He has changed his mind about being her dad.?
344463
Since your husband's name is on her birth certificate he is her legal father, even if he's not her biological father. The two of you are married now. You've made a commitment before God to love, honor, cherish and be faithful to one another till death parts you. Are you ready to trash it this quickly? You and your husband need some serious marriage counseling before it's to late to salvage your marriage. If he refuses to go, go alone. At least you'll have some help dealing with his horrible behavior. I don't know how any one could not love such a precious little one. He knew it wasn't his and he married you. Made a commitment to you. He needs to learn (through counseling) to deal with the fact that he's her dad! To heck with the biology! I pray the 2 of you can find a way back to the love that brought you to the altar in the first place! God Bless!
814108
Yes, it's about time! Last time I paid attention, he was always leaving her to chill with his boys for the night and she seemed to be constantly having to take a vacation to her mama's house to relax. He's not father material, either. I didn't know they were divorcing, but it's good news to me.
690495
sounds like he`s not sexually conservative no more.hope she don`t have a mid-life baby-women can be very fertile at this age.
843686
Since the biological mother lost custody he has a good chance.  Why is he just now pursuing this though...that wil be a MAJOR factor.
775158
it sounds like although she is only six she is making a very adult decision. if she wants to recognize your husband as her father and he is the only prominent fatherly figure in her life then she is justified to do so. although it will make your ex angry obviously he should understand her decision as he is doing nothing in her life. good luck and God be with you
484181
Time is up for him. If he can't explain why she's visiting, then that's it. I'm sorry this is happening to you.
880381
Your poor mum...5 years is a long time. I hope she gets rid of him as its a real cheek if he says he can't stop seeing the other woman !!!
587678
Don't fight with him. Ask him calmly why he is still in touch with her. If he becomes evasive or gets defensive, then you have cause to be suspicious for he IS hiding something then. If your suscipion is confirmed, then decide what you want to do next. If you still love him, tell him so and ask him to choose - you & your daughter or her. If he is undecided, I see no point in holding on to someone who doesn't really love you fully.
343183
I think it's HER day and she's old enough to deal with her decision whether or not to invite him.  True, she may regret not inviting her dad - but that's for her to decide and then deal with.  She may NEVER regret it - and remember it as a special day she got to spend with YOU.  Respecting her wish will also prove to her that she is worthy of your trust and respect.  I do hope you have a "grown up" conversation with her about all of this - make her a part of the pros/cons discussion and final decision.\n\nGood Luck!
834180
I am so sorry this happened. Explain it to her. Daddy cannot move his legs and he'll be in a special chair...pics are great. Be honest about it and answer her questions as best you can.
918930
I suggest that the three of you arrange some time for the three of you to sit down and talk. Explain to your daughter that you are happy with this man and that you want to continue having a relationship with him. Tell her how much the both of them mean to you and that he is not your ex-husband and would never dream of hurting either your or her verbally or physically. Ask her why she disapproves of him. Ask him how her disapproval makes him. Tell her how much her disapproval hurts. And, than ask her if she would sit aside her differences and give him a chance for just a little while. Make sure that everyone gives their input on the matter.
923543
Wow, Paul. Creepy. I agree that that these recent events may seem 'cosmic' in nature, but some of these things may seem suddenly more related because you have her on your mind. Constantly.  Kind of like when you learn a new word or phrase, and then it seems like you hear that word or phrase constantly right after that. Know what I mean?\n\nI think you've become obsessed with her, and you're not really thinking this through.\n\nFirst of all, have you discussed this with your son?  How does he feel about getting to know his mother after all these years? If you contact this woman, that may become a reality, and your son may have a different idea about that.\n\nHow would your wife react to this?  \n\nMost importantly, what purpose would it serve?  I think you have this fairy-tale idea that you'll become pals again and all will suddenly be well.  In reality, you'll be dredging up years of resentment, anger, and disappointment, especially where your son is concerned.  \n\nIs it really worth it?\n\nI can tell you that the reality of the results of such an endeavor will rarely live up to your hopes.\n\nDon't look at all these recent events as a MESSAGE.  That's an EXCUSE.  You want us to encourage you to do this thing.\n\nI'm not gonna do it.\n\nGood Luck,\n\nPolly
684231
Wow, what a tough one...\nI feel sorry for you. He has obviously been a victim of manipulation. She has stooped really low here. She realized that tactic would work on him, and she is playing it for all it is worth. He needs to stand up to her, and tell her that kind of logic isn't going to work anymore, if he really feels that way. He can reassure his daughter that just beacuse Mom, and Dad don't get along, it doesn't mean that the love they feel towards her, individually, has waned. She screwed up. Not him. If he wants to fix things between the two of them, there is nothing you can do, though. He needs to figure out what he wants. Unfortunately, you are in the wings right now. The best thing you can do, is be patient. He is confused, and needs time to get his mind straight. If he truely loves you, and you him, he should see that, and come back to you. Be supportive for him. He needs it....
53296
YES! Her body is defitely starting to look fuller, she's wearing looser clothes instead of the normal skintight ones, they're moving in together, and he's adopting her other kids! I think that was the most pressing issue for adoption, so the other kids wouldn't feel left out that he wasn't their daddy too when the new baby came along.
479571
I think that is awesome that you are so forgiving, and excited to see your dad.. It's really amazing how your daughter was born on his birthday to.. I think that sometimes fate has a way of making things work out..You should just be very open and honest with your dad.. Tell him all the things that you have thought about over the years, and how much you have missed having him in your life.. Be receptive to what he has to say.. I hope that he involves himself with you and his new granddaughter from now on too.. I kinda know the feelings you have.. My dad passed away when I was eight. I don't remember him, and God knows how much I needed him there.. it's like you are always looking for something to replace that bond with.. \nI hope everything works out just as you hope it will!
1111620
They do not speak to each other.  Apparently, she thought he was critical of her in an interview he gave.  I am not absolutely sure but I think she claims it was about her having adopted when she first did.  She also often said that she did not appreciate his cheating on her mother.  Not very consistent for a woman who slept with a married man.  He has expressed that he would like to make amends but she is not budging.
143403
Lol..lol.. Maybe he, like myself is confused in what heck you're talking about? Are you trying to get rid of him too? That's his mother, and honey, you might be treading deep water on this issue, and drive him away with her...lol