i just broke up someone. how do i deal with it?
348567
Alcohol, in copious quantities...
1130166
I usually like to put the blame on myself, it makes the break up go a little easier. Just be honest though but not blunt. If you listen to your heart it will tell you what you need to do. Good luck!!
925741
I'm sorry to hear you're in such pain.  Unfortunately, hurting comes with the territory; it will lessen over time.\n\nYou can do things to help yourself, though it might be hard:\n\n1.  You broke up for a reason, don't forget that.\n\n2.  He is now involved with someone else, and you may be crushed that he moved on so quickly.  Don't be; give yourself time...his moving on is no reflection on you.\n\n3.  Be honest with yourself about your real motivation for keeping in contact with him.  You've tried to talk to him...he does not want to talk to you.  Accept it and stop torturing yourself, your attempts to speak with you aren't getting you anywhere.\n\n4.  You may think it's wrong for him to respond the way he is, but look at it from his perspective:  You broke up; he's involved with someone else and you keep calling him.  You can let go, and it's annoying to him.  What reason would he have to talk to you other than to tell you to leave him alone?  What if the situation were reversed?\n\nNo, it isn't easy.  Having been there, I promise you you'll get over him in time.  You'll look back on this and wonder what all the hoopla was all about. In the meantime, stop calling him; it's not healthy and you're only hurting yourself.  It's not going to bring him back to you.\n\nTake care...
471204
Let me tell you something.  After you break up, it hurts.  Give yourself time and move on.  Someone is out there that is better than that girl.  You may not be able to say that now, but you will.\n\nI met my ex-gf after I met a girl I was very happy with.  I ask how she was doing and she just said ok.  I said I was happy and I met a girl who really likes me and I like being with.  After that, she asked if I wanted to get together and do something.  I just said I was going out with my new girl and maybe some other time.
223399
Do it at your own pace, there's no time limit on how long it will take, but one day you will suddenly realise that you hadn't thought about him/her at all. Splitting up can cause all sorts of stress - maybe you've had to move, change job, or have children together, or perhaps it was a nasty split or there was another person involved. Apparently, it can take half the length of the relationship to get over it - so in your case, you could allow a couple of years. Although I thought I was over my ex, who I was with for 5 years, it was definately a couple of years later that I realised he wasn't in the back of my mind any more. Good friends, time, and trying to be determined that it is not going to get you down will help. Perhaps there's an up-side to being single - you can try new things that you would't have done with your ex. If the situation is making you feel depressed or ill, you could try talking to a counsellor. Good luck.
633750
You will get over it.It takes time.Try to do something to help yourself get on with life.You will never love the same way again.Each time will be different.But you will find another wonderful person to fill that void.If you two broke up I am sure that you can find someone who will be the girl friend of your dreams.It all takes time.
126663
Letting go is hard. You need to let yourself heal before you date again because you're on the rebound. The girl that worries sounds like a sweetheart but you need to be honest with her and tell her that you're just not as ready as you thought you were for another relationship. As for getting over this girl, acceptance is the key and the first step toward recovery. I've been there, I know. You have to allow yourself to go through the grief stages, and yes, it's like grieving over a death because it is a death in a way. You'll got through many emotions but it is a necessary path that you must take. This girl does not deserve you and if you have to get mad and hate her, do that if it works for you as long as it doesn't harm anyone. Avoid all contact with her because for now, it's keeping you tied to her. Heal first then perhaps you can be friends. If you feel you need counseling, than get it. There is no shame in it. Another thing you can do is to work out at the gym. It helped me a lot and when you see your body starting to change for the better, you begin to feel better about yourself and more confident. You will get over her, sweetheart but it will take time and effort on your part. God speed and good luck. =)
964660
What I would do,  -and what I think you should do-, is take it very slow with the new girl involved. Honestly, it probably wasn't the best idea for you to get involved with her, but I wouldn't say to completely break it off now - that isn't realistic, and it would just hurt her because she would get your feelings twisted. \nYou have baggage. You can't make genuine transitions from person to person while carrying baggage; it'll hinder you. You'll always carry what was left from the old relationship into the new one, so forth, and so forth, and it isn't fair to the present person involved that your own issues are unsolved. It isn't a problem that you still think of your ex; it's actually very normal. You've completed an important step by acknowledging that your last relationship couldn't work, so now just prove to yourself why you deserve to move on. \nEver heard the song 'Bag Lady' by Erykah Badu?......that one goes out to you, lol.... Good Luck and God Bless.
349701
it takes a long while to get over someone especially if that was your first.  take your time.  cry all you want.  let it all out.  some people might tell you to try and surround yourself with friends and family.  it might cheer you up, but i think it's okay to feel down for a while.  because no matter what you'd do, you might think about your ex like what did you do, what could you have done, or why your ex left you.   i really do not think it's better to suppress or cover up your feelings by having your mind occupied with something else.  but it's better if you get rid of anything that would remind you of your ex, and if you cut off all the communication means to your ex such as phone number, e-mail, and IM.  delete them all, so you wouldn't be able to talk to him at all.  also, i don't think that finding someone new too soon is such a good idea.  rebound is only rebound.  just think that it's not the end of the world although it feels like it right now.  just take your time and rest up.
817508
I really know what you mean, and it is so hard. \nRemember that this is all from within you, thus you can fix it yourself too. \nYour broken heart will be whole again in the near future. \nTo speed this up you can do a few thing, and believe me they have helped me.\nDon't see the person if you can manage it at all, in a book they say about 2 months. I had to see my ex every day, and even make small talk with him on occasion. At the time I wanted to see him but looking back it has just made the whole process agonisingly harder. \n\nDon't wallow in self pity, go out, see your friends, excercise this will really help and when you see him in passing in the future you'll look great, but overall do this for yourself, because you must love you.\n\nIt always depends on you personnally, but I reckon that if you don't see him for a good amount of time, you will realise you can get along just fine by yourself. If you do see him or hear about how he is doing, this will make things ten times harder, so don't. \n\nHe missed out on you not the other way around, and you never do no what is around the corner, \n\nYou know you will eventually forget and move on\nI hope you don't suffer too much\ngood luck
140070
Say no. You just got dumped. You don't need to get involved\nwith someone right now. Your wounds need time to heal. And\ndon't even think about dating one of his friend. That will\ncreate a major disaster. wait awhile before you start dating again. Your soul need time to be free of old hurts \nand wounds. Recover time is now.
526306
break it off and find someone new
83228
Try keeping urself busy, if u keeping thinking about the breakup you'll nevr heal, hangout with ur friends, find things that will keep ur mind off the breakup\n\nWho know maybe u'll find someone else. =-)
140113
my advice. Keep it broken off. dont just forget what happened and why you broke up...it happened for a reason. FInd someone else that you want to be with. Please dont get into the make up/break up cycle. It really sucks!!!
645918
Breaking up is hard to do.I say that if /when she comes back to you . Don't give yourself to her so easily or she will try to leave you hanging when she feels like doing her own thing. I would keep a journal when you feel like calling her or see her out and want to talk. Some feelings are wasted on people that don't appreciate them. It takes a long time to get over someone you really care about There really isn't any straight answers. Except you gotta watch out for more than your heart. Remember your self-respect, your pride, and your future. Don't let a bad romance delay you from doing the things that you are interested in. Go on a trip- even if it's a short one. Go to the closest city, get a hotel, see the sights, see a concert -take a buddy - get your mind clear. Don't ever let anyone that hurts you see you when you're vulnerable, even if there's a chance things will work out. She has to earn her way back in to see your true emotions. \nKeep your head up  Stay busy  It will get better no matter what the out come is.
1136
You just end it. It really doesn´t matter why, the point is: you don´t want it anymore and it´s enough. Break up with the person, cry and be sad the time you need and then, be happy again :-)
384423
You need to talk to him about it.  There's nothing worse than being with someone and then one day out of the blue your partner drops a bomb on you, saying they don't love you anymore and it's over.  If they had no idea something wasn't working because you never discussed it with them, it makes it 100 times harder for them to deal with the break-up and get over it/you.  It's not fair.  Do the mature, adult thing.