when you approaches a woman  whom you love so much and she refuses the what do i do next to win her?
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You cannot force love, but it may be that her refusals are either a security thing (she doesn't know your sincerity) or its the whole hard-to-get thing.\n\nMy fiance asked me so many times and I simply wasn't sure, but the more I got to know him, the more I fell in love with him. Looks are not essential, especially to a woman; its a man's personality, devotion, sincerity, selflessness that will touch a woman's heart. Having said that, you cannot force her to feel a certain way. Some people are simply not compatible and maybe its her intuition that is telling her this. \n\nMy advice is to persist but without ramming it down her throat that you're not going to give up. She wants a man who'll be her best friend, so be there for her. Show her that you're not in this for what you can get out of it, but what you can offer her; show her that you'll be there and love her whatever happens, even if she was to fall for someone else. Its all about being genuine.\n\nGood luck. Don't expect results, love isn't a cooking recipe. Be genuine.
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just try to be away from her.\nthe day u fell u cannot do that\nu r in love.\n\ncheers!!
820054
No insult here, but your runner up in the great sensual game of her life.  Of ALL the people she has met... YOUR SECOND.  The other woman ... SHE'S FIRST.  If the other woman didn't exist, you two would be romping around in sensual glee... but, my dear, you are Al Gore to her G.W.Bush.  Painful as it may be your 49% to her 51%.  If you can deal with that and WAIT until it MAY POSSIBLY SOME DAY GO BAD, then you are pathetic and don't have self esteem, because while she is deep down on the other girl, your going to be all alone eating bon bons and ben and jerries just waiting for your turn to taste her.  FIND SOMEONE THAT'LL MAKE YOU NUMERO UNO.  Don't settle for runner up in someone else's race. You want someone to say "You are the only person I have ever wanted to be with for my entire life."  Instead your waiting for "Now that the other girl is gone, hey lets have fun."  Grow some self worth, grow some balls, and find YOUR mate.  Go right now, find someone else.
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Act as if the statement was true. You have nothing to lose. If it is true then you are trusting her and goodness will follow. If it is not true you still trusted her and the truth will come out in the end. If you don't accept its true and it is true then you will blow an incredible opportunity to be loved.
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She is playig with you.  Forget about her and move on to the next one.
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Are you sure she doesn't feel the same?\nHumm.\nBut she IS meeting you, right?\n\nLooks like she is playing "hard-to-get"! :-)\n\nDid she explicitly tell you she doesn't love you?\nWell, if not, take it easy, man. \n\n"Quitters never win, and winners never quit - simple."
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Ask her out in a way that gives her the option of letting you down really, really nicely.  For example, send her an email suggesting that you go for drinks the next evening after work.  If she's so shy that she can't deal with rejecting you she can just not reply to the email.  You could also phone and leave a message on her machine at a time when you know she's not at home or at the office.  Then she can ignore your message if that's easier for her.  And then, be a gentleman and don't get pissed off if she doesn't get back to you.  As you said, she's really shy!
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Go stright to her and tell her that you her... looking deeply and Straigtly into her hey.. no where else.... \nnot only this (expressing your love)... you have show that how many days you are loving her... how you know her.. where you saw her... which activity do you like in her.. which you dont (dont express too much...)... i think this will be a begining for your love... and when time passes (not too much months) she will defenetly accpet your love.... \n\nSome time they may try to reject you... but at that time (too) you have to show your love to them... this will lead to a happy married life..... advance wishes from this unknow friend....
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Honey you keep tryin until you get what you want became i have the same problem you have.it depends on how much you love her. if deep down you know she is the one you want to be with forever then baby I'm on your side don't give up until you get what you want cause believe me when i say if you fight hard enough then you will win her back. GOOD LUCK!
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Don't be afraid to follow your heart. Tell her you love her but explain why, what you love about her and how you intend to love her ( what you have to offer: Remember love is strong b/c its a feeling this is a good enough offer) Also tell her your human, you make mistakes, but learned from them as well. Just tell her above all your following your heart and what it leads to is her.
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You should ask her anyways.. what is the worst that could happen, she will say no, oh well... it is worth a shot.
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Sounds as if you've approached some woman, she's turned you down and you can't accept it.  It isn't "rude and arrogant" to reject your overtures whether they are for friendship or romance. It's her right, just as much as it would be yours if a woman approached you.  Maybe she has plenty of friends and just doesn't have enough time for another one. Maybe she has a boyfriend who takes up all her time.  Or maybe you just don't appeal to her.  It's not the end of the world.  Move on. There are plenty of women who will be quite happy to talk to you, provided you are friendly and undemanding, and don't couch your overtures in such aggressive language.
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call her, she would love to hear from you thats why she gave you her no. she is prob sitting thinking the same thing you are and then none of you will ever hear from each other, make the first move, good luck
989136
Someone else will come along,just take it slow and don't jump into anothers arms until you've given yourself a little time.When your not looking thats when she'll come into your life.
170644
Wow...I am so sorry about this. How horrible for you. You must know in your heart that she simply has been lied to or misled about you, right? (deep down?) Listen to your heart...you probably know she would love you if she knew you, and she may already love you even without knowing you. I think the only thing you can do is pray sincerely. (I'm serious) Ask God to somehow make a way for you to get to know her...and maybe write her a letter, explaining how much you love her. You will probably need to be on the giving end at this point, and maybe for a long, long time until she is able to see and respond to your love. Don't give up. Love always wins. Be patient, and love her in as many ways as you can...my heart is so touched by your story. I wish there was something more I could say or do to help you...Good luck.
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Express how disrespectful she has been and leave her alone.  It is evident that she is only doing this because she feels that you are so desperate to have her.  Don't answer her calls.  Ignore her advances and move on with your life.
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Keep on loving he or she. The love we give is the love we kept. Being deeply loved by someone gives her/him strength, deeply love somebody gives you courage.\nKeep rollin! Be patient. No pain no gain, you will appreciated more if you get somebody that is not easy to get, rather than just anybody.