just married, he said he loves me? but why he always say an insulting  word  to me.?
348352
He has low self-esteem.  Don't stand for it or it will get worse.  Simply tell him, "Don't talk to me like that.  When y7ou talk to me in demeaning terms it makes we want to be away from you not near you.  You may talk to your friends like that but don't talk to me like that ever again."\n\nIf he does, leave for a night or two and give him the message that you are not his doormat and you have too much self respect than to be treated like one of the guys.
183469
He has some serious problems with control. I would think if this is the way I wanted to live. He has no right to tell you that you can't do something. He is your husband not anything else. K
494806
This is a warning sign of future abusive behavior to come, Seek marriage counseling , if he refuses to attend counseling, then seek a divorce attorney, I am sure he will get the message.
831949
Maybe you two should seek couple's counseling.  His anger is alarming.  It could escalate into something worse.  Do yourself a favor, and try to get help for this.  He should not explode like that and say those hurtful things.
293973
You had (have) marriage vows with HIM, not her. Wanting to press charges on her is your pathetic way of taking the focus off of the fact that he (at least for a while) chose HER over YOU.\nI don't mean to be mean...but it isn't her fault he chose to abandon his vows to you.  It is his fault.
134499
About your marriage?  It could be that he just got cold feet.  Have you tried asking him about it.  Maybe he is worried that he cannot support you.
355443
There's some boundaries people shouldn't cross. That's one. Try not to be around him often,you can still be nice and talk to him,just don't so often. And if he's flirting with you then he's crossing a boundary. Don't flirt back & tell him it makes you uncomfortable cause he's married. And most importantly,find a guy that's AVAILABLE & loves you for you & you love him & I promise you'll get over Mr. Married. :)
670009
He sounds like a total loser. Sure you're in love with him and don't want to leave....oddly enough that is what a lot of abused wives say before they get beaten to death.\n\nOh well I guess that is natural selection at work, knock yourself out!
519470
maybe he dont want to admit it to you, the reasonn for this are that all men are selfish and if they cant get there way then why not make ours miserables to, the thing we have to do as women is remeber that we should not be talked to down to or disrespected for that matter.Maybe is he truely unhappy with his life and wants your to be miserable with him, have you given him any reason to resent you for any reason, where yall young when yall got married, maybe he didt finsish college or anything that you may have done for him to act this way, if not girlfriend and you the road ahead is alot clearer then get out, pretty much what your doing is letting this man talk down to you and disrespect you, name calling is not fun for anyone and eventually it will get worse with time, after so much of this ABUSE you wil be tired of it, I hope that your smart enough not to have kids involved in this relationship if so yall are really headed for lots of trouble, I wish you well and if you wanna chat send me email if you would like cqueen742003@yahoo.com i hope all goes well for you, dont let him tear you aprat becuase he is not happy
322075
Ehh, I am going to go out on a limb here, and say that you shouldn't AUTOMATICALLY leave him, unless he is still activly particpating in his marriage, in which case you should.  I have to say that I was married, but not (we were separated), and I started a relationship with an amazing woman, but I was up front about my status.  Give him a chance to explain himself, if you don't like what he has to say then you can slap him and leave.  Don't act to hasty, get the lay of the land before you make a decision.  Good luck my dear, I hope it turns out ok.
1019504
I think you and hubby need to have an open, honest heart to heart. When he complains about your "cool" behavior tell him, it's easier for you to be more attentive and affectionate when he is treating you with the same loving care. It is possible that he has some under lying problems that he needs to talk about, there may be some changes that he is looking for in the relationship....Just go to him and listen with an open mind. Find out what both of you are missing from the relationship, and make good effort to be sure to do those things...spend some one on one time with each other, doing things you both enjoy, maybe even discover a new hobby together....enjoy loving each other again. We all hit rough patches in our marriages, we just have to work through them.\nGood Luck....you can email me if you need someone to talk to .\n\n\n**** wanted to add after seeing all the cheating answers that yes, they might be a possibility, but I think there would be other signs if that were going on....and This type of behavior doesn't always equal cheating!! Like I said he might just want a little change in the relatioship, or have other problems he needs to work out or talk about.  **** DON'T JUMP TO ANY CONCLUSIONS that could make matters worse, but keep your eyes open. ****
1018636
Relax, you don't know each other that well yet, particularly since this in an arranged marriage.  If he takes offense to this, wait for him to calm down, apologize and explain to each other those things that you can't tolerate.  Maybe he doesn't like being told to shut up.  You have some things that cross the line with you I'm sure.  This situation is particularly tough, but you'll get used to it.  Just give him some time to cool down and quit freaking.
888193
You don't mention what the arguments are about.  It sounds like he's trying to control you.  You're getting all tied into knots trying to figure out how to please him.  What is he doing to please you?  He gets things all wrong on purpose dear.  He is making you unsure of yourself, and he's with holding his affection from you.  I don't think I'm wrong about this.  Dump this jerk while you still have some self esteem left.
668756
Why are you continuing to put up with this? You asked him to do something to save your marriage, and he can't even do that?! Your marriage needs help. You need a counselor to talk about this, because obviously your husband has no concern for your feelings, by flirting and lying to you. He may even be cheating. Don't put up with this another minute! He's treating you like dirt. You deserve so much better.
872078
I'm  sorry he said that. if you haven't had any "romantic" dealings with this man, then he has no right to call you that. tell him that you were rather offended by him saying that, even if it was a joke. jokes are meant to be funny, and obviously, he was the only one who thought it was funny. if he does it again, then tell his wife.
241949
:}\nAre you saying that he said inappropriate things because he did not know you could understand?\n(then be upset, be firm and let him know firmly that you do not appreciate his language.)\n\nor \n\nAre you saying that you find it insulting that he could not understand your English?\n(then try to be a little more tolerant, some people do not understand how offensive that can be.)
655912
It sounds like he is a very abusive man. He is throwing things and calling you bad names. This is nothing you would want for your children. Another thing you have to consider. You want a family, he just wants you. What kind of things do you find in him that you can't find in another man?? Is his religion up to par with yours? That is a definate consideration. I would hold off. If you both got along great without too many arguments, I would say it's just cold feet, but it sounds like he is taking the disagreements in the wrong way. A man who loves you will never call you bad names or push you. He might be a good friend but please I would reconsider the marriage.