i am happily married 2 years now and rectally an old flame came back into my life and i wanna have sex help?
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Hah! You said rectally.\n\nRegardless of whether it was rectally or recently, you should not have sex with the old flame! \n\nIf you are lusting after the old flame, stay away from them! Tell them that it's best for you to not see each other... Think of all of the reasons why you married your spouse...\nImagine what it would be like if your spouse cheated on you...\nAll in all, guard your heart and protect your marriage!\n\nMarriage is a commitment to one person for the rest of your life. The End.
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You have answered your own question.  All the things you mentioned - you will need to bring back.  Opening the communication is the 1st step to recovery.\n\nOr you could sigh up for Wife Swap.
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Well... tell you what, if the gf's are not a good sub, then go out to a toy store and get a best friend, there are alot of toys that will do the trick if you miss him sexually.   If you are just missing his company then consider getting a puppy.  They really work!  I am a single mom of two and my puppy takes my mind off things, feeling lonely and so on.\n\n If your hubby is working hard to provide you and your future family with a comfortable life, be grateful!   He is not spending his time out there having an affair or partying with  his buddies and getting drunk and mistreating you.  He needs for you to be supportive.  I know it is hard sometimes, in some situations not to be selfish, we all want to be 100% happy but usually this spells out sacrifice.  Enjoy this "free time" on your own, once you start having children trust me...your whole world is going to be turned around in a 360.  Get a toy!  Get a dog!  Good luck in your marriage.  :)
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It's common, but it doesn't have to be.  I've been with my husband for over 2 years and we aren't bored with sex, but we do sometimes just have "routine" sex, lol.  If you've been dating for over 2 years, you should know each other well enough to be able to try things you know you'd both like.  Maybe some new positions would help, or some role-playing.  Sometimes even just having sex somewhere besides your bedroom can shake things up a bit.
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Let me put somethings in perspective. When you work with a person for a long period of time there may be times were you get confused and think you are in love. These feelings are what i like to call sexual tension. Usually the best way to get rid of it is to just get it out of your system but he is married. So i would avoid that all. Your best bet is to go to the club or go out with other friends. The way its sitting now you may help yourself if you do take him away but your also destroying a family. Besides if seen this time and time again . A wife can be very very vengful worse than a man bar none. your best bet is go to vegas get all that tension out of your system and there is no better place than there to do it. but be safe wht ever you decide take a cruise or just get a nice long vacation somewhere and think about your desicions.
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After 36 years of marriage i guess i am just about qualified to answer you. It is a hard road to travel.. believe me!! you have to work at staying married for this long. It is not all sweetness and light as there have been times when i have wanted to just pack up and go but i have a deep sense of responsibility to my family, even though our kids are all grownups now.My wife has no doubt felt the same at times. So the answer is..Think about what you are going to do, before you do it and consider what effect it might have on your other half. Tell her that you love her often and show it!! Flowers and little treats work wonders. Keep your lust alive as sex is important even as you get older. It is the best way of communicating your love for each other. Do not have secrets that might hurt the other one. Be truthful. Make time for each other, hold hands when you walk out together. Sneak a kiss in public. Look after each other and always back each other up. I could go on and on but i am sure that you get the idea. I am 61 and she is 56. We still sleep together  sharing a double bed. Like I say,love, lust, hard work and consideration are important as is being freinds as well.
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Find someonelse to get him out of your system. \nMen try to be polite and say sweet things to ease you but then women read this compassionate talk as false hope. Honey, it's all BS because is OVER and is been over since August last year.\n\nIf he wanted to be back he would already been back.\nFind some new friends, go to a divorce support group to be able to vent your pain and share experiences with people that have been thru the same. If you keep on holding on you will continue suffering. Realize once and for all that he is not coming back, come one. you are DIVORCED and you don;t have to keep on holding on the candles waiting for him to make his heroic return. Noone is going to give you a medal for being a marthyr...so go out and have fun, you are a newly single gal. He is out ther having fun, so why are you crying at home?\n\nLet go and move on\n\nGood luck.
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Your in lust for him, it sounds like you need sexed. Relax, you will find someone
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Sounds like you are both in a better place to have an adult relationship now. When people ask about getting back together with an old flame I always ask them to try and think about what is going to be differant this time so you don't end up breaking things off again.\n\nYou are your ex need to have a serious discussion about what went wrong last time and how you can BOTH make sure that those types of things don't happen again.\n\nBest of luck
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There are still memories of that person u still have ...\n\nAll i can say is ur being self-centered ... ur first mistake was getting married to ur current hubby ... n then ur second mistake was having a kid ..... ur third mistake is thinkin u can get ur ex back ..... \n\nur gonna keep on makin mistakes unless u stop thinkng bout him ... Frankly wud u rather risk ur entire life or b with ur hubby who loves u n ur child n have a family ??\n\nif u want out then do it asap be4 u hurt more n more people
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Sex is a wonderful, and integral part of a marriage. If one party is no longer interested, there IS a reason. Seek counseling and get to the bottom of it!! My (now ex) wife would not, and we had sex 4 times the last 6 months we where together.. Or I should I had sex 4 times, she had it a lot more, so I found out later.. Like I said, something is wrong.. .Depression, cheating, resentments, physical illness, something!
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You could be making a very big mistake and so I would really think through this.\n\nYou will risk losing something either way so unless you are unhappy with your marriage now, I wouldn't even consider the prospect of losing your husband for someone who may very well turn out to dump you after he has won you back.  His motives may not be what you think they are and if anything were to go wrong, your husbnad may very well not take you back.\n\nI think it has more to do with the fact that you don't like yourself all that much and trying to gain acceptance from everyone involved to validate your self-worth from them.  This is only natural if you have been rejected in your life in the past, but I think working and concentrating on yourself, is the best thing you can do right now and taking some time away from the situation itself.\n\nLet your husband know that you need some space of your own to do some thinking if he is aware that this is going on, but just find some spare moments for yourself and think really hard about why you are wanting to make this kind of choice.  If what your husband offers you isn't enough or stimulating to the relationship then perhaps you need to look at what your needs are in more detail?\n\nNone of us can have all of our needs met by one person even when married and it is important for you to have some of your own independance from your husband from time to time and to build up your confidence and self-esteem where it lacks in places. Women have the habit of putting all of their needs onto their husbands and lovers without realizing and so perhaps this ex of yours is enticing you to go back because you want more out of your life than you do already?\n\nTake a course, driving lessons, build up something of your own that is yours so that you at least have some interests outside of the marriage that will stimulate you and won't allow you to start looking for your needs to be met through the choice of two men. I think that the underlying problem is this and not about the fact that want to go back to your ex husband.\n\nWhat would have to change in your life now that would not make you want to be in this position?.  This question will help you out and give you some clues as to why you are wanting the attention from both men.  Fulfilled people wouldn't be wanting both men and so I am pretty sure that it is because something is lacking in your life now.\n\nOnly you can offer yourself what you want and so by looking towards this ex to fulfill your needs and expectations, means that your needs are not being met in the marriage you are in now in the ways you would like them to be as you would not be considering anything like this.  Take time out and think about this more in depth and if you are not happy with your life, then some changes do need to be made, but ask yourself what these changes need to be before running off into the unknown with your ex.
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My suggestion would be to start all over, let me explain.  When you were dating, before kids, before the wedding, what did you do?  Did you enjoy going to dinners?, movies?, hiking?  Whatever it was that brought you two to the point of falling love do it again.  Send the kids to grandma's for the weekend, get a babysitter for friday night and go to dinner.  Sure, it may feel a little weird the first few times you go out, but that's because you haven't done it in a while.  Start slow and build from there.  There's no majic trick to finding the spark again, you need to work at it, but it will come!  Remind yourself, and your spouse, why you fell in love and got married. \n\nHope this helps!
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Talk this thing out.  Set some ground rules if you want to establish another relationship.  I stongly recommend that you look for a relationship and not just sex, not just friends with benefits either though it may start out that way.  To the extent that she is comfortable with knowing, let her know exactly what your doing, who your seeing and how much you like this person.   A long term committed loving relationship is not out of the question.  Let the other person know that your wife is part of your life and that will never, never change, no matter how involved you become with her.  \n\nIf you exclude your wife from knowing this other woman, knowing what your doing (and I don't mean all the sexual details) and when, giving your wife an opportunity to know her (her choice to act on it) then your marriage will fail and badly.\n\nHonesty, which it seems that you have with your wife, is key.  \n\nWhat you should be looking for is some form of polyamory.\n\nI have much (though not in every way) the same situation here for the past 15 years and my marriage is wonderful.  But it takes work and honesty.\n\nIf you'd like to learn more about this you can find out more information at:\n\nhttp://www.polyamorysociety.org/\n\nor you can email me.  I have an email link in my Answer profile.
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Ok, When my oldest daughter was two my wife and I separated because she was having an internet affair. after a couple of months separation I decided that I still loved her.  that was six years ago.  About six months ago I made a mistake and wandered from my relationship and had a Psychological affair with a coworker.  we never had sex or anything. But my loveing wife is trying to work through this.  she loves me I know she does and I Hope that we can work through this and be stronger than we were before.  But just remember that just because he wandered doesnt mean that he dont love you anymore, because if that were the case he would have split it off with you when he got caught.  Hang in there and he will show you that he is being true to you by his actions.\n\ngod bless.\n\nC.H.
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Realize what went wrong.\nThere is no fixing this if the marriage ended but make sure it doesn't happen again by not repeating past mistakes no matter who was at fault.\nPick Yourself up.\nStart attending events that interest you.\nSince you must be older , possibly look for senior activities even at large senior centers where you can go have dinner in the dining hall and talk with people your age if you don't have a strong friend network.
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Uhmmm... I think you mean "figuratively"... I am assuming your legs still work (which would be what's necessary  to use the word "literally")? You are wanting to regain interest in sex, right?\n\nNot trying to be a smarta$$.\n\nYou need to go to therapy. It may take a few tries finding the right therapist, but you need to find one, and talk your way thru your feelings. It, **literally**, is the only way you will open up to the possibility of having pleasureable sex again.\n\nI wish the best for you!