What do you do when the person you are in love with is gay?
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Forget about it, be his/her best friend instead. Gay is gay, you will never be really loved in return and it only leads to unhappiness.\nGo out and find someone else - it sounds trivial, but in time it works.
83643
You're asking a really complex question.  \n\nYes, you should love your best friend.  You should love her like a sister.\n\nIf you're feeling something more like romantic love, then you're going to have to face up the fact that you might be a little gay or at least bi.  There is nothing wrong with that, plenty of happy and well adjusted people have the gay (me included!).  You'll have to make a decision at some point about it; you can remain friends and still in love with her or you can tell her about your feelings.  Each path has it's pro's and cons, and that is a choice only you can make.  But don't rush yourself, if you think you're bi curious, then take some time to think about that and reconcile that with your current identity before jumping into anything.
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wow that has to be hard well all i can say is just pray for him and yourself and try to stay in touch with him as much as possible i know a person can't help who they fall in love with i hope it all works out. good luck.
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Give him a big hug and tell him that you love him and nothing can ever change that.\n\nDepending on the kind of relationship you have, you could also add jokingly, "But you have to let me meet all your potential boyfriends first - so I can tell them embarrassing stories about you!"\n\nBe loving, but add some humor so it doesn't turn into one of those awkward "I love you, I love you too, what now?" moments.\n\nYou say that nothing about your relationship will change (or that you don't want it to), so why hang out or do things different from before you were assured that he was gay? Do the things you've always enjoyed doing together - that will help ensure that nothing will truly change. Make sure that he knows you're interested in new ideas, just in case there are other things he would like to do now that he knows that you know.
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Well, you need to ask yourself how you got into your current situation in the first place....  Did you "find out" you were gay AFTER getting engaged?  Did you have a gay affair and determined that was what you really wanted?  Once you answer this, then you go to step two.  You HAVE to tell her.  Unless of course, you want to spend the rest of your life living a lie, and not being able to be true to yourself [and her].  You will regret getting married and not being able to have your male companionship if you go forward.  Be strong and sincere.  Talk to her like a close friend and, yes, it may turn out bad, but in the long run it could be worse.
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Try complete sentances, and whole thoughts. Capitalization works well also. \n\nPeople love each other and they still break up. If your both men, and you love each other you may not be gay, but your atleast bi.
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You don't know and may not.\nIf you are interested in someone romantically and just want to know if he is available, ask him if there is any chance of you becoming romantically involved.\nThis sidesteps the gay issue and cuts to the core of your need to know.
952223
you are what? gay.......just tell her.....if she loves u she'll understand.
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THERE IS NO REAL WAY TO NO THIS,BUT IF YOU LOVE HIM JUST ASSUME THAT IT IS AND DONT HARP ON IT BECAUSE IF THERE IS A CHANCE THAT IT IS OVER AND YOU HARP ON IT,IT WILL ALSO BE OVER BETWEEN YOU TWO TOO.HOPE FOR THE BEST AND BE HAPPY AS HARD AS IT MAY SEEM
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Is it about friendship or relationship?  Knowing that you are gay is big enough already, don't add that you are in love with him to the mix.  It will be too much to handle.  Coming out is hard.  You do risk losing him as a friend also.  Not everyone's upbringing has prepared them for this.  If he is a true friend with a reasonable upbringing, he will still be your friend.
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Stop thinking of it in terms of gay and strait. As a matter of fact forget the two terms exist at all. Then just pay attention to your emotions toward everyone around you and the answer will just kind of come to you. Thats how it was for me.
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You should be there for him! He has been honest to you and you need to support his decision! Thats what friends are for.  Thats so cool actually because id like a guy friend that was gay.  They are so sweet and caring and make the best friend out of everyone.  Accept his decision and carry on with your friendship as normal.
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Deal with it. \n\nAccept it, and say that you are not gay(unless you are...).\nTell him to accept you as a hetero.
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Well, first you need to make sure you're not advancing on someone who is against gays.  If you get the vibe that he'll crack you in the head for standing too close ... I would move along.\n\nBut, if you've known this person for a while and feel that you both have a connection, then I would ask him to hang-out sometime.  Maybe grab some pizza or hang out at the mall.   Go back to your place and "study" or whatever.  Find out who he is and if he is interested in you as a friend or something more.
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tell him how you feel, and he deffanitly gay.
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If your not gay, you simply tell him. He'll be hurt, but he should know the truth.
1027778
If he is gay, the only way to stop him from being gay is to Kill him.  That is the only way.  You might be able to terrorize him into pretending to be straight, but he'll still be gay.\n\nTake this advice or not, but your best option is to simply support him and let him be himself.