Sex and alcohol go great! but the wife doesn't like me to drink to much. What should I do?
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well, you should respect her wishes..that's what make great partner..and if you could meet her half way...just ask her..
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I would try talking to your hubby about there not being so much alcohol in the house when you are trying to drop the habit. If he doesn't understand then maybe you should go stay at a friend or parents house (that contains little or no alcohol) for a certain amount of time until you can fight the craving. Talk to your hubby though, he should understand and since ya'll are married take your side of the situation than his friends, he should be trying to help you not hurt you. And having his friends over partying and drinking while you're trying to kick the habit is only hurtin you in the long run. \n\nTry also hanging out with people who don't drink (like me! lol) and don't do the party scene anymore. Only you can change your life and what you want to do with it, noone can decide for you but advice is given and what you do with it is up to you. \n\nNeed a friend to talk to when the temptation arises? Email me dixiemom8203@yahoo.com or yahoo ID dixiemom8203. Feel free to chat with me at any time. You could also try every time you get the desire for alcohol try writing it down saying how you feel at that exact moment and reminding yourself that you don't need it. \n\nI wish you all the luck in the world, I have faith in you...God Bless!
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LOL, not to laugh at you, but it sucks you can't join in. I would ask your wife, if she must explore her fantasies, could it be with someone not related to you, so you can participate, too. I mean, if you aren't bothered, then don't make a big deal about it. Just simply state that you wished you would have know, so you wouldn't have been shocked/surprised. Ask her what her thoughts and plans are, and from there, you must decide.
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Nothing wrong with it.  Enjoy it while it lasts cause you will have times like that and times you won't want it.  Me and my wife are that way.  Sometimes I am the horny one then her and sometimes both at same time then sex daily is awesome thing.  Maybe try spicing things up with sexy lingerie and stuff.  Nothign is wrong with you just your body tell you it is in heat and wants to have sex
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I have a glass of wine and just chill with my wife. Sometimes we watch tv or a movie and other times we just talk or play a game (we love texas hold 'em). Sometimes we do other things too.
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Something has got to give or it will be your relationship.  Surprise her on her day off and take the kids to the parents house.  Communication and a good heart to heart is in order and the double surprise is that it creates intimacy.  And women need that for great sex. \n\nGood luck. (oh, and see what you can do to negotiate some of these issues before they strain you both too far)
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Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
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Girl!! Just start drinking and making out with your best friend in front of him LOL! Sounds crazy..yea a lil, but if he doesn't get turned on by that you should question a few things... LOL It worked for me and my husband!
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u said beer belly is he an alcoholic? because if he is or drinks heavy that is the problem people who drink are very one sided and its not your side it all about themselves.. sounds to me like he has it made you are doing everything and he does nothing and gets away with it... its time for you to put your foot down girl make a list of what  you want from him give him a time limit to comply with at least most of what you want (as long as its  reasonable)and if he doesnt then tell him his free ride is over and kick him to the curb. on the list things like him cleaning the house or taking you out to dinner and a movie one time per week , he takes the kids here and there ect..   \n what is with everyone telling you that you need to do things different? she does not need to pay more attention to him or give him oral sex he is being a jerk not her   she is not doing anything wrong except letting him get a free ride and trust me thats enough
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When he comes home . . . greet him with a beer and a kiss and a hug . . . clothing optional . . . if you have children you will have to dress conservative . . . \n\nHave dinner ready . . . and allow him time to unwind from a hard days work.\n\nPeriodically, give him a long hug and kiss . . . when he least expect it.  \n\nAlso, when it comes to sex, men are always horny . . . but sometimes we are too tired to act or take the initative . . . ladies please help out . . . because I know you need it as much as us.\n\nGuys, this is not just a one way street. . . you have to appreciate your wives too.\n\nMaybe after dinner . . . offer her to wash the dishes . . . not all the time . . . but once in while.  Maybe during the weekend, periodically . . . cook her dinner . . . and don't make a mess . . . lol.  Give her time to relax . . . soak in a tub with bubblebath . . . while you watch the kids or prepare something special for her.  Also, if she is cooking . . . periodically get off your A**, go to the kitchen and give her a hug from behind.\n\nShow love and respect to each other.
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It sounds like you wife needs to see a Doctor first. She could have a medical condition that needs to be addressed. If that doesn't work then take her to a Psychologist for help with your sex life. Good luck
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First of all the drinking might be the first problem...you obviously have a total lack of judgement when you drink...second, it was the thrill of the indescretion as well as the the first (and last)time with her, that always makes things more erotic & exciting...
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well, for a little while and then let him get involved.  Not just sit there and watch you go to town and make yourself orgasm.  When I'm going down on my wife, she will sometimes push my head away and do it herself for a while.  It"s hot, but then I want to finish what I started.
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She wants you to "defend her honor" like a gentleman is supposed to. Not exactly even say something to the other guy, but to just ask her, "How dare he openly ogle you, can't he see we're married?"\n\nAlso, "Mr high-sex-drive", your lady might not be as into bedroom play as you are because you're probably lacking in the foreplay department.\nAnd, don't mistake sex for intimacy...they're not the same thing.  Make sex a little more fun for your lady, and flirt with her, not other women.
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first off, congrats. it's not easy to make it to 10 years, so cheers for you!\n\nnow, let's get down to business. here's a couple things to try to keep that spark alive, or hopefully to ignite things if they've gone a little cold.\n\n1) give sexy gifts spontaneously.\n\nlisten, you're not kids anymore; you love each other, and sex is part of that. you don't have to be embarassed of being straightforward about your sex life. that being said, it's okay to give each other sexy, suggestively romantic gifts. a couple of ideas:\n\n-for the man: get your wife something romantic, like a bottle of wine with a ribbon wrapped around it along with a sexy romance novel for those nights when you can't be there. the book will get her mind racing with all these creative new ideas for your love life, and the wine will provide a bit of "liquid courage" to get the ball rolling. =)\n\n-for the woman: honestly, nothing can be sexier to us than YOU, simple as that. but show us that you're in the mood, and that you don't mind sex as a way to express love. pick up a bit of lingerie, and surprise us in a place that's NOT the bedroom. \n\ntry taking your man out to lunch, and telling him in the middle of the meal that you've got a lacy black thong on. then, watch how fast he gets the check taken care of so that he can whisk you home. ;)\n\n2) communication.\n\nwe've all been there: it's been a long day, and the last thing you want to do is have a marathon sex session when you come home. for the guy, watch your woman's mood -- if she's been picking up after the kids all day, DON'T bug her about when dinner's going to be ready. instead, make her feel appreciated and maybe even lend a helping hand to the things she has left to do. the appreciative feelings flooding through her system will shoot straight to her crotch. trust me.\n\nand for the lady: take care of your man -- he won't admit it, but he's a big baby. he's probably super stressed from his day of work, and even if it seems like he wants to talk about it, don't let him. instead, completely take care of his needs -- give him a back rub, make a nice steak or something (i like pasta, personally) and don't try and bring up the things he's stressed about. you'll be amazed that, as his mind is relieved from the things that stress him out, he'll have much more time and energy to focus on you.\n\n---\n\nwell, that should get the ball rolling. i would post more, but everyone here at Y! Answers has the attention span of speedy gonzales (not a racist joke) =U|\n\ngood luck, and may the relationship spice up dramatically!
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This is a case where it's a good thing for a guy to be pig-headed. Don't let yourself accept that you're going to blow first...insist SHE gets to orgasm first and mean it. (You've got to be stubborn though or she'll take you out!)Make yourself believe that you're not going out like that.Here's some practical tips that will probably help, too. First..oxygenate your body thoroughly before you even think about having sex, for example, earlier in the day go for a good run, shoot some hoops or do a bunch of pushups...anything to get the heart pumping oxygen-rich blood to the main vein! That's the principle key to your erection and good staying power. Next, get rid of that first nut privately, and pretty close to the time you're going to get with your lady. ( In the shower before you get with her is a good, discreet time and no one is any the wiser.) That first nut is mostly mechanical anyway; getting rid of it will calm you down to do some good, inspired thrusting and grinding. Lastly, don't do a whole lot of drinking...it weakens you more than you might think. And, if you know she's going to wipe you out when you take her from behind (for example) for God's sake don't start out like that; start in a position where you can maintain a good holding pattern without getting overstimulated. It's all in the planning, DAWG! Good luck.
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Try romancing her first.  Nice dinner at a nice restaurant, some wine, go home put on some music and slow dance while you sweet talk with her.  For really wild sex - add tequila.\nIf that doesn't work, I dunno... I guess you have my sympathy.