My ex-boyfriend asked me to marry him what should i do?
336064
Hi,\nNo, your loving him is not enough to make a good marriage.  He's unstable, jumping from you to her and now back to you.  He doesn't love himself, and he can't really love anyone else until he does. I don't think you would ever trust him and would make yourself sick wondering every time he was out of your sight - and with good reason.  He cheated on you once and will probably do it again just as easily\n\nIt is definitely not worth putting up with his unfriendly family either.  That is the most hurtful thing that can happen.  They would drain you of every ounce of self-respect - if your guy hadn't already done that.\n\nHe doesn't love, but he is very needy and can't seem to live without a woman in his life - whoever she is doesn't matter so much as long as she's there to tell him he's ok.\n\nDon't be the one.  Who would there be to tell you you are ok?   No one.\n\nSay "no thank you" and make yourself move on.  One day you'll find a man who can love you enough to treat you with respect and kindness.
776746
Do you love your husband?  If you love him you should not take the chance of loosing him just for a fling.  Don't you think your ex-boyfriend is probably hoping you'll give him some before he gets married. He might just be running around to all his old girlfriends hoping to get laid by someone. Don't do it sweetie it's not worth it.
865831
You should give him the same exact respect you would want him to give you...but I have a feeling you have already gone beyond where that line is with you.\nSit down with him.  Tell him how much he has meant to you, but that you have changed and he doesn't mean that anymore.  Be honest, the worst thing you can do to yourself is lie.\nI would caution you on one thing though-the new relationship is always going to seem exciting-at first.  Then it becomes just another relationship.  Don't keep the current guy hanging on while you find that out.  Since you betrayed his feelings, it is better for him if you move out now and be honest with him.\nI am not judging you harsly, it just sounds that way.  I have been on  BOTH sides of this arguement so I know what you are feeling and I know what he is going to go through.  \nJust be a good person about it, as good as you can anyway.
52963
Why is he an ex?  If it's a good reason, try to get over those residual feelings...know it's for the best that you aren't together.  I say, if you still have feelings, swallow your pride and let him know but also be prepared, just in case he says he doesn't feel the same.
1127003
if u still love him think about giving him another chance but b4 making ur decision u should think about why u broke up with him in the first place and if ur rlly over wat he did to u. ask urself if u can rlly trust him again and if it's rlly a good idea to get back together with him the choice is urs \nGood Luck!!!
489018
You broke up with this guy for a reason. Ask yourself if you really like your ex. Who do you want to be with? maybe you should just be single for a while and just date around. Maybe try to be friends with your ex and see how that works out for you, see if your feelings resurface, but also tell him to date as well. It'll all work out if you think things over.
1088052
I realize that it may be really hard right now but I hope you realize how valuable you are yourself and that you will take care of you during this time. You may or may not\nget the full answer as to why he broke up with you.  I had\na boyfriend in high school that everyone swore or thought\nwe would surely get married and we ended breaking up and we had been dating over a two year period.  Give him his space and see what happens.  Be good to yourself in the meantime.  If you were good to him and know that in your heart  of hearts you gave your best thats all that anyone can ask.  He may have some things he needs to work out.
777436
He told you how he felt. You cant change or control him and thats what your trying to do. He was honest with you cuz you asked him to be. Theres nothing more to it, you are now broken up and have been so theres no more relationship. He doesnt have to answer to you for anything. He has every right to have a date if he wants just as you do. You are trying to control something beyond the break up and all that will do is prolong any hurt for YOU, not him. Move on and forget the friends thing for now. Maybe down the road but now you need to let go of it all.
643810
ask urself one question.. how would u feel if he did that to u? do u love him and want to be with him ?(current boyfriend) if u dont... end that relationhip before u try to start up another one...its not fair to anyone involved
820355
Well, you should start talking to someone else too. Maybe that will help you get over him and what he is doing. The fact that you seperated because you "needed time to grow" should have told you that he was going to date other people. What did you think was going to happen? You were going to seperate and then just wait around for eachother? If that`s what you thought, you shouldn`t have seperated at all. You need to get out there and find a new man. Just let this guy go and do whatever he wants to do. If it was "meant to be" you will end up back together. In the meantime, you should go out and have your own fun and not sit around worrying and wondering what he is doing. Do your own thing and let HIM wonder about YOU.
948063
Tell him that you are very sorry that you hurt him. I don't know what happened to make your relationship go bad...but I know that if I was dating a guy and we broke up for whatever reason I wouldn't want to hurt him. That would make me hesitate to break up with him. Maybe you could point out whatever difference that broke you up is now resolved. Tell him also that you could start out very slow as friends and then get to the dating stage evenutally. If you really love this guy you will be willing to take as long as it takes to win him back. Good luck.
102354
If you really hate him..you should talk to the girl that has been calling and tell her not to date him! but if i were you..i would still talk to him..he is your ex after all and you and him need to move on!
361526
First of all I want to tell you that I am very sorry that you broke up with your fiance. It must be a very difficult time for you. I believe that relationship on the way to marriage should be running pretty smoothly. There should be no real problems whatsoever. For what ever reason it is that you broke up, you probably should stay broken up. I don't mean to sound harsh, but its true. Also, do you really want to get back together with someone who has posted personal ads on the internet right away? I know people will say that he is hurt and whatnot. But if your boyfriend is gay or bi, do you really want to be in the middle of all that heartache? I think that there is a strong possibility your ex boyfriend may want to do a little experimenting. I think you need to think about moving on, how hard that may be. But you deserve a happy relationship without secrets, lies and deceits. If your ex is really gay, do you want to subject yourself to STD's? I am not saying anything against gays (I have two uncles that are brothers who are gay), but I am talking of cheating... I would rather have my ex break up with me than live a life filled of lies with me. Its not fair to both of you.\n  I would not take him back but that is my opinion. If you were really sure about this guy you would not be writing on here. It sounds like you have your doubts as well. Trust your instincts and what your heart is telling you. That is the best advice that was ever given to me.\nGood luck.
309960
If you are in a relationship, you have to do what it is that you think is best. If your boyfriend your with now is not where your heart is, why are you wasting his and your time, move on because it is not fair. It seems as if you want your cake and to eat it too.  You have to be fair to yourself and to your boyfriend and to your ex. Follow your heart.
1012872
I think you shouldn't wait for him and don't rush into a relationship when your not even over your ex. Don't cheat someone out of all of you. Don't go into a relationship half-ass in other words it's not fair to either of you. You can't take his hints as a sign that he might possibly want to get with you. You moved, things changed and they may never go back to what they used to be. Don't assume that you'll never love anyone as you did you EX because even if he was your first love you'll always have a place in your heart for him. But life moves on as did he and when you heart heals then you'll be able to fully commit yourself to someone else. Just give it time it will get better. Good luck gurly!
44991
Don't call him, don't answer his phone calls.  If you broke up with him, don't pay any attention to him going out with other ladies.  You will just get jealous and want him back for the wrong reasons.  If he broke up with you, that sux.  Don't let him play any mind games with you.  If he wants to get back together, tell him you have moved on and that he can't mess with you anymore.  Then move on and be done with it.  Don't watch any movies or listen to any songs that you shared.  That only makes it worse.  And don't hook up with him out of desparation or because ya'll don't have anything better to do.  Your life will be miserable for it, I promise.
1127334
He's  a jerk, accept it now and move on.  \n\nHE WILL NOT CHANGE ONCE YOU MARRY HIM.