i m old man with some savings my son wants to do busines for which he wants money from me but i m scared?
338886
Don't give it to him.  If you don't get it back, it could hurt you financially and if he does give it back, then you have not taught him any lessons from it.  (because he just has to ask for the money)  I suggest you co-sign a loan for him.  Then that way it's in his name, he is responsible for it, and it does not take away from your savings.
886701
I would get them a "token" something, yes. He will see that you did, and appreciate it. He might not get your son something, but no matter, I think you should get his kids something...just don't go "overboard".
521538
ok hunny been there done that.  with your sweetie i cant give a guarenteed answer but i had that problem with my son's father when we were together. he thought it was his responsibilty to look after his mom.  last straw for me was when she "borrowed" 200 bucks to take his sister back to the mainland for ferry and gas and i found out that she used it to go bowling. man i was pissed beyond recognition since the money came out of my account which i used to pay ALL the bills and he wouldnt ask her to pay it back. in your case hes the child and unless they are unable to work or seriously something wrong with them then his responisbility is to you and his children.........however many kids there are and his parents should know that their grandbabies come first and foremost. doesnt matter whose kids they are they are always first and shame on his ex for trying to stick him with two kids that arent his. personally i wouldnt put up with whats going on but maybe make a really big chart and stick it up somewhere really obvious (maybe in the bathroom right over the toilet where he presumably STANDS every morning to take a piss and cant miss it) and put up a couple column where you detail the money your bro gives you for gas and the money his parents drain out every month and ask him how if hes going to support his parents where is the money going to come from for paying child support plus all the monthly bills. family is only as important as you make them and he needs to get rid of his and be a big boy. if they want to know his every move maybe perhaps you should suggest to his parents that he get his old room ready so he can move back in it or offer to move your entire family his kids your kids an all into THEIR house so that they can be in control and you can stay rent free and they can babysit.  all else fails change your phone number refuse to open your door and have all the accounts put in your name with only you being able to access them. or as suggested by the others then by all means kick his ass to the curb............ but thats up to you and how much more of this you are willing to deal with.
751835
He's your dad, be honest.  say "Dad, i'd love to come, but I'm a bit strapped for cash at the moment".\n\nif he says "Well, i was going to pay anyway, seeing as you paid last time", then you're sorted!
1108659
The situation is complicated.  You need an adult to deal with an adult.  So the best for you would be to find an parent, relative, friend who will speak up for you and on your behalf.  Only then will you get the real attention you need and the paycheck you deserve.  Otherwise, you are being taken advange of and it will continue as long as you let it happen to you.
1128837
dang!!! maybe ask your mother for some money!!
479339
I hope your father is one, that way you only have to make sure it is willed to you alone and that when he dies there is still enough left in the bank for you!
1120518
You need to talk to your son and confront him about what he did.  He has to know that stealing from anyone is not acceptable.  You need to talk with him and possibly even give him a punishment for what he did.  Be honest with him why stealing is wrong and how people can't trust other people who steal.
748631
Yes you skinflint!\n\nForget legalities, do whats right by your son. You should want to support him and not leave it all up to his mother!
1163531
An interesting situation. Will the son continue to live in the house after you die? If not, you should look at a reverse mortgage. If yes, he will, then annuity may take away his support. \n\nIf you're not concerned about the son, an immediate annuity should not be ruled out but should be considered only as part of a diversified portfolio. You need to do distribute your cd's among stock mutual funds and bonds or bond mutual funds as well as cash, for example. The typical modern financial recommendation is 60 percent stocks and 40 percent in cash and fixed income investments. You need current income and growth to accommodate inflation. \n\nA consultation with a fee-based financial advisor and an elder care attorney specialist would benefit you.
820364
I certainly wouldnt spend my own money sending it. If he wants it, tell him to give you your money or come pick it up himself.
633169
I hope your brother is trustworthy because if your name is on the loan and he doesn't pay, the bank is coming after YOU!! Just make sure you are financially able to carry his debts as well as yours or you could be bankrupt and there goes your good credit for many years.
625032
Perhaps it's the way you are asking and he thinks you're only kidding.  Be assertive.  He would have to pay a lot of money if he put the child in day care.  Tell him it's a strain on you.  Be honest with him.  If he doesn't like it...to bad.  Day care will certainly change his mind.  He is taking you for granted.  You won't be offending him by asking.  He may even feel bad that he never offered before, which he should have done at the begining.  Just sit down with him and tell him you are serious about this.  I bet you'll be surprised how willing he will be to give you some money.  Try it.  I'm a grandmother to and I certainly would ask for help.  Good luck
1047157
First you need to determine if the business can generate enough income to support him AND reimburse you.\n\nA lot of people who say they own "businesses" are simply self-employed, living paycheck to paycheck like most of the rest of us.  If that is where your business is, and if that is where your son will be when you leave, you should probably just be satisfied with the fact that you have helped your son.\n\nIf, on the other hand, the business is capable of generating excess cash without adversely affecting your son's life, you have some options.  I think the best would be for you to continue to "own" the business but draw a weekly check for a predetermined period of time.  Write out the terms so that you both understand the deal.  The amount should be large enough to make sense but small enough so that there is no doubt that he can make the payment.  That way, if things don't work out, you still "own" the business.
719279
Start respecting yourself more than that!!!!! This man is paying you for services. kick him to the curb. If was giving you money to help you out he wouldn't want to sleep with you. Pay him back when you get on your feet and find someone who respects you. Don't let a man use you like that.
419672
I am sorry that things have gone so wrong for you.  By the sounds of things you should not be the one replacing all of your lost goods-surely any thefts have been reported to the police and insurance on objects claimed?  As for the fraud, things such as identity fraud and credit card theft should not affect your credit so long as you have contacted the police and banks/credit card companies and proven to them that you are a victim of this.  Banks and credit cards have insurance to cover most of the effects of identity theft (they do here in the U.K so far as I am aware) and most victims are reimbursed.  I can tell you for a fact it does not take money to make money, it takes a job to make money and anyone who demands money to let you work for them is conning you and anyone who pays money to work for someone deserves it!  You need to use the skills that you have from your self employment and get yourself a job-any good employer will recruit you on the basis of how well you can do a job, not your personal circumstances.  Im afraid this is the only way you can safely make money with no risk.  Getting a stable job will also be to your benefit in gaining access to your son.  On that issue it is important not to be hostile to your sons mother-not only does this give a very poor impression of your character to a court, it also provides a very poor environment for your son who probably loves you and his mother equally. By showing that you can get and keep a job and are willing to work hard at it to prove you are stable should then result in you being found more competent as a father-Im not saying you arent already, but anything helps in law-particularly child access cases.  As for the fraud/theft, i strongly suggest you talk to your bank/police if you have not done so already.  Once again Im sorry thatthings have gone downhill for you, but trust me, only you can get yourself back on top again.  All the best.
927305
its alwas asking to borrow money from me.