My husband has been deployed for a month now... what should we do when he comes home for leave?
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Ask him waht he wants to do on R&R.  My husband was very specific on what he wanted to do.  We were in Ft Hood.  He didn't want to go back to our hometown.  He didn't want a party.  He didn't want family to come and visit.\n\nHe wanted the 2 weeks to be about him and I and our daughter.  We took off to San Antonio for a week and I saved up $3000 just so that we could be all crazy with money when he came home.  We satyed at a nice hotel that had a hot tub in th room.  Very sexy!  I wanted him to have the best 2 weeks of his life and not to think about what he was going back to.  But I made sure I talked to him first.  I didn't want to have something planned that he would hate.\n\nMost of all, just enjoy your time together.  try not to argue about things.  Have fun!!!\n\n\nOh, and I agree with Cannon...don't ask about what has been going on.  All I told my husband was that if he needed to talk, I was here for him.  I didn't press it.  And when he needed to talk, boy did he.  I wish I didn't know some of the things I know, but I think it helped him.  He had some PTSD, so watch out for that, but be patient with him.  I guess go Infantry...right?!\n\nAnyways, again...have fun!
722301
Nobody wants their loved ones to go overseas to war, but there's not much you can do about it. The best thing you can do is keep in contact with him while he is there, support him as often as you can, and pray he comes home safely.
572150
Send a buddy you have in you're town to have a little "chat" with him and have him tell him when you come back, you'll be "visiting" him too. Maybe your wife can file a complaint somewhere, so they get rid of him, or she can go somewhere else then. that stuff pisses me off! I don't even know you, but Id go there for you at a drop of a hat! Take care over there, watch each others back and come home safe.
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Do you have an FRG Leader you can ask?  If not, I sent my son the following and he loved it.\nBaby wipes, poptarts, canned spaghetti(with poptop lid), Vienna sausages, crackers, sunflower seeds, puzzle books, sun screen (very high SPF), more baby wipes (can't have too many of those) and LOTS of love letters from you.  Your letters mean the world to him right now.  It is hard having him so far from home, but stay true and keep writing to him and letting him know you will be there for him.  My prayers are with you both and my hat is off to the both of you.  Being a soldier is hard, but so is being the woman behind the man.  You get the bad times too, but none of the recognition
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Sorry.  There's nothing you can do...just remember that your husband has made a commitment to his country.  Remember that what he's doing, he's doing for the good of you, your unborn child, and the entire nation.  \n\nHe chose to serve his country - be proud that he has the courage to do so, and pray for his safety.  \n\nThat's all you CAN do.
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Honestly it does get easier. You get used to them coming and going for training but the deployment can be really rough at times. Whenever my husband is gone for more than a few days I just make sure that I have a day where I totally pamper myself. It relieves stress and makes it easier to face the next day and makes me look better to boot.And when he deploys make sure you write and send packages alot. It's very good for his morale and will make you feel better because you are doing something for him. As far as living without your best friend everyday...well I learned to not look at it that way. If I did I'd drive myself nuts. I look at it more like he's just at work and I'll see him when he gets home. It's amazing the way you learn to trick yourself so that you can adjust. Hang in there! You'll adjust to it! ;-)
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With a moment of silence and think about what might have been had he been allowed to live.  Then commit yourself to doing something worthwhile for your fellow man tomorrow on Thanksgiving instead of just feeding your face.  If you live in a town with a military base, it can be something as simple as having a serviceman share your Thanksgiving dinner.
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No, to be honest, nothing you can do, my hubby's in the army been gone for four months and won't be home till January of 2007....and my heart aches everyday and I still haven't found a way to stop it..sorry, God bless
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I'm in the army and so is my husband.  you never get use to it it always sucks.  Just try not to dwell on it.  Try to stay occupied with something while he is gone and live for the moment when he is there.  I read a lot of books or make quilts while my husband is away or browse on here.  In fact, my husband is gone for a month right now.
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Write him as often you can and say a prayer for him everynight.  I can guarantee you that he is over there thinking of you, and knows that what he is doing is going to protect you and your family in the long run.  Don't worry he'll be home safe.  God Bless.
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My husbands in the military and deploys for a year + at a time. The best advice that I can give you is to just stick it out. Think of how great it's going to be when you're finally together again. \nWhen i think of something that I need/want to tell my husbad I write it down and then at the end of the week I send it to him. No matter how silly or stupid it may seem. This week I wrote down that I hate the color of our kitchen towel, it's small and may seem like nothing to me but being there for the small things are the things we miss the most.
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I have a Husband who is in the Air Foce and is deployed right now. I also have a brother in law who is Deployed. I have Alot of friends in the military as well that are deployed. My cousin too. My whole family has in ome point been military.
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I understand how you feel. My spouse is in the service and it kills me when he has to deploy. Unforunately, you can't stop him from going but you can do alot to help the time pass. \n\nSurround yourself with friends and family, pick up a hobby, concentrate on raising and playing with your baby, go to the gym or go swimming, start an online journal....the list goes on.\n\nTry to keep your head up. Letting your Husband know that you are upset will make him upset and we both know that'll just add more stress to his situation. It'll be hard but try to stay positive.\n\nIt is definitely tough....but remember....there is nothing like a great homecoming.\n\nI hope I helped. :-)\n\nGod bless.
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Wow..You've got a long hard road ahead of you hun, yes, you do go where he will be stationed but, you don't deploy with him. I have no idea what state you live in but, you need to contact base houseing and ask them to put you in touch with a K.V ( Key volunteer) these are Army wife's, they can answer any question you have and be there for you when your husbands gone. Feel free to Email me if you have any other questions or just to chat. lvn3814@yahoo.com\n\nBy the way, I'm also a Military wife\n\nStay Strong
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well, since I am married sex is out of the question. I would make him a big homecooked meal with all of his favorite foods. I would draw him some nice hot bathwater so he could take a relaxing bath. I could give him a back and foot massage.I would write him letters while he was in service. send him care packages. Would that be enough? I can not think of anything else.
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Tell him how proud we are of him. Tell him that we are praying for him and all of our soldiers and to remember always that we will not forget that they are there and that we want them all home as soon as possible. Send him a little quote from the bible that he can meditate on that will him get through what he faces there everyday. Most of all, tell him THANK YOU, AND GOD BLESS AND PROTECT HIM. We are thinking of him and all of our men and women in the military and we are so very proud of them. God bless!
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If you are terminally ill dying soon, then they will allow him to stay home, give him sufficient time to get the kids to where they need to be while he deploys. If you get seriously ill while he's gone, meaning a serious surgery or life threatening injury or diagnosed that you will be dying soon, then they may send him home. It all depends on his command and how seriously ill the wife is. They check it all out before acting on anything. I know a few wives who wanted their husbands home so bad they acted up all kinds of things, one including putting herself into a nut home etc...it's crazy what people will do...it's sad as well...pathetic. Not saying that's what you are doing at all because there are those who are seriously ill who do need their husbands home but, life must go on regardless...what's any different than a single woman getting ill with no one to take care of her. Whatever you do, don't let your husband leave feeling guilty, let him know it's okay...let him know you'll be okay..you want him to have 100% focus!!!!