What should i do to come out of depression as my bf ditched me?
351144
There are a million of us guys at your door waiting.  Do not let one idiot ruin your life.
878756
Pray......ask someone to pray with you.........i'll say a prayer for you!\n\nOtherwise.....get together with some positive and uplifting friends.....go do something fun......\n\ndo something good for someone else.......its odd how that will boost your spirits........\n\nsmile at someone!\n\nif it gets too bad.....see your doctor about a possible antidepressant to get you through a slump......or maybe a counselor to help you resolve whatever is making you so unhappy\n\nMay God bless you with His love and happiness!
1016435
Oh my GOD!!! That has to be the saddest story that I have ever read on here. You poor poor fella. This is for you *A great big hug* If it helps I have some nice boobs. I hope the best for you, and you have to remember that Tomorrow WILL BE BETTER!!! It has to be. You should think about dumping that skank of a ho girlfriend You deserve a lot better and you know that you do, and you should think about going to the doctor and if you need a little help there is no shame in it, I too have been cheated on and it is the worse and most horrible feeling, I had to go on Zoloft, but the good thing is that it helps and once you can come out of the fog of depression you can see more clearly. You deserve better! Get you a plan of action and figure out what you need to do, Evalute every aspect of your life... is it time for a lifestyle change... change of job, if at all possible kick her out because adding a move on top of everything is going to be more stressful, and what a B*tch to laugh at you after what you went through, find a safer jogging route... and did you ever think that maybe that guy punched you because she is banging him? I kinda wondered that when I read, because that is just too strange that a guy would punch you for NO reason, and then she laughed on top of it... Go out with some friends or family, if you don't have any... make some, you need to surround yourself with loving and caring people. Best of luck to you, and I hope that your nose isn't broken a nice guy like you doesn't deserve that. *Another big hug and maybe a  little kiss on the cheek*
353362
You have got to buckle up and face the fact that you are not always going to have a man around! You know when you become so dependant on someone you lose your identity and that's what causes your depression when the relationship ends. Change your thought process by investing more time in improving yourself mentally and physically to gain more self esteem so this won't happen again. I know it's painful now but it will pass i guarantee you but the next guy willbring you back to life and when that ends you die emotionally again! So, you have to change that security with a man to independant as a woman. Good Luck!
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It is hard to move on and most of us have been there.  The worst thing you can do is dwell on the man and the situation: what could I have done differently, maybe if I had....STOP.  \n\nFigure out if the emotions are in fact toward him, or the rejection.  Sometimes sadness can be overwhelming and you cannot differentiate between, was he really right for me and I miss him so, or damnit I was dumped and I feel horrible.  \n\nSTAY BUSY and surround yourself with people who can make you laugh, keep you preoccupied with an activity as opposed to your thoughts.  Try not to be alone...everything will remind you of him.  \n\nWork out.  I know it's one of those flippant answers like "get a makeover," but it really does help.  Not only can you release the frustrations, tension, you will look better!  \n\nSay to yourself: Ok, I'm going to allow myself one more day to wallow in my misery and that's it.  That's enough.  I'm better than this and he will not get one more tear!!!
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my advice. Keep it broken off. dont just forget what happened and why you broke up...it happened for a reason. FInd someone else that you want to be with. Please dont get into the make up/break up cycle. It really sucks!!!
969122
The key to this is to keep your focus on... you.\n\nI'm sorry he broke your heart.  It's tough. My fiance broke off our relationship three weeks before the wedding-- and we worked together.  Turns out he was involved with someone else and like your guy,  he was "on top of the world."  I was underneath it somewhere.\n\n But, if you keep the focus on you, you'll be working on your depression.\n\nI embrace spirituality... not religious... and when you see this guy, maybe you can just say to yourself, "I forgive you... and I release you to the universe"  \n\nYou concentrate on being the best person you can be.  The rest... will take care of itself.\n\nOh, and take the high road.  Never let him see you depressed.  (Therapists may not agree with this,  but ultimately, it made me feel better)\n\nGood luck.
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First you gotta decide if you actually miss HIM or if you miss the aspect of having a serious relationship.  If you just miss the relationship, then you can always find someone else.  If you miss him specificly, call, email, text message, or do anything you can to talk to him.  Let him know how you feel.  Tell him that you know that your life was a little crazy when you knew him before and now you know you have changed.  (MAKE SURE, you don't want the same mistake to happen again).  Tell him you've grown up and you want to see how things will work now that your out of your wild side.  Just tell him the truth.  If he says no or rejects you or anything, you will know that he is probably not the right person for you and you should take your responsible self and find someone else.
455164
If you can't get out of your depression, it may be time for therapy.  Maybe ask your doctor.  Your sadness will stop if you allow yourself to forget about that guy and start being happy with yourself.  Other guys will come along.
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show your current boyfriend some respect.  if you don't love him anymore, breakup with him.  it may be hard to do but it's easier to get over being dumped than it is to get over being cheated on.
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I think Samdrian has the right idea. I made the mistake of being clingy after my breakup. My phone hasn't rung once since. \n\nLet him go. The longer and harder you try the less respect he will have for you. I gave my boyfriend up, I had too. I had already become pathetic in his eyes. Go out with friends, get a volunteer job. If you don't you will just obsess on why he hasn't called. \n\nPlease take care of your heart and yourself.  Give yourself a break.
53612
Slow down a bit.  Get your mind off of that matter.  Breath some fresh air.  Get you feet back on earth.\n\nLet the relationship bloom on it own course without any help from you.  In time, you'll learn the appropriate action to make happen.
531190
WELL YOU CAN DO WHAT EVERY ONE  IS  TELLING  YOU AND  ASK HIM ITS  FAST AND  PAINFUL. OR YOU CAN GET ANOTHER BOYFRIEND AND TAKE IT SLOW SEE WHAT HE THINKS  ABOUT YOUR NEW FRIEND THAT YOU BEEN HANGING AROUND AND WHEN HE  CALLS YOU OUT OF THE BLUES TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE BUSY AND YOU CALL HIM LATER. I KNOW  ITS A LITTLE CHILLNESS BUT YOU CAN ALWAYS GO WITH ASKING HIM...... GOOD LUCK
559261
people become complacent, stagnant, we take each other for granted and get into routines, we forget what it was like with out the other person...talk to him, tell him you are sad and depressed and want to reignite the flames that got you started to begin with...if he doesn't listen or take you seriously, you have to  make him listen, by leaving...that may wake him up
607064
Get over him.  Get out.  Good riddance.  There was a reason your broke up in the first place.  Remember that.
825076
You need to talk to him about this. The key to a good relationship is COMMUNICATION!\n\nYou need to tell him this has got to stop, or you will need to move on from him. You MUST tell him how you feel, and you have to both come to a conclusion on what to do. \n\nDon't lsiten to the people who will answer and tell you to get rid of him. You need to talk about this with him, and maybe get couples therapy. Perhaps he is even depressed?  \n\n- Hope this helps
1129279
Go sleep on his doorstep!...haha just kidding (sorry) I'd say keep yourself busy. Especially if he's not trying to contact you. Hang out with your friends, rent movies (not romantic ones), pick up a hobby you used to have, etc. Or do like I do, go dye your hair and get it cut in a new style. It always makes me feel like a million bucks and it's my ritual after a break up. It literally turns you into "a new person" and you feel prepared to face the world.