why does it seem that kids are growing up too fast for their own good?
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Sometimes it's forced on by parents. All of my friends are 16-17 and, depending on how they're parents treat them, they act either younger or older. For example, I have a friend whose mother died when she was little and this girl knows how to take care of herself since she's been taking care of her dad for a few years. Another friend, though, is a little spoiled brat because she asks for everything and gets it plus more. Or it could be the bad media that shows the blondes in the tight skirts that little kids are exposed to and that's how they think they should act. Well, probably a little bit of both factors and more.
916969
Because parents want to be their kids' friends instead of being their parent.
993446
A child is NOT a small adult. If one does not properly go through childhood and be a kid and play and experience all the highs and lows that go with every experience, every feeling, every emotion they do not grow to be proper adults. \n\nI abhor when people treat children as little big people. \n\nThe answer to your query has nothing to do with chronology.\n\nA child can be grown at 7 and a kid at 40 and some 80 year olds are just older. They never had a career only jobs along the way. They have no real friends or attachments. They have only always been adrift. \n\nMost people construct barriers/boundaries that keep others away, protect themselves and keep them from harming others. This can occur early or late in one’s life. Generally speaking though, it occurs somewhere in high school or college. Society teaches us we cannot ask someone’s name when we forget, we (well some) of y’all learn what not to do or what to do as you grow to take your place in the Society of sheeple that is the land where most dwell.\n\nI know you are thinking “What the hell?” “Just get on with it will you.” What you have asked is actually one of the most complex of querries. So, be a little patient. \n\nPaying bills, raising kids, holding onto a job for more than a month, owning a car (used or new), paying rent (or a mortgage)…these are things that adults do-those chronologically over 18 (generally). These ‘things’ are NOT I repeat being able to do these things doth NOT an adult make. A monkey can do these ’things’. \n\nWhat makes you an adult is when you come to know right and wrong and you chose to do things just because they are correct and not for any reward of any kind. Well, sortta. I guess when you go to work you do expect to get a reward-in the form of a check. I oft say that “Do I get my bi-weekly reward for good behaviour?” \n\nWhen one knows how to get properly dressed for work, do the job the way your boss wants you to, come home, eat, and prepare to do it all over again-some say ten you are an adult. \n\nI am 40 I can hold a job, I can pay bills, I can save money, I treat people decently with expecting nothing in return-not even a smile, I feed myself, I bathe myself, I clothe myself but I hope to never be called ‘an adult’. That is in the way most define that word. \n\nI know you’ll find in here the real answer to your question because I know it all too well. \n\nSociety (Western-American) Society expects that when you are 18-kaboom-the ball drops on your life. You leave high school. You go to college. You get married. You have kids. You buy a house. You buy a car. You raise a family and save for your kids to go to college and keep on-keeping’ on. There is a great song here-I can never remember if it is Cat Stevens or Harry Chapin. It talks of how the kid only wants the time of his father. He never gets it then when his father retires he longs for his son and grandkids to visit and pay attention to him but the kids sick and the son can’t get away from work. Society dictates that adults should keep this huge cycle of it all going into infinity. \n\nIn my humble opinion, if you are over 18 and you are not harming anyone, you help as many as you can, you spit on no one (figuratively or literally as they do in some cities)\n(for we are all equal no one of us higher or lower than another of us), you are contributing in whatever way you are able to Society in general…well I happen to believe you can be of adult age and not be stuffy, not be curt, not be so into yourself-only out for what you can get-in other words-you can be outwardly an adult and still sleep with stuffed animals and go on Merry-go-rounds.  \n\nActually, I have a perfect example. My father and I are staying with some friends. There is a mom a dad a 13 year old and an 8 year old. The father in the house is not the biological father of the older young lady and he makes her pay for that every day. \nWhether she should or not she has a ‘bo
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i think its getting worse cause parents and schools are getting more and more lazy in how they teach and morals, parents are getting younger and younger(which is fine i was a mom at 16)but some of these young mothers don't want to spend time and love their children they want to see what their missing which leads to kids feeling lonely and left out their self esteem lowers they become depressed and turn to crime as an outcome
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well i am thinking that they feel this way because the parent brought the child into the world and is responsible for this child to some extent even after the child is an adult.\n\nmy thinking is, i raised my kids to age 18 and they will be paying for their own college as i had to (and still do).  it makes the child work harder in school and makes them more responsible and serious about school.  if the parent pays it all, the kids tend to screw off and not do well, and sometimes even drop out.
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I believe that their brains have not yet fully grown and they would rather not feel their pains, stresses and humiliations so resort to not being present. It takes a strong individual to say no to peer pressures and sometimes kids don't have that self discipline to do that.  They need strong parents and family to instill those traits.
1079407
Laziness, I guess. It seems parents do less parenting these days by working too much and leave other people to burden the responsiblity of raising their kids.
343463
I am in my 30's and I've been wondering the same thing.  It's not just that these girls are overweight, they're developing faster.  I didn't have all that figure at that age!!  Actually, I probably didn't noticibly go through puberty until I was about 28. People still think I'm in college :(  \n\nAnyways, today's teenaged girls are just way to big and way too grown.  They eat too much junk, don't excercise at all, and they dress like hoochies.
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Kids stop being happy. \nIt's a rotten time to be alive.
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It really is getting crazier. I look back at my life as a teen and I look back at others that were there with me and our lives were so much easier. I talk to people that are from my generation and we just cannot believe the way kids dress these days and the way they talk to adults and the crap that they are able to get away with . I believe that the problem is that in most homes both parents have to work in order to make a decent living and the kids do not have their parents with them to control them and some parents think that they are doing their children a favor by spoiling them rotten. \n\nI look at the crap that they are showing on television and the crap movies that are coming out at the theaters. I hardly watch television because of it and I hardly go to the movies because there aren't many good movies to enjoy. \n\nGranted, there are few that I am looking forward to seeing, but for the most part it's all about violence and all about sex and all about things that any good parent would not want their child doing. It's just nuts \n\nI have a slight hunch it isn't going to get any better. Hang on....we are in for one he** of a ride. I look at it this way you go with the flow or get off at the next stop.
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I think parents just want what is best for their kids and tend to go overboard sometimes.  I thought my parents went on too much and I still do!  I'm 25 now with two children of my own and I still feel like a kid, lol.  Maybe they feel the need to be repetitive to get their point across. Hang in there and remember, you'll be an adult before you know it and wishing you were a kid again.  Just remember, they want only great things for you...
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It's referring to kids that have had a rough upbringing and who have been exposed to things that they should not have witnessed at a young age.  So, these kids are more at risk to fall into a negative situation  than a kid that has had a so called normal upbringing.  It could also be due to the environment that they live in.
1065068
HELL YES. It already seems like an eternity. I tell the kids not to be in such a rush to be an adult.. because it isn't all that great.
912363
little girls, near in teens, seem to grow too fast.\nwhile grown -ups seek for young age, youngster's search for old.\nwhen they do grow old, too late, the time's past.\nso young, seeming old but still bold.\nthough they look like it, they don't act like it,\nand the pareants don't like it one bit.\nso let htis be a lesson to you, that you may heed this, too.\n\n(yeah, that sucked. i composed it on the spot. figures.)
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because they are to immature to be considered grown-\nup.  i have seen even grandparents acting this way.  it\nhas nothing to do with age, and everyting to do with \nmaturity.
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Bay, you weren't in a rush to grow up cause back then there wasn't anything to grow up for.  It was okay for kids to be kids because we didn't have the technology back then or the tv shows that displays all of the "bling bling".  I blame society cause all kids see now-a-days is what the celebs have.  Instead of getting good grades in school, they drop out to make some quick money to get that car, with those rims, and that iced out chain.  It's sad.  They don't understand that they are living the life right now, by NOT being an adult and having responsibilities like we have.  I wish I could go back to high school and NOT have responsibilities.
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The way young people are being brought up now is very different than when I was growing up. Parents now aren't near as strict as they use to be.  If the parents of the children now were to give their children the discipline they needed instead of just giving in because of , in some cases fear then the kids now would not be in the situations they are in.  Children would not be having children and morals would be a lot different.