sex problem please help !!!!!!!?
346855
Well obviously he'll turn it into an argument either way just because HE want's sex.He's not being very considerate is he, or mature. I think you really need to do some soul searching about this, and other demands he may make of you as well. If he demanding that YOU clean up the house, or You do that, or whatever, it may be time to tell him that he's being a selfish jerk and your not his sex slave. Or just go looking for a nicer guy who knows how to play by the rules.
1039504
the first thing I suggest is to get a thorough work up by a doctor to see if there is a physiological reason for this. \n\nI also sugggest you take the pressure off of yourself and do not try to have sex again until you find out what is going on with you to cause the impotence. No point in setting yourself up to feel inadequate again.\n\nYou can just be honest with the girl you really like and tell her you are not ready to have sex until you find out what's causing the impotence.\n\nIf she drops you for that then she wasn't worth it.\n\nIf the doctor finds nothing wrong physiologically then it sounds like a physchological issue. \n\nAt that point I would go talk to a counselor or therapist.
1093520
dont have it so often.  then it will be more specail.  try foreplay but then no sex.  then carry all that sexual tension for a week and have a blast one night.  try new positions or techniques.
809991
although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
814652
i know someone that is in the exact same situation as you and it sucks for her too. since getting pregnant is his big worry -tell him you are getting on birth control -if there is no sex after getting on birth control -there is obviuosly something else wrong-my friend's husband had to start using viagra after getting off drugs -because drugs messed up his sex drive and it took her forever to get that he had a problem with a erection for months-becuase it was embarrsing to him -all you can do is ask and if that still does not work you should find someone who wants to give it up to you
360528
Nobody's expecting you to be perfect! Sex is just another exercise between two human beings that show our respect for another. Her thinking you suck at sex is better than not having it at all! How are you supposed to become good at it if you never have it? I would say you should stop masturbating so you can have a build up of sexual energy. Also look into tantric sex (as this helps with keeping it up and having sex for longer periods of time). I'm sure that your gf is no pro at sex, so work on improving together. Buy a book on kama sutra (indian sex positions) and practice it page for page. It's better to get through this together, instead of you building it up in your head. Also, you can progress to sex. Build up your confidence by giving her oral and fingering or using a vibratoor on her. This will help you progress and release your anxiety. Also try her performing fellatio on you. An exercise to stop impotency is The Deer exercise for men (google it). Also tense the anall muscle continuously as though you are drawing water up it. The more you practice the longer you will be able to hold it. This helps strengthen erections and stops impotency. Hope my advice helps :)
1177281
Is he a young man?\n\nSounds like it... I suggest working with him to increase his "ride" time.   The grab method... or some "detain" cream... or perhaps wearing a condom sometimes helps.\n\nYou must have some "sugar walls" there babe!!!  hehehe\n\nbut seriously... if this is a problem for you... as it seems it should be... work with him.   You both will enjoy it more!
1099406
Sheesh!\nYou need to abstain from sex if it is draining the life force out of you.\nYou've got to stop enjoying yourself so much and start navigating this hell we call our lives. \nSmarten up and get happy, damnit!
462039
Well, you should talk with him openly about how you would want your relationship to function on the sexual department.\nYour main problem is probably lack of communication.
164988
you need to relieve yourself by thinking of her or even better ask her to help you. You can do it without having sex. Ask her to watch you. It's fun!!!Or just ask God to help you until you are ready for marriage.
936117
talk to your wife about spicing up your love life.\nyou never know, she might be just as lonely as you are, but before that maybe you should try to find out and understand why she's so against sex.\ngood luck!!
446407
4 years damn, well put on a sexy nighty and meet him at the door, if that doesn't work, talk to him about couples therapy or sex therapy.ohh another thought, if you aren't getting any from him most likely someone else is. ask him and tell him you would like to see some changes. maybe he wants you to show some initiative
1061972
first thing, stop worrying about it.  The more you stress, the worse it's going to get.  You are 16 and (too  young to have sex) but anyway your body is still working out the kinks.  Trust me, in a few years when you have figured out how to have good sex, you won't have this issue.  \n\nTry concentrating on what you are doing.  Most guys do the opposite so they last longer, but maybe concentrating on it.  \n\nHow do you really feel about her??  Maybe she isn't floating your boat???  Love and sex are connected but also very different.  \n\nBest thing to do is relax.  If it continues, you really should see a doctor
1098760
Maybe she is having a low sex drive right now and do you spice things up in the bedroom and make things exciting for her???? Talk to her and see why she feels this way and also suggest to her maybe seeing a doctor or sex therapist. She could be having affairs too!
158960
Dude you cann't make chicken soup out of just water. The point being you can't make her something she not. Seems your sex drive is no where close to hers. It could be you two just don't match up.\n\n It will not get better, maybe you jusy don't turn her on. With a lady its about all things the way you treat her and talk, how you make her feel. Its also maybe your just not  sexually incompatible. You need to think she is not enjoying the sex as much as you.\n\n There is alot more to this then can be talk about on this short note.\n\n Also you could try this, either cook her a nice dinner or take her out to dinner. when you get home just put on some good music just make the connection that you once had. \n\nIts not good to have her think all you want is sex. \n\nHave a nice day Don
478987
I suggest sitting down and talking to her about it candidly. Try new things, buy her a new "toy", something sexy to wear to bed, a little porn (it works, for either arousal or a giggle sometimes, I swear) a makeover day...Chances are she's not sure how to change the same issue you're not sure of either. You both probably need a change, try something you never thought you would, and I bet the spice comes right back!..GL;)
1079702
Although I understand your situation, it is very hard for a women to think that she can not turn on her mate.  Even if she knows the fault is not her own.  My suggestion go buy the toys and make sure that you have a lot of foreplay.  Good luck to you