what will you do to improve your lifestyle if you are a widow?
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Go on with your life.  I know a woman who, when her husband died, stopping cleaning her house.  She neglected her children and her appearance and 20 years after his death is still moaning "Woe is me, my husband died and left me pregnant with a toddler," living in a filthy house, and is overweight and unkempt.  That's not grieving, that's mental illness in my book.\nDon't do that. You still have friends and family, right? Spend time with them. Spend time with your husband's family.  Join a gym or start taking a walk every night. Be sure to make yourself a nice meal a few times a week and eat at the table with your nicest dishes.  Don't fall into the "it's too much trouble to cook for one" trap and start eating junk food while watching TV and packing on weight.\nThere are support groups for widows and widowers. If your husband died of a disease, you can probably find other spouses in your predicament who can give you advice and support as well.
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what do you want to improve
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Change your job... No one is considered old in society nowadays... Even the old can marry the young..
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Keep physically and mentally active.  Participate in activities that you have always wanted to but couldn't because of time.  Eat the proper foods.  Get plenty of fresh air and exercise. Be a community volunteer . . . work in a school or at the hospital or with Boy Scouts or Girl Scouts.  Take a class at your community education center.  Learn a new skill because you are never too old to learn.  Become a Master Gardener if you are interested in gardening.  Write a book on your life experiences.  Spend time with your family . . . travel if you have the money.  Do anything and everything!  Just remember . . . that it is very important to keep busy and to remain healthy.  Good luck in your retirement!  Wish I was retiring soon also!
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You don't need to bring anything to the funeral, call the funeral home or church ahead of time and find out if the family is requesting donations to anything and make a contribution if you wish.  Most likely there will be a guest book at the funeral for you to sign.  The widow isn't going to remember who all attended but later on she will look through the book.  You could send her a sympathy card in the mail, that would also be a really nice gesture, even though you don't know her, she would really like to see the impact her husband had on other people.  If you would like to say something to her personally, it would be fine, just pick an appropriate opportunity.  I've been to funerals where the family is lined up waiting for people to give their condolences and I've been to others where people gathered after to speak with the family.  It totally depends on the situation, just be considerate of the family.
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None at all.  When you're dead, you're dead.  It's best to make the most of your life, because it's all you get.
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Pray.  Give thanks for all I have had in this life.  Wish good things for my family.  Write a note to my hubby and kids telling them how much I love them and to not be sad for too long.  To go on with life.  Be at peace.
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Huh!!! only his ghost can......his wife can be a widow only if he is dead....right!!!!! gotcha
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Well, a lot depends on your diet, health & lifestyle. Keeping yourself  away from drugs (including tobbaco and alcohol) and meat can improve things a lot, even through your forties.\nAnother important thing is your relationship.
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having a healthy sexual relationship with a long term partner i believe is a good way to live longer. Also, pleasuring yourself. And get a pet, having an animal friend helps you live longer too!
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Depends who this "someone" is.  If  I would be alone sitting as nanny to 90 year old person, what else would I do, but listen to her life story.
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I saw this woman on a talk show who could not afford a vacation. So she kept working and every night, she did somehting different with her time. She lit candles, she meditated, she read book's she always wanted to read, she took a bath and ate whatever she wanted. \n\nYou can make new friends, you can resolve to quit fighting wtih old ones. You can get a hobby, you can change the route you take to work. You could eat something different at lunch, you could go on a day trip to something historic nearby. I like botanic gardens and parks. \n\nThink back to the things you liked to do when you were  young and do some of them. You could join an adult sports team or take a dance class. You could also take a martial art. \n\nBeauty is everywhere, start looking for it. Start expecting and asking for it. \n\nToday, I saw a painted piece of wood in a chinese restaurant. I tasted beauty in the bbq chicken my mate made for me. I had a lovely conversation with my neighbor. Get your senses working for you.
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I learned how to breath, you can do that any where. Listening\nto music helps, eating lots of salads. When they start to happen try to figure out why and even if there is no reason go a head and let it run it's course! Everyone\nhas them your just more in tuned with them!\n If you have a spouse maybe just being close to a love one will slow them down.\nI have been off my medications for awhile.I don't notice any difference just more aware of things.
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Live it so that if you died in 30 seconds from now, your ghost would feel proud, sitting in the balcony watching the movie of your life story.  \n\nHelp others, but don't forget to help yourself now and then.  Volunteering somewhere is a great way to help others - at a hospital, a shelter, or just cleaning a park or street, or mowing the yard for someone who has trouble doing it themself.\n\nHave fun and enjoy yourself, so long as it's not at the expense of someone else.\n\nMake enough money to be comfortable so you don't have to scratch to get by;  don't worry about becoming rich in terms of money.  After a certain point, it's only used to keep score.\n\nNow - I have to go try to take my own advice!
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To increase your life, do not grasp at it.\nIt withers from constant tending.\nTo treat life as a possession is to make its destruction more tragic.\nLife is not yours, it merely is.\nLet life flow through you. Do not block its passage.\nWho saves his life will lose it, and be forgotten.\nWho spends her life until it is gone will not be lost.\n\nIn other words:  Death is a part of life, not its reversal.  Those who have lived, are.  Fear of death makes us waste life.  It's not how long you have it, it's what you do with it that counts.  "There is no other longevity."
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Get in shape.\nDevelop more friendships.\nAcquire more useful skills. \nFurther my education.\nInvest wiser.
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I'm so sorry you've lost someone important to you.  I've been there before myself.  Tomorrow will be the first anniversary of my mother's death in a hospice.  She suffered so much before she died that it tore my heart out, but she's with her Lord and Saviour now, and happy at last.  Time will improve things for you.  It's the only thing that helped me.  Try to do things you enjoy to distract yourself from the pain.  Even that can take a great effort, but you have to keep trying. If you do, I promise you that things will get better as time moves on.  May God Bless You!