IF your bf is really jealous, because of things that you have done in the past what should you do?
355355
Start establish & gain back the truth from the smallest things:\n- Be on time. \n  Example: I will call you at 5:15 today.  I will see you at 7:20pm ...etc.  Try to make this type of "On time" happens every day.\n\n- If things that you can not confess, then you have a reason to keep it secret.   \n\n- Be a good listener.  Encourage he talks, expresses ..\n\nBest Regards.
292206
I think what you did was within your right.  You talked to your bf and he said that he talked to her about it and it didn't stop.  I don't want you to not trust your bf but there is a chance that he never said anything to her.  I had a similar situation where my ex-bf's ex-gf kept calling all the time for advice.  I realize they were just friends but she would call at all hours of the night becuase she had a fight with her current bf.  I talked to my ex about this and he said he would talk to her.  One night she called around 3:30 and I picked up the phone.  I told her that I wasn't happy about her calling this late and my bf had already talked to her about this.  She told me that he hadn't said anything to her at all.  So with that long story ;) that was my point there is a chance he didn't tell her that you had a problem with it all.
946034
Something we say things in a matter of anguish. You know your BF best. Wait for him to apologise, and when he does, you apologise as well.
112736
He's probably very insecure and by making you jealous he's assuring himself that you care-it really sucks doesnt it? My question is: Why be jealous of his EX girlfriends-they are EXS for a reason!!
138681
Your jealous because you love him and you are worried about anything happening. I never used to be jealous and now I catch myself getting that way when he talks about going to strip clubs and things like that. If there is trust then that is all you need besides love. If there is no trust to begin with then the relationship has nothing. Dont worry but show him you care.
1043561
babygurl..the past is the past..you have to live for now and the future..maybe you have to write a note...to get it off your chest..sit down and write it down on a peice of paper if you dont want to write it you cant type it..open ur your email..put to yourself..because you're going to keep it fr your eyes only..put put it as though you are writting it to him..get all of your feelings out on that screen/paper..trust me i do it sometimes and it makes me feel a whole lot better..has he apoligized to you about it? maybe thats the problem..he hasnt apolgized..but you know hwat?! i would tell you to talk to him about it..how you're feeling..but some people dont like old news or to be brought up the past when its already done and over with so i dont know what to tell you..yuo just have to let it go..how do you expect to live for/in the future if you keep living for/in the past..you may not always forget what a person has done but you can forgive what they have done..and if he's done it years ago..why are you still letting it bother you? forget about it?! its useless..why are you keeping it fresh in your mind? if you find you cannot do anything to solve these problems maybe you should talk to him about it or maybe a counsler can help you...or maybe you just need to find somebody else..is it about trust issues? what is it? if you are having your doubts and you are unhappy why are you in a relationship with him in the first place? maybe you need to let him go and find somebody else or just take a breath for a while? theres really no way to get away for it..its eaither you take him and love him thick and thin for his mistakes or whatevers hes done in the past or you have to set him free..i dont know what else to tell you..keep your head up! good luck! hope i helped..start to think about positive things..he does..or places yall been or good memories..stop thinking about things that bother you from years ago...learn grow from it and close that chapter..move on!
863077
Honey don't waste your time and energy being jealous and hurt over this.  You need to work on your own self esteem it seems.  Your energy would be better spent building your own self confidence.  And if this relationship you have with him is going to work it will have to include trust and communication.  If you had a problem with him going to a place like that you should not have made him believe otherwise only to bring it up later.  You say you don't think he would cheat so you must have some basis for believing he will be true to you.  And I can assure you if he is going to cheat it most likely will not be with the lap dancing stripper in front of everyone.  However, I certainly would question the solidity of what this relationship is based on now if I were you.  Doesn't sound like the actions of a man who respects your relationship to me  because regardless of his intentions his actions were very public and seemingly not terribly concerned how it looked.  Now you say he is going again even after you told him you were hurt by his actions. Does he respect you or not?  Do you really care?  You make sure you are confident and sure in who you are and what you stand for.  Walk proud and do not be swayed or controlled by the actions of anyone else.  I promise you any man will be more attracted to a confident woman who doesn't give a second thought to being jealous over such things as a juvenile boys will be boys outburst meant to boost his own ego.  You will be a much happier person and there will be far fewer nights spent home alone wondering what or who he is doing.  Take care of you and the rest will take care of itself. I promise.  I don't believe in jealousy.  It is  a waste of time and energy.
268393
just play along with his little bi(t)chmade games...you're probably cute to him when you get jealous...that must get his rocks off.If he's not cheating then so what...take the other peeps advice,see what happens.Play a game similar to his,see how he likes it.Or pretend that you don't care,he'll probably try something else to annoy you...if that's the case then confront him and/or find a real "G" who doesn't play games....................
509904
He is trying to control the situation. He wants you to feel jealous of the other girls.  It isn't important who messed up; what is important is realizing that you did.  Learn from the mistakes you made and move on. Instead of living in the memories go out and create new ones with someone else. Life is about increase. There is no increase in living in the past.
425770
Yes us men do get very jealous sometimes, this can be easily done to some men who are over protective for those men all it takes is a smile or a flirty lkk at another man. But yes if hes a guinuine boyfriend he will defend your honour no matter what he thinks you are doing.
473151
you need to be honest with him and with yourself, and that monster you are experiencing is called jealousy, don't let it get the best of you!
543333
ugh welcome to my world! its very hard to gain trust again and ive been struggling with that for the past year with my bf. he is amazing and loving and the best person i have EVER met,,, yet i am always testing the waters and trying to catch him out in a lie. it drives ME crazy so i would imagine it makes him feel that way too. \n\none step is realising what you are doing, which has happened because you are here asking the question. trust is sacred and its hard to get it back even tho this is a new person who hasnt hurt you. what im trying to do is, whenever i have those awful 'ghosts from the past' flying around my head, i think about everything great that my bf has said and done, things that are so different from anyone else and make me feel important and loved. it does help but i have to really work at the demons. \n\nim aware that there are no guarantees in life, you never know whats going to happen, but living in the past is not the way to go. there are people out there who would not cheat - you're one yourself so it stands to reason there are others. thats what i tell myself too. i have major jealousy issues because every single one of my exes way back to the teen years cheated on me with a girl they swore was 'just a friend'. i cant stand hearing those words and they make my skin prickle. but that is in my head and in my past. \n\none of my friends just told me that i have to tell myself that i CANNOT LET THE PAST CONTROL ME. all these years i thought i was in control, always on guard, always trying to catch people out in lies, etc etc. i vowed i would never let myself get humiliated again.. but thats where my fault lies - i was looking for it, waiting for it to happen again and letting it control my life. that is not healthy. i am trying to just live day by day and not let those that hurt me in the past CONTINUE to hurt me by infecting my brain and causing me to not trust my bf. if he truly loves me he will not cheat on me... so the message to take from that is tha if he does cheat on me one day, he is not the right person for me afterall and im better off not being in the relationship anymore, no matter how much it hurts. but i dont think about that often either, i think about today and tomorrow and yesterday. and how much love my bf shows me, and little by little its helping me to erase the past.\n\ngood luck! dont let others tell you that you are nuts, its a very hard thing to get over for many people, especially if you were badly hurt in the past and more than once.
945332
since you have not given him reason to be jealous.....tell him to relax and enjoy being with you. he is the one and tell him to know that and spend more time thinking  about you as a couple...other guys are not a factor.....insist on this....
1175702
Do activites that you enjoyed before being in a relationship with him.  Do things you like.  Then, add in another boyfriend after you have had some time to yourself.  Hope this helps.
900398
Don't second guess it for a second.  You did the right thing.  It sounds like he was a jealous loser.
943667
Sounds like he has big trust issues, you should talk to him about your concerns, if not I would walk away..... Jealously can lead to violence
1162006
yeah. Its understandable though. When you feel jealous, just think that those girls were once a part of his life, you are the one who got him!!! He can't censor his life for you; when you married him you married all of him. that includes his past!