why do i always feel that when my boy friend is not with me hes with a next girl is he cheatin on me?
355320
I think the change in (financial) status of your B/f is messing with your head. What you need to remember is that you really DON'T have a solid proof that he's cheating on you, so, if you intend to keep him, you may have to broach on the subject very carefully.\nTalk about it with him gently, show your fears as someone who loves him, and is afraid of what the changes in behavior (if there's any) may lead to. \nYou just have to find a way of understanding him, believing in him and loving him without all these suspicions... That is relationship killer number 1!
1118558
hey girlie,\n      u believe in love?? u trust ur boyfriend??? b'coz if u do, stop being jealous coz of other girls...first off, u dont have to drop ur other guy frends coz they r a part of ur life too and u dont have to give up anything or change anything about yourself if u really think u love someone..... have a talk with ur boyfriend and xplain him wat u xplained us(if u can xplain sum stranger abt how u are feeling, he's ur BOYFRIEND and u should be even more comfortable about xpressing ur feelings)...and remember that frends mean so much to a person as a lover would mean...and about u being used, i dont think so; if u were being used, u wouldnt get those feelings of commitment sometimes...wen u say u feel like ure his only love, trust that feeling...the more u worry about others, the worse its gonna become...u really want a solution for this?? go have a talk wid ur boyfriend and iam sure everything will be alright....\n     remember that wen u love someone, u should learn to TRUST them...
184169
Hun i think he's trying to make you feel guilty in a way so he has a chance to run out on you and not have to be a part of any of what you going through either that or he's just plain cheating on you it that thing we call reverse psychology. when their doing something wrong and try to take it out the innocent.
663811
I'm sorry that happen and I can tell u really feel this young lady. And I guess the upside is your still friends. But the reason u feel this way is because ur feelings were true and when u have deep feelings for someone it's hard to let go, she may only love u as a friend because of it was more you'd still be her boyfriend. But if u look at it from another point like the fact that she has a boyfriend and she's still telling you that she loves u, waht does that say about her? I'm sure her boyfriend doesn't know his girlfriend is telling her ec she still loves him.\n\nI have been dump( and I know it's not about me) but I know that it hurts, but I also know that it's no good to hurt too long over someone who dumps or end the relationship and they can move on so easily while the other mate is still hurting. She moved on to the next guy( it may not last) so it's time u move on too. U can continute to be a her friend but don't expect her to come back( even  if she does) be strong and just stay friends with her, because she hurt u once she could repeat it then you'll really feel bad. Move on to a girl who will love and care enough for u not to leave you  or hurt you, once u get out there and find the next girl who's waiting to meet u she will keep u so happy  you'll forget about your ex.. So get out there and meet someone else and get rid of anything that reminds u of her so u won't  stay idle on her.\n\nGood Luck
585834
It could be that he's attracted to you. You can be attracted to more than one person at a time. But you choose to be with one person. Unless he breaks up with his gf, don't let him do anything with you. You will end up feeling used.\n\nOR maybe he sees you as a friend, just someone he's comfortable with. Maybe you misinterpret his looks and because he feels like you're a good friend, he tells you his news first.\n\nI guess, you could always ask him! But think about it, if he's willing to flirt with you while he has a gf. And then breaks up with her to be with you, most likely he will do the same thing to you!
324718
OK, maybe his friend lied (I doubt it). But you have to get a hold of yourself.  From your typing style, and misspellings, I assume you are VERY young.  This boy may be your 1st love, but believe me, he will NOT be your last. Does he deny being with the girl at all, or just denies anything happened?  Get to the bottom of this.  If he is innocent, apologize for not trusting him.  If he is guilty, break up with him.  You don't need to play these games.  You deserve better.
723348
don't really know, never cheated on anyone, don't understand the need to cheat.  i figure if you feel like cheating then you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.  but maybe him being in a relationship with you is just a way of him boosting his own confidence up a little for personal braggin rights such as "yea, i got a girlfriend".  either way just dump him and move on
74346
no i dont think so,cuz if i know or find out he cheats on me that means i cant give him what he need..so aint no need for me 2 b with him anymore..he wanna cheat on me he should make sure im not gonna find out,but men always get busted somehow..and as a female u know when he cheats,u can feel it.
66143
From my experience with a friend, guys feel she is cheating cause he is.  The guilt and thought that she is doing the same thing grows strong and he shows those emotions.
457159
Well The same thing happened 2 me and well I had 2 find out from my best friend that he was cheating on me. Its better to not know why then for when u do because it only causes more heartache. I should know. Plus IF he broke up with you  then he doesnt really love you. He probally cheated on you and likes that girl better. Guys are jerks... Go to your real friends Chicks before Dicks sweety :) \nTake care
892029
If she betrayed you, then she's not worth a second thought. I know that's easier said than done, but it is possible to get through. Think of it this way, does it hurt more that you're not with her anymore, or does it bother you more that she made you feel like you weren't enough or good enough by going to someone else? I know that sounds mean, but I don't mean for it to. Just stop and think if maybe your ego is hurting more than your heart. Don't let her actions turn you against other girls, because there are PLENTY of them out there who would love to have a boyfriend and who would treat you like gold ! No matter how hard it is to think of that right now, you WILL find someone else, if you give it time. Just don't go back to the same girl who cheated on you! If you take her back, she will think she can do it again, and you'll take her back again- once a cheater always a cheater! Don't waste any of your time on her- take care of yourself, work out a little( anything to boost your self-esteem), and you'll be surprised at how easy it is to get over her and find someone new! Especially if you are feeling good about yourself!
435166
You sound like a girl with a lot of love to give. I suggest you give it to someone who deserves you! If you think being with someone when you're not around will make him happy, then he doesn't love you enough, sweetheart. \n\nYou need to take care of yourself and don't let him make you feel like you're not enough woman to make him happy!\nAnd if you decide to let him date another girl, I hope it's on equal grounds where you can have someone else, too.
507942
To me it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you.  But I'm telling you listen to your mind not just your heart.  Your heart is going to tell you what makes you feel good but your mind may tell you what is best for you. Because I was with a man for about 5 years and he was always with other females and lying to me.  I loved him I truly did, and I probably always will.  I just wish that I had left him sooner. So you do this for me ask yourself this would you rather be alone and happy free from him cheating on you or with him and hurting. Also remember that if a man cheats and lies to you it doesn't make him a bad man, because a woman can have someone who is faithful to her and honest yet he might come home and beat on her everyday.  Just because you love him don't just go by that.  Most people will say you are a fool for staying with him eventhough he cheats, but I say you aren't a fool you are just in love or you think you are in love.  So just look out for yourself and if he's done more to you than for you and you've felt more pain than happiness you know what to do.  I know your question was if he loves you but I felt like I wanted to tell you all of this because I hate to see a woman who really loves a man and take him back or stay with him eventhough he's hurting her.  I wish you the best
500827
maybe because you've been with other guys and he knows about it and he feels like how could you forget about him and be with other guys so soon he's probably as hurt as you guys tend to show their feelings differently than we do give it time and don't be with any other guys if you are still interested in him
954924
You should be asking him not people here. If you have not asked him, why not? Is his actions really that bad? Sounds like you are slightly jealous, but why? Do you feel he is attempting to impress another female?\n\nOther than being jealous I don't see a motive for this being a huge issue.
994731
Maybe you have just growen apart it happens then bordem sets in and you do things maybe you should'nt. Try talking with your b/f and see one way or another because if you dont you will end up cheating time and time again!
480818
You know the the differences when a man is cheating; when they feel they have to hide what they are doing when something is wrong.  At the same time what are you going to do. Guys always do what they want; they have control cause we let them. If you love him to the best of your ability; then you should have no regrets if you want to leave. It about control, build your support group around you. It all stops with you. Its going to be a time when you feel like you have nothing to lose - if he's already gone. IT don't have to be that way, life is what you make it. Besides its the begining of spring time; the parties are jumping