some times my bf doean't want to have sex does that mean he doesn't find me attractive anymore?
345137
Depends on how long you've been dating... Update question with your age, his age and how long you've been dating... \n\nMore to come...\n\nBy the way: Check out his internet history... He's probably been surfing porn.
578360
Do NOT listen to this other drivel...Sometimes men, just like women lose some of the intensity of their sex drive for certain periods of time. He could be dealing with issues that you know nothing about...such as stress at work or with family, he could be having some problems with his libido... sit him down and talk to him, you won't find your answer by asking total strangers..only he can satisfy your curiosity. Peace.
541256
I think some people get to a point in a relationship that they aren't worried about sex, they're close enough without having so much of that type of bonding. That's one possibility.\nAnother could be, sorry if I hurt your feelings, that she isn't attracted to you anymore, or she could be tired of the "same ol' thing". Do you guys spice it up in bed, or is it the same old missionary position. \nMy boyfriend and I had this problem, we brought toys in the bedroom, and its never been as good as it is now.\nJust ask her, I can keep giving o you ideas about what could be wrong, but I don't know what going on in her head, and I'm only getting one side of the story. Just talk to her, if you know or have a feeling that it might be she tired of the same thing, ask her about trying some new things
75526
It is normal for a guy to want sex everyday, but to expect it is a different story. Every so often a quickie to quench his need is understandable, but you need to question if he doesn't care if you are in the mood or not and still expects it.
596027
He sounds a complete asshole...I'm not surprised you've lost your sex drive.\nDump him,move on,meet a guy who respects and cares for you,your desires will be restored!
299911
He might just have some respect for you and not want to rush into anything.  He might actually be romancing you, taking things slow, getting to know you, letting you get to know him, and developing an actual relationship before taking things to the next level.  You can't take sex back.  Sex changes things... you can't help it... it just does.  You could always ask him if there's any particular reason why he hasn't tried to go all the way in the bedroom and see what he says.  Also, since STD's are on the average 1 in every 5 people he could be a carrier and struggling with a way to tell you before enganging you in sex.  The best thing I can tell you to do is to just ask.  Wondering and guessing will drive you bonkers!
302642
OOOHHHHHH Been there done that.\n\nThere are always signs.  He's gone a lot, works late a lot more often than he used to, wants to spend more time with the guys.  But be careful.  Love can make us feel very  vulnerable.  And if you have stuff going on in your own life like you're not feeling great about yourself, or have just become a mom, BE CAREFUL.  Don't confuse doubt about yourself with doubt about your love.  It's easy to do.  Sometimes when you're looking up to someone else it can feel like they're looking down at you.  Examine your own heart before you examine his motives.\n\nThe sign I missed was he never wanted to have sex with me anymore.\n\nIf he is...... let him have it.\n\nGood Luck, hope it all works out.
462147
There's nothing wrong with you.He says he's attracted to you and you do have sex,just not that often.If it bothers you I'd ask him whats going on.Tell him his behavior makes no sense to you, it makes you feel insecure and you need to know why he does this.I'm sure the two of you can work it out..good luck!
1178806
That makes sense to me. Spend some time with him. See what it is or isn't turning into. If he really really likes you, it wouldn't be JUST for sex. Make sure thats the case. Its natural for BOTH man and women to want sex. Also, I think why lose respect for people for wanting good healthy sex. Either way. Your caution makes a lot of sense to me considering that it sounds like maybe you dated some jerks. Maybe too many.
541470
I don't think I'd say he finds you less attractive, maybe he is putting more pressure on himself to please you and so is slightly distracted. When under pressure I know I last longer, but as long as my partner enjoys herself the whole experience is amazing. I know that not a lot of men find satisfying their partner the main priority, but if yours is putting in the effort I'd say take it for what it is! He must think a lot of your relationship to put in such effort.
314422
Looks like your letting how you feel confuse you to how things really are. Seems like your husband tries hard to let you know he appreciates you, at least from what it sounds like.\n\nIt sounds to me like you are insecure about your weight, and that you veiw yourself as unattractive. You are trying to solve the problem without, when the problem is within. No ammount of encouragement from your husband will help you unless you make up your mind to be encouraged. It sounds to me like he loves you dearly, finds you very attractive, and wants you very much in his life. Don't let your feelings lie to you and tell you otherwise. It seems to me like you are interperating things from him that he doesn't really feel, because that is really how you feel. It's not him that thinks you are fat and ugly, but you are afraid he does. Again, from what you've told me, I'm fairly sure he thinks just the opposite!\n\nNow, if part of the problem is, as you said above, that he isn't more interested in sex, don't nessisarily look to yourself as the cause. He may be busy at work, which leaves him tired and stressed at night. He may have some difficulties in that area, perhaps something clinical. You should both sit down and talk about this, together, and be patient with him, not nagging, whiney, or demanding, but letting him know how you feel, and listening to his side patiently.\n\nIf you are contributing to this part of the problem at all, it is probably from your insecurity, not your looks. If you feel ugly, and act like you feel ugly, you will make yourself seem less attractive. Don't keep thinking of yourself as unnattractive! Remember that your husband loves you, he wouldn't likely have married you if he didn't think you are attractive! Be confident, quit looking at what you think are your flaws, and concentrate on what makes you attractive. Think of yourself as attractive, and you will BE more attractive simply by how you act from it.\n\nI hope and pray everything works out well, and God bless!
819829
Try explaining to him that you are busy sometimes, that doesn't mean that you aren't into him it just means that you don't have the time to give him the attention that you think he deserves.  He might be happy with that and it will keep your relationship honest.
354740
Find another guy.  Why waste your time on a guy who isn't interested in you sexually?  It's never going to amount to anything, so what's in it for you?  Stop seeing him completely, and just move on.  There are plenty of guys who will want you.  ...that's just the way it is.  And, eventually, you'll find a match.
594541
You may be drifting apart or his work is tiring him out and he de stresses at the Gym. You could go to the Gym with him? If he is not interested in this idea then ask him what else you two can do together, if he has no suggestions then you suggest something,  he may be phoning nightly as he could think you are no longer interested, you could also try the direct approach and ask him what his feelings are. if he still says he loves you then tell him that you feel neglected and what to spend more time with him
212723
I agree, stop the sexual part of the relationship and see if he still comes around. If he is willing to still date knowing he isn't getting any, then he is interested. If not, then yeah you were a booty call, which then you should kick him to the curb and find someone you deserve. Good Luck!
516648
Not really.But don't be too dependent on him.Having sex almost everyday is great but he needs to rest.
677121
He won't show interest in you. It should be pretty obvious. Assess the situation: does he work a lot? does he come home late? is he not in the mood for sex? He may just be under a lot of stress, but if it goes on for too long (6-8 months) then it's a safe bet something else is wrong. Ask him. Tell him you're afraid he's lost interest, and if he doesn't change his behavior you know he has.