i am in love with my b/f and need to let her know,but don't wanna ruin our friendship?
353668
If it's been ten years and you've felt this way...go for it, dude. That's a long time to wait and I think it's for the best if you tell her. Otherwise, you'll spend the rest of your life wondering "What if?"
1185740
That's sweet, your by her side and she knows that she can depend on you. It can be complicated sometimes, your not sure if you want to tell her because you don't want to break the relationship you have right now with her, but it's bothering you because you want her to know that you love her. You need to tell her, or else she might find another. I think that she likes you just by what you wrote. You sound like an awsome guy and I really think that you deserve her love.
941500
YES!!!\nI don't want to be the barer of bad news but you probably don't really love her. Real love takes time to develop. That being said two days is way too fast to tell someone you love them. You probably scared her away. Next time wait till she tells you that then at least you are only reaffirming her feelings.\nThe best thing to do to try to work things out again is to tell her that you said that because you thought that she wanted to hear it. Or you were mistaken about your feelings because of the history between you two overwhelmed you at first. Then invite her out for drinks or something AS FRIENDS ONLY. Work on your friendship and maybe it will have another chance to blossom. But even if it doesn't you can never have enough good friends.
1121039
yea but you do have to realize that when time works it out, you and her are going to have a lot of people mad at you to. Some might not be able to understand you and her love for each other you have to be sure that you can handle the pressure and gossip. And love doesnt always come knockng at your door so if you and her are in love dont let anything get in the way. Good Luck!!!
533780
You dont want to be in love with someone who doesnt love you back,so if telling her that you love her scares her away,then find someone  who is going to love you back and dont waste your time on someone who doesnt,you deserve better than that.
442927
Well, basically, in cases like this there really isn't much to tell because you just gotta go talk to him and speak out on whatever you have to say. I know that you might get that feeling that you don't want to ruin your friendship and everything, but you really want to tell him how you feel. Well, let me tell you something. I have this friend who just blurted his feelings for his friend. He didn't know if she will accept his feelings or not. He wasn't sure exactly what will happen; but deep inside of him he felt that he just had to tell her how he feels. So, he took his chance and stepped up to the girl and admitted his feelings for her. And now, they're happily together. No, they're not in a relationship or anything, but they both know that they're in love with each other. They just want to take time to get to know more about each other. They are willing to wait for the right moment to enter into a relationship. But the good thing about it is that their friendship never changed. They still remained good friends. So, if you two are really good friends, you don't have to be afraid of what will happen to your friendship because friends value their friendship more than anything. You two need to realize that your friendship is far more important than anything else. So, just tell him how you feel, but don't expect anything for that matter. There is that chance that he might have a different reaction, but at least you told him the truth and that will make you feel a lot better. Sometimes, you just gotta take that chance in life. I'm wishing you the best.
543552
Whatever you do, don't blackmail her into doing it. Don't say stuff like 'dont you love me then'. Assuming it's a 'her' were talking about here.
688809
If she is your girlfriend, you have to tell her.\nIf she is your friend, you have to tell her.\nIf she is someone you care about, you have to tell her.\nIf you don't give a damn about her, then play with her.
303747
tlk to her about it and tell her how u feel about it etc u should have no secrets tell her that and tel her u love her maybe she doesnt think u love her :) good luck and have fun cya
918677
talk to her about it first, don't just ask her out, she may not like it sine she has a b/f. if you talk to her about it then you can both come to an agreement and go from there. no matter what happens, telling her how you feel will bring alot of relief now that you would not have to hide it!\n\nGood Luck
422097
hmmm... this is tough.. when my guy told me this.. i believed him because he treats me right..\ni know you've been a good b/f to her! because only someone who is really in love would ask for other ppl's help because they want to know what's best for their girl... i think you should take her somewhere nice.. then tell her :)\nbut take it slow, so she knows that you truly care\nhope this helps
81903
I know that this is not the answer that u would like but it is the truth. In order to fully answer this question you should provied more info. Examples: are you dating, if so how long, does she love you? The simplest answer is to tell her and take a chance. However if you are not dating then you have no basis to love her unless you have been friends for a long time. If you have been friends for a long time tell her. It won't necessarily ruin your friendship if you tell her how you feel but on the same note it could. If you are dating and it has not been long, then it would depend on how close you are and her personality. If you have been dating a long time then let her know. Even if she does not love you then you will know and be able to move on. Bottom line is that this is to complicated of a topic and more details should be included in the question.
1150466
It may well be love, but don't dare tell her that!  Just say something like "Is it just me, or would you be interested in being more than friends/going out sometime/etc.?"  It's low key and low pressure (meaning you should be able to continue to be friends if she does not feel the same) and you will never know if you don't ask!  Please don't assume everyone makes relationship decisions based on their family background.  Good luck!
1157610
It must suck to be in this position.  If I were in this sticky situation, I would be too scared to tell my best friend that I'm in love with him/her.  But hey, it's not like your best friend in with anyone right now.  Technically, he/she is single.  You can try to make yourself more noticeable and drop a few hints how you feel.\n\nIf you're confident enough, it would be great to confess.  Don't worry, if you guys are best friends, it totally wouldn't ruin the friendship.  I've had two best friends who confessed that they liked me, but we were such good friends that we didn't let that affect our friendship.
506675
Since you two are such good friends there should be no problems on putting it all out on the table. Ask her simply what is going on here. If she says she wants to take it to the next level great for you two. If she says sorry for the signs but i only want to be friends you can totally be cool and say Oh, good me too (lying) but wait until you are ready to say how you feel. Also, do not believe the saying about not wanting to ruin a friendship by dating becasue if you are real friend not a thing can ruin it. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!
510543
I did this with one of my bf and finally my best friend said you know your my best friend and I love to hear about your life but enough is enough and I didn't even realize I was doing it and i was so glad that she let me know instead of just letting it go on. Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel most likely she doesn't even really even know how often she really talks about him.
581630
I'm not sure if there ever is a right time to tell someone you love them. But if you decide to tell her make sure she understands the kind of love you mean. I know you will be wearing your heart on your sleeve. But it's really the only way you can do it.