me and my boyfriend have gotten into fights before and everyone at school says we won't last should i listen?
345064
Well chances are it won't be forever because you are still in school and you have a lot of life to experience.  Here is some quick advice, don't fight in front of other people with your boyfriend, then everyone is all up in your business.
293689
Try getting some couple's counseling.  Staying together or breaking up is a decision that you need to make for yourself, but there are things you can take into consideration.  \nFirst, what is he saying?  If he is just yelling for the sake of getting his anger out, that's probably okay.  But, if he is insulting you or threatening you, that's not okay.  That's verbal abuse and it can be really hard on you in the long run.\nSecondly, do you feel threatened?  You can trust your instincts here.  If you are scared of him, get out.  If you aren't really all that scared when he yells, things will probably be okay with counseling or just talking to him about it.\nAnd finally, does he have a history of violent behavior?  If he is more violent, say, with brothers or friends, or if he condones violence he is more apt to become violent with you in the future, even if he has never touched you before.  Physical abuse can come about so gradually that you may not even realize that's what's happening to you.
460587
It sounds to me that you should try talking to gregory, (instead of hitting; that's immature).  Make sure to give him some space and try to sort things out.  If you have been with him a year as boyfriend and girlfriend, then Davion's comment should have not affected gregory that much.  He should already know he likes you. Let someone you trust, and who can give good advice (even if it hurts) know what is going on.  This will give you more insight on what is really happening.  If you do decide to go out with gregory again, see if someone can help you and gregory get through the bumps.  Just remember that whatever happens, it is your decision to stay in the relationship or get out.
1051924
Two years before we had a hot spot and fought but as both were stubborn we remained the same for a week. Later while playing a game before tests(whole class played yaar) we were in oppostie teams and then in same teams that time we could not avoid speaking to each other.Our anger melted and once again buddies forever. \nNow for some advice,listen to me. If you can rate your friend please see if he/she is worth of your friendship. If they are then apologise and don't fight again. If not then shut your mouth and go find some worthy and truthful friend. Ok good luck.
1120218
OH MY GOD !!\nDeja Vu, You remind me of me and my ex girlfriend. \nWe were together for 3 plus years. We used to fight so regularly that in the beginning our friends used to be shocked by the anger and in the intensity. But we used to end up kissing and making up. But as we moved on, our fights became a forthnightly event, and our friends just ignored it like it was a 'normal thing'\nBut I used to do all the things, you mentioned in your Q. Go in front of her house, we used to give each other missed calls and sometimes prank calls, we used to have our friends call eachother and find out how the other person was doing, and so on a so forth.\nBut fights in a relationship are NEVER healthy and mind you, it will get old and you will sometimes cross that line of sensitivity, therefore inadvertantly hurting the other persons more than you thought you would.\nHe (like my gf) might be of the false impression that fights are 'normal and important' to keep the love in a relationship.\nTry and convince him that this is not normal, NEVER.\nYou should set some ground rules and learn not to overstep eachother.\nI understood we fought as often as we did, because we lacked trust and respect for the other.\nTake one day at a time. You will never go wrong.
153002
If this is the first time you've gotten into a fight, probably not.  However, if you get into a lot of fights at school, there is a chance you could get expelled in the future.  Many schools now, and rightly so, take a very tough attitude toward kids that fight at school.\n\nSo think about your own behavior and how you present yourself at school.  Do a written apology to the principal and to the other student.  While you are suspended ask if you can have class notes and assignments and keep up with your school work at home.\n\nWhen you go back to school mend your ways and show that you know how to behave.  For a while when you go back everyone will be watching you closely.\n\nMost likely whether or not you get expelled depends on how you handle things in the future.  Turn over a new leaf.  YOur future success in life may depend on it.\n\nGood luck.  I'm sure you can do it.  The answer is in your hands.
199754
I'd say, make more effort to talk to him during school. If he resists, confront him about it. You don't need to put up with this kind of cold shoulder; you are his girlfriend, not his 'busfriend'.
696841
w/e u do don stand up to them... ucould get in trouble or hurt... best thing to do is to go to an adult immadeitaley... who cares if its like kindergarten... it may be ur life in the line
954352
Ok well some of these answers are just plain stupid. Geez arguments happen in every relationship people if you break up everytime you encounter an argurment or disagreement you will be looking for that right guy forever.\n\nFirst off, both of you need to just lighten up. I don't know what you are fighting about but many times arguments happen because of stupid disagreements (this is most often the case in younger relationships). Listen to what he has to say, have him listen to what you have to say. Try and find a compromise. The best couples are the ones that are willing to compromise (give a little to get a little). It doesn't always have to be one person's way or another.\n\nSecondly, he is 16, he is going to be immature. Some girls are too at that age. Hell I know girls that are in their early teens that are immature and some guys too. Just remember he may be 16 but he is still a youth. Give it some time and try and help him along rather than confront him on it.\n\nFinally if none of this works, weigh the pros and cons of the relationship. Can you see yourself with this guy in 5 years, 3 years, hell 1 year from now and more importantly do you want to.\n\nBEst of luck with everything.
800805
how long has it been going on?.....usually if you "dont do anything" it gets old and he'll back off and move on to someone with a reaction...but im afraid if you do punch him, that will give him more of a reason to never back off. If you have to do it, Iunderstand you need to take a stand try and do it infront of administrators so it cant go too far, their job is to bring down violence.....but remeber for someone to abuse someone else by picking on them it is because they feel inadequate and need to feel better about themselves. He must have serious mental problems and insecurity.
138110
You should report this person and make sure they're expelled...make a stand and show that you're not afraid...but try not to get into a fight if you can help it
705447
Tell him that you would appreciate it if he didn't publicly humiliate you and that you are simply doing your work to the best of your ability. I'm assuming you are in high school, and high school teaches sometimes will try to intimidate students if confronted. Don't let him push you around, stand your ground and speak to school administrators if he continues to give you trouble. Any further actions that he takes in an effort to embarass you would constitute harassment and school officials need to step in. This is actually a serious matter and should be handled as such.\n\nGood luck handling this. Just be confident in yourself and don't let him talk down to you.
570564
It doesn't matter if you like each other or not.. you FIGHT!!  Let it go, Honey, and move on.  Life is WAY too short to spend it trying to be with someone you only have fights with..  trust me on this one.. been there, done that.. and it sucks.
526532
There's actually a funny saying that all my teachers have hung up in their classrooms. It says "Everyday I give special attention to one person... today is not your day..... tomorrow doesn't look good either." You don't have to say that, but I thought that is pretty funny... but in all seriousness you should approach them and be like "Listen... you all are very close to me, but there isn't enough me to go around." Then if two of your friends get into a fight you simply say... "i'm sorry... but I am NOT taking sides." Sometimes... unfortunately... you have to take a stand with your friends like that. Good luck!!!
695042
it's good you know that these thhings are now too much to take. DOn't tolerate each thng that he does. If you think you're being violated at this, yu shouldn't give much time for him. You'd rather have a breakup if he can't get better after explanations. After all, he is proving how immature he is with all that he does...
666815
I don't know how old you are.  It sounds like you are in high school.  It is really hard to be in a relationship with a person who doesn't know what they want.  It isn't right to do that to you.  You need to talk to him.  Tell him that he needs to make up his mind (don't yell at him and phrase things nicely, and argument is the last thing that you need).  I was in a relationship with a girl that didn't know what she wanted.  It would have saved me a lot of time if I would have just ended it.  We are still friends though so we are okay.  If you have to end things, do it nicely.  Don't make any personal attacks against him.  If it is "meant to be" (wow that sounds cheesy), he will realize that he really wants you after you two are broken up.  So, if you got back together, he wouldn't have this indecisive problem anymore.  Handle this maturely.  It sounds like he is struggling to figure out what he wants, so you have to be the calm one in this situation.  Girl drama doesn't help guys at all.  All girl drama will do is drive him from you.\nDon't worry about being alone.  I guarantee that you would be okay.  I hope you work things out so you won't have to end a relationship.  Your situation isn't in to terrible of shape, so you still have a lot of hope.
1000107
I think you should talk to your parents and your boyfriend and remind them they both love YOU and out of respect for you, they need to act civil towards each other. Them fighting hurts you and only you.\n\nAs far as taking sides, make your own opinion about what's going on and stick to it. Maybe they'll start to see things your way.\n\nI know it can be very hard getting along with boy/girlfriend's parents, especially if one or both is convinced they are always right to the end of the earth. My boyfriend had to finally put his foot down and demand they be civil towards me. But at the same time, I also had to prove myself to them by working hard and showing I treated their son right.\n\nDon't take sides. Be your own leader and let them follow.