my boyfriend wants me to move out, so he can have his freedom,but he still wants to comeand see me?
347424
Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. that's not fair to you; it might be time to cut your ties with him and move on with your life.
173328
you tell him in straight forward manner. You expect rent, utility, and food money. If he disagrees, tell him that it is not your responsibility to take care of him. Treat him like an adult and be firm. If it gets to be two on one then its time to move yourself out.\n\nADDED\n\nif its your house then you can tell then its your way or the highway.
220927
I'm thinking you are a bit tired of hanging around in his room.  Decide first what you would rather do, then invite him.  If he choses to not go, please don't let that stop you from having some fun.  Your happiness is up to you, not him.  No more waiting!!
296168
Yes you are making a big deal. Can't you take a hint? He doesn't want to be with you, I don't mean to sound like a b*tch but it's true. He's telling you "oh I'm leaving" yet he doesn't leave.\n\nJust get over him, he's too much of a damn coward to give you the real reason. Forget him.
1153316
This one calls for tough love.\nJust because he gave everything up to move to Memphis to be with you doesn't mean free rent.  Tell him that it's okay to live with you but he has to pay his portion of the rent and living expenses.  It sounds like you really care for him and that you are a generous, loving, kind hearted person.  Don't let him take advantage of your sweet nature.  You're not being cheap or stingy.  If he's down on his luck finding a job, kick him out until he gets a job working at Mc Donalds flipping hamburgers.  \n\nIf you can find the courage to look further and get the big picture, your futures will be bright.
83193
You're on really thin ice here.  It's extremely difficult to go backwards in a relationship and not tear it up.  Most any sentient being would see this as a big sign of rejection.  \n\nIt would help to know why you want him to move out.  If it's stuff that's trivial in the big scheme of things, then maybe you could get him irritated enough that moving out would be a relief.  For example, if he snores and you can't sleep, then wake him up, and if he gets too sleep-deprived he'll be ready to move out.  If it's something heavy like you get sick of seeing him more than 8 hours a week then you've got a tougher problem and you probably need to evaluate more than the living arrangements.\n\nWhatever you do, don't try to get his mother meddling in this like someone suggested.  That would add major insult to the rejection.\n\nGood luck,\nhouyhnhnm
1085761
Has it occurred to you that he hates you just as much as you hate him and he's waiting for you to grow up and move away so that he can have the normal life he deserves?  Face it - there is not a damn thing you can do to 'make him move out' so you need to grow up and deal with the fact that your mother loves him and he is there to stay.\n\nKnock it off and stop being a brat.
517057
Move out and move on. Maybe he thought he loved you until he lived with you and really got to know you. My mom always said, "You never know a person until you live with them."
218182
Sounds like he want to play around. Tell him he can have his space, but you're not going to be in it!
616610
It sounds like he may really like you, but it also sounds like he is a bit overprotective. If you decide to pursue this relationship, make sure that he understands the rules. You have to have your space, and if he insists on being with you ALL the time, he may be a bit more serious than you would be comfortable with. If you don't want to be in a exclusive relationship (which is what it sounds like he wants), I'd look elsewhere.
1162440
Probably not, and yes he would let you move out.
853933
You said you're working on the relationship, but if he isn't, it probably isn't worth while.  If he has been like this forever, and you thought you could change him....yep, think again.   If he is as self centered as it sounds,  you moving out probably just gave him more free time to do what he wants.  Don't kill yourself working it out if he won't give 110% also.  Habits are hard to break, and no one is perfect, but feeling like dirt on the bottom of somebones shoe is not expected.  Your girls should be learning repects from both parents.
510785
It sounds like he may be trying to push you away in the hopes that *you* break up with *him.*  He may be too chicken to do it himself.  The problem is, is that it's affecting your self-esteem.  You don't deserve to be treated that way- being used is no fun, so don't allow it!  Think about where you see yourself in 5 years.... still in the same place???.... .don't waste any time.  Believe me, there are guys who will treat you right.  We teach people how to treat us- don't allow it anymore!!
345813
i think the best way would be is to go with what he asks you to do, but never let him get to you. agree to whatever he tells you, but do what you want anyways on your own account.. or with out him knowing.. more or less just letting things flow so u can live at peace. if this approach doesnt work, try discussing things with him, see his point of view and try to understand it, maybe there is a reason as to why he doesnt want you to do certain things. if also this approach doesnt work, save money, work hard, have patience and move out... all in all i think u should be strong and handle this smartly, cause if you rebel hell just be as suprpessive and controlling as he can get. try to work your way to get your peace of mind.. remember that.
609962
im sorry\nthe same thing happened to me w/my x. He would move out anywhere from couple days - month. \nwell eventually i had enough we are not together. \nleaving for while wil not solve any problems at all either.\nwell good  luck to you i hope things work out for you!!!
823286
REAL BEHAVIORS SHOW UP AFTER BIG PROBLEMS COMES UP!\nIF YOU THINK YOU WANT TO LIVE WITH HIM THROUGH THICK AND THIN THEN GO!!!!!
807966
Sounds like he's pretty much over you.  I'd move out and move on with my life.  Sorry.