Should religion come between family members?
346841
Religion isn't what comes between family members. Family members come between family members, while using all types of reasons and behaviors for doing so.... it could be politics or money or control or whatever...\n\nIt isn't about the subject at hand, it's about how we decide to relate to one another. It's about how we decide to respond to another, how we decide to treat the other person.\n\nIt is also about how we decide to be treated by our family members and how well we communicate such.
639055
I don't think so.  Their perspectives seem quite far apart.  But if they are related, family gatherings must be interesting!
694730
Well, there are lots of factors to consider.  Do you both follow your chosen religions very very faithfully?.... like, to the exact letter of the "law"?\n\nDo you have any idea if the other person's beliefs are compatable with what your house of worship teaches?\n\nHow will your family accept or reject this person?  How about your larger social circle.... friends and business colleagues (for when you are older ok).\n\nSit down and talk to your Priest, pastor, rabbi, Mullah or whatever person leads your faith, and ask their insights.
1163596
Parents have this odd belief that they have to be of one faith to raise their child. At some point the child will become an adult and will need to find their own spiritual foundation. They will make up their own mind.
447947
you didnt mention the culture. if there is something like hindu involved then you are fighting a losing battle, family is first and foremost, to disagree with that causes alot of friction for him and you in and out of the relationship.
742997
I love how everyone has a prick up their @sses right here. Clearly you love him enough to be seriously contemplating a seerious relationship. In that case, compromise is the word here. You have no faith, but clearly his faith is important to him as well. \n\nIf there are children, it wouldn't hurt for them to learn about their father's religion. I have known many many people that have come out of mixed faith relationships. Some are devotely religious, some are supposedly "muslim" and just don't care, and ssome don't believe in Islam at all. Anything is open, and you have to keep in mind that in the end, this will be your children's choice. They will be exposed to two different ways of living, a whole other world that you have never known. Of course there are going to be problems, many of them, but you need to keep lines of communication open and be willing to budge.\n\nMaybe try telling him to avoid the topic of religion to his children until a certain age, but they can learn arabic if he is willing to teach them? In exchange, they won't be exposed to Islam until they are old enough to understand, or at least ask "why does Daddy not eat for a month right now?" Or something like that.\n\nAnd there are things that are truly just about comfot levels. Will it kill your children if they didn't eat pepporoni pizza or any other pork products? In return, it won't kill them to not go with their father to the mosque, or avoid any religious ceremonies or events. That's a "sacrifice" that both of you are going to have to deal with.\n\nWhatever you choose, keep this in mind: You are influencing what your children will be exposed to for the rest of their lives. It would almost be cruel to hide them from a way of life that is so important to their father, and yet at the same time it would be ridiculous to assume that they hvae to adopt a whole other mode of living, especially in a foreign country. It is not easy. But in the end, your children will end up deciding what they will and will not believe when they're ready. In the meantime, if you truly love each other, then your children's faith will be somethign that you both work on together.\n\n[Edit] To all you spouting out of your @sses that Muslim men do this, you'll be beheaded for that, you have to wear this and that, do your research for God's sake!!!! Islam is as diverse as CHristianity in terms of how devote its followers are. How many of you Christians follow every word of hte Bible literally? I can answer that: None. Not all of us women wear the scarf, even fewer of us wear the veil, and contrary to popular belief, the veil was a functional, practical garment that came about not from Islam, but from leading the life of a farmer hundreds of years ago in the sandy, blinding hot sun of Saudia Arabia, not for the cold climate of Britain. If any of you have gone to the desert, you'll know that covering up is actually cooooler than getting the full rays of the sun straight on your skin. Not all of us go around in bikinis begging for sun cancer.\n\nOther than that, no you have the full freedom of choice to stay un-religious. And to all of you idiots mentioned above, if she's fallen in love with him and known him for almost a year now, then she knows what he is all about. Clearly she knows how to lead her life better than you guys. And clearly, she is much more open minded and willing to experience other people's cultures than all of you.
378437
Well, i think that when there are different faiths involved both spouses have to be open minded and they have to communicate with each other about their different religions/ faith. I am not married but i am in a relationship where we both have different religions. We talk about it and we try to know or to learn about the different religion. Mostly because of curiosity but also b/c we have to set boundaries. So if you talk to them and make sure they know how you feel then it'll be alright, but also as long you each of you do not try to impose their religion on each other. Just be open minded and talk about it.
1174168
You need to think about what you want. If you were to get into a serious relationship with this person and it blossoms into marriage and you had kids, how would you want to raise your kids? Do you want them to feel split between their parents on which religion to live by? Would you feel hurt if one of your kids chose your mate's religion over yours? what if they chose no religion at all for fear of upsetting you or their father? What happens when you want to go to church and you want your boyfriend to go with you, but he refuses because its not his religion and not what he believes in, or visa versa? How would you feel towards him then? I've seen this happen in my own family and it causes a lot of hurt feelings and broken families. Don't think of the present, you need to think of the future. The things you do, don't just effect you, but everyone around you who cares about you.
537225
Well first of all I am a muslim, and we are allowed to marry christians provided they are good christians, ya know what I mean. And yeah its kinda hard when we start thinking how it will workout but from the religions point of view its totally legal. As far as the girl and the boy are fine, both the parties cud prolly try to adjust themselves making sure their kids are happy. The children would be somefin to think about, that will worry both the parties. Either the dads religion or the moms religion. So we'll have to sort that out before they are even born. \nLast but not the least, one of you have to switch so the children could not suffer any religion problems later on. Their heads would be alot straighter not at all confused ya know wat i mean...\nI just told you wat i knew, my info maybe a little, so I'd suggest that you may go to a religious scholar to help you on this.
688251
It totally depends on the situation.\n\nIf you are one religion and your spouse is one religion and both of you are non-practicing and don't care which religion to raise your children, I think it will work out just fine since neither of you care.\n\nBut if each of you wants to raise the children according to your own religion and don't want to compromise with the other religion, then there will be a problem. The husband will secretly be teaching the kids one religion and the wife will be secretly teaching another.\n\nThat's why before getting married, people really need to communicate with their future spouse to see if they agree on these things. Communication and compromise are the two things marriages in general are lacking these days and when applied, they can even help this problem.\n\n-----------------------------------------
380822
Personally I think that if you two are open minded enough and are willing to not care what others think then you should be alright, but honestly I don't know enough about your cultures to know for sure.  I know there is some serious bad blood because of past wars and what not but I don't know how well it has subsided.  I think the biggest thing you have to look at is what will your parents think and do you care?  If you two don't care then you should be alright but if either of you cares then you need to try and convince them to at least be happy for you.  Something else to think about is of course religion.  Just as in any relationship religion and up bringing can be a divisive or a bonding issue.  So I suggest you both look into how you were brought up and if they conflict.  I hope that helps out some.
241532
Absolutely not.  When we introduce religion into politics, we end up hurting one group of people to make another group happy.  Which religion would be allow a role in politics and which should be not?  Everyone wants it their way, everyone wants their religion to be the one in charge.
607249
religion or family believes.
184606
It can as long as you are both willing to accept and respect eachothers religious beliefs and traditions. It could get tricky once children come into the picture though.
467355
i say end it. religion from strong religious families causes a whole bunch of problems that extend all the way to grandma.
435091
I would never base my decision on who my children can date based on a person's religion.  In my opinion, anyone who belongs to any religion is trying to do what is right, and should be given even a little more trust than you might give others.  I am Mormon myself, and can tell you that most of the things you hear about the church are false, or wildly misrepresented.  Why not ask someone who belongs to the church what we believe instead of people who hate us before you make your judgement.
720030
Is religion the reason that your parents don't accept your relationship? If so I would sit down with each set of parents separately and come to some sort of agreement. Many family are multi-denominational, get involved in both churches. If you need to divide your weekends every month in order to fully appreciate both families beliefs and ideas then I think that would be a very worthwhile thing. \nTo be sure that the barrier between the two of you is religion I would start with speaking to my mother about it. Take a moment when it's just the two of you and have a heart to heart. \nTake things slow, decide what is most important to the two of you and go from there. No one can decide another person's destiny.\nGood luck!