How do I have a party and not let one of my co-workers know about it?
350801
BAD idea. Invite her. If you two do not get along, chances are she would not come anyway. If you don't invite JUST her, word WILL get around. If not before the party, then after. Someone will slip. It's not fair to other co-workers to ask them to keep quiet about the party. Invite her. Be cordial to her at the party if she shows up. Don't let her ruin your party by being miserable all day.
772818
Lots of things to be concerned about- dpeneding on what type of party it is- if it is an engagement party, bachelor party, whatever.\n\nSome quick ideas-\n\n- make sure the location has been paid for and all contracts have been signed.  \n-  make sure that if it is to be catered you ave signed that contract and went over the menu with them\n- finalize guest list\n- make sure what time the hall closes and what time you can get in to decorate\n- if there is to be entertainment, confirm with the company\n\nLots to think about. but since you never mentioned what type of party it is, these are a few general ideas.  good luck!
516604
I agree with the other answer- tell them you already had plans for the evening. Thank them for the invite and tell them not to forget "details" at work the next day.
611269
You know what - you didn't do anything wrong.  This all happened before you even met her.  Sounds like there was a lot of drink at that party.  Odds are she already knows or eveyone else didn't remember it the next morning.\n\nI say, not a dark secret, but no need to bring it up.  If you are ever approached you can be honest then if you wish or you can act like you were too drunk to remember anything yourself and let them think they have something on you.\n\nThose kinds of nights are magical and they don't come round very often...
564223
First, get a big club.  Walk around the office with it.  People will start to fear you.  Thats a key component of being a leader.  Next, Do not speak unless all are hushed and at attention.  This shows that you respect yourself, and will make others respect you.  If a few of your coworkers begin having a side conversation during your speech, club them.  Strike them quickly and without remorse.  Also, always ask for input when you are thru with your presentation, this gives your coworkers the idea that you care what they think, whether or not you actually do.
130657
Just include it in the details.  I just had a big birthday party for my 40th and I don't think anybody was offended with my way of doing it.\n\nI said where, when, described the food and entertainment, and listed the prices for adults and kids and asked them to pay me which I then took care of with the manager.\n\nDo yourself a favor and have a list of who is coming and how much they owe.  That way you can check off who came so the restaurant doesn't overcharge you and you can mark off who paid.\n\nIt worked like a charm for me and everyone had a blast.
299776
I absolutely hate it when that happens. I always try not to get involved, but if I have to, I end up bitching someone out. Just don't get involved, and make it clear to your co-workers that you are not involved. Make sure they understand that they are both your friends and you will not take sides, no exceptions. I am usually very firm when it comes to these issues, because you're right, it IS high-schoolish. I have very little patience for this kind of thing, and all my friends know this.
881485
Think of it this way - you save yourself money in not having to buy her a wedding gift.  I think it was rude on her part to invite some co-workers but not all, that's why it's best not to invite anyone from work - it saves this kind of thing from happening.  Don't get upset about it, look at it like it's one less thing you have to do.  It sounds like your work "friend" is really more of a friendly acquaintance.  I had the same thing happen to me - my boss and I get along really well but when she had her annual halloween party, she didn't invite me - and instead invited a woman nearly 30 years older then us.  I was shocked but I didn't let it get to me.  Just do your work and don't worry about her.
325644
office drama is tricky to deal with. If you dig yourself in by getting revenge its going to escalate into something that will get management involved and may get you both fired. Do nothing to the person. But also realize that you can use this person. Don't tell them anything you don't want repeated but if you want everyone to know something, tell them and they will. Also, make sure you keep notes about everything. Keep your evidence hidden so when they do try and get you in trouble you'll have proof of where you were and then you can turn around to your manager and point out all the things that you have noticed this person do that's against company policy. Good luck and tread lightly!
352997
If she has survived the test of being you friend this long, she'll make it thru a party with your not-so-annoying friends... She knows about your party because she IS your friend, girl, to have friends, you also have to be one! A true friend would tell the others that EVERYONE is at your party because they are special to you, anyone who forgets that and behaves badly, obviously red flags themselves as NOT your friend! Well heck that would almost be the best bday gift of all, True Colors!  Set the standard, sweetie!\nBut I think you already know that... Happy Birthday!
748270
Are you male or female?  What is the weather like outside?  Are there any other events that your friends might have attended instead of coming to your party.  Just because someone who is your friend couldn't make your party doesn't mean they don't like you.  Just think you'll have more to eat and drink.  Did you and the friends that did come to your party have a good time?  Maybe there was somekind of mixup with the invitations and some of them didn't get invited by mistake.  Maybe some of them had to work or babysit.  I don't know you but I'm a 51 yr. old nana and you can know that I'm always here for you.  Ask me anything anytime, I stay online alot.  Haven't been a member of the Yahoo Answers long but I really like it.
610756
Ask the person you think you can trust to keep their mouth shut in your group if they know.  If they don't maybe they can find out for you, discreetly.
758215
This a deep office ethics verus common morality.  Confronting your co-worker verbally in private maybe taken as show of strength perhaps even agression.   A good course of action would be to confront her in front of your co-workers in calm and even tempered logical manner.  If she doesn't like you and spreads rumor she'll come out as agressive or defensive.  The calmer your stay saying comments like "Your behavior lately has been childish and unprofessional."  and "Such action is unwarrented, if you have greivence against me bring it to my attention and we can work it out"  Nine times out of ten the other person will come out with defensive remarks making them look bad.  They might even reveal their problem with you.  Good luck  and stay calm rumours can only bring you down if you sink with them.
324746
Not really. All that you can do is ensure that there is nothing publicly available for your employer to discover. For example, be very aware that if you have a Blog, post on popular message boards, or have ever used the Usenet, that your employer can, and likely will read what you've posted there.\n\nAs someone who has hired others, you'd be surprised at what personal stuff people actually encourage you to look at. I had one person who sent in her "Gothic Fetish" website as an example for the position of writing for a children's magazine.\n\nNote that your private information is basically off limits to an employer, and that your employer can not choose not to hire you due to age, gender, race or religion.
616248
Nice pun in your question.....\n\n\nIf you have reason to maybe let them know I would otherwise I don't see a need to. It is up to you and according to your comfort level with your co-workers.\nMy wife is claustrophobic in certain situations so I know it can be tough.
310647
Well......keep following the rules But Do Not and I repeat Do Not follow your co-workers around telling them how they are not following the rules and also don't be a "tattle tale".   Nobody likes working with someone like that. And as Crazy as it sounds just because you follow all the rules to a T it doesn't mean that You are more productive or a more valuable employee than someone who may bend them sometimes. Just focus on your own work and what you do and you won't have time to worry about who is following the rules.    Good Luck.
338850
ask them to come, offer good food and great drinks and maybe tell them alittle about what kind of party it is good luck