Why Is My Husband Such A Jerk About Me?
345805
Why would he feel insecure about your relationship? That is the question. Perhaps he felt abandoned as a child by one of his parents. He chose you because you fill that void in his life. You don't want to fight and neither does he. Kiss and make up. The words you choose next are very important. I don't think he could be labeled "controlling". Maybe he was concerned that something might have happened to you. If you had a cell phone, maybe you should have talked earlier.
994567
My husband and I have been married for a year and have been together for 5 years.  The first year was fine...2 months after we started dating I moved to Texas with my parents...9 months later I moved back to where he was and we moved in together I'd say about 6 months later is when it started.  He would get really angry because I was complaining too much about his job or that he wouldn't do the dishes when I asked and he would throw chairs...at the time we had those little plastic picnic chairs...and clothes at me or near me.  He would yell and scream at me and get right up in my face.  I don't remember him ever laying a hand on me during that time though.  About a year or two later we ended up breaking up mostly because we needed to be our own people for a while considering I was 17 when we moved in together and he was 20.  We were apart for about 2 months then we got back together and I moved in with him and his roommate at the time.  About a month or so later we got our own place and soon after that is when the major abuse started.  I never chalked it up as abuse though until I was watching some show and realized that my boyfriend was abusing me.  When he would get really mad at me he would grab my neck and pin me to the wall or throw me to the couch or the bed or where ever we were.  He has only slapped me twice and I've gotten a few bruises on my neck.  After I realized it was abuse I started to fight back and when he would grab my neck I would kick at him and push him away...I only did that a couple times because it made him even more angry.  We did end up getting married about 6 months after we got back together.  A lot of the abuse happened soon after we got married.  I only remember actually losing my breath and struggling to breath once...and that was a couple of months ago when we were in a car and arguing about he wanted to change his oil in front of an auto parts store but there was a guy outside that when my husband was in the store kept walking past the car looking at me in a weird way so when my husband came back to the car I told him I wanted to leave and told him the reason and so he got all upset and acted like a total baby and so on the way home I told him that him being my husband should want to protect me and want me to feel safe and whatever and I guess I said something wrong and he reached over and grabbed my neck and didn't let go right away like he normally did.  We got home soon after that and I went in and started to pack my things to leave and he came in and threw me on the bed and told me I wasn't leaving so I decided to leave my things and just leave and he just kept stopping me grabbing my wrists and he pushed me and I fell over a foot rest and hit my head.  I don't remember why I didn't leave.  but since then we have gone to a counselor I think two times...but now he works so much that we argue on the phone.  He never did this when he was drinking...we don't drink very much.  I don't know how he could do this to me either...he always said it was because I knew what made him mad but I still did it.  I have changed because of this...I don't say as much anymore and I pick and choose my words...I can't say I am afraid of him though.  I still say what I want when I'm really angry.  I know hes more afraid of my step dad than I am afraid of him though.  It use to happen at least once a week to twice a month.  We don't have kids...we have animals...whenever he kicks the dog I kick him...so see I'm not that afraid of him...I am for a couple weeks after the events happen though but normally I'm not.  He is intimidating though because hes a foot and a half taller than me.
953128
He's mean to me when I dont.
455235
What you wrote sounds like my story. I've got the same problem with my mother in law. My husband really appreciates that I act like I'm stupid. \nI refuse to drop down to her level and when she is really mean to me I just smile and nod. Sometimes I think she tries her hardest to piss me off, but I won't give her that joy.\nFor your husband it's probably best to ignore the situation and play along like you all get along. It's not worth splitting up families over. You may regret it if your husband decides to choose for you and stops speaking to his mom.\nBe happy she doesn't live IN your house. \n\nStay the respectable party and don't let your feelings show! I know this is tough but it's the most peaceful way. Good luck, don't let her drive you mad, you've got the upper hand!
881871
Your husband need to grow up. Staying out late after you are married and have kids only means only bad things.  Either he's avoiding coming home because he's unhappy or he's out looking for some action. (you know what I mean)
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just explain to him that u had a little too much to drink, and in ur point of view they were being quite rude to your husband!! apologize for overreacting and try to let it go.  \n\nat this point it doesn't really matter who's "fault" it is, because u both acted as u did at that time, under the influence of alcohol and a party atmosphere.  sometimes people get upset when someone kinda "ruins" the mood... =T.  try to loosen up a bit.. u could've complained to ur hubby (oh i can't believe those people, so rude!!) u didnt' have to cause a scene... u know? but u were defending him, so it's not like u intended to do anything wrong.  it's over and done, try to let it go, and promise to try to stay "Positive" and deal with things together instead of giving strangers a piece of ur mind for no important reason. good l uck
827925
He's a jerk maybe? Doesn't respect you ? Needs his asss kicked?
1027468
lose my temper and doubt my spouse
1150823
Your situation appears to be one of your husband using very poor judgment.Other than what you've already done to remedy the drama he has begun is to start being mindful of every aspect of your relationship.Then after a reasonable period of time ask your self if you want to continue in your marriage.I apologize in advance if my advice is blunt,but LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR THE DUMB stuff.either he makes some serious changes,and seeks help and your forgiveness or.........only you can fill in the blanks.Take care an GOD bless you both.(ps I don't knw if you can find out about other accts,but i hope some 1 can help}
971576
Sounds like your husband comes from a rough family and still has some of their bad habits. I wouldn't try to get his family to like you. It's not your fault they are mean. It wouldn't matter how perfect you were, they are just not that good at being nice to others. If I were you, I would remember everything your family has taught you about being a good person and trust that. Just be the best person you were raised to be and maybe your example will help soften them over time. Maybe not. But at least you can be strong knowing that you are doing the right thing even if they are not. Do not judge yourself by their standards. They obviously aren't experts at being decent, so don't take what they say so seriously. Try thinking of them compassionately as children who were not given the right tools and don't know how to behave better. Most of all, be kind to yourself, even if others are not. Talk kindly to yourself and think about all your good qualities. When you are feeling hurt try to be patient with them. Remember, they can only hurt your feelings if you believe what they say. Make yourself strong and calm inside and you'll be OK. Think positive! Good luck to you!
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no my husband is definitely not my best friend.he is though very loving  but he considers everything  in utilization of time. he cant waste his single minute on silly talks  or talks which can not provide him any knowledge.he spends his every minute productively  and so i have made few chatter friends  n they have really proved helpful in my solitude
799745
maybe your hubby's just have an immature behavior.. i guess he's a also a loner who has his own world.. many men are like that by the way.
60528
Learn to be patient. If you are not married yet, I would suggest you to leave him. I know it is awful living with an inconsiderate man. But I honor marriage and think people should try their best to stay in their marriage in better or worse. So please learn to accept him the way he is. Anyway, it's your life and your decision. I won't respect you less if you decide to leave him. Wish you the best.
1154786
He is basically an insensitive jerk. You and your hubby are one unit, if one gets hurt so does the other. He publicly displayed an argument the two of them had online, you are right to not trust him because if he gets in an argument with you he'll probably be putting stuff online about you as well.  Venting his  frustrations with your husband's  is acceptable but he chose such a public forum that you obviously had access to, which makes that unacceptable. Since he and your hubby are determined to be friends again, the best you can do is to simply remain polite to him but don't confide in him ever. Good luck.
308103
Just stop and think of all the good things your husband has done and the reasoning behind you marrying him! Change the subject every time you find your self getting ready to nag! I nag alot too but I just have to stop and think can I do anything about the situation, then I try and do it! As long as you know you are doing it at least this is the first step into getting better, You can do it just slow down and think before you speak! Also know there's a time to be quiet and a time to speak out loud! Certain things that really get you mad just talk to him about them and see if he can help you with any of them, others just try and do whatever it is your self! Good Luck and God Bless!
77047
He's probably just really tired. Not that I can quite compare with my boyfriend to a husband, but I kinda, well, "bullied" him into it (ok maybe bullied isn't the right word... persuaded?) after awhile things started to go downhill. It caused a tear in our relationship, a big tear. (which is now fixed...) My suggestion would be to maybe go to an adult store for some purchases to relieve the itch. And maybe set up for a romantic night with your husband with warming aromatic oils to give him a body massage, make him a nice dinner beforehand, fix his favorite meal, romance him up and maybe he'll open up a little more. Also consider sitting down to a chat later on. Good luck and I hope all goes well for you!
1180231
They are saying you don`t matter enough to me to be kind and understanding!There is a possibility your husband is mad about something you don`t even know happened and needs to discuss it with you in a reasonable kind fashion.Also at certain ages some men louse sexual drive,he may be embarrassed and is hiding it with avoidance and anger.I would lean towards keeping a close eye on his activities and try to find out what he is so interested in other than his hot wife.There are some real weird people out there and it is amassing how well they can hide there deviant behavior.An acquaintance of mine, husband,liked little girls and left her alone one to many times and she found out.Here is a good rule for married people,if you can`t show your spouse what you are doing on your computer you most likely should`nt be doing it.Get some help ask a counselor in the mental health dept.of a clinic or hospital. Do it,DO IT NOW!