i have a sick mother she is 83 and cant walk, allday i clean fecal matter myself i have chrohns disease?
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You need some support.  I don't know which state you are in, but you can call your DES deprtment or Family Services people in your area.  They can help you, and there are things they can do for free.  If you don't get help you will just continue to be miserable.  If someone tells you no, ask if they can direct you to someone who can help out.  There are people and places, but you are going to have to find them.
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Did your mother drop you on your head as a child?  If not you may have an infection in your brain or some organic brain syndrome.  You should get that checked out.  Medication may help but you will never know unless you see a specialist.  Don't go to the proctologist.  I know that would be your first choice but see a neurologist.  Good luck on your future mental health :)
920607
Sweetheart, you are really going to need to tell your mom. What is happening to you is not normal and your mom needs to make a doctors appointment......
92188
Thats a one might problem..its a great disease..its called the Generation gap. the only solution is get older, get married have kids and make them suffer more. Well kidding apart..I will ask you to do the most basic thing:\n\n1. Take a note book and a pen and go to the bathroom. write all what you think your mom is wrong about. Do not hold back anything..write and write. After you have filled in 4-5 pages, which I am sure anyone can. Tear them off and flush them in the toilet.\n2. Now try to recall how many times your mom woke up when as a kid you had fever. Jot it down. Write down the glow you saw on your mom's face when you won that medal or aced an exam. Recall the time when your mom said..oh my daughters..they are angels.\n3. After doing step one and 2..Jot down what is the cause of problem between your mom and you sisters. Try to write rationally and then you will find that they are trivial things..which you can easily avoid:\nThese are the three basic things that moms have problem with:Dont wear this...or dont hangout with him..or study hard.\n\na) Do you want to wear clothes that would make people see less into your eyes? ( I am sounding like an old fashioned guy..but after 10 years you will surely feel what your mom feels now). Wear nice clothes. I am not surely preaching.\nb) People with experience tend to see more than teenagers who are infactuated/smitten..Please do not get me wrong.\nc) If you do not study, you dont pass, you dont pass you do not get a career..you do not get a career then do i need to say anything else?\n\nI know while reading this you are probably having an urge to hit me if you could from internet :-) \n\nBut try giving your Mom a second chance with a clear mind..when was the last time you bought her a present or hugged her or said " Oh mama i just love your cooking"
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Go on with your life.  I know a woman who, when her husband died, stopping cleaning her house.  She neglected her children and her appearance and 20 years after his death is still moaning "Woe is me, my husband died and left me pregnant with a toddler," living in a filthy house, and is overweight and unkempt.  That's not grieving, that's mental illness in my book.\nDon't do that. You still have friends and family, right? Spend time with them. Spend time with your husband's family.  Join a gym or start taking a walk every night. Be sure to make yourself a nice meal a few times a week and eat at the table with your nicest dishes.  Don't fall into the "it's too much trouble to cook for one" trap and start eating junk food while watching TV and packing on weight.\nThere are support groups for widows and widowers. If your husband died of a disease, you can probably find other spouses in your predicament who can give you advice and support as well.
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You should go see your doctor.  My Mom is 43, and she had the same problem.  It turned out to be Fibroids.  She had to have surgery, and is doing much better now.
740804
My mother had the same problem. I think this is normal
970957
Perhaps she is ashamed of her mothers illness, and thought you may think differently of her if you knew. Try not to be to hard on her, I am sure it was not an easy thing to do keeping this a secret. She probably thought she was doing the right thing. She may even be in some state of denial of her mothers illness. Good luck and God bless. And do not keep beating up on yourself, you did not know. The two of you need to have a talk, and explain to her that you want her to be honest no matter what it is.*
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She is entirely too young to be doing this.  Is she sickly?  My mom is going to be 60 this fall and she works 2 jobs and is a totally vital healthy woman.  I just turned 40 and we both work at the same Mental Retardation Facility as RNs.  I have the utmost respect for her skills as an RN and she is as sharp as a tack.\n\nPerhaps she needs to get a boot in the bottom to get her to see that she is not living, but merely existing.  \n\nIf she complains about the food, say "You have a kitchen in your apartment, go find something to eat if this doesn't suit you.  Otherwise, please be quiet about it."
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my mother has alzheimers disease and she just moved in with me. her days and night are differt from how it was before she got it. some days she is fine but other days she see thing that are not there at night check the doors 4or5 time to see if thier locked.we have to remind her to take her pills. to eat her food. where she is living at.if you need any more infor tell me what you need.
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I am sorry to hear about this I wish I could answer your Qs. I was just browsing and came across this.I had to post something back!My daughter was very sick about a week ago. She is fine now. But it was so scary.No one knew what she was sick with... Thats the worst part.She is only 2. She was passing alot of blood in her stool....Well we,as humans, always think of the worst first.I felt like the Dr.s were not doing enoff.But I now know that if you trust your DR. with all your hart then your mother is in the right place!But if not...Find some were you do trust.Ya'll will be in my familys prayers.  when you don't know what to do,Take your hands off the situation-by not worring(as much)-and God will then take care of it.
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it is not unusual for the elderly of her age to slump...especially in female.  disk space narrows, muscles atrophy, etc.  the first suggestion i read here would apply to olympic athlete...much too vigorous.\nwith the agreement of her gerontologist, she ought to seek an organized program of supervized water exercise, such as given by local Arthritis Associations, YWCA's, etc.  by all means, the beginner's class in which many aged people are generally the bulk of the participants.slowly does it...and the social aspect will help as well.  your mother is not atypical for many people her age, male and female.  Medicare will not pay for such programs, but I checked with my local Arthritis Foundation which has classes in an inside swimming pool, and 3 classes per week costs $45.00...perhaps you could help defray the costs if your mother does not have sufficient income.....i have no idea what her personal circumstances are, but it might make a great birthday present......and if you pay for it, she will feel obligated to go, even if she does not want to....can she drive? if not, perhaps you can drive her?  perhaps your community has programs for the elderly that include picking them up for such activities?
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I'm sorry. Please forgive me if i sound unkind, but your parent was responsible for YOUR debts when you were young. Can't you help her out with the $621? I mean, this is your mother we are talking about. Not a vet bill.\n\nThe nursing home provided your mother with a service. Why shouldnt they get paid? Why try to cheat them out of it? I set up payments for what was owed for my fathers care, and it was very well above what she owes.  \n\nIf you just cant help your mother out, at least try to find someone else that can step up. Get in touch with her Medicaid caseworker. See if they can help with past bills. If they cant, then ask them for a list of people/places that can.
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I would see another health care type person.  No movement in a week is really excessive.  See another doctor or  try one of those colon health type practitioners.
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I got rid of my colon problems and can help you get rid of yours. There are a few things that can stop this problem but it would be much better to talk than to type. It is up to you. I am easily reachable.
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I suggest you see a health care specialist. it sounds like you might have something more serious. my mom went through some symptoms like that when she had fibro mengia. which is fatigue, massive times of urinating and pain or dizziness and the blahs. or it could be something as easy as like when i had mono (the kissing disease) i didn't feel like eating all my body wanted was sleep and i couldn't stop myself from falling asleep at weird times and places. but since i am not a doctor it could be something else completely. just go get checked out! wish you all the best!
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Infection in your intestines.  You need to do a colon cleanse and eat yogurt every day.