prenups: good or bad?
354995
I would definitely consider it.I have no interest in having what is not mine,nor do I have an interest in losing all I have acquired should a marriage fail.\n\nThe only thing I would insist on is that it be spelled out what if any changes will be made should children become part of the picture,as I believe that changes things and it should be made clear in an agreement as well.\n\nWe all want marriages to last or at least that is what we all SHOULD want,but reality is that lots of marriages don't last and it should not result in losing everything you worked your whole life for on top of the heartbreak.
1100510
You can have a prenup, but, contrary to popular belief, that does NOT mean that IF you divorced at some point in the future, your wife cannot challenge it and that a court cannot modify it afterwards. The reasons for such modifications are usually related to significant changes in your life (living standards, children, etc.). So the bottom line is: A prenup is not 100% foolproof protection, but it'll help.\nYou can stipulate in your prenup that everything that you possess and that she possesses prior to the marriage will belong to each, respectively in case of a divorce.\nOnce you're married, all assets AND all debts that either of you accumulate during the marriage become marital property/ liability.
184434
I think that whether the couple wins a ton of money or loses it all it could potential ruin the relationship.  Too much money and they could start to argue about what to do with the money or they could potentially split.  Losing it all they could end up arguing about why you made such a bad deal.  Then again, they could live happily ever after.  One never knows.
24743
Prenps spell out terms that a divorce court would otherwise decide.  Whe wealthier person usually requests a prenup of the less wealthy person before marriage, so usually the man requests of the woman.  The prenup is usually drawn up by the lawyers of the wealther person and it tends to favor that person's interests.\n\nThe only reason the wealthier person would want a prenup is because they fear that they have more to lose in a divorce if they go through the court system, or they feel that they have a better negotiating position before the marriage starts than after it ends.\n\nThis means that pretty much all the time the less wealthy person would fare better in divorce court then they would with a prenup.\n\nThere are exceptions to this, such as wanting to protect some family heirloom or property that has been in someone's family for hundreds of years or when the prenup is equally negotiated and each person has a thoroughly competent attorney with their interests in mind, but most of the time, the woman is asked to and does sign without counsel.\n\nI would say that women (or the less wealthy person) would object to a prenup for 2 reasons:\n\n1)  They are bothered that the husband, his family, or his lawyers/staff are already thinking about divorce right before the marriage.\n\n2)  They are upset that the husband wants to put the wife in a less favorable legal position should a divorce happen.
1169414
have you heard of pre nup?
1084455
I always thought yearly renewable contracts would be better.  I have to disagree with you about the hassle and expense.  I was married for 18 years.  The divorce cost me less than $500 and was complete in 6 mos.  No big deal.
594583
no, it's not bad as long as you are responsible and pay your bills and your parents don't have a problem...If you haven't already finished college I would definately take advantage of that before you get married you want to be financially set before you start a family.
834808
It really depends on the lawyer that you get to accept and what you would like to have involved in the prenup. Shop around and always make sure you see what degrees they may have. When getting a pre nup done the last thing you need is someone who has no idea what they are doing. If things don't go right it would really be upsetting to find out that the lawyer who did your prenup did it incorrectly and it didn't hold up in court. Good luck to you!
38969
Only and I mean ONLY if the two were truly in love and the chances of that happening are next to none.\n\nOtherwise, it's nonsense.\n\nI also want to add that even if a person were to do this "for the safety" of their children is a bad idea.  If the person is thinking about the money aspect, that is somewhat understandable.  However you must think of the physiological effects on the children being raised in a unhappy home.  This  does not warrant it or any other reason that I could possibly imagine.\n     \n:)\nPeace
37233
Wow. that is a tough one. It depends on your morals and beliefs. Is the marriage strong enough to handle the consequences? I once watched Dr. Phil and he said that is never a good idea. no matter who wants it or how long you've been married. What do you want? sometimes you have to stay true to yourself.
200274
bad idea. you need to provide far more info. is custody something you agreed to? have you determined how the situation will be handled if one of you changes your mind? how about if the circumstances change? \nthose are your children (or somebody's children). i know it is costly but if anything in the world is worth spending that money, its your kids.
778557
I won't rehash the advice given by the first two answerers as it is spot on.  \n\nJust make sure you two plan on being in the same area for a good amount of time.  How long have you been married?  Of course the only concern is you are both so young, and if your plans change or one of you decides to go to college, it could create a mess for you.  \n\nBut as long as everything remains stable, owning property is always a good thing.  I just bought my first house with my girlfriend and I was 26.  Just turned 27.  We had a great experience.  We bought a house that needed a little work.  Got a great deal and with a little cash and sweat equity it is in great shape now.  \n\nGood luck!
432156
you would have been better to get divorved first. but if you just want out and there arent huge assets or children then so what dump the loser and go with the good guy
439618
I hate to look at things this way, but I'm a factual person. The stats show that ppl who live together before getting married are more likely to get divorced. I waited until I was married to have sex. This brings a real sense of security to our relationship. I could go on about the other benefits, but I'm tired.
581713
well i know a few people whom had prearranged marriages,they didnt work out,and all were happier following what there heart told them rather than what had been arranged.\nwhat its like this way in other countries but in the us it really doesnt work,you cant rule either with the iron fist,nor remove rights,or live as muslims do in many countries,so to simply staTe the fact.\n  DONT DO IT.
578917
I think you're absolutely correct.  The reality is that most marriages won't work out.  Divorces are both emotionially and financially crippling under most circumstances.\n\nI don't understand why so many feel that they need a legal contract to commit.  Maybe if you're doing it for religious purposes, but the bottom line is that the wedding is going to be extraordinarily expensive (most of the time), the marriage will just as likely end in divorce as not, and if it doesn't, the couple will probably not be happy once the bloom is off of the rose.  I know so many divorcees who have had their financial future yanked out from under them because of divorce and I don't quite understand why so many seek it.
395301
I disagree that you should call your marriage off for asking this question - that's silly.  I don't think you need a prenup, but I do think you are smart to think everything through before you enter into your marriage.  You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders for someone so young.