How do you cope with a long distance relationship?
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I am coping with one myself. One way I cope with it is to send him gifts for Christmas and other holidays just as if he was here. Another thing I do is talk a lot to him on the phone and on instant messagging. We send e-mail and e-cards to each other as well. But in the end, there are three important things to remember in a relationship: trust, love, and loyalty. By acting like the distance isn't that far, the time passes a whole lot quicker and before I know it, he is going to be back in two months!\nI hope this advice has really helped you out!
595247
Long distances relationships can work..but a lot of times they do fail though, sadly to say...but in your case..you have no way to communicate with him at all..so its a bad idea to stay together..if you cant even talk!
493777
well i think long distance relationship dun wrk but since u already in it den u cud jus go on n experience it urself. da reason y long distance doesnt wrk cuz sum how probl comes lyk da kinda probl u'r in now. wen u in love or lykin sum one soo much especialy long distance relationship, u goin to feel desperate to c dat person, spendin time wit dat person or sumtime jus to b able to tlk to dat person face to face. n wen dat point come to deep it bcome frustion n dat's not gud. cuz either one of u goin to want to b c-in each otha but dere'r no way y'all can. so whoeva thinkin of it feel lyk dey shud giv up bcuz it's no point. n dey feelin r gettin tired..n tired. rite now i think u shud giv him all ur love n support. dun pressurin him animore to c u. or mayb u shud b da one who came ova dere to c him if u'r old enough to do dat. OR mayb dis whole things of him actin weird was jus so he cud break'up wit u but he hope u undastand cuz he doesnt want to hurt u. fo u to find da rite answer, u jus gotta tlk to him n ask him urself. dun b afraid...things only wrk out if u tlk about to either person..mak dem feel comfortable enough dat dey cud tell u wateva dey feel..
152585
In my opinion, I would think that both of you would have to accept the concept of "long-distance relationships" to begin. If one is thinking "long-distance" and the other is thinking "he/she will come visit me" but he/she doesn't, then that will be a problem itself. Secondly, I believe you both have to want the relationship to work out bad enough to where the distance doesn't bother either of you. Again, if one is feeling incomplete because the other is not there, then maybe you two should spend more time getting to know each other. Lastly, communication is key. If you say you're going to visit him/her, DO IT. Don't come up with eXcuses as to why you couldn't make it. That will prove whether or not you want it (him/her/the relationship) bad enough. Sacrifices will have to be made, and if one or neither of you are up to the task, then what is the point in being in a long-distance relationship?\n\nHope that helped!
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If you two really love each other then you will make the long distance thing work even though it is hard. If you love and care about her you will wait until you guys can see each other more, but if you can't handle the long distance for that long then try giving each other space and explain it to her that you love her but the long distance thing isn't working for you. You could have a non exclusive relationship where you each can date other people, give some rules if you want, but still be together. Think about what you want and what she wants and come to a decision that you both agree on. Good Luck:)
493248
No, it hard to make relationship work when you are together, so you know it's hard long distance.  The person is never the person they pretend to be at a distance.
498995
I am in a similar relationship, but I know she's the one, the circumstances are just tough for us.. being so far away. Test your love.. while he's away, take space and see how you really feel without him. At first no matter what, it will be so hard.. but it will get better. Then.. the test comes.. after not having him in your life much, have a long talk and see how it feels. I lost her because I doubted someone so great could love me.. but after she gave up on me.. I realized how much she really does love me.. and slowly I am gaining back her trust, and she has all of mine.
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yes me and my boyfriend started our relationship long distance. we faught all the time, if i was ever home and doing nothing i'd be so mad that he wasnt calling not even thinking that he might be busy. we would spend hours on the phione and always fight. i dotn even know why. then when he moved back everyhting was just so beautiful. i think long distance is really hard and the fact that you cant see the perosn makes you mad and you take it out on them . i also think that phone conversations are hard. me and my boyfriend only fight on the phone now, cos when i see him in person he can hug me and i'll feel better on the phone its so less personal.\nso you guys have to realize what the problem is and then talk about it and try to make it work. try to see each other as much as possible\ngood luck
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Don't look back, look forward. You should forget him and concentrate on making new friends. Long distance relationships seldom if ever last, and you'll just have alot of frustration and heart ache to show for it. Find someone you can spend time with when and where you want instead of sticking with a guy that by all indications doesn't love you anyway. I know that is harsh, but he hasn't called, and wouldn't say so according to you. You can do better. The guy for you is right under your nose, you just have to look!. Hope this has encouraged you and given you hope.
315047
Honestly? Break up. A long distance relationship won't work, especially with you both in colleges in different states. You will both meet other people, and one thing will lead to another, and one or another of you, or both of you, will wind up cheating, or suspecting and accusing the other of cheating.\n\nIf, after college, you get back together, great.
987331
It's really difficult to make a long distance relationahip work. It takes a lot of time, effort, sacrifice and money. My friend was living in London, had a boy-friend in Canada and parents in SE Asia. She was constantly having to answer and make phone calls to all aspects of the globe at really odd times. She also had to deal with life in uni. It was really hard for her get much of anything done besides talk on the phone or send emails. Eventually though she decided to stick with the boyfriend and got transferred to an uni in Canada to be with him. She loved him too much to give him up. That's eventually what all long-term relationships come down to. If you really truely want to be together then you'll find some way to amke it work. If you are not that committed it's best to break it off before one of you inadvertantly does something to hurt the other.
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what is a long-distance relationship?\n\nThe first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. Let me explain.\nIf a guy has been dating a girl for two years and she decides to travel across Europe with nothing but a backpack and pocket change, where does this leave the duo? Well, the first thing to do in this situation is to establish some ground rules before she hops on that plane.\n\nThe couple must agree on how they will deal with this separation, and even if they will remain a couple at all. If one decides that they cannot be in a long distance relationship, while the other is ready to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together, then they have a problem on their hands..\n\nThere are three basic options when dealing with long distance relationships: the couple can remain faithful to each other; they can date other people and see what happens; or they can call it quits and start dating other people right away.\n\n\nremaining faithfully yours\n\nOne option is to keep everything the way it is -- whether you are 5 miles or 5,000 miles away from each other. This way of thinking is very popular among young lovebirds, new to the journey of romance.\nThey tend to believe that physical space between them will not affect the solidity of the relationship because their "undying" love for each other can surpass this seemingly small obstacle. This often applies to couples that get separated for education reasons.\n\nWhat happens in many cases, however, is that one of the partners may start feeling lonely and begin looking around to see what the "relationship market" has to offer.\n\nBut if the woman, for example, decides to hold back and not date anybody during her time away from her boyfriend, he should also be saving himself for her. Right? In an ideal situation, this would be the plan. But unfortunately, that's not always possible.\n\nThe guy in question might start fooling around, but will eventually feel guilty about it, even if six months have passed since he last saw his girlfriend. \n\nThe problem is that the terms of the relationship clearly state that this should not happen. What then?\n\nSimply having made a decision to allow each other the freedom to date other people while they were apart, and seeing if they still felt the same way about each other once they were reunited, could have prevented this situation. Hence, the second category for a long-distance relationship.\n\n\nlet fate take its course\n\nThis same principle applies to any couple in the initial stage of dating: they are together but they're not committed.\nBoth follow the unwritten rule of allowing each other to date other people until they feel the need to be exclusive\nThis is a perfectly rational way of looking at potential long distance relationships. What if, for example, unavoidable circumstances force the woman to leave and desert her mate in the early stages of the relationship.\n\nAlthough some couples develop faster than others, common sense should always be of the essence, as emotions sometimes tend to run away with us.\n\nThe underlying idea here is that impossible promises should not be made and only a reciprocal, genuine affection for each other will decide the couple's fate.\n\nIf staying together is not in your cards, it soon becomes obvious, and ending the relationship is the only solution. This way, there won't be any broken hearts or unnecessary lies.\n\n\nsee other women\n\nIt's a smart thing to slow down a love connection at an early stage in order to avoid any heartache, especially if you know you will be separated shortly. \nThe ideal solution would be to not get involved with anybody knowing that you will be required to be separated for a long period of time.\n\nBut if you decide to go ahead and start dating this woman, then do it wisely and know that your days together are numbered.\n\nThe smart thing to do in this case
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The long-distance relationship (LDR) has many advantages and disadvantages. Generally, unless this is The One it is best avoided. But at some point most of us will meet a person who is or seems to be so sexy/smart/nice/funny that the disadvantages will be temporarily obscured, and an LDR will ensue. Thus I offer the following suggestions. \n\n1) Get a really good long-distance calling plan. A plan that offers unlimited calling for a low monthly rate is best. When the LDR is good, you will no doubt want to call your loved one everytime you have a good day (or a bad day) or learn something new; in fact, you will want to call everytime you breath. When it is bad, you will want to call to be reassured that it is not bad, or to fight. These phone calls will add up to lots of money, and a big phone bill arriving after you have broken-up will cause bitterness. (Damn, I could have called people I like!)\n\n2) Get used to long periods of abstinence followed by a brief weekends of having tons of sex with a person you barely know anymore. Actually, this isn't unlike my normal state of being except that when you are in a LDR, you know that there is someone you could be having sex with regularly but for the cruel facts of geography. And if an opportunity to have sex with a stranger arises, you will have to say no, or suffer from guilt which will erode the LDR. And remember, even if your loved one is thousands of miles away, it is a small world. You will get caught! \n\n3) If you can develop an enjoyment of suffering than you will love being in an LDR! Learn to brood, wear black clothing to signify your dispair and always remember to share your pain with friends. Because they care they will want to listen to long accountings of how great your long-distance love is, and how painful the seperation is to you. If they don't, then they aren't your real friends. If at the demise of the LDR you find yourself without friends, well this will suit your new, darker personality. After all, we all die alone in the end. \n\nFinal note: If possible, try to have an open relationship. This will allow you the freedom to sleep with other people without the above mentioned guilt. And since your loved one is far, far away, you probably won't have to actually meet any of the people s/he dated in your absence
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Keep the communication lines open.  I know it's difficult maintaining a long distance relationship.  My first long distance relationship didn't work.  My second one did.  I married the second one and 3 years later, we're still very much in love and happy.  Don't forget to pray.  Put God first in your lives.  The rest will follow.  God Bless!  I hope your relationship will last forever.
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Well, i do not belive in long distance relationships.However, i do have these kind of relationships. My bf lives in another country. I might tell taht it depends on the person, and his feelings, and his values. But still time kills any feelings.. But u know do not be upset anywayz. And deffinetly do not feel depressed, and try not to listen to anyone, bc everyone will tell you that long distance relationships can't exist. Just  enjoy the moments you have now, do not be upset at him. and even thou if you will decide to separate, (hopefuly you will not)do not feel upset. That's just life, you got to enjoyo the moments, and i'm sure you had realy nice moments together. Do not listen to anyone. Just  stay calm, enjoy urself and ur relationships.. Ciao
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It depends on how serious it is.\n\nBecause if both people aren't seriously committed, then long-distance relationships often don't work out.\nIn which case, it's best to let them go.\n\nBut if you guys are serious about each other, then do what you can to make it work.
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just enjoy the long distance relationship, dont take it to seriously