How can you keep a relationship healty  with almost no time?
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This is one of the most difficult questions I have seen here. There are only a few ways to do this...do you have weekends together? Plan one weekend a month where mom (either, or alternating) agree to take care of the kid and GET OUT OF TOWN, at least get away to a Motel...sometime sleezy, sometimes nice. Leave the TV OFF. Concentrate on each other...talk, coo, pet, soothe, console, hold eachother, do things together that have NOTHING to do with the home...like sneaking out on a date, cram as much of eachother into this time as possible. During the week, a 10 minute quickie initiated by one or the other...always be responsive whether you feel like it or not..given the chance, even a tired body responds well, often better than an energetic one. And, it doesn't take sex to make for a passionate affair. And unexpected call, flowers for no reason, a kiss on the back of the neck. Show interest in each other's lives. Support eachother, avoid arguing ...takes work on both parts but it is well worth it. Love, romance, and union are not always about sex. He could watch the babies for an hour or so to let you take a long, relaxing bath by yourself ... alone time is necessary for a good relationship. Work, work, work is the only true way to make a relationship joyful and rewarding. Take when given, give when it will be taken...was all love to please our partner...show your partner that they please you, turn you on...leave nothing to guess on their part. Smile, laugh, and when you are so tired you cannot take another step, remember your other half is in the same boat. Be super considerate. YOu do not have time for fighting, for that takes time from positive, reinforcing love. Remember, the kids will grow faster than you can keep up with. Be united in your efforts to raise your children on a path that is nurturing, loving, with definate boundries you both agree on. A united front towards the kids provides no room for arguements. Pay the bills on time and no arguements will arise for the electricity being turned off. Phone, gas bills...someone has to pay them...make arrangements with your bank to pay these bills with online payment..takes very little time. Share duties for food  and prep whenever possible. The couple that works and plays together stays together..with common goals that are not obsessive. There must be time for play, as well as family duties. We all to often spend too much time in percieved duties at the expense of what really counts...the relationship. It would be greatly beneficial to have one of you get another job...one more conducive to more time together AND more time apart ... we all need personal space. Too often, in misguided romantic notions, we feel that we should be everything and all to our love...that never works. We both know that. With compromise and agreement, you will reach a great, healthy and workable balance in this life. Work for it after agreeing to it. Know that agreements will not always happen, but one or the other has to give now and then. We can only bend so much before we break. Do not let it come to that. I wish you the very best of love and luck in this. YOu deserve it and can keep it with firm resolve to put your lover's needs before yours...within reason. I do care.
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ACK!!  Spend time as a couple first!!  You'll never get that time to bond with one another back.
622284
Say so up front...set the boundaries...\nSpend time doing things outside of being together\nfriendly - keep things single...and if you go out regularly go with lots of friends
1096207
just remember the good qualities in each other and always stick together and rely on each other. trust is a major part of a relationship.
424663
You should stay single for at least a month to recover. I don't think bumping to another relationship is the best way to recover. You need to find yourself first or else you might fall into another bad relationship.
290146
You have to have good communication, intimacy and genuine love/admiration for each other. And don't mess up like cheat and lie to one another. You also should make plenty of time to do activities you both enjoy together. Don't forget to have sex regularly even if you are tired or bored. If you don't use it you lose it.
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Even if intimate time has to be planned out and stuck on the calendar, make an effort to plan for it.  It is an important part of your relationship.  Make a plan for bedtime and put off doing a couple extra chores until the next day so you have some energy.
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Well the first thin is is that you both need to be able to:\ncommunicate\ncompromise\ntrust\nbe honest \ngive as well as receive\nbe able to be patient and understanding\nbe able to allow them to have a life away from you as well.\nto want to do things special for one another once in a while. like:\nplan a walk at the beach and have a pic nic\ncall them up on the phone jsut to say "i love you", "i miss you" and/or "I'm thinking aobut you"\nplan a candle light dinner at home\nhave a nice warm bath waiting for their return possibly with( candles, music, oil or bubbles and/or rose petals in tub)\nOn your partners day off, play hooky to spend time with them on cuddling on the couch watching movies and talking.\nIf you two can do this, seek a marriage counselor, counselor will be able to bring up some other importatnt things to thik about, that most people don't seem to think about.
991510
That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
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Make the time that you do spend together special by making sure its quality time. Dont spend it watching TV. Instead talk and go out and do things together. Believe that you will end up seeing each other every day eventually and use that belief to keep your relationship goin forward.
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I happen to agree with cuteiepie. Keep it alive by phone, emails, snail mail...keep all communication channels open. If you have serious intentions for the future with that person, it is most important to physically spend time with each other at least once or twice a year. I think long distance relationships only work for so long. At one point or another you have to make it a "no distance" relationship. Good luck!!
927548
There is no time limit....you just have to get on with life. it's easy to say but hard to understand...one day you will just be over it. Do things to occupy your time...so you don't think about the person in question. Go out and enjoy yourself you never know whats round the corner!
133947
spend time on your self it sounds like you lost your self in this relationship. spend time with your friends and family fall in love with your self then you will heal
1092312
Enjoy the time you have with that person. Think of today not of tomorrow.
366602
my bf and i are going through this right now. i'm going to school and he is working so its hard for us to spend much time together. what is really important is to set aside time that is just for the two of you. make your relationship just as important as anything else you would do. its hard at first to make the time but it will help out the relationship a lot.
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You both need personal space and you both need to be capable of trusting each other enough to skip days on the phone.  So I would say, the healthiest thing you can do is call like every other day.\n\nRemember, if you water a plant too much, you can end up drowning it.
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Have meals together and talk during meal times. \nCall each other at least once a day\nSay ILove You at least once a day, at bedtime.