anyone in love with an inmate?
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Actually, I am... My husband has been an inmate twice since we've met and has just recently been released about a week and a half ago. We have been going through a messy divorce since the 23 of June, last year(our six month wedding anniversary).\n\nThere also was a man that I had known and spent half my life in love with and he was released last summer and is now in Colorado doing great; he didn't waste anytime getting back on his feet.\n\nThey both, by far, are repeat offenders not once, not twice, not even thrice. They both have spent the majority of there lives going in and out of jail and extremely close to prison. The difference between them is that my husband wants to do right and has the faith and ability to do so as well as a lot of potential for success in many areas of his life, but he lacks the understanding of HOW to live differently and the common sense of wise decision making. He isn't doing any of the bad things that he did to get him locked up to begin with, but he is still putting himself in situations that could eventually land him back where he began, claiming that his walk with god is so strong that he can handle the situation, when his family and I all know that his strength will eventually weaken due to where he is choosing to stay. BUT the other guy I spoke of had a safe place to stay and a secure job with in weeks and went as far as a move from California to Colorado to get away from his previous influences and is doing great right now; he even got custody of his 6 year old daughter back.\n\nThese two people are very similar and very different which goes to show that you shou7ldn't judge people by their mistakes; it is our mistakes that make us human. BUT we can be judged by the efforts we take to make things right once given the knowledge, ability, and the freedom to do so.\n\nThe best advice I could give is to go online tro the court website of the county he is convicted in, type his name into the search, and it will pull up his entire criminal history and all other related cases he may have; it's all public record. Also, try and find out what kind of home life he had growing up, because that will play a big role in his decision making process and will give you a better idea of his non-jail personality. I say non-jail personality, because once you're locked up you tend to form what's called a prison mentality which means that you learn to anipulate people into beleiving that what you say is genuine and that they really have rehabilitated and deserve another chance, yet once released they go right back to there old ways. So find out as much as you can about who he used to be and carefully compare him to the person you know him to be now. Ask him what plans he has for when he is released. Most inmates that are serious about the desire to rehabilitate will have already constructed a plan as to where they will stay, how they will get around, where they will work, just general goals and ways of meeting those goals.\n\nFind out when he is supposed to be released and continue writing to him or calling him which ever you prefer and see how he unfolds as a person once released rather than getting involved right away.\n\nIt's not easy, but sometimes you have to see where your heart leads you, just make sure your smarts have brought along a safety net just incase.
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No, I think you are right to feel that way.  Basically you see that he has passion and intelligence, which makes for great potential.  But you feel like he's wasting it by focusing his energies on negative activities, and only wish he could redirect his talent to make a positive impact on the world.\n\nI hope he is doing well.  Do you know what kinds of rehabilitation programs are offered to him right now in prison?  I have always been interested in working with inmates in terms of counseling and rehab.  Many people might think this sounds stupid, but I've always believed that music therapy would be great in terms of getting through to people and helping them refocus, bc I think a lot of people who end up in jail are brilliant in terms of potential.  They just made some poor choices somewhere along the way.\n\nBest wishes to you and your family.
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I would'nt go see him. His behavior proves that he's not truly the man you see on the outside. People like this are good at putting on the mask that'll work to get them what they want out of you. I'm sad to have to say it, but it's the truth.  Especially if he's locked up, you'll become an outlet for his manipulative personality. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing you're wrestling with feelings for him. It'll only stroke his ego. Winning him back would only result in an unhealthy co-dependant relationshiip. This type of user psychology need to be desired and needed by others to floati it's ego. You'd likely convince yourself that you DO need him. And you don't honestly. Being happy with yourself is critical before one can be truly happy with another.
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hi\njust call the jail and ask if that person is there. give their full name\nand birthday and, if you know what they are in there for.i called and asked for someone and thats all i did. good luck.
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Awesome story.\nA boy (Fin Belle) helped an escaped convict as a child, and this child was an artist. He lived with his uncle who was a fisher. The convict eventually got caught. The little boy was scared. He went to work for the rich lady in town who had a beautiful daughter who was the boy's age. He fell in love at first sight, the girl looked like a princess. The boy got older and grew up with that girl and they were in love. Then one day she moved away, so he got mad, and started hanging out with his uncle more and had a rough lifestyle of drinking and fishing and partying it up with his uncle. By this time he was a young adult. One day a man came to visit Fin and offered him a trip to New York to be an artist. So he accepted, and went to New York and become a famous artist. His first artist showcase was completely sold out, and he was now famous. He went back to his studio that night and let in a man that wanted to use his phone. Come to find out that this was the "Escaped Convict" he helped out as a child, and this man had made sure that Fin became rich and famous, simply because he helped him out as a child. This meant alot to the escaped convict, and Fin was the one good thing he done right in his life. He ran into the girl there too, all grown up, and beautiful. But she had a fiance now. They had their one night stand, but she whipped away to France to marry her fiance because her mom always taught her not to get too close to the one you love. This broke Fin's heart for good, and he moved on with his life. He went to Paris too, too further his fame, and years later came back to his home where he grew up. HE went to visit the old lady that was his first loves mom, but the house was in shambles. \nOut back by the lake balcony, he saw his first love, and she had her little girl with her. She apologized, but he was still in love with her, and she with him, and they lived happily ever after, the way it should have been from the beginning.\n\nthis is the whole idea of the story..if you have any specific questions, just ask\nthis is one of the best stories EVER
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Harboring a fugitive is a crime. Unless you want to find out what jail is like, I suggest you get rid of him... now! Are you fond of 250 pound women that make the Terminator  look like a girly man? Things to consider...
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To tell you the truth you may want to wait till he is in prison.That way you can hold hands hug kiss and have a Little more family and friends there.You will have to wait till he gets out of coratien but i think you both would be happier.Good luck.
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Sweetheart, I've been in the same boat except I was like 13 and he was 18. You're so very young, and i know you love him and he probably loves you too. But if they catch you even kissing him, he could be put away. Do you know what they do to guys like that in prison? Hopefully you don't. Listen honey, I know you want to be with him forever but trust me in that you're going to get older, your tastes are going to change, you have your whole life ahead of you, and it's not fair to him to make him wait. I had the same situation, and here I am, 7 years later, getting married to the most perfect guy in the world. It took me so long to realize what I wanted in a life partner, but I found it. And the guy I was in love with got married and had a beautiful family. So it all worked out and it can for you too. I'm sure he'll understand.\nBest of luck to you hon.
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Good luck!It's not gonna happen,the prison won't tell you if the person is in there.They cannot give out that type of information.They will assume you are trying to help the person break out or are after the person for some type of vendetta.
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Inmate where? Add details and I will give you a link.
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If you're looking for a specific person, here is the link to the Il Dept. of Corrections' inmate search page:\nhttp://www.idoc.state.il.us/subsections/search/default.asp
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I think Christian Cage is hot because of how cofident he is that is going to beat his ugly ass opponents. I love his sexy smile.
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There is a wonderful support and information group at http://prisontalk.com\nSomeone there will have your answer.\nI've got a "someone special" locked up, too, and this group has helped me a great deal.
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My brother is in prison for life. He loves getting mail. Click on my avatar name and leave some info or you can post something to me if you are interested.
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Honey, you should stay away from this person.  He has already been in and out of jail.  He is a repeat offender and that should mean something to you.  You have your own problems, getting with him will only give you MORE problems.  There are plenty of guys out there who do not have troubled pasts or futures for that matter, get one of those.  The fact that "he always ends up saying my life is too messed up to be with anyone right now", is a brush off and you know it.  He's not interested.  Stop chasing him only because you can't have him and stay away from the bad boys.  I know they seem dangerous and exciting and they are but; BAD BOYS = BAD RELATIONSHIP = BAD LIFE.  Set the bar higher and have some respect for yourself.
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There is a wonderful support and information group at http://prisontalk.com\nSomeone there can probably help.\nI've got a "someone special" locked up, too, and this group has helped me a great deal.
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i do! i do! i do!!! i love him so much..!=p TOTAL HOTTIE!!