What would you do if you hated yourself and everything about yourself since your conception?
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Hummmm.....Pretty delicate question. I will do some soul searching as well as counseling. There was a time I felt that way and what I did and I think is the best thing I have done is start over. Basically clean up my mind and soul by not being judgemental and be as open minded as I can. Start fresh and kinda build my life and even myself.When I felt comfortable enough I started doing some personal soul searching. Therapy helped as well. I think quite a few people through life experiences go through that lost. Take it easy and a day at a time and have hope. Life is beautiful.
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I would change myself, because that is the only thing that I have 100% control over.  I would become a better person, and try to make other people's lives better.  \n\nex. Instead of just feeling sorry for starving children, I'd do something about it.....In fact I think I'll go do something about it now!  Gotta run! ;)
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You sound like a very unhappy person to me. By wishing these things you are basically wishing that you aren't the person you are.\n\nEverything that has happened in your life has made you the person you are and you are beautiful.\n\nAnything that has gone wrong has only made you stronger and you need to start looking at your life differently. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself and beating yourself up over events that are beyond your control.\n\nTake everything that has happened and turn it into a positive, make those things what drives you to get where you want to be.
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drop hate. Act like a child, never look back, don't worry about tomorow, live for the moment. Good Luck.
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Stupid... Get an education and prove to yourself you are not\nUnloved... Share love with someone else\nWeird... A little bit of weird is cool\nAnnoying... Find people that are like you and you won't annoy them\n\nHere is the main thing though.  You said advice for a person (yourself) who THINKS that they are all of those things.  The thoughts that you put in your head were just that, put there by you.  You can change them to be positive thoughts.  Everyone has bad days but if you can't change those thoughts on your own maybe you can find a therapist or someone who can.
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Why do you hate yourself? You really have to ask yourself that very question. Is it because you have low self esteem or is it because your body isnt the way you wanted it? I have never felt hate for myself so I cant really put myself in your shoes, but what I do know is that you really need to tell someone, weather it be a counsler or clergyman. Please, whatever you do, dont hurt yourself. Things WILL get better. Trust me!
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I have forgiven myself for the worst hurt and pain I have ever given to myself. I did this and know how it worked for me. So I will share it with you because I believe that personal experience is the best teacher for others.\n\nI tried to kill myself when I was 19. The feeling within is the worst and knowing me, I did not want to carry this around in my body. It is like a toxin. I wanted it out as soon as possible, so one day not too long after that, I think maybe a month. I just had a quiet moment with myself and begun an very loving and wise inner dialogue with myself.\n\nI just told myself that she knows who she truly is and that just because I did this, it did not mean that is who I truly am. I just told myself that I am human, and that I am not perfect. That it is okay to make mistakes we did not know any better at the time. And to just learn from it, and that I am as worthy as I could ever be with my fullest potential. I just loved myself unconditionally with full acceptance and forgiveness. And bingo, I healed quickly from that. Now I can talk about it and feel nothing bad about it. I only look on it as just a trip over the wire type of thing.\n\nLearn that a behavior itself does not make who you are as a whole. You are human. You are not perfect, none of us here are! You already learnt your mistake, don't beat up yourself from that. It is not going to prevent you from being your fullest, true and most beautiful and loving self. The behavior does not prohibit you from being that!\n\nYou are the only person that can make you who you want to be. All the love is right there for you inside, give it to yourself.
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Why do you want to compare yourself and feel bad.\n\nGet over it. You are Just absolutely fine. You would be definetely perfect for that one person, you find.
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Apologize.  Acknowledge that you are human and have done wrong.  Ultimately you will have to forgive yourself and move on.  (Easier said than done, I know)
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I'm sorry you're having such a hard time.  Do you think that perhaps if you did some work with some non-judgemental people it would help your self confidence before you tried surgery?  Perhaps volunteering with cancer patients? Or rocking the small babies in the hospital?  Or visiting the elderly?  If you try giving of yourself you'll get so much in return.  God loveyou, my friend.  People are so cruel.  My heart goes out to you.
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Only if it is affecting your health. If you are so large you have back troubles, yes, it may be the way to go, but if you are trying to improve your self image chances are you will only start to find other things you dislike about yourself. It's better to love yourself the way you are than to try to adjust yourself to what the world thinks you should be.
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time to stop feeling sorry for yourself...get a hobby, spend time with family and friends, catch up on the reading, balance the check book, do some volunteer work...work on YOU. You can't change your former's feelings.\ntime to move on.
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I would \n\nGo out to bars and flirt with all the girls that did not usually get talked to. \n\nExplore my body and find all the "erogenous zones" (so I could use them later for someone)\n\nBe rude to all the stupid hot chicks who think guys are expected to kiss their ass just because they are hot\n\nGo car shopping to see if I am treated differently.\n\nBeat up my ex
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Why not, if you've tried everything else. Have you tried being yourself? You should feel no need to change if you are happy within yourself and people are not pressuring you to change
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i would suggest you see a psychologist or psychiatrist on a regular basis.  you just go in there and talk to him/her and you can hear yourself talk and get some issues taken care of.  one thing that helped my self-esteem issues was i started thinking positive.  for instance, when you wake up first thing in the morning, listen to the sounds the birds make.  enjoy the smell of coffee as it brews.  smile at your loved ones.  these ideas for thinking positively may seem weird to you, but I'm telling you, they do work.  and last, but not least, believing in the Lord Jesus Christ is absolutely wonderful.  He takes care of me everyday.  all you have to do is acknowlege that you have been a sinner and ask Jesus Christ into your heart and He will come to you and take care of you from then on.  don't laugh, it's true.
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You must love yourself. Everyday when you get up, think of one thing you love about yourself and tell yourself. If you find something negative, think of a way to fix it, and do it. I am sure you are a wonderful person, you just need to remember that.
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I'm not happy!  I had two kids one right after the other...my personal choice.  But now I'm stuck with all this weight!  I am happy with other things like my hair, skin tone, no wrinkles, etc.  But I'm unhappy about my weight.  I went from a 6 to a -- size and I hate it! \n\nHowever, I am working to fix it and I've gone back to my kickboxing classes and I'm beginning to lose weight.  Eventually, I can be happy with myself again.  Can't be unhappy with myself all the time now can I?