I'm adopted-searched for my birthmother-found she had passed away. Should I contact her husband for more info?
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I am not adopted. But adoption is an issue close to my heart. Trying to share my thoughts here:\n\nIf you really are bothered by this question, I think you should explore this;  no one can blame you for it! As midn'tsmokerchic says, it might be a good step for you.\n\nBut the responses, in short term and long term, might depend on the personalities of the other people involved. Would there be a way to contact your birth-mother's parents, siblings or friends first? This might not only let you learn more about her but also help you learn about her husband and other children before meeting them.\n\nGoodluck to you!
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well how old r u?  I found my fathers family when I was 33yrs old by calling every phone ####  in the home town  where I was sure his family lived.   fortunatly  he came from a small town in So.ILL  BUT my last name was jones.  inside of 10 long distents  calls I found his family and many pep who helped me .  it depends how much or how reliable the pep u talk to about this are cuse I got a lot of info from my 1/2 sis who raised me when our mom died I was 3yrs old.  What do u know about him.  also what do u mean by "he was lost for 15yrs."  let me know I may be able to help..Good luck!
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You will find your brothers....Never Give Up!\n\nhttp://www.searchsystems.net/\n\nSSI Death Index\nssdi.genealogy.rootsweb.com\n\n\nThere are lots of adoption support groups online that can help you.\n\nwww.zabasearch.com\n\nwww.ussearch.com (the first part is free)..and this can tell you where she lives..(city and state)\n\nwhite pages to find listed people\nwww.theultimates.com\n\nGreat Articles\nhttp://www.adoption-help.org\n\nSupport Groups:\n\nhttp://groups.msn.com/theforgottenpeople...\n\nYahoo! Groups\nhttp://groups.yahoo.com\n\nSearchingRegistry\nfamilytiesadoptionsearch\nadoptee-support\nsoaringangels\nusaadoptiondatabase\ntouchedbyadoption\n\n\nGoogle Groups\nalt.birthright\nalt.support.adoption\nalt.support.adoption\n\nAlso here are some books to consider:\n\nSearch : A Handbook for Adoptees and Birthparents 3rd Edition\nby Jayne Askin\n\nWhose Child? : An Adoptee's Healing Journey from Relinquishment through Reunion ... and Beyond\nby Kasey Hamner\n\n\nBirthright : The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents, and Adoptive...\nby Jean A. S. Strauss\n\n(you can buy this books used on shopping.Yahoo.com and on Amazon.com)\n\nhttp://shopping.yahoo.com/b:bo...
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Ask her family.  If that's not feasible, look for the obituary, which may include that info. Sorry for your loss.
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Well if you knew she was adopted out then you know her last name. Try searching for her through and adoption agency, or you could go to Montel.com or drphil.com, or even oprah.com they will be glad to help you.. Give it a try!! Good Luck and I hope you find your sister..;-)
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That depends on how much information you have about him.  In my case I am adopted and have no information.  And as I was born in NY and it is a sealed records state all I can do is post with the adoption search boards and registries and wait and hope.  But if you know his name you have many other options.  internet phone search of the area where he last lived and such.  IF you truely want help you will need to give more information.\n\nBut please note.  You are not likely to find the reunion at the end you are hoping for.  You may forgive him but he is not likely to forgive himself.  From what I have seen that is what makes many parents who abandon kids stay away.  It is easier to pretend you dont exist than to face you and have to deal with the guilt for what they have done.
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Ask your adopted parents. And/or the adoption agency.
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i wished i could help i am in Australia . i  know how you feel i am searching for a old school mate i cannot find her . she is obv married and her parents have moved it is so hard \n . so i hope you find your friends and good luck to you.
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u cna go to 1-800-the-lost and they can help u reunite and find her i have been on maury i found my dad that way or they reunited my dad and i... so that is a cool way or keep lookiing in the yahoo people search that helps to or if u know what county they live in u can look under the clerk of courts if she has a ticket or anything like that that is how my uncle found my 2 cousins by looking up to see if they have a record
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There is something like a national birth parent registry I think.  You can probably contact ANY adoption agency for more information.
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People searches on Yahoo and Google could be helpful, but if she's married or changed her name, you'd have little luck.  Try searching for her parents in your old home town.  If you can contact them, you may be able to reach her through them.
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http://www.zabasearch.com is a good place to search for people. Just type in the name and the state where they might be. It gives free Names, addresses, phone numbers for free and for a small fee it can search many other records (less than 10.00 for 1 day). I think you can narrow it down pretty good by age and such IF they are going by the same names still. Probably even if have legally changed names. \nGood luck to you. Been there. \nRick
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please give some more details.how you lost her?was she your wife?any old contact number etc of her?
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Find her!  But be prepared that you might not get the results you wanted, in other words, she might be married, changed her sexual identity, she might not want anyone from her past for various reasons contacting her.  However, Life is too short to miss out on those moments, it's not about the number of breaths we take, it's about the moments that take our breath away.  If she was worth it then, she's worth it now!!
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Well do you know where she lives, if she married and when was the last time you seen her.  If you knew she married, the best bet is to look for newspapers in the county/city where she married and search for marriage announcements.  you can do this at most libraries.  If you don't know if she married, do you know any of her family so you can contact them to get in touch with her?
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I spent alot of time looking for you but this is all i could come up with\n\n\n08/06/59 san antonio texas\nBirth Sibling In Search\nborn in tb hospital, born mary madgalena moreno, aka baby gonzales.\nlinda <talulaette@aol.com>\nca USA\nEntry added: Tuesday, February 16, 1999 at 02:30:32 (CST)\n??/??/5? Looking for my mom's brother and sister adopted in Dallas, Texas at Buckner Children's Home around 1955. They were adopted together by a physician and his wife. My mother was twelve at the time and visited them daily until they were adopted. I believe their adoptive last name was MILLIGAN OR MULLIGAN. The girl's birth name was Jeanette and I think it was changed to Jean Ann. The boy's birth name was Jeffrey. Jean was born in Lubbock, Jeff in Dallas. Any information would be appreciated - this would make a great mother's day gift for my mom. She has tried unsuccessfully to locate these siblings. She has no other siblings. I would also like to meet them and any cousins I have out there.\nJeannie Meyers <cchjym@arcochem.com>\nDeer Park, TX USA -\n\n08/06/59. I am a birthmother and my baby was born at the Edna Gladney Home in Fort Worth, TX. I was fifteen years old and had my sixteenth birthday ten days after her birth. I have been searching for her, ads, newspaper, registries all that I can find and talking to many people, searchers, those that have reunited and some that are close. I want to tell my daughter that I love her and see if she wants me anywhere in her life. I don't even know if she knows that she was adopted or not, I do know they were told to tell each one that came from the Gladney Home but who knows if they did or not. I hav found out that they lie about a lot of things. I want to register for the Texas registry, only thing is I haven't been able to get to Dallas and Austin is a lot farther away. Is there anyway to do it by mail? Thank you Sandy\nSandra (Sandy) Minze <sandra.minze@airmail.net>\nSpringtown, TX USA -
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i can only speak from what i know about my friends mom. she gave her first child up for adoption because she was very young and the father moved away, and this was in the 60s where it was still 'bad' to be an unwed mother. she had to go to another town and stay in a young mothers home until the baby boy was born, then she signed the papers. that was almost 40 years ago and she thought about him all the time, every birthday holiday, when her daughter was born and as that daughter grew up, etc etc. she did not try to contact him because she had no way of knowing if his parents had told him he was adopted and did not want to upset anyone. she knew she made the best decision she could at the time and hoped and prayed he was given a happy life with caring people.\n\nabout 2 years ago her daughter decided to put her name into the adoption records place and they would be contacted ONLY if the son/brother had also put in his name. turns out that he did and he slowly grew a relationship with them, tho its still a bit awkward sometimes. he had very loving caring parents and is married with 3 kids of his own. one of his sons looks eerily like my friend's son. its all been very cool. but he had all the same questions and it was hard at first for him to understand why she gave him up all those years ago. once he found out that she kept a baby book in a very special place that had the only photo of him she was allowed along with the details of his birth and journal entries from over the years, he realised that no matter what, she loved him and thats WHY she decided he might have a chance at a better life with someone else. he visits and their relationship is pretty good, he is close to his sister (my friend) and all of the family have now met - parents included. it was the most heart wrenching thing i have ever witnessed. but sometimes you just cant leave a clue or info, depends on the laws. its often not that they dont WANT to leave info or get in touch, its fear, confusion, and a multitude of feelings many people would not understand if they didnt go through it themselves.