Is it crazy to want to find someone from 20yrs in your past whom you loved?
345329
try and find out where he is don't do anything just talk to each other I'm in the same boat with you, if God want you to meet him again you will and if don't just know one time in this life there was someone special in your life. GOOD LUCK YOU'LL FIND HIM BELIEVE IT.
329367
When I was 20 I dated a guy who was 26... it was fine for awhile but it didn't last.  I say if you feel like you're on the same level maturity wise and he treats you right, go ahead!
969077
At only 40 years of age, you shouldnt be thinking only of a part-time companion, but a long term partner. You might have 40 - 50 years left in the tank(hopefully) so why not look for a soul mate, not just a friend.
384813
If it has been that long then you can feel free to date again. The only thing is I would not let my children met anyone until I was sure he was the right one. You are a free woman to do as you please/////////////////
412297
Wow, I wish you the best of luck. The first love will always last in your mind forever. It's not your fault, you were too young to know any better then. Do you know anyone that knows him so you can ask them questions? An old email? Phone #? something... If not I hope the links below will help you (there may be a fee). But maybe he is married now. If it was meant to be then it would certainly have happened. Maybe you should let him go. The memories will remain but it's not time to move on dear.
25145
It might not necessarily be love, but he may have just carved a special place in your heart. I'm married, yet I'll still think about old boyfriends from 10 years old. Not because I don't love my husband, but because - at the time - they were special to me and left an imprint in my life.
1169672
No never... You will be searching all your life for all these qualities for said things to be there in one oerson. Better love a person who has any of these qualities and understand & adjust with him.
1074549
No you aren't, forever is one very long time. It's true that you may have lost your soul mate, but that doesn't mean, you won't find another.\nOne big problem, that you have, to my way of thinking is, that every guy you date now, is being measured against your old soul mate.\nThat's not fair to the guys you date. They are different in many ways from him. They cant possibly be expected to compete against a Ghost. \nIn your mind, your former lover can do no wrong, and will forever be perfect in your mind.\nIt isn't fair to his memory, or your life, to live in the past, like you are. Open yourself up, to new ideas, new people. If you meet someone new, judge him on what he has to offer you, and your future.\nIf you continue to judge  the new friends against what is gone, you will never find what you are looking for.\nKeep his memory alive, by all means, but don't let it stop you from finding a new love of you life.\nIt won't be the same, but that doesn't mean it can't be just as fulfilling and bring you much happiness and joy.\nSo open your mind to new alternatives. You are still a young woman with much to live for and  much to share.\nIs living a lonely life, what you really want, I don't think so.\nYou won't be settling for less, you will be looking forward to a new future.
271838
no it is not wrong and i think you have answered your own question you already have everything figured out you just need to get past the past and get on with your future remember age is just a state of mind if you have found your soul mate then go for it you should not have any surprises about each others past as you have already been honest with each other keep those lines of communication open and you will have the best relationship of your lives, good luck
650271
I am 25 and I have dated up to 20 yrs older than me if the person fits with what I like.
352635
Well, I'm 26 and I have a crush on my professor 60! If it's bad for your, then it must be too bad for me, isn't it? :) Sometimes we can not explain why we are attracted by someone. Sometimes I thought that I'm crazy to fall in love with such an old man who worths to be my grandpa! But, i don't know. I can not stop. I do not know it's the right love or not but cannt keep my eyes off him. What I am trying to do now is to be close with him and find out whether we have something in common or not. Is there really a happy "future"? It may be just a first impression! There must be a lot of difference existing that require us to stand back and think! Calm down and take your time. I'm falling in love but still keep myself concious enough to identify the standard moral.\nAnyway, your case can be acceptable. The age gap is not that big.
31350
That's kinda hard to answer, I think it would depend on how long you have known that person, what they had done, and how deeply you felt for them. Life is short spend your time wisely
1011248
I've "dated" a few younger guys, mostly for the sex.  So there are other MILFs out there I'm sure.   Your approach may be off and normally these things just sort of "happen" you don't go looking for it.  Or you don't wake up and say "I'm 35, I think I'll find me a nice young 20 year old to *uck".
4726
I'm with you...I would go back to when I was 16 because I would not get into a relationship with someone that I did at that age.  I would also think about going back 13 years to when I first met someone very special.  We lost touch but have recently struck up a great friendship.  I would have changed things then had I known what was happening now!
437940
I believe you can find happiness twice in a life time.  You will never ever forget your first love.  You will always have him in your heart.  and you may not find THAT special kind of love again, but you can love again.  Like if your spouse dies after 20 years of marriage, I do believe later on in life you can find a new love and happiness with a new person.  I dont feel it will be the SAME degree and closeness as your first love but I fully believe you can love and find happiness once again.
1083000
Well the truth is that it happens, but not often at all. You are going to change so much in the next few years and you may not stay compatible with the same person through that time nor he with you. Even older people are changing everyday and find that what they wanted one day is different the next. So, to be honest its not that we dont have faith in younger peoples relationships its just that we went through them when we were younger and can look back and say dang I thought I was in love back in the day, but its ok. Its ok to change, its ok to think you have found the one and to try to keep it that way, but dont  hold your life back for it. You have many many years to become the women/man someone will love forever. I had a bf when i was in 8th grade that i still dated off and on through Junior year of high school..but it did end, we changed and moved on. It sounds so sad I know, but its not, its life.
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How old were you when you met this person?  I'm assuming you did not meet this person the day you were born, correct?  Therefore, you had a life before you met his person, why do you feel as though you cannot have a life after they are gone?\n\nYou were doing just fine before you met this person and that is probably why he/she was attracted to you.  Now all of a sudden you cannot go on in life without them?!  Come on!  Grow up!\n\nWhile suicide attempts are real and need to be adressed by professionals trained to help in such dire circumstances, they are acts sometimes carried out to get the attention of someone else.  The fact that you attempted 3 times suggests to me that you are just trying to get the attention of this former significant other rather than to truly kill yourself.  But this is a good thing.  It means that you don't really want to kill yourself.  \n\nYou are resonsible for the actions that you carry out and their consequences, NOBODY ELSE!!!  If this person is not interested in you, or you are not interested in him/her THAT IS OKAY!!!\n\nPeople lose interest, that is a part of life in every way, shape, and form.  \n\nThink back to a time in your past when things seemed absolutely horrible.  Now think of something positive that happened to you since then that made you laugh out loud.  Just because you have had bad times doesn't mean that good times are lost forever.  \n\nYou do not know what, or who, is waiting around the next corner.  For all you know tomorrow the man/woman of your dreams is going to walk out of Starbuck's as soon as you are walking in and then, BAM!  The two of you meet and hit it off and then you will have been glad that this other person is out of your life.  Because then you would not have been able to meet this new person.  \n\nSuicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  \n\nIf you want to feel better then go talk to someone who you think is truly in love.  It doesn't matter how old they are, 75, 50, or 25 years old.  Now ask them how many ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends they have had in the past.  Now think about the fact that if they killed themselves over any one of these ex's they never would have found their true love.  That is even sadder to me than a suicide.