how can i get back my wife n 4 kids back from my inlaws?
347789
My advice is to sit down and talk with your wife. Find out why she left you and try to resolve the problem. If you do get it resolved, your kids will listen to you and your wife. If it doesn't, talk to your kids. Find out why they went to stay with your wife and inlaws. Agian, try to resolve the problems. If those problems can't be resolved peacefully with your wife, get a lawyer so you can have time with your kids too. It's not fair to you to  have to sit and miss your kids who you love while your wife gets to see them all the time. You should both have equal rights to see them.
985933
I used to, then I got a divorce.  It's all good now.  Sorry if that's not an option.  Seriously, just be as gracious as you can, and enjoy the people you do like.  Do the in-law thing first(Christmas Eve?), so you have fun with those you love on Christmas Day and have something to look forward to.  Good luck sweetie.
491495
You can't.\n\nMy mother in-law was a leach to our marriage for 2 years after she left my father in-law and then it got worse when my wife was pregnant and we had our first son. I hold my mother in-law 50% responsible for destroying my marriage with her interference.
667923
Be the mature one about this situation and put an end to it.  Talk to your husband and tell him that you don't want things to be like they are and you feel that your mother-in-law and father-in-law should come over and have a family discussion.  You start off the discussion by saying to your MIL "I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt...I spoke out of  anger when I said I didn't want to see you again and was just venting."  Then explain to your MIL and FIL that you want the family to all get along but there need to be some changes because it really hurts you when your MIl __________________________________  fill in the blank with what she does that bugs you.  That way everything is out in the open, you apologized and showed you are trying to work things out. (Mind you, in the back of your mind you'll be saying...look B+tch, I'm just doing this to make my husband happy...but, she doesn't need to know that.)  Good Luck.
109845
You should go away because her kids are not going to.If you cant accept her kids it will not work!!
397647
the only way u can bring u r family in this case is to get your wife on housemaid visa which you can buy from any nice saudi resident who is ready to help you
14297
Let it get back to your mother in law that you don't believe she made those statements, because you can't imagine that she would ever say something so awful about you and your kids.  \n\nThen the ball is in her court.
856242
She walked away from the marriage, giving you the right to start a new one. So, go date..have fun and enjoy life with your kids.
273465
Be patient with yourself, join a support group at your church or talk to a family counsellor (with or without your spouse). Be patient with your kids, spend as much quality time with them knowing that they are caught in the middle of an adult issues and are too young to understand the complexity of these issues.  Just go out and have as much fun with them as possible at the park, mall or the children's museum.  Do not neglect your health (ie: overeating-->obese or undereating).  If you're not into the gym go for light walks, and by all means use meditation tapes they really do help.  Give your spouse that space she needs  but keep the channel of communications open.  Be honest with each other and don't try to sweep your marriage issues under the rug or they will never be resolved.  Good Luck.
997971
O I know what you are going threw. My husband is the same way.He don't like it when i call my kids because he is afraid i will want to get back with my x.  Maybe try telling her that you love your kids and she can't stop you from talking to them.Let her know that it is your kids that you love not your x.
748209
Remember this is your battle with the inlaws not your sister in law's.  Do not make her choose sides.  Be happy for her that she has a better relationship with them than you do because I'm sure you wouldn't wish what you are going through on another.  Maturity is called for here.  Stick to your guns for yourself, don't expect other's to choose sides.  She sounds like she's attempting to be neutral.  If you don't like hearing about what's going on with them, simply ask her not to go into detail about them or what they do or don't do.  Keep your friendship.  That's more important than allowing the in laws to drive a wedge between you two...and likely, that's what's happening.
572150
Send a buddy you have in you're town to have a little "chat" with him and have him tell him when you come back, you'll be "visiting" him too. Maybe your wife can file a complaint somewhere, so they get rid of him, or she can go somewhere else then. that stuff pisses me off! I don't even know you, but Id go there for you at a drop of a hat! Take care over there, watch each others back and come home safe.
957240
Contact Focus on the Family, or some other Org like that. There are charities out there that benefit those in financial need who has a sick spouse/child/etc.\n\nMy best wishes to you.
1171875
For one thing, I'd talk to the ex-in laws. They need to refuse to give in to her everytime she's not getting her way with you.
198589
It is great to let it go but it won't work since the underlying resentment will remain.  The best thing to do is try to calmly explain to your mom how deeply her words have hurt you and how they are detrimental to the children.\n\nYou need to clear the air.  After that, you can then decide how much or how little contact your children and you will have with her.  \n\nYou were right to remove your children from such a negative environment.  It is wrong of your mother to degrade you to your own children.  The good news is that your children will love you and won't pay attention to what she said...especially since you are removing them from the situtation.\n\nGood luck!
468248
yes she can get her children back,leaving small children alone is not a good idea for any length of time but we all make mistakes the area dhs office should get involved and help her find the resources she needs if it still doesn't look good contact legal aid .good luck!
895616
been down this kind of road your walking on now, the pain will never be gone completely, as time goes on the pain will ease up and you will regain your self back. learn from this with the understanding that not all women do this to their husbands. and people do make mistakes with some being devastating to the ones left holding their harts after it being ripped from their chest. \n\ngetting her back is what you want for you want your life to return to the way it was prior to any cheating, getting her back isn't what you need right now, you'll have trust issues with her that will drive you both apart and working out problems in a relationship will take two people that want it to work, truly want it to work. at this time i don't see this being on her list of things to do.\n\nit's all about you and your kids right now, try as hard as you can not to think that your going to get her back in time. if and when this ever does come around and the opportunity presents it's self to you then and only then should you leap to the chance. it's going to be a upward walk everyday for some time now, and you must keep you mind on what will be the best for you and your kids, her watching this will in time show that you are the stronger parent and she might have made the most devastating mistake of her life.\n\nif and when she does want to return to being a family again you need to now that it will never be as it was, no amount of work can change your memory and that memory will have issures with her and the choises she made. untill you have walked this road and feel the pain it has to offer you, people have their own words to offer you and I too had told many people that i would do this and that, and the day my ears heard the word from the love of my life, i pray others will never have the pleasure of hearing them in their life. \n\ni would tell every one dealing with this pain not try reconnecting with their partner till the pain has passed and your ready to try woking on the real problems in hand, most people never wake up one morning and head out the door to cheat on their partner, most is the aftermath of a problem at home or with their partner, finding out what the real problem is and how to overcome it is where you need to start working up to the cheating, and working it in this order will let you know why she felt the way she did.\n\ntime will heal the pain and learning from the past is the only way we can improve our furture, take your time and good luck with the path your walking down, remembering that your not walking it alone for thats why it's a path, many have walked it and many more will.