GUYS ANSWER THIS! want her out of my mind!!!!!!!how?  feel like stupid!?
344525
This sound so familiar, just stop your self from being alone and don't look or touch anything that is connected with her, and do things you like ( sports, games, hanging out with friends ) You will not forget her but at least you will not think as much on her, trust me I've been there.
460251
Don't do it. Those are exactly the kind of mind games that make life so rediculous sometimes. Why, if you truely liked him, or cared for him, would you want to make him jealous? If you had his best interest in mind, you wouldn't be plotting against him! Get over it and find someone who is interested in you, don't waste time with people who don't want you in their life.
1027416
Well... it sounds like there isn't anything you can do!!! If she wants to "dumb" for him, it's all up to her to relize it's time to get smart!!! She really isn't asking for your help in this because if she really wanted help, she would take your advise. Just be that ear for her. And if you feel like you don't want to be friends anymore, still be there, but keep her at a distance.
1083826
But you have nothing to feel stupid about. How were you supposed to know he'd do that? It's not a bad reflection on you that you wondered about whether or not he liked you. Those kind of things are part of life.
945590
I think you are obsessing about this girl.  It's not uncommon, we all did that...I know I did, boy after boy after boy when I was young!  The reason you can't sleep is you can't find an outlet for your feelings.  The only way to get rid of your restlessness and obsession is to let your feelings out or to act on them.  You know I bet if you were to talk to an adult about this...to a school counsellor, someone you trust to hold your confidence in this matter, they could help you.  Someone who knows you both could actually even pull you together, at least close enough so that you would TALK to this poor girl who is likely clueless to your feelings towards her.  \n\nWhat do you mean it's "a crush on her personality".  That sounds like you really admire her and have a great deal of respect for her, that she has qualities that you either like in a girl or would want for yourself.  Sometimes we obsess with people because we want to be like them.\n\nYou should try to get involved with her somehow, in conversation, in class, in a sport or event.  If all else fails you could write her a letter and tell her your feelings.\n\nJust say, hey, I have to get this off my chest because I can't stop thinking about you and I am very shy, but I think you are terrific.  I don't want you to panic.  I'm not going to stalk you, but I just had to let you know that you are the epitome of a woman and you just had to let her know....something like that where you are not saying I LOVE YOU!!! or making her feel scared or threatened or self-conscious. \n\nYou know even if you write these letters and never give them to her, you will do yourself a favour.  But you can't go on the way you are obviously...so one way or another the story has to end...or begin...the point is something will change when you make a move forward, maybe for the good, maybe for the bad, but at least you won't be "stuck"...which is the worst thing in the world...I know I've been there and sooner or later you gotta take the risk.\n\nYou sound like a really nice boy.  My daughter is goign through this phase in high school and I think girls like it when guys just be themselves and make a move and do anything...like this boy threw leaves in her hair today and she's telling me about it and yesterday he told her she looked goth with her hair the way she styled it...it's little baby steps that get you there...say nice things to girls...they like that...just be yourself as you would with any of your other friends and you're already friends with her brother...so let her see what a great guy you are when you're with him.  You're already IN there...get over that shyness boy! :~)
82751
Comfort your friend and tell her NOT TO DO ANYTHING! As in completely nothing... Tell her not to call her boyfriend, not to go to the guy's place, not to talk with his friends, anything that has to do with the guy. Play cool and she should act as if he's not a big loss. DON'T EVER MAKE HIM FEEL SPECIAL. You're all good and he's not the center of her universe. She was born without him anyway plus he is just an OBSTACLE. She'll get over him. Just always be there for your friend. Oh how I hate cheaters! Plus I believe in carma... I say good luck to that di*khead
668883
You obviously have more than a few issues…..Are you that desperate for attention?  You seem pretty young, so here is some advice for you:  No, you should not sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.  She’s your BEST friend right?  I doubt the guy is your soul mate or anything; he’s just a guy who is paying you some attention.  That may make you feel good now, maybe even good enough to make you do it, but afterwards, you will (or should) feel dirty, and he will most likely treat you like you’re dirty too.  He will never respect you.  Do you really want to be involved with a guy who you have to share?  He won’t be your boyfriend. (You will be alone on Valentine’s Day, Christmas, your birthday, etc.)  You will only have him when your friend is too busy for him. Your friend may or may not find out, but you will know what you did, and that will always weigh on you.  The guy is obviously a cheater, and has probably been around the block a few times.  What if he gives you a disease, like Herpes?  You will have it for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   If you think that you like sex now, wait a few years.  It gets a whole lot better.  You don’t want something dumb that you do right now ruining it for you for the rest of your life.  Have some respect for yourself.  Save sex for someone that you love and trust, someone who is concerned with your best interests. I promise you that you will never regret in the long run.  However, if you choose to sleep with him you will regret it, at some point.  Be a good person, stay away from the guy, and tell your friend that she is with a loser, before she gets hurt or catches something from him that ruins her life.  Since you don’t seen to have a whole lot of confidence, you should just concentrate on you for a while.  Stay in school; find out what makes you happy (not what you think makes other people like you), and just try to be a good person.  If you do, you will eventually be truly confident, comfortable, and happy with the person that you are.  You won’t want a loser like this guy anywhere near you, and you will most likely be pursued by some really great guys, because confidence is the most attractive quality that a person can have.
827768
She obviously already dissed you.  What you already know is enough to come to that conclusion.  From now on, do not regard her as close of a friend as you had thought or hoped.  Try talking and hanging with some other people, than just this group.  Also, look around for some other young hotties to set your eyes and energy on.  Give this friendship some space.  If it is a truly a good friendship it will still be there.  But, don't ask.  Let it be.  Do your own thing for a little bit.  I would not ask her anything because she knows your feelings for him.  If she needs to share with you something in regards with them then that is her job to come to you. She needs to be responsible for getting that out on the table with you.  Just be like whatever. If she cares about you and is close as you say, she will know to say something to you.
377632
oh my gosh, this just happened to one of my really good guy friends! tell her how you feel about her, if she doesn't want to be with you then she doesn't deserve you
797034
Did you talk to her/him?   Ask them out if they reject you, get over it- but try not to stare that definitely freaks a person out!  good luck
383895
hmmm, a guy just did that to me recently.  She has gone through a lot of thoughts in her head by now.  If you want any chance at all, you need to own up to the fact that you hurt her by not talking to her, and apologize and say you'd like another chance.\n\nWhy did you stop talking to her?
977427
You sound like a sweet and intelligent young girl...with feelings!  We have all experienced this once in our young lives and I want to tell you that you need to give yourself some room!  Don't worry about him or the guys, they will always be there, and believe me, you will be noticed!  Take some time to be young and enjoy your time developing into womanhood.  You are feeling strong desires and this is normal, but the question is, can you take control of these strong desires and urges?  We need to be careful these days since with everything going around and the traps we might fall into!  Don't be too hasty and jump into something you are not to sure about.  You do well to listen to people with experience and age.  Don't fight them and their advice!  They really know what's good for you and people your age.  If anything, give yourself some time too weigh things out and reflect on what you've heard.  Good luck and have fun!
215673
is she stupid or what?? do what you have to do to keep away and maybe you should talk to her about it too, just to have things out in the open with her and talking to her will also help you with keeping more away, now that she is paying attention....DON'T TAKE THE RISK OF LOSING YOUR FRIEND FOR A MAN !!!!!
206630
You poor thing! I can understand that you like him and it's hard seeing him with his girlfriend, especially after him kissing you. It was a stupid and bad thing for him to do. You could try ignoring him. Have a purely professional relationship with him. Talk to him before ignoring him and tell him that it has to be this way or you'll shatter (that's the way I would feel). Then get out there, be with friends, hang out, meet new guys. Maybe get drunk to get over him... jk. But you can't have him so you just have to move on. There's a guy that's better than him out there, all you have to do is make yourself available to him and off you go.
957080
Well buddy, i was in a situation like that.....college was the best thing that ever happened to me on that, cause i moved away from her and never saw her again.  If she was just your friend and dated a bunch of dudes and knew you liked her...she is NO GOOD...as far as love is concerned.....so you shoul'dve booted that b*tch to the curb long time ago, or made it strickly friendly.  But stickin to the plan and hoping is bad...those are false hopes, you can't make anyone love you, and you can't be so friendly that they'll somehow say "hey, he's a sweet guy..let me give him a chance"  that's straight up B*LLSH*T my friend, they will never do that, they will always see you as a friend and nothing more.  Chase after women who will give you a genuine chance the FIRST time..not after they date someone else....because if they really liked you or wanted you..they would've given you a chance a LOOOOONG time ago.  Women a lot of times just don't know what the hell they want, and they don't find out until much later, but by then it's too late because they've either slutted the hell out of themselves, or just been through so much drama that they become high maintenance....you don't want to get involved with that....because if they can't appreciate you for you at that time what the HELL makes them think they can appreciate you now?  You ain't too good to be her friend, she wasn't a friend in the first place if she knew you wanted her and she blew it off and never confronted you about her feelings.  It's called, can't deal with lovesickness, and that's what she caused with every moment you were with her anyway....so don't feel bad, just move the hell on...find someone who will appreciate you....not someone who'll just lead you on for their own selfish support.
778595
she's messing with YOUR MIND. it's quite fun to do actually...\nbut i could ask you the same question...why are guys so confusing???
765532
Sadly and embarrassingly enough - I know that situation and have been on the girl side. I loved my new bf and just could bear the fact that my ex is just not noticing and forgetting me. Stupid enough I have been to start calling him and even meeting with him saying that I want his friendship. But really I just wanted him to be mine again even though I didn't really need him!!!\n\nBe careful women are fools!! It might not be the same situation, but based on what you said and what I've had it really looks like it!