My husband cheated on me and he said he was drunk and didnt know what he was doing. Can that really happen?
354437
He knew what he was doing, and he will do it again.
791990
If he hasn't given you any indication that he's cheating on you then I would worried that he was sick is hurt. Don't let your pride or stubbornness stop you from doing what is right.
521054
Anything you "do" is going to force her to defend him.  I know how frightening the situation is.  It could build in to full blown abuse. If this is what he does when drunk it will only get worse.  Sounds like you have already been through plenty with this relationship. It is so hard to stand by while our kids make big mistakes.  Been there done that! Just be there for emotional support, she will need you.
716815
So he illegally drinks and drives, possibly putting my children's lives in danger AND he's a liar? He has a lot more problems than how he's going to get out of a DUI class that he has to go to because of a bad decision tht he made. Hopefully he will make a better on next time.\nSorry I didn't give you any advice on what lie to tell but I don't feel sorry one bit for people who drive drunk.
1024572
Babe, \n\ni must say as a woman myself i am surprised you took her back. If i ever cheated on my boyfriend i would expect him 2 finish with me. \n\nIf she cheated on you once there is a reason for it and alcohol's  not an excuse. And do you honestly think her mates would not lie for her?? come on you have pals you know how it works. They always say when someone cheats once they will most definitely do it again.\n\nMake a break, stop driving yourself mad the trust is obviously gone.
528629
Hi, without a doubt in my mind, if I ever found out my man was cheating I would dump him, no questions asked.\nSome of you may say "he/she made a mistake.Yes, it is a mistake, and sadly some people repeat them over and over again.\nI would never be able to trust my boyfriend again. Women are emotional and are imaginations are highly active. I would not trust my boyfriend again. I would always have a vision in my mind of my boyfriend bedazzling another woman.\n I also would have a low opinion of myself. I would feel like I am not pretty, or sexy enough for my boyfriend (even though his actions were not my fault). I would also feel like he didn't love me. Because sorry, but if you truly love someone, you don't cheat, bottom line. I don't care if you are drunk, or your having a bad day..Its something you don't do to someone you love.\n  I would be so devestated if I found that out about my boyfriend. Also, when partners do cheat, they put YOU at risk. At risk for a disease....And believe me, several cheaters out there have given their girls and wifes, husband and boyfriends diseases. So my opinion, you would not want to put your love at risk.\n  Cheating is a disease for some people. They have to do it to make themselves feel high. Guys and Gals alike, don't fool yourself into thinking you are different or that these people can change. And to those of you who are going out with married or attached people, you are just as bad. You are an enabler. Some people cannot seem to stop cheating.\n  To you who have written this question, Good one. And I hope to a higher power out there that you have not been cheated on.
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Just wait for him to call you, if he doesnt call you within the next three days then he doesnt remember any of it. Then when you go out, tell him you want to go to dinner, then make not of his behavior, is he drinking a lot? Excessive? Is he just a natural slurrer? He was probably nervous about meeting you and probably kept drinking.  \n     I say give him a shot if/when he calls, there is no harm in that. Enjoy, you might have found a great guy that will make you laugh. If he doesnt call then just write it off to the fact that he was drunk.
842201
if he is there again, call him on it AS SOON as he gets there..something like...I hope you don't plan on getting drunk and acting like an ass again.  If he DOES, leave.  Plan and simple..remove YOURSELF from the situation..the only person you can control is you.  Maybe your friend will see what a hindrance he is then.  Good Luck!
702876
noooo hun you're ok... you'd know if you were ruffied which i'm assuming thats what you're thinking.. you just drank to much.. eventually, you will start to remmeber bits and pieces of the night it may take a while but you will.. and no you will not lose the ones you love.. honestly if your that concerned you dont have to tell them anything.. what they dont know wont hurt them.. if you need to tell someone then tell someone you dont know.. but honestly, i think you're gonna be ok.. i dont think anyone put anything in your drink, i think you just dont remember most of the night. it happens to everybody.
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You can never know with an Alcholic.  He may mean them and he may not.  BUT 9 times out of 10 he does not mean it.  It's the Alchol taking over for him.  You may want to try and get him some help.  Even it if it does mean he will really hate you.  Cause Alcholic's can end up being abusive and I would hate to see you get hurt.  Get him help now! \nGood Luck, and Be Safe
645595
At some point you're going to have to face what you did, I mean were there other people who saw who could tell your man, or do you think this person you kissed will take it personally. I understand what happened, we all have done some stupid stuff drunk. I would talk to the guy you kissed, no matter how uncomfortable it maybe, the last thing you need is this guy thinking it meant something and harassing you, you need to draw the line and say it was a mistake (who knows maybe he thinks it was a mistake too). As for your man, it's up to you whether you tell him, although IF there is even the SLIGHTEST possibility he will find out from other means then YOU need to be the one to tell him if you hope to stay with him, he will think more of your honesty if you come out with it than he will your dishonesty if he finds out through someone else. ALTHOUGH IF there is NO possibility he will find out I would say keep it to yourself, there's no need to drag your guilt out and punish him, believe me I know my boyfriend told me about some girl he had sex with then afterward he said, I feel SO much better for getting that off my chest, yeah well then I felt horrible and I wasn't the one who had done anything wrong!
982243
I don't think this is the whole story. You lost me at the part when you had this huge fight. What triggered it? If you can't identify that, you are asking for trouble. Also the guy drinks, which brings up another problem you're better without. Sorry, but this whole thing sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Good luck.
779022
Well, if he already cheated on you once, there is a possible that he could be doing it once again. But you never know, sometimes that is not the case. Well, also, it's ok for you to have lost the trust that you had in him because of what he did. I think that you can either wait and see if more things are weird or you can talk to him and tell him how you feel. Communication and honesty is the best thing in a relationship and maybe that will work. About being concerned, I think you should be if he is trying to go on with that plot. (Which I really doubt). I think that you need to keep calm unless you see more wrong things but still be cautious.
645675
You just got played! No one made him do anything he didn't want to do. He cheated on you. Period. Can you live with that? Your answer to that question should tell you what to do.
1165746
I don't think so, I trust my husband and he trust me but why put yourself in the situation where something can happen.\n\nWe all know that when your out drinking sometimes you can get carried away, don't let the stress of parting separately ruin your relationship
524214
That's really bad, but maybe he learned his lesson.  Maybe you should give him one more chance.  Make sure he knows that you will leave him if it happens again.
199802
Was your husband serious? Either way, this is a major issue. If it was a joke it was in serious bad taste and you need to tell him that. If he was serious, you need to tell him that you're not chattle! If it was a test, tell him to go to hell! If you want to save this marriage, I recomend counceling and getting to the bottom of this. If not, say good bye.