Why is it that people may forgive you for the wrongs you do them but almost never for the wrongs they do you?
342484
For some people, it's just easier to forgive others. The standards for their own actions may be a lot higher.
952841
Every single person you see who passes you in the street has made mistakes, not one of us are exempt from making mistakes, that is because we are human beings.  We do what we do for various reasons...could be the crowd we hang around with...peer pressure.....it could be because we are hurt and want revenge...it could be for a lot of reasons.  But we all grow up, we all learn about sociably acceptable behaviour and that only comes with experience and time.  If we didnt make mistakes, we would be pretty boring people because it is only when we make mistakes do we trully learn who we are.  What has happened in the past had to happen, simply because it did, you cant go back, you cant change it, but you can certainly change the future.  You can choose not to make those kind of mistakes ever again.  Forgiveness is pretty easy if you have a logical mind.  If you can think that the mistakes you made were because of a particular situation in your life, and you did what you did because that was your frame of mind at the time, then you will be able to forgive yourself.  You are not that person any more....that was the old you.  Sometimes I look back on my past and think to myself...."that wasnt me"...and it wasnt.  I am the me I am now,  the me who made all those mistakes and it is those mistakes that has moulded me into the nice person I am today.\n\nIf you dont learn by your mistakes then you wont grow.  You know they are mistakes, so you have learnt and you will become stronger for it.  You need to put your mistakes where they belong,  they were mistakes of the past, so keep them in the past.  Your future is where the positive stuff lay.  Guilt is such a wasted emotion because the only thing it does is make you feel bad, it doesnt change anything...it cant change what has happened...so think logically about it...you cant change it, so what is the good about beating yourself up over it.  Use the energy you have with guilt and put it to more constructive use.  Move forward, do things that make you feel good about yourself, maybe go and do some voluteer work.  Start thinking good things, start doing good things and you will find out the mistakes of your past gives you the knowledge you have today.  You could use that knowledge for good.  You may be in a position where your mistakes could help some person in the future because you have been there, done that.  Use your mistakes to your advantage....learn from them.  You can do it.  We all make mistakes,  it is something we have all suffered from at some time.  The reason I know you are a decent and wonderful person is because you feel bad about your mistakes....that shows you have a conscience, therefore you cannot be a bad person because bad people dont have a conscience.  Move on...go on to achieve wonderful things and you will have your mistakes to thank for your success.
97419
That's an awesome question and I wish I had a certain answer for it, but the best I can think of is because nice people are the only ones who can endure the suffering they receive. But knowing the pain is there shouldn't stop any person from learning as it only leaves you richer for the next experience. We learn more from our failures than any amount of successes can teach us. So maybe all the bad stuff that comes your way is there to help you better be the person you're meant to be. I know because I have often been the one cheated on, that I'd never cheat on anyone else because I don't wish anybody else to feel the same way I did. So perhaps things that like help mold what it is you look for, the things you want to be like; the things you don't want to be like and before long when you're no longer concerned about finding somebody, that somebody will be there.
363164
People can hurt the ones they love. It's often easier than hurting complete strangers.
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You forgive people for your own sake as well as for theirs.  If you hang on to the anger and bitterness you might feel for someone who has wronged you, you are hurting yourself, and probably not hurting or affecting that other person at all.\n\nSo forgive because it is good for you.  Rise above needing the other person to feel remorse.  Forgive for yourself, for your own well being, and we will all be better for it.
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Forgiveness is one of the most often misunderstood things in the world, but the answer to your question is yes, abolutely!\nNo matter what someone has done, you can forgive (and must forgive them, if you want to be forgiven yourself).\nForgiveness does not mean that what a person did was right, or make it OK, it simply means that you release them from the obligation to make it right to you.\nForgiveness does not mean that (in some cases) legal proceedings will not happen (or should not happen).\nForgiving a person does not mean that you trust them again, in fact, in some cases this would be the height of foolishness (such as a person who has abused you in some way).
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Unfair to who?\n\nForgiveness is always for the benefit of the person forgiving and not necessarily for the one being forgiven.
764167
if the person loves you and they know you love them back, they sometimes abuse it because you love them so you'll always be forgiving... like for example if you stole your parents car and wrecked it, they'd forgive you even if you kept doing it.  (sorry if that example doesn't make much sense, i'm not very good at examples)
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True.\nBecause if you are a good person, eventually some people will recognize this and good things will come your way.  It isn't necessarily that you did one good thing and now it's coming back to you.\n\nIf you are a bad person, the same deal in reverse.\n\nI have seen this time and time again.
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to honor and care for everyone around you no matter what they did to hurt you always forgive but don't ever forget
281810
If you are talking about insignificant mistakes people make against each other I'll give you this: It is possible for friends to hurt each other. It is also possible for a couple to hurt each other. Because in either case, nobody is perfect. Good thing there is forgiveness!
162472
Of course I do.It bugs me because there are some people that you could just be hanging out with and then they do something that is just horrid so they say sorry.  Then the same thing happens again.  Some time or another it just gets old and thats when i wonder why they just don't think before they act.    This doesn't mean that everyone doesnt think before they act it just means that sometimes people get a little carried away.
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I think that it is wrong to say just because of your past that you will never meet anyone, and i also see the other point of view, that their is a life that was damaged by your actions, but my family has a long line of mental illness, not exactly the same thing that you did, or even if you had a mental illness, but somewhere out there is a person who will see that you have or if you have truely changed, I agree with the church idea, isn't that soposed to be a forgiving and hopefull place?
850603
Forgive them, sure, why hold a grudge, but as far as talking to them later on down the road. Nope not really, I would be nice to them and probably say Hello but that would be the extent of the conversation. If they treated you that way once, they will do it again.
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There is no excuse for not admitting or apologizing for something you have done to another... that is if you are truly sorry for what you have done...especially if it is someone you love...For someone to not do so is just childish and selfish...or maybe the person doesn't think he or she has done anything wrong at all...or maybe they don't realize the extent of the hurt they have caused...If that is the case you need to let them know the pain they have caused and if they still don't get it...You must know your worth and not allow that person do hurt you ever again.\n\nRemember: "Know Your Worth or No One Else Will"...Good Luck
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No human can forgive sins. \n\nGod allows humans to forgive each other on acts that harm the rest of the living...however...some crimes, I reckon would not be forgiven by God, even if I have forgiven someone for doing them.\n\nWhy? Because I dont know what lies in peoples hearts. Only He does. So HE in His infinite wisdom, might chose to forgive or not to forgive depending on the persons sincerity.\n\nThis is why, when faced with a man who hurts you in some way, you must pray, may God forgive him, if you want his own good.
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I think it has something to do with an understanding that everyone has that when you do something wrong, you are required by justice to pay the price for your wrongdoing. The problem is, most of the time we can't just pay things back; life is full of crimes and mistakes that go way beyond just stealing a candy bar and then returning later to pay the storekeeper. So I think it's really hard to forgive ourselves because we don't know if or how we can fully pay the price to make up for it, and sometimes we don't even know if it's possible at all to fully pay things back. There is hope, though, and it comes with something called the Atonement of Christ. Whether or not you consider yourself a Christian and by whatever definition, the Atonement is worth researching and coming to understand. What the Atonement does is it makes up for everything that we can not do for ourselves; it pays the price of justice so that we can feel peace. So if you feel like you're having a hard time forgiving yourself for something you've done, try turning to God for help. Ask him to help you understand the Atonement so you can understand how you can forgive yourself. This was a long answer, but I mean every word of it. The Atonement works. If you try it, you'll see for yourself.