How do you cope with difficult people at work who have a history of being awkward and making life a misery?
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Well, first of all, find comfort in knowing that she is the one with the problem, not you.  People like that can make you judge your own sanity, but be assured that she is the bad guy.\n\nAvoid her as much as you can.  When you do have to interact with her, have all of your questions/projects lined up and ready to go, so you can go right down the line and move as quickly as possible in getting your work details done.\n\nIf the problem escalates, calmly tell her that her behavior is inappropriate, and then document her behaviors in case you need to provide them to HR.  Unfortunately, this might not work, because these types often see their behavior as completely normal, either due to a psychological problem, or just plain immaturity.  My guess is that she'll tell you that you need to "lighten up".\n\nI truly do wish you the best.  I work with a guy who has Asperger's, and every single day is a struggle with him.
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you should tell them you don't appreciate them disrespecting you and especially in front of people if you keep letting them do it there not going to stop. until you let them know how you feel .your just being too nice and that's OK but you have feelings too . tell them to treat you like they want to be treated ,they shouldn't threaten your job either that's not very professional .she could lose her job also  and start taking your lunch i would just do my job and go home you dont need friends like them .
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They're not just affecting you. These types of things affect everybody. It's how eveyone handles these problems that is different.\n\nThe best first step you can take in beginning to deal with these problems is to refuse to accept a "victim" role. Things happen, and life isn't just looking to pick on you. Empower yourself with the belief that you CAN change things. Remember that it won't be an overnight fix, and it won't be easy. But if you don't step up to the plate on your own behalf, anything can and will defeat you.\n\nI wish you luck and good will.
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Use too now I work at home thankfully.  It's rough I had this one co-worker that would come in you'd say Morning and she just grumble as she walked by and ignored everyone and was rude to everyone until10-11 am in the morning then she wanted to be friends with everyone, well f that I'm dumb plum annoyed with you now so go scratch!!
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Make them toothless!\n\nHa ha...no, just embrace it.  I'm awkward; I'll admit it...I'm plenty awkward.  I make jokes of it.  If people realize that you know you're awkward, but you don't care, they won't care either.  Besides, if you can laugh at it yourself, it won't matter so much if others laugh at it too.  \n\nI can't help it if I run into walls and store displays any more than you can help knocking things down.  It happens, and then it makes for an interesting story later on!
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My advice would be to try to find a way to deal with it because you probably cannot change it.  In this world we have to cope with all kinds of people.  No one is going to take those people away from your future work place for example.  The more skills you can develop to cope with the situation in which you find yourself in a productive and positive way, the better for you.  Use your energy to find ways to deal with it rather than putting energy into trying to change something you probably cannot change.  No matter what happens students will be assigned to this individual's class.\n\nGood luck with it.
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Think about the struggles and opportunities that these people encounter on their job.  Ask about them as if you are planning how you will achieve them.  Be genuinely interested - this will automatically make you personable.  The people will love to talk about themselves, and they will think about you doing the position which gives you one foot already in the door.  Talk to other people in similar positions.  Do a lot of research and just close your eyes and think about what your day would be like in that position.
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I am in that situation everyday. I have to work with someone that absolutely annoys me and is so difficult to work with. Because I am a mature individual and I want to display professionalism, I have to put my grievances aside in order to get the job at hand done.
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I to deal with people like this everyday. You have your regulars that are just plain miserable people, and always show you attitude when they come in. Then you have those that are rude because they are dissatisfied with your company for some reason (out of stock on an item, pricing, long wait, etc.),or their just having a bad day. When you finally are able to rectify the situation you usually see a positive change in their attitude. These are normally just your eveyryday people who if they were able to see the way they were acting, would probably be very embarrassed. Finally there are those that actually get kicks out of being rude to people, especially when they know you are unable to fight back and say what you feel. Don't take it personally, just smile an please them as best you can. When they leave your store you can make fun of them and mock them all you want.
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Talk to her...tell her how much you value her as a worker, and all the reasons why you do; but explain that it would be helpful if she adopted a little bit more of a professional behavior on the emotional part. Ask her to practice at expressing her problems in a reasoned, unemotional way; and to consider that there are other people working with her who can not keep trying to adjust to her varying needs. \nGood luck.
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don't take 'em seriously, but always be on the look out just in case they want to cause you trouble. So, basically just go about your business, keeping in mind that you're doing a job...you're not there to socialize!!
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These people are insecure and miserable.\nKill them with kindness.\nDont give them the satisfaction they are looking for.\nIgnore it.\nThat dont know how to do deal with that.\nBe proud of who you are.
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Yes, but just try to avoid them until they calm down. If they have any decency at all they'll apologise to you later. On a more serious note, if they are like that then they shouldn't be in the job role they're in. This is unprofessional and certainly doesn't make you feel that they are approachable. I hope I am not like that to my lot.
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Each person is different. Be very quiet around the person until you size him/her up. I once worked with the most gruff person in the world. He was superior to me, as he was in a management role with the company who owned the company I worked for. He was always chewing people up. I was in my early 20's. One day he called me and said "I am going to come down there and break your G.D. arm off". (because he thought I made a mistake on our payroll). I was tired of his behavior and I said "you come down here and break my G.D. arm off, and see what I break off of you". He was really quiet for a second and then burst out laughing. Apparently, no one had ever talked back to him like that. He decided he like me, and we remained friends for 20 years until he passed away.  \n\nSo don't give up, make it your goal to turn this person into an advocate versus and enemy.
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call one of your workers into the room preferably a small guy,then to blow off some steam proceed to batter his head of the wall over and over until you are satisfied.if this doesn't work buy a punching bag and imagine your with one of you most hateed colleagues it always works for me
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hi there . my advice to you is to address the situation straight away as you are getting very angry and this can be resolved before the situation becomes untentable! \nthis is a common accurance and can be simply remedied by expressing your concerns as to your situation at work and impact it is having or could have on your job and frienship . The longer you leave it the harder it will be to broach and the outcome will be seen as you being the bady .good luck with it\nRegards.\n Adrian
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Gone unchallenged, this problem will not fix itself.\nIf your friends are content with this...do nothing, but if it unacceptable behaviour by someone at work, then talking to your boss without being confrontational is absolutely appropriate. Sometimes a boss is unaware of all that goes on so give them the opportunity to hear your concerns. \nAlways document incidents/dates/times/who is involved just in case you require future reference though.