how do you make a guy fall for u when he is still wounded from his previous relationship?
354325
Let it go.  Let him go.  Your setting yourself up to be hurt.  Don't get in the middle of that situation because it sounds like it's far from over.  He sounds like he has to deal with his issues with her.  He may get back with her or he may not but it doesn't matter he can't give you what you want from him right now.  It's better to continue being friends if you can.\n\nHopefully you can because friendship is so important.
210634
If you're going to break a fellow's heart, you might as well try to cushion the blow a little. Be kind and supportive, remember you may well be on the other side of a break up someday, and imagine how you might feel. A little kindness never hurt anyone. Having said that, make sure you're firm, don't leave any hope in his heart for a second chance. You don't want him pining.
396323
The best advice ever comes from the book and TV show "Sex and the City", the quote says "He's just not that into you." If you keep this in mind, you will avoid a lot of heartache. Realize that you cannot make anyone fall for you. If he says he just wants to be friends with you, he is already feeling pressured. Just imagine, if after 6 months of trying to get this guy's attention, how much time and energy you would waste trying to get this man to fall in love with you. Do yourself a favor, find someone else. And let the man come to you, don't ever chase a man.
915973
One thing I don't understand is your attachment to your previous relationships (past). You are not that desperate, are you?The relationships did not work, period. Move on. Don't date anybody just to date somebody. Find someone you really like. You will feel it when you see him. Forget about the past.
1139484
You can approach him and tell him, but be prepared for pain and heart break if he never felt the same about you and did move on.  Or...maybe he did feel the same way and it would work out.  Won't find out unless you take the risk and talk to him and tell him the truth, honestly.
895234
This is a very fragile thing your flirting with here. You can get a spell and make him come back to you, but do you really want him back on those terms? You love him-set him free. If he returns he's yours-if he doesn't he never was. Spell casting to strenghthen your love is OK, but to get him to love you back is dangerous and would not recommend this practice. Please rethink what you want, and take a different approach.
295801
you can't make someone fall in love with you.  Someone can grow to love you but if he's in love with someone else your best bet is to move on and find your true love.
272578
my god....\nwhy dont u clearly talk to him.\nask him to stop jumping around. he isnt loving u but taking advantage of ur love just keeping u as backup for bad time of his. \nu r a person, u love him, u too get hurted. u too have value. make him realize this. have a serious talk on this.\n\nif he dont love u, then dont let him messup wth u again n again. be clear, it will hurt u but its better than being victim. tell him either he can be wth u totally loyal or just stay away from u. he is confused in his life, he dont know what love n whats value of it. good serious talk can make him undertand this, n if he is really a good person them he will value u or wont hurt u more. otherwise he is crook.\nlove is from both sides, both have to give n take. i can understand u doing him for pure love, but have value for urself. i guess u r treating him very softly n freedom, u r letting him do any thing he wants. he has to realize that u love him so he cant jump around. when its love then its wth just wth 1 person.\n\ni understand u love him, ur heart melts for him n it makes u accept him again n again though he is doing crap. u cant do it forever, talk n decide what he actually want u or anyother.  if he REALLY dont love u then bear wth some pain n keep him away. just give him a option that he come to u only when he is very serious n forever.\nkeep ur door open to him, but dont let him just taking ur advantage. be strict n let him come to u wth a condition that he wont leave u again. be strict, be lil over emotions u can accept him any time becoz u really love him, be proud of it. but be strict to value urself as person. u r not just a thing to play. be strict so it will save u from emotional n mental damage.\n\nwhen he comes to u agian, make sure he got everything clear n he is loyal, he has his mind set on u tatally then accept him.....be happy that u got ur love forever.
456637
Ok sweetie, obviously he is protecting himself from being hurt again by being in a relationship with you but not.  This may be a fine distinction and completely without merit.  And it is, I would say just give him some time if you like him, but I would expect that he should treat you with the dignity and respect that you deserve.  I would not settle for anything less if I were you. And if he can't trust me there is sombody out there who will love you for who you are, and will treat you the way you deserve.  Good luck sweetie and I hope this helps.
1101622
Tell him sorry but that isn't good enough for you and walk away.  Just from the way you wrote your question tells me there is no doubt that you will be attached to him and that you need more in a relationship.  If he really liked you then he would be willing to enter a committed relationship or simply date with no benefits.  You deserve a man who wants to be with you and only you and is interested in developing a real relationship with you.  Don't settle for anything less or you will get hurt.
150906
hmmm as u fall in love before .recollect ur memory and once again feel same passion and love as u have before for him.i wish u good luck
595189
I believe in second chances so if I were you then I would casually date him for a couple months, maybe like once a week and just see if he has changed. Don't commit yourself to him and don't let him suck you in. Be sure to make yourself happy, like going out with your friends some nights. If you spend all your time with him your going to get blinded. Who knows, maybe someone else will come along and you will suddenly no longer want this guys attention. But make sure that he knows your not committed and your an independent woman.
1180972
Sorry but there really is no easy way. You care about him and don't want to hurt him even though he has hurt you. Tell him what you said to us. Let him know that even though he had your heart from the beginning you do not feel like an important part of his life so you need to end things so that both of you can find other people who may be better suited for the types of relationships that you guys want to have.
987091
time...or you can start flirting with him, and just start over, if he really likes you, he'll understand and give you a second chance, if he does, dont fuck up again! (im assuming its a he)
408952
don't kid your self love\nand forget he as he dose not like you if he's going to hurt you.\npick your self up and dust your self off and keep looking for an other bloke who likes you for who you are and not for who you try and be\nstay true to your self and\ngood luck
167484
I guess just think about how you would want someone break it to you. Just don't lead him on because that hurts more in the end. In the end if you're having trouble doing it realize that you have to think about your own feelings and not just his.
657466
you can not make anyone to love you, it there is no hope that he will love you back... try to move on... but if you think he might love you or he loves you... do not beg him for anything... be a lady and show it to him. most guys love ladies not silly girls...