my gf thinks when i ask for a bj it means i dont want her how so i go about getting them without affending her
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Explain to her that they are 2 seperate and different feelings for you!  Just like o r a l sex and regular sex feels different for her it does to YOU too!  Tell her every so often you like the o r a l better because its something different for a change for you.  Let her know it you didnt WANT her you certainly wouldnt want THAT either.  Im sure she will understand once she knows its a different feeling for u just like it is for us!  Good luck to u!  Or you can always have her give you o r a l first and then have her jump on and ride u like a carnival pony later!  lol  THAT way you get BOTH things you love all at once!!!  Good luck to u
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She is not interested in you, but she wants to have her options open: women like to have a bunch of lap dogs at their service that they can call... \n\nYour adequate response is that is fine, you have way many girls to go out with and probably later you are not going to be available...
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Keep up the good fight don't give in . The fact that you are asking is good, just think what if you give in catch something or get them preggers . Then you have to face the love of your life with the disgrace you hurt her.  Next time you get the urge imagine her screwing another man and how you would feel maybe that will give you a stronger incentive.
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You either have to accept it or find another one ... it's her choice you can't force her ...\nMaybe if you watch a few pornos together, maybe masturbate with her, oh and don't forget to give her oral as much as possible and she might come around.\nSome girls have flat out made their minds up and won't do this.  \nI think it's just another way to show your affection, love, devotion towards that person.\nI love watching my mans face while I'm taking all of him in, all the way down to my throat - it's nice to know I'm doing something right !
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It's very clear that she doesn't want u.. but u know, she feels great to have someone as nice as u to adore her.. that's what she wants.. no more than that.. so please move on..
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Gosh NO!  How desperate are you?\n\nYes she can get bored & tired of it.  If she says no, she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings, or she's scared of losing you if she sets boundaries, or she's just really immature/insecure.\n\nDoes she never pursue you?  HOW BORING!  Do you not want your girl to show initiative/attraction to you?  Do you only ever want her for sex? Does it not bother you that she doesn't get a chance to show that she wants you because you keep hogging all the attraction communication?  If I were her, I would put you on ice for a month (refuse privileges) until you could see me as a person, not just a humping machine (unless of course I just dumped you right away), and so I could have a chance at the flirting fun too.  \n\nAre you 18?  If not, you should be able to control yourself for at least 48 hours, gee.  \n\n"Please please can I have sex?"  "Oh sure."\nThat's what it sounds like you do twice a day from your question.  D E S P E R A T E men don't keep their women long.\n\nNow, having said all that, you have not given sufficient information to answer your question without assuming the worst possible scenario.  So considering your "every chance" might be once a week if you don't see her much, you might then just want to make sure you communicate that you value her as a person, and if she knows how important sex is to you, she will indicate it through inviting you inside, or    initiating a kiss, or whatever, you should NOT have to beg or ask continually.  Just kiss her, treat her like you want her to feel like the amazing woman she is, and if she is open for more, you will feel it in her body language and you can move in.  Stop asking like a begging dog.
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Jealously is a sign of weakness. When you have confidence in yourself and in your relationship you will not feel the need to do what u do.  What i think you are trying to tell us, is that you just want attention, maybe she doesn't show you the attention that you would like or you're accustomed to. What you could do is sit down and talk have a friend to friend heart to heart talk about what you're expecting out of the relationship and what you plan on putting into the relationship..\n\nI feel you about unnecessary arguments I used to be the same way. Seems like the arguments are the only time she paid me some attention. But that was a long long time ago.  Over the years i've learned that you can't force someone to pay you attention or love you it has to come naturally. And when it's true and natural you'll know and feel it to be as such.  The more you argue the more prone you are of driving your gf away to someone else. Just think, she might be on yahoo answers asking questions about you and what to do or how to get rid of. Time to take a stand now and rededicate yourself and your commitment to your relationship and make a solemn promise to yourself on becoming a better person not only for the benefit of the relationship but for yourself as well\n\nGoodluck
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Do you mean she "just wants to have fun" Dude I have been there, don't take it the wrong way, she may be a little scared of getting hurt and wants to take it slow. I think it is their way of saying it. Just like us "whats the matter" our reply "nothin" Enjoy the time with her and believe that she loves you and everything will be O.K. Don't push the issue or it will get ugly, trust me, have fun, and you will get what you want in time.
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good for you! .. i think some quiet girls in class like me wants a good relationship and not sex\nif the girl you are with thinks that you want sex, them many you should please them more, with little simple things like noticing anything new like a haircut or an eyebrow trim, give little gifts for every holiday, invite her more to dinners or movies and take her home with a good bye kiss on the cheeck or forehead, etc.. \n\nand this doesn't mean that you are sentitive, it just that you dont like people looking at you the wrong way.\ntry to act more like a GENTLEMAN, and stop flirting with other girls
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I will be happy to, but my gf wont let me
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She may consider it a threat to her ability to please you.  Assure her that it is just another way you like to feel good.  Maybe ask her to watch or to participate.  Ask her to do it herself for you if she feels comfortable.
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AS I said before be more mature than she is and tell her no. NO means no. If she really likes you she will understand otherwise she is just trying to use you. You will have more self respect for yourself by refraining from giving in to her. In a few years you will be glad you didn't when she is caring for a baby at age 16 or younger
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if you and your gf are close,,,ask her for help.ask her desires and how you should or can fulfill them.what she likes,what she doesn't like.be open to her to be open with you.have no fear.
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my x-gf once made me have 4 by giving me b-j's(without stopping for rest)
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YOU sound nice. She sounds kinda mean (sorry) but it seems to me like she's using you.. and that you keep buying her presents and she justs takes them without doing anything for you... i can't see what YOU'RE getting from this relationship, but i don't really understand whY you want her back...
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well no offence but if you are a shy person she will problaly forget about you. if you didnt treat her right thats why. she problaly got mad because you didnt get her what she wanted. or talk to another girl. probaly cause your sex drive. or mostly she is just making a fool out of you and just playing around like you are nothing to her and looking for someone else.
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WOW!!!!!\n\nI'm shocked that you actually want the kissing, hugging, fondling, and tenderness. Most men could care less about that. Most men just want to do the deed and get it over with. It is usually all about his needs.\n\nYour girlfriend must be crazy!!!!\n\nMaybe you should give her dose of her own medicine. Stop giving in to her demands for a while and see how she likes it.\n\nBe honest and tell her how you feel about the whole situation and ask her how she would feel if the roles were reversed?\n\nHonestly, stop giving in to her demands if she can't meet yours!!!!\n\nTell her that you refuse to please her if she can't please you. Put your foot down.\n\nAnd if she can't handle it then maybe you should look for a new girl-friend.\n\nBecause believe me there are plenty of other women out there who would love to get a hold of a guy like you!!!!!! \n\nAnd you can tell her that I said so.\n\nYou deserve better than what she is willing to give you. A relationship is 50/50.\n\n\nTell her that she needs to meet your needs if she wants you to meet hers.\n\nTell her how it makes you feel when she keeps turning you down over and over. Then give her an example of something that you do for her that she likes. Ask her how she would feel if you were to stop doing this for her? And stop doing it.\n\n\nI really hope things can work out for you 2. But if not don't be discouraged because there are plenty of women out there willing to do what you want hands down!!!!!\n\nAs far as the dawg comment it is true but, if men are dawgs for not then what does that make a woman who doesn't a *****?\n\nOfcourse it does. Anyone who is one sided in a relationship is man or woman. None of us are perfect but we have to be willing to furfill our partners needs. There is nothing wrong with trying something new and different atleast once to see if you are into it or not. My motow is don't  knock it until you've tried it!!!!!!!!