my mom goes into surgery tomarrow to have a full hystorectomy?
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Everything will be just fine. Don't worry, She'll be better in no time.\n\nLove is omnipresence, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
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I have a co-worker that was diagnosed with a severe form of\ncervical cancer even younger than your mom.  She's fine, and\ncan even still have children.\n\nIf you're scared about what this means for your mom (or \nfor yourself) PLEASE talk to your mom's doc, or better \nyet, talk to your mom's doc's nurse.  Cervical cancer is \nNOT necessarily fatal, and in most cases, isn't hereditary.\n\nIf there is an older family member (an aunt, maybe?) you\nare comfortable with discussing this with, I'd recommend it.\nBut yes, your wanting more information, and maybe even being\nscared about your mom's diagnosis is TOTALLY NORMAL.\nDon't let people blow you off when you want information.
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Hi. I am an oncology nurse experienced with breast cancer. Congratulate your mother on catching her breast cancer. It sounds like she caught it early. It is ok to be scared. The best way to deal with this is to find out all you can about your mom's diagnosis and what her plan of care is. Many of the treatments can have some side effects, which are normal. Your mom should find out about them and be prepared for what to expect. Half the battle of cancer is in the mind. She needs you and your dad to be concerned but also keep a positive attitude. Your mom will be tired during her treatment. You and your dad can help by doing little things like the laundry, cooking and helping around the house so she won't be stressed about that. Also many patients who get chemo like to have a friend or family member there during their transfusion. Offer to be there. Cancer is not easy but what it can do is really remind you how much you love each other. Just be there, tell your mom you love her and ask her what she needs. Also be nice to your dad. This is sometimes harder for the guys even if they don't show it. Good luck and God bless <><
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Please speak to her oncologist about it.  He is the only one who can tell you what is going to happen and what the treatment options will be for her.  You can visit when your sister attends and ask all the questions you have then.\n\nGive your sister the most support you can because she really needs it and she'll appreciate it so much.  Cancer patients are so fragile and scared themselves so you need to be thinking about the future for them and letting them know how much you care and are excited to share it with them.\n\nFact is that cancer progresses in stages and the earlier it is discovered, the easier a time the patient will have either getting rid of it entirely or getting it under control:\n  \n- Getting rid of it entirely is difficult but could allow her to return to a pretty much normal life assuming an operation was successful at getting all the cancerous cells.  \n\n-Keeping it under control depends on a persons genetics and how they react to the drug treatments and can decrease life expectancy to only a number of years, although it can happen that a normalish life (outside the drugs/hormone treatment) could be possible.\n\nSorry for your news, cancer takes front and center stage whenever it appears.
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I am sorry about your sister I wish her the best over the next few years Dealing with a hysterectomy is not an easy process she will be spending the next few years adjusting and changing You as her sister be prepared not only physical changes but emotional and psychological watch for possible bouts of depression.  I went through the same thing and even though I was ok with the idea thought about the positives every one said I seemed to have a good frame of mind for it and a humorous outlook on it but when it comes down to it I am a basket case because of it I have learned of so many sideeffects of the hysterectomy that I was not prepared for If I can do anything My prayers are with her and you
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Make sure you get a second opinion, and even a third opinion if you want.  This is a surgery that will not only make you unable to have kids, but change the way you feel.  You will probably choose to have hormone replacement therapy.  Three people in my family have had hysterectomy's.  They did not develop man-like characteristics or any of those problemsn that are rumoured.  Do what's best for you to lead a pain-free life, and a life where you aren't having to go to the Dr. all the time.  If you haven't had any children, or want to have more, ask about getting some of your eggs harvested.  They can be saved and then fertilized and carried by a surrogate.  Some Dr.'s won't tell you about this option so ask around.  Whatever you choose to do, good luck.
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no,she will never.stop worries,it can be easily healed even without surgery.its great that you love your mother so much,keep that up till the end.show this answer to your mom & i am sure that she will treat herself for the sake of the ammount you love her.i pray to Allah almighty to cure your mom soon.
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Not a bad idea  for me Olivia sinc e I love to eat.  Have  not heard of anyone  doing that type of  surgery but I imagime that it  would be a  extreme risk to do sucha   thing what with all the HCL acids and stuff.
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All of those are questions that should be directed to her surgical and chemotherapy teams. Asking questions like this on this forum will likely only leave you more anxious than before you asked the question. Get info from the experts.
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That could be due to scar tissue "pulling" on her insides or she may just have a prolapsed bladder and need it to be tacked up. I havent had a hysterectomy but had kidney surgery and sometimes the scar tissue inside my body tends to pull and it hurts. I did have prolapsed bladder at 16 tho and had to have it tacked up, then again after childbirth. When the bladder falls down a bit, as is common with aging, it puts extra pressure on it, we have to urinate more often and tend to get bladder infections more often that are also harder to clear up than otherwise. My Mom had a complete hysterectomy and she said her bladder seemed to "pull" a lot afterwards for quite some time. If you Mom or you are worried have her talk to her Ob-Gyn and if there is cause for alarm he/she can check her out. If her bladder is prolapsed, she can be sent to a Urologist. Hope that helps.
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This is your decision.  What are you comfortable with?  If you think it is time for your mom to wait in the waiting room, you need to let her know that.  \n\nAs a mom of grown up children, I went in with them to doctors, dentists, etc. until I was certain they could take care of themselves - I knew of many cases of children being sexually taken advantage of by all kinds of adults in positions of power, authority, and control, so I wanted to know what was going on with my kids when they were alone with other adults.  \n\nYour mom probably just hasn't really thought about it and probably doesn't really want to notice that you are growing up and don't need her in the same kind of ways now that you are more mature.  Take care.
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Have you consulted your husband? Most of those surgeries go well but anytime you have any surgery there is a danger.\n\nMy wife and I talked about it for her and my choice was for her not to do it but I told her I would support her if she did. She decided against it because it turns out she wanted to do it mainly for me. She is beautiful and didn't need to risk her life for a small problem with her tummy.
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Registered Nurse Here; Mild cases of prolapsed bladder, usually respond well to non surgical treatment.  The prolapsed bladder, should improve, possible completely with keagel excercises, providing the physician or nurse went over with your mom how to preform, (one just sqeezes the muscles to stop the flow of urination, hold it for 20 to 30 seconds and repeat, 10 to 20 times, 5 to 6 times a day).  Surgery is usually a permenant fix, however for whatever reason it prolapsed this time, could certainely happen again.  Any Surgery is Risky, all though safe the vast majority of time, however your mother is only 56 years old, and if she needs surgery within the next 10 years or so, if other disease or disease process is not present, she certainely has time to try a more conservative approach, such as excercises, no lifting.  As for as the cost of the surgery, hospital fees, etc.  Approxiametly 15,000 to 20,000.  Hopefully your mom has insurance, the cost of health care is staggering it is so high.  Thanks for the opportunity to address your question.  I hope this helped.  Take Care, and best of luck to your mom.
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My mother had hers removed 3 times.
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Hi Andreah, My best advice to you is to use your common sense here...just call your doc.  The doctor who performed your hysterectomy will be glad you called and they will let you know what is the safest bet.  You have surely been put on an antibiotic from your surgery.  This leaves your body low on healthy bacteria that usually would be eating the natural yeasts from the foods we eat.  For now eat a yogurt (with active cultures) which contain a very small level of healthy bacteria, and call your doctor they will let you know what is right for you.  Heres to the amazing ecosystem the human body!! Good luck.
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This is a relatively simple and safe surgery. I had my gall bladder removed a few years ago. You may want to ask your doctor about special diet considerations after the surgery as sometimes the fat in my body doesnt metabolize since the surgery. This varies from person to person. All will be well with your mom =) Its a very simple procedure and I was back to work the next day.
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You will need to help your friend with walking to the bathroom...\nEither rent a walker on wheels or get her a cane or rent a wheelchair, something she can get through doors in her house...\n\nShe will be very stiff after surgery and need help with everything from cooking dinner to taking a shower to going to the potty to laying down when sleepy...\n\nAll these things will require at least 2 weeks of help for her...\nShe should be recovered enough after 2 weeks to be able to move on her own...\n\nWhen I had my surgery, my husband took off 2 weeks of vacation to help me...\nI couldnt do my laundry or cook or clean or feed the pets or water my plants...\nIt is horrible how simple things you take for granted seem so hard after surgery...\n\nShe also needs to stay on schedule with her pain meds and any other meds she may be on...\n\nShe will need help getting dressed and it may be hard for her to raise her arms over her head...\n\nIt will take a true dedicated friend to help out with what all she needs...\n\nIt is a trying time for her and her helper...\nIt gets frustrating that she can barely walk...\nIt is a hard time that's for sure...\n\nBe prepared to do her chores for her like getting out the trash or feeding pets or helping her get showered or dressed or fed...\n\nYou will need to make sure she does not pick up anything heavy...\nIf you are a true friend, please help her all you can...\nIf not and she is alone, she could fall...\n\nIf her insurance allows for a nurse to come to her home, that would be good too...