He's married,30 yrs. I'm divored for 3 yrs.We dated 30 yrs o.Seeing each other.will he divorce his wife for me
339467
Chances are slim, plus why would you want to see him and even think of a future with a married man? Women amaze me that we would even think of doing other women this way. Show some pride in yourself and walk away...K
1073575
Intentionally or not, he's playing you both and he's already made his decision. The only way you are not going to lose him is to remain friends and leave it at that. You guys divorced for a reason and he remarried for a reason. \n\nIt's you that needs to make that decision, not him.
251429
First marriage I knew him several years, then I dated him for about a year, then he proposed. HE cheated 3 months after we were married (maybe sooner) and continued to cheat for 3 years before I gave him the boot...It took a year to get the divorce back then...I would have left him sooner, but my family kept saying things would get better. After he gave me an STD (thank God it was something that could be cured), I divorced him! Stupid that I stayed with him for so long, it was like gambling with my life! I was miserable and I really began to hate him and the sight of him. In the end he beat me up and I made sure it the divorce was as nasty as I could make it.\n\nThen 14 years later I met a nice man on the Internet, I had said I would never get married again. Never say never...we "dated" online for about a year, (this was back in 1995-1996, we had a private chat program called PowWow, and we chatted EVERY night, then talked on the phone to say "goodnight". \n\nHe was in the Northern US, and I was in the South. He proposed online, sent me a picture of the rings and asked me if I would consider moving up North to share his life, and be his wife and partner. I said "Yes".\n\nIn November, we will have been married for 10 years, and aside from some health difficulties, it's been a very good marriage! He's my best friend, and we did not even have to go through a bunch of head games while dating. I was honest with him when we chatted, and I feel that he has always been honest with me. I was on the high side of my 30s and he was about 5 years older than me. \n\nIt really freaked my friends out, when I suddenly dropped out of my usual routines to spend time chatting with my online boyfriend.  All of my friends said that I was crazy, he might be an ax murderer, and all kinds of wild things!  When he came down South, we met, and the very next day we eloped! VERY ROMANTIC, and I remember when I signed the marriage license my hand was shaking and so was his! \n\nWe both took a BIG leap of faith, and I feel like God blessed us! Things could have turned out so differently! I say it depends on the people in the relationship and what they want in life, and what they may have experienced in the past. I met some real nice men between husband #1 and my husband now. I just was not ready to trust my heart to anyone else so completely. Two of them proposed to me, but I eventually broke off the relationships because I had issues with trusting them. A cheating spouse can make a person very suspicious and cause them to sabatage future relationships because they are suspicious. After my experiences, I say, I believe in love. I have learned that there are some good loyal and truthful men in this world, and you never know when you may meet the right man for you!\n\nIf it's worth having, give it time. I would have continued the Internet relationship longer if things had not developed as they did. I think I knew that he was a "keeper", and if he had waited longer to propose, I would have waited for him. Don't ask me how, but I fell in love with a man that I could not even touch! We typed so much that I typed the letters off of two keyboards. :D\n\nGood luck, and may God bless you and your future too!\nruthie~
118650
No Way!!! If they did... although I would never want to go through a divorce, that is a great reason. If you are cool with it, then that is between you and yours. If not... It is time to do some serious reevaluating of your relationship!!!
522633
I would date a woman in that situation depending on why the divorce was not final yet.  There could be a lot of extenuating circumstances and you should ask him why it is not final yet.  Money, division of property etc all are factors that might be holding it up.  Is the wife contesting and drawing it out in court.  Is she refusing to sign papers.\n   Ask him, tell him how you feel about it.  if things are, or get serious, tell him that it is necessary for him to take those final steps so that you and him can progress.  I can understand your hesitation, but be upfront and honest with what you want and how you feel and see where things go.\nGood luck\nPeace and Love
510373
I hear your frustration, but I also hear someone who is still in love with the person they married.  Sure, you don't feel for him the way you used but some of that is normal after 10 years, and some of that is from the financial frustration that is dragging you down.  Some times life just doesn't work out the way we had planned and we have to decide if it is best to adjust our expectations or change our lives.  This isn't easy as you have stated because you may find out that nothing changes or things are even worse without him.  Divorce is a huge step and a risk because it doesn't guarantee you that everything will get better.  I guess the big question is, can things change financially just because of a divorce?
235158
If I were you, why struggle with who you're going to believe and just get away from the drama.  What was his reaction?  \n\nIf he's not divorced, he's still married and you don't want to be strung along thinking that it may happen.  If he still wants you, he'll get it done quick and then the two of you can carry on, but until that's done, don't be the one waiting for it to happen.  \n\nGood Luck!
596873
Remember that all guys are trying to get L@id and I’m thinking that he is preying on the fact that you just got a divorced.  Take it slow until you figure out what his game is.
563751
EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT.  It took me FIVE count them 5 years to get my divorce. If you know for a fact that the marriage is over (by meeting the ex or a child if they have one) AND you know the one you are seeing is living apart from their spouse then it is fine.  INVESTIGATE the person and make sure that they are telling you the truth.
39884
Almost never.  And besides, if he leaves his wife for you, what makes you think he won't do it to you (leave you for another)?  Not the best footing for a new relationship..
867642
yes, if he was married and never divorced, he is still married to the other women,\n\nno other marriage would be valid,  and in reality he is guilty of bigomy by marring to women.\n\nSo if you are the new "wife"  he needs to get a divorce and remarry you.
563234
Yes, you are right! If he loves you as much as he says he does then he must sort out his own problems with his wife. If they decide a divorce is the best way then that's on them. Question is do you really love him? If you both are just friends (nothing sexual) then that's okay. It may seem or feel questionable but as long as you both are friends it's okay. If you do really and truly love him my dear I would tell him how you feel. If he feels the same way about you then he must divorce her before he moves on with you. Sounds as if you are stuck in the middle here. That's no fun! Regardless, as friends, stand behind him in whatever he chooses to do. Good Luck!
1137521
i'm sure that he wants to marry you. that's just your own worry. you may want to talk to him about setting a more firm date, because you guys aren't getting any younger. and try not to worry about the two divorces, it was just bad circumstances. the third time is a charm, so they say.\n\nsurround yourself with great music and good books.
32476
Yeah, you probably will if you are trusting enough to ask complete strangers for relationship advice online. Good luck with that divorce too.
942089
He's using his kids as an excuse to stay in the marriage with his wife.\nIf he's been married for 3 years, despite the fact that he's not living with her, and the marriage is THAT bad, he would have gotten a divorce by now if he really feels strongly enough for you.\nI'd say, leave the guy.  He clearly doesn't know what he wants right now and if you try and get involved, you'll only get hurt.
842323
Divorce him I think you are awesome darlin .\n Oh yes how's it hanging ? LOL !
296419
Well, i wouldnt forget about him. I would stay close with him. Maybe just maybe if he is the right one for u and ur the right one for him he might divorse his wife and u both live happy for the rest of ur life. Ive seen this many of times and normally what u r felling is the sign that he is the one for u.