Does She Really Deserve SELF -HAPPINESS? Can't she leave first?
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everyone deserves self-happiness.
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Yes. Tell her to return to her walk with God. He will put some one more deserving in her life.
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no\ntrue love preserves one's self worth
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Your mind some times plays tricks on you. Its called lets mess with her brain, because she happy and your sub con chance think Wow I happy and for what ever reason I don't deserve to be. Dump that feeling and get on with just being happy.
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you have to think about why it is that you feel this way. why do you think you aren't good enough for her. once you figure this out you can start the healing process within yourself. it's okay to argue.. it's part of life. the tough part is how you are going to handle it and manning up to any mistakes you may have made. that is the true test of a relationship. this doesn't mean that you don't deserve her. if anything.. she's putting you on to things so you are aware how you are hurting her, yourself, and the relationship. if she says she loves you .. believe it. communication is the key. have a talk with her and try to sort out your feelings. if you really love her .. try and work it out. but you gotta trust her. live and let go.. easier said than done.. but you'll be happier in the long run with the one you love.. hope it helps..
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Ask her! If she is worth marrying you should be able to trust her? Right?!
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I dont really think she is in this world to make you happy...she is happy with the way she looks
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Sometimes people are really good at putting on a big act about how they're "fine" and "happy"--some people are good at lying, or at least hiding the real truth.  A lot of times, people feel really pressured to perform a certain way, like they're "supposed" to be happy because they have stuff, money, family, friends, good job, good house, good car...all that crap that's nice but doesn't make you happy.\n\nIf you're not happy, you can be surrounded by a banquet and starve.  People may care about you, but you might not care about yourself.  So when you see glimpses and flashes of unhappiness, that might be a lot more honest than her facade of everything being OK.\n\nDon't pressure her if she really doesn't want to talk about it--you don't want her to get defensive and push you away.  She always has the choice to avoid you--in fact, she has the choice to kill herself if that's what she wants.  You can't fix her problems, and you're not responsible for her actions.  But don't take that like there's nothing you can do.\n\nIf you get a *little* resistance, a *little* hesitation...push forward.  Push her to tell you the truth.  Push her to get professional help.  Push her to find out what's really important and go for it--fulfillment can make a person feel much more important and useful to the world.  Ever heard, "idle hands are the devil's playthings"?  If you're unhappy but you force yourself to do *something*, something helpful to yourself or others, it can take your mind off being depressed and it can give you a sense of purpose.  \n\nBut she shouldn't go for the temporary fix.  If her meds aren't working, she should try new ones.  If she's not in therapy, she should get in therapy.  If she has any addiction issues (not saying she does, but you don't know for sure what she's hiding), she needs to deal with those.  \n\nAnd remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  It may not be that she wants to die--sometimes, it's not about that.  Sometimes, it just seems like the only way to escape from the problems of life.  You need to encourage her to strengthen the part of herself that wants to live (I'm sure there's part of her that wants to live, or is at least ambiguous about suicide.)  Encourage the part of her that realizes that the future might be better.  I used to feel way worse than now, and part of getting better was just slogging through the bad times, waiting for something better.  \n\nDepression is hard, cruel, boring sometimes.  It's a drain and a plague--I can think of a lot of diseases I'd rather have than depression.  But it's a disease, and diseases can get better--just keep telling her that.  Be persistent.  She might get irked at you now, but she'll thank you later.
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By being honest and stubborn and even if that hasn't worked yet, it will. I'm sure she knows you care for her and wants to be with you, but there are probably tons of reasons why she just can't let herself trust you. Oh and don't ever threaten to leave her unless you really plan on going through with it completely and NOTHING she can say will change that. Especially if that is something that she fears.
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Depending on the severity of her bad times , yes it can be true.  Each human being reacts to stress differently and it does sound like she needs some professional help.
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Hec yeah,he does.She allows him to as well.Maybe she really is Happy with him. Only she knows.\n Be Blessed!
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Regrets wouldn't do any good. What's done is done. The past is past. Get on and leave her behind.\n\nAttagirl!
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You can not help her. She has got to help herself. I have been down that road before. Believe me it is difficult. Sometimes we want to save someone it makes us feel good. But trust me the lies are just starting. Get out before you get hurt to bad.
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Yes, leave it be.  She is obviously unstable and whatever the outcome, it won't be fair to you.
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i think you need to ask yourself if the whole thing is really worth it, i mean if you think it is then you need to work with all your might to try and fix whats wrong, maybe you should just try counseling by yourself so that you can get yourself together. Maybe that will further help you to determine if this is really the woman for you.
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Can you be a bit more specific about the situation? How does SHE feel? Is she separated? Unhappy? You definitely aren't nuts though. Many have been there before and will be in this situation again.
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only you can tell for certain if you really love her. but if you think you're capable of giving up everything you know and believe in just to be with this chick, i think she got you.  \n\nshould you ask her to stay? it's worth a try. better do it than waste a lot of time regretting it.