Please HELP! Why can't I meet a nice girl who is honest and doesn't have baggage?
350043
Girls nice . . . sorry there is no such thing . . . they are the thing of the past . . . especially after women's lib . . . \n\nGood luck . . . best bet . . . find a girl overseas . . . they are more dedicated than american girls.
333964
Hello, Im not a freak...yet I find it hard to find decent women. I dont look at appearances but the heart and soul...You can change that by being yourself ...sean. Ps. and when a quite guy like myself is afraid to approach you,maybe because im shy, maybe because im normal...go and talk to him....he may be the love of your life although he may not drink or dance like the other guys...
2241
My advice is find a girl who has similar issues and personality type so she can relate to you and establish some trust. I think that would eliminate the fear componet if she has been though what you have. Finding her is a whole other issue and let me know if you can figure that one out.
23937
There are many nice girls in the world and many personals that you can use, whether it be via teh internet or through your local newspapers or even in your circle of friends. If you are asking this because of fear that you will not find her, all you need is time because she will eventually come into your life. Love will find you soon, and if not, then know that your family and friends loved you just as well.
1142405
Everybody has certain traits that they are attracted to. A girl that will stay with you a long time is being fickle because not only do you have to find her, but you will also have to figure out how to keep here once you do. No one person is perfect, there are certain things that you will like and certain ones that you will not. You have to find a medium ground on what traits that you will allow yourself time to get used to. This is being the part where you learn how to keep a decent woman. If you do not figure this out-- somebody definitely will and it is your loss!
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I read your comments:\n\nI'm looking to date girls to get to know them and have fun, but I'm open to serious relationships, even to marriage.\n\nJulie, I have good manners, I'm good looking, I have good hygiene, and I'm a fun person but I have no success.\nWhat is that of trying too hard?\n\nI think that you need to display for self confidence and girls will notice you.
67819
perhaps u are so desperate that with every woman you look at there is a sign popping over their heads saying "girlfriend material" or "not girlfriend material". Have you looked at yourself lately? Perhaps when girls look at you, there is no sign over your head saying "not boyfriend material".  \nWhy don't u try to play up your SINCERELY POSITIVE SIDE and not dwell on why u don't have any girlfriend. If you are a nice guy, even if you are not that good looking, perhaps there is still hope for you. Good luck!\n\nP.S. Try not to let your desperation show. You have to start with being friends first.
406439
Wow I feel for you, what you gotta try do is get to know her, she may be beautiful, but thats scores no points if she is not a nice person. Find out what her hobbies are and join a club she is in, get to know her and at the same time she will be getting to know you, dont rush these things if she is worth it she will be worth the effort>
668406
oh.... I do not see why you would have any problem meeting a wonderful girl!!  you have traveled and most likely learned much about life and people, you are not afraid to work hard, your are going to college  I presume to further your career,you are independent and  have your own transportation... you are on the right track n life ... the only obstacle  I could see is the part time job, which may discourage some women, but not all... Some women will see that you are  going to school and understand how difficult that is with a full time job , and  see that you are a good guy, doing your best, and will have faith in you and your future together...and stand by your side.as long as you have a good personality are an honest, loving, warm,intelligent guy with a sense of humor, you will attract  someone special... so a relationship yes... but not marriage yet, not until your out of school , have a full time job, and you are both ready for that step... my best wishes to you !
752513
Everyone is a big dramatist.They are something & they pretend to be something else.It's very difficult to find a nice,understanding& genuine person.Butttttttttttt i wish you all the best wishes so that you may find someone really worthy for you,whom you could love truly & tell yourself with your eyes shut that you can spend your life with her forever.
811557
It sounds like the real issue is you buddy.  You need to figure out your morals and your expectations.  This girl sounds like she is great but she doesn't meet your expectations or is it the expectations of other people that has got you worried? Personality is the greatest gift to have in a partner, looks can only be a bonus, if you love her you would actually see the beauty in her. But until then you could be fighting your own demons. ;)
321508
You need to focus on what you want...not what's wrong with them. When you meet someone you like, their "defects" are no big deal...don't settle. Keep looking for what you want.
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Hmm.. i'm good looking, smart and well mannered as well. Trust have always been a problem for me, since my gf broke up with me for another guy (LD) and then my next gf slept with one of my best friend. \n\ni'm now focusing on my career and promised my self not to force myself in to a relationship just for the sake of a relationship.. \n\nI sometimes feels lonely but then again, it's more sexual than emotional.. i don't think anything is missing since i try to write what is my goals and match it with my current situations. \n\nTry to identify, where are you now and where do you want to be. sometimes putting something in writting is good since it helps you see clear of things you didn' know exist. I hope this helps, but if it doesnt Dog's do help...
528631
I'm not totally following where you are going with this...  You sound like a nice enough guy.  Confident.  Sucessful.  Maybe you aren't meeting the right women?
977106
it's about maturity.  when you are young sometimes you only see what is physically beautiful and don't take the time to get to know anything beyond that. girls who do this tend to make huge mistakes in picking a partner that is truly compatible for them. i'm 31 years old and i can tell you those girls would dying to meet a nice sincere guy after they've been played with and heartbroken by the more physically disireable guy.  most times it's the guy no one gives a chance who is the most respectful, honest and sincere who in turns becomes the more attractive person because of this-young girls don't get it until they've been burned.
88972
That's a tricky question, cuz not all men are the same.Like me, I look for nice personality, honesty,and someone to love me for me, not for what I have.Most importantly, she has to have high self esteem.All the physical things come in a little later.
1149010
For women it isn't all about the looks.  A little extra weigh makes you a teddy bear to some girls.  Just keep your chin up and look for someone who matches your personality.  Be romantic and sweet and you will find a nice girl.  Good Luck!!