How do you control the crying of a little boy who cries when he gets frustrated? (while playing basketball?)?
350101
just keep encouraging him with no matter what he does! he has to learn that no matter what he does, him trying and having fun will make you/anyone else proud of him
1098476
That's a tough one. I don't know how you handle discipline in your house but something that has worked for me (I am the primary care taker for my boyfriend's two children who are both from different unions) is using a good marble/bad marble system. I know it sounds kinda corny at first, but, you make a customized fair list of the behaviors that are not acceptable (whining and petty tattling is on our list) and they get a bad marble (btw we have pickle jars labeled good and bad) anytime they exhibit these behaviors and if they get too many (say 5 or more depending on how minor or major they are) they get restricted from a privilege. However, it wouldn't be any fun if they didn't get rewarded when they are behaving so you can make a list or decided on a moment to moment basis if they are being good (sharing, doing things when told, remembering to put a plate in the sink etc.. whatever works for your household) and if they get so many good marbles I let them make a list of a few fun things we can do around the house for 30 minutes, and another short list of things we could do that would cost a little more that we would have to drive to or something like a small toy and I reward them weekly with something fun for being good and helping me out.  You may need to do it as a daily system. I used to use it daily but now that the boy is older and better behaved we only have to use it weekly now. Sometimes children just need a little guidance and to know what the rules are, and to know what is unacceptable and when they can see that their behavior is not good consistently and they are rewarded for being good they will want to change.. especially if you make a big deal out of them being good.  Good Luck... hope this helps or gives you some ideas anyway.
193266
Just tell her to wait for her turn, and then take the toy away. If she starts crying, put another toy in her hand. If she won't take the toy or still won't stop crying, pick her up and sit her in a chair in a corner for a minute. She will eventually understand!\n\nAs for the hitting, pretty much the same thing: Tell her not to hit, but this time you need to punish her, because that is never ok! Just make her sit in a corner for a minute.\n\nI don't think spanking is worth the trouble, because why hit someone because they hit someone else? Your daughter won't understand that. As for the corner thing, I know someone who uses this method with their one year old, and it is very effective.
83996
Hmmm. . . has he always done that--the tiptoes, I mean--or is it new?  It may just be that he's trying out a new skill.  \n\nScreaming fits. . .my sister's kids were screamers.  I handled it by telling them that they had to go outside until they could calm down--even if it meant handing them their coats and pushing them out the front door.  At 4 he should be old enough to reason with.  But I'd also talk to him about better ways to express himself.  Years ago, I worked with a little boy to whom I gave a Nerf (Is that how you spell it?) ball and told him to put in his pocket and squeeze the dickens out of it if he felt he needed to scream.  I told him it was perfectly OK to say "I'm mad" but not OK to disrupt everyone else's day by screaming.  \n\nGood Luck!
100615
Sweetheart, I've been there and done that. The lesson that I learned was that when a 'boy' makes you cry, he doesn't care about your feelings, only his own. When someone cares about you, they want to see you smiling. Maybe he's insecure or not really ready for a real relationship. You don't have to cry over him, though. First of all, think about what you are crying for? Is it because of something he said or did? Does he hurt your feelings often? If so, let him go, girl! Life is too short to be crying and unhappy. The decision is all yours.
401573
DO NOT COME ON STRONG OR TRY ANYTHING LIKE THAT!!!!!!!! HE WILL RUN HOME CRYING!!!! First you have to start doing small little things like going to the mall or to the movies. Then if you think he is starting to feel more comforable with you then let him do all the stuff. Dont try to be in control.
495374
sometimes at 5 months they just need to cry- if that is what this question is about?  Kids at this age get overloaded with stimulation and they vent the frustration by having a good crying fit.  Just put her somewhere safe and let her be alone or hold her if you have the patience!  Letting your baby cry will not make you a bad parent- it will help your child learn to comfort herself.  Good luck!!!\nIf this is about general every day care- love her, feed her and keep her safe.
582312
The little bugger doesn't know how to handle his emotions.  My soon to be 8 year old cries when his favorite is voted off American Idle.  I do notice a trend w/ his emotional roller coasters though.\n\nDoes this happen all the time w/ your boy? Is it more often when he is not well rested & well fed?  Is he suffering from a cold or allergies?  A lot of times this emotional download is the result of one of these causes.  If you've cleared him for all of that, check w/ his pediatrician.
460895
nope- he doesn't know what he wants and he's too immature it sounds like- I went through the same thing.  Boys can turn on and off emotions in a pinch- (think about a situation where they should be crying, but aren't!  They can control their emotions- even love- better than we can) maybe he had a crush on you at one point, but he's just playing you now
7628
I have a 6 year old boy. you are not alone. Kids are smart and they quickly learn how to get their way if the parents allow.  Try to sit down just you and him, in a place where there is nothing to distract him, and talk to him.  Don't stand over him since kids find that intimidating but look at him at eye level.  Let him know how much you enjoy doing things with him but there is a time and place for everything.  Kids need boundaries, and the crying is most likely a way of him getting what he wants. When it comes to behavior don't bribe him, but reward him.  When he cries, I know it's hard, but LET HIM CRY.  Say he doesn't cry for a while or doesn't start a tantrum, tell him how well behaved he is, and give him a little treat, cookie, stickers, extra 15 minutes watching tv. It is important to be positive towards a child. Kids are always looking for approval specially from parents and believe me you will see little changes. Remember you are the parent not his friend.  he has to respect you and the fact that you are the adult.\nAs to the anti-social, try to bring him around other kids more often like the playground, or mcdonnalds playcenter, places like that.  Even if he doesn't go off and play with them, he will watch and see how much the others are having fun, and soon enough he will want to play too.
295656
nothing is more annoying then someone trying to force you to talk about something when you don't want to.  You dont have to do anything just be around. Don't try to cheer him up (theres nothing to be cheery about), don't feel sorry for him (he dosen't need pity) , don't try to get him to open up (its his problem and he will deal with it his way for better or worse). Don't act like you know how he feels (even if you do know, its not about your feelings).  Just go through it with him. its clear you care and thats all you can do. you can't fix this problem for him \nOne quote from bob dylan that always rings true during my tough times "It always means so much Even the softest touch" a gentle touch can convey more then a 1000 words
78878
enjoy it untill the kids start to cry lol
957838
Honey.....blood is thicker than water.  Grow UP.  He is a waste of space for doing this but I'm afraid you are even worse.  The longer you play this game the worse you are going to feel when it all comes crashing down and it will, there is absolutely no way around that.  Get control over yourself and just stop it!
621237
Gradually increase the time that you allow him to cry before you pick him up.  Don't respond to his crying by taking him from other people.  He needs to learn that he can trust his father and others that you trust.\n\nYour baby feels insecure around other people because of how you're probably reacting to his crying. That insecurity is "justified" by how you react.  \n\nIt's similar to why children have separation anxiety. . .they've never learned that if mommy leaves she'll also come back.
913422
Take a pillow, put it over your face and scream as loud as you can (this helps me a lot) or write out your feelings in a journal or a letter to the person that is making you so angry or upset, then burn it. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me. I went through a lot of things when I was a teen and may be able to help. I wish you the best and I will pray for you.
290151
Try n be calm and tell him to stop without giving him the pleasure of knowing he is upsetting u. If it continues pick your time and place and say something that would really embarrass him... something in the lines of 'You cant even get a h**d on so wat are u playing at boy'? or even better say 'you probably wud be better off giving yourself a w*nk dont you think'. Be assertive!  Gud luck
492104
I find that depriving the toddler of something they love to do works.  Also, if he or she throws tantrums ignore them whilst you engage yourself in something really interesting that will grab thier attention.  Divert his attention to something else.  When he/she has calmed down give them a quiet talk about good and bad ways of doing things, and explain why you are upset with him/her.  Kids are clever and can be manipulative just like adults.  Good luck loving your toddler!