Can you really forgive someone after they've lied, decieved you, and cheated?
348408
YOU HAVE TO FORGIVE THEM \nWEATHER YOU TRUST THEM AGAIN IS THE QUESTION\nIF YOU CAN'T TRUST THEM YOU DON'T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP
533316
ABSOLUTELY!!! Forgiveness is so important. If you cannot forgive some for their sake, then do it for yours, please, 'cause if if you don't, then all the anger and hurt will turn to bitterness and it will turn you into a bitter person. NOT a pretty sight. I have seen many people ruined this way.
716055
I would forgive but i would be weary of it happening again, the trouble is that when something like this happens the trust is broken, and unfortunately trust is the hardest thing to get back once you have lost it.\nIf i was in love with this person than i would like to think that i would forgive and forget but i would only be able to do  it once, If it happened again than i would have to say no way. If i had gained the trust level back and it happened again i know i could not trust for the third time.
234936
It takes time, patience and a real willingness to want to forgive and forget.  If you can't forgive and forget, then you will never learn to trust again.  Think of it this way.  No one is perfect, even you and I have made and will continue to make mistakes (sometimes big ones).  Just give yourself PLENTY of time and take baby steps.  It may take a few years even, but if the relationship(s) are better afterwards, it will be worth your while.
45694
It depends on what kind of deception. If it's a lie or omission, I suppose I could understand if the explanation was good enough, depending of course on the severity of the action. If it's a betrayal of trust, well, I have not yet learned to get over something like that and I'm starting to think it's not possible.
230797
Yes for most people. Giving someone else a second chance also says a lot about yourself. Some things simply cannot be forgiven, but they tend to be things of a violent nature. Try to forgive and forget when posible.
228242
My husband cheated on me shortly after we got together...but I did say he's my husband, right?  He swears up and down to never do it again, it's hard to forget, but I have forgiven him and am still, after 2 1/2 years trying to forget.  It's not easy, but I love him too, and don't want to let go.  He respects me for forgiving him, and since I gave him a second chance, he will be faithful to me.
412387
Once someone cheats on you there is no going back.  I tried the whole forgiveness thing with my fist wife and ultimately it is something you just can't get out of your mind and since he already cheated on you before it is much easier to do it again.  I think he blew his chance with you and you will be better off with someone else.
744003
she cheated, it doesnt matter who it was with. you have to decide if you're willing to forgive her and trust her that she won't  do it again.
217250
depends....if she cheats on him with you, can you trust her in the future?
32931
Only time can heal that wound. =)\n\nBut you are a liar. And I'm a liar. And she's a liar. Everybody at one point in their life has lied.\n\nMake you have have said sorry. And don't ponder on it!
50976
i'm sure it's quite possible to forgive but you will never forget especially if it was very painful or some type of betrayal,hopefully oneday i could forgive some family members of mine.
469852
Forgive them after you forgot how you beat the s**t out of them.
265839
I'm with you. It's not just saying it but actually getting the message across the recipient that you mean it. Sometimes just talking and explaining why the mistake was unintentionally done and a show of remorse will usually warrant forgiveness.
84750
i think it is possible for a man to cheat and then not  do it again. the only problem is that you will never forget what happened. and no matter how much he says to try to convince you that he will never do it again, it possible that in your mind he will always be a cheater, therefore you may not be able to trust him.\n\nyou have to make a promise to yourself that if you forgive him, you also have to forget.\n\nalso, if you do forgive him for cheating, it shows him that that is something that you are willing to forgive. because you show that cheating is forgivable, he may do it again.\n\ngood luck with your decision - it is a hard one.
309130
I disagree with the others. If you are willing to take the time and be honest from here out, and honestly get past the cheating that happened almost a year ago, and she can get past the fact that you have lied to her over and over, there is hope. There is no doubt that you love her and she loves you. The fact remains that she only did it once and it was almost a year ago. Anything can be worked through if the love is strong enough, but it's not going to happen over night or even in a couple of weeks. It's going to take time, but it can be done.
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I am sorry to say this as the simple fact that you are asking  means you want to forgive your spouse. In my personal past experience as well as the experiences of my friends (both male and female) evrytime a cheater was taken back, they did it again. Some immediately, some years later, one with the same person (which hurts like you have no idea) and only ONE that has seemingly never done it again, BUT the trust has never been the same so the relationship has never gotten back to what it once was. Good Luck with your decision.