I need SERIOUS help about a friend and suicide... PLEASE.?
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You need to take action right now. Either tell his parents or call 911 and shown them the text messages. He may get mad at you but if you really care for him you have to take the risk. He will eventually be very thankful that you were there for him when he needed you. He is crying out for help, all treats of suicide are crys for help. He has reached a point where what ever emotional pain he feels is too strong for him to deal with on his own. He needs and wants help or else he would have said nothing and acted on commiting suicide. But if you do nothing he may think you don't take him seriously and feel traped to attempt suicide sine he made the threat. Help you friend the only way you can by getting him help from his parents of the emergency system. You may be the only one that can. How will you feel if you don't and you find out he is dead tomorrow?\n\nLet me know how this works out. Good luck.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry
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Call some on this list that can help you!\nIf you kill yourself, your dead.  Then nobody can help you, you can't even help yourself.  My brother committed suicide.  Not the best option!\n\nSuicide: Don't let despair obscure other options\nDespair and hopelessness may lead you to think about suicide. But you have other options, from weathering an immediate crisis to creating a long-term safety plan.\n\nWhen life doesn't seem worth living anymore or your problems seem insurmountable, you may think that the only way to find relief is through suicide.\n\nYou might not believe it, but you do have other options — options to stay alive and feel better about your life. Maybe you think you've already tried them all and now you've had enough. Or maybe you think your family and friends would be better off without you.\n\nIt's OK to feel bad, but try to separate your emotions from your actions for the moment. Realize that depression, other mental disorders or long-lasting despair can distort your perceptions and impair your ability to make sound decisions. Suicidal feelings are the result of treatable illnesses. So try to act as if there are other options, even if you may not see them right now.\n\nNo, it probably won't be easy. You may not feel better overnight. Eventually, though, the sense of hopelessness can lift. You can find support, appropriate treatment and reasons for living.\nWhen you need immediate help for thoughts of suicide\n\nIf you're considering suicide right now and have the means available, talk to someone first. The best choice is to call 911 or your local emergency services number.\n\nIf you simply don't want to do that, for whatever reason, you have other choices for reaching out to someone:\n\n    * Contact a family member or friend\n    * Contact a doctor, mental health professional or other health care professional\n    * Contact a minister, spiritual leader or someone in your faith community\n    * Go to your local hospital emergency room\n    * Call a crisis center or hot line\n\nCrisis centers or suicide hot lines are often listed in the front of your phone book or on the Internet. They generally offer trained counselors — usually volunteers — who can help you through an immediate crisis. Some crisis centers with an Internet presence offer e-mail contact, but remember that responses may not be as prompt as they are with telephone support.\n\nTalking to someone about your feelings — connecting with someone — can help relieve the burden of despair and isolation, even if just temporarily. It may help you shift perspective and more clearly see that you have options beyond suicide.\nDaily coping strategies to manage thoughts of suicide\n\nYou may struggle with suicidal feelings frequently, perhaps many times a day. Develop a strategy to cope with those feelings in a healthy way. Consider asking a doctor, family member or friend to help create a strategy tailored to your specific situation.\n\n\nThat strategy may mean doing things you don't feel like doing, such as talking to friends when you'd rather hole up in your bedroom all day with the curtains drawn. Or it may mean going to the hospital for a mental health evaluation. But stick to your strategy, especially when you're in the grips of despair and hopelessness.\n\nAs part of your strategy, consider these measures:\n\n    * Keep a list of contact names and numbers readily available, including doctors, therapists and crisis centers.\n    * If your suicide plans include taking an overdose, give your medications to someone who can safeguard them for you and help you take them appropriately.\n    * Rid your home of knives, guns, razors or other weapons you may consider using for self-destructive purposes.\n    * Schedule daily activities for yourself that have brought you even small pleasure in the past, such as taking a walk, listening to music, watching a funny movie, knitting or visiting a museum. If they n
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She needs to get help right away. I'm not sure how old she is and if she still lives with her parents. If she does, you have to make the difficult decision of telling them. They may not realize how seriously she is depressed. If she is an adult, it is hard to force someone to get help. If someone is about to commit suicide, then 911 can be called. Otherwise, you can encourage them to talk to their doctor, talk to a distress centre/suicide prevention line, talk to a counsellor or go to the emergency room of a hospital. Try to keep the lines of communication as open as you can. She needs to know that people care about her. With that said, if she does hurt herself that is not your fault. You are doing what you can. She is lucky to have a caring friend like you. I hope things work out really well.
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I gather from your details that this has actually happened. In truth, there are a lot of signs that can tell you that this might happen, however, there are many times that the person doesn't really exhibit the signs & just does it. I don't know how well I'll do this but I'll try to explain:\n\nI've read studies that say that, if a person wants to be stopped from committing suicide they will do things to tip off their friends & family but, if a person really does want to do it, they just do.\n\nI don't know how much weight I give to this theory, however, in every situation that I have had a relatively close perspective on, the person in question went in one of these two directions. In two of the cases, no one was aware of any problems & there had never been any outward sign of depression.\n\nWhat makes it hard for the friends left behind is that, as a friend, you feel like you didn't do something that you should have to be there for her as a friend when, in fact, there may not have been anything that you *could* have done to help. No matter how hard you try, you can't make someone better or happier if they don't wish to be so.\n\nThis may not help you much but I can share something from my own life that might serve as a corrallary to what you are going through. My father passed away at only 52 from a massive coronary. He'd been back & forth to the doctor from years & been told what he needed to do & not do but he just wouldn't listen. He was remarried with two boys but I - his only natural child - was the only one he ever confided in about doctor's visit, not feeling well & such. Well, when he died, I knew I'd done my best to get him to take care of himself but, after ten years of living with his death, I finally realized that he just didn't want to give up those things that made him happy. I could cajole, complain, nag & beg but I couldn't make him realize that his long life was worth giving up some things. It made me realize that we really can;t force someone to do anything because, if they truly want something they will find a way to get it, even behnd your back. Unfortunately, this is just the way life is & sometimes you can't help someone.\n\nIn your case, it sounds like she didn;t want to be here for some reason & felt so strongly about it that she took care of the issue herself. There probably weren't really any signs to see or else her parents would likely picked up on something as well. You said she seemed to have it all together; you might have been seeing exactly what she wanted you to see. You can't beat yourself up over it - though we always do when we grieve - if she didn't give you any signs then there was really nothing you could have done.\n\nGood luck & be gentle with yourself through this time...
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Tell an adult, counselor, teacher, parent.  Break the trust, its time.  Suicide is no joke.
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If your friend is cutting herself you need to tell someone.  She could really hurt herself and the longer she does it the worse that it will get.  She has to resolve these issues with her mom somehow in order for things to get better.  Your friend might not want you to tell, but for her own good someone needs to know who can help her.\nHave you thought about talking to your mom about this?  Your mom might be able to help and/or talk to your friend's mom about whats going on with her.  Maybe even have your friend talk to your mom - someone needs to help her with her emotions and the problems she is having at home.
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Just know that their pain they felt here must have been so devistating that they could no longer bare it.For reasons we may never know or understand.Some people are just stronger than others.I had a friend who was only 11yrs, when she commited suicide. It is no ones fault and it will take time to heal the wounds we feel from events like this. Just remember to celebrate their lives in a postive way and don't get stuck in a rut on how they passed.There are support groups out there they you may want to check out. It is a very difficult and confusing issuen to deal with, I wish you luck in your grieving process.
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Call the police and tell them the story.  They have to go to her home, make sure u mention shes intending to harm herself.  They have to come out. If she is under 18 call Child protection Service and she can be removed from home.  Or if u are able to kidnap her and take her to the ER.  (use to work in one and u would be surprise how many are brought in for suicidal tenancies) They have to treat her.  They can not refuse to take her in.  And ask UR parents for help.  U might be surprise what ur parents could do for as well.  (well I hope they are like my parents willing to step in for a ur friends)
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You mention suicide, but just in case, please read here:\n\nCall some on this list that can help you!\nIf you kill yourself, your dead.  Then nobody can help you, you can't even help yourself.  My brother committed suicide.  Not the best option!\n\nSuicide: Don't let despair obscure other options\nDespair and hopelessness may lead you to think about suicide. But you have other options, from weathering an immediate crisis to creating a long-term safety plan.\n\nWhen life doesn't seem worth living anymore or your problems seem insurmountable, you may think that the only way to find relief is through suicide.\n\nYou might not believe it, but you do have other options — options to stay alive and feel better about your life. Maybe you think you've already tried them all and now you've had enough. Or maybe you think your family and friends would be better off without you.\n\nIt's OK to feel bad, but try to separate your emotions from your actions for the moment. Realize that depression, other mental disorders or long-lasting despair can distort your perceptions and impair your ability to make sound decisions. Suicidal feelings are the result of treatable illnesses. So try to act as if there are other options, even if you may not see them right now.\n\nNo, it probably won't be easy. You may not feel better overnight. Eventually, though, the sense of hopelessness can lift. You can find support, appropriate treatment and reasons for living.\nWhen you need immediate help for thoughts of suicide\n\nIf you're considering suicide right now and have the means available, talk to someone first. The best choice is to call 911 or your local emergency services number.\n\nIf you simply don't want to do that, for whatever reason, you have other choices for reaching out to someone:\n\n    * Contact a family member or friend\n    * Contact a doctor, mental health professional or other health care professional\n    * Contact a minister, spiritual leader or someone in your faith community\n    * Go to your local hospital emergency room\n    * Call a crisis center or hot line\n\nCrisis centers or suicide hot lines are often listed in the front of your phone book or on the Internet. They generally offer trained counselors — usually volunteers — who can help you through an immediate crisis. Some crisis centers with an Internet presence offer e-mail contact, but remember that responses may not be as prompt as they are with telephone support.\n\nTalking to someone about your feelings — connecting with someone — can help relieve the burden of despair and isolation, even if just temporarily. It may help you shift perspective and more clearly see that you have options beyond suicide.\nDaily coping strategies to manage thoughts of suicide\n\nYou may struggle with suicidal feelings frequently, perhaps many times a day. Develop a strategy to cope with those feelings in a healthy way. Consider asking a doctor, family member or friend to help create a strategy tailored to your specific situation.\n\n\nThat strategy may mean doing things you don't feel like doing, such as talking to friends when you'd rather hole up in your bedroom all day with the curtains drawn. Or it may mean going to the hospital for a mental health evaluation. But stick to your strategy, especially when you're in the grips of despair and hopelessness.\n\nAs part of your strategy, consider these measures:\n\n    * Keep a list of contact names and numbers readily available, including doctors, therapists and crisis centers.\n    * If your suicide plans include taking an overdose, give your medications to someone who can safeguard them for you and help you take them appropriately.\n    * Rid your home of knives, guns, razors or other weapons you may consider using for self-destructive purposes.\n    * Schedule daily activities for yourself that have brought you even small pleasure in the past, such as taking a walk, listening to music, watc
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I feel for you,  you sound like you are going through a terrible deppresion.   Im glad you are seeing a counsellor.  hope you continue too.   I think you need a prescription from your doctor though to help you through this.  It is so sad all the trama you have been through in such a short time.   I am not preaching but I will definetly say a prayer for you I think you might need help from every angle.   Do you have a spouse or family to talk to?\nCrying is normal but not continuous and sleeping that much is not good for you either.  You are going to have to try very hard to face this and hold yourself up and believe you can do it!\nI have had times like this and you need to get interested in something even if it is on the computer you might be able to reach out to someone else.   Please try to discourage the suicide thoughts I know it is hard but there are people who need you somewhere and that is very final.  I want nothing but the best for you so please keep in touch and let me know how you are making it through your days.       \nLife is Beautiful hon.   keep your head up and spirits higher.
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It sounds like he just wants attention. I've been to the suicide place before too, and all I wanted was to be loved and cared for. A lot of the time when people talk about suicide they merely want attention. But you really can't pay attention to what they're like when you're around them. You have to see what they're like when they're alone because most people will act like normal people while they're out and go home and kill themselves. There are a few things you could do. Tell his parents, his friends, the police, take him to church, a doctor, on top of all that just be there for him.
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only if u want him to snap. trust me, coming from someone who is in the same situation--i did tell him. BIG mistake. Apparently they feel bad for doing it, but they cant stop it. So sayin something would only make them feel worse. Which could send them in to an alternate mood swing, like depression and suicide. That-you-dont-want!\nJust try understand that, that is apart of him and who he is. If you cant tolerate it, then i suggest possibly ending the friendship..\nIf you need to tell someone..tell a parent or a doctor..someone who could help more than just you make him more aware. Does that make sense?
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I am trying to understand your question.First thing, people who call their friends and hint that they want to end their lives do not want to die. your friend is hoping that you will stop her.(got the feeling it's not done yet,I hope,seeing she has done this before) \nShe is calling out to you for HELP.\nHere is something from Module 6-Counseling 11, from when I used to do Crisis Hot-line .\nThe decision to commit suicide is usually the result of a long-term,gradual erosion of the person's ability to cope with negative emotions.She may feel overwhelmed and hopeless;suicide may seem to be the only option.\nStudies have shown that majority ofsuicidal people do not want to die. A number of warning signs can indicate the possibilityof suicide,including:\nsuicide threats, depression, apathy,or withdrawal, giving away prized possessions,making a will ,abrupt changes in behavior, the recent death of a loved one,family history of suicide,family disruptions such as divorce or the break-up of a relationship, and a clear reduction in the fear of death.Many people report that before a loved one committed suicide, he or she seemed "better". In fact , a sudden lifting of sadness, depression, or withdrawal may indicate that the decision to commit suicide has been made. Person may seem calm and at "peace" At this point,the suicide risk is often very high.\n\nHigh risk\nSuicidal feelings seem to be growing stronger, and  a plan has been thought out,but the details have not been worked through.Previous suicide attempts, af any, may be more recent, with higher lethality.\nyour friend seem to fall in high risk category. She has attempted this before. \nShe is looking for a way to end the pain and stress she feels. \nKeep her on the phone if you can , you might have to intervene for your friend, by calling the cops, telling them where she lives, her telephone number, if necessary. \nRemember whatever, happens you have done the best you can, and you might have to seek support for yourself.\nI do not know where you are but here is a 800 info -line \n(800) 203-1234  this is a state wide suicide hot-line that can be called 24 hours a day. There may be options in your area, or her area. Let your Mom know what is happening.\nHope I was able to help.
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Right or wrong isn't really an issue with suicide.  The consequences are.  If you die, you have no consequences -- that's the intrigue, isn't it?  No consequences, no more feelings, no more life.  But think about the people you leave behind -- and there are ALWAYS people you will leave behind, no matter what you think.  Your death would affect people you thought you didn't even know, not to mention your family and friends.  I know what it's like to be left behind by a suicide victim, and it isn't fun.  It's been years and I am just starting to 'get over it'.\n\nAs for the cutting, it's really great that you're helping your friend.  That is the right thing to do.  Let her know you're there for you and let her know that you care.  Does she know you haven't stopped -- does she even know you do it too?  If not, you might consider talking about it with her -- what it feels like, why you feel like you have to do it, why it's so hard to stop.  It might help her out to hear from someone who is going through the same thing.\n\nYou do need to make an effort to stop, though -- SI is a serious problem.  If you're not comfortable talking to your parents (I understand if you're not), go to your school counselor or talk to a trusted ADULT friend.  Encourage your friend to do the same -- talking to a peer is not quite the same as talking to an understanding authority.\n\nI wish you all the best.  You can do it! :)
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Hi, I answered your other question you posted about your boyfriend.  I was glad that I was able to help you out a little bit.  I was troubled to see you spoke of killing yourself if something should happen to him.  First, Try to get that thought out of your head!  Suicide is never the answer for anything.  You cant just give up like that.  Now is the time you need to be strong, for your boyfriend, and more importantly yourself.  If you need to chat with somebody, You can always email me jam961@yahoo.com  Things may appear rough for you right now.... But they can get better.  Instead of worrying about the "what if's" of life, you should focus on what is going on right now.  Enjoy being with your boyfriend now.  Build some memories to last a lifetime, and try to be happy.  If you really love this guy, you should be happy that he has been....and still is a very important part of your life.  Once he has a place in your heart, even if God forbid, he does take a turn for the worst, he will always be right there with you... In your memories, and deep down in your heart.  But don't even think about that now, just enjoy being there for each other.
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First whatever I say don't take it to heart. I would hate to say something that would make it worse. This seems to be a very sensitve subject and I don't want you to necessarily follow what I say. Visit your guidance counselor or one of your teachers. Do you have any friends that you do trust? Really the best thing you can do is talk to someone. Find someone you trust enough to let into your life or your situation. Whenever you feel suicidal it is always helpful to talk to someone you trust or who knows you. I feel for you and will pray for you. And I'm sorry about whats going on .
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if i thought you were serious i would give you advice, not long ago you asked for advice on someone you had a crush on. suicide is not something to be taken lightly, so don't take the mickey. my brother committed suicide 18 years ago, and if you knew the feeling it gives people you would not make stories up.