My wife and her therapist are seeing each other outside of our group sessions, should I be jealous?
350022
Oh yeah- I would but dont do anything stupid- keep calm and talk to her abt. this.
212923
Perhaps, just perhaps, you are being a tad bit possessive and jealous. \n\nPS. I can come over and sit in the hot tub with you on Sunday?  If so, that might change his thinking on the matter.
301100
Jealousy is about YOU, not your partner, unless they have done something to give you a concrete reason to mistrust them. YOU have to gain enough confidence in yourself to imagine you've got it goin' on, and there is no way they are going to cheat on you, or dump you, for someone else.
1071015
wow. i think she's beyond jealous. first question, i understood it. second question...i wondered...this, being the third question...i'm starting to worry about you.
397696
I've had that happen. Be both of their friends! \nBut don't do anything to make them jealous (not that I thought you might), and don't go out of your way to keep them separate. My two friends eventually came to respect each other. Hopefully yours will too! Prayer is always good too.
986847
Ask yourself how you would feel if your wife was admiring the bulge in another mans pants while out with you.  It is not wrong to LOOK at another woman or admire another body part BUT damnit you dont do this while with your mate.  Its respectful.
151140
Honestly, I see this as a need for marriage counseling.  Your wife is suffering from a mental illness that should be treated, either by medication or therapy or both.  In the meantime, she is not a psychologist nor is she a medical doctor and has no right diagnose you, not to mention she has no medical schooling for such a thing.  Furthermore, I think she is projecting her issue onto you.  You may be depressed but if you are it sounds to me like you are situationally depressed, not clinically.  But, I'm not a doctor and don't have you as a patient in any case so I couldn't swear such a thing.  The time for the counseling is RIGHT NOW though so make that appointment.  If you cannot afford it then you would contact your county mental health agency and they likely have a sliding fee payment plan so don't feel like the option of counseling is not available to you.
249481
The physical reaction may be beyond your control. What would be wrong is to expect her to acknowlege it or to assist in relieving the situation.\nIf it happens, you should both ignore it.\n\n(I'm presuming that we are talking here about a legimate therapeutic massage studio, not a uhm...more personal sort of establishment.)
586787
Once HRS gets involved, things happen over which neither you nor Denise has any control over. As a lawyer with a lot of experience in these situations, I suggest you try talking to Denise about your concerns and try to get her to be more responsible, or at least find out what's going on in her life that's causing this. If she's just partying after work and taking advantage of you and your wife, report her. If she needs help with something, see if there is somewhere she can get it.
582257
no. i like to do that with my husband. it's us against the rest of the world....you're not doing anything wrong. you're wife needs to boost her own self esteem so she won't be so paranoid.
486619
As long as you are secure with each other and love each other it shouldn't be a problem as long as you can leave jealousy behind and remember that it is a pleasure thing and not a relationship in the making.  It is just for the pleasure, intense pleasure.  If there are any feelings that you are getting more out of it than you should be, don't get involved.  Stay in control.
363647
YOU KNOW I HAVE HAD THIS HAPPEN TO ME ALOT. ITS JUST JEALOUSY. THEY ARENT HAPPY WITH THEIR LIVES AND THE RELATIONSHIP THEY ARE IN. THEY SEE THAT YOU HAVE SOMETHING THAT THEY WANT SO THEY MAKE UP THINGS ABOUT YOU SO THAT YOU FEEL INSECURE ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP. MAYBE YOU AND YOUR HUBBY SHOULD CONFRONT THEM TOGETHER AND SEE WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY THEN. USUALLY THEY ARE DUMB FOUNDED AND CANT SAY ANYTHING. BUT DONT WORRY ABOUT THEM. AS LONG AS YOU KNOW THAT THEY ARE RUMORS AND NOT TRUE YOU SHOULDNT WORRY ABOUT ANYTHING.
881413
Yes it can it can totally make you begin to dislike them and even start to hate to be around them. This is a very serious situation and she needs to start taking you more seriously. It seems like this is making serious problems in your marriage. If this does not worry her then maybe she isnt concerned about losing you and her marriage. Try talking to her again and if she is still acting the same way leave it alone. she will see when she looks up and you will be gone
1085101
personal story  Where i used to live there were two people a couple of doors away who we used to see and who never talked or really acknowledged me or my then wife(i am divorced now). We were friends with the people next door and they thought the same thing.  A year or so later their son starting playing with our kids and we met them and they turned out to be a couple of the nicest people i know and very good friends who would do anything for you ....lesson learned is that sometimes its easy to judge people to quickly maybe she is just shy. i suggest you try to break the ice and see if she responds
726883
There is such a thing as emotional affair and sometimes affairs start out this way.  If your wife is confiding with another man other than you, it shows a lack of intimacy in your marriage.  Also realize that time spent talking with this "friend" is time taken away from you.  The way I see it, you are her husband.  If she has issues with you, she should be communicating with you instead.
390923
If it bothers the g/f then yes it's wrong. But if she is ok with it then go. You could try to bring her with! I enjoy going to them with my b/f.
185458
It is clear that she is going to fast.  Maybe the two of you should spend a little time by yourself for awhile.  See other people and see how your feelings sort themselves out after another period of 62 years.