how can i get over the man i know is the love of my life?
341166
is this infatuation or is this really love. cause if it is, then why are you trying to get over it? does he not love you back? if the answer is no or if your not sure, then this is just infatuation. guys are dumb, but they are not that dumb when it comes to women. we just play like we are so that we avoid unwanted relationships. relationships are scary. you have to step out of your comfort zone for this person you arent even sure of. look him straight in the eye and hold his face for a whole minute and dont say a word. hell give you an answer. depending on the answer you go forward. best of luck to you
517491
I think you need a replacement or substitute for him...Be with your friends always and stay busy so that you won't think of him over and over again...Date someone in your office, neighborhood or church...Stay happy in the company of your relatives, family members, etc...maybe you still need to pray to God for on-going discernment on what is His will for you...I believe in destiny, that of billions and billions of people around the world, only one is menat for you...Just enjoy life, be productive, enjoy work and do community activities/services in your respective community...\n\nGod will give you something that you really deserve...Only God knows whats in your heart, mind and your soulmate..
1083158
Don't dwell on him, it won't help your situation and will only make things harder.  Go on with your life and you'll meet new people.  Eventually you'll meet someone that takes your mind off him and none of what you're feeling right now will exist in your mind.  And if things are truly meant to be between the two of you, one day you'll find yourselves back with each other, but it'll happen naturally.  This doesn't mean you should plan for that either.  Meet other people, time will heal.  Promise!
660109
wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
568071
The best way to get over someone is to LET IT OUT! Don't keep your feelings bottled up inside. Cry it out if have to,shout it out if you want to. Most people may tell you to divert your attention, but that will only be running away from what you feel. You can't cry over a guy all your life. You will love again. It happens all the time. And there will be someday when you will think back and just laugh at it, or if not laugh then just smile at it. For now, just accept your feelings of hurt/hatred and chill, its okay.
138916
You probably will not be over him completely until you are involved with another man.  There is, as you know, a man-shaped space inside your . . . heart . . . that you need to fill.  Choose wisely this time, and you won't have to go through this again.
236533
1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
400766
I feel the same way. My boyfriend broke up me last week and I just can get over it. They don't have an effect on it because they probably didn't love us like we love them and we gave them to much of our love. U love him and that's why u can't get over him. Try 2 be friends with him and I know that might be a hard to do.Just pray on it God will bring someone in your life that will appreciate you like u want 2 be appreciate.
1043202
You obviously cannot trust him to be anymore than a short-term and very unstable relationship... it's best to refuse to go out with him. As for how you "get over him", you can try finding someone else that you like, or you could busy yourself with other activities as a start. As for the Jazz band performance tomorrow, good luck! I know you'll do well, just practice your part and you'll be fine. Take care.\nAloha,\nDavid
1116175
hotti, i was in the same situation.  I loved him and he cheated so i broke up w/ him.  It was hard to get over and i thought that i would never get over him, but i did.  \n\nFirst, get rid of anythign and everythign that reminds you of him.  EX:  Pics, notes, letters...ect\n\nNext, now that you have your mind off of him, keep ot off and try new things.  Make sure to be having fun.  Go to a club and hang out with friends.  Party.  Then do more fun stuff like somethign you never did b4.  If you have nvr been surfing, try that.  Or try any of these:\n~skydiving\n~bunjee jumping\n~eat a lot of ice cream\n~introduce urself to a new type of music\n~go to a concert and 'Rock out!!'\n~get a journal and in a red pen write "I hate _________"  (fill his name in)  and fill the whole jorrnal.  If that dont work, use a more appropriate word, like a*s*s* , jerk, loser, or anythign else.  Be creative.\n~hang out with a million other people you dont know\n~have a night on the town with your mom or best friend.\n\nHere are some really fun things that you could do to get him mad:\n~order magazines in his name and send them to his house.  Make sure thay are girly or childish magazines\n~sneak into his house and draw all over his face with red marker\n~hang all of his underwear outside with a sign that says "A*S*S* crack undies.  Free.  Never been used.  lol (do you get it)\n~Just have fun.\n\nI hope i helped.  Dont cry over a jerk.  You will definately find a better guy who loves every part of you no matter what.
660984
everything you described i went through and more closer than i ever thought an internet relationshio could be,it ended he lives in arizona i live in australia,this was the love of my life and i lost him 7 years ago,to this day every day i think about him,never goes a day i dont think of him,it has been hard to move on to a relationship,deep down i know who my heart belongs too,it is a heart break that will never heal because when you love someone and you know that you should be with them and you cant for some small reason itnever leaves you nor do the memories,its the most hurtfull feeling in the world to loose your one true love
288855
I'm going thought the same thing right now, he actually told me that he doesn't want me to call him anymore because every time we talk we get into an argument, regardless of all the crap we went through i still love him, i don't know your situation, but honestly there is nothing that you can actually do to get over somebody that you really really love, just live your life and eventually the feelings will die out. what you can do though is just go out and mingle with other people, i find that this is very helpful, hope ive helped!
850785
You could start by reading the million other posts and responses on how to get over someone.  Most of them will tell you the same thing, the only thing that is going to make you feel better is time.  Forgiving is easy, just do it, forgetting however, is a different story.  You will never forget him or the good and bad times you shared, it's impossible without the assistance of a labotamy (sp*).  So forgive, take all the time necessary and do your best to keep your self respect and move on.
1184616
that already happened to me...its very difficult to get over this guy...specially if he always talks to you..i bet he only thinks of you as a friend, so when he comes talk to you, always smile and be nice (because someday..act like a friend...but you should try to replace him... look for some new guys and eventually kiss them...make new friends and go out with them.... be sure to always be occupied and try to think of him the least possible... each day that passes you will see that your love will decrease...
990229
You will never totally get over him, but you can move on and find somebody who deserves you and will treat you right. He will forever occupy a small place in your heart. If you accept that and just let it be there, you will eventually start to hate him less and then just remember the good times that you have shared in the past. You need to take care of yourself first. Its hard, but time will heal this wound. good luck to you.
938797
Convince yourself that you deserve better and I'm sure you do.  Look at it as his loss, not yours and move on.  You can love someone dearly and still be smart enough to know that you can't actually be with them because it's simply not good for you.  I have an ex from 15 years ago that I'll always adore, but we can't be in the same room without trying to claw each other's eyeballs out.  We've broke up 12 years ago and we have remained friends..on the phone. lol
786713
Yeah that is hard. I'm very sorry that you haven't gotten over him yet and moved on with your life.\nAt least you realize that he doesn't want you anymore. I know it even hurts to read it and I'm sorry I'm not trying to be mean. You need to recognize how short life is and that you deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with a person that will feel the same way you feel about them. Do you know what you are worth? Well then, move on with your life you are not promised tomorrow right? the sooner you realize this you will have peace in your mind body and soul. Cause i know how it is to crave for a man that you can't have I've been there. \nGood Luck  to you Hun.