how do you get over somebody that you are deeply in love with but is not working out?
350784
You don't get over it, you learn from it. You look at why it didn't work out, and hopefully change things so that the next time you are in love you will not make the same mistakes. Or you could try and get it back. You know the old saying, if its truely love and you let it go, it comes back to you. If it never returns it wasn't truely love to begin with. Or my personal favorite, find someone that looks exactly like your love, F**** him dump him, laugh with your friends about it later.(just kidding)I find a little laughter and joking sometimes eases the pain ya know what I mean!
333753
you need to seriously cut down on spending time with him and phone calls, etc. he's just not into you that way. the only way to get over him is to distance yourself.\n\nCall up some other friends and become very busy and important!! \n\nYou might be surprised how much you won't be thinking about him after a week or two. \n\nGetting away from the situation always puts things in perspective. you will come to find that he is not amazing enuff for you to agonize over!
1085801
Try not to dwell on it. The more you spend time thinking about it the worse the situation will become. Loving someone doesn't always mean being with them so be as supportive to him/her as possible without becoming more emotionally involved. Focus on other aspects of your life that get you out of the house and spend time with other friends. It won't be easy to get over not having your love returned in the way you would like but you'll have to or you might risk losing your best friend.
53612
Slow down a bit.  Get your mind off of that matter.  Breath some fresh air.  Get you feet back on earth.\n\nLet the relationship bloom on it own course without any help from you.  In time, you'll learn the appropriate action to make happen.
576610
make use of "emotional detachment" excersises. Imagine you're putting him into a hot air baloon and see him floating away away away...imagine you take him for a boat ride on the sea and then you dump him in the deepest side of the ocean and he sinks away away away...write his name on paper and burn it, imagine you put him in a box and post him to a country far away...every time you think of him or see him do one of these excersises - your brain will soon\nget the message that he "does not exist in your world" and \nthen start focussing on fun activities, do anything you enjoy loads, focus on yourself and what you need. Good luck!
883314
if he's already out of love at this early in the relationship then let it go, your ship has already sailed, move on and find someone who will actually have concrete feelings for you and not be so wishy washy about them....
1138172
Yes, they can work out.  You just have to be very patient, and you have to work at it, like any other relationship.  You have to be stubborn too, sometimes.  Well, one of you will have to be.  If you get know them, and you want them, go after them.  I regret much more the things I didn't do in my life than the things I have done.  I try to remember that, and not run from the things, or people, I care about.  I want my squishy, and I want to make her happy, so that's what I'm going to do.
371213
The answer to your question is forgiveness...You must learn to forgive the love of your life...There had to be a possible reason why that person ignored you...You get past the hurt and pain by giving em another chance...I think you don't love that person..if you did u would of not given up on love \n\nI know what you are going thru...The love of my life is far away from me...but I still love him...Nothing can make me stop loving him...not even distance or time...Love is not easy..Love is a battlefield..
577364
If you are still in love with him and there is no hope of patching things up. Give yourself time. It may take a while, but eventually things will get better. It's ok to still be in love with someone, but don't obsess about it. Live your life, and when you do find someone else, admire the different wonderful things they have to offer you and vice versa. Good luck!
608931
U have got to give urself time to get over him....u will soon..time is a great healer.
289709
Sorry mate you can't - especially if you truly loved that person. It does get better with time but you still have your bad days and good days.I lost my soul-mate 2 years ago and I still miss him to this day even though I'm with someone else now.I know I will never love anyone like I loved him - I just don't think its possible.If you ever need to talk plse feel free to contact me thru my e-mail
1083158
Don't dwell on him, it won't help your situation and will only make things harder.  Go on with your life and you'll meet new people.  Eventually you'll meet someone that takes your mind off him and none of what you're feeling right now will exist in your mind.  And if things are truly meant to be between the two of you, one day you'll find yourselves back with each other, but it'll happen naturally.  This doesn't mean you should plan for that either.  Meet other people, time will heal.  Promise!
989721
it'll take time to get over someone. let time heal your wounds and go out and have fun with your friends. that always helps. if you have pics of her hanging on your wall,....take em down. put it in a box and just move on. you'll find a much better love as you move on and you may think back on this one day and think "what was i thinkning?".
330128
First off, ask yourself this:  Why do you want to be with someone that does not want to be with you?  You two were obviously not meant to be.  That is harsh and I know it hurts but when we are broken hearted, we tend to glorify the "good" things in the relationship and forget the bad.  Try and write what you liked and disliked about the relationship.  Talk to someone who you can trust and who will listen to you.  We have all been there and it is a very hard thing that you are going through.  Please try and remember that this pain is temporary...God bless and Good luck...xoxoturtlegirl
1077283
getting over someone takes time.  All you can really do is surround yourself with friends, positive energy and anything that comforts you.\nGood luck! and be strong and true to yourself.
493623
Deep down you haven't really let him go \nTo forget about him you have to
876970
Put as much distance between the two of you as possible and try to move on.  I know it's probably the hardest thing you could possibly do right now, but the longer you let it drag on, the harder it will be.  In the end, a clean break is the best and easiest way.  Eventually you'll get over it.\n\nGood luck.