More answers for Sammy- How can I get my Son out of Scientology ?
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This is not a question but an answer so should not be here.  But whatever ...\n\nIf someone is worried about a relative being a Scientologist then my advice is 1) find out what it actually is.  Don't listen to opinion and rumor, go to the Scientology.org website and take a look around.  2) Talk to your relative and find out why they think it's a good thing.  Listen to what they have to say.  Understand!  3) talk to them about your concerns.  If you've heard something bad then ask them about it.  They can probably provide you with data on the subject so you will either understand or see that what you heard was false.  4) If none of that has helped you then perhaps it's time to agree to disagree.  Adults in our society have the right to think for themselves.  If you believe X and they believe Y then that's part of life, not everyone is going to think the same way, not everyone is going to believe the same things.  That's the beauty of our world - diversity.\n\nOne last thing, my father was horrified when I became a Scientologist.  I did my best to talk to him about it and I thought at times he was being unreasonable and at times he thought I was being unreasonable.  But we talked about it and resolved it.  Now 30 years later we are still very close and he has no problem with me being a Scientologist. Communication and a desire to solve the problem is all you need.
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I have bipolar myself so I have some idea of what your going through. what you should do is contact a government agency. I go to a place called MHMR it stands for Mental Health Mental Retardation. They can help you in any way that you need it. They can give you advice on what steps to take with your son. They can set up appointments for your son when he gets out. Just to meet with him and talk with him maybe regulate his meds and see about having him see a therapist on a regular basis. I really hope this helps you out. I really feel for you and the situation your in. Good luck to both you and your son.
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get your son back call the police firstly. Secondly, your husband needs a clip over the ears how selfish he is to put you under so much pressure. Can't he see he is killing you. Go to counselling and get him to AA. \n\nStand up for your rights and do what you know is best. If he refuses kick him out!
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Your best bet may be to talk to his chaplain to help him get out if he needs to.
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Listen to him more and convince him that he does not need friends, seriously, or convince him that everybody are his friends. BTW how old is your son? I know about this kind of thing cause I suffered this before.\n\nContact: rateofspeed@hotmail.com
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This is a tough question. To start, i hope that whatever decision you make will lead you to happiness and that is the decision you need to make. You must take into consideration the life of your son. If you think that it is an unsave environment to raise him in, then you need to get out. I aslo believe in second chances, but after that it better not be an excuse that the person is giving to me after that. If you have already given him many chances, i think it is time to step aside, even if it is only for alittle bit, to let the situation cool so you can make a rational decision. My God help you in this troubling time. Please let me know what happens by posting a question answer statment. :-)
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I don't know what I can say that will help you but I can reassure you that you are not the only one. My ex disappeared for the first 6 yrs of my son's life and then reappeared acting like he was the best dad in the world. He constantly contradicts what I say (ex.: my son has dental sealants and can not have sticky candy because it will rip them off but he insists my dentist is a head job who doesn't know what she is talking about, he also tells him he doesn't have to listen to the stupid things I say, that my son doesn't have to be responsible for anything -he's 10, and so on). He also created a tape using one of his friend's to play for my son. The contents consisted of this impersonator telling my ex that I did not love my son, I did not want my son, my ex could keep my son, etc. My ex also has no problem with my son seeing pornographic materials lying about his household. My son told of this and more to a Children and Youth Services agent who told me even though what my ex was doing was inappropriate it was abuse. Now for the grand finale, I stopped my ex from seeing my son for 3 months because he informed me he moved back in with his child molesting mother whom my son was to have no contact with and while the investigation was taking place and I was trying to modify the custody arrangement. During this time he filed contempt charges against me, initially sending to the wrong address (one that didn't even exist) so I missed the first hearing. I later received a visit from a constable telling me if I didn't go to the next one I would be sentenced to jail. I had proof that he sent it to the wrong address before we had the hearing. At the hearing my ex couldn't decide where he was living or for what amount of time, stated I had denied him my son longer that occured, and brought forth info that his mother was recently forgiven for molesting her sons (my ex and his brother). The judge decided that he knew my ex had lied about the extended time but I was also in the wrong because I should have known (even though I lacked the resources to find out and frankly my ex should have informed me since he knew, I forgot we are still supposed to wipe their asses even after we are no longer together) that his mother was forgiven for her most heinous act and that he was no longer living with her. Never mind the fact that we had contact since I stopped letting him take him  and my ex could have mentioned it, never mind the fact that my ex couldn't even figure out where he was living, and never mind the fact that not once did I tell my ex he could not see him, that he could not take him, I WAS STILL IN THE WRONG. I was in the wrong for trying to protect my son. My fiance summed it up nicely, the courts are currently favoring the men. The court does not take the child's welfare into consideration just what they want as they are deciding.
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First of all there was a lot you could do and it would have been much simpler to do it, you should have taken your son to a safe place, and left that crazy,immature,self centered,imbecile of a girlfriend of yours to do whatever she chose to do.\n Now you have opened a serious can or worms, even with a good lawyer you are in for a nightmare.child services can get involved,and you probably have no witness or way to prove any of your story,and even if you did,your still going to have to deal with kicking and striking her ,and to compound it ,the child was in the house at the time.\n What you need is a good lawyer,voluntarily get yourself enrolled in parenting classes,and counseling,and try to get your parents or some responsible adult to petition for temporary custody on the grounds of best interest of the child.\n Once this is resolved,petition for custody of the child,or a declaration of guardianship for your son, and petition for your girlfriend to have supervised visitation with her son only.\n Good luck, get enrolled in parenting classes and counseling today,to demonstrate your responsibility and intention to the court ,they aren't going for the "what else could I do" defense, and get yourself a good family lawyer who specializes in child disposition cases.
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Tell them you are going to begin practicing Scientology and that your new found religion doesn't allow you to have contact with any human other than Tom Cruise...
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Hey all of you know it alls...I don't think she asked if he deserves the chair (which is just crass), or if he will continue making the same mistakes over and over.\nIn no way does this question call for a negative or derogatory opinion of any sort.\nHere's an idea...Maybe you should try to read the question first, think to yourself if you have any relevant in put, and if you don't, then it's just not your question to answer.\nTo all of you who answered as though you were God himself,  try not to be such an ignorant jerk in the future.\nAnd as for your question\nI think it's fabulous that you are trying to help your son through this very new and different time in his life.  Genuine people sharing their positive thoughts with your son will help the time pass, and in the process, he will make new friends, and be able to make better decisions in the future.  Unfortunately I do not know of anyone who would like to do this at the time, but maybe your son could find out if his particular prison offers a Pen Pals program.  I'm sure you'll have better luck with that, but I found a few sites that should be of some help to you\nGood luck, and I hope this helps!\n\nwww.friendsbeyondthewall.com\nwww.prisonpenpals.com \nwww.cellpals.com\nwriteaprisoner.com
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He's obviously an @ss, I would get some psychological help for your son as soon as possible so he doesn't end up with abandonment issues and blaming himself for his biological (only) father not wanting to see him. Good riddance to him, sorry for you and your son.
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I suggest the school counciler or maybe someone in your church. The best thing that could happen would be if they did tell. What if this same person has moved on to another child now? And you can be the one to help that child. God Bless you and have mercy for what some jackass has put you through.
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I think you need to have some counseling.  Leave your son alone and seek help for yourself.
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Donot compel him to go to church.\n\nGod is everywhere and let his realize this truth. God says in Gita, "whoever sees Me in everything and everything in ME does not leave Me and not do I leave away from him"\n\nMore you compel the more he will rebel and move away from religion.
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The therapist and support group cannot even legally give you any inclination that he is even a patient there under the HIPA rules so you can't do much but move on. Honestly, if he has done "sexual things" in front of your son and is an unstable drug addict you need to seek help for yourself to understand why you want him to be anywhere near your son. Sorry, to put it so bluntly, but yeah dream on.
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Call CPS (child welfare) anonymously and ask them what would be best.  \n\nYou can ask to be emancipated.  Your brother can apply to be your guardian.   You can report your father to the police or call child welfare and then ask to be placed with your brother. \n\n\nHere's info on emancipation.  I also have links below for guardianship and free legal help.\n\nGood luck.  Remember, don't let the bad influences around you drag you down.  Put yourself first and strive for your best.\n\nQuoting Florida Statutes, Section 743.015 - Disabilities of nonage; removal.\n(1) A circuit court has jurisdiction to remove the disabilities of nonage of a minor age 16 or older residing in this state upon a petition filed by the minor's natural or legal guardian or, if there is none, by a guardian ad litem.\n\n(2) The petition shall contain the following information:\n\n(a) The name, address, residence, and date of birth of the minor.\n\n(b) The name, address, and current location of each of the minor's parents, if known.\n\n(c) The name, date of birth, custody, and location of any children born to the minor.\n\n(d) A statement of the minor's character, habits, education, income, and mental capacity for business, and an explanation of how the needs of the minor with respect to food, shelter, clothing, medical care, and other necessities will be met.\n\n(e) Whether the minor is a party to or the subject of a pending judicial proceeding in this state or any other jurisdiction, or the subject of a judicial order of any description issued in connection with such pending judicial proceeding.\n\n(f) A statement of the reason why the court should remove the disabilities of nonage.\n\n(3) If the petition is filed by the natural or legal guardian, the court must appoint an attorney ad litem for the minor child, and the minor child shall be brought before the court to determine if the interest of the minor will be fully protected by the removal of disabilities of nonage. The attorney ad litem shall represent the child in all related proceedings.\n\n(4) If the petition is filed by the guardian ad litem or next friend, service of process must be perfected on the natural parents.\n\n(5) If both parents are not jointly petitioning the court for the removal of the disabilities of nonage of the minor, service of process must be made upon the nonpetitioning parent. Constructive service of process may be used, provided the petitioning parent makes an actual, diligent search to discover the location of, and provide notice to, the nonpetitioning parent.\n\n(6) The court shall consider the petition and receive such evidence as it deems necessary to rule on the petition. If the court determines that removal of the disabilities of nonage is in the minor's best interest, it shall enter an order to that effect. An order removing the disabilities of nonage shall have the effect of giving the minor the status of an adult for purposes of all criminal and civil laws of the state, and shall authorize the minor thereafter to exercise all of the rights and responsibilities of persons who are 18 years of age or older.\n\n(7) The court shall consider the petition and, if satisfied that the removal of the disabilities is in the minor's best interest, shall remove the disabilities of nonage; and shall authorize the minor to perform all acts that the minor could do if he or she were 18 years of age.\n\n(8) The judgment shall be recorded in the county in which the minor resides, and a certified copy shall be received as evidence of the removal of disabilities of nonage for all matters in all courts.
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I would probably leave him or ask him to leave.  Tell him when he gets his sobriety and stays on a regular program, you will consider taking him back.  It's not good for the kids and it's not good for you to live with the results of another persons addiction.  You can't fix him, that's his choice and until he makes it you need to look out for those babies, and for yourself.  Good Luce