Is private school better for my uncontroled bad attitude 15 year old teen?
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Yes. I attend public school, and kids can get away with murder there. (Not literally.. I hope).\n\nPrivate school is much better. More education, less of a class size, and usually stricter rules. Plus, I believe there is more parent / teacher conversation.
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You're probably pretty young and not necessarily a bad person, you just need some help to deal with your anger. Talk to your school counselor, as soon as possible. Your'e obviously acting out in unhealthy ways and this could lead you to a life in prison or worse. It's not worth it, and you'll be sorry if you don't learn ways to stop this behavior now. :(
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Tough choice & I really respect your desire to make sure your kids are getting the best education.  Its hard to say what the best option would be.  I went to a Christian school during Kinder & 1st, then public school for the rest of my education (the Christian school closed down or I probably would've stayed there).  While that was a long time ago, I don't remember any significant differences in the education other than that we had chapel once a week (and in all honesty, as a kid I was very bored with it so I don't think it had much impact on me at that age).  I would hesitate to put them in a Christian school thinking it would solve all your problems, because even kids in Christian school can be mean & rebel.  They will form cliques, just like in public school, and you have to remember that some parents send their kids to Christian school because they behave badly and need reform (when I lived in Phoenix, there was a Christian high school there that was fairly notorious for drug deals).  Please understand I am not saying Christian school is a bad choice, just that it may not be the solution you are hoping for. It can still be beneficial in giving the kids extra spiritual help as you are hoping, and should be an equally good education to public school.\n\nAs for Montessori schools, they focus on more individualized attention & learning, which may be beneficial to your children if they need extra help.  I have no personal experience with these schools, but I have heard they are pretty effective.  I've included a website below which has alot of information on their methodologies and principals.  \n\nUltimately the decision is up to you, and you will really need to decide if its worth it to go into debt.  I think its great that you're willing to sacrifice like that for your kids, but in all honesty I think public school is just as effective when it comes to the education part.  (I am a certified teacher, though I'm not currently working in the field).  Perhaps you should focus more on addressing your kids' bad habits yourself & explaining to them why it concerns you (even tell them you will have to take them out of their school if they keep it up); for spiritual help, you could try to get them into local church programs like AWANA or VBS (I don't know if your church has this, but they could join at another local church), and send them to a church camp during the summer.\n\nI think too, it really depends on the area you live in and the individual school's reputations.  If you are able to transfer your kids to a more "traditional" public school, they may have a more structured and disciplined environment.  I went to this type of school from 2nd-8th grade and am really grateful of the education I got their.  They rated #1 in the Phoenix area for public schools during the years I was attending, and actually had a waiting list to get in because they offered such a great education.  But it was completely free-of-charge because it was a public school.  Check out the different schools in you area and see if one has a better reputation than the others.  Talk to the principals or staff and get their take on how effective the discipline program is, and what the typical behavior problems are.
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Yes, your kids would be better off in public schools. Don't indoctrinate them before they have a chance to learn to think for themselves.\n\nChildren taught  in public schools have  better test scores anyway.
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I applaud you for thinking about consequences before making such a big choice.\n\nConsequences for fighting at school:\n\n1. Logically, you are going to get punished.  You will probably get suspended.  Your permanent record that travels with you from school to school will have a report filed in it saying that you got in trouble for fighting.\n\n2. You also may gain a reputation for being a bully and people might choose to not be friends with you. Worse yet, you might attract the wrong sort of people to be friends with you.\n\n3.  You will probably suffer a loss of self respect.  You have the power to make better choices.  Choices that will make you feel proud and good about yourself. (I wish that you had mentioned WHY you want to fight a girl at school.  It would've been helpful) Talk to a trusted adult (teacher, grandparent, parent, friend's parent, religious leader. etc.) about your feelings.  They should be able to help you.\nThere are other ways to deal with anger.  It is perfectly normal and alright to get angry, but we show our level of maturity when we make our decisions on how to deal with our anger.  Don't start yourself out on a path that does not lead to positive things.  \n\nGood luck
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lil bro, you need to talk to your parents and teachers about this.\nabuse is abuse, and it's their job to deal with it, and help you.\ndon't listen to those that say to reply with violence. I don't think they read your question very well.\none answerer was right on that some kids (grown-ups too) try to make others feel bad to avoid dealing with how they feel about themselves.  keep that in mind. I know it sounds easy for me to say it, but try to not let it bother you. try to feel sorry for them instead of yourself,  obviously they're the ones with the problem.\ntalk to your parents, talk to your teacher.\nJake,  I really hope this helps. don't get bummed out.\nyou can write me if you need to . take care. peace
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hey thats all the better that your smart! dont worry- just because you smart doesnt mean that you can only hang out with the "smart kids" (unless you want to!!) i moved to New York from South Korea in 6th grade (i knew english fluently) and was placed in the highest classes available. they were easy for me but the people there wernt my type so i made friends with people that wernt in my class. i distance learned for 7th grade and now im going back there for 8th and i asked specifically to not be placed in the high classes because i wanted to be more with my friends. keep this in mind- once you get to college there is no such thing as the "cool crowd" the "geeks" or any of that. you can roll out of bed put your hair up and walk to class in your pajamas without taking a shower and no one cares. most of the time you wont even talk to others in your class anyway in college. besides good grades mean good job so do your best and dont let schooling get in the way of your friendship!
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Kendrick has the best RESULTS, but be careful. I know several girls who went there and it isn't very 'caring' - incidents of self-harm and eating disorders are above the national average, even for a grammar school crammer. Interestingly, even staff have ended up messed up in the hothouse environment. It would be a good school for a tough, smart, mature girl ... but maybe not the best if she isn't 100% hard as nails emotionally.
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I would seek help from your administration. Perhaps a meeting with your administrator is needed. Usually, students follow their parents lead. \n\nMost importantly, don't take it personally. One bad apple shouldn't make you get down on yourself. You are so valuable to our children's future so please don't let it get you down.
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Don't even worry about it. It won't happen. Christian schools don't teach judgement. In fact, they teach the opposite--understanding. I wish I could properly convey in words. . .just how valuable it is to attend a Christian School. You'll have well-rounded children, who grow up to be well-rounded adults. I've seen and attended both sides of the fence. There is no comparison between Christian and Public Schools.  This may sound a little harsh, but you can either 'invest in their future' or 'save for their failure'. I don't know where you live, but where I grew up, that statement would be true more often than not. Feel free to email me if you have any more questions about Christian Schools.  Thank you and God Bless.
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It depends on what you hate about your class.  While this may not be the best solution, losing yourself in a good book can help...people will leave you alone (if they are bullying you or something), and you will be entertained by yourself.  You also might learn a thing or two.  You can also speak to your teacher.  Tell him or her what your problem is.  If your problem is with the teacher, tell your mom exactly what is wrong and maybe she can talk to the teacher or the principal for you.  Just some ideas.
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I would not worry about the gossip and your parents shouldn't either. I have found that people who have a habit of gossipping are usually focusing on others when they should be addressing their own problems (which some of them never do). Don't let them interfere with your good intentions. I would talk (with the permission of this young man) to the school counselor to see what assistance he/she can offer to this young man and he/she may also be able to be of help to you with this endeavor. It's unfortunate that the coach wasn't very helpful and didn't have a more positive attitude. One of the courses in college that might be helpful to him is one that will help boost his self-esteem. His lack of self-esteem is probably what led to his bad reputation and attitude and probably played a key role in a lot of his situations including his lack of friendships . He needs to understand that changing his image and attitude is the key to his success in college and in other situations. Good luck in your endeavor.
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I have trouble with the strictness at my school.  As much as I understand it, it's really a bummer for us kids that are actually well-behaved, you know?  *sighs*  It's sad...
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You need to know what the public schools are like in your area.  In some areas the public schools have equal or better student achievement that private schools. You can get as good an education for 'free' and save your money for college. In other areas, the public schools are dangerous zoos with little learning going on. Also, if your child has any special needs, better public schools are required to support him, while private schools that do not accept federal funds are not required to provide (or are not able to provide) appropriate accomodations.  Many large public high schools have a large number of interesting elective courses and clubs for every student to find his niche.  However, a smaller private school may be the better choice for a student who might get lost in a crowd. A little tongue in cheek, here.  When we were looking for schools for our teens, the parking lot made me uncomfortable in one school.   Way too many BMWs and here was I in my old mini-van...that is an issue.  If a school in your area has a reputation of being 'rich', a parent who is making sacrifices to remove their children from the problems in the local public school may be setting their child up for ridicule from those with 'better' cars, clothes etc.
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I'm sorry sweetie, but you have to tell the truth.  If someone else gets in trouble for something you did, it could lead to more trouble for you.  Tell your parents and have them go to the school with you, its always better to have someone with you when you confess.  Good luck
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The answer depends almost entirely on where you live.  Some public schools are quite good while some really stink.  For example, I live in Dallas, and the Dallas Independent School District has a very bad reputation - if I had kids, I would do what I could to send them to private school.  However, some of the suburban school districts are great and I'd have no problem using them - and saving the money I'd spend on a private school.  I went to public schools and I turned out fine (I think...).
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Dear dear teenager, \nI went to private school all 14 years of my education and I loved it.  If you were popular at your private school I feel certain that you will be fine at your new school.  Here's the thing: you are nervous about being in a bigger group.  I went to school with the same 100 or so people for over a decade, and I still got nervous every year on the first day of school.  Was I wearing a cool outfit?  Was my hair ok?  Everyone has these kinds of feelings.  What you need to worry about most at this time in your life is who you are and what you consider important in your life.  The groups or "clicks" at this new school may totally be something that you are not into, and that is nothing to be ashamed of I assure you.  Be yourself dearest, and you will be great I am certain.  Don't be afraid to be who you are and how you act.  \nBE YOURSELF -- everyone will love you\n\ngood luck