I'm not sure what I should do about my realationship and friendship with my ex boyfriend, what do you think?
354775
honestly i think its too early for a friendship...because of the fact that you still arent over him and obviously not ready to TRUELY handle it as a friendship w/o thinking of the past. and him being a dickweeeeeed.\n\n\nlol weeeeeeeeed.\n\n\nwrong word to elongate...i dont care\ni dont smoke weed...so i can if i want\n\ni love you!
52087
By all means, if you and your ex had a good relationship while you were together, then I think you definatly should still be friends. My ex and I are still friends and we dated over 4 years ago. Ex boyfriends tend to be better friends that any other person sometimes because they know the real you. They understand you and they do care for you. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. My ex is a better friend to me than many of my other friends are.
903443
I think it is too soon for you both to be in contact with eachother as you say it's too painful right now.  The best thing to do for the moment, until you get your own head sorted is cut all ties.  I know it might be hard but you need to straighten your own head and heart out first and be strong enough before you can be friends with him.  You are not in the right frame of mind now, it is too soon since you broke up, and staying in contact might only cause more pain.  I broke up with my ex in June and we haven't been in touch since.  I know at the start it was very hard as I went from hearing from him everyday to nothing but, now I'm a lot stronger.  I'm happier now that it's over as we weren't right for eachother but if I stayed in contact with him I know I'd probably be still hurting and in the same situation right now.  Time is a great healer and WILL make you stronger.  Just give yourself some "you" time.  Hope it works out for you!
1179415
You should come to the realization that there is nothing boring about a great relationship.  If you continue always looking around for something better, you will regret it later after much heartbreak.  I suggest that you stay with your BF and tell your ex to stop calling.  Sadly, based on what you have written here I do not have a good feeling about your future unless you find a way to change your goals and philosophy.
481226
If you do not want to get back with your ex then you should not be involved with him and his present partner as just a "FRIEND".\nThat may be the root of the problems that they are having that send him running to you for "ADVISE".\nHe feels comfortable with you because the two of you have history and he maybe testing the Waters to find out if you are willing to forgo a friendship and try a relationship once again.\nThe best thing you can do is steer clear of constant contact with them as a couple.
1055733
I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now.  And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
526761
As long as your ex didn't cheat on you while you were together. Then the decision on that one. Merely, depends on whether you want him back.  If you do take him back. You just have to realize that a little baby comes along for the ride.  Now with getting set up with a friend of a friend. Well, if he is not talking to you anymore. Just let it be. You deserve more than that.  Just make sure to tell your friend. (Just so he can realize what kind of friend he has)
1123093
I would see where things lead. And if it end up that you two break up for awhile it will be okay. I am going through a break-up right now. My ex did it because he needed time to himself to figure himself out, that sort of thing. He still loves me.\n\nMove on with your life. Moving on doesn't mean that you don't still love him or that you might not get back together one day, it just means that you're moving on. You can't waste your life waiting on someone who doesn't know what they want.\n\nI wish you the best and remember if you're supposed to be with him you will be.
238802
It's up to you if you want to wait a year or not. If you and the friend have sparks, go for it! What difference is it going to make with your ex anyway? You didn't cheat, right? You need to do what makes you happy, and if your ex has a problem with it, too bad! Ex's are ex's for a reason!
579003
Your ex is your ex for a reason. Remember that. It sounds like you have a good relationship with this other guy, I think you need to let your ex go and forget about anything that might take you back to him. You are not being fair to either guy by running to the other when you have problems. Instead, get on yahoo answers to help solve your problems...lol! just kidding. But seriously, you need to move on with this new guy. You might feel things for your ex and that is natural because you have a past together...but it's just that, a past. Time to look to the future and move on. Good luck!
132566
i think its okay if you're okay with it. do you want to go back to your ex?  if so, talk to him about it first. commmunication is key.
559023
I think you're going to have to let this guy call the shots unfortunately. The person who did the breaking up is the person who really has to decide whether or not they see something they didn't see before or just want to give it another try. If you really want to be with him then you might want to bring the subject up in a serious way and let him know that no matter what he says or feels it doesn't have to change anything between you. You could just say something like "You know we've been friends so long and really still get along so well, I've thought about whether we should try again. What do you think?" If he says he's not interested then just back off and continue the friendship. It's more important to keep that in tact especially since you have been friends this long.
884723
This one is going to be difficult, so let's see if I can help.\n\nFirst, your ex.  Now, I take it he's your ex for a reason.  Ask yourself, is there a chance for a relationship with him?  And, if there is, would things end up differently if you two got back together?  If you answered "no" to either question, then rule him out.\n\nSecond, your guy friend.  This is even trickier because if you do chose to pursue a relationship with him, it could end up being either being the best thing you ever had, or ending your friendship.  Does he feel the same about you?  If he does, then you may lose him if you don't date him.\n\nI hope this helps a bit.  Sorry I could not be more of a help.
376714
This sounds more like it's confusing than like an actual problem.\n\nTry to relax and let your ex make up his mind.  He's obviously not sure what he wants at this point.
305678
Well, you clearly are not a good friend are you? We can all see that because you hurt your boyFRIEND, so can you honestly blame him? \n\nAdditionally, why do you want to be friends with your ex? Just because you used to date doesn't mean that when you break up, you will be friends. It doesn't always work that way, and given that you have hurt him, you can hardly expect to continue to be on good terms.\n\nI strongly suggest that you stop any efforts to befriend him, move on and try to be kinder to your next significant other.
377484
My friendship with my ex never created a problem with my current b/f. My b/f understands that my ex and I were friends first and that's how we'll always be despite what happened in our relationship. There are certain boundaries that you should not cross though. There is always suspicion when it comes to dealing with your current's ex, and that's normal. It's a human thing. Just try not to take it too personal unless you're sure there's a reason to.
474511
Why not be friends and see how things develop?  If you two agreed to break up, why are you asking the question now?  Sit down and talk.