I am going a little too far over my head by dating a girl with 2 kids??
338400
If you have to ask, then maybe.... Slow down a little. You're just dating, right? If your feelings start to become more serious, look closely. It's a lot to take on. Figure out if you really want that. It's a big decision. Don't take it lightly, but don't run away either. It doesn't have to be something you can't handle. YOU get to decide.
319037
Relax, it won't be easy but there are good guys out there who are interested in dating a woman like you.  When I was single, I had no problem with dating a woman who had kids.  The key is to be picky and always put your kids first.  Unfortunately there are a lot of bad people out there who will try to prey on you and your kids so don't put up with any crap and don't settle for anyone less than what your looking for.
140504
Umm .. that relationship comes with to much baggage. A baby and a husband you dont need!! You can surly find a nice single girl.
202926
OUCH. \nWow that sucks. Yeah if she is dating someone else already then she should have had enough time to put some things together for your child to have. I would go about it gently so as not to pi** her off, where then your child may not get anything, but I would really try to maybe talk to her and say, you know, *insert child's name here* really misses their dad and it would really mean a lot to them if they could have some things to hold on to to remember them with. That's a tough one, sorry I don't have any brilliant advice.
899416
It's going to take a special kind of guy. Most guys want to be number one in your life, and as you know, they will always be number 3 to you. That and they won't like confrontation with your ex. \nEither way, you should try to date without letting the kids meet your next guy for months. It's not healthy for the kids to get any more confused than they already will be. And you don't want them getting attached if it's not serious.
579956
I do not buy that.  Having kids is an amazing adventure, and you should not miss out on it.  However, do not do it unless you have the time and money to devote to them, and the confidence that you will both be together to raise them.
1168967
Do what's best for your kids first and what meets your financial needs. Follow your heart with respect to the rest of it and see how things work out. Sounds like you have an amicable understanding of each other so who knows, this could be a good thing more than you realize.
1116445
It sounds like doesn't mind the questions but it is the ones that she can't answer that is when she treats you in this manner.\n\nYou should reaffirm her that if she does not know the answer that it is OK and that  the two of you can look for the answer together.\n\nThat is what I do with my kids.  If I don't know the answer that I will find if I can or we can do it together.
11157
I think you are just doing great. Keep this relationship.\nIt's better to relate to someone through culture and language than through age.\n\nBTW, I'm 24, and I've dated girls 6 years old younger than me and girls 5 years old older than me. Perfectly OK.
529004
Maybe.  The children is tricky, but what is in the middle?  Besides 4 1/2 hours.  Take it slow, but if she really seems to be the one for you (and you for her) think about possibly somewhere in the middle perhaps?
451578
The facts about kids and nationalities and cooking don't really matter.........unless u don't want 2 have 2 look after kids,in which case go 4 S.Who do u like better?Then that is the answer.I think (if u don't mind kids)that u should go with M as she was there when u needed her.S just suddenly turns up and says she is interested in u,when u and M were perfectly happy.S wasn't there when u really did want her,so u should tell her that and say thanks,but no thanks.Then i think u should tell M what had happened so,in case she had any doubt,she realizes how special u r 2 her.In the end though,just follow your heart and do whatever u have 2 do 2 find your true love.
480381
Don't get back in a relationship with someone just for the kids sake.  It never works!  If you don't feel a connection with her, other than the baby, then a relationship probably won't last that long.  Just telling you because I know too many of my friends (including me) that's been there and done that!
717787
I have 2 little ones, and I would think that it would be easier for me if someone took the kids away for a bit.  Talk to your daughter about her feelings, then make a decision.
924786
I am dating a woman who has kids also from a marriage. If she really loves you and is comfortable with who she is, she will explain and defend her life choices to her children no matter how difficult. I understand that could be very difficult for her, but she must make an important decision. If she isn't strong enough to live this life, she might consider living a different one.\n\nAs for yourself, you should decide how much you are willing to deal with this. If it continues this way, I am sure you will reach your limit soon. Your hurt will grow and grow and grow until one day you will say you cannot take it anymore! Take it from me, I have been there!!\n\nHave some serious discussions and trust your heart!
818644
it is common now for parents to get there kids involved in so many groups such as the ones you  mentioned. \n some studies have shown that it really not healthy to have to much pre planned supervised  time and no time to play or just be with friends with out it being something that an adult is overseeing. \n will she slow down i don't know but i do know that the studies say the kids sometimes end up burnt out from all of it and just refuse to continue with it all. \n i think that it might be a fantastic thing for her to have a boyfriend  that guy might be you . who ever the guy is he will have to be aware of her schedule and deal with it until she changes it herself. \n i say talk to her attempt to get her out on a date or just to spend some time with you even if that starts with just walking home with her after school . \n good luck to both of you .
982448
Hi. Look this is a no win situation for you. I know as I've been there.The best thing to do is ask your man to join you no matter what the situation is. Your kids have to get use to the idea that your have a life and you are entitled to be able to get on with it just as they do. They don't ask your permission as to who they date and don't expect you to be in a mood because of it. My partner and i nearly ended up apart when we tried to please everyone. You have to think of you and your boyfriend as he will be there for you when you need him and they wont as they have there own life to get on with AS you have. Good Luck and Merry Christmas and a happy new year
748450
I THINK THIS YOUNG LADY IS PLAYING GAMES WITH YOU\nI UNDERSTAND THAT BOTH 0F YOU HAVE THINGS GOING\nON IN YOUR LIFE.BUT TI SOUND LIKE SHE NOT REALLY\nTHE ONE FOR YOU. ALSO THE FACT THAT SHE 24 ,MAY\nHAVE SOMETHIING TO DO  WITH WHAT GOING ON WITH\nHER. ALSO SHE MAY HAVE SOMEONE ELSE IN THE PICTURE\nAS WELL.