I have been dating my BF for 3 years.  Need Relationship Help!!!?
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Unfortunately in the real world, Love does not conquer all.  You need trust. . . w/out trust you cannot have a relationship.  Also, a relationship is supposed to enrich our lives. . .if it does not, and we are not happy, even if we love them, we are not meant to be with them anymore. . . \n\nIt is also not healthy for your kids if you guys are unhappy and remain together . . . .the bad "karma" will rub off on them.  \n\nGo to counseling and see if you guys can figure out your problems.  If not. . then maybe it is time to call it quits.  Even if it hurts, it may be for the best.
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you just wait till a gurl that you really like and that would respect you for who you are not what you have thats what i did for my BF and we have been together for 3 years it worked out perfectly dont always follow what everyone else does...hope it all works out :)
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some people have some really dumb answers.....sorry about that. I hate to say this but you already know what you are going to do. I only hope you have the support around you that you need. You as the mother of your childern have them to consider first and formost. If you love this guy but it is going to harm the childern, get out. don't look back. Pick yourself up by the boot straps and bite the hard one and make it on your own, (getting help from friends and famley is still making it on your own terms) If bf is going to change he can do it someplace else and demostrate his sincearity with out draging you down with him along with all his other baggage. Make a plan, sit down and do some real sole searching and make a long term plan for yourself and your childern. Once you have a goal it is easy to make some good move towards that goal and away from the emotional roller coster you have been on. Look at yourself and see the honest value you are. then look at your bf and hold this measure to the picture. Every relaytionship is built of certain durable materials. the first of these is truthfulness.If you cannot look into his eyes and speak out always the truthful thought and feeling with the simplicity of a little child, there can be no real love between you. Trust is the first requisite for making a friend: Faithfulness is the first requisite for keeping a friend. and trust and faithfulness cannot endure without truthfulness. Love can exisit with out friedship but friendship cannot exist with out respect. Look, look deep within and you shall find your answers.....
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Sounds to me like you are thinking right, atleast you recognize that you are indeed his "yo-yo". Honey, I hate to say this but you have GOT to move on. Show him you are noone's yo-yo and get the heck outta this relationship. Who does he think he is? You are too special and important to be treated this way. There's someone out there who will love you and treat you just the way you deserve, like a princess. I have been where you are and I'm 28 now. I've had my share of long relationships and trying to force them to work and basically living in denial. I have finally found my soul mate and I love him so very much! and he is SO good to me. He's everything I have ever dreamed of since I was little, he's my best friend! You stop wasting your time on this guy (I know it's not that easy, 3 years is a long time). But you do need to get out of this now. Show him that you are not going to sit around and always be there waiting for him. Quit making this easy for him! You can do it! So get out there and get happy, life is too short to live this way. Can you really see yourself living the rest of your life this way? What about when you have children? He isn't going to change. Move on sweetie!
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It's a good sign that you're wondering if you're ready for a b/f. If you feel that you want that it's all good. Just be careful not to go too far too fast. At that age it feels like it will last a Lifetime, but the reality is 3 mos. and another 3 yrs. of heartache. But that's how you get better at relationships down the line. Take it light, have fun, go out, do stuff; just don't spend all you time in the bedroom. Relationships are about a LOT more than that. Yet it's also hard to resist at that age. (I know how I was, and maybe that's the farthest thing from your mind. All I'm saying is don't give too much away too fast.)
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My dear, i am in the same situation as you. my BF is 600km away. we are still studying and only meet once every 4 to 5 months. we keep our relationship more like a best friend relationship rather then a love relationship. The most importand of all is the word TRUST. with it you will be sucessful. We have been in a long distance relationship for more then 3 years now and we will be getting married end of next year. \n\nMy dear, I really want you to suceed. many people around you will discourage you saying that because he is not by your side,you will break up soon. dont believe it.  if i can make it. you can too. just trust him. do more emails to him. sms him more. call him more. send you pictuers to him via MMS or email. let him know how much you love him.\n\nI wish you all the best.
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It sounds like you have a really great guy there but the relationship is too intense. Tell him that you are feeling uncomfortable because you aren't ready for such a serious relationship. He needs to back down a bit. Good luck. I hope you can make it work.
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Sounds like you two have reached a crossroad in your relationship.  You two need to talk and decide if what you each want in life is the same or if it is time to go your separate ways.  Some times as your growing up in a relationship two people simply grow apart in terms of what is important for the future.  I think this may be what has happened here.  If you two can't talk this out and come to an agreement about what this relationship should be and the rules and expectations regarding it then you have reached the end.
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my bf and i are going through this right now. i'm going to school and he is working so its hard for us to spend much time together. what is really important is to set aside time that is just for the two of you. make your relationship just as important as anything else you would do. its hard at first to make the time but it will help out the relationship a lot.
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Communication! I have been with the same guy for 7 years and I am just realizing since we moved in together that its one area  we need work in.  Its so important!  Also keep dating each other.  People always seem to get "comfy" in a relationship and it gets boring.  Keep things exciting.
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all you have to do is wait coz i too have this problem we are even 5 yrs ++...we both wanted to settle down but you should also cosider some things and make sure u are ready for it. maybe ur bf has still other priorities this time and maybe he is just preparing himself for the future..
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Give it time, let him get to know you, my bf was the same way but after we spent time talking and just hangin out he realized that I was different and that I did not want to hurt him or mess with him, now we are in love and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him and he feels the same way. I hope everything works out.\n ~Kim~
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Well it's weird that he hasn't noticed that you've had a crush on him for 3 years. However, you should always speak your mind. If you don't tell him you will always be thinking "what if". You wouldn't like to have regrets later on that there's a possibility that you two could have been together.Also you want to be free of this feeling. Just tell him and let him decide if he want's to continue to be with his girlfriend or give you a chance. And if he doesn't feel the same towards you, don't worry, sooner or later you'll forget about him.
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Because you are currently friends and you do have feelings for him, it is important to value that friendship.  I would mention the importance of your current relationship to him.  BF/GF stuff can get emotional and it is easy to mess things up.  So maybe you should start very slowly, to sort out your feelings and to work into this gradually.  I think the biggest issue is that you continue to respect eachother.  \nIf you keep communication open and honest, you should be able to sort out friend from boyfriend.  Make sure you have similar expectations.  Big things to look out for that break relationships and friendships: cheating, sex: moving too quickly or moving too slowly, independance and growth.  \n\nIt sounds like you are young, so talking about what he thinks it means to be bf/gf will be good too.  Telling him you are haven't done it before gives innocence and an easy way to resolve issues that will come up.  \n\nFake it till you make it....we all do.  Relationships mimmic what we see in life and in the media, so do the things that you admire in others relationships, with your own style..."playing house" in a sense,  until you can identify your own standards and grown identity in relationships....  \n\nsounds great! good luck!
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y shd u ask 4 a breakup?as 4 u hez not ur type..same must b thr 4 him..4 him u mst not b his type..isnt it so??me n my bf r very different..diff citiez..relegionz..bringin up n evrthng..still we r togdr.itz all love u need to get a relationship going well..but if u r planing a long run wit him..make sure he has a financial stability atleast..otherwise i dont think u shd break his heart or urz 4 simply no reason...in love such things dont matter honey..just b sure that he loves u truly..
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This is my advice to you. I was in the same position that you were in. I dated for a guy for 3 years and he broke up with me b/c he was afraid of commitment or whatever. But my advice to you is this 1) show him that you are the stronger one by not being needy,calling him all the time or really bring up the relationship 2) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF by taking care of yourself it prove to him that you are okay and will help him realize what he is missing 3)surround yourself with family and friends a good support system is the key to the whole situation.
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My first thought is your not in love, you have not found Mr. right, so I suggest to you to break it off with the guy of 3 months and move on.  ALSO use protection it is a hard world out there and it is better to safe than sorry.  \nJealousy is the root of all evil......  It will get you no where FAST