Relationship help, please!!!...?
348663
I met my husband at our workplace & he is 12 years older than me.  We are quite happy & been married for 6 years.  With this experience, I can say that you need to take it slow, don't load him down with your "emotional baggage" of the past, but be yourself.  Just don't give your entire life story right away.  Let him gradually get to know you.  Being nervous & apprehensive is normal.  Breathe & take it easy.  Things will be okay if you be cool, but not icy cool of course!  Talk about stuff, but also be breezy in your conversations.  If he wants to get to know more about you, he can pursue you gradually in future dates & learn a little bit more about you each time.  Most important (besides being yourself & not pretending to be something or someone your not) is to: Think Before You Speak.  That way you'll bypass your fear of saying something stupid.  Remember that it's okay to have silences between each other.  No one needs to chatter incessantly. Go slow & don't go too far or jump into bed together. Relax & have a great date!
531876
The best thing you can do in this situation, is to take a step back, and wait. It appears you're pressing the issue too hard, and you have her a little threatened by your persistence. Leave it alone for a few days. It's obvious you're not going to care less, but it might give her a chance to see you're an all right guy that she would like to spend some time with. Good Luck!
978019
Your boyfriend is lying to you.  You have to either accept someone as a friend, or add them yourself.  I think you should just dump his loser butt and get rid of him.  You deserve better than some liar.
717700
you need to comfront him/her about it. you dont have to acuse them of anything, you just need to ask. if your relationship is strong enough it will all work out.
506695
Try to remember that he has a life as well as you do. If you want to see him more often, talk to him about it. I don't know the specifics on your relationship, but communication will help you figure it all out. Remember to listen to each other.
738870
Hey there, I can understand this situation.  Been there and done that.  You did a good job at telling him everything you can possibly remember.  Try not to feel guilty just talk to about it and hope he can understand.  Tell him about how you feel that you need some time together that is important in a relationship. Tell him you want to spend more time together and your true feelings that led you to maybe drinking too much.  If he is a nice guy he will understand.  You know if could be a fun thing to hang out with him and his friends.  Getting to know his friends and be liked by them is a serious plus for him to get closer to him. Beleive me!!!  Been there and done that!!!
374552
Seems to me the best way to address the situation is to be forthright and talk to him about your concerns.  If your decision is to move on to find someone more accessible to you, then say that.  There is no real way to break up with someone that won't result in hurt feelings.  But to be true to yourself and the most fair to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel and what you want.  Personally, I would recommend doing it face to face, even though it may be uncomfortable.  You may want to continue seeing one another after talking about it, but if it does end, be able to step away knowing that in the long run it may be the best thing for your both.
1107888
I think you need to ask her the question. Let her know you love her, but you don't like feeling like your not good enough. Ask her if she thinks you should stay together or break up, and let her know the terms of what you need for the relationship to work.
890225
Please do not start anything with him or anybody while in a relationship with another. What goes around comes around and you will be asking for the same in your relationship with that person.
484144
Be glad and treasure this part of your relationship. Never pick a fight. Just continue to be yourself and see where this leads. He may be your one. Good luck.
430928
Dump him.  hahahaha just kidding.\n\nMaybe a few nights out with the girls will get him to stop taking you for granted, which is what I think you are telling me is going on.  When he starts to notice, don't be stubborn, don't deny it, say plainly, "Why shouldn't I?  You are taking me for granted!"  You might even walk out of the room to drive your point home.  Stay gone.\n\nGet in touch with him the next day and apologize for your "tantrum".  (if this is unlike you, all the better).  Let him know that you care about him and let him know you still want to do "special" things for him, but you can't be expected to stick around if he doesn't demonstrate his appreciation.\n\nDon't make a habit of fighting like this.  If he gets it, he gets it.  If he doesn't... well, I'm single. =)
261672
you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
934856
i've often been in this situation! the best thing i have done is just kind of flirt around, if he feels threatened, stop, and either move on, or wait til they (prolly sometime) breakup, \n\nif he flirts alot back just tell him "listen i know you have a girlfriend, and i don't want to get between you 2, but i just waned you to know that i do like you"   then see what happens from there, if he's for it (to date you) don't do anything til he breaks up with his girl, you don't want to be that kind of 'girl' if he's not for it, MOVE ON!\n\n\n\n\n\n---if you need any more advice on this situation or any other one you have DON NOT hesitate to message me!!!----
169866
hey man, are you dating my girlfriend?  I cant believe there is anyone I can relate so well with - \n\nI guess all I can say is to just trust her until something really messed up is proven to you- give her the benefit of the doubt man!  Does she tell you she loves you? I know they can lie about that too, but at least they are saying it.  If she turns out to be a liar, dont do what I did once in my past- dont even attempt to make her feel guilty, because chances are she wont anyways.
1113393
Continue with this relationship and see if it gets better.\n\nI wish you love\nstw
52826
There is no way you can get around not hurting him.  It is going to happen.  Sorry!  Just be honest and talk with eachother.  I'm sure you are grown and can handle the situation.  Best of Luck to you!
634967
This guy doesn't sound like he's taking your relationship seriously. He doesn't appear to take you feelings into consideration and wants a life which does not include you in it. He seems very selfish, and you should ask him outright - and don't let him give excuses! Tell him straight that you need to know where you stand with him, and you don't want to waste your time hanging around with someone who doesn't want you around! Take control - be strong & determined and tell him exactly where HE stands with you. Relationships are two-way things, and 'give and take' means from both partners, not one gives and the other takes. Be strong, and if you don't get satisfactory answers, then move on and find a guy who will appreciate you for yourself. You are worthy of better treatment than this guy seems capable of giving you. If you still want to be with him, hopefully he will come to realise what he is about to lose if you leave him. Don't give hime the satisfaction of dumping you first, though!! Good Luck!