Do any other divorced moms feel this way?
344854
WOW...I don't have kids and I've never been married but I know of people who have been in the situation...I think what he's doing and letting them do is really awful...kids shoyuld be in bed latest 9pm...weekend or not...they need to sleep to do well in life...you need to tell him that he needs to be more responsible with them....he's a parent...as for the lice...try not washing hair before they go...lice are attracted to clean hair...or tea tree oil repells lice...mix it with shampoo...I think there is shampoo with tea tree oil in it too...GOOD luck!
1048127
Yes zool, sometimes I feel very sad and loney too.  My marriage of 27 years broke up about 3 yars ago.  Then I met someone, fell in love and got engaged.  He died last September.  Since then I can't seem to "find my place."  You know, where I belong.  I moved to another state but feel like I need to go back where I came from because my children and grandchildren are there.  What is making you feel sad and lonely?  You can email me at watsoq9@yahoo.com if you like.
511728
no but wan i feel like
546608
I can relate, somewhat. I live on my own with my 3 children, but my parents are ALWAYS commenting on buying a house together. They do alot for me, so it's hard for me to tell them that buying a house WITH them is not my goal. When they suggest buying a house, it makes me feel like they don't think I'll ever find someone to love me and my kids, and eventually marry me. I'm young and I had kids young, but I'm not going to die alone! They always try to make it more appealing by assuring me they will stay out of my business, but it's never that simple. Try saying it like this....\n"Mom, we love you. Please know that I appreciate all you do for me and how much we love spending time with you. You taught me so much and one of the most important traits you passed on to me was independence. I know you want us to be happy and I know it makes you proud to see me accomplish things all on my own. And I am proud when I can tackle things on my own as well. I'd love to buy a house someday, but I'm not going to do it with you. It's gotten a little "tight" around here for all of us. We're too close to realize sometimes that living with a complete stranger is less stressful. Especially since I don't have to worry about that person, like I do you. I appreciate your concern and wanting us to stay close physically, but it's really for the best. I value our time and memories together more so when we are not together 24/7. Again, we love you but I need to do this. And please don't take me getting a room mate as a reflection on you. I need to feel like I have a life seperate from yours sometimes. I know I can do this."\n\nGOOD LUCK!
840428
My wife and I divorced when our sons were 5 and 2 1/2.  It was a miserable experience.  The divorce was painful because I didn't feel like I belonged anywhere anymore.  There was no normality.  Even more painful was not being with my sons everyday.  The hurt will not disappear overnight.  You probably don't want to hear this but it just takes some time.  One thing that will help is to maintain a civil relationship with your ex, but while the hurt is still there try to restrict your conversations to the children.  As for the children, do whatever you can to make sure you have as much time with them as you possibly can.  Focus your energy on making sure they know you want them around and that your home is also their's and they aren't just visitors.  I know the pain you are feeling and my heart goes out to you.  This won't make the hurt go away completely, but it does give you something to sort of hang-on to that is positive.
346767
I feel the same way right now.\nI feel like I am so sad I want to cry but too tired and burned out to bother.\nI just am really starting to hate almost everyone lately.
218721
I had feelings for my ex after our divorce too.  I think it was a comfort thing.  No one knew me like he did.  But, as time passed I began to remember the reasons why I filed for divorce.  They certainly out weighed my fantasies of having a reunion.  Let time pass.  There are so many other singles out there that have been through the same thing.
1015849
Susan,\nHi!  My name is Karen and I am a Nurse.  I worked in Labor and Delivery for many years.  It is not uncommon to feel like you are feeling.  It is called Post Partum Depression.  Of course, you love your daughter.  You need to make an appointment with your doctor and let him/her know how you are feeling.  You may need to go on an anti-depressant for a little while. Many women feel the way you do after they have a baby.  It is because of the hormones going crazy in your body.  Do you feel like you want to hurt yourself or your baby?  If you do, please call a friend to come stay with you and the baby so you will both be safe.  You do not want to do something you would regret for the rest of your life.  And remember, your daughter needs you to be there for her.  Do not feel embarrassed because of being depressed.  You are not alone.  Please make sure you call your doctor in the morning and get an appointment to see him/her.  It is very important that you do this for yours and your daughters safety.  It will make you feel better.  Take care and God Bless You Both!\nKaren
879316
Everyone regrets some things so yes I gues it is normal. Sometimes it seems as if you can never do anything right doesn't it? I felt like that when my first wife and I were going through a bad patch prior to our divorce but things even themselves out in the end. For every cloud there is a silver lining and as things go on the good feelings arrive with them.
505826
...been there brother...it hurts worse than anyone will ever understand.\n\nFriends and family are great, but you know as well as I do, that you can only be around them so much.  Sometimes you just need time alone.  Try not to spend too much time alone.  I know, I still struggle with that and my divorce was final 6 months ago.  \n\nMan, I could write a book to you right now.  It is just SO hard dude.  \n\nWhatever you do, don't spend all your time thinking about all the great times, the great traits of your wife and, most importantly, beating yourself up over the situation, (kicking yourself over anything and everything you could have done better, blaming yourself for not making her happier and feeling like you failed).  THIS IS WAY EASIER TO SAY THAN TO DO!  I know.  This is the trap that I fell in and caused me to become WAY, WAY depressed.\n\nYou are gonna ride a roller coaster of up and down emotion for the next few years.  The low times are gonna be LOW, LOW, and the high times will be pretty good, believe it or not.\n\nWriting has become my happy place.  Actually, it doesn't really make me happy, it just releaves me of the pain that I am experiencing at the moment.  I don't always write about the divorce, feelings or depression.  Sometimes, I write about current events, events that really touched me, friends, etc.  It really doesn't matter.  Writing just gives me an outlet to release emotion without bothering others.
1022993
I have a daughter, and parenting is the hardest thing I have ever had to do.\n\nIn fact, I am getting myself permenantly sterilized because parenting is so unfufilling.  I love my daughter and I take damned good care of her, but this is IT.  I want my freedom!\n\nSo, yes a woman  can feel fufilled in other ways.\n\ncareer\ntravel\nfinancial stability\npets\nother people's children (you can give them back!)\nquiet\n...I could go on
1137993
My spouse of 12 years died Jan 05..and I feel like a major part of my world died with him. The old saying time heals all wounds has some merit, to a point. I still have days when the grief is all consuming, and other days things are fine. I still have small kids that need me, otherwise I often wonder if I'd have the desire or need to carry on alone.
860420
I agree with you 100%! I am so sorry for what you are going through but I am heartbroken that she is using the kids like that. She not only ruined her marriage but she is destrying her children. If this is any consolation to you, your children will end up hating her for what she is doing and one day they will turn on her for that. I am sure that doesn't make you feel better because you don't sound vendictive at all, and I am sure you don't want your children to hate her. But in all honesty, that will happen. I have seen it happen quite a lot. \nTry a mediator.Document everything! Tape phone calls if you have to cover yourself. Communicate with her in writing, so everything is documented. Reassure your children of your love and do not resort to her ways. Give your children and extra hug when you see them and find a good attorney to help maitain your visits with your children. Be the better person out of this because you are right, the law does seem to side with the mother more often, so you, unfortunately will have to work even harder.\nI am a female, married with a wonderful son and I have made mention to this abuse by women over and over. There are some women who live through hell and back and deserve to fight tooth and nail for what they deserve and then you get these type of women who abuse the system because they feel they can.\n(I don't know the whole story and I am only going by what you said, truly there are two sides of every story.)\nGood luck to you and your new marriage. And keep in mind, she is jealous, that even though she cheated on you, you moved on and are happy now. She thought you would fall apart. That's why she is acting that way. \nBe there for your children, they should be the main concern.
535092
OMG, i know what you mean, my house is a wreck and i feel like all i do is cook and clean, so how does my neighbor with 5 kids have a spotless house and well-behaved kids and still find time to do fun stuff.... ??? i was stay at home and now i have a job, its hard either way.....\nAnd when hubby doesnt help... i am too darn tired to be meeting him at the door with anything lol\n\nPlease email me when you find out :) \n\n((((((HUGS)))))))) i don't feel so alone now...lol
282310
I have had this feeling off and on sense early adulthood.I tried twice ,thank god someone found me both times.Now that I know I have this tenancy ,I start fighting it as soon as it appears.I tell myself of the hurt it will cause others.I put if off until my daughter gets over her last baby etc. And when that happens I find another reason why I need to put it off. It works for me.
520599
I was too. Sometimes I still am a bit, but then I realize..she has a stressfull job, a husband, 2 kids....and doesnt go out much. Thats when i'm happy to be me, with no kids, still in college and going out. You just have to understand that everyone is different. You'll have your day.
743444
I've been thinking about this alot all year...and somehow im still in the same place :( I wish i can get it together..but down the line i do plan on being a good mommy and married someday..