Am I stupid for falling in love with a stripper?
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Why would it be stupid to get a private show with extra and not having to pay for it (until diviorce....)
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I'm going to assume this is a sincere question.\n\nHaving a private stripper show is a terrible way to discover whether or not you're capable of feeling sexual urges. For some people, that sort of thing is highly arousing, and for some people, it's a huge turn-off; both reactions are within the range or normal. Everyone is different, and there's no one "test" that will work for all people.\n\nIf you're afraid that you're incapable of becoming sexually attracted to someone else, or incapable of feeling emotionally attached to someone else, you would do best to step back and pay attention to your own interactions with other poeple. Do you feel emotionally attached to your family and friends? Do you feel sexually attracted to someone you've just met, but who you find attractive and who flirts a little?\n\nIt sounds like you're old enough to get into a strip club, but you've never had a girlfriend. I'd recommend you avoid strip clubs and girlfriends for the moment, and concentrate on meeting new friends of both sexes, and all ages. Meet some new people, and allow yourself to feel emotionally attached to those you like, and sexually attracted to those you find attractive. \n\nDoing this will make your emotional life richer, and help you expand your capacity to feel. And hey, if you're lucky, you'll meet a girl whom you feel attracted to AND emotionally connected to, and she'll feel the same.
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Move on.  Life is too short to waste your time & your heart on someone who does not value you enough to be honorable & to be truthful.  You should value yourself enough not to waste your time on someone who is out shopping around for something better than you.  You cannot get upset if you choose to play stupid because you will be "settling" & this is what you can expect for the future.  Cut your losses while you are ahead.  Move on.
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Us guys are notorious for doing stupid things like this.   Thats why florists are such a big biz.   \n\nBut think of this...you cant think of her not being there in your life?!?!  If that is how you truly feel, I think you love her more than you realize.  Imagine if you will, she gets married with someone else.   How would you feel about that?  Most likely, you wont see her hardly ever at that point.   Could you live with that?  If not, time to be honest with, not only her, but with yourself as well and take this relationship to the next level.
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He needs your love. To lose your love would be a blow to his ego. You mention he goes to strip bars, could be his own guilt is what he is taking out on you and I will tell you from experience, it does not change unless you both get consouling. (s) \nI had the same in my first marriage, thought it was me, I'm almost 60 now and know it sure as heck was not me, he threw an iron at me when I came out in a sexy nighty. Called me every name one would call a stripper all the slutty names, not anything to make me feel pretty or sexy, I was too young to use my head . . . use your head, he sure won't use his!   He is married, that carries responsability and that means he should not be in a strip bar, he should be with you, one flesh, eh? Please take care of your self, try to get help as a couple if not, you get help enough to get courage to be more independant from him and make some good choices for your future. I bet you are beautiful!  Please trust me, it is not you! Your words and caring show you are!
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LOL hahaha you shouldn't be hard on yourself lol... I don't belive it...hey they were strippers
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I have dated dozens of strippers in my past. I always knew it was nothing long term. You must have a certain mentality to stand on stage and take your clothes of for money, but it is more than that. A real stripper knows a man and how to work his ego. The attention they recieve is like a drug to them. It will always be there, so to answer your question--no
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Time heals all wounds. Be patient, and do things that take your mind off of her. If that isn't working because everything you do, you say "I remember when we did this together", then go to your local strip club, but don't be a mope. And don't think you are going to get lucky with a stripper, because there is a 99% chance that you won't. Spend some dough and get a couple of dances and you won't be thinking of her, I'll bet.\n\nGetting over your gal is going to hurt. It might take some time. These are the best bits of advice I can give, as we are all different, and we all get over things in different ways. Me, I mostly prefer to be left alone to deal with my grief. But one thing that I know will make me feel better is to do something nice for someone else. It doesn't have to be someone you know, either.\n\nHope that helps.
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I was a bartender in a strip club for a few years. only so much can happen. \n Hes gonna be put on stage, a bunch of girls are going to dance around him, and he'll get a t-shirt.  big whoop. \nIf you think hes going to cheat on you with a stripper, you shouldn't be marrying him.  no trust-no relationship.\nwhile I do think that his best man is extremely insensitive, hes being a guy.  Its  what guys think they are supposed to do for the groom.  its almost a tradition. ....as sad as that sounds. \nand your FH isn't exactly arguing with him.  He wants to do it,  let him do it.  Then go plan your own.   Relationships ARE give and take right?
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Don't be ashamed because he only made himself look like a fool. You are not stupid or unworthy. Actually this was probably a blessing that he did why would you want to live with a jerk...K
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Life is risk. I am in the same situation as you, except the girl I'm after has a boyfriend, but I'm going to tell her how I feel anyway. Stupid? Probably. But I don't want to look back in a few years and wonder 'what if'. You may lose a friend, and you may gain a girlfriend / boyfriend. Remember, fortune favours the bold. :)
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Sure, if you like being used, lied to, and then dumped as soon as the next opportunity comes along. Honestly, why would you want to go out with a "playa"? Show him you're better than him and turn him down. He'll be shocked!
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I think that you should take her to a strip club and buy her a private dance...then there is humor, fun, and especially memories...
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*Noddling for I think so* I personally am in a long term relationship with someone I met one night on yahoo dominos. Heh she decided my nickname was perverted (it was, but that was not why I used it in dominos) and decided to come to my table to tease me and see if she could catch me being a perv.\n\n*Grinning wolfishly* She couldn't and due to the fact I turned her down, she decided she liked me and made sure we stayed in contact. Over the course of time, my reason for saying no was no longer valid and I found myself in love...\n\nAs to finding nice, honest people and where, lol there is no easy answer. They are everywhere, in chats, playing games, even probably here in answers...\n\nThe trick is weeding out the not so good ones, till you find one worthy of your trust...
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no you are fine, you should fall in love when you meet the suitable girl\nas long as you didn't met her, you won't fal in love. logical huh?
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its hard to say.. i a person is a fool thats why he falls in Love, or after falling in Love he became a Fool.\n\nIts anyones Call.
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YEAH I'd go to the stripclub with my man. I don't see the big deal. He knows i can dance and naked is not a big deal but if he likes those chicks more than me i'm outta there!