Is it a better to work in ur own stream after marriage or work with your husband if you know about his field?
344518
Should help each other..even in a little way..that's what  married couples do cuz that's the ultimate purpose of marriage ..^_*
394301
It is about boundaries. You must keep your professional work separate from family life otherwise you will get yourself all tangled in knots. Ask yourself what you would do if you were not working in the field you are. How would you deal with the family situation then? It is ok to use knowledge that you have gained through work to inform the way you relate to your family. But you are not working with your family you are part of it. What you could do is make your concerns known to those in your family that are worrying you and let them know that there is help available. Aside from harm issues (to themselves or others, especially children) people have to want to change their lifestyles. You cannot bully them into this. It must be worrying for you, but I feel it is important to keep your work life apart from your family life. That is about keeping yourself safe. Without doing that you can't help others.
192209
compromise, do the career first. because it is definately harder when you have kids. personal experience. i don't get to spend much time with mine and it makes me feel guilty. but if i didn't work and do my career, i feel like i haven't fulfilled my destiny. i went at this backwards and now im paying for it. if i could i would do the job first that way i wouldn't regret it later. then you would have all the time in the world to be a mom.
58034
If he is a long haul trucker, be prepared that if you have children together that you will basically be raising them on your own much of the time. That really gets to many wives of truckers, the fact that they are married but are alone a good deal of the time while their husbands are away from home. I think it is very hard to make a marriage work if one of them isn't there much.
356644
So you had a comparison. I use to be a graphic artist. My job required alot of creativity, long hours, bringing my work home  with me, Deadlines were important. I was juggling work, children, home, and my marriage. \n\nI spent time with my children when I had the day off and after work. I wanted to make sure that they were getting time with me. I was so exausted, that I would not pay attention to my husband, which at the time was working part time after his stint in the military until he found a full-time decent job. \n\nWe would argue about things, I would get forgetful and figured he should cut me some slack. I marriage was not doing well at the time. We had pulled away from each other and the only thing we would do is argue over little things. \n\nI think you have done what I did. get absorbed into your work. Your response is exactly the way I responded to him. I never got credit at home for working the long hours and bring in the money. I then figured out the reason why I didnt get the credit is because I ignored him and how he was doing. \n\nWe had issues, big ones. We finally sat down and talked about them. We agreed to start dating again, once a month we would get a sitter and go out, if we couldnt go out we would rent a movie. We'd talk not about work, but ourselves what we wanted, fun things. \n\nI think that you should tell her that you didnt mean to neglect her, that you have been trying to to what was best and have a decent job, that you didnt see that it was interfering with your marriage so much and that you would like to make things better. Offer a night together and some talking. \n\nThat is the only good advice I can give you.
582207
Very broad choices. Why did you chose those two? Whats your interest? Choose what you like doing that will make it the best for you. I'd first recommend being better with your spelling because neither of those professions take sloppy work well.
859928
u do have a good idea, it'll help u in life later on,  if u don't get a job in one field, u can try for another in the other field. though i personally think tht u should concentrate only on one field and give it ur best rather than diversify in 2 entirely different fields
250205
Rework your resume.  Be honest about the time you cared for your wife.  You can alsways get a friend to give you a glowing work reference.
511900
I think it is still a man's world myself, because I never got further in my career and never got paid more than my counterparts...\n\nLike my husband got paid twice as much as I ever did and got more paid time off than I did...\nI put in more time in years, but he always got paid more and got more benefits...\n\n\nHowever, on the other hand, I could claim more health problems and either go home sick or call in sick with more child related instances or personal instances than my husband could...\nHe was always expected to be well and strong and go to work, but I was never perceived that way...\n\nI had more personal freedom by being a woman in my job than he did in his job as a man...
508533
I would work part-time.  If you can do without the money, try to work part-time instead of full time until the kids are at least in full-time school.  Most people work because they need the money.  If you have a choice then follow your heart.  You should realize that if you depend on someone else (your husband or wife) to support you, if they leave you your earning ability will be less than if you had kept working.  It's a price you pay.
564769
I live in Egypt while my husband lives in America. I moved here with my kids so they could have family. But unfortunately there is no job here for the hubby so he must remain in America to work till he can start a business. Then God willing he will move here and we will live happily ever after.
1004900
of course is better to stay at home, i ve worked all my life and was so tough, thanks God i married a good man and i dont have to work anymore, i stay in the peace of my home with my son and my husband that is a real blessing.
735146
I have a hard time understanding this kind of thing...men not helping around the house. BEFORE my husband and I were married, I told him I wanted us to be EQUAL partners. That meant, we'd both work, we'd both do housework, and we'd both pay the bills and raise the kids TOGETHER. I didn't want him to HELP. I wanted him to SHARE the responsibilities. He agreed, so I married him. Yes, I do a bit more housework, but he does a bit more working outside the house, and we do share the childcare. You need to sit down and TALK to him.  It goes like this: "I want us to start sharing more of the work. I am getting exhausted doing all the housework myself. If you don't want to do your 50%, then YOU need to hire me a cleaning service. It's your choice."
94407
It is definitely OK -- in fact, more than OK. If it works for you and your wife, and you are able to support your family that way, then more power to you! Don't listen to anyone who suggests that this will be harmful to your kids (or future kids, if you don't have them yet), or that it implies you are a lazy man, or that your wife is a soul-less, ambition-driven-only woman. Those ideas are very narrow-minded!\n\nThe thing is that individuals and situations vary greatly. Not all women prefer to do housework over working outside the home. Not all men want to work outside the home. I know several men who are better at domestic duties than I will ever be. I know women who would die of boredom if they are in the home all day, and whose potential is much better put to use in an office or in their careers. \n\nMy husband's dad was a stay-at-home father. At one point, he and my mother-in-law both worked. But when her career really took off, it became much more logical financially for her husband to tend to the house and the kids, instead of earning a lower salary and then paying for someone to help out with the house. This way, a parent was home with the kids, and my husband turned out wonderfully. He never witnessed sexism in the home. He grew up thinking that women and men are equal, he wasn't biased with any stereotypes, and it wasn't until he got to school that he learned that people thought girls were "weaker." In fact he always viewed women as the more powerful and intelligent of the sexes, ha! And, may I say that he is so hard-working and has a great career. His parents are also very happy and still together. They are two of the greatest people you could meet.\n\nI think it takes a very special couple to work out this kind of arrangement -- the man has to be very confident in his masculinity and his choices, and the woman has to be assured in her knowledge that her working outside the home doesn't make her any less of a woman. If this arrangement works for you, I think that's something to be proud of, not ashamed of!
46995
the only way you will ever have a better job is to start your own.  Other wise you will always be stuck working for the man.
973946
im in skoo n im engaged, everyone is telling me to wait til i finish college, but i think is really up to u. \n\ni am gettin married while still in skoo.  i work and pay bills plus manage to do hwork so i dont think marriage will b something really new to me since i already have household responsibilities.
647130
what's more important the job? or the wife?