My very intelligent 16 yr old daughter is expressing an interest in a law enforcement career. It frightens me.
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If you would like to email me, i can give you some details, my daughter did the same thing. surfpariah@yahoo.com
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She's 13 and probably naive.  I think her parents are just looking out for her safety and well-being.  I think both sides need to sit down and discuss this, rather and argue.
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I hope you took the time to warn her about how crazy people are out in the world.  There probably wasn't anything you could have said or done to her to keep her safe at home.  My daughter left when she was 15 and she didn't keep in contact with me except for a couple times a year.  She quit high school in her 2nd year and I couldn't force her to go.  \n\nI sincerely hope your daughter has good friends to help her out there.  If you know her friends that she is with or near, maybe you don't have to worry if they help take care of her.  It's the not knowing that really hurts.\n\nMaybe you could get her a cell phone and keep in contact with her that way.  God Bless you.....)(
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I have not heard about this, but how it has saddened me that a whole childhood has now been lost. I wonder how she will ever cope. Of course the questions come to mind, where were her parents, where did she get the alcohol, who gave it to her etc. But what concerned me most was what type of person ( if not another young, immature child) would take advantage of a child that age no matter what state or condition she was in. God my daughter is 11 the thought of pregnancy at that age terrifies me let alone the reality. Where were the responsible adults. I hope if the other party to this was old enough to know better, he gets whats coming to him. The decisions and responsibilities this child is now faced with are far to heavy for her to even comprehend. There effects will be far reaching. How can one expect an 11 yr old child to understand those actions or the consequences. Good lord this has made me so very sad. We will be praying for her physical and emotional safety and well being. Plse do the same.
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Is your daughter aware that you are doing this/\nIt seems to me that you are trying to cause trouble for the por guy and that you should mind your own f______ business.
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You sound just like my daughter...who is also 16...lol. Don't be in a rush. It's not as easy as you might think.
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Your poor daughter is going through huge changes and poor you are the safe person to take out the frustration on. I think its appropriate for you to sit her down and have a calm talk. Just state your case; you appreciate she is growing up, she wants to be treated more like an adult and you agree that its reasonable; and you want to be treated with respect the same as she does. You can tell her that you can both talk things over and reach a compromise, but you won't tolerate rudeness. \nSay that you also have a responsibility to take into account her safety, so rules are their for her benefit not just to spoil her fun. Also offer her a deal; if she ever finds herself in a situation where she feels uncomfortable she is allowed to say "I'll have to check with my Mum" or "My Mum won't let me do that" so you get the blame for being uncool not her.\nOur kids need to break away from us at some point or they'd still be dependant on us as adults, but at the same time they don't have the skills to handle it tactfully or with maturity!\nI think you've had some good advice here and its been good to hear from people who are the same age as your daughter. I'd agree that you can now stop providing for her as if she were younger, she might feel a bit smothered. Ouch! Its ok for you to set her chores to do, and if she does them with good grace she earns her allowance.\nYou aren't doing anything wrong so don't feel guilty. You don't have to put up with being treated like something on the bottom of someone's shoe! \nI'd really strongly recommend that you take up a new interest or hobby, and sign up for some part time classes at college. It would help your daughter to recognise you as someone other than Mum, and it will help your self esteem.
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It will haunt her for the rest of her life. Magical world of computers. I got arrested for a hot check in 1992, and still have trouble with background checks.
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This is the reason I fear and lothe the police,I actually hate them and fear for my safety more and more ,and I am a 40 yr old white male . What must it be like for young women (cute girls pulled over to be asked out is NOT NEW) or minorities who are asked to endure this on a daily basis.Now before you hard line wanna bees shoot yourself in the proverbial foot MY RIGHT WING CREDINTIALS ARE IMPECABLE- member of young repulicans at LSU inBaton Rouge, also member ROTC, 4 yrs ARMY enlisted 6 yrs NATIONAL GUARD ,also was over the road TRUCK DRIVER. So I think I am fairly conservative- but this crap has to STOP !! This is why MY VOTE and MY MONEY are going to OBAMA 2008 !!!! To borrow from the 1968 GOLDWATER campaign "IN YOUR HEART ,YOU KNOW HE'S RIGHT!"
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My daughter didn't know what she wanted to do after graduating high school, so spent the next year working in a resort community. After getting to know the police officers there, she started to look into being a police officer. She's now close to graduating from college, and is attending the police academy. What I'm saying is that many kids don't know what they want to be until they get involved with something. Then, their natural talents kick in, and they begin to realize what they're good at. So, look at your talents. What are you really into? What feels more like fun than work? I think it's great to hear someone say that they get to work at what they love and ,oh by the way, they get paid to do it too! When you're excited about your job, you know that that's where you need to be. Whether that's waitressing or wheeling & dealing with corporations, enjoying your job is much better for you all around. Of course, having ANY job now days is better than nothing. I guess you need to look at the reasons behind you wanting to transfer. Don't just go to a college because of where it's located. That can get boring really quick. Look at what they have to offer. Also, look at your own talents. Line up what you have with what these colleges have to offer and see what sticks out. If your grades have been really decent, most colleges would be glad to have you. If your grades weren't so hot, you might consider going to a tech school, and get trained for a specific trade. It's cheaper and quicker. Hope you have much success in your career choice. <*)))><
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She is a perfect girl going through stages in life a tough way. Thank God she is being caught and hopefully it will eventually make her come to her senses and change her pitifull lifestyle. We all learn through mistakes and for sure she will learn thru hers too. Many of us have done this and are now responsible citizens & its only when you have been through it that you really get shaped in life. I for one started drinking (heavily) at 18, had a baby when i was 14, had a number of abortions. Was in and out of home as a teenager, cohabited several times as a teenager and did other more worse things and learnt alot from all these mistakes.  Went back to school, and now a chartered marketeer, doing well, raising my son wonderfully and a devout christian. What am saying is your daughter will get through all this, just be there for her no matter what she does. My Mom loved me though I was what others regarded a rotten girl. She loved me and kept telling me I could do it I wasnt all that bad, and I made it. So hang in there and keep encouraging her. She will change. Above all else pray for her, God wont fail you.
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This morning with my 16-year-old daughter. She made the mistake of asking why she had to listen to me, anyway?\n\nI pointed out that since I pay for everything from the clothes on her back to the food that she eats to the $150 soccer cleats I just bought her that she HAD to have -- then she has to listen to me. \n\nI also pointed out that since I still have the receipt for those yet unworn cleats, I would have no problem bringing them back if she didn't smarten up and act like the mature human being she keeps telling me she is.\n\nShe decided to smarten up.
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Sometimes I think it can seem that way but really I think its that they are still living in the baby stage, when they want something they hoop and holler until they get what they want.  I think what is scary though is that certain emotional and social skills may have not continued to grow and expand and yet there ways become more clever as their intelect grows leading to manipulation and scheming
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Not like that, no... \n\nShould I be nervous that she got a degree in science and remained that subjective in her job? I think so...\n\nI did have this experience the other day at work. I'm a waitress at an expensive place. This millionaire and his family came in. His daughter, a young woman in college, began to talk of the atheists she had met at school. They just had this conversation loud and proud about all these total misconceptions on what we are and what we are like... the usual stuff like the myths I posted earlier...\n\nAnd it made me feel as though THIS must be what it was like to be black in this country fifty years ago, or to be gay even in the present day... it was a horrible feeling. As if I am not human, just a specimen of some kind. I may have read too much into it... It just made me really sad.
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It really hits you hard.  I saw on Dateline the sicko's going after underage girls on the internet and trying to meet them in person. I also see that John Walsh is having a similar show on FOX.  I get so mad when I see this happening.  It's got to be some sort of disease...I don't understand it.  It is so WRONG! It leaves a disturbing feeling inside of me, so I know what you are talking about.  I seriously do not know how a guy can think that an underage kid is right for them. If you think like that, you should be put away for good or cut off down there.
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It would be one heck of a fanticy come true but are you ready for the repercusions!!!\n\nYou probably have a daughter older then her!!!
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Hey, Don't take that in your mind, Just Ignore them. There are some ppl who want to get 2 points but they don't want to help some one. Oh well I'm going on and on Here is what you will need to do. Go see your counselor and tell her that you want to be a Crime Scene Investigation crew but before that you have to decide that you want to Major in Biology or Chemistry. ones  you select that you also need to major in Criminal Justis. and Well most likely she will tell you every thing. And if your doing this because those ppl on TV looks cool to you don't do it do some that you really likes to do. If you know you will love to be 24/7 on call then do it.