everybody talk behind my back that i'm a cleptomaniac which i know exactly i'm NOT.what am i suposed to do???
347760
Steal something from them. Then they'll have a reason to gossip.
618807
Take the high road.\nDon't bother being petty and drawing negative attention to yourself.\nProve that you are the better person by NOT reacting to what they say and/or do.
699187
They won't listen to you honestly.... sorry to say. SO wait it out, take their remarks and comments, and when they're through thinking your a perve, they'll come around.
924731
I think I would make a plan of my own since it sounds like you will need one anyway.  In the meantime, don't dwell on it.  Then when it comes up, there will be no need for you to fumble around, you will already have a plan and you can just tell them what it is.   Don't set yourself up to be out of a place to stay or to be humiliated.  I am an introvert as well and we have to look out for ourselves instead of following the crowd like extroverts do.  But it makes us more independant, huh?
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look, honey, it sounds to me like you need to start standing up for yourself. if someone started yelling at me when I was innocent, I would politely tell them to back off. my guess is, people use you because they know they can. they know you'll give them money and never make them pay it back. \nso start getting a backbone dear, or it will be this way your whole life. when you know someone is trying to use you, learn to say no. and don't worry about losing them as a friend. with friends like that you don't need enemies. \ndon't let people get away with walking all over you, and don't let people talk to you any kind of way. you can stand up for yourself without being a jerk, and that's what you should practice. if you don't like something, say so.\nand when people call you names, consider the source. so the skanky girl called you a name, so what? she's the one with the problem.\nwhen you stand up for yourself and respect yourself, people will start seeing you differently. again, don't bend over backwards just to make a friend; that's not what real friends are. take care of yourself first and foremost.\nand remember, if you don't control this now, it WILL go on forever. your bosses, your lovelife, your neighbors, everyone will find ways to abuse you. \nI know it's hard to find that kind of confidence. but you must, or you will not survive. tell yourself every day that you are smart and you are a good person. love yourself. I know that sounds cheesy, but it is the truth. start looking for little ways every day that you can assert yourself, and once you get started, it will get easier.
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I think everyone hates me.
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you don't. it's natural.\n\nor, on the other hand, you could try and be sensible, and just block it out from your mind. or you can just change your attitude from i'm-mister-super-caring-all about  what-people-think-of-me to i-dont-give-crap-and-i'm-gonna act- as-though nothing's-bothering-me.\n\ngot it?  now that's how you gotta stop carin about wat otha ppl tink of ya. alrightty?
621057
Just straighten out your life, make some changes. Then you wont have to lie. If you lie, you must be imbarresed about something, dont hang out with people who do not like YOU.
16559
Don't deal with it.. Get a new friend.. If they think that you are jelious then they are really not a friend at all.
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Assert yourself ..call them on it..when they decide to start talking ..tell them.. so why couldnt you say that while they were there..I would say i know yall do the same to me when i leave but you all need to grow up...ppl like that are so phoney that they will like you just because you said something..funny thing is i always rub ppl the wrong way when i start a new job..but once i establish they better keep it light around me,, they respect that.  try it.
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Next time you have to make a call walk into her salon and sit in the waiting room and have a very loud conversation.  This will definetely get across the message that you are a pansy and too afraid to simply mention to someone that their behavior bothers you.  Grow some stones and go tell her.  SHe probably doesn't realize it bothers you wuss.
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Okay,  I do think some people are still predigest unfortunately!  I'm not for one. I will tell you though, as i tell my own children "you can be anything you want to be" The world is your oyster my friend. If it means that you have to go back to night school or something...Do it! Don't let people get you down! I wish you the very best in your future and remember you can do anything you set your mind to!
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omg I'm quiet and shy too! People think I'm a snob and that I think I'm too good for them. One of the reasons they do that is because I dont smile. I know its hard, people tell shy people to just go up and talk to someone but its not that easy. I would try talking more to your friends (that would help you not to be as quiet and show people that you can talk to other people as well) thats what I am working on now. Good Luck!
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i have almost exactly the same problem. what i'm trying to do is to be more talkative and loud around my friends so that i get comfortable with it, then i hope i'll be more talkative in general, even with people who arent my really good friends.
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ur friend might be absolutely right.they all might be really jealous of u.so don't worry abt people esp those who don't even know u.\ninfact don't worry abt anyone.as long as u r right and as long as u know that u've done nothing wrong don't worry at all.just be urself and talk to those who talk to u properly.be nice to everyone and never put ur head down.if the peoblem persists then just go to ur bf and ask him on his face the reason why he's doing all this.and if he doesn't give any reason then just tell him what u think of him for doing such things and tell him that he's been doing cheap things and all these things don't bother u at all.\n\nmake him feel like a fool.tell him that by doing this he is ruining his own dignity and not urs and tell this to everyone.\nso when u say something like this they'll definitely know that u r quite strong and they'll stop doing such things slowly.\n\nand if u don't want to do all this stuff,then just keep saying this word to urself when anyone says anything to u or whenever u remember anything they say"AKUNAMATATA"=no worries.\nmake it a habit.\n\nTRUST ME IT WORKS.\n\nhope i was of some help to u .all the best.i'm there for u always.\ngood luck.\ncontact me if u have further trouble.
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You could go your entire life trying to squash rumors.  My thing is that I would address folks that approach me ONLY.  You dont have time for the rest of it.  People are going to think what they are going to think.
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I think the main reason why "friends" talk about you behind your back is because they either don't like you or there's something about you that they don't like. There are other reasons as well why they talk about you behind your back. Those so-called people whom you called "friends" talk about you behind your back, they are not your friends. Friends do not bad mouth each other and they're there for one another. People talk about other people regardless, and it is up to us to not be so concerned of what they think. I learned in life to pick and choose your friends carefully. If they want to be a part of your life, be a positive influence, picks you up when you're down, and they're there for you, that is a friend. Don't worry about the fact that those people talk about you. Be who you are and stay that way. DO NOT change yourself for nobody.