hey thanks to everyone who gave me advice on wanting to go astray. ill stay married. thanks guys?
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Grass always looks better on the other side of the fence.  Glad you decided to stay in your yard.  The other side had alot of manure in it.
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Wow. that is a tough one. It depends on your morals and beliefs. Is the marriage strong enough to handle the consequences? I once watched Dr. Phil and he said that is never a good idea. no matter who wants it or how long you've been married. What do you want? sometimes you have to stay true to yourself.
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I think you need to listen to your heart and make a decision. Don't stay married if you aren't TRUELY happy, it isn't worth it. Take some time to just think without any outside distractions. :)
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I just start praying and telling myself truths like the devil is a lier and he is decieving me. Think of all the bad things that can come from it. That is how I get through it. My fiance and I are trying to stop having sex untill marriage because we just recently go back into church. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, but don't give up never give up, that is the worst thing you can do. Even if you slip up just keep going and try again.
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Congratulations!!  Glad to see people saving their marriages these days!\n\nHow about a second honeymoon?  Doesn't have to be expensive.  But maybe a cabin in the mountains or head south towards the beach.  Somewhere romantic where it's just you and her.\n\nGood luck!
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Yes I meant it. 12 years of a not so great marriage, but now it is better than ever. I am glad I have the commitment and morals that helped me hang on for 12 years to where things are better. You are a great guy don't sell yourself short for anyone. Keep your morals and you commitment, you may not know it, but, they mean so much to you and always will.\nCongratulations and keep up what you have.
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your marriage is what you make it. both of you bring honesty, trust, respect,love,communication, and commitment and you will be fine. good luck
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In my experience, NO...I wasted two more years of my life "trying" to stay married.  Good luck!
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First off, what did you do to make your wife leave? Because you probably did something wrong. Second, praying probably won't help you at this point. She's gone, homie.
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This book REALLY helped me examine my marriage and decide to stay or go. \n\nLOVE MUST BE TOUGH\n\nI am SO SORRY that you are basically being torn down. Please find a trusted friend that can be there for you and help you maintain perspective on what is right and wrong. And talk to them so you don't blow up like a tea kettle one day and then he says "See you ARE blalblablabl" like an asshole b/c that is what they do. So release that tension.\n\nHe is being difficult and unrealistic.\n\nThe book will help to tell you to stay or go and if you STAY how to act to potentially change how things are.
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Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
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I think that everyone gets tempted. You're married, not dead. But it all comes down to if it's worth it or not. If you value your relationship, and respect your spouse, then I am assuming it would not be worth it to jeopardize all of that.
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Hey, you have my name!  J/K, glad to see another believer has my name at least.  My thoughts and prayers for you are that you truly seek God's face during this time.  Getting married will not solve your fiance's situation.  In fact, it might compound it with the newness of marriage and everything sexual involved with it.  I commend him for his want to overcome his situation, and I truly believe he needs to seek Godly counseling through the pastor or another strong believer with experience in these areas.  You, also, should attend counseling.  Don't let co-dependency conform you to "accepting" his addiction because your love is all powerful.  It can happen and that I believe is not God's will.  We should love God first, and our spouse second.  In this be on your face seeking God's will for your life.  Another thing for your fiance to keep in mind is that he doesn't have to prove anything to God, God knows every hair on our heads, I would think he knows what is in the depths of each of our hearts too.  He really has to live a different life daily and dissociate himself from everything to date that has caused his situation.  Counseling, support and accountability are what he needs big time.  Prayers and love =)
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Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
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just wait upto your marriage my dear friend.......
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whats more important is what not to wear out. That is your welcome. Go to the wedding and get out.
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I have tried and tried to stop dressing but its not just a matter of quiting like quiting smoking. I wish I had the clothes and shoes I have thrown away not to mention the makeup and such. anyway I assume you are straight so I suggest to find a woman that will accept your alter ego and live with it