i want to know that i had an affair but after she ditched me,...i lost my penis excitement. it dont erect.?
338408
Its definitely psychological, so don't loose heart. Consult a psychologist and get professional help. Meanwhile try to abstain from girls for sometime.
903097
Do you miss your penis?
338084
Telling might ease your conscience but it could ruin your spouses life. I'm so glad you came to your senses and ended the affair. It's refreshing to see someone take the responsibility. What a blessing you are still in love with your spouse.\n\nYou need to talk to someone, I just don't think it should be your spouse. How about your minister? Everything you tell them is confidential. Or another professional counselor. You need to get to the root of why you started an affair to begin with. If you continue to live with the guilt your marriage will suffer for it. Talk to someone. Work through it and let it go.\n\nI pray you'll be able to forgive yourself and have a happy life with your family. God Bless!
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Sounds like he's trying to let you know what's going on...you're not listening.  If he's in good health overall (not overweight, smoker, etc) then it could be due to him holding out for you, preoccupied, stress, etc.  There are a lot of reasons why men lose an erection.  A lot of the time my b/f holds out for me and then when I'm good..he's good with that.  He's held out so long, it goes away.  He's usually ready to go again in 10 mins, though.  The fact that you cheated on him really doesn't help.  He may be picturing you doing some of the things you do with him, with someone else.  He's going to be questioning every new thing you do in bed.  "New tricks?  New man?"  It's all about communication.  Let him know you're concerned and really LISTEN to his responses.  You two will work it out if it's meant to be.  He needs to truly forgive you for your mistake and move on if he wants to make it work...you'll need to bring his trust level back up.  Hope I helped...
712243
I've never heard of anything like this before......before we started that aspect of our relationship my (now) husband got blue balls and felt really sick and chills and such.....maybe you hold out so long that that happens to you.  I am so sorry to hear that!
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Im sorry  that you had to experience a messed up relationship. First , you should not compare yourself to another woman. Sound like your more woman than the one he cheated on you with. It could just been about sex and nothing more with your ex and "butt-a-face" .Sometime women and men dont know when they have a good thing until its gone . Hopefully next relationship you wont be with someone who you "know" is cheating on you .
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If you're really concerned about it, suggest to him that you spend a few weeks without it... to build the excitement.  Tell him while you're not having sex, you can get into other things in your relationship... whatever suits you guys.  You could just hang out and play games (cards, board games, etc) and talk/snuggle.  You could go to amusement parks or go hiking.  You could go to museums, go to church... just whatever it is that fits you guys.  If you all can make it through that comfortably, and you actually CAN fill your time without sex... then I think you might be alright.  =)
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I would say dont bother to worry .... maybe your wife has some feelings and the name is an outcome of it .. just love her as you were doing earlier and dont worry ..\n\nRegards\nSameer\nhttp://sameer-shaikh.blogspot.com
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Sure it counts as an affair but let me ask you this, are you a Yo-Yo? I mean she sends you away for 5 months and then all of a sudden has some Epiphany or a string and you come rolling back up it and she wants you back and then you are suppose to kick people out of your life and go back with her? Does she have your testicles in a jar and is holding them for ransom or did you get caught cheating on her in the beginning and that's what caused all this I want a divorce crap? Something tells me you are not giving us the whole story here Bud!!
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All kinds of things are going through your mind subconsciously.  Maybe you really were not into her.  Maybe you didn't want to stick it into her butt.  Or there could be a medical problem.  Not to scare you but get yourself tested for STD's.  This is the highest cause of infertility and Erectile Dysfunction.  Better to be safe than to be sorry.
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wow!! your a much better man than any i know if you have been around for 7 months and no sex! i just turned 28 and i dont know how you do it!!! yep, you love this one for real!  i would sit down and have a deep conversation with her about your feelings.
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Well......see it was when you said you were having sex last night that she became skeptical. Afterall... she knew you were with your wife. Sex with your wife? *smacks his head* Sheesh....what were you thinking! Of course your girlfriend isn't going to buy that. \n\nI suggest you write your wife a cute little note like we used to do in 6th grade and say:\n\n"Hey sweetie... I enjoyed making love to you last night. Did you? Check one:\n\n______ yes      _________ no\n\n(oh and will you sign your name at the bottom as well?)\n\n\n\n~~~~~ \nThen show this to your girlfriend. Surely it will be as good as an affadavit.
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because you were betrayed, and even though it's been a year it's still going to bother at certain times. epsecially since you said it was around this time last year you found out about the affair. it's normal, just don't let it ruin what it is that you's have rebuilt since then.\n good luck!!
20311
if you've been dating a short time, she probably isn't interested in you anymore.\n\nif you've been dating a long time, she's probably getting her sex from someone else.  sorry.
18658
Wow tough crowd sweetie!  Don't judge the man, what's done is done.  And he never said he was going back to his wife, he just said he wanted to dump the affair.  Well it takes one to know one (I'm in the same boat dear but on the other side) and you need to sit down and talk with the girl you are having an affair with.  If you explain to her that you care about her and love what you had, but can't go on like you are.  Be honest with her...hopefully she will be mature enough.\n\nAnd by the way, the next time you ever plan to have an affair, have it with another married person. This way the playing field is equal.  You obviously have never been to my website or blog and read the rules of smart cheating (see below)
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The fact that you are even WORRIED about this indicates you are insecure and not ready for a serious relationship.\n\nLove does not possess, neither can it BE possessed.\nGrow up, or get hurt young lady...
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She probably had no respect for herself and you should be thanking your lucky stars you are not with her.  Hopefully now you know what your not looking for, and for god sakes dont go back out with her no matter how horny you get.