I am the typical Nice Guy, I'm young, smart,good job, How can I win a woman without being a Bad guy?
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YOU don't. You start with you. Like yourself, in fact love yourself. No one will see any value in you if you can't see it in yourself. Since you are young and have your whole life ahead of you I will tell you a secret. You will have many loves, and they all will be special. To focus on a single individual at this time in your life will let much of life slip by. You want to get as much out of life as you can, every day. So go out there and make all the friends you can; soon enough love will come around.
571310
the best thing to be is a badass hardworking nice guy.......no problem.......just give it some thought.......\nyou just have to work hard, be nice to everyone and dont be concerned about being politically correct hence bad ass.
1018830
There are a lot of "good guys" around. It's just that half the time women aren't looking for a "good guy" and we're forced to turn into something we really don't want to be in order to have a girl around, or we're married and, being the nice guys we are, we're not about to cheat on or leave the women we made a vow to on that wedding day for any reason. I'm lucky. I haven't had to change, despite the fact that it is extremely hard for me to get a girlfriend when I am single. My advice to you: don't go looking for a good guy, you won't find him; let him find you. And don't rush into a relationship head-first (though you know that one I'm sure, I just want to state it anyways). Get to know them really well before you decide to take a chance and get into a relationship with them. As you know pretty well by now, not all of us guys are exactly what we show ourselves to be. Hope that helps you out some.
419541
great question and the trouble is you're trying to understand it from a guy's standpoint so you have no chance.  it's definitely down to what the girls here have been saying that they just feel uncomfortable with it and there is also a sense of predictability in treating a woman too nice. I'm single but cool with it as I know the key to all of this is being who you really are and not trying so hard to impress.  concentrate more on what makes you happy in life and the right girl will be attracted to that. don't try and make others happy as you'll lose sight of yourself
335176
Just try to be yourself. I've found that women like honesty and are not impressed with pick up lines. Most women just want to talk to a genuine guy who is not looking to get laid right away. Stay away from really good looking women. They are messed up. Remeber ths song "If you want to be happy for the rest of your live, never make a pretty woman your wife". Go out to social scenes like hikes, bike trials, etc. The bars are for losers.
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You could potentially ask this question of a million women and get a million answers.  Some want a stud, some want an "average" guy, some want a successful white collar man, some want a "bad boy," some want a doormat they can push around...  It just depends on the woman you ask.\n\nI'd say at the most basic - things that SHOULD apply no matter which woman...\n\n1. BE YOURSELF - if you try to be who she wants you to be, you'll wind up miserable.  Be yourself and look for the woman that likes and respects that "you."\n\n2. BE HONEST - lies catch up with you sooner or later, and they will undermine any chance to trust each other.\n\n3. BE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF - women by nature often want to be needed and enjoy being nurturing, but if you're too emotionally needy or unable to support yourself financially, you'll soon lose her respect, or she may get tired of having to play nursemaid.\n\n4. BE WILLING TO BE VULNERABLE - you can't truly love or be loved until you're open to taking the chance that you will get hurt sometimes.\n\n5. COMMUNICATE - you can't know her and she can't know you if you don't talk about who you are, what you believe, what you feel, and find out the same things about her.
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My Dear Friend,\n\nThe best places are Schools, workplaces and Churches. If there is a handsome guy, concentrated as hell on his job or completely absorved in what he is doing, that means he is responsible.\n\nWatch him how he treats girls or how he treats his mother or sisters. If he treats them well, then he is not a male chauvinist and will treat you well.\n\nAfter that, go invent a circumstance, a reason for a chat and be charming. Watch his reactions. If you like them, go ahead, if you don't, anyway it was a casual chat.\n\nTry to be interested in what he is doing, the more difficult he is doing, the more enthusiastical he will be in explaining. If it is something that REALLY interests you, then it will be much better.\n\nThere, you have your door.\n\nThen, try to be conspicuous in some sort of way (common! you women know to do that perfectly!), see if he responds the friendship.\n\nThen, let the circumstances take charge, time will tell.\n\nIf not, there is always another chance...
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1) stop using the term "superior genetics". Honestly. It makes you sound snobbish and arrogant beyond belief.\n2) Don't describe women as ordinary.\n3) Compliment them on their good qualities frequently.\n4) Be willing to make jokes about yourself. I don't care if you're Adonis, Einstein, Michael Jordan and Paul McCarteny all rolled into one, you DO have some flaws, and acknowledging them will make you seem much more approachable.
470464
You just need to kind and considerate, and that will impress any woman. Little girls ideas don't matter.
34968
I prefer nice girls. Don't be shallow!
151126
just be yourself and dont be shy just tell her how you feel about her cuz i know for sure i dont like it when a guy tries to beat around the bush lol so yeah im sure your a nice guy and have alot to offer so yeah just go for it babe and see what the outcome may be.i have that problem too sometimes and if im just myself the guy falls for me right then and there lol
570484
Just be yourself. You sound like you are sensitive and a lot of females like that. Also, you mentioned in your profile that you are lucky to be in good health. A lot of women like guys who are optimistic and appreciative. You are actually a good catch and any lady you end up with will be very lucky. Good luck. :)
102215
be a nice guy in the real world.
1064653
It depends how you define win and what it is you are winning. \n\nBeing nice makes us feel like a loser because we're taken advantage of.  Maybe you're missing the point, we may have lost, but we won in some other way. \n\nI don't think the good girls out there would go for bad guys. I don't think cheating gets you anywhere in the end. \n\nGood guys win the real battles. Good nice guys win the girl. Nice guys win in life.\n\nUnless you're nice guy, you're winning the wrong battle. In short, only nice guys win the right battle.
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You have to be nice but don't let yourself be the doormat.\nShe wants you to be strong and true to yourself,\nso when you seem weak she punishes you (even though she may not realize this is what she thinks or what she does.).\n\nYour job is to be true to your strong male self,\nand you can be nice while doing that, it's just a bit of a balance...
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You're the type of guy who seems to have all the qualities that really count. And when the right one comes along, she will LOVE you for them. And thats all that will matter.   I think mostly you're just going to have to believe in yourself and have faith that theres a woman out there for you...and be patient, thats a big key...and the lady who finally gives you a chance is going to love those qualities.  It seems physical appearance is halfway to mostly important right away...but its all those qualities you listed that matter once the relationship begins. Anyone worth your time will agree. \nSome ladies do have that bad boy attraction...but if you change yourself for that you may just miss a great one out there who wants someone like you and not a bad boy. \nWe like someone who can make us laugh, but doesn't have to try hard to do it...someone who does cute things for us - but not excessively..\nSomeone who CARES about her feelings and shows it by listening and trying to understand.. \n and being honest is big..dependable is big...all those qualities you have are key for a long term relationship. So once 'the one' finally comes along..  I believe your relationship will go far because if you're really how you said..those are the things that matter.   So just believe you're worth it...shes out there.\n\nby the way all those ASSHOLES who answered up above saying women just want money and you have to trick us...those are the losers who know women SO LITTLE that is why they are bitter and single. Don't listen to that CRAP
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I, for one, am a nice guy........don't cheat, lie, steal, or hang around with those that do  that type of things ! I am dependable, courteous, and friendly. I am "Semper Fidelis" (always faithful)! So, why don't I have somebody in my life? Because I don't look like a movie star, or have lots of money is the reason. Women say they want a "good guy", and they do.......if he looks like a million dollars, or has one!