what should i do to get out of a bad relationship/?
342954
Sorry to hear about your current situation. :( \n\nThe first thing I would do is figure out what city/town/state services are available to you. There is a lot of assistance with housing/food/child care/employment/legal fees/ECT. Your state government must have public welfare/need offices around the area. I would just go in, explain your situation and apply for aid. This is what welfare is supposed to be for, someone who is in immediate need of financial help for a temporary time. They also assist you in going to college if you are interested in that. \nI think you are very courageous to leave him. You only live once, so might as well be happy. Not staying with a person addicted to gambling, drinking, and spending money. Good luck. Feel free to email if you have any questions. \n:)
1154396
Teach this person how to treat you. If this person has had influence like this all his life, he tends to do it because he can.\n\nYOU must teach others how to treat you. You are teaching him you are so desperate for love that you want to be smothered in it and you are too scared to want to be treated better. \n\nThere are ways to get out...have you seen the movie "ENOUGH"?  You can get out of it. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. YOU MUST KNOW that you ARE valuable and deserve to be treated as such.\nSomewhere he is missing that trust or something...but I learned the hard way...you cannot be responsible for his past, present or future. GOD gives you wisdom, 5 senses and a beautiful spirit that is telling you "GIRL GET OUT!!"   So listen and don't lower your self esteem with this man\nwho will control you as long as you ALLOW him to.\n\nI hope this helps and I will say a prayer for you.
599780
No,please dont.At least give him that right to know where he went wrong,he deserves that much am sure if he loved u?Meet him,let him know why u cant/dont love him;answer his queries if he has any..ask him anything u wish to ask.And...dont just break up or walk out.....dont part as enemies please.Try to be friends coz since u had a relationship for sometime,u understand each other better than others.Am sure if he loved u true,he'd always be there for u.All the best.
330128
First off, ask yourself this:  Why do you want to be with someone that does not want to be with you?  You two were obviously not meant to be.  That is harsh and I know it hurts but when we are broken hearted, we tend to glorify the "good" things in the relationship and forget the bad.  Try and write what you liked and disliked about the relationship.  Talk to someone who you can trust and who will listen to you.  We have all been there and it is a very hard thing that you are going through.  Please try and remember that this pain is temporary...God bless and Good luck...xoxoturtlegirl
825076
You need to talk to him about this. The key to a good relationship is COMMUNICATION!\n\nYou need to tell him this has got to stop, or you will need to move on from him. You MUST tell him how you feel, and you have to both come to a conclusion on what to do. \n\nDon't lsiten to the people who will answer and tell you to get rid of him. You need to talk about this with him, and maybe get couples therapy. Perhaps he is even depressed?  \n\n- Hope this helps
74993
You have to give urself time 2 heal...dont jump into another relationship...try to see what went wrong and why u couldnt stop it...then...began 2 grow as a person...and once u have healed then u can began 2 work towards having better..longer and more successful relationships...\n\nGood Luck..SMoOoCHez!!!
746950
it depend on the nature of getting out.were u heartbroken? if yes then the best way to get over a broken heart is to get under another relationship. but if u were tired of the affair and thoughtfully decided 2 chicken out i will advice u to give urself time 2 rest b4 starting anode.remember not 2 compare ur next victim or guy 2 the previous 'cos guys are not thesame and while planing 2 start another, remember dat u also have a weak point, u might be responsible 4 ur broken relationship.be wise, think well and enjoy ur next encounter, u will not regret it!.
389135
I think you're asking because you already know the answer.  You should leave but of course you don't want to because you need him/her.  Ask yourself if perhaps you are addicted to being hurt, to playing the victim of a never-ending game of being loved and abandoned.  A lot of us do that.   We become attracted to people who will surely hurt us and leave us...and we love it.  Then we have a chance to be broken hearted and miserable again.  When you get fed up of the pain, there will come a time when you will be honest with yourself and start making different choices.  He/she is not the problem, it's you...face yourself now.
548884
If you are not happy in the relationship then you should get out of it.Dont stay with a person and then cheat on them and justify it by saying"oh but i wasnt happy",have some respect.
50434
Contemplate and think about the reasons that led up to you feeling that you need to part from them.  Then think about what you want to say very carefully and then tell him.  After you tell him that you don't want to be with him anymore and then why, cut off all communication.
291705
Sweetie...what would be the point of continuing the relationship?\n\nYou would en up being miserable in the end and when that happens you will say to yoruself, "Why didn't I just leave when he said he no longer loved me?"  This just saves you some time and gets you on the road to recovering from this relationship faster.
521807
Hi hun, I am sorry you are struggling through this. Breaking off a close relationship is difficult and especially if the relationship is an intimate one. However, you feel that you need to do this so regardless if you get back together or not then you need to reconcile why you are feeling this way.\n\nRight now, take a moment.. an hour... a day... and get away from the phone, the TV, and the computer. Get outside or go somewhere it is peaceful and relaxing. Go to a bookstore go somewhere where you can take a look at yourself.\n\nAsk yourself: Why are you in a relationship if you don't know what you want out of a relationship or life? If you don't know what to do with this relationship how can you ever know what to do in any other relationship? Who are you? What do you want out of life? What are your dreams, your goals, your beliefs? Does this person want the same things? Until you can honestly answer these questions you will never no how to set boundaries and you'll cling onto a relationship just becasue someone makes you feel good. Then, one day you will wake up and realize that you made a big mistake. You'll wake up and realize that you helped someone else live thier life but you lost your identity. Don't do that to yourself.\n\nStart taking care of yourself by doing a self inventory as I mentioned above. At the same time, think about your past relationships and your family relationships and get to know who you are and see if you can identify codependancy and healthy relationships. Look at your relationship models and see what you've learned.\n\nRemember to take care of yourself by eating right, getting plenty of sleep, exercising, and to take care of yourself spiritually and emotionally. This is so very important. Talk and enjoy yourself with healthy friends. Go to a healthy church if you're into that.\n\nWhatever you do, don't let his pleadings and charm get in the way of you taking care of yourself. Until you find out who you are and what you want out of life you'll have difficult times with your relationships. Oh, by the way, please stay out of another relationsip for quite a few months until you work on yourself.\n\nI suspect you are a beautiful and wonderful person inside. So, treat yourself right. It is not selfish to discover yourself. Your future husband and a healthy family comes from an honest inventory.\n\nBlessings
769771
Everyone keeps telling you it's hard, it hurts...but I wanna say it is an good opportunity for you to take an emotional break. Just take off from the bad relationship you had before. Now focusing on yourself, do anything make yoruself happy. Beatify yourself, dress up, workout, study, go to the beach, meet friends...Many things you can do to make the world starts to spin for you not him any more. When you can't keep your mind off him, just give it a break and do things that you feel most relaxed and your attention can be carried away the easieast. Soonner or later, you will realize you don't need him in your life to make yourself feel better, look prettier, and being appreciated more by people.
403429
you have told him you are going to leave and you haven't?! what is your MAJOR malfunction?  leave or stay with the poor guy.  you staying and hating him only puts both of you in a bad place.\n\nTHE DIRECT ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION IS NO COMMUNICATION IS WORSE IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE trying TO SALVAGE.  if you aren't trying to salvage the relationship than yelling is very annoying.
1051281
You need to figure out why you're coming back and solve that problem. Maybe you're lonely or this other person fills a need in your life. Once you confront your problem, you can easily handle moving on from this relationship.
142003
Don't take it any more.  You need to leave and get out of this relationship as fast as you can.  No one deserves to be treated like that.  You deserve to be in a real relationship where someone loves you and treats you with respect.
835628
you have to come on here for an answer??? Leave the relationship behind if it isn't what you want anymore. Move on.