is it cheating to fantasize about another man if your married, i feel so guilty but i like it.?
351114
Don't feel bad; your husband is probably thinking about another woman. That doesn't bother you, does it?
1052764
I have fantasized about being with another woman. Yes, my husband was the first to know. And it was more than one occasion, however, I have never been with a woman, physically. Not the one friend I have fantasized about or the celebrity/entertainer in our area.
107388
is it wrong to flirt with other men while married
109638
Wow, some of the people that anwered this question, seems to be very judgmental! I mean in a perfect world nobody should cheat on anybody or willingly engage in an affair. However; in real life people make REALLy bad choices. This is all part of life. I hope you learned something from this. It does sound like you feel guilty. Someone who dosn't feel guilty would'nt give a rat's a** about the wife. Telling the wife is wrong!!! If you feel guilty, (as you should) you need to deal with it! Don't ease your guilt by hurting this woman more then you have.  \n\nThis is their problem, not yours. You really need to stay out of their marriage.\n\nTake some advice from someone who has proberly made every mistake known to mankind...Stay away from him and never speak to the wife. \n\nGood luck and this really doesn't make you a "bad" person. It just means you need to work on self control.
49971
What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Just because you are married and love your husband does not mean you are dead. I am sure your husband is not perfect and neither is the other guy. It's like the new car smell, eventually it wears off as the car gets older.\n\nBe a friend to your friend and keep it that way. There is nothing wrong with feeling for someone that you like and admire. Just keep both of your families in focus and everthing should be okay.
528709
That's a sin some where. And any way would you like you wife to cheat on you? "Do into others as you have them do into you" Get it think about that  for awhile!
355077
My opinion...feel shame, before cheating ur wife
1068917
I couldn't and wouldn't.  I love the man I'm married to. If you love the other person...how can you betray them?  He/She may never find out...but.........you would always know. Can you look them in the eye after betraying them?  Could you live with yourself?  Would you feel the guilt?  Then maybe one day...the guilt builds up, you feel your mate deserves better than what you've given. There goes the relationship.  Besides..........."How can you REALLY be SURE you can get away with it?"    If it ruins your relationship, you didn't get away with it.  Think about it.   The grass isn't always greener on the other side. And you usually find a lot of weeds.    If the person you want to have an affair with is willing to do this knowing you're cheating....how can they trust you not to cheat on them if it were to lead to more than an affair?   Cheating is never the answer.   Be true to your man/woman.  And....be true to yourself.
1073997
As long as he is doing it alone, and not actually meeting with this other person then how can it be cheating?\n\nIs having a fantasy cheating?  No.
463042
Well sounds like you need to decide for certain which is more important....your sexual fantasies or your relationship with your wife.It can't be healthy to  have 3 in a relationship where there should only be 2. And you should talk to your wife about this too. Maybe it's time to get rid of the 3rd party. Also it would make me feel strange and not so loved to know that my man wants me to be with another man. Either way sounds like it's time to re-evaluate your situation. and sets your priorities in order.
773000
Hai,\nY do u want to keep a relationship secret in the first place? Well if both of them are married to different people ofcourse thats a sin. At times its normal to feel attracted to others ( whn u are married ) but dont let that attraction take u to different directions.I believe its sin cheating ur wife or husband. Its being totally an untrustworthy person !!!! Thats like being a CHEAPO !!!! U would not like if ur wife does that to u right !\nIf u both are not married, then its ur choice to keep it a secret or not and if u both are gonna get married then thats perfectly fine.
925280
I can totally relate to where you're coming from. I am also happily married to an amazing guy who sounds a lot like your husband - attractive, sweet, dependable. Yet I sometimes think about other guys I've been with (even brief relationships from back in high school!) or develop big crushes on guys I meet (see my latest post for details). \n\nI can also give you advice as someone who has followed her feelings and tried to "have it all" and the cake, too. A few years ago, I had a very brief affair - which I then confessed to my husband (also detailed in an earlier post). I was very fortunate that he forgave me, and now almost 4 years later we have a child together. The thing is, the affair totally wasn't worth it. Not only did I hurt my husband, who has been my best friend for 10 years, but I went through an emotional hell (and a deep depression).\n\nI can see a lot of similiarities in our situations because I am religious also. That can cause even more angst when these sexual feelings arise, because you feel so much guilt from them. What I've come to recognize is that the feelings are normal, but you just need to be careful not to act on them. It's OK to think about other people from time to time, to fantasize as long as you don't start spending all your energy wanting it to come true. \n\nIn your case, since you've been with this other guy in the past, it would be really easy to fall into it again. My advice is to stay away from him. Enjoy the memories of the exciting sexual moments you've shared in the past, and remember that you're an attractive person to other guys. Use it to boost your confidence and feel good about yourself, just don't act on it. Hope that helps! :-)
372233
This is OK, every one is allowed the space to fantasise.\nIt's what you do about your thinking that's the main issue, and if you don't cheat then it's all good.\nIn a way it is even a good thing, it can reassure you that you have made the right choice by being with your boyfriend.
920163
My oppinion is that you are a few of the smart loyal and honest men out there and I applaud you for your well train of thought and consideration. I do not feel anyone should look down on you just because you have considered things that for others it doesn't even cross their mind. Continue your great way of thought simply because so many of us fall under pressure especially when being tempted with sex, and drugs. I was also a virgin when I got married and so many friends told me I'd regret it but I've been married for a year and the thought of cheating on my husband because I never had anyone before him never crosses my mind. Not to mention the great respect I got and continue to get from my husband everytime we make love!  I'm sure you will find somone someday who is going to also appriciate your well thought in life! Good luck and God bless
121537
Not a good idea.  It is possible to cheat on someone without physical activity between you.  How would you feel if your husband/wife was chatting away on the phone with someone and getting all excited about it?  Put a stop to it right away.
215602
Yes it is,and I think that you know it is.However,it doesn`t seem to be as serious as if you had actually touched the other woman.But I think that even looking at someone else with dirty thoughts is a form of betrayal.Since there was no physical contact,and if you really are sorry for it,then I see no cause for you to tell your wife and hurt her.Just don`t do it any more,and don`t mentally abuse yourself over it.Learn from it,ask God to forgive you and go on.
524173
hey take a chill pill.... its absolutely normal to fantasize bout another girl.... dont feel bad about it. be aware of your sexuality and preferences. live the way u wanna live.... n dream wat u want.... u live only once... so live life to the fullest.