I have serious trust issues, is it my fault?
336289
these aren't trust issues. YOu know that your friends will probably talk about you and tell other people your secrets. Don't hang around fake people because you'll keep things in from everyone. You have to learn how to read people, like if they are fake or not. you don't have to tell everyone anything, but if you do, make sure itz the rite person. Also, ITZ NOT YOUR FAULT, you have to learn in not being so open somehow. YOU DON'T HAVE TO TRUST EVERYONE, TRUST YOURSELF, and the PEOPLE YOU LOVE.
669782
no...you have to trust again at some point.  just be careful at first, and give yourself plenty of time to heal from the wounds others have given you.  you can't go through life not trusting anyone.  just be careful about who you trust, and don't do it right away.  make them earn your trust.
306299
it'll take a bit of time cos its a betrayal of trust but i would think that thats forgivable. especially cos you do seem real sorry
1102762
Trust is paramount in any relationship in order for it to have a chance.  Trust takes time to acquire in any relationship, but here it is an issue right off the bat.  I always fine that it's best to give someone the benefit of the doubt. You really can't change people, they've got to change themselves. Now that doesn't mean that you can't support them along their road to a better them, or that you can't offer advice or set out ground rules.\nWe all have our pasts, and have done things we're not proud of. \n\nIf you're going to embark on forging a relationship with this guy, i would tread lightly and carefully.  As far as the cheating goes, i know the general perception is, once a cheater, always a cheater.  However, i think it's possible for people to turn over a new leaf.  Many guys through a period where they are a bit of a "slag". This is not to excuse your current love interest's actions, but it's usually the way of things.  It's kind of more widly accepted in society for men to play the field a lot more than women.  The fact that he's cheated on ALL his girlfriends would definitely give me pause, but we all have to grow up sometime.  I would also take into consideration who gave you the information on his less than monogomous ways. If he told you, i think that says something about him. If he was open and honest enough to share with you his less than stellar relationship habits in the past, then that shows that he might truly be wanting to change his ways. If, on the other hand, you had to find this out through a mutual friend, or past girl-friends, well, that's not good at all. \n\nAlso, you mentioned that he treated a close friend of yours badly.  If we're talking verbal, emotional, or physical abuse here, then stay away. Stay far far away.   \n\nI think perhaps you need to sit him down and lay some ground rules.  If you care about him enough to give this a go, despite his bad rep, you need to clearly voice your worries and apprehensions when it comes to him.  Let him know that you respect yourself far too much to put up with cheating or abuse in any form.  He needs to understand that your trust is going to take time to earn, and if he really cares about you, he will work hard to get it.  The right person can change your life, make you a better person, you just might be his inspiration for change.\n\nBest of luck!
807613
ALL people are selfish but to different extents\n\nif somebody let you down it doesn't mean you should completely stop trusting people - just be more careful who you trust next time
175356
If you have trust issues you should talk to your psychiatrist about it.
116591
the only way you can regain trust is both parties are willing to put what ever the problem was in the past and not ever bring it up again. And I'm sorry to say that is a hard thing to do. Anytime a argument comes up and if its on the sme lines as the problem it will come up again, and again,and again. But If the both of you want trust back then you'll work on it,but it wont be easy.
818918
Sounds like there is alot more to the problem then u r saying but i can understand u not wanting to go into it. I have a problem with trust and i tend only to befriend my family i have no friends either but choose not to cause down the track they will only stab u in the back. Good luck.
61370
Trial & error. A lot of the time your intuition will steer you in the right direction. But you will never learn to trust 'til you give people a chance. You have to let your guard down some time or another.
392888
If he's convinced that you've been cheating on him and can't be persuaded otherwise, then he has trust issues. If he doesn't trust you, how strong is your relationship? \nAnd do you really know what he's thinking? You sound humiliated, and what you really need is a heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. So many problems can be sorted by talking openly and honestly. If you love him, then you have to be able to come to him with your problems. If you're not comfortable and instead would rather ask random people online to help you with relationship issues, then what does this say about the strength of your relationship?
981595
sorry to hear that both of you started the relationship on deceptive terms.  she's being a hipocrit.  and I know you say you love her, but why would you want to be with someone that has cheated and lies.  trust is the foundation of any relationship, without that you have nothing.  you will be in the relationship always having questions about this that or the other.  to much stress and not being happy.  keep looking for something better.  good luck
113885
Trust is a very important part of a relationship, please don't marrry this man until y'all have worked out all the issues.  Sometimes the issues can't be worked out in which case you should move on.  Without trust there can be no love.
256282
If you don't trust her things aren't going to get any better between the two of you.  My ex lied to me about something HUGE and when he was caught he apologized and I took him back but I NEVER trusted him again and it led to me breaking up with him again.  You deserve to be with someone that you can trust and that respects you.  The best thing that you can do is end this now and stop dragging it out.  The longer that you drag this out the harder that it is going to be on both of you.
619054
I think something happenned in your life that is leading to not trusting him.  Go talk to a psychologist about your past and traumatic experiences to find out why you are thinking this way.  If you don't agree, talk to the counselor about why you have insecurities.  There's no shame in having insecurities, who doesn't.  But don't let it interfere with your relationship.  He chose you.  Let him know how sexy you think he is and give him a lot of attention and he'll draw closer and closer to you.
685632
If he trusts you or not he has no right entering into your private accounts. You need to stop bein a wuss and tell him yourself. Its a form of controll that you need to address. If you cant tell him then why should we. Hes the one whom you have to see and it should be you to tell him that he sucks azz for invading your privacy...Unless your scared and that my dear is a whole nnother problem...
310650
it depends on you if we are together and u are acting like a slut. then for get it, but if change and show that i can trust you then for get about your past. Remember trust is the only thing that keeps people close to you when you lose that is never the same.
147916
With time. Don't expect it to happen immidiately.\nI went through the same, and it took time... sometimes I think I still don't trust anyone, but be forgiving of yourself, and definitely give it time.\nGood luck!!