How should I tell my ex-boyfriend I miss being with him and want to be with him without sounding clingy?
351965
Of course you miss him and your thinking about stuff you did together.  It perfectly natural.  Without knowing the nature of the break up and how long ago it was, this is difficult to answer.  If you broke up because of a "clingy" issue - take a step back and give him some space to breath.  \nIf it is for some other reason - e-mail him and just say "I just wanted to tell you I miss you."  Relationship are work - they will take effort on both sides.  If you think you can date someone without ever disagreeing on something your fooling yourself and will be breaking up with a lot of people throughout your life.  You can never go wrong with telling someone how you really feel - especially when you are telling someone something nice like you love them and care for them.\nJust as a disclaimer: If this guy put an aggressive finger on you in any way, STAY AWAY!!!  You deserve better.
823387
Well then just be honest with the guy.  Inform him that you really enjoyed your time with him and that he is very much a gentleman etc, but that you have to find out for yourself if there is anything left between you and your ex.
347519
Tell your boyfriend that it feels like things have changed and you would like to see whats its like without a boyfriend you could also add things don't seem like they did  and it would be better if you just remained friends if that can happen!
254201
I think you should say that your relationship is not where you expected to go and give reasons why you don't want to be with him.  If he happens to let you go and break up, doesn't that leave you a way for you to get back together with your ex without seeming like that was the reason why you wanted to breakup?  Obviously there must be a reason why you'd much rather be with your ex than your current bf, just make sure you're not going to be getting yourself into a big mess and come out with no bf or friends at all.
322973
Meet him at a public place, like the food-court at a mall. Bring one or two friends with you. And tell him face-to-face. Thats the mature way to do it. You owe it to him to give him this chance to ask you, directly, what went wrong and why you are breaking up with him. Doing it with notes or email doesnt let both you and he say what needs to be said.
367246
Tell him you miss him & want him back and you would like to forget the past and move forward with someone you love.
273601
some things are better left unsaid so just break it off with you'll live in boyfriend and tell him that it's not working out anymore and tell the next guy you made a big mistake but now you know that you only want to be with him and him only
930477
Tell him that a break up is not what you wanted and you realise how much you really love him and it has taken this break up for you to really see how much you want the relationship to work ...... Good luck
310710
This is my advice to you. I was in the same position that you were in. I dated for a guy for 3 years and he broke up with me b/c he was afraid of commitment or whatever. But my advice to you is this 1) show him that you are the stronger one by not being needy,calling him all the time or really bring up the relationship 2) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF by taking care of yourself it prove to him that you are okay and will help him realize what he is missing 3)surround yourself with family and friends a good support system is the key to the whole situation.
865831
You should give him the same exact respect you would want him to give you...but I have a feeling you have already gone beyond where that line is with you.\nSit down with him.  Tell him how much he has meant to you, but that you have changed and he doesn't mean that anymore.  Be honest, the worst thing you can do to yourself is lie.\nI would caution you on one thing though-the new relationship is always going to seem exciting-at first.  Then it becomes just another relationship.  Don't keep the current guy hanging on while you find that out.  Since you betrayed his feelings, it is better for him if you move out now and be honest with him.\nI am not judging you harsly, it just sounds that way.  I have been on  BOTH sides of this arguement so I know what you are feeling and I know what he is going to go through.  \nJust be a good person about it, as good as you can anyway.
1099748
If you're happy with the new bf (and not just because he buys you things), then tell the ex, sorry bout your luck.  Tell him you actually shuold thank him, because if he hadn't left you you never would have met this guy.  And you are happy, and hope he can find someone to be as happy with.
67544
There really isnt a FAST way.  But there are ways that are more beneficial than others.\n\nFirst, happy hands = a happy mind. AKA stay busy!  If your consantly busy doing something, you wont have as much time to think about him, and maybe, with all the activity, you might find a new friend.\n\nSecond, make sure that the break off is a clean one.  What I mean is, there should be nothing of his around you that will remind you of him.  No pictures, phone numbers, clothing items, etc.\n\nThird, make sure he understands that it is over.  Tell him however you need to, to make things clear.\n\nForth, let him go...with in yourself.  You can not HALF do this.  If you want to break it off, dont 2nd guess yourself.  You need to have confidence in your actions, and you need to believe that what you are doing is for the best.\n\nFinally, enjoy yourself.  After loosing something that had a large impact on your life for so long, you need to fill it with things that are fun for you.  Treat yourself!  Take yourself out, devote a day to the spa, or go to a bar/club with some girlfriends.  Stay positive and have fun.\n\nGood luck!
144523
i can tell u im no expert in this area but i have some advice.try 2 bring up neutral topics(ur just meeting and u dont wanna spook him)never bring up your ex.u'll damage the relationship be4 it even starts.bottom line be friendly,natural and a little flirty.u want 2 get the message across that u wanna be more than friends.
445092
You are going to be fine if you and your ex are on good terms.  Don't lose any sleep about it.  Dress nicely and bring a book and a snack because there will be a looooong wait.  But don't be afraid to say something if you feel something isn't quite right or fair.
871920
You need to be up front and clear. Don't worry about his feeling more than your own. You don't have to tell him about your past but you can ry telling him I am not ready to take the relationship any further yet. I want to go slowly. Don't accept any dates at his house or any invitations over to his house. Don't allow him at our house. Keep all contact in public-- that way there won't be any possible ways for him to try and convince you or make you feel guilty. However, if he is not listening to you you have to ask if you even want to be with hi,\nDo not feel obligated to him. If he is a nice and normal guy who genuinely likes you he would not want you doing things because you felt obligated to,
194525
It doesn't sound to me like you ever wanted in the relationship to begin with. Your first feeling is usually the right one. So i would just contact him and tell him that you understand that the relationship is over and that it is probably for the best, but you would like to try to go back to the way things were before you started dating. It is not possible for some people but for a select few it works. Besides you said the sex wasn't great anyway and that is the only difference between a relationship and a friendship.
590704
You need closure. Tell him how you feel and explain that if you did not tell him, you'd explode. Then tell him that that's just it, that you're willing to give him the freedom he wants and for your part, you are doing your share of getting over him soon. This transition "rite" would formalize your breakup and should clarify things for both of you that you don't have to play the waiting game anymore. Afterwards, forget about him and move on.