why does my boyfriend, when his friends are around, always slap my butt when i walk by?
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Boyfriend's hand on girl's backside?\nIs your boyfriend German, Austrian or from such a family? Customs are different in different countries. In Bavaria (Southern Germany), waitresses are traditionally treated that way as a praise. They may feel old if they miss out on it.\n\nWe know that Maximilian Schell, an actor from Austria, had problems in the US and was sued for sexual misconduct. I guess that he had just treated girls like he had in Austria with no complaint.\n\nYour boyfriend may want to show his friends that he is very close to you. However, if you do not like it, you should have a private talk with him (not before his friends). Not blaming him, but stating, "When you do this I feel like ... Please do not do it any more. It would make me feel so much better." Something like this. If he really loves you, he will understand and stop doing it.\n\nBe treated as you like to be treated.\nCordially, India.Magica
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boyfriends come and go, you said one u had a past w/ was one of your friends now, he didnt act like that. this ones not a keeper, your real friends see what we can or dont want to see, they are right, he is controling you , becaus eof him he pushes your choices, the ones that know whats right for YOU are the ones who will beat you up because the sme reasons. beware.. also i have found men who think like that are like that, why would he think that way if he wasnt, im 42 and a hair stylist, i have lived and hear "lifes lessons"
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unless they're an asshole, a person naturally wants what they no longer have. and moreso than that, he probably just doesn't like seeing you with other people because you were at one point his. girls do it, too. i wouldn't read too much into it, and if you'd like to know ask him what the deal is. say that if he still cares, he should try being nice, and if he doesn't care, to butt the hell out.
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Because when he did it the first time, you took his crap and now he feels he can  and will do it whenever he pleases.\nI know from experience, the yelling starts and then the hitting will follow.  Granted it might take sometime, but you have allowed him to treat you how ever and so he feels no matter what he does you will take his crap.\nI suggest to you, get out of the relationship and find someone who will respect you as a human being and not treat you like a dog.  I bet if he has a dog it gets treated better than you?\nHe is a man on a power trip and it is time for the ride to end.  That is just my opinion, but I have walked many miles in your shoes.  I stuck it out for 7 yrs, hardest yrs of my life.\nHe has been through many relationship and married again.  Still continues to yell and  hit on women.  Even was in a motorcycle accident and he still does it with one arm.  So some guys will never change,
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If he really wants to be your boyfriend then he should be the one making his friends back off.  By doing that he would show that he cares and respects you.  By letting his friends get away with presuring you he is putting them before you.  Stick to your guns and don't do anything you don't want to, and if he won't do something about it then he isn't worthy of you.
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It sounds like your boyfriend is self conscience of your relationship and he is he sure of himself.  Have you made attempts to reassure him that he is the only one and that when you go out you are just having fun with your female friends.  \n\nI think many times we as women forget that men can also suffer from low self esteem and can be just as self conscience about relationships as women.
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Yes--I would be upset because it messes with your self-esteem, But.. Hes a Guy! Guys do that ! NO matter how much you dont want to believe it, they look, when they are with you or without you.. THey peek.. They Glance.. It happens!Its not about disrespecting you.. GIrls peek too, I mean.. we dont really look for butts, but we look for cute faces, and it doesn't hurt to sneak a peek. It doesnt mean you WAnt that person, and It doesnt mean your boyfriend wants to be with her, hes just looking. If he loves you, then he loves you and no one can take your place. So, yes, Its understandable to be upset, but.. dont argue with him about it.. Unless Hes Gawking, Staring, Drool slipping out.. Lol.
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hey ya umm well ur boyfriend wants to take things slower than maybe u do my b--freind is like that to me it drives me nuts
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Remember, you are the company you keep.  Who your boyfriend chooses as his friends says something very important about who he is and what he values. If his friends are rude and abusive to you, that does not bode well for the character of your boyfriend.  At the very least, you should talk to your boyfriend about what they have said to you and give him a chance to explain and make his friends change their behavior to you.  Good luck.
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lol holding the butt before the hand huh?\nyour bf is something different...\ni dont know if its a good thing, but keep him for a while longer, he could be fun.
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Sounds like he's testing the ground. He wants to be close to you but he's making sure he doesn't tread where you don't want him to be. In otherwords, he doesn't want you to feel pressured. I think he likes you, and has great respect for you, especially if he's giving you an out like that. Perhaps you should ask him why he keeps saying that, and see what he says. Your gut should tell you if you can take it at face value.
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Your partner's bahabiour is quite controlling and dominating,so it appears on the surface.Displaying affection is a good thing,but overly showing ur neediness to be with him all the time,without giving him breathing space sounds troublesome.Maybe ur behaviour is childish,SMSing calling just to say a hi, and hello every now n then.Maybe this is acting as a repellent.Grow up.The more u run after him,the more he would want to cut contacts with u.Men like to win their love through a hard way.Anything easily falling in their hands is not seen as a compliment.Further,do u want to be treated the way he does to u now?Has he declared his love for u verbally?U sure this isnt freindship?Also,his giving u lesser attention is drawing u to him closer.Are u sure u love him?
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You are falling right into his little game. This is a common tactic for some guys, its the old treat them like sh** and watch them come back for more. If you lack the self respect to stop seeing him then he will continue to disrespect you. It is that simple. Watch out he might start playing nice all of the sudden and then thats when hes gonna try to get into your pants.
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hey u guyz r in a relstionship nd u have gotts face dis evryone does...i did too...dey may b pure jealous...or d mayb ur really good frend who wanna warn u ...so if it like ur best frend or somethin...just tok to him/her abt it nd ask dem why dey r actin dat way...butif not...man just be happy in ur relationship nd dont bodr abt oder plp...dey kome abt later so dont worrrry be happy....
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You need to get a grip on yourself. This kind of behavior is what drives people away. Trust is key in a relationship. If you do not trust him and he has given you no reason to doubt him, then you need to let it go.
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I could write on book on this, but I'll try to keep it short.  First, try to follow his request and let him make the first move.  If he doesn't make a move in a week then I'd say there's something wrong with the relationship.  My first guess is that moving in together has caused some problems. By moving in together, he may have learned some things about you that he doesn't like.  It could be that you're messy or your just getting way too much into his business he now misses the privacy he once enjoyed.  You should ask him if there's anything that you do that gets on his nerves and watch his reaction.  If he needs his privacy back, then let him hang out with the boys once a week and don't set a curfew because that will just piss him off even more.  If he wants to stay out late then just tell him to sleep on the sofa.  Good luck...
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no not normal. Very inconsiderate towards you. try talking to him later and calmly ask him to look at it from your pov