have you ever been soo afraid to get hurt again that you just gave up even trying?
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I know it is hard, but you just can't give up on love. It is not good for you. Love brings happiness. I know that it can be scary but that is just half the fun of it, right.
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Hopelessness. I don't ever give up. It freaks me out when I meet people that have given up on life beause they don't think they can make things better.
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I tried to "keep" someone in my life ....not once but twice.....If you have to try and feel like your at the 75 yard line in enemy territory and playing against yourself....you HAVE to let go and move on.....
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I think that is according to the Aztec calendar. I used to be scared of this but now I'm not. I think the reason I'm not scared anymore is because I know there is something after this for me. The fear of being killed or hurt doesn't scare me anymore because it would be fleeting, so quick. Think of how fast your life has been so far. Can you really remember the exact feeling of any pain you suffered in any injury you might have had in the past? I have had two children and I don't remember the pain like it was then. I know you are probably afraid but try and think of what your next adventure will be and how exciting it will be for you after this plane. Kind of like going on a vacation.
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nope - gotta fix itself over time - very sore i bet ! would give ya a hug but scared to hurt ya!!
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I have had it happen to me a couple of times.\n\nThe most memorable was when I was 17, staying home alone from work with a flu and really bad fever. I knew I was in trouble, and got up from the couch to go to the bathroom to get a wet washcloth to cool my forehead, and the Tylenol to take. Halfway there, I looked down, and thought, "well, I'm going to have trouble getting this stuff if I don't have real hands." I then realized I couldn't see my hands or feet, turned around, and still saw myself lying on the couch while I was standing in the middle of the living room. I knew at that point that I had a choice. I looked out the door, and back at my body. I thought about my situation, and enjoyed looking around, guiding my floating a bit through thought, and having rather deep thoughts about how fun death seemed. But then I thought "What about Mom? I can't do this to my family....and there's other stuff for me to do first." After a few seconds, I decided to go back, even though being out-of-body certainly seemed fun. I just wasn't ready not to be alive. As soon as I made the decision, I took a few steps toward my body, and then "snapped" back and was inside. I was not breathing and my heart wasn't beating, and it was the most awful feeling I've ever experienced. I sent a powerful thought to my heart "Beat, d--- you!!!" and after a couple more seconds it finally went "lub..... dub....lub..dub...lubdub...." The second most awful thing was that my chest wasn't reflexively breathing by then...I then had to force that first breath. Anoxia is agonizing. The muscles didn't want to move at first, and then finally they did, and the air seared my lungs. After thrashing around for a bit until the pain reduced, I got up WITH my body and got the Tylenol and the wet washcloth. I took my temperature.... 104! I took three Tylenol instead of two, and forced myself into a cool water bath..brrrrrr.\n\nI've had other OBE's, but that one is the easiest to describe, and the only one during serious illness (which is more easy for those who have not experienced one to relate to). I found that it generally takes serious stress to the body for it to happen for me (anaphylaxic allergic reactions to various medications or ant stings, long-term severe anxiety due to life crises, etc.), and I don't seek out the experience...it is too dangerous as I still want to live (I'm a mom, teacher, and just have too much going on to leave it now). \n\nOn the other hand, having this and the other OBE's has resulted in my NOT fearing death. I hate and am terrified of pain... but death? I don't WANT to die...but I also am not afraid of it. Just like I don't want to spend so much on gas...but I'm not afraid of the gas pump...lol!\n\nIt also has brought me into a deeper relationship with G-d. I have no question that G-d exists (things that happened in other OBE's that I can't describe here...too personal), and I feel nothing but love and awe for the Creator. I am Jewish, but I also am fully aware of all our different faiths as just different ways for us to "look" at the same thing given our physical and mental limitations. I enjoy the philosophy, particular view of G-d, and rituals of Judaism, not to mention that it is my family's heritage. However, the religion itself is not important except to building your spiritual comfort, sense of community in G-d, and a framework for personal reflection...the relationships between your heart and G-d, and your deeds and your fellow humans, are what are important when everything is said and done.
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Yes I have and probably will again, being only human. It usually happens after I've done something that makes me feel like a complete fool everytime I think about it! Whatever has happened to you probably isn't as bad as you think it is right now and you'll live through it one way or another, Talk to pinkstealth there. She looks like she's got her ears on and waiting for you.
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yes there are women like you... lots of them... are you afraid of taking risks because you were hurt in the past? i know it might kinda hurt you again if you try to change but wounds wouldn't heal if you don't try to find solutions to your problems, yes, starting again is such a hassle but just try to think positive... don't just let yourself be bound by old memories... be strong... move on and face the world... God bless! :)
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Hi Raiden,  well..you are going to get alot different ways to look at your situation.  You sound like an honest, straight-forward kind of guy that has had to deal with alot in 18 years.  My heart goes out to you and if I had the answers I would tell you..but if I told you they would only be the "answers" for myself.  You are the only one that holds all the answers for what is right for you.  As frustrating as that may sound to you it is actually good news.  You don't have to follow any one elses path.  This life is your journey and you are not asking too much out of it.  Sometimes the only thing that holds us back is our own fears...fear of getting hurt, fear of rejection, fear of judgment, fear of failure... I want you to try something for me.  ask yourself what you would do today if you weren't afraid.  Don't push yourself into anything just think about it.  When you are ready you will know it.  There is nothing wrong with you.  You weren't put on this earth to suffer you were put here to discover.  And if you believe nothing else...please believe me that how you feel about yourself and life today will be different with each passing day.
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Mentally, I say 'NO' stoutly. Physically, I'd give him/her one more chance unconsciously. Nevertheless, I know the result for sure that same story would be taken place again. Briefly, if you think you could be strong enough to bear hurt again, then just try. Otherwise, forget it.
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no sorry but I heard it hurts really bad. Right now I am taking a first aid class so we are lerning about that.
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Unfortunately I have.  I've regretted it ever since :(
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It hurts most because you've been rejected and it drains your confidence.  You begin to wonder what the heck is wrong with you......when in fact, it isn't about you but the person who walked away.\n\nIt's the first time you've experienced these wonderful feelings for another person and shared them - so of course all the good sticks in your mind to replay and keep you feeling bad.  \n\nThe best thing is to find another love.  The world is full of people needing and wanting love....look for them and try again.
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you will fall. when at first u don't succeed, try try again
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the only one that has to accept you--is YOU!!  remember, carpi deium! sieze the day!  besides what is the worst that can happen?  I used to be shy myself, now I get out there and try, come to think of it, I would not have my wonderful kids if I stayed shy\nalso, (just a thought)\nfind a councelor or confidaunt to talk out these feeling with and help you release the fears burned into your mind.  I have PTSD from sevier abuse as a teen,  I know what it is like to suffer a trama that scars the mind as well as the body, and I see my councelor regularly.  there is no shame in such things.
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i'm sorry sweety but you can't repair it. you just have to move on. i know how you feel. i've been borken hearted and i'm fine now. you'll be fine.
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Don't give up...cause once you find it the joy and pleasure of being in love is far stronger than the pain you feel right now.  Just take a break and try again.\n\nGood Luck and God speed.