to you, etc.
1017228
Live your lives and stop worrying about" ma" . Time to grow up. She will come around after a while. You two are giving her the power to control your lives. Stop it.
697104
you poor thing. no parent should treat their kid that way. or act that way around their kid. tell your mom that you love her, but your relationship is being strained. you are acting as the enabler. if the roles were reversed, would she seriously let YOU "mooch" off of her?
409924
Ask your parent who is controlling you.
245086
Let her go.  She will come back.  I went through this with my daughter for the same reason yours want to leave.  It didn't take her long to figure out it wasn't so bad at home afterall.  I didn't rant and rave just let her go.  She found out for herself just what kind of dad she has and I didn't have to say a thing.  Kept our relationship on an even keel.
606804
this doesn't make a lot of sense but from the sounds of it you need to get yourself far away from this situation asap. document everything and if the daughter is calling change your number or block hers...either that or every single time she calls call her mother and tell her she called again, get your kid under control. you could end up in big trouble.
15385
I was your daughter, once upon a time. What my mother did with me was to inform me of the consequences if I did something & then she carried it out...consistency is the only way to deal with this. I was an only child so I had just about everything a kid could want in my room. When I was bad, I was not allowed to play in my room; instead being relegated to the end of the couch in the living room where she could keep an eye on me while she went about her daily chores. There was nothing in this world that I hated more than being made to sit at the end of that couch because there was no TV, no radio, no nothing. I was told that, if I put even one foot on the floor & didn't sit there like a little lady, I would get a spanking...it worked wonders.\n\nAs for sharing - if your daughter has a problem with it - try the following. If I refused to share a toy with a little friend, my mother would take it from me. She'd put it away for later but she would tell me that if I didn't learn to share, she was going to give them away. It was just my mother's luck, I guess, that soon after this first incident, a friend of mine was having a birthday party & my mother had gotten her something that I also had & she knew the girl particularly liked. While it is true that she had to take me home from the party early because I launched into a screaming & crying fit (thinking the girl had been given my toy), you can bet that I learned that lesson immediately :) It wasn't until I was in my thirties that the subject came up one day & Mom realized what was behind my little fit...not fun to have your parent laugh at you when you are an adult :)\n\nBTW, a friend of mine uses a variation of the sitting on the couch routine when her child is bad. Difference is, she makes her kid sit on the sofa with the computer, radio & television all in the same room & turned off...drives her daughter crazy. Another friend has a kid who loves video games &, when he is being difficult, she takes them away & lets his brother play them in the other room; within the child's hearing. I, personally, think this is a little mean & somewhat harsh, but it seems to work for her son.\n\nI think that is really the trick to getting them to behave in that every kid is different & you have to find out what gets under their skin. Its not to be mean, of course, it is so that you have that leverage that you need to keep them in line. I can assure you that by the time & was six or seven, my mother only need look at me in a particular way & I would not only shut my mouth, but immediately try to make myself invisible. At the same time, I never lived in fear of her...only of her being angry with me...big difference...\n\nGood luck!
70965
call a relative .. grandma is best and have them contact your mother to tell her that .. her daughter? .. needs her or whatever the situation is .. tell the relative to tell your mother .. if you cannot stay with him because of abuse or something you need to contact an authority .. tell a relative what's going on and that you need to get out of the house
726229
Mom???  J/K.  My younger sister threatened my mother like that not too long ago, sister said she was going to move in with me or her dad.  Well, I heard this and told her there was no way in hell I would put up with her crap and if she thought for one second that she would just move in with me she was sadly mistaken.  If your daughter really feels that way, let her move in with sis or dad and see what that's all about.  It sounds to me like it's just a threat, if and when it comes right down to it she's not going to move in with dad or sis.  If that was a viable option, don't you think she would have done it by now?  She's bluffing, call her bluff.  If you want to move to a better area she needs to be adult enough to realize that you are making a decision that will better your life and hers, and at 14 she should be able to wrap her little self-absorbed head around that.  You are still the adult in the relationship, she is the child and that's what she's acting like....a complete child.  Maybe you can try to include her in choosing where you two will live if you want to try to reason with her that is.  Sit down with her and tell her that you know she's upset about moving to a different area but you would really like her to go with you, blah, blah, blah, do the mom thing.  Maybe if you level with her and speak to her like an adult she will realize that you're not doing this to like totally ruin her life and she will come to her senses.  Good luck.  God, I can't wait to have children!  Hasn't anyone figured out how to skip right through those lovely teenage years?  Alcohol, lots and lots of alcohol.  I'm gonna make a great mom someday, don't ya think?
546280
Welcome to puberty and life with a teenager...particularly one with a stepfather. Just be as good a parent as you can be and talk with her when she will allow conversation. In the meantime try to figure out if she reacts the way she does due to some action she feels is unjust. Discipline without a relationship never works. If she is disrupting your family life constantly you and her mom need to find out why and try to correct this even if it is with a counselor.
860824
write her a letter telling her that you love her and want to start new and would she be willing to start over and see where it goes from there. but what ever let her know that you love her and want things between you and her to change for the better. sometimes kids have to make the first move when there parent is not in the right state of mind adults sometimes forget that we can learn so much from our children , trust me my daughter taught me how to be humble and wow what an experience and she loves me very much and told me that i was stifling her by not letting her make mistakes for her own good and other great things that i thought i knew more then her and actually she really helped me a lot once i took off the blinders so sometimes kids have to help reshape the parents. lol
1014267
"Whenever I (her mom) try to talk to her, she reminds me that she's 20 years old and doesn't have to listen to me."\n\nSeems your daughter is quick to take your help when she needs it but then shows no appreciation or respect for it or you as her mother. She's right, she is 20 and she doesn't have to listen to anyone. It's also true since she 20 that she's of legal age so my suggestion is this. The next time she spends the night at her cheating boyfriends house, who she left to move home, then pack her things, call a local mom n pop mover and have all of it delivered to her boyfriends house. When she looses it and calls you or comes home, which she will, advise that you're also of age and don't have to listen to anyone, especially her. Send her on her way with one last thought and that is when she's ready to grow up, act like an adult and treat you with the respect you deserve then you're willing to sit down and listen.
646436
show her you are mature by cleaning the house, not whinning when she tells you NO. help her out and dont fight with your siblings(if you have any). dont talk back.
728379
Me thinks that she will have to learn to control this behavior.  Can you deal with it?\n\nPeace
503669
It took my husband 15 years to be able to tell his mom exactly what he thinks, and only now with me backing him up. If your mom is controlling, there is no NICE way to handle her. You  have to just come out and say what you are thinking because if she is anything like my mom-in-law, she won't take you seriously. Be Very blunt. Tell her you are not TRYING to hurt her, but that this is how you feel. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!