My husband has been impotent for about of seven and a half years. What do I do? Nothing gross, please.?
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First I must ask you. did you marry your husband out of Love? Second and I'm asking this because I was raised LDS(Mormon) And sex was very forbidden but we did kiss Didn't you ever Kiss? If you did didn't you notice his lack of arousal? It sounds as if he has no physical problem, but a mental one. I say that because I know how it is to be raised in a religion that believes sex is bad, It is a sin to want to make love to a women unless it is for procreation and therefore it is wrong to let yourself succumb to natural desires. My Father was a Mormon Bishop (God rest his soul) We had this discussion over sex many times. I asked him how God felt about it and his answer was always, What goes on in the bedroom between husband and wife stays in the bedroom. But you have not said if you and your husband ever talked about having children. Maybe he he is afraid of that or maybe and excuse me for saying this, but maybe he is Gay?  I've given you my answers and I don't think you are wrong for wanting to get out. A man and a woman need to have the same goals. It sounds like the problem is with your husband even if he can't get an erection there is other ways to please you. I tried to not be to gross. Hope I was able to help. God bless and you take care. Reed wrwoodall@yahoo,com
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Go to the Health Department. You do not need to tell anyone about this EXCEPT any sexual partners that you have had (they have a right to know so that they can be treated also). The Health Department will probably want to give you medications, in a shot and in tablet form also. If you have any allergies to medicines please tell the health department what you are allergic to BEFORE they give you medication! Take ALL of the medicine as you are told. Go to the drug store and buy some condoms or the Health Department may have some to give your for free! It is by far cheaper for them to give out condoms than it is to treat a bunch of people with venereal diseases! \n\nLook, do you want to keep your penis? Do you ever want to be able to father a child when you are older? (Because FYI some venereal diseases can cause damage to your testicles so that you will be unable to father children! Or the disease can even affect your ability to get and maintain an erection!) Nobody wants to have a limp noodle! \n\nIn the future before you put your precious penis anywhere besides your own clean hand, gently roll a condom on him, if you do not know how, they will probably offer to show you at the Health Department! As you are putting on the condom remind your partner, that the condom is so you can both be safe and healthy. \n\n**If you do not take all of the medications as YOU are told, then the infection can come back and when it does it may not be as easy to be rid of it. If they want you to come in for a follow up exam, go. They are only trying to make certain that you are healthy and cured from the infection!\n\nGood luck, you should be able to avoid this problem in the future if you use condoms. If you want to stay healthy and keep your penis from literally falling off, you will use the condoms EVERY TIME until you are married to a woman that you KNOW is healthy (and you can hope is faithful to you)!  \n\nThis time is may be something as simple as Gonorrhea or a Urinary Tract Infection or Non-Specific Urethritis that you have picked up from unprotected sex. Many people do not know that you can also have Gonorrhea in your throat, so if you have been diving, you might want them to do a throat culture swab too. Think about this experience before you ever put your thing in anything or anyone else again! The next disease you catch may not go away with just a shot and a few pills, when you get HIV, you will be taking hands full of medicines and you will probably still die! Sex is great, but is it really worth dying a slow lingering contagious ugly death at a very young age?  Please think before you hump in the future! You will be glad you did!
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its actually a pretty common problem, he probably has ED (erectile dysfunction). There are meds that REALLY work, i think cialis is best. he probably will be pretty sensitive to talking about it, so bring it up gently. you don't want to be plagued with this your whole marriage. also, you need to be able to communicate about EVERYTHING, even sensitive topics like this. good luck!
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You can try Tantra or you can go to a sex shop and purchase a penile ring. It really helped my man. Another way I helped my man is when he felt he was going to ejaculate, pull out and I would hold the head firmly until the feeling would subside and resume intercourse. I kept doing this and now he is a monster!
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was he not like this when you married him?\n\nor has he slumped down badly into this habit of not washing?!\n\ni know it sounds horrible, but you have to tell him.\n\ni really believe that when people dont wash for so long they dont realise that they smell. its like if you have perfume on for a long time other people can smel it but you cant, cos you are so used to the smell.\n\nbut he should have cottoned onto the fact that it is wrong and he should be making the effort.\n\nno matter how hard it is you have to give him an ultimatum and put it to him that either he washes more frequently or thats it.\n\nsleepin in a spare bedroom without sex and attention isnt a good relationship for anyone to be in.\n\ngood luck
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you are describing a serious issue. he has a problem and won't change it or admit to it. The denial is bad enough but there are under laying darker problems.. I'd just dump that..he has a form of sexual addiction.. not a good one either
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i see what yu mean. but..... i  don't know if you had the same volves. as me , but mine said in  sickness and in health.. just as it says  in  sickness and in    health...  honey, i know it's hard, but   we have to  endure. my husband  has not given me sex   for 20 years because  of a medical  problem. some times i question   that medical  problem but  i   have to live with it. i masterbate to  fulfill. you may have to  too.  it get old. you can only imagine so much.  i  wish  somehow we could met and satisfy each   other. good luck  humming.....you   want   to get in  touch  with me, my email :tootalljones@yahoo.com we can have im sex want to. im is the   same .yahoo IM down load it.
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I am a therapist and I know exactly what you are going through. I have treated many couples with this problem. Fifteen to twenty times a week is a bit excessive and that places you guys in the top 5% statistically. It is 100% humanly possible and normal to have sex many times a week as you describe. Now, what is not normal is that by doing so you submit your body to great discomfort. Sex is meant to be an enjoyable experience. If 15 to 20 times a week is not enough for your husband then that reveals that he definitely has a problem that needs to be addressed. If he is not taking any stimulating substance to increase his libido, which he obviously does not need, he is currently going through a chemical imbalance. He may or may not require medical treatment at the organic level. From what you described about him, I don't think he requires any psychological evaluation. Prepare a nice dinner for the two of you. Talk this out with him. Explain to him how you feel and how your current sexual activities are interfering with your body and your ability to function normally in daily life. Ask him if he has taken any substance that may have caused this change in behavior. Also mention to him that you would love to have sex with him at the rate of 15 to 20 times weekly that you are comfortable with. I am sure that he will understand.
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Check with his Dr  before using the answers for medical advice.  Nobody here really knows your husbands condition
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You said it in your question, he's stressed at work.  I know from personal expirience that stress can kill any sexual relations and about him not lasting long, that is an effect of stress also.\n\nSomething that you and your husband should do, is if you have kids, leave them with grandma & grandpa, for a few days and you and your husband even if it's in town, get a motel room, or just spend time together at home.  Have him take time off work so he can relax and spend time alone with you.  Help him take his mind off things and unwind from the stress.  Give him a bath, or if there is room for the 2 of you, take a bath together.  Also talk with him about your concerns.  Also let him know that he can sexually satisfy you in other ways than penetration.  \n\nI know from expirience, I was in a job where I was stressed out and for my wife and I, our lovelife took a major hit in the bedroom.  So I can understand where your coming from.  Hope that this helps you out.\n\nTake care and God Bless
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Try new things!!!  Anything outside whatever.  Do spontaneous things men like that.  Such as giving him a BJ while he's driving or watching TV.  Just drop drawers whenever.  Thats how my wife keeps me going spontaneous acts of sex that come from nowhere.  Hope this helps.
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Maybe he should try an energy enhancement, like Red Bull. It'll help him get thru the evening without falling asleep on you. You don't believe in masturbating?? I think he's not the one with issues here. I'm sorry, if my hubby couldn't perform for me, after a few days, I have to do something. I have toys, plus do the other stuff. Women have needs, and there's nothing wrong with masturbation, unless you have no idea how to do it....Its perfectly normal and healthy to masturbate!....GL;)
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pumps (omg the penis is bigger after being pumped lmao yeah he just lost wood of course it is) and pills are all a gag... surgery is expensive as hell and you cannot have sex afterward for like 6-12mo and risk being impotent for the rest of your life if they slip up and even then risk getting the porn cock that sticks out limp.\nVitamin B and zinc improve bloodflow and you can try kegel exercises (flexing for 5 count and realeasing for a 5 count repeating) for 5 min a few times a day
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First go out and get a  protective cup, and a bat. Then go to your wife head hung down in shame tell her and hand her the bat and tell her to have at the groin. After the therapy and learning to walk and pee standing up again, you'll have been about 2 years without sex and not have to worry about doing anything so stupid again.
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Well Mr. "I can't get it up, and its all my wife's fault",  just imagine how disappointed she is in you!!! \n\nSeems to me, you have real sexual and marrital problems. \n\nI've heard of cases like yours in which the man has extreme difficulty performing with a real woman because he has spent so much time being aroused and ejeculating to pornography.  \n\nIn his mind now, women, who are nothing more than sex objects, have to have perfect bodies, like in the pictures to be sexually arousing.   \n\nPlus because he's had so much fake easy pornography sex, he's DISCONNECTED from bonding emotionally with a real woman-- sexually or otherwise.  \n\nThis creates all sorts of sexual problems in his relationships, that manifest themselves in different ways, like blaming lack of erection on the physical appearance of his wife's boobs.  \n\nWith the ease of access and increased use of pornography many psychiatrists, pastors/rabbis, and marriage counselors are reporting a huge spite in patients with your very problem. (check it out)\n\nYou have a couple of choices now.  \n\n1) You could go ahead and change your wife.  Have her get her boobs fixed so that it is pleasing to you, Have her wear sexy lingerie, and promise not to walk around naked in front of you.  \n\nBut what happens if her body changes again?  When she gets pregnant? older? gains weight? loses weight?  \n\nDo you just plan to stop loving her again?  \n\nSex in marriage is most fulfilling because it is an expression of love, dependence, and trust, as well as getting your physical needs met.  Qualities that are not based on physical appearance.  \n\nI'm not minimizing the importance of looking and smelling good for your mate, On the contrary, I believe it is important, I just think in your case its more serious than that.  \n\nSo since I doubt this is the heart of your real problem, getting your wife "fixed" is not going to keep it "up" for you.  \n\nEven with her body perfect, eventually you'll have another erection problem, begin fantasizing about other people and then justify having affairs.  \n\n2) Your second option and the recommended one, is that you  seek counseling to determine the real root of this problem and to resolve it within yourself.  \n\nThis will help save your marriage, and check to see if you are healthy enough to be fulfilling and fulfilled in an intimate relationship.  \n\nRight now you are feeling like you made a mistake getting married or got deceived somehow.  Not only is this most likely faulty thinking, these feelings you have will be detrimental to your marriage.\n\nGo talk to a specialist and get it checked out before you invest a few grand on a boob job.\n\nAlso, make sure you talk to your wife about this.  But a word of caution.  Be very careful about how you approach her with this. \n\nSticks and stones can break your bones, but your words can destroy.
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You could try a few things, some of which you might find awful, but I'll list a few.  Others can add to the list:\n\nMake sure he finds YOU to be good in bed.\n\nGet sex ed books, tapes, DVDs.  Read & watch with him.\n\nTry using porn.  Show him what you like on the movie.\n\nGo to sex therapy.\n\nGo to regular old marriage counseling.\n\nI wish you all the best.  I'm sorry if some of my answers sound crude, but sometimes, crude works.
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EXPLORE!!!\nalso,make sure he gives you lots of kisses(everywhere),plenty of oral & finger f(u)k'ng...then you can wet his whistle till dry!!!when he regains his erection(by you licking on the sickle)he should be able to hang for another half hour or so.\nTell his lazy butt to add endurance exercise to his daily routine,eat raw veggies,& good source of protein(not alot red meat)...if you need more contact me!!!!!!!!!!!