Why is so hard to find a girlfriend when you are a single father ?
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Your son is a blessing not an obstacle; if ever the person you date sees him as an obstacle then THEY are the obstacle. \n\nIf you just keep being a good father, the right girl will notice THAT.\n\nBeing a single parent isn't easy, but it is rewarding.  The thing about being a single parent is that life isn't about you anymore....
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The key is to accept the fact you are single, and not be bothered by it. \nLet other things make you busy, like work or family or friends.. love will come along without you'd even notice. \nBeing single is not something bad, it's not something you need to learn how to handle.. It's temp situation, don't let it bother you too much.
859946
why is it so hard to find a bf... i feel the same way
303528
The first thing is settle for friendship when he does get here. People can be pretty decieving when you meet them in real life. Secondly, you heard he had a gf but it may not be true. Just casually try to find out if he does or not. Having a new father figure in a kid's life can be hard, but he's still at a young age. Just make him get to know the person first, it's always easier that way. Like if you guys go to the park or out for a dinner together. Plus, it's also a nice way to find out how he treats your kid. just take it a day at a time. good luck:)
827853
maybe its because you try too hard \ndon't fall for someone just because you can \nonce u meet the right guy you'll know
248905
So what if you have no girlfriend? That should not be your biggest concern in life. If you're happy and social, you'll attract women. But if you look desperate or depressed, nobody will be attracted to you.
1156599
Sounds like you are a great guy! Any woman would be happy to be with you. There are some christain dating sites out there. There are women out there that have children too and are having troubles finding a good guy. Hope you find what your'e looking for! Best of luck!
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I know guys who date (and marry) women with kids.\n\nStill, it's hard enough for a single man to marry a woman without kids, take on the responsibility of that relationship, and use his time and energy for her sake rather than his own. \n\n(Obviously, this is why some of these single women have kids and no husband -- the guy used her, then skedaddled when the pressure got to be too much.)\n\nFor a guy to take on a woman with kids is even more overwhelming. Not only does he have to be care for his wife, but there are many other concerns:\n\n1. He has to keep a steady job, to provide not only for his wife but for children. (He can no longer pick up and relocate easily, quit a job he dislikes without serious thinking ahead of time, etc.) That's scary, and a big commitment. \n\n2. He's expected to be a dad, but has NO experience with kids -- as opposed to the mother, who started out knowing nothing and learned with the kids as they got older. He's got to start cold, halfway through the process. That's intimidating.\n\n3. If the biological father is around, he now has to deal with HIM ... possible confrontations if his wife or kids are being harmed or not dealt with properly.\n\n4. Dating a married woman means you're not as flexible, have to always juggle the kids in order to go out, etc.\n\nConsidering a guy could start fresh with a childless woman and not have to worry about this stuff, it's no wonder many opt out for the easier situation. He wants to avoid as much pressure as possible, and he wants to create his OWN family when he finally gets around to it, rather than caring for one someone else created.\n\nI don't necessarily think these are "good" reasons, and I think a real man can overcome them for a woman he cares about and is attracted to, but they are some of the typical considerations for a guy who is dating a woman with kids.
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Relax, it won't be easy but there are good guys out there who are interested in dating a woman like you.  When I was single, I had no problem with dating a woman who had kids.  The key is to be picky and always put your kids first.  Unfortunately there are a lot of bad people out there who will try to prey on you and your kids so don't put up with any crap and don't settle for anyone less than what your looking for.
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It's tough out there - first to find a good man to have a child with is a huge challenge, and second to have a child alone in this economic state is quite a struggle.  But if that's what she wants, then where there's a will, there's a way - everyone should do what makes them happy.
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because you lose some of your social skills when you have been with someone for a while. maybe you have gotten older and are no longer in your late teens or early 20's, when you still had a lot of social things to fill your time?\nemployment plays a big part too and when you have a job, it is harder to muster strength to even go out and meet someone.
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Your question worries me because I think you have some serious psycological issues.There is clearly something missing in your life and any girl will not make it better, even if one does, it would mean that you are forever dependent on her. You need to start accessind what makes you lonely and is it peer pressure that makes you want a girlfriend or what? Come on you are better than that! I have faith in you!
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It looks like his life is pretty full, so even if he didn't have a girlfriend he probably wouldn't have time for you. Find someone who will have time for you and doesn't have a baby:) Good Luck!
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what do you not do? are you shy? do you get nervous around girls? are you looking in the right place?\n\nit can be so many things. first off, just chill. not every person is looking for a significant other. think about that too. you could be asking a person who had a bad experience with an ex, they are too busy to be dating other people, or something else.\n\nyou can't always find them and we all go through a sort of slump. try doing this. use your looks to your advantage. be cocky in a funny way.\nex:\nthem- wow! you are ruggedly handsome!\nu- nice try. too many people have tried to use that line on me and it doesn't work.\n\nto hit my main point, learn how to project your self-confidence to other people. that will help you on your quest to get dates. personality counts more than looks. you have looks to reinforce an attractive personality. good luck with finding a date.
1115422
I've never been in a relation either and I'm 19. And I don't date, I'm not looking for love but rather letting love find me. As of yet no such luck, you just can't rush these things. Being patient is the key. For every man there is a woman and vice versa.
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you should find someone that you love and feel connected with, no one is gonna be just like your dad, but chances are the one you decide to settle down with may have some similiarties to you dad but he may not be exactly like him. \n\nDon't be so picky or you may end up alone, but don't be desperate and just be with anyone, make yourself a list of the most important qualities you need in a man and go with that. \n\nDon't put too many 10 may ba good, if there are 50 things you need in a man no one will ever measure up.
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A very vague question which lacks detail. There are hundreds of factors which could be a reason as to why you can't find a girlfriend. I for one for one would not think it is due to your location or your bisexuality.\nPeople who are straight often find it hard to find a lover living in highly populated cities. \n\nIf you believe in love as a in a fairy tale manner where fate and destiny decide for us then you will only need to be patient and yor are sure to find love.\nIf you are a person who believes that you make your own love, then perhaps consider yor approach to finding love...