How can trust be regained?
345997
Well you do have a mess on your hands. The indiscretion was bad, deceit about it was a lot worse. It is obvious she was aware something was up or she wouldn't have kept asking. She probably knew and just needed evidence or some kind of proof.\n\nWhen you're caught you're caught. Unless there is a way to really cover it up, you just have to bite the bullet and fess up and hope for mercy. The ongoing deceit only makes her think she has no reason to trust you now and in reality she doesn't.\n\nJust about everything you do not reminds her of the 24 months you ran this game on her. There are all kinds of triggers and reminders and to top it off you did cheat and you did so with a family member! Ouch.\n\nYou can assure her you aren't cheating now but you will never take away the doubt. She has to overcome that herself. She is thinking why did you do it the first time and what's stopping you from doing it again?\n\nI would ask her if she wants to break up. It's hard but giving her that option might show her the reality of the situation and calm her fear that you're holding on to her and doing your own thing. Having you cake and eating it too, so to speak.\n\nGood Luck!
151550
I am sorry to say this as the simple fact that you are asking  means you want to forgive your spouse. In my personal past experience as well as the experiences of my friends (both male and female) evrytime a cheater was taken back, they did it again. Some immediately, some years later, one with the same person (which hurts like you have no idea) and only ONE that has seemingly never done it again, BUT the trust has never been the same so the relationship has never gotten back to what it once was. Good Luck with your decision.
445576
I think when the trust is broken,\nyou'd really need to give it time.\n\nYou cannot expect it to be alright after doing something as an apology, meaning, it might really be difficult to wipe away the hurt caused.\n\nIf it's something you did that hurt him/her,\nmaybe you have to use your actions to show him/her that that was just a mistake and it would never happen again.\n\nIt's going to take time,\nI don't think it'll be an immediate effect.\n\nSo if he/she's really so important to you,\nand you didn't mean to hurt her.\nYou have to be patient.\n\nBecuase it's not so easy.\nAll the best.
863255
Yes, but it takes time and a huge commitment on both sides to make it happen!\n\nIf the person who cheated is willing to rebuild the trust they destroyed and the one cheated on is willing to work on forgiveness, than it is possible.  Difficult, but possible!
128324
Trust is a major thing in any kind of relationship...I would say time heals most things...but trust is something that carries over into other relationships...I would talk to the person and tell them how hurt you really are...it might mkae them have a better undertsanding as well it might make you feel better knowing that they know you are hurt...if the person cares enough for you they will try to help you over come it and try to never hurt you like that again...hope this helped.
657439
Do you think that you'll ever be able to trust him again?  Is he changed?  Is he sorry that he cheated on you?
355567
trust maybe lost if someone you know quite well has let you down, or if something you werent happy about that happened to you, there are different levels of trust, depends which you lack, if perhaps your boyfriend two timed you, you would find it hard to trust again, if you were assaulted or similar, it would be hard to trust again after that.\n\nor perhaps someone has lied to you, that can also shatter trust, if you have some idea of which trust you lack perhaps someone can give you a more in depth answer.\n\nif something has happened to you, in which you dont trust many people, accept what has happened to you, and try and realise not everyone has or will act that way towards you again, if its boyfriend or friend issues or parent issues, they have to earn trust, best way is to tackle it, identify your specific need. perhaps you are just insecure and you feel everyone is lying to you.
1102121
The pain of trusting someone or vice/versa,will always remain in the heart,only time will heal the pain but u will never forget being hurt yourself most,but that is only my answer,I have been there and its been a yr now and the trust hasn't came back yet,so really its up to the individual.
110884
It depends on what context you're talking about. But in any relationship, romantic or just a friendship, trust is always an important thing to maintain. It's easy to lose someone's trust, but not easy to earn it back.
1090139
I used to have a very close friend who turned out to have a very nasty temper lashing out at whoever was closest.\n\none day the target was me - and such thing were said that were totally unwarranted that the trust we had was destroyed (before this it was only rumour i had heard but hadn't seen anything like that in the 2 years i had actually known him)\n\ni still miss the friendship i thought we had but even though it was said in a rage i found that trust could not be regained\n\none can forgive the person but it takes two to rebuild trust again.  part of that process is the rager to acknowledge the harm that their outburst does without trying to downplay it - if they cant do that then your relationship may never be the same again\n\nbest thing then is to learn from it several things\n 1 - something once said cant as easily be taken back again\n 2 -  don't bottle things up until it all goes off bang - keep a shortish account of things you need to sort with people\n 3 - don't keep company with bad tempered people - either it rubs off on you or they will turn their anger onto you deserved or not
781788
Trust is earned, never freely given.\n\nBeing burned a few times myself has made me very cautious about who I trust, but relationships are built on trust.  So, what does one do?\n\nWell, it is a kind of process, I have found.  One only metes out trust a little at a time, starting at "friendly."  From there on, it is a gradual process where one observes what they say and do to see if the two match.  After a while, one learns to trust the other when it is shown that they are trustworthy.\n\nBe friendly, mete out your trust a little at a time, and always be observant and pay attention to any "red flags" about the guys behavior.\n\nOne admonition: the road goes two ways.  Be a person who is fair, honest, and trustworthy yourself.  He'll probably be watching you as well!\n\nGood luck!
524223
Well it kind of depends on how badly the other person took the 'misconception', they might never forgive you, or they might not ever be as close a friend since they felt you betrayed their friendship.So actually there are more than one chance that you cannot revive the friendship. \n\nBut, if you are determined to try you ask the person to meet you in a neutral place, or go to their home after calling and letting them know you are coming, and then you tell the whole story and apologize profusely and explain it is all your fault and ask for forgiveness, if they accept then tell them that you miss their friendship terribly, and would like to renew it if it is all possible, and then you cross your fingers, because they are either going to say OK they missed you too,  or they are going to say you destroyed the friendship and they cannot trust you again. \n\nEither way, you will have your answer and you can go on with your life knowing that you tried.\nGood Luck
587795
Been there. Once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat!!! Would you rather you kids grow up in a home thinking that arguing and cheating is natural. If your unhappy you kid cant be happy. Those kids should come first. As for your trust you will NEVER be able to get back. You will always wonder when he goes to the store, you will constantly wonder. Is that how you want to spend your days. IF you are wondering all the time then when do you have the time to be happy. Once the trust is broken its gone FOREVER. You may be able to forgive but you will never forget. And if you can forget then you really havent forgiven.
549102
regaining peoples trust is the only way
461994
You are correct, if you cannot trust someone than why be with them.  Trust is so hard to get, yet so easy to lose and next to impossible to ever completely get back.
1000760
you will never fully trust someone unless you'll be over with the hurt. you need to surrender yourself to self-analysis and think continually about what has been and what will be...\nyou need to ask yourself if you're willing to open your heart to a new stage without locking yourself and putting a barrier because of the hurt. and sometimes the idea of getting hurt once again would limit your trust to a certain level...\nwe know that loving someone is giving one's self totally and that hurt is part of the process of trying to build up a relationship. trust doesn't mean that you'd never be hurt...
510623
Trust is one of the most important things. If some cheated on me then I'd want to know.  Whether to continue with the relationship would depend on how you found out you were being cheated on. If he or she came to you, then you know this person has a conscience and you may be able to continue with the relationship eventually letting go of the hurt from their indiscretion. But if they never said anything and you found out another way I think it would be best to let go of that relationship because there will be serious trust issues. I personally don't do the whole getting back at my significant other thing. If you have forgiven him/her then it wouldn't be fair to keep bringing it up or punishing them for what they've done. So if it's something you can't get past. Let go.