i'm 43/m strgt,i was sex abused by my self yesturday, 4xs, was that bad? should i spank me?would woman watch?
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Hum, well that is an interesting question. I also enjoy a good spanking especially when I have been naughty, and I often sexually harass myself, and I enjoy my warm wet places. do you think we are the same person?
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I have been submissive for most of my adult life.  I have had genital torture, nipple torture, candle wax torture, spanking with paddles, hands, whips. I have been humiliated, slapped, as well as spanked by groups.\n  The most important thing to remember is trust.  You must trust your partner BEFORE EVER letting them tie you up.  Talking is very important, before, during, and after.  Both should know a safe word meaning stop. And both should know stop MEANS stop.\n  It is a very interesting fetish, but one that should be approached \nvery cautiously and slowly.  Be very careful and safe.
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You should be ashamed of yourself.\nhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20061104191254AARfhN7&r\nYou think it is funny and it is a turn on.\nHow stupid and cruel can women be? Do you know how damaging that can be, it is a long list, but to keep it short he can have infertility problems or lose a testicle(yes not that rare)! It is not just hitting, in that private place and especially done by the opposite sex, men usually feels sexually abused(even if does not show his feelings). It is a sex offense. Not to mention the emotional trauma.\nAnd women claim they are more sensible than men and non violent, yeah right!\nThat should only be used if someone is trying to rape you or kill you, only emergencies, only extreme cases of self-defense. If you do that in other situations, then you are 10 times worse than the guy you kicked.\nIf you think is funny to hurt and damage men like that, then you don’t deserve to be loved by any man or to have a family.\nDo you think men hurting women or raping them is funny too? No, because it affects you directly, typical female way of thinking. And you are spreading the word that is OK! You are lucky men are not like women, but some day you are going to kick the wrong guy and then you will lose your front teeth, or even worse go to jail.\n\nWant to see the long list of damage, go see my answer, if you care.
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Hi young lady.  You're bound to get a ton of responses to your question, both from parents and from other teens who consider you either very lucky, or very unlucky.  I suspect that something happened this evening that upset you and probably prompted your to ask the question - perhaps they turned down a request or simply said something at a moment when you really weren't feeling happy with the state of your life.  Regardless, being a successful father myself (my son is now married and working on his master's degree to be a teacher), I can tell you something you probably don't like to think about; that is that raising a child . . . I'm sorry . . . a young man or woman, in today's world is a VERY scary and challenging thing to do.  Particularly in the case of young women, if you follow the newspapers or TV news at all, you'd see that the prevalence of sex crimes in our country is at an all-time high.  The Internet itself is being used as a tool by predators who want nothing more than to take advantage of gullible or naive young people who are too ready to trust, and not ready enough to protect themselves.  Your parents sound like they love you very much . . . enough to want to protect you from the very nasty and ugly side of humanity, for as long as they are able.  When you believe they are simply being mean or too strict, they are actually struggling with the choices they must make as you grow older, regarding how much freedom you should be allowed to have, as opposed to how much risk and danger could be waiting for them to allow you too much freedom, or perhaps more than you are fully equipped to handle.  Parents have a terribly difficult job, and very often they have to be the "bad guys" as far as their children are concerned, in order to ensure that their children remain safe and secure until they are old enough, and hopefully well enough prepared, to step out into this very brutal world on your own.  I don't want to put you to sleep here with a long message (I might have already done so:-), but I believe you will find in the long run, that in order to earn more trust and more freedom from your parents, you're going to have to demonstrate to them how responsible and how trustworthy you can be.  And if you attempt to mislead them, or you abuse a trust that they give to you, you shouldn't be surprised or angry at them if they back off and require you to earn their trust all over again.  As a retired military person, I can tell you most assuredly - freedom is everyone's right, but it is a right that we all have to earn, not once, but every day of our lives, but doing what is right (not just what is the easiest), and by setting a high standard of honesty and integrity for ourselves that no one can put a hole in.  I suspect that when you have become the kind of upstanding person your parents want you to be, you will discover that they will endow you with increasing levels of trust, and freedom, so long as you continue to prove that what they are doing is the right thing, not just for you, but for your entire family.  I apologize for writing so much, but I saw in your note some feelings of disappointment and frustration with your folks.  Try not to only consider their actions from your point of view.  To really understand what is happening in yours and their lives, broaden your point of view and try to consider what they're feelings are, and what they're reasons are for the decisions that they make on your behalf.  Don't be in too big a hurry to be out on your own - it's a far scarier and more dangerous world than you can possibly imagine, and your time in it will come all too soon.  Good luck with your question, and with sifting through all of the many wide-ranging opinions you're likely to see.  Use your brain, and not your emotions to determine who's advice is the most honest and the most intelligent, and don't just choose those answers that suppor
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should I report you as a sexual preditor?  This question, if you are 13 as well might be ok..but I'm not sure you are and this is just not right....
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There is no doubt that your previous experience with abuse had made you vulnerable from inside. But it doesn’t mean that you will be this way forever. \nThe moment you feel that you desire the person you will overcome your fear (not shyness).\nAll you need is to practice a positive attitude, and if your partner is open minded he shall give you time and treat you gently, no rush. Only do it when you are ready.\nRemember that the person who abused you is not the one who is actually with you right now, so don’t mix your fear between your current relationship and your previous experience.
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Like previous answers said, either post it in the category you abused (!) or in the yahoo section. If you really are sincere in the wording of your apology and write it from the heart, I am sure that it will be accepted!\n\nGood luck and remember, try not to be naughty boy any more!! ;)
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You'd be best off with a therapist who has experience with working with survivors of sexual abuse. You may not always like them or the things they say .. I remember being so upset and angry with my therapist when she made a diagnosis (although in retrospect she was right, and she has actually been one of the best therapists I've been to). It's okay to shop around for a good therapist, till you find one you vibe with. \n\nIf you can't tell your parents, why not just tell the counselor that you'd prefer to talk to a woman? If he's a sensitive person, he'll probably help you to change over to one of his colleagues. \n\nSome survivors' websites have good information posted on how to choose a therapist, how to decide if they're right for you. I have a website too (I'm a survivor of abuse) but I haven't got down to posting that info yet .. however have some links to other websites that might give you that info. I also run a free online group for survivors (over 16) where we work on self-help.  You can check that out if you like, its totally anonymous.  I've put the links down below. \n\nThis is something that you do need to deal with  because abuse does have long term repercussions, dealing with it would help you live a happier and easier life. I hope you get the help you need.
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i was spanked with a belt. do i feel like i was abused? no i don't. you have to get your kids to listen to you somehow for their own good.
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You are sweet :-) \n\nWell, I don't think you will get many responses, because the most violent treated women are too ashamed to talk about and this here is maybe not the right forum to talk about anyway. \n\n\nBut KUDOS to you :-)
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Hello there,well i did have to stop to this question my dera!A question that i myself use to ask myself awhile ago,but for a long time now resolved!Now I really get the feeling that this questions also is asking for help and desperate mesures!Now i Do Not Know your Case..But I can Feel it!My Name is Smaara,I am from Canada a,Quebec,I am also Glad To answer this for You..But I am Also Offering You My Help!Now your Question Is Why Do Woman Always Get abused?-Well I have To say That in My entire life abuse was part of it..since i was 2 years old,You see i do not know you,and i know that you are living things that you do not deserve at all!In a Womans Life..She Who Has been Living With abuse,either Physical Or Phsycological is even if she doesnt want it seems to be attracted to it...If You had Abused since a very young age..when you reach teenager..you have the bad gift of usiing this vicious circle..that even without knowing!I Had a Really Rough Life Of Abuse...Believe me You Need To Get Out Of IT!Stop Now and Think About It...What Has Your Life Has Been Breing You With all The abuse You have Been Experiencing!I Lived it But Also Studied It and If You Do Not Btreak Up This Circle That Is around You,Following your Eveysteps Of Your Everyday Life Well...No Maen To Scare You But some Dont Make It OUt!Lots Of Woman Will Use The Help Hotline Our Abuse line..That is Not Your Way Out,And That My Dear Is What I Know,You need TO Get Out..Not Tomorrow,Not In a WEek,But asap.....Men Love To Abuse Woman Because Thery Feel It Gives Them Power,Yes Power Over You..He has a Nee To Feel that He Controls Youre Every Move And As Far As I KNow...I think That You Do Not Need That..Especially With The Life YOu Had!Mister Feels SO Important...But Let Me Tellk YOu,,Mister si Nothing But A Looser!Break it now while its Not To Late..You Need Help..I am There For You Even If You Do Not Know me.Read Below Plesae.
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Can you explain a little more? What kind of "hurt" are you talking about? Is it self-inflicted? Is it dangerous? \nI am somewhat of a masochist and what other people consider pain, I consider pleasure...but I always make sure that my partners are aware of what I can and cannot handle. If you think it's more than this, please talk to someone who you think can help, preferrably offline. If you do want to elaborate, people here can be of more help.=)
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Yes, it is child abuse. I'm sorry that you had to go through with this. It is important that you realize that this is the problem of the adult, and that it doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Adults are supposed to protect kids from this, and your father obviously didn't.\n\nThat said, you would benefit from a chance to talk with someone about this as it still seems to bother you. There are a number of options. You can call a local crisis center, a local rape crisis center, or your local mental health center. Some ministers are good people to talk with as well. \n\nRead this website:\nhttp://sophia.smith.edu/safe/Survivorhelp.htm\n\nHere are some adult survivor support groups:\nhttp://www.darkness2light.org/GetHelp/support_adult_survivor.asp\n\nThe point now is to talk about it, put it in perspective, understand that it changed you life forever but that you can move on when you are ready. You don't have to continue to dwell on this.\n\nBest wishes. There are lots of folks out there to help you out.
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FYI:  You might consider asking this question in other way....like, "I was wondering how many people enjoy being tied up during sex. Is this a normal thing or is it rare?" That seems a little less "i'm going to stalk you to your house, after work, and tie you up regardless of if you like it or not.\n\nHave a great day!
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You have sexual anxiety that stems from this abuse earlier in life.  You  need to not be afraid to seek professional help in this matter.  Seeing a psychiatric professional does not make you crazy, or weird... and it shows that you are ready to get past the situation.  Until you can bring the topic to the surface and accept it then you will have intimacy issues for the rest of your life.  Please do not be afraid to seek help for yourself, because every minute that you avoid it is a minute of your life that you are allowing the sick and twisted individual that abused you to continue to control your life!  The longer this goes on, the more you are relinquishing your life to this horrible situation... swallow your pride and act on this before you waste anymore of your life living in fear
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man you really have probs...ill bet i could get u a nice Dom to supervise you!!
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On your bare butt?  NO!  that's a form of sexual abuse!\nCall your local child and family services.\nSpeak to your Dad about this, this just isn't right.