I'm trying to get the guts to not be shy. Any ideas? By shy I mean, around girls I like and I want to ask out.
342107
Well, ask the girl out that you don't know, the freshman. If you already know everything about the person it's not all that fun. But then again, if you're shy, the other girl you've known for a long time knows that you're shy and she'll understand that you're very insecure and scared about asking her out. She'll most likely say yes if she likes you like that. So, just be yourself, even if that person is a little shy. Or find ways to boost your self confidence. Like getting rid of your acne. Go to a dermatologist..they can help you. Getting rid of that will make you feel better about yourself, and you'll be a little less shy! Good luck!
24686
I tell ya, when I was younger, I wish the girls would have been a little more bold, and asked me out. I was shy and couldn't do it half the time. Well, we grow up, but had that happened, who knows how things would be different...\n\nI say yes, go for it.. you might blow his mind...
124678
I used to be just like that. but you dont really get over being shy, you jsut get better at being outgoing. the first thing i did was join a club that takes you all over the U.S., it's called FFA. I got a job and it was a waitress at a bar. so there are many opportunities there. just go up and talk to the guy, any guy, it's how i did it and now im still shoy to an extent, but hey, im get out there and i have fun while chatting up some hottie. so jsut break away and strike up a conversation with some random guy, like a guy from school, in the grocery store...anywhere...even in the mall. it works.
58360
Wow, I'm suprised someone other than me has this probablem! Okay well first off don't ever be nervous around her, even if she thinks it's adorable. Kind of hint it at her, like flirt with her often but not too often. If the hinting don't help gather up all your guts and ask her out, if she says yeah good for ya, if she says no, don't give up just keep it cool with her and wait for a little longer.
142463
Hang out where the shy girls hang out.  They will be glad to know you, too.  Quiet places, coffee shops, book shops, the corner of the cafeteria.  Good luck
56927
Shy guys usually lack self confidence. Even the thought of going up to a girl and talking to her fires off all these negative thoughts into their heads\n"what will she think of me?!" "what if she doesnt like me?" "oh why did i wear this shirt today it doesnt make me look nice" "what will I say... what if we find nothing to talk about and she finds me totally lame and pathetic"\n\n*sigh*
748868
oh just ask her out. don't be shy. if you have to just ask her out as friends and maybe something will grow from that.
428685
you guys dated so she knows you...just ask her if she wants to go out...why be shy?
284883
don't ask, do. some girls love those stuff but are to shy 2 say anything, eventually shell get uset to it if you keep it up and will wanna open up to u, just remember it takes time.
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Everyone feels shy sometimes, but being too shy can hamper many aspects of your life.\n \n \nSteps:\n1.  Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.\n \n2.  Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.\n \n3.  Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.\n \n4.  Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.\n \n5.  Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.\n \n6.  Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.\n \n7.  Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.
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whose*  u said sweet, usually shy girl are sweeter. They are NOT related! I never get these people! They say outspoken, but I was shy. Then again I got nowhere. But there was one guy, I hope. And the nicest guy of all, so stay shy! But not too shy and get scared so bad and then ruin ur only chance w the only decent guy there is.
593413
Sure why not I'm shy. I'd be flattered.You can't loose\nby trying.
1015534
When I like a girl, I get all goofy around her. Not weird, but more silly. I guess its just my way of getting a little closer to her to gage her potential response if I were to ask her out. I may joke, too, but never in a mean way. I want her to say yes, after all.
47177
ask her out again! try your best to not be so shy.. i like shy guys, but for a few moments try to not be and have confidence in yourself.. go for it or you will regret it
515162
Yes, they're scared! Girls say yes or no and have that power. But, girls must wait to be asked. What suspense! That's scary, isn't it. Ther's a trick, if you can do it.  Why not (gulp) just quiet and confidently approach the guy when he's alone and tell him directly you'd like to go out sometime and it's OK if he isn't interested... and mean it. Just say that. No babeling. Courage is impressive, to me.
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As they say practice makes perfect. Just try casually talking to different girls and see what happens. You could also try joining a club or something that alot of girls are in so you can be more socialized and to face you fear of shyness.
350414
I used to have your same problem.  First get in shape so that you are confident about your appearance.  Then go out to bars and clubs and talk to as many girls as you can.  At first you might have to pump yourself full of drinks to get the courage to approach the ladies.  But believe me, like anything else, the more you practice the better you will get.  Once you start taling to a lot of girls, by trial and error you'll know what and what not to say, and how to act.  Eventually it will become second nature to you and you will have the courage to just ask girls out.