Should you have friends of the opposite sex when in a relationship?
346525
platonic friends ? yea , why not ?
368369
You can have a friendship between a male and a female without it turning romantic.\nI have a lot more male friends than female ones. It just turned out that way because I grew up with 5 brothers and their friends. I feel more comfortable around guys than girls because there were no snide or catty remarks.
5789
It depends on who the person I'm hanging around with is. Everyone is different! In my experience though, it's girls, it makes me more comfortable, because, well, I'm one! But, ya know, guys are okay!
683852
Men & women can be friends. Just be careful not to let it go any further than that. Eg. I am friends with my male colleagues at work, but I make sure I get to know their wifes or GFs as well so they do not get the wrong ideas - aka they need to know I am not a threat. And I never put out wrong signals with colleagues - some may hint at something more but I always made it clear where I stand. If I am not interested, I am not interested period - particularly in married or men who are already with someone else.\nAs to why it does happen? Well, men tend to think of sex most times (read relationship books - it is a primal thing with them). They find opportunities for it to happen and at times end up jeopardising real friendships cos of it. If a guy friend pushes it, I let the friendship go. Maybe that's why folks say plutonic friendships are not workable. But I have good male friends who are absolutely faithful to their spouses so I am glad to know that such men, however rare, still exist. I for one would want my man to be exactly that - faithful to me and only me and I would be the same for him too.
88352
No it's not. you'll just end up getting hurt... if you really want to be with them... stay friends until they've earned your trust. then try for a relationship, but don't jump into one if you can't trust the person you'll be with. That will cause fights and will eventually kill the whole relationship.
750085
If you are ready to go from hanging out w/ the guys to dating the guys you should find a guy outside your circle of friends to date. It's easier dating someone else than a friend b/c if the relationship goes bad then you can part ways easier.
763198
I don't understand why this issue can't be discussed between the two of you.  What you both need is space from each other right now.  Then when you both have your head on straight, go back to the discussion table and determine what you both want out of the relationship.\n\nHaving friends of the opposite sex can be a detriment.  You have to realize that you will be confiding in them all your innermost personal details.  It has the potential to lead to emotional cheating which can lead to physical cheating and once that happens, your relationship might as well be over.
328222
It really depends on whether you have any feelings for the girl because if not then there's nothing for you to act on and take that relationship to another level.  As soon as one person has some feelings for the other in a friendship then it ceased to be just that.  The bottomline is that the only way women and men can remain friends is if they both find each other somewhat unattractive.
697175
No.  Girls are capable of having male friends without expecting to fall in love in the future.  At first a girl might want to be friends with a male to explore the possibility of a future relationship, but you can tell right away her intentions.  If she's overly friendly (flirtatious) then she's attracted to you.  But if she starts to mention other guys and starts to treat you like "one of the girls" then you hit the friendship wall.  \n\nGuys, on the other hand, will only have friends that are girls with the hope that "someday" they will be in the right place at the right time (when the girl is vulnerable and falls right into his arms). \n\nThere are exceptions to the rule, but for the most part the above is true.\n\nMaybe you can give us more details so that we can better answer this question.  Is there a certain way a friend of yours is acting?
148906
It is a very real fact that men and women can be friends.  If the 2 people are satisfied with themselves (meaning that they don't have to continuously try to prove something or have hang-ups about if they are "cool" enough) they will be able to interact on a friendly basis.
1102090
I think most relationships are that way for both sexes.  I think it's healthy.  In the beginning everything is new and wonderful and you want to discover new things about each other and do things together.  But after a while, one person feels they're neglecting their friends or have a job that suddenly needs a lot of attention, or a need to come up for air and do their own thing.  Unfortunately, this need for air isn't always in-sync w/ your partner.  One will pull away first and the other person feels hurt because the attention has shifted to something else.  \n\nAgain, this is healthy.  When one partner needs to come up for air, it's a good time to get back to your life.  Do your own thing, get together w/ your friends, focus on work, etc....  That way you're not hounding him for more time and you don't sound like a nag or a clingy girlfriend.  This also allows you to show him you're independent and you don't need him to make you happy. Plus, when you're busy doing your own thing he may start to miss you and you'll have more stuff to talk about other than the daily grind of life.  \n\nIt is hard to detach yourself from your boyfriend, but it allows the relationship to grow.  Have faith and eventually his need for separation will blow over.
264292
Sometimes, you meet somone with the pretext of being in a relationship and not friends.  If it clicks, it progresses.  On the other hand, if you make a friend, it will definitely take too long.
38735
It is possible, but not very...  Most men and women that become friends usually end up sleeping together or developing feelings for one another in the long run.  I would recommend against it...
529201
Well that is a tough question - if you are serious with someone - no one should come between you. However, just because you are with someone does not mean that you should not have your own friends - actually you should still maintain your own friends because even in a relationship that it rock solid - you need down time or personal time. You still need to be you. However, you should not put them before your man or girl. \nHope that helps
200213
We all have these feelings about friends of the same sex as we go through life and whether we act on them or not is different to each individual.If she is willing for you to touch her and talk about these things then it is fine,the only thing is that she is probably keeping it from her boyfriend and that is betrayal.
573165
Friends are friends...no matter what the sex.
700046
It will possibly ruin your friendship and if you are dating someone you should not even be considering it. If you do there will be conseqences. I suggest that you don't do it, it's not worth loosing a friendship over.