I'm unhappily married but I still love her but I think I'm falling for another woman, what should I do?
341036
Don't make it harder on yourself by staying and being miserable. \n\nYes you may still love your wife but people change and your needs/ desires changed as you grow older.\n\nIt is odd but humans grow accustomed to EVERYTHING, whether it is good or bad. In this case it sounds like it was a good situation gone bad.\n\nYou have to ask yourself "is this relationship worth it?" Only you can define the "it", because you know exactly what goes on inside your relationship. \n\nIt took time to grow together, involving each other in the everyday things in your life. It will now take time to learn to live without that person, but you can do it. There will be times that you feel like you've made the wrong decision, but trust that you have if it is truly what you wanted to do.\n\nHaving said that i say go for what makes you happy - life can get you down in so many ways - you should find what makes you happy.
508061
if he had feelings for her than he wouldnt be with you, he would be with her. dont bring complications into your marriage, if hes not giving you a reason on why you should think that than dont. if he is giving you a reason than try to talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. good luck!
1063000
You know, it is funny that you mention this because a friend of mine was telling me the same thing the other day.  I think in her case that it was just a really strong attraction, which really isn't a big thing.  You just cannot act of those feelings being married as you are.  It is normal to find other people attractive and think that they are awesome to be around.  You are married, sweetie, not dead!
274796
You were married, there for it isn't odd that you would still have some fond feelings and good memories.  However I don't think you are in love with him.  I think you are probably just going through some bad stuff in your life and your latching on to some good memories and making more of them that what you should.  Remember, this same guy cheated and lied to you and nothing has changed.  You still deserve better in your life.
816916
Enjoy it! It's so sweet. It seems you have fallen in love. I don't know if I would help you if I could. I guess try really hard to focus on what you're doing. breath.. focus.. and get addicted to the work/thing you need to do. You can keep thinking about her after you're done.
306390
NO you may be in love but he isent if he wants to see other woman.so dont get your self hurt.so just let him see\nwho he wants and you find the real man of your dreams.\ni dont think this guy is for real.deap down you no that.\nit will be hard at first but life and u are worth more\nthan some man who dosent want you.sorry i no how it feels\nim married to one.
279114
The fact that you see your fault in your current marital problems indicates that you are NOT crazy.\nI do think, however, that you should maybe see someone about your jealousy issues PRONTO.\nIn what I've seen here, it doesn't sound like you don't trust her, just that you're making your own self crazy, and making her a little crazy too.\nYou need to fix what you can, and fix it fast.  \nWhat you CAN fix:  You, anything that has to do with YOU, what it is that YOU do, what YOU think, what YOU feel, etc.\nWhat you can NOT fix:  What someone else does, what someone else thinks, what someone else wants, what someone else feels, etc. (someone else = your wife)\nIf you're smart, you will get off it & keep your mouth shut, before you do have a hand in driving her into someone else's arms, be it this guy or anyone else.  FYI, you stated yourself that their relationship is more professional, and again I say...you've not indicated in the slightest that you do not trust your wife.\nGet your head on right, and stop pressing the issue before it's too late.\nAnd to answer your initial question:  They're only friends.
357128
Well, first of all don't start any relationship with a married man... (think of a family that you are about to ruin and ask yourself "If I get married, would I want my family to be destroyed by my husband's cheating?" If your answer is no then you'll know how this man's wife would feel if you will agree to be his other woman... second of all, find a single man who will love and accept you for what you are. Afterall, you can fall in love without having to ruin anybody else's life
350765
You could always tell her-" You are very attractive, funny etc..but in the same time I don't feel like marrying you, I "don't see there being a marriage future" and i feel responsible because i care. What do you think we should do? Is it OK with you or you wanna split and waste no more time..?"\n\nIf you want to get married and you're looking for the One and you are sure she is not, being with her no matter how fine it is is waisting her and your time.\nBut if you really enjoy being with her, miss her and she feels the same way too, don't loose her for these are very sweet nice emotions and life is unpredictably short.
108004
It's true that by now she might be married, but who knows, she might still be single and thinking about you too. I think it's either love or maybe you just need to clear up your feelings for this girl. Sometimes the only way to do thid is to go to her and once you are there with her, and tell her how you feel, you will know. Go find her and clear things up with her. Hope this helps, and good luck!!! :0)
773000
Hai,\nY do u want to keep a relationship secret in the first place? Well if both of them are married to different people ofcourse thats a sin. At times its normal to feel attracted to others ( whn u are married ) but dont let that attraction take u to different directions.I believe its sin cheating ur wife or husband. Its being totally an untrustworthy person !!!! Thats like being a CHEAPO !!!! U would not like if ur wife does that to u right !\nIf u both are not married, then its ur choice to keep it a secret or not and if u both are gonna get married then thats perfectly fine.
1059086
Honestly, I'm not a marriage counselor or even close to it.  To me though, it sounds like maybe you and your husband aren't as connected on an emotional level if you ask me (which you did, haha).  Maybe the reason you feel this way for someone else is because you've lost those feelings for your husband.  I know it's hard, after marriage and two kids, but it's important to stay physically, emotionally, and mentally involved with each other.  Just try things like going on dates with your husband.  Try to reconnect with him and remember all of the reasons why you married him.  Maybe your husband has a great personality, wit, and a beautiful mind also.  Maybe you just need to remind yourself of it.
161068
Of course you can love them both.......But you will have to love one better than the other. You will have to make a choice sooner or later as to which you love better. I imagine you made wedding vows to your wife. Did you promise your coworker anything? Who did you make promises to first? Will you have to break your promises to one of them in order to continue loving the other? If you think you can love them both the same, you can't.
49901
You'll have to be patient, she was married when you met her so you had to have expected the baggage.  But you're involved the way you are so just help her out if you can and stick with her and hope for the best. It's more complicated the way you're doing it but every situation is different.  If she wanted out of her marriage and started up another relationship make sure it wasn't just something to boost her ego or something before devoting your life to her though.
64783
i do..But now i'm married with someone else.Still i'm in love with the first.(checked married&divorced yesterday)
621933
Hun, you like me,got married for the wrong reason,the love was not really there , but it was for the child you had together, to legitimate her, it happens a lot , but most of all as you and I have found out, it's harder to stay , you have to be happy for you and your little lady, and I would say to find a new love and move on, don't leave you two in a bad situation, there is, as they say, true happiness out there for all.  God bless  and good luck Follow your heart.
115414
Be pure luck and the grace of God, I think I have found my TRUE love after 2 marriges and a string of broken relationships.\nWe are both happier than either of us have ever been and she says she feels the same as I do.