Should I tell my mom that I don't like the gift she bought for me?
351307
One day, if you never say a word, your mom will somehow know you didn't like the necklace. She will reflect on that for a long time, because she will wonder if she ALWAYS seemed unapprachable to you. I mean, if you are not able to tell your mom how much you love the thought of the necklace, but that you want to select a different syle, then who CAN you talk to honestly and openly in this world ? If someone raped you could you tell your mom ? I promise you, the thing that hurts a mother's feelings most is thinking that her daughter is not able to trust her and talk to her about everything in life. Trust your mom. Hug her and ask her to go with you for the exchange.Good luck.
903085
I would not go so far to say that she does not like anything about you.  She just wants the best for you even if it is just the way you dress.  My mom was the same way when i was a kid (not that long ago, i am only 25) and i wanted docs also.  I wore ripped up jeans that were baggy, long tee shirts, flannel shirts and boots. (the pearl jam grunge years) and my mom wanted me to wear cute skirts and dress more fashionable.  It is true that parents just don't understand, but they do love you.  As long as you are a teen living in her house you will but heads about your clothing, friends, music and everything else.  If you don't get anything from this answer i hope you get this.... The minute you move out of the house to college (you better go to college) you will miss your mom so much and she will be your best friend.  You will look back at your teen years and laugh about how you dressed and what you guys argued about.  All parents hate the way their kids dress and it is because they are parents and that is what they are supposed to do.  Don't take your mom's criticism so seriously and just do your own thing (when it comes to clothes). This will change as you get older.  When you are a teen, no one understands you, you don't even understand you and that is perfectly NORMAL (or what ever that is)  Just let it roll off your back and be yourself.  It is good that you don't want to be like everyone else, it shows that you are an independent thinker that doesn't follow the crowd.  The teen years are rough but just be happy that your clothing is all you have to worry about with your mom.  Trust me, so many kids have it much worse.  Your mom needs to understand that your clothing is not a reflection on her, but an expression of who you are and what you represent.  She may be scared that you are trying to represent that you are a druggie (i hope you are not) but sometimes that is parents fears.  You just have to be open with your mom and try to talk to her objectivly about what you wear and what you are doing and let her know that she should be thankful that you are only dressing like a druggie, heheheh, and not one.  I am a mom myself to a 9 month old little boy and i love dressing him like a preppy little man and dread the day when he says he hates the clothes i pick for him and he wants a pair of docs (even though docs are cool) because he will be showing how grown up he is and he is not my little boy anymore.  That is probably how your mom feels to.  Hang in there for a few more years and you will be suprised how different your relationship will be.
604903
What your grandmother is doing is trying to get your mom and you to talk again and be the best of friends by buying you. it is bribery. there is a deeper issue between your grandmother and your mother.she is making you be nice to her so she wont have to deal with her
194807
Just think it shouldn't be YOU the only crying about not having the book.   (I know it probably doesn't go to the extenct of "crying", but I'm just saying).  Like my mom once told me, in a friendship, you shouldn't be the one that's negatively affected by something, because that way you're not getting anything out of the relationship.  Just tell her to buy one herself or for you, or give it back, or tell her that to give it back to you but if she needs it some other time, you'll lend it to her.
614115
I am in the same boat as you Taramar.  i do not get along with my mother very well, and I had a very rough and lonely upbringing.  To this day we rarely talk and do not get along at all.  \n   Even though all this, I still get her gifts for days like Mother's Day and other special days because she is my mom, and despite all the bad feelings I have for her, a part of me loves her.\n   She is not really a bad person, she was just a bad mother, and had issues that she never bothered to deal with.  I understand not being able to forgive, because i feel very much the same way.  Be the bigger person, and get her something.  Spend a few minutes with her if you can, and show her that you are not like her.  \n   Maybe, one day things will change, I know it seems unlikely as I feel that way too, but you never know.\nPeace and Love
1036414
The worst gift I can think of at the moment is a set of colored socks from my mom.  She knows I only wear white socks (I think it looks corny to have your socks match the rest of your clothes).  She got my sister a jewelry box the same year when she knows my sister doesn't wear jewelry.
400688
This is interesting.  Sounds like a one way relationship there.  I am sorry but gifts should not be asked for, they should come from the heart of the person buying them.  A gift is a gift is a gift it should be given out of love not pressure.  Don't feel bad.  There is definately some selfishness going on and you need to decide whether you want to live the rest of your life in a relationship like that.
252659
Be a true giver.  Do not place restriction/s on your gift.  I suggest you buy her a $600.00 piece of gold, like a thick necklace and leave it in the box in which it came and no gift wrap with the receipt inside the stapled store bag.  That is a gift which will be well received and you will have the real satisfaction of having truly given and if she is not fully satisfied with it then she may exchange it for purchasing another or whatever it is that she wants more.  That will please her more than words can say and you will have the satisfaction of having given a real gift without limits placed upon it.  A meaningful hug and kiss/es will add a thing to it.  Have a nice day.
546839
Tell her the truth...If she is a frnd of urs..she will definitely understand u... n pls dnt think of buyin another it might hurt ur frnd n frndship too...well u can gift her same or something better in her next birthday
409059
Grow up!  She's family, and if you have a problem with her, you need to talk to her directly!  Who cares if she is a twin or not??  You need to deal with this issue as soon as you can!  And the right way to deal with it is not to not buy her a present, to show your displeasure with her!
501377
Don't worry..she probably doesn't mean it. She'll take it back later. My mom has told me that a few times.
611344
I think that we all have bought something in our life that we regretted buying.  Sometimes we can return it, other times we have to chalk it up to experience and learn from our impulsive purchase.  Be gentle with yourself, it's OK.
15543
My mother has a boyfriend that I can't stand (he is pulling the - rushing to a widow's aid crap and taking all of her money)... I'll tell you know, he's not getting a thing for Christmas.  And if you feel like you have to get him something, then get a gift more for your mum and just say it's to them both.  Tell them you would have gotten more, but your penny pinching this year.  \n\nGood luck!
1087499
Talk to her...first you need to be honest with yourself if you your usually a bad kid, acknowledge that and tell her how much it hurts you to see you dissapoint her and therefore want help to change. If your whine alot and complain about the world, and claim everything is everyone else fault (which if you are your probably like nope...not me =)) lol, but if she says you are talk to her about the future and how you're maturing and realized that you have to take control and except responsibilities. If your a pretty decent kid though but I guess she doesn't like your BF I honestly think you should listen to her reasons why whether you think she "knows him", if thier superficial reasons like he's not your race or too poor or some bull like that then your mom's an @-- (sry to say) but therefore has no more credibilty on her opinions of people. If it's because your BF is too old, a dog, something like that, your mom has wisdom and experience and trust me she IS right. I don't really know what you n your mom's problem is so I tried touching on random things, hopefully some of thoserandom thing's hit you and it helped, thanks and I hope you and your mom works things out, a girl no matter how old, can never live without her mother =)
116107
Never. A gift was given to you. The giver took an effort to buy you something. That you would give it to someone else as a gift is plain rude.\nYou could use the gift, or donate it to a local shelter for families.\nTo "re-gift" is taking the credit for the effort the giver took to buy you something.
491998
well just think if u were a mom, u would want something personal right? make her a craft or something made from u not pre-made, remember its the thought that counts and most moms like personilized gifts mroe than bought gifts. It shows them u care about them so much u went through all the trouble of making something for them and u put love into it and as u know thats the best gift of all.
315510
Whenever I buy gifts, I buy things that I would want for myself, whether they be cheap or expensive.  What you're doing is fine, but if you're doing it 'coz you expect the same in return, that's wrong. Buy the gifts from the heart, not for show and don't expect the same in return. Not everyone is the same, but do your bit and don't worry about others. Pretty hard to do, but don't stoop as low as others, keep doing your bit....