why do guys treat u nice at the beginning but are jack as*s at the end?
345367
They treat you nice in the beginning to bait the woman in then once they get comfortable the real jerk comes to life.The reason why some men do this is because if they really were to act like themselves, they would never get any sex!!!!
297929
Because he get you hot . . . he is sooo in control of himself and of the situation around him . . . that you find that power and control intoxicating.\n\nMost women . . . I have dated . . . constantly talked about the jerks and a**holes they have dated . . . they say the wished they had a nice guy . . . (I was one of those nice guys) . . . and when they found the nice guy . . . he either gets ignored or used.  Then they go back to those people who treat them like dirt . . . because you are attracted to those type of men.\n\nYou may deny it . . . but this is true . . . and factual . . . oh there may be a few exceptions to that rule . . . note:  I said FEW.
209121
Nice guys finish last because they are smarter. A good thing is always worth waiting for. They usually are more humble than most and have no need for the 'glory'of being first. Trust me humility makes you a better man and a better lover.
507104
It is unfair to call all men pigs. There are men who treat women like royal ladies. It is probably the way you let them treat you. If you are too liberal, chances are men will treat you as if you can take anything and everything and forget about it. Why dont you take a time out and cultivate some friendships and then maintain a respectable distance. Remember, you dignity is your own responsibility. Do not entrust it to men who have pleasant words and soft and tender touches.
662062
wow he sounds like a real ass.  please find another guy to like, who will treat you nicely and how you should be treated (instead of being USED by the guy you "love")
998931
Are you serious??? There are still guys like that? Haha. That’s quite funny because you don’t find many guys who think or feel that way anymore.  And when you do your lucky. The reason girls feel like that is because that’s probably all guys had wanted from them before. No matter how many times guy say “not all guys are jerks” The moment we start to believe some guys are nice and give them a chance, is when we end up getting fooled and hurt. Some girls get so hurt by the fact of being used and being told lies so that guys could get what they wanted. If you really are interested in a girl, prove to her your not like that. It may be hard work at first but in the end, it’ll be worth it. Goodluck.
240583
'Cause it sounds like you're trying to protect yourself from him turning you down, or making fun of you. Us gals sometimes have to test the fella, to see if he's sincere. It's unfortunate that some gals have to do that, but if they've been hurt before, they learn to protect their heart from jerky guys. <*)))><
287347
It is so right for many reasons. I say go ahead especially if you guys are in love. Men are not accustomed to being treated special, they have all the pressure of having to be sweet and romantic because society has labelled that their role, so when u do a simple thing like open their door, or pull out their chair, or give them a nice massage they feel so pampered.\nGo for it , May God bless you both
529535
I don't do that.  I've been there done that.  I only want to be with someone who will go out of their way for me.  Someone who will treat me like a lady.  Someone I know I can depend on and trust.  "If you treat me like a queen I will treat you like a king."  Not you personally, but that's one of my sayings.  There is nothing worse then being in a relationship with no trust and they treat you bad.  I'm better then that and I will not settle for less.  When I was young I dated jerks, but now that I'm older I want a gentleman.  It comes with age.
636724
its the macho stuff.  they want to show how independent they are and how they can work on you. Guys never learn smart people have more respect for those that show respect than smart a--es.
576683
They call u, and WANT to spend time with you. They are honest and the #1 reason is- They care how you feel. They want you to be happy and do everything in their power to be the man of your dreams. He may not say it, but you can tell by the way he treats you and looks at u.
1214
Girls do like nice guys. I had a bad boy phase myself, but after I got sick of their games and lies, a nice guy was the one who won my heart afterall. Sometimes it is hard for a girl to see that a guy they are dating isn't nice at first. Alot of jerks act super nice to get into bed with them, and even abusers have been known to act really sweet to the girl to gain their trust and then ruin their self confidence bit by bit, but the whole time, the girl may not see it, they see the "nice" guy they fell in love with. They sometimes never realize it was an act all along. Outsiders realize that this guy is a jerk, but the girl is so naive, they think that he really is nice, deep down. Some girls also feel they do not deserve someone nice. I felt this way for awhile after a mentally abusive relationship. I thought noone decent would love me. But I was wrong, and the girls who only date jerks are too. Just hard to make them see it. Find a girl who is ready for a nice guy, they are out there, justhard to find nowadays ;)
438923
It may seem like it, but eventually life experience will teach you that nice guys don't finish last, most young girls just have to through the illusion of the not so nice guys to realize how they really want to be treated. If you are truly a nice guy, don't let the disappointments of other peoples actions make you change...they'll need you before you need them and they'll be the losers when you are the successful one... by then, they won't matter to you. Check out the "gorgeous" girls 10 years from now!
173980
Because they feel sorry for themselves and get pessimistic and then they start feeling bitter toward women and women HATE that. I think Nice guys look at and compare themselves to other guys and imagine and assume that other guys get more girls and have more luck then they do, and they figure "it must be because I'm a nice guy". It probably just means that the other guy is braver, more aggressive, or that the girls you are attracted to are insecure and immature and only think that a guy who makes them anxious and even more insecure is worth it. Trust me though, most women that I know who are HAPPY in their relationships have all married nice guys who help with the housework, talk to them, go shopping with them (they don't all enjoy it though) and buy them flowers from time to time.
821882
Why would you do such a thing with SO many guys out there that would do nothing less that treat you with love and respect?
512200
really for me the guy just has to give me a really good compliment when he picks me up and then just give me alot of small complements during the date and id be sold. but be sure u watch what u say and DO NOT! look at ne other girls! i hate it when guys do tht to me expecialy after they tell me im pretty cuz that makes me feel like im not very nice looking. if u need more help email me at qtstegman@sbcglobal.net
29808
People tend to be passive aggressive at best.  SO, this is a comon reaction.\n\nHowever the comment that 'last guys finish last' is actually flawed.  Mainly because most nice guys may finish last in short term relationships and endevors, but, in the long run, they usualy tend to finish ahead of the pack, because they know how to properly play their cards, and learn from their's and others mistakes.\n\nAs to cheaters never prosper; in short term relationships, and endevors, this is actually false; those who tend to cheat, or bend the rules, usualy do very will in short term things; however, over the long run, cheating can lead to cut cornors, misplaced aggression, and usualy failed relationships.\n\nSo, as you can see, both comments are subjective to the type of context that they are used in.