laides, will you dump your bf or husband if he is broke and didnt have any job?
344722
No! I would not "dump" my husband, because when I got married, I took a vow "to love,honor and obey him in sickniess and in health, for richer or for POORER until death us do part" and I meant it.
840791
school is important. you need an education to live a good life. your boyfriend obviously forgot how much work it is, or else he is just selfish. unless he is planning to take care of you for the rest of your life and pay for everything you need, he needs to understand you need to finish school to have a career. even if he says he would pay for you, you don't want to be dependent on anyone. just concentrate on your life and being successful, and if he can't understand, get rid of him because a selfish boyfriend makes for a selfish husband.
889395
I do not work and my husband does, but i am in control of the money.  you have to put your foot down and make him realize about the future.  MONEY IS THE #1 REASON FOR DIVORCE.  the more he spends the more you guys will fight.
266909
You should leave him cause he does not have anything going on his life he has a lady paying for his stuff and might do the same thing to you...it's better off without him and find yourself a guy that has something going on
199941
NO way. I would include my boyfriend and tell him what is going on to stress me out. If the relationship is a strong one then you should be able to lean on each other in the rough times. If the person is saying they want to leave someone because they are stressed at work I think that there is more going on, and they really aren't committed to the relationship if something as trivial as work is going to stress you out enough to leave. Maybe your better off, I mean would you want this person around if there was a tragedy or a sickness to deal with. Doesn't sound like a very strong person, and doesn't sound like someone that truly cares about you.
624303
It depends why you moved ? If one of you needed space , then no .As that is an waking call . If it was because of money then yes because it's hard at first to get things in order .Enjoy dating each other .Too many people jump into Relationship just to feel not alone .Being with someone once in awhile is perfect for some people .It's nice to think about someone and look forward to seeing them ,instead of everyday unless you've decided to get married .Then hopefully you'll keep the smile each day when returning home .
392437
They don't always let you down, but your boyfriend surely is.  Why isn't he working?  I know you know this, but he won't change.  You don't have to move home, but you might want to move out of this relationship.  And take him off of your accounts!\n\nGood luck.
346297
Well, next time don't support a non-working loser.\n\nBut in the meantime, you are mainly hurt because you did everything for this guy and he didn't appreciate it.  He felt smothered and left.  He's an a s s  and you should be very glad he's out of your life now.
316626
Yes, but it only works if the man is weak.\n\nNo man who has his priorities in line would suggest that she could actually win an arguement or some type of disagreement with sex.  If she can, then her boyfriend/husband is weak.
203835
Well everything needs money, and while dating and having a bf/gf doesn't require it, it certainly helps the situation.  I don't understand the concept of money either.  lol.
65824
OMIGOD girl, my guy has forgotten so many annaversaries, or just been broke on my birthday.  It's incredible, he's been doing good for the last few years.  I still love him.  If you really care about the guy, give him another chance.
376414
Money does not buy happiness. If the man is good to you and you love him nothing else matters. You said it yourself he is perfect, what more could you ask for. I would stay in a one room apartment if that's all we could afford and the man is perfect. You can also work to help financially. No one knows what will come next, even a rich man can go bankrupt then what do you have if you were only in it for the money?
233138
If you are not short of money, then the answer is NO.  To me, love and responsibility is a mechanism of control.
751290
No. My husband and I both work and I respect him very much, as he does me. And in today's world, at least in the US, you need 2 incomes to keep a household running.
192525
Well, if he has to work he has to work. You can't get upset at him for that. If you feel he is just neglecting you I wouldn't invest anymore of my time into the relationship. He may care for you but honestly doesn't have enough time. You sound like a clingy woman so it would probably be in your best interest to find someone who can devote more time to you.
761551
If he was hardworking and not planning to bum around, definitely. I can think of a few men I'd consider dating even if they lost their jobs today. But to job search for 3 months and not do anything in the meantime isn't good.. especially if they are stingy with money and welcome me to pay for things.\n\nCome to think of it, I did date a guy who was out of work 2 years ago. He didn't really have a life goal/interest careerwise and it took him months to even get a job teaching snowboarding part time. I don't care if you work at freakin McDonald's, just be a man!! This was a turn-off.
34646
It depends on the couple. An insecure man might not handle that very well. An arrogant woman might gloat. If your relationship is secure in other areas, money should not cause any problems you can't work through.\nMy wife was graduating from school and beginning a job when we got married and I still had four years of school and student wages ahead of me. She was happy to be the principal breadwinner. But it wasn't long before she heard that biological clock ticking and wanted to stay home and raise children. I believe that in general, women are innately better nurturers and men have an instinct to be providers. But we can't make it on just my wages. So she has to work until I finish school. Even then she might earn more with an associates degree and vocational certificate than I will with a masters degree.\nHow it works for you will depend on yours and her plans and aspirations as well as your character and beliefs. Best of luck!