Is it right to make any decision simply to gratify your self-love, when this is not the will of G-d?
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Is it right, might be reworded as, "is it a sin".  The short answer is yes.  However, let me clerify the christian viewpoint on sin.  All People sin.(Romans 3:23).  Sin has a penalty(Romans 6:23) God sent his son to pay the penalty of our sin (Romans 5:8). If your heart is right, God forgives your sin, through the death of his son (Romans 10:9).  Now to the fun stuff.  Jesus died for all your sins, even the ones you'll do in the future.  If that were not true, he would need to come back and pay for them again.  So all your sin has already been covered.  All your responsable for right now is to grow as a christian (1 Corinthians 3:2 & Hebrews 5:12).  If you are a christian asking this kind of question, then God will reveal your answer through his word. until that time it is a sin what you are doing, but that doesn't stop God from loving you, or prevent you from getting into heaven.  As you grow in other ways, God will deal with your 'self love' too.\n\nIMHO
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A decision by default is still a decision.  Trust me, your path will be smoother, regardless of which way you go, if you choose consciously rather than by default.  Your current situation is unsustainable.  Although painful, you will recover from the loss of either, easier than you will recover from the loss of all....  And then again, maybe your indecision reflects your true belief that neither is really right for you.  I recommend counseling.  You need to know what's really going on with you to make a good decision.
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Yes, it's better not to be loved by mistake, or by fakery. But keep in mind that "what you are" cannot be fully described, and is temporary. You can change, or be changed, by the course of living itself.\n\nWho's to judge or say what you are? Can anyone exactly describe all of one's aspects?\n\nI don't think so. I's mostly wishful thinking or self-hypnosis, I say. Only God knows you for sure, because God is you.
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It sounds like right now you shouldn't choose either.  You need to take some time to yourself and figure out what you really want. Otherwise you're going to end up getting hurt or hurting them in the process.
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in this particular behavior of a person theres no such reason to choose the person that we really dont care about or simply we dont love.What might be the purpose of the gift of God if we dont follow it. Heart beats to whom we love not to whom we pity for.If you love the person show it. And if you dont be it, dont force yourself to the person whom you dont loved.
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If you feel guilty about it, then do something. For most, why would it be a sin to be able to care for yourself? If those who can't could, wouldn't they?
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in opinion,  do what's right for you. there's no right or wrong answers. it how to feel about the whole situation. don't doubt your intuition.
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I sometimes choose to help simply because I can, without thinking of future rewards. But usually, when it's something\nonerous, I would think twice before offering help. I know I cannot count much on gratitude, so this point becomes irrelevant. Whatever it is I will do, will be based on the amount of pleasure I am getting, or effort, I  am gaining. If that wasn't my approach, I would soon burn out, expecting\npeople to return the favor, or follow my example by helping others, usually leads to disappointment. I don't need to be disappointed or burnt out, why should I be? So, my approach is really practical, utterly selfish, but may be at times very helpful. I don't suppose I exactly fall into the categories described in the question, so don't know if it satisfied your curiosity or not.
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I am feeling the right. It's just what first came to my mind. I am right handed and believe I use that side of my brain more.\n\nIf it was a path less traveled by I would consider it, but have to admit I've had my trusting nature violated once too often and might be leery of walking somewhere fewer people were. Still if I could feel just nature ahead of me, and my intuition said it was worth it, I'd enjoy going where few had before.
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yes. if you do NOT love to keep pain OUT, then you also cannot let LOVE IN!! it's a risk but one worth taking!! just use your HEAD and not always your heart for guidance!!
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You can Love them sure, but they will NEVER love you the way you want them to.  The question doesn't really make sense you already Love them so HOW really isn't even in the equation, you just LOVE them or you don't, the question is...do you have enough respect for yourself and LOVE yourself more to move on or keep degrading yourself?  LOVE YOURSELF AND LOSE THE OBSESSION you "think" you LOVE
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You are one of the few people who actually understand the true nature of a Hedonistic Philosophy.  Yes, following God's will is the greatest joy, so to a true Hedonist, that would be the ultimate life style.  God Bless.
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You can only love someone as much as you love yourself.\nI beleive that this statement is true.
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if you feel it is necessary, then yes. DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!!
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do what your heart tells you to do...do not cheat that is wrong
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Unless you have a very distorted sense of reality (your track record should tell you whether you do or not), then I would say yes.  If you feel loved, then chances are you are receiving, and being loved.  Cherish it!  :)
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Nor again is there anyone who loves or pursues or desires to obtain pain of itself, because it is pain, but because occasionally circumstances occur in which toil and pain can procure him some great pleasure. To take a trivial example, which of us ever undertakes laborious physical exercise, except to obtain some advantage from it? But who has any right to find fault with a man who chooses to enjoy a pleasure that has no annoying consequences, or one who avoids a pain that produces no resultant pleasure?"\n\n\n--------------------------------------------------------------------------------