My girlfriend and I are planning to live together before marriage, is this a good idea? Will it be difficult?
353798
i moved in with my boyfriend when we were together for about 2 years as well...and were still living together...and we've been together for 5 years now...it brought us closer together...with out a doubt....you just learn a lil more about that person...theres always going to be something that you dont like that they do and they dont like that you do ...but you work around it and work together...i think its a beautiful thing...i enjoy being with him so much...if you love her and enjoy being with her and spending time with her then i say go for it...your not making the wrong decision...it will be an adjustment...but have fun with her...good luck
3797
at least 2yrs, and live together first
99600
It depends on a lot of things.  Age is a biggie.  People under the age of 25 (statistically, not by fa, every person) tend  to stray at some point.  This is not true for everyone.  Living together is stressful.  When I moved in with my fiance`, it was a fight a day.  You have to get used to living with that person.  It is different than the two of you doing sleep overs and being around each other.  My mam told me this and I thought she was a liar.  But I will be darned, she was RIGHT.  It is a good step to take before you take "the plunge".  It helps you to see if the two of you can live together.  Good luck to you!  Happy valentine's day!  It worked for me and I hope it works for you too!
594583
no, it's not bad as long as you are responsible and pay your bills and your parents don't have a problem...If you haven't already finished college I would definately take advantage of that before you get married you want to be financially set before you start a family.
490006
The decision to propose marriage depends on how you both feel.  If she loves you and you love her, if you feel you can live together successfully, and you both interested in living together as husband and wife then ask.  But be prepared for both the yes and no response.
835035
I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you
203004
well i moved in with my boyfriend after knowing him for 2 weeks. But the bad thing is that i moved 100 miles away from my family. But we are still together and been dating for 2 years!  So you are the only one that can make that decision. It could work, but then again living together so soon could cause problems. I say take a chance and go for it. Oh yea and I was 17 when i moved out!
325637
no not really\ni mean if you rather live alone then thats totally fine.\nmabey if you guys did live together you might get into arguments more or something i dont know.\ni think youll be fine\nbut i must say awe how cute! 6 years? wow i hope you guys last=]
190005
Yes, very much so.  Not a complex situation here.  Have such types married and lived a long life together.  Yes.  But let's look at quality of life here.  You do best in your comfort zone.
420436
I can see your concern.  I am assuming that since she is your girlfriend that her "moving in with a guy" is not for a romantic or sexual relationship, but you are afraid that it might lead to that.  If that is not even your concern, you are concerned by how it may appear to others.\n\nYet the Bible doesn't speak directly about sharing an apartment with someone of the opposite sex.  In fact, it goes on to say that people who judge by external appearances are making a mistake (Jn.7:24,Gal.2:6,Col.2:23) so I think you are off-base appealing to her on appearances.  You would be better off telling her why it bothers you that it might lead to a romantic or sexual relationship.  Hopefully she will either reassure you , she may respect how you feel and look for a better living situation.\n\nThis sounds like the first test of trust between two who are going to have a difficult time keeping a relationship that is long distance.
219686
I lived with mine for 13 years before marriage. Been happily married since. :o)
256914
Once you are married yes before that it shouldn't be a deal breaker
1133325
no, i don't think she knows what she wants. i really wouldn't live with someone until i know we are for good. i'd probably get married first anyway. if you two break up, which you probably will if she continues to shy away from building your relationship, co-inhabiting with an ex is hell, and moving out is hell, it's all like one big divorce for nuthin. i'd hold off, please for your sake if not for hers! her thinking is naive, you'll both get hurt.
317864
I would say depends on how long you know each other. I would not use marriage just to show that you are together. You might consider just living together for a while/years and if the mood strikes you and both really WANT to get married then do so. It should be your choice, not the choice of people around you. Good luck!
129011
Um, I will have to disagree that it is wrong and that marriages that start with living together do not work.  I lived with my husband for about a year before we got married.  We will have been married for 7 years in June and just had a baby boy.  We could not be happier.  This is a decision that you need to make for your specific situation.  No one will be able to tell you if your relationship will work in specific conditions.
772348
never marry somone unless you can say you are 100% sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, and you are willing to go through the good and the BAD. usually thats when people bail out.....but thats not what marriage is about. Moving to another state is hard, and a huge deal. but moving to another country is a totally different kind of huge deal, and you are the only one who can decide if that is the right choice for you. Good luck!
757871
I've been married for 34 years and overall, it's been great.  \n\nI think it's important to know someone before you marry them.  I dated my husband for over 4 years before we married so I knew what kind of person he was.\n\nIt's important to have a relationship built on love and respect.  Communication is a big part of any relationship and I think it helps if you have a good sense of "humor"!\n\nMaintaining a good marriage takes commitment, hard work and you need to be able to "negotiate".  The benefits to both partners (and your family) are priceless.  Having that "safe place" in the world is the best feeling you can have!\n\nJust my opinion, I'm sure everyone has their own.  Good luck.