I am embarrased very easily and i care way too much about what people think of me. How do i get rid of it?
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My heart goes out to you. You can change and this is how I did it. \n\nI was the same as you, when a young girl. I was so worried about what people would think, that I would cross the street rather than take a chance on being snubbed. I constantly worried  about my appearance and worried I would do something stupid. I was a mess! \n\nOne day, I was sitting by myself at home and reflecting on how unhappy I was. I came to the realization that I was far more concerned with myself than anyone else was. I decided from that point on, that I wasn't going to let anyone, or anything, take away from me, my sense of self worth. I was going to be happy and to heck with what anyone else thought. I stopped crossing the street to avoid people and found that many actually said hello before I could. I made myself smile, when inside I was scared to death. People returned those smiles! \n\nMy transformation took a lot of effort and bravery but I did it. I am well liked by my peers and have many friends, I would never have found as my old self. I am no longer shy or embarrassed to meet people. If they like me, that's wondeful; if they don't, they don't know what they are missing.\n\nRemember, you are a special and precious human being. You have as much right to be happy, as anyone else. Go out and grab it!\n\nI'll be rooting for you!! Give us an update in a few months and let us know how you are doing. A lot of people care what happens.
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I know how you feel. I used be like that too. I used to hate getting into conversations with people and I would blush and get so nervous!\n\nI still get like that a bit nowadays, but now way near as bad. It never goes, you just learn to deal with it and learn to accept it.\n\nDo you have any hobbies? Such as going to Martial arts lessons, or dancing classes, etc? You will find that going to these places will really help your confidence and also you will get to meet new people - people in the same situation as you; a beginner in the class, a bit nervous - and so you have common grounding and have something you can both talk about.\n\nRemember that you are not alone with this problem. There are hundreds and thousands of people out there just like you! It's just that they are too shy and nervous to approach people just like you, so you never get to meet them... think about it!\n\nAnd the friend thing, don't worry about that. I can count the number of true friends on 3 of my fingers - anyone who says they have loads of friends, they are lying. You may have acquaintances and 'mates' but true friends are very hard to come by.\n\nYou must also learn to enjoy your own company. Learn to love yourself, and you will feel happier inside. The friends will come naturally, you can't force friendships!!!\n\nGood Luck.\n\nJulie
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If the people are anything like MojoMan at the top I would just ignore them, yours is a very serious question, and making fun of people is a form of bullying (he looks a bit of a bully from his pic btw)\n\nA lot depends on the sort of 'making fun', somethings we can't change about ourselves, our parents, where we come from, how we look (excluding plastic surgery),  If it is something you can change however, and it is something you yourself are unhappy with, then make an effort to change it, get your friends and parents help.\n\nIf it is the way you behave, are very quiet, shy, have weird ideas, very intelligent, not so clever, then it is a matter of just making some friends, try to get peoples respect, help someone out when they are in trouble, be more outgoing.\n\nPS. it is hard to hurt someone who does nice things for you (you don't need to win them all once you have a few the rest will leave you alone, bullies only go for easy targets)\n\nOnly do what you are comfortable with tho'\n\nThere are many ways to achieve goals like this, sometimes you may need advice to get you started, if you are still at school try talking to a teacher about it or a school councilor, same goes for college.\n\nRemember it's not your fault, the fault lies with the bullies!\n\nAs a child I was made fun of because I had wierd thoughts, personally I liked the feeling this gave me, it made me different and unique, they were just a bunch of fashion following sheep :)\n\nIt's all in the way you look at it :)\n\nBe happy in yourself is the most important advice I can give you
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A piece of advice from me to you, and I swear by this!!!\n\nIf people don't like you for who you are, they can go jump off a bridge!!!\n\nBe cute, have fun, and don't let other people make you feel bad.  You are you, and they should accept that, and you should accept yourself for who you are too.
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i am just like u. I feel like i don't do anything right. If some people think you are a goof, they will just have to live with it. Real good people do not care what is on the out but what is on the in. Take that into consideration when somebody tries to make fun of you.\n\n         You may not be a goof, you may just think you are and other people could think you are really cool.
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This will be hard but if you put your mind to it you can...just think of yourself as higher than the situations you come across...try to not get so upset over things that won't significantly effect your life...view yourself as a treasure that if people don't like you (or are snobs around you) than they are missing out...\n\nRemember though that being sensitive is O.K.  The real problem is if you are over dramaticly sensitive.  Good luck and remember this will take a little time so don't give up!!!
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I make jokes about myself to myself, and I also tell a good friend I trust what I did, and sometimes their point of view makes me feel better, and sometimes they think I'm a fool too and they help me laugh about it.  After a while the humiliation goes away and you forget about it until the next time you get embarrassed.  Everyone goes through it, so don't be too hard on yourself.
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Maybe you've just become so used to it you don't know how to get away from it, maybe the people in your life are making you feel very reliant on them, if its really bothering you then get a few books from the library on how to be assertive and more confident, the sooner you break away from relying on others the more you will be yourself, good luck.
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well, you need to nip this in the bud now, or you will be plagued by it your whole life\n\nlife is a lot easier when you stop caring about what other people think\n\nmost people learn that lesson as they get older, making them wish they had learned it sooner\n\nwhen i look at photos of myself in high school I think I look so cute!! at the time I DESPISED myself....and for what?\n\nyou have to accept you will never be as well dressed, as good looking or as put together as some.....\n\nand that you ARE in fact better dressed, better looking and more put together than others\n\nit's a huge world we all live in, people come in all shapes and sizes\n\nlove yourself, you are all you have got, and you are worth it
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i really don't give a flying F*ck what people think of me and you should't either!
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Perhaps you could make jokes when kids make fun of you in order to deflect the attention. Something like: "Ya, it's my evil twin." I think things that stand out and make us different actually add character and it make us who we are. People whom make fun of others are the ones who are less than perfect and they're the ones with the problem not you. Though I can't answer your question on how to remove your bump I do wish you all the best in finding your answer. A big hug to you.
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It is not that people are turned of toward you because of your sensitive, it is mostly their fear of hurting you by saying the wrong thing.. The thing I see in over sensitive people is that they have a hard time to see something special about themself and to like themself, because have to like yourself before anyone else can.. A little advice for what it is worth, when you wake up in the morning take a long look at yoursefl in a mirrow, take a few deep breaths and say I am and good person and for today I will like myself and no matter what someone might do or say I will still like myself..
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Heres what you do. Be an existentialist. Forget that neing nervous is the problem and try to accept that neing nervous is just there, that you WILL be nervous and thats to be expected, then you will find that you notice perhaps that others are too. Being nervous isnt a character flaw, its part of life, its to be expected. SO then what are you left with once you take that out of the equation...just you right, being outgoing isnt something that you can just be, it takes a little confidence. The catch is that the way to get that confidence it by just doing it....so force yourself, make conversation with people you normally wouldnt, be friendly to people, talk to them but dont stress too much.  You will find that you feel better as time goes on and you will notice the nervousness less and less. \n\nI know that probably didnt help, but good luck anyway!!
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i have the same problem, yes, just try to relax, and smile a bit, but dont much or you would look awkward
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well, this is a good start. you asked a normal question, instead of those freaky ones...develop confidence in yourself and you won't need your friends around....just relax and enjoy yourself..\nremember that in social settings, no one is really thinking about anyone but THEMSELVES....so think about you and enjoy yourself.
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No, it's bad for you to care about what people think about you. You are your own person. Love yourself.
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Sounds like deep seated feelings of inadequacy... this usually passes with time... we all go through a phase in our adolescence when we doubt ourselves, self confidence comes with age and experience for most people. I myself had an epiphany while reading a book by a man named Richard Feynman, entitled "So what do you care what other people think?" and I just 'got over it'. When you stop caring what others think about you it is a very liberating feeling, you should look forward to it. Best of luck.