what does it mean when your mother in law wears white to your wedding?
347248
dude.. u worry too much!! it could be worse ..she could wear black. to symbolise she was losing her daughter forever.
940387
hmmmm, try and convince him to get a pair of white class A's. Someone I knew actually did that for his wedding. Otherwise I would just say stay with white, I mean what are you gonna do? get a green wedding dress?
543074
Mostly, your future mother-in-law will just need someone who will listen.  Just let her express her feelings as she has to grieve over love and marriage lost.\n\nFor those who are telling him to get his future \nmother-in-law in line, that isn't what the question was.  Don't you read?  Also, not all mother-in-laws are interfering and, contrary to stereotyping, many men/women love their mother-in-laws.  Makes me wonder how the young can be so jaded that they assume all mother-in-laws fit the phony stereotype.  Grow up!
170040
Something age and occasion-appropriate that is not white, ivory, or black.  My mother wore a long dress that had a matching beaded jacket over it.  Hers was the same color as the bridesmaid dresses, but it doesn't have to be.
290839
all the answers you received are good ones already.  I just have one suggestion:  ask her about how her wedding was planned.   If she answers she did, then tell her how much you want to do this also.  If she answers  her mom or mother in law, ask her how much she enjoyed it.   Then find out one area that you can delegate to her as her special responsibility like, "I have always wanted yellow and white roses on the tables at the reception; will you get them and arrange them for me?"  Even if you would like them done differently, let her do something.  A wedding is for a special day--a marriage is for a life time.  And you are paving the way for a long term relationship.  Thank God she wants to help you have a beautiful day--means she likes you. Already a positive step.  Your willingness to ask the question rather than trying to put your fiance in a bad position shows your maturity.   Way to go.
894242
Well, in the "old days" the bridesmaids dressed exactly like the bride, so that the bride wouldn't be kidnapped. Seriously.\n\nIn "old days," wedding gowns could be any color. Women copied Queen Victoria back in the 1840s and started wearing white like she had. Queen Victoria was also the first to wear a delicate veil of lace.\n\nPeople used to serve a Groom's Cake as a wedding favor for guests to take home after the wedding. What we call the wedding cake was refered to as the Bride's Cake.\n\nThe newlyweds used to drink a sweet, honey wine for a month after their wedding. We call this the honeymoon and we make it a vacation.\n\nThe saying "something old, new..." ended with "A sliver sixpence in her shoe." Since the sixpence really isn't around anymore, a silver coin is used -- if even at all.\n\nI hope these funny old traditions help you out.
65476
Let him know that you are saving yourself for marriage.\n\nHe will either run fast in the other direction, or give you a ring.\n\nIf you get a ring, save yourself for marriage anyway.  It is WORTH the extra effort to earn the white dress!
837506
You need to bring your groom into this mix to help calm his mother down...it is understandable that she is excited and wants to spend all this money on your wedding, but that is the key word...YOUR wedding!!! There is a traditional list of things that the bride's family pays for and another of what the groom's fmaily pays for...a lot of couples don't follow it anymore because most of the time they pay for thigns themselves. However, it might be a good thing to break out to show your future mother in law so that she settles down a bit on the spending. Tell your fiance that his mother is stepping on some toes and you want her to back off. Also, just because the MOG is buying things, that doesn't mean that you have to use them...it might be rude, but if you didn't ask for them then don't use them. It really shouldn't matter how much each party is spending, but it will matter to them...so make sure you get help from the groom and break the news easy.
1107028
Her First Wedding\n\nAttending a wedding for the first time, a little girl whispered to her mother, "Why is the bride dressed in white?"\n\n"Because white is the color of happiness, and this is the happiest day of her life.", her mother replied. \n\nThe child thought about this for a moment, then said, "So why is the groom wearing black?"
786177
It's your wedding - 20 years ago those things mattered more.  Now you can wear whatever you want.
285508
If Dad, you and your fiance are all good with this, and your fiance realizes that this may or may not do real damage to his (and your) relationship with his mom and grandma, have your wedding where you wish, but please don't press your fiance into choosing to honor your wishes over his mother, only do it if you're really sure he feels okay about it.
805741
My bridesmaids are wearing pale pink, yellow, mint green, light blue, and lavender.  My maid of honor is wearing bright pink to distinguish her.
525867
Hey there, just to let you know, all the mother-in-laws in the world are jealous of their daughter-in-laws. The least they'd think is that some little bit*ch has come along to steal the little boy she's loved for years that she's raised into her little man. That's the rule of the nature. Heard of Odipeous? I don't want to get too Freudian about this. But I hope you get it. I wouldn't be surprised that you mother-in-law has lust for her own son; in that case, she's a sick piece.\n  You should let you fiancé know that you're the one he's marrying and having children with, not that bit*ch of a so called mother of his. If he ever gives you any bull about not being nice to his mom, you need to let him know that if he won't put you first, plenty of men out there would. In that case, you don’t need some mama’s boy anyway; he can just live with his mommy for ever if that’s the case.\n  On the other hand, maybe that mother-in-law to be of yours is just getting used to the idea that she's losing and that you're winning.\n  I wouldn't be surprised if that mother of his, if she's white that is, is a racist; in that case, as long as your fiancé loves you and respect you, just cut her out of the picture. If she's the same race as you, she's just being old fashioned and nevertheless, a stupid bit*ch for you to disregard.\n  So, don't even think about sucking up to her. It's that unpleasant bit*ch that's suppose to show you some respect. Remember, respect is earned, not given. Just because she's the mom of you future husband doesn't mean you're to give in to her stupid game. As long as your man knows better, which I presume that he does, he'd know that he's going to come home to you for years and withdraw further and further away from his "mother" to the point that miserable old witch would regret being a bit*ch to you.\n  So, as long as your fiancé puts you first, you should disregard that miserable old woman and realize that you're winning and she's losing. \n  You have my sympathy. Keep your chin up. That miserable old thing isn't worth your time or emotions. You’re here to make yourself happy, not to make that miserable old fool happy. She doesn’t matter at all. Marry this guy, cut her out of the picture, and be happy!
619907
most women wear a corsage on Mother's Day and it has always been white if your mother is dead and colorful if she is alive...in the south, we wore roses; white for deceased and red for living.
191627
Man, throw 'em away! You don't want your mother-in-law to know your an alcoholic.\nBesides, she might want to drink yer stash for the morning.
604653
Definitely keep open communication between you always. Talk about things. \nBut I suggest that you have a talk with your mother-in-law-to-be. Ask her for some suggestions. She not only has experience being married, but she knows your future husband.
401406
Not white: (symbolic of death in China).  Wear a neutral color.  Better yet, tell your secretary, "Thank you for inviting me to your wedding.  I am very honored & I will attend."  Then ask your secretary, "I'm not sure what to wear to a wedding. Would it be appropriate to wear a black suit, or a navy suit?"  This should get a response on how formal the wedding is, too.  I doubt you could go "business casual" (polo shirt & pants) but I could be wrong. She shouldn't be offended at your saying this, but rather flattered that you care how you present yourself to her life-changing event.