how do I know that its love and not infatuation?
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When its infatuation you always wondering if the other is cheating or is this going to cause a break up. Basically your constantly worrying and have no trust. When your in love you trust that person completely and know you are going to be loved no matter what you do or how you look.
611610
You will know....its not like you will sit around and be like....i wonder if this is love. If your love is b/c the other person makes you feel good...its not real love. Real love is self sacrificing and takes a long time to develop. Months, years even, and you have to genuinely know the person. Its not an emotion.
133819
First you always know when you are in love with someone. How you know that you should spend the rest of your wid them is a another story. Easy ways to tell how you act and feel around the person when you two are together. I guess my advice is to just follow your heart if it is there you will know. If it is not real love then, you just have to move on and take it a step at time from there. Their is no sure way to if all of this is right for you. Just have to take a chance and see what happens.
605065
you're in love! everything you are feeling is natural. try not to stress out about it or you will drive him away!
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Oops! Well, you're definitely infatuated. Here's the thing -- infatuation is intense. Consuming. An emotional roller coaster. Fun, or miserable, depending on how you look at it. Infatuation is a lot of things.\n\nIt isn't love, though. Love is a building emotion - positive, supportive. Takes time to grow. \n\nIs it possible you're really getting high off the passion and intensity? It's wonderful to think you're involved in something grand and unusual.  All that crying, you know.  Sounds very dramatic, which isn't a bad thing, if you enjoy drama.\n\nIf not, then you might think about why you're so dependent on this guy. Crying when you're not with him, or if he doesn't answer the phone? Crying "all the time over anything when it comes to him?"  My goodness, chickie, that sounds... damp? Depressing? \n\nAlso fine, if, as I say, you enjoy the drama, in which case, you tell yourself that you're really enjoying all of this drama, and go for the grand, dramatic hand gestures and melodramatic statements. \n\nIf you're not enjoying the constant waterworks, then it's time to pull back, get out more, develop some hobbies to occupy your mind, and chase your sanity with both hands, so that the poor guy can go out with his friends without you ending up in hysterics. I mean, if you were to end up together, what a burden to lay on him - "We have to be together constantly, or I'll wail!" \n\nSo it all depends on what you want - if what you want is to feel grand and dramatic, then let the tears flow, have a good time, and when he stops talking to you, you can really have a good cry. If what you want is to have a healthy relationship, then you need to build up your own life and your own confidence so you aren't so dependent on him. Good luck!
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No one puts it better than Ann Landers, on her famous column, Love versus Infatuation:\n\n Infatuation is fleeting desire -- one set of glands calling to another. It is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about the relationship that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.\n\nLove is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time. It is quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence, even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait.\n\nInfatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him." Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."\n\nInfatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy. Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship that makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.\n\nInfatuation lacks confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he's being unfaithful. Sometimes, you check.\n\nLove means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels your trust and it makes him even more trustworthy. Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.\n\nLove is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you better than you were before.\n\nI hope this helps.  Cheers, K
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THERE ARE FEELINGS THAT WE HAVE WHEN INFATUATED, THAT WE DON'T HAVE WHEN WE ARE IN LOVE. SOME OF THE SYMPTOMS OF INFATUATION ARE FEELINGS OF PANIC,OVERPOWERING OF LUST,UNCERTAINTY,FEVERISH EXCITEMENT,IMPATIENCE,LINGERING NAGGING DOUBTS ABOUT YOUR PARTNER IN INFATUATION,AMONG OTHER FEELINGS.YOU CAN FIND MORE OF THIS ON A WEB SITE BELOW.*HAPPY HOLIDAYS*
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if u are in love then u are not wasting time.
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PART 1  TRUE SOME TYPE OF FEELING HAS TO THERE IN ORDER TO GO FARTHER\n\nPART 2 DEVELOPE FEELINGS ONCE YOU ARE IN LOVE IF IT IS TRU LOVE YOU WILL NEVER FORGET THIS PERSON OR LOOSE ALL FEELINGS SOMETHING ALWAYS COMES UP THAT REMINDS YOU OF THAT PERSON AND HOW YOU ONCE FELT AND TO SO EXTENT STILL DO.
804172
hmmm... three months is a little early to be "in love".  i would wait and make sure what your feeling is really love and not infatuation.
193497
Take it slow.  Unfortunately there's no magic way to tell if someone is "in love" with you and you can't exactly ask him because well he'll say "yes".  Just enjoy his company and the fact that he tries hard to make you happy and the fact that you ARE happy.  You ARE young so enjoy your life and try not to worry about him.  Remain firm with your values and morals and if he turns out to be a weirdo freak well at least you didn't do anything that you regret. \n\nLife is just a series of learning experiences.  Best of luck with this one!
995713
It is lust, or as someone said, desire. Love isn't a feeling, it is a choice. You choose to love someone.
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It sounds like it's a matter of how you feel about him, rather than how me could make you feel loved.  Love can take time to grow, but when you do have that moment, then you will know it when you experience it.  Until then, You should be honest that you don't feel love yet.  If you hide it or are dishonest about it, you'll only be doing yourself and any bf you're with a disservice.
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If you are talking about real love then its not feeling and it not thought to. Real love come from heart which you cant control. If you love someone you think its feelin or that you think about it but it not that? Love is a secret which no one knows about and what is it. !!!
527647
I have never fallen in love so cannot help. But, as far as I listened from my friends the best way to get sure that one is in love is to check if u have similar feelings towards other guys like him and what life means to you without him ;)
257141
if it isn't love what else could it be? \nlust is lame and you'd probably know it if it was that, and if you're past the romantic stage - then why not love?
1031600
Well, I don't think it's love...sorry to say that...I think it's infatuation if anything....Ask her out and give it some time and you will definitely know when you love this girl...So I will be honest here and give you a 1.....Good Luck!!!!