How do I deal with a stalker girlfriend?
350512
So this is how you are going to tell me???? OMG.... wait a minute.... This is how it ends????? OMG.... wait a minute..... Can't we at least be friends???? OMG.... wait a minute..... WHY????  OMG.... Wait a minute...... Okay I am better..... I'll be better, I promise..... Plllllllllllllleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaasssssssssssssssssssssssseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!  :)
471069
Wow dude, I had the exact same thing happen to me in college. My ex, psyco biotch girlfriend was one twisted chick. Thank God I ditched her monkey *ss. \n\nMy best advice to you is DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. Anything out of the ordinary? Document it. She leaves a creepy message on your machine? Save it and compile it somehow. See her parked otuside your house at 4:00 am? Sneak around with a flash and take her picture. Make sure you get the license plate. If you don't want her to see you, you can set your camera on a long exposure (like 2 hours) to get enough light. You can also use one of those surveillance video cameras that are triggered by motion. They're pretty cheap and easy to install. This will catch her in the act. This way, you can not only get a restraining order but press charges too. \n\nTo get a restraining order (I've had to do this too), go to the courthouse with some cause for it (like her threating to kill you on your voicemail or something like that). Tell the judge your story and say that she is harassing you, damaging private property and making you feel unsafe. The judge will give you a temporary restraining order which forces her to stay away. It will cost about $30 or so to have it served by a police officer. The cop will visit her, and deliver it to her. Now, if she comes within so many feet of you, her monkey *ss can get thrown in jail. This will only work for 15 days, at which point you will need to find a lawyer (believe me this is necessary). You will then go to court, tell the court your story, and the judge will take action. The judge's decision will most certainly depend on the DOCUMENTATION you have been saving up this whole time. Cool?\n\nAs best you can avoid getting into a physical altercation with her. If you really feel threatened. Buy some self defense type stuff like pepper spray. DO NOT DO ANYTHING ILLEGAL, like carrying a concealed weapon. If you get busted she can turn the story around on you. \n\nMake sure your girlfriend is documenting too. Document, dates, events, cost of repair...etc. Also, be sure to call the police each time one of these things happens. They will keep a record of it and when you go to court there's going to be a long list of things stacked against her.\n\nIf the court orders her to cease and desist, she will have to stay away from you and not call for good (or like 5 years or something). If she violates that, she goes to jail for a few years. \n\nWow, I feel for you dude. I've been there, done that. But I did my homework. The police in my neck of the woods have a mongo file on my ex. Good luck to ya. Shoot me an email if you need more advice.
1009934
yes she  might be stalking  you but you dont know for shure. So if she does it again try  to block her if it doesnt work then uf they keep doing that file a report.
172578
First, don't act like a stalker, you will just scare her away.\n\nSecond, tell her how you feel.\n\nThird depends on whether she tells you she is not interested or accepts a date.
506355
stop stalking her and get some counseling\n\n\nstop stalking us and get off YA with your stupid scenario.
1059215
Yes! At least return the call and let the person know you don't want to talk to him/her. If you feel that you're dealing with a stalker, however, go to the police. Calling someone who's stalking you is not a good idea - it might make them think they're getting your attention, in which case they'll continue to harass you.
496544
You got her number the wrong way and you will look like a stalker! Open your mouth an talk to her.
588904
Your state may have stalking laws. Check on their website. Depending on your location, check with your Office of Emergency Management to see if 911 calls are answered by your local law enforcement, or if they are routed to the state police. Contact your local law enforcement immediately and report the stalker. He may have done this before to other women. Good luck!
976402
Next time he calls, tell him you are not interested in him, you will not answer his calls, and you will not talk to him. Be very firm and straight with him. If he calls you again after that tell him you were very firm last time and you will seek to get a restraining order. If he calls a third time, do just that. The problem with Guys who don't "get  it" is that they will see everything you do as a sign of hope. Stalkers do this. Be tough with this situation before it escalates into that.
997444
If you cannot even talk to her, and you think she's the girl of your dreams, you have very few options.\n\nBest bet, somewhere safe, where she can escape easily, ask for a 15 minute coffee date sorta thing.  Then you seem "normal" and "harmless", working on the story/stalking thing simultaneously.  If at work, just bring her coffee, figure out what she drinks... get that with frothed milk (consider lactose intolerance...) on top.  Then try and talk to her while she struggles with a hot foamy beverage.... put's them off gaurd, I use this all the time.\n\nAbsolutely NO gushing poems, singing on the balcony crap... save that for once you actually KNOW, mess it up, and need her back.
1069899
What are you....a stalker?
894619
Ignore her for a few days and stop doing all the stuff you usually do i.e. picking her up after work or call her every 2 times a day, go to parties without her. Send the message hey if you can live without me so can I. \n\nIts harsh BUT that is one of the way to get attention.  If she enjoys all the things you do to ignore her, then my freind something is wrong with your relationship, she might be seeing someone else
427988
Play it safe. If girls keep doing that to you, why not ask a few of them what they're up to? That will either get them to blurt out the truth right then and there, or turn around in alarm and walk right away...probably never planning to bother you again. Depending on the girls, these ladies may either be after some guy to throw themselves on, or you might just be really popular. You just need to know how to deal with it...and maybe keep your eyes open for the one girl that might look like she is truly interested in you and not just going all flirty and crazy. Do you already have a girlfriend? If you do, tell the girls! They're bound to back-off if they realize you're already taken. You may get tired of saying this after a while, but if you say it for long enough, you might just start to notice that the swarm of girls has decreased to just a few random, hopeful wanderers. \n\nTruthfully, in all other respects I would just say run for the hills whenever they're coming toward you, and hide yourself whenver they're chasing you...but I'm betting you think that probably wouldn't work just as much I do. You have to deal with them. Stand up and ask them what they're doing, or tell them straight out that you're not interested. Or maybe you are? It all depends on what you want, and what they're really after. Think it over, and watch them carefully. Maybe you'll be able to pick up on why they're chasing you just from getting to know some of them a little bit better...\n\nI wish you luck. <:)
856615
I would confront your EX and tell him that if he keeps stalking you then you will report him to the police.  It's just that simple.  What he's doing is creepy..not romantic.  Good luck to you.
860028
If you keep pestering her, I should say she should tell your gf to break up with you.\n\nFor the meantime she should walk away and so should you.\n\nGood luck
658837
ok first of all suicide is not fun. and if she doesnt like you back, im not trying to sound mean but, DEAL WITH IT!!!!!! people aren't always going to like you back. its the fact of life. and if she says she doesn't like you back than just tell her ok well that doesn't change anything, and im still going to like you. just don't say it stalkerish like. that would just freak her out.
318701
Ask her why she is obsessing about you, and to stop stalking you.  People don't like to be called "stalkers".