My gf's ex is going to be in town w/ a friend and my gf wants me to go out with them. Doesnt feel right,help!!
338897
Catch 22 mate! either way you ain't going to like it! if you say she cant have him stay she will hate you for it and say you don't trust her which also may lead to her going anyway and may even encourage her to sleep with him just because she is pissed at you! but if you let her go she might realise she misses him and they get it on anyway!\nThe best move you can make is go with them! let her know that you are fine with meeting her ex and your glad you can stay friends. pretend that it doesn't bother you and be all matey with them! by you acting confident and comfortable around them will show that you trust her, that you a confident your girlfriend loves you and wouldn't want to ditch you for her ex, and by being there at least you can keep an eye on him! at least if he does try anything you can give him a could dry slap! if your not a fighting man make sure that a couple of you mates are out that night or why not bring them with you!Tell you girlfriend you should all go out as a group introduce her ex to a few of your crew as if you want to make them feel welcome! if you need anymore help mate email me-jamescuckow@yahoo.co.uk. and good luck
138666
It sounds like everything has already worked itself out. Your ex is dating your best friend, and you are dating one of her best friends. \n\nIs there someone out of the 4 of you that isn't happy with the arrangement?
702772
Is she your girlfriend or is this just a second date?\nIf she is your girlfriend, it doesn't matter where you go, as long as you enjoy being with eachother. She doesn't even need to your girlfriend. Again, as long as you are enjoying your time together, it doesn't really matter where you go. Just be with each other!
717202
Go out w/ him! Who cares who his ex is as long as she isn't a good friend of yours then it really doesn't matter. If he makes you happy then go for him. If you just want to get revenge on the girl (his ex) just b/c you don't like her then just go out on one date w/ him, and at least see what he is like. Who knows you may end up really liking him in the end. Just remember who cares what she thinks, if you don't like her and they are broken up then he is fair game, and you shouldn't feel bad in the slightest.
821720
Girl, that's a rough situation. Its all good to help for a little while, but her ex seems to getting a little bit to dependent on your girlfriend. The bottom line is that her ex needs to grow up and be a women, it doesn't take that long to get get your stuff together. Tell your girlfriend to give her a couple of pointers and move on. Keep your head up!
465419
ALRIGHT HERE WE GO.IF YOU REALLY LIK ETHIS GUY AND THIS GUY REALLY LIKES YOU AND THE TWO OF YOU ARE SURE ABOUT EACHOTHER THEN WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? GO FOR IT AND DON'T WORRY ABOUT HIS EX. SHE IS AN EX FOR A REASON.MAYBE THAT IS WHY HE HAS TURNED INTO YOUR DIRECTION BECAUSE YOU ARE THE REASON THAT SHE COULDN'T BE.ALSO THE EX S JUST OVERLY JEALOUS BECAUSE HE MAY NOT WANT HER BACK AND HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU BUT SHE CAN'T HANDLE THE THOUGHTS OF SEEING THE TWO OF YOU TOGETHER FROM TIME TO TIME.I WOULD SAY SCREW THE EX AND DO WHATEVER YOU FEEL IS RIGHT ASLONG AS YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE AT THE SAME TIME.GOOD LUCK GIRL!!!!
934321
Ouch!!\n\nOK to me you are doing the right thing in being honest and stopping the sleeping part of your new found friendship with this lady but I cant help feel this new friend is trying emotional black mail on you if she is living with her ex as you mentioned and who isn't to say she isn't sleeping with him why she has been with you?\nI would be more concerned about STD in this situation than her letting go.\nJust stand your ground and be firm and stick to what ever you decide.\nI think your current relationship will rekindle if you both put time and effort into it like you are.\nThey say a break is as good as a holiday.\nSadly some people can think they are in love because they are craving for any type of attention which they could be lacking in there own life or present relationship so they go and search for it else were.\nWe are all guilty of that at some point of time in our life! If we are honest.\nSo once someone nice like you seem comes along and gives them that attention and gives them the inner emotional needs like sex or comfort,then financial help and any other type of assistance whether its companionship or just a cuppa and chat and most times can be taking out of context making it hard for you in this case to break away or "get away".\nSadly some people cry wolf when they see another vulnerable person like them selves which is an easy target to latch on to.\nAs she has found with you!\nPlease just end this other connection with this other lady but sadly I cant help feel she may start giving you a hard time if not your partener of 2 years. \nAs she will feel jealouse of you going back to her and most probly wonder what is wrong with her for you to leave her after a month but honestly this her thinking and doing and not yours.\nDont fall for any emotional words as they are based on making you feel guilty..\nBe strong..And good luck.
1122598
well sounds like she already knows how you feel, so leave it alone she will follow her heart. you don't want to push her into being with you and she will always wonder if she made the right choice by not being with the other guy. just let things happen the way they are suppose to
678633
YOU BETTER NOT DARE GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIEND'S EX-GIRLFRIEND! DON'T BE STUPID. USE YOUR COMMON SENSE BOY. FRIENDS NEVER EVER DATE OTHER FRIENDS' EXES. SHE IS AN ASS FOR SURE AND ONLY WANTS TO HURT YOUR FRIEND, SERJIO BECAUSE SHE KNOWS IF YOU END UP WITH HER SHE WILL DESTROY YOUR FRIENDSHIP WITH SERJIO...THAT HEIFER. I KNOW I SHOULDN'T BUT I HATE PEOPLE WHO LIVE TO RUIN FRIENDSHIPS...GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. DON'T YOU HURT HIM. HE IS YOUR FRIEND!\n(relaxes) ok...i've calmed down now. no more yelling. stay loyal to your friend please.
550806
Sounds like a set up darlin!Even im getting paranoid thinking about it....i would say...ask him if he was going out with his ex tonight...yes/no. If answer is no..and it happens again(a similar senario,with his ex) tell him to f off.\n\nIn a nut shell....TRUST your instinct..you will know my dear.
67554
Thats kind of odd that someone with a girlfriend asked you... and if you feel that it would not be appropriate to go with the other guy then don't.  If there is someone you would much rather go with, feel them out about if they would want to go with you!  Overall, just do what you believe is right.  And most importantly, forget the drama and have fun!
81365
talk to your girlfriend about this new girl and ask her what you should do. I know that this sounds crazy, but it pays off. then really question your self. Y do you like these people? is the reason you like this other girl better than your gf that you never see her or is it because you don't have chemistry? Don't just blindly make a decision. That doesn't help.
943358
You mentioned that you were confused with your life. Perhaps you should try getting a better foothold with your own life before you do anything else. Getting back with her while you remain in a state of confusion isn't going to help the both of you. And if you really want to be with your ex girlfriend, I'd suggest you come clean about your feelings to her and your present girlfriend. A girl wouldn't want to patch if you're already seeing someone else. Don't give your ex the wrong impression that you are a 'two-timer'.
827445
You shouldn't be considering dating your friend's ex. Your asking for drama in a bad way.
789076
There are no rules.  Just be yourself!  If you worry that she will get back with her ex, then you will not really be having any fun.  Just try not to think about it, relax and enjoy the time that you spend with her.  Good Luck!
529969
ask urself the following questions..?\n\n1. Do u still have the soft corner for ur ex...\n\n2. Do u have any problem if ur friend datesur ex with her permission.. ?\n\n3. Do u think that girl will be right for ur friend..?\n\n4. Why are u giving your friend a feeling of guilt when he dates a girl who is ur EX..\n\n5. Who are u to poke ur nose in ur friends affairs.& poison their relationship\n\nask urself these questions and u will get the answers...
393270
Just try to stay busy. It normal to feel an attraction to someone but if you really dont want anythin to happen try to stay away because if your close to him youll just think about him more. And if you really want somethin ask your friend how would she feel if somebody she knew went out with her ex...right there youll see if it bugs her or not...then you can know if you should go for him or not.