How come when a woman dates a man,(friend)whose 21 yrs.,older than her every-one thinks she has a sugar-daddy?
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Personally, I think you need to sit the members of your family down and explain to them that you do not have a sugar-daddy.  Men are allowed to date whoever the hell they want because they're men and, let's face it, they can get away with anything in that department.  If you're confident that there's nothing between the two of you and you've already expressed these feelings to your friend, then you really should not worry what other people think.  So what if they think you're dating?  It's none of their business anyway.  As long as the people that matter to you aren't accusing you of anything and/or hurting your feelings, then those other people shouldn't matter.  What's that quote: "those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter" or something like that, right?
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No i think that is perfectly fine!!! Well i would think that when me and my better half got together i was 20 and he was 29, 3 years later and we have a awsome strong relationship, i was ready for something serious to plant my feet into and so was he, we had alot of things in common, i mean yes there are times when i think wow hes really been around alot more then i have and i can feel a little bit intimidated, but in the long run im thankfull he has those experiances to help guide our steps, I think he has come to believe that im never going to be perfect, even though i really try to do everything well, im not completely at his level on thinking, he has more life lessons to reflect on, but i dont think its a problem when we both discuss everything and keep the lines of communication open, just like any other relationship, my best friend is in the same boat, her husband is 10 years older then her and oddly enough shes the more responcible one, i dont see why any one would think its wrong, now if you were 25 and she was 15 there might be a huge responce to you sick mo fo lol but i dont think there is anything wrong with you liking her, ask her out, she might be into older guys, and with good reason, guys that are 20-24 are enough to make you want to puke, they only want one thing, they havnt figured out yet theres more to life then a nice set of boobs lol they dont know how to deal with money worth a crap, they only look out for themselfs, where older guys have alot more figured out, theres so many more perks to dating a older guy i could go on forever, more or less your more established at 30... id say go for it :) you have nothing to lose
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age is nothing but a number, only way its not ok is if it really bothers one of you two, no one else matters, i'm a 26yr old guy dating a 36 yr old woman and there is nothting wrong with it, nor is it wrong to be 26 dating a 19 year old
96345
First of all age really is just a number as long as he is over 18. If he only pays attention to you and would rather spend time with you than those other women his own age than I would say give him a chance. I have a friend who is dating a younger man too and they seem to be getting along just fine she is 29 and he is 23. Give him that first date then you'll find out if his feelings are real.
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According to her stiffing you on the date, and her reaction to asking about it, I say it's a no-win situation.  It could definitely happen with someone half your age, but I don't see it happening any time soon.  Girls at 18 are still just girls, regardless of how grown they think they are.  Younger guys are more apt to deal with this sort of behavior, because it's a younger people-type problem.  \nI won't shame you for going after a young woman, as you seem to at least have your head on straight, which I have come to find is STILL somewhat rare in men, even up to age 60 (I could be wrong, but you made it sound good)!  But I think you'd be better off to deal with someone closer to your age, even mid-twenties.  Why?  I'm 24, and I'm gaining a preference for men in their mid-thirties, though I do find people who impress me at younger ages, and older men who still disgust me with their antics.  \nI think it's probably best that you let her deal with her peer pressure and peer group mingling, and move on to greener pastures, lest you drive yourself crazy and find out I was right several months later  ;-)\n\nGood luck to you  :-)
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He married the the 45 year old and dumped the 34 year old, because he felt the 45 year old listened to him and understood what he wanted. The 34 year old may have been taking him for granted. \n\nOn the other hand, maybe the 45 year old lady was just really hot. hee hee...
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They have low self worth. They see the 99% that is "good" about such a man and forget the 1% of bad choices (prison record) which should make a difference. Everyone is "good"; you set your standards in the "faults" and unhealthy choices which you tolerate. \n\nThey maybe bend a little to other girls telling them that they're "materialistic" to want a guy with a career and stuff going on for him. \nThey see their friends date the same types of guys. \nThey aren't assertive enough to refuse the attentions of such men. \nThey don't know how to live with themselves or how to be happy alone. Or they're in the NYC or LA areas where it's too expensive to live alone and mistakenly believe that a boyfriend is easier to live with than roommates. \n\nThis convienently gets rid of many "nice girls" so that the gold diggers have less "competition" and ruin guys for their middle age after which they becomes a dirty cynical old men or "just after sex". \n\nEither way they get over it, or they don't.\n\nHopefully this didn't sound too much of a ramble...
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I am 41.  I would NEVER EVER date someone younger than myself.  It has taken me this many years to be a complete, content, mature person, to raise a child, to have a successful career.  I don't want to be with someone who still has those things ahead of him.  It is important to me that a man be in the same life stage as I, and a younger man is unlikely to be there.\n\nBesides, men tend to remain somewhat immature - going out drinking with their friends all the time, thinking farts are funny, etc. . . until they are at least 40 (some never get past that).
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i think it's true. you see celebrity guys marring younger girls all the time, sometimes after a kid or two. but when you see a couple in your city with an obvious age difference people call the guy a pervert, or if the girl is older, she's a gold digger.
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Yep! One of my freiends is nearly 23, and she is veyr much stilla virgin-she hasnt even kissed a man passionately, or even had a relationship with someone! In 6th from i thought it was rather odd-but irespected her obviousley as its her choice. She isnt a Christian-nor is she religious, so these beliefs havent persuaded her not to have a phsyical relationship-she has just been unlukcy i guess, or doesnt feel the need for a relationship.\n\nShe is very independant and quite agressive towards men, so its quite hard for them to get to know her-which explains alot! I think she gives out this impressionthat they arnt good enough for her-which in part is to try to protect herself i guess. herfather left when she was quite young-so perhaps this has affected her choice in men, or having non existent relationships!\n\nI think its possible not to have had a relationship at any age-and acceptable. At the end of the day some people are happiest left alone-and independanct individuals in that sense. I guess its their own person choice-they also have to be ready for a relationship so perhaps this is why they are single. I think they are missing out though! :)\n\nxx
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Your ex-bf's problem has nothing to do with age. He wants to "have his cake and eat it too". (I hate that cliche). I agree with phattphatt. This guy is unstable and needs to be kicked to the curb. If he keeps this crap up she will do the same and he will have lost you both. I'm not so sure what the age problem is, she is only a year younger. Your first statement made it sound like he a was dating a child and he was in his thirtys. Give him the boot and find yourself a real man.
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I often wondered that about myself since I have dated a couple older girls.  I think it is because they are more developed, and also because they seem to be more mature and know what they want.  Although I have learned the younger ones can be just as mature, and you learn things from them too.
771918
about the same as an older man dating a girl old enough to be his granddaughter , and  him dying two weeks with a smile on his face while she spends all his money he left behind and his children receive nothing from their inheritance.  this sounds about right !
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I've always preferred older guys and always will, I like their wisdom and life experience and women also mature quite fast so this works well with older guys. I always find it odd when older women go out with younger guys, I really can't comprehend that one.
531438
huh??? That makes no sense!! And for the record, not all women lie about their age!!
233570
They want to be the woman that their brother is having fun with.  It's a sisterly thing.  Also, they would not appreciate it going farther.  They don't want their friends starting to date their brother.  It would be too weird.
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That's a funny one.   It has always been okay for an older guy to date a younger girl,  but when the girl dates the younger guy, she is laughed at and jokes made.\nI wouldn't let it bother you.  I would proudly say, "And he's a year younger than me, hope I can still get a young one when I'm 80".  \nAge shouldn't matter, to answer your question.  All that matters is that you are right for each other for however long it lasts.  If you get along, then to heck with what your friends say or how loud they laugh.  if they are really your friends, they'll accept it and have compassion and understanding and not mock you or put you down.  To joke when you gals are alone, well jokes, alone, that's okay.  But to gossip or hurt your feelings, their not friends and never really were.\nGo with your heart and forget what others will say.  The true challenge is finding out in the long run if those friends you thought were friends really were to begin with.\nControl your own life, don't let others control you.\nMany a marriage has lasted eternally with a large age difference and that also includes dating relationships.  My girlfriend is married to a guy that is nearly 15 years younger than her.  They are and have been for over 17 years, a perfect coupld.\nGo for it.................