i am always sad and desperate, what should i do with my life?
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See a psychiatrist to get medicaton like Prozac.
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YOU ARE NOT USELESS!!!\n\nLife can often get us down & there seems no light at the end of the tunnel. I know how difficult & hopeless this can be.\n\nConfide in someone that you REALLY trust or speak to a counsellor, where you can explore your feelings without anyone judging you.\n\nTry and stick to your goal of achieving something small every day, however small, make sure that goal is achievable. It will do wonders for you self-esteem.\n\nI know it's cliched, but try and find some new activity, whether it's theatre, learning a new skill, whatever really, something to keep you occupied & where you can meet new people.\n\nIt isn't easy, but you will come through this. Email me if you need someone to talk to. x
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WOW! you sure what a lot don't you? There is no way that a human being can always be happy, just like there is no way that you can always be sad. You can have a general good outlook on life and try to be happy with the situation that you are in. If you live a honest, decent life where you try your best you will find happiness.  If you help your fellow humans by volunteering of your time, talents and/ or money you will find happiness. Thinking of and helping others lets you know that your situation could be a lot worse.  In turn this makes you thankful for what you have.  If you try to always find happiness through materialistic things that you own, you are doomed to always be unhappy for the most part.  There is always something new and better around the corner. If you spend  some of your free time with family and friends ,you will find happiness.  You sound very young and unsure of yourself.  Be proud of what and who you are.  God bless you and Good luck!
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you need to settle down during times of frustration and consider a long view of life, you need to concentrate on the good things you have in life, you need to stop thinking that everything should go your way all the time\n\nlife is not like that, most people do not get their way even 50% of the time\n\nthink about this:\n\nyou are not a starving child in the deserts of africa, it could be a lot worse\n\nyou probably have a decent job, air conditioning, a vehicle that can take you anyplace you want to go, at the least some sort of family or friend emotional support system, and you live in a country that is very rich
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I have faced this problem. The lower your education and the higher your age, the tougher it is going to be. However, you must stay positive. Do not waste valuable time. If you can not find work doing what you do, then train for something else. Do not just sit around crying because you will be crying alone. The world does not care. Develope something to offer to somebody that wants it. That means you.
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Find a friend, if that doesn't work there is always BEN&JERRYS Chunky Monkey, it always makes everything better.\n\nBut honestly, I have felt all of those things, and that is not a good place to be.  I hope that you can realize that you are special and of infinate worth.  It breaks my heart that you feel that way. Feel free to email and we can talk, you don't have to feel so alone and that can be a start.
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Live every day as if it is your last. Leave no regrets. Do what you can in your very small life to make the future a better prospect. Do not be a doom sayer as this leads to depression. Never give up and always smile no matter what.
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start taking care of yourself. Why should anyone have to help you when you can help yourself? \n\nWAKE UP and take a look around you! Life can be very unkind, and unless you hit back and make the most of it (without depending on the help of others) you are going to be stuck in a "miserable" life.
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Get professional help.  When people make broad, sweeping, hate-everything statements it's usually a clinical depression that the person is suffering, not situational. \n\nHate is NOT on the opposite side of the coin from love.  It's on the SAME side.  Indifference is on the opposite side and since you are not there, you've spectacular odds for pulling through this.   \n\nIt's not a weakness to need help, it's a strength to seek it.
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I would suggest you take some part-time employment \n\neven some hourly jobs ... like mowing lawns, aiding shop keeping , domestic....\njust to keep u busy ... \n\nGET STARTED\n\njust 2 keep u'rself busy for awhile\nwill help u overcome depression ...\n\nDo it slowly , but do it\n.... guess slowly u will revert back to mainstream life\n\n--- very best of luck ,, and my prayers
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Then, try to find a job that makes you happier.\nAnd keep thinking you´ll do better in the future while you´re trying to find a new, better one.
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You are the only one who can decide if your own life is fulfilling.  It you are happy with the way you are living, then don't worry about it.  If, on the other hand, you are unhappy or lonely, then force yourself to join groups, volunteer, or go out by yourself.  If you do something you are interested in, you'll find new friends and new hobbies that will interest you even more. Good luck!
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Low self-esteem seems to be a common problem.\nI think that if you try to focus on the positive things\nin your life,get a more optimistic attitude,it would be a good first step in the right direction.\n Other than that,if you can't do therapy,try to recognize\nthat there are people who care about you in your life and that's most important. No matter how it may seem,your world is not really coming apart.From your post,things may not be as perfect as you would like but they could be a lot worse.\nHang in there.
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I know I do not have all the answers that you need. But I hope that somehow my ideas would help.\n\nLoneliness is all in the mind. We can choose to be lonely or otherwise. Instead of sulking in a corner thinking of life's myseries and heartaches, why not boost your self esteem by thinking about the good things that happened to you  (and around you) and the good things that you expect to happen.\n\nGo out with friends and amuse yourself. Talk to people whom you trust and tell them about what's bothering you. Or get away for a while, alone - commune with nature, meditate, talk to God (or whoever you believe is the highest being). You'll realize that there are still beautiful things to be thankful for. Afterall, problems are there to be faced head on. \n\nDo not live with loneliness. Deal with it. Instead of living with it, come out a winner over your problems/frustrations or whatever causes this feeling of loneliness. You should not allow problems/negative ideas influence your life and take away the happiness that you deserve. You should take control.
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Hello there! I am sorry to hear you are feeling so down. People are so quick to say someone has depression. You say that you act like you are the happiest person on earth, but you aren't happy on the inside. You just have to believe that you do deserve happiness! I believe that you just have low self-esteem and self worth. 17 is a hard age! Believe me...looking back I felt the same way and wondered what the heck was wrong with myself. Just the pressures nowadays that are being put on young people is enough to make someone want to give up! I know to be happy is easier said than done sometimes, and it is a lot of work sometimes. Once you start believing in yourself it will get more simple. Life is too short not to have fun--experience life. I am not saying go out there and do foolish things, but enjoy the silly stuff. I am an adult and I still like to go to toy stores and play with the puppets! Because it makes me happy. I am not here to make anyone happy but myself. It sounds selfish, but before we can help others, we have to help ourselves. Just the fact that you asked the question on here shows that you are ready and willing to make a change for yourself. I have done a lot of "stupid" things in my life, but I have learned that loved ones are there for you no matter what you do. If people really love you, they are there for you no matter what! You can make little changes in your life. Use positive affirmation..when you start to feel those thoughts of hopelessness creep in--say to yourself that you are not listening anymore. If you are still feeling beyond hopelessness, there are many people you can go to to talk about it. It is not a sign of weakness to ask for some help and guidance. It is you standing up and saying you are sick of being that way and taking control of your life. I wish you luck and hope that I helped a little! Take care!
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take positive action today, right now. Life is too short and precious. I am your age and have recently retrained after 2 horrible years of illness. I am now doing a job i love. It was tough to get here but well worth it. Be prepared for things to get a little worse before they get better. for example you may be quite low on cash for a while. \nFirst...what do you want to do? need inspiration? look through the job pages, or check out what courses are available. \nsecond...if you don't want to be in this country, where do you want to be? \nthird...how about giving yourself some thinking time and doing something positive and rewarding to fight off the depression? You're young enough to be eligible for loads of charitable organisations, for example BUNAC. They pay for your flights, you do some volunteer work in an interesting place. Might help to get you some perspective.\ngood luck xx
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You need to speak with a psychiatrist. There many drugs on the market for depression.\n\nBut I ask you this, what has been going on in your life? Why are you depressed?