how do i get rid of the grreen jealousy monster i hide for my boy friend 's ex?
351852
Bury her behind your boyfriends house. If he ever dumps you-make an anonymous report to the police that there is a body behind his house.
1082287
You should have a discussion first with your friend.If she's doing this to you then she's not your friend but your enemy!\nAnd talk to your ex too.Tell him what you feel for him.Maybe he feels the same way.Talking to him is the only way to clear things out...
1125169
I do the same thing.  Nothing is wrong with getting rid of the possesions that remind you of an ex-lover.  And if his feelings were hurt, TOO BAD!
265251
I think you need to express to him, the importance of her not being in his life as a friend or any other aspect.  The two of you need your own life, without her input.  She's only going to be biased against you because of her situation previously.  You shouldn't talk about being jealous or anything like that, just appeal to him on a more inter personal, relationship aspect level and try to get him to understand and see how that relationship betweem him and her adds absolutely NO value to him or his life now!
651282
Well, remind your friend all that you've shared. The past will always outweigh the present. The green eyed monster only emerges when one is worried or a little insecure. Be flattered that they care enough to worry, but flatter them back with reassurances that you are going no where other than to a place where you can grow closer to them. \n\nWe tend to think of jealousy as a bad thing. It is more of an indicator. Stop and step back and see what it is telling you. Give her what you she needs........and ask her to give you what you need. Awareness. That's what it's all about. :)
772129
I think the best thing to do in this situation is to look into how jealous and if there is a threat present. Sometimes it can be innocent and sometimes dagerous. Using the word protect I would assume there may be some threat. Document contact with that person keep a journal do not meet with that person in private if you must arrange a public meeting always let someone know that you are meeting that person and give them a check in time.  Also if you are in fear and have the evidence have a restraining order and stick to it. Never underestimate jealousy
859624
It's called a rebound affect.  Yes, it's nice to find someone else to take your mind off of the ex but be careful you don't treat him as the substitute boyfriend.  See him as an indivdual person.  Work on letting go of the ex.  This will take some time.
476642
Hmmm...the best way to get over your ex???? Get a group of friends together and go out and have a good time! Go dancing, go to a movie, even invite them over to hang out. Do anything you can to keep your mind off the ex. Then, throw out anything the ex ever gave you. Get rid of it all, burn it if you want. Have a "cleansing". Take a nice long shower, indulge in some bubble bath even, do something nice for yourself. Go spend some money if you've got it, and then, when you are ready, go shopping for another person to be with!:) GOOD LUCK!
500699
Yeah...it sounds familiar ...I have an ex who tried the same...basically you have to set boundaries as it's not appropriate for him to visit you given his feelings and the fact that you're committed to another man. Tell him to use the phone or mail to communicate but don't expect him to go away -it's been 18 years since my ex has been doing this but as he's basically harmless I haven't really cared. The important thing is -is your ex harmless? Or is he someone who may act on his obsession? Finally I want to say -be sure you're not sending mixed signals...I've seen too many women not be clear about their wishes only to whine or press charges later when it's their fault for not being direct in the first place! Be honest with him and tell him to scram! There's my advice...I hope you take it! Edit~ I got your mail....If you hate him as you say AND HE HAS 'HURT YOU SO BAD' then why are you putting up with him then? Get a restraining order! Call the police and file a complaint and ask them to tell him to stay away! I thought maybe you still liked him on some level but since that's not the case you need to be pro active! Don't sit here on yahoo talking about it-do something about it -and I mean right now-today! Make sure you don't regret not doing anything!!!!!!!!! Everyday you let this go on-you encourage him more, and give him hope and he will become more relentless! You have been warned!
646450
I'm sorry that your going through this I know how you feel believe me I have been through this myself. I saw once on Oprah's show that you must let him go in order for something better to come into your life. How you can you let something better come into your life? when your still thinking about the ex boyfriend! May God Bless You and bring someone new into your life!
949566
honey I so feel your pain. I want to give you some advice and please read carefully. Do not waste one more moment of your life fretting over this woman. This situation will always be a thorn in your side if you let it. DONT LET IT. You said your not a hateful person but if you let it this or she will make you one. Trust me I have been married to a man for 10 years and his ex is the beast master GOG OF MAGOG.I finally had to let it go but it just about ate me alive before I realized. I became bitter, hateful, obsessed, you name it. It will hurt no one but you.
519725
Run Away Run Away!!!!!!!!!!!!!\nJust remember jealous boyfriend syndrome- side effects may include you getting your face smashed in or damage to vital organs.
505159
IT is apparent that he is not your friend at all if he is dating your exgirlfriend.  Just lose them both!!!
1102553
yeah i used to get into trouble for this with my ex, u have to get over it at the end of the day they r his ex's he did have a life before he met u. well that's what i used to get told anyway...hence he is now my ex. don't feel bad about it just make sure u don't nag him to much about it because he will ge3t annoyed with it! Just make sure a better girlfriend then they ever were! \n\ngood luck!
628687
If I found out they were dating behind my back, I would dump BOTH of them, not 1. Just to make the process more efficient! :)\n\nCheer up, sh..t happens, you know.\n\nGet a new best friend, and a get a new boyfriend, too.\nHarsh to say, but this may be the only clean way out of this mess. \n\nDon't torture yourself... but defend yourself, as much as you can. Don't let your self-esteem go down beause of the two pigeons.
628313
Well what I would do is first of all, tell my friend the truth.  Tell her that I only said it because I was jealous of the time she was spending with the other person.  If you don't really dislike the other person, go to them personally and apologize and try to make amends.  Let them know you were jealous of the attention they were getting and maybe you guys can work it out.
651545
JUST IGNORE THEM! TRY TO FIND A NEW GF AND BFF. DONT ACT JELOUS OR THEY WILL BE WORST! THATS WAT I DID AND IT ALL WORKED!!