Am I cheating while having sex with my wife and thinking of another woman?
336210
i guess its fine but unhealthy.. it means that u have an unconscious desire of sleeping w/ur colleague or somebody else..\n\nu need 2 ask urself what's missing in ur sex life. maybe u need 2 look 4 new sex adventures.. but w/ur wife ok.
351114
Don't feel bad; your husband is probably thinking about another woman. That doesn't bother you, does it?
862968
If you have both been cheating for this long, clearly it's not just a fling.\nI think you should seek out martial counseling (with this woman).\nI KNOW that you should both divorce before you conceive a child together. \nThe dishonesty is going to create problems for you and your wife, her and her husband. So get it all out, done and over with now.\nThen move on with this woman.
124457
if he is thinking about another woman, then you need to rephrase your question,YOU are trying to work things out but he is thinking about another woman. if he is doing that then how can he concentrate on you and the relationship.you have to think about how long you want to keep trying.it takes 50/50 on both parts.do you think that is the case with you and your husband? maybe both of you should talk to a counselor
855089
LOL, not to laugh at you, but it sucks you can't join in. I would ask your wife, if she must explore her fantasies, could it be with someone not related to you, so you can participate, too. I mean, if you aren't bothered, then don't make a big deal about it. Just simply state that you wished you would have know, so you wouldn't have been shocked/surprised. Ask her what her thoughts and plans are, and from there, you must decide.
192337
If you are asking, probably! Ask yourself two questions: Does it make you feel guilty? Would you object to your partner doing what you are doing? If you can truly answer NO, then you are the ONE man in the world who isn't cheating!
1066771
I believe that it is cheating when one fantasies about others. If one lust in their mind for some one other than their spouse, it's adultry.
826639
Fine -- you can't control your feelings.  But you CAN control your behavior.  Feel whatever you feel, just don't touch this other woman.  Go to counseling like you had the idea of doing, and figure out how to fall back in love with your wife.
399985
I would seriously question if she is indeed your FRIEND at all.\n\nFriends do not advise us to do things that would be hurtful to ourselves or to our families.\n\nAs to would it be adultery YES it would being with someone other than your Husband is cheating.\n\nYou need to take a closer look at this so called friend.
901256
I feel the same about my wife.  I still love her but I look at other women & find them sexy & want to be unfaithfull but I have never done it.  It's a difficult one but all we are doing is denying ourselves a beutifull sex life.  I think all that you could do is have casual sex with no strings & try not to let your partner find out.
1000221
You need to be honest to both women, You just got back with your wife, don't let her hear this from anyone but you. This is the fastest way to ruin trust. Be nice to the Friend, tell her you like her but only want to be friends. You can also tell her that you may be working things out with your wife. Don't let both women think you have been leading them on. you can loose your wife for good and that doesn't sound like what you want. Tell HER Now. Marriage is a blessing and your wife's feelings should come first. if the friends gets mad then so what. At least your wife knows you're not trying to play games with her.
281044
First you really should talk to your wife, tell her that you want out of the marriage. You shouldnt be with someone if you are married to another... After you and your wife seperate then you can think about the other woemn,.,
920163
My oppinion is that you are a few of the smart loyal and honest men out there and I applaud you for your well train of thought and consideration. I do not feel anyone should look down on you just because you have considered things that for others it doesn't even cross their mind. Continue your great way of thought simply because so many of us fall under pressure especially when being tempted with sex, and drugs. I was also a virgin when I got married and so many friends told me I'd regret it but I've been married for a year and the thought of cheating on my husband because I never had anyone before him never crosses my mind. Not to mention the great respect I got and continue to get from my husband everytime we make love!  I'm sure you will find somone someday who is going to also appriciate your well thought in life! Good luck and God bless
499921
No, dear.  See, what is happening is she is letting you think you are right just to make you feel good.  She is wise, your wife.  It is one of her many clever ways, to once in a while "admit" to being "wrong."  Of course, she is never wrong!
121537
Not a good idea.  It is possible to cheat on someone without physical activity between you.  How would you feel if your husband/wife was chatting away on the phone with someone and getting all excited about it?  Put a stop to it right away.
930728
Yes it is possible.  Fairly rare, but it does happen.\n\nI don't feel that way myself.  Although I have seriously fantasized about watching my wife with other men.
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....