should we continue to live in perfect suburbia, and raise kids all according to the plan or should we move awy
336744
Suburbia, ew.  I just got the fear...\nMove away!
1094410
move out.  if you feel like you and your kids have to walk on egg-shells around this man, you need to leave.  your kids should not have to grow up in that kind of environment.
960759
Most important is being able to care for  your kids. If you have to move back to a city to get a job, then that's what you've got to do. If you can get a job where you're at, then do.
207585
I hope this is purely rhetorical.  If you're really serious, and can afford the move, AND continue to live there, I would start with a visit to each.  I believe that to be the only way to make a realistic decision.
200266
Look at your income and determine how much you can afford ... be realistic ... things like garbage and water and landscaping are expenses you may not have had in the past.  Then decide where you want to live ... city, suburbs, rural ... single family home, condo ... research neighborhoods ... do you have kids? ... school districts, will you be commuting? ... traffic and public transportation ... work with a realtor ... they are the experts ... remember it is the SELLER who pays the commission for the buyer's and seller's agent ... good luck.
392214
First I would make sure my kids would be set for life, then I would build me a nice big house in nice quiet place, with lots of room to intertain.  It would have big yard, pool, nice deck.  I would also travel a lot.  I would also give a nice big donation to our school, it is having a lot of financial problems.  I would help a few people I know out, give some to all my family, and make sure I have invested so will be able to live off interest.
608014
Yes. Everyone should follow through to get a good education. If not, you will not get a higher- or decent- paying job and will have more trouble supporting your family (not that you will be poor). Also, since prices are rapidly raising, always be prepared. And education will give you that.
1083290
Depending where you go. If you go to the yuppie part of the city (More expensive) if you go to the other parts (Cheaper) but paying the price seeing more gangbangers, drugs and etc...\n\nIf you do not care, it's fine if you do not have children. I think is more troubling where to live when you have a child.\n\nBut the North side of Chicago is very-very nice.......Especially for bar hopping or the nightlife
1034202
do whats right for you.  And the child.
472304
I agree..:) i live in NJ now.. in an area that my son goes to a blue ribbon school..:) but I am trying to move because of cost of living.. housing here is ridiculos now..you can't find a one family home in a decente neighborhood for less than 500,000...and the taxes are the equivalent of a high scale rent...:) so my advice is don't come..:) I am leaving..:)
1129044
A friend of mine is Native American and it was crazy when he decided to relocate to New York of all places. There was a lot of turmoil between him and his family because of course they were against it. He asked me what i thought of his decision and i told him to follow his heart. I told him that if relocating and getting out in the world on his own would make him happy then by all means do it. I told him that his family might not approve of it at first but they will always be his family. They will come around sooner or later. He relocated and got a job working as a journalist for Teen Vogue, his family ultimately realized that he was following his dream and everything worked out for the best. This is my advice to you too, follow your heart. If you want to relocate and become independent then don't let anyone hold you back. They will come around in the end when they see what you have accomplished.
263881
Depends on where you live, what your life style preferences are and what you intend for your future.
1005927
I say you get what you give. If you invested very little time and money in your kids, they will do the same when you are old. My sons already told me they are each gonna build me a house right next to theirs so I can live by them. I hope they all live in the same neighborhood! I love my kids and they love me enough not to put me in a horrid nursing home, which is not only cruel, but a waste of money.
778539
If you want peace and quiet, combined with a cosmo environment, your best bet is to move to the South Coast - around the smaller 'towns' such as Shoreham-by-Sea, Worthing, Crawley or Horsham.  You have the peace, less crime, good schools, yet you are still close to the city for those all important shopping trips.  It is beautiful.  I used to live in London - once you live down on the coast (not forgetting the kids enjoying themselves especially in the summer), you never look back!
898297
well... in the end you know what's best. Weigh your priorities.  I say keep doing it. Buuut, if doing that means sacrificing something more important than helping kids. Then maybe you shouldn't.
299534
I would you need alot more hours then 15! You need to do some research before you move and make sure that the job is stable enough for you to move so you can provide for your family! Also make sure that it is a good place for your daughter you don't want to be stuck in a bad neighborhood with a crappy job! I'm looking to relocate myself but its scary I don't know if I would be worse off then I am now! Its a huge step so put some thought in it. GOOD LUCK
1039322
My husband and I lived in Mesa, Az. which is a working class suburb outside of phoenix.  We had one child at the time and we really loved it.  Good schools, yes.  But, I would go to Portland.  I think it will be nice to have abetter experience of the seasons with children. In AZ you need a car and HAVE to drive everywhere- no good mass transit.  In Portland it is much easier to get around.  The air is much better in portland (in my opinoin anyway) and there is alot of racism in Arizona.  That was our experience.  But both good places.  Good Luck!