why do we always try to be happy?
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Hmmm....well, being happy creates less stress on the body systems, which frees up energy for pursuing your goals, and life work. Also, happy people are much more tolerant and accepting of others than unhappy people, which is better for humanity as a whole.  Being happy isn't quite the same thing as being joyous.  Happiness, the kind that lasts, comes from a sense of things being right in your world, and in your life, which means you are living in harmony with your higher purpose, and this kind of happiness can't be ruined or taken away by circumstances.  It is a mind-set that sees possibilities in every situation, rather than judging each experience as either good or bad.
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You can't satisfy anyone without pulling yourself apart trying to accomodate them. You can't make everyone happy. We try to seek approval from others because it adds to what we think our self worth is. We want people to be proud of us and like us, it is just the way we were taught to put others opinions and values over our own.
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I believe in happiness.\n\nBeing happy is easy: all you have to do is be happy. \n\nReally. \n\nIt's that simple. \nAnd I'm currently considered to have clinical depression. (And a tad of PMS this week too, stupid moon!) Yet I'm happy! Go figure.\n\nWhen peope say "But I can't be happy because of X", then they're choosing to not be happy, aren't they? Plain and simple, they're choosing to not be happy because of X. So what? X is still going to be there even if you are happy. Surely it's going to be easier to deal with X if you're happy in spite of it? They're just focussing on the negative things, rather than just getting on with being happy. People get into the habit of being unhappy and they say things like 'When Y happens, then I'll be happy." And Y happens, but then they realise it wasn't Y they were waiting for, it was Z, and they say "Oh, when Z happens, THEN I'll be happy." No. Just be happy. Y and Z will still happen, and then they'll just add to your happiness. \n\nI think people should stop waiting around for happiness and start making it.\n\nMy grandmother always said "Count your blessings"... and that really works! No one ever told me to 'count my badnesses', but I did anyway. That got me nowhere. Counting those blessings, as small as they may be, they really make a difference. Thanks Nan.
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Your answer was within your question. "How can *I* become more happy." To be happy with the world around you, you must first be happy with who you are.  If you are not happy with yourself then do what is necessary to become happy with you.  For me that meant not trying to be something or someone I wasn't. Not trying to fit in. I had to be Just Me. Sometimes that is the hardest thing in the world to be. Not everyone will like you, but everyone will respect you because you will always be the same.  Good, Bad, or Indifferent.
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Getting?  Why do you need to be getting something to be happy?  I have a hard life full of dilema's and confusion & it has been very spiritually rewarding and It's never dull, which makes me happy!
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That is broad and it's hard to answer.  You don't get happiness by seeking it.  You get happiness by getting involved, caring for people and being cared for, using your talents, finding a spiritual way of being (like prayer or meditation), and taking care of your body (good food and exercise).  Doing things like this will help you to be happy afterward.  If you try to be happy first, then happiness will elude you.
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Maybe if we are always satisfied with everything, the drive to achieve will be lost. Of course, we need to find a balance between finding happiness with things we have and finding things worth fighting for. It is easier to stay satisfied with smaller goals that matter to us. So it might be wise to pick your battles carefully.\n\n"Happiness makes up in height what it lacks in length." -- Robert Frost (I think that's how the quote goes.)
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to be healthy and happy.
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Happiness is something that we struggle for our whole lives. At times we think that we are truly happy, then something changes, and we continue our quest for happiness. Everyone experiments with happiness. People try money, drugs, sports etc. seeking out things that make them happy. True happiness is unachievable, but the journey is life. What makes me happy is trying to find a higher understanding of myself and others.
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to be happy with yourself
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We want approval because to us it's a form of love.  \nAnd we all want to know that we are loved and approved of.\nEven if the whole world and everyone gives you approval you still can't be happy unless you approve of yourself.  Some of us unfornately do not which is why we are unhappy.  Kids love attention and approval because it makes them feel safe/secure and special.
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Other people can't make you happy. Your happiness is dependent on how you choose to react to the world and the people around you.
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if you are happy in your life all the time, you will loose the value of it . we know what happiness is after facing the sorrows if their is no sorrow then happiness doesn't have it's value so try to appericiate sorrow and u will understand the true joy
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that is a very good question....I guess I would have to say cause some people are never satisfied with anything or just aren't happy unless they have something to complain about on a daily basis to make them happy...or that they wont be happy until people around them are miserable just like they are
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I wish people would be happy as much as i expect but no they aren't. It is kinda like we are living in a whining world. Everybody wants more and more, even though they have everything they want, i think they still are gonna be unhappy. Kinda nature of people. It is not that only pessimism or greediness something more deep hard to explain. Because if they have been cured they still gonna crave for something. Sometimes drives you to live, and sometimes makes you blow up.
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It seems like we need tension and stress to become what we're meant to be.  If we had everything go our way we would spoiled rotten, miserable wretches who are self centred and mean.
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Why is it that when everything has been going bad, something GOOD happens?\n\nBecause we are all starting from imperfection and zero experience.  And there are temptations and pitfalls that accrue from not heeding the true basic tenets handed down over the ages, just about everywhere (including different cultures and religions).\n\nLife is a struggle, we have to team up and cope with the challenges.  There will be some disappointments along the way, you cannot control what others do, only yourself, and even yourself not always...\n\nAll the most needed things are free.  As for those things that require effort or money, be satisfied with what you really need as opposed to what you want.\n\nEven when we are old we must continually remind ourselves about this.  \n\nYou see some people who are unbelievably wealthy and unbelievably UNHAPPY and may even do crimes because they WANT SO MUCH, they are never satisfied.  Also, comes from living too much for ONESELF and not enough for others, helping others, working with others, sharing with others.\n\nHappiness is doing what is right and being satisfied with it, even when the surroundings are messy, all $%^#$&^^ up.\n\nIt is possible for heaven on earth if you think about this.  Meanwhile, you can have heaven in your own little spot, for sure.  There are ups and downs for everyone, even perfect visitors.