how can you tell if your lover is still in live with the ex?
346737
You probably cant.  Just keep a few things in mind when considering it.  First of all there is a chance they are still in love and may always be.  Second of all, they are with you now and make that time special and make them remember who you are. \n\nYou may not be able to stop them from loving their ex forever but they may love you.  Loving someone doesnt mean you would go back with them ever.\n\n  If they dont share kids with their ex and they spend lots of time with them stating they want to be friends, I would be concerned, but that is not a sure-fire way to assume.  Besides to assume makes an asse out of U & me.
670499
Theoretically, the very fact that you broke up with him should release you from caring about whether he still loves you romantically or not...if indeed you are over him yourself.  The only way to really know anything is to inquire.  Go up to him and ask him, if you don't think he will be honest, then don't ask him.  You will at least know that you will never know.  If you are truly over him, then I'm sure you don't care that much anyway.  You think about him because he was a part of your life once, other than that, he is of no consequence to you...theoretically.  Good luck finding out the truth.
653934
Do my ex girlfrineds count?
191417
We can't tell you if it's true or not without more details. Why do you feel this way? If you have a gut feeling that something is going on,then ask him. You should be able to tell by his reaction if he is being honest with you. If you don't feel comfortable with that,then,let it be,and hope for the best,I guess. You have to be careful how to approach this subject though if you ask him. Men don't take kindly to being accused of something they didn't do,and it could also put a wedge between the two of you. Called TRUST!! Be inconspicuous and just ask some innocent questions,that should get you somewhere for a starting ground,and a feel for his relationship with his ex. Good luck!
320746
It sounds like you really already know in your heart what you want and what you need to do.So,do it.Life is to short to be unhappy.You truly are in love with your ex,so that is where you need to be.I know it would be hard to tell the other person in your life,but it needs to be done,and it can be done in a nice manner.Like you just are not ready for a relationship with him,and you would not be fibbing,because you are not ready when you have such strong feelings for your ex.Also,this isn't fair for them nor for you all,and in the long run,it would be much harder to end as the more time that goes by.I say go and follow your heart.Good Luck to you!
18079
ask his bestfriend or his girlfriend why do you need it he is your ex
1086445
Ask yourself this baby girl, why are you even talking/messing around with  your ex?  You two obviously broke up for some reason.  Let it go.  As far as your ex, he's just trying to get some from you.  You're worth being treated better than that.  As far as your current boyfriend, i'm sure he would'nt say you were'nt cheating if he were there while you and your ex were fooling around.  And I don't think your current boyfriend has a clear definition as to what cheating is\nLeave the ex alone hun.  This situation has bad written all over it and i'd hate for anything unpleasant to go down.  Good Luck.
972603
if your still thinking about your ex then you have not given yourself enough time to get over him and have rushed into another relationship....its not fair on your new partner!
1005379
No, neither. You're just holding onto the past. Obviously, you still have feelings for your ex. Time to let go, push her and any feelings away. Be with your sweetie, show her how much you love her. Because if you hold onto those feelings, they will get in the way of the relationship down the road. Set the past free.
571759
It's perfectly natural to compare what is known and familiar (Your ex) to what is still being learned and unfamiliar (Your boyfriend), and everyone does it consciously or not. Your ex is part of your past that became a familiar territory, you know what makes him tick. If it's the material things that matter to you in life, chances are you might still be with your ex, but there's more to it since you've got the children and you know your current boyfriend is loving. The best thing you can do is to forget about the past, and what your ex has or had (if possible) and concentrate on your new relationship and being happy together with him. It might even seem that though your ex has some of the things you'd love to have (the new audi and 2nd home), you have something that he wants also (your children, and for you to be miserable). Don't give him that power over you! As they say, kill him with kindness... If it's his intent to make you jealous of his new car and 2nd home, brush it off and attempt to be genuinely happy for him! (Remember, he's the one stuck paying all those bills). This should get easier in time.
1008405
If you still have feelings for an ex, don't lead the person you are with on, it maybe early days with this new someone and its only natural to think of past loves when you start seeing someone new.But it is also important to not let any emotional baggage get in the way of a new relationship. Try and distance yourself from your last relationship, don't make comparison's. You owe it to yourself to take thing's slowly really get to know this person you are with who could be an absolute gem.
293039
First of all, when you DO see each other, make sure that any "feelings of attachment" are clearly communicated.  For example, if you are still friends and wish to remain "friends," set the boundaries straight.  As long as both of you have a clear understanding that the friendship can grow in spite of the divorce, then seeing your ex-husband should not pose a dilemma.  Sometimes ex-lovers make the greatest friends!  I should know, I'm still in communications with my ex-boyfriend who recently got married.  Although I couldn't make it to the wedding, he still considered me as one of his friends by sending me an invite.
647432
It is understandable that you are still in love with your ex. What I DON'T understand is why are you broke up and still having sex with him EVERYDAY?!?!? That's not broke up... that's an out for him to do you and any other girl he wants anytime because you are "broke-up". You're not his girlfriend any more so you have NO SAY in who else he screws and sice you are "broke-up" he can do it guilt-free as well on a "broke-up" technicality.
891002
To be honest your best off ignoring it if both you and your girlfriend trust each other this should not be an issue anyway. The ex is more than likely only doing it to annoy you hoping it will cause problems so don't rise to it. She is with you not him :)
201549
obviously it sounds like the guy you like is after sex if he is likes your ex but wants a threesome with you...so i would forget about that relationship---and if your ex still likes you think exactly why you broke up and if ts not a big deal and you still like him its possible to give him another chance but don;t rush into anything---No one can tell you exactly what to do..it's all up to and how you are willing to portray yourself to both of them and to others b/c you know it'll all eventually get around
999430
Actually, the only way to know is to ask. There are no foolproof ways to tell if someone is cheating. Even an "eyewitness" might have the situation all wrong!\n\nSome people in similar situations find that confronting the person and being upfront with their feelings is the best way to sort things out. You may want to explain how you feel and ask him how he feels about the situation. One thing to keep in mind when talking about cheating — especially when you're not sure if it's true — is to avoid sounding like you're making an accusation. For instance, instead of saying "You're cheating on me, aren't you?" you can say something like, "I've got this funny feeling. I hope it's not true."\n\nRemember, any time you confront or discuss your feelings with somebody you are taking a risk. You may feel vulnerable or may get hurt in the process, so you need to decide whether knowing the truth is worth the risk.\n\nHope this information helps!
170178
If you live in the same jurisdiction as the one where the divorce was filed, you should be able to get that information from the court clerk.  There may even be a web site, which will show the current status of the case if it is open.  Once is it closed, however, the clerk's office is probably the only way.  Of course, if you see it listed and it says the next hearing is "post-settlement" in nature, you have a clue.\n\nIsn't it easier just to ask him?  Or is this because you do not trust him?  If so, are you sure you even want to know?  After all, if you fell you can't trust him, what is the relationship worth?