help me understand my x wife?
346003
hmm... she sounds a bit nuts. you certainly aren't the crazy one!! maybe now though, that she has 3 names to pick from, she likes yours best. \n\nshe might be doing it to spite the other guy. or maybe of the two husbands he has had, she sees you as being better and maybe wants you back, (at the moment, i'm sure not deep down. certainly do not go back to her!!).
219672
Book her an appointment for a pregnancy massage. She will feel like a new woman trust me. This is one of those anniversaries where the hubby is to pamper the wife...sorry. But maybe you can go out to dinner where you had your first date like my hubby did. Very romantic. Just let her know how much you appreciate her and be very sympathetic of carrying a baby (it is very hard in the last months). just a couple of suggestions!
834044
yes very happy through both good and bad times, there is no one i would rather come home to or spend time with. we have been married for eight years and it just gets better everyday. the primary reason is that she understands/forgives my hobbies and interests and i understand hers. give and take and flexability on both sides make it much easier. the first year was just getting used to each others habits, and the more rigid (i will not/your fault/my way) additudes just scew it up. and forgive and forget. no grudges.
837005
Women's wants and needs change over time. Life gets busy and sometimes we don't get a chance to tell each other how much we love our spouses, maybe she looks to this kinds of sex as a way for her to feel loved.It would be good for ya'll to spend the day together expressing your love. maybe then she will come around and realize that just because she has had kids and gained a little weight you still desire her and need her.
262055
Trust your intuition.  It's important and I'm glad you are picky.  She will have a huge affect on your son's life.  IF you really like someone, then maybe give her a bit more time. When my x and I split, he would let any flooz from the bar babysit.  You are right for being picky.  Your son is lucky.  But also try not to hold her to some "perfect" standard.  Your wife was not perfect either, but sounds like she was a good mom.  So good luck to you and your son.
1140324
Dodger, let me ask you what do you think this new woman will be like after you leave your wife? Will she actually be the woman you have always dreamed about? She is willing to see a married man so she is not a God fearing woman to be able to do that. If a woman will do this she isn't much of a woman. Now if she and you are not seeing each other that might be different but if she is willing to see you knowing full well you are married whether happy in the marriage or not...then give this more serious thought. Will she do the same to you when she grows tired of you and how do you know she is your soul mate if you two have not been together talking and showing affection? I would really wonder about a man or woman who would see someone who is married. Try spending the extra time your thinking about this soul mate and you just might be amazed what it can do for your marriage..
98238
Its time to respect her wishes,she might have decided to back out of the relationship and work on her marriage.Its best to walk away from the situation.Its never a good idea to get involved with a married person!for numerous reasons.
680231
May I suggest if you're looking for a long term relationship I would move on.\n\nThis lady has everything.  A husband who isn't always around, a good friend like you who is kind to her when she needs someone, etc.\n\nLooking at things from the outside I believe she is just giving you enough to keep you hanging on "i.e. the skin on her stomach is soft, etc."  Mixed signals and the fact she is a married woman.\n\nYou deserve better.\n\nJan
687658
Happy wife=happy life.\nKeep her happy and you'll do just fine.
880637
Both are new to each other, so firstly I suggest u to understand your wife, her likes and dislikes, tell her ur ambitions, goals, etc about your future plans how to lead ur life, so that u both would be leading a happy life in future without any divercifications of mind, be crystal clean in your talks now only.
259677
ive been married 3 years one thing ive learned is just when you think you figured them out, the rules change.\nHere is what i've found maybe it will help you.\n\nnumber one be honest. it may maker her upset but she will get over it and be glad you told her what ever it was.\nnumber two be understanding. Dont get me wrong this is not a bad remark, but women are very emotional. Dont let yourself get out of control cause she melts down. Sometimes they just have to vent and are ok.
212914
All that romantic  stuff, forget it. LISTEN TO THIS VITAL INFORMATION. When she decided to be head of the house, she also decided to grow the balls in the relationship. She feels like she has ultimate control. A relationship is part vulnerablity, part strength. You have to show the stength in this instance, and show her that she is still your beautiful wife who you will tag if you please. I'm not saying against her will. But be very aggressive of what you want from her, your relationship depends on it. If anything wrong happens, at least you were true to yourself. Don't try too hard! Just let the man inside loose. Oh yea and drop off your kids at someones house one weekend. Tell them you'll return the favor.
123195
Go with the signs. She's happy and willing. That means she stills loves your attention and prefers it. Perhaps she's adjusting to having children, adopted or not it's time and energy draining. Just work with her and be the captain of your sexual ship for the time being. Be there for her and make it interesting. Also remember: people change after a period. of time. And the introduction of children or a child definitely messes with your "couple" dynamics. Go wit the flow. She'll come around. Give her time. Marriage is ALL about give n take, ups and downs. Work through it...she'll appreciate it and love you for it.
879576
She is very jealous! It's hard for her to imagine that her x-husband will be fathering other children.  She cant get over thinking in her head that -he was her husband,and she always thought that because they were married, just the two of them would be parents.  She needs to accept your marriage an new parenting. Sounds like your husband allows her to call frequently and interfer. They should only be discussing whats going on with their son. You need to tell him how this is making you feel-be totally honest. With being pregnant, you need no extra stress in your life.  You could also try shutting his cell off at times.  Dont feel threatened at all, she will accept it all once the twins are born.  She will see her x-husband being a new father and let go. She needs to know her son will be o.k. with the new additions also.  All will come in time. She thinks that by calling him, she will be in his head---NOT--he married you!! He needs to not answer phone.  If there is an emergency--call hotel your at! You tell him its your YOUR time.  He needs to tell her to get support from other people-family-friends. Once HE tells her a few times, she will slowly get the hint.\nCongradulations on your marriage and twins!!!\nIt will get better....focus...
625991
Honey, what you don't realize is that you ARE paying her back every single day.  It's called "appreciation".  Sincere appreciation does not come in the form of a fancy dinner, a gift, flowers, a card- unlike what most women will say.  Most women say that BECAUSE they are not feeling appreciated.  They often do things with expectations.  Your wife does things with no expectations and as a result, she has someone who genuinely appreciates it.  Appreciation is a state of mind,  It is a feeling of gratitude towards something or someone and when it's towards someone, they know it.  If you or I were to do something great for the world, we would know that it was great from the beginning because of our intention and we wouldn't have to hear it from the world that it appreciates it, it just would appreciate it.  Make sense??  So the best thing for you is to continue doing exactly what you're doing cause your wife CLEARLY knows you appreciate it or she wouldn't do it.  She was drawn to you from the beginning because of your ability to appreciate in whatever ways you do it.  You respect, honor and love, you are faithful, loving, caring, empathetic, affectionate and THAT IS APPRECIATION.  xo  :)
629259
Is your wife under more stress than normal? As far as not knowing what your wife wants, ask her. I'm sure she'd be happy to let you know.
828024
maybe you should sit down and talk with her and ask her how she feels if you assume to much it could come off as an insult if you dont assume enough you will always wonder for the simple fact that you are married could be the reason that she is not coming straight out with you COMMUNICATION!!!