Falling for a girl at work - am I a fool?
348225
Your question is answered in your paragraph. You state that she already has a boyfriend.
1003107
If she is busy working, pick a moment when she isn't "flying" by, and ask her if you could have a quick private word with her. Apologise for interrupting her work and then just tell her that you have been admiring her, and ask if she'd be interested in going on a date with you. Simple as that! Good Luck! Remember...nothing ventured, nothing gained!
571251
Why don't you try spending some time with her at work before you ask for a real date? Offer her some small candies when you see her at work. If you leave work at the same time, walk her to the bus stop or her car. See if you can sit with her on lunch break, or try saying hello on coffee break. \n\nIf her reaction to these attentions is positive, then ask her to go somewhere with you after work, instead a more formal date. "On Fridays, I go to Martha's Diner for pie and coffee after work. Do you like pie?" is more likely to get a yes than "Will you go out with me sometime?"
915433
If you like each other go for it.  Get together outside of the office.  you can't be scared of what will happen if it doesn't work out.  If everyone was like that then no one would ever get together.  If there is an office policy that coworkers can not date then you need to be sneaky.  You never know, you might have found your soul mate.
205772
seek first to understand, then to be understood\n\nTalk to her about it.  Ask her why she thinks that she shouldn't get involved with an officemate and then try put yourself in her shoes. If you still think that you must start some sparks, then tell her why you think this office romance is a good idea.  Don't be pushy or try to force her to go for it. You'll only drive her away. You can't coerce love from anybody. Simply tell her why she'll be happiest with you. \n\nBe mature about it and don't let your emotions cloud your thoughts. Love does that to you. When she feels that you've understood her situation, then she maybe she'll go for it.
912080
You better be really sure he likes you too, or you could lose your job.  Most guys would be flattered regardless of how they felt and would probably not report you to your manager if you tried, but you have to decide if the risk is worth it.
995522
it's a little hard seen you don't know if he is also gay, maybe you could ask him out for a drink after work. See how he is in a social setting( like if he points out a hot chick the minute you both walk in, pretty good bet he's straight) . Don't mention your feelings until your sure. Hope it all works out for you
527109
It's probably better that she's out of the office, as office relationships can be a sticky situation.  Consider this your opportunity - go for it!  Call her up.  What are you waiting for???
837116
Unless you are very, very, very attracted to each other, it is not a good idea.  What are you going to do if the relationship falls apart?  Will one of you be passing on nasty stories about the other to co-workers and bosses?  You have to consider the possible fallout from a relationship gone sour.
370610
First get a grip of yourself.\n\nSecond, if u do feel so strongly about her, go ahead tell her. what's the worst that could happen- she could like you said 'reject' you- then you do what you are doing right now- love her from a distance and keep trying to win her over. \n\nThird, point to consider. Maybe since you quit college, she thinks you are a loser. Don't prove her right by messing up your job situation. You are trying to win her over not shoo her away by proving to her that you are not worthy of her love.\n\nGood luck!
394199
She might be, but you never no. If you really like her then take a chance. If it doesn't work then oh well just keep moving on...
854030
This could be a real can of worms. First of all, it is bad form to date anyone you work with. Many companies forbid it. Secondly, how old are you? 20 is very young and if you are more than 5 years older than that, forget it. Finally, if it doesn't work out, you will have a very uncomfortable situation at work with both the girl and her mother there. I would say that it's not worth it. Date someone outside of work.
795114
=sounds to me like she has a serious attitude problem or has a lot on her plate going on right now.  You could drive her crazy with your kindness while having a good laugh inside and perhaps the two of you will end up being friends at some point.  Invite her out for a couple of beers after work, just as friends and you may be surprised at what you learn. and find out she is really a nice person after all.  Bottom line here is that you need to adjust your attitude toward her as well if you are to continue working with her.  Good luck.
694327
i dont kno y ur falling for her if u dont kno what she is like either, but then again i dont kno why i am falling for this girl that i dont kno either. it is good that u like her personality and it sounds like u care about her. and that u want her to be happy and u wish that she would wake u and realize that she is in a bad situation and that u are a whole lot better for u ( i kno exactly how u feel bc i am in the same situation. just keep doin what u are doin and try to get to kno her better. when she starts to talk to u more, and tell u more about her personal life, then u can ask her about her relationsihp (so and so said this what is that about?) and just show her that u care about her and how she feels.\n\nWith Love from God, \n              Joshwea and best of luck
898333
You need to decide what is more impotant to you, the business or letting this girl know how much you like her. If you tell her and she dosnt feel the same way it could ruin your business relationship with her. If you really want to let her know how you feel I would just let her know I wanted to talk to her about something... then tell her that you have these feelings for her, but dont come on too strong, and dont say "I love you". Tell her that you have to let her know that you like her but you dont want it to interfear with the business. Be fully prepared to get the answer you dont want to hear, that she dosnt feel the same way about you. If she does give you that answer, tell her that thats ok and you hope this dosnt interfear with the business. Then at least youll know. If she does like you, then youll have to keep business seprate from relationship. Dont mix the two.... Good luck, hope that helps a little.
254655
Tricky situation...\n\nIf you decide you want to do her, then work late often.  However, she needs to make the first move.  Afterall, she's the boss, right?  Once she puts the two of you in a less than professional situation and it is understood that it is consentual and everything is cool, then take her in every way.  Have sex in the office on her bosses desk, etc.     \n\nNow for the problem...although you are the employee and therefore not quite as responsible for behavior that might be against policy or a conflict of interest.  In essence, she will realize that if things were to go sour, she could get into some real trouble to the point of being fired.  You've really got her over a barrel.  However, if it comes to your word against her's and if she is a valuable employee, she could simply deny everything and who's to know the difference.  Now you're the one that will be fired.  Eventually, one of you will say "It was great, but now it's over."  The other person may not take this well and go off the deep end.  Now there's a lot of explaining to do.  If you let this affair happen, you can safely predict that one of you will be gone within a year.  \n\nNow, if you still want to enjoy the gifts that life has to offer and be naughty with her, and I'm not saying you shouldn't, you need to be smart and protect your interests.  Collect and retain evidence, such as a card she might have given you, emails, voice messages, bra & panties.  With this, she will never dare take the risk.  In fact, when it comes time for your performance evaluation and raise, it should be very interesting and amusing to watch her try to remain separately objective.  My crystal ball says you should do quite well.\n\nHaving said all this, I know that I could manage it well.  When an opportunity for hot sex comes my way, I go for it.  However, I've also seen people totally mess up their lives because they just can't keep their emotions under control.  Only you can decide if you can make this work.  If you doubt yourself, it might be safer and easier to leave it alone and avoid further situations where either of you might be tempted.\n\nSo, what do you want out of life... daring excitement with calculated risk/reward or non-spontainious safety with no risk/no reward?  I say; our time is short, so make the most of it.  Let those puppies breathe, let those panties fly and give her a deep one for me!
92743
I would say, don't make the first move.  You could friendly flirt and see where things go, but don't make this hugely bold move that could cost him his job.  On a professional level,  you do still have to take his career into consideration.  Furthermore, what if things go on between you two and you end up with a crappy grade anyway...that'd make things a wee bit odd between the two of you.  good luck with this one!