How do I get my long time ex's bestfriend to date me?
351022
go on a double date- with your x,him, and one of your friends. have fun.  after a while ask him if he wants to go out to eat or something. Good Luck!
911219
Listen girl...\n\nthe majority of relationships that happen.. the majority are brought together because people are best friends...\ni mean, best friends do get together in some cases.. right? you agree with me... so you know..\n\nmaybe your man is best friends with his Ex.. and they still feel that brotherly - sisterly connection... then there's nothing you can do about it... \n\nbut just.. don't worry about it... all you can do is just trust him.. and besides... since he goes out with his ex... why not take advantage of that.. and go out with some of your guy friends... use it as a sort of an excuse.. "You go out with your ex... why not i go out with my guy-friends"\nI know it's childish, but hey! you can have fun that way...\n\nand i'm sure your b/f has fun with his ex...\nno girl.. not that kind of fun.. lol...\n\ntake care
514061
I hear ya hunny. The same thing happened to me nearly 4 years ago. When we broke up I took him off my aim list and didn't talk to him for about a year because it was just too hard. He also started seeing someone about a month after we broke up and he is still with her. It does get easier but it is a very very slow process. You just gotta build up talking in general before you can start talking as best friends again. It was just last year that we could start talking like buds again. If he was your first love you may never get over him but eventually you will have to put that behind you if you want your friendship back.\n\nJust try and give it some time, Best Wishes!
1023767
talk to your best friend about whether or not she would be comfortable with you dating either of them! on one hand, she probably still has feelings for her ex, no matter WHAT she says...on the other, she may feel like you are giving her younger brother more attention than her, and that may cause a rift in your relationship...my true advice, date someone that has no ties to your best friend, or you may risk losing her friendship forever. boys will forever come and go, crushes lose their potency...but a true friend is something to be valued more than a boy toy.
364892
Figure out what you want for real. Do you have the habit of moving from one guy to the next? If so, stop and take a few breaths before you get involved next time.\n\nAs for the guys, stay away from his best friend. You never should date a boyfriend's best friend unless the old relationship is long dead. And even then, it can be a sensitive topic.
602047
Ask her if its ok to go out with him. After all, its her ex and its wise to ask as certain people find it unsettling to see their ex's going out with another person already even if its with their best friend. It also depends upon how long they have been seperated. If it was quite long ago, ask her else look out for someone else.
901404
you let him go for whatever reason that may be or you all split up, therefoer you dont really have a right to have a say on who he dates but you can tell your best friend how you feel. Even so if they love each other there isnt much you can do. Just let them go, if it was meant to be between the two of you it may not work out between the best friend and him and then you can ask him back.You  also should tell your  ex how you feel about him still.  But honestly you should move on because there will be many loves in your life. Dont get stuck on someone who doesnt share the same feelings for you as it can only lead to endless pain.\nSorry if that wasnt the answer you wanted but I honestly dont think theres anything else you could do without getting your heart broken or making one or both of them angry with you. Because if you try to split them up or sabatoge their relationship it will only cause them anger and resentment towards you.
349176
I was in the same situation with my current boyfriend. We were best friends for five years and I was even married and divorced in that time. I finally just went after him and it worked out for me. Don't play games just be honest and ask.
545960
Have your mind made up. This is the hardest part. Make sure this is what you want. If you think there is still something left inside of you for this person, chances are you will go back and will repeat these steps over again. \nMake a written list of all the reasons why things will be better if the relationship is over. Think of what will happen if you stay with this person, and how many years of your life you could end up spending on an unhealthy relationship. Keep this list close to you at all times. \nThink ahead. Have a day when you decide it's over and you are going to move on. Don't just jump up and leave on an impulse. If you can, talk to that person and say, "When rent is up this month, I am going to find another place" or "I'm moving in with my parents" or "You need to leave at the end of this month." This gives the person time to make arrangements. And, it's much easier to go back on an impulse then it is to go back on a calmly and clearly stated intention. \nKeep the peace. Don't allow the person to suck you into the same old arguments, guilt trips, or drama. State your intention and walk away. Case closed. There's nothing left to do but follow through. \nOnce on your own, treat yourself. If you don't, you may get bored and call this person. Make some new friends and constantly have something up your sleeve. Do things that you were not able to do because of this person. This will let you know that you have still got it and make you feel good inside. \nCut off all communication. Even if you intend to stay friends, it's a good idea to avoid contact with this person for at least a month after you break up. Otherwise, it's extremely easy for them to slip right back into their old role in your life and start the cycle all over again. \nTry not to think about or bring up old memories. If friends start talking about this person, tell them you don't want to talk about it, whether good or bad. Get rid of gifts, photographs, and any other relics of the relationship--or at least put them way out of sight. \nPrepare for the possibility that your ex may say things to your friends, family or co-workers and make you look bad. He or she may not have been ready to let go like you did. Be the mature one and laugh about it. Eventually it will stop. \nRemember that this was just not the "one." Oh well, things couldn't work out. This is life. Make sure you still have what it takes to be good to the next person you are with. Remember the traits of the person you left and compare them to the person to are interested in. This will help it from happening again.
185973
Get EVERYTHING you own that reminds you of them and put it in a box. Give that box to friend and have them stash it somewhere you won't have access to it. Change your sheets, get a new haircut (something dramatic, this helps alot btw), get a differrent hobby, don't talk to them for a few years, none of this "we can still be friends bs" cause you won't want to hear about who they're dating, go on dates with other people, get into shape (like way better than you are now, with the expectation that you'll run into your ex again and will be able to say "see what you lost, now you can't have me anymore"), spend a lot of time with your friends, try to learn more about who YOU are without that person in your life, change whatever you don't like about yourself, cut loose of any ties to that person. In 5 years, give them a call (if you are over them) and see what they are up to, maybe then you can be friends.
802742
Don't do it!\n\nFriends are really important. Dating their exes is not a good idea because it can make things really strange between you. (been there...it's really not nice) and it can be really awkward if you bring him along to something where your friend is too.
912994
If you want to do it, then do it. \nAlways make sure that you are being sensitive to his emotions. Don't just drop him hard. Ease into it. If the relationship has been on the rocks for a while, he may see it coming. Don't dote on him one minute, and drop him the next. It confuses the heck out of them, and they might think that you really didn't mean it. \nSay, "I've been thinking about this for a while, and I don't think we should be a couple any more. Its not something that we can fix, and I want you to know that I've learned a lot, and I hope you have too. I'm not going to say we should be friends, because I know that you need to figure a few things out. So do I. I am sorry that this didn't work out, and I hope that you do meet someone even better than me."\nAnd then leave. If you must, go ahead and go on a date with that guy...but if you flaunt your new relationship in front of your old boyfriend, you would be ripping out his heart. Don't do that. Keep it low-key for a while. You'll just look like an idiot if you don't. And no one else will want to date you because look what you did to your old boyfriend.\n\nBest of luck
223471
Screw his best friend, and make sure you tell his friend he's got a bigger penis and is a better lover than your ex. That will pretty much put and end to your ex touching you and messing with your head. Then you can move on. Because he's just looking for no-strings-attached sex from you now.
635137
nothing spoils faster than jealousy.  She may feel like she has to compete with you.  Back away for awhile.  Eventually she will come back around and if she doesn't she wasn't your real friend anyway.  And ignore the part with the ex---you have already had him and obviously hes not worth your time.  No worries!!!!!!!!!!!
240696
You are a kind guy and you have a nice friendship which can be developed. However, as it is such a nice relationship, you should be careful and patient. Make sure that she is ready and is not hurt by her ex anymore, if not she will reject you though she knows you are good guy. Remember that, you can be her best friend forever but if you make a mistake you will loose everything.
613077
This was on Oprah today... Even tho they were married, but anyway...\n\nYes, your friend was not your friend.. A true, BEST friend would NEVER even consider it.  Give the "friend" and the "boyfriend" up and find new ones. You are better than that, and there are so many more people to meet! You are worth it!  Don't lower your standards for people who don't care about you and how you feel.  Never settle.  Good luck honey!
18079
ask his bestfriend or his girlfriend why do you need it he is your ex