is it right to go and have lunch with an ex bf?
338946
I think that there is not a problem with her going as long as you are comfortable with it. I think that you have a right to be uncomfortable particularly if they were together for a long time. I think that she should try to include you in some way. I can understand that she feels that you don't trust her but you are her husband so you should be included if not the first time but at least sometime like a double date or something.
981071
I honestly believe that it is.  Even if your ex-husband says "go ahead...i'm okay with it"...trust me...he's NOT okay with it.  How would it make you feel if your ex-husband started dating YOUR best friend??  Always think about how you would feel if these things were being done to you.....  On another note, after a divorce or a break up, find yourself, and then find a FRESH relationship, one thats not going to continue to remind you of the one you just had.
1102780
If you still have feelings for your ex, then you can't be 100% into your current bf.  You need to figure out if you want to go back with your ex and try to make the relationship work - or if you want to start fresh with your new bf.  \nKeep in mind that the problems you had with your ex are still going to be there.  Whatever the reason was why you broke up with him will still be there - you will basically be going back into your old relationship and be faced with a lot of the same problems and issue.  If you think you can work things out and it will work this time then you should give it a shot.  However, if you know you can't work things out, then you should give your current relationship a try and stay with your new bf.
598796
Well hopefully you've been honest if your past has come up in conversation with your current girlfriend.  If not; then maybe you'd better be worried........Otherwise, it is possible for the current and ex to be o.k. with each other although; not too many of them can be true friends.  There are too many unanswered questions that will come up between them, and usually trying to make that type of relationship work usually backfires sooner or later.........
633676
I know that I won't get 10 points for this answer but it's the one you need to read: \n\nYou need to stop seeing your Ex... The communication that you have with him keeps the spark alive and it's not really fair to your current BF. Frankly, on a level, you're cheating on him and the test of this is: If he knew you were still "friends" and talking, would he be cool with it? \n\nIf you still have a thing for your Ex, you should break up with your BF and go out with your Ex. Here's the thing though: If you have been off and on for so long, how do you think it will be if you marry him? On for how long then off when? Will you have kids when you decide to go off again? What impact will it have on them? This pattern will not end when you marry, trust me. \n\nMy final advice: Quit communicating with the EX and focus on your relationship with the BF. Probably not the answer you were looking for but the right one. \n\nGood luck.
52087
By all means, if you and your ex had a good relationship while you were together, then I think you definatly should still be friends. My ex and I are still friends and we dated over 4 years ago. Ex boyfriends tend to be better friends that any other person sometimes because they know the real you. They understand you and they do care for you. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. My ex is a better friend to me than many of my other friends are.
240982
No, I don't talk to any of my ex's.. but one thing I would do is ask the ex what his intention to get in touch with oyou after so long is.  He is probably unhappy in his relationship and wants to bring you into his life for some reason.. If he was single, I would think his intentions were okay.. but since he IS in ANOTHER relationship, he needs to break up with his current GF and then pursuit hsi ex's.  Word of advice for you-- tell your current significant other!  He should know from you then ever finding out by accident.  Good luck with this sticky situation!!!
1058119
Go to the BBQ and let your daughter meet her uncle and half siblings. You and your daughter are the invited guests and it doesn't matter why your ex won't be there although I wouldn't be a bit surprised if your ex's brother deliberately did not invite him to keep the peace with you. Give it a chance and you and the ex's family can agree to not disgree. No matter what has happened between you and the ex, your daughter is still a part of that family's flesh and blood.
906559
You should do what you think is right. If you think it is going to turn out badly, don't go. But if you want to go, then i say go. Your ex (whether or not you want to still be friends with him) should have no impact on where you go and who you hang out with.
131739
No, probably not.  A lot of people tend to play head games with their ex's just to prove to themselves that they could get them if they wanted to.  Odds are that he is your ex for a reason and that reason probably hasn't changed.
548583
I think you shouldnt even talk to your ex at all just ignore him, and you should tell your bf because he should know but just tell him andim sure it will be okay i mean you  you would want to know if his ex was emailing him right?
443620
She counts on you to tell him that she likes him... are you afraid if they go out that they'll break up and your caught in the middle?? (if you are add detail) and then they'll want you to pick sides? But if your friends are ok about the WORST term to here ,if your a girl or guy, "JUST FRIENDS" then I think you have great friends! Q-- are you and ur EX still friends!!??????
570574
Well, depending on whether you're still friends with your ex-bf. If he's someone you wouldn't like to hurt, I wouldn't touch his friend quite yet ^_-
1028262
My best advice and somewhat from my own and friend's experiences...it's not a good thing.\nI am still very close to one of my ex boyfriends but we keep it to phone conversations here and there and I believe it's possible to still be friends with someone even though you realize you don't make a good couple. \n\nThe part that concerns me about your situation though is the fact that he is spending quality time with his ex.  I don't think that's ok and if he wants to spend time with her it should be done in a group setting (if they still have the same friends) or you and her husband should be there too and make it a double date thing, that should be the only time he spends with her.  \nOr if they work together, then that would be the only other exception.\n\nI would express to him that it makes you uncomfortable and you don't think it's ok for him to continue a relationship where he invests time with her...if he enjoys her company that much than why isn't he back with her?  \n\nI would ask him to make that change and if he loves you and wants to be with you than he will understand.
609074
I understand that you’ve broken up with him, though I guess you can still be a friend...as in friend....especially when he needs help.\n\nPlace yourself in his shoes. He's just another person with emotions and currently is looking for your support and help. Do help him though clearly underline that your support will not go beyond what’s called for in a friendship.\n\nYou can also tell you current BF of your intentions just so that he doesn’t build any wrong notions in his mind about your relationship with your EX.\n\nTake care.
492909
Tricky one. all i'm gonna say is he's your ex for a reason and I really think you shouldn't go there as things could turn very ugly!\nJust hold yuor head up high and move on.
614659
I honestly you and you're ex should sit down and talk about it.  I mean, obviously you have a past and if you are both reasonable people you should be able to come to some sort of cconclusion.  You're kids are smart, they will understand at  a later age, but now you have to treat them like kids and let the adults figure out what is best.