What should do?when my boyfriend and I go out I always pay! SHOULD I LEAVE HIM!?
343543
confront him, tell him "look, why am I always paying", and if he acts up then dump him.
1079734
If you could give examples of the mooching it would be better.\n\nAnyway, be firm yet fair.  Don't give in about letting your money go.  Let the person know, in no uncertain terms, that you are not a money tree and that they can not keep coming to you.\n\nIf you go out to eat with the person, ask for separate bills in advance.  Only pay for your self.
586686
Get rid of him.  If he won't let you be your own person he's not worth it.  Also if he doesn't trust you then you have to ask yourself if you can trust him.  Believe me you can do better!
231620
I think you have that right to go out and have a nice dinner somewhere.  Try dating a geek, they really appreciate women.  They will pay for dinner too.  It sounds like you are living with a sponger.
869834
If I was You!!!! I couldnt deal w/ it. But I guess you already made a decision and U will let him stay until he finds a place to go. But the point here is, how long  it is gonna take for him to find the place? if you R paying for rent and bills is he helping U out??? if he is not I think it will take longer for him to go. Plus if you guys are in good conditions now (as friends) why ruin it??? tell him to move to one of his friend's house because if U guys R not 2gether anymore and U are looking @ him @ your house everyday, doing the same things as a couple but w/out "rights" that is not helping U @ all. I can tell just by your writing that U still care for him a lot, but if it is over, IT IS OVER,  as he is moving out of your life he has to move out of your house. For his b-day you can buy him something (if you havent done it yet) but something simple for U not to feel bad about, but no cake, no party, no special dinner 'cause you dont have to. \n\nGood luck and dont think about him anymore, just think about U and how it will affect you to have him in your house longer, he will soon start dating and U will find that horrible. \n\nHE HAS TO GO NOW!!!!
549856
Smile sweetly and innocently and say, "But you are supposed to be spending all your money on me!"  Then leave.  \n\nSometimes you may have to go dutch on a date or if the bill was $12 and he had $10, supply a couple.  But if they are taking you out, THEY are taking you out.  Just try to help a little with the cost of taking you out a little, things like "The dinner was nice, but how about some ice cream?  My treat" or "Thanks for the movie ticket, I'll buy the popcorn."
6720
it depends on how long you have been with this guy and  ask yourself if he's worth it. the ? is would he change something about himself. what he's doing exc.. if he says yes then go ahead and switch.just make sure he knows he owes you one
652306
You should sit down with her and your boyfriend and decide what you are going to do. Paying her something is right, but you need to know what for, how much and how often. If you can't afford it you and your boyfriend need to decide if he will help. If he can't you need to look for a good job or move. Your boyfriend has to make a decision on whether or not you're worth the extra effort. If not you need to find a mate for your future.\nNext time don't move in until he pays out.\nThis answer is from a man.
507783
Well this is considered having your cake and eating it too.  A guy will take whatever you are willing to give and it will do anything to keep it that way.  What you should do is not talk to him anymore and tell him that you are worth more than being second, if you keep talking to him then it will always be that way, but if you put your foot down and say no then he will either stay with his girl and you will know that he never really wanted to be with you or he will leave her and get with you and then you will know where you stand.  Good luck!
881919
Hmm only you and he can know the answer to that! You know him better than anyone else... what was he like with money when you were together? I would try get some of the cash back now at least or talk about what would happen if you break up!\n\nGood luck... hope you don't need it! x
738259
I responded to your first question..but Ill say it again. Talk to him nicely and find out what the underlying issue is. I really think it is more than money. He resents you for something that may or may not have nothing to do with money. Sounds like the overall relationship is not so healthy. It may be time to move on. Do you have a family member to move in with. If you really want to try to make it work...see a counselor-but start with talking to him yourself. He might open up to you and tell you why he doesnt want to help you out.  Good luck.
40389
Agree to pay what you charged and tell her to keep telling him you did it with out her permission and wish them the best of luck. If you are charged, deny it and pay what you owe. Now that is not so hard...is it?
832949
I am old fashion...He pays for the date, always.  I refuse to accept his role in the relationship.  I think the problem with most men is that we as working, independent women feel the need to display our equality.  I don't.  I am equal but you will open my door.  I am equal, but you will pay for the date.  I am equal but if you see me carrying heavy bags or see something in my house that needs repair, you will offer your services.  And in return, I cook my butt off, never say no and make each intimate moment an adventure.  Also, leave that tired clown alone, he's not a real man and will never make you happy.
43633
leave him now or, find out the hard way.  He is taking advantage of you because you are young.  Be with someone your own age before you loose your self esteam and self confidence.
294703
As hard as it seems, you need to leave him, because men never change.\n\nThere is a lot of good men out there that work for their money.  Those are the men that a woman should be with.  In my opinion men should be there to support the women, and if they can't do that, in some instances they can't, but they should atleast be able to support themselves.\n\nLook at it like this, you are just dating and he is doing this. . . . what happens if you are married?\n\nDoes he have a job?  Have you talked to him about it?  If you have and he is still doing it, then ask yourself "does he really love me as much as he says he does?" \n\nKatie
254078
Leave his @ss...if it's weird and doesn't feel right, then that's not a relationship you need to be in. Just because you've been together for 2 years doesn't mean you have to stay together for old times sake. If he keeps leaving, this time you be the strong woman and walk away. Trust me, Honey, I know. I did it and I am much better for it. You may love him, but he obviously is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated and you need to cut your losses and get out.
1148253
You do not have to pay his fines because you were not in a rational state of mind when you offered. If your boyfriend is really your friend and cares about you he should not press you on it. He should take up his responsibilities and pay off the fines HE accrued on his own. HE is an adult. You could compromise and in a sober state of mind offer to pay a [small] part of the fines to help him out.