LADIES my husband with to the Batchelor Party and the strippers where there but know I do not feel the same?
346491
Look, you knew he was going.  He married you didn't he?  That bachelor party was only one night.  He is going to spend the rest of his life with you.  I'm sure he loves you and you need to get that party out of your head, if not it will hurt your relationship.\nGood Luck!
1010345
He might feel more awkward with a man therapist, or at least my husband would, but I would feel awkward with him having a woman therapist and since I'm selfish I guess, I'd give him the man. Ha! Unless it was an old woman or something. I'm jealous.
342003
Hi, \n\nIt probably sounds a lot worse than it is, I am guessing you are nearing your 40s or around that age? (sorry!!)\n\nI would think your husband is going through the male menopause where he is questioning his life and if he is really satisfied, these "women" obviously make him feel young again.\n\nIf I were you I would show him he has a loving wife who will be there for him whereas the girls are just a figment of his imagination, \n\nThanks, \nAnd best of luck!!
330044
They aren't ganging up on you - women in general just have that affect on men.  If you're the only man in the house, I can see why you feel that way.  My husband does. :__)
970640
well that hasn't happened to me... but my advice to you is to be happy with yourself... and honestly it sounds like you husband is a little insensitive. He should be your best friend... if anything he should be the only person you are NEVER embarrassed to do anythign arround. A husband and wife is a team... they should be the other half to yourself, and you should always be comfortable with yourself (and the other half of yourself.)  If you feel you fat, then maybe you should look into losing wieght... try eating small meals more freguently throughout the day and exercise. \n\nMost importantly you should talk to your husband... become best friends.... \n\ngood luck sweetheart... and remember short, tall, skinny, fat, blonde, burnette, redhead, whatever you are BEAUTIFUL for who you are.
520510
*giggles* Sounds like someone is jealous! :D I fondle female strippers all the time... Gives my husband a thrill. ;D\n\nSeriously I know a lot of strippers and have been to many a club in my day. In my experience men are more aggressive towards the female dancers then women are to male dancers. I once watched a guy climb on stage, punch a girl out, and try to drag her off to rape her. She had to have steel plates put in her face. There was also a time I busted a beer bottle over some jerks head because he grabbed one of my friends and stuck his fingers up her *ya* and bit her shoulder. Have you ever heard of anything like that happening to male strippers? I think not! In an unspoken rule women are usually allowed a great deal of leeway when it comes to touching strippers because they pose less of a physical threat in the minds of the strippers and barstaff. Just my honest oppinion and person experience though.\n\nOh, and not all strippers are lez or even bi. Not even most of them are. I'm not a lez or bi but I've fondled other women. Why? Because there is something freeing and easy about it. When you are in a place where acting silly is ok you feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. That all this oppression from society is gone. It's a good feeling. It's nice to be free from the "personal bubble" aspect of our lives for a small while and to touch and experience closeness with strangers or friends that you wouldn't have in public.
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Actually, many of us *do* know, because we were there.  I'm missing out on feeling guilty because I love another woman who is, like, the other half of my brain, being told to avoid enjoyable media, and being told how to vote.  I'm missing out on having to treat potential friends like dirty rotten sinners who need to hear my "Good News."  I'm missing out on spending Sunday morning in pantyhose and coming home after the race started.  The door, as I told my younger cousins, swings both ways; many of us swung out because we used our brains.  Which, after all, you and I (I'm Pagan now) agree that our Creator gave us.
92926
Sorry for you, i know its hard to feel this way but i was wondering the same for my fiend's husbands but i figured out that most men are the same after some years of marrige and I found that the same is going on in most of the series on the tv.  \ntry to fill your time with other things, and hope he misses you and change
693782
Yes this is normal. What you feel is just a normal reaction to hurt and frustration. The real job is staying together in spite of those feelings and toughing it out.Sounds like ya'll are on the right tract. Just always be open to listening to each other...and compromising.
249513
I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!
903684
Kudos to you for realizing that that boy (note, he's not a man) was an idiot.  Anyone who would put you second to someone else, disrespect you, and hurt you is not worth anyone's time let alone your time.  Every woman deserves respect and every woman should demand respect.  I reccommend hanging out with any close female friends you might have.  Rent movies, eat your favorite foods, have  good time being with people who are worthy of being in your company.  Finally, take up something you've always wanted to do, be it a sport, yoga, knitting, scrapbooking, rapping, dancing, cooking, the list could go on and on.  Be adventurous, concentrate on yourself, and congratulate your reflection in the mirror every morning for dumping that immature sack of baggage that you now no longer have to be burdened with. (If he was able to make fun of the woman he was supposed to care for, what else was he doing?)
563327
Dear...you might!\nOn my Bachelorrete Party, my in-laws surprise me to a show called, "Thunder From Down Under." The room was full of women of all ages, actually. \n\nEnjoy and have fun.....
867922
It's only natural for a husband , or wife, to be feeling that way; especially since you two will be apart. It's sad to say, but since I live on a military base, you do see ALOT of that going on and maybe that's also why he feels the way he does. Alot of other soldiers may be putting "so-called" thoughts into his head, also. All you can do is be honest, sincere, faithful, and loving. Hopefully he will have enough faith in you to trust you completely. Being too jealous and suspicious can certainly pull people apart, also.
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I  Know  exactly  how you  feel....my  husband  has the  same  feeling  at  his  work....people  are straight  out LAZY.....and  the  least  mistakes  you  made....they're the  ones  to  make  the  big  deal. And  then  the  good had  to  suffer  for  the  bad....they  should  be  fire  without  pay.\nAll  The  Best And Good  Luck
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I think that you should probably talk to your husband about this.  \n\nIf you are simply talking to other men - your boss, your minister, your banker - that's probably okay.  \n\nIf you have male friends, defining your relationship with those male friends may be someting to talk to your husband about.  By that, I mean that your husband may not appreciate your male friends calling at 2 a.m. to ask if you can pick them up from the bar because they are too drunk to drive home.  Your husband may also not appreciate you being ALONE with another male.\n\nYou definitely shouldn't be intimate with other men - that should go without saying.
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He needs your love. To lose your love would be a blow to his ego. You mention he goes to strip bars, could be his own guilt is what he is taking out on you and I will tell you from experience, it does not change unless you both get consouling. (s) \nI had the same in my first marriage, thought it was me, I'm almost 60 now and know it sure as heck was not me, he threw an iron at me when I came out in a sexy nighty. Called me every name one would call a stripper all the slutty names, not anything to make me feel pretty or sexy, I was too young to use my head . . . use your head, he sure won't use his!   He is married, that carries responsability and that means he should not be in a strip bar, he should be with you, one flesh, eh? Please take care of your self, try to get help as a couple if not, you get help enough to get courage to be more independant from him and make some good choices for your future. I bet you are beautiful!  Please trust me, it is not you! Your words and caring show you are!
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At 41, I still remember that feeling your husband has.  He's 28-29 and missing his youth.  He has a baby and resposiblites.  "Oh, for just one night to be young again."  Problem is that you can't go back.  He'll see only a few of the people he used to hang out but it won't be the same.  It probably will be only one time that he goes because it's just too sad. \n\n He needs a something new that is exciting that you can do together.  Come up with an idea for something like that and hit him up with it a week or two after his night out.  \nEnjoy