i got involved with a man that is married i feel so hurt he hasn't broken up wit his wife like he promised?!
352674
Welcome to the world of liars and cheats.  They will tell you anything to get you in bed.  How their wives don't understand them, how horrible she is and they have no intentions of ever leaving their wives.  Take this as a lesson learned and leave married men where they belong, with their wives.
447946
I just answered your other question and I felt the need to answer this one too! Girl you are in a very emotional state right now, you need to cut all ties to this other man, this is why you are being so hard on yourself! You need to FOCUS! Stick to the topic at hand and that is that of your marriage! You need to start talking more to your husband and let him know you feel no emotional support from him and let him know how you are feeling (if you haven't already)!\n\nThere are alot of people that both of you have involved involuntarily, they did not ask to be in the situation, you need to be the adult here and finish what you started right? Do what YOU KNOW is right not what every one tells you too! I hope you do get some answers here that will help in your decision making, but ultimately the decision is yours to make. Good Luck to you!
203398
H*ll no!!! Me allowing myself to chase after a man that has a wife already, is basically telling him to do whatever he wants b/c I don't respect myself anyway. I would feel terrible knowing that Im chasing after a man that belongs to someone else. Imagine being with a man thinking that he loves you more than ever, and finding out that he just dogged you out b/c of some female that didn't mean anything but a nightly screw@!!!! Oh yeah that's right many females know about that already I answered some of their questions on Yahoo Answers!!!!
78441
I dont think thats something u can easily do...its something that im currently going through with a truely wonderful man that cant trust our love because of all the heartache he suffered with his x-wife.I cry,I pray,stay busy
284032
I warn my husband about this all the time.  I feel me and him don't have a deep mutual understanding of each other.  You know how with some people you have that love and understnading and emotional connection and with others you don't.  he and I don't have that - thought we did but we rushed into the marriage.  I keep telling him that if he continues to be that way - he complains and argues about everything that I am interested in and criticizes me for the way I do things ..doesn't understand the real me. We just doesn't have that real true love "connection" as your wife calls it and "emotional" understanding for one another ... he has no idea what i mean when i explain this to him; I tell him he's gonna be the guy that 10 years down the road the wife will say "i want a divorce" and the entire time he would never see it coming and would wonder "where did I go wrong - i thought everything was fine" ... but you know what .. I commend you for reading books and seeing a counselor.  I try to read books about this stuff to my husband and he gets mad and defensive or he'll just ignore what I'm reading to him.  If she doesn't give you that chance to work it out then she is just fed up and there is no hope.  Give her a little more time - although she probably feels less hurt becasue she knows you are still wanting to be with her so she's not scared about this time apart.  If you were to act like her and accept it - then it would scare her.  When I threaten to leave sometimes and he is beggin for me not to, I feel the urge to leave even more because I know I have the upper hand and he's wrong.  But .. if he would act like he wouldn't care for ex: one time he said "fine I'll pack your bags for you" I felt really vulnerable and hurt but it scared me ... and we ended up making up instead of me leaving.   Take everyones advice - just take it day by day - you'll be fine and she'll come around - if its over just let it go .. use what you have learned to help you out later.  Just note that women need emotional attention and understanding- we are weird like that.
561757
Now I got your problem- Sweetie... You have to move on your life.. for all you know he might have been married all the time you had chatted with him.. And you dont love him... this is not love... love is when you actually let go of the person whom you say you love and when that person comes back to you... you can say its love. Right now its nothing more of an attraction. Get out and meet new people.. try n get over him... if he doesnt want have a relationship with you stop pusuing him...!!!
397434
Really, cut your ties with this man, he's not a future for you. You continue to see this man and you will continue to get lied to and cheated on too. He doesn't know how to be honest or faithful. To love someone like that isn't really love. Your feelings for this man hon, isn't what you really think it is. I don't know you, but I see that your taking who ever says nice things to you. Shoot, I could feed you with all kinds of nice words, but doesn't mean I really mean it. I wouldn't even give a another second to this man. Let him and her work through their own problems. Take your loss now and bail out sweetie. It's not worth it. Staying on with this guy or telling his wife, what will you gain from it. The satisfaction of telling her. No, wrong! Maybe for a while but later down the road. hhhmmmm Trust in your self and move on. Good luck to you.
80303
If you knew he was cheating before you got married, more than likely he's cheated or is wanting to cheat since you've been married. This was not a secret that was kept from you and you knew what you were getting into before you got married. Do this, ask yourself these questions: Have you found any evidence that shows he has cheated or is wanting to cheat? Have you confronted him about it and have you shared your feelings with him about this? Is this relationship with this person really that important to you? If any of the above answers give you that "sick to your stomach / queezee" feeling, then you might want to reconsider your marriage with this person. You shouldn't have to have these bad feelings everyday,especially if this person is supose to be your best friend and soulmate. If you are ok with it and can work things out and be happy,then YES, forgive and forget. Everyone should get a second chance.Good luck and take care.
751991
i know the feeling believe me....(((sigh))) but we cannot make this men want us like the way we want them...you just have to get over it...yes it's hard but it doesn't leave us any other option than that...\n\ndon't make yourself miserable and prove to yourself that you are worth more than that man...it's his lost not yours...allow yourself to mourn for your heartache but don't indulge yourself in self pity...try out new things or maybe you can pick up that old hobby you have already forgotten when you were busy loving this man...cheer up and something good will definitely come your way, just be patient and believe!
28468
i suggest that you sit down and  talk to your husband.  this may cause many mnay problems down the line if your not already feeling a certain way towards him now, marraige is a HUGE responsibility, and it is not something to be taken lightly,youe need to discuss this with him and try to find a way to resolve these issuses.
849451
Don't worry about it he will get over it he just feels a little rejected. but you did the right thing you shouldn't be involved with a person that is in a relationship.
561487
Hon, you need to take the blinders off.He is trying to have his cake & eat it too.He is treating you like you have no sense.Do you honestly,in your heart,think he is living with his wife & not having relations with her.You know he is lying to you & do you want a liar? Get on with your life & you'll find the right person.This guy is the wrong one!!
1109525
First of all unless anyone has walked in your shoes they should not be judging you.  I am going through the same thing right now.  It has not been easy for me.  This person is a friend of mine and my husbands, he is also married.  We were chatting then one thing lead to another, the chat turned sexual and from there I formed an emotional bond with this man. Nothing has happend physically but  it has totally messed up my emotions, I feel like I am a mess since this has happend.  I have a great husband, and I am no longer communicating with our friend, but honestly I always think about him and miss him, why I don't know but it has been real hard.  This is one door I wish I never would have opened.  I don't know your details but the one thing I can tell you is to ask yourself what led you to do this, I had to do the same and I am in counseling right now.  Believe me I did not expect this hardship when I first started dabbling in this, it seemed harmless and kind of fun, but like they say when you play with fire, you will get burned and that I did.
530615
You should be afraid.. this type of romance never works out.. You would always worry that if he left his wife for you.. then he may leave you for another... and He will feel like if you would go with him when he was married then you will go with someone else if you are married.. there is no respect for the marriage.. what makes you or him think there ever will be? Find a single man and have a happy life.... You can find love with a single man and have a happier life... good luck.. :)
217847
well, first off, you insensitive jerk... you shouldn't have married this woman and promised her your heart until the end of time if you were going to get "tired" of marriage. and if you really feel this way, you shouldn't cheat. you should at least have the respect to end the marriage before finding someone new. rather than bringing her home aids or something, to make it where she can't ever find happiness again. you know what, I hope she gets on the computer one day and finds all this stuff you've been writing, and dumps your sorry ass!
389620
Look in the mirror. You are looking at a married woman. Why did you get married in the first place if you weren't prepared for a commitment.  "I do" doesn't mean " until something better comes along". Forget this guy unless you are able to remain "just friends". I feel sorry for your husband!
421904
If he's admitted he still has feelings for his ex then if i were you i would leave him alone, he's using you to help him get over the brake down of his marriage!! you deserve better than that tell him how you feel and that what he's doing is wrong, people need time to get over stuff like that! walk away before you get really hurt! :)