How do you deal with anger issues?
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i think once u pretend to b happy u just cant stop that is my prob at school i am so happy n i luv to be there n i just cant make myself stop i useto hate it so pretend to be happy 4 a day n people will notice n u will like it a lot\nhave a nice day
56679
Anger is not a real emotion. It is a defense mechanism to hide a deeper emotion. \n     \nFor example...\n     If you find out your significant other is having an affair, you would think you are angry, but you are not. You are in fact, SAD. Sad that you were cheated on and you are using anger to cover it up.\n     Although sadness is usually the emotion anger covers up, there are others (fear, surprise, shock etc.)\n\n\nThe best way to handle anger is to recognize anger as a cover and instead act on the true emotion hidden underneath. \n     I.E. If you recognize that you are not angry but sad, you are less likely to say or do things you will regret.
869681
Talk with her.  You need to get counseling for anger management.  If she is willing to stay with you then let her know whats going on, she may need to join you at some point.  If not, you still need to get counseling for yourself and for any future relationships.
100086
Stress in your life will find an outlet whether it's good or bad. Watch the movie, anger management, it will help you answer this question. Listen for the part Jack Nickelson has when he describes angry people.
212438
Lower your sodium intake on a daily basis. Every time you feel anger beginning to develop try holding your breathe for as long as you can.... it will temporarily restrain anger and help you develop a rational outlook tourd the situation. Take your multi-vitamins... When ever our bodies are under nourished we usually respond to it in a negative way and blame it on the situation at hand. Try weight lifting it definitely helps alot with anger and stress... BIG TIME. The last thing I really want suggest is a supplement called ''Rhodiola extract '' this stuff helped me out dramatically and I have felt much better ever since.
140071
Tell him or her about Anger Management or some Therapist. Cause he/she needs help really fast. And if that don't work, it maybe very tough, but honey, you may have to find another job. I hope I was helpful.
67609
- Love him.\n- Explain him the bad outcomes of angry when he was cool.\n- Tell him some great stories which winning through   patience.\n- Teach him how to differentiate the normal tense state while he is getting angry.\n- Let him alone and make him realize.\n- Controlling angry is easy... but one need to put prolonging efforts according to his mind set.
357452
why do u repress it? start expressing it. there is nothing wrong in being angry. if some people around u can not tolerate it they have to leave and they re not your real friends. be yourself and show your feelings. those who love u for what u re can tolerate a lot trust me.
491065
For me I sought counseling for that. I saw a Christian counselor that helped me with anger and bitterness towards people and it helped me TREMENDOUSLY!!  Or, you could seek counseling or see a psychiatrist for help as well. If you are a member of a church, seek help from people there. Get help from pastors, elders, or other people in general there. I hope the best for you.
1167439
usually i would back off and let the angry person be angry and get the anger off his or her chest.... whoever it might be coz, a person who is angry usually is too tense to deal with.... after the person cools off then you try to talk and get the problem that the person is facing and try to help or solve it together.... it might be you that caused the anger so you might as well try to not make this person angry again...
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The first thing is, you need to recognize the problem which you have. \n\nI used to struggle with that too. I had a lot that went on in my life that was no good. I talked to a counselor and told him that I am an angry person. He told me that I am a good person, but I need to get my anger under control\n\nHe told me to remember that we choose our emotions whether we know it or not. He said that there is no point in getting angry over something that we have no control of and it is especially important that we don't not lash out at our loved ones. \n\nMaybe you should try counseling for a while. \nI feel for you and I think it's awesome that you are willing to admit that you have a temper problem. A lot people don't have the guts to do that. THey think that everyone else is the problem
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Yep. I believe anything is possible. Especially this. I used to be very angry myself. Anger management classes didn't work. They pissed me off even more. But through years of therapy, and counseling i learned how to find happiness within myself, and find other more positive healthy ways of expressing myself. I learned that it's okay to be angry. Everyone gets that way whether they want to believe it or not. But anyways, yes of course you can always change yourself. I found peace in writing poetry. and listening to relaxing music. So that's what i do when i'm flustered. I write how i'm feeling. It may be some ugly and harsh poetry but in the end i feel alot better. So what i would suggest is find something you like to do, and find peace in that. Good Luck to ya.
1075043
i m a student n i can easily understand ur pro. wt u can do is just be calm n when u hv anger eat something n think abt something that went best in ur life.
144498
Well, it's hard to say -- I'm a Anger/Rage Councelor and grew up with Anger/Rage issues and in a home with the same issues so I completely understand -- So it depends on the degree of the anger -- Is it anger or is it a rage? -- People always tell you that anger is wrong -- First of all it's not wrong, it's self defense -- Anger is not evil and it's alright to be angry -- It's what you do with the anger that creates the problems -- When a person is in full blown rage that rage has to be directed somewhere to begin with until it's learned response to control, which will come in time and with age -- I used to go and beat the heak out of pine trees (I hate pine trees) until I come down off the rage high -- And anger/rage does produce and give a high -- And those harmones have to be directed and dealt with -- Just having someone telling you to get over it only makes it worse (always made me worse because I had every right feeling the way I did) -- Then I learned how to identify the factors that would uncontiously lead me to those fits of anger -- I didn't know it at the time, and would have sworn nothing was causing it, but there was -- Frustration from other areas of my life caused it -- Not feeling in control of other areas of my life or things happening to me or to my family or in my family -- Things I couldn't control and things I'd never be able to control -- All I could control was my actions and reactions to things around me -- I could go on and on -- But I would suggest to get a book called "The Anger Workbook" and it will help you start identifing your anger stressers -- And if you would like to talk further you can contact me for free at theangelknight.com -- I have 25 years of counceling experience and a Bachelors Degree plus I'm a State approved Therapeutic Foster Parent -- Helping those with Anger/Rage issues is what I do -- Hope this helps -- Good Luck and Take Care --
988583
Well, this is kinda hard, but there is hope. I had a similar problem. I didn't used to know how to deal with my anger. I hid it and covered it and blew up at stupid times, until finally I did something I really regret. My gf hit me so I hit her back, and I went to jail. She could have left me, I deserved it, but she stuck by me. She helped me turn my life around and now we are happily married with a beautiful baby boy, 4 months old. we've been together for 5 years, married for 3, and it's great. But it wouldn't have been if I didn't go to counseling and get the help I needed (that took some time to realize too, over a year of meetings once a week for a few hours in group therapy), and if she wasn't strong enough emotionally to deal with it. We've proved our love over time, and we've never been happier. So stick in there IF he's willing to fix how he handles his emotions (anger is a motion, just like happiness or sadness, etc). The number one ingredient that has made the long term difference in all our problems/challenges, is having God at the center of our life. Without him, we both have been too weak at times, and would have fallen apart. With him, our love will never fail!
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I highly recommend a book called Feelings Buried Alive Never Die.  There is a simple emotional release technique described in the book that, when done each day for 5-10 minutes, can help ease extreme emotional upsets and even some physical ailments associated with emotional problems.\n\nI've used this example before in another answer, but I'm going to use it again:\n\nI live in small, cramped quarters and often find myself bumping into things.  When I bumped into things in the past I would immediately become OVERWHELMINGLY ANGRY.  The anger troubled me greatly, much more than the momentary pain from bumping into things.  I used the emotional release technique in the book and I've not been angry from bumping into things again.  \n\nAlso, I used to suffer with chronic, ever present anxiety/guilt feelings.  I used the technique for that as well and I've felt peaceful and content with my life and circumstances and relationships overall since.  \n\nI believe I will have to continue to use the technique, but it's totally worth it!  Please look into it!
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well, first of all, ask yourself what you want... then confront the girl if you are ready to.. then tell her what u feel, express everything and if its not enough, take some time off alone and reflect with what happened. talk to other people, share what bothers you, in that way, your anger or maybe rage might somehow released.. keep yoursel busy as well, it might help..