my ex-boyfriend commited suicide. how can i get through this?
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first thing is to tell yourself that it wasn't your fault. then get some counseling. honey it's hard when you lose someone you love but he had alot of issues that no-one  obliviously could get through to him. I tried committing suicide twice and the last time I signed myself into the hospital and I realized that I really did want to live afterall. my heart goes out to you. PLEASE get counseling or you'll get so depressed. good luck to you. also there are groups that can help check your phone book or local health dept.
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You need to consider some serious counselling.  Committing suicide is NOT the answer for him, and it is most certainly not the answer for you.  \n\nYour preoccupation   with your brother is more than just  a little bit unusual. If you had a sexual relationship with him , you already know it was wrong and there is a lot of guilt involved. That makes things even more difficult and if you are depressed, it most certainly doesn't  help.\n\nYou need to be able to forgive yourself about that aspect of your life. You are NOT a bad person, you have merely made some bad choices.  You need to be less involved with him, not more.\n\nThe sadness involved with his leaving is NORMAL for a week or a month, or even a few months, but NOT forever. You have to get over it, adjust to  the fact that HE is elsewhere, and  it might help you to consider that it is GOOD that he is elsewhere considering your involvement  and abnormal preoccupation with him. You DO wish him the best, do you not?  Well, that's how you can help him, by being HAPPY for him. \n\nLoving someone that is 'taboo' is a difficult thing to handle. It DOES happen, historically has always happened, and will again in our society.  Our societal mores do not allow relationships of this type and most societies use the same laws and reasons.\n\nLife needs to  be adjusted to, and everyone must grow and adjust, including you.  You WILL always love him, you merely need to know how to deal with the fact that you cannot be with him...period.
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I AM RECOVERING FROM A SUICIDE ATTEMPT FROM ABOUT 3 WEEKS AGO.  THIS WAS NOT MY FIRST ATTEMPT.  PLEASE EMAIL ME, I WOULD BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO SHARE LIFE STORIES WITH YOU.  YOU ARE NOT ALONE, KRISTEN.  LOOK AT ALL THE RESPONSES YOU'VE RECEIVED.  I DON'T THINK YOU WANT TO KILL YOURSELF, I THINK YOU ARE CYING OUT FOR HELP...THERE IS HELP, BUT YOU HAVE TO HELP YOURSELF FIRST AND THERE ARE OTHERS THERE TO HELP YOU GET HELP, GOT IT, GIRL?  Smile, sweetie :-)
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If he is talking suicide, then you need to get him help. You could call the cops in the area were he lives to go get him and take him to a local ER. The ER doc will evaluate him and committ him if needed. I hope the best for the both of you.
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First of all, remember suicide is a way too permanent answer to very temporary problems.  Your feelings will pass.  Your life is precious to many, and particularly to the One who created you.  Try God!  Really. . . pray.  \n\nSecond, don't be alone right now.  If you have someone you can call or visit, do it!  If you can't think of anyone, call a helpline. . .there are people out there who KNOW what you're going through and they care.  \n\nFinally, realize everything happens for a reason.  Like I just said, there are people who have been where you are, and they've survived to help others. . .you could be learning the hard way so you can help others one day.  There IS hope.  No matter how dark the night may seem, there is light, and morning will come.
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I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
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whoa NELLY! You need some help dude. Seriously! CALL AND GET HELP NOW. Im worried about you! SUICIDE IS NEVER THE ANSWER! PLEASE DONT DO THAT!
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Just take things one day at a time, and remember that if you were meant to be with him, you will be eventually.  Take some time to mourn the loss of the relationship; give yourself an hour or two on days that you feel you need it, to turn on sad music, look at old pictures, and cry.  Then drop it, and do something for yourself.  I've had times when I thought the world was ending because of the end of a relationship.  I didn't know how I'd make it.  Eventually after going through this a few times, I realized that I can recover from anything.  So can you.
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It doesn't sound like there is much of friendship there.  He probably feels guilty that you wacked out the way you did.  Have you tried giving it time to get over him?  I'm sorry that you had to go to such lengths to get his attention.  I feel sorry for him and for you.  I hope you have learned that no man is worth your life and I hope you realize how lucky you are to be alive today.  Give it time and get into group or one on one therapy or both.  You may feel his is your soul mate but; don't you think that if he was your soul mate, things would not have gone the way did.  If you were truly meant to be, you would be but; your not.  What does that tell you?
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1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
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Hi Bluetike! :) \n\nCome to God just as u are. (dont wait until you are "good enough").  remmber God came for sinners not for the righteous. :) if you have surrendered ur life to Him, all u need is for u to restore ur relationship w/ Him. just confess all your sins and He is faithful to forgive you.. \n\ndont attempt to commit suicide again. ul regret it in eternity. :) God bless
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Just make the break and refuse his calls.  If necessary get a judge to give you a restraining order against him.  He sounds like he could harm you.  As far as him killing himself or whatever, that's his problem.  You have to protect you and can't worry about what he's going to do.  I'm sure you still care about him but you have to do what's best for you.  He probably has no intentions of harming himself but he knows that it bothers you and that's why he says those things.
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you just really need totalk to someone. i lost a frien to suicide unfortunately i was in the room when it happened. i know how hard it is. i also had to attend 23 funerals in 10 months jst a few years ago between friends and family i wasn't surei wold make it either i really felt like my world was caving in on me. the thing that got me throgh it was my husband he always talked me through things, to this day he still makes sure i don't forget thememories of those friends and family members. one other thing i did was write letters to the people i was closest to especially my mom when i was feeling as you are now. i've read them at later times some i just keep in a box. good luck and please talk to someone!
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killing yourself is never the answer. . .it wont solve anything. . .\nthink about more than just yourself, think about the people you'll affect if you harm yourself\n\nY do u want to end your life? Im sure there's things in your life that are worth living for. . .youre just focusing on the negative. . . \nthings WILL GET BETTER. . .they always do . . .\nI myself have considered suicide and almost went thru with it, but someone made me realize that i was put here for a reason and every life has a purpose, even tho u may not realize it. . .there's ppl that care about you, and  things that you were destined for. . .i think you just need someone to talk to. . .feel free to pm me if you want to talk \ns/n - cutew1thoutda_e
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Talk to someone....call a free help line. Talk to someone before doing something drastic. Suicide is a selfish choice - look at all those that you would leave behind. I strongly urge you to talk to someone...give it a shot. It takes no effort to make a call.
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You are deeply emotionally scarred. The first thing you need to do is seek professional therapy or join a support group. Nothing will ever completely erase the trauma you've experienced and there will be times when the fear re-emerges no matter what. You have to learn to face the fear down and rationalize that it's your past that is affecting your feelings and try to center yourself and deal with it. You can't give up on life, Honey and you will find a good man one day. Just remember that not all men are like your ex. You really need professional help to get through this before you can form a healthy relationship again. It's too bad I don't know your ex. I'm a former police officer and I would love to find him and let him try to assault a woman who can fight back. I stomp his mean a$$ into the ground and give him a nice hard punch for every woman who has ever been abused by a man. I'm sorry, it just makes me so mad when I hear things like this. I can't stand anyone who deliberately hurts or abuses anyone, especially those who are weaker then they are. It's a wonder I kept from losing it when I was a cop but I never abused my position. Now, I'm retired so I could knock the snot out of that boy and not worry about getting fired. Good luck, sweetie.
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Go back to your therapist. Also look for a single-mom support group near you or online, (email me if u want!) Trust me girl I know from the bottom of my heart. My ex husband ASKED me for a divorce while i was in school. But I pulled through, we struggle every day but I thank God for my true friends that have held me up. If you are suicidal you definitely need to talk to someone. Biggest thing you can do is make it an absolute priority to take time for yourself. Put the baby to bed a half hour earlier and go take a bath, turn on a workout video, chick-flick, whatever, have a glass of wine, paint your toenails...anything you want as long as its just for YOU. Remember a happy mom makes a happy kid...NOT the other way around.