Why do people put so much emphasis on beauty instead of looking at the person for who they are?
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Unfortunately, it's a hold over from human evolution. We're hardwired to look for desirable mates, ones that "appeal" to us. Other than that, society doesn't make it easy to ignore the standards of beauty that are plastered everywhere for all to see. Beyond that, it could just be that we're all brainwashed. Give me someone with a great personality and sense of humor any day... it will last long after the the beauty fades!
404606
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Perhaps you are attracted to something you consider beautiful, but beauty that you see is only skin deep. You need to see the true inner beauty, which you can only see by talking to and getting to know someone....
654760
Not all people are like that.  I'm not.  The outside of a person wont tell you how a person is inside.  I want to get to know people and easily people do judge but no its not right.  When i meet a person i make an effort to find out what that person is like...i dont look at colour, what clothes they are wearing or what car they drive or how beautiful they are.\n\nBeauty is on the inside and always will be.
21739
Because some people only see outer beauty, others see outer and inner beauty. To some people, everything, even tragedy is beautiful. \nI guess it just matters on your personal tastes and views as to what is truly beautiful!
71854
It is natural to feel the need to have features that other people possess, especially in a world in which people discriminate based on their ideas of beauty. Because majority of social groups agree on the waif appearance of girls (for now, atleast), then many people succumb to the jealousy and desire to be like that too.\n\nI used to want the appearance of a model. That was until my boyfriend made me realize that I am merely conforming to what society wants and not what he and I truly desire.
88445
Most people wants things that are hard to get.  It is a challenge for them.  It makes them feel more attractive and wanted than your current beau.
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Unfortunately now a days, its appearance, too many Diva's and materialistic people in this world. You are on the right track. The best thing you can see in people is their personality (mentality), get past the physical stuff and find the real person... Way to Go..\nWhen you try to befriend someone who is into looks, it's hard to keep the relationship going because you are obviously not into the same things. People like that are too into themselves and how they look to care about you or anyone or anything else around them, they cannot see the real you and they don't care to. By all means try to be friends with everyone, but don't let yourself be hurt by someone who doesn't and never will care.
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People are obsessed because they're obsessed with celebrities in general.  Looks have a lot to do with "orientation" as you put it and that will not change; it's human nature.  You don't live in a Utopia where what you think should be is; you live in the real world where what is IS.\n\nYou adopt the stance that "these things" shouldn't matter, but just because you say it doesn't make it so.  The truth is, to most people it does matter because they are fundamental elements of what make a person what they are.
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i think that people are beautiful for various reasons.....the number #1 reason being that we are individuals and not one soul on earth is like another...and through many experiences its more the person you are than the way you look....ive met many "beautiful people" and after getting to know them they werent so beautiful and vice versa.......now i know what your thinking only the not so good looking would say that but ive been advised by many people that i fit into the "beautiful people" category....but you know what i dont really care because i care about who you are and not what you are.......however as sinful as it is after what ive said i do think that some mixed people are beautiful.....they tend to (not always) have what most try to get with tanning beds and contacts.....the perfect olive skin tone just dark enough to give off a bit of sensual mystery with beautiful eyes, but that beauty can easily change if the you inside is ugly.......(p.s. not that it matters but just for the info im mixed with native american and english)
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Because people have fragile self images as it is thanks to a society that values looks.  Calling someone ugly is like saying their worthless.  Though in reality, they shouldn't need outside validation for who they are.  Plus, sometimes the truth hurts.  Western society in particular makes that a huge stigma.
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may be may not be...it depens on the upbringing of the person...but in actualty..beauty cant be measure on physical aspect..it is actually measured on the nature of the person...as beauty of a person is like an ice cream....it melts...but its d nature of the person that can help u to make ur life happier
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just as 'Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder" similarly "Personality of a person lies in the grey matter of the onlooker." One needs to use ur brain to judge the persona on all fronts-looks ,likes n brains.
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Beauty is taken in consideration by majority guys...but wat wud u do wid dat beauty..wen ur not happy wid her ??? beauty has to be skin deep,,,n wen ur wid a mature..practical.. person in life...he wud know da value..da worth of da person he's wid...he wud'nt bother bout wats outside...but how beautiful dat person is inside..
352515
Because they don't want you to thinkl that they are ugly. They have low self esteem about themselves.
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Thank you!  I agree.  It's because society is full of shallow little people who only care about themselves, and how they are perceived. They are so desperate for a compliment to boost their confidence that they'd even take them from strange wierdos in the internet.
535668
Beauty is always what attracts a person but personlity is what keeps them.
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Until we realise that our 'body' is not who we are, but it is actually the 'soul' that is the real us, we will keep concentrating on improving our appearance as a means to improve ourselves rather than concentrating on improving and nourishing our soul. \n\nPerhaps when we realise that the character of a person is more important than the external appearance, we might be better able to accept the shortcomings in our appearance.