Help - I need to get out of a super nerdy covention (OK, I'm a nerd!) because my psycho- ex is going as well
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If he's stalking you, get a restraining order. The laws of domestic/dating violence apply to everyone! \nTo get out of the convention, though...I would simply put it about that you and your partner are going on a romantic mini-vacation that weekend....spur of the moment, super romantic trip to the shore...whatever you two would be most likely to do. Or you could say that you have the flu. But I would opt for the romantic vacation version. Hope this helps!
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Go sleep on his doorstep!...haha just kidding (sorry) I'd say keep yourself busy. Especially if he's not trying to contact you. Hang out with your friends, rent movies (not romantic ones), pick up a hobby you used to have, etc. Or do like I do, go dye your hair and get it cut in a new style. It always makes me feel like a million bucks and it's my ritual after a break up. It literally turns you into "a new person" and you feel prepared to face the world.
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grow up. ditch them both. enjoy your high school days...im sure any guy would want to be with you if you are freaky...lol
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Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
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Most definitely bring him.  It will help your ex get over you.
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Get professional help. I don't know how old you are but if your in school a school conselor should be able to help. Please do not think that I think you are crazy b/c I don't, and you don't have to be crazy to see one. To see one means you know you have some unresolved issues to deal with, and trust me from what I'm understanding the issue with your ex is very unresolved. They will show you how to move on. Good luck sweetie.
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So you've been going out with that cute guy in the year above for almost a month! his name is scribbled on all of your text books, you know his phone number off by heart, you carry a photo of him in your purse,but, alas it didn't last ..you feel very emotional and confused- you're angry at him but still fancy him to bits! you wanna cry but you wanna scream too. every single song on the radio reminds you of him!\nnow STOP! lets think about this- \ndo you really want to spend your life stuck in your bedroom, listening to love songs and crying for him?\nNO! you need some serious me-time, instead of wasting your time on him!\nso slap on a face mask, get out your dairy milk and put on some loud rock music that you can bounce around to and help take out your anger!\nyou're better off without him! why concentrate on a shark when there are loads of little nemos out there who would be a much better replacement! get out, make some friends and enjoy yourself! revise your flirting skills and you're knock em dead!
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I have been in this situation before and the best way is to make him jealous.\n\nBe the girl you always wanted to be; go to the gym and get fit and tone, splurge on a new wardrobe that'll turn heads. Open up more, become the office flirt that's fun to be around. When you're turning everyone's head including your ex-BF's and he wants you but can't have you, damn that's a good feeling.
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Wow dude, I had the exact same thing happen to me in college. My ex, psyco biotch girlfriend was one twisted chick. Thank God I ditched her monkey *ss. \n\nMy best advice to you is DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. Anything out of the ordinary? Document it. She leaves a creepy message on your machine? Save it and compile it somehow. See her parked otuside your house at 4:00 am? Sneak around with a flash and take her picture. Make sure you get the license plate. If you don't want her to see you, you can set your camera on a long exposure (like 2 hours) to get enough light. You can also use one of those surveillance video cameras that are triggered by motion. They're pretty cheap and easy to install. This will catch her in the act. This way, you can not only get a restraining order but press charges too. \n\nTo get a restraining order (I've had to do this too), go to the courthouse with some cause for it (like her threating to kill you on your voicemail or something like that). Tell the judge your story and say that she is harassing you, damaging private property and making you feel unsafe. The judge will give you a temporary restraining order which forces her to stay away. It will cost about $30 or so to have it served by a police officer. The cop will visit her, and deliver it to her. Now, if she comes within so many feet of you, her monkey *ss can get thrown in jail. This will only work for 15 days, at which point you will need to find a lawyer (believe me this is necessary). You will then go to court, tell the court your story, and the judge will take action. The judge's decision will most certainly depend on the DOCUMENTATION you have been saving up this whole time. Cool?\n\nAs best you can avoid getting into a physical altercation with her. If you really feel threatened. Buy some self defense type stuff like pepper spray. DO NOT DO ANYTHING ILLEGAL, like carrying a concealed weapon. If you get busted she can turn the story around on you. \n\nMake sure your girlfriend is documenting too. Document, dates, events, cost of repair...etc. Also, be sure to call the police each time one of these things happens. They will keep a record of it and when you go to court there's going to be a long list of things stacked against her.\n\nIf the court orders her to cease and desist, she will have to stay away from you and not call for good (or like 5 years or something). If she violates that, she goes to jail for a few years. \n\nWow, I feel for you dude. I've been there, done that. But I did my homework. The police in my neck of the woods have a mongo file on my ex. Good luck to ya. Shoot me an email if you need more advice.
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If I found out they were dating behind my back, I would dump BOTH of them, not 1. Just to make the process more efficient! :)\n\nCheer up, sh..t happens, you know.\n\nGet a new best friend, and a get a new boyfriend, too.\nHarsh to say, but this may be the only clean way out of this mess. \n\nDon't torture yourself... but defend yourself, as much as you can. Don't let your self-esteem go down beause of the two pigeons.
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YEAH, you go girl.  Forget the loser!  Dont you dare let him back into your life!!!
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Wow, sounds insecure!  Definitely move on.  Aren't you glad she was the one moving out?!?!?!  It made the whole breaking up process a heck of alot easier on your part!
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You are so far into the material and emotional world that I cannot help you.  My advice is to drop all girlfriends and boyfriends and have no relationship whatsoever until you can get your head together.  You are a living soap opera! lol hon get some help!
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Why? Accept your nerdiness and be proud of it! I have accepted my dorkiness and I am now proud of it. Many geeks have done the same and we are uniting! \n\nJust have fun and enjoy yourself and don't give a crap about labels. They mean nothing.
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Yeah...it sounds familiar ...I have an ex who tried the same...basically you have to set boundaries as it's not appropriate for him to visit you given his feelings and the fact that you're committed to another man. Tell him to use the phone or mail to communicate but don't expect him to go away -it's been 18 years since my ex has been doing this but as he's basically harmless I haven't really cared. The important thing is -is your ex harmless? Or is he someone who may act on his obsession? Finally I want to say -be sure you're not sending mixed signals...I've seen too many women not be clear about their wishes only to whine or press charges later when it's their fault for not being direct in the first place! Be honest with him and tell him to scram! There's my advice...I hope you take it! Edit~ I got your mail....If you hate him as you say AND HE HAS 'HURT YOU SO BAD' then why are you putting up with him then? Get a restraining order! Call the police and file a complaint and ask them to tell him to stay away! I thought maybe you still liked him on some level but since that's not the case you need to be pro active! Don't sit here on yahoo talking about it-do something about it -and I mean right now-today! Make sure you don't regret not doing anything!!!!!!!!! Everyday you let this go on-you encourage him more, and give him hope and he will become more relentless! You have been warned!
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find another one. One better than your ex.
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Pack up and run away.  Put 1500 miles distance between you and your soon to be ex.  It's better that way.