what if your sister keeps attacking you and  keeps turning your mother against you?
336562
It is very difficult to answer a question like that. the question has no basis or foundational information that would lead to an appropriate response. My Gut reaction would be to talk with your sister, mother and father( perhaps in a family counseling situation with a good family therapist, or the minister of a local church.) There must be a reason there is an animosity between you and your sister, either jealousy, or a perceived wrong done to her. Or a not so perceived wrong, siblings often bicker and fight against each other for the attention of a parent. but by sitting down and discussing the issues in a family setting( or with an impartial therapist) you can resolve many of these issues
778553
The whole situation doesn't really make sense.  Ask yourself what you did to make her call you that.  The other posters are right in that you should have respect for your mom and not call her names but she should also be teaching you respect by not calling you names.  The two of you need to talk about this and resolve the underlying issue.  Whatever it is that you did to make her call you what she called you, that's the root of your current situation and that needs to get addressed.  Why did you do it?  Why was she so angry at you that she forgot you're her daughter and call you names?  You reacted to her calling you what she called you but something precipitated that situation and you two need to hash that out.  Then, you have to apologize to her for doing what you did and calling her what you called her.  Only then, you can then tell her that you didn't appreciate what she called you.  It's not right, but she is your mom and she's going to look at you as the less powerful of the two as long as you continually act like a child and react and cause her to react.  If you talk to her like an adult, woman to woman, in a calm, assertive, respectful manner, hopefully, she'll see you maturing and mature herself.  Then you guys won't be calling each other names and you won't be grounded.  However, if that doesn't happen and in some future point she does call you a name, you take a deeep breath, DON'T say anything, turn around and walk away.  She's your mom and you have to learn how to deal with her in a respectable manner and if you want respect, you have to demand it by treating others in the way you want to be treated.
90738
I think you have to eventually come to grips with the fact that\n\nyour mother has mental/emotional issues and that they have\n\nnothing to do with you. You need to realize that you're caught\n\nin the middle of this insanity, and that eventually all will\n\nbe well. Ride it out, nothing you can do at the moment.\n\nYour mother does not sound well. But I can be wrong.
422660
Ask your mother to sit down with you and talk to her.  Don't say "You", but do say "I feel".  Parents know we make mistakes but be sure to apologize, and be open to listen.    If you're to nervous to talk face to face and you're afraid  your mother will interrupt you and not let you get you point across then try writing her a letter.  Please though drop out "you", because we don't want your mother to feel like she's being attacked!
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She's gonna have to decide, as we all do, WHEN she's ready to grow up.\n\nif she choses you, she may have to wait until her siblings are older before she sees them again. Again, I don't how how long that is and if she's willing to wait. She loses but so do her parents.\n\nIf she choses her parents, you will have to wait until she grows up, moves out and gets on with her life. Her parents might think they've won, but as she's old enough to lead her life in a way that makes sense to HER, she may cut them out of her life for making her choose.\n\nShe can gain their respect by becoming independent (of you\nAND of their manipulation). I bet they'd be pretty surprised if she said "I'm not gonna be forced into chosing what I don't want. I will say with him and I want to remain a part of your lives. If you choose to keep me from my siblings, then that's your choice for making them and me suffer. But I won't cave to ultimatums."
962335
writting about how you fell gets your anger out out or pound on something besides your sister and if she dosent know your password she cant cancel it and plusshes your sis. not ur mom she cant ban u
296656
kill her with kindness... when you act upset and she causes turmoil in your family, she is getting what she wants.  As hard as it sounds. ignore her!!
1083404
If she's threatening you, I think you should go to the police as firstly she has no right to do this and can't be allowed to get away with it, and secondly you have the right to live without being threatened or harassed.  Get a lawyer onto her.  Try your citizen's advice office too.  She sounds one unhappy woman.
173157
you should fight her don't let her think you scared of her.
59822
my sister is mean to me. if you ignore her she will stop trying to bother you because it appears as if you are not bothered. she is only being mean so she can annoy you.\n\nGood Luck.
795403
Maybe it is time for you or one of your Brothers to go visiting with Mom and Sis. I think it sounds like there needs to be more communication between you siblings.\nDoes your sister have anyone that relieves her ever? Is she stuck there 24/7, 365 days a year?\nDon't get me wrong, I love my Mother but she came to visit me for a month and I was so ready for her to leave. She is in good health but she lives in the past. She tells the same stories over and over to the point that I had them memorized myself. \nMaybe it is time for your sister to take a long break, since she is verbally abusive to your Mom. She might be feeling that she is entitle to any money because of the time that she has put in.\nSomeone with suicidal tendencies shouldn't be in charge of any one else, little lone a person in ill health.
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Stepmom or mom? \n Why would she yell at you JUST to get you in trouble? Need a few details. \nWho is she try to get you in trouble with?\nI don't think any normal person would just yell at you so you would get in trouble. Does she have a Mental problem?
646674
no your mother doesn't hate you! moms are just people and sometimes they make mistakes, but its not your place to tell her that she is wrong, she's the mom. often times if you want to be heard you have to make sure you are 'presenting your case' in a reasonable and respectful manner, even if what you are saying makes sense nobody is going to hear you if you are ranting and raving, i'm not saying that you are just letting you know. when you are both calm and reasonable tell her you'd like to talk to her, think about what you will say beforehand and stay calm.
290461
I think you should not worry about what your sister does and focus on your style and your life. Getting annoyed with her is a waste of energy.
642417
i completely understand where you are coming from . i have a sister in an abusive marriage and this is her second one. i have given her advice and tried to help her. if they want help they will take it or do something about it. my dad has tried. they fight and they next day they are back together lovey dovey. you just have to let them work their own problems out if they dont want the help.
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My goodness what a sorted story but we hear about that all the time. Women who get accustom to living a certain way and when they see their chance to keep that way of life going they will step on anyone to keep it even their children\n\nI am very sorry to hear that and I know that it i hard to go after her because she is you mother. Actually I don't think their is anything you can do. The courts are aware that you are on your father will. They still awarded her the I will say shares anyway.  I think the best thing for you to do is talk to her about out now. You have to get it out in the open. Don't let it harbor inside of you. It will only make you more angry. \n\nAfter you speak to her about it depending on her response then make your mind up on how to move on from there\n\nGood Luck
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maby she is embarressed or afraid you will get ma deventualy she will tell you