How do I get him to change?
346668
It sounds as if he is displeased with the state of your life together.  You are both working way too much in my opinion.  You should both cut back.  Then he'll have plenty of time to sleep and you'll have more time to spend together.
331386
tell him to be a man!!!!!!!!!!!!!
864146
Yeah get out of there! you have to do it slowly stop calling him and contacting him and he will soon take the hint. Don't fall for the I'll change routine...men like that never change.
1048362
Their is no prepapatioon 4 that. What ever happens next is on him. But what u can do is make sure your their 4 him and, in the nicest way, correct his mistakes & reinform him on what he need 2 b doing.
978863
What is needed is that you tell him to stop blowing the money or go sleep in his car that he bought the speakers. Let him know that you two are to be more responsible for the money that God has bless you with. Next pray for him and ask God to help you stay calm until he changes because we can't change a person they have to want to change themselves. We can pray for them and allow them room to change. God bless you.
800033
Love, you cant make a man change one bit.  trust me, im a man, and I know.  There's nothing we hate more then someone trying to change us.  Infact, if you do try, he might just increase his reckless behavior just to spite you.  His actions seem to imply that he doesnt believe he has much to live for, to be blunt.  I suggest trying to get him in touch with his passions (besides you of course).  what does he LOVE to do?  Find that passion and spark it all the time!  Dont say anything about what he eats or how much he excercises (again, no one likes a nag..he's a big boy after all) but wait and see.  If he's in touch with his passions again I'd bet my last nickel that he'll start eating better and going to the gym.
425898
Sit him down and talk to him. Tell him exactly what you said in your question. Ask him what he thinks and tell him that you think he needs to change. if he truly cares about you and your future kids, he'll make an attempt to hange and become a better and more responsible person. If he's not willing to try, then find yourself someone who'll love you and will be able to take care of you. A man who won't change for the better isn't worth it.
316951
You can't. You cannot make someone else change something about themselves, especially if they don't want to. You can only change something about yourself - with difficulty. Please don't think it is your responsibility to make sure that your husband makes it. You can only sort out yourself. Far be it for me to cite organisations but check out an Al-Anon meeting if you can. They can show you some signposts. It is up to you how you choose to follow them. Take care of yourself. Best of luck with your own recovery.
424530
If he was really changing, his behavior would not be so sporadic.  He would make a genuine committment to be that same wonderful guy instead of turning back into an ogre.  Most people need something bad to happen to them before they realize the hurt that they've done to others, and change their own lives.  If you stay, you are only telling him that you easily fall for his mind games, and that it doesn't take much to placate you.  But if you go, and I mean seriously go (no threats or promises), you will show him that you are genuinely tired of your life with him that way that it is.  And if he misses you enough (and you should always make them miss you), he will realize his many errors and make a concerted effort to change his life and ways to get you back.  And if he doesn't decide to change to get you to come back, then he wasn't meant for you anyway and was just a bump on your road of finding true happiness.
273282
he wont change, if theres one lesson ladies should learn is they can't change a guy no matter how hard they try
12295
I'm sure you've talked to him about this to no avail. Its going to depend on what you will put up with. Hes used to it, its become a habit and you know habits are hard to break, so just decide if you can live with it the rest of your life. If not, something needs to change, as in, adios. Its hard but its harder being stressed out about it. tc---Linda
1164160
Nope.  Frankly, I'm the same way.  My gf let me know it bothers her, so, I'm trying to make adjustments.  But, if you keep asking him, it'll just take longer and make him more irritated, maybe to the point where he can't deal with it anymore.  I'd let him know it bothers you, and leave it.  If he's going to change, he'll do it on his own.
446407
4 years damn, well put on a sexy nighty and meet him at the door, if that doesn't work, talk to him about couples therapy or sex therapy.ohh another thought, if you aren't getting any from him most likely someone else is. ask him and tell him you would like to see some changes. maybe he wants you to show some initiative
424019
They have to admit there is a problem to change. From my experience I think most are not going to do that. My husband just keeps telling me he is not that bad why do I despise him so much? He doesn't see what he has done to me inside.
780598
honey, there is no way to force someone to see you differently, be your self. don't ruin your friendship. maybe some day he will change his mind, but for now just be his friend. it might be that if you try to force this issue, he will not even want to be your friend.
181109
kick him in the nuts and ask him why he is ashamed to be seen with you, walk off pissed, don't talk to him for at least a day,( but not more than four), then let him make up to you!! he'll get the idea, break him in right!!
452679
You can't make him. He doesn't work for you. Change your attitude and maybe he would gladly do it for you.