my daughter walked in on me masturbating last night...she had nightmares last night and won't talk to me now.
355002
That's a tough one.  She's 13, so there's no way of saying you were doing something else that she'd believe.  You might have to bring her to some kind of family counseling place so she can let it all out.\n\nIn the meantime, please make sure your door is locked.\nHope your daughter gets over it soon.
660677
Your daughter needs professional counselling.  Once a young child develops any form of sexual urge, she will continue to practice it herself.  Psychiatry may be able to change some of this.  Sorry, but daddy has to leave the picture entirely, NOW!  If necessary, get a court order.\n\nYou will not get professional help on this type of Q&A site.  Go to real psychiatrists.\n\nAnd, I do pray for you.
207413
Couldn't sleep my 15 yr old son didn't come home last night so I am up trying not to worry and wont sleep till he gits home.
1087843
How old is your daughter?  And how old were the boys who did it?  If they are ALL minors, you probably have no legal action.  Sorry.  Just talk with the parents and make sure they talk with their kids so it doesn't happen again.  \n\nIf one of the boys was an adult and your daughter isn't, then there is a real problem, and you could have him arrested for sexual assault on a minor.
994252
Yeah.After all she's my mother.My mother did that to me once.She chased me and my daughter out of her house. It took me almost 3 months to recuperate and my daughter(she's only 4 at that time) who's obviously traumatized by the whole thing refused to speak to my mom ever since. After almost 2 years only we started talking back to my mom.It was hard and painful at first though but we managed.Good Luck whatever your problems are.
392281
Wow, I can only imagine how stressful this must be for you!\n\nI think that the psychiatrist will be able to give you some answers.  If there WAS sexual abuse the Dr. will be able to tell--even is she lies about it.  Psychiatrists are trained to deal w/ these situations.\n\nPlease don't feel that this is your fault.  And please don't let the stress overwhelm you.  \n\nBest wishes.\n\nEDITED TO ADD:  In light of your additional details, I'd definately encourage you to just go ahead and take her to the hospital.  DO NOT feel guilty.  And don't listen to her when she tells you she hates you or that you're a bad mother.  YOU'RE NOT. \n\nOK, straight up talk here:  It takes a **** of a lot of courage to be parent sometimes and this is one of those times.  You need to get help both for her and for yourself.  It will be hard and things will get really rough for a while but you deserve a normal life and she deserves to have the most normal life she can have too.  The longer you wait, the harder it'll be.\n\nTake care.
762667
Just get her a pillow and a blanket.Try nudging her so she'll be aware your giving her the pillow & blanket. If you can't wake her like that then straighten her up & put the pillow under her & cover her up. Otherwise leave her alone.  Don't invite her to your bed, that could easily be taken the wrong way. Nothing can be said that way. I'd go on with my normal activities. Fix your breakfast, watch tv, etc. like normal. Don't worry about bothering her. She might wake up and go home or watch tv with you.
605181
ok, i'm guessing you told her what she did right?\nblackouts can happen for a million reasons but most legitimate spontaneous blackouts stem from mental defect/illness. if she's young (like in her teens) she may be coming into a state of physical chemical imbalance. please for her own safety try to talk her into seeing a psychiatrist (not a therapist. offer her all the support in the world and assure her that you love her for who she is (that is, only if you truly do)you might also have her read this question you posted as a way to clear the air and tell her you don't really know how to help her. but you think something may be wrong and you're afraid of the event but not her. separate the event from her especially since you clearly saw that she wasn't her normal self.\n\nsexual agression MAY also be a sign of early childhood molestation and if that guess is right then the resulting blackout would mean that she has forced those events from her memory as a means of self defense
915869
hahaha! nice one, yep i can imagin the scene in my head, i dont know why she jus walked out, there must've been more, did she not say nefing?? even it's over. it's not your fault what your body dose, but maybe u should've said sorry or jus o dear that was embarrassing, \n\nmove on or go fone her mate\n\n_X_mary_X_
1063049
She feels bad about not being able to perform for you.  But if you actually did sleep with someone else, she'd never forgive you.  It's a tough one.  Go with her to her doctor.
1115155
Any time you have lust that is accumulated to such a degree I'd say it is natural to masturbate.  If you really have it bad, not only 4 days out of a week but a couple of times a day.  You probably became so frustrated (blue balls) that you could not expect to continue the long courtship, which is probably culturally necessitated.  You tried, but obvisously couldn't hang.  Is it possible to speak to her and suggest that at least once a month you meet at a motel and exchange physical liaison away from parents, since you plan to marry or is that totally out of the question?  Don't blame you for masturbating pal, but if she is unavailable, I'd try to satisfy craving away from parents.
279986
spending time with my daughter...
892817
well let me tell u this,\ni was molested so i know whats shes going through..\nshe feels ugly from inside..\nright now... all she wants to do is dissapear...\nshe doesnt feel confident in her self..\nshes very uneasy with everyone because..\nshe no longer has that self confidence..\n\ni was stupid and didn't report the man that did it..\nbut i'd really encourage her to do it..\nbecause if he did it to her..\nwhats gonna stop him from doin it to a child?\nu see i was one of those children who's my innocence..\nwas robbed of me..\n\njust all i can tell u is that make sure u comfort her..\neven if she can be unreasonable..\nlet her know that u love her..\nand that she will always be gorgous in ur eyes.\nlet her feel ur support..\nand i can tell u that she will soon enough..\nbegin to get that confidence back..\nunfortunally the nightmare will never go away..\nbut she will be able to coop w/ it..\nand live her life....
694841
I can understand you being very uncomfortable with this situation.Dad should have locked the door.\nAll man masturbate and it's nothing to be upset or ashamed of.Just leave him with his business and you to your own business.
125620
She probably feels inscure about herself or about the relationship.  She might have had some doubts over night and got all confussed.  She might be scared.  Its normal but I would say to forget about it and move on, if she does this now think about what she might do in the future.
910692
The movie from what my son told me from the trailers is going to be very scary.  Hopefully your daughter is coming home after the movie, sit and talk to her about it and be prepared to be up awhile. My kids are older so I am not completely up on the rating system, but can she even get in to see it?  That aside. This is a great training tool that sometimes mom may know best, when she is scared and can't go to sleep, and sometimes daughter knows herself well, she may make it through fine. Either way a great bonding time with your daughter after the movie.  She may talk you into seeing it.....
695193
Masturbation in my bedroom without locked the door and my mom just walk in without knocking.My mom just saw me in naked and masturbate on the bed.It is really embarrased after facing to my mom.