I let my son go live with his dad in September. His dad got mad at me and cut me off, what can I do?
343951
You need to call a lawyer and get a custody agreement if you don't have one. His father can not keep him from you because he doesn't like you. \n\nJust remember, as you go through a custody battle, though you may be angry at his father, be civil, everything you do will affect your son as well, and you don't want to hurt him.
978027
Get a lawyer - it's your only hope.  And why did you send your child away?  And it's up to his guardians (father and step-mom) to decide who best to be able to contact the child.  Did you do something to upset them this much?  Or to the child?  Seems to me like there's info here that's missing.  If it's due to you not being able to afford to keep him home, you should have tried harder.  I have 2 children, and never would I ever consider sending them away, to their father's or anywhere else in this world.  I have worked 2 jobs for 10 years to make a life for them, and I spend as much time with them as possible.
869712
You need to leave, taking your son with you. If your s.o.'s prior domestic violence was severe enough to land him in jail, you and your son are in danger! But I think you know that. You need to go to your version of the Family Court and apply for an ex parte Protection from Abuse order to start with. If it is approved, this could give you temporary custody of your son and even possibly give you possession of your place of residence (depending on a lot of situations, of course.)\n\nOnce you have done this, get in touch with your version of the Legal Aid Society. They should be able to advise you about the legality of the recordings you have and help you at no charge. Also, check out the Domestic Violence Center. If you have nobody you can live with until this comes to a full hearing, they may be able to find you a safe shelter.\n\nOnce you go to a final hearing, if you get a FULL Protection from Abuse order, you can try for custody. You MUST try to do this, despite the threats. If you don't, you KNOW there will be more trouble and possible violence. If you DO this, you will at least have SOME chance that things will get better and you will have what you want and need.\n\nPlease -- take care -- but get help soon!
1130663
You should move on if you know/feel that he's not gonna come back to you. But you shouldn't hold a grudge against him for choosing his father over you (no offence). Maybe at that time, when he said he wasn't going to move in with his father, he meant it because he knew that his brother could take care of their father. But when his bro left, he might have been battling whether or not he should go back to his dad. But I guess that for him to do that, he and his dad must really have a strong connection. :)
824942
IF only there were more guys out there like you.  Most guys would just pick their own kid up and leave.  You did the right and the honorable thing.  Her husband is ticked off because he can not be the man and take care of what he needs too.  He is mad also because he knows what you did is the right thing and he can not admit to it.  Your child should not be in a home without heat and food.  Talk to your ex about this...and make it clear it will not happen again.  If you must, get the authorities involved.  Children should not suffer because their lame dad wants to spend all the money on stupid stuff.
910684
I'm sorry this is happening to you and your children. Dead beat dads really make me mad. \n\nLegally...you are well within your rights to go back to family court and file a custody modification. You can pick up the petition at the family court of the country where you and the children reside. Take the petition to your lawyer or complete it yourself (they're pretty self explanitory).\n\nYou can then modify the custody to either suspend his visitation completely, or you can make some provisions that if he doesn't pick them up within one half hour of the scheduled visit is canceled (so he can't just randomly show up). \n\nSite the reason that it is emotionally damaging to your children to have inconsistent visitation. For the next few visits make sure you have a credible witness in your home or at the drop off site. That way, he can't come back in court and say you are refusing him visitation.\n\nIf you don't care about child support or if you aren't recieving any, you can petition the court to eliminate his parental rights. This is easier to do if he is not only not visiting, but if you also have a husband or boyfriend who is willing to adopt your child. The court does not like to bastardize a child (their words, not mine).\n\nJust a warning, usually just the threat of court action causes most men to start seeking visitation again. So, only take action if you aren't worried about that. And the child support increase that another poster was talking about is not true in all states, so talk to a lawyer if you can. If you can't afford one, speak to your local Legal Aid Society or request a court appointed attorney (they do have those in FC).\n\nAnd on a personal note....kids are pretty perceptive. If you see yours being effected by all of this, consider family or individual counseling. There are free counselors available to your and your child.\n\nBest of luck!
220873
Sweetheart, I know exactly what your going through. My son lives with his dad,(We're all in Missouri). My son tells me how bad it is with his dad, and as I understood it, when he turns 12, he can go to the judge and say for himself that he wants to live with me. It sounds like you and my son are going through the very exact thing. If you can find a way to get to the Division of Family Services without your dad knowing, tell the people you want to go to a judge and tell him/her that you want to go to your mom's. I am a child advocate. I'd take you myself if I could. When you go to the Family Services, you need to let them know EVERY bad thing you are going through. They will investigate your dad, but no one has to know you made the report. If your mom agrees to have you come to her, then you, her, and the Family Services have a meeting at once. YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO MAKE THIS DECISION!!!\nGood luck and GOD BLESS
279976
well did u do something to make him mad? u should DEFINTALY talk to him! good luck! =)
153869
I am a parent but I only have six years experience.  Still, you need to kick his little a** out.  I know he is your kid, but dang.  He is taking you for granted, you need to teach him how to take care of himself.  What is he going to do when you aren't there?
511033
It's verbal abuse.  He doesn't have respect for you, let alone your kids.  You're kids don't deserve this treatment, and you don't deserve to put in the middle.  You have 2 options:  you can leave without working on it, or you can talk with him (as long as he doesn't have any violent tendancies) and see if he will get help through counseling.  It sounds as if he's a little jealous of the attention that you give your kids- they were there first and will ultimately be number one no matter what.  He's scared and resentful.  (You didn't say that he did it to you.)  Remember that he will only change if *he* chooses to, and does it for himself.  It is possible to work through, if he really doesn't want to be that kind of person.  If you notice that he's only doing it just to get you back, talk with him about a separation.  Fix it right- fix it once.\n\n\n**Again, if he is violent, talking about it may only anger him and cause a confrontation.  You and your children's safety is more important than the relationship you have with him.
1147905
I feel sorry for you. I hope you have a good job and provide for yourself with your own money, because that is what the court will look at. Would you have a place to stay for the next couple of years? If I were you, and this is very important for you to consider. You could call Children Services and talk to someone there. They will want to know all the info that you have shared here and all the info that you have not shared here. You have to tell the truth. Most likely the police will get involved and your parents may go to jail, depending on what they find when they come to your house. Children Services will take you and any siblings out of the house and put you in foster care. You may like the home you go to and you might not. If it is as bad as you say, don't hesitate to call them. If you need more advice you need to go to your school counsellor and they will get things rolling for you. I wish you the best of luck.
491373
Wow. That is really unfortunate.\n\nYou probably won't like to hear this but probably the best thing is to leave your son alone and move on with your own life. I would still contact him in non-interfering ways such as to say happy birthday and maybe send him a christmas card and such. Start to slowly rebuild the relationship in this way.\n\nI imagine that there is a long term reason for some anger between you. Unless he is willing to go for some joint counselling the only thing that you can hope for is that time time will soften his stand. This assumes of course, that you can be nice to him, even if you're upset about the situation. I really don't see anything positive coming out of forcing the sitaution. You are competing with the child's parents and that is a no win situation.\n\nGood luck.
1139962
dont worry, relax, if his father takes him off, he will go to jail. i'm sure your son is going to enjoy having some time with his dad.
396411
I know how you feel.  My son chose to stay with his dad after my divorce.  I have our daughter.  The distance is near 1000 miles so, I am not able to see him much.  I do call him every weekend and see him at least 4 times a year.  It is still not enough and I am frustrated since I am unable to do anything about this.  (Work, money, ect...)  My son knows that I love and miss him so much.  It hurts.
787782
Might try a restraining order.  Little drastic but would work.  Refuse to take calls from him and his friend.  If it is really bad parental intervention is always good.
422579
Only deal with him where you son is concerned. Only meet him half way. Don't put more into it than he does. It's not your place to make sure he sees his son. Help him, but don't do it for him. When your son asks to talk to daddy give him a call. If he doesn't answer let your son know you tried and then drop it till he asks again. When it comes time to visit, don't do it for him. Let him do it or work out a compromise that's fair to both. Your son will see him for what he is. If he is in fact a good father your son will know that. If he slacks your son will see that too. As long as you do your part, that's all that is required.
802968
I think that you sure go to the Citizen's Advice Bureau and get some help. The father of your child should be helping you, I would suggest that you take him to court. But the C.A.B would be able to advise you on how you can go about this and they should give you all the help you need