FOR THE GUYS!!! do kids matter?
336746
For an average occidental man kids mean HIS kids. Its a question of culture and it doesnt mean its a right way to think. Personaly i always thought that children have one mother and every male must be a father as it is wroteen in our DNA -this is scientific result of researches as in prehistoric times females were mother of their kids but any male had the obligation to feed and protect any child and usually he didnt know if this or that child comes from him or not. In our time there is a question of money and property. If you have children but for some reason no man -husband- it means that the man who stays with you must share with you and cover the cost of your children and take the whole responsability. Lot of men cannot accept this but in my opinion its wrong. Its too difficult to make a male understand that it doesnt matter finally who is the father and that the important is to help the mother to grow up her kids. Your question is really very interesting and touches one of the biggest tabous of our occidental societies. Anyway i m sure there are men that can think in a more honest and natural way. So dont worry i m sure there is somebody for you out there! Have a nice day!
319037
Relax, it won't be easy but there are good guys out there who are interested in dating a woman like you.  When I was single, I had no problem with dating a woman who had kids.  The key is to be picky and always put your kids first.  Unfortunately there are a lot of bad people out there who will try to prey on you and your kids so don't put up with any crap and don't settle for anyone less than what your looking for.
151506
i don't see why not? i have dated alot of guys who had kids and i had no problems with the guy (regarding the child), the kid(s) or the baby mamas.there are boundries u dont cross where the child is concerned.i had no bad experiences, u got 2 know the child comes first its his priority.he's going 2 have to get child space and my dear dont forget he's going to have to be in contact with the child's mother.
631084
I have children, so Its not out of the question to date a woman with kids. Usually when there are chidren involved the woman is more stable and knows what type of man she wants to be with. Which is a good thing, plus when/if the relationship works out a man wins the love of not only a good woman but a beautiful child that loves him unconditionally. How do woman feel about dating a man with children?
764427
IT DOES NOT MATTER!!!  Are you happy? Healthy? Comfortable? Who cares what a bunch of horny guys who would jump your bones in a heartbeat think?
845166
I prefer to date any girl who is good @ heart, is helpful and sincere and generally has a good aura about her. I doesn’t matter to me if she’s a single mom or a single girl. Character is not defined by having kids. I however do think that single moms are more caring and compassionate as they have gone through tough times (possibly) and have kids to take care of as well. I’ve never dated one though, not that I won’t if I’m presented with the chance. The chance never came for me to do so.
122868
Well, in my opinion, i think it is a little too young to have children. I mean it is a big responibility. You should think it over before having kids. Have you found the right guy, and are you in love? Questions like that! Hope this helps!!!! ^.^
224814
Completly depends on the woman. You see single mothers have a reputation (which I'd say was justified) of looking for a man to enter a comited relationship, to suport her and the child and to give her child a father figure. Ofcourse this is about as effective in warding of men as a woman with a beard... sorry girls but guys just don't like entering a relationship with the idea of commitment. But that doesnt mean we don't want it, just we will only think about it when enough in love for the idea not to terrify us. \n\nIf the single mother has the right attitude, and is not too needy or clingy, good fun and everything else that comes with being a good woman, then there is no reason for not dating her. Chances are your kids are absaloutly adorible too. If commitment IS what she is looking for then just allow him the control in the relationship to think about that when it occours to him. Hope it's clarified things alittle.
347980
of course a guy will date you!  but you're gonna have to grow up pretty fast.  having a kid is THE major responsibility in life and that should be your primary concern.  just make sure the father owns up in all ways with the child.  be positive
341901
As long as you are just dating, yes, the child gets more attention and love.  However, in a marriage, the spouse MUST come first.  This is the main problem with marriages today - putting the kids ahead of the spouse.  Why should you stay with someone who doesn't care about you and pay attention to you????  I love my children dearly and hope one day they have wonderful, sucessful, loving marriages of their own.  This will make my husband and I happiest - to not sacrifice our marriage for our kids sake.
248567
why younger for women than men people?\n15 is good i mean hell kids are having sex at 10 - 12 now
400261
That depends on what you're comfortable with. I would never date someone who had a kid myself. Also what kind of woman is she? Some women take advantage of guys and try to get them to support children that aren't even theirs. I'm not saying she's like that, but some of them are, especially if they're feeling overwhelmed. Also keep in mind if you get married and you go through the teen years with them they'll go through the oh so painful "you're not my daddy" phase. Just think carefully about what you're getting into.
60476
i am 25 years old and here is my opinion...i don't think it would matter at all!! when i look for guys, i look for personality, confidence and respect. the fact that he has a hearing problem or some other type of physical "imperfection" does not turn me off. and i don't see it as anything to worry about at all. some girls may think so but, there are always those people. but they are narrow minded to pass you off for a reason like that.they are missing out on knowing a great person. it really is who you are inside and how comfortable you are with that. if you are comfortable with yourself, then others will be too.i like a guy who can be who he is because that is who he is. don't worry!
560112
i know people who have. it takes attention/energy away from the children to be channelled to the girlfriend/boyfriend. children sometimes become resentful; rarely turns out as a good situation. i work in child protection and abused children are often at the hands of their parents' gf/bf.\nbad idea all around. if i had children and somehow ended up single, i think i'd hold off on dating until they were older. the problem is that if you date someone with kids, you aren't going to love those children as much as your own unless you are absolutely amazing, and so many lie to themselves that they love their sig.other's kids but then they have a bio kid of their own together and suddenly that child is more important- your own flesh and blood. i'm dead serious i see this all the time.
741300
i have no kids but the fact that we do not see many of them around makes people a bit insecure about their bits.\nand also the enhanced pics in such mags as playboy do not help coz they give a unrealistic perception of what it should look like.\ni don't think mine ism pretty and none of my friends think that theirs is pretty, just ask your man. if he likes it, does anything else matter? really?
436284
Most guys I know arent pickey, especially when drugs or alcohol is envolved. But some guys are more pickey and only get with skinny girls or bigger girls.  Its preference.  I know a few guys that are down right rude to bigger girls cause they like thin girls. My brother will poke literally any girl with a vagina, no matter if she's 400 pounds or 90 pounds. He's definatly a man-whore.  Right now hes with 2 girls, and niether one knows of the other.  I don't think thats right.  I personaly dont car if she's big or small, as long as she's of age ,(18+ ),(I'm 24),pretty, and most of all has a good attitude.  I hate snobby stuck-upgirls, and girls with any form of bad attitude.  On most first dates it is taboo to talk about having kids oneday, but I took this girl to the local amusement park. Everytime there was akid in front of us, she would say how she hated/HATED kids, and whisper things in my ear about throwing them over fences and stuff.  I would like to have kids one day.  Regardless I didn't say anything to her but then it got to me towards the middle of the day and I told her I had to go home.  She ended up meeting some friends that day and got a ride home.  But she had a real bad  attitude. The worst part is we worked together, and her mom was my boss. Crap that was bad, I had to quit a week later. Sorry I keep rambling on Im tired bye now.
552012
No. a guy that age is no more a baby... his interests are more of girls, music, sports, or any 'in' things young men do like to do. Many would prefer to act like mature adults, not overgrown babies! And mature men dont play with stuff like that, unless he is abnormal.  Dont ever give him that, else he will surely be offended from your innocent and unintended innuendos that he is still immature.