why do so many people still have a problem with interracial relationships?
353082
In older people especially, I think it is envy.  They felt much more restricted in their choice of mate when they were young, and so they envy you the freedom they lacked.  Try to be sympathetic, but ignore their bad manners.\n\nSomething similar may be said about those who feel negative about children who are clearly of mixed race.  To me, these kids are among the most attractive of all.  I can't help thinking that old scowlers are thinking, "If I had let myself love that one in my past, this might have been my child."  At least some of the time, I'm sure that envy is once again involved.  The kids are far too appealing, personally, to have any other explanation work.
441654
When you discover the answer to this question, let me know..lol I don't know what the attraction is, but you're right, you do see more black and __________ (fill in the blank with any nationality) than you ever have. Maybe because racial boundaries are becoming a little less stringent and people are acutally becoming more socially tolerant to mixed relationships. I personally have never dated outside of my own race, but feel that if you want that option you should not be judged for it. I mean. you can't really help WHO you fall in love with. Peace.
433377
When will people start taking steps of their own to end this kinda bull. Why can't people just like someone for who they are as a whole and not have to single out which race they like better? Come on...be a part of the solution!
385655
Cross racial realtionships are generally not as well accepted as same race relationship so for that reason are probably more difficult, but I wouldn't say bad.
191238
they are very accepted in these recent years. it's not as uncommon as it used to be, mainly because it is more accepted now. people feel more comfortable with making their own decisions based on their happiness rather than what their families would think. alot of criticism and racism towards biracial couples were sprung from old time thinking, such as grandparents and greatgrandparents. but as time goes on and less of these people exist in the world today, it's becoming easier for society to accept biracial couples and that is such a great thing!
416451
People are afraid of what they don't know. They are also afraid of change. \n\nThey think "If we all start loving everyone, regardless of race, creed or color, why then, we'd all be equal! And, goodness, we can't have that!" \n\nA person's quality is never determined by their skin color, but by their actions... by their heart. Until everyone realizes this, hate will exist. Please don't let it get you down. You just love with all your heart, and do what you know is best. Meet stares with a smile. Meet hostility with a soft word. Take the wind out of their sails. \n\nBest of luck you and your girlfriend!\n\n(and, for the record, I'm as white as I can be... but I know that people are just people, no matter what)
82351
people like that dont have morals or just f'n jealous cuz they cant find the the connection of a love that dont involve race relgion or sex gay straight whit black brown yellow pale which ever way you prefer they are words !we all bleed the same damn color so how bout that !i could go on with this all nite people need 2 deal with their insecurities but as long as we all live and breathe the same air and share the same planet it will always be that glare that people give 2 interatial couples
342289
Man... some of you people have real issues!  My wife is black and I see none of any of this crap some of the answers have been spewing!\n\nSome of you need to wake up, throw away those stereotypes and look at reality.\n\nWhere I live you see more and more BF/WM couples.  Like another answer said, this is the fastest growing IR relationship type.  \n\nWhen people start to realize people are people, regardless of race, then, this country can really start to do great things!
286476
Race doesn't come into play for me when meeting, having friends or dating.  Everyone is a human being and the color on the outside has nothing to do with the person on the inside.  Everyone is the same physically on the inside, but race, creed or religion has nothing to do with "who that person is".  It's all about what jives and what doesn't.
1116604
I'm a sista but I'll answer this question too.\nUnfortunately, we are all victims of our own cognitional biases, victims of inability to find intrinsic beauty in all people.  The epistemic limitations to which we undeservingly confine ourselves to, is the ‘waterlooish’ inhibitor of social progressiveness, worldwide brotherhood, and general happiness.   This is why love knows boundaries.  It's time to overcome our psychological conditioning, let go, and simply just love...regardless of race or ethnicity.\n\nP.S. Grow up, 33.  What are you? 3?  Seek professional help; It's very unhealthy to hate your own race.  Don't ever e-mail me again or you will be reported for harassment.
824468
To some families race is important.  If you read the bible, you will see why some families believe that races should not mix.  He is not the one with the problem.  It seems to be his family.  If he is not strong enough to break it to his family...he is not strong enough to be in an interracial relationship.
723038
it is a sad, mixed up world and always has been and probably will be for some time. If you notice, those that are racists, or anything else that is negative have a problem with themselves. They are unhappy about something in their life and that is another whole story.  However, those that are easily acceptable to  others, have finally figured out the "Big Picture"
45009
I agree. There are too many orphaned children out there to exclude stable, loving homosexual couples from raising them and giving the kids a chance at a good home life. It's really time for our society to come to terms homosexual couples the same way we've come to terms with interracial couples in recent history (though many people are still against interracial couples, at least the law is on their side). Just because you were raised with a certain belief doesn't mean it was correct. Keep your mind open, try to be understanding/empathetic of people who are different from you, and evolve your thinking. Don't you think we have enough problems in the world that we shouldn't go out of our way to make things harder for people who are a little different, but are no threat to anyone and just want to live their lives like the rest of us? Peace, love & understanding folks. :o)\n\nFurthermore, one of my good friends in college was raised by two moms. He's a great guy, better adjusted than many of my friends who grew up in "normal" families, and has two of the coolest parents I've ever met.
108533
yes i there still is. but it is in little dribs and drabs here and there. People are so afraid to be out and out racist that they say and do things quitely. For instance they may not give a black person as much work because they think they are lazy and not dependable. They may not serve them at a resturant because they think they won't get a tip. (See the question about black people at resturant). What makes me mad his how white people get mad when we say that actions against us are racist. but what they don't seem to understand is that if you are so upset that we play the "racecard" then stop dealing it! know the reason why we feel the way we do  and have some empathy. Look I am not blaming todays white youth for the problems of slavery. but if you know the history you would try to change it!
242143
I suspect that inter-racial dating / mingling is considered to be a taboo act because of the values which were instilled in us by our parents and other "elders," if you will.  Many of us younger people have either parents, grandparents, or even great-grandparents who would have been pariahs during their day for dating outside their race.  It was just historically something that people didn't do out in the open.  Sure, racial intermingling has been around forever, but because of conservative thinking and religious beliefs, and any other way to over-classify something and make people scared (read as ignorant) no one cared to express their active or passing interest in other races. Fortunately, in this day and age, people are a lot less close-minded, and a lot more happiness minded.  It's your life and your happiness, you have the right to love whomever you wish.  \n\nCheers.
138590
why not?  skin colour is crap, anyway.  all humans came from africa!  the colour of one's skin is simply an adaptation to light levels that humans as a whole have evolved with.  any bastard who tries to make y'feel bad for "interracial" dating, just ignore them or throw a small dog at their heads.\n\nwith each passing generation, people become more tolerant.  look back at our culture.  there was some 60's song that went "jeremiah was a bullfrog, but he was still a good friend of mine".  (for all you younger people, "bullfrog" was another, Not so nice, way of saying "black".)  by today's standards, that sounds quite racist, but back then, it was progressive.  in another 8 generations or so, interracial dating won't be as big a deal in this country...  well...  at least between whites and blacks.  i hope for better, but human nature does suck, so i can't be too optomistic just yet!
1167211
Because so many times the people getting married are too young and do not know what they are getting into. then they want to blame each other for the problem. \n\nMarriage is to easy to start and hard to end\n\nI was one of these silly girls. At 19 my parents wanted me to marry my first husband simply because he asked after knowing each other for 2 months. We were married for 5 years and he would beat me. I left him and took our two sons with me.\n\n5 years later I married the most wonderful man in the world. Racism is not an issue he is Arab and I am white. My family loves him as well. we have been married for a year and will be married for the next 100.