My mom wants to meet my friend but i dont think she will like my friend. what should i  do?
353687
How about *shock horror* being honest with your mom. i think you will find that a) she will be happier to know the truth about your friend. B) it will encorage her to trust you and c) your mom is gonna worry about you whether your friend smokes or not, give your mom the oppertunity to make up her own descions about your friend. Explain how you feel about smoking and maybe even try to encorage your friend to stop.
418995
I think if you are good friends with the mom you should ask her or if you and your bf are close and you don't think he would lie to you ask him. Look forward to hearing from you.
644546
She's still your mom, right? If she's being too affectionate with someone in front of you and making you feel uncomfortable, tell her. I'd tell you the same if she were dating men. Talk to her about what you need and how you feel. Just don't try to change her because she's a grown woman who can think for herself.
243116
I've been in this situation a few times. No matter what you do or don't do your BF's mom will think you're not right for him...at first. Give her time to get to know you better. Once she realizes how much he likes you and that your not out to break his heart she'll back off. Try asking you BF to talk to him mom.
293552
use this time as time for dude to get close wit your moms. just enjoy yourself. just cuz ur moms is comin that dont mean you cant do you you dig. keep ur head up its not that bad.
548344
My friend is in the same situation as you are except she has college as an excuse.  In her case she is positive that the guy is what he says he is and she chose her college based on where he lives.  Keep in mind they've talked for at least 3 years online and by phone.  I'm still uneasy about letting her go there alone to see him for the first time up close and in the flesh.  You might want to consider holding off ur visit until u truly know who he is.  If u are insistent about going, then maybe you could ask a close friend to go with u as a precaution.  As for your mom, I would describe him as sort of a pen pal.
613201
My mother never liked my boyfriend and unfortunately I do not speak to her now and she doesn't know that I am married to that boyfriend. I'm not suggesting that this will happen to you but I think that you should be firm and stick by your husband because your mother has to stop dictating your life when you reach a certain age.\nMothers always believe that they know best but I am very happy - my mother was proved wrong so you should have faith in your own feelings.
50861
First you have to tell your friend that you would really appreciate it if they dont ever bring over the person you dont like. And tell your friend why you don't like them and the reasons, so they can understand your point of view. ok
774864
try to get along with her. i know it is difficult but your mom is always going to be your mom. unless your health and safety is in compromise work things out
794564
just tell her to meet you at a park and then see if she comes and then bring her to yor house and seee if he knows her or not, sorry and good luck with your son.
335798
well hon I'd say mom is just a bit leery of her little boy dating someone. Most moms are not gonna be overly excited about the prospects of their baby dating seriously.  Try a couple of different things, find out what she is really interested in and try to conversate with her about these things, show an interest in her and not just her son and maybe she will take to you on that point. And finally dress conservatively, if she gets the wrong impression of you by the way you dress then she's not likely to accept you at all.  You could also try talking to her about it, see what her comfort levels are, my MIL is really quiet by nature so it's not me necessarily it's just she isn't comfy talking period.
584924
You can try a small get-together or a family reunion or a family Picnic. When you meet your daughter, tell her about your revelations and dont say anything that might seem as though you may be pointing something in her. dont compare her with the other daughter with who you get along well (as that may unknowning to you be considered a threat to the her.) \nI advise this to my mom whenever I get a chance to talk to her. We are 3 sisters and she cant get through to the middle one but with me she is fine, and many times she unintentionally compares her to me. presently She has stopped doing that and her relation with my sis has improved. \nBest of luck though, be friends! they are pretty grown up with their own family and somewhere in their heatrs they look for a friend in  parents
355997
my mom didnt like my bf but im with him anyway. she will either grow to like him or not. whatever you do, dont run away to be with him. that could totally mess up your life. just stick it out and see what happens.
990934
THERE ISN'T ANYTHING WRONG WITH KEEPING IN TOUCH WITH UR X'S MOTHER , AFTER ALL IT IS HER MOTHER NOT HER OR HIM , IF U WERE CLOSE THEN MAYBE SHE FEELS LIKE YOU R A PART OF HER FAMILY , LIKE A SON OR DAUGHTER . IT HAPPENS MORE THAN U THINK .
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i was terrified when i met my boyfriends mom. but it didn't go all that badly. just don't cling to him or let him be all over you right in front of his mom. be nice and polite to her, make sure she know's that you really like her son, and don't do anything stupid. but honestly, be yourself too. don't be too nervous, and good luck!!
596628
Would this mother figure want you to go to great expense and trouble to visit her? If not, then do not attend her funeral. If your presence will not be missed by her family members, think about having a private remembrance time of your own (where you are) during her funeral. Your heart grieves for your loss and sometimes seeing the body you have loved one more time provides closure, but sometimes it deepens your sense of loss. \n\nIf you still feel compelled to attend, explain to your forever friend that you were tied to this woman in a way you were not tied to his parents. You were repaying a long-owed debt of love and loyalty to this woman.\n\nI'm sorry for your loss. I have dear ladies in my life and cannot fathom your pain.
61013
First let me say WOW! First your mom should know that you love her and that you always will. You should be totally honest and let her know how you feel. You are her daughter and blood is thicker than water. Her boyfrind can leave her tomorrow but you will always be her daughter. Your mom has to find to courage to tell this "douche bag" to take a hike. all you can do is support your mom and be there for her. you are a good daughter and you deserve a hug