Insecure and need opinions!!!!?
340968
Well you really do have a self esteem issue,and if you keep pushing like you are you will lose him.\nWhat i want you to do is this,whenever you think of him doing anything that you haven't got just cause for,turn the situation around and ask yourself how you would feel if he was thinking this way of you.\nYou have to be honest with yourself and analyse this the way you analyse it with him.If you do you will se how pathetic it is and maybe you two will be together for life.If you can't do this then let the guy go and get some professional help,as you really have some blame issues to deal with.
494046
Confront him with your insecurities. But don't go about it in an accusing manner. Rather, ask if everything is right between you two. Trust is everything in a relationship. If there are more signs that come up, then I would definitely look into it. But insecurities from your part needs to come to a resolution of if you do trust him or if you don't.  If there is real proof he is cheating on you then confront the issue. If not, let it be. Showing your lack of trust in him can be hurtful especially if he's been loyal to you all along.
619054
I think something happenned in your life that is leading to not trusting him.  Go talk to a psychologist about your past and traumatic experiences to find out why you are thinking this way.  If you don't agree, talk to the counselor about why you have insecurities.  There's no shame in having insecurities, who doesn't.  But don't let it interfere with your relationship.  He chose you.  Let him know how sexy you think he is and give him a lot of attention and he'll draw closer and closer to you.
981375
OMG- You're ME! I am the same way. I good with people, but I'm not good WITH people, if that makes sense. I know I'm sweet, nice, generous and lots of other positive things. I tend to put myself down before others get a chance to, but my self esteem is improving. I have a BF who adores me and I'm making a serious effort keep our flame going. I'd say you should go into a clothibg store and just try on several different outfits just to see how cute you can be in differnt clothes. Do your hair a different way and try to be social with people. I know it's easier said than done because I'm like a brick wall around people I dont know. It take a LOT for me to get comfy with new people, and my "open" is still not considered open to others. My BF said I need to let loose and communicate more and just be relaxed. Maybe you overthink things, like me- always wondering what everyone else thinks... just let go and stop worrying. A BF will come sooner o later, dont settle for just anyone, make sure he's worthy of you. Good luck! By the way, I am a 21 y.o. plus sized girl & I think I look great. Just dress to flatter your body type and have confidence.
153334
The real answer comes as a question. If your boyfriend is secure in your relationship with him, he probably won't mind. On the other hand, if it really bothers him, then he is responding to an offhand remark as if it is a threat to your relationship. In this case, it may still be alright to others, but if you're smart, you won't continue to do it if you know it upsets him. Here's the real big question you  need to answer, and only you can. If your boyfriend is getting really bent out of shape over an innocent remark because he's that insecure, do you really want to invest more of your time on him in the first place? \n\nNot to tell you what to do, but my experience has taught me that jealousy and insecurity are symptoms of greater emotional problems. The person with the problems needs to first acknowledge them, before he can ever get the help he needs to overcome them. As long as he thinks you'll put up with it, he never will admit he has a problem. Don't deceive yourself, as many young women have done, into thinking that you can change him. IT DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY. Better for you to just move on. This may sound cold, but it's probably the best for him and certainly would be for you.\n  Hope this helps you.
1090714
Have some confidence in ur self,u shouldn't need to ask people what they think ,what do u care suppose someone said u were an ugly skank and they wouldn't date u.Would u be upset?If u r happy with the way u look then urs is the only opinion u need
517825
Sounds like you have 2 BEST FREINDS who have issues with self esteem & you aren't the one to fix their problems... you should deal with your own... you said it oursel they are adult ladies (ladies is a word I wouldn't use for them) who should know better
581225
everybody has their own insecurities and doubt that they deserve anything good that happens to them. somethings are too good to be true, but if you can touch it and it makes you feel good about yourself, then go with the flow! if you start questioning it or doubting it, it will fall apart because you will let your insecurities take over.\n\nif this guy loves you as much as you love him, then he will already be aware of these insecurities of yours and help you overcome them. give it a chance and make yourself believe that you deserve this.
101855
Well...yes, it would bug me, but I'd keep it to myself... If he's not doing anything wrong, it's not fair to make him pay for what he's not doing and being insecure is unattractive, and if she's not a nice girl, your insecurity may be what she wants... Grit your teeth and make like you could care less how she acts, if you're VERY, VERY polite to her, one of two things will happen....She'll get very uncomfortable just because you're so comfortable, or she's really just a slightly clumsy, overly friendly girl and not "up to" anything and you'll wind up friendly with her...either way, you win...trust me, I'm old, I know stuff.
41782
I know how ya feel, I've had girlfriends who were the same-I got in trouble if I "looked" at a woman! To be honest, he loves you & is afraid of loosing you, It's what ya call "insecurity".
823009
You have very low self esteem. If your boyfriend doesn't give you any means to react this way then YES it's all in your head. You have probably been hurt,lied,cheated or deceived in the past. Well that's the past. You have to look ahead to the present/futur now. Just because others have deceived you doesn't mean that your present boyfriend will. You have to take a chance in life and open your heart. It's better to have Loved and Lost to have never had Loved at all. Have a little faith and trust in him. But if he does deceive you then hunt him down and shoot him. hahaha !
1171375
Sounds like you got it down. Ditch the insecure tramps. There's a reason they're insecure and flip a sh.it every time you look at someone else - They're lookin' too. She just better be at least half as good as me when I catch my ol' man lookin ;)
895357
This is a sticky one. \n\nFirst, let's look at him. The fact that he lied is very troubling, but I can see why he thought it was a good idea. While he was disrespecting your wishes, he was also trying to stick with his friend while sticking with you. No, it's not a smart move, and his point about your insecurity is invalid (lying is just not ok because relationships are about trust), but it sucks for a person to have to choose between a significant other and a friend. I think you guys can work through this however. \n\nWhy do you dislike this female friend of his? Do you suspect that he's cheating on you? Is she flirtatious or touchy-feely with him? Is she just an unlikeable person to you? Or are you merely jealous and insecure? \n\nLet's go with the last question for a bit. You've admitted that you are insecure. Plenty of girls are like that, sadly; I think it's mostly from social conditioning (but that's a whole other Answer!). You said that every time he talks to another girl, you ask him if he wants to be with them. It's exasperating for a guy to hear that. He's going to start feeling as if there's nothing he can do to convince you that he wants only you. It's also exhausting for you because you will needlessly worry about losing him. This will put a strain on the relationship, maybe even cause it to break. \n\nTo me, this is the more troubling problem. It's difficult, even impossible, to change others, so we have to change ourselves. Look into getting help for your insecurity; this will make you an overall healthier person, and spread into your relationship with this guy. A quick Google search for "overcoming insecurity" yields some nice articles: \n\nhttp://www.coping.org/growth/security.htm\nhttp://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/writings-insecurity.htm\n\nYou may want to seek professional counseling as well. You'll feel a lot better overall if you can let go of the worrying over losing people, and start placing some trust in others. It will be a great relief (trust me on that). \n\nNow, let's go back to the female friend. They're probably "just friends," but if they way they interact suggests more, then you have a right to be a bit suspicious. Example: if they are too familiar and flirty with each other. \n\nThis is getting a bit long, so I'll just sum it up. You both need to work on yourselves and with each other to make this work. You should focus on overcoming your insecurity and learning to trust others. You should also respect his friendships, even if he's friends with someone you cannot tolerate. Likewise, he should be supportive of your self-improvement efforts, and stop lying to you so you *can* learn to trust him! It's very hard to trust someone when you catch them in a lie. He should also respect that you dislike his friend, and do things like not forcing you to be around her, not talking about something funny that she said or did, etc. If he won't work with you, then I doubt the relationship is worthwhile. \n\nLast of all, it's very important to remain calm and even-tempered. If you start crying or becoming too angry, he may reach for anything -- even a lie -- to make you stop and calm down.
640843
The only thing I might be able to suggest is to become confident with yourself. How is your own self esteem? Are you able to gain a greater amount of confidence in yourself? Would you date yourself? If not, why not? Work on those things that you think you could change. If you can gain confidence in yourself, your insecurities might diminish, since you can see that you are worth dating. Not to mention, you might become less "needy", and also more trusting! (warning!!! Do NOT become OVER confident in yourself) Good luck!
835866
It would depend on the kind of relationship you have with him.  Evidently it is not that strong if you are feeling so insecure.  If he has not given you any reason to suspect otherwise, I would let it go.  But if it is still bothering you, I wouldn't marry him until we settled the issue once and for all.
141568
Looking at this and all the other questions you have about your boyfriend leads me to believe that he is not the one with the problem.\n\nYou say you are living with your boyfriend, which leads me to believe that you are at least eighteen years old, but your lack of self-esteem and your dependence makes you seem quite a bit younger than that.\n\nYou may be pushing him away with your insecurities.  Men like independent, self-assured women who are confident in their own looks and personality.  Women who constantly compare themselves to other girls around them, who worry about their boyfriends' every glance at someone else - these women make men want to run and hide.\n\nYou can't change the past.  Worrying about it and snooping around won't come to anything good.  Sit down and talk to your boyfriend about *your* problem (insecurity) and tell him that you want to fix it but that you will need his help, patience and understanding.  Then do some sincere work on just letting go of the past, and building up some confidence in yourself.\n\nIt's not easy but you'll be way better off in the long run.
235749
It sounds to me like he has some insecurity issues when it comes to women, and he needs to be constantly reassured no matter where he is. He probably does honestly care for you (at least from what you wrote), but he can't truly love anyone else until he learns to love himself, and if he does this to every female that crosses his path, then he is not there yet. The best thing you can do in my opinion, is let him know how you feel, and when he starts freaking out and calling you names, simply tell him that you deserve a guy who will treat you better and not make you feel uncomfortable..then walk AWAY. If the behavior continues, there is not much more you can do except leave him and let him work out his issues. Good Luck.