what to do with my b/f 8yrs he is promising to get married every time am wearing the ring 5yrs n right hand?
354589
It sounds as if he is not ready to marry just yet. If this is okay with you than stick with him, but if you want to marry and start a family you might have to come right out and say hey we have waited long enough and if he gives some excuse then it might be best to re think the situation...Cejay
375334
I think you should go on with your plans he might be getting cool feet he tells u he loves you and he still wants u to marry him it will be ok he just might be thinking about how things is going to be when u guys get marry and he just hope thing will work out
637619
You're absolutely right. If you do it now, you will be rendering pointless years of sacrifice. Especially if you don't even plan on marrying the guy (or if he doesn't plan on getting married at all). It sounds to me that you might be in a harmful relationship-- it's making you question your personal values to the point that you're willing to throw away something that you've saved for years. Find someone who wants to get married and who supports your views and with whom you can be true to yourself without difficulty. Good luck.
461966
Maybe this would be a good time for one of those "Where are we going with this relationship talks." Obviously you have plans for a future with this guy. Take some time to have a one-on-one with your fella about his plans for the future. Maybe he wants to be in a certain place in life before he makes the commitment to you, or perhaps his plans aren't quite the same as yours, OR he could just not know that you want to marry him. \n\nWhen you do talk to him, remember that it could be a bit of a touchy subject with him... don't make a big deal about it, but make sure that you two have some time alone that sufficient to have this conversation. Also, try your best to avoid sentences that start with "You..." these can be interpretted as accusations. Another thing you should try to avoid are the words "always" and "never".\n\nGood luck, and I wish best for you and your boyfriend.
111724
The ring is just a symbol for others.....not for the bride and groom. You know that you are married so it is not really important that they match.(At least that is the way I see it). My husband and I don't wear rings at all.We figure it isn't important for others to see that we have decided to spend our lives together as long as we know it in our hearts.......Good luck to you.    =)
186753
He says he loves you but won't propose right?  How long are you gonna wait?  Maybe he has no intention of marrying you.  You need to give him an ultimatum and quick.  You would be broken hearted if he breaks up with you and marries someone else.  Don't waste anymore of your time. \nThe same thing happend to my cousin.  She was with her boyfriend for 16 years, had two kids and still no ring.  Last year they broke up and this year he got married to someone else.  Don't waste your time.  If he wanted to marry you he would have already.  You have his child.  Get an answer or move on!\n\nGood Luck!
579582
You may never get the question - does he know you're waiting for it?  You may want to find out his feelings on it - and on kids and money and a bunch of other things that can be dealbreakers down the road.  \n\nEven then, you have no guarantees. I dated a guy for 5 1/2 years and he never asked (his mom didn't approve).  He said we'd get married eventually but he never got around to it and I gave up on him.\n\nHappily the gods of good fortune were keeping him from proposing so that I would be available when I met my future husband.  I dated my husband for less than a year when he asked - and we've been married for nearly 7 years.\n\nThings have a way of working out for the best if you don't force a square peg in a round hole.  Also, see if your parents like *him*.  When I told my mom I was dumping the momma's boy, my mom said "Well, I knew if you gave him enough rope he'd hang himself with it".  And when my parents met my future hubby - they were *so* excited it was like *they* were dating him. LOL.\n\ngood luck - and don't rush into anything - make sure it's a perfect fit!
444569
ohh thats a tough one. on one hand, you want to make sure you get the ring of your dreams, on the other, you don't want to be like HERE LOOK I WANT THIS! lol.. if i were you, i would talk about it with his sister or mother, or a mutual girlfriend.. who can casuuuually bring it up to him. if this is not an option, i would, again, casuuuually be looking at rings somewhere (in the mall, on TV, online) and nonchalontly be like, omg i looove this one! it's like, the perfect ring! hopefully, if he's the man for you, he'll get the hint :) but of course, you'll love him even if he throws a brass knuckle on your finger, right? :)
924924
Let it go for now.\nBe his friend \nYou'll probably marry him in 5-10 years from now\n;)
94128
First off its cool that a guy thinks that much about a proposal. most men dont think about things like that anymore. I think you should go to a nice resturant and having the ring slipped into a glass of white wine!!!!
523157
You can propose at anytime. That doesnt mean you have to get married a week after getting engaged. The marriage could be a year or two after, depending on what you both decide. Juz make sure getting married is what you want before getting married. Or you could simply buy a "promise" ring now and get an engagement ring later on. Good luck.
104009
Maybe you think that marriage is the highest expression of love between two people and maybe you want to experience that kind of once-in-a-lifetime love so badly that you think he doesn't love you as much as you would want him to if he didn't ask for your hand in marriage.\n\nWord of advice: he loves you and he might love you more than you could possibly know and comprehend. Give him a chance to show it in other ways than waiting for you at the altar while you walk up the aisle in a white gown.
851654
Wow, that's a long time.\n\nIMO by the time my wife and I had gotten married it WAS just a formality...it was as you say, "just a piece of paper." \n\nHowever, that did not come from apathy...not in the least. It was that my wife was so special to me, I had already decided by that point that this was the woman I was to spend the rest of my life with. The whole point of the ring and marriage is for validation...if he is waiting so long then it appears as though he is avoiding something. \n\nIt really sounds like he just proposed to make ya happy or, forgive the phrase, shut ya up. If he had really intended to engage to you, he would have bothered to plan for a ring. It took me 6 months, the opening of my first credit card (at 27), and a lot of freaking raman noodles...but I'd be damned if I wasn't going to provide the love of my life with some sort of validation. \n\nThe ring, ceremony, etc. is just symbolic...but if he isn't willing to put up, I can't help but wonder where else he will slack later. \n\nBasically this is something I would call a problem...but please don't take my speculation or anyone elses for what is really going on. It sounds as if you guys need to have a serious discussion and decide where you are going. It sounds like you have been through a lot together, and none of those trials and tribulations are going to be over soon. \n\nYou really need to know where you stand with this guy. Good luck and hope it all turns out.
758677
Let it go... Don't bug him about a 3 mth anniversary.. You can do that if you get married to him, but not while dating. You'll just scare him away if you annoy him with this!!
1119722
He will probably always remember every little stupid thing you say.  It sounds like a first love relationship between you both.  It is hard to  make these last, so few people ever really end up with their first love.  He is at an age now when he will be noticing every girl and woman around for the next 20 years; even after he gets married.  He needs to sow wild oats and if you are meant to be with him, when he is ready to settle down he will come to you.  Just be a friend and also do what you need to do at this point in your life.  \nWaiting and waiting and waiting, full of hope, is not a great way for a girl to live her life.  You can grow old and sarcastic that way.  \nHe is talking about another girl; that is his way to let you know he needs to be let go for awhile.  Be a friend but don't be demanding or clingy or emotional with him.  Find some other guys you can be demanding, emotional, and clingy with (ooops, not really, that was my sarcasm gene kicking in).  \nDo things and be with people you enjoy.  Blossom where you are right now.   Don't let yourself put all your eggs in one basket.  You are just now starting to understand what you want your life to look like.  \nUntil you are 25 neither one of you will be really sure what the picture for your life is.  \nSo, enjoy the next 10 years of freedom, no responsibility, worlds of choices, and make yourself into the best person you can be.  That way, you can attract the type of man you really want to be with.  Think of how you want him to look and talk to you.  Think of how he will treat you and hold you.  Then, become the person who will attract your perfect man.  Shape and mold yourself; do not get discouraged with this fellow who is just finding out that tons of girls are out there.  You might end up heartbroken.  Go swimming, hiking, draw, take photographs, dance (this most of all), hang out in nature - go for it, later when you have kids you will miss these things.  \nIn other words, Love and Care for yourself first.  You cannot know true love without doing this first.
985034
I'm not sure why he would even bring it up if he hasn't found the ring yet. I think he is feeling you out to see how you feel about it.In my opinion if he wanted to do it right he would have said nothing, found a ring and then proposed. I think he's scared you don't want too. No he has not technically proposed.
715565
He obviously understands your feelings, and you understand his, now is there room for both of you to compromise.  Maybe set a date for a few years from now or just get engaged and not set a date yet.  I don't think it would be fair to either of you if only one of you made concessions.  It wounds like you are the one doing it now.  Talk to him about a compromise.