I just broke up with my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years, any advice on how to move on easier?
349883
i know how u feel...it sux putting in that much time and winding up where u were before u met her....my best advice is to go out and meet new people...go to the mall, bar, library, or even a grocery store...but whatever u do dont jump into another relationship just to fill the void u have now...
845912
Breaking up with a GF. That pained me greatly.
103685
well first of all find your weekness. and work on that and become strong.., good things come to those who wait. I was in a 2 yr relashionship.. and i healed. time does heal all things. Life does get better. tell you the truth.. you'll go with other relashionships.. you just wont last long.. because when that happens.., you start to not want long relashionships since.. the last one failed. Just find things that occupy your time.. and Think about someone that would actually be with you., and Not walk away.. without any feelings at all. you two just werent meant to be.. think of it that way.. that way got me.. keep searching for that one.. even if you dont right away.. I promice you all the same. youll find her. alot of times. if you dont look, she will find you. and i sense that she dumped you.., if she had any heart at all.. She wouldnt have done that. think about that Too. one day you will get over it. i did.
989721
it'll take time to get over someone. let time heal your wounds and go out and have fun with your friends. that always helps. if you have pics of her hanging on your wall,....take em down. put it in a box and just move on. you'll find a much better love as you move on and you may think back on this one day and think "what was i thinkning?".
606738
I am sorry to say but when one of you moves on it will make things alot easier. I was in a similar situation and my g/f was stealing my limelight. She was prettier and cuter and it was tough on our relationship. If you can move on you will find a huge burden in your relationship ease. \nMy g/f moved on and I got employee of the month less than two months later.\nI wish you the best.
236304
Wow, sounds insecure!  Definitely move on.  Aren't you glad she was the one moving out?!?!?!  It made the whole breaking up process a heck of alot easier on your part!
633750
You will get over it.It takes time.Try to do something to help yourself get on with life.You will never love the same way again.Each time will be different.But you will find another wonderful person to fill that void.If you two broke up I am sure that you can find someone who will be the girl friend of your dreams.It all takes time.
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You have to remember "there's a reason why exes are exes". I'm sure you remember why you broke up and what went wrong with the relationship. Remind yourself.\n\nKeep contact with her to a minimum - be polite but don't get involved in long conversations.\n\nOf course, if you're going to run into her socially, you could bring along a female friend (it doesn't have to be someone you're dating). That way she gets the idea that you've moved on and are taken, which kind eliminates the situation...
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How to Get Over a Break Up\n\nWant to know how to get over a break up? Here are six secrets to help you get your life together and move on!\nDifficulty: Hard\nTime Required: Two Weeks to Three Months\n\nHere's How:\n\n1. Bond with other Singles.\n      At any given time, you probably have a mix of friends in loving relationships as well as those searching for love. Don't be afraid to look-up single friends you haven't seen or spoken to in awhile and make plans for Friday and Saturday night. You'll stay busy on the weekend and maybe even rekindle an old friendship.\n\n2. Start a Social Hobby.\n      If there is a hobby or activity you have been meaning to try for the first time, or take-up again, this is your chance. Focus on activities that allow you to meet new and interesting people. Examples might include a cooking class, sports league, or bridge club.\n\n3. Go Easy on the Next Person you Meet.\n      Beware of continuing unfinished business with the next person you meet. If you didn't have a chance to truly close the door on your last relationship, don't project your open issues on the next unsuspecting soul. See the new person as a clean slate and allow the relationship to unfold with no connections to your past.\n\n4. Don't Sling Shot your Ex.\n      It can be very tempting, particularly on lonely nights, to look up your ex or accept an invitation from your ex for a rekindle. The more you fall back on your old ways, the harder it will be to truly move on. Don't fall for the short term satisfaction of a night out or easy hook-up at the expense of stirring up all the hurt from the breakup.\n\n5. Apply What You've Learned.\n      Take out a journal and write down everything that went well versus what could have been better in your relationship. Be honest since you're the only one looking at the entry. What could you do better next time? What positive traits did your ex possess that you should look for in the next relationship, or maybe even incorporate into your own style?\n\n6. Talk About Something Else.\n      Everyone goes through a period of venting to their friends and family about what went wrong and how your ex deserves to go straight to prison. It's okay to do a little venting, but spare your inner circle from an endless tirade for months at a time. Commit to yourself that the next time you call a close friend, you'll focus exclusively on them. This will help you get out of your head
398231
You need to do the things that lit the spark the first time around and show her that your are serious. If you just sit and talk about getting back together then it more than likely won't happen. Send her flowers, show her you care because more than likely her feelings were hurt when you broke up with her.
80981
did you talk and explain to her why you broke up with her. communication is very important. you should talk to her. stay come and try to step into her shoes. if that dont help well than its something she has to get through but atleast you know you made an effort. its like what is that saying you can lead the horse to the water but you cant make it drink.
1105913
It depends on why you broke up.  Did you break up with her or her with you?  Was there infidelity involved?\n\nUnfortunately I do not have enough info from your question to help you, other than the regular - Send flowers.... I made a mistake... Beg...etc
605636
Only time and the realisation that you can live without her will stop your heart from hurting,surround yourself with friends and family and keep yourself busy sweetie,good luck.
129338
While it is to easy to succumb to the emotional anguish that is consuming you at this early stage you must put a few bricks up to get through it. Do not drive yourself insane with analizing the last five years. Enlist a support group, best friends, family etc. Go out to the movies, nothing romantic, just a good comedy, horror, action you get the point. Invite some friends over for a dinner party or skip the dinner and just party. Ask each of them to bring a new friend, someone you've never met. Meeting new people is a stimulant. Involve yourself in your favorite activities or hobbies to keep your mind occupied. Submerse yourself in some great books. Pamper yourself a little go on a shopping trip, but something fun and frivolous. Keeping busy is the best thing. Of course the nights will be the roughest. Go ahead and allow yourself to think about her if she comes to mind while you are trying to drift off to sleep. It is part of the healing process. Cry if need be, tears are the cleansing of our soul. Eventually the sorrow will subside. While I think it is important to surround yourself with good friends and meet new people just don't hook up with anyone. Five years is a long time to be with someone, you'll need to take a good year being single to rediscover who you are before enerting the dating game. Have fun, and remember it's ok to have your ups and downs. You'll be fine and who knows in the near future you may come to think the break up was a good thing, usually when one door closes it's because another is getting ready to open. Old cliche I know but it is so true.
1002198
My advice too you man is too accept that you 2 are finished and move on! go out with friends and do stuff you know? dont listen to any love songs cuz it will remind you of her! dont sob over this too much! yeah 20 months is a hella long time too date and break up like that! but you have to move on and not look back!
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1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
1015084
It is difficult I know.  Been there and done that and its not much fun.  You just have to be patient.  Find someone else to share some time with. Someone out there is worthy of your love and efforts.  Time heals all wounds and this is going to take some time.  In the meantime while your wounds are healing, find a hobby, join a gym, or take a evening class, anything to get you out of your blues.  Mingle with others and find someone else that you like and before long it will be easier for you to think about her and not be upset.  It wont be easy, but you will be ok and you will be a stronger person in the long run from all of this.  Yes a closure would be a nice thing to have but some people dont like confrontations or goodbyes.  Dont beat yourself up over it.  Learn from it and consider it a chapter in your life and start working on a new chapter.  Good Luck!!  And yes, this is normal feelings when you get dumped or something doesnt seem to have ended as it is "suppose to".  Lots of unanswered questions still in your head, rehashing over and over.  Best thing to do is go on with your life and cherish the memories you had and concentrate on making new ones.  Old saying is "when one door closes, another one opens".  Dont be so into your sadness that you miss an opportunity.