just broke up with boyfriend but he won't go away?
349798
tell him to get a life and leave you alone,
510785
It sounds like he may be trying to push you away in the hopes that *you* break up with *him.*  He may be too chicken to do it himself.  The problem is, is that it's affecting your self-esteem.  You don't deserve to be treated that way- being used is no fun, so don't allow it!  Think about where you see yourself in 5 years.... still in the same place???.... .don't waste any time.  Believe me, there are guys who will treat you right.  We teach people how to treat us- don't allow it anymore!!
925741
I'm sorry to hear you're in such pain.  Unfortunately, hurting comes with the territory; it will lessen over time.\n\nYou can do things to help yourself, though it might be hard:\n\n1.  You broke up for a reason, don't forget that.\n\n2.  He is now involved with someone else, and you may be crushed that he moved on so quickly.  Don't be; give yourself time...his moving on is no reflection on you.\n\n3.  Be honest with yourself about your real motivation for keeping in contact with him.  You've tried to talk to him...he does not want to talk to you.  Accept it and stop torturing yourself, your attempts to speak with you aren't getting you anywhere.\n\n4.  You may think it's wrong for him to respond the way he is, but look at it from his perspective:  You broke up; he's involved with someone else and you keep calling him.  You can let go, and it's annoying to him.  What reason would he have to talk to you other than to tell you to leave him alone?  What if the situation were reversed?\n\nNo, it isn't easy.  Having been there, I promise you you'll get over him in time.  You'll look back on this and wonder what all the hoopla was all about. In the meantime, stop calling him; it's not healthy and you're only hurting yourself.  It's not going to bring him back to you.\n\nTake care...
1173856
Hey Buddy,\nperhaps give him space. It can be VERY difficult to do. I actually just ended a 6 year relationship that yes like you we were both in love and boy did i love him...but we argued too much! it ends up becoming sole destroying....\n\nI am in a new relationship now and my motto is to try and NEVER have a fight....3months and going well!! (this is why i live in passive agressive canada lol) \n\nGood luck!! dont give up hope! i think i am like you and clinging too...but perhaps tell him you are thinking of leaving him for a little while. just a temporary break up. Stay monogomous but just dont see each other for 2 weeks...see how you go...
73669
I'm so sorry that u had a bad breakup. I'm physic so i no. Well they break up because they have minor differences and disagreements and have no intention of compromise. But what u can do is try to get over him. If he is not coming back, then let him go. They say wen u love someone, there comes a time wen u must let them go, so try to get over him. Start seeing new people and pretty soon, it'll be a thing in the past.
316303
The reason you can't get over him is because u can't let go.\n\nY do u want him back sweetie? I know it hurts that he's with someone else and if u don't let go and move on ur only hurting yourself.. He's not thinking  or worrying about you, so why waste time that could be spent getting yourself together  or dating other guys? U get the strength by \n\n1. Keeping busy\n\n2. get rid of anything that reminds u of him\n\n3. Stop worrying about what his doing or who he's with\n\n4.Get out there a date\n\n5.Know that he's not the ONLY guy and if he was worth it he never would have done this to you\n\nI hope you realize that in life people do breakup and it will hurt, but what don't kill ya makes you stronger.\n\nGo out meet other guys and enjoy it until you met the next guy who will not leave you for another\n\nHe's not worth your tears, next time u cry about a guy cry because your so happy with him
151020
he is in a comfort zone. What about you, what do you want? Think about why you broke up..Is he worth it, or can you do better than the way he treats you. Is this what you want for your future or are you just settling in your comfort zone. If he is the man you want, than just ask him, and if it is not the answer you are looking for.....move on
140113
my advice. Keep it broken off. dont just forget what happened and why you broke up...it happened for a reason. FInd someone else that you want to be with. Please dont get into the make up/break up cycle. It really sucks!!!
38183
Talk to him and tell him it's not working out.  Try to be cordial and just get it over with.  Dragging out the relationship is just going to make the break-up more difficult and painful when it finally does happen.
92592
Feelings are hard to understand.  My best advice is to give him time.  Give him space and do not call.  If you have changed, this is your time to prove it and lay off for a little while, if there is hope for the relationship, it will shine through.  However, be mentally and emotionally prepared for him to not come back.  In the end, this is not the last guy you will ever date, you're life might have just begun.
902809
The relationship just aint working sounds like. Give him an ultimatum either you make some moves on me and call me and take some initiative or it's over and I'm moving on. Yes you'll get the hurt of a breakup but you'll some day find a better guy who will actually "communicate" with you. Good luck with all that.
950293
You can't... Especially if the decision to break up wasn't his... He has to get over "your" decision... Remember, you had this entire thing planned and worked out in your head for some time... all the while he probably didn't have much of a clue as what extreme life changing event was being planned and taking place...  the only real help for him now is time...
473362
That's a pretty messed up person u're talking about...u're obviously so in love with him...u need to decide to stop loving him...and getting on to better people who deserve that kind of love..\n\ndo not assume u know what he wants deep down...plus u being available to him now...will make him want to go back to u less...if what u r saying is true u need to be unavailable so that he has to break up with her to b with u again...and try to relate what's going on with the reason he broke up w/u in the 1st place
991806
Why did you break up in the first place?  Talk to him and tell him how you feel.  He may just be feeling the same way about you.  Don't stay quiet.
865546
yeah my guy and i just had a fight..and I am so devasted..I love him soo much..but then again he is an as*hole...if you feel like you need time..then take time..but if you feel like you can move on with someone else then go out with friends and make new friends..usually after a break up..I like to take time for myself and get back to me...good luck\nps..if you still love him then call him and try to work things out
1104965
Well you can throw a hissy fit about him leaving and make him feel so bad that he stays but you feel guilty and he'll never know what he could've done if he would've left. Or, you can let him go and be totally supportive!! I choose choice # 2!! Letting someone go is really hard and no-one really wants to say goodbye to anyone.. especially their significant other!! Let him know how you feel about him moving but if he is going to move and you can't stop him, show him that you're the kind of girlfriend he needs in his life. A supportive and down chick!! Good luck hon!! i know how hard that is!! Remember what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!!
65502
It sounds like if he's truly understood that you're gonna break it off with him and yet he still hasn't changed his attitude, then he's probably wanting you to break it off. Maybe it's one of the whole, "I don't want to do it so I'll MAKE her do it" type things. Give him this last chance, try to go out and do something that both of you enjoy without the distraction of friends and family. Let him know that it really does bug you when he acts this way. If he still seems like he wants to hang on and will change, you decide, you go for it or maybe you've had enough. But if he's STILL acting that way by the end of the "date" call it quits. Move on to a guy who'll treat ya better! Good luck girl!