why do elderly people have diminished sex drive?
354423
Lower level of sex hormones. In an evolution point of view, we only need to have sex in order to reproduce. So once we've passed our prime age of reproduction our bodies do not produce sex hormones as much.
15672
I am not sure, but I have seen that trend. Perhaps people are unwilling to believe that anyone could completly lack all sexual desire, based on their own point of view of course.  The reality is though, many people, most who are physicly lacking certain hormones are unattracted to either sex sexually, weather or not the skeptics believe it.
73374
Genetics. For the same reason a number of people become aroused around death... we 'all' have a built in need to populate. For females this general drive is overridden by an emotional based chemical connection to objects and or people.
520748
Loss of sex drive due to low testosterone levels, High Blood pressure and diabetes (potentially caused ED and embarrassment), there are so many things that effect sex drive...self image (has he put on a lot of weight? He may feel ugly and have low self esteeem). There is no one thing that will stand out, but a serious heart to heart with total honesty is the only way out of this. I am assuming he is not off somewhere getting it on the side. good luck
610657
could be true as I was always thin and had plenty of regular sex over my 25 years of marriage. I have put on weight after menopause and don't have sex as often as before.
709345
The peak of my sex drive came during menopause - I just couldn't keep my hands off my husband. It may eventually fade, but menopause sure brought a spike for me. It has eased off a little since I finished "the change," but it's still very strong.
1071052
Some people just have lower libidos than others, I guess there could be something wrong with you medically speaking but you seem normal enough to me!  Has it always been unenjoyable or is this something that's more of a recent problem?  \n\np.s.   TAKE CARE OF YOUR WILD-THING, and don't let those ugly old men sneak up and slip you the tongue.
354703
Your hormones are raging. Think about it this way. When your older and no longer care about sex that much anymore, are you going to be with someone who loves you and that you love. You want someone who will be your friend when that time comes. For love, you have to make sacrifices. You can't have everything or you might end up with nothing.
1018970
Lack of desire is the most common sexual problem in women. It can be caused by problems in a woman's relationship with her partner, stress, fatigue, medications and low levels of the hormones estrogen or androgen. Often, lack of desire is affected by a woman's relationship with her sexual partner. The more a woman enjoys the relationship, the greater the desire for sex.
424463
When you get older body image and looks become of a much lesser value,and you start seeking a companion,someone who gets you and you feel connected to.Believe it or not sex is not everything neither is physical attractiveness.
1100069
I think a lot of it would have to do with the total situation of your life as it is now.  First of all, are you male or female?  If your male, your sex drive could have simply decreased.  Also, in the case of both genders, in your thirties you aren't nearly as carefree as you are in your teens, & you are under a lot of stress.  Such stress may hamper your enjoyment of sex, if you're allowing it to preoccupy your mind as you're going through the motions.  Are you married?  Do you have kids?  If so, life has probably become routine, whereas there's nothing routine about getting laid when you're a teenager.  Even if you aren't married, life in general can throw a lot of stress at you in your thirties, with house payments, car payments, piles of bills, situations at work, & more.  More than likely, if you have a steady girlfriend or a wife, you two need to get together & plan a weekend for just you, where you won't be bothered, & you can enjoy one another without worrying about life in general.  Go somewhere where only select people, like your parents, will be able to reach you in an emergency.  Take a break, get rid of some stress, & have sex simply for the joy of pleasing each other again.  Hope that helps.  You might try the link below for more ideas.
358055
usually the male \nas women have children their libido goes, they r tired\ntheir hormones are all over the place.\nmost men think their other halves arent interested but with alot of women their hormones are at the wrong level which leads to a lower sex drive
348202
I do not think it has to do with age, I think it has to do with conditioning.  There are muscles inside that if not worked, they get loose, but if properly exercised, they can be tighter then someone who has never had intercourse.\n\n(old Asian trick i am not gonna share!  hehehehe)
555951
Nope! I speak from experience! (I am 65). Actually guys reach their peak in their late teens...for gals it's usually about the mid 30's. This can vary with the individual of course...but for most of us it's true. There is a VERY slow decline after these peaks but most people can remain sexually active throughout their lives (yeah Viagra helps for many of us older guys!). Of course people can become more sexually active in later years just because the opportunity presents itself. An older dude can find a younger woman is attracted to him for instance (maybe because of his money, maybe something else!) and he could find himself do more f--ing than he did in his twenties. For myself, I needed sex release through intercourse, oral sex or (lots of!) masturbation  at least once a day in my teens and twenties, 4 or 5 times a week in my thirties and forties and still 2 or 3 times a week in my 60's. I still think about sex every day even if I don't jack off every day as I did as a teenager. What I am getting at is it is a VERY SLOW decrease in sexual desire over the years. Nothing to worry about at all!
84204
This is a good question.  My husband would love to know the same thing.  Currently my sex drive is low because of menapause.  I'm going through it very early.  Usually a bottle of wine and somd actual romance will help.  You do know what I mean when I say romance.  Dinner without the kids, rose pettels on the bed,going out on a date with eachother, slow dancing in the livingroom.  These little things open opportunity for flirting.  Thus increasing the want for sex.  b4 menopause I worked sooo much.  My joib made us do a mandatory 15 hrs overtime per week and it took me 2 hours each way to get there.  Then once home still had to check homework cook dinner make sure the house was in order.  I was constantly going and you have the nerve to want what?  Switch roles for a day. see how you feel..  or. start helping around the house if that is the ccase.  but remember  flirting.
1141755
If you feel that it is taking up too much of your time and energy getting them it could be a sign of anxiety and worry about other things going on in your life. It could be a coping mechanism to deal with a life that is full of uncertainties or it could even be a symptom of bipolar disorder (manic depression).\n\nIt is normal to be very horny at your age. It just depends on if it is bothering you or not. If you feel it is excessive, then it is.
1081312
how old is your husband?  are you sure it is andropause?\n\nandropuase is defined by testosterone levels velow normally accepted ranges \n\nif he has this problem he can get testosterone replacement therapy which should help his problems of low libido etc \n\nif he has erection problems he is better off getting ED drugs like viagra \n\nJust because he is getting old doesnt mean you have to suffer a dwindling sex life!