How can I help a homeboy get over his ex?
343234
You can't help him,he has to help himself,it takes time....you can only keep him busy for a lil while,but when he lays down at night and thinks about her,nothing else matters.
11123
If you want to get over your ex-fiance, you need to take affirmative action that will gradually take him out of your mind and allow you to start your life again. I recommend the following:\n\n1. Spend more time hanging out with your friends and less time alone. Friends, as well as family can be a great support when you are in pain.\n2. Get more deeply involved in your hobbies and interests.\n3. If your ex-fiance gave you an engagement ring, you do not need that reminder.....give it or throw it away. And do the same with any gifts he gave to you.\n4. Destroy or throw out any pictures you have of the two of you together.\n5. When you feel ready, start to date again.\n\nIn a nutshell, you need to start to purge your ex-fiance from your mind. It will be hard at first but, little by little, you will think about him less and less. Eventually, he will be a distant memory and you can have your own life back again.
790072
I know exactly what you're going through.  There's no advice that anyone can give you to get you through this, which makes it so much harder.  And I think you're doing the right thing by acting happy and like you're fine.  You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.  That's only for your closest of friends to know - and that's what they're there for.  You need to continue your life without him as hard as that is.  \n\nIf you know there's 0 chance of getting him back, just realize that that's the reality.  You're probably beating yourself up trying to figure out how to win him back, but reality hits hard and you just need to accept it.  You have to be happy for him if he's happy and just know that you did what you could and you can't do anymore.  \n\nSomeone once told me that guys always realize what they've done wrong when they're older and wiser, but they'll never admit to it.  Just continue with your life the way you are and cry when you need to.  If you live day to day with a sad face, it' s not going to help your situation any more.  It's not going to bring him back, not going to make you happier, not going to change anything.  \n\nTime is the only healer.  I think about my ex all the time.  He won't return any of my calls or talk to me.  So I just leave him messages telling him I'm thinking of him and if he needs anything I'll be there.  But I still don't hear from him.  So slowly, I'm letting go.  I know it's already been 4 months.  But I've known people that it's taken them a year or more to get over someone.  \n\nMaybe it just wasn't in the stars for the both of you to be together.  Take what you've learned in the relationship and only remember the good things.  I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you'll find someone more wonderful who will make that committment to you and stick with it.  Don't rush into another relationship because you know you're still not over him.  Be honest with yourself.  That's fine if you think about him all the time - you really love him.  \n\nBut if you really love someone, let it go.  If it comes back to you it's meant to be.  And in this case, since he's moved on, it just wasn't meant to be.  I'm sorry.  I definitely know break-ups are not easy, but don't forget to continue respecting yourself.  You're not alone...
442042
Just because he's your ex doesn't give any reason for you to not be hurt or be concerned. Have you tried talking or consoling him yet? Maybe all differences should be set aside for a moment and you try to help. I mean you were married so at some point you guys loved each other. Im sure there were times when he was there for you and you him , maybe you know him well enough that you can help him deal now, u kno? Good Luck
406428
Just take things one day at a time, and remember that if you were meant to be with him, you will be eventually.  Take some time to mourn the loss of the relationship; give yourself an hour or two on days that you feel you need it, to turn on sad music, look at old pictures, and cry.  Then drop it, and do something for yourself.  I've had times when I thought the world was ending because of the end of a relationship.  I didn't know how I'd make it.  Eventually after going through this a few times, I realized that I can recover from anything.  So can you.
3408
The easiest process that I would suggest is to convert one of your exes that you can stomach. Use that as a starting point to get into the swing of it until you are more comfortable with the concept. Just make sure they aren't confusing the situation with the possibility of getting back together. that can be messy.
719810
Do not listen to his voice. Do not call him. Do not answer or return his calls.  Throw away cards, letters and all things that remind you of him.  Make yourself busy and take meticulous care of yourself.  Give your time to your other friends and family members whom you may have been distant with.  Catch up on some hobbies and volunteer work.  Make appointments for yourself to do the things you enjoy every day in the week. Every night, have someone to talk to who understands what you may be going through. Whenever your thoughts stray toward him, think only about the way he disappointed you and hurt you and remind yourself that you deserve the best. The longer you were with him, the longer it may take for you to get over him.  Nevertheless, you WILL get over him.
162277
if you tell him now and he still has feelings for his ex. he could go for you but it will be a rebound experiance and it will not last. if you really are his friend then be that. let him go through the things that he needs to go through to get over his ex.
527247
It is natural to have feeling for the EX, just remember, there is a reason he's called EX, and you are the only one that really knows the reason for that, so as you began to get these warm feelings inside for the EX also remember what usually would happen after that warm thought would come remember the reality of why you made him an EX and EX-ommunicate your thoughts for even going in that direction, okay, Sista Girl.  Remember, you want your PRESENT to work out, so please, leave the EX, as an EX. He had your PAST, DON'T let him have your FUTURE.  PEACE.*
878068
How to Get Over a Break Up\n\nWant to know how to get over a break up? Here are six secrets to help you get your life together and move on!\nDifficulty: Hard\nTime Required: Two Weeks to Three Months\n\nHere's How:\n\n1. Bond with other Singles.\n      At any given time, you probably have a mix of friends in loving relationships as well as those searching for love. Don't be afraid to look-up single friends you haven't seen or spoken to in awhile and make plans for Friday and Saturday night. You'll stay busy on the weekend and maybe even rekindle an old friendship.\n\n2. Start a Social Hobby.\n      If there is a hobby or activity you have been meaning to try for the first time, or take-up again, this is your chance. Focus on activities that allow you to meet new and interesting people. Examples might include a cooking class, sports league, or bridge club.\n\n3. Go Easy on the Next Person you Meet.\n      Beware of continuing unfinished business with the next person you meet. If you didn't have a chance to truly close the door on your last relationship, don't project your open issues on the next unsuspecting soul. See the new person as a clean slate and allow the relationship to unfold with no connections to your past.\n\n4. Don't Sling Shot your Ex.\n      It can be very tempting, particularly on lonely nights, to look up your ex or accept an invitation from your ex for a rekindle. The more you fall back on your old ways, the harder it will be to truly move on. Don't fall for the short term satisfaction of a night out or easy hook-up at the expense of stirring up all the hurt from the breakup.\n\n5. Apply What You've Learned.\n      Take out a journal and write down everything that went well versus what could have been better in your relationship. Be honest since you're the only one looking at the entry. What could you do better next time? What positive traits did your ex possess that you should look for in the next relationship, or maybe even incorporate into your own style?\n\n6. Talk About Something Else.\n      Everyone goes through a period of venting to their friends and family about what went wrong and how your ex deserves to go straight to prison. It's okay to do a little venting, but spare your inner circle from an endless tirade for months at a time. Commit to yourself that the next time you call a close friend, you'll focus exclusively on them. This will help you get out of your head
415484
No matter what anyone tries telling you.. its always going to be hard to get over someone after being with them for six years. But I think that your best bet is just to try and go out to do things that will get him off of your mind. Spend as much time with your friends as you can... keep busy! No matter what you do it will always hurt though. You just have to be strong and not give in to him if he does start to call.. because thats just letting him know that he can use you over and over. Dont let him know you're bothered by it. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that everything goes in your favor.
741823
Go with your heart.  Don't think about your ex.  Think about your kid.  Does he deserve it?  If so, help out as much as you can.  Thats what I would do.\n\nAs for insurance and maintenance though, make you son cover it.  Builds character and teaches responsiblity.
839019
I think you've done the best anyone can do to try and open him up and if he isn't then get rid of him. He will regret having lost someone as nice and good as you and there's nothing that will change, because you deserve better than him and if he isn't willing to try than move on. Find someone who will love you back, has feelings and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated (which is very good, just so you know). Good Luck
870044
Ya get over him. You just gotta realize that in the grand scheme of things he is insignificant. He may have hurt you but people hurt eachother all the time. You yourself have probably hurt someone at some point. Everything that happens does so for a reason. You learned a hard lesson on what not to look for in a man and hopefully you picked up on that lesson and it will make the rest of your life easier. Life is what you make it and you can choose to live in the past or to take each lesson you learn along the way and create a wonderful future.
479575
The best cure for that is time. If you want to speed things up try talking with her as little as possible. Also hang out with old friends that you have not seen for a while, friends you do not have in common with your ex and who are fun. They will make you remember how life used to be when she did not exist. It helps to start imagining day to day life without her.
141470
convince him to go for the other then when the one you like feels bad lift her up and make her feel good and go from there. and as for the ex forget her.
797592
the best way to get over a guy is get under another