If soldiers of another country kill your brother, how can you make peace with them?
340703
My brother was a US Marine killed by an Assyrian "Iraqi Insurgent".  I know that the man who killed my brother was killed about 20 seconds later.  I will never forgive the man who shot my brother.  I hold no ill-will against that persons family, religion,  nor his country.  If your brother was a soldier like mine was, then you know that he knew the risks going in.  You must accept that your brother made a decision as a man.
815763
Give it a few years. Your brother is very aggrivating right now but after a few years, perhaps you will be the best of friends.
1182221
What would you suggest we do don't touch the Murdering fuckers. Just do the same to the next Bastard that causes so much death and Misery to so many.
627686
I would approach them and simply say you understand that you don't know them very well, but you wanted to tell them how sorry you are for their loss.  You ask them if there is anything you could do for them.  Take them a meal.  Attend the funeral service (Especially if you live in a state where that "church" has been going to protest at military funerals, saying they deserve to die since they are defending a country that harbors homosexuals.  They are disturbing the funerals, and that is VERY hard on the families, so any people there in support of the family and their grief helps as a buffer from these people.)  If you and your other neighbors have flags in your yard, you could consider asking them all to consider flying their flags at half mast between now and the funeral.  (The proper way to to this is to run it all the way up, then lower it to half.  When you bring it in, run it all the way up again, then lower it.  If it's on a house mounted pole, you adjust the angle of the pole until it's straight out, but do not lower it below that.)\n\nYou let them know you are there if they want to talk about it, and you DO NOT discuss the politics of the war, whether they should all come home, or whether he died for a good cause, how horrible the Pres. is, how you hope he took a few of those "so and so's" with him, or anything like that.  \n\nMilitary families are just like any other - some feel one way, and some feel the other, and unless you know without a doubt their views on the subject, words that were meant to be supportive can end up causing more pain.  Right now, to them, it's not a Soldier, Marine, Sailor, or Airman who was killed.  It's their son, the little boy they raised, who is dead.  Too often people who mean well just don't see that, and it causes more grief.  \n\nIf the family wants to talk about any of that, then take your cues from them - even if you disagree with them - don't discuss opposing views, no matter how "gently" they are shared.  \n\nI'm sorry if some of this sounds offensive, or like it implies you would do this, but you would be surprised at just how many people DO make comments along those lines, without any idea of how painful they can be to the families.\n\nIn short, avoid the politics, and give them the same support and sympathy you would if their child had been killed in any other way.
1049488
Just try to get on with him as best as possible. At least it wont be long till he goes home, then you will get peace.
174307
You should ask the family of the people he murdered, see what they have to say about it
321499
Give him time and space to get over what you told him.\nI'm sure that one day he will return .. as the brother you've always known him to be.
1044297
Well Well. \nLooks like your in for a hefty pay cut for your Anti-US Military Propaganda Machine.\nI am surprised that you have not asked everyone to say a little prayer for your departed friend.\nNo the war unfortunately will not be over in a few Months. But with his kind out of the headlines.\nHopefully it should make things a little easier.\nThe US Military got one, I hope they get the rest of them soon.\nI am just worried about how you are dealing with the loss. \nHave a Nice day.
661689
Not telling my brother how much I loved him before he was killed
853931
Kill him\n\n1. It will show terrorists that we and Iraq are serious about what we are doing. \n\n2. He is a killer.\n\n3. He must never walk the Earth again.\n\n4. You point about martyrdom is false.  You are showing that pacificism does not work.  We must deal with killers with violence.  When you have a bully, beat the jeepers out of him and he will go away.  \n\nTHE MAIN REASON WHY WE HAVE SO MUCH TERRORISM PROBLEMS IS WE DO NOT RESORT TO VIOLENCE.  WE ARE TOO SOFT ON PEOPLE WHO WANT TO KILL US.  WE DID NOT LEARN THE LESSONS FROM WW2: IGNORING EVIL ONLY MAKES IT HARDER TO GET RID OF LATER.
1157335
They have to be stopped, peace or not, before they bring it here again!\nI do not want that here!  Try to help them... OVER THERE!
159269
"Peace be unto you, brother." ... Then they might lament what thier followers have said and done.
470786
Everybody hates their brother.  Even people that love their brother hate their brother.  It seems to be a brother's job to treat the other brother like crap.  It's not fair, it sucks and there's not much you can do about it except suck it up for now.\n\nGood news, though - when you get older everything changes.  Brothers become best friends.  All the crap he did to you will revert into funny memories and the bond you have will be strong and good until the day you die.\n\nMeanwhile, try itching powder in his boxers ;o)
144596
You get rid of your enemies by making them your friends. Forgiveness is the best way to disarm even the strongest, toughest, most dangerous enemy.
389336
If you killed someone with a reason, and if you can defined that reason for killing some one in some state you will be forgiven. But here is question can you live with that? That deepens of what person you are. Someone can kill and live and be very positive towards life, someone can kill and make suicide after that killing. In some society you will pass in family of killed person and change him in that family. In someone society they will kill you and hole your man in family.  You cannot make killing to be better just to be redeemed.
194248
The question answers it well. Make your enemy your friend. Lowering yourself to the level of taking a life proves very little. \n\nIf, as in military conflict, you have a 'kill or be killed' decision, then kill.\n\nBefore it escalates to such petty options, the best choice is definitely to make allies of your enemies. The best result for all parties is trade and negotiation. War, hatred and fighting bring about little. The winner may lose, the loser, definitely loses.\n\nCheers, L
284851
Thats what happens when someone in another country trys to kill americans.