how can i make myself  optimistic ? :(?
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Remember that Jesus loves you, and that most people are just trying to do the best they can.\n\nStart small....stop in the grocery store or gas station and just smile back at anyone who smiles at you. \n\nThe next day, maybe you could have coffee in a little cafe and overtip the waitstaff.\n\nWatch cartoons...Bugs Bunny, Mickey Mouse...\n\nLook through some magazines and pull out pictures of things you like. Glue them to a posterboard and put it in your living room.\n\nGet the address of a soldier and start writing to them.\n\nListen to some vintage Beatles.\n\nAnd if you need more ideas, email me.\n\nI can help.
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It takes a great deal of strength to stay focused, optimistic and strong in unfriendly circumstances.  You have to 1) Believe in yourself; be confident, 2) Keep in mind the real reason for being there whether it is family, friends or buisness and 3) Remember that it too, in time, shall pass.  The circumstances won't last forever or you will not be in them forever.\n\nIt is not easy at all to do these 3 things.  Prepare yourself before entering into the circumstances and remember to BREATE when you begin to feel the strain.
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focus on the good things in your life and think how you can make the negitive things better. Good luck!
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Just Smile and say to yourself like this "Hey! there's nothing matter, I'm in a good mood." I think, if you have made a good spirit on yourself, you'll get it.OK!
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First of all just know that your intention to be happy and cheerful is half the battle. If you want it bad enough, with practice, you will absolutely succeed. \n\nYou say you've been this way since childhood and that your mind tends to go in the same direction all the time and right there is the key. After so many years of your mind running your life in a negative direction its now time for you to take over.\n\nYour mind is replaying over and over what it has learnt and now its time for you to retrain it. It takes time and vigilance but with practive you can make it happen. As soon as negative thoughts come up exchange it for something positive. Remind yourself all the time that life is filled with great things going on all the time. \n\nStay away from negative situations and people. Cling to the positive with all your might. Your mind will fight you but after time will learn to let go. Lets say for instance tomorrow you awaken and it raining. Your mind will tell you what a horrible day its going to be. Stop and say out loud "No, its going to be a great day. I am grateful for the rain and all the wonderful things this day holds for me" Everytime you exchange a negative for a positive you will see the change and be encouraged to continue.\n\nI was there, now I am here. Just keep looking forward. Forget about what you did in the past, its gone and can't be repeated. Today is all you have and you can make it a great Today, every single time.
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Simply believe in yourself. You could do anything just as good or better than any other person, if you really wanted to.\n\nTake TV commercials for example, you've seen some pretty stupid ones before, right? And you probably thought, "I could do a better job than that!"\nAnd more than likely, you could!!\nAnd so it is, with most everything.
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Try Confidence Club.com, the cds they sell may be useful, either that or try a confidence coach, maybe even some counselling.  I know exactly how you feel and I have tried all the "positive thinking" techniques but sometimes you do need a little help.
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Be true to yourself and make the choices that you think will make you happy! Don't waste time on things you can't change and concentrate on what you can improve! \n\nLife is short so enjoy!
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If that's really true- you can change that.\n\nYou sound depressed and that's ok. I am too. When I start thinking like you I only get more depressed. Positive action is the only thing you can do to feel better and don't wait to feel better before you start. Let's both not think about dying and think about living tonight. Let's think of something positive we can do tommorow
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well try to make smalll steps each day and dont put to much pressure on your self at first start little by little ,and remember that being lazy is easy and people who always choose to do easy things will see no progress in their lifes and remmember to give your self energy or in other words incourage your self everytime you make an improvement even little improvements.Did you know that nowadays even the diseases which cannot be cured by doctors and pills can be cured by energy and you are the most important person in making up this energy ,did you know that 95% of our feelings in every case is realated to the way you look at them so "think positively "I'm sure you will make good progress .                                         SM
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You just need to boost your own self confidence a bit. Think to yourself that you are more then worthy and the best thing out there. When you believe this there will be no problem.
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You must love yourself. Everyday when you get up, think of one thing you love about yourself and tell yourself. If you find something negative, think of a way to fix it, and do it. I am sure you are a wonderful person, you just need to remember that.
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Get a feeling sense of what you wish to accomplish.Think from it, as if you already have it. Do whatever it takes to feel as though you already have it. React to it as if you do. Write "I am so happy and grateful now that _________." and list what you want in your life, in every area, That has been especially powerful to my life. It adds subconscious divine universal help to your efforts to better your life. It helps you control your own luck. It helps your thinking. But thinking alone isn't enough. Truly believing it in your heart Will definitely control this power. You can tell the difference by Saying "the Sun exists" and feeling the truth of that, and compare that to saying, "We have two suns" When you know the difference between those two feelings, you'll know the feeling of real truth in comparison to something you make up. That way, you'll know when you truly believe what it is you're going to manifest as comparison to simply only thinking it. Always remain positive, look at the positive aspects of life, ignore the negatives. ALways think about what you wish to experience and never what you fear. What you think about most and feel will be, will be. So this makes sure what you're making to be, is going to be something that you like. How you feel about something, good or bad, will always tell you directly how you'll feel when you get there. So if something feels good, or makes you feel good, keep doing it, or if something makes you feel bad or afraid, don't do it or think about it. Always experience joy in your life and focus only on it. No matter what. When you feel down. Start singing or Do whatever it takes to keep your positive outlook, it doesn't matter how much like reality it feels like your avoiding or being out of touch, you create your own reality so when you remain happy no matter what, you will be happy and eventually incapable of becoming sad or discouraged. Be happy no matter what, and do this with conviction. A standard as though breathing is a standard for living. If you do not breathe you die, this is how you will think of this standard of remaining happy and positive, and truly your life will be one of legends. Biblical and Amazing. People will look at you and wonder how you have everything you want, what do you do different than me? And you'll be different because you live with a secret. A magic secret that gives you anything, ANYTHING, you want. If you'll let it.
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Stick in there, your luck will change. Be the best person you could be always and smile a lot. Things will change in your favor...
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sometimes, i feel like i'm not worth it. there comes a point in everybody's life where they will feel like that. but honey, everybody is worth it in their own right. you may feel like this but if you look on the bright side... i know, it may be difficult to be optimistic but it won't hurt to try. if you could change your perspective on how you see things, you might be able elevate yourself from your problems and insecurities. change your outlook on things. try something new. take up a new hobby that can involve your child so he won't have to be lonely. just find something to do that can at least mend that broken smile...\n\nif what i said doesn't help... well, good luck with everything. i do hope you can find happiness. nobody deserves to be sad. i should know... i hate being sad but i am in real life.
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I don't know what to say to cheer you up but I just want you to know that I'm thinking about ya......it will be alright in the end...just have a little faith....lay down, kick back, think of somewhere that you REALLY REALLY want to be and imagine that place in your mind.....that's what I do, I usually end up smiling to myself...and for a little while, I'm happy....\nChin Up!!!
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You should psych yourself by relaxing, giving yourself a "confidence boosting talk", you know, you can do this, you KNOW this, etc. and just walk into it with assurance. Good luck!