tips anyone?i'm breaking up with my guy,now he's taking his own life,what should i do?
344800
This seems too much of an issue for one person alone. Help is needed here, just to get his life back on track. Don't ever feel this is your fault
853933
You said you're working on the relationship, but if he isn't, it probably isn't worth while.  If he has been like this forever, and you thought you could change him....yep, think again.   If he is as self centered as it sounds,  you moving out probably just gave him more free time to do what he wants.  Don't kill yourself working it out if he won't give 110% also.  Habits are hard to break, and no one is perfect, but feeling like dirt on the bottom of somebones shoe is not expected.  Your girls should be learning repects from both parents.
768687
Just make the break and refuse his calls.  If necessary get a judge to give you a restraining order against him.  He sounds like he could harm you.  As far as him killing himself or whatever, that's his problem.  You have to protect you and can't worry about what he's going to do.  I'm sure you still care about him but you have to do what's best for you.  He probably has no intentions of harming himself but he knows that it bothers you and that's why he says those things.
145815
Let him go.  If he only wants you on his own time that should tell you something.  Move on.  There is someone better for you.
249258
well...just cut him out of your life...\nrecall your friends and start hangin out again specially if you haven't seen em for a while because you were too busy dealing with the jerk you're trying to ditch then.\nor better still...try your family...they might've missed you just the same.\nor be with yourself and try to see what you REALLY want and get it!\nDo some changes if you want, like, get a new hair do or update your wardrobe...just keep yourself busy and you'll eventually forget anything happened.\nGood Luck and Enjoy!\n\nohh...by the way...getting over him doesn't necessarily mean you need someone new...just yourself is enough and everyone else around you to share new moments with wont hurt.
273026
Do what you want to do for you. You are living your own life and no one elses, and no one should live your life for you. Be yourself and if he doesn't like it than he proably didn't love you to begin with.
950778
ok - first of all he needs to be in treatment if he isn't.  if he doesn't start getting help - leave him.  and when he tells you he'll kill himself if you do - tell his parents that you are breaking up with him and he is threatening suicide.  i spent years dealing with people with BPD - they can be the most engaging and the most infuriating people you will ever meet.  take care of you.  you need to protect you.  borderlines will suck you dry and leave you an emotional wreck.  you might also want to see a counselor and deal with this in there.  you are right - with borderlines you are either good or bad and if they continue to manipulate with their threats and emotional drama - you will be the loser.  not them.
721223
Just let him go and dont think about him. Let it happen and make sure that he tells you a great reason why he is breaking up with you and see if you two can be friends and talk to you.
814506
Get as far away from him as possible.  He needs to get help and is too controlling.  You deserve to have someone that makes you happy and you deserve to have a life outside of him as well.  If he cannot accept that and trust you, then there really is no relationship.
369767
Read the Break-up Book.  It is from the author of "He's just not that into you".  It helps you to set reasonable boundries in order to move on with your life without him.  In the meantime, asuming you are keeping the baby, begin speaking to a lawyer so you can get child support arranged before the baby comes.  Don't let this guy off the hook, it is his responsibility too.
652807
The question is -  Where do you want to stand with him?  If you're just chatting it should be easy to get him out of your life -  Out of your Life is Big.  Is he on Drugs?  That would explain the mood changes.  You can be honest and tell him in your own way that you want to take a break, or whatever it is you want.  The "It's Me and Not You" is so lame.   You sound like a sincere, intelligent person, you'll figure it out - I believe it.
840128
Just STOP!!!  You signed up for what he signed up for being his girlfriend.  You cannot blame him for doing his job,, and doing what might be saving his own life,, Yes some people kill in defense of their own life.. I would suggest you seek counseling,, to deal with your guilt by proxy!!
150202
He has already broke up with you. So dont call him, email him go over his house or nothing.  Just know next time he see you, you must look the BEST, The Bomb, the Freshest.  Stay FLy.  He will want to call you, watch.  Or, you can let him see you by being somewhere you know he will be.
607064
Get over him.  Get out.  Good riddance.  There was a reason your broke up in the first place.  Remember that.
979501
who gives a shit if he dosnt like you anymore, get over it, you cant get him back, so get off your sad sorry for yourself ass and do something w/ your life...find someone else, there are plenty more guys out there, stop worrying about this one, its not worth it.
1120428
i have been in the same  situation as he is going to be in. I slit my wrists for the longest time! (i dont now)  The only thing you can do is to talk it through, face-to-face is best!! You MUST let him know that it isn't his fault. Let him know openly that he has been the best--- (blank)______. That you still want to remain friends and that you will always be there for him when he needs it! Let him feel there is still a chance you guys might patch things up eventually. Tell him you aren't closing the door on you guys getting back together. Make sure he doesn't blame himself for not doing something or doing too much of something!\nMUCH LUCK ND LOVE
208568
Well before you do anything you need to get your life in order and become self sufficiant.  Because if you break it off now he might just leave you to fend for your self and you don't sound prepared for that.  Ultimately though, yes, you need to find a better relationship than this one.