what is important to hold a marriage longer? strength of penni's, magnanimity of heart or big bank balance?
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I think that love and kindness plays the most important role. \n\nThink of the little things- kind words and thoughtfulness on a daily basis and taking time to talk will hold your marriage together. Grand gestures, great sex and money are nice, but aren't the glue that holds it together. \n\nHope this helps.
670637
the size of his heart matters most, cause who cares how rich he is and how blessed he is down there if he's a jerk!\n\nSecondly and last his penis size, cause regardless of what men hear. the motion of the ocean only counts if the woman can feel the waves *wink*  (im such a nerd)\n\nSex is an important part of a reltionship, and if it sucks, its likely the relationship wont last or be monogomous.\n\n$$ only matters to shallow women.  it becomes a problem in marriages, because of the stress it casues, but shouldnt be an immeidate concern
345196
Money shouldn't matter in a relationship, personality should be the most important thing. For me, the man must be able to support himself, he doesn't need to be super rich or earn more money than I do.
602322
LOVE and HAPPINESS are most important in life.\n\nMoney and power can beget each other though:\nWith lots of money comes power\nWith lots of power you can probably easily amass money.\nPower is basically money because it can "buy" a lot of followers and possessions.
843647
i think a balance is the best approach. love isnt always enough. it takes time and effort of both people to make a relationship work. you might love someone and they may be the most unhealthy person for you ... an example is women who love men that abuse them. i can love someone who is hurtful, but at a distance, that's where the head/heart balance comes in. love yourself enough to know when someone isnt capable of giving you what you deserve and need.\ndestiny is kind of fairy tale-ish to me. if you want to be happy, you have to be in charge of that and the choices you make to make yourself happy. \ndestiny and fate can't carry you through the hard times that life brings to a relationship. if you truly love someone you stand by them through the hard times, and appreciate the awesome times.
148414
Maybe I look at this slightly differently than most people, but it almost boils down to a business transaction to me.  Marriage means being able to make medical decisions on behalf of your SO should something happen. It also means being jointly responsible for things like mortgages, car loans and other financial transactions. \n\nGranted, marriage should not be about these things alone. It should be a vow to be with the person you love forever(but you don't need a piece of paper to do this).  That's a very important part of marriage, but so is being protected should the union disolve or should one partner pass away.
479206
seperate banking accounts... if it's your name she can't take it from you or withdraw money.  No need to be secret about it.  Marriage should be based on trust.
339018
Love\n\nyou can have all the money in the world, and you can buy someone to love you.. but you will always know deep down inside that no one loves you..( other than like.. your family).... and you will not be happy..
1025149
LOTS OF MONEY IS A REALITY.  TRUE LOVE IS A FAIRY TALE.  GO FOR THE REALITY!
630505
U cant say any one of them...Love is never one sided...Sincerity is the key but from both sides u can have great love if u respects veiws and wishes of ur partner and he/she too respects urs wishes...Great love is called when u give respect to each other listen to each other and dont impose anything ur partner dont want to do...Great love is when u give respect to ur partner when others are around...Great love is when u resolve ur problem behind a close door not when u r in public...Both man and women are compitent but the key is respect and sincerity...
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I have always believe that when two people get married the finances should be combined and both should have equal access.  I make twice the money of my wife but I trust that she is smart enough to have equal access to the money.  She still maintains a small seperate checking account that we put some money into each month so that she can buy stuff, especially presents for me without me knowing what and how much, plus it makes her feel more comfortable.  But the majority of our money is in a joint account that she has full access to and that I encourage her to use.  When you divide money up based upon who earns what I think the relationship is destined to fail.  How can you be truely committed to a relationship if your holding on to your money to protect yourself?  When you really love someone you don't try to protect your self from them or the posibility that your relationship will fail.  To do so is admiting that it will fail.  Your other points are equally valid, it is in the families best interest that you have equal access to all funds in case of an emergency.  Your name should also be on the titles of all cars and houses and on every credit card.  I also think it is important that you take time to look at the accounts on a regular basis.  There are so many horor stories out there of one spouses problems bankrupting a whole family and the other spouse had no idea that there was a problem.  And on a final note, just because you want to stay home with the kids that doesn't make you any less important.  By taking care of the kids you are saving your family huge amounts of money without you ever being paid for it.  If he has to keep his money seperate then tell him you want an account and that he has to pay into it each month the amount that you would normally have to pay for child care plus what your not recieving from a normal job.
165144
It really depends on the situation at hand and the couple as to whether or not it is too fast. I knew a couple who married after only about 6 months and neither was financially stable which caused problems in the marriage etc. and it ended in divorce because they were both pretty unhappy with the situation. Another couple I know dated for 3 months and then married and they've been married for almost 30 years. They were financially secure. I think being financially secure is a main thing to look at. you dont want to put any extra stress on the relationship because right after you are married is supposed to be one of the best times of your life and the most enjoyable. \n\nOn another note, dating long term doesnt hurt anything either. I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now.
727865
I would do that if I know my partner is the one for me to live together for the rest of my life. The colour of the skin? It's just an outlook only. You can have fair & white skin but the heart inside is as evil as a demon. It's the character of a person matter the most when you choose a life partner. You can choose the most handsome/gorgeus person to be your wife/husband but you can't guarantee that inside the handsome/gorgeus looks have included a heart that will truly love & care for you in the time when you needed them the most?
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First of all, I'm not rich or anything...BUT, over $1 mil is not much anymore these days.  think of it as a comfy retirement for the two of you. \n\nSecond, If you truly love the lady, PHULEEEZ do not let your pride get in the way. It seems from your experience that you know how hard it is to find a great person to live your life with. Be a real gentleman and marry her already.....afterall you make your own money.  Good luck. I wish you the best.
37233
Wow. that is a tough one. It depends on your morals and beliefs. Is the marriage strong enough to handle the consequences? I once watched Dr. Phil and he said that is never a good idea. no matter who wants it or how long you've been married. What do you want? sometimes you have to stay true to yourself.
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Money is the number one issue for arguments in most of all relationships.  If you live together and share bills, I think the best thing to do is set up a dollar amounts for which you both deserve a say in , for instance purchases over $100.00.  All other purchase can come out of an " allowance that you both have weekly or monthly.  That has saved a lot of unnecessary fighting in my own relationship.  \nIt is best to get this problem resolved early if marriage is even remotely in your future.  Money problems have been known to cause a lot of divorces.  It is also a matter of trust. \nGood luck
476226
This can be a very big issue. A lot of marriages end over money issues. You two have GOT to sit down, put aside all specific issues at first, and concentrate on coming to an agreement on how you both are going to handle financial situations, especially large purchases. You have to come to an agreement on how the one will ask the other and define each of your boundaries. Then agree on how you will compromise. Above all, agree that you will first respect one another. Lay down the selfishness. THINGS are never as important as PEOPLE, especially the person you married. This said, it stands to reason that things should never come before each other. After you agree on how to communicate and compromise, then introduce specific issues.