Why don't parents take responsibility for there kids when they do bad things?
347236
There are no perfect people; parents, or children.\nBlaming has never been the answer.
422058
I don't know what parents you are talking about.  I would prefer the respectful kind child, disabilities or not over one that was lazy, selfish, and narcisitic.  Perhaps the parents don't like themselves and feel that being treated with disrespect is what they deserve?  I'm really not sure what other reason it would be, other than the parents have some problems.
215513
people do make mistakes you know. It probably WAS human error. the kid is fine, nothing happened to him just drop it! If you did the same thing and nothing happened to the kid, nobody whould have done anything to you...
515694
I'm an oldest child too. We do get blamed most of the time. Welcome to life. Anyway, remember the advantages we do have that the others behind us do not. And even though we have a bunch of extra responsibility, it's because our parents not only need us, but count on and rely on us. It's all in how you look at it. That is what I have learned now that I am grown, and have 3 kids of my own. This is what I tell my eldest daughter. I think she has actually come to understand. And as far as you always being blamed.....remember guilty until PROVEN innocent. Gather evidence next time and confront the issue with proof!
959883
People hate responsibility. They do not want to admit their shortcomings and failures.  They forget that this is part of being human in the first place.\nAnd then there are those idiots that are just trying to make a quick easy buck by sueing someone for their own problems. Sad, lazy, idiot people.  \nOf course I didn't type this, someone else must have...
235314
Because kids are not mature enough to make all sorts of decisions for themselves. Of course, being a kid has advantages too. Kids are not held to the same standard as adults and if kids do something wrong, they are not always punished/held as responsible as an adult in the same situation.
506506
I think if my OSD were my bio kid, she would be WORSE behaved!! And don't underestimate the power of just talking with them and being there for them to talk to. They may get that glassy, glazed look in their eye, but I do think some of it eventually filters down to them. The big thing is allowing them to make mistakes. No, not standing by and watching them make mistakes, but realizing they are still kids (no matter what THEY think about it) and they are gonna make mistakes, and our job is to help them pick up the pieces when they do... to listen and guide as much as we can, and just be patient with them. There comes a point in time when we are no longer "responsible" for their actions, and they have to suffer and face consequences when they do certain things. There is no getting around that.
115461
First of all, the parent must take complete responsibality for their children. The parents today seem to blame teachers instead of themselves. \nParents should look at every school paper that is brought home. They need to help with homework and get involved with school projects. \nThe parent must also keep in constant touch with teacher to find where the childs assets and downfalls are and take suggestions from teacher.\nNo drinking, drugs, nor wild parties. You are an adult, a parent, you should no longer act like an underaged teen. \nTeachers need to ask for help from parents. They should ask parents to attend school outings and to come to help in class room. Teachers, some will not admit, need help from outside sources. They just do not have time to spend on each child as needed. Teachers should also honor the parents and give them little boosts to help them to get involved.\nTeachers and Parents have great responsibalities. Children are gifts and we should look at them that way.
366158
You know it's not your fault. Don't let people tell you it is. Children at the age of 4 cannot cause anything bad to happen - it is the adults in charge of the children who tend to do the bad things (as in your situation). Don't listen to them, try and rise above it.
184863
well it is probably both. I to, had to do chores or i did not get to do anything!! Also, parents today dont have enough discipline, and they let there kids walk all over them. Which to me, is a crock of shit. I think that a teen needs boundaries, and there needs to be rules set. If a parent just gives in, then they need there ass kicked!! and people wonder what the world is coming to- today, teen have no respect, no morals, and are lazy as hell./
590778
I think the more parents get involved, the better. However it would be a positive involvement like they shouldn't force their children or be strict with them about studies. I have finished my studies and I can remember that from the day one till my last day I used to tell each and everything about my school and studies to my both parents because they were never strict. In fact in my exams they used to say that I should not take exams as a matter of life and death and keep myself happy because happiness matters more than good grades. Even if I got bad grade they would say that its OK I can do better if future. They have always encouraged me
360059
Because there are so many examples of parent's not asking and that leading to bad stuff.  Be thankful they care enough to ask.  Not all kids have that!
826786
Because parents should be responsible for their children. Why change our music because they are irresponsible and can't control their kids. If you dont like the music..... dont listen to it!!!!
63924
Parents are definitely responsible for their children's crimes if they contribute to them. A gun owner has a responsibility to keep it locked up, and if he does not abide by that responsibility, he should have to be punished for his part in the crime.
674051
Why is it that parents aren't allowed to be parents anymore?  If we were then we wouldn't have the problems we nowadays with kids misbehaving.  I have seen people come up to parents who are correcting their child for misbehaving and tell the parents they are demeaning their child when they weren't. \n\n They weren't hitting,beating or abusing the child at all.  Raising their voice a little, sure, but demeaning, nope.  Kids now a days also know that if they get mad at mom and dad all they gotta do is tell someone and they can get their parents into trouble.  I have seen this happen.  \n\nI have even had my own kids threaten me with this.  I told them go ahead.  If they did this they would get taken away and wouldn't allowed to take their stuff.  They didn't tell of course, but then again, they were only mad at me for sending them to time out or something, but still many kids do this.\n\nAnyway to answer your question many parents, myself included are already pist about not really being allowed to parent at having so many restriction put on us (not that I spank or anything.  A swat on the butt now and then) that when other people once again stick their noses in when where they don't belong it pisses us off.  We do the best we can given that we as parents really can't do alot anymore as parents and the kids know it.  Plus we don't like it when others threaten/correct our kids, brings out the animal in us.  GRRR!  LOL\n\nPlus what is being considered as misbehaving by you, may not by the parents.  I know my youngest has ADHD so he is really hyper even with meds so when we go out in public he has trouble sitting still and everything. So while I think for him he is being very well behave, you may not.  So does this mean I have to keep him home until he is an adult?  I think not.  I'm not going to keep my child home just to keep you and others happy. \n\n So before you think a child is misbehaving think about and for God's sake don't even think about correcting the child.  It's not up to you, it's not your child and for all you know the parents may have already put a punishment in place like a time out or being grounded when they get home.
99568
Personal responsibility went out with the wonderful book by Dr. Spok.  We should be our kids best friend, therefore, not holding them responsible for anything at all.  \nSecond there are way to many lawyers in the world.  How many commercials do you see every day for accident, social security, and so on, lawyers.\nThird there is the point of PC we don't want to hurt anyones self esteem so we don't hold them to their responsiblities.\nHope it gets better but I suppose it has to get worse before it gets better
903265
Your childhood is what creates the person you are. Some people use it as a motivator,some people depend on the excuse. Once again, the child could learn from his parents that blame THEIR childhood. I think everyone should change for the better.