I would like say to give forgive to my parents. I did not hear from them for one and half years.?
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Yes, a letter is a really good place to start, that way you can go over it a few times to be sure all your feelings are worded just right.  Let them know that you love them, and that you want their blessing in your marriage so that they can be a part of your life.  \nMy folks have such issues with my husband, that they caused a huge rift in our family. I picked a man who loves me without fail and would be as good a father to my kids as my dad was to me. I KNOW THIS! But instead, I wake up every day and say to myself, 'I miss my mom, today'. \nThe letter thing doesnt always work, but at least you know that you have given them an open invitation into your life. It is up to them to take the nest steps.  You have made the most important step, which is to Forgive. Sometimes, there are things in life, which parents learn from watching their kids. Instead of the other way around. That is what family is for! Dont give up!
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Well, it sounds as if your mother has changed for the better.  It can be very difficult to put the past behind you, but that is what you need to do.\n\nYou probably should seek counseling, so that you can get the help to overcome those feelings, in fact you should also encourage your mother to attend some of that counseling with you.  That way the two of you can work out those issues together.\n\nShould you continue speaking to your family?  Yes, take it from someone who spends most holiday's alone.  If there is a chance that you can heal the situation, take it.
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well what you did was not easy  i too have done it but it want just your life that is suffering the life everyone thought they had is now turned up side down and the easiest way out is to blame you. I am so sorry this happen to you  but good for you that you  are not the victim anymore and your family will come around in time but the words we say be it what you say to them or what they say to you will remain as the biggest scar\nyou keep living your live with your head held high and dont think for a minute it was your fault. i would like to have contact information with you so i can discuss this farther i can really help .I will keep you in prayer and your family. i dont know if they will let me post it but it is JLSJSTEPHENS@YAHOO>COM
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That's wrong what if they forgot about you and decided to pursue their own interest and you never heard from them again.How would you feel?Your parents deserve better then that don't you think?In my opinion we will always need are parents.
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Dear, we are all the same. But what u r to do is to ask God for forgiviness, repentance n help. Then call ur mom after dinner tell her u have to discuss with her. Then appollogise to her kneeling down with tears on ur eyes tell her to give u the second chance. I believe that with the tears in ur eyes, she will agree n forgive u n forget . but mind u, she will be looking forward n vwatching u to know if there is any improvement in u. so better be careful. \nthanks n God bless u more abundantly.
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well, for one, i am VERY sorry for the loss of your mom. I think you need a break from your family, before things get worse and time to heal your wounds. Try and prove to the police that your father is innocent, i am truely sorry this happened to your mother.\n\nget well.
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Honey, I'm so sorry.  It all depends on if they work things out between them, but the truth is they may not even know at this time.  Please don't think it's your fault.  Adults have a lot of issues to deal with.  I'm sure your Dad loves you and misses you very much.  Include them in your prayers. I will too.
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I believe that deep down inside, you know what is right for you to do.  I think you should forgive her even if she excepts it or not.  God knows your heart and the blood is no longer on your hands if you do all that you know to do.  I also think you should love and serve her in anyway possible to help her in her time of need.  The Bible speaks on loving in spite of or having the agape or the God kind of love, especial towards your parents (even if they have not been so good to you).  God will honor you obedience and your reward will be great in the end.
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stop trying to fix it. you are not in control of the universe. try looking at what you have done to contribute to the problem, and apologize without expecting them to apologize too. true forgiveness is realizing there is nothing to forgive.
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You know forgiveness is a difficult thing.  I think if you are feeling it, you should do it.  It will be a lot easier to move on.  And really, how long does a person need to be punished for something wrong they have done?  I am not spiritual at all or even religious.  But a lot of people believe we will answer to a greater power once we leave this earth.  If you believe that, then there is no good reason why you need to carry around animosity for your mom.  You are an adult now and if she doesn't feel sorry now, she never will.  But I am sure she feels guilty and that is a punishment she will live with until death and then she will deal with whatever, after.  I think it takes a big person to forgive someone of such a huge thing as a mom leaving her babies.  My dad left my mom before I was born and then claimed I wasn't his.  It was a huge court battle and it was finally discovered he is in fact my biological father.  At age 18 he decided he wanted me back in his life.  I couldn't do it.  I wasn't ready.  I am a mother now and I have forgiven him and moved on.  He is now dying of liver failure and wishes he had more time with me...I am his only daughter.  So, he is being punished.  But not by me...but by himself and knowing that he did wrong.  Good luck to you.  You will make the decision best for you.
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I believe there is an exemption from the statute of limitations in cases of this sort.  You absolutely have the right to do this and it may bring you some measure of healing and closure.\n\nGood luck.
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Tell them.  Sooner or later they're going to find out.  When that happens they may assume you were up to no good. Why?  Because you didn't tell them.  If you want any chance at seeing and talking to him then tell them first.  Besides, don't you want your parents to trust you? You trust your parents?  It's a two way street!!
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talk to them. 5 months is a long time and they mite be just upset as you are. maybe they are waiting for you!
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I'm going through a similar situation because of things I did years ago.  They never really trust you again. Not fully anyway.  It is always there, waiting for the opportunity to show up and force you to feel guilty about something.  I've been going through this for 13yrs.  It hasn't gotten any better.  Maybe you need to learn from your mistake and move on. I don't know why I stayed,but I wish I hadn't.
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That's a hard one. It's really going to take a while for your friends to forgive you. What I think you should do is give them some space, then do something HUGE that says "I'm sorry and I've learned my lesson. I won't lie to you anymore." That might work pretty good. Good luck and I hope I helped you! :)\n\nPS. I'm sorry can work magic in situations like this.
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Like previous answers said, either post it in the category you abused (!) or in the yahoo section. If you really are sincere in the wording of your apology and write it from the heart, I am sure that it will be accepted!\n\nGood luck and remember, try not to be naughty boy any more!! ;)
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Forgiving is to choose not to fight anymore, the forgetting part doesn't come automatically, it's a process, so don't beat yourself up.\n\nIt is perfectly acceptable to feel wary of them. Being betrayed by a family member is the worst kind of betrayal there is, because it's so unexpected.\n\nIf you have not discussed your feelings about what happened with your accusers personally, maybe you should. Be frank. You said the e-mail made you smile, it sounds like the wound is healing, that's a good sign. Take things slow! And be careful, Jesus wants us to forgive but He doesn't want you to put yourself in a bad situation. \n\nGood luck with your situation.\nAnd remember, you're not alone.