How can I help my sister deal with the fact that our dad won’t be able to give her away at her wedding?
354747
Tell her that your father would have loved to do it, and he would have been so proud of her, and that if she will let you, you would love to stand in his place although you know he is not replaceable.
82488
Support her in anyway that you can.  Decide what colors you guys should have.  Decide what kind of Wedding you both want.   It's a lot of work, but at the end your fiance will be happy and proud that you helped her.  I know this because I'm getting married in 3 months and wish my fiance would pitch in more.  So definately help out your gal.  She needs support.
840003
This is your wedding and you do not need to invite them. The rule of thumb is, if you haven't talked to a someone in over a year, they are not required to be on the guest list. Never speaking to them would probably qualify :)\n\nIf I was you, I would find some reasons for why your mother can't invite these "sisters" if saying NO just simply isn't working. Maybe the guest list is too big or it's getting too expense to keep adding people to the list.\n\nI whole heartedly agree with you -- these women don't need to be at your wedding and your mom needs to understand that it is your choice and your wedding.
413616
In defense of the bride, I'm sure your financial problems were the LAST thing on her mind right now, no offense! She's planning a wedding and everything included. When it was mentioned that you wouldn't be able to go to the wedding due to money issues, I'm sure she just told her dad that it wasn't right for the family not to go. Dad might have volunteered to pay ya'lls way as his present to the marrying couple, did you think about that?\n\nI understand that your job is very important, but this is important to you wife, so if you are unwilling to compromise and go, then send your wife. It is her family, and she needs to be there.\n\nWhy should the bride alter her wedding dreams, if her family has the means to make it happen for her? I think you need to just suck it up and go! Not everyone gets a chance to fly for free to Hawaii and spend a week there, so my advice is to take advantage of it, it may never happen again!\n\nBe the bigger man here, for your wife, and go to the wedding!
1045756
well my sister is married to a man i hate...he is a no good drunken ************* ************ ************** ************ ***************** **************, but i just keep my mouth shut because she wants to make it work.......so i would say just be there for her always and keep your opinions to yourself...that is what she and i do for eachother.....she don't tell me sh*t and i don't tell her sh*t...seems to work out just better this way!
585597
Pray. And realize you can't force her to come home. All you can do is be there for her as a sister and let her make her own mistakes. If you push or manipulate, she won't feel safe in turning to you.\n\nAnd I'll be praying for you as well... :)
838114
Here's my best guess:\n\nThey wanted to help out you and your fiance. They wanted to give him a great wedding and they probably thought they could, until the sister got engaged. Because they are obligated to pay for her wedding now, they probably can't affored to pay for both. \n\nThey are going to pay for the rehearsal dinner, I guarentee that because ettiquette says they should and they will. You need to have your fiance talk to his parents and find out the reason behind the broken promise.\n\nAgain, my  best guess is that sister's wedding threw a monkey in their pocket book and they don't know how to tell you they can't afford to take on your wedding too -- your parents should be doing that afterall, and I'm guessing that's what they expect.
239143
Sorry, but welcome to being a stepmom...yep, you'll have to invite her and pray she declines, unless the kids are old enough for their father, not you, to explain that it might not be such a happy thing for their mom to watch him get married again.
1126110
Keep trying to communicate with your sister. everything happens for a reason whether you did or did not steal the money she should still remain in touch with  you.Remember GOD does not allow us to go through nothing that we are not capable of handling.
322986
I would think if your sister is in jail, than she is intitled to a lawyer.  He should know of a way that she can get the help she needs.
1014352
Your sister husband needs to step up to the plate and not leave this to her,  he playing it safe , the dad needs to grow up but if that does not happen maybe you could help, don't sit back and wait for it to get bad as it will, trust me already been there is there another male figure that he will look up too? dad would really set him straight but try another male or church youth minister
240395
Hello sweet little sister QuietWarrior.. :)\n\nLord God, You see our little sisters plea..We are to train our child in the way they shall go and when they are old they will not depart from it..Amen!\n\nYou and your husband must let her live on her own..you are not helping her by doing everything for her..she is no longer a little girl, but a grown woman, she must start acting as such..I know from first hand, I had to tell my son, that he could not longer come home when he wanted to..he is now taking care of his little girl and he is a GREAT father..\n\nIt will be hard at first, but God will grant You His peace that passeth all understanding through all of this..He hath for me.. :)\n\nI am here for you, if you need someone to lift your loved ones up in prayer or just to listen.. :)\n\nIn Jesus Most Precious Name..\nWith Love..your sister In Christ..
1044665
That sounds very rude and inconsiderate to me.  If she asked your sister then she asked her so she should stay.  She can just let her friend know that the spot has been filled because she declined.  I dunno man, but to me she is already setting a bad example for married life if she can't even stay true to her word and cant even show respect for your family.  Looks like you got some thinking to do.  Good luck.
310441
Wow! I am kind of in the same situation and the only advice I can give is to take care of yourself first. I can see how there may be disappointment but if you can't go then you can't go. Best friends, even just good friends, should be able to understand something like that. Maybe she just needs a few days to get over it and then she will be ok. If you have explained the situation to her, and apologized, then that is really all you can do. You can't jeopardize a dream job and your livelihood for one day at a wedding. You can be there in heart, but don't risk it with a new job. People can go downhill fast if they lose even a week of work. The best thing to do is take care of yourself first. You won't be much good at a wedding if you are worried about your own personal issues, and employment is what enables people to be able to survive in most issues. Good Luck!
805651
Im sorry about your mom, it is okay to freak out, especially because your moms death is so recent. You still have 2 years left to think and eventually you will figure out that it is ok to leave your dad and your sister.Eventhough your sister is an "airhead" in two years she can grow out of it and im pretty sure she will take care of your dad no matter what.
658096
let your wife be the one to put her foot down about the money...sorry, but they won't listen to you bec you're not their dad.\n\nmom must remain firm...don't listen to the whining. Hopefully you 2 have decided  that they leave the nest when they graduate. You have the right to expect some privacy in your marriage, esp. since he's old enough to be on his own...and she almost is. Sister will hopefully go on to college...sounds like a smart girl with a future.\n\nsupport your wife and stand by her. help her remain firm. she's given them 18 long yrs...long enough.
808151
Something is going on between your sister and her husband.  At Thanksgiving, be very observant of what's going on between them.  If you get the opportunity, pull your sister aside and let her know you're there for her no matter what.  DO NOT ask her what's going on or why did she bring him there.  She may not be able to or want to tell you what's going on.  From this point forward, do not judge her actions or decisions, but let her know you'll be there for her and stand by her no matter what and that she can depend on you.  \n\nIt won't be easy for you, but try not to pass judgement.  Be civil and polite to her husband.  Take a deep breath and just hope and pray for the best and be the best sister you can be for her.  Good luck.