why do people talk stuff about me because i have a quiet voice?
347704
if you talk in a quiet voice, people think your subdued, shy and don't stand up for yourself. they think you won't do anything about it. I speak in a quiet voice to and that's what I've noticed so far.
277955
omg I'm quiet and shy too! People think I'm a snob and that I think I'm too good for them. One of the reasons they do that is because I dont smile. I know its hard, people tell shy people to just go up and talk to someone but its not that easy. I would try talking more to your friends (that would help you not to be as quiet and show people that you can talk to other people as well) thats what I am working on now. Good Luck!
961287
for 1 if the person talks about others then they will talk about you.No I wouldn't join them I would actually say something like this.I'm sorry ,but i really don't want to here things about her or him.I know that person and if u have something you need to say then tell her because I don't like it when somone is talking about someone I know behind there back.Wheathere you know the person or not it's not nice to talk behind someones back.
241836
Some people just talk to themselves. I do it because Im the only one who cares what I say....LOL!!! You have to retrain yourself not to do it anymore.
1144798
Maybe the people around you perceive you as silly, or like you don't take things too seriously.  Sometimes there is a time & a place for things.  for example, you might not want to be too silly or joke too much when you're at work, you need to put out a professional outlook.\n\nAlso, do you procrastinate much? treat others rudely?  There are a few reasons why someone would call you that.  Maybe you should be a little more considerate, learn how to listen, treat others with respect.\n\nSomething really important should be...that you don't have to change who you are for anybody.  If it's your nature to be silly, goofy, you know what, those are unique and wonderful qualities to have.  Definately think about how you treat others, and think about what kind of responsibilities you have, and if you meet the expectations of those who need you to get things done.\n\nNever change who you are, just upgrade to be the best version of yourself you can be!
926257
i used to be like you and the answer that i found is:\ndon't give a damn about what people well say about you.
1072458
i have almost exactly the same problem. what i'm trying to do is to be more talkative and loud around my friends so that i get comfortable with it, then i hope i'll be more talkative in general, even with people who arent my really good friends.
1093648
They are afraid to upset you or make you feel bad.  They also probably heard gossip or wrong information about your breakdown.  The best thing to do is act like you usually do and they will stop acting weird after a while.
392991
Many times a person who needs to be loud in conversation or the "Know-it-all" type, or the type that seems to not allow others to talk...is a person who is insecure and feels very low about themselves.  Their loud boisterous opinions and lack of being able to let others in on the conversation says that that person needs extra attention and has very poor communication skills.  Trying to tell them to "shut up" is NOT going to get the point across.  As a matter of fact...it might worsen the objective.  Perhaps if you make copy of this answer with your question and quietly and in private present it to this person...you may get somewhere.  Start with a "Hey...(his name)...can I please talk to you for a moment in private.  Then take him aside and let him know that you appreciate his input on things...however.."I'd like to let you know that there are people who have some input into the many conversations we have...as we have listened to you...perhaps you would be fair to listen to what some of us have to say."  "And by the way...eating/chewing with your mouth open or full is socially unacceptable...perhaps you didn't realize you were doing this...and as a friend, I thought I might let you know.  \nTwo wrongs never made a right...instead it makes a war.  So treat his rudeness with corrective/non-judgemental kindness and see if a greater response comes from your directives.  Thanks for caring enough to make a positive difference in the lives of others.
1007579
Because they want a response out of you, they want to believe that it hurts you by them not talking to you, sounds silly doesn't it lol
660965
maybe its ur tone of voice u need to change ur voice a bit.
655112
Totally, I scream and now one hears me, and i smile when i want to cry. I don't think people really want to know how u are when they ask.
1048206
I was always the quiet one, but when you do finally speak up people definitely listen.  I prefer to be the listener and watcher.  See how people interact and react.  You can learn a whole lot more being the one who listens instead of the one who talks all the time.  Be open when you want to be and speak up when you feel passionate about something or someone.  You'll be fine!
394484
When they don't listen to what I have to say and only talk about themselves.
706685
i love talking to them.ever time i pass by them..i usually ask them how they are doing and how was there day..though, they never answer me back i know they are talking to me silently...
1184099
I used to get that too. I was actaully just a bit reserved, and I also tend to act arrogant sometimes which I know is just a defense mechanism for being a bit insecure.\nI also looked particularly good which lots of people are intimidated by and if you don't seem real friendly when you look good people think you are a snob.\n\nI'm not sure what it is about you that people interpret as snobby.\nIf you have your head tilted up that would be seen as snobby,\nor if you won't talk to certain people, that could do it.\nAlso watch your body language. No crossing your arms in front of you around people, or turning your shoulder to them.\nIt could be based on another question, that you carry yourself and look as if you come from wealth and that would make certain people uncomfortable. If that is the case there is nothing you can do about it. I always try to be as friendly and down to earth around people as I can so they feel like they can talk to me about anything. I like to have people share things with me, being naturally curious about people, and have found that telling them little things that happened to me or even rather personal things about myself (even to the point of showing my next door neighbor my gold crowns on my back teeth when we were discussing dentists) will open them up and make them think they can tell me things. I even tell my neighbors that I hate my condo the way it is, things like that, that are really on the personal side, so they think I am open and friendly.\nI talk to everyone and do not fear rejection at all as I know it happens and never take it personally.\nI was in sales of advertising for many years, and I learned how to get people to relax around me and not see me as threatening, so I could sell them ads.\n\nBe sort of friendly and chatty with everyone and don't fear or care about rejection or if they like you or not.
782165
i'm really quiet too.  i don't think other people think quiet people are annoying, i think they get offended when someone dosn't talk to them.  i think to get yourself more social you could think of people that you would want to be friends with and start by nicely smiling at them and sometimes they will start a conversation with you and you can choose if you want to be their friend and if they don't start a conversation with you, you could just say hi and see if they answer.