Why won't my friend accept my apology? I told him that I wouldn't date a Nigerian and now he won't speak to me
354682
my dear,do not be bothered.\nIguess he feels rather bad about the fact that he told u so many things against his own people,and he never expected that u would actually see them as so bad and never wants to be with any.\nAnd then,i guess he probably had an eye for u and now his chances are ruined.\nbut his behaviour,no way!it is not acceptable,he is not acting like a matured individual cos\nif he wants to date nu he should prove himself beyond the guys he talked about\nand if he doesnt but just wants to be ur friend den why did he talk.\nmy dear,he really has no point,stop begging.\nas him,WHAT IS YOUR YANGA FOR? believe me,he'll be shocked...cos im a nigerian.
413142
I'd call him and ask him to start telling you the way he really feels and if it doesn't feel right to him to go with all your friends then just tell u. He probably didn't want to hurt your feelings and didn't want to say anything. U have to make it OK to open up to you and let him know that he can tell how he feels when he doesn't want or like something u suggest. He might of felt you were going to ignore him when u are with your friends.
896265
I don't think it's an excuse, but a lack of confidence. Maybe he was worried that not only would you reject him if he asked you out, but that he may also lose you as a friend. I hope you were kind to him!
882376
You can't get him to talk to you, he has to decide that...however that's not stopping you from apologizing...either go to him and apologize in person (whether he speaks ot you or not) or do it via email...then let it go...\n\nYou screwed up, but it also doesn't sound like that relationship was a good one and you're trying to convince yourself it was better than it was because you don't like being single...\n\nApologize if that's what you feel you need to do...and then put the situation behind you and move on...if he ever wants to communicate with you, he'll let you know...but face it, if someone had done to you what you did to him, wouldn't you probably hold a grudge for a while? Most people would...
396176
I actually told someone once and it didn't go well at all,because he didn't believe anyone could have feelings for someone online lol\nBut something tells me he is now regretting it:)\nNeedless to say I put him on ignore that same day so I have not recieved any messages from him :)
362838
can i talk to u..i really want to tell u something but im afraid of what ur reaction will be..i like u more than a friend and would like to try a relationship..if he doesn't he's not worth it if he does good for u and good luck
124026
I think that you cannot do more that what you have done. I think that you had talk with him about it in a clean, fact oriented, friendly way, so...  There is nothing that you can do to make someone to change his/her mind. I think that you might get "disconnected" from this relationship and ask your friend to not tell you anymore about it.
848896
Go back and tell him the truth. If he's a true friend he'll listen. Let him know you were afraid at first because if he doesn't feel the same you still want to try to have a friendly relationship.
1169728
Neither of you are ready for any contact between each other.\n\nYou have already answered your own question:\n\n"To tell you the truth, I don't want to be friends with you. You hurt me and I'm past that now. It's not that I hate you, it's just that I don't want to be around when you start dating again.  Please let us go."
105643
I would ask him why he wants you to hate him. If he changes the subject again tell him not to because you want to know why. If he doesn't tell you, he probably doesn't like you anymore or something is very wrong. I'm just wondering if he used to live here and moved to london because ou said that you have been friends forever. If he really is your friend then he will tell you whats wrong because you guys tell each other everything. I think that you should ask him one more time and tell him not to change the subject and tell you why he wants you to hate him. I've had this done to me before. He wouldn't tell me either and he always changed the subject when I asked about it. We are still friends because I finally got it out of him. So, all that I can say is to keep on keepin on and if he deosn't tell you then do what you think is best!
942025
That was hurtful that he did not respond to you when you needed his comfort!  He sounds egocentric and such people drain energy from others.  Decide whether the energy drain is worth it to maintain your "friendship."  How important is it to you to be "needed"?
586838
What keeps you off from expressing your feelings to your friend???? go ahead. i'm sure if he is a good friend of yours, the person would definitely understand u.u arent gona loose him  anyway babe.
274467
if he's your friend then you should be able to talk to him\nask him whats wrong with him let him know how you feel and tell him you dont like the way he's been treating you  lately be honest with him, if he ask you if you like him let him know, and if he feels unconfortable about you guys dating then you should let it go it doesnt have to happen you could still  be friends. as for your friend you should stay away from her she is causing problem and you dont need a friend like that.
752974
He want's you to be what you were before you argued, but he's not sure how to do that. I don't know who was wrong becasue you didn't write anything here, but I suspect he may think that you owe him a sincere apology.\n\nJust a theory. If you were wrong somehow, it's a bigger person to be able to say you are sorry.
806113
I think you should just continue to talk to him as usual, until he responds, cause, if he feels the same way, he will go for it. If he doesn't feel the same, at least you took the brave step of talking to him like normal, y'know? And your friends were rude and inconsiderate to tell him about your feelings. They shouldn't have done something like that out of thrill and excitement, just to see what happens next. I bet they're watching you both reacting right now like a hawk, with popcorns in hand. Set it straight with them, and I hope they will apologize to you. Good luck!
286312
Please do NOT say anything derogatory about your self. Women have fought long and hard for the right to say who we will and who we will not date. Do not belittle yourself. A good answer would be "I am flattered but I do not like you that way." you said you did not like him that much anyway so don't play games with his feelings. Be blunt and truthful.
303900
Racism shows ignorance, and total lack of respect! Unfortunately our wonderful country is full of MORONS! I'm sorry that your friend is making you uncomfortable, tell him that you would like to continue being friends but that the racial jokes are making you believe that he still has racial issues (either that or make some jokes about his race). Most of my friends are Hispanic (I'm Anglo) we all joke around, (but we know that it's just joking and we don't make each other feel out of place. If he is a true friend, he will understand your feelings and respect your wishes. Good Luck.