Why do people regret sex so badly? READ DETAILS PLEASE!!!!!! I am dieing to lose it?
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because here is the truth. It is not the glorious thing that hollywood makes it out to be. real sex is messy, bloody\nyou have a sweaty man on top of you\nit doesnt last long\n and if you are a virgin, IT HURTS LIKE HELL. I know it is hard, but wait until you have the right guy, and it really means something
722549
is sex your only road to happiness. That would make sense as to why you have blown it so far out of proportion.\n\nDo you binge drink? I'd start with changing that. Imulsive people are easier lays though. But why do you think demoralizing christians is sexually good? Rape is a power strugle, and the endorphine release of sex reinforces what ever kind of sex you try. While sex as an expression of love makes it an unselfish act. Yet, sex outside of love is only limited by what you try.
659047
First of all, I commend you.  Sex is a very cherished thing.  I think it's because of curiosity.  Too many youngens hear about how fun and exciting and cool it is to have sex.  They will definitely regret it.  \nEither they get pregnant at 13-14, or they get a bad reputation, or worse yet, a disease.  Too many people are pretty stupid when they think that sex is safe.  Good Lord, has anyone heard of AIDS and the many other diseases you can get.  It's better to wait and find out the right person.
1099406
Sheesh!\nYou need to abstain from sex if it is draining the life force out of you.\nYou've got to stop enjoying yourself so much and start navigating this hell we call our lives. \nSmarten up and get happy, damnit!
439069
think twice before u get into trouble. nobody can continue the real pleasure when caught up. sex is not a thing to be done under any pressure. it must be done at a comfortable, safe place and with the RIGHT partner.
317204
I had sex for the first time when i was 17..well of course everyone has their first time so do i...first time of course very excited & fun but after that i feel guilty for myself...i asked myself why i want to do this & what i gain from there....\nSex before marriage of course people call it sin,isnt it!.....\nBut overall i tell myself "its a normal thing for human being to make stupid mistake"...i guess.....actually its depends on how you think about it & how you gonna deal with your decision.............but i hope you'll not regrets it ...and to play safe..i think you should use protection so that you can avoid the 9 months matter....mightbe you just want to experience it but not for commitment yet.....;-)
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Well I don't think what u're doing is a mistake. I myself am a virgin and I also intend to keep it that way until I am married. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. Everybody's views about that are different though cuz some people don't believe in the "sex before marriage" thing. Some say sex is simply sex. Well for me,when that time comes,I want it to be special and I want it to be with that person I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with,my husband to be. Hence the reason I'm waiting until I get married.. Anyway,it's your choice and if u choose to remain one, that's great so don't worry about it. I'm sure when u get married, u'll be glad that u did! Take care..
910850
So, you're a virgin? Hold up. That is something really, really special, and in my opinion, you do not want to lose it through some hook up. Sounds like this guy has major commitment issues, and just wants to get in your pants. I mean, hell, he even admitted that he is "awful at having a girlfriend." Sounds like he's trying to seduce you.\n\nYou really need to think about what you want. You need to realize that it is a very possible situation that he could have sex with you, then completely ignore you/leave you. Either that or you guys try to work out a relationship and it fizzles. These are very possible outcomes, and if you want to have sex with him, you need to be prepared for the outcomes. If you want to see him again, but don't want to have sex, you need to be vocal about your needs. You need to actively tell him "I don't want you to touch me here, etc, otherwise I'm leaving." He needs to respect you, and he has no right to touch you where you don't want to be touched. \n\nWhat is this bit about him having sex for only 20 minutes? What? Is he a virgin or not? Sounds like he had sex but he is just trying to down-play it so he can tell you he wants to lose it to you. Sorry, but that just sounds like another way to get you into bed. \n\nIt sounds like if you two get together again, something might accidently happen. When things heat up like that, you might end up doing something you didn't intend to do. I just want to really emphasis how important your virginity is, and you really need to keep it for something special. You will always remember your first time. Is this how you want to remember it? \n\nIf you do decide to have sex, please use birth control & condoms. And think hard about this, because this guy doesn't sound like he would be staying.\n\nGood luck.
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I think noone of those who answered noticed that the key question is not WHY DO WE ADORE SEX?! it's why do we discard the partner after getting our fix of it.\n\nI would say it's coz most people take the easy way, they want to eat the cake but not help bake it!\n\nSad...
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I love the lack of answers!!\n8, and I'm 20. I deffinately consider myself to be a guy that sleeps around alot.\nHOWEVER. This is not something I am proud of. I regret alot of the things I've done, and although I enjoy sex as much as the next guy, I'd much prefer fewer partners for longer periods of time.\nDo you mind answering something? Whats the ideal answer you're looking for?
870966
Please, stay a virgin! I'm one and I'm proud of it even though some may consider me a loser. I'll bet a lot of your friends secretly regret losing theirs to some idiot boy that didn't really care about them. Do not feel pressured to lose your virginity; you're too young and boys at that age are very immature.
532176
You shouldn't have sex.\nYou couldn't even make it all the way thru one question without making mistakes, what makes you think you could make it thru sex?\nStupid people breeding is what's wrong with the world today.\nYou're a symptom.
703577
Sex and life - too complicated. I am now running out of answers.  Can we ever stand on judgement? Many of us have cheated, in our minds at least, some carry it through  a bit more. You know what, let it be. Que sara sara, it is not your conscience, it is hers.  Things happen and life is so weird
926916
I lost my virginity at age 15? As you can tell, it didn't mean much to me. I wanted the guy to love me, so I did it. No, I definitely did not have an orgrasm during sex the first time. Almost all women don't their first time, and I know alot of girls who have never had one during penetration. They might've faked it .....  I definitely regret it. I wasn't with the right guy, and I knew it. I would consider waiting, I know I wish I did.  By the time my true love came around (he was a virgin), I had already had sex with someone else. =(  It's not that it's bad to have sex. You just want to make sure that it's the right person, and that you wont regret it later on. I know I was so eager to lose my virginity, and I was like oh, I wont regret it, and yet I do. If you decide to, make sure he's gentle and cares about you enough to stop if you ask him to. I have a friend who told me that the guy she did it with, just went at it, without caring that it hurt her "like hell." Best of luck, sweetie.
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Only shallow people give this more than a second thought.  Who cares how many people you have/have not slept with.  Lets face it, you can never win anyway.  If you sleep with people you get called a whore/man whore and get a reputation of being untrustworthy, dirty and fickle.  If you do wait and are a virgin, you get called frigid, there is huge pressure on when will be your first time.  If you leave it long enough it can become a social stigma.  Just look at the film 40 year old virgin.  \n\nBasically your damned if you do and damned if you don't.  so just forget about it.
906598
I think your looking for an excuse to not have sex. J/K Don't let a little laughter spoil a good time. You know your are completely comfortable w/ someone else when you are able to laugh at each other's imperfections and not be offended. Relax I've been laughed at in bed many many times.
194307
Nope your not strange and your beyond just a regular girl. you value yourself with respect. take pride in holing on to your v-card because once you loose it, it cannot be replace. its better to know that you lost it to someone who will hold it and cherish as long as you did. tere are too many morans out there. iam 19 and I wish i'd waited. not only have I gave away my card, but I am a single parent now. There is no negitive outcome when you keep your v-card. its whe you loose it negitivity falls into place. hang in there be strong, the world evolves around sex now a days, so sex will never vanish. sex will always be available. so dont do anything you'll regret especially if your not ready for it! I'am so proud of you my friend!