what do you do when your loved one tell you how to spend your money and they have no job?
340455
Politely let them know that this is YOUR money, not theirs and you will spend it in the way you feel necessary!  That does take alot of nerve for someone to tell u how to spend your own money!  wow!  You work everyday for your money- while they dont.  You work your butt off everyday so you should be able to spend your own money any way your little heart desires!  Dont throw the NO JOB thing in their face- that will just cause hurt feelings.  Just let them know- Hey I work my butt off everyday and if I want new shoes- Im gonna get new shoes!  Its mine to enjoy!
353744
I'm of the opinion that you can't "get" anyone to do anything.  They have to decide they *want* to do it.  You need to have a serious talk with him if his lack of employment is starting to jeopardize your financial future and try to come up with a solution together (as a team). Starting off conversations that are as sensitive as money are hard and need to be done when both people are calm and make sure no guilt or blame or agression is used.  This is a situation that you are both in so it's something you can work on together.  If he's not willing to communicate with you, then I would suggest professional counceling.  These are the types of situations that can tear a marriage apart.  Good luck.
15543
My mother has a boyfriend that I can't stand (he is pulling the - rushing to a widow's aid crap and taking all of her money)... I'll tell you know, he's not getting a thing for Christmas.  And if you feel like you have to get him something, then get a gift more for your mum and just say it's to them both.  Tell them you would have gotten more, but your penny pinching this year.  \n\nGood luck!
919008
try and think of something personal... something only you and her have experienced and try and make it part of a gift, jewelery, scrap book, anything that comes from the heart...   just remember it doesn't matter how much money you spend its the thought that counts! good luck! :)
541284
You need someone to take your check from you and give you allowance for you to spend on whatever. Yes a shrink could help but you get pleasure out of getting new things and that might not go away. I think you need to tell yourself if you spend alot of money on whatever do you ever actually use, wear, or need those items you bought?
170265
so shy,\nI really feel bad for people in your situation.  But fear not, there are a few things you can do.\n1.  Being that you asked this on a religious board, I'm assuming you belong to a church.  The first thing you need to do is talk to your church leader about this.  They can take up a collection for you to get you out of some immediate debt.  \n2.  You need to really decide what is luxury and need and cut out the luxury for now.  For example, if you subscribe to cable, cancel it.  Unless you need the internet for work, cancel it.  There's an extra $50 a month right there.  \n3.  You can see if you qualify for welfare.  Your local welfare office can help you with this.\n\nI hope this helps and God bless you with your finances.
928709
Don't buy him anything. Bake him something. Or spend money on a fun event you guys can plan - something you can both enjoy and from which you can create memories. \n\nYou're only 13, broke, as you say, and your relationship is very new. Christmas is a time for celebrating life and the people in our lives. Don't let capitalism lure you into the stores and trick you into spending money you don't have. \n\nJust a little tip from me to you.
929346
He is unemployed and buying games? You are helping out financially while he is unemployed and buying games?  You are about to learn a life lesson through experience and nothing anyone tell you is going to change you actions at this point. Learn from it once reality comes crashing down.
1137634
Get a job. If you have one already, get a second job.\n\nOr.... marry a rich person!
659981
Keep talking about it. Don't linger on the bad moods. If you focus on bad things only then all the good things are crap. When you argue don't use the word YOU. Bring up that the situation is wrong and not the person you are talking to. You spent all the money= NO. The situation of being penniless upsets me. Let's figure out ways to save some money=YES.
957240
Contact Focus on the Family, or some other Org like that. There are charities out there that benefit those in financial need who has a sick spouse/child/etc.\n\nMy best wishes to you.
790905
If you don't have money to give him anything, just don't buy anything for him.  He'll have to understand if he's not a selfish pig.  A lot of people in this world are poor (like you- and me) and other people can't expect us to give them stuff if we don't have anything ourselves.  That's just rude and prepoterous!
93005
Here's the sweet thing about it: You don't need MONEY to help them!\n\nVolunteer your TIME.
795836
Let them decide.  That will indicate how much they are willing to spend.  Regardless, have a wonderful time and let them "give" to you.  They must really love you.
278804
For everything that he withholds from you, withhold something from him, until he decides to share.  I don't just mean sex, there are many things you could not give him that would make him feel as if he were missing something important from his life, which is probably how you feel with no money of your own.\n\nYou could refuse to cook, or clean, or even have a conversation.  When he comes home from work and is frustrated about something, you could refuse to listen to his problems.  Eventually he'll realize it's worthwhile to share, especially if his saves him from medical/phychiatric bills further down the road due to the bottled up emotions you never allowed him to vent.
41760
Write him letters to encourage him - and strengthen your love! Tell him that you are proud of him and that you support him! He needs a strong partner not a fluffy little spoiled kitten who whines about his absense.\n\nFind a hobby. Go shopping (window-shoppping) if money is an issue and find him the "perfect" gifts. Then, either buy them and send them or re-create them yourself.\n\nGet a part time job, start a family, donate your time to a worth-while charity...there are many rewards in giving to others.
527066
Tell her to get a grant..\n\nLots of paper work but it there for the taking if people pursue it and what it bad enough.\n\nPLUS : Its time for her to learn responsibility's of being on her on. Part-time job will do.\n\nKids get bad but as they mature they forgive because they realize that Parents do know best.\n\nI had a girl friend her son was 27 never worked and ever time you said work it was back to college life time student. Well that didnot work out but you our married so its different try to find away to hold on. ( Great woman to and she even worked for State Farm Insurance but between us both his bills where to much. )\n\nI hope for you all to have the best in life it can give for you to work through this.