My g/f cheated on me twice when I caught her in the act with another man in her place.  She said " I just mess
340973
Holy crap, that makes no sense...\n\nBTW, if she is sleepin with someone else, she is hardly your "girlfriend", sounds more like the town whore....
157827
Well...it probably has to do with the fact that you are supposed to be in a committed relationship with her and ONLY her, unless of course you two had a before mentioned agreement to having an "open" relationship, but I doubt this is the case...  Put the shoe on the other foot bro, and think how you would feel if the roles were reversed and she was the one cheating on you.  Maybe if you see things through her eyes for a few moments you will be more careful with the way you are treating this poor girl’s emotions and heart.  However, If that doesn't convince you to change your ways, why don't you just do her a favor and cut her loose now to save her any future heartbreak.
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Because by other experiences girls generalize that men are liars... because someone cheated this way, we see a pattern here... just show your girl what you do, take her onece and she will know that you are the exeption to the rule, its not natural, but some women think of you as dogs hunting and she might trust you but not the people you are among of, so let her meet your buddies, and let her know theres nothing to hide she will trust you more because theres information saying how do you feel ok... Be truthfull and this will set you free of explainning yourself everytime you hang out with your friends ok... \nBest of luck!
189320
Why would you want to cheat? If you don't love her then leave. Don't hurt her. I can also say that once you get caught there is a good chance you are going to lose everything you have. You will be sorry one day that you cheated on her even if you do not get caught. Be smart, be a man, leave her or be faithful.
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You may never regain the trust she had for you. You can suggest counselling and also don't try to rush it. You have a lot of bad marks against you and really need to prove yourself to her. Also have you thought about what will happen if you get back with her? What made you get into the affair in the same place? Will this reoccurring bad behavior surface again. I'm don't deny that she loves you but just doesn't want to go through the pain of betrayl again. Take some time and get your priorities straight. Good luck
1157992
First of all your not the scum he is. If he is cheating on her with you then he will cheat on you with someone else. Since your relationship with him has been sexual I would tell the girlfriend. She has a right to know what she has been exposed to. I am not saying that you have anything but the guy may be seeing several other women and not just you. It is also very common to be angry at the other woman and not yourself or the guy. If you look at this logically then you would see who you should be angry at. For the last two years this guy has been leading you and his girlfriend and God knows who else on. When you found out about the girlfriend you probably thought that he would dump her and stay with you. It doesn't always work that way. If you dont tell her and leave the guy you are always going to be second guessing what he is up to. You are always going to be comparing yourself to his girlfriend and you will never be happy. Telling his girlfriend would only be fair to her. You have known about her and have seen what this guy is like. Maybe his girlfriend needs an eye opener. And the guy deserves to be alone.
853521
Not all girls are like that, maybe you were to submissive and forgiving and she needed someone manly and masculin by her side, and well, she will keep cheating on you because i don't think you will change...
575363
Unfortunately for you, there is something about your relationship or you that caused you to cheat.  You have risked at the highest level your relationship.  If you never tell her, you will be in constant fear she will find out from someone else, and that is 100 times worse than hearing it from you.  If you tell her she very well may leave you, and rightfully so.  Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and you destroyed that forever.  You say you will never do it again....but you did it in the 1st place so you really don't know if you will do it again or not, and she will never really trust you and she will always have that to live with,and it should be enough for her to leave you forever.  What you have done is unforgivable,take it from someone who was married and in her position.  It never is forgiven and it definitely is never forgotten.  You have to tell her as kindly as possible, and you should not try to justify your behavior, excuse it, or try to plead you way out of this.  She has every right to get angry, sad, and betrayed, and you not only should allow her to feel that way but also not try to manipulate your way back in.  Let her decide what she wants to do with no pressures from you.  If you pressure her she will leave you for sure, or should do so.  Learn from this however it turns out and in future relationships don't do something you will regret.
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I think there are certain types of people, she just happens to be a cheating type and you got caught in the middle.  Yes, she will do it again.
650798
There is no excuse for cheating.  Move on.  There are plenty of people out there who will not cheat on you and make you vulnerable to the mental pain (not to mention the STDs).  If you stay with them, it shows them that they can get away with it again.
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Neither of you love each other since you both cheated, whether it was for plasure or revenge it doesnt matter. This is a mentally dangerous situation as that he has become a habit. Habits are hard to break especially the ones that last for years. You have been doing this for so long that you cant remember what life was like before him. You deserve better. Unfortunately you cant listen to your heart on this one. Leave. Does it feel good knowing he might have been inside another woman hours earlier without protection then inside you? Do you always want to have that feeling? Search your soul and find your courage to whats right for your emotional and mental future.
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It is quite possible that she really does regret her actions and will never do it again, especially since she told you.  But, having been in your situation before, I've found it extremely hard to "forgive and forget."  Both of you have to be really committed to make the relationship work after a major setback like that, but if she is truly sorry and you think you can trust her again, it should all work out.
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Wow, having sex twice huh\n\nHere's my thought- \n\nIf a girl has a boyfriend, don't encourage her to stay or leave. Don't get involved where that is concerned. She must be able to stand on her own and make her own decisions.\n\nShe might be a sweet girl, you both might be instantly into each other but lets look at it this way.\n\nShe had sex twice with you (Outright cheating- since she at the time had a boyfriend...). She cheated essentially to be with you, now whats going to stop her when she is bored/tired/frustrated/angry with you? Think she'll do that with someone else too?\n\nMy advice is to essentially get her out of your life. I know it is painful ~ I almost ran headlong into a similar situation before but I avoided it when I decided to get her out of my own life. Course the end result with that was she cheated with some other guy (we never went through, because the moment I found out she was wishy washy about the then current boyfriend I knew it was a sign to get out). \n\nNext, go out there, get out in the world and start seeing other women. I do not know what state you live in, but in Los Angeles California, 10,000 women are turning 18 every day. If one woman I like has something hiding in the closet - I just say adios.\n\nI said "women" not "girls" because women are mature, girls are not. Mindset is important, who do you think will cause you more happiness? Someone who isn't loyal, or at least will stick by you through the bad times(When love really shows itself, as well as their character), someone spoiled and otherwise emotionally unstable?Or someone who will stick by you even though the bad times, who is psychologically stable, mature,  and is patient?\n\nAgain, I know it may be difficult to just purge someone from your life but lets face it. \n\nYou deserve better than to be in constant tension, pain, stress, confusion and worry over this girl who is wishy washy, cheated twice and doesn't want to hurt her boyfriend's feeling even though by the sound if it, she isn't happy. \n\nWhats stoping her from doing the same on you?\n\nSorry if I sound cold, insensitive and generally offended you (if it did), but I am not as sensitized to the situation as you are, I don't personally know you or the girl you speak of.\n\nI do not imply that the girl will cheat on you, I only deal in odds if she will or not. They say that once a cheater, always a cheater right?\n\nLast note:\nIf she really wanted to break off from the relationship- she would have done it already. If you really want something, and are in enough pain to get it, you'll do it almost instantly. Seems like she is holding back, and not actually thinking about a way to let her boyfriend go (if indeed, she wants to).
800543
Trust your GF man, she wont go anywhere. And if she decides to cheat ,she will find the way. You can not stop her, can you? Moreover it was last summer.....past
212373
I thank you for the quick reply, but you did read it cafefully, I never ever cheated on her! I lyed and stole from her, she says she still loves me and I'm truely hate myself for what i've done to her and our marriage. I love with so much love I would do anything to save this. But i'm here doin this myself lookin for alittle help. thank you!
561366
you have two gfs sounds like you are a non-commiting person, just decide, you are about to hurt one or both, you should have not gotten youself in this predicament.
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Well you could spend all your time being suspicious and continue to listen to gossip and hang out with the guys that say they are doing stuff to your girl? What the Fu-------? If you love her deal with it or leave her. She could be lying, they could be lying. Bottom line is if she is cheating on you your relationship is in trouble, if she isn't cheating she will be if you are accusing her of it all the time. Tuff problem. It is all in what you want to happen with her. I can't imagine 3 guys telling you that if it wasn't true though. Do you know the guys? Or are they strangers to you and each other. If they 3 of them know each other it is possible they are fuc-ing with you, more details is what you need. \n\nWrite out the problem, pros and cons, but whatever you do figure out one way or another what you want or it will tear your heart out eventually.