should i date my best friend or not? she dated a close friend of mine for years she is single now?
355401
Yes. Ask her out. Give it a try.
269330
Best friends, hmm, I am 34 yrs old and still have the same best friend since I was 12. We shared everything except the guys we dated or liked, til this day. No matter how handsome he was, or how much we were over them, etc. We just weren't into sharing 'sloppy seconds'. We just felt the same way about  dating or liking a guy the other use to date or like, we chose to not go there. At 12 yrs old we thought it was gross to like each others has beens, something we agreed we'd never do that to each other. We seen how that destroyed friendships, it almost always does. \n\nAnd even if your best friend encourages you and gives you the okay, until she sees you two together, things will more than likely be different. Remember what and who is important before you choose to like your best friends has been. \n\nThere is no guy worth jeopardizing my relationship with my best friend. Guys will come and go, you can only have 1 best friend. I am glad we chose hold our friendship above that issue.
917903
If she's with someone else now, don't do it.\n\nIf you're both available, just ask her what she thinks about it. Say something like, "We've been friends forever and we get along so well. Do you think we could ever date? Or would that just wreck things?"
1112267
Go for it... if your best friend is really a friend, she will understand and get over it.
662426
She is married so it would be wrong to pursue a relationship with her. If you did pursue it the consequences could turn out bad. It could not work out and you could lose her as a friend. Friendship is the most important thing you could have. You wouldnt want to lose that. And you got to think about her husband too. You dont want to be the one who breaks up a ten year marriage. So all in all my advice is to keep her as a friend. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
344286
Firstly, if you like her and she treats you like dirt, she's not worth your time. you deserve better. Secondly, it's perfectly fine to date her if your best mate is dating her sister. But the thing is, she doesn't deserve you. So there.
1186188
well first decide within yourself ...if you were to start dating ...and you broke up...do you want to risk losing your best friend... if this is a risk your willing to take...then go for  it.\n\nif not...then dont ... my male best friend and i joked about this a long time ago ...what if...and such...then we thought of the past relationships we both had...most of which .. well...most dont get along with their ex's so we decided it would never happen..and mind you we were just joking around.  \n\nsometimes...being best friends for a very long time...years and years can lead to romance..but by then you have done it all ..and both of you know all that has happened to each other...but for now ..i strongly recommend you sit down and think..about the what ifs... i personally would never want to risk losing the one person i can talk to about anything...and we never pass judgment on each other...and we never believe hearsay..cuz we know better...etc.\n\nthis is all based on personal experience...i have 2 female friends in my life...the rest are men...\n\nask yourself this...are you going or just recently went thru something in your life where your best friend was there in everyway for you?  if so....could you just be thinking ..wow...how come i have never noticed how wonderful you really are?  \n\nhoping this gives you something to consider before making the leap...and hope that it all works out for you in whatever you choose....good luck
615327
AHAAAAAAAAAAAAAN to be very honest with people are making sense in their own way but if you think you dont love your best friend then you dont but since you said your confussed now that tells me right away you do since you know from six years and your always talking about him to this guy who you suppose to be dating so if i would be you i wont let get to my head but yes i would think about it a little plus just wait time will tell everyone and everything so good luck.
978094
ugh. thats reallly tricky. its sorta against the "friendship code" yeah....but it just depends on whether the friend hes been with cares and how close you and her are.....and if she's fine with it, then go for it....and if she's not....you have to judge on ur own how important that friendship is to you.
685283
Do you still want to date her? If so, go for it. Lay every thing out on the table with both of them. Be honest with your friend though- you dont want to break up a friendship because of a stupid girl. She may not even like either one of you- she will make a choice.\n\nHope you don't think this is a stupid answer.
4939
You said you two were best friends. So you don't become best friends unless you have things in common. I say tell her how you feel and ask her. She might be wanting the same thing but waiting for you.
215500
Friends look out for friends. Ask her because she knows if her close friend is good for you. My bestfriends never hook me up with close friends unless they prove that they can be in a relationship.
310942
Ok if she is your best friend I would tell her and she would understand if she was a true best friend oh not to be rude you should kinda re-read things befor sumiting them...  -K-
248950
the guy i am dating now i have been best friends with for 6 years. when we first met we started to flirt nothing serious, then he told me that he wanted to persue this other girl very seriously. so we became really good friends. after four years we were finally both single, he was getting ready to move across the country and he told me how he felt. we've been dating for 2 years now. it is with out a doubt the best relationship i have ever been in. i'm glad we waited, because if not we might not be together right now. if he loves you and you love him. you will end up together. i hope this helps your situation.
482792
My best friend is a guy, and I've been a little in love with him for years.  He'll make some woman a great husband someday.  BUT... We've made it clear from the get go that there won't ever be more than that.  We're TOO close and know each other too well, in some ways.  And the chance for ruining the wonderful friendship we have? No way.  You have to be up front and completely honest.  I think your friends were not mature enough to deal with their feelings.  There's nothing wrong with having strong feelings for your best friend, or even saying so, but to try to hide them or avoid them will just breed resentments.  Next time you get close to a female you don't intend to date, make it clear up front, letting her choose whether to stick around.  Some will, some won't.  But at least then you don't lose someone that you're already quite attached to.  Been working for my friend and I for 13 years now.  Good luck.
889934
Whatever you do dont break the unspoken rule which is dont date your friends exboyfriends. Let it go if its a really good friend if not then wait til they break up. What I mean is dont worry so much about it, if it happens then it does if not then oh well. Date whom ever you'd like for now and if it were to work out that you were single at the same time only then pursue it if it wasnt a good friend.
717031
No, there are rules to dating your best friends ex you know. That would just be wrong.