He's about to graduate and I don't think I can handle his leaving- How do I cope with his leaving?
352592
I think it's a little early to start talking about the love of your life.  How old can you be?\n\nFor every thing there is a season, and a time for every purpose under Heaven.\n\nSuffering is part of life, hopefully a small part.  Probably the most useful skill to develope is not being too much the drama queen.  Us humans tend to make things feel worse than they really are by overindulging.  Most things that we think are all about us, really aren't.
33375
Dude, best of luck to you but this question really doesn't make much sense to ask.  We don't know either of you as people so how do you expect us to make any accurate judgements on how likely it is that you have a future together?  I would take it SLOW and wait until you are not a student at the college anymore before pursuing anything though so that you protect both of your futures, yours as a student who wants to graduate there and hers as an employee.
1021832
He should be able to leave at christmas time - at the end of the term then\n\nhowever, it is worth noting that although school is really boring and rubbish there is a reason that it is there.  i would advise him to stay on and finish the year - he will need to do half of it anyway so he might as well get something useful out of it.\n\nleaving school is a big decision and one that should be thought through carefully. he should be able to discuss his options with his parents, teachers, college advisors and career advisors - i wish you all the best
724089
No, this won't work!\nIf he wants to separate now until graduation, he will have other excuses later. Maybe he really believes that all your problems are due to his stress situation at med. school. But it is an illusion to think that this will be over after his graduation. Everybody's life is full of stressy situations, and he will have other ones later!\n\nOr he learns how to deal with stress management now, or he will never do it.\n\nBut maybe your problems are of a very different kind, and this 'stress' is only an excuse because he is to coward or simply to lazy to deal with your real problems in your relationship.\n\nMy advice to you is that you put all your energy finding out the roots of your problems. Even if you don't see any result in this later, never accept this deal of temporary separation, because it will senselessly ruin your own life!\n\nGood luck and be strong!
752268
just be polite to him and keep yourself busy elsewhere out of his way .if , after a few weeks you still feel like that thn either talk to your mother or a counsellor at your school .it could be your sixth sense telling you to be wary
665958
i know its very difficult bcoz i'm going thru a similar situation... but believe me, if u dont let go then its only u who'll suffer.. at this point of time my life is just like hell... but i knw one thing only u can do this, no other person can help u... so the best thing would b to stop thinking bout him n put yr mind in other things... make yrself so busy that u dont get the time to think bout him... n stop doing things that would remind u of him... if u dont make yrself strong, u'll not b able to get on with with yr life... so u gotta accept the situation n move on...
362206
Remember this: it's his loss. if he can just leave you like that then he is so not worth it! It's a really hard thing to hear, especially from someone you don't know, but trust me, I've been through it my self. You need to move on.
98996
try to forget him , I know it is hard , but you will make it :-)
449820
LEAVE HIM -- you owe it to yourself to find a happier life.  Don't think that you are too old or that you have invested too much time in this relationship.  Don't let him talk down to you or intimidate you into not leaving.  He's the coward and he's trying to take his insecurity out on you.  The transition period won't be easy, but once you are away from him, you will look back and be glad that you ended it.  Better things are in store for you.  Good luck.
609962
im sorry\nthe same thing happened to me w/my x. He would move out anywhere from couple days - month. \nwell eventually i had enough we are not together. \nleaving for while wil not solve any problems at all either.\nwell good  luck to you i hope things work out for you!!!
859387
just concentrate on the work and get through it, knowing you won't have him at the end of the year for another class
362261
yeah... but don't worry you'll get over it... once you've entered the situation and know there's no going back... but it's important to remember to relax and if you're prepared (this is what I say about exams) there's nothing you can do, except stay focused and try hardand whatever mistakes happened are unintentional, you can't control if they happen (because you've tried your hardest) and you can't do anything about them once they've happened. \n\nDon't worry - be yourself... and you'll be gr8. If he loves you, so will they!
729228
You need to totally "go dark" on him.  Don't try to contact him, don't be overly friendly, just polite and businesslike.  When he sees that you are fine without him and can take care of yourself, maybe he'll grow up a little.  Back off, give him some room to breathe, and go about your OWN business, get a hobby, hang out with friends, take your baby to a swim class at the Y or something, but always be too busy to get together for a couple of weeks and see what happens.   It worked for me.\n\nADDED:\nMy motto was "I'm going to get a life"  that way, if he decided that he was done, at least I would be off to a good start.
985547
In time things will get better, but before then try and let go.  And if he comes back to you let him know that he has given up a real good thing.  Its going to hurt for now, but try and make this into a good experience and know that there is someone else out there for you.
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This must be such a difficult situation for your entire family.  You must be feeling as if you no longer know you son. You must feel as if you are walking on jello and that your whole world has fallen apart.  You must be thinking what will become of all the hopes and dreams I had for this boy of mine!  These feelings are all normal. You are not alone, I spent many sleepless nights hoping I could go back to the time when my child was small and I was holding that little boy in my arms.  But let's consider something very important: Your son was comfortable enough to come and talk to you about this situation.  That seems to say that your lines of communication are open between the both of you.  That is a blessing!  It says a great deal to how you raised your son and you should take comfort from that.\n\nWith your open communication and his trust in you  don't allow yourself to fall into the trap of becoming preachy and letting him know how wrong this is or to throw him.  The damage that will done by doing that can not be undone!\n\nThis is a time to sit down with him and discuss all the options.  You need to understand how he is feeling, what he wants to do about this situation, and how he is going to be responsible for this child.\n\nIts about him right now not you, and that is going to be very difficult to do, I know I have been there.  The more you can all listen and you guide with gentleness the better off you will all be.  Other people will say support him, but if you have not had many, many talks with him about his goals, worries, concerns and desires for all of this you will never know how to support him.\n\nNow, what he chooses may not be what you would choose.  At 17, he is feeling like a child and an adult.  He is conflicted by what he feels, he wants to be a little boy and have this all go away, and he wants to be a man and take care of it himself; but you have to be there to give him all the information he will need to make the choice.  If you do it right with little judgment and guilt he will choose well.\n\nGive him ALL the information both sides. Now, here comes the really hard part.  His girlfriend holds a great deal of the cards, and what she finally decides may not be what you or your son want.  Be prepared for that.  She and her family may want nothing to do with you.  They may view you as the cause of all this trouble.  They want to force your son into doing something that is not right.  Be prepared for that.  The more you have thought this all through and discussed everything with your son the better the outcome will be.\n\nWe can not force her, her family or you son into doing anything.  There can only be gentle guiding. \n\nWhen all is said and done the greatest thing we can rely on is faith that God is the author of all good things.  If we look at this with the eyes of faith we will see that this has the potential of becoming a beautiful experience of growth and strength.\n\nFeel free to call me: 517-290-8930
187550
Take him aside,and tell him."I don't want to brake up w/ you,but since you're moving........."Talk to you at school,love ya like a sis.
223522
its a cruel world, keep your eyes and ears open, go to college jobs are not easy to come by any more, congradulations, best of luck