Will you give a gift to someone who has hurt you if you want peace?
342617
yeah sure why not\nthe best is always who startes peace :)
322012
If you are contrite in asking forgiveness (if you feel you need to), Jesus is merciful and ready to give it. I think the advice others have given of being patient is good. Perhaps flowers or a card, with a message letting her know that when and if she's ready to talk to you, you'll be happy to hear from her might be good. God loves us all, and if we stumble he's always there to help us up. Trust in Him, and pray for His will to be done. If it is meant to be, it will be. Some time will help you sort your feelings for her too. Good luck, hope all the responses help.
679218
I was going to say something symbolic, like my children. It's true, they are the best gifts. Also, my husband because he is just amazing to me, and he's given me so much love and respect-- Something I never had before him. And he's taught me to love and respect myself, which is an incredible feeling. Anyhoo...\n\nMaterial things:\n\nA Tiffany cross. He gave it to me last Christmas. I love Tiffany, of course, but it's the fact that I'm sort of on this difficult journey to accept Jesus, and it's been really hard for me in so many ways. The cross kind of told me not to give up, even though I am struggling.
420486
doing that to yourself is  not the answer. do you want your family to go through what your bf's family just did. i also lost someone close to me recently (younger brother) and know what it feels like to lose someone that you love very much. hurting yourself will not bring them back, but try and remember all the good things and times that you had with them and cherish them. Dont you think that he would be upset with you if you done something like that to harm yourself. even though he is not here with you he is still in your heart and sometimes that is closer than if he were still here. no one can take away his memory of him from you. Hold your head up and make him proud that he had the best girl by his side while he was here.
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i think you'll have to wait awhile...come to terms with what happened...you don't have 2 forgive someone right after they hurt you or a loved one deeply. i figure that as long as you're not out to kill them you're ok. remember God doesn't expect you to LOVE this person...he's probably angry at what they did too- and give it some time.
533316
ABSOLUTELY!!! Forgiveness is so important. If you cannot forgive some for their sake, then do it for yours, please, 'cause if if you don't, then all the anger and hurt will turn to bitterness and it will turn you into a bitter person. NOT a pretty sight. I have seen many people ruined this way.
1105488
what will i get in RETURN...................\n\n  will u pls do this:\n  i mean i wld like u to know this................ HAVE U HAD A KINDNESS done............... PASS IT ON !
17450
Kiara, no.  You are not alone in your feeling.  But may I make a suggestion?\n\nI grew up in a family where people routinely stabbed each other in the back.  It was a very unhappy place, and for most of our lives, certain people within the family came to resent others....this has lasted a lifetime in some instances.\n\nBut you have a choice to make, and let me tell you how I made mine; I came to know the love of Jesus Christ.  So no longer is my life about, who did what to me.  My life is about how to learn to love others unconditionally, as God loves me.\n\nYou have a choice to make too; which end of the pencil do you wish to use in your life?  The one that is continally writing down the offenses people give you...or the one that is continually erasing offenses, always forgiving, showing kindness with no expectation of return?  I can tell you one thing for sure; the second choice above will bring a life of peace and fulfillment; the first a life of bitterness and resentment.  The choice is yours to make.
945109
Some good answers here. If they bring you lunch, that is a nice gesture. If they sense that they have hurt you in some way, but have a difficult time apologizing or making amends, this lunch may be saying, "Please forgive me"...\n\nAlways, accept a sincere apology or gesture. Your sins or misdeeds will be forgiven as well.\n\n If they can't be sincere about an apology, don't continue to be mad. That only makes you suffer. Their lack of sincerity and compassion will give them peace of mind, while you are still upset from their insensitivity. So, if a person upsets you and coldly remarks, "sorry"...that might not give you the satisfaction of an apology. But, if you accept the "weak" apology (reluctantly) you won't have to carry the burden of that anger and frustration that they brought you anymore\n\nFunny how that works...
182609
So much depends on what you really want.  You might ask why. But that accomplishes what?    Too much depends on the specific circumstance of what created the hurt.  Besides, life is a lesson to be learned and remembered...so it can never happen again.  Perhaps the only question I would ask is; What did you gain from my pain?
566697
You can forgive them, cause you would like to be forgiven by GOD in the things that you do..........  but that doesn't mean you have to associate with them anymore.  Forgive them so that you do not have a heavy heart or the burden on your mind....... just don't give them the chance to do it again.
113468
A clue.You would not want her to accept an unwanted gift out of obligation.Maybe ask her this question to see what she says.Then you'll know for sure.
36287
Give him the gift of missing you.  If that doesn't work, give yourself the gift of moving on.
615747
Do you mean as a present or a gift? I say it that way because if you are talking about a teddy bear or a nice pair of shoes or something, or a gift would be your heart, humor, honest,a friendship, a shoulder to cry on. that's all.
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Forgiveness is one of the most often misunderstood things in the world, but the answer to your question is yes, abolutely!\nNo matter what someone has done, you can forgive (and must forgive them, if you want to be forgiven yourself).\nForgiveness does not mean that what a person did was right, or make it OK, it simply means that you release them from the obligation to make it right to you.\nForgiveness does not mean that (in some cases) legal proceedings will not happen (or should not happen).\nForgiving a person does not mean that you trust them again, in fact, in some cases this would be the height of foolishness (such as a person who has abused you in some way).
371441
say your sorry and give him something. (note: If needed.)
317026
No because they are already in their own hell as it is.\nI would not waste my time and energy on being negative and hurting some one.\n\nWhat goes around comes around you reap what you sow meaning you get what you give in life.\n\nIf this person has not repented for what he has done to you or others he will get his.\n\nDon't stoop to that bully's level. Pray for him it sounds like he needs it.