when is it time to let your first love go?
351180
Your first love will always be with you.....But you moving to bigger and better things is best.  If you are feeling negativity, than it's time to move on.  That hesitation in your relationship is the little voice in your head telling you it's over and to turn it into a positive (find someone who will truly make you happy!)
636327
Nineteen. I didn't feel the urge to kiss anyone before then and it always felt awkward. Plus I think it's nice to have your first kiss with someone you really love.
180971
You have to ask yourself this one important question...\n"How long am I willing to let this person hurt me?"\nThis is the main question my therapist asked me when I was hurting...\nI moved on from my pain and found a new truer more wonderful love than before...\nWhen one door closes, another one opens, you might be leaving a good thing for something much better in your life...\nGood luck.....
17212
After 7 years if he wants to move on you better let him go.  Everyone goes through a lot of hurt, and the next guy you're with will have gone through a lot of hurt with someone else.  That's how you learn throughout your life.  Don't bang your head against the wall for someone who has said they need to move on.
1056925
do it when you feel ready, there is no set time limit as to when is a good time or not, it's up to you.  I split with my ex husband in the September of 2003 and was dating by Christmas as I met the love of my life, it was not ideal timing as I still had a lot to sort out but I was presented with the man of my dreams so could not really say no, if I could have met him 6 months later it would have been better timing.  However, everyone warned us it would not last and we are still together so how wrong were those people??  You do it when you are ready girl, and good luck to you!
185036
are u 15? if so save it baby.  your first one feels so good when ur in love. ur too young to be in love, go have an ice cream or something together.
329005
When you can quit thinking about them. When you know you can let them go without concern. Not that you won't always care but this that its different. You have to be able to tell yourself you can move on and your over them and know you mean it. This is the hardest thing in the world to do. Don't make the mistake of using another person to try to prove to yourself its over. Not fair to you or the other person.
376550
Krissy, a first love is special and memorable. Very few people marry their first love, but most remember it fondly. It always hurts when love fails, and often affects how you approach your future relationships. Time, as fireman said, should heal the hurt. Eventually you will fall in love again, and the experience of your first love will enhance your new love. Take it slow... the feelings, the care, the romance, the new beginnings... it will all come back.
916866
It depends if the guy can let go.  As soon as I break up (or rather they break up with me) I am READY to start a new one with an open heart.\n\nSo, it really depends if the person has TRULY let go!
810308
Let it rain...you have to let go of all the pain and situations in the past before you start dating again. It's hard, but you got to do it. Yeah, you got the memories of your ex, but if you want to love again you got to move on. Don't call her. Don't do anything to her. Maybe there's some attachment to her if she was your first love and basically first everything, but you got to let her go. If things were meant to be between you and her it would happen. It goes with the saying "if you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's meant to be." If you and your ex were meant to be together you will get back together, but on the mean time move on with your life. There are plenty of fishes in the sea. Really and don't shut out on some girl because she looks too much of your ex or because you have an idea of what you want don't shut out on girls that don't met your qualities. You are just missing out and not giving this girl a fair chance if you are comparing her already. When you know you are ready to date is when you don't even think about your ex anymore or how much you loved her.  I know it's cliche, but yeah, just move on and the best way to move on its well, to envelope that person and then send it away. As in get all that feeling in your system then either write, cry, or whatever guys do out and then send it away. Throw away all those memories or hide it away. Anyway, a new love will come into your life when you least expect it to. Good luck and hope I helped.
1173835
it really depends on you if you want to be with that new person then its better if you let go the one your in a relationship with before that person gets hurt and the las thing you wanna do is hurt someone cause it will make everything all worse
255091
in most cases yes. this is because the first time you're in love you are unaware of how much a break up can actually hurt and the long term damage it can do.(after all it would be your first time experiencing any of those feelings)
137995
you can never get over your first love. thats why they call it your first love. but you can learn from him and learn to love another guy.
685025
If you feel things are moving too fast they are trust your judgement if it doesn't feel right, appropriate, safe, etc dont do it.  Just for general information your first boyfriend will more than likely seem like a bad joke 5 years from now so just have fun, be safe and don't let anyone or anything pressure you to go against your gut feeling.
282934
I wonder how many people have been in your position and let it go, always wondering if it was the right thing to do? I say GO FOR IT!! What the hell do you have to lose? If it doesn't work or he's spoken for, then let it go - but at least you tried. If you find him and he feels the same way you do... wellll....
198305
It depends on the person and how long the "longterm" relationship was, but I'd probably say, give yourself a few months to mourn the loss of your former relationship.\nA good key to know whether or not you are ready for a new relationship is if you find yourself still talking about your past relationship or if you still talk about how horrible your last boy/girlfriend was to you and then go into great detail to "drag them through the dirt" to your potential new boy/girlfriend.
393164
Start slow.  Take time to get to know the next person you date before throwing your emotions into another relationship.  It takes time, I know.  Give yourself time to heal then start over again.  You don't have to rush but don't hide from dating or relationships for to long because after a while you might become too comfortable avoiding situations were your trust is tested.  Then your just alone.