is it ok to let my old friend come visit me after 7 years?
338957
hey, the same thing kinda happened to me! except, he never wanted her sexually...but i was friends with her (probably during a time when she dated him), way before i ever met him...we lived in different countries, so i think she may have dated him after i met her...anyway, she used to come over and hang out all the time after he and i got married...they're just old buddies and well, what they used to have is now long gone...\nso, if you feel that you can trust BOTH of them, why not?
535671
That all depends. How long has your ex-friend been your ex-friend--what caused them to be your ex-friend? How long has your ex-friend & ex-husband been ex's? If they have been ex's for a few months then go for it.\n\nThe reason for some of the questions that I have asked, is did they split up because of the ex husband and you being together or some other reason? If it was because of you 2, then it might be a bad ideal for you 2 to get together. If that is not the case, like I said give it a few months and then start off being even better friends than before, just work your way into it slow and easy and see what happens, if it was meant to be it will happen, if not it won't happen.
279043
Well, you can always bring up "the good old days" when you were close, I am sure you have some things you experienced together to share.  When you go to the wedding, try to dig up some old photographs to bring with you, if nothing else it will put a smile on her face and the both of you will be reminded of your childhood. (be fun to show the groom also)
240430
If he's "just a friend", it's fine for them to get together once in a while, but I would say not on a regular basis.  Why not have you go along?  Cab't you be friends with him also?
36480
When you are young, 2 or 3 years seems like a big deal. When you are 30 it won't matter at all. \n\nThere isn't any harm in talking to someone, but keep in mind that she may give her e-mail to a lot of people, some people are very social. Her offering to keep in touch may not indicate the potential for any more than friendship.\n\nPersonally, I think you should e-mail her, if for no other reason than to avoid always wondering what could have been. Maybe you will lose touch anyway, maybe you will become great friends, maybe more...  But you won't ever know if you don't reach out.
446389
Memories are forever, you won't totally forget them. But I would try to keep busy, and be happy. After 3 yrs I don't think he's coming back anytime soon. Go out and mingle. Chances are you'll find someone else to think and talk about.
2645
Patience and remember when you were that old how much the attention of someone older meant to you. Go do something you both enjoy and make your own space for when you just can't stand the little blaggard anymore.
186797
I'm sorry that I can't help, but I'm so glad that you're finally going after this. It must be hard for you and it's going to take alot of courage, but in the end, you'll probably be glad you finally met them after all these years! Best of luck to you! I really hope you find them.
862198
Don't make contact - you are settled and so is she.  She will  be a completely different person now than she was then.  She will also look very different.  Keep your fantasies in the past.
933869
8 yrs apart is not that great\n\nWhat I see here is a young school gal meeting a mature working adult, of course all your frens will be of no match to his mentality, he has already gone thru 8 years which you & frens did not.\n\nJust continue to be fren and get to know him better, take your time, you are only 18 !
679790
i would go and visit him because he was my dad, not to just get something from him. if you sincerely want to meet him, then do so. after that, things will probably work out for the good of both of you.
905029
I value friends that I can spend long long long times apart from and yet when we get back together it is as if we parted only yesterday.  Once I went to a high school reunion and in many ways it was as if my crazy friends and I were 18 again.  It was fun to see them again and relive a little of my misspent youth with the advantage of seeing it from an older and hopefully wiser perspective.  I do not expect nor want to spend years parted from my lover.  If we were forced to be apart that long, I would not want our relationship to be frozen in time as was my relationships with my high school chums I had not seen in a decade.  If my lover and I were parted for that long it would be too painful and unnatural to immediately try to relive the "glory days" of our long past relationship.  Rather I would prefer that we would come together again with an understanding that we had both grown and changed and a gentle time of rediscovery to truly get to know the new person she had become and to share who I had become. \n \nWhom would I want as a dinner guest?\nA great cook, preferably of Italian cuisine.  It wouldn't hurt if she were very dazzling conversationalist.  I wouldn't mind if she were easy on the eyes.  It wouldn't bother me if she had an appetite like a bird so there would be more for me!\n\nWhom would I want as my lover?\nMy wife.  We have been together for many years.  She is the mother of our children.  She is the keeper of my soul.  I have no desire nor need to touch another.  However, I am a red blooded straight male, so of course I do find other women attractive, but to actually consider taking them as a lover is out of the question.  I realize for me, my wife being my lover is not merely a physical act.  It is part of the very fabric my life is woven from.  To risk all that is my daily reality for the short lived physical pleasure of a new conquest would go against every shred of wisdom I have gained from my years of life.\n\nWhom would I want as my close friend?\nSomeone who has a close relationship with God.  I am not perfect, so if we are to remain friends for a lifetime, they will need to be forgiving and loving.  The other advantage to having friends who have a real relationship with God is that the friends don't tend to make unhealthy demands of the relationship because they are being fulfilled through a spiritual relationship that no human relationship can fill.
818025
This stuff happens from time to time - try not to take it too personally.  You'll find that friends and come and go throughout your entire life time.  Be kind and be there for her... she'll be back.
185458
It is clear that she is going to fast.  Maybe the two of you should spend a little time by yourself for awhile.  See other people and see how your feelings sort themselves out after another period of 62 years.
222888
well i know how you feel, and it is already hard work to stay friends with someone when you live a long ways away, so if you dont get along very well anymore maybe it is time to let your friendship just drift appart this might be easier than trying to be friends with someone who doesnt or isnt willing to understand you.
199026
you sound like you really want to renew this friendship, if so then you need to bite the bullet and take the first step. its not easy but life is too short and she probably feels the same way as you do and missed your friendship. dont wait give her  a ring and let bygones be bygones. good luck.
187912
how long have you been friends?