How can you tell if a guy is only nice to you because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings?
345087
Men are not always the most communicative of species and even the hottest most out there ones (with their mates) can be shy or have difficulty taking about this kind of stuff...\n\nIn general though men vote with their feet.. if he's with you thats where he wants to be...
149849
not sure. maybe he has an interest in you but because of his conflicting feelings with the other person he probably doesnt want to hurt you until he gets things straightened out.
3634
ya,\n\nthey are everywhere you just have to know where to look.  If a guy acts like a dick to other people then most likely he is going to start acting a dick to you sometime or another.  Just find someone that treats people equal and is overall out going and nice to others.\n\nalso, if you don't show him that you want to be treated well then most likely he won't.  Give him what he gives you.\n\ntrust me there are nice guys, I'm one of them.\n\nEdit:  like the guy above me...avoid people like him.
82868
Men for the most part are telling you the truth about how they feel about you.  What you have to distinguish as a woman is...if he is just trying to get in your pants.  If you have feelings for him trust your gut.  I'm sure he is being completely honest.  Don't forget, men like to hear how you feel about them too!
595290
ask him. but be prepared to hear that the doesn't have any special feelings for you. (Just in case, you know...)
1157981
Don't Know, ask the guy himself. only him can really give the main reason for not showing his emotion. maybe his afraid you might break his heart or you might take him for a ride if he shows you how he really feels about you. he just scare, doesn't wanna get hurt
476200
i understand where you're coming from because i am sort of going through the same thing. he gives signs that he may feel the same way i do but i want to know for sure. i'm afraid to ask him because if he does'nt feel the same way things may get ackward between us and i dont want that. i think that you should give little signs that you like him so that way if he likes you and realizes you feel the same way you can take things to the next level.
311206
There's no sure indicator. Guys are all different. But if all of a sudden he acts different around you, then he's got a reason. Best way to find out would be to ask one of his friends.
819328
Well firstly you must act as soon as possible cuz his feelings will grow deeper everyday and the more he tries to smutther you the more you will resist him and believe me baby the last thing you want, is to shock this guy with a sudden timeout or slowdown call cuz then he'll begin to feel rejected and hurt he then might start to think that there is another guy as most of us men do. if he is a fairly intelligent guy then u could start to express your feelings in your behaviour patterns such as shortening phone calls and mildly shying away when he touches u and he will then ask whats wrong and tell him there and then but in a manner that he understands and also state clearly your position in this relationship try not to be too vague and at the same time show some care or emotion in your words atleast this registers some amount of selfworth in his mind that u still care but not as much as he thought. as long as that is cleared up u will find it is eaiser to make a decision whether to stay in the relationship or ends it on good terms
403352
Trust me... he'll appreciate knowing.  He probably doesn't want to feel embarassed or waste his time if you're not going to give in.\n\nJust be nice...  Tell him you're not interested.
162269
Guys won't talk about their feelings until they feel they can trust you.  If you ask them outright, they'll avoid it because it's being forced out, or they feel threatened.\n\nYou have to understand that men act the way they do, not because they're jerks, it's that they are different from us.\n\nMen normally SHOW, I repeat, SHOW their feelings, they don't talk about them.  Most guys don't really understand how they feel.  Asking a girl out is the hardest thing for them, because it's showing that they like you.  If you don't accept, they've left themselves open to attack.  I know it's stupid but that's the way they think.\n\nIf you want a guy to ask you out, drop hints about it, like "I don't really know what I want to do on Saturday".  Or "what are you up to this weekend?"  Stuff like that.  When you want a guy to talk about his feelings, don't outright ask him, because he really needs to think about it for a while before talking about it.  Start talking about how you enjoy doing things, and how much fun it is.  He'll start to respond.  Never ask a guy about what he's thinking about, because most of the time, he's not really thinking about anything.\n\nThe real way you can tell if a guy loves you?  See how hard he tries to do things for you.  See how hard he tries to make things good for you.  If you want him to like you even more, thank him for doing these things.  Tell him something flattering about what he did.  He'll brush it off saying it was nothing, or something like that, but he's trying to minimize it, and avoid being embarrased.  Inside you just made him feel really important and special.
185570
Usually you can tell by the way a guy treats you. If you talks to you alot and flirts with you, and you do alot together then I am sure he likes you. Just ask him to get together and hang out and do something you both like to do.Then if he agrees it can be a safe bet that he likes you.
290021
how do know.\nwhen that person always talks about you to his friends. and they tell you.\nWhen he would do anything to make you happy\nWhen he knows you have problems but he looks around that and love you anyways.\nWhen he picks you over guys night out.\nWhen he calls you just to say hi or Good night\nWHen he want you to know his family and meet his friends so you can all hanigout\nWhen he used his lunch money to by you flowers\nWhen he rather be with you and not other girl
581665
If he likes you in a boyfriend kind of way let him know that you appreciate the fact that he is so nice to you but you just want to be friends so he doesn't get his hopes up.  We shouldn't hurt nice guys feelings b/c they ARE nice and deserve to be treated nice (and honest).
694472
why don't you ask him about it? ask him if he's okay, then ask if you've done anything wrong.  it doesn't mean that you have, done anything wrong that it, it's just a way to get him to open up.  you can even ask if he has a probm with agressive girls or if he minds if a girl made the first move. once you know where you stand with him, then don't be afraid to make the first move.  guys are sometimes intimidated by girls, to sometimes you have to make the first move.  when you're comfortablem give im a warm hug and a light kiss.  it's okay for a guy to by shy and the girl to be a little agressive.  and by agressive, i'm not telling you to throw yourself at him is simply mean to initiate the first move.  only you can know how far you want to go.  lots of luck
881832
There are many ways, when he shows you as well as tells you. When he does things that may make him look sappy, or cheesy, or just plain crazy. He will stick by you no matter what and it will be unconditional. He will try to better himself for you and grow closer to you. He will be honest about his feelings to you. He may even write love poems and/or sappy love songs for you, even if they suck. There are many things and many ways a guy will try to show you his love is true.\n-NmD!
1058097
OK girl well for me a nice guy is---\n\n*simple\n*friendly\n*understanding\n*loving\n*not on the mood of jealous\n*he is always on time ( i mean if he will say he will be at that time he is there)\n*carring\n* always a smile\n* most of all GOD FEAR\n\n\nwell even if I'm married if i giving me a chance to choose or change my husband that personalities i want to a man...  :-)