do u have to take a person that cuts themselves to a doctor for help or can you help them on your own?
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Anyone that cuts themself has a deep rooted problem that needs attention.  It is best you help them seek professional help, instead of trying to help them yourself.  Getting them professional help is helping them in a way that it's showing (or should show) them you care about their well being.   Get them to a professional, the problem is too deep for just a common person to help.
123856
Many people who self harm are misunderstood. Obviously your friend needs help and perhaps that is his/her only way of letting people know about it. If you can, convince your friend to take up counselling or let someone who can do something about it know.YOu also hang in there. It must be hard to be close to someone who is hurting.
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She definately needs professional help, but there are things that you can do now.  You can be there to listen to her.  It may be tempting to demand her to stop immediately, but this approach will most likely alienate her.  She knows she needs to stop, so telling her what she already knows is useless.  often, just knowing they have someone who cares enough to listen eases a lot of their pain.\n\nYou might try to help her to understand why she feels she has to cut herself.  Does it make her feel better?  Does she feel like she deserves it?  What is she thinking when she cuts herself?  The cutter usually uses physical pain to alleviate emotional pain.  Also keep in mind that there may be other underlying problems or mental disorders (such as bipolar, obsessive compuslive, depression, or even eating disorders) that are causing her to do this.  In those cases, simply talking with her will not solve anything.  \n\nIf you are a young person, you need to make sure you get help.  Try as hard as you can to get her to confide in a trusted adult, preferably her parents unless circumstances wouldn't permit it.  Cutting can become life-threatening, even if the person is not sucidal, so it is important to get her to a professional immediately.\n\nThere are also books out there that may be able to help her.  Go to your local library or search online.  If your friend is religious, you might refer her to her local pastor or priest.  Recently, Jehovah's Witnesses had articles about this type of self-cutting in the January and Febuary Awake Magazine.  You can look up "Jehovah's Witnesses" in the phonebook and call for someone to drop off the magazines free of charge.  Getting something in her hand that she can read may be what she needs to motivate her to get help.\n\nWhatever you decide to do, please get help for her, but also make sure that you get help as well.\n\nP.S. If you are not in a romantic relationship with her, be supportive and positive, but becareful about saying too many "lovey" things to her.  Since she is in a very emotional state, she could very easily begin to thik of you as more than a friend.  The last thing you both need is to have her fall in love with you, then become more depressed when you do not return the feelings.  If you do have some feelings for her, please wait for her to get help before pursuing any type of relationship.  Carefully consider whether you are mature enough to understand all that is involved with loving someone in her condition.  Again, getting trusted adults involved will be a safegaurd to you and help to protect both of your feelings during this very sensitive time.
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depends on what you were committed for - did you check yourself in, or did somebody else take you there?  what did you do to get yourself admitted?  If you checked yourself in, then most likely you can leave on your own, but if you were involuntarily admitted (somebody took you there against your will) then you probably can't check yourself out until you get evaluated by a doctor and given an okay.
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I know every singly one of these answers is going to tell you to get help, and I know that is the one thing you don't want to hear, but it's what you need to do. If you feel like you can take it straight to your parents then do, but if not take it to a school counselor. Trust me, they've heard this before and it won't be anything new to them; they will know what to do to help you get through this. They want to help you get through this, ok? But you know what the good news is, it just sounds like a case of bad depression! Nothing more! And depression is treatable. I understand that you may feel like you have to cut, and while I don't like it I agree that it is a better option than suicide SO make sure you use clean blades, etc. and keep the cut clean until it heals. No one is going to be able to help you tell anyone else about this so you are going to have to do it on your own. It doesn't even have to be a parent or counselor. It could be anyone you trust. Prefereably an adult, but you could tell a kid and ask them to take it to an adult if that was easier. Any way you do this you are going to be ending up dealing with adults. There is no way around that, but if you tell them yourself at least you get to pick an adult you trust and that you feel comfortable around. Things can get better if you'll let them, but it's probably going to take some work. I wish you sooooo much luck and send tons of love. Know that you're not alone, there are other people with the same problems who have gotten through this.
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Actually it's still best to see a doctor in person.  But you can chance it here, for instance.  They may not identify themselves but you could get sound answers/ opinions.  At least give you an idea, as to what you have or what you can do.
301203
I am not a parent of a child that self-harms..but if it is any consilation ..I used to be a child who did the "self-harming" ...if I can be of any help just let me know....
57327
Any serious withdrawal should be done under a doctor's supervision.  Don't go it alone.
365856
You keep asking for help. People have answered with great advice. But you take no action to get the help you need. We can do no more for you now. IT IS ALL UP TO YOU NOW! Make a decision to go to the doctor and get some professional help. YOU have to decide to do what is best for you and your situation. Why keep asking if you are not going to take action. I could be helping some else who really wants help instead of spending it on someone who can't reach the correct decision to simply go to a trained professional. Good luck and Goodbye!
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i think some can help you but some need to see one themselves
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My son start cutting himself 5 years ago.  The best thing that I did was to educate myself about why he was doing it.  I went into chat rooms for cutters, read blogs by cutters, did anything I could to interact with others who cut.  \n\nShe is not trying to kill herself.  If you can get her to talk about it, great.  Until then, try to find out why people cut from cutters themselves.
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I think that this person needs to get some professional help.  He/she obviously has some serious issues - no one is worth hurting yourself for.
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Self harm is very common, people do it in all sorts of ways.\n\nIf I was your friend I would want you to tell me about it, so that I had peace of mind that you were safe.  Are you safe?\n\nSelf harm can be done in a safe way, if you cut yourself make sure that what you use is sterile, and is not going to cut you too deeply.  I would much prefer that you didn't cut yourself, and that you spoke to a counsellor.  \n\nI know that this is your way of coping with things, but trust me, hurting yourself is not going to help you in the long run.  All it will do is cause you more problems, more upset and more loneliness.\nTalk about it, get help.\n\nDon't worry about what your friends will say or if they think your weird, because its done now anyway.  This is about you.  Sort yourself out and don't worry about your friends reaction, that should make no difference to how you change your habit.
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awww, she needs someone to talk to, if her family is not an option, she should call her local crisis hotline and ask for a referral to a mental health professional, she can also talk to a counselor at school but she may be concerned about the confidentiality, she can talk to her medical doctor, she can also talk to someone at her church or if she hasn't one, any local church will do. Cutting oneself maybe a symptom of a serious problem that requires professional help...as far as hating her family but being ready to do anything for her friends well that is called being a teenager *smile* She should also know that drugs are even more dangerous for those who are suffering from depression.
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It's a disturbing idea that someone would actually cut into their own bodies as much as if you were doing it to others.  It's also a sign of mental instability.  In the military, who would want to team up with someone who had such deep seated issues?  If a person does have the urge to cut themselves, they should seek help through a therapist to deal with the underlying problems.  Cutting is not the answer, just like alcoholism or drug abuse.
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No your doctor can help.
1066707
I know exactly what you mean, when you have that feeling, you just want someone to sit and listen to you, and not judge you. Personally, I think it depends on the person you talk to, you need someone close to you, who knows a bit of what your going through, but who also knows that you aren't out just to get attention (this is most cutters main worry- and often this stops them from talking to people.) Explain your reasons for self harming and tell them that your not aking for their help- you can get this from professionals. You just need someone to listen and actually HEAR what your saying.