my grandpa is going to dye soon says the doctors should i be sad or happy. happy because hes going to heaven?
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Maybe happy is too strong of a word.  If he is suffering then maybe be relieved that his suffering will soon be over and he will be at home with Jesus.  Also, remember that you will get to see him again if you make the right decisions in life too.  Nonetheless,  when he dies it will be a painful experience for you and the family you just have to keep telling yourself that he is in a better place.\n\nIgnore all those comments about dyeing Easter eggs they should not be answering this question like that.
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I really hate to here of your father falling ill once again. Let me tell you just last week my father was told that he has cancer of the pancreas.It is a scary time for all involed but most of all the patient. I went to see my father just last year after 24 years, we had some bad issuses between us as well does my sister and brother does with him. I feel better that I went I can honestly say that I have no regrets. You feel how you feel and you can only do what you feel is best towards your dad. Always remember that you tried your very best towards him. May god bless you and your father, put your trust in him and he will lead the way. Good luck.
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Please remove the very thought that your mother is goin to die. I know its easily said than done. But if you are sad, naturally your mother will look more sad!!! Make her feel happy by doing what she likes!!! What she loves!!! Do not show the traces of sadness on your face. \nI too am praying for her well being!!!\nRemember one thing, your mother is not going anywhere but just discarding this body and going to another!!! All that matters is the SOUL!!! So, she loves you and so do you!!! She is with you and will be with you!!!
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This is my miracle story. Last year my grandmother who took care of me my whole life became really ill. I was called by my sister who asked me to ride with her to see our grandmother and say good-bye. When arriving at the hospital we were greeted by our whole family. Everyone sobbing saying this was it grandma was leaving us. My grandmother is 86 years old so it wasn't a huge shock to my husband that she would be ready to die. I did not feel like she nor I were ready. I went in to see her and I sobbed. She grabbed my hand and said she loved me and that she would be fine. She was put on a breathing machine that night and signed off support two days later. She got better and did not die like everyone thought. I knew she was going to be fine. I was the only one who knew. We had a 4th of July party this weekend and she was there to eat and laugh with us. My grandmother and I have a wonderful bond along with my sister. I will know when she is ready to go I know she will make sure I am ready. That is my miracle.
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like when my Grandfather died who was the most wonderful Christian there was in my eyes, he said  I hope I was right.we wont know till we get there, but to get there we must have love in our hearts and have faith . Yes he was a man. he had flesh and blood. he had God in him. he was the son of God.his Spirit is still alive. in heaven, he said he would go back and be with his father.and he would leave the Spirit of God to help us and guide us. look to your heart for guidance thru the Spirit, I wish for  you the the very best
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First of all nothing is your fault. If you allow regret to take over it will and it will also bring you down and it's very hard getting back up if you let it control you. I'm really sorry to hear of the death of your great grandfather. I know the feeling of losing grandparents. I have none left from both sides. I just lost the last two grandparent last year. My grandmother died in March and my grandfather died in April. They died a month apart from each other, and I was extremely close to them. I didn't have a chance to say goodbye to them, but the one thing that I have is their love and the memories. No matter what's taken away, you still have the memories of that person, and nobody can take that away from you. Just because he's not here in person does not mean he's not with you. His spirit will always live on no matter what. It's going to take some time to get over, but believe me you will be able to go on. The pain will always be there because you'll miss him, but over time things will get better. He wouldn't want you feeling regret and blaming yourself so don't do that. Would you want someone you loved to be here on earth feeling regret and pain??? He doesn't want this either. His love is still with you, allow it to heal you and know that things will be alright.
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In the book of Revelation, we are told that the former things will have passed away, and that pain and outcry and death will be no more... so we can rest assured that God doesn't intend for us to be able to remember the old hurts or the pain of someone who didn't make it to a new life!  God want's us to be happy, not sad and miserable!  Rev. 21 :4
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If you live long enough, you'll have your share. It comes  with disappointments & failures, usually from someone you care for. God gives Joy, and it is better than happiness. Happiness is linked to "happenings" & you can be unhappy. The joy of God has no opposite, It is beyond reason. You can't be "unjoyed."
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It's sad when people die because we're losing one of our loved ones. It's nice that they go to heaven, but the thought of never seeing them again is sad. We're grieving over our loss.
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Ever notice how the leaves are the most beautiful on the trees in the fall when they turn the magnificent colors?  Actually, they are about to die and fall to the ground.  Don't think of death as the end, but the beginning of life everlasting in the next eternal place known as heaven.  If you know Jesus as your personal savior, dying will be something you grow to look forward to.  Our life will be perfect there--no problems!  We'll get to spend forever with people we loved who have died before us.  If you think life is good here, there's no comparison to heaven.  Ask Jesus to come into your heart if you haven't already and begin to see things through His eyes.
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we will NOT be wierdos with long flowy hair playing harps for all etenity. Heaven will be eternal happiness. It is so beyond human description that it is impossible to absolutely know for sure. I often think that it seems like that would not be my kind of happiness but it is just that we have no way of even acknowleging that much joy and goodness. dont worry if you get into Heaven YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT!!!!!!!!!
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The Lord is happiness.
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If you feel drawn to go, that's what matters.  Death has a way of making things real, and if you still have a place in your heart for him, I would say it's right to honor that place and attend the funeral.  Probably it's a good idea to do so discreetly, as anonymously as possible, unless a graceful opportunity presents itself for interaction with the family, at their initiative. Otherwise, it's between you and your memory of him, a private goodbye.
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I was 40 when my mom died. Today I'm 46 and still every once in a while I become very sad and even cry on occasion.  You were only 8 and you are now only 15.  The point I am trying to make is that the death of someone very close to us is difficult no matter our age at the time. But when you are a child you really don't understand all that is happening. Now as you mature and approach your adult life there are probably some issues about your grandfather and/or his death that were unresolved.  When you were 8 you were not prepared to deal with them.  Now you are able to and so your mind is letting them come up again. Our minds are strange things sometimes at night they dream things that scare the hell out of us. At other times they protect us from the things that really will hurt us.  I know that this is troubling for you and feel you need professional help to deal with it. Like others before me, I suggest you seek that help. Your parents and your doctor are good places to start.\n\nHope this helps you and Good Luck!
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Wow, this has to be the toughest question ever asked. I'm sure some people, especially the religious will jump on this though, since they think they have the answers to everything.\nI don't have the 'real' answer, but I do know a few facts. Life is short, for even the person who has lived the longest will attest to this. Therefore, it is up to us to live life to the fullest, and enjoy every moment we can.\nI'm sorry to hear about your dad. Some people will say it was just 'his time'. Either way, it's not easy. Just try to remember the good times and keep his memory alive within you. I hope you get to feeling better.
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Dear Vickki, I am assuming you have lost someone dear to you in death? I am sorry for you pain. I know the days often seem so long. God does not promise us a life without difficulties and sorrow. He does promise his grace, his mercy and his endless love. It is so hard to understand but someday we will! I hope you can find comfort in knowing you will see your loved ones again. Think about all the wonderful times you had with this person while they were here on this earth. Thank God for blessing your life with their life. By thanking God, you will find the most amazing comfort. Peace will come and you will be able to go on. Hold on to the  the memories and treasure each end every one. I will pray for you and that your pain will be eased. God Bless!
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Gosh, how do you get such a depressing reasoning out of the religions?  We're being tested here on earth, and it gets tough, but life isn't just all about pain and suffering, hopefully.  Maybe yours is though??  There are still so many wonderful things in life to celebrate, and having a baby is one of them.  I have a little 11 months old, and he is the light of my life, and I will never regret bringing him into this world.  Life in this world is not the perfect state, but we are all going toward that perfect state - the afterlife - but what we do in this life will reflect our next one.  If you are so sad, and have such a bad outlook on your life, I hope you get some relief in family and friends.  Children are the most wonderful thing in this world, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.