Why do women prefer weak, insecure men, instead of healthy, confident men?
344241
because some women have been in a very controlling affair and got out finally,and now they want to b in control by any means possible 2 feel better about themselvez
679384
A very complicated question, but I think the following generalization applies many times:  if an insecure woman (and there are many) get properly abused by a guy, they subconsciously think that he must be better than her.  Why?  Because he's confident enough to treat her badly, and she's going to love it because she's hanging with a better guy than her.  If he didn't feel superior, he wouldn't risk treating her bad for fear that she would leave.  It's human nature to want to be with people better than you.  This is an overly simplistic answer, but it's more or less the fundamentals of it.
903242
I think some of it is insecurity. Insecure men have problems with independent women and it makes them feel bigger to think that we cannot take care of ourselves. But some of it is also biological and societal values. They are hard-wired to take care of us, to be the provider and protector.
376551
because women like them better than someone who treats them decent. i guess they see it as weakness. i cant make myself be abusive so i dont get the girl. dont bother sticking up for her either, they somehow get offended by that.
411005
In my experience, I have known several men who prefer bigger girls.  They say there is more to love, more to hold and that sort of thing.  From what I have seen the woman has to take care of herself and have a bit of confidence.  If a girl loves herself and shows it then guys will be attracted not only to her but that confidence as well.
337809
It might appear that women have a higher self-esteem, but\nI feel it is much more fragile and of a temporary nature-easily swayed and upset by peers, society and social environment. Men are much more confident in nature re: being\nmore "grounded" and less influenced by those around them.
310184
I to am a plus sized woman, And I understand where your coming from.  All the guys wants to be my friend or think of me as one of the guys. Where they get that vibe at I am not sure.   But I think that guys ,like women, are self conscious I think some men really like bigger women but they are afraid of what other ppl men especially would think of them with a larger woman in hand.  And that's there problem and they miss out on wonder full women that way.  Also I think its magazines and the media, culture what ever you wanna say puts this idea of what a woman should be. And there are us few that just don't fit the mold but I would rather be fat and unique than skinny and be just a carbon copy of what other ppl have a idea of.  Lots of times I think women of size have to have a out going personality or maybe a in your face type one and some men are threatened by that. I know there are some men in my life that are by my personality. But they know i don't take any thing from them either. I hope I helped. But just know your not the only one that feels that way.  As a child i was practically tortured by the other kids. And as an adult its not much better but I feel sorry for them because normally if someone is saying bad things thinking bad things about you then they have a problem or are insecure about them self so ultimately they are the ones with the problem. I hope I have helped with my ramballing.
928452
Because of the media, every woman questions their weight, looks, etc.  Because men disrespect women by lusting after the perfect woman (i.e. strip joints, playboy, etc) and these leads women to have a low self-esteem because they will never be as perfect as the way magazines,  television commercials, etc.  portray women.  Women are to blame as well, woman should not shop at stores (Victoria Secrets for example) because of their tantalizing commercials that dictate what a man finds attractive and sexy.\n\nEvery seeks approval and acceptance.  Weight and dieting are ways a woman can  "control" their body image.  Anorexia at its finest!
413369
well it is both... when a woman dumps you it is cuz the guy is better looking or had more money than you.  Women say neither because who wants to admit to being what so many women are.  The truth is women are attracted to SECURITY.... hence that is something that does not exist. so it translates to the sense of knowing there is nothing better around and that they are going to be taken care of and lack of worries such as food, water, sex, home and luxuries.  Back at the same answer.... looks and money.
314529
Because they are less heavily built.  On average men are taller, burlier, more muscular and hav thicker bones.  Women do not need huge manly feet as they are smaller and thus do not need to balance as much weight.
1130565
Women are insecure and they need to justify their themselves by testing men.  I think guys don't prove themselves on their own so when a women is feeling insecure she needs to test her man's feelings for her.  If guys were more open and showed their feelings and love for women they way they want, girls wouldn't have to find out for themselves
523631
on the contrary, i think guys prefer girls with brains to go with their looks.. only inferior guys will feel intimidated by girls with strong personalies and brains and balls
630383
I am a woman just over 50 and would really like to look like I did 30 years ago, but reality is reality, and I know men just don't tend to look at things that way.  But my hubby assures me that he loves me however I look, so maybe it is mostly single men who think that way, I don't know.  I just know that when he was younger, he and his best friend had alot to say about heavier women and that is where my insecurities come from.  Also, I do see single, older men wanting the younger, thin, sexier appearing women.  Maybe it is an ego thing.  Who kknows why guys think the way they do.  But you do have a good point.  Sometimes I think they just don't think.  They want.
513573
Yeah men have become more vain these days, when I feel like I'm looking good I'm more confident and more relaxed. Just because men are men doesn't mean we don't have the right to appreciate our selves...
687327
I don't know why so many men think that resorting to physical force or violence makes them appear more of a man.  In reality, a woman wants a man who has the ability to control himself.  Men who have to use physical force to get what they want are ultimately insecure.
179611
from what i've seen, Determination is the most appealing freature women look on men and resilience the least one.\n\nSo i think some women that hold one or more of this features will not find attractive in a man to have the same feature, they would rather go for the "compliment argument": between men, they would chose the one who reinforces what they lack.\n\nBut to each is own. The outcome of such choice of features or feature can not be predicted since every woman is different.
766992
because guys can be as kookie as girls are, and even more insecure which is why they like to be in control to prove their masculinity.