How can I convince my boyfriend to come live with me?
351708
He decision is based on emotion, and he is probably still hurting from what happended. He must of forgiven you as he is considering to move in with you, but because he has forgave you, it does not mean he has forgotten! You need to rebuild the trust, and i do not think you can force him. Talk to him and see where he is coming from, he probably needs reassurance and comfort. Remember actions speak louder than words and he might be thinking when in doubt, leave it out. Do not give up if he is worth fighting for...
820543
You don't have to suggest anything to him. Isn't this season supposed to be about giving rather than recieving? I know, the dude has nothing to give for you....but if you don't have anything to suggest to him, then you have everything you could possibly want. Right? So basically, you can just tell him that you already have what you want, and that is your boyfriend. Of course, only say that if that is the truth. Don't lie to your boyfriend.
620237
If he'll be living close by, I'd suggest setting up a time once a week or something for you guys to spend time together, and don't let ANYTHING get in the way of it. Phone calls work too, but nothing beats actual physically being together.
667362
That's just what we're like.\n\nDeal with it\n\nor leave him.\n\nSounds like you like him, so don't be so harsh, just becasue you aren't available all the time to go out doesn't mean he should have to stay home because you are. Especially if you don't live with him, what is the point of making him stay home??\n\nDon't be too controlling or you may find he might get sick of it and leave you?\n\nWho knows... Something for you to consider...
523620
The key is to show him you are mature. So no grovelling, whining, rolling your eyes etc.\n\nPerhaps make him a deal - if he will allow you to go you will do all the chores or something for a week.\n\n\nIf he says no, then you have to still be gracious (I know - very hard).If you want him to start viewing you as an adult, you have to start behaving like one (BTW it sounds like you are very mature to begin with so good luck hon!)
391357
i wouldn't do it. \n\ni would never live in another womans home. it will ALWAYS be her home..especially if there are kids. \n\nhowever...asking a boyfriend...to sell a home to move into an apt. doesn't seem very mature either.  especially since you two aren't married nor does it sound like there are any plans to marry. \n\ni would keep my place..have him keep his...and share a bed once in a while. if it gets serious..then both of you move out and buy a home together!
727385
Don't beg or plead, you are much better than that! Let him go if he wants to go, he's the one who's going to miss out not you. PLus you are a nice caring young girl who had her whole life ahead of her. You don't need that b.s. in your life!! Find someone better!! Someone that is going to appreciate you and treat you like a PRINCESS!! Good luck and I hope that you find someone MUCH better! =)
1068455
You need to ask in order for the relationship to work. He won't mind, He's proboly been thinking of a way to tell you anyway that he either, doesn't want to be with you and wants to move. wants to be with you wants to move and wants you to come but doesn't want to spring it on you. Or want to be with you but has to move. \n            Hope this helps :)          good luck
229884
Find a boyfriend a bit closer to home.
652306
You should sit down with her and your boyfriend and decide what you are going to do. Paying her something is right, but you need to know what for, how much and how often. If you can't afford it you and your boyfriend need to decide if he will help. If he can't you need to look for a good job or move. Your boyfriend has to make a decision on whether or not you're worth the extra effort. If not you need to find a mate for your future.\nNext time don't move in until he pays out.\nThis answer is from a man.
303150
How about going out with him alone and not putting out?\nYou DO have a choice in the matter you know.
977944
yes. talk to your friends. they should be able to help you. or ask your boyfriend himself what he wants.
552650
Both of you have to do it, not just you...you may have to teach him by your example?\n\nBe firm but don't lose your temper.\n\nBe kind but don't get walked over.\n\nThink hard but never worry.\n\nCreate a "positive cycle" where everything you both do makes your relationship that little bit better...even if only a tiny little bit each time.\n\nRemember that a sense of humour is infinitely attractive and gets you wnat you want in the long run.\n\nDon't be afraid to be bold.\n\nDon't be afraid to be vulnerable.\n\nRemember that you have to love and like yourself FIRST before you can be the real you in your relationship.\n\nHave fun - you only live once!\n\nBe safe - you only *get* to live once!!
776728
have a serious talk and if he still insists then break up with him.\nthere are other guys who can respect your decision.\n\nbesides thing could get ugly if you stay with him. from pushy to abuser. he might do anything just to get it. and i mean anything, if you know what i mean.\n\ntake much care
67984
Wow, that is a hard one. I've never been married, and I don't have children, but obviously you having a child together makes this more difficult. It's is not like you can just pick up and leave-- you have an obligation to your child, and you also say you own your home, so you have a financial obligation together as well.\n\nI gave a man an ultimatum before, and it drove him away. If I were you, I would want to make it official, but for religious reasons in my case. \n\nWhat you have to ask yourself is if you are ready to raise your child separately, and if you are ready to move out and move on? If he were never to ask, and were to tell you up front that he won't, would you be willing to stay? If he asked for time, how much time would you be willing to give him? Once you can answer those two questions, you are on your way. No one can answer them but you.\n\nGood luck.
514620
you are making an excuse "can't keep...living through him."\nif you wanted to be with him you would go with him.\nif you don't want to go overseas, don't.\nit seems completely reasonable that you simply prefer to stay where you are.\nyou are ready to settle down but feel awkward about pressuring him to do so.
477474
talk to him and tell him to be frank with u. why he is doing such and not keeping his promises.tell him u dont want to live like this and just give u a valid explanation..tell him not to make a promise if he cant fulfill coz u expect too much and u get too disappointed