why are bigger kids mean to my son?
345555
I'd be an outside mom and keep a close eye on my son and the others. If some kid spit on my son, they're parents would get a visit from me and be told I'm not putting up with it and they need to teach that kid of theirs some manners. I could care less what they thought of me...my kids come first and I fight their battles.
648529
sounds like your son is a freak. lol
658814
Your kids are right now very vulnerable, and depending on you their mother, to feed them, nurture them,and love them a lot. I have seen parents mistreat their kids even in public places and it make me so mad to see them do that. Please have a little patience with them and ask God to give you, above all a lot of self control because it takes a lot to have it with two kids so near in age to each other. Good luck and may God be with you in the months and years ahead.
244989
Although your son is large for his age, most experts recommend against heavy weight training.  His body, especially his bones are still developing.\n\nI would consult his doctor first, then speak with a certified trainer.
1121831
Well, dear, I'm the mother of 5 kids, only one is a girl, so I do know what you mean! One of the boys is now 20 and another is almost 12. The 12 yr. old behaves the way you asked about. And the now 20 yr. old did the same thing when he was that age.  My thoughts are that they act that way, cuz they aren't as mature as girls the same age are. And for some reason, they think they are cool when they act like that. Don't worry too much about it, they will mature to your level in the next few years, just ignore their crazy behavior. I think they do it for attention of both girls and the other boys their age. I always found that killing with kindness seems to be the best way of revenge... if they truly don't like you, it will drive them crazy that you're nice to them and they will eventually leave you alone.  And if they do like you and you're nice to them, you'll find out that they will listen to you and not act like an idiot when they are around you.
355777
Because they had to learn to develop their personalities. Things weren't handed to them just because they were pretty. Of course there are exceptions to this, but too often, beautiful children are spoiled. Many years ago, there was a martial art movie, and in it the main character passes by a young man and punches him in the nose, breaking it. His followers, said, "Master why did you do that to that boy? He didn't do anything to anyone." The "master" said, "He was a tyrant because no one could say no to him because they were so charmed by his looks. Now, he'll be treated like everyone else, and it will be better for him.
168357
I have a four year old boy. When he was born he weighed 11 lbs. 5 oz. His feet were the biggest newborns in town!! He now wears size 1 in little boys, not toddlers!
1076400
To harm/destroy anyone that trys to hurt my son.
1118215
Why?\nThey are both at the ages where their form will change dramatically\nthey are both growing, and the taller the child will be the leaner they will tend to be.\nOne of my sons was always quite thin (not thin as in "too" thin, but *lean*)  but has now filled out to be 6' 2. Another of my sons is growing with the identical pattern and these can tend to have more growing pains too.\nAs long as your child eats regularly and a good balanced diet then don't worry. Don't go shoving junk food down them. How we eat as children comes back and either cares for us as adults or dogs us as in illness etc...A childs diet is essential to be balanced now, for a healthy body when older.
298542
hi Karon.....  my advice......find out who the lad  is, then go up to him and  introduce yourself as such snd such's mum and  you  heard  that he liked  younger  children to play  with....suggests  that  he  goes  and plays with lads of his  own age or  you'll come and  speak to him again....speak to him in a  way thats  slightly intimidating ...dont issue direct threats as he will play on this...  but  do it in such a  way that he'll suss  what  you mean ...if  he  plays  up  with your nice chat, then invite him round to your  house where he  can play nicely ....  failing  that .....  go  and speak to  your lads teacher ( i take it this is  happening  in and around  school) and  say  you want something done  about  it.... if that doesnt work ...  make an appointment  to see the head  and ask for the schools anti bullying policy to be explained and then  explain about whats happening to your  son .. ....  if  all this  fails to  produce results  in a  couple  of  weeks ... take  it  to the local education authority .\ngood  luck
730192
First, I want to tell you that your son hitting the teacher is very wrong. I am myself a teacher and I have a students threaten me and insult me. It upsets me. I became a teacher with the desire to make a change in the life of the young people that I meet on a daily basis. \nThe teacher did not have direct physical contact with your son, therefore he didn't not touch him.  He probably tried to prevent him to get in trouble. Your son has rights under the IDEA act. There are organization in every state to help with special and legal problems. I wish you good luck. I will enclose a few links. \nSome schools will argue that a student that has ADD does not qualifies under IDEA but you can make a case that if he has a lot of anger, upset or emotional crisis he does. You need to search under IDEA and your state and advocacy. I feel that if a student hits a teacher or another student, there is definitely a cause for concern. I know that you love your son and that you want what is best for him. Don't blame the teacher because he already got hit, don't blame your son because he is filled with anger and that won't help. Search for a good therapist and work through the issues. It is not your fault, the fact that you are asking us this question means that you love him and that you care. \nGOOD LUCK!
628093
i dont know how i did it.  Children at this age are soooo mean.  Just stick by your friends they will take you along way. Good luck
664586
I think the coaches were out of line.  They thought they were motivating him, when actually they were tearing him down.  Not all children/people respond well when they are being yelled at all, not very constructive.  Their actions could cause the opposite affect they desire.  Rather than motivate, they chase them away from the sport.  There is a fine line, especially with children playing sports.  You know your little guy and what makes him respond.  If I were you I would talk with all the coaches.  Explain that you didn't raise your child with verbal assaults.  Tell them that you are concerned that they will push him away from the sport rather than help.  Let them know that you don't expect for your child to babied but nurtured.  Suggest taking him out of the game the next time he messes up, rather than verbally embarassing him.  If your son really wants to play he will do the best he can to continue playing.  Another thought would be to get the opinions of other players parents, if they agree, try as a group to discuss this with the coaches.  The only reason I suggest this is if the coaches are jerks your son could pay for your chat with the coaches.  He could be teased and degraded as being a momma's boy when your not around.  Don't act offended of the situation but as a concerned parent who wants her child to excel in the sport.    Being a sports freak myself, I feel that these days people are going overboard when it comes to sports.
56470
It's so hard to say good-bye to people because I know fo  me I was so used to haveing people care about me and then middle school began  and all that changed . You get so attacted to people and then you have to say goodbye to them . Your still 4'11 might be because of you genes or in the furtere you might have a growth sperge .
1122000
I'm not sure I am following all of this, but I do think kids are very mean today, but come on parents!  If we don't expect kind, compassionate behavior from our kids do you think they are going to magically learn it elsewhere?\n\nAs for your descriptions, I don't really believe in labels.  Most of us are pretty diverse people if you look hard enough.  Case in point - I am a 41 year old politically conservative businessman that loves to make my own beer and sing heavy metal rock and roll on a karaoke machine.  Exactly what stereotype does that fit?
536081
I was in the same situation that you are in. Mine was also 5 years of age. This child hated me. Wouldn't give me the light of day. So this is what I did. I would ignore him at first. I found out what he liked and disliked. I started to watch power rangers with him and other shows. At first he didn't like it but then he got used to me being there. I would also play cars with him. Same way with the TV show. One time I asked him if he wanted to go with me to go get some hot wheels. Now we are really close. You just got to get at the child's level. Interact with the child more. The child maybe a brat at some times but show it. Kids can see right through you. This is there way of testing you.
660540
I always worry less about being liked and more about having their respect (of course, I'm a high school teacher, it's probably very different for a KG class).  However, I think the two go hand in hand sometimes.  Be fair, show them that you genuinely care about them, and have extremely clear boundaries and rules for them.