best way of starting broken relationship with your wife?
338805
"best way of starting broken relationship with your wife?"  \n\nJudging from the poorly structured sentence, I would say you need an education first.  You are obviously a moron.  Go to school; learn how to read and write; THEN you can think about having a intelligent conversation with someone.
973320
No infact it would be worst because you are doing it out of spite. You may get temporary satisfaction by hurting your wife, but if you still love her, the best thing to do is to give it time and try to work it out. You should read the article on my site titled "12 Ways To Build Trust In Your Relationship" you'll find that here...\n\nhttp://cheatingsigns.blogspot.com\nHope that helps. Because building back trust is indeed the next step. If not, your marriage is doomed.\n\nBest of Luck,\nDrew Bryant\nhttp://howtospotacheatin10days.com
696397
Oh, don't you just love being a woman!  As women, we tend to always want to mend anything, regardless of how much it's hurts us in the past.  My advice to "put the spark back into your marriage" would be to start doing absolutely NEW things together.  This way, you begin creating new memories that will hopefully be pleasing to you.  Then, these new memories can start to fade away the old negative ones and give you more of a sense of hope.  Also, if you believe in the Lord, pray about it.  Satan's best way to destroy you is to start in your home by separating the family.  He attempts to destroy that first, then begins working on you individually.
895097
The key to every realationship is to talk...talk....talk....talk. You can't fix your spouse, only yourself.  Look at the part you played in this misunderstanding, and then appologize.  Don't yell or call names.  Don't should on your spouse.  (you should have said this you should have said that)  \n\nblessings
931547
You have answered your own questions above.\n1. you no longer love your wife.\n2. you have been neglected.\n3. your marital relations leave you sleeping alone.\n4. you have started another relationship -although platonic for now, with someone else.\n5. all you need is some guts to tell her the truth and be done with it, why drag it out-not helping you or her.\nHer gambling is HER PROBLEM, not yours, remember that.\ngood luck.
918452
No! Explain your feelings to her, and leave it to her to decide! If she is angered, talk divorce. If she understands, why break a GREAT marriage?
634376
first and foremost you need to sit and talk to your wife. you need to be very honest not only with yourself, but with her. you need to tell her how you feel and be sure to be very considerate and aware of her feelings about your new found life. its not fair for you to continue to put her off or lie to her. honesty is always the best policy. i'm sure that if the two of you cant work things out it will be easier to part ways because you were not only honest with her, but with yourself. good luck!
179038
I am sort of in your situation, but in reverse.  I have started falling out of love with my husband.  I don't want to, and am trying very hard to prevent it.  I will tell you right now, I know why I feel the way I do, and have tried to tell him, but he just sees it as my nagging him.  When someone does something that hurts you, I believe that you should let them know so that he/she has the opportunity to recognize when it happens again, then stop it, or apologize if it does.  Well, the way it started with me: The failed attempts at communication and the fact that he acts like he doesn't have to lift a finger to keep this going...keep the flame alive so to speak.  I can tell you right now that the main reason why I am here is because I made a commitment to this man, but if I had not, I would have left him already.   Have you "listened" to your wife?  Does she feel loved?  Don't think that just because you come home to her every night she should feel priveliged.  Actually "make" her feel loved by doing the little things.  Open her doors (even as independent as some women are, this is still a sign of wanting to take care of her), write her a note, buy a card or flowers.  Take her out on "dates" even the movies is great.  Just hang out with her and talk about nothing, but have have fun.  She should be your best friend, the person you can joke and carry-on with...act dumb and laugh at and with each other.  Just let her know every day that you love her...genuinely.  Do not ever leave her or hang up the phone with a "byeloveyou".  Tell her "I love you and I will see you soon".  A lot of times the way you say something and the tone of voice say a lot.  If you are geniune, and let her know in your actions that you want to be there with her and be the one to take care of her, then she will do the same for you.  I may know what she is going through.  My husband says he loves me but more than not, I feel taken for granted and like an annoyance.  I can feel myself not wanting him anymore, and I can honestly say that I love him, but I am no longer in love with him. If you love your wife, give it everything you can with all of your heart.  Don't let her leave you (either physically or emotionally) thinking "I should have".
1029644
you never mentioned hurting your wife, be a man and tell the truth to both, get a divorce so your wife can have a better life that does not involve you.
908446
I think the answer depends on a lot of things.\n\nThe two biggies I see are did you have any children and what do you want?\n\nPersonally, if you have kids with her, it may be worth taking at least a wait and see approach.\n\nIf not, and you really don't want to continue, be honest and tell her that you accept her apology, that you wish her well, and that you are unable to see a scenario where you want to get back together with her.\n\nI wouldn't be mean, but I would be honest and say that the events between you killed what love you had left for her.  That you wish her well, but cannot be romantically involved with her.\n\nI would be polite, but candid about what you want.\n\nI think I would also be gracious, accept her apology and admit that you made mistakes too, perhaps enumerate those that you are aware of and apologize for what you believe you did wrong in your marriage and wish her all the best in her life from here on out.
1000221
You need to be honest to both women, You just got back with your wife, don't let her hear this from anyone but you. This is the fastest way to ruin trust. Be nice to the Friend, tell her you like her but only want to be friends. You can also tell her that you may be working things out with your wife. Don't let both women think you have been leading them on. you can loose your wife for good and that doesn't sound like what you want. Tell HER Now. Marriage is a blessing and your wife's feelings should come first. if the friends gets mad then so what. At least your wife knows you're not trying to play games with her.
491495
You can't.\n\nMy mother in-law was a leach to our marriage for 2 years after she left my father in-law and then it got worse when my wife was pregnant and we had our first son. I hold my mother in-law 50% responsible for destroying my marriage with her interference.
1048271
Firstly must say you seem like a very special man. Secondary I shall say that it is time that you concentrate on yourself a bit more (to be able to move forward)\n\nBe respectful, always reliable, helpful, be understanding, be her shoulder to cry on (life is funny.. but wheel turns). But at the same time give her space at this time as you don’t want to loose her.\n\nI had a friend who his wife left him for another man. They have two kids together. He was always there for her (but had other girlfriend but did not commit 100%: in fact I was one J ). If she was sick, or needed something, or pick their kids up: he was always there, kept nice contact with ex-in laws because of the kids.. She went back to him when she was in trouble. He let her. He let her leave him again for yet another man (even married) He was her friend, warned her about the guy who ended up to be an abuser. She left this guy in the end, she matured, and they now together (but he did not remarry), He is now 48, his wife 8 year younger. He married he as she was only 19.\n\n*******************************\nJust remember:\n*******************************\n\nForming a relationship with your ex is entirely separate from the process of ending a marriage; if you work through the process to achieve your "emotional divorce," you can cultivate something entirely new. Your old relationship is over; take the steps to heal so that you can invest your energy elsewhere.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps meant to say: and you get a new hobby and have fun with other people as soon you will feel better and might make new friends and will not feel lonely. The reason why we LOVe or MISS people is beuase we miss that comunication. Once you communicate with others it will be better for you. And who knows, maybe your ex -wife seeing how popular and outgoing you are might ant to herself be your friend asap.........  show her your new side that she did not see before :-)
11555
Honesty is the best policy. Tell your spouse how you are feeling and what has been going through your mind. Then go in together and get some good marital counseling. Oh, and getting rid of the computer until the health of your marriage recovers is indeed a good idea.
110407
dude, my wife is going through some sort of depression/trauma crap and it's eating me up.  I just want to fix it for her so she won't hurt anymore, you know what I mean?  God, I love her so much that every time she cries if feels like someone is crushing me and I don't know what to do about it.\n\nor, at least that's how it effects me.
58875
If your wife is not here your right, you've won, your the master.\nIt's when she returns that your wrong again and in trouble and your now the slave. So get that smile off your face and realize your a man and your never right when it comes to argueing with a wife.\nSo enjoy it while she's gone. She'll be back.
919128
I'd try a trial separation.  it would be difficult for you but look at the benefits:\n\n1.  Your wife has time to recooperate (sp?) and get her feelings in order\n\n2.  They say time makes the heart grow fonder.  Without her, you'll realize what you have.  Maybe then you can reflect on your past actions and see how being alone feels, only you may be in a motel and not in a jail cell.\n\n3.  Your wife will see the effort you're making to better yourself and hopefully give you another chance (as well as saving your reputation, if things don't work out and you're on your own again)\n\n4.  You can use the time alone to read books and get self-help in the meantime.  You'll have lots of pillows to punch if you still need to get anger out (just watch the hotel walls, heh heh).\n\n5.  Since marriage was the cause of stress, maybe now you can dedicate time to things you used to do that made you happy before you got married but that you couldn't do once you did get married. You don't have to be home by a certain time, so you an go bowling, start going to the gym (also a great stress reliever), hang out with some buddies you haven't seen, just start taking care of yourself mentally and physically for once.  Sure you won't have your wife to come home to, so this may go back to missing her more.  You have to find a balance.  \n\n6.  Remember the first time you looked into each others eyes, or the nervousness either of you had on your first date?  Howabout that first kiss?  Firsts are sometimes awkward or sometimes full of great memories.  I'd sure miss my girlfriend more if I imagined her being happy with someone else.  I had one ex girlfriend where there were times this was for the better as I realized I took the relationship for granted and complained too much , but if I had appreciated it more, maybe be comfortable with the relationship without going into a routine, then her and i might still be back together.  Right now I'm living with the folks at 33 years old, without a car and a job, and my current girlfriend of 1 years still looks at me like I'm hot.  Probably because I still take the time to talk to her and tell her how much I appreciate her understanding and friendship, that she knows I'm doing my best to find a job.\n\nWhatever you do I hope you make the right decision, and I hope you and your family have a safe and filling Thanksgiving.