After breakup, is a relationship lost, if not what is there to do (she's with someone else)?
351007
alot depends on the reason for the breakup. are the important things still there, like trust, a bond of any kind. as far as how to tell her, without stalking her find a time when shes alone and you can talk and plainly tell her how you feel.straight forward is the only way to go.
991436
Depending on how long two have been together as a couple, basically if you have been together for over 6 months or more, then she might be bored. From what you are saying it seems she is seeing someone else and doesn't know how to break it to you. Best way to find out is ask her whats up and if she honestly still wants to make the relationship work, then how can you make it work...what do the both of you have to do in order to make it work? \nReal love is complex, it's understanding you significant other, being able to read that  person, compromising, understanding each others differences, respecting each other, loving each other whole heartedly, and vice-versa.
341317
AS in you broke up and are getting back together? \n\nAbsolutley NOT. Things have changed and you have to accept it....you relationship will NOT be the same.
279455
Give her and yourself some time.  You may get back together, or you may find someone else that you like.
348010
I think that most women go through what you are describing (I sure have!). It's almost impossible to imagine dating someone when you have just broken up with someone else. Especially if you loved that person, which it sounds like you did.\n\nThe answer is, dont worry about dating right now. Just take care of you and your girls and do what you can to make you happy. Take care of YOU for a change. The dating thing will come around eventually. There's no hurry. That isnt important right now. Just take it day by day.\n\nAnd when you ARE ready then opportunities will present themselves. There is no hurry, though. If you get upset thinking about dating again, then dont think about it. You'll be ok.
629767
You need to think about why the relationship ended in the first place. Somebody was obviously unhappy. If you truly believe things have changed then all you can do is let her know that, tell her the door is open and let her make her own decision. If you try to do too much to influence her you will turn into a bunny boiler. Just concentrate on being happy by yourself and making your life as full and enjoyable as you can. Someone will see you for who you arw and fall in love with you, either your ex or someone completely new! Just enjoy it cos we're only here once.
64486
The main thing I would do is get my mind aff that subject. If you r always thinking about the break-up, then you will always be moping around. I recommend doing something physical like swimming or jogging etc. You could also paint or hang out with friends. Do you know someone who usually always makes you laugh? Hang out with that person. Try to be as happy as possible. Good luck!
989721
it'll take time to get over someone. let time heal your wounds and go out and have fun with your friends. that always helps. if you have pics of her hanging on your wall,....take em down. put it in a box and just move on. you'll find a much better love as you move on and you may think back on this one day and think "what was i thinkning?".
105727
find someone else. don't be affraid to break it up.
232306
Oh baby.. Ask ur heart.. Is it really possible for u or the other person to b 'friends' after having broken up? U'll find the answer if u ask this to urself honestly..\nI believe that just to make matters uncomplicated and simple u can 'say' him/her that u'll remain friends just so as to console her at the moment.. but i m sure u wont be able to take this friendship to far..as u r aware..a broken heart stings!
398231
You need to do the things that lit the spark the first time around and show her that your are serious. If you just sit and talk about getting back together then it more than likely won't happen. Send her flowers, show her you care because more than likely her feelings were hurt when you broke up with her.
645918
Breaking up is hard to do.I say that if /when she comes back to you . Don't give yourself to her so easily or she will try to leave you hanging when she feels like doing her own thing. I would keep a journal when you feel like calling her or see her out and want to talk. Some feelings are wasted on people that don't appreciate them. It takes a long time to get over someone you really care about There really isn't any straight answers. Except you gotta watch out for more than your heart. Remember your self-respect, your pride, and your future. Don't let a bad romance delay you from doing the things that you are interested in. Go on a trip- even if it's a short one. Go to the closest city, get a hotel, see the sights, see a concert -take a buddy - get your mind clear. Don't ever let anyone that hurts you see you when you're vulnerable, even if there's a chance things will work out. She has to earn her way back in to see your true emotions. \nKeep your head up  Stay busy  It will get better no matter what the out come is.
83228
Try keeping urself busy, if u keeping thinking about the breakup you'll nevr heal, hangout with ur friends, find things that will keep ur mind off the breakup\n\nWho know maybe u'll find someone else. =-)
125846
Unless you have an open relationship and don't mind her getting down with other people, I'd say you have to decide whether you're going to be able to trust again, and if you really want to be with this person...\n\nMy guess: not likely.
366542
The question is does she love you back?  How long were you dating before you broke up?  Me?  I had a relationship for 7 years and I still love him but we grew apart.  I realize now that I love the idea of being with the person I once knew.  If you have not spoken to her in 2 years, she is probably not the person you fell in love with anymore.  I would err on the side of moving on!  Nothing will ever be the same as the relationship that you had with this person.  I guarantee it.  But don't let that close your heart to new and better relationships.  Use what you had with her as a learning experience.  Don't compare her to the other women you date.  That is a fatal mistake.  I know its hard ,but you have to move on with your life in your mind, your spirit and your body.  Please don't hold your relationship with her on a pedestal.  Clear your heart and keep moving!\n*Muah*
13645
To her face, calmly, lovingly, clearly. You must let her know she's a good and wonderful person but you cannot, and I do mean, CANNOT let her think there's a chance of winning you back, or she may put up a valiant try that will leave both of you feeling more hurt / guilty. Don't be afraid to have a little bit of space between you two for a few weeks after, but if you'd genuinely like to stay friends after that, go out to coffee and chat. Be prepared for the sting when she finds someone else a bit down the road; even if you dump her, it can hurt when she falls in love again and it's not you.
1132948
Well if you're concerned that you might be heartless, that automatically shows that you're not! \n\nSo either like everyone here is saying, you weren't really emotionally vested anyway, and you can shrug it off as an unfortunate experience...OR....you didn't allow yourself to deal with feeling whatever you were feeling at the time she broke it off (this wasn't a mutual decision? Then you might have some resentment or anger buried there) I'm only saying this because obviously SOMETHING about the breakup is bothering you...so just figure out what it is, deal with it and move on.