what are the steps in ending a helping relationship with a client?
344060
If it is time to end because the work is done, and there are no other reasons, like insurance is running out, just say "Our work is finishing up here.  You guys are doing great.  I want to agree to a date to end our sessions that works for all of us."  If you need to end because of some problem you are having, find someone willing to take a referral, and do the referral without delay.  Each counseling profession has its own standard of ethics, and termination is a clearly laid out process.  If you are a practitioner, you know this.  If a client, you can find it on the internet for your state or the national association.\n\nTermination is not the same as abandonment.
845983
Insist you be paid. Call your clients yourself and explain without too much details and without being catty. If you let it slide, he will keep on doing what he is doing and do it to someone else in the future as well
623009
Follow the flow chart:\n\nCan you make amends?\n\nYES: make amends and pay or undo whatever the killer hirer requests;\n\nNO: you better kill your "someone hired people to kill me" person.\n\nOTHERWISE: Live with constant fear.\n\nOTBPOC
555332
Same as above.  But make sure you give the employee detailed corrective action in writting on how and when to request OT.  Then when he/she does it again, you can further coach and/or terminate the employee.
639437
Ben Franklin said, "When angry, count to ten. When very angry, count to a hundred."  \n\nAlso, breathe deeply and release it slowly. Think of all you will lose if you blow yout top. \n\nCan you write out the things you are angry about, then discusss them with some trusted person such as a counselor or pastor? \n\nRemember that anger feeds on anger, and you can't get in little digs or jabs at the other person without them also attacking you in little ways. "A soft answer turns away wrath."\n\nWrite yourself a script and don't deviate from it. If you are to discuss with the person you are mad at, don't adlib or improvise. List the things you want to say and don't get drawn off into any unprofitable side topics.\n\nMake up your mind to be fair to the other person. If you begin by saying "I want to make sure I'm being fair to you; what did you mean when you said, etc. etc." This will either lead them to want to be fair to you or make them want to leap to the attack. You will know, however, that you have done your best. Hopefully, they will decide to be fair to you as well.\n\nYou cannot fully protect yourself. The only way to do that is not to see them any more. You must take the risk of exposing your vulnerability-- even to the extent of admitting that you want to talk and see if the relationship can be restored. If it is, it will have been worth it. Even if it is not, you will know that you have done everything you could and that the blame does not rest with you.\n\nMake sure a neutral third party is present. They MUST be neutral. The presence of such a person will tend to inhibit outbursts of anger.Make sure the person understands that they are to remain neutral and that their only role is to moderate, or to prevent anger. Good candidates for the neutral third party are a boss from another department (if this is work related), a pastor, a counselor or therapist, a social worker or family arbitrator.\n\nThis is all pretty general, but you have already taken the most important first step, which is to have asked for help. This shows that you really do want to resolve this in a peaceful way. You have my respect and prayers for success in trying to restore or preserve the relationship. Good luck!
940736
Take him aside, sit him down, look him straight in the eyes and tell him how you feel. You do the talking if he tries to interrupt tell him just to listen til you are done.  If he still does not want to help then hire someone to help you or just quit.
196641
You walk out of the abusive person's life and the relationship, and never look back. Do not give second chances, or that person the satisfaction of trying to make you feel guilty or that you "owe" them, and your payment to them for 6 years is to stay with them.
81092
sorry , it can't be done -unless they want to get rid of you also-just cut the ties quickly and completely
161300
feed him false information to:\ndestroy his/her trust with all of his freinds\ndistroy his/her self esteam\nmake him/her lose the trust of family and friends\n\nintroduce them to drugs\ninfect them with HIV\ncall the cops on them\nsend an anonimous email telling the most horrible lies about them making them lose their job\n\ndo you feel horrible, if not go ahead if yes then just dont do it, and forgive (God forgave us)
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Adress the demands by priority. State that is how you will be handling their issues in order to "serve them best".\n\nI suggest writing down the demands and speak with them about each until the order in which they will be handled is agreed upon. This lets them know you are focusing on their issues and not leaving anything out which in turn will make them calmer clients.
713244
Have your attorney (or you yourself) file a "Motion for Reconsideration" and ask the judge to clarify your order.  Provide him the facts that a co-counselor is not available and provide reasonable alternatives (couples counseling, having you both see the same counselor, etc.)
790107
At the end of the day, you have to put yourself first. That can be easier said than done, but you do yourself no favours by staying in a relationship that causes you unhappiness. When you do eventually walk away, you will soon realise that it was a good decision, and you will feel better for it. In fact, you will wonder why you did not do it before. No good person wants to break a relationship, but no bad relationship is worth the suffering of a good person. It is your goodness that he is exploiting, but he probably does it unknowingly, because he is not well. I imagine that he needs help, but professional help, and that there is nothing that he will let you do for him. Maybe your departure will alert him to his defects. Let's hope so.
368432
continue helping yourself.. till she or he is back ..
761755
Paypal is one method that comes to mind *IF* you fell that you are able to truly counsel a client without any body language clues, without any intonation hints, without the benefit of understanding if a pause lasted 2 seconds or 29 minutes.\n\nSure you could use webcam and mic to get around SOME of this, but I would be fasincated to know how the dynamics of this are going work, both from a personal and also a professional point of view.\n\nDo you have suerpvision in person - or are you happy to receive supervision "online" too?  Both responses generate further questions as I am sure you might imagine.\n\nThe payment side seems easy - Paypal is available to most people - it is ensuring that you AND your client are able to both operate effectively. I wish you well and please do no harm.
1136
You just end it. It really doesn´t matter why, the point is: you don´t want it anymore and it´s enough. Break up with the person, cry and be sad the time you need and then, be happy again :-)
300683
Back him off, keep him at arm's length and force the interaction back to just professional. Otherwise, someone is going to get a broken heart, and it isn't going to be you.
781574
Well, if she is giving it up to you, then why stop. Just hit it and kick her out!