Why do men lie so much? Why are black men afraid of moving towards marriage?
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BECAUSE WE DONT WANNA MISS THE FREAK TRAIN WHEN IT ROLLS OUT
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As for me,I am white and married my black man.  I did not associate with my family for three years, yet they called me and they just don't talk about him.  When they start talking trash I let them know, "conversation over"!  I guess, they do love me or they would have nothing to do with me.  I know they are prejudiced, but I KNOW HATE does NOT exist in heaven!  I have to control myself, also because HATE creates HATE!  I love my husband more than anyone or anything I know.  I was never really ME until I met a man who loves me and will do anything for me.  He is first a MAN, and then a BLACK man.  God loves us all.  Where does it ever say in the ten commandments, "thou shall not marry one of another race!"? Where in the new testament does is say such a thing? It DOES not!!
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First, the two of you got married very young. You didn’t have time to explore your likes and dislikes, nor had time to find yourselves.\nSecond, chances are you are more mature than he is, men fully mature by age 26. \nNow, he lied because you might get upset and he is trying to avoid a fight, or he is embarrassed or he misbehaved.\nYou need to have a heart to heart talk. Stay calm and focused and let him know his actions are harming the marriage. Do not get defensive or you will get the opposite response you are looking for. Best wishes
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People often cannot accept what they do not know. My brother married a black woman, it was kind of a surprise to my family because we didn't know many black folks. Also, because he is really really ugly.\n\nSome folks are just closed minded and don't want to change. The other day I was trying to get into a movie. Threre was a really long line we were trying to sneak in to stay warm. It was 32 deg outside. I overheard this older lady prattling on about how selfish my friend and I were because we were letting in cold air. She was telling her friend that we were not good Christians and we would probably go to hell for our selfishness. \n\nLot of knuckleheads in the world.
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i m not agree that man lie and cheat always their are many men who r vey honest and true in their realtionship some exception is always there bt u can not say that all men are same, its is possible with women too, i think when some one cheating or concealing something may be there is some reason behind it so if u believe ur beloved then ask him directly dont hesitate. or wait for some time may be he himself tell u everything at right time.so never distrust everyman there is lot of good people in this world
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Wrong.. White women do not allow black men to run all over them. I am white and my fiance is black. We have a son, and we take care of each other-do things for each other and love one another with all we've got. \n\nHe will go to the ends of the earth for me. Black women (no offense - but I've got to speak the truth) say we take more crap because they feel inferior and need something to blame the black men for, for desiring any other race but themselves. \n\nThey should not feel inferior - but they do. Black men like us for different reasons. My man loves me for the following:\n\n1. My long, soft, shiny (pan-teen style) hair\n2. My green eyes that have flecks of gold and change to gray and blue sometimes.\n3. My Dimples.\n4. My personality - the way i make him laugh\n5. My heart. \n\nNot because im white, but because I am me and anyone else who makes up idiotic reasons - needs professional help because they are feeling inferior about themselves.
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The same reasons women do. Lying is not gender specific.
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some guys just dont want to get married... if things are good, why not just keep them the way that they are.
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I'm tall, so I HATE when men ask, "how high do your legs go?" \nOr, "I wish I could get you to wrap those legs around me." \nI HATE when white men say, "I've always wanted to sleep with a Black woman." \nLike either one of those statements make me jump for joy. MEN GROW UP PLEASE! Thank you.
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Men are not afraid of change. They just don't want to do it and you should not ask them too. Accept them for who they are and if you do not like it then find someone else.
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its the way of thinking only.normally women prefer marriage as source of security to their well being than sex. men differs in this aspect.
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It is in the details.  Guys lie in color.  They give you details you didn't ask for, want or are not part of the conversation.  If you pay attention they will slip up in some manner.  They always do and the truth comes out.  Be patient and you will find out soon enough.
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I think not all men lie. The ones who lie should not even be givin the time of day. If you are accused of cheating or lying, and you are not, then they are most likely cheating or doing something wrong to you. Dont waste your time.
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Its a form being insecure.  Just like every other myth (ie. African American men being bigger).  Men just like to be reassured.  I gave up asking when I turned 30 because I just didn't care anymore
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They don't all lie.  There are lots of guys who are honest.  \n\nJust me, but I figure if it's a little thing, then there's no point in lying about it unless the liar is looking for control, amusement, self-aggrandizement, or is just a compulsive liar.  If it's any of those things, how does anyone possibly trust him?  Without trust what kind of real relationship can you have?  Not much of one, for sure.\n\nIf it's a big thing he's lying about, the fact that it's a big thing is all the more reason to tell the truth!\n\nThe issue is much deeper than lying and it's not something you can fix.\n\nThere ARE guys out there who are honest.  As long as women continue to date liars, they'll continue to lie.
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Hell, no one is going to give you an honest answer.  The fact is, black people have totally different values from Anglo/European people.  White people look for very specific kinds of status and beauty and language, and anything outside of that target zone is just plain ugly.  And there ain't nothin you can do about it except be yourself and hope that maybe a part of you is beautiful enough for the whiggers around you to take notice.  \n\nTruth be told, I hate most black people.  They want me to fear them, they expect me to respect them, and they don't have anything I need.  But I met a black guy who was so much smarter--at electronics and money and worldly things, more things than I could count--than anyone I knew (and I've known some of the smartest in the world)... that I just had to take my hat off and say, "you're a superior man".  \n\nBut look, even then, I took a look at his life - a fat wife who didn't give a damn about him and wouldn't let his friends stop by because it made her jealous... and he couldn't divorce her.  She treated him like utter crap, treated his kid like utter crap, and he was lonely... and it turned him to getting drunk every damn night.  Here's a guy with all the brains in the world, plenty of money in the bank, and all the motivation to be the best x y or z there ever was - he was a judge in the South decades ago -- black man, judge... business man... more than I could even say here.  But in the end, this man was UNhappy.  Why?  I blame the negro in him.  What did I just say??  It's not racial, it's cultural.  The negro in him just kept pulling him back - back to what?  The ground?  I don't know.  It pulled him down.  He couldn't break whatever he had spent his life trying to strive for.  \n\nAnd that's something that my race tries to be the opposite of.  We try to be the supreme.  We try to own and never be owned.  We try to be on top of things, and never let them be on top of us.  We try to not only be rich, but to invest that money.  We try to be number one, and nothing less than that will suffice.  \n\nSo to you I say, yeah... the negro in you has no honor in my book.  Out of the corner of my eye, if I don't have to get to know you for real, all I see is just another thug, waiting for the chance to swipe my wallet.\n\nI am truly sorry.  \nBut know this:\nI don't blame you, either.  \nFirst, white man brings your race here as slaves, \nthen we give you no place to go.\nYou can't go back to Africa, \nand you can't feel at home anywhere but the ghetto.\n\nLook, white man has been doing this to other white men for centuries.  The only way to get up from under it is to say, "ya know what?  F*CK YOU", and ride out the consequences.\n\nI guarantee you one thing... you do that, and *I* will tip my hat to you.
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I am a strong black woman, and I'm 30--and I will tell you that you should NOT only like black men. \n\nThere is a shortage of available black men in America--because many of them are in prison, are gay or bi-sexual, or the ones who are straight  have 4 kids by 3 different women...So, the black men who are available--like the ones in college and the guys working at good jobs--they KNOW that black women are desperate for a man--so these men wont deal with you unless you sleep with them after 5 minutes of knowing them, move in with them, pay half their bills, and do every sexual act under the sun before he even thinks about marriage...The "good black men" also tend to sleep with several different women while they are dating, and they feel that is their right. (not ALL black men are like this--but about 70% of them are). \n\nHoney--if you are smart- you will realize that you should date and marry men of ANY race--Latino, white, East Asian, Arab, whoever. You should be open to men who treat you with respect and kindness, no matter what his color or race is.\n\n--------EDIT---\nHi I Race Relations! Just saw your Post on my question :) I am just keepin it real, thats all. I been around a long time and I seen it all! Not ALL Black men are like this--but MANY are...Trust me, when you get to be 30, you will see that my words are true. Peace!