she always like to make love with me for hours  but never wants to talk what can i do to  to have a better com
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Well it is usually the other way around but the advice is the same. You need to express the fact that although the sex is great you long for a more meaningful relationship. Try to avoid using "you" phrases, ie You never want to talk. Instead focus on what you feel "I would like to talk about (insert topic here)" If this doesn't work or she slips back into old habits of never talking you might be dealing with someone that just isn't into talking, a more physical person. If that is the case then you have to ask yourself if you are willing to put up with it or not. The other possibility and not to be mean is that she might not find you all that interesting. I doubt that is the case since you want to talk more but it could be that she just isn't into the same things you are and therefor doesn't have much to talk to you about.
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Movies do without question decieve one into thinking that good relationships are plentiful and easy to get.  They are possible--but never easy.  As for sex--it can not only be fun, it can be the thing that makes your relationship stronger.  Sounds like the two of you were just young, inexperienced kids.  Nothing wrong with that, but only having sex once every 4-6 months isn't going to grow bonds.  Those few that told you to go to a novelty shop and buy sex toys are insane!!  That will only freak her out and make her think that nasty, naughty or "sex for the sake of sex" is all you want.  She needs to FEEL and KNOW that she can trust you.  Now, I'm sure intellectually she does, and would say so were you to ask her.  But to subconsciously FEEL it is another thing.  That comes from a bond that grows from knowing someone as well as, or better than yourself, and having no insecurities about their motives, desires, dreams, etc.  It takes effort and patience, and is sometimes not easy.  But then, the best things in life never are.  (And THAT I learned from a movie--The Weather Man.)\n\nTake time to simply appreciate her beauty, spend hours careessing her, doting on her, telling her your thoughts and all WITHOUT any implication of eventually having coitus in that session.  Let her know by action that she is your, well, goddess, if you will.  Find those little freckles of hers divine, discover the little baby hairs on the back of her neck and treasure them--especially the way they look in the morning light.  Get dreamy and romantic, it NEVER hurts--it's actually quite fun and will only make her swoon.  Swooning is always good.  Think of new ways to flirt with her, to make her blush, to make her feel and know she is ULTIMATELY the most special thing to you.  Then slowly she will reciprocate.  Once she feels truly safe and loved and utterly admired for just being her, she will bloom like a flower.  But NEVER abuse this, never ignore this, never take this--her for granted.  If you take the time to appreciate all the little delights she has to offer with out the forboding of scary sex, then she will love you more and want to give more.  You will truly know what it's all about.  It's possible, but it takes effort and perserverance.  Much luck, and best wishes.
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Ask her ! You can love some one without Sex .She may love you ! Sex is too open now .She may explain if you ask .
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Try romancing her first.  Nice dinner at a nice restaurant, some wine, go home put on some music and slow dance while you sweet talk with her.  For really wild sex - add tequila.\nIf that doesn't work, I dunno... I guess you have my sympathy.
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Don't cut off your booty call.  Give her a call every other day or so to keep her online.  Peace.
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Maybe you should try dirty talking to her first so she can more or less catch on to what you like...talk to her the way you want to be talked too....
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Well, enjoy while it's fun but when it gets old let it go man. If your unsure of her feelings just ask or do something romantic to see how she reacts. If she gets weird then you are a sex toy, and if she's diggin it then you know you have something. \n\nGood Luck. LOL
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Giving her all your spare time is not what she really wants, what she really wants is you to spend some "QUALITY TIME " with her. Within that quality time she needs some intimacy...."NOT SEX " & she needs you to initiate things that you'all can do together...and most of all....when you're with her she needs your undivided attention.
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if you had good conversation the rest will come. If the eye contact doesn't come though and the relationship keeps progessing then when you have sex with her you should do her doggy style. That should take the pressure off.
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Sorry but you cant increase her sex drive.   What you can do is, encourage her to want you more often.   Heres a few suggestions.\n1) Set the mood.  Maybe cook her a meal, light some candles etc\n2) Give her a sensual massage (massage everything)\n3) Let her know how beautiful you think she is.\n4) Be sensitive to her needs, as well as your own. \n5) Surprize her.   May a picnic, a movie,etc.   Just something you know she will love, and you wouldnt normally do.\n\nI hope these help.   Good luck
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THERE CAN BE TWO REASONS FOR THIS. 1 EITHER YOU SUCKED IN BED, AND SHE IS BITCHING CAUSE SHE DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE SEX W/ YOU ANYMORE, BUT DOESN'T WANT TO COME OUT AND TELL YOU, OR 2 SHE REALLY LIKES YOU, AND IS AFRAID THAT YOU MAY GIVE THE GOODS AWAY TO SOMEONE ELSE, WHICH MAY CAUSE HER TO GET JEALOUS, AND BEHAVE THAT WAY.  TO FIND OUT IF IT'S #1, THE NEXT TIME YOU GUYS ARE ALONE, AND GETTING ALONG SLOWLY APPROACH HER, CARESS HER, STOKE HER HAIR, GIVE HER A KISS ON THE FOREHEAD, THEN ON THE TIP OF HER NOSE, THEN HER MOUTH, THEN MAKE YOUR FINAL MOVE!!  IF SHE PULLS AWAY FROM ALL THAT SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOUR MOVES IN BED.  WHAT WOMAN WOULD TURN AWAY FROM THAT???  I KNOW THAT GETS ME IN THE MOOD FOR SURE.  GOOD LUCK
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Communicate and then communicate more.  Different people have different ways of feeling secure and loved.  Which does she respond to best?  Gifts?  Doing a favor for her without being asked? Words of assurance and acceptance? \n\nHer way of having her "love tank" filled may be different than yours.  Find out what kind of fuel she needs and I suspect your sex life will improve too.
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WELL, IN MY OPINION YOU SHOULD GET HER TO KNOW YOU BETTER AND LET HER KNOW THAT YOUR INTENTIONS ARE NOT ONLY TO HAVE SEX WITH HER BUT TO HAVE A NICE RELATIONSHIP WITH HER. BE NICE AND DON'T BE SO DESPERATE ON GETTING HER TO SLEEP WITH  YOU THE FIRST DAY/MONTH, 2MONTHS, ETC. SHE'LL BE WITH YOU WHEN SHE TRUST YOU.
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I will tell you what i usually do,may be it will help. Get time and meet her,find something to talk about,but dont tell her thet you are into her. spend some time chatting and trust me,if you are critical and observant,im sure u will find something about her that u dont like or irritates you,by the time you are through with that,your obssession will reduce slowly by slowly. That works for me,why not you! otherwise,goodluck.
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work your way up to it. See how far she is willing to go without having sex. Or you can use the super dooper easy method and just ask!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Well what age are we talking here? \nIf you two are too young then I totally agree with her - but if not then perhaps you must decide what is most important to you. Do you love her enough to stay by her side despite the absences of sex, or do you weigh heavily on sex in a relationship. Now, I am assuming this is what you are talking about, (the sex I mean) because if she does not let you touch her at all - then you definitely need to talk/help her or probably best to leave. She must have some serious personal issues.
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depends on her age, the older we get, you know, try being romatic dont say hey u want to bang....and start taking off ur clothes.. why not have wine candles and be sweet give her a back rub w/ scented oil and maybe have a small gift for her that may help