Need advice ..........?
349801
Don't expect anything concrete from this guy first.  looks like he's way too confused about what he wants to settle down.  Just agree when he says he doesn't want a relationship.  If saying "let's just be friends" riles him up, forego it.
343271
Don't wait around.  Take charge yourself. He may not be thinking along the same wavelengths as you.  I respect someone who can be direct.
225931
Someday in the future you will realize how completely irrelevant your situation is to the rest of your life. Don't stress about it. I don't recommend manipulating anyone to believe something else. That won't get your far at all.
466081
Hire a hitman. Just kidding. Just let things work out. If she wants to be with you she'll be with you. Otherwise just move on.
562661
Tell him you don't love like the way you used to.  It's easier to be honest with someone rather to string them along.  It's going to be ugly, but it has to be done if you want to be happy.
434817
dude, seriously, I had the same situation a couple years back. I'd get out of it ASAP. Sorry if you love her but if she's not willing to make a decision, that shows some serious commitment  issues that are going to stay with you too. If you can, just be her friend and move on. She's probably going to be really shocked if you do this, but STAY OUT OF dating relationships with girls like this. It only ends up biting you later!
836039
Oh God...more of those?!! If you don't know how to make up your mind which guy you want and you are seeking advice online, sorry but there's something wrong there...\n\nOh, and if it helps,choose the new guy...of course he deserves a chance the poor guy...oh, bless
955973
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
595026
Be honest and just come out with it. Why drag this out? This way he can move and find someone who loves him and won't be sleeping around on him. He deserves that much!!!!
328485
Well you are in a pickle, aren't you?  Hope they are in different towns.  Try to keep them apart as much as possible.  Other than that I would say you are in deep poo poo if they find out.
732086
DON'T TRY TO FIGURE OUT ANYTHING. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. FORGET THE SO CALLED WANNA  BE FRIENDS TOO. THIS SOUNDS LIKE A BUNCH OF KID GAMES TELL THEM YOU DON'T HAVE TIME FOR IT. PICK YOUR FRIENDS LIKE YOU WOULD PICK A APPLE FROM A TREE. EVIDENTLY YOU HAVE SOMETHING THAT WOULD MAKE THEM HATE YOU ANYWAY.SO HOLD YOUR HEAD UP HIGH, SMILE, AND LAUGH THAT DUMB SHIT OFF
48871
Pray to God for help and guidance. In this situation, because there is obviously nothing you can really do, put it in God's hands. I'll be praying for you!! I hope this helps. :)
95172
If it were me, I would tell them both that their friendship is more important to you right now and try to explaine that you might not be ready for a stead relationship at this time. That way you're not having to choose and possibly breaking up what the 3 of you have right now. Sometimes the best things are the hardest to do, because it's almost certain you will lose 1 if not both if you choose.
317470
Let your friend follow the advice of the butthead. Sometimes the best advice you can give is to not give any advice at all.
321205
just tell her. talk to her about it. it works the best!
112595
Oh dear Lord.  Please tell them right away.  You need sone kind of help.  I have never dealt with this and have no advise, but please get up enough courage to tell her, she can help you.
286224
Tell your new girlfriend that you are having a problem.  Explain how you are attracted to her, what you love/like about her, but that for some reason you keep thinking of your old girlfriend.  Explain that you don't really know why.  Then let her know that you need some time to work this out, and that the more time goes on, the more you realize that you're not ready to be in a new relationship after all right now, WITH ANYBODY.  And truthfully take that to heart.  I'd ease off of this new relationship for a few weeks or a month or so, just to sort out your own feelings.  You need to either A) get in touch with some real feelings of grief about losing your old girlfriend and work through them (maybe with a counselor?) and / or B) re-visit the old relationship to see if you should continue.  Either way, it's important to recognize and attend to what's real, your truest and deepest feelings inside.