Why is it that once I achieve orgasm, I do not want to continue having sex?
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That is completely normal, it happens for men too, it is called “resolution.”  That is why they roll over and go to sleep when they are done.\n\nIf you wait a bit, you will be interested again – and so will your guy.
986710
I've caught my husband doing it frequently also. We had a talk about it though and he told me sometimes he just doesnt feel like sex because he needs release and just wants to get it over with. I actually woke up one night and he was releasing himself while watching a porno on mute. I freaked out about it. I love pleasing him and it offends me too. Although I can kind of relate to why he does it without me sometimes because I do it without him sometimes too. I just dont want to have sex sometimes. it seems though that he doesnt want to have sex with you at all...and if that is what your saying, let him catch you a few times...if it doesnt make him jump your bones right then...I guess the only thing to do is look into couples therapy. Some guys are actually addicted to masterbating.
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Frankly, a lot of women find that they are too sensitive after their orgasm and would rather have the attention devoted elsewhere (breasts, neck, lips if she's not squeamish, etc...).  Normally, if I want the guy to continue after I've come, I TELL HIM!
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You need to establish an orgasm road-map in your brain. If you can get there through m_asturbation, then you are already half-way there.\n\nYou need to have him get you as close as possible, then finish up with m_asturbation. Next time, he'll get a little closer. Keep it up, and before you know it he'll get you there without your needing to m_asturbate at all!
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When next you have sex get ur mind off the sexual action and may be think about something else or something outside the sex. You will stay longer. and also don't rush anything take it slow and steady. Don't let her rush you either.
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There are a lot of incompetent counselors out there.  So you might want to switch.\n\nBut for the orgasm issue, I'm thinking sex toys might help you.  There are a lot of them out there.  But even fingers could do it.  The point is, you need to be by yourself, with no one around posing a subconscious threat, before you will let yourself have an orgasm.\n\nAnd btw, a surprisingly large number of people have been sexually violated.  You are not alone, not by a long shot.  Maybe a support group could help.
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You need to know yourself and what causes you to acheive orgasm, then you share with your guy or girl what turns you on. Some women do not acheive orgasm before having their first child.Some women never acheive orgasm.....If all else fails learn to fake.\n\nYou could also learn to control your pc muscles... this is done by exercising these muscles,act like you are trying to stop a urine flow and like you are trying to stop yourself from passing gas, these muscles are the the ones you need to exercise over and over if nothing else it will keep you tight and exciting.
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This is definitely an issue that you should address with your gynecologist.  You need to be sure that you are speaking with a doctor that is concerned with your issue as well.  Often times, women have to find their nitch (so to speak).  You have to find your best way to obtain an orgasm.  Try experimenting with yourself.  Toys, massaging shower heads, etc...\n\nAlso try visiting a website called www.talksexwithsue.com.\n\nI found that she is very informative and knowledgable about all things that have to do with sex and orgasm.  she also has a show on Oxygen you might want to check out.
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Well sometimes, when you and your lover are getting really hot and nasty, it just feels like the right time to do it!! When you've got baby-oiled up or whatever!! LOL!! \n\nOf course, you have to be totally relaxed and I found that rubbing my clit or getting him to do it (whilst he's in there)makes the whole thing much more pleasurable!\n\nIt's not something I want to do all the time, but now and again, hell why not!! When it comes to what makes a women come, we are all different. And not only that, but what may make me orgasm one week, might not work for me the next!!
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What you are going through is not weird and it's definitely normal! i had the same problem...I had sex hundreds of times but I could never have an orgasm. I always thought something was wrong so I just faked it all the time. My boyfriend now and I have amazing sex and by experimenting I have found the only position that I can have an orgasm! I hope this isn't too graphic but here is what we do...\n\nHave him lay on his back and you climb on top. While he is inside of you move your legs to the inside of his and make sure they are straight. Slide yourself up and down this way and I can almost guarantee you will have an orgasm! This position rubs me the right way everytime! It's the best feeling in the world when you have your first orgasm during sex! Good luck and I hope this works!
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lack of experience, lack of understanding the link between sensation and ejaculation hence not knowing how to alter tempo activity to maintain  a high level of excitment and not tip over\n\nanxiety about performance \n\noccassionally its nice to come after only 10-15 min of furious intercourse - most of the time its nice to have at least 45-60 mins of intercourse varying tempos!\n\nmen can learn how to control this - becoming a good lover is a process of learning
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at the point of climax,grip it firmly at the base (clamp it),and the orgasm will diminish. It will throb a little,but you should be able to delay the orgasm. Hold it until the feeling subsides. This also makes it more intense when you do finally climax
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This is very true.. especially since I have never experienced an orgasm..  I find that even though I have never climaxed in my life( by the way I have been sexually active since the age of 18 and I am 22) I still enjoy sex. I enjoy the emotional connection I feel with the person rather than physical. Don't get me wrong I enjoy the physical aspect. But what truly makes me feel satisfied is the feeling of oneness with the person I am sharing my body with.
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dont have it so often.  then it will be more specail.  try foreplay but then no sex.  then carry all that sexual tension for a week and have a blast one night.  try new positions or techniques.
303703
My girlfriend had the same problem,,,she finally had an orgasm after buying herself a vib***** and she was 25!  Poor thing!  She was sexually abused as a child and taught that sex was "dirty" and "bad"....If this sounds like you, buy a vib***** and consider going to counseling if you think you need it....And remember that trying to have an orgasm will make it harder to have one....relax, open your mind, and you will get there!  Good luck
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Orgasms with sex didn't happen for me until I got a little older, more comfortable with my own body, in tune with my own sexuality, and finding what worked for me and going after it, and practice of course.\n\nRead this, good advice:\n\nhttp://www.talksexwithsue.com/femaleorgasm.html\n\nAlso, just my opinion, but stop faking it.  You don't do you or your partner any favors by faking it.
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Was your rapist caught? Mentally, the trauma that you felt during that event may cause you to react physically. Trauma causes pain.  The brain and the body is interconnected always. What the mind perceives the body will show. That is why you can't have an orgasm whenever you are doing anything sexual. You might put the event at the back of your head, but subconciously it's there lurking.\n\nI think you need to talk to someone who you trust or much better if she's a counselor. Or if you're uncomfortable with one, go to a sex therapist. \n\nWhy didn't you see a doctor? Did you report him? I do hope so.\n\nAnyway, good luck with that.