I am ready to get married but my boyfriend isn't what should I do?
337275
Well you have to talk to him and find out why he is not ready to get married. If he gives you some bogus reason then maybe you should look to move on. When you first met him and you talked about futures did he even mention marriage if not, or if he was opposed to it back then, then you are in a situation that you already knew you would be in. if not, then you really need to find out why he is not ready!
79900
I think the problem is YOU, not your boyfriend. In many cases, when people find themselves in front of one of the most important decisions in their life: MARRIAGE, they tend to get afraid. The reason i think you saw that dream in the first place is because the thought of being married scared. I bet you really love your boyfriend, but you need more security. \n\nThere's a milion ways you can see to find out if your bf is cheating on you, but even if that's so, do you really think he would be proposing you a marriage ???\n\nAnyways, i think you should take some time, go spend a weekend somewhere where you can take your time and think everything through. All the answers to your questions rely in the bottom of your heart, you just have to search for them.\n\nYou're about to make a very important decisions, if i were you, i'd jump out of my shoes from happiness, but i would also take the nescessary time to think this through and see if you're both ready or not. After you've set things right in your mind, talk with your boyfriend. See how he reacts to your questions, the way he talks, the way he looks at you etc.
536664
I am actually one of those girls that has been engaged for years (2 to be exact). We got engaged before I finished my undergrad degree and decide to wait until I finished my masters. Anyway, it seems to me that just as long as you and your boyfriend have similar life goals, marriage may not need to be rushed into. Maybe you should wait until after you are done with school. Then you will have more money and time to plan your wedding. At the risk of scaring him away, I think that you should at least sit down and have a serious conversation about where you both see each other in the next 5 years. Having a frank conversation about your goals will help you to determine whether he is genuine when he says that you are the one, or if this is simply a ploy he uses to avoid confrontation or a possible break up. Remember that a marriage is life long commitment. It isn't something you should try to squeeze between school semesters out of convenience.
1107896
You just need to straight up ask him where the relationship's going.  If he has no intention of getting married why waste your time trying to wear him down?
264206
Don't get married becouse you want to have sex. But don't have sex reluctantly becouse your bf won't marry you, you'll just be hurt and angry. I don't think he'll propose, you're both too young. May be time to call it a day?
144760
Your beggining to sound as if your full of yourself, you need to understand that life has its ups and downs and that not everyone is meant to get married when they want to. It will just happen you will find someone who trully loves you and sees everything that everyone else isnt.
402661
It's like a promise ring.  You are saying that you aren't ready to get married, but that you deeply love the other person, ar making a serious commitment to them and have intentions to one day ask them to marry you.
64135
The both of you should tell your parents about your plans and ask for their support.  Explain why you are getting married and why you believe you are ready for this step.  Hopefully they will understand and help you with your wedding.  Good luck.
1055080
You are not weird and I don't believe that you are ready.  People will try to tell you that it's just "cold feet"-there's no such thing.  You either want to get married and cannot wait to begin you life with that person or you don't.  If you are depressed and having doubts about doing this then you need to tell him now.  You know that what your gut is telling you is the right thing, you just don't want to hurt anyone and you're afraid that once he's gone that you will be lonely.  Think about how you will feel if you marry him and five years down the line you look at him and think I don't love this man and you want your freedom and you have two kids---Don't do it to yourself.  It's better to hurt him now, you be a little lonely than it is for you to hurt him, yourself and others later.
1064937
well marriage is just a piece of paper after 4 yrs together you should know that he is  committed to you.   IF he is going to ask you to marry him it should something is wants to do and make a surprise  you don't want to him ask just because you are forcing him to.  i say go with him.
187584
if you want to get married you need to make it very clear to him. If he does not want to get married but insists that he loves you - you will have to make the very hard decision to either stay and wait- and waiting could mean waiting forever - he may never ask... Or you can choose to walk away from the relationship with the knowledge that it is always better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all...  I made that choice years ago - to walk away from someone I loved and who loved me. He was not ready. I was. I decided to let him go free and in so doing I set myself free.  I have never once regretted that. I am a better person for that relationship and I have been married to my best friend and lover for 5 years now -AND we have twin boys who are 9 months old!  Do what your heart leads you to do and it will all turn out right.
781492
OMG...all this for a boyfriend? How many boyfriends have you had? I suggest you work on securing your self and not make life decisions based on a non-commited relationship. Yes, non-commited. It really doesn't matter how much he says he cares. If you don't have that marriage certificate, it's a bad decision.
186753
He says he loves you but won't propose right?  How long are you gonna wait?  Maybe he has no intention of marrying you.  You need to give him an ultimatum and quick.  You would be broken hearted if he breaks up with you and marries someone else.  Don't waste anymore of your time. \nThe same thing happend to my cousin.  She was with her boyfriend for 16 years, had two kids and still no ring.  Last year they broke up and this year he got married to someone else.  Don't waste your time.  If he wanted to marry you he would have already.  You have his child.  Get an answer or move on!\n\nGood Luck!
394356
Depending on how serious the future is for your relationship and how much you are willing to compromise and give up of yourself in order to make it work. \nIf you just aren't ready then you cant force yourself to be and you have to be honest about that. Its hard enough when you are in a marriage to make those kinds of sacrifices so you should definitely look at how sound your relationship is first.\nSecondly, how important are his dreams and goals to you and are you on the same page about where you want the relationship to go.\nThere's also the possibility too, that you could be honest and say you would try it for a while and see if you still feel the same about the city in an allotted time-frame. Enough to give your self time to adjust and then reassess if the city is really right for you.
485660
Tell him how you really feel (be straight faced), and that you need to know if he wants the same things that you do.  If he really truly wants to wait until marriage than you have to respect that!  If you can't wait than you need to leave him or gain some self control!
492760
whether my boyfriend will ask me to marry him..?
666289
First, are you sure he wants to marry you? It could also be that he has cold feet and is like most guys, bnervous to commit.  I would sit down and talk with him and ask him why he can not commit to a date... work out all the nicks before you set the date and get married.\n\nBy the way, there is nothing you can do to make a guy set a date... if he is ready to get married, then he will.