How successful is a long distance relationship really?
350199
I agree with bluebela and Hank. A successful relationship is only as successful as you make it. You only get out of something what you put into it. If you only put 15 minutes into a relationship, dont expect to get a lot out of it. Any kind of relationship including long distance ones are completely dependent on those involved. Both parties have to give. Anything less, and it will not survive.
457666
long distance relationships are really hard to hold together but if you try hard enough it'll be alright.  i had a boyfriend that lived in germany because he was in the army.  i really thought he could be faithful to me because the whole time while he was gone, i def was.  i mean, it might not be big but i read some stuff on this girl's profile that left a comment on his myspace and it was pretty discusting.  that just let me know that he really wasn't that into me and that it just wasn't meant to be.  good luck girl.  sometimes it does work out; just very seldomly.  ♥ a l y s e
178326
Yes but it depends on how the relationship is long distance. If it's temporary( like away at college) then yeah if both are willing to make it work then it will work. If it's some type of 'i met him on the internet but he lives in another state...' then i don't think so.
357812
I live about an hour away from my boyfriend; it has its challenges, yeah, but it works out pretty good. I think as long as you continue to communicate throughout the week you should do great - spending weekends together is awesome.\nWe've been seeing each other for almost 2 years now. \nGood luck!!
448008
To make a long distance relationship work there has to be a lot of trust - if you don't see each other all week or sometimes for a few weeks you have to be certain the other is serious about the relationship.  It is also good to have very regular contact.  One good thing about not seeing each other so often is that it keeps the relationship alive and you always have separate interests and therefore loads to talk about when you do see each other.  However, this type of relationship can take a long while to get off the ground - much longer than a normal one and there has to be a lot of feelings to keep it going.
231247
Long distance relationships are very hard, but I know couples who are married and are still long distance. So nothing is impossible. It just depends on how much you love and Trust each other to be apart but still stay together. But warning: long distance relationships are Tough. You both need to sit down and talk about the possibilities and if you both decide to stay together, talk about how you'll both deal with it. Make sure you're both prepared for all the hardships to follow, such as missing each other, trust issues, traveling to see each other, etc... Goodluck on your decision!
855048
just enjoy the long distance relationship, dont take it to seriously
833060
long distance never works!!!!!! \nHe could fill some needs that can make you feel good but.......I wouldn't expect a completely truethful, honest or a real relationship out of it......at least nothing truely more then a friendship with possible benefits when u see him.I wouldn't get too emotional about it or you'll end up dissappointed
596050
It depends on how serious it is.\n\nBecause if both people aren't seriously committed, then long-distance relationships often don't work out.\nIn which case, it's best to let them go.\n\nBut if you guys are serious about each other, then do what you can to make it work.
550422
You think a 3 hour drive is a long distance relationship? Try being 10,000+ miles apart... My finacee' is in Hanoi, Vietnam while I'm here in California. \n\nIt is VERY tough to have a long distance relationship. It requires tremendous amount of commitment to each other. You are your girl will be tested every day on how strong your bond is. \n\nThere's an old saying that basically says to let her go and see if she comes back to you. That should be the first thing you do to see if your long distance relationship will work. \n\nGood luck to you!
30147
Poorly, and not for very long.\n\nSeriously, you have to have a LOT of communication. Regularly scheduled phone calls, and some random ones too. E-mails, chat and etc. Constant communication. Otherwise, the passion goes cold. \n\nIt's a lot of work to make a long distance relationship work.
50416
Yes, it can.  It depends on how hard you work at it, and how much they are working at it.  You have to keep your commitments of calling when you promise, being on line when you promise, of coming down when you promise, and vice versa.  Sometimes starting out in long distance relationships actually make them better.  One reason is that you know from the beginning it is going to take work and are ready to take that on.  Second, you learn to communicate verbally with each other on every topic, and that will last through your relationship if it leads to marriage.  Also, it forces you to take things slow, and really get to know the person over time.  Sometimes if we can see the person every day, we fall too fast, and fail to recognize the warning signs that we would see if there were some distance put between us.  I know of a couple that dated from Scotland to Canada for two years, and just got married.  You know what?  They wouldn't have traded the past two years for anything, because now they talk to each other every day about everything, and it has taught them a lot about confiding in each other and trusting in each other.  I hope it works out for you. :)
297596
sometimes it does. sometimes it doesnt. it all depends on the relationship. if u do have a long distance relationship ... it wont b easy. trust me.
178132
i think this question needs more details.  i do believe there are many devoted people who can keep a relationship together it is definitely dependent on how strong the bond between the 2 of you is.  it probably also depends on how long youve been together before you leave.  good luck to you and remember everything happens for a reason.  if youre meant to be together you relationship will withstand the distance, time and separation.
87701
It's ok. It requires extra energy of course but as long as you trust each other and maintain constant communication then there should be no problem. \n\nBetter if you are not doing it for long term period. Soon one of you has to decide to move. But if you have no choice to do so, those things above will play important roles in order to keep your relationship work well. \n\nAnyway, short distant relationship doesn't give any guarantee that the relationship will work better than the long distant one, does it?
1166558
Yes. I think the anticipation and mystery and trust that will be built will be very beneficial to the relationship.  So you think the distance thing is just temporary?  That would be real nice.
772063
I started a long distance relationship a long time ago when i was 14 and we lasted 9 years. We broke up when we lived together but i'd say that everyone is different and since you have already lived together its plausible to say that you will find it hard, very hard in fact but keep at it hun, if you love each other as much as you say then you can find a way to make it work.