How do you tell your friend you are gay?
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I know this is a difficult time for you, but just tell them.  If he or she is truly your friend - they will accept you and love you as they already do.  If not, then they were never really your friend anyway and you are better off without them.\n\nComing out is one of the hardest and anguishing experiences anyone can go through.  I was rejected by ALL my childhood "friends", even the 2 I fooled around with during our "experimental" stages, one of which is also gay, but closeted.\n\nDo not despair!  You will make new friends.  People who will accept you for who and what you are - regardless of your sexuality, colour of your skin or religion.  \n\nThis is the 21st century and people just need to get over their phobias and prejudices.  Life is too short.  Live each day like it's your last.  Have fun and enjoy it.  Just remember to always treat and respect yourself, others and especially nature - the same exact way you want to be treated and respected and all will be well.  And don't forget - just LIVE, LIVE, LIVE!
850707
be honest and tell him ur not gay and that ur not interested. if he continues to makes u uncomfy (on purpose) then he's not respecting u and thus not a good friend\n\nbut how do u know he fancies u? has he said? or u being sensitive just cos he's gay and ur male?
1034097
If you are not gay...politely tell them you are not interested and tha you are not gay..."WHY NOT ASK DON" (the poster above) is gay and is in hiding till someone comes along and gives him what he wants!!! The gayness will come out, HE IS JUST HIDING IN THE GAY SECTION OF YAHOO ANSWERS
761016
If you flat out ask him, it could be awkward for both of you. Maybe you should be a little bit stronger in your hints and say something along the lines that, even though you are straight, you wouldn't mind having a gay friend and ask him if he has ever known anyone who is gay. Most gay people have the feeling that it is killing them inside before they come out, so even if he doesn't open up to you right away remain a close friend. If he is gay, your friendship will mean a lot to him.
320377
Your question is worded ambigiously, so I'm gonna try to frame this the most simple way I know how.\n\nDo you want to f*ck your friend?  I mean it.  Do you?  Do you want to kiss him or touch him naked?  Do you want to feel his skin on yours?  Do you want feel his hands on your body?\n\nIf so, then you're at least bi.  If you don't want any of those things, then you're probably straight.  But if you're gay you're going to have to face it at some point.   You can deny it until the cows come home, you can pretend to be straight, you can pray until your knees lock up, but it wont make the feeling go away.  \n\nYou need to examine why you don't want to be gay.  Is it because of your religion?  Are you afraid of being physically harmed?  Are you afraid to be seen as different?  Are you worried about what your friends and family will think?  Do you think that gay people are all diseased or can't have normal lives?  \n\nSome of those fears are normal, some are fuled by a homophobic society that usually doesn't know what the hell it is talking about when it comes to gay folk.  You need to learn, think, and take some time to decide for yourself.\n\nI would highly reccomend renting or buying the TV show Queer As Folk... its five great seasons about gay life, both the normal and gay-specific parts (plus lots of sex :-) or the book "Am I Blue: Coming out from Silence".  \n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0064405877/sr=8-1/qid=1146355924/ref=pd_bbs_1/002-2832502-7269667?%5Fencoding=UTF8
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Feel the situation out.  Do you know how he feels about gay people?  In the right time and place you will be able to tell him you are and how you have felt.  If he is not gay then you can't change him, don't try it won't work and do'nt push it.  Many straight people have gay friends.
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How to tell if you're gay: \n1. If you are over 30 and you have a washboard stomach, you are gay. It means you haven't sucked back enough beer with the boys and rather you've been sucking-off the boys and have spent the rest of your free time doing sit-ups, aerobics, and doing the Oprah diet. \n\n\n\n2. If you have a cat, you are a Flaaaayming gay. A cat is like a dog, but gay: it grooms itself constantly but never scratches itself, has a delicate touch except when it uses its nails, and whines to be fed. And just think about how you call a dog..."Killer, come here! I said get your butt over here!" Now think about how you call a cat... "Bun-bun, come to daddy, snookums!" Jeeezus, you're fit to be framed, you're so gay. \n\n\n\n3. If you suck on lolipops, Ring-Pops, baby-pacifiers, or any such nonsense, rest assured, you are a Gaylord. A straight man only sucks bar-b-q ribs, crab-claws, raw oysters, craw-fish guts, pickled pigs feet, or titties. Anything else and you are in training to suck El Dicko and undeniably gay. \n\n\n\n4. If you refuse to take a dump in a public bathroom or piss in a parking lot, you're in a deep homosexual relationship. A man's world is his bathroom, he defecates and urinates where he pleases.\n\n\n5. If you drink decaf coffee with skim milk, you like a high hard one in the poop-chute. Coffe is to be had strong, black (or with thick, wholesome milk) and full-aroma. A vagina-eating man will never be heard ordering a "Decaf Cafe Latte with Skim" and he will never, ever know what artificial sweetner tastes like. If you've had Nutrasweet in your mouth, you've had a dick there too. \n\n\n\n6. If you know more than six names of colors or four different types of dessert, you might as well be handing out free passes to your bung. A real man doesn't have memory space in his brain to remember all of that crap as well as all the names of all the players in the Major league, NFL, NBA, college ball, PGA, and Nascar. If you can pick out chartreusse or you know what a "fresier" is you're gay. And if you can name ANY type of textile other than denim, you are faggadocious! \n\n\n\n7. If you drive with both hands on the wheel, forget it...you hungry for meat-popsicle. A man only puts both hands on the wheel to honk at a slow driver or to cut the dude off. The rest of the time he needs that hand to change the radio station, eat his hamburger, hold his beer, finger the bi-atch in the passenger seat (whoever she happens to be), or, if he's Latino, talk on his cell-phone. \n\n\n\n8. If you enjoy romantic comedies or French films, mon-frere, vous sonnez le Gay, oui? The only time it is acceptable to watch one of those is with a woman who knows how to reward her man. Watching any of the above films by yourself or with another man is likely to result in SHC (spontaneous homosexual combustion), which is what happens to fags when they flame out too quickly.
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Open your mouth and just tell him.
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Listen closely, you don't want to lose a valuable friendship.\n\nGay people (or people who are confused about their sexual orientation) tend to think that ANYONE who is sweet is gay. That is NOT TRUE. I have a teacher, who seems VERY GAY. He's way tooooo sweet to seem straight, his voice even has that little tone to it.. i swear i would have finished his class believing he was truly gay. Then one day, i was out, and went to give him my excuse, and he said, "don't worry about it, I was out to, I cancelled class. My wifes aunt passed away so we had to go to her funeral in Flint." I was like, oh, you're married? and he said, "yes.. here you can see her picture" and she was a she.\n\nMORAL OF THE STORY: not everyone whos nice and seems gay is gay. People now have a adefinition of being gay.\nGay= a guy whos nice and sweet, and has a certain ring to his voice, and in most cases is hot.\nbut that is not completely true, as a matter of fact it's completely false. Society tends to give false images..\n\nBe careful. If he's gay, he's gay. If not, then he's not.\n\nWhat you can do is, confess that you're gay, or you think you might be, and tell him you don't want it to ruin your friendship.\n\nIf he's gay, he'll be comfortable enough to say he is. If not, then he'll probably get freaked out at first, but then come around to accept you for who you are.
749128
well do you like girls or boys tell her the truth. and if you are confused she can help you with it, and if you are gay tell her now rather than have to deal with it years down the road
937022
tell him how you feel, and he deffanitly gay.
616504
slap him and force him too... lol thats how i get my brother to admit he is gay infront of all my friends ... good times good times
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There really isn't any way to know for sure..  \nMost of the time we kinda have an idea if someone is gay but there are some individuals that are very good at hiding their "tendencies".    You should try to become their friend, strike up a conversation about a book, movie, the weekend coming up, etc, etc--  Try to get to know them as a person.   There are many people out there, specially in H.S. that just because they don't like a person, rumors/lies are made up!! I'm pretty sure u have heard some rumors about yourself that you know are just lies!!!  So don't believe everything u hear.
905197
There are things you cant tell your sister no matter how close you are! Sometimes it is easier to tell friends. I have many gay guy best friends.
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There's a completely free, completely confidential hotline that you can call that can help you come out. You can speak with an adult or with a young person like yourself.\n\nhttp://www.glnh.org/index2.html\n\nTheir website also has links to organizations in your area.\n\nAll of the following links have really great resources for coming out. Don't just click the top one... click all of them and read all of the brochures, etc.\nhttp://www.pflag.org/Getting_Support-Coming_Out.coming_out.0.html\nhttp://www.outproud.org/brochure_coming_out.html\nhttp://www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Coming_Out\n\nAnd if the friends you have are really your friends, they'll be your friends even if they know you're gay or bi. Real friends like you no matter what.\n\nGood luck!
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You don't have to tell anyone.  Your mother may have already guessed.  Talk about gay people to her and see how she feels.  If she doesn't understand you may want to wait until you are an adult to tell her.  It's not like you need to make an announcement about your sexual orientation.\n\nYeah, it does.
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The fact that you are asking indicates that you are considering it, if you weren't you would have told him no flatly right out.  He must detect that you have tendencies because I doubt he would bring it up otherwise.\n\nYou have to ask yourself some tough questions, are you gay, bi-curious, you need to search your soul for some answers.\n\nIf you are, you need to acknowldge it and accept it, there is nothing wrong with it.  \n\nIf you are straight and want no part of it, you need to make that known to him right away, if he's your friend he would understand, if not then you need to re-evaluate your relationship with him.\n\nGood luck.