i got married 5 months back.still i feel shy to talk to my husband.wat am i to do?plz give me a remedy.?
348941
I think it is your husband fault. You can ask this question to him and try to get his help. If hi can not help you, wait for a while. Time is a medicine for the most of the problem:)
146028
Relax and enjoy it.  Remember that a marriage is a lot of hard work, and takes a lot of commitment.  The more you share with each other the greater the reward.  Don't let arguments fester, and don't dwell on all the little things that ultimately aren't that important.  And last of all realize that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and that over time the intesity of your feelings will fade some but that is normal and not a sign of anything being wrong with your relationship.
684224
Well. there could be such much involved here. Like how has your marriage been going? I mean somewhere down the line something had to have happen.. It just doesn't stop. If you had a little more details I could help a little more. So I will do my best. First off, do you often spend time alone? That is important in a marriage where you two have time to go out on dates. Sometimes it takes you two to get out of your settings and do something different together. On the other hand how do you honestly feel about it. Are you making any efforts to be spontaneous with him? Is he just slowing drifting away. If that is the case maybe he could be hiding something that you don't know about. One thing for sure to do is pray to God to give you the answers you seek. There are just so many varibles that can play into all this...\n\nSorry that I could not be of more help..\n\nAmen and God bless...
542123
it sounds like it..just talk to him about whats going on...ur married and i hope everything works out..congrats on the new baby
564651
I remember how I felt when I left my sweetheart.  I was only able to see her once a weekend.  She lived like 20 miles from where I lived and I had to take the bus every Saturday to see her.  Man, what great times.  But at day's end, my heart hurt something fierce.  Don't feel embarrassed.  You may be afraid to lose this great feeling you have.  You don't ever want it to go away.  This is your insecurities talking.  You need to know that you are everything he wants.  Gain confidence in you and your relationship.  You possess the power.
1070956
luckily its only been 2 months....   but this sure is a glimpse into any future with this guy....I noticed  a couple in a restaurant   that were married.... the whole time they were there the guy was  talking on the cell phone.. with a break of only a few minutes in between calls .... I never even saw him speak to his wife!...  I felt so bad for her.... you might want to think about   if you really want to continue on .. personally  I would   get out NOW! lol..... good luck!
608285
If you cant realize what he might be thinking/feeling...\nJust read what typed.  Give the guy a break.  Would you call someone 4 times a day, if you didnt like them??\nThink about it for just one minute.  He could be justa tad shy, + you're still married.
1059086
Honestly, I'm not a marriage counselor or even close to it.  To me though, it sounds like maybe you and your husband aren't as connected on an emotional level if you ask me (which you did, haha).  Maybe the reason you feel this way for someone else is because you've lost those feelings for your husband.  I know it's hard, after marriage and two kids, but it's important to stay physically, emotionally, and mentally involved with each other.  Just try things like going on dates with your husband.  Try to reconnect with him and remember all of the reasons why you married him.  Maybe your husband has a great personality, wit, and a beautiful mind also.  Maybe you just need to remind yourself of it.
556137
What you really want is the REAL thing, not any cheap substitutes for the intimacy that you once had. If you've been together for a long time, you focus on your careers and other things that need to get done and in that time both of you have grown as individuals. You are not on the exact same level that you used to be on when you once met because you have both gained new wisdom, new dreams, new experiences, etc. I think what you need to do is meet each other on the level that you are on now. In other words REDISCOVER each other. There is something deeper in your husband and in you that wasn't there before and you need to get in touch with each other. Talking is the number one key for intimacy. Maybe you could change the scenery and talk in a totally different place to spark some enthusiasm. Make it special and really dig into each other's worlds. Talking about the past can bring back good memories, but don't wish that your husband is now what he was then because he is all that and even more. Love him now and get to know him all over again. Do something special for him and create an atmosphere where you can talk and fall in love all over again.
28468
i suggest that you sit down and  talk to your husband.  this may cause many mnay problems down the line if your not already feeling a certain way towards him now, marraige is a HUGE responsibility, and it is not something to be taken lightly,youe need to discuss this with him and try to find a way to resolve these issuses.
86634
I feel ya on this one, this goes back to my question I just posted about letting your guard down. I would def. talk to him b/c if he feels something different and is to afraid to say something or maybe its the opposite, things need to be worked out. Communication is the key
226115
I think u should speak to a trusted family member or a marriage counsellor (try for one of ur own religion).\nJust be sure u ask someone with a happy wife (or husband, if ur asking a woman).\n\nAnd yes, if u and the girl are from a conservative community, then she will probably be shy. Be patient with her.
163642
Your best bet is to learn his 5 basic "needs" and his "love language" and work on reopening the lines of communication. \n\nWhen you do that he can relax and feel more confident sharing his feelings with you. ( something he is probably uncomfortable doing. )
202269
As corny and very used as it may sound, communication is basic, my husband and I have been married only for 3 years but the first year was like that, fighting over everything, but, we got tired of it, sat down and talked about what triggers our outbursts and started out with little things and moved up to  bigger ones,  I don't know for how long you have been with him or how serious it is, but you need to compromise and be commited to the relationship, besides  if you do one unexpected act of kindness towards each other, the other will be willing to reciprocate and it will make him feel you care and it will make things smoother. That worked for us and now things are a lot better.
981694
Your wondering what would the road not travel have been like? There is nothing wrong with you or your marriage. Please don't feel guilty. However may I suggest you think of ways to spice up things in your marriage. Thinking up of these things might bring back some of the specialness feeling. It will definiatley leave less time to think of the x boyfriend.
524083
As long as your are involved with another man you'll not be able to take a step back and look at the situation clearly.  I think you should ask the other man to step back, not see him or talk to him, for a month.  This will allow you to spend time talking to your husband, telling him what your needs are, finding shared interests, etc.  You should do everything possible to rebuild the marriage.  However, with someone else in the shadows the rebuilding process won't happen.  You already know the the right thing to do would be to work on your marriage.  You're simply confused.
170068
Give it some time (a few weeks) and then see how you feel then, and if you still want to, talk to him about it.