how can i make my relationship get better?
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Much of what we see and hear pertains to love these days. What many solely seek for in life is love. Yet, what happens when it is found? The idea is to keep it alive, but how? For this, communication is the key. \n\nThe way in which couples communicate with one another is a reflection of their personalities, age, backgrounds, and lifestyles. In order to maintain a relationship, couples must exchange information about themselves. They need to be capable of feeling confident, to be honest, direct, and clear when discussing realities about their past, present, and future. 1 If one cannot share ideas about themselves with their partner, they are not allowing themselves to heal, get closer, or make a real commitment. Love cannot exist if a person cannot discuss important issues of their life with their companion\nOne of the most important aspects of communication is how you communicate with your loved one. In order to converse well with your partner there are certain things one can try. \n\nTo begin, try talking about yourself and your feelings. Express positive as well as negative feelings about how you feel about yourself, your partner, or anything concerning the relationship. It sometimes takes bravery to tell someone how you feel, but in the end it really pays off. \n\nSecond, express everyday needs and wants on a daily basis. Your partner is not psychic. It is difficult to cooperate, compromise, or meet another's expectations when you have no idea how they feel about things. Third, use direct expression rather than indirect expression such as, “I'm angry,” or “I feel rejected” instead of, “you make me angry,” or “you reject me.” This is a simple method that may helpavoid conflict. \n\nLastly, be a good listener. Your partner will feel more connected to you if he/she senses you are interested in them rather than interested in impressing them. 3 Likewise, when couples fail to attempt these key techniques to help their relationship flourish, ineffective communication may be taking place.\n\nSome relationship problems may be caused by miscommunication or misunderstandings in a conversation. Miscommunication may take place when couples do not clearly convey something to their partner. For instance, one may communicate certain messages with words, but their body language says something else. An example of this would be a partner who says, “I love you” to their partner with an angry tone in his or her voice. \n\nMisunderstandings are most visible in those relationships where one partner assumes that the other partner already knows something, or should know something. Assuming that one's partner should already know everything, brings about conflict within the relationship. 4 When these two things occur, it is thought of as inadequate communication, which often leads to frustration and hostility, and consequently can further ruin future communication within the relationship. Even the most simple of conversations can become a forum for competitiveness, power struggles and mutual depreciation. Some of these effects can be visualized when considering situations where ineffective communication is used.
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Without more information, it would be difficult for me to say. \n\nIn my own personal experience, I've noticed that the more trauma a relationship survives, the stronger it becomes. As long as the two people are strong enough to forgive eachother and move on. Sometimes minor hang-ups turn into major problems when someone won't let go of their anger.\n\nI'm not the type to encourage people to "dump him, you deserve better" If you found someone who you can love, and loves you, problems are worth working out. \n\nIt sounds like what you need now is to define the boundries of your relationship. What kind of needs does he have? What about your own? What are you both willing to offer eachother?\n\nHas he grown from his mistakes, or is he regrouping to make more mistakes? Get him to start talking, and be prepared to repair the damage or cut your losses and move on.
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Be open an honest with serious communication. Reassure her of your love and always say things that uplift her and try to always see the positive side of any and all situations no matter how bad they maybe.
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FOCUS ON YOURSELF! :)\n\nThe most common thing that causes relationships to fail is by submitting yourself almost entirely to routines and common outdated shared interests in the relationship.\n\nTry something new - something that enhances who you already found yourself to be, and rekindle his interest in your fires.\n\nDo things on your own and "report back" to the realtionship.  This could be anything from getting a new hairstyle to going camping by yourself for a hiatus for several days.  You'll bring new energy back with you and your partner will feel the difference, and may even get a bit curious.\n\nDon't stress if things feel monotonous - relationships all reach that point when the influx of variables becomes predictable.\n\nTry something exciting, something new you've always wanted to do, and even if the shared interest isn't there - DO IT ANYWAY.\n\nIt's been my experience that men like women of mystery in their lives - and it's natural for most of us to "spill the proverbial beans" in those first passionate years.\n\nReturn to the unknowable enigma you were before he "figured" you out - men love a challenge.
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Don't listen to all the narrow minded answers you received.\nLike many relationship issues, there are few black and white answers.\nYou have to consider many things, do you love him, does he love you, is he truly sorry, are you two happy together.\nYou never know, this could just strengthen your relationship.
651987
communication is a very powerful tool to keep a relationship alive...keep your communication open & going on no matter what...don't let a day passed w/o saying anything to each other...thru this she can feel more secured and thus will have more faith in the relationship...
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1:  evaluate your relationship, you could both just be tired.\n2:  get a babysitter and go on a Date!  A real date, get dressed up, go to a movie, have a nice dinner, do something romantic and try to be sure the evening is dedicated just to yourselves.  Make-out....  you don't have to have \n  s-e-x   if neither of you is up to it.\n3:  excercising can raise your endorphines, help you feel better, less tired, healthier and better about yourself- he should excercise as well- you guys have children's futures to look forward to- so stay healthy..\n4:   talk to one another- go for a twenty minute walk or do some simple gardening together-  you need to reconnect with one another as man and woman not just -husband/wife or mommy/daddy-   your grown ups Say what's on Your mind- you may actually find something out about eachother that you don't already know.  If possible try to talk about Happy things .\n5:  find a place where you can get a massage together, the rushing blood will make you both feel invigorated-\n6:  is you feel very bad, and aren't opening up I would consider talking to a doctor or a counselor -\n7:  Turn off the TV and do something together!  Turn on the radio and play some songs you both grew up too, remember the good old days... \n\nGood Luck...
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Honestly, it doesn't seem like you started your relationship out in the best way.  you can try to salvage it if you're getting signals, but try to do so by becoming friendly without getting too physical for a bit.
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what about you?  what about what you want and need in the relationship.  Cut out the "physical relations", tell him what you need out of the relationship, and see how long he sticks around.  Then you'll have your answer
220475
you have to be there and intune for whats best for them. talk to her about it but dont push it. Once you have sat her down and explained it to her then its her turn to either turn her self around or screw up her relationship.
991510
That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
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Communication & patience. Always be open about how you feel and be willing to work out the problems that come along, because there will always be problems, no matter who you're with. But if you're both on the same page about what you want and are willing to give what the other needs, you will be able to conquer anything. Love is not enough, it takes work! :)
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I had the same problem with my present boyfriend.  Instead of trying to constantly get through to him (which can annoy the person after a while), just let him know that you are there for him and that he has no reason to keep his guard up.  This should only be told to him once, and whatever happens after that is up to him.  Though it may take a while for him to accept it and open up, it may work.
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First of all you have to love each other...Honesty should be there..  VEry important is open communication, . Trust and respect one another.Accept him as what he is and vice versa, yet if there is something to be changed for the good of relationship is very willing to do it. Put God between you or making the Creator the center of relationship. There are lot os important things to do but so far thats the most.
150531
Find someone better. Relationships can't be based on sex and sex alone. Find someone who will respect you and your wishes.
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Get to the basics. Let go the ego and the false pride. Accept mistakes and compromise.\nLive happily everafter.
1177456
First, talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and what you think could be better. If he's really serious about the relationship, he'll be more than happy to work on things. Don't out it all on him, you both should work things out together, even if it's on his part.