SOUL PAIN? How did you cope?
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Embrace the Father, look for the blessings in your life, look for the basic good things, enjoy them.  Just a roof over your head is enough to be thankful for, some do not enjoy even that necessity.  Know that you are loved and that is the most important thing.  Blessings to you, and keep your eyes lifted up!!!
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I know very well what you mean ! i think that the worst is to know that you found your second half , your soulmate but because of the circumstances you have to separate . it happened to me 6 years ago , and even thou its not that painfull as it was at the start i still spend a lot of thoughts on him and on the time we shared . will i get ever over it ? i dont know , i just know that yes , time heals a lot of pain , i dont feel pain anymore but i still think !!!! you will learn not to compare with time and besides its a bad thing to do . of course i know that its not easy at all not to but even this time will teach . ok , in the bottom of ur heart ................but i am sure that you will manage . think that there are a lot of people on this universe which felt the same!!! i wish u luck and all the best !!!!
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Hummmm.....Pretty delicate question. I will do some soul searching as well as counseling. There was a time I felt that way and what I did and I think is the best thing I have done is start over. Basically clean up my mind and soul by not being judgemental and be as open minded as I can. Start fresh and kinda build my life and even myself.When I felt comfortable enough I started doing some personal soul searching. Therapy helped as well. I think quite a few people through life experiences go through that lost. Take it easy and a day at a time and have hope. Life is beautiful.
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Shalom Aviva\nHope everything is well around you by God's grace.\n\nWhen I was in pain, I trusted in God that even the worsest of things will work out for the better. Even though my physical body was growing weak due to the pain (no meds involved)...and death will not find me...I find there's comfort accompanied in that trust.. for God will not leave you nor abandon you. Even in the worst case scenario you just need to feel His presence more than the pain. That's what I did, I sought God's presence no matter how the pain is battling within my senses. God lets that happen at times for He is strengthening my trust in Him so that I may never lose hope. Once you are in His presence, the pain is still there but it will not matter anymore... No matter how it excruciated me back then, as long as I am attuned to God's purposes, I can endure anything - for He is with me and I feel His presence.
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Find someone knew and get distracted.\n\nI know it sounds trite, but remember when your hampster (or other pet) would die and your parent's would buy you a new one to make you feel better? Well, it worked, didn't it?\n\nA new love will distract you from the pain while you heal. Next thing you know, you'll be over it.
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I think you need to be honest with yourself and bring everything out in the open.There are reasons why you hurt so deeply,the only way to ever move past it is to go through it.The first thing you need to do is to know your worth,that yes things have happened in your life as they do us all some more than others.You have to take it as a learning experience it will only make you stronger in time,sometimes we can help others through our own trials,its not always easy you have to keep going though.Drinking and partying or any of these things you are doing its not healing your pain it wont its a bandaid.Get real ,loose the crutch,try to find positive people to surround yourself with,then you will see a positive outcome.If you really want things to change it will also help you to know that,God is always with you even when you are not with him,I hope that you can find the light to lead you out of such a dark place,I know its there I found it so can you,you just have to reach for it.May God keep watch after you.
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Thats got to be so hard for you. dealing with death is just never easy.  there is a grieving process you go through naturally but there is no easy answer to your ?,  have you talked to someone?  support groups are really helpful, talking to your pastor or other religious persons,  therapy,  other classmates.  Im so sorry for your loss,  I know how you feel.  Time does ease the pain but you never forget,  and someday in heaven you will see them again.  Know he is in a better place now and comforted.  No longer feeling pain and he is happy and content and enjoying exploring his new surroundings.  Talk to him/her,  he can hear you.  he is now watching over you.
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This question has no answer that can possibly relieve your pain, I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope you are able to live your life to the fullest.\nI hope you are able to find a support group to help you through this time.
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A very close friend of mine, Teresa, died a while back from cancer. She was young, just starting a teaching career, full of life, enthusiasm and love for people, especially kids. She was diagnosed with cancer a few days before her wedding (not to me) and died a few weeks after their first anniversary.\n\nAt her funeral I absolutely expected God to raise her from the dead - God had done it before after all. Then we were at the graveside and still no knock on the coffin lid.\n\nWhen her coffin was lowered into the ground and I tossed my flower in on top my world collapsed. I hated God with an absolute passion. I cursed God, swore at God, I told God just how big of a b*stard "he" was. I kept going to church but I wouldn't sing or pray (although every time I abused God I was actually praying, ironic hey). I went to church for the sake of appearances - I was a longstanding youth leader at my church. I kept asking all of the WHY questions but didn't get a single answer.\n\nEventually (a couple of months later), still in my anger and bitterness, God spoke to me (understand that however you like) and said ... \n\n"Will you trust me even if you don't understand?"\n\nI didn't expect that response from God. But here I am a few years later, finally able to talk about Teresa without crying and studying to be a pastor of the Lutheran church. \n\nTime does help to heal these wounds. But being honest with God, even in your anger or confusion is also helpful. Ultimatly you probably won't get an answer to the why questions. But I hope that you can eventually receive the peace that God is offering to you in your grief.
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Time heals all things! I was in the same boat about a year ago. I thought I was going to die, I wanted to die. The pain in my heart made me sick(literally), but then one day I realized hey it doesn't hurt as much as it did. It took me almost a full year to get over him, but now I am over him, and I just met the sweetest guy in the world. You just have to make yourself go out and have fun. I surrounded myself with fun happy friends and just made myself have fun. At first I was miserable, but then I started having a good time. Now I can be alone and not be sad. It just took time. I promise it will get better, just hang in there sweetie. If you ever want to talk, hit me up at clabarre81@yahoo.com.
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When I was 16 (I'm 19 now) I was madly in love with a guy from school. He broke my heart, and I was so devestated. I was insanely depressed for 3 weeks and after 2 months appeared happy but I was still so miserable inside. I was obsessed. I couldn't stop thinking about him for even a SECOND. I spent a year of my life with him on my mind, 24/7. Sometimes I'd wake up in the night and not be able to go back to sleep because his memory was so painful and I couldn't get him off my mind. Even when the pain of losing him was gone a few months later, I still felt anger about the situation.\n\nYou want to know when everything disapeared? 2 1/2 years later while at work, I looked to my right and the most gorgeous guy walked in the room. At that moment, my ex's memory disapeared. My mind returned to normal. I fell in love again.\n\nUntil something of that nature happens to you, start going out with friends. Surround yourself with people. Keep yourself busy AT ALL times. TRY to not think about her (even though I know how impossible it can be). Eventually, time will heal your pain.
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Well, this is kinda hard, but there is hope. I had a similar problem. I didn't used to know how to deal with my anger. I hid it and covered it and blew up at stupid times, until finally I did something I really regret. My gf hit me so I hit her back, and I went to jail. She could have left me, I deserved it, but she stuck by me. She helped me turn my life around and now we are happily married with a beautiful baby boy, 4 months old. we've been together for 5 years, married for 3, and it's great. But it wouldn't have been if I didn't go to counseling and get the help I needed (that took some time to realize too, over a year of meetings once a week for a few hours in group therapy), and if she wasn't strong enough emotionally to deal with it. We've proved our love over time, and we've never been happier. So stick in there IF he's willing to fix how he handles his emotions (anger is a motion, just like happiness or sadness, etc). The number one ingredient that has made the long term difference in all our problems/challenges, is having God at the center of our life. Without him, we both have been too weak at times, and would have fallen apart. With him, our love will never fail!
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Everyone at some point and time will be faced with situations that will be considered the worst possible things that they'll have to go through. These are things that we have no control over and  make us all feel helpless and lost. Remembering that "time heals", slowly work your way to the point where the healing has begun helping to get your life back in order, which in turn will help take away the pains that have been put upon you. In most cases, the things that have caused those pains have not only hurt you but others as well, family, friends, etc. Helping others thru those times will help you as well and will give them the confidence they need to not only get through it, but will enable them to help as well. Some of us have a natural ability to reach others in those times of need. I'd like to share something with you that will hopefully help. We all think that our unfortunate situations are the worst, until that is, you've seen someone else that is hurting even worse because of theirs. I'm a father of 8 kids, 5 girls and 3 boys. Life was wonderful, we all had our health and were all thankful for everything we had. We lived on a busy 2 lane hiway and never thought for one second that something drastic was about to change our lives forever. The childrens mom went out to the street to check the mail. She was hit by a drunk driver and killed while myself and 3 of the kids watched from the front porch. Oddly enough, there was only one piece of mail in the box. It was from our local cemetary trying to sell burial plots. Our lives were changed forever. What we thought would last forever was gone in a second. I cant begin to tell you how hard it was for all of us. I pray that you can use this to help yourself in your own tragidy. With all of our family and friends helping us, we were able to make it through it all, not easily, but during a time like that, every bit helped. We had to cope. We had no choice but to go on, and we somehow managed to pull together and help each other. It's never easy and was by far the hardest thing that any of us had to do, but we did it. It still hurts every second of every day. As you can see, i'm here trying to help now and hope that somehow our loss will help you as well. Larry
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It tears our hearts out. The pain lasts a lifetime. My cousin hung himself. It still hurts to hear certain songs. It might seem like there is no answer and that there is no way out. But time passes and things change I wish he would have known that.
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I'm sorry for your grief i just lost my step dad in Aug and he was more of a dad than i could ever get..\n\nThe pain hurts because i lost so many if theres away I'm looking for it i spend day after day setting and talking as if he was still here at the grave site.\n\nWhat do you say we feel the same pain three kids and my wife are gone and i have one child left and I'm so scare of losing her.\n\nSomeone put a question in here and ask what was the saddest thing that ever happen to me and i cryed the owe time i wrote back an answer as i'm doing now..\n\nBless you and take one day at a time for two is to much and you will be okay.
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i cried for my aunt recently.\nher husband past away last year and she is going through a very rough time in her life-she is a second mom to me and it causes me great pain to see her hurting.
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I'm saddened to hear that you live in this state.  Sounds like you were traumatized a year ago.  I've been through this. It's a horrible feeling. Asking these questions and reaching out for help shows that you are beginning to come out of it.  To return to reality,  face your troubles no matter how much it hurts.  Talk to a counselor, pastor, friend, teacher.  Continue to ask questions if it makes you feel better.  I wish you a bright future!