i have been having sex with this girl and she thinks its the makings of being serious...?
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You could always tell her-" You are very attractive, funny etc..but in the same time I don't feel like marrying you, I "don't see there being a marriage future" and i feel responsible because i care. What do you think we should do? Is it OK with you or you wanna split and waste no more time..?"\n\nIf you want to get married and you're looking for the One and you are sure she is not, being with her no matter how fine it is is waisting her and your time.\nBut if you really enjoy being with her, miss her and she feels the same way too, don't loose her for these are very sweet nice emotions and life is unpredictably short.
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I wanted to answer this only because I appreciated the answer you gave my question.\n\nSo, no one has actually given you a real answer yet. Have you noticed?\n\nYou feel obligated to commit for one reason only: more sex.\n\nHave you noticed almost all the answers you got came from girls, most of them not even mature enough to have any experience of a committed relationship.\n\nGirls say they want a commitment usually AFTER SEX!\n\nWhy is that?\n\ncontrol of you, buddy. She has her own agenda, just like you, two human beings finding out what this part of life is like. \n\nDon't know until you have the experience.\nNo one is wrong in this, she knew what she was getting into when she let you inside her. Otherwise all the responsibility is placed on your head.\nAre you her parent? Are you responsible for her feelings?\n\nMy experience is that only I am responsible for my feelings. I am also responsible for my actions.\nYou sound like you want to be accountable for yourself, so is she willing to be accountable for her actions, too.\n\nBoth of you didn't communicate very well, and that's what people do. We get to learn how to do this stuff the hard way, by doing it. You always have a second chance you do the right thing.\n\nNow, can you be honest with her about what YOU want?\nIs she ready to truely commit?\nWhat is it you want in a relationship?\n\nTry writing this stuff down and ask the men you trust about how to know what is important to you.\n\nGood job.
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Uhh....sounds OK\nJust because she did that in her past, doesn't mean she still does it now. She may have learned by now....\nGo slow. Tell her you like her. Let her decide.
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Talk to her. Discuss what it is that makes you think she's fooling around. \n\nTry to be non-confrontational. Try to avoid "You always..." or "You never..." Say instead, "When you do (or don't do) this.... I feel this...." Or "When I see you do such-and-such, I wonder what it means."\n\nAsk her what it means. LISTEN to what she says. Repeat it back to her: "I think you're telling me....."\n\nIf you do not feel much better after this discussion, sorry, sweetie, time for a new girlfriend.\n\nI hope you're wrong, and I hope this helps.
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She is totally wacked and needs serious professional help, more than you can give her.  If I were you, I'd run like the wind and don't look back!  I've lost my virginity too, but what's that got to do with anything?  Forget about that BS.  The new chick, let's hope you've improved your selection, but she's bound to be an improvement.  Get a grip man.  This is an obvious...get out while the going's good before she decides to cut her name on your leg or worse, pulls a Bobick on your balls when she thinks you somehow crossed her.
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You're not a horrible person. You're simply a liar. Which is an indication of one or two things. 1. You care enough about her to spare her feelings and you like her enough to be what she wants you to be or..2. You're just trying to turn her out. If you lied because you really like her then she may be understanding and if not then she may be really hurt and disappointed. I was once in this situation and I forgave him because I understand that most guys don't feel the same way about sex that I do and at least he cared about what I thought. Believe it or not some women understand that some men lie because they care. As sick as that sounds. Its not rt but in your situation if that's what you did then it probably won't affect the relationship because I'm sure she wasn't expecting an angel.
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WELL PEOPLE LIE WHEN THEY SAY BEING TRUTHFUL IS THE ONLY WAY IN A RELATIONSHIP.  JUST AS YOU HAVE FOUND OUT THE HARD WAY.  WHY WAS YOUR GIRL TRIPPING?  CUZ SHE'S INSECURE ABOUT HERSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP.  WHAT KIND OF IDIOT QUESTION IS THAT "DO YOU THINK THAT GIRLS HOT?"  AND THEN TO GET PISSED OFF WHEN YOU DO FIND HER ATTRACTIVE!  STUPID!\n\nYOU'RE PROBABLY BETTER OFF WITHOUT HER.  SHE'S GOT ISSUES.  I MEAN YOU DON'T ASK A GUY THAT, NOT IF YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH.  SEE WHAT YOU SHOULD OF DONE, WAS EITHER IGNORE THE STUPID QUESTION OR LIE AND SAY, BABY WHAT GIRL?  I ONLY HAVE EYES FOR YOU!  THEN SOMEBODY WOULD HAVE BEEN GETTING SOME THAT NIGHT!!!!!!!!\n\nSO LEARN FROM THIS OKAY. IF A GIRL EVER ASKS YOU AGAIN, DO YOU THINK THAT CHICK IS HOT?  WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO SAY?  THAT'S RIGHT, YOU'RE GONNA LIE THRU YOUR TEETH AND MAKE HER FEEL BEAUTIFUL BY SAYING YOU ONLY HAVE EYES FOR HER.  SEE I'M ON YOUR SIDE, CUZ IT'S NOT LIKE YOU WERE DISRESPECTING HER BY LOOKING AT OTHER HOT CHICKS WHILE IN HER PRESENCE.  THEN I'D BE PISSED AT YOU FOR BEING AN A$$! WELL WHATCHA GONNA DO, SOME WOMEN ARE JUST SCREWED UP ALREADY.  SO YOU JUST MOVE ON AND REMEMBER MY ADVICE BUDDY.\n\nTAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND GOOD LUCK FINDING A CHICK WHO DOESN'T HAVE SO MANY ISSUES.
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how long have you known this person?  i'm assuming you're not in any sort of relationship with her.  i would wait until the both of you have established some sort of relationship.  but i think it's really very sweet if you told her that after some time, just not immediately or she may think you're being very desperate or stalkerish.  most all girls want to hear that sort of commitment though!
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Okay here we go, i totally agree with you on this one. If you arnt into the head games just go for what you want which is Sex! Thats awesome thats your not a bad guy and you will treat her with respect. Because Prostitution is a very stressful job, this i know! HeHe And remember always use protection if you have any thing more just IM me! Be Safe and Have Fun!
78714
i think you should make a pass at her just to see her reaction. shes playing head games with you, fight back. you have every right to like whatever sex you like, thats not her choice...dont take that from her.
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If you're serious, dont, no matter how much you loved this girl, she is definatly not worth your life,  There are plenty more girls out there, girls that you deserve and that deserve you.  Seriously, you'l find someone else, i thought i wouldnt but i did....\n\n\n\n\nIf your not serious, and this is a joke, well then you are just plain sick....
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Beats me but here's what works...guarenteed. The more you pretend to not like sex the more she'll want to have sex. See if you give her the impression  that you don't want to have sex with her she'll think she's undesirable and there's something wrong with her. So she'll need to prove to herself that she's desirable. Got it?
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She obviously didn't want to be just friends since she tried to sleep with you.  She only said that because your saying no sex until marriage.  She obviously cant go until marriage before she has sex again.  I would assume she's hoping you will change your mind.
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I think she is really enjoying your flirtations (is that a word?) I would keep it up and just try to spend more time with her. If she continues to respond positively, then she probably wants more. Just enjoy it! Don't stress it, it takes the fun out of it. :)
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No No No this ain't gon play.\n If you really care.  I mean if you really, really care, then acquaint yourself with some of the many many books on the subject and spend some time discovering tthe complexities of making love. Don;t just tke the easy way ou by asking somebody else who has not necessarily got the word on anything but their own possibly narrow experience.\nTake your time and learn the ways of love, Just like you need to with the one you are with. While making love to her,Slow loving attention and showing your appreciation for things that you find particularly attractive and unique about her asking her to let you know what you are doing that she especially likes or would like from you.--all these thing go a long way toward memorable,  mutually satisfying sexual relations.\n  Be attentive to her talk, her clothes, hair, perfume,  her style, her preferences, her needs OUTSIDE the bedroom and all the rest of the time. That's when she learns to regard you as a truly big man. and she develops a stronger longing to be close with you. Follow my advise, make those little efforts throughout the week,  and you wont be sorry when THAT TIME comes. Because love-making begins long before you lie together and if it doesn't, you won't be lying together long if at all.  Believe me .
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Well if she used sex to "get you"....then it must have been pretty good, right?  Just try to re-kindle that.  You know it's in there somewhere, don't let her stop just because you're together now, you still have to make eachother happy and satisfied.  Don't cheat just yet.  Tell her you want her, and you miss the sex...compliment her and build her up a little..she'll be turned on before you know it.
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Yes, trust me it's not funny it's very serious if you have i suggest you report it to the police or seek help. if you don't it might affect you in future relationships.