Do you get along with your inlaws?
339667
Yes, I do. I get along with them really well. \nI live very far from my real family, and I honestly feel much closer to them than my real parents. And they treat me like I`m their daughter - I can call them up and talk to them any time. I`ve stayed at their house for weeks before when my husband was on business trips and I was lonely in the empty house. They`re great.
998441
Thats not Truth!!! I have A Aunt and Uncle, and my Uncle is trully in love with my Aunt. Hell do anything for her. They've been married for a long time!
188466
That is why they are called in laws..just ignore them back if they won't accept you. Try your best with them but if that isn't good enough for them than leave them alone...Lady
708779
it's too bad they live right down the street from you. they are hard to avoid.  if she is so obnoxious, i'm sure your fiancee knows this.  so, if he is willing to keep the family relationship going, and you want to keep your relationship with your fiancee going, i think you are going to have to just grin and bear it until you can move away from where they live.  i would tell him that you know it's his brother and sister in law, but you have a difficult time around them.  your personalities just don't seem to mesh and you don't mind seeing them occasionally, but you cannot put up with on a constant basis. let him realize you are not doing this to cause friction in the family but it's just too uncomfortable for you and you would prefer not to get so involved with them. then, it's up to him to decide - you or them.  good luck.
1035959
Yes, my husband and his mom sometimes act like they are married.. no, not that way. But you know what I mean, it's like the attached thing..
694372
My mother in law didnt like me either. She said it wouldnt last a year. Well its been 32 years and we no longer speak to her because she pulled some rel nasty stunts on our children. I say stay with him and ditch the mother in law too.
1149297
My children are close to my parents, because my parents have a good relationship with me and my DH.  They do not have a close relationship with DH's parents, because MIL wants a relationship with DH, and kids, and wishes I would fall off a cliff.  We have cut back severly on that relationship.
410199
If my husband ever treated me with that much disrespect that would cause a lot of problems. We don't HAVE to check in with one another but we choose to because it is respectful so that there is no worries or confusion. \n\nGrow up!
674466
Inlaws are bullies against their daughter inlaws usually because their sons don't stand up for their wives.  Any man worth his salt should stand up for the committment he made to be joined with his wife.  That means he has to let go of being tethered to his parents apron strings.  Good luck.
161711
Whatever you feel comfortable with.  I tried to call my inlaws mom/dad, but it didn't fit.  I didn't "feel it".  And I felt odd when my parents and his parents were at the same place and I'm calling my father in-law dad when my father was there.  I just phased it out and now I call them by their first names.  It's the same way with my hubby.  He calls my parents by their first names.  Although,when we give them gifts or cards it's addressed mom/dad from us.
985933
I used to, then I got a divorce.  It's all good now.  Sorry if that's not an option.  Seriously, just be as gracious as you can, and enjoy the people you do like.  Do the in-law thing first(Christmas Eve?), so you have fun with those you love on Christmas Day and have something to look forward to.  Good luck sweetie.
915924
You can ask your fiance what she might like, or find a unique gift from your country that you would like to share with her. A nicely framed photo of yourself and her son, or a nicely framed photo of the three of you together, could be an excellent gift. Or if she's coming to see you, get a spa day out or something similar, that way the two of you will have a chance to go and do womanly things together and get to know each other better. Best of luck! It's very considerate to be thinking of things to do to make this a nice relationship, because so many people have problems getting along with their in-laws.
1083760
The root to your problem lack of conversation,....If there anything not right goin on , the best way to solve it is to talk openly to each other. Say your husband is up set over something that happen between his in-laws & him sometime ago, n he's not happy being with them....but for me at least he's willing to join you guy for a week. For me that's fair....Talk to your husband n make him feel good for his sacrifice....Then your job is to tell your family that your hubby has something to do........Time will heel things.....But never ever compare anybody with the past or with another person....Things can go very bad.
121517
Yes! Your parent must not like your wife and they thought that if they invite you they would have to invite her. It seems that you love your wife and her kids even though they are not your own. For your family to take it out on you shows that they are not good parents. Also your sister who has her own business should no how to help you out with the trouble you are having. My mother has wealthy sister that are willing to help her out because they care about her and my grandparents do the same too. I know you would help your family out if you could and for them to be shelfish and mad because you married this women that they need help as well. I think you should go on the internet and find help for yourself and don't worry about your family unless it is very serious meaning someone is very sick or had died. This is about you and wife and kids now. So do this for them.
699482
I think referring to them as your 'in-laws' is still acceptable. At least until you marry again.
602405
I can't stand my inlaws!! They are so fake! They act like they like me but, behide my back they talk about me. I have acually heard her talk about me! I can't believe they can be that way! I had tried so hard in the begining to get along with them but I stopped that a long time ago! I guess first impressions mean alot because that was when she brushed me off when I said hello. If my husban is not home and she calls I don't pick up the phone and she knows I'm home. I know that get's her upset. But I love it!! So my suggestion is focus on your fam and avoid her! But ofcoures say hello once in a blue moon. I know you not getting along with her came create unwanted problems in your relationship! Best of luck:)
249513
I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!