When a couple gets divorced, does that mean that they weren't "right" for each other from the start?
339335
No it doesn't mean they were not "right" for each other.  People change over time, it is natural in all of us to become different as we grow and life changes.  So things just didn't work out after the growing up and life changes.  That doesn't mean in the beginning they weren't perfect together or madly in love with each other.  Deep down they can both remember the good times and will always have a love for each other.  Good luck to you and Take Care of yourself.
722957
Be VERY sure that it is love and not lust. I made the mistake of thinking it was love and divorced. BIGGEST, BIGGEST, mistake of my life. Now I'm married to the jerk!
882227
No, my parents were divorced.  My sister has been happily married for 7 yrs, I've been happily married for 3.  You sometimes learn from others mistakes, or at least we did.
673245
In a word YES. In theory, you both did the right thing.\nThe time to decide this may not be for you is BEFORE you walk the aisle. Working that out before the wedding was a blessing for you. Imagine what would happen if he came up with that NOW. Yes, its true that the ones you love most have the greatest ability to hurt. That it still hurts shows how invested you were then and now. Perhaps a review of attitude is in order. When he broke up he said he didn't love you but realized he was wrong. Unless he's given you cause to question his love now, remember that his hindsight (always 20/20)showed him that he does. Try to view that time as a reaffirmation that you belong together. Then the feelings will become positive. The ability to look past that kind of thing and get over it will prepare you for staying in the relationship and work it out. The more you replay that time the greater the chance those feelings will get in the way of your relationship today.
942522
Well, im divorced. While I loved my husband we had too many issues, particularly his looney family. So unless they were gone, no, i would not marry him again. But, I also would not give up the years we had together, or the beautiful son we have together, for anything.
433635
Divorce has become an easy way out of situations. I think people just don't want to take the time to work out what is wrong with their marriages. It'd just be much easier to start over. Kind of sad, huh? Of course, there are divorces that occur for very good reasons (abuse, constant adultery, ect...)\nI'm married (first time), and plan to be with my hubby until the day I die. That was the commitment and vow I made. Any problems we may have will be worked out come "Hell or high water." Divorce is not in my marriage vocabulary.
695426
When Children are involved and the marriage wasn't that terrible then there will always be some kind of feelings. But there is a reason why they aren't together and you have to remember that. \nMost couples get along better when they are no longer a couple, I know my ex-husband and I do.
1101579
If you broke up then of course it is right to leave your ex.  ?!\nIf they won't compormise then not worth sticking with that person!
957356
Rarely! that all depends ,I guess,on how the break-up occured and if you both have totally resolved whatever it was that broke you up before.Trust me, if you are still angry about something from the past,it will come back to haunt you.Also, alot of times people fall back into the same bad patterns of behavior that may have broken you up the first time..So there is really no right or wrong answer here .It's totally an individual choice!
118650
No Way!!! If they did... although I would never want to go through a divorce, that is a great reason. If you are cool with it, then that is between you and yours. If not... It is time to do some serious reevaluating of your relationship!!!
1006022
Yes, after I got divorced. Don't be jealous!
182130
If you are breaking up with them because you are absolutely, positively, 100% sure that there is no way to work things out then...you are exiting a bad situation and that is a good thing.  It's not a fun thing and it hurts like hell but if it's the right thing to do then unfortunately you just have to do it.  Then you just have to pick up the pieces and move forward.  They forgot to give some of us the manuals on Life is not going to be perfect.
1044045
It happened...  Ulitmately we got divorced...
1155186
yep when I was in a bad relationship. I ended it that day. It happens I was with the loser for 3 years. I sit back now and think What the H*ll was I thinking. Atleast you are out of the situation.
468975
If you're married, no. You knew what you were getting into. If you're not married ... ask yourself why you got into this relationship in the first place. Are you that fickle that you'll change partners on a whim. I'd say your partner would probably be better off without you.
1006768
Absolutely not but it depends on what effects you anticipate the kids having because that's all up to how you handle to breakup and divorce in the first place.  If you and your husband are constantly fighting or your constantly miserable your kids already know that are are already being affected by it.  If you can't work things out and divorce is the only option then try as best you can to let the kids know that it has nothing to do with them but you understand that the consequences of your decision will effect them and your hoping to make that as easy on them as possible.  I was lucky.  My ex and I were able to salvage the respect we'd had for each other in such a way that we do share the kids and the kids don't feel torn.  It took time but now he and I are even able to enjoy each other's company now like we'd lost the ability to before the divorce.  We're no longer lovers, or in love, but we worked hard to retain some of the friendship we shared and our kids know and appreciate that.  NUMBER 1 RULE:  At all cost try not to belittle their father in front of them.  NUMBER 2 RULE:  Don't compare them to their father when they've done something you don't approve of.  Last, if at all possible, get your husband to go with you to discuss the terms of divorce and agreements regarding the kids with a counselor or mediator rather than a lawyer.  Then when it reaches the point of going to court you can both tell your lawyers this is what we want.  Don't let them play one against the other as they are prone to do.
497588
What sort of limitation are you thinking of? Divorce can happen no matter how long since marriage.