Turning a long time friend in to girlfriend?
354706
Thank you james, you gave me some really valuable advice once and to be honest with you I think you should go for it.\nShe will be one lucky girl!!11
461790
Go with your gut feelings.   Woman are very intuitive and if it feels right, go for it.   Who knows, that spark may still be there.   If nothing else, you can always be friends.   People change, but if there is still a connection between you, it won't matter.  Best of luck, :)
69742
Well You Say You Have Been Friends For A Long Time And It Is Difficult To Tell Her, Mabe It Can Come Up In A Casual Convo. And Make It Clear That You Are Not Interested In Females, In Your ChildHood You Were Curious And Now You Know You Are Not Curious Any More, And Are Very Satisfied With Dating Men Only, Females Dont Interest You/Turn You On, etc.  Shes A Good Friend And Nothing Else,  I believe That If You Two Are As Close As You Say, Then You Should Know What To Say From Your Heart And She Should Be Understanding. I Wish You The Best Of Luck With Your Friendship ;-)
381356
Date her, earn her love and mutual respect.  Invest time and emotion, and one day it will just happen for you.\n\nYou're probably looking for an easy answer, but sorry, life isn't always easy.\n\nIn the meantime, buy some porn and get cozy with your old friend lefty (or righty, whatever your preference).
510027
talk to her and then shut up and let her answer you......really listen.\n\nWhat you'll discover is if she has similar likes to yours, similar beliefs, etc.  \n\nWhen she asks you about yourself, be honest. There is no sense in becoming emotionally hung up over each other while ignoring serious signals that you're not compatible.  Then, if you have enough in common, the little differences won't matter. It may develope into something more serious as the two of you get older, it may not.  \n\nAnd sometimes people's outlooks change as they mature.  It could happen that you grow out of each other. If this happens, stay friends, be mature, move on. And stay in touch.  It's really cold to share so much time together and then act like the person is a major enemy.
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If you find out how to get past the "friend barrier", let me know.  I hear a lot of women say they want to be friends with a guy & then date him, but I also know several girls who say I'm a great friend & have no romantic interest in me whatsoever.  Usually, I try the honest approach & tell a girl I'm interested in more from here, but have only had limited success at best with that idea.  Still, at least if you're honest & tell her your feelings, you won't be wondering years from now what would have happened if you had the guts to tell her.  Best of luck, & I hope everything works out for the best.
166407
The best way is to have a hobbie and the next best thing is to fine a good girl friend that doesn't have a boyfriend and hang out....if non of that works get a new boy friend...but never go back to the old one
874000
just tell her that you would like to be more than friends and see witch way it goes
37428
Depending on how long you've known each other, your best friend might have made the process easier by letting you down easy, instead of just giving you the silent treatment and the cold shoulder (yes, all of those evils in one). To make like you're trying hard to reconcile the friendship, you can take them out for a non-romantic, neutral activity, then talk as you would've talked before the "romantic relationship". If you ever start thinking about them on your own time, and your desired partner obviously has no interest, take it easy. If it won't happen, don't force it to. Doing so could risk your friendship.\n\nSome advice : Don't try to linger on the past, either to yourself, or to your friend. It might turn into an unhealthy obsession, one that if uncontrolled, could also risk your friendship. Remain, cool, calm, and collected.
702132
Well I can tell you really like him by just listening to you babble on about how your suppost to tell him... lol. If I was you I would find an easy way of just letting him know your interested in him. you don't want to come out and say I have had feelings for you for years. That makes him believe you want a relationship and since thats not what your after now. Just try maybe bring up a past relationship of his or yours and when your discussing it and what went wrong in it. (works really good if its his old relationship your talking about) Just kind of casually drop in there "If I was her I wouldn't have done you that way" or something like " I know how great of a guy you are and I would have felt blessed to have you" things like that let him know that you see him for something more than a friend. if our talking about your old relationships then something like "I wish he would have been more like you" or something. you get the idea. little hints to let him know you could like him as more. and if the conversation doesn't get to ackward then try saying I wish we could get to know each other better we might find we could be more than what we are. and then go on about your visit and let in sink in his brain. Sometimes with guys just a suttle hint is like a bomb. just be cool relax and enjoy your time with him. and by the way I like the idea of a walk when your talking about it, gives your privacy and relaxes you both. Good Luck
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Yes, please know what your intentions are before you do this though. If he is a friend, then you do not want to ruin the relationship. Are you only interested in a one time fling and still be friends? Do you want a meaningful relationship with commitment? Figure this out first and then go in with a open mind and hear out your suitor. Do be afraid to find that he wants to only be friends. Friends have more fun and are more intimate when there atracted to one another but know it will never go beyond that point...
1022507
I think you have two choices:\n\n1. You can be nice and tell that man that you are not precisely sure because your friend likes him.\nIf she's yr friend, and you know she likes him, would nt it hurt her that you marry him? yes it will.\nBut friends do change and many when a man comes that they like. It happens over and over.\n\nNow do you want to be the nice one or the one thinking of yr life instead?\n\nYou also have a life. you have wishes, fantasies, plans, goals. Do you have marriage in yr plans? Do you like this guy and want to marry him and know it will work fo ryou two?\n\nWhat if you hurt yr friend and discovered that you also got hurt because of the guy not being for you precisly for a husbande? that would suck wouldnt it?\n\nSo evaluate yr life, yr goals, and how important it is to you whether to save yr friendship with yr girlfriend and ditch a guy's proposal or whether to accept the guy's proposal and risk loosing yr friend.\n\nThat is up to you. \n\nI cannot tell you  I'd do this or that because I am not in that situation myself. All I know is that I would go for love true love all teh way. Who is going to give you that? \n\nYOu are the judge on  yr life and yr particular situation , i've just given  you some examples of htings to think of before making a move and hurting you or others.\n\nIf yuo want to not gt hurt and not hurt him and not hurt her, avoid him altoghert and make all kinds of excuses so that he has no chance to talk to you again ever.\n\nhe will get the hint after 10 times you runnnnnn the other way when he shows up.\n\nRemembe3r that is if you dont want t o cause problems for anybody. but if you love this guy too or want him then uyou obviously should not do the last recommendation here.\n\nGood luck.
192047
Maybe you should ask yourself what it is actually that makes you want to be friends with them AT THIS STAGE in life. Are you friends because you have always been or because they enrich your life?\n\nIt is no shame not to want to spend your time on doing things with them that really don't interest you anymore. You would be fooling yourself, not them if you continue.\n\nI know, it is hard. You don't want to break up friendships that you have had for a long time already. Just realize that youcan try to talk to them, tell them how you feel about it - since you have nothing to loose anyway, as it seems - but it remains their life, their choice and their time. Don't expect some major change just because you ask them to...\n\nGood luck!
57827
This happens a lot with friends, in that they have interest in the same person - it probably won't be the last time it happens either. It is sort of an unwritten code that the friend will step aside if the other friend has any kind of prior "claim". Still, if you really like the girl, you might want to ask your friend what his intentions are & if he is really that interested or just out for some action as he might be willing to move on if you are deeply interested. Even so, I'd use caution in getting involved with this girl since she has obviously been rather free with herself with your friend. Before stepping into the fray, consider if she is this easy with everyone or if the relationship with your friend just progressed more rapidly. If she's had a lot of boyfriends & gathered a reputation because of it, she just be interested in physical gratification rather than a real relationship. If you want something more, you might want to look elsewhere...\n\nGood luck!
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First: Sure, it doesn't matter how two of you got introduced each other - through net or social program or at a shopping centre; just couple decades ago freely dating around was same as today's net relation and soon it will become normal exercise in society. So don't worry about how you began. but sure you should consider little longer time to meet him to check his interest keep rising or dimming without having some fun, not in a rush.\n\nSecound: to find out about him - at least try to know and meet his family, friends that he associate with soon you can in a usual manner, before get attached deeply, - well, rest you will know as time pass by. there is no masic pill to be confirmed about any one instantly - so be slow, have control on self,concentrate to figure out he is honest minded or not, and ofcourse, be careful in the beginning. people get hurt / been cheatted - no matter from where they find partner if dive into "Cool" just as swimming pool. Another thing i believe: who ever begin with too charm/ impression - often appears as bitter in later part.\n\nFinally: Just let you know that i found my girl friend through net two and half year ago - we have wonderful relationship that we both proud of, and very happy. this year we are going to marry. personaly i appreciate myself that i never allowed myself to  any cosmetics bundles or showing around * thing * ; feel lucky to get a real lovely girl. you are welcome to look at my yahoo profile " ravinecord " ( although i blur the picture a bit).\n\nSo be confident and in the beginning sure be careful.\n__ best of luck.
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I would get a mutual friend to ask around a bit discreetly. Just get them to say something like, "hey have you ever thought about being more than just friends with so and so" and see what he says. Then based off of that you will know how to act around them. Friendships to relationships are always a very hard transition.
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turn the question around, is is ok for a married man to keep an old girlfriend as a platonic friend.  answer honestly.  If it is not a problem for you or your loved one then more power to you.