how do i control the faulty desires coming to mind?
342390
First let me say you are not the only one who has been through such things.  I too, have done things which I later regret but at the time I refuse to think about the consequences because at the time it feels right.  You can avoid making the same mistakes twice by learning from your first mistake.  Before you do something on impulse..evaluate the situation, think about the pros and cons and then decide if it's worth it.
783990
ummmk.... stop fantasizing and get back to work!!!!!\n\n\nLOL
57064
You Can't Always Get What You Want
472994
you can't force people to think the way you wish them to. if you put up with this, continue and don't complain. if this bothers you, move
451042
You should always listen to your subconscious... It's like your safety valve when your head and heart isn't thinking straight! Good luck!
579011
good that you are acknowledging that you have a problem. the first key to solving a problem is to admit that you have a problem to begin with....Your obsession is not natural or healthy.......you are letting your thoughts control your behavior.....SWITCH CHANNELS......occupy yourself in other ways.
1185650
It sounds like you have a lot going on inside of your head.  Financial and emotional issues, work issues, family issues = stress, which can really impact your sexual desires.  Have you tried talking to a counselor/therapist?  \n\nDon't worry about your lack of desire; that will be fixed when you fix whatever's going on in your life that you don't like.
745131
Get your mind of it no matter what it takes. pre-occupy yourself with something that'll keep you busy. You can try talking to different people about it to see their perspectives which may give you some new thoughts on the situation. also the more the think about it the more you're likely ot give in so try your best to avoid dwelling on it. If it's something you want to control at an exact moment (like in your example) i advise you rather keep it to yourself for the time being. Its not good to bottle up feelings, so let it out when you're not around that person any more. This way you feel no regrets. Sometimes I clench my fist or bite by teeth to get rid of some of that anger temporarily... well hope I helped!
1106145
You just need to build up your self control. When ever you get..."urges"... try to think about something else or buisy yourself by doing something like exercises or go for a walk. I know the temtation is hard to over come but with time it works. Praying for strength might help too ;)
1154983
Practice saying no.\nYou can't please everyone.
107766
Come on. Get A GRIP OF YOURSELF AND DO THE SEARCH YOURSELF. IT'S BETTER TO CONTROL YOUR LUST THEN GET INVOLVE WITH THESE KIND OF STUFF.
666187
That is far too little info posted to make that determination...but if you feel the fantasies are interfering with your everyday life or are keeping you from pursuing healthy realities, speak with a professional. They will help you work out your doubts.
402091
Control comes from between our ears! Use your mind properly and soooo many phobias/addictions will go away. YOU are responsible for your own thoughts. Take control of them and direct them in a positive way.
459205
I haven't figured it out yet... and I'm not really working on it either, seems as though life has molded me into thinking dirty thoughts more than I thought I would.\n\nBut in times when no dirty thoughts are happening these are the situations: Word Hard, be stressed about your job, think about your current money situation and how you can accomplish and afford your holiday you need, think about you parents... (that one ought to scare the hell out of you), family etc... those are the times that dirty thoughts never come to mind
1096436
Here are a few ideas to ponder:\n\n1. God gave you sexual desires to help in your future marriage and ultimately to glorify Him. The desires aren't bad, but pointed in the wrong direction, as thoughts often are, they become sinful.\n\n2. Treat these desires like the habit of over-eating. The right kind of food is good in moderation, but when you binge or constantly crave food, it becomes your drug or even your god respectively.\n\n3. Think of the particular females who are currently the object of your lust as people who need your unselfish, godly love. Ask yourself what their greatest needs are, and minister to them. I wish I had done the same when I was in your stage in life (not long ago).\n\n4. Since the problem is bigger than you are, don't keep it a total secret. Confide in God and in a friend or two you can trust, who will hold you accountable.\n\n5. Don't just stop thinking about girls and sexual stuff. Replace these thoughts with godly thoughts. Carry around a stack of memory verses, for example.\n\n6. You're already so far ahead of most Christian men your age because even to strangers in this forum, you can express the problem honestly. Way to go, brother!
191607
Think BEFORE you react.  When you feel that twinge of jealousy creeping upon you, breathe in deeply and try to clear your mind.  Try to take your thoughts to another place, or another time in your life where you felt happiness and satisfaction like never before, i.e. maybe as a kid at an amusement park.  This is a little trick called thought transference, you take your mind away from the situation at hand and think about something else to remove the thoughts you don't wish to think of from your mind.  Good Luck!!!
508241
THE ONLY SOLUTION I CAN COME UP WITH IS TO PRAY. WHEN YOU FEEL THAT THERE IS TO MUCH YOU CAN'T CONTROL, JUST GET ON YOUR KNEES AND PRAY, AS LONG AS YOU BELIEVE IN HIM EVERYTHING WILL ALWAYS WORK OUT FOR THE BEST!!