Why would a guy break up over the phone rather than in person?
351780
He didn't have the courage to say it to your face.  What a freakin' jerk!
646441
Just tell this guy that you need to talk to him about something serious. I'm sure he'll get the picture. Then tell him how its really important that you see him and not talk over the phone. If he tells you to just end it, then do it. Good luCk!
889008
Don't call him. let him call you.  email maybe once or text but don't call. after he gets the note from you, he will call you back if he wants to talk to you.\n\nhmm... but why can't you still talk on the phone?\n\ni'm sorry but if he is so singleminded that he cannot conduct buisness and a relationship then i don't see you beng involved very long.\n\nsounds like he's trying to break up, but  just because that happened to someone i know doesn't mean it's happening to you.
978456
you are flipping nuts!  why delete his number!  Thats so final, you only talked about your ex.  He'll get over it.\n\nSay to him, did he use the ex thing as a reason to break up with you?  If he says no, then say well I think you've totally over-reacted let me prove to you that i'm over my ex.  And he'll say how, and you'll say by being with you.  Lets face it thats the only proof you can use.  Time.
494378
either he goin thru a tough time or he cheatin on u, if he use 2 call and come see u non stop then suddenly stop, means he cheating but that is just my opinion the best way 2 knw is 2 talk 2 him.
650233
wow. well it could be a couple of things. it could be that he was really broke. and as a guy the feeling of not being able to provide a gift is not a good feeling. i could see where it might leave him feeling ashamed. that being said he still could've called. and he still could've spent time with u. or it could be that he has another chick and doesn't give to $hits about u. only u know the truth.\n\nLong distance relationships almost never work. in the rare case when the people involved have the wherewithal to travel often, as in a couple of times a month, to be with their partner it can. i doubt that'd be the case with the 2 of u.
995747
Well why did you broke up with him in the first place. Why are you reconsidering going out with him donot make it be because you are bored and have nothing else to do that is not a good reason.
678024
Not really enough info given to know for sure BUT, if you aren't seeing each other and you hardly talk, it sure sounds as if he has moved on.  It sounds like he found someone new and rather than breaking up, just started to minimize his contact with you.  Most guys take the coward's way out rather than end it by telling you it is over.\n\nFind someone new and move on with your life.
969930
i broke up with my bf in october, and it is still so hard for me not to pick up that phone and tell him to come home... he moved everything out and i havent felt like i am at home in my apartment since... its hard for everybody... you just have to let it go for awhile, why don't you call up some friends and go out... you will see, he will be back before you know it.
975646
Obviously this is a case of a classic attachment issues. You got to ask yourself was the breakup clean and was it where one person broke up with another. In the latter case, this could pose to be a situation where the guy was not ready for a breakup.\nAnother answer is that he could be just using these tactics as an act of jealousy. Isn't there a golden rule that half of the amount of time you went out is the time you should spend recovering. 6 weeks is a short time for a relationship that was a year. So he is just using as a sort of cat and mouse game and is trying to entice you to get back with him.\nPlus, it is always common for guys to compare themselves with other guys. An great example of that is when a guy asks if I was ever the best in bed.
167853
This guy sounds like he's really confused and a bit immature.  I think you really need to answer that phone and tell him how much you were hurt by what he did to you.  Talk it over . . . you might be surprised to find that he's been just as torn up about this as you have been!
924325
Maybe he was trying to be committed to your relationship and didn't want to cheat on you the way you cheated on him.  Pathetic!
1136767
he was mad that you didnt make a decision right  away because he probaly feels that if you thought he was important to you that a quick yes would have easily occured, maybe he realized that you guys were better off as friends and just wanted to still keep some form of a relationship with you, even though i think that after he broke up with you that you really shouldnt be his friend, he had no concern about your feelings about it before making the decision before hand...
558265
Perhaps he realizes that he's losing his control over you and you are interested in someone else.  Follow your heart, was the reason for the break up valid?  Is it still valid?  Was it silly and stupid?  If any of those apply then he is where he needs to be, a ex.   Guys are funny, they think that they don't want you, and don't, till they see you with someone else, like your life stops because you was with them.
902809
The relationship just aint working sounds like. Give him an ultimatum either you make some moves on me and call me and take some initiative or it's over and I'm moving on. Yes you'll get the hurt of a breakup but you'll some day find a better guy who will actually "communicate" with you. Good luck with all that.
922678
Is there such a thing as breaking up with a friend? \nYes! Sometimes it's best to cut a friend loose if his antics are stressing you out more than cheering you up. \n\nEveryone goes through life experiencing relationships. But it is very rare that one of these relationships span an entire lifetime. People have fun together but also, people often break-up for many reasons. These reasons can range from simply growing apart to finding your partner cheating or simply being too different to be together. Break-ups and reasons for them are not meant to scare someone away from relationships. The simple fact is, one should enjoy relationships, but at the same time, identify warning signs so one can see when a break-up is necessary and when things go sour with your guy, you know a breakup is imminent. \n\nIt's hard to do. That's the biggest understatement of all time! Ending a relationship is among the most stressful things a person can undergo and is never easy. It sucks and even less fun than getting rejected is actually having to do the rejecting. Okay, maybe doing the rejecting is a little better. Anyway, if you're thinking about blowing a guy off, here are some ideas on how to give him the brush off that won't break his heart too badly -- or destroy his ego.\n\nYou're not interested. He calls and leaves a message. What should you do? \nDo not return that call. \n\nAnd what if you picked up the phone? What then? \nThen, "lie". Please lie. Tell him that you just got back together with your friends. This is our very first choice for rejection. Second best is you realized that you are going through a period where you do not want to date at all and just want to focus on yourself. Sure, these excuses might be transparent -- but men feel better to live a lie than face the truth of rejection.\n\nAnother possibility, though not quite as good due to possible ambiguity,  is the good old "distancing technique". You tell him you are really busy for the next couple of weeks and will call him when things get less crazy -- a bit confusing for most men, but definitely effective and not too painful.\n\nYou really gave it a chance, but it's not happening. What should you do? \nAgain, lie. Your friends are still your best bet. Do not tell him you met someone else recently. That smarts. Choosing someone you just met tells him he lost a contest. No one likes to lose. \n\nAnother option - "Honesty" within reason. If it's simply a matter of chemistry -- or lack thereof - tell him. Most guys can survive that after just a few dates. As much as it's going to hurt, tell him the truth. At this point, honest communication is the right thing to do.  Be gentle, but do not be too vague. Just give it to him straight and say that you're really sorry. \n\n1. Don't be too specific if it's for  reasons no human should ever hear: You smell, you are not good-looking enough, you are boring, you're an idiot -- please refrain from using these (unless you're breaking up with him because he sucked in bed, in which case you better lie.) \n\n2.  Don't try to be "friends" once it's over. That just drags out the inevitable; it gives him hope that you might change your mind. \n\n3. Don't have sex with him the night you break up with him or later when he crawls back begging for you to take him back. \n\n4. Insist on NO contact. Breaking off for good is always better for both and less stressful.\n\nObviously, this all can vary depending on your circumstances and your relationships. \n\nJust remember: Be Gentle, Lying can be good for the male ego and less hurting and Specificity, well, it can sometimes be too specific its better to be Ambiguous. \nGood Luck>r
142876
I think you're right, it's all about him and that's not fair to you.  Not sure what to think about him having an anxiety attack while on the phone with you, sounds kinda weak and shows that he's not very capable of coping.  Go get you someone with a spine.  Don't beat yourself up too much either, it sucks and it's all screwed up, but sometimes ya gotta do what ya gotta do.  So, hope for the best but prepare for the worst.  Good luck.