l love my girlfriend but l don't want to marry.why?
353750
hmm.. DO U LOVE HER?????????????
632910
If you are not so sure then you have to say No.  Tell her you are uncomfortable with it and that it will change the dynamic of your relationship, and not for the better.  Don't give in just to appease her,  you will not respect yourself or her.  If she loves you, she will respect your decision.
877610
If its that important to you that you should be able to be yourselves in public then it MAY not work... however, if your love for each other outweighs this need/want to go public, then you just have agree with her. Its tough for you AND for her as well. She took a RISK for you, by being your girlfriend, even if it harms attaining her dreams...try to look at it from her side, if you still think that being "together outside" is important to you then maybe its time to rethink the relationship.
995503
I think that as long as you think you want to marry her eventually she should be patient.  Marriage is something that shouldn't be forced and she needs to understand that.  People get all excited about the wedding but after that it's just you two.  If she forces it she will be pushing you away in the end.  Eventually you will panic and run.  She won't want that.
185148
It sounds like it could be love to me...\nIn my experience love is always enduring.  There's been girls I've felt incredible about and had a great time with, but it wears off anywhere between 6 weeks and 6 months.  Of course everyone is different, and I don't know how long you've been dating, but if you still feel this way after 10 or 12 months I'd say it's most likely love.  You'll be able to look past all of her weird little issues and accept them and love her anyway, and you won't be able to imagine life without her.\nIf you've been dating her less than 4-5 months, then it's still possible that this feeling could wear-off.  I know I wouldn't feel right planning on marriage before having known her at least 1 year.  A lot can develop/change in the first year, for better or for worse.  Good Luck!
395101
what you just said in the question sounds like a good start to me.  you have the right to be happy and if the relationship you are in right now does not make that happen, then you shouldn't have to stay.  it doesn't matter if your significant other is related to hers, you should do what makes you happy.  just try telling her what you wrote here.
1143738
i would rather be sinlge than be stuck with someone i dont love. its just not right to be married to someone your not in love with ans beside i wont be lonley cuz i will always have friends.
676158
I think it is safe to say that you are not IN love with her. It sounds like you love her but more as a friend rather than a girlfriend. Be honest with her now because she needs to know how you feel. Things will be ok.
438375
If you are postponing proposing I'd say you aren't yet ready to take the step of getting married. It takes a lot of courage to admit that. It doesn't mean you don't love her. I imagine you do love her. You just aren't ready to take the step of getting engaged. If she's truly ready and you are not, then you need to talk about it. You may have to set her free if you don't think you'll be ready for a long, long time. You both need to be honest with each other about what you want out of this relationship and act accordingly.\n\nAlso, talk to God. Pour your heart out to Him. Ask Him if marriage with this woman is what He wants you to do with your life. Listen with all your heart and soul for His loving guidance. God Bless.
709927
You can't force these things, she either loves you or she doesn't.  Sounds like she doesn't.  Also possibly because your relationship is long distance you romanticise about it too much.  If you lived together day in, day out, the rose-tinted spectacles may have come off long ago.  You sound like a lovely guy, you deserve better.  Let it go and find someone who will be there for you and love you the way you deserve to be loved.
948302
In my opinion anywhere above twenty years is too much of an age difference. I have no doubt in my mind at all that you and your girl will live a happy life together forever. As long as you are both treating each other with respect and courtesy then you should be just fine. Loving her is part of it but you also have to show her that you love her. Maybe you should renew your vows if you're married (hope you know what that means), or plan a surprise trip to a country she has always wanted to visit. I know that might sound like a hassle and quite a chunk of dough out of your pocket but from your description it sounds like it might be the only thing that will work... good luck in resolving this conflict, i will keep you and your girlfriend in my thoughts and prayers
516293
It's not fair to your girlfriend if you don't think it's going to work out. You THINK you love her? You do or you don't. You need to figure out what is going on w/your girlfriend before you start planning for this other girl. Not wanting to hurt someone is not a good enough reason to stay w/them-that sounds harsh, but you'll just end up resenting her.
678532
My advice would be to wait a little longer (just a couple of months) before asking to have her hand in marriage.... but that's just me. You may come on a little strong if you ask her now and that may put distance between the 2 of you if she isn't ready for it. Something that you could do is find a way to bring up the topic in conversation and see if you can get her opinion on the subject (just to get an idea if she is on the same page with her emotions before actually popping the question) or see if one of her sisters can ask (or girlfriends) what her opinion may be on the marriage subject. But regardless of what your decision may be I wish you joy and happiness in the future..... and I really hope that the 2 of you do get married.
154664
change right now into the non tempermental man who wont hurt his fiance. and be scincere about it. if you really love her, and obviously want to marry her, change for yourself and her. if not, then maybe youll lose her..
711457
you're definitely not in love. its all infatuation. would caution u to think twice before making such decision (to marry). when u have doubts, don't do it.
127933
love is a commitment not a feeling. take it easy. you have soo much time and if you think logically you know you can't take any kindof action right now when you are so young and live with your parents/ what you can do is start preparing for the future. if you love this girl and you think there may be a chance for you to get married in the future then get mature and start figuring out your career options, what you wanna do with your life and the kindof job you want and work towards that goal. good luck.
678824
Well, if you can't marry her because you are already married, stay away from her for her best interests, your wifes and yours.  If you can't marry her for any other reason, and you are single, continue to have a relationship with her.  Maybe she isn't ready for marriage and just likes spending time with you.