some husband and  wife hesitate to sex each other .specially  (arranged marriage) what they suppose to do?
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Well, it certainly is a lot nicer when you know someone to have sex with them.  I guess I would suggest going slow, and get to know one another.  The man should woo her as if he was not married to her, if he wants her to love him.  Take her out for dinner, buy her flowers,  make her feel special.  A woman needs to try to be kind, and accepting, and I suppose she is a little afraid, as she does not know this man.  In any kind of relationship, the people in it need to work together to make it work.  Respect goes a long way.
170221
actully wat happened in acient times people from one tribe take girls from other tribe for sex. so marriage were formed to allow such forceful act.
955284
you are married and you cant even figure out how to initiate sex???  oy!
658607
they need to step back and re evaluate the situation. I applaud her for not wanting to have sex before marriage and hope she sticks to that. but if he doesnt want to marry the he really isn't in love with her. He needs to respect her wishes to marry, that is the only way in which she can truly feel he loves her enough to respect her. If he is that dead set against marriage then he may not be the one for her. yes she also need to think about what he wants and is she is willing to put her hole belief system on the line. is she willing to give up her beliefs and trash everything she wants to be with him? He's not going to why should she
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I think this works best if one of you is less religious and the other one is responsible for the religion of the children.  That seems to be the way Shah Rukh Khan and his wife have it worked out -- he isn't very involved in his religion (Islam), so the children are more Hindu than Muslim (or so it appears from what I have heard expressed on talk shows).  \n  Children will be the biggest problem inside the marriage -- what will you teach them?  Outside the marriage, it depends on where you live.  I think Muslims may have more of a problem with your marriage than Hindus will, but outside those two religions, I don't think anyone will care.
608396
Marriage.  Sadly, even that isn't 100% secure for some.
1092473
Never. Unless they are married. God gave us sex as an intimate expression of love between husband and wife and for procreation. Sex solidifies the bond between husband and wife. It's not supposed to be a casual thing between unmarried people.
765399
My own viewpoint---------I think it would be horrible if both the man and the woman are virgins on their wedding night.  Neither would know what they are doing, and, well----it'd just be tough.  They do not give classes in this matter----at least, I am sure the Christian church doesn't.  Maybe the man could get a copy of the KAMA SUTRA beforehand?
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niranjan, hi!\n\ni don't want to be rude, but it does sound like you're a little narrow-minded when it comes to sex...\n\ni want to make a few analogies before i come to what i'm trying to say... a generation earlier, they believed that non-veg food should be eaten only rarely and that it's bad for health... we know better today.  they also didn't believe that women should go to work, and that white people were Gods, that caste system was correct and that women are not equal to men.\n\ntoday we know things are different.  our ancestors believed that love was bad, and that only arranged marriages work...\n\nsimilarly, you need to understand that sex is a bodily function.  there is no more meaning to the idea that you should only have sex with one's life partner... what happens if your partner is not compatible with you?  what if you never enjoy sex again?  you only have one life... you won't have another chance.\n\nsex is a function like eating or drinking.  everyone masturbates when they can't find a partner.  when you do have a partner, enjoy it to the fullest.\n\nthere's nothing wrong with people having sex before marriage.  it's perfectly normal, and is not a "danger" that needs to be curbed...\n\ndo open your eyes to the new world around you.  culture is the person inside you... it's not the acting you do in front of society and family.  be for real.\n\nlive your life fully.  you only have one chance.  just make sure you don't hurt anyone else in the process...\n\nenjoy!
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I do not think it is a good idea. How do you find out whether or not you are compatible in that way if you wait until marriage?  What if on the wedding night, one believes in the missionary position only, and the other likes to expirement?  What if one likes it in the shower and the other thinks it should only be in the bedroom?  What if one really enjoys sex, the other feels it is something they say "let's get it over with" to?
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If neither one of you is willling to make an effort then you've already lost this one, 50% of your married life is spent in the marital bed, more than any part of the household. If you cannot find sanctuary, salvation and more importantly fullfilment in the bedroom, then what else is there to hope for?
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Relax, you don't know each other that well yet, particularly since this in an arranged marriage.  If he takes offense to this, wait for him to calm down, apologize and explain to each other those things that you can't tolerate.  Maybe he doesn't like being told to shut up.  You have some things that cross the line with you I'm sure.  This situation is particularly tough, but you'll get used to it.  Just give him some time to cool down and quit freaking.
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it sounds like they want to sleep together, so if you aren't comfortable with that, you should communicate it clearly with your wife and friend.\n\nsome cultures are more flexible and wouldn't have a problem with those 2 getting it on.
215697
They SHOULD go hand in hand... but it doesn;t always happen that way. Some people use marriage as a refuge against lonliness and are willing to make the necessary compromises for it.
201534
People have sex out of wedlock and cheat on their spouse when they have no morals.
17292
wow......this is a problem.....well not really....i would say try to keep the peace but that is no advise.....well it's a good sign they are not having sex but then again you never know...i hope the best and i can tell you that family members do messs up in life because no one is perfect but try to support them....once again hope you the best of luck.....sorry i know this is not a great answer
570357
some people are really nosy...some people truley think they can help.  but i think that the decision is completely that of the married couple.