my friend is 15 & cing a 31 yr old who just got out of jail less then 3 months ago he says he luvs her?
346150
Tell an adult that you can trust and let the adult handle it.  This is not the type of thing you should have to deal with alone.
967128
Everytime I get arrested(which is quite often and matter of fact the last time was Wednesday...Just got out Thursday morning) I have my "First Apperance"(which is usually held inside the jail somewhere) the next day or two, which at First Apperance they give you the chance to bond out and sentence you. You don't get your 'real' court date(in the courthouse) until at least two weeks later, but sometimes it can take up to a month or more. It sounds like what happened to your friend is 1) He couldn't make bond 2) They didn't issue him a bond, which means he has to stay till his 'real court date' at that time they will either give him time served and let him out or give him probation or 3) He already went to court and has to do his time period
635981
It's not okay unless you want to be put on the Sex Offenders register as a paedophile! Anyways - what the hell does a 15 year old know about being in love - she is a CHILD and just has a big crush on you - you should know better! You must have serious confidence and self-esteem issues if you feel the need to encourage this sort of attention from her or even consider having an intimate physical relationship with her!\nYou need to tell her that she just has a teenage crush on you, and that there is no way that you would even consider going to bed with her because not only is it ILLEGAL but it is also JUST PLAIN WRONG!!!!\nSeriously dude - how desparate are you to get your rocks off to even consider having an affair with a child! Find someone your own age and stay the hell away from the kids!
104625
16 dating a 20 yr old is a lot different than 13 dating a 17 yr old.  The maturity gap is huge, and yes it is illegal since you're a minor, and when he's 18 he can go to jail, I'm not sure about now.  You should find out what your laws are for where you live regarding minors.\n\nIn the meantime, you should just be friends with him but don't date him, and by all means don't do anything physical with him.  Wait until you're at least 17 or 18 before making any real decisions, you might think you're mature but you still have many years to go and you'll change your mind on a lot of things as you get older.
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Your story is very difficult to follow.  So, if I understand, this guy and his underage girlfriend want to take your daughter whenever they want.  Unless there is a court order you DO NOT have to hand your child over.  Especially to another child or CHILD MOLESTOR.\n\nSince he is 19 and she is 15, (and was 14), you could turn him in for the contributing to the delinquency of a minor.  And from what you said, she is delinquent.  He's just perverted.  You don't need him in the childs life.  Sue for child support and block his access to your child.  He seems to like them young.\n\nIf he gets help PROFESSIONALLY then maybe some time in the future he may have rights to visit his child.  But until you can insure the safety of the baby, keep him and that wacko girlfriend away.  Make this clear to the judge.\n\nGood Luck
324718
OK, maybe his friend lied (I doubt it). But you have to get a hold of yourself.  From your typing style, and misspellings, I assume you are VERY young.  This boy may be your 1st love, but believe me, he will NOT be your last. Does he deny being with the girl at all, or just denies anything happened?  Get to the bottom of this.  If he is innocent, apologize for not trusting him.  If he is guilty, break up with him.  You don't need to play these games.  You deserve better.
852112
Depending on what state you live in, a romantic relationship with this man could result in jail time for him. If you truly care about him, then keep that in mind. No hanky panky -- and that could even include kissing in some states -- until you are legally old enough for it.\n\nAt your age, take it slow girl and get to know this guy. And keep in mind, there's lotsa fish in the sea, and you've got many many years ahead of you to find the right fish for you. This young man will understand if he truly cares for you, and he won't rush you into any kind of sexual relationship that you aren't ready for yet.\n\nAlso, really think about what you want in a long-term relationship and evaluate this guy against that. Don't look only at how he treats you, look at how he treats others, especially people who he might consider powerless such as waiters. That's a pretty good clue how he will someday treat you when the glamor and romance has worn off.\n\nAs for your friend, only you can tell whether the guy is worth the friendship, but if you want to remain friends with her, you have to be honest with your friend and tell no lies. Lies will make her feel like you aren't her friend and don't have her best interests at heart.
799452
Yeah darlin' it sounds like you're feelings are stronger than his at this point, sorry.From his point: I think it's hard to be best friends w/ a member of the opposite sex when you're  involved with someone. He may feel like he's betraying her. She may be putting some sort of pressure or negative input. \nAbout you  feeling "used" when he comes back after their break up... (which BTW their future break up is 99.9% probabable, statistically)..though I do see your point,  if you understand human nature, and as you get older you'll see this same thing again and again, very common, because people change, life is change. Change can be difficult, especially in relationships. \nNow as for numbering your friends in a ranking system, and should you call him this lable or that lable... I think once you guys can get past that "disastrous system" and began to see all the people that you really enjoy being around as your "closest friends" without the number/lable system, I believe there will be a lot less hurt feelings and heartache between all of you. Not saying we didn't do the same exact thing when I was your age,and it sucked being  #2,3 or 4 then, just as it does now. But since I did survive my teen years, I want to share that with you! My advice to you is to be the best friend that you feel comfortable with being to him, and her, without crossing the boundaries and getting into their "relationship space". He's your friend, she's your friend until either of them stops being what you consider to be a friend, at which time they are no longer a friend...\nMeanwhile use YOUR energy on YOU not him!  Good luck girl...
186783
Keep in mind he is a "tutor," not "teacher." There is nothing to report. They are both consenting adults regardless of the age difference. If You are worried about your freind talk to her, but in the long run she will have to learn from her own mistakes.
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why is he going to jail?? is it some kind of drug thing or violence.. It all depends on you and do you want to wait for him. how long is he going way for? \nmy friend waited 17 months had a jail house wedding and they werent even together a year when he got out and now they are divorced \njust ask you self if its worth you time
497123
Well, if your friend is like one of my best friends, then there is nothin you can do. If she hasn't learned in almost 3 years, then nothin you do or say is going to convince her that he is not the one for her. I've been going through the same thing with my friend since we were in middle school, but she is the type that you can't tell her anything about her man because she's "grown and knows what she's doing". As bad as it hurts me to see her continuously choosing to date abusive (physical and emotional) and disrespectful men, I know that she will have to learn on her own. Just pray that she'll come around -soon.
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Dear Nanis,it would seem your friend is suffering from love lost in the past,or making an excuse to not get close to you.Love is an outgoing concern for the one loved GREATER than concern for self.And it is unfair of him to judge YOU as if you are going to hurt him too! In the meantime,still talk with him,be kind to him,and listen to him IF he returns the same thing.Otherwise it was not meant to be.I loved a girl once,and kept after her a whole year--but she simply did not love me.So decide with your HEAD what is best...the heart is a very deceptive emotional organ...you have to see 5 to 10 years down the road--guard your heart--YOU are worth loving,not being kept at arm's lentgh.
409622
Guess it depends on how bad is his crime?  And exactly how much do you LOVE him???  Yup, there's always extenuating circumstances.  It's never cut n dried.  Start with, what do you WANT to do?  Are you willing to wait 5 years for someone who may not be worth waiting for?  Questions, questions......and only YOU are able to answer them.  Any of us, as strangers, can only hope that you ask yourself all these tough questions, so that your're able to make the best decision for yourself.
81051
It's really your decision but girl the one in jail leave him alone that's just drama waiting to happen.The other on e your dating does he make you happy can you tell him stuff.  I say gurl follow your heart don't be scared it will always lead you in the right direction.
603995
Find out when he is getting out.  He should have a court date set to be sentenced or they could give him a bail amount.  It could take up to a week to find this out.  Alot of guys in jail have girlfriends but most of them arent even worth it.  If you love him you can go and visit.  Just contact the jail.
1066545
You should have a nice long talk with him and give him an ultimatum. If he loves you, he'd do the right think and not do things that are illegal or get him in trouble.  Who do you think will be visiting him when he's in prison? Not his so called friends. YOU.  Nip this is the bud now babe. You want your man honest, healthy and living life to its fullest on the right side of the law. Good luck hun. Do the right thing.
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its not your sisters fault.... it is the law....   he knew he was breaking it......\n\nif he won't speak to her anymore...then he is probably just being cautious about getting caught in bed with her again......  because talking leads to other things a lot of the time.....\n\nhe may very well get locked up.....\n\n18 and 15...i don't see anything wrong with it...... but it is illegal.... 3 years age difference is nothing at that age... now if he was 14 and she was 11 there would be a problem.....