Why can't I be happy with my weight?
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Weight is something that a person might obsess about if they feel all other aspects of their life are totally controlled by other people -- the way a child might feel if they are dominated too much by parents. Weight is something that, as a child, you might have felt that YOU could control. Your body was YOURS - no one elses. It seems that for a 10 year old to turn to focus on his weight is a desperate act to grab onto something -  anything - that nobody else but himself could control. It's a sad thing to hear. I do hope you can come to realize that you are free now and you can relax your grip on that life line. You have a new family in the making and you will be a GREAT father.
776422
Are you fishing for compliments?  I'll bet you know darn well that 5'6 and 134 lbs isn't fat.  If you FEEL fat, that's another thing but ask yourself realistically if you're just being hard on yourself or do you really truly believe you have a weight problem.
218309
Hello! Can understand what you mean. Have not got too much self-esteem neither... but I have come to accept that it is not okay for me to feel that way somehow. I want to change it. Think one really needs to decide deep within to change it. There are many beautiful suggestions here. A counsellour I saw some time ago told me that I should say out loud "I am a wrothwhile person and I deserve to be happy." ... and it worked. Just that I became kind of lazy :o) . What might help you as well is the link below. It might seem childish but it really does help. Enjoy it and good luck to feeling better toward yourself :-) !
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Wow!  When compassion was  handed out, you sure didn't get any!\n\nPeople with a weight problem will get upset because:\n1. they know about their weight and aren't happy\n2. they don't want to be overweight but maybe due to health issues can't control it\n3. the older you get, the harder it is to lose weight...especially if you are female\n4. the comment is rude, obnoxious and cruel\n\nNever judge someone until you have walked in their shoes.  You  might be a thin thing now but just wait...your day will come and then see how you feel when someone is callous enough to call you fat.
749238
I'm over-weight & it has it's momments.\nI don't especially enjoy being heavy, but it isn't an issue\nfor me.\nI'm comfortable within my own skin.
815473
Eat healthy, SKIP SNACKS, that was my worst thing to overcome. Eat light, but healthy.\nExercises for AT LEAST 30 minutes CONTINUOUSLY. Aerobics, Swimming and Dancing are the best ways because they use every part of the body and two include music, making it fun.\nDONT LOOK AT THE SCALE. That makes you feel stressed out, which can add to weight. \nCheck out www.mypyramid.gov to see what is healthy and how much you should eat.\nFeel good about yourself and Good luck. God Bless.
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Hey since this is for an English paper then I guess I can spill my heart out.  Being overweight makes me feel unimportant, undesirable, unattractive, unintelligent, unappreciated among other things.  I have been on only 3 or 4 diets.  But I've given up because nothing seems to work.  I hear about other diets from friends and other people. I am thinking about my weight 50% of the time.  While it is mentally painful sometimes it is physically pain also.  My friend her knees hurt because she has a lot of weight on them.  My back hurts a lot and it's hard for me to stand still in one place for a length of time.  I have to be standing against something.  The only reason I feel I can say that I only think about my weight 50% of the time is because I'm married and my husband makes me feel desirable and attractive and like I'm perfect the way I am.  So inside of my home I feel safe but outside, it's very hard.  My self-esteem probably drops- as a matter of fact I'm positive it does.  Hope I helped a little bit.
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I feel like that sometimes. Not quite that long, but I find the 8hrs that's recommended is not enough for me.\n\nI think it's just that every person's body is different and has different needs.\n\nNot everyone can eat the same thing and keep their weight the same, so why should other areas of our lives be any different?
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ok... firstly, don't take the BMI too seriously, as so-called dietry experts are ALWAYS changing the goal posts.\n\nso long as you are happy in yourself, then everything is ok. do what you want, look how you want, don't do what other people tell you to.
855404
I wonder the same. These people want a very quick fix. It can happen easy if you do all the right things. I was never overweight but heading there and I decided after my 3rd baby I want and I can have that body I want. Like probably these ppl it seemed impossible and you dont want to suffer w/o guarenteed results. But I made up my mind,I use common sense and here I am, I weigh 112 now,size 1/2 and fit. I look at cake now and unlike before I have no desire. There are pleanty of healthy yummy things to stuff my face with.
184456
not to be rude, but you got problems if you gained 100 lbs in a year. What's up with that? Go out have fun and be active do not worry about if people are or aren't looking at you, just be yourself and have fun.
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Everybody should have confidence in themselves and the spirit to celebrate who they are, but if being big is jeopordizing your health, then that is a warped impression of beautiful.  It's on the same level as those who develop eating disorders to stay thin or using anabolic agents to become muscular.  You're sacrificing your health for acceptance of a specific body type.\n\nIf you eat well, exercise daily and maintain a healthy lifestyle, there is no reason why you should not be able to maintain a healthy weight range.  Even those who have a genetic predisposition towards obesity can maintain a healthy weight range if they are disciplined and consistent.  It just takes work.\n\nSince the national and international trends in developing countries is leaning towards the majority of the population being overweight, the acceptance of obesity is becoming more the norm.  However, conformity to being "big and beautiful" and obesity as a norm could be extremely dangerous for the future health of successive generations.  It could not only aggravate mounting health problems associated with obesity, but acceptance at early ages (especially teenagers) will inevitably result in several risk factors for death by the age of 20.\n\nThe market research firm, NPD Group, has been surveying Americans for two decades about their attitudes toward eating and weight. The following article list the percentage of people who agreed with the statement: "People who are not overweight are more attractive." There is a positive correlation between the decrease in this percentage and the increase in obesity rates.\nhttp://preventdisease.com/news/articles/011306_attitude_overweight.shtml\n\nPeople are getting lazier and lazier about their health and our society is moving faster and faster.  It is really hard work to stay fit and maintain a healthy weight and people are just not committed to a healthy lifestyle anymore.  So the end result is an acceptance of being "big and beautiful" and the "hell with everything else" type of attitude which is our "way out" of hard work...the easy way out...the "can't beat them so I'll join them" type of attitude.  Being obese is not normal.  I'm not referring to people who are 10 or 20 pounds overweight.  Everybody has some bodyfat to lose, but people who think being 40 or 50+ pounds overweight is beautiful...well they can have that opinion of themselves rightfully....it's their life.  But the reality is that they WILL eventually have to make time for serious illness associated with this acceptance.\n\n"Big and beautiful" should absolutely NOT be celebrated.  It's dangerous, it's irresponsible and it is a terrible influence to our children and successive generations.
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Happy and BUSY has worked for me before, because you are so engaged with doing fun things that you don't think of food so much.\n\nAlso, this isn't really a MOOD, but nauseated/sick as a dog works pretty well, too--like when you first go overseas and the water doesn't agree with you.  I've lost like 15 pounds without trying, a couple of times.
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yap. happiness is not in size 2 or 4. as long as a person is healthy and is not too much over weight,  s/he should be fine with the weight.
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I think sometimes it can be difficult for people who carry some more weight than you to understand why you are thinner. There seems to be a lot of tasty food around now so mabye some just don't understand this. I suppose it comes down to a kind of jealousy thing.
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Honey, be yourself. I am also over weight and I consider myself a Diva among Divas and I carry myself that way. I let my personality speak for my self. People who are turned off because of your weight have low self esteem. Your weight has not direct bearing on who you are as a person and what kind of friend you will be. You are still the same inside big or skinny.
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I have been there, I truly have.  \n\nYou need to understand that your happiness is a decision YOU make.  You cannot rely on others to MAKE you happy.  This is a common problem in humans. If you let the actions (or inactions) of others effect your level of happiness, then you will find youself disappointed most of the time.\n\nAccept that people are basically good, but selfish and self-centered.  This is a truth best learned young.\n\nStart finding things that make you happy.  If you like a certain hobby, do it more.  Find others who also enjoy your hobby.  \n\nFind a social group with interests similar to yours.  A Church or other group where you surround yourself with other people is big.  And it takes your mind off of your own problems.\n\nFurthermore, if you are healthy, take on a good and safe exercise program.  Go to a gym, and meet other people there as well.  Get your exercise, and enjoy the new friends you might find there. \n\nThe key is to take your mind off of your unhappiness and focus on the positive things in life.  I promise you, if you don't you will cause more serious psychological, but also manifest physical problems as well, and this is a waste of a good life... YOURS>\n\nFinally, seek professional help from a person who specalizes in depression, since you would be better served by them than people on this forum.  Even though we mean well, we can't help you from "HERE".\n\nYou MUST act and take your life back.  Don't just give in to depression.\nGood luck..  and stay positive.