i m married,my ex boyfriend keeps on trying to touch me.he's in the same group at college.what to do?
344921
make sure your not sending mixed messages - tell your ex VERY FIRMLY that if he tries to touch you again you are getting a restraining order and consider getting one
953176
I know it's very hard, but you have to distance yourself from him. He's married, you're with someone...just picture his wife and how she would feel, and how you would feel if someone did that to you.
887689
If your like my ex my friends are more fun to be around ,they don't want to know when I'm coming home,where I've been, who I've been with etc..etc.. quit riding him like a mule , maybe you should give him sex more then once a month so he doesn't have to beg you for it, and then he might want to hang with you more ,unless he's gay and screwing his friends
817845
If it is more than just a peck on the cheek, and it makes you uncomfortable, then you need to talk to your man and clue him in.  Everyone has history with someone, that doesn't mean that you still have a forever entitlement to act any way you want.  That is why it is "history" and not "current".  Put your foot down with your man and his ex.  I'll bet her current feels the same way you do.
184685
invite him over to your house and when he comes in make sure you are kissing another guy.  that will work.  My ex girl done that to me.
1074446
I think it is males tendency to grab and keep it to himself. He got married with you and now he wants something in addition to you. The best solution to this problem is...tit for tat.... Just try this once. You ignore him and don't allow him to touch you ...and then see the difference....
205726
Well, I am concerned that you would hurt yourself because you mention it. So please, if you ever do feel that wayseek medical attention. From what you have said, I think your issues are caused by your ex. I think that you should break off with him and his family for good. He and his family like to play mental games. You will find someone else that will treat you will respect. These people do not respect you, they are into drama. \n\nI know I am not a guy, but I know that what I have read is totally wrong. You can get out of this situation, just walk away.
176732
you should not take him seriously he is obviously still sexually intersted in his ex and your isecurity has led you to snoop into his his personal email account because you do not trust him relationships do not grow and flourish on mistrust and insecurity and if you aren't dating others you need to start and move on or stay where you are and continue playing sneaky games
791071
He is making you hold on while he moves on and has his fun with other women. Get a life-move on, don't sit around and wait on him.
428126
First thing you need to find out is why he tricked you. Sounds like somewhere in the relationship there was a violation of trust. Discuss with him the reasons he did it not the action itself.  \n\nScrew Doctor Phil.... I need my own show =)\n\nSeriously find out the cause not the action\nWAIT HE WAS YOUR EX? O srew that. Move on then
856615
I would confront your EX and tell him that if he keeps stalking you then you will report him to the police.  It's just that simple.  What he's doing is creepy..not romantic.  Good luck to you.
525300
NO ARE YOU KIDDING, HE OBVIOUSLY KNOWS HE HAS A HOLD OVER YOU. AND APPARENTLY GIVES YOU NO RESPECT, YOU NEED TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU NEED TO BE TREATED.
397561
just tell him that it annoys you when he does it. if he doesn't stop then you've got to re-think some stuff. if he respects the whole you then he will respect your request to stop hiting you even if it's a way of flirting for him.
329739
Diana..this is what i think u should do..sit down and talk to him about the way he treats u..tell him first about the good things that u love about him..but then tell him that he needs to trust u when u go out with your friends or if u just go out by yourself..(shopping or grabbing a bite to eat)..tell him in a kind way that if he keeps this up..u won't put up with it cause u want him to be part of your life and not your whole life..if it gets messy where he does hit u....stand up for yourself and have him arrested then gey a restraining order on him..its that simple sweety....please please don't be one of those gals that end up in a abuses relationship...
500699
Yeah...it sounds familiar ...I have an ex who tried the same...basically you have to set boundaries as it's not appropriate for him to visit you given his feelings and the fact that you're committed to another man. Tell him to use the phone or mail to communicate but don't expect him to go away -it's been 18 years since my ex has been doing this but as he's basically harmless I haven't really cared. The important thing is -is your ex harmless? Or is he someone who may act on his obsession? Finally I want to say -be sure you're not sending mixed signals...I've seen too many women not be clear about their wishes only to whine or press charges later when it's their fault for not being direct in the first place! Be honest with him and tell him to scram! There's my advice...I hope you take it! Edit~ I got your mail....If you hate him as you say AND HE HAS 'HURT YOU SO BAD' then why are you putting up with him then? Get a restraining order! Call the police and file a complaint and ask them to tell him to stay away! I thought maybe you still liked him on some level but since that's not the case you need to be pro active! Don't sit here on yahoo talking about it-do something about it -and I mean right now-today! Make sure you don't regret not doing anything!!!!!!!!! Everyday you let this go on-you encourage him more, and give him hope and he will become more relentless! You have been warned!
505027
Ok, look....it seems to me like your ex is just playing around...I mean he knows you have a boyfriend, a good guy would respect that....and if he cared about you he wouldn't be doing this to you, I mean he's confusing you everytime he tries to kiss you and when he tells you he wants you to be friends with benefits? If he cared about you, he would just try to see you as a friend, and try to move on! If you don't love the guy you're with, then talk to him, I don't think it's fair to the other guy, if you think you're slowly falling in love with the other guy, and if he's a good guy, then stay with him....you and your ex broke up for a reason right? then why bother going back? if your relationship with him didn't last you think is gonna last the second time? You're just going to get hurt that way, and in the long run you'll realize that you lost an amazin guy, and trust me once you do something, you can't really go back, only if you're lucky! But if you think you'll never love your new boyfriend, then just be honest with him, and maybe tell him to give you some time or just tell him you want to be just friends! But trust me I think you should move on and forget about your ex! I hope that helped you, just follow your heart, if your heart tells you to go back with your ex then be honest to the other guy, but my advice would be not to cheat on him, I don't think anyone deserves that!
355443
There's some boundaries people shouldn't cross. That's one. Try not to be around him often,you can still be nice and talk to him,just don't so often. And if he's flirting with you then he's crossing a boundary. Don't flirt back & tell him it makes you uncomfortable cause he's married. And most importantly,find a guy that's AVAILABLE & loves you for you & you love him & I promise you'll get over Mr. Married. :)