what should i do when the only person [guy] i can talk to has become my biggest problem?
343049
Tell him how you feel about him.  You can never go wrong with being honest.  If he doesn't return your feelings then cut off the friendship because it would be to painful and he would a least know the truth. ( and so would you ) \nAs for cutting yourself - This is a terrible outlet for difficult feelings.  Talk to a counselor if you can't stop this behaivior.
159033
On guy number 2, never settle.  It's not fair to you or him.  On guy number one, just go talk with him, see if you can lead the horse to water...  If not, it's not meant to be.
794334
ok, what you need to do is just try and start a conversation with him. i have a friend that has a real fear of talking to guys she really likes. i tell her the same thing just start a random conversation. i am the type of person who can just start talking to any one without being scared.
427535
I am so sorry.  This man has made his choice and you cannot do anything about it, unfortunately.\nBe with friends, keep yourself busy, and do not feed into his ego by contacting him.\nIt will only hurt you more.\nAvoid him at all costs...because to contact him will cost you your sanity!!\nGood luck and better wishes for a great future relationship.
1112968
Awe, thats so sad. U love your friends and I know how it is to have to stop talking to someone u love but ur going to have to do it for yourself. U dont want to hurt anymore and if he doesnt want to straighten up then what can u do?
574076
talk to him!!\nlet it all out
751718
So, are you in his school right now? If you are then why do you expect him to start talking to you, not you?\nHe could probably stop saying even "Hi" to you when you stopped doing it and he felt like he is getting on your nerves.\n\nJust say "Hi" to him when you see him. Do it a few times and if then he still will seem cold then just ask him some time, just stop him in the corridor and say"Hey, why don't you talk to me anymore?" \n\nThat should put him in situation where he must answer and go from there. He may start talking to you again or say why he stopped. If after that he will be cold to you then just leave him alone, he is gone and possibly just a type of a guy who goes after every pretty girl but loses interest fast if nothing happens.\n\nGood luck and don't feel embarassed to say "Hi" to him, its just a "hi" at the end of the day. How many times you say that to everyone else ;), 1 more won't hurt, he is not SO special or from another planet ;)\n\nIf you from another school then ask someone where he lives and just may be pass by there some time, and may be you will bump into him and there is situation 1 on 1 and he will be forced to talk to you, IF YOU  start talk to him, but don't let him run away. \n\nGl and Best of Luck, Wolfy.
554116
Start doing things for yourself.  Follow a dream, get a new hobby, find an activity you always wanted to try.  The key is to do something that you can feel good about doing for yourself, regardless of whos in or out of your life.\n\nIt seems you're thinking too much the guy , a guy  or having no guy.   Your life's about making the most of an opportunity to find and do what makes you happy.  People will come and go and when the right guy comes along, he'll  see how you're enjoying life and want to be part of that... not see that you are waiting for him and give up his life to be the center of yours. Hope this helps put things in perspective.
1165904
If he wont be your friend anymore because of that then leave him alone. Dont put yourself in that uncomfortable situation again.
48203
find another guy, but before that you should spend alot of time with family and friends, write in a journal, spend time doing hobbys or any activity you enjoy doing,yup.
649524
I'd say that you already answered this for yourself. Why put yourself through what his current on again off again is going through all the time? Find yourself someone who is going to be focused on you and only you.
201104
You should talk to him and ask him what the problem is. If he is truely your friend he should acknowledge you anytime any place.
821983
I guess it is you the one that can help you out. \nI have the same "problem" but I don't see it as a problem. Better off alone than in bad company.\nDon't you know girls at job? at the bar? where you go? Try to start a nice chat.\nI am a loner so for me is difficult to start a conversation with someone I don't know, but if I wouldn't like the way my life was going I would try to do those things, and try to be more social. I guess.
828004
This sounds a little weird, so I definitely think that you should talk to your guy. Tell him that this is really bothering you and that you don't mean to go crazy on him. If he really cares about your feelings, then he won't just blow you off.
736374
I had this same exact problem for so long and I am just now coming out of it. It is going to be very wonderful when you come out of this experience knowing so much and able to help other people with the same exact problem. First of all, I want you to think about all the time you've wasted just sitting and daydreaming about him. That's time you could have used to make your life better by doing things you enjoy and you could have made other peoples' lives better. Next I want you to ask yourself, "What has he ever done for you?" It's really hurtful to realize that you've wasted your time wanting somebody that you just can't have but trust me, you will have so much free time once you just stop thinking about him. You have to be willing to stop talking about him w/ anyone, pretty much pretending he doesn't exist anymore. Avoid listening to songs that remind you of him. With the guy that I liked, he was actually undesirable and it took me so long to realize that he just wasn't a good match for me at all. So hang in there and remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with being singe cuz you're waiting for the right guy! You deserve a guy that's young enough and that you can actually go out w/! good luck! e-mail me if ya need to!
1067254
grow up\n\njust talk to they guy
681418
Keep him as a friend.\nYou can never have enough guy friends who will give you advice or listen to you if you have a problem or be there when you need a shoulder to cry on.