why would a man who is obviously having feelings for a women give her the cold shoulder?
353795
well fist off he may have realized what he did to his wife was wrong. that should have been enough to send him running from your cheating ass! you both are dirty rotten cheating ass*holes. your spouses are to good for you guys. go home and treat the man you married better.
235749
It sounds to me like he has some insecurity issues when it comes to women, and he needs to be constantly reassured no matter where he is. He probably does honestly care for you (at least from what you wrote), but he can't truly love anyone else until he learns to love himself, and if he does this to every female that crosses his path, then he is not there yet. The best thing you can do in my opinion, is let him know how you feel, and when he starts freaking out and calling you names, simply tell him that you deserve a guy who will treat you better and not make you feel uncomfortable..then walk AWAY. If the behavior continues, there is not much more you can do except leave him and let him work out his issues. Good Luck.
696979
i hate men like you, just because your g/f has put on some weight does not mean you have to dump her, who cares what anyone else thinks and says, you dont deserve a gf but its obvious your not intrested in how a women feels or who she is as a person, all your worried about it if she is good looking or not.\nyou are the type of guy that makes men look bad and are only intrested in looks rather then who a person is.
496790
IF a girl gives you the cold shoulder then she could be playing hard to get9 hopefully not IMPOSSIBLE to get).\n\nSmile at her and if she smiles back or so then try again if not then move on to another chick.Beauty is on the outside. you fall in love with the person on the inside.
1054581
He has an insecurity complex. He's hoping if he focuses all his attention on her that she will never leave him. Most of the time this behavior 'smothers' the other person & it backfires on them. It has nothing to do with you personally. It is his own insecurity. Just let it run it's course & when he comes to you bummed after she dumps him, tell him how it made you feel & how it needy he looked to all his friends. He'll agree, but prob continue the pattern the rest of his life. Sorry
705036
I have reservations when you say you have "feelings" for this lady? I wonder are these feeling recipricated? Are you getting clear signs that she has feelings for you or are these feelings of yours entirely related to unmet needs of your own? This situation can go one of three ways.....\n(a) If she has feeling for you and is consciously sending out these signals then the relationship may develop into something more.\n(b) If these feeling you have are a result of unmet needs of your own then it is a very dangerous situation and your friendship may be doomed (should you try to take things further).\n(c) If (a) is the case then the relationship may develop but I doubt it will be a sincere and lasting parnership. Why? Because she has only recently committed to a life with someone else. If she is willing to sacrifice that relationship already then she is either selfish or very immature (probably both).\nSorry, just my thoughts.\nMichael
332619
This isn't about being ashamed/disgraced. It is simply a form of stating that any mystery between the two people is gone. The reality of the situation is that there is no game left, the lady has made her feelings clear by her action of turning the man down. Her "mask" of mystery has been taken off, showing her true feelings.
699198
The classic case of a woman getting back at you after being rejected...she felt your avoidance and it definitely left an impact. If she didn't feel anything, things would be the same. She doesn't like this guy! She wants you to be jealous...I know it's childish but that's the only way she feels she'll get a reaction from you, to see if you feel any hurt or the same hurt she felt. I understand office romances can be harmful but live a little! I dare you to ask her out.
977221
We women have this awful bloody problem that when things go wrong we automatically assume it's OUR fault or something WE did!!!!\n\nSome men don't like women who have an opinion or a voice!\n\nTo be honest maybe it's good that he has ended the relationship, he sounds like he may have more baggage than you know about. It shows commitment to meet someones family and if that's whats scared him off your better off without him, girl!
721914
Because guys don't spend TIME discussing their FEELINGS aloud.  Men don't demean their personal "relationships" by feeding an obsession to "discuss" them.\n\nUnless.  They are seeking to manipulate a woman they don't care about.  If they are this kind of Casanova, then, yes, they are articulate about how they "feel."\n\nSo the guy who speaks long and eloquently about how he feels is very likely to rip you off!
201643
I have known girls to feel rejected when a man doesn't insist on sleeping with them immediately.  I know it is stupid, but she probably thinks less of you because of it.  Anyone who thinks like that isn't worth your effort anyway, if you are actually worried about how she would feel about it.  As to whether she had any feelings or not, she was probably too confused to know herself, so she couldn't tell you one way or the other.
1137961
Personality clashes are one thing, disrespect is another. If he cannot properly handle a woman who disagrees with him, then he is not going to treat you right, either.
215557
For some reason you are drawn to women who are:\n1. Already needy, and seeking a partner to accept that and feed it.\n\n2. You are allowing them to dump too many personal problems on you.\n\nI want and need a friend and companion in my partner, but by no means do I feel that I can use them as a personal therapist! I know that women like to have a man who will listen and offer a shoulder to cry on when they need it, but in your case I would have to say you may need to toughen up a bit. Don't let yourself be used in this way, it is manipulation plain and simple. You may want to rethink what type of women you are dating. Seriously. Your partners needs and yours should be similar, so if you are leaving yourself open for this kind of behavior you need to step back and form a new game plan. Good Luck.
538957
Yes it was because he's reasons for going out w/u weren't because he liked you.  He's an ungreatful skum bag who should feel bad cause he prob. missed out on a great person.  You deff. gave him the right answer.  He shouldn't have done it in the first place.
240583
'Cause it sounds like you're trying to protect yourself from him turning you down, or making fun of you. Us gals sometimes have to test the fella, to see if he's sincere. It's unfortunate that some gals have to do that, but if they've been hurt before, they learn to protect their heart from jerky guys. <*)))><
165954
Wish it would but guys just don't speak the language women do so they will probably think that nothing's the problem if you don't speak up.  Chances are, when he finally notices that you're giving him the cold shoulder and asks you why and you reply "don't you get it?" as if it were obvious to him why, he will genuinely be surprised and offended at your drama queen antics and be more upset at you for not telling him there was a problem in the first place.
180777
He probably doesn't want to give his new girlfriend the wrong impression about you and his relationship. Yeah, I know, it doesn't make sence, but when we find a girl that we really like, it makes us do things that aren't typically things we'd do. Plus, he's probably out more and simple has let it slip his mind. Don't take it personally, just guys showing interest in one thing at a time.