what do i do my boyfriend says he loves nd i think genuinely does but im not sure if i love him?!?
349561
There is nothing to do. Don't make the mistake and tell him that you love him if you don't. You might not love him now but, whose to say that you won't love him in the future? You might not love him but, you obviously have feelings for him because you are with him. Give it time love doesn't always happen instantly, it takes time. Don't force yourself to feel something that is not there.
424759
Its better to ask him directly, you never know may be he loves you.
317086
try talking to him again, on how he feels about love. ask him when he think its a good time for a couple to say those words. \n\ni know how your feeling, I've been their. with the boyfriend i am with now. i wasn't for sure when to tell him i loved him too. we live in different countries so he wasn't sure if we would even work. \n\nits been a year now and where stronger then ever, even going to move in together. the moment i told him i loved it was about last fall or winter. he eventually saw how great and wonderful of a person i was and with him. he couldn't help but say those words back to me. \n\nyou pretty much just have to guess when to say it. you can't ignore your feelings, no matter if they get hurt or not. if you love him, tell him and then tell him why you love him. show him how you make him feel, by your words. \n\nif he can't appreciated that, then he's a loser lol. you've been together long enough to start talking about love. if you were to tell me you just been together for a week or two, then i would say no and wait more.
1037427
I think if you truly feel that you love this guy, you would wait until he gives you a sign that he feels the same way.  If he is not in the same page as you are, then telling him how you feel about him might scare him away.  Or worse, he might not feel the same about you, yet.  Be patient, you will feel it when it's right.  \nBest wishes,
720457
talk to him - i told my bf that i love him and see our futures as being together - try it :-)
635786
It sounds like you need to talk to your man. Tell him exactly how you feel and ask him where do I stand in this relationship? Then come right out and say Do you still love me?
758870
We always find something wrong with whatever situation we're in- your boyfriend sounds like he needs some room/latitude to check out things. Don't suffocate him. He probably loves you very much but right now is feeling constrained by the relationship. Best thing you can do is let him know you love him and allow him some opportunity do what he wants. It maybe doesn't seem fair, but it's a chance for you to do some thinking/living for yourself ,too. It is said ,"Set it free and if it's real, it'll return to you sooner or later". That's what good love is- trusting, enduring, and patient as well as self-sacrificing.
605551
You said yourself, he is YOUR boyfriend, he has, I understand, said that he is serious and that he loves you.\nWhy are you insecured?\nThere two points I want to mention here:\nTrust is the strongest feeling and if you are going to build a future together you must trust him and his feelings for you.\nAnd second, a woman just knows if her man loves her.\nCome on, believe in yourself more, you say you are a bit on the heavy side, well....this guy knew this and still he fell for you...didnt he? \nEnjoy this lovely time...your love...his love for you..dont go around seeing possible ghosts....\nHow would you feel if he asks you..do you really love me? are you really serious about us?\nBe happy mi girl...just be happy!
49696
Maybe you are asking the wrong question...\n\nTry asking this: "DO I LIKE OR DO I LOVE THIS GUY?"\n\nLol... funny, smart and other stuffs you mention which makes you happy is common to other things...\n\nYou can feel this way if you are EATING YOUR FAV FOOD or PLAYING WITH A CUTE DOG or SIMPLY WATCHING A VERY CUTE MOVIE... Maybe it's love maybe it's not... \n\nBottom line is "YOUR CHOICE MAKES YOUR FUTURE"
895215
Hopefully the feeling is mutually (meaning your boyfriend loves you). If so, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. If your boyfriend is a mature individual he will not listen to outside sources. If he feels that something may be true than he should come directly to you...go directly to the source. Just remember people are petty. People will do anything and everything to get what they want...especially if they are involved with someone else...you always want what you can't have.
617725
Let me tell you a little bit about my own experience: \n     I tell my girlfriend all the time, very sincerely and sweetly, that i love her.  I do spontaneous things, like buying flowers or candy or some other gift, for no reason at all.  And i sometimes just hang out with her, with no obligations or intentions; just hanging out to be with her.  Yet, she sometimes gets insecure, and doubts me.  It has never been because of something that i have done, just that that is how she is.  Lately, because of this, i have been sensing those things, and i have found myself being emotionally hurt by her, and the little things that she has been doing.........  I love her more than you could imagine, but because of her doubts and insecurities, i have been getting hurt, and i now have doubts as to whether the relationship is fit to survive.  \n     In your case, if he has done nothing to bring about these feelings, then you should probably have no worries.  Innocent until proven guilty.  I know, from personal experience, that it starts to hurt when you signifigant other doubts you and your motives/intentions when you say "i love you."  It is extremely painful because you say those words to someone, expressing what you truly feel inside (not in all cases mind you), and then you are essentially "slapped" in the face when that person questions you.  If your boyfriend is seemingly sweet and sincere, then he probably really means it.  if he respects you as a person, and is supportive of you, then i would say that he probably means it.  Good luck to you, and i hope that i have helped.
478858
If you're really not sure of what you feel for him, then just try to entertain him about his feelings for you... Never tell a person you love him/her if you're not sure because it really hurts in their part when you don't show it to them... Try to think first before making any moves and be sure of everything if you're talking about true commitment... You can also try telling him about your feelings that at this moment, you're still not sure what you feel, if he's matured enough, he will understand you, and if he really loves you, he will wait for your decision without lessening his feelings for you... Also use the situation right now to test if what he feels for you is true...
223249
Why waste your time doubting him?  Accept his feelings for what they are and be thankful he loves you.
345574
I have been successful, but I've waited until I felt really right.  There is a differnce between LOVE and INFATUATION.  You might have said "I love you" to a guy, when really you were just still in the infatuation stage.  If you have been with your current boyfriend for almost 2 years, I think it is time for you to say it.  He might just be waiting for you to say it first.  Maybe he feels the same way as you do about saying I love you.  Either say it, or actually TALK to him about it.  Be like "I really feel like I love you, but I don't want to say it and make you uncomfortable.  How do you feel about it?"  Hope this works!
154527
he probably does really love u if he is really ready to wait for u to say it. it might not be a month long stand. so just wait and say it when u mean it. i bet it will mean a lot more if u wait untill u mean it.
294116
Unless you can feel what he feels you'll never truly know.  If you love him as much as you say then you should trust him to tell the truth when he says he loves you.  \n\nAsk him to describe what he feels for you.
717772
yeh u can say it and say it 100 times over, but u mite not nessecarily mean it!the way2tell is by ur emotions and how you feel when ur arround him!his behaviour will say it all!consider all these things, has he lied2u, given u any reason2 doubt him!ul no if sum1 luvs u, cus theyl be sooo absorbed in u!if u have reason 2 doubt it then it probably wont be love, becus luv is unconditional and can be seen from miles off!although u are doubting it tho, doesnt mean he isnt in love with u!maybe he truely is and ur just wantn it2b tru luv soooo much that ur questioning it becus u cant believe its tru!ul no!hope this helps!