how do you stop a marriage ceromony continuing?
343723
call him up- tell him how you feel- and get it out of your system.  Chances are he'll still get married, your feelings will be hurt, but at least you'll know you tried.  Too bad you didn't speak up sooner, it could have been you marrying him.  Learn your lesson and let people know how you feel while there's still something that can be done.  Good luck.
1161209
ha ha h ha\n\nstop gays from marrying! stop straights from divorcing!\n\nhow bout, 'it's none of your business!'
56091
Stop having sex w him, tell him you whant to wait untill you get married, he will ether marry you, cheat on you or dump you, but something will happen I say in 1 month or so..
300398
Remember your marriage vows? For better or worse ..... You can't just walk out on a marriage just because it's done every day. It's not acceptable in God's eye sight. He instituted marriage. He won't dismiss us when we make him unhappy neither should you your husband. \n\nThat's why they say it is not to be taken lightly. It is a covenant.
209215
Cherish each other, treat him like a king, let him have the authority in the marriage.  You will be surprised by all the wonderful benefits to this method.  He will treasure you for putting him on the pedestal, and you won't believe how fun life can be when you don't have arguments anymore, because he is making the decisions.  If you want more info go to nogreaterjoy.org.  Check out the Helpmeet book.\n\nI will add if you love him and don't want to count another marriage down the drain, fight for him and your kids.  Quit calling them, his and your, they are all yours now!  Do special things for him that let him know you are very committed to the marriage.  Put him first, act like you are trying to win him for the first time.  I know this doesn't seem fair, but men respond to it.  If he is unsure of where your loyalty is, or that you think your marriage can not make it then he will look for an easier relationship, or what he thinks is easier.  Ignore the kids blatant attempts to destroy what they think is keeping their parents from reuniting, and win them over too.  Don't expect them to respect and love you just because.  Don't spoil them, but do things that cater to them, make a special meal that they like, or allow them to pick the movie you will watch with them, do love them even though they seem unlovable, do things they don't expect you to, like leave a silly note on their pillows, saying you are proud to be their stepmom, or whatever they call you, do things with them like cleaning their room or making a cake. Be as affectionate as appropriate and don't repond to their pranks.  This is a war for the life you want and chose, do you want to start all over,, saying this is my 4th marriage how do I make it work?  I know it seems like you are swallowing your pride, but would you rather sign divorce papers?  It works, I will pray for you and the family. Blessings.
991430
This is also my third marriage. First time was six months, I was very young and stupid. Two years later, I met husband two. Two years pass before we marry. Married for two years and got divorce. Both one and two, couldn't keep their hand to theirselfs. \nThen here comes number three. I started talking to him on yahoo chat. Talking and then we meet soon after. Then I was with him for four years, been married for one. I agree with her, Iam tired of marriage. \nStick me with a fork, Iam done all the way.\n\nP.S. I heard from someone before, don't matter how many times you marry. Just as long you love him/her, is all that matters. Don't give up becuz one ruin it for ya.
274056
I've been married to a guy just like yours for awhile now. YOU can't control it, you just have to learn how to let it go. Learn detachment, you learn to roll your eyes, let it roll off your back and let it go. I go in another room, read a book, just get away from it. Learn to nod your head alot and smile. If you love him, you can make it happen, it just takes practice. Alanon is a wonderful source for helping you to detach with love. Go to a meeting, trust me, it will help!\n\nGood Luck!!
137324
If the both of you really feel that you have to be together then the married partner must end the marriage.  That's the only way you can legally be together.
128949
Settle down.\n\nThe correct answer which comes from years of experience is -\n          Never add your wife to any account
1148036
you don't deserve to keep living like this!  suggest marriage counseling and try to work things out. then, if not, u have to decide your next step.
972023
I think your relationship is already messed up.\nIt is not to late for an annulment!
300119
there is no way u can stop that.It a natural thing.I happens and it goes.
220052
sorry to hear you let it get that far, i'm sure you are too. normally, i would say talk to your mate. but in this instance i would have to say you need to figure out in your head and heart what you really want and get you priorities worked out. your children are the ones who would really suffer for your indiscretions. i'm sure that is not what you want. but if your husband finds out, i don't think he'll be very understanding or forgiving. i wouldn't. but if you wan to save your marriage, then i would focus entirely on my husband and my marriage and making him happy. kiss butt, in other words. secretly, of course. one day, if you feel your marriage is strong enough, then you can tell him. the only thing that is going to help is your conscience. honestly, you may learn a bigger lesson by having to carry this secret and not burden your husband with what you did. sorry.
130403
There are 3 keys to staying married: 1. You need to be able to trust each other   2.  Always have good communication   3. You both need to be willing to do anything to make things work.
449229
There is only one way to do that.. CLEAN! You need a completely clean break, no contact of any kind. If you are truly in love, but are going to end it (which, BTW, is the right thing to do if it is an extramarital affair), then you need to cease all communication and just try to move on.
837595
Tell them to stop or else...then make it stick. It's called setting a limit or boundary. Not everyone who comes into our life stays in our life. \n\nThis sounds like one of those instances where you need to find out whether you really want to keep this person in your life as he/she is currently. I'm older, so don't have much tolerance now for someone who doesn't respect me. \n\nWe can't change someone who won't change, so the only thing we can do sometimes is to leave the relationship.
1162266
In my opinion the two people involved are obviously unhappy with their lives so they need to decide what exactly it is that they want and move on. If you're unhappy in the marriage let it go and be together but if there's still a chance that they can salvage the marriages than they need to walk away from the affair. In any case a decision must be made. It's not fair to anyone involved if things stay the way that they are.