My room mate is so gross...Can I tell her to clean her room or is that not my place?
347024
Either ask her nicely, or carry around lysol and spray everything before you touch it.
168899
messy and gross but not wrong. if she is willing go for it homey. just dont lick it ::gag::
811435
Can i speak to this so called girlfriend of yours?  Doesn't she know that if you drop a toaster in the bath, it ruins the toast?
671
If you just want them to stop acting like guests and start acting like roommates, start assigning chores and handing over the grocery lists once in a while.... "Hey, Susan, while I'm at work today, would you please vaccuum and water the plants?" or (In a joking tone) "Isn't it your turn to do the dishes?"  Open bills in front of them, and complain aloud about how high they've gotten.\nIf you want your house back, then be kind but blunt... Sit down with them and say "I have loved having you here, but I'm afraid that I can't have you stay much longer...I have XXXXX happening in a couple of weeks and need to have some time to myself before that, but it's sure been fun!"\nOr lie and tell them your landlord has reminded you of the terms of your lease and your rent will be raised if they stay more than another week.\nGood luck!
338284
Tell her next time "I'm sorry but, it is difficult for me to here you in the other room." When she says "I don't mean for you to get up" Say " You can try buzzing me on the phone" In other words state the problem offer a solution. Instead of getting frustrated.
458672
Allow her to ignore you and be jealous of you.  What harm can it do to you?  Just go about your daily routine as if she did not exist.  She just wanted to to bring her man to your flat so they could have some place to spend time together without fear of getting caught and when you ssaid no she found that you were of no use to her and that you had higher morals.  So she ignores you because she's a selfish B and you won't cater to her, and she's jelous because you're better than her.  Just use her as a daily reminder of the good person you are.
35971
If he is wasting your time cleaning up after him, try wasting his time. Take away privileges, and this should wake him up. He should know better than to do this when it is not his house but yours. Tough parenting, is just that. You only have 3 more years to make him a responsible adult. If you are tough now it will pay off. He may hate you now, but will love you for it later. \nGive him his living space for trashing as long as he doesn't do it to the rest of the house and just make him shut the door. When his room starts to stink, so will his cloths and his friends will let him know. Then maybe he will wake up and respect you and your house.
834592
Lazy,  poor housekeeper..
792887
Find another room for the same price you are paying now.  I am sure something is available that suits you if you really look hard enough.  SHe is a weird freak!!!!!!
577026
it's her choice if she is uncomfortable with strangers in the house, I don't blame her. If they help while you are there with them then yeah it's fine but she shouldn't have to be there with strangers when you're not there. You may think you know these people but they may be thieves or rapist you can never be 100% sure, especially if they are desperate enough for money that they will do chores for you.
384472
how about cleaning up your bedroom that your mother has been asking you to do for the past year???..that should CHANGE YOUR WORLD...\n\nAs for the rest of the world, dont worry son, i have got it all in hand....
212816
firsty your gf room mate has no right to say or imply sthing like that its considered blackmail you could go about it in so many ways 1.  you can tell room mate to hold onto to it and fantasise as much as she likes coz ure not prepared to jeprodize your relationship with ur gf.  (the novelty could wear off and she ends up giving it back) 2.  you and gf could engage in sexual activity with room mate it would be the start of "swinging" but the question that u need to ask urself would be r the two of you secure enough in ur relationship to engage in something like sharing each other if ur gf is in anyway bi it could be an experience for the both of u the key to a couple making a decision to engage in that would have to start with communication between the two of you  3.  the room mate would have to understand that it would just be sex and cannot be considered making love making love is shared between two people that love each other 4.  in your situation is evedently clear that your gf room mate does not respect you or your gf your gf should drop her and find a new friend GOOD LUCK
122407
Talk to her about it and ask her what her ambitions are.  It's not wrong to try to get your girlfriend motivated, it is wrong though to insist on it or force the issue.  I'm sure you don't do that.  If you have a problem with her messy apartment, then why don't you volunteer to help her clean it?  Or, just start cleaning it yourself if she doesn't mind.  If a woman had a problem with my messy apartment, I'd tell her to clean it if she had a problem with it.  So, there's nothing wrong with expecting you to if you don't like it that much.  I'm not saying you have to clean it or that she does.  I'm just saying you can either deal with her messy apartment or you can consider helping her out.  Have a talk with her too and see if she has any dreams that she might have given up on.  If she bothers you that much, than break up with her and find someone else.
351541
There's not anything you can do ... just keep going in and being yourself,if you go in now and act all weird she'll pick-up on it and it will make the problem worse.Believe me all she wants to do is forget about it.
603181
Tell her no and your lifestyle choice is gross and dirty!
1006840
First of all, if your house and family are that bad, then she shouldn't come over any more.  Seems like to me she's being a BRAT, and using you and your family.  You should stop hanging with her and enjoy your family.  They can't be replaced, you can get a new friend.
288518
I'd find out why this behavior got started. She may be depressed or worried. Be a pal and find out the why. If you can help her with that, she'll probably stop complaining about things that have nothing to do with her real problem, whatever that may be.\nIf she's complaining without an underlying cause, maybe she wants a new roommate and she's trying to get you out and someone else in.\nOr she could be physically ill with something and not know how to handle it.\nYou won't know until you ask. Best way to ask.....be polite, but just ask outright, in a calm, soothing tone of voice, whassamattah you? Or words to that effect.