My husband hasn't been interested in sex in weeks. He says he feels tired all the time. Advice?
355506
Ask him to go and get a physical...
855544
hi, he may just be over doing things and tiring himself out...may be you should ask the doctor about certain vitamins may be he is lacking some essential vitamin or just needs a boost it is worth a try...if he still carries on being tired look out for other symptoms you could have missed and go back to your doctor maybe get a second opinion, even if you think the doctor will say you are being silly...it is better to look silly and have your mind put at ease then have your husband poorly and tired...good luck i hope he improves.
644431
First of all, it's not true that "you can't sleep the whole night" if you are sexually active.  ROFLMAO.  Somebody is playing with your head.\n\nSecondly, you should never feel OBLIGATED to do anything you don't want to do.  How do you know how you will feel on your wedding night?  You might be so excited and happy that it doesn't matter how tired you are.  But if you find that you ARE too tired, well then of all the people in the world, your husband should understand that, and it should be able to wait until the next day.\n\nHoney, honestly, you sound like you are a virginal bundle of nerves.  Relax.  Don't stress about it.  Let your body talk to you, and do it when you're ready, but if you are scared to be intimate with this man, then perhaps he is not the right one for you.
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It's time for some counseling!  If he won't go, you go!  You need someone to bounce things off and to get good solid objective input from.  \n\nHe may be in a personal slump himself.  If he has very little sex drive and is tired a lot, he might have low testosterone, it is not an uncommon condition.  Suggest he have a complete physical, just to make sure everything is okay, tell him you are concerned about him and want to make sure everything is all right physically.\n\nIt may be he is worried about a lot of things, and doesn't know how to communicate, or doesn't feel he should.  Guys often think they should be strong and keep things to themselves.\n\nWhat I am saying is, it might not be about you at all, though it is definitely affecting you.  And it could be that he doesn't like you bringing up the subject, so he pulls more into himself, and goes to the TV and computer to avoid interaction.\n\nI feel for you, I know this is a very difficult situation.  Don't just let it go on!  Get some outside help, at least to vent, and possibly to help the two of you communicate better.\n\nBest of luck to you!!
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may be he was tired from work.. talk to him, and work it out...you're getting married for goodness sakes!! Those are tiny problems compared to what you will be facing in a married life...
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I relate as my husband is ill also, but I am in it for the long haul.  I married him better or worse.  It is harder as you are younger than us.\nWe cuddle A LOT and I just let him know how good a husband he really is.\nI made a vow to God, and thru Him, we can get thru this.  Maybe a good Christian counselor would help.  It is best to talk it out between you.\nNo one feels worse than they do.  They think they have let us down, but that is life.\nRemember, you have a lot of memories with this man.  He sounds like a good man.\nI think there are sex therapists that can maybe help you two, also, aren't there?  \nOtherwise, just keep your mind on other things, read your Bible, keep a clear mind, stay faithful, cuddle a lot....\nLots of love to you both........
1140626
I have only been married for 7 months now, my husband is 33 and I'm 23.  We have only had sex once since we've been married which was two weeks after our wedding day and it was terrible for my first time.  Since then my husband cannot kept an erection and I feel the marriage is not going to last.  He refuses to seek help about it and feels being in a sexless marriage is fine, but not for me.  I was so excited to be able to be with him that way, but my dreams are crushed.  Because of this we fight often, don't talk as much, and I don't even like sleeping in the bed with him.  Its hard being in this situation...for anyone.  You feel lonely, upset, unloved, and abused at times.  Its funny because most of the time this happens later down the road into a marriage but for me and many other young couples, it happens quite often now and days.  Yes, there are plenty of wives with this problem and it hurts, all you can do is pray and ask God for guidance.  Talk to your spouse about it and tell him how you feel, get counseling if you can, and turn to your good friends and family for advice and comfort.  I hope everything gets better for you and everyone else in this situation.\n\nTake care
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It sounds like it's pretty much routine with him...schedule this naptime into your plans and know this is a given...stop letting it bother you and work with it.  Some people just need to nap, it's their body's way of functioning properly.  He could also be suffering from sleep apnea at night and is not getting a good night's sleep.  Allow him his nap time...and lovingly wake him up by kissing him or snuggling with him.  This is not the worst thing a wife has ever contended with...at least it's something that can be worked around.
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first i would get him medically checked to make sure he has no health problems - like diabetes, cardiovascular etc and ensure he has normal hormone levels \n\nsecond how stressful is his life, how tired is he?  everyone struggles to feel sexy when they are stressed and chronically tired - maybe a long holiday somewhere relaxing \n\nthrid - visual visual and visual - guys are visual cretaures use that to your advantage - lots of sneeky sexy peeks, lingerie and lots of drawn out teasing foreplay \n\nfourth - for some people once a month is normal libido - he might be one of those \n\n\nfifth - if all else fails give him a quick kick to the b*lls - they will re focus his attention to his genitals!
813135
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!!!!! I am in the same situation. Don't let him pressure you, its not fair, your sweet little girl hasn't even been out of your stomach longer than she was in! How can you feel "normal" yet? My daughter is 5months and I am SO TIRED, the LAST thing on my mind is sex, we are down to maybe twice a week, from at least once every day before I was pregnant. Talk to your husband about how you feel and explain to him that you love him and to be patient with you. You'll get back in the game, don't worry.
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I'm sorry to hear that you are having this problem with your wife.......however it doesn't mean that this is the end of your relationship. Women begin experiencing many changes in their bodies in their 40's (for example, menopause doen't all happen at once, there are different phases, it may take years to fully get through it), and it could be very possible that these hormonal changes are causing her lack of sex drive.\n\nI would try to be as sensitive and supportive to your wife as possible, as she may be having a hard time dealing with this herself, and then to also feel that she's letting her husband down is also an emotional strain. Ask her questions about what and how she is feeling towards you, but not in a judgemental or  way, maybe phrase it like, "I've noticed that we haven't been intimate, I just wanted to talk about it and see if there's anything I can do because I miss our closeness." \n\nShe could also be feeling low self-esteem. Do you still let her know that she is the love of your life and you think she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen? These sincere compliments can really lift a gal's spirits. Have you thought about surprising her with a date night, just out of the blue, something that she'd love to do. Remind her of the days you first started dating, relive some of your old memories together.  \n\nTell her as gently as you can that while she sees this as no big deal, you are feeling like something that the two of you once shared is missing, and it's important for you to understand why. We are all human beings and have needs, the fact that you so badly want to share this act of love with her and her only, but she's not interested is affecting you. \n\nIn conclusion, I think that in order to fix any of your problems, you'll have to open up the lines of communication. But I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that this is a sure sign of a failing relationship. Take into consideration all of the possible factors, and discuss them with your wife. Maybe a marriage counselor would help you both to express your feelings and concerns with each other. I wish you the best of luck, and remember to always tell your wife that you love her!
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It's common, but it doesn't have to be.  I've been with my husband for over 2 years and we aren't bored with sex, but we do sometimes just have "routine" sex, lol.  If you've been dating for over 2 years, you should know each other well enough to be able to try things you know you'd both like.  Maybe some new positions would help, or some role-playing.  Sometimes even just having sex somewhere besides your bedroom can shake things up a bit.
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It depends on the man.  Sometimes it can be fatigue, stress at work, the relationship he has with his wife, a medical condition,etc.  Sometimes guys are not always up to par if they are tired or mentally preoccupied by his environment or by his mate.\n\nA lack of sex is a just a symptom of a deeper issue in the relationship. Has your friend been receptive  to her husband in a loving, non-attacking/nagging ways?  Has she found out what is truly behind his lack of desire?  Maybe his needs are not being met and he does not connecting with his wife?
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If it's a one time thing..."Not tonight boo.  I'm not in the mood, but I will make it up to you."  If it's something you're not feeling anymore at all, the two of you would need to have a long talk together or you would have to try to take the sex out of that relationship.
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Do not listen to the first B*I*T*C*H  she is beeing rude!! \n  1.  if he is taking any other meds there could be a side affect in the form of low sex drive.\n  2.  ED is a real downer for a man  he could be feeling not like a "real" man.\n\nthe solution for you is to stroke his ego make him feel sexy and attractive some times in these situations that is what they are felling ( not attaractive or sexy)  \n\nask the doctor if there is side affects ot any meds that he is taking.\n\nit is not you!!!!   it his issue that needs to be uncovered.\n\nGod Bless and good luck!!!
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Believe it or not, a lot of people loose interest in sex after marriage. For the first few months thier interest may increase, or they could just stay normal. But once the "honeymoon" is over, a lot of people just loose interest. Also, it could be that he is depressed. You might want to look into that. Or, if he has been put on any antidepressants lately. Most doctors fail to inform patients that a side effect of SSRIs is a decrease in sexual desire.
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Try snuggling ONLY. Tell him (nicely, make up some excuse) that there will be NO sex, only kissing, cuddling, etc. for the next 7 dates or so.\n The pressure will be off and it may work wonders because he is having performance pressure for some reason.\nThe cuddling, hugging, loving, will give him time to become more relaxed with you. Most likely, he will be more than ready (and able) for sex before the end of your "no sex" dates are over.