Is it wise to date someone who is going through a divorce?
350373
it is a bad idea that in all probability will end in disaster.....having said that I did the exact same thing and have now been happily married to him for seven years....but if our daughter (now 9 months old) ever did the same I'd advise her against it
76799
No.  I would not date someone that is married because:\n\n#1 they aren't REALLY my date, they belong to someone else #2 because they wouldn't REALLY be my man, because he'd belong to someone else and \n#3 He WOULD really hurt my feelings when he left because:  HE IS STILL MARRIED to someonelse.\n\nWhen a person is seperated they are STILL married and there is still a chance the couple can and will work things out.  If they were through...didnt want to be with each other any more, they would be DIVORCED and NOT married, so dating someone that is married IF you are looking for a relationship is risky and in my opinion dumb.  If you are looking for a cheap fling or a one night stand then hey, that's probably about all you were gonna get any way...Why?  Because he/she doesnt belong to you ('cause they are married to someone else)  :)
1073575
Intentionally or not, he's playing you both and he's already made his decision. The only way you are not going to lose him is to remain friends and leave it at that. You guys divorced for a reason and he remarried for a reason. \n\nIt's you that needs to make that decision, not him.
1155505
Part of the therapy for getting over a divorce is to re-join the "human race".  With a divorce, we go through "separation anxiety" ... and that is a very miserable condition.\n\nDon't feel that you have to leap at the first opportunity to date ... but don't shy away from one that interests you.  Ease back into it, maybe by starting out going out with a group of friends, then a couple friends, then venturing out on your own.\n\nThere is no generally-accepted timeframe for waiting.  Let your own heart and needs determine that.  Just be cautious about "rebounding" and jumping into a worse relationship than the one you just left ... just because "it's there" and you're hurting.
951984
Well....rem that 10 yrs can change a person drastically. Don't be the 1st to call up. If he gets in touch with u, tread slowly. Try to find out 1st the reason for his divorce.....rem tat it takes 2 hands to clap and there might be an ugly side of him which might have been the reason for his divorce. In tat case, y shd u mess up ur life when there r single never married b4 better guys arnd. U just need little patience waiting for the single better guy.
101073
There are no guarantees.  Look at divorce rate.  Ask yourself if you truly enjoy this person's company.  Do you communicate well?  Is this person insecure/secure?
906236
Do you have a lot in common?  Does he meet you half way at least?  Does he think about you while your not around?  Will he leave when the chips are down?  Does he respect you?  Protect you?  Will he still be there after two kids and ten years?\n\nIf you don't know maybe you should date him til you do. My advice take it slow...  Most weddings and divorces happen within 24 hours in Vegas.
1021965
Personally, I wouldn't. Just based on my own experiences.\n\nI had an ex similar to yours, broke up for similar reasons, and he wasn't interested in getting back together until there was another guy in my life. He (years later) admitted to me that he always assumed he could have me back whenever he wanted me, when he decided it was convenient for HIS life! \n\nBut I wasn't willing to put MY life on hold until he got around to feeling like being a decent boyfriend.\n\nThank goodness I didn't. I moved on, dated other people, and eventually met and married my husband who was worth suffering every guy who came before him!\n\nIf you haven't really considered being with him again before now, my advice is, don't.\nIt's not 5 years wasted if you don't go back, it's 5 years of a lesson learned - don't unlearn it!
842000
Unfortunately this is the way it is when you date a man with children and he has custody. What else can he do, he must take care of the children. This would be a very difficult thing to deal with however, you are really going to have to take a serious look at the whole picture and be honest with yourself. Is this something you are willing to deal with. It will and must be a great deal of acceptance and understanding on your part. Good luck and God bless
591106
If you are a Christian talk with your pastor or a counselor about this... If she is still married it is considered adultery however but once she is divorced she may be free to marry again but i am not exactly sure.... Pray about it and ask God to give you wisdom concering this as well.... Why is seh divorcing her husband if i may ask? I know she definitley needs to be divorced before pursuing a new relationship however! Hope this helps
218721
I had feelings for my ex after our divorce too.  I think it was a comfort thing.  No one knew me like he did.  But, as time passed I began to remember the reasons why I filed for divorce.  They certainly out weighed my fantasies of having a reunion.  Let time pass.  There are so many other singles out there that have been through the same thing.
54986
Just be there when he needs to talk or wants to talk. If just coming out of a nasty divorce I would say he needs some space. Don't rush the friendship or it will backfire on you. To let him know your not coming on to him is simple just be honest with him and tell him it is to soon to be in a relationship and all you want right now is to be friends. Actions speak louder than words.
147836
If it were a short term period of insecurity, low self-esteem or low confidence then I would date the person. If it is their normal way of thinking, then I would not date them. A good relationship is based on give and take, and by that I don't mean one person gives and the other person takes. A relationship where one person has to always boost another persons ego and self esteem breaks down quickly. Everybody goes through short periods where they don't feel as good about themselves, and that is where a good "give and take" relationship works. A person has to know that their partner will be there for them when they need support, but most people are not willing to spend a lifetime being the only one who gives support. People judge you by the opinion you have of yourself.
1078510
Well I think that depends on their relationship before they broke up and their relationship now.If he is still interested in the ex then no. But if he genuinely just a caring person who wants to be friends with his ex because that is the type of person he is and it is not coming between your new relationship then yes.
148225
When I separated, I did start dating.  And I'm glad I did.  But not every woman will date a separated man, since some women fear that the man may return to his ex-wife.  Another thing is that a woman may fear that she will become a "transitional woman" between the former wife and the man's future wife/companion.  So my suggestion is that if a separated man wants to date, he should seek out a woman who is not necessarily looking for a long-term commitment.\n\nBe honest with anyone you date about your status.  Be totally upfront about the separation.  But, never spend any time with your date telling her what was wrong in your marriage.  It's inappropriate to disrespect your soon-to-be-ex-wife with any woman you are dating, no matter how strongly you feel.
209134
If you want to be with a truly born again partner, then you're going to have to be one yourself, . \n\nWalk in the Spirit and not the flesh.  \n\nPerhaps now is not the best time to be looking to date someone while you are still married.  You may feel lonely, and want reassurrance, but perhaps now is the time to spend reflecting, and time with your children.  \n\nI don't know the problems you're going through now, but I do know that if you trust in God, walk in righteousness, and have faith, God will bring the right person in your life at the right time.
573235
I suspect that the two of you were not telling the same story, although you think you are. But this is immaterial. Why listen to advice from other people? If you have both decided that divorce is the best way forward, then this is what you should do. Forget other people's opinions. These just muddy the water. Just be thankful that the two of you have made this decision and can still be friendly towards each other.