My girlfriend will not tell her daughters father about me?
352889
Her not wanting to tell her daughters' father about you is a clear indication that she is trying to protect her relationship with him. It is possible that she may not be ready yet to diclose her affair because she is still concerned about him and of course, the children. it is quite hard to rule out what could possibly be stopping her from revealing you to him; it is also a possibility that she herself is not yet sure about her relationship with you, too. I know that it is also difficult on your part but are you really serious about her also?...And if ever he finds out about you, would you be prepared for any possbile consequences?... In this scenario, the girl is in the losing end. Either she will totally lose her husband forever or worse, he will fight to gain custody of the kids because of her infidelity. In your case, you are the guy and you won't lose anything. I suggest that you move on with your life and get somebody who is more eligible and not in a compromising situation. Let your present 'girlfriend' lead the kind of life she wants. Maybe, she too, doesn't know what to do with her life. She may be in a lot of confusion and having you in her life may just be a thing that she's only taking for granted. Better to talk things out with her and know what she feels about your relationship. Be transparent and let her know also what you feel. I do hope that you will come up with a decision regarding this. You are in a relationship where you don't have any idea where you stand. You know, parting ways with her might be the best thing you'll do for yourself and for her, too.
1177951
Leagally, he has rights to see her.  To take her from you, he has to prove you to be unfit.  That can be hard to do.  He will have to pay child support do to the fact that he is, by all rights, her father.  They could issue a paternity test since he name is not on the birth cirtificate but what I would do if I were you is find yourself a real good lawyer right now and get on the right track to securing your and your daughters future.  They would be far more knowledgable in this field and could help you more than strangers.  Everyone will have their own opinion, but it is up to you to do the right thing.
96235
What a scary question to have to ask.  If you see signs of him giving her the wrong kind of attention, listen to your instincts and pay very close attention to his behavior towards her.  I think this is one of those things people brush off, thinking it's their imagination.  I don't know how old she is, but I'd say talk to your daughter about him, see how she feels about him.  And if you haven't before, talk to her about her body and other's bodies.  You may want to talk to him too, which is obviously an awkward thing to do.  Her safety is of course number one though.  Above all, when you have such suspicions, don't ever give anyone the benefit of the doubt.
251234
Talk to her about it. If she doesn't do anything to discipline her daughter, then you are wise not to marry her. The girl would always come between the two of you.\n\nGood luck.\n\n(I think you calling her 'my stupid girlfriend' is a red flag by the way...)
722655
This might not be the best advice, but it might work. Try to find out what your girl's other man did wrong that makes her father not wanting her to date. Try to find out as much about her father as you can. Try to relate to him, be a friend. Make him like you. Since it isn't a girls heart that you have to win here, its his. Father's are very protective of their little girls, just because of the way us guys think. So pretty much, just find the right way to prove yourself worthy to her father that you deserve to  \nbe with his daughter. If that don't work, then try to have your girl influence him by informing him on how you guys feel for eachother.
206264
How about better communication?  You are with her Dad, she's probably a bit jealous.
726879
You can't tell your daughter's father to stay out of her life, because this will create a lot of drama between the two of you! It seems to me that he doesn't want to take responsibilities for his actions and doesn't want to be involved in her life! I agree with you; not only is he hurting his daughter by not being there in her life, but he's hurting himself as well. What he's doing now will be full of deep regret later on in life! If he doesn't want to be in his daughter's life, let him continue to pay child support! Besides, as your daughter grows up in the years to come, she will learn more about her father and won't show any respect for him! Good luck to you and I wish you and your daughter the best!
955460
I would talk to a lawyer.  I don't know what the situation is but I would tell the lawyer your situation.  You are the father.  Unless you have papers you have as much right.  Your children come first before any other disputes.  If it is only jealousy then they can be talked to but if there is any abuse whatsoever then  yes.  It doesn't make it any  better she will not tell the name of her boyfriend.
428185
It is a good idea that he doesn't meet her till you are both sure where your relationship is headed. You don't want to confuse your daughter. Your daughter could also become attached to him and if you both decide to end the relationship it's one less thing you have to worry about.
842764
OK you need to do what you feel is right. I think that you need to tell your current g/f a/s/a/p you don't want her finding out later from someone else. It is so nice to see you wanting to help out this woman and her child. But I do think it would be wise for you to get a paternity test done. She is the one that offered you one. I really don't know what else to tell you, except you sound like a really great guy and her and her daughter would be very lucky to have you in their lives.
906850
Well your dad obviously is one of those men who moves around a lot in life...you are right to expect more, but you may find yourself disappointed over and over in life...because now this new chick in his life will want him all to herself and she will want to be his priority.  So you are going to be in a difficult situation.\n\nYou are lucky you had this time together.  Hopefully you will have more time together.  Talk to you dad when she's not around and tell him how you feel.  Really have a heart to heart with him about your feelings...in the past and now...and what your fears are.  This way he will be aware and will sense when you are feeling this way...and hopefully find a way to smooth it all out so you can all be happy.  Don't be surprised though if this girl may sway him away from you.  She isn't much older than you and probably you are as mature if not more than she is...what's with that dad of yours anyhow!  Sheesh.  Nothing you can do about it if it he ends up with this woman but you shouldn't become enemies with her or it will be very hard and your dad may have to choose and hey...men don't always think with thier heads.  Good luck to you.
1140545
What a Dad the most important information you can give out is your opinion. But Dad have you ever thought about sitting down and having a talk with your daughter? I know it is a hard thing to do. But in the end the discussion is well worth it. Feed her brain with knowledge and trust her. If you raised her right you have no worries. I wish my dad would have talked to me earlier about that. But you know what I would not change my life lessons for the world. The choices we make today are the ones we live with.  The best thing a father could do. Is hug your daughter tell her you love her and arm her with knowledge. Hold you head high Dad you have good intentions.
975451
She is a daddy's girl, spoiled rotten, and wants to control her father, no one will never be good enough for her dad. Yes you can have a successful marriage with this man. But he has got to be a man, he does not have to let her control, who he sees, wants, or be with. She did her own thing, did he have to approve her marriage? If you make him happy, and that the two of you love each other, then he needs to do what he want. You need to ask him, if you are wasting your time, on a man, who has to have his daughters approval, on everything? Ask him, Don;t you have a right to know who you want to be with? Her father need to get her straight, once and for all, He needs to tell her, that he has been a good father to her, she did not want for nothing, now she is a married woman, it is time she stays out of his affairs, and let him live his life. Now he has to be a man. And know what he wants out of life! Now he needs to know he does not have to please her. He does not have to be upset, because she does not like you. You are not marrying her!  Honey! I wish you well!
343183
I think it's HER day and she's old enough to deal with her decision whether or not to invite him.  True, she may regret not inviting her dad - but that's for her to decide and then deal with.  She may NEVER regret it - and remember it as a special day she got to spend with YOU.  Respecting her wish will also prove to her that she is worthy of your trust and respect.  I do hope you have a "grown up" conversation with her about all of this - make her a part of the pros/cons discussion and final decision.\n\nGood Luck!
840041
Sometimes, I have wished that, but never strongly enough to want to do anything about it.  You have a daughter and that ought to be good reason to keep going, even if things are rough between the two of you at the moment.  You have to set an example for her.    At the very least, you should keep reading the Job Classifieds, so that you can find something better than the one you have.  Can't you talk about this with anyone you know?  What happened to your boyfriend?
579553
You are not taking away your daughter from her dad..He can visit. It isn't healthy for you to stay if you don't love him. Ya can still be friends! good luck!!
696914
I have been with my girlfriend for 8 years . she is 27 yrs older than me. Age is not a factor unless you are  looking for sex then wait till you are 18. in the meantime ask her out . And do not worry about the fact her father is a pastor: today is not  where the ministers of this world teach fire and brimstone!!! If you are a respectable man than the pastor will have no problem with you seeing his daughter.