Should I give up my dream for his?
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Love is about compromise, so either you stay with him while he's in school and he moves with you to New York when he gets out, or he moves to a school in New York (we have great schools here!!!!!!!!!!!)  Remember, a relationship, especially marriage, is a 2 way street.  You need to support each other's dreams.
160995
Don't do it.  If that "someone else" cares about you, what they should want is for you to be happy and for you to follow your own dream.  The rest will come.\n\nTell your friend to follow his/her own dreams and not someone else's.  In the end, he or she will realize that it's the right decision.
236118
Give up??\nhun..u cant just give up on the man that you love..firstly its great that you both are still on good terms, and hes coming to you for advice,thats absolutely brilliant..\nhun never give up on ur firneds..try try try again..explain..drill..make him realise..maybe hes not really in love wid dat other crappy lady..
1164700
if that's your dream then go after it. lol who cares if it's crazy... if you really wanna do it then go for it.
1117071
dont ever Miss out on the huge endless possibilities..make a sacrifice on life..who knows..maybe clearing up your time for her might have been the best choice youve ever made in your life..doesnt hurt to try.good luck bro
750912
Sorry, Patricia, but you have a decision to make, and it will be difficult either way.  Your boyfriend has children already, and he is satisfied with the size of his family.  He won't change.  You can either leave him and find someone who wants to have a family, or you can stay with him and forego your dreams of having your own children.  Please don't get caught up in the "He's the only one for me" thinking, because he's not the only one for you.  Sometimes you need to cut your losses and move on.  If you can live without ever having your own children, then stay.  Like I said, this is a difficult decision either way, but it needs to be made sooner rather than later.  If you want your own family, leave immediately and follow your dreams.  If you are willing to sacrifice your dreams for him, then forget about having children and enjoy your life.  \n\nPersonally, I think you want to leave him, but it's hard because your lives are so intertwined and you have so many years together.  If you leave you'll be okay, though, and you'll be free to love and be loved by someone who wants a family too.\n\nI wish you the best.  It sounds like you have good friends who will support you.
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Follow your dream, because if you don't realize your dream while you have the opportnity then you'll always reproach it to your boyfriend.\nYou'll get so much from this experience that you'll never be the same, and you can't possibly regret to realize what you've always wanted to do.\nPlus, if he's Mister Right, he'll understand and you'll manage it!\n\nLong distance relationship can work.I'm having one!
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I don't think we should settle for an OK life.  You deserve the happy ever after.  If it's don't there, then it's not there.  There is no wrong or right in your feelings-it just is..Be honest in your relationship by breaking it off, and go look for the person who was made especially for you.  That frees your partner to find theirs.  Don't ever day is going to wine and roses, but life should have those breathless moments in it.  We shouldn't be wondering-we should know life's pleasures...go and find that dream and live it to the fullest....
110096
Your question leave's me to believe your on a rocky road, very unstable. You have all the fact's, your the only one who can make the move's, stay or go, that is the question. From the way you phrased it, I would only think, maybe, you should move on. But, you only know how much love for this guy is in your heart. I truly wish you the best in your decission... Dr Checko... Nickname)
227257
I think you are doing the right thing and just to let you know it will end soon. If you were to back off now that would defeat your whole purpose and have wasted yours and his time. I know you did not want to hear this but, there is always a but isnt there? But If you cant see him changing or being flexible enough on this subject then you may have to let him go, if you fold and let the relationship go back to what is was it will be worse than it was before. I would hang in there, but not for too long.
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well if he want to fullfill his drean what ever that is he may have been sparing you the heart ach of you being put second in his life and his dream always first. it is always easier to tell the person at first you can not do a girl friend and a career at once. or he is not really that into you and this is the best way to tell you, not to be mean
564882
How much time has passed?  If he's not willing to commit, then he's probably not right for you if that's what you are ready for. You can hang on for years with him, or get on with your life and find someone who will really value you, and want to make that committment.
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You cant hold on to something thats not there...You can continue to do your end of the vows and pray that he will have a change of heart but ultimatley in marriage love comes and goes but its commitment to that person that will keep a marriage.  Apparently hes never had that commitment to hold on to you for "better or for worse".  He obviously moves according feeling not any thing else.  You keep your end if hes not willing than let it go--More advice? chrystaldr@yahoo.com
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Well you need to consider, is your love worth maybe having to clean up after him all the time.  Also, if he is not willing to change on small things, what happens when bigger issues come around.  You either have to decide to stick it out or cut your losses.
69964
this is a very hard one and i av 2 be careful what i recommend. but in the final anlyses the decision rests with you.do u really really love him enough to risk jeorpardising your new life? is it not because you compare everyone unfairly with him that is why you av not found someone else? has he really changed or YOU really want him to have changed? If he has not changed do you forsee a future with him?make the choice, nobody can or will for you
775325
i think u should consider it again....think about it carefully...ur fate will depend on ur decision...give him the last chance... if he do it again, dont hesitate to leave him...im sure there's someone better than him..good luck!
1040843
it's your life you should do what your heart really wants if you want him for it! =]\ndon't let anyone tell you want to do..good luck =]