Am I wrong when I say, I don't think I could trust him again?
350143
Yes it is unfaithful!  Cheating begins in the mind.  When you can think about it, you can do it.  If you  can do it, there is a good chance that you will do it.  Just remember, staying or going is your decision.  But do you really want to live every day suspecting, not trusting, and on top of that, your children will notice the strained aspect of your marriage.  Wouldn't it be better, for them, if they seen you demand the respect you deserve?  Would you want your daughter to stay with someone if they lied to her and disrespected her?  I wouldn't.  That's why I left my husband.\n   Also, if he had really loved you, he would have been honest.  He would have come to you and said,"Honey, something is wrong.  I've been thinking about cheating, leaving, other women, etc, and We need to do something.  If I feel this way than we need to talk."  Respect and communication are part of a relationship.  If he loves you he will respect you.  If he respects you, then he will tell you the truth of how he feels-even when it is harmful to himself.  Because he would feel that you deserve it.
455383
only you know what he's like. follow your heart, do you really  think he would do this? and if you think he would, then, you obviously don't trust him. if you think he's capable of somehting like that, then, the feelings must not be there strongly enough on either part
182191
I think it depends on whether or not you could trust him again, if you know this is the only time, and how much you have invested in the relationship.  But the main thing is TRUST.\n\nIf you decide to take him back you MUST forgive him completely.  That means that you won't bring up his infidelity again - either by talking to him about it later on or by distrusting him every time he says he's going to be late.  If you can't trust him, you need to divorce him.
656154
Has this person ever hurt you before? Lied to you? Gone after something that was yours? Taken something that was not theirs to take? Cheated and you knew about it? Shared a secret you told them? Gone behind your back and told something about you?  If the answer to all these questions are no, then you can pretty much bank on the fact that you have someone you can trust. If the answer to any or most are yes, look very carefully before you leap!!
1136822
Seems like you have answered your own question, where is the relationship if there is no trust!!! I know what you mean tho. you can't change someone, they have to recognise their failings, and choose to do something about it. Try speaking with him about how you feel and see what he says..Then you will know whether he is willing to make steps to change his behaviour toward you, if he doesn't then you know what youve got to do
117819
It pretty much comes down to this: You either trust him or you don't. There is no "in between" trust. So ask yourself this: Do I trust him? If the answer is yes then there should be no problem with accepting what he says to you. If the answer is no then you would be treating yourself with respect by not staying with him, getting on with your life and not looking back. Once the trust is gone it never comes back. Not truly 100%. The most important thing is to be true to yourself!
29744
That's what's hard. You can't ever be 100% sure because if a person can do it once, he can easily do it again. Some people might be able to regain that trust eventually, but I'm not sure that I could ever trust someone who did that to me.
779022
Well, if he already cheated on you once, there is a possible that he could be doing it once again. But you never know, sometimes that is not the case. Well, also, it's ok for you to have lost the trust that you had in him because of what he did. I think that you can either wait and see if more things are weird or you can talk to him and tell him how you feel. Communication and honesty is the best thing in a relationship and maybe that will work. About being concerned, I think you should be if he is trying to go on with that plot. (Which I really doubt). I think that you need to keep calm unless you see more wrong things but still be cautious.
114119
Trust is foundation of any relationship. If you cannot trust him, you do not have any relationship.
140794
first of all its said (sorry im nuts with grammer) second,do you believe him. he betrayed you once, what makes you so sure he wouldn't do it again?
716055
I would forgive but i would be weary of it happening again, the trouble is that when something like this happens the trust is broken, and unfortunately trust is the hardest thing to get back once you have lost it.\nIf i was in love with this person than i would like to think that i would forgive and forget but i would only be able to do  it once, If it happened again than i would have to say no way. If i had gained the trust level back and it happened again i know i could not trust for the third time.
456637
Ok sweetie, obviously he is protecting himself from being hurt again by being in a relationship with you but not.  This may be a fine distinction and completely without merit.  And it is, I would say just give him some time if you like him, but I would expect that he should treat you with the dignity and respect that you deserve.  I would not settle for anything less if I were you. And if he can't trust me there is sombody out there who will love you for who you are, and will treat you the way you deserve.  Good luck sweetie and I hope this helps.
669782
no...you have to trust again at some point.  just be careful at first, and give yourself plenty of time to heal from the wounds others have given you.  you can't go through life not trusting anyone.  just be careful about who you trust, and don't do it right away.  make them earn your trust.
984899
I wouldn't believe him, men will tell you "anything" just for you to fall again for their lies. But...at the end is your decision if you want to continue the relationship and try again.
613579
You just have to prove it.  Perhaps you have slighted his trust in the past, and he is having a tough time trusting you now.  Anyway, perhaps when you are a tad older the trust will come back.\n\nGood luck.
1035829
you can ask, but you either trust someone or you don't.  if you don't trust him, you shouldn't be with him.  and if you do trust him, you have to know in your heart he wouldn't do that even if there are signs that might point that way.
350968
..you probably dont think you can trust him because what has happened before..and i know exactly how you feel i havent been able to really trust a guy in over a year and im workin on it really hard and anytime i started to get somewhere with a guy all that i can think about is how much that other guy hurt me but i have to let go of the past and im tryin to figure out a way to do that too..but you are just goin to have to try your hardest to get over what has happen before..you might think you are completely over that but your probably not because you belive your boyfriend now..you just have to let your guard down with the chance of you gettin hurt again but sometimes its worth it/