Do you tell your mom that is appreciated and loved? I hope so?
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Yes, I make sure to tell her every time I see her. She keeps pretty busy with her job, but I like to tell her that I love her and appreciate all she does for me.
570898
yep, i told her this morning.  to honor my mother, i brought her myself, wife, two daughters, and our hound dog.  we all wished her a happy mother's day before i gave her a new comp, which i'm using to type this answer.  sorry about your falling-out with your mom.  i hope it is not too late for you both.  good luck - you seem like a nice guy.
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My mom led a double life.  My dad suspected, but couldn't prove it.  She encouraged him to take his anger out on me, and he did because it was easier than to actually deal with her.\n\nAll my life, she told me that Dad's rages were my fault and that if I were better, he wouldn't hurt any of us.  She let me feel guilty for the times when he would lose it with her.  She stood by when he would lose it with me, and then later tell me what I should have done better so that I could have prevented it.\n\nShe's told me all my life that I don't love her enough.  That I don't try hard enough, but all my life she's had that secret.   How close could she let me get?\n\nShe asked me to come home with her and my dad one day.  On the car ride to their house, she confessed her double life.  She should have told Dad first.  It was then that it clicked with me that I had always been sort of a human shield.\n\nEven after she admitted her lifestyle, and that she had set me and my dad against each other all those years, she judged me for how I handled her confession.  My forgiveness wasn't good enough.  She thought I should immediately comfort and reassure her.\n\nI have forgiven her.  I doubt that I've done it to suit her, exactly.  She wants me to go back to feeling responsible for her happiness, and I'm not going back there.  Ever.\n\nBut I do want what's best for her.  I pray for her wellbeing.  I have tried to help her work things out with my dad.  I begged them to get counseling.\n\nI know I have forgiven her because I don't want her to make the past up to me.  I don't feel like she owes me anything.  When good things happen for her, I'm happy for her.\n\nI've also accepted that we're never going to have a close relationship because for whatever reason, she can't do that without requiring me to take responsibility for her actions.  I've accepted that that's where she is right now.  I hope that if she changes in the future, we can have a better relationship, but for now I can be respectful even when she's petty.  I can keep myself from sinking to her level in a disagreement.\n\nI know I still love her, even though she's hurt me deeply.  \n\nI highly recommend "Boundaries Face to Face" by Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Henry Cloud if you're struggling with forgiveness.  There's a difference between forgiveness and trust or reconciliation, and they go into that in depth.  Unfortunately, some people let the guilt of their offenses cause them to turn outward instead of inward and they judge those they hurt rather than taking responsibility.  Their focus is on you behaving differently toward them, rather than on them needing to change hurtful patterns of behavior and showing "fruit worthy of repentance."  Don't let someone bully you into believing that you must meet their standards of forgiveness in order to have really forgiven.\n\nForgiveness can be so difficult, but it's possible.  And it's necessary for you to be free from the hurt.  Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.  It unties you from the trauma.
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My Mom told me she loved me.\n\nFriend told me that whenever she calls me she feels better\n\nIt was not a teacher but I hope my boss is ok he told me to make sure that we are shoing up to work on time and that I am very upbeat with my customers this calms them down right a way.\n\nMy mother in law told me that I am a slob. She was not kidding. But please understand I am not a slob it is her son I live with remember. It is hard enough to clean up after myself not to mention my son and hubby.\n\nMy brother told me he was proud of me.\n\nMy son (2 years) told me he wants to marry me. Ok I know children were not part of teh question but I had to tell someone.
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aha,lol.good one.i guess your mom will love the poem,go for it!
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Tell her calmly after some good news, so she'll be so happy with the other thing that she wont really pay attention to that. Tell her how great he is and introduce them sometime, but tell him to act like a gentleman and not to try to act up, cause I don't think your mom will like that.
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My father died when I was very young, so I wouldn't know, but I have been tolled he did.  My MOM, when I was young she loved me, in her own way, she supported us and provided what we needed, as she saw fit.  But her support to us was not equally distributed, she favored some of us over another, also, she would think she is bringing us together, but in reality she split us apart.  It is a wonder that my siblings and I didn't kill each others long time ago.\nShe was a beautiful woman, who in her way thought was doing the right things to us, but many times turns out to be the contrary.  In her eyes the world revolve around her, not the sun.  This might sound harsh, but you got to know the woman to understand what went around.  She may have loved us, in her way, conditional Love.  One of her fave statement, "may you have a kid just like you!"  Thank God, I did.\n\nWhat do you think of a mother who leaves you in a hospital after an operation, never calls you to check on you or to see if you are still alive?!!!  my husband tried several times to speak to her about what happened to me, and she didn't even return his call!!  a Loving mother, I don't think so. that is my mother.
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If you love your mother you would tell her plain and simple.  She gave birth to you and brought you into this world at least give her respect and the curtesy of knowing the truth!
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Have you accepted her into your family?  Been nice and helpful to her?  Talked to her, done things for her?
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If it were my mom, I'd start off by thanking her for giving me life, and for the many years of toil and sacrafice.  I'd tell her what an inspiration she has been to me and that she has always been the wind beneath my wings.
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I know it's hard to sometimes show love and affection when you're not used to saying it or have been shown love, But she is ur mother and consider ur self lucky..My mother died when I was 2 1/2 yrs old and I had my father who wasn't very loving, I knew he loved me, but he never told me until now ... I'm 20yrs old and Everytime we talk he says I love you....but it took us long enouf to say those three little words...which I hoped I had that when I was growing up. Love you're mom no matter what ...say I love you to her....be thankful and lilttle by little things can get better!!!
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there is not enough room on here to type how much i love my mother,she has gone to be with our father in heaven,but i can tell you this about mom..quite simply,when we were happy(her 6 children)she was happy,when we were sad,she was sad.and when we were angry,she would do everything in her power to help us so we were'nt...wow...i'm starting to get a little emotional..lol..see what you did.THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for such a lovely question,you take care and GOD bless you..your friend bill.
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I love my mother, I used to never get along with her, Till I attempted suicide and had a near death experiences and realized she's helped me through everything and she's the only one I can really trust. Plus I wouldn't be alive without her. My moms my hero.
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Your mother is still a human being, she may think you hate her, and imagine if the person you love more than anything started hating you.  How would you feel?  My mother and I have a very rocky past, but In the end, a simply, tear-filled, "I love you" gets the point across.  It sounds like she has her hands full with the house, and is hurt about how you acted.  On the other hand, it also sounds like she isn't quite as forgiving as she should be.  But like I said, she is only human.  I think it is the hardest part of growing up when you find out your mom isn's SuperMom, but a person with her own doubts and feelings.  Hug her, tell her you love her, and walk away.  Just walk away and let her calm down.  Clean a bit, but do it when she isn't looking, since you don't want her to think you are only doing it to get on her good side.  You aren't.  You are doing it because you care...
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Ask your mother, how should we know.
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My Mom she has always been there to be protective, supportive, compassionate, loving and kind.  Even though I have an ongoing phone relationship with My Dad now, He was very abusive while I was growing up.  He refused to come to My High School Graduation, Wedding, doesn't know My Children,  and last but NOT least didn't attend His own Son's Funeral.  Guess I should have just said Mom.
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My mom just passed away may 20th, My mom was a wonderful, loving, kind person with a fantastic sense of humor, everyone liked her! She would talk to just about anyone, complete strangers, She was still young and full of life with a weak heart, she was a mother, grandmother, wife several times, best friend, daughter, aunt, cousin, she was just about everything at some point in her life. My mother was more than a mom to me, she was my absolute best friend, my confident, my copilot, my  teacher ,manager,  doctor, etc...I am sure you must get it, she was everything to me. My mom was one of a kind that is for sure, her unique laugh and smile, personality, I am my mothers daughter! To know her was to love her!