y do feamles always back stab each other 4 real ??? is it jealousy ??
348107
it's competition, jealousy and just part of life\ngossip turns into rumors and that's when the backstabbing starts, it's happening to my close friends right now and i'm stuck in the middle, it's not fun but you have to learn to deal with it and move on
548175
Because it's part of a healing process for some people. You feel that you need to get revenge so that the person hurts as much as you are. Some people do it so that they can move to the 'hate' stage so it doesn't hurt as bad. And some are just jealous that they have moved on with their life and are happier yet you are still stuck in the past and are lonely (even if it was a dysfunctional relationship).
176721
Everyone can't get along all the time. It's part of being alive, fighting. They actually say that fighting is healthy for you, it helps you vent. What's the point of having one of those relationships where you never get mad at the other person? It's not the way to live!! You fight with anyone.. you're mother, father, siblings, friends, even strangers. Of course lovers are going to fight.. doesn't mean that don't love each other though.
1077131
Poor thing. Have you been burned recently? I feel your pain. Ok. Mind games. Men have egos, huge egos. When a woman he thinks is his (and 'only' his) is seen with another man, even a friend or anything similar, ego says "Hey, if other egos sees my lady with someone else, I am less of a man. This is unallowable. I should make her jealous to make her focus on me." \nThis is a broad generalization of course, but it seems that this is the case a lot of the times, and guys hate to admit that they are not in control of the situation. Everyone judges us by the kind of mate we can find. If you have a chunky girlfriend, you are a chubby chaser and cant hack a fine chick. If you have a fine chick, guys envy you but also try to ruin what you got. Its a bit of a juggling act, and mind games are just one way to juggle so many balls in the air at once. On behalf of the thinking man, sorry for the mind games, its a defense mechanism.
502179
I dont want to sound rude, but if they are all doing it, then maybe you need to look into yourself and work out why, there is no one reason why a person cheats on another, all we can do is change our own attitudes toward it so that it doesnt continue to happen. \n\nIs it possible that you have low self esteem and they are picking up on that? If not i suggest you do a little soul searching and come up with answer for yourself, i'll bet there is one there, but you dont want to face it. \n\nGood luck - nobody can help you, but you on this one.
288659
no offense but do you think that you may be asking for the fights ??? people look at other people some times its because theres some thing they like about that person or they are reminded of some one else that was a good thing in there life , what ever the  reason if you bust his chops over it then he is going to get fed up with it , weather he and you split up over it depends on how hard you push this subject , its only human nature , and if this girl is real nice to him even if its just on a friendly side then you may even push him to her because you could breakup and he will look to her just to piss you off , I'm am sure you look at other men even if its an actor , sport personality , or some one your friends ask if you think he is hot , every one looks!!!! its if he isn't looking and touching that you have to worry about so dont give him a reason to feel that you being a bytch about it all and looking for a fight , i have been with the g/f for 5 years and i still look and have looked right along but i don't want to cheat on her i just look , and as far as how she looks beauty is in the eye of the beholder , maybe he likes fat chicks and he went with you because he saw something in you that made him like you , you may be the hottest chick to some one and a real dog to some one else , if she got 3 kids some one liked her enough to give her 3 kids !!!!!
464791
Hey. I have been there, done that. Listen to me carefully. When does the hurt go away?  when YOU let go. look at the facts. Your girlfriend signed false papers on you, how can you miss that? How can you miss having someone stab you in the back? Stop thinking and remembering the "good" times you had and remember the last time you had. She signed false papers on you. you are going to have to get mad, and let it dissipate, naturally. It can take a week or two. Stop digging up bones. go forward. There are very good women out there that will treat you right and not lie on you.
575339
revenge isn't the answer.  Haven't you ever heard the saying "living well is the best revenge"?.  When you get consumed with getting back at somebody, that becomes your whole life and focus.  they may not have even hurt you intentionally, sometimes we get hurt feelings but that is just the way life is.  Not everyone we like will like us, some people who like us will stop liking us at some point.  It's sad but it's life.   Learn to navigate those curves and don't get consumed with the idea of getting back at somebody.  It just does you more damage in the long run.
743323
Uhhhhhhhhhhhh go slap the crap outta them!!!  No not really remember sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me, or turn the other cheek,  it shows you are a better person to ignore them as you know what and whom you are and evidently this person has some issues with themself prob such as insecurity and jealousy.  There ya go girlfriend.
301100
Jealousy is about YOU, not your partner, unless they have done something to give you a concrete reason to mistrust them. YOU have to gain enough confidence in yourself to imagine you've got it goin' on, and there is no way they are going to cheat on you, or dump you, for someone else.
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Most women do that mostly when they have been hurt more than once. They probably feel that if it keeps happening then all men must be the same. I for one feel thats not true and if a woman who has been hurt constantly compares her current to her ex,then she will never have a meaningful relationship
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Don't let it happen. I've heeard many times when old freinds will accecpt you back, after your new freinds and bf have dumped you but that's rare. Keep being freinds with your old freinds, and let your new freinds and bf prove they will be loyal. Presumbly your old freinds have weathered some stuff with you, let your new freinds prove they'll do the same.
231134
I think its just pure jealousy. If you really love each other deeply then to hell with them just ignore them and enjoy the wonderful relationship you have.
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it's just a natural human instict. you look for someone to lash out at because your heart can't understand that you have been betrayed. It's so much easier to attack the person who took your place. \nwhich is bizarre but it happens. Now if the little bi**h KNEW that was my husband and/or was a good friend of mine, she DESERVES an @ss whooping.
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I disagree that women are brutal with each other.  I mean that can be, but I have just moved to a new state and joined a Mother's Club to make friends in California, and the women could not be nicer.  Now maybe it is the Mommy connection, but it seems to me to be proof that it doesn't have to be that way.\n\nI will suggest something that a girlfriend said recently.  Even in this welcoming club of women it seems that when in new social situations people (specifically women) are kind of thrown back to their school days experience - we are suddenly back in 8th grade, and nervous with new people (particularly if we had difficulty making friends as kids).  \n\nIt is hard for folks to get past that kind of thing.  I mean at work you are not friendly with people - in fact you often don't want to reveal too much about your personal life to those people.  We just don't get proper training on how to make friends - I don't think it is a personal trust issue, but more a general personal insecurity issue.\n\nPeace!\n\nPS - I have to say your picture is gorgeous.  If that is you, maybe other women are intimidated by you.  It could be...
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You can trust your girl friend, but I wouldn't trust that arrangement! Your feelings are understandable and natural. There are too many opportunities for an "accident" to happen! Why couldn't she find a straight female to share a house with? Tell her you trust her but you don't necessarily trust other men! In moments of weakness, or if she gets mad at you, the other guy is there for a "shoulder to lean on", and guys will take advantage of that. She may even do something just to get back at you, even if she regrets it later! There is nothing wrong with being jealous(but not out of control). We (Men) are territorial by nature, and if you allow someone to trespass on what is yours, then you don't deserve to have it!
919657
Are you crazy? If you both like each other why are you listening to your friends? Sure your friends mean well but they cant control you.