How can I get my boyfriend to buy me flowers? he doesn't like to.?
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It isn't a good thing to try and "get" your boyfriend to buy you gifts, he should do it spontaniously because he wants to, to show you affection. It maybe be that he doesn't understand that buying things like that for you is a good way to show you affection, or it may be that he doesn't have alot of money to be throwing around. Either way, if he really loves you, you should love him back on the basis of who he is, not what he does for you. Make sure that you aren't being insecure and needing "things" to make you satisfied with your relationship. If so, that's not love, it's selfishness.\n\nThat being said, if he is just being cheap or inconsiderate, then he is in the wrong and you should talk to him about it. Still, don't demand gifts, don't be pushy, don't be mean about it; just tell him how you feel and also listen to his side of the story. He may have a good reason after all, or he may not. If it turns out he is the one who is just being selfish, and he doesn't get over it, you may want to find yourself a new boyfriend. But for just a specific thing like flowers, that may not be his style, and you shouldn't get upset over it.
33849
I don't enjoy flowers as much as my wife does, but if she got me some I would still consider it a good and noble gesture.  So I suppose it depends on the man, but I would think it's a fine idea.
971504
Hello,\n\nHonestly I'm probably one of the only girls in the world who thinks this, but I hate roses. They are so regular. Giving a girl roses requires no thought, no decision making process. Guys read about giving girls roses in books, see it in movies, and see their friends do it. \n\nMy boyfriend, when he chooses to get me flowers, always get's me rare but beautiful flowers. I love orchids and lady slippers. I always know that he put some thought into it, and it just means that much more. \n\nI hope this helps, and good luck!
494162
I am sure that he wouldn't be upset and if he is worth the hassle he will understand. If you are really concerned with saying something then possibly you could offer to go shopping together and find something that will be pleasing to both of you. There are plenty of Aromatherapy type shops that sell all sorts of different fragrances and perfumes in a variety of different mediums. I am sure you would find something to suit your needs with out too much drama or expense.
147269
ask him out,e-mail, letter, post a sign in his yard..lol and if he pressures you to anything you don't want to do..forgettabouhim!..If he's really pushy slap his ar$e into next zipcode!
876902
OK i don't know what your boyfriend likes but this is what i did for my love . get hold of a few small kids .. really cute ones .hide them in an alley or somewhere. take your guy out for a walk ... surprise!!! there in the alley kid surround him and give him the gift and sing a birthday song ... use it according to your surroundings . i did that in a mall
1030237
How about making him a c.d of songs you think he would like? It's technically not buying him anything, but it's still a thoughtful gift. How about making him dinner or taking him on a picnic? Maybe he just wants to hang out with you. Make a card for him and tell him you'll give him a backrub or take him somewhere he likes to go. It's the little things that seem to be the best gifts. :)\n\nGood luck!
910427
Yes, buy flowers for her, you sounds like a so nice guy. I wish I was the girl ... (lol)\n\nLanie has nice idea, if it's ok for you to do so.
155860
Most men don't know how to give because it doesn't mean the same thing for them as it does for you.  20 years ago I received flowers from a female friend and it has been one of the fondest memories that I can remember.\n\nWhat did you get him for Valentines?  Show him an example and he may get the picture the next time.
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Depends on how long I have been in the relationship. If it is new-anywhere from real new to one year, I would feel more comfortable receiving flowers. After that, probably Jewlery, a necklace or earing. Now if it is true love.....Definitly a ring, say for a left hand :)
38493
I think as a girl I can only answer the first question of yours since the second is about men's response. Would I send a man flowers at his job? Of course not, I wouldn't send a man flowers anywhere, not even his home. Men are not flowers lover. They like flowers, but not crazy about flowers. I'd rather send him something else that will touch his heart, such as a romantic poem.
840693
The fact that you said you "have" to buy him a present makes it sound more like an obligation than something out of the heart. How about just spending time together? That beats everything. But that's just me.
704605
Call his house and ask what he likes. Ask for it not to be revealed that you are calling about getting a gift. That way you can get him something you know he will like.
512508
I love getting flowers! When my fiance shows up at home with flowers just to make me feel special, he's almost guarenteed to get some... :) I really like roses, but they're not required. Lillies, or tulips are pretty too. Although you might want to ask the florist which kind last the longest and go from there. Daisies last a long time and are pretty, and those funky colored carnations show that you're fun and energetic. Another suggestion-pick a color scheme and run with it. A bouquet with 10 different colors can be tacky. (but first be sure she's not allergic!!! that could work out badly for ya)
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Call me crazy, but why not go out on a limb and get her something not so cliche'.  If you are truly in love with her you should know her pretty well.  Surely at some point shes mentioned something that could give you a hint at something that she may not even realize she would really love to get or do.  Surprise is the key here.  Maybe even a certificate for the two of you to learn something together. Just make sure it leans towards her likes more than yours.  Buying the roses that you like for her; for her birthday would just make you look selfish and show whose feelings really matter more to you.  Good Luck!
93789
Hmmm... I don't think anyone could answer that but him and yourself.  We don't know his situation.  I could tell you, roses, some undergarments, or even touch him in certain places -- it won't help.  He could be a quadrapalegic and not feel anything.  So, you should really guage at what he likes and stuff and observe.  Put some effort and see.  If you are deficient in certain aspects of your relationship, books can help.  Exercise helps too to have some good blood flow.  If he likes football/ baseball, buy tickets to the game.  Pay attention, he'll tell you how to please him.
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something homemade maybe.\n\nim thinking for my boyfriend's 18th birthday in a few weeks, im going to give him a cute 5x7 of myself, in a frame, and like have a speech bubble attached that says "i love you!"\n\n/shrugs\n\nas far as actually purchasing something, that depends on his tastes. if you know he lovvves a certain kind of cologne, buy him some. \n\nmaybe even a cd he really wants.. or a shirt you think he'd like.