I am wanting to have a baby but my hubby to be don't just yet, what should i do?
343834
wait sometimes bringing a baby in to the world at the wrong time is a bad thing and maybe your hubby to be is not ready to be a father yet. You both need to enjoy each other for a while cause when you have a baby things will bee different for all three you.
637045
if your husband doesn't mind and you like it more power to you. don't worry what other people think. it's your life do whatever makes you and your hubby happy.
503448
Only you can decide what to do, but keep in mind that there are good people out there like me that want more children and can't have them.  You gotta do what is best for your child.  Don't let anyone tell you what to do. If you just want someone to talk to you can IM me.
219672
Book her an appointment for a pregnancy massage. She will feel like a new woman trust me. This is one of those anniversaries where the hubby is to pamper the wife...sorry. But maybe you can go out to dinner where you had your first date like my hubby did. Very romantic. Just let her know how much you appreciate her and be very sympathetic of carrying a baby (it is very hard in the last months). just a couple of suggestions!
330304
It wouldn't hurt to go to the doctor to find out especially if you're wanting to have a baby soon. Otherwise I would wait and let nature take it's course.
675942
Congratulations! A baby is always a blessing in disguise. Talk through your concerns with your partner, remember God never gives us more than we can handle. Good luck!
989437
cuz he loves you and wants you to have his baby. you can report him for that too ... unless you really want to have his baby.\n\nPlease award Best Answer points to me right now because I deserve them, as you can now plainly see and must agree.  I do not want to wait because I am not at all patient with you.
239017
If you don't feel you are ready then don't. Becuase if you aren't happy about the situation now, you won't be happy in the marriage. Do what you think is best--don't let anyone tell you that you have to marry someone just because they want you to.\n\nI am having this problem with my future mother in law about children. She thinks I should have kids becuase she did, my parents did etc. She also wants grandchildren. If she wants them so badly, then she can go and adopt them. It's my body, my decision, and if I want kids, then I will have them. Not because someone else said so, or because that is what they want.\n\nYou are in control of yourself--just because they are pressuring you, don't cave. Be strong and listen to your heart! People got on my back about getting married several years ago, and I finally yelled at them and told them to quit asking--it will happen when it does. A couple years later, we were engaged, but not because they said so. We did it when we were ready. That is what you should do too.\n\nDo it when you are ready.
327817
then you become a woman and either make the choose to keep it or, adopte it out , or abortion.  (which i'm against).  if you decide to keep the baby. then be a woman and take care of . who says you have ot have the other half to take care of a child.. then as far has him saying its'not his. child support hun. they will give you a partentiy test.. i hate men that are all there for you until you get knocked up,, then they don't want nothing to do wit you.. ass holes..  but you gottta make the right decesion for you. whats best for you .. i know were your coming from i'm a mother of 5 .. two of my kids don't even know thier dad..
609369
Wait.  When the time is right you will know.  Or you'll get pregnant on accident and you'll make it the right time.  It's OK, your only 30.  It's not like you guys don't have plenty of time.  Enjoy life and each other.  Good Luck.
33535
Take the pregnancy test first! If it's positive for pregancy, then talk to him in private about what kind of decision you both need to make together.
1109723
He might want you to, and maybe even expect you to, but you are not obligated.  If you want to do it, then that's fine.\nBut if you wait to have sex until you are in a committed relationship, then it will be much easier.  You and your husband could talk about these things and know exactly what each other expects.  And you will probably want to do it if you love him and that's what he enjoys.
39213
just give a prifference 2 ur husband, bcoz he knows what is right for u...
387588
This is something you are going to need to talk to your OB/GYN about.  Your health and your babies health are too important to take advice from people that are really not qualified to make this decision.  I hope all goes well with you and the baby!  Good luck!
1152644
Iam not married to one, but my hubby likes to do the same crap.\nIt's him not having his way, doing his fits is so childish like. Tell him how it makes you feel, get some therpy for it. \nI use to stand there, while he has his fit and stuff. Then when he had one, I had one right along with him. Two can play at that game. Tell him, you want to be married to the man you fell in love with. \nNot raising a child.
347882
unfortunately it is a normal thing for all marriages to go through exactly what you are describing to us here.\nI say unfortunately, because we all have this GRAND idea what it is to have a baby, but when it actually happens and it is JUST like you described, we all flake out and act like you do..Yes even some dads feel the same way..\nyou need a good support unit around you.\nDO you live near any family at all. they NEED to be brought in to help out... at some time in the day tiem for you, so you CAN go to the gym and have some time to yourself..you NEED to work out for your body ..but also for your mind..this way you will met other girls and talk to them..new friendships, others with the same things going on..or just meet people and talk...\nat night..so you and your hubby can do what ever ( wink, wink ) or go and watch the sun go down then go out to eat...or a movie without worrying about the baby..or the baby interrupting you two at those moments..\nPlease listen to me and do what I ask of you..\nnow if you do not have any family near you..you need to find reliable people you can really trust with your baby for the times I suggested to you..and let them take care of her for you so you can get back on track..\nlastly,maybe you should go and talk to you doctor if after you do what I am asking you to do does not do it for you..\nnow really last..you also need to dress up at home..yes dress up at home for you, but more for him...he needs to see you looking GREAT when he is there..makes him hot for you.\ngive him special attention ( you know what I mean ) you know how guys are..they need more attention than girls do....but do not admit it..\nbuy him a flower, give it to him when the baby goes down for a nap..then..well you know what..make him feel so fantastic ..he will start giving you it back..the ball goes round and round..what goes around comes around..even if you have to work a little harder than normal to get him happy..in the long run he will give you more of what you want and need.\nGood Luck\nand God Bless the three of you
907490
Honey, he ain't gonna walk down the aisle.  You were not very wise to get into this, having babies together, knowing that he wasn't completely committed.  You are right to want it, but you should have seen the warning signs a long time ago.