i am a lesbain and my best friend doesent like gays, should i tell her?
347361
yes and if she doesn't like it too bad!
262453
yes u should....... she is ur friend n thr is no point behaving like a hypocrit with ur own frd..... go n tell her tht how unreal n unbelievable her stories r
925194
Tell her the truth bro...The whole "Gay" thing will backfire on ya because then she will tell everyone you know and then people will think your gay....Tell her the truth...I would rather people think that im an A-hole for telling the truth...then think that im a fag for lying.
359125
Here are some questions to help you think about this.  I know it's hard to see your friends objectively, especially when you're attracted to them.  Still, try and be honest and ask:\n\nIs she likely to tell someone else what you've said to her? (Does she tell you the secrets of her other friends?  If so, you can't really trust her with yours)\n\nIs she single?  (If she's not single, the answer is no, don't tell her.  She'll tell her boyfriend- and even if she doesn't tell him, there's no future in it)\n\nIs she serious about an anti-gay religion? \n\nHas she ever mentioned any curiosity about lesbianism?\n\nOkay- my honest opinion is that it's a bad idea.  It's a rare friend that will be able to handle that kind of confession without getting weird.  As with most friends, a sexual attraction isn't worth losing the friendship, especially if you can't really see yourself going into an all-out lesbian relationship. As it stands, you're going to confess you want to hook up with her- for what benefit?  Say she's interested in experimenting with you.  You hook up, and then what?  Are you still friends?  Will you be jealous when she still wants to have sex wiht other people?  Think about the long term consequences.  \n\nWhat if she isn't interested at all?  At best, she'll pity you, and mistake all your friendly overtures in the future as attempts at seduction or puppy love.   \n\nBest case scenarios: you tell her, you hook up, you both discover that this works for you and you start a long-term committed sexual relationship.  Or, you hook up, one night only, you both think it's fun but agree you both need a dick for full satisfaction, end of story.  \n\nChances are these fairy tale endings in which you're both on the same page won't happen, and you'll lose a good friend in the process.
761016
If you flat out ask him, it could be awkward for both of you. Maybe you should be a little bit stronger in your hints and say something along the lines that, even though you are straight, you wouldn't mind having a gay friend and ask him if he has ever known anyone who is gay. Most gay people have the feeling that it is killing them inside before they come out, so even if he doesn't open up to you right away remain a close friend. If he is gay, your friendship will mean a lot to him.
219121
well since she's ur best friend u can tell her anything right? tell her dat u like this guy then the both of u figure out a solution to this problem together. if she decides to 'bac off' then tell him u like him.
802108
Well, you need to ask yourself how you got into your current situation in the first place....  Did you "find out" you were gay AFTER getting engaged?  Did you have a gay affair and determined that was what you really wanted?  Once you answer this, then you go to step two.  You HAVE to tell her.  Unless of course, you want to spend the rest of your life living a lie, and not being able to be true to yourself [and her].  You will regret getting married and not being able to have your male companionship if you go forward.  Be strong and sincere.  Talk to her like a close friend and, yes, it may turn out bad, but in the long run it could be worse.
349294
Does he know your gay?If not tell him and let him know how you feel.
285748
I have had this happen to me before and I simply said look I love you as a friend and I am not into that its fine for you to be like that but thats just not for me. Be sure to explain that you won't judge her or look at her any differently and that it will not come between yall friendship. Just tell her in a nice way so that she don't feel like a jackass for telling you because you know its got to take some guts to tell your best friend something like that. I hope that I have helped.!!!!
358670
There is no good way to tell her.  BUT, if it's important to you to tell her then you should.  Just prepare a little first--practically and psychologically.  Understand, it will be emotional for both of you.  Mothers can surprise us though.  She might already know, and is waiting for you to be honest with her.\n\nPersonally, I would tell her you want to talk to her privately about something that is very important to you.  Next, I would tell her how much she means to you and that you love her and appreciate all she does for you.  Tell her, this is why you "have to tell" her because she means so much to you.  Tell her first that this is a very difficult thing to talk about but that you need to so that she may have the opportunity to be a part of your life (in the future).  THEN...just tell her the truth.  "Mom, I'm a lesbian" or "Mom, I'm gay."  Give it time to sink in.  Once you say that, it should be enough for the first conversation, unless she wants to talk more about it.  AVOID arguing and be prepared to end the conversation and disappear to a friend's house (if you need to).  She may or may not become angry (which is normal) and say hurtful things she really doesn't mean.  Just keep it short, sincere, and see what happens.  She may not 'believe you' at first; just give her time to process her emotions.  Chances are you will feel better after you do this.  Good luck and GOOD FOR YOU.  Be who you are without shame.
1109946
If you come out, it should be about you, not your friend. You could mention to your friend that you might be gay, but dont be trying to 'convert' him. You are either born gay or you are born straight.
234321
It's tough on your friend, being gay.  He feels outcast, different, and under a microscope.  He doesn't want anyone to know most likely because he feels that he will be picked on, made fun of, or worse.  He's probably not comfortable with his orientation, either.  He may not have the acceptance at home from his family.  If you're his 'only' friend, then you have a big responsibility.  It would be good to get him into a group of others that don't care about sexual orientation or whatever else.  It's all part of growing up and being more accepting of those around you - you seem to have it mastered.  As far as your bf is concerned.  You need to be truthful with him and not raise any doubts in his mind.  If you care enough about him, then be honest.  Keep the conversation confidential, and be honest with your friend, too.  If you're honest with him as well, he'll trust you more.  Good luck, and God bless.  Be safe and study hard...  :-)
434359
At this point, I think you need a spot test.\n\nYou need to start a conversation with her, and steer it towards a gay topic.... Did you see Brokeback Mountain? or Can you believe that gay people in this country can't get married?\n\nWatch her response.  If she seems uncomfortable with the homo content, then back off.  Either she is gay and not ok with it, or straight.\n\nBut if she engages you in a conversation, at least then you'll know that your sexual orientation doesn't repulse her.  Thats a good start. \n\nIf she responded positively, then you need to start sending some signals back.  Compliments compliments compliments.  Even straight people love compliments.  Tell her she is pretty.  In many different ways.  Again, keep an eye on your response.  If you see signs of panic or irritation, back off.  \n\nSuggest you two should hang out some time, go to a movie or something.  Incorporate small ammounts of touching, graze you hand against hers "accidentally" or if you're watching a  video, sit next to her on the couch and lean in a little.  And keep an eye on the responses.  You have to learn to be keen to things like voice intonation, eye movements, tensing up or smiles.  \n\nAfter you've hung out a couple times, hopefully you'll have a chance to bring up stuff about boyfriends and girlfriends.  Its a good time to come out to her as bi, and see what happens.  If she reacts favorabley, give her a couple days, then say you really like her and would like to take your friendship to a different place.  Ask her out on a very well planned date.  Have a resturant or a movie in mind.  And take it from there.... \n\nGood luck!
225355
Are you Gay and in love with your best friend? If not, what's "brokeback" about it? Being that this is your bestfriend you are speaking of, ask if they are gay.  Then ask yourself if it would matter.
971623
Lol. Hi. I am lesbian, I must look good to guys because a lot of them keep hitting on me. So no, you can not tell, and in the end, it does not matter. If she is a lesbian and you approach her as a friend, she may be perfectly happy to be your friend. I have a lot of straight guy friends. But if you want more than that, she will just be flattered and let you know you are knocking at the wrong door. Either way, it is fine. After all, gay people and straight people are only people. :)
845373
Feel the situation out.  Do you know how he feels about gay people?  In the right time and place you will be able to tell him you are and how you have felt.  If he is not gay then you can't change him, don't try it won't work and do'nt push it.  Many straight people have gay friends.
69742
Well You Say You Have Been Friends For A Long Time And It Is Difficult To Tell Her, Mabe It Can Come Up In A Casual Convo. And Make It Clear That You Are Not Interested In Females, In Your ChildHood You Were Curious And Now You Know You Are Not Curious Any More, And Are Very Satisfied With Dating Men Only, Females Dont Interest You/Turn You On, etc.  Shes A Good Friend And Nothing Else,  I believe That If You Two Are As Close As You Say, Then You Should Know What To Say From Your Heart And She Should Be Understanding. I Wish You The Best Of Luck With Your Friendship ;-)