How can I get the family  to accept that I'm an alcoholic?
342471
This is hard.  First off, if you were an alcoholic then your parents probably already know.  The problem is that your mother just wants everything to be all better.  She doesn't understand the nature of the disease, so she's probably filled with the wrong ideas.  You have to educate her.  Working the steps will help you do that, and your mother will accept your treatment as long as she knows that without your meetings and your sober friends, you stand a good chance dying a drunk.  You can't hide it from them, it gives you a crutch if you ever relapse.  If you are done drinking find a sponser, work the steps and live honest.  My prayers.
186340
There isn't a easy way.  When you do tell them, make sure they are sitting down.  It's actually up to you how you want to tell.  You can talk to one person or you can have everyone in for a family meeting.  I think that face to face is better.  Good luck
781349
the best way to come out is directly. i know that it may be scary, but your family and friends are more likely to take it bad if they don't think you trusted them enough to be honest.\n\nget some info off of the following websites. they can give you plenty of info to share with your family. also check out the public library in your area. they may have some books that will also be good resources.\n\nstart with the person you think will take it the best, be it family or a close friend. tell them first. you will need them to be your suppport system through this time. then, just keep going until you've told them all.
280028
First off *HUGS*!\n\nSecond off, unfortunately there is nothing youc an do to make them stop.  Be it your mom, dad, step mom or sibling, that choice has to come from them.  And remember, its not your fault.\n\nHow old are you?  It really sounds like you are in an abusive situation.  I would talk to a councelor at school and let them know whats going on.  Are you living with this family member?  Is there anyone else you could stay with?  As far as your step mom goes, can you talk to your dad?  If you can't talk to him or her, you need to let her comments go.  Realize you are none of the horrible things being said to you.  Sometimes, its unfortunate but you have to take a mental break from the people in your life.  Your step-mom or dad if they are the ones that you have the issue with.  You are a strong young person and this is a very short yet impressionable time in your life.  \n\nTell youself you are your own person and you will not let the rest of you're life be the summation of this small time frame.  And that you will not end up like them in your future.  I know this is hard though and you don't always have to believe it in certain moments, but when always remind yourself and eventually it wont be so hard to remember. \n\nAre there other activities you can do?  Maybe take up volunteer work or a sports activity to get you out of the house as much as possible?  Its always good to have someone to talk to.  Like I said, go see a councelor at school.  If you feel you can't do this, there are Alateen meetings all over.  They are connected to Alcoholics Anonymous in the fact they are for family members of alcoholics.  You can meet other people in your situation and it can be a great support.\n\nBe strong love, you are your own person and can get through this, and there is NEVER anything wrong with yourself or asking for help.  You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
617089
She has to get help on her own, you can't force her to, but you can sit her down while she is sober and tell her, if she doesn't stop drinking, you are going to end up ending your marriage, because you just can't live with a drunk, and if you have children, tell her, you will also take the children, tell her she needs help, and you can't be with her until she gets it.  If she still refuses to get the help she needs, then you have no choice but to FILE for a divorce.  I wish you all the luck in the world, being married to a drunk just isn't as easy as everyone thinks it is, you need to seek councelling too, you are what is called a co-dependant of an alcoholic, and believe it or not, you do need help too, stay strong and good luck, I will be praying for you  and your family.
191627
Man, throw 'em away! You don't want your mother-in-law to know your an alcoholic.\nBesides, she might want to drink yer stash for the morning.
616776
Be genuine to them! Don't over show about anything.Be down to earth..Show your belief in the family institution before them.And one more imp thing......try to make them laugh!
146057
Women's shelters, friends, AA, family members, church help, etc.\n\nTake her somewhere & tell her it is only because you CARE that you want to help her.\n\nDon't make her feel like you are judging her about drinking but print off some info on the Internet for her about what it does to your liver, your skin, etc. Get her interested in activities with her kids in the evening so she can't drink so much. Just sit down and talk to her, calmly, with a  compassionate heart and all the caring & love in the world. It won't be easy but it is a start. Good luck!
32127
You may need just strait counselling .  I don't think your going to find any better help for that than a one on one w/ a doc and later you get your family in on it to.  This sounds like its going to take some time and work from you and your family
591478
There is no nice way to say bad things. But their behavior is bad so go ahead and tell them, without laughing or anything-"clean up after you just I clean up after me." they'll think you're drank but they will get the message or you will need to get another room as some humans are really animals. People always obey and never grant-don't sya your point as a "wish" but make it sound like a "law." Wait a sec hahahaha. Have them read these answers hahahaha
11375
As a 3 year member of Alcoholics Anonymous I'm gonna try to answer this.  Unfortunately as someone else responded to your question I agree that most likely and sadly you can't do much to help him if he doesn't want help.  As we say in AA, AA is not for those who need it but for those who want it.  As for his family you might try honestly, humbly, and lovingly letting his family know how concerned you are and that you don't know what to do.  I don't know if you have any spiritual beliefs but you might try praying for the man, I will.  James S. -Alcoholic Anonymous
443451
my mother was an alcoholic. I am not.\n\nIt can be hereditary. If NO ONE in your family has this disease, they may have began drinking at a very young age. \n\nI urge you to find them help. My mother died two weeks before my 13th birthday. She was 41 years old. She slipped in our bathtub and her she had a hemorage in her brain. This caused a stroke. She would have lived for all we know but because she had drank so much throughout her life her blood vessels had thinned out. When they had to put the feeding tube in they scratched the lining of her stomach. Because her blood vessels were so thinned out, her stomach filled up with blood and she died. \n\nAt the time she died she had been a 6 month RECOVERED alcoholic. \n\nIt is very dangerous. I hope maybe you can share my story with your children and show them the severity. It takes a lot of will power and many scare tactics for most people to over come this illness. They have to hit "rock bottom" before they can recover many times and no telling how severe that bottom can be.\n\nMy mother was a wonderful person, I never even caught on to her drinking problem until years after her death. Not all alcoholics are the "happy" type. I was fortunate to get the time I had with her. \n\nHer mother is still alive and the devestation that she has gone through due to loosing her daughter is something I wouldn't wish on anyone. I feel it was much worse than how I suffered and I would hate for you to end up in her position.\n\nPlease Take Care and I will pray for you and your family.
1100643
Depends on how bad your problem is, and your family genetics. Alcoholism runs through peoples genetics causing some people to be more prone to having a drinking problem. Sometimes the best thing to do is to find a therapist or some other outlet to help you out. I don't like A.A. though, they are too spiritual and in essence a money scam for a couple companies isnce they push books from one publishing company so much to people who don't have the mental will power to realize they don't need the books or the spirituality that ocmes with it, also A.A. becomes a factor to make people too co-dependant on the group. So I suggest seeing a regular therapist to increase your likelihood of not giving into temptation for drinks.
517975
My first answer is for you to tell someone you feel comfortable telling.  You may only be 13, but you can very well have an addiction that can last a lifetime.  I too, had alcohol addiction at 13.  I stopped drinking at 16 when I married and had my first child.  I wish that I would have asked my parents for help to stop.  Only you can make the decision to quit or to continue.  I tried to quit many times.  My friends didn't even know how much I drank. I am a Christian and I will be praying for you. I hope that is OK. My final answer is there is nothing wrong with you that is not wrong with many of us.  Always love yourself.
873495
It does not mean you have not self-esteem, put that thought out of your mind. \n\nI grew up with three alcoholic people, mom, dad and brother. I swore I would never let that happen to me, so far so good. However, my love for them has never changed. \n\nAl-anon is a great place to start. You will learn how to deal with the persons addiction and you will also learn how to help yourself. It worked for me. \n\nhttp://www.al-anon.alateen.org/\n\nLove & Prayer. \nJo
714746
You must be in such a difficult position!  I think you have to set your boundaries.  If your mother can't respect them then it is her loss.\n\nI guess you have to judge on how important her role is in your family.  Does everyone enjoy seeing her?  Is it pleasurable?  I've had many alcoholics in my family and honestly, sometimes it was brutal having them around.\n\nDon't let guilt force you into submission.  Set your boundaries, make them clear, let your mother know you love her, but need her to meet you 1/2 way if she wants to be part of your life.\n\nGood luck to you!
850447
Family members' opinions but I'm trying! :)