how do i trust people again in life?
353704
You haven't really specified what the problem is....\nI will try my best to answer that....Everyone gets hurt in there life but as it goes on you will get stronger...\nI have been hurt sooo much and it even got to a stage when i thought of suicide but IT DOES GET BETTER....\nRead the PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE by Rick Warren....\nIt really does help and you will be able to get all the answers you need...\nTAKE CARE
29744
That's what's hard. You can't ever be 100% sure because if a person can do it once, he can easily do it again. Some people might be able to regain that trust eventually, but I'm not sure that I could ever trust someone who did that to me.
536064
Trust takes time. Some people don't ever deserve it. But if you have been hurt alot, maybe you need to pick your friends more carefully. Trust a little at first, and then as you get to know them watch for red flags. Then you have the option of putting distance between you and them, or just ending the friendship.
1074158
you can only trust someone as well as you know them. some you can know in a little time, some take a lifetime. sorta depends on how much is shared, how much is hidden,how much is lied about & how much is in denial. \npay attention to your intuition & to what your eyes see. do not fool yourself with unreal expectations. not everyone lies, but a majority do. look for the exception, not the rule. quality in all things & experiences!
78110
It can take some time to overcome, but the first step I can think of is that you have to let it go. I have learned that if we hold on to the bad things that people do, we will turn away from society and become introverted - sometimes at the expense of our own happiness. \n\nAs far as "trusting men" goes, remember that each one of us is different in our own right, and none should be judged via the actions of another. \n\nThese "rules" have helped to heal me and bring my life back to balance with society. I am 38.
160473
Basically in life, everyone lies. If not they aren't homosapiens. To trust someone is a very difficult thing to do. Before you can start trusting someone, ask yourself this question, "Do I trust anyone in the first place?" You must sacrifice something in order to gain something. You are afraid that someone lied to to you. Is the matter a big one or a small one or it's just your feeling? The best way is to ask the person directly in a gentle manner. People lie but you must never keep that anger/worry in you. Learn how to forgive and forget as it could be the best remedie in living a happier life!
536853
you can only know that you trust someone unless you feel it in your heart if you know for a fact that they havent broken a promis or lied to you then you should be able to trust them but watch your back cuz ppl do change and i believe that ppl do deserve a second chance cuz everyone makes mistakes and they learn from them "sometimes" but after they break there second chance then they are no good and you dont deserve to trust them watch and listen for bullcrap lies if someone is telling you something and you dont really feel it in your heart and if something is telling you that something isnt right then usually its a lie so just be carefull and listen to your heart dont let anyone fool you and dont let your mind interfear with your heart and LOOK OUT FOR LIES!!!! and you sould be fine\n\nhope this helps\ngood luck
1118684
If you've hurt someone in the past, go to that person and ask for forgiveness. If you've been bad in the past, then its time for you to change your ways and be a good person. Have a positive outlook in life so you'll invite positive energy. Treat everyone equally.. and reach out to people around you. Do not mistreat people whom you think are inferior than you. Be kind, and help others.. and you'll see the changes happening one by one.
933256
Bless your heart! I feel for you, but the answer is-- you can't. All you can do is go through life and do the best you can and be yourself! People have to be responcible for their own actions, and if you're good to them no-one can say otherwise. If they do, doesn't look good on them. You just need people to love and understand you. You will do well in life, keep giving people a chance, just remember not too many chances! Good luck to you.
434859
You have to show them that you trust them, and believe them when they tell you something. They in turn will believe you are honest, and trust and have faith in you. It's a delicate thing that is hard to get back once it is broken with a lie or infidelity. Good Luck
294776
Reach out and touch someone first and they'll do the rest toward friendships. If old acquaintances leave, make new friends because that's whats life is all about. Diligence, respect and modesty pays off.. Hold on to you for if you can be a friend to yourself first by realizing you're worthy of just being you, you will have begun the ladder of friendship one step at a time. I have full confidence in you. Remember this. Yesterday was a dare to struggle to hold on to the past [acquaintances who called themselves friends], and today is a dare to win[new friends including yourself first, and then others]. I think your life is like a precious jewel that can never be replaced.  Good luck ,much warmth and joy, and much wisdom.
703384
some times you might have friends who told you man cannot be trusted but the reallt thing is you have try 1st before you jump to conclution.\n\naeeyo1314@yahoo.com
848066
talk to someone you trust.
624402
I have been almost in the same predicument as you, but my husband cheated on me first after 18 years of marriage. We have two children and not only did this effect me, it also had a great impact on the children as well. I did kick him out of the house and after a couple of weeks he realized that he wanted me back and to have life back to normal. Well that does not happen over night. The trust was gone, I was insecure with my self and felt that things could never be the same again. We remained living in the same house, seperate rooms, and trying to mend what happened, then he got into a bad accident as well. The accident was so bad that after leaving the hospital after 6 weeks, I had to nurture and nurse him everyday for the next year. After a complete year of this I cheated on him. I believe that I did this to fullfill the hurt,anxiety,and the insecurity I had about my self. He found out the same way by tapping the phone of reason's of suspition and confronted me. I did tell him the truth about everything. At that time I also said to him "How does it feel to have it happen to you, now we are even". Well set aside Love does hurt, and we all can be cruel either mentally or physically. We react weird to these typs of circumstances. But happy to say it has now been 7 years after this has all happened, and our love never died, it took a great deal of time for the trust factor to regain itself. I'm not saying that the trust will fully every be regained, but as your relationship heals and your thoughts and feeling are open and honest with each other this is a start. Marriage to me now is more important than I ever realized, I want to grow old together. Everyone is differant but place value on your love and family, and take baby steps. If all else fells and things can't be reconciled then be good friends for your children and yourselves. Good Luck. Good things take time.
1025165
If he doesn't trust you, don't bother staying.  You have to have trust in a relationship.  If he doesn't trust you already, even though you came back, its not going to get any better.\n\nDon't let him control your life.  In a good, trusting relationship, you can still live your life, with the comfort of a good, supporting partner.  Don't settle for less, don't stop being who you are!
66365
get a hobby,,,talk to a friend or family member you trust
354316
i had the same problem,and it wasn't good hey. maybe someone you trusted hurt you in someway(just an example) and now you find it hard to open up to others and let them in. well you have to learn to accept the fact that you are an amazing person who deserves friendship and love. you deserve good people around you,you deserve the pleasure of being yourself around others and forming relationships with people you care for, because you are your own person,you owe it to yourself to form relationships with people you feel for.