I have been hiding a secret from my longtime boyfriend, I am  bi-curious, how can I tell him?
339396
whats the secret? it depend on that
268575
your probably not guy your just bisexual  mebay u are guy who ami to say since i dont know you   personaly i'd wiat to tell ur fionce she might flip out and  this couldturn out to be a stage in ur life that caused u to ruine ur relationship   look into ur sexuality still mebey u can go to a gay bar or something  just keep it on the dl for a min.\ngood luck
912894
If you feel it comprises a big part of your identity, then yes.  If he may have a problem with it (religious, moral, etc.), then yes.  If you think you may have difficulty with monogamy or want to engage both sexes at the same time, have a girlfriend on the side, of try a threesome with him, then yes.  Basically, ask yourself if the information will make a difference in your relationship and how he relates to you, and if it does, you should tell.\n\nOtherwise, no, you don't have to, but I encourage it- I think couples should share everything about themselves.  Just be clear you're telling him so he knows, not because you want to get freaky with him and a girl, etc. (unless that's true . . .).
276699
Sit him down and tell him seriously.  Don't listen to these clowns and make it sound like you're on the bi bandwagon and cheap and sleazy.  Chances are he'll be into it, but if you tell him gently there'll be less a chance of him being shocked and feeling slighted.  AFTER you've told him gently and the two of you have talked about it like mature adults then y'all can have fun.  Good luck!
51615
PLEASE! For the sake of embarrassment, DON'T ASK HIM!! If he's still in the closet, he'll only get angry, and you'll lose any chance of ever finding out. Instead of asking him, just put yourself out there if you are comfortable with your bisexuality. Do you have any close friends at work who may be friends with him also? They may be able to find out in some mysterious way. My best friend is a gay male, and he just recently came out over the summer of 2005. He's going through the same thing right now. It's tough, but hang in there. You just need to build your confidence, and the rest will come! Best of luck!
935538
a closet straight?  he told you he is bi but more gay than straight.  what's the problem?  you want every person in the world to know he is bisexual in the hopes that no one will sleep with him except you...you sound very immature and jealous/obsessive.
425808
there is only one way, talk to HIM yourself and he'll answer your question, HE doesn't want to be a secret to anyone.  That's why HE has already sent ways to prove HE loves you.  I'm not goint to tell you which ways because the proof is when you ask and HE leads you to the truth, then you'll know for sure.
66993
what heterosexual identifying people don't realize is, if you ae asking this question, you are not straight...\n\nbut that's really no big deal.\n\nif you love your husband and your relationship is working, you can enjoy learning this new thing about yourself without messing up a good thing.\n\nif you guys have a good friendship, you could probably let him in on your little secret.  you might be surprised at how fun scoping together can be.\n\nstill, remember that loving relationships are so much more than sexual.  if you love yourself and you don't fear what's inside of you, you won't feel the urge to betray the one you love!
118364
I'd say...he's confused.  Chances are he's gay/bi and not wanting to admit it to himself yet.  You are a guilty pleasure to him that he doesn't want to admit or confess to.  In his heart, he's hoping the feelings will just go away, but when you are together, he can't stop them.  Go slow and give him time and space.  Let him figure things out on his own.  And protect your own heart too.  Don't get hurt in all of this if you can help it.
356562
I think you still need to be patient here.  It may be something traumatic, hurtful, or embarrassing that he just doesn't want to tell you right now. When he trusts you it'll come up.\n\nIf you really insist on knowing, you could probably find out from one of his friends. But be careful because he could easily (and rightfully) perceive that you are prying into his personal life. Men don't like that any more than women do.
920448
Just be honest with him and tell him that if and when you are interested in dating someone other than your boyfriend that you will tell him. And if he keeps asking it is making it less and less likely that if and when that time comes that you will not be asking him.
831734
Found out?  As if anyone could keep a secret from themselves?  You may find out what gay is, but I seriously you doubt one could suddenly discover they are gay.  The only epiphany to be had is knowing what to call it - most know already.\n\nPart of me wanted to be a smart aleck and answer that I would beg myself not to tell my husband, but I resisted!  ;-)
935206
its a secret.. I can't share
347075
lol, well, i'm a very straight foward person, so i would wait until he asked me what i want, then tell him.... or... get one of your best girlfriends to drop the hint for ya. Just go with your instincts
118425
Ah, dumb move on your part, I'd say.\n\nHe's going to find out. \n\nYou can be honest and tell him, or somebody else will.\n\nYou have a real problem here.\n\nlol lol lol  Give tompj64us best answer, PLEASE!!
720807
A relationship, regardless of gender, is a commitment between TWO people. If your commitment is not with your b/f, then you may have to look at the fact that it may not last. If he isn't giving you the attention he used to, before that threesome, is that attention going elsewhere? You may find that your hiding in the closet has left you blinded to other things that may very well be going on right in front of you. If you are wanting to be bi-sexual, or pursue the female-female relationship angle, you may find that the closet is more to your preference. Not saying that you are a lesbian, but an emotional tie has the same impact, regardless of gender. You can love somebody, and still not be IN love with them. Have your feelings towards your b/f changed since the threesome? Do you find yourself wanting to investigate that aspect of sex more now? Being confused is not always a bad thing, as you tend to grow up as you figure the different aspects out for yourself. The main question you really need to answer is, what is it that YOU want most..... and how hard are you willing to fight for it? If it's the b/f, talk to him openly, and let him know that you are wanting more physical contact with him, and that you miss the intimacy that you once had. See what happens. Good luck!!
212604
definitely tell him. age is just a number, and i really don't see why women like to hide it. i have no problem telling how old i am!