why are the good men always getting hurt in the end. IS being a playa wrong.?
351924
well a playa is NOT a good man... so i dont know how to answer you question...
861380
sigh, alas tis the truth with many of the females...because i hear that all the time too, the whole 'i want a good man, i ain't settlin for no scrub, he has to respect me, blah blah blah" and right after that they can't let go of some alchoholic that beats them, or some playa that cheats on them constantly but "oh i still love him, if he does it again he's GONE"... when he shoudl've been gone in the first place.\nYou know what's even worse?  LOOK AT THE YAHOO QUESTIONS!  A LOT of women are askin "what should i do, i love him but he's cheating on me what do i do?" \nor "i like him, he's a great guy, but he watches porn and flirts with other women..what should i do?" I mean you see a hell of a lot of questions like that...so that's a good question, what ARE women's defense to that? Cause i'm one of the good guys, and THANKFULLY i've found a sensible woman who actually KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS!  But i've dealt with the gullible and confused girls that dissed me for the a*shole, and then had the nerve to say they're just stronger now after gettin over it, when in essence they shouldn't have been in it in the first place!  \nWhat is up wit dat?
1102273
I know for a fact that not all guys in a bar are scum. I was a stripper for 4 years. I recently quit due to back problems, but I still keep in touch with alot of my regulars because we became real good friends. I am married, so nothing nasty. \nYou just have to be careful because there are some scumbags out there.
171465
Every relationship is not meant to be. There are going to be breakups, heartaches, and pain. Women tends to go through more pain in their life then men do. Every man that you come across and find yourself in love with is not going to feel the same way. There are good men out here just like good women, but they are hard to find. Don't it seems like it's the good ones thats always getting their hearts broke? Get out and make friends, mingle, do things that make you happy. He's not worth it. Someone can treat you better. He doesn't care about your feelings.
1050182
The reason playas get all the chicks is that chicks are conditioned to let the guy make the first move, so the good respectful guys get left in the dust because they respect you too much.  You are going to have to make the first move, get friendly with guys without being threatening, and go from there.  Look for the guys that are friendly and kind but work too hard to go to bars and stuff.\n\nBasically, this means you will be a female playa, so welcome to our club!
445501
I am afraid that it is a two way road on that one. A lot of woman dont appreciate the good guys and a lot of men don't appreciate the good women I have had guys tell me how good and sweet I am and this and that and then they drop me like a hotcake. \n\nI see that problem with women and I wonder why the heck they dropped the guy like they did. \n\nI think everyone needs to grow up and appreciate what is good. Honestly. \n\nI know that there are lots of good guys out there and there are lots of good girls, it's just a matter of them meeting one another.
692434
That's a hard question to answer. It sounds to me that you've been involved with the wrong men. Don't accept 2nd best and you'll eventually find that there are decent, genuine warm hearted guys out there.\n\nAnd try not to generalise or Typecast, we're all different!
450955
take it from me, they play that, bc they have to make sure the guy is up for anything. in other words, they want to make sure that YOU are SURE you want to be with them before they devote all their time and energy into a relationship with you. duh! guys hurt gals in so many sick and twisted and horrible ways, if you dont know. everyone is different, i know, but that's why they shy away, to make sure that's what YOU really want, so they dont jump in and scare YOU away like sum guys. its an emotion thing.!!!
633282
Run like hell...  So you think you love a man who puts your personal safety at detrimental risk, he is doing the exact opposite of what he is supposed to do.  You deserve better!  So go out and get it!
122505
yes the so called bad boys love the socalled good girls. the bad guys see the good girls as a way out, and the gg well its there excuse to be bad
730367
I always went for bad boys before but now know they're no good in the long run. Yeah they're fun and exciting to start with but soon they crush your heart to the point where you think you never wanna love again...\n...But instead of another bad boy picking up your already fragile heart and running with it till he gets bored, a good man will always fix your broken heart with love, reassurance & friendship.\nMy man is a good man. But he has a devilish side when he needs to! (I think you know when that side is needed most!) But he could never be a bad boy. He's to caring. I'm not saying he couldn't break my heart, I'm just saying he wouldn't play with it and crush it.
802824
I can't speak for all women, but for me, more often than not, a bad boy represents a challange. I think in general , most people, including men, can't resist a challange. Of course, bad boy is a relative term. There has to be a softness there to balance out bad boy traits. Rough, dangerous guys are incredibly sexy, but it isn't at all sexy when the bad boy in question is a complete asshole. Assholes are never sexy. Like I said he has to have a soft spot or some sort of weakness, whether it be kids, animals, his mom, something that shows he is still human.
435077
Because women have ruin it for other women . . . \n\nThese good men became dishearten because of how women treat them.
530528
They're not all like that. There are some great guys out there, just hard to find 'em. As for the ones that are, I'm still yet to find out why hurting us women seems to come so naturally to them. You've probably just experienced the ones that think and feel with their dicks.
159927
Sure, if you like being used, lied to, and then dumped as soon as the next opportunity comes along. Honestly, why would you want to go out with a "playa"? Show him you're better than him and turn him down. He'll be shocked!
1111439
To get a "good woman" you have to be "good man".
1132884
Playa?  Maybe you meant Player??\n\nHe was wrong, for breaking his marriage vows.\nHe committed adultery.  Its up to him to repent his sins to our LORD and Saviour JESUS CHRIST.\n\nI pray that he does....\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse