Why do stay-at-home mother's get the guilt trip because they stay at home?
338072
I agree 100% with you and went through this when I stayed at home with my two children. It seemed like every time people asked me what my occupation was, and I answered a stay at home mother, they would look at me funny or laugh and say "That's not an occupation!" Uhm...yea it is, do you think that your clothes wash, dry and fold themselves? Do you think that your children learn morals and etiquette from daycare or society? Is your food not on the table and the house clean when you come home? That was usually my response.\n\nI really got nicked when I began college four years after staying at home. I was challenged by every professor I had. They would taunt me about being a few minutes late or asking to leave early. We have other things to do as well as take care of our self...we have children.\n\nBut you know what? It's all worth it in the end because we get to laugh at the parents in the store when their child is having a fit on the ground (because our children are taught discipline) and we get to see our children do the best they can all the time because we instilled this in them!\n\nIt gets better! Good choice in staying at home and making your children the best they can be!
69770
Mostly it is the way people are brought up that gives them the idea that a woman's place is in the home.  Psychology has a lot to do with that thought.  Everyone has different backgrounds and experiences in life that make them agree or disagree with that debate.  I as a woman dont feel that this statement is necessarily true and feel that a man has the same responsibility over the home as his wife does.  But like I said it all depends on how one was brought up and what ideas they developed on the issue.  For instance, my grandfather made the kids do everything in the house and would ask them to let my grandmother rest.  My mother then developed the idea that she should be a helpful housewife, unlike her mother.  My father, seeing that my mother did everything in the house, never lifted a finger in the house.  I grew up thinking how unfair that was of my father and believe that both should clean up around the house and look after the kids as well as both have the responsibility to work and pay the debts.  Thankfully my husband feels the same way!!!  LOL  We both make a mess, we should both pick it up!  We both spend money, we both should earn it!!
131562
people generally regret it and feel guilt
1021185
Could be he just wants to feel independant...and not thought of as a "mama's boy"...or perhaps things at home aren't going as well as he wants you to believe...and has withdrawn because of it. I prefer being alone myself quite often...and have been known to shut out family members at times...without thinking of how it may make them feel. I don't really have any suggestions except to continue being there for him...and hope that eventually he'll open up to you about what the true reason is for his distancing himself. Good luck! :)
1043252
i hate being home to.  do whatever you can so you never have to live there and get yourself some good roomates.  when i used to have to move home for the summer i got a cat so that she was my little buddy and an escape for me. my mom's the same as yours as far as morals go.  just keep your mouth shut and deal with it because telling her what she doesn't want to hear will just cause conflict and make you more depressed.
561886
People I barely know inviting themselves to spend their vacation at my house.\n\nThat's happened SO many times, I feel like having a panic attack just thinking about it.\n\nSOME people just don't know when it's time to leave. SOME, think they can just moonwalk in and take charge of your household.  They complain that you don't have any food that they like and give you advice that you never asked for.  RUDE!\n\nMAN!  Everytime someone calls to let me know that they've invited themselves to move in for a week or two, I cringe and feel like I can't get any air.
1048498
That's what mom's do...and it's probably because she loves you and worries about you!!
710550
I think June is certainly the most commonly used icon to represent that type of parenting. \n\nI absolutely know that you can work and be a good mother.  Staying at home doesn't guarantee anything.
1057037
Hell no, a woman shouldn't feel like she has to stay home.  I grew up in a household where my mother worked, and except for a small stint in prison for manslaughter, I turned out great!\nBut seriously, no, I don't think a woman needs to stay home.  Men should do their piece for child rearing.  Many times, a woman has worked for decades to get a career going, she shouldn't end it just because there's a rugrat
813380
Well they work so well for the people that let it. For instance if there's someone in your family or that you know that CAN NOT say no, they use guilt trips as their best weapon.  Good for you for not letting them get to you, they are a terrible thing. It's blackmail. ! :)
518216
I had to put my foot down at my mother's house, too. \n\nI started it, I suppose. I would go to visit her almost every weekend, and to work out the frustration of cubicle job, I would do work on her property. I didn't even notice that she started having chores lined up.\n\nThen I had problems with my washer and had brought some laundry with me. Since I didn't have full loads, and as a thank-you for letting me use her water and power, I washed her laundry, too. After my washer was fixed, I didn't bring any laundry, and she gave me a hard time about not doing laundry when I went to visit (my two younger brothers lived with her at the time). I was shocked.\n\nI came right out and told her that I didn't live with her. I told her I loved visiting, and was happy to lend a hand once in a while if she needed it, but that I wasn't a member of her household. I told her my visits to see her were my break from my work-a-day life, and not a part of it.\n\nAnd I visited a little less often.
844702
For some, it's necessary in order to teach them responsibility.  Otherwise, they'd sleep till noon, watch the telly all afternoon, then party all night.  They'd never sign up for college, never get a job, but choose to be on a permanent vacation so long as mom and dad were footing the bill.  This is one example.\n\nWhen their kids are in college, most parents are *happy* to foot the bill, so long as they are taking it serious and making passing grades.
589737
I guess mothers (over their sons) are really nosy...and in terms of the opposite...protective behavior aside...maybe she's looking into how to make herself feel young again? Not too sure...but either way...my gut tells me you should confront the issue and find out what she's really getting out of it...
781961
Well it happened to me last night. I told her to get back to the retirement home and stop bothering me. I said that I'd be by to see her on Mothers Day but only if she stopped calling me more then once a year. That woman needs a hobby other then complaining. "The Nurses are stealing my money" "I have Bed Sores" and Blah Blah Blah
374654
Because parents love their children, and they don't want them to go through the pain they did.  Don't get too stressed, if you make mistakes they will love you anyway.\np.s.  It hurts them when you hurt.
662531
Obviously your mother is trying to manipulate you with that guilt trip. But you have to consider your age and whether or not you have any fiscally stable relatives in the nearby area, or responsible friends.\n Consider why you don't want to move in with her, then you must in the kindest way possible tell her why. Most importantly, you have to have a place to stay before you can have this converstation with her. If that doesn't work, try getting a job if you're having a lot of problems at home.
444485
because their F-lazy and don't give a dam and think their man will take care of everything, just don't care about anything\nexcept the ones that stay home take care of the kids and house until the kids go to school or a good stay at home wife and mother that cares about her family that is not a person like the above