what is the best way to tell your boyfriend you want to have a baby but your not maried to him yet?
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id say that u should gradually work ur way up to telling him that u want one.first,ask him if he wants kids someday,2.ask him if he would someday want a kid with u,3.tell him that u have been thinking about having a baby,and u want one with him,and i think u can go from there,hope it works out
1050985
I know its hard to blunt but sometimes its the best. I myself have a hard time speaking up because im always worried about the other person. Be firm and put your foot down becuase if you arnt and you just laugh and giggle he will take it as an open door. Write him a letter being very firm if its hard or something if its hard to say it to him directly. He may seem sweet to you but the fact that he doesnt get the hint when you are carrying SOMEONELS' child doesnt seem like hes a very respectful guy.
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Morally, you are obligated to tell him.  This child is not just your child.  This is something you both created.  You must BOTH make some life changing choices.\n\nAbortion to me is totally out of the question.   I think the baby needs a chance at life rather you can do it or not, there are many families willing to adopt.\n\nMy preferance is this:  If you are old enough and both of you love each other for what is inside, then get married and start a real life for this child.  ALWAYS communicate, and NEVER goto bed mad.  Even if you have to be the first one to appoligize.\n\nNow if he is not man enough to take on the responsibility, then maybe your parents can help you make the choices you need to make.\n\nGood Luck!\nJames McDowell\nFather of 3 wonderful kids. (I was once in your shoes)\nMarried to thier mother for almost 17 years.
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Wow!!  You really need to sit down the both of you with your parents and have a serious discussion about your options and your future.  Two children is a lot to handle and very expensive.  Unless your families are very supportive and willing to help financially and emotionally you may want to consider adoption or abortion.  You are soooo young and so is your boyfriend, be sure about your decision!
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You arent being paraniod. Tell her that babies arent just cute to hold and rock to sleep. Tell her that she wont have ANY time for herself, and if the boy caves in and leaves (which he prob. will) she will be alone in raiseing the baby. Tell her she should wait until she is both physically possible and finacually stable with a nice man to have a baby. Tell her all about STDs. Tell her it is a woderful thing to have a baby....when she is ready to have one.
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I think you should wait, and after Christmas, and sadly enough you are going to have to tell him face to face. If you don't have the guts to take it, you can just "accidentally" take him to a site talking about it. But telling him would be the best idea.
767362
Just let things take their natural course, and you'll be surprised!\nLet him come after you, after you have the baby, it is quite likely he will. Just let it happen. Relax and good luck with your baby.
33535
Take the pregnancy test first! If it's positive for pregancy, then talk to him in private about what kind of decision you both need to make together.
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First of all, winning his heart has nothing to do with having that baby.  To do with winning his heart.  I am assuming that you know him well enough to know what his feelings for you are.  If not just talk to him about it.  As for the baby I sure hope that the decision you made to keep it was for the right reasons and that you are prepared to raise it without this lad.  Don't mix the two together and start telling the truth and to hell with both of your mates or so called mates.
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The next time that he brings it up just tell him point blank you are not ready yet, and if he would just relax a little about it maybe you will feel more comfortable getting married in the future. Just be sure to let him know that you do not want to loose what the 2 of you have now.
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ask him to whisper to your boyfriend what he said then you don't have to tell your boyfriend yourself
265417
be patient and dont attack him when telling him\nlet him ease into the relationship at his own speed\nyou would want the same
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Bring out his BAD side.  Make him seem incapable of raising the baby and show that you are better capable.  It works effectively.  Good Luck\nA.L.
212333
write him a  very sweet and loving vow he isnt expecting to hear
737708
I think you should talk to your friend and ask him why he wants a baby and if he's ready for the commitment.\n\nGood Luck.
670958
tell him...be honest with him...that is the best way!
310372
Tell him that your pregnant and see what his reaction is.