How can I stop obsessing over certain people?
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Ask yourself why you are attracted to them? What do they have that you admire? Maybe you just need to feel that way about something that you do very well, and have others admire you the way you do them. Find something that you love. It can be anything that's good for your heart, mind, body and spirit. As a young woman you are "raging" on the inside to get out and find something that defines yourself as being that charismatic! You have what it takes to begin to find something unique about yourself that others might look up to you for. Pride is not always a bad thing, as long as you have compassion.\n\nI  have learned that I don't obsess about my body but to look and feel great takes special care to myself. If I feel good that makes me nicer and happier about other people: they can really suck too! The more you obsess too much about others, it means YOU are the one you should be really focused upon, not anyone else. \nTake a closer look at what perfect really is, the definition is insanity. Normal, there's another word that reminds me, "Is normal such a good thing? Why not be different." I love going out to try anything new, that's the reason I don't need a PICTURE OF PERFECTION. My definition is much different than yours.\nYours truly,\nHOLLIE
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Find yourself another guy to obsess about
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Stop picking the same kind of people to be with.
4999
Figure out what insecurity is within you that makes you worry so much about somebody else. And if it's just a distaste for this person, be honest about it and she'll go away. A little hurt feelings is a lot more efficient than suffering through something because you're uncomfortable. And she'll get over it.
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ignore them.  you made certain choices in your life, as we all do, and as a result people perceive you in a certain way.  now you're living your life in a different way, and those that are open-minded (read:  worth your time) will shift their perceptions accordingly.  those who are clinging to your past mistakes will eventually be cycled out as you meet and form relationships with people that respect you enough to pay attention to who you are and what you're doing NOW.  \n\nyou can't control what other people think of things you've done in the past, and you can't control how fast they let go of it.  efforts to 'change their minds' will only bring more attention to the past by making it the focus of your actions in the future.  what you CAN control is who you surround yourself with.  choose carefully.
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Ignore them and find something in life to take your attention from them. Like the saying of a vampire you have to invite them in so don't do that.
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JUST DO IT! forget about everything and once they know , you will feel better than if you never did anything about it, if you dint you might still be thinking about that person for another 10yrs.
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Stop e-mailing, name calling, tripping people etc.  When you do things like that you are dropping down to these immature, need a life, type of people.  Start spending time with those who are your friends and stop worrying about them cause they are not worth it.  I know it is easier said than done because I was once your age.  Now that I look back and we all have grown up things are quite a bit different.  Think about it this way.  They are actually giving you what they call negative attention and you are actually giving them a response OR reward for what they are trying to do, so stop it and don't give them what they are looking for.  Best wishes.
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Stop worrying about what other people think. Act on things and impulses you feel when they pop up, not after you've thought all the fun out of them. There's a good start.
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no...stop obsessing...
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That's my problem too, usually I just try to keep busy...keep my mind occupied on anything that doesn't remind me of the person. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. What's really awesome is when you find out that the person had been having a hard time trying not to think about you as well.
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just talk to this guy and find out why\n\n\nOR\n\n\nbetter option\nget out and got shopping or hang out with a bunch of\nfriends that always works to take my mind off things
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cut off all connections with this person\nget rid of all that reminds you of them\ngood luck
790207
You should stop obsessing over this and get on with your life.  There are lots of nice ladies who will like you.
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The first thing is to stop caring what everyone thinks about you.  I know its hard but know that a lot of times people probably wish they could be you.  If you wear really fitted jeans, STOP. Check out the style magazines because clothes make a very big impact on your social life.  Most importantly people are drawn to people that are mysterious sort of like trying to figure out a puzzle.  Be careful though because there is a fine line between mysteriously cool and a weirdo.
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don't worry for a second what other people are thinking of you .Just listen to what they are saying.Get the focus off of YOU
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you don't. it's natural.\n\nor, on the other hand, you could try and be sensible, and just block it out from your mind. or you can just change your attitude from i'm-mister-super-caring-all about  what-people-think-of-me to i-dont-give-crap-and-i'm-gonna act- as-though nothing's-bothering-me.\n\ngot it?  now that's how you gotta stop carin about wat otha ppl tink of ya. alrightty?