I'm in love with a married man, what should I do?
340825
What makes you think you are the only one he is screwing around with?  He is a cheater!!  Even if he did leave his wife, chances are he would repeat the process with you.  Haven't you ever heard the expression "if you love someone, let them go?"  Let his ass go...you can do it. He obviously doesn't love you enough to leave his wife. But we both know this isn't what you want to hear. You are looking for ways to make him leave her...and if anyone on here has a conscience, they won't even offer that up. This isn't love, it is an obsession.
451772
go and meet him but you have to see carefully if he actually loves you or not.\nIf you actually feel that he loves you, marry again
28468
i suggest that you sit down and  talk to your husband.  this may cause many mnay problems down the line if your not already feeling a certain way towards him now, marraige is a HUGE responsibility, and it is not something to be taken lightly,youe need to discuss this with him and try to find a way to resolve these issuses.
277007
Go to a local marriage counselor.  Do it before the marriage is really in trouble.  Or there may be psychological problems that can not be fixed.  It is great you know he loves you.  Good luck
346000
Ma'am I know you are in love and that this will be hard to hear but, you will be waiting a lot longer than four years. If he has not left his wife yet, he never will.\nHe may have lots of reasons why he hasn't and may even tell you when he will divorce....but, bottom line is......... if he didn't love her and wanted to be with you, he would have left by now. You are worthy of having real true love with a man that does not have to be shared.
563234
Yes, you are right! If he loves you as much as he says he does then he must sort out his own problems with his wife. If they decide a divorce is the best way then that's on them. Question is do you really love him? If you both are just friends (nothing sexual) then that's okay. It may seem or feel questionable but as long as you both are friends it's okay. If you do really and truly love him my dear I would tell him how you feel. If he feels the same way about you then he must divorce her before he moves on with you. Sounds as if you are stuck in the middle here. That's no fun! Regardless, as friends, stand behind him in whatever he chooses to do. Good Luck!
532788
that married man doesn't love you. if he really loves you, he would have divorced his wife by now & ask you to marry him. save your life. go find someone better. trust me, honey, it's not worth it. i'm in the same situation right now & it is not nice! god bless you, dear...  =)
306390
NO you may be in love but he isent if he wants to see other woman.so dont get your self hurt.so just let him see\nwho he wants and you find the real man of your dreams.\ni dont think this guy is for real.deap down you no that.\nit will be hard at first but life and u are worth more\nthan some man who dosent want you.sorry i no how it feels\nim married to one.
608285
If you cant realize what he might be thinking/feeling...\nJust read what typed.  Give the guy a break.  Would you call someone 4 times a day, if you didnt like them??\nThink about it for just one minute.  He could be justa tad shy, + you're still married.
382231
Sounds like you got yourself in a little trouble. Well your husband must not be doing something right or you would not be in love with another man in the first place. First off tell this man how you feel and let him know if there is gonna be something serious between the two of you it cant go on this way for ever because its just not fair to any of you and if he feels the same way about you then maybe its time you let your significant others go. Second is this man going to be worth losing your husband over. And third when you look into the future can you picture yourself not with your husband and also him with another women? Life is to short if your truly in love with this man go with your heart, and dont wait untill its to late.
591539
I wouldn't do anything right now.  You've told him how you feel.  You have to give him some time.  I'm sure he still loves you too.  You both need to be sure that you are in love not that you just love each other and are used to being together.  I wish you the best!
343723
call him up- tell him how you feel- and get it out of your system.  Chances are he'll still get married, your feelings will be hurt, but at least you'll know you tried.  Too bad you didn't speak up sooner, it could have been you marrying him.  Learn your lesson and let people know how you feel while there's still something that can be done.  Good luck.
960553
You should treat everyone with respect. \n\nYou may not be ready for marriage yet, but he may be.  Have you considered whether he might be the right husband for you?\n\nIf you decide he is, don't let him get away.
464789
If he loves you and you love him then you will get married when the time is right.  However, you have to be patient, if his marriage ended badly (emotionally that is) then he might not be ready to commit just yet.  You should not take that as a sign that he does not love you or doesn't want to be with you.  Just go slow and keep talking to eachother and it will work out the way it was intended to.
885720
According to me u both shud go thru Counselling,and sort out the problem by talking to him.,Why is he doing such things. I think he really loves u ,but maybe due to some work pressure he might be able to see u, if u think he is cheating u,better u get rid of this marriage ,or else it will affect both of ur life.Dont marry anyone just for the sake of the marriage,u shud first know the guy with whom u r marrying.Anyways my gut feeling says ur problem will be solved and u will lead a good life with ur hubby.Dont take unneccessary tensions orelse it will affect ur child health.God Bless u
397434
Really, cut your ties with this man, he's not a future for you. You continue to see this man and you will continue to get lied to and cheated on too. He doesn't know how to be honest or faithful. To love someone like that isn't really love. Your feelings for this man hon, isn't what you really think it is. I don't know you, but I see that your taking who ever says nice things to you. Shoot, I could feed you with all kinds of nice words, but doesn't mean I really mean it. I wouldn't even give a another second to this man. Let him and her work through their own problems. Take your loss now and bail out sweetie. It's not worth it. Staying on with this guy or telling his wife, what will you gain from it. The satisfaction of telling her. No, wrong! Maybe for a while but later down the road. hhhmmmm Trust in your self and move on. Good luck to you.
1093725
You need to realize that your not really falling in love with him but that you still have a crush on him and that your feelings are based upon the past and not on your current life.  He may be a wonderful guy but the reality of it is you really have no idea if you two could ever really be together and be happy together like you and your husband are.  The best way to deal with this is just to keep reminding yourself how lucky you are to have the life you do and stop focusing on what you can't/ don't have.