how do guys get their feelings hurt?
352069
If you want to hurt a guy verbally, I would say insult his family, insult his private, and insult his favorite music band. Basically speaking, diss on everything he likes
643304
It really depends..and someone is always bound to get hurt because its emotional, and then what...you're just friends?\n\nP.S. Its really demeaning to women...makes us feel like hollaback girls or just plain whores.\n\nDon't do it, man, its the lazy way out.
454751
U want to pretend its not hurting u? Smiling when peoples are around? Talking like they are not hurting u in some ways? Well, thats kinda hard thing.. I always do that when I don't want them to think that I am week, I am not good enough in some situations, that I am no longer on standing on my feet...\n\nits difficult.. but u can smile to them, talk and act naturally like ordinary day.. no hurt.. no pain.. just hold ur anger.. the pain.. the hurt.. take deep breath while doing that... think ur smart, ur stronger than u know, ur free, its not hurting u, its okay.. everyhting is fine.. think about that..\n\nafter that u will feel "yes, I did it" but after a while.. u will feel empty.. sad.. lonely.. \n\nwhat i am trying to tell u is.. be urself... express what u feel.. think good.. always do the right thing..\n\ngood luck!
167484
I guess just think about how you would want someone break it to you. Just don't lead him on because that hurts more in the end. In the end if you're having trouble doing it realize that you have to think about your own feelings and not just his.
511609
Kt, I am a 23 yr old male, and let me say that if some guy gets upset at you, because they have to wait, then, they are not for you. They need to understand that its just about them, but about what you want/feel as well. \n\nYou just need to find someone who wouldnt get upset at you for waiting 4-6 months. Hope this helps.
376055
Keep those feelings bottled up inside and you will explode.\n\nRelease the feelings and you may look an idiot and hurt people.\n\nSo either way you're screwed, so who do you hurt?\nYou?\nHer?\n\nWhat's the RIGHT thing to do?\nPersonally, I'd ask the Lord.\n\nIf he didn't answer, I'd take a day off work, drink myself into a frenzy, ring her up and see what happens.\n\nYou've got to make life interesting.
931580
Guys will do that to puff their pride up.\n\nRemember this rule:\n\n1. People only talk shit becuase they are still bitter and you still effect them. If you didnt effect them, they wouldnt even bother talking about you.\n\nI would ignore his loser ass and talk to other guys around him just to make him angry. Who cares what he thinks, right? He certainly is doing that to you.
383955
Not all men are great at xpressing their feelings.  It is part of bein a man sometimes.  You can ask for his opinions on things and gear how he feels about that, but don't try to force it out of him.  Eventually he will come around, but give it time, especially becuz you know the feelings ARE there.
403612
B/c guys are taught from a very young age that it's not "masculine" to be emotional.  We are taught to hide and repress our emotions.  As a result, it can be very difficult for us to talk about them as easily as girls can b/c we're not used to it.  It takes effort and practice and we have to sometimes unlearn the bad habits we were taught growing up.  You just need to be as patient with your bf as possible.  And provide helpful insight.  Sometimes you can help him figure out what he's feeling by placing yourself in his shoes.
1157981
Don't Know, ask the guy himself. only him can really give the main reason for not showing his emotion. maybe his afraid you might break his heart or you might take him for a ride if he shows you how he really feels about you. he just scare, doesn't wanna get hurt
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they're scared.\nOf what?\ncommitment, rejection, change, opening up and being emotional... depends on the guy\n\nalso, remember that generally women are the feelers and men are the thinkers.  maybe they think some things are implicit and don't need to be said.  Or they just don't know that you want to hear it.  Communicate with them!  They're humans too!
65731
How does he talk to you.  How does he act around you when the two of you are together.  How does he act around others when you are in public.  What does your heart tell you.  Usually your gut instinct will tell you.  Pray.  Talk to him and tell him how you feel, what do you have to gain.  Being a man, it is nice that a woman can express her thoughts and feelings direct and to the point, no games.  Tell him how you feel.
495767
Emotional overload.  This often happens when the attraction toward another person is very strong.  There is no cure, no easy solution.  You need to learn to cope with this.\n\nThe easiest method is to learn to control your mind so that it does not become so scrambled whenever you feel the attraction.  This cannot be taught, but it can be learned.  Start with controlling your breathing.  Big deep breaths, in through the nose, out through the mouth.\n\nWatch your thoughts when you are near him.  Pay attention to what makes you angry.  Are you pleased when you think he likes you and mad when you think he does not?  Look for a pattern.\n\nWhen you are not with him, write about how you feel.  Do not pay attention to spelling or sentence structure, just try to get the feelings down on paper as they come to you.  Writing will help clarify your feelings and make it easier to talk to him.\n\nThe key to all relationships is communication.  If you want this one to go anywhere, you must learn to communicate with him.
800155
He may feel rejected but if you have talked about how you feel them i'm sure he won't.  Sometimes he may get frustrated with you...trust me I was in the same situation.  And each time he gets upset just remember that he is in a different situation.  Men tend to think of sex as a was of expressing their love.  One thing I did was to find other ways to express my love for him. I wrote tons of love notes and made cookies with his name on them.  This made my ex-boyfriend feel like I truly loved him.  You just need to have good communication and I am sure he will not be upset in any way. Good luck and if you need any advice just send me an email
988485
I really hate questions like this that generalize all guys into stereotypes.  Just because you have dated the wrong type of guy, don't lump the rest of us in with him.  The only comment I see which may hold water is that guys aren't as emotional as girls, & I even disagree with that to an extent.  I believe men don't express their emotions as readily as women, & that is part of our nature, but we do still feel as deeply as women.  However, most of your questions could as easily be turned around & asked about girls, as many of us men have been put through similar situations by women.  Many of us have felt lead on by girls.  Many have felt girls started something & then changed their minds, whether it was sex, dating, or even a relationship.  A lot of us have wondered why girls don't care if they hurt us.  I think all of us have wanted to know at one time or another why women can't be open & honest with us about their desires, preferring to beat around the bush & making us guess what they are thinking to prove we really love them.  I'm guessing some guy recently hurt you, but it isn't fair to vent on all of us because you got hurt by one scumbag.  You deserve better than the way you were treated, & men in general deserve better than to be lumped together with those of us who happen to be jerks.  It's akin to racism, in that you are chastising everyone in the group for the actions of a few bad apples.  So, learn from the experience, see what it is that this guy did that hurt you, decide you deserve better & settle for no less, & look for one of us who will give you what you deserve, because good men are out here.  You just have to look in the right places.
243811
Well, it is most likely impossible to do it without hurting his feelings.  The nicest way is to go out for dinner or do something special.  Be nice, and kindly tell him that it's not working out.  DON'T tell him over the phone or online. Tell him that you intend to continue being his friend, and also that you didn't want to hurt his feelings.\n\nIf you don't want to hurt his feelings, chances are there is still something you are feeling for him.  Maybe think over the relationship again and see if breaking up is the only way to deal with it.\n\nIf breaking up with him isn't the answer, talk to him about what your feeling and tell him that you want to work out your problems.  If it is meant to be, they will work out.\n\nGood Luck!
791024
Communication is the key element in all relationships. Talk to him in a non-attacking manner and tone. Start all sentences with "I feel". That always helps. The second he feels attacked, he will tune you out. That way he can only respond to how you feel and not what he may or may not be doing in your eyes. Good luck.