I'm very unhappy in my relationship and my boyfriend has lied to me consistantly what should I do?
347037
I was in the same position about 2 1/2 years ago. My boyfriend of 3 years was a CONSTANT liar. It finally got so bad I had to just let him go. Wow am I glad I did! I have grown so much, and feel so much better. It was almost like I forgot how happy I could be. It was really hard at first, but worth it.\n\nYou just have to get the strength!
145135
Don't get even, that makes you just like him. The best thing to do is just make sure neither of you is actively mad, sit down, and confront him. Make sure you don't yell at him, just let him know that you know that he's lying to you, tell him you wish he'd spend more time with you, and you wish he'd be a little more considerate. If you still care for him and still want to be with him, let him know that too. If he can't handle a calm confrontation like that, you need think about whether or not he's worth spending more time on, considering he's actively lied to you for three years. Please be careful to be calm when you talk to him, and good luck. Also, remember that even though a little lie like this one might seem insignificant, there might be something under it. Even though it's small, if you want to have an open, good relationship, you need to confront the situation, and not have any secrets between you.
178443
Lie him too... might work! Try cheating him also.
431670
You didn't intentionally plan to lie...it's more of a misunderstanding or mistake. If you are concerned because you don't want your relationship to begin with lies then tell him the truth. I really don't think that one semester would bother him. Besides, if this little petty thing could bother him to the point of breaking up with you or not be interested in you anymore, then isn't it better that you find out what kind or guy he is now and move on? You don't need someone who would be like that. On the other hand, if he forgives you and tells you that it was "no big deal" then it would make you feel better that the truth is out in the open. Either way, tell him and get it over with...instead of wondering. You'll feel better. Just let him know that it wasn't intentional. Take care.
468886
Hi\n\n    I know this is not what you may want to hear, first of all you said your boyfriend is locked up. He should be happy that you are even sticking by his side while being locked up because as far as I can see what can he do for you while he is locked up. On the other hand if you really love him and want to stick by him totally understandable that is a choice only you can make. I would I advice you to just talk to him and tell him how he makes you feel when he accuse you of things that are not true. If he understands then great if not I would say this realationship is maybe not for you if trust can not be found. I hope I helped!
567738
Then he is ONE of the HYPOCRITE CLUB members.\n\nAll this while he WAS lying to you. Sweet promises from your boyfriend.\n\nNow, he is gone. But please don't label ALL BOYS are like that, okay? There are a lot of boys out there who is SINCERE (like me :) ) in Love and all. \n\nIt wasn't your fault sweet heart. I'm so sorry :-( But cheer up, okay? We are here, to help you.\n\nYour situation is hard. I'm sorry to say that I don't think he is SINCERE relationship with you. One day, I believe God will PUNISH him. Don't worry sister, he will SUFFER.
153167
If any of his actions makes you feel insecure about your relationship, then end it. If what he's doing is making you unsure about his love for you, then why bother continuing. You can never truelly love a person if you're always wondering if he's gonna cheat. To be in a long lasting relationship, you must trust each other, and know your love for each other. \n\nIf he said all his other boyfriends lasted only two months, then you know there must be something wrong with the way he's treating his boyfriends. \n\nIf you don't understand the situation now, it will be alot worse when you find out he is cheating on you. However, don't rush into a conclusion. Chat with him and find out his true feelings for you. If he seems to be hiding something, then carefully decide to break-up or not. If you find out later that your rushed disicion was inncorrect, you'll hate yourself for losing a good boyfriend.
1165358
Nah, it sounds like he isn't being honest with you, and that is a major component in a distance relationship.  If he's lying to you now then it will only get worse as time goes by and he gets away with more.  Also, once a cheater always a cheater.  It sounds like you need to find someone a bit closer.
529123
the first thing you need in a relationship is honesty and the ability to trust, and it looks like your boyfriend has broken these, explain to him that you need to trust him and that he must be honest in future or your relationship cannot proceed any further. good luk hun
323501
i'm sorry if you can't trust him then find someone you can. because trust comes a long way in a relationship and without it your relationship will crash and burn. You can talk to him about the trust issue and if you still feel the same way then dump him.
1166939
I'm sorry. My boyfriend has the same problem. You might be insecure about  whatever you are lying about. When you are about to tell a lie, recognize what you are feeling just before you do. Each time you catch yourself it gets easier to reject the feeling that comes up that makes you want to lie.
579106
He probably expects you to go out and cheat on him, you need to sit down with him and tell him that you cannot be happy if everything you do will make him wonder. If he loves you he will get over his insecurities and make the relationship work out. Tell him that by doing what he is doing is not very fair to you. You trust him don't you? Than if you have never done anything wrong he needs to get over it and if not than I do believe that it is time to get on with your life. You should not be miserable b/c of problems that only exsist in his way of thinking.
700216
Break up and find a different boyfriend.  By staying , you're encouraging him to stay the way he is.
834016
Tell him that you cannot be in a relationship with someone whose whole heart is not available and who doesn't respect you enough to be honest and straightfoward with you. \n\nHe lied to you from the start and why would you want to subject yourself to that sort of dispectful deception? That's just asking for trouble. I know it'll be difficult to call it off, but believe me... there are tons of guys out there that will respect you enough to a) not lie to you and b) BE SINGLE :)
672045
You should do whats best for you. Him hurting himseld is just to make you feel guilty. If he lied about simple things imagine what he will lie about in the future. Get out while you can. Your in love with the idea of being in love right now. Get out have fun and experience life.
446490
Just be straight with him.I've been in a similar situation before and my b/f was just happy that I was honest with him.He didn't get mad about the lie at all.Honesty is the best policy,no matter the consequences!
1139451
I used to have the same problem. I told him exactly how I felt and broke up with him. 3months later he crawled back on his knees. From then on he has been the perfect boyfriend, even 3years later. \n\nIt really depends, but if he loves you he'll realize that he needs you and come back and treat you better. and if not f*k him, you don't need him if he doesn't need you.\n\nhere are some guidelines for the future:\n*Always put urself and ur happiness 1st\n*If a man wants you nothing can keep him away, if he doesn't want you nothing can make him stay\n*You can't change a mans behavior. Change comes from \nwithin\n*Dont ever make him feel he is more important than you are\n*Dont make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less\n*Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you \n*If you think he is cheating, he prob. is, and if you feel hes lying, let him go\n*Actions speak louder than words\n*NEVER let a man define who you are \n*Know you deserve to be the #1person in the life of the #1person in your life \n***LOVE is a verb.....