I've dated for 1 year. she is affraid of marraige. do wait or move on or try to conveince her that it s alrite
354092
It depends.  \n\nDo you love her, or do you just want to get married?\n\nWhat about marriage frightens her?\n\nPremarrital counseling sounds like the best option, if you can get her to go.  She may have some solid reasons that could be resolved in counseling.  It would also help you to know if you are really ready.
852971
Her behavior is a good indication of what she really wants in life.  You need to tell her that you want the marriage to be important, and not the material things.  If this is how you truly feel, you need to break (or at least postpone) the engagement.  Engagement (and marriage) should only be entered into if you have NO feelings of uncertainty.  This is not your circumstance, so act now - before it's too late.
49272
Go for it. If you wait she may move on and find some one else. It's only 5 weeks of long distance, but it you don't go for her, it may be a lifetime without her.
49901
You'll have to be patient, she was married when you met her so you had to have expected the baggage.  But you're involved the way you are so just help her out if you can and stick with her and hope for the best. It's more complicated the way you're doing it but every situation is different.  If she wanted out of her marriage and started up another relationship make sure it wasn't just something to boost her ego or something before devoting your life to her though.
521521
If you really find her to be worth pursuing, go for it.  But if you have doubts about her separating herself from past relationships, it would be best to sit back (and maybe move on) and wait to see how she's going to be after a while.  If she's still having emotional issues with her past, the best thing to do is to move on completely, before you become her past as well.
570560
One word brother, RUN.  This girl is afraid of commitment.  If you are looking to marry her, I would advise against it.  If she is not future minded, were dose that leave the two of you.  Just something to think about.
8608
WELL,FIRST FIND OUT WHY HER FIRST MARRAGE DINT WORK.WAS IT HER FAULT OR HIS.IF IT WAS HER FAULT! YOU SHOULD CONSIDER IT. ANY WAY, ANYBODY THAT PLANS TO MARRY SHOULD CONSIDER WHAT THERE GETTING IN TO.
835035
I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you
1085480
You should move on; and if she does not follow (leave the other man), then it wasn't meant to be.  You are currently missing opportunities to find someone who is into you!
339974
That's a very hard question and I read it all the way through. I'd appreciate it if you also went and read one that I just posted, which is also long. If you really in fact love her, than I would hold onto that and go back with her. If you're Christian, pray about it. Well, scratch that. Pray about it if you're a Christian but talk to her first. Get to know her and try to express your feelings towards her little at a time. Don't make a large sudden move. I hope things work out, but just take it slow. This is comin from a girl that was in this exact position and is know with the guy that I posted a question about. I love him to death and we're getting along wonderfully. Best of luck. Email me if ya want to w/ nething else: naertgirls@juno.com.
653278
Break It off.  If you are unsure and she won't wait then you should break it off.  It is not good to go into a marriage unsure of your feelings.  If your to-be wife won't respect your feelings then maybe she isn't the right person for you.  Better to end it now then find out in six months what you already knew.
584625
that is very sad... I have a rule of thumb when it comes to dating... IF at any point you evaluate your relationship and you know it's never going to work THEN don't waste anymore of your time or hers.
522098
Hey man, I think you should sit back and really think about your relationship, the first thing you should consider is her consideration of your feelings and perception of the situation  in general. If trust is there AND... a MUTUAL level of respect for each others feelings is there, somehow things will work, I feel once those things aren't in place your outta gas.
720216
See if it seems mutual and if there is chemistry. this is not an unusual circumstance. many folks link up this way and get married, who knows
533329
If you aren't ready for marriage, then you aren't ready, but you should be prepared (and supportive) if she decides to move on, as hard as that might be. \n\nSometimes loving each other, sadly, just isn't enough. She wants something you don't. But because you love her, you want her to be happy, right?\n\nSo, you 2 need to sit down & have a long talk about the issue. Make sure she knows where you stand, and that you really listen to her.\n\nBest of luck.
275382
Dont rush, give her time to think. If you keep houndin her then she'll feel trapped and may break it off. I love you are powerful words. And no, its not wrong at all.
645156
You've got time.  You asked her, she said yes, and she's married so I'm sure she knows of the time commitment that goes into a wedding.  Plus you've got fourteen months to wait.  Dropping her would basically ruin your friendship.  If it gets to be closer in and she's not helping out as a maid of honor "should," then you might have to talk to her about it, but right now ... you've got more than a year, relax a bit.