is it possible to trust a man after he has been unfaithful and swears it won't happen again?
348669
for me I'm going through the same thing remember this you can forgive but you will never forget which happens to be you will never trust him the way you trusted him before eventually you will a little but never the same
338130
No. If you love yourself then don't trust him again.\nHe did it once. He could do it again.\nIf you're smart enough, Don't fall for the same trick twice.
538239
Does he do it a lot? Is this a one-time thing? Does he have a history of it with other women? Is he sorry? Is he serious about not doing it again? Only you can answer those questions.\n\nIf it's a one-time thing, then I'd give him a second chance. If it's habitual, I'd find a guy with a better sense of loyalty and ethics.
188166
It's not just women who do that, men do as well. There are NO guarantees that she won't cheat again. The question is, do you want to take that chance? I always say, if they cheat once they'll do it again.
7962
No!  Pass on the sloppy seconds.\n\nHe cheated on you once, he will do it again.\n\nFind someone that is worthy of your attention!
510623
Trust is one of the most important things. If some cheated on me then I'd want to know.  Whether to continue with the relationship would depend on how you found out you were being cheated on. If he or she came to you, then you know this person has a conscience and you may be able to continue with the relationship eventually letting go of the hurt from their indiscretion. But if they never said anything and you found out another way I think it would be best to let go of that relationship because there will be serious trust issues. I personally don't do the whole getting back at my significant other thing. If you have forgiven him/her then it wouldn't be fair to keep bringing it up or punishing them for what they've done. So if it's something you can't get past. Let go.
1102762
Trust is paramount in any relationship in order for it to have a chance.  Trust takes time to acquire in any relationship, but here it is an issue right off the bat.  I always fine that it's best to give someone the benefit of the doubt. You really can't change people, they've got to change themselves. Now that doesn't mean that you can't support them along their road to a better them, or that you can't offer advice or set out ground rules.\nWe all have our pasts, and have done things we're not proud of. \n\nIf you're going to embark on forging a relationship with this guy, i would tread lightly and carefully.  As far as the cheating goes, i know the general perception is, once a cheater, always a cheater.  However, i think it's possible for people to turn over a new leaf.  Many guys through a period where they are a bit of a "slag". This is not to excuse your current love interest's actions, but it's usually the way of things.  It's kind of more widly accepted in society for men to play the field a lot more than women.  The fact that he's cheated on ALL his girlfriends would definitely give me pause, but we all have to grow up sometime.  I would also take into consideration who gave you the information on his less than monogomous ways. If he told you, i think that says something about him. If he was open and honest enough to share with you his less than stellar relationship habits in the past, then that shows that he might truly be wanting to change his ways. If, on the other hand, you had to find this out through a mutual friend, or past girl-friends, well, that's not good at all. \n\nAlso, you mentioned that he treated a close friend of yours badly.  If we're talking verbal, emotional, or physical abuse here, then stay away. Stay far far away.   \n\nI think perhaps you need to sit him down and lay some ground rules.  If you care about him enough to give this a go, despite his bad rep, you need to clearly voice your worries and apprehensions when it comes to him.  Let him know that you respect yourself far too much to put up with cheating or abuse in any form.  He needs to understand that your trust is going to take time to earn, and if he really cares about you, he will work hard to get it.  The right person can change your life, make you a better person, you just might be his inspiration for change.\n\nBest of luck!
745225
I believe you can,But thats not saying it won't come up in the future and cause problems! You have to earn your trust back!!!!!!
600643
It's very difficult to win trust back I'm afraid. However, if you love him and he loves you then work on it, nothing is impossible.
852813
Have you been cheatin?\nDo you trust him?\nWhy not?
454064
No. there will always be in the back of your mind if he's two-timing you with someone else or if he finds someone else. The trust will be minimal and I don't believe a relationship can exist without trust.
491967
Sorry angel,  You will never know if he will do it again, how did you find out the 1st time? I mean did he tell you or did you find out? was it 1 time or 100 times? If he cheated then he would lie about how many times he cheated. You are the only person that can determine if you can trust him again or not. You have to decide weather the relationship is worth the worrying or not worth it and find someone to be with that you can trust.  good luck  god bless
357900
You can't when ever you try to be intimate you will think he is thinking of someone else and you will never be able to trust him. You could look on the bright side that you aren't married to him. You have to think more of yourself and tell yourself that you deserve someone who will be faithful.The first time he cheats and hurts you it's not your fault. The fault comes when you let him have a chance to cheat again. And im sorry to say once a cheat always a cheat. If he loved you so much he could betray you once he will betray you again. Good luck
539656
My Husband never cheated, but if a husband was going to cheat I'd rather know. If its over its over,he should be honest enough to tell you.Two things to be done after that , either forgive him and NEVER bring it up again. Anyone can make a mistake once, only a fool does it twice.And personally I would not stay married to a fool.
656154
Has this person ever hurt you before? Lied to you? Gone after something that was yours? Taken something that was not theirs to take? Cheated and you knew about it? Shared a secret you told them? Gone behind your back and told something about you?  If the answer to all these questions are no, then you can pretty much bank on the fact that you have someone you can trust. If the answer to any or most are yes, look very carefully before you leap!!
61157
Since i've never been unfaithful, i can't speak from experience. But, saying that, my ex-wife was unfaithful to me, alot. I big give away is lack of intimacy. If he doesn't want to touch you, there's something wrong. Strange phone calls that are secretive and at odd times. Does he have a good female "friend" or "mates" he often hangs out with, without you? Can you contact him at ALL times while he's away? Alot of mistrusting females i know check their man's mobile phone for odd calls and texts. Credit card statements for purchases is also a common one. I'm assuming you've talked to him about your concerns and he's denied all. You're still suspicious and don't quite trust him. A private detective could help if you're that concerned. I hope i've helped a little. :)
527359
Trust is earned, once trust has been broken it is hard to regain if it is ever regained.\n\nI would suggest you look into how the bond of trust was broken.  Can you actually forgive the other person?  A person may never forget what happened but, you have to be honest with yourself and the other person and you have to know whether or not you can forgive the person or not.\n\nNeedless to say, there will alway be a part of you that will never trust that other person completely.  This is something you both will have to understand.  But, if you can move yourself over this, then, yes, you might just have a chance to regain a certain level of trust.