why is my ex-boyfriend cry with me that i move out?
339822
Sweetie, I would really like to help you but I read through your question 3 times and I'm not sure what you are asking or saying. I am not trying to be rude but maybe if you rewrite the question again someone can help you.
609678
leaving thing behind is an almost exlusively female tactic.\n\nMen simply are not that devious.\n\n\nAs for the last part of your question, I don't think you responded the right way.  Not only did you have a relationship, but it was serious enough that you lived together.  By your own words, he broke up because it "wasn't working out."  It seems to me that he deserved a little more than your vindictiveness.\n\nIndulging your emotions by throwing out a former bf's stuff is simply childish.  I know there will be a half-dozen girls who will say "you go girl - he deserved to have his stuff thrown out", but if you dumped him, they'd be calling him a jerk for throwing your stuff out.\n\nNo woman will call you a jerk for throwing his stuff out, but I will - YOU JERK.
1170601
It is totally normal to be feeling like this. They say when you break up with someone that you love it congers up the same emotions as it does when someone dies. You are in mourning for your lost relationship but don't confuse this with love. It takes time for your mind and your heart to come to terms with these situations but it will pass. Talk to you friends about everything you are feeling, even the stupid things, you may feel silly at the time but once you have got all you feelings out you will feel a load has been lifted of your mind. Every time the thought of your ex comes into your mind, change it and put your boyfriend in his place. Don't keep thinking back on things you and your ex used to do, go out and try new things with your boyfriend, these new memories will move the other memories out of your mind and you will feel yourself letting go of the past and moving on to happier times. Trust me, this has happened to me before, i nearly let my new relationship break down because of it but i got past it and am happier than i have ever been. Don't be afraid to let go, you will always have the time with your ex to look back on in the future but don't let it destroy you chance of happiness.
517057
Move out and move on. Maybe he thought he loved you until he lived with you and really got to know you. My mom always said, "You never know a person until you live with them."
464203
Hey, you know, I am kind of in the same boat as you are, except for I have pretty much gone through having to hear my ex-husband cry to me every single time that I spoke with him to let me know how much is missed me.  I have two young boys with him, and believe me, it has been really hard, but thanks to my dear boyfriend who I now love a lot I have made it through.  I have been thinking about living with my boyfriend too, as my divorce will be in June, but it seems like I can't wait that long.  I don't know, but I just know that women seem to want things done much quicker and we don't like to wait to get what we want.  I would say to do what your heart tells you to do.
726853
I'm sorry for you.   I'm going thru something similar, but with 20 years together.  You might never have a reason why this happened.   I've found accepting that I can't MAKE him give me an answer or tell me the truth takes away a lot of the stress.  \n\nThere must be some little things that are better with him gone, though.   Something as small as having your room the way you like it now.   You may never stop loving him, but you will move on.  If you don't, you're wasting the life you have left!   There's so much more to do and see yet.   \n\nStrengthen you relationship with your kids (if you have any), and with your friends.   If you don't have friends, get out and do something you love and you'll meet some new ones.  \n\nI don't know how longs it's been for you, but at 2.5 month for me I can say that I'm really happy most of the time.   I couldn't have imagined that only a few weeks ago!\n\nGood luck to you, and don't stay home or in bed all day!  Force yourself to get out and do things or go places
432415
Well it sounds like he has already emotionally abandoned the relationship, so who is to blame you for phyiscally abandoning the relationship?  I think you should do it before he leaves, though.  His running away (literally!) is really just a passive-agrressive way of forcing you to make a decision and be the "bad guy" for leaving when he's gone.  What a wimp!  Demand closure now, before he goes so you can get on with your life and tie up any loose legal entanglements.  You don't want him running up huge debts on his world-wide jaunt that you will be paying off, either.  What a selfish bastard!
280170
No, you are not suffering at all.  \n\nWhat you did was make an honest mistake, you have admitted you are wrong and willing to make the proper adjustments to ensure it will not happen again.  What HE has done is taken a vendetta against your actions and thinks it is now ok to hurt you in return; a common trait in a person that is hurt.  They want to go on the offensive immediately instead of rationalizing.  \n\nYou have done what you could to rectify the situation. If you two have love for each other, you would deal with the simple mistakes and move on with your life.  If he is that adamant about leaving, let him---see if he realizes what he is missing in you.  Live your life normal, do not seem "hopelessly lost without him".  Then he will see that he messed up and left you for something that I see as petty.  \n\nTrust is definitely an issue.  Without trust, "a house is nothing more than a concrete slab"....in other words, without trust, you have nothing more than words between the both of you.
587272
Sounds like he just wanted an excuse to leave. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but its the vibe I get from your description. Try to move on and find someone who will love you and be honest with you. Best of Luck.
372837
You need to walk away for good. He is putting you on a horrible emotional roller coaster and is playing with your emotions. For your own health and sanity, walk away for good. Tell him you are not going to take this constant on-off situation and feel it is better that you go your separate ways.
261128
He doesn't want you to struggle. Or he knows that if he pays rent somewhere, He'll always have somewhere to go. Why are u upset. If somebody paid my rent and were never there Id be happy. Think about it
360612
Meaning he's moved on from you.  It might be in terms of maturity.  Social class.  Lifestyle.\nHe feels like you two are in different worlds and am conflicted how the relationship will work anymore because of the differences.
908769
It sounds like he's very hurt by not only the break up, but by your harsh actions of how you treated him after the relationship ended. He's seen you in a new light that was not good and now in turmoil over whether or not to get back with you. Best thing to do now would be to back off to give him time and space to figure things out. By you constantly calling and asking him what's he going to do is probably just making matters worse. Let him have his time to think about things and so he can make his decision.
609962
im sorry\nthe same thing happened to me w/my x. He would move out anywhere from couple days - month. \nwell eventually i had enough we are not together. \nleaving for while wil not solve any problems at all either.\nwell good  luck to you i hope things work out for you!!!
1085761
Has it occurred to you that he hates you just as much as you hate him and he's waiting for you to grow up and move away so that he can have the normal life he deserves?  Face it - there is not a damn thing you can do to 'make him move out' so you need to grow up and deal with the fact that your mother loves him and he is there to stay.\n\nKnock it off and stop being a brat.
1062773
i can understand what you mean as there was something similar that happened between me & my boyfriend but cuz of different reasons...but it was my boyfriend who was in your position & i was on the receiving end...its very tough when someone you love says that they can no longer be with you for whatever reasons...just because we love each other so much, we try to understand & do what the other wants even when thats not something we really want...our mind accepts the situations & tries to adjust but our heart just doesnt wants to let go...you imagine all the things that can go wrong & also how tough your life would be without that person...this feeling of insecurity & depression is terrible...you also began to question that whether that person really loves you, cuz if yes than how can that person take such a harsh & insensitive decision...all this is just a matter of your emotions & you imagine everything thats positive or negatve...when this happens you try to take yourself away from that person & try to act tough cuz you dont want that other person to know that after saying that you understand, you have so many questions going on in your mind...this happened with me & though i really love my boyfriend i was still hurt tremendously by his decision to break up even when i agreed & understood his reasons...i think your boyfriend also is really hurt by whatever happened...its good that you plan to go back to him...i would suggest that you talk to him & try to get out all the pain he is carrying in his heart cuz of what happened...you'll have to shower unconditional love to make him feel secure with you again...treat him nicely, spend time with him & appreciate his presence in your life...just let him know that you belong only to him & there's no one who can love & understand you the way he does...i am sure you'll be able to do that cuz you truely love him...Goodluck!!
955717
Your relationship with your ex is not completely over, you don't have closure OR you were so content in the  relationship you cannot adjust to the change fast enough.\n\nYou have to analyze your feeling honestly and openly and you will get the answer.