Sister in law wore out her welcome? What should i do?
343623
There is nothing wrong what-so ever in the way you feel.  She has little respect for you and she should be more thankful that she has a place to stay.  You should really try to talk to your fiance, and see how he feels about it.  Its not fair that your mad and take it out on him, if he has no idea that you feel a certain way.  If you talk to him and he doesn't do something or understand the situation, it looks like you re on your own.  Talk to her then.  You should try to set some boundaries.  You re making it too comfortable for her to stay.
64873
No offense, but I think your "sister-in-law" should think of something else. Because if she doesn't make it, will she have a back-up plan?
619317
DON'T change for anyone but yourself. \n\nPlus, even if you try to change for your in-laws that doesn't really mean that they will accept you. They may do so on the surface, but deep down they still may not...and you'll gain nothing. Life is too short to pretend to be someone else and to be bitter.\n\nMy little suggestion is to be you and YAY for having a supportive husband!!! That's wonderful. If you don't have to be around your in-laws a lot, it shouldn't matter. \n\nMy secret: I loved to freak my ex's mother out with my views on various subjects, weird responses to questions, etc. But you have to be secure and not really care about if they like you or not to do things like that. Just a fun tip.
185463
WOW...sounds like your daughter and son-in-law are very selfish people. I would give them a dose of their own medicine. You don't have to take that kind of disrespect from ANYONE. I would send your G-daughter a nice birthday card and leave it at that. They will surely run to you when they need something, but don't give in. Let them FEEL how they have made you feel.
922637
My suggestion is like many others, THANK HER every chance you get as this could make or break your relationship with her. If your weight doesn't change often I'd say start the dress at the beginning of the year. Of course small alterations can be made later, but then you can get the jist of things and make sure you both are on the right track and still have time for changes if need be.\nI really think you should get as many pictures as possible of what you want. I might even go to the extent of taking her dress shopping with you, trying on dresses, taking pictures in them and showing her what you like about each dress and why you think that type of dress would work best for you. Engrave in her head what you see in yours and hopefully that will keep her straying on the dress to a minimum. During the process of making it try it on often and correct anything you want before it can't be fixed. \n\nI'd say start it early in case you end up completely disliking it, then you'll have time to find something new. Though that my cause rifts between you and the mother-in-law.\n\nI totally know how you feel, my soon to be mother-in-law is trying to convince me their 45' x 30' back yard which is taking up mostly by a vegetable garden is the perfect location for our reception.
424515
something is not right here? is this your husbands sister, or is it your brothers wife? because if it is your brothers wife calling your husband! you best watch out, she could be coming to the game to make sure where you are. it is not her place to call your husband. keep your eyes open there maybe be alot more to this than you think. GOOD LUCK!
864179
Take a couple of dishes because you are so thoughtful.  And complement her on everything because you are such a gracious guest.  Get up and clear the table and wash the dishes because you know what trouble she has gone to.  Kiss her cheek and tell her thank-you for everything and tell her that, next year, you would like to relieve her of the duty...if she doesn't mind...but make her promise to tell you how she made EVERYTHING - so you can do as good a job.  One day you will mean it, once you get to know and understand why she is the way she is, you will be glad you were not antagonistic.  And your husband might not seem to notice as he is sleeping to the game while you are earning your angel wings - but in the end, it will be worth it.  Oh, and tell her you are thankful that she was such a good mother to your husband.
804266
well you best talk to your spouse and let the in laws hang because they are on the outside and the important one at this point is the one your with. but explain what happen and that you meant no harm.
637971
i think my mother in law is an alien
641139
It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.
466997
It seems to me that she is very jealous of your family and is afraid that too much attention might be showered upon your brother and the new baby. This is very sad for everybody. I'm sure that if she wasn't like she is that your family would welcome her as a part of the group. Maybe she grew up as insecure and in a not so loving family atmosphere and this contributes to her behavior. You might try talking to her and see if she will open up. Maybe that you or your family could offer to go to their house and sit with the baby while they have a nice dinner out. This could be an icebreaker. Good luck to you and your family.
828927
Your brother-in-law is a misogynist, he has a deep rooted hatred of women. Your sister is probably being verbally and physically abused. both of you should get away from this sick puppy.
585597
Pray. And realize you can't force her to come home. All you can do is be there for her as a sister and let her make her own mistakes. If you push or manipulate, she won't feel safe in turning to you.\n\nAnd I'll be praying for you as well... :)
875777
"meaner than a snake." That's funny! I sympathize with your situation.  I sure wouldn't want to go there. What's the worst thing that could happen if you take a strong stance with your husband and tell him that you don't want to go this year?  Why not invite the old coot to your home? Or just skip going to the relatives this year and celebrate the holidays with your husband and children.\nAlso, I would have a problem with a mother-in-law who doesn't have anything nice to say about you or your son and the fact that your husband let's her get away with that nastyness. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
303169
This is one of the hardest things to resolve in relationships, unfortunately. Keep in mind that your mother-in-law is also your wife's mother. I'm sure you already know that most people try to please, or at least placate, their mother. You're in a difficult position, but there are some things you can do:\n\n1. Communicate with your wife ... constantly. The two of you must not allow this to interfere with your relationship.\n\n2. Communicate with your mother-in-law. Do NOT retaliate in kind ... EVER! Do NOT lose your temper! She obviously angers you, but you have to be bigger than that. Ask her what it is that bothers her about you and offer to try and change at least some of those things ( IF you can and IF they are not part and parcel of who you are ).\n\n3. If you can afford to, you and your wife should find a competent marriage counselor to help you cope with this problem ... soon!\n\n4. When the baby arrives, I suspect your mother-in-law will want very much to see him/her as often as possible, particularly if this is her first grandchild. This gives you an excellent lever. Stress to your mother-in-law that this is both YOUR child and HER grandchild, and that both of you should want to do what is best for the child; and that her berating you will definitely NOT be good for the child. As an ABSOLUTE LAST RESORT, if you and your wife AGREE on this, BOTH of you have a talk with her mother and tell her, as gently as possible, that the TWO of you have decided to not expose your child to your mother-in-law's berating of you. Stress that, if she is willing to stop it, she can visit anytime the three of you agree. Let me stress again that this is a LAST RESORT, and should only be used if BOTH you and your wife truly AGREE!\n\nGood luck with this, and don't foget to seek that which is best for ALL parties involved.
1044665
That sounds very rude and inconsiderate to me.  If she asked your sister then she asked her so she should stay.  She can just let her friend know that the spot has been filled because she declined.  I dunno man, but to me she is already setting a bad example for married life if she can't even stay true to her word and cant even show respect for your family.  Looks like you got some thinking to do.  Good luck.
991103
ohhhhhhhhh. I hate know-it-all-inlaws. I have a sister in law like that and a mother in law that butts in and makes me feel stupid.\nThe only thing you can do is smile and endure. Pretend like you dont hear them or something.