What is the appropriate amount of money to give to someone that you dont know very well on their wedding day?
348785
I KNOW a man who carries two envelopes in his pocket for such occasions....\n\none with 25 bucks..one with 50...it depends on how nice the reception is...if its just cocktail weinees and beer..drop the 20..if its nicer...then at least cover the cost of your /and your dates..meals.
659399
this really depends on you and your groom. typically you would only do a wedding present from you to him
794893
Depends on the formality of the wedding.Why not ask someone in the Bridal party.
921704
I've been in this exact same situation recently. The bride was my best friend from college, so I still bought something that they could use but that wasn't super expensive. Buy something off of their registry but pick something that you think relates more to whichever party you are closest too. i.e. if you are great friends with the bride buy something you know that she would like but that the groom could care less about and vice versa. I know it sounds a little harsh but if it should happen not to work out then your friend or relative is more likely to get to keep your gift.
133071
Give them some food.  I don't like to give out money because who knows what they'll spend it on.
244128
I agree with the two people up there. Give them something that is useful. Most Irish/Catholic stores have great gift ideas! A horseshoe with an enscription on it would be kind of neat; or anything basically that the bride and groom could have to remember their wedding day. Practical is nice (anyone can buy a blender); but sentimental is better! But before you go to all the trouble to find a Irish/Catholic store, give yourself a bit of a break! I'm sure something that MEANS something and is from the heart, would be just as good! Goodluck! <3
97025
Don't give cash, it's crass, except from immediate family on this occassion. A small but fairly permanent object is a better choice, a leather organizer, cuff links,money clip, tie clasp, remember that this is the Jewish rite welcoming the boy into "manhood" so adult type gifts are suitable,  a silver picture frame for a photograph from the event,  even small electronics like a portable CD player or IPod, but not cash.
623629
I am 21, when I got married my mother and my fiance's parents split the cost. Neither could afford the whole thing on their own. I got married at a chapel that offered in house photography (which is the most expensive and the most important thing about the day in my opinion). It hurt that I couldn't have the the huge wedding because there simply wasn't the money. My advice would be to definitely do what you can afford and only that. But do what you can afford. No less. No matter how frivolous you may think it is, you should offer to do all you can for the most important day of your daughter's life. That being said, there is no need to do ridiculously lavish things like fireworks at the wedding, or a 10 layer cake. Pick your battles here. The dress is going to be expensive, when she finds one she loves, let her have it no matter what the cost but make sure she knows the budget. If the budget is $10,000 and she wants a $5,000 dress she needs to know how much that leaves her. My fiance and I made our own invitations with a computer kit we bought. It was $25 at walmart and they turned out beautiful. \nHer fiance doesn't need to be pressuring you. If he wants more than you can afford tell him point blank he will have to get it somewhere else. Money can be an uncomfortable subject but you have to be upfront about how much you can afford. Ask what kind of wedding your daughter has in mind, a simple beachfront wedding, a huge cathedral wedding,etc. That can also help you figure out how much you will need to spend. Before you plan a budget, discuss the things that are most important and the things that could be simplified (invitations, the ceremony site,etc). Look around at different locations and offer help where it is asked for and make sure your daughter knows you are willing to help her in any way needed. The grooms family is supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner so if he wants to impress friends tell them they can go all out then. The wedding traditionally falls on the brides parents but nowadays its up to whoever can pay. Bring both families together to discuss payment. And only pay what you can.\n\nAs to the other suggestions here: the brides family typically pays for the wedding. That includes flowers and liquor. So don't be petty about those things. You don't need liquor at the reception as that can drive costs through the roof. If you want liqour there have a cash bar instead of an open bar, or not at all. Depending on where you have the wedding,they may not allow liquor to be served.\n\nAs for an elopement, please don't encourage this. Your family will hate that they weren't included in the wedding amd couldn't see their neice/cousin/grandchild get married. As will you. Don't you think you will wish that you got to see them get married? Don't encourage that.\n\nYou didnt say whether or not your daughter has a career or not, so if she does and can afford to pay for the wedding I agree she should help out but as a gift to the married couple,it would be nice if you were to help out. But sometimes it takes a little longer to get a career together, so if she doesnt have one you should definitely help. But if she does have one and you choose to help, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Even if she was 40 and you were paying, there is nothing wrong with that.
169549
depends on the person; how close is to you or how much you care. money is always nice to receive but try to give a gift card or a gift certificate show that there was some thought into the gift. it could be clothing specially if the loved one is using it (lingerie). a favorite meal with a movie its good too. or if he has hobbies show support by getting something related to it. in any case a kiss and a hug will always do. good luck.
943520
Anyone who accepts an invitation to participate in a wedding in most circles has "traditionally" agreed to incur some expense to do so (see "Who pays for what" below). Is it a good gesture to offer to offset some of their clothing cost? If you know it would cause financial hardship then why not? If you know it wouldn't, then the question is WHY?\n\nMost people consider it an honor and privilege to stand up in a wedding. Most weddings are planned in advance so there is more often than not ample time to secure the funds necessary to acquire and pay for accoutrements. If you haven't brow-beaten or coerced your bridal party members then they shouldn't have a problem anteing up. \n\nThat being said it should also be pointed out that cultural backgrounds and individual convictions DO heavily influence the decision-making in Wedding Etiquette.  Nevertheless, the following is a general guide that should be construed as such...  and adopted as you deem fit:\n\nWho Pays For What?\n\nThe Bride typically pays for\nThe Wedding ring for the Groom\nGifts for the Attendants \nAccommodation for out-of-town Attendants\nThe Wedding gift for the Groom\n\nThe Groom typically pays for\nThe Bride's rings including the Engagement ring\nThe honeymoon\nWedding gift for the bride\nThe marriage license\nThe Groom's men gifts\nAccommodation for out-of-town groom's men\nFlowers for the Bride\nThe going-away corsage,\ncorsages for mothers, special ladies;\nThe boutonnieres for men in wedding party\nThe gloves, ties and accessories for the men in the wedding party\nFee for clergy person or judge\n\nThe Groom's Family typically pays for\nClothing for the Wedding\nTravel and lodging expenses\nRehearsal dinner\nThe Wedding gift for the newlyweds\n\nThe Bride's Family typically pays for:\nThe costs of the reception.\nThe Bride's Wedding attire/trousseau\nInvitations, announcements, thank you notes \nThe seating assignment chart, napkins and mailing costs\nPhotographer\nVideographer\nCeremony costs\nBridesmaids, flower girl, ring bearer flowers and accessories\nTransportation for bridal party on Wedding day from ceremony to reception.\nAll gratuities for all services: parking, security\nBridesmaid luncheon\n\nThe Attendants typically pay for:\nTheir Wedding clothes\nTravel expenses\nWedding gift for newlyweds
982500
Unfortunately, there is absolutely no polite or acceptable way of asking for money for a wedding gift!\n\nIf breaking eitquette doesn't bother you, just say, "Cash gifts only." That ought to do it.
389978
My parents are helping us out a great deal for our wedding.  My mom has helped me with the planning, the finances, the stress, etc etc.  We are getting my father a nice bottle of wine and a gift certificate for a manicure and pedicure for my mom.  When I go into the salon to have mine done the day before, I am just going to surprise her and take her with me.  We are also planning on a nice toast specifically for them and we're also thinking of having a song dedicated to them (to dance to) following the toast. I'm not sure if it's necessarily "customary," but I think it should be if they really help out.  If you can't afford much, just put some thought into it and do something creative.  Make a cd for each of them with songs that remind them of you (or the two of you together).  Definitely do something for them...it's kind of their big day too.
555623
I had relatives that just graduated and from acquaintances they received $10.00, friends gave them $20.00 - $25.00, and family gave $50.00.  Often times the friends of their friends and family just send a card and that's a very nice thought.
1185532
Refer to it as "your generous gift" as opposed to the actual amount.  Also, be sure to mention something you may purchase with it.  "Thank you so much for the generous gift.  It will really be helpful when it comes to paying off those student loans/ taking that vacation/ buying a professional wardrobe/whatever"
777044
This is a difficult question for anyone but you to answer, since you know this customer/friend, and will have to deal with her expectations.  If you need the money, charge her the usual rate.  If you need the money, but want to make a good impression, give her a 10% discount.  If you are independently wealthy, then donate your time and do it for free.  I hope this helps.
99408
if they are close friends money is better to bring what they really wants or use it as you know newly married couples always are broke if they are not close then something simple with their taste not yours to avoid througing your things in the closet
988426
This practice is actually really common in the Hispanic culture. Family and friends called Mardias and Pardinos (my spanish sucks)  will help  pay for items that the couple needs. Example: My cousin will be married in July of this year. She and her groom-to-be have asked my father to pay for the DJ, my grandparents were asked to help pay for the cake. In return for the generosity the names of the sponsors are placed on the programs and they are given special treatment at the reception. It is an honor to be asked to help with the wedding expenses. However this is the first I have ever heard of having a person you have never met help pay for stuff.