I have just come from a relationship that lasted 2 years how do I get over him?
341591
First off , let me just say..."Good for you"!!! I'm sure it's hard and will be for awhile, but just ask yourself your own question..."How do you want to live?, it may sound silly, but , seriously think about it for a little while and when you fiure out what YOU want thengo out there and get it!!Good Luck:)
744034
Make yourself hate him, or try to remember things that he had done to hurt you. This helped me a lot to forget my exbf. \n\nAnd it took me 6 mths to move on and many years to let go of him. But at least it helped tremendously.
333753
you need to seriously cut down on spending time with him and phone calls, etc. he's just not into you that way. the only way to get over him is to distance yourself.\n\nCall up some other friends and become very busy and important!! \n\nYou might be surprised how much you won't be thinking about him after a week or two. \n\nGetting away from the situation always puts things in perspective. you will come to find that he is not amazing enuff for you to agonize over!
1015455
Wow, your situation sounds like mine!! My ex was older than me and he got over me way too soon. I wasn't ready to see him with his new girlfriend and i got upset. After being in a situation like yours, i think you should move on. It will be hard and the feeling of love with still be there, but i would forget him and just move on. You never know what is out there unless you go for it and forget about your past!! It sounds hard and you may not want to do it.. but seriously get over him and give yourself some time to heal before finding someone else. Don't just jump into a new relationship either. Really deal with the situation and make sure you're feelings are gone before getting with someone else!! Good luck :)
1116175
hotti, i was in the same situation.  I loved him and he cheated so i broke up w/ him.  It was hard to get over and i thought that i would never get over him, but i did.  \n\nFirst, get rid of anythign and everythign that reminds you of him.  EX:  Pics, notes, letters...ect\n\nNext, now that you have your mind off of him, keep ot off and try new things.  Make sure to be having fun.  Go to a club and hang out with friends.  Party.  Then do more fun stuff like somethign you never did b4.  If you have nvr been surfing, try that.  Or try any of these:\n~skydiving\n~bunjee jumping\n~eat a lot of ice cream\n~introduce urself to a new type of music\n~go to a concert and 'Rock out!!'\n~get a journal and in a red pen write "I hate _________"  (fill his name in)  and fill the whole jorrnal.  If that dont work, use a more appropriate word, like a*s*s* , jerk, loser, or anythign else.  Be creative.\n~hang out with a million other people you dont know\n~have a night on the town with your mom or best friend.\n\nHere are some really fun things that you could do to get him mad:\n~order magazines in his name and send them to his house.  Make sure thay are girly or childish magazines\n~sneak into his house and draw all over his face with red marker\n~hang all of his underwear outside with a sign that says "A*S*S* crack undies.  Free.  Never been used.  lol (do you get it)\n~Just have fun.\n\nI hope i helped.  Dont cry over a jerk.  You will definately find a better guy who loves every part of you no matter what.
608931
U have got to give urself time to get over him....u will soon..time is a great healer.
1052872
You may have these feeling, because you are jealous . You broke up with him for a reason, and now he has another man. Hold your head up , and just go out with friends, and have FUN. do things to forget him. Don't "look" for another guy, rather, let them find you. that always seems to help me when i can't get over a guy.
938797
Convince yourself that you deserve better and I'm sure you do.  Look at it as his loss, not yours and move on.  You can love someone dearly and still be smart enough to know that you can't actually be with them because it's simply not good for you.  I have an ex from 15 years ago that I'll always adore, but we can't be in the same room without trying to claw each other's eyeballs out.  We've broke up 12 years ago and we have remained friends..on the phone. lol
149349
I too was in a relationship with someone of a different ethnicity, who also happened to be 18 years my senior, and after 3 and a half years, I broke it off not too long ago actually.  It is never easy to deal with a breakup, but you must find the strength to move foward.  I think we need to take time to heal and jumping right into another relationship isn't the answer.  However, going out with friends and maybe even meeting the guy your friends are encouraging you to meet may not be such a bad idea.  Just don't move to fast too soon, and make decisions for all the wrong reasons.  Things happen for a reason and not every person that we are with is the person that is our life partner, you don't want someone in your life that you can't trust, nor do you want a cheater.  So wish him luck and say good riddance to bad rubbish.
236533
1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
1083158
Don't dwell on him, it won't help your situation and will only make things harder.  Go on with your life and you'll meet new people.  Eventually you'll meet someone that takes your mind off him and none of what you're feeling right now will exist in your mind.  And if things are truly meant to be between the two of you, one day you'll find yourselves back with each other, but it'll happen naturally.  This doesn't mean you should plan for that either.  Meet other people, time will heal.  Promise!
275198
actually i did not do anything just to get even with my ex, no need. because if you really wanted to move on you dont have to get even just to show him that you're now a better person without him, well that is not the basis for that. just do whatever you want to do, without being affected or it is because you're just doing all those things its because you wanted to get even,it only means that you're not yet over with that guy.so the best thing to do is once you already have a new relationship is you have to show all the love and respect to that particular person.so dont use your ex just to get even, just move on with your life.. and be thankful instead that he became part of your life =)
1043202
You obviously cannot trust him to be anymore than a short-term and very unstable relationship... it's best to refuse to go out with him. As for how you "get over him", you can try finding someone else that you like, or you could busy yourself with other activities as a start. As for the Jazz band performance tomorrow, good luck! I know you'll do well, just practice your part and you'll be fine. Take care.\nAloha,\nDavid
482103
I think you should get over him and find someone that appreciates you and only you--you don't need a two-timer.
300677
It takes time.  I'm still not over my ex and that was 7 years ago.  I know that doesn't sound promising, but that isn't what life is about.  You learn to deal.  As time goes by it gets easier.  If you really love someone they will always hold a special place in your heart, even 50 years down the road.  Don't try to get over it.  Cry, listen to sad music, wear pj pants, and eat ice cream.  Everyone needs to wallow.  Eventually you will want to start living again and be happy and you will. Don't try to be friends though.  When things are that serious and one still has feelings and you try to "just be friends", the one with the feeling, you, will always get hurt in the end.  You'll realize it's not enough and you'll never heal that way.  Just remember not to shut love out because of one jerk.  Life is too long to live it alone and lonely.
307737
What you have to do is remember that you're x's for a reason, don't dwell on all the happy, romantic stuff that went on with you and him, think of why you broke up and how you felt and what the problems were.  There's always a good reason why we break up with someone.
370018
That is because you won't let go and live your own life.. you are dwelling on the past and that is a dead end, honey.  You said yourself that he has moved on..you need to just get on with your life.  You can grieve for just so long over a broken relationship, but after a while it just becomes pathetic.  Don't be pathetic.. be strong.. and be happy..  what do you think you are accomplishing by whining and crying over someone who is long gone from your life?  Grow up, dear.. this isn't the last time you will have this problem in your life, I promise.