does it really hurt when a girl looses her virginity?
337661
I wouldn't know, I was raped when I was a little girl & so my first time at 16 did not feel like it hurt. That's too bad to have had that taken away. Oh well, life goes on. I'm sure it hurts though, and the anxiety of the moment probably doesn't help either.
254596
I'm going to be completely honest and tell you that for me the first time hurt like hell. I lost my virginity earlier this year (I'm almost 22), my boyfriend was very understanding and gentle, but it still hurt. I didn't bleed though, which a lot of women have said that they do.\nFrom talking to my doctor there is a less of a chance of pain and bleeding when you lose your virginity at an older age. This is because your hymen gradually goes away throughout the years, and a lot of girls have actually broken it and not known it years earlier. \nIf your really worried I suggest getting a d.ildo/v.ibrator and working yourself in, I did this after the fact to make myself feel more comfortable with it. \nhope that helps
88357
sometimes. if the s e x was very rough this can happen, if it was what you could call normal, or slow, then no, go get it checked out.- oh, & it's not true if you were a virgin either, that never happend to me.
926916
I lost my virginity at age 15? As you can tell, it didn't mean much to me. I wanted the guy to love me, so I did it. No, I definitely did not have an orgrasm during sex the first time. Almost all women don't their first time, and I know alot of girls who have never had one during penetration. They might've faked it .....  I definitely regret it. I wasn't with the right guy, and I knew it. I would consider waiting, I know I wish I did.  By the time my true love came around (he was a virgin), I had already had sex with someone else. =(  It's not that it's bad to have sex. You just want to make sure that it's the right person, and that you wont regret it later on. I know I was so eager to lose my virginity, and I was like oh, I wont regret it, and yet I do. If you decide to, make sure he's gentle and cares about you enough to stop if you ask him to. I have a friend who told me that the guy she did it with, just went at it, without caring that it hurt her "like hell." Best of luck, sweetie.
1077468
Ha..ha..ha..ha..ha!\nWhat a question Kim? I'm sorry to laugh, it's just that you don't usually ask questions like this one. Anyway, wherever your (not you exactly) desires drive you to, surely you'll find joy there. Anything will be painfull until you get used to it, and then pain becomes joy. Normal sexual intercourse is painful at or shortly after loosing virginity, but once you get used to it, nothing else matters in the world except sex. The same principle applies to anal sex. Those who engage in it will surely experience extreme pain first, but once they get used to it, they will completely forget if the vagina has ever existed.
609573
For some women it is painful for others they say it didn't hurt that bad. Mostly it depends on if you really ready for it or not. If you are comfortable with the person your with and how much you know about yourself. You need to make sure your ready body and mind. Know what you want and don't do anything that you don't want to do or are not really ready to do. You should love the person that is your first. Go to the doctor before your first time and be check out and get birth control but don't only use that as protection no matter how much you love the guy always use a condom. Be safe if your not ready just say so and if he loves you he will wait. There's no hurry to lose your virginity remember its something you'll never be able to get back and give to someone else you love. If it doesn't work out with this guy its gone there's no going back. Make sure before you take that step.
353724
Yes, when you have sex for the first time (lose your virginity) your hymen, which is a thin barrier in your vagina, breaks.  It's not anything major though, and the amount of blood is usually very small.  However, the exact amount does vary from female to female.
415794
the only way u have lost ur virginity is if u had full sexual intercourse sometimes the haymen can break during an accident r if u hit urself on a bike seat for example so its not a fool proof way of telling
438671
First-time sex shouldn't be painful, provided you are with someone you love and you feel completely relaxed with. You have to be completely ready for sex and totally comfortable with the idea. There should also be lots of foreplay to make sure you are well-lubricated. Provided all this is true, you shouldn't experience any pain.\n\nHowever, if a girl feels unsure about having sex, or unsure about the person she's having it with, her vaginal muscles will tense up, which can cause a lot of pain. This is true of any sex, not just first-time sex.\n\nBe safe, have fun.
867702
A virginity lost can never be regained ,but the person hurts should have the spirit of forgiveness in order to retain the guy involved,if she truely loves him and want yo continue with him.
721709
No, you are still a virgin. Now some people think that you lose your virginity if your hymen is broken.. but if that was the case then I lost my virginity when I was twelve thanks to my first period(tampon)! So I personally do not see how using a toy would make it to where you are no longer a virgin. It's just a form of masturbation... Guys don't lose their virginity when they play with themselves, do they?! :)\n\nSorry I was a little personal... And in some peoples eyes graphic... But it's just my opinion and experience speaking! :)
619031
It didn't hurt me, but I did it with a guy that had an average sized piece of manhood. The size of his penis will be a factor in whether or not it hurts the first time. Spotting is a very normal thing to happen once the hymen is broken. Also, how old are you? You don't sound ready to lose your virginity. Be sure to think it through... I am not meaning to preach, but make sure that you are ready. I lost mine when I was seventeen because I thought I had found the right guy, but we then broke up and I hated myself for it. And be sure to use protection... Also, don't do it because he wants it... It must be a mutual agreement. Both of you must be ready for the consequences if the contraceptive devices do not work.
11082
There is no accurate way to tell if a woman is a virgin or not. Even checking her hymen is fairly inaccuarate, because there are many things that can cause it to break, from strenuous athletic activity, particularly gymnastics, to inserting tampons and masturbating. Aside from the hymen, there are no physical or even chemical signs of the loss of virginity.
529704
There is going to be some pain, that is unavoidable. The key is to really listen and gage her reactions on when to move more and when you have broken her hymen. Let her tell you when it is ok to go in more. Don't allow her to be uncomfortable about letting you know what feels good and what doesn't. Make sure that you both are as relaxed as possible, and that doesn't mean that you have to drink to achieve this. Take a bath together, massage her back and shoulders, take time with foreplay as it will always make entering her less painful. Enjoyable? Not so sure, every woman has had different experiences with that part of loosing her virginity. Myself, I did enjoy it. But I wasn't tense, and was very ready for the act even though I didn't have any idea what i was doing. I had a very patient man who was willing to work with me and lead me gently and was willing to listen to me a gage my reactions from what he was doing. Hope that you too have a wonderful experience together and congratulations on waiting!! :)
581753
A girl losing her virginity, in a cultural point of view, means the tearing of the hymen. Although its existence has been questioned lately by scientists, it is a small flap of skin (sort of like a membrane) that partially covers the vaginal opening. The normal hymen is never actually "intact" since there is always an opening in it. Furthermore, there is not always bleeding at first vaginal penetration. The blood that is sometimes, but not always, observed after first penetration can be due to tearing of the hymen, but it can also be from injury to nearby tissues. Post-injury, injuries to the hymen and surrounding tissues often quickly heal, leaving the hymenal tissue looking as if there had been no injury at all. Therefore, the appearance of the hymen is not a reliable indicator of virginity or chastity. So yes some girls do bleed but it is usually not for very long. If the bleeding does not stop and is in large quantities one needs to see the doctor quickly.
1029432
Yes, when a girl loses her virginity - when the hymen breaks...usually she'll bleed a little.  I guess that the red color of blood might have something to do with this term...and a girls anatomy too...don't know, but anyway, that's what it means.
1154308
Sometimes, after having sex for the first time, women experience pain and bleeding. But that is not always the case. So if nothing happens, that does not mean that she is still a virgin. If she had sex, she's not a virgin. That simple. It is not anything to worry about. In fact, she should feel lucky to be pain-free.