Is is stupid to be putting off having a baby b/c I'm afraid of childbirth?
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Hey we all get scared.  I thought I was IT until it was crunch time and then I just decided right then and there I could not do it.  Epidural helps IMMENSELY and make sure you have the experience YOU WANT.  Don't let moms and hubbys and in laws and nurses make those decisions for you.  You have to be able to tell people to shut up, or hold your hand, or sneak you food, whatever.  They work for YOU when you are in labor.  But I think we all forget about the pain, because after 10 years I don't think it is as bad as people say.  \n\nLike I said, EPIDURAL!!!
1087040
gosh i hope your not thinking of getting on one? it also depends on how far along you are, but it can cause irritation to the fetus and strong banging can result in miscarriage
636911
Yeah, it is fine. The baby is in a sack so it is protected from any *** getting on it. ( I know it may be naive, but I was worried about that when I was pregnant so I asked my Doc) As far as any other health reasons you should be concerned about I don't think there are any. There's certainly no fear of getting pregnant if you are already preggers. My husband and I actually had the most uninhibited, worry-free, most AWESOME sex ever when I was pregnant. Enjoy and let your hubby enjoy this while it last. Have fun.
579956
I do not buy that.  Having kids is an amazing adventure, and you should not miss out on it.  However, do not do it unless you have the time and money to devote to them, and the confidence that you will both be together to raise them.
188241
I'm not sure if this will justify it but here is something that happened to me.  I had been sleeping when I was awakened by the sound of a car horn. Once awake, I suddenly felt the need to go visit my Friend's sister who was living with her boyfriend, and was very pregnant.  I had never visited her before, in fact, I barely knew her. I had only been to her house to drop off a package from her mother once.\n I arrived at her appartment was invited in, informed she was in labour, and that she was planning to have the baby at home. I had experience with child birth having assisted in two deliveries prior to this event. I asked if I could feel her stomach, and realized that the child was in the wrong position to be born.  Not wanting to panic either the boyfriend or my friend's sister, I convinced them it would be better to use the birthing room at the hospital so as to avoid the cleanup after a delivery.  They had no car, so I drove them to the hospital. She was signed in, and delivered 15 minutes later a full breech. Had she not been in the hospital, both her and the baby would have died.  I left the hospital and never saw that family again.  Was it God directing me that night? I really don't know, but I have no rational explanation for why I went to visit her that night.
299643
Im terrified of commiting...to anything! Im so scared that I'll make the wrong decision, that I dont make any decision at all? Strange.
741170
go to your Dr and deal with what comes out of it best do that sooner rather than later.l.At this point you would be worrying   too much and maybe unnecessarily,using up energy you could be using with your new baby and life and yep use contraception if you don't want another baby just yet.Every girls body is different. Good luck
145764
If you were worried of getting pregnant...you should have used protection! Have the baby, but give it up for adoption. Plenty of couples wanting babies out there.
1136908
Abortion is choice.. When you have sex and do not use birth control you know at that moment that your taking a chance on becoming pregnant, not with a cow or a chicken but with a baby. so, you know baby, so it is not a surprise.. It is a question of right or wrong. Your choice. I can see if you are raped that is different story. yet there are many childless people willing to adopt..How about a baby that will have a defect. Like Down syndrome? Can the baby be properly cared for?  The issues go on and on.. So it comes back to having sex, unprotected.. Your choice
358902
Maybe the baby represents some 'baby' that you want or already have. Such as a book you want to write or a work-project that you are working on and you feel anxiety at the responsibility of taking care of this 'baby' but at the same time you are actively seeking the challenge so have mixed feelings about taking on a new responsibility in your life?
57919
Absolutly . I believe it is the chioce that truely reflects intuition and the reason for intuition. I truely believe that you could just use your mind and focus to abort a fetus. I have seen many women do it. But if you can't and you feel you want to reject the spirit go to a docter.\n\nHitler was an abomination. And should of been aborted
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I definitely would not, regardless of what doctors say.  There are so many unpredictables in pregnancy -- and so many unpredictables in river rafting.  Combining the two just seems reckless, and for no reason, right?  It's not like your last shot at the Olympics or anything!  Why take a chance -- cheer your friends along while rubbing your belly like a genie lamp (hee hee).\n\nSeriously, enjoy your pregnancy, but I advise not doing something that could have a terrble negative -- and unfixable -- consequence!
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It's normal to question it and to even be afraid of it. You are, ultimately, the only one who can decide whether or not you want children. To have children and not want them is unfair to the children and yourself. You wouldn't provide any type of well rounded for for them. \n\nAt 22 you still have plenty of time to decide. \n\nFor me it's always been something I've always known. I've always adored kids, and can't wait to have my own. I would surround myself with kids and babysit every chance I get. Now I have my neice and nephew around all the time, and the love I feel for those two kids is just mind-blowing.... It's actually kind of scary to think what kind of love I'll feel when I have my own children. \n\nHaving kids isn't for everyone though. Don't feel bad if you decide it's not for you. Many people feel that way.
77844
The fact that you're really not sure about whether or not you should, means DON'T. Wait until you KNOW that it's right. And just think about what if the condom breaks? Are you SERIOUSLY ready to be a mom?
870587
I was feeling the same way not so long ago.\n\nMaybe it's just a female urge, but I really wanted to get pregnant. I wanted to have a baby who was half of me, and half of him, I wanted a baby I could love and watch grow up.\n\nBut, I realized the life of that child would be deprived. As much as I know I would love him or her, they'd have very few chances at a good and equal future. If you guys aren't seeing each other enough, maybe you should talk to him about it. If basketball comes before you, then maybe that relationship just isn't the right one to commit yourself with a child to. Who knows when he'd leave you?\n\nBut, if you are pregnant, I suggest you seriously discuss it with him, and if you aren't completely sure he can provide for you and the baby, then maybe you need to think about adoption. It's a hard decision, but if it's in the best interest of the baby, it's quite possibly the best decision, too.\n\nGood luck,\n~Morgan~
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You'll be OK, being jittery is all part of being pregnant too, you've been given too much to cope with all at once; just think of that baby  and how proud you'll be. But ..... put yourself first, others will go on and on about the babies health but you have to be OK too.
847474
I think the ability to be either are put into all of us at birth. My mom works in a hospital and I hear all the time about these miracle babies in the Intensive Care Nursery. The doctors and parents always say "They are really fighting". I believe that you are either born with that or you are not. Also the environment you are raised in can either nurture that or ruin it.