why are people so mean to gays and lesbians?
343606
They probably feel afraid to be around them like they have a disease they can catch or something. But we're all God's children and we shouldn't treat people different just because they like someone the same sex as us. I hope that answers your question!!
781634
We're like everyone else.  Some do feel that way and dwell on it.  Then there are those at the opposite end of the scale you see in the Parades, the "in your face, i'm here and i'm queer and i'm not going away to make you feel comfortable," kind.  I'm somewhere in the middle.  I want people to know because its who I am and if they hate gays, I want them to despise me.  (I don't, but I want them to have a FACE to see, when they think queer).  The more people that comes out, the better it is, why?  Because we're in almost everyones families and if they had to confront that we're good, everyday people with problems just like them, they may have to rethink WHY they hate us.\n\nSo, let them fear, discriminate and persecute me.  I can dish it out as well as take it.\n\nI'm not saying this "flippantly" or having fun with it.  I was "fag bashed" and robbed.  The RN quit counting stitches at 60 in my face and head (which they had to shave).  But I was okay and that was what mattered to me.  They didn't know me, so it didn't bother me.
455382
It is normal for people to feel scared about what they either do not know or do not understand. It is unfortunate that people express their prejudices usually with violence (whether physical or vocal).\n\nI think that a lot of hostility comes from men who consider a homosexual man a threat to their masculinity. The thing is, most of those people are homophobic and have NO IDEA about you.\n\nThese people attack what they don't understand, and it IS wrong, but unfortunately hate-crimes and such like have been part of society for thousands of years. Most wars break out because of it.\n\nSome gay people (some that  know) counter-attack by going out of their way to express themselves in an ultra-gay fashion, which is just adding fuel to the fire.\n\nThe thing is this. Being gay is not about who you sleep with, but who you love. Peoples love lives are the same, and should not concern anyone unless it directly affects them.\n\nI would suggest opening your heart to these people and say to yourself that maybe they are not aware f how incredibly ignorant they are. As far as a human being is concerned, try putting it into context...\n\n'I was lying on the street, my heart had stopped and lungs given up, when a stranger came up and touched me. He touched me not with the love of a man for a man, but of a man for a fellow man in need. After that homosexual man had saved my life, he became my brother for the rest of it. I have since been grateful everyday for that man, not homo nor hetro, who gave me my life.'        - Chameleon Dreams, Jayden Walker.
467349
Because theyre uncomfortable with themselves deep down and make up for it by hurting other people and being mean. Its really stupid, but they dont realize it alot of the time.\n\n\n\nPeace
731359
I think why people do things like that is because they are scared to be who they really are for fear of being thrown of "normal" society.  All it is, is insecure people trying to be the opposite of gay to try and throw people off.  I mean come on, you know how many bashers I knew in high school that I saw at gay clubs a few years later?
982753
Probably because so many people come to this site  and instead of contributing anything answer with sayings such as "Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve", answer with things such as "Repent now before you burn in hell", answer with carefully selected Bible quotes, and answer with childish name calling. If those people would choose to be civil and actually answer a question, it would not be a problem. Since they, however, choose to answer questions purely out of hatred of gay people, I would think that some gay people have had enough of it and choose to respond in kind.
244966
I'm sorry you are on the receiving end of such hate.  This is what I have learned in life:\n\n1- The people calling you names are insecure about themselves.  In other words, maybe they are really gay and don't know how to come out of the closet :)\n\n2- What goes around, comes around.  If they continue to be mean, only mean things will happen to them.\n\n3- Smile... all the time.  It makes people wonder what the heck is going on.\n\n4- Ask the question "Why" while tilting your head, and people freeze like deer in headlights.  --- for example, say someone calls you a b*tch.  Ask them "Specifically, what is prompting you to call me that."
126930
sorry mean people are mean to you. happy for you that you are in love that is wonderful. \ni don't know why some people think homosexuality is wrong, stumps me entirely. i suppose they need to hate other people to feel better about themselves. too bad they don't know that love is supreme.
224606
because they're homophobic a s s w h o l e s and they think they're not men, or whatever...it's the same thing not letting gay couples get married.  everybody has a right to feel and do what they want, and i think we need to stop trying to police it!!
306786
Because other people were mean to them and they are bitter, or take a sick pleasure in spreading their hurt feelings around to other people.\nDon't let the mean people get you down...there are lots of nice people (like me!) around to make up for them.
310991
Because we have a lot of people out there who aren't really as mature on the inside as they behave on the outside, and enjoy planting strife or get a laugh at doing or saying something truly rude.\n\nLot of truly deadbeat people out there. Some you can't love, because not everybody really wants to be loved.
1078997
The gay community has gotten so strong and arrogant that they are showing a great deal of distain towards not all straights,  just the ones that dont support them.   If you disagree with the gay lifestyle your branded as an intolerant bigot homophobe.  \n\nPersonally I dont care what they say about me.   I'm not the one trying to fertilize turds.
1115550
I understand where you are coming from.  That is totally rude of them .  It gives all Lesbians a bad rap because of the holier then thou ones.  I can only say that maybe somewhere in their past life they were dealt a bad rap themselves by men, but not all men. You seem to be fine gentlemen and I as a lesbian applaud you.  I have many guys as friends we have enormous fun.  I love people, no matter what their sexual orientation may be.  Life is to short to be so mean and nasty,  Next time honey, that a lesbian is mean or nasty don't take it personal, its her way of showing her ignorance and lack of self-esteem.\n\n                                   Your al-right
244140
Fear and prejudice, which go hand in hand.  It seems those so anti-gay are afraid of many things about it.  Most being that 80% of people have had, usually as children experimenting, a sexual liaison with someone of the same sex.  Something normal and healthy.  They are so afraid of them being classified as gay because of that it becomes a deep anger at themselves then transmitted outwards.  It's a sad thing to use an inaccurate book to back up your own fears.
296892
Oh gee, I dunno.... Maybe something to do with the way they are treated, the hatred that is spewed against them, the religious nuts that go after them, hate crimes for no other reason than their sexuality, a large chunk of society that tries to 'convert them', they way they are seen and talked to, the general misconceptions.  I think that could have something to do with it.
908462
People can really be cruel .\nIt makes them think they are special .
137165
People allow themselves to become offended or have feelings hurt. If we had to worry about offending someone all the time we would just have to be silent. As a small child I learned the saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." People should realize that this is true and move on.