Why do the people you love hurt you so much?
336122
Honestly, if you truly had a deep love for her, I don't think you would have cheated.  If the bond is weak enough that you both felt the need to stray, I'd have serious doubts about giving it another go...unless you both were willing to work hard to discover what caused these problems to begin with and were willing to work to resolve them.
976564
not only family.\njust everybody , life is just too short to hate just anybody.\nwe get hurt and in pain we forget that sometimes we are hurting others too. \nthere is too much pain in everybodies life to give them more. all we have to do is provide support to a crying person and love everybody. cause a person hurt before only know how much it hurts.\njust love everybody - no hatred for any reasons.
579948
because you have an idea of who they are and in the end they turn out to be so messed up!! \nyou just can't see how bad he is! not even the little details until he/she hurts you really bad!! and notice he is not the one! it sucks
52123
It is hard to say but I think it is not love that hurts it's losing it that hurts. If you love someone and they leave you can almost feel your heart break in two.
1064912
Hurting some of the best people I have ever met. Its not a regret as such because I have learnt from it, but its still not nice to know that some one else has been upset by you for doing no wrong.
658507
well i think if you get hurt bad enough it just takes time you have to take risks and trust someone again and again until it becomes easier you may get burned here and there but you have to get past it. It just isn't fair for everyone around you to be judged by your fears of being hurt - sometimes you can push people to do what you are afraid they'll do by insinuating it or you will miss out on a lot of good times because you are afraid to get too close You are damaging your life by being unable to trust Just get over the past and trust little by little . . .good luck I AM STILL WORKING THROUGH THE SAME ISSUES but i have learned that you can hurt the people you love by not giving them your full trust you just have to learn to risk it . .
1013251
Let's see . After thinking about this for a bit i would have to say it is because you are closer to your spouse then any other person usually in life. It hurts much more when someone you love and cherish hurts you then if it is someone you don't know as well or feel such a deep love for. God however commands us to forgive others or he won't forgive us and he won't even hear our prayers if we choose not to forgive. I would want to forgive my husband because if i were to do something to hurt him or make a mistake I would want him to forgive me. Forgiveness is a choice!
293539
Yes and no. Yes, you get hurt more and hurt yourself more by thinking others are the same way. No because if it weren't for the big hearts of the world we'd have far more problems than our own heartaches.
1127081
I like to munipulate people so I can get what I want.This guy was totally in love with me,and did everything I asked.So i used to screw around with his feelings all of the time because I liked to see him cry.It makes me feel powerful knowing that I can make someone laugh or cry or worse.\nAnyways,it's the worst thing i've done because he almost killed him self.If i hadn't walked in right when I did he would have suffocated.I will never forget the colour of his face and the urine on his clothes and all over the floor,and him telling me that his "heart hurts"
178863
Sometimes when people think they 'really love' someone whose actions hurt them (his breaking up with her, his distance and his silence) they are actually desperate to love and be loved, but the person they are focusing on is not "the one".  Instead, the one being hurt doesn't feel like they can survive alone, and they don't trust that they will find the true "one" in time to not die of a broken heart.  It's hard to make the decision to be alone when you feel this way, but it's the only way to open the door to true love, and it extends your misery until the day you decide to take the leap and risk being sad for a while.
869701
The old adage that says misery loves company is true.  Cruelty oftentimes is a cry for help.  The cruel person is saying I'm not loved by my family so I need to make someone else feel badly in order to make myself feel better.  Their act of cruelty brings them the attention they so desperately crave if only for a little while.  The worst part is that they are immune to the effects of their hurtful words or actions and feel justified in making people around them suffer for their own gain.  The people they hurt, however will be better off in the long run.  They know how to forgive and they learn from the experience gaining strength along the way.
125305
Yeah, cause you never know what going on in their mind. Next thing you know, they get really possessive...then they go psyco on you. So you have to be really careful. But then there's the kind of love that scares you cause you're afraid to love them back for the fear of getting hurt. So, good luck...
778771
it appears that he is deeply hurt, but that he loves you and is willing to put aside the hurt for whats special about you. you are lucky!
556994
I would rather take a beating and get it over with and to listen to someone i love hurt my heart with their hateful words against me.  It weakens the mind and heart.
177863
For many reasons. Sometimes for revenge, sometimes for spite. Sometimes by accident, and sometimes it can't be helped. (for instance, in a breakup) \n\nSome people hurt others for the pure pleasure of it. It gives them a feeling of power. \n\nThere are many people, though, who truly try not to hurt others.
541032
who hurt you? who made you cry?
147829
Probably because you are NOT an evil or violent person and do not want to inflict harm even tho someone is harming you.  I have felt the same way sometimes where I have been hurt very badly but would not hurt in return.  THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE A COWARD so if anyone says that in response to this question ignore it.  You just operate on a higher plane than the person you are dealing with.