can men be attracted to big women at first sight?
350110
I think that men can be attracted to you at first sight.  There are men that prefer big women and would see the immediate attraction.  It is sad to say that people are so quick to judge by the outer cover, but it really happens a lot and doesn't give the real person a chance to shine.
597984
No. \nI agree some people might occasionally judge a man by his height, but that is different than being constantly judged everywhere you go like women are, and the affects aren't nearly as far-reaching.  \nIt is society's ideals of women that make us want to be with tall men:  if we are the bigger one in the relationship, it makes us feel more masculine and unattractive.  Its unfair to both sides but that's how it is.  However, men and women who can learn to not care so much how people view them can get over this.  And everyone knows short guys are better in bed because they work harder to make up for their own body issues.
909461
Outter appearence does matter.......its not the only thing, its only one small part of having a good relationship, but it does matter.  You arent shallow.  If you arent attracted to her sexually from her being heavy, then thats how you are.  If she is a friend, then keep her as a friend.  Nothing says you have to be attracted to everyone no matter what they look like which is why we all have different tastes.  Theyre probably 1000s of guys who wouldnt have a problem with her wieght because they like women who are like that...its all about your tastes.
176871
Some women do.  For me a fat man would have to make up for it in other ways- nice features, tall, athletic, strong, intelligent, well-spoken, confident, rich
295401
Every person has his or her own idea of beauty. I have a good friend who is attracted to very large women. Personally, I am very attracted to bookish, quiet, intelligent women who many guys may not look at twice. Yes, many guys chase after the Barbie dolls.... but not all guys do. More important than your looks is your attitude about yourself, and your openess to being accepted by a good man who sees the beauty on your inside and out. I bet one day it happens for you!
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I AGREE!! Listen don't pay attention to those type of guys...They are brainwashed into thinking the ideal woman is 36-24-36 (or whatever that darn measurement is). Make sure YOU are comfortable with who YOU are; and be confident in yourself, 'cause I'm sure you have a lot to offer some lucky guy. As for me, I love my big girls. The world wouldn't be complete without them. Keep your head up, and screw 'em all. Believe me when I tell you that someone's out there looking for you at this minute!!\n\nOne Love,\n             d_marco46
574456
i'm a rather big girl maself.I've noticed that guys dont usuually fall in love with me or want me at first sight but they get crazy over me after they know me. Most big girls have wonderful personalities i wish guys would look past size and get to know us first.\nOf course there are guys who get love the idea of having a big girl to use and abuse.The most important thing is 'Plus Ladies' are unique and wonderful people!!!
334293
There is nothing wrong with your choice to love big women.  Some big women are smart sexy and intelligent so do your thang and your friends who wish to only accept what society portrays as beauty are the one's missing out because they might not ever know what real love is.\n\nCongrats and Good Luck in the future!!
177743
I asked my hubby and son about this and here is what they said.  My son prefers girls with curves!  He doesn't like real skinny boney women.  My hubby says he likes tiny petite women.  SOOOOO I would have to say it depends on the man!  Just be yourself and someone will love u for who u r.  Remember- u r beautiful on the inside and out!  Did u know Cleopatra was only 4 ft 5 and weighed 180 lbs????  And she was considered the most beautiful woman in the world!
663019
WRONG!\n\n-been in many locker rooms and can tell you girls that there is no way to tell until you see it...\n\neven then, we'll suprise you...\n\n(usually tall-skinny guys are the way to go if you're lookin' for big - but that's not set in stone either)\n\n:)
27453
First of all, let me say that I'm sorry that you are having a problem with this.  I don't know how large you are but I have been with guys before that were pretty big.  It was very difficult for us.  You have to be careful, and try different positions to find one that works for both of you.  \n\nThe idea that all women love large men is definetly not true.  I guess you are just going to have to talk about it.  That is really the only way to figure it out.  There are a lot of women that like it, but then there are a lot of women that are "shallow" (meaning that they aren't deep enough for you) too and it physically hurts them.  \n\nGood luck with this.  I hope things work out for you.
584288
I'm a guy who loves big women.  The bigger the woman is the better the sex usually is.  I want someone to keep me warm at night, to hold me and cuddle, and for sex, OMG i love being ridden by a big girl with a big soft butt i can grab and squeeze and big girls have huge breasts!  also, big girl's pussies are so warm inside compared to skinny women, the feeling is unbeleiveable
264229
alot of guys like big women. i think they even have dating clubs and website dedicated to that purpose
508801
Yes. This is a hard question to ask. Now you made me even more confused lol. Let me tell you a story. I have this beautiful Asian Girl friend. She is very cute but she is short and a bit chubby that even make her look shorter. She is trying her best to get fit. I still love her but I feel that the rumor that men usually lose interest to the face and start thinking about the body is true :(
535298
Evidently you don't want a big man. I don't get it. Why do people not lower their standards just a little bit to meet someone who might turn into the next love of their life. Find a big man! He'll be happy as much as you are. Then lose weight together. It'll be fun. You can accomplish something together as a couple and build a relationship at the same time. It just sounds like you are attracted to smaller men or something and looking for one that likes larger women. Those are few and far between. Lower your standards, there are plenty of dating websites.
637830
Truthfully speaking, I believe most men are attracted to women with curves, but they are afraid to admit it, as if it were illegal to do so. You see society predicates what is beautiful, and honey we aint it!, and that's a shame, because the average woman is a size 14.\n\nSociety needs to reconfigure its idea of beauty, and realize that "REAL WOMEN HAVE CURVES" not every man wants a twiggy. Society views a woman with curves to be overweight, and she may not be, there is nothing wrong with being healthy and having some junk in your trunk too. Most men dont want a bone, most men want meat on their bones, you know what I mean!\n\nI wish that us thick girls could get some love too, just like our thinner counterparts. I guess guys are afraid of what others will think, as a matter of fact I have a male friend that is attracted to thick women, and all his friends tell him he's a chubby chaser, now that is just not fair, but he doesnt care, he tells them they dont know what their missing, but you can see where I'm going with this, his friends are the equivilent of how society views us thick girls, and that is just so sad, because we are the majority not the minority!\n\nHowever I am feeling confident that slowly but surely societies ideals of us is changing, thanks to people like Mo'Nique and Toccara, they are starting to break down some barriers.\n\nI hope my answer, as long as it is, was helpful to you. Keep your head up sistah, we gonna get in there....\n\nI hope I was able to help you out!!!
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WELL IT'S OK TO SEE A REALLY ATTRACTIVE WOMEN AND SAY SHE'S REALLY  PRETTY,,,,BUT WHEN YOU SEE A  VERY PRETTY WOMEN AND YOU SAY TO YOURSELF WOW SHE'S HOT THAT'S TO ME SOUNDS LIKE YOU MAY BE REALLY ATTRACTED TO WOMEN. I'M REALLY GOOD WITH PICKING UP ON STUFF LIKE THAT BECAUSE I AM A BI SEXUAL WOMEN.