Pls pls pls help. I have a girl friend and she have told our love to her father and he is not accepting? Help!
352134
You guys are free and over 21 and do not need her parents permission for anything.  It does make is easier if you have their blessings but it is not necessary.  If your girlfriend will not stand up to her parents, then you will have to do it.
458902
You are in charge of your child, no one else.  Unless the father lives with you and helps raise the child, then he doesn't have a damn thing to say.\n\nYOU can stop the drama.  You just have to be willing to accept that fact that you MIGHT have to cut the father out of the picture.  If the father is too busy humping around, then let go of that loser.  He obviously doesn't realize what he has (a family) and it might take his entire life to come to that realization.\n\nPlus, there are many, many better and bigger fish in the sea!\n\nKeep your head up girl, don't let a man get you down.  You have to stay strong and show your kiddo what it means to be a strong woman.  She needs you to show her that love is unconditional and caring, everything her father isn't.\n\nGood luck and much love!
142179
Ultimately, it is up to this girl to do something about this situation.  SHE must tell her parents how she feels, and break it off with the man she is engaged to.  Are you sure she truly loves YOU?  If she truly loved you, she would do these things, or she would run off with you and marry you.  If she goes ahead and marries the other guy, GIVE UP on her.  TRUE LOVE LOVES BACK IN THE SAME WAY YOU LOVE.  Remember that.
839273
call someone and tell tehm. believe me i went thru that for 16 years. you need help. i learned that i did not have to accept my father hitting us and everything else. there are lots of people that will help. what we finally did was we told a preacher at a church and he had the police come to the church and talk to us then the cops never made us go back again.
1134373
i think you should talk to your girl friend about this and tell her you love her and you dont want any thing to happed to this relationship good luck
949040
Will you dump her already? Move on..she doesn't care about you and lol you think by saying no to her she's going to listen? You're not her father so let her live her life, if you control her, she's going to hate you if she ends up regreting. She knows there is are better things to see and do then to go home to be with you, it hurts but find another girlfriend...don't waste your years waiting!
943923
You need to support your sister. She didnt ask to be gay. This is harder for her than it is for anybody else. I've had gay friends and sometimes they are so scared that their family and friends won't accept them. Your mother being on antidepressants for this has got to be killing your sister.
237513
Hard.  You have to realize this is her son but she has to realize that she can't stop him from growing up and meeting and liking girls.  She might take you more seriously if you talk to her though. Otherwise, just talk to him. Just don't hide it.  Because you'll feel more of a burden if you hide from her while you try to get or maintain a relationship with him.
177497
why are u asking this question over here? u should go and ask her!...does her father know about u? try to get in the good books of her father...be nice to him, respect him, do everything u can to please him and not make him angry....if all goes well, when u go to him and ask for his daughter's hand then he'll have no problems at all\n\nGOOD LUCK!!!
655153
This must be painful for you and for that I am sorry.  But you have to understand this part of her life has nothing to do with you.  She is having the affair, and if they are already on their way to a divorce, then its to late.  There is no need for you to damage your relationship with her, so calmly ask her to explain why they are getting a divorce.  If she includes the other men, as part of the reason you will not need to say anything else, if she omits him then you can ask, but you must understand that you do not have all the facts and the divorce although painful to you is not about her divorcing you.  Although a person wants a divorce it is usually very painful for them too so now is a time for you to be supportive to both your parents and I hope they are supportive for you also.  It scares me that you say "it is not respectful to me or my father", maybe your father was cheating on her first, it has nothing to do with respecting you.  Think about it. God bless you.
1181923
Easy. Accept her for who she is, irregardless of her sexual preference. Give her a hug, tell her you love her and mean it. Be very accepting of her, dont talk down to her, or berate her about this. Who knows, it may just be a phase if she is young, as in teenage young. Then again, it may be something she has ultimately chosen. Eitherway, so what. Tell her you love her and mean it, give her a hug and a kiss, and tell her its ok, that you still love her anyways. \n\nBesides, would you rather hear that, or hear how she's been getting nailed by every guy she meets, and is 2 months pregnant and has no idea who the father is. \n\nBe accepting of her. Trust me.
1044029
I have similer problems. Me and my girflriend love eachother but her mom doesnt want us to go out. Right now her mom doesnt even know that we are boyfriend and girlfriend. I can only call her about once every week. What we decided to do was be boyfriend and girlfriend but start going on actual dates when we are 16 so that we can drive ourselves. Just ask your dad if he can come over or soemthing and see if that works
722655
This might not be the best advice, but it might work. Try to find out what your girl's other man did wrong that makes her father not wanting her to date. Try to find out as much about her father as you can. Try to relate to him, be a friend. Make him like you. Since it isn't a girls heart that you have to win here, its his. Father's are very protective of their little girls, just because of the way us guys think. So pretty much, just find the right way to prove yourself worthy to her father that you deserve to  \nbe with his daughter. If that don't work, then try to have your girl influence him by informing him on how you guys feel for eachother.
606488
In a situation like this you personally need to talk to your father and tell him that you don't appreciate him taking advantage of you. Tell him that you forgive him for disowning you as a child and that you love him even though he missed out on the finer points in your life. Give him the money because you cant put a price on love. If you don't then you may regret it for the rest of your life. I cant guarantee that this would make you feel better because i don't know. This is coming from a 16 year old and the way I see is either you could take the advise and run with it or leave it to rot for eternity.
808056
I can't claim to know anything about your problem, I'm a straight female.  But it just broke my heart to read your question.  This must be so difficult for you.  I don't know what to tell you to do, maybe you should try to wait for the right person to come along before you say anything, at least then you would have some kind of support.  I can't speak for your parents, of course, but if my child came to me and told me he's gay, I would be loving and supportive, a parent always loves their children, no matter what, at least that's the way I feel about my child.  I just wanted you to know I feel for you and wish you the best! :)
235778
being a brother and a muslim i know how you feel. you helped me with my situation and i will try to help you with yours parents are key and are most important (you think my parents know i like this girl, no probably not) but sooner or later they will find out whether i tell them or not so now you must weigh your options how much is this guy worth if alot then you must be able to tell your father that his rath is miniscule to the amount of love you have towards this person. walking a tight rope is not fun i know how you feel i have been doing it all my life. and the whole paki indian thing doesn't make your situation worse the girl i am trying to ask out is puerto rican my parents are going to rage but sooner or later they will understand as your parents will that keeping a child is more important than who they be with good luck.
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I understand where you are coming from. I had a lesbian experience with a woman that I am still friends with today, although I am married to a man. My dad is a Reverend and my mom the Reverends wife (even worse). \n\n There is no easy way to tell your parents you are gay, you simply have to sit them down and be frank with them. You have to tell yourself, they are probably going to be very angry at first, then tell yourself "these are my parents" - they will love you regardless.\n\nI can't tell you that it will come out all honky dorey... it took my parents over a year to accept it, but the finally did. If you love this woman like you say you do, then you will be honest with your parents about your relationship. If the woman loves you the same, she will be supportive and go with you if you need her to. \n\nDon't worry! It's going to be ok, no matter how bad it seems like it is. Remember the 3 C's - Calm Cool and Collective...this should be your demeanor.... parents sense fear.... and if they sense it in you, they will play on it. If there is no fear.... what else can be said or done. Absolutely nothing! \n\nGood Luck!