How can I tell if my son is gay.....?
344711
Geesh, why is it even an issue, You can't change him. Let it be!!!!
490132
Go to a coffee shop with him, or somewhere small like that, and just ask him. If you love him and he loves you, that's all you need. If it bothers you that much, or it turns out he's full-blown gay, it may be time to move on.
812286
If you are really his friend you can mention that you are open minded enough to not care if someone is gay or straight without putting your friend on the spot by asking him if he is gay. If he is in fact gay (and you don't know if he is or isn't) he will tell you when he is comfortable enough to tell you. Just let him know that he can tell you anything and you will stay friends with him because of the person he is, not because of who he likes.
838348
just because he may show his feminine side does not make him gay. i know a man raised by his grandmother who showed both sides and he was all man. don't never label your boy gay or guesstimate. you tell someone or somebody that long enough you can make them that way. make sure he mingles with both sexes. if, by chance down the road he is would that make you love him any less?? i hope not Kat
1034097
If you are not gay...politely tell them you are not interested and tha you are not gay..."WHY NOT ASK DON" (the poster above) is gay and is in hiding till someone comes along and gives him what he wants!!! The gayness will come out, HE IS JUST HIDING IN THE GAY SECTION OF YAHOO ANSWERS
325475
r u a dude? is your friend a dude? just see if he does gay things like iggle or compliment a girls outfit and if he gets this offer from a very hot grl and doesnt accept it then man he must be gay. Most of the time ppl just find out on thier own.
117648
It's not like you are actually going to see some one having intercourse with some one else to be able to determine this.\n\nHere's an interesting website that gives other people's views on determining if some one is gay or not:\n\nhttp://www.ehow.com/how_17204_determine-someone-else.html
643539
I'm going to ask you one more time...how's your husband going to know if the people that you talk to online are gay or not  ???
156718
Well Sweety, honesty is in most cases the best policy. Don't you think that she will find out one day? I would sit down with her and tell her that you need to tell her something that she might find shocking or that she might be upset about. Then, tell her, "Mom, I want you to know how much I love you and what a good mother you've always been (if this is true), and I need you to hear me out and try to stand by me, because I really need you now." Something to that effect. You may want to pick up some literature on parental understanding and support for parents of gay children. There's no real easy way to do it but I can tell that it's something you must do for your own peace of mind. I'm a mother and I can tell you that for most mothers, there is nothing that will change their love for their children, even if they are upset. The bond is so very strong between mother and child that I'm willing to bet that she will not stop loving you. She may be upset and unaccepting at first but if you keep the lines of communication open, you will work things out. Good luck, Honey. Here are some websites that might help you:\nwww.gayfamilysupport.com\nwww.outproud.org/brochure_for_parents.html
67181
Just ask him.  I can tell you both are about 14, just go ask the kid.
566095
Yes tell him he has something on the bottom of his shoe, if he lifts his foot up forward and looks at he's not gay if he lifts it up behind him and looks over his shoulder at it he is gay.
443412
i had the same thing with my bezzie a few years ago, and for some reason out of our little gang he felt he couldn't tell me...he told everyone else.  don't ask him, just be a friend and make him feel comfortable in himself be open so he feels he can talk to u about it if he needs it.  He didn't tell me coz he thought i'd hate him and dissaprove!\n\nI love him, he's a mate!\n\nIt doesn't really matter whether he's straight or gay aslong as he's in your life!\n\ngive him time  \n\nxxx
797953
Perhaps I am missing something but it seems that the most important issue you should be concerned with is the advances of your brother. I do not think that him being gay is the issue, i think the fact that he is displaying incestuous behavior may be the big problem. If this is actually happening, you need to tell someone, if not your parents then someone in the legal field.
1106440
There are no "symptoms" of being gay. It's not a disease. It's a preference and a choice.\n\nDon't be so ignorant and judgmental please.
372230
There's no true way to know if someone's Gay! Haven't you heard of people being pn the "Down Low?" If not, do your research.
540848
Strike up a conversation about someone who is gay and see what their stance is. Then tell them if it isn't too terrible.
234321
It's tough on your friend, being gay.  He feels outcast, different, and under a microscope.  He doesn't want anyone to know most likely because he feels that he will be picked on, made fun of, or worse.  He's probably not comfortable with his orientation, either.  He may not have the acceptance at home from his family.  If you're his 'only' friend, then you have a big responsibility.  It would be good to get him into a group of others that don't care about sexual orientation or whatever else.  It's all part of growing up and being more accepting of those around you - you seem to have it mastered.  As far as your bf is concerned.  You need to be truthful with him and not raise any doubts in his mind.  If you care enough about him, then be honest.  Keep the conversation confidential, and be honest with your friend, too.  If you're honest with him as well, he'll trust you more.  Good luck, and God bless.  Be safe and study hard...  :-)