if i hold my son back in the first grade will he drop out before he graduates?
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I agree that statistics show that he will fall in a higher rate of dropping out but its up to you to make sure that doesn't happen.  Most of the kids that drop out were held back in the first place because the parents weren't there to help them.  Then there are kids that had the parental support but weren't mature enough to pass on.  I agree that if you will retain a student it should be in first grade. In kinder they learn letter sounds and they are only there half of the day.  In first they learn to put it all together and decode.  In second they read for comprehension.  The following grades are for learning from what they read.  So if you are going to retain him, first grade is your the one key grade where it may actually help.  If you wait, he will fall farther behind.  But like i said, its up to you to make sure he doesn't fall through the cracks.
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tell her its your life and you'll run it the way you want to.Your education is the most important thing in your life and when people drop out they tend to regret it later on in life.I'm a student myself and if mom ever said drop out I'd love to,but I'd still say no to it because I want a good,proper education.So tell her you don't want to and she should be supporting you and not turning against you.
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no sir he is 17 ( a very critical age where decisions decide the whole life ) n he is making a wrong decision of dropping out of school.u can try once to tell him the importance of education n if he dosent understand then let him find out himself.Giving him support for a wrong decision is just going to spoil him further more.
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depends sometimes its headstart, preschool or even Kindergarten. Should ask local ISD they could help out.
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Tennisshoe has done a wonderful job letting you know what you need to do.\n\nThe thing is, if your son is under 22 years old, and not reading at least at the 8th grade level (the minimum accepted level for regular ed kids to graduate), he should NOT be graduating with a standard diploma. He has until the year of his 22nd birthday to continue taking high school remediation classes free of charge. If they are forcing graduation before then, you DO have a lawsuit. Get a lawyer!\n\nIf your son IS turning 22 years old this year, then the schools have worked with him for as long as they legally can. If they can demonstrate academic growth each year, then they have done what they are supposed to.\n\nIf he is turning 22, take his diploma, and copies of his last few IEPs, to the local college/university. He can be enrolled there for more reading remediation, but now it will cost you and him for tuition and books (rather than the taxpayer).\n\nThere are also trained tutors available, both through the colleges and privately. \n\nWhat bothers me most is that this should have been covered as part of the "Transition Planning" in his IEP meetings, ever since he was 14 years old.\n\nI would strongly recommend that in either case, you get a parent advocate. Most states have a parent advocacy organization of some kind. In New Mexico, it is Parents Reaching Out (PRO).
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What are you trying to prepare him for exactly?  Does he have trouble reading?  Writing?  As a ninth grade social studies teacher the biggest problem I find, is that freshmen have organization and personal responsibility problems.  As soon as school starts go to the parent-teacher night, if they have one, or make some kind of contact (e-mail is good) introducing yourself and just letting them know that you want to help your son succeed in high school.  Buy an organizer for your son to record his homework and MAKE him use it!!   And if he doesn't do well at the beginning, make him take responsibily for poor grades.  Hopefully, if you work with him from the start and set up good study habits he will succeed!
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It might be best to let him have his last year in elementary school in public school, so that he can arrive at the next school with friends and start off there with at least that worry out of the way - you know, someone to do it with.\n\nReally though, it is probaby too hard to tell from this vantage point what will be best.  There are those who say children are better suited for friends an socialization at 7 - but as your child grows and develops you will see more of what his nature is, what will benefit him and how well he learns on his own and in social situation.  You know your child better than anyone else - and as you get to know him even better over a couple more years of having him at home, I am sure the right choice will make itself clear to you at the right time.\n\nI personally am homeschooling all the way - well, that's the plan now anyway.  We will just have to see how it goes and were life takes us!
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dont drop out. if youre 18 that probably means you only have a few months left? trust me, graduation day is the best feeling. plus you'll go nowhere in life if you do.
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YES, and stay your course.Work hard to finish school and don't let that piece of s%#t make you feel guilty for anything you have done. Don't let someone like him drag you down. Its gonna be rough for a while, but you definitely don't need anybody to make things harder. Hang in there, it will be worth it.
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my son is graduating high school this year . i am happy for him , but i find it sad for me . he is an only child and i am wondering what will i do with myself now that he will be off to college in the fall ...lol
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I had a similar problem a couple wks ago. My sons teacher was labeling him and picking him. I was getting notes every single day just about from his teacher. I was really sure what was going on because he had been making A-B honoroll. Anyways I went up there and spoke with her, found that she had moved him and ONLY HIM to a different part of the class room so he could pay attention. I was not having that since he was making good grades all year long and still is. He said he wasn't misbehaving or disruptive, so I didn't know what the hell the problem was. I also spoke with the principal and asked that my son be moved or we were taking it to the school board. We just put our foot down(husband and I)and let them know that we were serious and wanted it to be resolved. Because he wasn't gonna learn if he's getting discouraged by his teacher. I don't know what grade your sons in, but my son is in 2nd grade. And don't think that you guys are being a pain in the butt or an inconvenience to the "school", because that is your son. I was getting on to my kid every time that I was getting a note, but it wasn't him, I guess the teacher decided to pick on him. And as far as the school staff, who cares what they think of you, but once they start picking or being ugly to your son. Id take it a step further and contact the school board. Good luck!!
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I have a son who still experiences motor skill delays at 7 after being a preemie.  He was in a Montessori-styled program at 4, and it was a disaster!  He needs more structure, more firmly consistently administered discipline and more clearly communicated expectations.  After sending him back to a more traditionally styled preschool, he is in First Grade this year and doing wonderfully.  Don't hesitate to hold him back a year starting Kindergarten.  So many parents are doing it in response to the high expectations placed on Kindergartners.\n\nIt sounds like all your son is doing wrong is being 3. Boys that age do not sit still well, do not complete tasks, and do not communicate as well as girls do at that age.  I also have one that age, so know what is now, and what will be later.
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First of all, if your child is in special education, she CANNOT be held back. If she is not learning effectively in the general education setting, then she needs additional Resource pull-out. You need to have a new IEP called, her difficulties with academics discussed, and additional instructional supports put in place. If your child is receiving speech, she may need more phonics-intensive reading and writing instruction than what is provided in the regular ed classroom. \n\nHolding a child back in elementary school, who is not receiving special services, is an effort to avoid putting the child in special education. Sometimes a repetition, especially of kindergarten or first grade, allows a child with a mild developmental delay to "find his/her academic feet" and be able to perform effectively at general education instructional styles and pacing.\n\nHowever, No Child Left Behind limits the number of children that can be held back in any given year, so many students aren't held back when they should be, and end up in special education for "Developmental Delay" or even "Specific Learning Disability"  when a simple retention would have kept them out of special ed.\n\nSpeech-Language Impairment is not a matter of developmental delay, however. No, retention will not help your child.\n\nAn IEP is supposed to be designed so that a child is accessing learning effectively, at his/her potential. A child with an IEP should be making appropriate gains each year compared to him/herself, and it is the IEP that needs to be revised if failure is happening. And yes, a "speech-only" student categorized as Speech-Language Impaired CAN be given Resource room academic instruction, if his/her learning needs warrant it.\n\nYou need to have a new IEP meeting, and increase your child's time in special education services, if her academics are that shaky right now.
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School is a great playground for kindergarten-age children. I remember having a smart 4-year old in my class when school started in September, and he was shy but brilliant. At first it was a little rough for him socially because he was afraid to open up, but I'm sure that with some motherly encouragement he'll make it through.\n\nIt will benefit him if he gets an early start to his education! I graduated among the youngest in my class and it was nice to be younger while accomplishing the same things as your peers, because you have a sort of head start. \n\nI think it's best to go on your gut instinct on this one. Good luck!
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PLease whatever you do DO NOT DROP OUT OF SCHOOL!!!! From a woman who is struggling herself, i envy you that you are in high school and still have a chance to make it. I understand that thngs are tough right now, but it will pay off. You have to sacrifice a few things to make it in this world. Dropping out of school is not an option and you will regret it for the rest of your life. You will not get these years back. I was sitting on the bus and watched the high school kids going to school and i almost wanted to cry. I cannot go back in time and fix what I did. If i knew then what I know now, I would have been in the front of the class, front and center, on time and did extra work on my projects. Then maybe i could have gone to Princeton or something. if you do this, you will be having to play catch up all of your life. Your situation is just hard now, NOW. it will not be the same tomorrow. Would you really want to ruin your life because of a small obstacle now. Please think about this. I had to do some regrettable things in my life and dropping out was one of them. I played catch up and i am 23 and still struggling while i have a friend who is 25 and is already working on his Masters degree at LIU. I envy him so much and it makes me look at my life. I have an Associates degree and am planning on "trying" to get my Bachelors one day, hopefully soon, but all of the struggles i had to overcome are unimaginable. The shame hurts more. So please, while you are still young and have a chance to be somebody, stay in school and do your best with what you have. If not for your family, for ME or anyone, but do it for yourself. I would hope that you do become successful and live a life free of worries. Make the right decision and stay in school.
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your able to drop out with parent consent,but stay in school.you'll regret it later.plus making $15,000 annually suckssssssssssss!!!!!!!
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Have you talked to your son to see if it is what he wants to do?  If it is, just let him know that it may be a little harder and he may not the get A's and B's he is use to but he can't get discouraged and quit.