why does my boyfriend hit himsefl when he gets angry and what can I do about it?
338834
This is classic of an ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP!!!  Just because he is hitting himself instead of you, does mean that it is not an abusive relationship. If he is subjecting you to these emotional traumas, you are being emotionally abused, which is an abusive relationship.  If he is not hitting you already, HE WILL HIT YOU. He obviously has some deep issues that he needs to deal with, and you need to get away from him until he can work these things out.  THIS IS NOT NORMAL.  Get out of the relationship before something bad really happens.  If you are already to the point of crying about his personal physical abusiveness, you are in way too deep.  Find another boyfriend. THIS IS NOT WHAT LOVE IS, and this is NOT NORMAL.
816557
Think about it in reverse.  What if he were the one who slapped you and broke your braces?\n\nIf that happened, he would probably be in jail AND paying for new braces.\n\nI don't think physical violence can ever be appropriate.  If he was being a butt, then break up with him or leave.  Taking your hand and slapping him hard enough to brake his braces is totally crossing the line.\n\nMy advice to him is to immediately break up with you and don't look back.\n\nSorry, but that's my honest opinion.
528905
Be patient and supportive.  Nothing will take the wind out of  his sails like being nice when he is trying to be mean.  It'll make him feel like a jerk so he won't be able to stay angry if he really loves you.
1162492
if you did something to make him realy angry then maybe he cannot help it but to shout at you. but on the other hand if you were upset by something out of your hands and just needed a cry and he shouts at you,,then no its not ok. because he is suppose to confort you and heal your tears. at least to make things easier. try making him cry and shout in his face then see how he likes this treatment.
460587
It sounds to me that you should try talking to gregory, (instead of hitting; that's immature).  Make sure to give him some space and try to sort things out.  If you have been with him a year as boyfriend and girlfriend, then Davion's comment should have not affected gregory that much.  He should already know he likes you. Let someone you trust, and who can give good advice (even if it hurts) know what is going on.  This will give you more insight on what is really happening.  If you do decide to go out with gregory again, see if someone can help you and gregory get through the bumps.  Just remember that whatever happens, it is your decision to stay in the relationship or get out.
832016
Tyr to understant the problem or ask him directly about the matter.\nYou do not get angry with him. Be kind to him. Try to understand him.
1156328
First of all don't yell back.Try and tell him that the way he talks and yells at you is hurt full.If he is angry ,you yelling back only starts up a bigger conflict.You can only try and talk with him.If he won't get counseling I would say you need to get out of that relationship before you lose your own self esteem and pride.You are human and you don't deserve that kind of treatment. Good Luck to you.
268268
Nope, YOU were wrong. Why would you start calling your boyfriend names? Seriously. I think it's wrong for a man to hit a woman. But, if she provokes him, calls him names, and then hits him, well, she brought it upon herself. If you are going to do that again, then make sure you can handle whatever it is you get for it. I've never been hit by a guy, firstly because I would stand to be hit out of the blue. And secondly because I don't provoke or hit guys.
380301
Yeah, unfortunately, some people thrive on fighting. Or look at your relationship, how long have you been together?? Is he trying to get you to break up with him so he doesn't have to be the bad guy?? Did you do something he hasn't forgiven you for?? If he always has to fight with you then I'm guessing he's not the type to talk about it. Are you?? What do YOU want?? Are you happy like this?? Try talking to him
344248
Well, it's up to you to find out the source of your anger. After you've done that, you should come up with a plan for how to handle the situation that provokes your anger -- like walk away, or think of squirrels like the one in my profile picture. It's really hard to remember this plan when the situation arises, but you have to beat it in there somehow.\n\nPerhaps the source of your anger isn't an event, but just an accumulation of events. If that's the case, take a vacation somewhere. Take some time off alone to relax -- isolate yourself from the things that anger you. Take up a hobby that'll allow you to vent your anger/frustrations. I actually highly recommend you weight-train or take up martial arts/boxing -- it does wonders for us guys, trust me.\n\nAnd lastly, LIGHTEN UP. LET THINGS GO. TURN EVERY BAD SITUATION INTO A COMICAL ONE. Not everything is perfect or goes as planned, so sometimes you just gotta sit and enjoy the ride.
1113938
Get outta there. It is obvious are some extreme issues. If he can not take charge and wipe out the problems, then there is more to this, get out now before you get too hurt or worst involved in an abusive relationship. You don't need the headaches.
257189
Fighting in a relationship is normal, but it should not be the norm.  Before you chase after him make sure the good times out-weigh the bad.  It sounds like your relationship might be slightly abussive (not physically, but mentally).  \n\nMoney will always be a tense subject in the world, but respect should not be.  He should respect you, just as you respect him.
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This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. You need to, sooner or later, bring up the problem to this other person, but if there's the risk for physical damage bring someone capable of dealing it out... who's on your side. A bodyguard of sorts, ne?\n\nIf physical damage isn't apparent, the best thing to do is face the music. I'm sorry I couldn't answer the way you probably would've like me to answer, but I've been in a slightly similar situation. Sure, the other party/person/whatever will probably be angry, but there's nothing you can do about that.\n\nI'll sum up:\n*Doesn't take out anger on you: Talk to them. Explain your problem as objectively as you can, with clear benevolent (good) intent.\n*Takes out anger on you: Bring a bodyguard.
788238
leave while you still can before he tries to sucker you in with i'm sorry ect, if he was mad enough to hit you once more than likely he will do it again...
119238
think about why u are angry with him.Is it really worth being mad at? Are u angry at him so much that you wouldnt meet him on Valentines Day, which is by the way, the "Holiday of Love" (i made that up...doesnt it sound cool, lol) For real, you need to think about it and just go meet him and talk to him about the situation.Once you talk it over, you'll feel a lot better. Always talk to your partner, don't keep stuff from him or it will build up and probably ruin your relationship. Ain't I a good physiciatrist, lol. Everyone knows it!
460078
so like, he will nick you and put a band aid on it? say hurtful things and apologize, he did not mean it? i think its abusive, its a mind game, and its all about control. i think you need to just get out and let this person/relationship go. find someone who DOESNT make you cry in the first place.
415551
Your friend has a serious problem and I do not mean just the boyfriend.  She may have psychological problems leading her to choose to be in a relationship which is abusive.\n\nSome women seem to always choose this type of relationship, one guy after another.  If she does not see this problem, then there is nothing you can do for her.\n\nIf you believe that the couple may be in love and this is what is keeping them together, the best you can hope to do is confront both of them together and tell them that this physical activity is not "normal" and before someone gets hurt or is arrested, they should go to counseling.\n\nA quick temper is one thing.  Hitting another human is another.  If things get out of hand, call the cops yourself.  We do not need any more headlines to draw attention to this kind of problem.