How to effectively deal with anger and rage?
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smoke weed.\nif u can't do that cuz of ur job or beliefs, go see a doctor. tell him/her the truth about how u feel and what is going in ur life. trust me, if u find a good doctor u will get some of the coolest prescriptions. trust me. I do this every 2 weeks and I feel great now.
648690
"In order to burn out, one needs to actually have been on fire at one time"\n\nMany creative people, myself included, have very strong emotions, and they aren't always "nice" Rage, anger, grief, despair- to joy, ectasy, and desire! Most people are content with the status-quo, and say, "don't rock the boat". Somtimes, though, boats need to be rocked.\n\nIntense feelings often precipitate a spiritual awakening. A person has only 2 choices- be overwhelmed by them, or learn to harness them. Those that succeed in harnessing them can change the world. It takes work, though. \n\nRemember, anger is the spirit's way of letting you know someone is stepping on your emotional toes. You need to learn to look past the anger to describe, in your own words, what is really making you angry. (I am still learning that path, believe me!)\n\nThings that helped me learn to cope in more effective ways: karate, writing, modern poetry recitals, art, mountain climbing, research, and service to humanity. Also, learning to stand up for myself in an assertive manner, telling off people who really needed to be told off, learning diplomacy, and increasing my vocabulary (calling someone a detestable sycophant is so much more rewarding than saying they are kissing the boss's ass!) Also learning to be genuine. Remember your intensity will make you scary to some, but will often act like a magnet for all the right people when you learn to channel it.\n\n          Good luck. Oh yeah, driven, creative people make better lovers too. Pass it on!
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You totally can.  For starters, stop saying that you can't.  You must believe you can.  You destroy your opportunity to contol your anger if you don't believe/UNDERSTAND that you CAN.  If you're angy, tackle the reasons.  It may not be other people making you angry but rather... your perception of other people that makes you angry.  For instance, some driver is being STUPID on the road.  Who cares?  There are STUPID people all around... and some smart people too... and some mean people and some rich people and so on.  You can let things BUG you or you can NOT let things bug you.  You have COMPLETE control over your emotions.  If you didn't, who does?  Who has more contol over YOUR emtions than you yourself?  Understand?
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Sounds like you need a hug. When do you feel the most rage? What sets if off? The fact that you are asking for help is a good sign. Please, seek professional help so you don't hurt anyone ESPECIALLY yourself. Seek out that hug for me.
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Use the same things in your mind that help you to relax.Good thoughts usually.Remember that we are not always right, and what would it be like if you could learn something from all this. It takes a lot more of yourself to abstain from getting angry when you havre this problem. look to anger management groups they are there to help. Have a nice day!
606127
Try to be thankful for what you do have and focus on what is good in your life. As for the eating gum helps and try to eat more vegetables and less sweets and fats.  exercise can help with the anger also.  I hope this helps!!
623289
Often times, anger is hard to get rid of because it stays there until it comes out in some kind of physical way. At least that works for me. Here's something you really might want to do. Don't take an anger management course just yet, but find ways to relax. Stress usually eats at you until you get angry at the world. Relax and enjoy life because you only get to live it once. If that doesn't work, go vent your anger in a way so that you can get stronger too, like swimming or tennis. Just don't use your awesome skills on someone else, just your own stuff. :)
698206
More than likely, someone or something is bothering you that you have been unable to resolve. If you can figure out what that is, you've solved half your problem. Try to find constructive ways to express your anger --- work out, play a sport, write letters to people your angry at (you don't have to necessarily send them or share them). Try to talk to a good friend who will understand if you are moody right now.
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There are many things that can make someone angry, each of us is so different, that is why the degree of anger is also different. Some people may tolerate certain indisgressions and some may not.  The degree of tolerance is a very important aspect that can determine how much anger a person can, or may feel, and also may indicate how much control of anger a person can manage.  Maturity, Self-confidence, discipline, psychological and emotional fitness, may establish a person's ability to control his or her anger, and cope with it. Violence is anger without control and without proper logic. It is a pure irrational physical interpretation of one's fear, insecurity and vulnerability. Coping with anger is dependent on the person's abilility to figure things out for himself/herself and resolve his/her anger by using proper logic and discipline in managing ones emotional state. Often we seek advice from trusted acquiantances, just be careful, and think of what advise is being given, because they are mainly opinions of someone who may not really understand what you may be feeling, or angry about in the first place, it is very hard to assume that anyone person can help you with your anger. It is good to share your thoughts about your anger with someone you trust, but you cannot expect them to solve your anger. Only you can exercise proper rationality on your own anger and try to resolve it without violence by having self-confidence, disciplne, mature rationality, knowing what is good to do, and not to do something bad.  By doing so, you can show to everyone that you are a mature and responsible human being, and serve as a good example for everyone to follow.\n~meow
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its hard but vigorous exercise really does work.use your anger and hurt to drive you on through the pain and exhaustion,this will give you a natural high which will counter act the low feelings.       \nafter a few sessions the natural high will start to last longer and get rid of the low feelings.Try not to think about it or make any decisions while you are feeling down because your mood really effects your judgement.IT WILL GET BETTER, HANG ON IN THERE.GET LOTS OF FRESH AIR.  GOOD LUCK
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ok everytime ure angry just  close ur eyes real yight sing a song in your mind or maybe count!!!\n\nor try this talk to a person u really love but is veryirritating u wont shout at the person u love and eventually u'llstop freakin out about little things\nor better yet just talk to yourself in your mind when you are angry try to know  why ure angry and just analyse urself
1059105
get an anger management classot psychologist
123451
wen ever u get angry, start counting reverse from 10 to 1, second method, if u are so angry that u wanna fight with that person, or may b u are just too disturbed, say to urself "that i"ll manage it after 10  minutes, after 10 minutes say after 1 hr, and so on", this might help. But these are the situations wen u get actually angry and then want to control the anger. Just to keep ur temep in check, try meditation, i keep fast once a week, and that day resolve not to get angry and it really helps, i am trying to keep my temper in check as well. Over the time, i have realised that it is a very CONSCIOUS effort, tell urself that u"ll control ur anger now onwards and this shd help, this has helped me as well. good luck!
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Have a candle-lit bath, with bubbles and candles, dim the lights and just soak. It's really relaxing, it may sound kiddish but it really works. After light some candles and insence and settle down on the couch and just take deep breathes and maybe watch some soaps or feel-good movies or chick flicks, not anything too dramatic and violent but something that you like and makes you feel good. Another thing is that you should do what you like! whats your hobby? for example, I love horsebackriding, so I might go on a nice peaceful trail in the woods  for an hour to calm down and realize life is a good thing. Or if your a painter, start painting! you could even make crafts, which actually allows you to express your anger on paper and your work, instead of other people and your mind, self confidence and yourself. Go scream on your pillow! if you just feel like screaming, go right ahead. Thats what I do when I'm frustrated angry and confused. It really helps get the stress out. You could bang stuff around scream and shout and tell everybody to just get away from you. We all understand. Or, what I do is put a favourite CD on and sing along like nobody's listening. It helps alot. Or sometimes I call a friend and we talk for hours, and it keeps your mind off things, or you could go to the mall and shop. Shopping cures anything! lol. Something else is to make yourself beautiful, dress up, do your make-up, paint your nails, it keeps you consuntraited and focussed on one thing at a time. You should also spend time with your family or friends. Family and friends really helps in these situations. You should also call up people your might have angered, and say your sorry and for them to forgive you. It will make you feel alot better and less upset. Hope ive given you some ideas, and i hope this day really turns better for you!
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Don't counter-attack in the heat of anger.\n\nCool off and PLAN.  :-))\n\nAfter awhile, the enemy will not be expecting it.
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Realise that you are angry and try to focus on happy thoughts,funny moments and something to think that is hard to think like a puzzle, equation or something.\n\nRealise that anger leads to nothing and finding a sulotion to the source is by claming down and think.
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Instead of preventing anger find out what it is exactly that is making you angry. When you recognize your anger its easier to turn it into more useful things. Once you feel angry, try counting to ten in your head. Take deep breaths. What is making you angry? What feelings are going through you? Do you have a pillow to scream into? Do you tend to take your anger out on other poeple or yourself? Are you angry because you feel hurt? Scared? Tired? Pestered? etc? Answer these questions before lashing out.