Dating a man with a colostomy.  Is it difficult to carry on a sexual relationship with this?
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The following link is a support page for colostomy users and discusses this issue in some detail. I think it would be really helpful for you given the situation of your partner.\nhttp://www.ostomysupport.info/sex.html
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Contact a nurse specializing in colostomy supplies.  There are different makes of supplies out there that use different adhesives.  There are also different applications that can be used.  I know people that went through different brands before finding the right one.  In the meantime let air get on your irritated skin when possible
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Anal sex can be very stimulating.  I've often enjoyed reading gay erotica just for that... In reality, however, most men are bigger than a dildo and if he's not careful and you're not properly lubricated, it can be painful.  I did it once and found it painful.  But I'd never inserted anything there before and he was rather well endowed.  If you've practiced "solo", it should go a lot easier and should be very pleasurable.  Have him stimulate the clitoris, or do it yourself, while he's in there.  I've enjoyed manual stimulation of the anus, so I'd probably try it again sometime.\n\nps.\nThere usually isn't any fecal matter in the rectum until you have to poop, so that shouldn't be an issue... and yes, I too do enjoy a good poop.  There's something rather erotic about it.
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OK, your boyfriend wants to have anal sex. Do you? If you are really wanting to try, good for you. Don't be self concious, no need for that. You should get over these feelings before you do it. Sure there's a chance of him sticking his co.ck into your a.ss and pulling it out with sh.it on it, but usually not. Hey, he's sticking it in your butt and this kind of stuff can happen. I have had anal sex with many women and I have only pulled my co.ck out once that it had a little sh.it on it. It's like no big thing. You just wash it off.\n\nBut one thing to remember, do NOT let him stick his coc.k into your vagina after he pulls it out of your butt. There is a lot of bacteria and you can get an infection from that in a place you don't want it.\n\nWhen you let him "do it", make sure that you have plenty of lubricant to make it hurt less. The first time will probably hurt, heck he's gonna stick his di.ck in your butt hole, but do it slowly. Hopefully, it won't hurt and you'll continue to enjoy anal sex with him or who ever. I enjoy anal sex whenever a girl wants it. And don't get embarrassed if he pulls out of your butt with a little poo on his member, it ain't no big deal. I'd think it would be more embarrassing for him to ask you to screw you in the butt.
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i don't really care as long as it is attached to a caring loving respectful guy who knows how to use whatever he has...not just his penis...
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The age thing alone can be a problem....because he would be in trouble since you are so young... But besides the age difference, there could be other problems. I understand how you feel about his and the masochism. I have a strong masochistic nature too. Regardless of the age, this type of relationship can be unhealthy. There is alot of psychological manipulation behind it.....some negative, and in your young age you may not be able to cope with some of that. I was 23 when i was in a relationship like this...i even married him, but it is very tough on your emotional and mental state.....be prepared. My hubby and i aren't together any longer, and i am struggling to maintain a life with some of the psychological "results" of my past relationships..... just be careful....please!
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I'm with you; I don't see the appeal of that way but some people dig it.  If he really can't let it go, maybe you could just try it once, as sort of a wifely sacrifice, and then if it's uncomfortable for you, I'm sure he won't want to repeat it.  I pray that this isn't one of your last options.  In my view, it's sodomy, and I can't see God approving it as a regular practice.  Blessings to you!
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Well, depends on how long/well you have been with your date.  If its a very new relationship, perhaps you just gotts say, no, sorry, we cant tonight, but perhaps the next date.  If he's a decent guy, he will understand.\n\nAlso, it is possible to go that far, with your period.  You CAN indulge in o ral, so long as you have made sure you are nice and clean, and freshly 'changed'.  It is true that s ex can be ok during 'that' time.  It certainly aids the lubrication aspect, and it can really help with period pain.  For guys, at that time, wear a condom, and put down an old towel before you begin!  Not the most romantic, but it IS practical!!   LOL....  Sorry, this is not meant to be rude, just giving options!
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My husband had a foot of his colon removed and is doing fine. However, if they remove the entire colon (I'm assuming there's something like hardening of the arteries taking place there) you may have to have a colostromy bag. My brother just had that procedure and is also doing very well. Be sure to find out exactly what your doctor is planning on doing....knowing what to expect will help ease your worry. \n\nSurgey can be frightening and there are always risks involved, but I am sure it is for the best. You won't feel anything during the operation, but you will be sore afterwards. They'll give you medicine to relieve the pain and place you on a special diet until you're healed inside. Today they make smaller incisions and people tend to heal faster. You will probably be allowed to go home after just a few days.\n\nI wish the best and may you make a speedy recovery!
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I know what you mean.  I have been down that road for 13 years now with guys who use, abuse, etc.  If you really like this guy, make sure he is doing for you and showing that he truly wants to be with you.  I just found a guy that I am truly in love with and I know that he feels the same for me.  You want one that will cook and do whatever it takes to pleases u.  My guy won my heart because he was there for me thru rough times with other boyfriends and saw me go thru heartache.  He wanted to be close to me and he got me.  He also cooked for me before we were dating when he went on his lunch break while I was working and brought back the best shrimp scampi you can imagine.
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Well, I am a 33yo divorced mother of 2 boys.  I DO NOT want a committed relationship.  Maintaining my independence and identity is important to me.  Non-committal sex is the "easiest" way for me.  It really does sound  morally questionable, however, I have needs as well.  \nI met a man shortly after I split from my hubby.   The sex was PHENOMONAL. We were actually a couple for 6 months. This is terrible to say, but the sex is the only reason I stayed with him.  We weren't compatible as a couple. But I thought about the sex all the time. I have NEVER felt a sexual connection with anyone before like this.  After we broke up I proposed this idea to him about FWB.  He was a little surprised.  Maybe felt more USED than anything.  He said OK. We'll see. Haven't had sex  yet since before the break-up.  If a female can prevent from getting emotionally attached, more power to ya. I think it is a great idea.
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i don't see why not? i have dated alot of guys who had kids and i had no problems with the guy (regarding the child), the kid(s) or the baby mamas.there are boundries u dont cross where the child is concerned.i had no bad experiences, u got 2 know the child comes first its his priority.he's going 2 have to get child space and my dear dont forget he's going to have to be in contact with the child's mother.
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the real question is what is it that you want i mean r u cool with a no string relationship and do you actually want something more serious. if you do you need to let him know that even though he has an erection problem that your willing to work with him and find other means of sexually arousal that is if its not that big of a deal for you also let him know that relationships arent solely based on sex and if you guys care about eachother you should be willing to make some kind of step towards commitment if not b his roxy
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LMAO...ok I just think its funny...I am wondering if we took a poll of all the answerers..I would bet that most of them that said nothing are either still dating or are newlyweds..Just an observation.\n\nAnyhow..with my hubby I love him the way he is..if there was something I could change it would be little things.  The first being that he changes his mind alot..and since I am a planner that is irritating sometimes to me.  Second, that he would be a little more domestic.  meaning that he helped more with cooking, cleaning, kids,...that sort of thing;  and finally, that he had less of a problem with flatulence.  Do I REALLY have to explain the last one???\n\n:-)
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Of course not. You're satisfying him in other ways and he should be fine with that. I don't know why you're not using birth control but that's your business.\n\nBasically, men are made of sterner stuff than they realize. He will survive until the day that there will be "no restrictions." While you're being there and making him happy in other ways he should be content with that.\n\nIf he literally CAN'T do it then he has a medical/psychological problem that he needs to deal with. He will still have this problem with someone else.
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Not weird at all... my man has the same fetish as U. It's perfectly normal and causes no damage.  I would love to get a massage from U.. but I'm afraid I'm too far away from U.. but Yeah.. why not?? sounds kind of exciting!\nBy the way... I prefer chocolate syrup.. lol..
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Like I tell everyone else, Ask yourself this question.\n\nIf the person you love was to get into an accident and get disfigured and they dont look the same and are unable to have sex due to medical problems would you still love them? \n\nIf you say no then your not in love with them in the first place.\nIF you say yes you are in love because you overlook appearance and sex as being the focus of your relationship.