My best firend of 6 years is a jerk, can anyone spare some advice?
341647
People with such traits are generally insecure and uncertain of themselves, and as a result behave in an offensive way with everyone in order to cover themselves. \n\nThey have probably had lack of support in their tough times because of which they have drifted onto the wont track. \n\nSuch people really need love and care and the right type of counseling. It would only be good that you take that initiative to support him and bring him back to the right track. Do be understanding with him as he really needs help.\n\nAll the best.
872225
Oh my, you seem to be a very nice person, almost to the point of dysfunctional.  A bit of assertiveness would help you out quite a bit b/c I bet it's not just an annoying neighbor you have a hard time saying no too.\n\nFirst, it's necessary for you to learn to meet your own needs.  "NO" is a big part of this concept.  You do not have to be rude or lie but you will have to practice.\n\nMary, while I'd love to visit, I am bogged down today, so we'll save this for another time.  Thanks  for understanding.  \n\nMary, I hear your frustrations, but let's keep this conversation on a pleasant note, shall we?  \n\nMary, at times I do enjoy our visits, but I must insist that you call first to check if I'm busy with the children.  You'll do that for me won't you?\n\nSo give it some practice and good luck.\n\nPeace.
1187406
well give some detail like how is he no good? At least you figured it out in a quick amount of time you didn't waste years I would just tell him that you don't want to be with him anymore it's that's simple, you don't deserve to be treated badly... drop the jerk and find someone that will treat you right.
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It's sounds to me like you have them figured out, now you just need to choose. On #1, can you handle the "not so smart" trait about her? If you can't go for #2.\nOn #2, can you handle the temper? If not, go for #1. Maybe you should try to find another one all together. Do what makes you happy. Looks aren't everything either. Ask yourself who makes you laugh the most and who makes you the happiest. Good Luck
743157
it sound like your friends are jerks. just try talking to new people. the best way to get over your old friends is to get new ones.
378033
If she has been your best friend for a long time, I would encourage you to not make a hasty decision. You can find friends (and even boyfriends) anywhere, but best friends take years to grow. You should do your best to save this friendship before calling it quits.\n\nMy advice is talk to her before you take the final step of "de-friending" her. Explain to her that you've valued her friendship, but that her current behavior isn't excusable. Confront her about her rudeness, and don't be afraid to name specific times and places where she acted like a bee-yotch. She apparently USED to act nice, because otherwise you never would have been friends with her. Remind her of those days. Finally, tell her (in very clear terms) that if she doesn't start acting right, you want nothing to do with her.\n\nThis puts all of the pressure on her, see? If she changes her evil ways, then you've kept your best friend and are better off than before. If she doesn't, at least it isn't your fault that the friendship ended. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully your friend will see the light, but if not... at least the blame will be on her head, not yours.
365883
if there jerks at first, then there not gonna change. Get a good guy, a sweet one you just called friend.
1136196
It doesn't matter. Life's too short to worry about little things like people being dishonest -- they just are. Maybe you should step-back, stop communicating with someone that shows you no respect, finish your schooling, go to college, establish a career for yourself and don't waste your time with little problems. After a few days or weeks you will feel better once you go on... besides, it sounds like you're too young to be getting involved -- just like the silly boy was... It doesn't matter. Just go on because life gets better. One other thing, don't do what you did  with last one until you know him a little better -- they right one will not pressure you. Good luck and take care.
498739
I think you are great don't change. Just learn. Do what is best for you b/c no one else will. She obviously has made her choice actions speak louder than words. You've shown her that you care and that's all you can do. You've done your best it was good enough you just didn't find that person who will appreciate it. Keep your head up potna cause you'll get that chance over all over again. But don't you overlook it for someone like this again.
1172274
Have a sit down put all the cards on the table. Key word here is honesty can't have anything without it. Good luck. Hope it works out for ya. Sorry had to rush out the other night late for work, but as i was saying you have to figure out what causes all this hostility. You said both of you have done things you weren't proud of. So that tells me there are some unresolved issues here. That could bee the root of the whole problem. Advoiding a situation because it's uncomfortable doesn't make it go away. Hope this helps
713168
Truthfully, it depends on what you did.  But if you haven't already, try apologizing to her.  It may sound too simple, but girls have more respect for a guy who can admit he's wrong.  Just tell her that you know you were a jerk, but you are sorry and that you would really love another chance to try and work things out.  If you are genuinely apologetic, your sincerity will show and she might decide to give you a chance.   Just make sure that you continue the good behavior after you get back together!  And if the apology doesn't work, you might have to accept that the relationship isn't meant to be (at least for right now).   Good luck!
565361
Man, I was going through the samething with this really obnoxious girl once. I feel your pain. my plan of dealing with people like him is to stay clear of them. It might not be easy at first but once you keep avoiding and stay clear of him overtime he won't be a problem, and talk to your teacher about changing your seat, tell him/her that you have problems with this kid and that you don't get along with him that should help, and if that doesn't work well, you before taking things into your own hands try the plan first.
254525
Just be patient.  Wisdom comes with age, and it comes from life experiences.  You seem to know that you aren't tactful or diplomatic, so work to change these traits.  Problem solving techniques come from being a good listener.  Talk to people that you see, who are tactful and diplomatic; seek a mentor!  Good luck to you!
606495
Train yourself to be ready to be good with comebacks and do it confidently.  It's hard to do but well worth the effort.\n\nIf you don't like the job, find another job and give this jerk the snubbing of his life!  That will REALLY put him in his place!
399367
Just be sincere and honest. You are a good friend and a valuable ally, he knows that. He may be hurt or annoyed but he will read your apology, understand that you care, and accept your gesture of friendship. You don't need to beg.\nYou need to remember that he values you and trusts you. You may have irritated him but he is already over that. He has thought of you and laughed several times since the "event". He does appreciate you, even loves you for your loyalty and sincerity. You are rare in this world and he knows it.\n\nJust be yourself, be honest, don't beg. If you screwed up just tell him. It will be fine! If you get emotional let it flow. You have great passion and he loves that in you. Again, he values you very, very much and he wants this to be resolved as much as you!
69164
It's great that you acknowledge your problem and want to resolve it. First you must reprogram yourself (so to speak). You have to learn how to control how you react to people. I think you may just need to feel like you are being listened to, and if you don't that could cause frustrations to mount and fuses to become short. Try to address something before it becomes a big problem. Change your approach. If you're losing your cool with kids, try getting on their level and look them eye to eye and sincerely talk to them and tell them why certain things are important and that you don't want to get upset or yell at them but if they don't respect your wishes it could cause you to get upset and that they can help prevent that by showing that they are listening and respecting you. Just remember you can't control other ppl but you can control how you react to them.
560526
Break up your relationship with such a jerk!