what do you do when you are torn between so many different lovers and you cant say you have one true boyfriend
347978
Gets lonely, doesn't it? Slow down and think about what you REALLY want in a guy. I bet the ones you have are all different and exciting in their own ways (mine were), but wouldn't it be nice to find just one that has ALL the qualities you enjoy? It's difficult, but it can be done. It may even mean you find someone entirely new (I did).
847058
Deep inside you know who you would choose if you had no other choice.  So who is best for you?  Once you make your mind up stick to it. You can remain friends with the other guys without ever becomeing more, thats what truely makes a friendship (over years be there for one another), and not sexually.  Good luck sis.
731807
I definitely think it's possible to have strong feelings for more than one person.  We're only human.  But I think when that happens we have to make a concious decision about who we want to be with, and then move on.  Like, weigh their good and bad qualities, and see how you really feel about them deep down inside.  When you've made your decision, after considering every single aspect of it, then move on.  Don't what if, don't wonder how it would have been.  You CAN develop feelings for more than one person, but I don't think it's fair to keep dwelling on that if you're with someone.  Attraction happens, lust happens, feelings happen, but that doesn't mean we have to act on it if we're in a solid relationship.  Good luck! :o)
659764
you have to make a choice....decide who is going to be your lover and who isn't....it may be hard but write down on paper all the things you want out of your relationship and then write down all the things that match up between your two candidates...do pick one and not ruin both of them by playing them along.  Good Luck
76891
This is a hard one. If you love both the same, you cant really tell who is your true love. So what I would do in this situation is stay with the one you are with now. If the first one left you before.. he can definatly leave you again.. making the pain that much worse. Besides you are already with one you love. You wont be leaving anyone but continueing with what fate has brought you.
667653
Well it sounds to me that u need to just stop and re-examine ur feelings for awhile. Look inside ur self and see what u really feel for each woman. I would normally say "follow ur heart" but uhh it sounds to me lyk u need to know what's in ur heart b4 u do that. Don't forget u can't love more than one woman at the same time. One of them's gta be based on personality or looks alone. U'll have to figure that out, ask urself out of the two who will make you the happiest? Out of the two who will really BE there for me? when u figure that out, go for it! whoever that may be. and Remember Love is a choice we make from moment to moment! Good Luck!
79712
Is this love?  It does not sound like it to me.  If you loved either and you knew it, you would not feel confusion.\nAs for romance, you make your choices and you take your chances.  If you heart is not screaming that you do not want to live without one of these girls then you might end up living without either.
1176603
you just need to follow your heart which guy do you have more feelings for and which one treats you the way you want to be treated? ? no one on here can make that choice for you. you just need to decide the one your happiest with and go with it
824700
You need to pick one. Its not fair for the guys. If you really love them you wouldnt want to hurt them like that.
682613
Well... You can't really help who you like or not. If you really think that the guy you love is more important to you, stick with him and if not you shouldn't pressure yourself that's for sure...
365182
When I first started dating, girls didn't stick to just one guy. They went out with lots of different ones. "Going steady" with just one boyfriend was for when you really fell in love and wanted to spend all your free time with the boy you were crazy about. As long as you don't feel like that about either of them, you should spend time with both if you want to. You have lots of time to decide who you want to be with and you probably haven't even met him yet!
1022768
honey, its ok to love as many people as you want... but to love someone (as in a relationship) is to be true to only them. if you feel torn between the two, the truth is you probably dont LOVE either of them enough to be with one... does that make sence?\n If you truly love someone, inside and out, you'll only want to be with that one person... I hope this helps
723812
Don't dump your boyfriend. Give it time. Eventually you might find that your boyfriend is a better man than the guy who "wasn't ready". Obviously your boyfriend had the respect and the guts to have a relationship with you. I say give him some respect and stick with him for a while. If after you give it time, you find that you are still having strong feelings for the other guy, then you should make your move of dumping one for the other. Just be cautious, and weigh all your options. Remember, you are not the only one who could get hurt. GOOD LUCK :-)
272492
ifU shouDON'Tave to stop and thyou're\niF THEY DONT UNDERSTAND maybe youre not ready and might get crushed.\nYou have to choose the one u love most and makes you feel comfortable.
396220
you have 2 consider your feelings and also your boyfriends. would u rather be wit that other guy or your boyfriend? would the boyfriend be hurt if u left him? who would u be happier with?
399451
Do you love him?  If you love him, why worry about whether he loves you?  Why not just enjoy being together and don't fret over one another's motives. Your boyfriend is not there to reward you for breaking two other relationships. You can't work to earn love. Either it will come in time, or it won't. Meanwhile, go as far as you want with him (and no further) and enjoy it. \n\nLove, Beth
280138
Some people can be in love with more than one person.   Type in polyamory into search engines and read about that.   But also - think about what the new guy fulfills for you that the old one doesn't?  Perhaps you just need to open up some new lines of communication with current boyfriend to help your relationship completely fill your needs!