How do you try and go back to been happy after so many sad things happen to the people around you?
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you have had it hard and i feel bad for you because it is something that no matter how hard you try it seems to get sadder ans sadder  but the thing that helps the most is time it may seem like it is impossible but time will heal look up to god just think about that they are in a better place NOW no more pain no more trouble and no more sickness they are in the best place they can be and maybe some day you can be with them times may be hard just hold on it will get better
273991
You just have to kno that they are in a better place now and that they are no longer suffering and that you'll see them again one day!!!\n\n"Don't Worry be happy!!"
1030470
Take deep breathes and think of all the great things and people in your life. If you do this you should feel better, and remember the world doesn't revolve around you so don't expect it to.
247646
There's always a good side to everything, or there couldn't be a bad side.  Try focusing on the positive things that have happened because of it.\nYou can't change feeling hurt, that takes time.
179429
I'm sorry to hear about that.  You have my sympathy.\nTry to remember the good things about that person.  Remember a joke that person told, or a funny thing he or she did, or some harmless prank they pulled.\nIf you remember the good, you can overcome the bad.
154044
look around you for the things you can be greatful for, go to the graveyard and take a look at all those people, you certainly have things to be greatful for in more quantity than they do, start by smiling at the next person you see, smiles are contagious, your happiness will come not from outside people but from within yourself, smile at yourself and see if it doesn't make you feel a little bit better for a second, then try to do whatever you can to make others happy, smiles are a good way to start cause it takes you to start something to see yourself in the middle of feeling better and then to actually feel better is a longer jouney.
531263
RELAX AND IMAGINE THAT EVERY ONE IS IN NOTHING BUT THIER UNDEWARE . THINK OF A HAPPY PLACE OR CALM BLUE WATER THIS SHOULD HELP YOU
945869
we all have bad things happen to us in our life dont magnify it,if you do youll fall deeper into a depression,try and turn it into a positive thing use what happened to you to help others BE A SURVIVOR not a victim
39542
I have been there, I truly have.  \n\nYou need to understand that your happiness is a decision YOU make.  You cannot rely on others to MAKE you happy.  This is a common problem in humans. If you let the actions (or inactions) of others effect your level of happiness, then you will find youself disappointed most of the time.\n\nAccept that people are basically good, but selfish and self-centered.  This is a truth best learned young.\n\nStart finding things that make you happy.  If you like a certain hobby, do it more.  Find others who also enjoy your hobby.  \n\nFind a social group with interests similar to yours.  A Church or other group where you surround yourself with other people is big.  And it takes your mind off of your own problems.\n\nFurthermore, if you are healthy, take on a good and safe exercise program.  Go to a gym, and meet other people there as well.  Get your exercise, and enjoy the new friends you might find there. \n\nThe key is to take your mind off of your unhappiness and focus on the positive things in life.  I promise you, if you don't you will cause more serious psychological, but also manifest physical problems as well, and this is a waste of a good life... YOURS>\n\nFinally, seek professional help from a person who specalizes in depression, since you would be better served by them than people on this forum.  Even though we mean well, we can't help you from "HERE".\n\nYou MUST act and take your life back.  Don't just give in to depression.\nGood luck..  and stay positive.
1027076
That is so true!\nSome people always seem to have good things happen to them and  they always seem happy.  Try this, start your day on a great note and when something negative happens, put it aside and worry about it later, bad things ALWAYS wait.  Just keep track of the good things each day and soon your list will get longer and longer.  Your bad vibes will soon get smothered and you won't need to even think about them!  Maybe that is how some people seem to be happy all the time.  I think I'm gonna take my own advice, starting today.
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You are your own's best support. Even I was having that feeling earlier but then I find out what are my likes and I concentrate on that things. Whatever make me feel good I start doing that. Try to be positive towards life and enjoy whatever you Have. Something is not in your hand to change but you can create a way to be calm/happy in that bad time. Its all up to you to live happy or down. All the best
406151
Spend time with your close friends and tell them whats on your mind.  They are guarenteed to be very supportive and do what they can to help you out.  Being with people you have laughs or a good time with will easily make you feel better than sitting in a dark room brooding.  Basically you need to be out and active, have exposure to the sun, start looking at other guys that may help.  And if that doesn't help time will.  Over time you're guarenteed to let it go and move on.  Just remember that this isn't the end of everything good and fun, something else or somebody else will run into you that will give you enough pleasure to be yourself again.
754153
Drop what you are doing, go to a quiet, private spot, preferably scenic, and take a moment to reflect on people you loved and lost.   Remember some fond memories, have a good cry, think how lucky you were to have known these precious people. When your done, go up to the person you love the most and tell that person what they mean to you. You will not regret taking this action. By doing this periodically, you gain an even greater appriciation for those in your life that care. Deep down, people will feel blessed by you and not know why.
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I know how hard it is to be depressed because of a drunk driving situation because my uncle died in a car crash on the way home one night from a drunk driver. My aunt has coped with depression and we gave her the advice to try new things like go to a casino if you dont like to gamble and get out and meet new people and make some friends and people who make you feel good and so far it has worked even if you are 35+ years old you can still have friends and have fun my other uncle is 55 and is enjoing life to the fullest just being around friends (people who care and make you feel good).\n\nHope this Helps!!! Sorry about your wreck
760095
Smile! God loves you. Look around and you'll see how many blessings you have compared to others. Don't be sad. Life is not easy but it's sure a lot less difficult when you smile and see the glass is half full.\nTomorrow is a new day!
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Well, I can understand your feeling, but you don't have to be paralyzed by regret.  Even the worst events in life can be turned into positives depending on what you've gleaned from it all.   \n\nYou can't undo the past, so the best thing to do is ask yourself what you can do *today* to be a better person.  What can you do today that will cultivate a sense of purpose in your life?  What gives you joy and satisfaction?  Do those things and you'll eventually forget that you spent a lot of time in useless pursuit.  \n\nAnd here's something else to think about:  the experiences you've had in your life (all that partying brought into your life) don't have to go to waste.  Think about what you've learned as a result of how you've lived.  Use that to help someone else make wiser choices.
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i myself just came out about it to my family and the only way i personally have stopped myself from doing it again is remeber that things WILL get better and that you do have people who love that will help you through the rough times. The most important thing to remeber is that there are better ways to deal with your problems