Should our pre marital friendship with opposite sex end after marriage?
338624
I think having good friends will help you succeed in your marriage.  Rather than end the friendships you have, take the time to encourage your spouse to get to know your friends.  You should also get to know their friends as well. It's too much to expect one person to be your spouse and only friend for a lifetime.
356854
Most people make their long term friends at school (Highschool or university). If you didn't keep in touch with them after you hit the 'big adult world' it's difficult to make true friends after that because there is less history. Marriage and having children also take priority because going out with friends takes a backseat after the kids and hubby/wifey come into the scene. Your co-workers are your friends now.
682650
Absolutely!  Don't risk it if you have a good friendship.  The friendship ending will hurt more than the relationship.
757660
Extremely dangerous situation you put yourself in.  I became friends with a man who was training my child.  I thought it was perfectly harmless and was I so wrong.  I can remember to the day when that harmless situation turned into disaster.  I fell in love with this man and almost wrecked my marriage on a person who really wasn't who he said he was.  I really believe that you should not get involved in any "friendship" with the opposite sex because it is not worth it.  Find yourself a friend of the same sex and prevent yourself from a lot of problems.
512007
That question depends on your future w/ your current baby's daddy.  If the relationship looks like you guys will be married then you don't want to jeopardize that because of your child.  If you can keep your friend and remain faithful no matter how hard times are, then I see no problem w/ you guys being friends as long as the benefits are only talking
148906
It is a very real fact that men and women can be friends.  If the 2 people are satisfied with themselves (meaning that they don't have to continuously try to prove something or have hang-ups about if they are "cool" enough) they will be able to interact on a friendly basis.
190879
Well, when we know that a guy is married, we just got scared abouth the possible reaction of his wife, we don't want to get involved in those situations that only cause troubles 4 the couple and that everybody is hurt.\nThere's another reason: (My own experience) When two people have a friendship, even when one of them is married it doesn't necessary mean that never could happen something between them, I mean.. with the time of knowing this person U/she could fall in love or confusse the terms.\nI'm telling U this because I was in that situation, I'm not married but I live with someone since 4 years ago, I met someone, in the beginning I was just his friend and tryed to be nice, he was really nice to me too, but with the time I started to feel something really different and to see this guy not only as a friend, but also as someone who could have another kind of relationship with me, I even started to want him to make love to me..\nThat was really wrong! Nothing happened, he respected the fact I'm with someone else.\nBut my point is: is it really possible... I mean.. to be just friends?
783301
Unequivocally NO! If they chose that life style then so be it, but as far as benefits are concerned out of the question.  Societies fall from moral decay and that is a fact, and ours is well on it's way, I do believe all this gay and lesbian stuff is about to blow up in their faces.  It is a life style that destroys the vary meaning of marriage between a man and a woman, In my opinion they are an insult to humanity.  I believe it is time our religious leaders and government gives these people a loud and clear message that the party is over and will not be condoned by our society.
501252
Of course. That is healthy. Some, like friendships, can be dropped if not healthy or they've been outgrown. Others, such as marriage, will take work to keep healthy instead of using it as an excuse to fall back into our own selfish habits or to selfishly say that we aren't "in love" and leave.
505207
what i feel is that it is not right for both men or women to marry again.a person with true love for his&#92;her better half will never think about it.in a country like mine,both are considered illegal.one should think hundred times before choosing his&#92;her better half and not after that.marriage is not a trial and error method.these are my thoughts and don't say that these alone are right
673088
church lol no seriously friends that is where i meet my husband a friend introduced us and now going on 9 yrs married and 10 yrs together 2 kids later its great we compliment each other always have . you will meet Mr right don't rush it.
776972
i think someone should be your friend before they are your spouse\nopposites attract, but after awhile they repel
375261
Yes why not. I'm happily married but have female friends who I call.
366784
Yes, I have a wonderful friend who was a lover and we still talk every so often.  It depends on how much of an adult you are (and of course it helps to be friends before intimacy)  Good luck!
60472
I think it is possible to have friends of opposite sex, but what concernes me about your story is that he  is not open with you about this friendship. He should have no problem with you being present during his conversations with her. Another thing is after you get married, friends fade away a little and your spouse becomes a focus of your life, so it is unnatural to spend that much time even with your closest friend. If you have concerns about her, tell him about it, and if I was in this situation, I would insist that he only talks to her when I am around at least for a while so you could see for yourself that there is nothing more to the story. If she is just a friend as he claims she is, he won't have a problem with you being around while he is talking to her. But make sure you keep track of all the conversations you are aware of and see if those are the only ones that appear on the phone bill, but do it without him knowing that you are keeping track for two reasons: you won't come across as insecure and controlling and if he is doing something wrong it will be easier to catch him. I hope I'm making sense. Try not to accuse him of anything right away, just tell him that his relationship with that woman makes you unconfortable and you want to work out a situation that will work for both of you.
622036
If you are asking concerning friends of the same sex, I really don't see a problem with that based on all the aspect you mentioned, but if it is with the opposite sex I don't think its advisable concerning the physical aspect, in the sense that you are both good friends why jeopardize your friendship? Because its only if ink runs in your veins, you have lost your sense of sight and you are dead to all physical contact that nothing will happen between the two of you.\n\nAside from this if you both go that deep and you don't end up getting married to each other, you would loose respect for one another.\n\nIn the emotional aspect, ladies have been endowed with the capability of reaching men better. They are like mothers to us. They are ready to comfort you and listen to you, they share your burden with you some go to the extent of carrying the whole thing as if it was theirs.\nAnyway this is not the case with emotional ladies seeking a guy to comfort them this often ends up in something else.\n\nThe mental aspect I think both sex are OK and can handle the situation depending on the type of response and reasoning you want.
1095214
Sounds like your friend needs to get into marriage counseling.  Marriage is hard and if you don't work at it and really put the effor in to keep your friendship/relationship with your spouse good it will go sour eventually.