A question to those who are divorced: In retrospect did you have any clues that you weren't with the right one
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You are both very fortunate in your happines.  Dont worry about what the world is doing.  Because it sounds like you BOTH are doing everything right.  Continue to love, respect, communicate and enjoy each other.  It takes 2 to make a marriage and a home.  I simply made a poor choice, and the problems erupted early on.\nSome of us dont get it right the first time.
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Yes, emotions really run rampant after a divorce. I even contemplated killing myself after mine. It just takes time to get back into a comfortable groove. Just give yourself time. Spoil yourself!
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Yes my Hubby cheated 3 years ago,We did seperate for about 3 months, anyhow we ended up working it out..We got way to comfy in the marriage and things started to go downhill,And then the unthinkable happened..My first thought was divorce when i found out..as i said i moved out..But until your put in this position you just never know ..I felt if i could LEARN to trust him again and of course forgive him for what he did knowing it would take ALOT of time and patience on his part for the damage he caused to me, Then i would be willing to try it again..Today we are very very happy, The best our marriage have ever been.. And its taken awhile but i believe it was worth it. We have been together 17 years now..But if it ever happens again, I will be divorced..And no LOOKING BACK!
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First of all, I would ask if you have kept your committment to the terms of the divorce. If there are some specifics, then you could probably answer your own question.\nSecondly, just let her know you've moved on and if there are kids involved, plz consider them.
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I had a ex of my get it once. it was about 2 years ago.  I thought about it the other day, brought up the "what if" question, but i wasn't in the position at the time to devote everything to a kid, so I think of it that way.
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Did you ever think maybe he was cheating on her with you and not the other way around?
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I filed for divorce.  My attorney told me that it would make a better case in my favor (as a female) if I did so since my Ex was dragging his feet.  It did work out for me.  The judge granted me  sole custody of our child ( we were going for joint custody) and my ex was told to pay my attorney fees.
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There are still memories of that person u still have ...\n\nAll i can say is ur being self-centered ... ur first mistake was getting married to ur current hubby ... n then ur second mistake was having a kid ..... ur third mistake is thinkin u can get ur ex back ..... \n\nur gonna keep on makin mistakes unless u stop thinkng bout him ... Frankly wud u rather risk ur entire life or b with ur hubby who loves u n ur child n have a family ??\n\nif u want out then do it asap be4 u hurt more n more people
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I did the same thing many years ago and we finally got back together after about a year apart and got married but ended up divorced before our 8th anniversary.   The problems that were there before were still always there, but I thought he would change and I was lonely and I hadn't gotten into another relationship.  He was my first love!   But 5 years after our divorce, I met a really wonderful man and we've been together now for 16 years and I can't even picture being with my ex anymore.  Sometimes a new relationship does the trick after you've had time to heal from the last.  I didn't think I could move on but I did and life has never been better!
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It sounds like you're already doing the right things - you have moved out, you have initiated divorce proceedings.  Go through with the divorce, and then look to the future.
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Yes it has.  I also work in the legal field and our practice is mostly family law.  My divorce was pretty cut and dry.  I learned not to marry the first man you meet that is nice to you.  I also learned that there is life after divorce.  I'm married now to a wonderful man and have been in love with him for 20 years.
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when I was in college I was, I can't access IM right now due to my location, but I will tell you this. I sped up her divorce, which was good for him and her. I was her Rock, because her family didn't like what she was doing and basically shut her out. After the Divorce her family started to accept her again and at the point I became "to annoying to be with" and now she is living in AZ somewhere with her dream man from HighSchool. So in a sense I ended a bad relationship, Got really really heart broken (which I learned alot about myself) and now 2 other people are happier because of what I did
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Remember that all guys are trying to get L@id and I’m thinking that he is preying on the fact that you just got a divorced.  Take it slow until you figure out what his game is.
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I married a pert... now... we're divorced...\n\nNOW she's an expert.  I think the same is true of you!
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I am divorced two years now and get along with my ex for the the sake of my child. We both have put aside our differences and work together to assure our child is given the best environment possible. We talk about any decision that will affect our child and work it out. We are both good people, just not compatible together......we do it for the love our child. You have to!
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In the beginning I did.  I ate, slept and breathed pain. and it was even harder because I thought he was my everything and he had me convinced that I was nothing without him.  As time has gone on, in the space of only a few months now, I've seen that person I was before I was married 7 years ago.  She's strong and loving and most of all...really wasn't as happy as she thought she was.  \n\nIt wasn't really regret.  It was a fear of change and starting over.  I may miss him sometimes...but I'll never regret our divorce OR our marriage.  I learned a lot from both.
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That is easy, because you are not ready!! You have been through a lot with the divorce, even though it is not final. You need to focus on yourself for a while and don't make it harder by adding another person to think about right now. Do things that you like and can do alone, go out with the guys, play cards, things with the kids. When the divorce is final and you have found out who you really are again, then you will feel more comfortable dating. You may also subconsciously think that it is not a good thing for the kids to see right now either, at least something to think about. Best of luck to you and time and prayer heal all things.