my mom and i are always fighting?
345385
Dear, we are all the same. But what u r to do is to ask God for forgiviness, repentance n help. Then call ur mom after dinner tell her u have to discuss with her. Then appollogise to her kneeling down with tears on ur eyes tell her to give u the second chance. I believe that with the tears in ur eyes, she will agree n forgive u n forget . but mind u, she will be looking forward n vwatching u to know if there is any improvement in u. so better be careful. \nthanks n God bless u more abundantly.
663164
Cool it!  You are still young, and your mother is still your mother and she LOVES you!  You were wrong to go off on her like that.  She knows you are a teenager and teenagers go off easily with little provocation.  But your rage and rants still hurt her.  No adult would to that to a parent.  It was still an adolescent rant.\n\nNow, go take a hot soaky with lavender bubbles and listen to some mellow music.
249087
She can only interfere as much as you two let her. My wife and I had gone through this. My own mom is very controlling and self-centered. She never re-married after my dad left in 1973. Mom felt that my wife took me away from her. When we got married, early on I told mom that I have a wife to take care of now and that SHE is the focus of my attention and affections. I do have a 35 year old brother that still lives with her, but she would call for me to do work around her house. I told her that I have my own house to take care of. Sure, she got irritated, but she also began to realize that I was not at her beck and call anymore.
994252
Yeah.After all she's my mother.My mother did that to me once.She chased me and my daughter out of her house. It took me almost 3 months to recuperate and my daughter(she's only 4 at that time) who's obviously traumatized by the whole thing refused to speak to my mom ever since. After almost 2 years only we started talking back to my mom.It was hard and painful at first though but we managed.Good Luck whatever your problems are.
217983
Why are fighting?\nWhat are you fighting about?\nThe answer to these questions should help you with your decision. \n\nIf your fighting is due to the influence of your parents (and believe me, fighting due to opposing parents' is very common) ask yourself if you can stop fighting and start talking and discussing your opinions.\nIf you fight about money (very common), try to create a budget and define spending priorities. \nIf you fight about where to live, find a place where only people supporting both of you are welcome.\nIf you fight about basic ethic values in your relationship ask yourself how long you want to live with someone who doesn't share your values and if both of you can respect the others values and live with them. If not, better break up now than later.
873197
Your mother is doing her best to make you feel so unsure of yourself that you will obey her. She, believe it or not, has good intentions. She just thinks the important thing is your obedience. She isn't really capable of teaching you anything worthwhile and has proved it. Try to avoid conflict with her while doing what feels right to you. If she gets in your face too often, just refuse to talk to her. \n\nIt would be good if you could print out the page with this question and answers and leave it around where she would find it.
15673
That is just what siblings do. It is a constant battle for sibling to compete for the favor of their parents. Be happy that you have siblings and ignore her behavior. If you do this she will get tired of it. Your parents will hopefully get tired of her telling on you and ignore her asw well. Be kind and do what is right and she won't have any ammunition against you. Eventually you will both grow up and learn to love eachother for who you are.
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I have a 7 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter...an all they do is fight!  LOL!  It drives me absolutely crazy some, no, everyday !  I have asked the pediatrition and a councelor at school and they both gave me the same answer.  They will when they are more "grown-up" meaning mature.  They are trying to figure out their importantance in their own right.  Where they fit into life and they are actually learning from the process.  I know that it is painful and terribly disturbing, but they will grow out of it.  They are learning to deal with conflicts, try to let them work things out and intervene only when necessary.  I, myself, have a hard time stopping myself from telling them to "Quit it", but I am getting better.  Give them some space, explain to them that there are rules to arguing...no name calling, no loud voices, they should remain calm, and talk through the situation.  Compromise is the name of the game.  Give it a try, they are preparing themselves to be adults.  If we as parents teach them that we all must argue some times in our lives, but that there is a proper way and an inappropriate way to receive the results we want, the world just might yet become a better place.  Here are some articles I found:\n\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/fighting/fighting.html#anchor104643\n\n\nhttp://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/fairfigh.htm\n\nhttp://www.bartongoldsmith.com/articles/fightfair.htm\n\nI only quickly read through each one, so I'm not sure how they differ.  I searched "fighting fair", if they don't help.  Good luck, and I hope that all works out well for you!!   :)
517311
aww darling you really need to talk to some one may be a councillor or teacher may be all your mom needs is a little help as well but darling you cant keep getting hit maybe one day ya mom will go to far please get help for the both of you
655557
I know exactly what you are going through right now.  I had a fight with my mom on Sunday (yes, Mother's Day), and we still are not speaking.  She was wrong, but I think I've taken it too far now, and this is what I'm going to do.  \n\nTalk to her, and tell her the things that bother you as they are, no matter how hurtful it may sound.  Just tell her that before starting, so she can understand why are you being hurful.  I've found through out the years, that telling her my exact feelings, no matter what, always seems to work.  \n\nThe catch is, if she takes it the wrong way, you could have a bigger problem later.  It just depends on the kind of relationship you have with your mother, and how much do you really know her in the end, to make up your mind about what to tell her.\n\nYou say she's sick.  Well, that changes things a little bit.  If she has MS, then she must be tired most of the time.  If this is the case, get off her back and start growing up.  She has obviously raised a good child, if you are so concerned to voice your questions here, so take a look deep within you and identify the problem YOU have with her, and fix it.\n\nI hope this was helpful!  Have a great day!
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Your mother is involved in a cult of personality.  I wonder how old you are.  You need to get away from this "man"\nbefore he turns his "purification" on you.  Please tell someone who can help you, like a real church person, or the authorities.
147536
You haven't given us enough inforamtion to be as helpful as we might be otherwise.  The answer depends on how old you are and what it is your mom is doing that is annoying you.  Is it that you are doing something she doesn't agree with and trying to stop you and so you are annoyed?  Is your mom extra stressed or tired right now?\n\nI agree with other posters.  YOu need to think about what you are doing too.  Moms don't usually change and become  annoying for no reason.  Talk to your mom and see what the problem is.\n\nYOu will only ever have one mom and she won't be around forever, and someday you may look back and wish you had been more understanding.
422660
Ask your mother to sit down with you and talk to her.  Don't say "You", but do say "I feel".  Parents know we make mistakes but be sure to apologize, and be open to listen.    If you're to nervous to talk face to face and you're afraid  your mother will interrupt you and not let you get you point across then try writing her a letter.  Please though drop out "you", because we don't want your mother to feel like she's being attacked!
96026
Try having a conversation with (and yes i am serious) Mom. Just talk to her and find out why she calls him all the time, don't be rude or ugly, just talk to her and find out more about their relationship and what his childhood was like. Could be that there are some reasons for her overinvolvement and maybe she is just as anxious to help him become less dependent on her too. If nothing else you might be able to get to know her well enough to ask her as politely as you can to relax a little. You might learn that maybe Mom isn't the clinger  and the guy is and the two of you can work on him together, and if she likes you and thinks you respect her enough to come to her with your issue instead of running to him and complaining you will earn her respect and maybe even her blessing. And while that might not matter at all to you I can assure you that it does to him.
984853
Your not a horrible person, I know this because my mom and step dad fight about the same thing. There is still hope for your relationship and not to worry about a thing for a bit. Things will brighten up soon.
460258
Your mom is going through a difficult situation in life.  You should understand that.  And so are you!  But be by her side and stand up for her always.  Also, do not be shy to discuss EVERYTHING concerning her relationships and your feelings with her gently.  Surely she will be the one to make you more comfortable in dealing with the matter.  What other people say does matter, but only to a certain extent.  So dont let that get to you.  Afterall, they do not provide you with anything when you are down.  Also divert your mind and do things that make you happy.  Good luck kid - looks like you are brave and will come out of this a winner.
612356
Just Pray to your God who ever you believe in Your mom just say these thing because she doesn't want to loose you. She needs you around just move it's that age your mom will miss you alot for the first few months but she will get over it. You are her baby the only one that she has now so she don't want to see you go so whatever she is saying to you she doesn't mean she loves you and need you but she knows deep in her heart that it's time to let you go and live your life. So don't worry just move and start your new life.