my mom is pregnat, but her fiance smokes aroung her! what do i do?
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I would use google scholar (scholar.google.com) to find journal articles and medical texts detailing all the bad things that will happen to the fetus. \n\nShe has to make up her own mind - so you can only present her with the facts and hope that she will listen.\n\nExplain that you love her, and the sibling-to-be, and that you are concerned it will be harmed irreparably. Maybe get a stool and blanket and ashtray for the garage so that you have provided all the necessities to keep the fiance warm while he kills himself with carcinogens.\n\nPs - you're pretty smart and with it for a 15 year old...I hope you stay that way. *high fives*
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Yup, ask her to do it outside and when you are not home. Thats what my husband does (I dont like him to smoke around me either).
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Keep interruping her and disagreeing.\n\nKeep asking "why? I don't under stand?"\n\nMakes pass at her.  This works if you're male or female.\n\nAsk her questions about her sex life.\n\nIf all else fails, sh** my pants and go sit with d and isist it wasn't me.  Or was it c?  Or a. and watch mom keep checking the baby.
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go down and get some baby power and some food dye the brightest color you can find and turn the powder that color dress in all white the powder your self clothes and hair everything this one color. in a demanding way enter where your mom and new b/f are kissing and say in a firm voice mom I think we need to talk. I am sure she will give you some time to voice your concerns.
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Maybe you should talk to her about the dangers there are to sleeping around with people and keep talking to her about it. If she insists with doing it make sure she has condoms with her so that at least there's less a chance at catching something. Also keep those pills that stop you from getting pregnant so that doesn't happen either. I don't know if this will make her think before she gets herself pregnant, but this is a story that use to be on the internet that my mom had:\nTHE UNBORN CHILD'S DIARY\nOctober 5\nToday my life began. My parents do not know it yet, I am as small as a seed of apple, but it is I already. And I am to be a girl. I shall have blond hair and blue eyes. Just about everything is settled though, even the fact that I shall love flowers.\n\nOctober 19\nSome say that I am not a real person yet, that only my mother exists. But I am a real person, just as a small crumb of bread. My mother is. And I am.\n\nOctober 23\nMy mouth is just beginning to open now. Just think, in a year or so I shall be laughing and later talking. I know that my first word will be: MAMA!\n\nOctober 25\nMy heart is beginning to beat today all by itself. From now on it shall gently beat for the rest of my life without ever stopping to rest! And after many years it will tire. It will stop then I shall die.\n\nNovember 2\nI am growing a bit every day. My arms and legs are beginning to take shape. But I have to wait a long time yet before those little legs will raise me to my mother’s arms, before these little arms will be able to gather flowers and embrace my father.\n\nNovember 12\nTiny fingers are beginning to form on my hands. Funny how small they are! I'll be able to stroke my mother’s hair with them.\n\nNovember 20\nIt wasn't until today that the doctor told mom about me living here under her heart. Oh, how happy she must be! Are you happy, Mom?\n\nNovember 25\nMy mom and dad are probably thinking about a name for me. But they don't even know that I am a little girl. I want to be called Kathy. I am getting so big already.\n\nDecember 10\nMy hair is growing. It is smooth and bright and shiny. I wonder what kind of hair mom has.\n\nDecember 13\nI am just about able to see. It is dark around me. When Mom brings me into the world it will be full of sunshine and flowers. But what I want more then anything is to see my mom. How do you look, Mom?\n\nDecember 24\nI wonder if mom hears the whispering of my heart? Some children come into the world a little sick. But my heart is strong and healthy. It beats so evenly: tup-tup, tup-tup. You'll have a healthy little daughter Mom!!!\n\nDecember 28\nToday my mother killed me.
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Hopefully you "do" no one...this isn't a competetion. Sorry, had to since you asked "who". ;)\n\nPray that she is not pregnant. Unfortunatly, that is the risks ones takes when they have sex. I hope that she is learning a GOOD lesson from this scare.\n\nUnless she has taken a HPT and confirmed pregnancy she needs to relax. Young women can upset their cycles by stressing out over things. There is no point geting upset or upsetting others over something that may not be. It can also ruin ones' reputation by playing the Drama Queen over every false alarm.\n\nIf she has taken a HPT and it is positive... she needs to go to a OB/Gyn and begin prenatal care. Early prenatal care is very important to her and the baby's health.\n\nEncouraging her to discuss this situation with her Mother is a good recourse. As a Mom myself, who was pg while living at home, there is NO better person to turn to for help. Her Mom probably already has a good idea something is up. Even if she gets upset and is disappointed when she hears the news... she is a MOM and will do everything she can for her child - that's what we Moms do.\n\nEncouraging her that she can still do the things she has dreamed of (job, education, etc) while being a Mom is good too. Leting her know that you will still be her friend and that she can talk when she needs to helps too.
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I think you need to worry less about the legal ramifications and more about your father's health. I think someone better get to mom and ask her why she's playing around with her husband's life!
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She already knows that you support her in not smoking, the only thing that you can do is continue to let her know that her smoking hurts you and that you would support her efforts to quit. Don't berate her, it will only make her resent you. The final decision is hers and hers alone. Many people successfully give up smoking, but it takes tremendous willpower and there are probably even more ex-smokers in the world than smokers.
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I'm not an authority on this but just had a baby boy born last Saturday. My wife was drinking in he first month because we didn't know she was pregnant. After that she didnt touch a drop and our baby was born absolutely perfect. Mind you she never smoked the ganga. But I smoked for over 10 years very heavily. Right up to the pregnancy. Seems as soon as I stopped she got pregnant. Good form of birth control.\n\nBut I would recommend to your friend to see her GP and have an early scan and blood tests. she should be honest with the doctor. There is alot of people saying that these things do not justify abortion as the effects are not known to be detrimental always.
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First let me say WOW! First your mom should know that you love her and that you always will. You should be totally honest and let her know how you feel. You are her daughter and blood is thicker than water. Her boyfrind can leave her tomorrow but you will always be her daughter. Your mom has to find to courage to tell this "douche bag" to take a hike. all you can do is support your mom and be there for her. you are a good daughter and you deserve a hug
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well you might want to tell her in non-chalant ways. And be nice about it. You don't want hubby on your back for being mean to mommy. I understand completely. Or maybe you might want to talk to hubby about it and he can help you with this situation. If your baby is still an infant than she's just excited! As a matter of fact you should take advantage of the situation and have her watch the baby and you go out and have some you time! And relax a little bit! \n\nThese are just a few suggestions. I went through the same thing! Sometimes just being honest with her helps too!
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your her friend and this is going to be tough but don't try to help her pass her drug tests by giving your sample of pee  Drug addicts are very manipulative people.Set some guide lines sit her down and tell her you will not lie for her and tell her not to treat you like a idiot by lying to you. Tell her you are only too happy to support her to help kick the habit. As for the baby i really feel sorry for the child especially when there are so many people who are childless out there and would love a child. Maybe it would be better to have the child placed in care until she gets her act together and cleans up. I know this sounds like tough love but you have to be for her sake
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my sister-in-law just gave birth to her baby girl and she's 36..both of them are healthy and doing fine. just tell your wife to not to drink or smoke and do what the dr.s tell her to do and they will be fine.  i send you my wishes and best luck to the 3 of you!!
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"I would marry her as soon as she tuned down the attitude"\n\nDude, the woman is pregnant and not yet married, there is no turning down the attitude.  When did the attitude start? How long have you been engaged? \nIn any case, just try to be understanding.  Offer her help with things around the house, stay out of her way, but be there to help if asked.  Other than that, set a date for the wedding.
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I know you love your fiance, but it's obvious his mother doesn't love you.  You're gonna have problems.  I'd tell you to beat her with an aluminum bat, but that wouldn't get you anywhere.  Tell your fiance exactly what you're telling us.  Don't try to avoid conflict, cuz it already exists, and will only get worse.  Have your fiance bring this up with his mother, and try to iron things out.  Is there a reason his mother chooses the other girl over you?  Does his mom even know the real you?  Who you are?  How much you love her son?  That bitch!
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Have you tried telling them that smoking will lead to CO PD, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, and that you don't want to "watch them die".  I went through that with both my mom and dad and had to watch both of them die a horrible death.  Try being "honest" and tell them you don't think it's fair for them to put you through watching them "die" from something they are doing by choice!  Good luck to you, however it turns out.  I wouldn't wish what I went through on anyone!  If you want, print my answer out and show it to them!  I've been there, what you are going to have to go through if they don't stop!  Good luck, and God Speed, no matter how it turns out.
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This sounds to me like my situation a few years ago, phantom pregnancies, if at all posible ignore this person's remarks lies and rot she is a very unhappy person and trying to drag up b/s for you to get upset and angry about ignore it [it will not go away]but still ignore it or speak to her as you are speaking to a child and tell her to grow up