I need help in self-confidence?
340047
Hello, I remember when I was that age and how I had zero confidence... worse even, I might have been my worse enemy at the time...\nU do have one thing on your favour: you are her sister, so even if she pretends she does not listen, in reality she does look up to you, a lot! \nSo some tips that I hope do help:\n-be an example\n- be positive, show her the positive side of things\n-be very caring\n-listen to her, try to understand what makes her feel insecure and accompany her in a path to change that, for example, if she thinks she´s not pretty, do things together with her to make her beauty come out (go to the gym, go sunbathing, do healthy, positive things)\n\nOH and maybe you can enrol in a dance class together... I think the time when I felt most confident in myself, in general, was the time when I was taking belly dance lessons...\n\nYou are really attempting something beatiful and I do really hope it works out, for the both of you,\n\nLove and Blessings
91094
just be nice, not 2 needy, have confidence in ur self. & beleive me it will come 2 u
664949
Sounds to me like you need friends who will encourage you and be confidence builders. You're going it alone and your shyness is holding you back and this is where good friends will step in and give you support. Reach out, make friends who will help you feel more secure about yourself. Some of us here list our emails and message links to be of help. Take advantage of this and the experience others may have that can offer you support and advice as friends should.\n\nBest Wishes!!
645296
List down the things you think you are good at.  Be proud of them.  List out things you cannot do.  Ask yourself whether you can live without doing these.  Ignore those you dont need to pursue. Pay attention and sharpen those skills that you wish you could develop.  Practice hard.  Dont rely on what others say.  Be good at your own work and have ample faith in yourself.  Whilst at this do not get self centred.  Look around and be sensitive to others needs.  Helping someone who is in real need will surely make you feel good - no great!  Go on - try to come out of your shell as the world outside is beautiful.  Good luck!
436729
build up some confidence you little sh**
351237
Just give it to him, Show him your ""self confidence"" and he'll think good thoughts about you.. I promise!!
639776
Don't worry about impressing her. Be yourself, and she'll feel more comfortable too. But if you do stumble over a few of your words, or forget what you were going to say, be willing to laugh at yourself. It will make you look more confident than you feel. Good luck!
948843
You can't live your life trying to please others and worrying what they think about you. Just be who you are, you sound pretty confident and self assured. You go girl!
1052826
Building self confidence takes time, but it can be done.  Our self esteem is partly our personality (what we are born to be) and partly from our early childhood experiences.  Many of us, therefore, do not have naturally high self esteem.  You can upbuild yourself by taking the time to love yourself in fundamental ways: eat well, exercise, and rest.  Tell yourself often (200x/day) that you are loveable, wise, funny, and attractive.  Take good care of YOU because you are worth your own attention.  Over time, your self care will show you how valuable you are.  And high confidence is very sexy!
509738
Join a toastmasters club.  Very good practice at public speaking, and you will gain confidence.
706108
Best thing you can do is appear cool and calm. That makes you appear confident.....
250497
BUY THE DR. PHIL BOOK OR ANY BOOK ON SELF-ESTEEM.  WHY DID YOU 'LOSE' YOUR CONFIDENCE?
145643
u have to have confidence in your self and make urself more attractive!!!LOL!!GOOD LUCK!!!
964712
Have confidence in oneself. God bless*
948337
When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind. \n\nDeveloping self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.\n\nSelf consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...\n\na) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.\n\nb) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to: \n\nfind out if you like the other people in the situation \nmake others feel comfortable \nfind out some information \nmake business contacts \nand so on...
365658
From this moment on, you tell yourself that you are an attractive, interesting guy than any girl would be priviledged to have. Convince yourself you can have any girl you want. Look in the mirror and find the things that make you look good. If you need to excercise a bit to help things along. Once you achieve this basic confidence in yourself. Put the past behind you, concentrate on the future which you are in charge of. You have what it takes to handle any girl, any situation.  Go up to a girl, ask her out, treat her right.
364464
they say you want to feel confident be confident. Fake it till you make it. In other words pick yourself up by the shirtsleeves and put yourself out there. Get over your fears and go on with life.