what can I do to make my wife very happy when inserting her for she is dormant at sexual intercourse?
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Depending of what FGM is, take it slow and talk to her.  It takes both of you to work together.  Sometimes you have to take the reigns and control the moment.
194417
Have her come over and have arrows leading to the bedroom, then go to suriseparties.com, check out what they have, order something different, and have a good time.  Try drawing a nice bubble bath for her, and wash her hair,etc. Make a nice dinner in the nude. Just spend a nice nite together watching movies, drink a bit of wine, or beverage of choice, and let things go. I did the arrows and IT WAS GREAT, had the wine, chocolates, and well we got a movie and just got up to eat lunch.  Had a great time. The surpriseparty.com, has a LOT OF GREAT ideas.  LUCK and have fun.
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You can't decrease your desire, you will just have to satisfy yourself when she's not willing.\n\nThere are a couple of questions I have though.  Is she perimenopausal?  Or through menopause?  What about hormonal changes as a result of having kids?  \n\nMen do not understand these things.  When we become unable to have children our desire for 'sex' goes down the tubes.  It's hormone related ok?  If she is on any medication, that can be causing side effects that are increasing this issues.\n\nThe best thing she can do is go speak to her doctor and see if there is anything that they are willing to try medicinally that will help her desire.  Remember it's very important that she not feel pressured and that THE VERY BEST WAY to get her 'into the mood' is by meeting her emtoional needs the best you can.\n\nI'll say this over and over.... Men need to 'get' that if a woman is not emotionally satisfied in their marriages, the sex stops.  It's much like a man can't have sex because he can't get it up!  She can't have sex if her emotional needs are not being met, and that is so hard for men to understand.  By nature they are providers and fixers and that kind of thing.. but you need to learn how to be her friend, support her and pamper her and cherish her.  Massage her back, thank her for the fabulous dinner.. spontaneously say you know, I don't tell you enough how thankful I am that you do the laundry all the time and take such good care of me.  I love you for doing that for me.  Those things make women in the mood :)  I wish you the best and that you are able to work it out hun!!
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Only in the bedroom? Then have it in other rooms :))\n\nIf she does not have interest in sex at all, there is no way to compel her. May be find out the root cause.. It may be due to some psychological factor... Take her to a sex therapist - which might help but she should be at least open for that. no forceful tactics here. Goof luck.
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I think you should talk to your wife and explain to her how important sex is to you in your relationship.  Tell her you need to have sex in order to make you happy and even keep you there.\n\nAlso, ask her what are her feelings and views on sex and why she turns you down.  Try to figure out if there are things you can do differently (don't automatically assume she is satisfied) and most importantly, encourage your wife to explore her own sexuality so she will feel comfortable opening up to you and having sex with you more often, not simply out of her obligation to you, but because she enjoys sex and enjoys you.\n\nIt takes time to build a healthy sexual relationship with someone and you both have to explore what sex means to you individually and together.  It seems you want a more sexually spontaneous wife and there isn't a thing wrong with that to me.  Life is to short (or too long) to go without something vitally important to your happiness.  Most women don't grow up with a healthy sense of their own sexuality and it sounds like your wife doesn't have a sense of her own and she needs to work on that within herself.\n\nAfter all that, if things still don't work out, you need to realize that sex is important to you, there's nothing wrong with that, and you might not be able to sustain your relationship with her if you can't work it out.  \n\nDon't have an affair though, you need to learn how to work with a woman you actually love to learn how to sustain a healthy sexual relationship in the long term, affairs are only short term solutions and never deepen a sexual experience, just distract you from dealing with the hard stuff.
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This is very common. I actually am in her shoes.  Did she have a vaginal birth? any tearing? scarring? That could totally diminish her sex drive. Does she get adequate help around the house? with the baby? Is she depressed? How are other things in your marriage? Does she masturbate, and can she reach orgasm that way? Does she reach climax when having intercourse? If you answered negatively to any of the above  questions, then your wife needs to seek medical advice. You both may benefit from sexual therapy. My son was born without a soft spot, and I gave birth in the car, on the side of the road, in a severe storm. So, you can imagine what I have to work through. Give her your total love and support. Let her know your love everyday.\nGood luck!\nmamaofthesweetest4
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After Marriage if you dont have sex it wont last, being innovative and active in the bedroom is a very good way to keep me around and happy. I want to make my lady happy in the same manner. Communications is the key, the best sex organ is the mind. Good Luck Happy Easter
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intercourse to enjoy the life
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1) Relax - don't try to do it if it won't work\n2) Don't blame yourself!\n3) Have her lay on her tummy\n4) Lay on top of her\n5) Put your unit between her buttchicks (don't try to insert)\n6) Talk for a while, and relax as if nothing happened\n\nAs soon as you get arroused, grab pull on her hips to get in the doggy posistion and focus only on the task at hand :-)
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you are so adorable ! practice safe sex !          now talk too her  ,tell her every move you make ,ask her if shes ok or need to stop ,.go slow. if you love her you will take your time .lubricate lubricate lubricate . keep talking to her look in her in the eyes ,hold her hands .marry her
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Use KY's jelly or Durex's lubricant to make things go smoothly your way. By the way, what's with her small....?? I just know your staff = manhood is really big. I think she's going to enjoy very much and maybe you're going to blow off her mind & body.
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Surprise her when she comes home.  \n\nLight candles around the house and leave a trail of rosepetals to the bedroom.  Have roses, champaign and a book of erotic stories by the bedside.  On the bed, a blindfold, massage oil and her favorite sex toys. \n\nAnd above all, don't even think of satisfying yourself.  Just do her.  All night.  Until she's had enough.
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Any exercise will give you more energy, thus increasing sex drive. A healthy balanced diet will do the same thing. Spicy food gets your blood pumping, try roleplay, foreplay etc. If it's endurance you're after, then ask your ladyfriend not to touch you intimately until just before penetration. Also try focusing on giving her pleasure, and not yourself. Good luck!
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Happy wife=happy life.\nKeep her happy and you'll do just fine.
197400
make sure there is a lot of foreplay to make her really aroused and ready.  also, she should be relax about it.
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First off if you love your wife then why would you leave her?  A marriage is built on trust and understanding, not ignorance and dropping out when the times are rough.\nAre there physical reasons for your wife's inactivity in the bedroom?  Perhaps she should see an OBGYN about it.  Is it your jobs? Find a way to spend more time together.\n\nI guess I'm saying take a few steps back and look at the situation from every aspect, with your wife.  If it's only low libido then try somethings to spice up your love life, massage, games, strip tease, make out in the back seat of the car, sex toys, etc.  Find what gets both of you hot and bothered and use it.  Instead of masturbating, masturbate each other.
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I am not a man, so the best thing I can tell you is this.  If you want to go longer without using some gadget to help you.  When you feel that orgasim coming on, pull out better yet make love for just a little bit then stop.  Notice her breast and neck?  pay close attention to it. Kiss her neck and suck on her breast. Do this over and over until she tells you that she is ready for you to come back inside. When both of you are in the heat of the moment, more than likely you will both come at the same time and pleasure will be for you both.