how to make sure my gf is not with someone else ???
348516
Love is about trust. If you have to ask this question then it is too late. Either she is already cheating or you are so insecure about youself that its not healthy for the relationship. You are having these thoughts for a reason. Exomine them.. from there fix the problem, but if you feel she is cheating then you know what to do.
515572
keep up the good work....trust is EARNED\nshe must have been hurt REAL BAD b4...\ndon't EVER give her a reason to not trust you\nif she EVER catches you flirting with another gal...it'll take EVEN longer for her to trust you again...
132223
Well you can ask her\nIf she cannot look you in the eye when she answers you...\nsomething is up. She might not be cheating, but she could be thinking of finding someone better...and you are sensing that. Or you really have a problem, it is innate in you!\nHow many girlfriends did you think possibly cheated on you?\nIf it more than 5 then you are being paranoid! There is no way ALL five of them cheated on you! Its just not a statistic! So maybe that is why your relationship will not last. But if she is cheating, then try to meet her in places you know she will be, to watch her reaction. OR you could get a *stranger* to ask for her number and set her up.\nBUt this is very wrong! So please try to trust her...maybe that is why you are sensing her losing interest. If I had a BF who wondered about me, eventually I would cheat just to shut him up!
1122280
you should already be concerned bottom line the only person in life you can really trust is yourself you can only know what your soing not her so if your really having these concerns tell her and go out and have fun she is
665231
By not making a big deal out of it when she does leave the house. Give her a kiss and hug, let her know you love her, and that's about it. If she is truly an untrustworthy person than you'll find out eventully so there's no need to worry or get possessive. Let your love do the talking.
213291
Should be no reason for her to have guys over if you two are involved in a true loving relationship, this is not a trust issue, it is an issue of hurting a person you supposedly are in a relationship with.  If she doesn't want to help you in this regard, get a new girlfriend.  You should not have to suffer constant anxiety because someone is not respecting your feelings.  Women want that from men all the time, but if they don't reciprocate, it's time to find one that does.
783397
hi sorry about your girlfriend if she realy is cheating confront her tell her you know about the other boyfriend ! tell her how she hurt you and then say you think it would be best if we split. if she calls you after this don't pick up it . if she comes to your house don't answer the door . she is unfaithful  even if she says she will break up with him i know its hard to hear but she is most likely lieing to you she does not love you if she did she would not have cheated you deserve better . i'm very sorry about what she did to you . if you are good guy you will find some one who loves you and would never cheat on you ! Hope every thing works out ! God Bless!
866822
This person is not your "opponent", because if this your partner, then you 2 are not in a competition for her. However, the real issue here would be, if your gf is flirting back and how this person's advances makes her feel. \n\nIf it is a matter of the gf being drawn in by this, then you've got a problem, not with the other person, but with keeping your gf attention. So yes, you would concentrate on possibly complimenting her more or doing things that entice her. \n\nBut, if she is non-responsive to this other guy's advances, then there is no problem. It's no big deal that someone else like her; I always say, WHO WANTS SOMEBODY THAT NOBODY ELSE WANTS! As long as she's with you, you have nothing to worry about.
201920
If she cheated once, chances are she will cheat again. Especially considering its a lond distance relationship. Move on.
149788
You have two options:\n1) You could see them both without them knowing of each other and think you are the man, while secretly living in fear of one or both of them discovering the truth.\n2)  You could see them both and let each one know about the other and then you will KNOW you are the man.  There will be no fear about being found out and if you aren't interested in either of them long-term, then it should be no big deal if one of them doesn't want to be sharing time with your other girlfriend.  \nThere are plenty of girls who are fine with that arrangement and as long as you are safe, open and honest you will find your relationships to be more fulfilling.\nAnd if you are REALLY slick, you might be able to talk them into a group session but you'll never know until you try.  You just gotta decide if the juice is worth the squeeze.\n  \nIf you are scared of losing one of your girlfriends by telling her about the other, then maybe you shouldn't be messing around on her in the first place.
998194
Block your number and call him or get someone else like your friend to call and ask for him to see if he's really there. One question: if you think he's home, wouldn't he come on the phone since you are his GIRLFRIEND?
81365
talk to your girlfriend about this new girl and ask her what you should do. I know that this sounds crazy, but it pays off. then really question your self. Y do you like these people? is the reason you like this other girl better than your gf that you never see her or is it because you don't have chemistry? Don't just blindly make a decision. That doesn't help.
194465
Depends why she's chatting, to whom and about what. She's not cheating on you, is she? If not, tell her how you feel, and spend more time with her. Do something fun together, go somewhere, the important thing is spend time with her and she may not need to chat with others.
536244
I would say you need to stop calling her your girl and just consider her as a f@3$k buddy. Then what you need to do is take H.I.V. tests  and everybody double check.
1026275
Just bring up the subject and see what she volunteers.  Share a personal story, then say, "What would you have done if it'd been you and your girlfriend?"  Like your asking her advice or opinion, she might just say that she has had girlfriends or say that "when" she has a girlfriend....   Get the picture?  Just don't corner her.
176606
You and her are a totally different relationship from any relationship she has had in the past.  You honestly have no reason to not trust her until she cheats on you.  People grow up and people change.  If you judge someone by their prior relationships then you aren't being fair to them and giving your relationship an honest chance.  Stop worrying about this or you will create a problem that doesn't yet exist.  Life is too short to waste worrying about something that might happen.
960371
dear partygirl,\nyour boned. there isnt much you can do, by involving both parties in sex you have created paranoia. there realyl is no remedy to this.think about it like this... Q: do you ever wonder if the two see each other without you knowing?  A: you should. i tried this thing that you did and it ended up killing the entire relationship, for both.\nso here is what you should do... in my humble oppinion... figure out what is more important, him or her? then my best advice to you is to cut the relationship off. with one of them only if you want to continue with one... i resolved my own situation with that anwser. now you got to think Q: do they have a right to be justified in jealousy? A: of course they do.  i would be very jealous if i knew that the person i was in a relationship went to someone else with theyre problems. a relationship is best left monogamous... or discreetly otherwise i.e a commited relationship whilst just bringing in outside parties.... like someone you met at a bar or a freind of a freind. nobody close to you. it causes conflict. so basicly figure out who is most important to you, and ditch the other or even better ditch both and find a new guy.