what should i do if  your bf wants to have sex and you plan the date but your not ready?
353699
I think that if he truly does like you for you he will appreciate that you are not ready.  Now, something similar happened to me, and i was pissed, (i will be honest, I was rather horny, and expecting some gratification that never came.)  If he does get pissed just let him know that it is not him, it is you.  If you do not want him to enter you, is there anything else you might be willing to do that will satisfy him?  If not, let him know.  But in the end, you have to do what feels right.  If deep down you really want to have sex, but you are getting cold feet or butterflies, i suggest you go for it.
328474
explain to him that you feel you are ready to try taking your relationship to the next level to see if your really ready. thats what I like to hear though, that a girl will set a boundry thats cool.
961355
if you love him than theres no rush.  You already know you want to be together and hes expressed feeling the same way for you.  He will ask you when hes ready.  Who knows maybe he has something planned for a special date coming up, if you were to ask, the surprise would be ruined.
123239
You really need to talk first and make plans later.\nDo not rush things.
526227
You should only have sex if you are ready if guys are only interested in you for that then they really don't care about you girl. Keep yourself strong and don't get down, keep kissing them frogs sooner or later you'll find your prince but don't do anything untill you are ready.
546519
listen, if you don't know how to tell him, then that right there is a sure sign you're not ready. you need to feel comfortable talking about it, including birth control & protection. make sure you're really ready and that includes talking to him. just my advice.
354694
if your not ready, say "NO" and mean it, dont let him pressure you into it until your ready.
967512
You should hold out until you feel it is right to have sex with him.  If you have sex with him right away becasue you really like him and think he will be with you because you gave into him, there would be a good chance he will dump you because he thinks you sleep around.  If you hold out to long and he leaves you, then he was using you and he isn't worth being with.  You will know in your heart when it's the right time.
1175444
no. sometimes its better to take things slowly, and get to know each other really well. then when you know you trust them, you can go ahead and do the things that you wanna do. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and we havent had sex yet. he knows i want to wait, and he respects that. but if your man does'nt want to wait, then he is'nt worth your time. no guy should have to be that way.
884754
If you are not ready for sex...don't do it and stop worrying about his blue balls.  He can go home and take care of himself.  Don't let him make you feel bad and pressure you into anything that you do not want to do.  Good Luck.
160882
say bye. if he not commit to you now, he will not be commit later.  He is in it for the sex.
310500
maybe he needs sex, are you having sex?
1064748
Not dating when you are not ready is good. well something you can do together is taking a long walk and talking about what he like to do or what you like to do and make shor you tellhim that you dont want to get to deep in things ,become very good friend and if thats not good for him than you are to dam good for him. Sokeep it moving there is someone out there for baby girl.sign:justsaysexy@yahoo.com
783101
Well, from what I like, I like a guy to be upfront with me about asking me out and things like that but I like the anticipation before having sex, that makes you want it even more.\n\nMy suggestion is to be upfront about asking her out and calling her but always build up anticipation about fooling around and sex.
930505
He might just not be that into you. If he's not ready, he's not ready. You cannot force it; otherwise it will end.
988843
Don't have sex if you are not 100% ready
673123
Do not have sex until you are ready.  If he truly cares about you, he will not pressure you to do something you are uncomfortable with.