I am falling in love with a women who i found out has herpes.What should i do.We never had sex yet?
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thats a very hard question..\nlets just say,people commit mistakes and she did..but then let us say not intentionally..i know its gonna sound ridiculous but i think if you really love her,then no matter what,you accept her..if you can picture yourself with her in the future then go for it..but if you cant then decide..things always happen for a reason..
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Your boyfriend could have gotten herpes before he was with you.  It can lie dormant in the body for years before symptoms appear, or you can get symptoms right away if your immune system is weak.  I just depends on the person.  It's probably not good to play the blame game, because he'll never know how or where he got it.  And it is possible that you gave it to him, unless you've never been with anyone before.  Like I said, you'll never know who got what and when, so it's just better to accept it and move on from there.  Hope this is helpful to you.
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Treat her with kindness a and leave the physical to take part later as you get to know each other. She must be frightened and you must be eager but think about her. It will make the rest of your intimacy come slowly but be much better. My congratulations to both of you I wish you a very happy life together. Just try and be like new friends who just met and talk about what your lives have been up to now.
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if you love him, you will get him to a doctor fast..\n\nif he loves you, he will hold off having any sort of sexual encounter with you until he's seen the doctor and gotten tested, gotten the results for the tests, and gotten treated for whatever std he has.  \n\nremember, even oral sex can ensure you getting it from him.\n\nif you have any doubt that you might also have it in the meantime, when you go along with him to the docs, get tested yourself.  some symptoms take longer to show up in women, or they simply stay dormant for years, and you can end up being sterile and not being able to have children..not to mention dying of infections of sorts.\n\ngood luck, hope you are safe and hope he recovers.
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well i am going to answer you seriously. No u can not get herpes from kissing your tiolet seat that i know of anyway. Herpes is a virus that has to have a moist place to live so i would think it would be impossible. The other answer(should u break up) i say if u are in love with your toilet seat then i guess u prove to all of us that we can love almost anything. If its a match made in heaven i say stay together until you find a shrink LOL.
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Definitely go get tested. And don't feel embarrassed about it or anything of the sort if that's the problem-believe me, doctors are used to that. And don't forget that some STDs result in serious cases, so go get tested ASAP.
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Yes there is a chance you will get it if your partner has it. \nI just found out after almost 4 years of marriage I have genital herpes. My husband and I dont practice safe sex however I take my medication daily that knocks his chance of getting it down by 50%, thats not to say he doesnt have it and shows no symptoms. 70% of people who have HSV has a partner that shows no signs. Get a blood test before you sleep with them to make sure you indeed dont have herpes. 1 in 5 people have it. \nCondoms are not 100% either. Herpes can be on the testes, buttocks,inner theighs. \nBe as careful as you can, but there are no guarntees.
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That is a a false rumour.  Oral sex is fine as long as neither person has open sores in the mouth or on the female genitals (or male penis).\nIf you have a cold sore on your lips you can give Herpes Type I to the woman, so avoid it then.\nIf you enjoy receiving oral, then it is only fair that you give it to her. So wash well, be monogamous, and if you are too worried you can use a dental dam, or square of rubber to be between your mouth and her genitals.\nYou won't be harmed if the girl is clean and has no venereal diseases.
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first what std...... herpes simplex 2 is the only one i would be upset about with the exception of hiv and hepititas C depends......... if he had it before we got together and didn't know I would not be mad....if he cheated on me and gave it to me i would kick his ass, break up with him, dedicate my life to the destruction of his
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yes, you can contract herpes through oral sex.  be careful, because you can contract it even if the person is not currently experiencing an outbreak.
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Unfortunately there is no other way to make him feel more protected. You did use a condom and that is about the only way to prevent the spread of it besides abstaining completely. Back off of him and give him time to think about what he wants from a relationship with you and if he even wants to be with you. I suggest joining a few groups of Yahoo that is designed for people with herpes. You can find someone who already has the disease so you dont have to go through a mess like this again.
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Genital herpes is usually diagnosed based on your medical history and a physical exam. Your health professional may ask you the following questions:\n\nDo you think you were exposed to genital herpes or another STD? How do you know? Did your partner tell you? \nWhat are your symptoms? \n1. Do you have sores in the genital area or anywhere else   on your body?\n2. Do you have any urinary symptoms, including frequent urination, burning or stinging with urination, or urinating in small amounts?\n3. If you have discharge from the vagina or penis, it is important to note any smell or color.\nWhat method of birth control do you use? Did you use condoms to protect against STDs? \nWhich high-risk sexual behaviors do you or your partner engage in? \nHave you had an STD in the past? How was it treated? \n\nThe primary outbreak of genital herpes tends to last longer and be more severe than subsequent (recurrent) outbreaks. Symptoms of a primary outbreak may include:\n\nFlulike symptoms, such as fever, headache, and muscle aches. These symptoms usually get better within a week. \nTingling, burning, itching, and redness at the site where an outbreak is about to occur (prodrome). \nPainful, itchy blisters on the penis, on the vulva, or inside the vagina. Blisters may also appear on the anus, buttocks, thighs, or scrotum, either alone or in clusters. They may be barely noticeable or as large as a coin. \nBlisters that break and become shallow, painful, oozing sores. \nSwollen and tender lymph nodes in the groin. \nPainful urination. \nAbnormal vaginal or urethral discharge.\n\nAny blisters, sores, or other symptoms that suggest genital herpes infection or another sexually transmitted disease (STD) should be evaluated by a health professional. Avoid sexual contact until you have been examined by your health professional to prevent transmitting an infection.\n\nIf your daughter feels she is at risk she should not have sex until both her and her boyfriend have been checked by a physician.
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1 in 4 have genital herpes now, so you are certainly not alone.  \n\nThere are lots of ways to date after herpes - the same way you did before, std dating sites, regular dating sites, etc.  It really doesn't change much.  \n\nChances of you spreading herpes are slim if you take daily suppressive meds, such as valtrex.  If you are on the meds, condoms don't statistically make that big of a difference.  It would go from a 2% chance to a 1% chance of transmission if you are on meds.\n\nCheck out the sites I have listed below.  They have helped me a lot!  On the racoon site, go to the support forums and also check out the links and articles there!
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Yes. It sounds like your relationship is in trouble anyway. I got genital herpes from my boyfriend of 4 years and he didn't tell me he had it. Now I have this virus the rest of my life. That wouldn't be fair of you to not tell her. Women can have more complications with genital herpes. Most women have to, or choose to, have a C-section delivery when they are pregnant. Babies can get the virus from their mothers and have severe complications and even death (rare). Even if you two don't spend the rest of your lives together, when she becomes pregnant someday she'll have to take extra precautions. That's not fair to her or her future baby. Please let her know.
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You can get herpes, if she has herpes type 1, as has already been mentioned, and if she has oral gonorrhea or chlamydia, you can get that too.
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You'd have to...It will eventually come out if you plan to stay with this person. It is always best to be honest. If he/she leaves you because of the STD, then so be it, but at least you were honest so that he/she doesn't go out infecting others because of your silence.
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Don't freak out. It could possibly be a folliculitis (which is a hair bump) or bacterial vaginosis. The best advice I could give you is to pay the doctor a visit. Since you have never been with a person who has a herpes infection, I wouldn't be too worried about it.\n\nBut also know, that if a person has a cold sore, it is a herpes virus. If they perform oral sex on you with an active cold sore, you can develop a herpese infection in your genital area. A person who has genital herpes but isn't currently having an outbreak can still transmit the disease. The only reason why I am telling you these things is because I never knew until someone told me. \n\ntry not to worry too much and take care of yourself