what is the best mode of communication to communicate with your spouse?
337208
Care and affection are seen even from eye contact. Love is communicated like virus it passes from the infected to infect the other partner. No need to think allot both of you can read each other minds.
791024
Communication is the key element in all relationships. Talk to him in a non-attacking manner and tone. Start all sentences with "I feel". That always helps. The second he feels attacked, he will tune you out. That way he can only respond to how you feel and not what he may or may not be doing in your eyes. Good luck.
48998
I met my fiance on line and he sends me a love note everyday in my email, and we talk on the phone in the late evening.  He is in Connecticut and I am in Texas.  I have never had such an open and comfortable relationship since my husband passed away till I met him.  It can work, if both parties are committed to making it work.
984787
You have three choices. Leave him. Continue a life time of fighting over this or Learn to live with it gracefully.\n\nI personally consider a computer a private conversation like a phone call  or a letter addressed to me.\n\nIt is obvious that he isn't going to changed. He seems obcessed with it and very insecure in his place in your life. \nWhat should happen and what will happen are two different things.\n\nAs his wife you really shouldn't be typing anything that isn't something he can read, but then there are times you want to chat with a gf about your marriage or a family member. \n\nThus, again your choices. It seems like he isn't going to change. So you either get used to it and have a sense of humor about it or you leave.\n\nOh, one more option I just thought of. You get your own computer. Take it with you where ever you go.\n\nAnd a message to hubby....you keep this up and she woudn't want to be in your arms becasue they are choking and smothering her.\n\nAnd to her,,, you can change him, but you can change who you react to him.\n\nGood luck.
90077
No. Part of making your marriage a success is learing to live through life's ups and downs together.  There will occasionally be problems the 2 of you have to work through, but the answer to those problems is to turn TOWARD your marriage not away from it.  Not communicating is definately a step away from it.\n\nI'm not saying you should stay on the phone constantly.  Check in with each other once a day to say "I love you".  You may be having problems because both of you need to be reminded of what is most important in your lives and how you really feel.
217842
One word: Communication
596011
Good and open communication is key in a relationship. This way you'll find your way around and figure out what your partner likes. If they are a romantic, try a sweet picnic in the park. Maybe they get stressed eaily or work really hard - offer giving them a massage. Perhaps making dinner together would be a fun way to bond. It really depends on their personality. Open up the ways of communication and find out.
192840
you could pick a topic that would interest both of you.I had a hard time talking on the phone when i first met my fiance.I just brought up subjects that I thought would interest him or I would ask what he wanted to do over the weekend.
244754
First, make sure you're not ignoring something that genuinely needs your attention. People need validation, and if this is true with casual aquaintances it's doubly true of spouses. But if you've eliminated constructive dialog from the equation, then you have to find your "center" and zone out until the wave has passed. No one can argue by themselves; it takes (2) to sustain the conflict. Realize though, that what I just said is a practical tactic to handle things while you're in that moment and feeling pressure to respond or explode. During cooler moments, you need to find a strategy to deal with the main source of the communication difficulty. It could be as simple as turning off the television and looking her straight in the eyes while she's talking, or it could be a matter for a counselor to walk you both through. People usually raise their voices when they don't feel acknowledged or heard in any other way. Once you're sure that's not the case, get some competent help in developing your communication skills together. Good luck.
190594
Can you explain a little more about what it is that you want to communicate?  Each situation is different.  You should check out your schools catalog or handbook.  You should be able to find a section in either book to help you with you situation.\nAlso, maybe somebody can help you more on here if you provide more information!
997524
Yes, you have successfully overanalyzed this.  My husband always sounds horribly angry when I call him.  He isn't.  And most of the time he is glad I called (unless it was to nag him about something)  He has never been great at talking on the phone.  Some guys just don't know what to say to a voice on the other end of the reciever, despite that its their girlfriend, wife, mom, or Jesus himself on the other end.  And that's fine.  Relax.  You'll be fine.
202269
As corny and very used as it may sound, communication is basic, my husband and I have been married only for 3 years but the first year was like that, fighting over everything, but, we got tired of it, sat down and talked about what triggers our outbursts and started out with little things and moved up to  bigger ones,  I don't know for how long you have been with him or how serious it is, but you need to compromise and be commited to the relationship, besides  if you do one unexpected act of kindness towards each other, the other will be willing to reciprocate and it will make him feel you care and it will make things smoother. That worked for us and now things are a lot better.
128142
You have answered your own question.  All the things you mentioned - you will need to bring back.  Opening the communication is the 1st step to recovery.\n\nOr you could sigh up for Wife Swap.
66633
See if he is willing to open the lines of communication so he will at least hear and acknowledge your side, even if he doesn't agree with it. Using good communication skills will let you see his side, too, and perhaps help you understand why he is obstinate.\n\nFor example, practice "active listening." Each person takes a turn speaking, and the other is not allow to interrupt. They can only make sounds or say words that acknowledge they are listening, like nodding or saying, "Ah," or "I see." When the speaker is done, the listener summarizes what they believe was said. The speaker either confirms it or makes any necessary corrections. Then you switch roles, and the listener gets their chance to speak.\n\nThis process ensures that you understand each other. Agreement is not necessary; the goal is to understand the message.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
139841
Express to her how much you love her and that you love her more than ever.  If communication is a problem.. suggest marriage counseling.  Explain to her that making your marriage work is more important to you than anything.  Just tell her how you feel!
224649
Well I would first say that you have to communicate without all the loud talking of each other and most of all you have to be understanding because you know everyone is different in their own way, so you have to understand them and except them for them just as they would love you for you. An you both have to sacrifice sometimes to keep each other happy. In the end you'll both be getting what you want. Being honest is very important as well. You don't want to here something from another person about your spouse, so tell them first so they wont never be surprised and get upset.
141169
There are many types of communication. There is interpersonal communication, which is communication about current emotional states between two people, there is broadcasting, which is communication of information to a large number of people...there is letter writing, IMing, phone calls, books, television...just about any place you get information from is a form of communication, even the forum you're currently participating in!