i feel bored and tired after marry, anyone got idea to light up our marriage?
343158
Try a threesome with two other women and make your man watch,
1031269
I just celebrated my 1st anniversary and the first weeks after the wedding were anticlimactic and I too was unhappy.  The reason:  The wedding and preparations were over.   And I thought "is this it?"  Reality set in with a quickness.\n\nAs time has progressed and problems have occurred, I think back to why I married this man and everything gets better.  Through this year I have threatened to leave he has threatened to leave, we have discussed counseling but we have done none of the above.  \n\nNow we have settled into a routine where we once again love and respect each other and we look forward to the years to come.\n\nYes we lost that spark but there was still an ember and we have fanned it into a blazing flame.\n\nGood luck
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Don't see those as signs of doom, I think they're signs that God is testing you early on to see if you both have what it takes to make it. Things can always get better, don't ever think things could get worse, or they will!!\n\nIt sounds like the wedding started the whole issue here. I suggest planning a vow renewal on next anniversary, put your wedding dress back on, do it all over again, but this time, BE THOROUGH!!! I didn't have enough food at my wedding either, hubby and I didn't get ANYTHING to eat except wedding cake, which had to be repaired before the wedding since it slid in the back of delivery van and crushed one whole side of it. Plus, 3 of the 4 air conditioners went out in the hall, in July, and I was wearing a long sleeved silk wedding dress that weighed 48 lbs. Plus, I was 5 months pregnant!We didn't let that ruin our day, we even stayed and cleaned up! \n\nYour marriage is what you and your hubby make of it. So what if it started badly? Thats not a sign of doom!! If you love each other, then thats all you need.....If you want to, take my suggestion of a vow renewal, wear your dress, and have a small quiet dinner for close family and friends this time. Do a BBQ or something..........I bet things look up after that for sure...GL;)
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Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily routine we forget how we got there in the first place.  There are ways to rekindle the passion: go out on a date (just the two of you) once in a while, make a "just us" evening once a week like sitting and listening to music together.\nMy partner and I usually designate Friday evenings for "us" time, we sit and watch a movie together (no matter how silly the movie is).
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You might want to sit down with your mate and calmly explain all of your feelings to him. No one on here knows from the paragraph you typed what you do in the bedroom. When you say spice it up do you mean install a chandelier in the bedroom and swing from it while he tickles your ASP with a feather and barks like a howler monkey or what? I honestly think though that your problem is communication but if you want to cheat especially since you have a child you better think long and hard if those 6 seconds of toe curling ecstasy with someone else are worth the consequences if you get caught.\nGood Luck!!
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Get into a younger mentality! Have fun. Get together with some of your friends for a girls night out and laugh it up! If you lived around me, I'd go have coffee with you or watch a funny movie. I'm a fun person and tend to get everyone having a good time. Heck, just getting out of the darn house makes me happy! Lol!!!! Good luck hon! I hope you feel better soon! :)\n\nI edited to ask....are you married or have a stupid cranky man dragging you down?
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My marriage for sure - seems there's never enough time to spend time together.  \n\nI also feel like I neglect my kids, while I'm doing housework.  But, I guess they COULD help me so that I get done faster & then we'd have more together time.  I don't feel guilty when I say "Hey, lets go to the show, or out to eat" and neglect housework/other things for the evening.  That stuff can usually wait!!
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5years after marriage after having nice fun
48340
Get off the computer and spend some time with your husband!
926906
Oh dear, maybe you are putting too much emphasis on your marriage. It seems that the new car smell has worn off. It sounds like you still love your husband, but you feel as though something is missing. It is, your life. Whatare you doing with yourself to decompress? Your mate and your child shouldn't be the only focus in life. Get a hobby. I mean that in the most genuine and caring way. Find a healthy form of exercising those mental muscles that will also boost your self esteem. And for goodness sake, do not get involved with another man, any kind of way. You have to realize that you are going thru a new chapter in your life, it is growing pains that you are having, just like when you were an adolescent. Keep the activity simple but very rewarding.Your blues will pass, but keep your personal activity.
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she sounds bored.  try something new.  remember what it was like when you first met?  those feelings are still there, you just have to find them....be THAT GUY again for her...flowers on the pillow, candles, some alcohol, a motel room, you remember those days??  i have been married for 10 years and it is just as spicy now as it was then...just be THAT GUY again for her.
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Why don't you two try and rekindle the passion by going out one night. Get all dressed up, looking hot....GGo out dancing, see what happens...Maybe its not boredom at all, maybe its something else. Talk to him too!
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cause we get bored by our hubbies
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movies, have an allnight hangout with your friends, at free time try to talk to your spouse on the phone, read a book, go to a gym, volunteer somewhere, etc etc etc
622889
marriage counsellor?\naccept that your marriage is over?\ndo somethinga about making your lover happy - get romantic working again?
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It is Monday afternoon for me and I am even MORE BORED.  However, I have tomorrow off work and my parents are returning from a month in America so I will see them for a couple of hours tomorrow.  If I were you I would go out and do something you don't usually do with your wife (and I don't mean anything rude).  Could you go and see a film she wouldn't enjoy?  Go shopping or see friends?  Do something around the house?  I'm sure, if you put your mind to it, there are lots of things you can find to occupy your time.  Get the house ready for her return - cook something nice, have a bath ready for her when she returns.  Have a bottle of wine chilling...
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Show your man how much you love him, write him weekly  to get rid of the "miss you's" they so look forward to getting mail of any kind: remember he is bored and lonely too so don't slack when it comes to this. You Can get through this, nothing is permanent, he will make it back to your doorstep, you will get married, and it wil become a thing of the past. Take good care of yourself get a kick *** fitness routine going, this relieves stress and just makes you feel and not to mention look good(you'll sleep better too!) This is your story so make sure you know how you want it to read...........I wish you the best.