So by doing what i know is best for her and our family and myself is the right thing to do?
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hi, first i want to confess that i am weak in english and i read your question thrice to understand the meaning. forgive me if my answer seems to be different from what you have asked.\nyou need to know the difference between religion and spirituality. religion includes customs, rites, fasting, going to the church, etc. which i think started atleast 15 yrs after the death of jesus. it took some time to build a church. furthermore jesus himself was a jew and not a christian, if we consider his religion. so, friend, the question is not your religion but your spirituality. i think your belief is enough to prove it. i feel it suffocating to practise religious rites, prayers,etc. if i am the son of Him, then why do i need to go to him "through proper channel", can't i put my request directly to him? leave it, now to discuss your problem. friend, you are in love and you are in tension. you are trying to appear religious in her way to her. friend, why are you doing so? whether you don't want to LOOSE her or you feel that she may be hurt. if the second option is the cause then you can say that you love her and if the first one is the cause then it is possesiveness and not love. in most of the cases it results in suffering and nothing else. you try to clarify it to yourself first.\nhow long will you be able to act in this way. what you actually are, will be revealed to her in some days. i think it's better to tell her the truth at RIGHT TIME(depending on her mood).\ni'm not sugggesting you any hit and run policy as you do not seem to be of that type. if needed you can contact me at aauumm_tatsat@yahoo.co.in. all the best
618135
It means that you should do things for you family first.
937037
NO, you were completely justified. It isn't even a matter of her being grateful (which of course, she should be) it is also a matter of her being a decent human being and having some level of manners. When someone goes out thier way to help you with something, the LEAST that you could do is say thank you or tell them how much you apprectiate all they have done for you. She stayed in thier house not just as a guest, but as a memeber of the family, and in such, should appreciate that level of acceptance and support. You and your parents seem like good people, and deserve that much respect.
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in opinion,  do what's right for you. there's no right or wrong answers. it how to feel about the whole situation. don't doubt your intuition.
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you do not say too much to work with on this. i will say be very careful in your decision making. weigh the pros and cons on this issue before making a decision. If it should hurt your family then that is  the first thing you do not want to do. you never want to cause hurt or shame to them. whatever your cause.... does it come before family values...something you must ask yourself. remember when there is an action there is always a reaction. you must ask yourself what will the reaction be to your gamble.
880626
Family, every time! Friends will cater to you sometimes.....family ALWAYS tells it like it is, or at least what they think is right, and best for you!
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It is not for you to decide what steps to take in this situation. But you can help by asking her what she really wants...(as in- Ask her " Is THis what you want?" )  It is her life anyway! she's the pilot of her life-her destiny. \ni know that you're concerened about her welfare but i think at her age she can decide for herself. i hope everything turns out for the best. you'll never know what love can do to people, If they are really in-love.
380847
No!  You are NOT wrong to do this!  Congratulations on helping our young people learn responsibility and do things for themselves. \n\nIf you hadn't done this, you would be enabling her through the rest of her life.\n\nGood Job!
835035
I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you
198185
Absolutely.  My family is the best ever.
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Absolutely whether you like them or are still with them. you should always respect her for being the mother of your child. One day out of the year show her how much you apreciate what she does for your child.
852981
Sure.\n\nIf it's ok between them, then it should be ok with you.\n\nIf he loves her, then you have a duty to treat her as family in your home.
722809
u should do what u think is best for u.
715673
I agree!  If you are going to live in this country and soak up all of the freedoms that she provides you, you should get up off your a$$ and do something to protect her.
584626
The ability to do what is right.
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If it's so obvious, you don't need to tell them, they knew already. Is it your loved one? Prepare some healthy salad for her. Don't worry and in fact you can influence the person by setting a good example. You do the right thing with her, and leave the final decision to her.
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Studies,Family well-being,finances,am i doing the right thing?,well-being of the person i love