Should I walk out of home, my mothers emotional ignorance is causing me to be depressed most of the time.?
352401
yes it is better for you to get out of the house if you and your mom are like oil and water (they don't mix)and you don't need the depression.  If I were you I would get a job even within walking distance (if possible) and save and have someone take you to get your license (a co worker, friend) and then save more to get your own place and you could do it although if you are in school DO NOT QUIT for no reason finish and then do whatever
357974
The best thing you can do is spend time with your mother to show that you care about her. Even though she might have done things to you that make you upset.\n\nDeep down we truly love our mothers so we should show it by giving spending quality time together. Whether or not we are rich or poor.\n\n\n(So that's what I plan on doing)
1068033
hi, i am so sorry that you are hurt, but i understand.  hurting your mom is the worst feeling in the world.  the worst.  but the best medicine is free.  don't do any of that writing notes crap, that is really chicken shit.  you hurt her, and you are old enough to own up to your mistakes.  you just march yourself up to her and say mama, i can never tell you how sorry i am, i love you, i need you, and i'm not too proud to say it.  then tell her that you know that your time is coming.  you'll have a mini me someday, and it will come back around.  it's called the circle of life.  lol.  the easiest answers are always the toughest.  god bless
1134422
I think your angry because your hurt.    You desire to stay in one place,  don't want to keep starting over, you want stability in your life and want to be able to believe that what your mom says is true.  I think your anger is a combination of many other emotions.  Resentment, sadness and frustration. What you could do, is tell your mom, when you are not angry,  that you feel hurt at the fact that her words and her actions are not the same. Next time she says i promise, say mom, i love you but don't make promises you can't keep.  It may not seem like a big statement to say but it will let out some of your feelings. When you disagree with someone and you don't express how you feel and save it for later you are a time bomb waiting to happen. So each time you have the opportunity to express and emotion other than anger let it out even if it is just a little bit. After some practice you might see that your anger won't be as intense.
655557
I know exactly what you are going through right now.  I had a fight with my mom on Sunday (yes, Mother's Day), and we still are not speaking.  She was wrong, but I think I've taken it too far now, and this is what I'm going to do.  \n\nTalk to her, and tell her the things that bother you as they are, no matter how hurtful it may sound.  Just tell her that before starting, so she can understand why are you being hurful.  I've found through out the years, that telling her my exact feelings, no matter what, always seems to work.  \n\nThe catch is, if she takes it the wrong way, you could have a bigger problem later.  It just depends on the kind of relationship you have with your mother, and how much do you really know her in the end, to make up your mind about what to tell her.\n\nYou say she's sick.  Well, that changes things a little bit.  If she has MS, then she must be tired most of the time.  If this is the case, get off her back and start growing up.  She has obviously raised a good child, if you are so concerned to voice your questions here, so take a look deep within you and identify the problem YOU have with her, and fix it.\n\nI hope this was helpful!  Have a great day!
325416
Your mother is still a human being, she may think you hate her, and imagine if the person you love more than anything started hating you.  How would you feel?  My mother and I have a very rocky past, but In the end, a simply, tear-filled, "I love you" gets the point across.  It sounds like she has her hands full with the house, and is hurt about how you acted.  On the other hand, it also sounds like she isn't quite as forgiving as she should be.  But like I said, she is only human.  I think it is the hardest part of growing up when you find out your mom isn's SuperMom, but a person with her own doubts and feelings.  Hug her, tell her you love her, and walk away.  Just walk away and let her calm down.  Clean a bit, but do it when she isn't looking, since you don't want her to think you are only doing it to get on her good side.  You aren't.  You are doing it because you care...
419547
You can't. Even when you do get out of the house. She's still mom and she's going to always tell you how she feels about things and 9 times out of 10, she's right. She's only looking out for your best interest. I understand what you are going through. I'm grown and my mom still be in my relationship.
66679
WOW, i know what you mean. I am sure you feel unloved, unwanted and scared to be like her. I am living proof that you don't have to be like her. I grew up with a horrible mother who abused me every single solid day, emotionally, mentally, physically I mean the works! I am now a loving, NEVER HIT MOM, and I do NOT scar my child in her ways. I am proof that you don't have to be like your mother. Ok? Email me if you want to talk sometime...i totally understand how you are feeling.....Missiowa2004@yahoo.com. Good luck and know you are not alone okay?
680861
Hey Olivia,\n  Yes, you do sound depressed (understandable), no you are not happy and no you are not living a normal life.  But the key words in your question were "I hate life but I think it's worth living because every day is different".  That means to me you are a very smart, emotionally balanced and mature young women that is gonna be "okay".  Just remember what is going on is not your fault or responsibility and that as long as you believe every day is different, you have the ability to overcome this and many more obstacles in your life!  You're gonna be okay kid!
842939
Sweetheart, the problems of your parents are exactly that-their problems.  You are not a cause of it.  I know that you feel like they don't care about you but they choose to have you, I am sorry they yell at you.  Try talking to your school counselor or your pastor.  You are not to blame.  But sweetie, if you run away you don't make the situation any better for anyone.  Life on the streets isn't pretty, you will get hurt!  Please stay home and talk to someone first and if nothing changes there are other alternatives.  Please don't do it.   Someone does care!!
546744
You must feel pretty much at rock bottom - and I am sorry to hear that.  But, from rock bottom, there is only one way to go - UP.  Every day you cope with this will be one day nearer to getting over this, one more step in an upwards direction.  I try to learn something from every bad experience I have, because experience is what you get in life when you don't get what you want from life.  In the future whatever happens, you will know you can cope, because you will have coped with this.  Talk to your parents, they will be concerned for you and want to help.  Even though they have split up, they still both want the best for you, and hopefully can put aside their differences and be able to work together with you so that you all come through this.   Time heals - I bet you find it hard to remember what worried you 6 months ago, 1 year ago, 2 years ago, so although this is a major crisis in your life, you will come through it I am sure. I hope this helps.
615785
No! To clear your concience, you should write her a letter telling her why you are not coming to see her and how you feel about everything. I think you should try to love her because she apparently doesn't love or truly value herself.She as well as you need to know that your past does not determine your future unless you allow it too. MY advice to you is to love your mom and be something you are proud of and maybe an inspiration to her. Bad person NO You ARE NOT. If you were you wouldn't feel guilt over this. It  sounds like you are a hurt person, don't get bitter . Just get better. Do something good with yourself.
601494
Sounds like you are in a terribly awful situation and there just isn't a simple rational way out of it. I can only think of two things that you can do.\n\n If you love your mom unconditionally and you believe your mom loves you equally then the best thing to do is to face the music and tell her about your-self. \n\nIf you truly think your mom will never accept you and you completely depend on your mom and/or you're not sure that the relationship between you and your mom is that deep or strong, which is the case most of the time, then I'm sorry to say that the safest thing to do for your-self is to lie to your-self, to her and everyone else too. You have to try and pretend to be what your mom and everyone else thinks you are or what you should be until you finally feel safe and independent enough to be true to everyone and your-self. Basically, you'll live a lie, hopefully only temporarily, and sacrifice those needs for their expectations. It's gonna suck though, because while every one thinks every thing is cool and smooth, inside you'll be secretly torturing your-self by suppressing your-self for what seems like the longest time. Also you'd have to go through it alone. \n\nI'm sorry I could not be of much more help and I hope things work out ok with whatever you choose to do and that your mom will eventually love you enough to see the true you and not whoever she thinks you are or should be.
923927
You already know the answer to this my friend. Search your feelings and it will tell you to stay home.
873197
Your mother is doing her best to make you feel so unsure of yourself that you will obey her. She, believe it or not, has good intentions. She just thinks the important thing is your obedience. She isn't really capable of teaching you anything worthwhile and has proved it. Try to avoid conflict with her while doing what feels right to you. If she gets in your face too often, just refuse to talk to her. \n\nIt would be good if you could print out the page with this question and answers and leave it around where she would find it.
943733
Maybe you could talk to her about it and tell your friends they can't come over so much?  Hopefully your mom will be sensitive to your feelings and put her children's needs first, which is how it should be. It's perfectly natural for you to feel how you're feeling. Parents are supposed to set healthy boundaries between their children's friends and themselves.  Good luck to you, sweetheart.
530534
My mother has bipolar disorder. I know what growing up with a depressive is like and I also know I have occuring syptoms of it. My best suggestion is to keep a diary or write poetry of current feelings... never look back. And get a pet or something to talk to, take care of and love. Try to be as independant as possible and continue taking your meds. Because it gets way worse when you don't. Independance, love, and ablity to write out your feelings help. Also I'd suggest talking to a good friend who might be able to help you make sense of yourself... my mother uses me as her thought sorter to help her understand better. Hospitals are the worst thing I believe you could go to... gives you no personal care.