As Americans, we live in in a society that accepts premarital sex. However, we are reluctant about....?
355568
Look at the Scandinavian countries; they have most of their babies born out of wedlock, and no one cares. The kids are well-adjusted.
1024892
It's not that hard to believe - I actually know a couple people who are in their late 20's and mid 30's who are virgins.  If you are waiting for marriage or the right person there is nothing wrong with that.
692541
Sure!  I probably wouldn't feel nearly as cautious about it if more of these relationships were 2 men/1 woman, though, instead of 2 women/1 man.  There's something frighteningly archaic and patriarchal in the latter case, but I do believe that consenting adults should be able to lead the lifestyle they choose.  Morality is subjective, and "marriage" is only "sacred" if you're a christian.  For the rest of us, it's a legality.  There are still plenty of us who are NOT christian, and who don't care to revert to the 19th century and live under the oppression of that incredibly limited perspective.
30499
I believe in no premarital sex. Say you meet someone you supposedly love, and you decide to have sex. Then if it doesn't work, you have no way to take it back. Then after that you find someone who is a virgin and you love them, you are going to regret your first encounter. Yes, I'd rather wait.
1108712
I don't think it's that they're afraid, but that they don't believe it's "right".  They use the Bible as a reference, saying that a marriage is a union of man and wife.  Or something like that.  haha, I'm registered republican, but not really sure on this issue (I'm more fiscally conservative than socially conservative -- I vote the way I feel is right).  With Conservatives, I think a lot of their beliefs stem from traditional Christian beliefs.  Me, personally, I just believe in having morals, that is, treating people with as much respect as I can.  \n\nBut if you're in love, it's not the government's right to tell you who you can or cannot marry (given that the person is not in you immediate family!).
434719
Polygamy is a very controversial issue when it comes to marriage and the fact is it is not for everyone it take a very selfless woman to share her relationship with another man but the fact remains many monogamous American men cheat on their woman hence our huge divorce rate . There is also the fact that we don not live to solely please one person we live to please our creator with the growing number of the women population versus the male population this is a valid solution for a man to support and care for these women and children also let me inform you this is not about sex or the man feeling like a king with so many women it is about his position as a man to protect his female counterpart as Allah has made him protectors and providers to us.  People in this society are very closed minded to this idea because they only focus on the sexual nature of the arragement if they take the time to learn the responsibility of taking on this very charitable task  they would admire it and not see it as a weird practice.
1175353
Unfortunately we have, as a society, divorced sex from marriage and even from relationship.  Because it is so freely availible in so many forms, some men balk at the idea that it is anything more than a biological function.\n\nDon't despair, there are still men out there who understand the two are related.  My husband was 36 when we got married.  We waited.  I met him at church, so we had the same values.\n\nI didn't think I would ever meet an eligible bachelor in church.  I went there for years without a single one being there.  But God and the Marine Corps sent him here.\n\nThere is no higher compliment a man can pay you than to consider you worth the wait.
847882
The prevailing culture is hard on both men and women, in different ways.  Sexual intimacy before marriage can cloud and compromise judgment.  It releases oxytocin, a bonding hormone, in women, and they form an emotional attachment to a man who may not be the guy they truly seek for a lasting relationship.  I think many women offer sex because they're afraid they won't have dates if they don't.\nSince sex is so freely available, most men take what is offered indiscriminately, and then find themselves with women who are emotionally attached to them when they may not return the feeling.  These Yahoo questions are filled to the brim with that scenario.\n  It's a recipe for a big, messy disaster and for one failed relationship after another, so that both men and women become sad and shopworn.\n    Kudoes to you!  There are plenty of women (everywhere, not just in church!) who would consider you to be a real jewel.
1106590
We are no danger to marraige.  We simply want equal treatment.  Civil marriage is completely different than religious marriage.  We also decided a while ago in this country that separate but equal is inherently unequal, thus calling it something other than marriage doesn't work.  And the funny thing...I can still get a religious marriage, and will when the time is right.  I've got a very respected minister (locally) lined up already.  So...that already rules out the religious part anyway.  Civil marriage shouldn't even consider religion.\n\nAnd while God created men and women to procreate, that isn't our sole purpose.  Also, that passage only mentions that they should be joined to make one flesh.  It doesn't really mention formal marriage.  Second note: if you want to argue that we shouldn't be able to get married because we can't procreate, then fertility should also be a requisite for marriage and those who cannot reproduce should not be able to be wed.  Do you see how absurd that statement is?  Third, we only ask that the right to marry be extended to any two consenting adults.  This still prevents polygamy and the other absurd "slippery slope" arguments such as a man marrying his dog.\n\nWe'll be making a step in the right direction when we can separate church and state and pay more attention to science.
288245
I had sex before I was married. My wife, on the other hand, held onto her virginity. So, I'm the only guy she's ever been with. I never got "hurt" in a relationship, but looking back on it, having premarital sex was the one of the stupidest things I ever did. \n\nFour things premarital sex screws up:\n\nFirst, sex changes the relationship between the two people, no matter what. The entire relationship becomes far more serious and complicated. Understand that when I say "serious" here, I don't mean it in a positive way.\nPremarital sex seriously kills a lot of the fun and lighthearted parts of a relationship like a lit match in a cup of water. After all, when it comes down to it, sex is designed to produce an entirely new human being! This is true no matter what kind of "protection" you use. Sex is serious business. \n\nSecond, sex changes people. It changes the way they approach love. It changes the way they value the intimacy of sex. It changes the way they value a permanent, lifelong, romantic relationship. In my experience, sex forever changed the way I looked at and related with women. \nI'd kind of say that having premarital sex made it harder to be emotionally intimate (and vulnerable) with my wife.\nThe physical sort of "watered-down" the emotional.\n\nThird, sex really messes up your wedding night. When you do get married, it probably will NOT be to the person you're with right now. (Trust me, it was a big shock to me that feeling "meant for eachother" doesn't mean that you actually are.) In fact, by the time you get to the person you're going to marry, the relationships you are in now will probably seem kind of silly and meaningless. (I know, GASP! again) What I'm hoping you will avoid is knowing on your wedding night that you traded one special night with the person you love and have married with one normal night with someone that you now barely know and don't care about. It hurts. Trust me, I know.\n\nThe fourth thing premarital sex messes up is your relationship with God. Other people posted Bible verses about the topic. It IS sin and the Bible spells it out pretty clearly. Anytime we sin it messes up that relationship. I'd encourage you to pick up the Bible and take a look. Youth Bibles usually do a good job with commentary and study guides that deal with the topic of premarital sex. I'd also encourage you to look up the topic of salvation. Talk to a youth minister or shoot me an e-mail at jdawg2682@yahoo.com. I'd be happy to share a bit more. (I'll try not to ramble quite so much)\n\nAll I know is that I did a lot of stuff before I was a Christian. I thought I was right and knew what I was doing and thought I had things together. It was a joke. God flipped my life upside down in college and I've never been the same (sometimes good and bad). Ultimately, I found the two greatest relationships ever: one with Jesus Christ and the one with my wife. I firmly believe that God can do the same for anybody. Good Luck!
192036
Don't believe all the hype.\n\nThe Silent Majority of America still goes to church is very monogamous and does a great deal of voting.  Just because the news media is bombarding us with every wacko that stands up and says up is down and two and two are five, don't you believe it.\n\nSooner or later the people sleeping around end up with some form of VD or worse.  The people promoting secularization have a major personal crisis and turn to God.\n\nJust be patient, let them rant and rave and show their true colors and see how they end up years later.
1104057
do you mean virgin?? \n\nif yes, then the number is becoming increasingly smaller each day as the media makes sex seem more and more acceptable before marriage and with numerous random partners
113060
I am still a virgin, because I am not married. It annoys me so much that people now think that marriage is an option before having sex.
233691
I belive that love before marriage is essential to enable a life long loving marriage. Apologies if I wrong, but are you actually asking about sex before marriage?\n\nThis is a totally different question - and the answer must be, as far as I can see, that it is totally up to the two people that are in the relationship.\n\nYou are correct that nowadays many youngsters (and, of course, some 'oldies') have casual sex - this is their own choice and as long as they protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases who are we to judge?\n\nUltimately, we all have our own cultural and personal morals and standards to live up to and as long as we are comfortable with our individual choices and do not cause intentional pain or suffering to others we should do as we see fit. \n\nLove and sex do not have to be entwined, but in my experience the latter without the former is never as satifying to the body or soul.\n\nGood luck in the choices youu make..
804363
Sex is natural, sex is good. Only thang is, love takes work and most people nowadays don't have "time". They want what they want when they want it and they dont want last weeks model..Sadly it seems americans are becoming more and more shallow and materialistic in general terms..It's what MTV is teaching em..Have fun now, pay later...Me...Me...Me... The great news is, there are still a huge amount of loving, caring humans around..I meet them all the time. Wait for one, you'll catch em...In the meantime, have lots's of safe sex and enjoy your precious life!   Kevin
661760
that is probably true-sex before marriage is wrong there.
784269
I won't get into the sin thing, since I'm a Humanist and that's a religious concept, but it does seem to me that, if one of the reasons societies promote marriage is to promote stability, then it doesn't make sense to discourage same-sex couples from marrying.  Denying gay couples the right to marry is not defending marriage.