how should i contol my temper?
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http://cms.clevelandclinic.org/urology/body.cfm?id=66\nhttp://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art25067.asp
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Are we controling YOUR anger or someone elses? If its you, When you feel a fight coming on. WALK AWAY. Don't yell, scream, hit...Nothing, just walk away. If its somebody else, Same theory applies. When you see the fight brewing. Leave the room. \n & joine ART OF LIVING FOUNDATION COURSES.
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The best defense is your mind.  Stay out of situations where the temper would escalate to violence.  If you use words and your brain, you can get out of almost any bad situation without coming to blows.  \n\nIf you absolutely *have* to defend yourself from imminent physical assault, remember that the law favors even-handed responses, meaning don't defend yourself with a deadly weapon unless you're threatened with one.
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I had this before, and it ended up the teacher lost it and i was taken  out of the class. You just be calm and patient, keep a diary of any inappropriate comments they make and dont retaliate. Make indifferent answers and refuse to play the games. If you get angry calm yourself immediatly by concentrating on something else and breathing deeply. If they lay a finger on you, shout and pull back but dont push them.\nHope this helps.
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yes,go to anger management classes.:)
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For better anger management first you have to know, what causes anger?\n\nAnger is a natural response that all people have. It is caused by two basic things:\n\n(1) Frustration: Not getting what we want, especially if we were expecting to get it;\n(2) Feeling that others do not respect us or care how we feel.\n\nThere are many specific things that may cause anger, but they all come down to those two basic principles.\n\nManaging your Anger as First Aid:\n\n\n 1.Walk away!  Come back later\n \n 2.It's easy for others to say "count to 10" but there is some merit in doing so slowly.    Concentrating on counting, and just giving yourself time will help.  \n \n 3.Take deep & slow breaths, thinking about nothing except your breathing \n \n 4. Go out for a run (or walk) around the garden, in the park, around the block, or along the beach etc (or bike ride)\n \n 5. If all else fails - thump a cushion, kick a bean bag. Just kidding (DON'T do anything that will hurt yourself or someone else) \n \n 6. When you feel calmer - learn to talk to those you were with at the time, and explain why you were feeling that way - calmly!\n\nIf you feel unable to control your anger, then it would be wise to seek help - from your doctor.\n\nor you can read a book for help: "Anger-free" by W. Doyle Gentry. \n\nand always remember "There is nothing either good or bad\nbut thinking makes it so." --William Shakespeare. \n\nIf my answer satisfy your quire, feedback me  firozreza@yahoo.com \n\ngoodluck.\nfiroz
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listen to what others are saying..stop for a moment and think about it before you respond to what ever it is going on..\ntake your time and talk slow but be deliberate when you speak.\nspeak with the type of words you are comfortable using, ( constantly try to learn new words and their meanings and how to use them )\ndo your best NEVER to get into a yelling match with anyone...\nremember every one has their own opinion and they are really entitled to it..that does not mean you have to accept it..or even fight for your opinion..just listen..then ask or say may I please give you my opinion on this subject or I see it this way..and be calm and polite .( no arguments about opinions )\nlearn as much as you can in school and read all kinds of books when you are out of school\nyou WILL receive great respect from every one you come in contact with.\nand all of this will be great for you and your family..for now ans your future.\nGood Luck\nGod Bless
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Have a candle-lit bath, with bubbles and candles, dim the lights and just soak. It's really relaxing, it may sound kiddish but it really works. After light some candles and insence and settle down on the couch and just take deep breathes and maybe watch some soaps or feel-good movies or chick flicks, not anything too dramatic and violent but something that you like and makes you feel good. Another thing is that you should do what you like! whats your hobby? for example, I love horsebackriding, so I might go on a nice peaceful trail in the woods  for an hour to calm down and realize life is a good thing. Or if your a painter, start painting! you could even make crafts, which actually allows you to express your anger on paper and your work, instead of other people and your mind, self confidence and yourself. Go scream on your pillow! if you just feel like screaming, go right ahead. Thats what I do when I'm frustrated angry and confused. It really helps get the stress out. You could bang stuff around scream and shout and tell everybody to just get away from you. We all understand. Or, what I do is put a favourite CD on and sing along like nobody's listening. It helps alot. Or sometimes I call a friend and we talk for hours, and it keeps your mind off things, or you could go to the mall and shop. Shopping cures anything! lol. Something else is to make yourself beautiful, dress up, do your make-up, paint your nails, it keeps you consuntraited and focussed on one thing at a time. You should also spend time with your family or friends. Family and friends really helps in these situations. You should also call up people your might have angered, and say your sorry and for them to forgive you. It will make you feel alot better and less upset. Hope ive given you some ideas, and i hope this day really turns better for you!
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The best thing is to walk away to avoid confrontation and give yourself time to calm your anger. \n\nIt's better to be a coward then hurt someone and or yourself. One day you'll beat up the wrong person and end up in jail. If that's the case,is any one of these kids worth going to jail over?!!\n\nMy suggestion is walk away and take a good look at yourself and ask yourself why these people mess with me...could be your clothes, your attitude, etc.\n\nChange one or more of these and you may stop getting messed with and no longer have to beat anyone up.\n\nIf none of these works, seek help, before it's to late and you wind up in jail. Then you will REALLY GET PICKED ON AND PEOPLE WILL BE BEATING YOU UP!! Think about it it!\nGood Luck
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Tell him. As a woman I know how easy it is for us to get into the classic withholding information/anger/feelings behavior, and say our favorite line when queried if something is wrong, "nothing". But men aren't stupid and they always know that "nothing" means "something", so instead of playing mind games about it, be honest and tell him - honestly. The key to any relationship is honesty. I am not talking about brutal, cut-his-throat honesty, as this will only make matters worse and make the argument bigger than what it is. I am speaking of the kind of honesty where you say something like this: "I am angry with you because I feel you did not ________ or "I feel you did _______ and this offended me." The key is to add "I feel" statements, rather than "You did" statements, as the latter puts the person on the defensive, and that will create another argument, though less intense than one generated by angry, blame and attack filled words.\n\nRemain neutral and calm. This is very, very hard to do in the heat of an argument. If the timing is not right and you are still too pissed off to tell him, address it at another time. You must remain calm and measured in your tone of voice. Be neutral and don't allow yourself to get emotionally plugged in to his reaction, which may be angry or defensive. If you have to, pinch yourself in the thigh to make sure that you remain calm and listen carefully to what he has to say!  Do not, no matter how hard you want to do this, interrupt.  If you feel that you are going to explode, then you need to excuse yourself and be alone for awhile. If you feel he is going to explode, you need to do the same.\n\nBeing honest and upfront about any anger induced situation (or anything for that matter) AT THE MOMENT IT HAPPENS is also key. Or, if not at that precise moment, later on in the day or a few hours later is also fine because it is still fresh in your combined memories. You know, as I do, that women tend to put off expressing their feelings (though not all women) and we allow cumulative anger to be built up inside of us until the tops of our heads want to blow off when we get angry. When we are triggered by the proverbial last straw, we explode and what was once a teeny, tiny stupidity, becomes a volcano, overflowing with lava! Everything he has ever done to you since you first met will be drawn out in single file and used as weapons, including the time when he looked at you the wrong way when you were tired. This is not productive. This not healthy for your relationship or YOU. Stress fouls up everything and makes you sick, so deal with things calmly and rationally when they happen. And as for those 5,000,000 things he did before? Let them go. If you didn't deal with them THEN, they are moot points now.  \n\nAs an aside, I am a patient sort who lets a lot of stuff roll off my back. However, at the same time, I have a very, very long memory and a temper when I am exceedingly provoked. When my hubby used to piss me off, I'd bring out the big guns and would go on the offensive. Every thing he ever did or said to me would come out, and the original thing that bothered me got lost in the emotional insanity. Not productive. Now? I tell him what I feel. Consequently, our issues are resolved quickly - and that is a relief!
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YMCA does in a lot of cities, or call child welfare or the public defenders office and tell them you are a little concerned about your temper, and wanna make sure its not inappropriate. tell them you wanna make sure there isnt a problem because of your past, before there IS a problem. there are also crisis hotlines, suicide hotlines and the like, and they usually have information on free counseling, or sliding scale payment. there should also be a free clinic in your area, and they usually have to refer out psych cases, so you might check there.
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First take a deep breath and count to 10 when you feel anger coming on, secondly try and be positive in your outlook on life....it works wonders.also wear a smile more often as a smile is very infectious . good luck hope you make it.
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why do u repress it? start expressing it. there is nothing wrong in being angry. if some people around u can not tolerate it they have to leave and they re not your real friends. be yourself and show your feelings. those who love u for what u re can tolerate a lot trust me.
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Whenever you feel yourself boiling over, make the conscious effort to tell yourself to stop, take a few deep breaths, and count to 12. This allows you a window for the impulse to lash out to subside, so you get a clearer mind about whether the situation really calls for you losing your temper, or can be resolved in more peaceful manners. If you find it hard to let go of negative emotions and thoughts, try diverting them from people you love to a book or piece of paper by writing them down instead. \nIf you feel that you still can't control your anger from spinning out of control, it may be a good idea to go for anger management counselling with a certified counsellor or Psychologist.\nGood luck.
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You totally can.  For starters, stop saying that you can't.  You must believe you can.  You destroy your opportunity to contol your anger if you don't believe/UNDERSTAND that you CAN.  If you're angy, tackle the reasons.  It may not be other people making you angry but rather... your perception of other people that makes you angry.  For instance, some driver is being STUPID on the road.  Who cares?  There are STUPID people all around... and some smart people too... and some mean people and some rich people and so on.  You can let things BUG you or you can NOT let things bug you.  You have COMPLETE control over your emotions.  If you didn't, who does?  Who has more contol over YOUR emtions than you yourself?  Understand?
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wen ever u get angry, start counting reverse from 10 to 1, second method, if u are so angry that u wanna fight with that person, or may b u are just too disturbed, say to urself "that i"ll manage it after 10  minutes, after 10 minutes say after 1 hr, and so on", this might help. But these are the situations wen u get actually angry and then want to control the anger. Just to keep ur temep in check, try meditation, i keep fast once a week, and that day resolve not to get angry and it really helps, i am trying to keep my temper in check as well. Over the time, i have realised that it is a very CONSCIOUS effort, tell urself that u"ll control ur anger now onwards and this shd help, this has helped me as well. good luck!
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disassociate yourself from the thing that is causing you to be angry with this person. you are not doing yourself any good by being angry, especially if the other person does not care with the emotion your having.