Should I go to the beach with my boyfriend?
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Yes my dear, I know what you mean. If you're scared, don't go. \n\nDoes he know you're a virgin? You didn't say how long you two have been dating. If you've dated him a long time and he knows you are a virgin and has been respectful, never questioning you or pressuring you, then it MIGHT be okay. I still think if you are afraid or it makes you uncomfortable, then you should do what feels right to you and not go. If you feel you might be pressured to have sex and you are not ready to, then do not go. \n\nI am not a virgin any more, but know how this feels. Let me share a story with you:\nI am a single woman (previouly married many years ago). I was dating a guy for a few months and I really liked him, but had not had sex with him. We kissed on our dates, and it was very hot, but kept it at that level, just kissing, no "heavy petting". He invited me on a ski trip for a week. We had not travelled together before, or even spent a weekend together, so I was a bit hesitant. (I should have paid attention to that feeling; that was my intuition.)  I really did not think he would pressure me. He had been very well mannered. I would not have gone otherwise. I knew spending that much time together would let us really get to know each other. We got along well and it would be fun, especially because we both like to ski.\n\nOn that trip, he started by wanting me to sleep in the same bed with him. I actually didn't have much choice, the room only had one bed. I should have known right there that a real gentleman would have made sure there were 2 beds or asked me if I was okay with the sleeping arrangements. I felt a little uneasy about it, because I was not ready to be so physically close to him. But I figured it was okay, and kept my gown on. Well, it just got worse each night. By the 4th night he was pissed off that he had "paid to take [me] on this trip and [I] wasn't being accomodating". He got more and more demanding. He flat out told me he "deserved" to have sex with me! He was a real jerk about it! Rather than a really great time, it became a degrading experience for me.  Needless to say, we stopped seeing each other after that. \n\nThat was years ago but I learned a lesson. For me: I would never go on a trip with a man unless we were crazy about each other,already in a commited relationship, and had already made love before that trip. I turned down several trips, but I did not want to be in that position ever again! Yuck!I did not go on a trip with a man again until all of my criteria were met, and what a difference! It was worth the wait.\n\nI commend you for being a virgin. it's a rare thing these days. If you are not ready to lose your virginity, don't!\n\nJust because a man pays for a trip, no woman "owes" a man sex in exchange. I have asked several men (yes, all kinds, including wealthy, well educated, well-mannered upper class men, like the man I had gone on that ill-fated trip with) about this and unfortunately many men seem to think that accepting the invitation of going on a trip is some unspoken code for "there will be vacation sex." They assume "the woman knows [he] wants sex on a trip." So don't go unless you want that too.\n\nYou do what feels right for YOU, not your boyfriend. If he really loves you, he will not pressure you. He will understand. If he doesn't, then break it off. You are special and need to be with someone who truly understands and appreciates you. Good luck!
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You done what with your bf! Maybe you two could go get a hotel and do whatever, camping if that is what you guys are into, going for walks. You can do whatever you guys want to do as long you both want to.
961146
if his cuter than your boyfriend, leave your boyfriend and get his best friend;) go girl! go!
476496
IF YOU ARE TEEN-AGER..\nSURF THE RESORTS ACCOMPANY WITH YOUR GIRL FRIEND..\nOR IF YOU ARE A YOUNG FAMILY MAN..\nGO PLACES WITH YOUR FAMILY..ENJOY A BREAK FREE VACATION..\nOR IF YOU ARE A MIDDLE AGED MAN..\nGET A NICE PILGRIMAGE..\nOR IF YOU ARE TOO OLD..\nCURSE THOSE ENJOYING THE WAYS TOLD ABOVE..!
265310
the bottom line is spending quality time with him....for instance...going to the beach, a walk in the park.going to dinners,movies,playing board games at home ........u can do alot a things.....
257299
Go to the beach and ask a lifeguard.
889267
You're right. This is not something a girl with a boyfriend would want to do. If she's serious about staying with you in the long run, she should find a way to take you along or just stay home with you. Partying in Vegas at some guys' house is something that sounds really really fun... for a single girl. And if she's around her single friends, they might pressure her into behaving they way they do, and she might make a decision that she wouldn't otherwise make when she's at home. It seems as if the main problem here is that when you told her you didn't like the idea of her going, she started "giving you attitude" instead of being sensitive of your feelings. If that's the way you feel, even if she thinks you have nothing to worry about, she needs to respect that and not go on that vacation. You have every right to put your foot down! If she cares enough, she'll make the right decision!
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go to the beach and have a nice dinner. That is what me and my boyfriend did for our one year. It was great. Just bring a blanket, watch the sunset, and eat some dinner. Fantastic GOOD LUCK!!
128883
go to the beach! its fun, you pay no money, and you get to see your date half naked!!
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Plan some sort of outing for the four of you.  When I introduced my parents to my boyfriend last summer, the four of us spent the day on the lake on my dad's sailboat.  This was the perfect place for them to meet him, because my boyfriend also has a sailboat.  It gave him and my father a lot to talk about because they have so much in common.  (My dad's the only one I was worried about!  But my mom loves him too!)\n\nYou could also all go out for dinner, or you could make dinner for everyone at your house.
674426
I like the beach the best.  A walk along the water.  Some sun.  Then sit and watch the sunset... :-)
1053699
If he says he doesn't want to break up with you. Then he doesn't. It's summer. He has a right to also rest and go on vacation withhis family or whatever. He still wants you. Don't break up such a beautiful thing for that. He didn't cheat on you or degrade you, he just is going on vacation. That doesn't deserve a break up. Be individual and do your own thing to. Good luck ;) and I hope you stay with him ;)!
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LIVE, LAUGH AND LOVE LIKE THERE IS NO TOMORROW, BECAUSE THERE MIGHT NOT BE... TAKE YOUR VACATION AND ENJOY IT LIKE YOU HAVE NEVER ENJOYED ONE BEFORE!!! LOVE YOUR MAN AND LET HIM KNOW HOW IMPORTANT HE IS TO YOUR LIFE... HAVE THE BEST TIME EVER, AND TREAT EACH OTHER WITH RESPECT...
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I definitely like beaches.  They are so calm and relaxing. But you really have to pick your beach, because if you go to a crowded beach it is just like being in a bustly city. You need to find a quiet part of beach where you have the sand, the sun and ocean to yourself.
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Next time he asks you out, run with it.  Be like, "Yeah, let's go hang out on the beach and build sandcastles!"  If he says that's cool, great!  But if he gives you a weird look and says he was just kidding, you should pull a Napoleon Dynamite and say, "I KNOW you were kidding, IDIOT, GOSH!"  Then you will both get a good laugh about it and you'll know your answer, even though secretly you'll be slightly embarrassed.
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Let him know this will be the challenge of how strong your relationship is, and that you think it is no problem!  \n\nOn the other hand, I lived in Europe for 7 years, it is WAY too fun and will be hard not to have "too good of a time".\n\nStay away from Majorca Spain!!!
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it depends. i guess u should take things as they are at the moment, not to drown in ur fantasy and dreams. perhaps, if u two will get on good, u could start it all again. going on a holiday is a serious challenge to all the couple, especially if u're going with ur ex