should i put full trust in my boyfriend when he promised me he would respect my virginity?
336727
If by trust him you mean he will be the one who has to stop when your overly excited right?  Well I've been with my girl for 3 years, and we've never had sex, and we're both virgins.  I wouldn't have been able to do that w/o her help, and she wouldn't have made it either w/o mine.  Its not going to be just on him kiddo.  Your part of the picture too..\nYou guys are shaping a beautiful relationship by waiting...
946859
if u really love him then trust him\nhe may feeding her as a friend it doesnt mean all the time intimate lovers\njust trust him and show him that u love him from ur full heart \nthen he will find u as a wonderful girl trust him
230746
The way I see it is this...\n\nRemaining a virgin is like presenting your bride/groom with a box and saying... This is a part of me I have NEVER shared with anyone in my life.  I have kept it for that one true love of my life.  Many times I have had oppertunity to share it with someone I cared for but I have never trused someone so completely before or wanted to share this gift before as I do with you.  This is my gift to you and only you for the rest of my life.  A part of me that will only be for you.  My love, my husband/wife.\n\nTo me virginity is a treasure to be guarded carefully until just the right time with just the right person.  And I believe that gift should only be shared once a  vow has been made of true love for a lifetime with God's blessing.  Then and only then can God truely bless the union to the extent he intends.\n\nCall me corny and oldfashioned but it has been a glue that has kept this marriage together for 24 yrs.\n\nKathy
789090
The next time your boyfriend brings up sex let him know that you are a virgin. Make sure he knows that you aren't ready yet and it makes you uncomfortable when he is constantly bringing sex up. Tell him that when you are ready to have sex you'll let him know. If he really cares about you, he'll understand. If he doesn't, then you know he was only with you because he wanted to have sex with you.
1062268
oh please, this is a man talking more crap...does it mean you'll be together forever, no of course not, it doesn't mean that he doesn't have good intentions at the time he's saying it but you can't possibly be this naive?? can you? there is no way to ensure that you won't be hurt in any relationship, you just have to have confidence that you can handle it, if you don't your insecurities will definitely drive the relationship right into a deep ditch. its likely that is where you are headed if you are obsessing to this extent over something he said....what was the situation when he said it  (you weren't by any chance having sex were you?) i think you need to focus on finding some inner strength in yourself and a life of your own, a relationship should be a pleasant addition to the life you are building...not the entire thing, you will always lose if thats what you are doing. never invest more than you have to lose. if you get your life together and are able to support yourself and develop some confidence in yourself then you will know that you'll be ok whether he actually stays around or not.
1114264
Does he think you’re a virgin? I think you should tell he just what you told all of us. If he really loves you this should not be the determining factor to whether or not the two of you’ll get married. He really should be understanding about this small “oversight”.
70542
I have a girlfriend, and I've felt like "jumping" (lol) someone before because they're being a pain and flirting with my gf or whatever... Anyways, from personal experience I would say he DOES trust you... But that guy's intruding into your relationship so he has to "protect" that... It's kinda hard to explain but I think he does trust you, it's just natural to get jealous and want to do something about it... (not that I recommend he jumps this guy lol)
508460
it depends on what your reason for being a virgin is.  if you are saving it for the ONE then keep him at arms length until you think he is the ONE.  if virginity doesnt matter to you then I'd evaluate if he's really the kind of guy youd want to lost it to, keep in mind its an emotional experience and lots of guys can be dicks.  i personally waited for my husband and its the best decision i ever made. and dont forget to make him wear a condom, you dont want to get cooties your first time!
863527
Definetely tell him if you aren't ready. If he pressures you when you don't feel ready, you might want to re-evaluate your relationship with him. If he's a real gentleman, he'll realize that you're worth the wait and not force you to do anything.\n\nAs for the fact that you lied, it would be a bigger deal if you had lied about being a virgin when you weren't. But, since that's not the case he shouldn't be too mad, and if he is, he is overreacting. \n\nGood job on sticking to your morals and not having sex whenever, wherever, you should be proud of yourself and don't let others eat away at your self-esteem. Doing something just because everyone else does it is rarely a good reason for anything. \n\nPeace and good luck!
854309
HELLO?!  If you lost your virginity to him, then he should rightfully be yours.  Losing one's virginity is a mark that you belong to him, and vice versa.  If she knows that you two have already "marked" each other, then she should know to stay away.
265553
Hey I'm a virgin too and had to go through the same thing as you. Just be open with him, tell him you're not ready. Don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do. Although in todays society people act like their virginity is nothing special, it really is. If you wait until you're married or truly in love sex will be a whole lot more meanigful. If he still pressures you to have sex, stop dating him. He isn't worth losing your virginity over.
619540
He will respect you and he will always be there for you when u  need him. He wouldnt worry you with sex at all. It is best to seek God's Guidance in every relationsip.
34946
It's you and that's a good thing. Your virginity is sacred and you don't want to give that to just anyone. Keep it for as long as YOU want to. Don't feel pressure to lose it and give it up because you think that's what everyone else is doing. Believe it or not, they aren't. Don't worry about still being a virgin. Just live your life and enjoy being a kid/teenager/adult (since I don't know your age). I hope this helps! :)
222424
I think you are mature and caring, and kudos to you for not taking this guy's virginity before breaking up with him.  (Would that more guys would act this way toward their girlfriends!)  Good for you, also, for knowing that you are not ready to make this commitment.\n\nIt's good to be honest with him and share your concerns about racism, about your need for security, and so forth.  Of course he'll be heartbroken, but now it's up to him to deal with it, and I hope he deals with it well.  I also hope someday he'll become strong enough to stand up to his family and pair up with whichever girl or woman he wishes, regardless of race.  I hope that when you are ready to marry, that your man's family will love you too, but if they don't, that he'll be strong enough to ignore his family's wishes and stand beside you, and you'll stand beside him.\n\nDo you know the song "Society's Child"?
310650
it depends on you if we are together and u are acting like a slut. then for get it, but if change and show that i can trust you then for get about your past. Remember trust is the only thing that keeps people close to you when you lose that is never the same.
1137368
Never lie! It's not a good way to start a relationship. The man will respect her more if he knows shes untouched! Not only that, she should be proud to be a virgin!!!
750973
being a virgin is great beth am glad to hear that am a virgin to and yes guys love them.  its good to be that way only give yourself to your husband and nobody else cause once you give it away thats it. far as scaring guys off i don't know but in my personal oppion being that way and you lose it to some radom guy is ver disturbing reason why is because you do fine somebody you love very much and he is a virgin and you know he is going to marry you when you both get married you can't give your first to your husband and i think that he really deserves to be your first keep up the good work beth