My ex is slandering me. What should I do?
355374
Punch the b|tch in her mouth.  Or if you don't agree with hitting woman have a female friend do it.  Or pay a really big dike to do it instead.
320405
Looks like you have a problem.  If he is not going to the police and press charges it might be best to just leave it alone.  If this person is in your office, do not add more fuel to the fire by denying what is a lie.  A lie can not have legs unless you give them legs.  You have I suppose stated you did not steel anything, and that is the end of the issue.  There can be no proof, cause you have nothing that he can prove you have done.\n\nI would distant myself from him.  Make sure you protect yourself, so as he does not try to set you up in one way or another.  \n\nIf there is a superior you can go to have him put a stop to his actions at least at work.\n\nThose that know and love you will take you at face value.  Do not disappoint them. Stay true to yourself and get on with your life.  Those of your relationships that would believe a lie, then let them go.  as they say, "friends like that you don't need."  Make new ones.\n\nBy the way, I am taking you at face value and believe you.  Now walk in the truth and put the lie behind you.
337740
Confront him about it,put him on the spot and let him know he has explaining to do! Dont be afraid to confront him,he need's to feel like an idiot for being so dishonest with  you and need's to know how that makes you feel. IF he doesnt stop this,then you need to move on,because that's never a good sign,and is never going to make it into a long term relationship. People lie for a reason,and obviously it isnt a GOOD one. lier's continue to lie because people let them get away with it,afraid to put them on the spot,afraid to embarrasse them,ect,forget that,embarrasse the crap out of him,it might teach him if he know's he cant get away with it,but make sure you know why he lied to you,that should tell you alot,and please,dont let him tell you a lie about his lie,and dont let him make you feel guilty about it either,liers will try and make you feel guilty about their lie,such as "I thought if you knew you would hate me and not want me anymore" or "I didnt want you to know,because that's not who I am anymore,you have changed me"blah,blah,blah
309186
Sorry to say this but it sounds like he is using you.  He doesn't deserve you!
914934
Unless you are absolutely insane, and want trouble, leave the ex alone.  Do not call him, do not see him.  You say he never actually cared about you, so why would you even consider talking to him.  Do not mess us a good thing!
317068
This guy is one messed up creep.  He lied about you too.  That is unforgivable.  Even if you had done it, him telling people is unforgivable.  You need to tell him in no uncertain terms to leave you alone or you will get a restraining order and follow through.  Start documenting the harrassment, you will need it to get the restraining order.  If you have to, you can add call block to your phone and block his number and everytime he calls from a new number hang up and immediately block that too and don't forget to document it for the courts.  This guy is sick.
132058
been there .done that.your ex has a major problem in that he truly thinks he's all that and he WANTS girls fighting over him.it makes his pin head bigger sothe next time he comes on to you you grab him by the throat and tell him that you are NOT going to play his game.if he wants to be with you he's gonna have to ditch your friend and prove to you he's done so before you'll have anything to do with him.THEN GO TELL YOUR FRIEND what's been going on so she can keep an eye on him.let her know that you're not trying to start problems but she needs to be made aware and tell her you think he's doing it just to have you two fighting over him.She probably will get mad at you they always do.But here's what I did when my ex started playing that game.His girlfriend kept calling and threatening me so i finally got tired of it and told her he was chasing me and if she did'nt believe that i could and would prove it to her.the next time he came by my place banging on the door begging to talk to me,i called her,made sure she answered and told her to listen an then i let him in.we had a nice chat with him telling me how he did'nt want to be with her,how stupid she was and evan how bad she was in bed.he told me how no-one could make him feel like i did and he missed me and loved me and would do absolutely ANYTHING to prove it.So i picked up the phone and told him to tell her it was over and he balked.when i told him to take the phone it was for him he literally turned white.she heard every word he'd said and he knew it.after another month of her chasing him everywhere begging for his attention we did get back together for a short time before someone else turned his head and he tried playing the same game.i sent him on his way with my blessing and told him i was better off without him.i refused to play.his new woman stole his paychecks and spent all his money on drugs and alcohol that HER other boyfriends helped her consume.when he tried to force her to work on being with just him she cut up all his clothes,destroyed his furniture and trashed their apartment and he had to pay the damages,and when he came crawling to me for comfort i laughed at him.it took a long time but there was a happy ending for us we've been together the last 10 yrs and i can't get the man to so much as go out for a beer without me.It's called TOUGH LOVE honey.If you're gonna be with an asshole you have to learn to be a bigger and better asshole than he is.DO NOT LET HIM FORCE YOU TO STOOP TO HIS LEVEL.no matter what!!!!!don't get mad in front of another woman he's with ever.act like it don't bother you they're hanging all over one another.if a comment is made to you by either of them ignore it or tell the offender that they deserve each other because theiy'reboth beneath you and go on your merry way.it'll make them both nuts!try if you can to never be anywhere they are by yourself because you'll need witnesses when he tries to pull you into a dark corner to talk.and i promise you that he will but you just have to tell him firmly that you have no time to talk to a man who has a woman waiting for him and he'd best be getting back to her side.hopefully,you'll find yourself a great guy who'll make you want to forget this one while you're playing "who gives a s***.Always keep your dignity.that's one of the few things that NO-ONE can take unless you give it.if you get mad in front of him or her he'll think you want to be his door-mat.good luck.
973811
You said it yourself, he is your EX.  Get over it and get on with your life.  And I'll bet he really doesn't want to hear that.
838743
Leave things alone and let it work itself out. You haven't done anything so if you start trying to fix it then it's only going to make you look even more guilty. He'll learn in time that you never did any of the things she said and he'll have to be the one to find a way to make it up to you. Let him see that your a stronger person then what she is making you out to be. and he will respect you more for it. I would just let him know that your not guilty but your not going to start trying to prove it to him either, and that he'll have to work it out himself. If you start having to prove things to someone you will be having to prove things to them from now on. If his going to believe you then let nature take its course. As for her why are you even friends with her. Dump her and if you do date her ex so what, that's why his her ex.
549579
Been there, done that - not an iota of fun. The guy is basically stalking you. My suggestion is the following:\n\n1) File a report with the local police. Even though they may not do anything about it yet, at least it will be in their papers should your ex's abuse continue and/or escalate. \n\n2) Gather ALL evidence. Set up a new e-mail account, get a new phone-number - every measure necessary to restrain his options of being able to contact you. Nonetheless, keep the old phone-number - but let it go directly to the answering-machine. Save the messages - as they will prove your claim if you are forced to drag him to court and (or get a restraining order. Also save all e-mails he sends you for the same reason as above. If he sends you gifts, you shall keep them - whatever he gives you, keep it. This is all about gathering evidence.\n\n3) Tell people around you not to tlak with him due to his stalking. He will pursue alternative means of getting go you, and using your friends and family as a source of information is fully justified in his mind.\n\n4) NEVER EVER talk with/to him - regardless how tempting it may be. For a stalker, even a "F**k off" will be interpreted as a positive gesture. He will interpret "Leave me alone" as a "Oh, I want you to chase me" and so on. If you give in to the temptation once, he will know that it only takes more perservance on his side to get you to answer again and again and again.\nAlso, never tell him what you intend to do unless he leaves you alone. In the event that going to the police does not produce immediate results, your stalking ex will view your plans and intentions as nothing but empty threats.\n\n5) Tell your current boyfriend how much the ex is bothering you. Your ex is currently attempting to drive a wedge between you and your new BF as the ex cannot see you with another man. Any man for that matter except himself. He desires comlete control of your life in every and any aspect, and you do NOT want to subject yourself to that.\nAs for your current BF, if he is not willing to support and help you through this, then he is not worth keeping. Sorry for being so harsh sounding, but it is sadly true. If he loves and cares about you, then he will stay on your side - regardless.\n\n6) Find out if there are any support-groups for stalking-victims in your area - and you will find that you are not alone. The internet also provides different fora that are worth-while looking into - especially what the legal side is concerned.\n\nI broke up with the ex from hell 1 1/2 years ago, and he is still stalking me, thankfully not to the same extent as previously, but I receive e-mails (I changed phone-numbers and got a new e-mail address) from him once or twice a month, and it is still bloody annoying and scaring.\n\nGood luck, this will take time and toil - but know that you are not alone in this hellish situation. I feel for you.
541933
I think firstly, you need to make absolutely sure there is no truth in your sisters claim, as it is a very serious allegation ,and all the more serious for the fact that the police are involved. \n\nSecondly, you need to ask her, if you are convinced she is lying, why she would say such a thing. Ask yourself rationally, why is she doing this? There must be some reasoning behind it, no one would make up such a story without some sort of motivation. Discovering her motivation will give you a lot more help in working out how to deal with it. \n\nAt the end of the day, doing her for slander isn't going to resolve much in terms of your relationship with her. It is playground ethics really isn' it.. (not that I am calling you childish). What I mean by that, is the psychology behind it is 'well, she hurt me, so now I'm going to hurt her'. Sometimes this can seem like the best thing to do, but I think you'll discover that actually, the revenge will feel a lot less triumphant than you think. \n\nAct with dignity, make sure your trust is with the right person, and good luck to you, it sounds like a terrible situation.
1057637
You already know that you are not the things that this person has called you, you said so yourself. Now all you need to do is get that person out of your system and move on with your life. Meet new people, try new things. I think that when people are abusive to other people weather it's emotional, physical or verbal it's because that have low self esteem and they want to bring someone down with them. You do not deserve to be treated just anyway. Now that you are out of this relationship you can chooses how you want to be treated. DO NOT let anyone treat you any other way then you want to be. Good luck.
590310
Living well is the best revenge. If this person is really trying to ruin your reputation, you can go to court and file a harassment charge. Other than that, you can simply do business in an ethical way, be active in your business community, be good to your employees and customers, etc. In other words, you build a reputation that flies in the face of what she says. She will eventually dig her own grave. Trust me.\n\nThis happened with a former boyfriend who broke up with me. He tried to justify it by telling his friends and his new girlfriend all kinds of things about me. I got even by being totally sweet to all of them. It was the best way to prove that his lies were not true and that I was better than he was, anyway,.
102354
If you really hate him..you should talk to the girl that has been calling and tell her not to date him! but if i were you..i would still talk to him..he is your ex after all and you and him need to move on!
661319
talk to ur ex and tell him it was a misunderstanding. unless it's the truth, then u better break it off w/ him.
914387
Yes, they are getting their perverted sick jollies rubbing salt into your wounds. You can file a verbal harassment charge against them for this, and I would strongly suggest you do so!  Save the messages they send as evidence, in case you ever need to show the proof.\n\nSorry to hear you're going through this!  I've been where you're at, and I know the pain of an ex love adding such insult to injury!  God's strength be with you!
368041
Believe her for the time being. If she says nothing is between them, nothing is between them BUT be aware because something is BOUND to happen because she is not telling you everything. While she's sneaking and lying to you, YOU have a decision to make. She's either your friend or she isn't. This has nothing to do with your "ex" because he is your ex, this is a friend who crossed the line and she must be dealt with. I'm not saying that you have to fight with her but you have to realize, this might be the first time and it might not be the last time she does this. BUT please before you react, give her the benefit of the doubt, let her decide which is more important, her friendship to you or some guy.