how do i handle a distance lover?
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WITH A LONG HANDLE SPOON
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Hi,\nIt is a very common problem as Internet widely used nowadays. the two persons meet and chat from Internet and finally one loves another or love each other.......\ndo you know why? because of distance makes perfect. all the characters they showed are the attractive. and we accustomed to picture him/her as our ideal partner.\nMaybe you can make a communion with him, if he consider for you enough , I think he will help you.if not he is not worthy your love.Do you think so?
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You may be in luck. Honestly, long distant relationships eventually NEVER work out. I would stick around for a while..but i wouldnt be like.." oh come get me,I'm yours!" type of thing. play hard to get. make him WISH he was with you instead of his so called girlfriend that lives farther away..and your only 1 mile. be his friend, talk to him, but dont stay on the couch by the phone, nad wait for him to call you. if he decides he wants to stay with his old g/f. so be it. you dont have to wait for him, when there are PLENTY of men out there. just go out there and find you another one! its all good! dont let one man take over your life. cause its not his, its yours. =]\n\n                     ~Ashley
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Long distance relationship hardly works.
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You got to choices, and it's all up to you.\n\n1. Dont listen anything she says cause living 1 hour away from each other is not DISTANCE, believe you have no idea what a distance-relationship is. If you care for her as you say, FIGHT FOR HER, dont' let her go, if she really loves you, she'll stay with you.\n\n2. Move on... there's a milion other girls. Yeah, i know it's really hard and at this moment you probably believe that you can't live without her, than you will never be able to love anyone again and stuff like that... but believe me, in 6 months, you won't even remember her last name.
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Tell him! Most long distance relationships don't work out anyway.
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My cousin had a long time relationship with this girl, he's from Canada and she's from the States. They meet over the Internet and now their married and still in love. I had a long distance relationship and it wasn't that hard to deal with as long as you don't go crazy with a "what if" in the back of your mind and trust your heart that every word spoken is true. Now we live together and I still love him even more then before, and am excited for the years to come. I say if it feels good, and you both can handle the distance between the two of you, give it a try and see as the days go by.
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well to develop a relationship with the person who is just 2 1/2 hour far is not a difficult thing.u can make relatioship by chatting daily or whenever u like on phone or on internet chat,and then u may meet several times.\nwell if u like each other u can make from any far end than ur distance is not too much.
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How long will you be "far away"...?\nCause that makes a difference in how realistic it is...\nI'm currently away from my guy too...\nBut only for a couple of months.\nIf your thing is permanent, then my honest suggestion\nWould be either move to him, or move on.\n\nAs far as ways to make him think of you,\nThat won't be a problem if y'all are really in love...
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this is a really painful trip..obviously the guy is on a different wave length than you..its the signals they give off that we don`t pay attention to because we want them to be just as much in love as we are.A good rule of thumb for self protection is not to give too much to fast,until you see your getting the same back..and if he went off with your friend get rid of them both,neither one of them mean you any good.
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Firstly resolve your own sexuality - either your are gay or you are not - I do not believe there is such a thing as "bigay" only an individual who can not fully accept that he's gay. Having said that - if you care equally about this guy - then talk about your feelings and if over just a weekend together - it will work it self out. Both of you can discuss your feelings and depth of emotions and desires and expectations in a relationship and go from there. Distance should not influence your love.\nI had my first lover from Sydney, Australia and we were absolutely committed and happy together until he suddenly died. Good luck, dude.
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first you have to realize that long distance relationships are difficult, but possible...how well do you know this gal? if youve only IM'd, then it might be best to take it slow, get to know her...also consider that 'she' might not really says who 'she' says she is...never know man, could be a freakin weirdo using made up pics...start with the e mail thing, then get a phone # and talk for a while-and i mean a while-months...get to know her and make sure she is on the up and up before you consider meeting...lust is a powerful emotion, but dont let it cloud your judgement
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Find someone else to date.  Or just immerse yourself into your group of friends.\n\nAnd who says long distance is impossible? I'm in a long distance relationship right now and it's working out great!
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cry alot call them write them and cry some more i know i still love this guy im 1500 miles away from him you just hope you can be with him again and hold him in your arms and do the things that you did when you were with him and i do believe that if you are meant to be with someone you will be no matter what happens in life
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From personal experience and I also have friends trying to make long distance work. Its sooooo hard! No matter how much you like or love that person its nearly impossible, especially since you both live in two different states. Have you ever heard of the expression, The right person but the wrong time. Dont hold each other back.
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I'm assuming that you are talking about a loved one in a romantic sense here.  I guess you can call them?  E-mail them?  SMS them?  Fax them?  Chat on MSN/Yahoo Messenger and AIM to them?  Make the most of the time you guys have together and just enjoy.. When you are not with them, just remember all the good things that happened when you were with them and look forward to seeing them again! :) Hope this helped somehow.
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That one is a hard one to answer. Maybe you can gently and in a round about way ask him how he feels about you\n\nWhen a guy is in love with you he cannot do enough for you. If it is long distance, well I cannot say there is no true way of telling unless you ask him or unless he is direct with you