how do you get an  alcoholic committed into treatment if they are unwilling?
336248
Hit him with a BIG stick in the teeth...CRACKALAKA...and drag 'em to AA, or you could tie him down and poke him with a hot stick until he gives in(my personal favorite)
397159
Work on you first. Fix everything about you that you could blame him for.  Fix your reason for not letting him go.  There is always a reason why you think he is not the man for you. Pray and be persistent. If you know how to pray, Begin with :Heavenly Father: I have a problem.Then tell him the problem, go into detail about why you think he is not your cup to drink.  Ask for an answer in 4 to 5 days even if the answer does not come from the voice, but from events taking place.
1053807
In todays society, there is limited space and money in the state mental health departments.  Normally those prisoners who are beleived to be functional if they merely take medication will not be keep in a mental health facility for long any more.  ( states over the past few years often "dump" thier residences on to the street with instructions to report to a state hospital daily for medication)  ** and we all know how well that works.\n\nAnd it is possible that they may be "giving" him medication, not forcing him to take it.  ( jailis and prisons unless there is an order can not force someone to take medication)\n\nThis is sadly about norm for our system of justice today.\nYour money would be better spent on an attorney to file a motion to get him on his medication.
822918
Unfortunately, it is a difficult matter to help somebody stop doing something they want to do. Your advice and support are pretty much all you can give. Coming from a long line of over indulgers in alcohol I can relate to the tragedy you endure. A positive spin on his lifestyle is all you can really expect to provide. The decision to stop drinking must be his unless he is a minor. The only effective treatment aside from 'quitting cold turkey'  is professional intervention. This is predicated on the notion that one wishes to become sober. Without that, all is lost.
728080
You need to face your real problems.  Rehab won't work unless you are willing to look at yourself and why you want a drink.  Keep a journal.  Write down what happened just before you felt you had to drink.  Keep this journal for awhile and you will begin to understand what your real issues are.  In rehab or counseling, we are asked to confront our issues but no one really helps us know what these issues are.  We can't confront what we dont know.  The journal helps you to understand what upsets you.  The journal identifies triggers that make you want to drink.  Also see a nutritionist about proper diet.  It is amazing how a lousy diet can contribute to a drinking problem.  Also drink 8 glasses of water a day to cleanse your system of the toxins you are putting in by drinking alcohol.  Go back to rehab with your journal.
265147
I know exactly what you are talking about. Let me explain. You cannot make him stop drinking. I think you know this. He is going to die of liver disease if he doesn't. That is his choice to make of course, but just enforce the fact that he is destroying his life and make sure he knows if and when he does want to change that you will be there for him regardless, but since he is not going to stop killing himself that you don't want to be around to see it. Tell him it hurts you to see him do this to himself. MAYBE he will let it sink into his brain and realize this is the wrong path to happiness. Good luck!
1017956
those that drink together,  go to rehab together maybe?
11375
As a 3 year member of Alcoholics Anonymous I'm gonna try to answer this.  Unfortunately as someone else responded to your question I agree that most likely and sadly you can't do much to help him if he doesn't want help.  As we say in AA, AA is not for those who need it but for those who want it.  As for his family you might try honestly, humbly, and lovingly letting his family know how concerned you are and that you don't know what to do.  I don't know if you have any spiritual beliefs but you might try praying for the man, I will.  James S. -Alcoholic Anonymous
486394
If what you mean is a letter requesting parole, then that is simple. Write down what you know of the altercation and his character history, if it is a good one. If his history shows a pattern of bad behavior then it becomes complicated and I would speak with the attorney that represented him. Sometimes the best way isn't always the easiest and the more information you have for his benefit is more to acquiesce your desires.
74682
Admiting that they have a problem and treatment at an inpatient treatment center or AA will help.
132174
You can write them a note, or leave a voice message, expressing your 'absolute inability to positively comply with their affectionate entreaty, due to an intricate web of mental restrictions self-imposed upon yourself due to prior, primary plus totally voluntary commitments'.\n...It will take an average person at least 2-3 minutes to get the gist of what you've said, and by the time he finally understands that you are only asking him to go vamoose, he'll actually feel relieved : 'Thank God, I would never have understood her anyway !'\nHowzzat ?!
622405
He can be held in Contempt of Court and once he goes to court and then probation involved, he will be  in violation of the court ordered probation, either one he can be put in jail for.And no it DOES NOT matter what town he is in! Most court systems does not allow you to move unless you also transfer your probation. Also he can be made attend AA Meetings, and closely monitored by the court system... However you must first PROVE to the courts that he is still drinking!
659777
In this situation, you need to be cruel to be kind.\n\nYou tell this person how much you care and that you are worried about them, and will help them to get off drugs if they truly want to.\n\nIf they tell you that they dont - you have to walk away. Tell them when and if they are ready to give up you will be there to help them, but otherwise cut contact. They need to see what they are losing in their lives by taking drugs.\n\nIt sounds harsh I know, but this is the only way to help someone in the grip of drug addiction.
1100643
Depends on how bad your problem is, and your family genetics. Alcoholism runs through peoples genetics causing some people to be more prone to having a drinking problem. Sometimes the best thing to do is to find a therapist or some other outlet to help you out. I don't like A.A. though, they are too spiritual and in essence a money scam for a couple companies isnce they push books from one publishing company so much to people who don't have the mental will power to realize they don't need the books or the spirituality that ocmes with it, also A.A. becomes a factor to make people too co-dependant on the group. So I suggest seeing a regular therapist to increase your likelihood of not giving into temptation for drinks.
1066756
the children of alcoholics have their own group. ask AA or al-anon to refer you. i know how hard it is to be a child of an alcoholic - i have two children from my marriage to one. it seems illogical to let the alcoholic be and leave him to his own destruction but the message really is to you- that you can NOT cure him. you can NOT control him. you can have a confrontation with him and your friends and family were all of you tell him exactly how you feel but in the end- he is going to make his own choices. it is a disease and one that is very destructive to everyone it touches.  good luck. i know it's hard.
467830
try legal aid or your county bar assn. may have a program available. Best Wishes with it.
22566
It depends on whether if that was the reason that you are on probation. If so, then he can't force you, but he may give you an ultimatum. Saying that, its either you quit drinking or you go back to jail. I believe he/she can do that.