Is my dad going to die?
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Liver disease can be a very difficult problem to deal with for people. As long as you stay in touch with his doctors and get him all the services and care he needs, you will ensure that his condition is optimized. \n\nYour father has Cirrhosis. This is a chronic liver diseases (usually due to Hepatitis) where the normal liver cells are damaged and replaced by scar tissue. Basically, the amount of normal liver tissue is decreased. Liver disease is common in the US (ranked 8th as a cause of death in the United States).\n\nYour dad's Gastroenterologist would make this diagnosis and it sounds like he is getting worked up for Cirrhosis. Without knowimg more details about him it may be hard to say but it seems unlikely that he has cancer. \nCancer of the liver is usually diagnosed by imaging, clinical picture and labwork (serum AFP). The most common (primary) malignancy of the liver is hepatocellular carcinoma. The only treatment is liver transplant. However, this surgery is very complicated. \n\nYou can help your father by watching his SALT intake, making sure he takes his medications and that he gets to his appointments. (Develope a close relationship with his Gastroenterologist/ Hepatologist.)\n\n It's very hard to have an ill parent. My father (in his early sixties) died of cancer a few years ago and it was a difficult time for my entire family. Catering to a sick parent became a shared responsibility for entire family and, emotionally, I know it was the most difficult for my mother. We got through it with the suppport of our friends and eachother.   I think back and really appreciate the time I had with him. I cherish my memories of him and the big impact he has had on my life. \n\nI wish you and your dad the best.
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Go see a lawyer IN THE SAME STATE AS YOUR FATHER and explain this situation.  Then hang around your father like a tick on a cold day until he signs a will.\n\nThis is the only good way to protect your mother from poverty or delayed property transfers while she is grieving.  All this should be settled now, in advance, based on the blessing of your father knowing he's going to die as well as about WHEN that's going to happen.\n\nYour mother's grief will be ENORMOUSLY AGGRAVATED if her husband dies without a will ("intestate" is the word for that).
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Dealing with a life threatening cancer is certainly a life changing event for the family (along with the obvious for the one who is afflicted). Watching my father die this year (even though for much of it i was away at school) has been the most difficult thing ive had to deal with in my life. Seeing someone that you love and respect so much slowly go from an active person, to a sedentary person, to a dying person is a difficult transformation to witness. There is always some form of bad news as the cancer slowly defeats some of the different methods that are used at times to treat the illness. You tend to experience every emotion in small bits. First theres a lot of fear and denial, because although there are so many different forms of cancer, and so many people get the disease, its never going to happen to us, we thought. Then theres anger and despair, and just an incredible sense of loss as you realize some of the things that will hopefully happen someday in my life that he cant be there for.\n\nYet you begin to realize that you are not alone, and that life really is a precious thing. I became so much more thankful for the 19 years i got with my dad (sadly a lot of this was after he passed, as it was too tough for me to be around him while he was in his final weeks). Although you have to deal with the slow dying process, you get to spend so much more time with them, than if death had come quickly from an acute illness. You begin to value the things which you take for granted from before. The difficulties never go away during the process, but every little bit that Dad fought, along with the good moments made life worthwhile. \n\nonce i made peace with the idea that he would die, there was a pretty horrible sense of waiting, because you know eventually it will come (if its terminal). But you realize that you have time, and that is a beautiful thing. Ironically, ive learned to love who my dad was more since he has gone than while i was an ungrateful teen (or maybe i just didnt realize how i loved the man).\n\nFortunatly all cancer is not fatal, and there is a lot of hope for a cure. Im now a better person for the difficult process, and ive learned to have empathy for my fellow man and woman. I love my dad, and the fact that he is gone doesnt take away from the wonderful 19 years i got with him.
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I wish a simple answer would solve your problems, but you will feel the way you feel no matter what.\nTo answer your question though you need to look at your dad is he happy? You said you are going away to college He needs his own life to. 2. You should not be worried but be happy if they do. You get a brother or sister that will look up to you forever.and number 3 Your family is your dad and soon he will marry of course he wants you to be a big part of that. You need to step back and look at your dad don't judge his choice just be happy for him and do whatever you can to make his day special. He would do the same for you I am sure of it. You will always be his little girl.
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Im sorry to hear about that too.  Im about to lose everything too.  My dad doesn't have much money, or his drivers license, or anyone to watch my lil brothers.  My mom just left for another man, and she pays most of the bills in the house.  So i guess im about to experience what you've been experiencing. But anyways, homegurlz right.  Dr.Phil or Oprah aint going to help you any.  They are way to buissy with their television and stuff.  But never give up hope gurl. So here is the number to Dr. Phil if you want to know, (323.461.PHIL ).  You have to leave your name and your number and a message.  Sorry about your dad too.  I hope he really gets to see his Grandchildren.  If you live around your aunts, uncles, cousins or anybody, ask them to take you and your boys to your dads house.  They might be willing to help out, you never know.
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i wish there was.you have no idea on how i wish this was true.  my dad whom i  love very dearly told me that he has prostrate cancer back in September. he told me that he was going to the "mayo" clinic. an extremely prestigious hospital for this treatment. with an above average sucesss rate. so i was very content with that. but as my mom and dad  go to Melbourne Florida every year to there winter retreat. he still hadn't gone to the mayo before they left. i questioned my dad why and he stated that he is going to seek full treatment in Florida with a doctor he knows and trust. well its late November and he hasn't gone for treatment of any kind. Ive called on a daily bases and spoken to him about it and questioned what he is doing to resolve the issue. his response is " i haven't got the time to take care of it yet" i questioned of "yet" to him. he explains of how he has to do this and that(things of no meaning). he is a vein man i know. and that is his issue. he is 75 years of age. Ive always known that your parents will die. but Ive never felt it like i feel it now.but the kicker is , i finally got to speak to my mom without him there. he doesnt have prostrate cancer. he has lung cancer. he quit smoking at the age of 33. but he worked his entire life as a journeymen electrictian. who knows what he was exposed to over all those years. so in answer to your question, i really wish there was. id read it to eternity. the bible as you so hiddenly speak doesn't tell you how to deal with this. if it does and you really see that it applies. then e-mail me about how i should read scriptrure...chapter... verse.... does it really apply? ask this of yourself before you offer advise.
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You are so damn lucky that dad love you want you to live with him..... Guess what? My Mom and Dad have the most awful marriage and they were divorced when I was two and they remarried when i was 18. didn't last 2 months i love my mom and dad and they still put me in the middle between them. \n\nYou so lucky that your Dad love you... I lost my father he died having cancer he died Feb. 2006... UMMM i never get a chance to tell my father I love him wished that He never been like this. Before he died he told my uncle that tell my son I not mad at him and it my fault and I deserved this death. God Damn Him, I never stop thinking about him all my life still to this day.\n\nYou go and see what he is capable of and once you know that he same father that he love you and your brother and go live with him....Most kids stay with mom than dad. and sad part I wish I live with my dad I might help him change him better person but didn't happen.\n\nYou so lucky to have Dad that want you live with him and being there for you. That I don't have, I still missed my father so much that hurts me most that My mom hid me from my dad.\n\nWish you luck......and you are only 15 hrs from your mother.
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Your dad is trying to hang on to you.  You're growing up too fast for him.  I think he's afraid of loosing you.  Be patient this too shall pass. You must stand your ground though if you are of legal age but reassure him that you will always be his baby.
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First of all, my condolences to you and your family.  I know first hand how difficult a time you are going through\n\nI'm confused about his prior tests; he went through "many heart tests" and no one picked up on his CHF?  What was tested?Was your dad persistant in following up with the doctor when the over-the counter meds didn't work on the supposed acid reflux?   Over how long a period of time was this going on?  Did he have other symptoms?  Did he tell everything to the doctor?  \n\nI don't mean to sound offensive, I know doctors do make mistakes, BUT we also have to be responsible for our own care as well.  So if, in fact your dad did everything he could have done and the doctor ignored him, then yes, you might have a case, but that still won't bring him back.
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I technically lost my father when I was 17.  He did not die but due to a major accident he does have such severe brain damage he has the mental capacity of a 5 year old.  He can more or less operate, but has no idea who I am and is prone to severe tempertantrums, seizures, and fits of throwing up.  He has to eat through a tube in his stomach because the accident paralyzed most of his face and throat.\n\nI know for me, it was hard to see him there and know it really wasn't him.  I wanted to be angry at him, but the man I wanted to be angry with was little more than a shell of the one who had raised me.  I wanted to cry, but my dad had always been the one to give me a shoulder.  When I tried to touch him he yelled at me because I had taken away his book earlier.  I was the bad guy at the moment.  It was a complete role reversal that I almost couldn't handle.  I felt wierd having to discipline my own father for back talking me when I told him to hold still so I could change his feeding tube out.  In essence my dad was dead and all that was left was a child to be taken care of.\n\nI cried often then, and could not talk about it.  When asked I changed the subject or simply remained quiet.  I'm 21 now and my dad currently lives in FL with his mom.  I don't have to take care of him anymore, but it was still hard to, after having been a daddy's girl all my life, walk down the aisle on my wedding day alone, because my daddy didn't know he even had a daughter anymore.  And I dreaded it since I was 17, knowing that all the things promised me by society had been stripped away, leaving me to improvise. Things like being walked down the aisle.  Snapping picture after annoying picture at my high school graduation.  Helping me move into the dorms at college and giving every male on campus the "touch her and die" look. Spoiling my children (which we've yet to have) and sending them home hyped on sugar.  I missed and will miss out on those things and I knew it from the time of my dad's accident.  It was hard, in a little way, to deal with those events without my dad there, as I'd always imagined, and perhaps taken for granted that he would be.  \n\nAt the time of my dad's accident it was simply something to take care of.  It wasn't until everything WAS taken care of that the things I had really lost set in, and began to hurt.
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It sounds like you want him to die, but to answer your question, yes he will. And to answer the next question you will ask, it is like anything else, you never know when it will happen.
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Sorry I now how it feals. My father died in 1999. Take care of yourself a keep busy all the time don't have any free time so you don't think about it and stay with friends.
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It can be indicative of depression, social anxiety, or something more chronic, but since your father died less than a month ago, this is an absolutely normal part of acute grief - there is nothing wrong with your brain.  The only disorder you have is the loss and reorganization you're experiencing, learning to live without a dad.  I promise you that it will get better with time.  A grief support group can help.  If you start to be unable to leave the house, go to work, etc., you might want to see a counselor, or at least talk to one on the phone if you can't get out of the house, but I really think this is just normal grieving and you just have to get through it.
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if you have the money you could hire someone just to do odd jobs for you and sometimes when people are ill with cancer the cancer society will take them to all their appts. and all you have to do is call the society in your town and fill out a form..they will also help you to get medicine and whatever you need for your father..I know because my father had liver cancer and we live in a very small town and they helped us..he only lived 6 months..it is hard when we have elderly parents and we have no help, and we have our own problems..medicare and social services may be able to direct you to some help or hospice could help you if your parent is terminal..there is help out there you just have to look for it...call the hospice center and they can direct you even if he is not terminal...good luck I know your pain and i have two sisters who would not help at all when Dad was dying...and i have muscular dystrophy...so i understand!!!....////////
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Im sorry about your mom, it is okay to freak out, especially because your moms death is so recent. You still have 2 years left to think and eventually you will figure out that it is ok to leave your dad and your sister.Eventhough your sister is an "airhead" in two years she can grow out of it and im pretty sure she will take care of your dad no matter what.
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  It's so hard when a parent dies.  My Dad just died last month.  My cousin told me that the first 2 weeks would be the hardest and he was right, but it may be different for everyone. Personally, I got so much strength from remembering him as the great person he always was. Think of all the wonderful memories and ways that you admired him. Everyday you'll find happy little reminders of him and that will help to ease your pain. Of course everyone needs a mourning period but it doesn't have to be a totally dark experience. Take time to remember the lighter parts of life you had with him.  I found that keeping myself busy helped me a lot too.  Please remember that he would want you to remember these times and to live the rest of your life as he would have lived his.  I hope this helps your transition.
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Yes, I'll pray for him every day, I know it's a scarey thing, my uncle is dying right now from cancer and it's so hard, please pray for him, I hope your dad is ok and I'm sure he will be through the power of prayer...God bless